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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girl [18 F] having a really complicated relationship and needs help
POST: Hi, my girl and I have been together for 2 months. Before this starts, i have to clarify that we have NEVER been together. She has commitment issues and only want a relationship purely made of love (no boy/girlfriend.)
We have been happily in love since this May. We agreed to not have an official relationship as she doesnt want to be binded down. However, we agreed upon that our love for each other is exclusive for one another (really complicated)
She had an operation this July and was on crutches and will be till the end of the month. As a result, I was extremely nice to her (sent her home everyday, try to spend as much time as possible with her and tried to take care of her)
This was okay until she begun to feel like we are starting to drift into an official relationship (which she doesnt want to) The fact that her studies in college is extremely demanding does not help too. The regretable thing is that i did not pick up her hints and continued acting in a way she believes would drift us into an official relationship
A few days ago, she just told me that she wanted to end our "relationship" for studies and she lost feelings for me. If she really wants to end it for studies it is possible as she is really extremely busy. But i feel that the main reason for her request is due to the fact that she didnt want to enter an official relationship. And she believes that we're entering one if this goes on.
however, we were "love talking" and flirting with each other just days before the "break up". So i dont think she has completely no more feelings for me.
Thus, I would like to appeal to all redditors to help me think of ways to get her back. I never wanted an official relationship but i did it purely out of love for her. Im willing to change my behaviour for her.
TL;DR: | lover stressed by studies, feel that im dragging her in a commited relationship (which she doesnt want to) need help getting her back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What does it mean being "together"? They're not living in the same house.
POST: Met a girl at college a few months ago, since then we talked every day quite often. We had some moments that I could understand that she liked me and I started to like her, a lot. I know this is stupid but we even read zodiac signs through skype, mine and hers.
I already knew her ex-boyfriend was her best friend, she told me once. Already at the time I thought it was strange. I just couldn't understand but I respected it.
Anyway things were great until today.
Today, the conversation led to one side of me asking if her and her ex were dating.
She went unanswered for some time - when this happened my heart stopped - I insisted and she replied "no". I was already feeling a bit sad for the time she was quiet so I asked her if they had some kind of special relationship. She said that they were together.
What does it mean being "together"?
They're not living in the same house.
I honestly don't know what to do. Should I avoid talking to her? Or stop texting her? Or just don't do anything and let things be like they are?
I know you must be thinking that I'm just a stupid college kid having his own little problems, but I would like a lot to read your opinions... Just let me know.
Thank you.
TL;DR: | Met a girl at college, started to like her, after all this time I asked her directly and she tells me she's "together" with her ex-boyfriend. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 F] with my friend [26 M] for years, how do I confront him about his shitty behavior?
POST: I feel disrespected by my friend and feel like he used me. Details aren't important, but I'm really, really hurt.
I want to confront him but I don't know how to go about it. I'm extremely pissed and just want to yell at him, but I don't think that's going to help at all.
Right now we have been ignoring each other for weeks, so I feel a little awkward about calling him. How do I approach it? How do I confront him (over phone or in person?) and what do I say? I'm freaking out a little as you can tell, but I'm not a confrontational person so I'd like some advice.
TL;DR: | How do I tell my friend that I feel used and disrespected? We haven't talked for weeks so I wouldn't know what to say if I called him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26 M] with my wife [26 F] for almost one year, had a miscarriage, has emotional checked out of our marriage
POST: Wife and I got married almost a year ago. She always wanted something more. I moved to her town. She moved in. We got engaged and then married. She wanted to start having kids, a little early for me, but we talked about it and agreed it was the right time to start, both financially, personally, and relationship wise.
We suffered a miscarriage several months ago. Every month we aren't pregnant again she takes everything out on me. I can only handle being told to "f%$k off" so many times. Has said time and time again how much she doesn't care about me anymore. She wants me out of her life. I have always given in and never stood up for myself and the times that I do, she shuts me down and says that I need to get off my high horse.
It has been an emotionally abusive relationship for months. I have asked her time and time again to go and talk to someone, or for us to go talk to someone together. But she makes fun of me for even suggesting it. I feel like we are finally done. I am too embarrassed to talk about any of this with my parents, friends, coworkers. I have always been there for her despite her telling me how much she doesn't care about me.
I don't know what to do and I don't know where to go.
TL;DR: | Married for a year, had a miscarriage, wife has emotionally checked out of our marriage and wants me out of her life. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(25) gf(25) of 8 years is a really bad and insecure driver.
POST: So i recently noticed that my gf is a really bad driver. Basically i only found out now because she doesnt have a car, and only uses mine for longer journeys, mostly on the highway, which is easy to her.
However when she is in regular traffic she gets scared easily and is very insecure. Driving is a really important skill in my opinion and i really want her to be able to drive safely.
So now I dont drive her anywhere anymore and instead ask her to drive instead.
Driving really stresses her out to the point of us having fights over it. Often she would complain and get mad at me for asking her to drive instead of me. Or i would get mad at her if she refuses to talk to me for a while after driving somewhere.
Especially if she has to park anywhere tricky, like along the road, she will outright refuse to drive.
How can i make her see that this is important to me? Also how can i positivly encourage her to drive more?
TL;DR: | gf i a shitty driver, i want her to practice more, we often fight over driving related issues, want to encourage her to drive more often. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: M30 with angry wife F27, no matter what we can't break out cycle of turmoil. PLEASE HELP, its near the end
POST: M30 married for 6 months to F27, have house, cars, kids, pets, etc. Fighting constantly over dumb stuff. Im constantly threatened with divorce over trivial things. I have never cheated on her(NEVER WILL), but accused of it all the time. I'm constantly berated with insults on things I can not help and decisions that were made before I was born. I have been guilted into a going to a therapist, and by his assessment of me, I'm normal human dealing with an irrational person who when angry says the most hurtful and vile things. Literally everyday, its something else. I'm the primary breadwinner in our family and am totally not appreciated. She reaps the fruits of all my labor and at the end of the day leaves nothing for the things I want. She uses sex as leverage, and denys me all the time. She says I'm immature, but she fights childishly dirty. Plus she may have a substance abuse problem compounded with bipolar/depression. She very Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. How does someone who does the right thing and screw up occasionally get someone who is completely irrational get a grasp on reality and teach them how to treat people the right way?
TL;DR: | Wifes is constantly angry threatening divorce, won't go to therapy/counseling, what do I do |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: Holistic food and diarrhea
POST: Not sure what to do anymore.
**How I know its the food**
I've taken stool samples to the vet and she's clean of parasites. Every time I feed her the prescription food she gets immediately better.
I'm thinking I need to add fiber to her diet, just not sure how.
My puppy is a 5 month old mutt. I started feeding her wellness when I got her about 2 months ago. She was fine the first couple of weeks but then started having horrible diarrhea. I gave her prescription food by the Vet's instruction and she got better. Tried giving her Wellness again and she started having diarrhea. Switched her to Orijen and diarrhea came back. I gave her prescription food and she got better, but now that I switched her back her stools are soft again.
I've done the whole gradual 4 day transition with the foods.
TL;DR: | Fed dog Wellness and Orijen and she is getting soft stools/diarrhea with both. Should I add fiber to her diet? Change food? Not sure which food to try next. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [15 M] like this [15f] girl in one of my classes and it makes me feel like crap.
POST: So this is gonna sound really dumb and corny but I have to get this out of my system. I started school 3 weeks ago and there is this girl in my algebra class that I really like but I hardly know.
She is really smart and shy and only has 1 friend in the class (who I know pretty well). I am a really shy and awkward person around people that I don't know but when I know them I am really cool with them. I am not really a popular person, but I am friends with a lot of people and don't really get involved with drama or anything.
I have liked a couple girls before but nobody that I could really see having a future with. I barely know this girl yet I like her more then any girl that I know, she cares about how she dresses every day and seems really nice.
My problem is I can't stop thinking about her and I would love to get to know her and go out with her, but it's high school and high school relationships never last. I know there is no future with this person and it makes me feel like crap. And I don't even know if she likes me.
TL;DR: | Like a cute girl in my class that I barely know, but I doubt there is any future in a high school relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28/m] with my ex [25/f] 2 years
POST: If you want the long story you can search my history to get it. Basically I was with someone for close to 2 years, I knew there were issues for a few months and we didn't try to discuss them and she wound up dumping me via text during a fight. We remained friends talking for a few months until I f'd up and got arrested for something which led me to being depressed and I wound up taking it out on her and calling her names etc. She'd go on to block me from everything and I'd try to talk which would worsen things. Been NC for about 2 months now and I just noticed she must have unblocked me on Facebook because I noticed on a friends page (someone I rarely talk to) just became friends with my ex. Now that I noticed this, I can't help but think maybe she is thinking of talking again and I want to, she was a great part of my life and my real true first love but I know it wouldn't be right to try to contact her and if she wants to talk she will. Not sure why I'm posting this other than I just need to vent.
TL;DR: | Noticed that an ex unblocked me on Facebook now can't help but to think she wants to talk or reconnect. So confused.... |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Getting over it
POST: So me (M18) and my girlfriend (F18) just broke up after a 2 year relationship, the reason is complicated and basically comes down to our past was to complicated and full of shitty things that we both did to each other, turning us into worse versions of each other. But the reason we stayed I personally think is because we were in love as cheesy as that sounds and even though I get angry, frustrated and sick when I think of her (not to mention the fact she almost immediately added a boy she flirted and kissed while in a relationship with me after we broke up) I still miss her and I just want the feelings to go away, any ideas ? I also have been really sexually frustrated, what's that about ?
TL;DR: | (M18) broke up with (F18) how to get over the feelings and anger of her adding boy she kissed while with me ? Thanks for any advice |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm assuming this is a scam, but can Reddit advise me on what to do?
POST: I'm trying to sell a camera lens on Craigslist and someone responded within a couple of hours. She was interested, so I talked to her about meaning to exchange the lens for cash. She said she didn't have cash and wanted to use paypal. I feel so stupid and didn't realize at the time that it wasn't a good idea, but I gave her my email and she said she sent me the money. She then said it's for her son and to send it to Nigeria. My friend immediately told me it's a scam. I also got emails from paypal saying they need the tracking number so I can receive the money she sent to me. I decided to call paypal and see what they could tell me about this. They told me she didn't send the money. I was also told to not click on any links in the emails (which I didn't) because they can get my information that way; they also said to forward the emails to them to see if they were fake. Turns out they were. I told the lady that I wasn't selling the lens to her. She got pissed and told me she was using paypal so her "crazy husband" doesn't find out about it. i tell her no again. I just got an email saying "I think i
have to inform FBI and my lawyer about the and they will also need to inform
the police...And you will get arrested for scamming people online the
internet..So i will wait to hear back from you with the tracking number of
your shipment as soon as you get the item ship out but if you don't...i
think u will need to go to jail because you are trying to scam me.i have
paid for the item and the money has been deducted from my account..I will
stay on my computer to read back from you.."
This is definitely a scam. What should I do about this person? Should I tell them something or just ignore them?
TL;DR: | Someone is attempting to scam me and it's irritating me. Just wondering what I should do about it, if I should be doing anything at all. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/m] Trust issues have ruined my sex drive. Ruined sex drive is ruining relationships before they start.
POST: Almost all of my early experiences with women have been terrible (as in the girls have turned out to be awful). These experiences coupled with a lot of personal hardship have given me trust issues. I'm working on it but I've almost given up on finding a girlfriend.
Everything is usually fine until we get past the initial "getting to know each other" and things start getting more sexual. As long as I seduce her and try to get into bed with her everything is fine but as soon as I slow down to a tempo I'M actually comfortable with they loose interest which I guess is because they don't get the attention they want. And I get that. Everyone wants to feel loved and wanted but I'm always doing my absolute best to give her attention. In a couple of cases I had sex without erection. Went down on them. Did it because I liked them and wanted them to feel good but it still seems to make them uncomfortable because she can't really get my attention sexually.
I don't know what to do. I'm sure if I knew a girl who knew me really well she would understand, but how am I supposed to keep a date interested when I don't want the sex she is offering and it makes her feel unwanted? Would telling her about these things scare her away?
Also for the record most of the time it's girls who want sex on first or second date after texting for between a week and a month.
TL;DR: | Potential partners get uncomfortable by the fact that they can't just please me with sex right away. Need time to get comfortable enough to enjoy sex due to bad experience. |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: What Looks Good with Deep Red?! Wedding Color Scheme Problem... Advice, Please!
POST: I am getting married in October and our theme is a 1930s-esque fall wedding. Our original color scheme was David's Bridal Apple and Plum with golden accents. I found the hex codes and ordered samples of our invitation choices and I'm starting to worry that the two dark colors together look tacky/cheesy. We have already gotten the Apple dresses for my bridesmaids but we haven't gotten the plum dresses/ties etc. yet. Since we have mixed gender sides, I am worried that the red and purple dresses going down the aisle together will be too much. Would a lighter purple look okay? My MOH thinks it will look weird and my fiancé says if I can pick a few options he will see what he thinks looks better (he is great at picking from a few choices, but not from too many) Do these colors seem to bold together? What would be a good option instead?
TL;DR: | Worried about Wedding Colors, are David's Bridal Apple and Plum colors okay or too tacky? Any better solutions to go w/DB's Apple? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Mind sharing a good story about bad drivers that make you want to slap them across their face?
POST: I was walking by an intersection the other day and it was ~9:15, you know heavy morning traffic time, when people are rushing to get to their 9:30 work shifts or 9:30 classes. 9:30 is a pretty common time to start something.
There was this girl about 19/20 driving a white bmw that I saw at the very front of the left-turn lane. The left turn signal went on for her and there was a solid **6** second space of time. Instead of going, like she should have, she'd rather finish her text message. So she misses the left turn light and you can imagine the amount of honking throughout her entire lane. Then she doesn't look ashamed or anything, she continues her texting. Again, this is heavy traffic time. I don't know what happened next, my bus arrived.
I guess I'm a little biased because I was standing in the rain waiting for the bus instead of driving a prestigious, white bmw to school, but then again, she was probably a spoiled little bitch.
TL;DR: | She-driver misses the left turn light to finish her text message and costs everyone in her lane to be late; doesn't feel ashamed of this action |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (22/M) want to explore and date casually, but have a very "serious relationship" mindset
POST: I just had my first date ever this january, and have dated a couple of girls, one of which I kind of got attached to. Right now I don't want a relationship or a girlfriend, I just want to explore and see what I like and dislike. But I tend to get attached easily and it's difficult for me not to care. I feel like I can't control it. I want to be casual, and explore and learn without wanting it to get serious or feeling sh**ty after a simple fling ends. Any advice on how to start being more careless and casual about dating and sex?
TL;DR: | I tend to get attached to women easily, and I don't want to. I want to be more casual about sex and dating and need help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my close friend [20 F] of 9ish months, not sure if behavior is typical for "just friends".
POST: Over the past month or so, my friend (who I've known for 9 months) and I have gotten very close, texting each other pretty much 24/7, going to the park, eating dinner together etc. and skyping until we fall asleep in bed in front of our laptops, then waking up in the morning to each other.
Is this kind of stuff typical for close friends if they don't want to get romantically involved? I adore her and could see myself in a relationship with her. Another issue is that one of my friends also likes this girl, although he hasn't explicitly said so.
TL;DR: | Becoming really close, texting 24/7, skyping from afternoon til morning. Is this typical for friends? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [25/M] girlfriend [24/F] of 11 months thinks I'm "acting begrudgingly" if I don't take her places for free. Is she right?
POST: We work on the same building, and she lives ~10 minutes away from me, in an opposite direction. This makes me spend 40 minutes more and 5 BRL (about 2 dollars) more per day. She didn't offer to pay for gas nor take a bus to meet me closer to my usual route. That is, she gets all the benefits, I do all the "work". I do it happily, because I like her company and can afford it.
Today, a situation happened in which she asked me to take her home before I go to class. If I went directly to class, I'd spend about five minutes from where I work. If I took her home and then went to class, I'd spend about one hour. A few minutes before, she had offered me to help with an assignment. I said "if you help me with the assignment, I'll take you", and she got very upset. Then she said that even if I didn't ask for anything in return, I would be "acting begrudgingly" if I simply didn't want to spend that much time. I apologized for asking something in exchange, but disagreed that I'd be wrong even if I didn't ask for anything.
Then the subject referred in the title came up. She thinks it's OK that I spend more money and more time everyday for her having a comfortable commute, and spending less money and time. And what I think it's worse, thinks I would be "acting begrudgingly" had I wished or proposed it to be any different.
She and her friends think "it costs me nothing". I think she's being entitled. Who is right?
TL;DR: | girlfriend thinks it's OK for me to take her to/from work for free, and thinks I'm acting begrudgingly if I don't do that. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 M] asked a friend [17 F] if she wanted to hang out some time and don't know what to do.
POST: I asked this girl I've had a crush on if she wanted to meet up some time this weekend and study out of SAT books. I've been talking to her for about 2 weeks at school and over text. I thought she was interested. Her response was that she was hanging with a friend today (which I overheard them talking about hanging out earlier this week) and she had dance rehearsals tomorrow. After she followed up with "Maybe like a different weekend when I don't have rehearsals."
-OK, what do I do?
-Is she is interested?
-What should I do now?
TL;DR: | Texted this girl asking if she wanted to hang out and study for the SAT, and she said she was busy this weekend but maybe another weekend. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [30F] have no female friends, only guy friends. my s/o [35M] wants me to stop hanging out with them
POST: It's the same old question. Can guys and girls just be friends?
I have a small group of guy friends ( some happen to be gay) who I hang around with. I've cut down on seeing these people since I know my BF doesn't like them nor me hanging with them outside. In the past year i've hung out with my friends maybe 3-4 times. Each time getting shit from my BF. He's now given me an ultimatum. It's either them or him. I've agree'd to not hang out with them because at the end of the day he means a lot more to me then my goofy guy friends. But it makes me sad. I don't have any girl friends (to make a long story short my only GF and I stopped talking and she took all the girls that I knew with her) so now its just him and I.
In case you're wondering yes I've introduced my BF to my guy friends. I've tried to arrange hang out sessions where we all hang together. He doesn't like them for no reason other than they're too immature and goofy. Which I find fun but in no way would see these people in a romantic light. In fact one of them is like my oldest friend since 3rd grade and like my brother, the other was my 7th grade best friend and we still are best friends.
TL;DR: | My bf wants me to end friendships with people who've I've known for over 15 years just because they're guys and i'm a girl. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do you delete all of your information from Facebook?
POST: So I just found out that Facebook has this glitch where on your timeline, any PERSONAL messages between 2007 and 2011 will be displayed on your wall in the form of a wall post. This is a multi-billion dollar company yet more than a couple days of the first sighting, nothing has been done. We are supposed to trust this company with our information yet sloppy screw ups like this happen? I am officially done with Facebook and I've heard that even when you delete your account they still keep your information, how would one go about removing every piece of information connected to my Facebook account?
TL;DR: | Facebook has glitch that shows personal messages from others (and vice versa) on your wall, how do I delete all my info from Facebook and cancel my account? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 19M with my Girlfriend 17F of 8 months. Clueless about her being this distant.
POST: Me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months now. We've never really had any fights or major problems, up until recently, it seems. We've always got along well, we understand eachother and know when one of us needs some alone time.
Recently, however, it's been really hard to have proper contact with her. I was busy with apply/sorting out Uni, while moving at the same time. Thus I was busy for 3-4 days where we rarely spoke. She knew that I'd be busy and I updated her on how everything was going when I could. That was a week ago, but ever since that it's felt like she's avoiding me. Whenever I try to talk to her or bring up a subject she doesn't really react to it, just acknowledges it or gives a short comment.
I'm worried because I've had a relationship break apart in the same way that it feels like this one is. Maybe she's going through something personal that she wants to keep private, or if im worrying too much? I really have no idea. Either way, I find it really difficult to deal with someone when they're suddenly being distant.
TL;DR: | I can't tell why she's acting(distant) this way, and whether or not i'm being too pushy and she needs some time alone, or if I should be worried about her and get her to explain. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 M] versus my very angry sister [28 F] and her dependency on our retired parents
POST: My sister can throw huge tantrums. This is an issue now because no one can confront her on anything but she is effecting our 70 year old retired parents.
They used to be well off but aren't so well off now. When they were well off (and working) they would help my sister pay for things and allowed her to stay at the flat they own for about half-rent. She is chasing a dream and only working part time in a real-world job. ( I lived there for free when I did in my first-year of university but from then on it was full-rent).
My parents are selling the flat and renting out the spare rooms in their house in order to save money. My sister expects to move back in and live rent (and food-cost) free, as it was before she moved out. They will be losing money on one of the rooms they were renting.
My parents will not confront her on this because a long time ago my father had an affair and she will bring that up in order to hurt both of them. I believe she isn't mean-spirited (although her actions speak otherwise) but she can't stop herself.
I (instead) have confronted her but I didn't get a word in and then I heard she was saying nasty things about me to my mom. So I confronted her on that and we got into a very angry text exchange (because I felt I wouldn't be able to get a word in). She seems to have a lot of issues with me that she has never voiced (or have any logic behind them) I believe she was just trying to be hurtful. I was composed in my replies and did not react to the aggression.
I still love my sister (obviously) but what is a good way to proceed from here. I will have to see her at Christmas. Should I just let it settle and try to bring it up again ? Is she right and it's none of my business (I don't agree with that)?
TL;DR: | Sister was living off parents for years, now they can't support her. No one can question her because she throws a tantrum. I am persona non grata for confronting her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Starting my EMT career soon. Want to travel and maybe relocate when I retire or sooner. Should I buy or rent?
POST: So I'm studying to become an EMT in NY so I will be making a decent living after a few years of work. My dream is to travel the world and my current goal is about 1 country per year. I'm starting to think about the future and whether or not I should buy or rent a house/appartment close to the long island/nyc area. I'm just looking for any opinions on my situation who have similar careers and goals. I'm living with my girlfriend who also would love to travel and is about to start school. Also we have talked about moving to Europe if ever possible. Maybe for retirement or something.
TL;DR: | Future NY EMT, wants to travel the world eventually or in between working, should I rent or buy a home? Just looking for opinions on my situation. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by watching Reservoir Dogs
POST: Today I was sitting around bored on my day off and decided to do what any teenager home alone would do, smoke copious amounts of marijuana. So I sit down in my garage and light up listening to Dream Theater thinking about what I should do with the wonderful high I knew I would have. So I decided on one of my favorite movies of all time, Reservoir Dogs.
Little did I know I was about to get really high, and I mean really really high, like a 9 out of 10 closed eye visuals, open eye visuals, couch lock and the such. I got on Netflix and started watching, however I forgot how gruesome that movie gets, at the part where Mr. Orange is asking Mr. White to hold him as he's bleeding out I started to feel his pain. What he was going through seemed so real and frightening that I started to feel a pain rising up in my stomach and reached for the only container around, a clear glass, and threw up into it. I ran to the kitchen to empty it and send the glass into the sun and never think of this again, but when I got there I accidentally looked at glass of vomit and threw up a few more times.
I ended up turning off the movie and going to sleep it off and had some of the craziest dreams I've ever had.
TL;DR: | Got high, watched reservoir dogs, threw up into a glass, looked at glass, threw up more. Shit was whack. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf [22f] is attending her sisters bachelorette party, and I am a little worried.
POST: I [22m] have been with my girlfriend [22f] for two years now, the relationship is great and I trust her completely. She is the lightest light-weight in terms of alcohol I have ever met. When we go out, she can have four drinks and she is black out drunk. There have been a few times where she was this drunk at a bar/club and tried grabbing another guy while calling him by my name. Now obviously I know she is drunk and can't tell the difference between me or any other guys, but I am always there to take care of her. I am worried because her sisters's bachelorette party is coming up pretty soon and they're going to Las Vegas. I don't know anyone who is going besides her sister, and I can't really ask her to watch out for my gf during HER party.
There are a couple of girls going who have the reputation of being a little slutty and liking to "instigate" things. I spoke with my gf and she agrees that she can't handle her alcohol very well and she refuses to drink while in Vegas because of this. While I appreciate this sentiment, I can't tell her to not have any alcohol during her sisters bachelorette party; I want her to have fun, and I do believe she will be okay as long as she limits her drinks, but she has a tendency to not realized how drunk she is getting. I have no idea what to do. I don't want her to get drunk while with people who I don't know if I can trust, but at the same time I want her to have fun. What should I do?
TL;DR: | My gf tends to get drunk, not sure how she will behave during her sister's bachelorette party. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [16M] & my best friend [16F] have been friends with benefits lately. She wants to end it but it's a lot more complicated than you may think.
POST: Me and My best female friend have been friends with benefits the past two months or so. It's been great, no stress or anything.
We're both virgins so about a month ago, we both made a promise to ourselves in a very serious manner that we'd both lose our virginity to each other. Ever since I can remember being 13, we always joked about it but it was bound to happen.
Now she wants to end it to start talking to other people. I respect the fact she wants to end it, but flirting has always been part of our friendship. Ever since we were 13 we'd always make sexual jokes to each other & we hooked up once or twice back then but it was nothing more. I believe by her ending it, will truly destroy our friendship. She's being very blind about the consequences her actions will do. We had both come to the conclusion of just stop being FWB & go into a relationship. After a while of agreeing on that, she then decided to change her mind & say "no, it would ruin our friendship." But she doesn't realize that's what's already happening, so we might as well make the best of it.
Also, the one thing I'm disappointed about is the promise we made to each other. It was set in stone. We were planning on doing it in the next 2 weeks or so. We were both so excited about it. I feel as if the promise she made meant nothing to her. (I am quite the attractive male for my age. I have been offered sex plenty of times but I wanted it to be with someone special who it would be more affectionate with & more worth while, as does she.)
I have no idea what to do. She is being very ignorant about this entire thing. We stayed up until 5 in the morning talking this over.
TL;DR: | Female best friend of 5 years & I become friends with benefits & promise to lose our virginity to each other in a very serious promise. She now wants to end it which she doesn't realize will end our entire friendship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I witnessed somebody taking an upskirt video of a woman and subsequently getting caught. Has this ever happened to you/have you ever done something like this?
POST: Long time lurker here, thought I'd share my...
Story: I was waltzing on my way back home after going to the supermarket, and had to stop at a street corner. There were maybe 5 or 6 other people standing around. Among us was a cute brunette woman, in her 30's I'd wager, who was wearing a short, white skirt; another was a slightly hunched man holding a bunched up, black hoodie in front of him. He seemed a little odd, but I thought nothing else of it as I looked away.
Suddenly, I heard a crack among some commotion. A digital camera had fallen on the ground, along with a hoodie (which I assume was to attempt to conceal the device) and landed underneath the woman. This would possibly not warrant any suspicion, except for three factors:
* The man was quite flustered about the incident
* He was already bent over when the camera dropped
* The camera was on and the LED screen was clearly filming
The woman turned around and realized what had happened, with the rest of us in witness. The man quickly retrieved the camera, leaving the hoodie, and darted off behind us. I think the older, balding man that was in the group attempted to halt his egress, but was unsuccessful. The woman was, of course, very embarrassed about the incident, and the presumable wife to the older man began to comfort her as small tears began rolling down her cheeks.
I gave her a quick look of sympathy as the crossing signal turned green, and went on my way back home.
So, Reddit, I understand if you need a throwaway for this, and as always, they are quite welcome. To reiterate the title:
TL;DR: | Have you ever (to your knowledge) had an upskirt/downblouse picture or video taken of you? Have you ever done so, and how do you not get caught? |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Reconnecting with an old "Friend",Need help
POST: Hi,so i had this crush on a girl a lot time ago,she was also kinda into me but i blew it(didn't took the sings and general stupidness) a year or two she moved to another country and I always felt it didn't have a end or closure,Now the other day I remember her and such and looked her up on FB and i was thinking about adding her to sorta contact her again and just you know what's up,but I not sure this is a good move
Obviously with her being on a different country(I'm not even sure she rembers me anymore) there's no way something could develop but I feel i should talk to her to atleast give it closure IDK
* How would you react if you were her and saw that friend request?
* Should I talk to her or mabe just let it go and try to move on?
Also we both the same and i met her on 7th grade and she left after freshman year in highschool,We both now to be 17 this year
TL;DR: | Had a crush,I didn't took my chance,she left to another country(2years ago,she visits on vacation though),Looking to recontact her(Atleast to give it closure),what do you think |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my bf [22 M] of 7 months, pissed off but don't know if I have any right to be
POST: Me and my bf just returned from a several hour car trip to a concert that we've both been excited for for months. Just before the show, he had one of his anxiety attacks...or rather, anxiety of having an anxiety attack. He has these every few weeks, typically after eating too much. He deals with them by walking for half an hour or so.
Just before the show starts, he disappears. I call and text him for 15 minutes straight before he finally answers. He says he needs some alone time. I'm pissed already, because at this point I was about to call the cops out of worry. The show had already started and I was busy trying to figure out where he went.
I reluctantly head to the show alone, but am unable to enjoy it because I'm both worried about him and sad that he isn't there with me. At the intermission I go out and find him. This is an hour after the first conversation. He's still walking around. I confront him and tell him that he needs to see a doctor or a counselor about this. He refuses and says that he's fine. After a bit I get pissed off and leave him and return to the show alone again.
Another hour later I leave the show, and we silently return home. I'm pissed because he made me worry, but I'm also pissed because he ruined the show that we paid a lot for and were very excited to see. I feel guilty because I understand that he has an issue, but if he refuses to do anything about it, then I don't see how that can be used as an excuse.
TL;DR: | boyfriend has anxiety attack and misses show. I still see show, but can't enjoy because I'm worried. I am feeling animosity towards him but I don't know if it's deserved. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] with my boyfriend [27M] of a few months. Are we too busy to date? What can I do to keep this relationship healthy, happy, and moving forward?
POST: We started dating a few months ago immediately after meeting, and right off the bat we quickly became exclusive due to strong feelings for each other. I was planning on moving away, which I disclosed from the start, but due to a family emergency, that was postponed.
We don't live far from each other, but with traffic it takes about an hour for us to commute from each other's places.
Recently, our schedules have become very hectic and conflicting. His work project is really taking off, and my family emergency and job change are not allowing for much free time. This is temporary though and our lives should slow down at the end of October.
I'm absolutely smitten and in love with him and I'm confident he feels the same way. I'm only able to see him once a week, or if we're lucky twice a week. I completely understand, and just like I don't want to drop my career aspirations or my other relationships, I do not want him to neglect his. I do wish that he planned his free time better so we could maximize whatever potential time we could have together.
We talk on the phone frequently, and often text throughout the day to check on each other, but I am already feeling distanced from him. Is it just the honeymoon phase fading, or is it the lack of physical closeness/ just seeing each other that is at the root of this feeling?
What can I do to keep this "mid-distance relationship," going? I'm so happy with him yet I fear we will take one step forward, two steps back.
TL;DR: | We are basically too busy to date/don't prioritize each other above our families/careers. How do I keep our relationship going? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19M] Girlfriend [18F] are on a break, how do I approach this.
POST: I'm at University and my GF stayed home to go to Community college and work, we've been together for almost 2 years.
And basically she is depressed when I'm not around and was always really attached... and now she became good friends with her 21M boss at work (Walgreens) and said that he was a good friend and someone to talk and cared, and that she developed some feelings for home over a month or 2 and that she needed to see where the feelings go but she still loves me and I love her and that we have a legitimate chance of being together in the future.
My fear is, is that this guy is using her...a 21 year old sees a new cashier come in that's cute and depressed, cozies up, plays the friend game, jumps on an opportunity and then breaks her heart when she wants to be serious, I can't imagine this dick head just wants to take a serious relationship and make it another, I know guys do this all the time.
And I don't know whether I should continue to contact her and talk to her everyday (which I'm doing right now) , cut contact and let her figure it out(honestly don't know if I could do that) , or warn her about what he may be doing (which she probably won't believe and will get angry). I love her more than anything and the last thing I want is for her to be heartbroken or hurt even though I am right now.
TL;DR: | GF of 2 years wanted a break because she was lonely and depressed. Cozied up to boss, I'm worried he is using her and I can't stand to see her get hurt. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I'm 18 just about to graduate high school and go to college but I'd much rather take a year off and travel the country in a vw buss. Why is this the best/worst decision of my life?
POST: I'm going for a degree in photography/metal work and jewelry. Haven't really narrowed down the two yet. My family is moving 7 states away from my home and I plan on staying in my home state. I've never been gunho for school, always had decent grades but I didn't feel like school was right for me and the idea of college is just even worse considering I'll be getting my self in debt for something I'll probably hate every second of. I told my mom about how I was to travel the country in a vw bus, she supports it but doesn't know of my plans to do it right out of high school. I feel like I need to find myself before I make any decisions that can effect the rest of my life. So reddit. Why is this the worst idea of my life? Or the best one?
TL;DR: | I'm 18, wanna wait before going to college and travel the country in a vw buss to find myself (it's as cliché as it sounds) |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 4 years then broke up, we had a long distance thing which wasn't working out, now I am going back and we are planning to try again. Need some advice on starting again.
POST: We were together for 3 years at our home country. First serious relationships for both of us. We tried long distance for a year but it wasn't really working out. After this we thought to be on a break but I never really took this seriously. I always thought we were together. But then she told me that she was going on a date and I thought it wouldn't really mean anything.
But then she started a relationship with him. I was devastated. I really didn't know how to handle that it was really over and I really shared my feelings only with her. i was feeling these strong emotions of anger and despair. I told my friends here that it was over and about a month later a very close friend asked me out. I thought it would be a good idea maybe at that time. Fast forward 4 months I broke up with her because I didn't feel that strongly about her as I did in my previous relationship. My ex had also broken up with her son of a bitch boyfriend. I will be going back soon and we are thinking of trying again but I keep having these images of them together, sexually. They just come creeping in when I'm alone with my thoughts. It saps my energy. I almost feel like it was infidelity because when she did say we would be on a break I didn't take it seriously (very Ross and Rachel). Which is not at all the case. She was upset with the growing distance, I understand that she was trying to move on. But it doesn't help with these images.
I do not know if this is the right place to post about this since it's about trying to control my own emotions more than resolving an issue with a partner. But I would appreciate some help to get past this since we have a chance to try again. Otherwise please just direct me to the relevant subreddit.
TL;DR: | Ex was with someone else after long distance didn't work. We are trying again. Keep having images of them together sexually. Need help to move past it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23F] sister [22F] wanted to marry her fiance [24M] but he's from another country
POST: Hi, I'm asking this on behalf of my sister because she doesn't go on reddit so I asked her if it was okay that I posted about this; I will be showing her the responses.
So my sister has been with her fiance for just over a year, they met when she was studying abroad in Chile. They met and hit it off right away, stayed together throughout her 6 month stay in Chile, and have been doing long distance since. There were a couple times where they visited each other, he came to the USA for 3 months and stayed with her at one point, she went to Chile for a month to visit him, and they've decided they want to get married.
I'm so super excited for her, this guy is awesome and makes her the happiest I've ever seen her, well, EVER. But she was talking with me last night, and apparently this whole marriage thing is going to be difficult.
Her fiance who we'll call Jorge, wants to permanently move to the USA. The job field he is in has way more opportunities in the USA and he doesn't have a great home life in Chile. They discussed him coming to the USA and working on getting married through the government and then having just a reception after, but we are all wondering how that works. They did some research and apparently he can stay past his 3 month tourist Visa so long as they are working on getting all the marriage legalities worked out, but I am questioning this (it sounds illegal) and she, Jorge and I are wondering if there is a better way to do this.
I guess my question is: How do my sister and Jorge get married, and how does Jorge get his green card without having to fly back to Chile multiple times? He is coming to the USA in May and they want him to try and get his green card in the meantime. Any suggestions for subreddits where I can crosspost would be FANTASTIC.
TL;DR: | sister and fiance want to get married, fiance is coming to the USA in May and we want to help him get his green card and have them get married, not sure what to do |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Does anyone else really enjoy being alone?
POST: I've come to the conclusion that I really enjoy spending time alone. I don't really have any friends aside from my family, which means I don't go out much. My typical Friday entails making dinner for myself, and watching a movie or playing XBOX. It's absolutely fantastic. I am very active though. I also ride my bike for a few hours every day, alone. I've taken several trips to Europe, Hawaii, and even gone on a cruise alone. I enjoyed every minute of it.
I love being single as well. I have been in several serious relationships. The latest one being about 2 years ago. I've gone on several dates since then. But every time I hang around other people, I constantly feel like I'd much rather be alone. I have no aspirations to be in a relationship or get married.
TL;DR: | I'm in my mid 20s. I have a fantastic job. I'm single and have 0 friends. And I love it that way. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] hit it off with a girl [17 F] and suddenly she isn't interested anymore
POST: The whole thing started 2 weeks ago, when I was at a party with a few friends.
Somewhere around midnight this girl approaches me and starts flirting with me. We talked for an hour or so before we move on to making out. From what I could tell, she seemed like an awesome person that I would like to know better, so I asked for her number.
I texted her the next day (both of us aren't big fans of calling, so I did the safe approach) and we really hit it off.
I even asked her out on a date, which she said yes to. We were both excited to meet eachother again.
For the next two weeks we would text each other every night and send snaps to eachother.
I met her again yesterday at another party. All of a sudden she seemed pretty distant. In the end we ended up talking to eachother in private. It was cold outside and we held around eachother for warmth. We set plans for our date and she even said how excited she was. We decided to go to a movie together next thursday.
However, today I got a text from her saying how she is not ready to go further than a friendship and how she is sorry for sending me romantic signals. She still wants to go to the movies with me, but just as friends.
Appearantly she is in a state where she is not ready to make a commitment
But I keep ending up asking myself:
Why would she act like she was interested in me, when she didn't have anything further in mind?
I don't know how to react or approach her. Help or suggestions are much appreciated!
TL;DR: | Flirted with a girl for 2 weeks. We both like eachother. We set plans for a date, but she texted me later that she wasn't interested in a relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How should I [22m] proceed with this girl [19]?
POST: I met this girl on tinder and we started to hit it off really well. I've always been one to move too fast so I decided to take it slow, especially since her profile said she is looking for a serious relationship. I get her number and we've been texting every once and a while, like once or twice a week for about 3 weeks now and I feel like she may be losing interest if we are moving this slowly.
Should I just wrap it up and ask her on a date?
I feel like the texting is getting a little boring and I think she knows that too but she (In my mind) likes me back so she would respond anyways. But she probably is getting bored of it too.
Im always one to overanalyze and I havent dated in years so Im really nervous and confused. Any help would be appreciated.
TL;DR: | Met a girl on tinder I'm falling hard for. We've texted off and on for 3 weeks now. Am I moving too slow and should I ask her on a date? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [17F] been together for over a year, I'm a very sexual person, she isn't. Advice?
POST: I and my girlfriend have been happily together for over a year. However, when it comes to being intimate we find it hard to connect more because she has a very low libido, whereas I have a very high one.
We have talked about it quite a bit, but we are stuck with what to do.
Early on in our relationship, I was the instigator in the sexual aspect of our relationship, however I had grown to feel that I was pushing her to do what I wanted too much and I can get rather guilty for wanting to be sexual very often, and I get very nervous when I want to be intimate.
TL;DR: | I'm a very sexual person and she is not. How I do I get the intimacy I need without feeling guilty about it, while also respecting her boundaries and needs? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Traveling to Hong Kong
POST: SW: 282 || CW: 200.8 || GW: 170 -- [M]/5'11"
I started my journey about 1.5 years ago. Since then, I've lost about 82 pounds and I'm about to hit onederland for the first time since... I don't know? My girlfriend of 5 years has been incredibly supportive of my journey, and we're planning on visiting her family in Hong Kong in 3 months.
Now something you should know. My girlfriend is 5'5" and weighs a little less than 100 pounds. She's very petite, but regardless of that her mom still calls her fat (and not just in a playful way). I hate to use a sweeping generalization, but I've found that Chinese people have a very different concept of what constitutes a proper weight compared the US/EU. To what the US health standards classify as underweight or 'normal', it can be seen as "fat" or "chubby" in China.
Anyways, to the point. I'm current 200 pounds and nervous as hell going to Hong Kong and visiting her entire family. I can tell myself that I'm happy with the way I look, but I'm a very self conscious person. My current goal is 1.5/2lbs per week up until I leave which puts me at worst 180 and at best 174 by the time I leave for Hong Kong. Of course losing weight isn't linear, but setting goals helps me.
I just don't know what to do with my self conscious anxiety issues. I am losing weight for myself and I'm very happy with my progress, but dammit all I want to look good for when I go to Hong Kong.
Sorry, not sure the point of this whole thing. Just ranting I guess. /rant
TL;DR: | Lost a lot of weight, still fat. Going to visit girlfriends entire family in Hong Kong and afraid of looking bad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's something that you thought would be the biggest mistake of your life, but turned out to be good for you?
POST: I wasn't really liked in high school. I was bullied a lot, and you know, people were mean. As mad and angry as I was at the world, I became delighted with the feeling of being able to walk into a store and take whatever I wanted. I became a shoplifter. It was the only thing that didn't make me feel sad. So, fast forward to the Christmas season and I'm shopping with my mother and little sister. I take a few items, nothing major, stuff them into my bag and make a clean exit. Or so I thought. After about 4 months of shoplifting, I got caught with my family next to me. My mom and sister were in tears in the security room, trying to understand and I was some how denying I took it all even though I was on camera. My mom refused to even look at me after that.
My mom had to ask my dad to pick me up where I just broke down in the car. We stayed in the parking lot for hours as I told him EVERYTHING. About the bullying, failing classes, losing friends. He listened and understood. My mom came around to listening to me too. I didn't get in trouble at the store and my parents focused more on getting me started on a new life rather then punishing me. I changed schools, got my act together and now, 2 years later, I'm off to college. I'm really, really close with my parents now, I tell them everything and they trust me more then ever. It was the best mistake I ever made.
TL;DR: | I got caught stealing, expressed my sad life to my parents. They helped me turn my life around and now all is well. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what is the saddest "happy" moment of your life?
POST: Just spent most of the day perusing this ( thread, and thought the world could do with some happiness(ish).
My mum has a genetic disease called neurofibromatosis type 2 (NF2), which basically causes tumours in the brain (more often than not around the audio and visual nerves). This disease has a 50% chance to be passed on to children. Mum was diagnosed when I was about 5, and given 6 months to live (at that stage, the disease was still relatively new). 23 years later, she is still alive (if not quite going strong).
Fast forward, 13 years, and my brother, my sister and I had been heading in for yearly check ups to asses our hearing and vision to see if there was any noticeable loss. One day, the doctors were talking to my parents about having us genetically tested to rule out the possibility of us having it once and for all. The only issue was that they didn't want to let us know for sure too early, as we wouldn't be emotionally ready for it. I piped up and asked to be tested as I wanted to know.
A couple of months later, we head in to the doctor's office to find out the results of the blood test. They were negative. I was free of the disease. (Remembering this still tears me up). My dad started crying. He is the strongest man I know, and even now (I am 28), I still look up to him and he is my hero.
He has had to deal with so much and never cried, yet getting my test results back set him off. This is the only time I have seen him cry. I nearly cried then, as I had never seen him cry before (and only once since then).
TL;DR: | Mine was when I had just turned 18. and seeing my dad cry. Happy that my tests came back clean, sad that I never realised how much I had meant to my dad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: what steps should i take if an american company wants to put a mexican citizen into it's payroll
POST: I work for a big company that is american owned( $americancompany$) but my paycheck is paid by a small mexican owned company that does import/export, they charge a huge fee off my paycheck and set a limit of how much i make on a per day based system, this is a big turndown since more than half my salary goes to this company and any raise i get ends up being held back and then returned to the american company, the good fellas at $americancompany$ have talked about this to me and they want me to look for an alternative to this system, i know that having a payroll account in an american bank and withdrawing from mexico is not an option due to tax restrictions on both sides, but then there must be a legal ,fair way to be employed by $americancompany$ without breaking the law, my boss is afraid to ask accounting and the legal department without first looking for an option this side of the border, and i don't know the correct phrasing to search for in google, so i'm taking a shoot here.
TL;DR: | mexican citizen wants to know the legal way to work for an american company from his own country, without breaking the law.. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my GF [20 M/F] of a couple months are getting close to having sex for the first time between the two of us. Help?
POST: Ok so basically this girl and I have been dating for about 2 months now and it's getting pretty close to the point where we are going to have sex for the 1st time.
I've had sex before and I've always felt pretty confident about myself and my abilities. Recently though I found out that the guy she was dating before me was pretty good in bed and could make her orgasm from sex which is something I've never been able to do. Orally/fingering I have but not through sex which I know is supposed to be better.
So basically I'm wondering if anyone has tips for me. I know I should probably just talk to her about this and see what she likes in bed to cater to her needs. But at the same time, I don't want this to end because I can't perform to her standard or have her think I'm incapable of doing so.
We work really well together so I want to be able to make this work in the bedroom just as well. Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated!!
TL;DR: | The 1st time that my girl and I are having sex is coming up soon. Her last guy was a sexual god (exaggeration) Help me to help her *wink wink* |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should I quit my job?
POST: I will start this off by saying that I am 21, currently work 2 jobs and am a full-time student. I attend class, study and work at one of my jobs (which I absolutely love, and we will refer to it as job A) during the week, and am a server at a restaurant on the weekends (this will be job B). I work 25-30 hours from Friday night to Sunday night at job B, and am usually too tired to go out on weekends with my friends.
I make enough money at job A to support myself (rent, food, gas, a little spending cash), and if I have a good weekend at job B, I have more money that I know what to do with. I have started saving up a little money for a rainy day, but its really not much. I originally took job B for a little extra spending cash, and it has turned into more than that.
I have started to dread weekends because of how much I have been working. I really don't enjoy the food service industry, which one of my last jobs as a fast-food manager should have told me, and I don't have as much free time to spend being young as I would like to. I get stressed out at job B and am considering quitting the job and relying solely on job A for income, at least until this semester ends. What do you think, reddit?
TL;DR: | 21, full-time student with 2 jobs considering quitting second job because of stress and lack of free time. Thoughts? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Question about SSI for my mother.
POST: I am having a hard time finding out who I need to talk to or if I need a lawyer for my mom. To make a long story short she was in ICU for cancer related issues and had accumulated about 4 months of SSI. When she got out I took her to the bank and she deposited the checks. Now they turned her SSI off saying she had more than 2000 $ in the bank and cannot get SSI now? She literally has no money at all this is her second battle with cancer and I don't know how to get her help. We cannot afford any sort of lawyer and it's hard to get her in and out of the car to even take her to chemo let alone DSS. They said if she goes down there someone may help but it is at least 4 hours total to wait if we get there as soon as it opens they said on the hotline. My mother is not physically able to stay sitting like that it even be out all day. Is there a special lawyer for this? Who can I call? She doesn't need anymore stress and just need to be able to afford house insurance and house taxes. I'm at my wits end here I just don't make enough money to support her I do not live with her she is 65 and so worried about money. We are in NY. Thank you in advance for any help you can give. Any info about NY SSI removal or suspension (not sure).
TL;DR: | My mother put more than 2000$ in her bank account and now is not getting SSI anymore. If it helps this is NY and she lives alone no income at all only owns the house because it was inherited from family. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [00 M/F] with my ___ [00 M/F] duration, short-description
POST: My girlfriend and I recently broke up after 2 years of what I felt was great companionship. She moved to Korea to teach English for a year minimum, and I moved from my home town where I lived my entire life to finally finish school. After a month and a half of being apart she decided she was no longer in love with me and wanted to break up. In the mean time I'm in a completely new environment miles away from everything I know, not knowing anyone. I still talk with her everyday because she's still the closest person in my life, and I'm lonely/depressed being in a new area not having a single friend other than my roommate. I want to stop feeling the emotional need to talk with her every night, and I want to create a new life where I am right now.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend of 2 years, the closest person in my life, no longer loves me, I need help moving on and meeting new people. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 F] with my BF [22 M] of 1 month, breaking up because he's moving away
POST: I recently started a relationship with my friend of 3 years. We met in university, and are currently both 4th year undergrads. The problem is he's moving to the States in a year (from Canada) since he has a job lined up for after graduation. I'm not willing to move because my family is here and I want to stay in Canada for grad school.
It's been an awesome month together, but we both realized the longer we stay together, the harder the inevitable break-up is going to be. So to save ourselves some pain, we're planning to just end it now. We're not planning to stay friends because it would be too hard, so we're going to cut all communication (including Facebook deletion).
I'm pretty choked about it... and it's distracting both him and me from school, which sucks because we're both in the final year of demanding programs.
Are we doing the right thing by breaking up? Or should we start the relationship and just deal with the moving thing once we get to that point? Any advice would be much appreciated! Thanks for reading :)
TL;DR: | Is it a bad idea to start a relationship with someone if they're moving away in a year and there's almost no chance you'll go with them? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit: I'm worried my wife is being sexually harassed at work, what do you think (and what do we do)?
POST: I think this may be a fairly common complaint, someone at my wife's work is just creeping her out and making her very uncomfortable.
She works in an elementary school and this guy is one of the janitors. She is 25 and he is roughly 60. He is married with grown children. I have given this guy the benefit of the doubt so many times, but every day there is some new story.
He seems to make excuses to be around her room whenever he can. He does the garbage emptying and cleaning in a very inefficient way in order to return to her room four or five times in the afternoon. In the beginning of the year, she would make small talk and be pleasant and he would see this as an invitation to stick around when he should be working. Now, she will leave her room anytime he is working and she is alone in there. I don't blame her, it is a secluded part of the school and if he had rape-y intentions the opportunity would exist. However, she has work to do in her room and should not have to do this! She has tried to completely ignore him and be rude, but he just stays there awkwardly, making it that much more uncomfortable. She tells me that she will often see movement at her door and look up to find him staring at her and then he quickly disappears.
There are other little things like this, just weird behaviors that make it clear he is watching her. The whole thing is so nebulous though that it is hard to advise her to get the guy in trouble when he hasn't **done** anything, you know? She has decided to talk to the principal about it in a non-official way, so that in case any physical thing does happen there will be some record of her concern.
Today she texted me that this man's boss told her that he frequently makes sexual comments about several of the female teachers, including her, of course. This just really pisses me off and made me want some other input. So what do you think?
TL;DR: | Weirdo is making my wife uncomfortable at work with his creepy behavior, but is it sexual harassment/hostile work environment? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26F] with my boyfriend [28M] together 2 years, he is self conscious about weight gain
POST: I have been with my boyfriend for about two years now, and we have a great relationship with an active sex life. I love him, he loves me. Recently, he has been under a LOT of stress and pressure at work which, combined with the usual winter laziness, has led to him putting on a bit of weight. He is very self-conscious about it, and is constantly apologizing to me for "not being better for me" and for being "gross" and "huge", and it kills me.
Here's the interesting part - frankly, I'm into it. I've always wondered what it would be like to be with a bigger guy, and as it turns out I'm just kind of into the softness I guess, go figure! I of course tell him that I find him so sexy, and so attractive, and I show him by touching him all the time, but I'm pretty sure he feels like I am just saying that to make him feel better.
The other caveat is that he does want to lose weight for his own health (its hurting his knees/breathing/etc) so for those reasons I want to support his weight loss. I also was attracted to him when he was smaller, so it doesn't really put me off or anything if he wants to lose the weight.
So, how do I show him/make him believe that I really really do find him attractive the way he is, while also making sure that I am being helpful and supportive in his weight loss goals?
TL;DR: | boyfriend gained weight and is self conscious, how do I show him that I find him incredibly attractive while also being supportive of his desire to lose weight? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Alcoholic Issues, His or Mine?
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together four years now, and are happy and stable in pretty much all aspects. Unfortunately, in the area of drinking, we have some issues. To explain, I come from a household of two alcoholic parents. Unfortunately, as a kid, nothing I did seemed to much help change that situation (talking calmly, yelling out in anger, removing all alcohol in the house, etc.).
Anyways, I decided early on I would never be in a relationship with an alcoholic. On the other hand, I don't want to let my history interfere with living a "normal" alcoholic life, that is, drinking responsibly. I will occasionally drink and don't put any prohibitions on my boyfriend drinking, though he is clear about how I feel about drunks.
Unfortunately, while he drinks rather infrequently, at least two times per month he gets very drunk, blackout drunk. After every incident, he says he feels so miserable and that he's not going to do it again. On the nights we go to hang out, he frequently says beforehand that he's just going to have two drinks and that's it, but that's never just it as when he starts drinking, it just doesn't stop. Any gentle reminders to take it easy are taken as an attack on his liberty to do what he wants, read "stop being like my mother."
He doesn't have an agreeable personality when he is drunk and mixed with my natural distaste for drunks means I usually ditch parties early.
I am afraid his behavior is Binge Drinking and further fear it might lead to more serious drinking problems. However, like I said, I don't want to be an arse and say he can't drink anything.
Does he have a problem, or is it me? I want to talk with him about it, but like I said, sober he agrees with me it's too much, but drunk I'm his controlling enemy. Any tips?
Thanks all.
TL;DR: | I think my boyfriend has Binge Drinking habbits which I would like to stop, but I don't know how to start a conversation that will lead to real change in his habbits. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Taking on requests through July 2nd, Details inside :D
POST: *
TL;DR: | I'm not pro enough for some these requests, keep it simple please. I don't like to turn people down :[ |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by accidentally mentioning hand jobs to my pervy boss.
POST: It wasnt today, but...
I used to work at a restaurant with this boss who was inappropriate with his lust for me. It was awkward. Anyway, there I am polishing all the silverware with the threadbare cloths, and he walks in. I think to myself, this is a perfect time to ask him to get more cloths, as 1: they are threadbare and 2: one per hand ensures no fingerprints.. However, this guy unnerves me, so when he sat down at the bar, all I managed to say was "Hey, do you think we could get more cloths? It would really help me doing these double hand jobs".. His face looked shocked, then aroused as I tried to fumble for the right words... *shudder*... I keep diggin my hole, and eventually slink out of there.
TL;DR: | When asking for two cloths for polishing silverware, I said "I need them for a doublehand job" to my innappropriate boss. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24F] slept with a friend [24 M] shortly after my breakup, and now I'm confused
POST: I broke up with my boyfriend who lied to me after 2 years, we were already in crisis since months. Less than a month later I slept with a friend of mine while we were both drunk. I was flirting with him, he kissed me and we started making out. We ended up in his bedroom but didn't have sex, just preliminaries and talking. He was very excited, he said that I'm beautiful and smart and so on while he was too drunk to lie. I asked him if he was there with me just because I was available and he said no but that he thought that I was there for that reason. I answered no. He said that he understood that I liked him since I used to contact him after my breakup just for speaking and told me that from his answers (which were completely normal) I should have understood that he liked me too.
The next morning he was really sweet, kissing and cuddling, but we dismissed everything as just "drunkness" and not a serious thing. We are still friends now, but I like him and would like to know if he would be interested in something more... He said that it's better not to mix sex and friendship, but he is clearly attracted by me (the other day he had an erection during a friendly hug). He said that he likes me, he looks sad when I speak about my ex-boyfriend, he said (while drunk) that he started liking me some time ago, a time when he was comforting me before my breakup.
Nonetheless, he never contacts me (he never contacts our other friends too), but I like speaking with him or spending time with him. I would like to get to know him better but I'm afraid that he either doesn't want anything serious (even if he usually doesn't have flings, he hadn't had sex for months!) or that he is "scared" by me (I'm an emotional burden now, and I should stop telling him about my ex). What may he think? What should I do to get closer to him without having him running away?
TL;DR: | Slept with a friend, he said that he likes me, we dismissed everything as friendship but I would like to get to know him better. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I justified in being mad?
POST: So here goes, I've been friends with this girl for a while, we're both 16, I'm a guy, but only really as classmates, over Christmas break 6 months ago she started talking to me a lot and started inviting me over to her house every couple of days. She had some family issues and was pretty sad after a bad breakup and a lot of our relationship was me coming over late at night because she was sad. At the time, I didn't really mind because she seemed so sad and it legitimately seemed like I was helping her and that I was someone special for her. She definitely liked me and it seemed like she flirted with me a lot, but she said she didn't want a relationship because she was still getting over her old boyfriend.
All was well and good until about a month ago, she stopped talking to me as much, and didn't ask me to hang out as much. She started going to lunch with other guy friends and when she said she felt like crap she wouldn't explain what was wrong as much. I tried texting her more and starting more conversations but she seemed uninterested and gave one word replies. Its been a good couple of weeks since I last talked to her
So I feel like she kind of led me on to think that I was a lot more important in helping her with her emotions and getting her through things than I feel like I am now. I feel like she just liked me and me being a good friend who listened had nothing to do with it. She's always made a big deal about being friends with everyone and part of her reason for not being in a relationship was because she wanted to be friends afterwards.
I'd talk to her about it but I'm afraid I'm being self-centered and I'd just feel bad, so am I justified in being annoyed at her or not?
TL;DR: | I felt like this girl led me on and made me feel like a much more supportive friend than I was, but I'm not sure |
SUBREDDIT: r/books
TITLE: I need a book identified. Please help!
POST: So, a few years ago I lived within walking distance of a "Borders" , I would generally go and read about 33.3% of a book and then at that point decide whether or not it was going to be a "keeper".
Well, I was reading a book and I was about 31% into it, at this point I needed to head home and I figured I would return the next day read another chapter and then buy the book.
I returned the next day, my book or the book rather , was nowhere to be found . I know I put it back in its place, just like I had been for the past 3 days or so. It was the stores' only copy and I am assuming they must have sold it.
Here is my problem, I would love to buy a copy and finish reading this book, and I just cannot for the life of me remember the title.
So, here is the basic plot (from what I can recall):
It's a semi-biographical book, it's about a guy who grew up religious and started to have doubts and when he realized he was having doubts he went to a religious men's retreat and met with various people there. He then returned home and was still in a battle within himself in the matter of faith... (This is the point that I got to)
(The book in question was found in the "Atheism" Section of Borders.)
I also recall the book was soft cover and had a glossy black finish with I believe a candle burning on the cover.
This book was NOT by Dan Barker (That seems to be the #1 suggestion)
TL;DR: | (Atheist) Biographical story about a guy who starts questioning his faith, goes to a religious men's retreat to have some internal questions answered (Black glossy cover, candle burning) |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[26] starting to maybe date [28M/F] recently - need advice on dating through a language barrier
POST: I'm American and live in a South American country, and recently met a local girl that I like. We've hung out a few times, and made out tonight for the first time - she wants to hang out more.
I've been in one long term relationship, and have had sex with many women in my life. I tend to identify as polyamorous since the end of my last LTR, and monogamy doesn't particularly interest me that strongly at this point - although I could potentially bend that.
I plan on communicating clearly with this woman, who seems to like me - I also like her. Professionally we have a lot in common, and I enjoy her company.
I'm not sure whether she's had the same sort of experience as I have, but I get the sense that she's had fewer sexual partners, not that that particularly matters.
Mainly, there's a language barrier, and I'm looking for advice on cross-language barrier dating! I speak Spanish *well* but not near-native; she speaks English too, but not near-native. Has anyone had any experience in this sort of situation? We get along great, and obviously like each other and are mutually attracted (although we'll have to see how compatible we are in bed of course!) but, I wonder how this has worked out for people.
On the one hand, hanging out with her more may be a great opportunity to make my Spanish get much better quickly! On the other hand...there may be some serious frustrations?
I'm looking for tips on how to navigate this, and also any experiences people have had! Thanks!
TL;DR: | American in South America, like this girl and it appears likely we'll start dating - we don't share a mutually *fluent* fluent language - how problematic is that, and how can I navigate it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can I talk my grandparents out of making a mistake?
POST: so I have about $900 before my fall semester of college is paid off and its due July 31st. My grandparents paid off their car in January and told me that they are going to ( I don't know exactly what its called) but its where you get a loan for your car title. As of right now they are on social security and disability and get $1800 a month usually after we pay all our bills and house we have about $200 left for food and gas. Which makes me think that they wouldn't be able to back the loan. I've already asked them to not do it that I would figure out a way not to pay for it but they said they really want to do it. Also I live with my grandparents.
TL;DR: | my grandparents want to get a loan for their car title and I think its bad idea because they probably won't be able to pay it back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: The girl [22f] I [22m] am seeing wants it rough.
POST: So I have been dating this girl, and it has been fantastic in every other respect. We get along so well, there is definitely mutual attraction, the chemistry is there. When we sleep together though, I know I am being too vanilla for her tastes, she likes it rough, like submissive masochist stuff. I wouldn't say I am opposed to the concept, it's doesn't do much for me but I will tackle some of it for her. What's putting me off is her past, she has been sexually abused and raped, as well as manipulated by her ex long term partner. This is just creating a mental block for me when it comes to inflicting pain on this girl I care about, especially when there are still remnants of her past abuse (for example she refuses to be choked).
Like don't get the wrong idea, I am okay with dominating the situation, and giving her little control over her body as I get her off. It's just the hitting, gagging, ect. that I can't bring myself to do to her.
The reason she is with me (besides my shocking good looks) is because she wanted a guy who would treat her kindly and care for her for a change. I know this should extend to trying to understand her needs in the bedroom, and perhaps it's just less experience on my part but I feel I am (for lack of a better term) 'too nice' for this. Are we ultimately just sexually incompatible? I mean her body still responds positively to my 'more vanilla' brand. Can I settle for some form of a middle ground?
Any advice? Preferably from those who have encountered similar situations, or been swayed one way or the other with BDSM by a partner.
TL;DR: | She wants me to hurt her during sex, it doesn't do much for me and she has been abused in the past, so not 100% on board, advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [20/f] He (19/m) won't talk to me.
POST: A little over two months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. It was a first-time relationship for both of us, so it was a tad bit awkward at times, but we were both happy. Everything was fine for a couple of months and then he suddenly starts talking to me less and less often and breaks up with me via text. I was really upset about being dumped at the time, but I probably would've gotten over it by now if he'd still talk to me. We had been good friends for a few years before we started going out and as far as I can tell, the relationship didn't end on bad terms (his main excuse for breaking up being that I was going off to college and he didn't want to do long distance, which was understandable), so I can't think of a real reason for him to ignore me. Of course, I considered the fact that this is his first time doing this sort of thing, so he'd need time to mentally prepare for the whole post-breakup talk deal. But it's been over two months now. I've tried talking to him a few times and got nothing in reply. I realize that I should probably have moved on from this quite some time ago, but it's just not happening. I've tried to avoid thinking about him and all that but I've only been able to keep that up for a few days, max, before something comes along that reminds me of him and I have a mental breakdown all over again.
So I guess what I'm looking for here is just a possible explanation for why he would be doing this, because I can't come up with anything other than that he hates me now or something.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend broke up with me to avoid doing a LDR and hasn't talked to me since then even though we were good friends prior to dating. *WHY?* |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girfriend [19F] says I [18M] have got 5 hours to win her back. What do I do?
POST: So my girlfriend and I started dating a couple of months ago and it has been amazing. Since we live together in student dorms the relationship has been pretty intense and escalated very quickly to the point that we are both deeply in love with each other, and have told each other so.
Along the way we've had a few arguments and emotional makeups etc... The usual relationship drama. However, after the last fight it's been pretty serious and she's very upset. Basically I messed up and lied to her and she says that I have 5 hours to make it up. A bit strange but it is what it is.
Is there anything I can do? So far I was just thinking flowers and basically telling her how much I love her. Any suggestions?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend and i got into fight, gives me time to make it right/show her how much relationship means, need help! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Problems with chores around the house
POST: Hi there. I (24 F) am having trouble distributing chores around the house with my SO (24 M). Been together for 3.5 years. He is unemployed and has been for the last 6 months living off his savings and small side jobs he gets from friends. I feel that I have to clean up around the house pretty often and since I work full time and he is home full time I feel it is fair for him to do more than half of the chores. He has not been trying to find a job for the duration of his unemployment.
When we get in fights about how the sink is full of dishes he says he pays half of all our bills and should not have to do more than half the chores. I cook all our meals so I think it's fair for him to do the dishes. Also I feel like I end up doing the dishes more than he does because I like my kitchen clean and can't stand waiting 2-3 days for him to do them.
What should I do? Am I asking too much for him to help out more around the house? I know it's petty to fight about this stuff but it is frustrating to come home from work to a dirty house when I know he is just playing video games all day :(
TL;DR: | I want my bf to do more around the house since he is unemployed (but paying bills with his savings) while I work full time. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: i'm [23 M] an obsessive, anxious person. Does that make me undateable?
POST: I don't know how to put my problem into words. What i guess that i'm trying to say is that, i'm an anxious person, everything, every little moment, every little detail makes me obsess about it. God forbid i have a problem or else i'll be constantly thinking and thinking until something happens, and i start obsessing on the next thing my little anxious mind can get their figurative hands on.
And i guess that kind of behaviour can be a little off putting, so i'm constantly obsessing about being more relaxed, but, you know, if i put up a relaxed state, it usually looks forced.
It's something i've been obsessed about since, oh i don't know at least 1 year since a girl i was interested in, well it didn't work out. (but, boy did i obsess about her a lot, haha(mind you, not in a creepy way, i didn't end up calling her out of the blue or some weird stuff like that... (although sometimes i wanted to...)))
So i think that's actually my question, is being an anxious person a instant "no-date" status? I don't wanna end up like those frustrated guys that end up blaming an entire gender for their own short-comings....
TL;DR: | I'm an obsessive person and i wonder if that's something that would repel people i'm romantically interested in.... |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by forgetting to lock the door
POST: This morning before I left the house I pooped after I took a shower and then left for work because I was running a bit late. I live in Arizona where the weather is about 105 degrees right now and as a big guy, I suffer pretty heavily as a result of this. I park my car pretty far from work and walk about a mile or so to my actual office since parking there is a fucking nightmare. My stomach was weird this morning and I guess there was some leakage after I left the house this morning. As I walked to work, I felt the sweat and shit starting to combine and fester and I realized I had to get to work and wipe. The second I got to work, I basically ran into the restroom to do my business. I work in a small office so the bathroom is just a bathroom it's not stalls or anything like that. I pulled down my pants and bent over with my shitty sweaty ass facing the closed door behind me when someone walks in after I forgot to lock the door. I tried to tell her to close the door but all I got was this weird mumble whimper thing to come out. I'm now sitting at my desk embarrassed as fuck.
TL;DR: | Pooped, didn't wipe good enough, walked to work in heat, disgusting butt, didn't lock work restroom door when wiping, coworker saw. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 25/F. While I know I am young and have time I feel alone and dont know what to do.
POST: I will try and make this short. For the past almost 2 year's + I have been single and doing my thing. It has been great. I have a very hectic schedule which hinders me from going out to often. I don't drink but I also don't mind going to bars to hang out with friends (some think its odd but I enjoy the atmosphere with out getting drunk). Anyways I am the only person in my friends who is single. They are either in a long term realtionship, engaged or married. Which makes being single quite rough.
I am having a difficult time dealing with this. My friends are really good about not being overly affectionate in front of me but its still the concept that they have someone that makes it hard. I also think that because they are all younger then me makes it feel worse. I don't want to rush into a relationship or force finding someone but I also don't like feeling alone. I don't think anyone does but whatever. I guess my question is really what do you do when you single to make you feel ok with situations like this? I work out A LOT so that takes up most of my mental time outside of work but otherwise I have time to ponder my lonelyness.
TL;DR: | Only single person of my friends and I can't get that lonely feeling to go away. How did or do you do it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [F/22] pregnant. The father is an older man [M/44] and not my boyfriend. [M/30]
POST: I am a terrible person. I have never been able to be faithful in a relationship. When I cheat it has never been spiteful. I cheat simply because I love sex. Sex has been a way for me to show my friendship. I have had sex with almost all my friends, male and female. I try not to make friends because of this fact. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. I have been faithful to him the entire time, until recently. We moved to a different city and I was feeling lonely and wanted to make new friends. That is when I befriended an older man at my job. At first I saw him as a fatherly figure. He is older than my own mother. But as our friendship grew, I started to want to be closer to him. I tried pushing him away, because I knew if I befriended him more I would want to have sex with him. Until a month ago...
I work at a hotel and he is my client. He was having trouble in his room and he said he needed my help. I came in and he grabbed me and kissed me - very passionately. One thing after another we had unprotected sex. I took the day after pill the next day. I was ashamed and told him that I could not continue our friendship any longer. He has told me he loves me but I have only spoken to him once or twice since the incident.
A couple days ago I missed my period. I took a pregnancy test and it is positive. I am so ashamed of myself. I hate myself for what I have done. I feel so lonely because I want to be able to develop friendships where I don't end up having sex. I love my boyfriend so much and I have no idea what to tell him. I am wanting to get an abortion before this escalates even further. What should I do from here on?
TL;DR: | I had sex with an older man who impregnated me. I am not sure what to do from here. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I just got mauled by a bike and had to get stitches in my forehead. How can I minimize scarring?
POST: Hey Reddit, I've been biking regularly for over a decade, and have never before had any issues. Today, while biking, another biker was turning a corner at high speeds coming toward me on my side of the bike bath. I slowed my bike down until I was close to being stopped, and he proceeded to barrel into me.
I believe it is his handle bars that I hit my forehead on, and this succeeded in giving me a gash of about an inch and a half on my forehead. Apparently head wounds bleed a SHIT-TON (TIL). I went to the student health center and got stitched up, and I'm now poorly bandaged and chilling back at home.
My question: How can I best minimize scarring, and how bad should I expect the scarring to be?
TL;DR: | Have an open wound that has been stitched on my forehead, and I wish to minimize my chances of looking like I've been marked by Lord Voldemort. All advice is appreciated! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (17M) have been talking to a Japanese girl (17) for about 8 months, online only, how do I keep it going?
POST: As the title implies I need advice. Our
relationship is pretty platonic although we
get flirty at times, I study Japanese and
she studies English, we often use each
other to improve our respective languages
we are studying. I don't see this becoming
romantic, she is a typical Japanese
pacifist who is probably going to go to a
highly selective school in Japan (tokyo U),
while I'm an American from the south with
asperations to attend USNA, Christian
(she's Buddhist).
Surprisingly for the many differences we
have we are also very similar, we both
believe in working hard without
complaining, respecting family, and we
both want to work abroad at some point
(we love foreign cultures and talking
about each others). I plan on going to
Japan later this year and maybe meeting
her, any ideas on how not to botch this?
Also, with all the stress out colleges will
bring us, any ideas on how to keep good
contact? Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: | we have been talking for a while it's mostly platonic, but how do I keep it going while going through a tough college, and how do I not screw up a first meeting. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, do you have problems with your Mother / Father? And it's pretty much unfixable?
POST: I just got into a fight with my mom moments ago, she's a pretty irrational person, she said and I quote"You don't understand anything I have been through and you never will." In which I replied "Then why are we even having this conversation?" She exploded from there, saying fuck you to my face a lot, spitting at me, and the like. My mother and I have always been at odds and ends, and I have not exactly been the best son to her mainly things like not doing what she asked for a little too long, but I don't think it elicits this type of behavior. Am I wrong for thinking that? Do you have any similar experiences?
TL;DR: | My mom seems to straight up hate me, and I don't think it's justified. Do you have similar feelings with your parents? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to be a bad ass
POST: Like all fuck ups, this happened not today but as a freshmen in High School. You know those railings that are metal that most skaters are trying to grind on and what not? That's where my fuck up happened.
I was hanging out with some friends and I wanted to get to class early because I've been late multiple times that week. I took off running as fast as I can to my class. My classroom was at a bottom of a slightly elevated hill so I picked up speed rather quickly. There was a ramp on the left side that was literally two feet away that would have hindered my running not even 3 seconds but I'm trying to be a bad ass and I attempt to leap on the railing to jump off and get to class.
That didn't happen.
I leap onto the railing and my right foot slips and catches on the bottom part of the railing and I slam head first into the cement. Everybody around me gasped and got silent immediately. I pick myself up and wave looking really embarrassed and walk into class. My teacher looks at me worried and asks if I need to go to the nurse. I told her I was fine and that I should be okay. After that, she's laughing her ass off and so is the rest of people in my class. To this day, I think back and chuckle a little bit. The great fuck up of Joker 808 Man.
TL;DR: | tried to leap over a railing, foot got caught, slammed my head into concrete, most of my school saw what happened |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [15 M], My Ex-Girlfriend [15F] 1 1/2 months is hanging out with my best friends more than me. What can I say so that I don't have to see the girl who broke my heart every time I hang out with MY friends?
POST: Be sure to explain in detail with line breaks.
So me and my girlfriend broke up last thursday
it was really hard for me since she said that she liked me more when we were friends.
She changed, i didn't
hurts so badly to see her laughing it up with my friends
I just don't know what to do.
I went on a movie date with someone this saturday and it went great and I really like them but i just don't know if I'm ready for a relationship and I don't know how to tell her.
I think I'm just going to keep dating this new girl and hope my ex fades out of my friends life. Unless anyone has any advice. Thanks a lot if you have any advice.
TL;DR: | My ex is still hanging out with my best friends. How do i tell them all that it hurts to see her almost daily? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: reddit, should you never tell a girl you like her?
POST: I'm a 22 year old guy who's kinda rusty, haven't dated since I was teenager (my last relationship was 1~2 years back in high school). I haven't had any problems with dating, just haven't met the right girl.
This past September I met a girl at school who was pretty cool, she's 19, a few years younger than me. I didn't really get to know her then due to time limitations. She also had a boyfriend at the time, but is now single and free to see other people.
Recently as winter-break has come upon us we've been getting closer. We've been talking a lot, (albeit online, but talking nevertheless). The more I get to know her, the more she makes me laugh and smile, especially during these would-be depressing times.
I guess the obvious move would be to ask her out, save I really don't want to through the internet (just seems distasteful). So alternatively should I just let her know I like her? (This so-called, making your intentions clear). I just feel it's contrary to the unwritten advice I was given as to, "Never under any circumstances, let a girl know you like her."
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TL;DR: | ) I like a girl I've recently met, should I let her know I like her or just ask her out? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (20m) trying to redefine my standards for a relationship after a bad break up with 22f, I wrote a list.
POST: She was very distant, temperamental and sometimes outright mean. So I wrote a list of requirements for me to be happy with a relationship and want to make sure they're not too demanding.
Anyway here is what I wrote (updated a bit in response to feedback):
-I must feel they are trustworthy to such an extent that I am comfortable that things are okay and not have to worry about them while they are not around.
-They must be consistently affectionate (pay compliments, frequently initiate kisses, hugs, etc) and be resilient to contrary emotional pressures in regards to such. I don't want someone to cut me off emotionally just because we disagree on something.
-They must trust me enough to not take negative implications from things that I say without asking me if they are accurate first in the context of an otherwise neutral or positive conversation.
-They must actively desire to keep me happy and satisfied, and take interest in my pursuits to achieve that. (Basically be a good friend)
-They must not criticise me for what I consider my core personality traits (sentimental, resilient, introspective, hypothetical and forgiving). If they find those traits disagreeable then they find me disagreeable and we shouldn't be together.
-They must frequently initiate sex and be enthusiastic about making sure I feel fulfilled, exceptions made only for medical conditions. I don't mean they can't ever reject sex, just that if I find our sex drives incompatible and I want it way more than they do then we can't be together.
-They must share similar passions and interests and be actively sympathetic towards differences.
-I must feel comfortable enough to share my emotions, thoughts and interests with them.
-During arguments they must desire to minimise conflict rather than escalate it.
TL;DR: | Do most of these sound reasonable? I don't want to have any unrealistic expectations but at the same time I don't want to settle for anything less than would make me happy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf (F:20) is mad that she received the same present as my ex-gf did over a year and a half ago.
POST: Background: I'm a M:21 and my gf is F:20. We have been together for over 8 months as of today. She is mad at me for receiving a Valentine's Day gift that is the same exact gift as my ex-gf received two years ago. My mom gave my ex-gf her gift on a completely random day while I was dating her over two years ago. I forgot that my mom did that and gave my current gf the same gift during Valentine's Day this year.
Current Issue: My current gf found out today that she received the same gift as my ex, and threw away the gift and threatened that I'm on the last straw with her. The only other thing that happened was when I started seeing my current gf, I flirted with two other women BEFORE we got into a relationship.
So r/relationships, should I tell my current gf that she hurt my feelings by throwing away the gift? Should I just focus on being with her? She brings up the fact that I flirted with those girls all the time and it really messes with me. What should I do? Any advice is welcomed.
TL;DR: | My current gf found out she received the same gift as an ex, is currently pissed and keeps bringing up issues from before relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Hired a shipping company for my overseas move now they are trying to extort money from me! What can do I?
POST: Reddit, I really need some help. I hired to move our household goods from the US to Singapore. Everything was pre-packed and I provided a listing of our items. Actually, everything was sent out of a 10x10 storage unit and I was quoted a price for door to door. Everything seemed great and the guys came and took all of my belongings and money. I even paid for insurance...
Now that I am in Singapore I received an email for almost 50% more in fees because they are claming that my shipment was too big and they had to wrap my furniture (again it was already wrapped). I'm not sure what to do. The company is telling me that I need to pay and is not helping me at all.
Sadly, I ran into some websites about them after all this took place.
The sites describe horror stories of similar experiences where people are told to pay more and/or lose their entire shipment as it is auctioned off.... How is this legal?? I could really use help/advice.
TL;DR: | INTLMove provided price, picked up goods, and I moved from US to Singapore. Received email that I now owe $1800 more of my original $4k price... Already left country. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20M] am feeling conflicted about being with my SO [23F] of 4 years due to attraction.
POST: I have had a wonderful relationship with my SO for 4 years now. We met online at first and visited each other often, we lived together during breaks and summers until she graduated college and are now living together permanently as I continue my degree. She is the best person I could ask for in a girlfriend. We have complimenting personalities, rarely fight, and just love to be with each other. However, she is a bit overweight (5'5'' / ~150 lbs). When I look into her eyes, she is the most beautiful person in the world to me. But when I see he in comparison to previous girlfriends / girls around campus in general, I have very shallow thoughts. I hate myself for it. I have always had these lingering thoughts once in a while, it's kind of a cycle. I normally try to get rid of these thoughts by appreciating her other assets. The worst part? She had bulimia problems in the past when she was younger, and I just feel terrible that these thoughts even enter my mind. We work out together, and she has lost a little weight over the course of 4 years. I always look longingly at the girls on campus, and my heart wrenches if they ever flirt with me. She has always been very self conscious. I have never seen her fully naked, for example; she always has something covering the middle area. In terms of our sex, I would put it at a solid good. It could be better, but it certainly isn't bad.
What I think: I think I'm a greedy asshole that doesn't fully appreciate what he has, and if I were to ever move on from this woman it would be the biggest mistake of my life. But as I say that, the small voice in the back of my head says "but what if it's a mistake to stay?"
It would be unfair to simply ask "what should I do?!" So I suppose my question is, "is this normal?" I am hoping this is just a phase of my instincts wanting to "spread the seed."
TL;DR: | Conflicted about being with my gf of 4 years due to shallow feelings of her appearance. I have no idea how to approach the issue due to her intense self consciousness. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit what is your craziest hook up story? (Nsfw?)
POST: Last night I was leaving a late night bar alone when three out of town girls pulled up and asked me to jump in their car. Being a drunken idiot and seeing that the girl in the back was quite attractive I obliged.
They were staying in a hotel so I suggested that we all go back to my place and away we went. Shortly after the car ride started the girl in the front (not attractive) reached back and started rubbing my crotch. I was so shocked I didn't know what to do. The attractive girl in the back joined in and they both demanded that I take off my pants, to which I immediately complied.
They played around with me for a while but I was too drunk to immediately get hardso I said that we should wait until we got to my place and we could all fool around. However. In the confusion of having my member out in front of 3town women within minutes of meeting them I had given them the wrong directions. We ended up several miles from my apartment.
The attractive girl indicated that her car was nearby and that she and I would take it. Back to my place and spend the night together. I stepped out of the car and attractive girl had both arms and head out of the open door when the car abruptly sped away.
I was in shock, as I had just been heavily molested then dumped several miles from my apartment and had to walk home.
Who else has a crazy hook up story?
TL;DR: | got picked up by 4 ladies who ripped my clothes off then dropped me on the side of the road several miles away from civilization. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [21M] get over an ex [21F] that I just can't get out of my head?
POST: We were very close and were best friends that talked 24/7 for months before we even discussed our feelings for each other and then dated for just over a year. But now things have ended and we don't really talk anymore. I can't get her out of my head and it's extremely frustrating and detrimental. On top of this I suffer from anxiety which is making these issues worse. For example I have been having a lot of anxiety/panic attacks lately and when this happens I freak out and text my ex because I don't know who else to turn to but she gives a minimal response and basically says she doesn't want to talk. I want to respect her want to not talk to me but I feel awful because when my anxiety gets bad I end up annoying her and making things worse between us.
Obviously there are some personal issues at play here but I also know I need to get over her. So what are some good ways to get over an ex? I know the classics like "just ignore those thoughts" or "get a hobby" but with my mental issues I can't ignore it that easily and as a poor college student I'm pretty much already doing any hobbies that I can afford. Any help would really be appreciated and would help me be happy again.
TL;DR: | I'm stuck on an ex and rely on her for mental support but I need to get over her and don't know how to. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My(20f) friend(22m) is having some problems with somethings and I don't know how to help
POST: My friend let's call him Kyle is having some issues with self esteem and finding a girl. It's pretty clear he's a mildly attractive guy with a good personality but he had some issues with his ex and it's making his self esteem issues worse.
I think he might be depressed but whenever I bring anything along the lines of a therapist he seems to almost get angry and I can understand I have major issues myself and seeing a therapist is even hard for me. His ex is a terrible person but he's so good he was able to see a good side in her. He feels left down because she was very sexually conservative acting during their relationship (at least towards him) but in reality she had slept with several men before him. I tried to explain that she was using him but he seems to think it was his fault. And she was using him the she only kept him to get back at her ex because she was broken up with. I'm not very good at giving men advice because I personally go straight to therapy.
Am I looking at this the wrong way? He keeps saying things about how he's going to end up alone and practically friendless (I'm one of maybe a handful a friends) and I'm worried. What should I do and is there any advice I can give him or anything I can do for him? I'm a lesbian and he knows this which is likely why he shares this information with me comfortably but I don't know what to say. I don't think he needs pills but he might need an outside point of view and since I know both of them there's not much I can do.
TL;DR: | friend might be depressed but gets upset when when professionals are brought into convo. I don't know how to give men advice. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of 5 months, broke up yesterday
POST: We had been together for a few months, and it was still a budding relationship. I hoped we could go further, but she said she was not ready for a comitted relationship, and she felt something was lacking in ours. It was her first relationship, and she expected something more passionate, although she does not blame me for anything. She's a great girl, but I guess I was not the one.
It really sucks losing a friend as well as a romantic partner; I'm going to miss talking and going out with her. We could remain friends, and she stated she would like to, as she feels bad for losing me as friend too. But frankly I don't know if I'll be able to see her as just a friend, and forget our history together. At the same time, the thought of having seen her and talked to her for the last time in my life is terrifying.
We also disussed what each of us could change to find the right person. She said that I have wonderful qualities, but maybe don't show them enough for people to get interested in me. She said that I am hard to read and should let my emotions show more (I am quite reserved indeed). I feel like I've been living my life wrong the whole time, I'm not sure what I want, or who I want to be anymore.
I know most of it will sort itself out in time, and it may sound stupid considering the duration of the relationship, but I feel really bad none the less. What's the best advice you can give to help me deal with the break-up?
TL;DR: | hoped to go further with my girlfriend, but she said it's not you it's me. Not sure if we should remain friends, and I feel like shit. Advice on how to move forward? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: [Help] My Dog
POST: So I have a multipoo and he isn't trained to not run away and dosent know any tricks and he bites if he dosent wanna be petted. His most loved family member is my mom. Whenever he sees her he gets excited, jumps up and down, whines, and stays curled up next to her all day. But whenever my dad is around him he barks at him nonstop until you have to give him a treat to stop barking. Same goes for when he runs away. Whenever he runs away he's usually only gone for 10 minutes, 20 minutes at the latest. We have no idea what happens when he leaves but he always comes back, I have no idea how he knows how to get back though. When he comes back he barks and barks until we are forced to give him a treat. He probably has like 2-4 treats a day. My dad is kinda mean to the dog, like when he poops or pees in the house he'll threaten him or try to hit him which will make him run away and bark. He barks at everything. He barks at squirrels, people walking their dogs outside, cars pulling into the driveway and people coming up to the door and knocking or ringing the doorbell. And we can't stop it cause our living room has a HUGE window with a couch in front of it, and the dog basically sits there and barks all day everyday non stop. He only knows 2 tricks which are sit and shake. Also when he bites he bites for no reason. He used to eat a lot of human food (scraps/pieces) but he dosent do that much anymore. Now he throws up a bunch and my parents and I say we should take him to a vet but they don't want too because they say it'll cost too much and it's a waste of money.
TL;DR: | My 5 yr old multipoo is physcotic. He's not trained, always runs away, bites, barks everyday, is given 2-4 treats a day to stop bad behavior, etc. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23/F] am planning to leave my emotionally abusuve boyfriend [25/M] of 2 years. How do I do it?
POST: I have been with my boyfriend "Harry" for 2 years now and we moved in together from the get go. This was a mistake, which I soon learnt, and we also work together too.
He is emotionally abusive to me. He is always trying to control me, belittle me, embarrass me. He throws strops all the time and I always have to fix it. I have actually left him before (a year ago and it was VERY messy) but he promised to change, so I stupidly went back. He is very manipulative also and I just feel unhappy everyday.
I have had enough now and vowed to myself that I would leave when I could get a new job and some money together (which is hard because he controls) but I have a new job I'm starting soon and I have a generous mum and friend who are willing to help.
This new job means I will be working different hours to him and a different location (although unfortunately, the same company).
I am just in two minds as to whether I should move all my stuff and go no contact while he's at work or if I should speak to him before/ after I move my stuff out? I feel really torn because we have a cat together so I feel bad at the thought of him coming home to an empty flat (most furniture is mine) and no girlfriend or cat with no explanation?
Should I just try and be strong about it and leave with no trace or if I should be nice and talk to him so he understands? Also any general advice about leaving an abusive relationship would be helpful? TIA
TL;DR: | I am planning on leaving an abusive relationship with my boyfriend. How should I do it? Should I leave and go no contact or try and explain the issues after my stuff is moved out?. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28F] with my bf [30 M] 3 years, is it stupid to break up with someone if they won't propose?
POST: So I love my boyfriend. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Which is why I am in turmoil. I really want to get married, or at least engaged very soon but it just doesn't seem like its going to happen. I don't know why I make myself crazy about wanting to be engaged, in fact, I really hate this side of myself, but the urge is so strong. Every day I keep hoping and keep getting disappointed and it really hurts every time I see someone else has gotten engaged.
We had a discussion about it before, it was positive enough, but he had no idea of time line. I also worry now that I am pressuring him but on the other hand he knows how much it means to me and he still hasn't done it so its driving me mad. I want to to have another discussion but I don't want to add strain to the relationship or drive him away but at the same time it is killing me to keep it all inside.
Despite myself, I guess I've found out that this is really important to me and I am having serious thoughts of breaking up. I love him so much and I know it sounds crazy to walk out on the best thing in my life, but I suppose I have to try find some one who can give me everything I need? I don't want a proposal from someone who feels forced into it, I feel like if he loves me he'll want to do it. We are coming up on four years together now.
I guess I just want to know peoples opinions (nice ones please). This is not something I am taking lightly. It had been tormenting me for almost a year. I feel crazy and just want to know if anyone has been in a similar situation and what they did. And is there any way to make my dumb brain just relax and be in love without being engaged?
TL;DR: | Really want to get married. Bf doesn't want tobsoon. Feel crazy/stupid for even considering breaking up. But both options (no proposal/breaking up) will break my heart. Need advice. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] with my GF [20F] of 8 months, is she going on dates with another man?
POST: *
TL;DR: | My girlfriend went on a date, but didn't know it was one, guy didn't know she had a boyfriend. However, he has asked her out again. Advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/M], my gf [18/F] wants to go away for 10 days with her male uni friends.
POST: I've been with this girl for 2 months now and everything is going great. However, in the last week she has been invited to go on a 10 day road trip with 3 of her male friends from uni. That issue does not particularly worry me as i trust her completely and i know the people she is going with. The issue i have is that its pretty much been said that i cant come, even though i'm completely free simply because i don't think the guys want me to go, and my gf doesn't seem to have any particular objection to that. It feels shit. I really like this girl and want to spend as much time with her as possible, but even though she says otherwise, it inherently seems like she wants to have fun with her uni friends more.
I've talked to her but i don't think she understands this because all she see is the fun she'll get to have. I'm not going to stop her from going, but I want to know if my feeling of dejection is justified or if i'm just overreacting.
TL;DR: | She wants to go away without me for 10 days that i'm free, i feel cut by that. Am i justified or overreacting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 35m with my GF 32f of 1 year. One particular thing about her sexual history bothers me...
POST: So we've been dating for about a year now. We're at the stage of our relationship where recently things have been getting more and more serious. We've been telling each other some of our deepest secrets, sharing certain details of our sexual history, etc.
She has had many sexual partners... close to 100 in her lifetime. To me that's a really high number, and it used to worry me, however I do no believe she would cheat on me so I've been ok with it.
However, there is one story she told me that really... bothers me? Not even sure how to feel about it. Basically, she told me that when she was a teenager, she was always really horny, but couldn't find a lot of sex partners. So, she masturbated a lot. One time, she was feeling really horny, and she tried to get her dog to lick her off. The dog didn't co-operate, so she got frustrated and ended the process.
Part of me thinks, eh, it's probably not that uncommon and I'm glad she trusted me enough to tell me about it. Then again, part of me thinks, fuck, that's a super perverted thing for a teenage girl to do!
Also, one guy basically raped her, and she didn't really cut him out of her life afterward. She felt raped and violated (she told me the story, and it was rape for sure) but she kind of blamed herself for the incident to some degree, and she never cut the guy out of her life. To the point where even after she and I were together, she once made us go hang out with him. (Before I knew the story). After I found out their history together, I told her it was really inappropriate and weird for her to still be friends with him... she then cut him out of her life, but I can't help but feel like she only did it because I told her to?
Just not sure what to think..
TL;DR: | GF has strange sexual history, including an incident with a dog, and failed to cut off contact with a guy who raped her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [almost 28M] boyfriend of a month and a half makes crude comments to me [28F] and about other women.
POST: I've been dating my significant other for about 6 weeks now. For the most part things are good. We communicate well, we have fairly similar outlooks on life and our kids get along decently.
The big issue I'm having is the way he treats me periodically. He will comment quite often on other women's appearances to the point where it makes me feel uncomfortable. Today we were in a shopping centre with the kids and he saw two good looking women go into a juice store and suggested we follow them in.
He also made two comments today about my weight. I'm not a small person by any means. I'm tall and chubby but I also recently lost 70lbs (F 6'1" 315-245). He's also a bigger guy which confuses me as to why he would say things like that. When he was saying those things it made me feel really self conscious and back to the way I felt when I was still 315lbs.
When he doesn't act that way he's really sweet and caring. I am just confused as to what person will be around for the long haul. He also has trust issues as he left an 8 year relationship (4 years dating 4 years married) earlier this year because she cheated.
I've come a long way with my self esteem and with the weight loss that I don't want his crude comments and negativity ruin it for me. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend of 6 weeks is sometimes really sweet but other times comments on other women's appearances and also has recently started to make comments on my weight when I've lost 70lbs |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: I don't know if I have a ticket or not.
POST: Last night I was on a drunken stroll when two officers stopped me and asked me where I live. I remember getting in the car and the next thing I remember is waking up in my bed. I was on a backwoods road, so I don't think public intoxication is an issue, but when I checked my wallet this morning, my driver's license was upside down, so I'm assuming I took it out to show it to them. Meaning they would know I'm underage. They seemed to have my best interests at heart, but I really don't know if they slapped a fine on me. Is there a way to find out short of walking into the precinct and saying, "Hey I'm a minor who was wasted last night! Do I have a ticket?"
TL;DR: | I may or may not have a charge for minor possession on my record and most of my conversation with the police is blacked out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex[17 F] just said the most unawkward thing ever to me [18 M]
POST: So for years the relationship between me and my ex had been shaky. Since 2012, (when we broke up) talks were very random and they always, for lack of a better word, sucked. Usually she'll complained that I ruined her life and things like that, and it wasn't exactly easy for me either considering she immediately started dating one of my good friends like days after breaking up. (It did not last long FYI).
Being this year, my last year at school, I'm currently dating someone else [17 F], my ex got really weird and started to hang around me heaps and flirting at parties when I'm around. One morning she basically said to my girlfriend "where is he?", "oh ill go wake him up". It was all very strange.
Today was the "last" day of school and as I walked past my ex she said to me "have a nice life if I never see you again" and walked away with a smile. I said "you too" and those will probably be the last words we ever say to each other. I thought it was really nice.
Should I feel this way? It just feels strange that ill never have to put up with all the mess again.
TL;DR: | Basically my ex's last words to me were "have a nice life, if I never see you again" and mine were "you too". |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some oblivious things people do that frustrate you?
POST: I have an english teacher that tries to use technology in every facet of our class, much to my disdain. I don't have a problem with technology, but I develop one when he spends minutes fiddling because his apple tv won't connect with his iPhone. He's begun routinely asking us to purchase things that I find unnecessary (books on kindle, netflix) because that's what he uses. My favorite conversation however is when he mentioned that new head of technology would like to know when the school internet isn't working. So I laughed and pointed out the problem, "Send an email when there's no internet?". With a smug face he looks back at me and says, "well you have internet on your phone right?". And then I took great delight in replying, "nope, not actually, just have an old nokia". He tried to get us to start netflix accounts so that we can watch movies that he assigns, and then when he assigned a book not in the curriculum he wants us to use the kindle app. What's wrong with a good old fashioned book?!
TL;DR: | teacher so caught up in using (abusing) technology that he is oblivious to the fact not everyone has every type of account. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Bedtime advice needed: My 17 month daughter used to be great abiut going to bed. We would put her in the crib and she'd cover up and sleep all night.
POST: Then she got an ear infection that woke her up in the night, that was followed by a bad diaper rassh that did the same. Now she is well but it seems bed time terrifies her. We put her down and she screams to the point she forces herself to vomit. She wakes up in the night and is only consoled by coming to mommy & daddy's bed. Afternoon naps are much easier. she is a little fussy about going down but will go down.
Putting her to bed starts at 930 and some nights doesn't end until 1:30 which is really screwing with our sleep putting our worklives in jeopardy.
TL;DR: | Baby used to love going to bed now doesn't. Short of drugs I want to get her to bed at night. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20m] and [21F] of about 1 year, relationship coming to an end. How to handle with her and myself and future
POST: Me and my SO are going to be ending the relationship we've had for about 1 year in about 2 weeks when I leave to study abroad and Spain and she starts a sleep away camp job over the summer. We've had a great relationship, usually don't fight and have been able to talk through things with each other, usually pertaining to religion (more on that in a sec).
The whole idea started off with taking a break during the summer as we wouldn't be in contact with her at the sleep away camp, no phones except one day a week, and id be in Europe. But recently she basically pulled out of that and said the relationship would be over.
Basically the reason why is even though we are compatible in every way, the problem is with her religious views, and she always feels conflicted because I'm not the same religion as her, and she wants the relationship and her future husband to follow Jesus and be a role model of Jesus etc, etc...
It'll be hard for both of us, but were basically spending about a week together after finals and then saying our goodbyes, What are some good tips for handling the breakup well and not dwelling on what could have been, because if not for this we probably could have been together for a long time (she had told me that), but she couldn't get past the conflicting feeling she had, and couldn't find a way to reconcile it. the decision to end was kind of mutual, but definitely more her decision.
We're hoping to possibly be able to hang out again, but both know it'll be after we've moved on. So it could be a while
TL;DR: | SO and I of a year are kind of sort of mutually ending things in two weeks; best way to handle the week before while we are still hanging out, and the future |
SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: 2 years old now and whining is escalating
POST: Hi all! Did a search on whining and haven't found anything not already considered and or attempted.
We adopted our girl Lexi when she was 9 months old, and at the time she was a remarkably quiet dog. She rarely barked, never cried through crate training, didn't cry when left alone, didn't cry when we shut the door with her on the other side. She still doesn't really whine for those reason. I can't figure out why she is whining. Most of the time (aside from wanting to play and throwing a toy in your face) she doesn't seem to be trying to communicate anything in particular.
She learned whining from a dog friend around the age of 1, and it was quite intermittent for the first 9 months she started doing it. She doesn't appear to be in pain. She has water. She has food (which she is likely actively ignoring), she has access to toys and rawhides and or raw bones. She gets regular daily exercise and training. She will refuse affection or to go outside, whether for a walk or to "go potty" (we have the bells for over a year now and she still is scared of them so I think I might put them in a bowl and slather them with something gooey and disgusting she won't be able to resist). Ignore her and she will whine for upwards of 45 minutes. Ask her what she needs and she'll lead you in circles. I do most of my work from home, and this is really starting to burn me out. I need some ideas. So far I have been entirely unsuccessful in getting her to bark, whine, yawn, growl, or lick "on command" or mimic although she is right on track with most all her other training.
TL;DR: | Dog learned whining late. Hasn't learned to use it to effectively communicate needs or wants yet. Frequency and duration is increasing. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend(24f) is driving 18 hours straight over night and I(21m) haven't heard from her in a while so I am getting worried
POST: My girlfriend went on vacation to Cleveland. We are from Oklahoma she decided to drive 18 hours straight overnight against my advisory and I am pretty worried because I haven't heard from her in 5 hours.
She texted me before she left to let me know she was gettIng on the road and that she would text me when she got to a gas station. When she got to a gas station about 4 hours later she texted me again to let me know the drive was going well and that she was 11 hours away.
After the 2 text I didn't hear anything from her. I decided to just get some rest because I have to work in the morning but it has been about 5 hours and I haven't heard anything from her. I am getting very worried. I'm pretty upset that she decided to drive such an unsafe distance all the way through.
I am not sure if something happened to her or if I am just over reacting and if something did happen I am not sure if there is a way for me to fInd out.
TL;DR: | girlfriend driving 18 hours straight to get back from vacation and I haven't heard from her in a long time. I am worried that something might have happened and I am not sure if there is any way of me finding out |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: As a pedestrian on a sidewalk would you rather a) be hit by a bicyclist (on the sidewalk illegally) or b) Witness a bicyclist on the street be hit by a car
POST: I was having a discussion with friends and it came up about how annoyed people were with people on bikes on the sidewalk. I am an experienced biker myself and more often a pedestrian of the sidewalks and as such think that bicycles belong on the road, going with traffic. However I said that there are a few situations in which I think people should be allowed to use the sidewalk on their bike:
1) Children
2) Elderly
3) Handicapped/Disabled (not sure of proper terms here)
4) Abled, considerate adults who think that that section of road for whatever reason is unsafe for them to ride. This often depends on rider level etc.
As a defense for 4 I said that even as a pedestrian I would rather be hit by a bicyclist on the sidewalk (which would even eliminate the considerate clause above) then just witness a bicyclist get hit by a car and furthermore think that I am in the majority in saying so.
My friend said that he believes the majority of people would rather no personal injury (of low risk), but would not mind witnessing the injury of another (even if it is much more severe).
So reddit which is it?
TL;DR: | As a pedestrian on a sidewalk would you rather a) be hit by a bicyclist (on the sidewalk illegally) or b) Witness a bicyclist on the street be hit by a car |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28M] with my gf [27F] 1 year, fight because I think she makes irrational decisions at times and she gets mad at me saying I'm always lecturing her...
POST: Example 1: we travel often and she uses her cellphone as she goes and refuses to just opt for a package that would save her literally hundreds of dollars. I've told her several times now and even offer to do it for her but yet she continues to ignore what in my opinion is a common sense logical money saving decision.
She gets mad because I keep bringing it up and she says I keep lecturing her over it.
I admit I feel like I am lecturing her and I wish I don't have to be but I just wants what is best for her and potentially us in the future. It frustrates me a lot and she gets very upset with me about it that it's a touchy topic.
TL;DR: | Gf won't subscribe to cellphone plan when on vacation and thus incurs hundreds of extra dollars in fees and gets mad at me and says I lecture her all the time. I just want to save money or not throw it away. |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Is my ex using me for bed and breakfast?
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So me (20m) and my ex (23f) are, at least i thought, good friends but resently I've started doubting our friendshi... Mer
Så mig ( 20m ) och mitt ex ( 23f ) är , åtminstonejag trodde , goda vänner men resently jag har börjat tvivla på vår...
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Byt till svenskaSo me (20m) and my ex (23f) are, at least i thought, good friends but resently I've started doubting our friendship. We sometimes go out to party together and such, or did, before a close family member died a few weeks ago. Since the loss I've been full of grief and developed some trust issues. Thinking back on the times me and my ex have been out partying I've started to suspect she choose to bring me with her only to have somewhere to sleep, since she lives far from town. Now I've realized that she only speaks to me when she plans to go out, and my place is the only place in town she can stay at if she doesn't find some guy to hook up with.
Am I paranoid or is she using me to have somewhere to sleep?
TL;DR: | Me and my ex are out drinking from time to time. She lives far from town and my place is the only place for her to stay. Is she using me to have somewhere to sleep? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] just got dumped by my SO [23M] of 4 years. I don't know how to move on.
POST: It's been almost two weeks since he told me that he didn't think we should be together anymore. We have been pretty long-term and were planning on getting married within the next five years.
About a month ago is when things started heading in a bad direction. He started acting really distant with me, he broke up plans to move in together (we had lived together for a year, ran out of money and were saving again at our parents' houses), and just didn't talk to me the way he used to. He was always very affectionate towards me and that stopped very suddenly.
He told me we broke up because he wasn't happy and he thought that he didn't love me the same way anymore. I did not take it well. I'm very embarrassed about what happened that night. I threatened to kill myself, I smacked him, I threw things, I overreacted. (not happy with how that ended at all, I feel like someone else did these things, not me)
He hasn't talked to me at all during this time period, not even when I dropped his stuff off at his house (I made sure he wasn't home). I'm going crazy trying to figure out whether or not we really are done forever or not, or whether he needs me to reach out first.
I also don't know how to deal with not being with him. I am already sort of trying to figure out if I want to date someone else, but I also don't know if that's even 'moving on'.
I just need some advice, some perspective, and maybe just some kind words.
TL;DR: | I got blindsided and told my relationship of almost five years was over. How do I start to either move on or try and patch things up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my [20 F] have been talking for a week. HELPPPP
POST: Is it weird when someone you been talking to you went from blowing up your phone to talking briefly?
This girl I've been talking to for a week. Tells me how good of a guy I am, good manners etc.
We had dinner Tuesday, cooked Thursday and we partied Saturday night. We made out and cuddled. Sunday before I left all was good. Then Monday I felt cold shoulder all of the sudden. Texts went from a lot to like 20.
She did not send a single ":)" Monday. She usually sends that a lot.
Today (Tuesday) we have not talked. I did want to be the that guy that always texts.
The weirdest part is that I met all of her friends and she even told her mom about me.
TL;DR: | Met this girl that blew up my phone, everything seems well, claims to like me and now nothing. How could all that just stop all of the sudden? HELP |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Does the desire to be with someone forever grow on you? SO just broke up with me over this...
POST: A little back story first. My girlfriend of 3 months broke up with me last night/this morning. Since we started dating we were both really in to each other, and everything was going brilliantly, but recently things started to change. She was worried that I wasn't as commited as she was, which is true. She had told me that she thought i was 'the one for her' etc and that she would love me forever, but I could never say it back because at the minute, after our short time together, I don't feel the same.
I guess I just want to know if anyone has any experience with this. Does the desire to be with someone grow as a relationship continues, or is this the sort of thing you know immediately? I loved the time we spent together and I'm pretty sure I could salvage the relationship if I think that I could feel this in the future. By the way we're both 25 and have had a few majorish relationships in the past (1 yr long or so), although it's probably worth a mention that she got married at 21 and her husband cheated on her multiple times. I can see how this would have an affect on how she sees this sort of situation.
(Apologies if the above doesn't read too well, am just trying to get everything down)
TL;DR: | SO broke up with me this morn because she wants to be with me forever and i'm not sure...any advice would be greatly welcomed. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Potential new relationship for me [24/M] and a new girl I met [22/F]. Quick question.
POST: I got invited to a female friend's (Sarah) house for a BBQ 3 weeks ago and met her flatmate (Michelle) for this first time. Absolute stunner. The next day I told Sarah that I had some interest in Michelle and she is all for it. Since then we've hung out multiple times on both weekends with the rest of their flat, and I'm having a great time. I'm ready to ask her out.
I haven't dated for a couple years now so I'm sitting here thinking about how I'll go about things. I plan on calling her on Monday and asking her out for dinner. Hopefully she'll say yes. Assuming she does, when I go to pick her up I'm wondering what to do when I get to the house. It's very much an open door policy with friends there, don't bother knocking, just walk in and go hang out. But if I'm taking her out on a date, would it be more appropriate/respectable to knock and wait?
I'm just a little nervous because Michelle is a really great girl and I would really like for this to work out.
TL;DR: | Potentially going to date a new girl and I'm a little lost on etiquette difference when going to the house to hang out with friends and going there to take her out on a date. |
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