Men’s secret places or male erogenous zones – we all like an adventure. Finding new ways of spicing up your sex life is fun. Most people accept that as a fact and are happy to experiment. But how do you tell your girlfriend what you’d really like her to do to you? These are the top 9 male erogenous zones you should ask her to touch you!

#1 Perineum

The perineum. Now some of you may say, the peri-what? Peri Peri? No, this isn’t something you get at Nando’s! Your perineum is the bit of skin between your balls and your butt hole. Unsurprisingly, it’s super sensitive and having your girlfriend rub it during a blowjob or just during sex is lush.

Spit and lube are your friends. Massaging this area will give extra pressure on your prostate A.K.A the male g spot which will feel more intense. Having this done while she sucks you should rock your world but no one wants a dry rub! Get some lube in action and ask your girlfriend to gently massage your balls and the skin below.

This will tease all the extra nerve endings you have down there. Want to feel more or encourage her to lick it? Go get that razor Mr! Tingling lube on your bare skin will give a heightened sensation. While going hair free will help if she fancies licking or kissing the skin there. Plus, just wait until you wear some silky shorts – you’ll realise what undies are all about! All that places it on the top of male erogenous zones.

#2 Prostate/the butthole

The butt hole. Now, not every man is confident enough to play with himself. But if you feel like exploring new horizons, anal fun is a new thing to try. Whether you want to try it out on your own first or go for it with your girlfriend is your call. There is so much to try with this.

Your prostate is like the male g-spot. We will be covering this in more detail soon but for those of you who are unaware, this walnut sized gland is your equivalent to heaven. If touched in the right way, this can make sex and foreplay all the more intense.

General play around the butt hole can include rimming as discussed in Eating ass: why is rimming so popular? But may also extend to using toys and pegging, the sky is the limit. If you feel brave and your girlfriend likes to get kinky, why not try a rusty trombone? I.e her rimming you while giving you a hand job.

#3 Scrotal Raphe

Ever wondered what you call the line running from the base of your cock to your anus? You know, the darker line over your scrotum which divides your balls in two. Yep, that’s your scrotal raphe and it’s one of male erogenous zones.

This ridge is especially sensitive due to the range of nerve endings there. When your girlfriend next goes down on you, suggest she licks or traces her fingertip along it. Make sure she’s gentle though otherwise this pleasure line might be sore!

#4 Sacrum

In the small of your back, you have two dimples apparent above their buttocks. In the middle of this triangle is your sacrum. This is the joint just above your tail bone (coccyx) and is thought to have a direct effect on the male genitals. As the sacrum translates to “sacred bone” in Greek, it’s fair to say it’s long been thought of as a special part of the body.

Due to its’ location within the pelvis, the sacrum is close to the reproductive organs. It’s hardly surprising then that this is thought to be a powerhouse of sexual energy and sensuality. The ‘Svadhisthana’ or sacral chakra is known as “the dwelling place of the self.”

For more information on this and how to engage with it, check out this article.

#5 Frenulum

The frenulum is on the underside of your cock. Just where the head meets the shaft, it looks arguably like an arrowhead and should point you in the direction of seventh heaven.

During oral, encourage your girlfriend to pay extra attention to this area. Running her tongue over it specifically will target the nerves clustered here while giving more pleasure to your tip. While deep throat and sloppy blowjobs can rock, more focus on the head of your cock rather than the shaft can work wonders.

Encourage her to use her hands to stroke the shaft of your cock and balls. The combination of mouth and hand action will be multitasking at its’ best. You can thank us later for this article about male erogenous zones.

#6 Feet

It might not sound sexy but feet can be fun. If you’re ticklish, this will probably tickle your fancy. When the occasion arises, ask your girlfriend to give you a foot massage. Start with washing your feet in a warm bowl of water, complete with essential oils or whatever potions she fancies. After getting you clean, she can massage your feet as normal.

This TLC will be both relaxing and ultimately erotic. Soothing any aches from the day’s labours will give you a chance to unwind while enjoying the love shown. She can focus on rubbing the arches of your foot in a circular motion with her thumbs and gently squeezing the ball of your heel. Now that everything is ready, the fun can begin.

Soft lingering kisses, sensual licks and ultimately sucking can follow. You’ll be amazed at how sensitive your toes really are! Starting from the bottom, she can work her way up your calves and to your thighs…

Why not return the favour and try the same on her? Or even masturbate her with your toes, after all it’s easier than peeling a banana!

#7 Inner thigh

Once she’s worked her way up your leg, paying attention to your inner thighs is a treat. Particularly as this region is likely to be less hairy than the rest of your body. Licks, kisses and nibbles along the inner thigh and in the fold where your butt meets your thigh, will score high points. Due to the sensitive skin, any touches here will register more than on the tougher parts of your body like your upper thighs.

Teasing her way from the back of your knees up towards your bollocks should create anticipation. Mix it up further with ice cubes or a safely heated glass toy. Once she reaches the crevice between your bollocks and thigh, ask her to lightly lick this thinner skin or run wet fingertips over it. The feel of her hair against your skin should also tantalise.

#8 Nipples

Nipples! Men’s nipples can be sensitive and respond to licking, touching and all round teasing. During foreplay, your girlfriend could try kissing and maybe sucking your nipples. I’ve only ever had positive responses to this as guys surprise themselves by finding that they enjoy the tease.

A pleasant surprise can be achieved if she sucks your nipples while stroking your cock. Ice cube play and pinches can also shake things up!

#9 Ears

While many guys know that girls enjoy having attention to their ears, does she ever do it for you? Personally, I always make sure to kiss or nip my partner’s ear during foreplay and in sex. It’s the perfect chance to whisper a dirty promise of what’s going down. If this does it for you, ask your girlfriend to lick, nip and kiss your ear lobes in the bedroom or even dip her tongue on the edges.

So there you have it, the top 9 male erogenous zones to ask your girlfriend to touch you. Think we’ve missed any? Let us know!