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zqylj0 | 143 | Dealership lent car to unlicensed individual who caused accident. Can I pursue payment for damages outside of accident insurance? Located in colorado. The dealership lent car to an unlicensed and uninsured driver. The driver was responsible for accident. Dealership s insurance covered but only to a certain amount that does not cover everything. Would I be able to pursue the dealership itself for negligence in giving the driver a vehicle without a license or insurance? | Your post is missing some possessive pronouns and I m a bit confused can you clarify if you mean: > *[A]* Dealership lent **MY** car to unlicensed individual who caused *[an]* accident **WITH SOMEONE ELSE S VEHICLE**. or > *[A]* Dealership lent **A** car to *[an]* unlicensed individual who caused *[an]* accident **BY HITTING MY VEHICLE**. | Just to clarify and verify: You dropped off the car that you own at the dealership. The dealership had an unlicensed employee drive the car. That person wrecked the car. Is this an accurate summary? & #x200B You should be pursuing both the individual and the dealership. | 200 | 35 |
zqylj0 | 143 | Dealership lent car to unlicensed individual who caused accident. Can I pursue payment for damages outside of accident insurance? Located in colorado. The dealership lent car to an unlicensed and uninsured driver. The driver was responsible for accident. Dealership s insurance covered but only to a certain amount that does not cover everything. Would I be able to pursue the dealership itself for negligence in giving the driver a vehicle without a license or insurance? | Your post is missing some possessive pronouns and I m a bit confused can you clarify if you mean: > *[A]* Dealership lent **MY** car to unlicensed individual who caused *[an]* accident **WITH SOMEONE ELSE S VEHICLE**. or > *[A]* Dealership lent **A** car to *[an]* unlicensed individual who caused *[an]* accident **BY HITTING MY VEHICLE**. | What sort of paperwork did you sign when you took the dealerships insurance money? Because in any normal transaction like this you would have been required to settle your claims against the dealer in exchange for that money. If you settled against the dealer then they re out and you cannot get any more money from them. Your only option would be the motorist that hit you and or a claim against your UM UIM coverage. | 200 | 75 |
zr0lk1 | 220 | Sister s future roommate is trying to force her out of a lease My sister (20F) signed an off campus lease for next year with a random roommate. (Her college is in Illinois). A month or so after signing the lease her future roommate found her instagram and began dm ing her. The roommate said she had severe OCD and has had issues with past roommates so she wants my sister to back out of her lease so her niece can move in with her instead. My sister asked her if they could try talking about accommodations as she is generally a pretty easygoing person and the roommate requested the following of her: - No shoes in the apartment - Apartment must be deep cleaned twice a week. Anything left out when she is cleaning will be thrown away - Minimum to no guests and male visitors are never allowed. If any guests come over the house must be disinfected within an hour of them leaving - No decorations because she gets over stimulated - All labels have to face in a certain direction - The following foods are not allowed in the apartment: Red meat dairy shell fish nuts soybean and spices (including but not limited to: cinnamon nutmeg cardamom cloves star anise and curry). She claims her allergies are so severe that if any of these foods are in the home or if she smells them she could die Because the roommate already lives in this apartment and my sister hasn t moved in yet she wants my sister to find a new place to live. Most of the housing near campus are full and the only remaining options are further and more expensive and my sister does not want to spend weeks and go through the additional stress of searching for a new place. The apartment is 2 bed 1.5 bath and it s obviously ridiculous for my sister to have to accommodate these things in their shared spaces. She stopped engaging with the roommate has tried reaching out to apartment management about the issue (including screenshots of the conversation) and though they were sympathetic after moving things up the chain they said there is nothing they can do and that she should find a new place. We feel like because the roommate is the one with all of these problems she should be the one to leave. Having my sister find a new place feels like rewarding the roommate for her actions. Is there any way to ensure my sister can keep her lease without being subjected to harassment from her roommate about her unreasonable ‘rules ? (edited a typo) | How much do we want to bet that NONE of this is true and she is trying to make herself out to be so unbearable that nobody would want to live there so her niece can? Your sister should just pop by one day to see if in fact the place is sterile all labels are turned out and there is no nutmeg in the house. Still though if it is all true...living there would be a nightmare. If in fact it is all bullsh*t...living there would be a nightmare. | > my sister does not want to spend weeks and go through the additional stress of searching for a new place. Your sister needs to ask herself what s going to be more stressful: finding a new place now or a year of arguments. > We feel like because the roommate is the one with all of these problems she should be the one to leave. Right now there are two leases with two people who don t want to move. Your sister can argue that the roommate should be the one to leave but she has no way to force that. It sounds like the landlord is amenable to your sister terminating her lease without penalty. I understand your feelings but kicking this person out is not a realistic expectation. Likewise of course your sister can choose to move in - that is her legal right at this point. > Is there any way to ensure my sister can keep her lease without being subjected to harassment from her roommate about her unreasonable ‘rules ? Realistically? No. There are legal things that could happen if the roommate does certain things - for example if she disposes of your sister s possessions she could be sued but she s legally allowed to be a difficult roommate. Arguments about whether the labels are facing the right way or if hanging posters is overstimulating are not something either her landlord or the legal system can tackle. And anyway 90% of the recourse your sister would have if the roommate s harassment rises to legal levels is to... terminate her lease without penalty and move out of the situation. This is one of those situations where exercising her rights may just result in everyone losing. | 210 | 82 |
zr41lp | 2,246 | A developer is sabotaging my mother s house and property in an attempt to get her to move. Damages on the order of $100K. What are our options? My 88yo mother has been living on a large parcel of land in a desirable Silicon Valley community for over 50 years. I ve been telling her to sell it off and downsize for years but she has no desire to change her lifestyle. Her brother lived alone similarly until dying a couple of years ago at age 98 so she could continue like this for a while. & #x200B For the last two months she s been finding weird stuff around her property like excrement in the swimming pool damaged exteriors broken windows shrubs cut down. It has escalated in the last month and she has found poison set up to kill her landmark trees ugly paint and damage to brick and stone walls etc. She heard a noise outside around 8PM (after dark) recently and discovered a man dressed in black wearing night vision goggles methodically wrecking things on her property. She chased him off with a BB gun. She has set up security cameras to see if she can get evidence of the trespassing and damages. She isn t the easiest person to deal with as you might imagine from the circumstance of an stubborn old woman living on her own in a large house but I m trying to help her as best I can from my home a thousand miles away. She believes she has found the name of the person responsible a real estate developer who may be trying to get her to sell her property at a loss so he can snap it up and redevelop it. I m not going to post the name here but my searches confirm he lives nearby and has developed large properties in this and other desirable neighborhoods in the valley. What sort of legal options are possible in this circumstance? Update 2022 12 21: * Will discuss the PI option with Mom this evening. * Visiting her is not practical at the moment. We were practically no contact for 8 years and have had a sort of truce for only the last four months after the death of my peacemaker intermediary brother. | Because this is occurring in California your mother could pursue a civil action in the courts to seek economic damages pursuant to the California Civil Code Section 3346 which provides for damages for deprivation of value profit advantage and use for trespasses. There would have to be proof though. | Why is she so convinced the developer is the person responsible? Regardless she can report this stuff to the police. | 1,995 | 332 |
zr41lp | 2,246 | A developer is sabotaging my mother s house and property in an attempt to get her to move. Damages on the order of $100K. What are our options? My 88yo mother has been living on a large parcel of land in a desirable Silicon Valley community for over 50 years. I ve been telling her to sell it off and downsize for years but she has no desire to change her lifestyle. Her brother lived alone similarly until dying a couple of years ago at age 98 so she could continue like this for a while. & #x200B For the last two months she s been finding weird stuff around her property like excrement in the swimming pool damaged exteriors broken windows shrubs cut down. It has escalated in the last month and she has found poison set up to kill her landmark trees ugly paint and damage to brick and stone walls etc. She heard a noise outside around 8PM (after dark) recently and discovered a man dressed in black wearing night vision goggles methodically wrecking things on her property. She chased him off with a BB gun. She has set up security cameras to see if she can get evidence of the trespassing and damages. She isn t the easiest person to deal with as you might imagine from the circumstance of an stubborn old woman living on her own in a large house but I m trying to help her as best I can from my home a thousand miles away. She believes she has found the name of the person responsible a real estate developer who may be trying to get her to sell her property at a loss so he can snap it up and redevelop it. I m not going to post the name here but my searches confirm he lives nearby and has developed large properties in this and other desirable neighborhoods in the valley. What sort of legal options are possible in this circumstance? Update 2022 12 21: * Will discuss the PI option with Mom this evening. * Visiting her is not practical at the moment. We were practically no contact for 8 years and have had a sort of truce for only the last four months after the death of my peacemaker intermediary brother. | Security cameras are a good start. Has she filed a police report? > she calls them and they don t come out. This is nonsense. $100k in damages merits reports for vandalism or criminal mischief at the very least. If they re not taking her seriously she should go in person to file the reports. She needs to file a report every time there s damage to her house or yard. | Set more cameras up make sure that they are hidden. Expand the area out to where they record. Try to capture the property plus streets etc. | 1,406 | 26 |
zr41lp | 2,246 | A developer is sabotaging my mother s house and property in an attempt to get her to move. Damages on the order of $100K. What are our options? My 88yo mother has been living on a large parcel of land in a desirable Silicon Valley community for over 50 years. I ve been telling her to sell it off and downsize for years but she has no desire to change her lifestyle. Her brother lived alone similarly until dying a couple of years ago at age 98 so she could continue like this for a while. & #x200B For the last two months she s been finding weird stuff around her property like excrement in the swimming pool damaged exteriors broken windows shrubs cut down. It has escalated in the last month and she has found poison set up to kill her landmark trees ugly paint and damage to brick and stone walls etc. She heard a noise outside around 8PM (after dark) recently and discovered a man dressed in black wearing night vision goggles methodically wrecking things on her property. She chased him off with a BB gun. She has set up security cameras to see if she can get evidence of the trespassing and damages. She isn t the easiest person to deal with as you might imagine from the circumstance of an stubborn old woman living on her own in a large house but I m trying to help her as best I can from my home a thousand miles away. She believes she has found the name of the person responsible a real estate developer who may be trying to get her to sell her property at a loss so he can snap it up and redevelop it. I m not going to post the name here but my searches confirm he lives nearby and has developed large properties in this and other desirable neighborhoods in the valley. What sort of legal options are possible in this circumstance? Update 2022 12 21: * Will discuss the PI option with Mom this evening. * Visiting her is not practical at the moment. We were practically no contact for 8 years and have had a sort of truce for only the last four months after the death of my peacemaker intermediary brother. | Security cameras are a good start. Has she filed a police report? > she calls them and they don t come out. This is nonsense. $100k in damages merits reports for vandalism or criminal mischief at the very least. If they re not taking her seriously she should go in person to file the reports. She needs to file a report every time there s damage to her house or yard. | There is obvious recourse here if you can prove the allegations. I would help her get some good cameras that stream to the internet. That way you can verify what s happening. I m not saying that it s made up but evidence is what works in court. Cameras and lights that trigger with movement. Once she has evidence get police help and a lawyer. If it s a developer with deep pockets she would have a strong case for a number of causes. | 1,406 | 39 |
zr41lp | 2,246 | A developer is sabotaging my mother s house and property in an attempt to get her to move. Damages on the order of $100K. What are our options? My 88yo mother has been living on a large parcel of land in a desirable Silicon Valley community for over 50 years. I ve been telling her to sell it off and downsize for years but she has no desire to change her lifestyle. Her brother lived alone similarly until dying a couple of years ago at age 98 so she could continue like this for a while. & #x200B For the last two months she s been finding weird stuff around her property like excrement in the swimming pool damaged exteriors broken windows shrubs cut down. It has escalated in the last month and she has found poison set up to kill her landmark trees ugly paint and damage to brick and stone walls etc. She heard a noise outside around 8PM (after dark) recently and discovered a man dressed in black wearing night vision goggles methodically wrecking things on her property. She chased him off with a BB gun. She has set up security cameras to see if she can get evidence of the trespassing and damages. She isn t the easiest person to deal with as you might imagine from the circumstance of an stubborn old woman living on her own in a large house but I m trying to help her as best I can from my home a thousand miles away. She believes she has found the name of the person responsible a real estate developer who may be trying to get her to sell her property at a loss so he can snap it up and redevelop it. I m not going to post the name here but my searches confirm he lives nearby and has developed large properties in this and other desirable neighborhoods in the valley. What sort of legal options are possible in this circumstance? Update 2022 12 21: * Will discuss the PI option with Mom this evening. * Visiting her is not practical at the moment. We were practically no contact for 8 years and have had a sort of truce for only the last four months after the death of my peacemaker intermediary brother. | Security cameras are a good start. Has she filed a police report? > she calls them and they don t come out. This is nonsense. $100k in damages merits reports for vandalism or criminal mischief at the very least. If they re not taking her seriously she should go in person to file the reports. She needs to file a report every time there s damage to her house or yard. | OP I say this with utmost respect for you and your mother but what your mother is reporting to you on her situation is in line with many elderly people succumbing to dementia and Alzheimer s. Note that nothing allegedly done by this developer to your mother s property would actually lower her property value in a sale or even put them in line to be the buyer if she were to sell. Unless you have seen physical evidence of this taking place such as clear video footage I would highly recommend you nudge her towards doing a cognitive test with her doctor. | 1,406 | 287 |
zr41lp | 2,246 | A developer is sabotaging my mother s house and property in an attempt to get her to move. Damages on the order of $100K. What are our options? My 88yo mother has been living on a large parcel of land in a desirable Silicon Valley community for over 50 years. I ve been telling her to sell it off and downsize for years but she has no desire to change her lifestyle. Her brother lived alone similarly until dying a couple of years ago at age 98 so she could continue like this for a while. & #x200B For the last two months she s been finding weird stuff around her property like excrement in the swimming pool damaged exteriors broken windows shrubs cut down. It has escalated in the last month and she has found poison set up to kill her landmark trees ugly paint and damage to brick and stone walls etc. She heard a noise outside around 8PM (after dark) recently and discovered a man dressed in black wearing night vision goggles methodically wrecking things on her property. She chased him off with a BB gun. She has set up security cameras to see if she can get evidence of the trespassing and damages. She isn t the easiest person to deal with as you might imagine from the circumstance of an stubborn old woman living on her own in a large house but I m trying to help her as best I can from my home a thousand miles away. She believes she has found the name of the person responsible a real estate developer who may be trying to get her to sell her property at a loss so he can snap it up and redevelop it. I m not going to post the name here but my searches confirm he lives nearby and has developed large properties in this and other desirable neighborhoods in the valley. What sort of legal options are possible in this circumstance? Update 2022 12 21: * Will discuss the PI option with Mom this evening. * Visiting her is not practical at the moment. We were practically no contact for 8 years and have had a sort of truce for only the last four months after the death of my peacemaker intermediary brother. | Security cameras are a good start. Has she filed a police report? > she calls them and they don t come out. This is nonsense. $100k in damages merits reports for vandalism or criminal mischief at the very least. If they re not taking her seriously she should go in person to file the reports. She needs to file a report every time there s damage to her house or yard. | Why is she so convinced the developer is the person responsible? Regardless she can report this stuff to the police. | 1,406 | 332 |
zr735k | 52 | Sister s SO is threatening to evict her and her kids. They have been together 10 years and property is under his name. This is in Texas. My sister and her SO are having issues and he keeps threatening to kick her and the kids out of their home. The kids are two young adults from a prior relationship plus 1 baby each and their 7 year old son. They have been living together for at least 10 years as husband and wife but they are not married. The house is under his name only but she pays for all the bills including mortgage she has been sending him the money to pay the bills and has proof of these money transfers and what they were to be used for. What complicates things further is that my sister is still legally married to one of the other kids father they just never filed for divorce. Does she have any rights as far as the house is concerned? It was bought by them together even though her name is not on it. He s also getting violent to which I mentioned she may want to get a restraining order against him. She knows she needs an attorney but doesn t have the money now so I thought to ask here for advice. Does she have to move out? Does she have any rights to the house? | Unfortunately since she is already married to another person the common law marriage between the two of them is pretty much out the window. Additionally since he has his name on everything and is collecting payments she essentially made herself a tenant with all the landlord financial responsibility. I know it sucks and I m sure she s kicking herself in the ass right now for it but that s the facts as far as my legal interpretation can go. Best thing to do is prepare for the eviction notice JIK it does come from the husband since they are entitled to it based on tenant rights but other than that I do not see much recourse for her | It sounds like he can terminate her tenancy with proper notice at any time and go to court to file for eviction if she refuses to move out. | 79 | 27 |
zrl1bd | 751 | can my landlord make me take down a camera i mounted in my own bedroom? (florida) i just started renting a bedroom in a house with three preexisting roommates. i m the only female in the house but everyone keeps to themselves and there haven t been any issues. my landlord is definitely odd though. he keeps setting times to come replace power outlets in my room and now he s told me for the third time he s coming when no one will be home and he s bringing other workers. i don t feel comfortable with multiple older men i don t know being in my bedroom (i m only 22 for context.) i bought blink mini cameras and put one up on a wall overlooking the bedroom for my own peace of mind. he just went over there and unplugged it and then sent me a text that i m not allowed to have a camera in my bedroom. i tried looking up the laws surrounding having a camera in my own private bedroom but there are no conclusive answers. i m in florida. what are my options here? thanks in advance! update: i just got home from work. out of the 6 outlets he replaced three are upside down and two are jammed into the wall. one isn t even fully attached to the wall and very loose. he also knocked over and rearranged my furniture that i had already pulled away from the walls for him. he also took my curtains down (they were blackout curtains pinned up over the windows) and did not put them back up. nothing is missing but i m really upset that i m having to clean up the mess and broken things from them shoving my stuff around. my boyfriend is coming by later to examine each one for any signs of a possible hidden camera and will likely be replacing all of them again at the expense of my landlord who i will be billing. if he decides to fight back i ll be going to court with the pictures i ve taken of the fire hazards these lazily-installed outlets will likely cause. i refuse to plug anything in and will not be sleeping in this room until it s all been taken care of. thank you for the advice given. i m gonna keep looking for other places. | Landlord here and time is money. It seems like he keeps going back to your place over and over to perform a job that should be wrapped up on a single visit in a couple hours. Extremely suspicious behavior that I believe he could be using to cover up something more nefarious. You aren t allowed to have a camera in your home? Are you kidding me? That means no laptop tablet phone either in your own apartment. He is actively trying to prevent you from protecting yourself. Surveillance cameras also protect property HIS own property. As a landlord I think cameras are a good thing. This is a HUGE red flag. Anything missing? Have you checked vents etc for his own cameras? Another poster mentioned there are cameras that can be installed in wall outlets smoke detectors. Protect yourself. This is not normal behavior from a landlord but it is from a predator. | Outlets don t tend to need to be replaced. So while his reasoning is suspect the landlord and his agents are free to enter for real actual maintenance needs. You do not have to be there they just have to follow the location s requirements on notice. They can reject to being filmed while doing this. I d drill down on their reasoning and push back on your right of quiet enjoyment of the rented space. Housing court should allow you to stop repeated entries for false reasons. | 1,161 | 96 |
zrl1bd | 751 | can my landlord make me take down a camera i mounted in my own bedroom? (florida) i just started renting a bedroom in a house with three preexisting roommates. i m the only female in the house but everyone keeps to themselves and there haven t been any issues. my landlord is definitely odd though. he keeps setting times to come replace power outlets in my room and now he s told me for the third time he s coming when no one will be home and he s bringing other workers. i don t feel comfortable with multiple older men i don t know being in my bedroom (i m only 22 for context.) i bought blink mini cameras and put one up on a wall overlooking the bedroom for my own peace of mind. he just went over there and unplugged it and then sent me a text that i m not allowed to have a camera in my bedroom. i tried looking up the laws surrounding having a camera in my own private bedroom but there are no conclusive answers. i m in florida. what are my options here? thanks in advance! update: i just got home from work. out of the 6 outlets he replaced three are upside down and two are jammed into the wall. one isn t even fully attached to the wall and very loose. he also knocked over and rearranged my furniture that i had already pulled away from the walls for him. he also took my curtains down (they were blackout curtains pinned up over the windows) and did not put them back up. nothing is missing but i m really upset that i m having to clean up the mess and broken things from them shoving my stuff around. my boyfriend is coming by later to examine each one for any signs of a possible hidden camera and will likely be replacing all of them again at the expense of my landlord who i will be billing. if he decides to fight back i ll be going to court with the pictures i ve taken of the fire hazards these lazily-installed outlets will likely cause. i refuse to plug anything in and will not be sleeping in this room until it s all been taken care of. thank you for the advice given. i m gonna keep looking for other places. | Landlord here and time is money. It seems like he keeps going back to your place over and over to perform a job that should be wrapped up on a single visit in a couple hours. Extremely suspicious behavior that I believe he could be using to cover up something more nefarious. You aren t allowed to have a camera in your home? Are you kidding me? That means no laptop tablet phone either in your own apartment. He is actively trying to prevent you from protecting yourself. Surveillance cameras also protect property HIS own property. As a landlord I think cameras are a good thing. This is a HUGE red flag. Anything missing? Have you checked vents etc for his own cameras? Another poster mentioned there are cameras that can be installed in wall outlets smoke detectors. Protect yourself. This is not normal behavior from a landlord but it is from a predator. | Do you have a lease? | 1,161 | 107 |
zrl1bd | 751 | can my landlord make me take down a camera i mounted in my own bedroom? (florida) i just started renting a bedroom in a house with three preexisting roommates. i m the only female in the house but everyone keeps to themselves and there haven t been any issues. my landlord is definitely odd though. he keeps setting times to come replace power outlets in my room and now he s told me for the third time he s coming when no one will be home and he s bringing other workers. i don t feel comfortable with multiple older men i don t know being in my bedroom (i m only 22 for context.) i bought blink mini cameras and put one up on a wall overlooking the bedroom for my own peace of mind. he just went over there and unplugged it and then sent me a text that i m not allowed to have a camera in my bedroom. i tried looking up the laws surrounding having a camera in my own private bedroom but there are no conclusive answers. i m in florida. what are my options here? thanks in advance! update: i just got home from work. out of the 6 outlets he replaced three are upside down and two are jammed into the wall. one isn t even fully attached to the wall and very loose. he also knocked over and rearranged my furniture that i had already pulled away from the walls for him. he also took my curtains down (they were blackout curtains pinned up over the windows) and did not put them back up. nothing is missing but i m really upset that i m having to clean up the mess and broken things from them shoving my stuff around. my boyfriend is coming by later to examine each one for any signs of a possible hidden camera and will likely be replacing all of them again at the expense of my landlord who i will be billing. if he decides to fight back i ll be going to court with the pictures i ve taken of the fire hazards these lazily-installed outlets will likely cause. i refuse to plug anything in and will not be sleeping in this room until it s all been taken care of. thank you for the advice given. i m gonna keep looking for other places. | That s sketchy AF. People seem to be mentioning that he could be hiding cameras in your room which might be true but I think it s more likely that he s just snooping through your things possibly in a creepy sort of way. Did you notice anything out of place? replacing outlets is a flimsy excuse. I can t think of any reason an outlet would need to be replaced unless the building is really old and has 2-prong outlets and he just really wanted to have modern grounded outlets throughout. But that also seems unlikely there d be no rush to replace them and they could be replaced all at once time easily. I would definitely leave a camera in your room only hide it as well as you can so you can see what he s doing when he comes back. And I would also try as hard as you can to be in the house when he s there. In every state I know of landlords are required to give reasonable notice when they enter. Use that to your advantage and be there next time he wants to come by. Don t tell him ahead of time you ll be there just be there. See how he reacts. If he s showing up demanding entry unannounced find a tenant s rights organization because that s illegal and not cool at all. | NAL but : First while it may be his house he rented a room to you and I believe he can t just walk in when you re not there without telling you first. according to this website [https: www.floridabar.org public consumer tip014 ](https: www.floridabar.org public consumer tip014 ) A tenant is entitled to the right of private peaceful possession of the dwelling. Once rented the dwelling is the tenant s to lawfully use. The landlord may enter the dwelling only in order to inspect the premises or to make necessary or agreed upon repairs but then only if the landlord gives the tenant reasonable notice and comes at a convenient time. If an emergency exists the requirement for notice may be shortened or waived. There seems to be no difference whether it s a room or the whole house. What you rented is yours and you can put a lock on it and they can t enter without notifying you first. let alone unplugging a camera. | 95 | 26 |
zrokzf | 25 | [Upstate NY] Landlord is at my house every day in his detached garage working on personal projects. How much can I push back on him? I ve been renting one unit in a two-unit townhome the other unit is occupied by another tenant (the landlord does NOT reside here). The units have separate driveways and a shared yard space. My driveway also goes to a detached garage which the landlord told me he uses for storage. The lease doesn t mention anything about the garage or driveway just that the lease is for XX Real St Apt 2. When I toured the place and signed the lease the landlord said he uses the garage for storage and will occasionally need access in order to get his stuff out (ie for boating season etc). I park on one side of the driveway so he can get in. The problem is since I moved in he s been there almost every day working on projects. He s retired so he spends his time fixing his boat or ATVs or whatever he s got to work on. The noise can sometimes be disruptive and he ll often park trailers or vehicles in the driveway (the driveway is wide enough for 2 vehicles so it doesn t block me but I don t want to have to look at walk around someone elses crap in the home I m paying rent for). I just want quiet and privacy and having political conversations every time I go out to check on the mail isn t part of that. I don t need him to stop coming completely I m fine with him coming occasionally to grab his stuff but I want to have a conversation with him that I feel he s overstepping and want to know how far his legal right to come by use my driveway etc extends before I broach it. Thanks for the advice! | As you stated - you have a lease that shows you rented an apartment and that s it. Just because you don t want to look at his stuff doesn t give you any legal grounds especially if he s not blocking your vehicle. If you enjoy living in this apartment and that is the only thing that bothers you I suggest you recognize you have zero leverage in this for him to change. | Try the adult conversation. Explain to him you understand this is his property but renter s have rights and expectations. Maybe this is out of the ordinary. If you re paying anything for that garage or parking Ask to have it reduced or done away with. A loss of income may motivate him. On the other hand sounds like your landlord has a lot of toys. Get paid discount to do some of the chores so he doesn t need to show up | 91 | 6 |
zrpsbx | 2,036 | Could my Boyfriend and I get in Trouble for Marrige Fraud ? My boyfriend (25) and I (f27) have been seeing each other for a few months. I live in Chicago and am a Public Shool teacher I can barely afford my rent much less food and utilities but I get by. Recently I went to see my parents in the suburbs and hit a deer on the way home. My car is now totaled and I need a new one at some point. My boyfriend is a Marine and will be deployed soon. When I confessed my situation he asked me to marry him. I was taken aback as this was so early but he explained there are multiple benefits that I could take advantage of to help me financially. We are both US citizens and this marriage would be purely for financial benefit nobody needs a green card. The thought of marrying him doesn t bother me we do love one another greatly but I don t want to get in trouble with the law if it is found out this was more for financial reasons than anything else. TLDR I m broke my boyfriend of 3 months wants to marry me mostly so I can get financial stability. EDIT Clarified ages spelling. | Trust me people get married for financial reasons all the time. You re no different than a lot of folks. | You get to marry one person and no one ever asks if you love them. You just have to meet the legal requirements like age and of course not being married to anyone else. | 4,465 | 145 |
zrpsbx | 2,036 | Could my Boyfriend and I get in Trouble for Marrige Fraud ? My boyfriend (25) and I (f27) have been seeing each other for a few months. I live in Chicago and am a Public Shool teacher I can barely afford my rent much less food and utilities but I get by. Recently I went to see my parents in the suburbs and hit a deer on the way home. My car is now totaled and I need a new one at some point. My boyfriend is a Marine and will be deployed soon. When I confessed my situation he asked me to marry him. I was taken aback as this was so early but he explained there are multiple benefits that I could take advantage of to help me financially. We are both US citizens and this marriage would be purely for financial benefit nobody needs a green card. The thought of marrying him doesn t bother me we do love one another greatly but I don t want to get in trouble with the law if it is found out this was more for financial reasons than anything else. TLDR I m broke my boyfriend of 3 months wants to marry me mostly so I can get financial stability. EDIT Clarified ages spelling. | Sit down together and show each other your last few tax filings and credit report (if you have a credit card when signed into your account you can see this). Not just a credit score but total debt number of accounts everything. Do not marry anyone who isn t willing to do this because being married means being responsible for each other s debts and you have to trust each other. If you re not willing to do it then you definitely should not get married. | You get to marry one person and no one ever asks if you love them. You just have to meet the legal requirements like age and of course not being married to anyone else. | 1,886 | 145 |
zrpsbx | 2,036 | Could my Boyfriend and I get in Trouble for Marrige Fraud ? My boyfriend (25) and I (f27) have been seeing each other for a few months. I live in Chicago and am a Public Shool teacher I can barely afford my rent much less food and utilities but I get by. Recently I went to see my parents in the suburbs and hit a deer on the way home. My car is now totaled and I need a new one at some point. My boyfriend is a Marine and will be deployed soon. When I confessed my situation he asked me to marry him. I was taken aback as this was so early but he explained there are multiple benefits that I could take advantage of to help me financially. We are both US citizens and this marriage would be purely for financial benefit nobody needs a green card. The thought of marrying him doesn t bother me we do love one another greatly but I don t want to get in trouble with the law if it is found out this was more for financial reasons than anything else. TLDR I m broke my boyfriend of 3 months wants to marry me mostly so I can get financial stability. EDIT Clarified ages spelling. | Sit down together and show each other your last few tax filings and credit report (if you have a credit card when signed into your account you can see this). Not just a credit score but total debt number of accounts everything. Do not marry anyone who isn t willing to do this because being married means being responsible for each other s debts and you have to trust each other. If you re not willing to do it then you definitely should not get married. | You aren t going to get in trouble for marrying someone. The real concern is the consequences of marriage. Are you prepared for that? | 1,886 | 216 |
zrpsbx | 2,036 | Could my Boyfriend and I get in Trouble for Marrige Fraud ? My boyfriend (25) and I (f27) have been seeing each other for a few months. I live in Chicago and am a Public Shool teacher I can barely afford my rent much less food and utilities but I get by. Recently I went to see my parents in the suburbs and hit a deer on the way home. My car is now totaled and I need a new one at some point. My boyfriend is a Marine and will be deployed soon. When I confessed my situation he asked me to marry him. I was taken aback as this was so early but he explained there are multiple benefits that I could take advantage of to help me financially. We are both US citizens and this marriage would be purely for financial benefit nobody needs a green card. The thought of marrying him doesn t bother me we do love one another greatly but I don t want to get in trouble with the law if it is found out this was more for financial reasons than anything else. TLDR I m broke my boyfriend of 3 months wants to marry me mostly so I can get financial stability. EDIT Clarified ages spelling. | Sit down together and show each other your last few tax filings and credit report (if you have a credit card when signed into your account you can see this). Not just a credit score but total debt number of accounts everything. Do not marry anyone who isn t willing to do this because being married means being responsible for each other s debts and you have to trust each other. If you re not willing to do it then you definitely should not get married. | Getting married is cheap. Getting divorced is really expensive. You are probably getting into the payday loan of life at this point. My money is on the unintended consequences downstream. Remember that right now you think you are going to reap the benefits. But you could be liable for the things he does in his life. What if he returns from his deployment with $100 000 of debt suddenly. Spoiler alert: you may be on the hook for it. All around bad idea. | 1,886 | 502 |
zrpsbx | 2,036 | Could my Boyfriend and I get in Trouble for Marrige Fraud ? My boyfriend (25) and I (f27) have been seeing each other for a few months. I live in Chicago and am a Public Shool teacher I can barely afford my rent much less food and utilities but I get by. Recently I went to see my parents in the suburbs and hit a deer on the way home. My car is now totaled and I need a new one at some point. My boyfriend is a Marine and will be deployed soon. When I confessed my situation he asked me to marry him. I was taken aback as this was so early but he explained there are multiple benefits that I could take advantage of to help me financially. We are both US citizens and this marriage would be purely for financial benefit nobody needs a green card. The thought of marrying him doesn t bother me we do love one another greatly but I don t want to get in trouble with the law if it is found out this was more for financial reasons than anything else. TLDR I m broke my boyfriend of 3 months wants to marry me mostly so I can get financial stability. EDIT Clarified ages spelling. | No civilian entity will come get you. the benefits are on the military side and tax return benefits. Benefits to you are -he gets more money for housing (if it was already provided) or initiation of money for housing which can be anywhere between 1500-2500 monthly depending on location. -free medical -access to on base facilities like the grocery stores. These sell food without tax. -tax return time now you re married and get a tax break The top 2 are the best benefits. This type of thing is soo common for young enlisted. Like someone said it s divorce that s expensive. Most young folks go crazy for a few extra bucks a month and will drag a divorce as long as they can. Unfortunately courts side with military folks and will also postpone divorce hearings. If divorce is the plan I suggest you re-evaluate your decision. I will advise to make sure you or him aren t hiding anything financially or bad habits. This one I ve seen biting people in the ass later. Suddenly once married credit scores go up so does credit limit and spending.. you get the gist. Will he get in trouble? Nah. Just a.. “don t do it again private”. Source me. Military officer and former enlisted during the surge. Proper barracks lawyer with some mild success. | You can always draw up a prenuptial of some sorts to protect each other from consequences of getting married prematurely. By prematurely I mean without talking about every detail of spending lives as a couple till death do you part. Divorce will be more expensive than a vehicle for sure. | 744 | 2 |
zrwbnp | 70 | Landlord Demanding Entry for Pet Inspection Can I refuse? Hello Legal Advice I (32F) am renting an apartment in Los Angeles CA and I got a notice on my front door yesterday stating that I have an unauthorized pet (I don t) and they will be entering my unit for a pet inspection due to my violation of lease- they provided me a range of dates they planned to enter (12 26-12 30) The notice did not have my specific unit mentioned and was signed by a person I ve never heard of in relation to this property management company. There is nothing in my lease stating that they are allowed to perform inspections for pets their section that covers pets is Tenant agrees and understands that Tenant is prohibited from keeping maintaining housing or harboring for any period of time of any animals on the Premises without the prior written consent of Landlord. Landlord may withhold in Landlords sole discretion. An exception to this restriction may apply to individuals claiming Disabilities as governed by law The section covering entry of the unit covers standard maintenance inspections or showing the unit to prospective tenants etc. How should I respond to this? I don t want them in my house for something that has nothing to do with me. I drafted an email citing Cal Civ Code § 1954 covering Landlord Entry and Inspection and Cal. Civ. Code § 1927 which protects the tenant s right to privacy and peace and quiet but since this management company is not very transparent or responsive and has a huge amount of complaints on Yelp BBB and Business Consumer Alliance I don t know if said email will fall on deaf ears. I m at a loss I ve had loads of issues with this company. They ve changed apartment managers 5 times since I ve moved in April 2022 never respond to requests for maintenance building has roaches (no stranger to them being in the Valley). I feel like most would say just let them do it but at this point it is the principle of it. Any advice is appreciated Thank you! | I d advise calling to verify that the named person really works for the company and that they put the notice on the correct door. Then you can ask on what basis they believe there is a pet since you do not have one. If the notice was correct schedule the visit so you can observe as recommended above. Chaotic companies tend to make a lot of errors. This could possibly be cleared up with a phone call. | I would respond by asking to schedule a time for the inspection so you know when it s happening and let them in. Mainly this is because you re potentially at risk for eviction if you don t comply for two reasons. One is that the landlord may believe that you ve violated the lease or the law by not letting them in. If they consider this a maintenance inspection for instance or if they say they are responding to a maintenance request. The other is that they think you have a pet which would be a reason to evict you. It s in your interest to clear that up. If you schedule it and they work with you this is a minimal disruption to you. If they refuse or seem to intend to just randomly unlock your door any time during the week they feel like that s a bigger issue. But even then abuse of a landlord s right to enter is the kind of thing a court will take seriously when it s a pattern and not a single annoying incident. If you re annoyed at other things like not responding to maintenance requests or the roaches get tough on them about THOSE things where you re on more solid ground. | 189 | 21 |
zs00ec | 215 | Is it 100% legal for people to eavesdrop on my private counseling sessions then to go around telling all their friends and family about it all? (British Columbia Canada) My apartment is advertised as Fully soundproof and just moved estimated 27 days ago. I can hear neighbors above stomping hard enough to rattle the ceilings every day of the week. I was hoping they won t be able to hear me have conversations in my home I scheduled an appointment with my counselor to meet me at my house. ---- My counselor heard how bad it gets in my home he could hear my neighbor standing in one spot stomping hard enough to rattle the lights on my living room ceiling. ---- Literally after my appointment was finished the guy above me rushed downstairs to tell me that he can hear all of the conversations I have in my living room. He started repeating many sentences I spoke to my counselor which he continued on to say that he s going to tell the whole community about everything. He demanded me to pay him $100 to keep it all confidential. He was ignorant enough to go to the local Native Band Hall to gossip about it to anyone who s willing to spread it out to everyone else that works there. --- Are there any laws in Canada that are being broken by my neighbor? I m being harassed by more than a few dozen people about my counseling session my neighbor is demanding another $100 payment if I don t want other Native band halls to hear about my worries. I was a witness to a murder that happened about 13 years ago I ve been trying to undergo many counseling sessions to try working my way through the stress and worries. But the anxiety isn t getting any better with more than 70 people mocking and harassing me. What is even worse is that many of these people are my family my relatives that I have grown up around my entire life. They work in the Native Band Hall where my neighbor spoke about everything he has heard. | Pretty sure him literally trying to extort you for $100 to keep quiet is definitely illegal. As for eavesdropping not sure there s anything you can do about that as he wasn t physically going into your home to spy on you it s an issue with your walls being thin. | There is no law that is going to keep someone from repeating something they heard through the wall of their home. | 471 | 145 |
zs2eay | 69 | Buying a house supposed to close in 2 days tenants are trashing house. So I am in the process of buying a house. We have done the inspection and it failed on mold and electrical. The sellers agreed to have both of these things fixed among fixing many other things and clearing the garage out. There are also relatives of the sellers living in the house. We agreed to move forward based on the promise that they would fix agreed upon issues and the tenants would be vacated. We are now two days from our goal closing date and the house is trashed. The tenants are still living in the house the issues have not been fixed and there is damage to the house that wasn t there before. What legal recourse do I have? I feel I should be able to back out and get my earnest money back since the seller has not held up their end of the agreement. Is that possible or do I have to cut my loses? Edit: in New York State | Do **NOT** close on the property. You have massive leverage right now because the housing market is under substantial stress and you re probably the best offer in town right now. Push closing back (at a minimum). What kind of damages are being done? If the seller can t provide you the home without tenants you almost certainly can back out of the home. It makes sense to review your real estate contract and to ask an attorney before backing out but I would absolutely not close on a damaged or occupied home (including a home that has stuff in it). | Don t close until or unless these issues are resolved. Do NOT take possession with tenants especially. That could take you months and thousands of dollars to rectify. What you can actually do to totally get out of it will depend on your country state and your contract but ask your real estate attorney asap for guidance here. | 200 | 68 |
zs2eay | 69 | Buying a house supposed to close in 2 days tenants are trashing house. So I am in the process of buying a house. We have done the inspection and it failed on mold and electrical. The sellers agreed to have both of these things fixed among fixing many other things and clearing the garage out. There are also relatives of the sellers living in the house. We agreed to move forward based on the promise that they would fix agreed upon issues and the tenants would be vacated. We are now two days from our goal closing date and the house is trashed. The tenants are still living in the house the issues have not been fixed and there is damage to the house that wasn t there before. What legal recourse do I have? I feel I should be able to back out and get my earnest money back since the seller has not held up their end of the agreement. Is that possible or do I have to cut my loses? Edit: in New York State | Do not close without a final walkthrough and you are 100% certain that no tenants are existing. Otherwise you may not have possession for months until the tenants can be evicted. In that time further dame can be done. | If they cannot close on the agreed upon date with all items taken care of. You can cancel the sale and also request your EMD back. Seller has not lived up to their end of the contract. | 104 | 37 |
zsm0p1 | 614 | Do my parents have the right to lock up my medication ? I am an 18 year old female. I do not have any mental illness. Back in august I had an incident where I passed out at work due to my thyroid and was taken to the hospital. I take a non controlled substance now to fix that. Yesterday my father took my medication out of my room without consulting with me and has locked it in my parents room and came in my room this morning forcing me to take the medication. I am not comfortable nor do I consent to them having it because of trauma from my mother and step father but if I ask for it back I m at a risk of getting kicked out. The question is do they have a right to do that ? To take my medicine and lock it away and force me to take it ? | Is it legal to take the property of another adult? No. Practically though if you re afraid to ask for it back because they will kick you out then they will almost certainly kick you out for taking legal action against them | What state are you in? Are you under a guardianship conservatorship or any other court action? There s also a legal answer and a practical answer here. The two probably don t overlap. If you re depending on them for housing you basically are stuck living by their rules. | 346 | 154 |
zsvyrs | 56 | Car dealership free oil changes for 10 years We have vehicles purchased from a dealership it specified 10 years of free oil changes for the vehicle. The dealership was sold and the new owners say they are not held accountable for those oil changes. This is a Hyundai dealership in the state of California. I feel like if this was legal car dealerships would just keep reselling themselves to different entities to avoid these fees. | Either the new guys bought the company or they bought the assets. If they bought the company then they acquire the liabilities which includes your oil changes. If they did an asset purchase then you would have to go after the company who promised the oil changes. You could potentially pursue either company or both in small claims court for the value of the oil changes. | What do you have in writing outlining this 10 years of free oil changes? | 85 | 25 |
zsxekh | 136 | Safe deposit box at bank s contents opened and missing Hi r legaladvice My mom had a safe deposit box at a bank. The branch closed down and they said they sent mail to my mom notifying that they had closed down. My mom did not get any notice about their closure until November even though they apparently closed down in March. When my mom got the first notice in November she immediately contacted them. The bank apparently transferred the belongings to their central bank in Charlotte NC before my mom requested it be transferred to another branch in our local area. When my mom came to the branch to retrieve her belongings not only was the envelope containing her contents opened rummaged through some of the contents were missing. What can we do? Please help. Thanks in advance & #x200B p.s. I flaired this as personal injury but not sure if that s accurate sorry | IANAL but know this from a previous experience. When contents are removed from a safe deposit box due to closure. Two employees open the box together and document each item that is in the box on an inventory sheet in dual control. Once they have documented everything it then gets put in a bag and sealed shipped to a main storage location. Once the contents are requested by the owner to be shipped to them the owner of the box and 2 employees will open the contents in the same room and go through the inventory sheet together. Typically these safe deposit boxes are not insured by the bank and the rental agreement states that. They didn t rummage through anything they simply took inventory of what was in the box prior to sending it to storage. If your mom arrived to the bank to pick up the contents and the sealed bag was opened prior to her visit that is where you have an issue. The bag is supposed to stay sealed until the client is there to retrieve items and do inventory. At the time of picking up there should be a release form. She can either confirm all contents are there or decline that some are missing and the bank will move forward with their procedures guidelines. | Wouldn t making a claim with the banks insurance be the route? | 170 | 14 |
zsy1n4 | 280 | GF breaks it off with me wants to stay in my home. Is she considered a renter? I m going through a bad breakup. Nearly 8 years. We are not married. We have no joint debt. The home is mine and mine alone. She has contributed to things such as various home repairs appliances etc. and she purchases groceries for all in the home (2 children of mine 1 of hers. We do not have children together). In total her spend on the home has been around $11k not counting groceries. My spend has been $80k on the mortgage alone since she moved in plus an additional $25 190 in utilities internet etc. She wants to stay for a period but keep me out of my own bedroom and is willing to split bills with me while she stays. I think its somewhat reasonable but honestly it hurts my heart too much to have her stay in my home and have to be around her with her being distant and cold. I want her out because I can t bear living like that. I don t want to support her while she takes advantage of the situation as a springboard to another man. She says she s technically a renter and I d have to hire a lawyer to draw up papers to remove her. I thought I could just order her out and call police if she refused. Further she purchased appliances and the bed on credit total about $6-8k and wants to hang that over my head as a join liability and another reason I can t remove her from the property. In my opinion I ve provided her shelter and living accommodations above and beyond her contributions. However I know that legally none of that may matter. How should I proceed? We live in Ohio. With any luck I d love to avoid all this and earn her love back but I m certain its over. | > How should I proceed? She is a tenant and you will have to evict her. You can give her notice immediately. The boilerplate Ohio Termination of Rental Agreement is easy to find with a web search. Print out three copies fill them out and hand deliver one of them. You should also mail one via certified mail return receipt requested. Then find a landlord attorney. A simple eviction action is not *difficult* but it must be done strictly according to your local court s procedures. Ohio is not especially tenant friendly but you still don t want to screw it up. Consider the attorney s fees an investment in peace of mind. Here is the list of legal referral services in Ohio (.pdf warning): https: www.supremecourt.ohio.gov docs AttySvcs LawyerReferral referral LRIS.pdf | You should definitely call some real estate lawyers in your area and talk to them about this. Generally speaking there are formal procedures that have to be followed to remove someone from their long term place of residence. I have seen some references to distinctions between licensee vs. renter which could have an impact here perhaps based on whether she has paid to be there or not. But ultimately a lawyer can help advise you on this. You might be able to learn what you need from a free consult or be able to get a good price for some basic letter drafting on your behalf. You definitely can t just kick her out and call the cops on her. If she bought appliances bed etc. she can t just decide you are jointly liable for them. It sounds like that was under her name and her credit so she should be welcome to take those items with her when she leaves (along with any other items she purchased). My advice would be not to focus on going the legal route and instead look for a neutral mediator who can help you two sort this out based on what s reasonable and fair. I saw an online mediation ADR service that was $500 person for a half day or $1 000 person for a full day. That s probably worthwhile. But ultimately you are the one with a next step to take to get the ball rolling here. Look into what notice you have to give to terminate her residency and deliver that to her via a trackable medium ASAP in accordance with whatever the courts in Ohio prefer. | 120 | 26 |
zsy1n4 | 280 | GF breaks it off with me wants to stay in my home. Is she considered a renter? I m going through a bad breakup. Nearly 8 years. We are not married. We have no joint debt. The home is mine and mine alone. She has contributed to things such as various home repairs appliances etc. and she purchases groceries for all in the home (2 children of mine 1 of hers. We do not have children together). In total her spend on the home has been around $11k not counting groceries. My spend has been $80k on the mortgage alone since she moved in plus an additional $25 190 in utilities internet etc. She wants to stay for a period but keep me out of my own bedroom and is willing to split bills with me while she stays. I think its somewhat reasonable but honestly it hurts my heart too much to have her stay in my home and have to be around her with her being distant and cold. I want her out because I can t bear living like that. I don t want to support her while she takes advantage of the situation as a springboard to another man. She says she s technically a renter and I d have to hire a lawyer to draw up papers to remove her. I thought I could just order her out and call police if she refused. Further she purchased appliances and the bed on credit total about $6-8k and wants to hang that over my head as a join liability and another reason I can t remove her from the property. In my opinion I ve provided her shelter and living accommodations above and beyond her contributions. However I know that legally none of that may matter. How should I proceed? We live in Ohio. With any luck I d love to avoid all this and earn her love back but I m certain its over. | Your GF is kind of correct. She s not necessarily a renter but she is a tenant by virtue of her residing there for 8 years. Ohio requires you to give her written 30 day notice to vacate. If she does not leave by the end of that 30 day period you can file for eviction. | You should definitely call some real estate lawyers in your area and talk to them about this. Generally speaking there are formal procedures that have to be followed to remove someone from their long term place of residence. I have seen some references to distinctions between licensee vs. renter which could have an impact here perhaps based on whether she has paid to be there or not. But ultimately a lawyer can help advise you on this. You might be able to learn what you need from a free consult or be able to get a good price for some basic letter drafting on your behalf. You definitely can t just kick her out and call the cops on her. If she bought appliances bed etc. she can t just decide you are jointly liable for them. It sounds like that was under her name and her credit so she should be welcome to take those items with her when she leaves (along with any other items she purchased). My advice would be not to focus on going the legal route and instead look for a neutral mediator who can help you two sort this out based on what s reasonable and fair. I saw an online mediation ADR service that was $500 person for a half day or $1 000 person for a full day. That s probably worthwhile. But ultimately you are the one with a next step to take to get the ball rolling here. Look into what notice you have to give to terminate her residency and deliver that to her via a trackable medium ASAP in accordance with whatever the courts in Ohio prefer. | 98 | 26 |
zsyfyg | 125 | What does Parental Consent mean in the context of emancipation in South Carolina USA? I (15 M) had some questions about the meaning of the term parental consent in the context of emancipation. Of the many requirements to be emancipated in South Carolina I have been told one of the most important is having parental consent . What does that specifically mean? If one parent consents to an independent minor being emancipated but the other does not would a judge accept it as parental consent or does it absolutely always mean that both parent s consent are required? How hard is it to become emancipated if you meet the other requirements but do not have the consent of the parents? | Based on your responses here it seems you are being groomed by this “group of adults” to leave your family and rely on yourself. I don t think emancipation will help with any of your mental health issues you claim to have (very unusual for someone at 15) as you have little to none life experience so there really is nothing to cause you stress in life from the sounds of it. Your best option is to get a job now and save until your 18. Move out and either go to college or find a higher paying job. Practice your religion at home in your room for now. I m sure you can find far better solutions than emancipation. Also consider that emancipation will cause you a lot more stress and mental anguish than you currently may have. | Emancipation is not easy. First you must be 16. You also need to be able to completely financially provide for yourself and have a valid reason for needing emancipation. Parental consent is not always necessary. They will be notified and have to option to make their case against it. It s up to the judge in the end. | 344 | 145 |
zsyfyg | 125 | What does Parental Consent mean in the context of emancipation in South Carolina USA? I (15 M) had some questions about the meaning of the term parental consent in the context of emancipation. Of the many requirements to be emancipated in South Carolina I have been told one of the most important is having parental consent . What does that specifically mean? If one parent consents to an independent minor being emancipated but the other does not would a judge accept it as parental consent or does it absolutely always mean that both parent s consent are required? How hard is it to become emancipated if you meet the other requirements but do not have the consent of the parents? | First consider that you re likely emancipating into absolutely debilitating life ruining poverty. Landlords and housing offices are unlikely to rent to you due to your age (irrespective of emancipation status) and you re going to have an issue earning a living wage. Way way too many people want emancipation as a way to fix a neglectful or abusive household. That isn t what it s for. The judge needs to consider why the emancipation is in the child s best interest. It s fine that the parent agree with the emancipation but there are going to be real questions about who is going to support the kid financially once they re emancipated. Are both parents involved in your life? Do they both have some legal custody rights of you? If so they re going to both need to consent. Is there a CPS history here? How much do you earn per month (keeping in mind that the answer probably needs to be above $3 000)? | Emancipation is not easy. First you must be 16. You also need to be able to completely financially provide for yourself and have a valid reason for needing emancipation. Parental consent is not always necessary. They will be notified and have to option to make their case against it. It s up to the judge in the end. | 300 | 145 |
zt269o | 112 | VP s wife is threatening me with reputation destruction on the assumption that I was with her husband when she was abroad. I was not. Her husband (the VP) can t be helped to explain to her. I ve gone down that road many times. She continues to threaten me. Telling me she s gonna tell the president s wife. She will tell my old manager etc... I feel utterly helpless to put a stop to this. I consider this work related as it relates to an issue with a coworkers relative but my boss (the President) doesn t see it that way. What are my options? | I would think you should get ahead of these false accusations and inform everyone she hopes to tell that she has threatened to make false and slanderous allegations against you. Being first to make an impression can make a big difference in terms of people s impressions if you do it right. But that is different though related to your legal recourse in pursuing her for slander. | NAL. You cannot prevent wife from saying anything to anyone. You can provide her the president or any other interested parties with evidence to the contrary of wife s claims and explain to wife the legal repercussions of slander. | 89 | 6 |
zt269o | 112 | VP s wife is threatening me with reputation destruction on the assumption that I was with her husband when she was abroad. I was not. Her husband (the VP) can t be helped to explain to her. I ve gone down that road many times. She continues to threaten me. Telling me she s gonna tell the president s wife. She will tell my old manager etc... I feel utterly helpless to put a stop to this. I consider this work related as it relates to an issue with a coworkers relative but my boss (the President) doesn t see it that way. What are my options? | I would think you should get ahead of these false accusations and inform everyone she hopes to tell that she has threatened to make false and slanderous allegations against you. Being first to make an impression can make a big difference in terms of people s impressions if you do it right. But that is different though related to your legal recourse in pursuing her for slander. | If she says untrue things about you and those statements cause you harm that s defamation and you can sue her. Note that harm = something tangible e.g. you lose your job. People believing some gossip about you wouldn t count. If she hasn t actually said anything yet it may be worth it to let her know you re prepared to take legal action. | 89 | 32 |
zt4lj1 | 1,075 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore not sure what to do? so i have a service dog i ve had him for two years and he s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that s fine wasn t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he s not even visible as he s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything he s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher s website for my kids parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog i had his predecessor who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say i ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i ve had a service dog for 5 years so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down saying “if you want to talk legally we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i m at a loss as to what to do. we re on winter break atm and i m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i ve never been in this situation before. i m in florida if that matters. | People here seem to not know the difference between ADA employment accommodations and public access accommodations. Has your doctor filled out ADA paperwork? Have you gone through the interactive process? They don t have to immediately accept your requested accommodation but they do have to agree to a reasonable accommodation if at all possible. (For instance if you were a surgeon it would not be reasonable to have your dog in the operating room.) If you haven t done so already ask hr for the ADA paperwork. And if you have and they already agreed to the service dog as an accommodation then what you need is an employment attorney. | The Florida Education Association is another resource that might have access to legal aid for you. Taking this action is a bad precedent for other disabled teachers and educational employees so I imagine the union would have something to say about it. | 846 | 15 |
zt4lj1 | 1,075 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore not sure what to do? so i have a service dog i ve had him for two years and he s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that s fine wasn t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he s not even visible as he s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything he s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher s website for my kids parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog i had his predecessor who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say i ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i ve had a service dog for 5 years so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down saying “if you want to talk legally we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i m at a loss as to what to do. we re on winter break atm and i m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i ve never been in this situation before. i m in florida if that matters. | People here seem to not know the difference between ADA employment accommodations and public access accommodations. Has your doctor filled out ADA paperwork? Have you gone through the interactive process? They don t have to immediately accept your requested accommodation but they do have to agree to a reasonable accommodation if at all possible. (For instance if you were a surgeon it would not be reasonable to have your dog in the operating room.) If you haven t done so already ask hr for the ADA paperwork. And if you have and they already agreed to the service dog as an accommodation then what you need is an employment attorney. | [Here is a link](https: disabilityrightsflorida.org contact how_we_can_help) to Florida s state disability advocates. They can help steer you to resources. | 846 | 62 |
zt4lj1 | 1,075 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore not sure what to do? so i have a service dog i ve had him for two years and he s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that s fine wasn t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he s not even visible as he s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything he s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher s website for my kids parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog i had his predecessor who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say i ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i ve had a service dog for 5 years so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down saying “if you want to talk legally we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i m at a loss as to what to do. we re on winter break atm and i m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i ve never been in this situation before. i m in florida if that matters. | People here seem to not know the difference between ADA employment accommodations and public access accommodations. Has your doctor filled out ADA paperwork? Have you gone through the interactive process? They don t have to immediately accept your requested accommodation but they do have to agree to a reasonable accommodation if at all possible. (For instance if you were a surgeon it would not be reasonable to have your dog in the operating room.) If you haven t done so already ask hr for the ADA paperwork. And if you have and they already agreed to the service dog as an accommodation then what you need is an employment attorney. | NAL I would send an email to the principal kind of rehashing the conversation you guys had so you have it in writing. Going forward I would ask for policies or new rules in writing. That way if you end up contacting a lawyer to kindly explain to them they re breaking the law or worst case scenario you got fired and were interested in contacting a lawyer about that you would have written proof with some semblance of a timeline explaining what transpired. Sorry you re going through this. I hope you re able to enjoy your break and that you have a happy new year!!! | 846 | 128 |
zt4lj1 | 1,075 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore not sure what to do? so i have a service dog i ve had him for two years and he s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that s fine wasn t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he s not even visible as he s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything he s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher s website for my kids parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog i had his predecessor who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say i ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i ve had a service dog for 5 years so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down saying “if you want to talk legally we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i m at a loss as to what to do. we re on winter break atm and i m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i ve never been in this situation before. i m in florida if that matters. | People here seem to not know the difference between ADA employment accommodations and public access accommodations. Has your doctor filled out ADA paperwork? Have you gone through the interactive process? They don t have to immediately accept your requested accommodation but they do have to agree to a reasonable accommodation if at all possible. (For instance if you were a surgeon it would not be reasonable to have your dog in the operating room.) If you haven t done so already ask hr for the ADA paperwork. And if you have and they already agreed to the service dog as an accommodation then what you need is an employment attorney. | > “if you want to talk legally we can have that conversation with HR” If you are not comfortable expressing your rights you get a lawyer to help you fight for your rights. | 846 | 543 |
zt4lj1 | 1,075 | job will not allow me to bring service dog into work anymore not sure what to do? so i have a service dog i ve had him for two years and he s task trained for both some physical disabilities as well as anxiety. i am not comfortable going anywhere without my service dog. simply put. i need this dog with me wherever i go because he is the only thing that can help mitigate my issues. i m a teacher at a private elementary school. when i was hired i was told i can bring him as long as no one can pet him or anything. that s fine wasn t planning on allowing anyone to pet him. he is very far from a distraction in my class. he lays at my feet all class and tasks when necessary. i usually sit at near my desk at the front of the class during class time so most of the time he s not even visible as he s behind the desk. he wears very unassuming gear just a harness that says that hes a service dog and a collar and of course a leash that wraps around my waist. the kids are used to him i know the kids who have allergies to dogs and i keep him on a food made to reduce allergens as well as brush him out everyday so he doesn t shed much. he doesnt go up to anyone or anything he s incredibly well trained. all of the parents are aware of him and i havent received any complaints or anything about him. i have a teacher s website for my kids parents to find resources on and such. theres a page for him that shows his behaviour in class as well as tasks he is trained to do. the school is fine with him and hes just apart of the routine at this point. until this past week. i learned from my principal that a parent called and complained about my service dog calling him a distraction from learning. i asked my principal to elaborate to tell me what exactly this parent meant by a distraction as he is my medical equipment and i need him to exist in everyday life. before i had him as my service dog i had his predecessor who went with me all throughout high school and early college and then i got him and slowly retired her. needless to say i ve relied on one to function since i was 15. my principal talked to HR and then told me he won t be allowed to come to work with me anymore. i almost started crying learning this information. i have memorised the ADA law as i ve had a service dog for 5 years so i tried explaining to my principal that he legally can be wherever i want him to be except for a few places classrooms not being one of them. he completely shut me down saying “if you want to talk legally we can have that conversation with HR” which scared the shit out of me so i just walked away. i m at a loss as to what to do. we re on winter break atm and i m just not sure what to do. do i have a case? is the principal right? i m not sure. completely unfamiliar with taking action against this because i ve never been in this situation before. i m in florida if that matters. | Since you ve been doing this without incident for 2 years it s possible that due to a customer complaint the school is going to do a CYA by making you formally request your service dog as a reasonable accommodation. Start with talking to HR and requesting a reasonable accommodation. | The askjan.org site from the Job Access Network provides lots of info about accommodations and employment including the process of requesting accommodations. | 66 | 3 |
zt5af6 | 203 | Person who stole wallet asking to drop charges Hi - hopefully the right place to ask. Was wondering the legal ramifications of something that happened to a family member. one of my family members lost their wallet at a mall while shopping and some hours later they noticed their wallet was gone. shortly after a woman was on the phone saying she was with my relative s bank and they noticed fraudulent charges on my family member s card. the person on the phone asked for the pin to the card. thinking it was an actual bank associate the family member gave the pin. (we find out that my relative s phone number was socially engineered out of another relative.) thinking the whole situation was resolved my relative went on with their day but noticed more charges going through. the perpetrator went around the area withdrawing money and buying crazy stuff. anyways - this was resolved by us. after filing police reports and stuff the relative was able to fully recover the losses so we have this sorted out. the police however were able to find the name of the perpetrator by looking at security cameras from the mall and noticed that the person used their own card. the court date is in the future but yesterday the significant other of the perpetrator showed up to my house asking if my relative (the one that got their wallet stolen) was home. another person in my household answered no and the stranger left their phone number. just the whole situation was really weird so me and the other witness to this incident let my relative (that got the wallet stolen) that this person came over asking to talk to them. it was weird they didnt leave any message or any tangible object for us to give to my relative. my relative called the number from another phone. it wasnt the person who was at the door (voice was distinctly a different gender) and the person said “xxxx will call you in 10 minutes”. the call never came that night really weird. anyways a day later the significant other of the perpetrator called and they were asking for my relative to drop the charges and that they would give the amount of what they stole from the card +some more. we have a recording of this call for reference. now for my question finally: so theyve essentially admitted guilt by the recording. but is there any ramification to these people using information from the wallet to find my house and try to drop the case with monetary benefit? is this intimidation? trespassing? not sure if im overreacting but its just scary - i feel like they crossed the line by coming on to the property. sorry if this is a hard read - i tried to not disclose many details because of safety and such. | The victim of a crime does not decide whether or not charges are dropped. The prosecutor does. The perpetrator is asking your relative to refuse to cooperate or lie and offering to pay them for it. Unsurprisingly criminals tend to do more crimes to try to get out of the crimes they already did. As other comments mentioned this should be reported to the prosecutor. Your relative should also freeze all of their credit reports if they haven t done so already and monitor them for ID theft. If they can get a security camera too it wouldn t be a bad idea. | Definitely witness intimidation! | 224 | 143 |
ztewse | 3,490 | I (24F) reported my coworker(68M) for taking pictures of my butt and legs at work without my knowledge or consent. He s now told me he has a lawyer and will be suing me for defamation. How worried should I be about this? As far as I know reporting a behavior that someone is actually doing is not defamation. I m kind of freaking out because I m barely scraping by and I can t afford a lawyer. ETA his reasoning for taking these photos was to “document my uniform violations” when I was wearing pants that he felt were “too provocative”. They were just slacks but I have a big butt. He is not in my chain of command just another employee. | Most people that threaten to sue never do - I d be truly amazed if your coworker found an attorney willing to take this defamation case if it really is just you having reported him to HR. If you *are* sued you absolutely need to respond but for the time being you should avoid him as much as possible and let HR know that he s threatening to sue you (if you re comfortable doing so.) If you work in the same area see about being able to be moved from where he works or vice versa. | People threaten to sue all the time and don t. There s nothing you can do until you re served legal papers. | 3,263 | 113 |
ztewse | 3,490 | I (24F) reported my coworker(68M) for taking pictures of my butt and legs at work without my knowledge or consent. He s now told me he has a lawyer and will be suing me for defamation. How worried should I be about this? As far as I know reporting a behavior that someone is actually doing is not defamation. I m kind of freaking out because I m barely scraping by and I can t afford a lawyer. ETA his reasoning for taking these photos was to “document my uniform violations” when I was wearing pants that he felt were “too provocative”. They were just slacks but I have a big butt. He is not in my chain of command just another employee. | IANAL Defamation requires a false statement that damages the reputation of the subject person. Even *if* he was taking the pictures solely to report your uniform as unprofessional (which I highly doubt given the amount of previous complaints against him) he still took pictures of you without your consent. Which he admitted to when he gave his reasoning for taking them. So you ve made no false statements since he even backed up your story. As everyone else said don t worry about getting a lawyer until he actually tries to sue you. Which he won t. | People threaten to sue all the time and don t. There s nothing you can do until you re served legal papers. | 1,162 | 113 |
ztewse | 3,490 | I (24F) reported my coworker(68M) for taking pictures of my butt and legs at work without my knowledge or consent. He s now told me he has a lawyer and will be suing me for defamation. How worried should I be about this? As far as I know reporting a behavior that someone is actually doing is not defamation. I m kind of freaking out because I m barely scraping by and I can t afford a lawyer. ETA his reasoning for taking these photos was to “document my uniform violations” when I was wearing pants that he felt were “too provocative”. They were just slacks but I have a big butt. He is not in my chain of command just another employee. | IANAL Defamation requires a false statement that damages the reputation of the subject person. Even *if* he was taking the pictures solely to report your uniform as unprofessional (which I highly doubt given the amount of previous complaints against him) he still took pictures of you without your consent. Which he admitted to when he gave his reasoning for taking them. So you ve made no false statements since he even backed up your story. As everyone else said don t worry about getting a lawyer until he actually tries to sue you. Which he won t. | Exactly how are you supposed to have defamed him? | 1,162 | 147 |
ztewse | 3,490 | I (24F) reported my coworker(68M) for taking pictures of my butt and legs at work without my knowledge or consent. He s now told me he has a lawyer and will be suing me for defamation. How worried should I be about this? As far as I know reporting a behavior that someone is actually doing is not defamation. I m kind of freaking out because I m barely scraping by and I can t afford a lawyer. ETA his reasoning for taking these photos was to “document my uniform violations” when I was wearing pants that he felt were “too provocative”. They were just slacks but I have a big butt. He is not in my chain of command just another employee. | IANAL Defamation requires a false statement that damages the reputation of the subject person. Even *if* he was taking the pictures solely to report your uniform as unprofessional (which I highly doubt given the amount of previous complaints against him) he still took pictures of you without your consent. Which he admitted to when he gave his reasoning for taking them. So you ve made no false statements since he even backed up your story. As everyone else said don t worry about getting a lawyer until he actually tries to sue you. Which he won t. | Defamation is a false statement of fact. If you told the truth you ll be fine. Cut off contact with this person as much as possible. It s very likely he isn t going to sue. If you are served with papers don t ignore it. Get an attorney as soon as you can. | 1,162 | 474 |
ztewse | 3,490 | I (24F) reported my coworker(68M) for taking pictures of my butt and legs at work without my knowledge or consent. He s now told me he has a lawyer and will be suing me for defamation. How worried should I be about this? As far as I know reporting a behavior that someone is actually doing is not defamation. I m kind of freaking out because I m barely scraping by and I can t afford a lawyer. ETA his reasoning for taking these photos was to “document my uniform violations” when I was wearing pants that he felt were “too provocative”. They were just slacks but I have a big butt. He is not in my chain of command just another employee. | Defamation is a false statement of fact. If you told the truth you ll be fine. Cut off contact with this person as much as possible. It s very likely he isn t going to sue. If you are served with papers don t ignore it. Get an attorney as soon as you can. | People threaten to sue all the time and don t. There s nothing you can do until you re served legal papers. | 474 | 113 |
ztg80i | 37 | Will I be in trouble from a potential lawsuit from my sister? I sold my 2nd house after my father died recently and he lived there for 20 years already. One of my sisters wanted some money from me but I refused. This house was originally gifted to me by my brother. My name was on the deed. Will I be in trouble from a potential lawsuit of my sister? | No. You own the house. That s the end. She might actually file a lawsuit in which case you need to respond don t ignore it. But she will almost certainly lose. | How was your father connected to this house? | 101 | 17 |
ztha2r | 141 | A state cop left a business card in my front door So I was gone up at a hospital seeing my dad as he had a cardiac arrest. My sister was at home and when she happened to be putting the dog outside she saw a business card fall to the ground right by the dog chain. Picked it up and it s from a state police officer with my name written on it the cop s email cellphone and fax. Underneath his name it says fraud investigation unit . Some backstory I was caught 2 to 3 months ago trying to steal some children s toy from Walmart. The security caught me and I immediately admitted that yes I had the items in my purse and I gave it back to them and the whole time was very cooperative and civil. The man who caught me even commented on how honest I was being with them and that he appreciated it. He told me that the police wouldn t be coming that day but within 3 months I would have a warrant out for my arrest and to continuously keep checking the local warrant list. Months went by after the shoplifting attempt and I started to think they just didn t report it. Now I have this business card in my door and I contacted the police officer through email and we have agreed to meet up at the local state police station for what I assume is an interrogation. I am still checking the warrant list and I am not listed on there. I m just a tad bit confused as to why he wants to talk to me about some retail frauds that happened even while there is no warrant yet. Do interrogations come first before a warrant is issued? Sorry I am not smart with how legal affairs work. I also remember when I was caught by the Walmart security them asking me if I was a lady named Heather and they asked if they had seen me before to which neither is true. Is it possible that they want to question me because they think I m apart of some larger shoplifting retail fraud crime ring? I committed the act alone so let s just say this is only for him asking if I committed the crime in Walmart that day would be best to be honest with the officer? Do officers appreciate honesty when questioning you? | Hi I am a police officer here to offer my professional opinion advise. It is very unusual for police departments to follow up after the store caught and released the person commiting the crime. So this could mean a few things. First of all store security is unable to create warrants even if they demand it it s not up to them. Second as stated previously if a store catches you and then releases you before police arrive it is very unusual for any action further what most likely is happening is that the store is not doing super well economic-ly and they are looking to claim insurance on shoplifting. If that is the case they will be looking to press charges. YOU SHOULD GET A LAWYER. Third it may seem out of character for me to say this but going in for an interview with a detective is not a spectacular idea you certainly can but I personally wouldn t admit to anything if you do go in voluntarily be aware that you are free to leave at any time. (Unless you admit to anything or they have evidence beyond a reasonable doubt that you committed a crime) Finally I would call the number and talk to the detective (again don t admit to anything) it may be that they just want to document it. At the very least they document it and nothing happens or they could give you a ticket (for most places petty theft is a $150 fine but this varies by area) or at the most they may bring you to court for petty theft and as long as you aren t a repeat offender you may get anywhere from 3-35 days in prison (again varies by area) Before they send a warrant they will send something called a criminal complaint by mail it is pretty much them arresting you and telling you to come to court without actually arresting you. I would strongly recommend going to the court date or else a warrant will be served for failure to appear. I hope I helped and good luck to you. | The police are investigating this crime. They either want to speak without and then arrest you later or bring you in to arrest you on the day you make a statement. There is no benefit to you going to the station house to speak with them doing so will likely lead to an immediate arrest. If they don t have enough info at the moment you speaking with them might be enough to give them that. The right thing to do at the moment is to seek legal counsel if you cannot afford a private attorney reach out to your local legal aid attorney and they typically charge with a sliding scale or if you are low income they can provide free legal defense services for you. Once you have legal counsel speak with them about the case so they can best advise you. At this time without knowing more about the incident and without knowing more about your specific criminal history and background there is little more to add. Just to clarify do not speak with police or law enforcement without your attorney. Do not go to the meeting before you ve spoken or consulted with your attorney. | 58 | 2 |
ztha2r | 141 | A state cop left a business card in my front door So I was gone up at a hospital seeing my dad as he had a cardiac arrest. My sister was at home and when she happened to be putting the dog outside she saw a business card fall to the ground right by the dog chain. Picked it up and it s from a state police officer with my name written on it the cop s email cellphone and fax. Underneath his name it says fraud investigation unit . Some backstory I was caught 2 to 3 months ago trying to steal some children s toy from Walmart. The security caught me and I immediately admitted that yes I had the items in my purse and I gave it back to them and the whole time was very cooperative and civil. The man who caught me even commented on how honest I was being with them and that he appreciated it. He told me that the police wouldn t be coming that day but within 3 months I would have a warrant out for my arrest and to continuously keep checking the local warrant list. Months went by after the shoplifting attempt and I started to think they just didn t report it. Now I have this business card in my door and I contacted the police officer through email and we have agreed to meet up at the local state police station for what I assume is an interrogation. I am still checking the warrant list and I am not listed on there. I m just a tad bit confused as to why he wants to talk to me about some retail frauds that happened even while there is no warrant yet. Do interrogations come first before a warrant is issued? Sorry I am not smart with how legal affairs work. I also remember when I was caught by the Walmart security them asking me if I was a lady named Heather and they asked if they had seen me before to which neither is true. Is it possible that they want to question me because they think I m apart of some larger shoplifting retail fraud crime ring? I committed the act alone so let s just say this is only for him asking if I committed the crime in Walmart that day would be best to be honest with the officer? Do officers appreciate honesty when questioning you? | Hi I am a police officer here to offer my professional opinion advise. It is very unusual for police departments to follow up after the store caught and released the person commiting the crime. So this could mean a few things. First of all store security is unable to create warrants even if they demand it it s not up to them. Second as stated previously if a store catches you and then releases you before police arrive it is very unusual for any action further what most likely is happening is that the store is not doing super well economic-ly and they are looking to claim insurance on shoplifting. If that is the case they will be looking to press charges. YOU SHOULD GET A LAWYER. Third it may seem out of character for me to say this but going in for an interview with a detective is not a spectacular idea you certainly can but I personally wouldn t admit to anything if you do go in voluntarily be aware that you are free to leave at any time. (Unless you admit to anything or they have evidence beyond a reasonable doubt that you committed a crime) Finally I would call the number and talk to the detective (again don t admit to anything) it may be that they just want to document it. At the very least they document it and nothing happens or they could give you a ticket (for most places petty theft is a $150 fine but this varies by area) or at the most they may bring you to court for petty theft and as long as you aren t a repeat offender you may get anywhere from 3-35 days in prison (again varies by area) Before they send a warrant they will send something called a criminal complaint by mail it is pretty much them arresting you and telling you to come to court without actually arresting you. I would strongly recommend going to the court date or else a warrant will be served for failure to appear. I hope I helped and good luck to you. | If they arrest you make sure you invoke your right to remain silent and ask for a lawyer | 58 | 4 |
ztha2r | 141 | A state cop left a business card in my front door So I was gone up at a hospital seeing my dad as he had a cardiac arrest. My sister was at home and when she happened to be putting the dog outside she saw a business card fall to the ground right by the dog chain. Picked it up and it s from a state police officer with my name written on it the cop s email cellphone and fax. Underneath his name it says fraud investigation unit . Some backstory I was caught 2 to 3 months ago trying to steal some children s toy from Walmart. The security caught me and I immediately admitted that yes I had the items in my purse and I gave it back to them and the whole time was very cooperative and civil. The man who caught me even commented on how honest I was being with them and that he appreciated it. He told me that the police wouldn t be coming that day but within 3 months I would have a warrant out for my arrest and to continuously keep checking the local warrant list. Months went by after the shoplifting attempt and I started to think they just didn t report it. Now I have this business card in my door and I contacted the police officer through email and we have agreed to meet up at the local state police station for what I assume is an interrogation. I am still checking the warrant list and I am not listed on there. I m just a tad bit confused as to why he wants to talk to me about some retail frauds that happened even while there is no warrant yet. Do interrogations come first before a warrant is issued? Sorry I am not smart with how legal affairs work. I also remember when I was caught by the Walmart security them asking me if I was a lady named Heather and they asked if they had seen me before to which neither is true. Is it possible that they want to question me because they think I m apart of some larger shoplifting retail fraud crime ring? I committed the act alone so let s just say this is only for him asking if I committed the crime in Walmart that day would be best to be honest with the officer? Do officers appreciate honesty when questioning you? | Hi I am a police officer here to offer my professional opinion advise. It is very unusual for police departments to follow up after the store caught and released the person commiting the crime. So this could mean a few things. First of all store security is unable to create warrants even if they demand it it s not up to them. Second as stated previously if a store catches you and then releases you before police arrive it is very unusual for any action further what most likely is happening is that the store is not doing super well economic-ly and they are looking to claim insurance on shoplifting. If that is the case they will be looking to press charges. YOU SHOULD GET A LAWYER. Third it may seem out of character for me to say this but going in for an interview with a detective is not a spectacular idea you certainly can but I personally wouldn t admit to anything if you do go in voluntarily be aware that you are free to leave at any time. (Unless you admit to anything or they have evidence beyond a reasonable doubt that you committed a crime) Finally I would call the number and talk to the detective (again don t admit to anything) it may be that they just want to document it. At the very least they document it and nothing happens or they could give you a ticket (for most places petty theft is a $150 fine but this varies by area) or at the most they may bring you to court for petty theft and as long as you aren t a repeat offender you may get anywhere from 3-35 days in prison (again varies by area) Before they send a warrant they will send something called a criminal complaint by mail it is pretty much them arresting you and telling you to come to court without actually arresting you. I would strongly recommend going to the court date or else a warrant will be served for failure to appear. I hope I helped and good luck to you. | > Is it possible that they want to question me because they think I m apart of some larger shoplifting retail fraud crime ring? I suspect that is the case. I can t think of why else state police would be getting involved with a one-off shoplifting that occurred months ago. At this point you need to get a defense lawyer and have them talk to the cops and figure out what exactly they think you did. | 58 | 5 |
ztha2r | 141 | A state cop left a business card in my front door So I was gone up at a hospital seeing my dad as he had a cardiac arrest. My sister was at home and when she happened to be putting the dog outside she saw a business card fall to the ground right by the dog chain. Picked it up and it s from a state police officer with my name written on it the cop s email cellphone and fax. Underneath his name it says fraud investigation unit . Some backstory I was caught 2 to 3 months ago trying to steal some children s toy from Walmart. The security caught me and I immediately admitted that yes I had the items in my purse and I gave it back to them and the whole time was very cooperative and civil. The man who caught me even commented on how honest I was being with them and that he appreciated it. He told me that the police wouldn t be coming that day but within 3 months I would have a warrant out for my arrest and to continuously keep checking the local warrant list. Months went by after the shoplifting attempt and I started to think they just didn t report it. Now I have this business card in my door and I contacted the police officer through email and we have agreed to meet up at the local state police station for what I assume is an interrogation. I am still checking the warrant list and I am not listed on there. I m just a tad bit confused as to why he wants to talk to me about some retail frauds that happened even while there is no warrant yet. Do interrogations come first before a warrant is issued? Sorry I am not smart with how legal affairs work. I also remember when I was caught by the Walmart security them asking me if I was a lady named Heather and they asked if they had seen me before to which neither is true. Is it possible that they want to question me because they think I m apart of some larger shoplifting retail fraud crime ring? I committed the act alone so let s just say this is only for him asking if I committed the crime in Walmart that day would be best to be honest with the officer? Do officers appreciate honesty when questioning you? | Hi I am a police officer here to offer my professional opinion advise. It is very unusual for police departments to follow up after the store caught and released the person commiting the crime. So this could mean a few things. First of all store security is unable to create warrants even if they demand it it s not up to them. Second as stated previously if a store catches you and then releases you before police arrive it is very unusual for any action further what most likely is happening is that the store is not doing super well economic-ly and they are looking to claim insurance on shoplifting. If that is the case they will be looking to press charges. YOU SHOULD GET A LAWYER. Third it may seem out of character for me to say this but going in for an interview with a detective is not a spectacular idea you certainly can but I personally wouldn t admit to anything if you do go in voluntarily be aware that you are free to leave at any time. (Unless you admit to anything or they have evidence beyond a reasonable doubt that you committed a crime) Finally I would call the number and talk to the detective (again don t admit to anything) it may be that they just want to document it. At the very least they document it and nothing happens or they could give you a ticket (for most places petty theft is a $150 fine but this varies by area) or at the most they may bring you to court for petty theft and as long as you aren t a repeat offender you may get anywhere from 3-35 days in prison (again varies by area) Before they send a warrant they will send something called a criminal complaint by mail it is pretty much them arresting you and telling you to come to court without actually arresting you. I would strongly recommend going to the court date or else a warrant will be served for failure to appear. I hope I helped and good luck to you. | What a load of blunders you have made. 1. Contact criminal defense attorney asap. You will want their professional advice and perhaps they can do the negotiation on your behalf. 2. Stop talking to the cops Walmart or anyone else except your attorney about this. Everything you say can be used to put you behind bars. I assume you want to avoid this so please stop talking. 3. Ignore everything that the cops say to you. They can lie to you to get a conviction. Nothing you say it going to help you get out of this trouble nothing you say will reduce the trouble. So say nothing at all. 4. If they tell you that this won t help your situation assert your 5th amendment right to silence. After that say nothing. To answer your question yes officers appreciate your honesty. What benefit is it to you? Their appreciation is not going to get you your freedom. STOP TALKING. | 58 | 7 |
ztlimi | 1,388 | neighbor built a garage that turned out to be 4 dirt cheep apartments now has people living there under the radar So a few years ago this neighbor applied for a building permit with our local gov to build a new garage . Last year he finished said garage but it turned out to be a set of 4 unlisted apartments. Now he has 4 renters living in them and is being paid under the table. Normally I wouldn t of minded but I just found out that they don t have proper plumbing set up so all the waste is just being dumped into the town lake. I ve already sent a violations report to the EPA about this but I was wondering if there are any other agencies I should inform too Update: called the zoning office and they said that the area it s built on is not a multi housing zone it s zoned as Nonresidential lol (his house itself is Single-family so no bye bye neighbor) | Try calling the Board of Health. Waste water going into the lake should get their attention. | Call the local phone fire marshal. Almost certainly they are not up to fire code. | 78 | 15 |
ztoq49 | 187 | Partner accused me of Pedophilia Partner of 4 years accused me of pedophilia not sure what to do. My (20M) partner (21F) accused me of pedophilia this morning and I m not sure what to do. For some context we have a three year old and live together. We are basically always around each other outside of me working. Last night we were at her grandmothers house a place we frequent and her family is often times there. Her 16 year old sister was also there and we were all just hanging out in the kitchen. We stayed for 2 hours then drove home. This morning my partner texts me and asks am I a pedophile. I tell her no and ask why she s asking that. She says she saw me look at her sisters butt when she stretched. I told her that I didn t. I don t even remember her stretching. We talked this morning and all my partner says is “I saw you” while I m trying to explain to her that I ve never looked at her sister that way. I feel like this has really severely changed how I see my partner and I m not sure what to do. Note: I posted this originally on relationshipadvice. Someone said I should post here and so I guess there s some extra context in the comments on that post. I also want to state that I m really poor and live in UT. I m a student and all of my family is in FL. I don t think our relationship will last much longer but I m afraid of losing my son. Any advice would be helpful | Her comment is not directly a legal matter but if I understand you correctly you are concerned about her making false accusations in order to keep your child from you if when you break up? Are you on your son s birth certificate or have you signed a voluntary declaration of paternity? The court is not going to take I am jealous of my sister as evidence that you present a danger to your son. But if you are not legally established as your son s father she could cause trouble by claiming he is not your child. | You aren t a pedophile and you haven t committed any crime (which are two separate things anyway). If every 20 year old who looked at a 16 year old s ass was a criminal we d have to build hundreds of new prisons. Unless you plan to split up with your partner there is not a legal issue. If you do plan to split up with your partner the best course of action is not discussing this issue any further with her and retaining a family law attorney. Your school may have some kind of legal resources for students. You should start there. What you should not do is worry about whether a single allegation of looking at a teenager s ass is going to cause you to lose access to your son. It will not. But if you plan to split up you should be the proactive party. Find a lawyer and file for custody and parenting time orders. Do not attempt an informal arrangement. | 253 | 185 |
ztrnmr | 196 | Mother in laws ex husband keeps subpoena-ing my wife to go to court for their divorce hearings. So here we are the day before Christmas Eve and a us Marshal knocks on my door and is given papers to appear in court. My loser mother in law has been dealing with her even bigger loser ex husband for about six years and every time he gets sick of paying the alimony and child support he opens up a new case claim or whatever and summons basically my wife s entire family to court. My wife was 26 when they met she never lived with him nor considered him a father type figure. It s ridiculous that he keeps pulling this and we have three kids and I m a sole provider so it keeps being done to be as big an inconvenience as possible. But my mother in law makes no money so she refuses to drop it as she needs that extra income. The whole situation is awful and embarrassing and I m curious about my legal rights when it s clearly harassment and meant to ruin my holiday and waste my time. Are there ways to get out of a subpoena or are you just screwed because you married into a family of nightmare people. Thanks for any info. | It s called quashing the subpoena. Talk with a lawyer. | > But my mother in law makes no money so she refuses to drop it as she needs that extra income. How does issuing a subpoena to your wife generate income? And it s not extra income it s base income. > Are there ways to get out of a subpoena Absolutely. Hire a lawyer to quash. And make it so that they cannot refile. | 304 | 136 |
ztw3dp | 24 | My wife is being sued for an accident that happened over a year ago Last year my wife part of a multi car pile up. She injured her back and neck her car was totalled and she now has ptsd when driving on the freeway. Insurance found her not at fault. She was starting to put the whole thing behind her and we figured everyone else was also starting to move on... Or so we thought. Last week I heard a knock on the door and a man asked for my wife. I told him she wasn t here right now but I m her husband and can relay the message to her. Then he served me papers. Wife and literally every other driver in the accident is being collectively sued by one of the people in the accident for damages and pain and suffering. We have notified our insurance and sent them copies of the court documents. What I need to know is should we seek a lawyer to help us handle this? | You ve notified your insurance. They are legally required to defend you including hiring a lawyer if needed at their expense. As of right now you don t need to hire one yourself. | Your insurance company will handle it for her. Contact the claims department immediately. Note the court date on the summons and follow up with your insurance company a week or so beforehand to make sure that she will be represented. It s not unusual for ~~ambulance chasers~~ some personal injury lawyers to wait until the statute of limitations is about to expire before filing suit hoping that memories will fade witnesses won t be available etc. | 93 | 19 |
ztw3dp | 24 | My wife is being sued for an accident that happened over a year ago Last year my wife part of a multi car pile up. She injured her back and neck her car was totalled and she now has ptsd when driving on the freeway. Insurance found her not at fault. She was starting to put the whole thing behind her and we figured everyone else was also starting to move on... Or so we thought. Last week I heard a knock on the door and a man asked for my wife. I told him she wasn t here right now but I m her husband and can relay the message to her. Then he served me papers. Wife and literally every other driver in the accident is being collectively sued by one of the people in the accident for damages and pain and suffering. We have notified our insurance and sent them copies of the court documents. What I need to know is should we seek a lawyer to help us handle this? | You ve notified your insurance. They are legally required to defend you including hiring a lawyer if needed at their expense. As of right now you don t need to hire one yourself. | This is what insurance is for. Your insurance company should handle it if you have sufficient liability coverage. Do you know what the amount of your liability coverage is? | 93 | 29 |
zu1riy | 73 | Lost everything due to identity theft law enforcement doing nothing. Recourse??? I spent most of this past year in jail as the result of my girlfriend (who has a drug problem) accusing me of abuse. While incarcerated she used my phone bank cards computers house and car keys (all of which were left at her house when I was arrested) to effectively steal everything I owned. Most notably she emptied my retirement account which contained about $200K. When I got out of jail all my bank accounts had negative balances my car was missing (stolen) and everything of value had been taken from my apartment from which I d been evicted. It s very clear to everyone (except local police) what happened and who did it. I reported all of this to the banking institutions as soon as I was released from jail and recognized the theft. The banks refuse to return any of the money supposedly due to the fact that 2-factor authentication checks were met (due to her having access to my phone and phone number). Local law enforcement is doing nothing. Since leaving jail I ve been homeless due to the theft and am living off of money gifted by friends as I m now penniless. Never in a million years thought I d be here. Have I any recourse?? | You can sue your ex. Whether or not she can repay you or if she will actually do so even after a court order are things you will need to consider. Why is law enforcement not interested in pursuing this? You make it sound like you know for sure your ex did this is this a situation where there s not actually any proof of that or... | Your recourse is against your exgirlfriend. | 80 | 14 |
zu38xi | 955 | My neighbor stole my package in clear view of my blink doorbell camera? I (23f) live with my boyfriend (23m) in an apartment complex on the first floor. We are currently out of town for Christmas visiting our families who live out of state. We were not supposed to receive any packages while we were out of town but a package arrived earlier than it was supposed to for my boyfriend later the day that we left. This package contained medical supplies for his diabetes that are very expensive. We have a doorbell camera so that we can see when we get a package and just for context the camera faces our neighbors front door. Today our doorbell camera caught our neighbor opening their front door walking to our door grabbing the package bringing it in their apartment and shutting the door. All of this was done in clear view of our camera. We were shocked considering the camera is very much in full view and they definitely should have been able to see the camera. We thought that maybe they saw the package out and brought it in to be nice and maybe slipped a note under the door. We are trying to rationalize it because how could someone do that knowing there is a camera right there? Also we aren t really sure how to proceed when we get back next week. Do we just like knock on their door and ask for our package back? I just don t know if I should get the police involved or our apartment yet since I don t know how they will retaliate but I have also never met these neighbors so how could i know if it s safe to just knock on their door. I need advice what should I do? Edit 1: Hi everyone thank you so much for the advice I appreciate it a lot. It sounds like the consensus is that they were just taking in the package in to be nice after seeing it sitting outside of our apartment. The course of action I ll be taking is to just assume that they had good intentions and ask for it back when I get home. I ll take further action such as reporting it or getting police involved if not but it sounds like I won t need to do that especially considering the very visible camera. To answer everyone s questions I guess I m pretty young and didn t know that this was something neighbors would do to be nice but it s good to know. Edit 2: Just got back home. I guess there was no reason to post on here because they were just being nice. That s all. | Just knock on their door & thank them for holding onto your package while you were away. Tell them how much you appreciate them keeping the package safe so no one had a chance to steal it. This way you re asking for it without being confrontational. | Did they know you were going to be gone? I d assume they re keeping it safely until you return unless you have reason not to trust them. | 2,847 | 7 |
zu38xi | 955 | My neighbor stole my package in clear view of my blink doorbell camera? I (23f) live with my boyfriend (23m) in an apartment complex on the first floor. We are currently out of town for Christmas visiting our families who live out of state. We were not supposed to receive any packages while we were out of town but a package arrived earlier than it was supposed to for my boyfriend later the day that we left. This package contained medical supplies for his diabetes that are very expensive. We have a doorbell camera so that we can see when we get a package and just for context the camera faces our neighbors front door. Today our doorbell camera caught our neighbor opening their front door walking to our door grabbing the package bringing it in their apartment and shutting the door. All of this was done in clear view of our camera. We were shocked considering the camera is very much in full view and they definitely should have been able to see the camera. We thought that maybe they saw the package out and brought it in to be nice and maybe slipped a note under the door. We are trying to rationalize it because how could someone do that knowing there is a camera right there? Also we aren t really sure how to proceed when we get back next week. Do we just like knock on their door and ask for our package back? I just don t know if I should get the police involved or our apartment yet since I don t know how they will retaliate but I have also never met these neighbors so how could i know if it s safe to just knock on their door. I need advice what should I do? Edit 1: Hi everyone thank you so much for the advice I appreciate it a lot. It sounds like the consensus is that they were just taking in the package in to be nice after seeing it sitting outside of our apartment. The course of action I ll be taking is to just assume that they had good intentions and ask for it back when I get home. I ll take further action such as reporting it or getting police involved if not but it sounds like I won t need to do that especially considering the very visible camera. To answer everyone s questions I guess I m pretty young and didn t know that this was something neighbors would do to be nice but it s good to know. Edit 2: Just got back home. I guess there was no reason to post on here because they were just being nice. That s all. | Just knock on their door & thank them for holding onto your package while you were away. Tell them how much you appreciate them keeping the package safe so no one had a chance to steal it. This way you re asking for it without being confrontational. | I would personally get home wait a day to see if they return it without prompting if they don t then go and ask if they have seen it if they say no then go to the cops with your video without mentioning it to them. | 2,847 | 13 |
zu38xi | 955 | My neighbor stole my package in clear view of my blink doorbell camera? I (23f) live with my boyfriend (23m) in an apartment complex on the first floor. We are currently out of town for Christmas visiting our families who live out of state. We were not supposed to receive any packages while we were out of town but a package arrived earlier than it was supposed to for my boyfriend later the day that we left. This package contained medical supplies for his diabetes that are very expensive. We have a doorbell camera so that we can see when we get a package and just for context the camera faces our neighbors front door. Today our doorbell camera caught our neighbor opening their front door walking to our door grabbing the package bringing it in their apartment and shutting the door. All of this was done in clear view of our camera. We were shocked considering the camera is very much in full view and they definitely should have been able to see the camera. We thought that maybe they saw the package out and brought it in to be nice and maybe slipped a note under the door. We are trying to rationalize it because how could someone do that knowing there is a camera right there? Also we aren t really sure how to proceed when we get back next week. Do we just like knock on their door and ask for our package back? I just don t know if I should get the police involved or our apartment yet since I don t know how they will retaliate but I have also never met these neighbors so how could i know if it s safe to just knock on their door. I need advice what should I do? Edit 1: Hi everyone thank you so much for the advice I appreciate it a lot. It sounds like the consensus is that they were just taking in the package in to be nice after seeing it sitting outside of our apartment. The course of action I ll be taking is to just assume that they had good intentions and ask for it back when I get home. I ll take further action such as reporting it or getting police involved if not but it sounds like I won t need to do that especially considering the very visible camera. To answer everyone s questions I guess I m pretty young and didn t know that this was something neighbors would do to be nice but it s good to know. Edit 2: Just got back home. I guess there was no reason to post on here because they were just being nice. That s all. | Just knock on their door & thank them for holding onto your package while you were away. Tell them how much you appreciate them keeping the package safe so no one had a chance to steal it. This way you re asking for it without being confrontational. | If you call the complex manager maybe they would be willing to go by and ask for it. “Your neighbor saw that you took his package in since he s out of town. He really appreciates it and asked me to stop by and pick it up so we can put it with his other packages that we are holding for him.” | 2,847 | 185 |
zu38xi | 955 | My neighbor stole my package in clear view of my blink doorbell camera? I (23f) live with my boyfriend (23m) in an apartment complex on the first floor. We are currently out of town for Christmas visiting our families who live out of state. We were not supposed to receive any packages while we were out of town but a package arrived earlier than it was supposed to for my boyfriend later the day that we left. This package contained medical supplies for his diabetes that are very expensive. We have a doorbell camera so that we can see when we get a package and just for context the camera faces our neighbors front door. Today our doorbell camera caught our neighbor opening their front door walking to our door grabbing the package bringing it in their apartment and shutting the door. All of this was done in clear view of our camera. We were shocked considering the camera is very much in full view and they definitely should have been able to see the camera. We thought that maybe they saw the package out and brought it in to be nice and maybe slipped a note under the door. We are trying to rationalize it because how could someone do that knowing there is a camera right there? Also we aren t really sure how to proceed when we get back next week. Do we just like knock on their door and ask for our package back? I just don t know if I should get the police involved or our apartment yet since I don t know how they will retaliate but I have also never met these neighbors so how could i know if it s safe to just knock on their door. I need advice what should I do? Edit 1: Hi everyone thank you so much for the advice I appreciate it a lot. It sounds like the consensus is that they were just taking in the package in to be nice after seeing it sitting outside of our apartment. The course of action I ll be taking is to just assume that they had good intentions and ask for it back when I get home. I ll take further action such as reporting it or getting police involved if not but it sounds like I won t need to do that especially considering the very visible camera. To answer everyone s questions I guess I m pretty young and didn t know that this was something neighbors would do to be nice but it s good to know. Edit 2: Just got back home. I guess there was no reason to post on here because they were just being nice. That s all. | Just knock on their door & thank them for holding onto your package while you were away. Tell them how much you appreciate them keeping the package safe so no one had a chance to steal it. This way you re asking for it without being confrontational. | You should ask for it back and progress from there. It s entirely possible that they believe they are being neighborly or will at least insist upon as much should you go the nuclear route first. Then you d have bad neighbors who d have a pretext for their badness. | 2,847 | 441 |
zu38xi | 955 | My neighbor stole my package in clear view of my blink doorbell camera? I (23f) live with my boyfriend (23m) in an apartment complex on the first floor. We are currently out of town for Christmas visiting our families who live out of state. We were not supposed to receive any packages while we were out of town but a package arrived earlier than it was supposed to for my boyfriend later the day that we left. This package contained medical supplies for his diabetes that are very expensive. We have a doorbell camera so that we can see when we get a package and just for context the camera faces our neighbors front door. Today our doorbell camera caught our neighbor opening their front door walking to our door grabbing the package bringing it in their apartment and shutting the door. All of this was done in clear view of our camera. We were shocked considering the camera is very much in full view and they definitely should have been able to see the camera. We thought that maybe they saw the package out and brought it in to be nice and maybe slipped a note under the door. We are trying to rationalize it because how could someone do that knowing there is a camera right there? Also we aren t really sure how to proceed when we get back next week. Do we just like knock on their door and ask for our package back? I just don t know if I should get the police involved or our apartment yet since I don t know how they will retaliate but I have also never met these neighbors so how could i know if it s safe to just knock on their door. I need advice what should I do? Edit 1: Hi everyone thank you so much for the advice I appreciate it a lot. It sounds like the consensus is that they were just taking in the package in to be nice after seeing it sitting outside of our apartment. The course of action I ll be taking is to just assume that they had good intentions and ask for it back when I get home. I ll take further action such as reporting it or getting police involved if not but it sounds like I won t need to do that especially considering the very visible camera. To answer everyone s questions I guess I m pretty young and didn t know that this was something neighbors would do to be nice but it s good to know. Edit 2: Just got back home. I guess there was no reason to post on here because they were just being nice. That s all. | If you call the complex manager maybe they would be willing to go by and ask for it. “Your neighbor saw that you took his package in since he s out of town. He really appreciates it and asked me to stop by and pick it up so we can put it with his other packages that we are holding for him.” | Did they know you were going to be gone? I d assume they re keeping it safely until you return unless you have reason not to trust them. | 185 | 7 |
zu9iqg | 262 | Friend (32M) purchased used car 12 22 and it exploded 12 23. What are his options? As the title states my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27 000 miles on it. While driving it back home the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options? | 27 000 miles most cares have factory warranties to 36 000 miles that carry with the car to a second owner. Check on that side of paperwork | Does he not have car insurance? | 334 | 9 |
zu9iqg | 262 | Friend (32M) purchased used car 12 22 and it exploded 12 23. What are his options? As the title states my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27 000 miles on it. While driving it back home the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options? | 27 000 miles most cares have factory warranties to 36 000 miles that carry with the car to a second owner. Check on that side of paperwork | NAL. He s probably out of luck in Texas unless he is eligible under the manufacturer warranty. Not all manufacturer warranties are transferable under all circumstances. | 334 | 9 |
zu9iqg | 262 | Friend (32M) purchased used car 12 22 and it exploded 12 23. What are his options? As the title states my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27 000 miles on it. While driving it back home the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options? | 27 000 miles most cares have factory warranties to 36 000 miles that carry with the car to a second owner. Check on that side of paperwork | Second hand or brand new? From a dealer or private sale? | 334 | 41 |
zu9iqg | 262 | Friend (32M) purchased used car 12 22 and it exploded 12 23. What are his options? As the title states my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27 000 miles on it. While driving it back home the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options? | Nothing unless he can prove the seller deliberately hid known issues with the car. Used cars are sold as is which is why you should always get them inspected before purchase. | Second hand or brand new? From a dealer or private sale? | 269 | 41 |
zu9iqg | 262 | Friend (32M) purchased used car 12 22 and it exploded 12 23. What are his options? As the title states my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27 000 miles on it. While driving it back home the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options? | It s a used car. Unless he purchased a warranty from the seller buyer has no recourse. | Second hand or brand new? From a dealer or private sale? | 248 | 41 |
zu9wx8 | 197 | ‘Psycho Roommate I(F23) live in Montreal and recently a roommate(M28) moved into my shared 3 bedroom apartment. It turns out he was a blacklisted tenant for his anger management issues property damage and theft. He is know widely in our community for stealing and selling 20k worth of music equipment. My coworker and students all know about him and he is known to police. At first he appeared to be a regular guy but quickly began to show his true colors: - He purposely blocked at the drains in the appartment (including using a whole toilet paper roll to block the toilet) - He s thrown a rice cooker at me which missed and hit the door - He s screamed at me through the door unprovoked - trying to come into my room (which I locked the door and cried in) I called my landlord and she said there was nothing she could do because he signed the lease? (Somehow without me and my second roommate knowing? Like how is that possible…) I called the police and they told me there was nothing they could do since he didn t commit a crime yet and to wait until he does. Apparently none of this counts as a crime so far. I was a victim of abuse so I know a violent man if I d ever seen one. Especially after the rice cooker incident. I have been staying at a friends house. I have been working all month (even working through the holidays) so that I can move. And I found a studio that I will be moving into next week. However I have been trying to get out of the lease that I signed in August for the shared appartment. The landlord refuses to let me off without the roommate signing off on it. He has flat out refused. I m a recent graduate and have no savings. I really can t afford to pay for two apartments and I don t feel safe living in the shared one. I need legal help on this. How do I get out? | The police told you that throwing a rice cooker at you wasn t a crime? Call the non emergency number and tell them that you want to press charges for assault and are looking to get a restraining order. Then send an email to your landlord again and tell her that he is breaking the terms of his lease by blocking up drains and toilets making them unusable so you have some documentation of her response. Residence having working plumbing is likely part of the lease and might give you a good and easy way to break that lease and get out. | r legaladvicecanada is where you want to post this | 193 | 56 |
zu9wx8 | 197 | ‘Psycho Roommate I(F23) live in Montreal and recently a roommate(M28) moved into my shared 3 bedroom apartment. It turns out he was a blacklisted tenant for his anger management issues property damage and theft. He is know widely in our community for stealing and selling 20k worth of music equipment. My coworker and students all know about him and he is known to police. At first he appeared to be a regular guy but quickly began to show his true colors: - He purposely blocked at the drains in the appartment (including using a whole toilet paper roll to block the toilet) - He s thrown a rice cooker at me which missed and hit the door - He s screamed at me through the door unprovoked - trying to come into my room (which I locked the door and cried in) I called my landlord and she said there was nothing she could do because he signed the lease? (Somehow without me and my second roommate knowing? Like how is that possible…) I called the police and they told me there was nothing they could do since he didn t commit a crime yet and to wait until he does. Apparently none of this counts as a crime so far. I was a victim of abuse so I know a violent man if I d ever seen one. Especially after the rice cooker incident. I have been staying at a friends house. I have been working all month (even working through the holidays) so that I can move. And I found a studio that I will be moving into next week. However I have been trying to get out of the lease that I signed in August for the shared appartment. The landlord refuses to let me off without the roommate signing off on it. He has flat out refused. I m a recent graduate and have no savings. I really can t afford to pay for two apartments and I don t feel safe living in the shared one. I need legal help on this. How do I get out? | Many jurisdictions allow victims of domestic violence to exit their lease. Domestic violence may include threats from roommates not only intimate partners. You may need to have a protective order in place. Contact a local housing committee to see if they can help you with this situation. | r legaladvicecanada is where you want to post this | 193 | 56 |
zubz1d | 221 | Us-IN it s 56 degrees inside and I have to get a hotel how do I get my landlord to pay for it after? I ve been trying to get them to fix my heat for a while now and with this winter storm my heat has dropped even further and keeps going down. I can t get ahold of anyone and I m freezing. I ve been writing down everything that happens and taking pictures of the temperature. It was hanging out at around 63-64 for a couple weeks and now it s just dropping. I basically crossposted from r tenant as well | Contact your renters insurance they will likely cover the hotel. | Can you purchase a space heater or electric blanket? | 275 | 26 |
zuccqp | 1,967 | A fling from 7 months ago just told me she was pregnant she just found out says she needs my signature for adoption. Throwaway account because…well I m terrified and embarrassed by all of this. Probably going to cross post this because I really need some advice. I (29M) had a fling (28F) from 7 months ago and she just told me that she was pregnant and that the baby is mine. She found out sometime last month so somewhere around the 6-7 month mark she discovered that she was pregnant. Her due date is at the beginning of March. I slept with this girl twice around late May early June. She told me she had an IUD and I used condoms. She lives in Oklahoma and I moved away in the summer to Kentucky. So basically I got a text two days ago from her that said we needed to talk. She told me she was pregnant with my child. I tried calling her but she refuses to talk on the phone only text. She originally said that she didn t want anything from me just wanted me to know. I started questioning paternity and the timeline–how can she just now be discovering she s pregnant? Hasn t she had her period? How does she know I m the father? Can I speak with her doctor? Can I see a sonogram of the baby? She says that she has bled since we had sex but that her periods were always light and irregular. So she never suspected anything. She isn t really showing but may be growing now idk. She still lives with her parents and they supposedly still don t know. She says I m the only person she has slept with all year–which may be true but I know she s gone on dates since (she was really obsessive and weird part of the reason I ended things and after I ended things and moved she would send me snapchats of her texts her on a date with a guy). She is denying my request for a paternity test until after the baby is born. She says that the doctor won t speak to me. Idk how she knows this since I just requested it but I wouldn t be surprised if that were true. And she has not sent me any ultrasound proof despite my numerous askings. I just signed a one year contract with a company so my life is pretty much locked in for the next 12 months at least as far as physically moving goes. My work is sending me to Dallas in January and I have offered to drive to her and Oklahoma to talk and figure out logistics but she is refusing to acknowledge my offer request to meet. After texting back and forth she started telling me that she needs my signature to put the baby up for adoption. I told her to send me the paperwork so that I can read over it but that I don t want to sign anything until I can prove paternity. Additionally I want to be involved in the adoption process–but pending paternity results I want to be prepared to take in the child and raise it myself. I think it s unfair that she has just now informed me about this and I have 2 months to prepare to raise a child that may or may not be mine. I think adoption is great and there are a lot of parents that would benefit from an adopted child but I don t want to burden the system and would like to be a father even if I have to be a single dad (I ve told my girlfriend about this situation and she has been very supportive and is requesting that I steer clear of adoption and raise the child myself. Mostly because she has a half brother that she has never met from her dad s similar experience and her dad never tried to be a part of the kids life after adoption so she doesn t know who her half brother is… and it really frustrates her). I m not sure what Oklahoma laws are for adoption so any insight would be helpful. She works in radiology and has told me she has done a lot of procedures such as portable CT scans in the OR this summer and fall. She is worried about the health of the baby due to the amount of radiation it may have been exposed to while she was pregnant and working. She says she doesn t want to do a paternity test before the baby is born because it could affect the health of the baby. The whole idea of leaving me in the dark about paternity is really frustrating. Her and I slept together twice both with protection. As a timeline of our relationship–we met on tinder and hooked up. The next day I got a call from my family saying that my mom was severely injured while on vacation in New Mexico and I was the closest member of the family distance-wise to her. I dropped everything and left the following morning to drive to NM. I have a cat and I really needed someone to watch my cat while I was gone. After some rapid texts none of my friends were pulling through. As a last ditch effort I texted the girl I had just met on tinder and asked if she could cat sit. She said she could but it would have to be at my apartment. So I gave my keys to a pretty much random person and left in a rush to New Mexico for two weeks until my mom was stable enough to travel home. I realized this girl was really weird while I was gone because she didn t just drop by to feed my cat and leave she hung out at my apartment for literal hours. When I got home it was obvious she had snooped through pretty much everything I owned and had read my journals. We had sex one more time when I got back mostly as a way to keep things cool and say thanks but I was already on the outs with her was planning to and was forward about my intentions to move back home to take care of my mom. The second time we had sex she held me in as I said I was going to come. I was wearing a condom so I didn t think much of it but I noticed after we had sex and I went to the bathroom that she laid on her back and raised her knees up. I have no way of knowing if she tampered with the condoms that were in my bedside drawer for the two weeks I was gone and she was house cat sitting. I saw a lot of red flags in her so I was happy to end things and move away. When I left she wrote me a huuuuge handwritten letter and hid it in my suitcase for me to discover as I unpacked about how she wants to marry me and how I m her person and how she wants to spend the rest of our lives together no matter what it takes. I mean fuck we only hungout like a grand total of 4 days. I don t generally post to social media but I recently made my first instagram post in like 2 years. It was about my current girlfriend and I s relationship a bunch of pictures of us together and a caption talking about how grateful I am to be dating someone like her. The following morning I got the text from the girl with the news that I may be a father. Merry Christmas I guess? Tl dr Girl I may have knocked up is refusing paternity test to prove I m the father at least until after the baby is born. She lives in Oklahoma and I used to live in OK. She says she needs my signature to sign away the baby for adoption. I may want to keep the child if they are mine. I don t trust her tbh. She is refusing to provide any proof to the existence of her pregnancy. I don t know if I m being manipulated or if I m going to need to make a large amount of life moves to try and take care of a child or if I need to consider adoption more seriously. | Do not sign anything without consulting a lawyer as to your responsibility. | While paternity tests *can* be done before birth commonly they happen afterward. You might want to wait until there s an actual child then petition (through the courts if needed) for a paternity test. Depending on the outcome of that test you go from there. | 4,287 | 499 |
zuccqp | 1,967 | A fling from 7 months ago just told me she was pregnant she just found out says she needs my signature for adoption. Throwaway account because…well I m terrified and embarrassed by all of this. Probably going to cross post this because I really need some advice. I (29M) had a fling (28F) from 7 months ago and she just told me that she was pregnant and that the baby is mine. She found out sometime last month so somewhere around the 6-7 month mark she discovered that she was pregnant. Her due date is at the beginning of March. I slept with this girl twice around late May early June. She told me she had an IUD and I used condoms. She lives in Oklahoma and I moved away in the summer to Kentucky. So basically I got a text two days ago from her that said we needed to talk. She told me she was pregnant with my child. I tried calling her but she refuses to talk on the phone only text. She originally said that she didn t want anything from me just wanted me to know. I started questioning paternity and the timeline–how can she just now be discovering she s pregnant? Hasn t she had her period? How does she know I m the father? Can I speak with her doctor? Can I see a sonogram of the baby? She says that she has bled since we had sex but that her periods were always light and irregular. So she never suspected anything. She isn t really showing but may be growing now idk. She still lives with her parents and they supposedly still don t know. She says I m the only person she has slept with all year–which may be true but I know she s gone on dates since (she was really obsessive and weird part of the reason I ended things and after I ended things and moved she would send me snapchats of her texts her on a date with a guy). She is denying my request for a paternity test until after the baby is born. She says that the doctor won t speak to me. Idk how she knows this since I just requested it but I wouldn t be surprised if that were true. And she has not sent me any ultrasound proof despite my numerous askings. I just signed a one year contract with a company so my life is pretty much locked in for the next 12 months at least as far as physically moving goes. My work is sending me to Dallas in January and I have offered to drive to her and Oklahoma to talk and figure out logistics but she is refusing to acknowledge my offer request to meet. After texting back and forth she started telling me that she needs my signature to put the baby up for adoption. I told her to send me the paperwork so that I can read over it but that I don t want to sign anything until I can prove paternity. Additionally I want to be involved in the adoption process–but pending paternity results I want to be prepared to take in the child and raise it myself. I think it s unfair that she has just now informed me about this and I have 2 months to prepare to raise a child that may or may not be mine. I think adoption is great and there are a lot of parents that would benefit from an adopted child but I don t want to burden the system and would like to be a father even if I have to be a single dad (I ve told my girlfriend about this situation and she has been very supportive and is requesting that I steer clear of adoption and raise the child myself. Mostly because she has a half brother that she has never met from her dad s similar experience and her dad never tried to be a part of the kids life after adoption so she doesn t know who her half brother is… and it really frustrates her). I m not sure what Oklahoma laws are for adoption so any insight would be helpful. She works in radiology and has told me she has done a lot of procedures such as portable CT scans in the OR this summer and fall. She is worried about the health of the baby due to the amount of radiation it may have been exposed to while she was pregnant and working. She says she doesn t want to do a paternity test before the baby is born because it could affect the health of the baby. The whole idea of leaving me in the dark about paternity is really frustrating. Her and I slept together twice both with protection. As a timeline of our relationship–we met on tinder and hooked up. The next day I got a call from my family saying that my mom was severely injured while on vacation in New Mexico and I was the closest member of the family distance-wise to her. I dropped everything and left the following morning to drive to NM. I have a cat and I really needed someone to watch my cat while I was gone. After some rapid texts none of my friends were pulling through. As a last ditch effort I texted the girl I had just met on tinder and asked if she could cat sit. She said she could but it would have to be at my apartment. So I gave my keys to a pretty much random person and left in a rush to New Mexico for two weeks until my mom was stable enough to travel home. I realized this girl was really weird while I was gone because she didn t just drop by to feed my cat and leave she hung out at my apartment for literal hours. When I got home it was obvious she had snooped through pretty much everything I owned and had read my journals. We had sex one more time when I got back mostly as a way to keep things cool and say thanks but I was already on the outs with her was planning to and was forward about my intentions to move back home to take care of my mom. The second time we had sex she held me in as I said I was going to come. I was wearing a condom so I didn t think much of it but I noticed after we had sex and I went to the bathroom that she laid on her back and raised her knees up. I have no way of knowing if she tampered with the condoms that were in my bedside drawer for the two weeks I was gone and she was house cat sitting. I saw a lot of red flags in her so I was happy to end things and move away. When I left she wrote me a huuuuge handwritten letter and hid it in my suitcase for me to discover as I unpacked about how she wants to marry me and how I m her person and how she wants to spend the rest of our lives together no matter what it takes. I mean fuck we only hungout like a grand total of 4 days. I don t generally post to social media but I recently made my first instagram post in like 2 years. It was about my current girlfriend and I s relationship a bunch of pictures of us together and a caption talking about how grateful I am to be dating someone like her. The following morning I got the text from the girl with the news that I may be a father. Merry Christmas I guess? Tl dr Girl I may have knocked up is refusing paternity test to prove I m the father at least until after the baby is born. She lives in Oklahoma and I used to live in OK. She says she needs my signature to sign away the baby for adoption. I may want to keep the child if they are mine. I don t trust her tbh. She is refusing to provide any proof to the existence of her pregnancy. I don t know if I m being manipulated or if I m going to need to make a large amount of life moves to try and take care of a child or if I need to consider adoption more seriously. | Based on what you ve said here I don t think there is a baby but to be certain add yourself to Oklahoma s putative father registry. It will protect your rights in the event she does give birth. Then I would cease all contact with this woman until you are served with legal documents (which I don t think will happen). | While paternity tests *can* be done before birth commonly they happen afterward. You might want to wait until there s an actual child then petition (through the courts if needed) for a paternity test. Depending on the outcome of that test you go from there. | 2,891 | 499 |
zuccqp | 1,967 | A fling from 7 months ago just told me she was pregnant she just found out says she needs my signature for adoption. Throwaway account because…well I m terrified and embarrassed by all of this. Probably going to cross post this because I really need some advice. I (29M) had a fling (28F) from 7 months ago and she just told me that she was pregnant and that the baby is mine. She found out sometime last month so somewhere around the 6-7 month mark she discovered that she was pregnant. Her due date is at the beginning of March. I slept with this girl twice around late May early June. She told me she had an IUD and I used condoms. She lives in Oklahoma and I moved away in the summer to Kentucky. So basically I got a text two days ago from her that said we needed to talk. She told me she was pregnant with my child. I tried calling her but she refuses to talk on the phone only text. She originally said that she didn t want anything from me just wanted me to know. I started questioning paternity and the timeline–how can she just now be discovering she s pregnant? Hasn t she had her period? How does she know I m the father? Can I speak with her doctor? Can I see a sonogram of the baby? She says that she has bled since we had sex but that her periods were always light and irregular. So she never suspected anything. She isn t really showing but may be growing now idk. She still lives with her parents and they supposedly still don t know. She says I m the only person she has slept with all year–which may be true but I know she s gone on dates since (she was really obsessive and weird part of the reason I ended things and after I ended things and moved she would send me snapchats of her texts her on a date with a guy). She is denying my request for a paternity test until after the baby is born. She says that the doctor won t speak to me. Idk how she knows this since I just requested it but I wouldn t be surprised if that were true. And she has not sent me any ultrasound proof despite my numerous askings. I just signed a one year contract with a company so my life is pretty much locked in for the next 12 months at least as far as physically moving goes. My work is sending me to Dallas in January and I have offered to drive to her and Oklahoma to talk and figure out logistics but she is refusing to acknowledge my offer request to meet. After texting back and forth she started telling me that she needs my signature to put the baby up for adoption. I told her to send me the paperwork so that I can read over it but that I don t want to sign anything until I can prove paternity. Additionally I want to be involved in the adoption process–but pending paternity results I want to be prepared to take in the child and raise it myself. I think it s unfair that she has just now informed me about this and I have 2 months to prepare to raise a child that may or may not be mine. I think adoption is great and there are a lot of parents that would benefit from an adopted child but I don t want to burden the system and would like to be a father even if I have to be a single dad (I ve told my girlfriend about this situation and she has been very supportive and is requesting that I steer clear of adoption and raise the child myself. Mostly because she has a half brother that she has never met from her dad s similar experience and her dad never tried to be a part of the kids life after adoption so she doesn t know who her half brother is… and it really frustrates her). I m not sure what Oklahoma laws are for adoption so any insight would be helpful. She works in radiology and has told me she has done a lot of procedures such as portable CT scans in the OR this summer and fall. She is worried about the health of the baby due to the amount of radiation it may have been exposed to while she was pregnant and working. She says she doesn t want to do a paternity test before the baby is born because it could affect the health of the baby. The whole idea of leaving me in the dark about paternity is really frustrating. Her and I slept together twice both with protection. As a timeline of our relationship–we met on tinder and hooked up. The next day I got a call from my family saying that my mom was severely injured while on vacation in New Mexico and I was the closest member of the family distance-wise to her. I dropped everything and left the following morning to drive to NM. I have a cat and I really needed someone to watch my cat while I was gone. After some rapid texts none of my friends were pulling through. As a last ditch effort I texted the girl I had just met on tinder and asked if she could cat sit. She said she could but it would have to be at my apartment. So I gave my keys to a pretty much random person and left in a rush to New Mexico for two weeks until my mom was stable enough to travel home. I realized this girl was really weird while I was gone because she didn t just drop by to feed my cat and leave she hung out at my apartment for literal hours. When I got home it was obvious she had snooped through pretty much everything I owned and had read my journals. We had sex one more time when I got back mostly as a way to keep things cool and say thanks but I was already on the outs with her was planning to and was forward about my intentions to move back home to take care of my mom. The second time we had sex she held me in as I said I was going to come. I was wearing a condom so I didn t think much of it but I noticed after we had sex and I went to the bathroom that she laid on her back and raised her knees up. I have no way of knowing if she tampered with the condoms that were in my bedside drawer for the two weeks I was gone and she was house cat sitting. I saw a lot of red flags in her so I was happy to end things and move away. When I left she wrote me a huuuuge handwritten letter and hid it in my suitcase for me to discover as I unpacked about how she wants to marry me and how I m her person and how she wants to spend the rest of our lives together no matter what it takes. I mean fuck we only hungout like a grand total of 4 days. I don t generally post to social media but I recently made my first instagram post in like 2 years. It was about my current girlfriend and I s relationship a bunch of pictures of us together and a caption talking about how grateful I am to be dating someone like her. The following morning I got the text from the girl with the news that I may be a father. Merry Christmas I guess? Tl dr Girl I may have knocked up is refusing paternity test to prove I m the father at least until after the baby is born. She lives in Oklahoma and I used to live in OK. She says she needs my signature to sign away the baby for adoption. I may want to keep the child if they are mine. I don t trust her tbh. She is refusing to provide any proof to the existence of her pregnancy. I don t know if I m being manipulated or if I m going to need to make a large amount of life moves to try and take care of a child or if I need to consider adoption more seriously. | Do not sign anything without consulting a lawyer as to your responsibility. | Based on what you ve said here I don t think there is a baby but to be certain add yourself to Oklahoma s putative father registry. It will protect your rights in the event she does give birth. Then I would cease all contact with this woman until you are served with legal documents (which I don t think will happen). | 4,287 | 2,891 |
zuccqp | 1,967 | A fling from 7 months ago just told me she was pregnant she just found out says she needs my signature for adoption. Throwaway account because…well I m terrified and embarrassed by all of this. Probably going to cross post this because I really need some advice. I (29M) had a fling (28F) from 7 months ago and she just told me that she was pregnant and that the baby is mine. She found out sometime last month so somewhere around the 6-7 month mark she discovered that she was pregnant. Her due date is at the beginning of March. I slept with this girl twice around late May early June. She told me she had an IUD and I used condoms. She lives in Oklahoma and I moved away in the summer to Kentucky. So basically I got a text two days ago from her that said we needed to talk. She told me she was pregnant with my child. I tried calling her but she refuses to talk on the phone only text. She originally said that she didn t want anything from me just wanted me to know. I started questioning paternity and the timeline–how can she just now be discovering she s pregnant? Hasn t she had her period? How does she know I m the father? Can I speak with her doctor? Can I see a sonogram of the baby? She says that she has bled since we had sex but that her periods were always light and irregular. So she never suspected anything. She isn t really showing but may be growing now idk. She still lives with her parents and they supposedly still don t know. She says I m the only person she has slept with all year–which may be true but I know she s gone on dates since (she was really obsessive and weird part of the reason I ended things and after I ended things and moved she would send me snapchats of her texts her on a date with a guy). She is denying my request for a paternity test until after the baby is born. She says that the doctor won t speak to me. Idk how she knows this since I just requested it but I wouldn t be surprised if that were true. And she has not sent me any ultrasound proof despite my numerous askings. I just signed a one year contract with a company so my life is pretty much locked in for the next 12 months at least as far as physically moving goes. My work is sending me to Dallas in January and I have offered to drive to her and Oklahoma to talk and figure out logistics but she is refusing to acknowledge my offer request to meet. After texting back and forth she started telling me that she needs my signature to put the baby up for adoption. I told her to send me the paperwork so that I can read over it but that I don t want to sign anything until I can prove paternity. Additionally I want to be involved in the adoption process–but pending paternity results I want to be prepared to take in the child and raise it myself. I think it s unfair that she has just now informed me about this and I have 2 months to prepare to raise a child that may or may not be mine. I think adoption is great and there are a lot of parents that would benefit from an adopted child but I don t want to burden the system and would like to be a father even if I have to be a single dad (I ve told my girlfriend about this situation and she has been very supportive and is requesting that I steer clear of adoption and raise the child myself. Mostly because she has a half brother that she has never met from her dad s similar experience and her dad never tried to be a part of the kids life after adoption so she doesn t know who her half brother is… and it really frustrates her). I m not sure what Oklahoma laws are for adoption so any insight would be helpful. She works in radiology and has told me she has done a lot of procedures such as portable CT scans in the OR this summer and fall. She is worried about the health of the baby due to the amount of radiation it may have been exposed to while she was pregnant and working. She says she doesn t want to do a paternity test before the baby is born because it could affect the health of the baby. The whole idea of leaving me in the dark about paternity is really frustrating. Her and I slept together twice both with protection. As a timeline of our relationship–we met on tinder and hooked up. The next day I got a call from my family saying that my mom was severely injured while on vacation in New Mexico and I was the closest member of the family distance-wise to her. I dropped everything and left the following morning to drive to NM. I have a cat and I really needed someone to watch my cat while I was gone. After some rapid texts none of my friends were pulling through. As a last ditch effort I texted the girl I had just met on tinder and asked if she could cat sit. She said she could but it would have to be at my apartment. So I gave my keys to a pretty much random person and left in a rush to New Mexico for two weeks until my mom was stable enough to travel home. I realized this girl was really weird while I was gone because she didn t just drop by to feed my cat and leave she hung out at my apartment for literal hours. When I got home it was obvious she had snooped through pretty much everything I owned and had read my journals. We had sex one more time when I got back mostly as a way to keep things cool and say thanks but I was already on the outs with her was planning to and was forward about my intentions to move back home to take care of my mom. The second time we had sex she held me in as I said I was going to come. I was wearing a condom so I didn t think much of it but I noticed after we had sex and I went to the bathroom that she laid on her back and raised her knees up. I have no way of knowing if she tampered with the condoms that were in my bedside drawer for the two weeks I was gone and she was house cat sitting. I saw a lot of red flags in her so I was happy to end things and move away. When I left she wrote me a huuuuge handwritten letter and hid it in my suitcase for me to discover as I unpacked about how she wants to marry me and how I m her person and how she wants to spend the rest of our lives together no matter what it takes. I mean fuck we only hungout like a grand total of 4 days. I don t generally post to social media but I recently made my first instagram post in like 2 years. It was about my current girlfriend and I s relationship a bunch of pictures of us together and a caption talking about how grateful I am to be dating someone like her. The following morning I got the text from the girl with the news that I may be a father. Merry Christmas I guess? Tl dr Girl I may have knocked up is refusing paternity test to prove I m the father at least until after the baby is born. She lives in Oklahoma and I used to live in OK. She says she needs my signature to sign away the baby for adoption. I may want to keep the child if they are mine. I don t trust her tbh. She is refusing to provide any proof to the existence of her pregnancy. I don t know if I m being manipulated or if I m going to need to make a large amount of life moves to try and take care of a child or if I need to consider adoption more seriously. | So a couple of things .... First prenatal paternity tests don t really pose a risk to the baby anymore. They can be done by taking a simple blood sample from the pregnant woman. It can be done at the same time as other prenatal blood tests so it doesn t even really require an extra needle stick to her. (It used to be done only through amniocentesis which is a fairly major procedure where the physician puts a long needle through the pregnant woman s abdomen and collects some amniotic fluid. That procedure could cause a miscarriage in some instances.) Second her argument about being concerned due to possible exposure to xrays doesn t make a lot of sense. People who work in radiology wear lead aprons to protect themselves from undesired exposure to radiation. It is possible that she isn t wearing hers but that would almost definitely violate her employer s policy. Occupational radiation exposure is a cancer risk so a concern for everyone not just pregnant people. It is a big deal for those who take xrays are near xrays when they are taken have potential exposure there. Both of those comments sound like they are just excuses to avoid giving you what you want so she can continue to string you along. | OP - what outcome are you looking for? If the kid is biologically yours do you want the child or not (considering that you *will* be dealing with the biological mother for the foreseeable future). It isn t uncommon for people to lie about pregnancies to get money. I don t see your state but you should Google [state] putative father registry. If your state has one you can register to be notified of her birth to stop her from adopting out or surrendering your child without notice. You also can wait until she gives birth and file a motion with a local family court asking for a paternity test. She will need to comply at that point. | 1,285 | 203 |
zuccqp | 1,967 | A fling from 7 months ago just told me she was pregnant she just found out says she needs my signature for adoption. Throwaway account because…well I m terrified and embarrassed by all of this. Probably going to cross post this because I really need some advice. I (29M) had a fling (28F) from 7 months ago and she just told me that she was pregnant and that the baby is mine. She found out sometime last month so somewhere around the 6-7 month mark she discovered that she was pregnant. Her due date is at the beginning of March. I slept with this girl twice around late May early June. She told me she had an IUD and I used condoms. She lives in Oklahoma and I moved away in the summer to Kentucky. So basically I got a text two days ago from her that said we needed to talk. She told me she was pregnant with my child. I tried calling her but she refuses to talk on the phone only text. She originally said that she didn t want anything from me just wanted me to know. I started questioning paternity and the timeline–how can she just now be discovering she s pregnant? Hasn t she had her period? How does she know I m the father? Can I speak with her doctor? Can I see a sonogram of the baby? She says that she has bled since we had sex but that her periods were always light and irregular. So she never suspected anything. She isn t really showing but may be growing now idk. She still lives with her parents and they supposedly still don t know. She says I m the only person she has slept with all year–which may be true but I know she s gone on dates since (she was really obsessive and weird part of the reason I ended things and after I ended things and moved she would send me snapchats of her texts her on a date with a guy). She is denying my request for a paternity test until after the baby is born. She says that the doctor won t speak to me. Idk how she knows this since I just requested it but I wouldn t be surprised if that were true. And she has not sent me any ultrasound proof despite my numerous askings. I just signed a one year contract with a company so my life is pretty much locked in for the next 12 months at least as far as physically moving goes. My work is sending me to Dallas in January and I have offered to drive to her and Oklahoma to talk and figure out logistics but she is refusing to acknowledge my offer request to meet. After texting back and forth she started telling me that she needs my signature to put the baby up for adoption. I told her to send me the paperwork so that I can read over it but that I don t want to sign anything until I can prove paternity. Additionally I want to be involved in the adoption process–but pending paternity results I want to be prepared to take in the child and raise it myself. I think it s unfair that she has just now informed me about this and I have 2 months to prepare to raise a child that may or may not be mine. I think adoption is great and there are a lot of parents that would benefit from an adopted child but I don t want to burden the system and would like to be a father even if I have to be a single dad (I ve told my girlfriend about this situation and she has been very supportive and is requesting that I steer clear of adoption and raise the child myself. Mostly because she has a half brother that she has never met from her dad s similar experience and her dad never tried to be a part of the kids life after adoption so she doesn t know who her half brother is… and it really frustrates her). I m not sure what Oklahoma laws are for adoption so any insight would be helpful. She works in radiology and has told me she has done a lot of procedures such as portable CT scans in the OR this summer and fall. She is worried about the health of the baby due to the amount of radiation it may have been exposed to while she was pregnant and working. She says she doesn t want to do a paternity test before the baby is born because it could affect the health of the baby. The whole idea of leaving me in the dark about paternity is really frustrating. Her and I slept together twice both with protection. As a timeline of our relationship–we met on tinder and hooked up. The next day I got a call from my family saying that my mom was severely injured while on vacation in New Mexico and I was the closest member of the family distance-wise to her. I dropped everything and left the following morning to drive to NM. I have a cat and I really needed someone to watch my cat while I was gone. After some rapid texts none of my friends were pulling through. As a last ditch effort I texted the girl I had just met on tinder and asked if she could cat sit. She said she could but it would have to be at my apartment. So I gave my keys to a pretty much random person and left in a rush to New Mexico for two weeks until my mom was stable enough to travel home. I realized this girl was really weird while I was gone because she didn t just drop by to feed my cat and leave she hung out at my apartment for literal hours. When I got home it was obvious she had snooped through pretty much everything I owned and had read my journals. We had sex one more time when I got back mostly as a way to keep things cool and say thanks but I was already on the outs with her was planning to and was forward about my intentions to move back home to take care of my mom. The second time we had sex she held me in as I said I was going to come. I was wearing a condom so I didn t think much of it but I noticed after we had sex and I went to the bathroom that she laid on her back and raised her knees up. I have no way of knowing if she tampered with the condoms that were in my bedside drawer for the two weeks I was gone and she was house cat sitting. I saw a lot of red flags in her so I was happy to end things and move away. When I left she wrote me a huuuuge handwritten letter and hid it in my suitcase for me to discover as I unpacked about how she wants to marry me and how I m her person and how she wants to spend the rest of our lives together no matter what it takes. I mean fuck we only hungout like a grand total of 4 days. I don t generally post to social media but I recently made my first instagram post in like 2 years. It was about my current girlfriend and I s relationship a bunch of pictures of us together and a caption talking about how grateful I am to be dating someone like her. The following morning I got the text from the girl with the news that I may be a father. Merry Christmas I guess? Tl dr Girl I may have knocked up is refusing paternity test to prove I m the father at least until after the baby is born. She lives in Oklahoma and I used to live in OK. She says she needs my signature to sign away the baby for adoption. I may want to keep the child if they are mine. I don t trust her tbh. She is refusing to provide any proof to the existence of her pregnancy. I don t know if I m being manipulated or if I m going to need to make a large amount of life moves to try and take care of a child or if I need to consider adoption more seriously. | So a couple of things .... First prenatal paternity tests don t really pose a risk to the baby anymore. They can be done by taking a simple blood sample from the pregnant woman. It can be done at the same time as other prenatal blood tests so it doesn t even really require an extra needle stick to her. (It used to be done only through amniocentesis which is a fairly major procedure where the physician puts a long needle through the pregnant woman s abdomen and collects some amniotic fluid. That procedure could cause a miscarriage in some instances.) Second her argument about being concerned due to possible exposure to xrays doesn t make a lot of sense. People who work in radiology wear lead aprons to protect themselves from undesired exposure to radiation. It is possible that she isn t wearing hers but that would almost definitely violate her employer s policy. Occupational radiation exposure is a cancer risk so a concern for everyone not just pregnant people. It is a big deal for those who take xrays are near xrays when they are taken have potential exposure there. Both of those comments sound like they are just excuses to avoid giving you what you want so she can continue to string you along. | While paternity tests *can* be done before birth commonly they happen afterward. You might want to wait until there s an actual child then petition (through the courts if needed) for a paternity test. Depending on the outcome of that test you go from there. | 1,285 | 499 |
zued5a | 753 | I believe a cop is texting me asking to buy drugs and I ve never been involved in anything like that I started receiving texts from someone which contained my first name saying they were a friend of someone I ve never met from work asking if I could get some shit . They have been relentlessly texting and calling over the past several days at all hours. I eventually replied via text and told them I don t know what they are talking about and that I will report them to the police if they contact me again. I then did a reverse lookup on the phone number and it s associated with a name of which the first result is a LinkedIn profile of a police officer in my city when Googled. Considering I ve never been involved in anything or with anyone related to drugs but they have my name and number there s really not much question in my mind here that this is the guy texting me. My theory right now is that one of my neighbors has called the police and made up some story about me. I ve been doing construction on my property recently and one neighbor has been totally unhinged yelling at the workers and calling the police several times. I will note I ve never actually spoken to this neighbor so he doesn t know my name or phone number so the police would have had to look it up in a database or something? Anyway I m not sure how seriously to take this like if it would it be worth it to contact a lawyer? I m not really concerned since I have nothing to hide but the idea of the police thinking I m some sort of criminal makes me very uncomfortable. | If this is actually a cop acting in an undercover capacity the cop is dumb. People throw around the term “entrapment” all the time but that term would actually be applicable here. Cops working undercover are (or should be) trained to avoid entrapment issues (like nagging someone to buy drugs over and over again). You don t need a lawyer. Based on your post you haven t done anything illegal. Just block the number. You can report this to the police but you don t have to. If you block the number and you start receiving similar texts from another number you should contact the police. | > like if it would it be worth it to contact a lawyer? Lawyers cost money. Thousands of dollars generally. > I eventually replied via text and told them I don t know what they are talking about and that I will report them to the police if they contact me again. If the texts have stopped since you sent this message then I don t see any reason to call a lawyer. | 951 | 125 |
zued5a | 753 | I believe a cop is texting me asking to buy drugs and I ve never been involved in anything like that I started receiving texts from someone which contained my first name saying they were a friend of someone I ve never met from work asking if I could get some shit . They have been relentlessly texting and calling over the past several days at all hours. I eventually replied via text and told them I don t know what they are talking about and that I will report them to the police if they contact me again. I then did a reverse lookup on the phone number and it s associated with a name of which the first result is a LinkedIn profile of a police officer in my city when Googled. Considering I ve never been involved in anything or with anyone related to drugs but they have my name and number there s really not much question in my mind here that this is the guy texting me. My theory right now is that one of my neighbors has called the police and made up some story about me. I ve been doing construction on my property recently and one neighbor has been totally unhinged yelling at the workers and calling the police several times. I will note I ve never actually spoken to this neighbor so he doesn t know my name or phone number so the police would have had to look it up in a database or something? Anyway I m not sure how seriously to take this like if it would it be worth it to contact a lawyer? I m not really concerned since I have nothing to hide but the idea of the police thinking I m some sort of criminal makes me very uncomfortable. | This is a known scam tactic using LI profiles. | Tell him to fuck off and block him | 375 | 7 |
zued5a | 753 | I believe a cop is texting me asking to buy drugs and I ve never been involved in anything like that I started receiving texts from someone which contained my first name saying they were a friend of someone I ve never met from work asking if I could get some shit . They have been relentlessly texting and calling over the past several days at all hours. I eventually replied via text and told them I don t know what they are talking about and that I will report them to the police if they contact me again. I then did a reverse lookup on the phone number and it s associated with a name of which the first result is a LinkedIn profile of a police officer in my city when Googled. Considering I ve never been involved in anything or with anyone related to drugs but they have my name and number there s really not much question in my mind here that this is the guy texting me. My theory right now is that one of my neighbors has called the police and made up some story about me. I ve been doing construction on my property recently and one neighbor has been totally unhinged yelling at the workers and calling the police several times. I will note I ve never actually spoken to this neighbor so he doesn t know my name or phone number so the police would have had to look it up in a database or something? Anyway I m not sure how seriously to take this like if it would it be worth it to contact a lawyer? I m not really concerned since I have nothing to hide but the idea of the police thinking I m some sort of criminal makes me very uncomfortable. | This is a known scam tactic using LI profiles. | You told him to leave you alone. He s left you alone. As long as he continues to leave you alone you have no issues. | 375 | 23 |
zued5a | 753 | I believe a cop is texting me asking to buy drugs and I ve never been involved in anything like that I started receiving texts from someone which contained my first name saying they were a friend of someone I ve never met from work asking if I could get some shit . They have been relentlessly texting and calling over the past several days at all hours. I eventually replied via text and told them I don t know what they are talking about and that I will report them to the police if they contact me again. I then did a reverse lookup on the phone number and it s associated with a name of which the first result is a LinkedIn profile of a police officer in my city when Googled. Considering I ve never been involved in anything or with anyone related to drugs but they have my name and number there s really not much question in my mind here that this is the guy texting me. My theory right now is that one of my neighbors has called the police and made up some story about me. I ve been doing construction on my property recently and one neighbor has been totally unhinged yelling at the workers and calling the police several times. I will note I ve never actually spoken to this neighbor so he doesn t know my name or phone number so the police would have had to look it up in a database or something? Anyway I m not sure how seriously to take this like if it would it be worth it to contact a lawyer? I m not really concerned since I have nothing to hide but the idea of the police thinking I m some sort of criminal makes me very uncomfortable. | This is a known scam tactic using LI profiles. | Block the number move on with your life. The end. | 375 | 65 |
zued5a | 753 | I believe a cop is texting me asking to buy drugs and I ve never been involved in anything like that I started receiving texts from someone which contained my first name saying they were a friend of someone I ve never met from work asking if I could get some shit . They have been relentlessly texting and calling over the past several days at all hours. I eventually replied via text and told them I don t know what they are talking about and that I will report them to the police if they contact me again. I then did a reverse lookup on the phone number and it s associated with a name of which the first result is a LinkedIn profile of a police officer in my city when Googled. Considering I ve never been involved in anything or with anyone related to drugs but they have my name and number there s really not much question in my mind here that this is the guy texting me. My theory right now is that one of my neighbors has called the police and made up some story about me. I ve been doing construction on my property recently and one neighbor has been totally unhinged yelling at the workers and calling the police several times. I will note I ve never actually spoken to this neighbor so he doesn t know my name or phone number so the police would have had to look it up in a database or something? Anyway I m not sure how seriously to take this like if it would it be worth it to contact a lawyer? I m not really concerned since I have nothing to hide but the idea of the police thinking I m some sort of criminal makes me very uncomfortable. | This is a known scam tactic using LI profiles. | > like if it would it be worth it to contact a lawyer? Lawyers cost money. Thousands of dollars generally. > I eventually replied via text and told them I don t know what they are talking about and that I will report them to the police if they contact me again. If the texts have stopped since you sent this message then I don t see any reason to call a lawyer. | 375 | 125 |
zugwf6 | 32 | Ex Wife Wants to Sue For Half What My House is Worth (Texas) She gifted the house to me in the divorce and now she regrets it | Gifting a house as part of a divorce would be somewhat unusual. Do you mean that you both agreed that the house would be solely your property as part of your divorce settlement? | She can want to sue. If y all followed the terms of the divorce she can continue to want. | 76 | 9 |
zukxc4 | 56 | California renter apartment complex sold to new owner new owner is evicting every body starting new year. I have a friend located in southern california. Her and her husband are in there 60s. Unfortunately they are both disability her husband is a former Air force vet. The apartment complex that they live in few months ago were sold to a new owner. Coming new year of 2023 the new owner is evicting all the tenants to leave the apartment complex. As of right now the new owners are allowing all the tenants to live there rent free for all of janurary. It s an unfortunate situation. The cost of rent is still high it s not easy for older people that aren t mobile to get up and go move. Is this legal in southern california? Can a new owner come into play ask every body to leave? Am assuming it depends on your lease agreement. They have been there for 10 years rent at this apartment complex. Thank you for your feed back. | Actually dealt with something like this a few years ago in Mid Wilshire. Pay rent for January. They are going to try to evicting everyone on not paying by making it look like a gift. They MUST go thru the courts for a legal eviction. Random papers taped on the door DO NOT COUNT. If this is a rent control building and they are on disability they could be entitled to $10k+ relocation Please have all the tenants speak to each other and the city. This is not a legal binding eviction. If there have been living there for years dont stress if they dont have the original lease papers. There are certain basic protections | Does your friend have a lease or are they month to month? It really seems to depend on that. I am not a lawyer but I found this on California law when properties are sold with current tenants: First and foremost the lease must be honored. If the property is sold with nine months remaining on a one-year lease the tenant has the right to occupy the unit for the remaining nine months. He or she is still responsible for paying rent and carrying out the terms of the original lease although rents will generally be paid to the new owner. The other terms and conditions of the lease also stay in effect until the lease expires. After the lease expires the tenant can be required to move so that the new owner can occupy the unit or otherwise determine how to use the property. The sale of the property also does not change the tenant s right to a refund of his or her security deposit. For month to month leases the renter will have fewer rights than with a longer lease. The new owner can decide to terminate the lease. However proper notice must be given usually 30 days. Landlords are prohibited from using self-help remedies to get rid of tenants such as cutting off the utilities or changing the locks. | 146 | 10 |
zukxc4 | 56 | California renter apartment complex sold to new owner new owner is evicting every body starting new year. I have a friend located in southern california. Her and her husband are in there 60s. Unfortunately they are both disability her husband is a former Air force vet. The apartment complex that they live in few months ago were sold to a new owner. Coming new year of 2023 the new owner is evicting all the tenants to leave the apartment complex. As of right now the new owners are allowing all the tenants to live there rent free for all of janurary. It s an unfortunate situation. The cost of rent is still high it s not easy for older people that aren t mobile to get up and go move. Is this legal in southern california? Can a new owner come into play ask every body to leave? Am assuming it depends on your lease agreement. They have been there for 10 years rent at this apartment complex. Thank you for your feed back. | Actually dealt with something like this a few years ago in Mid Wilshire. Pay rent for January. They are going to try to evicting everyone on not paying by making it look like a gift. They MUST go thru the courts for a legal eviction. Random papers taped on the door DO NOT COUNT. If this is a rent control building and they are on disability they could be entitled to $10k+ relocation Please have all the tenants speak to each other and the city. This is not a legal binding eviction. If there have been living there for years dont stress if they dont have the original lease papers. There are certain basic protections | 1. What did they sign? 2. What is the just cause being given for the termination of the tenancy? CA requires it in almost all situations. | 146 | 20 |
zukxc4 | 56 | California renter apartment complex sold to new owner new owner is evicting every body starting new year. I have a friend located in southern california. Her and her husband are in there 60s. Unfortunately they are both disability her husband is a former Air force vet. The apartment complex that they live in few months ago were sold to a new owner. Coming new year of 2023 the new owner is evicting all the tenants to leave the apartment complex. As of right now the new owners are allowing all the tenants to live there rent free for all of janurary. It s an unfortunate situation. The cost of rent is still high it s not easy for older people that aren t mobile to get up and go move. Is this legal in southern california? Can a new owner come into play ask every body to leave? Am assuming it depends on your lease agreement. They have been there for 10 years rent at this apartment complex. Thank you for your feed back. | Has the new owner stated a reason? If they have and it is either demolition or a substantial remodel then yes they can do so. It would be a no-fault just cause eviction under California AB 1482 Waiving rent for January isn t an act of kindness they are likely doing so to satisfy the relocation assistance requirement. | Does your friend have a lease or are they month to month? It really seems to depend on that. I am not a lawyer but I found this on California law when properties are sold with current tenants: First and foremost the lease must be honored. If the property is sold with nine months remaining on a one-year lease the tenant has the right to occupy the unit for the remaining nine months. He or she is still responsible for paying rent and carrying out the terms of the original lease although rents will generally be paid to the new owner. The other terms and conditions of the lease also stay in effect until the lease expires. After the lease expires the tenant can be required to move so that the new owner can occupy the unit or otherwise determine how to use the property. The sale of the property also does not change the tenant s right to a refund of his or her security deposit. For month to month leases the renter will have fewer rights than with a longer lease. The new owner can decide to terminate the lease. However proper notice must be given usually 30 days. Landlords are prohibited from using self-help remedies to get rid of tenants such as cutting off the utilities or changing the locks. | 81 | 10 |
zukxc4 | 56 | California renter apartment complex sold to new owner new owner is evicting every body starting new year. I have a friend located in southern california. Her and her husband are in there 60s. Unfortunately they are both disability her husband is a former Air force vet. The apartment complex that they live in few months ago were sold to a new owner. Coming new year of 2023 the new owner is evicting all the tenants to leave the apartment complex. As of right now the new owners are allowing all the tenants to live there rent free for all of janurary. It s an unfortunate situation. The cost of rent is still high it s not easy for older people that aren t mobile to get up and go move. Is this legal in southern california? Can a new owner come into play ask every body to leave? Am assuming it depends on your lease agreement. They have been there for 10 years rent at this apartment complex. Thank you for your feed back. | Has the new owner stated a reason? If they have and it is either demolition or a substantial remodel then yes they can do so. It would be a no-fault just cause eviction under California AB 1482 Waiving rent for January isn t an act of kindness they are likely doing so to satisfy the relocation assistance requirement. | 1. What did they sign? 2. What is the just cause being given for the termination of the tenancy? CA requires it in almost all situations. | 81 | 20 |
zurz14 | 1,057 | Movers left the door open in -30°C and the water pipes burst. Context: Purchased a foreclosure in Canada. The bank hired movers to move the former tenants stuff out. During the move the movers left the door open in very cold weather and the pipes burst. The banks lawyer is trying to say that the water damage is old despite undeniable evidence it is not. They are saying because it s a foreclosure we just have to deal with it. Can we get out of this deal? | IANAL but you should never take any advice from your opponent especially their lawyer. | NAL but curious if the house was heated at the time the movers were there? If it was that would certainly bolster your case (assuming proof the damage occurred at this time). | 170 | 17 |
zurz14 | 1,057 | Movers left the door open in -30°C and the water pipes burst. Context: Purchased a foreclosure in Canada. The bank hired movers to move the former tenants stuff out. During the move the movers left the door open in very cold weather and the pipes burst. The banks lawyer is trying to say that the water damage is old despite undeniable evidence it is not. They are saying because it s a foreclosure we just have to deal with it. Can we get out of this deal? | Get a copy of the utility records for the property. I can look up my **daily utility usage** in my online utility account. It would show the date when the water usage increased above the normal daily monthly use due to a water leak from burst pipes. Home insurance usually does not include flood damage. Check your policy or ask your insurance agent if water damage caused by burst frozen pipes is covered. If you were aware of the move out date time you could have done a **security check** when the move out was complete to make sure the doors were locked and discovered the open door as a breach of security as well as a cold weather risk. Contact an attorney for legal advice not Reddit. | NAL but curious if the house was heated at the time the movers were there? If it was that would certainly bolster your case (assuming proof the damage occurred at this time). | 145 | 17 |
zurz14 | 1,057 | Movers left the door open in -30°C and the water pipes burst. Context: Purchased a foreclosure in Canada. The bank hired movers to move the former tenants stuff out. During the move the movers left the door open in very cold weather and the pipes burst. The banks lawyer is trying to say that the water damage is old despite undeniable evidence it is not. They are saying because it s a foreclosure we just have to deal with it. Can we get out of this deal? | Get a copy of the utility records for the property. I can look up my **daily utility usage** in my online utility account. It would show the date when the water usage increased above the normal daily monthly use due to a water leak from burst pipes. Home insurance usually does not include flood damage. Check your policy or ask your insurance agent if water damage caused by burst frozen pipes is covered. If you were aware of the move out date time you could have done a **security check** when the move out was complete to make sure the doors were locked and discovered the open door as a breach of security as well as a cold weather risk. Contact an attorney for legal advice not Reddit. | NAL Try to find out who the movers were. Some companies (Safeguard for example) are usually contacted by the bank to go do these types houses to winterize clean and so on. Once you get the name of that company I would submit a claim against their insurance. Quick question though did you have homeowners insurance when the movers were there? Had you taken possession yet? I d check with your insurance and title insurance as well. | 145 | 17 |
zurz14 | 1,057 | Movers left the door open in -30°C and the water pipes burst. Context: Purchased a foreclosure in Canada. The bank hired movers to move the former tenants stuff out. During the move the movers left the door open in very cold weather and the pipes burst. The banks lawyer is trying to say that the water damage is old despite undeniable evidence it is not. They are saying because it s a foreclosure we just have to deal with it. Can we get out of this deal? | IANAL but you should never take any advice from your opponent especially their lawyer. | Not putting your Location makes this basically impossible to answer. In my jurisdiction (Victoria Australia) in a normal sale this would absolutely be the problem of the vendor and I would be advising a purchaser not to settle until this is resolved. However mortgagee is possession sales are different. Depending on the terms of the contract and timing of the incident it would be case specific as to who wears the costs of this. | 170 | 92 |
zurz14 | 1,057 | Movers left the door open in -30°C and the water pipes burst. Context: Purchased a foreclosure in Canada. The bank hired movers to move the former tenants stuff out. During the move the movers left the door open in very cold weather and the pipes burst. The banks lawyer is trying to say that the water damage is old despite undeniable evidence it is not. They are saying because it s a foreclosure we just have to deal with it. Can we get out of this deal? | Get a copy of the utility records for the property. I can look up my **daily utility usage** in my online utility account. It would show the date when the water usage increased above the normal daily monthly use due to a water leak from burst pipes. Home insurance usually does not include flood damage. Check your policy or ask your insurance agent if water damage caused by burst frozen pipes is covered. If you were aware of the move out date time you could have done a **security check** when the move out was complete to make sure the doors were locked and discovered the open door as a breach of security as well as a cold weather risk. Contact an attorney for legal advice not Reddit. | Not putting your Location makes this basically impossible to answer. In my jurisdiction (Victoria Australia) in a normal sale this would absolutely be the problem of the vendor and I would be advising a purchaser not to settle until this is resolved. However mortgagee is possession sales are different. Depending on the terms of the contract and timing of the incident it would be case specific as to who wears the costs of this. | 145 | 92 |
zuxubq | 901 | Sister Baker Acted by Ex BF. Can she file a false police report? My sister[21F] was taken in yesterday after her ex boyfriend claimed she was suicidal. My sister broke up with the person a month ago after she found out they were cheating and her ex kept trying to reach out but she was ignoring him. The ex boyfriend made the report under a false name. During one of the attempts to talk to my sister again she said something along the lines of “block me or else I m gonna off myself”. This was what was provided as evidence along with her license plate number and address. My sister had no idea this report was filed and was in complete shock when police came and picked her up yesterday and placed on mandatory told. We spoke to her on the phone yesterday and she was sobbing uncontrollably because she had no idea it was even possible to be involuntary committed. She has a therapist she s been for a few years now but was saying that if anything being committed involuntarily made her mental health suffer. Would we be able to file a false police report claim in this situation? Update: Thanks everyone for the advice. To provide more context yes we are in Florida. This ex boyfriend has been harassing her for over a month trying to get into contact with her. We ve been able to speak with her and she said this was one of the worst experiences of her life. She s past the 24 hour mandatory holding period and the doctor she s spoken to told her he could release her but he “doesn t want to” because she “hasn t learned her lesson”. She already has a therapist that she s been seeing regularly for a few years now and we were able to get a hold of them so they could speak to a nurse or social worker on her behalf. We re driving down now to the facility to see if we can get anyone to speak to anyone that can provide updates and sign a consent form so her therapist can speak to a nurse or social worker. The sheriff said the facility she s at would be providing updates but no one s reached out and it s nearly impossible to get me anyone to actually pick up the phone(I ve been passed around to several departments all morning and been on hold for several hours). | Question. Why would she be the one to be blocked? Why not just block the ex from contacting her? | Depending on the police even if you said “I don t know how to feel” it will be taken as suicidal in this context she said “block me or else I m gonna off myself” or something along those lines is suicidal if the police didn t act and she hypothetically did something they could have been considered negligent. Hopefully she has learned about saying things jokingly or not there something s that are just too serious for people to joke about. Lastly I hope she is not callous just less guarded with what she says. She doesn t have any legal recourse unless she s claiming she defamed which would be very hard to argue since it is a personal exchange. I hope she s learned a good life lesson from this situation. | 341 | 11 |
zuxubq | 901 | Sister Baker Acted by Ex BF. Can she file a false police report? My sister[21F] was taken in yesterday after her ex boyfriend claimed she was suicidal. My sister broke up with the person a month ago after she found out they were cheating and her ex kept trying to reach out but she was ignoring him. The ex boyfriend made the report under a false name. During one of the attempts to talk to my sister again she said something along the lines of “block me or else I m gonna off myself”. This was what was provided as evidence along with her license plate number and address. My sister had no idea this report was filed and was in complete shock when police came and picked her up yesterday and placed on mandatory told. We spoke to her on the phone yesterday and she was sobbing uncontrollably because she had no idea it was even possible to be involuntary committed. She has a therapist she s been for a few years now but was saying that if anything being committed involuntarily made her mental health suffer. Would we be able to file a false police report claim in this situation? Update: Thanks everyone for the advice. To provide more context yes we are in Florida. This ex boyfriend has been harassing her for over a month trying to get into contact with her. We ve been able to speak with her and she said this was one of the worst experiences of her life. She s past the 24 hour mandatory holding period and the doctor she s spoken to told her he could release her but he “doesn t want to” because she “hasn t learned her lesson”. She already has a therapist that she s been seeing regularly for a few years now and we were able to get a hold of them so they could speak to a nurse or social worker on her behalf. We re driving down now to the facility to see if we can get anyone to speak to anyone that can provide updates and sign a consent form so her therapist can speak to a nurse or social worker. The sheriff said the facility she s at would be providing updates but no one s reached out and it s nearly impossible to get me anyone to actually pick up the phone(I ve been passed around to several departments all morning and been on hold for several hours). | Question. Why would she be the one to be blocked? Why not just block the ex from contacting her? | A mental health professional makes the ultimate decision to committ or not. The police are involved when it s reported to them. They make their best judgment about whether or not it s valid and then transport. Or are just called to transport from a medical person. From there it s up to the medical professionals. The police did nothing wrong. | 341 | 18 |
zuxubq | 901 | Sister Baker Acted by Ex BF. Can she file a false police report? My sister[21F] was taken in yesterday after her ex boyfriend claimed she was suicidal. My sister broke up with the person a month ago after she found out they were cheating and her ex kept trying to reach out but she was ignoring him. The ex boyfriend made the report under a false name. During one of the attempts to talk to my sister again she said something along the lines of “block me or else I m gonna off myself”. This was what was provided as evidence along with her license plate number and address. My sister had no idea this report was filed and was in complete shock when police came and picked her up yesterday and placed on mandatory told. We spoke to her on the phone yesterday and she was sobbing uncontrollably because she had no idea it was even possible to be involuntary committed. She has a therapist she s been for a few years now but was saying that if anything being committed involuntarily made her mental health suffer. Would we be able to file a false police report claim in this situation? Update: Thanks everyone for the advice. To provide more context yes we are in Florida. This ex boyfriend has been harassing her for over a month trying to get into contact with her. We ve been able to speak with her and she said this was one of the worst experiences of her life. She s past the 24 hour mandatory holding period and the doctor she s spoken to told her he could release her but he “doesn t want to” because she “hasn t learned her lesson”. She already has a therapist that she s been seeing regularly for a few years now and we were able to get a hold of them so they could speak to a nurse or social worker on her behalf. We re driving down now to the facility to see if we can get anyone to speak to anyone that can provide updates and sign a consent form so her therapist can speak to a nurse or social worker. The sheriff said the facility she s at would be providing updates but no one s reached out and it s nearly impossible to get me anyone to actually pick up the phone(I ve been passed around to several departments all morning and been on hold for several hours). | Question. Why would she be the one to be blocked? Why not just block the ex from contacting her? | > Would we be able to file a false police report claim in this situation? No. > “block me or else I m gonna off myself” Literally a suicide threat. | 341 | 92 |
zuxubq | 901 | Sister Baker Acted by Ex BF. Can she file a false police report? My sister[21F] was taken in yesterday after her ex boyfriend claimed she was suicidal. My sister broke up with the person a month ago after she found out they were cheating and her ex kept trying to reach out but she was ignoring him. The ex boyfriend made the report under a false name. During one of the attempts to talk to my sister again she said something along the lines of “block me or else I m gonna off myself”. This was what was provided as evidence along with her license plate number and address. My sister had no idea this report was filed and was in complete shock when police came and picked her up yesterday and placed on mandatory told. We spoke to her on the phone yesterday and she was sobbing uncontrollably because she had no idea it was even possible to be involuntary committed. She has a therapist she s been for a few years now but was saying that if anything being committed involuntarily made her mental health suffer. Would we be able to file a false police report claim in this situation? Update: Thanks everyone for the advice. To provide more context yes we are in Florida. This ex boyfriend has been harassing her for over a month trying to get into contact with her. We ve been able to speak with her and she said this was one of the worst experiences of her life. She s past the 24 hour mandatory holding period and the doctor she s spoken to told her he could release her but he “doesn t want to” because she “hasn t learned her lesson”. She already has a therapist that she s been seeing regularly for a few years now and we were able to get a hold of them so they could speak to a nurse or social worker on her behalf. We re driving down now to the facility to see if we can get anyone to speak to anyone that can provide updates and sign a consent form so her therapist can speak to a nurse or social worker. The sheriff said the facility she s at would be providing updates but no one s reached out and it s nearly impossible to get me anyone to actually pick up the phone(I ve been passed around to several departments all morning and been on hold for several hours). | Question. Why would she be the one to be blocked? Why not just block the ex from contacting her? | NAL. The police aren t trained (licensed) mental health therapists psychologists or psychiatrists. Their job isn t to conduct a thorough suicide risk assessment or any for that matter. That s the hospital s job. There wasn t a false police report filed since she told her ex that she would off herself if he didn t follow through on her wishes. Why would she threaten something like that? Very strange especially since she could just block him. The police aren t going to lose their jobs because if she actually does try to harm herself or kill herself when the ex doesn t leave her alone and they didn t take the report seriously. | 341 | 103 |
zuxubq | 901 | Sister Baker Acted by Ex BF. Can she file a false police report? My sister[21F] was taken in yesterday after her ex boyfriend claimed she was suicidal. My sister broke up with the person a month ago after she found out they were cheating and her ex kept trying to reach out but she was ignoring him. The ex boyfriend made the report under a false name. During one of the attempts to talk to my sister again she said something along the lines of “block me or else I m gonna off myself”. This was what was provided as evidence along with her license plate number and address. My sister had no idea this report was filed and was in complete shock when police came and picked her up yesterday and placed on mandatory told. We spoke to her on the phone yesterday and she was sobbing uncontrollably because she had no idea it was even possible to be involuntary committed. She has a therapist she s been for a few years now but was saying that if anything being committed involuntarily made her mental health suffer. Would we be able to file a false police report claim in this situation? Update: Thanks everyone for the advice. To provide more context yes we are in Florida. This ex boyfriend has been harassing her for over a month trying to get into contact with her. We ve been able to speak with her and she said this was one of the worst experiences of her life. She s past the 24 hour mandatory holding period and the doctor she s spoken to told her he could release her but he “doesn t want to” because she “hasn t learned her lesson”. She already has a therapist that she s been seeing regularly for a few years now and we were able to get a hold of them so they could speak to a nurse or social worker on her behalf. We re driving down now to the facility to see if we can get anyone to speak to anyone that can provide updates and sign a consent form so her therapist can speak to a nurse or social worker. The sheriff said the facility she s at would be providing updates but no one s reached out and it s nearly impossible to get me anyone to actually pick up the phone(I ve been passed around to several departments all morning and been on hold for several hours). | Question. Why would she be the one to be blocked? Why not just block the ex from contacting her? | So either she was truly suicidal or she is the type of person who casually threatens to kill themselves in order to manipulate other people. Which is a very callous act honestly. It s not a false report when he is just reporting her actual words that she spoke or texted. | 341 | 158 |
zuy6tr | 1,249 | My husband filled for emergency custody and was granted it. What I m supposed to do to make sure it s canceled on the review hearing? I separated from my husband two weeks ago and on Thursday I was notified that he filled for emergency custody of our 3 kids and was granted it I wasn t notified about the hearing and didn t attend it. He s the abusive one in the relationship the police arrested him two weeks ago after I called them for domestic violence. I also filled for emergency custody and restraining order but haven t got any of them yet. I m in Tennessee | You need to make sure you have the police reports. Be prepared to show that you re stable and safe for the children. Keep it together. | So let me see here. You have a lawyer. But there s an emergency hearing neither you or your lawyer know anything about. The system is crooked the court is crooked and your ex is abusive and well connected. Yup. Oh and apparently your lawyer is crooked as well. Cause he s not telling you what you want to know. I ve been practicing family law for 35 years. So I feel very comfortable saying there is a lot here you re not telling us. | 482 | 372 |
zuy6tr | 1,249 | My husband filled for emergency custody and was granted it. What I m supposed to do to make sure it s canceled on the review hearing? I separated from my husband two weeks ago and on Thursday I was notified that he filled for emergency custody of our 3 kids and was granted it I wasn t notified about the hearing and didn t attend it. He s the abusive one in the relationship the police arrested him two weeks ago after I called them for domestic violence. I also filled for emergency custody and restraining order but haven t got any of them yet. I m in Tennessee | So I might be late in this but I believe I read a story from Reddit about something like this. You are to follow your lawyer s advice and if you don t feel like s he is doing enough either you ask questions or find another one. Now since the order is in place you are to follow everything that it says. Every single detail must be followed or it will be used against you not matter how bad your soon to be ex is. Hope this helps. | Off-topic comments in this thread will result in bans. Legal advice or move on. | 114 | 21 |
zuy6tr | 1,249 | My husband filled for emergency custody and was granted it. What I m supposed to do to make sure it s canceled on the review hearing? I separated from my husband two weeks ago and on Thursday I was notified that he filled for emergency custody of our 3 kids and was granted it I wasn t notified about the hearing and didn t attend it. He s the abusive one in the relationship the police arrested him two weeks ago after I called them for domestic violence. I also filled for emergency custody and restraining order but haven t got any of them yet. I m in Tennessee | In most states TN included I believe the emergency custody order is first granted ex parte (without a hearing) followed by a hasty hearing. If he got emergency custody on Thursday it may be that the hearing has not happened. Which could explain your lawyer s confidence. He feels like the temporary order will be overturned at the hearing on the petition. | Have you tried to get a protective order? If he has been physically abusive it is easy. If he has done it in front of the children he could be excluded from seeing the children. | 76 | 8 |
zuy6tr | 1,249 | My husband filled for emergency custody and was granted it. What I m supposed to do to make sure it s canceled on the review hearing? I separated from my husband two weeks ago and on Thursday I was notified that he filled for emergency custody of our 3 kids and was granted it I wasn t notified about the hearing and didn t attend it. He s the abusive one in the relationship the police arrested him two weeks ago after I called them for domestic violence. I also filled for emergency custody and restraining order but haven t got any of them yet. I m in Tennessee | In most states TN included I believe the emergency custody order is first granted ex parte (without a hearing) followed by a hasty hearing. If he got emergency custody on Thursday it may be that the hearing has not happened. Which could explain your lawyer s confidence. He feels like the temporary order will be overturned at the hearing on the petition. | I m sorry that you are getting so many rude comments from fellow “lawyers ” accusing you of poor conduct and attacking your character when you came here for help and to explore every avenue. If I were you I d call your attorney s office and ask his paralegal to set up a phone chat between y all to allay your concerns and make you privy to the battle plan. You re paying them you call the shots. Screw these bitter lawyers who have nothing better to do on Christmas than sit on Reddit and berate a concerned mother. | 76 | 17 |
zuy6tr | 1,249 | My husband filled for emergency custody and was granted it. What I m supposed to do to make sure it s canceled on the review hearing? I separated from my husband two weeks ago and on Thursday I was notified that he filled for emergency custody of our 3 kids and was granted it I wasn t notified about the hearing and didn t attend it. He s the abusive one in the relationship the police arrested him two weeks ago after I called them for domestic violence. I also filled for emergency custody and restraining order but haven t got any of them yet. I m in Tennessee | In most states TN included I believe the emergency custody order is first granted ex parte (without a hearing) followed by a hasty hearing. If he got emergency custody on Thursday it may be that the hearing has not happened. Which could explain your lawyer s confidence. He feels like the temporary order will be overturned at the hearing on the petition. | Off-topic comments in this thread will result in bans. Legal advice or move on. | 76 | 21 |
zv25va | 126 | Homeless man keeps teasing taunting my dog don t know what to do My family have a 3 year old dog (medium sized). There is a man who has been coming nearly daily to tease our dog. He would stand either outside our gate or across the road and make growling type noises until our dog started barking. We normally don t let her into the front yard because of him. He did this for about 6 months and then stopped for a few months. My parents approach was to try to ignore him and quiet our dog every time he came. We haven t called the police or reported anything yet. For context he seems to either be drunk and or have mental health issues which is why we haven t tried reasoning talking to him. Tonight he came again (around 2:30am) and started to tease our dog. I opened my curtains to see what was going on (admittedly I wanted to show that I was awake so he would go away). The man must have seen me open the curtains and panicked slipped and hit his head against a parked van. He didn t get up immediately so I got worried and went outside to check whether he was ok and if I needed to call an ambulance. My dog followed me into the front yard and was barking at the man (from inside our gate). He eventually got up and was very angry at our dog cursing us out the whole time. My parents woke up from the commotion and are very angry with me. They think that this encounter would make him come back again to tease our dog or maybe even hurt her. I agree with them that it was a mistake to let our dog out into the yard when I checked on the man but I think I was justified in my other actions. We are in Australia (NSW) for context. I m not sure that what he is doing is illegal here (he never enters our property) but next time he comes I plan on recording it and calling the non-emergency police line. My main worry is when we leave the house and leave the dog in the backyard (our front side gate to the backyard can be opened by anyone). Any advice would be appreciated. | Keep your dog inside when you (or other family) aren t able to be out with her. | You want r AusLegal for advice specific to Australian laws. | 122 | 56 |
zv5ro3 | 123 | Help! The co-signer of my car took the car and won t give it back. They keep making late payments which brings down my credit I worked so hard to build! They avoid my calls and I no longer know where they live. Backstory the car is in my name but the co-signer is my ex. I feel like helpless and I don t know what to do and I m trying not to spiral into further depression. I intended to get a new car and apartment by the end of next year but that s going to be hard to do if they keep bringing down my credit! I don t know what to do. I m thinking of trying to find the car if he visits his family s house for the holidays slash the tires (so they can t get away) and then call a tow truck to have it towed to the nearest mechanic to get new keys so it s finally in my possession. Due to the circumstances I am mentally prepared to slash the tires and buy new ones all for the sake of having possession of it again. However is there any of way?! | You need to pay the payments. You might be able to sue them later over it. If you slash the tires you re committing a crime plus screwing yourself financially. Get a key made and drive it away if it s parked in public. *(Police roll up hey stop right there. Handcuffs. But it s my car! Back of squad car. But it s my car! Arraignment. But it s my car! )* | Make the payments yourself on time. | 299 | 34 |
zv5ro3 | 123 | Help! The co-signer of my car took the car and won t give it back. They keep making late payments which brings down my credit I worked so hard to build! They avoid my calls and I no longer know where they live. Backstory the car is in my name but the co-signer is my ex. I feel like helpless and I don t know what to do and I m trying not to spiral into further depression. I intended to get a new car and apartment by the end of next year but that s going to be hard to do if they keep bringing down my credit! I don t know what to do. I m thinking of trying to find the car if he visits his family s house for the holidays slash the tires (so they can t get away) and then call a tow truck to have it towed to the nearest mechanic to get new keys so it s finally in my possession. Due to the circumstances I am mentally prepared to slash the tires and buy new ones all for the sake of having possession of it again. However is there any of way?! | If your ex is the co-signer and you are the primary borrower *you* are the one primarily responsible for making payments. If you are right and only your name is on the registration you can have it towed and then surrender it in lieu of repossession (will still hurt credit but stops the pain sooner). As for being allowed to damage your own property you re in pretty grey territory as the bank lender currently has title on it. Not to mention it s not an argument that is going to go over well with the cops on the scene. | Is the title in your name? Your best course of action is to report the car stolen. Provide the police the relevant documentation and give them the circumstances and they would easily have it back in your possession. Plus 300 tow bill is less than the 800 you ll pay for new tires lol. | 100 | 25 |
zv5ro3 | 123 | Help! The co-signer of my car took the car and won t give it back. They keep making late payments which brings down my credit I worked so hard to build! They avoid my calls and I no longer know where they live. Backstory the car is in my name but the co-signer is my ex. I feel like helpless and I don t know what to do and I m trying not to spiral into further depression. I intended to get a new car and apartment by the end of next year but that s going to be hard to do if they keep bringing down my credit! I don t know what to do. I m thinking of trying to find the car if he visits his family s house for the holidays slash the tires (so they can t get away) and then call a tow truck to have it towed to the nearest mechanic to get new keys so it s finally in my possession. Due to the circumstances I am mentally prepared to slash the tires and buy new ones all for the sake of having possession of it again. However is there any of way?! | If your ex is the co-signer and you are the primary borrower *you* are the one primarily responsible for making payments. If you are right and only your name is on the registration you can have it towed and then surrender it in lieu of repossession (will still hurt credit but stops the pain sooner). As for being allowed to damage your own property you re in pretty grey territory as the bank lender currently has title on it. Not to mention it s not an argument that is going to go over well with the cops on the scene. | Make the payments yourself on time. | 100 | 34 |
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