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[ "Applying for jobs more efficiently. My resume is pretty solid. So I just have to actually apply for jobs now.\n\nI'm currently employed but I'm not happy and want to leave. \n\nProblem is that applying to jobs is so time consuming. It easily takes 20 minutes per application. I read the descriptions to see if I qualify, I make slight modifications to my resume and cover letter, I create the company login to submit the application, I copy and paste everything that's already IN my resume. And 90% of the time I don't hear back.\n\nHow can I apply for jobs more efficiently?", "Applying for jobs more efficiently. My resume is pretty solid. So I just have to actually apply for jobs now.\n\nI'm currently employed but I'm not happy and want to leave. \n\nProblem is that applying to jobs is so time consuming. It easily takes 20 minutes per application. I read the descriptions to see if I qualify, I make slight modifications to my resume and cover letter, I create the company login to submit the application, I copy and paste everything that's already IN my resume. And 90% of the time I don't hear back.\n\nHow can I apply for jobs more efficiently?", "Applying for jobs more efficiently. My resume is pretty solid. So I just have to actually apply for jobs now.\n\nI'm currently employed but I'm not happy and want to leave. \n\nProblem is that applying to jobs is so time consuming. It easily takes 20 minutes per application. I read the descriptions to see if I qualify, I make slight modifications to my resume and cover letter, I create the company login to submit the application, I copy and paste everything that's already IN my resume. And 90% of the time I don't hear back.\n\nHow can I apply for jobs more efficiently?", "Applying for jobs more efficiently. My resume is pretty solid. So I just have to actually apply for jobs now.\n\nI'm currently employed but I'm not happy and want to leave. \n\nProblem is that applying to jobs is so time consuming. It easily takes 20 minutes per application. I read the descriptions to see if I qualify, I make slight modifications to my resume and cover letter, I create the company login to submit the application, I copy and paste everything that's already IN my resume. And 90% of the time I don't hear back.\n\nHow can I apply for jobs more efficiently?" ]
[ "I don't try as hard for every application .\n\nI submitted around 100 applications over the span of 5 months.\n\nBut I only really customized my resume and cover letter for about 20 of them. \n\nTo be efficient is to choose wisely which ones you spend the time customizing for, and which ones get your generic resume. \n\nApplying to jobs is also a numbers game to some degree. You want to apply to as many as possible, but only invest your time in the ones you really care about. \n\nYou need to have a couple of resumes formatted to highlight a couple of different things, based on the jobs your applying for, so that you're not constantly changing your one resume. For example, if you qualify for a couple of different types of roles, make sure you have a resume for each.\n\nYour resume must have key words/ phrases from the posting in it, blantantly, so that it gets picked up by ATS (the robot that scans your resume for compatibility). This should only take a clue of minutes to add. \n\nIf your industry supports it, consider applying through a placement agency. It is faster, and easier, to apply to multiple postings. \n\nHope this helps.", "1) Don't fret too much about applying to jobs that you have the right experience for. It's an HR reps job to go through the stack of resumes and filter our the unqualified candidates, and those HR reps don't know the details of the jobs beyond the generic bullet points. So mass apply! You're better off applying to 10 jobs per hour than 1 job an hour. \n\n2) Indeed and LinkedIn have these new \"1-click apply\" postings, where the company is just sent your profile. And it looks like more and more companies are using the feature. So spruce up your profiles so and start applying to those jobs. You'll end up applying to a job per minute.\n\n3) Indeed/LinkedIn also have these mini certification tests. If you have any in-demand skills listed, take those tests and ace them. Make a fake profile in order to practice them first - you can only retake the test once every few months. I've had recruiters message me about new jobs based on my certs. \n\n4) You'll get a surge of interview requests from doing these steps, but they'll be for jobs that you may think are not the right fit. But do the interview anyway as practice. Presentation in interviews is harder than you think, every can use practice.\n\n5) While doing the shotgun method like I described above, don't forget to spend some time on quality jobs that you'd be perfect for.", "What level position are you applying for? Most of my job changes have come from recruiters finding me. Post updated resumes on job boards that will apply for you like LinkedIn, zip recruiter, and ladders. Then connect with local 3rd party head hunters from your industry and let them know you are looking.", "Connections. Network. Recommendations. Doesn’t even need to be someone close, but try to check if there is ANYONE in the target company remotely close to someone you have once met in your life. Reach out. If there’s no one, reach out in linkedin anyways. Won’t hurt and will most likely greatly increase your changes at least to be considered for further steps into the process\n\n" ]
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[ "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?", "How to endure winter? I moved from a state where it barely got below 65° and have now moved to a state where winters are long, cold, and snowy. What are some good tips in the winter I should note?" ]
[ "https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/3u9el0/lpt_staying_warm_and_safe_this_winter_advice_from/\n\nAside from that, consider a Vitamin D supplement, keep a bag of road salt in your car in icy conditions, and don't be afraid to shovel snow while it's still snowing.", "Thin layers.\nAlso, consider taking Vitamin D supplements during the winter. It sounds dumb but it really helps with mood/depression. \nQualifications: Born and raised in AZ. Moved to DC at age 23.", "Get a snow blower, several quality sne shovels (shit ones will break the first time you take em out) and salt. Buy these early in the season as they will sell out.", "A Sun Lamp make help you later on too. \n\nDid you leave California? It rarely got under 65 where I'm from. ", "They make these snow cleat things you can put on your shoes (I can't think of the correct name for them), but they're like a rubber thing with wire coils wrapped around it, and you can pull them over the bottoms of your shoes so you can get a good grip when walking in snow/ice without falling on your ass.\n\n[found a pic](http://www.dogster.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/bdd5ba9f909992d294d2758783d5ef0e.jpg)", "Ok, so I live in Southern Ontario, 65 degrees is not cold, its not close to cold. I've lived here all my life, and there are some days where you simply shouldn't go outside. If you are moving from a place with 65 is the worst you've dealt with there will be more of those days for you.\n\n\"Just a coat\" is not something you want to try when -20 (-4F)(or worse) is a thing. You will need something extra for your legs. Real boots are a good idea too, or you'll have numb toes all the time. You can get away with just shoes if all you are doing is a store run or something, but if you are going to be out for more than a few minutes, I'd suggest boots. Especially if you are not used to the cold.\n\nI had a friend visit from Nevada a couple of winters ago, he came up in January. He bought an extra thick coat, leggings, gloves, a hat, and a face mask. He did not regret any of those purchases.\n\nDon't think of the cold as 'just chilly', Cold is dangerous, respect the cold or it will kill you. In the winter I have a down filled coat, that goes over a hoodie, that goes over an actual shirt. That's two hoods, and I'll still wear a hat with that too. Collar on the coat removes the need for a scarf.\n\nNot all gloves are created equal, put them on before you buy them. Feel around, wiggle your fingers. See if you can feel spots where the lining is thin or shifts easily.\n\nGloves like [these](http://www.snazzygems.co.uk/images/source/designer_winter_gloves.jpg) are weak and feeble. They will not keep your hands warm. Aim for gloves like [these](http://images.altrec.com/columbia-tumalo-mountain-ski-glvs-graphite-tradewinds-15.jpg) Big beefy bastards. If you can do up the zipper on your coat with your gloves on you have weaksauce gloves. Conductive gloves so you can use your phone in winter are a thing. They are also completely inadequate.\n\nLikewise understand what a real coat is. [This](http://images.simonscdn.ca/images/6603/201640/60/A1_2.jpg?__=29) is not a coat. This is you freezing to death. Not kidding.\n\nOn the upside, you can deal with cold in a lot more ways than you can deal with high heat. A blanket, somebody to cuddle, a hot drink, or even a bath. Nothing, but nothing feels as glorious as sitting in a hot bathtub after being out all day in the cold. \n\nSpeaking of, snow. Lean forward when walking on snow/ice. It moves your center of gravity closer to the leading foot so its less likely to slip when you put weight on it. Anything shiny is the enemy. Shiny means slippery. Black ice is a thing. It will ruin your shit. It's basically a patch of ice so pure that there's nothing in the frozen water to give it away. Its flat, its smooth, and its basically invisible. It also gives new meaning to the word slippery.\n\nAll season tires don't mean winter up here. Also, we salt the roads to keep the ice off. It'll eat the shit out of the bottom of your car if you don't take precautions.", "I also moved from Florida, and now I live near Chicago. I have advised several new arrivals. \n\n1. Parka. Buy a parka, a knit hat, and gloves. You will lose gloves, so get a couple of pair. Nowadays, coats are often rated by the kind of cold they hold off.\n\n2. Go online and look at the weather reports for your area for the last couple of years. This way you will know what to expect.\n\n3. When you brush the snow off your car, brush off ALL the snow. Otherwise, the snow on your roof will blow off in a big cloud, and become a road hazard to those behind you. Also, be sure to knock the ice out from behind your wheels. \n\n4. Shoes. Make sure you have some form of winter shoes- a waterproof hiking boot is excellent. They should be comfortable with heavy socks. You may end up walking a lot in them, so make sure you like them.\n\n5. Wool socks will make you happy. \n\n6. Sitting with a blanket over your legs is a thing. Don't be afraid to do it. Also, if your home is drafty it will drive up heating costs and make you shiver. Find out where your drafts are and be ready to plug them.\n", "Get yourself a sherpa lined (faux fur) hoodie/jacket. Oh and a blanket, also sherpa lined. I live up north and recently discovered these during the winter and they have saved me, just walking around and doing light stuff. However, if you're shoveling snow, outside in the cold and active, or any other intense sweating activity these are bad because sherpa fur soaks up moisture and gets heavy. Instead, go for many light baselayers and a waterproof outerlayer, and snowpants for shoveling/frolicking.", "Do things outside. You have to go be outside and do something every day for at least 30 minutes...preferably while the sun is up.\n\nIn states with mild winters people just hunker down for a few months. In states with real winters they break out their ice fishing shacks or their skates or their snow mobiles or their telemark skis and get out in it. You will go crazy staying indoors. There is very little daylight; use it when you can.", "Dam we left Vermont after a winter of -20. So, wool socks, hats and mittens. Layers and avoid cotton it can feel damp and cool from sweat. The hat is a big deal as you lose so much heat off the head. Boots that are waterproof, cold feet hurt. Buy a good winter coat with a hood. Prepare the car. Keep extra candles and food in the house. Find winter sports and get outside or you will go stir crazy.", "Buy a gas generator while you can. Buy them while you can- during snowstorms your power might go out and they get sold out/you get snowed in" ]
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[ "How to have a personality I honestly have an internal struggle with this, I feel like I have no opinion or personality of my own. I do have friends and what I do is act like a generally liked friend of mine and if that doesn't work I use someone else's personality. Is this normal? ", "How to have a personality I honestly have an internal struggle with this, I feel like I have no opinion or personality of my own. I do have friends and what I do is act like a generally liked friend of mine and if that doesn't work I use someone else's personality. Is this normal? ", "How to have a personality I honestly have an internal struggle with this, I feel like I have no opinion or personality of my own. I do have friends and what I do is act like a generally liked friend of mine and if that doesn't work I use someone else's personality. Is this normal? ", "How to have a personality I honestly have an internal struggle with this, I feel like I have no opinion or personality of my own. I do have friends and what I do is act like a generally liked friend of mine and if that doesn't work I use someone else's personality. Is this normal? ", "How to have a personality I honestly have an internal struggle with this, I feel like I have no opinion or personality of my own. I do have friends and what I do is act like a generally liked friend of mine and if that doesn't work I use someone else's personality. Is this normal? ", "How to have a personality I honestly have an internal struggle with this, I feel like I have no opinion or personality of my own. I do have friends and what I do is act like a generally liked friend of mine and if that doesn't work I use someone else's personality. Is this normal? " ]
[ "Ask yourself why other people's approval and validation is important. If you are capable of having and keeping friends, having a \"personality\" isn't necessary. And what exactly is a personality in this context? It sounds like what you really want is charisma, the ability to influence people and make new friends, or entertain people. It's not generally necessary to do this in life unless you want a job in sales or something. I think the key to having a personality in the real sense is to be passionate about something, anything, and to pursue that passion. Then find other people who are passionate about that same something. You will find those people very interesting, and they will find you interesting as well. It isn't about telling the best jokes or mugging like a refugee from an improv class all the time. Authentic presentation of your real self is all the personality you should need.", "I struggle a lot with this myself. It makes you feel fake, but it's not that simple is it? What I've been doing is imagining what I would do and who I would be if I had to leave all of my friends, or if they left me. Think about who you would be if there were no one left to emulate. Don't be afraid to write it down, maybe put it somewhere you can see it every day. I can't say its normal, but at least now you know you're not alone :)", "I mean that's what learning basically is, just mimicking other people. Increase your interactions with people you like so that way you can have a more varied personality. Read more, travel more if you want to gain even more additional characteristics. Waiting tables/bartending is also a good way because it'll allow you to interact with loads of people at pretty decent intervals and from there you can hone your social craft.", "What you do is take the best parts of your friends personalities, mix them together and call it your own. Then along the way you mix in others and try to get some of your own opinions. ", "I feel like this too. I'm not that funny/ cool. Feel awkward in large social settings or even small ones with a few friends I've known for 15+ years still. What I've come to terms with, is if I didn't act the way I do and say the things I say, then it wouldn't be me. My friends know me for \"that guy who does those things and says those things that's unique to him\". I think it's natural to pick up certain traits from other people and try to emulate them, and I catch myself overdoing it sometimes and I consciously have to reboot back to who I am. It's still a developing process for me as well so hope this helps. ", "Generally, this is a symptom of borderline personality disorder (BPD). I'm absolutely not trying to give a drive-by diagnosis, but it may help to do some research and determine whether that is the issue instead of something else. \n\nI, a non-BPD person, also struggled with this in highschool. I missed the person I used to be, and didn't know who I was anymore. My personality was a blank slate. What I did was create a mental image of who I wanted to be, what kind of demeanor I wanted to have, whether or not I wanted to be good with children, etc. The mental image changed sometimes, but that's okay. That is how I found a way to act like me. That being said, this is not a tactic that helps everyone. " ]
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[ "How to get rid of calluses from weight lifting. I have tons of calluses on my palms from lifting weights when working out. How can I smooth these out? Also, if/once I do smooth them out, how can I avoid getting them again?", "How to get rid of calluses from weight lifting. I have tons of calluses on my palms from lifting weights when working out. How can I smooth these out? Also, if/once I do smooth them out, how can I avoid getting them again?", "How to get rid of calluses from weight lifting. I have tons of calluses on my palms from lifting weights when working out. How can I smooth these out? Also, if/once I do smooth them out, how can I avoid getting them again?", "How to get rid of calluses from weight lifting. I have tons of calluses on my palms from lifting weights when working out. How can I smooth these out? Also, if/once I do smooth them out, how can I avoid getting them again?" ]
[ "Weight gloves, then use moisturizer on your hands afterwards, and a pumice to get rid of what you have now.\n\nFor some of my bars, I used the [foam insulating things](http://www.homedepot.com/Plumbing-Pipe-Insulation/h_d1/N-5yc1vZbuy9/R-202318552/h_d2/ProductDisplay?catalogId=10053&langId=-1&storeId=10051) for water pipes, and duct-taped them on the bar. I don't need gloves for those bars now. I also cut and taped a piece on the weight bench bar between where my hands go, so when I do chest work, the bar can hit my sternum without hurting.", "I used to frequent /r/fitness. I learned there that calluses can be a sign of improper grip by putting the bar in the palm of your hand. I've seen a few videos now explaining that it's best to put the bar in the crease where your hand ends and your fingers start.\n \nThat advice worked pretty well for me.", "Cutt the out and smooth them out using a pumice stone. Use gloves next time you lift or trip getting squiggey bar grips - little foam like grips you can put on the bar. Really comfy too!!", "Got these from rowing a lot. Cut them out, sand them down, put some antiseptic on it and leave them for few days, it's gonna be really raw so do it over the weekend or something.\n\nThen use grips from now on" ]
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[ "How to grow nails properly after years of biting them? I had been biting my nails since I was around 7 and I am almost 18 now and my nails just aren't normal. Any way I can fix this and guide them to looking normal again or is it permanently stuck like this?", "How to grow nails properly after years of biting them? I had been biting my nails since I was around 7 and I am almost 18 now and my nails just aren't normal. Any way I can fix this and guide them to looking normal again or is it permanently stuck like this?", "How to grow nails properly after years of biting them? I had been biting my nails since I was around 7 and I am almost 18 now and my nails just aren't normal. Any way I can fix this and guide them to looking normal again or is it permanently stuck like this?", "How to grow nails properly after years of biting them? I had been biting my nails since I was around 7 and I am almost 18 now and my nails just aren't normal. Any way I can fix this and guide them to looking normal again or is it permanently stuck like this?", "How to grow nails properly after years of biting them? I had been biting my nails since I was around 7 and I am almost 18 now and my nails just aren't normal. Any way I can fix this and guide them to looking normal again or is it permanently stuck like this?", "How to grow nails properly after years of biting them? I had been biting my nails since I was around 7 and I am almost 18 now and my nails just aren't normal. Any way I can fix this and guide them to looking normal again or is it permanently stuck like this?", "How to grow nails properly after years of biting them? I had been biting my nails since I was around 7 and I am almost 18 now and my nails just aren't normal. Any way I can fix this and guide them to looking normal again or is it permanently stuck like this?", "How to grow nails properly after years of biting them? I had been biting my nails since I was around 7 and I am almost 18 now and my nails just aren't normal. Any way I can fix this and guide them to looking normal again or is it permanently stuck like this?" ]
[ "Correct me if i'm wrong but I think you may be hooped. I'm not sure if the nail bed would extend much further after years of biting, but it seems plausible to think with proper nail growth and clippers might lengthen nails. \n\nBut i'm not sure :P", "They will grow normally if you're able to stop messing with them. My mom and I are both really bad nail biters. We have both stopped at different points and I've witnessed that they can grow normally and be a normal shape. Unfortunately it's a very hard habit to break and preventing relapse is just as hard. ", "Not sure how bad they are but maybe something like biotin or some sort of nail supplement would help. Did you ask your doctor?", "Keep them clean and filed smooth. Do this without any type of polish or cuticle removers for about a year. Wear gloves when you are getting your hands wet - cleaning, dishwashing, etc...\n\nThis is what I do after years of biting and picking at my nails. After year one, I got a manicure and it just made my nails soft and fragile again. So now once a year right before Christmas I get my nails done - square filed and polished.\n\nAt this point my nails are nice and long and strong.", "I've been a nail biter for 15+ years of my life. It's been 2 years since I've stopped and ironically, my nail beds are longer and stronger than most of my friends' nails. It did take a month or two for the white part of my nails to grow out normally again, but my nails look great now! Just give it some time and your nails will adjust. \n\nOn the contrary, my sister who also bit her nails for most of her life and managed to stop has brittle nails that break often. She uses nail strengthening polish. I also heard almonds help.", "I used to bite my nails for years, when I finally quit my nails were so weak I kept them very short for years. Recently I have grown them out by taking biotin supplements and a shellac manicure helps them grow too by being a strong layer for weaker nails. ", "I stopped about 15 years ago and they still don't attach normally. When even with my fingertip the nail is half white, half skin tone. They look odd and very long despite not extending past my finger. They're really strong though and dont break.", "I used to bite my nails, just like up to whatever length they would have been if I cut them. I eventually stopped by using hand sanitizer on my hands. You can use weirder, funkier stuff but thats probably your best bet." ]
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[ "How do I prevent my shirts from wrinkling by the buttons? I always get these really annoying creases/wrinkles on my button-up shirts around the buttonholes and it's really annoying. ", "How do I prevent my shirts from wrinkling by the buttons? I always get these really annoying creases/wrinkles on my button-up shirts around the buttonholes and it's really annoying. ", "How do I prevent my shirts from wrinkling by the buttons? I always get these really annoying creases/wrinkles on my button-up shirts around the buttonholes and it's really annoying. ", "How do I prevent my shirts from wrinkling by the buttons? I always get these really annoying creases/wrinkles on my button-up shirts around the buttonholes and it's really annoying. " ]
[ "Starching the button strip heavily once every six months or so depending on wear works great. Spray starch and highest possible iron setting that your fabric can handle.", "The problem is that the threads around the button holes or seams shrink at a different rate than the rest of the cloth. The problem is the heat and different solvents in the wash/dry cycle. The best way is to wash them as little as possible. I wear an undershirt to protect the shirts from me and only wash my nice shirts when something is spilled on them. In between wearings I steam press them and they look good as new. The life of them increases dramatically.\n\nIf you don't like that idea then wash them cold, with limited soap, and dry as low heat as possible.", "Not sure how you can stop it from happening, but a hair straightener is a very effective iron for in-between buttons.", "If you don't get any help here, try posting to [/r/malefashionadvice](/r/malefashionadvice) with an example picture" ]
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[ "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps.", "Stop acid reflux? I've been having really bad acid reflux for a while now, does anyone know how to stop it? I take Tums already, and it barely helps." ]
[ "First of all, write down all of your diet intake. Take note of any patterns. Take note of exactly when you get acid reflux. 99.9% of the time it is related to diet and doesn't require any adverse drugs or such. Contrary to popular belief, acid reflux is common AND dangerous if left unchecked. The hard part is acid reflux is a wide definition, and is a SYMPTOM of something else. You need to discover what that something else is. Start by keeping a food log.\n\nSome say a clean fix is to add *more* acid into your stomach so that it reacts appropriately to whatever you are trying to digest, such as a spoonful of vinegar. But in my opinion a balanced diet with low sugars works best.", "See a doctor and get a prescription for a medicine that will help adjust your biochemistry to tone down the amount of stomach acid your body produces. ", "Not a Doc.\n\nSome foods are worse than others and you need to learn what's causing the acid reflux and, at the very least, don't eat those foods together. \n\nEating foods such as tomato (w/acid) and adding garlic and onions and different kinds of peppers and then adding ground black pepper and then drinking ice tea so you end up splashing all those \"burn\" causing things around in your stomach with a drink w/caffeine gives me the mother load of acid reflux -- any one of those foods individually -- not so much. \n\nTums are close to useless. Nibbling on soda crackers with unsalted tops can absorb some of the stuff that's \"burning\" and be more helpful for some people.", "First you need to determine the cause and in order to do that you need to enlist the help of your physician. \nThere are way too many causes of this for anyone to speculate- could be anything from stupid food/amounts to life threatening illnesses. \nIf it is bad enough to ask for help here it is bad enough to see your doctor- every day you let it go it is damaging the tissue in your esophagus.", "Try apple cider vinegar, it really helps me. I either mix it with water and honey, or apple juice. Both ways are good though, and if you use local honey it can help with seasonal alergies. ;D", "If you drink alcohol stop. My brother had some issues a while back. He stopped drinking completely and his AR subsided within a week or two.", "I take that Prilosec OTC, every day, for 14 days (even if it starts to get better sooner than 14 days) and the problem usually doesn't come back for more than a year. Before anyone says \"OMG that's so bad for you!\" - I'm just saying it works for me and hasn't caused any bad side effects for me. Individual results may vary.", "there's a japanese digestive pill that i take. it reeks of cabbage and basically it's a lot of cabbage packed into a pill. that shit works wonders.", "Suffered from serious heart burn for years. Started a low carb diet and it completely went away, surprisingly. I still stay mostly low carb but carb heavy meals definitely cause the heart burn to flare up again for a day. I notice it especially with tomato sauces and carbs combined (pizza, pasta, tacos, etc.) but any carb heavy meal does not sit well. Maybe try eating as simple/clean as possible for a while (lightly seasoned proteins and vegetables), monitor for improvement, then add things back in until you find your triggers. ", "Look into Omaprazole. I have acid reflex, and was on Omaprazole for a few weeks & it completely stopped.. However the AR continued again after I was off the drug, can't beat it I guess", "I've used bentonite clay for a while. Mix a bit in purified water, and drink it when you're having problems. Got my wife to try it when she was having heartburn and now she swears by it.", "I've heard if you prop your bed up at an angle it helps. Basically get some wood and put a piece under the head side of your bed frame on the floor. It is supposed to keep the acid from coming up at night\n", "I have something similar, go see your doctor again. I had to get a Gastroscopy and found out I have 3 ulcers that are a cause of acid reflux so now they know what to prescribe me", "I can tell you what my doctor told me but you're doctor can prescribe a drug to take daily if it's really bad.\n\n-Don't drink alcohol.\n\n-Don't eat spicy foods or tomato based foods.\n\n-Sleep at a 35 degree angle\n\n-Have regular meals\n\n-Don't Drink Caffeinated drinks.\n\nMy doctor had given me a medicine free trial that lasted for about 2 weeks. She said it was very expensive and not likely need so just get zantac for when it gets bad.\n\nHope this helps. \n" ]
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[ "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? ", "How does one not get mind-numbingly bored after retirement? Especially for those with little to no hobbies and were either at work or a couch potato for the past 30-40 years? " ]
[ "You have to find a hobby. Try out different things every week. Go travel. Try cooking or baking different things. Make a garden. Volunteer at local pet rescues or soup kitchens. Or plot to overthrow the government using maple syrup and an army of well trained squirrels. You do you!", "Both of my grandfathers retired and seemed pretty fulfilled. \n\nOne was an avid fisherman- he went out with his boat weekly until he was about 78. He also loved to gamble (his choice and not any of my business), and he was on the city council. \n\nMy other grandpa had a carpet business that he did on the side after his official retirement. He also traveled a ton and was active with his church. \n\nI think the important commonality was that they both had things they genuinely enjoyed doing and they had the means to do them. \n\nThat’s my goal- have things I like to do and the means to do them.", "My parents live in a 55+ community. They most weekdays they have something to do. There are clubs for everything.\n\nHowever the community has thousands of people and my dad says he see the same 100 people or so. Many people do just sit and watch TV all day.\n\nI also saw a fun quote before there are go-go years, then slow-go, then no go. When you first retire you can be very active and travel a lot, then you slow down a bit as you age. Finally you may not be able to travel or participate in the activities you use to. So starting out retirement by spending all day in front of the TV that can rush you to no-go quickly", "Get a hobby:\n1. Watch educational YouTube videos until something sparks your interest \n2. Go to your local library and ask the librarian this question. There will be tons of groups that meet at or through the library. \n3. Go to the dollar store and buy a bunch of different craft kits to see if any are really fun once you try them.(then get some proper equipment because dollar store kits are poor quality and will quickly become frustrating)\n4. Pick a place you like and go to the same place at the same day/time every week to meet new non-work friends. Join their hobbies.\n\nHope this gets you started in the right direction.", "Retired from work doesn’t mean retired from life. If you’re bored, peel your butt off the couch, wash said butt and go volunteer at a food bank or nursing home, pick up trash, or take some courses", "Join a gym. Chances are your health insurance will cover your membership fee. (Join Silver and Fit or Silver Sneakers). Even if you only walk around the track three times, you will meet people. You just might try out the exercise bike or the pool just to see if you like it.", "You need to make a plan prior to retiring. Most people do not and end up bored and wasting time away.", "find a hobby.\nthere has to be SOMETHING which caught your interest over the years.\n\nwoodworking, forging knives, art of any kind, fishing, hot rods.\n\nyou get the idea. just run with it, watch a lot of youtube videos to learn more. hunt facebook groups for the specialized tools if any needed etc..\n\njoin facebook groups dedicated to that hobby as well, get tips and tricks .", "You answered your own questions. Get hobbies, don't be a couch potato and don't center your life around work. This is good advice btw whether you're close to retirement or not. You forgot friends btw. But those tend to die away when you get very old, so be happy just by yourself, too.", "Start working out every day. \n\nit’s great to kill time. Between training, recovery, and diet, that most of your day", "Men especially are poor at making and keeping meaningful relationships. Start to learn how to make friends. \n\nLearn how to keep yourself company. \n\nStart doing the things you should have done years ago. Develop your mind. Engage with the world. Start to fulfill those dreams and interests you have been putting off for years.", "I don’t know. I retired at 62 and, after two months of retirement, got mind-numbingly bored. So I went back to work, and am still working at 70. I’ll retire after I’ve had a major heart attack or stroke, then hopefully drink myself into oblivion.", "Be proactive about getting some new hobbies or you may find yourself deteriorating faster than you expected", "My neighbor hurt her back and has been going to the doctor every couple of weeks. I give her rides, Walk her dog, shovel her sidewalk get her groceries, and listen to her complain. I joined the HOA board which is a hoot. And I do small jobs for the HOA. My trim in the house needs painting but I hate to paint so I’m looking for another retiree who is willing to do that for me. Stay positive be grateful you made it this far.", "It's up to the person. They can be mind-numbingly bored -- or -- do stuff.\n\nJust because someone was at work and then a couch potato all those years, doesn't mean they didn't WANT to do stuff. Maybe there just wasn't enough energy left over.\n\nRetirement can mean..... catching up on all that little stuff around your house and yard that you have been \"meaning to do.\" Getting involved in something you are interested in but never had the time or the energy to do before -- woodworking, birdwatching, botany, art, music, gardening, biking..... whatever. \n\nLots of retired people end up as volunteers for various organizations doing things like working at a soup kitchen. \n\nOn the other hand, if you are not interested in ANYTHING, then hey, just sit in your Laz-y- Boy recliner, watching tv and only getting up to get food and drink and visit the bathroom. It's YOUR CHOICE.", "If you’ve been a couch potato for 40 years your probably not in the best shape. Start by getting out of the house, going for walks. Volunteer in your community for anything that remotely interests you. Pets help a lot. If you don’t want a full time pet, volunteer to foster rescue dogs. That’s always needed. Travel travel travel. Road trips, short trips, I subscribed to a daily email of interesting places in my state. Lots of things to see.", "I'm sort of retiring and basically I started a book club and invited people I liked the look of. Now we are good mates and often do stuff together just like walking or visiting local events and attractions. We get together often, it's pizza night at mine, I've got one of those ooni ovens. I'm getting my entertaining badge early this summer so I can get lots of invites later.\n\nWe don't do anything ground breaking but everything we do is so much more fun than being alone.", "A lot would like to continue with some part-time work for the interest and because they need the income, but are excluded. They are not welcomed into the workplace by younger workers.\n\nWhat would you suggest they do?" ]
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[ "How to be less dense as a person? Hi everyone! This may seem as a silly question but my boyfriend tells me I'm dense at times, meaning I dont understand his jokes. He makes clever jokes but says simple ones at times and I get confused. I dont think I'm dense in general but when it comes to humor, definitely.\n\nany tips on how to... I dont know.. improve?", "How to be less dense as a person? Hi everyone! This may seem as a silly question but my boyfriend tells me I'm dense at times, meaning I dont understand his jokes. He makes clever jokes but says simple ones at times and I get confused. I dont think I'm dense in general but when it comes to humor, definitely.\n\nany tips on how to... I dont know.. improve?", "How to be less dense as a person? Hi everyone! This may seem as a silly question but my boyfriend tells me I'm dense at times, meaning I dont understand his jokes. He makes clever jokes but says simple ones at times and I get confused. I dont think I'm dense in general but when it comes to humor, definitely.\n\nany tips on how to... I dont know.. improve?", "How to be less dense as a person? Hi everyone! This may seem as a silly question but my boyfriend tells me I'm dense at times, meaning I dont understand his jokes. He makes clever jokes but says simple ones at times and I get confused. I dont think I'm dense in general but when it comes to humor, definitely.\n\nany tips on how to... I dont know.. improve?", "How to be less dense as a person? Hi everyone! This may seem as a silly question but my boyfriend tells me I'm dense at times, meaning I dont understand his jokes. He makes clever jokes but says simple ones at times and I get confused. I dont think I'm dense in general but when it comes to humor, definitely.\n\nany tips on how to... I dont know.. improve?" ]
[ "If his jokes have to be explained, then they aren’t that funny. He needs to look in the mirror—especially because he is trying to make you feel dumb. Sounds like a better boyfriend is in order!", "Maybe the jokes aren’t really all that clever or funny. How does he react if other people don’t laugh at his jokes, are they “dense” too? \nIf he wants to make you laugh he should work at being funnier, not making you feel stupider.", "Get a new boyfriend?\n\nSeriously though it’s kinda not ok to be calling someone you’re supposed to be in love with dense. I’m sorry you’re having that experience. \n\nEveryone’s sense of humour is different and if he wants to be all intellectually funny then fine but there’s really no need to call you names because of it.", "Hmmm dense is a bad word. You just dont understand and dont get the reference. I dont get many references or jokes cause i dont partake is pop culture and whatever. So anything related to celebs, sports, movies, and tv shows i wont get. I guess in this case, my advice would be to study by watching and paying attention to all this crap. Sorry my dear. \n\nTbh, i hate people who make clever jokes and shit. Just talk like normal, but thats just me. Youre fine the way you are, dont let someone insult your intelligence.", "If what he says doesn't make sense or sounds preposterous, it might be a joke. Give a fake laugh. Then dump the bastard for calling you dense." ]
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[ "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!", "How to get a neighbor to stop parking in front of your house My neighbors won't stop parking in front of my house. We live in a rather crowded neighborhood - they're all traditional \"houses\", but with limited yard space and on one side of the street, the garages are all in the back on a long sort of side street. \n\nThere are currently 4 residents in my house, all of us with our own cars. The garage is 2 car and as such fits 2 cars, the nicer ones, an Audi and a Mercedes. I drive a Buick, and the other car is a relatively-old (not new) SUV, so we are left out.\n\nEveryone sort of has to find their own place to park in our neighborhood. I'm decent at parallel parking, and the SUV owner is as well, so we've no issue parking strictly in front of our house. This seems a reasonable enough solution, but it's near constantly blocked. The neighbors directly across from us constantly park in front of our house on our side of the street. I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house, so is there anyway I can get them to go back to their side? \n\nThey've a garage and a driveway, but the garage is more of a sitting area with chairs and a fridge for them (I know because they sit there with it open all the time), and the driveway, while it could easily fit two cars, usually only has one. This leads to a situation where they are parked not only on their side of the street but in front of our house. So they could fit 4-6 cars in the driveway, garage, and their side of the street, but instead frequently flood over to ours.\n\n I ask them to move and it's about 50/50 if it works or not - sometimes they do (but never with a good attitude), sometimes they complain about having \"too many people over\". Today being the Fourth and all is almost understandable, but it's not just today- these are some truly social people.\n\nIt puts me in quite the tight spot as well, as my only parking options are way the hell away from my house, or in the maybe 3 foot long concrete ramp to our garage, where I still poke out into the already narrow side street AND block in one of the other two cars in my garage.\n\nI'm truly at wits end here - please help!" ]
[ "I understand legally we've no claim to the curb outside our house \r\n\r\nThat pretty much says it all.", "Look, you have four cars for one house. They could possibly view you as the annoyance. Don't be passive aggressive and don't be a turd about it. Park wherever there are open spots and be happy that parking is the biggest issue you have with them. ", "Legally there is nothing you can do, but you can become a real asshole of a neighbor to them.\n\nAs soon as they park there get out your mower and blow grass all over it if jt is a nice car\n\nPile up your trash right by there car on trash day precariously so It falls over.\n\nIf you have a dog try to get him to shit right in front of the drivers door. Or on their sidewalk.\n\nMaybe that's why my neighbors never liked me", "Used to have the same problem. We have a large shared driveway with two garages each, though only two of the four can fit cars and there both cluttered. The driveway itself can fit four cars comfortably, five or six if you squeeze (Plus another car on the side yard)\n\nAnyways, problems arose when a utility vehicle parked in the driveway (Right down the driveway, not in the parking space next to the garage). My mother would return home from work, tired, and would have to ask the utility guy to move it, and wait for him. This went on for a couple of days, and finally she decided to just park right behind him so HE couldn't leave. Then she went into the house to take a nap.\n\nA few minutes later my brother told my mom that the utility guy needed the vehicle moved, and my mom told him that he'd have to wait until after her nap! I guess he ended up being late for his next job, because the next day he was parked in the street rather than down the driveway.", "if its street parking they are allowed to park there,to stop them,put a car there when 0ne car pulls out put another car there,everytime one of your car parks,put a tempery car there ", "Honestly they have every right to park there. Any complaining about it will likely just result in them using it more if they are assholes. You are probably going to be better off just acting like it is not a big deal to you.\n\nAlternately you can always try bribery.", "Had a mechanic with the issue. He actually put street sweeper signs up during the day removed them at night and parked his long tow truck in front of the neighbors house and took the signs down. Left it there for two weeks. Never had issues again. Bit extreme but funny. ", "As many others have written, you probably can’t legally stop them from parking in front of your house. However, your city or state might have a bunch of laws that can be used to make parking in front of your house very difficult. Obviously these depend on where you live, but where I live, these are the laws that I could try to enforce.\n\n* Maximum unrelated people in a home. Many places limit the number of unrelated people who live in a home to four. So, if the neighbor has five unrelated people living there, call the appropriate government office to report them and that should eliminate one car.\n\n* Cities usually have parking requirements for homes. Usually this number is two parking stalls. Some law requires that two cars always be able to park there if the residents have two or more cars. \n\n* There should be a minimum distance a car can park within a driveway. Usually, cars cannot parking within 3 feet of a driveway. If the neighbor parks too close, call the cops.\n\n* Street parking often has time limits. Usually a car can only park in a spot for a maximum of 24 hours. On the 25th hour, call the cops.\n\n* Car alarms set off more than three times in a 30 minute period can subject the owner to a fine. \n\nThere are just some ideas off the top of my head. You should probably read your city and state’s parking and residential code. Read the whole thing to see if there is something you can enforce.", "You can talk to the neighborhood council. Idk how it works in other neighborhoods but i live in a nice, cookie cutter neighborhood where the garage must occupy 2 cars before a house can park out on the street. It may sound a little immature but itll be a lot easier having someone with the authority to help you out", "Park the two cars so close on the other side of their car so they can't move it (like an inch or so) and leave them that way for a day or two. \n\nTake photos after parking prove there's no contact/damage. ", "My advice is to come to terms with this being the way things are. Peace with your neighbors is more valuable than who parks where. These people sound like an especially bad group to pick a fight with. ", "I have a friend who had this exact issue. He tried a couple of the techniques, but none worked. What it came down to was that the neighbors could legally park wherever they wanted to and there was no benefit for them to change. \nMy suggestion, which worked for him, was to put a note on the windshield with a $5 that said: \nDear Neighbor, it seems we both want the same thing: this parking spot. Here's the deal, I'm giving you $5 to park elsewhere today. If you keep parking across the street or in the driveway, I'll promise to randomly give you more money. It won't be on exact intervals, but as random \"thank yous\" for helping me out and letting me park in front of my house. \nHe then made sure that the next time he saw the car parked elsewhere, that he dropped a couple bucks into a thank you note. Immediate gratification for the owner of the other vehicle. Then every week or two, he'd drop off another couple bucks. \nThis worked really well....until someone else starting parking there and he said f*** it. But it might work for you.", "Hopefully this doesn't fall into \"Car related\" - the cars themselves aren't the issue here so much as the space they are occupying and the fact I need to occupy them with my own stuff.", "Every week, see if they know who's been slashing the tires of the cars parked in front of your place (act like it's been happening). If they still don't move, start slashing their tires for real. Then be like \"son of a bitch, they got you too\"." ]
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[ "how to get over jealousy, especially with a girlfriend. I'm typically not a jealous person, but with girlfriends I become jealous about other guys. Any advice?", "how to get over jealousy, especially with a girlfriend. I'm typically not a jealous person, but with girlfriends I become jealous about other guys. Any advice?", "how to get over jealousy, especially with a girlfriend. I'm typically not a jealous person, but with girlfriends I become jealous about other guys. Any advice?", "how to get over jealousy, especially with a girlfriend. I'm typically not a jealous person, but with girlfriends I become jealous about other guys. Any advice?", "how to get over jealousy, especially with a girlfriend. I'm typically not a jealous person, but with girlfriends I become jealous about other guys. Any advice?" ]
[ "Learn to respect other people. That person isn't with you because you own them, they're with you because they want to be. As they stop wanting this, you stop being with them. So instead of focusing on why they might not want to be with you, you better start focusing on why they are.", "This might be hard to swallow but I once realised that if a partner was going to cheat on me it was going to happen regardless of if I was acting jealous or not acting jealous. So it would be better to not get emotionally involved in the possibility as it wouldn't change anything!\n\nI also realised that if you are the type to keep accusing and accusing a partner of cheating, eventually they'll think \"well if I'm being punished for it I might as well be doing it\" or they may feel there is an expectation to cheat where they might never have considered it before so you're creating the situation by reacting to it when it wasn't a situation to begin with.\n\nAnd finally\nIt will only drive your love away, which again, means you're more likely to have a partner cheat or break up if they're not happy.\n\nI know it's easier said than done, but that person is with you and not anyone else for a reason so if you can help it it would be best to not appear jealous and you'll probably find that just by not being jealous, there will ** not ** be things to actually be jealous of, because you'll have a loyal partner.\n\n", "Happens. Just got to ignore it- should get better as you build trust and confidence in your relationship/self. ", "Jealousy is only cute the first time, and only for the first second. It's not flattering, it's not telling of how much you adore you S/O. It has nothing to do with your girl, or this other guy. It has more to do with you. The more you want to fight, cry, accuse, stalk, check in on, check up on, go through phones, emails, DMs, show a mistrust in this girl that you can't stand to lose to another person- the further YOU push her away. And no, not into the arms of another man, but away from your arms. It's a self fulfilling prophecy. Respect. Respect your woman. Treat her right and trust her otherwise she won't leave because she wants to be with someone else, she'll leave because she doesn't want to be with you. ", "Everyone brings their own baggage to a relationship. The trick is to understand the baggage that you're bringing and communicate it.\nI don't think of jealousy as bad thing. Some people are born jealous, others are made jealous through experience. I think it's a valid factor in a relationship, and some amount of jealousy is absolutely necessary to keep an emotionally healthy monogamous relationship.\n\nThe key is to find someone who likes to be just a jealous as you. This is of the same importance as finding someone who likes sex as often as you as you and who's on similar intellectual footing as you. I say all this, but personally I'm with someone who's on a different level than me with all those, which brings me to my final LPT: you can't choose who you fall in love with. But you can choose to change over time to accept each other. \n\nOver time, you may become less jealous, or your girlfriend may learn to accept your jealousy. Of course self-esteem problems can lead to jealousy issues (as well as commitment issues, pathological lying, narcissism...). Make sure you could fall in love with yourself (yeah, really). Modesty is not all it's cracked up to be, especially if it's just the result of insecurity. \n\nIf jealousy comes up because the trust is just not there in a relationship, like in the beginning of a relationship, work on building it. Be vulnerable, hope she opens up in return. Example: Let her know you're jealous and ask if she can help. \n\n Do not just ignore your jealousy or try to dismiss it all the time: sometimes that obsession or feeling may be a valid sign that your subconscious is aware of some unfaithful behavior. It's better to level with your SO and be real at that point than to be guilty of having pulled the wool over your own eyes in the end. \n\nOne pro-tip I have for relationships in general: You have to learn to communicate. Don't hold back. Become a talker. All the other things you need to have a great relationship depend on this primarily. \n\nGood luck. \n" ]
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[ "People who started dating a good friend, how did you go about changing the relationship status? As in, how did you go about telling them your feelings, asking them out, etc. \n\nAlso, what were their responses? ", "People who started dating a good friend, how did you go about changing the relationship status? As in, how did you go about telling them your feelings, asking them out, etc. \n\nAlso, what were their responses? ", "People who started dating a good friend, how did you go about changing the relationship status? As in, how did you go about telling them your feelings, asking them out, etc. \n\nAlso, what were their responses? ", "People who started dating a good friend, how did you go about changing the relationship status? As in, how did you go about telling them your feelings, asking them out, etc. \n\nAlso, what were their responses? ", "People who started dating a good friend, how did you go about changing the relationship status? As in, how did you go about telling them your feelings, asking them out, etc. \n\nAlso, what were their responses? ", "People who started dating a good friend, how did you go about changing the relationship status? As in, how did you go about telling them your feelings, asking them out, etc. \n\nAlso, what were their responses? ", "People who started dating a good friend, how did you go about changing the relationship status? As in, how did you go about telling them your feelings, asking them out, etc. \n\nAlso, what were their responses? ", "People who started dating a good friend, how did you go about changing the relationship status? As in, how did you go about telling them your feelings, asking them out, etc. \n\nAlso, what were their responses? " ]
[ "The most important things are openness and communication. If you have the type of friendship where you can say anything without fear and not be judged, then it can work, and work very well. \n\nIMHO the 'confess your love and ask them out' type thing is a bad strategy, as that puts them on the spot and makes them make a decision. Instead bring it up as a discussion. IE, we have a great friendship, we have good communication, we enjoy each others company, what do you think about taking it to the next level? If this gets asked in the right context, and they take it in the right context, then you can have a useful discussion and mutually weigh the pros and cons. It may take a few discussions before any conclusion is reached. \n\nI suggest set a few ground rules for the whole thing. Most importantly is that your friendship should not change, and the friendship should come before the relationship. IE, if the relationship starts to fail, you both agree that killing it and saving the friendship is the right call. Second is that you must continue to be open and honest- if you keep the 'I can tell that person anything' quality, it's more likely to succeed. Third is that as you spend more time together, you must be honest about things that bother you (this goes both ways), to avoid building any resentment. \n\nIf you do break up, you can't go back to the way things were instantly, you will probably need some time apart (which can be weeks or months). Then you start rebuilding the friendship once you both have mentally moved on. ", "I tried...went from 0 to 100 in one day by her choice...regret it so much. I miss her as a friend as after that we never spoke again. Don't do it. ", "Never personally did this but I am definitely in love with my favorite female in the entire world, and she really likes me too. Don't think I'll ever make a move on her because I could never risk losing her in my life as I would feel very empty.", "While we were at a bar I told her I loved her and that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. She began to cry. 3 years later we have a house together and a dog child. ", "Watching Dirty dancing. Hungry eyes starts playing. We look, we kiss, we're a couple. Didn't last past 2 years though. Currently in a 7year relationship with a woman that is my fiance and best friend In one", "My friend Mari and I were coworkers and friends. We were out one night drinking at a bar, just having a good time, listening to music. She poked fun at me, then I started tickling her, she started tickling me back, and all of the sudden we were making out. \n\nWe had a fun, highly sexual relationship for about five months. She broke it off and we just went back to being friends. Kind of like Elaine and Jerry on Seinfeld. \n\nI'm 48 and I dated a lot before getting married. In my experience you can have a friend, have it turn into a physical dating relationship, then go back to being friends after you're broken up. That is not too difficult. What is VERY difficult is to start off physical and then become friends after one person breaks it off. ", "Just walk up to them and explain how you feel. If it doesn't work, just pull up your pants and leave.\n\nJokes aside, if you feel the attraction, chances are the other person does it as well, so just say it. Be prepared for it to be awkward and giggly for a while, before things settle into the new type of relationships. At first, it'll be \"Am I fondling a friend or a girlfriend?\"-awkward, but it'll probably pass.\n\nBe aware, though, that id it doesn't work out, chances are that the friendship will take a hit as well.", "It really depends if you're talking about a good friend, or someone that you've always had affections for but settled on friendship.\n\nIf it's the former, you're better off fishing somewhere else. You'd be trading in certainty of good friendship for the possibility of a relationship.\n\nIf you try to initiate a relationship, and you are rejected, chances are your friendship will never be the same. If you are successful in turning the friendship into a relationship, chances are you won't work out (odds are against any relationship working out in the long run). When that relationship falls apart, you will be left without a friend.\n\nSo, basically, a bird in the hand is better than two in the bush. " ]
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[ "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews.", "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews.", "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews.", "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews.", "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews.", "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews.", "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews.", "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews.", "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews.", "How to drastically improve your Android experience Apps, launchers, clearing memory, anything. All you get when you google this sort of article is either email apps or sponsored reviews." ]
[ "I would suggest flashing a custom ROM on your android phone, making your phone faster, have better battery life and reduces the lag you would get on your normal device. \n\nIcon packs, launchers and fonts can be nice places to spice up your device. If you are rooted and have a custom recovery installed, you can flash themes zip files to change the overall look of your android device (want lollipop colours system theme but you're stuck on kitkat? Done). \n\nThe whole process of rooting, install custom recovery and ROM is pretty streamlined nowadays. Very easy, and once you're done, you'll most likely never want to go back to your default out of the box laggy phone state. \n\nVisit xda developers < google them - for more information. If you're planning to get started, look for forums on that website regarding your device (they have tonnes of devices covered). I'm on mobile atm so I can't link stuff well. Overall, good luck. ", "[Look at this thread from /r/androidapps](https://www.reddit.com/r/androidapps/comments/2qr0yf/best_of_randroidapps_2014/)", "The biggest improvement I've found personally are Launchers (I use Nova Prime but there's loads of good ones) and A Better Camera Pro", "What are you looking for? Time-savings? Better battery life? More functionality? \n\nI find that functionality costs time and risk. For example, if you want tethering (on Verizon at least), you have to spend hours rooting your phone, flashing custom roms, etc. \n\nWhat do you use your phone for? Gaming, business, eh?", "The big thing about Android compared to iOS or WinPhone is you are allowed to customize your experience to a much larger degree. First and foremost you need to know what you want your phone to do for you (hopefully you thought about this before choosing a particular model) as this can greatly effect what you need to do. \n\n1) find a keyboard you like. The stock one is only okay, and its a feature you will use everywhere on your phone. I personally recommend taking a look at swift key.\n\n2) Customize your homescreen, lock screen, you lock options, fonts, etc.. make the phone feel like its yours, not just any.\n\n3) upgrade the stock apps. there is a decent messaging app, email app, calendar, and clock. However depending on services you use, some apps may be better than others (e.g. I use gmail so either the Gmail app or Inbox app would be better than the 'Email' app). For your messaging you can look into GO SMS or handcent. Both of those allow you to customize general settings, but also settings for individual contacts, including the conversation thread and types of alerts.\n4) Ringtones/Message alerts. There are a bunch of apps to make your own, or just download them. Zedge is an example that has a decent repository of popular music and noises.\n\n5) Setup automatic alerts and reminders or configuration changes, this is how you make your smart phone work smarter for you. Volume Ace allows you to configure ringtone and alarm settings through the day. If you only use wifi when you are at home, you can use Wi-Fi Matic to have it turn on/off. If you want to drop a couple bucks, you could get Tasker, and that lets you do all kinds of automated configurations.\n6) think of data you want to see most often. your schedule, the weather, whatever. You want to look for Widgets that will dynamically update on one of your homepages.\n\n7) Files on your phone. I suggest getting ASTRO file manager to better search through your phone, then get some sort of data backup like dropbox, drive, or google plus(for photos). This will be easier to access the files off your phone, or recover them in case of issues.\n\n8) antivirus, Lookout is great.\n9) Amazon app store, another good resource for apps, plus they have a free app of the day. The apps aren't always great but occasionally they have a few really good apps cycled in.\n\n--\nExtra. If you don't have a chromecast, I highly suggest it. And your android phone will become an excellent tool with it. Plex, youtube, hulu, netflix, twitch, pandora, hbo go, etc...", "Nova Launcher Prime is indeed the way to go, it's easy to use also if you just read what everything does.\nBuy heaps of nice icon packs so you find one that you like, this does increase productivity\nAlso have your main homescreen very minimal and swipe to the side to get things like calendars, google keep or whatever you use to keep your life in check", "IMHO Inbox > Gmail\n\nPM me for an Invite :)\n\nAlso, I'm a Nexus purist, so I like Google Now Launcher, stock apps, etc. I'll put in more stuff as it comes to mind.\n\n", "I'm someone who has a very casual use of his phone. Music/text/reddit/searches. I have a rather old phone and I found Chrome to be a bit laggy. I use Apollo for music, it doesn't have a lot of functionalities but it's stable and smooth. I also fell in love with Google Messenger, it's a very effective and smooth text app", "I tend to improve my experience by organizing my home screen, keeping things as *direct to the point* as you can and having no more than 2-3 home screens.\n\nHere's my setup:\n\n* Keep the dock basic\nPhone + messaging app + browser/most used social media or any app + camera\n\n* Minimal main homescreen (3 apps + 1 folder)\nI'd have 3 of my most used apps (Tasks, Google Keep, Spotify) layed out, and 1 folder to accommodate the rest; it's basically a Google folder for me since I am a heavy Google service user.\n\n* 2nd home screen is where other favorite/entertainment/social apps live + 1 widget you like\nThe 2^nd home screen is where you entertain yourself; think of it as your living room (or your office if you want to be productive). Have 1 widget you like; I personally have the 'News & Weather' weather widget there.\n\nNOTE\nApply a cool/pleasant wallpaper you like. Arrange the app icons according to their shape/size/color, it would appear nicer.\n\n\nI always keep it clean, crisp and simplistic. That's how I Android.\n\nHope this helps!", "Also don't buy a crappy phone. You get what you pay for. Can't tell you how many people buy S4's from me (cause its a dollar on contract) and then come complaining to me that it is slow and not working well with their 2 antivirus apps and a task killer constantly running. DONT use either of these things it is completely unnecessary. Do your research, Motorola makes excellent phones right now even though nobody knows it. The Note 4 is great, S6 still TBD but don't drink the Samsung Koolaid just because they advertise. LG makes nice hardware their software is kinda meh though. The latest HTCs are trash IMO. If you are tech savvy enough I highly recommend a custom ROM preferably Cyanogen if you don't know what you are looking for but make sure your device supports them before buying." ]
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[ "How to dance at a casual event without looking like a fool? I have two left feet and zero rhythm. Help me. And by casual I mean places like concerts, bars, clubs, etc. ", "How to dance at a casual event without looking like a fool? I have two left feet and zero rhythm. Help me. And by casual I mean places like concerts, bars, clubs, etc. ", "How to dance at a casual event without looking like a fool? I have two left feet and zero rhythm. Help me. And by casual I mean places like concerts, bars, clubs, etc. ", "How to dance at a casual event without looking like a fool? I have two left feet and zero rhythm. Help me. And by casual I mean places like concerts, bars, clubs, etc. ", "How to dance at a casual event without looking like a fool? I have two left feet and zero rhythm. Help me. And by casual I mean places like concerts, bars, clubs, etc. " ]
[ "Clap your hands. What to do with your hands is wear the Elaine inside thrives so clap. Move your feet in a slow march and DO NOT 'roll the dice'", "close your eyes, feel the music and simply begin with bouncing. The rest will come naturally, even if your not a dance maniac ", "Haha there was a Vice/noisey article about the Wikihow tips for dancing at events you should check out. ", "Copy other people's moves. See a dude moving his arms in a certain way? See something else that looks fun? Try to mimic that. It doesn't have to be something super complicated.", "No here's what you do. As the extrovert who gets the party started everywhere I go, all I need is a friend to suggest that I should dance. So if you aren't the extroverted person try to find the person who is nodding their head and looks like he or she wants to dance or is really interested in the music. Tell them \"You should totally go out on the dance floor and get this party started\". Works for me every time. I make a huge fool of myself but I don't care, other people appreciate the ice being broken and the less extroverted people eventually join suit. " ]
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[ "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) ", "How to get the best deal when purchasing a car? When is the best time of the year to buy a car, and how to go about negotiating a price? Any general advice on how to calculate a good out-the-door price. (Graduating in May, and want to buy myself a new 2015 Mustang) " ]
[ "Think end of the Month, end of the Quarter, end of the Year. They're always trying to meet certain goals and get bonuses from the manufacturer if they hit targets. We got a ridiculous deal buying our new Nissan New Years Eve. \n\nKnow what your out the door price needs to be (after tax, title, registration) and tell them that. Make them find rebates etc to sell you a car at your price. Otherwise walk away. Call around or email (we used Truecar.com) as many dealerships in as large an area as you're willing to travel. Someone might need to push out that last car to make their goal or target and is willing to part with it at a much lower price. \n\nOh, and the \"don't buy a brand new car from a dealership\", screw that. Nothing better than buying a car with 7 miles on it. ", "LPT - buying a *brand* new car is a terrible investment. Go for a model a year or two older, you'll likely get similar tech at a much lower price. \n\nWinter months are the idea time to buy. Here's a link with some decent suggestions. \n\nhttps://www.usaa.com/inet/pages/advice-auto-buynewcar?akredirect=true", "Buy a new car before you need a new car.\n\nDon't buy a \"left over\" or end of model year. When it's time to sell it anything you save will be lost. That two years old to you car is three years old as far as resale goes.\n\nDo it entirely online via email. Go to the manufacturers site and \"build my whatever\" and then click the get a quote button. You will hear from lots of dealers and you can start working them from there.", "Use a car buying service. It's the only way to being ad close as you can to not getting screwed. I bought my last two cars that way. Lower than Costco and websites and I never had to even speak to a salesman or set for in a car dealer. ", "See the invoice from the dealer. Don't pay anymore (they get incentives). And then check out all their 'extra' fees (such as transportation) and refuse to pay any of them. They're the 2 big tricks I must recommend. Also, refuse their lifetime service deal at least twice. I got a good deal with their 3rd offer.", "First I'd like to say that buying a brand new car after graduating is a very common and bad mistake.You're basically setting yourself up for a high car note payment and high insurance. Spending a bunch of your income before you've had a real chance to save and enjoy it(travel some). Do what you want tho. \n\nBuying a vehicle is based on price and all about controlling the situation. The more you take away from them, the easier it will be to get a better deal. \n\nThey typically break the negotiation down in to four areas: trade value, purchase price, down payment, and interest on a monthly payment. Typically what a dealer will do is give you a great price in one area, and short you in one or more of the other areas. You need to eliminate as many of the squares as possible.\n\n* Trade in value? - Don't. Sell it private if you can. \n* Down payment and interest on a monthly payment? - Don't. Get a low interest loan from a bank or a cr", "Used car tip (because that's what most people will buy...): Learn to look/ask for things that will cost money to fix. That's the real price changer... ", "I saw this on a LPT a couple of years back. Maybe it'll give you some insight:\n\nWhen you're looking for your car on Craigslist, pay attention to common problems. Is the car on average surprisingly cheap? (Ex: 2000's Volvo s80's going for 1,200$ or 2000's full sized v8 dodge pick ups and interpreds going for 2,000$ ). Then the car probably has a common issue that is majorly bad. (Visit carcomplaints.com)\n\nRead reviews about the car, and it's reliability and cost of parts. Is it a sports car or a Honda that are known to be tuned or abused? Well by the owner you should be able to tell how it was most likely driven. Was it owned by a sweet old lady or a teenager?\n\nMileage: My rule of thumb is that most Japanese cars are good up to around 200,000 miles. And domestic cars are failing around 130,000-150,000. Of course there are exceptions.\n\nNow when you see the car, is it mostly stock or does it have aftermarket and modified parts? I'd love me a lowered and tuned car, but I would rather buy a stock one I know was driven good and then spend money on aftermarket parts than an already modified one that was probably abused.\n\nMake sure the tires are relatively new because that can be a hidden cost anywhere from 300-1000$. And overall, it mostly depends on who drove the car and how they drove it. Did they abuse it and neglect its maintenance? The next big thing would be the car model and manufacture's reputation. Is it Chrysler? Then you probably don't want it. Is it Honda, or Toyota? Then you're pretty safe.", "Be ready to sign and buy, but also be ready to walk away. Just like everyone else said, look months in advance. My wife and I were looking at a 2014 VW Jetta wagon, someone had traded it in to the dealer almost brand new (2000 miles on it). That's an awesome deal. They asked for 24k + fees, after two weeks we settled on 22k out the door. I feel guilty on that deal because we ended up buying a different car, but some time will grind down the price. \n\nAnother option is a low mileage rental. Previous car I bought was in 2009, I bought a 2008 jeep Laredo that had been a rental. They asked for $21k with 14000 miles on it. They settled on $18k + fees if I signed that night. Which I did. The jeep had an extended warranty on it and I still have it today. \n\nBe ready to grind the dealer own on price, but be ready to pick up a great deal on the spot. Being an ethnic friend with you. My mother helps me with a routine that she pretends to not speak English and ask for embarrassingly low prices. It's awesome. ", "Always ask for both the factory invoice (what the car costs from the factory) and the dealer invoice (what the dealer paid.) These are great starting points for negotiation. While the factory invoice will be the same everywhere for that make/model, the dealer invoice will vary greatly based on what kind of volume purchase/incentives the dealer received when purchasing the vehicles. You should be able to negotiate the lowest deal from the dealer who paid the least for the car.\n\nAlso, know EXACTLY how much certain features cost for the car. Using precise ($284 for that trim vs $300) numbers will help you save as much as possible, and the dealer will know they can't just tack on extra money here and there.", "Woaaah. Ok so no one has mentioned this awesome thing I learned X membership. You pay just slightly above invoice and it literally only costs $50. You get this membership DIRECTLY from FORD. It's not a third party.\n\nI used it to buy my mustang and incentives still apply. ~~I'm not on my computer to be able to give you the link but in the morning I will.~~ The x plan works at any dealership. My car cost was over 36k. With just the plan (you tell them you have it and you don't have to hastle for anything). I got it for 34k. With incentive it'll be just under 34k. I also highly recommend signing up at mustang6g.com (google it if the link is wrong). It's basically one of the main websites for the new era mustangs. Its how I found out about x plan.\n\nAlso, x plan comes directly from ford. It's basically a premium membership. You also get a magazine subscription from them as well.\n\n", "If you want to buy new (or hell, used), try fightingchance.com. Insanely comprehensive guide on dealer pricing, incentives, etc. for the specific car model you are buying. If you know exactly what you want, it doesn't matter where you buy from. There will be a huge number of dealers that have *exactly* the car you want, and you want to buy from the one that has the lowest price (all other things equal). \n\nI used fightingchance.com when I bought my car new in 2013. I ended up getting a better price from a dealership in Maryland (I'm in Atlanta) even with the cost of a one-way day-of FIRST CLASS ticket to fly there to get it. Yeah, you have to drive it home, but it's a fun way to get to know your car and it's only even slightly annoying for about 24 hours. Then, you have a new car and the cheapest price you could have paid." ]
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[ "How to remove smell from rubber seals on food and drink containers. I have tried using vinegar and baking soda overnight, high temp water (boiled) and I still can't get the smell out of my food and drink containers. My thermos has the worst of it the seals smell of stale coffee and tea. I hope there is a tip out there that will help. ", "How to remove smell from rubber seals on food and drink containers. I have tried using vinegar and baking soda overnight, high temp water (boiled) and I still can't get the smell out of my food and drink containers. My thermos has the worst of it the seals smell of stale coffee and tea. I hope there is a tip out there that will help. ", "How to remove smell from rubber seals on food and drink containers. I have tried using vinegar and baking soda overnight, high temp water (boiled) and I still can't get the smell out of my food and drink containers. My thermos has the worst of it the seals smell of stale coffee and tea. I hope there is a tip out there that will help. ", "How to remove smell from rubber seals on food and drink containers. I have tried using vinegar and baking soda overnight, high temp water (boiled) and I still can't get the smell out of my food and drink containers. My thermos has the worst of it the seals smell of stale coffee and tea. I hope there is a tip out there that will help. ", "How to remove smell from rubber seals on food and drink containers. I have tried using vinegar and baking soda overnight, high temp water (boiled) and I still can't get the smell out of my food and drink containers. My thermos has the worst of it the seals smell of stale coffee and tea. I hope there is a tip out there that will help. " ]
[ "Most of those gaskets can be replaced inexpensively. That would be my recommendation. if they're retaining smells, then there's a very good chance the seal isn't as good as it should be. And in the future, when washing anything with a seal like that you are supposed to removed the seal and wash/dry it separately.", "I know it gets the stain out, not sure about the smell but take a dishwasher pod (or liquid detergent might work if that's what you've got) and put it in the container. Boil water and pour it in, let it sit for a few hours. Dump it out and the container will look like new on the inside. I've tried this and it 100% takes care of the stain but I didn't pay much attention if the thermos smelled before hand. ", "I dont know if it works on rubber seals, but whenever my shaker bottles become a bit stinky, i just throw em in the freezer after washing. Usually removes the smell. ", "Back in the day when I was very young and we had cheap plastic water containers to take to school, my mother filled them overnight with very strong tea (think four Lipton teabags) to get rid of the new plastic taste. Try soaking them in that. ", "Just had this happen a few months ago. Had to take out the gasket and scrub it separately. It was residue between the inside of the gasket and the cup. Let both parts soak for a bit while it's off and then use a small brush and you should be good. " ]
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[ "How to beat carnival games. I went to the state fair recently and lost at a game where you throw baseballs at upside-down glass bottles. I shattered one but the others that I hit dead on at full speed just bounced off the bottle.\n\nTL;DR: I didn't win a giant stuffed Domo-kun at the state fair.", "How to beat carnival games. I went to the state fair recently and lost at a game where you throw baseballs at upside-down glass bottles. I shattered one but the others that I hit dead on at full speed just bounced off the bottle.\n\nTL;DR: I didn't win a giant stuffed Domo-kun at the state fair.", "How to beat carnival games. I went to the state fair recently and lost at a game where you throw baseballs at upside-down glass bottles. I shattered one but the others that I hit dead on at full speed just bounced off the bottle.\n\nTL;DR: I didn't win a giant stuffed Domo-kun at the state fair.", "How to beat carnival games. I went to the state fair recently and lost at a game where you throw baseballs at upside-down glass bottles. I shattered one but the others that I hit dead on at full speed just bounced off the bottle.\n\nTL;DR: I didn't win a giant stuffed Domo-kun at the state fair.", "How to beat carnival games. I went to the state fair recently and lost at a game where you throw baseballs at upside-down glass bottles. I shattered one but the others that I hit dead on at full speed just bounced off the bottle.\n\nTL;DR: I didn't win a giant stuffed Domo-kun at the state fair.", "How to beat carnival games. I went to the state fair recently and lost at a game where you throw baseballs at upside-down glass bottles. I shattered one but the others that I hit dead on at full speed just bounced off the bottle.\n\nTL;DR: I didn't win a giant stuffed Domo-kun at the state fair.", "How to beat carnival games. I went to the state fair recently and lost at a game where you throw baseballs at upside-down glass bottles. I shattered one but the others that I hit dead on at full speed just bounced off the bottle.\n\nTL;DR: I didn't win a giant stuffed Domo-kun at the state fair." ]
[ "u stare at the guy running the stand.. pull out ur 9 millimeter and butmst a cap on every bottle. (ignore the screaming kids) then take ur stuffed animal and love it with all your heart.", "Have a buddy distract the carnie, then hold your kid close to the game and have him place whatever you're trying to place wherever you're trying to place it. When the carnie accuses you of cheating, pull a knife on him and threaten him until you get your prize.\n\nAlternately, yell at the carnie and get violent with him and take your prize.\n\n\n\n\n**Source: I watched Adventureland the other day*\n\n***Disclaimer: I don't recommend either of these.*", "posted [this](http://games.yahoo.com/blogs/unplugged/step-learn-beat-carnival-games-185657836.html) on /r/howto about a month ago", "Save your money and buy the stuffed whatever. Even if you win it costs them pennies for the prize you just paid 5$ playing for", "Pick out the games that look like they require the most skill (e.g archery.)\nThey're usually the most fair and are less crooked.", "It really does depend on the games. Im not familiar with this particular one.\n\nMy uncle is actually part owner in a carnival, so growing up i used to work for him sometimes during the summer. (No one will believe this, but it was actually a fairly clean carnival. For the most part it was family owned and run, and outside help was kept to a minimum.)\n\nMost of the games we had were skill games, meaning if you were good at them, you could win a prize (which in some ways made it worse on people. You could get good, but no matter what it would still be 3x cheaper to buy it at the store, but i guess thats why people play games...for the fun!).\n\nAnyways, the one game that i can comment on that wasnt 'pure' skill and seems to be common was the bulldozer game. The one we had out there wasnt as 'rigged' as most (they put holes in the sides of the lanes for the tokens to fall out of), so if you put coins to the sides of the lanes, less coins will go in the pockets. It seems counter-intuitive, but you get a more direct push from the sides than in the middle (where they'll just push in, and the side ones will squirt into the pockets). Also, sometimes you can trade in the little prizes you get on the fields for tokens. Thats a good way to help stretch your buck if you dont want that useless keychain.", "I remember I once got them all off twice, you have to do it 3 times to get a big ass motherfucking cute ass teddy bear those things are freaking great. Anyways here comes the third pitch... swoosh, if I had stepped over an inch I would have gotten a big ass motherfucking cute ass teddy bear, but I ended up with a empty ass motherfucking wallet." ]
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[ "Sleeping with Ear Plugs... Bit of a strange one here. I have become a very light sleeper over the past couple of months and can count the amount of times I've had a full nights sleep on one hand. The obvious thing to do is wear ear plugs, but having tried and failed before, I'm not sure what to do. When wearing them, I can hear my heart beating which freaks me out to no end. I was wondering if anyone here has had similar issues? If so, how did you overcome it?", "Sleeping with Ear Plugs... Bit of a strange one here. I have become a very light sleeper over the past couple of months and can count the amount of times I've had a full nights sleep on one hand. The obvious thing to do is wear ear plugs, but having tried and failed before, I'm not sure what to do. When wearing them, I can hear my heart beating which freaks me out to no end. I was wondering if anyone here has had similar issues? If so, how did you overcome it?", "Sleeping with Ear Plugs... Bit of a strange one here. I have become a very light sleeper over the past couple of months and can count the amount of times I've had a full nights sleep on one hand. The obvious thing to do is wear ear plugs, but having tried and failed before, I'm not sure what to do. When wearing them, I can hear my heart beating which freaks me out to no end. I was wondering if anyone here has had similar issues? If so, how did you overcome it?", "Sleeping with Ear Plugs... Bit of a strange one here. I have become a very light sleeper over the past couple of months and can count the amount of times I've had a full nights sleep on one hand. The obvious thing to do is wear ear plugs, but having tried and failed before, I'm not sure what to do. When wearing them, I can hear my heart beating which freaks me out to no end. I was wondering if anyone here has had similar issues? If so, how did you overcome it?", "Sleeping with Ear Plugs... Bit of a strange one here. I have become a very light sleeper over the past couple of months and can count the amount of times I've had a full nights sleep on one hand. The obvious thing to do is wear ear plugs, but having tried and failed before, I'm not sure what to do. When wearing them, I can hear my heart beating which freaks me out to no end. I was wondering if anyone here has had similar issues? If so, how did you overcome it?" ]
[ "I work 3rd shift and am forced to sleep as the sun is coming up. \n\nUnisom sleep aid, and you will be knocked out for hours.", "Ear buds that fit really well into my ears, and a specific relaxation album on my music site. Any meds that you have to take daily that have somnolence as a side effect? Take them at night. 1 or 2 benadryl usually doesn't cause a sleep meds hangover. Of course a wind down routine as soon as you end your day and are at home for the evening. For me that's out of the work clothes and into the sleep t shirt when I hit the door. Best wishes to you. My husband has serious headaches / sleep issues and we have been through it all.\n\n", "I used a white noise machine when I worked night shifts. Avoid sleeping pills at all costs though. I know too many people who grew reliant on them, and often they leave you groggy in the morning.", "I had a similar issue; began with earplugs but got too used to them, so moved to headphones playing sounds of a storm all night off youtube. The white noise lulls you to sleep and drowns out all the other, petty shit.", "How are you with white noise? \n\nAt mynoise.net are a bunch of different noise generators, studies have actually shown that different types of noise affect our brains and can both increase focus and deepen our sleep. \n\nI am an incredibly light sleeper, if I am to sleep with no sleeping pills, I have several Mynoise tabs open, playing cat purr, brain waves, and rainfall/grey noise. \n\n\nThis can be particularly helpful if you are somewhere where earplugs don't cancel out all noise, and I guess to people who live alone in quiet areas I'm sure it can actually replace it. \n\nWhat's beneficial with having a noise in on your laptop/phone when trying to sleep is that a noise generator as opposed to a YouTube video or a playlist, it does not end. So if the consistent noise is louder than any outside noise, it'll keep you sleeping through it. If it's louder than your inside noise, then it'll keep you sleeping through that too!\n\nA tip can be to adjust your computers equaliser to match the sound in the earplugs. (Play a movie or some music with the earplugs on and then put on the noise and the levels available in the app will be more accurate to what you actually hear)\n\n\nHope this helps! /I'm both neurologically and psychologically disabled, have travelled around the world because they thought I was some kind of genius (which I am in some ways- the way that occurs when someone with my syndromes is fascinated with a topic) so basically dw to ask more about this, I happened to be a huge nerd on this subject " ]
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[ "Started at a new company. One week later my 1st choice gives me an offer I plan to accept. How much should I tell the new employer? The gist of it is, I was interviewing at two tech companies at the same time. They are in the same industry but aren't really competitors and are in different geographic locations. Company A was my top pick, but they had a much longer interview process and I started it later. Company B wrapped up first and I didn't have time to wait for Company A so I accepted.\n\nNow after working at Company B for one week, Company A has extended an offer. It's much better professionally and financially, I'm taking it for sure. They are currently not aware of Company B. \n\nQuestion is, should I tell Company A that I worked at this other company for a week? If so, should I do it before or after I accept an offer? How could telling / not telling them backfire?", "Started at a new company. One week later my 1st choice gives me an offer I plan to accept. How much should I tell the new employer? The gist of it is, I was interviewing at two tech companies at the same time. They are in the same industry but aren't really competitors and are in different geographic locations. Company A was my top pick, but they had a much longer interview process and I started it later. Company B wrapped up first and I didn't have time to wait for Company A so I accepted.\n\nNow after working at Company B for one week, Company A has extended an offer. It's much better professionally and financially, I'm taking it for sure. They are currently not aware of Company B. \n\nQuestion is, should I tell Company A that I worked at this other company for a week? If so, should I do it before or after I accept an offer? How could telling / not telling them backfire?", "Started at a new company. One week later my 1st choice gives me an offer I plan to accept. How much should I tell the new employer? The gist of it is, I was interviewing at two tech companies at the same time. They are in the same industry but aren't really competitors and are in different geographic locations. Company A was my top pick, but they had a much longer interview process and I started it later. Company B wrapped up first and I didn't have time to wait for Company A so I accepted.\n\nNow after working at Company B for one week, Company A has extended an offer. It's much better professionally and financially, I'm taking it for sure. They are currently not aware of Company B. \n\nQuestion is, should I tell Company A that I worked at this other company for a week? If so, should I do it before or after I accept an offer? How could telling / not telling them backfire?", "Started at a new company. One week later my 1st choice gives me an offer I plan to accept. How much should I tell the new employer? The gist of it is, I was interviewing at two tech companies at the same time. They are in the same industry but aren't really competitors and are in different geographic locations. Company A was my top pick, but they had a much longer interview process and I started it later. Company B wrapped up first and I didn't have time to wait for Company A so I accepted.\n\nNow after working at Company B for one week, Company A has extended an offer. It's much better professionally and financially, I'm taking it for sure. They are currently not aware of Company B. \n\nQuestion is, should I tell Company A that I worked at this other company for a week? If so, should I do it before or after I accept an offer? How could telling / not telling them backfire?" ]
[ "You don't need to tell anyone anything!!\n\nJust tell the company you're working at that you received a better offer and that should be the end of it!\n\nGood luck with your new opportunity.", "I was actually in this situation a few years ago, accepted a job with one company while waiting on the offer from the other and worked there for a few weeks. When the other company came through with a MUCH better offer (like double the money, actually working in my field, way better benefits, etc), I explained it fully to the first company (\"I got this offer that has all of these benefits, based on previous conversations I know you're unwilling/unable to match any of it, I'll be taking the new job but will be happy to wrap up any work I still need to do here in the meantime\" or something like that). Didn't really mention anything to the better company other than \"I'll be ready to start on X date\" and they didn't seem to care. \n\nIn my case the two companies were in *completely* different industries, so I knew there wasn't really any chance of them talking even if the old company was to find out that I was going to the new one, but if that's a possibility then it might not hurt to tell the new company? I probably wouldn't since it's not really relevant to the new company (especially if the old one doesn't know where you're going and there's not really any danger of them running into you or someone at your new job), but up to you I guess.", "You definitely want to tell company B. A will be pissed off with you either way. But there's not any really good reason NOT to tell them. Worst case, your new manager might be a little wary of you jumping ship again soon, but that's it.", "You should tell company A about company B.\n\nIt's probably a total non-issue, but they could theoretically claim your resume was a lie (particularly if they're one of those freaks that wants a *complete* work history, all the way back to mowing lawns at 14) as an excuse to axe you sometime down the road." ]
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[ "How to prevent fold in pants that makes it look like you have a boner when you sit down. One of the most annoying things in life. Any tips?", "How to prevent fold in pants that makes it look like you have a boner when you sit down. One of the most annoying things in life. Any tips?", "How to prevent fold in pants that makes it look like you have a boner when you sit down. One of the most annoying things in life. Any tips?", "How to prevent fold in pants that makes it look like you have a boner when you sit down. One of the most annoying things in life. Any tips?", "How to prevent fold in pants that makes it look like you have a boner when you sit down. One of the most annoying things in life. Any tips?", "How to prevent fold in pants that makes it look like you have a boner when you sit down. One of the most annoying things in life. Any tips?" ]
[ "Pull the button above your belt so it is flat. Then use a safety pin to hold it up, or adjust it every once in a while. This safety pin can come undone and be rather sharp(or so Im told, iI havent experienced this yet)\n\nThe bump is caused from a large waistline and then the fabric slides down. Or you can get smaller jeans.\n\n", "Embrace it. Worse comes to worse, some lady will ask you about it.\n\nOr dude, if that's your sort of thing.", "Be proud of your bulge. Turn their laughter into fear. Get a real boner and show it off like a boss. Never be ashamed of your meat member.", "I've heard it described as a \"Jeanis\". If, once you sit, you get a hold of the pants material at your knee, and pull like you're trying to dack yourself, the material should unbunch.", "I think phone boners are far worse. When you put your phone in your pocket and it gravitates toward your groin. Then all you can think about is how people are staring at your cellular mayonnaise cannon. ", "Hopefully nobody would actually think its a boner. Im pretty sure everyone knows what the fold is and that penises arent that high up. Unless I waistband my boner" ]
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[ "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?", "How do I hold my cool or stop being angry when a coworker I don't like talks to me? There is a new coworker that rubbed me the wrong way. He act so confident and tries to take over on the first go and now made so many mistakes our team has to fix. He seems to have a controlling, micro-managing personality yet really sucks at his job and doesn't understand the process. I think he secretly knows I don't like him the moment I trained him and he kept interrupting me to solve a solution (to a problem he doesn't even know) and when I started getting upset, he immediately ran over to his locker, got a bag of chocolates, and dumped it on my desk. And then made a joke to everyone how I need to cool down with food and sweets.\n\n\nI say I think he knows I don't like him because he now drags my name whenever something goes wrong for him. For example, when the manager ask why he didnt read his emails. And he suddenly says \"Oh! Well [my name] didn't tell me!\". Or when a manager ask him a question why he messed up and he answered it. And then says something like \"Hey [my name], why didn't you answer for me? You were there on that project too\". But like yo, he asked why YOU messed up. We're the same level and we have other coworkers too but he picks on me.\n\n\nThat was all months ago before he took a long vacation. Now that he is back, small things he says bothers me and raises my blood pressure. In truth, nothing he is saying right now is bothersome so idk why I am suddenly triggered talking to him. Today I asked another coworker how she did without me from our last training. Suddenly this guy exclaimed he wants to do today's task NOW and I can train him as we go. I just pushed it off next week saying it would be better if we are in person and he can shadow me first before going in (this isn't even part of his task and he has other trainings to focus on).\n\n\nLooking at the raw interactions, nothing is wrong. He simply showed persistent to learn, I rescheduled to next week with reasoning. But I am sitting here with my blood pressure rising. I am trying to tell myself nothing really happened yet, so why am I so angry? How do I get over this, and stop reacting like this in the future?" ]
[ "**TL;DR: START ACTUALLY MANAGING THE SITUATION. HERE'S HOW.**\n\n=======================================================\n\nBusiness consultant here. I've had to handle this.\n\nAssumptions:\n\n* What you are saying is 100% true without any exaggeration. It's super easy to embellish the story when you're posting online, venting, and/or upset.\n* Because you trained this person, you have more seniority than they do, even though you're at the same level.\n* They are not \"the company owner's son\" or have similar weight that makes normal responses dangerous.\n* You are not in a tiny company and there is a reasonable HR function there.\n\nSo you have a serious interpersonal conflict with this person, created by their unprofessional behavior, and they have been bullying you and you let it happen and it is affecting your health.\n\nThe best approach is to take reasonable actions to resolve it yourself, and if (and likely when) that fails, escalate.\n\nFirst, ask to speak with the person privately. Take them to a place without other ears, and lay out that you are finding it very difficult to work with them, and explain *specifically* what they are doing that is making it difficult. And do NOT let yourself turn it into a rant.\n\nThey may respond with an apology, or they may become angry. Either way, it's your first step.\n\nRecord that you had the conversation in some sort of a journal (e.g. a draft email without any addressee added yet), and what their response was.\n\nNow, continue to build that journal. Write down / record stuff they do after that is unacceptable after that conversation, dated and timestamped for each incident.\n\nDepending on how forgiving you are, either the second or third thing they do that is clearly unprofessional, go and speak to their manager.\n\nIf they continue to behave badly, talk with the manager again... and this time, bring your journal, or email it to them.\n\nThe affirmative action I've describe will help your blood pressure because you are MANAGING your problem, not being VICTIMIZED by it.", "I mean these things would make me pretty angry too. I feel like people who are telling you to be professional are a bit right and \\*also\\* this coworker is not acting professional themselves. After years in social services and abusive supervisory settings, this seems to me like someone testing professional boundaries. \n\n&#x200B;\n\nI tend to repeat what people said back to them or will summarize what I see happening and ask if I missed anything so they can take an opportunity to change the interaction themselves (so when they messed up on the project I'd say something like \"You want me to explain your mistake to Joe?\" and just wait). I also will make myself less available or direct them to someone else who can help them (\"Oh, I'm in the middle of something and I feel like Jane could help you just as well\"). This tends to either elicit others also having issues with that person (which is great if a complaint ever needs to get filed) or that person simply finding another person they work better with (because they clearly don't work well with me). Sitting in silence without giving that person a reaction is so unbelievably effective and is also a great reaction in a professional setting.", "Replace anger with focus.\n\nYou don't get to remove coworkers based on like or dislike. Even when they are jerks\n\nThat noted, you have a path forward.\n\nIf it's true that <coworker> has made multiple mistakes costing the team work you have a business problem. <Coworker> is causing time and money to be spent on things that are considered normal work that anyone on the team should be able to do. Document all this. Note the mistake, how you covered that in training, and the impact/damage this did to the teams efficiency and output.\n\nThen ask for a meeting with your manager to discuss <coworker's> training, progress, and contribution to the team. Lay each of these mistakes out, join them to the training you provided, and how the mistake cost everyone else work.\n\nFollow that by offering to retrain <coworker> in a remedial manner. If asked if that'll work or not suggest that maybe <manager> should lead it if they don't think a repeat with you will stick.\n\nThen do what your manager says.\n\nIf you cannot provide clear and professional documentation of the training and failures... If you cannot offer to retrain <coworker>.. If you are afraid to talk to your manager about it... back down and do your work.\n\nThis is a risk, your manager may disregard all of it but if you are going to do something, do it professionally, by the book, and absent all your anger. Paper <coworker> out of the company. Politely.", "You have been dealing with someone who disrespected you and crossed your boundaries. You have been bottling up a lot of anger about the way this person treated you in the work place and then you gaslight yourself by telling yourself “nothing really happened”.\n\nIf you let people walk over you like that and not allowing yourself to feel bad when someone wrongs you, you become a ticking time bomb that is going to explode at some point even when the person that wronged you does something small.\n\nSo first of all, admit to yourself that you were a victim of workplace bullying and tell yourself you are allowed to feel angry about it. Learn how to deal and cope with your emotions.\n\nNext start standing up for yourself and learn how to set boundaries (in a constructive way). \n\nStaying professional does not mean you have to ignore shitty comments and let people walk all over you just to keep the peace. \n\nStaying professional means that when the manager asks him “Why didn’t you answer your emails” and he says “[Name didn’t tell me I had to], you respond by saying “You’re an experienced professional with access to your email, I didn’t think it was necessary for me to explain that you should manage your inbox and respond to questions from management”. \n\nThis way you put the responsibility back with them by actually giving them a compliment, instead of an insult. \n\nAnd when someone throws sweets on to your desk and tells you to eat away your emotions you simply say “I find this very offensive and am going to ask you to remove these sweets from my desk right away. This is a professional environment and I expect you to remain respectful towards myself or any of your other colleagues”. \n\nSrsly, stop feeling guilty for saying “no” to people as long as you do it in a calm and polite way. If you want respect from your co-workers you’re going to have to earn it.\n\nAlso have some confidence that your managers sees through this person’s behavior and all the mistakes they have been making. If your manager ever confronts you about it then tell them the truth and let them know what you did and did not explain.", "Without passing judgment on the situation breathing exercises train you to exhale slowly to calm yourself. You may not remember in the clutch if it is not practiced regularly however.", "Your co-workers and managers are approximately just as intelligent as you, while it appears from your OP that you're the only one noticing. Everybody sees it and it's just a matter of time until something is done. Maybe you have a weak manager that is unwilling or unable to act. Maybe your organisation's culture does not provide the safety to speak up about issues.\n\nThis is why there are managers, they need to deal with troubles like this.\n\nWhen I was still in a junior function, I got a new colleague who had his desk in my vicinity, but not extremely close. He was a bit special in his he acted, but also very smart and humble. After a while he started smelling a bit, a nasty smell like chemical sweat. Over time the intensity of the smell increased, he was wearing the same jacket every day. The smell for so bad that I got concentration problems and the entire office smelled like him. I was to insecure to talk about it, until after a while I was so overwhelmed I had to disk to someone about it and asked a 1 on 1 with my manager who was just great. She said they got multiple complaints already (some colleagues had the same as me, while others didn't smell anything, very strange). my manager told me that they were trying to get rid of him for a while already because of his performance, but due to employment laws in my country that wasn't really possible. For me this solved a lot: the end was in sight and my manager with HR needed to have the difficult discussions with the coworker and I was able to focus on my job again.\n\nSo in short, vent your frustrations and be patient. For venting, you can reach out to other coworkers you trust, your manager, HR, your company might even have assigned a confidant/confidential counselor, because professional organizations have clear interests to mitigate workplace bullying.", "You've gotten some good advice about how to document and escalate. I think the question is, is he TRYING to provoke you, or is he clueless and thinks he's hilarious?\n\nIf you accuse him of something, he'll react defensively. You need to assume that he's not intentionally starting shit, and if you do that, you have to say to him directly, \"I don't like when you say XYZ. I feel ______ when you act like I didn't train you or help you, when it's not true. So I'm asking you to stop it, right now. \" \n\nYou can make it easy for them to back off and still save face (which might help an overconfident man or woman) by saying, \"Maybe you mean it to be a joke, and if that's true I wish I wasn't the butt of the joke. Please stop. \"\n\nAnd I recommend a book called No Assholes, about how to deal with workplace bullies. It won't solve your problems but you'll feel less alone.", "Your boss isn’t stupid. They likely see right through it. It’s not a good look when everything is “someone else’s fault”. As for your own personal annoyance, I’d say look towards stoic philosophy. Change how you judge the scenario. Is he trying to cover because he knows he’s inadequate? Ok, fuck em then. Everyone sees it. Is he trying to make you look bad because you out shine him? Ok, fuck em because he knows I’m better and we both know it.", "Probably might have to learn to go \"grey rock\" on this co worker. Google go grey rock.Then learn to pep talk yourself. When I had to be around someone similar, I would tell myself to be patient as that person would be out traveling the next week so I'd get a break from them. Or I'd tell myself I'd be done with them at 5 quitting time and that I could last til then. Or if they did their needling I'd simply disconnect emotionally and work on something else. This person strikes me as a passive aggressive jerk trying to be an alpha and on some level resents you for whatever they lack in skills or know how or whatever. You can outlast this person. Other co workers are noticing that person's behavior. Just give the person enough rope to hang themselves and stay the course.", "In front of other coworkers and/or manager ask him to keep you name out of his problems in the future. If he doesn’t know something he needs to ask for assistance not throw you under the bus, not your problem if he didn’t listen or keep good note.", "I have a similar situation at my current job. I am still in college for another 6 months and can't quit yet, otherwise I would have been long gone. \n\nYou say this person angers over small things that you believe do not matter in the grand scheme of things. This can only be explained by 2 things: either your anger has built up enough that it has started to bleed, or this person is actually provoking a boundary of yours and you aren't addressing it effectively. \n\nSo, let me ask, what would have to happen for you to be at peace? Is this solution reasonable? If it isn't, it is time to reevaluate your boundaries and coping skills. \n\nThe person I am having issues with is not only an older entitled woman, but she is uneducated and incredibly nosy. The solution that has worked with me is to grey rock communication. I dont show malice, but I also make it clear I am uninterested in her speaking. I am not saying this is what you should do, as it sounds like this person is unavoidable. But it helps to give them little ammo and diminish their hold on you. \n\nIt sucks, and I am sorry. I can't wait to give her the big middle finger when I do graduate and leave this job.", "Well if you don't like just because of his personality (essentially) then just keep it professional, short and sweet. \n\nIf it's something personal, then same thing applies: keep it professional and short and sweet. If you need to have the conversation later about not wanting anything to do with this individual then let him know during an appropriate time.\n\nThe thing people don't realize is this is real life and not a movie. If you value your job/career then you act like an adult/man and deal with things accordingly. If you don't have real responsibilities and don't care job hopping, then you can act like a child and handle things accordingly.", "Sounds like your past experiences with him are souring you. Just put the guy on a trial basis and see what happens. Maybe that time off lessened the initial hard feelings.", "My anger comes from fear if I think about it long enough.\n\nAre you deep down concerned somehow that they will be better liked or promoted over you?", "I know this feeling. I have been working with Brett Hill the mindfulness coach at language of mindfulness for a year. It’s helped me value the time between when teammates speak and when I reply. These moments are small but the longer I make them take by remaining silent the more time I have to realize there is no reason to be offended. \n\nTeammates need to trust they can ask questions and make statement without offending their coworkers into a defensive state. \n\nI can’t help you if the coworker is a true a$$hole. But my teammates are great. They never judged me. I was judging myself. My own insecurity coming up emotionally as I speak. I process verbally so thinking it through quietly was hard for me. \n\nLook up ADHD and RSD for a trip.", "Ask yourself what is your part in this relationship/interaction. Every person you come in contact with presents a lesson for you to learn. If you don't embrace this and realize it's an opportunity for you to grow, you will continue to repeat this interaction with others you meet.", "It is a penguin. Everytime some disgust me, I just think of it and hold my breath. Show teeth nood and walk away.", "Try to get over yourself. Sounds like a typical new person in a work place. He is trying to figure out his place and probably has aspiration to move up in the organization. Talk to him and figure that out. Keep it professional and determine what he is trying to do. He may have been in a management position before and is figuring out how to get there again. All the classic signs are there.", "It’s your problem. He is trying his best to work at the job and probably came off too strong at first.\n\nGive him a chance and communicate." ]
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[ "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!", "How do you make friends at a new job? hey guys,\n\nI'm 17 and i recently got my first job (at kmart) along with a whole group of other new people. Tomorrow is my first day (like a training type of day) and i really want to make friends. I haven't been in the situation of having to make new friends since I started year 7 but even then i knew some people and on top of that has serious social anxiety which basically hindered my ability to talk to people.\n\nNow i'm 17 and my anxiety is gone and i'm ready to talk, except i don't know how. I want to come off as casual but i've never actually made new friend for about 6 years. I really want new friends because at school so many bridges are burnt because so many people are immature and down right up themselves.\n\nSorry if this is a shitty post, thanks so much in advance for advice!!" ]
[ "I think you should go in with this perspective.\n\nI'm here to work. I showed up on time, ready to go and willing. I ask questions when I need to without hesitation. I offer assistance where I see I can help. I ask for another task when I am done with the task given to me.\n\nWork is for work, socialization should occur elsewhere if you ask me. Just be a good worker and people will like you at work. Try not to get sucked into the \"drama\" at whatever job you happen to be at. And remember this, you should always be looking for a better job no matter what.", "People will invite you to lunches, events, etc. Always accept and go. It shows your interest and time investment in them.", "You seem really keen and genuine replying to everyone.\n\nI no longer have it within me to recommend unzipping and letting it hang out a little bit while maintaining harsh eye contact, jiggling slightly.", "Worked at a supermarket a couple of years. \n\nUse a couple of days to get into the routines/worktasks and introduce yourself to co-workers, then start to get lightfeeted and make smaller games or whatever out of things. Somebody has to go fix something? Rock, paper, scissor that shit. Be able to play, because a job like this is only as fun as you make it. When you have nothing to do, ask if they need help with something, but not too often. Voulenteer when at work.\n\nAnd smile, just smile as much as you can, to customers and to co-workers. Helps you through the day. See it as your mission to get a smile in return, and if you don't move on to the next one. You will get a good tone with so many people :) \n\nSpread joy man, wherever you are and whatever you're doing. Good luck", "Trust me, you'll be fine. I was an awkward mess with no social life in high school but I ended up making a bunch of friends once I got my first job. My first job was just bagging groceries, but I think being required to just ask people what type of bag they wanted and telling them to have a great day helped me get more comfortable talking to strangers.\nOne thing that makes it easy making friends in a retail job is that you can always talk about annoying customers. I used to work in a movie theater and had tons of conversations making fun of people who'd come in and say \"You know if you'd lower the prices you'd sell more of those.\"", "Man I can remember being your age and being super anxious about meeting new people ay. It gets easier the older you get once chucked out into adult world.\n\nI guess you just gotta talk to everyone and see who you have common interest with and bond over that. do it at your own pace, dont try to hard on your first day to be the talkative guy if it aint usually your thing. \n\nGood luck. ", "Just be you. People WILL see who you really are sooner or later so don't pretend to be someone else because then nobody will like you.", "Just be honest, people will want to chill with you if you're honest. Don't act like you're better than other people because those people might be the ones you work with. Be humble and legit people will like you.", "Honestly just don't think about it too much. If the people at Kmart suck, there'll be more people at the next place. No need to be nervous about it, because no one wants to be friends with a nervous person. Just do your job, be friendly, smile at people, take a interest in their general well-being, and observe their behavior. More than likely you'll find at least one person who'll make you a suitable friend. Try to find people who are genuinely considerate, is my advice. They're worth 5 airheaded party animal friends ;)", "Be yourself.\n\nMy best friend here is the Russian guy who's my immediate supervisor.\n\nHe knows nothing about electronic hardware engineering, what I do. The first week he was my boss we had a difference of opinion. I did what I always do. I took him aside and explained why he was wrong and why we should do a thing my way.\n\nHe chewed on it a little.\n\nAt the end, the project went very well, and he found that he could rely on my results.\n\nWe work very well together, and the project we were working on at that time (and still now) is being launched as the company's 2nd biggest product.\n", "\"Wow. Good job!\"\n\n\"Hey, I really appreciate that. Makes my life a lot easier.\"\n\nYou don't have to be a manager to congratulate people on a job well done. Makes their fucking day.", "Keep it simple. These people are not your friends!! They are co-workers, as a Manager the 1st thing I look for in the new hires is who's going to be that one person that is going to distract everyone else from doing their jobs. Don't add your co-workers in your social media circles, do not talk about politics, parenting and religion. To each their own on those subjects. \n\n", "If people are planning social gatherings outside of work just invite yourself. If someone doesn't know you they're just as timid as you are to ssk if you want to hangout. It might seem a little intrusive at first but if it's already a big social gathering and you already have a relatively good standing at work, no one will care if you ask to come. They'll actually be excited that you asked", "Doubt this will be much help, but a good cologne is a good ice breaker for females to approach you, and is just good to be known for in general. ", "Ask more senior coworkers for tips and tricks .. People often enjoy sharing something they have figured out how to do best and you will get better at the job too. " ]
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[ "How to stay serious and not laugh in serious situations I have serious trouble not cracking up if I tell a joke or if i'm in a serious situation and see someone do something funny. I would love to know how to control this because I fear being disruptive because of it.", "How to stay serious and not laugh in serious situations I have serious trouble not cracking up if I tell a joke or if i'm in a serious situation and see someone do something funny. I would love to know how to control this because I fear being disruptive because of it.", "How to stay serious and not laugh in serious situations I have serious trouble not cracking up if I tell a joke or if i'm in a serious situation and see someone do something funny. I would love to know how to control this because I fear being disruptive because of it.", "How to stay serious and not laugh in serious situations I have serious trouble not cracking up if I tell a joke or if i'm in a serious situation and see someone do something funny. I would love to know how to control this because I fear being disruptive because of it.", "How to stay serious and not laugh in serious situations I have serious trouble not cracking up if I tell a joke or if i'm in a serious situation and see someone do something funny. I would love to know how to control this because I fear being disruptive because of it." ]
[ "I don't want to live in your world where you think this is a bad thing. Humanity is a hilarious. We're just a bunch of big, dumb monkeys thinking high and mighty of ourselves and our made up social structures that change like the wind.", "think of something horrifying, like tarantuals, or bull sharks, or growing up, or sky diving while nude, or the person that might be standing outside your house right now", "In serious situation I have a similar issue because I think of sarcastic things I could say (but never would publicly) and if I have something brilliant I smirk.", "I have a similar \"problem\". It's that i Start to laugh when i feel uncomfortable. Or maybe it's because i think the Situation is ridiculous and dumb. I'm not sure.", "Have you tried biting your lip, tongue or cheek? Or pinching yourself really hard? Those have sometimes worked for me." ]
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[ "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!", "Moving home essentials I am hopefully moving from my flat to another flat soon and am looking for the best tips to make moving as smooth and hassle free as possible.\n\nAny good moving tips would be appreciated, thank you in advance!" ]
[ "Pack yourself a suitcase as though you're going on a 3-4 day trip. Live out of suitcase for a couple days while you're unpacking.", "Leave clothes on the hangers, tape clothes hangers together, put a bin bag over the whole thing and tie. No need to fold and pack everything, and when you get to the new place it's all ready to hang!", "When you move in, the first thing to do is your bed. Then you can start unpacking and if you’re tired, you can go to sleep and finish the next day.", "Write on your boxes whats in there, not just what room they're going in. Having to open 5 boxes labelled \"kitchen\" just to find a mug is frustrating.", "1. When in doubt throw it out. \n2. Label your boxes well. \n3. Get boxes and packing materials from a place that will buy back unused boxes/materials.\n4. Use kitchen towels and linens to protect dishware and cups.", "I’ve moved a ton, and one of the most helpful things I’ve discovered is making an Open First box that you bring with you in your car. Put all of your immediate needs in it—toilet paper, medicines, basic toiletries, some real or disposable cutlery and plates, pajamas/change of clothes for the next day. Whatever stuff you will definitely need as you start to unpack in your new place.", "Before you move in, take a roll of two of tp and a plunger to the new place. \n\nBed first in case you need to rest, then other furniture then boxes. Work around the big stuff\n\nPlan how long its going to take, then add 50% more time\n\nHave help, and either hire them or pay your friends in food, drink and a promise of reciprocity\n\nLift with your legs, not your back", "Wrap your glassware in your clothes, towels, etc. \n\nPut a garbage bag over you hanged clothes to keep them together and on a hanger.", "One of my friends hired movers that stole things from a box labelled \"Electronics\" - if you are hiring movers, i recommend not labelling or mislabelling the boxes that have expensive stuff in them.", "Go on craigslist and find someone u can pay to assist you. Millennials are all about the side hustle.", "Clean the new place first. We bought a house during the co-curse and it had drywall dust everywhere from remodeling. I had to wipe off every closet and cabinet shelf in the place. Thank goodness I didn't wait till we had to put stuff away. \n(Also the furnace filter was full of that stuff!)" ]
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[ "How to be present for good things about to end and not focus on being sad that they are ending My parents have been able to visit me (Pacific Northwest region of USA) from Scandinavia (Europe) for the first time in 3.5 years, and they go back tomorrow. I want to savor every moment but find myself also prone to feeling very sad about them leaving.\n\nI want to appreciate the moments we have and not spend them on feeling sad, especially since they’ve been able to spend so much time with our baby girl born in late September which is so special and valuable.", "How to be present for good things about to end and not focus on being sad that they are ending My parents have been able to visit me (Pacific Northwest region of USA) from Scandinavia (Europe) for the first time in 3.5 years, and they go back tomorrow. I want to savor every moment but find myself also prone to feeling very sad about them leaving.\n\nI want to appreciate the moments we have and not spend them on feeling sad, especially since they’ve been able to spend so much time with our baby girl born in late September which is so special and valuable.", "How to be present for good things about to end and not focus on being sad that they are ending My parents have been able to visit me (Pacific Northwest region of USA) from Scandinavia (Europe) for the first time in 3.5 years, and they go back tomorrow. I want to savor every moment but find myself also prone to feeling very sad about them leaving.\n\nI want to appreciate the moments we have and not spend them on feeling sad, especially since they’ve been able to spend so much time with our baby girl born in late September which is so special and valuable.", "How to be present for good things about to end and not focus on being sad that they are ending My parents have been able to visit me (Pacific Northwest region of USA) from Scandinavia (Europe) for the first time in 3.5 years, and they go back tomorrow. I want to savor every moment but find myself also prone to feeling very sad about them leaving.\n\nI want to appreciate the moments we have and not spend them on feeling sad, especially since they’ve been able to spend so much time with our baby girl born in late September which is so special and valuable." ]
[ "I tell my 8 year old students when the subject of death comes up: you get to go to Disneyland, and once there you find out you can only stay for a little bit. Do you cry and waste the little time you have sulking or do you do as much as you can in the little time you have? It's a choice. Plus when you are sad when it's over, you'll have wonderful memories to remember if you make the most if the time.", "Sit quietly for a few minutes and try not to judge yourself, but also try not to judge yourself for judging yourself. Then do something extra nice for them, especially something that honors the valid, loving place your sadness is coming from.", "First, know it’s totally natural to feel multiple feelings at once. \n\nOnce you normalize this, focus on the physical sensation of the sadness in your body. Let yourself feel that fully, and let your thoughts flood in. Confront them all. Set a timer for about 10-15 minutes. When the timer is up, you take a deep breath and now focus on the physical sensation of the pleasant feeling in your body, and take that with you for the rest of their trip, knowing the other anxieties have already been addressed. So if your mind tries to switch back, you can think, I already took care of that.", "Take lots of pictures and save little mementos, then make a scrapbook. Nostalgia is bittersweet but it’s better then having nothing at all" ]
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[ "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?", "How to deal with homeless beggars. I have a hard time saying \"no\" to homeless people who persistently ask for money because I don't know if the sad stories they tell me are true. \n\nHow would I be able to tell who is telling the truth and who is making stuff up?" ]
[ "I live in Houston. If I spent time figuring out every homeless mans story I'd never be able to get to work or have any money for myself. Mostly I just tell them all I have is cr", "You can't. The ones who make stuff up are really good at it because that's what they do. And they spend so much time doing it that they've mostly perfected their story. If you have a hard time saying no, then you need to make it easier by taking the money you would have given and donating instead to a charity or organization you trust. ", "doesn't work all the time, but instead of giving them money give them food, drink, clothing, blankets, a pillow. ", "This isn't always true, but I see giving money to homeless people as hurting them more than helping them. A couple dollars can get him or her drunk or high enough to forget their problems.\n\nTreat the stories as stories. Do not get caught up in them. Last time I got caught up in one, it nearly ended with a knife in my lung on the way to buy him a sandwich.\n\nIf you do care about helping, donate to charities with money or time. Look for selfless organizations geared towards the homeless like soup kitchens, food banks, homeless newspapers, and health clinics. I have spent many hours directly preparing and serving warm food to homeless through the organization Food Not Bombs. See if there is one in your area. They could use people picking up food about to expire from grocery stores, cooking, delivering, serving, and cleaning.", "Giving them money, regardless of their story, your preference, or their intended purchase, can sometimes lead to legal trouble for them.\n\nI gave a panhandler 75c once (it was all I had), and a cop who was standing nearby arrested the man for vagrancy. I just stood there, open-mouthed in disbelief, as the cop lead the man away (at least he didn't cuff the guy). \n\nSo if you do want to give something, check out the local laws. I know in some cities, there are times people giving out food or coffee have been arrested for unauthorized 'feeding sites'. \n\nhttp://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2014/11/05/fort-lauderdale-arrest-for-feeding-homeless/18525049/", "Above all, TREAT THEM WITH RESPECT. More than money, many just want to not be invisible. \nIt's okay to be the guy who just says hi and gives a head nod. ", "\"I don't carry cash, sorry\" is pretty believable. I stopped giving out cash when I kept seeing the same folks still trying to get enough to fill up their gas tank to get to blahblahblah for months on end. Plus, one guy took my change and started throwing the pennies in the street. A homeless person should value pennies at least as much as I do!", "You could take $5 and convert it to Japanese Yen (~600). Then give them a few yen, and let them go to the bank to convert it back to US currency. The next time you pass by, they may not even bother to approach you.", "Usually i rather give them food or a drink. Most times homeless people use the money they earn on drugs anyways. When i don't feel like interacting w the homeless, i simply just ignore them or don't make eye contact. Might seem mean, but i'm not gonna spare a few bucks that i worked hard to some idiot so he can buy some drugs. ", "I've found that the best way to handle the situation is to offer to buy them a sandwich/burrito/whatever. If they're actually homeless and in need of money, they'd accept the food. If they just want money for drugs/alcohol/etc, too bad. ", "I like to take out a dollar bill and bob it over their head...if they reach for it, I put it back in my pocket and walk away. If they don't reach for it, I put it back in my pocket and walk away.", "Take out a quarter. Tell them if they can catch it in their mouth, they can keep it. Step back about 10 ft and throw. \n\nIt's cheap fun up to about $3...\n\n" ]
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[ "Looking decent in pictures, even ones you're not taking. I take like 50 pictures and the one I choose isn't even that good.", "Looking decent in pictures, even ones you're not taking. I take like 50 pictures and the one I choose isn't even that good." ]
[ "This is gonna sound odd, but trust me, point your forehead right at the camera, don't tilt your head down, just headbutt that lens right in the face. If you're not facing directly into the camera, go for pointing your jaw bones at it instead. People tend to look bad in photos because there's no definition, you just end up as features on an amorphous skin blob, which isn't pretty, so you wanna help the shadows form around your face. It also gets rid of any double chin nasties. This goes double for guys, girls have face-framing easier with long hair, bronzer etc. (in case you're a lady, get 2 shades of powder, light one goes in middle, roughly the triangle formed by your eyes and mouth, darker one round the edge and blend that shit). \nGet your camera and have a play, you'll see what I meant.\n", "Try not to smile and stay frozen with one face. Look around and then back at the camera to give more of a natural smile" ]
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[ "Fastest way to lose stomach fat Suh redditors, im a 17 year-old male teenager. I have a medium build, and have an excessive amount of fat, only in my stomach area it seems. I wanna know what the fastest way to lose that fat in my stomach area. Whats your guys' suggestions? ", "Fastest way to lose stomach fat Suh redditors, im a 17 year-old male teenager. I have a medium build, and have an excessive amount of fat, only in my stomach area it seems. I wanna know what the fastest way to lose that fat in my stomach area. Whats your guys' suggestions? ", "Fastest way to lose stomach fat Suh redditors, im a 17 year-old male teenager. I have a medium build, and have an excessive amount of fat, only in my stomach area it seems. I wanna know what the fastest way to lose that fat in my stomach area. Whats your guys' suggestions? ", "Fastest way to lose stomach fat Suh redditors, im a 17 year-old male teenager. I have a medium build, and have an excessive amount of fat, only in my stomach area it seems. I wanna know what the fastest way to lose that fat in my stomach area. Whats your guys' suggestions? ", "Fastest way to lose stomach fat Suh redditors, im a 17 year-old male teenager. I have a medium build, and have an excessive amount of fat, only in my stomach area it seems. I wanna know what the fastest way to lose that fat in my stomach area. Whats your guys' suggestions? ", "Fastest way to lose stomach fat Suh redditors, im a 17 year-old male teenager. I have a medium build, and have an excessive amount of fat, only in my stomach area it seems. I wanna know what the fastest way to lose that fat in my stomach area. Whats your guys' suggestions? " ]
[ "You can't spot-reduce fat. Join us at /r/loseit and read teh FAQ and links in the sidebar to get started.", "As others have mentioned you can't focus your fat loss, general excercise will reduce your overall fat but your body determine where it comes from.\n\nHowever in men the appearance of a fat stomach can be partially attributed to poor posture and weak abdominal muscles. So working out your abs and lower back muscles can help reduce the appearance of being fatter than you actually are.", "If someone were to develop a technique to eliminate stomach fat without doing the traditional exercise more eat less routine they would become one of the richest people in the world.", "calorie intake is way more important than exercising. if you really want to change your lifestyle, start by changing your eating. I'm not positive about these statistics, but it's something like \"70% of calorie burning happens normally by the body and the other 30% is from working out\"", "Eliminate sugar from your food.Your body can't process sugar so it stores it as fat.It's very hard to do,the cravings for the first couple of weeks have to be endured,after that see if you lose weight.", "Calorie intake reduction, low carbs, cardio. Most important is reducing your caloric intake. Use an online calorie calculator to find out how many calories you need daily to maintain your weight. Reduce that number by 200 to 600 calories daily depending on your numbers and goals. Eat high protein, low carb meals with lots of veg (filling, nutrient-rich, and lowish calorie). Calculate and track your daily calories with a tool like this: http://www.calorieking.com. Cardio exercise will aid in temporarily raising your metabolism and burning a few calories. Most important is calorie restriction and exercise is a plus. Don't be afraid to keep some healthy fats in your diet — your body needs them." ]
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[ "What reward have you promised yourself if you achieved your goal that actually worked. Half way through August, I told myself that if I went to the gym 8 times before the end of the month, then I would through and ice cream party. Doesn't sound like much, but it worked and it jump started a habit of going to the gym. I'm trying to ramp up to make some new goals, but I need some good ideas to get me motivated again.", "What reward have you promised yourself if you achieved your goal that actually worked. Half way through August, I told myself that if I went to the gym 8 times before the end of the month, then I would through and ice cream party. Doesn't sound like much, but it worked and it jump started a habit of going to the gym. I'm trying to ramp up to make some new goals, but I need some good ideas to get me motivated again.", "What reward have you promised yourself if you achieved your goal that actually worked. Half way through August, I told myself that if I went to the gym 8 times before the end of the month, then I would through and ice cream party. Doesn't sound like much, but it worked and it jump started a habit of going to the gym. I'm trying to ramp up to make some new goals, but I need some good ideas to get me motivated again.", "What reward have you promised yourself if you achieved your goal that actually worked. Half way through August, I told myself that if I went to the gym 8 times before the end of the month, then I would through and ice cream party. Doesn't sound like much, but it worked and it jump started a habit of going to the gym. I'm trying to ramp up to make some new goals, but I need some good ideas to get me motivated again.", "What reward have you promised yourself if you achieved your goal that actually worked. Half way through August, I told myself that if I went to the gym 8 times before the end of the month, then I would through and ice cream party. Doesn't sound like much, but it worked and it jump started a habit of going to the gym. I'm trying to ramp up to make some new goals, but I need some good ideas to get me motivated again.", "What reward have you promised yourself if you achieved your goal that actually worked. Half way through August, I told myself that if I went to the gym 8 times before the end of the month, then I would through and ice cream party. Doesn't sound like much, but it worked and it jump started a habit of going to the gym. I'm trying to ramp up to make some new goals, but I need some good ideas to get me motivated again." ]
[ "I mostly use this as a deterrent actually. I see a hobby, \"that looks cool and so interesting\" I used to jump both feet into things then get bored quickly. Now I tell myself if I can do the thing twice with whatever I can scavenge free or at most $10, I can get more expensive stuff for the hobby. \n\nUsually the first time I'm hyped, the second time it's okay but not that great and I just decide it's not fun or interesting enough to be worth the money. I have saved so much using this method. I also don't have a bunch of barely used junk sitting around now.\n\nI have also used \"if I walk x distance I can have ice cream\" but usually that distance is however far the store I can buy ice cream is. Trying for any further and I detour to the store and stop. It was part of an attempt to stop wasting food. I stopped keeping some things I kept throwing away, if I wanted it I had to walk. I just added snacks and ice cream to the list", "I didn't really set a goal.\n\nBut a bit later I realized: heck: I can afford to get myself a nice car. And so I did.\n\nAnd more later I realized: heck: I can afford a boat; so I did that too.", "Hey great job on going to the gym OP! It all starts somewhere. \n\nAs for myself, I have a goal that when I get myself into shape that I want to be, I’m going to get my first tattoo", "If I walk three miles and really sweat and stretch well, I get half of a Topo Chico with equel part coconut water! At the time, on my budget, this was big! 🖖", "Mine is, if I reach certain amount of bodyweight, the reward is losing a few pounds. \n\nChange only comes when you work for it. Work hard, better rewards.", "Maybe not directly contradictory goal would make more sense. I told myself if I save for 2 months and still wanted an expensive item I would get it." ]
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[ "ways to fall asleep quickly? I have a newborn at home and am sleeping on an erratic schedule. I'm finding it takes me a long time to get to sleep without my usual routine and I'm wasting precious sleeping time! Any tips/tricks for falling asleep quickly?", "ways to fall asleep quickly? I have a newborn at home and am sleeping on an erratic schedule. I'm finding it takes me a long time to get to sleep without my usual routine and I'm wasting precious sleeping time! Any tips/tricks for falling asleep quickly?", "ways to fall asleep quickly? I have a newborn at home and am sleeping on an erratic schedule. I'm finding it takes me a long time to get to sleep without my usual routine and I'm wasting precious sleeping time! Any tips/tricks for falling asleep quickly?", "ways to fall asleep quickly? I have a newborn at home and am sleeping on an erratic schedule. I'm finding it takes me a long time to get to sleep without my usual routine and I'm wasting precious sleeping time! Any tips/tricks for falling asleep quickly?", "ways to fall asleep quickly? I have a newborn at home and am sleeping on an erratic schedule. I'm finding it takes me a long time to get to sleep without my usual routine and I'm wasting precious sleeping time! Any tips/tricks for falling asleep quickly?" ]
[ "Focus on breathing. \nRelax every muscle starting from toes, then feet, calves etc, all the way up. \nOnce totally calm and chilled count your relaxed breaths to stop your mind wandering, shouldn't take too long after that for the little one to start crying and you have to get up again :-)", "The military method: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/life-style/national-napping-day-2019-fall-asleep-fast-military-trick-sleep-a8817826.html%3Famp", "For me, it helps to hold completely still and resist the urge to switch positions. I tend to toss and turn a lot when trying to fall asleep and it ends up keeping me from falling asleep unless I consciously hold still.", "No headphones for parents of newborns. I like the military method. They are known to sleep through gunfire (but not the sound of baby crying)", "I use 10 hour white noise videos on YouTube. It doesn't work for everyone but maybe it will for you as well" ]
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[ "How to comfort/converse with someone who is going through something you can't relate to at all. Many dislike it when others say something along the lines of \"I can relate\" in response to hearing about a tragedy, disorder, etc. that the person confided in them in. Relating is one of the easier ways to show empathy and support, and one of the more commonly used tactics. \n\nHow should we comfort people who are going through something we can't relate to, especially if they aren't forthcoming? Examples may include people talking about panic attacks, depression, death, etc. \n\nListening is a fantastic skill, as well as asking questions. But I feel there's only so much satisfaction those things will result in. ", "How to comfort/converse with someone who is going through something you can't relate to at all. Many dislike it when others say something along the lines of \"I can relate\" in response to hearing about a tragedy, disorder, etc. that the person confided in them in. Relating is one of the easier ways to show empathy and support, and one of the more commonly used tactics. \n\nHow should we comfort people who are going through something we can't relate to, especially if they aren't forthcoming? Examples may include people talking about panic attacks, depression, death, etc. \n\nListening is a fantastic skill, as well as asking questions. But I feel there's only so much satisfaction those things will result in. ", "How to comfort/converse with someone who is going through something you can't relate to at all. Many dislike it when others say something along the lines of \"I can relate\" in response to hearing about a tragedy, disorder, etc. that the person confided in them in. Relating is one of the easier ways to show empathy and support, and one of the more commonly used tactics. \n\nHow should we comfort people who are going through something we can't relate to, especially if they aren't forthcoming? Examples may include people talking about panic attacks, depression, death, etc. \n\nListening is a fantastic skill, as well as asking questions. But I feel there's only so much satisfaction those things will result in. ", "How to comfort/converse with someone who is going through something you can't relate to at all. Many dislike it when others say something along the lines of \"I can relate\" in response to hearing about a tragedy, disorder, etc. that the person confided in them in. Relating is one of the easier ways to show empathy and support, and one of the more commonly used tactics. \n\nHow should we comfort people who are going through something we can't relate to, especially if they aren't forthcoming? Examples may include people talking about panic attacks, depression, death, etc. \n\nListening is a fantastic skill, as well as asking questions. But I feel there's only so much satisfaction those things will result in. ", "How to comfort/converse with someone who is going through something you can't relate to at all. Many dislike it when others say something along the lines of \"I can relate\" in response to hearing about a tragedy, disorder, etc. that the person confided in them in. Relating is one of the easier ways to show empathy and support, and one of the more commonly used tactics. \n\nHow should we comfort people who are going through something we can't relate to, especially if they aren't forthcoming? Examples may include people talking about panic attacks, depression, death, etc. \n\nListening is a fantastic skill, as well as asking questions. But I feel there's only so much satisfaction those things will result in. ", "How to comfort/converse with someone who is going through something you can't relate to at all. Many dislike it when others say something along the lines of \"I can relate\" in response to hearing about a tragedy, disorder, etc. that the person confided in them in. Relating is one of the easier ways to show empathy and support, and one of the more commonly used tactics. \n\nHow should we comfort people who are going through something we can't relate to, especially if they aren't forthcoming? Examples may include people talking about panic attacks, depression, death, etc. \n\nListening is a fantastic skill, as well as asking questions. But I feel there's only so much satisfaction those things will result in. ", "How to comfort/converse with someone who is going through something you can't relate to at all. Many dislike it when others say something along the lines of \"I can relate\" in response to hearing about a tragedy, disorder, etc. that the person confided in them in. Relating is one of the easier ways to show empathy and support, and one of the more commonly used tactics. \n\nHow should we comfort people who are going through something we can't relate to, especially if they aren't forthcoming? Examples may include people talking about panic attacks, depression, death, etc. \n\nListening is a fantastic skill, as well as asking questions. But I feel there's only so much satisfaction those things will result in. ", "How to comfort/converse with someone who is going through something you can't relate to at all. Many dislike it when others say something along the lines of \"I can relate\" in response to hearing about a tragedy, disorder, etc. that the person confided in them in. Relating is one of the easier ways to show empathy and support, and one of the more commonly used tactics. \n\nHow should we comfort people who are going through something we can't relate to, especially if they aren't forthcoming? Examples may include people talking about panic attacks, depression, death, etc. \n\nListening is a fantastic skill, as well as asking questions. But I feel there's only so much satisfaction those things will result in. " ]
[ "I read advice that said you should just do something, anything to help lighten the load. Don't ask what you can do, it puts more work on the person to figure out what your actions should be in addition to what they're facing. \n\n\nSo, if your friend's spouse is in the hospital you can say \"I'm going to bring you and the family dinner one night this week. What night is best for you?\"\n\n\nMaybe a friend is depressed...you can bring a small token to let them know you care and feel better. Even a small gesture like getting them coffee let's them know you care. \n\n\nHeck, even a phone call just to say \"hey, I was thinking about you, how are things?\" Shows you care. \n\n\nMost of the problems that causes major distress in someone's life probably can't be solved by you or anyone else. So focus on what you can do to make the rest of their life a little easier. And of course, just being there and letting them know you care. \n\n\nIf it's a stranger who is unloading or you're not particularly close then just offering empathy and heartfelt condolences is sufficient I think. ", "When I'm going through a panic attack what helps is someone just holding me or just being there with me, without looking exasperated or waiting for it to end. After I've managed to calm down, it helps if they listen first and then ask me or help me to talk through it and explore different scenarios that led to the attack and different scenarios that can happen based on what occurred to cause the attack.", "This gets tricky because everyone deals with mental illness differently. When I'm having a depressive episode, I hate when people tell me it's going to be okay. Instead, I like it when people push me to really explore what I'm feeling, so I can feel it to the highest degree and then be done with it. Otherwise my emotions will just stew until they explode. ", " I can truly only speak for myself, but when my father died I knew how uncomfortable it was for people to talk to me about it. It's one of those things people just really don't know what to say. What helped me the most was saying something along the lines of, \"that really fucking sucks.\" And then just being available. I don't think most people going though a traumatic experience expects anyone to fix the situation necessarily, but just acknowledging it's a shitty thing to be dealing with can feel really validating. ", "if you can't relate, don't try to. Just talk to them about anything, if talking doesn't feel right, say nothing. Just be present and support them", "**TL;DR:** *Actively consider that you actually can't help them as much as you want to.*\n\nAn acceptable answer to this situation is \"I feel for ya, pal, but I don't know what to say to help.\" Sometimes we're just not the people with the right experience or equipment in these circumstances. \n\nYou might know someone or some mechanism to help them get more help, such as a different trusted friend that would be okay with helping, or a professional such as guidance counselors, grief counselors, mental health service workers, legal experts, or therapists, but you'd have to be really careful in how you bring this up.\n\nAnd then, per your last paragraph, listening and taking an active interest to help THEM talk it through is really the best that you yourself can do.", "Listen to them carefully, without interrupting them.\nDon't try to fix them or their situation.\nLet them know that you care about them. ", "First and foremost, accept that you may be able to *comfort* them, but you likely won't be able to *cure* the person's feelings.\n\nI have regular panic attacks and I think they're quite different from your other two examples so I'll start there. The absolute best thing anyone can do for me is *ask* what will help. Usually I can verbalize enough to explain what I need. Most of the time, I like physical contact and being softly talked to to take my mind off the anxiety. Other times, however, I find touching and voices to be completely overstimulating and prefer to be by myself until it passes. If I hadn't been asked and had instead been forced into a hug in the latter situation, the attack would've been prolonged and I'd be in more distress. \n\nSo I'd say asking is the best tool for dealing with a panic attack. You can even ask simple questions: \"Do you want me here with you?\" \"Do you want a hug?\" \"Do you want me to talk to you?\" etc. even just looking for head nods. In general stay away from telling the person going through the attack that it's all in their head (they're well aware of this). If you want to try to reassure the person, try to do it in a way that validates their fears and focuses on the fact that they will make it through the attack just fine. You could try saying something like \"I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I can't imagine how scary it feels, but I'm gonna sit right here with you until those feelings pass, ok?\"\n\nOf course, no two attacks and no two sufferers are the same, so just try to listen to the person and figure out what they need most.\n\n\nRegarding depression, death, unknown circumstances, etc: There's a limited amount you could say to people facing these things. \"I'm so sorry. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you.\" is basically about all you can say. In general, I find physical acts to be a much better show of caring than conversation. \n\nDepending on relationships, this can be done a variety of ways. With close friends of mine I try to spend a little extra time with them, bring them their favorite food, do little bits of housework, hang around their place more often, or take them somewhere they enjoy if they're up for it. Some people just want human company, but others prefer to deal with their issues in private, so keep that in mind.\n\nWhen talking to people in these situations, wait for them to come to you. Make sure to tell them you are open to talk whenever they need, then wait for them to approach. Often they just want to feel *heard*. Don't offer advice or try to fix their problems. Just listen.\n\nLike another redditor said, you probably cannot fix whatever is causing these issues, but you can help make the rest of their life easier." ]
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[ "How do I confront someone about them not texting first/starting a convo without them using ''I didn't have time'' excuse ", "How do I confront someone about them not texting first/starting a convo without them using ''I didn't have time'' excuse ", "How do I confront someone about them not texting first/starting a convo without them using ''I didn't have time'' excuse ", "How do I confront someone about them not texting first/starting a convo without them using ''I didn't have time'' excuse ", "How do I confront someone about them not texting first/starting a convo without them using ''I didn't have time'' excuse ", "How do I confront someone about them not texting first/starting a convo without them using ''I didn't have time'' excuse ", "How do I confront someone about them not texting first/starting a convo without them using ''I didn't have time'' excuse " ]
[ "First of all I would consider whether you actually should even confront them. If theres a strong possibility they're just going to make excuses, do you really even want to be texting/friends with that person? ", "As a person who almost never starts convos, it's not that he can't find the time to send a single text, it's that he doesn't want to take the risk of a conversation blooming out of it because those are distracting and take up a lot of time. Texts are never a priority, they are the thing you send when your message either isn't time sensitive or doesn't require a response.\n\nConfronting someone for not making time for specifically you as often as you feel is necessary is a dick move. If you think it's a problem, have a dialogue, not a confrontation.", "Sorry, I'm not getting why they're obligated to text you first... Could you explain? Are you their parole officer? ", "Not really need to confront her...She's not into you that's it.\n\nWhen a girl tell u \" I like you BUT <insert excuse>\" in ur case you're too young that just mean \" I don't like you\"", "If you feel you have to confront them in order for them to be active in your life then you should probably say that.\n\nIf they don't make a change after being told exactly how you feel....... They obviously don't hold the same value of the relationship you do.", "From the comments and post you seem too emotionally butthurt at the moment, so 1) wait a bit before saying anything and 2) just carry out the conversation in the tone of \"hey what's up? Are you alright? If nothing's wrong then I get it I can take a hint, but I wanted to make sure you're okay.\"", "Give an example on when he/she can have a time to text. Like when they're in the bathroom pooping (everyone gets bored and read/text/play angry bird during that time). To stop them from saying those excuses, call em out before they do say it and tell them that example and whatever else ideas you got. If your argument is sound, how can they refute?" ]
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[ "How best to arrange the furniture in a house? Soon, I will move out of my student apartment and when I move in to my new house, I'd like optimize the arrangement of my furniture and the overall functionality of my living space. Of course, much depends on the particular space you have, but are there some great rule-of-thumb or other tips to keep in mind when you furnish a house? \n\nTo give one quite obvious example I could come up with: my parents set up the dining table not anywhere near the kitchen, so laying and clearing the table before and after dinner always took quite some trips to the kitchen and back again. So instead I am planning to move the dining area near or in the kitchen, and perhaps even buy a table with drawers, in which I will keep the cutlery and such.\n\nCan you provide some other furnishing tips that might not seem obvious, but that could really improve on your daily routines?", "How best to arrange the furniture in a house? Soon, I will move out of my student apartment and when I move in to my new house, I'd like optimize the arrangement of my furniture and the overall functionality of my living space. Of course, much depends on the particular space you have, but are there some great rule-of-thumb or other tips to keep in mind when you furnish a house? \n\nTo give one quite obvious example I could come up with: my parents set up the dining table not anywhere near the kitchen, so laying and clearing the table before and after dinner always took quite some trips to the kitchen and back again. So instead I am planning to move the dining area near or in the kitchen, and perhaps even buy a table with drawers, in which I will keep the cutlery and such.\n\nCan you provide some other furnishing tips that might not seem obvious, but that could really improve on your daily routines?" ]
[ "I set up my house using basic feng shui and it \"flows\" really well. Put things where they make the most sense. Your tv in front of the cable jack so there aren't cords showing everywhere, your sofa in front of the tv so you don't have to look sideways, your cooking implements in the drawer to the right of the stove (if you're right handed) so you can access them easily, etc. In the bedroom, put your bed along the longest wall and you should always be facing the door when sitting in your bed. Also, your furniture should always be in scale with your space. ", "my wife and i have found that the best way to arrange is to constantly change things until perfection is achieved. it took us only 3 months in our current townhome. 2 weeks in the apt before that.\nmaybe post a pic of your room and furniture so we can all have a stab at it?" ]
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[ "How do I make myself standout in a group interview. I have a virtual group interview and looking for advice on how to prepare. I’m younger and starting my career so I have only done a handful of professional interviews and this is my first group interview. Any tips to get the job?", "How do I make myself standout in a group interview. I have a virtual group interview and looking for advice on how to prepare. I’m younger and starting my career so I have only done a handful of professional interviews and this is my first group interview. Any tips to get the job?", "How do I make myself standout in a group interview. I have a virtual group interview and looking for advice on how to prepare. I’m younger and starting my career so I have only done a handful of professional interviews and this is my first group interview. Any tips to get the job?", "How do I make myself standout in a group interview. I have a virtual group interview and looking for advice on how to prepare. I’m younger and starting my career so I have only done a handful of professional interviews and this is my first group interview. Any tips to get the job?", "How do I make myself standout in a group interview. I have a virtual group interview and looking for advice on how to prepare. I’m younger and starting my career so I have only done a handful of professional interviews and this is my first group interview. Any tips to get the job?" ]
[ "Take the lead. From my experience the person who shows the most leadership skills in the group interview gets the job. Unless management is the jealous, insecure type it should work.", "Be genuine. Don't be scared to say something derogatory about yourself. \n\nWhen considering an employee in the past I have asked them what their biggest derailers/weaknesses are, people that say \"oh people tell me I try too hard\" \"I care too much\" they are trying to praise themselves. Someone really stands out to me when they say stuff that's more genuine. \n\nAnother thing would be how you answer questions. Don't say too much more than you have to. People like to spend a long time talking about all of their achievements at every place ever. That's what resumes are for, and an interview is not you reading them your resume, it's for answering basic questions it doesn't cover and getting to know you and how you'll fit into the community of that job. \n\nAll of this is just my opinion though. I had only been interviewing and hiring and stuff for about 3 years so it's possible I'm a noob still, this is just stuff that annoyed me.", "Dont take a job that needs to interview multiple candidates at the same time. The job is low salary or commission-only, and the reason they need to interview 5 people in an hour is because 80% of the new hires quit before their 1-year anniversary.", "I've never heard of a group interview. I honestly wouldn't do the interview. Are you supposed to compete with other people while in the interview, are you to demonstrate calm and cool while under stress? In my head, standing out means answering questions with thoughtful, out-of-the-box answers...showing that your thinking of the big picture and not just immediate needs... and offer examples of past experiences that proved successful in attaining specific goals for your own and the companies growth. Basically you want to demonstrate that you are more valuable, knowledgeable, and likeable than your counterparts. The likeable part can be important depending on the company and its leadership style. Some just want likeable people on their staff since most can be trained.", "I dont have experience with this, so im just thinking of somethong random. But you can wear something that makes you memerable. Like an orange tie or something" ]
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[ "Essential Items to keep in your car at all times Here are a few that I've been told:\n\n-Water bottles\n\n-A change of clothes \n\n-Emergency kit\n\n-Basic auto tools\n\nIf there are any others, please let me know!", "Essential Items to keep in your car at all times Here are a few that I've been told:\n\n-Water bottles\n\n-A change of clothes \n\n-Emergency kit\n\n-Basic auto tools\n\nIf there are any others, please let me know!", "Essential Items to keep in your car at all times Here are a few that I've been told:\n\n-Water bottles\n\n-A change of clothes \n\n-Emergency kit\n\n-Basic auto tools\n\nIf there are any others, please let me know!", "Essential Items to keep in your car at all times Here are a few that I've been told:\n\n-Water bottles\n\n-A change of clothes \n\n-Emergency kit\n\n-Basic auto tools\n\nIf there are any others, please let me know!", "Essential Items to keep in your car at all times Here are a few that I've been told:\n\n-Water bottles\n\n-A change of clothes \n\n-Emergency kit\n\n-Basic auto tools\n\nIf there are any others, please let me know!", "Essential Items to keep in your car at all times Here are a few that I've been told:\n\n-Water bottles\n\n-A change of clothes \n\n-Emergency kit\n\n-Basic auto tools\n\nIf there are any others, please let me know!" ]
[ "Depends on where you live.\n\nScrewdriver with multiple bits\nFlashlight (with batteries not inserted yet, could drain or corrode)\nMultitool\nWork gloves\nJumper cables (the longer the better)\nFirst aid kit\nEmergency blanket (cold weather)\nSnow removal tool (cold weather)\nWindshield shade (hot weather)\nSmall pillow\nCanned water (heat can cause plastics to leech and plastic has a shelf life)\nTire pressure gauge\n12V air compressor if your tires are leaky\nNapkins\n12V USB charger\nPhone charging cable\nSpare fuses (if your car blows them)\nSpare headlights if you feel like it\nRoad flares\nReflective vest", "Wool blanket, a really good knife, Glass break/seatbelt cutter tool, A screwdriver (multiple bits), Firestarter, a can or two of water, a [lifestraw](http://www.amazon.com/LifeStraw-LSPHF017-Personal-Water-Filter/dp/B006QF3TW4/ref=sr_1_1/191-6556453-8661622?ie=UTF8&qid=1460042769&sr=8-1&keywords=lifestraw+filter), Jumper Cables, Flashlight and batteries (separate), I even keep a pack of MRE in there lol", "I keep a box of heavy duty trash bags in my trunk. You can use them for food or water storage in an emergency, or you can just use them as a rain poncho or something.", "We bought a package of wrenches for the Toyota from Walmart, and not a single one worked. Foreign car = metric wrenches. Make sure the tools you keep in the car are actually useful. ", "Make sure 'underwear' is part of 'a change of clothes.\n\nPaper towel and baby wipes (they are not interchangeable) as well.\n\nA paperback book to kill time.", "A full change of clothes (Jacket, tee shirt, pants, underwear, socks and shoes if you can)\nJumper cables (make sure that they still work periodically)\nSpare water and a bit of long lasting food (dual purpose, good if you're stranded and can be nice for the homeless)\nSome form of self defense item. These can be tricky because you always want to stay legal. My state doesn't allow pocket knives bigger than about five inches to be stored in a vehicle. These can also have built in window breakers/seat belt cutters depending on model. I also keep a tire knocker tucked right below the left side of my seat (a crude wood club) in case anyone were to ever approach my window shadily.\nMight be useless, but you never know." ]
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[ "tips to focus on school work Its summer break for me but i signed up for an online class to di more advanced classes next tear and im noticing im not focusing a lot so any tips", "tips to focus on school work Its summer break for me but i signed up for an online class to di more advanced classes next tear and im noticing im not focusing a lot so any tips", "tips to focus on school work Its summer break for me but i signed up for an online class to di more advanced classes next tear and im noticing im not focusing a lot so any tips", "tips to focus on school work Its summer break for me but i signed up for an online class to di more advanced classes next tear and im noticing im not focusing a lot so any tips" ]
[ "You might plan to give yourself a little treat, but only after you study (like a snack of something you really like that you usually don't splurge on) :)", "What will work really depends on you. Some basic good tips: make sure you have a dedicated study space that's practical and uncluttered. Have a set schedule to study. Some people work best with 15-30 min of study then 5-10 min break, some people find music helpful. Others find friends to study with helpful.", "I'm forcing myself to take notes (usually in OneNote, but do what works for you). This way, I stay focused on the class, plus I can look up everything I learned in case I ever forget.", "I have learned that, - “Fixing purpose if more important than fixing focus. If your purpose is fixed, where can your focus go?”\n\nSo your lack of focus implies lack of clarity behind why you took the course. Being in sync with the ‘why’ would automatically enable unwavering focus." ]
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[ "cleaning the very tight space between the oven/stove and the cupboard/counter next to it, without removing the oven. I live in an apartment and I do occasionally drop bits of food down there, but the space is so tight I can't think of a proper (homemade?) tool to use and I can't pull the whole oven out. I'm afraid of what I might find but I'm also concerned about rotting food in my kitchen. \n\nHas anybody come up with a good trick for this?", "cleaning the very tight space between the oven/stove and the cupboard/counter next to it, without removing the oven. I live in an apartment and I do occasionally drop bits of food down there, but the space is so tight I can't think of a proper (homemade?) tool to use and I can't pull the whole oven out. I'm afraid of what I might find but I'm also concerned about rotting food in my kitchen. \n\nHas anybody come up with a good trick for this?", "cleaning the very tight space between the oven/stove and the cupboard/counter next to it, without removing the oven. I live in an apartment and I do occasionally drop bits of food down there, but the space is so tight I can't think of a proper (homemade?) tool to use and I can't pull the whole oven out. I'm afraid of what I might find but I'm also concerned about rotting food in my kitchen. \n\nHas anybody come up with a good trick for this?", "cleaning the very tight space between the oven/stove and the cupboard/counter next to it, without removing the oven. I live in an apartment and I do occasionally drop bits of food down there, but the space is so tight I can't think of a proper (homemade?) tool to use and I can't pull the whole oven out. I'm afraid of what I might find but I'm also concerned about rotting food in my kitchen. \n\nHas anybody come up with a good trick for this?", "cleaning the very tight space between the oven/stove and the cupboard/counter next to it, without removing the oven. I live in an apartment and I do occasionally drop bits of food down there, but the space is so tight I can't think of a proper (homemade?) tool to use and I can't pull the whole oven out. I'm afraid of what I might find but I'm also concerned about rotting food in my kitchen. \n\nHas anybody come up with a good trick for this?", "cleaning the very tight space between the oven/stove and the cupboard/counter next to it, without removing the oven. I live in an apartment and I do occasionally drop bits of food down there, but the space is so tight I can't think of a proper (homemade?) tool to use and I can't pull the whole oven out. I'm afraid of what I might find but I'm also concerned about rotting food in my kitchen. \n\nHas anybody come up with a good trick for this?", "cleaning the very tight space between the oven/stove and the cupboard/counter next to it, without removing the oven. I live in an apartment and I do occasionally drop bits of food down there, but the space is so tight I can't think of a proper (homemade?) tool to use and I can't pull the whole oven out. I'm afraid of what I might find but I'm also concerned about rotting food in my kitchen. \n\nHas anybody come up with a good trick for this?" ]
[ "If you rent, and are physically unable to move your appliances, then you should ask the owner or, if available, the maintenance staff to move your fridge and stove at least once a month for proper cleaning. You should be able to clean those areas thoroughly to avoid any possible infestation / mold issues.\n\nLet the owner of the unit provide this service to prevent their unit from being damaged.", "I used to wrap a swiffer (well, generic brand) cloth wrapped around a broom handle.... Then my husband (who I should recognize as a genius) bought a piece of rubber weather stripping (for under doors) and pushed it in the space to prevent anything falling down.\n\n", "See if the top section (where your stove eyes are) lifts up. Mine does and it allows me to get a decent cleaning without heavy moving.", "If you're renting have them pull it out and clean it then caulk seal it so you don't have to worry about it. If they need to move it later they can easily cut the caulk seal.", "Does your vacuum have a hose thingy on it? If you look on the manufacturer's website, they might have crevice tool attachment, something that looks like [this](http://www.amazon.com/Flexible-Crevice-Tool-Vacuum-Hoses/dp/B0017PHQ6S). Mine is really skinny and fits into that space.\n\nThey're also useful for: the space between the carpet and the baseboard that is always full of cat hair, the well where the dryer lint trap sits, corners of dirty windowsills, tight spaces in your car (if you use the vacuum hose to do the carpets it.) ", "Look for a metal 3 foot ruler. They are thin and rigid.\n\nPut a piece,of old cloth around it, maybe with a few staples to secure it", "Depends on the space you have to work with. A ruler wrapped in a cloth, maybe a metal hanger unfolded (can bend it double for extra strength) again wrapped in something cleaning related..." ]
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[ "How to remove stains from clothes when out of the house? As the title states, I would like to find a way to remove stains from clothes (relatively fresh ones) while out of the house without access to detergent and the likes.", "How to remove stains from clothes when out of the house? As the title states, I would like to find a way to remove stains from clothes (relatively fresh ones) while out of the house without access to detergent and the likes.", "How to remove stains from clothes when out of the house? As the title states, I would like to find a way to remove stains from clothes (relatively fresh ones) while out of the house without access to detergent and the likes.", "How to remove stains from clothes when out of the house? As the title states, I would like to find a way to remove stains from clothes (relatively fresh ones) while out of the house without access to detergent and the likes.", "How to remove stains from clothes when out of the house? As the title states, I would like to find a way to remove stains from clothes (relatively fresh ones) while out of the house without access to detergent and the likes.", "How to remove stains from clothes when out of the house? As the title states, I would like to find a way to remove stains from clothes (relatively fresh ones) while out of the house without access to detergent and the likes.", "How to remove stains from clothes when out of the house? As the title states, I would like to find a way to remove stains from clothes (relatively fresh ones) while out of the house without access to detergent and the likes.", "How to remove stains from clothes when out of the house? As the title states, I would like to find a way to remove stains from clothes (relatively fresh ones) while out of the house without access to detergent and the likes." ]
[ "Peroxide is wonderful.\n\nComes in a very small plastic bottle too.\n\nNo smell.\n\nWorks wonders.\n\nHad another thought. You can get one of those travel plastic small bottles too and pour some peroxide in it.", "Ok, dry cleaner here. What's the stain? Different stains different solutions. Water and hand soap takes out a lot of surface none colored stains. Red wine on white? How old? Brand new look above of its dried well that's a problem. Mustard that gotten into the fabric you're fucked. Blot stains don't rub that just pushes it into the fabric. Getting out stains is a chemistry class. Stain type, fabric type, time. \nHere's a great stain link. \nhttp://web.extension.illinois.edu/stain/index.cfm", "Wet Ones will do the trick for 99% of stains that you're going to be able to get out easily, especially if you hit them with a wipe fast. They work so well they're the de facto industry standard for cinematic costumers.", "Those little bottles of hand sanitising gel work great to get stains out. I managed to get tree sap out of a jacket using it, when a dry cleaner failed to do so. ", "If there is a bathroom near you using the hand soap and then running water from the inside of the garment to the outside can push the stain out.\n\nYou want to put the soap *behind* the stain on the inside so you don't shove the staining material further in.\n\nAnother easier option is probably carrying a Tide Pen everywhere but they do dry out so you have to replace them. ", "If it's greasy I just use some dish soap and water. I've used bathroom hand soap before sure u have a wet spot but I never had a stain set. If ink purel works or hairspray. ", "Food and blood stains can be removed while they're fresh if you're willing to spend 15 minutes with a sink, hand soap and towels. \n\nRemove the mess immediately, blot well, then soak with lukewarm soapy water. It's better to prevent the stain from setting than to wait hours and use the \"correct\" product.\n\nYour mileage may vary, and for special stains such as tar, ink, or chemicals, google it immediately.", "Baby wipes. Buy yourself the small packs and carry them in your car, backpack, and/or purse. I learned this from my aunt and it really works. I've cleaned ketchup from my clothes and even coffee from my car seat. You'll have a wet spot for a bit but after it dries it's like nothing happened. " ]
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[ "How to remember people's names especially girl's names As a guy, I could meet another guy and we introduce ourselves, but a second later I have no idea what the guy's name is. It just flies out of my brain.\n\nWhen I meet girls, their names stay longer in my brain, maybe 1 min. But if we start talking about different subjects, there's 99% chance that I won't remember her name at the end of our conversation. With girls it is especially difficult, because if I go out to a party/bar/club I meet a lot of them and they all have similar names like Sara, Lisa, Olivia, etc. They all sound very similar to me.\n\nWhat can I do to remember people's names?", "How to remember people's names especially girl's names As a guy, I could meet another guy and we introduce ourselves, but a second later I have no idea what the guy's name is. It just flies out of my brain.\n\nWhen I meet girls, their names stay longer in my brain, maybe 1 min. But if we start talking about different subjects, there's 99% chance that I won't remember her name at the end of our conversation. With girls it is especially difficult, because if I go out to a party/bar/club I meet a lot of them and they all have similar names like Sara, Lisa, Olivia, etc. They all sound very similar to me.\n\nWhat can I do to remember people's names?", "How to remember people's names especially girl's names As a guy, I could meet another guy and we introduce ourselves, but a second later I have no idea what the guy's name is. It just flies out of my brain.\n\nWhen I meet girls, their names stay longer in my brain, maybe 1 min. But if we start talking about different subjects, there's 99% chance that I won't remember her name at the end of our conversation. With girls it is especially difficult, because if I go out to a party/bar/club I meet a lot of them and they all have similar names like Sara, Lisa, Olivia, etc. They all sound very similar to me.\n\nWhat can I do to remember people's names?", "How to remember people's names especially girl's names As a guy, I could meet another guy and we introduce ourselves, but a second later I have no idea what the guy's name is. It just flies out of my brain.\n\nWhen I meet girls, their names stay longer in my brain, maybe 1 min. But if we start talking about different subjects, there's 99% chance that I won't remember her name at the end of our conversation. With girls it is especially difficult, because if I go out to a party/bar/club I meet a lot of them and they all have similar names like Sara, Lisa, Olivia, etc. They all sound very similar to me.\n\nWhat can I do to remember people's names?", "How to remember people's names especially girl's names As a guy, I could meet another guy and we introduce ourselves, but a second later I have no idea what the guy's name is. It just flies out of my brain.\n\nWhen I meet girls, their names stay longer in my brain, maybe 1 min. But if we start talking about different subjects, there's 99% chance that I won't remember her name at the end of our conversation. With girls it is especially difficult, because if I go out to a party/bar/club I meet a lot of them and they all have similar names like Sara, Lisa, Olivia, etc. They all sound very similar to me.\n\nWhat can I do to remember people's names?", "How to remember people's names especially girl's names As a guy, I could meet another guy and we introduce ourselves, but a second later I have no idea what the guy's name is. It just flies out of my brain.\n\nWhen I meet girls, their names stay longer in my brain, maybe 1 min. But if we start talking about different subjects, there's 99% chance that I won't remember her name at the end of our conversation. With girls it is especially difficult, because if I go out to a party/bar/club I meet a lot of them and they all have similar names like Sara, Lisa, Olivia, etc. They all sound very similar to me.\n\nWhat can I do to remember people's names?", "How to remember people's names especially girl's names As a guy, I could meet another guy and we introduce ourselves, but a second later I have no idea what the guy's name is. It just flies out of my brain.\n\nWhen I meet girls, their names stay longer in my brain, maybe 1 min. But if we start talking about different subjects, there's 99% chance that I won't remember her name at the end of our conversation. With girls it is especially difficult, because if I go out to a party/bar/club I meet a lot of them and they all have similar names like Sara, Lisa, Olivia, etc. They all sound very similar to me.\n\nWhat can I do to remember people's names?" ]
[ "Ask for their name, and when they tell you, repeat it.\n\n\"What's your name?\"\n\n\"John\"\n\n\"John? Ok, John\"\n\nAnd say it with every question you make, as in:\n\n\"So what's your favorite food, John?\"", "Write it down with some identifying information. These days, that usually means a note in a note app on your phone. Pretend that you got a text from your mom or something.\n\nFor advanced work, get a proper CRM.", "Theres this trick to remembering things, i saw from a TED Talk\n\nhttps://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9ebJlcZMx3c\n\nMy interpretaion of it is \n\nMake weird/fun connections\n", "Make a connection. If the person has the same name as a celebrity, then picture them in that movie. If their name sounds a bit like something familiar, picture them interacting with that thing. \n\ni have the same issue. I don't remember names, even five minutes after I've introduced myself. If you don't remember, call them \"dude\" or \"bro\", and maybe ask for a phone number. When somebody puts their name in text, it makes it easier.", "If you forget someone's name, it is infinitely less embarrassing just saying so politely than pretending you know it and then realising much later down the line.", "You actually have to care about what they are saying and listen instead of thinking about what you are going to say next. This made a huge differance for me. ", "Try this: hey what was your mame again?\nHe or she will reply: jane\nYou: oh no, your last name\n\nThey will think you forgot the last name" ]
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[ "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help.", "How do I obliterate wasps? I'm not talking the \"safe, enviromentally friendly, non-toxic\" approach. I'm normally careful about anything harmful and go for non-toxic whenever I can. This is the one exception. \n\nI hate wasps. I probably hate them more than anything else on the planet. I begged my apartment management to deal with a wasp nest the same day because it was outside my door and it doubled in size in 12 hours. Unfortunately, a wasp is back already (yeah I know it's one but fuck that). When I walk to and from my door, it opens its wings like it's being aggressive. Call me a coward, I don't care. Fuck wasps.\n\nI need the orbital laser bombardment option. The Tsar-bomb option. The 100+ megaton cluster nuke option. Whatever works best. If that's natural 100%, fine. I don't want to be high maintenance and keep calling my apartment management for wasps. If it's releasing (non-fatal to humans) spiders near my entryway, great! I love spiders.\n\nPlease help." ]
[ "Raid Wasp and Hornet spray. Shoots about 14' and kills those evil fuckers immediately. Had to go nuclear last weekend when they took over my patio umbrella. Nope, not while I'm paying the mortgage. ", "Do what my friends and I did. Get your Dungeons and Dragons group to armor up with sweaters and coats, get brooms. a can of axe and a lighter and shoes and go collect your experience points. \n\nWar. War never changes. ", "I say go with some raid spray wait until dusk or full on night time when wasp are there but not active (sleeping) and spray them. ", "I had a big (football sized) wasp nest in one of my hedges. So I pulled my car nearby and used a garden shovel to whack it open using the shovel edge. Then I dropped the shovel and jumped into my car as they swarmed all over. I drove off and came back like an hour later when they had calmed-down, pulled my car up again, lit a M-80 and dropped it into the hole from the shovel and again jumped into my car. The nest blew apart into paper mache and not-so-many wasps swarmed around. When I returned after like another hour they were almost all gone and even the few stragglers left shortly after. Good riddance / ", "You can use Smoke to keep them away and calm so they dont bite you, Also after breaking the nest clean that place with kerosene .\n\n\nsource: thats what we do here ", "Looks like the exterminators (or maintenance) sprayed the tiny nest down, but left it on the ground and I just noticed it. There was one wasp hanging around and is now dead by Raid. It took a few sprays and a while for it to die. Would the Bengal have been a better choice? ", "Just get the wasp spray from the store. You can hit it from a long way away and I've almost never had wasps come back the same year.", "Jokingly? Hairspray and a lighter. Realisticly a flamethrower. Now all jokes aside i have used small portions of fire crackers along with a wasp killing foam that covers those fucks", "If this nest is hanging from a tree or something, consider securing it and cutting it down. (secure so it doesn't fall). Then just move it somewhere and dump it. \n\nThey won't do anything if they can continue living in their nest.\n\nIf that's not possible, get some Raid spray and close the door immediately after. You can spray from 8 meters and it'll work so if it's close to your door you can just give it a good spray and lock up for an hour or two.\n\nRaid slowly kills them, and makes them drowsy, sluggish, whatever while they're dying. The wasps that aren't in the nest at that time won't be stupid enough to enter the nest, though, so you'll probably want to do it at night, and you may have to repeat it one or two times.\n\nThen you just burn it cut it or gift it to someone you hate.", "I had virtually the same experience, but with two nests on our balcony. Maintenance took them down, but this one wasp is very determined to start the nests over.\n\nI just splash water on it, and they won't come back to the same spot. They usually build their nests where rain can't get to them.\n\nMaybe ask maintenance to find the main nest. Especially if there's a lot of trees in your area.\n", "Here you go\n\nhttp://m.harborfreight.com/propane-torch-with-push-button-igniter-91037.html?utm_referrer=direct%2Fnot%20provided\n\nhttps://youtu.be/qGPEG_xmjsw", "Don't let them take over, for sure, and if they strike you then 'knock em out'\n\nToo many people, I think, remove creatures which may be helpful. Like snakes that eat rodents, and possums that eat ticks.", "Common really?\nAre you allergic?\nIf not, consider that wasps are much much smaller than you, and they can do some good for the world in terms of pollination.\nDon't freak out just because they exist near you.\n* if you are allergic, or they start actually attaching, that would be different. Then retaliate.\n" ]
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[ "Tips for a first time hiring manager soon to be leading interviews? I've participated in panel interviews before, but I've only become a supervisor a few months ago and pretty much immediately one of my two employees got a promotion, so we've had the position posted for a few weeks and will begin interviewing soon. \n\nIt will start with 10-12 half-hour phone screens with just myself, then panel interviews with 4-6 candidates and a panel of 4, and a second round of panel interviews with 2-3 candidates and a panel of 4 (different folks except me).\n\nI've been at the organization for almost 10 years and started in a role pretty much the same as what we're hiring for, so I know the org and the role with confidence, but I'm nervous about being the \"host\" of the interviews. Hoping not to be thrown by the candidates' questions, unintentionally represent myself/the company poorly, etc.", "Tips for a first time hiring manager soon to be leading interviews? I've participated in panel interviews before, but I've only become a supervisor a few months ago and pretty much immediately one of my two employees got a promotion, so we've had the position posted for a few weeks and will begin interviewing soon. \n\nIt will start with 10-12 half-hour phone screens with just myself, then panel interviews with 4-6 candidates and a panel of 4, and a second round of panel interviews with 2-3 candidates and a panel of 4 (different folks except me).\n\nI've been at the organization for almost 10 years and started in a role pretty much the same as what we're hiring for, so I know the org and the role with confidence, but I'm nervous about being the \"host\" of the interviews. Hoping not to be thrown by the candidates' questions, unintentionally represent myself/the company poorly, etc.", "Tips for a first time hiring manager soon to be leading interviews? I've participated in panel interviews before, but I've only become a supervisor a few months ago and pretty much immediately one of my two employees got a promotion, so we've had the position posted for a few weeks and will begin interviewing soon. \n\nIt will start with 10-12 half-hour phone screens with just myself, then panel interviews with 4-6 candidates and a panel of 4, and a second round of panel interviews with 2-3 candidates and a panel of 4 (different folks except me).\n\nI've been at the organization for almost 10 years and started in a role pretty much the same as what we're hiring for, so I know the org and the role with confidence, but I'm nervous about being the \"host\" of the interviews. Hoping not to be thrown by the candidates' questions, unintentionally represent myself/the company poorly, etc.", "Tips for a first time hiring manager soon to be leading interviews? I've participated in panel interviews before, but I've only become a supervisor a few months ago and pretty much immediately one of my two employees got a promotion, so we've had the position posted for a few weeks and will begin interviewing soon. \n\nIt will start with 10-12 half-hour phone screens with just myself, then panel interviews with 4-6 candidates and a panel of 4, and a second round of panel interviews with 2-3 candidates and a panel of 4 (different folks except me).\n\nI've been at the organization for almost 10 years and started in a role pretty much the same as what we're hiring for, so I know the org and the role with confidence, but I'm nervous about being the \"host\" of the interviews. Hoping not to be thrown by the candidates' questions, unintentionally represent myself/the company poorly, etc." ]
[ "I've hired hundreds of people directly in my day and have run HR and many other depts... here are some thoughts....\n\nPanels of four are too big IMO. No one has time to get enough meaningful questions in because everyone has to take a turn and it's overly intimidating to the candidate. The questions also come across as a bit scattered. Try to shrink group size or do say three shorter interviews with two people each instead of two longer interviews with four people each. \n\nSend the candidate information ahead of time on who they'll be meeting with after the phone screen so they can do a little prep work on their own and ask smarter questions knowing who's in the room.\n\nIn the phone screen you want to start with explaining what the company does for two reasons. The first being it gives you a chance to say hey before I talk about what we do, tell me what you've learned so far about the organization so I don't spend time telling you something you already know. That will tell you how serious the candidate wants the job based on how much research they did ahead of time. But even with research the candidate may not fully understand what the company does, and by better explaining what the company does, it will help the candidate provide better answers that relate to what the company does/needs.\n\nAlways follow up with candidates who you don't progress with, it leaves a negative flavor with them about you and your company if you just ghost them. Ideally that message comes from you explaining why they didn't get the role, not some boilerplate HR message. But be careful what you say because saying the wrong thing can get you in trouble for discrimination hiring practices.\n\nDon't just look for someone that can do the job technically, you need to ask questions that give you comfort they are a culture fit. That is just as important if not more.\n\nGain comfort on why they most recently left prior roles, it may give you insight as to problems they've had as an employee which could be a red flag.\n\nDon't ask questions like how many kids they have, what race they are, etc or anything that could be protected by law. If people want to bring up things about their personal life then fine you don't be the initiator. It is okay to ask them what they like to do for fun for example.\n\nIf they have to come to an office make sure they understand how often and what the rules are especially with respect to covid safety if that is an issue at your office. Some companies require vaccinations or other safety measures in the office. Make sure the candidate is comfortable with all these things before getting to the next stage. Also get clarity how far they live from the office and whether the commute is okay. Often times people desperate for work will mention they don't mind a one-hour or more commute, but in reality it really eats away over time and can make it harder to retain a candidate.\n\nHave a list of questions ready to go for yourself and have them in a flow that make sense order wise. Also share the candidates answers to your initial screening questions with the next group of interviewees so that way they don't ask the same exact questions over again that you already have the answers to. That time could have been used to get new information from unique questions.\n\nI also like to ask what a person's career goals are in the short-term and then in the next five years long-term so I can get a sense whether someone has a passion to grow their career or is just looking for a paycheck.\n\nI also like to ask as real of an example as I can about a situation that happened at the company... it can be a fake situation... just to see how a candidate would handle it. It'll give you insight as to how their brain works and creativity as well as actual experience gained that would help them solve.\n\nBe sure to leave time for them to ask some questions at the end but also encourage them at the very beginning to ask questions in the flow of the interview, and encourage a conversational discussion.", "do you have HR/talent do the first round to confirm work eligibility/salary/etc? the below is assuming that -\n\nBreak down the 30 minute call into chunks:\n\n5 min intro/ice breaker + set an agenda (would love to learn why you're interested, I have a few questions to run through, and then will slot out time for your questions for me)\n\n5 min (max) for their \"why they're interested\"\n\n10-15 min for your questions (depends on leveling)\n\n5-10 min for their questions (if no HR, then also confirm their work eligibility and ensure their salary expectations are aligned)\n\nthen right at the 29 min mark, thank them for their time and let them know a realistic timeline to hear back (1 week is standard, but sooner the better)\njust know you're \"the host\" and drive the chat, if you ever feel like things are going left field, get things back on to schedule:) and also don't make promises on the call, whether it's information gathering or ensuring they're moving forward, or anything that puts work on your end, it's just bad form and you have a volume of calls to go through!", "You’ll be fine, just have a plan and a structure to the interviews and communicate it to the panel members clearly before hand. If you’re really nervous you could do a rehearsal first.\n\nMake sure you have a clear understanding of the position so you can answer their questions and just have some fun with it. I like to throw in a couple of attempts at humour if possible to see how people respond, usually a good indication for cultural fit.", "Be aware of questions or conversations that are typically benign banter. For example: Discussing children and family. \nWhere are you from originally ? \nDiscussing children. \nAnything discussed that could be construed as gathering information to potentially base your decision on other than qualifications. \n\nTry to be aware of your own biases and prejudgements. There are online assessments that are quite good to help identify some of them." ]
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[ "Trouble taking deep breaths for years on and off So I’ve had this ongoing issue for years where I have trouble taking deep breaths.\n\nI’ve been to a pulmonologist, Gastro, neurologist, cardiologist, etc. I’ve had chest X-rays, cat scans (very recently), endoscopies, colonoscopies, etc.\n\nThe only thing I know for sure is wrong with me is that I have a hiatal hernia.\n\nThe last couple of days in NY, the weather had been nice and I noticed the issue starting to subside a bit, I was also taking nexium to see if it was gastric related. Simultaneously my nexium ran out, the weather is shit, and I did a chest workout last night. Today I wake up and the issue is back to where it was.\n\nThe weird thing is that when I lay down I don’t even notice the issue. I can lay in bed after waking up for 2 hours and the issue doesn’t happen at all, the moment I stand up, it starts.\n\nIt feels like it’s something physical blocking my chest from expanding. I need to almost yawn or wait for the right moment and then boom my chest expands.\n\nSo to me I’m starting to think a few things, it’s something workout related, allergy related, or something with this hiatal hernia. Can someone please tell me they have experienced this before and know what the fuck I am talking about? My life is so much better without this issue.", "Trouble taking deep breaths for years on and off So I’ve had this ongoing issue for years where I have trouble taking deep breaths.\n\nI’ve been to a pulmonologist, Gastro, neurologist, cardiologist, etc. I’ve had chest X-rays, cat scans (very recently), endoscopies, colonoscopies, etc.\n\nThe only thing I know for sure is wrong with me is that I have a hiatal hernia.\n\nThe last couple of days in NY, the weather had been nice and I noticed the issue starting to subside a bit, I was also taking nexium to see if it was gastric related. Simultaneously my nexium ran out, the weather is shit, and I did a chest workout last night. Today I wake up and the issue is back to where it was.\n\nThe weird thing is that when I lay down I don’t even notice the issue. I can lay in bed after waking up for 2 hours and the issue doesn’t happen at all, the moment I stand up, it starts.\n\nIt feels like it’s something physical blocking my chest from expanding. I need to almost yawn or wait for the right moment and then boom my chest expands.\n\nSo to me I’m starting to think a few things, it’s something workout related, allergy related, or something with this hiatal hernia. Can someone please tell me they have experienced this before and know what the fuck I am talking about? My life is so much better without this issue.", "Trouble taking deep breaths for years on and off So I’ve had this ongoing issue for years where I have trouble taking deep breaths.\n\nI’ve been to a pulmonologist, Gastro, neurologist, cardiologist, etc. I’ve had chest X-rays, cat scans (very recently), endoscopies, colonoscopies, etc.\n\nThe only thing I know for sure is wrong with me is that I have a hiatal hernia.\n\nThe last couple of days in NY, the weather had been nice and I noticed the issue starting to subside a bit, I was also taking nexium to see if it was gastric related. Simultaneously my nexium ran out, the weather is shit, and I did a chest workout last night. Today I wake up and the issue is back to where it was.\n\nThe weird thing is that when I lay down I don’t even notice the issue. I can lay in bed after waking up for 2 hours and the issue doesn’t happen at all, the moment I stand up, it starts.\n\nIt feels like it’s something physical blocking my chest from expanding. I need to almost yawn or wait for the right moment and then boom my chest expands.\n\nSo to me I’m starting to think a few things, it’s something workout related, allergy related, or something with this hiatal hernia. Can someone please tell me they have experienced this before and know what the fuck I am talking about? My life is so much better without this issue.", "Trouble taking deep breaths for years on and off So I’ve had this ongoing issue for years where I have trouble taking deep breaths.\n\nI’ve been to a pulmonologist, Gastro, neurologist, cardiologist, etc. I’ve had chest X-rays, cat scans (very recently), endoscopies, colonoscopies, etc.\n\nThe only thing I know for sure is wrong with me is that I have a hiatal hernia.\n\nThe last couple of days in NY, the weather had been nice and I noticed the issue starting to subside a bit, I was also taking nexium to see if it was gastric related. Simultaneously my nexium ran out, the weather is shit, and I did a chest workout last night. Today I wake up and the issue is back to where it was.\n\nThe weird thing is that when I lay down I don’t even notice the issue. I can lay in bed after waking up for 2 hours and the issue doesn’t happen at all, the moment I stand up, it starts.\n\nIt feels like it’s something physical blocking my chest from expanding. I need to almost yawn or wait for the right moment and then boom my chest expands.\n\nSo to me I’m starting to think a few things, it’s something workout related, allergy related, or something with this hiatal hernia. Can someone please tell me they have experienced this before and know what the fuck I am talking about? My life is so much better without this issue.", "Trouble taking deep breaths for years on and off So I’ve had this ongoing issue for years where I have trouble taking deep breaths.\n\nI’ve been to a pulmonologist, Gastro, neurologist, cardiologist, etc. I’ve had chest X-rays, cat scans (very recently), endoscopies, colonoscopies, etc.\n\nThe only thing I know for sure is wrong with me is that I have a hiatal hernia.\n\nThe last couple of days in NY, the weather had been nice and I noticed the issue starting to subside a bit, I was also taking nexium to see if it was gastric related. Simultaneously my nexium ran out, the weather is shit, and I did a chest workout last night. Today I wake up and the issue is back to where it was.\n\nThe weird thing is that when I lay down I don’t even notice the issue. I can lay in bed after waking up for 2 hours and the issue doesn’t happen at all, the moment I stand up, it starts.\n\nIt feels like it’s something physical blocking my chest from expanding. I need to almost yawn or wait for the right moment and then boom my chest expands.\n\nSo to me I’m starting to think a few things, it’s something workout related, allergy related, or something with this hiatal hernia. Can someone please tell me they have experienced this before and know what the fuck I am talking about? My life is so much better without this issue.", "Trouble taking deep breaths for years on and off So I’ve had this ongoing issue for years where I have trouble taking deep breaths.\n\nI’ve been to a pulmonologist, Gastro, neurologist, cardiologist, etc. I’ve had chest X-rays, cat scans (very recently), endoscopies, colonoscopies, etc.\n\nThe only thing I know for sure is wrong with me is that I have a hiatal hernia.\n\nThe last couple of days in NY, the weather had been nice and I noticed the issue starting to subside a bit, I was also taking nexium to see if it was gastric related. Simultaneously my nexium ran out, the weather is shit, and I did a chest workout last night. Today I wake up and the issue is back to where it was.\n\nThe weird thing is that when I lay down I don’t even notice the issue. I can lay in bed after waking up for 2 hours and the issue doesn’t happen at all, the moment I stand up, it starts.\n\nIt feels like it’s something physical blocking my chest from expanding. I need to almost yawn or wait for the right moment and then boom my chest expands.\n\nSo to me I’m starting to think a few things, it’s something workout related, allergy related, or something with this hiatal hernia. Can someone please tell me they have experienced this before and know what the fuck I am talking about? My life is so much better without this issue.", "Trouble taking deep breaths for years on and off So I’ve had this ongoing issue for years where I have trouble taking deep breaths.\n\nI’ve been to a pulmonologist, Gastro, neurologist, cardiologist, etc. I’ve had chest X-rays, cat scans (very recently), endoscopies, colonoscopies, etc.\n\nThe only thing I know for sure is wrong with me is that I have a hiatal hernia.\n\nThe last couple of days in NY, the weather had been nice and I noticed the issue starting to subside a bit, I was also taking nexium to see if it was gastric related. Simultaneously my nexium ran out, the weather is shit, and I did a chest workout last night. Today I wake up and the issue is back to where it was.\n\nThe weird thing is that when I lay down I don’t even notice the issue. I can lay in bed after waking up for 2 hours and the issue doesn’t happen at all, the moment I stand up, it starts.\n\nIt feels like it’s something physical blocking my chest from expanding. I need to almost yawn or wait for the right moment and then boom my chest expands.\n\nSo to me I’m starting to think a few things, it’s something workout related, allergy related, or something with this hiatal hernia. Can someone please tell me they have experienced this before and know what the fuck I am talking about? My life is so much better without this issue." ]
[ "You aren't crazy, I experience the same thing. I cannot take a deep breath most of the time, and I struggle to inhale several times until finally able to expand usually from a yawn. Most of the time even when I do, there is some pain near the top of my lungs and expanding clicking in my chest, but often this is still a relief as I don't feel like I am suffocating.\n\nI do not know the cause. I hope you find out why. (I dont take nexium.)", "This won't address your problem directly but look into abdominal breathing that's used in Buddhist or Taoist m", "I understand the issue, not being able to breathe properly is pretty bad, though I am not sure if I can help. I would suggest continuing consulting professionals.", "Did the nexium seem to make a difference? Do you notice a difference when you eat? Is it worse or better at night or during the day? \n\nAny stressors you can think of? \nLocal humidity spikes? \nMore info might help pinpoint the problem. ", "Try asthma medication. \n\nThere's several allergic reactions, and of course mild asthma itself, which can make it feel like you can't breath in deeply, that respond well to asthma medications like salbutamol.\n\nDoes it feel like you breath all the way in but then you just kind of... run out of \"breathinability\" before your lungs are actually full? Because that's what my mild asthma always felt like, rather than the stereotypical gasping for breath throat closure seen in Hollywood. ", "I used to have very similar issues. When I was in high school, my doctor gave me an inhaler and diagnosed it as asthma. Unfortunately, the inhaler only exacerbated the issue. \n\n\nA few years later, I went back to the doctor for the same thing, and he mentioned that he thought I might be suffering from anxiety. He prescribed me Xanax, and it was a lifesaver. My anxiety was instigating a \"fight-or-flight\" response, and causing shortness of breath. The Xanax helped to relax those muscles and make me feel like my chest was opening up. I don't love using Xanax regularly and I keep my use to a minimum, but if I am feeling any onset of those \"tightness\" or \"shortness\" feelings, it helps me get back to normal. \n\n\nI would also recommend cutting out stimulants that might instigate that, as well (alcohol, coffee, drugs, etc.).", "Anxiety and stress can do all kinds of weird shit to the human body. Tap into the cr" ]
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[ "Dealing with an incredibly muddy drive-way. Is there anything we can put down that would help reduce the effects of the mud pit that my car gets stuck in almost every day? ", "Dealing with an incredibly muddy drive-way. Is there anything we can put down that would help reduce the effects of the mud pit that my car gets stuck in almost every day? ", "Dealing with an incredibly muddy drive-way. Is there anything we can put down that would help reduce the effects of the mud pit that my car gets stuck in almost every day? ", "Dealing with an incredibly muddy drive-way. Is there anything we can put down that would help reduce the effects of the mud pit that my car gets stuck in almost every day? ", "Dealing with an incredibly muddy drive-way. Is there anything we can put down that would help reduce the effects of the mud pit that my car gets stuck in almost every day? ", "Dealing with an incredibly muddy drive-way. Is there anything we can put down that would help reduce the effects of the mud pit that my car gets stuck in almost every day? ", "Dealing with an incredibly muddy drive-way. Is there anything we can put down that would help reduce the effects of the mud pit that my car gets stuck in almost every day? ", "Dealing with an incredibly muddy drive-way. Is there anything we can put down that would help reduce the effects of the mud pit that my car gets stuck in almost every day? ", "Dealing with an incredibly muddy drive-way. Is there anything we can put down that would help reduce the effects of the mud pit that my car gets stuck in almost every day? " ]
[ "Put down some gravel. If you buy cheap stone it shouldn't be that much unless you have a huge driveway. It may take someone with more experience to estimate how much you actually need.", "how big is your driveway? For us we have a mud pit in the back. To have someone gravel it would cost $600 and concrete is $1000 these were winter rates, which I guess is my pro tip: get concrete work and roofs done in the winter if you can. You'll generally get very good discounts.", "You want class 5 gravel. It's 3/4 inch limestone. Ideal size for driving over, won't hurt tires, and the aggregate size is big enough that rain won't wash it away.\n\nBut, you can't lay it by hand. You need a skid steer to spread it. ", "Could you drive 'over' it? Say by dropping large slabs of stone or something like that into the pit (so that it leaves a dry surface above the level of mud)?", "Yes gravel or anything with a larger grain size will allow more water to infiltrate through because there is larger space between the grains for the water to seep through. Things like sand with smaller grain sizes will trap the water and it turns to mud. Things like road pavement that allow basically no infiltration the water just sits ontop in spots without proper drainage and that eventually causes potholes. There are also \"permeable pavements\" which allow water to seep through.", "Straw works pretty well. It's cheap and effective DIY. Hard landscape it. Packed fill dirt would be best so it drains instead of puddles. \n(I grew up helping maintain a 1/4 mile dirt road.)", "If cost is a major factor, dig some slots about 2x3\"deep and lay some 2x6s to crib in the gravel. Pound stakes to keep them in place and upright if needed. Also see if you can make a trench to drain the water away.", "Go get a load of 3/4\" road crush gravel and throw it down on top of the muck. You'll eventually squash enough in that the driveway will solidify.", "Buy a bag of cement and sprinkle it all over the driveway. works best on gravel driveway's but it should help to harden the ground." ]
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[ "How do I politely disengage from a conversation I am not qualified to have when someone begins \"sharing\" something overly personal about themselves? ", "How do I politely disengage from a conversation I am not qualified to have when someone begins \"sharing\" something overly personal about themselves? ", "How do I politely disengage from a conversation I am not qualified to have when someone begins \"sharing\" something overly personal about themselves? ", "How do I politely disengage from a conversation I am not qualified to have when someone begins \"sharing\" something overly personal about themselves? " ]
[ "Listening IS helping, although you can politely explain that you’re sorry you can’t offer any advice or opinion. Then change the subject. Welcome to the wonderful world of interpersonal communication..just try to be kind.", "“While I appreciate you feeling comfortable enough to express this to me, I’m not sure I’m qualified enough to have any insight or advice that would be helpful for you.”", "\"I'm sorry that you're suffering but I don't have it in me to be of any help on this matter. It really seems like you need special advice in this matter.\"", "the reason we have therapists and counselors and social workers are because we can't talk with each other." ]
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[ "What should I say/do when someone wants to get constant help with their homework? Used to be friends with a toxic person who wanted me to help her constantly with her homework. Whenever I said no, she’d guilt trip me into saying that I didn’t wanted her to pass the year etc. Now that I’ve cut her out and started college, I didn’t want this to happen anymore. I’m in a group with 5 other people and we have an assignment to do. I am willing to help them for a small thing they didn’t understand but don’t want to send them what I did since I don’t find it fair that I’ve worked my butt off for them to take advantage of it. What should I say to people if I notice that they ask a lot of questions and want me to show them what i did?", "What should I say/do when someone wants to get constant help with their homework? Used to be friends with a toxic person who wanted me to help her constantly with her homework. Whenever I said no, she’d guilt trip me into saying that I didn’t wanted her to pass the year etc. Now that I’ve cut her out and started college, I didn’t want this to happen anymore. I’m in a group with 5 other people and we have an assignment to do. I am willing to help them for a small thing they didn’t understand but don’t want to send them what I did since I don’t find it fair that I’ve worked my butt off for them to take advantage of it. What should I say to people if I notice that they ask a lot of questions and want me to show them what i did?", "What should I say/do when someone wants to get constant help with their homework? Used to be friends with a toxic person who wanted me to help her constantly with her homework. Whenever I said no, she’d guilt trip me into saying that I didn’t wanted her to pass the year etc. Now that I’ve cut her out and started college, I didn’t want this to happen anymore. I’m in a group with 5 other people and we have an assignment to do. I am willing to help them for a small thing they didn’t understand but don’t want to send them what I did since I don’t find it fair that I’ve worked my butt off for them to take advantage of it. What should I say to people if I notice that they ask a lot of questions and want me to show them what i did?" ]
[ "You can tell them you don’t have the time to help and if they need assistance they need to email the professor or find a tutor.", "If it’s possible say you haven’t done the part they’re asking about and tell them a few points of what you thought writing about in regards to their question. That way you’re not telling them no but you’re also not obligated to send them your work. \n\nI have one person in my courses too who’s mooching off of my informations all the time. I’m so tired of it so I just tell her I don’t know or that I’m not done yet. \n\nIf a person asks for a complete work before it’s been sent to the Professor I would simply tell them no.", "I worked my way through college mostly with earnings from tutoring. I was always invited to group study sessions of course. Try being proactive. gun and say, “I’m really busy but I think I can meet up with you for X amount of time on Y day”. Then ask what in particular that person wants to work on and limit the discussion to that, then when you are done just end the conversation quickly and leave, or whenever the time is up. You might have to repeat it a few times but they’ll eventually not get what they want and quit. Good Luck." ]
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[ "how do I get birds to stop chirping all night From practically 11 pm-8am, there are birds constantly chirping outside of my apartment. I do not know where they are, but they have to be somewhat close. They are so loud, with the TV and fan on, with windows closed, I can still hear them. Is there any way for me to get them to stop chirping?", "how do I get birds to stop chirping all night From practically 11 pm-8am, there are birds constantly chirping outside of my apartment. I do not know where they are, but they have to be somewhat close. They are so loud, with the TV and fan on, with windows closed, I can still hear them. Is there any way for me to get them to stop chirping?", "how do I get birds to stop chirping all night From practically 11 pm-8am, there are birds constantly chirping outside of my apartment. I do not know where they are, but they have to be somewhat close. They are so loud, with the TV and fan on, with windows closed, I can still hear them. Is there any way for me to get them to stop chirping?", "how do I get birds to stop chirping all night From practically 11 pm-8am, there are birds constantly chirping outside of my apartment. I do not know where they are, but they have to be somewhat close. They are so loud, with the TV and fan on, with windows closed, I can still hear them. Is there any way for me to get them to stop chirping?", "how do I get birds to stop chirping all night From practically 11 pm-8am, there are birds constantly chirping outside of my apartment. I do not know where they are, but they have to be somewhat close. They are so loud, with the TV and fan on, with windows closed, I can still hear them. Is there any way for me to get them to stop chirping?", "how do I get birds to stop chirping all night From practically 11 pm-8am, there are birds constantly chirping outside of my apartment. I do not know where they are, but they have to be somewhat close. They are so loud, with the TV and fan on, with windows closed, I can still hear them. Is there any way for me to get them to stop chirping?", "how do I get birds to stop chirping all night From practically 11 pm-8am, there are birds constantly chirping outside of my apartment. I do not know where they are, but they have to be somewhat close. They are so loud, with the TV and fan on, with windows closed, I can still hear them. Is there any way for me to get them to stop chirping?" ]
[ "Get a fishtank. The running water is white noise and can really help to drain out background sounds. Other than that I have nothing for you. Maybe a fan. The birds however will continue to bird.", "Have you tried taking to the birds? They can be reasonable when politely asked. Some birdseed can help ease the mood and make them more willing to allow you your rest.", "Get an owl call (or a hoot call) from Amazon it’s like $10. Instructions on the box. Hoot away as their natural predator and soon you’ll be the leader of the pack or whatever is left of it. Sounds like they live there, so you’ll be “taking over” their territory.\n\n\n", "Touch off a 12 gauge when they start to get annoying. That should scare them away for a while. Or sleep with a fan on.", "My neighbor used a low frequency speaker that couldn't be picked up by humans, but would annoy animals, that was for a cat though, but I don't see why it wouldn't exist for birds", "Could try putting plastic life-like birds of prey e.g. hawks near your window, that may be a deterrent.", "About 20 years ago I rented a house. I'd get home around 6pm and the utility lines around me were completely covered by crows. It was spooky to come home to but in the middle of the night they would begin to caw. It would wake me up and they would do it incessantly throughout the night. One night I got the idea to use the flash on my camera to scare them but all it did was get them to fly into the nearest tree. I had to walk halfway down the block flashing the trees to keep moving them back. That would give me 30 minutes to get back to sleep before they regrouped and came back." ]
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[ "How to keep a toilet plunger clean &amp; sanitary when not in use. I have yet to find a satisfactory way to keep a toilet plunger clean and sanitary after using it. Worse, I don't have a utility sink in my current apartment, so I don't even have a good place to clean the plunger. Suggestions?", "How to keep a toilet plunger clean &amp; sanitary when not in use. I have yet to find a satisfactory way to keep a toilet plunger clean and sanitary after using it. Worse, I don't have a utility sink in my current apartment, so I don't even have a good place to clean the plunger. Suggestions?", "How to keep a toilet plunger clean &amp; sanitary when not in use. I have yet to find a satisfactory way to keep a toilet plunger clean and sanitary after using it. Worse, I don't have a utility sink in my current apartment, so I don't even have a good place to clean the plunger. Suggestions?" ]
[ "When I clean my toilets and have cleaner/bleach in them, I always dip my plungers in the solution, then rinse them off after flushing. That way they get a good weekly cleaning, even if they haven't been used.", "After use, and a few flushes, put it back in the toilet (clean water) and agitate it for a few seconds. Rinse in tub/shower if required, let dry, and sit next to stool.", "This comment has been overwritten by an open source script to protect this user&apos;s privacy. \n\n If you would like to do the same, add the browser extension [GreaseMonkey](https://addons.mozilla.org/en-us/firefox/addon/greasemonkey/) to Firefox and add [this open source script](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/10380-reddit-overwrite). \n\n Then simply click on your username on Reddit, go to the comments tab, and hit the new OVERWRITE button at the top." ]
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[ "Any ideas for how to quickly \"wake up\" a limb that has fallen asleep? It has happened to everyone, just wondering the best way to solve the problem quickly.", "Any ideas for how to quickly \"wake up\" a limb that has fallen asleep? It has happened to everyone, just wondering the best way to solve the problem quickly.", "Any ideas for how to quickly \"wake up\" a limb that has fallen asleep? It has happened to everyone, just wondering the best way to solve the problem quickly.", "Any ideas for how to quickly \"wake up\" a limb that has fallen asleep? It has happened to everyone, just wondering the best way to solve the problem quickly." ]
[ "push with your stomach (like pooping) this rushes blood out to your limbs with less pain and works very quickly\n", "Flex the muscles on the farthest end. I.e. your leg falls asleep, wiggle your toes.\n\nThe problem isnt a nerve being compressed, its a blood vessel that is compressed, and depriving the limb of oxygen. One you get blood back into the area, it no longer feels numb. This is the same reason your fingers go numb in cold weather.", "Move said limb to get the blood flowing. If it happens often there can be an underlying problem that should be checked out though", "I always go for a combination of rub and shake, that works well. \n\nIf its a leg or foot I go for walking on it, no matter how weird it feels for the first few steps." ]
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[ "How to not hold a grudge. I have worst habit of holding on to anything negative that is said about me. Any tips on how to look past that? ", "How to not hold a grudge. I have worst habit of holding on to anything negative that is said about me. Any tips on how to look past that? ", "How to not hold a grudge. I have worst habit of holding on to anything negative that is said about me. Any tips on how to look past that? ", "How to not hold a grudge. I have worst habit of holding on to anything negative that is said about me. Any tips on how to look past that? ", "How to not hold a grudge. I have worst habit of holding on to anything negative that is said about me. Any tips on how to look past that? ", "How to not hold a grudge. I have worst habit of holding on to anything negative that is said about me. Any tips on how to look past that? ", "How to not hold a grudge. I have worst habit of holding on to anything negative that is said about me. Any tips on how to look past that? ", "How to not hold a grudge. I have worst habit of holding on to anything negative that is said about me. Any tips on how to look past that? ", "How to not hold a grudge. I have worst habit of holding on to anything negative that is said about me. Any tips on how to look past that? " ]
[ "It's very cliche, but the book \"The Four Agreements\" really helped me, especially the chapter about not taking anything personally. Realizing that peoples' actions and words are more about them than they are about me is very freeing. I was able to step back from what they said, objectively ask myself if I agreed with that statement, and if I didn't, it ceased to bother me. I also found myself actually having more sympathy for the person, having put myself in their shoes for even a moment, and if I respond to them that way, it improved my relationship with them.", "That is a loaded question but I'll do my best... \n\nI used to hold grudges myself, I had some less then stellar friends in my younger years, did some hurtful spiteful things. \n\nWithout knowing too much of your situation I'd say try this...dont give a shit. Easier said than done right? It is without a doubt. One day I woke up and I realized people will come and go in your life. The best I can tell you is to focus your efforts, your thoughts on what your passions are, hobbies, etc. Life has a weird way of inevitably weeding the negative people out of it by some point. Don't be friends with people who drag you down. Don't let people minimize your potential in this world. As I get older, I realize how much less time I have every day, to make an impact, to build my future. Keep friends who help you thrive, help the people who help you, and show compassion to your fellow man. \n\nGrudges are hard to shake, but the second you realize for yourself they are holding you back, that's when you'll realize it's not worth it. \n\nGood luck and godspeed", "I don't know who said this first, but holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.\n\nIt's easier said than done, but grudges only hurt you. The object of your ire will be unaware of the depth of the contempt you have for them. Rise above it, and work at being the person you want to be, in spite of them. Reduce the hold you let them have over you, and accept what is, rather than be upset that things aren't as you wish they were.\n\nThis is a bit of a messy answer. It's mostly down to your perception of the situation, and attempting to find less hurtful ways of responding to your situation. You won't always succeed, but try again tomorrow.", "Two big things help me.\n\n1. Screaming, being angry, or taking retaliatory action will not change the past. The easiest thing to do is pretend it never happened.\n2. Taking revenge whether it be acting like them, or holding a grudge looks bad. Sure, you don't care about that the person you're holding a grudge against doesn't like it when you do that, but think about all the other people. They will think less of you, and not only is that bad for you, it also allows the person who \"started\" it to win.", "So weird because I've gone through something very recently relating to this. \n\nYears ago, I found out my supposed good friends were not the friends I thought they were and I was frozen out after falling out with someone in the group. I've held onto it for years, ive felt like the wronged party and nobody else had to suffer. Like I've moved on and I'm happy, and never thought to get revenge but from time to time I wallow in it.\n\nThen recently I found out a similar thing has been happening with my current social group. Only this time it couldn't be more different, I got my grovelling apologies from all parties involved and they're trying big time to make amends. But it didn't make me feel better. \n\nSo I put it to you - What can people do to make it right, what needs to happen for you to feel better? Because once you realise it's nothing, you realise you've been bargaining in a sense all along. If people felt sorry then it wouldn't be so bad, if I felt they had suffered then or I got revenge then they would see how I felt. If I cut them out they'll realise just how much it hurts. It's all bargaining. The truth is the pain derives from initial betrayals and rejections and these are fixed. Nothing will make up for it, having finally understood this I'm struggling to feel mad at anyone to be honest. ", "Realize that the person who slighted you likely has no idea and hasn't thought of the incident since. They may not have even thought of *you* since. ", "Humour everyone, don't take life too seriously!\n\nIf someone is aggressive towards me I'm the type to be extra friendly back just to fuck with them, I can't take it seriously!\n\nI dunno if it helps just to know this but I have a friend who has this habit of making a lot of grudges, like he's either a best friend to someone or he hates them there isn't really an inbetween. I've told him many times that he needs to stop burning bridges because it's never worth it and it just causes more problems than solves. Be civil with **everyone** you don't choose to be friends with! his many grudges makes it awkward for going out and stuff cus there's always \"oh I can't go because X y z is there\". \n\nIf you grudge someone I can only assume it's because they wronged you! If someone has wronged you and you react with hate, or blank them, give them evils etc. .. Then they've won! They know they got to you! They probably get a kick out of it. It's way better to smile in there face and let them see how little impact they have on your life and you're doing great and they mean that little that you don't even remember what they did because you're being all friendly.\n\nHumour. Everyone. ", "Hanlon's Razor: *Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.*\n\nThe sense that an act against you was committed out of \"malice\" is a powerfully motivating sense that has a strong tendency to lead to trouble, aka \"revenge\". This is because once a person has committed an act of malice against you, there can be no doubting as to the situation: you have been placed in danger by the agency of another agent, and the threat **probably persists**. That is a major threat situation and mist be responded to by the clear rules of survival and evolution.\n\nOn the other hand, the same act against you by a bumbling idiot is a different thing altogether, mainly because there is no solid reason to assume it will happen again.\n\nThis is why Hanlon's works so well: it demotes the agent of your inconvenience to an idiot who is probably already feeling more threatened by you than you have been given occasion to feel threatened by him. Your sense of threat is converted to a sense of power.", "Take an jnventory of what you are resentful for and who it affects. You can dig down on why things bother you. We're all people and we all make mistakes and you can learn to forgive. Otherwise it can cause a lot of addiciton and other problems." ]
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[ "dealing with peeing stage fright I have suffered with peeing stage fright ever since I could remember, but lately it's gotten worse. I've always been fine if I go to a cubicle, but sometimes I just can't go despite busting for the loo for half an hour.\n\nI've had to turn on the tap in my bathroom lately when I pee, but that's stopped working now. When I have a guest over, it's so fucking hard. I've had UTI and chlamydia in the past and it's nowhere near as hard as having them two. It feels like I'm on MDMA, could it be my new medication? Citalopram. ", "dealing with peeing stage fright I have suffered with peeing stage fright ever since I could remember, but lately it's gotten worse. I've always been fine if I go to a cubicle, but sometimes I just can't go despite busting for the loo for half an hour.\n\nI've had to turn on the tap in my bathroom lately when I pee, but that's stopped working now. When I have a guest over, it's so fucking hard. I've had UTI and chlamydia in the past and it's nowhere near as hard as having them two. It feels like I'm on MDMA, could it be my new medication? Citalopram. " ]
[ "I get this through nerves of just standing with people. Stalls are always more useful but it you have to stand at a urinal and have no choice I found gently touching the tip of your dong almost as if to emulate the feeling of pee running over it, helps me to start the flow.", "Citalopram can cause difficulty in urination and I think it's listed as a rare side effect. I'd seek advice from a doctor as you may need to swap meds." ]
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[ "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.", "Cheap Flights to and from college? I am headed to Chicago for college next year, and I will be making the flight from Midway Airport to New York City Airports (Any of the three, really) multiple times a year. How do fellow LPTers or college kids in general cut down airfare cost and avoid holiday spikes? Can i purchase a fixed rate pack of tickets if I am making the flight a few times a year? Any help or insight would be appreciated. Thanks in advance." ]
[ "No, you can't buy tickets in bulk. \n\nPrice spike around the holidays. It's just the way it is. Oddly enough, people like to travel around the holidays and the airlines have caught onto this.\n\nYou should be able to find really decent fares between the Chicago Airports (MDW, ORD) and the NY Airports (JFK LGA EWR), as there is a lot of competition on those routes. I'd consider yourself pretty lucky that you are flying from one large market to another large market.\n\nIf flying is too expensive, you can always take the [MegaBus](http://www.megabus.com). It's like $30 between Chicago and New York.", "Book six weeks in advance. Flights on Tuesdays and Saturdays are the cheapest. Use booking sites such as travelocity but then book directly with the airline. Sorry, that's all I got", "Use [SkipLagged](https://skiplagged.com/). It gives you some really cheap flights in general in addition to the option to book tickets where your destination is actually a layover within a larger flight to a (possibly) more obscure and cheaper destination. For example, if you want to go to NYC-Seattle, the website might suggest a ticket that actually goes from NYC-Honolulu with a layover in Seattle where you just get off and never get back on the connecting flight (though IMO Honolulu>Seattle right now). Best of Luck.", "research the flights that work for you and [clear your cache/history](https://www.reddit.com/r/weddingplanning/comments/2blorr/psa_clear_your_cache_and_cookies_before_booking/) before booking them. either that or do all your research on your browser's \"incognito\" or private mode just to be safe. that should help lower the prices or at least prevent them from going up too much when you go back to officially book the flights later on.", "Set up a couple alerts on airfarewatchdog.com. I have 3 of them set up for the airports with in an hour of my home, to the airport near my parents. A couple weeks ago a sale popped up that had $150 rt in comparison to the $300 it normally costs. I have no reason to visit my parents besides its cheap.\n\nAlso, booking through cheaptickets.com earns you a $20 coupon for your next flight. You can save these up and use them all at once. In addition to the coupon you still get the frequent flyer miles from the airline. It will make for some cheap flights down the road. ", "Rack up frequent flier miles using cr", "NO TO ALL OF THESE. Simple. Find a flight that has a layover in the destination you actually want to go to. Then just take your carry-on and leave the airport. https://skiplagged.com/ and its 22 year old founder is currently being sued by United and Orbitz for helping people find these flights, which is completely baseless and solely for money as the airlines do not want people knowing about this type of 'discounted' flight. Just to be clear, doing this is not in any way illegal or immoral. It is just taking advantage of the way airfare is currently priced. GL hope your next trip home is hundreds of $$$ cheaper. :D", "If you're willing to deal with some nickel and diming and cramped seats, Spirit can be really cheap. They charge for literally everything though (use of the overhead bin, a printed ticket, drinks) so if you plan on packing more than a small carryon it only saves you a bit. I have flown round trip from O hare to new york for around $100 this way.", "Get gmail account soley for airline use. Sign up with all the airlines' frequent flier accounts and email lists. This can save you a grip with special deals that pop up and make ticket purchases a quick 2 click proposition as they have all your information already.\n\nRemember \"hidden city\" tricks. Google this. http://airfareiq.com/freeResult and other sites that did this is shut down now, but on that page it explains the DIY method. This may or may not help.\n\nWhen using travelocity or other big name site and you find (say) AA is the cheapest at (say) $510 round trip, log onto the AA site using your information from above and book the same flight/same flight numbers as the travelocity results. You can sometimes save $20 or so by going to the \"horse's mouth\" than through a third party website.\n\nAnd don't be scared to price two one way tickets vice a round trip as you may find that AA west to east + Southwest east to west is cheaper than AirTran roundtrip. You can insert any airline names into my examples as there's a lot of options.\n\nAnd start dating an airline crew member :)\n\n", "Flying out of Midway limits to you Southwest and a handful of Delta flights left over from Northwest. Always check both airports. You might also want to check Milwaukee. The airport is a little over an hour on the train and can sometimes be much cheaper.", "FYI...The Tuesdays and Saturdays thing is a myth....... \n\nOP, I don't work in an American airline, but one of the biggest European airlines. We don't offer anything to make holidays cheaper. Fixed rates? Hah. Also student/youth fares don't always pay off. Ours is not always cheaper, but they tend to be more flexible: easy to change and are refundable.\n\nMy tips? \n\nStick to one airline/alliance. Do your research. Get them frequent flyer miles and cr", "I'm not sure if it still exists, but AirTran had student standby fares back in the day. You have to be between 18-22. Saved a ton of money going back and forth. Can't find relevant info on their website on the mobile interface." ]
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[ "How to get rid of roaches. When my wife and I moved into our new house we sadly brought the apartment roaches with us in addition to the house having its own family. Normally those glue traps worked wonderfully for us in the past but now they ain't falling for it. We have a toddler and 3 dogs so poison is something I'd like to avoid. We have both the normal roaches and the tiny German breed as well.", "How to get rid of roaches. When my wife and I moved into our new house we sadly brought the apartment roaches with us in addition to the house having its own family. Normally those glue traps worked wonderfully for us in the past but now they ain't falling for it. We have a toddler and 3 dogs so poison is something I'd like to avoid. We have both the normal roaches and the tiny German breed as well.", "How to get rid of roaches. When my wife and I moved into our new house we sadly brought the apartment roaches with us in addition to the house having its own family. Normally those glue traps worked wonderfully for us in the past but now they ain't falling for it. We have a toddler and 3 dogs so poison is something I'd like to avoid. We have both the normal roaches and the tiny German breed as well.", "How to get rid of roaches. When my wife and I moved into our new house we sadly brought the apartment roaches with us in addition to the house having its own family. Normally those glue traps worked wonderfully for us in the past but now they ain't falling for it. We have a toddler and 3 dogs so poison is something I'd like to avoid. We have both the normal roaches and the tiny German breed as well." ]
[ "Exterminators have kid/pet friendly options. In my experience only way to get rid of them all and for good is to kill them all in one shot. Otherwise they will come back, and in greater numbers ", "[This stuff](https://www.amazon.com/Advion-Syngenta-Cockroach-Bait-Tubes/dp/B002Y2GNVM/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1482541324&sr=8-3&keywords=roach+killer) sticks wherever you put it (sort of like a really small bead of caulk) and works absolute wonders. Went from a year long infestation that I couldn't get rid of to nothing in less than a week. I used it along my kitchen counter tops where it wouldn't come in contact with food or the dog/kid. ", "Not good for killing the ones inside, but go around the outside of your house once every 2-3 months and spray with the raid roach killer. The apartment across the street has them and I have never caught them in our home, but I occasionally have to sweep corpses off the front step from the ones trying to infiltrate.", "Hire a professional! We spent about $200 over 3 months on an awful infestation of German roaches, and, nearly 4 years later, I've not seen the first bug. " ]
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[ "How to keep my nose from running during class My nose is running like fucking crazy and I keep having to sniffling and it's making a honking noise cause it's also stuffed up. It's really embarrassing. How can I keep it from running?", "How to keep my nose from running during class My nose is running like fucking crazy and I keep having to sniffling and it's making a honking noise cause it's also stuffed up. It's really embarrassing. How can I keep it from running?" ]
[ "1. Lean back in your seat and look up at the ceiling. It will drain down your throat instead.\n\n2. Plug each nostril with rolled up tissue.", "Sounds like you have an allergy to something in the room. Talk to the instructor.\n\nAs for your running nose, keep some tissues handy and dab your runny nose when needed. You don't have to blow. Try various allergy pills to see if any work. Sounds like an allergy if it's just in that room. If it's everywhere, still may be an allergy. See an allergist." ]
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[ "how to stop randomly smiling so i seem to have this problem, when i sometimes start smiling/laughing when i listen to music, or walk, or really any daily action i do. i've tried biting the sides of my mouth, but it just makes me smile/laugh even harder. ", "how to stop randomly smiling so i seem to have this problem, when i sometimes start smiling/laughing when i listen to music, or walk, or really any daily action i do. i've tried biting the sides of my mouth, but it just makes me smile/laugh even harder. ", "how to stop randomly smiling so i seem to have this problem, when i sometimes start smiling/laughing when i listen to music, or walk, or really any daily action i do. i've tried biting the sides of my mouth, but it just makes me smile/laugh even harder. ", "how to stop randomly smiling so i seem to have this problem, when i sometimes start smiling/laughing when i listen to music, or walk, or really any daily action i do. i've tried biting the sides of my mouth, but it just makes me smile/laugh even harder. " ]
[ "Unless you are smiling or laughing at inappropriate times that are detrimental to your life, I don't think its a problem. Uncontrollable smiling could indicate a neurological problem, but unless it's really bothering you, I would embrace it. Smiling, even when not genuine has been proven to help lower stress, make you more approachable and cheer up those around you. ", "Here's a couple options:\n\n1. If the smiling is interrupting your day-to-day life, keep a sad thought on-hand to suppress it.\n\n2. Embrace it.", "It's a proble when I am mad at someone an then I laugh so they think I'm not serious when I am. And also when there's something sad going on and my friends tell me about it and I smile or something like that. ", "Look at it this way: at least nobody will ever ask you \"why so serious,\" and then pull out a knife cut the corners of your mouth." ]
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[ "How not to be Overreactive So, my entire life I have been a guy who overreacts at trivial things and gets over excited and every colleague of mine says that it gets very annoying and irritable. I joke at pettiest of things which they say is funny at first but gets really annoying overtime. I have never been able to fix this, and to make things even worse I speak way too much. \n\nWhat should I do to stop being overreactive?", "How not to be Overreactive So, my entire life I have been a guy who overreacts at trivial things and gets over excited and every colleague of mine says that it gets very annoying and irritable. I joke at pettiest of things which they say is funny at first but gets really annoying overtime. I have never been able to fix this, and to make things even worse I speak way too much. \n\nWhat should I do to stop being overreactive?", "How not to be Overreactive So, my entire life I have been a guy who overreacts at trivial things and gets over excited and every colleague of mine says that it gets very annoying and irritable. I joke at pettiest of things which they say is funny at first but gets really annoying overtime. I have never been able to fix this, and to make things even worse I speak way too much. \n\nWhat should I do to stop being overreactive?", "How not to be Overreactive So, my entire life I have been a guy who overreacts at trivial things and gets over excited and every colleague of mine says that it gets very annoying and irritable. I joke at pettiest of things which they say is funny at first but gets really annoying overtime. I have never been able to fix this, and to make things even worse I speak way too much. \n\nWhat should I do to stop being overreactive?", "How not to be Overreactive So, my entire life I have been a guy who overreacts at trivial things and gets over excited and every colleague of mine says that it gets very annoying and irritable. I joke at pettiest of things which they say is funny at first but gets really annoying overtime. I have never been able to fix this, and to make things even worse I speak way too much. \n\nWhat should I do to stop being overreactive?", "How not to be Overreactive So, my entire life I have been a guy who overreacts at trivial things and gets over excited and every colleague of mine says that it gets very annoying and irritable. I joke at pettiest of things which they say is funny at first but gets really annoying overtime. I have never been able to fix this, and to make things even worse I speak way too much. \n\nWhat should I do to stop being overreactive?", "How not to be Overreactive So, my entire life I have been a guy who overreacts at trivial things and gets over excited and every colleague of mine says that it gets very annoying and irritable. I joke at pettiest of things which they say is funny at first but gets really annoying overtime. I have never been able to fix this, and to make things even worse I speak way too much. \n\nWhat should I do to stop being overreactive?" ]
[ "It sounds very trite, but the \"count to ten\" system isn't a bad start. You're not losing anything by taking a moment to process, and you may be gaining *a lot*.", "It sounds like ADHD might be at play here. Maybe look up some info, see if the shoe fits and go from there...", "Question back to you: are you nervous around people? Or, put another way, do you feel uncomfortable in work settings with some of your co-workers? Sometimes, people (me) feel like they're going to be judged by what they say and they (I) try to get ahead of it by opening my mouth. Pretty soon, I'm trying to be funny but by then, I'm just a pain to be around.\n\nPerhaps m", "Just mention things once, and gauge their reaction. \n\nIf they also seem enthusiastic, then maybe mention it again to that person.\n\nIf they look like they couldn't care less, then don't mention it again.", "Sounds like me before my bipolar diagnosis. I did LSD to fix a lot of my issues but it also made me manic so YMMV", "I do this. And I've tempered it by 1 keeping my mouth shut unless I have something useful for others to hear. 2. Some stoic philosophy I read once from Marcus Aurelius. Something like, a situation is usually as bad as your estimation of it. If you reflect on your estimates after an event has settled. It will help guide future estimates and therefore future reactions.", "This sounds a lot like emotional immaturity and things seen in people that and mentally under developed. Often times in people that abuse drugs/alcohol." ]
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[ "How can I wash my face in the morning without bending my back over the sink? Hi Reddit, I‘m quite tall and have noticed I get back pain from washing my face by bending my back over the sink. Any tips how to do it otherwise?", "How can I wash my face in the morning without bending my back over the sink? Hi Reddit, I‘m quite tall and have noticed I get back pain from washing my face by bending my back over the sink. Any tips how to do it otherwise?", "How can I wash my face in the morning without bending my back over the sink? Hi Reddit, I‘m quite tall and have noticed I get back pain from washing my face by bending my back over the sink. Any tips how to do it otherwise?", "How can I wash my face in the morning without bending my back over the sink? Hi Reddit, I‘m quite tall and have noticed I get back pain from washing my face by bending my back over the sink. Any tips how to do it otherwise?", "How can I wash my face in the morning without bending my back over the sink? Hi Reddit, I‘m quite tall and have noticed I get back pain from washing my face by bending my back over the sink. Any tips how to do it otherwise?", "How can I wash my face in the morning without bending my back over the sink? Hi Reddit, I‘m quite tall and have noticed I get back pain from washing my face by bending my back over the sink. Any tips how to do it otherwise?", "How can I wash my face in the morning without bending my back over the sink? Hi Reddit, I‘m quite tall and have noticed I get back pain from washing my face by bending my back over the sink. Any tips how to do it otherwise?" ]
[ "Use a wash cloth. \n\nI'm tall as well & don't have such an issue as it's only for such a short period of time. I would go see a doctor.", "I'm 6'6\"and have never had an issue with that, either your sink is wildly low or you're being rough on your back in other areas of life. \n\nThat said a wash cloth is a great option.", "Ponds cold cream and a hot washcloth. It's basically mineral oil with unicorn tears. \n\nI wear waterproof mascara and can even rub my eyes with Ponds. Everything else stings. It takes off all the bad oils & gunk and doesn't dry you out.\n\nMy husband used it as a mechanic. It gets the embedded black stuff out of his fingers and nails.", "Micellar water is amazing, is applied with a cotton pad or whatever is on hand. Also doesn’t have to be rinsed off [here](https://www.chatelaine.com/style/beauty/what-is-micellar-water/)", "Maybe use a small chair and sit down? Then your knees may not be happy but your face should be closer to the sink.", "What's your fitness level like? You may need to strengthen your core muscles. Not just for face washing, but you're probably going to get back pain at other times, too.", "I would go about stretching regularly and doing light exercises that strengthen the weak muscles in the lower back that are causing the pain. Unless it is actually your spine doing the hurting then I would see a doctor. \n\nDoing minor daily activities shouldnt cause pai or discomfort. Take it as a sign that you body is telling you it needs help and care." ]
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[ "How to make the first pancake of the batch look as good as the rest. The first pancake of the batch always looks like shit. Why does this happen, and how can one make that first cake perfectly?", "How to make the first pancake of the batch look as good as the rest. The first pancake of the batch always looks like shit. Why does this happen, and how can one make that first cake perfectly?", "How to make the first pancake of the batch look as good as the rest. The first pancake of the batch always looks like shit. Why does this happen, and how can one make that first cake perfectly?", "How to make the first pancake of the batch look as good as the rest. The first pancake of the batch always looks like shit. Why does this happen, and how can one make that first cake perfectly?" ]
[ "Let your pan heat up to a proper temperature before starting the first pancake. The problem is usually that the pan is still heating up.", "It's because the pancake griddle is not fully heated and fully lubricated when you put the first one on. Wait a little bit longer and put a little more non stick spray on there", "You can pour every pancake perfectly by putting your mix in a plastic baggy and cutting a corner off 😊", "I just put the first one on the top of the stack and use it as a 'blanket' to keep the others warm. It usually gets nibbled away before they get to the table anyway." ]
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[ "Car Maintance Hi Reddit I am on a mission to learn more about car maintenance, and thus prolong the lifespan of my car. I was wondering if someone could compile a short list of the basic things every car owner should know how to. Not necessarily a step by step but just a list (ie. \"change a tire\", \"change the oil\"). \n\nBonus Points if a second list with the more advanced necessities is also included.", "Car Maintance Hi Reddit I am on a mission to learn more about car maintenance, and thus prolong the lifespan of my car. I was wondering if someone could compile a short list of the basic things every car owner should know how to. Not necessarily a step by step but just a list (ie. \"change a tire\", \"change the oil\"). \n\nBonus Points if a second list with the more advanced necessities is also included.", "Car Maintance Hi Reddit I am on a mission to learn more about car maintenance, and thus prolong the lifespan of my car. I was wondering if someone could compile a short list of the basic things every car owner should know how to. Not necessarily a step by step but just a list (ie. \"change a tire\", \"change the oil\"). \n\nBonus Points if a second list with the more advanced necessities is also included.", "Car Maintance Hi Reddit I am on a mission to learn more about car maintenance, and thus prolong the lifespan of my car. I was wondering if someone could compile a short list of the basic things every car owner should know how to. Not necessarily a step by step but just a list (ie. \"change a tire\", \"change the oil\"). \n\nBonus Points if a second list with the more advanced necessities is also included.", "Car Maintance Hi Reddit I am on a mission to learn more about car maintenance, and thus prolong the lifespan of my car. I was wondering if someone could compile a short list of the basic things every car owner should know how to. Not necessarily a step by step but just a list (ie. \"change a tire\", \"change the oil\"). \n\nBonus Points if a second list with the more advanced necessities is also included." ]
[ "1. Check tire pressure frequently.\n\n2. Change oil at 3,000 mile (regular oil) or 5,000 mile (synthetic oil) intervals or any time it's more than 6 months old. Change the oil filter at the same time.\n\n3. Rotate the tires in the correct direction (either diagonally or front-to-back) as recommended by the manufacturer.\n\n4. Flush the cooling system and check transmission fluid every 2-3 years.\n\n5. Replace brakes at the first sign on braking noise.\n\nOther than replacing burned out lights that's all I do and all of my cars have lasted longer than I wanted to keep driving them.\n\n", "put in gas, air and oil \nkeep a maintenance and efficiency schedule \nidentify a good mechanic \nchange a tire/call AAA\n\nmore advanced: \nidentify which haynes manual they need \nfollow instructions \nknow when the process described is above what you are comfortable with. ", "Get the Haynes or Chilton manual for your make and year, it will have a list of when all your fluids need changed, how much is needed and instructions for most basic maintenance. If your fairly handy you can find plenty of guides online to replace anything in a car.", "Check the oil. Change it at suggested intervals, with a filter every second time. Do air and fuel filters every second time.\n\nCheck your tyre pressures about once a month, and rotate the tyres every 6 months/10,000km. Don't forget the spare!\n\nKnow how to change the wiper blades (you need a pair of pliers, bend the wiper arms slightly so they hold the wiper blades nicely, and so the new blades slide in). Change them before winter. Do the washer fluid, too.\n\nWash the car with a bucket and sponge, and a garden hose. Avoid pressure washers and car washes (which can force air past seals, and are generally harsh, respectively). Wash the underbody and wheel wells. Check the car over while you do this.\n\nPut graphite powder or teflon spray in the lock barrels, wipe the telescopic antenna with an oily rag. Use light machine oil (WD40 is usually too light and works only temporarily) on hinges. Use silicone spray on rattles from interior plastic mouldings. Wipe over the dash with mild soapy water, using a damp rag.\n\nDon't ignore noises of things that 'feel' wrong.\n\nBeyond this, easy first maintenance steps include an oil change, a brake fluid change (use gravity, not pumping the pedal), coolant change. ", "My dad always says to wipe the soft rubber tubing around the doors and trunk with armor all. He says it will keep it from drying out and cracking, effectively ruining the ability to seal water out. " ]
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[ "How to stick to a schedule I would like to improve my time and energy management skills.\n\n\n---\n\nHere are some things that I've tried or currently do.\n\n1) Make a checklist\n\n2) Before doing something, write it down\n\n3) Time boxing aka. Pomodoro\n\n4) Priority over all else (only do things considered important)\n\n5) One task at a time\n\n6) Just start the task\n\n7) Procrastination is a form of anxiety, so break things down into small and clear steps.\n\n8) Daily, weekly, monthly goal planning\n\n9) Habit chaining: After doing something you do often, place your goal \nbehavior after it, and use the old behavior as the trigger/reminder to do the new behavior.\n\n\n10) Task chain aka. Seinfeld Calendar technique \n\n", "How to stick to a schedule I would like to improve my time and energy management skills.\n\n\n---\n\nHere are some things that I've tried or currently do.\n\n1) Make a checklist\n\n2) Before doing something, write it down\n\n3) Time boxing aka. Pomodoro\n\n4) Priority over all else (only do things considered important)\n\n5) One task at a time\n\n6) Just start the task\n\n7) Procrastination is a form of anxiety, so break things down into small and clear steps.\n\n8) Daily, weekly, monthly goal planning\n\n9) Habit chaining: After doing something you do often, place your goal \nbehavior after it, and use the old behavior as the trigger/reminder to do the new behavior.\n\n\n10) Task chain aka. Seinfeld Calendar technique \n\n", "How to stick to a schedule I would like to improve my time and energy management skills.\n\n\n---\n\nHere are some things that I've tried or currently do.\n\n1) Make a checklist\n\n2) Before doing something, write it down\n\n3) Time boxing aka. Pomodoro\n\n4) Priority over all else (only do things considered important)\n\n5) One task at a time\n\n6) Just start the task\n\n7) Procrastination is a form of anxiety, so break things down into small and clear steps.\n\n8) Daily, weekly, monthly goal planning\n\n9) Habit chaining: After doing something you do often, place your goal \nbehavior after it, and use the old behavior as the trigger/reminder to do the new behavior.\n\n\n10) Task chain aka. Seinfeld Calendar technique \n\n" ]
[ "an inexpensive notebook that fits in you pocket: 3\" x 5\" top spiral, 80 or less sheets\n\na pencil that fits flush inside the spiral/ a retractable ballpoint pen with a clip\n\nkeep it with you at all times even while shitting, sleeping, eating, commuting (exception: bathing)\n\nCHECKLISTS\n\nmake and keep revising you checklist. mine contains even the mundane tasks such as personal hygiene, housekeeping, studying.\n\nmy notebook's contents: a journal to keep track of the amount of time slept and meal/s, calendar, utc time zones, videos i've watched/will watch, page/time of the book/s and audiobook/s where i left off, purchase list, unit conversions, physical fitness progress, poetry, and of course, notes.\n\nthe trick i use to get things done is what i call the 'magic hour' (may not be an original idea) where i cram all the stuff that needs to be done and do it without distraction/breaks within a time limit (can also be a quarter, half, 3/4 of an hour) \n", "You might want to check out /r/getdisciplined, I have been meaning to check out the subreddit myself but have never really gotten around to it.", "You already mentioned making a checklist, so this may not help, but this is what helped me most. \n\nGet a pocket notebook. And get one that's sturdy enough, nice enough, and just large enough that it'll last you about a year. [Here's my personal favorite](http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0025U2WKE/ref=cm_sw_r_udp_awd_X3uNtb1PQ9BQR), it fits snugly in a back pocket, lasts a year before showing real wear, and I fill it up in about six months. \n\nDon't worry about rhyme, reason, or organization within the journal. Just carry it *everywhere* and use it for anything. *Anything.* Also carry a pen. Cause otherwise you'll have trouble utilizing the notebook. \n\nI started this partway through college and immediately saw a huge drop in general forgetfulness. I even noticed that often just having something written down, I'd remember later without needing to check the notebook. \n\nMy notebook contains anything and everything. Phone numbers, schedules, dates, personal thoughts, sketches, technical designs, projects, random math, bored doodles, names, websites, addresses, reminders, appointments, diary entries, notes from church and class, my vehicles license plates and VIN numbers... ANYTHING. \n\nPlus, now if someone asks you what you were doing last Monday, you can probably flip your notebook open and remind yourself.\n\nHonestly, the best $5 fix in my life was grabbing a 4\"x6\" gridded paper Pentalic notebook at my college bookstore." ]
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[ "how do I find friends? As in the title. I dont really have friends. Currently I go to university. And because of bullying during my regular school time I never had the chance to learn how you find friends", "how do I find friends? As in the title. I dont really have friends. Currently I go to university. And because of bullying during my regular school time I never had the chance to learn how you find friends", "how do I find friends? As in the title. I dont really have friends. Currently I go to university. And because of bullying during my regular school time I never had the chance to learn how you find friends", "how do I find friends? As in the title. I dont really have friends. Currently I go to university. And because of bullying during my regular school time I never had the chance to learn how you find friends", "how do I find friends? As in the title. I dont really have friends. Currently I go to university. And because of bullying during my regular school time I never had the chance to learn how you find friends", "how do I find friends? As in the title. I dont really have friends. Currently I go to university. And because of bullying during my regular school time I never had the chance to learn how you find friends", "how do I find friends? As in the title. I dont really have friends. Currently I go to university. And because of bullying during my regular school time I never had the chance to learn how you find friends", "how do I find friends? As in the title. I dont really have friends. Currently I go to university. And because of bullying during my regular school time I never had the chance to learn how you find friends", "how do I find friends? As in the title. I dont really have friends. Currently I go to university. And because of bullying during my regular school time I never had the chance to learn how you find friends" ]
[ "Volunteer for a cause you're interested in, or join a student society related to an interest of yours. There's then a structure there that gets you out and around other people, it gives you easy and obvious ice-breakers, it means you'll be seeing (and getting to know) the same people week after week, and you know that the other people around you have similair interests to you.\n\nVolunteering is an especially good one, because it's something that can extend beyond university.", "Join a club or do some activities like sport if possible. These things will get you socialising. The rest will fall into place. Best of luck, and don’t be shy, life’s too short for soloing. ", "The first step is to mature a little. Every suggestion someone has provided so far, you've dismissed as too hard or impractical (even when they're not).\n\nYou aren't going to make friends without putting in a little effort. No one is going to sit down and 'decide' to be your friend out of the blue. Once you accept that, and put some effort into one of the suggestions provided to you, your 'luck' with finding friends will change.", "Don't waste time trying to be someone or something you're not. Be you and only you, friends will come into your life eventually.", "**Online friends**\n\nForget the whole misconception that everyone on the internet is a creepy stranger. I've met all of my best friends through the internet and we're still going 4-5 years strong and meet up when we can. It's a little sad because most of them are far from me but we socialize every day through messenger.\n\nI'm an artist so I found my friends through an online community of other artists through twitter and tumblr. \n\nHave a hobby you like and start snooping around for people that share the same humor and interests as you. Start off with small interactions and build your way up. ", "Just talk to people dude, even on like reddit if there's a subreddit for your town/city go on and chat with people, I made lots of friends that way or simply by striking up a conversation with classmates from college on facebook or preferably face to face.\n\nYou'll have less in common with some than others but there's a good chance if you're studying in the same field as your classmates you'll all have more in common than you may think, Basically what i'm getting at is put yourself out there and make a few friends.\n\nAlso another word of advice, Don't make too many friends. Keep your circle small and segmented into something you can manage. It may seem counter productive \"*BUT/U/IwatchUSleepAtNight WHY CAN I NOT HAVE ALL THE FREINDS?!*\"\n\nTrust me, you'll wanna keep it down to 5/6 with 2 or 3 being good friends and the others as friends that may also seem harsh \"oh wow so treat some better than others?\" No, well.....kinda what I'm saying is it's impossible to maintain 5/6 REALLY GOOD friendships at once in my experience anyways, and once you pass 5/6 \"friends\" it starts becoming people who your just cool with and then people you hang out with and less of a true relationship.", "Join an activity that brings people together at a set, regular time, such as church or an activity with regular group meetings that will always be held whether any given person can attend or not. That's why it's so easy to make friends at school and work -- you're forced to interact with people regularly without having to plan it. When you see someone face to face, it makes it easier to make another plan, like oh hey I'm going to this show on Tuesday or what have you, rather than having to text out of the blue. Good luck! \n\nThis article explains it well: https://www.artofmanliness.com/2013/04/17/how-to-make-friends-in-a-new-city/", "If you don't have any interests other than video games, it will be difficult to make friends IRL. Try to foster more interests by developing new life skills. Do you know how to cook? It's never a bad idea to learn survival skills (being able to feed yourself is definitely an important one) and you're sure to find interesting people in classes like this. You could look at the free classes at community centers and maybe learn a new language, basic sewing, gardening.....whatever you find interesting. This will give you more opportunities to meet people and enrich your life at the same time. And, I second the volunteering suggestion.", "Go to a concert if a band or artist that you like is playing and wear a colorful shirt or something with and interesting design on it that pertains to the band maybe. In my experience people come up to you and want to ask about it or take a picture with you. " ]
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[ "How to approach an employer with a job idea (and to get them to hire you) Hello all,\n\nBackground bit first:\nI work in a specialised industry which has many inefficient strategies which are costing the industry (rather than the companies in that industry) a lot of money and time. \n\nI have a pretty solid strategy for a company I previously worked for. I recently went to a networking event and strengthened my working relationships with industry colleagues but felt it was too much of an informal setting to present my idea. \n\nHow could I present the strategy to a director of a company?\nWould I send her a file in the mail? An email? Find time in our busy calendars and arrange for a meeting over coffee and talk her through it?\n\nThank you for all your help.", "How to approach an employer with a job idea (and to get them to hire you) Hello all,\n\nBackground bit first:\nI work in a specialised industry which has many inefficient strategies which are costing the industry (rather than the companies in that industry) a lot of money and time. \n\nI have a pretty solid strategy for a company I previously worked for. I recently went to a networking event and strengthened my working relationships with industry colleagues but felt it was too much of an informal setting to present my idea. \n\nHow could I present the strategy to a director of a company?\nWould I send her a file in the mail? An email? Find time in our busy calendars and arrange for a meeting over coffee and talk her through it?\n\nThank you for all your help.", "How to approach an employer with a job idea (and to get them to hire you) Hello all,\n\nBackground bit first:\nI work in a specialised industry which has many inefficient strategies which are costing the industry (rather than the companies in that industry) a lot of money and time. \n\nI have a pretty solid strategy for a company I previously worked for. I recently went to a networking event and strengthened my working relationships with industry colleagues but felt it was too much of an informal setting to present my idea. \n\nHow could I present the strategy to a director of a company?\nWould I send her a file in the mail? An email? Find time in our busy calendars and arrange for a meeting over coffee and talk her through it?\n\nThank you for all your help." ]
[ "Realistically you don't want to be pitching for a job, people can find it uncomfortable(?). You'd get more luck if you set up a firm, build something you can sell or consult on (for hopefully more than you'd earn in a job), build a portfolio and go do it somewhere else.", "A chat over a coffee would be a good idea, but make sure you have something to sell. I.e. Why would they need you once the 'Strategy' has been explained? Are you in a position to help implement it? Provide training, provide tools to monitor and measure it's progress?\n\nAlso, you say these problems are not costing the companies a lot of money, rather 'the industry' .. so again, why would they pay you money to do something they won't benefit from? ", "This really is quite quite a challenge. There's some great advice here already. I do hiring for my company and things like that are a fine line. The approach that should work in this case is to just look for social gatherings to \"pick the brains\" of other people in the industry. Establish an expert status by doing so. If they like what they hear, you say something like \"I've been itching to get this started, do you believe we can work together on this?\". Emails usually do not get read, rather use the networking events to set up the coffees. Good luck!" ]
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[ "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n", "Overcoming anxiety around new people I always get too anxious and nervous while meeting new people like a cute girl. This leads me to stammer or miss words completely in a sentence. My friends have recommend me liquid courage(alcohol) but I rather not be substance dependent since I am completely normal, funny and in control otherwise.\n\n" ]
[ "It sounds cliche, but smiling, making eye contact, and saying \"hello\" breaks 95% of the ice when first meeting someone. Having a follow-up is the other 5%.\n\nI used to regularly see a counselor for social anxiety. This was before I entered college for journalism, and was forced to interact with strangers many times a day,every day. I received the best rapport when I smiled and said \"hello.\" This was after hundreds of failed, awkward attempts to start conversation.\n\nPractice with grocery store clerks, retail sales people, and co-workers. It will become natural in no time, at all. Keep us updated on your progress!", "So most likely is you're very worried about yourself and what they may think about you so you focus on yourself and not on the other person, and thus get really nervous. I've heard a good solution is to focus on 2 goals. Try to find out what is interesting about the other person as your goal, this should drive the conversation and help you learn about them & focus your attention on them instead of yourself. Also, your other goal w/ them should be to try and have fun - crack jokes, play a silly game, make fun of yourself. ", "practice. the more you do it, the more experience you have the more you'll feel comfortable doing it. fake your confidence and slowly you will learn to be confident. learn to be truly interested in who new people are ... ask them creative questions about themselves and their perception about the world ... this will flatter them and get them to talk and open up and will take the pressure off of you. ", "Memorize three generic questions that can help start a conversation. They can be whatever interests you, or whatever you are comfortable talking about. (How do you know {the host}? do you have a favorite spot {to eat|listen to music|hike} in the area? etc.) Whenever you get into trouble, ask one of your generic questions. ", "Just remember that they are just people too. With flaws and insecurities. Then just relax and be yourself. Don't over think it. If whoever it is doesn't like you, for you, they probably aren't worth knowing anyway.", "One thing that might help is to mentally acknowledge how you feel, which helps you get over it quicker. Pretend it's a drug that you just took and you're trying to see how it affects you, like if it makes your stomach feel tight or gets your heart rate up, etc. Don't try to judge or fight the anxious feeling, just examine it briefly with a passing curiosity and it will be easier to ignore later", "The way i do it, is be calm, remember they're people like you. Listen, look for something to say or chime in with, but don't try to hard. I find that being neutral with new people is the best way to make an impact. Always be polite, but don't be overly nice it just comes off a bit weird. ", "First things first. Stop the negative self talk that we all do in our heads. Firstly, become aware of it, notice when you do it. Secondly, say to yourself \"no\", and follow it up with a positive REAL compliment about yourself. We believe the things we tell ourself. Don't lie. And remember What's the worst thing that could happen? You fail and end up at the same position you're already at?.. So breathe. And take a chance. You've got this. ", "Ok so this may not work for you and it's still in experimental stages for myself: Do an activity before hand that raises your adrenaline, and give yourself time to come down. There are a handful of competitive video games that I can play that get my adrenaline up, and after about 30 minutes of this, I lose the knots in my stomach. It lasts for a few hours afterwards, and I've found that things I might normally dread don't have as strong a dreadful effect on me. There is no scientific backing to my method, it's just a suggestion, plus, you get to do something active that excites you.", "LPT: Don't talk too much and ask appropriate questions. \n\nAsk them topic appropriate questions and let them talk, just be sure to pay attention. Most people like to talk, especially about themselves, and over time, the more you listen to them, the more comfortable you'll feel around them. Over time, you won't feel so weird about doing the talking yourself.\n\n**Bonus Tips:**\n\n* *Avoid lulls in the conversation.* If your current topic runs dry, don't be afraid to change the subject.\n\n* *Don't talk about weather, politics or religion.* Weather tends to trigger everyone's autopilot and you end up with nothing but small talk, and politics/religion do the same but in regurgitation mode.\n\n* *Try to find a common interest.* You'll find the distraction of hearing/talking about your favorite movie or video game is often strong enough to overpower your anxiety.\n\n* *Girls like it when you know how to listen.* Don't just hear, pay close attention and try to keep up.", "Care more about emanating a (true) joy for life, interest in the other person's comments, and general respect for everyone. Show the other person that you accept them for who and how they are.\n\nCare less about whether this particular person has formed some sort of opinion about you one way or the other.\n\nIn other words, make it about the other person or \"others\" in the broader sense, and less about you, your feels, your standing in her eyes, your place in the world, etc.\n\nWhen you're on your home turf, things are more comfortable, right? Imagine that you are welcoming the person to your home and want to show them good hospitality. If you can make it so everywhere is your home, welcoming them in to your bubble of acceptance to/for everyone, it should be no problem. \n\nAnd most importantly, if someone determines that they are't going to get along with you -- which of course does happen from time to time -- it should have no bearing on whether you continue to accept and respect everyone, including that person. That's they're problem. You're too busy pouring love and respect into everyone to care that someone is having an off day/month/life to the point of disliking you.\n\nThat probably sounds like a psycho-hippie rant, but whatever. I meant it all. Good luck! <3", "You don't have to get rid of anxiety and nervousness.\n\n\nYou can still talk to people. Don't worry about worrying. Being awkward and stammering is not a big deal at all. You don't have to be fully in control or make the best impressions. People will always misunderstand some part of you on some level.", "Stop giving a fuck, live in the moment. Cute girl? Go for it or don't. Maybe go for it next time, but certainly don't fret over it. You screwed up that social situation? There will be more, don't make the same mistake twice. Most people are pretty absorbed with themselves so you don't really have much to worry about. \n\nAlso, if you're a student, school ends. Life gets better.", "Join the military. You won't necessarily stop being an introvert but with the constant changes of people and scenery you'll just eventually get over it, at least I did.", "It really is all about your perspective. You see the world as if all eyes are on you. You are the center and focus of your existence. But that isn't everyone else's perspective. You really are just some dude to them. They have no preconceived expectations of you. Some of them are as anxious about how they look and they wouldn't notice or remember your social gaffes. Remember that that ball of anxiety in your chest that you feel could be theirs too. So, turn the tables. Now it is YOUR job to relieve THEIR anxiety, to make them feel welcome. Just keep at it and remember you don't have to be the life of the party, just do your best to be honest and friendly.", "It always helps me to have a few \"go to\" conversations to start when meeting new people... To me the anxiety is worse when people stand there with nothing to say looking at each other... \"are you a sports fan?\" Or \"what do you do for work?\" Or \"Are you a gamer?\"... I have a list of easy conversation starters they work every time...", "If you're nervous around a \"cute girl\" it's completely different than \"new people\". If you want to be more comfortable around cute girls, spend more time opening conversations with ALL girls. ", "If they say hello first a better response is something like this:\n\nStranger: Hi\n\nYou (smile): Hi how are you?\n\nEasy way to open the door to a further conversation.", "I used to be really really shy and on some level I still am(still a WIP), but I have made huge progress in the last few years, especially when it comes to talking to women, so I feel like I can help here.\n\nThe \"solution\" for me has really been to just realize that women are just normal human beings like you. You have to stop putting them on a pedestal and see that you are as important and valuable as they are. It's actually the truth too, so you just have to accept it.\n\nWhen you are able to look ahead and see everyone as your equal, you will naturally be more relaxed and less self-conscious when interacting with others. ", "I found that I leave a much better impression if I don't care about me but about the other person. I ask questions instead of talking about me. I don't think of her as a cute girl but as a student/ professional in some area/ somebody who has some interesting things to tell about her work/ life/ volunteer work. Don't focus on her looks or on yourself.", "I am the same way but my personal way of dealing with it (which probably applies to others) I fake everything. I focus on what is in front of me take a deep breath and force a smile with a kind gesture. I can't stop and think anything else otherwise I'll convince myself to go another way or trip over my words. ", "Graded exposure is scientifically proven t work. http://www.anxietyaustralia.com.au/exposure-therapy/", "Forget about being interesting. Be genuinely interestED and you will find conversation comes more naturally. ", "As someone who used to be extremely anxious, nervous, shy and insecure the best advice I can give you is to go out and practice. Go hang out with your friends and genuinely enjoy yourself. Alchohol is not nececary, but it can help on some of the nervousness, at least it does for me. \nFind a hobby that involves new people. For me it's theatre and acting, which has made me pretty carefree around strangers.\nIf opening up terrifies you, you can practice by walking up to people and ask them a simple question like what time it is, or where the train station is or something. Say ok, thanks and walk away. ", "This may not be great advice for everyone, but I used this technique when I had the same issue.\n\nGo out, night clubbing, to a pub, where ever and intentionally make a fool of yourself. \n\nAt a club? Do the mother fucking robot, attempt to break dance, pop and lock like your life depends on it.\n\nI did this, and I found that after a few times I started to realise that no one would remember it, and if they did, they Dont care. I found they usually thought I was just a funny guy taking the piss or life of the party.\n\nIt doesn't have to end at bad dancing either, talk in stupid voices for a laugh, wear a stupid hat. I still wear my cookie monster hat out all the time and its a great talking piece.\n\nThe philosophy behind it is, when you step outside your comfort zone you only expand it", "Rather than thinking about making yourself comfortable, approach with the intention of making the other feel as comfortable as possible. Something else to try, when you want to strike conversation with somebody, just say \"Hello\" (bonus points if you say it with a smile) then walk away immediately. Now you've established a connection with minimal effort. So now you can approach them again without your preconceived novelty. However, as with everything, practice makes permanent. Talk to as many people as possible. ", "Don't use alcohol. It will very quickly become a crutch, and maybe later a dependency.\n\nI know this may not be super helpful, but I got a lot more comfortable talking to strangers after I was working a phone sales job. An in person sales job would be even better. I think the reason it worked is because when I was talking to people as a salesperson, I didn't have to be concerned too much with whether or not the person liked me, or every little detail about what they thought of me. It's almost like acting. If the person didn't want to talk with me, it was because they weren't interested in the product.\n\nThere might be volunteer phone work opportunities is you check around. You could get better at speaking with strangers while helping people out." ]
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[ "Season a rusted cast iron pan I have a cast iron pan that has a decent amount of rust on the cooking surface. How do I bring this back to life. Thanks for the input", "Season a rusted cast iron pan I have a cast iron pan that has a decent amount of rust on the cooking surface. How do I bring this back to life. Thanks for the input" ]
[ "Easy, but time consuming. scrub off all the rust with steel wool, first. \n\nNow you have a clean, but useless skillet. Next season the skillet by bringing it to high heat and generously but evenly coating it with peanut oil. The peanut oil specifically is important as proper seasoning requires prolonged exposure to high heat. Peanut oil has a very high smoking point.\n\nOnce the skillet is thoroughly coated, inside and out, put it on the middle rack of an oven preheated to around 500f and leave it there for an hour or more. I recommend letting it cool, then regreasing and reheating two additional times.\n\nFor the foreseeable future, grease the inside of the skillet after every cleaning. Avoid water in the skillet as much as possible and NEVER use soap. If anything sticks, clean it with a special green scrubby that has never touched soap.\n\nLong term, people have different opinions over how often to reseason or regrease. Find what works for you. If you ever royally screw up the skillet, you can start from scratch by running the skillet through the oven's self-cleaning cycle. It will burn the seasoning right off, down to gunmetal gray.\n\nEnjoy!", "I always used to use a little Pam after cleaning. A quick wipe with a paper towel takes care of any excess.\n" ]
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[ "My bathroom periodically makes loud noises (like water is running somewhere maybe?) periodically for about 10-15 seconds each time. What is this and is there a way to stop it? ", "My bathroom periodically makes loud noises (like water is running somewhere maybe?) periodically for about 10-15 seconds each time. What is this and is there a way to stop it? ", "My bathroom periodically makes loud noises (like water is running somewhere maybe?) periodically for about 10-15 seconds each time. What is this and is there a way to stop it? " ]
[ "Your flapper valve on your toilet is probably not seating right, so a little water is running continuously from the tank to the bowl. Every so often the tank fill valve opens to keep the tank topped off. That's what you are hearing. Not hard or expensive to fix, home depot will have a replacement flapper kit.\n\n[", "Protip: if you've used any additives to the toilet tank that give you \"blue water\" (Like a 2000 flushes tablet) It's the problem. Chlorine reacts with the rubber in the flapper and they tend to warp causing a seat failure. Use the type that clip to the rim of the BOWL. not the kind that goes into the tank. ", "If you are in an apartment type building, you are probably hearing the sewage pipe draining when someone above you flushes a toilet. \n\nThe sewage pipes run almost straight down and will make a splashing noises so distinct that it can sound like water should be splashing on the floor of your room. " ]
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[ "Eating healthy as a busy student living off-campus Money isn't really an issue, just looking to improve my diet without having to spend a lot of time prepping food.", "Eating healthy as a busy student living off-campus Money isn't really an issue, just looking to improve my diet without having to spend a lot of time prepping food.", "Eating healthy as a busy student living off-campus Money isn't really an issue, just looking to improve my diet without having to spend a lot of time prepping food.", "Eating healthy as a busy student living off-campus Money isn't really an issue, just looking to improve my diet without having to spend a lot of time prepping food." ]
[ "Get a crockpot and a Foreman grill for meats. I eat a lot of chicken, tuna, lean beef and pork. With those two kitchen appliances, you can cut out a lot of prep time for meals. Find some crockpot recipes online, throw the ingredients on there when you leave for class in the morning, and you have an awesome dinner when you get home that night. Instead of buying chicken breasts, buy boneless skinless tenderloins. They're the same thing, but they cook faster and more evenly. \n\nFor snacks, stick to fruits and nuts. My go-to food when I'm in a hurry is a banana or apple with one of those little individual cups of Jif. Dip it or keep some plasticware knives in your car. ", "If you have a lot of ramen like most college students, instead of just making the ramen plain out of the package, add green onion, some vegetables, one or two eggs, and dashes of soy sauce, sesame oil, and sriracha. It's easy and tastes so much better.\n\nBetter yet, you can skip all of their prepackaged seasoning if you'd like, so it's not completely awful for you.", "Can't say much but as a student for fruits I stick to bananas, they're not really required to be washed, they are easy to peel, they taste alright and they don't leave any mess after them. ", "I pick up a pack of salad mix vegetables, pre-cooked chicken breast strips, and add dressing or a salt/olive oil mix. To mix it up (no pun intended) I add stuff like almonds, croutons, sunflower seeds, those tiny tomatoes, etc.\n\nEverything is pretty much packaged, which is both its best (little effort required) and worst (cost, freshness) quality. But hey, better than eating out all the time and easier than cooking." ]
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[ "How to control nervousness in any situation. Some background for you. I am taking a physical agility test for a job tomorrow morning and I have been pretty fine about it up until today. I am incredibly nervous about it because I don't feel like I am 100% ready. How should I attempt to manage this nervousness and turn it into positive reinforcement?", "How to control nervousness in any situation. Some background for you. I am taking a physical agility test for a job tomorrow morning and I have been pretty fine about it up until today. I am incredibly nervous about it because I don't feel like I am 100% ready. How should I attempt to manage this nervousness and turn it into positive reinforcement?", "How to control nervousness in any situation. Some background for you. I am taking a physical agility test for a job tomorrow morning and I have been pretty fine about it up until today. I am incredibly nervous about it because I don't feel like I am 100% ready. How should I attempt to manage this nervousness and turn it into positive reinforcement?", "How to control nervousness in any situation. Some background for you. I am taking a physical agility test for a job tomorrow morning and I have been pretty fine about it up until today. I am incredibly nervous about it because I don't feel like I am 100% ready. How should I attempt to manage this nervousness and turn it into positive reinforcement?" ]
[ "Mentally reframe this \"test\" as a challenge. By thinking about your task as something you want to conquer rather than as a way of being evaluated, you can convert your nervousness into performance-boosting excitement. The physiological responses for nervousness and excitement are almost identical, so the way you choose to process it will help you approach it in a more positive, less stressed-out way. \n\nIf you find that you're getting too nervous/excited just before the challenge, try a few rounds of a deep breathing cycle. Breathe in for a count of 5, hold for 1, exhale for 8, hold for 1, and repeat. You want to pull yourself into a \"happy medium\" of excitement/nervousness to help you perform your best, so trying to breathe and relax a bit should get you there.\n\nGood luck!", "Public speaking and public performance are our greatest fear.Most people you admire as perfect orator or performer feel like you every time they face the audience.No one is 100% ready.Follow https://www.reddit.com/user/lighteningmcgreen advice and consider that most of of the judges have gone thru your test and wish you success.", "Not easy. In some situations you can try to persuade yourself that you can do well in the worst case scenario, sometimes you just have to distract yourself", "Fake it till you make it.\n\nReally, focus on what you know you're good at during the test. Show off your talent, don't treat it like a test.\n\n\n" ]
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[ "How to abstain when offered sweets? Hi all, I have a spring break trip planned for March and want to make sure I look good! I already have a relatively healthy diet, I just need help saying no when sweets are around! Any tips are appreciated! \n\n", "How to abstain when offered sweets? Hi all, I have a spring break trip planned for March and want to make sure I look good! I already have a relatively healthy diet, I just need help saying no when sweets are around! Any tips are appreciated! \n\n", "How to abstain when offered sweets? Hi all, I have a spring break trip planned for March and want to make sure I look good! I already have a relatively healthy diet, I just need help saying no when sweets are around! Any tips are appreciated! \n\n", "How to abstain when offered sweets? Hi all, I have a spring break trip planned for March and want to make sure I look good! I already have a relatively healthy diet, I just need help saying no when sweets are around! Any tips are appreciated! \n\n", "How to abstain when offered sweets? Hi all, I have a spring break trip planned for March and want to make sure I look good! I already have a relatively healthy diet, I just need help saying no when sweets are around! Any tips are appreciated! \n\n" ]
[ "The best and most sincere rejections are the simplest, \"No thanks\" with a smile is better than a deep explanation about why you don't want to eat something.", "My suggestion is to pretend that if you accept the sweets, someone else will go without. I work in a community setting, and every other day a co-worker brings in sweets for everyone. Fortunately, there are enough people that after a few hours, the sweets will already be gone. I don't have as much trouble ignoring them as I used to. My trick was just to imagine that the sweets were not for me. They were for others.\n\nOf course, this tip wouldn't work if it's just a friend offering you and only you the sweet. In that case, pretend that you'd rather let them have it all. If they intend to throw it away, give it to someone else within the vicinity. ", "Keep healthy snacks around such as celery, carrot sticks, almonds, etc, never let yourself get too hungry.\n\nA healthy diet doesn't have to involve depriving yourself or always feeling hungry.", "Hey, if you're asking for what you're supposed to do when you're offered sweets by others, just politely decline, people won't force it upon you.\n\nOn the other hand, if this is more of a self control thing, drink some water and remember that you do NOT need it because its excess calories. Also, adding more protein to your diet reduces your urge to eat more sweet/ sugar.", "first: aww sweets, thank you very much :~) and a good amount\n\nthen: nah I don't wanna be (too) greedy.\n\ntransparency seems to work very well." ]
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[ "Tips to boost cell phone signal Climbing a tree? Making an antenna out aluminum foil and coat hangers? What are some effective ways to boost my cell signal?", "Tips to boost cell phone signal Climbing a tree? Making an antenna out aluminum foil and coat hangers? What are some effective ways to boost my cell signal?", "Tips to boost cell phone signal Climbing a tree? Making an antenna out aluminum foil and coat hangers? What are some effective ways to boost my cell signal?", "Tips to boost cell phone signal Climbing a tree? Making an antenna out aluminum foil and coat hangers? What are some effective ways to boost my cell signal?", "Tips to boost cell phone signal Climbing a tree? Making an antenna out aluminum foil and coat hangers? What are some effective ways to boost my cell signal?", "Tips to boost cell phone signal Climbing a tree? Making an antenna out aluminum foil and coat hangers? What are some effective ways to boost my cell signal?", "Tips to boost cell phone signal Climbing a tree? Making an antenna out aluminum foil and coat hangers? What are some effective ways to boost my cell signal?" ]
[ "When i'm trying to receive a text message and i have no cell signal, i call my voicemail and wait like 4 or a 5 seconds. If there is a text message it will pop up by then. (I have an old samsung phone)", "I used to work on the railroad and would sit beside a powered radio antenna to boost my own cell signal. Same theory applies to any independant signal transmitter / receiver. I have not tested with GPS, satellite radio, etc.\n\nAlso, stay out of covered bridges, tunnels, car parkades, thick walled buildings. They can act like farraday cages and block signals.\n\nTalk to your cellphone retailer as they may have additional hardware that can boost your signal in remote locations.", "Turn the phone upside down. On most new cell phones, the receiver is at the bottom of the phone, so if you invert it, you'll get a better signal.", "Most of the advice given so far wont make any difference in BOOSTING cell signal outside of the phones capabilities. \n\nOnly way is by directly connecting an antenna, or (if that is not possible or feasible) using a powered repeater/amplifier such as [this.](http://www.alternativewireless.com/wilson-sleek-cell-phone-signal-booster.html) \n\nIf you decide to invest in a repeater/amplifier, make sure you find out the frequencies your phone/provider uses (such as 800Mhz, 1900Mhz, 2100Mhz, 1700Mhz, 700Mhz, etc). repeater/amplifiers boost a frequency, so it doesnt matter if you use CDMA or GSM, digital or analog. ", "Find out where the internal antenna is in your model, and don't hold your hand over it while in a call. I find a lot of people do this.", "I usually place my cell phone in a large bowl, a metallic one works best, but i have Stoneware bowls that work rather well too. The idea is that the bowl catches the radio-waves and directs them to your cell phone. It normally amplifies my signal from little to no service, up to between 3 and 4 bars. (My phone only goes to 4.)", "I don't know if this would work for you, but here at work I never have any bars and barely pick up edge, let alone 3g. I can't send out messages or make calls, but for some reason my phone has no problem at all receiving anything.\n\nI've noticed that when I receive something, if I act quick I can usually send something out while that little bit of service is there. A lot of times I will either use another persons phone or my email to send something to my phone and then send all the stuff in my outbox all at once.\n\nIt's a pain, but it works most of the time." ]
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[ "How to lock a door without a lock? My girlfriend is in the same house with her sister, who has previously acted aggressively towards her. Normally I wouldn't be worried but her parents aren't in the country.\n\nI would like to know if there's any way to keep the door closed (and her safe from harm) without a door lock.\n\nUsing a chair isn't an option and she doesn't have enough coins to use as a wedge (google search has given me these options) she also doesn't have an actual wedge. Any ideas?", "How to lock a door without a lock? My girlfriend is in the same house with her sister, who has previously acted aggressively towards her. Normally I wouldn't be worried but her parents aren't in the country.\n\nI would like to know if there's any way to keep the door closed (and her safe from harm) without a door lock.\n\nUsing a chair isn't an option and she doesn't have enough coins to use as a wedge (google search has given me these options) she also doesn't have an actual wedge. Any ideas?", "How to lock a door without a lock? My girlfriend is in the same house with her sister, who has previously acted aggressively towards her. Normally I wouldn't be worried but her parents aren't in the country.\n\nI would like to know if there's any way to keep the door closed (and her safe from harm) without a door lock.\n\nUsing a chair isn't an option and she doesn't have enough coins to use as a wedge (google search has given me these options) she also doesn't have an actual wedge. Any ideas?", "How to lock a door without a lock? My girlfriend is in the same house with her sister, who has previously acted aggressively towards her. Normally I wouldn't be worried but her parents aren't in the country.\n\nI would like to know if there's any way to keep the door closed (and her safe from harm) without a door lock.\n\nUsing a chair isn't an option and she doesn't have enough coins to use as a wedge (google search has given me these options) she also doesn't have an actual wedge. Any ideas?", "How to lock a door without a lock? My girlfriend is in the same house with her sister, who has previously acted aggressively towards her. Normally I wouldn't be worried but her parents aren't in the country.\n\nI would like to know if there's any way to keep the door closed (and her safe from harm) without a door lock.\n\nUsing a chair isn't an option and she doesn't have enough coins to use as a wedge (google search has given me these options) she also doesn't have an actual wedge. Any ideas?", "How to lock a door without a lock? My girlfriend is in the same house with her sister, who has previously acted aggressively towards her. Normally I wouldn't be worried but her parents aren't in the country.\n\nI would like to know if there's any way to keep the door closed (and her safe from harm) without a door lock.\n\nUsing a chair isn't an option and she doesn't have enough coins to use as a wedge (google search has given me these options) she also doesn't have an actual wedge. Any ideas?" ]
[ "When you turn the door handle, that force is transferred to a metal bar called a spindle, which moves the latch when it twists. If you remove the door handle inside the room, and then pull out the spindle, it means that the outside door knob will no longer work the latch, and the door won't open. When you're ready to open the door, slide the spindle back in and put the door handle back on. ", "Home Depot trip and $20. And the screw holes can be filled with putty when it's not needed. \n\nhttp://imgur.com/bqHbflP", "get a small towel or a really light shirt, and tie it on to the door nob as hard as you can where the handle spins, just like a pretzel tie or something, they cant twist the door knob from the other side to open the door.", "Buy an addalock. I was in a similar position because my door didn't have a lock. Works extremely well and is very affordable. You don't have to assemble anything, just add it on your existing door and take it off when you're done. It's on Amazon too. ", "Place the chair in front of the lever. An intruder will not be able to push the lever because of the pressure from the chair. Put a chair under a door knob and wedge it beneath the door knob if it's a door knob you're dealing with. The chair's two back legs must touch the ground, while the other two do not.", "I'm on my phone so I can't link it right now, but if you search \"making a lock out of a fork\" I should be able to find something. I think I saw it on this subreddit, in fact. " ]
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[ "How to deal with a terrible cold? i cant go to the doctor as they wont give me any medicine for cold. i have the worst cold right now. My head is in pain all the time and my nose is always running. I am also coughing a lot. i feel terrible. I took warm showers, drank warm herbs, ate paracetamol but things are not getting so better.\n", "How to deal with a terrible cold? i cant go to the doctor as they wont give me any medicine for cold. i have the worst cold right now. My head is in pain all the time and my nose is always running. I am also coughing a lot. i feel terrible. I took warm showers, drank warm herbs, ate paracetamol but things are not getting so better.\n", "How to deal with a terrible cold? i cant go to the doctor as they wont give me any medicine for cold. i have the worst cold right now. My head is in pain all the time and my nose is always running. I am also coughing a lot. i feel terrible. I took warm showers, drank warm herbs, ate paracetamol but things are not getting so better.\n", "How to deal with a terrible cold? i cant go to the doctor as they wont give me any medicine for cold. i have the worst cold right now. My head is in pain all the time and my nose is always running. I am also coughing a lot. i feel terrible. I took warm showers, drank warm herbs, ate paracetamol but things are not getting so better.\n", "How to deal with a terrible cold? i cant go to the doctor as they wont give me any medicine for cold. i have the worst cold right now. My head is in pain all the time and my nose is always running. I am also coughing a lot. i feel terrible. I took warm showers, drank warm herbs, ate paracetamol but things are not getting so better.\n", "How to deal with a terrible cold? i cant go to the doctor as they wont give me any medicine for cold. i have the worst cold right now. My head is in pain all the time and my nose is always running. I am also coughing a lot. i feel terrible. I took warm showers, drank warm herbs, ate paracetamol but things are not getting so better.\n", "How to deal with a terrible cold? i cant go to the doctor as they wont give me any medicine for cold. i have the worst cold right now. My head is in pain all the time and my nose is always running. I am also coughing a lot. i feel terrible. I took warm showers, drank warm herbs, ate paracetamol but things are not getting so better.\n" ]
[ "A bad cold has several stages. \n\n1. I think I'm getting a cold. It's not too bad but will be a bit of a pain. \n2. Okay this is worse than I thought. \n3. This isn't a cold. I'm dying. This is it, I accept it even though it's too soon. Tell my family I love them. \n4. Please kill me. Why am I not dead yet?\n5. Slight improvement but don't dare to hope yet. \n6. Gradually get better. \n7. Proceed to forget how bad it was until the next cold, when you curse the day you ever took breathing through both nostrils for granted. \n\n\n\nTaking DayQuil or Robotussin, Sudafed (real kind behind the counter. Not the fake PE version. It's the only thing for serious congestion.) Water, hot showers, green tea with honey and lemon (highly recommended), apple cider vinegar, hydrogen peroxide mouthwash (dilute with water and rinse throat, helps soreness), and get a Neti pot or saline spray to clear things out in a hot shower. \n\nTry a vaporizer. A machine that makes steam. Sleep with it next to your bed. Look for the kind that had menthol that can be added to the steam. Vicks and other brands make them. Those things are great. \n\nMight sound odd, but sleep with a scarf or small towel loosely around your neck. It's very comforting somehow. \n\nCannot emphasize drinking lots of water enough. \n\nThis all helps a lot though not an instant cure. \n\nI've also heard of a nurse who would take like 20 vitamin C pills when she felt one coming on. It can't hurt your body because it flushes out any you don't use. YMMV but it is good at least in the early phase, in my experience. ", "You're just gonna have to rest it out and let your body take its course. The reason you feel sick and hot is due to your body fighting off the sickness.", "Drink a lot of water. Like, a lot of it. Thins out the mucous and helps sooth a sore throat. Warm or cold water, doesn't really matter, but lots of it. ", "Nostrilla nasal spray. Otc probably causes you to grow another boob or something, but is the best shit on earth. Won't make you feel like you are breathing ice water, clears you out, seemingly less addictive. ", "For a sore throat, buy some lemonade and shake the ever loving piss out of it so it goes flat. A lot easier to sip than water\n\nGargle 2-3 times a day for 30 seconds with mouthwash I find helps also.\n\nCold and flu tablets with the real pseudoephedrine.\n", "Dip a rag or a napkin in alcohol and place it on your neck, then cover it with a neck scarf and stay all day in a warm place, try drinking hot tea and avoid smoking, if you do. Also, don’t take medications without prescription. Also, I have a friend who combined propolis with alcohol and it’s very strong and good when sick. Just drink a spoon of that with honey or sugar to avoid burning your neck and you’ll be fine in a couple of days. Stay hydrate as much as you can.\n", "Try to find a shop selling neti pods, it gets rid of all the shit in your nose and leaves you being able to breathe properly" ]
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[ "How to stop people from always asking and not returning my stationery? All too often, I'm approached by my classmates for a pen or other school supply. I generally give them the item, and if I don't then they often get quite angry. Many times it has happened that I've lended someone a brand new pen that I have bought, and they lose it or forget to return it, and I never see the pen again. How can I decline this without looking rude or make sure my stationery is always returned?", "How to stop people from always asking and not returning my stationery? All too often, I'm approached by my classmates for a pen or other school supply. I generally give them the item, and if I don't then they often get quite angry. Many times it has happened that I've lended someone a brand new pen that I have bought, and they lose it or forget to return it, and I never see the pen again. How can I decline this without looking rude or make sure my stationery is always returned?", "How to stop people from always asking and not returning my stationery? All too often, I'm approached by my classmates for a pen or other school supply. I generally give them the item, and if I don't then they often get quite angry. Many times it has happened that I've lended someone a brand new pen that I have bought, and they lose it or forget to return it, and I never see the pen again. How can I decline this without looking rude or make sure my stationery is always returned?", "How to stop people from always asking and not returning my stationery? All too often, I'm approached by my classmates for a pen or other school supply. I generally give them the item, and if I don't then they often get quite angry. Many times it has happened that I've lended someone a brand new pen that I have bought, and they lose it or forget to return it, and I never see the pen again. How can I decline this without looking rude or make sure my stationery is always returned?", "How to stop people from always asking and not returning my stationery? All too often, I'm approached by my classmates for a pen or other school supply. I generally give them the item, and if I don't then they often get quite angry. Many times it has happened that I've lended someone a brand new pen that I have bought, and they lose it or forget to return it, and I never see the pen again. How can I decline this without looking rude or make sure my stationery is always returned?", "How to stop people from always asking and not returning my stationery? All too often, I'm approached by my classmates for a pen or other school supply. I generally give them the item, and if I don't then they often get quite angry. Many times it has happened that I've lended someone a brand new pen that I have bought, and they lose it or forget to return it, and I never see the pen again. How can I decline this without looking rude or make sure my stationery is always returned?", "How to stop people from always asking and not returning my stationery? All too often, I'm approached by my classmates for a pen or other school supply. I generally give them the item, and if I don't then they often get quite angry. Many times it has happened that I've lended someone a brand new pen that I have bought, and they lose it or forget to return it, and I never see the pen again. How can I decline this without looking rude or make sure my stationery is always returned?", "How to stop people from always asking and not returning my stationery? All too often, I'm approached by my classmates for a pen or other school supply. I generally give them the item, and if I don't then they often get quite angry. Many times it has happened that I've lended someone a brand new pen that I have bought, and they lose it or forget to return it, and I never see the pen again. How can I decline this without looking rude or make sure my stationery is always returned?" ]
[ "Become the irresponsible student that brings nothing to class. \n\nOr, have \"your\" pens. The ones you like. Then buy some super cheap pens or even better start collecting free pens that you don't mind losing. Then you're still the one that is nice and shares pens, but your stress is gone. ", "Tape something to the pen that's large and obnoxious. It will still be usable if they're desperate, but it will be inconvenient and obvious if they don't give it back. \n\nA huge, ugly flower. A small stuffed animal. '50 Shades of Gray'. I've actually taped a string to my pen (lots and lots of tape), and then tied to the string to my backpack. They can borrow it (must sit near me). No, they can't cut the string. \n\nMake sure you point it out loudly \"YES, CHRIS, YOU CAN BORROW MY PEN THAT IS TIED TO MY BACKPACK WITH A LONG RED RIBBON. PLEASE DON'T CUT IT.\"", "Lend someone a pen.\n\nAsk for it back in the most crowded area.\n\nStone Cold Stunner them if they've lost it.\n\nMessage sent.", "You could always just keep a supply of cheap pens/pencils and lend those out instead of your nice ones.", "Suggestions that are more fun, but actually cost $ - \npens with silly companies on them - *Farmer's Proctology - Turn Your Head and Cough*\n\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Fred-Friends-BORROW-PEN-Subversive/dp/B003ASXDT4\n\nPens by the pound - you won't care about losing them: $10 for 2lbs of pens; about 100 misprinted pens.\n\nhttps://www.sciplus.com/p/TWO-POUNDS-OF-PENS_46666\n\nCustom pens:\n\nTHIS PEN STOLEN FROM /U/STATICTACO BECAUSE I'M A THIEF", "Just say no. Or, if you want to be helpful but not taken advantage of, buy a box of golf pencils and carry some of those with you. \"Sorry, this is all I've got to lend.\"", "If you are 'cool' you just say I don't have a spare, sorry. If you aren't, you can get a bunch of cheap writing utensils and consider it a cheap cost of being friendly. Since people already go to you, you are stuck. They will keep asking for awhile. Keep one pen on you and hide one in the bottom of your bag as a backup if you don't want to share.", "> How can I decline this without looking rude \n\nThey are using you. You can say \"no\" to people who (ab)use your friendlyness.\n\nFind out who nice people are, those become your friends. The others? Say \"no\", do not be unpolite, make an excuse if you have to, but do not give out stuff.\n\nYou say \"All too often\" that happens to you. I bet those who come to you are not your \"friends\", right? Sorry to be this blunt: but you're the sucker those people go to when they did not prepare themselves. \n\n\"No\" is a very valid answer in many situations in life. Extend it with whatever is appropiate to the situation to be polite. You might be a sucker that coughs up stuff people didn't care about (because you are there) but you can grow out of that role." ]
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[ "how to take/organize notes efficiently I find myself often wasting time studying just parsing through my notes, Ive heard of color coding but switching colors during a lesson is pretty tedious.", "how to take/organize notes efficiently I find myself often wasting time studying just parsing through my notes, Ive heard of color coding but switching colors during a lesson is pretty tedious." ]
[ "While you're in class, take down as much important information as you can while making sure to focus on what your prof is saying. Some people find it handy to print out the lecture slides if they're available or record the lecture. Don't worry about any fancy colour-coding or organizing until after class or your next study session. At that point, you can go through all of your notes, reflect upon the lecture, and add to them. At that point I like to make myself a neat, organized \"master\" study sheet... this is where you can get creative and spend extra focus on those trickier concepts! ", "I use the Cornell method someone suggested on here, google it and give it a try. Works like a charm for me " ]
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[ "Tips when buying a new car. How to not get ripped off and/or get the best deal I'm buying a new car, trading my old one. Been reading about tips and ways to not get swindled and how I can make sure I'm getting a decent deal.", "Tips when buying a new car. How to not get ripped off and/or get the best deal I'm buying a new car, trading my old one. Been reading about tips and ways to not get swindled and how I can make sure I'm getting a decent deal.", "Tips when buying a new car. How to not get ripped off and/or get the best deal I'm buying a new car, trading my old one. Been reading about tips and ways to not get swindled and how I can make sure I'm getting a decent deal.", "Tips when buying a new car. How to not get ripped off and/or get the best deal I'm buying a new car, trading my old one. Been reading about tips and ways to not get swindled and how I can make sure I'm getting a decent deal.", "Tips when buying a new car. How to not get ripped off and/or get the best deal I'm buying a new car, trading my old one. Been reading about tips and ways to not get swindled and how I can make sure I'm getting a decent deal.", "Tips when buying a new car. How to not get ripped off and/or get the best deal I'm buying a new car, trading my old one. Been reading about tips and ways to not get swindled and how I can make sure I'm getting a decent deal.", "Tips when buying a new car. How to not get ripped off and/or get the best deal I'm buying a new car, trading my old one. Been reading about tips and ways to not get swindled and how I can make sure I'm getting a decent deal." ]
[ "Research prices, models, trim packages and options. If you go to a dealership and you let the salesman suggest a vehicle or they know more about the vehicle you want than you do, you put yourself at significantly higher risk for getting ripped off.\n\nYou said you have a vehicle to trade in. I have a few things to say about that. First, having a vehicle to trade gives you the advantage because you don't need a vehicle. Second, I wouldn't trade it in unless you still owe on it. Most of the time you can get more money for it by selling it yourself. If you do decide to trade it in for whatever reason, make sure you know the value of the trade-in. The internet killed a lot of dealership negotiating but there's still quite a bit of negotiating room on trade-ins.\n\nIt basically comes down to knowing what you want and doing everything you can to be the smartest person in the deal", "Firstly, buy pre-owned. \n\nSecondly, *never* trust a car salesman. Their job is to make money, not help you. Double check everything and push as hard as you can.", "Don’t just accept an offer walking in. Most times if you go to leave without buying, they’ll stop you and make a better offer. And if they don’t, you can always go back later if you really wanted the car. But definitely test drive and try out multiple cars/dealers.", "Compare prices of the most identical car you can across dealerships. Go in with that information. If you're willing to walk after telling a salesman you want to buy, they will do their best to make the sale but if anyone gives you too hard of a time or is being an utter brat, then you can let them know \"That's fine, I can go to another dealership that had this car for X\", and walk out with a viable alternative. Don't let them claim the other one will have more fees etc. this is a game all salesmen play.\n\nDon't let them play up the things the dealership adds to the cars (pinstriping, mud flaps etc.) as a reason to jack up a price. They add them purely to try and get more money out of you. You can often negotiate that down or away if you're persistant or say you can get a car without it elsewhere.\n\nFinance-wise: If you're taking out a loan, get an offer from an outside source and walk in with their offer (without promising to take it yet) as well, it can help get you a lower rate on the loan at the dealership if you want to go that route (or else you can always go with the loan that the bank gave you). Also you can often see what sort of terms they're offering on their website, use that and put in different numbers to get an idea of what it SHOULD be at the percentages you may qualify for. If it comes back way higher tell them no - they hide additional \"insurance\" etc. in it and don't tell you upfront and you'll have to get them to show you exactly what is in it or be very firm that it should only be a monthly payment of \"X\" at most.\n\nRead the fine print. All. Of. It. Before you sign anything.\n\nIf you want some additional feature (tinting, add-ons) do NOT tell your salesman. Wait until you're dealing with the finance guys; they want to close the deal and can get you better prices than sales because every department closer to the customer on the lot will charge more for the same thing.\n\n", "Also check out websites like unhaggle or lease busters to understand what people are paying for similar car packages... (Canada not sure if they have something similar in other locations)", "1. Befriend or become a hobbyist mechanic.\n2. Learn how long your car will last and how much it is costing per year.\n3. Find a used car under 70,000 miles.\n4. Put the rest in an emergency fund, debt or anywhere but a new car!", "1) Before calling/visiting dealership, do research. Use truecar.com to check what the recent purchase prices (b4 tax/fees) are in your area. It will display a price range. Find what an excellent price is. Add tax/fee estimates to it and form your lowest out the door (\"OTD\") price (bid) offer. \n\n(optional) Learn all the financing lingos such as APR/money factor/residual value. Learn how to calculate monthly loan/lease pmts from these using a spreadsheet. This skill will come handy later during negotiation. \n\n2) Get several online quotes using websites and emails. Contact 3-5 dealers who you want to visit to schedule appointments in 1 or 2-day window. \n \n3) Visit the dealer and ask for OTD price (or all 3 offers: lease/financing/cash). Salesman will bring a piece of paper with their initial offer price. Ask him whether you can write the numbers down to verify the math. Enter MSRP, discount/rebates, tax/fees, financing terms, trade-in, etc as much as possible in your spreadsheet. If he says no, then walk out as most dealers allow this these days (some even let you take the paper with you). \n\nTheir initial \"ask\" offer is likely be several thousands higher than the number you have in mind (\"bid\"). Totally fine. Just flip the page, and tell the salesman, \"I'll write a number down here. Will you take this to the sales manager and tell him that if he matches this OTD price, I'll buy it right now?\" This achieves 2 effects. First, it makes salesman's job much easier as he now officially becomes a messenger between 2 decision making parties. Second, this will indicate you are a serious buyer. \n\nHe will return in 30-60 min and the dealer will force you to wait, which is a sales strategy. Use this time on spreadsheet. Verify all the numbers presented to you are accurate by doing your own math. It's likely accurate because those numbers are calculated by a computer not by hand. But you will find how much extra fees/taxes is, which are different across dealers. \n\nWhen the salesman returns, you can immediately determine whether the sales manager is willing to work with you or not. If latter, just walk out. If former, then you are one step closer to getting the deal you want but expect 1-2 more rounds of negotiation and be firm with your number. Tell the sales manager to speak to the \"general sales manager\" (sales manager's boss, who typically is the final decision maker) that I have scheduled appointments at other local dealers but want to buy it from you today. Compliment what you like about the dealership. Since this will take another 30-60 minutes, ask for another test drive, which indicates your seriousness to buy. When test driving, take your time and try to find any defects in the car. \n\nWhen the sales manager brings the new number back, you can tell whether you will get the final number you want or not. They may offer non-cash benefits instead such as free maintenance but be firm with OTD price negotiation. There are a few things the dealers can do to nudge several hundred dollars off. \n\nThis whole negotiation process alone may take up 1-3 hours, depending on how far the 2 initial offers (bid, ask) are. So be patient." ]
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[ "How to stop receiving old roommates' mail? This is mainly for one person in particular; a roommate I had for a little while, that moved out and to a different state over a year ago. I complained to him for months afterwards that I was still getting his mail; he claimed to have filed a change of address with USPS, but I suspect he was lying and dodging bill collectors. At this point I no longer have a means to contact him and I have no idea exactly where he's living. \n\nI contacted my local post office directly, and even spoke to a mailman dropping our mail off once (I live in a condo complex), and they pretty much just told me to leave a note in the box where it lists the residents (I did), and mark any of his mail \"Return to sender\" and stick it back in the box (I have been for a while now). \n\nI've even gone as far as contacting some of the companies that sent him things frequently, like his former bank, and they agreed to remove my address, but I'm still receiving some. It's incredibly frustrating. \n\nFor additional reference - My ex, who moved out 2.5 years ago, still occasionally gets mail sent here as well. She was even very diligent about filing a change of address and updating her contact info everywhere. \n", "How to stop receiving old roommates' mail? This is mainly for one person in particular; a roommate I had for a little while, that moved out and to a different state over a year ago. I complained to him for months afterwards that I was still getting his mail; he claimed to have filed a change of address with USPS, but I suspect he was lying and dodging bill collectors. At this point I no longer have a means to contact him and I have no idea exactly where he's living. \n\nI contacted my local post office directly, and even spoke to a mailman dropping our mail off once (I live in a condo complex), and they pretty much just told me to leave a note in the box where it lists the residents (I did), and mark any of his mail \"Return to sender\" and stick it back in the box (I have been for a while now). \n\nI've even gone as far as contacting some of the companies that sent him things frequently, like his former bank, and they agreed to remove my address, but I'm still receiving some. It's incredibly frustrating. \n\nFor additional reference - My ex, who moved out 2.5 years ago, still occasionally gets mail sent here as well. She was even very diligent about filing a change of address and updating her contact info everywhere. \n", "How to stop receiving old roommates' mail? This is mainly for one person in particular; a roommate I had for a little while, that moved out and to a different state over a year ago. I complained to him for months afterwards that I was still getting his mail; he claimed to have filed a change of address with USPS, but I suspect he was lying and dodging bill collectors. At this point I no longer have a means to contact him and I have no idea exactly where he's living. \n\nI contacted my local post office directly, and even spoke to a mailman dropping our mail off once (I live in a condo complex), and they pretty much just told me to leave a note in the box where it lists the residents (I did), and mark any of his mail \"Return to sender\" and stick it back in the box (I have been for a while now). \n\nI've even gone as far as contacting some of the companies that sent him things frequently, like his former bank, and they agreed to remove my address, but I'm still receiving some. It's incredibly frustrating. \n\nFor additional reference - My ex, who moved out 2.5 years ago, still occasionally gets mail sent here as well. She was even very diligent about filing a change of address and updating her contact info everywhere. \n" ]
[ "Any mail that’s standard “catalogs, advertisements” or non for profit “send us money” is not returned to sender as they have not paid for that service. They will come indefinitely. The post office recycles this mail when it’s retrieved from your mailbox. ", "Crossing off the name and writing \"return to sender\" or \"not at this address\" and putting it back in a mailbox should get the message across. Can take some time, I got beautiful big brochures for cruises and villas in Italy for a past resident for years. If they won't take people off their list, they are the ones wasting money. ", "Get ready to waste a week making phone calls.\n\nOpen every bit of mail that comes in. Call the sender and inform them that he no longer lives at that address. If they argue, threaten legal action. \n\n" ]
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[ "Suggestions and thoughts about eliminating or replacing words in our vocabulary to obtain better mindsets or re-frame situations? (For E.g. they say replace \"should\" with \"could\"; replace the word \"problem\" with \"challenge\", etc.) ", "Suggestions and thoughts about eliminating or replacing words in our vocabulary to obtain better mindsets or re-frame situations? (For E.g. they say replace \"should\" with \"could\"; replace the word \"problem\" with \"challenge\", etc.) ", "Suggestions and thoughts about eliminating or replacing words in our vocabulary to obtain better mindsets or re-frame situations? (For E.g. they say replace \"should\" with \"could\"; replace the word \"problem\" with \"challenge\", etc.) ", "Suggestions and thoughts about eliminating or replacing words in our vocabulary to obtain better mindsets or re-frame situations? (For E.g. they say replace \"should\" with \"could\"; replace the word \"problem\" with \"challenge\", etc.) ", "Suggestions and thoughts about eliminating or replacing words in our vocabulary to obtain better mindsets or re-frame situations? (For E.g. they say replace \"should\" with \"could\"; replace the word \"problem\" with \"challenge\", etc.) " ]
[ "Yes, it is a common theme in self help and 'success' guidance. Beware the distinction between positive thinking and self-delusion. It's a given that many people are harshly self-critical and generally negative. So being mindful of your words is exactly the right attitude. 100pc. If you follow through consistently you can reprogram your mind and thus behavior.\n\n\nBut it takes massive mental effort, like changing any habit. So focus on one small change at a time in 3 month stages. You must be specific, you can't just 'be positive' and expect anything to miraculously change. Being mindful 24seven is very hard work... our lives rely on learned patterns so much. E.g. try eating your food with your fork in the other hand. Everything we do is 'automatic'. Breaking out of this is incredibly hard. Since our thoughts are happening every second we are awake, it's clear you can't succeed all the time. Like a diet you will have weak or bad days. ", "One I saw on here before is to replace \"I don't have time for __\" with \"__ isn't a priority right now.\"\n\nIdeally, you come to realize what things actually ARE priorities right now, and you go about making time for those. ", "Instead of saying \"don't forget to ___,\" I say \"*remember* to ___.\" It just feels more positive to frame it that way, and I think it helps me remember better.", "I quite like \"yet\". Add it the end of \"I can't do that.\" This comes from the Growth Mindset movement that's the current trend in schools (I'm a UK teacher). The idea being that you are more positive about the potential of yourself and others. \"Yet\" gives a sense that you belive that the person could one day be capable of that thing. ", "Hmm, I don't like changing the language to make it less precise or otherwise make it come off as \"politically correct\" (like in your second example with problem/challenge). \n\nBut that said, I don't like to use the word \"should\" unless I am making a recommendation to someone. Like \"Maybe you should walk on the sidewalk instead of in the street?\" But I don't like it used in the hypothetical/idealistic manner \"We should give free college degrees to everyone\" because it isn't based in reality. Saying \"could\" instead is a bit better because it implies that the speaker has some suggestion or recommendation - hopefully. But \"should\" in the former sense is just a subjective opinion. \n\nBasically, I prefer to speak as plainly as possible rather than speak with obscure, imprecise, or unclear terms. Lawyers and politicians do that, same with HR people - it's annoying to someone like me who wants you to just tell it like it is. " ]
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[ "How to protect a paperback book in a bag (back pack) Everytime I put multiple books in my bag their covers bend...", "How to protect a paperback book in a bag (back pack) Everytime I put multiple books in my bag their covers bend...", "How to protect a paperback book in a bag (back pack) Everytime I put multiple books in my bag their covers bend...", "How to protect a paperback book in a bag (back pack) Everytime I put multiple books in my bag their covers bend...", "How to protect a paperback book in a bag (back pack) Everytime I put multiple books in my bag their covers bend..." ]
[ "Try and 'tetris' everything in your bag so it fits together squarely, or just sandwich them in between tow big hardback books.", "I have a small drawstring cloth bag that perfectly fits paperbacks. I usually slip my books in there before putting it in my backpack. Maybe you can use something similar, like a freezer/ziploc bag.", "Use rubber bands! I used to have these really long rubber bands I used to keep everything nice and tight together. What you can also do is put it in between two hardcover books and just rubber band those", "Put each book in a plastic Ziploc bag. That's what I do, and it keeps my books looking like new when I need to carry them in a backpack when I go on a trip ", "As long as it is wrapped tightly in something they will be safe. Usually I put the book in a grocery bag and tightly wrap the bag over the book (can tape it too) and then stow it away. It is best to keep it packed between other objects, or at the top." ]
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[ "How to not be caught left hanging when either giving a high five or a fist bump. So many times...I had enough! Bring on the tips/advice!", "How to not be caught left hanging when either giving a high five or a fist bump. So many times...I had enough! Bring on the tips/advice!", "How to not be caught left hanging when either giving a high five or a fist bump. So many times...I had enough! Bring on the tips/advice!" ]
[ "I just move my hand toward them at a steady pace. If they dont put up their hand/fist/whatever then I end up (softly) hitting them in the face.", "I usually just say their name. Or even saying \"leaving me hanging\". One thing I noticed, when you mention something is awkward, it is no longer as awkward. ", "You can try saying something like their name, so you attract their attention. Pretty obvious I think." ]
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[ "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?", "How to deal with road ragers and/or lose another vehicle in pursuit I was almost confronted by a road rager today, but was thankfully paying attention as I saw the douchenozzle in the mirror coming out of his car at the stoplights. I quickly made a turn off (instead of waiting to go straight) and hauled ass, I don't think he expected that as he quickly got back into his car and tried to pursue me. After the first bend that cut off line of sight, I made a turn off into a side street into a residential area.\n\nGeneral advice I've seen before is to head to the nearest police station if you can't shake a person off. But I live in the third world, so the best/most effective option in any bad situation is generally to GTFO instead of waiting for or seeking help. So what's the general consensus on something like this?" ]
[ "Hands down the best way to get rid of someone looking for trouble\n\nStep 1: Buy a 3-4 foot dildo ( a nice one with a lot of girth and weight )\n\nStep 2: Have it under the drivers seat at all time\n\nStep 3: If anyone is looking for trouble stop your car and come out screaming and wielding the dildo\n\nStep 4: Watch the other guy drive away confused and maybe a little scared that they were messing with a crazy person.\n\nWarning: If it turns out the other person is just as crazy as you are and these steps do not deture him/her you will have to preceed to step 5.\n\nStep 5: Swing the dildo from a top to down motion, with all the girth and weight behind it you will easily knock out the road rager.\n\nStep 6: Problem solved...Problem staying solved", "You actually instinctively used the best winning strategy. If you can't shake someone stop at the most likely looking place, most people, middle of the road. Check for avenues of escape. Wait for him to get out of the car. Floor it. If you escape, great! Game won. If you don't, repeat. Stop in a crowded area. Wait for him to get out of the car. When he does....\n\nEventually you will loose him or he will tire of the game. \n\nNote: This will not work if the rager in question is armed and takes pot shots from the car. ", "I've been in this position before and I didn't want the guy following me to my house, so I called the police and they intercepted him. It turns out the guy was drunk.", "Australian here, had a crazy lady abusing me for taking a parking space that she said was her favorite one. When I left she followed me and was beeping the horn, tail gating etc. So I got onto a small round about and proceeded to do about 4 laps before she started screaming obscenities and then drove off. Game won.", "Get the Espada XL and watch this video\n\nhttps://youtu.be/wffyAJczbOI\n\nThe best deterrence to violence is pulling the biggest possible knife out of your pocket", "You want to intimidate the other person.. Get out of your car and try and look as tall and big as you can.. Wait.. That's bears.. \n\nKeep stopping in areas and wait for him to get out of his car and then take off ", "I had a buddy get cut up pretty bad by a road rager, be careful, and don't get out of the car if they're out of their car. ", "My granpa said that when it comes to dealing with idiots and assholes, you don't need a good weapon... you just need an intimidating weapon. The man always carried 2 rusty skill saw blades welded to a 3 foot steel rod behind his truck seats. He was always the confrontational type though.", "Had this happen to me. I passed a biker who was going 40 in a 65. He sped up as I passed I order to not let me around, but I got around. He later passed me again and flipped me off. At a stop light he got off his bike and started running to my car. What did I do? Grabbed my gun and made it known he should not walk any further. I cracked my window and yelled and had my gun aimed through the windshield. He got the message and hauled ass out of there. \n\nIf you can ignore them, do it. If not, be the prepared person. ", "One time I accidentally cut someone off and they flipped shit.\nThey pulled up next to me and started screaming and that kind of thing.\nI sped up, got pulled over, and the dumbass followed the cop, got out of his car, and ran up to my car.\n\nGot to see someone get tazed AND got out of a speeding ticket, all at once.\n", "I carry a large caliber handgun that seems to put people back into their civilized mode awfully quickly.\n\nHowever, if they're approaching with a weapon, just get out of there. Drive to a police station or pull up behind a parked stater/other cop.\n\nIf you're uncomfortable carrying a weapon, you're driving a very nice offensive weapon. If push comes to shove.", "Drop the clutch. Gently let a small one rip so the smoke obstructs their sight, then lauch off into the horizon.\n\nThis didnt work with me but maybe you dont have a van......", "honestly, before cutting somebody, or merging in a way that looks like your cutting them, just stick your hand out as if your asking permission. ive done like a mental tally over the few years and it worked 100% of the time. even people who looked like douche bags, allowed me to pass as soon as they seen me make an effort to put out my hand out the window as if i was asking them. this has probably stopped countless numbers of unecessary confrontation", "I had a group of drunk pedestrians block me on a street. They made it so I coukdnt drive without running them over, and kept trying to get in my door and window. Warned them several times, I had no escape and cops woukd take too long. I keep pepper spray with me, third time they came to my window I rolled it down a bit and blasted them in the eyes and ears with it. They all ran away very fast. In the end no one was harmed and I think that was the only real escape without running someone over or being beat down. ", "Happened to me and I drove to a neighborhood I knew really well and took erratic turns and back tracked to lose them. ", "A lot of the posts here are suggesting to up the ante by displaying a weapon.\n\nTrouble is, that will only aggravate some to fight, especially if they are drunk, and not everyone knows how to use a gun safely. Here in Aus we don't carry like in USA.\n\nYou have a phone, hold it up and state loudly they are being filmed and recorded with live broadcast to someone who is calling the police. \n\nObviously, if you can drive off then do so.\n\nAlso, draw attention of other vehicles, honk your horn. If necessary drive over the footpath to get away from someone who has left their vehicle.\n\nultimately, don't mess with idiots on the road, with a few exceptions I've found you can pick the dicks well before they are angry.\n\nsource : I ride a small motorbike and after learning the hard way with scary close calls in my first 2 years of traffic I've learnt to be more observant of dicks in traffic. [small motorbikes cannot outrun everything on the road] add to that, learning to use other cars as barriers to keep dicks away from me.\n\n", "If you can't loose them just drive to a police station. No one is gonna fight you while in the parking lot of a police station. ", "Well, unless you have a nice sports car or perhaps a revvy engined car, you can jump on the highway and activate sport mode then haul ass on either a canyon road or a highway. You gotta atleast have fun getting away.", "I've always been told that if you are being followed, make 4 consecutive right turns. Anyone following will know they have been spotted and will probably peel away. Of course this doesn't work if someone is dead set on murdering you, but if they are just doing weird shit or having an angry morning, the won't want to do something so obvious.", "I live in Hawaii and had to ditch two troublemakers this year. Because I'm in a residential area, I make as many right turns as possible until I come to a green light and stop in the middle of the intersection. One of two things will happen:\n\n1) Guy gets out and approaches car. In this case, wait for him to be just slightly more than halfway to your car and floor it going straight. This will cause him to instinctivly chase you before realizing you're in a car and turning to get into his. This should buy you enough time to get out of sight.\n\n2) He stays in the car. Once the light changes from yellow to red, make a fast left turn. Odds are, he won't follow you into the intersection and the oncoming cars will block him if he tries. Immidiatly make another left and get onto a main road while out of sight.\n\nGeneral tips for evading duchbags:\n1) Get them stuck. Toll booths, zipper lanes, and lights without a left arrow (but still allow left turns) can put some serious distance between you two.\n\n2) Left - Left - Right - Left - Left - Left - Right - Left -Right - Right - Left - Right - Right - Right - Left - Right is the hardest pattern to follow\n\n3) Try to get into fast moving traffic immidiatly after getting him out of sight. It will make him search the area giving you enough time to get far away.\n\n4) NEVER go to your house or anyone else's house. If anything, pull into a secure building's parking lot that's far away from your home.", "Drive to the police station that is closest.\n\nMy dad was being followed by a road rager once with his friend in the car, and they drove right to the police station. Once they got there the guy got out and followed them inside but the cops diffused it and sent the guy out. \n\nIt's the safest way to do it.", "Been in that position too, my plan was to shake him off by breaking vision and turning into someones driveway. \nOther plan was to see who would run out of gas first.", "If he is following you around, drive to a police station. There's not a lot he can do at that point. Alternatively, conceal and carry.", "Either call the police or pull into the nearest police parking lot if you are familiar with the area and know how to get there.", "First, don't have stickers on your vehicle. It's seen as declaring your territory on the shared roadway an can trigger upset people.\n\nSecond, clear expectations, always signal an politely wave thanks or use hazards/light flashes for thanks if your country does that.\n\nYou'll still find folks upset from miscommunication, not paying attention, off their meds, or otherwise they were already upset and just seeking a target/outlet.\n\nKeep aware of their movements while maximizing your safety. Let them by if they want by. Pull away if they try to ram you. Avoid engaging them. Facilitate their goal while not impacting (pun) you. Increase space between you and they--measured in time more than distance. \n\nPlan ahead, as they'll be mostly reacting to you, it's like playing chess, orchestrating the circumstances to increase favorable circumstances for you. Going to be stopped at a red light? Right lane so you can right on red if possible and they get out of the car. Line of cars there? Pick the clear lane instead. Safety trumps laws. \n\nOnce you are clear, just leave, don't celebrate. I once saw video of a woman flipping off a truck after he rudely passed her and rolled off the road. If he has a dash cam, it would have saved the video of her license plate and make/model for revenge.\n\nBasically seek to de-escalate. \n", "Driving to a police station seems like a safe bet. Sit outside in your locked car and call the police. Make sure if he bolts you get his license plate number.", "\"Third world\" denotes any nation that didn't pick a side on the war vs communism. Probably one of the most misused nomenclatures today. ", "Don't drive like an idiot. You failed to mention why he was getting out of his car. I get very angry when people don't drive correctly and if inhibits traffic flow. I tend to flip people off a few times a day for not being in the correct lane or not using a signal. They are usually just old or oblivious to how the laws work. If it got too the Piont where I had to get out of my car, then you did something really fucked up." ]
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[ "How to get snow off my car quickly? So it snowed for the first time in Michigan today, and thus begins me cursing not having an indoor garage. Any ideas if I'm in a hurry other than just brushing? \n\n\n", "How to get snow off my car quickly? So it snowed for the first time in Michigan today, and thus begins me cursing not having an indoor garage. Any ideas if I'm in a hurry other than just brushing? \n\n\n", "How to get snow off my car quickly? So it snowed for the first time in Michigan today, and thus begins me cursing not having an indoor garage. Any ideas if I'm in a hurry other than just brushing? \n\n\n" ]
[ "I've found the best way is prevention. The night before, put a towel or tarp over the front windscreen, under the wipers. In the morning, just pull out the towel and all that's left is some ice which can be removed with a scraper and bottle of ice remover. If you can find a long towel, pull it over the side windows too and close the door on it to lock it in place.\nDon't store the towel in your car though or the interior will freeze and that's a pain to scrape off.", "I try to put a nice coat of wax down before winter, so that the snow won't stick as much. RainX is like wax for your windshield. Aquapel is like RainX but lasts longer.\n\nif the snow is the heavy sticky kind, i try to push entire sections off at a time. For example, use the snow at the top of the hood to push off the snow lower on the hood. Like the beginning of an avalanche when a whole sheet releases at once.\n\nIf the snow is the light fluffy kind, a leaf blower will blast it off in no time.", "Get one of those wide pushbrooms that janitors use, takes a minute to get most of the snow off your car. The OXO brand snow brush is great too \n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/OXO-Grips-Extendable-Twister-Scraper/dp/B003DKKN7Y\n\nI have a similar ice scraper that was made in sweden. It is amazing. Best I've ever used. \n\nhttp://www.scrapearound.com/\n" ]
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[ "How to ignore the music being played at work. We listen to the same 4 Sirius XM stations every week and it drives me nuts! Is there any tips on ignoring the music?", "How to ignore the music being played at work. We listen to the same 4 Sirius XM stations every week and it drives me nuts! Is there any tips on ignoring the music?", "How to ignore the music being played at work. We listen to the same 4 Sirius XM stations every week and it drives me nuts! Is there any tips on ignoring the music?", "How to ignore the music being played at work. We listen to the same 4 Sirius XM stations every week and it drives me nuts! Is there any tips on ignoring the music?", "How to ignore the music being played at work. We listen to the same 4 Sirius XM stations every week and it drives me nuts! Is there any tips on ignoring the music?", "How to ignore the music being played at work. We listen to the same 4 Sirius XM stations every week and it drives me nuts! Is there any tips on ignoring the music?", "How to ignore the music being played at work. We listen to the same 4 Sirius XM stations every week and it drives me nuts! Is there any tips on ignoring the music?" ]
[ "I've personally never dealt with this particular problem, but I have a few ideas:\n1. Listen to your own music\n2. Tell your boss how it is compromising your efficiency.", "I'm in the same boat. Hate it , but someone I know worked at Walmart. He said that they played a loop of seven songs and it never changes! Yikes!", "Start a petition. If no one signs it, you're the odd one out and listen to your own music. If lots sign it, present it to the boss", "Had to work from a cafe for some time and they kept replaying the same record. What I do is to put on headphones to either listen to my own music, or to whitenoise/ relaxation records (like beach atmosphere sounds).\n\nI was working alone though, in your case it might make you seem like an unapproachable loner. In that case, just discuss a station switch with them (just be honest like here, no need to be secretive).", "What if you just ask them to change the music station or provide your own playlist and see if they'll let you play it. Annoying music is a killer. You have my sympathies, dear person. ", "Playing music in shops is the craft of Satan. Especially for the employees, but also for the customers. Why do they do that? Why is there music in shops? If I owned a business, I sure as hell wouldn't want to pay all that money to play music legally in addition to it being a pain in the ass for everyone.\n\nAs for a tip against it - if the music is played from a computer, try uninstalling the drivers for the soundcard. Alternatively, break the soundcard. If it's played from a CD-player or alike, break the audiocable.", "I had the same problem. My life got a whole lot better when I purchased noise cancelling earphones. Try them; they might help out :)" ]
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[ "How to make new Leather shoes comfortable? Still don't understand why companies design and make shoes which literally destroy your heels.\n\nWhole purpose of a shoe is to protect your feet, yet the heel may as well be a razor blade.\n\nAnyway, I'm at work, in my new shoes i thought were comfy, and now my heels are raw. What do?", "How to make new Leather shoes comfortable? Still don't understand why companies design and make shoes which literally destroy your heels.\n\nWhole purpose of a shoe is to protect your feet, yet the heel may as well be a razor blade.\n\nAnyway, I'm at work, in my new shoes i thought were comfy, and now my heels are raw. What do?", "How to make new Leather shoes comfortable? Still don't understand why companies design and make shoes which literally destroy your heels.\n\nWhole purpose of a shoe is to protect your feet, yet the heel may as well be a razor blade.\n\nAnyway, I'm at work, in my new shoes i thought were comfy, and now my heels are raw. What do?", "How to make new Leather shoes comfortable? Still don't understand why companies design and make shoes which literally destroy your heels.\n\nWhole purpose of a shoe is to protect your feet, yet the heel may as well be a razor blade.\n\nAnyway, I'm at work, in my new shoes i thought were comfy, and now my heels are raw. What do?", "How to make new Leather shoes comfortable? Still don't understand why companies design and make shoes which literally destroy your heels.\n\nWhole purpose of a shoe is to protect your feet, yet the heel may as well be a razor blade.\n\nAnyway, I'm at work, in my new shoes i thought were comfy, and now my heels are raw. What do?", "How to make new Leather shoes comfortable? Still don't understand why companies design and make shoes which literally destroy your heels.\n\nWhole purpose of a shoe is to protect your feet, yet the heel may as well be a razor blade.\n\nAnyway, I'm at work, in my new shoes i thought were comfy, and now my heels are raw. What do?", "How to make new Leather shoes comfortable? Still don't understand why companies design and make shoes which literally destroy your heels.\n\nWhole purpose of a shoe is to protect your feet, yet the heel may as well be a razor blade.\n\nAnyway, I'm at work, in my new shoes i thought were comfy, and now my heels are raw. What do?" ]
[ "LPT Found: Toilet Paper under my socks has dampened the excruciating pain slightly. At least allowing me to walk in a fashion that looks less like i have a fresh turd harboured between my butt cheeks.", "First time I wore my new shoes I took them for a long walk (my biggest mistake); they literally destroyed my feet. My advice is to walk short distances (e.x. to the shop) or even wear them at home. I had to do that for quite some time but now my leather shoes are really comfy. ", "Fill a gallon baggie with water. Place the bag in the shoe, put the shoe in the freezer overnight. Best way to break 'em in.", "You need to break them in, wear them for short periods of time or long periods, the more you wear them the more it will soften up the leather making it more comfortable. You can also polish them (use the same color) and leave the polish in, it will soak in and again soften the leather up a little bit to make breaking in easier/quicker.", "There are wooden feet you can buy used to place in shoes. This expands the shoe to make it feel more comfortable. Then when you're ready to use the shoes you remove the wooden feet. Sometimes these wooden feet are made of plastic. ", "Kiwi makes a product called mink oil (other companies do too) that I use to condition my boots and shoes. Softens them up, and waterproofs them too. I don't know if you polish your shoes or how exactly that might impact what you're going for, but possibly conditioning just the inside of the heel with mink oil and really working the leather with your hands while you're sitting in front of the TV would soften it up.", "Every pair of new shoes I get, I always just wear them in the house before I take them out.\n\nEach new pair hasnt been outside, so they are perfectly clean. So instead of walking around the house in socks/barefoot, I put on my new shoes to break them in." ]
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[ "Best font to study a pile of text? Long story short, got exams and need to study bout 80 pages of text in 2 days. Got it on Arial now but if there is anything better im open 🙏", "Best font to study a pile of text? Long story short, got exams and need to study bout 80 pages of text in 2 days. Got it on Arial now but if there is anything better im open 🙏", "Best font to study a pile of text? Long story short, got exams and need to study bout 80 pages of text in 2 days. Got it on Arial now but if there is anything better im open 🙏", "Best font to study a pile of text? Long story short, got exams and need to study bout 80 pages of text in 2 days. Got it on Arial now but if there is anything better im open 🙏", "Best font to study a pile of text? Long story short, got exams and need to study bout 80 pages of text in 2 days. Got it on Arial now but if there is anything better im open 🙏" ]
[ "Use multiple fonts- use particular ones for main points and the supporting points- then for other topics or ideas use a different font- this breaks up the material making it easier to organize for recall", "Idk but for me it wasn’t about font size or type it was the color kind of like highlighting. For example if all the text I studied was black then I would only recall some of the information but i changed it to a somewhat lighter color such as navy blue then I would recall most of the information.", "I always liked courier. Felt like I was reading something from a typewriter under candlelight. Pretended like I was a 19th century scholar or something.", "Emojis /s\n\nGo with whatever feels the best. But when you highlight some points, change the font and enlarge them too. I think it'd help.", "Ariel, or other sans-serif fonts, like Helvetica, are good for headings, but for the body text you want something with serifs… Like Times, , Times new Roman, there’s a bunch of them to choose from. \n\nBut definitely do you want serifs for body text. Makes it easier to read… Easier for the eye to follow." ]
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[ "How to be comfortable with not having control I've realized that when I don't have control over a situation/thing/person that my anxiety goes through the roof. For example if I'm playing with my dog, whom I love and is amazing, and he stops listening to commands I get really upset (but don't take it out on him, dont worry). I think it comes down to not having control, I hate this. I can rationalize that I shouldn't care about certain things, but still do no matter what I try. I can't let go!", "How to be comfortable with not having control I've realized that when I don't have control over a situation/thing/person that my anxiety goes through the roof. For example if I'm playing with my dog, whom I love and is amazing, and he stops listening to commands I get really upset (but don't take it out on him, dont worry). I think it comes down to not having control, I hate this. I can rationalize that I shouldn't care about certain things, but still do no matter what I try. I can't let go!", "How to be comfortable with not having control I've realized that when I don't have control over a situation/thing/person that my anxiety goes through the roof. For example if I'm playing with my dog, whom I love and is amazing, and he stops listening to commands I get really upset (but don't take it out on him, dont worry). I think it comes down to not having control, I hate this. I can rationalize that I shouldn't care about certain things, but still do no matter what I try. I can't let go!", "How to be comfortable with not having control I've realized that when I don't have control over a situation/thing/person that my anxiety goes through the roof. For example if I'm playing with my dog, whom I love and is amazing, and he stops listening to commands I get really upset (but don't take it out on him, dont worry). I think it comes down to not having control, I hate this. I can rationalize that I shouldn't care about certain things, but still do no matter what I try. I can't let go!", "How to be comfortable with not having control I've realized that when I don't have control over a situation/thing/person that my anxiety goes through the roof. For example if I'm playing with my dog, whom I love and is amazing, and he stops listening to commands I get really upset (but don't take it out on him, dont worry). I think it comes down to not having control, I hate this. I can rationalize that I shouldn't care about certain things, but still do no matter what I try. I can't let go!", "How to be comfortable with not having control I've realized that when I don't have control over a situation/thing/person that my anxiety goes through the roof. For example if I'm playing with my dog, whom I love and is amazing, and he stops listening to commands I get really upset (but don't take it out on him, dont worry). I think it comes down to not having control, I hate this. I can rationalize that I shouldn't care about certain things, but still do no matter what I try. I can't let go!", "How to be comfortable with not having control I've realized that when I don't have control over a situation/thing/person that my anxiety goes through the roof. For example if I'm playing with my dog, whom I love and is amazing, and he stops listening to commands I get really upset (but don't take it out on him, dont worry). I think it comes down to not having control, I hate this. I can rationalize that I shouldn't care about certain things, but still do no matter what I try. I can't let go!", "How to be comfortable with not having control I've realized that when I don't have control over a situation/thing/person that my anxiety goes through the roof. For example if I'm playing with my dog, whom I love and is amazing, and he stops listening to commands I get really upset (but don't take it out on him, dont worry). I think it comes down to not having control, I hate this. I can rationalize that I shouldn't care about certain things, but still do no matter what I try. I can't let go!" ]
[ "Just sharing my experience on this: in the end it all comes down to accept it. In fact most of the time what you have is a false perception of control - the whole world moves by its own, no matter how much you wish or think you have any power over it. Think about relationships - of any kind. You can never force someone to like you or enjoy your company. As soon as they're not happy or comfortable with you, they'll leave. It's simple, it's a fact (and not a sad one, cause we all do it).\n\nEverytime you think you control something over than yourself, think again and realize you're mistaken. There is no control, and everything will flow by its own rhythm.\n\nOnce i realized that i felt panicked. And then I've never felt so relieved - i can't control it, I'm only part of it. Living like this over a year.. I'm not sloppy or care less about my life. In fact I'm more and more relaxed, peaceful and honestly happy. =)", "i certainly would consider myself a control freak. i feel anxiety about things i cant control or change sometimes. it is hard but u just have to remind yourself not to worry about the things u cant change or control. make it your mantra.", "Definitely, first frustration then anxiety. Very self perceptive on your part. We have gets, we can't 'get them', we can only 'let them', lol.", "Your attachment to desire is leading you to suffering. You desire your dog to listen to you and when that desire isn't met you are upset. Maybe seeing the world as it truly is, that dogs are creatures that don't understand English and need significant training, and then advancing would be the way to go. See if you yourself are the reason behind your own misery. Look into the 4 noble truths and the eight fold path of Buddhism is you have questions. There is no ego-personality which can be in control and you will never be in control its delusion, yet you can influence the future.", "Making friends with the fact that you are selfish is the way to go. Parents shame kids so as to control them, shame is literally the immobilising emotion, has been since cavemums were stopping kids grabbing snakes with a stern tone thirty yards away. Thing is, modern mum's use it 'freeze out', however innocently, all kinds of behaviour that is totally safe, necessary, natural etc. So you're using it now on the world around you, and it's distressing when it doesn't work. But it doesn't totally work on you right? You still want to do what you want to do, often when it's dumb, and telling yourself off doesn't work. So make friends with both sides, the one that wants to run around chaotically, and the one that wants to know the safety of everything. Be your own mum. Let yourself indulge in chaos. That's basically the degree of fun you'll be having in your life from then on. ", "Good for you for realizing this about yourself. One idea is this: think about channeling your need to control this way: By letting some things go, you will gain (regain?) control of your mental health.", "Channel it into something useful and attainable. I was having a very difficult time due to deaths in the family and other uncontrollable incidents. I am a clean freak now and I wasn't before, because at least my dishes being done, floor being vacuumed, and candles being lit is something that I can equally control and enjoy. Find your one thing.", "So you have a power problem? Doesn't sound good man. Seems like something with mental health. Seek a professional therapist to talk it out." ]
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[ "finding a job that I’d like that pays similarly to mine(no college) So my current job situation is cutting my hours and I’m just not enjoying the job like I used to, but figured the jobs that I’d be somewhat into would cut my pay drastically compared to what I make.. are there any avenues of making like $400 a week at least?", "finding a job that I’d like that pays similarly to mine(no college) So my current job situation is cutting my hours and I’m just not enjoying the job like I used to, but figured the jobs that I’d be somewhat into would cut my pay drastically compared to what I make.. are there any avenues of making like $400 a week at least?", "finding a job that I’d like that pays similarly to mine(no college) So my current job situation is cutting my hours and I’m just not enjoying the job like I used to, but figured the jobs that I’d be somewhat into would cut my pay drastically compared to what I make.. are there any avenues of making like $400 a week at least?", "finding a job that I’d like that pays similarly to mine(no college) So my current job situation is cutting my hours and I’m just not enjoying the job like I used to, but figured the jobs that I’d be somewhat into would cut my pay drastically compared to what I make.. are there any avenues of making like $400 a week at least?" ]
[ "It’s not for everyone but a few options might be. \nIf you live in a city, sign up to charge the Bird or Lime scooters. You can make between $5-20/scooter per night and then drop them at a “nest” in the early morning. \nUse Gary Vee’s strategy of getting free stuff from Craigslist or Facebook marketplace (or garage saleing) and sell it on eBay to make some quick cash. \n\nHope this helps!", "Working flowback in the oil field is what I do and I don’t have any college experience and make roughly $8k a month. As long as you don’t mind traveling for work it can be a great decision for college aged folk. \nAlso consider getting your CDL and hauling water.", "Go into the trades (electrician, plumbing, construction, etc) you may get paid training and will find a job wherever you want to live.", "Personally, I think doing what you love is far more valuable than any amount of money. But you could always try stripping." ]
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[ "How to smell well? You might think this is a troll request, but I am being completely serious. I just read a thread on here where someone mentioned that putting deodorant before going to sleep was a common thing. What? Since when? How come no one told me that before? I work in a small office and I hate to admit it but I sweat all the time which makes me smell like a f*cking pig. Well not always, but usually after lunch break it starts getting really bad. How do you people keep that nice scent on you the whole day? I am obviously doing something wrong, even though I shower once/twice per day, use soaps and shower gels and deodorants and toilet water and all that stuff.", "How to smell well? You might think this is a troll request, but I am being completely serious. I just read a thread on here where someone mentioned that putting deodorant before going to sleep was a common thing. What? Since when? How come no one told me that before? I work in a small office and I hate to admit it but I sweat all the time which makes me smell like a f*cking pig. Well not always, but usually after lunch break it starts getting really bad. How do you people keep that nice scent on you the whole day? I am obviously doing something wrong, even though I shower once/twice per day, use soaps and shower gels and deodorants and toilet water and all that stuff.", "How to smell well? You might think this is a troll request, but I am being completely serious. I just read a thread on here where someone mentioned that putting deodorant before going to sleep was a common thing. What? Since when? How come no one told me that before? I work in a small office and I hate to admit it but I sweat all the time which makes me smell like a f*cking pig. Well not always, but usually after lunch break it starts getting really bad. How do you people keep that nice scent on you the whole day? I am obviously doing something wrong, even though I shower once/twice per day, use soaps and shower gels and deodorants and toilet water and all that stuff.", "How to smell well? You might think this is a troll request, but I am being completely serious. I just read a thread on here where someone mentioned that putting deodorant before going to sleep was a common thing. What? Since when? How come no one told me that before? I work in a small office and I hate to admit it but I sweat all the time which makes me smell like a f*cking pig. Well not always, but usually after lunch break it starts getting really bad. How do you people keep that nice scent on you the whole day? I am obviously doing something wrong, even though I shower once/twice per day, use soaps and shower gels and deodorants and toilet water and all that stuff.", "How to smell well? You might think this is a troll request, but I am being completely serious. I just read a thread on here where someone mentioned that putting deodorant before going to sleep was a common thing. What? Since when? How come no one told me that before? I work in a small office and I hate to admit it but I sweat all the time which makes me smell like a f*cking pig. Well not always, but usually after lunch break it starts getting really bad. How do you people keep that nice scent on you the whole day? I am obviously doing something wrong, even though I shower once/twice per day, use soaps and shower gels and deodorants and toilet water and all that stuff.", "How to smell well? You might think this is a troll request, but I am being completely serious. I just read a thread on here where someone mentioned that putting deodorant before going to sleep was a common thing. What? Since when? How come no one told me that before? I work in a small office and I hate to admit it but I sweat all the time which makes me smell like a f*cking pig. Well not always, but usually after lunch break it starts getting really bad. How do you people keep that nice scent on you the whole day? I am obviously doing something wrong, even though I shower once/twice per day, use soaps and shower gels and deodorants and toilet water and all that stuff." ]
[ "A healthy diet usually lowers BO. If I don't eat or drink dairy products I smell better. Too bad dairy products are awesome. ", "Using an Anti Perspirant rather than a deodorant works wonders, opposed to masking the smell it's absorbed and temporarily blocks the very pores that sweat. ", "Maybe you should also take extra care of your shirts when doing the laundry. \n\nSometimes the part of the sleeves that are in direct contact with the armpit is what causes the bad smell because of the bacteria and the residual deodorant that is not completely removed from the area, then when you sweat it is \"reactivated\".", "Are you overweight? If so, start working out and counting calories to get down to a healthy weight for your height and gender.\n\nShower everyday.\n\nWear clean clothes.\n\nBring a change of shirt and your deodorant if needed.", "Just make sure that you use an anti-persperant. On a tangent, I know that if I don't get regular heavy-sweat exercise I tend to smell worse in general.", "I've had similar problems. Have you ever tried crystal deodorants ? If you don't see them in your supermarket try a health food store. They work (for me, anyway ) to keep you from stinking but your underarms still get wet.. For that issue use talcum powder and try to clean up mid day ( on you lunch break or whatever ). Cleaning up when you get a chance is probably your best bet." ]
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[ "Easy and cheap way to get rid of dandelions How do you get rid of dandelions easily... preferably without the use of chemicals?\n\n", "Easy and cheap way to get rid of dandelions How do you get rid of dandelions easily... preferably without the use of chemicals?\n\n", "Easy and cheap way to get rid of dandelions How do you get rid of dandelions easily... preferably without the use of chemicals?\n\n", "Easy and cheap way to get rid of dandelions How do you get rid of dandelions easily... preferably without the use of chemicals?\n\n", "Easy and cheap way to get rid of dandelions How do you get rid of dandelions easily... preferably without the use of chemicals?\n\n", "Easy and cheap way to get rid of dandelions How do you get rid of dandelions easily... preferably without the use of chemicals?\n\n", "Easy and cheap way to get rid of dandelions How do you get rid of dandelions easily... preferably without the use of chemicals?\n\n" ]
[ "If you don't want to poison them, the only alternative is to dig them out as you find them. You can buy a dandelion digger to make this easier, but the secret to getting rid of them is to dig out the entire root otherwise it will regrow. At the very least you need to pull off the flowering heads daily to stop them spreading by seed.", "[This is the best tool ever for weeds.](http://www.homedepot.com/p/Ames-Stand-Up-Weeder-2917300/206297058?cm_mmc=Shopping%7cTHD%7cG%7c0%7cG-BASE-PLA-D28I-InsideGardenOther%7c&gclid=CJzv5YPC88wCFZNgfgodMEoHdA&gclsrc=aw.ds)", "Invite my grandfather or any old Italian man over. They'll be gone from your yard and in their kitchen in no time. ", "Eat them? Dry them out and make tea out of them? A booming business when the Farmer's Market comes around.", "You want to get the whole root out, it is very satisfying (use gardening gloves) and almost worth waiting until they are quite tall to get it all. Maybe use a hoe or strimmer if you don't want to use pesticides and cover the area with plastic sheets / bark chips / stones to stop them coming back? ", "Take an old knife and slice under the weed at the roots. You can flip them up and catch them with the lawn mower later.\n\nPour boiling water over the weeds. This cooks them in place.", "If you have neighbors close by each with their own lawns, this may not be something you can solve easily. More seeds can blow onto your lawn at any time and there's not much you can do about it. Either commit to pulling them out by hand or let them be." ]
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[ "Where to find or how to identify reliable sources of news. seems like with all the criticisms of the media and biases of the (particularly corporate) media there is a real difficulty in getting good information on current affairs. A way to identify or places to get good reliable news would be a great benefit? (other than the supremely objective and neutral Reddit of course). ", "Where to find or how to identify reliable sources of news. seems like with all the criticisms of the media and biases of the (particularly corporate) media there is a real difficulty in getting good information on current affairs. A way to identify or places to get good reliable news would be a great benefit? (other than the supremely objective and neutral Reddit of course). ", "Where to find or how to identify reliable sources of news. seems like with all the criticisms of the media and biases of the (particularly corporate) media there is a real difficulty in getting good information on current affairs. A way to identify or places to get good reliable news would be a great benefit? (other than the supremely objective and neutral Reddit of course). " ]
[ "I think all news sources are going to be inherently biased. There's no such thing as complete objectivity especially for sensitive subjects. The best thing to do is to look at multiple sources of news and identify the common theme in them. ", "The best thing to do is to read as many different news sources as possible. I like the Yahoo News and Google News pages as starting points, since they link to a lot of diverse sources.", "Facebook, Fox News, and CNN should cover all your bases. Just make sure not to linger too long with any 1 of those 3 disproportionately. " ]
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[ "How does one get more common sense? Myself and others notice me doing, or not doing things that other people would consider common sense.\nHow do I \"do better\" when I don't know I'm being silly, as I'm doing it?\nI feel like I'm not stupid but lately I've been overthinking things out of fear of missing something which leads to tasks taking longer.\nSorry if this doesn't read well. I tried", "How does one get more common sense? Myself and others notice me doing, or not doing things that other people would consider common sense.\nHow do I \"do better\" when I don't know I'm being silly, as I'm doing it?\nI feel like I'm not stupid but lately I've been overthinking things out of fear of missing something which leads to tasks taking longer.\nSorry if this doesn't read well. I tried", "How does one get more common sense? Myself and others notice me doing, or not doing things that other people would consider common sense.\nHow do I \"do better\" when I don't know I'm being silly, as I'm doing it?\nI feel like I'm not stupid but lately I've been overthinking things out of fear of missing something which leads to tasks taking longer.\nSorry if this doesn't read well. I tried", "How does one get more common sense? Myself and others notice me doing, or not doing things that other people would consider common sense.\nHow do I \"do better\" when I don't know I'm being silly, as I'm doing it?\nI feel like I'm not stupid but lately I've been overthinking things out of fear of missing something which leads to tasks taking longer.\nSorry if this doesn't read well. I tried", "How does one get more common sense? Myself and others notice me doing, or not doing things that other people would consider common sense.\nHow do I \"do better\" when I don't know I'm being silly, as I'm doing it?\nI feel like I'm not stupid but lately I've been overthinking things out of fear of missing something which leads to tasks taking longer.\nSorry if this doesn't read well. I tried", "How does one get more common sense? Myself and others notice me doing, or not doing things that other people would consider common sense.\nHow do I \"do better\" when I don't know I'm being silly, as I'm doing it?\nI feel like I'm not stupid but lately I've been overthinking things out of fear of missing something which leads to tasks taking longer.\nSorry if this doesn't read well. I tried" ]
[ "Ask questions. There are so many little things that I realized I wasn’t vocalizing to my kids because I just assumed that it was a given. Even simple cooking tips. My kids picked up on it and initiated the common sense questions more as they got older and noticed I was pointing out the little things more often. Panic sets when when you realize they are going to be on their own. So Ive taken the same route and ask others when things are not clicking for me. Then I get to pass it on.", "Reading and experience. It will come with time naturally, but reading really boosts that, if you not exclusively read trivial literature.", "It's called wisdom and it comes with experience.\n\nIn all things. \n\nIn every thing.\n\nIt comes from being a rugged individual who is not dependent on someone, who learns how to handle their own problems.\n\n*It comes from seeing the forest, not the tree.*", "You either got it or you don't. But that's not a bad thing either way. You may have a novel way of thinking or understanding others don't. You bring a uniqueness and point of view no one else has - so embrace it!\n\nOnly a fool has won way of spelling a werd! Hahaha!", "Realize that most \"Common sense\" is really just the specifics of how somebody was raised. And it's often entirely arbitrary, and culturally based.\n\nMaybe ask them who taught them that, and what the story was about it, or anything fun/funny/memorable that happened because of it. And how you were raised different in those scenarios.\n\nGenerally what people are looking for with \"common sense\" is either\n\n1. Don't waste a resource. I.e. Google it\n2. Don't do it the hard way. I.e. Google it\n3. Don't make it difficult for somebody to understand/respond to what you're saying, including any subtext connotations, with appropriate vocal intonation. Or more simply (\"Don't make it awkward\"). People shouldn't have to be guessing about your intended meaning.", "Common sense is based in knowledge, for example: If you don’t know that a heater that uses combustion to generate heat gives off gases that are odourless and deadly why would you not use it in an enclosed space? To anyone who does know this it’s common sense to not too." ]
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[ "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?", "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?", "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?", "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?", "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?", "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?", "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?", "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?", "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?", "How can I take better care of my lower back so I’m healthier in the future? \nI (26f) hurt my lower back several (4) times from ages 19-25. Always my lower back and always initially triggered by lifting too heavy/sloppy form at the gym *(first 3 times from deadlifts, last time from 140 pound hip thrusts without warming up, dumb I know)*\n\nI’m only 26 and am worried I’m going to be suffering more and more as I get older and want to be proactive as I can. \n\nI eat healthy, exercise semi frequently, drink lots of water, and get adequate sleep. \n\nAside from warming up at the gym and using proper form, what can I do to protect and give my back a healthy life?" ]
[ "Consult a physical therapist or at least a personal trainer. Even a 1 time consultation can offer training on form and specific exercises", "There are a variety of stretches you can do before bed and in the morning that make a huge impact after a couple days. You should be able to find a bunch on Youtube that are really great. It's what I do each day so my lifts have less tension on my back with or without good form. Stay away from a chiropractor, that'll mess you up.\n\n&#x200B;\n\nAlso less weight until you master form. If your form is off then you have too much weight. If you are worried about not building muscle from lighter weight find a kettle bell alternative.", "Use proper back techniques for lifting, carrying, etc. Have an occupational / physio therapist run through proper form while exercising and point out the factors you should be aware of and watch out for while working out. Be sure to get lots of all-over body exercise - rather than focus on weight training alone, which can cause issues if you already have a problem brewing at a young age, look for more full body forms of workout, such as active hiking (up and down hills versus flat track), swimming, playing games at a non-competitive level. Only you can keep yourself on track.", "The reverse back extension is your friend, as is foam rolling your t-spine and stretching your pecs, quads, and hip flexors. Those anterior extensors tighten over time and hinder the efficiency of your spinal extensors, glutes, and hamstrings.\n\nAlso stretch your glutes and hamstrings. \n\nDon’t do too many sit-ups or crunches, they’re ok in moderation but spinal flexion exercises like that are not really as safe as people think. \n\nAnd don’t do much rotational core work, the best oblique training is in the form of stabilization exercises like the standing cable press out or the side plank.", "Start going on frequent walks! I'm not a health professional so I can't explain why exactly, but in my opinion walking is underrated in terms of health benefits. My mom (60s) has been having lower back problems the last year or so, but she now goes on a walk every morning and she says it does wonders to loosen up her back, as it's usually very stiff when she wakes up.", "Nobody has said this yet but stand and sit with good posture. When laying on your back, put a pillow under your knees. \n\nPosture will go a long way with lower and upper back health. Just make sure you are actually using good posture, I’m sure your doctor or trainer will be able to correctly align you into normal posture.", "Look into the Pettibon system of chiropractic therapy. It has some chiropractic but mostly home exercises which restrengthen damages areas of the back and helps re-establish healthy back functions. \n\nAlso, use proper form in the future and don’t sit at a desk all day.", "I had done this a couple of time at work, (not a weight lifter) and by boss suggested strengthening my core and other muscles that help support your back and share the load. I feel a lot better moat of the time, so it must have worked on some way or another!", "Had back injury at 27. Now 47. Walking every day and yoga have kept my trunk strong enough that I'm not in constant pain. I also use cannabis for pain management on bad days.", "Get a medicinal ball and ditch the chairs. At work and at home.\n\nYou need to find your right size for your future sitting equipment: take your height (in cm), the height of your ball= your height-100. It forces your lower back to be straight, it helps you keep posture. For best spine comfort and health, sit with your legs paralel, feet on the ground.\n\n*BONUS* you can bounce on it. It's very entertaining!" ]
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[ "How to stay awake while doing nothing Just started working a few months ago and since the first day I've finished all my work and everything that could be advanced for the day a few hours before the end of my shift. The thing is that my brain works as a computer, I work really good and really fast but if I don't have anything to do my brain shuts down and I begin falling asleep.\n\nThe thing is that my boss is not happy with me sleeping in work hours (even though I have nothing else to do) and I don't want to have troubles with him or anyone else, so I need something to help me stay awake for 2-3 hours with not much to do. Anything you know or recommend will be tried, thank you in advance :D\n\nTL;DR: Need something to stay awake for 2-3 hours where I have nothing to do and can't have my phone, computer or anything like that.", "How to stay awake while doing nothing Just started working a few months ago and since the first day I've finished all my work and everything that could be advanced for the day a few hours before the end of my shift. The thing is that my brain works as a computer, I work really good and really fast but if I don't have anything to do my brain shuts down and I begin falling asleep.\n\nThe thing is that my boss is not happy with me sleeping in work hours (even though I have nothing else to do) and I don't want to have troubles with him or anyone else, so I need something to help me stay awake for 2-3 hours with not much to do. Anything you know or recommend will be tried, thank you in advance :D\n\nTL;DR: Need something to stay awake for 2-3 hours where I have nothing to do and can't have my phone, computer or anything like that.", "How to stay awake while doing nothing Just started working a few months ago and since the first day I've finished all my work and everything that could be advanced for the day a few hours before the end of my shift. The thing is that my brain works as a computer, I work really good and really fast but if I don't have anything to do my brain shuts down and I begin falling asleep.\n\nThe thing is that my boss is not happy with me sleeping in work hours (even though I have nothing else to do) and I don't want to have troubles with him or anyone else, so I need something to help me stay awake for 2-3 hours with not much to do. Anything you know or recommend will be tried, thank you in advance :D\n\nTL;DR: Need something to stay awake for 2-3 hours where I have nothing to do and can't have my phone, computer or anything like that.", "How to stay awake while doing nothing Just started working a few months ago and since the first day I've finished all my work and everything that could be advanced for the day a few hours before the end of my shift. The thing is that my brain works as a computer, I work really good and really fast but if I don't have anything to do my brain shuts down and I begin falling asleep.\n\nThe thing is that my boss is not happy with me sleeping in work hours (even though I have nothing else to do) and I don't want to have troubles with him or anyone else, so I need something to help me stay awake for 2-3 hours with not much to do. Anything you know or recommend will be tried, thank you in advance :D\n\nTL;DR: Need something to stay awake for 2-3 hours where I have nothing to do and can't have my phone, computer or anything like that.", "How to stay awake while doing nothing Just started working a few months ago and since the first day I've finished all my work and everything that could be advanced for the day a few hours before the end of my shift. The thing is that my brain works as a computer, I work really good and really fast but if I don't have anything to do my brain shuts down and I begin falling asleep.\n\nThe thing is that my boss is not happy with me sleeping in work hours (even though I have nothing else to do) and I don't want to have troubles with him or anyone else, so I need something to help me stay awake for 2-3 hours with not much to do. Anything you know or recommend will be tried, thank you in advance :D\n\nTL;DR: Need something to stay awake for 2-3 hours where I have nothing to do and can't have my phone, computer or anything like that.", "How to stay awake while doing nothing Just started working a few months ago and since the first day I've finished all my work and everything that could be advanced for the day a few hours before the end of my shift. The thing is that my brain works as a computer, I work really good and really fast but if I don't have anything to do my brain shuts down and I begin falling asleep.\n\nThe thing is that my boss is not happy with me sleeping in work hours (even though I have nothing else to do) and I don't want to have troubles with him or anyone else, so I need something to help me stay awake for 2-3 hours with not much to do. Anything you know or recommend will be tried, thank you in advance :D\n\nTL;DR: Need something to stay awake for 2-3 hours where I have nothing to do and can't have my phone, computer or anything like that.", "How to stay awake while doing nothing Just started working a few months ago and since the first day I've finished all my work and everything that could be advanced for the day a few hours before the end of my shift. The thing is that my brain works as a computer, I work really good and really fast but if I don't have anything to do my brain shuts down and I begin falling asleep.\n\nThe thing is that my boss is not happy with me sleeping in work hours (even though I have nothing else to do) and I don't want to have troubles with him or anyone else, so I need something to help me stay awake for 2-3 hours with not much to do. Anything you know or recommend will be tried, thank you in advance :D\n\nTL;DR: Need something to stay awake for 2-3 hours where I have nothing to do and can't have my phone, computer or anything like that." ]
[ "Walk around, get lunch, use the bathroom, stretch, bring a game boy, kill your boss, take adderall, go to bed earlier or constantly drink water. All potential solutions good luck! List is in random order so pick what works :P. ", "When I used to work at Arby's and it's a slow night I'd stock/organize everything I could as well as clean everything and asked if anyone else needed help just to pass the time.", "Studies on torture victims show that the ones who maintain their sanity the most during isolation are the ones that solve problems in their head.", "Let me just throw a list out there a see what sticks\n1) sodoku book\n2) write people in your life notes\n3) use a fidget spinner (oddly entertaining for being nothing really..)\n4) plan the rest of your day/next day off\n5) do push-ups\n6) fake being a smoker and go outside and take small walks.\n7) try knitting\n8) bring some food you've been meaning to enjoy and really take your time to savor it.\n9) go bug co-workers\n10) bring sunglassed, a recording of typing and sleep anyway\n11) prank coworkers (#9 level 2)\n12) use Lynda or something similar to learn something useful\n13) take on more responsibility and take your boss' job then nap \n", "Try writing or doodling! Make up you own alien or fantasy race and bring them in life through short stories that would create lore. It's so much fun! You can make up their heroes and tragedies, battles and politics. I started this after reading The Legends of Alfs by Markus Heitz, it's brilliant and complex since first book!", "Can you draw? Get a couple printable tutorials and start practicing! Or write songs or poetry. Keep your mind focused on a new challenge like these!", "Ask your boss for more work. I have never known a manager to just let someone sit there and not ask for more work." ]
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[ "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?", "When and Where to exchange currency for a trip? I have often heard it said that you should never change currency at an airport that uses a different currency (Like exchanging USD for GBP in America) so when and where are the best places to exchange currency when taking a trip?" ]
[ "Years ago I would've gone to either the bank, post office or travel agent to exchange money and checked which would give me the best rate. Now I just pay for everything on my debit or cr", "See your local bank before you travel, they can usually get you some foreign currency for a fee of 1% or so.\n\nAt your destination airport, the fee will be much much more.", "Use the ATM in the airport. There are a few countries where there was no ATM (Colombia, Morocco) but most of the time you won’t have a problem." ]
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[ "Removing old stickers I think we've all come across stickers that are all but impossible to take off of something without it ripping and leaving paper behind... Anyone have a Pro Tip?", "Removing old stickers I think we've all come across stickers that are all but impossible to take off of something without it ripping and leaving paper behind... Anyone have a Pro Tip?", "Removing old stickers I think we've all come across stickers that are all but impossible to take off of something without it ripping and leaving paper behind... Anyone have a Pro Tip?", "Removing old stickers I think we've all come across stickers that are all but impossible to take off of something without it ripping and leaving paper behind... Anyone have a Pro Tip?", "Removing old stickers I think we've all come across stickers that are all but impossible to take off of something without it ripping and leaving paper behind... Anyone have a Pro Tip?", "Removing old stickers I think we've all come across stickers that are all but impossible to take off of something without it ripping and leaving paper behind... Anyone have a Pro Tip?" ]
[ "[goo gone](https://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=chrome-instant&ie=UTF-8#q=goo+gone&hl=en&prmd=imvns&source=univ&tbm=shop&tbo=u&sa=X&ei=EY79T-yAEfGk2gXuvpn1Bg&ved=0CHIQsxg&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.,cf.osb&fp=5dcb926e972a056d&biw=1366&bih=667)", "for reusing stickers on my car's windows, here's what i do:\n\nwipe down stickers/object with a barely strong enough cleaner(water and soap mix, light windex, etc.\n\napply painters tape over the sticker and don't be shy to use more, if the sticker is(let's just say) 4\" by 6-8\" and you're using 2\" tape, overlap at least 1/2\" or so of each strip you put over the sticker, i prefer to put the tape on horrizontally.\n\nthen i use a razor blade to scrape the sticker off slowly pulling the tape back as i go. i hold the angle at about a 10 degree angle to the glass, and start with a corner. i raise and lower the blade when applied about 2\" up and down at a time while removing.", "I work in facilities at a university littered with these.\n\nScrape the bulk off with a straight blade razor. Goo gone. Scrap the rest off with the razor. Take some Windex or something to that effect and wash the glass/window.\n\nCan't even tell the sticker was ever there. ", "I work at the hospital and patients always have stickers and tape on their bodies from surgeries or DI tests, i tend to use alcohol swabs. Just let them soak and they come off quite well.\n", "Heat or solvent. If neither of those are applicable, ammonia free foaming window cleaner.\n\nwhat is the surface in question?", "I find of you have long nails on your fingers you can start to slowly peel it and if it leaves that really thin paper part behind scratch it off before carrying on. But this doesnt always work with really old stickers (10+ years)." ]
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[ "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?", "Increasing Chance of Getting an Interview for a Job(Applying Online) I'm a middle class 18 year old white kid who has no work experience, finished high school, and lives with his parents. I don't \"need\" a job, but it'd be nice to have more money. So far my online applications haven't turned up anything. I've been applying to grocery stores and warehouses. \n\nIs there some sort of extra thing I should be doing to show I'm interested in the job, or is the idea to fire off as many applications as possible and hopefully one of them hits?" ]
[ "1) Spice up your résumé. make sure to put things on there that interest your potential employer. I have 2 different résumés that I have for different things. For instance, anything that is governmental highlights environmental consciousness, diverse experience, high work ethic, effective communication skills and political savvy. anything private sector highlights my work ethic, experiences, friendly demeanor, conservative views (i am in a area that has a conservative majority) and professional appearance \n\n2) Look at getting a degree. make sure that it is in something that interests you. even an AA (which you can get in less than 1.5 years) will hep you move up the list of potential employees.\n\n3) Make sure to stress that you are a great worker and employee. people will not hire you if you are always late, don't do your job, have to be told what to do, don't get along with co-workers, and are generally not fun to be around.\n\n4) Clean up your Facebook, Myspace, twitter, whatever you have. Potential employers will do an internet search for you if they are interested and if the top results are of you goofing off with friends doing illegal shit, you wont get the job.\n\nmake sure that search results that come back are positive. check this out at an off site location (library) because search results change depending on user history. For instance, the first five pages of search results for me come back as Facebook (highlighting my degree, respectful friends and employment history), eagle project, speech and debate club where I won regionals, legislative page, church website, LinkedIn profile (résumé and work experiences)\n\n5) GET REFERENCES\n\ndon't make excuses for not knowing people. \n\nparents friends, your friends, teachers, religious advisers (pastor, priest, Rabbi, whatever religion you are), pretty much anybody that you have known for at least 3 years, is older than you by at least 5-7 years, isn't a felon, is generally seen as a positive influence in the community, and has a title (AA,BA,MS,DR,) will be a good reference. you shouldn't need more than 3 letters. \n\n6) apply for jobs that you want.\n\nyou said that \"it would be nice to have money.\" Why get a shit job that kills you if you don't need it? apply at places that interest you, are fun, have a good atmosphere and pay (benefits and money)\n\n7) set up a time and date for an interview.\n\nmake sure that you are on time, appropriately dressed, awake and confident. \n\n8) Don't be afraid to ask your parents for advise.\n\nthey are older than you, probably smarter than you, and have experience with this kind of thing.", "If you're under the impression you don't \"need\" a job no one is going to give you one. Act like you care even if you know you have more potential than the job you are applying for. Apply in person, always ask to speak with a manager, shake their hand, explain your circumstances. Restaurants and retail are your best chances if you have no interest in a particular field. \n\nDon't ever think you are above a job. A year and a half ago under strange circumstances I had not had a real job for over 4 years. I had nothing to put on my résumé so I applied for a min wage job at a restaurant. Worked my ass off for 6 months until I got an office job down the road (networking). 6 months of that before I got an internship in my field (IT) 3 months of that and I'm working full time in my field with salary and benefits. Never once did I think I was above my job and honestly think that was the most important part.", "If your online applications are resume-based, snag all the keywords from the job description and tastefully pile them into your resume.", "Read the application guidelines of the Employer, and follow them, is a good start. As an employer, it really pisses me off when people don't read the info we have made available (basically an instruction manual on \"how to get this job\"). It seems SO obvious to me. Most mid-size and larger companies will have this resource online.\n\nAlso, consider what you like doing, or would enjoy trying - lots of talk about larger companies, but what about working for a smller operation - a builder or electrician, or dog groomer, or a dude who makes furniture, or whatever floats your boat.\n\n(Damn I wish I was young again...)", "Network! All this means is talking to people you know and see who can get you a job. Surely you have friends who are working somewhere, talk to them. See who likes their job and gets paid well and try and work with them. It will also help your friend show their boss that they like the job and are helping the business if they can bring in someone else. After you've gained some experience, see if there's another job you'd rather do that pays better.", "Follow up follow up **FOLLOW UP**. Seriously. Call, visit, anything. If you can't think of anything else just say you're \"looking to discuss the position and what qualities [they]'re looking for in a candidate.\" You have way better chances with fewer applications and more follow-up than with tons of applications and no follow-up.", "Claim to be a minority if they ask during the online application process. Its technically illegal for them to actually ask you about it when you come in to interview and it just differentiates you puts you \"on top of the pile.\" They can't deny you because you are white and gets you in the door. And hiring managers most likely wont have that information in front of them by the time they invite you in for an interview, just your resume. ", "Call before you apply. Look up who the HR/hiring person is, and give them a call. Ask any question regarding the job. This way, the person hiring/doing interviews will know who you are before they meet you and are more likely to pay attention to your resume/application since you show genuine interest in the job by taking the initiative to call them and ask for details.", "If you're applying to monster or dice, don't bother applying if you don't send within a day latest of the posting. Usually I don't bother if it's been more than 8 hours. The companies get BOMBARDED with resumes. If the company is a recruiter then that's probably ok. Having said that, I exclusively use recruiters now.", "If the company has an active twitter page, interact with them a bit. It's not a guarantee, but over the past two years or so, I've accepted two jobs through interviews I landed through twitter talk.", "I applied to Kroger and then I called them and asked the HR to look at it because they don't respond to online applications unless you tell them to. Not sure if every place does that. I didn't get the job because I wasn't 16 yet. The application really could have stated you had to be 16... ", "Hit up a hiring agency. Here in Australia there everywhere. Kept me busy for 4/5 days of the week. Tonnes of variety and meet loads of interesting people. In your situation it is perfect. ", "Everybody knows about the work experience paradox. Go do yourself a little volunteer work while you are waiting to get yourself out of the paradox.", "Even if you have no work experience, try some type of small restaurant. I use to work for a chain of movie theaters and then I went to work for a small type of restaurant. I enjoyed it a lot more. I actually talked to my manager about what she looked at for hiring people. I was in charge of shifts during the week and weekend mornings so I was seeing individuals submitting applications. She told me that she would prefer some people with no work experience because then they have not (for the most part) established any bad working habits.\nSo not having work experience may not be a bad thing at all. You just need to have good timing as well. For instance, I got hired at the movie theaters during the summer which is when they are more busy. At the small restaurant they were busy in the winter so that is when they generally were seeking help.\n\nHope this helps out in some way.", "Driving to a place just to apply isn't very economical with todays gas prices, as as a former hiring manager I can say that I never personally enjoyed being called away from the task at hand just to get a handshake and resume from a nervous 20 year old. The resume went in a pile with the others I had collected from people who had shown up and demanded my time when it wasn't convenient, and even then I usually ended up looking through the first ten emails I'd received before calling someone back for an interview. In my opinion it's a timing and numbers game. If you have a good resume and, more importantly, cover letter and you applied within the first 10 to 15 applicants then you have a good shot. Otherwise you might as well be posting OC on reddit. \n\ntldr; Don't waste your gas and their time. Apply online with a good Resume/Cover letter and apply as soon as they announce they have a position open.", "If you do land an interview and it goes well follow up the next day with a thank you letter, be sure to state some of your good qualities that you talked about in the interview and also mention how nice the other employees were wen you came in, I did that for my last job and was hired", "If they don't get back to you within a week or two, I usually just call them. They almost always schedule the interview.\n\nOf course, I've never gotten the job, so take that as you will" ]
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[ " How to keep track of a small remote. Not only do I have multiple remotes when I use my TV (one for TV, one for Soundbar, and usually either a 360 or Ps3 controller), but the one for my soundbar is super tiny and I'm constantly losing it. \nSo does anyone have some sort of beacon system or just some way to keep track of their tiny remotes?", " How to keep track of a small remote. Not only do I have multiple remotes when I use my TV (one for TV, one for Soundbar, and usually either a 360 or Ps3 controller), but the one for my soundbar is super tiny and I'm constantly losing it. \nSo does anyone have some sort of beacon system or just some way to keep track of their tiny remotes?", " How to keep track of a small remote. Not only do I have multiple remotes when I use my TV (one for TV, one for Soundbar, and usually either a 360 or Ps3 controller), but the one for my soundbar is super tiny and I'm constantly losing it. \nSo does anyone have some sort of beacon system or just some way to keep track of their tiny remotes?" ]
[ "Glue it to a big board or a bigger remote :)\n\nIn all seriousness I have taken to sticking velcro on all the remotes and the other side of the velcro to the item it controls. For the TV and big ones they just stay on the table as they are used daily, but for small ones like for the fan I put the soft velcro side on the remote and the rough side on the fan. Then when I am done with the fan and remote i attach it back to the side of the fan.", "The key to keeping track of items like this is to have a designated spot for them. When you're done with it, just put it back in its spot. If you leave them around in random places, they're easy to lose track of.\n\nThey also have [these key finders.](http://www.amazon.com/Brookstone-Wireless-Key-Finder/dp/B001EN77E4/ref=sr_1_13?ie=UTF8&qid=1353866118&sr=8-13&keywords=key+finder) ", "Get one of those chain things like they have for pens at the bank, you'll never lose it!\n\nhttp://www.instructables.com/id/How-to-never-lose-your-TV-remote-even-if-you-have/" ]
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[ "How to avoid from instinctively freezing up in emergency situations for non-military and non-LEO In the title. I witnessed an almost emergency situation a few minutes ago and despite being the person physically closest to the person in trouble, I froze. I'd like to avoid doing that ever again.\n\nFortunately, everyone is okay, but I could've diffused the situation a good 20 seconds sooner, and I'm a bit peeved at myself for that.", "How to avoid from instinctively freezing up in emergency situations for non-military and non-LEO In the title. I witnessed an almost emergency situation a few minutes ago and despite being the person physically closest to the person in trouble, I froze. I'd like to avoid doing that ever again.\n\nFortunately, everyone is okay, but I could've diffused the situation a good 20 seconds sooner, and I'm a bit peeved at myself for that.", "How to avoid from instinctively freezing up in emergency situations for non-military and non-LEO In the title. I witnessed an almost emergency situation a few minutes ago and despite being the person physically closest to the person in trouble, I froze. I'd like to avoid doing that ever again.\n\nFortunately, everyone is okay, but I could've diffused the situation a good 20 seconds sooner, and I'm a bit peeved at myself for that.", "How to avoid from instinctively freezing up in emergency situations for non-military and non-LEO In the title. I witnessed an almost emergency situation a few minutes ago and despite being the person physically closest to the person in trouble, I froze. I'd like to avoid doing that ever again.\n\nFortunately, everyone is okay, but I could've diffused the situation a good 20 seconds sooner, and I'm a bit peeved at myself for that.", "How to avoid from instinctively freezing up in emergency situations for non-military and non-LEO In the title. I witnessed an almost emergency situation a few minutes ago and despite being the person physically closest to the person in trouble, I froze. I'd like to avoid doing that ever again.\n\nFortunately, everyone is okay, but I could've diffused the situation a good 20 seconds sooner, and I'm a bit peeved at myself for that.", "How to avoid from instinctively freezing up in emergency situations for non-military and non-LEO In the title. I witnessed an almost emergency situation a few minutes ago and despite being the person physically closest to the person in trouble, I froze. I'd like to avoid doing that ever again.\n\nFortunately, everyone is okay, but I could've diffused the situation a good 20 seconds sooner, and I'm a bit peeved at myself for that.", "How to avoid from instinctively freezing up in emergency situations for non-military and non-LEO In the title. I witnessed an almost emergency situation a few minutes ago and despite being the person physically closest to the person in trouble, I froze. I'd like to avoid doing that ever again.\n\nFortunately, everyone is okay, but I could've diffused the situation a good 20 seconds sooner, and I'm a bit peeved at myself for that.", "How to avoid from instinctively freezing up in emergency situations for non-military and non-LEO In the title. I witnessed an almost emergency situation a few minutes ago and despite being the person physically closest to the person in trouble, I froze. I'd like to avoid doing that ever again.\n\nFortunately, everyone is okay, but I could've diffused the situation a good 20 seconds sooner, and I'm a bit peeved at myself for that.", "How to avoid from instinctively freezing up in emergency situations for non-military and non-LEO In the title. I witnessed an almost emergency situation a few minutes ago and despite being the person physically closest to the person in trouble, I froze. I'd like to avoid doing that ever again.\n\nFortunately, everyone is okay, but I could've diffused the situation a good 20 seconds sooner, and I'm a bit peeved at myself for that." ]
[ "This might sound a bit insensitive but in order to act with your brain you must not allow an emotional connection during the situation. You must recognize that it is not YOUR emergency. You did not cause the accident. When an emergency happens, don't be afraid to stop and take a second to think about what needs to be done next before just acting. Being deliberate and meticulous instead of quick and clumsy will help the situation run more smoothly. \n\nIt tends to make things easier when you look at an emergency situation as though you have a \"duty to act\" versus \"you just want to help.\" \n\nDon't lose sleep about how you reacted, most people freeze up. Good luck champ! \n ", "Emergency Medicine doc here - the key to not \"freezing\" is to allow yourself to experience what you are experiencing... for a moment. Take 3 breaths, and say to yourself, \"I need to take in a breath, get control of myself so I can respond appropriately\" \"I take in another breath while i plan what I will do next\" \"OK, this is the third breath, I now start moving my feet one foot in front of another to respond\" (once the feet start moving, the rest follows)", "Practice. Practice skills. Practice emergency plans.\r\n\r\nIts why we have fire drills. So that in the event of a real fire, everyone will (more or less) calmly file out of the building and not stampede towards the exits.", "I dated a doctor, asked her how the fuck she handled the horrors(of the work, as opposed to dating me), and her simple, immediate response was \"clarity of purpose\". If that means you need to take a moment to figure out your purpose in a given situation, so be it. You'll then be better able to respond appropriately and not be overcome by the emotional stuff.", "There's a lot of talk in this thread. Some of it even worth listening to.\n\nBut the fact is, breaking the freeze is very hard to do, and it can take even professional cops and soldiers years to be able to do it quickly and reliably. And you'll never NOT freeze, a Delta Force operator will freeze just as you did, but the difference between you and he is that he will break it very quickly.\n\nAnother fact is that the brutality and apparent awfullness of military basic training is directed at two main goals: first, to get the trainee to think of themselves as a component of a military unit rather than as an individual, and second, to give them basic tools to overcome the freeze.", "For some reason whenever a severe emergency arises, I go into this autopilot clutch mode, where I feel no direct anxiety or fear and my awareness seems heightened. I think I perform best at things when I absolutely have to, and I don't know why. ", "As some on who is in the military, here's my advice.\n\n1. Know how to respond. Game plan it. While you are shopping one day. Walk through something. Ask what would you do of that lady suddenly collapsed. What considerations should you take into account like age. You are not going to know how to respond to every situation and you should know if you can help the situation or not. Go get CPR certified, learn how to use an A.E.D. Know evacuation routes. Watch a youtube video on how to disarm if confronted. You first instinct should be the preservation of your own life. That mostly means hiding. However, if cornered, know what items around you could be useful. Don't be that guy that says \"Someone call 911\". Point to a person and instruct them to make the call.\n\n2. Breath. Take a second and take a deep breath. Depending on the instance, it's likely something more terrible will not happen by taking a second to gather your thoughts. If you plan to change the situation, you must be calm.\n\n3. Protect yourself. Yes, you want to save a life but you don't want to expose your self to unnecessary risks. You can't possible know every thing wrong. If the individual may have a communicable disease. If its an active shooter, is it safe to help? Weigh out the pros and cons and view yourself as an asset and a liability. In the worst case scenario, what difference could you make. If something happened to you, would it hinder first responders? \n\n4. No thin skin. If you aren't trained to handle a medical emergency, understand that you are just helping until they arrive. As soon as they do, get out of their way. If its an active shooter situation, expect cops to point guns at you and maybe even put you on the ground. They go in with very little information and are looking to clear as quickly as possible to protect you and themselves. Give any type of necessary information and get out of the way. Good info like what the shooter looks like, what clothes, what weapon and how many.\n\nDisclaimer: I'm giving some things to think about in a difficult situation. Nothing on this list should take the place of a trained professional. Depending on what happens, your job is extend the life of someone until a medical professional can arrive. Always value your life above those you are helping. You are not helping anybody if you get injured. You are likely making the situation worse. Homeland security has some decent videos that can explain a lot of things. Don't be a hero. But know when it's a time to help, hide, or fight and the values of each. I guess the end point is education. If you know how to respond to situations, you'll be less likely to freeze. Hopefully I answered your question.\n\nSource- 10 years military, two years over seas in a combat zone doing combat missions, numerous PowerPoint slides.\n", "If you find yourself frozen, use those few seconds (your body gives you those seconds for a reason: to think) to formulate a plan of action. Scan the situation and area around you before you do anything. Have the confidence to then make a move to assist. In medical emergencies if you are overwhelmed, asking for help (dialing 911 or physically yelling for help) is the best choice and should always be done first.", "For circumstances involving fight or flight, or conflict, violence, etc, I've found the best way to prepare is to take the novelty out of it MMA, BJJ, karate, taekwondo, boxing, etc, anything that focuses on sparring, 1v1, or practicing techniques with another person, basically raises your threshold for fight or flight. After getting into it with your first better-skilled opponent at the gym, your average fight or flight is likely not going to top that sense of fear, unless there's a gun involved, or something else makes the circumstances even more unusually scary." ]
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[ "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)", "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)", "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)", "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)", "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)", "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)", "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)", "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)", "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)", "How to lock a door without a lock? My bedroom's door does not have a lock (well it has a lock, just doesn't have a key) &amp; I'm living with 2 guys I don't even know. I looked into portable locks on Amazon (addalock) but they don't seem suitable for my door, so I highly doubt they'd fit.\n\nI tried putting my chair against the door but it's too short.\n\nI can't completely change the locks because I'm a subtenant and have to move out in 3 months.\n\nIs there any way to lock this door? Or should I just put my study desk in front of it before going to sleep?\n\n(I don't have anything against these guys specifically but they are basically strangers, I hope you understand)" ]
[ "A simple slide lock should suffice. It's only a couple small screws into the door and frame which is generally not an issue when it comes to deposit and stuff as it's such minor holes", "I'm trying to think. But also. At the dollar store. I often see window alarms. Attach with a sticky. So one of the door and one on the frame and at night when a kreep opens ur door. It'll buzz or whatever..", "https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwiIgubQ6Nj6AhWBz4YKHTs3BHUYABAKGgJ2dQ&ae=2&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAESbeD2Y_FjjTj7JioJaMi0K_8OnnQW6rnkZZWsDifPB4P1EnMcvX2HFfvN26oKg_hAeIU_5RP_oQ2-b_skYD37BkqK9tcr7DoiuCWP0wQi0t-slPoPmIq5GfCNwgEJkxbAR_rjVrvI7uRlG9EzCjk&sig=AOD64_0yV6_wXdGTeCmygPRwMbpcQ50-Rg&ctype=5&q=&ved=2ahUKEwiBqd7Q6Nj6AhVOZjABHdGJD1MQwg8oAHoECAUQCg&adurl= \n\n\nHere go", "I don't know.. I say you change the door knob with a lock. Moving out in 3 months shouldn't matter, it is a 10 minute job, at most. Keep the old lock set and put it back when you are preparing to move out. This is what a friend did and had no issue.", "door latch and pad lock/combination lock\n\nlatch on inside as well if you want it to be locked when you sleep\n\n&#x200B;\n\nhttps://www.homedepot.com/p/Everbilt-3-1-2-in-Zinc-Plated-Adjustable-Staple-Safety-Hasp-15122/202033919", "[This!](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09TPGR5WJ/ref=sspa_dk_detail_6?psc=1&pd_rd_i=B09TPGR5WJ&pd_rd_w=dQRB0&content-id=amzn1.sym.88097cb9-5064-44ef-891b-abfacbc1c44b&pf_rd_p=88097cb9-5064-44ef-891b-abfacbc1c44b&pf_rd_r=W8PA2YP6DBNYMCAGM7AJ&pd_rd_wg=ny6az&pd_rd_r=5358a0b7-3202-449c-82dd-1d77af2d9e7a&s=hi&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9kZXRhaWw) \n\nI moved into a new apartment that had a lock&key, but the maintenance people also had the key so I didn't feel comfortable by myself. Super easy to put up and take down as needed and it leaves no damage on the door or frame!", "You can buy this electronic door wedge that wedges the entire bottom of the door and it’s supposedly very helpful in providing a frame to stop a break in. It’s not cheap", "Shop for \"door stops\". A basic door stop is just a wedge that goes under the door. But there are more advanced ones and you might be able to find something that would also work on the side and/or top of the door.\n\nDepending on how \"paranoid\" you are, you can use more than one.\n\nThere are also door alarms you can get that just hang on the door or fasten to the interior door handle.", "My cheap solution is: I have a thick but small throw rug with a non-skid bottom that I lay against the bottom edge of the door. Because the space between the floor and the bottom of the door is minimal, the rug against the door prevents you from opening it. The key is having a rug thick enough to not fold over and a rubberized bottom so it doesn’t slide. This only works if the space under your door isn’t too high. \n\nThere are also affordable safety door stoppers on Amazon, some even have alarms.", "Is there a specific reason why you feel scared your room mates will hurt you? Have they threatened you in some way? Or is this just internal anxiety / general distrust in other people that triggers this fear? \n\nI would simply ask your landlord what the possibilities for the door are. Maybe they are willing to change the lock for you or at least think with you about a suitable solution even it would mean covering the expenses yourself.\n\nHave you looked into travel doorlocks yet?\n\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Rishon-Enterprises-Inc-Apartment-Essentials/dp/B00186URTY\n\n\nOtherwise, posting a picture of your door and doorframe would help so that people can at least look at the construction as to help find a solution." ]
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[ "How to re-learn a subject before semester starts I'm currently a college student in my final year. For my major, one of the requirements is 12 hours of a foreign language. I took Spanish I and II in my Sophomore year, but for some (dumb) reason, waited to take Spanish III my final semester. Spanish was never my greatest subject, but now considering I've been been away from it for almost two years now, I'm panicking that I'll be way behind by the time the next semester starts and won't be able to graduate. Any ideas?", "How to re-learn a subject before semester starts I'm currently a college student in my final year. For my major, one of the requirements is 12 hours of a foreign language. I took Spanish I and II in my Sophomore year, but for some (dumb) reason, waited to take Spanish III my final semester. Spanish was never my greatest subject, but now considering I've been been away from it for almost two years now, I'm panicking that I'll be way behind by the time the next semester starts and won't be able to graduate. Any ideas?", "How to re-learn a subject before semester starts I'm currently a college student in my final year. For my major, one of the requirements is 12 hours of a foreign language. I took Spanish I and II in my Sophomore year, but for some (dumb) reason, waited to take Spanish III my final semester. Spanish was never my greatest subject, but now considering I've been been away from it for almost two years now, I'm panicking that I'll be way behind by the time the next semester starts and won't be able to graduate. Any ideas?", "How to re-learn a subject before semester starts I'm currently a college student in my final year. For my major, one of the requirements is 12 hours of a foreign language. I took Spanish I and II in my Sophomore year, but for some (dumb) reason, waited to take Spanish III my final semester. Spanish was never my greatest subject, but now considering I've been been away from it for almost two years now, I'm panicking that I'll be way behind by the time the next semester starts and won't be able to graduate. Any ideas?", "How to re-learn a subject before semester starts I'm currently a college student in my final year. For my major, one of the requirements is 12 hours of a foreign language. I took Spanish I and II in my Sophomore year, but for some (dumb) reason, waited to take Spanish III my final semester. Spanish was never my greatest subject, but now considering I've been been away from it for almost two years now, I'm panicking that I'll be way behind by the time the next semester starts and won't be able to graduate. Any ideas?" ]
[ "Keep your books. All of them. Every single one. You might not get the extra 20% what you paid for them, but you can refer to them afterwards. \n\nI keep textbooks for bathroom reading. If you want to learn, toss a couple books in there and you'll be brushed up in no time.", "http://www.sharedtalk.com You swap languages with Spanish speaking people who want to learn English. You can do email, voice or chat room. Used it to relearn Spanish one summer when I broke my leg!", "http://www.khanacademy.org/\n\nThere are tons of subjects covered here in simple to understand videos. \n\nDoesn't help with foreign language, but it does answer your title question.", "Most colleges have a club/association for languages, and some hold a \"cafe conversation\" type of thing so students can get together and practice their speaking/interpretation skills. If you don't feel you are prepared for that, you could also try to dig up your old homework and review yourself. \n\nIf you just don't think you will be possibly ready by next semester, meet with an advisor and ask them if your school will allow you to retake Spanish 2. I was in your position, and I decided to retake French 2 this semester as a refresher even though I got an A the first time I took it. Now I am perfectly prepared for French 3. Financial aid even paid for me to retake the class. Good luck!", "check out anki, it's a free flashcard based program that's really helped me out with my degree. I make my own questions as I go but there are also lots of pre made question sets out there that might help you brush up on your Spanish, I would definitely say it's worth a look" ]
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[ "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?", "How do you deal with anticipation anxiety? I’ve been told to just stay in the present but I find it so hard to not stop thinking about that ‘job interview’ or ‘social event’ that has been planned. I then get physical symptoms such as nausea etc… How do/did you deal with it?" ]
[ "Try mentally visualising the event three times. First in colour as you think it will go, second in black and white as you think it will go, then third visualise it going as good as possible.", "I use a set of tools to convince myself not to care about the thing that's making me anxious, but they all boil down to training my brain to care about things that are helpful and worth caring about. \n\nIn my case the most acute examples have been performance anxiety as an orchestral violinist who's often sitting on the outside row by the audience. I used to get crippling anxiety that would make my heart race, I couldn't breathe, and my bow got so shaky at times (especially during slow, delicate, exposed passages) that I had to lift it off the string and air bow for a bit until I could regain my composure or until that section passed, and this is in front of audiences paying a lot of money for subscriptions and next to amazing musicians who can certainly hear when their neighbor screws up or isn't actually playing a passage. \n\nI've tried medications and therapy, but the thing that has worked the best in my case is for me to stop caring about what anyone in the audience thinks or what my colleagues think about my performance and replace that with focusing on the job I want to do & the playing I want to achieve for each composer's work.\n\nStarting from the time I spend practicing, through rehearsals, and when I get on stage in front of an audience, I now begin every playing session by getting hyper-focused on the work in front of me and I aggressively push out any audience/stand partner thoughts with thoughts about the music, what I've practiced, what I might listen for in the composition to be better connected with the work, etc... \n\nThe music doesn't care about the audience or the musicians playing, we are just fortunate to be a part of the symphonic instrument that brings it to life, and any personal worries on my part are just a distraction from what's important... Making music, nothing about me personally is important, only breathing life into this particular work of music is important. As soon as I start worrying about me, that's a recipe for relapsing into anxiety, but that doesn't happen very often anymore because I've practiced the hell out of not caring, except for caring about the music. \n\nI know that's a big departure from typical job interview or social settings, but I've applied the same attitude towards social anxiety as well. Around other people who make me anxious I've worked hard training my brain to replace \"the music\" with \"the story\". \n\nI used to get highly anxious about what other people in social settings thought about me and that lead to social avoidance. While I still have some avoidance, but now rather than anxiety, it's mainly because I'm an introvert and social settings completely drain me. \n\nAt the same time that I was learning to overcome performance anxiety I started applying those principles to social interactions and realizing that the story of who I am and the stories of people I talk with are the music in front of me that needs to be played without being distracted by fears of making mistakes or being judged.\n\nI'm still empathetic and I care about what others think about my views when it's related to ways I want to be a better person, but I put way more effort now into listening without allowing my inner monolog to think about what I should say next or how someone might judge me for what I say. \n\nMy inner monolog was difficult to tame, but now I recognize it had been the primary driving force for my particular variety of anxiety (and still can be if I let it). I didn't know I could tell my thoughts to shutup and listen, and learning to do that was a long process. First it took recognition of the problem, then catching myself doing it, and then practicing actively distracting those thoughts, and the best way for me to do that has been to refocus/hyperfocus on what is most important: The music, or the story.\n\nAlso important, I don't think I could have made the progress I've made without the help of my very talented cognitive behavioral therapist. I'm sure it's possible for some people to help themselves, but I needed that outside perspective from a person trained in helping people retrain their brains.", "\r \nMaybe one or more of these tips will help:\n\n\r \n\\- Name the anxiety >> the more words, the more reduction of symptoms.\r \nYou can speak or write. Just by writing down how you're feeling will greatly reduce the anxiety. Use extreme, exaggerated fear words to reduce even more.\r \n\r \n\\- Face the anxiety, don't avoid it.\r \n\r \n\\- Breathe. Symptoms of panic and heavy exercise (heavy breathing, sweating, pounding heart) are identical, because panic wants you to act in physical ways (run away). Train your body that you don't need to have that response by breathing differently. \r \n\r \nExample: breath in to a quick count of 7; pause; breathe out to quick count of 11.\r \n\r \n\\- Grade the anxiety from 0 to 10 (no anxiety to crippling anxiety). The very fact that you're thinking about numbers instead of anxiety or fear, reduces anxiety. Also, it forces you to use the thinking centers of your brain (which are often locked out when you're anxious). Plus, you're putting yourself into a mindful, observing state, outside of the anxiety. \r \n\r \nThen pick a number you can handle (like this guy said 3 was okay to give his big talk, but 6 was too high). Breathe in and out until you get to that acceptable number.\r \n\r \n\\- Discharge the energy >> high-intensity exercise will switch off panic (50 jumping jacks or push-ups -- fast and you can). Regular exercise will keep you less anxious.\r \n\r \n\\- AWARE technique\r \nA: accept that you are feeling anxious and name it\r \nW: watch the anxiety and even grade it\r \nA: act normal, breath in and more slowly out, carry on as normal\r \nR: repeat those steps as necessary\r \nE: expect the best\n\nSource: Video: https://youtu.be/k3nYvdj3A7I \nWebsite: https://www.unk.com/blog/", "I've been dealing with that kind of anxiety for a while. I recently went to the doctor and got a prescription for Zoloft. After 3 weeks of taking it my anxiety, while still there is reduced to background levels. I haven't woke up with nausea/diarreah in about 2 weeks. I'm more productive now as I'm not fixated on stressful events. But the biggest thing for me, medicated or not is avoiding the negative self talk and fixation on whatever stressful event your stories about. Easier said than done but mediation really helps strengthen your mind to control your thoughts. I'm not very good at it but I'm learning", "This is how I deal because I have such anxiety when it comes to transactional or potentially confrontational interactions. I started this a few years ago on the advice of a friend and it has worked tremendously. I also have a vivid imagination and am one of those people that act out scenes in my head.\n\nStart with imagining literally the worst things that can happen in a given situation. \n\nYou're going for a job interview and your belt breaks right before so you have to kind of hold your pants up a bit. \n\nYou're going on a first date and it's great but you accidentally spill a drink on the table and it goes everywhere. \n\nYou're meeting the SO's parents for the first time and you drop an F-bomb at the most inappropriate moment.\n\nIf you can imagine yourself moving past the faux-pas then you can visualize the outcome. Positive or negative. If you imagine that the worst thing that could happen took place then you can go ahead and comfort yourself by knowing that the probability of it actually happening is pretty low. \n\nOnce you've trained your brain to accept the worst outcome in a given situation then you can start to cope with the effects. \n\nOr maybe I have just set my expectations so low that the worst case scenario is death/abandonment/termination. And I can only go higher from there. I'm content either way.", "Not specific to anticipation, but I had general anxiety pretty much all the time for six years. The secret? I quit drinking caffeine. I know that sounds stupid but for some reason it works for me.\n\nAs far as anticipation anxiety goes, the more times you do that particular thing the easier it is to do that thing. Don't hold any expectations of, say, the job interview. It's just an interview, and you will likely have to do several before a job lands. So a \"failed\" interview is completely normal.", "There was some study done and a book I read talked about it in one chapter about how our brains can misinterpret different physical feelings to other emotions. Specifically it was people being addressed on a suspension bridge that induced a lot of fear found themselves to be sexually attracted to the interviewer that spoke to them at the middle of the scary bridge. And it indicated that your brain can decide what physical symptoms mean emotionally for you. I try to turn the physical symptom around instead of saying I have nausea from anxiety, I try to frame it as I have butterflies in my stomach because I am excited about this activity. Changing that in my brain helps me to change how I feel about it. Good luck!", "There are many strategies for dealing with this. One thing to keep in mind is that you don't want to suppress your thoughts or feelings, but accept and replace them. \n\nI find it helpful to accept inevitable failure and commit to being the clown, the weirdo, the awkward person, or the (unintentional) comic relief in a situation. Once I commit to that role, like that's the part I'm playing in this play, then I can give up the pressure to succeed and just ride the discomfort until the event is over. Half the time it ends up being not as bad as expected and I tend to be more relaxed because I've given myself permission to fail and not be under pressure to \"succeed\".\n\n(This approach might not work for a concert musician, but is similar to the visualizing the worst case scenario method.)\n\nAnother thing, already mentioned, is redefining the anxiety as excitement - building up a positive vision of the experience and convincing yourself that your jitters are because you can't wait for it to happen.\nOnce you have reframed it this way you might be able to workout or exercise the nervous energy away a bit \n\nAnd then on the physical end, I find a self hug - one hand near the heart and the other hand on the belly - combined with slow deep abdominal breathing and an intent of kindness and soothing to oneself - I find this to be helpful. You have to do it for a few minutes though.\n\nThe reframing is important, because the more you suppress thinking about the event the more your anxiety will return as an intrusive thought.", "Some tangible strategies for me emphasize a focus on the understanding of the issue. \n\nI know that my brain is trying to loop the situation because of fear of potential outcomes. \n\nI accept that there are many possible outcomes and look at what those may be. \n\nAfter you look at your outcomes you have to integrate your resilience into those outcomes. Create the attitude of regardless of those circumstances, I will be what I intend to be. \n\nThis is where I usually get hung up thinking about the moments leading up to and during. Once you play through all the scenarios and find everything works out fine, is everything better? \n\nUsually no, that’s when I start putting my focus into the moments following these events. Try to loop the positive feedback you think you’ll get from having completed these things. Visualize the car ride home from that interview or meetup. \n\nEventually, your mentality should shift from that of fear of the situations to excitement for the positive feedback. It’s all about replacing the loops.", "I use to deal with this a lot..\n\nWhen I had even simple meeting or just a task..I would build up anxiety in my head till one time I had panic attack even before I could speak a word in meeting...\n\n\nI know its hard process and its difficult to over come so I would like to share my process I have adapted\n\nBreath... and try not to think about anything...\nHelpful if u just watch a window and breath in when u see horizontally and breath out when u see vertical line...\n\n\nThen say it out loud...\nI see a problem..\n Don't panic... My mind knows more than u think it knows..\n\nLook in a mirror Smile , say u got this u are brave , your gonna do great... U will kick ass and party hard ...\n\n\nI'm still in process .. But it had helped me ..\n\n\nI would also like to think.. If it doesn't bother me in 5 years.. I wouldnt spend more than 5 min thinking about it..", "I suffer from panic attacks and anxiety as well. Knowing other people have the same issues helps keep me grounded and that I'm not going insane. \n\nOne way of thinking that has helped me tackle the anticipation, is coming to the realization that I was making up an imaginary situation that hadn't and most certainly would never happen. Whenever I started imagining the worst, I slowly was able to twist my thought process and realize I was imagining a fictitious scenario. A lie that was not going to happen.\n\nThen, it's a matter of repetition. Constant verification that things go just about always as planned and many times better than anticipated.\n\nAlso, having a friend or family member that understands anxiety and the irrational thoughts it can cause is worth their weight in gold. Explaining to a trusted person how to calm you down, or keep you distracted long enough to calm down helps tremendously. I have a few people just in case one is not available if I need to call and talk myself down.\n\nYou are not alone. There are people that suffer the same as you do. There are friends, family, people that would jump at the chance to be a shoulder to cry on or a voice of reason that understand your situation. Best of luck", "I stopped letting fear and worry rule my life by realising that not everything was in my control and the fact that it was tiring trying to get my way all the time. I am good at getting the things I want and need but it becomes like a full time job in itself, too time consuming.", "I see you have been already offered a variety of nice advices, therefore I will recommend an app \"Intellect: Create a better you\" that helps me to cope with similar issues. Using 2-5 minutes \"therapies\" you are recharged/relaxed and ready to go further. There are some paid features, but I am more than satisfied with the free version. My personal favourite are Rescue Sessions. These sessions offer quick bite-sized support to deal with overwhelming feelings, such as nervousness, poor sleep, anger, and other stressful emotions. \n\nThe app is available for both Apple and Android devices.", "I remind myself that the anxiety I'm anticipating is far worse than the actual event. For example, I get anxious about going to work. But I know from experience that it is the waiting that is making me anxious. Once I actually get there, I'm fine. \n\nIf you are able to do some deep breathing, that can help, too. I'm much better with the CBT than the breathing.", "I practise potential conversations out loud. Verbalizing what I might say during the interview (or during a presentation) helps to sort out my thoughts, gets most of the anticipation stress under control and makes me feel more prepared and in control of what is going to happen.\n\n", "I have the perfect answer for this, if you learn any other techniques, it will cause you problems.\n\nI'll attach the link when I get back tomorrow." ]
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[ "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?", "how to make yourself become a \"morning person\"? So I have to get up early for my job, like 530am if I want to have time to make myself look halfway presentable, maybe eat breakfast, and get out the door on time. However, I keep pushing it out towards 6am and find myself rushing and being late because I just can't convince myself to get up early when I could have another few minutes of sleep. \n\nI'm naturally inclined to be a night owl, but even when I go to bed early I can't bring myself to get up early.\n\nReddit, any helpful tips on making good morning habits? Is it pssoible to convince your brain to learn to like a new schedule?" ]
[ "When you wake up, try getting up straight away. As in sit up and get going. Sounds simple, but makes a difference. \n\nSet up a alarm, and place it on the other side of the room. \n\nSome people have their alarm clock locked in a box and the key is downstairs ! ", "I haven't tried it, but there are apps that make you scan a QR code before you get up. Something like this might work:\n\nhttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.funanduseful.earlybirdalarm&hl=en\n\nPut a QR code in your bathroom mirror (or further if necessary). Once you're already up, I'd imagine you'd start getting ready for work.", "I have this same problem. My phone's default alarm has a puzzle mode where it'll ask you to answer a random math problem or put letters in order to turn off or snooze the alarm. I had it for a little while but my will to get up is so weak that I went back to the regular alarm >_< I need help. \n\nIf you think it'll help you can download an alarm in the play store that has these features. ", "You don't, but you can learn a routine. The key is regularity. If the rhythm is regular, you can maintain it with no special effort, no matter how much it goes against your natural preferences. You should have it exactly same each morning, accurate to 5 minutes or so. It can take 1-2 weeks, but then your body clock will be in sync with it.\n\nAs a evening person, I had to wake up in the army at 6 (earlier in the field), and to a job, at 5:30. After learning the routine, I had no problems in adjusting to it. (Of course, I immediately reverted to my regular habits when these ended.)", "The strategy that worked for me was crazy simple stupid. I had four different alarm clocks rhroughout my room, set to different times in case i snoozed or didnt hear it. Then I set all four for the exact same time, and id have to walk a be up for a minute to handle them all. Made a difference!\n\nAlso, since it's probably dark at 530 where you live, if funds allow, I strongly support the HappyLite or similar products made to mimic natural sunlight. Boosts mood, energy, and consistent circadian rhythm. They can be found around $40 online. Might find good deals black friday or cyber monday?", "Set your alarm signal to the same as your ringtone (even better set it as the same signal as your bosses personal ringtone), that way you get up (set the phone far fron your bed) fast.\n\nDon't go back to bed and get som bright light in your eyes.", "I wouldn't recommend it:\n\nhttp://www.cbsnews.com/news/night-owls-and-early-birds-have-different-personality-traits/\n\nI've read a number of studies that show that it's a part of your personality. You won't ever be a morning person, but you can learn to cope in the morning better.", "I used to work at 6am, so had to be out of the house by 5.30 am. I put my alarm on the other side of my room, and turned the lights on immediately and went with it. If I was really really sleepy, I'd turn on some music too while I got ready ", "I used to have one of those alarms where you have to work out math questions to stop it from waking up the entire house! It did wonders.", "I try to go to bed early like around 9, sometimes even 8, but then in the morning I just convince myself it's the perfect opportunity for even more sleep. I usually end up going to be around 1130.\n\nI know in the end, making good habits is going to come down to sucking it up and using willpower to force myself up early. But then I'm still not enjoying it. I guess that's the essence of my request, looking for tips on how to help myself enjoy getting up early so it's not such a chore.", "I tried having a aleep app on my phone. You can also use wristbands like Jawbone up. If you're up for sleeping with you phone nearby you, you can use it as well, they really work. The trick is that your sleep is not actually a constant period of sleeping. It consists of different phases of sleep. For example for a night you sleep: abcd abcd abcd abcd. Each abcd lasts for about 1.5 hour. If you will have an app or something it will monitor your overnight sleep (depends on how much do you move overnight and when do you go to sleep) it will wake you app after a finished sleep period. So in the morning you will feel more awake and rested. After few days you will get on waking up easier and easier. ", "I like putting a granola bar next to my alarm clock. Eat it when your alarm goes off first. Eating tricks my body into thinking I'm alive in the morning.", "I had the same problem as you - what worked for me was doing it super slowly. Be in bed 5 minutes early and set the alarm 5 minutes early for a week. Then over a course of months gradually move it earlier and earlier. \n\nAnd as much as it sucks stick with the alarm every single day- don't \"catch up\" with sleep on weekends or off days. It makes it that much harder to get back in the groove the subsequent days :(", "Avoid looking into white and blue light in the evening after sunset. Especially monitors, white LED, CFL. Use red and yellow light colours in the house." ]
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[ "how not to get overwhelmed Often times, I'll look at my schedule, and start panicking and put everything off until the end of the day and never get all the things I was supposed to get done, done.", "how not to get overwhelmed Often times, I'll look at my schedule, and start panicking and put everything off until the end of the day and never get all the things I was supposed to get done, done.", "how not to get overwhelmed Often times, I'll look at my schedule, and start panicking and put everything off until the end of the day and never get all the things I was supposed to get done, done.", "how not to get overwhelmed Often times, I'll look at my schedule, and start panicking and put everything off until the end of the day and never get all the things I was supposed to get done, done." ]
[ "Lists work for me. Either first thing in the morning or more often the day/night before, I set up in order of priority, the most important things I need to focus on. Most often, the first things on my list are the things I DIDN'T finish the day before. ", "Watch out for the flank. If you see red on your radar from the side, then you should probably fall back to a more secure position. I recommend using crouch to invis, and walking, since you don't show up on radar for 6 seconds.", "I have the same problem. I started asking busy, successful people in my life how they manage everything without getting overwhelmed, and they all said variations of the same thing. Break big tasks down into smaller tasks and schedule the work in smaller increments. Doing 15 minutes of your huge pile of paperwork every day is one of the best ways to get through it all without getting overwhelmed, you'll feel calm because you have a plan, and making a little progress every day staves off the panic. It's worked for me, although I didn't like it much at first and it took some adjustment.", "*\"Life is a succession of moments. To live each one is to succeed.\"*- Corita Kent\n\nFeeling overwhelmed is a normal part of life.\n\nOrganize all of the things you need to do and tackle them one at a time, moment by moment. Thinking about how much you have to get done or taking a long time to figure out how you'll do it doesn't get anything done. \n\n*\"Just do IT!\"* -Sheheeny Lebeef" ]
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