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"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?",
"How to prevent dust from building up in your room So, if I don't vacuum my room for one day, it's like no-one has been there for years. Dust, dust everywhere! And a large quantity of it too. How do I prevent this?"
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"I've been reading through your replies to all the comments, and it seems that you have a perfectly normal room with no factors that would make dust build up, and you also don't maintain any dust-increasing habits.\n\nMy advice: \nDust your fucking room instead of vacuuming it",
"You can prevent a lot of dust and dirt in your home by leaving it at the door.\n\n* Take off your shoes as you enter the house. Wear sandals or slippers inside.\n* Sweep your outside porch and doormat everyday. Wipe your shoes on the mat as you enter.\n* Change your inside doormat twice a week.\n* Sweep your foyer, kitchen or other entry room everyday.\n* Brush your pets outside.\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"If you have central air/ heat, the room is probably negatively pressurized when the fan kicks in. This causes air and dust to be sucked in from outside, or the attic. ",
"dust is everywhere and its presence has little to do with your lifestyle. Dust particles are so small that they can remain in the air for days before they ever settle down in whatever random place. All you can really do to put a dent in it is to have a fan with a filter (need not be HEPA for most dust particles) in it running all of the time. Other than that, you're just gonna have to dust your stuff.",
"Put dryer sheets over the air/heating vents in the wall. \n\nA surprising amount of dust comes out of those vents and the dryer sheets stops the dust and makes your room smell like fresh laundry.",
"Use a dryer. My house was full of dust-bunnies until I started to trow most stuff in the dryer. It takes out the loose fibers which otherwise will end on your floor. The house could not last a day without dust bunnies - now there is a good week before they are visible.\n\nThe catch - clothes will last shorter as they drying actually sucks out a bit of matter each time.",
"Have this same issue in my bedroom. \n\nA couple of questions: \n\nIs it carpeted or with hard floors?\n\nDo you fold laundry in this room?",
"You can try one of those [air filter/fan things](http://money.cnn.com/2005/04/26/news/midcaps/retail_losers/air_cleaner.jpg). They are a touch pricey but they really do a great job of cleaning your air (while providing a nice breeze too).\n\nI mean after a week or so you open it up and wipe down the metal filter and your going to see how much black crud it filtered out of the air.",
"This might not really help the dust in your room, but it helps in preventing it get stagnant and smelly.\nOpen your window and curtain during the day. The fresh air and sunlight does well.",
"Sounds like my old room. I had some old shitty carpet in my room that was really the cause of all my trouble. Is this the case for you?",
"Is your home heated or cooled with any forced air system? If so, check and clean/replace the filter regularly.\n\nYou can also try an electrostatic air cleaner. If you have this much dust built up, it's going to need cleaning, probably daily, for the first while.\n\nMaybe your vacuum is terrible at filtering dust, so all it does is scatter it in the air, and then it settles back on your stuff. Consider a better vacuum, something with HEPA filtration on the exhaust?\n",
"I vacuum the dust out of my room using a vacuum with a HEPA filter. The dust gets saved in the vacuum, instead of spewing all over like a regular vacuum. ",
"Have you checked your vacuum's filter? Vacuums sometimes kick the dust up without actually removing it. Dust your room by wiping things down with a moist rag.",
"Get one of those vacuums that filter all that shit through water, most other vacuums do an amaxingly bad job. Go INFOMERCIALS!",
"Do you have anything that's filled with down and/or feathers like pillows, cushions or duvets? They tend to shed and produce a lot of dust.",
"Most dust is shedded skin cells. Try exfoliating your skin when you shower for a few weeks and see if it works. Also, dandruff much? ;)"
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"how to stop graze eating? I'm always mindlessly snacking, always mildly hungry, how to break the cycle?",
"how to stop graze eating? I'm always mindlessly snacking, always mildly hungry, how to break the cycle?",
"how to stop graze eating? I'm always mindlessly snacking, always mildly hungry, how to break the cycle?",
"how to stop graze eating? I'm always mindlessly snacking, always mildly hungry, how to break the cycle?"
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"Don't have snacks in the house at all, especially large bags of crisps or chocolates. Have a proper meal and fruit for snacks inbetween. ",
"As someone who used to have this problem, I learnt that the way to eliminate it is to take action when shopping. If you don't buy the snacks, you can't eat them. If you go to the shop when you're not particularly hungry, you're more likely to only buy the things you need. I also chew gum regularly now which helps me forget about the cravings to snack.",
"Think about the needless, extra calories and how much extra energy you need to burn to use the calories.",
"Try eating small meals so you can snack , If you do snack, try macadamia nuts :) their my favourites!"
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"How to wash/clean baseball caps from sweat stains It's summertime and a lot of my baseball caps have sweat stains. I have heard about tossing them in the dishwasher, but I'm not to sure about that.",
"How to wash/clean baseball caps from sweat stains It's summertime and a lot of my baseball caps have sweat stains. I have heard about tossing them in the dishwasher, but I'm not to sure about that."
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"I have washed caps the dishwasher. I hung the snap brims from the upper tray and I placed the others right side up on the upper tray. Not too much soap, short cycle. Dry in the sun.\nGo Giants.",
"Best way I found especially with new era hats is washing it while you shower with shampoo then either let it dry while you wear it or let it dry in the sun"
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"what to do with excess trash I'm cleaning out a house that has been rented for the last few years by a company who had employees staying there, which meant lots of different people staying and apparently that means lots of trash being left behind. \n\n\nThe garbage has been totally filled and I still havemore to deal with. \n\n\nWhere can I throw out excess trash without breaking the law to do it? Is it legal to just go to a company with a dumpster nearby and throw it out there?",
"what to do with excess trash I'm cleaning out a house that has been rented for the last few years by a company who had employees staying there, which meant lots of different people staying and apparently that means lots of trash being left behind. \n\n\nThe garbage has been totally filled and I still havemore to deal with. \n\n\nWhere can I throw out excess trash without breaking the law to do it? Is it legal to just go to a company with a dumpster nearby and throw it out there?",
"what to do with excess trash I'm cleaning out a house that has been rented for the last few years by a company who had employees staying there, which meant lots of different people staying and apparently that means lots of trash being left behind. \n\n\nThe garbage has been totally filled and I still havemore to deal with. \n\n\nWhere can I throw out excess trash without breaking the law to do it? Is it legal to just go to a company with a dumpster nearby and throw it out there?",
"what to do with excess trash I'm cleaning out a house that has been rented for the last few years by a company who had employees staying there, which meant lots of different people staying and apparently that means lots of trash being left behind. \n\n\nThe garbage has been totally filled and I still havemore to deal with. \n\n\nWhere can I throw out excess trash without breaking the law to do it? Is it legal to just go to a company with a dumpster nearby and throw it out there?"
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"No, it's not legal for you to dump your trash into a dumpster that someone else pays to have emptied.",
"> Is it legal to just go to a company with a dumpster nearby and throw it out there?\n\nNo. They pay for that service. \n\n- call a trash clean out place\n- find your local transfer station\n- rent a dumpster\n- put it one bag at a time in your trash pickup\n- go on Facebook and post in your local group that you need trash pickup\n\nThe last one will work. Someone has a side gig driving a truck around and collecting trash.",
"Around my county you go get a sticker for each vehicle registered and its supposed to keep people not in the county using it. In towns they have pick up service. Outside of the towns you have to go to a dump site. Never is it legal to use someone’s dumpster. Either you have trash pick up or you have a dump site I would assume for the people. Either way tax payers are paying where I live. As a property tax charge that helps people in town for service that we don’t get. I see paying a school tax even if you have no kids in school. But I don’t get helping with a service out of our reach. At least when we got rural water its a hundred times better than the water in town. Sewage and garbage own our own.",
"Nowhere can you just use someone else's dumpster, they can even trace it back to you (maybe via addresses on disposed letters) and fine you for it. Usually you'd hire a skip, get a waste disposal person in to collect it, or hire a van and take it to the local tip (UK)."
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"There’s significant evidence to suggest that stressing causes you to age quicker. Thinking about it makes me more stressed—how should I stop stressing about being stressed? ",
"There’s significant evidence to suggest that stressing causes you to age quicker. Thinking about it makes me more stressed—how should I stop stressing about being stressed? ",
"There’s significant evidence to suggest that stressing causes you to age quicker. Thinking about it makes me more stressed—how should I stop stressing about being stressed? ",
"There’s significant evidence to suggest that stressing causes you to age quicker. Thinking about it makes me more stressed—how should I stop stressing about being stressed? ",
"There’s significant evidence to suggest that stressing causes you to age quicker. Thinking about it makes me more stressed—how should I stop stressing about being stressed? ",
"There’s significant evidence to suggest that stressing causes you to age quicker. Thinking about it makes me more stressed—how should I stop stressing about being stressed? "
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"Cultivate a sexual attraction to older people of your own biological sex. Now every time you go by a mirror and see another grey hair or wrinkle, instead of saying \"damn it\" you'll say \"oh fuck yeah!\"",
"I think you're mistaking worry with real stress. I worry occasionally about silly stuff like this, but there are times in my life where I've been through actual periods of stress - work drama including possible loss of income, as an example. It's the latter that can really mess with your physical health, and probably that kind of stress - with identifiable *stressors* - that the research you're referring to is concerned with.\n\nSo you don't even really have anything to idly worry about 😊",
"I know it sounds like \"just don't be sad to stop being depressed\", but that's how I avoid stress. Don't get me wrong, I still stress out about useless stuff like a mistake that already happened or games or something, but in reality, if it happened, you can't undo it. Learn from it and move on. \n\nI live my life with the motto \"0 fucks given\". Okay, not LITERALLY don't give a shit and go steal and murder, but just don't worry too much. Life is too short to worry about stuff. Enjoy your time, live carefree. I don't agree with drugs and weed, and I'm an example of how you can enjoy life without drugs or drinks. I barely care about work, I do enough to not get fired. I don't aim to be the perfect employee anymore. If I make a mistake, I apologize and learn from it, I can't undo it, I will have a bad day but in the end, I either come to work or get fired, no amount of stress will change that, so why hurt yourself? You control your emotions, don't let your emotions control you\n\nDo enough to get by your responsibilities, pay minimum payments to avoid missing payments, don't get fired but don't try your hardest, and most importantly, enjoy your life, and don't compare to others. I get through work, and enjoy my time off with family and friends and my hobbies. I'm not in debt, I'm not clinically depressed and I swear I'll get more healthy when gyms open up after covid lol\n\nMy point is, as a young guy who just graduated uni not too long ago, I'm doing decently for myself, and my kinda carefree attitude keeps me going. Best of luck man, I know you can find your happiness and worryness",
"Weed.\n\nVolunteer your time to help those less fortunate. Depending on your issues, they are probably small peanuts comparitively.\n\nM",
"Sometimes the oldest sayings make the most sense- lines in The Prayer of Serenity include: \n*\"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.\"* \n\nSpend your time wisely on things that you can actually affect and leave the rest to play out as it will. \n\nIf you insist on worrying about things you cannot possibly change then set aside five minutes each day to worry about it then let it go until tomorrow's worry session. \n\nBut obsessing about things you know you can't affect remains the single best way to avoid doing those things you know you should do to make positive changes- it's like being in passive denial. \n\nDon't let that happen. Try to stay grounded in dealing with all of your real life issues and doing those things you can truly do to increase your chances of living a long healthy life. \nAdjust your diet, get more exercise, prioritize sleep, eliminate toxic people from your life, and find ways to PLAY and relax. That'll do you a whole lot more good than sitting and worrying about something that is going to happen regardless.",
"I'm 99% sure this is a pisstake, but if it isn't, then go listen to some podcasts on having a peaceful mind, once you've got a peaceful mind listen to podcasts on bring successful, having a successful mindset leads to not stressing about stupid shit"
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"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?",
"How to get rid of hangover nausea I don't get headaches or anything when I get hungover, just wicked nausea. I drink water like the last hour or two I'm out and usually try to eat something like bread before I knock out. Anyways, does anyone have any good advice on getting rid of the nausea?"
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"Ya know what works? Pedialyte Popsicles. It hydrates, and gives you needed nutrients. Plus, the popsicle doesnt put all the liquid in your stomach at once, so your belly doesnt want to throw it up. I got the ladies at the supermarket convinced that i have a sick toddler at home.\n\nSource: Im a happy drunk.",
"Also, it helps to get super hydrated prior to the drinking, like to the point of peeing clear for a day or so beforehand. ",
"Pedialite!!! Works like a charm and your hungover ass looks like a responsible parent who's been up too late with a sick kid. ",
"Nurse here: here is the only cure to a hangover- water+sugar+electrolytes+b complex pill. However you want to disguise it, Gatorade, pedialyte, or coconut water. Avoid plain water, if you have an electrolyte imbalance, water will make it worse. For the nausea, soda crackers or sprite, maybe even some bitters in the sprite. Too bad we don all have phenergan at our disposal.",
"I was a practicing alcoholic for 8 years. Here's the best that I came up with during that timeframe:\n\n1) Pedialyte. Seriously, it helps a lot. Alcohol leeches a lot of vitamins/nutrients out of your system, which makes you feel like total shit in the morning. Pedialyte replaces a lot of that (plus electrolytes) If you throw it in an ice cube tray the night before, you can make little popsicles. A couple of those are bitchin.\n\n2) Avoid stomach irritants. This means if you're taking something for that shitty ass headache you have, you want to avoid OTC painkillers that can upset your stomach (I used to take Aleve, because aspirin and ibuprofen screwed with me). Heavy/greasy/spicy foods will screw up your day. If you're going to do caffeine, don't overdo it. One cup of coffee, maybe with some dry toast. This will also help with item 3.\n\n3) Take that heinous, ungodly beer shit as quickly as possible. If you did serious drinking, your lower intestinal tract hates you. You will feel like you're going to die on the toilet. Odds are nothing will be solid, it'll sting like fire ants, and you will think you've given high velocity birth to Satan's ass baby. Afterwards, your condition will much improve. If you smoke, the first thing to do (after hydrating) is to get a cup of coffee and smoke a cigarette. This will induce your profane anal labor.\n\n4) Do some Tums (or any cheap sodium bicarbonate variant), but don't overdo it. If you're drinking a whole bottle of Pepto bismol, you will continue to feel like crap for different reasons. Unless you're really into shooting pink/chalky things out of your rectum, then I guess the pay off might be worth it. \n\n5) You will hear recommendations about \"hangover food\" that will help. Normally something big, and greasy, and terrible. Eggs from a diner are common, or a big burger or something. This only works if you're not THAT hungover. If you're really hungover, it'll seem like a good idea when you order it. You will be the most hungry you've ever been, and be completely ready to destroy that pile of grease and animal flesh when it gets to you. Then it will get to you, you will smell it, your stomach will retch, but you'll feel guilty because you just bought a whole fricking Grand Slam at Denny's and don't want to look like some kind of asshole that just orders stuff to stare at it. So you'll take a couple bites, poke at your breakfast potatoes, and silently curse your fickle innards. If you're that obnoxiously hungover, take one slice of bread, throw peanut butter in the middle, fold it in half, and ingest it. This is a hangover taco. It is good for you.\n\nNOT RECOMMENDED: Hair of the dog, eye opener, etc.\n\nIf your solution to drinking too much is more drinking, that's a dangerous thing to play around with. You're not really curing your hangover, just putting it off til later. I mean, sure, stepping down makes sense. Might lessen the symptoms. But then you're drinking in the morning, which is one of those little boxes they have on checklists for alcohol abuse/dependence. And if you use this method as your \"go-to,\" you never really stop drinking after a while. This was my go-to in my final year. I ended up drunkenly smashing my Ford through a wall, and when the officer asked when I began drinking, I thought about it for a second and told him \"Thursday.\" I crashed my car on a Tuesday. Unless you're in a big hurry to find out what rehab/addiction treatment are like, you probably want to avoid this one. ",
"It's not an option for everyone, but an IV. \n\nMy girlfriend is an RPN so I acquired the materials to have on hand for super shitty hangovers. \n\nA bag of IV fluid takes you from wanting to die to top of the fuckin mornin to ya in a few minutes. ",
"[Sprite](http://huff.to/1c0GoB6) and [weed](http://www.medicalmarijuana.net/uses-and-treatments/nausea/)",
"I used to get wicked nausea in the mornings whether I drank or not and it was exasperated by alcohol. I started taking an antacid with a glass of water right before I went to bed if I had been drinking and I haven't experienced nausea since. ",
"So, I called the doctor about this and he said that I should put the lime in a coconut so that's supposed to help.",
"Ever tried masturbation? There are other go to's (pedialyte and marijuana being the primary candidates) but nothing is as ever-available as masturbation. I tried to look the science up behind this once and I concluded that it had something to do with blood plasma levels of prolactin (there was one paper that mentioned elevated levels during masturbation and another that showed nausea inhibition with elevated levels as well, don't ask for the citations because this happened when I was drunk a long time ago...)",
"It might only be temporary but having a fan directly in your face, or going outside on a particularly windy day.\nSomething about cold air blowing in my face gets rid of all sick feelings for me. I prefer this because it involves no 'drugs' and works almost instantly. Also helps if you sleep with the fan on too.",
"Drink small dosage of anykind of alcohol. 0,25L beer,0,1L vine or 0,03 liquor. You would not belive how much it can help, but the problem is to drink it in the morning,afternoon...",
"Phenergan is really the only thing that I've found to work. I'll puke up plain bile when I'm really hungover, trying to put anything down there just gives it more fuel. Unfortunately a dose of phenergan is not going to make you any more able to go about your day than a wicked hangover will. ",
"I'll tell you what works for me but I'm kind of weird. So once I start drinking, if I drink water I will throw up so I try to hydrate beforehand. The next morning if I put water into my empty stomach, I'll puke too. So what I do, first thing in the morning, is make the most delicious comfort food I can possibly make. Macaroni and Cheese leftovers or something like that. Something so good that even if I'm nauseous it sounds delicious. I force that down to settle my stomach and once it settles than I can drink a whole bunch of water. I don't think this would work for everyone, but hey it works for me. ",
"Lemonade (Sprite or 7-up or whatever) + a plate of those cheap noodles which take only a few minutes to cook. I get that empty stomach feeling as well as the nausea and I find that the noodles sort that out without irritating my stomach (I don't use the flavouring stuff they usually give you with the noodles, I just leave them plain). I think the sugar of the lemonade hits the spot as well without being sickening. Good luck!",
"If you don't get \"hungover\" except for the nausea, see your doctor and slow the hell down. I speak from experience. In fact I am right now, ignoring my own advice.",
"I'm kind of an alcoholic. [Emetrol](http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/emetrol-for-nausea-%26-upset-stomach-cherry/ID=prod6028535-product) works wonders for me.\n\n",
"Huge hangover sufferer here: When you first wake up, take travel sickness tablets. I take 2 kwells. Get the good stuff not ginger etc. Its their entire job to stop you feeling nauseous. Make sure you don't throw up for the next 30 mins and drink gatorade or similar. If u have a headache take panadol AND ibuprofen. They work on different receptors so can be taken together. Just make sure u have something food like in your stomach when u take ibuprofen otherwise it will damage ur stomach lining. Your mission now is to continually hydrate until u can eat. After u eat u should be feeling OK! \n\n",
"Big Red & Barbacoa. \n\nBefore i go to bed, water. When i wake at 7am to piss/hate myself, water. Repat at 8am, 9am, etc. When i crawl out of bed, toast and eggs and a shower and im good. ",
"Pickle juice. No one believes me until they try it. Just drink some before you go to bed. Only down side is you will now have a fridge full of jars of dried out pickles. ",
"I like to just flood my system with a good ol' American mid-west breakfast. Lots of eggs, sausage, and grease. Either water or orange juice to rehydrate. I'm not going to try to convey exactly why it works because I'm not a dietician and I don't really know. Something about the protein.\n\nBut as the great Commander Scott of the NCC-1701 (no bloody A, B, C, or D) said, \"Don't drink if yah not willin' ta pay for it ta next day.\"",
"A long ass shower. While viewing universities a few years back I'd always have a good several hours on the road then a night in a hotel. Every time I enjoyed my freedom from home a bit much and would be up drinking until the hotel bar closed. And every time I'd wake up in the small hours of the morning with the worst ever hangover all the while needing to be out and about within a few hours. Those showers. They make you feel better while you're in them, and if you're there long enough you'll feel good and ready for the day. I'd be in there for 2 hours sometimes, not quite an instant cure but it sure worked. ",
"alka seltzer, Gatorade. eat some eggs if you can. if you usually drink coffee, drink some coffee or you're just piling caffeine withdrawal on top of the hangover. ",
"You put the lime in the coconut, you drink 'em both together\nPut the lime in the coconut, then you feel better\nPut the lime in the coconut, drink 'em both up\nPut the lime in the coconut, and call me in the morning\n\n",
"Valium aka. Diazapam is the best if you can get it. Generally used for bad anxiety and acute alcohol withdrawal. Take 10 mg and in 30 mins your golden. Lasts about 12 hrs. Need a prescription but it's pretty cheap if you don't have insurance. ",
"Take vitamin b before you start drinking. I swear it works for some reason. Couldn't begin to explain the science though. \n\n",
"I always get really dizzy/nauseas after alcohol too, even if I haven't had a lot. I've found that eating a fairly big snack that's either greasy or full of carbs (preferably both) and drinking as much water as you can stomach before bed is always helpful. Then I sleep on my front and lie as still as possible and sleep the worst of it off. Try drinking something sugary like lucozade or tea with sugar in the morning to stop you getting the shakes. Also, sleeping in a cold room with the window open always makes me feel better. If all of this fails, get yerself some irn-bru!",
"I always drink something warm or hot first thing, never drink cold water when you have an upset stomach. Hot herbal teas like Ginger, Peppermint, Fennel, or anything easy on the stomach is good, or just hot water with honey. Weed is the best. I also like candied fennel seeds for any stomach issues at all, they are yummy and super cheap. Ginger chews and altoids help me too. ",
"my routine consisted of.\n\n- as soon as home.. Drink water.. lots of it..\n- wake up early and have a crap - your pooh is making you drunk\n- berocca gives you back that b b bounce - http://www.berocca.com/en/whats-the-secret-of-berocca/index.php\n",
"drink coconut water instead of Gatorade, and eat ginger, either in cookies or candied, or fresh. takes care of the nausea.\n",
"Professional brewer here and I go to a lot of beerfest and drink. Prevention is the best method. We have hangover kits which consist of 32oz Gatorade, 2 advil, vitamin b12 and a bottle of water beside the bed for when you wake up in the morning. With this method I havnt been hungover in years despite lots and lots of drinking. If you forget to do this weed helps a good bit after the fact.",
"Next time you see your primary care doc, ask for a prescription for oral Zofran. As long as you take it as directed, it should help and it's pretty safe.",
"Nausea can be caused by dehydration, alcohol poisoning, acidic stomach, and ulcers. You need to know which of these you have to have an effective remedy. Harsh truth: There *isn't* really a remedy that works in the morning. *The only remedies that work are the actions you take the night of drinking.*\n\nIs your mouth dry the morning after? If so, you didn't drink enough water the night before. Drink one glass H2O between each alcoholic drink and compare how you feel. Drink water in the morning, as able, and see how that makes you feel.\n\nIs it more of an upset *stomach*? Might be excessive acidity or ulcers. Try not drinking on an empty stomach and compare the experience. Heavy foods before drinking are usually best (e.g. pizza). In the morning, try *sipping* milk. If you chug the milk you can vomit and make it worse. Antacids are an alternative and less vomit inducing, but almost everyone has cool milk available in the fridge.\n\nIf you start feeling sick after a small number of drinks and things like milk/antacids aren't helping in the morning: Congratulations, you probably have an ulcer. A wound in your stomach lining is not good. Lay off drinking, clean up your diet, and see how you feel a few weeks later after a night of drinking. If it persists or is particularly violent or if it consistent with other stomach problems you notice in your life, then go see a doctor.\n\nNote: Heavy drinking on a sensitive, empty stomach can *cause* an ulcer.\n\nDo you feel shitty in the morning? Could be alcohol toxicity, literally blood poisoning from the breakdown of the alcohol. Your system is worn down and needs to replenish electrolytes and other nutrients. Have a meal, have Gatorade, try B12 vitamins, and see how you feel. If they make you feel better, that's good. But stop binge drinking. It's bad for your health and will shorten your life.",
"Monster Rehab and a glass of water has always worked wonders for me in a pinch. Exercising (as hard as it is) works great too as long as you stay hydrated. Sweat it out.\n",
"Long time drinker here. The best thing I have ever found in my life is Freezee Pops. No shit. Maybe 8 to 10 at least. They're inexpensive and totally worth it. My friends called bullshit until they tried it. They now swear by it. Try it man, you got nothing to lose. \n \nWeed helps a little bit, but not everyone smokes. (I do!).",
"Keep a pint of Sherbet or sorbet in your freezer. It's light and sweet and you can stomach it no matter what. It's just enough sugar to get you rolling again and will settle out things in your belly.\n\nIt took many nights of alcohol and bad decisions to figure this out.",
"Jr. Bacon Cheeseburger and medium fries from Wendy's does it for me. The bun and the fries help settle your stomach and allow you to drink more water, while the bacon and meat release endorphins and delicious grease into your stomach. \nI combine that with chocolate almond milk with a spoonful of creatine (monohydrate), which fast tracks the absorption of water and gets rid of the worst of the symptoms from dehydration. \n\nWith all that done I feel like a human being by 11, but everyone has their own method",
"I prefer to apply the ancient practice of Ayurveda. Drink ~1 liter of water and hold that shit in for as long as you can. Then, release the flood gates and feel relieved. ",
"Go to your local supermarket and buy a Maximus, they're basically a 1L bottle of Power/Gatorade for half of the price. I generally stock up on them before the weekend, if I have something big planned.",
"Dramamine is one of the only anti-nausea medicines available over the counter, surprised I didn't see this at the top, might make you a little drowsy but still pretty effective",
"smoke some weed. Sounds silly but I've helped many friends who don't smoke feel better after a night out. Hydrate of course. Eat a banana. Cocoanut water. ",
"man oh man\n\nGettin that rn\n\nSame boat as in I don’t get headaches. But for some weird reason this morning I’m getting that feeling in my upper chest/back of throat mixed with nausea. I’m poundin water and taking deep breaths\n\nWhat’s working for me at the moment is a deeeep inhale then exhaling with my loudest war screech \n\nAnd telling myself I’m not a bitch\n\nSolves it within 20 seconds\n\nAlso poundin waters\n\nAnd also it’s 7:50am so that means more vodka",
"i come from a seedy sort of drug-focused culture from back in high school, and everyone swore the only TRUE cure for a hangover is to inject beta carotene \"if you can find it!\"\n\nbut i think there's a simple solution you're overlooking. if you'll look through my post history, i've made recent comments about having an eating disorder. it was never very severe, and i'm doing really well now. but i made myself throw up a lot when i was younger. it was my big secret, but one day i walked in on my boyfriend, when i was 15, who was older than me and drank very, very heavily... doing exactly what i did. he wasn't incapacitated from the act of vomiting, like many adults find themselves, not having done it since childhood. he did it like it was a routine, like it was medical. and, having such a close relationship with my own gag reflex, in young adulthood after a night out, if i wake up nauseous, i drink *a lot* of water and shortly after, trigger my gag reflex. then i take some advil and go back to bed. when i wake up again, it's like the hangover that never happened.\n\ntl;dr: nausea ends when you vomit.",
"Worked in a pharmacy in Ireland for 6 months and noticed ALOT of people coming in for NurophenPlus to treat their hangover. Started suggesting Dioralyte, and got loads of customers coming back in buying boxes of the stuff. As a health care Professional I don't know whether I was treating their hangover or aiding their alcoholism...\n\nBut it works plenty of water before bed with a sachet and then one in the morning and you're good to go. ",
"Wake and bake. Seriously, smoke a bit and drink some water. Take a nice shower and you'll feel like a million bucks :)",
"There is no LPT, there simply is no easy way. Your stomach is irritated: it requires time.\n\nIn the mean time, get hydrated.\n\nIf you can stomach water or other liquids, drink them as much as you're comfortable with. Water always works – but some people prefer other beverages and what works for others may not work for you. Popsicles are nice because they force you to ingest liquid slowly.\n\nIf you cannot stomach fluids, empty your stomach if you can. Then wait until you can drink, repeat if necessary.\n",
"The human body can't process more than about a drink an hour. Once you have 3-4 drinks, just slow right down. Have a glass of water, then have another drink, and go back to water. Remember that happy fun drunk, and how much fun you were having until everything got really blurry/spinny/forgotten? You lost the fun drunk because you got *too* drunk, which then lead you to get home. But if you just drink slightly less, you'll have more fun, and not have much if any hangover. Ergo no nausea.",
"Some swear by a Prairie Oyster \n\n* 1 raw egg\n* 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce\n* salt\n* pepper\n* 2 dashes of Tabasco sauce",
"My three symptoms of a hangover and their cures. They might work for you.\n\n1. Nausea - lack of sleep. Cure - Nap or caffeine.\n\n2. Headache - dehydrated. Cure - Gatorade.\n\n3. Overall lack of energy - low blood sugar. Cure - eat, eat, eat.",
"My granddad says drinking a glass of milk before you start drinking the alcohol helps, he said he never had a hangover cause of it! ",
"Lucozade sport (gatorade in usa) and salted peanuts is my miracle cure. Replacing salt and electrolytes.",
"Lemon ginger tea. Sold at most grocery stores. Or anything with actual ginger. But if you get something like ginger powder don't go overboard. Unlike all the jokes about Taco Bell you will shit actual fire. \n\nTo be frank most people here don't know what they're on about. ",
"Just shove your toothbrush handle down your gullet and barf. Start eating some crackers and curl up on the couch.",
"Its always best for sober you to look out for drunk you, so preparation is key. Here is my tried and true if I know i'm getting hammered that night. I'll pop a couple b-6 vitamins when i wake up, and make sure to stay hydrated all day. Before I go out I set up my station lol, asprin, dramamine, a gallon of water, a puke bucket (just in case, usually what i store everything in) Now if you're not gonna make it home that night get those travel pack or single pack asprin or dramamine and stick them in your pocket. Right before you go out, pop another b-6 chug some water, and go have fun. Right before you go to bed pop the asprin and dramamine chug as much water as you can, and pass out. I have heard the pickle juice method mentioned, and having never tried it can't confirm it works but i know people who swear by it. \n\nTL;DR- B6 vitamin the morning before you drink and before you leave to drink, water, water, water, water, water, asprin, dramamine, water, food, sleep. \n\nIf you have a hangover, dramamine along with a few tokes always does the trick for nausea, water and asprin and food for the headache.",
"I'm EXTREMELY sensitive to nausea(overly queasy for at least 24 hrs after a night of binging) so I hope this helps. I alternate between water and ginger beer (the real stuff not ginger ale) in the morning, and usually its with about 2 or 3 Slippery Elm Bark capsules, which you can pick up at any vitamin/supplement shop.\n Oh, and weed too",
"I worked in a clinic that did acupuncture, and one of the techniques I heard of (for motion sickness, morning sickness, hangover nausea) was [acupressure on the wrist](http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Nausea-With-Acupressure). A few people there swore by it",
"I was hungover one time. I felt like a demon was try to climb out of my chest. I had a pint of ice cream and took a nap.",
"I usually do not drink water in the last hour or two but in between the drinks.\n\nThis is valid if you know you'll be drinking more than usual.\n\nJust drink a glass or two every now and then and in between drinks. It'll be a lot easier than drinking LOTS of water at the end.\n\nNever had a problem since then.",
"I started having bad nausea as I got older and found it was due to the drink I had. Beer and soda gave me nausea, so I switched to vodka and tea. It was odd at first, but I much prefer it now. could be the thing you are drinking.\n\nAlso, eat some gummy vitamins before bed, and especially some soluable b-12, the kind you put under your tongue. Nothing hard that will sit in your stomach overnight.\n\nFinally, I read somewhere that animal fat *before* you drink, but not after, is supposed to help out.",
"I drink at least one big glass of water before I go to bed (2 if I can) and pop a milk thistle supplement which helps your liver detox. Then in the morning I eat watermelon. It rehydrates you and puts something easy to digest and non-acidic in your stomach. Works like a charm.\n\n",
"I believe a study was done at the University of Edinburgh and they found that animal proteins(particularly a bacon sandwich) helped. Of course hydrating helps a lot too.",
"I always drink [salt sole](http://wellnessmama.com/12158/make-sole/) after a night of drinking. Pink Himalayan Salt has 64 minerals in it, which alcohol depletes your body of vitamins and minerals. I feel all around better after drinking it.",
"Get your doc to write you a script for ondansetron. There is nothing better. You still feel off but the nausea is just gone as soon as it kicks in. Magical. ",
"For nausea of all sorts, mint leafs used to make tea. This works to get out of food poisoning as well. \n\nMy fail safe captain hindsight approach (but far less \"natural\") the few times when super drunk I ALWAYS need MacDonald chicken nuggets before bed. Its a rare occasion and I never eat MacDonalds except in this instance.\n\n",
"Emetrol (or generic brand). It works for all types of nausea including hangover as long as you can hold it down (there's always a catch). ",
"Emergen-c at night, sprite in the am. Avoid straight water as it can irritate a poor hung over tummy.\n\nTrust me on the sprite.",
"Drink a table spoon of salt in a big glass of water before you go to sleep. It tastes like donkey shit but it will replace the nutrients in your body and makes you less dehydrated in the morning ",
"Definitely sprite. \n\nEat Pho (Vietnamese beef noodle soup). The broth really helps a lot. I find that I'm usually unable to really eat the actual noodle soup but end up drinking all the broth.",
"Bartender here.\n\nCoconut water. It's got 4-5x the amount of electrolytes as Gatorade.\n\nGo out and search for some that has a pleasant taste and isn't too sweet (the water itself tends to taste 'buttery' almost.) Then stock a couple in the home for a bad morning after.\n\nDrink it with a slice of toast or two and you should be right as rain in just under an hour.",
"All of the suggestions in this thread are retarded. A lot of them mask the symptons but they usually come back. They also effect everyone differently.\n\nThe best thing for a hangover is to sleep more. If you cant sleep, hydrate and deal with it.\n\nThe best thing is just to prevent it. Drink a lot of water amd dont gp to bed pass out drunk. Stay awake as long as you can, drink more watet, amd drink water any time you pee.",
"A trick I learned from a medical journal back when I was premed, Is taking vitamin b6 before going out. I don't remember specific numbers anymore but it stopped almost all hangover symptoms in a large percentage of the population and completely stopped the hangover in about a quarter of the population. It worked wonderfully for me.",
"A chocolate milk, followed by a Coke. Sounds like a nauseating mix on its own, but my mother claims this is the only thing that got her going after partying all night when she was in her twenties. I tried it on her advice (after she called me weak) and it really does work.",
"water. Drink water like nobodys business while you are drinking. Only downside is you will have to pee more often, but being hydrated prevents hangovers. ",
"this is what I discovered and it worked for me fine for years: before I go to bed, if I am really, really drunk, I try to stay up as long as possible. I always try to drink between 1 litre and 1,5 litres of water before going to bed.(the hangover, as you probably found out already from this thread, is caused by dehidration) I also take with the water one ibuprofen, one or two natural liver protectors (I use one called Liv.52) and a pill of B complex vitamins. This is the best combination I could discover yet. ",
"ramen...Oriental flavor, add powdered ginger, soy sauce and sesame oil, then stir in an egg towards the end of cooking. hangover gone.",
"in this order\n\ngatorade, water, vitamin b complex, food, nap, gatorade, water, marijuana, food\n\nmake sure the food has lots of fat in it and make sure you drink lots of water when you drink alcohol",
"ibuprofen is good to counteract the inflammation that may be the underlying cause of the nausea and yeah that pedialyte is a wonder drug (another happy drunk)",
"get some magnesium supplements and take them before you go to sleep with a lot of water. Be sure to eat before/while you drink. ",
"drink something with electrolytes like Pedialyte or Coconut water (gatorade works too but it's not much better than kool-aid with salt in it) then take a nap.",
"Weed isn't an option for all people, but it is a great first step if you can. Next is a breakfast of Alka Seltzer, a large iced tea and toast with honey. Trust me, I'm a professional. ",
"Vitamin Water: Revive \n \nIt has a lot of potassium, more electrolytes than Gatorade, Powerade, Pedialyte or coconut water.",
"Solutions that have worked for me\n\n* two acetaminophen and a multivitamin.\n* ibuprofen 800 and gallons of water\n* this past wednesday I drank way too much and pulled an all nighter; second worst hangover of my life (so far). What cured it? Two Whoppers and a large fry. Gross and a caloric nightmare? Yes. But Christ did I want a third Whopper.",
"Soda water, squeezed lime, dash or 2 of bitters. \n\nMy friend swears by ginger ale and Dramamine but I haven't tried it",
"Roll it up, Light it up, Smoke it up, Inhale, Exhale.",
"Rally Pack. That's probably a little drastic for the average \"night out\" but if you are in bad shape and are OK giving yourself an IV, they are the top of the line hangover cure. Something other than water like a sports drink or Pedialyte is better than water and for some reason salty/greasy food is a great cure after the fact.",
"Pre-natal vitamins and a gatorade/water before bed. Does the trick every time.\n\nPre-natals have a shit ton of vitamins and minerals that are commonly lost through drinking dehydration, moreso than your typical multi-vitamin.",
"Powerade or Gatorade does/did the trick for me. I believe it is the same effect as pedialyte as some suggested but who the hell has pedialyte handy. Aforementioned can be purchased at any corner store.\n\nI always preferred the blue one. ",
"Personally I like the protein drinks like muscle milk. I have IBS and alcohol can be a real pain in the ass for me, the protein seems to settle my stomach almost instantly and I'm sure I'm lacking at least one of the nutrients they add to the drink. Combine that with some weed (optional) and plenty of water (not optional) and the hangover just disappears.",
"My friend recommends eating some tums before a night out drinking. If I drink alcohol, I usually mix with a little but of Gatorade. That or you know...don't drink too much?",
"Medication wise, apart from oral rehydration (pedialyte etc), things such as ondansetron, metoclopramide, prochlorperazine could work. Things for travel sickness could work but wouldn't be as effective.",
"Meclizine. It's the new formula of Dramamine, and it's the best I've found for treating hangover nausea, short of marijuana. It's an antiemetic, and works quick enough you can keep it and whatever you drink it with down. I don't recommend old Dramamine formula; for this purpose it might as well be time release Benadryl. ",
"In addition to the general electrolyte/ b-vitamin intake, if you have something to do in the morning, take 200 mg of ibuprofen (Advil) before going to bed. It doesn't interact in a toxic manner like acetaminophen (Tylenol) and leaves you waking up without hangover symptoms and generally quite well rested.\n\nAdditionally, drinking unfiltered beer with bottom sludge included helps mitigate hangovers as the yeast that comprises it has a number of nutrients one is lacking after a night of drinking.",
"If you are anywhere near a store that sells all kinds of chinese herbs and such - go there and ask for something called a \"gecko ball\". Tastes horrible, but your hangover will be gone in ten minutes.\n\nIf not - the best method I have found is to sleep in until at least three and then get up and eat a french dip.\n\n",
"IN this order,\nCold water as soon as you can walk.\nExercise and SWEAT. (Wear a rashie / rash guard)\nwater again after exercise, then Greasy food, add chili or wasabi to it.\nYou'll find that the exercise and the sweat will make you feel better. I find that the greasy food settles my stomach after a big night out. \n",
"I've found out from being in college for two years that the best hangover cure for me personally is a two hour nap.",
"I've always gone with the old \"give your hangover what it wants\". Does your hangover want a cheeseburger? Get that. Does it want tiny sips of water and a dark room? That's the ticket! Does it want toast and tea? Give it a go. \n\nI just try to feed the craving my body is giving me. However I usually do this after a period of waiting. If I wake up hungover I start with aspirin, a small amount of water and just try to relax on the sofa for a bit. Then I listen to what my hangover is telling me: \"feed me pizza logs and coca cola, feed me feed me\"",
"I've always chugged a ton of water about an hour before going to bed. Of course, it's maddening having to pee while trying to sleep it off, but I've never been hung over with headaches or nausea since starting this practice 15 years ago.",
"I'm sick a lot with hangovers. A nice cold can of Coke pretty much always helps me. In fact, anything cold and fizzy seems to help settle my stomach - right down to Alka Seltzer. In terms of food, my personal advice would be: whatever you fancy, eat it. Even if it's ice cream at 7 in the morning.\n\nI also use an antihistamine drug for nausea called cyclizine. It is brilliant but tends to knock me out so is for weekends only.\n\nLastly, if it's appropriate - forcing a drink down is almost guaranteed to work.",
"I would wonder what causes the nausea. Does it only happen when you drink certain drinks? I quit drinking years ago but rarely suffered any kind of hangover even though I drank almost a 5th at any given time but I generally drank straight booze like tequila. Or I had beer and I tried to stay away from mixed drinks. I was told way back the mixers and the sweet drinks are what caused the worst hangovers. \n\nJust remember that if you have a sluggish liver that it will take a bit to process out the breakdown products of alcohol like acetaldehyde which is a bit toxic and if it builds up in your body it can make you sick.\\\n\nHere found this:\n\nhttp://health.howstuffworks.com/wellness/drugs-alcohol/hangover4.htm",
"I swear by this! At your local drug store they should sell an anti-nausea medication called Emertol. It is all natural cherry syrup, tastes good and gives you a boost of sugar, ect. \n\nIt doesn't matter if I drink 10 beers or just look at one I get nauseous. This stuff works. ",
"I find that toast with butter and coffee pretty much settles my stomach completely when it feels shitty after a night of drinking. I've also heard people say that working out gets rid of their hangover, but I've yet to try that so who knows.",
"I am a doctor. But you are either a doctor in the states or somewhere just as terrible. I don't have anymore time for this nonsense",
"Here's what I do after a solid night of drinking: \n1) Don't worry about drinking water before going to bed. You're drunk, so go to bed.\n\n2) It's likely you'll wake up early in the morning, say around 6am. If this happens, now's the time to act. Get up, drink a big glass of water, take some advil, and also some pepto.\n\n3) Go back to sleep.\n\n4) Wake up a few hours later and no hangover, what-so-ever. \n\nWorks well for me. Good luck.",
"Greasy food like McDonald's is supposed to help. But sometimes your too nauseous to eat so it's not the best advice... ",
"Ginger tablets and ginger beer. Can't smoke weed which is what everyone else I know does, so this is my go to. ",
"Ginger always works for me. I keep candied ginger slices around. They alleviate the dry mouth while water might be too much for your stomach to handle. It really calms the gully works. It also works for motion sickness. ",
"Ginger Gravol (or just regular ginger pills if you arent in Canada) + Extra Strength Advil gelcaps + water. Works like a charm every time.",
"Gatorade works pretty well. Also not drinking to excess, and not going to sleep until you've sobered up a bit and had plenty of water/juice/non-alcoholic beverage of your choice.",
"Food and fluids, or just don't drink as much the night before. It also helps to keep hydrated while drinking and before you go to bed.",
"Emetrol. You can get it at your local drug store. It seriously does wonders for my nausea when I am hungover. \nI get extremely hung over, so I do a combo of emetrol, ginger ale, and saltine crackers. It is the only thing I've found that can get me through hangover days. ",
"Electrolytes (from Gatorade or from coconut water), and good. I never want to eat when I've got hangover nausea, because I don't feel good. However I know eating would make me feel better. ",
"Eat something. Always cures it for me. Usually two eggs, two pieces of BBQ bacon and two pieces of toast. Then again... I've eaten that every morning for 6 years.",
"Eat a teaspoon of Vegemite or Marmite before going to bed the Vit B is helpful in metabolising the alcohol",
"Dyrolite - this powder drink for rehydrating after you've got the runs. That and vitamin C tablets/drinks. Also, drink a shit ton of water before and after bed. Finally, I often find that throwing up makes me feel better.",
"Drink 1 liter of water and take 1 x Vitamin B pill before bed. Reduces hangover TREMENDOUSLY. I make everyone I know do this, and they ALWAYS thank me the next day. Same exact thing is what your body needs to recover the next day. Also eating strawberries seems to have a great ability to remove a hangover both before and after.\n\nAlso eat a starchy meal before drinking if possible. ",
"Don't chug half a gallon of milk. That seemed like a good idea to me once, as if the milk would calm my stomach, like when eating spicy food. Was not a good idea. Not a good idea at all.",
"Depends on the severity. \n\nMinor: green smoothie and work up a good sweat. Gone.\n\nBad: cool water with a squeeze of lime, 2 oz. at a time every 10 minutes. After the nausea departs, drink a cup of broth. Have something light for lunch and dinner.\n\nMajor: another beer, a ton of water, and some sleep.\n\nCatastrophic: IV.\n\nRed wine: death is the only release.",
"Depending on how I would feel, I used to drink either Gatorade, water or pop depending on how settled my stomach was. If you can do pop it'll make you burp, ahh yeah. Same idea with food, stuff that will help move gas around, but not spicy stuff. ",
"Cucumber. Scientifically proven to be an ass kicking hangover cure, especially if eaten the night you get back. Also tried it myself, at about a quarter of one, felt fucking incredible in the morning.",
"Breakfast food. It sucks, but you gotta force yourself to get some food down. Even if you don't keep it down, it'll help reduce the time you spend feeling sick. Weed will help stimulate the appetite too.",
"Bloody Mary's and weed is one I like. Followed up by a greasy breakfast/brunch. If you are a smoker try not to smoke for a while, or risk getting a headache because you probably smoked your pack and half of your buddies pack last night. \n\nThe BM gives you a salt boost and something a little more solid than water to ease your stomach. If it comes with some appetizers even better. I really like using bacon flavored vodka in mine, its amazing (though terribly awful to shoot by itself lol). It also does good to wash the aftertaste of a good night 8 hours old out. \n\nAt times I might take a headache medicine if my head feels like a warzone, though I know which things will get me there so I try to limit myself (looking at you, Coldsmoke from Kettlehouse Brewery, creator of legendary beer hangovers).\n\n",
"Based on a study I'm too lazy to link because I'm on mobile and fuck you but if enough pepole find this comment interesting someone will anyway: Sprite\n\nNot 7up, their competitor.",
"B Vitamin and a serious antacid like Zantac always work for me, take before you pass out if you can and again in the morning",
"Are you sure you don't still have alcohol in your system? Nausea is more likely associated with alcohol, such as when the body feels it's been overwhelmed with it the natural response is to vomit to empty stomach contents. If you're drinking to the point of almost vomiting, you're drinking too much too fast. Slow down! \n\nThe hang over is the crummy feeling you have the next morning. The alcohol is out of your system but the body tends to be dehydrated, which may cause hang over headaches and feeling run down. ",
"After reading the comments here I'm so glad that I still didn't had any hungover (yet) despite tending to drink too much at times. I do throw up but it doesn't bother me. Never had any headaches in my life either. ",
"A table spoon of mustard. My boyfriend gave me this remedy once and it's always worked.\nAlso I grow Lemon and chocolate mint in my back yard. That or some real ginger root boiled like tea works.\nBaking soda in water or a shot Apple cider vinegar helps you burp which relieves some of the discomfort.\n\nI don't get wasted a lot but I know that either drunk or nauseous from a bad period, depending on what I have in the fridge, I fix my tummy troubles.",
"A hit or two of weed always makes me feel a lot better after a night of drinking.. No more, no less though!"
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"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise.",
"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise.",
"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise.",
"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise.",
"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise.",
"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise.",
"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise.",
"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise.",
"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise.",
"How to not take work home with you I just started working overnights at a group home for kids with troubled home lives, and one kid just got admitted that has some stuff I don't even want to share it's so bad. Yesterday I got home from work at sat at my desk and cried for a good 10 minutes before being able to go to sleep. Any tips on how to not take this stuff home with me? I won't be able to handle this job long otherwise."
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"I was a news photographer for a local broadcast affiliate, and had to deal with this for a lot of things. My time as a rookie meant \"If it sucks, I'm going,\" while later my experience led to \"If it's tough, I can do it.\"\n\nI found solace in a few places. If faith isn't for you, no problem, but for me, spending time either praying or parsing through what I saw first-hand with my pastor (you don't see the gory details in my market), and that was huge. I became capable of \"storing\" the crap I saw and experienced to deal with later.\n\nSecondly, and if the former doesn't work for you, I suggest this strongly, I would go over it with my co-workers. Likely at some point, they got to the car crash before the ambulance and had to do CPR while setting up camera gear to then capture the carnage. If you experience hardship doing this job, other people do, too. Ask them what they do, or start being someone they can vent to. You'll find they'll do the same for you. My brethren of photogs was strong, and we leaned on each other through the shit.\n\nAnd honestly, someone else said weed. Not a bad idea. Personally, not a great match for me, but it did the trick when I needed it. I usually found peace eventually at the bottom of a bottle, though. Mostly with someone else. If it's hard on you, you need someone to share it with, and they might need some liquid courage to soak up the trouble with you.",
"Take all the kids home with you instead!\n\nJoking aside, I have so much admiration for people who do jobs like this because I just know I couldn't for your exact problem. To most people a job is a job, leave the workplace and all thoughts are left there. You have to realise that you're doing a job which is so rewarding, these kids look forward to seeing you, you are the person who they'll look up to and you're the person they'll remember and thank in the future.\n\nI know it must be hard but when you're home you need to try and focus on things away from work, take up and hobby, gym, sports etc",
"I have a bit of a different opinion here. I worked with high risk adolescents for 8 years. I loved what I did and got into the job because I cared for the young people. It was important for me to make boundaries of work and home. Of course sometimes an emergency would come up, but I did my best to stick with them. In the beginning I would take my work home with me and care more about the kids than they were willing to put into it. Eventually, through boundaries I set both at work with the young people, and outside of work... Not taking that call etc. I was able to let them do what they would and not let it affect my day. (overall, of course no one is perfect). This didn't mean I cared any less, but it did mean I didn't own their feelings/ problems which is unmanageable. (I can't make anyone do anything so letting it affect me negatively is insane). \n \nSo, long and short, that's what worked for me. For me, I think having to use substances to take care of hangover feelings of my day... That wouldn't be good for me. \n \nBest of luck to you and if you want to chat feel free to shoot me a pm. ",
"Excuse the way this may sound - know I'm being serious.\n\nWeed. Honestly I didn't smoke or drink for a decade leading into adult life. My brain would become obsessed with tasks and efficiency trying to keep up with the needs of a small successful company I worked for. I found weed to be my ideal tool for releasing stress after hell days or hell weeks. Wouldn't recommend smoking before or during work hours of course..\n\nYou have a much more important job with higher stakes (children whereas I managed mostly cost and full grown adults). I only mean to share my experience. I would lay awake at night running countless scenarios through my head. I would lose up to 20 lbs during summer months of stress with heavy workload. Little did I know something I'd thought was for losers could be used as a tool to keep my life balanced. I'm able to smoke responsibly and keep my body from spilling work-fueled anxiety into what I truly care about at home. \n\nThe point I'm trying to make is I kept an open mind, tried what a close friend suggested and what turned out to be a harmful vice for my friends in youth has become a very powerful tool for taking back my adult life.\n\nSounds stupid - Actually changed my life for the better.. Since smoking I've been promoted 2x, escaped an upside down mortgage and funded my way back into college across the country.\n\nI like to think there's a solution out there for you in your occupation as well. Consulting reddit was a great move! Good luck\n\n",
"The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - it's one I go back to over and over again. \n\nIt's hard, I get it. Take care.",
"Social worker here! I deal with the bad, the ugly, and the fucked up on a daily basis. Honestly it's hard to not take this job home with you but I've realized that the BEST thing you can do for yourself is get some good self care. Find something you enjoy and do it. For me, it's the gym. I take all that shit with me to the gym and leave it there. It's therapeutic for me. Also, second hand trauma (which you and I are at a high risk for because we listen to so much things) is very real and I would advise that you invest in your own therapy, seriously. Go see a therapist and talk about what you hear and see. They may even be able to provide you with some coping mechanisms! This is a really vague-ish answer but different stuff work for different people. I've become \"numb\" to a lot of the things I hear but it doesn't effect my work. If you want to talk more about this if be happy to offer some help, just PM me :)",
"I've worked in group homes before- it's tough, and can definitely be difficult on many levels. There are kids with all kinds of trauma, and it is amazing that they have been through what they have and are still making it in the world. That being said, kids in group homes are there for very specific reasons, for support or as a consequence of behavior that has been manipulative, destructive, and abusive (from them or from others to them.) These kids do not often have healthy views of relationships, or healthy ways of interacting with people. If they know that you are greatly emotionally affected by their stories, the kids can use this to manipulate you, and you will be less effective as a staff member. Frankly, taking home work and becoming emotionally attached to kids at group homes is the best way to burnout fast and become ineffective at your job. There is a reason that jobs like these have extremely high turnover rates among staff. \n\nWhat am I getting at? First, follow the group home policy for how you are supposed to interact with the kids. Some places are strict in ensuring that the staff members are not acting like licensed therapists. This doesn't mean that you have to treat the kids like you don't care- on the contrary, not caring at all can lead to treating the kids like objects and not like humans. It means you approach interactions with an open ear, but with objectivity. \n\nSecond, realize that these kids need to work through these issues. They are in the group home for support and structure. You are not going to be able to change their situation, take away their pain, or solve their problems. What you can do is be a mature adult in their presence. Uphold the standards and procedures of the house, DO NOT talk about the kids outside of work, not only HIPAA violation, but also really tough to get away from work if you always take it with you and rehash it. \n\nThird, seek support from therapeutic staff there- they can give you more information about the kids therapeutic plan, what kind of behavior you should look out for, and what appropriate interactions are. They might even give you ideas for appropriate responses when kids are telling you their stories! You don't want to risk harming the kids there emotionally, nor do you want to become sapped of your own emotional energy. \n\nGood luck! Group home work can be challenging and rewarding.\n",
"I read a post awhile ago from lawyer about his clients. His clients were pretty bad guys, 2nd, 1st degree murder kinda bad. But all of them had their story, their side of the coin. While the attorney could understand his client's situation, he wasn't responsible for the choices his client's made that lead them to where they are now. He just does his job and goes home. \n\nYeah it sucks. And yeah it's bad. But you're not responsible for what happened or is happening to those kids with troubled lives. Your job is simply to do what your job requires and that's it. \n\n",
"I like talking to an audience i imagine. I present \"the case\" and share my thoughts. And i can get to work by walking for about 30 minutes, which helps a lot to let fresh air blow through my mind. But i must admit i think the stories you hear are more disturbing.",
"1. The \"Serenity Prayer\" and other forms of \"taking hold while letting go\" mind-shifts can do wonders for this. You are only responsible for the role you play, not for \"net result\" of erasing the suffering of others.\n\n2. In your own life, pursue the happiness and peace of mind *that you want those kids to have some day*. Do it for them. Make a \"healthy adult heart\" a reality they can look forward to by embodying it yourself. You aren't selfish or bad for having a better life than they do; instead, you are keeping a Life Door propped open so one day they can go through it themselves.\n\n3. Separate as many tangible things as you can. For example, using a different web browser for work vs. for personal stuff helps the mind \"separate\" the two (e.g. I use Firefox for all personal stuff vs. Chrome for all work stuff). Same thing for where you put any papers/info that reminds you of work vs. not-about-work. You can have a desk (or even a room) where all your work stuff goes -- and when you close it, BAM, it's gone now, and it won't come back until you open it.\n\nThree ideas. Notice they all involve \"carving out a space\" somewhere. They're all about *deliberately dedicating* something. This allows your mind to \"escape\" something, not by running away but instead by putting it in a \"mental box\" of some kind."
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"What is the best way to remove blood stains from fabric? I have a large blood stain in the backseat of my car and I need to remove it by tomorrow morning. I am looking for anything that I can buy or is already in my house.\n\n",
"What is the best way to remove blood stains from fabric? I have a large blood stain in the backseat of my car and I need to remove it by tomorrow morning. I am looking for anything that I can buy or is already in my house.\n\n",
"What is the best way to remove blood stains from fabric? I have a large blood stain in the backseat of my car and I need to remove it by tomorrow morning. I am looking for anything that I can buy or is already in my house.\n\n",
"What is the best way to remove blood stains from fabric? I have a large blood stain in the backseat of my car and I need to remove it by tomorrow morning. I am looking for anything that I can buy or is already in my house.\n\n",
"What is the best way to remove blood stains from fabric? I have a large blood stain in the backseat of my car and I need to remove it by tomorrow morning. I am looking for anything that I can buy or is already in my house.\n\n",
"What is the best way to remove blood stains from fabric? I have a large blood stain in the backseat of my car and I need to remove it by tomorrow morning. I am looking for anything that I can buy or is already in my house.\n\n"
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"Ok, OP, sinc this is time critical, what I need you to do is to take those cleaning products and clean the inside of the car. I'm talking fast, fast, fast. You need to go in the back seat, scoop up all those little pieces of brain and skull--get it out of there…wipe down the upholstery. Now, when it comes to the upholstery…it don't need to be spic-and-span. You don’t need to eat off it. Just give it a good once-over. What you need to take care of are the really messy parts. The pools of blood that have collected, you gotta soak that shit up. Now, OP, we need to raid your linen closet. We need blankets. We need comforters. We need quilts. We need bedspreads. The thicker the better, the darker the better. No whites. Can't use ‘em. We need to camouflage the interior of the car. We're going to line the front seat and the back seat and floorboards with quilts and blankets, so if a cop stops us, and starts sticking his big snout in the car, the subterfuge won’t last, but at a glance the car will appear to be normal. OP, get to work.\n\nNow OP, listen up. We're going to a place called Monster Joe's Truck and Tow. I'll drive the tainted car. OP, you follow in my Acura. We run across the path of any John Q. Laws, nobody does a fucking thing unless I do it first. Now I drive real fucking fast, so keep up. I get my car back any differently than when I gave it, Monster Joe's gonna be disposing of two bodies. \n\nIf I’m curt with you it’s because time is a factor. I think fast, I talk fast, and I need you to act fast if you wanna get out of this. So pretty please, with sugar on top, clean the fuckin' car.",
"The last time this was asked, a surgeon responded with salt (saline solution). Sure enough it worked better for me than hydrogen peroxide without any scrubbing even! The surgeon explained the science behind it. ",
"I've had some success getting blood stains out of clothing (I'm a woman, also have had a lot of nosebleeds) just by using hand wash laundry power and water. I usually leave things to soak in it (probably not very easy to do with your car seat though!) and then give them a good hand wash. I'd suggest stain remover (Vanish or similar brand) but I don't know if that will damage the material of your car seat in some way.",
"Windex! I broke my nose once and got blood all over my blazer (light pink). The blood was dried and I thought the jacket was a loss; used Windex and the blood disappeared. Spray area and let it soak and it should disappear on it's own. Good luck!",
"This sounds way too much like the TIFU someone made on their date menstruaiting all over the back seats of his car. Do you have anything to tell us OP?",
"Just a heads up, if OP did do something dodgy, like police wanting to know what you've been up to dodgy, forensics can spot that bloodstain. Don't care if you can see nothing, that shit is going to light up like a glitter bomb once Luminol hits it. \n\nSuggestion, other than not doing anything stupid to get the police interested- try washing it thoroughly with soap and water- it should dilute whatever is left to make it both hard and confusing to detect that it was blood. No promises it will eliminate it though."
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"How can I speed up my perception of time? We all know that time perception is not static, that it changes based on the situation you're in. If I'm eager to get out of work and keep checking the clock, my 8 hour shift may as well be a 100 hour shift. If for any reason I'm not paying any attention to the time, my shift can be over in the blink of an eye.\n\nThe simple solution might be \"don't look at the clock,\" and I've been doing this for a while, but my brain keeps Scumbag Steve'ing me by having such an accurate internal clock. It takes a conscious effort to avoid looking at clocks, which then just reminds me that I already know roughly what time it is.\n\nI'm wondering if anyone has any ways that one could \"trick themself\" into ignoring the passage of time while working, to make time go by faster.",
"How can I speed up my perception of time? We all know that time perception is not static, that it changes based on the situation you're in. If I'm eager to get out of work and keep checking the clock, my 8 hour shift may as well be a 100 hour shift. If for any reason I'm not paying any attention to the time, my shift can be over in the blink of an eye.\n\nThe simple solution might be \"don't look at the clock,\" and I've been doing this for a while, but my brain keeps Scumbag Steve'ing me by having such an accurate internal clock. It takes a conscious effort to avoid looking at clocks, which then just reminds me that I already know roughly what time it is.\n\nI'm wondering if anyone has any ways that one could \"trick themself\" into ignoring the passage of time while working, to make time go by faster.",
"How can I speed up my perception of time? We all know that time perception is not static, that it changes based on the situation you're in. If I'm eager to get out of work and keep checking the clock, my 8 hour shift may as well be a 100 hour shift. If for any reason I'm not paying any attention to the time, my shift can be over in the blink of an eye.\n\nThe simple solution might be \"don't look at the clock,\" and I've been doing this for a while, but my brain keeps Scumbag Steve'ing me by having such an accurate internal clock. It takes a conscious effort to avoid looking at clocks, which then just reminds me that I already know roughly what time it is.\n\nI'm wondering if anyone has any ways that one could \"trick themself\" into ignoring the passage of time while working, to make time go by faster."
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"This is positive of my adhd, I hyper-focus on tasks to the point where I don't get hungry, forget having to pee, etc. It's like I'm a sim. I've heard this also referred to as 'flow.' Absorb yourself mentally in whatever you're doing by finding way to make/pretend it's enjoyable. Progress will feel like a reward. Then clock out. ",
"Keep busy. Doesn't really matter what with. Just keep busy enough that you aren't preoccupied by keeping track of time.",
"You my friend, are bored. You need to find something to do with all this extra time, even if only a few minutes just do something you enjoy."
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"Maintaining interest in a hobby when you have an addictive personality I've always been someone who has a bit of an addictive personality. Every once in a while, I will find a new 'hobby' to partake in. Over the course of a few weeks, I will be hyper-focused on just that hobby, learning everything there is to know about it and purchasing any equipment I need. \n\nThen, almost as fast as I picked up the hobby, I start to lose interest. Within a couple months, most of the time I've moved on to something else, whether that's an old interest like playing video games or to a new, completely different hobby or interest.\n\nI think the issue comes down to me feeling that I always need to have the passion I had at the beginning when I was learning/just starting the hobby. Once some of that passion leaves, I start to question whether it's a hobby that's truly for me, although I still thoroughly enjoy working on it.\n\nI guess my question is, how do I maintain interest in a hobby when some of the passion I originally had for the hobby starts to fade?",
"Maintaining interest in a hobby when you have an addictive personality I've always been someone who has a bit of an addictive personality. Every once in a while, I will find a new 'hobby' to partake in. Over the course of a few weeks, I will be hyper-focused on just that hobby, learning everything there is to know about it and purchasing any equipment I need. \n\nThen, almost as fast as I picked up the hobby, I start to lose interest. Within a couple months, most of the time I've moved on to something else, whether that's an old interest like playing video games or to a new, completely different hobby or interest.\n\nI think the issue comes down to me feeling that I always need to have the passion I had at the beginning when I was learning/just starting the hobby. Once some of that passion leaves, I start to question whether it's a hobby that's truly for me, although I still thoroughly enjoy working on it.\n\nI guess my question is, how do I maintain interest in a hobby when some of the passion I originally had for the hobby starts to fade?",
"Maintaining interest in a hobby when you have an addictive personality I've always been someone who has a bit of an addictive personality. Every once in a while, I will find a new 'hobby' to partake in. Over the course of a few weeks, I will be hyper-focused on just that hobby, learning everything there is to know about it and purchasing any equipment I need. \n\nThen, almost as fast as I picked up the hobby, I start to lose interest. Within a couple months, most of the time I've moved on to something else, whether that's an old interest like playing video games or to a new, completely different hobby or interest.\n\nI think the issue comes down to me feeling that I always need to have the passion I had at the beginning when I was learning/just starting the hobby. Once some of that passion leaves, I start to question whether it's a hobby that's truly for me, although I still thoroughly enjoy working on it.\n\nI guess my question is, how do I maintain interest in a hobby when some of the passion I originally had for the hobby starts to fade?",
"Maintaining interest in a hobby when you have an addictive personality I've always been someone who has a bit of an addictive personality. Every once in a while, I will find a new 'hobby' to partake in. Over the course of a few weeks, I will be hyper-focused on just that hobby, learning everything there is to know about it and purchasing any equipment I need. \n\nThen, almost as fast as I picked up the hobby, I start to lose interest. Within a couple months, most of the time I've moved on to something else, whether that's an old interest like playing video games or to a new, completely different hobby or interest.\n\nI think the issue comes down to me feeling that I always need to have the passion I had at the beginning when I was learning/just starting the hobby. Once some of that passion leaves, I start to question whether it's a hobby that's truly for me, although I still thoroughly enjoy working on it.\n\nI guess my question is, how do I maintain interest in a hobby when some of the passion I originally had for the hobby starts to fade?",
"Maintaining interest in a hobby when you have an addictive personality I've always been someone who has a bit of an addictive personality. Every once in a while, I will find a new 'hobby' to partake in. Over the course of a few weeks, I will be hyper-focused on just that hobby, learning everything there is to know about it and purchasing any equipment I need. \n\nThen, almost as fast as I picked up the hobby, I start to lose interest. Within a couple months, most of the time I've moved on to something else, whether that's an old interest like playing video games or to a new, completely different hobby or interest.\n\nI think the issue comes down to me feeling that I always need to have the passion I had at the beginning when I was learning/just starting the hobby. Once some of that passion leaves, I start to question whether it's a hobby that's truly for me, although I still thoroughly enjoy working on it.\n\nI guess my question is, how do I maintain interest in a hobby when some of the passion I originally had for the hobby starts to fade?"
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"This is really normal. Many people have this problem. To the brain, hobbies are perceived similar to the way relationships are, and they will have a \"honeymoon phase\" that will run out. Unless you're some kind of prodigy, the honeymoon phase will definitely disappear once you have mastered the basics of the hobby, which are easy, and you might suddenly find the effort-to-reward ratio diminishing too much for your liking. You need to start putting in more effort as you take your skills to the next level. Of course, finding a new hobby is much easier, so you will be drawn to that instead. But then you miss out on all the (possible) incredible rewards from continuing to explore the same hobby.\n\nBoredom is a survival instinct that keeps you from wasting your time on things that ultimately aren't profitable. If you want to keep your interest in a hobby, you need a reason for it, and you need to know what that reason is. The hobby needs to give you something back, whether it be money, popularity, wisdom, or just satisfaction. When you're first starting out, your reason might be curiosity. You're trying to answer the question \"Can I really do this?\" Once you discover the answer to this question, which is probably \"yes,\" then curiosity is no longer a reason and you need to find a different one.\n\nWhen you are engaged in a hobby, think about an overreaching reason for you to continue the hobby far into the future. Can you make money with it? Can you show off your skills and impress people? Will it help give you insight into different ways of thinking, or help you improve related skills? Or will it just continue to amuse yourself in times of boredom? Pick a goal and think of a roadmap to that reward. Then you will have a cognitive reason to continue the hobby rather than just an emotional one.\n\nOn the other hand, if you can't think of a long-term reason to continue the hobby, there's no harm in that. Decide on a short-term goal you want to meet, and then just quit when you feel done, and move on to the next one. No sense in forcing yourself to do something that you can't do or won't enjoy.\n\n**TL;DR: Ask yourself \"What's in it for me?\"**",
"This LPT request also serves a tangential purpose: explaining marriage/divorce in America. If you are still in the 'honeymoon period' when you get engaged/married - look out!",
"I have this problem, but I forced myself to stick with a hobby for a year to break the cycle. 3 yrs later, I'm still into it. There's rough patches but stick with it! Find some motivation, don't give up.",
"How hyper-focused are you getting? For a guy I know that was the key to a form of high-functioning autism that went undiagnosed unti he was 30, and by then he seems like a pretty normal guy (albiet a bit weird).",
"You need to set a practice schedule or certain time that you partake in this hobby- so you feel \"guilty\" if you skip it "
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"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?",
"How do you quit a job you've being working for almost 3 years and not feel guilty I've being working for the same job almost 3 years. It's a retail job. I have recently being looking around for a new job because I want to do something new and need a change in scenery. The hours I am getting are good but could be paid better. My problem is that I have being here for so long and if I do decide to leave, I don't want to cause tension and feel guilty. Any tips?"
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"Understand that the company wouldn't hesitate to cut your hours or lay you off completely, if it suited them.\n\nYou're right to thank them for the experience, as they should thank you for your efforts, but that's the extent of your politeness obligations.",
"Make sure u actually get an offer before you quit. Give 2 weeks at least, more if you can coordinate with your new boss. They might ask for references after interview anyways. \n\nBusiness is business, some company may even give you a slight raise in order to keep you around a bit longer. Stay in good terms, who knows, maybe you gain other experience and come back to work a different position, or maybe one day you start your own business and you might want some leads here.\n\nGood luck with your leap!",
"Just remember people come and go, and realize if the needed to they would lay u off so u gotta look out for yourself. ",
"I'm leaving a job I've been at for 5 years. Just give your two weeks. If they're short staffed after those two weeks then it's their own problem. In my case, my soon to be former employer will most likely be short because the owner is a greedy bitch who would rather see the business go under rather than pay competitive wages. ",
"You just have to remember that nobody is going to expect you to stay in a retail job forever. Make it clear that you have enjoyed your time there, but you have found an opportunity that will hopefully benefit your future, and they should be happy for you. If they make you feel guilty for moving on, that's their problem, not yours. Also, if it's relevant, you could provide them with a recommendation for someone to replace you when you leave. ",
"You are replaceable. They are replaceable. I've left a job where I was employed from the very start of the business and they didn't care that much. There's always more people to fill the seats. ",
"They functioned without you before, they function without you on your days off, and they'll function without you after. The higher ups would drop you if it suited them, particularly financially, so why not do the same? If you have to think of it in some sort of selfless martyr-y way, realize that if they paid you what you need/want, it would be a burden for them, otherwise they'd already be doing it (or it wouldn't be a burden and they're just taking advantage of those who need work, in which case dance off into the sunset guilt free and enjoy your higher paying job). By going someplace willing to do that for you and allowing them to replace you with someone who performs those tasks and is fine with that arrangement in terms of hours and compensation, you're sparing your current job from change. ",
"Thank you all for your positive responses. I feel more confident about my job change when the time arises. ",
"Put yourself in their shoes...if you were the boss, how would you want your employee to say they are moving on to what they see as a better situation?",
"It's just a business decision. If they don't respect that, then they don't respect you and they aren't worth your time. ",
"3 years is respectable, if you'd only worked there for 3 weeks, and you leave for a better job, that's lame, but you're an adult maybe, its the function of the planet, give up your job for someone else"
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"Bound to a lease for a roach infested apartment. Getting conflicting advice from loved ones... I'm really in a predicament right now, one that just stresses me out the more I seek out advice on what to do. But here I am, seeking more advice. Basically, I was looking into getting my first apartment unit. I found a place that seemed promising with the included utilities, price, and parking. However I decided on that apartment much too quickly, because later, I looked up reviews that suggested it was infested with cockroaches. Almost every review on the place mentions the roach problem and they span from 2012 to just 8 months ago. They have pest control twice a month, but it's clearly not working if it's still a problem. The reviews even said pest control does nothing. Hell, even the POSITIVE reviews mention that there are roaches. So this has been an ongoing issue for years.\n\nAfter learning this, I changed my mind about the place and wanted to look elsewhere. However, I made a huge mistake. I already signed the lease. And because I already signed it, I'm legally bound to its terms and they've informed me that I must still pay the rent price either until the 12 month term ends or until they can find another renter to take that unit instead. It doesn't matter that I haven't moved in yet, I'd still need to pay. I'm very new to all this, so of course it came as a huge shock to me. I felt very stupid and started asking advice from different people. But as I did, I just got even more stressed.\n\nMy S.O. thinks I should just bite the bullet and move in, hoping that the roach issue isn't as bad as the reviews say. They think it'd be a huge waste of both money and time to pay rent each month for a place I'm not even living in. And it's not like I can consider other apartments to live while it's going on, so I'd have to wait even longer to move out, be on my own and have my independence.\n\nMy mom on the other hand actually wants to challenge this. She also thinks it's ridiculous to pay them monthly for an apartment I'm not living in, but she also doesn't think I should live in a roach infested apartment either. So she actually looked into contacting an attorney and I got some brief advice from him. He agrees that I messed up by signing the lease, but suggested I could write a formally written letter addressing my concerns and leave it at that. I honestly didn't understand 100% what he was getting at, but it sounded like \"write a letter refusing to pay because of various concerns\". He said there's a possibility I MIGHT get sued, but most apartments don't want to go through that much trouble and I'd have some ammunition to fight if they did.\n\nMy dad felt somewhat similarly where he also thinks I should write a letter and if they don't work with me, I should be the one to sue them and challenge their competency.\n\nBut to be honest, all of this just makes me sweat from anxiety. I REALLY don't wanna go to court and I REALLY don't wanna live in a roach infested apartment. TBH, I was personally leaning towards paying them the rent and just hoping to God that it doesn't take long for them to find a renter to replace me. When I initially looked at the apartments, they had 2 units available and of course I chose one. I recently checked to see if the leftover one was still vacant, but no, someone had already taken it. This was within the span of about 1.5 months. So that tells me it may not take that long for units to get claimed.\n\nDespite that, that idea seems to be the furthest from the minds of those I ask. The bottom line I'm getting from them is, paying monthly for an apartment I'm not staying in makes no sense. And if I went that route, I feel like they'd all be disappointed in me. But to me it feels like every option heavily relies on Hope and either way I'm taking a huge risk.\n\nIf I decide to cancel and pay, I HOPE it won't be too long before someone takes my place.\n\nIf I decide to move in, I HOPE that those many reviews were exaggerating and there's no roach problem.\n\nIf I decide to challenge this, I HOPE I don't get taken to court.\n\nRight now, I don't know what to do. Should I trust my gut or listen to the people trying to help me?",
"Bound to a lease for a roach infested apartment. Getting conflicting advice from loved ones... I'm really in a predicament right now, one that just stresses me out the more I seek out advice on what to do. But here I am, seeking more advice. Basically, I was looking into getting my first apartment unit. I found a place that seemed promising with the included utilities, price, and parking. However I decided on that apartment much too quickly, because later, I looked up reviews that suggested it was infested with cockroaches. Almost every review on the place mentions the roach problem and they span from 2012 to just 8 months ago. They have pest control twice a month, but it's clearly not working if it's still a problem. The reviews even said pest control does nothing. Hell, even the POSITIVE reviews mention that there are roaches. So this has been an ongoing issue for years.\n\nAfter learning this, I changed my mind about the place and wanted to look elsewhere. However, I made a huge mistake. I already signed the lease. And because I already signed it, I'm legally bound to its terms and they've informed me that I must still pay the rent price either until the 12 month term ends or until they can find another renter to take that unit instead. It doesn't matter that I haven't moved in yet, I'd still need to pay. I'm very new to all this, so of course it came as a huge shock to me. I felt very stupid and started asking advice from different people. But as I did, I just got even more stressed.\n\nMy S.O. thinks I should just bite the bullet and move in, hoping that the roach issue isn't as bad as the reviews say. They think it'd be a huge waste of both money and time to pay rent each month for a place I'm not even living in. And it's not like I can consider other apartments to live while it's going on, so I'd have to wait even longer to move out, be on my own and have my independence.\n\nMy mom on the other hand actually wants to challenge this. She also thinks it's ridiculous to pay them monthly for an apartment I'm not living in, but she also doesn't think I should live in a roach infested apartment either. So she actually looked into contacting an attorney and I got some brief advice from him. He agrees that I messed up by signing the lease, but suggested I could write a formally written letter addressing my concerns and leave it at that. I honestly didn't understand 100% what he was getting at, but it sounded like \"write a letter refusing to pay because of various concerns\". He said there's a possibility I MIGHT get sued, but most apartments don't want to go through that much trouble and I'd have some ammunition to fight if they did.\n\nMy dad felt somewhat similarly where he also thinks I should write a letter and if they don't work with me, I should be the one to sue them and challenge their competency.\n\nBut to be honest, all of this just makes me sweat from anxiety. I REALLY don't wanna go to court and I REALLY don't wanna live in a roach infested apartment. TBH, I was personally leaning towards paying them the rent and just hoping to God that it doesn't take long for them to find a renter to replace me. When I initially looked at the apartments, they had 2 units available and of course I chose one. I recently checked to see if the leftover one was still vacant, but no, someone had already taken it. This was within the span of about 1.5 months. So that tells me it may not take that long for units to get claimed.\n\nDespite that, that idea seems to be the furthest from the minds of those I ask. The bottom line I'm getting from them is, paying monthly for an apartment I'm not staying in makes no sense. And if I went that route, I feel like they'd all be disappointed in me. But to me it feels like every option heavily relies on Hope and either way I'm taking a huge risk.\n\nIf I decide to cancel and pay, I HOPE it won't be too long before someone takes my place.\n\nIf I decide to move in, I HOPE that those many reviews were exaggerating and there's no roach problem.\n\nIf I decide to challenge this, I HOPE I don't get taken to court.\n\nRight now, I don't know what to do. Should I trust my gut or listen to the people trying to help me?",
"Bound to a lease for a roach infested apartment. Getting conflicting advice from loved ones... I'm really in a predicament right now, one that just stresses me out the more I seek out advice on what to do. But here I am, seeking more advice. Basically, I was looking into getting my first apartment unit. I found a place that seemed promising with the included utilities, price, and parking. However I decided on that apartment much too quickly, because later, I looked up reviews that suggested it was infested with cockroaches. Almost every review on the place mentions the roach problem and they span from 2012 to just 8 months ago. They have pest control twice a month, but it's clearly not working if it's still a problem. The reviews even said pest control does nothing. Hell, even the POSITIVE reviews mention that there are roaches. So this has been an ongoing issue for years.\n\nAfter learning this, I changed my mind about the place and wanted to look elsewhere. However, I made a huge mistake. I already signed the lease. And because I already signed it, I'm legally bound to its terms and they've informed me that I must still pay the rent price either until the 12 month term ends or until they can find another renter to take that unit instead. It doesn't matter that I haven't moved in yet, I'd still need to pay. I'm very new to all this, so of course it came as a huge shock to me. I felt very stupid and started asking advice from different people. But as I did, I just got even more stressed.\n\nMy S.O. thinks I should just bite the bullet and move in, hoping that the roach issue isn't as bad as the reviews say. They think it'd be a huge waste of both money and time to pay rent each month for a place I'm not even living in. And it's not like I can consider other apartments to live while it's going on, so I'd have to wait even longer to move out, be on my own and have my independence.\n\nMy mom on the other hand actually wants to challenge this. She also thinks it's ridiculous to pay them monthly for an apartment I'm not living in, but she also doesn't think I should live in a roach infested apartment either. So she actually looked into contacting an attorney and I got some brief advice from him. He agrees that I messed up by signing the lease, but suggested I could write a formally written letter addressing my concerns and leave it at that. I honestly didn't understand 100% what he was getting at, but it sounded like \"write a letter refusing to pay because of various concerns\". He said there's a possibility I MIGHT get sued, but most apartments don't want to go through that much trouble and I'd have some ammunition to fight if they did.\n\nMy dad felt somewhat similarly where he also thinks I should write a letter and if they don't work with me, I should be the one to sue them and challenge their competency.\n\nBut to be honest, all of this just makes me sweat from anxiety. I REALLY don't wanna go to court and I REALLY don't wanna live in a roach infested apartment. TBH, I was personally leaning towards paying them the rent and just hoping to God that it doesn't take long for them to find a renter to replace me. When I initially looked at the apartments, they had 2 units available and of course I chose one. I recently checked to see if the leftover one was still vacant, but no, someone had already taken it. This was within the span of about 1.5 months. So that tells me it may not take that long for units to get claimed.\n\nDespite that, that idea seems to be the furthest from the minds of those I ask. The bottom line I'm getting from them is, paying monthly for an apartment I'm not staying in makes no sense. And if I went that route, I feel like they'd all be disappointed in me. But to me it feels like every option heavily relies on Hope and either way I'm taking a huge risk.\n\nIf I decide to cancel and pay, I HOPE it won't be too long before someone takes my place.\n\nIf I decide to move in, I HOPE that those many reviews were exaggerating and there's no roach problem.\n\nIf I decide to challenge this, I HOPE I don't get taken to court.\n\nRight now, I don't know what to do. Should I trust my gut or listen to the people trying to help me?",
"Bound to a lease for a roach infested apartment. Getting conflicting advice from loved ones... I'm really in a predicament right now, one that just stresses me out the more I seek out advice on what to do. But here I am, seeking more advice. Basically, I was looking into getting my first apartment unit. I found a place that seemed promising with the included utilities, price, and parking. However I decided on that apartment much too quickly, because later, I looked up reviews that suggested it was infested with cockroaches. Almost every review on the place mentions the roach problem and they span from 2012 to just 8 months ago. They have pest control twice a month, but it's clearly not working if it's still a problem. The reviews even said pest control does nothing. Hell, even the POSITIVE reviews mention that there are roaches. So this has been an ongoing issue for years.\n\nAfter learning this, I changed my mind about the place and wanted to look elsewhere. However, I made a huge mistake. I already signed the lease. And because I already signed it, I'm legally bound to its terms and they've informed me that I must still pay the rent price either until the 12 month term ends or until they can find another renter to take that unit instead. It doesn't matter that I haven't moved in yet, I'd still need to pay. I'm very new to all this, so of course it came as a huge shock to me. I felt very stupid and started asking advice from different people. But as I did, I just got even more stressed.\n\nMy S.O. thinks I should just bite the bullet and move in, hoping that the roach issue isn't as bad as the reviews say. They think it'd be a huge waste of both money and time to pay rent each month for a place I'm not even living in. And it's not like I can consider other apartments to live while it's going on, so I'd have to wait even longer to move out, be on my own and have my independence.\n\nMy mom on the other hand actually wants to challenge this. She also thinks it's ridiculous to pay them monthly for an apartment I'm not living in, but she also doesn't think I should live in a roach infested apartment either. So she actually looked into contacting an attorney and I got some brief advice from him. He agrees that I messed up by signing the lease, but suggested I could write a formally written letter addressing my concerns and leave it at that. I honestly didn't understand 100% what he was getting at, but it sounded like \"write a letter refusing to pay because of various concerns\". He said there's a possibility I MIGHT get sued, but most apartments don't want to go through that much trouble and I'd have some ammunition to fight if they did.\n\nMy dad felt somewhat similarly where he also thinks I should write a letter and if they don't work with me, I should be the one to sue them and challenge their competency.\n\nBut to be honest, all of this just makes me sweat from anxiety. I REALLY don't wanna go to court and I REALLY don't wanna live in a roach infested apartment. TBH, I was personally leaning towards paying them the rent and just hoping to God that it doesn't take long for them to find a renter to replace me. When I initially looked at the apartments, they had 2 units available and of course I chose one. I recently checked to see if the leftover one was still vacant, but no, someone had already taken it. This was within the span of about 1.5 months. So that tells me it may not take that long for units to get claimed.\n\nDespite that, that idea seems to be the furthest from the minds of those I ask. The bottom line I'm getting from them is, paying monthly for an apartment I'm not staying in makes no sense. And if I went that route, I feel like they'd all be disappointed in me. But to me it feels like every option heavily relies on Hope and either way I'm taking a huge risk.\n\nIf I decide to cancel and pay, I HOPE it won't be too long before someone takes my place.\n\nIf I decide to move in, I HOPE that those many reviews were exaggerating and there's no roach problem.\n\nIf I decide to challenge this, I HOPE I don't get taken to court.\n\nRight now, I don't know what to do. Should I trust my gut or listen to the people trying to help me?",
"Bound to a lease for a roach infested apartment. Getting conflicting advice from loved ones... I'm really in a predicament right now, one that just stresses me out the more I seek out advice on what to do. But here I am, seeking more advice. Basically, I was looking into getting my first apartment unit. I found a place that seemed promising with the included utilities, price, and parking. However I decided on that apartment much too quickly, because later, I looked up reviews that suggested it was infested with cockroaches. Almost every review on the place mentions the roach problem and they span from 2012 to just 8 months ago. They have pest control twice a month, but it's clearly not working if it's still a problem. The reviews even said pest control does nothing. Hell, even the POSITIVE reviews mention that there are roaches. So this has been an ongoing issue for years.\n\nAfter learning this, I changed my mind about the place and wanted to look elsewhere. However, I made a huge mistake. I already signed the lease. And because I already signed it, I'm legally bound to its terms and they've informed me that I must still pay the rent price either until the 12 month term ends or until they can find another renter to take that unit instead. It doesn't matter that I haven't moved in yet, I'd still need to pay. I'm very new to all this, so of course it came as a huge shock to me. I felt very stupid and started asking advice from different people. But as I did, I just got even more stressed.\n\nMy S.O. thinks I should just bite the bullet and move in, hoping that the roach issue isn't as bad as the reviews say. They think it'd be a huge waste of both money and time to pay rent each month for a place I'm not even living in. And it's not like I can consider other apartments to live while it's going on, so I'd have to wait even longer to move out, be on my own and have my independence.\n\nMy mom on the other hand actually wants to challenge this. She also thinks it's ridiculous to pay them monthly for an apartment I'm not living in, but she also doesn't think I should live in a roach infested apartment either. So she actually looked into contacting an attorney and I got some brief advice from him. He agrees that I messed up by signing the lease, but suggested I could write a formally written letter addressing my concerns and leave it at that. I honestly didn't understand 100% what he was getting at, but it sounded like \"write a letter refusing to pay because of various concerns\". He said there's a possibility I MIGHT get sued, but most apartments don't want to go through that much trouble and I'd have some ammunition to fight if they did.\n\nMy dad felt somewhat similarly where he also thinks I should write a letter and if they don't work with me, I should be the one to sue them and challenge their competency.\n\nBut to be honest, all of this just makes me sweat from anxiety. I REALLY don't wanna go to court and I REALLY don't wanna live in a roach infested apartment. TBH, I was personally leaning towards paying them the rent and just hoping to God that it doesn't take long for them to find a renter to replace me. When I initially looked at the apartments, they had 2 units available and of course I chose one. I recently checked to see if the leftover one was still vacant, but no, someone had already taken it. This was within the span of about 1.5 months. So that tells me it may not take that long for units to get claimed.\n\nDespite that, that idea seems to be the furthest from the minds of those I ask. The bottom line I'm getting from them is, paying monthly for an apartment I'm not staying in makes no sense. And if I went that route, I feel like they'd all be disappointed in me. But to me it feels like every option heavily relies on Hope and either way I'm taking a huge risk.\n\nIf I decide to cancel and pay, I HOPE it won't be too long before someone takes my place.\n\nIf I decide to move in, I HOPE that those many reviews were exaggerating and there's no roach problem.\n\nIf I decide to challenge this, I HOPE I don't get taken to court.\n\nRight now, I don't know what to do. Should I trust my gut or listen to the people trying to help me?",
"Bound to a lease for a roach infested apartment. Getting conflicting advice from loved ones... I'm really in a predicament right now, one that just stresses me out the more I seek out advice on what to do. But here I am, seeking more advice. Basically, I was looking into getting my first apartment unit. I found a place that seemed promising with the included utilities, price, and parking. However I decided on that apartment much too quickly, because later, I looked up reviews that suggested it was infested with cockroaches. Almost every review on the place mentions the roach problem and they span from 2012 to just 8 months ago. They have pest control twice a month, but it's clearly not working if it's still a problem. The reviews even said pest control does nothing. Hell, even the POSITIVE reviews mention that there are roaches. So this has been an ongoing issue for years.\n\nAfter learning this, I changed my mind about the place and wanted to look elsewhere. However, I made a huge mistake. I already signed the lease. And because I already signed it, I'm legally bound to its terms and they've informed me that I must still pay the rent price either until the 12 month term ends or until they can find another renter to take that unit instead. It doesn't matter that I haven't moved in yet, I'd still need to pay. I'm very new to all this, so of course it came as a huge shock to me. I felt very stupid and started asking advice from different people. But as I did, I just got even more stressed.\n\nMy S.O. thinks I should just bite the bullet and move in, hoping that the roach issue isn't as bad as the reviews say. They think it'd be a huge waste of both money and time to pay rent each month for a place I'm not even living in. And it's not like I can consider other apartments to live while it's going on, so I'd have to wait even longer to move out, be on my own and have my independence.\n\nMy mom on the other hand actually wants to challenge this. She also thinks it's ridiculous to pay them monthly for an apartment I'm not living in, but she also doesn't think I should live in a roach infested apartment either. So she actually looked into contacting an attorney and I got some brief advice from him. He agrees that I messed up by signing the lease, but suggested I could write a formally written letter addressing my concerns and leave it at that. I honestly didn't understand 100% what he was getting at, but it sounded like \"write a letter refusing to pay because of various concerns\". He said there's a possibility I MIGHT get sued, but most apartments don't want to go through that much trouble and I'd have some ammunition to fight if they did.\n\nMy dad felt somewhat similarly where he also thinks I should write a letter and if they don't work with me, I should be the one to sue them and challenge their competency.\n\nBut to be honest, all of this just makes me sweat from anxiety. I REALLY don't wanna go to court and I REALLY don't wanna live in a roach infested apartment. TBH, I was personally leaning towards paying them the rent and just hoping to God that it doesn't take long for them to find a renter to replace me. When I initially looked at the apartments, they had 2 units available and of course I chose one. I recently checked to see if the leftover one was still vacant, but no, someone had already taken it. This was within the span of about 1.5 months. So that tells me it may not take that long for units to get claimed.\n\nDespite that, that idea seems to be the furthest from the minds of those I ask. The bottom line I'm getting from them is, paying monthly for an apartment I'm not staying in makes no sense. And if I went that route, I feel like they'd all be disappointed in me. But to me it feels like every option heavily relies on Hope and either way I'm taking a huge risk.\n\nIf I decide to cancel and pay, I HOPE it won't be too long before someone takes my place.\n\nIf I decide to move in, I HOPE that those many reviews were exaggerating and there's no roach problem.\n\nIf I decide to challenge this, I HOPE I don't get taken to court.\n\nRight now, I don't know what to do. Should I trust my gut or listen to the people trying to help me?",
"Bound to a lease for a roach infested apartment. Getting conflicting advice from loved ones... I'm really in a predicament right now, one that just stresses me out the more I seek out advice on what to do. But here I am, seeking more advice. Basically, I was looking into getting my first apartment unit. I found a place that seemed promising with the included utilities, price, and parking. However I decided on that apartment much too quickly, because later, I looked up reviews that suggested it was infested with cockroaches. Almost every review on the place mentions the roach problem and they span from 2012 to just 8 months ago. They have pest control twice a month, but it's clearly not working if it's still a problem. The reviews even said pest control does nothing. Hell, even the POSITIVE reviews mention that there are roaches. So this has been an ongoing issue for years.\n\nAfter learning this, I changed my mind about the place and wanted to look elsewhere. However, I made a huge mistake. I already signed the lease. And because I already signed it, I'm legally bound to its terms and they've informed me that I must still pay the rent price either until the 12 month term ends or until they can find another renter to take that unit instead. It doesn't matter that I haven't moved in yet, I'd still need to pay. I'm very new to all this, so of course it came as a huge shock to me. I felt very stupid and started asking advice from different people. But as I did, I just got even more stressed.\n\nMy S.O. thinks I should just bite the bullet and move in, hoping that the roach issue isn't as bad as the reviews say. They think it'd be a huge waste of both money and time to pay rent each month for a place I'm not even living in. And it's not like I can consider other apartments to live while it's going on, so I'd have to wait even longer to move out, be on my own and have my independence.\n\nMy mom on the other hand actually wants to challenge this. She also thinks it's ridiculous to pay them monthly for an apartment I'm not living in, but she also doesn't think I should live in a roach infested apartment either. So she actually looked into contacting an attorney and I got some brief advice from him. He agrees that I messed up by signing the lease, but suggested I could write a formally written letter addressing my concerns and leave it at that. I honestly didn't understand 100% what he was getting at, but it sounded like \"write a letter refusing to pay because of various concerns\". He said there's a possibility I MIGHT get sued, but most apartments don't want to go through that much trouble and I'd have some ammunition to fight if they did.\n\nMy dad felt somewhat similarly where he also thinks I should write a letter and if they don't work with me, I should be the one to sue them and challenge their competency.\n\nBut to be honest, all of this just makes me sweat from anxiety. I REALLY don't wanna go to court and I REALLY don't wanna live in a roach infested apartment. TBH, I was personally leaning towards paying them the rent and just hoping to God that it doesn't take long for them to find a renter to replace me. When I initially looked at the apartments, they had 2 units available and of course I chose one. I recently checked to see if the leftover one was still vacant, but no, someone had already taken it. This was within the span of about 1.5 months. So that tells me it may not take that long for units to get claimed.\n\nDespite that, that idea seems to be the furthest from the minds of those I ask. The bottom line I'm getting from them is, paying monthly for an apartment I'm not staying in makes no sense. And if I went that route, I feel like they'd all be disappointed in me. But to me it feels like every option heavily relies on Hope and either way I'm taking a huge risk.\n\nIf I decide to cancel and pay, I HOPE it won't be too long before someone takes my place.\n\nIf I decide to move in, I HOPE that those many reviews were exaggerating and there's no roach problem.\n\nIf I decide to challenge this, I HOPE I don't get taken to court.\n\nRight now, I don't know what to do. Should I trust my gut or listen to the people trying to help me?"
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"Once you get roaches in your stuff, especially electronics, it’s really hard to get rid of them. I was in a similar situation once. I had to trash most of my stuff when I left the apartment. Even if you had to pay a few months until they find a renter that is what I would do. Good luck",
"Whatever anxiety you feel about court will be a million times worse when you see roaches skittering around your place and living in all your things that you then have to throw out. When nobody wants to visit you or have you visit them anymore because they don't want to potentialltly bring one home or have you bring one to them. \n\nFuck that landlord. I'd write them a letter stating that their failure to disclose an ongoing pest issue to you before you signed the lease means you signed under false pretenses and you politely ask to be released from it or you will be forced to pursue legal actions against them.\n\nIf they think you'll go to court they might back down and realize letting you out of the lease is less trouble than court. If they don't, get your ass a lawyer. You do NOT want to be living with roaches.",
"Id check state laws.\n\nAlot of states they cant legally rent out an infested unit and have to solve the problem before moving in.",
"Ask the attorney if you can withhold payment our place it in escrow until they resolve the issue. \n\nThen tell the landlord you will be paying rent to an escrow account until there are no more reports of roaches and cc your state attorney general. They will let you cancel the lease.",
"Take some agency in your life, stop whining. If you don’t wanna go to court or even argue, stay there with the roaches. \n\nI’m not a lawyer. Landlords are required to provide habitable premises. Take photos and get an exterminator’s written estimate on solving the problem. Send the landlord a certified letter describing the problem and giving them 7 days to correct it or you’re moving out. Send the same text by email on the same day. Then move. Take time and date-stamped photos of your clean but empty apartment. If they sue you, go to court pro se and show your evidence. The landlord has responsibility to mitigate damages so s/he’ll have to show reasonable efforts to re-rent. You might have to pay 1-2 months rent but probably not the whole amount.",
"This absolutely varies by the state. Roaches are a health concern. If you are putting your health at risk because of their incompetence then I would not move in. Have you paid them anything yet? Unfortunately, any money you have paid will probably be lost. Most cities have \"renters' courts. I suggest you pay $35 and file an action against the owners. Meanwhile, dont stay there----not even a day or you will have given the appearance you accepted the property in the condition it was in. Go find another place. Trust me, they arent going to sue you, and if they did they would lose their case. Do your research on this, and damnit, quick being so quick to sign a binding contract. You kids need to learn a bit abouy how life runs.",
"If you are forced to pay and decide to live there, or they prove the apartment is up to code, invest in a large container of boric acid powder. Sprinkle it around the entire perimeter of your apartment. Make it so that any bug will have to enter through the powder. Sweep up and refresh every week. This will keep the roaches out of your stuff even if there is an infestation elsewhere. The one or two you see will be dying, with curled up wings. Any that escape will drag themselves back to the nest with poison. The boric acid is a danger to pets, as it is right out in the open. It will deactivate as it sits out. \n\nThe sprays and the foggers are just a waste of time. I learned this when I lived in an older efficiency apartment building in the city. No exterminator will tell you this."
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"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n",
"what to do when someone sends you expensive third-party food products for Christmas every year, and they're terrible? We have a friend who lives far away and spends a lot of money to have a well-known company ship us a big cooler of \"premium\" food items every year. The food is hugely overpriced for what it is, and at times inedible (like the asparagus souffle this year, which was made exclusively of the toughest part of the stalks). I've been thanking the giver for their thoughtfulness when the cooler arrives, saying the food \"looks delicious\" (which it does on the website). But without honest feedback, they just keep sending more the next year. I do appreciate their thoughfulness and generosity, and I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I hate that they're wasting so much money on this garbage. Any suggestions?\n"
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"Your options: Keep lying then donate, try to eat it, or throw it away. Be honest and tell them it's not good. Be somewhat honest and say it's gone downhill in quality the last 2 years. You appreciate the gift and thoughtfulness but you want to be honest with them. \n\nIf it was me I would be somewhat honest because I would feel bad that they wasted so much money on over priced sub par food.",
"You could suggest they donate the same amount to a food bank to share their thoughtfulness with the community. You could say you feel so blessed that you want to share that blessing with others.",
"I would tell them that the quality has really declined and that you feel they are being overcharged… etc something in that direction? Not saying is horrible",
"Given this person is far away you could tell a white lie that you are going to follow a new diet and unfortunately this company’s items won’t meet your needs. \n\nDepending on where you live you could also prepare it, snap a pic for your friend and then pack it up in to-go boxes and hand it out to folks in need.",
"Why is everyone suggesting to lie all the time?\nJust tell the truth; that you loved that they put the thought and the effort, and this is not worth their money.\n\nThankful and honest; what else can a friend ask?",
"Hillshire farms and Omaha steaks have become trash. Hillshire's the worst, their shit is fucking inedible.",
"Hey, Shelly! Thank you for always sending us a gift every year! I think you might want to reconsider using this company, they don't live up to their expectation and the food isn't actually good. They're probably counting on people not giving critical feedback because it's a gift company, and nobody wants to criticize a gift. \n\n\nI love that you think about me every year. Would you consider doing such and such instead?",
"Tell them that while you appreciate the thoughtfulness. The quality of the food is not what they paid for. They would appreciate knowing they spending $ on crap",
"Express dismay that the food wasn't up to the usual quality and you just wanted to let him know. Maybe he should look at vendor. \"I've heard (Google and get some company with good reviews) is great.\"",
"Bring it into your office and set it out for people to take. It will be gone by the end of the day, and someone will profusely and genuinely thank you for the excellent treats.",
"Tell them you just started having food allergies and can’t eat food like this anymore. A grocery store gift card or a personal gift is better",
"Take it and be grateful as you have been, then donate to the nearest foodbank. Trust me there are folks that wouldn't find the food inedible.",
"We get \"gift baskets\" in our office every holiday season. This year one of the baskets had asparagus in a pouch. In really want to know who at gift basket company looked for products to put in said baskets and said YES! pre cooked asparagus in a pouch! That's what will make this basket perfect! We can put them right next to the chocolate truffles!",
"Best I have is suggesting you want to try something different and select some other food delivery service.",
"Suggest him to read this post so he can understand that is not easy to let him know, cause you dont want to hurt their feelings but you appreciate the gesture every year, maybe ask the giver if they’ve ever tried this food themselves and what’s their honest opinions about the taste and maybe you could exchange opinions and you’ll both find out how you really feel about the food.",
"1.) You could always regift it or just give it away/donate it so it doesn’t go to waste. 2.) Toss it in the trash and say thank you. 3.) Try and eat it and then toss it in the trash. 4.) Tell thank you so much for their generosity and tell them that company has gone slightly downhill recently. This is your opportunity to insert a recommendation. “I’ve heard ____ company is really good!” This could kinda give them a hint of where to order from next. It sounds like they enjoy giving food baskets so they would probably welcome the recommendation."
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"When I had to memorize Shakespeare in high school, I read it word by word. \n\nTwo. Two households. Two households, both. Two households, both alike. Two households, both alike in. Two households, both alike in dignity. etc.\n\nIt took a long time, but I had it down even to this day.",
"I usually do it line by line. Once I have the first line, I do the first two, then the first three, and so on. It may not be too quick for you but it's pretty quick for me. It almost always helps to say it out loud.",
"Assuming you don't have to go word for word, just make an outline. It's a lot easier to remember the general ideas you have to talk about rather than the exact words. Also, if you mess up, you don't freeze up trying to remember where you are. "
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"How to put yourself first in life? I have some serious issues with putting myself first. I have a tendency to care so much about other people's feelings that I let my own feelings get hurt at the expense of being careful not to hurt others. \n\nI know this is a bad habit, but how do I straddle having a conscience and getting what I want out of life ",
"How to put yourself first in life? I have some serious issues with putting myself first. I have a tendency to care so much about other people's feelings that I let my own feelings get hurt at the expense of being careful not to hurt others. \n\nI know this is a bad habit, but how do I straddle having a conscience and getting what I want out of life ",
"How to put yourself first in life? I have some serious issues with putting myself first. I have a tendency to care so much about other people's feelings that I let my own feelings get hurt at the expense of being careful not to hurt others. \n\nI know this is a bad habit, but how do I straddle having a conscience and getting what I want out of life "
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"I know its hard have been there too. Always putting people above yourself and never thinking about how it would affect you. \n\nI have couple of philosophies i like to hold on to\n\n1. \nEverybody in this earth is just winging it. Doesn't matter how cool theyre, if theyre religions or not. Nobody as a real clue what were doin here. So nobody can really judge your life, how close these persons are.\n\n2.\n\nStart enjoying the small things in life, like little victories. It will make it easier to start noticing the small things in yourself.\n\n3.\nChange will happen but not fast. So be patienced. You cant be a different person in a wink of an eye. It'll take sometime. But you will be thankful\n\n4.\nYour mind works how you programmed it too, so all the \"flaws\" you think you have right now. You can change them with effort. Its a thinking pattern you have to get out off.\n\nI have to go back to work but AMA yo!",
"are you sure it isnt because you dont want to face your own life or problems and that is why you act like you need to help them?? i dont mean to sound rude, but my brother is a lot like this....",
"I've found it helpful to follow sites where there are a lot of quotes about putting yourself first. Surrounding myself with the mindset that it's OK to put myself first has helped me to put it into practice."
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"How to forgive yourself after messing up Today I had an audition for my high school orchestra. I wanted to get into the top level orchestra, and boy was I going to get there! I had an audition piece I had been practicing for a while now and I could play it well enough to get into the highest level! \n\nSo there I am, in the audition room, in front of the new teacher for our school. I got done playing my major and minor scales, and I am ready to do well! I start playing and....\n\nI mess up. Several times. I get increasingly more nervous after each one. I eventually finish the piece in apprehension and wait for his response. He says he has to wait and hear the rest of the people before he makes the final call, but he's not putting me in the top level. I find out later that I didn't make the cut. This is what I have been practicing to do for just over a month, and when I need to play well, I get so nervous and I fuck up. This is really important to me, and I ROYALLY screwed up. \n\nMove on to hours later, and my dad asks me how my audition went. I subsequently break down into tears. All of my emotions just poured out. I know that I could've done so much better than what I did, I was playing it fine just the night before. But I just got too fucking nervous and I messed up. \n\nThis reaction is symptomatic of a severe problem I have. It is very difficult for me to let go of even the simplest of mistakes that I make. Any mistake, regardless of whether or not it was in my control. I want advice on how to forgive yourself after making a mistake. Please and thank you!",
"How to forgive yourself after messing up Today I had an audition for my high school orchestra. I wanted to get into the top level orchestra, and boy was I going to get there! I had an audition piece I had been practicing for a while now and I could play it well enough to get into the highest level! \n\nSo there I am, in the audition room, in front of the new teacher for our school. I got done playing my major and minor scales, and I am ready to do well! I start playing and....\n\nI mess up. Several times. I get increasingly more nervous after each one. I eventually finish the piece in apprehension and wait for his response. He says he has to wait and hear the rest of the people before he makes the final call, but he's not putting me in the top level. I find out later that I didn't make the cut. This is what I have been practicing to do for just over a month, and when I need to play well, I get so nervous and I fuck up. This is really important to me, and I ROYALLY screwed up. \n\nMove on to hours later, and my dad asks me how my audition went. I subsequently break down into tears. All of my emotions just poured out. I know that I could've done so much better than what I did, I was playing it fine just the night before. But I just got too fucking nervous and I messed up. \n\nThis reaction is symptomatic of a severe problem I have. It is very difficult for me to let go of even the simplest of mistakes that I make. Any mistake, regardless of whether or not it was in my control. I want advice on how to forgive yourself after making a mistake. Please and thank you!",
"How to forgive yourself after messing up Today I had an audition for my high school orchestra. I wanted to get into the top level orchestra, and boy was I going to get there! I had an audition piece I had been practicing for a while now and I could play it well enough to get into the highest level! \n\nSo there I am, in the audition room, in front of the new teacher for our school. I got done playing my major and minor scales, and I am ready to do well! I start playing and....\n\nI mess up. Several times. I get increasingly more nervous after each one. I eventually finish the piece in apprehension and wait for his response. He says he has to wait and hear the rest of the people before he makes the final call, but he's not putting me in the top level. I find out later that I didn't make the cut. This is what I have been practicing to do for just over a month, and when I need to play well, I get so nervous and I fuck up. This is really important to me, and I ROYALLY screwed up. \n\nMove on to hours later, and my dad asks me how my audition went. I subsequently break down into tears. All of my emotions just poured out. I know that I could've done so much better than what I did, I was playing it fine just the night before. But I just got too fucking nervous and I messed up. \n\nThis reaction is symptomatic of a severe problem I have. It is very difficult for me to let go of even the simplest of mistakes that I make. Any mistake, regardless of whether or not it was in my control. I want advice on how to forgive yourself after making a mistake. Please and thank you!",
"How to forgive yourself after messing up Today I had an audition for my high school orchestra. I wanted to get into the top level orchestra, and boy was I going to get there! I had an audition piece I had been practicing for a while now and I could play it well enough to get into the highest level! \n\nSo there I am, in the audition room, in front of the new teacher for our school. I got done playing my major and minor scales, and I am ready to do well! I start playing and....\n\nI mess up. Several times. I get increasingly more nervous after each one. I eventually finish the piece in apprehension and wait for his response. He says he has to wait and hear the rest of the people before he makes the final call, but he's not putting me in the top level. I find out later that I didn't make the cut. This is what I have been practicing to do for just over a month, and when I need to play well, I get so nervous and I fuck up. This is really important to me, and I ROYALLY screwed up. \n\nMove on to hours later, and my dad asks me how my audition went. I subsequently break down into tears. All of my emotions just poured out. I know that I could've done so much better than what I did, I was playing it fine just the night before. But I just got too fucking nervous and I messed up. \n\nThis reaction is symptomatic of a severe problem I have. It is very difficult for me to let go of even the simplest of mistakes that I make. Any mistake, regardless of whether or not it was in my control. I want advice on how to forgive yourself after making a mistake. Please and thank you!"
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"Understand that mistakes are one of the greatest things you can do... you really learn nothing from succeeding the first time out at everything you do, but humbling yourself when you mess up and, after you get over the hurt, thinking about all the ways you can do better, this is how you GET better. \n\n The greatest thing I ever learned to remind myself all the time is, I'm never the best at anything, someone will always come along whom is better. But I can learn something new and grow every day.\n\n As far as this specific instance, part of this learning experience will be learning how to handle your nerves when something important to you is going to occur. But more than that, learn that there is something such as over practicing. You were perfect the night before, yes, when no one was judging you and you had practiced for a month. You would have done better, after a month of practice, to take the night before off and do something totally different. Something that would get your mind off of it so that the next day your muscles would be on auto-pilot, and not trying to recreate what you did in your room.\n\n I also suggest practicing in front of people you don't know, in situations where you might be uncomfortable. Go to a park and practice when you have something important (or just in general). This helps you practice when you're nervous and gives you PRACTICE at being nervous.\n\n All in all, you will mess up way worse then this, but you will also have MANY triumphs. There is something more for you. Go get it. If you really DO love playing, you'll keep doing it no matter what.",
"Start a cool band and all those orchestra kids will be wanting to audition for you :-)\n\nSeriously that does suck to practice for a month and get that outcome. \n\nI have a few ways I deal with disappointment, maybe some will work for you.\n\nMain thing is that I try to take whatever lesson I can and find some distraction quickly. Squash any inner dialog of \"failure\" and don't mope around, basically fake it till you make it. Some people say you shouldn't repress your emotions, but I really don't see why not if the emotions are crappy.\n\nAlso, I try to keep some perspective and give myself some tough love - look around and know I'm super lucky compared to the vast majority of the world and should quit my whining. When something/one really gets under my skin, I play a game with myself \"Well it could be worse, I could have [insert much worse scenario].\" Eg, I made some mistakes in my orchestra audition, but at least I didn't have to worry about IED on the road when I walked to school today.\n\nLast suggestion is to try yoga if you haven't. I used to have a super bad temper and yoga helped me a lot - we can't control what happens to us, but we can control our own reactions.",
"Realize that mistakes are ok. \nThere's gonna be days where you can and will take on the whole world. But there's also gonna be days where you fuck up. That's what r/tifu is for... just kidding. \nI know it sucks to fail at something you poured your whole heart into and it's absolutely ok to be upset about that. Please go ahead and cry as much as you can and want. Because that's not only allright but necessary. Something happened that hurt you, so you need time to process and heal. However here comes the important bit: \nIt's not important that you failed, that you fell. It's important that you get back up and how you get back up. \nIt's ok to be upset and loath yourself a bit. But only as long as you absolutely feel you have to. It was you who made the mistake, but it will also be you who's going to learn from it and who's going to grow so much stronger/better because of it. But only if that is your concious choice. \n \nAnd as a fellow musician: music is hard. At least I know I'll never be satisfied with my skills as they are. But that's the beauty of it. I'll allways be able to improve and find myself anew in my music. No matter where you want to be as a musician, be it in that orchestra, please never lose the love for it. And you keep pushing 'till you're where you want to be! You can do it! Work hard and trust in yoursefl!",
"I agree that mistakes are great when you learn from them. High school is only one point of time in your life and things like not making the cut in orchestra really doesn't matter once you graduate and move on in life. I know....hard when you are still in high school lol Think about something disappointing that happened to you in 4th grade. Bet you're over that now right? The biggest mistake you can make in life is that you stop trying because you were disappointed with an outcome. Regret is sooooo much worst than failure. The effort you put in practicing is in you somewhere and will come out again to help you in something else. "
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"Any tips on how to improve your work ethic? Asking as someone who heavily procrastinates and wants to become more productive in my day to day life. Want to pursue content creation on the internet but have developed a nasty habit of pushing the work off (mostly the ",
"Any tips on how to improve your work ethic? Asking as someone who heavily procrastinates and wants to become more productive in my day to day life. Want to pursue content creation on the internet but have developed a nasty habit of pushing the work off (mostly the ",
"Any tips on how to improve your work ethic? Asking as someone who heavily procrastinates and wants to become more productive in my day to day life. Want to pursue content creation on the internet but have developed a nasty habit of pushing the work off (mostly the ",
"Any tips on how to improve your work ethic? Asking as someone who heavily procrastinates and wants to become more productive in my day to day life. Want to pursue content creation on the internet but have developed a nasty habit of pushing the work off (mostly the ",
"Any tips on how to improve your work ethic? Asking as someone who heavily procrastinates and wants to become more productive in my day to day life. Want to pursue content creation on the internet but have developed a nasty habit of pushing the work off (mostly the "
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"I have two monitors - one usually has work up and the other usually has fun stuff. I do my work in small chunks - a few minutes here, a few there. Or while something is compiling or loading or I'm on hold, I will use that downtime for the fun stuff. Took years to convince my boss that I wasn't wasting time.\n\nThat and micromanaging lists. The gamification of checking off things as you do them satisfies the urge to end the day with all check marks.",
"Move all of the social media apps you have on your phone to a random folder. Your fingers won't automatically get there. You'll notice a big drop in overall use in a week. I basically stopped using Instagram in 2 weeks. \n\n​\n\nThe only trick I had for games was deleting league of legends... Changed my life.",
"Look up the 5 second rule by Mel Robins. It is a stupid thing that allows me to get started with the stuff I need to do when I'd rather be scrolling on Reddit... Maybe it helps you too",
"Content creation requires creativity and openness. Creativity requires fresh mind and fairly large intellect. You need to feel yourself very well and completed and safe to be able to create. So, sleep 8 hours a day or whatever time you need to be fully refreshed. Eat well, healthy diet - healthy mind. If you start to procrastinate - change the current project. Go walk, do some home chores, cook, help your parents, exercise etc. Creativity is opposite to productivity. It is impossible to force yourself to be creative.",
"Break big jobs down into lots of short term goals, ideally ones that can be accomplished in half an hour to an hour at most. I like to put my jobs on a list because I like the satisfaction of crossing them off.\n\nI don't know anything about your job, but as a teacher it can go like this: \"next week's planning\" is a massive job, so split it into subjects, then into days - Monday's maths plan is one job, then resourcing it is another, then move on to Tuesday's maths plan. It gives you regular doses of the satisfaction rush of having finished something. Bonus points if you have a small reward at the end of each job or group of jobs, like getting a coffee or scritching your pet if you have one."
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"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?",
"Best way to deal with door to door sales people or stop them all together The \"No soliciting\" signs don't work. Any pro tips?"
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"Open the door and say \"sorry, I'm not interested\"\n\nYou'll never stop them from knocking completely, but being firm and resolute is the best way for them to realize further attempts will be as fruitless as the first.",
"Tbh we used to get Jehovah's Witnesses quite a bit. One time, I said, nicely, that most of the building is Jewish (which is true) and no one is interested.\n\nThey haven't come back. Crazy it worked.",
"I mean you could, but then you'd be the family on the block with an ISIS flag. On the bright side you can cancel home security. FBI will always be watching your house. (Forget who did this bit)",
"You were lost, and now you are found, my brother ( sister). Let me tell you about the kingdom of our lord Jesus Christ.\n\nTry this with few and see how everyone stops ringing the bell. Also, it is fun to see them squirm and run away.",
"Yell through the door that you will be there in a minute. And then never open the door. \n\n\nThe worst thing for them is getting their time wasted, so waste as much as possible and they will leave you alone in the future.",
"We have a sign on our door that reads, \"Whatever it is, we're not interested.\" It actually works pretty well",
"Replace the NO SOLICITING sign with a big honking NO TRESPASSING sign, taped to the inside of the glass of your storm door. \nIf anyone violates the no trespass, CALL THE POLICE. \nTell them that a sales person or whoever violated a posted no trespass. \nThey won't do it again!\n(If you think I am kidding, I'm not. Our neighborhood is bombarded with sales people. But the only ones I have had to actually call the cops on are the Verizon doofuses. They are RELENTLESS)",
"I'm annoyed, but they're just trying to earn a paycheck. I immediately say no thank you, but not rudely, and close the door. Why waste your or their time? The less time they spend talking to someone definitely not interested, the more time they have to find someone who is. So it's not rude to be direct.\n\nIf they're religious or not my political persuasion, and I'm not busy, I engage them. They'll never convince me. I'm not going to debate them, no point. But the more time they waste on my doorstep, the fewer people they'll bother.",
"Don't answer the door, they'll get the hint and will eventually stop coming. I never answer my door, and I even tell people that might come over, including family, that if they don't tell me they are coming over I won't answer the door.",
"Depending on your jurisdiction, they may be legally considered trespassers because you have the “No solicitors” sign. Add to the sign something to the effect of, “You are on camera. Violators (trespassers) will be prosecuted.” Even of it doesn’t apply in your jurisdiction, and you don’t have cameras, I think a lot of people would buy it.",
"As a former door to door guy that was pretty good at it, and now a homeowner in a development that gets them all the time, I laugh at myself because I simply don’t answer the door, which I hated when people did that when I was working. Most places have an iPad and keep track of sales, not interested, and not home etc. I had a company in my development the other week, and I just never answered the door, but over 3 days they knocked literally 7 times. So I could’ve saved my cats from sprinting to hide under the bed 6 times but I never interacted with anyone. Side note, if you have a video doorbell, they tend to knock instead of press it lol\n\n",
"I just tell them I rent and can't make any decisions. Most of the door to door types I get are offering some kind of service for homeowners, security systems, summary, past control, etc"
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"Laptop Screen Scratches Has anyone found a way of lessening the appearance of light scratches in a laptop screen?\n\nI've tried the toothpaste thing to no avail. ",
"Laptop Screen Scratches Has anyone found a way of lessening the appearance of light scratches in a laptop screen?\n\nI've tried the toothpaste thing to no avail. "
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"Rubbing compound for cars, perhaps? Be sure to buy a soft one, or heat it first to make it softer. I've never tried this myself, but since toothpaste is a thing, rubbing compound is essentially the same; a high viscosity liquid with granules in it.",
"Laptop screens aren't meant to be buffed afaik. You'll probably end up making it much worse before it get any better, then you'll end up needing a replacement screen. "
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"How do you get involved in local politics and elections? People like to write blogs saying things like: \"Vote in your local elections! They handle the issues that influence your day to day life.\" My problem is that they never go on to elaborate how. How do I figure out which offices are being voted on? How about information on the candidates? Maybe I just need a primer on local government in general.",
"How do you get involved in local politics and elections? People like to write blogs saying things like: \"Vote in your local elections! They handle the issues that influence your day to day life.\" My problem is that they never go on to elaborate how. How do I figure out which offices are being voted on? How about information on the candidates? Maybe I just need a primer on local government in general.",
"How do you get involved in local politics and elections? People like to write blogs saying things like: \"Vote in your local elections! They handle the issues that influence your day to day life.\" My problem is that they never go on to elaborate how. How do I figure out which offices are being voted on? How about information on the candidates? Maybe I just need a primer on local government in general.",
"How do you get involved in local politics and elections? People like to write blogs saying things like: \"Vote in your local elections! They handle the issues that influence your day to day life.\" My problem is that they never go on to elaborate how. How do I figure out which offices are being voted on? How about information on the candidates? Maybe I just need a primer on local government in general.",
"How do you get involved in local politics and elections? People like to write blogs saying things like: \"Vote in your local elections! They handle the issues that influence your day to day life.\" My problem is that they never go on to elaborate how. How do I figure out which offices are being voted on? How about information on the candidates? Maybe I just need a primer on local government in general.",
"How do you get involved in local politics and elections? People like to write blogs saying things like: \"Vote in your local elections! They handle the issues that influence your day to day life.\" My problem is that they never go on to elaborate how. How do I figure out which offices are being voted on? How about information on the candidates? Maybe I just need a primer on local government in general."
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"The internet told me this: http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Involved-in-Local-Politics\n\nGood question. I am currently interested in this myself. I finally believe in a candidate and am shocked to meet like-minded people who have not even heard of him. So thank you for reminding me to jump into this game for another shot at meaningful change. \n\nExcuse me while I get off my butt and do a little something for this country and world. \n\nPeace",
"So this answer is US centric, I apologize, but that is my area of expertise.\n\n>How do I figure out which offices are being voted on?\n\n\nYour town/county website will have a list of upcoming elections, this can probably be found in the subsection about the town/county clerk.\n\n>How about information on the candidates?\n\nOnce you're figured out when the elections are, the same site should tell you who is on the ballot. Local newspapers may also have coverage if your area has one. For the actual information, candidates usually have a website or social media page.\n\n\nYou can also get involved with your town/county party. In many areas, it is the county party that is actually active. Once you've voted in a local election, you should start hearing from campaigns and candidates more consistently.",
"Rules for registering to vote vary a lot from state to state, so [this website](http://www.eac.gov/voter_resources/contact_your_state.aspx) should get you to yours state's page, which will tell you what you have to do in order to register.\n\nIn some states, you can register to vote at the polling site on election day, in some you have to register at least a few weeks in advance, in *some* you have to declare yourself a Democrat or Republican **IF** you want to vote in primary elections. But like I said, all states have their own rules.\n\nI live in NYC - having registered to vote, before every big election I get a \"voter guide\" in the mail that describes the major candidates and their positions on the issues they consider to be important.\n\nUnfortunately sometimes there is very little advance publicity on some things like ballot initiatives, so I'll have to read them at the voting site (all voting sites should have a sample ballot that you can look at before actually getting your ballot and voting).\n\nIn any case, its great to go into vote being completely informed on every single thing, but really, what's most important that you show up at all - the more of us that vote the harder it is for politicians to take us for granted.",
"Woooo! Man just read your local paper, or watch your local government cable TV channel. There are no secretes here!",
"If this is US based, I think I can offer a little help. Your town/county chamber of commerce is a great way to meet local business owners as well as political figures in your community. Join one of your town boards, preferably focused on something you take an interest in. In terms of local voting and the like you can usually find that information on your town website or if you visit/call your town hall. Your town may also have a page on the www.patch.com website. Hope that helps.",
"> How do I figure out which offices are being voted on? \n\nYour county clerk's office/website should have this information on hand. \n\n\n>How about information on the candidates? \n\nCandidates should be listed on the website if the ballot is ready. From there you can visit websites, research platforms online, visit local party offices for more information. \n\n> Maybe I just need a primer on local government in general.\n\nYour city's government should have a website that details who all of the important people are, who they represent, etc. State government is the same for states. If you are interested in volunteering with campaigns, I would contact your local party's office of headquarters. They always like warm bodies to canvass/phone bank/etc. This also allows you to get to know the candidates better on a human level. At the local level, candidates are generally around and hitting the pavement. "
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"How do I fall asleep the nights before important events? It's been a recurring occurrence that when I had some big evemt, like a competition or exam coming up, I just couldn't fall asleep the night before. Normally I have no trouble shutting down everything, going to bed and falling asleep in 20 minutes. What could be the cause, or how can I counter this?",
"How do I fall asleep the nights before important events? It's been a recurring occurrence that when I had some big evemt, like a competition or exam coming up, I just couldn't fall asleep the night before. Normally I have no trouble shutting down everything, going to bed and falling asleep in 20 minutes. What could be the cause, or how can I counter this?",
"How do I fall asleep the nights before important events? It's been a recurring occurrence that when I had some big evemt, like a competition or exam coming up, I just couldn't fall asleep the night before. Normally I have no trouble shutting down everything, going to bed and falling asleep in 20 minutes. What could be the cause, or how can I counter this?",
"How do I fall asleep the nights before important events? It's been a recurring occurrence that when I had some big evemt, like a competition or exam coming up, I just couldn't fall asleep the night before. Normally I have no trouble shutting down everything, going to bed and falling asleep in 20 minutes. What could be the cause, or how can I counter this?",
"How do I fall asleep the nights before important events? It's been a recurring occurrence that when I had some big evemt, like a competition or exam coming up, I just couldn't fall asleep the night before. Normally I have no trouble shutting down everything, going to bed and falling asleep in 20 minutes. What could be the cause, or how can I counter this?",
"How do I fall asleep the nights before important events? It's been a recurring occurrence that when I had some big evemt, like a competition or exam coming up, I just couldn't fall asleep the night before. Normally I have no trouble shutting down everything, going to bed and falling asleep in 20 minutes. What could be the cause, or how can I counter this?",
"How do I fall asleep the nights before important events? It's been a recurring occurrence that when I had some big evemt, like a competition or exam coming up, I just couldn't fall asleep the night before. Normally I have no trouble shutting down everything, going to bed and falling asleep in 20 minutes. What could be the cause, or how can I counter this?",
"How do I fall asleep the nights before important events? It's been a recurring occurrence that when I had some big evemt, like a competition or exam coming up, I just couldn't fall asleep the night before. Normally I have no trouble shutting down everything, going to bed and falling asleep in 20 minutes. What could be the cause, or how can I counter this?",
"How do I fall asleep the nights before important events? It's been a recurring occurrence that when I had some big evemt, like a competition or exam coming up, I just couldn't fall asleep the night before. Normally I have no trouble shutting down everything, going to bed and falling asleep in 20 minutes. What could be the cause, or how can I counter this?"
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"Melatonin works wonders, especially if you don’t take it frequently. Be careful though, it is easy to work past the effectiveness if you try to stay awake. \n\nOnce the feeling hits it is best to go to bed then, don’t try for ‘another 30 minutes’ or you may have just passed through the window of its effectiveness.",
"It's because you're anxious and/or excited about the occurrence that'll take place. Try melatonin, magnesium and actively try to relax starting a couple of hours before sleep.",
"Whenever I can't sleep or need to calm down, I count backwards from 1000 in my head (one number with each breath cycle) and try to imagine to write the digits with my hand. The \"imaginary writing\" prevents your focus to slip away too easily and think about anything else. If you still loose focus during counting, just start again and don't try to figure out where you lost track. Just breath, count and write in your head.",
"When I can't fall asleep because many thoughts in my head I just write them down on the paper or phone for tomorrow myself. It helps me to get rid of some intrusive thoughts.",
"I turn off everything in the house and focus and listen to myself breathing. Before I realize it I’m waking up in the \nA.m.",
"I also wanted to find the way, but there was nothing to work. I eventually gave up and I just accepted although I would be more tired, I could get some rest after the event. These days I don't feel much pressure after that. It's not real tips, I hope you feel less pressure about sleeping.",
"Tell yourself\n“I want to go to sleep.”\nit’ll help a lot! it’s a weird psychological thing that works on me",
"So if I'm prepping mentally for a big event my thoughts wil go rampart and my thoughts prevent me going to sleep. Then I will put on some rain and thunder noises. This helps me alot, I set the volume just high enough that I can't hear my own thoughts anymore. And I'm sleeping like a baby in e few minutes.",
"I listen to podcast or a audiobook on YouTube. Just turn the screen over. It helps relax the mind and stop worrying."
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"How to stop an argument between two people on public transport, or anywhere else in public ITT: passive, boring people who dont go out. ill just stand there watching instead of trying to help. cheers reddit",
"How to stop an argument between two people on public transport, or anywhere else in public ITT: passive, boring people who dont go out. ill just stand there watching instead of trying to help. cheers reddit",
"How to stop an argument between two people on public transport, or anywhere else in public ITT: passive, boring people who dont go out. ill just stand there watching instead of trying to help. cheers reddit",
"How to stop an argument between two people on public transport, or anywhere else in public ITT: passive, boring people who dont go out. ill just stand there watching instead of trying to help. cheers reddit",
"How to stop an argument between two people on public transport, or anywhere else in public ITT: passive, boring people who dont go out. ill just stand there watching instead of trying to help. cheers reddit",
"How to stop an argument between two people on public transport, or anywhere else in public ITT: passive, boring people who dont go out. ill just stand there watching instead of trying to help. cheers reddit"
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"You don't. The kind of people who are willing to have a loud argument in public are the kind who are not going to stop cause someone tells them to/could potentially start screaming at you/get violent.\n\nIf they seem like they might be escalating grabbing a police officer isn't out of the question",
"This is very subjective. \n It depends where you are, what time it is. Who the people are who are arguing, how big they are. \nThe approach also depends on who you are , how big you are. (sometimes large males will escalate a situation, where a small female may be able to diffuse it. But there are situations where the opposite could be true).\n\nI don't think there is a single answer to this.",
"Point out the obvious flaws in each of them, with excruciatingly brutal detail. Then they'll both hate you instead of each other and bond over it, problem solved!",
"Ask them nicely to keep it down out of consideration of others. If that isn't effective, tell them to shut their mouths and sit the fuck down. Also make sure you have arrest powers and cuffs handy. \n\nIn other words, stay out of it. Your taxes pay for others to put assholes in check.",
"Really sketchy to be putting your two cents in a heated conversation that you have nothing to do with mate. Best to let it happen unless you're for sure able to interject with something that can ease the tension. ",
"Join the argument and make it between three people; the additional complexity makes it much more interesting to other bystanders.\n\n\"Hey guys, stop making this argument about yourselves. I want in too! Let's have a three-way argument and stop the arguing between the two of you. Come at me bro!\""
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"How to not feel drained after a long commute I recently started a new job and now commute an hour and a half each way in LA traffic. The morning commute is usually fine, but I find that, even if I have plenty of energy at the end of my work day, by the time I get home the long commute has made me exhausted and irritable. I already listen to podcasts and audiobooks to make my commute more bearable, but I'm wondering what I can do to prevent the exhaustion that inevitably comes after staring at traffic for 90 minutes.",
"How to not feel drained after a long commute I recently started a new job and now commute an hour and a half each way in LA traffic. The morning commute is usually fine, but I find that, even if I have plenty of energy at the end of my work day, by the time I get home the long commute has made me exhausted and irritable. I already listen to podcasts and audiobooks to make my commute more bearable, but I'm wondering what I can do to prevent the exhaustion that inevitably comes after staring at traffic for 90 minutes.",
"How to not feel drained after a long commute I recently started a new job and now commute an hour and a half each way in LA traffic. The morning commute is usually fine, but I find that, even if I have plenty of energy at the end of my work day, by the time I get home the long commute has made me exhausted and irritable. I already listen to podcasts and audiobooks to make my commute more bearable, but I'm wondering what I can do to prevent the exhaustion that inevitably comes after staring at traffic for 90 minutes.",
"How to not feel drained after a long commute I recently started a new job and now commute an hour and a half each way in LA traffic. The morning commute is usually fine, but I find that, even if I have plenty of energy at the end of my work day, by the time I get home the long commute has made me exhausted and irritable. I already listen to podcasts and audiobooks to make my commute more bearable, but I'm wondering what I can do to prevent the exhaustion that inevitably comes after staring at traffic for 90 minutes.",
"How to not feel drained after a long commute I recently started a new job and now commute an hour and a half each way in LA traffic. The morning commute is usually fine, but I find that, even if I have plenty of energy at the end of my work day, by the time I get home the long commute has made me exhausted and irritable. I already listen to podcasts and audiobooks to make my commute more bearable, but I'm wondering what I can do to prevent the exhaustion that inevitably comes after staring at traffic for 90 minutes.",
"How to not feel drained after a long commute I recently started a new job and now commute an hour and a half each way in LA traffic. The morning commute is usually fine, but I find that, even if I have plenty of energy at the end of my work day, by the time I get home the long commute has made me exhausted and irritable. I already listen to podcasts and audiobooks to make my commute more bearable, but I'm wondering what I can do to prevent the exhaustion that inevitably comes after staring at traffic for 90 minutes.",
"How to not feel drained after a long commute I recently started a new job and now commute an hour and a half each way in LA traffic. The morning commute is usually fine, but I find that, even if I have plenty of energy at the end of my work day, by the time I get home the long commute has made me exhausted and irritable. I already listen to podcasts and audiobooks to make my commute more bearable, but I'm wondering what I can do to prevent the exhaustion that inevitably comes after staring at traffic for 90 minutes."
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"You desperately need to find some people to carpool with, that's a crazy long drive to make each and every day on your own. ",
"Put on some songs you like and SING along to them. \nSing at the top of your voice. \nI commuted for 2 and a half hours each way (sometimes 3 hrs if traffic sucked) This was an 80 mile journey, and 30 miles of it were guaranteed gridlock. \nI just sang along to my favourite songs, and it felt like I was home in no time. Infact there were a few times I drove an extra lap around my neighborhood just so I could finish off a song :)",
"I have a similar commute, but I'm able to talk on the phone for most of it. I also find that listening to comedy recordings helps. All of Jim Gaffigan's stand-up is on Apple Music/iTunes. Might be worth it to try and listen to something funny to keep yourself energized.",
"You mention podcasts and audiobooks but what about music? I listen to hour long dj sets of repetitive electronic music. I drove 21 hrs straight doing this without ever getting bored.",
"Try a really thrilling and long audiobook. Like Stephen King's *The Stand* or *It*. Since you have 90 minute chunks, you have the time to get into a story that is otherwise hard to hold your attention when reading.",
"The only way I ever found to solve the long commute blahs was to get a job closer to where I lived (or move closer to my job).",
"I am in the same situation right now, thankfully only for another week as my apartment will be available, but I really would like to hear some advice on this as well. Not sure what to suggest as I haven't come up with anything that alleviates this for me either. \n\nI'm lucky that my commute usually doesn't involve traffic as it's a rural route save for the 3 near misses with deer on that road in the past month."
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"Looking for a good way to clean walls without causing paint to fall off. My cat sneezed on my wall when I was away and it's [covered in dry snot now.](http://i.imgur.com/zCwnT03.jpg) I've been trying to clean it off but ended up stripping the paint off from the wall. What can I do to dissolve the snot and clean it properly without chipping the paint?",
"Looking for a good way to clean walls without causing paint to fall off. My cat sneezed on my wall when I was away and it's [covered in dry snot now.](http://i.imgur.com/zCwnT03.jpg) I've been trying to clean it off but ended up stripping the paint off from the wall. What can I do to dissolve the snot and clean it properly without chipping the paint?"
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"Mr. Clean Eraser's actually work fairly well for issues such as these. My cat sneezes on stuff all the time. Between washing the walls with hot water and a tiny bit of bleach or these erasers for interim cleans, I usually never have a problem. In reality, though, if your paint is peeling because you're cleaning your walls, you may have more of a poor quality paint issue on your hands. That shouldn't be happening. Good luck!",
"My go-to for walls is powdered laundry detergent in warm water. Also, try putting a damp paper towel on the cat-boogers for a while to soften them before washing "
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"How to tell the difference between fine china and crappy china I'm talking about dinnerware, not the country.",
"How to tell the difference between fine china and crappy china I'm talking about dinnerware, not the country.",
"How to tell the difference between fine china and crappy china I'm talking about dinnerware, not the country."
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"I think you can just research it and buy from reputable place, or are you talking about bone china vs fine china? I think it's just preference. Difference in color, not value. \n\nI think Lenox/Wedgwood are the leaders in fine china. ",
"What is your goal?\nFor use or resale?\n\nThere are lots of books on porcelain at the library if you want to educate yourself. I also assume there are websites for collectors.\n\n\n\n",
"If you can't tell the difference, why are you worried about it? They both break easily and they both can be eaten off of. And it takes an appraiser to determine how much such things are actually worth. If you are an ignorant, tasteless 1-percenter and worried about what your guests say behind your back, just buy the most expensive stuff you can find. I buy mine at Big Lots and thrift shops."
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"Easier Way to Dig Holes in Hard Packed Dirt? I have to dig 2x2x2 holes in hard packed dirt for my Grandpa. My father tried with a shovel and it took 2.5 hours, I have to dig 9 holes. I also have a Mantis tiller at my disposal. ",
"Easier Way to Dig Holes in Hard Packed Dirt? I have to dig 2x2x2 holes in hard packed dirt for my Grandpa. My father tried with a shovel and it took 2.5 hours, I have to dig 9 holes. I also have a Mantis tiller at my disposal. ",
"Easier Way to Dig Holes in Hard Packed Dirt? I have to dig 2x2x2 holes in hard packed dirt for my Grandpa. My father tried with a shovel and it took 2.5 hours, I have to dig 9 holes. I also have a Mantis tiller at my disposal. "
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"Loosen it with a [graip](http://preview.turbosquid.com/Preview/2014/07/11__07_48_22/gardenForkComp01.jpg4140a1e6-5db0-4831-9a1a-f9402aa10a3cOriginal.jpg) (digging fork) first, then use a spade. \n\nI don't know what things are like where you live, but in my culture a spade is very different to a shovel. To prevent any dialect confusion, a [spade](http://www.bulldogtools.co.uk/gen/thumbs/4wjejpqybrga7er3dgnar3sbta-dqmpqfwrf4rasslaiw4mw7grebnnsbg7-large.jpg) is for digging holes, whereas a [shovel](http://www.samuelkirk.co.uk/ekmps/shops/samuelkirk/images/shovel-concrete-bulldog-12646-p.jpg) is for moving aggregates (soil, gravel, etc.) that are already on the surface, or for digging very loose aggregates such as sand.\n\nStab and lever the ground a few times with a graip to loosen the sod, then use a spade to dig out the sediment. If you come across any roots, hack them up with a mattock. Don't use a saw, you'll fuck up the teeth.\n\nGraip, spade, shovel, and mattock are the four tools you should have when you're doing some serious digging.",
"If you have to do it by hand then use a mattock and shovel alternately. The mattock will break up hard packed dirt easily.",
"Don't be a bitch use a pick break it up and dig. 2 cubed is easy get a little exercise make papa proud "
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"Get Smell off of Jeans So I wear these pair of boot cut jeans almost everyday, but shower as often.\n\nThis results in the crotch of my jeans smelling like dirty...ya know...stuff...even after a couple of times in the washing machine.\n\nHow do I neutralize the odor?\nOr do I have to throw this away and buy another pair?\n\nThank You for your attention.",
"Get Smell off of Jeans So I wear these pair of boot cut jeans almost everyday, but shower as often.\n\nThis results in the crotch of my jeans smelling like dirty...ya know...stuff...even after a couple of times in the washing machine.\n\nHow do I neutralize the odor?\nOr do I have to throw this away and buy another pair?\n\nThank You for your attention.",
"Get Smell off of Jeans So I wear these pair of boot cut jeans almost everyday, but shower as often.\n\nThis results in the crotch of my jeans smelling like dirty...ya know...stuff...even after a couple of times in the washing machine.\n\nHow do I neutralize the odor?\nOr do I have to throw this away and buy another pair?\n\nThank You for your attention.",
"Get Smell off of Jeans So I wear these pair of boot cut jeans almost everyday, but shower as often.\n\nThis results in the crotch of my jeans smelling like dirty...ya know...stuff...even after a couple of times in the washing machine.\n\nHow do I neutralize the odor?\nOr do I have to throw this away and buy another pair?\n\nThank You for your attention.",
"Get Smell off of Jeans So I wear these pair of boot cut jeans almost everyday, but shower as often.\n\nThis results in the crotch of my jeans smelling like dirty...ya know...stuff...even after a couple of times in the washing machine.\n\nHow do I neutralize the odor?\nOr do I have to throw this away and buy another pair?\n\nThank You for your attention.",
"Get Smell off of Jeans So I wear these pair of boot cut jeans almost everyday, but shower as often.\n\nThis results in the crotch of my jeans smelling like dirty...ya know...stuff...even after a couple of times in the washing machine.\n\nHow do I neutralize the odor?\nOr do I have to throw this away and buy another pair?\n\nThank You for your attention."
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"I think that this question would be better suited in r/rawdenim because most of the people who wear raw denim do not wash their pants and have many tricks to neutralize the smells.\n\nIf I want it done relatively quick I hand wash my pants with Dr. Bronners soap and let them hang dry.\nIf I want it done right I leave them in the freezer for 2-3 days.",
"I'd like to suggest purchasing a few of the same style of jeans if you like them that much, that way you can cycle through a few different pairs and still wash them between wears.",
"Some odors (body odors and other smells caused by bacteria) can be neutralized by putting your clothes in the freezer for a few hours.",
"Try using washing soda along with your detergent and wash them in warm water. You can get washing soda by the detergent and fabric softener in the grocery store. Can you hang them outside to dry? The sun might freshen them, too.",
"my boyfriend is a smoker, and he works with dogs, so i was his clothes with laundry detergent and vinegar and it seems to neutralize any odors. ",
"I have encountered this problem before. One thing that i found that almost always works is to soak the jeans in warm water with 1/3 of a cup of baking soda. Let them soak for at least half of an hour, then proceed to wash them in the washing machine with the rest of your clothes. Hope this helps. "
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"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?",
"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?",
"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?",
"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?",
"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?",
"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?",
"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?",
"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?",
"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?",
"How to determine when or when to not hold the door for somebody At my college it is tradition for a person to hold the door for the person behind them. This leads me to some situations where I awkwardly hold the door for a person who is perhaps too far away, and it becomes weird. \n\nIs there a fast way to determine whether or not I should hold the door for someone?"
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"The farther away they are from the door, the more likely I am to hold it open for them. That way they hurry up and maybe burn a couple extra calories. Hopefully everyone eventually drops a couple pounds just from being courteous. ",
"Sorry but nope. There is no rule. You just have to make the call as to what you think is too far away to hold the door. \n\nUnless it's someone who genuinely needs help I don't hold the door unless you are within maybe a second or two.",
"[This explains it pretty well](http://imgur.com/irMfYmQ)\n\nAfter living in Canada for a year, I'm now stuck at the \"Why are you doing this?\" level :(",
"Unless I see someone with an armful of stuff or someone who may need assistance (I will offer to wait and open the door), I usually am prepared to hold the door 2 seconds (about the time the door would take if it closed). This avoids what seems like a \"rude\" situation, where a door would close right on someone's nose. If it's longer, then it's awkward. That's just my approach.",
"Nope, just use your own judgement. You have to take into account their gait, distance, how cold/hot it is, if they look like they would have issues opening the door on their own, etc.\n\nThere is no hard and fast rule. Something that belongs in /r/mildlyinfuriating is when you are right behind someone and they open the door just enough for them to squeeze through. That's a real fuck you if ever there was one.",
"I like to hold the door for people who are so far away they feel like they need to hurry up... If they do a little jog it makes my day!",
"No longer than a couple of seconds. If you see someone just barely in the awkward waiting range, then just push the door wide open and walk in which is still being considerate. ",
"My way is to know how many more steps until the person goes to the door. If it's more than 5, I let the door go.",
"If they're within 3-4 paces I hold, further than that and they're on their own. If they look like they may have difficulties with the door due to handicap or age I wait at the closed door and then open it for them. ",
"How I do it is to estimate if the door will swing fully shut by the time they arrive. If the door has time to close then they're too far, if they would be close enough to grab it before it swings shut then hold it. And lastly, generally you don't need to hold more than one person, two tops."
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"I got promoted to manager at a franchised restaurant, tips? As title says, I got promoted to manager at a franchised restaurant, I don't want to name it.\n\nI'm looking for tips/advice for my new position at my job. Thanks!",
"I got promoted to manager at a franchised restaurant, tips? As title says, I got promoted to manager at a franchised restaurant, I don't want to name it.\n\nI'm looking for tips/advice for my new position at my job. Thanks!",
"I got promoted to manager at a franchised restaurant, tips? As title says, I got promoted to manager at a franchised restaurant, I don't want to name it.\n\nI'm looking for tips/advice for my new position at my job. Thanks!",
"I got promoted to manager at a franchised restaurant, tips? As title says, I got promoted to manager at a franchised restaurant, I don't want to name it.\n\nI'm looking for tips/advice for my new position at my job. Thanks!"
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" I was a manager for two years in a small breakfast/lunch/dinner restaurant, 25 tables. i would be more the willing to offer any advice but advice works best of if you have specific questions.\n\nHowever some general advice i can give is SUPPORT YOUR STAFF, support your floor staff; carry out orders, get water, get drink refills, bus tables, refill coffee pots, talk to the patrons. support your host; take names, seat people. support your line cooks; get them water or drinks, check if the need anything. Communicate with your staff, if you seat some one in waiters sections let them know, same if you take an order or carry out and order LET THEM KNOW and last ask what you can do to help. Let it be know that you are there to support the staff.\n\nIf you have any specific questions, feel free to ask or PM me.\n\nAnd cheers mate. Good Luck",
"I don't know how strict your company is with comps, but they can be your best friend. It is wayyyyy easier to buy a table a round of drinks, or an app than it is to deal with a nasty email to corporate and having to explain why you got such a terrible yelp review. But also as someone Randallwho said. Support your staff. Work with them. Answer the phone if they are busy. Make/run drinks when they are backed up. Constantly check that the kitchen has what they need, and then check yourself. Do not count on anyone to do their job, so be prepared to tell them what they need to do in very specific terms. And when people do screw, weigh it against how much it actually hurt operations, not just how much it pissed you off at that moment, before deciding on a punishment. ",
"I've worked as a manager, (quite successfully I might add) in hospitality for quite a number of years and as was mentioned it's hard to give blanket advice.\n\nYou will probably hear a lot of advice about being nice to your employees but remember they will also look to you to have the strength to lead when needed and sometimes that means making choices that are not always popular.\n\nTry to keep some balance in your dealings with your workers. Favouritism is the worst thing you can do.",
"I've never been in a management position, but I have been a server and the best thing you can do for your staff is to just BE AROUND. The worst managers I had were the ones that could never be found. They would be hiding out in their offices, outside smoking, etc. If you needed a comp or void and you couldn't find a manager, you were shit out of luck. It's bad for business too because all my tables were waiting impatiently while I tried to hunt down someone from management.\n\nDon't micro manage or get in their way, but be available in case they need you."
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"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!",
"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!",
"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!",
"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!",
"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!",
"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!",
"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!",
"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!",
"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!",
"How to form thoughts with more fluidity and clarity. When it comes to a conversation or even trying to think of something in my head, I often struggle with trying to find the right words. I feel sometimes that this is due to a lack of me being able to find the right words. Sometimes I feel choppy and foggy when it comes to speaking or like I'll have difficult getting my point across. Are there any tips to help with this issue? Am I adding unecessary detail? Am I overthinking? Will reading more books help? Is there any professional help I can seek? Thanks in advance!"
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"It'll sound simple but take a second to compose/organize your thoughts into some kind of structure, whether chronologically or by relevance, before speaking. Thinking of synonyms to the keywords may also help, as well as removing any extra words or tangents not directly related to your main point. Hope this helps!",
"I find a good diet and a multivitamin does a world of good for my energy level, memory recall, and the formative parts of my brain that construct what I want to say and do. I also have supplemented choline and take pills of a mushroom called Lion's Mane ( thanks /r/Nootropics ), and I have noticed a huge difference in my mental clarity, vocabulary, sleep, and a higher sense of overall wellness.\n\nI would definitely advise you to have a good multivitamin though!",
"When you see a word you don't know, look it up. Know the meaning and then try to use that word in a few conversations throughout the day. This will add the word/phrase to your vocabulary. When communicating your thoughts in the future, they will be on deck and just come to you. Speech is like a muscle, you have to work it out for it to be come stronger and more polished. The key is to consciously apply words/phrases that serve you well, so when you are in the heat of the moment or put in the spotlight you can draw on these almost like autopilot. \n\n\nAlso, don't be afraid to take a long pause when trying to find the right word. Don't say \"uhhh\" or \"ummm\", just pause and be comfortable with a brief silence. This will help you keep your tempo and stay focused on what you're trying to convey. \n\n\n",
"Know your message and practice. Either by yourself or with others. Get to the point you want to make quickly using simple language. Unlike a joke, the punchline is at the start. The rest is explaining and examples which may not be needed. \n\nIf you are in a one on one conversation and you can't think of a word/term a good way to give yourself time is to ask the person open questions on thier thoughts.",
"How long did it take to write the OP (roughly):\n(1) from originally thinking of posting it to pressing Save\n(2) from starting writing to pressing Save",
"This also happens to me. I have found that through practice I am able to get better at this skill. By having discussions with people where I try to explain points I can get better at explaining to people what is in my head. Though I am now better it still takes me more time to articulate what is in my head/I don't always say things optimally the first time.",
"The best method that I can think of that I've found for me that works pretty well and nearly 100% of the time or at least when I remembered to have tried it in the first place is to try and keep the words in your statement or sentence or thought or whatever it is you are trying to say or convey or deliver to as small of an amount of words as you can do without using overly complicated complex or convoluted or perplexing words so anyone that reads or hears it can understand it easily without you needing to add all those extra words.\n",
"Read literature and philosophy. Seriously, this is what reading does: it syncronizes your mind with another that is more developed, experienced, and thoughtful than your own for a given topic. Your brain literally emulates the thought processes of another. Over time you will start to understand how truly great minds organize their thoughts and express themselves with clarity, succinctness, and logic. ",
"I often struggle with the same problem, but i find it less and less of a tedious task to articulate a conversation now. I simply write about nonsense on my computer until i hit a topic that i can rant on. These topics later work as my conversational topics. Since i already expressed my opinion on my own; i can do it with others. Just a little tip that has helped me greatly. ALSO try to avoid repeating the same word over and over. Become familiar with their synonyms.",
"I find that I write better than I speak. Sometimes it helps to imagine that I'm writing a letter to the same person to make the same point. The first couple sentences of that imaginary letter also tend work well in a conversation."
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"How to take compliments What are some rules of thumb about time, place, reaction, response, or retort in regards to taking compliments?",
"How to take compliments What are some rules of thumb about time, place, reaction, response, or retort in regards to taking compliments?"
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"I know it can be difficult to accept compliments, but if someone compliments you and you deny it, it can both bring down your self-esteem and make the complimenter feel bad. A simple thank you, regardless of if you really believe the compliment or not, is the best way to go! It can really help your self-esteem and will help you start believing their compliments. It is also nice to compliment the person back, on their outfit, hair, or even just a \"you're very kind\"!",
"As other comments have said, I don't think you can go wrong with just a \"thank you.\" I feel that compliments are simply meant to state a fact of that moment that someone else observes or believes. \"Your hair looks nice.\" \"You look good.\" \"Your hair looks like an iguana.\" \n\nIf you don't think the person giving the compliment has some ulterior motive (getting a compliment back/fishing for one), then you could just show the appreciation for their positivity. If you want, that is. "
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"Parking in a parking structure. I'm pretty bad at parking in a lot, I can't imagine how bad it'll be if I ever need to park in a structure. I would like to know of any way(s) possible to make it easier for me. Thanks",
"Parking in a parking structure. I'm pretty bad at parking in a lot, I can't imagine how bad it'll be if I ever need to park in a structure. I would like to know of any way(s) possible to make it easier for me. Thanks",
"Parking in a parking structure. I'm pretty bad at parking in a lot, I can't imagine how bad it'll be if I ever need to park in a structure. I would like to know of any way(s) possible to make it easier for me. Thanks",
"Parking in a parking structure. I'm pretty bad at parking in a lot, I can't imagine how bad it'll be if I ever need to park in a structure. I would like to know of any way(s) possible to make it easier for me. Thanks",
"Parking in a parking structure. I'm pretty bad at parking in a lot, I can't imagine how bad it'll be if I ever need to park in a structure. I would like to know of any way(s) possible to make it easier for me. Thanks",
"Parking in a parking structure. I'm pretty bad at parking in a lot, I can't imagine how bad it'll be if I ever need to park in a structure. I would like to know of any way(s) possible to make it easier for me. Thanks",
"Parking in a parking structure. I'm pretty bad at parking in a lot, I can't imagine how bad it'll be if I ever need to park in a structure. I would like to know of any way(s) possible to make it easier for me. Thanks"
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"So you can't pull in between two lines? \n\nI'm not sure how this problem changes due to altitude. \n\nCan you better describe what ways you can't park in a parking lot?",
"It's worth trying to back into the spot.\n\nIt might sound like a stupid idea at first (like, *how can going backwards be easier than going forwards?*), but when your turning wheels don't go into the spot first, it'll give you much greater room to control and position your car. Being able to see the lines perfectly from your side mirrors is also super helpful, and you only get that if you back in.\n\nAs an added bonus, when you come out later it's much safer since you just drive out with full visibility.",
"Stop your car in front of the spot wayyyy to the right (if the spot's on your left) or to the left (if the spot's on your right) of the spot. Then cut the wheel all the way before you take your foot off the brake. As you pull towards the spot, gradually straighten out the wheel until you're parked neatly in the parking spot",
"Open your door a bit. Look down. Now you can line it up with your frame and ensure that you are at least a few inches away.",
"As a general tip, slow down, as long as you don't cause any collisions they you can safely save \"no harm no foul\".\n\nIf you want to get better at parking go find an empty parking lot to practice in. with your head back against the seat look at where the lines you are parking in appear just above your dash. Now open the door and see where the car is relative to this. Try this again and again until where you imagine the car being as you drive aligns with reality.",
"I hate parking front first but if it helps you....\n\n\nYou should pull up behind the car after the spot you want to pull in, then backup with the wheels turned all the way in the other direction.\n\nYou wil usually end-up lined straight in front of your parking spot.\n\n\n\nEx: To the right, pull up to the car at the left of your parking spot as if you was trying to pull into it's spot. Once close enough, reverse while turning the wheel all the way to the left. Once you're done backing, you will be lined up with your parking spot.\n",
"Get shopping carts, surround a parking space. Practice pulling in (slowly). Drive towards the carts from all angles - forward, off the front right, front left, rear, etc) and pull forward *until you nudge the cart*. Chances are you actually have no idea where the corners of your car are. By using shopping cards and going slowly, you can learn where your car actually hits things. Knowing this and being able to pull within inches of another vehicle means the difference between making it into the space and not making it in. "
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"How to apply for a job you're under-qualified for? I'm looking to apply within my company as a computer Technician. however, the job is requiring at least a 2 year associates degree among other things, but I don't have a degree. \n\nThe other requirements I meet the minimum or overly exceed it, there's not really a medium for most of the reqs. So, how do I apply and be taken seriously without a degree in Computer Science? \n\nI've been taking classes for a while, I just haven't graduated. Are there certain things in my resume I can plug in to make them aware of my knowledge and seriousness of this opportunity? \n\nThanks in advance. \n\n(",
"How to apply for a job you're under-qualified for? I'm looking to apply within my company as a computer Technician. however, the job is requiring at least a 2 year associates degree among other things, but I don't have a degree. \n\nThe other requirements I meet the minimum or overly exceed it, there's not really a medium for most of the reqs. So, how do I apply and be taken seriously without a degree in Computer Science? \n\nI've been taking classes for a while, I just haven't graduated. Are there certain things in my resume I can plug in to make them aware of my knowledge and seriousness of this opportunity? \n\nThanks in advance. \n\n(",
"How to apply for a job you're under-qualified for? I'm looking to apply within my company as a computer Technician. however, the job is requiring at least a 2 year associates degree among other things, but I don't have a degree. \n\nThe other requirements I meet the minimum or overly exceed it, there's not really a medium for most of the reqs. So, how do I apply and be taken seriously without a degree in Computer Science? \n\nI've been taking classes for a while, I just haven't graduated. Are there certain things in my resume I can plug in to make them aware of my knowledge and seriousness of this opportunity? \n\nThanks in advance. \n\n(",
"How to apply for a job you're under-qualified for? I'm looking to apply within my company as a computer Technician. however, the job is requiring at least a 2 year associates degree among other things, but I don't have a degree. \n\nThe other requirements I meet the minimum or overly exceed it, there's not really a medium for most of the reqs. So, how do I apply and be taken seriously without a degree in Computer Science? \n\nI've been taking classes for a while, I just haven't graduated. Are there certain things in my resume I can plug in to make them aware of my knowledge and seriousness of this opportunity? \n\nThanks in advance. \n\n(",
"How to apply for a job you're under-qualified for? I'm looking to apply within my company as a computer Technician. however, the job is requiring at least a 2 year associates degree among other things, but I don't have a degree. \n\nThe other requirements I meet the minimum or overly exceed it, there's not really a medium for most of the reqs. So, how do I apply and be taken seriously without a degree in Computer Science? \n\nI've been taking classes for a while, I just haven't graduated. Are there certain things in my resume I can plug in to make them aware of my knowledge and seriousness of this opportunity? \n\nThanks in advance. \n\n(",
"How to apply for a job you're under-qualified for? I'm looking to apply within my company as a computer Technician. however, the job is requiring at least a 2 year associates degree among other things, but I don't have a degree. \n\nThe other requirements I meet the minimum or overly exceed it, there's not really a medium for most of the reqs. So, how do I apply and be taken seriously without a degree in Computer Science? \n\nI've been taking classes for a while, I just haven't graduated. Are there certain things in my resume I can plug in to make them aware of my knowledge and seriousness of this opportunity? \n\nThanks in advance. \n\n("
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"If they are seeking a associate level degree, and you are working toward a bachelors degree, indicate that you've completed X percentage of your degree and include your anticipated date of graduation. \n\nIf you meet 50% of the posting requirements, go ahead and apply, if nothing else for the practice of doing so. Since you're already in the company, consider the process a chance to get to know more people in the area you'd like to work. Even if this particular posting doesn't work out in your favor, it is a fabulous learning tool.",
"You should take job requirements for a grain of salt. HR puts all of those things on there, and usually, you only need one or a combination of a couple of them to be able to perform the work they are hiring you to do. Apply anyways. Don't lie about yourself on the resume or in the interview. If your skills meet what they're actually looking for, the hiring manager will evaluate that.",
"Job requirements are like dating requirements, they all go out the window when the right person is found. Just give it a shot",
"\"I'm looking to apply within my company as a computer Technician.\"\n\nAwesome!\n\nYou've overcome the biggest hurdle of all- you're already in. First thing to do, after you put together a resume, cover letter, list of skills and such, is- talk to your manager. Or a higher level person- or someone higher up the food chain at all. \n\nSecond- we're gonna put a little bit of spin on this. \n\nlike another poster said: how far in your degree are you? If you've got 50% of a bachelors, that's an Associates already. You'll want to stress that you're working towards a degree (In CS, I presume?). Stress particular classes that you've taken. \n\nSo, in your resume, you'll have \n\n*Heading*- all your personal info. \n\n*Summary*- highlights.\n\n*Work experience*- what are you doing now? how can you make it sound SUPER responsible?\n\n*education*- depending on your level of work experience, you may consider swapping this with work experience- stress the classes you're taking. \n\nThe best bet is to write a kickass summary- 'current blah blah position, with continuing education in *COMPUTERY SCIENCE STUFF*. \"Particularly, I have recent experience in networking the ICP/Juggalo gates, Computational metallurgy, Linux/Penile interfaces, and blogging.\"\n\nThat sort of shit. \n\nFocus on being able to tell a coherent story to your contacts within the company: I'm this far along, I have these skills, I have this amount of experience, it qualifies me for this reason. That gets you the interview: where again, be honest, but put a positive spin on it \"I'm weak at hugging skills, but I can solder like a mofo\" - that sort of thing. Know your weaknesses, and have a balancing positive to offer. \n\nESPECIALLY going internally, you're in a great spot- they're probably willing to invest in more OTJ/Continuing educational training, due to your demonstrating interest in sticking with the company. An internally promoted asset comes with a lot of bennies- no onboarding, proven track record, familiarity with systems and processes- all that. \n\nSo go for it, man. Good luck!",
"I am considering applying for an job with language requirements (Native German or French, good English), I do speak German but not anywhere near natively. \nWill the same advice (\"Job requirements are like dating requirements, they all go out the window when the right person is found.\") be true in such a case?",
"Alternatively, you can get Network+ or A+ certified if you study properly for about a month for both exams. They'll take that over someone with an associate's."
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"How to remove excessive amounts of cat hair from blankets/cushions? My two cats love the rocking chair my wife got me for Christmas, so for a while it was covered in an absurd amount of cat hair. My only way to clean it off was to use a dozen or more sheets of my large lint roller, and while this is definitely effective, it seems wasteful. I started putting a blanket over the chair while it’s not in use, but now I have the same problem with the blanket.\n\nFor the blanket, how effective or useful would it be if I just send it through a washer/dryer cycle? Will the dryer’s lint tray catch a bunch of the hair? Or would I just end up with cat hair coating the walls of the dryer?\n\nAny other advice for non-washable cushions?",
"How to remove excessive amounts of cat hair from blankets/cushions? My two cats love the rocking chair my wife got me for Christmas, so for a while it was covered in an absurd amount of cat hair. My only way to clean it off was to use a dozen or more sheets of my large lint roller, and while this is definitely effective, it seems wasteful. I started putting a blanket over the chair while it’s not in use, but now I have the same problem with the blanket.\n\nFor the blanket, how effective or useful would it be if I just send it through a washer/dryer cycle? Will the dryer’s lint tray catch a bunch of the hair? Or would I just end up with cat hair coating the walls of the dryer?\n\nAny other advice for non-washable cushions?",
"How to remove excessive amounts of cat hair from blankets/cushions? My two cats love the rocking chair my wife got me for Christmas, so for a while it was covered in an absurd amount of cat hair. My only way to clean it off was to use a dozen or more sheets of my large lint roller, and while this is definitely effective, it seems wasteful. I started putting a blanket over the chair while it’s not in use, but now I have the same problem with the blanket.\n\nFor the blanket, how effective or useful would it be if I just send it through a washer/dryer cycle? Will the dryer’s lint tray catch a bunch of the hair? Or would I just end up with cat hair coating the walls of the dryer?\n\nAny other advice for non-washable cushions?",
"How to remove excessive amounts of cat hair from blankets/cushions? My two cats love the rocking chair my wife got me for Christmas, so for a while it was covered in an absurd amount of cat hair. My only way to clean it off was to use a dozen or more sheets of my large lint roller, and while this is definitely effective, it seems wasteful. I started putting a blanket over the chair while it’s not in use, but now I have the same problem with the blanket.\n\nFor the blanket, how effective or useful would it be if I just send it through a washer/dryer cycle? Will the dryer’s lint tray catch a bunch of the hair? Or would I just end up with cat hair coating the walls of the dryer?\n\nAny other advice for non-washable cushions?"
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"I have had the same problem for years, always had one to two cats in the house which meant using a lint roller on EVERYTHING. so instead of buying multiple lint rollers of different sizes, I just got a schticky. It’s reusable all you have to do it rinse it off. It comes with 3 different sizes and it’s only about $15 from Amazon. ",
"Put on a rubber glove and “pet” the items to remove as much hair as possible then launder. I use the glove method in my car (I have a dog) and it works like magic.",
"We got a Dyson V6 total clean, thats a handheld vacuum that comes with an active pet hair brush. Super happy with it. Really expensive for a handheld vacuum, but honestly, we dont just use it for our cushions, our big vacuum doesnt come out of the closet very often any more.",
"Based on my previous experience this is PROBABLY really effective...\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Upgrade-Version-Pet-Grooming-Glove/dp/B01N9KSITZ?crid=2KE0SMXFK8RPO&keywords=pet+hair+remover&qid=1536257876&sprefix=pet+hair+remov&sr=8-3&ref=mp_s_a_1_3\n\nAnd I actually have this brush, it's pretty effective too, but I suspect the glove in the first link may work better\nhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B002UC7X60/ref=dp_cerb_1"
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"How to tell & what to do if your credit/debit card has been compromised I don't think I am in any imminent danger ATM, but I'm just curious",
"How to tell & what to do if your credit/debit card has been compromised I don't think I am in any imminent danger ATM, but I'm just curious",
"How to tell & what to do if your credit/debit card has been compromised I don't think I am in any imminent danger ATM, but I'm just curious",
"How to tell & what to do if your credit/debit card has been compromised I don't think I am in any imminent danger ATM, but I'm just curious",
"How to tell & what to do if your credit/debit card has been compromised I don't think I am in any imminent danger ATM, but I'm just curious"
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"Sign up for email or text notifications if your card is used for internet purchases (card not present), foreign transactions, or for cash advances. If you get a notification of such a charge and you did not make the purchase, then contact the fraud department of the cr",
"I had an issue with fradulant charges on my cr",
"i had my physical card taken so it was easy to notice. I just called my company told them and talked to the fraud department. Took 30 minutes for both cards they reversed the charges sent me new cards and all was well. I just had to remember to change all my auto billing to the new cards. ",
"Use a bank that is pro-active in protecting you against situations like that.\n\nI don't know where you live but here in Canada I use Royal Bank.\n\nThey immediately call me when they see suspicious activity.\n\nThey've even pre-emptively canceled my card and sent me a new one when I happened to shop at a store where others were compromised. (Mine wasn't.)\n\nFor extra peace of mind I usually check my balance online for anything suspicious.",
"Look at your statements online. Pay particular attention to $1 charges. They are used to check if the account is still active before they make a large purchase."
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"How to become good at computers? I know as much about computers as the next guy, but I want to be able to understand computers better so I can fix them myself.",
"How to become good at computers? I know as much about computers as the next guy, but I want to be able to understand computers better so I can fix them myself.",
"How to become good at computers? I know as much about computers as the next guy, but I want to be able to understand computers better so I can fix them myself.",
"How to become good at computers? I know as much about computers as the next guy, but I want to be able to understand computers better so I can fix them myself."
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"Good at computers? Good at hardware? Good at repair? Good at software? Good at what exactly? \n\nI'm a software engineer and the term computer is quite broad. I tell someone I know how to work with computers and they automatically think I mean I can fix their broken machines. Like, no. You need files recovered I can do that, you need new software for your company I can do that, you need your driverless race car to recognize traffic cones I'm literally doing that, you need me to figure out what's wrong with your motherboard you're talking to the wrong guy. ",
"Install Ubuntu in a VM first, and try to use it as much as possible. If you have a spare laptop, use that instead.\n\nLearning on Linux is easier than on windows, as it doesn't have as many layers of \"helpful\" obfuscation on top of the guts of the OS. ",
"YouTube, and/or get a job in tech support. You'll either figure it out, get fired or quit, probably rather quickly.",
"Assuming you want to get into software, and it really doesn't seem like you do but I'll give my advice anyway, first you need to choose a language. What level of programming do you want to get into? Do you want to work on applications or do you want to go a bit deeper and interact with the hardware itself? I shy away from recommending python as a first language because it's a bit too easy and you'll fail to learn good programming practices starting there. Honestly I would recommend java or c++ to get a good foundation for object oriented programming. But maybe you'd rather build websites or Web applications. Then you would probably be better learning a scripting language like Javascript, python would actually be pretty good here as well but it's used far less often. You'd also need to learn mark up languages like html and CSS, but those are super easy. Whatever you do it's going to be helpful to get an environment set up for you to work in. Eclipse is popular in the industry but clion is pretty good too. If you're going to learn java I would recommend jGrasp honestly, it has a nice option to show how your loops and statements are contained graphically and it's literally designed for Java development. The most important thing is that you have to actually do it. Write up some code, even if it's shitty code. Google your errors and figure out what went wrong. Once you feel kinda comfortable in your chosen language start learning about data structures and good programming practice. Build your own data structures. Sort some lists with predefined algorithms or try to make your own sorting algorithm from scratch. There's an old saying that programming is easy, writing software is hard. So it's going to be a long process but it's very rewarding being able to take some idea in your head and create it with yourself. Just get those fingers typing and start creating. Hope this helps, if not you then someone else who might be reading this thread. "
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"How to let go and stop yourself from getting hung up on things? I have trouble of lettings go of things, people, places etc. I can't stop thinking about them sometimes.",
"How to let go and stop yourself from getting hung up on things? I have trouble of lettings go of things, people, places etc. I can't stop thinking about them sometimes.",
"How to let go and stop yourself from getting hung up on things? I have trouble of lettings go of things, people, places etc. I can't stop thinking about them sometimes.",
"How to let go and stop yourself from getting hung up on things? I have trouble of lettings go of things, people, places etc. I can't stop thinking about them sometimes.",
"How to let go and stop yourself from getting hung up on things? I have trouble of lettings go of things, people, places etc. I can't stop thinking about them sometimes.",
"How to let go and stop yourself from getting hung up on things? I have trouble of lettings go of things, people, places etc. I can't stop thinking about them sometimes.",
"How to let go and stop yourself from getting hung up on things? I have trouble of lettings go of things, people, places etc. I can't stop thinking about them sometimes."
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"I have that same problem, I think of situations that happened years ago and wonder if they had gone a different way, then I feel guilty or anxious, it's difficult to explain how I manage it, a degree of not giving a shit about what happened and also knowing that what happened could not be helped. Accept and move on, if you have trouble accepting it, maybe talk to a friend you can confide in, a different perspective can be a breath of fresh air and sometimes bring closure. Hope this helps.",
"I used to ruminate over things and found it was ruining my attitude and keeping me from moving forward. I've had to keep simple reminders around and keep a check on my thinking. One of the simplest ways I've found that helps a great deal is to ask myself some questions when I start doing it.\n\n1. Is there anything I can do to change this? If not, then it needs to be accepted the way it is and turned out of my thoughts. \n\n2. If there's something I can do to make the situation change, then I need to figure out what it is and do what I can. Sometimes it involves talking to a person or committing to an activity that will lead to a change in the situation. If I'm uncomfortable with a place, I need to stop and figure out what it is about that place that is making me feel that way and again, determine if there's something I can do to change my feelings about or accept it and concentrate on something else.\n\nI've come to the realization that a lot of things are out of my control. I can only control my own thoughts and actions. Getting a hold of the thoughts was hard for me, but it's easier with practice. \n\nI agree with what /u/BoondoggleDon said as well--sometimes talking and listening to an impartial person about things that we can't seem to let go of helps us gain a different perspective that we may not have otherwise considered.",
"In all seriousness, a good sativa taken with the right intentions can really help let go of unnecessary mental baggage, help you sift through things bothering u and get things in perspective. Similar to how a therapist can give you another angle on how to view things your minds eye window is more HD rather than foggy and u can view things that have happened and process in a different way. Plus other tasks feel great reminding u theres so much good stuff ur missing out on. I had an abusive parent, this has been the most productive way I've tried of coming to terms with things. Not for everyone, depending on ur background /upbringing ✌ ",
"honestly used to do that a lot, still do, but it used to be a lot worse because of my social phobia. i think its apart of human nature really. honestly, what i learned in short is, fuck em. fuck that person that youre hung up on. fuck the school/job/whatever place that youre hung up on. there will always be better things happening in your life, and looking forward instead of looking in the past will always help. life is full of ups and downs and surely you will find another up. until then, fuck that person that doesnt treat you right. fuck the thing that youre hung up on, whatever it is. you dont need bullshit in your life. let yourself cry, and let those emotions out but after youre done feeling, get back out there and back at em again. ruminating only makes things seem shittier. ",
"Could someone offer anymore information. I have pretty much been miserable since Nov. I really liked someone, but due to circumstances she never gave me a chance. I have tried talking to friends, going out and doing new things, going to the gym. But always in the end it will be me with me where ever I go. Im finding it very hard to be happy when all I can think about is her, and what ifs. Sorry for Highjacking your post didn't mean to.",
"Write all your thoughts down. Don't worry about storytelling, grammar, etc., just try to empty your mind of every aspect of the topic you're ruminating over. Ask yourself every question you can think of until there's nothing left. You should find some clarity in the process, plus, making your thoughts tangible allows them to exist outside of yourself, which in turn, might make it easier for you to release them from your internal monologue. ",
"Like /u/birthdaybitch, I've found it can help to write it down, or type all the thoughts you have about whatever the subject is. It just seems to help to \"get it out\". I've been known to type replies to messages and say all the things I want to say, nice or not, and then trash them and start over; it helps me stay more rational and level headed in my replies."
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"How to ask for a raise. I am currently executive assistant to 2 partners at my office and I am making half to 1/3 of the amount that the other assistants are making due to inexperience. I have been their assistant for about 4 months. They recently told me they think I'm doing a really great job and are happy to have me. i'm sure I can't be the only one out there wondering how what the best way to approach asking for a raise is so any advice would be great! How long should I wait before asking? What would be the best way to present my argument, etc.",
"How to ask for a raise. I am currently executive assistant to 2 partners at my office and I am making half to 1/3 of the amount that the other assistants are making due to inexperience. I have been their assistant for about 4 months. They recently told me they think I'm doing a really great job and are happy to have me. i'm sure I can't be the only one out there wondering how what the best way to approach asking for a raise is so any advice would be great! How long should I wait before asking? What would be the best way to present my argument, etc.",
"How to ask for a raise. I am currently executive assistant to 2 partners at my office and I am making half to 1/3 of the amount that the other assistants are making due to inexperience. I have been their assistant for about 4 months. They recently told me they think I'm doing a really great job and are happy to have me. i'm sure I can't be the only one out there wondering how what the best way to approach asking for a raise is so any advice would be great! How long should I wait before asking? What would be the best way to present my argument, etc.",
"How to ask for a raise. I am currently executive assistant to 2 partners at my office and I am making half to 1/3 of the amount that the other assistants are making due to inexperience. I have been their assistant for about 4 months. They recently told me they think I'm doing a really great job and are happy to have me. i'm sure I can't be the only one out there wondering how what the best way to approach asking for a raise is so any advice would be great! How long should I wait before asking? What would be the best way to present my argument, etc.",
"How to ask for a raise. I am currently executive assistant to 2 partners at my office and I am making half to 1/3 of the amount that the other assistants are making due to inexperience. I have been their assistant for about 4 months. They recently told me they think I'm doing a really great job and are happy to have me. i'm sure I can't be the only one out there wondering how what the best way to approach asking for a raise is so any advice would be great! How long should I wait before asking? What would be the best way to present my argument, etc.",
"How to ask for a raise. I am currently executive assistant to 2 partners at my office and I am making half to 1/3 of the amount that the other assistants are making due to inexperience. I have been their assistant for about 4 months. They recently told me they think I'm doing a really great job and are happy to have me. i'm sure I can't be the only one out there wondering how what the best way to approach asking for a raise is so any advice would be great! How long should I wait before asking? What would be the best way to present my argument, etc."
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"There are generally two appropriate times to ask for a raise: 1) if your job duties significantly change 2) at your annual review (sometimes semi-annual)\n\nYou just started 4 months ago and when you accepted the job then that was your opportunity to negotiate wage. If your job duties are different than what you signed on for, then you use that as a way to frame a conversation on adjusting your wage. If not and you simply want more money because you found out others get paid more, then tough. You will look flaky and entitled to ask for a raise 4 months after negotiating a position out of the blue. ",
"I'm not sure how long you should wait to ask but you should just ask if you feel you deserve it, this is business, they don't have to give it to you but they can't hold it against you",
"I usually wait until at least 6 months before asking for a raise and go for about 12,5%-20% when I do, depending on how easily I am replaced. If I'm not sure that I'm absolutely essential, I wait until at least 12 months.",
"Check your company policy on reviews, if you have a 6 month review schedule, then that would be the expected first opportunity for a raise. If the policy is to have one, and it dosen't happen, it is appropriate to ask for a review. You should frame this as an opportunity to get formal feedback on your performance rather than your wage.\n\nYou are only worth what someone is willing to pay you. With this in mind walking into any wage negotiation with options on the table is going to help you. If you are valuable to the company they will do their best to match competitive offers. If they decide you aren't worth the wage another company offered you, then you just got a new job with a wage bump. (***This is not something you want to bluff over - some companies won't appreciate you entertaining other job offers, you don't want to work for these companies, but you also don't want to be left without any work at all)\n\nGenerally speaking, a 100-200% raise for the same work is going to be a hard sell. You usually only see this when moving between companies. Remember at this point the company could just hire another inexperienced assistant at your current wage. You should be looking at a 5-15% bump in a best case scenario. (unless you have another opportunity that pays significantly more)",
"1) Find the morally weaker or lonelier partner.\n2) Hire a \"companion\" for said partner.\n3) Happen upon one of their \"meetings\"\n4) Enjoy your raise",
"It is [bad karma to ask for a raise](http://time.com/3486673/microsofts-ceo-satya-nadella-women-work-gender-pay-gap/). /s"
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"How do you get someone to remember your name? I'm a CEO of a non-profit in a small town, and a lot of what I'm trying to accomplish is getting to know lots of various leaders in the area. I seem to have a particular problem with getting people to remember my first name, and I'm tired of the awkward situations. ",
"How do you get someone to remember your name? I'm a CEO of a non-profit in a small town, and a lot of what I'm trying to accomplish is getting to know lots of various leaders in the area. I seem to have a particular problem with getting people to remember my first name, and I'm tired of the awkward situations. "
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"Introduce yourself each time you see them until they acknowledge you first. Example.\n\nJohn! Nice to see you again, Firstname lastname with NPO. We spoke, such and such place. How is everything going with thisandthat? ",
"Make it even more awkward and randomly ask them, “do you remember my name?” By putting them on blast the embarrassment will make them remember you forever. ",
"But do they remember who you are, not just what mouth noises to make to get your attention? Because I consider it a win in networking, if people remember who I am and what I'm associated with, and whether they remember my first name or not is irrelevant. So perhaps it is time to change the goalpost."
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"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :(",
"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :(",
"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :(",
"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :(",
"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :(",
"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :(",
"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :(",
"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :(",
"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :(",
"How to clear a runny nose fast? Basically I have terrible sinus problems, always have and always will, same as my dad and grandad. Im allergic to pollen, dust and most types of animal fur (ouur house is always dusty, its surrounded flowers and we have 2 pets). I wake up everyday with a hella blocked nose which after a few minutes of walking around, turns into hella runny. \n\nIm talking, spend 20 minutes blowing it / forcing sneezes, only for it to still be runny when i stop. Its gets to the point where my nose and throat are sore from blowing it so often, but still nothing. \n\nThe only thing that really works is time. Usually after the first 2 hours of the day i clear up. Its very annoying. And now, in these current times, its antagonizing. With the pandemic and all. I get the train to work every morning, and every morning im sniffly and gross and i can feel people looking at me and avoiding me like i have the plague. \n\nIs there anyway to combat this fast? Like right as i wake up? Ive tried just about every allergy and cold tablet you can get, and none of them work. I feel like i need some 'nose freeze' or some bs. \n\nThanks in advance :("
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"You won’t believe it but it works. Make a fist then stick the fist into your armpit and squeeze with your arm. Specifically left hand fist in right armpit will clear right side nostril, right hand fist in left armpit. When you squeeze you should feel a “funny bone tingle”. It won’t take long. You are stimulating your lymph nodes to drain. In the future, try Flonase. It is available over the counter. Also ask your doctor about a prescription for Singular pills. They can be a lifesaver during allergy season.",
"Stop blowing and forcing sneezes too. You are just irritating your nose more and so it gets more runny. Try taking a little Vaseline and rubbing it on the inside of your nose, I don't know why but this works for me when I have allergies or am on an airplane. If I wake up super congested I wash my face, brush my teeth with extra minty toothpaste (helps clear passages), do the Vaseline and stick two tiny pieces of toilet roll up my nose til it stops running (10-15 mins), I know it sounds gross and it is defo not attractive but my nose clears up and I can go on with my day.",
"Steam. Stay in a hot shower or steam or 15-20. Then when you come out blow all that shit out. Sounds like you have a more severe case than I do, but this works for me. If I start my day off like this I find I’m pretty good for the rest of the day. Unless I eat specific foods or something triggers sneezing.\n\nOh, and get rid of the pets or keep them and suffer. 😂",
"Have you spoken with your doctor? You may be eligible for prescription allergy therapies. Your provider may also be able to suggest healthier practices and support tools that you can use to minimize your symptoms. In the meantime, I would encourage you to place quality air purifiers in the spaces you frequent most, and add daily cleaning and dusting to your routine if it is not part of your schedule already. You may also be able use nasal saline solution to help clear your nasal passages when you blow your nose to limit your sore nose and throat. Best of luck getting your allergies under control.",
"Honestly? When I work my a$$ off on a treadmill, large chunks of snot come loose from deep in my head. Most reliable sure thing. Close second is Claritin d",
"Using a neti pot is good. Try using hankies for your runny nose as well - I often find tissues/TP irritate my nose and make it run/make me sneeze more - whereas hankies don't seem to",
"In the shower. 1st Tip you head back. Pinch your nose, mouth closed, 'blow' a deep breath 'out'. 2nd pinch the bridge of your nose for a few seconds. 3rd push your tongue into the roof of your mouth for a few seconds. Repeat the 3 steps a few times.",
"I have the same problem in almost the exact environment as OP. My doctor put me on Flonase and Zyrtec, both OTC. The sneezing and stuffy nose have stopped completely. Definitely see your doctor.",
"Steroid nose spray on prescription it will deal with inflammation the zrytecs only deal with symptoms not the cause",
"Flonase. Won’t clear a runny nose right away, but after a few days of using it you’ll be much less congested when you wake up."
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"How to get things to stick to painted cinderblock walls. Hey guys. I don't know of anywhere else to go, so I'll post here.\nMy roommate and I have come up with a pretty good setup for our dorm and things are kinda great so far.\nI have a rolling chair and I need to keep the extension cord and cable wire off of the floor.\n\nPretty much the only way I can do this is stick them to the wall, but everything I've tried has failed pretty quickly.\n\nI've tried Duct tape (most successful but comes off after a few days) and 3500 & 2500 psi epoxy (these break off really easily)\n\nWhat method can I use to stick these cables to the wall that has strong adhesion.",
"How to get things to stick to painted cinderblock walls. Hey guys. I don't know of anywhere else to go, so I'll post here.\nMy roommate and I have come up with a pretty good setup for our dorm and things are kinda great so far.\nI have a rolling chair and I need to keep the extension cord and cable wire off of the floor.\n\nPretty much the only way I can do this is stick them to the wall, but everything I've tried has failed pretty quickly.\n\nI've tried Duct tape (most successful but comes off after a few days) and 3500 & 2500 psi epoxy (these break off really easily)\n\nWhat method can I use to stick these cables to the wall that has strong adhesion.",
"How to get things to stick to painted cinderblock walls. Hey guys. I don't know of anywhere else to go, so I'll post here.\nMy roommate and I have come up with a pretty good setup for our dorm and things are kinda great so far.\nI have a rolling chair and I need to keep the extension cord and cable wire off of the floor.\n\nPretty much the only way I can do this is stick them to the wall, but everything I've tried has failed pretty quickly.\n\nI've tried Duct tape (most successful but comes off after a few days) and 3500 & 2500 psi epoxy (these break off really easily)\n\nWhat method can I use to stick these cables to the wall that has strong adhesion.",
"How to get things to stick to painted cinderblock walls. Hey guys. I don't know of anywhere else to go, so I'll post here.\nMy roommate and I have come up with a pretty good setup for our dorm and things are kinda great so far.\nI have a rolling chair and I need to keep the extension cord and cable wire off of the floor.\n\nPretty much the only way I can do this is stick them to the wall, but everything I've tried has failed pretty quickly.\n\nI've tried Duct tape (most successful but comes off after a few days) and 3500 & 2500 psi epoxy (these break off really easily)\n\nWhat method can I use to stick these cables to the wall that has strong adhesion.",
"How to get things to stick to painted cinderblock walls. Hey guys. I don't know of anywhere else to go, so I'll post here.\nMy roommate and I have come up with a pretty good setup for our dorm and things are kinda great so far.\nI have a rolling chair and I need to keep the extension cord and cable wire off of the floor.\n\nPretty much the only way I can do this is stick them to the wall, but everything I've tried has failed pretty quickly.\n\nI've tried Duct tape (most successful but comes off after a few days) and 3500 & 2500 psi epoxy (these break off really easily)\n\nWhat method can I use to stick these cables to the wall that has strong adhesion."
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"3m makes an \"extreme\" double sided tape. It will stick to bare, unpainted brick so it should work for you as well. Also 3m Command hooks will work well, and a series of these to drape the cords on would be good.",
"I'm not sure if it will hurt the cables, but I know that glue guns will stick to painted cinder blocks. And it will come off with a little picking when you are ready. ",
"I use Gorilla Tape in my classroom. Currently, I'm using it to hang heavy, laminated posters. It's been about a month, and so far so good!",
"Brush it really well with something like a toothbrush first. Then, tape it exactly how you want it and then *rip the tape off* and do it again, with fresh tape, in the exact same spot. You want the first tape to pull off all the dust etc and maybe leave a little adhesive behind.\n\n",
"[3M command hooks](http://www.command.com/). Will stick to just about anything and come off clean when it's time to move out.",
"Cable management:\n\nhttp://www.lowes.com/pd_24434-1410-P12XB/6_0__?productId=3133247&Ntt=pipe+insulation&pl=1¤tURL=%3FNtt%3Dpipe%2Binsulation&facetInfo=\n\nEasy to size, easy to use. Comes in a couple of colors. Large metal command hooks jam right into it."
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"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?",
"What can I do when walking behind a woman at night time to make them less afraid? I always feel really sketchy when I'm walking behind a woman who's alone at night time, is there anything I can do to make them less nervous?"
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"Plot twist: OP is a serial killer/rapist looking for tips on how to lull women into a false sense of security",
"Like all other social mammals-\nJust wait until she is looking (or maybe make a non-threatening sound to catch her attention). Then lie down on the ground, with your belly exposed, and slow-blink at her multiple times.\n\n",
"Pick up the phone and call a friend or your girlfriend. Hearing you have a casual conversation might put her at ease. Plus, she can judge better how far away you are.",
"Oh man, working as a valet attendant on especially busy weekends and having to run to a remote parking site through a packed parking lot with girls walking alone to their cars was the worst. The ones that just screamed weren't too bad, it was the ones who screamed and then swung at me that really sucked. Almost got maced a couple of times too. Good times!",
"The onus should not be on the guys to \"not be intimidating\". I mean, Jesus, I can't freaking help it if you choose to construe my walking home as anything more than that. You want to think that I'm stalking you and planning to rape you? Knock yourself out.\n\nI think it's really unfair that guys are automatically assumed to harbor malicious intentions unless proven otherwise. We should not have to *prove* that we're good people. So, personally, I wouldn't pay much attention to what the woman *might* be thinking. \n\nThat said, don't do obvious no-nos like making constant eye contact, or matching her walking pace, etc. ",
"Yell, \"I don't want no trouble, ya hear?\" Then crabwalk in circles around her facing outward and chant wolo wolo wolo so she knows she is now under your protection.",
"Call a friend and converse with them. (Have a topic in mind, not just random small talk) Assuming you're halfway social, your conversation will show her you are a normal guy and should ease her mind. ",
"This is a funny one. It's almost easier to list what you shouldn't do. \n\nE.g. whistling a tune during the day might mean you're happy and full of life. But whistling that same tune at night may make a woman feel like she's about to be snatched and thrown into the boot if the car. \n\nGet my drift?\n",
"\"I WILL NOT RAPE YOU. THE FIRST **KNOWN** RAPE OF MINE HAPPENED A L*OOOOOOO*NG TIME AGO. DO NOT BE AFRAID.\"",
"I scrolled through all the comments on here, and (aside from the humor) a common theme was the \"Well it's her problem for being scared, do what you want and don't care about what she thinks about you.\"\n\nIdeally, yes, she shouldn't have to worry. Gender stereotypes shouldn't have to exist. Problem is, they do. No way around it. There will always be people that make bad choices and do really bad things (and rape is most often performed by a man).\n\n But is it really such a big deal to do just a little extra and think about someone else other than ourselves? Sure, its a free sidewalk, and we can walk where we want. But what's wrong with keeping the feelings of another person in mind? To dig a little deeper than just this topic, that is something that bothers me about the \"Forget what someone else thinks, just do what you feel\" mindset. I understand where it came from, and not letting people keep you from your dreams. But I think we tend to twist that into making ourselves feel okay about being really inconsiderate of someone else. Every person is a person, just like you and me. Even the smallest of gestures that just slightly inconvenience ourselves for the someone else can go a long way. \n\nAnyway, I'm sure I'm too late to the party, and no one will read this, but I hope someone takes my words to heart!\n\nAnd who knows, maybe she'll take notice, and smile at you when you happen to sit down across from each other at a coffee shop the next week...",
"6 months from now this dude ends up on the news for being a ninja like stalker. And you all helped. Haha",
"I'm sure most women don't get nervous if you're walking behind them. Although I know I get the a little nervous if anyone is walking behind me at night. Result of too many scary movies and living in a not so great area, I guess. Usually I just brush it off or stop and pretend I'm checking my phone to let them go ahead of me. Maybe you could speed up and pass her, or take our your phone and pretend to talk to someone for a few minutes? Or just let her deal with it on her own.",
"I find that I feel safest when the person passes me, making me behind them. Unless they have eyes on the back of their head, they don't know where I'm heading. \n\nWhen passing, create the biggest distance between you two. Having anyone pass within a few feet distance, in a dark area, is uncomfortable and puts me on guard. ",
"Try to fart as loud as possible.\n\nYesterday on askreddit we have learned that women are just as immature when it comes to fart jokes as men are",
"Seriously? Shuffle your feet tto get their atention and when they look say \"good evening\". If that doesn't calm them, nothing will. Fuck um and scare on",
"People are making a lot of jokes about this, but once I was walking with a friend at night and a shadowy figure started walking towards us. As soon as he noticed us he shouted \"Don't worry, I'm not going to murder you!\" It was funny because it was what we were all thinking. It was humorous and actually made me feel a \n\nI think that sometimes just calling out the situation with a \"well, this is awkward\" can do the trick. I think other's suggestion of talking on your phone is a good idea too.",
"Just get your phone out and pretend to have a conversation so it sounds like you're preoccupied. \n\nAvoid saying things like...\n\n\"Yeah, I found a good one\"\n\n\"I'm ready, bring the car around\"\n",
"If they turn around acknowledge it with a nod, not too friendly or interested. Pause, go slower. Keep your hands visible. Thanks for caring about this.",
"I am a woman. In my life, there have only been two occasions where I have been tailed by a man on an otherwise deserted street late at night.\n\nIn the first situation, I crossed to the other side of the street myself. (He followed and then I had to confront him and that is beside the point.) Don't follow her across the street.\n\nIn the second situation, the guy to my rear, when he was close enough by his judgment, said, \"Nice night we are having. I am coming up on your left and didn't want to startle you.\" Then he passed me with a smile and I thanked him for the warning.\n\nAs a typically shorter-than-a-man female, my strides are similarly shorter. Men overtake me. This can be generalized: men will overtake the female they are tailing. I vote for a chatty \"on your left\" of sorts. Use your vocal tone to indicate your lack of a threat.",
"Coming from a girl - i know it seems stupid that we think every single male is a threat but i think its just the way we've all been taught/brought up, please don't take offence its really nothing personal just us being cautious. Best thing to do is look distracted - be on your phone, listening to music ect. I know it must suck when you're totally innocent, sorry, i think its just a natural reaction for girls to be on guard when they're on their own.",
"Who cares? If someone thinks you will rape murder just because youre a guy, theyre a fucking lunatic. Too much hurtfeelyoma in this place.",
"Look past her as if she's just another stranger. Quicken your pace to pass her and once she's out of your peripheral vision keep on *keepin' on*",
"If you are stepping on the back of her shoes, you are walking too close. That will make her nervous.",
"Do nothing different. Are you a rapist? No, then you are fine. Not all men are rapists, not all woman are defenseless. ",
"Try whistling a happy tune! \"I'm siiiiiiiinging in the rain, just siiiiiinging in the rain! What a GLORIOUS FEELING I'm happy agaiiiiiin!!\"",
"The the woman is close enough to hear, pretend to get a phone call from your grandmother. Promise her that you will take care of her cat while she is away, again. Tell her you love her and hang up.",
"RUN! I read a study recently that shows that men are actually sexually assaulted more then woman now. You should get out of there before you get raped.",
"Pisses me off when im treated like a rapist and im literally just walking down the street...usually say rude mean things back in response",
"Make every step you take very dramatic, and move your body in an up and down motion with every step while making the Friday the 13th sound \"tch tch tch hah hah hah\". Video with sound as example. That will let them know you mean no harm.\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0KHCqYCyWD4",
"I remember reading about a black guy who liked to walk at night. One time he scared the shit out some lady. (she literally started running away from him).\n\nTo fix the problem he started whistling classical music as he walked. \n\n1) Typical thugs don't know classical music. \n\n2) it announces your presence so you don't \"sneak up\" on her\n\nEven if you can't whistle, you can slow the fuck down. If I look back and see that you're not gaining on me, or keeping pace (like some sort of hunter) but getting further away, I'd relax a bit. \n",
"I like the call a friend or even just pretend to talk to someone on the phone \"hey, I'll be home soon\" implies you're not gonna have time to rape and murder someone.\n\nAlso try not to walk directly behind her. Walk offset. For example if she's on the right side of the sidewalk, use the far left side. As simple as that. ",
"\"I'm just pulling it out through my zipper hole to show you that it's completely flaccid and you have absolutely nothing to worry about from me...\"",
"this is nonsense. I was mugged and shot at and I'm a male. People alone at night should be cautious. You don't have to be a woman to be reasonably wary of strangers. ",
"Why do you care?\n\nYou can't influence someone's feelings. They could be fine, or irrationally frightened of anything.",
"The more you will try to act normal and non-threatening, the more you risk of giving off the exactly opposite vibes. Trust your common sense and don't over-do it. ",
"Stop, untie your shoes and then tie them really slow, this will give her time to move further away while you making you look auspicious.",
"Speed up. When you are just behind her, touch her shoulder gently and say - can I walk with you? I am really scared. After walking some distance you can also tell her that your wife beats you and you would love to spend the night at her place. ",
"Pisses me off when im treated like a rapist and im literally just walking down the street...usually say rude mean things back in response",
"Not be a man. \n\nYou must be a nice guy to even think up this question, though. Thanks...(seriously).",
"Mumble at varying volumes, but generally loudly enough that she can hear, \"I'm gonna GET ya! I'm gonna GET ya!\", over and over again.",
"Make a fake call to a voicemail, \"Hey it's Sam. Just wanted to say Happy Birthday/I have to be at the airport at 5 so we have plenty of time to get lunch before...\" etc",
"Just walk right up behind her, and whisper \"I wont rape you....I promise\"\n\nThen giggle. try add a snort and rub your left eyebrow vigorously when she looks back.",
"If I find myself walking out of a place later at night and I see a woman walking within earshot, I politely ask if I may walk in front of them as not to make them nervous with me behind them. That normally ends up in them either smiling and saying sure or being invited to walk with them. ",
"I usually change the situation so I'm not following someone for a long time. You can change your pace to pass her or let her pull away and/or cross the street.",
"I start whistling Frank Sinatra's fly me to the moon. Then say hello in my friendliest voice possible when she looks at me.\n",
"I appreciate music, or some vocalization. Hum to yourself, whistle, rap, whatever. It's sort of like radar pings. \"You know where I am! I'm not trying to be sneaky!\"\nIf you have to get by her and overtake, and god help you if you do, there's nothing I can think of to help the tension. Keep vocalizing and say excuse me as you walk by. Good luck though, because ladies usually speed walk through that situation. Unless she's wearing heels, or you're a long legged bastard, you'll never match her pace and it won't be a problem.",
"I am a girl. Stop being so afraid of what bitches think of you. As a girl, I can tell you that 50 percent of women are hos and the other 50 percent of women are tricks.",
"Honestly? I've appreciated when guys were just honest. Be friendly, smile. I've had them walk up beside me and say \"Hi, I'm (insert name here.) I didn't want to alarm you. Would you mind if I walked alongside you?\" \n\nPro-tip: don't then kidnap or attack them. We hate that. ",
"Either cross the road or if you're already close walk a bit faster to pass her. If you're far away don't speed up though cause that just makes me more nervous that you're trying to reach me. ",
"Doing anything to accommodate her nervousness would be submission to a society that deems all men predators. You should express disobedience with this social dogma and not change your behaviour. You are not a predator. You are not harming her well-being in anyway whatsoever. You are an amazing human being and no one has any reason to fear you. Walk where you please.",
"Brent Staples whistles classical music, like Vivaldi. \"Walk on By: Black Men in Public Spaces\" is the name of his essay...good stuff.",
"Based on the relatively few legitimate looking comments here, it looks like there is no fool-proof trick to not accidentally freaking out a woman while passing her on the street. However, there are some common trends: make some sort of generic noise that is a) obviously made by a person (as opposed to an animal or vehicle/machine) b) easy to judge the distance of the source and c) is non-threatening (I go with snapping my fingers), don't match her speed (realistically you will be walking faster than her at your normal pace, don't adjust speed & just let physics carry you past her), and when you go to pass give a wide berth. \n\nNow, again, this won't satisfy all women, as there appear to be at least a few who expect you to cross the street, but this should work often enough. \n\nAs for if you are approaching, don't have an \"unusual\" look on your face, otherwise business as usual ought to be good enough.",
"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-VNrb3wd_sJs/UBHz1SutkSI/AAAAAAAABXw/DT0FFMtHPB0/s1600/vlcsnap-2012-07-27-11h47m50s51.png",
"Wear something that brings *general* attention to yourself at night like things a jogger/cyclist might use to ward off being run over by cars. Like a reflective vest, hat or blinking light. Clearly advertise that you are trying to be noticed in an unobtrusive and sane way.\n\nBack when I was a student I got a couple of free promo badges that were ads for something or other. They had a [tiny blinking led light built in](http://blinkeez.com/product/GRAD_LEDPIN.html) and periodically made a small chirp like how a smoke detector does when it's battery needs replacing. I pinned one to my backpack and the other I took apart and added to my keyring and would clip it to the outside of my pants at night.*\n\nPoint is these exist and are cheap or free. They are garish but you can pull them apart easily and just keep the blinking light. I'd never consider wearing [these](http://blinkeez.com/category/CL.html) as earrings. But pinning one to a ballcap, or a bookbag or a shoe or something? Why not? Added benefit is you are less likely to be run over by a car.\n\nIt's not enough to be noticed like jingling keys or talking on the phone or something. Playing music that is loud enough to be heard a few feet away without being too loud is better than nothing, but it's easy to do more.\n\n^^^* ^^^They ^^^had ^^^an ^^^on/off ^^^switch ^^^in ^^^case ^^^you ^^^were ^^^wondering.",
"Put your hood down if you have one up, preferably cross the road, if not, maintain a safe distance away. If you must pass, step off the pavement, not practically shoulder barge the poor woman. Also, i tend to find people absorbed playing on there phone to be less intimidating",
"OMFG I hate when this happens, super awkward. What I usually do it speed walk until I'm right behind them and in order to let them relax I breathe hard down their neck, this is like a massage. Then I make a big smile, big as possible, toothier the better, to show in just a normal happy person and that I'm friendly. After that, just be straight up for reassurance, say \"Don't worry, I'm not going to hurt you.\" Women also love compliments, so try also saying \"You have a very pretty face,\" \"You have a very fit body,\" or \"Don't fucking scream or ill stab you, bitch.\"",
"LPT if you have a smartphone set it to go off when your bluetooth device is turned on. Then have a fake conversation/argument with a boss/secretary/college etc.\n\nBut don't do it in a way that makes you sound like a maniac or something like that.\nHave a defensive argument. Make yourself sound and look vulnerable and \"whiny\".\nUse a fake accent if you don't want the girl to possible recognize you anymore than she currently can.\n\nThis way she will think you are so peeved off at someone else you aren't even paying any attention to her. (or anything else for that matter) (kinda like on defensive autopilot)\n\n",
"I always get offended when I am in a safe neighborhood and the girl gives me a Are you going to rape me look. One time it was so ridiculous (there were a ton of people around in a populated area and we were just on a side street next to all of the bars and I was dressed up super nice) that I started making weird noises just to fuck with her. ",
"Honestly, just look 'casual' when you're walking behind her, if that makes any sense. Don't walk with purpose, just stroll casually, maybe look at your phone every once in a while or something to that effect. I'm a girl, and that would ease my mind for sure.",
"Breath heavily, making occasional grunting sounds. If she looks at you, subtly lick your lips and if you have your hand in your pocket, slowly move it back and forth as if massaging your genitals. Make sure you walk at *exactly* the same pace as her, about 3 feet behind, ideally matching your steps to hers.\n\n",
"This is such a fucking socially awkward request. Okay. If you're that worried about what someone you don't know thinks about you, just speed up the pace and walk in front of her. ",
"The best possible thing you can is just act cool. Don't say anything, don't stare at her... Just walk at your normal pace. If you're gaining on her, make sure nobody see's you, because there might be witnesses...\n\nThat's when you strike",
"Slightly off topic, but my best friend (she's very out-there and loud) has, on two occasions, screamed 'Stop! Potential rapist!' at guys who were freaking her out when she was walking home. One guy muttered 'I'm not going to rape you' and nervously went in the other direction, and the other offered to walk her home after buying her a pie at the dairy on the way.",
"By the way you worded your title, I might as well give you advice to avoid spooking a dear, rather than a human fucking being. Just walk like a normal person? If they freak out at you for passing by on the opposite side of the street, it's their own personal issue they need to work through.",
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"Just don't be threatening.\n\nAfter that, everything else is their problem, not yours.\n\nSeriously...not every guy is threatening, a rapist, whatever. Stop equating every last one of us men with your doom. Jesus fucking christ.",
"Fk that, don't do anything. If for some odd reason, your (some random guy) walking makes a random woman feel intimidated, SHE SHOULD CROSS THE STREET. If you have no bad intentions, you shouldn't be made uncomfy because of what's going on in her head.\n\nSeriously, the \"kid padding\" of society is just sad."
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"How to prepare for/speed up moving out? I'm a 23 year old student and live with my dad. We don't get along very well and I want to move out, but I don't have a steady/big enough income to move out now. In a year I'll be done with school and when I find a real full time job I want to move out asap. I'm currently trying to save as much money as I can. What else can I do more to make sure I can move out asap?",
"How to prepare for/speed up moving out? I'm a 23 year old student and live with my dad. We don't get along very well and I want to move out, but I don't have a steady/big enough income to move out now. In a year I'll be done with school and when I find a real full time job I want to move out asap. I'm currently trying to save as much money as I can. What else can I do more to make sure I can move out asap?",
"How to prepare for/speed up moving out? I'm a 23 year old student and live with my dad. We don't get along very well and I want to move out, but I don't have a steady/big enough income to move out now. In a year I'll be done with school and when I find a real full time job I want to move out asap. I'm currently trying to save as much money as I can. What else can I do more to make sure I can move out asap?",
"How to prepare for/speed up moving out? I'm a 23 year old student and live with my dad. We don't get along very well and I want to move out, but I don't have a steady/big enough income to move out now. In a year I'll be done with school and when I find a real full time job I want to move out asap. I'm currently trying to save as much money as I can. What else can I do more to make sure I can move out asap?"
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"Get an MP3 of the opening theme from the 70's show \"The Jeffersons\". Loop that shit and you'll be amazed at how your motivations increase.",
"Start seeing if any of your friends are in a similar situation, and what their timeline for moving out is. Splitting the costs with someone will make it easier. If none of your friends can, scout out roommate listings on Craigslist to get a general sense of what the average rent is in your area. \n\nStart buying things (plates, silverware, towels) whenever you see they're on sale. \n\nSave your tax return if you get one this year- you might have enough for a deposit/rent if you do. \n\nLook into some of the things posted on /r/beermoney and similar subreddits to start earning more money. Consider a second job as well. \n\n",
"Make a budget. Figure out approximate rent/expenses that you can afford a year from now and include saving 3-4 months rent into that budget. That will cover a security deposit and some buffer in case something comes up. I did this in my head for a long time and thats a mistake. No matter how simple it is, get it down on paper or even better on a spreadsheet.",
"I think this needs to be in r/personalfinance\n\nThat being said, depending on where you live, craigslist roomshares has never let me down."
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"How do I make my chest hair less itchy and coarse? My girlfriend hates snuggling me bare chested since my chest hair makes her feel itchy. She wants me to shave it, but I love my chest hair and only want to consider this as a last resort.\n\nIs there anyway I can condition my chest hair to be softer and less itchy?",
"How do I make my chest hair less itchy and coarse? My girlfriend hates snuggling me bare chested since my chest hair makes her feel itchy. She wants me to shave it, but I love my chest hair and only want to consider this as a last resort.\n\nIs there anyway I can condition my chest hair to be softer and less itchy?"
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"Take the conditioner that you put on your head and put it on your chest. At the end of your shower just rub it in and let it stay for a good 3-5 minutes then just wash it off with water. It will be a lot softer after a week of doing this. My chest hair is already soft but I do this sometimes just so it gets really soft. My wife loves it, she'll just run her hands through it over and over.",
"DO NOT SHAVE IT. You will get chest stubble (yuck) and maybe ingrown hairs. Just stick with a good conditioner and a less picky girlfriend."
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"Dry Cleaning I am a man. I have been using the same cleaners for about 2 years. Last night I noticed that about half of my shirts have broken/cracked buttons on the sleeves. I brought it up at the cleaners this mornings when I dropped off my things. She blamed it on the machine and said it was just something that happens when you clean your shirts a few times. Is she pulling my leg or is this the truth?\n\nAlso if this is not the right subreddit to ask this type of question please advise. I looked around for a while before finding this one and I wasn't sure.",
"Dry Cleaning I am a man. I have been using the same cleaners for about 2 years. Last night I noticed that about half of my shirts have broken/cracked buttons on the sleeves. I brought it up at the cleaners this mornings when I dropped off my things. She blamed it on the machine and said it was just something that happens when you clean your shirts a few times. Is she pulling my leg or is this the truth?\n\nAlso if this is not the right subreddit to ask this type of question please advise. I looked around for a while before finding this one and I wasn't sure.",
"Dry Cleaning I am a man. I have been using the same cleaners for about 2 years. Last night I noticed that about half of my shirts have broken/cracked buttons on the sleeves. I brought it up at the cleaners this mornings when I dropped off my things. She blamed it on the machine and said it was just something that happens when you clean your shirts a few times. Is she pulling my leg or is this the truth?\n\nAlso if this is not the right subreddit to ask this type of question please advise. I looked around for a while before finding this one and I wasn't sure."
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"Due to mechanical reasons of the heat and pressure of the machine pressing (ironing), yes, sometimes buttons break. A nice cleaners who wants to keep your business will offer to replace broken buttons.\n\nYou can sometimes specify \"hand pressing\", but it costs more.\n\nSince this is LPT, I will give you a LPT: Do your own shirts. You'll save a bundle, impress all the females you know, and achieve a sense of empowerment.\n\n",
"Yeah, I hate to put dry cleaners out of business (jk no I don't), but the vast majority of things you can get away with cleaning yourself. Brush suits and other woolens, iron your shirts, etc. Plus dry cleaners can use some really creepy chemicals.",
"I worked at the university laundry all during college in the dry cleaning side.\n\nButtons do get broken. It's just a fact of the dry cleaning machines. They've got a metric shit ton of extra buttons lying around that they'll be happy to share with you though!\n\nAs far as life pro tips at the cleaners though;\n\n1) Don't ask for your white shirts to be dry cleaned. It doesn't clean them like you hope. Regular wash cycle is so much better. Also, getting them dry cleaned tends to make them dingy/grey over time. The perc (chemical use in dry cleaning) holds onto dyes from previous loads (no matter how often we clean it) so it transfers to your white cotton shirt.\n\n2) if you have bigger or more elaborate buttons you're worried about, before you leave home, wrap them in aluminum foil (a couple layers) to protect the buttons from chipping/flaking paint. (this is also not a bad idea for your shirt buttons. You wouldn't expect it to give much cushion, but it does)"
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"You know how when you get a burrito or something similar there are people who make it well, and then there aree people who are really stingy with ingredients, can't wrap it correctly... Etc. How can I make sure to get the good burrito lady without being rude? Yes this is a serious struggle in my life.",
"You know how when you get a burrito or something similar there are people who make it well, and then there aree people who are really stingy with ingredients, can't wrap it correctly... Etc. How can I make sure to get the good burrito lady without being rude? Yes this is a serious struggle in my life.",
"You know how when you get a burrito or something similar there are people who make it well, and then there aree people who are really stingy with ingredients, can't wrap it correctly... Etc. How can I make sure to get the good burrito lady without being rude? Yes this is a serious struggle in my life.",
"You know how when you get a burrito or something similar there are people who make it well, and then there aree people who are really stingy with ingredients, can't wrap it correctly... Etc. How can I make sure to get the good burrito lady without being rude? Yes this is a serious struggle in my life."
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"She gets paid to make the burrito. If she's being stingy just ask \"May I have some more _______ please? Thanks you\" Or if she's not mixing it well then ask her with a smile to mix it a little more. \n\nYour not being rude by doing so. I used to work at a shake/yogurt place and understand that you don't want to seem needy or greedy. Unless the lady is just a sour person then she won't take it personally. Don't be ashamed of getting your money's worth! ",
"I find it's more about the entire staff at a location rather than just one employee. Most likely because of management/training.\n\nIf you can watch them make it (like subway) you can tell them \"more x please\" and most the time they will just throw in more for you.\n\nAs far a bad wrap job... Not sure. Maybe \"complain\" and request they remake it. Any good manager would be sure it's remade to quality and it brings the training issue to their attention so they can correct it. This leads to less experiences of bad wrap jobs.\n\nIf complaining isn't met with them remaking it properly than stop supporting them and eat some place else.",
"If it's a social technique you're after, maybe try finding a conversational connection with the good one, and using that as an excuse for going to that server.\n\nThen you're making it about how you want to talk about the game, or whatever, rather than you just don't like the other server's work.",
"They seem pretty consistant to me at all the so cal ______bertos. Are you talking about a chipotle or something?"
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"Taking and studying for an AP test Pro-tips. It doesn't have to be specifically about AP tests. I've got a week, so advice that is easy to apply as well as effective are best appreciated.",
"Taking and studying for an AP test Pro-tips. It doesn't have to be specifically about AP tests. I've got a week, so advice that is easy to apply as well as effective are best appreciated."
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"If you're a visual learning like I am. Go on YouTube and type in AP_____ review and most likely there will be some videos. It's much easier to watch someone talk about it and show examples then reading those boring books. ",
"Get enough sleep. \nFor me I got all 5s on mine and the method I used to study was the same method i always used for class. If you have a strategy that works for you, use that. I think the worst thing you can do is to totally change things up last minute.\nIf you don't have a strategy you currently use, I second the flashcard idea above. If you have access to practice test books or one of those AP review books, those are decent. The practice tests are worth doing. "
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"what is your best advice for how to stay safe online. Phishing, passwords, using safe apps, online banking, cyber bullying... Please share your wisdom! ",
"what is your best advice for how to stay safe online. Phishing, passwords, using safe apps, online banking, cyber bullying... Please share your wisdom! ",
"what is your best advice for how to stay safe online. Phishing, passwords, using safe apps, online banking, cyber bullying... Please share your wisdom! ",
"what is your best advice for how to stay safe online. Phishing, passwords, using safe apps, online banking, cyber bullying... Please share your wisdom! ",
"what is your best advice for how to stay safe online. Phishing, passwords, using safe apps, online banking, cyber bullying... Please share your wisdom! ",
"what is your best advice for how to stay safe online. Phishing, passwords, using safe apps, online banking, cyber bullying... Please share your wisdom! ",
"what is your best advice for how to stay safe online. Phishing, passwords, using safe apps, online banking, cyber bullying... Please share your wisdom! "
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"Dont ever trust an email the company sends you unless you were expecting it. And never click a provided link. If they say \"please call 1-800-xxx-xxxx\" look up the phone number yourself (if yh ed y can send you a link to a fake website, they can provide a phone number to a fake business too)",
"Just understanding that the majority of online shops/companies/organizations, can still process whatever service you're looking for if you use a fake name.\n\nEmail under a fake name. Try out subscriptions as \"Ass J. Weinerson.\" It stops your name from leaking to every third company, and still lets you use the company",
"Hello, i'm not an expert but i can give you some:\n\n1. Never save password in your web browser.\n2. Always try to navigate in incognito.\n3. You can change your OS to Linux for example, because the majority of malware are focused in windows users.\n4. If you using a laptop put a piece of paper in the camera.\n5. Never open suspicious link and never enter important credentials in suspicious websites.\n6. Always maintain your OS and web browser updated.\n7. Never use the same password for everything, if you get hack, they'll have all the access.",
"Personally, I don't password manager software, I do a minimum of online shopping, with only a handful of trusted vendors. My cr",
"Never use the same browser for browsing and media consumption that you use for financial/personal data. Don’t use online keychains.",
"Tl;dr never use any personally identifying info on anything you want to speak freely or with anyone that you do not know IRL.\n\n- Personally identifying info includes: your real name, your image, your birthday/birthdate, the city in which you live (state/country is usually ok), where you go/have gone to school, and your phone number. \n\n- This includes for those \"first letter of your last name and your birth month\" games. That is literally you waving your initials and DOB all over the place. Even without the year, many people put their age into their profile.\n\n- On sites that require a real name you can use a name from a character name generator if you will be posting anything that could come back to bite you.\n\n- Stuff that could come back to bite you includes: bad job experiences, bad school experiences, LGBTQ+ identity stuff, familial/domestic abuse (especially if you are a minor and/or still in that situation), controversial topics, criminal experiences, sexually explicit content, and cursing.",
"1. Use a password manager.\n2. Give every account a random password. \n3. Make your master password to your password manager long and something you never used before. \n4. Write down your master password and keep it somewhere safe. \n5. Avoid SMS 2FA. \n6. Avoid clicking any link in any email unless you're expecting it. (ex: getting a link to reset your password because you press the forgot password button).\n7. Buy malware protection, don't rely on the default stuff. \n8. Use disposable email addresses when you can like 33mail and simplelogin.io. Don't use them for important accounts like banking."
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"Fastest way to get that stringy thing through a pair of gym shorts. Spent 30 minutes with my fingers and have only reached half-way :(",
"Fastest way to get that stringy thing through a pair of gym shorts. Spent 30 minutes with my fingers and have only reached half-way :(",
"Fastest way to get that stringy thing through a pair of gym shorts. Spent 30 minutes with my fingers and have only reached half-way :(",
"Fastest way to get that stringy thing through a pair of gym shorts. Spent 30 minutes with my fingers and have only reached half-way :(",
"Fastest way to get that stringy thing through a pair of gym shorts. Spent 30 minutes with my fingers and have only reached half-way :(",
"Fastest way to get that stringy thing through a pair of gym shorts. Spent 30 minutes with my fingers and have only reached half-way :(",
"Fastest way to get that stringy thing through a pair of gym shorts. Spent 30 minutes with my fingers and have only reached half-way :(",
"Fastest way to get that stringy thing through a pair of gym shorts. Spent 30 minutes with my fingers and have only reached half-way :(",
"Fastest way to get that stringy thing through a pair of gym shorts. Spent 30 minutes with my fingers and have only reached half-way :("
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"Pin a medium or large safety pin to the end of the string and then thread the safety pin through the hole. Because the safety pin is rigid, it's easier to push through the casing. \n\nSource: Been sewing for 35 years - this is how we do it. ",
"You could try a metal coat hanger. Unwind it and stretch it and make a little hook on one end and try to thread it through. I used this method when a sock got sucked into the vacuum tube one time. ",
"Copper Clothes Hanger, tape the string to the very end of the hanger tapering it to a point so it doesn't snag. ( Used this to get wires through the firewall grommets on my car as well.)",
"I use a safety pin. Tie the safety pin to one end, threading through the hole with the safety pin is much easier and gives you something solid to pull the rest through the seam and eventually easier to pull out of the exit hole",
"You could try putting one leg in one hole, and the other leg in the other hole. The label goes to the back, remember. ;)",
"Once attached correct, consider sewing the string on the rear of the pants so it does not detach itself again.",
"1. Open a wire coat hanger.\n1. About 1\" from an end, bend the wire over itself (to give it a soft front that wont catch on the fabric)\n1. Tie string to the bend\n1. Push through shorts\n\n[example using a hoodie](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dF9_-OlmhU8)",
"I've found the easiest way is to sharpen your fingers with a nail file. Makes it easier to get in those hard to reach pant/short holes",
"take a string from a pair of gym shorts and pull it out all the way. Tie the other shorts string to the other string and feed it through the shorts missing the string and pull it through with the other shorts string until it is out of both holes in the waist band. untie strings and repeat from the beginning with the other shorts.\nthis is the simplest way I can think of."
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"How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this.",
"How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this.",
"How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this.",
"How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this.",
"How do I meet new people who already are in their circle of friends? I live in a city and I would like to meet new people. But I'm socially awkward, shy, and not a party type of person. So whenever I say hi and make a conversation with someone, it got cut short by some situation (their friend step in and takes them to another place, or some show event just started) and I get left out. Can anybody help me out? I know this question has been asked a lot. So I apologize about this."
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"You invest time into trying (like you have been) and you'll work your way into the right, inclusive, groups. The exclusive ones are not worth keeping because they're typically insecure and generally don't allow you to expand your circle. \n\nProvide them with opportunities to be inclusive such as telling them that you're new in the area and looking to meet people.\n\nMy best advice would be to take on a hobby that you enjoy and go to a public group or class that does that hobby. People with similar hobbies tend to click the best because they already have something in common.",
"Pets...its easy and they are the ice breaker. I just moved to san antonio and my roommates are always at work, so to make friends i take my dog to the bars. Ppl come up and introduce themselves to me and my dog Roach all the time.",
"i've noticed when i meet a person one on one in a neutral, more \"natural\" situation like school or work, i will befriend them so how and then i meet their other friends. That adds on and then you end up meeting new people ",
"Just focus on meeting one good person who enjoys doing the same things as you! They will introduce you to their friends, who will introduce you to their friends, and eventually you will know every person in that city. If you meet someone new in public and the conversation is going well then exchange information. Casually ask them to hangout by suggesting an activity you both would enjoy. Follow through with your plans and you will have a new friend in no time. You will probably get blown off a few times, but don't let this get you down. These people obviously are not worth your time anyway. Don't get discouraged and keep at it, eventually you will find an amazing friend.",
"If you have a car then drive Uber for few hours every week. You will meet interesting people and make new friends."
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"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! ",
"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! ",
"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! ",
"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! ",
"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! ",
"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! ",
"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! ",
"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! ",
"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! ",
"How to overcome test taking anxiety After taking a physics test today, I was a bit disappointed to see that the mistakes that I made were all very careless, and simple. I feel as if I would have no problem doing most tests under normal conditions, but something about the atmosphere of it and the pressure of knowing my grades depend on me doing well always makes me tend to rush and make careless mistakes. How do you guys suggest beating this anxiety? It's not my study habits that need to change, I always know the material very well. I do well in my classes, but am always aggravated with the little careless errors that I make. Thank you in advance! "
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"It helped me a lot to wear earplugs during tests to keep me focused and free from noisy distractions. Distractions break your concentration and make things take longer, as well as making it hard to focus and therefore easier to miss things. It might help if you study with earplugs on too, then the testing atmosphere may feel more similar to your studying atmosphere which may help you be less nervous.\n\nAlso, never leave a test early unless you have had time to go over your test at least twice. I was usually the last person to leave the testing room because I would go over all of my calculations and check everything obsessively before I would let myself leave. I notice people often pride themselves in finishing tests as quickly as possible for some reason. As tempting as it is to leave class earlier than normal, it's not worth it if you value your grades!",
"Take sample tests in a similar environment to desensitize yourself. For example, sit at a table in the library and time yourself doing homework questions or sample tests.\n\n\nThe secondary benefit to this is that you are able to recount information more accurately if you are in the same “memory state” when you are recalling information as when you learned it. \n",
"This is not from personal experience - I read it in a university newsletter, and it is mostly used for *crippling* exam stress: beta-blockers. Ask if your doctor will prescribe you a single beta-blocker to take about an hour before your exam. (You'll need to ensure they don't have any side effects before trying it on an important exam.) If they recommend against it - take their advice, not mine!",
"choose an instremental version to a song you like and listen to it while studying, during the test, think of the song and i promise it will help you relax",
"Why don't you finish the test, and get up and go to the bathroom? leave all your stuff so as not to cause suspicion, etc. Go to the bathroom, splash your face with water, do a few jumping jacks, etc, then go back, and read all of your answers and check your work. \n\nI disagree with the guy that said don't leave a test early, I simply finished all tests early because I knew my stuff. Don't let other people's speed freak you out. If you finish early, awesome. If you take forever, so what? They don't give bonuses for finishing early/late. ",
"One method that I use:\n1. Found out how long you have to do test and how many questions are on test. \n2. Double number of questions and then divide that into the time you have to take the test. \n3. Now you know exactly how many seconds roughly you can afford to spend without feeling rushed. \n4. After you are done, you will have double that time to go back and tackle the questions again that you didn't finish completely and also review the ones you did. ",
"I'm a premed student, I've passed physics. I'm not the smartest but I'm not the dumbest. Through the Disability resource center I started getting extended testing time. I never use all if it is just knowing I have the time. Plus I take it in one if their rooms not in a huge auditorium. Look into that if you are college or talk to your guidance counsellor in HS \nDon't feel ashamed 10% of gifted students have a learning disability and we adapt and HS since we do work hard, once college comes it's like you hit a wall, sound familiar?",
"Double and triple check your answers. Mistakes etch away at your grade. \n\nThis involves managing your time well. Don't rush. First, read through all the questions. Tackle the ones you know you can do first (the easier questions are usually worth as much as the harder ones), and likewise don't spend too much time on any one question until the others you know you can do are done. 20% of the effort on a question will often get you half the cr",
"I used to do conscious relaxation techniques before big tests to clear my head. Or rub one out before the test.",
"I used to do a shot of vodka or Bacardi right before test. It was enough to keep the edge off an keep me relaxed. "
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"Any top tips to keep in mind when selling a car? Selling a car soon and hoping to get the most from it and avoid getting hosed by someone! Also I'm not sure how good it is to sell to a dealer vs a private party on Craigslist.",
"Any top tips to keep in mind when selling a car? Selling a car soon and hoping to get the most from it and avoid getting hosed by someone! Also I'm not sure how good it is to sell to a dealer vs a private party on Craigslist.",
"Any top tips to keep in mind when selling a car? Selling a car soon and hoping to get the most from it and avoid getting hosed by someone! Also I'm not sure how good it is to sell to a dealer vs a private party on Craigslist.",
"Any top tips to keep in mind when selling a car? Selling a car soon and hoping to get the most from it and avoid getting hosed by someone! Also I'm not sure how good it is to sell to a dealer vs a private party on Craigslist."
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"**Smell and cleanliness sell!**\n\nUse **deodorisers**, not perfumes. Even smells of gasoline, oil vapours, etc. can put off a potential buyer. Fabrics can be freshened with *Febreze* (or similar products), but make sure it doesn't stain anything. A mild soap on a damp cloth can help you with most parts that you touch regularly, just don't use -alcohol- or other aggressive chemicals.\n\nMake sure all glasswork and rubbers are clean as well, without streaks.\n\nA potential buyer might be looking for their first car, and wants it to be a lasting positive experience.",
"You actually want the black book value. You can start here to find it for free.\nhttps://www.cars.com/sell/book-value/",
"What I did was clean everything out of my car. Collected all of the car stuff like owners manual and extra car keys. Removed all the personal stuff like change and stuff on the key rings. \n\nI then took it to a detailer and had a regular car wash and the interior steam cleaned. After it dried out. I took it to a Car Max with the title and got a quote for them to buy it. \n\nWith the quote that's good for 30 days. I tried to sell it myself. But no one who had any money would go above the Car Max quote.\n\nEnded up just talking it back to Car Max. An hour later I was out the door with a check.",
"Get a car wash and clean the interior well. Find bluebook value for your vehicles condition. Take lots of pictures if you're going to post online. Give as much detail as possible if listing."
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"Substitue for q-tips? I’m trying to clean the slots of a standing fan but we don’t have any q-tips and a paper towel isn’t cutting it. Is there anything else I could use?",
"Substitue for q-tips? I’m trying to clean the slots of a standing fan but we don’t have any q-tips and a paper towel isn’t cutting it. Is there anything else I could use?",
"Substitue for q-tips? I’m trying to clean the slots of a standing fan but we don’t have any q-tips and a paper towel isn’t cutting it. Is there anything else I could use?",
"Substitue for q-tips? I’m trying to clean the slots of a standing fan but we don’t have any q-tips and a paper towel isn’t cutting it. Is there anything else I could use?"
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"Wrap the paper towel around a butter knife or a bamboo skewer. A wet towel will clean better than a dry one. Use rubbing alcohol if you are concerned about rusting.",
"A clean worn out t-shirt or underpants torn orcut into rags , dampened will do the trick. Reusable, after washing. In absence of a hose you can use a handheld shower nozzel. Just be careful to make sure the motor is dry before using it again.",
"There is a new spiral like product I’ve seen commercials for that gets all of it instead of pushing it in like a q-tip.",
"I cleaned a fan in no time with a brush. We have one designed for cleaning tile or floors, it has nylon bristles about 1.5\" long. You see similar brushes for cleaning dishes."
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"How to stop chewing the inside of your cheeks I have an awful habit of constantly chewing the inside of my mouth. It's been years... how do I stop? Thanks!",
"How to stop chewing the inside of your cheeks I have an awful habit of constantly chewing the inside of my mouth. It's been years... how do I stop? Thanks!",
"How to stop chewing the inside of your cheeks I have an awful habit of constantly chewing the inside of my mouth. It's been years... how do I stop? Thanks!",
"How to stop chewing the inside of your cheeks I have an awful habit of constantly chewing the inside of my mouth. It's been years... how do I stop? Thanks!",
"How to stop chewing the inside of your cheeks I have an awful habit of constantly chewing the inside of my mouth. It's been years... how do I stop? Thanks!"
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"Do you scrape the chewed spot every once in a while with your finger to get all of the dead skin away, too? That's the best and worst part, imo. ",
"In the same boat! I used to have braces and they scarred the crap out of my lips on the inside (not visible). It's annoying as hell and I'm always biting and chewing my lips/cheeks cause of it. It's been years now and am still trying to stop. The only way I can do it successfully is to fully concentrate on not doing it. Or chew some gum or just keep my mind busy with other things. But then I realize after 10 minutes I'm doing it again and need to find a way to stop. Was thinking to try hypnotism maybe? I guess I'm just glad to not be the only one with this horrible habbit. ",
"I did this all my life!! That is until I developed TMJ (Temporal mandibular joint) pain and found that if I kept my jaw more neutral, that joint wouldn't pop me so much. \nI hope you find something because I know what this habit is like.",
" Recovering chewer. I still do it a little from time to time near the corner of my lip but not the point of massive bloodloss through a hole in my cheek anymore. \n\nYoull still (and prob always) have to chew something as a surrogate. - I still chew my nails, a pen lid, a paperclip, pretty much anything. You just substitute something else less damaging for the cheek. \n\n Curious, do you get that strange pleasure from tooth pain? So hard to describe. \n\n",
"I had that same problem! The insides of my cheeks looked like I'd been making out with a rabid possum.\n\nOne thing that helped was first becoming aware of it, and using pavlovian conditioning. I kept a rubber band on my wrist and whenever I caught myself chewing, I would snap it. \n\nIt didn't really hurt that much. What it did, though, was make me subconsciously aware that I wasn't supposed to be doing it, and I found myself \"catching myself in the act\" more and more often, making it easier to stop."
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"how to deal with spiders without hurting them (I'm under siege, halp!) I have a (humane) vacuum pipe, but it doesn't seem to make a huge difference. I evict one spider, three move in. \n\nThere are so many products that promise a spider-free oasis, but I'm afraid they may hurt the leggy bastards. \n\nDo you have any first-hand experience with something that really worked without harming the spiders? \n\nPlease.",
"how to deal with spiders without hurting them (I'm under siege, halp!) I have a (humane) vacuum pipe, but it doesn't seem to make a huge difference. I evict one spider, three move in. \n\nThere are so many products that promise a spider-free oasis, but I'm afraid they may hurt the leggy bastards. \n\nDo you have any first-hand experience with something that really worked without harming the spiders? \n\nPlease.",
"how to deal with spiders without hurting them (I'm under siege, halp!) I have a (humane) vacuum pipe, but it doesn't seem to make a huge difference. I evict one spider, three move in. \n\nThere are so many products that promise a spider-free oasis, but I'm afraid they may hurt the leggy bastards. \n\nDo you have any first-hand experience with something that really worked without harming the spiders? \n\nPlease.",
"how to deal with spiders without hurting them (I'm under siege, halp!) I have a (humane) vacuum pipe, but it doesn't seem to make a huge difference. I evict one spider, three move in. \n\nThere are so many products that promise a spider-free oasis, but I'm afraid they may hurt the leggy bastards. \n\nDo you have any first-hand experience with something that really worked without harming the spiders? \n\nPlease.",
"how to deal with spiders without hurting them (I'm under siege, halp!) I have a (humane) vacuum pipe, but it doesn't seem to make a huge difference. I evict one spider, three move in. \n\nThere are so many products that promise a spider-free oasis, but I'm afraid they may hurt the leggy bastards. \n\nDo you have any first-hand experience with something that really worked without harming the spiders? \n\nPlease.",
"how to deal with spiders without hurting them (I'm under siege, halp!) I have a (humane) vacuum pipe, but it doesn't seem to make a huge difference. I evict one spider, three move in. \n\nThere are so many products that promise a spider-free oasis, but I'm afraid they may hurt the leggy bastards. \n\nDo you have any first-hand experience with something that really worked without harming the spiders? \n\nPlease."
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"Talk to the folks over at /r/spiderbro - they express their appreciation of spiders.\n\nI like spiders. If they're just up in a corner of the room, I leave them alone because they'll handle any annoying bugs like mosquitos, flies or gnats. If they are at my place of business where customers will freak out, I catch them by putting a cup over them, then sliding a card under the cup and taking them outside.",
"I usually kill a few, place them on pikes around entry points until they get the idea, failing that, construct a gallows. I know you don't want to hurt them but kill a few to deter many! ",
"You could coexist with them. 98% of spiders in North America are venomous but also completely harmless to humans. They kill other insects that spread nasty microbes. ",
"They'll eat all the pests until they run out of food. At that point they'll leave or die. Tough to get them out of the house without mortally injuring them. Try balling up really fluffy Kleenex to put over them. Roll it up just a little to keep him restrained. Go outside and gently unroll and see if he walks out. As long as its not a black widow or brown recluse...they shouldn't cause you much concern.",
"Since they're not poisonous your best bet is the vacuum or gently trapping and relocating them.\n\nPreventative use a mint or white vinegar and water 50/50 solution. Spiders detest the smell of both, mint smells better but is more expensive.",
"Like anything else, they are going to go where the food is. Keep your home and property clean. They will be attracted to other insects, so try to keep those insects away. We use glue traps, it's not humane...but we have brown recluses around here. I can't take any chances with those. Although, other spiders I just don't bother. So just learn more about the spiders in your area and how to prevent them from coming into your home. It's not a bad idea to make sure the exterior of your home is sealed properly,although no matter how well you seal everything off...bugs of any kind can find a way in. "
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"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight.",
"how to efficiently lose weight and gain muscle Over the last couple months I've noticed my self get bigger. My stomach is growing and my back is getting fat as well. What are some good exercises to do to help lose fat/weight."
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"Eat less and work out.\n\nYou don't lose weight by exercising (but it can help you stay on track by letting you eat a bit more). You lose weight by going into a calorie deficit. Weight training and cardio boost fitness. \n\nGo to /r/fitness for some ideas. /r/loseit is good, too. \n\nI use [MyFitnessPal](http://www.myfitnesspal.com/) to count calories. Put in your goals and it tells you how much to net each day.\n\nGood luck!",
"swap carbs for more protein. think pasta, white plain rice, bread. eat less of this. swap for cleaner, slow burning carbs food (low gi) like brown rice, basmati rice, oats, no sugar/ flavour greek yoghurt, potato with skin on, legumes... think of high fibre as your friends. increase your intake of clean protein such as chicken breasts, turkey breast, veal, eggs and avoid all processed meat(sausages, patties etc). increase your intake of green/ color intense vegies such as spinich, broccoli, carrots, tomatoes, brussel sprouts, strawberries and cauliflower. the more superfoods you get in your body, the less likely you will loose muscle mass, and the more likely you will see fat slip away slowly. you will need to cook your own meals everyday to do this. make sure your calorie deficit it not too little that you start to lose muscle mass, remember that cutting fat and sugar is the main priority of your intake. ditch all drinks including juice, and just bring a bottle of water everywhere with you.\n\nthat said....don't entirely restrict yourself. treats are allowed as long as you are getting regular exercise in (around 4 times a week on average). but dont go overboard with the treats. \n\nlift weights, and go heavier slowly. some cardio is affective, but combined with heaby lifting, you will see both fat loss + muscle gain. ",
"get rid of your junk food and buy healthy snacks like fruits/veggies and whole grain crackers with hummus or other spread, track what you eat using an app, work out to gain muscle, ",
"Count calories and try for a body split program. heaps online\n\nLiterally diet and exercise is the only thing that will work, took me 7 years but i learnt that harsh lesson so suck it up and go through with it",
"This is extremely difficult to do unless you are new to bodybuilding. After a few years, you really have to start the bulk/cut routine, unless you are disciplined enough to do what they call a \"recomp\".\n\nMy girlfriend has her nutrition degree, and there's a lot of complicated science that goes into dieting properly - but when it comes to gaining or losing weight, in the most simple sense - your body gaining or losing mass overall, calories in and calories out are the only things that matter. *There is absolutely no debating this*. These are *fundamental* laws of *physics*. If you consume fewer calories than your body uses throughout the day, it *must* get that energy from somewhere, and barring some sort of black magic, it *must* get that energy from your body stores. This is usually fat. On the other hand, if you eat more than you use, you will gain weight. No ifs, ands or buts. Anybody who disputes this fails to understand the fundamental laws of the universe. Your body cannot use energy it doesn't have without losing mass. It's not possible.\n\nHowever, from then on out it gets much more complicated. When you eat more than your body burned throughout the day - whether or not that excess energy goes into building muscle or storing fat depends on a lot. Your workout habits, the foods you actually ate to consume the calories, your sleep schedule...\n\n\nSo that's why it's hard to put on muscle and lose fat at the same time. You basically have to force your body to break down fats, while at the same time giving it enough food to put on muscle. Many people who try this advocate eating less in the morning and doing cardio, then eating more at night and doing weight lifting.",
"The easy and effective way is to get a crossfit membership and eat a lot of meat veggies and fruit instead of wheat and chips.",
"Mr perfect pull-up door frame mount. Just hang with toes still on the ground. Gradually put more pressure on your grip. Try to just hang everyday to build up hand and forearm strength. Soon you'll be able to pull yourself up without thinking about losing your grip. Chin up are probably best for newbies. \nTry to pick a door frame that doesn't need a closed door. It's a little annoying to put it up every time but not too bad. Easier access means less excuses. ",
"I have been a personal trainer for 14 years now and I can tell you that the answer is not so simple as those given so far.\n\nTo put it simply...\n\n**Reduction in calorific intake =** Body slows metabolism to survive. Results are short-lived unsustainable and often unrepeatable. Often followed by increased appetite and sleeplessness.\n\n**Increasing calorific expenditure =** Body slows metabolism to survive. Results are short-lived unsustainable and often unrepeatable.\n\n**Increasing protein intake =** Body goes into cell building mode as it is preparing for harsher conditions. (Naturally protein intake would have historically increased during the winter as plant foods would be scarce and we would be forced to hunt). Body therefore increases appetite, aggression levels, increases core temperature and fat stores to deal with the cold.\n\n**Increasing protein intake with decreased carbohydrates =** Body loses fat temporarily due to increased temperature and consitent low blood sugar as it takes longer to convert protein and fat to glycogen than carbohydrates. Body becomes malnourished and as programmed to grow at times of high protein intake, increases sugar and starch cravings. This is the most dangerous method due to constipation (lack of fibre), deficiency (lack of nutrients), dehydration (less water in protein foods). Also cravings almost always win. This method is completely unsustainable and dangerous. High protein also leads to increased acid in the body, thus increasing risk of viruses and other illnesses.\n\nAs I said it is far more complex than others would have you believe. If you would like to know more... I'll show you what I achieved with my clients and I'll tell you what to do. **Let me know.**",
"Four Hour Body! I went from 250lbs+ down to 175lbs with little to no effort. Go get the book. You don't even have to follow it to a t. I am living proof.",
"Cut through all the bullshit, the only thing that matters is calories in, calories out. To burn fat, you need to be consuming less calories that what you are using for the day. Calculate your TDEE (Total daily energy expenditure) and start eating 250-500 calories less than that number for weight loss.\n\nSecond of all, get Myfitnesspal. It's an app that allows you to count your calories very, very easily, and it'll guide you though the process of calculating your TDEE. You can even scan packages of food and it'll spit out the nutritional information.\n\nCheck out /r/fitness and /r/loseit. Both subs have an amazing community that will help you guide you in the right direction in addition to well written, easy to read wikis on the subject of weight loss. Good luck to you in your journey. If you have any questions feel free to PM me. ",
"It's mostly about the diet, and making it a lifestyle. Reduce as much as possible Sugars and starches, and replace with healthy fats. This will help you manage your appetite and reduce cravings.\n\nhttp://eatingacademy.com/how-can-i-lose-weight",
"But veggies (apple, sweat potato, lettuce) in blender and drink to detox. \n\nWork your problematic regions - if you want to reduce stomach fat, do ABS routines. If you feel your back is getting out of shape, do squats. \n\nBut remember: diet is only 10% of success, you can eat whatever you want (except bread because gluten) if you work out hard enough."
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"How to speak with confidence and not mumble. I've had this problem since I was young. English is actually my second language, even though I was born here. I had a little late start learning it. Combined with my shyness growing up (and an aversion to yelling-- long story), I developed a reliance on a soft speaking tone. \n\nI hate it. I have strong opinions deep down and love to speak my mind, but I can't shake this whisper voice I have. Sometimes I have no control over it; when I get excited it's like I'm not used to talking and my voice gets shrill. It's annoying to me and sometimes people have flat out told me that they cannot hear me. \n\nHow can I change my speaking tone?",
"How to speak with confidence and not mumble. I've had this problem since I was young. English is actually my second language, even though I was born here. I had a little late start learning it. Combined with my shyness growing up (and an aversion to yelling-- long story), I developed a reliance on a soft speaking tone. \n\nI hate it. I have strong opinions deep down and love to speak my mind, but I can't shake this whisper voice I have. Sometimes I have no control over it; when I get excited it's like I'm not used to talking and my voice gets shrill. It's annoying to me and sometimes people have flat out told me that they cannot hear me. \n\nHow can I change my speaking tone?",
"How to speak with confidence and not mumble. I've had this problem since I was young. English is actually my second language, even though I was born here. I had a little late start learning it. Combined with my shyness growing up (and an aversion to yelling-- long story), I developed a reliance on a soft speaking tone. \n\nI hate it. I have strong opinions deep down and love to speak my mind, but I can't shake this whisper voice I have. Sometimes I have no control over it; when I get excited it's like I'm not used to talking and my voice gets shrill. It's annoying to me and sometimes people have flat out told me that they cannot hear me. \n\nHow can I change my speaking tone?",
"How to speak with confidence and not mumble. I've had this problem since I was young. English is actually my second language, even though I was born here. I had a little late start learning it. Combined with my shyness growing up (and an aversion to yelling-- long story), I developed a reliance on a soft speaking tone. \n\nI hate it. I have strong opinions deep down and love to speak my mind, but I can't shake this whisper voice I have. Sometimes I have no control over it; when I get excited it's like I'm not used to talking and my voice gets shrill. It's annoying to me and sometimes people have flat out told me that they cannot hear me. \n\nHow can I change my speaking tone?",
"How to speak with confidence and not mumble. I've had this problem since I was young. English is actually my second language, even though I was born here. I had a little late start learning it. Combined with my shyness growing up (and an aversion to yelling-- long story), I developed a reliance on a soft speaking tone. \n\nI hate it. I have strong opinions deep down and love to speak my mind, but I can't shake this whisper voice I have. Sometimes I have no control over it; when I get excited it's like I'm not used to talking and my voice gets shrill. It's annoying to me and sometimes people have flat out told me that they cannot hear me. \n\nHow can I change my speaking tone?",
"How to speak with confidence and not mumble. I've had this problem since I was young. English is actually my second language, even though I was born here. I had a little late start learning it. Combined with my shyness growing up (and an aversion to yelling-- long story), I developed a reliance on a soft speaking tone. \n\nI hate it. I have strong opinions deep down and love to speak my mind, but I can't shake this whisper voice I have. Sometimes I have no control over it; when I get excited it's like I'm not used to talking and my voice gets shrill. It's annoying to me and sometimes people have flat out told me that they cannot hear me. \n\nHow can I change my speaking tone?",
"How to speak with confidence and not mumble. I've had this problem since I was young. English is actually my second language, even though I was born here. I had a little late start learning it. Combined with my shyness growing up (and an aversion to yelling-- long story), I developed a reliance on a soft speaking tone. \n\nI hate it. I have strong opinions deep down and love to speak my mind, but I can't shake this whisper voice I have. Sometimes I have no control over it; when I get excited it's like I'm not used to talking and my voice gets shrill. It's annoying to me and sometimes people have flat out told me that they cannot hear me. \n\nHow can I change my speaking tone?"
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"I'm a professional sales person, and have been for 10 years. I also train new sales people. Heres my tips.\n\nSpeak louder. The voice in your own head is a different pitch and volume than what people are actually hearing. Keep speaking louder until people start asking you why you are yelling. Then tone it back. Record yourself talking, so you can hear what you actually sound like. Change your voice until you like how it actually sounds in real life. \n\nSlow down. A lot of people who are actually afraid of speaking, speak really fast. It's like they are trying to get all the words out before they inconvenience someone. Dont do this. Take your time, change your tone, use pauses to build.... suspense.\n\nUse open body language, dont put your hands in your pockets, or hold them, or worse put them behind your back together. Open and at your sides. Relax\n\nLook people in the eye for a couple seconds, and then look away, but not at the floor. Dont stare at the floor ever.\n\n",
"i had a minor speech impediment for good while, and it still re-surfaces occasionally if I'm not fully concentrating on a conversation (its not so bad anymore though.)\nit was a mix of speaking too softly and often starting normally but trailing off into a whisper, and it bugged me for a while and my parents weren't helpful whatsoever.\nits gonna sound weird and dumb but just talk to yourself all the time when you're alone (your room is probably the best place) and it could be anything, like quoting movie lines from films you like, trying different accents and funky ways of speaking, or reading books aloud (this helps so so much especially, plays, movie scripts or just any books with lots of dialogue, any book is good really.) \nthe main goal is just to get comfortable with your own voice as best you can until you have no problems with how it sounds, cos everyones voice deserves to be heard.\n\nhoped this helps ya!",
"Speak louder. Its common for younger people to mumble, like you can hear yourself so that should be loud enough. But other people can not hear you. We don't want to read lips, speak up and stop thinking about it. After saying \"What\" once, I give up on trying to hear what you are saying. ",
"Singing tricks time:\n\nPosture is important. It'll make you look more confident and you'll have an easier time with the next step, so stand up straight. Don't arch your back though, just try to imagine a line from your ears to your shoulders to your hips and heels, and try to make it so everything's in the same line. For most natural positions, this posture is appropriate.\n\nNext up, hold some tension in your abs. For an exercise, try to push all the air out of your lungs using your belly muscles. I think you'll find that you can sustain a longer, more even breath this way. Additionally, you will find that you have great projection because you have a constant pressure on your air. \n\nNow just make sure you look at their face. Doesn't usually hurt to smile a little bit.",
"I remember one of the best tips I received in speech class was to concentrate on speaking slower. It's strange at first because you think you're speaking too slow but it actually comes out just right...a lot of times people get nervous talking and end up getting verbal diarrhea. Also pause a moment instead of using filler words like \"uhmmm\" \n\nPractice by taping yourself and watching how these methods look normal on video.",
"I recommend Toastmasters. They exist for the soul purpose of making people better speakers, not just presenters. I started dropping in as a guest (free) and really found it to help. I am almost certain you would be able to find one nearby. https://www.toastmasters.org/",
"I have the same problem even in my \nlanguage as well as in English. The loudness of the speech is not the problem, but the articulation is. If you mumble noone will understand you no matter how loud you are speaking. Try to articulate correctly, helped me a lot. Try to practice the hard sounds like C K T P With over-emphasizing them, it will get better understandable to the other people. To help you in particular, it's good to know what's your main language? pronunciation problems are closely related to this! "
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"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?",
"How to deal with people you don't like, who for some reason like you? You meet someone and after spending some time around them you are sure that you don't like them. You don't agree with any of their opinions, you both have different outlooks on the world and they're definitely not someone you would have fun hanging out with. But for some reason this person likes you, keeps calling you to hang out and you can't even fathom why they would. How would you handle this situation?"
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"I never was able to figure out how to handle this gracefully. I just avoided people until they got the hint. It might have been better for me to be direct but I never tried it so I wouldn't know. \n\nGood luck to you. ",
"Another thing to consider is why you don't like them. Often your feelings for certain people have solid foundation, but sometimes you may be wrong. Try to get to know them and make sure your opinion of them is yours, and not swayed too much by your common connections.",
"I would say be straight with them. It may be difficult, and you could come across as dickish, but in the end it's usually worth it to be honest about your feelings, especially when it's hardest to do so. ",
"As a person who tends to like everyone at first, please just tell me. It scrambles my emotions trying to figure out what I did to wrong you. I do understand when I'm told, but I can't convince myself that it's for no reason.",
"Did this to a couple after they just 'dropped round' one day.\n\nAll my friends know I'm usually up for most things, but you don't come over unannounced. Cardinal fucking rule unless it's an emergency. \n\nSo I got blunt, told them I was busy, bid them goodbye, and closed the door in their astonished faces. \n\nAfter that I realised they were just being clingy, needy assholes. Just tried WAY too hard. So I kinda ghosted. Saw him in the street. He said hi, I said hi, I just kept going. They got the hint after that. \n\n",
"I had to just be straight recently. Guy kept asking me to hang out and wouldn't take the hint with my constant 'I'm busy', 'I have a lot to do' etc eventually I has to tell him I didn't want to hang out with him.\n\nIt didn't feel good but at least he's off my back now.\n",
"Your best bet is to just come out and say, \"Hey, this isn't working out.\" You don't need excuses, a reason or anything. Stringing them along won't do any good, nor will ignoring them. Ghosting them is just bad form and makes you look like an ass.\n\nIf they ask why, just tell them exactly what you said here. People as a whole are bad at taking subtle hints. Ignoring can be taken as there's something wrong and you need a friend or you're just busy so try again later. A straight to the face, \"I don't have fun hanging with you.\" Is pretty hard to misinterpret.",
"I hang out with them but only in groups and not that often. It never hurts to be nice to people even if you don't let them monopolise your time. ",
"Oh God, just reading this title made me cringe so hard at the terrible ways I've avoided people who weren't bad people. I was just an asshole. ",
"They are usually low hanging fruit who have to aggressively seek out friends because they have a high turnaround for reasons that will soon become apparent. Or have already. Be polite but firm in your consistently saying no to invitations that take things from acquaintance to something more. Remain polite at all times. \"Manners maketh man\". That's enough to send the message. Everyone has to be able to get along with people they don't like at work and in families so you can remain in contact as acquaintances but stand your ground. You never know. Maybe you'll learn to see them differently over time and you won't have burned a bridge. Otherwise, worst case scenario you learn to cope with and interface with all kinds of people without running away. ",
"Personally what I do is treat them like I would a cashier or a waiter. Be polite, but not \"personable\" if you that makes sense. Don't offer any stories about yourself, listen politely if they do, but ask no questions and offer no openings to turn the conversation about you. You don't have to be an asshole, you can smile and and nod, but anything more will encourage them to continue seeking you out for conversation.\n\nI find that after a few interactions people will get the hint, or will assume that you are \"no fun\" and move on to the next person. ",
"I work with someone who gets it now but this is how it played out. He would always want to hang and then get sad puppy eyes because I'd say I was busy. I was pretty obviously not but he continued asking. So I started asking others in front of him to do something and turn him down when he would ask me. I would normally never do that. He still didn't get it. One day I finally said, \"It's not personal, I just don't like you. I respect you and I have no bad feelings for you but I have no interest in bring friends with you.\" This worked until he started improving a bit at work and I stuck up for him a couple times (I supervise him sometimes) now he thinks he won me over just because I want to be fair at work. So I guess I can't answer your question. Sorry.",
"I dealt with something like this once, way back when. Maybe my experience will help. \n\nGirl used to hang out with my friend group in high school. She was cool. One day she turned *not* cool. We all started not inviting her to things and she'd find a way to invite herself anyways. Ugh. She doesn't ever really take the hint we don't like her but then we graduate, go to college and don't hear from her for a long time. Somehow she finds out about a reunion camping trip we planned and again invites herself. She gets super drunk the first night, pukes in the tent and we still have a couple more days with this girl. \n\nMonths later we try to arrange a meetup again and she finds out and tries to invite herself. We're all much more mature at this point and one of us just gives it to her straight. \"We don't like you and we don't want you to hang out with us.\" She was mad. Blocked us all on social media and sent us all very passive aggressive messages. We felt bad for a bit and then moved on. We should have told her sooner but we were afraid how she'd react.\n\nIf I had to do it all over again I'd just tell her how we all actually felt. This girl had done enough to us to warrant a shun long before the camping trip and yet we never said anything because we were afraid to hurt her feelings. Then we realized we don't care about her feelings because she obviously didn't care about ours. We're adults now and we don't have to put up with that crap. \n\nTL;DR: Just tell them how you feel if you really are annoyed and uncomfortable. I think people don't often know what's wrong with them because others don't tell them. Try not to worry about hurting their feelings because you need to do this for you. \n\nHope this helps.",
"easy, tell them your feelings and then block them on all possible social media outlets that they could contact you on. if they try to reach irl then call the cops for stalking problem solved.",
"Try to give them a chance if they're someone who isn't a bad influence in your life. It's good to be around people with whom you disagree. You don't have to share every opinion - that would make the world extremely boring. \n\nOf course, if this person is a bad influence on your life, you're doing the right thing by removing them. ",
"LPT: Embrace difference with tolerance. If we weren't all different I'd get sick of myself as them. Wait, no it's them. I'd get sick of the same them as me!",
"I've found that it's better to just not be such a prude and try to like them back. Everyone has something to offer. Now if you have a solid reason for why you don't like them literally just be upfront about it and they will probably back off or they will do something about it if they would like to turn you into a friend. ",
"I am in a situation much like this, but the problem is the guy seems to have no other friends, his parents hate him, and is just in general very annoying. How can i let him down? I have also already hung out with him, so i have no idea what to do.",
"Find out what annoys or disgusts them and find a non obvious way to use that. Much kinder than offending them which would also work.",
"A lot of people are saying to be straightforward and while that's definitely the way to go if you already have a friendship, if he's an acquaintance trying to be friends, I would just stop interacting with him. When he asks to hang out say no, thanks without offering an excuse. It's honestly not any of his business what you think of him. You don't owe him any explanation. Just be very direct when you interact with him.",
"You don't have to like someone to be nice to them. You dont have to hang out or be around someone if you do t want to. Just decline invites and eventually they'll stop inviting you. ",
"Well, you sound a little closed minded and somewhat childish. You could just tell the person you don't want to hang out with them and that you don't see them as being a friend. \nAbraham Lincoln once said, \"I do not like this man, I must get to know him.\"",
"Well you are screwed, you have two options. A. Be a Jerk and tell them to fuck off. \nB. Vanish, say you are busy with boring stuff (If you work for the CIA for example, don't say \"I'm busy at work\" because that's sort of awesome and people will want to talk about that.) If your job is boring you can say \"I'm kind of busy, with my job\"",
"This is extremely easy. Be vocal about things you disagree with when talking to them, and try to actually explain your thought process(so you dont come off as confrontational) and keep an open mind yourself. The situation will resolve itself every time, sometimes in good and unexpected ways if you both turn out to be open minded. If not theyll just stop talking to you too, win-win.",
"There's no easy way to do this. Either you straight up say it to him, which is not a dick move but it's difficult. If you don't do that, you just have to keep airing his texts/approaches until he gets the message.",
"Tell them you don't like being around then, and to please leave you alone. It is cruel and cowardly to allow them to persist in the delusion of your friendship. The truth will free both of you.",
"Say you're not in a talking mood and/or just say you would prefer to focus on your work/studying atm.",
"Please just tell them how you feel. If I was in that person's shoes I would want to know so I don't waste my time. It's sort of like trying to date someone. Spending time getting to know them and then having them not tell you after months of chasing them. It's just a waste of time for both parties. ",
"People like this should never be lied to in order to avoid awkwardness. Never lie! If you literally answer all their questions with truth - you will find a mutual understanding. There is something about you they like - why fuck it up trying to please them?",
"Its important to understand that they might just be lonely, and you might be the most available person around them. So you might not want to be real mean to them, but just continue to make yourself unavailable, let them know that you do not feel like hanging out, and that you're in need of some serious alone time. When they try to talk you out of it, just stand by your guns, \"I've had a shit day, I'm getting annoyed by everything, and I don't want to be around people.\" Its always better to tell someone no rather than do something that you don't want to do and be miserable the whole time. They should appreciate your honesty, and if they take it the wrong way and get upset about it, then they can stop reaching out to you for companionship and go fuck themselves. ",
"If there's a topic in particular you know you disagree on, say casually that you just really don't have the energy to get into it so you want to avoid it. If you meet up with them and avoid that topic, you might find you have other stuff in common and actually have fun. And if not I'd just tell them that you don't feel you have that much in common, nothing personal, but you're so different a lot of conversations feel like a debate, and whilst some people really like that, you'd much rather just have fun when catching up.",
"I have an issue with ghosting for an odd reason. I enjoy the company of people, but not very often. Honestly, I don't even want to hang out with my boyfriend who I'm crazy about more than once a week.\n\nPeople think I'm trying to give them the brush off, or that I'm an elitist because I don't want to go to happy hour, trivia night, on hikes, camping trips and to brunch with them.\n\nIt's not that I dislike the person inviting me, I just usually prefer to be alone.",
"I feel like I am in this exact situation. This is how I've chosen to think about and handle it..\n\nIf you dislike/ don't get along with this person then you probably behave or think I'm ways that fundamentally are incompatible with the way you live your life. Like maybe they eat exclusively meat and you like to eat vegan or maybe they're super loud and project their opinions over other people and you're introverted. \n\nI think that If someone likes you a lot, they probably also value your opinions a lot and you have some extra influence on them. So, why not use this extra influence to try to get them thinking or acting in a way that you get along with better? Maybe recommend they check out a documentary on introverts or conventional farming. Or try giving them direct feedback. \n\nMy favorite attempt at leading by example so far has been to reply in a whisper when they start talking way too loud. This is by no means tactful but it's a lot of fun. \n\nI've never been an especially tactful person and this is someone I work with in a professional environment. Dealing with this has been a challenge for me but I'm trying to consider it an opportunity to work on a skill I need to develop.\n\nPushing through trying to be polite to this person has let me spend time with and listen to a person that I otherwise wouldn't talk to for more than five minutes. I've come to appreciate and be genuine friends with this person even though they're super annoying sometimes. \n\n",
"I actually think ignoring a person might be an acceptable move. I mean, it feels wrong and you/I/everyone hates when it happens to them but...I'm convinced it builds social awareness. Now some people may not get the point and require someone being upfront with them. \n\nBut MOST people can gather when someone just isn't down, if that person isn't responding or reaching out to them. If not, that's a problem, because 9/10, people won't go out of their way to explain to you why they don't like you.",
"I actually found myself in this situation recently. This person talked with me every day. It started out with them venting to me about a recent break up and that was fine. But then after a while I realized that this person don't vent, then complain. There was hardly (if ever) anything this person talked about that wasn't negative. Every single aspect of their life was something to be upset about, and even solutions to problems were just more things to complain about. This person would complain about things that haven't happened yet, and basically will them into existence.\n\nThere came a point where I had enough. That also coincided with other things going on in my life that were bringing me down. So I told that person that I wasn't feeling great and that I'm going to probably be less talkative, which would have been true regardless. After I started feeling better and that person tried messaging me again, I just didn't respond.\n\n**TL;DR** Just be selfish and stop talking to them. It's a bummer, but it's relatively minor and they'll get over it. ",
"For me its more crippling anxiety that stops me from being able to leave my house or have people over, or even text or talk to people on the phone for months out of the year. This makes people think i dont like them. Sometimes i explain and apologize. Sometimes i dont. Sometimes they forgive me. Sometimes they think I'm bullshitting and fight with me. I dont engage and try not to talk to new people.\n\nIts a vicious cycle, but a comfortable one. ",
"First ask yourself why you don't like them. Are you embarrassed to be seen with them? Do they force others into believing what they believe? Is it a clash of ideoligies? Sometimes there's no real reason why you don't like them. If you're not okay with them acting a sort of way, let them know so they can either change their behavior, or decide not to hang out with you. You shouldn't burn bridges just because someone has a different view. ",
"Be all about you and you'll feel much better. There's been multiple times I've told people I don't have time to deal with their silly ideals and never spoken to them again. Call it mean if you want, but I'm a lot happier not having to deal with them anymore",
"The best thing to do is realize that this person clearly finds value in who you are. Be patient and kind, and when you've developed a better report, allow yourself to use your influence to impact them in a positive direction.\n\nYou might be able to help this person.",
"Extend them the love and compassion you would to some one who you do like. They're still a person, treat them like one, you monster. Or man up and tell them you don't like them, you know before you explode with how annoyed you are by their constant presence after you've failed to express the fact you don't want them around. Ya know, honesty, that thing you're terrified of, try using it.",
"I made a decision very early in life that it was better to be hated by most and loved by few than tolerated by all.\n\nI am a very kind, gentle, loyal, intelligent and caring individual who most of the world view as selfish, crass, inconsiderate and mean.\n\nI have a core of close personal friends who are all intelligent, creative, charismatic, and loyal. These people get to see the real me. All others are on the outside looking in.\n\nThis person you don't want, this person you dislike, they deserve to know the truth.\n\nYou take them somewhere public. Somewhere people they know will be. Look them in the face. You say loudly enough to be heard by everyone \"You're a piece of shit and I refuse to be associated with you in any way. I'm gonna stay here, and you can leave\"\n\nIf you don't like the sound of this, you don't get to be in my group.\n\n"
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"resolving conflicting home-styles with roomates (i.e. Washing Dishes) a couple important points beforehand here;\n\n* I've been living in my apartment for almost three years now through a couple sets of roomates. \n* I've recently come to discover that I (almost 24yo) might have undiagnosed ADHD, and have been trying very hard to make systems in my life that work WITH me instead of AGAINST me. \n\nI have two new roommates who moved in about four months ago, one is a friend who was over all the time when our mutual friend lived here, and another who is a friend of hers, who I am forming a friendship with. \n\nMy problem is this; we have very different ideologies when it comes to chores. I have a \"This is my mess, so it's my responsibility\" approach, where they are both a bit more \"everyone does everything.\" I think you can where I'm going. I grew up in a house where, if you made a mess, you cleaned it up. Of course I did things like loading and unloading the dishwasher, and taking out the trash; and I don't mind doing those things, because I contribute to them. \n\nI have a habit of keeping my dishes in my space, which admittedly isn't the best habit, but it's how I function, and instead of working against it, I've started designating a spot right by the door as my \"dish zone\" to put dirty dishes, so I'll see them on my way to the kitchen and hopefully do something with them. Ultimately still, I end up with a small pile before I do something with them. \nOftentimes, that something is taking them to the kitchen to attempt to wash them, and then discovering a sink full of my roommate's dishes, because they \"don't like handwashing things.\" This creates a backlog of dishes - In the sink, collecting - that need to be done, but the dishwasher is always full with pots and pans, or with a load of dishes that haven't been washed yet. This is also something that drives me crazy. In situations like this - or in situations of \"okay I'm done with this plate let's *at least* it to the kitchen\" - I'll set my dish next to the sink, which my roommate's don't like. I used to keep a barmat next to the sink that was my \"dish zone\" but the moment these two moved in, it got moved to under the sink because \"it's gross\", same situation with my dish drainer, which I had to push back on to allow back on the counter. \n\nI'm feeling stuck in this loop of trying to find solutions that work, but only ending up with another problem. I'm having trouble communicating with them because I don't want to be the overbearing roommate, but at the same time, this is my *home,* I have self-beneficial practices that I'm finding it really hard to break out of, and then I just end up feeling frustrated and guilty about simply trying to take care of myself first*.* I haven't had these kinds of conflicts with roommates before because we all kind of followed the same patterns, and there was a communicated mutual understanding, but that isn't the case here. \n\nIs there anyone here who can help me come up with some solutions - namely to dishes, tbqh - or ways I can try and communicate with them better to come up with things that work for all of us?",
"resolving conflicting home-styles with roomates (i.e. Washing Dishes) a couple important points beforehand here;\n\n* I've been living in my apartment for almost three years now through a couple sets of roomates. \n* I've recently come to discover that I (almost 24yo) might have undiagnosed ADHD, and have been trying very hard to make systems in my life that work WITH me instead of AGAINST me. \n\nI have two new roommates who moved in about four months ago, one is a friend who was over all the time when our mutual friend lived here, and another who is a friend of hers, who I am forming a friendship with. \n\nMy problem is this; we have very different ideologies when it comes to chores. I have a \"This is my mess, so it's my responsibility\" approach, where they are both a bit more \"everyone does everything.\" I think you can where I'm going. I grew up in a house where, if you made a mess, you cleaned it up. Of course I did things like loading and unloading the dishwasher, and taking out the trash; and I don't mind doing those things, because I contribute to them. \n\nI have a habit of keeping my dishes in my space, which admittedly isn't the best habit, but it's how I function, and instead of working against it, I've started designating a spot right by the door as my \"dish zone\" to put dirty dishes, so I'll see them on my way to the kitchen and hopefully do something with them. Ultimately still, I end up with a small pile before I do something with them. \nOftentimes, that something is taking them to the kitchen to attempt to wash them, and then discovering a sink full of my roommate's dishes, because they \"don't like handwashing things.\" This creates a backlog of dishes - In the sink, collecting - that need to be done, but the dishwasher is always full with pots and pans, or with a load of dishes that haven't been washed yet. This is also something that drives me crazy. In situations like this - or in situations of \"okay I'm done with this plate let's *at least* it to the kitchen\" - I'll set my dish next to the sink, which my roommate's don't like. I used to keep a barmat next to the sink that was my \"dish zone\" but the moment these two moved in, it got moved to under the sink because \"it's gross\", same situation with my dish drainer, which I had to push back on to allow back on the counter. \n\nI'm feeling stuck in this loop of trying to find solutions that work, but only ending up with another problem. I'm having trouble communicating with them because I don't want to be the overbearing roommate, but at the same time, this is my *home,* I have self-beneficial practices that I'm finding it really hard to break out of, and then I just end up feeling frustrated and guilty about simply trying to take care of myself first*.* I haven't had these kinds of conflicts with roommates before because we all kind of followed the same patterns, and there was a communicated mutual understanding, but that isn't the case here. \n\nIs there anyone here who can help me come up with some solutions - namely to dishes, tbqh - or ways I can try and communicate with them better to come up with things that work for all of us?",
"resolving conflicting home-styles with roomates (i.e. Washing Dishes) a couple important points beforehand here;\n\n* I've been living in my apartment for almost three years now through a couple sets of roomates. \n* I've recently come to discover that I (almost 24yo) might have undiagnosed ADHD, and have been trying very hard to make systems in my life that work WITH me instead of AGAINST me. \n\nI have two new roommates who moved in about four months ago, one is a friend who was over all the time when our mutual friend lived here, and another who is a friend of hers, who I am forming a friendship with. \n\nMy problem is this; we have very different ideologies when it comes to chores. I have a \"This is my mess, so it's my responsibility\" approach, where they are both a bit more \"everyone does everything.\" I think you can where I'm going. I grew up in a house where, if you made a mess, you cleaned it up. Of course I did things like loading and unloading the dishwasher, and taking out the trash; and I don't mind doing those things, because I contribute to them. \n\nI have a habit of keeping my dishes in my space, which admittedly isn't the best habit, but it's how I function, and instead of working against it, I've started designating a spot right by the door as my \"dish zone\" to put dirty dishes, so I'll see them on my way to the kitchen and hopefully do something with them. Ultimately still, I end up with a small pile before I do something with them. \nOftentimes, that something is taking them to the kitchen to attempt to wash them, and then discovering a sink full of my roommate's dishes, because they \"don't like handwashing things.\" This creates a backlog of dishes - In the sink, collecting - that need to be done, but the dishwasher is always full with pots and pans, or with a load of dishes that haven't been washed yet. This is also something that drives me crazy. In situations like this - or in situations of \"okay I'm done with this plate let's *at least* it to the kitchen\" - I'll set my dish next to the sink, which my roommate's don't like. I used to keep a barmat next to the sink that was my \"dish zone\" but the moment these two moved in, it got moved to under the sink because \"it's gross\", same situation with my dish drainer, which I had to push back on to allow back on the counter. \n\nI'm feeling stuck in this loop of trying to find solutions that work, but only ending up with another problem. I'm having trouble communicating with them because I don't want to be the overbearing roommate, but at the same time, this is my *home,* I have self-beneficial practices that I'm finding it really hard to break out of, and then I just end up feeling frustrated and guilty about simply trying to take care of myself first*.* I haven't had these kinds of conflicts with roommates before because we all kind of followed the same patterns, and there was a communicated mutual understanding, but that isn't the case here. \n\nIs there anyone here who can help me come up with some solutions - namely to dishes, tbqh - or ways I can try and communicate with them better to come up with things that work for all of us?",
"resolving conflicting home-styles with roomates (i.e. Washing Dishes) a couple important points beforehand here;\n\n* I've been living in my apartment for almost three years now through a couple sets of roomates. \n* I've recently come to discover that I (almost 24yo) might have undiagnosed ADHD, and have been trying very hard to make systems in my life that work WITH me instead of AGAINST me. \n\nI have two new roommates who moved in about four months ago, one is a friend who was over all the time when our mutual friend lived here, and another who is a friend of hers, who I am forming a friendship with. \n\nMy problem is this; we have very different ideologies when it comes to chores. I have a \"This is my mess, so it's my responsibility\" approach, where they are both a bit more \"everyone does everything.\" I think you can where I'm going. I grew up in a house where, if you made a mess, you cleaned it up. Of course I did things like loading and unloading the dishwasher, and taking out the trash; and I don't mind doing those things, because I contribute to them. \n\nI have a habit of keeping my dishes in my space, which admittedly isn't the best habit, but it's how I function, and instead of working against it, I've started designating a spot right by the door as my \"dish zone\" to put dirty dishes, so I'll see them on my way to the kitchen and hopefully do something with them. Ultimately still, I end up with a small pile before I do something with them. \nOftentimes, that something is taking them to the kitchen to attempt to wash them, and then discovering a sink full of my roommate's dishes, because they \"don't like handwashing things.\" This creates a backlog of dishes - In the sink, collecting - that need to be done, but the dishwasher is always full with pots and pans, or with a load of dishes that haven't been washed yet. This is also something that drives me crazy. In situations like this - or in situations of \"okay I'm done with this plate let's *at least* it to the kitchen\" - I'll set my dish next to the sink, which my roommate's don't like. I used to keep a barmat next to the sink that was my \"dish zone\" but the moment these two moved in, it got moved to under the sink because \"it's gross\", same situation with my dish drainer, which I had to push back on to allow back on the counter. \n\nI'm feeling stuck in this loop of trying to find solutions that work, but only ending up with another problem. I'm having trouble communicating with them because I don't want to be the overbearing roommate, but at the same time, this is my *home,* I have self-beneficial practices that I'm finding it really hard to break out of, and then I just end up feeling frustrated and guilty about simply trying to take care of myself first*.* I haven't had these kinds of conflicts with roommates before because we all kind of followed the same patterns, and there was a communicated mutual understanding, but that isn't the case here. \n\nIs there anyone here who can help me come up with some solutions - namely to dishes, tbqh - or ways I can try and communicate with them better to come up with things that work for all of us?",
"resolving conflicting home-styles with roomates (i.e. Washing Dishes) a couple important points beforehand here;\n\n* I've been living in my apartment for almost three years now through a couple sets of roomates. \n* I've recently come to discover that I (almost 24yo) might have undiagnosed ADHD, and have been trying very hard to make systems in my life that work WITH me instead of AGAINST me. \n\nI have two new roommates who moved in about four months ago, one is a friend who was over all the time when our mutual friend lived here, and another who is a friend of hers, who I am forming a friendship with. \n\nMy problem is this; we have very different ideologies when it comes to chores. I have a \"This is my mess, so it's my responsibility\" approach, where they are both a bit more \"everyone does everything.\" I think you can where I'm going. I grew up in a house where, if you made a mess, you cleaned it up. Of course I did things like loading and unloading the dishwasher, and taking out the trash; and I don't mind doing those things, because I contribute to them. \n\nI have a habit of keeping my dishes in my space, which admittedly isn't the best habit, but it's how I function, and instead of working against it, I've started designating a spot right by the door as my \"dish zone\" to put dirty dishes, so I'll see them on my way to the kitchen and hopefully do something with them. Ultimately still, I end up with a small pile before I do something with them. \nOftentimes, that something is taking them to the kitchen to attempt to wash them, and then discovering a sink full of my roommate's dishes, because they \"don't like handwashing things.\" This creates a backlog of dishes - In the sink, collecting - that need to be done, but the dishwasher is always full with pots and pans, or with a load of dishes that haven't been washed yet. This is also something that drives me crazy. In situations like this - or in situations of \"okay I'm done with this plate let's *at least* it to the kitchen\" - I'll set my dish next to the sink, which my roommate's don't like. I used to keep a barmat next to the sink that was my \"dish zone\" but the moment these two moved in, it got moved to under the sink because \"it's gross\", same situation with my dish drainer, which I had to push back on to allow back on the counter. \n\nI'm feeling stuck in this loop of trying to find solutions that work, but only ending up with another problem. I'm having trouble communicating with them because I don't want to be the overbearing roommate, but at the same time, this is my *home,* I have self-beneficial practices that I'm finding it really hard to break out of, and then I just end up feeling frustrated and guilty about simply trying to take care of myself first*.* I haven't had these kinds of conflicts with roommates before because we all kind of followed the same patterns, and there was a communicated mutual understanding, but that isn't the case here. \n\nIs there anyone here who can help me come up with some solutions - namely to dishes, tbqh - or ways I can try and communicate with them better to come up with things that work for all of us?",
"resolving conflicting home-styles with roomates (i.e. Washing Dishes) a couple important points beforehand here;\n\n* I've been living in my apartment for almost three years now through a couple sets of roomates. \n* I've recently come to discover that I (almost 24yo) might have undiagnosed ADHD, and have been trying very hard to make systems in my life that work WITH me instead of AGAINST me. \n\nI have two new roommates who moved in about four months ago, one is a friend who was over all the time when our mutual friend lived here, and another who is a friend of hers, who I am forming a friendship with. \n\nMy problem is this; we have very different ideologies when it comes to chores. I have a \"This is my mess, so it's my responsibility\" approach, where they are both a bit more \"everyone does everything.\" I think you can where I'm going. I grew up in a house where, if you made a mess, you cleaned it up. Of course I did things like loading and unloading the dishwasher, and taking out the trash; and I don't mind doing those things, because I contribute to them. \n\nI have a habit of keeping my dishes in my space, which admittedly isn't the best habit, but it's how I function, and instead of working against it, I've started designating a spot right by the door as my \"dish zone\" to put dirty dishes, so I'll see them on my way to the kitchen and hopefully do something with them. Ultimately still, I end up with a small pile before I do something with them. \nOftentimes, that something is taking them to the kitchen to attempt to wash them, and then discovering a sink full of my roommate's dishes, because they \"don't like handwashing things.\" This creates a backlog of dishes - In the sink, collecting - that need to be done, but the dishwasher is always full with pots and pans, or with a load of dishes that haven't been washed yet. This is also something that drives me crazy. In situations like this - or in situations of \"okay I'm done with this plate let's *at least* it to the kitchen\" - I'll set my dish next to the sink, which my roommate's don't like. I used to keep a barmat next to the sink that was my \"dish zone\" but the moment these two moved in, it got moved to under the sink because \"it's gross\", same situation with my dish drainer, which I had to push back on to allow back on the counter. \n\nI'm feeling stuck in this loop of trying to find solutions that work, but only ending up with another problem. I'm having trouble communicating with them because I don't want to be the overbearing roommate, but at the same time, this is my *home,* I have self-beneficial practices that I'm finding it really hard to break out of, and then I just end up feeling frustrated and guilty about simply trying to take care of myself first*.* I haven't had these kinds of conflicts with roommates before because we all kind of followed the same patterns, and there was a communicated mutual understanding, but that isn't the case here. \n\nIs there anyone here who can help me come up with some solutions - namely to dishes, tbqh - or ways I can try and communicate with them better to come up with things that work for all of us?"
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"I'm the kind of person that cleans as they go. Everybody should be cleaning their own messes. It's okay to offer to clean somebody else's dishes from time to time but you need to have a rapport in place. It only takes a few minutes to wash a few dishes. It's not that hard to keep that place clean if you are on top of it. This comes from years I do not wanting to do things but I've learned over the years that it's easier if everyone does them together! I hate to say this, chore wheel!",
"It seems you have communicated how this bothers you to your roommates. My suggestion is a New rule: the dishwasher gets run every night. Then at least there’s a chance during the day to fill it. Rule 2: it’s simpler to hand wash pots and pans, and you can fit a days worth of your dishes in the dw in the space a single pasta pot occupies. So Make rule 2 to wash pots and pans by hand and dishes in the dw. It seems to me that you all are right, it’s just your “rightness” is incompatible. Reconcile yourself that harmony requires an environment that you adapt to and that adapts to you. It shouldn’t be all one way (your preference is always disregarded) or the other (your way or the highway). Good luck",
"Honestly this is the stuff you ask about and negotiate before they move in, or the day they move in.\n\nIf you’re renting and yours is the only name on the lease then you’re in charge. Same goes for if you own the place.",
"Wait you clean as you go yet you leave piles of dishes in designated areas? And they leave dishes in the sink? What’s the difference? Quit putting pots and pans in the dishwasher and take 3 seconds to hand wash them. Get non stick stuff if it takes longer than 3 seconds. Then you have room in the dishwasher for actual dishes. I still don’t follow on you cleaning as you go yet having designated areas for stacked dirty dishes though.",
"Spilt the cost of a housekeeper to come on once a week. It will change everyone's habits for the better, I think.",
"I used to have the same situation. I started throwing the dirty dishes left in the dink in the trash. Might be too aggressive for you but it worked after a few times. When I got push back, I simply said, you leaving dirty dishes in the sink incapacitates the sink. Me putting your dishes in the trash does not incapacitate the trash. You no like me trashing your dishes don’t trash the sink. \n\nPeople will always walk all over you until you give them a reason not to.\n\nGood luck"
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"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. ",
"What are the best ways to mitigate the effects of jet lag? My work schedule requires me to fly between the US and Sweden every four weeks. Every time I fly back to the States for work, it literally takes me five full days before I feel remotely human again and have a regular sleep schedule. "
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"After you get where you're going, take off your shoes and your socks then walk around on the rug bare foot and make fists with your toes.\n\nI know, I know, it sounds crazy. Trust me, I've been doing it for nine years. Yes sir, better than a shower and a hot cup of coffee.",
"What I have had work both flying to Europe and Asia from the US is when you hit the ground, automatically stay on local time. If that means you are up for 36 hours, or take a sleeping pill, so be it. \n\nIronically enough, the worst jet lag I ever had was returning from Peru which is on EST, but I was on a red eye and ended up in a great conversation that lasted the whole flight. When I landed in the morning I was wiped out.",
"If the problem is only on return, stay up until your usual USA bedtime, then take melatonin just before trying to sleep. The body will recognize the melatonin (a.k.a. body's natural sleep hormone) as a signal that it's night time, and then when you wake up the next morning your body should be close to its regular daytime/night time rhythm. Works for me everytime...",
"Melatonin and vitamin D ( better if it's from sunshine than pills).\n\nAlso, not getting wasted on the plane flight.",
"I was in Australia - I'm an American who lives in NYC - for work, when I hurt my back. Went to the local drug store and got some over the counter pain meds.\n\nWhen I got on the plane, took four, and chased with two gins.\n\nWhat I didn't know is that codeine was sold over the counter. The flight attendants told me that my respiration rate was like, twelve......but damned if didn't feel totally unlagged when I landed.\n\nDO NOT DO THIS - it was retarded.",
"If you can't sleep on the plane, try sitting there with your eyes shut and just stay like that. I've done it on UK to NZ flights and back numerous times and it counts as half-decent sleep. ",
"I heard or read somewhere that caffeine tricks your brain into behaving like it's an hour earlier than it really is. So if you're flying in a zone a few hours behind, coffee might help. ",
"Hydrate hydrate hydrate hydrate\n\nCabin air is dehumidified (unless you're on a composite body aircraft like the 787 or A350), you will get dehydrated and it will make EVERYTHING worse.\n\nFor sweden particularly, get some eyepatches in the summer and light the room you're in based off of normal day/night hours since the days and nights can alternately be extremely long/short in summer/winter.\n\nSleep on the plane, it makes the transition feel a lot more natural.",
"Flying that often is always going to be tough to deal with. Two things you can do are change your eating pattern (https://hbr.org/2009/05/a-fast-solution-to-jet-lag/), and force yourself to stay on local time when you land. Do whatever you can to stay awake until the normal bedtime.",
"What worked for me was staying awake longer, rather that going to bed earlier. This meant (when flying from the US to EU) was to leave around 6PM (UTC-5), sleep on the plane, and land around 8 AM (UTC+1), then forcing myself to stay away until 10 PM. This makes a long day (because that 10 PM feels like 4AM), but I'd pretty much be on local time by the next morning.\n\nFlying back is harder: you can take a 6 AM (UTC+1) flight from Paris which lands around 9 AM (UTC-5) in DC, and then stay awake until 10 PM. This is another long day.\n\nWhen I arrived in my new time zone, I'd try to get outside and stay in the sunshine as much as possible; this seemed to help acclimate to the new time.\n\nYMMV, of course.",
"I studied this as part of psychology at college.\n\nOne way is to make yourself eat your meals according to local time. So eat breakfast at 7am in the USA and 7am in Sweden and lunch at the same time and dinner at the same time, but make sure it's local time.",
"I always get shitfaced the day before travel and if possible arrive at the airport drunk / drink before the flight then just crash out and wake up fresh as a daisy wherever i am and have a drink or two good to go."
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"When calling any customer service line, please don't do it from the restroom! We can hear *everything*\n\nAnd...eew!\n\n",
"When calling any customer service line, please don't do it from the restroom! We can hear *everything*\n\nAnd...eew!\n\n",
"When calling any customer service line, please don't do it from the restroom! We can hear *everything*\n\nAnd...eew!\n\n",
"When calling any customer service line, please don't do it from the restroom! We can hear *everything*\n\nAnd...eew!\n\n",
"When calling any customer service line, please don't do it from the restroom! We can hear *everything*\n\nAnd...eew!\n\n",
"When calling any customer service line, please don't do it from the restroom! We can hear *everything*\n\nAnd...eew!\n\n",
"When calling any customer service line, please don't do it from the restroom! We can hear *everything*\n\nAnd...eew!\n\n",
"When calling any customer service line, please don't do it from the restroom! We can hear *everything*\n\nAnd...eew!\n\n"
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"That’s an issue for customer service, because usually people call from a comfortable location and then have to sit on hold for long enough that by the time you pick up, the bathroom is pretty much a given.",
"Listen, if I have to wait 15 minutes to talk to someone, you're on my time, so if I gotta take a big fat dump I'm going to be talking to you while I do it.",
"You think we don’t know that? Sweet summer child, we are showing you the same respect your company shows it’s customers.\n\n/s (maybe?)",
"I don’t care as long as your damn massively overdriven Jingles are FUCKING MY EARDRUMS. Really this should be forbidden. When I am waiting on the phone in your queue just make a countdown how long I have to wait until speaking to somebody.",
"I mean life happens. We get stuck on hold.\n\nReal LPT: Learn how to mute your line when in the restroom.",
"Or while at a Starbucks drive through and saying, oh hold on, I have to order. And there was zero wait time on the phone.",
"I've been taking calls for almost 12 years and I really don't care. At this point, it's entertainment if they are on the toilet.\n\nWhat I really hate are the people that have screaming kids near their phone. They make no effort to speak up and the kid is blowing my eardrum out every 2 seconds.",
"I've been on hold for 45 mins. I'm experiencing unusual volumes of turd, but will be with you in 1 minute. No you need me to respond now...can't wait like I did...so suck it up!"
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"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. ",
"Mice in my apt. Wise ones, give me everything you've got. I had no problems with the mice until they came into my home. \n\nHow to I kill them or emotionally scar them so badly they wont come back?\n\nI live on the third floor of an NYC apt. First floor is a restaurant so I know mice are more prone to buildings like mine. \n\nThanks in advance brothers. Let the mousepocolypse begin. "
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"We used some sticky traps (unpleasant) and also had success with blocking holes with tinfoil (they don't like to chew metal). \nLook for holes, cracks, crevices near where you find their poop and cram them with a wad of tinfoil. Also, peanut butter on good old mousetraps.\n\n",
"Get or borrow a female cat (females are more motivated to kill rodents, bugs etc).\n\nIf you are going to use poison, your apartment will start to smell as they expire. You can go for the decon circular traps they are quick and effective. Stay away from glue traps, they are just too cruel (even for a mouse).\n\nPlastic bags for food will not do, the mice will eat through them. Store food in either metal or thick plastic containers to ensure they have no reason to visit you.\n\n",
"Take them as pets. Train them. Make the strong ones kill the weak ones so they get a taste for mouse flesh, release the strong ones as hunter-killers. ",
"I use wooden spring traps because I think they are the most humane (one quick blow at a happy time for the mouse who has just found a treat).\n\nI have really bad luck with mice getting soft substances like cheese or peanut butter from traps without springing it - so I use something really sticky like snickers bar (the carmel is sticky) and really jam it onto the bait part so the moue really has to bite down on it.\n\nGet a LOT of traps - like at least 6 - because where one mouse is there are other mice and probably babies.\n\nI have had times where the mice evolve to avoid spring traps - so have to use glue traps, which I hate because it causes the mouse a lot of fear and suffering.\n\nDo NOT use poison, it causes the mouse to suffer AND they go hide in their nest in the floor/wall and when they die the smell is pretty bad and its usually impossible to get them out.\n\nBEST tip though - find where they're getting in and block it off. For years in one apartment there had been a big hole in the water pipe to the kitchen sink that I had never seen, When I patched it up no more mice. In my current apartment there was a tiny hole in the kitchen sink water pipe but mice still got through.\n\nA good thing to fill in small hole is steel wool - it hurts mice teeth to chew it so they will generally leave the area alone.\n\nAlso - keep food stored in chew-proof containers and take out the garbage daily.",
"Get yourself a 5 gallon bucket, a wire hanger or equivalent, a 20oz bottle, a chunk of wood, and some peanut butter.\n\nStraighten the wire so it will span the top of the bucket plus about a half inch on each side. Heat it up (or drill) through one side of the bucket, through the bottle the long way, and then the other side of the bucket. \n\nSmear some peanut butter on that bottle and make a ramp up the side of the bucket for them. Put a few inches of water in the bucket. They'll jump onto the bottle cause those fuckers love peanut butter. It will spin and they'll fall in and drown, then just dump em out and reset. ",
"Use scented dryer sheets and spread them all around your apartment. This is the best way to keep mice out of classic cars that sit in garages, so it should work just fine for your apartment. ",
"They make sticky traps if you don't want to see them dead just stick a dallop of peanut butter in the center. The cries of the trapped mouse will attract others to the trap",
"They like peanut butter and chocolate, I have had success with Reeses. Youtube some of the mouse traps. If you want to keep them alive, put a half inch of vegetable oil in the bottom of the bucket trap so they cant climb out.\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=bucket+mouse+trap+in+action&oq=bucket+mouse+trap&gs_l=youtube.1.1.0l2j0i5l4.4431.7941.0.9797.17.15.0.2.2.0.194.1698.8j7.15.0...0.0...1ac.1.11.youtube.vlWPWAn7L0I",
"Super glue an almond to an old fashion trap. We also strategically place a few so that It's forced to get caught one way or another .good luck! ",
"I don't know about NYC but my local ASPCA (nonprofit animal activists org) gave us cages to catch the gopher that was in our front yard for free, and took it away when we caught it. Check with them, your local animal shelter, etc, and see if they will give you cages/traps to use for free. A feisty cat is also a good idea- male or female, you want one that loves to chase things and play. Out of my four cats, two male, two female, one female and one male love to catch and kill things and bring them to me. The other two would probably curl up with a mouse and go to sleep.",
"Half fill a bucket with water. Make a ramp going up to the rim and a see-saw system from bits of wood, rulers, whatever. Peanut butter at the end if the seesaw. Mouse goes up ramp to get peanut butter, goes out on seesaw and falls into the water, drowns. Trap reloads automatically. BAM",
"Get one (or two and wooden shims for larger mice) large 5 gallon bucket from the hardware store or local hobo. Put a dab of peanut butter at the bottom and set it outside. The mice will be attracted out of your house, drop in the bucket and get trapped. Just drive them a few miles out and drop them off at your enemies house. For two bucket traps, duck tape one on top of the other and drill a hole in the bottom of the top bucket and peanut butter in the bottom bucket. It is kinda tricky to get the top one situated without the shims.\n\nI have evolved and use old gatorade jugs.\n",
"Apparently ground Black Pepper sprinkled near mouse holes will get rid of them.\nFull disclosure: I do not have a mouse problem, but this advice has been floating around the net for awhile and seems to make sense\nhttp://www.gather.com/viewArticle.action?articleId=281474981429831",
"like this OP\n\nhttp://compare.ebay.com.au/like/121111917328?ltyp=AllFixedPriceItemTypes\n\nthis way you have the mouse (as opposed to poison where they will crawl somewhere and die and stink out the place) and the clever fuckers wont trip the trap and then chuck a party, wining and dining on your bait, mocking you with their ingenuity."
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"How to keep dishwashing sponges from getting stinky or a quick way to de-stink them? I have tried putting them in the dishwasher and it works but only for a day or so. I know that making sure they stay dry when not being used helps too...But does anyone know any good quick fixes to de-stink a stinky sponge? My hands reek for hours after using one...I don't mind washing dishes by hand that much but this is a huge deterrent for me. HELP!",
"How to keep dishwashing sponges from getting stinky or a quick way to de-stink them? I have tried putting them in the dishwasher and it works but only for a day or so. I know that making sure they stay dry when not being used helps too...But does anyone know any good quick fixes to de-stink a stinky sponge? My hands reek for hours after using one...I don't mind washing dishes by hand that much but this is a huge deterrent for me. HELP!",
"How to keep dishwashing sponges from getting stinky or a quick way to de-stink them? I have tried putting them in the dishwasher and it works but only for a day or so. I know that making sure they stay dry when not being used helps too...But does anyone know any good quick fixes to de-stink a stinky sponge? My hands reek for hours after using one...I don't mind washing dishes by hand that much but this is a huge deterrent for me. HELP!",
"How to keep dishwashing sponges from getting stinky or a quick way to de-stink them? I have tried putting them in the dishwasher and it works but only for a day or so. I know that making sure they stay dry when not being used helps too...But does anyone know any good quick fixes to de-stink a stinky sponge? My hands reek for hours after using one...I don't mind washing dishes by hand that much but this is a huge deterrent for me. HELP!",
"How to keep dishwashing sponges from getting stinky or a quick way to de-stink them? I have tried putting them in the dishwasher and it works but only for a day or so. I know that making sure they stay dry when not being used helps too...But does anyone know any good quick fixes to de-stink a stinky sponge? My hands reek for hours after using one...I don't mind washing dishes by hand that much but this is a huge deterrent for me. HELP!",
"How to keep dishwashing sponges from getting stinky or a quick way to de-stink them? I have tried putting them in the dishwasher and it works but only for a day or so. I know that making sure they stay dry when not being used helps too...But does anyone know any good quick fixes to de-stink a stinky sponge? My hands reek for hours after using one...I don't mind washing dishes by hand that much but this is a huge deterrent for me. HELP!",
"How to keep dishwashing sponges from getting stinky or a quick way to de-stink them? I have tried putting them in the dishwasher and it works but only for a day or so. I know that making sure they stay dry when not being used helps too...But does anyone know any good quick fixes to de-stink a stinky sponge? My hands reek for hours after using one...I don't mind washing dishes by hand that much but this is a huge deterrent for me. HELP!",
"How to keep dishwashing sponges from getting stinky or a quick way to de-stink them? I have tried putting them in the dishwasher and it works but only for a day or so. I know that making sure they stay dry when not being used helps too...But does anyone know any good quick fixes to de-stink a stinky sponge? My hands reek for hours after using one...I don't mind washing dishes by hand that much but this is a huge deterrent for me. HELP!",
"How to keep dishwashing sponges from getting stinky or a quick way to de-stink them? I have tried putting them in the dishwasher and it works but only for a day or so. I know that making sure they stay dry when not being used helps too...But does anyone know any good quick fixes to de-stink a stinky sponge? My hands reek for hours after using one...I don't mind washing dishes by hand that much but this is a huge deterrent for me. HELP!"
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"I've heard a minute in the microwave while still damp can do wonders.\n\nOf course, I just buy Costco packs of sponges and when one gets too nasty, I thow it away and grab another one out of the pack.",
"That stink is bacteria. If your sponge gets so nasty it leaves a lingering odor get rid of it. Sponges are not eternal. If you hate the idea of waste, buy some white dish towels (that you can bleach) instead. ",
"\tThat's an excellent question.\nIt's very important to thoroughly wring out your sponges after every usage.\n\tThis will prevent the accumulation of grime and bacteria.\n\tA dry sponge is a happy sponge.\n\tThat's not a Star Trek question!",
"You can microwave them to get rid of the smell and kill germs. To avoid the smell and mold, you need to ring out the water really well and put them somewhere they can have air circulating on every side to allow them to dry. The only time I really have an issue with stinky sponges is due to me being lazy or forgetful.",
"Whenever my mom used fresh lemons, she would save the shell of skin and rub it on our dishwashing sponge. She'd keep it on top of the sponge for a couple of days afterwards. I'm not sure if it will help if your sponge is already stinky in the first place, but using this method for new/semi-new sponges helps keep the stink away even after using the sponge for a very long time. ",
"Soak the sponge in white vinegar then put the sponge in a pot of boiling water for 10 minutes. Or simply put the wet sponge in the microwave for 2 minutes. Be careful taking it out though, it gets very hot. [Here's a WebMD article about microwaving sponges]( http://www.m.webmd.com/food-recipes/news/20070124/microwave-kills-germs-sponges).",
"Most of the time I just throw it away and get another but I'll use bleach gel to clean out the sink and it often cleans the sponge as well.",
"I put mine in the washing machine with the white load every week. In between, I make sure to wring them when I'm done and will put a bit of bleach on them if they start smelling.\n\nYou can also leave them in a small container with water and a tiny bit of bleach and dish soap next to the sink.",
"I buy cheaper ones so I can toss them.\n\nBoiling works but is a pain.\n\nMicrowaving *can* work but can also create an ungodly smell- and is a pain.\n\nBleaching will work but is a pain.\n\nJust consider them disposable- treat it as a little luxury and enjoy it!\n\n"
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"I own a bunch of DVDs and was wondering if there's a better way to store them to save space. I'd love to get rid of the cases. ",
"I own a bunch of DVDs and was wondering if there's a better way to store them to save space. I'd love to get rid of the cases. "
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"The CD/DVD storage cases here:\n\nhttp://www.meritline.com/aluminum-case-universal-cases---c-7607.aspx\n\nI put my collection away in one and it's just amazing to have 700+ DVDs in one box and ready to be found (provided you made a list corresponding with the numbered sleeves that are included).",
"Look [here](https://www.google.com/search?q=cd+binder&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&channel=sb#channel=sb&newwindow=1&q=cd+binder&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&tbm=shop).",
"For a few bucks each you can convert them over to digital with Vodo. Did that with a few of the older disks I have and now I can watch them anywhere. Plus if you buy a Blueray they usually come with a digital or Ultra Violet copy. "
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"How to calm mind from hesitating about whether you make the correct decision or not? Context:\nYesterday, i was e-mailed that my project proposal was amongst the chosen 25 and that i am invited to come to talk more about it at an event in another city. \n\nI hesitated because an H-1 airplane ticket price is expensive, i don't have the ticket to enter the event, and don't know how i will get to the event venue. I told them this and they, surprisingly, told me that i don't need to force myself and offered to review the project remotely via e-mail.\n\nAfter discussing it with my father, i decided to take that offer.\n\nBut now, i am having a bad time trying to sleep/relaxing. Do i make the correct decision? But even if i changed my mind, the airplane ticket is now twice more expensive and i don't exactly want to suddenly show up at the event after accepting the e-mail offer.\n\nI *always* hesitate whenever i make a decision, a bigger decision always giving me a hard time. A bad dream, feeling of unease, hard time sleeping, stressed out. If everything goes well, so do i. But if it's not, i always end up in a gloomy mood thinking \"I should've done this or that instead\".\n\nIs there is any tips on 'letting it go' and stop hesitating, stop thinking about 1001 possibilities that might and will probably not happen?",
"How to calm mind from hesitating about whether you make the correct decision or not? Context:\nYesterday, i was e-mailed that my project proposal was amongst the chosen 25 and that i am invited to come to talk more about it at an event in another city. \n\nI hesitated because an H-1 airplane ticket price is expensive, i don't have the ticket to enter the event, and don't know how i will get to the event venue. I told them this and they, surprisingly, told me that i don't need to force myself and offered to review the project remotely via e-mail.\n\nAfter discussing it with my father, i decided to take that offer.\n\nBut now, i am having a bad time trying to sleep/relaxing. Do i make the correct decision? But even if i changed my mind, the airplane ticket is now twice more expensive and i don't exactly want to suddenly show up at the event after accepting the e-mail offer.\n\nI *always* hesitate whenever i make a decision, a bigger decision always giving me a hard time. A bad dream, feeling of unease, hard time sleeping, stressed out. If everything goes well, so do i. But if it's not, i always end up in a gloomy mood thinking \"I should've done this or that instead\".\n\nIs there is any tips on 'letting it go' and stop hesitating, stop thinking about 1001 possibilities that might and will probably not happen?",
"How to calm mind from hesitating about whether you make the correct decision or not? Context:\nYesterday, i was e-mailed that my project proposal was amongst the chosen 25 and that i am invited to come to talk more about it at an event in another city. \n\nI hesitated because an H-1 airplane ticket price is expensive, i don't have the ticket to enter the event, and don't know how i will get to the event venue. I told them this and they, surprisingly, told me that i don't need to force myself and offered to review the project remotely via e-mail.\n\nAfter discussing it with my father, i decided to take that offer.\n\nBut now, i am having a bad time trying to sleep/relaxing. Do i make the correct decision? But even if i changed my mind, the airplane ticket is now twice more expensive and i don't exactly want to suddenly show up at the event after accepting the e-mail offer.\n\nI *always* hesitate whenever i make a decision, a bigger decision always giving me a hard time. A bad dream, feeling of unease, hard time sleeping, stressed out. If everything goes well, so do i. But if it's not, i always end up in a gloomy mood thinking \"I should've done this or that instead\".\n\nIs there is any tips on 'letting it go' and stop hesitating, stop thinking about 1001 possibilities that might and will probably not happen?",
"How to calm mind from hesitating about whether you make the correct decision or not? Context:\nYesterday, i was e-mailed that my project proposal was amongst the chosen 25 and that i am invited to come to talk more about it at an event in another city. \n\nI hesitated because an H-1 airplane ticket price is expensive, i don't have the ticket to enter the event, and don't know how i will get to the event venue. I told them this and they, surprisingly, told me that i don't need to force myself and offered to review the project remotely via e-mail.\n\nAfter discussing it with my father, i decided to take that offer.\n\nBut now, i am having a bad time trying to sleep/relaxing. Do i make the correct decision? But even if i changed my mind, the airplane ticket is now twice more expensive and i don't exactly want to suddenly show up at the event after accepting the e-mail offer.\n\nI *always* hesitate whenever i make a decision, a bigger decision always giving me a hard time. A bad dream, feeling of unease, hard time sleeping, stressed out. If everything goes well, so do i. But if it's not, i always end up in a gloomy mood thinking \"I should've done this or that instead\".\n\nIs there is any tips on 'letting it go' and stop hesitating, stop thinking about 1001 possibilities that might and will probably not happen?",
"How to calm mind from hesitating about whether you make the correct decision or not? Context:\nYesterday, i was e-mailed that my project proposal was amongst the chosen 25 and that i am invited to come to talk more about it at an event in another city. \n\nI hesitated because an H-1 airplane ticket price is expensive, i don't have the ticket to enter the event, and don't know how i will get to the event venue. I told them this and they, surprisingly, told me that i don't need to force myself and offered to review the project remotely via e-mail.\n\nAfter discussing it with my father, i decided to take that offer.\n\nBut now, i am having a bad time trying to sleep/relaxing. Do i make the correct decision? But even if i changed my mind, the airplane ticket is now twice more expensive and i don't exactly want to suddenly show up at the event after accepting the e-mail offer.\n\nI *always* hesitate whenever i make a decision, a bigger decision always giving me a hard time. A bad dream, feeling of unease, hard time sleeping, stressed out. If everything goes well, so do i. But if it's not, i always end up in a gloomy mood thinking \"I should've done this or that instead\".\n\nIs there is any tips on 'letting it go' and stop hesitating, stop thinking about 1001 possibilities that might and will probably not happen?"
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"The keywords here are \"stop thinking.\"\n\nBut don't force yourself to stop thinking about it, because that makes it worse.\n\nDon't judge yourself every time you start doubting a decision or stressing over it. When you notice you're doing it, gently redirect your thoughts to positive ones. For example, guide your thoughts to the prospect of looking forward to their review. You made the choice you thought was best for your current situation and, as the Japanese say, SHOUGANAI (It can't be helped).\n\nYou might benefit looking into practicing some zen ways of thinking. If you're into it, look up Alan Watts on YouTube.",
"Look up the TED talk on decision making. Sometimes hard decisions are hard because both choices are just as good",
"I'm not an expert by any means, but for me it's a matter of convincing yourself. It sounds cheesy, and you don't really need to write it down, but make a pro's and con's list. If one side is pretty stacked, then you should be able to look at that list and not worry about your decision.\n\nOn the flip side, let's say your list is pretty even. If that's the case, then regardless of the eventual outcome, you can't go wrong either way in the decision. Perhaps you could do some more research about some variable but you can never be fully informed about every tough decision you're going to make in your life. \n\nIn the end, your life is going to go on. You can't go into the past and change what decisions you made, so there's no point in dwelling on it. Instead, focus on where you are now, and what's the best decision you can make NOW in the reality you created with your previous decision. To a certain extent this will become easier with age.",
"I have the exact same problem at times. It takes me forever to make a decision sometimes and when I do, I hesitate in the aftermath and ponder whether I made the right choice or not. But recently, I've adopted the \"spilled milk\" theory. Once a glass of milk is spilled, you can't change it (other than to clean it up and throw it away). But it's something that happened in the past. You can't change that, but you can do things in the present for the future. This mainly helps me through times when I've fucked up to get through. But it also helps justify making a decision.",
"I do this. Get all OCD on decisions and choices. The only thing I have found that helps is writing it all out. Then I do not have to \"keep track\" of the information, thoughts, and ideas. For some reason it helps me move through the process faster and smoother. But I do still struggle with \"thinking too much\" about things.\n\nThe other thing I do is a mantra I repeat to myself, \"Regrets about the past and anxieties about the future are a waste of a great imagination and mind that I could be much more effectively utilizing on the present to improve my overall life.\" Not sure if it helps, but it is the truth.",
"I can definitely relate to this and some of the things I have learned that has helped me are:\n\n1. Acceptance: understanding and agreeing with what you can control versus what you can not control. One thing you can NOT control is the past so why bother to harp over it. Once I applied this to my life, mountains turned into molehills. \n\n2. Stop trying to make the perfect decision. We all make mistakes every day. There's no way around it. Learn to trust yourself with the decisions you make. That first voice/feeling I got was usually the best decision. Once you get used to acting on it, the decision making becomes a lot easier and I was at peace about it as well. Over thinking goes with this also. \n\n3. Don't be a people pleaser. There have been times I neglected my own wants/needs in order to make decisions, from what I thought at the time, would make others happy. Do what's right for yourself. I know you will feel some sort of discomfort from it at first but you'll get over it and become extremely satisfied with your decision in the long run.\n"
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"What are some good psychological life pro tips? For example, you could say \"You can get someone to like you more if you copy their body positions\" or \"You can tell if someone wants to leave if they have their feet aiming at the door or some other common exit\"",
"What are some good psychological life pro tips? For example, you could say \"You can get someone to like you more if you copy their body positions\" or \"You can tell if someone wants to leave if they have their feet aiming at the door or some other common exit\"",
"What are some good psychological life pro tips? For example, you could say \"You can get someone to like you more if you copy their body positions\" or \"You can tell if someone wants to leave if they have their feet aiming at the door or some other common exit\"",
"What are some good psychological life pro tips? For example, you could say \"You can get someone to like you more if you copy their body positions\" or \"You can tell if someone wants to leave if they have their feet aiming at the door or some other common exit\"",
"What are some good psychological life pro tips? For example, you could say \"You can get someone to like you more if you copy their body positions\" or \"You can tell if someone wants to leave if they have their feet aiming at the door or some other common exit\"",
"What are some good psychological life pro tips? For example, you could say \"You can get someone to like you more if you copy their body positions\" or \"You can tell if someone wants to leave if they have their feet aiming at the door or some other common exit\""
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"**TIP 1** \n\nAllowing someone to do something nice for you can trigger an internal logic of ‘since I am helping this person, I must like them’. \n\nI became friends with someone when they were going to get a drink and asked if anyone else [in the group of people we were with] wanted them to grab a drink for them too. I was the only one who said yes out of the group. \n\nSometimes people think it’s better to decline to ‘save them the effort’ but if their intention to help is genuine, they will actually feel better by being able to help someone. \n\nNote that this very likely wouldn’t work if someone is offering something ‘just to be polite/nice’ when really they are just saying it without any intention of following through (personally I hate when people do this but it’s worth being aware of).\n\n**TIP 2**\n\nIt definitely helps being able to read body language and modify your own behaviours to produce optimal outcomes, but it’s unwise to think too actively/consciously about your behaviours as people will very much notice when a person is close to but not quite acting normally (read into the ‘Uncanny Valley’ effect which relates to this). \n\nLearn the behaviours but allow your subconscious to guide your body language to avoid making your behaviours seem slightly off. \n\n**TIP 3**\n\nPeople like hearing their name being said. Try your best to remember someone’s name once they mention it to you (A good trick is to associate the name with something. Eg: If someone’s name is Fiona, associate it to Princess Fiona from Shrek.). People also like their primary interests mentioned or brought up in conversation. \n\n**TIP 4**\n\nIf you want your interactions with others to be positive and fruitful, come from a place of true, caring love. If you have your mindset in any of the 7 deadly sins especially Ego, Greed, Lust, Fury, and Envy; you can expect things to go south fairly quickly. \n\n**TIP 5**\n\n/r/actlikeyoubelong, as much as we hate to admit it, people don’t believe facts and logic, people believe information based on how confident the person who said it is. \n\nI remember watching a group presentation where my group felt intimidated by how ‘good’ another groups presentation was, when in actuality their presentation had no better information or presentation than any other group before them. All they did was speak loudly and clearly with authority and confidence and it really made their presentation look like it was leagues ahead of the ones before it.\n\n**TIP 6**\n\nSelf doubt may seem like it helps you lower your expectations but all it ever does is make you shoot lower than you could have. If you can be willing to accept failure and the risk of failure and rejection, but move past it and still have the courage to take the leap of faith, you can get far. \n\nForget what school drilled into your head about ‘always having to get things right on the first go’ and throw that garbage into the bin. Failure is always going to be part of the road to success, it’s just feedback that allows you to modify, adapt, and try again. Just like dying in a video game before you reach the next level. Heck, machine learning is literally built off the concept of: \n\nmake an attempt, \n\ndid it work? Y/N? \n\nIf no, modify variables and reattempt\n\nIf yes, use variables for future attempts for as long as they work.\n\n",
"The best psychological LPT is “if you want to know, ask. Don’t assume, don’t guess, don’t ask someone else what they think. Go to that person and ask.”",
"if you want someone to like you, whenever you see them/ meet them greet them with a big smile and look very happy, that way, after a couple of times you doing that the other person is going to be happy to see you aswell, which will make it more likely for them to like you back",
"Body language should be open, no crossed arms or legs. Sit at a slight angle to whoever your talking to but face them and keep eye contact. Don’t yawn or stretch. Smile. Repeat back what they say in a shortened form to show you were really listening",
"If a person touches you unnecessarily (i.e. touching your forearm during a conversation, versus grabbing you to stop you from stepping out into traffic) it is almost 100% that they like you personally. (Not necessarily sexually or romantically, however.)",
"Looking for edgy psychology lifehacks won't get you anywhere. Talk to people like a functioning human being and try not to look like a complete tramp when you go outside."
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"How to eat as much as possible When going out for dinner in an all you can eat, steak competition ..\n\nhow to eat as much possible in a reasonable time, max 90 minutes.\n\nIs it better to start fast, or eat continually, accompany with drinks, eat spicy ...\n\nIn order to fill up on every vitamin, nutrient, carbohydrates, etc deposit, as to ingest as much as possible of the \"good\" food, compared to the usual bread and pasta meals.",
"How to eat as much as possible When going out for dinner in an all you can eat, steak competition ..\n\nhow to eat as much possible in a reasonable time, max 90 minutes.\n\nIs it better to start fast, or eat continually, accompany with drinks, eat spicy ...\n\nIn order to fill up on every vitamin, nutrient, carbohydrates, etc deposit, as to ingest as much as possible of the \"good\" food, compared to the usual bread and pasta meals."
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"Eat a bit of salad or fruit between meat so you don't get bloated right away. Plus your asshole will thank you tomorrow.",
"Don't starve yourself, but eat light and drink a lot of water before hand. I'm half joking, but If you have any experience with weed, getting a medium amount of high before hand might increase your chances, per se. ",
"If you want to get a maximum amount of food into your system you have to eat it fast. Your body has about 20 minutes before it recognizes that it is full. That means you have about 20 minutes to stuff food into yourself before you feel like shit."
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"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. ",
"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. ",
"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. ",
"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. ",
"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. ",
"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. ",
"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. ",
"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. ",
"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. ",
"What are some tools you use for staying organized? What are some things you use to stay organized, for school, work, or anything else. Anything from having a calendar for school to furniture for storage and organizing your room. "
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"My spouse and I use a kitchen timer for cleaning. We set it 5 minutes and clean or straighten up whatever room needs it. Doing this makes weekend cleaning a breeze. \n\nAs for clothes, we rotate the hangers at the start of a season. Any clothes for that season that didn't get worn, as evident by the hanger still being rotated, gets donated. It makes getting rid of that fave article of clothing that never gets worn much easier.",
"I write a list of things i need to do every Sunday night, right after i change my bed sheets and clean off my desk. Start the week on the right foot. \nThen everyday, i chose 5 things on the list and get them done. Anything more than that is productive and anything less you know the next day you need to do more, or adjust accordingly to get them done. \nRunning your own business really threw a wrench in how i worked since i had to stay busy on slow days. This makes sure that im productive even on days i'm not dealing with actual clients. ",
"I have to have a to-do list. I actually keep one opened all day on a monitor at work. I like Wunderlist a lot. Syncs great with the app on my phone. I actually do not even use the features it offers. I just create a new list for every day and either check things off or move them to the next day if I have to. ",
"Using the calendar on my phone to record everything I'm supposed to be doing has made me far more organised. Can't imagine how I coped without it now.",
"Todoist for tasks grouped into headings\n\n\nGoogle cal \n\n\nEvernote for notes and thoughts\n\n\nGoal tracker for creating habits checking them off.\n\n\n\n3 bowls for wallet keys bike lights etc\n",
"Get rid of anything you don't need (donate where you can) and in general try not to accumulate too much stuff. I have always been organized, and I owe it to the fact that I don't have anything I don't need, whether it's groceries or accessories. A good general rule is to get rid of anything you haven't used in a few months (unless it's seasonal clothing or something to that nature). I donate clothes I don't wear every few months (usually 4 or 5 articles of clothing--I don't have much to begin with) and scan any paperwork I have floating around in my apartment (make sure to have a backup drive!) so I can recycle it. I do laundry once or twice a week and put it away as soon as I'm finished so I don't have to sift through a bag of laundry when I need something to wear.\n\nAlso, clean as you go. I can't recommend this enough! It takes a few extra seconds or minutes and you won't have to face the mess later on when you might be less likely to deal with it. In general, clean regularly. Make a schedule and put it on your fridge. Tackle one thing at a time!\n\nIn regards to school and work, makes schedules and set deadlines--and stick to them! For your personal life, having an app that tracks your spending is great and might make you think twice about what you're currently spending.\n\nIt's all about finding what works for you, whether it's alphabetizing or color coding. Once you get into the habit of being organized, it will become second nature. And you'll feel so much better! Even things like paperless billing will help since you won't have to come home to a pile of bills.",
"Wunderlist.com! Check it out, it's free, it's shareable, and it gives a truly satisfying little bell sound when you check an item off!",
"There is a small table in my living room that I've designated as the \"drop-off\" table. As soon as I get home I throw my keys on that table, sometimes my phone or wallet, etc. Essentially anything small that tends to move a lot can live there and not get misplaced.",
"My wife is very forgetful and needs people to take her to doctor appointments. I setup her calendar so that I have ",
"I split todo list into two: one that is for adhoc todos which I use stock iOS Reminder app. The other for routine tasks, I use a small app (not free) Routines by Coopla on the app store. I find splitting todos this way helps."
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"How can I avoid the feeling of not locking my appartment before leaving, even thought I always double check. ",
"How can I avoid the feeling of not locking my appartment before leaving, even thought I always double check. ",
"How can I avoid the feeling of not locking my appartment before leaving, even thought I always double check. ",
"How can I avoid the feeling of not locking my appartment before leaving, even thought I always double check. ",
"How can I avoid the feeling of not locking my appartment before leaving, even thought I always double check. ",
"How can I avoid the feeling of not locking my appartment before leaving, even thought I always double check. "
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"Say out loud that you locked the door, if you're like me you remember something better when you hear it",
"Add a simple step to build a habit that enforces the confidence you've already locked your door. \n\nEx: If you have a door knob, keep a rubber band or hair-tie on the inside knob. Slip it on your wrist and lock the door. Be extremely mindful when you first start doing this, and eventually, the rubber band on your wrist will be a reminder on days where you rushed out of the house on autopilot. *(Things I've learned to stop developing minor OCD tendencies in my 20's.)*",
"Take a short video of yourself locking the door. You can even say the date out loud while doing it for extra reassurance that the video was from that day. ",
"get a deadbolt that locks with a key from both sides so you will be forced to pull out your keys at the door.. or if that doesn't work, you can use an old android phone and the IP webcam app and leave the camera aimed at your doorknob from inside, then you can use another phone/computer to view the stream and see whether or not the door is locked.. if all else fails, pm me your address and if you leave it unlocked, I will go inside and tangle every wire/cord/cable/necklace I can find and ruin your life. You'd be crazy to leave your door unlocked after that.",
"For example for going on vacation, do something you normally would not da after locking the door. Knock against it or jump in square",
"Buy one of those dishwasher magnets that say dirty and clean and when you lock and double check flip to to clean and maybe the extra step of seeing the clean will make you at ease just make sure to switch it to dirty when you unlock and go in"
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"How to quickly avoid/solve those awkward situations where you don't know which way to go to get past someone in a hallway/tight space. (\"Am I going left or are you?\") ",
"How to quickly avoid/solve those awkward situations where you don't know which way to go to get past someone in a hallway/tight space. (\"Am I going left or are you?\") ",
"How to quickly avoid/solve those awkward situations where you don't know which way to go to get past someone in a hallway/tight space. (\"Am I going left or are you?\") ",
"How to quickly avoid/solve those awkward situations where you don't know which way to go to get past someone in a hallway/tight space. (\"Am I going left or are you?\") ",
"How to quickly avoid/solve those awkward situations where you don't know which way to go to get past someone in a hallway/tight space. (\"Am I going left or are you?\") ",
"How to quickly avoid/solve those awkward situations where you don't know which way to go to get past someone in a hallway/tight space. (\"Am I going left or are you?\") "
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"Simple, do not make eye contact with people when walking. look directly in the direction you intend to go, like the 100 yard stare. People will seemingly move out of your way as you continue along.",
"Often they feel the same way. I usually make an inviting gesture to one side and smile. Pretty much every time I get a smile back and the situation is resolved ",
"Move to which ever side of the road you drive on. \n\nI couldn't work out why I had turned into such a hallway klutz after moving countries until I realised my dodging was the opposite of everyone else.",
"In the head on situation;- Be decisive. Pick a path, allow time for the other person to recognise it, if their slow make a knife hand in the direction your going. If their on the phone and clueless to their surroundings say \"heads up\" or failing that \"accidentally\" knock the phone to the floor on contact.\n\nWhen moving faster from behind;- Humm or whistle a tune to warn of your approach. Failure on their part to move will require you to say in a firm but not threatening way \"excuse me\", \"could I just squeeze through\" don't forget the \"thank you\".\n\nSource; professional crowd navigator with specialisation in retired person avoidance.\n\n",
"I tend to get my phone out and slow to a stop as if to make a phone call. \n\nAlternatively, I tend to go left as that what most people in the UK do since 'keep left' is pretty generic but not sure for the rest of the world!!",
"If only everyone would stay to the right. \n\nScreaming \"MAKE A HOLE!\" will cause approximately 15% of the US population to stand flat against the closest wall so that's an option if you work in an environment with a heavy veteran makeup. "
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"How do you \"resuscitate\" smelly flip-flops? I've tried vinegar (which just makes the flip-flops smell like feet *and* vinegar), I've tried (once) those overpriced sprays they sell along with the sneakers. No dice. \n\nLooking for something effective but also cheap.\n\nI have some kitty-litter-deodorizer-spray with peroxide sitting around the house - I can't imagine that it will make things *worse* so I'll try that tonight. Barring that - any input appreciated.\n\nThanks in advance :) \n\n(Also I apologize if this has been asked/answered before - Reddit's search algorithm isn't anything to write home about, so I'll totally take a link to an earlier discussion in lieu of an answer.)",
"How do you \"resuscitate\" smelly flip-flops? I've tried vinegar (which just makes the flip-flops smell like feet *and* vinegar), I've tried (once) those overpriced sprays they sell along with the sneakers. No dice. \n\nLooking for something effective but also cheap.\n\nI have some kitty-litter-deodorizer-spray with peroxide sitting around the house - I can't imagine that it will make things *worse* so I'll try that tonight. Barring that - any input appreciated.\n\nThanks in advance :) \n\n(Also I apologize if this has been asked/answered before - Reddit's search algorithm isn't anything to write home about, so I'll totally take a link to an earlier discussion in lieu of an answer.)",
"How do you \"resuscitate\" smelly flip-flops? I've tried vinegar (which just makes the flip-flops smell like feet *and* vinegar), I've tried (once) those overpriced sprays they sell along with the sneakers. No dice. \n\nLooking for something effective but also cheap.\n\nI have some kitty-litter-deodorizer-spray with peroxide sitting around the house - I can't imagine that it will make things *worse* so I'll try that tonight. Barring that - any input appreciated.\n\nThanks in advance :) \n\n(Also I apologize if this has been asked/answered before - Reddit's search algorithm isn't anything to write home about, so I'll totally take a link to an earlier discussion in lieu of an answer.)",
"How do you \"resuscitate\" smelly flip-flops? I've tried vinegar (which just makes the flip-flops smell like feet *and* vinegar), I've tried (once) those overpriced sprays they sell along with the sneakers. No dice. \n\nLooking for something effective but also cheap.\n\nI have some kitty-litter-deodorizer-spray with peroxide sitting around the house - I can't imagine that it will make things *worse* so I'll try that tonight. Barring that - any input appreciated.\n\nThanks in advance :) \n\n(Also I apologize if this has been asked/answered before - Reddit's search algorithm isn't anything to write home about, so I'll totally take a link to an earlier discussion in lieu of an answer.)"
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"Uh. Buy new ones. They're not that expensive... Just imagine how much you've spent trying to \"fix\" these.",
"I wear ballet flats without socks on the regular and this is how I clean them. Fill a sink with hot, soapy water. Wash them down and rinse until the water runs clear. Then fill the shoe with baking soda (I do a good half inch thick) and leave in the sun to dry (or somewhere with good ventilation if it's rainy). It takes about 48 hours to dry, but the baking soda will come right out and the shoes are deodorized. ",
"Buy a regular can of Lysol, spray them thoroughly (without soaking them), place them in a gallon-size ziplock bag, and put them in the freezer overnight (or longer).\n\nBAM, bacteria genocide. Your stinky flip-flops are now clean.",
"Soak with denture tablets overnight in a bucket of warm water\n\nCheck manufacturer cleaning recommendations, should be fine in a gentle cold wash. My shoes can be machine washed but must be air dried, I would assume your sandals are similar.\n\nMay require an additional treatment if laundry water from step #2 is really dark. The denture tablets need to penetrate everywhere.\n\nI've tried vinegar, baking soda, bleach, etc. and a good old denture tablet soak seems to work the best for me. I put around 8 or 10 tablets in the bucket "
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"A way to keep my black caps (baseball hats) from turning dark blue (fading) after a few months? I love black baseball hats but when I wear them in the summer and I'm outside a lot, I've noticed that after a few months, they're no longer as black as they used to be but more dark blue. Is there a way to keep them looking black and not washed/faded out?",
"A way to keep my black caps (baseball hats) from turning dark blue (fading) after a few months? I love black baseball hats but when I wear them in the summer and I'm outside a lot, I've noticed that after a few months, they're no longer as black as they used to be but more dark blue. Is there a way to keep them looking black and not washed/faded out?"
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"misanthrope237 is indeed right. Just like a newspaper laying on the driveway for a few hours in the sunlight 'changes' color (yellows), so will clothing material. This can be accelerated by the residual chemicals on the fabrics that are exposed. To remedy the residual chemical possibility rinse the hat in cold water (sink, garden hose, etc.) when purchased to flush out the chemicals on the surface of the fabric of the hat. After the game, do the same thing. Air dry BTW!",
"If your hat is dirty hand wash in cold water with shampoo. The shampoo removes the sweat stains and will not fade the colors as much as other soaps. "
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"How to quickly heal a crack in the corner of your lips. This is also known as angular cheilitis and looks like [this](http://www.angularchelitis.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/angular-cheilitis-300x244.jpg). Quite painful and irritating.",
"How to quickly heal a crack in the corner of your lips. This is also known as angular cheilitis and looks like [this](http://www.angularchelitis.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/angular-cheilitis-300x244.jpg). Quite painful and irritating.",
"How to quickly heal a crack in the corner of your lips. This is also known as angular cheilitis and looks like [this](http://www.angularchelitis.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/angular-cheilitis-300x244.jpg). Quite painful and irritating.",
"How to quickly heal a crack in the corner of your lips. This is also known as angular cheilitis and looks like [this](http://www.angularchelitis.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/10/angular-cheilitis-300x244.jpg). Quite painful and irritating."
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"If you have a crack at the corner of your mouth that WON'T go away, even with regular application of Chapstick, try taking a multivitamin. You could have angular cheilitis, which is caused by a deficiency in vitamin B2 or iron.\n\nIf it still won't go away, see your doctor. It can sometimes be a minor bacterial infection.\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Angular_cheilitis",
"Try your best to not break the scab it's a pain in the ass but if the scab comes off it's two extra days at least. Chapstick helps a lot.",
"It is a fungus based affliction. It's caused by dehydration and a vitamin b2 deficiency. Drink 7-10 glasses of water a day take multi vitamins and apply an anti fungal cream. As weird as it sounds I've heard Vagisil works. I tried Lotrimin AF and it was gone in 5 days. ",
"Blistex is the most awesome lip product I've ever encountered for stuff like this.\n\nIt seems to heal and soften your lips, while chapstick just seems to cover them.\n\nI get the kind in a tube that squeezes out white cream."
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"I mostly work with one person and never have much to talk about, any suggestions, I'm 19 male and he's 37 ",
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"Most folks like to talk about themselves. Ask a few questions, remember the answers, and then you can follow up next week. Like 'how was that game you attended on Saturday?' You are a good egg, btw. ",
"We'd need more information to provide a meaningful response as the answer changes tremendously depending on the person and the circumstances.\n\nWhat type of job do you both do? Is it something that you SHOULD be concentrating on, or something with a lot of downtime or driving time? If it's the former and he takes his job seriously, maybe he doesn't want to mix social and work things.\n\nDoes he like his job, or can he not wait until it's done so he can go do what he wants to do? You're not going to have a good chat with someone who hates being there.\n\nAre there others around you and does he socialize with them at all? Maybe he has other friends.\n\nIs he a quiet and reserved person, meaning he might not want to talk at all? \n\nIs it a desk job where you're both pinned pretty much to a chair, or something else where you're both interacting with other people all day? Because the latter can use a lot of energy and make someone not feel like talking even more to their co-workers.\n\nQuestions like those help understand whether the person is someone you actually do want to be friendly with. "
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"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? ",
"Graduated 5 years ago, no job in the field since. Where should I go from here? Assuming this means I'd like to get in to the field. What steps can I take as to not appear too far gone? How willing would an employer be willing to hire someone in my case? "
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"This is hard to answer because it depends on your field of work. In most cases you'll probably need to convince someone to just take a gamble on you and then work your ass off to prove you're worth their time and money. \n\nNext option is to prove your work ethic through other jobs that you work. If you currently work none, you should start there. \n\nMost important is to develop a REALLY REALLY good answer to the question of why you haven't worked in that field for 5 years after graduation. Now, depending on your morals... You could answer this many ways. Maybe you backpacked through Europe to learn about different cultures while you were young, maybe you needed to move around with a sick family member. At the end of the day, all you have to do is convince them that you're worth their time and hope you get the chance to prove it. \n\nLastly, (and once again this depends on your field) the honest truth is that a pretty good company WON'T hire you. Either they won't be convinced by your word, or they will hire someone who DOES have the necessary background in the field. In this case your best bet would be to find a smaller company, maybe even less successful. Develop a background there and slowly start exploring your career options as you develop your resume and skills. Then you may have the chance to move up into that better or bigger company. Don't make the mistake of assuming it's as black and white as getting an amazing job or being a failure, good things take time. \n\nI wish you the best of luck. The ball is entirely in your court. ",
"Sorry folks I attempted to keep it generic for sake of anyone else who's curious. I got a certificate in Human Resources. Somewhat recently I went back to university to persue something else. Life happened and I dropped out. I was hoping to upgrade my credentials but unfortunately likely did not help at all. \nMy resume is pretty good from what I've heard. Closest I've had to positions that had HR duties were my 6 years of fast food management. I stopped that to go into a short lived career and we'll paying job in contruction, to which I got laid off, which lead me to university. Ever since I've been a pizza delivery driver.",
"I don't know what the public service is like in Canada, but in Australia, most government departments mainly hold generalist occupations that don't require degrees from any specific fields. Graduate programs might be a good entry point if you can deal with the competition.",
"You might try a slightly different approach, find a great company to work for and try to get hired doing anything there. If they ask, make it clear that you hope to someday use your training in the capacity you went to school for and that you are willing to work your way up. \n\nThen once you get hired start making connections in the department you want to work in. And hey, you are definitely going to start out dealing with that department as its HR and they will be hiring you. ",
"Well, some more information would be helpful. What degree do you hold and what is \"the field\"? What jobs have you held in the last five years that would line up with your career aspirations? How does your resume look? Have you practiced interviewing?",
"I don't support this as a system, but a lot of times you can pad your resume with volunteer work. It's an opportunity to hone / show off your skills, make connections, and do something good for your community all at the same time. I know its not as good as getting paid, but its better than not working.\n\nWhat field are you in?",
"Where are you from? How well do you know the labour market for what you want to do? You should speak to recruiters that recruit for your field and ask them advice. \n\nAre you willing to relocate to get a job in your field to get the experience? If so expand the area that you are searching in.\n\n\nGo to networking events in your field and meet people that are doing what you want to do.\n\nUltimately big companies probably wont be interested in hiring you, so you need to send your CV out to small companies asking about part time or unpaid work to get experience. Once you have experience it will make things much easier. I have polish friends that have come to the UK that have volunteered in the day and worked in warehouses at night to get the experience which eventually leads to a job that they want to do.\n\nGood Luck!",
"There is no such thing as being too far gone from a field. If that was the case, moms who get pregnant and take years off to raise kids would be screwed. You need to understand how to sell your current employment as a skill generator to the job you want. \n\nAbout the job you want. Pick up a regional newspaper, check the library if you don't have access to a major newspaper classifieds section. I'm not suggesting going online, use a real physical newspaper. Scan and circle any job that sounds like it would be a great job to have. Highlight every credential/acronym and google how to get those that you need for that job. \n\nThe big problem is people look short sighted and get boxed into a career corner with no idea where to move. So plan ahead and work toward that ideal job. Ideal job needs 3-4 years experience, get a job at the entry level and work it for 3-4 years. Ideal job needs certifications/licenses? Get certified while working that entry level job. Ideal job needs a higher degree, well then I guess you know what is coming next.",
"It largely depends on what field you are going into. For almost any field, there will be some entry level position somewhere that will take a chance on you. Its just a matter of what you are willing to do. It also depends on where you live and how mobile you are.",
"Idk any you haven't had a relevant job in the past 5 years, but I had a problem for a year where my location was the issue. I was in a place that has no market for my desired position so I was applying to places that I'd be willing to move to. This didn't work, I had to move first. \n\nApply to places nearby, or move somewhere you can. ",
"Try applying to places of industry. Developed businesses in the industrial sector always need HR it's rare these places don't have HR and it's pretty common for the boss to assume the role of HR, MD and OD and the former isn't really something they have time for. I've been working as an engineer so this is all purely from my experiences personally, always worth a shot! Good luck!",
"Not sure what uber is like in your area but it's been a hit in my city (SYD, aus). Drivers have done AMA in r/syd and say they can earn good money if they commit to it. \n\nDefinitely check what your state laws are regarding uber and the insurance you'll need to purchase. ",
"I jumped over by being self-employed. Nobody questioned my age or skills in my face. Surely there were hardly any orders in the beginning, but it wasn't for 5 years. ",
"You must be truly desperate if you are turning to reddit. I think you have a sense for entitlement and are afraid to start at the bottom cause of some sense of false pride. Just fucking work your ass off and good things will come. Learn a craft/trade.",
"If you're too dumb to post said field in post asking for advice, you're too dumb to ever be successful in that field. \n\n\n\nProtip, you dumb shithead :: Degree in HR = Recruiter, if you don't suck you'll make 100-200k in no time. "
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"Healthy foods to always keep stocked in the fridge for a quick and easy meal/snack? I'm a single gut living by myself, so I don't find it beneficial to mass prep a lot of food that will go bad if uneaten...\n\nI'm tired of only eating chicken/rice/broccoli along with various mixes of random vegetables. What can I keep prepped and stocked in my fridge that is quick and easy to put together?\n\nP.S. meal prepping on Sundays and eating the same meal 4-5 times/week is boring, so im not necessarily looking for a \"weekly meal prep\", just snacks and different things I can throw together",
"Healthy foods to always keep stocked in the fridge for a quick and easy meal/snack? I'm a single gut living by myself, so I don't find it beneficial to mass prep a lot of food that will go bad if uneaten...\n\nI'm tired of only eating chicken/rice/broccoli along with various mixes of random vegetables. What can I keep prepped and stocked in my fridge that is quick and easy to put together?\n\nP.S. meal prepping on Sundays and eating the same meal 4-5 times/week is boring, so im not necessarily looking for a \"weekly meal prep\", just snacks and different things I can throw together",
"Healthy foods to always keep stocked in the fridge for a quick and easy meal/snack? I'm a single gut living by myself, so I don't find it beneficial to mass prep a lot of food that will go bad if uneaten...\n\nI'm tired of only eating chicken/rice/broccoli along with various mixes of random vegetables. What can I keep prepped and stocked in my fridge that is quick and easy to put together?\n\nP.S. meal prepping on Sundays and eating the same meal 4-5 times/week is boring, so im not necessarily looking for a \"weekly meal prep\", just snacks and different things I can throw together",
"Healthy foods to always keep stocked in the fridge for a quick and easy meal/snack? I'm a single gut living by myself, so I don't find it beneficial to mass prep a lot of food that will go bad if uneaten...\n\nI'm tired of only eating chicken/rice/broccoli along with various mixes of random vegetables. What can I keep prepped and stocked in my fridge that is quick and easy to put together?\n\nP.S. meal prepping on Sundays and eating the same meal 4-5 times/week is boring, so im not necessarily looking for a \"weekly meal prep\", just snacks and different things I can throw together"
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"Hummus...snack with pita chips, dip carrots or cukes, spread on a wrap with veggies, and keeps well in fridge.",
"One of my favorites is the Flatout brand flatbreads. They’re low carb. I use them cold to make ham or turkey wraps with fresh vegetables. If I’m craving something hot, I brush one lightly with olive oil and top with mozzarella cheese, green pepper, onion, and use the chunked chicken breast (follow heating instructions) in the freezer section to make an easy and healthy pizza. 350 degrees for 8-10 minutes in the oven. If you check Pinterest or Google there are several variations of pizza’s made like this and they’re so easy and good! If you’re a guacamole fan the single serve containers of Wholy Guacamole are good with Melba Toast or tortilla chips. I keep frozen berries and use them in my blender with a single serving container of Greek yogurt, a splash of apple juice and if you want a higher protein concentration you can add a scoop of your favorite protein powder. Makes an easy meal replacement/snack. Hope this helps!",
"Caprese with fresh basil and truffle oil.\n\nGoats cheese salad with nuts and honey.\n\nRye bread topped with fresh shrimp, mayo and alfalfa sprouts (maybe a salad leaf on the slice of bread).\n\nOmelette with mushrooms and/or spinach, or what ever you like.\n\nAny kind of soup topped with a soft boiled egg. \n\nNigella's \"eggs in purgatory\".\n\nAlso, lots of veggies, bathed in olive oil and herbs, topped with cheese, baked in the oven is really delish (last time I ate this I used broccoli, cauliflower, carrots and tomatoes. Don't remember if I used garlic and/or onions but that will work too).\n\nYou can also up the taste with a lot of dishes by adding mushrooms, ground pepper, garlic or herbs.",
"We keep coconut milk and curry paste around for curry, fish oil for pad Thai, tomatoes for sauce or stew, beans for various meals like Mexican casserole. All depends on what you like to eat. Everything uses the same veggies, for the most part."
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"How/when to say no at work I tend to be a people pleaser so when people at work ask me to do something I almost always say yes, even when that task should really fall to someone else. I'm sure part of it is fear of being fired for disobedience, part is wanting to improve my standing within the company. The point is I'm aware that I'm not doing any favors by being a \"yes man\". How and when should I say no to others that I work with?",
"How/when to say no at work I tend to be a people pleaser so when people at work ask me to do something I almost always say yes, even when that task should really fall to someone else. I'm sure part of it is fear of being fired for disobedience, part is wanting to improve my standing within the company. The point is I'm aware that I'm not doing any favors by being a \"yes man\". How and when should I say no to others that I work with?",
"How/when to say no at work I tend to be a people pleaser so when people at work ask me to do something I almost always say yes, even when that task should really fall to someone else. I'm sure part of it is fear of being fired for disobedience, part is wanting to improve my standing within the company. The point is I'm aware that I'm not doing any favors by being a \"yes man\". How and when should I say no to others that I work with?",
"How/when to say no at work I tend to be a people pleaser so when people at work ask me to do something I almost always say yes, even when that task should really fall to someone else. I'm sure part of it is fear of being fired for disobedience, part is wanting to improve my standing within the company. The point is I'm aware that I'm not doing any favors by being a \"yes man\". How and when should I say no to others that I work with?",
"How/when to say no at work I tend to be a people pleaser so when people at work ask me to do something I almost always say yes, even when that task should really fall to someone else. I'm sure part of it is fear of being fired for disobedience, part is wanting to improve my standing within the company. The point is I'm aware that I'm not doing any favors by being a \"yes man\". How and when should I say no to others that I work with?",
"How/when to say no at work I tend to be a people pleaser so when people at work ask me to do something I almost always say yes, even when that task should really fall to someone else. I'm sure part of it is fear of being fired for disobedience, part is wanting to improve my standing within the company. The point is I'm aware that I'm not doing any favors by being a \"yes man\". How and when should I say no to others that I work with?"
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"When you start a job, they usually have you sign a piece of paper that says, among other things, HOW many hours you're expected to work per week, and WHAT your job description is. \n\nHere's the thing; the more you acquiesce to demands, the more people make demands of you. It is the nature of people to push these boundaries. \n\n\nDon't do \"yes man\" tasks that are not related to your job, and don't do \"yes man\" tasks that allow the \"man\" to be lazy, and to shirk duties and throw them on to you. \n\n\nThe other step is to learn polite ways to turn people down. If your boss asks you to do something well outside your job description, remind him of the work you *have* to do and ask if he wants you to reshift your focus. If your job is making sprockets, and he wants you to organize files on widgets, you can say, \"I'd be more than happy to help you with that, except I have a lot of work to do on the sprockets this week. Would you rather delay the sprockets so I can spend time on widgets?\" \n\nThis way, you're not *doing a favor*, you're having your boss *authorize you to do different work*. This protects you, and also might remind him you're too busy to do things like that. It puts the responsibility of the task, and the potential of your primary duties suffering, on *his* shoulders, (where it should be). \n\n\nToo often companies consciously and unconsciously structure themselves like a family, where extra work is \"helping\". But this is an act. They pay you to do a task. If you start doing more tasks, you should be paid more. \n\nIf you find it hard to stop being a Yes Man, then at least *use* that to leverage raises. In six months or twelve months, keep a list of times you've gone above and beyond, and use that to justify asking for hire wages. If people keep coming to you, asking you to do things, clearly you are valuable beyond the compensation for your posted job duties. Remind them of that. \n\n\nMost of all, don't be scared. Don't be scared of being fired, and don't be scared of asking for me. Refusing *favors* and *unpaid overtime* at work is NOT something to be guilty about. If you are neglecting core job responsibilities, or massively underperforming, this is fireable. Politely refusing to get coffee, or help other people do work they are paid to do, is not. \n\n \n\n\n",
"I think you need to evaluate each task you take on and decide whether or not doing it is helping you become a better worker. If it doesn't enhance your knowledge or equip you with new skills then don't do it. \n\nIf what you're doing is giving you maximum exposure to a range of work challenges then you walk out more competent than before, giving you greater career leverage.\n\n\n\n",
"You don't say \"Yes\", but you don't say \"No\" either.\n\nWhat you do is evaluate what you're SUPPOSED to be doing against what you're ASKED to do, and you get approval from those who tell you what you're supposed to be doing before you change direction. \n\nIf it's your manager and they're asking you to do something different than what you're supposed to be doing, well then your priorities have changed because your manager just told you to, so do that new thing because your manager told you that you're supposed to do it instead now.\n\nIf it's some other manager, well, there's a conflict. So say something like \"Absolutely, but my manager told me to do this other thing, so I need to check with them first before I switch priorities if that's okay.\" If they say \"no, no, no, sorry, you're busy and I'll find someone else\", you've learned something about how important it really was.\n\nAnd if it's something you WANT to do YOURSELF as a pleasant distraction, then it's up to you to evaluate it, with the understanding that there's nobody else to blame if you pick wrong. (In other words, verify with your manager unless you're sure.)\n\nThe exception to this rule is if your manager is an utter tool or dumkopf, and you're a risk-taker or really, really know what's the best thing to do. Then, again, it's up to you.",
"You can go with always saying yes but when it comes to getting something done do it on your own terms.",
"Volunteer to do some extra \"petty work\" that seems undesirable (as a regular habit and way of life). In some jobs, this means cleaning up physically, in others, it means taking initiative in other ways. If people know you're willing to do boring \"peasant\" chores they are less likely to fault you for refusing other tasks - they will think you have a good reason and not that you are lazy.\n\nSadly, one of the few ways to gain trust is to build goodwill is by appearing to be very hardworking and punctual in work that is unrelated to the quality of your output. That's just the way it is.\n\nIf your superior is putting you on rabbit hole projects that will make the department look bad, don't be afraid to \"casually voice concerns\" to upper management (assuming you already have a casual relationship with them). The goal is not to gossip and talk shit about your colleagues, it's to establish that you're aware of problematic projects and you want to be a part of the solution.\n\n ",
"Short answer: when they aren't above you in chain\n\nBut even then, you should know your job description and if something falls well outside of it consider saying no, especially if it's a task that someone would generally be paid more for like computer work. If you are asked to take on additional roles, a way to avoid saying no would be to just ask about additional compensation for the added responsibility."
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"How to iron a suit jacket Very last minute stuff here. Any tips or proper way to get wrinkles out of a jacket?",
"How to iron a suit jacket Very last minute stuff here. Any tips or proper way to get wrinkles out of a jacket?"
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"Ironing is not recommended. Steam it, and straighten it with your hands. If you don't have a steamer, turn on your shower as hot as it will go and use that steam. ",
"Also, don't dry clean your suit too often. I was told by a tailor that dry cleaning more than four times a year is too often and will cause premature wear and tear. In fact, dry clean if you have a stain or smell that won't go away by other means. Don't wear the same suit two days in a row if you can help it. Just hang it up to air out."
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"how can I alert myself to wake up without waking up my wife too? I have to get up for work at 4:45am, and I'm one of those people that need to set like six alarms on my phone because I ignore the first five. Needless to say, my wife is on the verge of stabbing me in my sleep. What do I do? (Other than going to bed at a reasonable hour, which is simply NOT going to happen.)",
"how can I alert myself to wake up without waking up my wife too? I have to get up for work at 4:45am, and I'm one of those people that need to set like six alarms on my phone because I ignore the first five. Needless to say, my wife is on the verge of stabbing me in my sleep. What do I do? (Other than going to bed at a reasonable hour, which is simply NOT going to happen.)",
"how can I alert myself to wake up without waking up my wife too? I have to get up for work at 4:45am, and I'm one of those people that need to set like six alarms on my phone because I ignore the first five. Needless to say, my wife is on the verge of stabbing me in my sleep. What do I do? (Other than going to bed at a reasonable hour, which is simply NOT going to happen.)",
"how can I alert myself to wake up without waking up my wife too? I have to get up for work at 4:45am, and I'm one of those people that need to set like six alarms on my phone because I ignore the first five. Needless to say, my wife is on the verge of stabbing me in my sleep. What do I do? (Other than going to bed at a reasonable hour, which is simply NOT going to happen.)",
"how can I alert myself to wake up without waking up my wife too? I have to get up for work at 4:45am, and I'm one of those people that need to set like six alarms on my phone because I ignore the first five. Needless to say, my wife is on the verge of stabbing me in my sleep. What do I do? (Other than going to bed at a reasonable hour, which is simply NOT going to happen.)"
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"Following to get idea to provide my husband! Drives me nuts with his hour of alarms set every 5 minutes. \nYou're an awesome partner for ever considering how to be more considerate to her!!! Seriously. ",
"You mean soon to be ex wife.\n\nBut for real. I'm the one in your wife's position. Anything will wake me up. I sleep with ear plugs in. Not every night. But If I wake up at 12:00 and can't get back to sleep I pop them in. ",
"Set your alarm across the room so you have to get up to turn it off. It sounds like your wife is angry cause she has to wake up 5 times instead of one. ",
"Maybe consider sleeping in a spare bed or on the sofa maybe? I know everybody is different but I'd be quite happy sleeping on the sofa if it meant my (I don't have one) wife had a better nights sleep because of it :)",
"I believe you can buy vibrating alarm clocks that go under your pillow and are silent, I'm not sure if the missus would feel it on her side of the bed. Might be worth looking into."
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"How do you prevent those automatic flush toilets from flushing automatically when you're still using them? LPT Request: How do you prevent those automatic flush toilets from flushing automatically when you're still using them?",
"How do you prevent those automatic flush toilets from flushing automatically when you're still using them? LPT Request: How do you prevent those automatic flush toilets from flushing automatically when you're still using them?",
"How do you prevent those automatic flush toilets from flushing automatically when you're still using them? LPT Request: How do you prevent those automatic flush toilets from flushing automatically when you're still using them?",
"How do you prevent those automatic flush toilets from flushing automatically when you're still using them? LPT Request: How do you prevent those automatic flush toilets from flushing automatically when you're still using them?"
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"Leave a piece of toilet paper over the sensor and lift it up when you're ready to flush. (Source: Rebecca Tan from the \"Clicknetwork\" YouTube channel)",
"I pull about 4-5 squares of toilet paper and drape it over the sensor, then , when I'm done simply take the tp off the sensor and flush your troubles away.\n",
"I do the tp over the sensor. But for the ones that are in the wall and leave no where to drape the tp, i heard once that post it notes work. But whos carrying those around? ",
"Chew some gum before you poo. Stick it over the sensor till your done browsing reddit than throw away before you leave."
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"How to get rid of the thrift store smell How do I get that value village smell out of clothes that I have purchased from there? I have tried washing a wool cardigan by hand several times and its not working. Should I just give up?",
"How to get rid of the thrift store smell How do I get that value village smell out of clothes that I have purchased from there? I have tried washing a wool cardigan by hand several times and its not working. Should I just give up?"
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"It is hard to find now, but there is a product called 'Dry Cleaners Secret'. Little wet pads you toss in thr dryer and tumble your dry clean only clothes with. Gets rid of odors very well.\n\nOr, go to a knitting store and ask for Eucelan (it isn't spelled that way. I don't know how to spell it right.) It is made for washing wool and comes in all sorts of awesome scents.",
"Perfume?\n\nAnother thing I think may work, use it and store it with your other clothes. It will eventually change smell after you have used enough."
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"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
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"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
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"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?",
"How can I become more of a morning person? Every night I set my alarm for 6:45 and 6:50 AM to wake me up to go to the gym. I always end up just turning the alarms off and setting them to wake me up for work. I have tried taking Melatonin and I just cant seem to get up out of bed in the morning since I am always tired. \n\nHow can I make getting out of bed and to the gym easier in the morning?"
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"I commiserate! For the longest time I had the same challenge, but I turned it around and so can you. \n\nThe first thing (you seem to already know) you need is a regular sleep schedule. Many people don't know that the most important key to consistently waking up feeling well-rested is a consistent daily wake-up time. You need to make a commitment to try, for the sake of this experiment, forcing yourself to haul your ass out of bed at 6:45 for at least five straight days. I'll get to some tricks to help you do this in a minute. \n\nThe melatonin has me thinking you might have been experiencing poor sleep, which makes it really challenging to get out of bed in the morning. Some people, myself included, get even groggier when on certain meds and supplements. Waking up on Melatonin makes my head feel like it's full of cement. Same goes for certain drugs, like the popular and mild antianxiety/antidepressant Desyrel. \n\nSwitching to a night time herbal tea without caffeine, like chamomile or Sleepytime (my fave, by Celestial Seasonings, available in most grocery stores), really helped me fall asleep, and sleep well throughout the night. Also makes the morning pee that much more urgent of an imperative, and nothing gets me out of bed as decisively as that.\n\nIf your sleep sucks because you are anxious, The Mediation Podcast (stream or download free on itunes, soundcloud, and them",
"Drinking water before you go to sleep with force you to get up to go to the bathroom. Plus you will be hydrated. ",
"All of these answers are solutions that have worked for other people in the past, but don't take into account one thing, you have to have the motivation first for these things to work. I can train myself (I actually did) to get up and walk across the room to turn off and alarm clock or go the bathroom without fully waking up. For me I had to get into the mindset to want to get up early. That 10 second debate you have in your head after hitting snooze for the 5th time, use that time to remind yourself of the regret you will have for sleeping extra. Thats what works for me.\n\nTL;DR - None of these will work without will power, so you should start there.",
"Sleep in your gym clothes, have all your stuff ready, and get out of bed the moment the alarm rings... Snoozing breeds more snoozing...",
"Probably the most basic solution is to go to bed earlier, which can be hard to do. Try counting how m long between when you normally get up and when you want to get up, then go to bed that much earlier.",
"Put your alarm clock in a spot where you have to get out of bed to turn it off or press the snooze button. Don't forget to turn up the volume if you set it up far away from your bed.",
"Get up when your alarm goes off. Getting out of bed and moving about will wake you up. Laying in bed and hitting snooze will not. It won't take long to get into routine, you'll begin to fall asleep earlier and waking up will become more natural. \n\nIf you need more incentive to get out of bed in the am drink lots of water right before you go to sleep.",
"Take the kaizen approach.\nConsider what is an ok time for you to wake up - I mean not when you WANT to wake up, but rather when your body currently ALLOWS you to wake up.\nAnd then set the alarm 5 min earlier. \nWaking 5 minutes earlier is not that big change, you'll surely make it.\nRepeat. Next day, next 5 minutes off. If one day is not enough for you to adapt, prolong the time and only then substract next 5 minutes.\nRepeat until you get up at desired time.\n\nThe whole science is in letting your brain/body adapt.",
"Eventually you'll reset. I started a new job and went a couple months struggling to get up, now I pass out at 9pm on weekends ",
"When I wake up , instead of thinking that I'm soo tired I don't think about it and almost always feel less tired.",
"Sleep with your curtains open and open a window. The morning sun, fresh air and outside sounds wakes you up naturally as soon as it's bright - you feel more rested and depending on when the sun comes up in your location will get you out of bed quite early. Obviously if you live next to a busy road you may want to leave the window shut",
"Not suggesting this, just sharing. I used to hate mornings until I started smoking weed. Now my mornings are my favorite part of the day. I think it's part of it helping me get to sleep early. Even if I don't smoke, I still get to sleep a lot earlier than I used to. I hate sleeping any later than 8. ",
"Never snooze even once. Once your alarm goes off your brain starts to wake up and then when you hit that snooze button, youre releasing all the \"time to go to sleep\" hormones again. So your brain starts deactivating and then it will take even longer to wake up.",
"I wake up two hours in advance of whatever I need to do, like my 8AM class. At 6 AM I'm a zombie, but by 8 I'm alert. If you want to go to the gym at 7, then wake up at 5:30. Read the news and then something educational that you have interest in, that will wake up your mind. Then do stretches for your body. Depends on what you're doing at the gym, you might want a light breakfast and then second breakfast when you get home.\n\nBe consistent. Wake up at the same time every day, even days you have off. ",
"I literally just got up to go to the gym. My alarm goes off at 705am and it gets harder everyday as the sun comes up later. Here are my tips:\n\n1. Make sure you get enough sleep, I've been noticing it's really hard to get up at this time if I'm not asleep by 1130 at the latest. (Open your blinds to help let in the sun which should be coming up around that time)\n\n2. Put your alarm on the other side of the room.\n\n\n\n3. Once it's off walk around a little bit, I go to the kitchen and start making coffee. While I wait for the coffee I go to the bathroom then get some cold water from the kitchen to wake up.\n\n4. Last tip is don't be a little bitch. ",
"Hey, I'm late to the party, but this is the method that I have found to work best (I HATE getting up early, usually). Get up before you have to and get some work done. So sacrifice some of the time that you spend working, playing video games, etc... before you go to bed, and instead do whatever that is in the morning, before you have to be somewhere. It helps you get into the swing of things, keeps you on time, and reduces the stress of mornings.",
"Fall asleep at the same time every night and wake up at the same time every morning, even on weekends.\n\n",
"Caffeine pills! I keep one on my nightstand next to my alarm and a glass of water. Take the pill when the alarm goes off, then fall back asleep. Wake up 15m later from the pill kicking in without even trying. ",
"Bottle of water on your nightstand. When the alarm goes off, chug it before hitting snooze. You'll get up.\n\nBonus points if you mix a pre-workout drink mix into the water. You will buzz right out of bed.\n\nSource: had the same issue my whole life. But I've been waking up at 6 am to go to the gym for 6 weeks now. It gets easier.",
"wake up earlier\ndo something fun, or something you've been wanting to do for yourself, that way, you aren't waking up to sweat at the gym or waking up to get to work.\nYou're waking up for yourself and work or gym is just part of the day.\n\nSometimes I wake up and take the extra time to make myself a nice breakfast, or play some games, or take the private time to plan ahead. It would be such a shame to spend this allotment of private time sleeping. ",
"Schedule things in the morning with people you care about. You'll be surprised how effective this is.",
"Just posted in LPT on something related to this: http://redd.it/21c7ha\n\nI had the same problem. Try moving the alarm clock so that you can not turn it off without getting **completely** out of bed. Fast through dinner. A full stomach cues your body to be awake. Avoid caffeine and foods with histamine in the evening. Histamine is something your body releases to cause you to wake up.\n\nHistamine foods http://diagnosisdiet.com/histamine-intolerance/",
"Just get your feet to touch the floor. Don't make any grand promises of actually getting to the gym. Then just get yourself to the bathroom, again, no promises. Work yourself through all the steps it takes to get to the gym but always give yourself an option to stop and get back to bed. Chances are you'll find your willpower along the way.",
"I've read it takes 28 straight days to form a habit. So try forcing yourself to get up at the exact time every day; also going to sleep at the same time every day helps too. I used to have the same problem getting up and this worked for me.",
"I think it helps to get to bed as early as possible and sleep well. I've found recently that if I read before I go to bed, even just five minutes, it helps me conk out faster. Something else is knowing that if I don't get up one of my roommates will get in the bathroom first and then I'll just be screwed in terms of time. Dunno how you could make that work for you...\n\nYou could also invest in paying for personal training so if you don't get up and go you'll be losing money?",
"I read somewhere that a big part of this tiredness that you feel in the mornig is because you are hungry and dehidrated.\n\nSo here are some tips that worked for me:\n\n-Eat something and drink water before you go to bed. \n-Don't drink alcohol, caffeine or other substances that may intervene with your sleep quality before you go to sleep. \n-Get enough sleep. \n-Wake up always at the same time. \n-Don't be a pussy. Even if you feel tired now, you won't feel tired during the day if you got enough sleep \n\nIf any of that works there's always cocaine.",
"I put my alarm across the room so I have to stand up and walk across the room to turn it off. Once I'm vertical I'm awake. I'm not a morning person at all.",
"I am very much a morning person, 6 a.m. every weekday to hit the gym, and 7 a.m. on weekends, to start chores early. I don't think there is any trick that will ever work for you. You say that you have trouble getting up because you are tired. Well, I'm tired when I get up every day too. The secret is: get up anyway. If you're awake enough to know that you're tired, then you're awake enough to sit up, then stand, then go about your day. ",
"Get rid of any blinds and drapes. During my holiday I was always up before 7 because my room had no blinds.\n Also go camping outdoors for a week. That will get your sheep schedule back on track.",
"All you need is road construction outside your house that starts in with the jackhammers at 7:00. I say it jokingly, but seriously, it went on outside my house for the better part of the last year. After a couple weeks of just cursing the fuckers, woke up one morning and realized \"fuck it, might as well go running to get away from this for a bit\". Never ran before and now that's my normal routine.\n\nA few days of forcing yourself should somewhat get you in the habit. Now I'm always up before like 9 even though there's no noise and I can sleep in. On the flip side, it's pretty rare I can keep my eyes open past midnight even when I try now. But you quickly realize 1 morning hour of getting shit done or relaxing with a coffee > another hour of netflix shows or browsing interwebs at night.",
"I am the same but have to go to work early morning... I started taking vitamin D on a regular basis (I live in the country with not much sun)... I try to go to sleep earlier. I never allow myself to snooze the alarm - wake up immediately. Coldish shower and music help too. After couple of months it's no problem anymore. My husband also tied this app that checks your sleeping stages and wakes you up in a good time.... He said it helps him.... I did not try. "
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"How to choose when to share your opposing thoughts with others and when to not contradict others' opinions. I always feel like I should speak out more and say what I think. A lot of the time I am also thinking very opposing thoughts that clash with somebody else's. Funnily enough, once I do speak my mind, I get a funny feeling afterwards as if going, \"Shouldn't have said that. Made things awkward\" \n\n\nFor example, I have a professor teaching my women's studies course. I feel her way of teaching is biased against men. She asks everyone to comment on her blog where she shares such bias to the world. I commented on one post with conflicting thoughts and got the opposition coming back my way in response. I'm not sure if speaking your mind should feel like, well, I don't know what it should feel like :D ",
"How to choose when to share your opposing thoughts with others and when to not contradict others' opinions. I always feel like I should speak out more and say what I think. A lot of the time I am also thinking very opposing thoughts that clash with somebody else's. Funnily enough, once I do speak my mind, I get a funny feeling afterwards as if going, \"Shouldn't have said that. Made things awkward\" \n\n\nFor example, I have a professor teaching my women's studies course. I feel her way of teaching is biased against men. She asks everyone to comment on her blog where she shares such bias to the world. I commented on one post with conflicting thoughts and got the opposition coming back my way in response. I'm not sure if speaking your mind should feel like, well, I don't know what it should feel like :D ",
"How to choose when to share your opposing thoughts with others and when to not contradict others' opinions. I always feel like I should speak out more and say what I think. A lot of the time I am also thinking very opposing thoughts that clash with somebody else's. Funnily enough, once I do speak my mind, I get a funny feeling afterwards as if going, \"Shouldn't have said that. Made things awkward\" \n\n\nFor example, I have a professor teaching my women's studies course. I feel her way of teaching is biased against men. She asks everyone to comment on her blog where she shares such bias to the world. I commented on one post with conflicting thoughts and got the opposition coming back my way in response. I'm not sure if speaking your mind should feel like, well, I don't know what it should feel like :D "
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"Rule #1 I always contradict feminists because vagina. \n\nRule #2 Agree with everyone else but do what you want. ",
"If you speak, you must be prepared for a response. \n\nPeople will rarely be convinced by anything you say. I find that the best you can usually hope for is to plant a seed, but there will be pushback.\n\nIn a sensitive area like man-woman relations, you would be well served to listen more, especially at this early stage of your intellectual development. \n\n",
"I wouldn't suggest contradicting your professor. What's the point? You need a decent grade. Later on if there is somewhere you can give an honest and anonymous review you can consider doing that if it is important.\n\nIn general people don't like being disagreed with. People like people who agree or are at least not disagreeing with them all the time. Look for similarities to build relationships. For example if someone says \"I love chocolate cheesecake\" there is no need to say \" I hate chocolate cheesecake\", what is the point? No need to lie though, you could say \"I love vanilla cheesecake\" if you actually do or if you don't like any cheesecake you could say \"I love desserts too especially apple pie.\"\n\nPeople don't bond over disagreeing. Only disagree if necessary. If someone says I love be actor x and you hate actor x. Maybe say, his movie such and such made a ton of money. I really like adventure movies.\n\nNow at work on a group project you might need to tactfully make a point, but you could say, your plan has some good points but \nI think if we did such and such instead we could save some more money.\n\nThe thing is disagree only if you have too and be tactful. You don't have to parrot others likes and opinions but try to build on similarities and find points of agreement if possible."
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"Best way to carry cash and credit cards? Even though I've been using a wallet for more years than I can count at this point, I've never found a wallet I really like. I am currently using a slim card case [similar to this](http://www.amazon.com/Alpine-Swiss-Leather-Wallet-Super/dp/B00AB0AX4C). But it doesn't offer enough room. Ideally, I'd like a space for my ID, 4 cards, a few business cards, and cash. The problem is that all wallets that can hold that much feel like George Costanza wallets. Anybody have a good solution?\n\n",
"Best way to carry cash and credit cards? Even though I've been using a wallet for more years than I can count at this point, I've never found a wallet I really like. I am currently using a slim card case [similar to this](http://www.amazon.com/Alpine-Swiss-Leather-Wallet-Super/dp/B00AB0AX4C). But it doesn't offer enough room. Ideally, I'd like a space for my ID, 4 cards, a few business cards, and cash. The problem is that all wallets that can hold that much feel like George Costanza wallets. Anybody have a good solution?\n\n",
"Best way to carry cash and credit cards? Even though I've been using a wallet for more years than I can count at this point, I've never found a wallet I really like. I am currently using a slim card case [similar to this](http://www.amazon.com/Alpine-Swiss-Leather-Wallet-Super/dp/B00AB0AX4C). But it doesn't offer enough room. Ideally, I'd like a space for my ID, 4 cards, a few business cards, and cash. The problem is that all wallets that can hold that much feel like George Costanza wallets. Anybody have a good solution?\n\n",
"Best way to carry cash and credit cards? Even though I've been using a wallet for more years than I can count at this point, I've never found a wallet I really like. I am currently using a slim card case [similar to this](http://www.amazon.com/Alpine-Swiss-Leather-Wallet-Super/dp/B00AB0AX4C). But it doesn't offer enough room. Ideally, I'd like a space for my ID, 4 cards, a few business cards, and cash. The problem is that all wallets that can hold that much feel like George Costanza wallets. Anybody have a good solution?\n\n",
"Best way to carry cash and credit cards? Even though I've been using a wallet for more years than I can count at this point, I've never found a wallet I really like. I am currently using a slim card case [similar to this](http://www.amazon.com/Alpine-Swiss-Leather-Wallet-Super/dp/B00AB0AX4C). But it doesn't offer enough room. Ideally, I'd like a space for my ID, 4 cards, a few business cards, and cash. The problem is that all wallets that can hold that much feel like George Costanza wallets. Anybody have a good solution?\n\n",
"Best way to carry cash and credit cards? Even though I've been using a wallet for more years than I can count at this point, I've never found a wallet I really like. I am currently using a slim card case [similar to this](http://www.amazon.com/Alpine-Swiss-Leather-Wallet-Super/dp/B00AB0AX4C). But it doesn't offer enough room. Ideally, I'd like a space for my ID, 4 cards, a few business cards, and cash. The problem is that all wallets that can hold that much feel like George Costanza wallets. Anybody have a good solution?\n\n"
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"My girlfriend got me [this wallet](http://www.jaqet.com/collections/wallets/products/blaq-landscape-wallet) for Christmas. [Here](http://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0150/0570/files/old_vs_new_3_grande.jpg?1120) is what it looks like after being in your pocket for a bit. It's a very nice looking wallet. I carry 5 or 6 cr",
"I just use a simple bi-fold leather wallet and I don't have any issues. I tried the card holder thing for a while but like you said, there just isn't enough room. ",
"I got this wallet from a Kickstarter campaign and have been loving it. Very close to the one you linked but with a better solution for holding cash. It's been sturdy after 2 months of use. The leather is good quality. \n\nhttp://www.kickstarter.com/projects/gadgetomi/minimalist-by-capsule-the-definitive-essentials-wa",
"Duct Tape wallet. Seriously, they're really thin once you get them wore in. And a huge conversation starter. ",
"Check out the flipside 2x wallet on flipsidewallet.com. Kinda spend, but the best wallet by far that I've had. ",
"You can buy a reasonably good leather wallet from India at Wal Mart for about $10. It will last 5+ years. It has various pockets for cr",
"I've been using a large binder clip for the last year. Works well with USD, but when I head north I find that the Canadian currency falls apart quickly in my pocket. "
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"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**",
"I am filling out my first apartment application today, what are some things I should know? I have graduated and it's time for me to get a place. I have been apartment shopping for a long time and found a place that seems great, has good reviews, and is pretty close to work.\n\nI am ready to go ahead with this, even though I'm nervous! I will go into their office again today to fill out the application, talk about the specific apartment I want, and I think put down a deposit.\n\nAs I understand, I will fill out the application, they will poke and prod into my background, and if they like me ask me to come back to sign the lease and everything.\n\n**What are some things I should be aware of during this process? I mostly want tips about the actual paperwork / procedural part of it and anything I should ask or double check on. If you want to share tips about living on my own, feel free though!**"
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"Be really thorough in your walk-through of the property before you sign. You want to make sure any and all existing damage/imperfections are fixed (or at the very least recorded) so that when you move out, they aren't holding you and your security deposit responsible for them. Pictures are always a good idea. ",
"Don't live next to the pool! You'll be woken up by people screaming in the morning and kept up late from people jumping the fence for a night swim. Swimmers love to scream especially kids. ",
"This is something that I learned the hard way but it doesnt apply directly to your question. If you're going to be living in any location where you're renting the residence, even if you're renting a room from a family member, get renters insurance.\n\nBut... before you sign up for your renters insurance, photograph and document _everything_ you own. If it's electronics, photograph the item and any serial numbers on the device. If it's something expensive (jewelry, furniture, etc), have the item appraised and scan a copy of the document to keep in digital form with the images. Then, make sure that all these pictures and documents are stored in the cloud (Google account, Apple account, Dropbox account, etc). Then, sign up for renters insurance for an amount equal to what you own.\n\nThe last apartment I lived in didnt require renters insurance and I was \"thankful\" to finally be rid of \"such an annoyance\" (had to prove bi-monthly at previous apartments that I had renters insurance). It was a gated community with its own security system that was canceled without notification to the tenants. A month after the security team was canceled my apartment was broken into and picked clean. As a young geek I had a number of game consoles, games, movies, and CDs not to mention the collection of computers, electronics and the like. They even took my $10 cordless phone that I bought from Wal-mart simply because they could. When I reported the robbery to the rental office they simply shrugged their shoulders and asked, \"Do you have renters insurance?\"\n\nAlways make sure that you keep your renters insurance up to date and keep any new purchases documented. Also, check your insurance and confirm what it does and does not cover. Some items, like autographed collectables, are not covered under normal renters or home owners insurance. You have to open special policies to have them covered.",
"Take pictures of EVERYTHING when you move in and out. If the landlord makes bullshit claims to keep your security deposit, drag their ass to court and get your money back because you have proof.",
"Check the windows and doors for drafts. Didn't find out till last January that there's half inch gap underneath my windowsill in the bedroom. Had to duct tape it closed to keep the room above freezing even with the heat on",
"Electric outlets. \n\nOlder buildings won't have enough. We all have lots of crap that needs to be plugged in. Look at how many are in each room and where they are located.",
"Insist for a copy of exit exit walkthrough checklist. Make sure that everything that they are going to charge you for is in proper order. If anything if broken/stained, note it down and have them acknowledge it and take pictures.\r\n\r\nVerify that the checklist they give you when leaving is same as the one they gave you initially.\r\n\r\nIf the checklist changes when renewing the lease, make sure that they fix any new item they added.\r\n\r\nThey should also provide the price to fix things on the checklist.\r\n\r\nSome properties will want to do walkthrough after you leave. Refuse that and insist that the walkthrough ID done in your presence, probably last day or last weekend of your term.\r\n\r\n-------\r\n\r\nTalk to neighbors and get to know the neighborhood prior to committing. This includes the demographic, noise levels at various times of day, common area upkeep, roaches and their treatment.\r\n\r\n-------\r\n\r\nLate payment penalty, gym and laundry hours*, etc\r\n\r\n* we had 24x7 laundry but to recharge the money card, we had to go to the office which had regular 9-6 schedule and limited hours on weekends. First weekend we had to find other tenants who had enough money on their card to cover our loads and were willing to cooperate.",
"If they say they are gonna clean it and on move in day it's filthy make sure you remind them to clean it. My gf just moved into a new place while I\"m halfway across the country and moving back in a few weeks. I went back for a wedding and the place was filthy. She's a pretty strong independent person but thought that was just part of rentals. I told her you are the customer still, you are paying them for a service to provide you with an adequate place to live for a rate. If they don't hold up their end of the bargain you have the right to tear them a new one and demand better. Please read the lease thoroughly too. Sometimes if they don't provide adequate living accomidations (like a working AC when the one you get isn't working well) then you have the right to just null the lease soemtimes.",
"Some great advice I got from a teacher was to drive through late, like midnight, on a Friday/Saturday night to see how the atmosphere is on the weekends. I would even check a random weekday if you can. It might be quiet during the day while you are doing your walk through but at nights it might be a little different. I would definitely do this if you know exactly what apartment you are renting and come by and see how your immediate neighbors are at night. I had a next door neighbor that loved to play his music till midnight every night. ",
"Record the conversation when you ask about bed bugs or history of bed bugs. \nNothing s worse then them saying no bedbugs and having no proof that they lied to you. Moving into a new place with everything in the exact position you want it and a bed bug crawling out from the wall. Happened to me personally. Well my exs name was on the lease so I ended up leaving here a couple months later because she turned out to be a psychopath.",
"BEFORE you sign the document, go look at the exact apartment you are being given. \n\nHad a situation where they showed us the demo model, told us it was on the 2nd floor etc... Signed papers, got keys, open door... 1st floor, washer dryer OUTSIDE, horrible smells. \n\nBecause we signed the papers they wouldn't undo it or make it right. ",
"The procedure itself is not complicated. Howevery, you need to be extremely thorough while inspecting the place. Back in 2010 I found this list, and it helped me make great choices.\n\nhttp://allswagga.com/blog/2010/05/19/75-questions-to-ask-before-renting-an-apartment/\n\n\nMake sure you print out several of these lists or just put them in an excel so you can fill out with comments everywhere you go. \n\nThis way, you can compare every different option with measurables, and remember to talk to residents as you walk by, preferably without the property contact or your realtor, as they'll speak more freely without them there.\n\nAlso, if it's an old building, try to figure out when they're planning to demolish it, if they own places around there that they are developing, because it might mean that in 2-3 years they'll try to transfer you to one of their properties to demolish and rebuild.",
"It's pretty standard. Feel free to ask any questions you have. Find out how the apartment you look at differs from the one you'll be getting if you can't see the one you'll be moving into. \n\nHave references ready. You'll need at least three for the paperwork. \n\nThe location of where your apartment is matters as well if you can choose that. I had one that was a corner apartment so no one was on the one wall of me. It was nice and quiet. Some apartments are more up to date than others. \n\n",
"Go visit the place at night. Like, 10:30-12:30 kind of time. See if you feel safe in the parking lot or on the grounds.\n\nI will never rent without washer-dryer hookups in the unit. I can supply the machine(s) but I will never rely on a common room again.\n\nBear in mind the location of the mailbox. If it's far away you may end up slacking off and your mail builds up or worse gets returned.\n\nIf you get assigned parking, make sure that you are empowered to call to get someone violating your space towed. Get it in writing. Get the number for the towing company that they're affiliated with.\n\nDon't be too worried about your cr",
"Be aware of the length of notice to vacate and the month to month rate after if applicable. Some apartments require 60 day notice which makes it difficult to time getting your next apartment if you move out.",
"Speak to the neighbours. Try to chat with those of varying ages if possible. They will let you know what it's like to actually live in the complex, any problems such as crime, noise, even structural problems. You'll also gauge who you'll be living next to under and above. \nAsk to see the apartment at dinner time on an average working day so you get an idea of noises around you. (If you've been looking at the apartment during the week at similar times then you may never know about the loud toddler that sets off the yappy dog at 6pm everyday that lives above you)",
"Related:\nUnderstand the hours for the various amenities. When is the laundry room open? (I lived in a place where it closed at 10pm and opened at 9am - one night I forgot to get my laundry in time, and couldn't rescue it until after work the next day). If near the pool, what are the hours?",
"Read every word in the lease, if there is something you do not agree with or do not understand, bring it up with the leasing office. If they agree to make a change, make sure that both your copy and their copy is changed and has an authorized signature from someone at the leasing office.\n\nOur lease had grammatical and spelling errors that changed the meaning of certain items in the lease. We demanded it was fixed before signing. The next day, we were sent a lease with the corrections. \n\nDon't just sign paperwork for the point of getting through it all, read everything and do not sign until you are ok with the explanations. If the explanations from the leasing office differ from the paper you're signing, demand to get it in writing. Otherwise if that comes up in the future and you signed the original paper, despite them verbally telling you something, it will be your word against theirs and your word won't hold up.",
"I'm about to save your life. Search for bedbugs. Ask for a history of bedbugs and get their answer in writing. Then conduct a search on your own. A very very thorough search. Read up on bedbugs and their signs. \n\nThey are almost impossible to remove from an apartment building because they'll spread to other units and most landlords aren't willing to pay up and treat the building properly, they just do the legal minimum (which is to spray, which doesn't work on bedbugs). Proper treatment calls to heat up the entire unit over 120 degrees for hours. This costs thousands per unit. \n\nIn all honestly, I would call someone with a bed bug sniffing dog to come inspect the unit before anything is moved in and after you've asked management if there are or were bedbugs there. For most places that will cost about $100-150 but it's worth every penny. \n\nI went through this when I was younger. You don't want bed bugs. They carry diseases, spread like crazy, live for months without food, and are immune to most pesticides and methods of pest control. \n\nTrust me, please listen, check for them. ",
"Call the electric company and ask for an average bill over a 12 month period of that location or, better yet, average bill from October thru March and May thru August. That will give you and idea of how energy efficient the place is and how much to budget for energy bills.",
"As a landlord, read everything they hand you. There is no rush. The devil is in the details. Ask questions, don't let your excitement get ahead of you.\n\nAsk about parking, and parking for guests.\n\nAs everyone else said, take video and/or pics showing every wall surface, floor, ceiling, appliance, window, fixture.\n\nCheck out the place after hours on weekends, what is the neighborhood like Sat. night? \n\nCheck if there's a unit in range of a Pokestop or Pokegym.\n\nHave references available, let those references know to expect a call. \n\nNot everyplace rents to folks with little rental history, don't be upset or try to get them to change, expend your energy finding a better fit for you that's closer to a Pokegym.\n",
"Always be through with the contract. ONE of my teachers said one time an apartment place almost made him pay 100 extra somewhere hidden in the contract.",
"This might be a little extreme, but take a copy of the newspaper from the day you do your inspection/move in photos and drop it in a few of the shots.\n\nI've had landlords attempt to question the date photos were taken, and this will help prove the date.",
"Make sure you find out how much utilities are per month, on average. If the landlord doesn't know, the utility company may be able to provide that info. Older apartments tend to not be insulated as well, so utilities are generally higher. (There are exceptions, of course.) Also, find out what the options are for internet in your area. My apartment complex is locked into a contract with a shitty company and I'm not allowed to change. Had I known that before I moved in, I might have reconsidered my options. My last piece of advice is regarding lease terms: sometimes it's worth it to pay a little more for a month-to-month lease instead of a year-long one if you're uncertain about how long you'll be staying, like if you're a student or thinking of changing jobs. Good luck, and congratulations!",
"In order to fill out the form, you will probably have to look some information up, like the phone numbers of places you used to work and so on. To make things easier for the future, save a copy of the application, so you don't have to look them up again. ",
"Have all of the sink drains professionally cleaned. \n\nThe landlord likely just dumps a bottle of Draino in them, if at all, upon the old tenant leaving. But there's often giant chucks of hair and calcium build-up that need to be pulled and scraped out.",
"As everyone has already said, pictures. Even if everything looks fine, still take them. Also check your phones service. Some rooms won't get any signal. If it comes with appliances, make sure they all work properly before you move in. ",
"Stop sweating! This is the easiest thing in the world. Just fill out the form honestly and let them make their judgement. \n\nIf they see something they don't like (like lack of rental history or much proof of income), be ready to offer more than one month up front, that usually assuages doubt. But really nine times out of ten all you need is good cr"
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"How to conduct business with friends while not straining the relationship? I do video/photography work and sometimes friends/acquaintances will hire me for small gigs. However, sometimes they take advantage of our relationship and will ask more than what was agreed to and I have a difficult time speaking up without feeling like it's affecting our relationship. Any advice is very appreciated! ",
"How to conduct business with friends while not straining the relationship? I do video/photography work and sometimes friends/acquaintances will hire me for small gigs. However, sometimes they take advantage of our relationship and will ask more than what was agreed to and I have a difficult time speaking up without feeling like it's affecting our relationship. Any advice is very appreciated! "
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"Write up a full work order/ bill , itemize it -- basically what we all should be doing for any business transaction. \nThen, add the \" friends/family discount\" of 10-15% (or what you're comfortable with). \n\nThis way, you can actually write down your estimated hours - (and, I'm guessing here.. ) equipment needed, extra batteries/film, etc. \n\nWhen (not if) they do ask for extra, you can fall back to \n\" I have something scheduled right after this\" or \" if I do that, my batteries / film won't last for that other thing you wanted\". \n\nI had to start doing just this for my own people for TV/network installs and computer repairs. I mainly base it on time, but if you have consumables you can make that an issue as well. \n\n\nPayment is another issue - (in my experience) they have to pay something, or they don't really value what you did. If you give them a great price, then they'll brag at the deal. Free.. it was just a favor for a friend. \n\nGet something up front as a commitment. I usually ask for 20-25%. \nDon't \"gift\" your services outright. Again, it diminishes the perceived value. When I really feel generous, I'll give them a gift/check for the amount due. \n... I just did this after building my nephew a special-order gaming rig. \nMy brother paid for 50% of the parts in advance, and I gave them a check for the same amount owed - as a graduation gift. \n\n",
">and will ask more than what was agreed to\n\nIf it's not an obsessive amount more then just shrug it off, they are your friends after all. But if you feel that they are taking significant advantage of this relationship like agreeing to do a shoot at 1 location then it gets extended to 3 shoots over an entire day, they should be will and ready to pay additional for your time as a professional. If they're not willing to pay for your time for your profession, then they are not giving you the proper respect for your line of work. Learn from it once so you know how to engage their requests in the future.\n\nPeople that respect your time, you can draft an estimate up front and you can be pretty confident with the figure. People that don't respect your time, you will need to bill them afterwards and before giving them the final product."
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"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age.",
"What are small tips, mindsets and things you have started doing in the background that has improved your life hugely? It can involve anything. Healthiness, mental health, exercise, sleep, drinking and eating, things you do, how you tackle things, a certain order of doing things? Maybe a great video, film, quote or book? \n\nAnything that could benefit anyone, at any age."
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"If it is going to take less than 5 minutes, do it now. You’ll be amazed at how much your to do list shortens. Also, keep a to do list",
"Being aware of how dopamine functions in the human reward circuit has changed my perspective on tons of behaviors, both in myself, and in others. I haven't been able to conquer every unhealthy, dopamine-related behavior I exhibit, but just being aware has changed my the way I think about my life, and human civilization in general.\n\nI learned about the neurology of behavioral addiction when I got serious about quitting porn. Porn has wrecked my life in a thousand different ways, but that's a whole other conversation. Suffice it to say that when I had trouble quitting, I started looking for help, and I stumbled upon some videos that discussed the neurology of porn addiction (which applies to any compulsive behavior), and the knowledge helped me put my frontal cortex in control for the first time. Since then, I've started to see how dopamine drive some of humanity's unhealthiest behaviors.\n\nIt's also caused me to explore how the psychology of addiction applies to things we wouldn't normally consider addictive or even dangerous, like processed carbohydrates. The way your body regulates energy is massively affected by the food you eat, and irregular energy levels affect your psychology in subtle ways you might not notice.\n\nI haven't been able to completely quit processed food. I've quit porn for good, but other dopamine behaviors have been harder, like Reddit. Because many of them are not 100% unhealthy. I've learned a lot on Reddit, made good friends, and had a ton of meaningful conversations. But if I take a step back, it's obvious I have an unhealthy need for Reddit, and my phone in general. It's something I work on, but haven't had any major success yet.\n\nAnyway, learn about dopamine. Learn about insulin. Those two things will change your perspective on a lot of shit.",
"You are the main character of your story.\n\n If you were in a book or a movie and you were the main character what would you do in the situation you are in. If you aren't doing that in real life why aren't you.",
"The beginning of each week I plan out what I'm going to eat for each meal. It helps me not eat pasta every night, gives me motivation to get out of bed and stick to a schedule, I save money bc I only buy what I need - just in general makes me a bit more of a functional adult.",
"Started giving myself cr",
"Intermittent Fasting. I try not to eat after about 6:30pm and not eat before about 10:30am. I find I am less hungry/snackish.",
"Always under promise and over deliver, never be afraid to fail it's just how you learn and tell people when they do things you want them to because it will make them feel good/better about it and they will do it more",
"Rather than saying I’m sorry all the time I reframe it with gratitude. Like instead of “sorry for being late” I say “thanks for waiting”. It’s a small thing but it reinforces the positive mindset I try to maintain.",
"Don’t worry about not getting to sleep. If you don’t get to sleep, then you don’t. Worrying about it just gives you insomnia.",
"Confidence is essentially a \"fake it until you make it\" situation for me. Obviously not applicable to everything in life, but I was always a pretty shy, antisocial type of guy until I started pretending that I had confidence. Now I'm much better off because of that.",
"Remembering that no matter how much i want to be a good person, after a certain line is passed im not responsible for other peoples feelings and reactions. I should try to be a good person out of empathy and bc its my values and not because i am afraid to be shamed and hurt by other peoples reactions. Especially when it comes to being myself, its not my fucking business how other people might react to say, me having armpit hair or to expressing my own feeling and drawing boundaries.",
"Open, close it. When you’re done with it, put it away. Try to clean up your mess as you go and your world will stay cleaner and more tidy and you’ll have fewer days where you have to spend the whole day cleaning. This comes from decades in professional kitchens where an excellent mantra is “Sign of a pro, clean as you go”",
"The first thing you do when you wake up, must be a win, at least to you. On my case I solve a rubix cube every mourning cause that's what I see as a win, confidence boost for the whole day.",
"If you procrastinate a lot and find it hard to study unless it’s a day before the exam, just open the book and look. Opening the book is the hardest part.",
"Do tiny requests or chores that take less than 5 minutes immediately or first thing possible. Not in 10 minutes (why not now?), not in 5 hours (you will just stress over it the whole time), not tomorrow (you will likely have forgotten).",
"I don't know but i picked up sports healthy food, kept the shitty people out of my life as well as being polite to anyone."
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"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. ",
"How to tell my boss he's been pronouncing my name wrong without getting fired? Brief contextual support: I have an unusual name (it's a Gaelic name, so it's not spelled the way it's pronounced). I've been at my job for 10+ months. My boss (not my direct supervisor but the CEO) pronounced it correctly when I first started, when he was introducing me to the entire staff at my first staff meeting. Yet every time he has seen me since then, he calls me by the wrong name (pronouncing it like how it's spelled). \nAlso, he's a bit of a dick, so I'm not sure if he's doing it on purpose or not, so I don't want to say something off the cuff that might get me fired. At this point it's gone on for so long that I have no idea how to go about this without it being awkward, and I've let it make me so mad that I don't know how to approach it without giving him an attitude. \nAny advice would be greatly appreciated. "
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"IF your CEO is so mean he'll fire you if you tell him how your name is pronounced you should find a new company to work for.",
"For starters, don't get mad about it. He just got mixed up. It happens. Next time he says your name to start talking to you, just say \"it's____________, actually\". He says sorry, you say \"no worries\". And leave it at that. \n\nWhat you don't do is call him out on it in a meeting type setting. I had someone do that to me once and they were all flustered and irritated and then someone else piped in her support in a way that they had clearly been venting over it. I'm still pretty annoyed about it.",
"How about saying, \n\nYou: \"My name has kind of funny pronunciation, it's actually <insert correct pronunciation>?\"\n\nBoss: Wow, I've been saying it wrong all this time?\n\nYou: Yes d-bag, get it right.\n\nActually not that last bit. But if a boss is going to fire you for that you probably don't want to be working there.\n",
"I'm sure you pronounce it correctly in your voice mail greeting...let him roll over once or twice and he'll get it.",
"People mispronounce my last name incorrectly all the time, I immediately fire back the correct pronunciation with something like ignore the H, hard Ts, something to help them remember.",
"Just make it a point to say your name in front of him as much as possible. Say something like \"and then I told myself, you need to work harder, Bob\" or something like that. \n\nOr you could tell someone else how to say it in front of him, and then say \"don't worry, it's really common for people to say it wrong\".",
"Tell him a story about yourself, referring to yourself in the 3rd person. \" ... so I said to myself \"tirnabiontas, just eat the damn cake already!\"",
"Don't approach him. Correct all the other people around you that talk to him. It'll come up in conversation eventually. \n\n\nAlso, if you have children, give them a normal name. \n\n",
"You won't get fired. If they say it again, just say light-heartedly \"I actually pronounce it the Gaelic way - Shuh-vawn [or whatever]\" Make light of how it is spelled in an apparently unusual way. The funny thing about dicks is they often don't take stuff like that personally. They will just think \"whatever\" rather than being offended somehow. \n\nNote they may not actually remember. ",
"Why do you have to skirt around it?\n\nBoss: \"So Steve..\"\n\nYou instinctively know it'll be wrong so you jump in there..\n\nYou: \"It's Susan, what's up?\"\n\nHe runs the risk of looking an unprofessional dick or just getting on with what he was gonna say. \n\nIf you act like you're doing nothing wrong it'll take a special kind of asshole to discipline you on it when it's something as simple as a name. ",
"Just tell him! It's your name, after all. You have a right to have it pronounced the way you want to. You're worried about getting fired, but what about your self respect? Just tell him in a non-judgemental way... like, \"I have a name that's hard to pronounce, but it's...\"",
"If youre feeling anxious about it, practice wjat you would aay if he brought it up. Then, forget you ever practiced it. When youre ready and comfortable and ready to say it, you will, and it wont sound forced. ",
"\"Actually, I'd prefer if you called me (insert correct pronunciation)\" would cover the possibility of a joke or mistake.",
"Always correct anyone with a question if possible. Hey Boss, did you mean to call me dike because my name is Dick (you know, like what you suck at the bus station for nickels) and many people confuse the pronunciation? That usually works - if you don't verbalize what is in the parenthesis.",
"\"Sir, did you know that almost no one can pronounce my name properly when they first see it? However you sir, you succeeded on your first try. Really left an impression on me. Lately, though, you've changed how you pronounce it. I was wondering, has someone said something that has misled you?\"\n\nAss-kissing is one of my few skills. Let me know if u need tips. "
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"How best to market yourself on the job hunt when saying you wish to relocate Inb4 someone tries linking me to a different sub, I've already tried r/careeradvice and r/jobs. Both subs are extremely low-traffic and the posts got buried. /rant\n\nI'm currently working in the IT/AV field and I want to get back to doing what I love, video production and ",
"How best to market yourself on the job hunt when saying you wish to relocate Inb4 someone tries linking me to a different sub, I've already tried r/careeradvice and r/jobs. Both subs are extremely low-traffic and the posts got buried. /rant\n\nI'm currently working in the IT/AV field and I want to get back to doing what I love, video production and "
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"Find a friend in that area and use their address. Just worked for me in my last job hunt and cross country move",
"Is a competition, OP, send your portfolio, if they love it, they wouldn't care your current location. The hard fact is, If they want an interview, you need to be able to travel without conditions or warranties, most employers prefer to hire locals because of this, not everybody is willing to take the risk.",
"Don't put your address on your cv, just your cell number and email address. That way it'll be the interview / screening before it comes up and you can explain how relocating really isn't an issue for you"
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"how to keep up with news and world events with minimal effort and be informed enough to keep up a conversation I'm very busy, and find it hard to keep up with what is going on in the world. I know how important it is to keep informed though, so what are some ways that I can keep up but expend minimal time/effort?",
"how to keep up with news and world events with minimal effort and be informed enough to keep up a conversation I'm very busy, and find it hard to keep up with what is going on in the world. I know how important it is to keep informed though, so what are some ways that I can keep up but expend minimal time/effort?",
"how to keep up with news and world events with minimal effort and be informed enough to keep up a conversation I'm very busy, and find it hard to keep up with what is going on in the world. I know how important it is to keep informed though, so what are some ways that I can keep up but expend minimal time/effort?",
"how to keep up with news and world events with minimal effort and be informed enough to keep up a conversation I'm very busy, and find it hard to keep up with what is going on in the world. I know how important it is to keep informed though, so what are some ways that I can keep up but expend minimal time/effort?"
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"The Week magazine. \nIt boils down US/UK (whichever version you subscribe), World, Arts, Travel, etc. news into 1-2 paragraph bits with a couple of in depth stories and some fun bits like crossword and caption contests. \nInvaluable for knowing just enough to carry on a convo or finding out if you care enough to pursue further info.",
"I use the NPR hourly news summary podcast. it's short, less than 5 minutes, and gives you a rundown of current topics. I only listen to it once a day, as if one were to listen to every hourly ",
"I find 30 mins a day on a site like nytime.com or economist.com is enough to keep myself thoroughly informed.\n\nIf you don't have that time, get a current affairs podcast to listen to while you exercise, commute, do chores etc.",
"9gag:\n\nThey may not cover ALL the international events, but they cover all the INTERESTING events so you can talk about it.\n\ne.g. Pope retirement, Hurricanes, Meteor, Harlem shake, latest celebrity fads... what more do you need to know? :D"
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"How to get a rug to stay in place on carpet. I have looked online and the best I can find are pads sold more for keeping rugs in place on hardwood floors, in any case I don't want to spend more than $10-$15 if possible. Any tips, tricks, or DIY ideas are appreciated!",
"How to get a rug to stay in place on carpet. I have looked online and the best I can find are pads sold more for keeping rugs in place on hardwood floors, in any case I don't want to spend more than $10-$15 if possible. Any tips, tricks, or DIY ideas are appreciated!"
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"Theres this sticky tape you can get. \nhttps://m.bedbathandbeyond.com/m/product/rug-tape/1010220009?device=m&network=g&matchtype=&mcid=PS_googlepla_nonbrand_rugs_&gclid=CPDi16SmubwCFdHm7AodlyQAAQ",
"Spray the underside of the rug with 2 parts water 1 part vinegar. This does not work on tile floors. ",
"Obviously the best option is those products made especially for it but i guess you could make your own with thin cardboard as a base, double sided take to secure it to the underside of the rug and thumb tacs pushed through the cardboard. \nIf that doesnt make sense then i'll have to draw a ms paint pic to go with it."
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"How to put lotion on your back without involving another person. So I have a hard time applying lotion to my back after getting out of the shower (which is the one place that is the driest on my body). Does anybody have a way that I can easily apply lotion to this area without having another person run it on for me? \n\n",
"How to put lotion on your back without involving another person. So I have a hard time applying lotion to my back after getting out of the shower (which is the one place that is the driest on my body). Does anybody have a way that I can easily apply lotion to this area without having another person run it on for me? \n\n",
"How to put lotion on your back without involving another person. So I have a hard time applying lotion to my back after getting out of the shower (which is the one place that is the driest on my body). Does anybody have a way that I can easily apply lotion to this area without having another person run it on for me? \n\n",
"How to put lotion on your back without involving another person. So I have a hard time applying lotion to my back after getting out of the shower (which is the one place that is the driest on my body). Does anybody have a way that I can easily apply lotion to this area without having another person run it on for me? \n\n",
"How to put lotion on your back without involving another person. So I have a hard time applying lotion to my back after getting out of the shower (which is the one place that is the driest on my body). Does anybody have a way that I can easily apply lotion to this area without having another person run it on for me? \n\n",
"How to put lotion on your back without involving another person. So I have a hard time applying lotion to my back after getting out of the shower (which is the one place that is the driest on my body). Does anybody have a way that I can easily apply lotion to this area without having another person run it on for me? \n\n",
"How to put lotion on your back without involving another person. So I have a hard time applying lotion to my back after getting out of the shower (which is the one place that is the driest on my body). Does anybody have a way that I can easily apply lotion to this area without having another person run it on for me? \n\n",
"How to put lotion on your back without involving another person. So I have a hard time applying lotion to my back after getting out of the shower (which is the one place that is the driest on my body). Does anybody have a way that I can easily apply lotion to this area without having another person run it on for me? \n\n"
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"Just put a blob of lotion on a smooth cotton towel and throw it over your shoulder. Then catch it with the other hand and sweep it across your back. I use this method to put icy hot on after a back injury.",
"I had a maddeningly dry, itchy rash from a med I was taking. I used one of those long handled small rubber head spatulas used for getting all the contents out of the crevices of mayonnaise (etc) containers. Rubbermaid I think. ",
"These work pretty well but they need to be cleaned relatively often http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/store/product/roll-a-lotion-body-lotion-applicator/1012972423\n\nThey sell them at a bunch of places.",
"I put the lotion on the back of my hand/fingers. You'd be surprised the places you can reach with the back of your hand",
"I can apply lotion to my back just with my hands. I am kind of lanky, so maybe not everyone can do it. but if you can put one arm over your shoulder and one down towards your lower back and clasp your hands behind your back (or even touch your fingers) then you can reach anywhere on your back\n\nlike this http://www.sensational-yoga-poses.com/images/cow-face-shoulder-stretches-14.jpg",
"Find a medium sized doorframe, sturdy oak preferred but not required. Grab a measuring tape and measure how high your back is from the ground. Write down this measurement on a small post it and stick it to the underside of a toilet seat. Place lotion at correct approximate height as said dry skin patch and rub bear-esquely against sturdy door frame. Left to right works best but up then down is a close second. I have heard some use the top left to bottom right technique. ",
"I used two lengths of 12 inch string / twine and attached them to corners of a flannel / cloth. \rI hen put the cream on the cloth and dropped it down my back, whilst holding one string. grab hold of the other string with your free hand.\r",
"I asked a similar question to my dermatologist. She said to use a spoon (I didn't get that so I didn't bother) or put whatever you're applying to the back of your hand and doing it that way. More comfortable than twisting your hand around."
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"handle seeing someone you know in public. Every time I'm walking somewhere in public and I see someone I know, I always try to ignore those people and hope they don't see me, even though they never did anything wrong to me. When I can't ignore them and we end up speaking, it's either awkward or the conversation ends up in nothing. How can I handle these kind of situations? Thanks!",
"handle seeing someone you know in public. Every time I'm walking somewhere in public and I see someone I know, I always try to ignore those people and hope they don't see me, even though they never did anything wrong to me. When I can't ignore them and we end up speaking, it's either awkward or the conversation ends up in nothing. How can I handle these kind of situations? Thanks!",
"handle seeing someone you know in public. Every time I'm walking somewhere in public and I see someone I know, I always try to ignore those people and hope they don't see me, even though they never did anything wrong to me. When I can't ignore them and we end up speaking, it's either awkward or the conversation ends up in nothing. How can I handle these kind of situations? Thanks!",
"handle seeing someone you know in public. Every time I'm walking somewhere in public and I see someone I know, I always try to ignore those people and hope they don't see me, even though they never did anything wrong to me. When I can't ignore them and we end up speaking, it's either awkward or the conversation ends up in nothing. How can I handle these kind of situations? Thanks!",
"handle seeing someone you know in public. Every time I'm walking somewhere in public and I see someone I know, I always try to ignore those people and hope they don't see me, even though they never did anything wrong to me. When I can't ignore them and we end up speaking, it's either awkward or the conversation ends up in nothing. How can I handle these kind of situations? Thanks!",
"handle seeing someone you know in public. Every time I'm walking somewhere in public and I see someone I know, I always try to ignore those people and hope they don't see me, even though they never did anything wrong to me. When I can't ignore them and we end up speaking, it's either awkward or the conversation ends up in nothing. How can I handle these kind of situations? Thanks!",
"handle seeing someone you know in public. Every time I'm walking somewhere in public and I see someone I know, I always try to ignore those people and hope they don't see me, even though they never did anything wrong to me. When I can't ignore them and we end up speaking, it's either awkward or the conversation ends up in nothing. How can I handle these kind of situations? Thanks!"
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"Master the art of avoiding the 'stop and chat'. Do NOT stop walking - smile and wave, say 'hey how are ya' and *keep moving*. The key is not to stop. Then it gets awkward starting up again.",
"I'm an introvert, but I've learned to fake \"outgoing\", at least for short-periods anyway. My tips would be:\n1) muster up a great big smile \n2) follow that with eye contact & a bright and cheerful \"hey!! how are you? or \"oh wow! its so great to see you\" \n3) then (they before they reply) quickly give a simple compliment like \"you look great\" or \" I love your shirt, shoes, hair, etc\". \nNow the \"happy, lighthearted tone is set. They will reply with something like thanks, its good to see you too. how are you?\n4)still smiling say- \"I'm really good. Just keeping busy with the normal stuff work,school,kids, life... what have you been up to?\n5) listen, nod politely, smile more, add in little \"uh-huh, oh cool, really??, fantastic\"s\n6) say \"i'm glad you're doing so well/ I hope everything works out with that/etc\" immediately followed by \"well, it's been really great running into you.\"\n7) then *physically* take a step or two back & tie things up with \"I've got to get back to______ or i'll let you get back to_______. Maybe we'll bump into each other again soon. Have a great day.\" \n8) Smile one last time, turn & walk away.\n\nThis works on everyone- the coworker you can't stand, the kid that picked on you in grade school, the sexiest person you know but have always felt super awkward around. \n\n",
"Instead of trying to avoid the conflict, say \"hey what's up!\" Like you've known them for years. This will encourage them to reply friendly as well",
"I've long had the same problem. Also, things like \"How are you?\" feel so effing fake. \"Fine, and you?\" is even worse. It feels like we're mimicking lines from something. \n\nSo lately, I've decided I'm in the play. When I get my prompt line, I'll say back my piece of script. It feels fake and dumb, but less than it did the first several hundred times.\n\nAs for the rest of the store, you can nod or something in passing again, but mostly just focus on what you're doing and they will too.",
"I don't know but for me its just the polite little nod of acknowledgement used for those situations, no awkwardness no conversation. Just a polite manly nod of noticing your still alive.",
"\"see you around\" in a friendly way helps set the expectation that you may or may not bump into each other - and pre-empts that awkwardness.\n\nHow to best feel not awkward? Embrace the awkwardness. Let that awkwardness be the connecting point where you and the other person relate. Share the moment, smile and move on.",
"I promise you this will get easier as you get older and have more experience talking to friends, acquaintances and strangers.\n\nIf you don't want to stop-and-chat, smile, acknowledge (a nod or flash of the eyebrows), keep walking. If they stop you, just apologise - \"sorry, can't stop - catch me on facebook/twitter/whatever - see you soon!\". If you think you might upset someone by not stopping and chatting, offer a fist bump or a friendly pat on the shoulder as you walk past.\n\nSometimes you can't avoid the stop-and-chat, so here's some bonus tips for social awkwardness in conversations: \n\nAsk questions, and don't feel obliged to fill every silence - let the other person carry some of the weight. \n\nDon't think that you have to come up with brilliant answers to every little question, just be brief, and then get the ball back into your court by asking more questions. Questions don't have to be brilliant either. \"How are you?\" \"Up to much today?\" \"Been busy lately?\" \"Work going OK?\" \"How's the family?\" are all fine. \n\nFind and observe someone you regard as a great conversationalist, one of those people who are so confident that they put everyone around them at ease. You know the type. Observe their opening gambits in conversation - 9 times out of ten, it'll be something as innocuous and banal as \"how are you?\"\n\nWhen you take the pressure off yourself by realising that you don't have to be Oscar Wilde in every conversation, and that banal small-talk is perfectly acceptable, you'll relax. And when you relax, conversations will take on a life of their own. Before you know it you'll be talking about something that interests you both. Don't worry if it doesn't happen, just smile, say \"anyway, nice to see you\" and move on. But more than likely, asking even banal questions will lead somewhere.\n\nIt's OK to be boring, as long as you're brief, and it's OK to talk for a long time, as long as you're sure that the other person is interested. If you're not sure (I can't stress this enough) just look at their face. Bailing out of conversations is easy, just remember to be friendly and considerate.\n\nI used to really struggle with this stuff, and maybe this last part only applies to me, but the biggest step I made was when I stopped obsessing about *myself* and started focusing on *others*. Thoughts like \"I hope I don't come off as weird\" or \"why can't I think of anything interesting to say\" were just manifestations of self-obsession. When you genuinely start empathising, you 'get over yourself' and everything becomes easier. Brains are hugely powerful tools built for social interaction - if you focus on yourself you just create a feedback loop, and the effect is just like if someone else was endlessly interrogating you - eventually you're just going to be a nervous wreck, wracked with self doubt."
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"The one book that changed your cooking forever? Calling all experienced chefs. If you could recommend only ONE book or series of books on cooking, what would it be? \nSomething that gets close to encapsulating some of the most important lessons, principles and techniques you learned over the years. Or perhaps communicating the joys of preparing and sharing great food.\n\nIt could be a recipe book, a memoir or more of a food science explainer. \nI'm interested in hearing from people from all different culinary traditions.",
"The one book that changed your cooking forever? Calling all experienced chefs. If you could recommend only ONE book or series of books on cooking, what would it be? \nSomething that gets close to encapsulating some of the most important lessons, principles and techniques you learned over the years. Or perhaps communicating the joys of preparing and sharing great food.\n\nIt could be a recipe book, a memoir or more of a food science explainer. \nI'm interested in hearing from people from all different culinary traditions.",
"The one book that changed your cooking forever? Calling all experienced chefs. If you could recommend only ONE book or series of books on cooking, what would it be? \nSomething that gets close to encapsulating some of the most important lessons, principles and techniques you learned over the years. Or perhaps communicating the joys of preparing and sharing great food.\n\nIt could be a recipe book, a memoir or more of a food science explainer. \nI'm interested in hearing from people from all different culinary traditions.",
"The one book that changed your cooking forever? Calling all experienced chefs. If you could recommend only ONE book or series of books on cooking, what would it be? \nSomething that gets close to encapsulating some of the most important lessons, principles and techniques you learned over the years. Or perhaps communicating the joys of preparing and sharing great food.\n\nIt could be a recipe book, a memoir or more of a food science explainer. \nI'm interested in hearing from people from all different culinary traditions.",
"The one book that changed your cooking forever? Calling all experienced chefs. If you could recommend only ONE book or series of books on cooking, what would it be? \nSomething that gets close to encapsulating some of the most important lessons, principles and techniques you learned over the years. Or perhaps communicating the joys of preparing and sharing great food.\n\nIt could be a recipe book, a memoir or more of a food science explainer. \nI'm interested in hearing from people from all different culinary traditions."
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"\"Salt Fat Acid Heat\" allowed me to learn how to cook intuitively. I cannot say enough good things about this book.",
"The Weber Grill book... first cookbook i had like 20+ years ago... the beginning of the book had a breakdown and explanation of various spices and how to use them/ what meats they worked well with etc...\n\nlearning to use seasoning properly enables you to make your own recipes on the fly",
"I don't have a book to recommend but I thoroughly enjoyed watching Gordon Ramsay over the years. First I learned about Hell's Kitchen and thought wow - look at that guy be a total jerk yelling at them for forgetting a little salt. \n\nThat was maybe 12-14 years ago and I've watched anything he is in ever since. He can be mean but he seems to have a good heart and want the best from his chefs. Master chef, MC junior, ultimate cookery course, basic videos on youtube - he has a ton of shows and videos, and I learn something every time I watch one. \n\nEpicurious also has a youtube channel that can be very informative. They have a series called 4 levels where 3 cooks make the same dish: a come cook, very experienced cook and then a professional chef. At the end it's all broken down by a food scientist. Generally entertaining to watch, but it also has broadened my cooking horizons and made me experiment and create amazing food.",
"Any of Melissa Clark’s books. Not a book, but a subscription to the New York Times cooking app. Love how users offer helpful tips in the comments section.",
"\"School of life\" YouTube channel. Philosophy changed the way i see food, not just energy for the day but a comunity builder, source of positive emotions and relaxing while doing it."
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"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. ",
"Making a juicy turkey It's nearly that time of year again. And this year I'm taking a stand against dry white meat turkey. Unfortunately, I don't have a clue what to do about it. Can anyone help? I've heard small birds, brining, deep frying, flipping, no stuffing, etc. but I (and I would guess the rest of us) could use some definitive help. "
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"Alton Brown's Good Eats Roast Turkey.\n\nhttp://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/alton-brown/good-eats-roast-turkey-recipe/index.html\n\nIncludes video\n\nEnjoy.",
"Brining overnight will definitely help. Also pat it dry VERY thoroughly before putting it in the oven. This will ensure a crispy skin and moist meat. I also baste every hour with the juices on the bottom.",
"this is going to sound awful, but it makes the best turkey I've ever had- \n\nBefore you put the turkey in, Coat it in Mayonaise (not miracle whip, proper mayo) and put it in for the first hour upside down.\n\nFall off the bone turkey every time.",
"Try cooking it in a bag with lots of broth and seasoning. We sometimes do a special turkey that we remove the skin/fat from prior to cooking to lower the caloric density. Cooking in a bag as described above still yields wonderfully juicy meat. We like it with a lot of paprika. ",
"try the cookbook The Science of Good Cooking. They have you butterfly the turkey, blast it at a high heat and then turn down the heat to cook it. It works wonderfully. I don't remember the exact times and temperatures otherwise I would just put that here. ",
"We deep fry that baby every year, it only takes about 40 mins and it is the best tasting bird you have ever tasted.",
"We always end up with a juicy turkey.\n\nWe massage a mixture of butter and sage into the turkey. Full on spa treatment. Under the skin, slowly relaxing the meat and oiling it up before you lay it to rest in its buttery heaven. (Making gravy from scratch? We add a few sticks of butter to the bottom of the turkey pan; helps with basting as well!)\n\nEvery hour, we religiously soak the turkey in the butter/drippings that collect under it. \n\nCooking it longer at a lower temp, mixed with re-basting it very often, has always worked for us. And make sure to use real salted sweet-cream butter -- we're health nuts 364 days out of the year, but thanksgiving is the one time we don't ever hold back for health reasons!",
"Mix your seasonings into some butter, then rub the butter on the turkey. I usually use some garlic & my homemade italian seasonings. Avoid using salt, it'll dry out the meat. (Garlic powder instead of garlic salt). On the skin, under the skin, inside the turkey before stuffing it. Then bake it inside one of the oven bags. Comes out really juicy and amazing every time. This year I plan on using another LPT I saw about sitting the turkey on hard veggies to see how it comes out.",
"I hate to be the first to suggest this, but don't overcook the damn thing! Get a thermometer and use it, be it a simple one or a digital timer thing. Every year the in-laws put the turkey in and have this plan on when it should be done based on some mysterious time/weight estimate. Last couple years I have shown up with my digital thermometer, stuck it in the bird and proclaimed everyone better hurry the hell up with the taters and beans because the bird will be cooked 2 hours before anyone even planned on checking on it. \n\nCook poultry through, but don't cook it to death!\n\n",
"Deep fry. The rapid cooking keeps the turkey from drying out.\n\nInject with a beer and butter marinade the night before. Add spices to your liking. I use a simple garlic/onion/Worcestershire recipe, but I've heard great things about Cajun seasonings, hot sauces, traditional poultry spices (rosemary, sage, etc), etc. ",
"BUTTER. People give Paula Deen shit about it, but butter will give you the juiciest turkey ever. \n\nMy mom taught me to cook the turkey most of the way under foil. Then, a little over halfway through, you take off the foil and start rubbing butter all over that delicious bird every 45 minutes - an hour. The turkey crisps up the skin, and creates a hard layer outside the meat. This then traps all the steam that would come out of the turkey and moisten up the meat.\n\nSo. Fucking. Good.",
"Use 3 or 4 whole carrots and place them in the roasting pan under the turkey. The bird will cook much better and the carrots soak up all the drippings. Delish!!",
"Brine the bird for about an hour, then soak it in water for another hour to get rid of excess salt.\n\nGet a pot of boiling water and a bowl of ice water, place bird in pot for 30 seconds, drain water and place in ice water. Do this twice.\n\nCover with a those thin dishclothes and put in fridge over night. Preheat oven to 90C and cook for 4 and a half hours.\n\nProbe the chicken from breast to leg to ensure it has a steady temperature of 60C. The turkey will be juicy and cooked, if you want it crispy either deep fry for 2 minutes OR cook in groundnut oil and crisp up the sides should once again take 2 minutes over all.",
"the simplest way to get a perfect turkey every time is to use Reynolds oven bags. no muss, no fuss and pretty cheap to purchase. look in the Reynolds foil area at the store. you add a tablespoon of flour and slide your turkey in. it basically steams itself in its own juices. I put butter and sage on mine before closing the bag up. been doing it this way for years and have never had a bad result.always get compliments and I can work on the rest of the meal while turkey bastes itself in the bag. then I take the juices from the bag and make awesome homemade gravy using a little cornstarch to thicken it."
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"Foods or drinks that increase focus on tasks I'd rather not get a prescription for psychostimilants, any Ideas?"
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"Omega 3. I bought Super Omega EPA - Now Foods brand off of amazon. Definitely increased focus and concentration. It even makes my brain hungry. As in I won't be satisfied by a simple TV show. I'll thirst for a good book or a newspaper or something else engaging. Omega 3 definitely helped me make it through college.",
"You can check out onnit.com they have some Alpha Brain, you can also read reviews about it on reddit. I think I saw one in /r/JoeRogan, my friends have used it and said it works. \n\nI would also suggest listening to Rogan's podcast with Dr. Rhonda Patrick, she breaks things down in the simplest forms. I can't specifically remember which foods help, I heard EPA & DHA are good for cognitive function. So eggs, or some type of oil in pill form. "
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"Creating more space to hang kids' artwork. Title pretty much says it all. Both my kids churn out creative and respectable art (for their ages) at an alarming rate, and my fridge is only so big.\n\nAny ideas on alternative ways to hang lots of little kid artwork without permanent damage/changes to vertical surfaces?",
"Creating more space to hang kids' artwork. Title pretty much says it all. Both my kids churn out creative and respectable art (for their ages) at an alarming rate, and my fridge is only so big.\n\nAny ideas on alternative ways to hang lots of little kid artwork without permanent damage/changes to vertical surfaces?"
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"Sell them some story about the fridge being an art gallery, and that the pieces need to be rotated otherwise it gets boring. So they have to pick one to replace when they add another. Then let them keep the rest in a binder.\n\nThe main strength here is that it costs barely any money and absolutely no effort. But I'm no parent.",
"Do you have scanner that you could use to scan your kids' images and use them as desktop wallpaper?\n\nAlso, I've seen large, deep shadowboxes for sale online where the front frame is on hinges. You simply open the \"door\" and stack the latest piece of artwork on top of the old one. I can't seem to find it now, but I'll keep an eye out. A store like Michael's or Jo Ann's might carry it.\n\nI remember growing up, my mom took one or two of my best pieces and had them professionally framed. It really meant a lot to me that she was proud enough to display them in our kitchen, and I don't think she had to feel guilty about not plastering the rest of our house with my creations. A large artist's folio is useful for storing and organizing what you don't want to display at the moment, and you can file pictures by year/age."
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"How to combat jealousy I'm a pretty insecure person and that leads to me being jealous when my girlfriend dresses with a lot of skin, goes to a party without me, talks about guys friends, etcetera. I know it's wrong for me to be jealous and I can, on paper, understand WHY it's wrong, but how can I (healthily) combat this and change te way I view the situation? ",
"How to combat jealousy I'm a pretty insecure person and that leads to me being jealous when my girlfriend dresses with a lot of skin, goes to a party without me, talks about guys friends, etcetera. I know it's wrong for me to be jealous and I can, on paper, understand WHY it's wrong, but how can I (healthily) combat this and change te way I view the situation? ",
"How to combat jealousy I'm a pretty insecure person and that leads to me being jealous when my girlfriend dresses with a lot of skin, goes to a party without me, talks about guys friends, etcetera. I know it's wrong for me to be jealous and I can, on paper, understand WHY it's wrong, but how can I (healthily) combat this and change te way I view the situation? ",
"How to combat jealousy I'm a pretty insecure person and that leads to me being jealous when my girlfriend dresses with a lot of skin, goes to a party without me, talks about guys friends, etcetera. I know it's wrong for me to be jealous and I can, on paper, understand WHY it's wrong, but how can I (healthily) combat this and change te way I view the situation? ",
"How to combat jealousy I'm a pretty insecure person and that leads to me being jealous when my girlfriend dresses with a lot of skin, goes to a party without me, talks about guys friends, etcetera. I know it's wrong for me to be jealous and I can, on paper, understand WHY it's wrong, but how can I (healthily) combat this and change te way I view the situation? ",
"How to combat jealousy I'm a pretty insecure person and that leads to me being jealous when my girlfriend dresses with a lot of skin, goes to a party without me, talks about guys friends, etcetera. I know it's wrong for me to be jealous and I can, on paper, understand WHY it's wrong, but how can I (healthily) combat this and change te way I view the situation? "
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"First, jealousy isn't right or wrong, it just 'is'. Second, you're on the right path by realizing it's tied to your insecurities and not anything your girlfriend is doing. Her behavior and mode of dress is perfectly normal.\n\nWhat you need to practice embracing is the fact that SHE CHOSE YOU. Say this to yourself over and over and over until you actually start to believe it. Because the fact is, you are not in danger of losing her to someone else unless you make her entirely responsible for your feelings.",
"make sure your in good shape, got job, and an equal in some regards. Then you have not much to worry about if she is a good girl for you.",
"The sort of jealousy you describe is often rooted in insecurity. Nothing external will help you with this. It's an internal battle you have to fight. \n\nWhy don't you like yourself? Can you work on that?\n\nWhat do you like about yourself? Can you build on that?\n\nWho do you want to be? Can you work towards that? \n\nAn exercise that can help is to write down 1 think you like about yourself or want to be each night. Preferably something new every night. If you're super stuck, write down a step you know you could take in breaking a habit you do not like. \n\nYou need to learn yourself, and learn to love yourself. At this time you think that your qualities could easily be overshadowed. Once you reach a point where you like yourself, you will see you have a unique set of qualities that can not be matched, simply because they are unique to you, like a fingerprint, and that blend will be right for someone. Entirely likely this is already the case for your SO, you just need to be able to see it. \n\nThe first good thing I personally see in you: You have self awareness and are willing to work on yourself rather than blame everyone around you. Some adults never reach that level of self awareness, you're already well on your way. ",
"Oh boy. Here's some advice from a polyamorous person who has worked through some seriously heavy jealousy issues in the past.\n\n1. Find out what triggers the feelings of jealousy. Get into specifics here.\n2. Communicate with your partner about what these things are and what kind of emotions they provoke from you. Make it clear that this is your issue to work through, and not sound like you're accusing or blaming her.\n3. Try to come up with ways to compromise. For example, have her agree to check in with you every few hours while she's out.\n4. Find a self-care routine that works for you while your girlfriend's out. Instead of indulging jealousy, try to schedule something social for yourself. Or play video games. Or read. Whatever works for you to keep yourself distracted and comfortable.\n5. Find resources on how to deal with jealousy. If you've got access to a therapist, consider going in and talking things out. Do some reading about how to work through jealousy issues.\n\nOne book with a really great section on navigating jealousy is The Ethical Slut, by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. It's a guide to how to do consensual non-monogamy, but seeing as the issue of jealousy always comes up in those relationships in some form or another, it does a very good job at explaining how to deal with it. Resources for polyamorous people tend to be excellent at explaining jealousy in general.",
">I'm a pretty insecure person and that leads to me being jealous \n\nThis right here. \n\nYour jealousy is rooted in *your* inadequacy, not her actions. You get jealous because you do not see your value as high enough for her to deny the advances of other men. \n\nIf you want to combat your insecurity, you have to develop yourself.",
"Jealousy isn't something you can suppress or \"deal with\", if she's flirting with other guys, tell her you don't like it. If she's just talking and being social, then you have insecurities stemming from low-self esteem and you might want to seek a therapist."
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"How to keep things from being awkward and to not get angry when encountering an ex-friend. I had a platonic friendship that went over like the Hindenburg. This ex-friend now works at my absolute all time favorite foodspot nearby. \n\nI do not want to stop going there, but I am not someone with any amount of cool or chill. I will go ham, and I need to not in this situation. \n\nHow do I do this with ease and grace? ",
"How to keep things from being awkward and to not get angry when encountering an ex-friend. I had a platonic friendship that went over like the Hindenburg. This ex-friend now works at my absolute all time favorite foodspot nearby. \n\nI do not want to stop going there, but I am not someone with any amount of cool or chill. I will go ham, and I need to not in this situation. \n\nHow do I do this with ease and grace? ",
"How to keep things from being awkward and to not get angry when encountering an ex-friend. I had a platonic friendship that went over like the Hindenburg. This ex-friend now works at my absolute all time favorite foodspot nearby. \n\nI do not want to stop going there, but I am not someone with any amount of cool or chill. I will go ham, and I need to not in this situation. \n\nHow do I do this with ease and grace? ",
"How to keep things from being awkward and to not get angry when encountering an ex-friend. I had a platonic friendship that went over like the Hindenburg. This ex-friend now works at my absolute all time favorite foodspot nearby. \n\nI do not want to stop going there, but I am not someone with any amount of cool or chill. I will go ham, and I need to not in this situation. \n\nHow do I do this with ease and grace? "
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"I am going to tell you what I would do, but take it with a grain of salt - you have to find what matches your own personality, and this may not.\n\nWithout being snotty or arrogant, I would remind myself that I am friends with the owner and have an art show coming up there and have eaten there forever, so this is MY PLACE, and some argument with someone my friend continues to employ doesn't make it any less my home. In addition I would remind myself that if my former friend wasn't capable of hearing my own story about myself without making it about her, she may be fairly un-evolved in some ways and probably literally feels more scared of me, and smaller than me, than I feel in relation to her. Poor woman's drowning in my restaurant. ;-)\n\nThen I might pretend in my head that the fight happened, like, 10 years ago. It's funny how things fade over time. Some day it will be 10 years from now in relation to this fight - you might as well make it now.\n\nTo recap: This is your turf. This woman just walks around in it. You vaguely remember her. And now it would be nice if she brought you a number 27. :-)",
"Watch Dexter. Learn his routine. Get some animal tranquilizer and well you know the rest. Problem solved.\n\nSeriously it's best to face it head on. They won't cause a scene in their place of work. Just go there and be yourself and enjoy your food.",
"Treat them the same as I would any other person who worked their. Smile, be polite. Just not overly familiar. Idk. I'm usually pretty good at acting normal after something awkward happens. I would pretend the previous relationship never happened. Be very civil and polite yet distant. Professional. ",
"I wouldn't eat at a place where a staff member didn't like me. That's one way to get spit in your food."
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"Memory. I have the attention span of a goldfish and most of the time, I can't remember something I have to do after a night of sleep or zoning out.\n\nBesides a list that I'll eventually forget about (Yeah...), What can I do to remember?",
"Memory. I have the attention span of a goldfish and most of the time, I can't remember something I have to do after a night of sleep or zoning out.\n\nBesides a list that I'll eventually forget about (Yeah...), What can I do to remember?",
"Memory. I have the attention span of a goldfish and most of the time, I can't remember something I have to do after a night of sleep or zoning out.\n\nBesides a list that I'll eventually forget about (Yeah...), What can I do to remember?"
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"I have been trying this thing called the memory palace that I found out about from a TED talk (posted below). I have been using it for numbers I really need to remember. It takes a couple minutes, but I am able to remember the number for at least a couple of weeks!\n\nhttp://www.ted.com/talks/joshua_foer_feats_of_memory_anyone_can_do.html",
"Check out a technique called mindful awareness, and remember that memory is all about improving recall and storage strength (by working hard to remember something you make it easier to remember next time). You could also try ADD meds.",
"my mum bought be a whiteboard, about the size of a A4 sheet of paper. It must have cost $10 and it has been the most valuable item on my desk.\n\nBefore that, i 'kept notes'... yeah, it never worked.\n"
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