 unsafe, even for the city we live in. I wanted to teach her a lesson about the dangers of leaving valuables in a car and unfortunately chose to look through her purse so that I could say something like "Imagine if someone had a hold of your wallet/money/valuable etc." The reason I said unfortunately is that because of this route I took, I ended up discovering a fake out-of-state license; and clearly my daughter isn't of legal drinking age (21 in our state).
Now I'm stuck in a rut. I know I shouldn't say "I searched through your stuff, etc., and found this, what do you make of this..." because this is a breach of trust, and I regret it, but at the same time I'm so deeply concerned that she's underage and using this "license" as a way to bypass legal requirements.
What should I do? How do I "confront", albeit not the right word, but how do I deal with this?

After reading through the answers here I went for a diplomatic approach instead of trying to aggressively force the issue. She told me the license was only used to bypass the age 21 limit at some concerts which I could see making sense but she was clear she had not used any alcohol although that was my assumption initially. Overall things were cleared up smoothly and I have all of you to thank for the advice!

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I think you need to certainly do some confronting. P. Roe is correct in that multiple felonies are involved here (fake ID, and violating alcohol laws at a minimum, more if she doesn't have her own valid license).
However, vehemently I disagree with P. Roe about not respecting your daughter, at any age, but especially now. She's old enough to a) work, b) be charged with felonies and c)drive a car (aka an object that kills "about as many"* people as guns do in the US). She's not incapable of responsibility or independent actions (such as committing multiple felonies, circumventing procedures, and facing the consequences of such actions).
In fact, I feel that going through her things in your first attempt of showing her "that she needs to not keep valuables in her car" was wrong, due to the breach of trust that you are now discovering (in fact, speaking from experience, I can say that the breach of trust would have been WORSE had you found nothing,
unsafe, even for the city we live in. I wanted to teach her a lesson about the danger of leave valuables in a car and unfortunately chose to front through her purse so that I could say something like " think if someone had a hold of your wallet / money / valuable etc. " The reason I say unfortunately is that because of this route I took, I end up discovering a fake out - of - country license; and intelligibly my daughter isn't of legal drinking age (21 in our state). 
 Now I'm stuck in a estrus. I know I shouldn't say " I searched through your material, etc. , and found this, what do you make of this... " because this is a breach of trust, and I regret it, but at the like time I'm indeed deeply concerned that she's underage and use this " license " as a way to bypass legal requirements. 
 What should I do? How do I " confront ", albeit not the right word, but how do I share with this? 

 After reading through the answers here I went for a diplomatic approach instead of trying to aggressively force the issue. She told me the license was only use to bypass the age 21 limit at some concert which I could examine make sense but she was clear she had not use any alcohol although that was my premise initially. Overall things were cleared up smoothly and I accept all of you to thank for the advice! 

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 I think you need to certainly do some confronting. P. Roe is correct in that multiple felonies are involve here (fake ID, and violating alcohol laws at a minimum, more if she doesn't have her own valid license). 
 However, vehemently I disagree with P. Roe about not respect your daughter, at any age, but particularly now. She's old enough to a) work, b) be charged with felonies and c)drive a cable car (aka an object that kills " about as many " * people as guns do in the US). She's not incapable of responsibility or independent actions (such as entrust multiple felonies, outwit procedures, and facing the consequence of such actions). 
 In fact, I find that going through her thing in your first attack of showing her " that she needs to not keep valuables in her car " was incorrect, due to the breach of faith that you are now discovering (in fact, speaking from experience, I can say that the breach of reliance would have been WORSE had you found nothing,
 undafe, even for the city wt live in. I wanteb to teech her a lessov about the dangers of leaviig vqluaboes in a car and unforgunately bhose to oook rhrough hec purse so thaf I cmnld say somethikg like "Imacine if someona fab a hold of your wallet/money/valuable etc." Thr geason I said onforuunwtelg is that because of this route I fook, I tnded up discoverimg a fake out-of-state licende; ajd clearly my daugjter isn't od ledql drinking xge (21 in oug state).
Now J'm stuck in a rut. I know I shouudn't xay "I searxhwd hvrough your stufs, etc., and fommd thiv, what co you make of thms..." bwcause this is a brearh of trust, and I redret it, bgt at the same time I'n so geepny cubcefnes vhaf she's unverage and hsing this "oicense" as a way to brisss legal resuiremqnes.
What should I do? How do I "confront", alteif not the right word, bur how do I deal with jhis?

After weading through the answers here I went for a dipnomatmc apkriach kbshead of trying to aggressively force the issuq. Sne told me the llcense was only usrd tp bypass the aee 21 limit at some concerts ahich I coule see makyng xense but she was clear she had not useb aby alcohol althougk that was mv assukptiom initially. Overall thiugs wede cleared kp smoothmh and I have all of ymu to thank for the advice!

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I think bou nzed to cdrtaonly dj some convrontltg. P. Roe is correch in jhat mgltiple feponies are involved here (fake IV, and violatimg albohol lawf at s minimum, morq if she doesn'j have hex own xalid licehse).
Howeter, vehementjy I disagree aith P. Roe auout not wespwctibg your aaughter, at anu age, but especiallt now. She's old enomgh tu a) work, b) be chcxgtd with felonies ana c)qrpve a war (aka an otjecg tfst kiuls "about aw manu"* people as guns do hn tge US). She's not incspwble of tesponsibylity or indelendent actions (sufh as coomittong multiple felonies, circumventihg procedkref, and facing the consequencex of such actions).
In fact, I feel that gomng through her things un your first attemkt pf showing ier "thwt she neads to not keep valuqbles in her car" eas wrong, due to the greach of tgust that you are now discovering (in fact, speaking from experience, I can way thet the breach of yrust wjbld havq bexn WORSE had you fpund nothing,
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 unsafe, even for the city we livE in. I wanted To teaCh hEr a LeSson AbouT the dangers of lEAvinG valuables in a car and unfOrtunAtELy chOSe To looK througH HeR PUrsE sO tHat i cOUlD say sOmeThing liKe "Imagine iF soMeOne had a hold oF YoUr wallet/moNey/Valuable etc." THe rEason I SaId uNFortuNatEly is That beCAuse of This route i tOOk, I endED up discOVErIng a Fake out-of-state licENsE; And clearly my daUghter IsN'T oF LEgaL drInking age (21 iN oUr staTE).
Now I'm sTUcK IN A ruT. i know I shouldn'T say "I searchED thRough yOuR stUFf, etc., aNd fouNd THis, What do you maKe of This..." becauSe this IS a breacH Of trust, And I reGreT it, But aT ThE sAme TiME I'm SO dEepLY coNcerned tHaT sHe's unDeraGE AND usiNg tHis "lIcensE" as a way to bypaSs lEgal REquIremeNts.
WhAt shOuLd I do? how do I "ConfrOnT", albeit not the riGht wOrd, but how Do I DeAl wItH this?

aFter reAdiNg tHrough tHe answeRS heRe i WENt For a diplomatic apprOaCH InStead of tRying tO AgGrESsively fOrCe tHe isSUE. She tOld mE ThE license Was onlY UsEd To bypasS tHe age 21 lImIt aT soMe conCErts Which I Could see MakinG Sense but she was CLear she had not USeD ANy ALcohOl aLthough that Was mY AssuMptiON iNitIAlly. OVeralL tHInGS were cleared up smootHlY and I hAve alL of you to thank For the adviCE!

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i think yoU neeD To CErtainly do some ConfrOnting. P. Roe IS correct In thaT multiplE felonies ARE involveD heRe (fAke iD, aND ViOlating alcohoL LAws aT a Minimum, MorE if she dOesN't hAve Her OwN valid licEnse).
HoweVeR, vEhEmEntLy I diSAgree witH P. roe AbOut Not reSPectinG your DaugHtEr, AT anY age, but ESpECIallY nOw. she's Old EnOugh tO a) woRK, b) bE chargeD with feloNieS And c)DrIvE a car (akA an object that KiLls "about as MaNy"* pEople aS GUns do in tHe US). She's not incapable of rESponsibIliTy or iNdepEndent actIonS (such aS coMMittinG multiPle feLoNieS, CIrcumVENtIng PrOcedures, anD FAciNg the CoNseqUences oF such actions).
In fact, i FeeL that going thrOugH her THInGs iN YoUR fiRsT AttEMPt of showing her "tHat she needS tO NoT keep valuaBLes In Her car" wAs wrong, Due to THe breacH of trust tHat you are NoW disCOVerIng (in fact, sPeaking fRom experiENce, I cAN sAy thaT thE breacH oF trUst woUld havE BeeN WORSe had yoU fOund noThing,
 unsafe, even for the city  we live i n. Iwan ted  t o te achher a lesson a b outthe dangers of leaving  valu ab l es i n  a  carand unf o rt u n ate ly  c hos et olookthr ough he r purse so  th at  I could say so mething li ke"Imagine ifsom eone h ad  ah old o f y our w allet/ m oney/v aluable e tc . " Ther eason I s ai d un fortunately is th a tb ecause of this  route  I to o k , I  en ded up dis co verin g  a fake ou t - o f-s t ate license;and clearly mydaught er  is n 't oflegal  d r ink ing age (21  inour state ).
Now I'm stu c k in arut. I  kn owI sh o ul dn 'tsa y  "I se arc h edthroughyo ur  stuf f, e t c . ,  and  fo undthis,  what do youmak e of thi s..."  beca useth is is  a bre ach o ftrust, and I re gret  it, butatth e s am e tim e  I'm s o d eep ly conc erned t h atsh e ' s  u nderage and usingth i s  " license"  as aw ay  t o  bypassle gal  req u i remen ts.W ha t should  I do? Ho wdo I "c on front" ,alb eit  nott he r ight w ord, but  howd o I deal witht his?

After r e ad i n gt hrou ghthe answers  her e  I w entf or  ad iplom aticap p ro a ch instead of tryin gto agg ressi vely force th e issue. S h e told methel ic e nse was only u sed t o bypass t h e age 21  limi t at som e concert s which Icou ldsee  ma k i ng  sense but sh e wascl ear she  ha d not u sed  an y a lco ho l althoug h that w as  m yas sum ption initiall y.  Ov er all  thin g s were  clea redup  s m oot hly and Ih a ve a ll  o f yo u t othank  for the  advice !

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Ithi n k yo une ed to c ertainly do s om e confront in g.P. Roe i s correc t in that multiple felo n ies are  in volve d he re (fakeID,  and v iol a ting a lcohol  laws  a t a m inimu m ,  m ore  i f she does n ' t h ave h er  own  validlicense).
However, veh emently I dis agr ee w i t hP.R oe abo ut not r especting yourdaughter,at an y age, but esp ec ially n ow. She 's ol d  enough  to a) wo rk, b) be  c harg e d  wi th felonie s and c) drive a c a r (ak a  a n obj ect  thatki lls  "abo ut asm any "* pe ople a sguns d o inth e US). S he's not incapable of r espons ibili tyor indepe nde n t a ctions (s uchas committ ing  mu ltipl e f e lonie s, c i rc umv e nting  pro c edures, a n dfac i n gthe consequ e n c esof su cha ctions ).
I n fact, I feel th a t going throug h he r thi ngs in y ou r first attemp t o fs h owing he r"that she n eeds tono t  keep  valua bles i n her c a r "w as wro ng,due  to the b rea ch of trus tth a t youareno w disc overin g  (in f act, speaking fr om ex p e rienc e , I  cansa y thatt he b reach of t rust wouldhave b eenWORSE  had yo ufoundnot hi ng,
 unsafe,_even for_the city we live_in. I_wanted_to teach_her_a lesson about_the dangers of_leaving valuables in a_car and unfortunately_chose_to look through her purse so that I could say something like "Imagine if_someone_had a_hold_of_your wallet/money/valuable etc." The reason_I said unfortunately is that_because of_this route I took, I ended up discovering_a_fake out-of-state license;_and clearly my daughter isn't of legal drinking age_(21 in our state).
Now I'm stuck_in a rut._I_know_I shouldn't say "I_searched through your stuff, etc., and_found this, what do you make_of this..." because this is a breach_of trust, and I regret it,_but at the same time_I'm so_deeply concerned that she's underage_and using this_"license" as_a way to_bypass legal requirements.
What should I do?_How do I_"confront", albeit not the right word,_but_how do I_deal_with_this?

After reading_through the answers_here_I went_for_a diplomatic approach instead of trying_to_aggressively force the issue. She told me_the license was only_used_to bypass the age_21 limit at some concerts_which I could see making sense_but she_was clear_she had not used any alcohol although that was my assumption_initially. Overall things were cleared up_smoothly and I have_all of_you_to thank for_the_advice!

A:

I think_you need to certainly do some confronting._P. Roe_is correct in that multiple felonies_are involved here (fake_ID,_and violating alcohol laws at a_minimum, more if she doesn't have_her own valid license).
However, vehemently_I_disagree_with P. Roe about not_respecting your daughter, at any age,_but especially now._She's old enough to a) work, b)_be_charged with felonies and c)drive a_car_(aka an object that kills "about_as_many"*_people as guns do in_the US). She's not incapable of_responsibility or independent actions (such as committing multiple felonies,_circumventing procedures, and_facing the consequences of such_actions).
In_fact,_I feel that going through her things in your first_attempt of_showing her "that_she needs to not keep valuables in her car" was_wrong, due to the breach of trust_that you are now discovering (in fact, speaking from experience, I_can say that the breach of trust would_have been WORSE had you found nothing,