 time of separation (school age). I'm also happily married - and have been for longer than my parents were - so I didn't somehow internalize that relationships must always break.
My suggestion would be to give your ex some time and then suggest an activity with all of you - maybe take your daughter to the zoo for her next birthday and invite your ex and her BF to come along. Then do some small talk with the BF to get to know him a bit. Maybe repeat if it isn't too awkward.

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I agree with those who have advocated communication. That's the only option open to you at this point.
Are you being unreasonable? About your daughter living with a stranger, no, I don't think so. The way to deal with that is to get to know this person. Invite the three of them out to dinner and get to know him. If it goes well, do that from time to time; as your daughter grows up, you'll be seeing much more of him if you attend your daughter's functions. If the relationship dissolves and a new relationship forms quickly, you may have a point. But you don't have a choice right now and this is only one data point in addition to your own separation.
Are you being unreasonable about your concern for your wife? I don't know, but I can say you're on very shaky ground here. It depends on why the two of you separated, what kind of person she is, whether you have reason to distrust her motives, etc. If she was reasonably trustworthy while you were married, and you trust her as the mother of your child, then trust her here as well. What decisions she makes about her personal life is no longer your business unless you believe it will harm the child. It sounds right now like you have no reason at all to raise any objection.
This is hard. if you only have verbal agreements about custody, you might want to consider firming them up (i.e. hiring a lawyer and getting the court to approve your custody arrangement) before it possibly becomes an issue.

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Hand-over-hand locking with Rust

I'm trying to write an implementation of union-find in Rust. This is famously very simple to implement in languages like C, while still having a complex run time analysis.
I'm having trouble getting Rust's mutex semantics to allow iterative hand-over-hand locking.
Here's how I got where I am now.

time of separation (school age). I'm also happily marry - and have been for farseeing than my parents were - therefore I didn't somehow internalize that relationship must always break. 
 My hypnotism would be to collapse your ex some clock time and then suggest an activity with all of you - possibly take your daughter to the zoo for her next birthday and invite your x and her BF to come along. Then do some small talk with the BF to get to acknowledge him a bit. Maybe repeat if it isn't besides awkward. 

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 I agree with those who have advocated communication. That's the only option exposed to you at this point. 
 Are you being unreasonable? About your daughter living with a stranger, no, I don't think so. The direction to deal with that is to get to know this person. Invite the three of them out to dinner and get to know him. If it goes well, do that from time to time; as your daughter grows up, you'll be seeing much more of him if you attend your daughter's functions. If the relationship dissolves and a fresh relationship forms cursorily, you may get a point. But you don't have a choice justly now and this is only one data point in accession to your own separation. 
 Are you being unreasonable about your concern for your wife? I don't know, but I can say you're on very shaky land here. It depends on why the two of you separated, what kind of person she is, whether you have reason to distrust her motif, etc. If she was sanely trustworthy while you were marry, and you trust her as the mother of your child, then trust her here as well. What decisions she cook about her personal life is no longer your business unless you believe it will harm the child. It sound right now like you have no reason at wholly to raise any objection. 
 This is hard. if you only have verbal agreement about custody, you might desire to consider firming them up (i.e. hiring a lawyer and getting the motor hotel to approve your custody arrangement) before it possibly becomes an offspring. 

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 Hand - over - hired hand locking with Rust 

 I'm trying to compose an implementation of union - find in Rust. This is famously very simple to enforce in languages like C, while still have a complex run time analysis. 
 I'm having trouble getting Rust's mutex semantics to allow iterative bridge player - over - hand locking. 
 Here's how I got where I am now.
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Axe you being unrgasonanle about your concern yor yohr wife? I dln't know, gjt I can say you'fe pn very shaky ground here. It depends in wky the tdo og you feparated, ahat kind of person she ls, whgther fou have rfason to distrust her motives, evr. If she was teavondbly truftworbhy while you wqre married, anb you trbst hef as the mkther oh your child, then trust hat here as weln. What dqcisuons she mayds about her prrsonal lpft is no lobger your business unusss you believe it will harm the vhiud. Yt spuggs right now likd yui havd no reason xt akl to raise any objewtioh.
This is hard. if ypu only hace verbaj agreements sbout custody, you light wait to vonfider firming them up (i.e. hirinf a lawyeg akd getting thq comrt jo approve vour custody arrangement) before it possiuly becomes an issue.

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Hqnd-over-hand locking eith Rust

I'm tryigg to wride an implementation of union-find in Vust. This is famously bery shmple to implement in languages like C, while still having a complex run time abalysis.
I'm having tdoubke gentiug Xust's mttex remantics to allpw iterative hand-over-hand lockiig.
Here's hof N got where I am now.

time of separation (school age). I'm also - have been longer than my didn't internalize that relationships always break. My would be to give your ex time and then suggest an activity with all of you - maybe take daughter to the zoo for her next birthday and invite your ex and BF come Then some small talk with the BF to get to know him a bit. Maybe repeat if isn't too awkward. A: I agree with those have advocated communication. That's only option open to you this Are you unreasonable? your living with a no, I don't think so. The way to deal with that is to get to know this Invite the them out dinner get know him. If well, do that from time to daughter grows up, you'll be seeing much more him if attend your daughter's functions. If the dissolves and a new relationship forms quickly, you have a point. But you don't have a choice right now and this is only point in addition to own separation. Are being about concern your wife? don't know, but I can say you're on very shaky ground It depends on why the two of you separated, what person is, whether you reason to distrust her etc. she was reasonably trustworthy were and as mother your child, then trust here as well. What decisions makes about her personal business unless you believe it will harm the It sounds right now like you have reason at all to raise any objection. This is hard. if you have verbal custody, you might want to consider firming them (i.e. hiring a lawyer getting the court to approve your custody arrangement) before possibly an issue. Hand-over-hand locking with I'm trying to an implementation of Rust. This famously simple languages like C, while still having complex time analysis. I'm having trouble Rust's to allow iterative hand-over-hand locking. Here's how I got where I am now.
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MY SuGgestIon Would be To give your Ex sOmE time and then SUgGest an actiVitY with all of yoU - maYbe takE yOur DAughtEr tO the zOo for hER next bIrthday anD iNVite yoUR ex and hER bF To coMe along. Then do some SMaLL talk with the BF To get tO kNOw HIM a bIt. MAybe repeat If It isn'T Too awkwARd.

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i AGreE With those who hAve advocateD ComMunicaTiOn. THAt's the Only oPtIOn oPen to you at tHis pOint.
Are yoU being UNreasonABle? AbouT your dAugHteR livINg WiTh a StRAngER, nO, I dON't tHink so. ThE wAy To deaL witH THAT is tO geT to kNow thIs person. InvitE thE thrEE of Them oUt to dInneR aNd get To know Him. If It Goes well, do that fRom tIme to time; As yOuR daUgHter gROws up, yOu'lL be Seeing mUch more OF hiM iF YOU aTtend your daughter's FuNCTiOns. If the RelatiONsHiP DissolveS aNd a New rELAtionShip FOrMs quicklY, you maY HaVe A point. BUt You don'T hAve A chOice rIGht nOw and tHis is onlY one dATa point in additIOn to your own sePArATIoN.
are yOu bEing unreasoNablE AbouT youR CoNceRN for yOur wiFe? i DoN'T know, but I can say you'rE oN very sHaky gRound here. It dePends on why THE Two of you SepaRAtED, what kind of perSon shE is, whether YOu have reAson tO distrusT her motivES, Etc. If she Was ReaSonAblY TRuStworthy while YOU werE mArried, aNd yOu trust Her As tHe mOthEr Of your chiLd, then trUsT hEr HeRe aS well. wHat decisIoNs sHe MakEs aboUT her peRsonaL lifE iS nO LonGer your BUsINEss uNlEsS you BelIeVe it wIll hARm tHe child. it sounds rIghT Now lIkE yOu have nO reason at all tO rAise any objEcTioN.
This iS HArd. if you Only have verbal agreementS About cuStoDy, you MighT want to coNsiDer firMinG Them up (I.e. hiriNg a laWyEr aND GettiNG ThE coUrT to approve YOUr cUstodY aRranGement) bEfore it possibly becOMes An issue.

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Hand-oVer-Hand LOCkIng WItH rusT

I'M TryING to write an impleMentation oF uNIoN-find in RusT. thiS iS famousLy very sImple TO implemEnt in langUages like c, wHile STIll Having a comPlex run tIme analysIS.
I'm haVInG trouBle GettinG RUst'S muteX semanTIcs To allOw iterAtIve hanD-over-HaNd lockinG.
Here's how I got where I am noW.

 time of separation (schoo l age). I' m als o h app il y ma rrie d - and have b e en f or longer than my pare nts w er e  - s o  I  didn 't some h ow i nte rn al ize  t h at  rela tio nshipsmust alway s b re ak.
My sugge s ti on would b e t o give yourexsome t im e a n d the n s ugges t an a c tivity  with all  o f  you - maybe t a k eyour  daughter to thez oo for her next b irthda ya nd i nvi teyour ex an dher B F  to com e  a l o n g.T hen do some s mall talk w i ththe BF  t o g e t to k now h im a b it. Maybe r epea t if it i sn't t o o awkwa r d.

A:
I agr eewit h th o se  w hoha v e a d vo cat e d c ommunica ti on . Tha t'st h e only  op tion  open  to you at th ispoin t .
A re yo u bei ng u nr eason able?About  y our daughter li ving  with a s tra ng er,  n o, Id on't t hin k s o. Theway tod eal  w i t h  t hat is to get to k no w th is perso n. Inv i te  t h e threeof  th em o u t  to d inne r  a nd get t o know hi m.  If itgo es wel l,  do  th at fr o m ti me totime; as  your daughter grows up, you'll be se e i ng much  mo re of him i f yo u  att endy ou r d a ughte r's f un c ti o ns. If the relation sh ip dis solve s and a new r elationshi p f orms qui ckly ,  y o u may have a p oint.  But you d o n't have  a ch oice rig ht now an d this isonl y o nedat a po int in additi o n  toyo ur ownsep aration .
A reyou  be in g unreaso nable ab ou tyo ur  co ncern for your  w ife ?I d on'tk now, b ut Icansa yy ou' re on v e ry s haky  g ro undher e.  It d epen d s o n why t he two of  yo u  sep ar at ed, wha t kind of per so n she is,wh eth er you h ave reas on to distrust her moti v es, etc . I f she  was  reasonab lytrustw ort h y whil e youwerema rri e d , and y ou  tr us t her as t h e  mo therof  you r child , then trust her h e reas well. What  de cisi o n sshe ma k esab o uth e r personal life  is no lon ge r  y our busine s s u nl ess you  believ e itw ill har m the chi ld. It so un ds r i g htnow like y ou haveno reason at al l  t o rai seany ob je cti on.
T his is har d. if  you o nl y have  verb al  agreeme nts about custody, youmightwanttoconsiderfir m ing  them up(i.e . hiring a  la wye r and  ge t tingthec ou rtt o app rove your cust o dy  ar r a ng ement) befo r e itpossi bly become s an  issue.

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Han d -over-hand loc king w ith  Ru s t

I 'm  trying to wri tean i mplement at ion of unio n-find i nR ust.This i s famo usly ve r y  s i mple t o im ple ment in l ang ua g es like  C ,w hile s till  h avinga comp l ex r u n  time analysis.I'm h a v ing t r oub le ge tt ing Rus t 's m utex seman tics to all ow ite rati ve ha nd-over -h and lo cki ng .
Here's h o w I got w hereI am no w. 

 time_of separation_(school age). I'm also_happily married_-_and have_been_for longer than_my parents were_- so I didn't_somehow internalize that_relationships_must always break.
My suggestion would be to give your ex some time and then_suggest_an activity_with_all_of you - maybe take_your daughter to the zoo_for her_next birthday and invite your ex and her_BF_to come along._Then do some small talk with the BF to_get to know him a bit._Maybe repeat if_it_isn't_too awkward.

A:

I agree with_those who have advocated communication. That's_the only option open to you_at this point.
Are you being unreasonable? About_your daughter living with a stranger,_no, I don't think so._The way_to deal with that is_to get to_know this_person. Invite the_three of them out to dinner_and get to_know him. If it goes well,_do_that from time_to_time;_as your_daughter grows up,_you'll_be seeing_much_more of him if you attend_your_daughter's functions. If the relationship dissolves and_a new relationship forms_quickly,_you may have a_point. But you don't have_a choice right now and this_is only_one data_point in addition to your own separation.
Are you being unreasonable about_your concern for your wife? I_don't know, but I_can say_you're_on very shaky_ground_here. It_depends on why the two of you_separated, what_kind of person she is, whether_you have reason to_distrust_her motives, etc. If she was_reasonably trustworthy while you were married,_and you trust her as_the_mother_of your child, then trust_her here as well. What decisions_she makes about_her personal life is no longer your_business_unless you believe it will harm_the_child. It sounds right now like_you_have_no reason at all to_raise any objection.
This is hard. if_you only have verbal agreements about custody, you might_want to consider_firming them up (i.e. hiring_a_lawyer_and getting the court to approve your custody arrangement) before_it possibly_becomes an issue.

_Q:

Hand-over-hand locking with Rust

I'm trying to write an implementation of_union-find in Rust. This is famously very_simple to implement in languages like C, while still having a_complex run time analysis.
I'm having trouble getting Rust's_mutex semantics to allow iterative hand-over-hand locking.
Here's_how I got where_I_am now.
