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5cwcy0
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[FL] My sister wants to use a hidden nanny cam at her daughter's daycare. Is this legal since it's filming other kids too? She doesn't suspect any foul play or anything. She just wants to be able to see her daughter through out the day but I don't want her to get into trouble.
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d9zyqeq
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da03tay
| 1,479,141,839 | 1,479,148,115 | 11 | 33 |
Yes, if the other parents have a problem it. They can probably sue here for privacy reasons.
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Ignoring the legal aspect, how is she planning on being able to connect it to a network and get it set up? There's *no* way that'll be done without the permission of the daycare.
| 0 | 6,276 | 3 |
5cwcy0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
[FL] My sister wants to use a hidden nanny cam at her daughter's daycare. Is this legal since it's filming other kids too? She doesn't suspect any foul play or anything. She just wants to be able to see her daughter through out the day but I don't want her to get into trouble.
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da03tay
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da015zh
| 1,479,148,115 | 1,479,144,877 | 33 | 13 |
Ignoring the legal aspect, how is she planning on being able to connect it to a network and get it set up? There's *no* way that'll be done without the permission of the daycare.
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Generally in situations where you're gonna be filming students at a school or kids in a daycare, you need the schools permission. We've had several threads here and Ive seen one situation in real life where a child and parent has a restraining order against someone who is trawling through social media looking for the kid, and when they do find them they come and attack/creep out the parent and the kid. Because of this, many places like this have strict camera policies. It would not be illegal, but they daycare might kick her out if she does something like this without asking permission. Also, how is this hidden cam supposed to work? They clean *everything* all the time at day cares, Id be suprised if they didnt notice a camera
| 1 | 3,238 | 2.538462 |
5cwcy0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
[FL] My sister wants to use a hidden nanny cam at her daughter's daycare. Is this legal since it's filming other kids too? She doesn't suspect any foul play or anything. She just wants to be able to see her daughter through out the day but I don't want her to get into trouble.
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d9zyqeq
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da015zh
| 1,479,141,839 | 1,479,144,877 | 11 | 13 |
Yes, if the other parents have a problem it. They can probably sue here for privacy reasons.
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Generally in situations where you're gonna be filming students at a school or kids in a daycare, you need the schools permission. We've had several threads here and Ive seen one situation in real life where a child and parent has a restraining order against someone who is trawling through social media looking for the kid, and when they do find them they come and attack/creep out the parent and the kid. Because of this, many places like this have strict camera policies. It would not be illegal, but they daycare might kick her out if she does something like this without asking permission. Also, how is this hidden cam supposed to work? They clean *everything* all the time at day cares, Id be suprised if they didnt notice a camera
| 0 | 3,038 | 1.181818 |
6ojpvy
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dkhvg2b
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dkhvism
| 1,500,589,129 | 1,500,589,221 | 736 | 1,497 |
When you have your appointment, just let them know what happened and ask if there's going to be a problem. Say that the leader of a student organization you were in took it upon themselves to register all members. Speak to the dean of students or the appropriate faculty member that presides over the organization. That behavior is not appropriate for the leader of an organization to do. If something does happen, get yourself a lawyer.
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Contact the police to make a report then notify the California Secretary of State. Save a copy of the police report for immigration purposes.
| 0 | 92 | 2.033967 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dkhvg2b
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dkhw1kb
| 1,500,589,129 | 1,500,589,841 | 736 | 1,270 |
When you have your appointment, just let them know what happened and ask if there's going to be a problem. Say that the leader of a student organization you were in took it upon themselves to register all members. Speak to the dean of students or the appropriate faculty member that presides over the organization. That behavior is not appropriate for the leader of an organization to do. If something does happen, get yourself a lawyer.
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Police report for forged registration, ASAP
| 0 | 712 | 1.725543 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dki2jwh
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dki3mb5
| 1,500,598,314 | 1,500,599,759 | 108 | 727 |
Call the police and file a police report. It's the only way you will have a paper trail that backs up your story and will have substantial evidentiary value if you find yourself facing deportation. It won't be pleasant to do, but you need to do it.
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Did she admit, in writing, to registering you? Try to discuss with her via text or email why this is a problem for you and hope she admits it in writing. Otherwise it would be easy for someone to claim you registered yourself and are trying to pass the blame. You may want to try to get a free consultation with an immigration lawyer or two.
| 0 | 1,445 | 6.731481 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dki441v
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dki2jwh
| 1,500,600,415 | 1,500,598,314 | 555 | 108 |
President will be looking at serious jail time for this. Unbelievably stupid. You should be good as long as you file a police report, since you did not commit any crimes.
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Call the police and file a police report. It's the only way you will have a paper trail that backs up your story and will have substantial evidentiary value if you find yourself facing deportation. It won't be pleasant to do, but you need to do it.
| 1 | 2,101 | 5.138889 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dki4olx
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dki4r28
| 1,500,601,180 | 1,500,601,275 | 145 | 444 |
Doesn't registering to vote in CA require a SSN and DL number? If so, how did the person get this info? From records at your University? If so, you may also want to contact the University they will freak out about this as well.
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Take a deep breath. You're taking appropriate action by contacting a competent licensed attorney specializing in immigration. You should only accept advice from an attorney, as opposed to folks on here who may not be licensed or familiar with California/immigration law. They will advise you on appropriate curative action, which may not involve narcing on your friend. Out of curiosity, did the club president use the online form on the Secretary of State website?
| 0 | 95 | 3.062069 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dki2jwh
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dki4r28
| 1,500,598,314 | 1,500,601,275 | 108 | 444 |
Call the police and file a police report. It's the only way you will have a paper trail that backs up your story and will have substantial evidentiary value if you find yourself facing deportation. It won't be pleasant to do, but you need to do it.
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Take a deep breath. You're taking appropriate action by contacting a competent licensed attorney specializing in immigration. You should only accept advice from an attorney, as opposed to folks on here who may not be licensed or familiar with California/immigration law. They will advise you on appropriate curative action, which may not involve narcing on your friend. Out of curiosity, did the club president use the online form on the Secretary of State website?
| 0 | 2,961 | 4.111111 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dkigbgm
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dki4olx
| 1,500,620,314 | 1,500,601,180 | 332 | 145 |
The president of your college group needs a SEVERE talking to by the Dean or another member of administration. This is NOT OK. It needs to be clearly outlined to her how and why this was wrong. ESPECIALLY since she is leadership of a *political* organization. I'm not saying go get people in trouble. But I am saying it is NEVER okay to submit government documents in someone else's name like that. And she need to receive a clear and unequivocal education why. I am so sorry OP.
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Doesn't registering to vote in CA require a SSN and DL number? If so, how did the person get this info? From records at your University? If so, you may also want to contact the University they will freak out about this as well.
| 1 | 19,134 | 2.289655 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dki2jwh
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dkigbgm
| 1,500,598,314 | 1,500,620,314 | 108 | 332 |
Call the police and file a police report. It's the only way you will have a paper trail that backs up your story and will have substantial evidentiary value if you find yourself facing deportation. It won't be pleasant to do, but you need to do it.
|
The president of your college group needs a SEVERE talking to by the Dean or another member of administration. This is NOT OK. It needs to be clearly outlined to her how and why this was wrong. ESPECIALLY since she is leadership of a *political* organization. I'm not saying go get people in trouble. But I am saying it is NEVER okay to submit government documents in someone else's name like that. And she need to receive a clear and unequivocal education why. I am so sorry OP.
| 0 | 22,000 | 3.074074 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dki8s98
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dkigbgm
| 1,500,606,858 | 1,500,620,314 | 31 | 332 |
How did she register you? Did you sign something?
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The president of your college group needs a SEVERE talking to by the Dean or another member of administration. This is NOT OK. It needs to be clearly outlined to her how and why this was wrong. ESPECIALLY since she is leadership of a *political* organization. I'm not saying go get people in trouble. But I am saying it is NEVER okay to submit government documents in someone else's name like that. And she need to receive a clear and unequivocal education why. I am so sorry OP.
| 0 | 13,456 | 10.709677 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dkigbgm
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dkidh04
| 1,500,620,314 | 1,500,614,312 | 332 | 27 |
The president of your college group needs a SEVERE talking to by the Dean or another member of administration. This is NOT OK. It needs to be clearly outlined to her how and why this was wrong. ESPECIALLY since she is leadership of a *political* organization. I'm not saying go get people in trouble. But I am saying it is NEVER okay to submit government documents in someone else's name like that. And she need to receive a clear and unequivocal education why. I am so sorry OP.
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Don't you have to sign the application to be registered to vote? I know I had to show some kind of ID with my address to be able to register last time - but that was at the library, so I have no idea.
| 1 | 6,002 | 12.296296 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dkis5y6
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dki4olx
| 1,500,645,393 | 1,500,601,180 | 182 | 145 |
OK, I want to modify the primary advice here. The president of your organization absolutely fucked up by registering you to vote. That said, before you go running off to the police or the CA Sec. State, you should first see if she registered anyone else to vote in the same manner. Letting a citizen make the complaint against the organization president is much safer than you doing it yourself. The immigration advocate can help, and probably help get the registration card tossed silently.
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Doesn't registering to vote in CA require a SSN and DL number? If so, how did the person get this info? From records at your University? If so, you may also want to contact the University they will freak out about this as well.
| 1 | 44,213 | 1.255172 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dkis5y6
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dki2jwh
| 1,500,645,393 | 1,500,598,314 | 182 | 108 |
OK, I want to modify the primary advice here. The president of your organization absolutely fucked up by registering you to vote. That said, before you go running off to the police or the CA Sec. State, you should first see if she registered anyone else to vote in the same manner. Letting a citizen make the complaint against the organization president is much safer than you doing it yourself. The immigration advocate can help, and probably help get the registration card tossed silently.
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Call the police and file a police report. It's the only way you will have a paper trail that backs up your story and will have substantial evidentiary value if you find yourself facing deportation. It won't be pleasant to do, but you need to do it.
| 1 | 47,079 | 1.685185 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dki8s98
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dkis5y6
| 1,500,606,858 | 1,500,645,393 | 31 | 182 |
How did she register you? Did you sign something?
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OK, I want to modify the primary advice here. The president of your organization absolutely fucked up by registering you to vote. That said, before you go running off to the police or the CA Sec. State, you should first see if she registered anyone else to vote in the same manner. Letting a citizen make the complaint against the organization president is much safer than you doing it yourself. The immigration advocate can help, and probably help get the registration card tossed silently.
| 0 | 38,535 | 5.870968 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dkis5y6
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dkidh04
| 1,500,645,393 | 1,500,614,312 | 182 | 27 |
OK, I want to modify the primary advice here. The president of your organization absolutely fucked up by registering you to vote. That said, before you go running off to the police or the CA Sec. State, you should first see if she registered anyone else to vote in the same manner. Letting a citizen make the complaint against the organization president is much safer than you doing it yourself. The immigration advocate can help, and probably help get the registration card tossed silently.
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Don't you have to sign the application to be registered to vote? I know I had to show some kind of ID with my address to be able to register last time - but that was at the library, so I have no idea.
| 1 | 31,081 | 6.740741 |
6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dkirxbc
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dkis5y6
| 1,500,645,090 | 1,500,645,393 | 3 | 182 |
Not a lawyer I would get a lawyer ASAP and seek their advice. However, if you can't afford it, I would focus on reporting it, getting it expunged (I think SoS for most states covers voters registration, but it varies). At least get the ball rolling and gather what paperwork you can demonstrating this. Personally, I wouldn't mention it at the appointment, but have everything in hand in case it comes up. Don't lie. Be truthful. I wouldn't volunteer it because it MIGHT not be noticed and the paperwork of you fighting it would probably speak for itself. That is only judging from other interviews processes with the federal government. A lawyer would be best.
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OK, I want to modify the primary advice here. The president of your organization absolutely fucked up by registering you to vote. That said, before you go running off to the police or the CA Sec. State, you should first see if she registered anyone else to vote in the same manner. Letting a citizen make the complaint against the organization president is much safer than you doing it yourself. The immigration advocate can help, and probably help get the registration card tossed silently.
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6ojpvy
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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dki2jwh
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dki4olx
| 1,500,598,314 | 1,500,601,180 | 108 | 145 |
Call the police and file a police report. It's the only way you will have a paper trail that backs up your story and will have substantial evidentiary value if you find yourself facing deportation. It won't be pleasant to do, but you need to do it.
|
Doesn't registering to vote in CA require a SSN and DL number? If so, how did the person get this info? From records at your University? If so, you may also want to contact the University they will freak out about this as well.
| 0 | 2,866 | 1.342593 |
6ojpvy
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[CA] I was fraudulently registered to vote. Might get deported. HELP. I am a member of a college political organization. The president of the club has been super intense on everyone being registered to vote and has been riding me hard about it. Now the problem is, I'm a Permanent Resident. I'm not a citizen and I know I'm not allowed to vote. I've never represented myself as a citizen or made any attempts to vote. I know it's super illegal and a deportable offense. I recently found out that the president has registered me to vote! She submitted the application for me and didn't understand why I started crying when she told me. I had not told anyone my status because I didn't think it was in any way relevant to the work we were doing. We mostly hang out and talk politics and occasionally host speakers. What can I do now? I have an appointment with an immigration non profit next week but I'm freaking out now. I have my green card renewal coming up soon.
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Not a lawyer I would get a lawyer ASAP and seek their advice. However, if you can't afford it, I would focus on reporting it, getting it expunged (I think SoS for most states covers voters registration, but it varies). At least get the ball rolling and gather what paperwork you can demonstrating this. Personally, I wouldn't mention it at the appointment, but have everything in hand in case it comes up. Don't lie. Be truthful. I wouldn't volunteer it because it MIGHT not be noticed and the paperwork of you fighting it would probably speak for itself. That is only judging from other interviews processes with the federal government. A lawyer would be best.
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You're clear if it wasn't you that signed and submitted the application. Even if you did the election board should catch the discrepancy and inform you that you aren't eligible to vote. On another note, my ex-wife was constantly getting summons to jury duty, which is the only other thing non-citizens can't participate in, after she got her driver's license. I had to tell both them and her that she couldn't because she wasn't a citizen yet. After she became a citizen she registered Republican (I'm a Democrat) and ended up on many jury duties while I hadn't ever been asked even once in my life before that.
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i’m disabled and my work won’t give me reasonable accommodations i’m type 1 diabetic and my job i’ve worked at for a year makes it really hard for me. I have been reprimanded for “being on my phone” which is not my phone, it’s my insulin pump and if i’m on my phone it’s to check my cgm (which is my blood glucose meter that connects to my phone). i’ve been reprimanded for drinking juice which is what I need to do when my sugar is low. It’s getting exhausting trying to take care of my health here. I live in florida and from what I have seen they are required by law to allow me the accommodation of using my medical devices and treating my lows when I need to. what can I do besides find new employment (which i’m already looking for) I have explained to them on multiple about my illness and what I am doing but they seem to forget day to day and I am forced to repeat myself and re-advocate constantly.
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isk3gkf
| 1,665,935,686 | 1,665,936,881 | 66 | 244 |
Not a lawyer But I'd send and email to your boss and request they reply via email so the conversation is in writing and remind them of the accommodations that you require. I would also email HR and ask for any forms you need to fill out to get the reasonable accommodations that your disability requires. If they give you those forms, or tell you that you don't need any, then I think you should be okay. If your boss continues to harass you I would contact HR and if the issue is still not resolved I would contact a lawyer because I feel like harassing an employee over maintaining their disability is illegal. I don't know the law, but it feels like something you could retaliate on.
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The website https://askjan.org/ has a lot of helpful information about accommodations and how to request them
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y5jw3a
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i’m disabled and my work won’t give me reasonable accommodations i’m type 1 diabetic and my job i’ve worked at for a year makes it really hard for me. I have been reprimanded for “being on my phone” which is not my phone, it’s my insulin pump and if i’m on my phone it’s to check my cgm (which is my blood glucose meter that connects to my phone). i’ve been reprimanded for drinking juice which is what I need to do when my sugar is low. It’s getting exhausting trying to take care of my health here. I live in florida and from what I have seen they are required by law to allow me the accommodation of using my medical devices and treating my lows when I need to. what can I do besides find new employment (which i’m already looking for) I have explained to them on multiple about my illness and what I am doing but they seem to forget day to day and I am forced to repeat myself and re-advocate constantly.
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iskj854
| 1,665,935,686 | 1,665,942,939 | 66 | 163 |
Not a lawyer But I'd send and email to your boss and request they reply via email so the conversation is in writing and remind them of the accommodations that you require. I would also email HR and ask for any forms you need to fill out to get the reasonable accommodations that your disability requires. If they give you those forms, or tell you that you don't need any, then I think you should be okay. If your boss continues to harass you I would contact HR and if the issue is still not resolved I would contact a lawyer because I feel like harassing an employee over maintaining their disability is illegal. I don't know the law, but it feels like something you could retaliate on.
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OP, I had posted this as a response in a thread, but I see you've gotten similar advice about making a request from multiple people, so I wanted to bump this to its own response. Assuming your employer has at least 15 employees (smaller businesses aren't subject to the provisions of the ADA), it sounds like you have already made a *legally valid and enforceable* request for a reasonable accommodation. According to the EEOC, all you needed to do under the law is make your employer aware of your disability-related workplace needs. You mentioned in a comment that you told them you would need to test your sugar and access your medical devices. That alone counts as your request. **There is no legal requirement that a request for an accommodation be formal or even in writing, nor that the request specifically use the term "reasonable accommodation."** An employer can ask an employee to fill out specific paperwork *in addition*, but the initial request still counts. You can file a complaint with the EEOC if you are unable to resolve this directly with your employer. I don't see that you mentioned your location, but your state may offer you protections against discrimination over and above those offered by the ADA.
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y5jw3a
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i’m disabled and my work won’t give me reasonable accommodations i’m type 1 diabetic and my job i’ve worked at for a year makes it really hard for me. I have been reprimanded for “being on my phone” which is not my phone, it’s my insulin pump and if i’m on my phone it’s to check my cgm (which is my blood glucose meter that connects to my phone). i’ve been reprimanded for drinking juice which is what I need to do when my sugar is low. It’s getting exhausting trying to take care of my health here. I live in florida and from what I have seen they are required by law to allow me the accommodation of using my medical devices and treating my lows when I need to. what can I do besides find new employment (which i’m already looking for) I have explained to them on multiple about my illness and what I am doing but they seem to forget day to day and I am forced to repeat myself and re-advocate constantly.
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iskj854
| 1,665,937,466 | 1,665,942,939 | 14 | 163 |
Your HR department should either have or have access to the ADA accommodation request forms. You'll need your doctor to fill them out. I just went through a similar situation with my job and they worked with me to get me in a better place. I wish you the best...
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OP, I had posted this as a response in a thread, but I see you've gotten similar advice about making a request from multiple people, so I wanted to bump this to its own response. Assuming your employer has at least 15 employees (smaller businesses aren't subject to the provisions of the ADA), it sounds like you have already made a *legally valid and enforceable* request for a reasonable accommodation. According to the EEOC, all you needed to do under the law is make your employer aware of your disability-related workplace needs. You mentioned in a comment that you told them you would need to test your sugar and access your medical devices. That alone counts as your request. **There is no legal requirement that a request for an accommodation be formal or even in writing, nor that the request specifically use the term "reasonable accommodation."** An employer can ask an employee to fill out specific paperwork *in addition*, but the initial request still counts. You can file a complaint with the EEOC if you are unable to resolve this directly with your employer. I don't see that you mentioned your location, but your state may offer you protections against discrimination over and above those offered by the ADA.
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y5jw3a
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legaladvice_train
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i’m disabled and my work won’t give me reasonable accommodations i’m type 1 diabetic and my job i’ve worked at for a year makes it really hard for me. I have been reprimanded for “being on my phone” which is not my phone, it’s my insulin pump and if i’m on my phone it’s to check my cgm (which is my blood glucose meter that connects to my phone). i’ve been reprimanded for drinking juice which is what I need to do when my sugar is low. It’s getting exhausting trying to take care of my health here. I live in florida and from what I have seen they are required by law to allow me the accommodation of using my medical devices and treating my lows when I need to. what can I do besides find new employment (which i’m already looking for) I have explained to them on multiple about my illness and what I am doing but they seem to forget day to day and I am forced to repeat myself and re-advocate constantly.
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iskgstf
| 1,665,942,939 | 1,665,942,048 | 163 | 7 |
OP, I had posted this as a response in a thread, but I see you've gotten similar advice about making a request from multiple people, so I wanted to bump this to its own response. Assuming your employer has at least 15 employees (smaller businesses aren't subject to the provisions of the ADA), it sounds like you have already made a *legally valid and enforceable* request for a reasonable accommodation. According to the EEOC, all you needed to do under the law is make your employer aware of your disability-related workplace needs. You mentioned in a comment that you told them you would need to test your sugar and access your medical devices. That alone counts as your request. **There is no legal requirement that a request for an accommodation be formal or even in writing, nor that the request specifically use the term "reasonable accommodation."** An employer can ask an employee to fill out specific paperwork *in addition*, but the initial request still counts. You can file a complaint with the EEOC if you are unable to resolve this directly with your employer. I don't see that you mentioned your location, but your state may offer you protections against discrimination over and above those offered by the ADA.
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It sounds like you may be covered by state law but you are definitely covered by the American Disabilities Act when it comes to making accommodations that address your health needs. This can include providing a mini-fridge you access in the event you need to maintain insulin as part of your treatment. You may try filing a report with HR or ultimately the EEOC outlining the situation. The EEOC would work with your employer on settling the situation. It may be that the type of work you do cannot provide accommodations for a number of reasons and there are no other internal opportunities. If you are reprimanded for using your phone to verify your CGM and suffer consequences, keep track and document what is going on. If you are constantly getting "dinged" by a single person, report the situation to HR for them to handle. If you are being "dinged" by a pool of people, still work with HR to handle but appreciate that it may take a while for everyone to get on the same page as to what is going on (the wider the pool the more time it takes for the information to be distributed and understood). There's always the subtle hint/threat that if you are not allowed to use your CGM and monitor your lows that they will be liable if you suffer any health consequences (eg, you pass out and hit your head on a hard surface or suffer any other physical injury).
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y5jw3a
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i’m disabled and my work won’t give me reasonable accommodations i’m type 1 diabetic and my job i’ve worked at for a year makes it really hard for me. I have been reprimanded for “being on my phone” which is not my phone, it’s my insulin pump and if i’m on my phone it’s to check my cgm (which is my blood glucose meter that connects to my phone). i’ve been reprimanded for drinking juice which is what I need to do when my sugar is low. It’s getting exhausting trying to take care of my health here. I live in florida and from what I have seen they are required by law to allow me the accommodation of using my medical devices and treating my lows when I need to. what can I do besides find new employment (which i’m already looking for) I have explained to them on multiple about my illness and what I am doing but they seem to forget day to day and I am forced to repeat myself and re-advocate constantly.
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isk4y58
| 1,665,945,861 | 1,665,937,466 | 21 | 14 |
Get a letter from your doctor explaining in detail what you need to do to manage your diabetes, including what equipment you may need to look at and why you may need to eat and drink while working. Diabetes is covered under ADA; but most places don't know/don't care. It would worth - probably - your doctor mentioning that your condition is covered under ADA as well.
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Your HR department should either have or have access to the ADA accommodation request forms. You'll need your doctor to fill them out. I just went through a similar situation with my job and they worked with me to get me in a better place. I wish you the best...
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y5jw3a
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i’m disabled and my work won’t give me reasonable accommodations i’m type 1 diabetic and my job i’ve worked at for a year makes it really hard for me. I have been reprimanded for “being on my phone” which is not my phone, it’s my insulin pump and if i’m on my phone it’s to check my cgm (which is my blood glucose meter that connects to my phone). i’ve been reprimanded for drinking juice which is what I need to do when my sugar is low. It’s getting exhausting trying to take care of my health here. I live in florida and from what I have seen they are required by law to allow me the accommodation of using my medical devices and treating my lows when I need to. what can I do besides find new employment (which i’m already looking for) I have explained to them on multiple about my illness and what I am doing but they seem to forget day to day and I am forced to repeat myself and re-advocate constantly.
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iskqx3t
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iskgstf
| 1,665,945,861 | 1,665,942,048 | 21 | 7 |
Get a letter from your doctor explaining in detail what you need to do to manage your diabetes, including what equipment you may need to look at and why you may need to eat and drink while working. Diabetes is covered under ADA; but most places don't know/don't care. It would worth - probably - your doctor mentioning that your condition is covered under ADA as well.
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It sounds like you may be covered by state law but you are definitely covered by the American Disabilities Act when it comes to making accommodations that address your health needs. This can include providing a mini-fridge you access in the event you need to maintain insulin as part of your treatment. You may try filing a report with HR or ultimately the EEOC outlining the situation. The EEOC would work with your employer on settling the situation. It may be that the type of work you do cannot provide accommodations for a number of reasons and there are no other internal opportunities. If you are reprimanded for using your phone to verify your CGM and suffer consequences, keep track and document what is going on. If you are constantly getting "dinged" by a single person, report the situation to HR for them to handle. If you are being "dinged" by a pool of people, still work with HR to handle but appreciate that it may take a while for everyone to get on the same page as to what is going on (the wider the pool the more time it takes for the information to be distributed and understood). There's always the subtle hint/threat that if you are not allowed to use your CGM and monitor your lows that they will be liable if you suffer any health consequences (eg, you pass out and hit your head on a hard surface or suffer any other physical injury).
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i’m disabled and my work won’t give me reasonable accommodations i’m type 1 diabetic and my job i’ve worked at for a year makes it really hard for me. I have been reprimanded for “being on my phone” which is not my phone, it’s my insulin pump and if i’m on my phone it’s to check my cgm (which is my blood glucose meter that connects to my phone). i’ve been reprimanded for drinking juice which is what I need to do when my sugar is low. It’s getting exhausting trying to take care of my health here. I live in florida and from what I have seen they are required by law to allow me the accommodation of using my medical devices and treating my lows when I need to. what can I do besides find new employment (which i’m already looking for) I have explained to them on multiple about my illness and what I am doing but they seem to forget day to day and I am forced to repeat myself and re-advocate constantly.
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iskziyz
| 1,665,937,466 | 1,665,949,120 | 14 | 15 |
Your HR department should either have or have access to the ADA accommodation request forms. You'll need your doctor to fill them out. I just went through a similar situation with my job and they worked with me to get me in a better place. I wish you the best...
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If you’ve notified them of your disability, then they are “on notice” and must start the interactive process. The accommodations you request are reasonable in that they must not cause any undue hardship on the business (drinking juice and checking your phone, I believe, are reasonable). If they’re not willing to go through the interactive process, I would recommend contacting your local Protection and Advocacy firm for legal assistance (look up Disability Rights YOUR STATE HERE and you should be able to find it). They’ll help you understand how to make sure that any paperwork needed for an accommodation is filled out accurately and can also assist with filing a Charge of Discrimination with the EEOC if needed.
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y5jw3a
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i’m disabled and my work won’t give me reasonable accommodations i’m type 1 diabetic and my job i’ve worked at for a year makes it really hard for me. I have been reprimanded for “being on my phone” which is not my phone, it’s my insulin pump and if i’m on my phone it’s to check my cgm (which is my blood glucose meter that connects to my phone). i’ve been reprimanded for drinking juice which is what I need to do when my sugar is low. It’s getting exhausting trying to take care of my health here. I live in florida and from what I have seen they are required by law to allow me the accommodation of using my medical devices and treating my lows when I need to. what can I do besides find new employment (which i’m already looking for) I have explained to them on multiple about my illness and what I am doing but they seem to forget day to day and I am forced to repeat myself and re-advocate constantly.
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iskgstf
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iskziyz
| 1,665,942,048 | 1,665,949,120 | 7 | 15 |
It sounds like you may be covered by state law but you are definitely covered by the American Disabilities Act when it comes to making accommodations that address your health needs. This can include providing a mini-fridge you access in the event you need to maintain insulin as part of your treatment. You may try filing a report with HR or ultimately the EEOC outlining the situation. The EEOC would work with your employer on settling the situation. It may be that the type of work you do cannot provide accommodations for a number of reasons and there are no other internal opportunities. If you are reprimanded for using your phone to verify your CGM and suffer consequences, keep track and document what is going on. If you are constantly getting "dinged" by a single person, report the situation to HR for them to handle. If you are being "dinged" by a pool of people, still work with HR to handle but appreciate that it may take a while for everyone to get on the same page as to what is going on (the wider the pool the more time it takes for the information to be distributed and understood). There's always the subtle hint/threat that if you are not allowed to use your CGM and monitor your lows that they will be liable if you suffer any health consequences (eg, you pass out and hit your head on a hard surface or suffer any other physical injury).
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If you’ve notified them of your disability, then they are “on notice” and must start the interactive process. The accommodations you request are reasonable in that they must not cause any undue hardship on the business (drinking juice and checking your phone, I believe, are reasonable). If they’re not willing to go through the interactive process, I would recommend contacting your local Protection and Advocacy firm for legal assistance (look up Disability Rights YOUR STATE HERE and you should be able to find it). They’ll help you understand how to make sure that any paperwork needed for an accommodation is filled out accurately and can also assist with filing a Charge of Discrimination with the EEOC if needed.
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y5jw3a
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i’m disabled and my work won’t give me reasonable accommodations i’m type 1 diabetic and my job i’ve worked at for a year makes it really hard for me. I have been reprimanded for “being on my phone” which is not my phone, it’s my insulin pump and if i’m on my phone it’s to check my cgm (which is my blood glucose meter that connects to my phone). i’ve been reprimanded for drinking juice which is what I need to do when my sugar is low. It’s getting exhausting trying to take care of my health here. I live in florida and from what I have seen they are required by law to allow me the accommodation of using my medical devices and treating my lows when I need to. what can I do besides find new employment (which i’m already looking for) I have explained to them on multiple about my illness and what I am doing but they seem to forget day to day and I am forced to repeat myself and re-advocate constantly.
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iskgstf
| 1,665,950,726 | 1,665,942,048 | 11 | 7 |
From what I have read, these accomodations are reasonable. You aren't on your phone. Your using a pump meter that resembles a phone and drinking fruit juice. Niether of these pose safety issues or privacy issues nor do they pose undue hardship on the company. These are the parameters that define unreasonable. Without these, they are reasonable. The company does not get discretion. No HR department? What about corporate? Contact someone higher up and tell them you wish to request reasonable accommodations for a disability, and ask what the procedure is. If they do not cooperate or give you the run around, inform them that you will contact the EEOC and possibly an ADA attorney.
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It sounds like you may be covered by state law but you are definitely covered by the American Disabilities Act when it comes to making accommodations that address your health needs. This can include providing a mini-fridge you access in the event you need to maintain insulin as part of your treatment. You may try filing a report with HR or ultimately the EEOC outlining the situation. The EEOC would work with your employer on settling the situation. It may be that the type of work you do cannot provide accommodations for a number of reasons and there are no other internal opportunities. If you are reprimanded for using your phone to verify your CGM and suffer consequences, keep track and document what is going on. If you are constantly getting "dinged" by a single person, report the situation to HR for them to handle. If you are being "dinged" by a pool of people, still work with HR to handle but appreciate that it may take a while for everyone to get on the same page as to what is going on (the wider the pool the more time it takes for the information to be distributed and understood). There's always the subtle hint/threat that if you are not allowed to use your CGM and monitor your lows that they will be liable if you suffer any health consequences (eg, you pass out and hit your head on a hard surface or suffer any other physical injury).
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My estranged police officer parent is stalking me. How can I hide my next home address? I believe that they have used department resources to find my new address and I’m not sure what i can do to stop that from happening again. They have threatened to come to my house if I don’t communicate with them, but I’ve blocked them on everything. Please help me, I live in Texas.
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j26nee4
| 1,672,362,736 | 1,672,362,376 | 18 | 9 |
Using police resources for a personal search is likely a violation of internal policy, and the system likely logs when and by who that information is accessed for audit purposes. You should consult with a lawyer who works in police misconduct or civil rights; they'll be able to help you navigate the system. Edit: fixed a typo
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Do you have them threatening to come to your house if you don’t communicate with them in texts or voicemails ?? If so , & even if you don’t contact the IAB department for whichever department the parent works for…IAB is completely separate from the other cops and is who you file a report with against cops doing dirty things
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My estranged police officer parent is stalking me. How can I hide my next home address? I believe that they have used department resources to find my new address and I’m not sure what i can do to stop that from happening again. They have threatened to come to my house if I don’t communicate with them, but I’ve blocked them on everything. Please help me, I live in Texas.
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j26o809
| 1,672,358,983 | 1,672,362,736 | 5 | 18 |
Restraining order?
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Using police resources for a personal search is likely a violation of internal policy, and the system likely logs when and by who that information is accessed for audit purposes. You should consult with a lawyer who works in police misconduct or civil rights; they'll be able to help you navigate the system. Edit: fixed a typo
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zyjwh0
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legaladvice_train
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My estranged police officer parent is stalking me. How can I hide my next home address? I believe that they have used department resources to find my new address and I’m not sure what i can do to stop that from happening again. They have threatened to come to my house if I don’t communicate with them, but I’ve blocked them on everything. Please help me, I live in Texas.
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j26fifh
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j26nee4
| 1,672,358,983 | 1,672,362,376 | 5 | 9 |
Restraining order?
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Do you have them threatening to come to your house if you don’t communicate with them in texts or voicemails ?? If so , & even if you don’t contact the IAB department for whichever department the parent works for…IAB is completely separate from the other cops and is who you file a report with against cops doing dirty things
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I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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If it was clear I’ll take debt out in exchange as you described she’s wrong. A tip is over and beyond payment owed. Many people threaten to sue without knowing the law or actually will. Just keep reminding her she got a $400 hair treatment. Granted I’m not a hairstylist and $400 for a color even if brown hair seems excessive. A student rate for this sounds off.
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Lots of people threaten to sue. Few actually do. Your friend is not a friend and has already been repaid. Tell them to get bent. In the extremely unlikely case that you are actually sued/served be sure and respond within the time limits and show up for court to argue your case and make sure your trainer who was present for the negotiations and who provided the service is there to provide testimony to the court.
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I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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iumf9cx
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ium7x80
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To be clear, if she were to take it to court, it would be a civil lawsuit - not a criminal case. You mentioned not having anything on your record, so I wanted to make sure you know there is a difference.
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So you paid 370 from your paycheck for her hair correct? Just get a record of that from your trainer, receipt or something like that and then send a copy to your friend stating you have already satisfied your debt to her by paying for her hair services; if she’s unhappy with the services provided she can take it up with your trainer but you’ve already fulfilled your obligation to her. Keep all texts, screenshots, receipts etc. and if she wants to go to court countersue for your expense of wasting your time (time taken off work, gas, court or legal fees etc. keep receipts of this all as well.) Also from now on only speak w her through text or email so you have a record of all her responses.
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yj6833
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legaladvice_train
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I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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ium34td
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iumf9cx
| 1,667,302,799 | 1,667,309,297 | 55 | 750 |
If it was clear I’ll take debt out in exchange as you described she’s wrong. A tip is over and beyond payment owed. Many people threaten to sue without knowing the law or actually will. Just keep reminding her she got a $400 hair treatment. Granted I’m not a hairstylist and $400 for a color even if brown hair seems excessive. A student rate for this sounds off.
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To be clear, if she were to take it to court, it would be a civil lawsuit - not a criminal case. You mentioned not having anything on your record, so I wanted to make sure you know there is a difference.
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yj6833
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legaladvice_train
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I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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ium7x80
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iumfao2
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So you paid 370 from your paycheck for her hair correct? Just get a record of that from your trainer, receipt or something like that and then send a copy to your friend stating you have already satisfied your debt to her by paying for her hair services; if she’s unhappy with the services provided she can take it up with your trainer but you’ve already fulfilled your obligation to her. Keep all texts, screenshots, receipts etc. and if she wants to go to court countersue for your expense of wasting your time (time taken off work, gas, court or legal fees etc. keep receipts of this all as well.) Also from now on only speak w her through text or email so you have a record of all her responses.
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You have a witness. She agreed to write the debt off indirectly. You paid for the service offered to her. Again, she agreed. Don't pay anything. She is just trying to scam you.
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yj6833
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legaladvice_train
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I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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ium34td
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iumfao2
| 1,667,302,799 | 1,667,309,313 | 55 | 567 |
If it was clear I’ll take debt out in exchange as you described she’s wrong. A tip is over and beyond payment owed. Many people threaten to sue without knowing the law or actually will. Just keep reminding her she got a $400 hair treatment. Granted I’m not a hairstylist and $400 for a color even if brown hair seems excessive. A student rate for this sounds off.
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You have a witness. She agreed to write the debt off indirectly. You paid for the service offered to her. Again, she agreed. Don't pay anything. She is just trying to scam you.
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yj6833
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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ium7x80
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ium34td
| 1,667,305,615 | 1,667,302,799 | 278 | 55 |
So you paid 370 from your paycheck for her hair correct? Just get a record of that from your trainer, receipt or something like that and then send a copy to your friend stating you have already satisfied your debt to her by paying for her hair services; if she’s unhappy with the services provided she can take it up with your trainer but you’ve already fulfilled your obligation to her. Keep all texts, screenshots, receipts etc. and if she wants to go to court countersue for your expense of wasting your time (time taken off work, gas, court or legal fees etc. keep receipts of this all as well.) Also from now on only speak w her through text or email so you have a record of all her responses.
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If it was clear I’ll take debt out in exchange as you described she’s wrong. A tip is over and beyond payment owed. Many people threaten to sue without knowing the law or actually will. Just keep reminding her she got a $400 hair treatment. Granted I’m not a hairstylist and $400 for a color even if brown hair seems excessive. A student rate for this sounds off.
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yj6833
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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iumn9y4
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iumh3st
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pretty sure that you have more of a case than she does. I'm assuming there is no written contract. However , you have a witness that can state that she agreed that by you paying for her hair, you were paying her back. Easy win for you
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Did you actually say "since I owe you $370, I will pay that towards your hair and we're even"? It's not clear from your post. The "discount" you offered being the same exact amount of the debt is an unlikely coincidence and would definitely have made ME think that was the case, but perhaps your friend didn't think about it. That said, she can sue you but that doesn't mean she will win. IF she sues you, you must respond and go to court or she will win by default. If/when you go to court, ask your trainer to be a witness for you and explain the situation. I think a reasonable person would see the connection and you'd have a decent chance of winning the suit.
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yj6833
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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iumn9y4
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ium34td
| 1,667,312,805 | 1,667,302,799 | 212 | 55 |
pretty sure that you have more of a case than she does. I'm assuming there is no written contract. However , you have a witness that can state that she agreed that by you paying for her hair, you were paying her back. Easy win for you
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If it was clear I’ll take debt out in exchange as you described she’s wrong. A tip is over and beyond payment owed. Many people threaten to sue without knowing the law or actually will. Just keep reminding her she got a $400 hair treatment. Granted I’m not a hairstylist and $400 for a color even if brown hair seems excessive. A student rate for this sounds off.
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yj6833
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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iumh3st
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ium34td
| 1,667,310,142 | 1,667,302,799 | 121 | 55 |
Did you actually say "since I owe you $370, I will pay that towards your hair and we're even"? It's not clear from your post. The "discount" you offered being the same exact amount of the debt is an unlikely coincidence and would definitely have made ME think that was the case, but perhaps your friend didn't think about it. That said, she can sue you but that doesn't mean she will win. IF she sues you, you must respond and go to court or she will win by default. If/when you go to court, ask your trainer to be a witness for you and explain the situation. I think a reasonable person would see the connection and you'd have a decent chance of winning the suit.
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If it was clear I’ll take debt out in exchange as you described she’s wrong. A tip is over and beyond payment owed. Many people threaten to sue without knowing the law or actually will. Just keep reminding her she got a $400 hair treatment. Granted I’m not a hairstylist and $400 for a color even if brown hair seems excessive. A student rate for this sounds off.
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yj6833
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
I borrowed money from a friend and she expects me that pay her back. But she got a service from me that costs more. So I live in Indiana, I borrowed money from a friend for a bill I was back due on. She venmo’d me about $370 which is exactly what I needed. I paid off my bill and told her that I will be paying her back in 2 weeks once I get my paycheck. I’m currently in college so money is very tight. She was ok with this arrangement. Well fast forward 3 days; I am a hairstylist (student but in hands on training) so I do hair but I charge less at the salon where I work, due to me being a student. She came in and wanted to go platinum (she had brown hair) she also wanted a style and a trim as well as a deep Condition. Before I started my friends hair service, I did speak with my trainer and was advised to quote her $400, so I did. I told her that the cost of service is $400, But I can have them take $370 off my paycheck and she can just pay the $30 today. she responded by saying “Oh my god thank you so much” My trainer ended up doing the service, she loved her hair, I paid $370 for her hair to basically pay her back, she only paid 30 for her hair. End of story right? Nope. I got a text from her at the two week mark she asked me where her money was. I said I thought we already took care of it as I covered the cost of her hair. She told me that she was under the impression that I did it as a favor because I work there. She also told me that her hair was free practice because I am a student (all I did was the trim and styled not the actually bleach). I made things very clear to her there and my trainer heard it all and even said it was smart and easy. She said she never would have agreed to pay $400 on her hair. When I brought up the $30 she had to pay for her part, she said it was just a generous tip. She’s threatening to take me to court if I don’t pay up $370. I don’t have a record at all but I am worried I don’t wanna lose anything. I don’t have much but I’m building for a better life. My family immigrated here from Asia and we’re not doing too good. (explains my English grammar btw haha sorry) Anyways; any advice? Should I just pay her the $370 and call It a day? Or should I let her take me to court.
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iumzhm1
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ium34td
| 1,667,317,801 | 1,667,302,799 | 112 | 55 |
I am not a lawyer If she were to sue you, it would be in Small Claims Court. You don't need a lawyer in small claims court and your trainer can go with you as a witness. You can say what happened, your trainer can say what she knows happened and the person suing you can also say what happened. You can also bring any evidence you have such as proof the money was taken from your paycheck and proof of the date she had the service. In small claims court, the judge decides by listening to everyone, looking at all the evidence and then deciding who has the most proof of what they say happened. You have a witness and can probably get proof of how much was taken out of your paycheck. The person suing you only has her word.
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If it was clear I’ll take debt out in exchange as you described she’s wrong. A tip is over and beyond payment owed. Many people threaten to sue without knowing the law or actually will. Just keep reminding her she got a $400 hair treatment. Granted I’m not a hairstylist and $400 for a color even if brown hair seems excessive. A student rate for this sounds off.
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z544rf
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legaladvice_train
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I applied for a job, interviewed and got ghosted for 2 months after which I received an email from them of my start date but I already started another job so I ghosted them but got paid by them. As the title said, I applied to a airline company and interviewed with them. I didn't hear anything from them for about a month and I called to find out if I was hired or not. They said I was not selected, So I found a new job and started working and after a month of starting my new job, I get an email from them saying that I was hired and gave me the start date. ___________ I was annoyed by this, So I decided to ghost them and continue to work my current job. Some time later I received a check from the airline company for working. I received around two months of pay before the money stopped coming. _________ I'm sure they realised that they were paying for someone that didn't work for them but I'm afraid of any legal action they might take. What should I do?
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ixuda83
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ixugb6i
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Just curious. How did you receive a check to your bank account / address? Payment information is typically given to a company during the employment process, not the interview process.
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How did you receive a check from a company without actually being employed? This sounds like a scam.
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z544rf
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legaladvice_train
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I applied for a job, interviewed and got ghosted for 2 months after which I received an email from them of my start date but I already started another job so I ghosted them but got paid by them. As the title said, I applied to a airline company and interviewed with them. I didn't hear anything from them for about a month and I called to find out if I was hired or not. They said I was not selected, So I found a new job and started working and after a month of starting my new job, I get an email from them saying that I was hired and gave me the start date. ___________ I was annoyed by this, So I decided to ghost them and continue to work my current job. Some time later I received a check from the airline company for working. I received around two months of pay before the money stopped coming. _________ I'm sure they realised that they were paying for someone that didn't work for them but I'm afraid of any legal action they might take. What should I do?
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ixugb6i
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ixu2ioo
| 1,669,468,871 | 1,669,457,890 | 144 | 41 |
How did you receive a check from a company without actually being employed? This sounds like a scam.
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You’re liable for the amount. Contact them about returning it You want it done before the end of the year (tax year specifically) to make your own life easier going forward
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I applied for a job, interviewed and got ghosted for 2 months after which I received an email from them of my start date but I already started another job so I ghosted them but got paid by them. As the title said, I applied to a airline company and interviewed with them. I didn't hear anything from them for about a month and I called to find out if I was hired or not. They said I was not selected, So I found a new job and started working and after a month of starting my new job, I get an email from them saying that I was hired and gave me the start date. ___________ I was annoyed by this, So I decided to ghost them and continue to work my current job. Some time later I received a check from the airline company for working. I received around two months of pay before the money stopped coming. _________ I'm sure they realised that they were paying for someone that didn't work for them but I'm afraid of any legal action they might take. What should I do?
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Just curious. How did you receive a check to your bank account / address? Payment information is typically given to a company during the employment process, not the interview process.
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You’re liable for the amount. Contact them about returning it You want it done before the end of the year (tax year specifically) to make your own life easier going forward
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I applied for a job, interviewed and got ghosted for 2 months after which I received an email from them of my start date but I already started another job so I ghosted them but got paid by them. As the title said, I applied to a airline company and interviewed with them. I didn't hear anything from them for about a month and I called to find out if I was hired or not. They said I was not selected, So I found a new job and started working and after a month of starting my new job, I get an email from them saying that I was hired and gave me the start date. ___________ I was annoyed by this, So I decided to ghost them and continue to work my current job. Some time later I received a check from the airline company for working. I received around two months of pay before the money stopped coming. _________ I'm sure they realised that they were paying for someone that didn't work for them but I'm afraid of any legal action they might take. What should I do?
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| 1,669,487,491 | 1,669,504,163 | 8 | 14 |
I thought this was an interesting post and I agree with the person above that said “you can’t be paid without being in the system” It doesn’t make sense, airlines must be advanced with payroll by now in the 21st century right? I think there must be more to this story that OP forgot or has not mentioned from the day he went for the interview. I only say this because I went to an Amazon interview one time and they told a group of us about the job then said whoever wanted the job to stay so they could set up paperwork (which they did the same day as the interview with the whole group) but if that is not the case I have a question: Can OP counter sue Payroll/HR for the mess up?
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Why would you cash a check from a place you don't work at?
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I applied for a job, interviewed and got ghosted for 2 months after which I received an email from them of my start date but I already started another job so I ghosted them but got paid by them. As the title said, I applied to a airline company and interviewed with them. I didn't hear anything from them for about a month and I called to find out if I was hired or not. They said I was not selected, So I found a new job and started working and after a month of starting my new job, I get an email from them saying that I was hired and gave me the start date. ___________ I was annoyed by this, So I decided to ghost them and continue to work my current job. Some time later I received a check from the airline company for working. I received around two months of pay before the money stopped coming. _________ I'm sure they realised that they were paying for someone that didn't work for them but I'm afraid of any legal action they might take. What should I do?
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| 1,669,504,163 | 1,669,494,836 | 14 | 7 |
Why would you cash a check from a place you don't work at?
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Since you deposited the check, don't spend the money. You're most likely will have to pay it back. It was never your money.
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I applied for a job, interviewed and got ghosted for 2 months after which I received an email from them of my start date but I already started another job so I ghosted them but got paid by them. As the title said, I applied to a airline company and interviewed with them. I didn't hear anything from them for about a month and I called to find out if I was hired or not. They said I was not selected, So I found a new job and started working and after a month of starting my new job, I get an email from them saying that I was hired and gave me the start date. ___________ I was annoyed by this, So I decided to ghost them and continue to work my current job. Some time later I received a check from the airline company for working. I received around two months of pay before the money stopped coming. _________ I'm sure they realised that they were paying for someone that didn't work for them but I'm afraid of any legal action they might take. What should I do?
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| 1,669,483,830 | 1,669,504,163 | 2 | 14 |
This exact situation happened to me. Got hired at a company that staffs airlines, they ghosted me for over six weeks. Went to the office but the refused to let me speak to anyone. No answering emails. Finally found an email address online that I thought was my hiring manager, turned out to be the GM. He referred the email to the correct people, they responded, then ghosted for another two weeks. Got the be here at this time to start training. I'd already found another job.
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Why would you cash a check from a place you don't work at?
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I applied for a job, interviewed and got ghosted for 2 months after which I received an email from them of my start date but I already started another job so I ghosted them but got paid by them. As the title said, I applied to a airline company and interviewed with them. I didn't hear anything from them for about a month and I called to find out if I was hired or not. They said I was not selected, So I found a new job and started working and after a month of starting my new job, I get an email from them saying that I was hired and gave me the start date. ___________ I was annoyed by this, So I decided to ghost them and continue to work my current job. Some time later I received a check from the airline company for working. I received around two months of pay before the money stopped coming. _________ I'm sure they realised that they were paying for someone that didn't work for them but I'm afraid of any legal action they might take. What should I do?
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ixvj7vp
| 1,669,483,830 | 1,669,487,491 | 2 | 8 |
This exact situation happened to me. Got hired at a company that staffs airlines, they ghosted me for over six weeks. Went to the office but the refused to let me speak to anyone. No answering emails. Finally found an email address online that I thought was my hiring manager, turned out to be the GM. He referred the email to the correct people, they responded, then ghosted for another two weeks. Got the be here at this time to start training. I'd already found another job.
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I thought this was an interesting post and I agree with the person above that said “you can’t be paid without being in the system” It doesn’t make sense, airlines must be advanced with payroll by now in the 21st century right? I think there must be more to this story that OP forgot or has not mentioned from the day he went for the interview. I only say this because I went to an Amazon interview one time and they told a group of us about the job then said whoever wanted the job to stay so they could set up paperwork (which they did the same day as the interview with the whole group) but if that is not the case I have a question: Can OP counter sue Payroll/HR for the mess up?
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I applied for a job, interviewed and got ghosted for 2 months after which I received an email from them of my start date but I already started another job so I ghosted them but got paid by them. As the title said, I applied to a airline company and interviewed with them. I didn't hear anything from them for about a month and I called to find out if I was hired or not. They said I was not selected, So I found a new job and started working and after a month of starting my new job, I get an email from them saying that I was hired and gave me the start date. ___________ I was annoyed by this, So I decided to ghost them and continue to work my current job. Some time later I received a check from the airline company for working. I received around two months of pay before the money stopped coming. _________ I'm sure they realised that they were paying for someone that didn't work for them but I'm afraid of any legal action they might take. What should I do?
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| 1,669,483,830 | 1,669,494,836 | 2 | 7 |
This exact situation happened to me. Got hired at a company that staffs airlines, they ghosted me for over six weeks. Went to the office but the refused to let me speak to anyone. No answering emails. Finally found an email address online that I thought was my hiring manager, turned out to be the GM. He referred the email to the correct people, they responded, then ghosted for another two weeks. Got the be here at this time to start training. I'd already found another job.
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Since you deposited the check, don't spend the money. You're most likely will have to pay it back. It was never your money.
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A girl I knew from high school is accusing me of sexual assault. What's my next move? I received a message on Facebook from a girl I once knew in high school, which I attended over 20 years ago. This girl has accused me of sexual harassment and assault, and she states she is planning to file charges against me. I swear, I never touched her inappropriately. She has also published an article online with her experiences in being assaulted, and named me. It seems she lives in Washington while I am in Pennsylvania so I'm not sure which laws apply. Do I hire a lawyer? Is that necessary? Can I be arrested and convicted for something that happened decades ago? Is there any way I can prevent her from further smearing me on the internet? This situation is putting a strain on my marriage and my family life.
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dp7c02d
| 1,509,570,849 | 1,509,564,220 | 484 | 166 |
This is a specific enough slander/libel case that you really should talk to a lawyer. Your case most likely falls under Washington State's defamation per se statutes, meaning that you don't have to prove damages, the accusations are so damaging that the state automatically assumes you have damages. Nobody here can say you have or don't have a case. Personally, I definitely think its worth talking to a lawyer, maybe not to go through full litigation but you could hire them to send a cease and desist letter.
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You don't say a word to her and talk to attorneys about libel and get the ball rolling. Make sure the attorney sends the woman cease and desist letters and start the legal process. Make this false accuser know that you won't stand for it. Make sure you defend yourself since these types of claims tend to be followed up with blackmail money, I'm not implying your guilty but some people find it easier to just give these extortionist the money they want instead of going through court proceedings.
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A girl I knew from high school is accusing me of sexual assault. What's my next move? I received a message on Facebook from a girl I once knew in high school, which I attended over 20 years ago. This girl has accused me of sexual harassment and assault, and she states she is planning to file charges against me. I swear, I never touched her inappropriately. She has also published an article online with her experiences in being assaulted, and named me. It seems she lives in Washington while I am in Pennsylvania so I'm not sure which laws apply. Do I hire a lawyer? Is that necessary? Can I be arrested and convicted for something that happened decades ago? Is there any way I can prevent her from further smearing me on the internet? This situation is putting a strain on my marriage and my family life.
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dp7banq
| 1,509,570,849 | 1,509,563,505 | 484 | 67 |
This is a specific enough slander/libel case that you really should talk to a lawyer. Your case most likely falls under Washington State's defamation per se statutes, meaning that you don't have to prove damages, the accusations are so damaging that the state automatically assumes you have damages. Nobody here can say you have or don't have a case. Personally, I definitely think its worth talking to a lawyer, maybe not to go through full litigation but you could hire them to send a cease and desist letter.
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I don't know what the statue of limitations is for sexual assault, but I will venture that it is VERY unlikely you'd get arrested or face criminal proceedings. If she didn't pursue anything at the time (which, if you did nothing, as you say, she couldn't have), it'd be her word against yours. She could try to sue in some sort of civil case, but again, if she has no evidence other than "you knew each other" in high school and you refute everything she says, you should come out okay. I wouldn't worry about it till you actually get served something.
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A girl I knew from high school is accusing me of sexual assault. What's my next move? I received a message on Facebook from a girl I once knew in high school, which I attended over 20 years ago. This girl has accused me of sexual harassment and assault, and she states she is planning to file charges against me. I swear, I never touched her inappropriately. She has also published an article online with her experiences in being assaulted, and named me. It seems she lives in Washington while I am in Pennsylvania so I'm not sure which laws apply. Do I hire a lawyer? Is that necessary? Can I be arrested and convicted for something that happened decades ago? Is there any way I can prevent her from further smearing me on the internet? This situation is putting a strain on my marriage and my family life.
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dp7banq
| 1,509,564,220 | 1,509,563,505 | 166 | 67 |
You don't say a word to her and talk to attorneys about libel and get the ball rolling. Make sure the attorney sends the woman cease and desist letters and start the legal process. Make this false accuser know that you won't stand for it. Make sure you defend yourself since these types of claims tend to be followed up with blackmail money, I'm not implying your guilty but some people find it easier to just give these extortionist the money they want instead of going through court proceedings.
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I don't know what the statue of limitations is for sexual assault, but I will venture that it is VERY unlikely you'd get arrested or face criminal proceedings. If she didn't pursue anything at the time (which, if you did nothing, as you say, she couldn't have), it'd be her word against yours. She could try to sue in some sort of civil case, but again, if she has no evidence other than "you knew each other" in high school and you refute everything she says, you should come out okay. I wouldn't worry about it till you actually get served something.
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A girl I knew from high school is accusing me of sexual assault. What's my next move? I received a message on Facebook from a girl I once knew in high school, which I attended over 20 years ago. This girl has accused me of sexual harassment and assault, and she states she is planning to file charges against me. I swear, I never touched her inappropriately. She has also published an article online with her experiences in being assaulted, and named me. It seems she lives in Washington while I am in Pennsylvania so I'm not sure which laws apply. Do I hire a lawyer? Is that necessary? Can I be arrested and convicted for something that happened decades ago? Is there any way I can prevent her from further smearing me on the internet? This situation is putting a strain on my marriage and my family life.
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dp7banq
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Keep your mouth shut. Do not respond to her, do not try to defend yourself, do not even acknowledge that you have read her messages. Just keep quiet. Then see a lawyer.
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I don't know what the statue of limitations is for sexual assault, but I will venture that it is VERY unlikely you'd get arrested or face criminal proceedings. If she didn't pursue anything at the time (which, if you did nothing, as you say, she couldn't have), it'd be her word against yours. She could try to sue in some sort of civil case, but again, if she has no evidence other than "you knew each other" in high school and you refute everything she says, you should come out okay. I wouldn't worry about it till you actually get served something.
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A girl I knew from high school is accusing me of sexual assault. What's my next move? I received a message on Facebook from a girl I once knew in high school, which I attended over 20 years ago. This girl has accused me of sexual harassment and assault, and she states she is planning to file charges against me. I swear, I never touched her inappropriately. She has also published an article online with her experiences in being assaulted, and named me. It seems she lives in Washington while I am in Pennsylvania so I'm not sure which laws apply. Do I hire a lawyer? Is that necessary? Can I be arrested and convicted for something that happened decades ago? Is there any way I can prevent her from further smearing me on the internet? This situation is putting a strain on my marriage and my family life.
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| 1,509,624,778 | 1,509,580,022 | 29 | 21 |
First of all, take screen shots of *everything* the messages she sent you, as well as the blog post. You've got a case for defamation/slander. But don't contact her at all. Don't talk about it, everything you say *will* be used against you if she takes this seriously. The laws that apply depend on whatever state she claims the assault happened in. So if the alleged assault happened in PA, then PA law would apply in regards to the assault only. The defamation is a different story, I believe it'd be WA but I'm not sure. What exactly is she accusing you of? Chances are the statutes of limitations has expired, but that doesn't mean you should take this any less seriously. You could lose your family, your job, and your friends over this type of accusation. Hire an attorney to prove your innocence and sue her for slander. Women that make false sexual assault accusations need to be punished to the full extent of the law.
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Save a copy of that online article + the URL.
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[CO] Can I receive some kind of default divorce settlement if my ex jumped bail and is on the run from the criminal case for trying to kill me? I will try to explain the circumstances surrounding this in a nutshell: Partner attempted to kill me in August 2020. He was arrested and an automatic protection order put in place. In June 2021, I filed for divorce. I spent a lot more money than necessary because he did everything he could to draw things out, including refuse to submit his sworn financial statement. What he finally submitted was incomplete, and the rest of it was all lies about his finances. After waiting two years to finally get him into divorce court so I could get what he owes me, he pulled a fast one by arriving 45 minutes late for the divorce and announcing he'd just declared bankruptcy at another court. With everything in the divorce case now shut down, I retained a bankruptcy lawyer and listed myself as one of his creditors. The judge dismissed his bankruptcy and my being a creditor, at which point my ex withdrew his bankruptcy case, stating that he only did it to prevent me from getting his money. In the meantime, the date of his criminal case for attempted murder arrived, and on the morning of jury selection, he cut his GPS bracelet and fled. He's been on the run for a month now and no one has any idea where he could be. My question is: is it possible to receive a divorce settlement from the judge by some sort of default? I seriously doubt I'll ever see a dime from him, but I would like to be divorced and free. If possible, just having it on paper that he owes me thousands would be the least I could get as a consolation prize. He has all kinds of investments, a new vehicle that he paid cash for, stocks, retirement, etc. Can any of that be taken and sold for what he owes me? I'm so worn out from battling him. I just want to be done for good and eventually hope that he will be captured and locked away so that I can get on with my life. Thanks in advance for your advice.
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> He has all kinds of investments, a new vehicle that he paid cash for, stocks, retirement, etc. Can any of that be taken and sold for what he owes me? Do you have a lawyer working the divorce case? If not, you need one: they will be able to help with this. Talk to multiple family law attorneys until you find one willing to work with you on a payment plan, if necessary. There are ways to seize funds or assets in a contentious divorce, but for the stress alone you don't want to do this yourself.
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Absolutely. I'm assuming there's a future date set for the divorce case now that the bankruptcy hold has been lifted; when that date comes and he fails to show you can ask for a default and the court will rule. He wouldn't be the first person to try to dodge a divorce proceeding, and he'll be far from the last.
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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>My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned This is not true, if the car would be an obstruction if a fire truck came down the road it can be towed. The same way you can be towed in a fire lane with no active fire.
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You need to comply with the rules. If you think it complies and they think it doesn't you can "fight" that (or more reasonably, *discuss* that) and see if you can come to consensus. If your BFs suggestion amounts to ignore them, I wouldn't do that. >Because literally where am I supposed to park?? That's not their problem. Comply with the rules. If you're complying with the rules work that out with them.
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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| 1,670,866,881 | 1,670,870,926 | 150 | 302 |
Read the bylaws of the HOA. They have likely have jurisdiction with a private street. If the street is public, you might be in the clear. They cant do what’s not in the bylaws. If it is in the bylaw, you will have to verify if the street is public or private. However, if it is a private street, it sounds like you have a 4 car driveway and have 5 cars. How many cars should the HOA permit? At what point should it be the responsibility of the home owner to get a house with a bigger driveway if the home owners want to have more cars? The most natural solution is to recommend that the boyfriend sells one of his two vehicles or lets you use one. Many condos and town houses have a limit of how many vehicles a residence can have, it seems like your residence might be limited to driveway space. Consider yourself lucky to some degree, I’ve been in Georgia HOA neighborhoods where all vehicles were suppose to be parked in their garages.
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> Because literally where am I supposed to park?? Your boyfriend can get rid of a car, he can ask neighbors if he can use (or rent) a spot in their driveway. If your boyfriend is unwilling to find a place for you to legally park you may want to consider whether this is a wise relationship to remain in. Picking a fight with the HOA is gonna be a losing battle. Odds are fairly good they have covered themselves with the HOA agreement/rules. Tenants not allowed to use guest parking and/or no overnight parking not being allowed are common rules. No street parking at all is another possibility though less common. You would need to read the rules to know the exact restrictions in place and if applicable what they consider a guest (usually some limit on number of days they can be there per month).
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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> Because literally where am I supposed to park?? Your boyfriend can get rid of a car, he can ask neighbors if he can use (or rent) a spot in their driveway. If your boyfriend is unwilling to find a place for you to legally park you may want to consider whether this is a wise relationship to remain in. Picking a fight with the HOA is gonna be a losing battle. Odds are fairly good they have covered themselves with the HOA agreement/rules. Tenants not allowed to use guest parking and/or no overnight parking not being allowed are common rules. No street parking at all is another possibility though less common. You would need to read the rules to know the exact restrictions in place and if applicable what they consider a guest (usually some limit on number of days they can be there per month).
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You need to comply with the rules. If you think it complies and they think it doesn't you can "fight" that (or more reasonably, *discuss* that) and see if you can come to consensus. If your BFs suggestion amounts to ignore them, I wouldn't do that. >Because literally where am I supposed to park?? That's not their problem. Comply with the rules. If you're complying with the rules work that out with them.
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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> Because literally where am I supposed to park?? Your boyfriend can get rid of a car, he can ask neighbors if he can use (or rent) a spot in their driveway. If your boyfriend is unwilling to find a place for you to legally park you may want to consider whether this is a wise relationship to remain in. Picking a fight with the HOA is gonna be a losing battle. Odds are fairly good they have covered themselves with the HOA agreement/rules. Tenants not allowed to use guest parking and/or no overnight parking not being allowed are common rules. No street parking at all is another possibility though less common. You would need to read the rules to know the exact restrictions in place and if applicable what they consider a guest (usually some limit on number of days they can be there per month).
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You should review the HOA bylaws about parking. If the HOA has jurisdiction over the block, then you are likely correct in believing you should comply. I would likely comply with their request but look to see what can be done so you can park all your cars safely. Each HOA should have a policy for how to handle extra cars and where to park. Some HOAs have a safe list policy, some require extra cars to be parked outside the gates, etc.
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izxvwaz
| 1,670,863,495 | 1,670,866,881 | 114 | 150 |
You need to comply with the rules. If you think it complies and they think it doesn't you can "fight" that (or more reasonably, *discuss* that) and see if you can come to consensus. If your BFs suggestion amounts to ignore them, I wouldn't do that. >Because literally where am I supposed to park?? That's not their problem. Comply with the rules. If you're complying with the rules work that out with them.
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Read the bylaws of the HOA. They have likely have jurisdiction with a private street. If the street is public, you might be in the clear. They cant do what’s not in the bylaws. If it is in the bylaw, you will have to verify if the street is public or private. However, if it is a private street, it sounds like you have a 4 car driveway and have 5 cars. How many cars should the HOA permit? At what point should it be the responsibility of the home owner to get a house with a bigger driveway if the home owners want to have more cars? The most natural solution is to recommend that the boyfriend sells one of his two vehicles or lets you use one. Many condos and town houses have a limit of how many vehicles a residence can have, it seems like your residence might be limited to driveway space. Consider yourself lucky to some degree, I’ve been in Georgia HOA neighborhoods where all vehicles were suppose to be parked in their garages.
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izy558j
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izylofx
| 1,670,870,374 | 1,670,876,662 | 10 | 56 |
You should review the HOA bylaws about parking. If the HOA has jurisdiction over the block, then you are likely correct in believing you should comply. I would likely comply with their request but look to see what can be done so you can park all your cars safely. Each HOA should have a policy for how to handle extra cars and where to park. Some HOAs have a safe list policy, some require extra cars to be parked outside the gates, etc.
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Check the bylaws. Since it is a townhouse complex, those may not be public streets. The bylaws may prohibit parking on those streets. There are many places with rules like that. Are there visitor parking areas?
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izz3bt6
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izysx0h
| 1,670,883,478 | 1,670,879,401 | 32 | 30 |
I'm not an attorney, but I'm speaking from experience after working as an appraisal specialist in the mortgage industry for 20 years; reviewing HOA bylaws, CC&Rs, shared road covenants and more has been a constant in my life many times 1. For a townhome/subdivision managed by an HOA, the CC&Rs and the Bylaws will detail their parking rules. Unless your boyfriend has read and memorized these, he shouldn't be telling you to disregard them - unless he has zero respect for your personal property or financial strains. 2. HOAs are permitted to enforce regulations on private roads. If this road is within their "subdivision", (i.e. not considered a public road, which would be accessible and used by non-community members on a normal basis as a method of travel through town). Public roads fall under law enforcement of that jurisdiction. Private roads are controlled by the HOA. Sounds like you're at their mercy here. 3. Many townhouse HOAs have common elements and amenities (pools, playgrounds, parking lots) for additional parking. Give the HOA a call and ask them if such a location exists for you to utilize during your coming and going during the days. Don't ask them if you can park there 24/7 forever. That's squatting. They may accommodate
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Many private streets are too narrow to allow for a vehicle to park on the street and provide enough space for emergency vehicles to drive past. This, in essence, makes all street parking illegal as it can block a firetruck from getting past your home to get to a house on fire further down the block. As for where can you park? Likely the answer is outside of the community, or on another street that isn't private width and can allow for street parking.
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izz29ap
| 1,670,883,478 | 1,670,883,038 | 32 | 25 |
I'm not an attorney, but I'm speaking from experience after working as an appraisal specialist in the mortgage industry for 20 years; reviewing HOA bylaws, CC&Rs, shared road covenants and more has been a constant in my life many times 1. For a townhome/subdivision managed by an HOA, the CC&Rs and the Bylaws will detail their parking rules. Unless your boyfriend has read and memorized these, he shouldn't be telling you to disregard them - unless he has zero respect for your personal property or financial strains. 2. HOAs are permitted to enforce regulations on private roads. If this road is within their "subdivision", (i.e. not considered a public road, which would be accessible and used by non-community members on a normal basis as a method of travel through town). Public roads fall under law enforcement of that jurisdiction. Private roads are controlled by the HOA. Sounds like you're at their mercy here. 3. Many townhouse HOAs have common elements and amenities (pools, playgrounds, parking lots) for additional parking. Give the HOA a call and ask them if such a location exists for you to utilize during your coming and going during the days. Don't ask them if you can park there 24/7 forever. That's squatting. They may accommodate
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You need to read the bylaws. It’s amazing to me how many people commit to HOAs without reading and understanding the bylaws. They are the rules of the community and someone at some point definitely signed agreeing to those rules.
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zk441m
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izz3bt6
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izz3607
| 1,670,883,478 | 1,670,883,413 | 32 | 13 |
I'm not an attorney, but I'm speaking from experience after working as an appraisal specialist in the mortgage industry for 20 years; reviewing HOA bylaws, CC&Rs, shared road covenants and more has been a constant in my life many times 1. For a townhome/subdivision managed by an HOA, the CC&Rs and the Bylaws will detail their parking rules. Unless your boyfriend has read and memorized these, he shouldn't be telling you to disregard them - unless he has zero respect for your personal property or financial strains. 2. HOAs are permitted to enforce regulations on private roads. If this road is within their "subdivision", (i.e. not considered a public road, which would be accessible and used by non-community members on a normal basis as a method of travel through town). Public roads fall under law enforcement of that jurisdiction. Private roads are controlled by the HOA. Sounds like you're at their mercy here. 3. Many townhouse HOAs have common elements and amenities (pools, playgrounds, parking lots) for additional parking. Give the HOA a call and ask them if such a location exists for you to utilize during your coming and going during the days. Don't ask them if you can park there 24/7 forever. That's squatting. They may accommodate
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An HOA has bylaws that the owner agreed to when they purchased the townhouse. As a tenant (which is what you technically are considered) also has to abide by those same rules. If there are rules in the bylaws regarding parking on the road, you have to follow them, whether or not you or your boyfriend think they are applicable. So read the parking rules from the bylaws and go from there.
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izy558j
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izz3bt6
| 1,670,870,374 | 1,670,883,478 | 10 | 32 |
You should review the HOA bylaws about parking. If the HOA has jurisdiction over the block, then you are likely correct in believing you should comply. I would likely comply with their request but look to see what can be done so you can park all your cars safely. Each HOA should have a policy for how to handle extra cars and where to park. Some HOAs have a safe list policy, some require extra cars to be parked outside the gates, etc.
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I'm not an attorney, but I'm speaking from experience after working as an appraisal specialist in the mortgage industry for 20 years; reviewing HOA bylaws, CC&Rs, shared road covenants and more has been a constant in my life many times 1. For a townhome/subdivision managed by an HOA, the CC&Rs and the Bylaws will detail their parking rules. Unless your boyfriend has read and memorized these, he shouldn't be telling you to disregard them - unless he has zero respect for your personal property or financial strains. 2. HOAs are permitted to enforce regulations on private roads. If this road is within their "subdivision", (i.e. not considered a public road, which would be accessible and used by non-community members on a normal basis as a method of travel through town). Public roads fall under law enforcement of that jurisdiction. Private roads are controlled by the HOA. Sounds like you're at their mercy here. 3. Many townhouse HOAs have common elements and amenities (pools, playgrounds, parking lots) for additional parking. Give the HOA a call and ask them if such a location exists for you to utilize during your coming and going during the days. Don't ask them if you can park there 24/7 forever. That's squatting. They may accommodate
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zk441m
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izyo3c4
| 1,670,883,478 | 1,670,877,578 | 32 | 10 |
I'm not an attorney, but I'm speaking from experience after working as an appraisal specialist in the mortgage industry for 20 years; reviewing HOA bylaws, CC&Rs, shared road covenants and more has been a constant in my life many times 1. For a townhome/subdivision managed by an HOA, the CC&Rs and the Bylaws will detail their parking rules. Unless your boyfriend has read and memorized these, he shouldn't be telling you to disregard them - unless he has zero respect for your personal property or financial strains. 2. HOAs are permitted to enforce regulations on private roads. If this road is within their "subdivision", (i.e. not considered a public road, which would be accessible and used by non-community members on a normal basis as a method of travel through town). Public roads fall under law enforcement of that jurisdiction. Private roads are controlled by the HOA. Sounds like you're at their mercy here. 3. Many townhouse HOAs have common elements and amenities (pools, playgrounds, parking lots) for additional parking. Give the HOA a call and ask them if such a location exists for you to utilize during your coming and going during the days. Don't ask them if you can park there 24/7 forever. That's squatting. They may accommodate
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Look through the bylaws. Our HOA in Georgia has a stipulation of no resident parking in guest parking and have booted and towed residents.
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zk441m
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legaladvice_train
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izy558j
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izysx0h
| 1,670,870,374 | 1,670,879,401 | 10 | 30 |
You should review the HOA bylaws about parking. If the HOA has jurisdiction over the block, then you are likely correct in believing you should comply. I would likely comply with their request but look to see what can be done so you can park all your cars safely. Each HOA should have a policy for how to handle extra cars and where to park. Some HOAs have a safe list policy, some require extra cars to be parked outside the gates, etc.
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Many private streets are too narrow to allow for a vehicle to park on the street and provide enough space for emergency vehicles to drive past. This, in essence, makes all street parking illegal as it can block a firetruck from getting past your home to get to a house on fire further down the block. As for where can you park? Likely the answer is outside of the community, or on another street that isn't private width and can allow for street parking.
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izysx0h
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izyo3c4
| 1,670,879,401 | 1,670,877,578 | 30 | 10 |
Many private streets are too narrow to allow for a vehicle to park on the street and provide enough space for emergency vehicles to drive past. This, in essence, makes all street parking illegal as it can block a firetruck from getting past your home to get to a house on fire further down the block. As for where can you park? Likely the answer is outside of the community, or on another street that isn't private width and can allow for street parking.
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Look through the bylaws. Our HOA in Georgia has a stipulation of no resident parking in guest parking and have booted and towed residents.
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zk441m
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izz29ap
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izy558j
| 1,670,883,038 | 1,670,870,374 | 25 | 10 |
You need to read the bylaws. It’s amazing to me how many people commit to HOAs without reading and understanding the bylaws. They are the rules of the community and someone at some point definitely signed agreeing to those rules.
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You should review the HOA bylaws about parking. If the HOA has jurisdiction over the block, then you are likely correct in believing you should comply. I would likely comply with their request but look to see what can be done so you can park all your cars safely. Each HOA should have a policy for how to handle extra cars and where to park. Some HOAs have a safe list policy, some require extra cars to be parked outside the gates, etc.
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zk441m
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izz29ap
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izyo3c4
| 1,670,883,038 | 1,670,877,578 | 25 | 10 |
You need to read the bylaws. It’s amazing to me how many people commit to HOAs without reading and understanding the bylaws. They are the rules of the community and someone at some point definitely signed agreeing to those rules.
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Look through the bylaws. Our HOA in Georgia has a stipulation of no resident parking in guest parking and have booted and towed residents.
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zk441m
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legaladvice_train
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izz3607
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izy558j
| 1,670,883,413 | 1,670,870,374 | 13 | 10 |
An HOA has bylaws that the owner agreed to when they purchased the townhouse. As a tenant (which is what you technically are considered) also has to abide by those same rules. If there are rules in the bylaws regarding parking on the road, you have to follow them, whether or not you or your boyfriend think they are applicable. So read the parking rules from the bylaws and go from there.
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You should review the HOA bylaws about parking. If the HOA has jurisdiction over the block, then you are likely correct in believing you should comply. I would likely comply with their request but look to see what can be done so you can park all your cars safely. Each HOA should have a policy for how to handle extra cars and where to park. Some HOAs have a safe list policy, some require extra cars to be parked outside the gates, etc.
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zk441m
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HOA threatening to tow my car Mobile formatting. Sorry if this is the wrong flair I (20M) live in a townhouse complex/neighborhood with my boyfriend (21M), his mother (60F), and her bf (??M). We have a full driveway; both sides of the garage are filled with my bf’s cars, then the driveway has his truck and his mom’s bf’s truck. I park on the street right in front of the house. The HOA is now threatening to tow my car for “safety hazards”, claiming it’s an obstruction to firetrucks (? but it’s not in front of a fire hydrant). They said I have to move it or it will be towed and I will be fined. My bf says realistically, I won’t be towed because the car has to either be actively obstructing someone/traffic or be abandoned. But the HOA has jurisdiction over the block so I’m not sure if those rules apply. Do I need to comply with them or can I fight this? Because literally where am I supposed to park?? I am in Georgia.
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izz3607
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izyo3c4
| 1,670,883,413 | 1,670,877,578 | 13 | 10 |
An HOA has bylaws that the owner agreed to when they purchased the townhouse. As a tenant (which is what you technically are considered) also has to abide by those same rules. If there are rules in the bylaws regarding parking on the road, you have to follow them, whether or not you or your boyfriend think they are applicable. So read the parking rules from the bylaws and go from there.
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Look through the bylaws. Our HOA in Georgia has a stipulation of no resident parking in guest parking and have booted and towed residents.
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Car towed while we were away, parts were taken, and it ended up in a junkyard. Who's liable? A friend lent us her car before we left for vacation. We were gone for 5 weeks. While we were gone a neighbor (literally hours after we left) had it towed. We didn't find out about this until we returned. So, naturally, it sat at the tow lot for 4 weeks before they sent the car to the junkyard. We found the car with many parts removed and not running. Nobody seems to know who took the parts or where they are. The junkyard claims they received it with parts missing, the tow company says they don't remove parts. What do we do? Who do we call? Police? A lawyer? Some other info: Our apartment complex does not have designated spots and parking is not mentioned in our lease.
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inezhj5
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Towing part: Can you predict what was the reason why your car was towed? Such as unregistered vehicle, expired registration etc.. Was it towed due to violation of the parking rules at your apartment complex? And you also mentioned a neighbor got it towed, but I doubt he is allowed to do so since the apartment should be involved before any towing could happen. (Why does the neighbor has the authority to tow a random car?) Parts taken part: Towing company should always take detailed pictures before towing a car. Ask them for that.
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Are you sure your neighbor was the authority for the tow? Private property tows typically need to be at the request of the property owner/manager. You may want to talk to management at your apartment to find out if they authorized the tow and why. This will at least be a starting point to find out if the tow was valid and if it wasn't, who is liable.
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Car towed while we were away, parts were taken, and it ended up in a junkyard. Who's liable? A friend lent us her car before we left for vacation. We were gone for 5 weeks. While we were gone a neighbor (literally hours after we left) had it towed. We didn't find out about this until we returned. So, naturally, it sat at the tow lot for 4 weeks before they sent the car to the junkyard. We found the car with many parts removed and not running. Nobody seems to know who took the parts or where they are. The junkyard claims they received it with parts missing, the tow company says they don't remove parts. What do we do? Who do we call? Police? A lawyer? Some other info: Our apartment complex does not have designated spots and parking is not mentioned in our lease.
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indp0wk
| 1,662,562,908 | 1,662,506,503 | 34 | 27 |
You need to talk to your apartment manager and find out why it was towed from them. If it was not approved then you need to file a police report for theft and sue the tow company. Yes you should get a lawyer.
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Towing part: Can you predict what was the reason why your car was towed? Such as unregistered vehicle, expired registration etc.. Was it towed due to violation of the parking rules at your apartment complex? And you also mentioned a neighbor got it towed, but I doubt he is allowed to do so since the apartment should be involved before any towing could happen. (Why does the neighbor has the authority to tow a random car?) Parts taken part: Towing company should always take detailed pictures before towing a car. Ask them for that.
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(WA) HOA towed my nephew’s car because it’s too old and ugly HOA issues in WA. I have been living in this fairly upscale/luxurious looking community of about 40 single family homes for 3 years now. It’s just me and my wife in a big house so I agreed to let my nephew (sister’s kid) live with us for one year while he attend college to save some money. They are poor people who cannot afford the high cost of living in this city but the kid got a scholarship here and is doing outstanding work in college. Anyway, he came from IL in an old Subaru which he parks in my driveway (without blocking my garage entry). He arrived 5 days ago and 2 days afterwards, we woke up to his car towed. I contacted HOA and they directed me to the bylaw they have which states that cars older than 6 years are not allowed on the premises and the HOA has the right to remove (tow) any vehicle that looks unkept (aka dirty, scratched, etc). I admit I did not read this and I wasn’t aware of such policy. Well, I get their point, they want to make our community look nice and clean but what am I supposed to do with the nephew? Can I tell him to park the car in the garage? Will that circumvent the bylaw? Thanks.
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Ugh, HOAs. What is the exact wording of the bylaw? Have you gotten the car back? Were there towing fees?
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Ask them how the car was towed too. Subarus HAVE to be flat bedded or their AWD system will be damaged.
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94uoq1
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legaladvice_train
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(WA) HOA towed my nephew’s car because it’s too old and ugly HOA issues in WA. I have been living in this fairly upscale/luxurious looking community of about 40 single family homes for 3 years now. It’s just me and my wife in a big house so I agreed to let my nephew (sister’s kid) live with us for one year while he attend college to save some money. They are poor people who cannot afford the high cost of living in this city but the kid got a scholarship here and is doing outstanding work in college. Anyway, he came from IL in an old Subaru which he parks in my driveway (without blocking my garage entry). He arrived 5 days ago and 2 days afterwards, we woke up to his car towed. I contacted HOA and they directed me to the bylaw they have which states that cars older than 6 years are not allowed on the premises and the HOA has the right to remove (tow) any vehicle that looks unkept (aka dirty, scratched, etc). I admit I did not read this and I wasn’t aware of such policy. Well, I get their point, they want to make our community look nice and clean but what am I supposed to do with the nephew? Can I tell him to park the car in the garage? Will that circumvent the bylaw? Thanks.
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Unfortunately, the lengths to which a HOA can control your property rights are pretty invasive. If this is actually in your bylaws there isn't much you can do about it other than park the car in the garage where it is not seen.
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Ask them how the car was towed too. Subarus HAVE to be flat bedded or their AWD system will be damaged.
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94uoq1
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legaladvice_train
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(WA) HOA towed my nephew’s car because it’s too old and ugly HOA issues in WA. I have been living in this fairly upscale/luxurious looking community of about 40 single family homes for 3 years now. It’s just me and my wife in a big house so I agreed to let my nephew (sister’s kid) live with us for one year while he attend college to save some money. They are poor people who cannot afford the high cost of living in this city but the kid got a scholarship here and is doing outstanding work in college. Anyway, he came from IL in an old Subaru which he parks in my driveway (without blocking my garage entry). He arrived 5 days ago and 2 days afterwards, we woke up to his car towed. I contacted HOA and they directed me to the bylaw they have which states that cars older than 6 years are not allowed on the premises and the HOA has the right to remove (tow) any vehicle that looks unkept (aka dirty, scratched, etc). I admit I did not read this and I wasn’t aware of such policy. Well, I get their point, they want to make our community look nice and clean but what am I supposed to do with the nephew? Can I tell him to park the car in the garage? Will that circumvent the bylaw? Thanks.
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Not a lawyer. I’d think “premises” means “anywhere” (no parking anywhere)unless it goes in to say “unless it’s parked in the garage and out of sight”.
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WA has impound court. When you go to recover the car you can request a tow hearing form. The tow truck company is required to provide the form. You file a hearing request with the county to dispute the tow. However, if it is a written bylaw you may have no recourse. The judge in the hearing is going to ask how a person was supposed to know the vehicle was unauthorized? If the answer is it is in your CC&Rs you're not going to win the hearing. I assume there are tow signs for the tow truck company at the entrances and scattered throughout the community? It is required by statute.
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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Your husband has no say in whether or not you get an abortion; you don't need his permission and he can't legally prevent it
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Spousal consent isn’t required in any state, such laws have been found to be unconstitutional. The source of the money is irrelevant, do what you must do for you with regards to the pregnancy. Also, you cannot kidnap a fetus. Your husband is demonstrating classic controlling and manipulative practices and you should not be taking legal advice from him. On Monday start talking to divorce attorneys.
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8yvcu4
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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Spousal consent isn’t required in any state, such laws have been found to be unconstitutional. The source of the money is irrelevant, do what you must do for you with regards to the pregnancy. Also, you cannot kidnap a fetus. Your husband is demonstrating classic controlling and manipulative practices and you should not be taking legal advice from him. On Monday start talking to divorce attorneys.
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You can use any money in joint accounts. They are joint. You don't need his permission. Nor his permission to get an abortion. So leave. And then talk to an attorney to file for divorce
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8yvcu4
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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>he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. This is 100% completely untrue. You are legally able to get an abortion without his consent. It is not fraud, and there's legally nothing he can do to stop you. >If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. No, he won't. This is not kidnapping by any stretch of the imagination. Police will not arrest you. >I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. This is also untrue. Those accounts are joint, legally speaking you both have permission to use it. If he told you that you need hos permission to use any of that money he has lied to you. >Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? You will not get in trouble for using that money. Absolutely zero trouble. Use it today to buy a bus ticket anywhere you want to go. Seriously, leave today if you can. >How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Zero percent likely. You have rights to travel even while pregnant. Married women do not need their husband's permission to travel or to get an abortion. You need to leave as soon as you can. Like, today with just your absolute essentials. Your husband appears to be an extremely controlling person who has severely lied to you about what your own rights are. I fear he could be violent if he finds out, so please, buy a bus ticket or get in the car and drive to your parents' house today.
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Your husband has no say in whether or not you get an abortion; you don't need his permission and he can't legally prevent it
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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>he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. This is 100% completely untrue. You are legally able to get an abortion without his consent. It is not fraud, and there's legally nothing he can do to stop you. >If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. No, he won't. This is not kidnapping by any stretch of the imagination. Police will not arrest you. >I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. This is also untrue. Those accounts are joint, legally speaking you both have permission to use it. If he told you that you need hos permission to use any of that money he has lied to you. >Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? You will not get in trouble for using that money. Absolutely zero trouble. Use it today to buy a bus ticket anywhere you want to go. Seriously, leave today if you can. >How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Zero percent likely. You have rights to travel even while pregnant. Married women do not need their husband's permission to travel or to get an abortion. You need to leave as soon as you can. Like, today with just your absolute essentials. Your husband appears to be an extremely controlling person who has severely lied to you about what your own rights are. I fear he could be violent if he finds out, so please, buy a bus ticket or get in the car and drive to your parents' house today.
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You can leave without his permission You can use money in a joint account without his permission (don't take it all, that's generally frowned on by judges, but reasonable use - even for running away, and an abortion is allowed) (I am not a lawyer, but this is what I've been told) You can have an abortion without his permission. Please get out, get the abortion you want, get divorced. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it sounds like you are unaware of the rights you have as a human. Just because you married someone does not give them control over your thoughts, decisions, and actions. I highly recommend finding a therapist who can help you recognize your own rights and teach you about healthy relationships.
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2e0sgh
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You can use any money in joint accounts. They are joint. You don't need his permission. Nor his permission to get an abortion. So leave. And then talk to an attorney to file for divorce
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>he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. This is 100% completely untrue. You are legally able to get an abortion without his consent. It is not fraud, and there's legally nothing he can do to stop you. >If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. No, he won't. This is not kidnapping by any stretch of the imagination. Police will not arrest you. >I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. This is also untrue. Those accounts are joint, legally speaking you both have permission to use it. If he told you that you need hos permission to use any of that money he has lied to you. >Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? You will not get in trouble for using that money. Absolutely zero trouble. Use it today to buy a bus ticket anywhere you want to go. Seriously, leave today if you can. >How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Zero percent likely. You have rights to travel even while pregnant. Married women do not need their husband's permission to travel or to get an abortion. You need to leave as soon as you can. Like, today with just your absolute essentials. Your husband appears to be an extremely controlling person who has severely lied to you about what your own rights are. I fear he could be violent if he finds out, so please, buy a bus ticket or get in the car and drive to your parents' house today.
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8yvcu4
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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Get your stuff and leave. If you think he’s going to try to stop you get off Reddit, call the police, and tell them this. You can deal with the rest later. Get away and get yourself safe.
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>he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. This is 100% completely untrue. You are legally able to get an abortion without his consent. It is not fraud, and there's legally nothing he can do to stop you. >If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. No, he won't. This is not kidnapping by any stretch of the imagination. Police will not arrest you. >I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. This is also untrue. Those accounts are joint, legally speaking you both have permission to use it. If he told you that you need hos permission to use any of that money he has lied to you. >Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? You will not get in trouble for using that money. Absolutely zero trouble. Use it today to buy a bus ticket anywhere you want to go. Seriously, leave today if you can. >How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Zero percent likely. You have rights to travel even while pregnant. Married women do not need their husband's permission to travel or to get an abortion. You need to leave as soon as you can. Like, today with just your absolute essentials. Your husband appears to be an extremely controlling person who has severely lied to you about what your own rights are. I fear he could be violent if he finds out, so please, buy a bus ticket or get in the car and drive to your parents' house today.
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8yvcu4
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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>he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. This is 100% completely untrue. You are legally able to get an abortion without his consent. It is not fraud, and there's legally nothing he can do to stop you. >If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. No, he won't. This is not kidnapping by any stretch of the imagination. Police will not arrest you. >I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. This is also untrue. Those accounts are joint, legally speaking you both have permission to use it. If he told you that you need hos permission to use any of that money he has lied to you. >Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? You will not get in trouble for using that money. Absolutely zero trouble. Use it today to buy a bus ticket anywhere you want to go. Seriously, leave today if you can. >How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Zero percent likely. You have rights to travel even while pregnant. Married women do not need their husband's permission to travel or to get an abortion. You need to leave as soon as you can. Like, today with just your absolute essentials. Your husband appears to be an extremely controlling person who has severely lied to you about what your own rights are. I fear he could be violent if he finds out, so please, buy a bus ticket or get in the car and drive to your parents' house today.
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You don't need to discuss why you're getting an abortion at the clinic. Yes, you can get one anytime you want without needing anyone's permission. It's your body, your decision. Joint account means you own the money in there as much as he does. You can use that money any way you please. This is another area you don't need your husband's permission or approval on how to use said money.
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2dz2sl
| 1,531,593,422 | 1,531,593,250 | 2,058 | 309 |
Your husband has no say in whether or not you get an abortion; you don't need his permission and he can't legally prevent it
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You can use any money in joint accounts. They are joint. You don't need his permission. Nor his permission to get an abortion. So leave. And then talk to an attorney to file for divorce
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2dz2sl
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You can leave without his permission You can use money in a joint account without his permission (don't take it all, that's generally frowned on by judges, but reasonable use - even for running away, and an abortion is allowed) (I am not a lawyer, but this is what I've been told) You can have an abortion without his permission. Please get out, get the abortion you want, get divorced. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it sounds like you are unaware of the rights you have as a human. Just because you married someone does not give them control over your thoughts, decisions, and actions. I highly recommend finding a therapist who can help you recognize your own rights and teach you about healthy relationships.
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You can use any money in joint accounts. They are joint. You don't need his permission. Nor his permission to get an abortion. So leave. And then talk to an attorney to file for divorce
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2dzeg0
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You can leave without his permission You can use money in a joint account without his permission (don't take it all, that's generally frowned on by judges, but reasonable use - even for running away, and an abortion is allowed) (I am not a lawyer, but this is what I've been told) You can have an abortion without his permission. Please get out, get the abortion you want, get divorced. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it sounds like you are unaware of the rights you have as a human. Just because you married someone does not give them control over your thoughts, decisions, and actions. I highly recommend finding a therapist who can help you recognize your own rights and teach you about healthy relationships.
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Get your stuff and leave. If you think he’s going to try to stop you get off Reddit, call the police, and tell them this. You can deal with the rest later. Get away and get yourself safe.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2fl4op
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You can use any money in joint accounts. They are joint. You don't need his permission. Nor his permission to get an abortion. So leave. And then talk to an attorney to file for divorce
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Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2dzeg0
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e2fl4op
| 1,531,593,589 | 1,531,670,888 | 210 | 355 |
Get your stuff and leave. If you think he’s going to try to stop you get off Reddit, call the police, and tell them this. You can deal with the rest later. Get away and get yourself safe.
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Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
| 0 | 77,299 | 1.690476 |
8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.9 |
I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2fl4op
| 1,531,595,180 | 1,531,670,888 | 204 | 355 |
Your husband is being financially abusive if you believe you can't legally use any money in your joint accounts without his permission. Abusive people convince their victims of all sorts of things that just aren't true we can't guess all of the things he has deceived you about. Try here also for more questions and exit strategies or just strategies to get an abortion without your spouse knowing. Among other things inform Drs in written they are not to discuss your medical history with your spouse. http://www.thehotline.org/blog/get-help-today/ Not legal advice it may be best if you are surrounded by people you trust and will protect you from your spouse before you take any noticable action. So husband doesn't apply pressure to you or harm you.
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Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.9 |
I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2e3l75
| 1,531,670,888 | 1,531,598,019 | 355 | 134 |
Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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Your husband is full of crap, and you shouldn’t believe anything he tells you. Your husband has no claim at all on the joint account with your mother. You can use the money in your joint accounts with your husband, but a judge would look poorly on it if you completely drained them. You could safely withdraw about half. You have the right to travel anywhere you like regardless of whether you’re carrying a fetus, and your husband has no say in whether or not you receive an abortion anywhere in the US. This isn’t the Handmaid’s Tale. Get out, and good luck.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2fl4op
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e2e1duq
| 1,531,670,888 | 1,531,595,685 | 355 | 91 |
Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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> when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion To my knowledge no state requires spousal permission. Some states will notify though. > If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. LOL! That's not a thing. 1. You don't need his permission to use any marital funds. They are yours... do as you please. 2. You don't need to lie. Spousal consent isn't required.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2fl4op
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e2ffa4g
| 1,531,670,888 | 1,531,665,106 | 355 | 93 |
Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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OP, just a word on withdrawing money. Withdraw from your joint account on your way out of town. Don't take out the money before you leave. I have another alert on my account from transactions over a certain amount so I can check for fraud. It wouldn't surprise me if your husband has the same alert set to monitor your usage.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.9 |
I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2fl4op
| 1,531,612,787 | 1,531,670,888 | 87 | 355 |
OP, please, please be careful. Please call a women's shelter to get advice on leaving safely and covering your tracks. You can also call the police non-emergency number and ask for an escort as you pack your things. Statistically, an abusive partner is most likely to turn to violence when you attempt to leave. Additionally, being pregnant multiplies the chances of you dying at the hands of your partner. Be safe and don't take any chances. You're doing the right thing. Stay strong.
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Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2fl4op
| 1,531,594,871 | 1,531,670,888 | 95 | 355 |
You don't need to discuss why you're getting an abortion at the clinic. Yes, you can get one anytime you want without needing anyone's permission. It's your body, your decision. Joint account means you own the money in there as much as he does. You can use that money any way you please. This is another area you don't need your husband's permission or approval on how to use said money.
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Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2etpa9
| 1,531,670,888 | 1,531,627,371 | 355 | 84 |
Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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Take your id and some clothes & necessities. Go to the bank and take half the money; it's yours. Legally you can remove all the money, but half of it is his and a court would likely order you to return his share. Go to a DIFFERENT bank entirely to open an account in your name only. Keep enough cash for your abortion and living expenses for a couple weeks. NEVER tell anyone about that account, not even your parents. Then go to your parents' home. Get your abortion if that's what you want, and get a divorce lawyer. Also therapy. Wishing you the very best as you take your next steps as a free woman.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2ef0og
| 1,531,670,888 | 1,531,610,158 | 355 | 75 |
Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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Abort your pregnancy, then your marriage.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2fl4op
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e2ep8nc
| 1,531,670,888 | 1,531,621,917 | 355 | 70 |
Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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You sound like you are in a abusive relationship. Walk out the door and keep going until you get somewhere safe. Then follow the rest of the advice in this thread.
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8yvcu4
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legaladvice_train
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I'm pregnant and I want to leave my husband I have been married for five years and this is my second pregnancy. I took the test yesterday and I think I am about 6 weeks. I had a late miscarriage last time and the pregnancy was awful (I was very sick.) I do not want to be pregnant. My husband found the test and when I told him I don't want to be pregnant he said he will not give his permission to have an abortion and it is fraud for me to get one without him. If I try to leave he will have me arrested for kidnapping. He said I do not have a valid reason to not want to be pregnant anymore. I have been wanting to leave for some time now and to go back to stay with my parents. I cannot use any of the money in the bank for this because they are joint accounts and I do not have my husband's permission. However I also have a debit card from a joint account with my mother that my husband does not know about. My questions are: 1) Is my account with my mom also marital property that I could get in trouble for using without his permission? 2) How likely is it that I will get in trouble if I go to NH (where my parents live) from KY (where I live now) and lie and say I don't know who the father is so I can get an abortion? I know it may be illegal but I am willing to risk it I can't handle another pregnancy. Thank you in advance for your help and please please don't judge me
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e2fl4op
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e2efs2g
| 1,531,670,888 | 1,531,610,992 | 355 | 69 |
Honey I live in Kentucky and your husband is so full of crap. Call your momma, have her pick you and your things up, stop at the bank where the marital joint account is, withdraw 50%, and GTFO outta here.
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**You do not, under any circumstances, need anyone's permission to get an abortion. Not your husband's, not your parents, no one!** This is the link for Planned Parenthood: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/ They will help you obtain treatment. They will likely do it for a reduced cost, or even for free.
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