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Should I break up with my girlfriend or confront her about this?
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**UPDATE: Going to break up with her sometime this week. I will post updates when it happens.**
My girlfriend and I had been together for about 3 weeks when she decided to have a change in behavior. Everything had been going pretty well. I met this girl through my sister and she has kids and goes to church and seemed level-headed. This is what drew me to her, but then she started acting differently.
On Wednesday night last week, she texts me at 2am and says she's at some owner of a local bar's house and is almost really drunk and is playing video games. I'm a little confused but I tell her that if she needs a ride home to let me know (I don't drink and have 1.5 years of sobriety). She texts me back that she has no idea how she got there.
I texted her back "have fun. I'm going to sleep."
My mind is obviously racing and I had no intentions of sleeping but I felt the best move was not to react. First of all, I had no idea my girlfriend was out drinking and potentially drinking and driving, but now I'm pretty certain this is a bad behavior move. I'm not her father so I'm not going to bitch at her about this. If she wants to make stupid decisions she didn't have to make, she can do it all by herself.
She texts me at 4am to let me know she got home safe. I texted her back "Thank you for letting me know you got home safe." I didn't bitch at her for driving home after drinking. I didn't tell her what she did was wrong.
She tries to tell me via facebook the next day that she was making "music connections" for her friend. Even though this was a country western bar and her friend plays progressive and techno.
I am a little bit pissed.
We had plans to go see a gig on that Friday and had the plans for a week. Friday comes and I tell her that I'll be happy to be designated driver for that night. All she has to do is tell me when to pick her up. She doesn't reply. A couple hours before the gig she tells me that she wants to drive by herself because after this gig she wants to go back to that same bar and "work connections" and that it's easier to slip into VIP if everyone thinks she's "single."
Then she told me, unprompted, about how the reason she got home at 4am on Wednesday was because she got stopped by a police officer for "going too slow" and that she was arguing with him for an hour and a half. She says she got let off with a warning.
First of all, no cop pulls you over at 230 in the morning for driving too slow when you've clearly been drinking and you're arguing without you going to jail. Second of all, my parents were touring musicians and I have a lot of friends who are working musicians. You don't "make connections" by getting drunk with the owners of a bar that doesn't play music you can book.
I cancelled the Friday date on her about an hour before we were supposed to meet up. She didn't seem too fazed and didn't call or text me the entire night. Who knows what she did or how long she was out.
She has sent me texts randomly about how she is "finding herself missing me" and asking what my schedule is like for the next week without telling me what she wants to do. I'm pretty certain she doesn't want to be together with me anymore but doesn't have the heart to tell me. It dawned on me that maybe she was purposely misbehaving to try to get me to react and yell/break up with her -- but I'm not going to react like an abusive idiot.
I am waiting for her to say she wants to see me so that I can find a quick time with her to tell her we're through. Not going to tell her any particular reason other than I just don't think that I was enough of a priority and that we can be friends, but not together.
I'm pretty sure she's going to get herself a DUI acting like this, but if she doesn't want a free designated driver, then it's going to be her responsibility if she kills herself or someone else.
tl;dr: girlfriend acting shitty and irresponsible/obviously covering something up. Possibly wants to break up with me but can't tell me. Should I stay or should I go now?
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"body": "You've only been together for three weeks and she's already acting shady and unpredictable. Get out before it gets worse.",
"score": 30
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"body": "You've only been together for 3 weeks and she's already spun you up into a web of drama. Unless you want the rest of your relationship to be like this (hey, some people do), I'd suggest you bring it to an end.\n\nSet a \"date\" to talk to her. If she shows, tell her how you feel. I'd suggest breaking up with her. If she doesn't show, delete her from your phone and call it a day.\n\nI think you have a keen BS detector. It tends to be correct, unfortunately.",
"score": 7
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"body": "Move on. Too many fish in the sea to be getting that many contradictory messages in such a short time, about nothing.\n\nGood luck.",
"score": 7
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"body": ">she was arguing with him for an hour and a half.\n\nThat sounds like bullshit to me. Cops aren't boyfriends: they don't have to argue for an hour and a half, they'll just arrest you or let you go.",
"score": 6
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"body": "So, looking down at the 5 different people who have posted to this thread, I'm going to go with GTFO.",
"score": 5
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"body": "This is the 21st century drunk driving isn't something a functioning member of society does. Fuck it and bail.",
"score": 4
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"body": "Am I the only one that feels like you owe her nothing? If she's already acting shady, who cares how you break up with her (email, text, whatever).",
"score": 3
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DAE receive gifts and favors from their past selves? (I forgot I bought ice cream last week.)
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So here I am stuck at work on MLK day, and having a pretty terrible morning, when I look in the company fridge and see a Ben and Jerry's "Phish food" pint.
I bought it last week and completely forgot I had done so (at least, until I saw it sitting there), so it was safely uneaten by myself (and luckily unmolested by coworkers). It's almost as if the past me knew I would need a little extra support this morning, and decided to do what he could to cheer me up. :)
I never use cash, and at the beginning of this month, I had forgotten to buy a monthly bus pass in time for the first workday. I had no fare to get to work. So I futilely - or so I thought - searched my wallet for some change, and discovered that at some point in the past - It must have been months ago - I had placed several singles in there. I have no idea when or why I did this (like I said, I never use cash), but it saved my day.
Basically, I'm curious about other people's experiences like this, and wonder: Does anyone else do this, or am I just insane?
Edit: clarification (making sure it's clear that it's not possible I stole someone else's ice cream)
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"body": "My favorite thing is to put my winter coats on for the first time when it gets cold, just stick my hands in their \"magic pockets\". Sometimes I pull out a $5, one year I got 2 $20s, some coats only have used kleenex and cough drops without wrappers.",
"score": 3
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New player too intimidated to try dungeon finder, should I be?
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It seems that everyone on wow expects every other player to have already done all the dungeons, know exactly how they're laid out, what bosses are in them and how to work perfectly with every other class already. I have only played wow for a couple of months and have only ever played rogue so I know nothing about the mechanics of the other classes. Can I use the LFG system without ruining the game for the team that gets stuck with me?
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"body": "I would be honest and up front when you join. Tell them you are a new player and you haven't done this dungeon before. If they are jerks, leave the group and work on an alt until the debuff expires. I've had some really good LFG and really bad. I had one last night that was so bad that my neck twisted up like a knot. The key is to be willing to bring the game to your terms. I learned that last night -- I should have left when things started upsetting me.\nAlso, one thing that made it much better for me was to run randoms w/ a guild-tank and a guild-healer if you can get both. If you aren't in a guild -- start looking for one that has people like you -- people that you get along with.",
"score": 14
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"body": "I'm a tank, and I run a random or two each day. I set the pace fast, and usually kill the first pack of mobs by myself before the rest of the group finishes buffing, so for most heroics, it doesn't matter if most of the group is in a mix of blues/purples and the very occasional green (and I would say this is fairly typical of heroic groups in general).\n\nI see a fair number of very undergeared players, and I don't mind them. What I *mind* is when we ask why they're using only 2 abilities, and they don't respond.\n\nNot responding to questions, or not responding to group chatter is the best way to make me want to kick you.\n\nI would definitely say 'go for it' though. Just be friendly and try your best.",
"score": 10
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"body": "- Run normal versions before heroics. They're easier, and you most likely won't encounter anyone who's... cranky. Plus, you really should get gear from normals before running heroics. \n- Read a quick overview of each heroics if you're really worried. There aren't any really complicated ones. \n- Just tell your group up front if you don't know a dungeon. 90% of puggers don't get pissy when you don't know the dungeon, they get pissy when you don't know the dungeon *and it causes wiping*. Ask! Most people like explaining the dungeon, or at least don't mind. \n- You don't really need to know the mechanics of the other classes, but you *definitely* need to know your role as a dps (e.g. don't pull as a dps, that's the tank's job; watch your threat; etc.). ",
"score": 8
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"body": "I started out DPSing on my priest with the LFG tool. Don't stand in the fire, get DBM - failing actually becomes difficult at that point. I cranked through enough PUGs to get badge gear that I needed to get into some small raids. Now I'm raid healing and having a blast. \n\nThe LFG tool is one of the best things to happen to WoW ever.",
"score": 6
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"body": "You shouldn't worry about it. \n\nThere is no possible way you suck worse than the worst player that every other player in your random group has been forced to group with. It's impossible. No matter how much you suck or think you suck, they all remember someone worse.\n\nJust show up, assist the tank, DPS and keep quiet and 99% of groups will think you are a cagey veteran.",
"score": 6
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"body": "I haven't seen anyone here mention add-ons yet. If you use them, I highly recommend getting Deadly Boss Mods. It has a lot of warning features to make life a little easier as you learn dungeons. You should still take a couple minutes to read up on dungeons before you run them, but this basically will tell you \"hey, stupid, you're standing in poison, MOVE!\" in case you don't notice. (I don't notice.)",
"score": 5
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"body": "I have found that is usually only true for Heroics. As long as you stick to the regular dungeons people tend to be a lot more tolerant. For heroics, people are usually just doing the random heroic trying to get their 2 frost badges out of the way as rapidly (and I do mean *rapidly*) as possible. It's not a pleasant or comfortable environment if you're not geared and especially not if you don't know the dungeons.\n\nStick to regulars at first and you should be okay.",
"score": 4
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"body": "Your best bet is to use the regular dungeon tool. Heroics are a bit harder and people get mad if you don't pull your weight. In a regular, you can take your time and learn with no pressure!",
"score": 4
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"body": "Take 5 minutes to read this about your rogue.\n\nhttp://www.wowwiki.com/Rogue_PvE_guide\n\nand this instance grouping guide.\n\nhttp://www.wowwiki.com/Instance_grouping_guide\n\n\nIf you feel curious, read a bit about other classes too. Total a couple of minutes of your time and you will know more than the average dungeon dweller. \n",
"score": 4
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"body": "I wouldn't worry about it, and especially don't let douchy players ruin the game for you. Just tell them that you don't know a boss before you start it and they'll generally explain it (albeit very tersely, like \"stay out of the poison\")",
"score": 3
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"body": "If you go in as a dps it's simple, follow the tank and hit what he hits. If you're a healer, follow the tank and make sure he doesn't die. If you're the tank, go in as dps first so you can see how things go.\n\nAs a rogue you just need to follow the tank and hit things, and the rest you can learn as you go. Follow the basics of don't stand in the fire, don't pull on your own, and don't be a dick and you will be fine. \n\nI also suggest you go [here](http://www.wowwiki.com/Instances_by_level) and read up on instances in your level range. It'll take about 5 minutes each. You don't need to memorize it, but get a rough feel. I um... started tanking BC dungeons without knowing them and just had that site open and read up on all the bosses/layouts as I found them and mostly didn't wipe ;)",
"score": 3
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"body": "My experience with Dungeon Finder is pretty good. Great for a casual player like me. Most groups do an awesome job, are respectful, makes sure everyone gets what they need, and thank everyone at the end. You *will* run into players who use the anonymity that results from coming from different servers to be total asses. I had a \"party leader\" one time sit at the instance entrance unresponsive until we got to the last boss, at which time he came running and needed the last drop without even helping us fight, then laughed at us and left (you can't kick the party leader apparently). Today, a pair of players from the same server were working together to need everything. I realized what they were doing, called them out on it, apologized to the rest of the players and left.",
"score": 3
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"body": "I am a Rogue and I found simply following the tank is a reasonable Strat.\n\nI also say at the start something like \"It been a while since I did this dungeon, let me know if I need to do anything tricky\"\n\nMost random dungeons are good groups - and the 5% buff helps aleviate any sort of nooby actions.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Seriously, the best thing you can do is just ask if you are unsure of what is going on. It's more frustrating having somebody just being completely silent and doing a poor job than someone who wants to do a good job and is asking how.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Just let other people know you're new to the dungeon.\n\nIf you understand CC, AoE, threat you're good to go, the group (leader) should be able to brief you as you go.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Most of the time I don't mind newbies, and I don't mind explaining the tactics for fights as well if needed. Later on in the evening though I might be less inclined. If it's 23.30hrs and I just need to blitz one heroic for my EoF and I'm off to bed, I'm really going to want to get it done in 20 minutes rather than 40.\n\nAlso if it's a tougher dungeon (eg Halls of Reflection) where you really might be a liability until you get your experience and gear up then you might want to drop out to save tears.\n\nOtherwise though, if you say right at the start most people should be fine. If I am tanking I view pleasantness > DPS. Just try and avoid doing anything stupid like pulling patrols by accident. Rule of thumb; always stay behind the tank until they've pulled. Also making a little macro like so:\n\n /assist *tankname*\n /startattack\n\nand binding it to a key means you'll can always easily attack the target the tank is attacking. That really does help a lot. You'll just need to change the name of the tank each instance. Or you can use:\n\n /assist focus\n /startattack\n\nand just /focus the tank in each new group.",
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What is an easy way to describe why we are still in the war in Iraq?
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A little back story to explain the question.
I am currently studying abroad in Germany, and am in a language course. Myself and the students in my class can speak conversational German with mistakes in grammar and a somewhat limited vocabulary. In my class of twenty or so students, I am the only American. The others come from everywhere from Cameroon to Bulgaria to Egypt. Today I was asked why Obama has not ended the war in Iraq, even though that was one of his goals during his campaign. I had no idea how to respond, due to simply not knowing and the limited vocabulary. Any suggestions would be wonderful.
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"body": "He's already scheduled a complete withdrawal. The reason we're still their is that we want to leave carefully and make sure that infrastructure we've been maintaining is transfered into capable hands, rather than collapsing behind us as we leave. ",
"score": 5
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"body": "U.S. Troops are monitoring and waiting for Iraq's domestic security force to stabilize. Yanking out the U.S. military would facilitate chaos.",
"score": 3
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Is it normal to mourn a pet (animal) more than a human?
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I lost my very first pet chicken this past saturday, after 3 1/2 years. Why do I have feelings for an animal people dine on many times a day without batting an eye? Is something wrong with me?
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"body": "Of course. I was devastated when my dog died but wasn't really affected when my grandma did. Didn't question it, it felt completely natural.",
"score": 7
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"body": "If you spent a lot more time with the animal than you did with the human then it seems perfectly fine to me.",
"score": 3
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Is it normal to mourn a pet (animal) more than a human?
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I lost my very first pet chicken this past saturday, after 3 1/2 years. Why do I have feelings for an animal people dine on many times a day without batting an eye? Is something wrong with me?
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"body": "Same as I said in your AskReddit post: There is nothing wrong with you. You grieve for loved ones as you grieve for loved ones. No one can tell you what is 'normal' when it comes to death, as there is no such thing.",
"score": 16
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"body": "By coincidence I was thinking about this just today and I decided maybe it was because I've never been betrayed or had my heart broken by a pet, whereas people.....well, you know.\n",
"score": 13
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"body": "There is no \"normal\" when it comes to grieving for the ones we love. Every person or pet is individual. There are lots of people I would miss a lot less than one of my pets. My animals give me unconditional love, devotion, are there for me 24/7 (more like 25/8) and worship me. My friends, not so much ;-) . There is nothing wrong with you. \nMourn your pet, and do whatever it takes to help get through this difficult time in your life. I'm sorry for your loss. ",
"score": 8
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"body": "I'm sorry for your loss. \n\nThere is nothing wrong with you. Animals offer unconditional love, and are dependent on their human companions for much, which can translate into a bond which resembles the one a parent shares with a child. \n\nGrief is an emotion that affects people differently. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty or weird for mourning the loss of a beloved pet.",
"score": 8
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"body": "I don't understand why I have more feelings towards a death of an animal than a human when it comes to news stories. My dog has been with me through tough times. I got him because I needed something to care for and he helped cheer me up. I dread the day I lose him and try not to think of it. I kept thinking there was something wrong with me for thinking this way until I asked my mom about it and she said that it is common to feel this way towards animals for a lot of people. You're not alone and I hope posting your question helps you realize that. How about an edit to tell us about your chicken. I've never met anyone with a pet chicken. Talking helps though.",
"score": 7
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"body": "I'll offer a slightly more scientific approach.\n\nHumans are social creatures. We're mentally programmed to bond with things. Those things are typically social creatures as well (dogs, birds, ferrets, etcetera), but not always. Whether those things are other humans or not is largely immaterial. \n\nWhen something dies or becomes permanently unavailable (girlfriend dumps you and moves across the country, your mother dies of a stroke, your dog gets hit by a car) you grieve the lost connection. \n\nYou had a connection with that chicken. It's stronger than the one you may have had for the pizza delivery guy or your accountant. It's logical that you would be emotionally distraught. \n\nDon't worry about what society as a whole thinks. There are a billion Christians praying to a sky fairy right now. There are also half a billion men who feel comfortable as a society mutilating the genitals of their daughters, mothers and sisters.\n\nYou worry about yourself and your feelings. Let society worry about *you* if they have a problem.\n\n",
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"body": "Saw this issue on the [BBC News Magazine](http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/8454288.stm) a few days ago. They seem to conclude that it's normal, and actually not uncommon. I agree.",
"score": 4
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"body": "I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think it's a case of whether you mourn more for a pet than a human. You are mourning the loss of a companion and someone (in this case an animal) that touched your life. ",
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Should Redditors ever conspire to take over the world, I bag York.
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I take it that this collaborative takeover is imminent, so..... 'just sayin s'all'.
I'd say why I want it, but then there might be more competition. Get your own post-takeover provinces.
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"body": "Since it seems that there are so few redditors that love the Constitution (personal freedom, limited government, real money, keep what you earn, no inflation, no fed. ... I.e. voted for Ron Paul...) that I think if Redditors took over, we'd be doomed to fail. I'd bet my life on it but you'd have to be able to look out into the future.\n\n\nEDIT: so my answer is NO.",
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AskReddit: I have an extra wireless router and I want to set it up as a free neighborhood access point with limited bandwidth. What's the best way to do this?
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Yeah so, I have the extra router and live in a pretty poor neighborhood. I'd like my neighbors and their kids to be able to use my internet to do some light web browsing without it compromising my network security. I don't want to give it enough bandwidth to make downloading torrents really feasible, but I think it would be a nice thing to do for my street if people who can't afford internet could check their email. Suggestions?
p.s. I'm good with computers but don't know a whole lot about wireless networking, which is why I'm asking.
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"body": ">live in a pretty poor neighborhood\n\n>I'd like my neighbors and their kids to be able to use my internet\n\nDoing something that might conceivably help the poor is unpatriotic and a violation of your freedoms. Get the hell out of America, you pinko commie red hippie democrat homoloving babykiller.",
"score": 16
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"body": "You should be careful about this whole deal, if someone does something illegal, the source IP address will be tied to you. Unless they use proxies.",
"score": 7
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"body": "not to be a buzz-kill, but I'm pretty sure that if you did what you stated, you would be in violation of your internet provider's Terms of Service (TOS). I recommend checking that before productionizing your proposed service.\n",
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What are your tried and true methods of quickly defrosting meat? It's a rainy day in San Francisco, and I'd love to make a pot roast, but it's frozen.
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I doubt I'll get to the pot roast today, but I wanted to see what other people's techniques were for quickly defrosting meat. Here are some of the techniques I have used and what I see as their disadvantages:
* Microwave (uneven heating, even with a spin plate... ALWAYS the chance of cooking some of the proteins, even on the defrost setting)
* Under cold water (this doesn't go that quickly, especially for thicker cuts of meat, plus it usually wastes a lot of water and can waterlog the meat)
* Lukewarm water (I am pretty adamantly opposed to this, because it nearly always waterlogs the meat and/or "cooks" it slightly, making a small, but noticeable difference in texture)
Any other ideas or suggestions?
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"body": "Put the meat in a container and fill the container with cool water. Then put it in the sink with the faucet running at a very slow drizzle on top of the meat. You'll need to move it around a bit, but the agitation of the water helps it defrost much faster than if the water was stagnant.",
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"body": "Um, why bother defrosting it at all? Unless you can't get the wrapping off in which case I'd microwave it at about 30% power until I could.\n\nThen I'd brown it (takes about the same time as a thawed roast), throw it into the dutch oven or slow cooker, and just proceed as normal. If you're using a pot roast recipe that doesn't call for browning, shame on you! (But just proceed with the frozen roast.) It will, of course, take a little longer to get done, but it'll be vastly quicker than thawing the thing first!\n\nBesides convenience, the advantage of not thawing is that you don't lose any of the juices.",
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"body": "Put it in a big Ziploc bag, squeeze out the excess air.\n\nPut it in cold/room temp water. Change the water once it gets cold. That will depend on how much water it is sitting in.\n\nFor you, conduction is the best defrosting method and immersing in a Ziploc will give you the best amount of conduction area.\n\nGood luck!",
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"body": "I have a griddle that is 1/2 inch steel. Laying anything on the griddle (while turned off) will conduct the cold away and dissipate it pretty quickly. The more surface contact the better. Keep turning the item. Great for a steak, whole chicken not so much.",
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"At one point consciousness-alterting devices like the microscope and telescope were criminalized [...]"
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> At one point consciousness-altering devices like the microscope and telescope were criminalized for exactly the same reasons that psychedelic plants were banned in later times. They allow us to peer into bits and zones of Chaos.
--Timothy Leary, *Chaos & Cyberculture*
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"body": "I find it too coincidental that our government has outlawed the use of a plant that facilitates philosophical thought. Not at all ironic, for this is exactly what you would expect of those who wish to hold power over others.",
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"body": "I read about a state legislator who heard about Salvia Divinorum from 60 minutes, of all places. He then thinks, \"why hasn't anyone outlawed this yet?\" As if all drugs should be automatically outlawed, and introduced a bill that outlawed it in his state. \n\nIronically, I only heard about and then tried Salvia after I heard about the controversy. If there was no debate about its illegalization, I would not have even known about its existence. \n\n",
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The Pillsbury Doughboy is modeled after a fetus,
taking advantage of a woman's close association
between birth and baking. - Mind Manipulation, H.
Lung. Is this BS? I can't readily find anything on it.
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There is all kinds of interesting and disturbing information in this book, but I'm wondering how much of it is BS. I never realized that Uncle Sam had such a striking resemblance to the western god either.
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"body": "Its true in the trivial sense. Most anthropomorphic animations resemble the proportions of a baby because that is what we culturally consider \"cute.\" The entire Disney empire is based on this principle: http://www.monmsci.net/~kbaldwin/mickey.pdf\n\nI wouldn't call it \"mind manipulation.\" Just animators trying to come up with something that looks nice.",
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"body": "Actually, I've heard Mind Manipulation uses false associations to take advantage of a skeptic's desire to stand outside of the crowd and have access to \"true\" information in order to build sales.\n\nIs this BS? I can't readily find anything on it.\n\nedit: In case you can't tell this is a joke, archetypal images are just that... and will necessarily have common characteristics.",
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"body": "Yes, of course, this is from the infamous \"Bun in the Oven: Correlations between Babies and Baking in the Psychology of the Pregnant and Expecting Women\" experiments of 1958.",
"score": 10
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"body": "As irrelevant as this comment is, I am compelled to mention it:\r\n\r\nOn Route 9 in central Massachusetts, and other places in New England, there's a chain funeral homes that offer cremation services. It's name? *Pillsbury Funeral Home & Cremation*. I get a chuckle every time I drive by.",
"score": 6
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"body": "Mind manipulation is more common than you think. For example, by reading this sentence you have granted me temporary control over your mind.",
"score": 5
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"body": "Women feel naturally close to foetuses? Why would they? A foetus inside the womb doesn't have a visual identity, and one outside the womb is beyond salvation. babies, sure, but not foetuses.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Well, you know, when I want to bake some biscuits the first thing that comes to mind is a caricatured pudgy, white fetus. I wish I knew why. When I knead those biscuits, all I can think about my failure to become a mother.",
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Dear Reddit, What is the most goriest thing that you have ever seen?
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I saw a crushed up turtle once. My experiences with death have been limited. Sorry if I made you re-live anything reddit =(
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"body": "In HS I worked in the evenings at a local veterinarian hospital. Front desk & assistant stuff...nothing overly hands on. \n\nOne evening this backwoods type couple comes in. He's tall, skinny, dirty jeans, Marlboro hat, Nascar t-shirt, beard, long hair...etc. She's about 400lbs+, wearing a moo-moo like gown / robe thing, greasy looking and they both smelled (vets offices already have an odor about them but when these two walked in...ewww). \n\nThey are both visibly distraught and as they get to the counter I see their dog. It's a [Lassie](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lassie) type collie dog and he looks like he's spent sometime outside on his own...I mean I've seen strays that have looked better. As I step closer to the dog the smell that I thought was this couple is coming from the dog. Putrid, dead animal smell. Horrible. The poor dog is whimpering and the vet, having smelled them comes from the back. In the waiting room he starts talking to the couple and bends over to pet the dog and take a look at him. His long collie hair was already dirty and matted but as he lifted up the matted hair we see the problem. **Stop reading here if you're sensitive to general horribleness**\n\nUnder the matted hair are maggots, in the dog...eating the poor thing alive from the inside out. Apparently these wonderful dog owners kept the dog outside, tied up and generally unattended. The dog developed some sort of skin infection which led to open sores which led to opportune maggots moving in. The smell, dead decaying dog. I will never forget that smell, or the sight of it all, for as long as I live. The poor dog was euthanized that evening. There was just nothing we could do to help him. ",
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"body": "The birth of my second son.\r\n\r\nWhen my wife was pregnant with boy number two, we went to the hospital as soon as she showed signs of spotting and felt contractions that were an \"urgent\" duration apart. After several hours of hoo-ing and haw-ing and lopsided shuffles along the maternity ward hallways, the doctor sent her home with an admonition to \"Take a hot shower, rest for a bit, and come back when your more dilated.\" (She was only about three centimetres at the time.)\r\n\r\nAs soon as we got home, my wife went to start a shower and the first thing I heard from the bathroom was, \"Honey! My water just broke!\" I wasn't allowed to help her clean up or get her out of the bathroom (she was too self-conscious), and she managed to make it to the bedroom where she tried to put her pants back on for the drive back to the hospital.\r\n\r\nShe ended up stuck in a bent-over position, arms braced on the bed, having severe contractions, and unable to stand up straight. \"What do I do?\", she wailed from the bedroom. \"I can't stand up or even walk to the door!\"\r\n\r\nMy only recourse then was to call 9-1-1 for the first time in my life. The fire station was only five blocks from our house, so the ambulance and fire truck arrived in about two minutes and there were quickly six uniformed men tromping snow throughout the house. They bodily heaved my wife onto her back on our bed, and I was instructed to \"... go warm some towels in the dryer; she's gonna give birth here.\"\r\n\r\nMy son was born within about five minutes of their arrival, and I got to cut the cord with a scalpel thrust into my face by one of the attending EMTs. They bundled her up and onto the gurney, rolled her out of the house and into the ambulance, and a towel-wrapped boy was held tenderly beside her all the way to the hospital.\r\n\r\nAfter they all left, I was the only one remaining to clean up the mess.\r\n\r\nNow, I witnessed the birth of my first son in the hospital, but it was attended by the doctor, several nurses, and a respiratory specialist. As soon as that wee boy came out, all else faded to the periphery for me. Not so with the second one, since my son was gone to the hospital with my wife and I had nothing to focus on *but* the biological remnants.\r\n\r\nLet me tell you, folks, birthing is a messy business. My marriage bed was now covered in blood, piss, shit, and a viscous, pungent miasma of amniotic fluid. I was amazed that so much *stuff* could come out of one woman, as well as the baby, and yet leave her alive.\r\n\r\nAll the sheets and bedding I balled up and stuffed into a big black garbage bag and took out to the far side of the garage. It had soaked liberally into the mattress -- a relatively new memory foam we'd treated ourselves to for $1,700. There was no saving that, either, so it got folded back in half and I hauled it to the dump a few days later.\r\n\r\nBirth, especially of your own child, is a rare and wondrous event. But it's even more memorable and a little shitty when you have to clean up after it all by yourself.",
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"body": "I'll tell you the goriest thing I haven't seen. The video made by these assholes - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dnepropetrovsk_maniacs",
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"body": "Train vs. pedestrian when I was an EMT. No medical care was involved...We just picked up the pieces :(",
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"body": "I witnessed a highway accident that resulted in a family getting burned alive in their car. Whoever was in the back was still conscious and beating against the window.",
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"body": "I work as a pizza guy for Domino's. I was called out to a hoax delivery in the worst area of the city at 1 in the morning, this one night. When I got there, I was greeted by a guy who said that he ordered the pizzas, but was on-edge.\n\nAt that point, I was ambushed by what witnesses said was 9 other guys. They had rings on their fingers, and a 2x4. I took a ferocious beating, but somehow managed to stay conscious (barely...).\n\nAs a side note, paramedics and doctors had told me afterwards that it was a miracle that I was able to stay conscious. If I had given out, my neck would surely have been snapped.\n\nBlood was everywhere, my teeth were chipped, I couldn't see. I still hadn't been hit with the 2x4 yet. They were saving that for the grand finale. I struggled against them and screamed, hoping against all odds that someone living in this hell-hole of a neighbourhood would hear me and come to help. No such luck.\n\n\"Quick! Just kill him!\" I heard one of them say.\n\nIt was at this precise point that a woman in a house across the road looked from between the blinds of her bedroom window to see the man with the 2x4 approach me. I could see nothing. I didn't know if I had been blinded, or if there was simply too much blood in my eyes to see anything, but when I heard them say that they were going to kill me, I refused to accept the fate that they had chosen for me.\n\nI raised one bleeding knee from off the gravel road, and launched myself upwards, throwing off both of the men who were holding me to the ground. In an instant, I took off in a random direction. They grabbed my shirt. I ran through it, literally ripping a chunk out of the back. Another grabbed my belt. He can keep it.\n\nAs I ran, a taxi passed. A million-to-one chance. Nobody drove down these streets at night unless they had to, and their route out was always as direct as possible. The chase was over, and they ran into the shadows which surrounded the area.\n\nI collapsed to the ground, in a sweating, bleeding, shitty mess. The woman from across the street who had seen the worst of the attack came out and took me into her home. She called the police and ambulance, and 4 squad cars, 2 ambulances and a detective were there within minutes.\n\nBut not before I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror which covered the wall opposite to where I was sat down within the woman's home.\n\nI had cleared the blood from my left eye so that I could see again... Big mistake... As I looked in the mirror, I saw what could only be described as a monster... My eyebrow had been hit down towards my eye so many times, and with such force that the skin had given way and folded to cover my right eye. With my left eye, I saw the back of my eyebrow, my skull, and the blood which poured from the wound, while the rest of my face was swollen, my teeth chipped and my nose bent out of shape.\n\nWhen I was in the hands of the paramedics, I promptly lost consciousness.\n\nAll that... Over a fucking pizza...",
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"body": "A few weeks ago, a few friends and I went for a stroll in the woods. We came across the reservoir. It was partially frozen over so we decided to go throw rocks at it. It was while I was searching for rocks that something between where the ice ended and the bank began caught my eye. A large mass, completely colorless, flesh torn away and ribcage exposed. For a second I thought it was a human being and I felt like I'd been shot in the gut, then the shape of the ribcage registered in my head and I realized what it actually was. \n\nIt was a dog. I'm not sure what kind, but it was big, bloated, and white, and after I turned back to my friends and refused to look one of them said, \"I can see its ears!\" We went up the hill to the path and sat down and nearly cried.",
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"body": "I watched someone try to gut a wild pig and he cut too deep, or in the wrong place. The pig's bowels literally exploded and covered us with warm blood and pig shit. It was cold, so there was steam rising from our freshly soaked hair and clothing.\r\n\r\n\r\nI know it was probably my imagination, but I swore that I could still smell pig shit on myself a week later, even though I had nearly scrubbed my skin off trying to get clean.",
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"body": "I once saw a cow that had been hit by a car in the desert. Its eyes were milky gray and bulging out about an inch. Its back half was all torn up. There was hardly any blood- it was at the stage where the flesh was dark gray and rotting, and I almost vomited because of the smell.\n\nBut the worst thing was the maggots. The **entire** back half of the animal had been eaten/covered by thousands and thousands of squirming maggots. There was no flesh visible on that part of the corpse. You could even see that the inside of the things mouth was nothing but maggots. It almost looked like the animal was made out of maggots, with some skin stretched over them, except where they had burst out.\n\nI was on a road trip at the time so we took a video. I'll post it later, maybe.",
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"body": "When I was living in Athens I saw someone lance what they thought was a boil. It was actually where a [bot fly larvae](http://listdom.files.wordpress.com/2009/10/parasite-out-of-head.jpg) (not actual photo) was trying to burrow out. There wasn't that much blood, but it was the most disgusting thing I ever witnessed. Turns out the guy had just gotten back from a family trip to Cancun. ",
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"body": "Friends and I were driving when the car in front of us hit a guy on a bicycle. They tore off, but we had a doctor in the car with us and we stopped so he could try to render aid. We called 911. The guy's head was cracked open, quite a bit of blood, but not as much as you'd expect really. I wasn't sure if I could see brains or not (it was very dark, even with our headlights). We stayed until an ambulance/cops arrived. We got the license plate number, but I don't know that they ever caught the guy.\n\nWe were all VERY quiet for the rest of that evening.",
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"body": "In the Army in Kuwait on our way to Kuwait. We'd just left the base and were starting the drive into Kuwait, we weren't more than 20 minutes out when an local national jumped the divider in his truck and slammed into one of our vehicles. Our guys were mostly ok, cuts and scratches, one had a back problem. The LN however was thrown through his windshield and was then ran over by his own truck. He looked exactly like what you'd expect a man who'd just been thrown through a windshield and run over by a semi would look like.",
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"body": "5 years working in and around the emergency room and surgery in a Level 1 trauma center exposed me to things I have a hard time even describing. The unbelievable things people do to themselves and to each other is just horrific. The upside, almost nothing bothers me anymore.\n\nEdit: I failed to answer the original question, so here goes. While I have seen stabbings, accidents, dismemberments and the like, the gunshots have always been the worst. I've seen numerous gunshot victims but the suicides were always the worst because they all tended to be head shots. There is just something about the smell of someone who has a gunshot to the head and half their brain spilling out onto the table. Those always got to me.",
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"body": "Is it time to link to encyclopedia dramaticas's *offened* page? If anyone's up to it, I'll post the link.\n\nEdit: Meh, I'll post it anyways: \n\nhttp://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/Offended\n\n**NSFW** ",
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"body": "With animals: there is a lot. I'm finishing up a biology degree and worked at a vet college for awhile. I've dissected pigs, cats, ferrets, calves, (Side note: I looked up this word to see if it was spelled different for legs and the baby cow, and apparently it also means \"a floating piece of ice that's detached from an iceberg\". Huh.) and organs like hearts and brains. I had samples kept in a walk in fridge where they also kept dog and horse bodies, heads and limbs for teaching, and I've watched them bring in carcass submissions of cows, horses, and a porpoise once. They hang them on giant hooks and chains and usually just leave them hanging there until they have a spot to put them, or incinerate them.\n\nThe worst I've seen in person was minimal. I took two years of nursing before switching my degree to biology, and during that time I had to clean puss and goo out of a 90ish year old's half-deflated cancerous eyeball. I was so grossed out that I felt the blood drain from my face, went blind and stumbled into a hallway and fell over.. almost passed out.\n\nAnother time I was watching a woman in a hospital get a tap-line put in- a long thin tube inserted into the arm and through the vein to deliver drugs or dye or something directly into the heart. When they cut her open, blood squirted everywhere, and I almost passed out again, exactly like above.\n\nI don't know what it is, but something about human gore really bothers me, while animals don't make me flinch.\n\nEDIT: I've also sat in on a necropsy on a harbour seal, which was awesome. Their blood is super dark, almost purple, and the vet doing it grabbed the esophagus out of the chest and pulled, and it came out with lungs on one end and the tongue on the other. then he skinned the head and set the skull on the table, with the eyeballs staring out at us and little dangly bits of gore dripping off it. I got covered in blood leaning in to watch everything, and yet I can't deal with a woman's arm bleeding.",
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"body": " I was 1st in line at a red light. I was in the left turning lane in a big work truck. My light turned green along with the straight thru traffic on my immediate right I started going when our light turned green and saw this car coming at about 50 mph. I hit the brakes but the poor old couple on my right trying to go straight never saw anything coming from the left due to my big work truck. He just barely clipped the back passenger quarter panel. The ass end of the car skipped to the left then the right and back to the left. (If you have ever seen a small light weight trailer or car dolly with no car on it. Once you get them up above 50 they start bouncing from side to side.) When the tires hit that last time they gripped the pavement and the the car went into a sickening roll. The 1st roll was a normal roll (1 roll) but due to the angle of when the car hit the pavement (ass end then front end) it launched it up in a high arc into the air where it twisted 3 complete revolutions in mid air before hitting pavement again. Then rolled twice more before coming to a stop back on it's tires. During that triple roll in mid air the passenger was ejected at least a hundred feet down the road. If you need a visual for that take a rag doll by the leg and try to throw a nice arcing curveball. Much like the rag doll the female teenage passenger bounced off the pavement once flew another 20 feet then skidded/rolled another 15 or 20. I never seen the passenger door open and there was no hole in the windshield big enough, I think she came out the passenger window but maybe the door flew open and closed again during that roll I'm not sure. Anyway, I jumped out and ran to the ejected passenger everything was red couldn't begin to figure out where the bleeding was coming from and limbs were facing ways they were never meant to face. The only thing I could think of was to ask \"are u ok\" (ya i know) in my defense I was thinking don't move her. About this time I hear \"Sarah!!!!!! Sarah!!!! are you ok? Sarah!!!!!\" I turn to see the driver also teenage girl coming running towards us. She runs right to Sarah and bends over and I know shes about to try to turn her over onto her back so I grab her from behind and lift and turn her away. And tell her not to move her. Besides the girl being ejected the most remarkable memory of this day was this was a 17ish year old girl maybe 110 lbs. At the time i was doing construction and in the best shape of my life and I screamed for help trying to restrain this tiny girl from getting to her friend. It took 4 of us to get her into the lawn of the long john silvers that was sitting on that corner.",
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Hey Reddit, I need to ship a pie long distance. Help?
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My buddy in Connecticut is awesome and really likes pies so I'm sending him one. Ideally, I'd like to have made this pie, but pie delivery services are acceptable as well. Does anyone know of a company that will transport food for you? Or some way of doing this through FedEx or what have you? I'm frankly too lazy/busy salivating over the prospect of pie to look into this as thoroughly as it warrants.
Thanks!
Edit -- somenobby wins the best suggestion overall award with a link to how to ship perishable items. Man, reddit is the best sometimes. I log on to get angry about the war in Iraq and end up sending pastry through the postal service. Yesssss.
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"body": "My friend once shipped a piece of toast from london to manchester. He just cello-taped it up and stuck a label on it. In fact, it didn't even have the correct address. \nRoyal Mail managed to successfully deliver a slice of toast to\n\n''the big house on the corner, near ----- football club,\nat the top of -------- road.\nit has a red door.\n\nGreater Manchester.\nHe put about three quarters of the correct postcode down too.\nThe ----- bits were inserted by my through an overactive sense of paranoia that my girlfriends parents will be swamped with poorly wrapped toast deliveries if anyone guesses the address.\nSo I'd say, just believe that the pie will get there... and it probably will.",
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"body": "Hmm, interesting. Does the type of pie matter? If you're willing to fork over the cash to overnight it, a relatively solid, dense pie like a cheesecake or pecan/sweet potato/pumpkin pie should make the journey relatively unscathed, provided you cushion it really well and throw in some ice packs. You shouldn't have any problem shipping food through FedEx, UPS or the post office -- people send cookies, etc. in care packages all the time. \n\nHowever, if your buddy is set on fruit filling or if you're short on dough (har har) you're probably better off googling a local bakery and seeing if they'll deliver.",
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"body": "Found this; [How to ship a perishable item](http://personalshipping.howtoshipanything.com/how-to-ship-a-perishable-item/)",
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What did /r/books think of The Road?
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I'm almost done reading it, and I just saw this on Wikipedia:
>Entertainment Weekly in June 2008 named The Road the best book, fiction or non-fiction, of the past 25 years...
Really? Really, Entertainment Weekly?
There's no accounting for taste, I guess, but it's not exactly blowing me away.
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"body": "When I started reading The Road I noticed all the \"mistakes\" in the language, but as I read on, the style of writing grew on me and I stopped noticing all the dropped apostrophes and quote tags.\n\nI think the dialogue in the book was spot on. A lot of it was drawn from conversations McCarthy had with his son. The review you posted bitched about the repetitiveness of the dialogue, little kids repeat things a lot, and the boy's expressions of fear are bleak because he hasn't been influenced in his language by emotional people. The boy has learned how to communicate from his father, and thus mimics him.\n\nAs for the lack of names, well, I think 'the boy' and 'the man' work perfectly for the way the book is written. Why do they need names when no-one in the book will be referring to them by name?\n\nThe prose is both bleak and complex, I thought it read a lot like a mesh of poetry and traditional prose. Cormac McCarthy knows how to use language, his other books aren't written in the same style as The Road. \n\nWhile I don't think it's the best book of the past 25 years, or even McCarthy's best work, The Road is a great book that will undoubtedly influence a lot of literature in the years to come.",
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"body": "If you liked The Road, I'd recommend *[To The White Sea](http://www.amazon.com/White-Sea-Delta-World-Library/dp/0385313098)* by James Dickey, of *Deliverance* fame.\r\nStrangely enough, I learned when googleing for a link that it was almost made into a movie by the Coen brothers (they actually completed a script), who adapted McCarthy's *No Country for Old Men* to the screen.",
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"body": "I didn't like it, there's no backstory of anything (the world, characters, etc) , dialogue was very poor, \"ash\" everywhere, etc... the only thing I liked was the writing style but at the end I wanted to finish it just to be able to buy a new book (is just a silly self-imposed habit: to not buy a new book without finishing my current one first, )",
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The Difference Between Forgiveness and Reconcilation
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In this post, I want address the issue of reconciliation in Buddhism. As the article by Thanissaro Bhikkhu that follows explains, there are important differences between the forgiveness and reconcilation. The article also points out how abandoning the idea of right and wrong in the name of a non-dualistic view of morality can lead to real problems and abuse.
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"body": "Are you referring to this?\n\nhttp://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/thanissaro/reconciliation.html",
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Can someone explain the benefits of pressure cookers? When would you use one?
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I just saw a recipe about making chicken stock in one (http://www.seriouseats.com/recipes/2010/01/quick-pressure-cooker-chicken-broth-stock-recipe-in-less-than-an-hour.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+seriouseats%2Frecipes+%28Serious+Eats%3A+Recipes%29&utm_content=Google+Reader). Discuss?
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"body": "Increasing the pressure means you can cook food faster. This is because when steam is under pressure, it's hotter than it is under regular atmospheric pressure.\n\nIf you're familiar with basic physics, there is something called the ideal gas law:\n\n PV = nRT\n P = pressure\n V = volume\n n = moles of the material (how much \"stuff\" you have)\n R = a constant number/the ideal gas constant (8.314472 joules/(kelvin*moles), if you care)\n T = temperature\n\nBasically, all you need to get out of this is that if the amount of stuff you have is fixed (the \"V\" and \"n\" variables), an increase in pressure means an increase in heat.\n\nI may be screwing some of the explanation up, but basically it means that you can cook stuff faster because the pressure allows you to cook it at hotter temperatures with water.\n\nSources: [How Does a Pressure Cooker Work?](http://missvickie.com/workshop/howdoesit.html) and [Everyday physics:pressure cookers.](http://diracseashore.wordpress.com/2008/09/17/everyday-physics-pressure-cookers/) (The second one has equations, yay!)",
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"body": "1. Pinto beans take all day to cook on a stove top. If you soak the beans overnight, and then cook them in a pressure cooker-it only takes 25 minutes to have a delicious pot of beans. 2. Tough meat can be tenderized in 20 minutes. 3. Stew vegetables only take 5 min. Note: If you are not the type to read the safety section of the documentation, don't use one.",
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"body": "[Alton Brown explains pressure cookers on an episode of Good Eats.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0e0tm5tgB0) Made me want one :)",
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22 y/o female experiencing hair loss. Any advice on products or treatments that work?
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Originally posted in Ask Reddit, but someone kindly suggested this subreddit also :)
A little about myself,
I am a 22 year old female with naturally thin and fine hair. I straightened my hair on a daily basis until I noticed my hair was falling out more than it should be (about 6-8 months ago). I have stopped straightening it since, and I have not coloured my hair in years.
I understand that on average woman lose approximately 100 strands of hair per day, but when in the shower I notice much more than that falling out. I wash my hair every other day or so because it is naturally very dry and I do not use products on it (I do however, blow dry it straight).
I use a medium priced shampoo (nothing fancy), and I was hoping someone maybe in the same situation as myself could recommend a product that works. I would rather get some advice from Reddit before spending a lot more money on hair products.
Any advice is greatly appreciated!! I really don't want to lose my hair!
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"body": "Are you on any new medications? Have you recently lost a lot of weight or had a major change in diet/nutrition? Are you under a lot of stress? At your age, I would think there's something more to the story. You should talk to a doctor.\r\n\r\n",
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"body": "Is it breaking or is the whole hair (including the root) falling out?\n\nI experienced \"hair loss\" this past summer. I swear my apartment was covered in hair balls from the amount of hair I was losing. It was ridiculous. I think it may have been [telogen effluvium](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Telogen_effluvium) because I could see the entire root in every hair that came out. I had a blood test, to see if it was caused by anemia, hypothyroidism, etc, but it all came back normal. I would suggest that you do the same. Otherwise, perhaps wait it out, see if it slows/stops, or consult a dermatologist. That's what my doctor told me. ",
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"body": "Well I've got PCOS and have been on metformin and roaccutane for the last while. Side effects of both are hair thinning/loss which has worried me a LOT, so I know how you feel! *hugs*\n\nI think what I've realised is that the more you worry, the worse it is. You are supposed to lose 20-50 hairs a day or something like that, so don't do what I did, i.e. pull hairs out of the comb individually and _count_ them. At that point I figured I was going crazy and took a step back.... I asked my hairdresser and he said that there's no problem with my hair, sure it's fine but it wasn't noticeably thinning. I think it's easy to stress out about it and think it's worse than it actually is!\n\nMy advice would be to try and stop worrying about it. And try and stay as healthy as possible. Your body uses vitamins/minerals for the most important things first, like your heart, lungs, etc. Hair is pretty far down the list, and gets whatever's left over. So make sure you eat healthy, get loads of sleep, and take a vitamin tablet specifically for hair, skin and nails like perfectil if you can.\n\nAlso, I've noticed hard water is worse, if you live in an area with hard water try to fit a filter or something. And definitely lay off any harsh product!",
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"body": "Definitely see a doctor. It could be hormone problems or something.\n\nIf that's the case, I've read that Nizoral anti-dandruff shampoo can help prevent hair loss in cases of androgen-related balding. You can get 1% on the shelves, or 2% strength if you ask over the counter. I don't know if this actually works, but might be worth looking into.",
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"body": "I experienced hair loss when I had anaemia - perhaps an iron supplement could help? Or even just some sort of multi-vitamin. Good luck, I know it is distressing seeing it all coming out between your fingers in the shower.",
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"body": "If you're not eating properly, your hair can fall out. Have you been doing any extreme dieting or unhealthy eating?",
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What makes Guinness look like it's flowing downwards?
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What makes Guinness look like it's flowing downwards? How can a homebrewer achieve this if they brew a stout? Is it only possible on tap?
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"body": "[They really do flow down... around the edges of the glass](http://www.chem.ed.ac.uk/guinness/why.html)\n\nI've made a couple of beers that do this. It seems to happen in thicker beers with fairly high carbonation.",
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"body": "You can do this with any beer, you just need a Nitro tap, and \"beer gas\" it's a mix of nitrogen and co2.\n\nFor homebrew you would need a kit like this....\nhttp://www.beveragefactory.com/draftbeer/guinness_store/guinness_kegkits/index.shtml\n\nand some ball lock ends and kegs.\n\nIt's too expensive for my blood, but I have a friend that got the setup and digs it, but he's nuts. ;)",
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Is there any advantage to flat-head screws over phillips head?
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Seriously I can't understand why anyone would still use flat head screws anymore. They seem to be inferior to phillips screws in every way. I can understand that they used to be easier to manufacture, but why still use them? If there is some use/advantage please enlighten me...
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"body": "Slotted is probably the worst, the screwdriver can slip right out of the slot sideways.\n\nAdvantage: can open it with a lot of non-screwdriver items, if you want that.\n\nPhilips: not bad, if use the right size driver.\n\nBest: Robertson (square)",
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"body": "First you need to be specific. A phillips head screw is designed to make sure you slip out so you can't over torque. Generally speaking a flat head is used in finish work like wood working. A cross head is intended to be used with a drill or other high speed device.",
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"body": "A pan head screw has a rounded head. A flat head screw has a flat surface, so that the head is flush with the surface of the material it is fastening. These screws have many different recesses. One is the phillips recess and another is called slotted.",
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"body": "Well, I think they are much more attractive on classic furniture, door plates &c. than the more modern alternatives.\n\nOne advantage is that if ones messes up the screw head one can Dremel or otherwise cut a new slot perpendicular to the original. Otherwise, a Pozidriv, Pozisquare or whatever is far superior.\n\nAs this is a great opportunity for bringing this up, take a few seconds to read about the differences between Phillips drive and Pozidriv and why the screwdrivers for each should not be used on the screws of the other. [Pozidriv screwheads](http://www.alpinecarving.com/images/course_screw.jpg) have four lines emanating from the slot whilst Phillips screws do not. You can see the difference in the drivers/bits [in this picture](http://www.alpinecarving.com/pozidriv.jpg) — the Pozidriv have eight points whilst the Phillips have four.",
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"body": "Why phillips? Torx or robertson are the way to go for most projects.\n\nIn the US, phillips and flat are common.. kinda like the imperial feet/inches.\n\nThe rest of the world has since upgraded, you guys should really check out the next firmware update, it includes:\n\n- Metric System\n- Better screws\n- Less religious nuttery as a bonus!",
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"body": "I can't help but think of the \"King of Queens\" episode \"Screwed Driver\" where Arthur (Jerry Stiller) decides to come up with a better screwdriver. \n\nArthur: (on his 'Arthur-head' screwdriver) I fashioned the end from an old typewriter key. You see, the 'A' - key fits into the corresponding 'A'- hole.",
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Is there a website where I can see videos of competitive play?
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I was watching some starcraft videos and was wondering, what if there was something like this for tf2? Any website or youtube channel would be appreciated.
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"body": "http://pwnage.tv has video shoutcasts of one or two TF2 matches per week.\n\nhttp://tgbf.tv is another TF2 casting site. I believe it does more casts of wider skill levels (I saw a TWL division 3 match cast on there).\n\nhttp://gotfrag.com/tf2/demos usually has the demo files of high-level matches, and many more, available for download. Requires free registration though.",
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"body": "CommunityFortress.com and our youtube channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/CommFT \r\n\r\nI produce Match replays under the title eXtv, Lange is doing Top 10 videos for us, and Wanderrful produces Vocabulary and Strategy Videos!",
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"body": "http://www.gotfrag.com/tf2/demos/\r\n\r\nNot videos but demos you have to playback in-game. These are better than videos anyway since you have more control over them.",
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"body": "www.esportsea.com\n\nthis league generally has the highest level of competition, you can make an account for free and then check it as often as you like to see when actual matches are being played so you can connect to the sourcetv and watch it as it's happening.",
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Third weekly Reddit meetup: Thursday 1/21 6:30pm @ Henry's
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http://henrystavern.com/page/home
They say there should probably be enough room for us to hang out on a Thursday evening. They have good food and lots of beer choices. They have pool upstairs so bring your protractors!
The last two were tons of fun so get off the fence and come join us! Don't just take it from me:
* http://www.reddit.com/r/Portland/comments/ap9hw/reddit_meetup_ethiopian_thursday_night_114_7_pm/
* http://www.reddit.com/r/Portland/comments/an2ce/pictures_from_tonights_meetup_it_was_fun/
Edit: Please take responsibility for your own tab. Last time it was a bit of a mess trying to figure out the bill. I think it was mostly the fault of the proprietor, but let's not let it happen again.
Edit: Everything went great! sweetcircus schooled us at pool and there was a lot of imbibery and crazy Abba talk. Our turnout gets stronger each time! Keep 'em coming!
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"body": "alienman plus one! Now, with three times more commitment! I got my headlight replaced just so I could make it this week. Just for this reason alone!",
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"body": "There's a good chance I'll be there so:\n\nIf you can't find our group, call or text me: [edit: number removed, meetup accomplished]. I'll try to point you in the right direction. See you there!",
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"body": "We will be there! I'm not that great, but I'd definitely be down for a game of pool.\n\nEDIT: I'd like to point out that Henry's has happy hour from 3-6pm, then 9pm-close :( Maybe next time we can find a place where we can go during happy hour in order to get better prices.",
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Why are my teeth yellow even though i brush 3 times a day for at least 5 min.?
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is there a certain technique that people have to get their teeth perfectly white?
I just use colgate toothpaste and a regular brush. I floss everyday too.
Is there a way to get them white? or does it all just depend on the toothpaste you use?
I know there are some products that make your teeth white but it's only temporary and expensive.
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"body": "Find the trick, discovered by a mom, that dentists don't want you to know about. Whitens teeth for under $5.00",
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Anyone able to adopt a cat?!?! Kingsley will be put to sleep if not adopted by Wednesday
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I was browsing craigslist and found an adorable cat that will be put to sleep if he is not adopted by Wednesday the 20th by 5pm. I live at home with my parents and my mom is terribly allergic to all fur and feathers, so I can't adopt him!
Send the word out, or poor kingsley is at the end of his journey. =(
http://austin.craigslist.org/pet/1557484705.html
Also [find him here](http://www.petharbor.com/detail.asp?ID=A564880&LOCATION=ASTN&searchtype=ALL&friends=1&samaritans=1&nosuccess=0&rows=10&imght=120&imgres=thumb&view=sysadm.v_austin&bgcolor=ffffff&text=000000&link=339900&alink=cccc99&vlink=808000&fontface=arial&fontsize=10&col_hdr_bg=336633&col_hdr_fg=ffffff&col_fg=000000&SBG=ffffff&zip=78704&miles=10&shelterlist=%27ASTN%27&atype=&where=type_CAT,gender_m)
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"body": "Wow, he's adorable!\n\nI'm going to talk it over with my roommate. I'm currently doing long-term cat-sitting for a friend, but will be sad when Lynx is gone.\n\nMy bf is a dog person, but so far, both dogs have gotten along splendidly with Lynx, even going so far as to having tumbling matches together (the cat chases them!).\n\nMust save the kitty!",
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"body": "If I had a job, thus my own place to live, I would have already picked this guy up. I hope that someone can even just foster him until he finds a permanent home! ",
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"body": "Awww, he reminds me of one of my cats (a stray we adopted in Edinburgh, Scotland), but unfortunately 2 cats are about as much as we can handle :-(\n\nI would ask that people don't say they are just thinking of adopting Kingsley unless they are actually going to do it.\n\nImagine you say here that you're thinking about it, that just discourages others as they will think he'll be ok. Then if you subsequently decide against it, you've basically signed Kingsley's death warrant :-(((",
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"body": "I stopped by the shelter on the way home from work, and it turns out the person that brought Kingsley in decided to keep him!\n\nI didn't do this, because apparently my current kitty is due for his rabies shot, but I was told you can still request to be a backup/standby adopter for this kitty, or any other furry at the shelter that has been spoken for.",
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My boss, who is Christian and doesn't know I am an atheist, just sent around this "faith" survey and has been bugging me for my results...what should I do?
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**EDIT: Thanks for all of the advice on this guys. I think the general consensus is to politely dodge the subject and if pushed tell a white lie. I'd rather sweep this under the rug and keep my career potential intact than worry about negative repercussions, whether or not they would be legal. At the end of the day, he is a good guy that I think just assumes that he is talking to another Christian (he knows I was raised Catholic), in which case I would probably not find any of this offensive in the first place. Thanks again for all the help!**
He isn't a super big fundamentalist but he does occasionally espouse the "value" of faith and being religious. He knows I come from a Catholic family so he sometimes prods me to find a church and start going. To date, I have always just laughed it off and said how it isn't the most important thing to my wife and I, etc. etc. So then today he sends this survey around to everyone in the office (small tight-knit group of only 6 people) and wants to know our results. He has so far asked me twice, and I have told him that I haven't gotten around to it yet. Any advice?
A couple small side points - a conversation about the increasing secularization of the Jewish community came up at work in response to an AP article and his comment was that it was "scary." He also told me that he is "worried" about what his partner's results will be because he suspects him to be an atheist. I obviously don't want to tell him I'm an atheist but I also don't want to spout off lies and religious nonsense. Pretty torn here...
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"body": "Decline outright to fill it out. If you have to prevaricate, say you don't like to discuss matters of faith with those outside of your religion.",
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"body": "Tell him, \"I'm sorry I haven't filled out the faith survey yet. It's a bit of an uncomfortable topic for me. I believe in what Jesus said in Matthew chapter six -- that we should keep our charity and our religious life to ourselves, so that we know that we're acting from pure motives. What would it say about me if I passed a religious test for my boss? Would it mean that I'm using my religion to get ahead in the workplace? I know you're acting out of good motives. I know you're a good person. It probably sounds like I'm over-thinking things, but I just don't feel comfortable discussing my faith at work.\"",
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"body": "What country are you in? What he is doing is quite possibly illegal. \r\n\r\nYou can tell him that it's not legal for him to ask, and that it is none of his business. Then if you suffer any ill-treatment, you can get a lawyer.",
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"body": "Here is a link to the survey. Should have posted it with the submition. \n\nhttp://www.beliefnet.com/Entertainment/Quizzes/BeliefOMatic.aspx",
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"body": "Something obvious that is being overlooked - if he's fired for being an atheist, he can sue, but that doesn't put food on the table immediately. Also, he may be from a state that's got reeeeal protective laws for small, private businesses like this that makes it impossible to file a wrongful termination suit. \n\nBarring that he'd be ditching all the time he's invested in the work place as mentioned elsewhere.",
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"body": "You have 3 viable options each with up sides and down sides. \n\n1)You can lie and say that you believe in god but have trouble with organized religion and people claiming to know the will of god. Up side being that they will keep treating you about the same down side is that they might find out you were lying and you may not be comfortable lying. \n\n2) You can say that you feel faith is a personal thing and you don't feel comfortable discussing in a professional environment. Up side is that you don't have to lie and if he demands you fill it out or starts treating you poorly you would have grounds to sue. Down side being that it may jeopardize your your job or how your coworkers feel about you. \n\n3) You tell them the truth. Up side being that you get to tell the truth, downside is that you will get treated differently. \n\nIf you do tell the truth I would recommend that you get a small microphone to record the conversation in case he reacts poorly. Getting him lecturing you or yelling at you on tape could save your ass in case feel you are passed over for promotion, feel it's becoming a hostile workplace, or are fired for it and you want to sue. ",
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"body": "\"He also told me that he is \"worried\" about what his partner's results will be because he suspects him to be an atheist.\" -- Is this a Typo or am I misreading your overtly religious boss as being gay?",
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"body": "He can't ask you, legally, and you are under no obligation to answer him, legally.\n\nAnd if that is a problem -- he has no grounds to fire you either for not answering. He may need a reminder of the law.",
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"body": "If you are worried - advise him that he is in violation of the EEOC Compliance manual section 12...an to mind his own fuckin' business.\n\nsee here... http://www.eeoc.gov/policy/docs/religion.html\n",
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"body": "Ideally, you would tell him its not his business and faith doesn't matter in the workplace. \n\nRealistically, you should tell him what he wants to hear. If you think your boss is type to hold a grudge, don't attempt to change his mind. You're not going to, and you are only going to make yourself untrustworthy in his eyes. \n\nIf it helps, put down the pros/cons of each decision. The risk is great for telling him, and whats the payoff? you maybe convince one person that atheists aren't so bad?\n\nThis is going to be an unpopular post, but you need to do whats best to support your family. Its not a perfect world.",
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"body": "Um I'm pretty sure that your boss can't send out a survey like that in the workplace, pretty sure that's illegal. ",
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"body": "Consider finding another job. Seriously. \r\n\r\nBut if you're sure you value this job with a boss who really is that retarded, then the best advice is simply to play along. Take the Path of Least Resistance! You've nothing to gain [but much to lose] by outing your personal details to him. So LIE. Tell him what he wants to hear. BLIND HIM WITH BULLSHIT <-- he deserves it. Your job security is riding on this, much as that completely sucks. You can ask him about **his** results and then say [with a big grin] that yours are exactly the same! And hey, wow, Boss, how cool is that?!! We're TOTALLY on the same wavelength!\r\n\r\nAlternatively, here's a suggestion I haven't seen among the other replies, which is basically never answering the question -- and this is distinctly different than *refusing* to answer. Just don't answer, ad infinitum. Here's how:\r\n\r\nJust keep on \"not getting around to it\" because you are *always* too busy **working**. \r\n\r\nAnd if he still brings it up, feign a forehead slap (like, \"oops\" you still \"forgot\" to do it) then segue smoothly and directly back into a **work** topic, i.e., to reiterate that the ostensible \"reason\" why you \"forgot\" is because you're so busy **working** --which is a \"value\" that is central to your strong work ethic. But whatever you do, don't paint yourself into a corner where you're promising him that you'll make time for his intrusive religious bigotry. \r\n\r\nOr, if you can puke at will [a handy skill we should all possess], do that. FTW.",
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"body": "From the looks of things, you've got a choice to make. What he's doing is clearly illegal. You can either start documenting everything and pursue legal action against this asshole, you can lie your ass off and manipulate the sonovabitch to get to the that position you're wanting, or you can tell him that you really don't want to discuss that sort of thing with work colleagues because it is a non-work related topic and should be left at home. \n \nIt all depends on how much risk you want to take. The lowest risk is to lie your ass off and manipulate the guy, of course. That will be the easiest thing to do, and will involve the least upheaval in your life. You will, however, be forced to deal with living a lie at work. If you're cool with that, go for it. Slight risk is the \"I don't want to discuss/disclose that at work\" route, which, depending on how much of an asshole this guy is, might take you out of the running for that promotion you're looking forward to in the medium term. On the other hand, you neatly avoid the question and don't have to lie to anyone. Lastly, of course, there's avoiding things for as long as possible while documenting everything and then up-front telling him that yeah, you're an atheist, and there's nothing you can do about it. I'd keep a voice recorder going during that part.",
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Anyone else think Obama isn't doing that bad of a job?
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For my first topic, I am hoping for an awesome debate, and not the Obama Rage downvotes, but here goes:
I don't think he's doing that bad a job, but I constantly see posts about how bad a job Obama is doing. There are many issues he hasn't addressed sufficiently. But I think he's showing a lot of social intelligence - people as a whole don't know what they want, don't plan well for the long term, and are afraid of change. You don't convince someone by shoving it down their throat - you get them used to it so they don't think of it as change.
edit: side note, I don't consider myself to have a party - I try to make an informed decision and not stick to party.
edit 2: wow, front page in an hour, I really didn't expect that.
Discuss, if you please.
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"body": "I think that, considering the crap he has to deal with (failing economy, a house and senate controlled by his party that still can't get shit done, two wars) he has done a great job.",
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"body": "Tell you what I am very disappointed.\n\nI am disappointed in the Economic team he chose. He fucking hired Timothy Geithner, the man behind the wall street bailouts as the president of the NY FED as treasury secretary, and he has done an abysmal job.\n\nI am very disappointed with Rahm Emanuel, his Chief of Staff.\n\nRahm is responsible for single-payer health care reform from not even being allowed up for debate. He supposedly has had Liebermann over a dozen times for meetings on health care, and Lieberman said that Rahm never asked him to support a Public Option.\n\nRahm also orchestrated the deal with Big Pharma which negates the United States Govt. from bargining on drug prices, and keeping their monopoly in check by continuing Bush's law of making it illigial to buy drugs from Canada.\n\nObama increased troops in Afghanistan, and I know he ran on it, but I think it is a terrible mistake.\n\nhe has radically escalated the war with Pakistan.\n\nHe has not closed Gitmo.\n\nHe has made several signing statements and executive orders, such as continuing the Bush era spying of American citizens, and the continued immunity extended to AT&T for spying on US citizens.\n\nHis stimulus package was way to weak, and every major economist said it should have been twice as big, and as a result unemployment is over 10%.\n\nBut most of all, his silence for months and months while this country essentially corroded away debating death panels, and bullshit on the proposed healthcare reform is the most disturbing.\n\nObama, and Rahm have the power to effect real health care reform, they have just chosen to take the side of the financial elite, and I am not the only one who see's it that way.\n\nIf Brown wins tomorrow it will be a big wake up call for Obama and his inside the beltway advisers.\n\nAmericans are not stupid, and I feel as if Obama looks at us that way. (More his staff that advises him)\n\n",
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"body": "I think the quick switch we saw in regards to opinion of Obama is due to 2 things:\n\n\n1) Raised expectations. The man ran a campaign espousing change. Change, change, change. We heard it all over the place. His rhetoric was ambitious. He got people excited. He raised our expectations. And he simply isn't working quickly enough to satisfy the expectations he created.\n\n\n2) He's not that liberal. He undoubtedly is to the left, maybe even more-so than most democrats. But there is (was?) a public perception that he is **much** more liberal than he actually is. During the campaign, this is how the Republicans attacked him. How many times did we hear \"*most liberal senator*\" and \"*left-wing radical*\". Plenty of people fell for this. Especially liberals, who were excited by the prospect of a **truly** liberal president.\n\n\nNow those same liberals are disappointed. Because he ran a center-left campaign that was *perceived* as a leftist campaign. They're not getting what they expected. They *expected* single-payer. They *expected* a strong push for gay marriage. They *expected* a major crackdown on carbon emissions.\n\n\nThe problem is, Obama did not run on any of those things. But many people *assume* he did, because he was *supposed* to be liberal.\n\n\nEdit: Forgot my opinion. He's doing an OK job. Frankly, I think he's thinking too politically. Trying to be bipartisan. Calculating how many votes will be lost if there is or is not a public option. Thinking about what states need to be won over for the next election. Etc. \n\n\nThat's all well and good, but the Republicans are better at that. They just are. They're better at circling the wagons. They're better at voting together. They're better at making calculated politically advantageous decisions. They're better at controlling the media narrative. They're just a more cohesive well-built election machine.\n\n\nInstead of thinking politically, the Democrats should do what they want. They should pass the legislation that they think is best, *regardless* of what damage it will do to them politically. They should rely on governing *effectively* to win support, instead of relying on politicking.",
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"body": "As far as I'm concerned- just by celebrating math and science, returning federal funding to stemcell research, and putting Steven Chu at DOE- the man has done a hands down fantastic job. \n\nJUST BY DOING THAT. \n\nI mean, the man could push literally zero agendas- or fail at all of them, but the very action of not being an anti-intellectual is all I wanted. I mean- for god's sake- all the Republicans have to do is field someone who isn't arm flappingly ignorant and they'd get a serious look from me. ",
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"body": "I have to laugh every time I see the Republicans criticize him for not delivering on his promises, while they fight tooth-and-nail to prevent him doing so.\n",
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"body": "I'm from the UK but all I can say is give the man some fucking time!\n\nYou (and the rest of the world) endured 8 years of bush (because you voted him in) and you expect Obama to solve everything in a year?! Stop complaining.",
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"body": "Libertarian here. He's doing as a good a job as I figured he would. Based on his platforms during the campaign, I knew to expect corporate handouts and aggressive foreign policy, and he's done that. I knew to expect an attempt to change the health care system, and he's done pretty much what he said he'd do there. I don't like his campaigning for Coakley - if she didn't try hard enough to win she doesn't deserve to win.\n\nWhat I did not expect was a concerted effort for transparency, and a relatively successful attempt at it, at least in the White House. I respect the man for that. Congress is another story, of course.",
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"body": "I think Obama is doing a pretty good job, but even more importantly, I think many Republicans realize the same. Two quick stories:\n\nFirst story: I was talking to our Republican congressman a couple of weeks ago. I asked him why the Republicans were just obstructionist on health care reform rather than admitting that Obama was right about access and trying to behave constructively on getting some market-based provisions into the legislation. He said he thought the Republican leadership was the problem and that he and many of his more junior fellow Republicans were trying to get the leadership to act in a more bipartisan fashion. Even if this is 90% bullshit, the fact that he took this tact rather than trying to defend the Republican position is to me very indicative that at least he realizes that a lot of the criticism of Obama is political rather than substantive. (He also said the media is partly to blame because they get a lot more attention when reporting on conflict than they do reporting when people are working well together).\n\nMy second story: I belong to the Rotary (motto: Service Above Self, most famous for having led the international effort to defeat polio, but most members seem to be conservative business-types). Last week, we had a get together and I was surprised when another couple came up to my wife and I and said they wanted to get our impression of how President Obama has been doing. The reason I was surprised is that he is a died and true Republican, former advisor to a U.S. Senator, and I assume his wife is just as conservative, and they're both Harvard Law graduates. And, I'm sort of well known for my liberal social views (although I tend to be conservative on fiscal issues). So, I said I thought he was doing pretty well and effectively juggling a lot of very challenging issues, although I wish the Republicans would have behaved constructively on health care reform and negotiated some changes to control costs. To my great surprise, they agreed with me, said they were very frustrated with their party and then spent a few minutes disparaging Palin.",
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"body": "I voted for McCain. In retrospect, I should have voted for Obama. I may get downvoted, but I'm man enough to admit it. I can't stand Fox News anymore and I'm sick of hearing people criticize Obama for the job he's doing. Seriously, it's the most stressful job in the world, give him a break. He's doing fine. Change and progress take time.",
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"body": "I agree with you, Original Poster. It seems to me that everyone was all mad at Bush for shoving things down our throat (the war, etc), avoiding debate, skirting the legislative process, and other such things, but now some of the same people are mad at Obama for not doing the same thing. I wish he'd push a little harder on some things, but I think overall he's doing a fine job.",
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"body": "He's a hell of a lot better and step in the right direction compared to what McCain and Palin would be doing.",
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"body": "I don't really think much about politics, but as far as Obama goes...I think he's doing as good of a job as any man could. \n\nObama came into office with a big plate of SHIT to clean up after Bush. He didn't exactly come in and have it easy. He's having to attempt to fix, or deal with all the stuff Bush left behind. Now, I never was a fan of Bush at all...I hate war. I am against it 100%. I couldn't stand the way he spoke publicly, I couldn't stand the way he delt with ANYTHING. \n\nObama seems to be a very sincere man...and with intentions of doing what is good (as far as I can tell anyways). It seemed that Bush had one thing on his mind and one thing only.\n\nObama is doing a pretty good job dealing with what's on his plate.",
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"body": "The first president I remember was Ronald Reagen. Here is a list of things that have changed since Reagen,\n\n* Health care? **Nope.**\n\n* Pointless war on drugs? **Nope.**\n\n* Foreign wars that seem to have no actual affect on my daily life? **Nope.**\n\n* Corruption in government? **Nope.**\n\n* The rich get richer and the poor get poorer? **Nope.**\n\n* Wages of the working class? **Nope.**\n\n* The poor punished for crimes that the rich and elite aren't? **Nope.**\n\n* President with a darker skin tone? **Yes!**\n\nI guess it's not all bad.\n\nNow if someone would be willing to show me a list of things that Obama has done that have actually had a positive affect on my life as a working class American citizen...",
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"body": "Having lived longer than 99+% of all Redditors, I can say with aged confidence that this is nothing new. All presidents come in with at least part of the public jazzed that they won (that's how they win). Then the reality sets in that A) it's an impossible job, B) the way we pick the person for the job almost assures us that (s)he will not be up to it.\n\nObama seems like a great guy, but this job just grinds people down -- even the tough, evil ones (anyone remember Nixon?)\n[edit: point about evil being that the less evil ones get broken even sooner -- like Carter]\n\n[edit2: 15/20 years later the story about any given president is completely unrelated to what you heard when they were in power. I mean completely -- history is just this random fiction made up by self-appointed hucksters. Or maybe we're really not objective while the poor sucker is in power, I dunno -- it's just like reality gets rewritten]",
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"body": "A. It's only been a year. +\r\n\r\nB. Bailouts seem to have helped, but seems like we should have attached more long lasting oversight to prevent these people from doing the same as before. |\r\n\r\nC. Healthcare bill seems to have turned into a handout for insurance companies. I actually hope it doesnt pass in the current form. -\r\n\r\nD. Internationally, good progress. +\r\n\r\nE. Wars, no comment. |\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nFrom me: not bad, but not good.",
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"body": "I'm very pleased... both ends of the spectrum can just go into their corner. We've avoided an economic meltdown... Invested HEAVILY in basic science and technology for energy... repaired broken geopolitical ties... avoided moral wars over crap social issues w/ no consensus... passed some sort of healthcare legislation... Obama is doing quite well. I'm very pleased-- and i'm middle of the road guy... ",
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"body": "If we hand back the Senate OR the House to Republican majority in November - no progress will be made. \r\n\r\nIs that what the liberal demographic wants? Give Obama a year then turn your back on him? Really?",
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"body": "I'll just leave this right here.\n\n - Failure to investigate the Bush administration's multiple documented war crimes 'for the good of America'.\n\n - Not allowing investigation or release of existing photos clearly showing torture of subjects while being imprisoned by the US. This is obstruction of justice.\n\n - The complete failure to restore and protect Habeas corpus.\n\n - The continuation of the practice of renditions, which often leads to torture being performed in other countries.\n\n - The continuation of warrantless wiretapping.\n\n - Continuation and renewal of the Patriot Act while knowing fully well that it is unconstitutional.\n\n - The continuation of the Iraq war and the expansion of the Afghanistan war.\n\n - The continued and expanded drone bombings in Pakistan with no prior Congressional approval.\n",
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"body": "The problem is that very few people are capable of being objective when it comes to assessing the performance of their politicians.\n\nWhen the dust has settled and Obama's term as president is over, be it 4 or 8 years, he will be heralded (on current performance) as one of the greatest American presidents. He's getting that much done. He has a few moral hurdles (the build up to Iraq and torture) to overcome but I think he's probably doing the right thing there too - instead of instigating witch hunts he's letting the justice branch of government navigate them and there are movements there; these things move very slowly because there is so much mess to wade through.\n\nAll these issues take time. If, by the end of his first term, he has implemented significant health care reform and financial reform and wound down the 2 wars, I can't see how he won't get a 2nd term. And that's just the major policies - he's signing so much significant legislation that I don't think many will fully understand the benefits of his presidency until it is water under the bridge.",
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"body": "i'm personally all for obama, being only a half-citizen of this country i'm only half invested in everything going on here. i usually just turn a blind eye to most of the things going on. what i cannot ignore is the obvious fact that even if Obama WAS doing a bad job, it would still be better than the latter, G.W. Bush. Obama is doing the best he can with the hopeless mess that he was given. some presidencies are easier than others, i think that should be apparent. \r\n\r\none last point, how can you even gauge ANYTHING anymore with the media induced hysteria and bias reports they try to feed us. \r\ni don't have much to debate really, but great topic!",
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"body": "I voted for Obama, I contributed to his campaign and in my opinion his Presidency has been optimized by the audacity of mediocrity.",
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"body": "I just watched a documentary called Sicko on free to air tv here in Australia. I can't believe Obama is having so much trouble trying to reform your health care system. I mean seriously, don't you feel ashamed? It beggars belief.",
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"body": "I don't think he's doing a bad job, he's doing an adequate job. What's disappointing is I (like so many of us) thought he would do an **extraordinary** job. That is not happening. Bottom line, he's clearly better than McCain would have been but not what I was hoping for.",
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"body": "A friend of mine made an observation pretty early in the Obama campaign, before it was clear that he'd even get the nomination. He said, \"These guys are playing the long game.\" I think that's how his administration works, too. I think that he and his people understand the functioning and structure of the American system, and how to effectively wield power within it, more deeply than has any administration in my lifetime.\n\nIt seems to me that a lot of people who feel that Obama isn't accomplishing enough are expecting a president who rules by fiat. As we've seen in the work of the previous administration, it's possible for a president to rule by fiat. But that's dangerous for a whole lot of reasons. It's antidemocratic, sure. But it also means that the policies that come into effect don't have real support anywhere outside the executive branch of the federal government. Power exercised in this fashion is ultimately power squandered.\n\nThe American political system is profoundly corrupt. A generation ago, Gore Vidal observed that there's only one political party in the United States, the Money Party, and it wins every election. This is far more true today than it was when he said it. When a president goes up against the Money Party, it's like Omar Little said: \"Come at the king, you best not miss.\"\n\nFor instance, there's two ways to look at the health-care reform bill: You can look at it as a disappointing series of compromises that have rendered it deeply mediocre, which it is. But another way to look at it is that if it goes into law, as seems likely now, it will be the first health-care reform bill of any substance that has been enacted in the US since the the Social Security Act of 1965. There's a reason it's taken 45 years for another health-care reform bill to pass, and it sure as shit isn't that the US hasn't needed to reform health-care.\n\nI think that this guy is the most extraordinary personality to emerge from the American political scene in my lifetime. I also think that he's exactly the kind of president that he said he was going to be when he was running for the office. I'd like him to be a lot farther to the left than he actually is, but you know, that's not what the people of my country voted for.",
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"body": "I don't like how he renamed \"the war on terror\", hid the prisoners from Guantanamo, used more Predator planes to wage wars in countries allegedly in allegiance with the US and tried to look a \"man of the people\" while getting heaps of money from Wall Street. But he's gotten a heck of a lot more good stuff done than I'd hoped for, sci-tech wise.",
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"body": "Being president isn't easy, we've all seen the West Wing. It's all spent wrangling this way and that doing deals with everyone with their own agenda. It's not like being a king he cant just walk in and snap his fingers and everyone jumps to, there are a lot of people trying to stop him doing what he promised and he's got to pick his battles and compromise here and there.\r\n\r\nAfter 8 years of a war mongering corrupt idiot who destroyed your economy and left your reputation in tatters around the globe, I think if Obama kept everything exactly the way it is right now until the end of his term thats MORE than america probably deserves. If he only achieves 10% of what he promised it's still massively better than what a McCain/Palin term would have done.\r\n\r\nI don't think america appreciates just how close you were to going completely down the tubes, you escaped by the narrowest of margins...and you aint out of it fully yet.",
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"body": "This provides an example of the huge mistake people make when they debate about Presidents. The entire responsibility is narrowed down to single last names: Bush, Obama, Clinton, etc. \"Bush took us into Iraq\" \"Obama sends more troops into Afghanistan\" are examples. \n\nWhat's funny to me is that people on the left are so willing to accept that Bush, the idiot son of a powerful family that was privileged enough to run on his last name, was a complete puppet in an administration of ideologues, but somehow Obama is this strong leader that makes the big decisions. \n\nThe Whitehouse is run by two major interests that at times become the same interest: On one side you have the Military Industrial Complex and on the other side you have the banking financial elite oligarchy that may also blend into the MIC. Obama and Bush are two guys that did not come from the \"inside\" of either of these major groups. WHat does that mean? It means they're puppets. Total mouthpieces. \n\nObama wakes up in the morning, he reads his reports, in those reports it tells him what he has to say when he's not reading a speech, and then the rest of the time he gives speeches written by speech writers that also read the same reports. I would argue that he does a great job doing that.\n\nWhen bills reach his desk, he will sign or veto those bills according to needs of the real ideologues. He is making decisions, but those decisions are not acts of virtue, they're acts of compliance and obedience to men far older and more powerful than him.\n\nObama filled his entire Administration with Wall Street lobby interest:\n\nhttp://www.rollingstone.com/politics/story/31234647/obamas_big_sellout\n\nObama was playing everyone from day one. He, like his predecessors, is a man that lies constantly. Lying for Obama is like taking out the garbage for a janitor. It's what he does for a day job.\n\nSo, Obama has done a spectacular job doing what he set out for from the beginning: becoming President and assuring that he makes millions and millions of dollars off of book sales and speaking tours after he leaves the White House. \n\n",
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"body": ">You don't convince someone by shoving it down their throat - you get them used to it so they don't think of it as change.\n\nWake me up when Obama honors his promise to close Gitmo. A year ago he promised to have it done by now. CIA is also still kidnapping and torturing. Telecom immunity still in effect. Bush era abuses are still in effect, except with Dems in power liberals are ignoring them.",
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"body": "I feel better with him in office than I have in a long time. Yes I'd like to see us out of Iraq, yes I'd like the aid to Israel to be curtailed, yes I wish the health care bill had actually meant something, so on, so forth. Still though, I don't feel like he's yanked the rug out from under us.",
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"body": "I think that Obama has done a good job with the hand that he was dealt. Whether or not he knew it was gonna be a tough job going in (he did, but bailouts of 2 major industries? I'm sure that wasn't on his radar), he's done the best he could. \n\nI graduated with a major in psychology, though I'm in the tech industry, so I notice a lot about PR and social interactions, and on that front Obama has done a great job with repairing a lot of the international relationships which were nearly all unarguably damaged under Bush. Even Cuba has opened their airspace for us and Haiti to help the relief. Sure, it's a nice thing to do in a time of international tragedy, but Obama's actions over the last year sure haven't hurt us. \n\nThere are other things that I don't agree with, but overall he's done a pretty good job on coming through on a lot of things in his first year: http://www.politifact.com/truth-o-meter/promises/\n\nHe is more tech-savvy than any president before him by a long shot and says he wants our government to be transparent to the people and has followed through on that at least some. \n\nAll in all, not a bad first year of presidency.",
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"body": "The people who bash Obama from the left are a good example of people who don't know what they want. Think of the consequences of Obama bashing: It makes him less popular; it makes Obama more vulnerable and empowers his political enemies on the right; we end up with situations like we have now, where a Republican stands to win the 41st Senate seat, leaving Obama's *progressive* agenda essentially dead in the water. This of course leaves liberals further from their ideal goals than they were before bashing Obama. ",
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"body": "Politics is the art of the possible. From my distance, he's done nothing particularly stupid -- which makes a nice change -- and looks like he's trying to correct the US tendency towards being a third-world country with a big economy.",
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"body": "Yeah, c'mon guys, so he's only killed 700 innocent Pakistanis! It's just his first year!\n\nI expect great things from this President. We're going to kick some serious ass in Pakistan! And I fully expect before his term is over, we'll have started wars in Iran and Yemen too!\n\nUSA! USA! USA!",
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"body": "Apparently, several thinktanks say he has passed more legislation toward his stated (what he campaigned on) goals then any president since WWII.\n\nWhat he sucks at is: 1) SAYING that and 2) Blaming the previous administration more for the trouble we're in today. \n\nIf he did those two things, we wouldn't even be asking this question.",
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"body": "he certainly has brought change to America as he said he would, that's for sure. he's done a lot more in his first year than W did in his first four years. I was a fan from the beginning and still am. O-BA-MA.",
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"body": "Most intelligent collection of posts I've seen in a long time. \n\nNot an American, but as far as I can see, what Obama is doing is best for America. In actual fact, much of what the Republicans want to do and have been doing for the past few years has been pawning of America to the world, literally through Treasurys, while not using any of the cash for constructive issues like healthcare or education. Yet they aren't all wrong, free trade business policies etc are critical for a vibrant economy, but although they were right in principle, their corruption by lobbyists ended up destroying any progress that could have been made. \n\nObama seems to be striking a pretty good balance. There is a saying:\nIf both the left side and the right side hate you equally, then you are doing just fine.",
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"body": "I find it difficult to discuss the question as you phrased it. A president's \"overall performance\" is naturally a combination of their performance in various sub-areas, including many specific issues and some harder-to-define intangibles. Different people will naturally assign different weights to different sub-areas.\n\nConsider two imaginary redditors Jack and Jill: both think Obama has done great work on health care and both disapprove of escalation in Afghanistan. But Jack has family who have personally been affected by the poor health care system and weighs the \"health care issue\" extremely high as a result; he thinks Obama is fantastic. Jill has two brothers who were sent oversees, and now both are dead. She then gives extremely high weight to the \"Afghanistan issue\" and thinks Obama is a terrible president.\n\nJack says, \"Obama is great!\" Jill says, \"Obama is awful!\" This leads to a great deal of misunderstanding and frustration between the two, despite the fact that they actually agree with each other on his per-issue performance!\n\nAll this is to say: any discussion that does not completely rephrase your question/commentary in terms of specific issues will be largely worthless and wind up causing more confusion rather than providing clarity.",
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"body": "Obama's first six months have been even more active than FDRs or LBJs the two standards for such assessments. Yet, there is little media attention given to much of what he has done. \n\nOf late, the media is focusing almost exclusively on Obama's critics, without holding them responsible for the uncivil, unconstructive tone of their disagreements or without holding the previous administration responsible for getting us in such a deep hole. The misinformation and venom that now passes for political reporting and civic debate is beyond description.\n\nWhat most impresses me is the fact that Obama has accomplished so much not from a heavy-handed or top-down approach but from a style that has institutionalized efforts to reach across the aisle, encourage vigorous debate, and utilize town halls and panels of experts in the policy-making process. Beyond the accomplishments, the process is good for democracy and our democratic processes have been battered and bruised in recent years.\n\nHere's the list: \n\nOrdered all federal agencies to undertake a study and make recommendations for ways to cut spending\n\nOrdered a review of all federal operations to identify and cut wasteful spending and practices\nInstituted enforcement for equal pay for women\n\nBeginning the withdrawal of US troops from Iraq\n\nFamilies of fallen soldiers have expenses covered to be on hand when the body arrives at Dover AFB\n\nEnded media blackout on war casualties; reporting full information\n\nEnded media blackout on covering the return of fallen soldiers to Dover AFB; the media is now permitted to do so pending adherence to respectful rules and approval of fallen soldier's family\n\nThe White House and federal government are respecting the Freedom of Information Act\n\nInstructed all federal agencies to promote openness and transparency as much as possible\n\nLimits on lobbyist's access to the White House\n\nLimits on White House aides working for lobbyists after their tenure in the administration\n\nEnded the previous stop-loss policy that kept soldiers in Iraq/Afghanistan longer than their enlistment date\n\nPhasing out the expensive F-22 war plane and other outdated weapons systems, which weren't even used or needed in Iraq/Afghanistan\n\nRemoved restrictions on embryonic stem-cell research\n\nFederal support for stem-cell and new biomedical research\n\nNew federal funding for science and research labs\n\nStates are permitted to enact federal fuel efficiency standards above federal standards\n\nIncreased infrastructure spending (roads, bridges, power plants) after years of neglect\n\nFunds for high-speed, broadband Internet access to K-12 schools\n\nNew funds for school construction\n\nThe prison at Guantanamo Bay is being phased out\n\nUS Auto industry rescue plan\n\nHousing rescue plan\n\n$789 billion economic stimulus plan\n\nThe public can meet with federal housing insurers to refinance (the new plan can be completed in one day) a mortgage if they are having trouble paying\n\nUS financial and banking rescue plan\n\nThe secret detention facilities in Eastern Europe and elsewhere are being closed\n\nEnded the previous policy; the US now has a no torture policy and is in compliance with the Geneva Convention standards\n\nBetter body armor is now being provided to our troops\n\nThe missile defense program is being cut by $1.4 billion in 2010\n\nRestarted the nuclear nonproliferation talks and building back up the nuclear inspection infrastructure/protocols\n\nReengaged in the treaties/agreements to protect the Antarctic\n\nReengaged in the agreements/talks on global warming and greenhouse gas emissions\n\nVisited more countries and met with more world leaders than any president in his first six months in office\n\nSuccessful release of US captain held by Somali pirates; authorized the SEALS to do their job\n\nUS Navy increasing patrols off Somali coast\n\nAttractive tax write-offs for those who buy hybrid automobiles\n\nCash for clunkers program offers vouchers to trade in fuel inefficient, polluting old cars for new cars; stimulated auto sales\n\nAnnounced plans to purchase fuel efficient American-made fleet for the federal government\n\nExpanded the SCHIP program to cover health care for 4 million more children\n\nSigned national service legislation; expanded national youth service program\n\nInstituted a new policy on Cuba, allowing Cuban families to return home to visit loved ones\n\nEnded the previous policy of not regulating and labeling carbon dioxide emissions\n\nExpanding vaccination programs\n\nImmediate and efficient response to the floods in North Dakota and other natural disasters\n\nClosed offshore tax safe havens\n\nNegotiated deal with Swiss banks to permit US government to gain access to records of tax evaders and criminals\n\nEnded the previous policy of offering tax benefits to corporations who outsource American jobs; the new policy is to promote in-sourcing to bring jobs back\n\nEnded the previous practice of protecting credit card companies; in place of it are new consumer protections from credit card industry's predatory practices\n\nEnergy producing plants must begin preparing to produce 15% of their energy from renewable sources\n\nLower drug costs for seniors\n\nEnded the previous practice of forbidding Medicare from negotiating with drug manufacturers for cheaper drugs; the federal government is now realizing hundreds of millions in savings\n\nIncreasing pay and benefits for military personnel\n\nImproved housing for military personnel\n\nInitiating a new policy to promote federal hiring of military spouses\n\nImproved conditions at Walter Reed Military Hospital and other military hospitals\n\nIncreasing student loans\n\nIncreasing opportunities in AmeriCorps program\n\nSent envoys to Middle East and other parts of the world that had been neglected for years; reengaging in multilateral and bilateral talks and diplomacy\n\nEstablished a new cyber security office\n\nBeginning the process of reforming and restructuring the military 20 years after the Cold War to a more modern fighting force; this includes new procurement policies, increasing size of military, new technology and cyber units and operations, etc.\n\nEnded previous policy of awarding no-bid defense contracts\n\nOrdered a review of hurricane and natural disaster preparedness\n\nEstablished a National Performance Officer charged with saving the federal government money and making federal operations more efficient\n\nStudents struggling to make college loan payments can have their loans refinanced\n\nImproving benefits for veterans\n\nMany more press conferences and town halls and much more media access than previous administration\n\nInstituted a new focus on mortgage fraud\n\nThe FDA is now regulating tobacco\n\nEnded previous policy of cutting the FDA and circumventing FDA rules\n\nEnded previous practice of having White House aides rewrite scientific and environmental rules, regulations, and reports\n\nAuthorized discussions with North Korea and private mission by Pres. Bill Clinton to secure the release of two Americans held in prisons\n\nAuthorized discussions with Myanmar and mission by Sen. Jim Web to secure the release of an American held captive\n\nMaking more loans available to small businesses\n\nEstablished independent commission to make recommendations on slowing the costs of Medicare\n\nAppointment of first Latina to the Supreme Court\n\nAuthorized construction/opening of additional health centers to care for veterans\n\nLimited salaries of senior White House aides; cut to $100,000\n\nRenewed loan guarantees for Israel\n\nChanged the failing/status quo military command in Afghanistan\nDeployed additional troops to Afghanistan\n\nNew Afghan War policy that limits aerial bombing and prioritizes aid, development of infrastructure, diplomacy, and good government practices by Afghans\n\nAnnounced the long-term development of a national energy grid with renewable sources and cleaner, efficient energy production\n\nReturned money authorized for refurbishment of White House offices and private living quarters\n\nPaid for redecoration of White House living quarters out of his own pocket\n\nHeld first Seder in White House\nAttempting to reform the nation's healthcare system which is the most expensive in the world yet leaves almost 50 million without health insurance and millions more under insured\n\nHas put the ball in play for comprehensive immigration reform\nHas announced his intention to push for energy reform\n\nHas announced his intention to push for education reform\nOh, and he built a swing set for the girls outside the Oval Office!\n\nThat's all...for now. 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"body": "Hey, he may not be doing the best job, **but he isn't Bush**; and that's good enough for me right now.",
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"body": "The important thing is that I am actually interested in his approach to solving problems, even if I disagree with his methods. I cannot say the same for our previous president. That his speeches inspire objective criticisms and actual thought is perhaps the most refreshing thing about him. As a figurehead it is very important that he encourages rational thought over fear of terror, war, and poverty. In this respect he is doing a fantastic job.\n\nAs far as legislature goes, well, that's not the president's responsibility. In the realm of the senate I'm happy that Al Franken is around and espousing the idea that there needs to be more debate in the senate and fewer senators with opinions about bills they haven't read.",
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"body": "If you want to check how Obama's actually doing then you can see promises kept, promises broken and pledges that are still in the works [here.](http://www.politifact.com/truth-o-meter/promises/??) ",
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"body": "I think he's doing a great job, but seems to get nowhere with Congress. It's their job to write the laws, but they're so mired in politics and special interests that they're not giving him anything to work with.\n\nHe's done great with what is in his power, though. ",
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"body": "I think he is doing fairly well given the problems he has had to take on simultaneously. And while I understand the importance of compromise, I wish I knew what it is he will not compromise on. What are his core principles -- the ones he would be willing to risk it all on? ",
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"body": "I think he's doing great considering we're [not at war with Iran](http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,267041,00.html).",
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"body": "Senate Democrats deserve the majority of the blame for wasting the last year. The House has been great, but the Senate has stalled and watered down legislation at every turn. Had it just been the House, most of Obama's agenda would already be signed into law. The Senate Dems - especially the so-called moderates - became infatuated with their ability to hold a veto over his agenda that they've handed power to the Republicans and squandered whatever chance the Democrats had.\n\nObama still deserves his share of the blame, though. For all their talent during the campaign, it's like Obama's been living inside a bubble since the inauguration. He's shown little if any inclination to pressure senators or use his oratorical skills to push legislation. For someone who ran as an outsider bringing 'change', he couldn't have done much more over the last year to make himself look like a Beltway insider. I would cut him slack if it was working - but it isn't. Results speak, and he isn't getting results.",
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"body": "I don't watch Faux or listen to hate radio, so I think he's doing a ok job. Turning a little to the middle, but that was to be expected.",
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"body": "I'm not expecting a lot of people to see this as I'm posting late, but we have to remember that the president can't do just anything he wants, he has to go through a lot of hoops in order to do so. If we restrain our selfs to a two-party system when looking at our government, which for the most part it is, we have to get all 60 democrats on his side in order to make a bill filibuster proof, which is a lot harder considering how spread out the democratic party is right now. The republicans can effectively raise hell in the senate by just getting one democrat on their side.\n\nI'm not trying to point fingers at the republicans or sound like a democratic fan boy, I'm just saying that from what it appears, our senate and a lot of the government are either a democrat or a republican, and that our government has to play by the democratic or republican rules if they want to get anything done, which is a hard thing to do.",
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"body": "As a right leaning redditor, I can't say I'm all that surprised with the course of his presidency. Yes, he may have had a fairly liberal voting record before he became president, but Obama is a very shrewd politician, and realizes America is a center right country. Presidents always give lip service to their base, take Bush for example. Many hard-line conservatives voted for him in the 2000 and 2004 elections hoping for a reduction in federal government as well as a socially conservative agenda. Eight years later abortion was still legal, there was no Constitutional amendment banning gay marriage, and the federal government's budget had grown by over a third (btw much of it wasn't related to the war on terror) http://www.usatoday.com/news/washington/2006-04-02-federal-spending_x.htm.\n\nObama is no different. He plays to his base during the election, the majority of whom will vote for him rather than see a rightist enter the office. He also realizes that if he pursues a truly leftist agenda, he can kiss goodbye to control of the house and senate. Look at where Democrats made gains in 2006 and 2008. These states aren't liberal; they became fed up with Republican chicanery and general ineptitude and voted in (relatively) conservative democrats.\n\nObama will continue to pursue a center left agenda and will most likely win re-election, after which he may pursue a slightly more leftist agenda without the worry of another election. Given the enormity of the problems facing the country right now, I actually don't think he's doing a particularly bad job; my biggest gripe with him involves the bailouts, which were a bi-partisan ass-fucking of the American people. ",
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"body": "Don't forget that most people get their information from the news. The news needs to sensationalize current events to get the ratings. What they do is make it so that every position a president makes is critical and the perception a controversial and conflicting one. This grabs people's attention. And so, they start to question and doubt his abilities. \r\nTruth is he has been doing pretty well. He has upset liberals and conservatives alike. This means he is governing close to the middle. No one should start from a position of democrat or republican. To do so, only means you are a \"Ditto Head!\"\r\nStop being politically imature.",
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"body": "As an outsider, he appears to be doing a brilliant job. Especially considering that the republican party just slander him, generally without any validity, instead of having an actual argument. ",
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"body": "Considering what he was given, he's doing the best he can. \nIt's like being given the driving seat of a 44 tonne truck that has no brakes, and is going down a step hill, while being shot at from both sides.",
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"body": "An extremely vocal minority thinks he (and anyone calling themselves a democrat) is doing a bad job. Becoming president doesn't mean he can flip a switch and make all his dreams reality, but he is doing things to make the world better. As opposed to when republicans are in charge and they just want to support the military industrial complex and give tax breaks to rich people.",
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"body": "Well, if I hadn't been paying attention I could agree with you. He has utterly failed on every major thing he campaigned on.\n\nTransparency... laughable\n\nHealth CARE reform... we were promised televised negotiations on c-span (you might say... well, he doesn't make that decision. So why did he make that promise?) He also said we would have tort reform, imported drugs from canada and ability to buy insurance across state lines... all picked off by special interests. You can be sure he will sign any \"reform\" bill that hits his desk even if all it does is bails out the insurance companies.\n\nBringing america together... He said it himself that it hasn't happened.\n\nClosing gitmo... due tomorrow, let's see how that works out.\n\nLimiting lobbyist influence in government... enough said.\n\nHelping struggling homeowners to keep their houses... fail.\n\nThe only thing he really has been good at is leading our country toward more reliance on government at the expense of our basic freedoms.",
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"body": "It's not that I think Obama is doing a perfect job. There are a couple of issues that are totally in his court which he hasn't delivered - Don't Ask Don't Tell could end by executive order, and I don't know why it hasn't.\n\nBut that aside, it's just that he's *clearly* not the bottleneck at this point in time. The main problem right now is the US Senate, and Republicans who are forcing a 60 vote supermajority to get *anything* done.\n\nIt's hard for me to imagine how a more progressive Obama could have gotten Joe Lieberman to vote for a public option, for example. My disappointment lies with people like Ben Nelsons and Max Baucus, the blue dog caucus in the house, and the world's leading douchebag, Joe Lieberman.",
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"body": "The only way he'd get my sympathy is if he did something about the war, habeas corpus, and all the other crap that bush enacted.\n\nIf he can't simply reverse the policies of his predecessor and do things that are well within his power as commander in chief, I have no sympathy for him.",
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"body": "Considering his administration thought fast and prevented what could of been the biggest economic meltdown of all time, yeah, he's doing alright. I shudder at the thought of what would have happened if Bush had to deal with that situation. The word \"Neo-Hoovervilles\" comes to mind.",
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"body": "I think that much of the complaints about Obama's work can be attributed to both the hype with which he came into office and the lack of understanding apparent in most americans as to what a president can actually do.",
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"body": "For people who think he's doing a bad job, I wonder if they'd be happier with the other options:\n\n- More of George W. Bush\n- President McCain and Vice President Palin\n\nHe's not perfect, but anyone who thinks our govt can be perfect has been reading too much Huxley...",
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"body": "i have no idea. i think its pretty shitty that health care debates are not broad casted over the air waves after a pledge of transparency in the government.\n\ni think changing private unionization votes to public is shitty.\n\ni think allowing the labor unions to have exception from gold health care plans is shitty.\n\ni think increasing my taxes is shitty.\n\ni think an even bigger bailout than bush's was shitty (hated bush's by the way).\n\nwe are still at war.\n \ni think the double standard for obama is shitty. meaning, when bush took office for the first term, the economy was already taking a shit and now its bush's fault (not clinton's) but obama came into office with an even shittier economy, which has continued to shrink, a.k.a get shittier, and its bush's fault.\n\ndont get me wrong, i thought bush was an ass hat, but really ppl, obama is no better.\n\nhe has failed to deliver on most of his campign, he has even done the opposite in some cases, no transparency...what little we have had was just scanned jpgs in a pdf so that doesnt help anybody a day before a vote (bailouts), stronger patriot act...whats to be impressed with (this is not a rhetorical question)?\n",
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"body": "I'm divided. On one hand he has done some great things but on the other, the big promises like healthcare seem to be compromises. I don't know how much of this change has been proactive work and how much has been Obama just not being bush.",
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"body": "Obama has done a fantastic job fixing the absolute mess the Bush administration left behind. However, he has done a terrible job carrying out the new policies he pushed during his campaign. The healthcare debate has been an absolute joke because he did not bring a plan to the table. What should have happened is he needed to come in with a list of what the healthcare bill needed to have in it. He didn't, and instead let the Republicans decide what the debate was going to be about. This resulted in the abomination of a bill we have now that's little more than a payout to insurance companies. He campaigned on having more transparency and it just hasn't happened. Things like this, the new policies he wanted, he just hasn't really followed through on. Basically e has done a fabulous job cleaning up the mess and a terrible job at renovating.",
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"body": "Since you phrase it that way, it's clear that you don't want to hear how he has destroyed any chance we might have had for \"change\".\n\nHe has driven away those who put him in power, and he will lose his congressional majority in November, and be impotent for the next 2 years. \n\nBush was a much more effective president, unfortunately for the bad. As soon as he got in he instituted a blizzard of reactionary actions on a myriad of fronts simulataneously. Obama apparently can't manage to chew gum if he's walking.\n\nThe handwriting was on the wall the first week he was in office, and appointed all those Clinton retreads who were only marginally more liberal than Bush. He lied to us! He said he was for Change, but it is clear that he is profoundly conservative!\n\nUnfortunately, in our plutocracy, it is probably impossible for a true progressive to get anywhere near a presidential nomination by either major party. Ever.",
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"body": "I'm not here to criticize Obama the individual person. I think he's a good man with good intentions. But it's hard not to see that he is playing his presidency with weak knees, bowing down left and right to the corruption that got us into the mess we are in. From every angle, it's obvious he's being \"nice guy\" to corporations who time and again have screwed over Americans, from Wall Street to healthcare insurance to Big Pharma to the war machine to the CIA to George W Bush and Dick Cheney. Single payer wasn't even an option for him, it was never \"on the table\" and that's really disappointing. But what irks me the very most is his desire to expand warfare, to expand the empire, without any consideration for all the lives being stolen - from the soldiers to the victims who he orders bombed. Please don't give me the \"he ran on a platform of killing Afghans\" BS. For one, he barely talked about expanding the war in Afghanistan. Maybe he slipped it in every now and then, but most people heard that he voted against the Iraq war and he came across as a peaceful type of person. Furthermore, Obama absolutely **did not** run on a platform of bombing other countries like Pakistan and Yemen. He **did not** say \"I'm going to send the CIA out to bomb anyone they please.\" If he had, he wouldn't be president because that's not what the American people want from their leadership. Furthermore, Obama will not address the fact that \"extraordinary rendition\" is still very much happening, and that \"black sites\" where people are being tortured to death are still open and running. Obama has not addressed the fact that there's endless money for wars, torture, and spying - but not a penny for the tens of thousand of American families being kicked out of their houses and onto the streets. ",
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"body": "For the crap that he was given getting elected into office, I think he is doing a good job. \n\nI hope he can do better but compared to the way the republitards were running this country I think Obama is doing a excellent job.",
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"body": "> You don't convince someone by shoving it down their throat - you get them used to it so they don't think of it as change.\n\nI disagree. I think the war on terrorism was something shoved down Americas throat and you guys accepted it pretty quickly. You still accept it even though its quite possibly the dumbest reason for a war.\n\nSure you were attacked and at the time I agreed with you guys seeking revenge. Most major countries would want to do the same. However you skewed what happened into this huge war on terror... and the people accepted it. \n\nShove something down peoples throats and they will be convinced its right. Many are starting to change their opinions but I would think a huge chunk of America still believes in the war on terror. Enough Americans that you arent gonna stop soon.\n\nIf your gonna invoke change the best way to do it is quickly. Go fast enough that people dont have time to react and brain wash them with news sources backing the \"need\" for this change. After enough people begin to accept the changes, those that question it will be considered un-american. \n",
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"body": "I think the issue is that he campaigned on hope and change. So far, it looks like the same old shit to me.",
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"body": "But yea, So far Obama has done a medicore job. I feel like he is lacking a backbone on a lot of issues and is just leaving important issues to be handled by an Incompetent Congress. If Obama believed strongly in reforming this country a lot of legislation would have already been passed. Instead he squandered away he political capital over poor cabinet positions and em brassing foreign policy gaffs.\n\n1) Stimulus package. I feel like there was a such a rush in passing this legislation that much of the money wasn't truly accounted for. The stimulus package has done a lot of good but it could have done much more had it been passed increments. The stimulus bill should have been several bills each of which focuses on areas that need improvement (Education, Financial Reform, Subprime, Infrastructure, etc). That would have allowed a more specific allocations of funds and probably cut out a lot of the waste. \n\n2) Gitmo. Obama is naive in thinking that he can close Gitmo and move this detainees to America where they can get \"fair\" trials. It's all a pony show for the press. The detainees will never get a federal trial. There are so many legal and logistical issues that would prevent this. First there is a lot of dispreceny and secrecy in the evidence against the detainees. Also in federal court many of the confessions would not be admissible because of questions about torture. Probably the biggest issues is what to charge these people with. The last time I checked federal law doesn't specify criminal charges against POW's. So for many of the detainees, Prosecutors would have shaky cases at best. Even if prosecutor get a conviction the appeals court would have a field day in overturning these cases.\n \n3) Healthcare Reform. I'm not buying Obama's sincerity on this issue. In fact I think that he could care less whether a public option is passed. He is leaving his political meal ticket up to Congress and that could be the biggest mistake of his life. If Congress doesn't pass healthcare reform with a public option do you really think that the liberal left is going to support him enough to win in 2012? If you do you are dreaming. \n\nI should not have wrote that. Now i'm frothing at the mouth anger at my governments incompetence. ",
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"body": "Honestly, it's very hard to be happy with America right now. I don't think the American people could be happy with anybody in charge right now. People feel like they are working harder for less money, fear losing their jobs, their homes, everything that we used to take for granted. I've seen my income go down, along with my dreams of owning a home, saving for my children's education, retirement, and I'm working my butt off. And people think that the President is just supposed to magically make it all better. To add insult to injury, the wealthy have been bailed out by the public's taxes, they are getting a golden parachute at the expense of the people who allowed them to get rich in the first place: the workers. Unfortunately, these were measures Barack Obama supported.",
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"body": "I think he's doing a pretty damned good job so far, but then again I'm still registered Republican for some reason.\n\nThose of you to his left are justified in being pissed off, but I hope when the time comes you'll remember what you almost got instead. The Republican you almost got, and (meaning no disrespect to Hillary Clinton) the Democrats you almost nominated.\n\nTo you in Massachusetts: Whatever you may think of the job Obama's doing, for now punish him to the pollsters - not at the polls. If Scott Brown's the guy for you, go for it. But don't elect him in anger, *especially* through omission of action. You may very well regret it.",
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"body": "certainly not as bad as EVERYONE (including the conservative AND liberal media outlets) seems to be saying he is doing lately. He has not been perfect, nowhere near it in fact, but people need to remember that this entire financial mess was created by the bush- and to some extent the clinton- administrations. in clintons administration there was a lot of deregulation, and in the bush administration deregulated the banking MUCH further than it should have been. Obama was tossed into a pool filled with sharks with laser beams attached to their heads... you cant expect that he can take care of dr. evil in the next 5 minutes (IE 1 year out of 4) give obama time, peoples expectations are significantly too high for his first year.",
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"body": "He hasn't done such a bad job, according to [this website](http://www.politifact.com/truth-o-meter/promises/), which keeps track of which promises he has and hasn't kept.",
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"body": "For some reason, people think the most effective leaders are those that forward their particular cause. This is not what makes a great political leader. A great political leader brings balance to political forces that operate in the country. And on that note, Obama is doing a great job in my opinion.\n\nThe reactions to his presidency in the negative are really quite predictable considering the ideas about what 'change' meant during the election. It really is far too early to say he is doing a bad job...he is actually quite a productive president and I believe in 4 years he will be re-elected. all the back lash against him right now is just dialectical, i.e. it's programmed via the methodology he employed.\n\nObama is doing just fine. I dont expect our political leaders to create utopia because our political system will not allow for it. Politics is irrational. Obama is the best we can hope for and it probably will not get better than him, so if you don't like Obama, hate the game not the player.",
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"body": "Obama has been a wonderfully moderate and centrist president. While airy and flowery as a politician, he's been brilliantly technocratic while in office. I'm a Conservative - I did vote for Obama (couldn't bring myself to vote for a ticket with Palin on it), although I had some reservations. \n\nThose reservations haven't panned out - I am decidedly happy with Obama as a president. I honestly don't see why people seem to get all foamy at the mouth (both left and right) when it comes to him... his policies are sensible and centrist.\n\nI guess when you govern from the middle, all you get is two sides angry at you, rather than just one.",
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"body": "It takes a long time to turn around an oil tanker - particularly one that was full to the brim of turd when he became captain. ",
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"body": "Considering the daunting task that he inherited, he's doing as well as can be expected. If I were President, I would have waited until my second year to introduce health care, but other than that, Obama is doing ok. Republicans bash him every chance they get, but they have no answers or alternatives for any of his initiatives, and Rush and Beck just egg people on to hate and criticize. I only hope that enough young people see through them for what they are and go out and vote for Obama again for the next term. ",
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"body": "Given the challenges he has faced in what is without a doubt the hardest job in the world I think he has done ok. I don't agree with everything he has done. (example, taking so long to decide to send more trrops to afghanistan.) He is mostly fighting fires that started under Bush. once he gets them put out I think we can see some real progress on the agenda he promised. ",
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"body": "The entire US government is a corrupt machine driving off a cliff and you want us to look at the new 'cool' stick shift knob you got? PL-EASE... ",
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"body": "From the time Obama was elected, the Republican plan has been to convince everyone that you were tricked, that Obama isn't what he said he was, that you regret voting for him, and that he is doing a terrible job. They've been consistently hitting hard at that since then.",
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"body": "It depends on what you consider to be his job. If escalating the wars and bailing out the banks instead of the public and appointing non-progressive people into virtually every post is his job, he is doing great, but personally I would rather that he did more of the stuff he promised to do during his campaign.",
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"body": "Anyone else think not doing a that bad a job isn't good enough for the commander in chief of one of the most powerful countries in the world?",
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"body": "I think Obama has done a good job. A lot of progressives are pissed off because he hasn't done enough but In Washington you have to make a lot of compromises. Especially when there is a party who wishes to block your every move.You are not going to go in and change the system. Jimmy Carter learned this lesson the hard way , it doesn't pay to be too idealistic.",
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"body": "Obama is doing a good job keeping up the status quo, expanding Middle East Occupation, expanding the War on Terror, ect ect ect...",
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"body": ">You don't convince someone by shoving it down their throat - you get them used to it so they don't think of it as change.\n\nWhat reason do you have for thinking Obama is actually doing this? I see this argument all the time and when you get down to it the Obama supporters are acting on nothing but blind faith.",
"score": 3
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"body": "He tried to be \"hard\" on Israel regarding settlements, that says a lot.\r\nI live in South Africa and wanted Obama to win even though I never supported the party views.... That said, I don't see much \"change\" regarding US foreign policy.",
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"body": "I simply use the conservatives as a barometer of sorts. The more enraged and panicked they become, the better off we must be. Seems we are entering a golden age by that measurement. ",
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"body": "Guantanamo has yet to be closed. No _real_ steps have been taken to stop torture of detainees (the executive order Obama signed has big enough loop holes that nothing has actually had to change). According to Obamas 18 month schedule, they should be out of Iraq in just 7 more months, that does not seem anywhere close to becoming a reality. The war on drugs has not really been toned down. \n\nMaybe the things he's doing are also campaign promises, he made so many promises that I don't know half of them, but quite frankly, on the issues that _I_ care about, he is doing a dismal job of fulfilling his promises.\n\nOn the other hand, I'm not a US citizen, so why should he do what I want, right?",
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"body": "I give hijm credit for tackling the many problems that others ignored by looking the other way. Those who criticize him for trying to do too much too soon fall into the category Albert Einstein spoke of when he spoke these words: \"The world is not so much a dangerous place because of those who are evil, but because of those who sit by doing nothing.\"\r\n\r\nOur President truly cares. God bless him.",
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"body": "I honestly think he is doing a pretty bang up job for how much he has to deal with. Putting aside the actual election fiasco about his citizenship and all of that, having to do everything under the amazingly biased scrutiny of the current incarnation of \"News Networks\" has to be ridiculously stressful for him.\n\nThe amount of negative press he gets for ANYTHING he does is, at least in my opinion, ridiculous, whether what he does is good or not. The expectations that were put on him after winning were FAR to high and many of the problems that America has will not be fixed for a very long time, regardless of who got elected this term, and most likely the next 2 or 3 terms due to the amount of time it takes to pass any sort of legislation.\n\nThe healthcare bill is a perfect example of this, as it has been tied up in legislation sense he was elected, and then the senators (on either side) chastise him for not keeping his promises about getting things passed when they are blocking the bill from passing themselves.\n\ntl:dr He is doing a pretty dam good job for all the BS he has to deal with",
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"body": "A lot of what I see as his problems stem from Bush policies - Iraq, Gitmo, Afganistan, bailouts,etc. But he's been stuck with just staying the course on those policies instead of radically changing them. We should already be out of Iraq and Afganistan. It's not that hard, you just admit that there will be repercussions to leaving and you leave. Those are, after all, not our countries and we've paid enough in blood and money trying to \"help\" them. \n\nGitmo could have been closed in 5 minutes: Executive order closing gitmo and releasing prisoners. Done.\n\nThe bailouts are the worst of it. I'm not sure exactly how paying 100$ for every man, woman and child to a bunch of bankers, so that their bubble can stay inflated helps us. The TARP program was a giant festering pile of shit that should have never happened. If you want to spend lots of money bailing out huge companies, GIVE THE PEOPLE THE FUCKING STOCK. Then we own their fucking asses and if they're ripping us off, at least we get the fucking profits.\n\nThe way that money went through AIG to the big banks was the largest heist of money the world has ever seen. I repeat - that money was stolen from us and given to rich people. Obama went along with it when he should have stopped it.",
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"body": "If you think status-quo is a good job, then tuck yourself in and go back to sleep. Everything wil be just fine; trust your demagogues. Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.",
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Tempted to switch from debian to arch (on a powerpc)
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Dear reddit, I'm a debian user on an old ibook G4 (ppc) that I love. Recently I installed archlinux on a an old pentium (desktop pc) and I LOVED it. I liked the minimalism, the clarity of it. So I'm tempted to install arch on the ibook, but I wonder if ppc is well supported by arch (I know the archlinuxppc project) but I honnestly wonder if it'd be supported like debian (which supports ppc officially) — Would you advice me to switch? Thanks a lot for your answers :)
P.S. Sorry for my poor English ; it's my 4th language.
**EDIT**: Thank you all for the input, folks! It was _really_ helpful and it confirmed my ideas. I guess, I'll just stick with debian -and probably switch to unstable or testing. Thanks again! :)
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"body": "I don't know anything about Arch, I've never used it, but your English is fine so stop worrying about it.",
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"body": "back your stuff up, give it a shot, what can it hurt?\n\nThere may be some lag in what's updated from regular arch, but it's a separate project, that's just the chance you are going to have to take. :p",
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"body": "ArchPPC is pretty dead right now. Even at its best times it only had maybe 3 devs, and I think they're all gone now. As much as I love Arch, it's not a good fit for PPC",
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Radio Reddit now has an embedded flash player for all of you wanted to listen in your browser!
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Just head over to http://radioreddit.com and click the play button in the status block. You can also pop out the player into a new tab/window.
:)
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"body": "Just thought I'd let you know that making a flash embed for your radio has actually brought me on as a listener. Kudos to you at the helm and to all of the contributors!",
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Music redditors, suggest me some good reggae music.
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I recently got in to reggae but don't own any albums besides Bob Marley's Legend and Ziggy Marley's Welcome to Jamrock. Obviously this is quite a shallow collection, what artists/bands/songs would you recommend I listen to?
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"body": "A bunch of stuff I love, in no particular order. Hope this helps.\n\n* [Althea and Donna](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OMrNDnU6PPk)\n\n* [Willie Williams](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yj4LVL3GPYY)\n\n* [Dr. Alimantado](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VasAXAiLrB8)\n\n* [Desmond Dekker](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qzMWe6XyVdc)\n\n* [Dennis Brown](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-l_402jxBk)\n\n* [Horace Andy](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uiPJU6UaRr4)\n\n* [Tenor Saw](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mz4vxQWhXDY)\n\n* [The Congos](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nVpV71SVpZM)\n\n* [Keith Hudson](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lc5l7oNeBC0)\n\n* [Cornell Campbell](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gIg-7Uy8DDY)\n\n* [Junior Murvin](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WQriZQbTcjk)\n\n* [Big Youth](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EuQyuTvwn1U)\n\n* [Turbulence](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxNFmPr5_x4)\n\n* [Culture](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMVXm60oA9U)\n\n* [Max Romeo and the Upsetters](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w1fIJisGfiU)\n\n",
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"body": "Try getting this:\n\nhttp://rateyourmusic.com/release/comp/madlib/blunted_in_the_bomb_shelter_mix/\n\nIt is Madlib's Blunted in the bomb shelter.\n\nIt is a huge mix of some of the most classic Reggae/Dub songs ever all mixed by the great Madlib. He throws in his own hip-hop style but overall it is all Reggae. \n\nAnother album:\n\nhttp://rateyourmusic.com/release/album/various_artists_f2/the_harder_they_come/\n\nAn amazing soundtrack to a great movie.\n\nThose are my two suggestions, and will give you a great mix of all kinds of reggae music.\n",
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DAE notice that US coverage of the earthquake in Haiti is more about how generous and giving Americans are and not about Haiti at all?
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It seems like the news media has turned this disaster into another opportunity for self-congratulation and perpetuation of the myth of American superiority. The story is basically, "There is chaos in Haiti. If there were no white Americans, what would they ever do?" That might be unfair, but I can't help thinking it. I've also heard a lot of stories about Americans in Haiti. Has anyone heard any substantive reporting on actual Haitians? Is this just because this is impossible because of all of the problems in Haiti right now, or is it because the American press is lazy and solipsistic?
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"body": "I watched a little of the coverage and most of it had to do with the mass graves and rioters, so no.",
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"body": "No. I *do* think if you're looking for something hard enough, you will find it. The only mention of it on the frontpage of CNN is a small link saying \"Haiti donations top $200M\". On MSNBC, I don't see any mention. On CBS News, there is no mention. Where is this majority coverage focusing on donations that you claim exists?",
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How do you deal with women in the workplace?
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Over at TwoXChromosomes, an interesting post was made:
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I work in a small office with primarily female colleagues. All of the woman have very strong personalities. There are moments of kindness, laughter, and support, but for the most part I find them all very annoying (and I've tried so very hard to only see the good). More often than not I fake my way through the day, trying to hide my true feelings and put on a happy face. I don't always succeed. Sometimes the issues are minor, like someone telling a boring story about their cousin's neighbour for the umpteenth time, and sometimes they're more serious. Just this afternoon I had an unpleasant confrontation due to a very obvious difference in workplace priorities.
My question is this: how do you 2Xers deal in similar situations? Do you grin and bear it? Do you stay true to your own personality, regardless of the outcome? Do you enter into conflicts unflinchingly or feel yourself back down timidly? Do you let it roll off your back or do you get out and find a new job?
I'd love to read your stories, be they inspiring, commiserating, or hilarious. Please share!
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I was wondering how men deal with the same thing? I myself used to work at a deli, where I was the only male. I found myself in a lot of situations where I was sort of picked on because of it. My way of dealing with it was to just be kind of submissive and let them do and say what they wanted. A few times they went too far, and I told management and it was taken care of but for the most part, things went well as long as I didn't let it get to me.
Does anybody else have similar thoughts?
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"body": "Keep a professional distance. Do not talk about non-work related topics and do not get involved in their drama/gossip/BS.\n\n",
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"body": "I think your question is more \"how do you deal with coworkers\" because whether you work with all men or all women you're bound to find most of them annoying as shit.",
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"body": "My first thought is that I have found these things to be the case in every workplace that I have ever worked in, regardless of demographics. For the record, I'm 41 and have worked in more places than I really care to remember.\n\nThat being said, I have worked in 2 places where I was the only male. The first place was a travel agency and all the women there were actually very, very cool. It was a great place to work, very low on the drama scale, and never any gender issues at all. The 2nd place was pretty much the exact opposite. It was a reservations department in a large hotel, and the women I worked with did nothing but bash men all day long. I finally got fed up with it and brought them up on sexual harassment charges. No one was fired, unfortunately. The behavior stopped, but they were all cold as ice to me from there on out. Not that I really cared, but it did make for a somewhat unpleasant work environment.",
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"body": "Same as I do the guys.\n\nIf they're boring, my body language usually makes it obvious. If I really don't want to listen to someone I can always find something sufficiently boring that it'll put them off hanging around... unless said person's a redditor, in which case they'd probably be intrigued to hear my thoughts on specifying metals for pipework likely to experience particulate erosion. ;-)",
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Weird dreams and thoughts
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I don't think I'm suicidal, but for the last month I've been having a recurring dream where I get stabbed and either die (and wake up) or come close to dying.
The strange thing is, these aren't nightmares, they feel really peaceful and I wake up feeling really refreshed.
When I go to bed, I start thinking about what would happen if I kill myself, how I would go about doing it. It is to a point where I can't get to sleep without thinking about this.
I've also been getting these thoughts where I think that ultimately life is futile, no matter what you do, it doesn't matter. We are just a tiny fraction in a massive universe, an accident and all feelings, all emotions, all our achievements don't matter beyond our own existence.
I have got myself into a situation which I can't back out of, if I did it would really deeply affect a person who I love, to a point where I think I would lose a lot of people as friends, especially this person who I care incredibly about.
Ultimately, my life is blessed, my parents are fairly well off and I have never experienced any sort of hardship. But I can't shake this feeling that it is all so, pointless.
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"body": "> The strange thing is, these aren't nightmares, they feel really peaceful and I wake up feeling really refreshed.\n\nSounds like almost being \"born again\".\n\nJoseph Campbell\n\n--------------\n\nNow Jung, in his early years as a psychiatrist, was in the Burghölzli Sanitorium in Zurich working with schizophrenics. Freud had as his principle clientèle, you might say, neurotics. A neurotic is a person who is still in the conscious world and is in relationship to his unconscious in a rather desperate way. But a psychotic is one who is cracked off altogether, and he’s down in that realm of the mythic archetypal forms.\n\n\nAnd Jung was completely acquainted with the—you might say—atmosphere and scenery of that domain. And he found it was the same as the domain of myth.\n\n\nWhen people—it is not as fashionable now as it was a couple of years ago—find themselves taking LSD suddenly out—they have brought forth an unconscious load that their consciousness could not handle; they too slipped into that domain.\n\n**This is the domain of mythic images—it lives in us; it’s good to be acquainted with it. And when a mythology with which we are living does not operate on us, we lose this contact.**\n\n\nNow what did Jung do when he asked himself what myth he was living by? He had been interpreting people’s dreams. He suddenly realized one does not interpret dreams. One lets the dreamer interpret the dream because there is no single vocabulary, no dictionary of dream images. Each person’s dream is his own, in a certain way.\n\n\nThere is one level of dream, then, that is personal—these are the little dreams.\n\n\nBut then every now and then there comes bursting forth a dream that is not personal at all. The dreamer has struck a level that has been struck before by others: a level of the basic human confrontations with life, and its mysteries.\n\n\nThe human being is the only animal in the world that knows it is going to die, the confrontation with death. The meaning of life in the face of death—does it have a meaning? And if the mind goes looking for meanings, and you are living by meanings, and have never learned simply to live by being, you may be greatly upset by the challenge of death. \n\n-------------------\n",
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The Haiti Dilemma (for me)
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I need to rant, because what I am seeing is not what I expect to see. There has been a disaster of almost unmeasurable proportions in a very poor country. The earthquake in Haiti is really sad and my heart goes out to the millions of people who are displaced, injured, maimed, homeless, without food, without water and those who have lost loved ones in this tragic event.
That being said, we need to clear up a few things about our roles. We aren't perfect people and we don't all deal with stress and thus some drastic reactions form people are acceptable in the face of tragedy. Some actions are not acceptable in any human however in any situation and corrective action needs to be taken, regardless of the conditions in which these actions are portrayed.
[I am starting to see some reactions](http://www.boston.com/bigpicture/2010/01/haiti_six_days_later.html) to events which are due to their sheer size, impossibly complex. The reactions I am speaking of are those from the very victims which are impacted by this natural disaster in Haiti.
I see, via the mass media, photos and videos of men running in the streets of Port au Prince with knives, and guns looting and pillaging from their own, from their very neighbors, and their own communities. In this moment, I get angry. I lose a little faith in humankind, and I feel incensed that the nations trying to help are being chided for being "not fast enough".
It was a fucking earthquake!. It destroyed an entire nation! Do any of you out there think that we have some magic fucking button that we push which makes it all better in a couple days?
Haiti. We are all trying , and believe you me, if I see you and your countrymen with the energy to run through the streets looting and killing each other when you could be finding survivors or clearing roads or helping to stabilize your environment, I will simply turn off. No donating. No support. Nothing.
You are frustrated. I get it. Really. But if you are to spend your energies on despicable acts instead of spending that energy on helping the man/woman/child next to you I for one will simply say, fuck you and your problems. Maybe I am alone in that thought, and maybe I am a jerk for it, but I don't care what anyone else thinks of my views, because they are not who I exist for.
It has been 6 days. We, as a world, are trying. We don't have a playbook for this game. We are learning as we go, but we are trying. Recognize that, or go fuck yourself. I don't need to help, I want to help.
It is my right, not my obligation.
Many countries are loading planes with food, medicine, troops, etc all for you. We are also donating our hard earned money, (our cash) to help you as a nation.
You happen to live on an island, and that means this is all hard. Really hard. We have only boats and planes to get to you. You have 1 barely functioning airport and boats are too slow. Recognize that and stop acting as though we are all failing you in your hour of need. We know you are desperate. We are desperate too to try and help you. It is not easy, as you can imagine.
The ENTIRE WORLD is trying to help, and if you or you countrymen are running around the streets waving guns and knives and robbing and killing your neighbors, no-one can help you.
If you can run in the streets, you can look for survivors. If you can carry a knife, you can carry a child. if you can wield a gun, you can clear the road you are standing on. If you have a skill, you can use that skill and exercise some ingenuity to perhaps, build shelters, or organize electricity, or enable the flow of fresh water or distribute aid, or organize your community to receive the aid we are sending. If you don't have any of those skills, or that ingenuity, then find someone who does and avail yourself to them to act in tandem to do what needs to be done.
Instead of helping clear roads and buildings and getting help for the injured, and burying the dead with respect, you are using this disaster to act immorally toward each other, and us, and speaking with contempt into any camera which will record you.
If you can cook, then be available and ready to do so when the food does arrive (dispatch crews to create spaces to cook, eat, etc, organize pots dishes, fire...). If you can wander in the streets, you can carry food to those that can't wander. Any of you who are able can do something NOW to help yourselves.
Put your energy to good use. Clear the fucking roads so it doesn't take 10 hours to drive food and medicine across the city. Get outta the way of the fucking aid truck so it doesn't have to drive at 5 miles an hour with a full armed guard around it. Make sense? See the trend?
Help us help you dammit. Dig a little deeper than you would have last week, and we will all be able to make tomorrow a better day...
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"body": "I am upvoting you not because I agree but because I think this will lead to discussion. And I think that can be really really productive. It might motivate someone to donate, or it may cause people to think about everything.\n\nI agree that the looting is bad. I have also heard some reports that say its not nearly as bad as is being reported. I've heard reports of people carrying injured people to make shift hospitals on doors. I've heard of some of them attending mass. Personally, I think the looting represents a small percentage of the people there. Like in all things there's always a handful of people that \"ruin it\" for everyone else. \n\nThe second thing is -- they're desperate. In the past 6 days they've lost everything (and they didn't have much to start with), are struggling for food, water and they don't know whats going to happen in the next hour or tomorrow. They don't know how they're going to continue on. That is a desperation that I can't imagine having, and its also something that changes how a person behaves -- getting to the front of the crowd may make the difference between living another day or dying of dehydration. They don't know the scope of aid, and they don't know how they're going to get a share of it.\n\nTwo summers ago I was in rural province in the Philippines helping a company do a medical mission (I was logistics, not medical). I cried the first day I was there because they literally had NOTHING. It was intimidating at times how parents would shove to the front of the line, or beg me to get THEIR kid to a doctor first. No amount of reassuring put them at ease -- their entire life was about trying to have something..anything. When I handed out free tshirts to the kids armed military men had to hold the kids back as they started to swarm.\n\nI'm not saying their behavior is \"right\" but when you have such poverty, in some ways, manners become a luxury.\n\nEdit: Grammar.\n\nEdit 2: BTW I'm not saying I don't understand your frustration, but ask that you try and understand too from their perspective.\n\nEdit 3 (cuz I'm on a roll): The pushing to get to the front and all of that didn't change the fact that the people as a whole were incredibly loving and appreciative. The final night one of the communities cooked us a feast. It wasn't much by our standards but it was wonderful.",
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"body": "[This](http://inapcache.boston.com/universal/site_graphics/blogs/bigpicture/haiti_01_18/h37_21756565.jpg) was really the picture that convinced me to donate today (via reddit's DRI page of course). I was pissed at some of the looters too, but when I saw that pic I realized that for every looter, there's probably 20 normal/desperate people who just want help. \n\nSome of the facial expressions on those kids is really sad ... that they're that desperate for something so basic as some water while I'm sitting here at my desk stuffing my face and chugging down assloads of water. :(",
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"body": "I respectfully disagree with you (hey, even I upvoted your submission!)\n\n\n\n> But if you are to spend your energies on despicable acts instead of spending that energy on helping the man/woman/child next to you I for one will simply say, fuck you and your problems.\n\n\n\nYou, we, nobody can now how we would react if we faced such an extreme scenario like this. You don't know if they are looting for their starving children, babies, wounded-on-the-edge-of death relatives etc. I don't know if that justifies their behaviour. But it simply shows how *extreme* the situation is there.\n\n\n\nJust keep that in mind, and add that to the list of things you are pondering.\n\n\n\nPS: Today when I saw on TV the video of the looting after seeing the video which was taken a few minutes after the earthquake, I didn't thought: \"How can these people loot and riot like that? I would never do that\".\n\n\nI thought: \"How damned and hellish should be the situation which could make ME act like that\"",
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"body": "I agree with you that looting is bad. It only creates additional chaos. But I don't think a proper reaction is to say \"people are looting and being bad, so fuck it, I'm going to turn off and stop caring.\" People are desperate, and in these situations, you see both the bad and the good in people. Some have turned their homes into hospitals. I have a friend who has been putting others before himself, giving them the little food he has without knowing how he will eat and when I tell him that he needs to take care of himself too, he says \"others have it worse than I do.\"\n\nDon't let the minority of looters keep you from helping the majority of Haitians who are polite, honest, hard working, and in need of help.",
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"body": "I upvoted you for making a good point and creating discussion. But we don't live in a utopian Earth where everyone helps each other. Many people are out for themselves and no-one else, it is so in both rich and poor countries. It's just another branch of human nature. And for every looter there are another 30 or so people who are trying their best to help out or get along without resorting to crime. Don't become spiteful just because of the few who resort to the unthinkable in their desperation. Sure, you won't be helping *them*, but you will also not be helping the many who would be grateful for your help.",
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"body": "As some of the other posters have indicated, these people are desperate. I don't know how I would react if my entire community crumbled around me, my family and friends have died, I'm hungry and thirsty, and I am competing with my neighbors to survive. I would hope I would stay resolute in maintaining my civility, but I don't know. \n\nAlso, know that television news likes drama, it is what sells. They are going to focus on a lot of the negatives of the situation. ",
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"body": ">I see, via the mass media, photos and videos of men running in the streets of Port au Prince with knives, and guns looting and pillaging from their own, from their very neighbors, and their own communities.\n\nSome of the people doing this are just trying to survive. They don't yet have access to relief. Yes, camera crews can go in and take pictures. That's not the same as setting up a food distribution point. \n\nAlso, for every person that's looting ten others are helping and a thousand others are not breaking the law. There will always be bad people and they will take advantage when they can. The press will show them to get ratings. But they are the minority by far. The majority of people are good. \n\nThe best way to stop this sort of thing is to help stabilize and restore order to Haiti however you can. ",
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"body": "You write as though you just realized that human beings aren't inherently benevolent. Necessity is the watchword of existence. Kindness is a luxury.\n\nMake no mistake: there are plenty of men giving their water to women, women giving their water to children, plenty of selflessness and sacrifice and stoicism. That's happening right now at this very minute. And you know what those people are doing right now? They're somewhere outside the lens of the TV cameras, dying of thirst.\n\nBut for most people, the amoral majority, if you will, this is a question of survival. Believe that the starving man doesn't give a good holy fuck if you're disappointed from your couch.\n\nPeople, on the whole and left to their own devices, are wolves to each other. We see small versions of this everyday. But this is what makes the (obviously untelevised) instances of selflessness that much more moving. That much more valuable and precious.\n\nI'm not downvoting you into oblivion, and neither is anyone else. (86%+, as of now). If you don't want to help, don't help. Just don't do it. You don't have to, and it's just a drop in the bucket anyway. But don't tell yourself it's because *some* people are behaving poorly. Some are, and some aren't. Does that make the devastation less severe? The human body need less water or food? Does that make any difference at all to the facts on the ground?\n\nNo. No it doesn't.",
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"body": "The media love looting. They love presenting us with scenes of anarchy and desperation. I am confident the people you speak of negatively are in the minority.\n",
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/r/Android: How often do you turn off or restart your Android phone?
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I'm trying to decide how often I should reboot my HTC Hero. I was going the "always on" route for a while, but then I noticed that after about 240 hours of uptime it started to lag heavily when returning from sleep (though, curiously, not after waking up--just getting to the lock screen) and weird things started happening in apps like Facebook. What are your thoughts? What do you guys do?
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"body": "Do you download a lot of apps? Some may be running processes in the background. It may be a good idea if you haven't already to download a task killer app to make sure you keep your memory clean and clear of any unwanted running processes.",
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"body": "I have to restart my G1 multiple times per day. It seems to forget that it has touch capabilities (restart does not guarantee fix).\n\nHaven't spent the time to figure out why this is, always figured it was because I dropped it the wrong way one time. Also running Cyanogen and loving it.",
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TIL that the song playing during the cafeteria scene in Mean Girls is the Futurama theme song.
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Realized it watching Mean Girls today. Very odd.
[Here's the scene](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SsPvRtQIKG0)
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"body": "Very, very close.\n\nIt's actually a [remix](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQWkitvfncc) (by Fatboy Slim, the real year 2000) of a song (\"[Psyché Rock](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pierre_Henry),\" originally by Pierre Henry in 1967) upon which the Futurama theme is based.",
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"body": "They couldn't get the rights to the Pierre Henry song, so Groening and company comissioned a great sound-alike",
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Please stop the gratuitous gore reporting of Haiti
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We all know lots of people are dead and we all know what dead people look like.
How about we focus on the living and what they need to stay that way?
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"body": "But if you quit showing the horrors people will get bored and will not give a shit anymore about the living. Short attention span have to keep them interested. Sad but true. ",
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What stupid pet peeves do you have?
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Well, I've since forgotten where I learned this, but I once read that the word "decimate" means to destroy exactly one tenth of something. The word originated to refer to an old military practice where a squadron would be decimated as a form of punishment, every tenth man would be executed.
Well, I don't think I've ever heard the word used properly, and I wince when I hear such gems as, "The village's population was decimated by over 90%."
Blah blah, language evolves and all that noise.
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"body": "When someone asks a question that [was just submitted a few days ago](http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/apoek/reddit_what_are_you_anal_about/).",
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"body": "I hate HATE buying garbage bags and toilet paper, because garbage bags go straight in the garbage.........and toilet paper i dont know why but I cringe everytime I have to buy it!",
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"body": "If I press a button, and the thing that the button was supposed to do doesn't happen, I get really pissed.",
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"body": "I get extremely irate when someone reads the email I am typing over my shoulder. And doubly so when it is to them and they exclaim, \"Hey, that's to me!\"\n\nI want to slap them with the back of my hand, and only through gritted teeth can I tell them to stop reading my email before I do so.",
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"body": "For some reason I can't stand the sound made when people scrape their teeth on a fork or spoon while eating.",
"score": 5
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"body": "Escalator standers.. just because they're moving dosen't mean you don't have to.. walk for fuck sakes!!",
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"body": "when i wear canvas shoes in the rain. i have no idea why i do this, and i end up getting pissed every time, but at least fifty percent of the days it's raining here all i want to wear are my chucks. ",
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"body": "* Driving slow in the fast lane.\r\n* Turning in the opposite direction your blinker is flashing.\r\n* Super-religious people who can't keep it to themselves.\r\n* Messy people being messy when they're not at home.\r\n* Bad breath.",
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I've been craving a good FPS lately... any suggestions?
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Usually I am big RTS kind of guy but having gone through about half a dozen of those over the past two months I could use a little change of pace. Any suggestions? My computer should be able to handle most games I throw at it even if its not at max resolution.
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"body": "I'm probably late to the game here, but I'm playing BioShock now and really enjoying it. If you haven't played it I would strongly recommend it. BioShock 2 is being released in a few weeks as well.",
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"body": "If you're big on RTS games, you might enjoy [Tremulous](http://tremulous.net/). It combines base building and shooting in a really unique way. Plus, it's free. ",
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"body": "Far Cry 2 has held my interest the longest of almost any FPS I've played in the past 10 years; for a single player experience. ",
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Anybody tried splitting a party for one session with everybody present at the table?
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Here's what I'm imagining. A of the group get arrested or some plot device requires them to participate in arena combat or trial by arms of some sort (the hack 'n slash gamers). Meanwhile, the other group figures out the arena is not survivable, so the task falls to them (the role-players, puzzle solvers, etc..) to find a way to spring the other half of their group from the death trap. All people would be present and I imagine a back and forth kinda thing going, with one group essentially working against the clock to try and save the other while the other is just trying to stay alive against progressively tougher odds.
Thoughts?
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"body": "##*Never* split the party!\n\nhttp://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/NeverSplitTheParty\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=waa2ucfgVgQ",
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"body": "I've encountered this before, as both a GM and a player. The key is to not let anyone get bored. That is, focus on one set of PCs for a few minutes, switch back to the others (\"Meanwhile...\"), and so on. Simultaneous combats would be relatively simple, just by switching focus each round. Other scenes require a better sense of timing, knowing when to cut, but it's definitely doable.",
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"body": "As GM I try to avoid splitting the party because it means that at any given moment half the group is sitting around unable to do anything. But your plan sounds interesting and a changeup is always nice. One technique I *do* use when the situation arises is to play somewhat fast and loose with time. I don't necessarily run the groups \"in sync\": I'll let one get a few hours (or in one memorable case, a few days) ahead. When the second group suddenly hears an enormous explosion interrupting their conversation with the Vizier, they'll realize it was the other group knocking down the water tower.\n\nI do this for a few reasons. One is that it allows me to reveal things later: if one group is going to discover something that would influence the other group's behavior (like who the villain *really* is) then I run the second group ahead in time. And I always try to switch plotlines just when one has become suspenseful (eg: right after they realize they're getting into an encounter). This keeps the suspense going, and it also gives the party a chance to spend some extra time thinking before the actual event.",
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"body": "Party splits are interesting. You just have to make sure the inactive group doesn't get bored. This is something that some GMs can pull off and others can't. If you've never tried it before, I say go for it but be prepared for it to suck. \r\n\r\nThe GMs that I've seen fail at this are generally the tunnel vision type. If they see one player who is more enthusiastic they'll focus on that player. I can understand why you'd fall into that trap. If you've spent a couple hours writing game and one of your players is really into it, of course you'd gravitate toward that player. But it means the bored ones will continute to be bored. If you fall for this trap, you'll probably fail at entertaining a split party.\r\n\r\nWhen I GM I try to keep everyone entertained. I aim to write at least a paragraph for each individual PC each session. If somebody looks bored I go to their plot. (And no, I'm not saying I'm always successful at entertaining all my players. This is the goal that I strive for, not the game that I achieve.)",
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What to do about the neighbor's cat?
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Sometime over the past 2 days our entire apt began to reek of cat urine. We don't own a cat, and we are on the 10th floor so it's not coming from outside. Our crazy (and I mean CRAZY) neighbors own a cat. Is it possible that their cat is peeing against the adjoining wall and the odor is seeping in? What can I do to... get rid of this smell? (no good talking to the neighbors, they are insane and hostile.)
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"body": "ok, lot of good advice here, but I think most are missing exactly how serious this situation is. Let me break this down for you.\n\n* the cat pees in order to mark its territory\n* the neighbors own the cat, therefore the cat's territory is their territory\n* As everyone knows, once you have sufficiently marked your territory, the law states that that territory is yours.\n\nThe obvious conclusions is that **the neighbors are trying to steal your house!**\n\nThe key here is to get them before they get you. Get a lawyer and a notary public, then break into their house and hit them with water balloons filled with your pee. Once you have hit them with enough urine (the limit varies by state, so consult your lawyer or local congressman), your notary public can sign an affidavit proclaiming that you now own your neighbors in the eyes of the law. Now that you own them, you can kick them out, and everything should be back to normal.",
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"body": "I suggest revenge.\n\n1) Consume a load of baked beans and laxatives, and run to your next door neighbour's door, and knock.\n\n2) When they answer, charge inside their apartment and crap all over.",
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"body": "Bring in a skunk and have it blast away within your neighbor's proximity. That will remove the cat smell.",
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"body": "Invite some Koreans over for a bbq, and when they get there inform them that they'll have to hunt their own meat. Give them a variety of weapons; slingshots, spears, knives, the like. Their natural instincts will kick in and they'll kill the cat for you.",
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Hell is not a place you can go. Nor is heaven. They are simply states of mind.
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"Once there was a general of the imperial Japanese army, a brave samurai, who wanted to learn the essence of Zen. He sought out the advice of the renowned Zen Master Matsuo Bashô who lived alone in a mountain hut. He approached the master as he was meditating on a rock, and asked him, 'What is the difference between heaven and hell, honorable master?'
Bashô stood up and spat in the general’s face. The general was astonished and overcome with rage. He unsheathed his long sword and raised it, determined to slice off the Zen Master’s head.
Bashô lifted his finger and said, 'That is hell.' The general’s face relaxed and he lowered the sword. Bashô continued, 'That is heaven.'"
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Truly, the more we perform "sins" and acts that would "send us to hell," the more the world we live in becomes our very object of torment. Lies beget more lies, along with distrust and paranoia; guilt, sorrow and longing and envy and hate; these become your personal hell - far removed from any conception of heaven.
But the flipside is also true. Good deeds reap proper rewards: gratitude, trust, love, comfort, ease of the heart. The more virtuous we are, the more our personal world is transformed for the better.
You create your own destiny. If you are convinced that you are "going to hell," look around, for you are already there.
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"body": "Truly, heaven/hell are mostly dualistic concepts that we create for ourselves. More and more, the importance of being mindful during every action we perform is the middle-path. I'm guessing that the choice to use wisdom, or ignore a situation, is simply paying attention to whatever is in front of us at the moment. Fear comes from ignorance, courage is seeing things as they really are. IMHO",
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"body": "\"All men are frauds. The only difference between them is that some admit it. I myself deny it.\" -- H. L. Mencken",
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"body": "I find viewing the six realms as psychological states of mind is helpful for this lifetime. They are also taught in terms of multiple lifetimes and in that presentation there is a literal hell and a literal heaven that one is born into and dies within, and we all have been born in hell and born in heaven countless times.\n\nI find it really interesting that in some presentations, being born in heaven is not considered a good thing. Once born there, one is too pampered and privileged to hear the Dharma and consider it useful. I think of that as akin to becoming a rock star or super wealthy. Better instead to be born in the human realm of desire and fickleness where one has a good enough situation to practice meditation but is slightly irritated or dissatisfied so we are compelled to practice. Therefore aspiring for heaven is not such a great idea.",
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Greeting gastronomers, I am looking for some lunch recipes that are reasonably healthy and can be made in larger portions ahead of time.
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I realized how expensive buying lunch everyday has gotten, not to mention how unhealthy most of it is.
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"body": "Chicken and pasta/grain salads are great for making in bulk.\n\nHere's a formula for grain salad. You can mix and match whatever ingredients you like or are in season in your area. The ratios I provide here are for a hearty meal for two w/ leftovers. You can increase as you see fit.\n\n* **Grains-2 Cups** \nex. Brown rice, pasta,quinoa, bulgur, barley\n\n* **Protein-1cup**\nex. Poultry,eggs,beef, pork, any kind of beans, tofu, tempeh\n\n* **Cheese-1/4 cup**\nex. Feta, goat cheese, cottage cheese, Swiss, cheddar, parmesian\n\n* **Vegetables-2 cups**\nex. Broccoli, cucumbers, scallions, tomato, carrots, corn, peppers,celery,snap peas, green beans, etc.\n\n* **Extras-1/4-1/2 cup**\nex. Nuts (esp.almonds & walnuts), seeds, dried fruit, basil (or other fresh herbs)\n\nSeason with salt and pepper to taste and drizzle with 2 Tbsp of oil/vinegar dressing (good ratio 3pts oil, 1pt vinegar)\n\n\n*adapted from runners world*\n\n",
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"body": "Tabbouleh \n\nCook any grain like bulgar or quinoa and mix it with chopped parsley. Add lemon juice and olive oil and whatever else like mint, garlic, onion, pepper, tomato, or celery.\n\nIt's good cold by itself or with a random starch, like hot pita bread or rice.\n",
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"body": "Chili or Curry. Both almost need to be made in larger portions. \n\nBoth are pretty simple to make, you can add whatever ingredients you like and they taste good and are healthy(I know curry doesn't seem like it it healthy, but it is possible.) ",
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"body": "Red beans (and rice). I've had success freezing lunch-sized portions both with and without rice. \n\nI'm big fan of the recipe here: http://gumbopages.com/food/red-beans.html",
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My New Years Resolution was to do something about my depression... Help.
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I am and 18 year old, 135 pound, American, Male, and I find it hard to function some times because I feel so worthless and my life seems so pointless. I've been having this problem since I started Jr. High school. I made it my New Years Resolution to begin to do something about my depression. It comes and goes. Often times because of something very small or from nothing at all. I once spent 20 minuets crying on the floor of the bathroom because I dropped a piece of cake. In December of last year I decided to start marking everyday that I get depressed on the calendar. My calendar is riddled with black X's now.
On Dec 1st 2008 I watched my best and closest friend die. I went to therapy, and group therapy... nothing seemed to help. I stopped going. I'm not on any medications and my usage of drugs is rare at BEST. I don't drink. I wouldn't say my parents were "abusive"... They could have done more here and there... but we were poor and I wasn't planned. I did receive periodical spankings with a leather belt up until the age of 15 or so.
This has gotten to the point where I'm afraid I may give up. My mother has depression and currently spends a lot of time on the couch... a LOT of time of the couch. I've got a lot of life ahead of me and I just want to feel happy. Please help me.
Feel free to ask me questions... I'll answer, i've got nothing to lose.
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"body": "Your mothers condition seems to suggest a congenital factor. Medication may be indicated. I'd also like to suggest that there are other positive ways to feel (besides happy). Can you envision a program that would lead to your feeling content or satisfied? These could be steps-along-the-way (to happiness) but they are good and positive in themselves.",
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Dear Gaming Reddit, Suggest A Good PC Game.
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I'm looking for a good PC title that will take me hours to finish and not get boring. Multiplayer is also a plus. A first person shooter or RPG is preferred. I am considering picking up Modern Warfare 2, but in light of all the recent hackings and such, it seems like that game is no longer any good. So, what do you suggest Reddit?
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"body": "Daiblo 2. It is a bit old, but that just means you can get a good deal. With the expansion pack, there are 7 characters to play, and an amazing online community via battle.net.\n\nI think that a bunch of redditors play together some nights.",
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"body": "Get Orange Box if you don't already have it. \n\nThe Half Life 2 series is one of the greatest fps of all time, and you also get TF2, which is an equally as good fps multiplayer game.",
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"body": "[Civilization 4](http://www.amazon.com/Sid-Meiers-Civilization-IV-Complete/dp/B0026EGO3A?ie=UTF8&tag=heartlegamer-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969)\n\nI know its not FPS or RPG, but it will fit your hours to finish and not get bored requirements.",
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"body": "here's my suggestions, and I have quite a few:\r\n\r\nF.E.A.R. 1, Extraction Point, and then F.E.A.R. 2: Project Origin. you can play Perseus Mandate or the expansion for Project Origin too, if you want, but it wasn't that great.\r\n\r\nFallout 3: fuck, this game is great. but be sure to get some mods for it, or else the game can seem empty.\r\n\r\nBorderlands: I personally don't think too highly of this game, but I will admit that it's fun.\r\n\r\nMass Effect 1 & 2: I **loved** Mass Effect 1. it's one of my favourite games of all time. I've been playing it again recently so I can get some different characters (and thus choices) for #2. I'll admit, it has not aged very well, but it's still worth playing, just for the story. it is the *first* game that ever made me feel like I was actually saving the galaxy. I'm expecting much the same from #2, and also hoping to see some of the old faces return.\r\n\r\nThe Orange Box: Portal is great. Half Life 2 was alright. I like the story, but didn't think much of the game-play. a lot of other people feel differently.\r\n\r\nLeft 4 Dead 2: I would say the original, but they're basically the same- #2 just has some enhancements over the other. so, it's the one I recommend. but you can still play the first game too.",
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"body": "Star Control 2: The Urquan Masters http://sc2.sourceforge.net/\n\nFallout 1 + 2\n\nSid Meier' Alpha Centauri\n",
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"body": "Someone told me to play Warcraft 3 the other day, and since i'm not an RTS fan I reluctantly tried it. It's way more fun than I thought it would be, great story, long campaign, good multi apparently. I've been at it all weekend and i'm only half way through! Just beat the undead campaign, good stuff.",
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What is the coolest low-budget gift of all time that you have ever given or received?
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Some people are hurting economically, some are anti-consumers, some are just plain cheap, but it is time to prove to the world that cool gifts don't have to be pricey.
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"body": "I have a friend who get serious digestive reactions to anything that comes from a cow (can't eat beef or drink cow's milk, etc.). Before she had her sensitivity diagnosed correctly, she loved fudge more than anything else, so I made her some with goat's milk and butter. ",
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"body": "my girlfriend made me a really cool present from an old (broken as it turned out) cassette player. She decorated it with pictures from old comics and used that stick-on lettering type stuff to write 'tom's broken tape box' on it. she made a mix tape to go with it too. i still have both. it is one of my favourite possessions. i have never yet listened to the tape.",
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"body": "For a secret santa exchange with the planning committee for my House (university dorm), I was assigned someone who was just really into the House and who I felt just contributed vast amounts of awesomeness to the attitude of the place. The price limit was $10 and I didn't want to just get him some cheap gag gift.\n\nInstead, I created a 3D model of the House in Google Sketchup, used Pepakura papercraft software to \"unfold\" it, realized there weren't any good photos for textures so I printed this out on cardstock and drew on it by hand. I then cut the pieces out and scored the folds for him so he could assemble his own House later on when he leaves school and have something to remember his contributions to the House (apparently he's going to Africa soon). I made little cardstock accessories of things he had helped build for the House, like a Crunk Clock (giant wooden clock that works, except \"Crunk Time\" is every fifteen minutes) and such. The whole thing was enclosed in an envelope with a layout piece so he knew where to stick all the buildings, instructions, glue, and a toothpick for smearing glue.\n\nMy boyfriend was also in a similar gift exchange years back for another House, where he received a fly from someone who worked in a genetics lab. The fly was supposedly the product of a long lineage of flies specifically bred for aggression to observe aggressive traits...basically it was the most badass fly ever. A warrior fly. I thought that was a really cool gift.\n\nIt makes me sad that later on when everyone goes out there into the real world and starts seriously earning money, we won't get as many cool creative gifts like these anymore.",
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"body": "I made my mom a thing that said \"I love you mom\" in glue and glitter on a piece of construction paper, like they used to have us do in elementary school. Retro, yo.",
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"body": "While traveling in Thailand I met a woman at a hostel who, for my birthday, gave me a personalized tour of the city, including feeding the ducks at a beautiful lake and a free dinner at a buddhist temple.",
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[offer] I will give you a playlist of what to listen to based on a desired mood.
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Post what mood you want to be in, and I will create or reuse a mixtape for you. I'll try and go through and make grooveshark playlists for everything as well, not just tracklists.
_*I'm out for a while*_. Hope you like 'em. You can friend me on [last.fm](http://www.last.fm/user/tholex15) if you like, or just see what I listen to.
And feel free to fulfill others requests instead of me, or post a mixtape of yours for everyone! Cheers!
Here's a roundup so far:
* [Cozy](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Cozy/23201420)
* [The Heartwarmer Playlist / Happy](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Heartwarmer/23200638)
* [The Heartwrencher / Sad](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Heartwrencher/23200909)
* [Just Dance!](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Just+Dance/23204330)
* [Run On, Lolrus / Driving & Running?](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Run+On+Lolrus/23201146)
* [Sexy/Gritty Playlist](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Sexy+Gritty/23203105)
* [Motivated - Chill](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Motivated+Chill/23200156)
* [Motivated - Hard](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Motivated+Hard/23199289)
* [wake-up song suggestions](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Wake+Up/23199776)
Works-in-progress
* Rejection / deep sorrow / cold / numb - [Squeaky Made This One](http://listen.grooveshark.com/#/playlist/Squeaky+S+Sadness/23246403)
* Melancholy / ambient / minimal
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"body": "I recently broke up with my girlfriend after 2 years of dating, there are no hard feelings from the relationship, but I need a playlist that reflects that mood of moving on/loss",
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Having a bible debate with a friend of mine, help me out...
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My buddy says "all success books are based on the bible" ...referring to parts in the bible where advice is given on living well and prospering, such as not living in debt and whatnot.
Could it be possible that the bible is the first book that included success principles? What books are the bible based on? I very much doubt my friend's claim, which is why I'm asking /r/atheism's help to find wise old scriptures, that predate both the Old AND new Testament, and contain life/financial advice. Thank you.
edit: books, scrolls, charts, paper, whatever, just things on success that predate the bible, from around the world.
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"body": "The Bible is just a Rorschach test for whoever is holding it. It's a bloody collection of Bronze Age laws, with some fables thrown in for good measure. It says a lot of things. It also contradicts itself quite a bit.",
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"body": ">Could it be possible that the bible is the first book that included success principles?\n\nNo. What is he even talking about? I recognize there may be several books about success that build around the Christian religion, but you'll find similar texts centered on Buddhism, Taoism and Islam I would bet. It's very dubious to say that the Bible is a \"success book\".\n\nTake *The Analects of Confusius*, *Tao Te Ching* or early Buddhist philosophy. All of them are heavily concentrated on the philosophy of the practical, all of them first put to writing decades and centuries before the New Testament events took place. And like the Bible, they're filled with dubious advice, based on false/obsolete knowledge and the ways of cultures not like ours at all.",
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"body": "All books with the word \"the\" are based on the bible too. See for yourself, the word \"the\" is in the bible so it must be true!",
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"body": "The oldest writings in the [Upanishads](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Upanishads) predate the oldest writings in the Bible by a few hundred years. The Upanishads have all kinds of \"wise sayings\" for good living, like tell the truth, listen to your teacher, honor your parents, do your duty, and give your best effort.\n\nSet, match.",
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"body": "True. You will sure never find tons and tons of self help books based on eastern philosophy that predates christianity. ",
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[TOMT] Where is that silhouette of a woman facing away from you with her head turned back toward you and her legs spread with a silhouetted thong at her ankles?
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I think I saw it on a Canadian fashion companies' websites' polo shirts as their emblem once, but I can't place it. Thanks!
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"body": "So I started google image searching for you, turned safe search off, kept clicking around, 20 min went by, one thing led to another... damn you.",
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Ron Mclean is on the Team 1040 at 3:30pm with Dave Pratt to talk about his Burrows segment from Saturday. Should be entertaining.
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Mclean has said he's not sorry for it and Pratt and Taylor are ripping him right now. I hope neither side backs down.
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"body": "Thanks for the heads up! I hope he tears him a new one, straight up. That shit Maclean pulled was garbage.",
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I'm a teenager almost finished high school and fairly bored with life. Is this normal?
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So I'm 16, have finished my schooling for my first semester and have a couple weeks off until my new semester begins. Is it normal for someone my age to be bored with life right now? What are some things I can do to make things better?
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"body": "Cultivate interests and hobbies. Take risks by stepping outside of your comfort zone. And it is normal for people your age to be bored with life. Isn't that every 16 year olds slogan? \"I'm bored.\"",
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"body": "Totally normal. Get a girlfriend or two. Highschool doesn't matter if you get good grades. Feel free to get into trouble if it's fun and doesn't involve jail time.",
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"body": "punk rock kept me from getting bored. if you find the music appealing, find yourself a venue with a pretty good calendar and have fun there. I was about sixteen when I first started going to shows.",
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"body": "High school has a tendency to dull your nerves. Things get more interesting once you get the fuck out of there, trust me.",
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"body": "Have you tried psilocybin mushrooms? Other than that, yep...this is all there is. Enjoy it while it lasts.\n",
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"body": "I assume you still live with your parents. The \"Real World\" can be pretty sweet. Of course, you'll likely look back when you're older and wish you were idle/bored again.\n\nEdit: And this is meant inspirationally, as it was back then, but my grandma's stock reply when we'd complain that we were bored was \"Only stupid people get bored.\"",
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I just watched the last episode of season 2 Doctor Who. I haven't cried this much in years.
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How can I go on after this? What's the point of watching more? A friend of mine tells me to keep going, and not to give up, but I just don't see how there can be life after Rose. What do you think? (no spoilers, please)
EDIT: I just started episode 1, season 3. You guys have given me hope!
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"body": "If you stop watching now you'll miss Blink.\n\nIf you do that, one day you'll kick yourself.\nAnd then you'll invite your friends to kick you. Then your friend's friends. And then their friends. Trust me, there'll be an unhealthy amount of kicking going on.",
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"body": "JUST WAIT. Season 3 has some great moments, but Season four is the greatest season of new who ever. Donna is incredible, you don't want to miss it.",
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"body": "As a warning, though, don't watch S3 immediately. I tried that, because I was an absolute wreck after S2, and wound up just hating Martha lots because she wasn't Rose. I'm liking her more now as time goes on, but--yeah, leave yourself some time to get used to it. Like the End of Time recently, cried for the last twenty or so minutes straight.\r\n\r\n...on the other hand, in regards to Rose--spoooooooooiler: she does come back. In a substantial fashion. So it's not the end quite yet. :)",
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I'm not sexually attracted to my girlfriend of two years. Do you think I should end the relationship?
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First, this is a throwaway account.
Second, here's the info:
We've been dating nearly two years. Things have been great. We were friends for years before dating, which we sort of fell into. She had feelings for me long before I had them for her, and by the time we started dating she'd been in love with me for quite some time.
Things have been really good for the most part. Mentally and emotionally, the relationship is very satisfying. I am in love with her, and the feeling's reciprocated. We have a great connection, her folks love me, my folks love her. I've seriously considered buying a ring.
But at no point in our relationship was I ever really sexually attracted to her. She has attractive features, but I've never **desired** her like I have previous girlfriends. She's typically the one to initiate sex, and it always takes some warming up for me to get into it. This was never the case in my previous relationships (I was always into it, always the initiator). I'm never really excited about the prospect of sex, and I believe it's the lack of physical attraction. It's not depression (I'm not depressed), and it's not physical (I'm young, and have actually lost a healthy amount of weight through a new diet and steady exercise).
I feel like such a terrible person because it seems like such a shallow, superficial thing to turn into a wedge issue. But if you're going to spend your life with one person, sleeping with just that one person, shouldn't you be sexually attracted to them?
I'm just at such a loss lately. I can't tell her because I know it would just be devastating. But I don't know how to handle it either. I feel like such a jackass, but can't help feeling this is important. Any advice, Reddit?
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"body": "This is fatal for a relationship -- when one person wants it more than the other. Regarding the pain you will cause her, I offer you this story.\n\nI grew up in So. Cal, where as kids many of us had “flexys.” Basically, these were sleds on wheels. It had been many years since I’d been on one, when I found one in the garage of a friend. His garage opened onto an alley with a long steep hill leading away from it. I hopped on the flexy for a ride. I was sitting upright, steering with my feet. And as it picked up speed, it started shaking. It was still a long way from the bottom of the hill, so I knew I would eventually lose it. I couldn’t put my feet down, because they were bare. I was wearing swimming shorts and a tee shirt. I figured that the longer I waited, the more damage I was going to do. I needed to end it now, and on my terms. So I just ripped the flexy from beneath me and took it on my butt. The asphalt wore through the swim trunks in the first 2 feet, and I rode along for 10 more. For a week I’d come home from school and sit in the tub to soak the underwear off my raw ass. \n\nBut never did I question my decision. Act now, because the longer you wait, the worse it will be. \n",
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"body": "This sounds like a situation where you fell into a relationship with a great friend. You love her, but you aren't in love with her. I think this has less to do with physical attraction than you might think. \n\nWhen you are truly in love, the physical becomes a totally secondary thing. You'll want to have sex with the person because you love them. Looks are a bonus of course, but they don't last forever. \n\nThis is coming from a guy who's been married for 10 years and is still deeply in love with his wife. ",
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"body": "I don't think there is a simple answer to this question. There's no such thing as a perfect relationship, life is short, and it's very possible that the girl you're dating right now is the best woman you're ever going to snag, and that if you let her go, you'll regret it for the rest of your life.\n\nI was recently in a 1.5 year long relationship with this really awesome chick. She was cute, intelligent, and the most honest and caring person I've ever met. We hung out all the time and I quickly considered her my best friend. I told myself frequently that, in the abstract, she seemed like exactly the kind of person I'd want to spend the rest of my life with.\n\nBut the sex was mediocre. I'm not sure why, but I have a theory: she was so easy to get along with, and so low maintenance, and she never bitched at me, so my monkey brain decided that she was already mine, and I didn't really need to spend any further effort on her. In my personal experience, it seems to be the bitchy, difficult girls which are the most fun to have sex with. It's more satisfying when you have to work for it, maybe.\n\nAnyway, I declared that we were in an open relationship, which she didn't really like, but she dealt with it for 1.5 years. She kept asking me to commit to her, and I kept refusing. Two months ago, she left me for another guy, and to my great surprise, it devastated the fuck out of me. I've been begging her to come back to me for the past two months. I've been asking her to marry me, but I get the feeling that she doesn't really trust me anymore. I've never gotten so fucked up over a girl before, and it really took me by surprise. It's so bad that it interferes with my work. I cry a lot. Just something to keep in mind.\n\nGood luck.",
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"body": "Yes. She deserves a chance to find someone who is sexually attracted to her and makes her feel desirable and attractive. You are obviously not that person. ",
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"body": "It's not shallow; it's how you feel and it's not your fault. \n\nDefinitely don't get married. I made that mistake and married someone I wasn't sexually attracted to. A wonderful person, treated me great, but I just wasn't into him that way. Obviously the next question is always, \"Why did you marry him, then?\" Well, we did get along very well, and he seemed so different from past boyfriends in that he had his shit together career-wise and life-wise . . . And for a long time I blamed depression, then medication, the pill, whatever I could.\n\nI guess I thought that you had to give up some things to get others, which isn't true. I mean, you have to figure out what's worth it and what isn't. To me, not being sexually attracted to somebody makes a relationship not worth it. I wish I would have known that about myself before I got married. Just my .02.\n\n\n",
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"body": "I feel like I wrote this. You have described my last relationship perfectly.\n\nI had dated and desired many women, but as I entered my late 20s, I started to think that a true adult relationship was perhaps built less on attraction and more on compatibility and support. I had known my girlfriend for several years, and she had always let me know that she wanted to be with me. She was always there when I had a horrible breakup and would flirt with me and listen to me. She was stable and had great values and I could see myself having a life with her.\n\nFor two and a half years, we had a great life. However, just like you said, I never initiated sex. I was \"tired\" a lot. When we did have sex, I would get into it after a while so that I could enjoy it, but it always involved some work to get me interested. I wasn't attracted - but being a guy, was able to get into the sex after some foreplay.\n\nAnyways, I felt like I was dying inside. I think I realized that sex and attraction generally cools off a bit after initial desire, and for this reason a healthy relationship should be built on more than attraction. However, at least for me, I don't want to know that I missed out on it. I want to think back to the beginning of my happy relationship and remember how I felt when I first met her.\n\nAnyways, I eventually broke up with her. I made the mistake of telling her the truth and it really hurt her. IMO, much better to do a version of it's not you it's me. Because she and I were so compatible, and had such a great life together, the breakup was really, really hard and took a while. Even though I miss her, and often think of things I wish I could tell her, I know I did the right thing.",
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"body": "Are you sexually attracted to other girls? Is sexual attraction important to you?\n\nYou're not going to become sexually attracted to her over time, that's for sure.\n\nAllowing this to fester isn't going to make it any less devastating, either.",
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"body": "> But if you're going to spend your life with one person, sleeping with just that one person, shouldn't you be sexually attracted to them?\n\nRegardless of where you are at the start of a relationship, that part of it simply does not hold up over time. The reason so many couples break up after a few years is because the physical side of things goes down hill. The reason so many couples stay together after a few years is that they were able to grow the relationship beyond the physical.\n\nYours sounds like it's becoming the latter, if it's not already.\n\n> but I've never desired her like I have previous girlfriends. \n\nThen why aren't you with any of them today? Why are you with her instead?\n\nAny decision you make will have an element of regret with it. Dump her for Future Girl who's super hot but just doesn't quite live up to *her*. Or stay with her and forever lament the grass on the other side of the fence.\n\nBut as I wrote earlier, Future Girl who's so super hot? She won't always be, but she will always fail to live up to *her* in other important areas.\n\n**On the other hand...**\n\nIf you choose to stay with current GF, you cannot assume for even one hour of one day that her lovey-dovey feelings for you will stay the same over time. If it is unimaginable to you that she would ever write a similar letter on a similar site at some point in time, you're in trouble. Maybe not now, but I'm just saying. \n\nThe point being is that whatever decision you make and whoever you decide to be with, it takes an ongoing commitment to maintain a good relationship. You can't just decide then put your feet up and assume all is well just because *you* made a decision. If you do, it will come back and bite you hard.",
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"body": "Yes. It's not shallow, you're lacking chemistry with her. In the long run it will make her feel unattractive and unloved, and you will feel like a jerk. \n\nAnd for humanity's sake, don't tell her you're breaking it off because you're not attracted to her. ",
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"body": "which parts of her do you consider unattractive? which do you consider attractive?\n\nif she's 'unattractive' because of her weight, consult the other threads on reddit on how to politely and undouchally (sp?) get healthy together. \n\nthe things you consider attractive, is it possible to accentuate them, at least in your eyes? for example, if she has dynamite legs, could you ask her to incorporate them more before/during sex? ",
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"body": "Do you think it could be something like the Madonna-whore complex? It's basically the ability to have great sex with women you have no emotional ties to, and no sexual interest toward the woman you really love and care deeply for.",
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"body": "What's the probability you can remain faithful?\n\nWhat's the probability you won't start treating her bad sometime in the future, when you're frustrated you're not getting what you really want sexually?",
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"body": "Yes.\n\nIt will really become a problem when you meet a woman that you *are* sexually attracted to. *Then* it will become a *real* mess.\n\nIf you both were 85, this wouldn't be an issue, but at your age you are bound to run across a woman that turns you on and that is turned on by you. This will leave you with the option of dumping her for another woman, fooling around on her (cheating), or staying with the GF and not acting on your desires, which will lead to bitter resentment towards *what sounds like* a very nice girl (the GF).\n\nIt's probably best to let her get over you without the added kick-in-the-crotch of another woman being involved.",
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"body": "Shallow and petty my ass. This is the last person you're ever going to put your penis in. If you're not feeling it you're not feeling it. You can break up. We won't judge you. You're not going to be excommunicated. You don't have to give the dowry back. It's the fucking 90's, man! It's civilization! It has arrived! People can have sexual relations with numerous people over the course of their lives without facing debilitating social stigma!",
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"body": "I was in a similar relationship a few years ago, it didn't start out that way mind, I think it was just some variation of the seven-year itch setting in early.\n\nI didn't say anything, but of course she picked up on the general feeling. Things went on like that for a few months before she finally got to breaking point and broke up with me.\n\nI probably could have saved us both a lot of pain by being honest about how I felt. I was just terrified that how I was feeling was just a temporary thing.\n\nTurned out it was. Three years and three failed relationships later I still regret fucking that one up.\n\nThere's no real advice there, just thought I'd share my experience. \nIf I were to offer advice however, I'd say that being physically attracted to someone is hugely important. Not for everyone of course, but this idea that 'it's what's on the inside that counts' being drummed into us at every opportunity creates some fairly destructive cognitive dissonance among those of us to whom looks *do* matter.\n\nTo me it works like this: Not physically attracted but great personality? Friends. Physically attracted but terrible personality? Recipe for disaster and self-delusion. Avoid. Those rare people who you find physically attractive and get along with really well? Those are the ones to have a relationship with.",
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"body": "It's really ultimately a matter of choice, but if you're distressed about it enough to post to Reddit and ask anonymous strangers what you should do, I think it's time for a breakup. It sounds like you have an amazing roommate and best friend, rather than a girlfriend. If you had a low sex drive normally and were fine with occasional not-spectacular sex, this might not be an issue for you, but that doesn't seem to be the case.\n\nRelationships always involve one trade-off or another. Is the mental and emotional connection worth trading for the possibility of ever having a fulfilling sex life? On the other hand, if you marry a girl you're incredibly attracted to but don't have the same emotional connection to, what happens if she's horribly burned in a house fire and you're no longer attracted to her?\n\nIt comes down to: Are you willing to risk not finding the same emotional connection very soon? If you look, you *will* find the same connection again, but it may take a while. I think you probably should break up with her and look for someone who's compatible sexually *and* mentally *and* emotionally. But ultimately, you have to think about it in terms of how much of your life you're willing to spend without fulfilling sex--if that's not \"forever,\" it's high time you broke up with her so she can find someone who *is* attracted to her and will make her feel like the most beautiful, alluring girl in the world.",
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"body": "TBH, it sounds like you want to break up with her and just came here to make yourself feel better about it.\n\nI hope that doesn't come out mean--that's not my intention. It's just pretty clear to me that you don't want to be in this relationship.",
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"body": "I have much wiser advice, but I imagine everyone else in this thread has covered everything, so as a last resort, try imagining her with another guy and see if that gets you fired up. \n\nThere's some kind of evolutionary \"Oh Shit\" switch that gets flipped whenever the very real possibility of our mate taking on a new partner arises.",
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"body": "If you love her like you say then you might want to think carefully about that before you throw it all away. Because mutuality of your relationship that you described is not something you can easily recreate in anyone else.",
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"body": "Sounds like you are extra mature. Ask yourself this. Would you want to be without her? Sex is pretty limited in scope. Intimacy is dynamic. Don't lose her man. You've got a love. Many never get that. And never post this issue again on reddit.",
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"body": "I've been dealing with this too. \r\n\r\nI've been in a relationship for 10 years, and my desire for him is totally out the window. We have sex fairly often, but it's more of a release for me. Our relationship has recently taken a turn for the worse, (not sex related) but it has directly changed the way I feel about him sexually. (if that makes sense) That's a TOTALLY different story, though. It's way too complicated to go into on this post. \r\n\r\nAnyways, I've been questioning how much I should continue investing into our relationship. You said: \"If you're going to spend your life with one person, sleeping with just that one person, shouldn't you be sexually attracted to them?\" YES! YES! YES!!! I'm at a point where I've seriously doubted my ability to reject temptation. I've never cheated before. I was really close on Saturday, though. (too damn close, if you ask me) For the record, I didn't do anything. \r\n\r\nIf you've NEVER been attracted to your girlfriend, though - I would end it. It will be a problem in the future. I think you'll eventually look for someone else who fulfills you. ",
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"body": "Alright, I'm going to take a stab at this. Not because I know anything in particular, but who knows, if enough people say enough words something might ring true.\n\nThe fundamental questions are these... what is it about past relationships with women that have made you more attracted to them? Is it that they were sexier in behaviour or appearance? Was it that you had sex with them before you really got to know them? Was it because you knew it would be short term and could really let your inhibitions out? What I'm trying to get at, is what sort of mental approach do you take when it comes to sex? Do you think that it is easier for you to have a sexual relationship with a \"certain\" type of girl (read: sluttier) and when it comes to what you see as a more wholesome girl you can't get to the same place mentally? My guess, if you're anything like me or a lot of other guys out there, when you're with a girl who you don't initially think of as a sexual being or haven't just completely objectified from the start, there's a greater mental risk in being your true sexual self with someone you are that close to. It could be a conscious or unconscious fear of rejection or being seen as too dirty, whereas a perceived sluttier girl almost *encourages* you to act on your sexual desires. Is it possible that you have created a state between the two of you where you are unable to truly act out your sexual desires with her? or perhaps TO her? or *on* her??? ;)\n\nIf this doesn't sound like it rings true for you you can stop reading this post now.\n\nSexual libido IMO is a total chicken and the egg problem, once you don't got it, ya can't have it back. This is s really difficult problem for guys it seems. The question you should be asking if you're genuinely serious about trying to make this work (if you're just putting on a dog and pony show of *trying* to make it work because you care about her SO much... then do her a favour and leave so she can get about the business of getting past the impending hurt), if you're actually serious then you need to go about trying to start a new sexual relationship with her. I would recommend getting a little bit drunk (not a lot.. maybe a couple of glasses of wine) and talk about what turns you both on. It doesn't have to be a high-school conversation where things get giggly, you're both adults, so if you can do it without being embarrassed then it will help her to talk too. The most important thing about a conversation like this is that it be completely honest and forthright without any intentions of judgement, just letting your true self out. It doesn't even have to be overly serious, but it does have to be honest. I would ask her what sorts of things would turn her on... and be pointed about it. It's generally easier to answer a specific question than a general one. You can offer what would be the biggest turn on for you and you can ask her questions like; would she like to be tied up? Would she like you to be physically aggressive? submissive? It doesn't matter if you're necessarily into those things, you're trying to learn about her. At some point you're bound to find some kinky common ground. There's a different intimacy when it comes to sex than when it comes to a caring, emotionally supportive relationship (and they're not mutually exclusive!), but they are decidely different. There can be a fear that people will reject your sexual side and think you a \"freak\" or a \"perv\"... and you definitely are not. People who use those words are either immature or sexually hung up (unless you're trying to stick copper tubing and live animals into their ass or something perhaps... but I digress...) and they have likely been brought up to feel uncomfortable about sex. If you can get to a point where you can both lay out your true sexual fantasies, and not the \"I love doing it with you the most\" sort of variety, then I think you're on your way to getting to a different sexual relationship. If you can look at your girlfriend and think of all of the perverse things you want to do to her and *genuinely* believe that not only will she let you do it with/to/on/against/including/around/into her , but that she acutally *wants* you to do those things, then you're in the right mental space.\n\nMy belief again (and I have no real professional qualifications to say this), but it's how I see it, is that when you are very emotionally attached to a girl and you see them as less sexually \"deviant\" (from your own perspective) than you, the risk of \"going for it\" goes way up... often to the point of altering your actions and/or personality in the situation. Be honest here... think of the most sexually exciting thing you can right now and answer the question \"Would I approach my girlfriend about doing that?\". If the answer is yes, then you've probably explored every route there is in the matter and this isn't the post that's going to hit home for you. If the answer is no, then why not? What are you going to lose by letting someone who *loves* you.. really, really loves you... know what you are the most turned on by? If it's rejection or embarrassment, it's a moot point since the relationship is going to end on the course you're on. This is the time to act and find out if it can even go that way. If it's something else, then you need to figure it out and deal with *that* before you can resolve this.\n\nAlso, you're getting this advice from the internet, so have I even been with a woman before....?",
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"body": "I had a very similar situation when I was in my 20s. We got married and 13 years later I just couldn't take it anymore and I divorced her. It felt I was living a lie.\n\nTake it from me, if the flame of desire isn't there then I suggest that you move on.\n\nNow I am 50 and married to a woman who even after 8 years of marriage still carbonates my chromosomes.\n",
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"body": "The question:\n>Do you think I should end the relationship?\n\nThe clue:\n>But at no point in our relationship was I ever really sexually attracted to her.\n\nThe answer to the question:\n>YES!\n\nThe counter-question: \n>Did you seriously need reddit for this???\n\nIntimacy, passion, commitment. It sounds like psychobabble but without all three, it's doomed.",
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"body": "Recently I didn't want to have sex with my girlfriend and then one day BAM! She's the hottest thing on two legs again. ",
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"body": "How has she stayed around for two years. Seems so strange that you would get that far in a relationship if you wernt attracted to her? \n\nBizare man get out of there. for that girls sake not yours.",
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where to get step-by-step first-sex manual
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HIs,
i am VERY hesitant about my first-time sex. Is there a book, article, video or advices you could suggest.
i am particularly interested in the following:
- how to proceed to undressing? (should i or she undress herself)
- what to do after you ejaculate? (possible options: put off the condom and go to the bathroom, stay in bed, pull on the second one immediately)
- how many times an average male is expected to ejaculate by a gf in a single sex session (is 2 ok)? what are the time spans between ejaculations?
- if taking shower before and after sex is necessary?
- should i trim or shave my pubes, completely or leave something?
Maybe i take a very practical look at the matter and the nature should kick in at the right point... But it would be so helpful to find a step-by-step manual to the first-time sex, if such exists.
Thanks
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"body": "I think this is called OVERTHINKING.\n\nThe great thing about sex is that it is something you can figure out while doing it. Don't put any pressure on the situation, and don't make orgasming from your partner your goal. You can get yourself off, your partner can get theirself off, so you don't need to worry about that at first.",
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"body": "Here's a step by step manual for your first time: \n* Slide her shirt up and reach around to the bra hooks.\n\n* Fumble around with it until she smiles and offers help.\n\n* Kiss for a bit then unbutton her pants.\n\n* Awkwardly pull those down to her knees until they get stuck. \n\n* Again, fumble around until she just slides them off.\n\n* Now, grab a condom. Carefully rip it the spend a moment figuring out with side rolls down. \n\n* Now that's on, lean down and start making out. Tell her you love her and want this to last all night.\n\n* Spend 2 minutes exploring her body then slide her panties off. They don't get stuck until the drunk fat chick years later. \n\n* Again, tell her you love her but now say how you two will be together forever. And slide towards her vagina.\n\n* Place your penis in the hole that is slippery! That's very important! \n\n* Once you're halfway in, grab the base of the condom so the seaman doesn't escape and apologize. \n\n *NO CRYING! ",
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"body": "* Stand before her, unbutton your pants \n* Slowly raise your arms upward as your pants fall off. \n* Shout loudly in a booming voice, \"RELEASE THE KRAKKEN!\". ",
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"body": "> what to do after you ejaculate? (possible options: put off the condom and go to the bathroom, stay in bed, **pull on the second one immediately** )\n\nWhoa Turbo, slow down. Losing your virginity is an awkward experience just like the first time you do anything. You have to walk before you can run, etc... Just try to have a good time and worry about the details when they come up.",
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So my university just pulled the plug on my program half way though, giving no refunds, what can I do?
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Hi Reddit, I'm a first year telecommunications student at Thompson Rivers University in Kamloops BC. The program is two years long with the first year a generic core electronics course, and the second year specializing in telecommunications and networking (cisco) Today my class of 12 received a letter saying that the second year would no longer be happening, due to lack of funding, but we are welcome to finish up our first year and attempt to find a university that will allow us to continue. I took out a $14,000 student loan and was planning to do the same next year, with the first year core electronics certificate I can not get any sort of employment; I need the second year. I called BCIT which is the closest school that has the second year options, but they have a huge waitlist and I was told it is incredibly unlikely that I would get in for this September. I left a message with my MLA and spoke with the dean of the school who refused to give me any real information. The teachers are on 10-year so they'll get a paycheque regardless if they teach us or not. Any ideas on what I can do to try to get my program offered here? or get my money back?
edit: I wrote this while being pretty heated up about the incident. I know a complete refund is not practical, I mean I paid for one year, and got one year, it's just a real bummer that the one year does nothing for me, it's just a building block for the second year.
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"body": "10-year, haha. [FYI](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tenure) \n\nAnd the school would likely have little to do with your student loans, beyond accepting them. Find out if you've already paid them all $14,000, or if you're simply entitled to that much. If they've already taken it and are not going to give you what you're entitled to, they're (afaik) legally obligated to give the money back. If you've taken your first year already, and used that money to pay for it, then I don't see why you should expect to get it back. \n\nTLDR: If $14,000 was the cost of first year, you're shit outta luck. If you've overpaid them in any way, and they are refusing to give it back, you're gonna have to muscle it out.",
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"body": "Unless you've already paid for your second year I don't think that you are entitled to a refund. They did provide you with one year of education and it is transferable (although it sucks that you are waitlisted at the next closest school and probably won't be able to continue your education this September).\n\nIf you're determined to stay in that program, and want to wait for BCIT (If I were you I'd consider other further away schools rather than put my life on hold for a year or more), then get a job to start paying off your first year of student loans while you wait to start school again.\n\nDon't think that I don't sympathize with your situation. I don't think that they should be allowed to cancel the program half-way through. If the funding's just not there though, I don't know what you can do about it. \n\ntl;dr: The Olympics are *very* expensive and we've all had to make sacrifices. ",
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"body": "Your contract is the calendar you came in on. They are breaking it. Do you have a student union to press the issue on your behalf? The school should work its ass off for the students. \nGood luck. Get creative.",
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"body": "I would argue in court that canceling the program devalued what I did receive and try and get partial restitution for that too. Google the law society in your province on the web. They probably have a program for a free consultation.\n",
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"body": "Call the BCIT/SAIT/NAIT student services and if the program is full then check if they have an alternative program you can sign up for that would let you switch programs next semester.",
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"body": ">The teachers are on 10-year \n\nThat is *so cute*! \n\nCheck with the bank that gave you the loan. There may be something they can do about recouping the money since they are the ones who paid the school fees. Good luck and keep us posted. That is a crappy situation, brother.",
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"body": "You may want to talk to your school's ombudsperson, the [BC ombudsperson](http://www.ombudsman.bc.ca), and any student unions. At the very least your school should find somewhere for you to complete your program. \n\nYou should also get together with the 11 other people in your class and draft letters of complaint to various people in the school, as well as local media. It's important to come together and voice your mistreatment now, have it on the record, and begin to put pressure on the University.",
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Ask Reddit Travel: I'm looking for the website that allows you to see all the flight airfare for a certain time frame in a grid.
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Someone posted it in the comments section. I think it's the software company for the discount travel websites. They let you log on as a guest.
Edit: Thanks to djepik and deserted!
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"body": "You're thinking of this: http://itasoftware.com/\n\n\"Search Airfares\" and use the Month Long Search. \n\nFrom [This Submission](http://www.reddit.com/r/travel/comments/amqx9/10_ways_to_cut_your_travel_costs_this_year/)",
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DAE hate animated .gifs?
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Almost every single animated .gif submitted would be more fully enjoyed as a video because it takes less time to load and doesn't stutter. Not to mention it would have more frames, be in a higher resolution, and have stuff like sound.
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"body": "i can't stand animated gifs.. I don't get it. you wait like 30 seconds for the gif to load.. only to see a heavily dithered image of some dude falling down an escalator.",
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New Reddit Unofficial Server - West Coast (US)
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I've started a new west coast server after I noticed the East/Central is hard to get into at peak times. I've been getting a ping of 7 on this new server, so it should be pretty good.
The IP for the new server: 8.3.6.210:27015
New Vent Server for WC Server: vent10.gameservers.com port: 4598 pw: r3dd1t
I will be needing to add some admins, so send me a message if you're interested.
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"body": "I would like to formally request that people actually play on the server. There seems to be a trend with Reddit West servers. Everyone gets all excited about them in the comments, but I hardly ever see anyone on. We've had a few West servers in the past. Let's try to keep this one.\n\n:D",
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Reddit, What games do I have to play before I die?Why?
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Games that I believe should be played before death
Portal:great puzzles, well designed, one of the few games that will exercise your brain
Shadow of The Colossus: beautiful art design and puzzle design, taught me to appreciate the little things, true sacrifice
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"body": "Games that affected the video game industry, pop culture, and/or the internet. The games are definitely overused in all of these lists, but there is a reason why. Also if I'm not doing your game justice, i apoligize :) Just thinking of what I loved about them off the top of my head.\n\n*edited thanks to comments!*\n\n*Games that Influenced the Industry:*\n\n**Super Mario Series:**\n\n*Particularly 1, 3, 64\n\n* Superb jump physics and run physics helped define the platforming genre\n\n* Making each \"boss\" level make you use the skills you've learned from each level you've played previously. \n\n* Raccoon tail and tanooki suit are instantly recognizable 20 years later\n\n* Mario 64 defined the 3d platformer and was the first console game to use an analog joystick to improve play control. \n\n**Tetris**\n\n* Probably the only game on this list that will still be played 100 years from now.\n\n* Counting every iteration of this game(Nes, gameboy, pretty much every console since, PC versions, web based versions, phone versions, ipod versions), it is most likely the best selling game of all time.\n\n* So popular that, from what i've been told, the word \"tetris\" is actually used to refer to all casual puzzle games.\n\n* Pretty much influenced and created the casual game market we have today.\n\n\n**Sim City/Civilization**\n\n* Essentially invented the \"God\" genre of games where you control and micromanage everything\n\n* The concept spawned the creation of The Sims, which is one of the best selling games of all time. \n\n\n**Super Metroid**\n\n* Gorgeous 2d visuals. The amount of frames of animation in some of the models are superb. You could actually see Samus's suit expand and contract as she took breaths while standing idle. Compared to all of the other static sprites at the time, this was pretty amazing.\n\n* The story was told without a SINGLE word past the introduction scene, and it was told WELL. The whole world came to life. You actually felt like you were on an alien planet.\n\n* The controls were phenomenal, and even somewhat customizable. \n\n* Giant bosses and an epic last boss fight.\n\n* TONS of hidden items\n\n* Gameplay mechanics that were revealed by alien creatures, not the instruction manual. Even the 'attract mode' revealed a special move ([Crystal flash](http://metroid.wikia.com/wiki/Crystal_Flash)).\n\n\n**Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time**\n\n* One of the first 3D adventure games to do it RIGHT. \n\n* Made a 'lock on' ability an industry standard. Changed the way 3d action games were played to this day.\n\n* Auto jump made the game more focused on the action, puzzles, and discovery than trying to land on the platform correctly. No more tedious platforming sections when it wasn't the focus of the game (looking at you, turok!)\n\n* For the time, a HUGE overworld. Hyrule field was amazing at the time, and made the player instantly feel like there was a huge world to discover. Small by today's standards, but the feeling is still there.\n\n* Made you THINK in 3d. No longer were puzzles confined to what was directly around you. You now had to look up and down as well to find a solution to the puzzle. \n\n* Epona. Horse travel was added probably to help navigate the, at the time, huge world. It would be considered a faux pas if an open world had no means of rapid transit in modern gaming.\n\n\n**Wolfenstein 3D/Quake**\n\n* Wolfenstein is Grandaddy of FPSes. Maybe not the FIRST, but definitely the one to bring it mainstream\n\n* Quake transformed FPS games from LAN party affairs to online multiplayer.\n\n*Without Wolfenstein and Quake, the FPS genre would not be as big as it is today. No halo, no call of duty, nothing. I firmly believe the would have come about anyway, as it is a logical progression, but these games are responsible for it.\n\n\n**Half-Life (1 and 2)**\n\n* Physics based puzzles.\n\n* Broke up the monotony of \"level 1\", \"level 2\", by making the story for the fps be entirely continuous. From beginning to end, you never have a point in the game where you just spawn in a new level (Aside from being teleported, of course, but that's within the story).\n\n* Advanced computer AI to a new level for the time. They actually ran away from grenades, or threw them back. They would run around the building if you blocked the door, or began shooting through the windows. Standard stuff now, but pretty awesome for the time. \n\n\n**Starcraft**\n\n* Seriously well made RTS. To many, this game defines the RTS genre. \n\n* Three races, all very well balanced, and each with their own strengths and weaknesses.\n\n* Strong community, and therefore constant updates were made to the game (and often still are) to make sure that everything plays fair and as bug free as possible. At the time, not many RTSes got this kind of support. This could also be because not many RTSes were played online as frequently either.\n\n* People still play this frequently. Not many games can claim to be so constantly played to this day.\n\n\n**Chrono Trigger**\n\n* Probably my favorite game of the lot, but I wont go into too much detail.\n\n* Dual-Techs - The ability to combine 2-3 team member's special moves into a much cooler looking, and often more effective move. \n\n* Removed random encounters. Sure you couldn't avoid EVERY battle, but at least you could usually see them coming. You could get ambushed sometimes, but at least the ambushes weren't random.\n\n* To this day, the game is considered to have been created by the dream team: [Hironobu Sakaguchi](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hironobu_Sakaguchi) (Final fantasy), [Yuji Horii](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yuuji_Horii) (Dragon Quest), [Akira Toriyama](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Akira_Toriyama) Dragon Ball, [Yasunori Mitsuda](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yasunori_Mitsuda) (Xenogears, chrono cross), [Nobuo Uematsu](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nobuo_Uematsu) (Final Fantasy).\n\n\n**Puzzle Quest**\n\n* A bridge between casual gamers, and rpg gamers\n\n* The production values are somewhat lacking in this game, but the formula is incredibly addictive.\n\n* Bejeweled combined with leveling up, learning abilities, managing stats, buying equipment can cause you to waste hundreds of hours of your life.\n\n*Has spawned several clones(Such as gyromancer), and will probably be copied for years to come\n\n\n**Pokémon**\n\n* Any of them, it doesnt matter. \n\n* RPG combined with a collectathon\n\n* Trading Pokemon made the game a social experience for younger kids\n\n* Battling made it a competitive experience.\n\n* Marketed towards kids, but the game has many hidden or subtle RPG elements that make the game series on of the deepest series out there. The games can be completed in under 30-40 hours, but there could potentially be hundreds of hours of gameplay, not even including the multiplayer.\n\n\n**Parappa the Rapper**\n\n* May not be for everyone, but it essentially created the modern rhythm game, and worth playing just to see their roots.\n\n\n**God of war**\n\n* On the list because it made Quick time events a mainsteam encounter in modern action games\n\n*Nothing else revolutionary except that it's a really well made game, decent story, and loads of fun.\n\n**Resident Evil Series**\n\n* Particularly 2 and 4.\n\n* Made Survival Horror a mainstream genre\n\n\n*Really Fun games:*\n\n**Portal**\n\n* Although the internet has pretty much killed the original satisfaction I had while playing this game, it's still really fun.\n\n* Portal based puzzles are unlike anything i've ever played in any other puzzle game.\n\n* The humor was great when i first played it, it's a shame the internet [chappelled](http://www.thebestpageintheuniverse.net/c.cgi?u=chappelle) it. \n\n* Great sample of the source engine, and if you like what you see, please play all the half life games.\n\n\n\n\n\n*Games that a lot of people like, but I never really got into:*\n\n**Team ICO games**\n\n*ICO, Shadow of the colossus\n\n**Bethesda Games**\n\n*Elder Scrolls (3 and 4, mainly), Fallout 3\n\nPhew, ok, i could go on forever, but these are my top games off the top of my head.\n\n*Honorable mentions:*\n\nDiablo series\n\nWarcraft series (Including WOW, simply because of it's massive success)\n\nLegend of zelda: A link to the past\n\nMost Bioware RPGs (people have their preferences on these, but mass effect, KOTOR, Dragon Age, etc are all great)\n\nMetroid Prime\n\n\n(Sorry if i left anything out, so dont feel insulted. Just add what i left out if you feel offended :) Also, corrections are welcomed.)",
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"body": "Chrono Trigger had one of the best stories in a video game I've ever experienced. \nSuper Metroid was the best sidescroller I've played. \n",
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"body": "Deus Ex: Because it will give you a good idea of what the world will be like shortly before you die. Seriously though, it's the most down-to-earth, eerily realistic, yet still batshit insane science fiction vision of the future I know. It's also a great game that allows multiple styles of play, including a stealthy part that lets you playing the whole game without killing anyone (despite it being an FPS). It's a classic in a genre that nobody ever really managed to recreate in the first place. ",
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"body": "Dwarf Fortress. \r\n\r\nSeriously, once you overcome the ASCII and terrible interface, you become engrossed in what has to be the most absorbing game ever created by man.\r\n\r\nThe game itself is just so complex. You have to atleast play until your fortress is overrun by a large goblin horde or megabeasts and or demons rather than your own actions.\r\n\r\nAnd remember, Losing is fun.",
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"body": "Did anyone else come into this thread thinking the poster was dying soon?\n\nNo?\n\nJust me?\n\nAlrighty then...",
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"body": "Earthbound and Mother 3. \n\nThey're just extremely well-crafted in all aspects. Some of the best, if not the best writing found in games, coupled with excellent music, visuals and gameplay. It's hard to explain what I like so much about the games, but suffice to say there's a reason they have such a cult following.",
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"body": "The Half Life Series. Some of the most incredibly fun gameplay I've ever experienced. Definitely sci-fi based but fun as hell.",
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"body": "My Top 5 arty-farty atmospheric soul changing games:\n\n* 1) Super Metroid\n* 2) Bioshock\n* 3) Silent Hill 2\n* 4) All half-life games\n* 5) Lumines II",
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"body": "Final Fantasy 7 is still my favorite. A long RPG with a tragic story, cool actions, smart design, hard bonus bosses, good music, and epic film sequences. On PS1 and PC.",
"score": 7
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"body": "Halo: Combat Evolved is a master piece. The level design, story plot, enemies, multiplayer, even the voice acting was amazing. (Don't play the other two if you didn't like CE, they aren't as good as their precursor.) If you find the story interesting, there are 7 novels that explain the Halo universe and what happens during the games.\n\n I also really enjoyed Half Life and Half Life 2 + all the episodes.",
"score": 7
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"body": "**The Secret of Monkey Island** and **Grim Fandango**. Adventure games used to be huge, but for some reason they've almost faded into obscurity. They're still around, though if you want to witness the pinnacle, I'd pick those two. To this day very few games have come close to matching the story and mood of GF for me.",
"score": 6
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"body": "Megaman 2. I just replayed it a couple days ago, and I was impressed all over again. Great controls, looks great, and the music kicks ass. ",
"score": 5
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"body": "KOTOR (Star Wars: Knights of the Old Republic) is one of the best RPGs to date. Especially recommended if you never got the chance to play any western RPGs.",
"score": 4
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"body": "**Braid**. One of the most interesting games I've ever played. It's a side scrolling puzzle game where you control the flow of time. Also has very good music and artwork.\n\n**League of Legends** Free to play simplified version of Dota. It's fun, addicting, free, and it just won a game of the year award.\n\nYou didn't specify video games, so I'll also say to hit up your local card/hobby shop and maybe try a card game like \"Magic: The Gathering\". They are great places to make some new friends and most of the time people there are happy to teach you to play all the different games they play.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Panzer Dragoon Zwei: Gorgeous, otherworldly shooter that is unbelievably cinematic. Amazing music unlike anything else in gaming.\n\nSilent Hill 1 and 2: Surreal and utterly demonic. Emotionally and physically draining.\n\nManhunt: The most nihilistic game ever made and one of the most visceral.",
"score": 3
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"body": "I always wonder why the Elder Scrolls games don't get more attention. I just beat Oblivion, and it was great: An immersive world, endlessly freestyle gameplay/exploration, and beautiful graphics. It's a dorky RPG, but the best dorky RPG out there, imho. ",
"score": 3
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"body": "Doom. \r\n\r\n\r\nIt may not be the best game ever but it defined a genre that was still in it's infancy and influenced many games we all play today.\r\n\r\n\r\nAlso, Duke Nukem 3D.",
"score": 3
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"body": "EVO: The Search for Eden\n\nA kwirky SNES platformer with an evolution mechanic. I'd love to see a modern take on it. ",
"score": 3
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"body": "Games that changed my views on world and life was:\n\n- Outcast, no game compares to it.\n- Blade Runner, the best atmosphere of any game!",
"score": 3
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"body": "Incredible Machines because the puzzles are challenging, but seemingly obvious when solved. The trial and error aspect is a great setup as you discover the answer. \n\nTo this day, Galaga is still one of my all time favorites though for its relentless nature and close calls. There is nothing like failure that keeps you at it. Just one more game...\n \n\n",
"score": 3
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"body": "Well, the others all flushed out the mainstays: Half-Life, Starcraft, Zelda, and Chrono Trigger are golden and one can never go wrong with them (we have an [excellent Starcraft community](http://reddit.com/r/starcraft) here on Reddit too). But... if we're talking games that _cannot be missed_, rather than ones with unlimited replay value, I have two titles to add:\n\n__Legend of Mana__ is breathtaking. It is JRPG gold, and is worth playing for the watercolor artwork alone (not to mention almost unlimited paths to the end of the game). Fantastic game with crispy 2d graphics that still looks _great_ to this day. I lent it to my 11 year old cousin and literally was choked up watching him solve the \"Dubbear\" language on his own.\n\n__Final Fantasy: Tactics__ If you're looking for a turn-based strategy game, look no further. If you're looking for one of the grandest story lines in the history of video games, this is it. It's hard, it's pretty, it's expansive and extremely long, and it's just fantastic. This is one of those games that sold intensely well for a while and was mostly forgotten (although it did quite well on the PlayStation Store recently).",
"score": 3
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[Request] I'd love some fun pictures @ 240x320 for my camera background!
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I got a memory chip for my camera. I know, I know... so hi-tech. So I'm putting some pictures on it for backgrounds and stuff, but thought it would be cool if someone wanted to share something I wouldn't have found otherwise. Thanks!
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"body": "[here](http://images.google.com/images?as_st=y&hl=en&safe=off&client=opera&rls=en&um=1&sa=1&q=background+imagesize%3A240x320&aq=f&oq=&aqi=&start=0&imgtbs=z) are 70,000 of them.",
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Is anyone genuinely offended when someone calls them a nerd?
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I consider myself a nerd for various reasons, but recently i have found that some of my friends dont like being called a nerd. Is it a term that can be taken two different ways? Im just curious to see who here on Reddit might feel strongly about this word..
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"body": "I take pride in being a nerd. Those who avoid/dislike being (called) a nerd seem to have issues with their image...",
"score": 4
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"body": "I don't think most nerds find the word any more detrimental than jocks do about being called jocks.\n\nSure there are some negative stereotypes associated with it, but for the most part people embrace it. For example, I am an Lord of the Rings loving, computer programming, math majoring, introverted Linux Nazi. What other word would I use to describe myself?",
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Today I sold a guitar fx pedal to a man who plays guitar for a church.
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I was asking only 20 bucks for a $50 chorus pedal. He is trying to give me $15. He then says to me that he is using it for when he plays guitar in church, and indicates that I'd be helping his church out.. Scoundrel. I tell him I don't believe in god, and this is a fair price. Why did I think that would stop him? Next thing I know, his hand is on my shoulder and he's telling me he doesn't want me to perish. I tell him I don't want him to preach. Or to touch me. And putting the pedal back in my bag I remind him the asking price. Which he pays.
I see this all the time.. A guy who seems nice and friendly trying to assert his god in order to get one over on people. I seldom meet a religious man who isn't a scoundrel.
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"body": "\"If you're gonna do business with a religious son of a bitch.. GET IT IN WRITING. His word ain't worth shit, not with the good Lord teaching him how to fuck you on the deal.\" \n[ William Burroughs ]",
"score": 31
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"body": "I was giving away a nice couch, the only stipulation being whoever wanted it needed to come pick it up at my slightly out of the way house. I had no fewer than three churches call and ask that since they were a religious organization couldn't I just bring it into town? You can't even GIVE people things without them asking for more. By the third call I had lost my patience and told them that since I wasn't a member of their congregation, and an atheist on top of that, I didn't feel the need to go out of my way. They put me on a prayer list. That was a day of absolute rage, so I feel for you. ",
"score": 17
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"body": "I think there's something about religion that allows people to be scoundrels but convince themselves they aren't. It's very convenient.",
"score": 11
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"body": "I know lots of people that do sound for big churches. They make lots of money. What's sad is this guy probably really believes some sweet chorus will convert the on the fencers who come to church... or... something.\n\nEdit. Made a wah wah joke then realized it was a chorus pedal.",
"score": 8
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"body": "You got off light. Sometimes when they put their hand on your shoulder, it means they want to put their dick in your ass. It's like a secret code with those religious folks. ",
"score": 5
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"body": "I'd have said, \"Oh really? Well since you'll be using it for what I regard as immoral purposes, the price just went up to 30 bucks.\"\n\nI'm serious. The cheeky bastard.",
"score": 5
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"body": "As soon as he started that preachy crap...\n\n\"Oh, it's for your church? The price just went up then, and you will pay taxes on this bitch...!\"\n\nwould that be wrong? ",
"score": 3
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DAE have a job where they are on call 24/7/365 in addition to a standard 40 hour work week? How do you live a normal life?
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I am a signal maintainer for the railroad. I am the only maintainer for this railroad on this side of the state (Michigan) which means I am on call 24/7/365, and must remain close by, even if I don't get called. In addition, I work a regular 40 hour week (7:30am-3:30pm) doing the federal monthly, quarterly, and annual tests on my 74 railroad crossings within my territory. The next closest employee is 2.5 hours away, so I can rarely get anybody to cover my calls for a weekend.
Basically, I am slowly starting to go crazy. I cannot visit family across the state, even for holidays, I usually cannot have friends come over to stay since all my friends live across the state and my job interferes with letting people crash at my house for a week (since they want to go out at all hours of the night, when I need to get sleep), and I have not made any new friends locally (Grand Haven, MI area).
Basically whenever a crossing malfunctions, activates, (or even worse) has an activation failure, I must be there ASAP to fix it. Additionally, I must follow the Federal Hours Of Service act.
How do you adjust to life being on-call? How do you find time for friends? How do you make friends being on a totally unpredictable schedule? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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"body": "I guess what bugs me most is knowing the phone could ring at any moment and I would have to immediately drop whatever I am doing and rush to the scene. It really hampers planning date with the GF to go out to the movies or dinner, or basically doing things I enjoy like boating in the summer, etc...\n\nWorst yet, they give us AT&T work phones, and AT&T service SUCKS here. I absolutely cannot miss calls, so I am limited on areas I can even go in the local area because there are dead spots EVERYWHERE.",
"score": 6
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Why was Samson called a man of faith
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I have been studying Samson and his failings - Why was he listed as an example of faith in Hebrews 11:32?
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"body": "The mission he was given was to free the Israelites from the Philistines. Instead, he wasted the gifts the Lord gave him on things of this earth rather than glorifying the Lord. He put his own glory before the Lord's. He paid the price for it too; he lost those gifts, his eyes and was turned over to his enemies. However, at the end of his life that very weakness was turned to faith and repentance. He put aside his self-glorification. \n\nIn Judges 16:30b it says, \"Thus he killed many more when he died than while he lived.\" And regarding your question about Hebrews, tt's important to read the verses chapter 11 that follow verse 32. \n\n33 ***who through faith* conquered kingdoms, administered justice,** and gained what was promised; who shut the mouths of lions, 34quenched the fury of the flames, and escaped the edge of the sword; **whose weakness was turned to strength**; and who became powerful in battle and routed foreign armies.\n\nSamson falls victim to many of the same sins Christians fall for every day: self-glorification, self-enjoyment, pride, etc. However, he also finds forgiveness in the Lord.",
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"body": "The OT is not concerned with lifting up perfect examples of people who always do the right thing. Every single character in the OT, and most of the ones in the NT are normal human beings with all the failings and faults and character flaws that go along with it.",
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"body": "If I remember correctly, didn't Samson (after being captured and having his eyes gouged out) recognize his failings and call upon God for help? Maybe that is why he is listed in Hebrews.\n\nI don't think a person's failings can always exclude them from God's favor. King David, referred to as \"the apple of God's eye\" (Ps. 17:8), committed grievances against God and man, yet he was always quick to repent when confronted with his shortcomings. ",
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Help guys, what's a good co-op game on the PS3 to get with my girlfriend?
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It can be PSN or retail, but it has to be something that isn't overly realistically violent or complicated.
Thanks so much in advance, I have no idea what games are good.
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"body": "Demon's Souls. Player 2's role is to fetch/feed popcorn, perform shoulder rubs, and encouragingly talk you out of rage-quitting.",
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Being a huge strategy game fan, I love chess about as much as I love Starcraft. I'm sure many of you are as well so I ask you, how do you think the genius of Jaedong, Flash and Boxer compare to Kasparov, Fisher and Karpov, etc.?
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Also, considering how long it took and how much computer power was required to finally best humans in chess do you think we will ever see a Starcraft AI that can beat the best players in the world, or is it even possible??
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"body": "There are two important differences that make such a comparison meaningless. One is that Starcraft is a game of imperfect information. You have to guess what your opponent does, get into his head. Texas Hold'em Poker would be a better analogy than chess actually.\n\nSecond, and more importantly, is that Starcraft is also, or maybe even mainly, about execution. The players you mention have split second reaction times, and can control their units with absolute precision. Just to give a ballpark figure, progamers routinely perform more than 300 actions per minute. That's 5 unit selections and commands per second. Useful commands even, not just randomly clicking on the screen. In that sense, Starcraft is more like a fast reaction game like maybe ping-pong. (Maybe a weak analogy, but I couldn't think of a better one.)\n\nAs to your questions whether AI players will beat human players, yes and no. I'm a computer scientist, though not an AI expert. AIs may not outsmart humans in the near future, at least not in a game with as many variables as Starcraft. However, what AIs can do is perfect execution. And if this makes their units twice as effective as those of the best human players, they may be able to afford being \"dumber\" and still win. I've seen demonstration videos from the ongoing SC AI competition that can only be described as frightening.",
"score": 32
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"body": "Pro level Starcraft play has several aspects in common with masterful chess, but also consists of dexterity, speed and stamina to a great extent. The difficulty may be comparable, but you wouldn't call these important skills 'genius' in the way you might call a chess master's skills 'genius,' right?\n\n> do you think we will ever see a Starcraft AI that can beat the best players in the world\n\nPossibly in October. Maybe later than that, but it definitely won't require a supercomputer. A proper Starcraft AI (i.e. not the one that comes with the game or can be scripted with standard map triggers) has uber micro, is always on top of the maths of the economical situation, will never accidentally leave a hole in a blockade, an can split its attention between as many parts of the map as it likes with ease. None of this problems is of concern with chess, thus chess players need to think ahead so many moves, which makes the combinatorics explode. This requires laboriously computed heuristics and lots of CPU power. Not so with Starcraft; because even though not every required aspect of a proper AI is easy to implement, there's enough sub-problems that are simply much easier for computers than for humans. IMHO a Starcraft AI that wins by relying on this alone should be feasible within a year.\n\n**Edit**: formatting",
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"body": "A TON of Starcraft strategy involves forcing your opponent to do multiple things at once. There is no \"perfect\" game of Starcraft.\n\nPerfect micro basically breaks the game for all intents and purposes, so seeing a computer beat a human is trivial at best. I think it will be interesting to see CPU vs CPU AI wars but it won't be Starcraft...\n\nChess is still chess when a machine is making the moves, Starcraft is entirely different.",
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I'm going to be tutoring a dyslexic student,and I don't know what to expect. Does anyone have any tips?
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We're starting out with a math-intensive subject, which she doesn't have much trouble with, so I'm not too worried about that. Eventually we'll be tackling standardized-test-prep stuff, which involves a lot more reading and writing. I've talked to her and she's a perfectly capable student, but she does need more time to process written material.
I'm mostly trying to get myself in a more patient, unhurried mindset, especially since I tend to talk and write quickly. Does anyone have any good study/memorization tips or personal experiences with dyslexia?
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"body": "I worked with a dyslexic in college. We found it was easier for her to read with the book upside down than right side up. Something about disassociation. Might give it a shot",
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Experience and burnout -- a vicious cycle?
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I haven't worked very long as a programmer (about 5 years, a few jobs), but I already see the same cycle repeating:
* 6 months of somewhat low productivity due to the learning curve of a new job, but the pleasure of learning things and making progress.
* followed by 6 months of pretty good productivity and becoming more useful/important around the workplace
* followed by 6 months of complete boredom and despair, frustration, apathy.
* (I've never made it past this point)
What's even worse is that the burnout is so pervasive that I have zero motivation to go job hunting after work. This is obviously not a good thing when the end is in sight but no next job has been found, and food needs to be put on the table, etc.
Is this pretty much what I have to look forward to for the next few decades? How have you found your way out of such a cycle?
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"body": "I have noticed this as well, but it seems to be on a per-*project* and not on a per-*employer* basis. Sometimes I can get my employer to give me a new project, which fixes it. Sometimes I start a new project outside of work, which also fixes it but tends to be rather stressful and time consuming. Sometimes I just find a new employer.\n\nI've noticed that my latest employer tries very hard to scope things so that a project can be completed in less than 6 months. (They actually shoot for 3 months, but every software project takes 2-3 times longer than you expect, so it ends up being 6-9 months.) Teams that fail at this tend to have much higher rates of burnout, frustration, and turnover than teams that do less ambitious projects but finish them quickly. So I don't think it's just you.\n\nTalk to your boss. In most successful companies, there's far more work to be done than people to do it. He should be willing to rotate you around to other projects that need doing, particularly if it means keeping a productive employee who would otherwise leave. If he's not, it's probably worth looking for other employers.",
"score": 28
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"body": "Interesting that you noted this cycle...\n\nHere, where I live in NZ, it is not unusual for IT workers to move from job to job on a 2-3 year cycle. In fact it is almost unusual for developers to sit in a position or role for more than 3-5 years. Perhaps for similar reasons? This is quite different from my experiences in the US market. \n\nAre you sure that you're not running into the process of becoming a part of corporate politics? It seems to me that new hires can general hold themselves somewhat outside the politics of work life for a time.\n\nHowever, sooner or later most employees are gradually dragged into a messier world of: corporate politics, personalities and the \"messier\" side of working with other human beings. Sometimes developers prefer the purity of code and dealing with the chaos of people can be depressing. Perhaps you are struggling with this a little? \n",
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"body": "Sounds like you have some form of depression or something, and you're masking/treating it with finding a new job. A new job generates learning and excitement, which keeps you out of the doldrums, for a while.\n\n It's a fairly healthy way of dealing with it, but if you want to avoid that last part of the cycle ( irrespective of finding new jobs ), you might seek some kind of treatment.",
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"body": "OK, I'll take a stab at that from my 20+ years of development perspective:\n\n1. Burnout - Pacing is everything. If you are the young Turk and think you are all that then you'll be made the 60-hour-work-week mule (by your boss or your own ambition.) You can't avoid that entirely but you must resist it with every fiber of your being. Pick your battles. Don't spill your blood for nothing.\n\n2. Boredom - First, always be learning (duh). If the job doesn't require new skills then pick a new skill to teach the job (test driven development, rapid prototyping, whatever.) Secondly, programming will be 1/10th of your career. For the long-haul (even at a suck job), learn the three P's: people, processes and persuasion that will give you influence (not for power's sake but so you have a say in your work.)\n\n3. Despair, frustration, and apathy - Always have a meta-project (at work and/or at home) that advances your craft. Whenever possible, incorporate that into your grunt work (no matter how gratuitously). It'll keep you motivated and make your grunt work look important. Finally, get outside yourself: Mentor, teach, give seminars to your coworkers on cool tech. Reach out to the non-tech side of the business.\n\nThose are all things you can do to revive your drive and stick it out at a job. But, you also need to be highly tuned to diminishing returns. If the job actively and persistently resists your efforts to be more than a 60-hour grunt, then don't hesitate to leave.\n\nMy average over 25 years is three to four years at a given job and I think that's almost a year longer than the industry average. My greatest mistakes have occurred when I let the job convince me that I was over-reaching. If you see that flashing exit sign, it is time to leave.\n",
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Shills on /r/conspiracy, you say? Here's some real evidence of real shills operating on the Internet.
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Are you ready for a blog attack?
There's a company called Advantage Consultants that's offering up "professional blog warriors" to "flood the zone" with comments. In short, astro-turf trolls for the blogosphere.
http://humboldtherald.files.wordpress.com/2009/04/blog_attack.gif
"Whether it's defense or offense, Advantage Consultants has a dedicated team of experienced blog warriors ready to advance your candidate or campaign.
Why wait for the attack? Launch your attack with a battery of blog and forum comments aimed at all media and blog sites in your district.
Contact us today and let us show you the Advantage in professional blog warfare."
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Since 2005, schools and political party organizations in the People's Republic of China are recruiting paid-per-comment bloggers countering unfavorable information on websites, bulletin boards, and other internet-accessible sources; they are collectively known as the 50 Cent Party.
http://www.feer.com/essays/2008/august/chinas-guerrilla-war-for-the-web
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In August 2006, a science journalist for the Wall Street Journal revealed that a YouTube video, "Al Gore's Penguin Army", which was claimed to be an amateur work, in fact came from the computers of DCI Group, a Washington, D.C.-based PR firm whose client list includes ExxonMobil and General Motors.
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Scientologists have a long history of shilling on the Internet. One only has to take a quick look at the Amazon reviews for Dianetics to see this in action:
http://forums.whyweprotest.net/15-media/amazon-reviews-dianetics-36910/
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Case Study: Office of Strategic Influence
The Office of Strategic Influence, or OSI, was planned as a center for the creation of U.S. propaganda materials, for the stated purpose of misleading enemy forces or their civilian populations for "Operation Enduring Freedom" in 2001. It may surprise some that propaganda is a part of a modern wartime strategy but despite a public outcry which shut it down, it resurfaced under another name .
"And then there was the office of strategic influence. [...] I went down that next day and said fine, if you want to savage this thing fine I'll give you the corpse. There's the name. You can have the name, but I'm gonna keep doing every single thing that needs to be done and I have."
- Secretary of Defense Donald Rumsfeld, 2002-11-18 [2] From Wikipedia
http://www.howtheychangeyourmind.com/pages/propaganda.html
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The Jewish Internet Defense Force (JIDF) is a pro-Israel advocacy organization which "shares news and information to members and supporters through email, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, Myspace, Digg, and other popular areas of the web. It also seeks out, exposes, and reports online material which is against the Terms of Service of internet companies."
In other words, the JIDF shares links to pro-palestinian or anti-israel groups, forums, news articles and videos, and then engages in mass reporting, downvotes, complaints and threats to the site hosting the material.
http://www.thejidf.org
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Give Israel Your United Support (giyus.org) - Megaphone
This software allows GIYUS to broadcast any anti-Israel media links to Israeli activists so that they can downvote, complain, and mass report offensive material.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Megaphone_desktop_tool
This group operates openly on digg.com and people who criticize their activity are quickly banned from digg.
Haaretz: Israel recruits 'army of bloggers' to combat anti-Zionist Web sites:
http://haaretz.com/hasen/spages/1056648.html
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Jews/Israelis in general are encouraged to advocate (shill) aggresively for Israel - refer:
Hasbara Handbook: Defending Israel on Campus
http://www.middle-east-info.org/take/wujshasbara.pdf
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A study, written for U.S. Special Operations Command, suggested "clandestinely recruiting or hiring prominent bloggers."
"Hiring a block of bloggers to verbally attack a specific person or promote a specific message may be worth considering," write the report’s co-authors, James Kinniburgh and Dororthy Denning.
http://www.wired.com/dangerroom/2008/03/report-recruit/
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Any more examples?
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"body": "See, these are sourced examples of shilling, and note, they are a far cry from people disagreeing with and skeptically discussing conspiracy theories.\n\nI see this type of thing from time to time on my local papers website. There have been a few controversial building projects in my city and the consensus in the comment sections (and IRL) is overwhelmingly negative. As you reade you suddenly get a conspicuions a block comments that are written at a high level praising the developer and the key council people, while minimizing complaints. Its a problem that people should be aware of, its not going to stop, so its up to us as readers and consumers of information to be literate in the tools of deception. ",
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"body": "i left a long-time ago because of the shills. i had documented a few of them. i was a bit aggressive though in promoting articles.\r\n\r\nmy 885 link karma and -164 comment karma is proof i went to war with them.",
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What does your dwarf fortress look like?(the dwarf fortress poll)
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More specifically what resolution do you run at, what grid size what font size?
also what is your average frame rate at said size?
also are you an active member or the bay12forums?
if so for how long?
how long have you been playing?
have you donated?
i guess thats it.
does tarn know there is a subreddit?
edit: unfortunately there is no prize.
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"body": ">More specifically what resolution do you run at\n\nmy Monitor supports 1280x1024, when fullscreened it mirrors this resolution, when not, it's maximized on my current desktop.\n\n>what grid size\n\nI try to use a 4x4 grid if at all possible. Sometimes to get what I need all in one map that might not be possible.\n\n> what font size?\n\n\"Lemunde_16x16.png\" from the DF wiki.\n\n>also what is your average frame rate at said size?\n\nWhen starting a new fort, I get around 120-150fps. Once I get 50-100 dwarves, that usually drops and stays consistant between 30-60fps. I also turn off temperature and weather to improve frame. I think it's an economical sacrifice.\n\n>also are you an active member or the bay12forums? if so for how long?\n\nI've had an account for almost a year, though I've never posted.\n\n>how long have you been playing? \n\nAbout a year.\n\n>have you donated?\n\nNot yet.\n\nDo I get a free prize for filling out this survey?",
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GW, I need a boost in self-estee[m].
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I've been feeling a little down lately and my last, well, experience was a little bit damaging to my ego (which isn't very big in the first place). I won't go into details because she likes reddit, but let's just say that by the look on her face I could tell she was not turned on in the slightest (and no I didn't do anything creepy or weird, just took my shirt off).
And so I come to you, GW, in hopes that you will raise my spirits. I tried to post once before, but a significant number of downvotes put a damper on that. I don't care if you downvote, but let me know why at least.
[http://i.imgur.com/BeFee.jpg](http://i.imgur.com/BeFee.jpg)
Edit: There is a reason I submitted this as text and not a link. I thought that by sparing my fellow straight men the sight of my manhood on the GW frontpage, I might be able to avoid the callous downvotes. I guess I was wrong. This was not a joke and I am not a troll. Thank you to everyone who took me seriously, you definitely made me smile.
Edit: These comments are kind of blowing my mind right now. Thank you all very much for the kind and often very sexy words. I never expected to get this kind of feedback. If I find myself brave and lonely (i.e. the next time I'm drunk and alone) I'll take a few more photos ;)
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"body": "I'm a guy, and I'd love to have a body like yours. Just sayin': you have no basis for low self-esteem regarding that.",
"score": 11
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"body": "UM HOLY SHIT! Sorry, but downvotes cannot happen for this post. Geez. I like...everything about this post... ",
"score": 6
},
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"body": "Hey man, I don't know why she would be 'turned off' but DAMN, you look good. Don't let other peoples opinions get to you. You have a lot to be confident about :)",
"score": 5
},
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"body": "Funny. I don't see a vagina anywhere in the picture. So sack up and enjoy your upvotes, you big baby.",
"score": 5
},
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"body": "it was the belly button, maybe? \nother than that, lookin' good.\nyour imgur filename looks like beefy.",
"score": 4
},
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"body": "It's definitely an anomaly to consider a body like this to be unattractive. You have very good musculature, you are lean, and your shoulder to waste ratio is excellent. You have every reason to love your body.\n\nI'm a married guy, btw.",
"score": 3
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AskPhysics: Does the delayed choice quantum eraser show that a conscious observer is what collapses a photon's probability wave?
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I just read about the [delayed choice quantum eraser experiment](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_choice_quantum_eraser). I had previously been familiar with the other incarnations of the double slit experiment, but my interpretation of the results had always been along the lines of "if there is some interaction with a photon, it stops behaving like a wave". However, in the experiment, the photon interacts with a lot of things (its spin is manipulated twice in one version of the experiment) so that can't be right. The only way I can see for things to make any sense is if it takes a sentient observer actually knowing the position of the photon to prevent the wave-like behavior.
Is that right? That seems really really weird (I know this is quantum physics, but still) I always thought that because our knowledge of the position of the photon was obtained through some sort of interaction with the photon that it was that interaction that caused it to stop behaving like a wave. Instead it seems like it's the actual knowledge of the photon's position that causes the result. Am I missing something about the nature of the experiment, or is that really the best interpretation of the data?
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"body": "This is a common misinterpretation, that sentience enters the equation. This quickly leads to some pretty wacky stuff, e.g. newage bullshit in \"what the bleep do we know.\"\n\nThe problem with measurement in quantum mechanics is that any type of measurement apparatus cannot be explained within the theory of quantum mechanics itself. It is perfectly fine for particles to interact in a quantum way with one another, but the act of measurement is not well explained.\n\nHowever, the most common understanding is that [quantum decoherence](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quantum_decoherence) is what causes the appearance of wavefunction collapse. In this case, the quantum state couples in an irreversible way to a measurement apparatus, destroying the state and forcing it into an eigenstate of the measurement. \n\nThis is still one of the fundamental mysteries of quantum mechanics, but for any legitimate physicist, sentience does not come into play at all.",
"score": 7
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"body": "Corrected wiki link http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_choice_quantum_eraser\n\nInteresting issue. I didn't know about this.",
"score": 3
}
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How do I meet people here?
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Hi Houston. I moved here recently and have 0 friends (except for a girlfriend). Any advice or ideas on how to meet people here?
I missed the last meetup (and am sad i did!) but I will totally go to the next.
Any other ideas? Thanks!
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"body": "seriously...get a bike. best thing i ever did for my social life.\n\nEDIT: there is a community at sedition books that is always looking for people, also Domy books has some really cool movie nights and they are conjoined with cafe brasil so good movies food and drink, could be worse",
"score": 4
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"body": "people here are generally pretty friendly. go out drinking, we like to do that a lot here. what part of town are you in?",
"score": 3
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"body": "Volunteer somewhere. There are plenty of volunteer opportunities for your favorite cause, and you will then be guaranteed to meet nice people who share at least that interest.\r\n\r\nAnd/or, Google \"Houston + [whatever activities interest you]\". You will almost certainly find groups or clubs of people who share that interest. 4th largest metro area in the nation -- we have some of virtually everything.\r\n\r\nOr just add to your post with a list of your interests and hobbies. People here might be able to point you in a more specific direction.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Hey, so, as OrigionalStomper suggestied, here are a list of my interests and attributes. Want to be friends?!\n\n1. Jogging/Running\n2. Working on my car.\n3. Computers/technology\n4. Judo\n5. Fencing\n6. Racquetball\n7. Sailing \n8. Economics\n9. Building/carpentry\n10. Hanging out and drinking.\n11. Exploring and going on adventures\n12. Eating tacos\n13. Cooking",
"score": 3
}
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Reddit, I found a way to play N64 games online....
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Using [this](http://pj64k.emulation64.com/) emulator.
It's a small branch off of "Project 64", easily the best N64 emulator. Project 64k has online support, but runs off of an old version of Project 64, leading to some graphical issues.
It's exactly like playing your N64. It's still split screen, only, the person controlling player 2 is connection through the Internet.
Super Smash Bro's is great for this, since everyone uses the same screen, but Mario Kart and Army Men are both awesome, along with Golden Eye and Perfect Dark.
Project 64 also supports Xbox 360 controllers, which is badass.
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"body": ">Project 64 also supports Xbox 360 controllers, which is badass.\n\nIs there a USB game controller that it *doesn't* support?",
"score": 20
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"body": "Meh. This thing is old and pretty bad. Once one of you gets \"desynced\" it's game over. You have to turn off all items in Smash Bros as each user spawns different ones. There's also a lot of lag, and practically impossible to find a good game.",
"score": 12
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"body": "Holy Christ, emulation. That takes me back to the late 90's and a lot of frustration.\n\nAlmost to drive the eternal lesson home, I downloaded this emulator and a Golden Eye rom and crashed immediately on opening the rom. I still remember the folly of attempting to fix the problem, though.",
"score": 3
}
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What's your favorite conspiracy video?
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Mine is [The Obama Deception](http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=7886780711843120756#) it was made 10 months ago and is very accurate in predicting things that have happened in the last few months.
**Please Include links to the video(s)**
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"body": "I think The Money Masters should be required watching in schools.\n\nhttp://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-515319560256183936#",
"score": 14
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"body": "I guess, [The Disclosure Project video](http://video.google.co.uk/videoplay?docid=-1166743665260900218&q=disclosure+project#). It's a bunch of government workers describing their experiences with extraterrestrial activity to the public.\n\nI'm awfully skeptical for having /r/conspiracy subscribed, but I'm awfully fascinated with the idea of extraterrestrial life as well, be it in the form of actual visitors, as teased but never proven in these videos, or just *something* being out there. It's awe inspiring to even think of it.",
"score": 8
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"body": "Anything from http://www.thecrowhouse.com\n\nAlso anything from Bill Cooper\n\nSorry, I can't pick just one.",
"score": 8
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"body": "[Esoteric Agenda](http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-5407431706601832542)\n\nor maybe: \n\n[The Ring of Power](http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=4675077383139148549)",
"score": 8
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"body": "endgame:blueprint for global enslavement\r\n\r\nhow the international bankers gained control of america (the money masters)\r\n\r\nprogress and poverty by henry george (book self-published in 1879)",
"score": 4
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"body": "I recently watched the 7 part [Conspiracy Theory with Jesse Ventura](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conspiracy_Theory_with_Jesse_Ventura) and found that although the show is over dramatized, it has some vital discussion about e.g. global warming and big brother/bilderberg. I think the show is directed this way to adhere to the \"sheeple\" mind because, lets face it, the majority of the public either haven't given it enough thought or are denying the issue. Besides, Jesse Ventura seems like a credible guy.",
"score": 3
},
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"body": "9/11 Mysteries was the video that opened Pandora's box for me.\n\nhttp://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-8172271955308136871&ei=zQtWS5O9FoW0qwLWv9nMDQ#\n\nhttp://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-3944047011450313064&ei=zQtWS5O9FoW0qwLWv9nMDQ#",
"score": 3
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Boyfriend has gone AWOL. Help from males around the age of twenty greatly desired.
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Here is a quick breakdown:
1. Boyfriend's home life is stressful for a myriad of reasons, and I live at my boyfriend's.
2. Boyfriend gets a new job; I panic because things are changing (I suck at adapting) and don't give him enough praise for it. I get so upset that he feels under pressure to quit. I don't notice how miserable he is, as he buries it somewhat (I am NOT blaming him; I was at fault).
3. On Saturday, boyfriend comes round to my parents'. We argue. He demands space and wants to go for a drive. I panic and worry he'll drive too fast in his frame of mind and crash/be arrested. I beg him to stay and he stays. He is clearly really stressed, largely because of me.
4. He has just about calmed down, when the phone rings. His Dad has been taken into hospital. He asks me to please, come back to his house, so that he can be around if the worst happens. We visit his Dad in hospital Sat and Sun.
5. Sunday night, boyfriend requests I go home so he can have some space. I go home (reluctantly, as I don't really understand) at 6pm. He says to phone at 10pm and he'll pick me up and I can stay over at his, as usual.
6. At 6:45-7, I say "hi" on MSN, and get no response. I find this weird, and say "hi" a few more times. In hindsight, I was clearly being an idiot. He says "i cant deal with this. dont come round tonight. ill talk to you tomorrow. i love you.x". I panic. I worry. I think maybe his Dad has died and that's why he's shutting down. I try to phone, and get no response, until after lots of rejected calls he picks up and says "im out. this isnt working. i dont want to talk to you". This hurts, a lot, as you would understand.
7. Boyfriend starts new job on Monday. I don't know if he went or not. By 1am on Tuesday, I have still heard nothing from him. I find out through his niece that his Dad is getting better, but no contact from my boyfriend.
Now, Reddit, WTF do I do? I know where I've gone wrong. I sent an email apologising for everything (not in a mopey way; in a "I've grown up and it won't happen again" kind of way). He knows I'm there if he needs me (and he said he did right now, until recent events). All my stuff as at his house and I lack clothes to wear.
My world has just gone upside down.
The question is, Reddit, how long do I leave this? Obviously he needs time to get his head in order, but how long do I leave it, and do I send the odd "I hope work's going okay :) I love you" text, or "I hope your Dad's doing okay"? Will he feel lonely if I shut him out completely?
What does he need right now?
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"body": "Stop sending him things. He gets the point and you're pissing him off. Wait for him to decide he misses you.",
"score": 11
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"body": "Chill out, Seriously Chill out.\nEveryone needs their space.\nSome more then others.\nI mean for example would you like him holding your hand on the toilet?\nIts the same idea.\n\nGive him at least a fortnight maybe even a month and let HIM do the contacting.\nThe funny thing is I'm in the same position minus the sharing house bit and I'm the 'he'.\n\nGo back to your parents place (or another really good friends place) and settle in for a few weeks. \nMost importantly do things you normally do without him. Maybe you used to play an instrument or a sport before you met him. \nDistract yourself.\n\n'If you love something set it free'",
"score": 9
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"body": "Your guy sounds overwhelmed; however, it also sounds like he's taking it out on you. I'm sure I don't know half the story, but perhaps it would be wise to pick up some of your clothes and stay with your parents or some friends for a bit. You've already told him that you are there for him. Take your focus off of him for a bit. Either he will calm down, get his shit together and call you when he is level headed; or it will become apparent that he isn't capable of maintaining a healthy relationship at this point in his life. Maybe those aren't the only options, but it seems like your boyfriend has some shiz to work out and can't use your help right now.\n\n",
"score": 3
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"body": "So... as everyone else has said, do not contact him in any way, shape, or form, until he contacts you (or two weeks, or something like that). Just don't. \n\nYou also might want to see a therapist or counselor type, if it's possible. You're young, and people do things like this when they're young, but this is being really really clingy, to the point where you've likely got some underlying issues that you could work on with a professional. It could potentially make you a lot happier, in general, so please consider it.\n\nGood luck with the bf.",
"score": 3
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"body": "You gotta back off and let him sort stuff out. Let him call YOU the more you push the longer it will take. GOOD guys tend to recognize when they are in danger of going off and taking out stress on the people they love, and rather than risk that they exit the scene till they can calm down. \n\nSo in that way, take it as a good sign that he's levelheaded enough to know that he needed to have some space. Just relax, do other things and wait for him. Thats the best way you can support him. ",
"score": 3
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"body": "holy shit balls.\n\nyou need to find jesus and find him now.\n\n...and by \"jesus\" i mean \"weed\".\n\ngoddamn, chill the fuck out. what are you, 15?",
"score": 3
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"body": "You're being clingy.. Something that's pretty fucking hard to learn not to be. Give him space and recognise that you BOTH need this.\n\n~From a reformed-Clingy gf",
"score": 3
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Graphics Tablet Discussion / Advice
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Hey /r/design,
I am shopping for my first graphics tablet. I've never used one before, nor do I know anybody that has one.
I have researched enough to find that WACOM is considered *the* graphics tablet company, which makes owning a WACOM pretty pricey.
I have a budget of $100. I know that I can get a lower end Bamboo for around that price, but I've also seen a few larger tablets from lesser known companies around that price as well.
So here comes the question: Should I just shoot for the known thing and get a Bamboo, or should I risk it and try a lesser known brand?
Also, does size even matter? Do you have a size that you prefer over another?
Thanks for your time. I'll take whatever advice comes my way :D
EDIT: While I am in the process of getting my Bachelor's in Graphic Design (1st year college student) this tablet will be used mainly as a learning tool. I know that many would say that a Bamboo tablet is at more of an amateur level, which is pretty much what I consider myself to be at this point.
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"body": "I highly recommend saving your money until you can afford a Wacom Intuos—at least a used Intuos 3 tablet, which is going to run you somewhere in the neighborhood of $250-300. Tablets by other companies will not provide the same level of stability and quality, and the Bamboo isn't really meant for major graphics work. I have a 5x8 Intuos (which, in my opinion, is a very good size, but the bigger the better, really) and I have to say that it is probably one of my most treasured possessions. :P I'm at a fairly amateur level as well, but it has definitely helped improve my technique and I'm incredibly glad I have mine. ",
"score": 3
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"body": "The Bamboo Pen and Touch is pretty awesome too. Great grit on the tablet, usable as a touch-pad as well, and though only having 512 levels of sensitivity, it's probably more than you'll need for a while. It's also right at or under 100 bucks. My original, $99 Wacom tablet got me through college. I now own two Intuos-(es, i?) 9 x 6\" pads and I wouldn't be anywhere as efficient without one.",
"score": 3
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*potentially* bulimic/anorexic roommate..need help and advice with 'diagnosing' and approaching her
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Hi.
Firstly, I have very little experience with eating disorders, so there is the potential that I may be over-dramatizing or over-analyzing what's going on. But I'd love any advice regardless.
My roommate--lets call her Ana--is 31, about 5'4, and very slender. She isn't emaciated, but she is still probably a size 2 or 4, and looks fairly young for her age due to how skinny she is.
I'm not at home most of the day, but from what I've noticed (and what my other roommate has noticed) her eating habits are extremely disturbing. She appears to only eat one meal a day, which is often nothing but a 100-calorie muffin top, or a microwavable pouch of easy mac. She goes through at least three or four 24-packs of Diet Coke a week, and will often drink cans at really bizarre hours, such as 7AM or 3AM. She also has a tendency to eat tons of high-fiber food, which as I understand, is often used as a laxative.
The most disturbing aspect is her bathroom habits, where she will only use the bathroom at odd hours, and any time she is in the bathroom she will turn the sink on, cough really loudly, and take about 10-minutes. Although neither my other roommate and I have ever heard her actually puking, based on what we have observed, we are pretty certain this might be what is going on.
I know that she's struggled with depression recently, having had a really hard time finding a job and going through a ton of boy-drama. She tends to run with a fairly superficial crowd which is infamous for being VERY clothing/appearance obsessed, and it seems that she lacks a real support system or any close friends. She used to go out, but as her eating habits have gotten more disturbing, she has also become more withdrawn, often staying in her room for the entire day, only emerging to use the bathroom or get another Diet Coke.
So, AskReddit and XX Chromosomes (this will be posted both places):
1) Do you think my other roommate and I have grounds for approaching Ana and saying we think she has a problem? Based on what I've read and studied, it seems clear to me that she is suffering from either bulimia or a binging-purging disorder, but as I stated above, I'm afraid I'm being overdramatic.
2) If she is suffering from something, any advice on how my other roommate and I can approach her tactfully, and in a way that she will realize we want her to get help, and are not trying to judge her? She is a fairly defensive person and tends to react very harshly when people disagree with her, so I'd hate to wind up causing more drama, or making her feel like we're attacking her.....
**Tl;dr** my roommate Ana eats only one small meal a day, drinks approximately 6 diet cokes, and seems to be throwing up. she has become depressed and withdrawn, and my other roommate and I are wondering 1) if she might have a serious eating disorder, and 2) what is the best way to approach her about it.
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"body": "Ask her if there's anything going on in her life that she'd like to talk about. Eventually, if she's comfortable, she'll tell you. Do not force it out. Just be as supportive as possible until she comes around. I had anorexia/bulimia and I would deny it to everyone. For me, the eating disorders were a by-product of my depression; once when I stopped being depressed (by seeing a psych and taking meds), the eating disorders went away. If you build up enough trust by giving her as much support, she may eventually fess up and want to get help. In the mean time, look up some helplines and other places of support for her once she wants to get help.\n\nHowever, if anything starts to threaten her life, get help immediately!",
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"body": "Don't address the disturbing eating stuff right now. If you broach it too early she will just feel more self conscious/anxious and withdraw more. Try to give some of the social support she is lacking. It sounds like you have a few roommates. Make some simple plans as a group and invite her along (going for a walk/movie/drink/etc). Make an extra effort to say hello and talk to her, not because you think something is wrong with her but because you genuinely want to be friendly to her. If she starts spending more time out of her room it might alleviate some of her depression/\"eating disorder\" symptoms. When you have a stronger relationship with her you might want to address that you've noticed that she spends a lot of time in her room and let her know that if she needs anything you are there. Then drop it. Do not pressure her or she will start avoiding you. If she comes around and says she needs some help then work with her to find a therapist or someone that is qualified to address her issues. Eating disorders/depression are serious business. If you try to \"fix\" her (confront her/give advice) she'll end up resenting you for your intrusiveness. Of course if you see anything that may be life-threatening (suicidal warning signs, dramatic weight loss, etc.) then all of this goes out the window and you need to get some outside help for her immediately. \n\ntl;dr-Don't try to diagnose her/tell her there is something wrong with her. Take a genuine interest in her as a person, support her, and help her when she asks/wants your help. ",
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"body": "In addition to what others have already said, I think you should keep in mind that the specific \"diagnosis\" of what's going on doesn't really matter. It doesn't matter if she's bulimic or anorexia-bulimic, or whatever... she seems to obviously need help, so whatever you do, don't ask her \"do you have bulimia? no? anorexia then?\"\n\nSomeone suffering that much probably won't be made to feel better if you ask her about her eating disorder or her \"symptoms\" that you've observed. Instead, help her to understand that you really care about her, and that you are her friend. You say she doesn't seem to have much of a support system, so maybe you should consider BECOMING that support system.\n\nIf your goal is to help her get better because you care about her, then do your best to be a good friend. Honestly, I'd also not \"confront\" her with your other roommate. I'd pick one of you to approach her first so that she doesn't feel ganged up on. talk to her first solo, then later bring in the other roommate to reinforce how much you both care about her and want to help her with whatever she's going through.",
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Critique my playing of Chopin!
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I'm recording a CD that I will later guilt my relatives into buying to raise money for a volunteer trip I'm taking this summer, and if at all possible, I'd like it to be good.
So now I'm looking for some critics. Feel free to critique any aspect of it you want: playing, recording, production, etc. I am recording this in a college practice room with my own equipment (a usb mic and my laptop, that is) so I realize that aspect is far from perfect.
Still, have a [listen](http://drop.io/jakescd/asset/raindropsfinal-wav) and let me know what you think.
And yes, I'm aware that guilt isn't a verb.
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"body": "Hey. I'm gonna get really nit-picky and I hope that's all right. It's kind of my firm believe that that's the only way musicians can really improve; really nit-picky critiques and the ability to take it constructively.\n\nThat said, I love your general feel for the music. The melodies are clear and I like your use of pedal.\n\nMostly, the tempo's slow for my taste in the beginning. It works really well with the brooding quality in the middle section, I love it. Just be careful of your flow in general; you do a lot of rubato in the beginning and it's just a pinch too slow; the flow gets a little muddled and it loses its sense of movement and direction. It almost sounds like you're reading from the score and don't quite know the notes yet. (My apologies if that sounds more harsh than I meant, I just can't think of another way to describe it.) You can still take your time in the sweet spots, just remember that it still needs to be moving towards the end of the phrase. Also, in the beginning, watch your embellishments. Since the general tempo is slower, try and stretch your turns and the like out a little more. They sounded kind of out of context when played as fast as they were compared to everything else.\n\nLastly, the mic couldn't really handle the loudest points and that made me sad because I love love loved the build ups in the middle section. Absolutely to die/live for.\n\nAnyway. I enjoyed your playing. Good luck raising money and the like!",
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"body": "Very nice. It sounds nice and clear. \n\nIt sounds like you may not be too impressed with your own mic placement. Try a passage with loud and soft and high low, then move the mic. The best is to just talk into the microphone and do a bunch of tests to find the sound you like.\n\n\nAre you looking to have a recital too? It might help to raise funds. You could do it anywhere (concerthall to a living room) and pass a hat. You'd be surprised how easy it is to rent a hall on an off night.\n\nVery nice playing.",
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Anybody have experience updating an old road bike?
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I have a Raleigh Grand Prix from 1983 that is in perfect condition apart from the components and brakes since it hasn't really been maintained since the early 90s. As much as I want a new road bike I am in love with this one and have heard rumblings about updating older bikes with modern wheels, components, etc. Does anyone here have any helpful hints or know where I can find some good info on this type of project?
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"body": "I've been updating my '85 Fuji Sagres for about a year now.\n\nI got a lot of general information from Sheldon Brown's [website](http://www.sheldonbrown.com) and from extensive googling. The Park Tools [website](http://www.parktool.com/repair/bikemap.asp) is another great resource for information about specific repairs. If possible you should make friends with a bike nut so they can teach you the art of bicycle maintenance.\n\nThe first thing I did to my bike was to take it apart and clean and regrease everything. Then I rode it and determined what needed to be replaced. Once I had my list, I began replacing components one by one until I was happy with the bike.",
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"body": "If you are going to all modern components, it would almost be a shame to use that old frame. The frame is probably 5lbs. Frame+Fork maybe 7lbs. For not much money you can cut that in half. \r\n\r\nAlso I think that frame uses 27\" wheels, which are harder to find these days. Not sure if you can fit modern brakes and 700C wheels to that frame. I'm sure the wheels would fit, but would the brakes reach?\r\n\r\nThe old frame would be a fun project to use for a fixie. \r\n\r\nIf you're not into that, then maybe a retro buildout, with leather brooks saddle, vintage wheels, restored paint and decals, the whole bit. \r\n\r\n",
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"body": "I wouldn't bother replacing the old components with modern ones, but I would take the time to disassemble, thoroughly clean, lube, and adjust everything. You might be surprised at how little needs to be replaced -- I brought a late 70's 10 speed back to life by replacing the shifter cables and housing, brake pads, and tires, and it rides as good as it did when new. Also, older bikes like this still have good riding characteristics -- it's worth fixing up and having on hand, even if you do get a newer bike, to have as a spare or a guest bike.\nSheldon Brown's website is a great place to start!\nThese bikes are relatively simple to work on. Find a local bike shop with experience with vintage bikes and ask questions! I'm sure there's one in your area, and generally speaking, bike shops that are enthusiastic about vintage bicycles are also enthusiastic about sharing their knowledge.",
"score": 5
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Does anyone know Princeton Property Management?
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Sorry, I know these kinds of questions are probably annoying, but I can't pass up tapping the most reliable source of advice in Portland. My ladyfriend and I are looking for a place to live until we finish the next step in our never-ending academic careers, and she came across a couple of apartments run by these guys. In her communication with their representative, a couple of red flags have gone up. Unfortunately, we really like the look of one place in particular. Anyway, if I anyone here can tell me how these people are to deal with, I'd appreciate it. Thanks.
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"body": "Property management companies exist only to get more money out of you than you would pay renting from a person. Avoid them whenever possible.",
"score": 5
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just got a Crockpot can i get some help on good
recipes?
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i recently got a corckpot becuase i wanted to try new ways to make good food. can /r/food help me out with some good recipes?
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"body": "I'd second the Year of Slow- Cooking site- she's got some great recipes on there. \n\nMy basic recipe is meat on the bottom, veggies on top of the meat, spices/herbs on top of that, and whatever liquids you're using over the top. That covers a lot of meals, and is a great way to clean out your fridge/freezer.",
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Ladies: What did you think about performing your first oral sex act?
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Was it your idea? How was the subject approached? Was it the first time you had actually seen a penis close up?
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"body": "I was...either 14 or 15. Totally my idea. First real boyfriend, first time ever really messing around, we were curious and all sorts of experimental. And yeah, it was my first time seeing a penis that close up...but honestly, who's gonna put a penis that close to their face and not put it in their mouth?\n\nI sucked too hard, I remember him having to tell me that. I also recall thinking it was taking really long and my mouth was getting tired. Also, trying to be quiet? That was difficult. Oh, being young and having to hide from parents...",
"score": 24
},
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"body": "About age 8 underneath a table in primary school - it was my idea, I had seen it on TV or a movie and wanted to emulate it. I wasn't impressed because it wasn't as fun as the lady on TV made it look, but the boy seemed to enjoy. We giggled. ",
"score": 22
},
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"body": "It wasn't my idea.\nHe asked.\nIt was...and he didn't tell me he was about to jizz in my mouth.\n\nNeedless to say - I spit it on his stomach.",
"score": 14
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"body": ">Was it your idea?\n\nNope.\n\n>How was the subject approached?\n\nUh...he asked?\n\n>Was it the first time you had actually seen a penis close up?\n\nNope.\n\nIt was kind of weird. That's all I have left to say.",
"score": 10
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"body": "My first sexual relationship was with a female. But, you asked about penises. It was his idea. I was honest with him: he was the second person I'd been intimate with and the first man I'd had intercourse with. But he always accused me of lying about my virginity. So, the first time I gave him a blowjob, he told me I did it too well for it to have been my first time. He didn't mean it as a compliment; he said it to degrade me.\n\nIt was not the first time I'd seen a penis close up. I had a gay male friend who had a lot of body piercings which he liked to show off.",
"score": 9
},
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"body": "It was awful and I wish I hadn't. Young men can be really pushy and manipulative when you want something bad enough from your girlfriend. And yes, it was the first time I'd really investigated a penis up close. It was weird. Male genitals are strange.",
"score": 8
},
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"body": "Add more questions:\n\nWhat do you think about performing it now (after your first time, and many more times)?",
"score": 7
},
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"body": "My idea, as well as his. The subject was approached surprisingly rapidly. We were in a movie theatre and he pulled it out and kinda wagged it at me, and I gave the biggest, most uncontrollable smile ever and just went for it. It was awesome for both of us, and I still am happy just thinking about it. You can bet we still have our fun with that, and it's exciting and wonderfully pleasing for both of us each time. Now, if you'll excuse me...",
"score": 3
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I was in Istanbul in 1999 when a 7.6 earthquake happened. AMA
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I was there. It was pretty crazy. I was on the 6th, top, floor of my apartment building. I woke up to my mom pulling me by the ankle cause she thought the wall that I was sleeping next to was about to collapse. Thankfully, nothing happened to our building and I was in Istanbul which was a small distance away from the epicenter so we didn't get the worst of it.
We, like most other people in the city, lived outside for a week. The aftermath was actually a pretty good time for me since we didn't lose any relatives and our house was fine. But I did visit the epicenter not too long after the earthquake and most of the buildings there were very damaged if not just a pile of rubble. I saw an eight floor hospital that became a pile of rocks just two meters tall. I heard a lot of stories from people who volunteered to help the victims, lots of stories about kids getting lost in the chaos at hospitals and people walking around with steel rods that went through them.
I remember Bill Clinton visited Turkey afterward which was a pretty big deal because Turkish people loved America when he was in charge. I didn't live in America when it happened. Do any of you remember how the mainstream media reacted when the earthquake happened?
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"body": "> I remember Bill Clinton visited Turkey afterward which was a pretty big deal \n\nFun fact: \nThere was this baby who was obsessed with Bill's nose and [kept squeezing it](http://yenisafak.com.tr/resim/site/burun3e2d92183e2d9219by.jpg) while the president was holding him. \nYears later they reunited and he got to [squeeze Bill's nose again](http://www.ferhan.net/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/106995.jpg).",
"score": 14
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I haven't played a lick of TF2 in almost 3 months. What have I missed? (Updates & play styles, server news, whatever you can think of...)
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Hey friends, it's your old fragging buddy Poonis here. Due to computer issues I haven't touched TF2 in almost three months, and I really miss yous guys. I've been stuck with my notebook for the past while but soon my desktop will be up and running TF2 again. When I stopped playing I couldn't be bothered to keep up with the game updates and the r/tf2 community and such, and now I am severely behind the curve. Apparently a lot has happened, and I'd love it if some of you awesome people could help fill me in. The last time I played was when all the Halloween craziness was happening and prophunt started getting popular. After that though, I have no idea what's going on.
Thanks in advance for any replies.
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"body": " \n\n Late last year it was revealed to us that the blue soldier and the red demomen had become the best of friends, a situation which deeply angered the announcer. She organised a massive battle between the two classes, making them fight to aquire new items. For a week they battled, and as the casualties mounted so their prizes were revealed, by the end of the week the casualties on both sides were well into their millions, and the following prizes had been revealed: \n\n The Demoman received: \n\n The Chargin Targe (Targe) \n\nA shield which reduced fire damage by 50% and explosive damage by 50% as well allowing demoman to charge at their opponents, when equipped it replaced the sticky launcher. \n\n The Eyelander\n\nA sword with a long range that initially reduces the Demoman’s health by 25, but with each successful kill buffs his health and speed until he eventually he has as much health as a heavy and as much speed as a scout. \n\nThe Scottish Resistance. \n\nA sticky launcher which can shoot twice as many grenades as a regular sticky launcher, although each one does less damage. You can also point at an individual grenade or group of grenades and explode just what you are looking at, instead of all of them. \n\nThe Soldier received: \n\n The Direct Hit\n\nAnother rocket launcher that replaces the old rocket launcher, it moves much faster and does a bit more damage per hit, but it has a far smaller blast radius. It also provides minicrits on targets that have been blown into the air. \n\nThe equaliser \n\nThis replaces your shovel, it both raises your speed and increases its damage at a rate which is inverse to the amount of damage you have taken. So if you are just about to die it will allow you to run as fast as a scout and kill anyone in one hit. The unfortunate side effect is that you can not be healed(or ubered) while it is out. \n\n\nThe Buff banner\n\nThis replaces your shotgun. While this is equipped you build up “rage” by dealing damage, once your rage meter is full you can sound your horn and everyone around you gains minicrits for 10 seconds. \n\n\nAnd finally, since the Soldier won the battle he was awarded with: \n\nGunboats\n\nWhich replace your shotgun and mean you take 75% less damage from your own rocket jumps. \n\n\n So, since then pretty much every demoman runs around with a sword and shield chopping up everyone with their insane amounts of health, speed and resistance to damage, just remember that they aren’t immune to bullets or melee and you’ll be fine. In terms of game balance, this has turned demomen into an offensive rather than defensive class, so there are less sticky traps and less area denial. The shield has been nerfed down from an initial explosion resitance of 65%, but the combination is still widely considered to be vastly overpowered. \n\n Soldiers pretty much all use the equaliser as it is a strait upgrade, most of them forget the healing thing though which is a source of endless frustration to medics. About half use the buff banner, and when used in combination with a group rush and a ktizkrieg it can be ridiculously deadly, although the lack of shotgun makes you into Eyelander fodder. The direct hit is a matter of personal choice, but most people end up deciding that the lack of blast radius usually ends up being too much and they switch back to the regular launcher. \n\n\n In other news the medic now has a new taunt kill with the ubersaw, the dead ringer is now harder to spot and there is now an option to make your hits show up, just like the blutslauger does, but for everyweapon on every class, very handy. \n",
"score": 20
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"body": "Well the first thing you'll notice are a bunch of one eyed crazy guys waving swords around, but not really hitting much, probably because of a lack of depth perception.",
"score": 10
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Posted in AskReddit but didn't get anywhere: Should I end it? Emotional "yo-yo"
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Apologizing now for walls of text, but I want to describe the situation to the best of my ability. **There is no tl;dr.** Also possibly relevant, he's in college and I'm a high-school senior, a girl.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now. When we got together he was a virgin, I was not. I also had a healthy history of non-sex hookups. However, the circumstances under which I lost my virginity almost caused us to break up. I was rip-roaring drunk, but that's in the past and I'm entirely over it. It was a stupid mistake, and that was that, but my boyfriend didn't think so. He was worried that I'd do the same thing again, but this time cheat on him. This became a huge problem for us. I used to go out and party every now and then, but school has always come first for me. I only went out when I knew things were set, and after that unfortunate incident earlier, I've learned what my limits are with alcohol. My boyfriend wouldn't believe me, and so I gave up partying for him.
For a while after this, things were relatively normal. We had our fights, yes, but they were nothing major and we moved past them quite easily. As our relationship moved forward, I had a nagging feeling that there was still something wrong. Whenever we would hang out, he'd make jokes about me, some topics including loose sexual morals, my bisexuality, being bad at sex. This last one was somewhat valid: he has a larger member than I'm used to, and I can't manage to bring him to climax with my mouth. Whenever this happened, understandably I'd get upset, and so would he, but this ruined many nights for us: after I gave up and cried a bit, sometimes he would ignore me or purposefully put space between us for the rest of the time we were together. Ultimately, I stopped giving or attempting to give him oral sex. I use it for foreplay, but I don't try it on its own anymore because I know he'll get disappointed if I can't deliver. Also on the topic of disappointment, it's almost an unspoken agreement that we have sex whenever we're together. Don't get me wrong, I like it, but sometimes I get tired. If this happens and he's not done for the night, he'll start giving me the cold shoulder again. This is still a problem now.
I've pretty much just given the negatives so far, but there are the highs too. Cuddling, nose-kisses, fun nights out on dates and other things, we have good times too. I don't know if it's a problem with me, though, I remember the bad times more than the good because when it's low, man is it low.
Another major fight we had also concerned my past. I had asked him several times if he really respected me, and he said he did. One time though, I pushed him further, and he revealed to me, more or less, that he did and always had thought I was a "ho," ever since I told him how I lost my virginity. To some people, nuns or grandmas maybe, I would be a ho. But if you look at me in the context of youth today, I'm pretty goddamn pure. In total, I have hooked up with three or four people, two of which I was in a relationship with at the time, and counting my boyfriend, have had sex with two. Not that a person's "number" has anything to do with their worth as a human, but that's a different story. I don't remember exactly how this fight was resolved, but it had to do with him talking to a male friend of his about girls our age and the point I just made.
Another major dispute we had concerned our one-year anniversary. I was low on cash at the time, and still am: I've been saving for a trip to Germany to visit a friend, and my boyfriend knew this and knew how important this trip is/was to me. Foreshadowing: this comes up again later. Both of us admittedly aren't so great at choosing presents, so we decided to go to the mall and buy each other something we wanted. He had been saying a lot lately that he needed a new wallet, so I thought that would be perfect. To supplement this lame-ish gift, I had an idea that I thought would be perfect. At an antique/thrift sale earlier that week, I had picked up a round tin with images from one of the Star Wars original trilogy movies on it. I was going to have it in my huge purse, excuse myself to go to the bathroom, actually going to a chocolate shop and fill it up with sweets to surprise him later. So we came to the mall and we started walking around, and he asked how much money I had brought with me, and I told him I had brought $23, which should be enough to get him a wallet. He got really angry at me, telling me he had brought over $70 and that he was really disappointed, feeling like I didn't care. I fought off tears and executed my plan with the chocolates, and we went back to the car in silence. Needless to say, the chocolates didn't fix anything.
Things didn't get better from here, and to the relief of my friends (all of whom disliked him because of the way he treated me by this point), I broke up with him. I had a brief fling while we were broken up, but because of mistaken signals I thought the other person wasn't interested in me and that ended pretty quickly. I was feeling lonely and thought about my boyfriend more and more. It turned out he was thinking about me too still, and we got back together.
It's been good since we reunited, but sometimes I still get that feeling like he doesn't respect me or take me seriously. When he goes off to college after coming home for the weekend (his college is only an hour away), sometimes he doesn't text or call for days. This week I didn't hear from him from Monday until Saturday. I understand he has his studies and his friends there, but it makes me feel sad and lonely. Sometimes it still feels like we've only known each other for a month or something: he gets so weirded out by the things I say, and I feel like it happens way too often.
A friend of mine has a long-term boyfriend also, and they've been going out for a couple months more than we have. She told me that this summer he's going to propose, and it blew my mind. I couldn't ever picture marrying my boyfriend, and I'm sure he feels the same about me. Remember that trip to Germany I mentioned? One day a couple weeks ago, we were out for brunch and somehow we got to talking about it. He said that he doesn't trust me for so long (nearly a month) and that he was going to break up with me before I left. After all this time he still doesn't trust me, and it kills me. I know we're going to break up when I go to college, since I won't be attending the same one he's at, but this is an issue of trust. I'd rather lose touch after I'm gone than be cut off because I can't be trusted to not slut around. This is a throwaway, so I have no trouble being honest with you, Redditors: I've never cheated on my boyfriend.
I've considered breaking up again for the last time for a while now, but I can't bring myself to do it. What should I do, if anything?
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"body": "You need to end it. \n\nHe would make fun of you for \n> loose sexual morals, my bisexuality, being bad at sex\n\nand you took it as valid? That's horrible. And that you now view yourself as bad at sex is horrible. He seems to have influenced your views of yourself entirely too much.\n\nFor gifts, \n> he asked how much money I had brought with me \n\nand then yelled at you because it wasn't enough? Listen up, assknock, it's not about how much money you spend. Your idea was adorable and it showed that you not only care about him but that you listened, which is so essential.\n\nHe's a fucking asshole who doesn't deserve you. Find someone who loves you for the goddess you are and then move on.\n",
"score": 60
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"body": "So he;\n\n* Doesn't respect you.\n* Gets upset if you don't always fulfill his sexual needs, even though you guys seem to have generally healthy and active sex life.\n* Seems to have no ability to handle conflict like an adult.\n* Doesn't trust you.\n\nWhat would you tell a friend to do if her issues with her boyfriend could be reduced to those four points? Dump him, right? You should do that.",
"score": 40
},
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"body": "You sound awesome.\n\nStar Wars tin filled with choccies? You'd have to be a stone-cold douchebag to be upset with someone for giving them something so cool and thoughtful.\n\nOh. wait. He is.\n\nEverything you've said here makes him sound like a total prick, while you sound cool, sensitive and just plain nice.\n\nDump the dickhead and move onto someone who'll appreciate you.\n\nPlenty will, you know.",
"score": 21
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"body": "\nGod, this reminds me a lot of my abusive relationship, especially him making cracks about you being bad at sex.\n\n\nThe bottom line is that for a lot of woman who are in relationships like yours, they are so focused on lot losing a guy that is performing some powerful push-pull that they don't realize they were being mistreated until they get dumped. Sometimes they excuse their man's behavior saying that a real lover accepts me man's faults. Some blame themselves. This really isn't okay. \n\n\nRe read what you wrote and pretend that this is someone else talking. A good friend. Would *you* approve of a good friend dating a guy like your boyfriend?",
"score": 16
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"body": "You know what you need to do. Trust yourself. You are worth much more than how he is treating you. He has expectations for you that he refuses to place on himself and the cold-shoulder thing is really disrespectful and hurtful. \n\nYou're young. Have fun and don't tie yourself down to someone who doesn't appreciate who you are.",
"score": 12
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"body": "Not only are you very young but you have put entirely too much time into what you've written. I bring up being young because you have a life ahead of you and this person does not belong in it.\n\n>What should I do, if anything?\n\nNip this one in the bud - don't call him or return his calls starting RIGHT NOW. No explanation is needed. Don't even argue with him no matter how guilty he will try to make you feel in voicemail. The guy is toxic.\n\nYou should be livid not torn. Hold your head up and move on with your life. This suggestion is to others, males included if they are involved with people who make them feel like shit. Stop giving these people the time of day. Things are not going to get better. Just cut them off.\n\nYou are better off single than to be with someone who acts and treats you like this. You deserve better treatment. Focus on school and having a good time in Germany.\n\nSome people are brought up or raised in abusive family situations but that does not mean they can't rise above it. ",
"score": 11
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"body": "DTMFA\n\nFirst off, college guys with high school girlfriends are fucked up. I'm not saying you aren't cool, I'm saying your boyfriend is fucked up. \n\nSecond, college guys who guilt trip their high school girlfriends about sex - both for \"being too loose\" AND, somehow, for still \"being bad at sex,\" are fucked up. \n\nYour boyfriend is fucked up and immature. You can get all the good stuff you listed - plus actual trust and respect, and minus bashing your bisexuality - from a real college guy who actually dates college girls, aka, you, in a couple of months. When that happens, save yourself from having to post a \"should I break up with my hs sweetheart?\" post by tackling one step right now: DTMFA. ",
"score": 8
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"body": "He sounds really immature. You have a lot going for you. Staying with this guy is just going to wear on your self-esteem. \n\nGuys that don't trust you are really insecure about themselves. There isn't a whole lot you can do about that. \n\nBreak it off sooner rather than later. ",
"score": 4
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"body": "He sounds like a judgmental sooky baby. This relationship sounds really unhappy for you. I know he may have positive traits, but *everybody* does. The point is that he is not right for you. He sounds very competitive and like he needs to constantly put you down to feel a little better.\n\nYou sound like a smart, articulate and mature person. You don't deserve to be judged and disrespected this way. ",
"score": 3
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reddit: What's your motto?
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Lately I've found myself saying "Fortune favors the bold" more often, I'm thinking of adopting it as my motto. What's yours?
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"body": "\"Be good to people\".\n\nI think it works better then \"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.\" or just about any other \"Be good to people OR ELSE\" mottos and things I've heard. I don't think kindness or positive behaviour should be justified. ",
"score": 13
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"body": "Borrowed: \"Once you see what a joke everything is, being a comedian is the only thing that makes sense.\"",
"score": 12
},
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"body": "\"Do whatever you want as long as it makes you happy and doesn't directly affect me in a negative way.\"",
"score": 6
},
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"body": "I don't have one but I've been thinking about this quote a lot lately. I take to mean that you have to make your own mistakes and learn from them.\r\n>\"If you hold a cat by the tail you learn things you cannot learn any other way.\" \r\n-Mark Twain",
"score": 6
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"body": "From my brother who suffering from terminal leukemia, \"In end it will be okay. If it's not okay, it's not the end.\" ",
"score": 4
},
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"body": "i don't have a motto personally... but if i did, it would be somewhere between the golden rule, and \"fuck 'em in the neck.\"",
"score": 3
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"body": "Kinda \"Live every day like it's the last, just be ready when the sun does rise again.\" but I seem to be having some trouble getting it in a more manageable sentence...",
"score": 3
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So I'm debating laser hair removal on my bikini line and armpits.
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I have pretty much the optimal hair/skin requirements--dark, coarse hair with pale skin. What I want to know, ladies, is your personal experience with laser hair removal. And if you know anyone good at it in the greater Seattle area, that would be lovely as well.
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"body": "It's got it's drawbacks, as all methods do - but I'd heartily recommend laser hair removal. I have had it done on my lip and chin. It's not 100% permanent, but oh my god the improvement! \r\n\r\nIt does feel like snapping a rubber band against your skin for the most part. When they zap areas close to the bone or a bigger vein it hurts more, but it's just for a second.\r\n\r\nOnce you find a place you like, google for reviews and coupons. ",
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"body": "I just finished lasering my bikini and underarms. I'm not sure how many sessions I did in total, at least 8 or 9 over the course of about 14 months. I didn't really start to see results until the last couple of sessions. \n\nLike you, I have dark hair, pale skin. I don't have the highest pain tolerance so it did hurt, but as soon as it's over the pain is gone too. Each session was only about 10 - 15 minutes. I never experienced any blistering of the skin or ingrown hairs. \n\nNot *all* of my hair is gone but most of it is and it is a definite improvement. The little bit that is left is much finer than it used to be. \n\nWe'll see how it is in a few years; for now I'm really happy I had it done. My armpits used to be raw from shaving everyday and even though I shaved, I still had a shadow. My bikini would also get irritated from shaving and I didn't like waxing because of having to wait for the hair to be long enough. ",
"score": 6
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"body": "If you can't find a spa that does it, you can buy your own personal laser machine: http://www.silkn.com/\n\nPersonally removing my hair with lasers was the longest lasting method I've ever tried. The first part I tried it on was my \"sideburns\" because they made me very self conscious. After roughly 6-8 treatments, you can't tell I ever had them and the hair doesn't grow back.\n\nHowever, that area's hair was very fine. Coarser hair such as underarms and especially the bikini area will take more treatments and there's a chance you might see some regrowth. My experience with these areas was really positive. Within 3 treatments, my hair was growing much more slowly and it was much sparser. ",
"score": 5
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"body": "Whatever you do not, DO NOT do electrolysis. Worst pain I've ever experienced. I didn't even want to do it. My mom thought the hair around my belly button was gross, though I didn't mind it. Laser treatment felt like a spa when compared to electrolysis.",
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Is anybody else annoyed that they are remaking 'Death at a Funeral'?
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Death at a Funeral(2007)
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0795368/
Death at a Funeral (2010)
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1321509/
It came out three years ago, and it looks identical! Why!
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"body": "How do these actors not see this as racist as colored water fountains? This movie essentially says, \"Black people need their own black versions of movies.\" The trailer clearly shows the same exact plot, the same exact gags, and same exact twist ending. The only difference is the skin color of the actors.",
"score": 8
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"body": "I used to be a remake-hater, but really... isn't it a dramatic tradition to re-stage texts, sometimes even with a re-interpreted visual style? \n\nAren't there like 3 versions of \"Ben-Hur\"? ",
"score": 6
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"body": "Well the original is a British film with the new one seeming to be more American focused. The same thing with the American version of the Office, or how we annoyingly adapt Japanese Horror Movies, even though they came out only a few years earlier too.",
"score": 3
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"body": "It doesn't look as good as the original and the trailer gave too much away but I'll be damned if I don't find every word that comes out of Tracy Morgan's mouth hilarious.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Same reason why they're remaking [Let the Right One In](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1139797/), calling it [Let Me In](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1228987/), only two years later.\n\nNo one knows anymore. ",
"score": 3
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Anyone else not playing on the reddit servers because they don't feel serious enough?
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I play tf2 every day, and I browse reddit every day, but I don't play the reddit tf2 servers. ever. Am I the only one?
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"body": "I used to enjoy playing in qld.tf2au.com but lately it seems some users are more interested in socializing than actually playing. It just gets frustrating and it's quite annoying when I'm trying to play and all I can hear stuff unrelated to the game play.",
"score": 7
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"body": "I prefer small servers, so I'll only jump on as the server is starting up and generally leave as it gets bigger/spammy. I have no problem with the off topic talk, as long as it's not over done, and is actually funny or interesting and it's not just one person gasbagging or making stupid noises *coughWinterouscough*.",
"score": 3
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"body": "This is an interesting comment... I play on reddit mainly because a) I know the people I'm playing with (to the extent one can know a stranger over the internet) and b) it makes it so much more satisfying when I get a little 'feedback' from my headshots. Ie. FUCK YOU POPO etc etc. Good times. Hi I'm Mr Popo, I like to make people rage. :D ",
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So I walked around most of the day oblivious to the fact I had an old sock sticking out of my pant leg. What is your most embarrassing moment?
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I've had a lot of humiliating things happen to me...but this just happened today. I was wearing trouser socks with my pants yesterday and in a hurry to get into my PJs after being out all day, i just pulled off my jeans, boots and socks in one swoop. I decided to wear the same jeans today, but one of my socks must have gotten stuck in the pant leg without me knowing. So i was dragging around a dirty sock most of the day, until one of the guys i work with pointed out I have something sticking out of my pant leg. I quickly pulled it out hoping it wasn't a pair of panties or something like that cuz that would have been worse. Anyways....what's the most embarrassing thing that has happened to you?
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"body": "so i was sitting there in my philosophy class trying to crack my back in my chair, and this hot girl saw me. really, really hot. i kind of had a thing for her for a couple of months, and we smiled at eachother and stuff but she sat pretty far away so we didn't say much more than \"hi\". anyway she saw me doing that and it was before class actually started so we could move around and stuff, so she came up and offered to crack my back for me, and i thought it was kind of weird, but i accepted. so i stand up and she crosses my arms in front of me and stands right behind me and sort of picks me up onto her and bounces me (have you ever seen people crack backs this way? i have seen it, but it is weird to explain)\r\n\r\nanyway, it wasn't working, so she tried a huge bounce. something popped really loudly, but then when she set me down i couldn't feel my legs it was like they were totally asleep. so i fucking collapsed in a heap on the ground, my legs going off in weird directions. then i heard a hella loud farting noise and proceeded to diarrhea in my pants, i was so embarrassed and i looked up at her face and she was just disgusted and everybody was like what the hell is going on so i tried to get up and run away, but my legs didn't work. i couldn't move, and over the next thirty seconds or so my colon emptied really loudly. my teacher was hella mad and thought i was just being a freak shitting on the floor, but after a while they realized i wasn't kidding around and they called an ambulance\r\n\r\nso i went to the hospital, and it turns out when she cracked my back somehow my spinal cord got pinched in between my vertebrae and they straightened it out with some emergency surgery and now i'm completely fine\r\n\r\nso...i never went back to that school",
"score": 456
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"body": "OK, I'm not even sure why I'm sharing this 'cause it's repulsive but here goes:\nThis Christmas I was sleeping with my girlfriend in my old bedroom at my parents house, where I was staying for the holidays. I think it was about 4:00 AM. I was laying awake, chatting a bit with my girlfriend but also silently aware of the way the rich holiday foods of the evening were coalescing with the wine and beer I had consumed in order to form a potent fart.\n\nDue to some gastrointestinal problems, I tend to have unusually stinky farts, sometimes above and beyond what someone with no knowledge of digestive disorders might think was humanly possible. It was with this in mind that I kindly decided to spare my girlfriend the pain of enduring a assuredly life-altering Dutch Oven.\nI stood up, nude, and traversed the metre or so that lay between my bed and window. It was very dark, I couldn't see anything. I pulled the window open and aimed as I explained to my girlfriend how I was going to redirect my fart outdoors.\n\nThe noise my body produced was... unexpected. After a moment's quiet contemplation my girlfriend warily offered that the noise \"Sounded more like a shart\".\n \nUnable to see, paralyzed with fear and confusion while standing in a slightly squat position, I demanded if she was sure. How could she be so sure? Surely with my medical history I should be more knowledgeable in this area. And yet she spoke with such confidence. It's a nerve-wracking experience knowing that one is only a light switch's flick away from either total relief or total humiliation. We weren't sure yet, but the very act of observation would determine whether or not I could make eye contact with her over breakfast. Schrödinger's shart, if I may be so bold.\n\nRealizing I would eventually have to confirm or deny her suggestion, I once again walked across my room, though this time with an awkward gait, similar to a cowboy or Neanderthal, just in case of accidental smearing. I flicked on my light and yes, folks. I had sharted on my windowsill.",
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"body": " Once I was shaving my head and the clippers I was using stopped working in mid stroke, leaving my head half shaved with streaks cut into it everywhere... So I put on a baseball cap and went to Target to buy a new set of clippers... The hat started bugging me on the drive so I took it off, planning to put it back on when I got to the store. Of course I forgot to put it on and went roaming around target looking like Jason from the first Friday the 13th... I realized what I had done and tried to walk out of the store like it was no big deal.\n\n Another time I was getting a sandwich made at Subway and I noticed the girl sandwichmaker kept staring at me... Couldnt take her eyes off me... She was kinda cute so I thought Damn... Im gonna come back and ask her out someday... I get into my car and in the rear view mirror I see that a HUGE white booger is hanging from one nostril. \n I didnt go back to that Subway for months.\n",
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"body": "I was ridding my bike near a small river in my nieghoourhood. I watched a wasp fly right up my shorts and thought \"fuck\". It stung me 4 times in the thigh, each time moving closer and closer to my package. I lost control of my bike and wiped out. When I got up I ran to the river and pulled my shorts off. As the wasp flew away I swung at it a few times. My thigh was burning so badly I started splashing water on my crotch. I was interupted by laughter comming from one of the nieghborhood balcanies. This entire group of people was watching me. However form their perspective I was ridding down the street, fell off my bike for no aparant reson, ran to the river, pulled down my pants, punched the air a few times, then started splashing my crotch. ",
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"body": "In 9th grade gym class I was running laps around the gym and shat all over myself in front of about 60 other junior high students. I'm not talking a nice clean log. It was full on rancid, liquid shit. I was mortified, but I think people were so shocked that they never spoke of it. I lived it down after a week and we all forgot about it. ",
"score": 32
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"body": "Back when I was addicted to WoW, I was introduced to one of my mother's friends. She said, \"I have two kids like you too.\" I responded, \"What levels are they?\" This was met with a blank stare.",
"score": 32
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"body": "Once when I was about 8 I raced my dad back to our car in a parking lot. I SOOOOO thought I had won when I hopped into the passenger side. \n\nThat wasn't our car. \n\nI stunned the guy sitting in the car, and I refused to ever talk about it and cried the whole way home.",
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"body": "I was the lead role in a piano recital and play. When it was my turn to announce myself and play my song, I started bawling in front of the crowd of several hundred. I kept crying while playing the song. I nailed the song and all of my lines in the play, though. ",
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"body": "Once time before class I decided I would quickly go to the bathroom, and back then I liked to make nest with toilet paper before I sat down for a deuce... anyways, I finished up and went to class... I was a bit late, but nbd... although everyone saw me walk in late. After class, I caught up with one of my friends, and he kindly pointed out that I had a strand of TP from my nest caught in my pants which was hanging out behind me like a big white tail of shame. D:",
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"body": "I worked for Best Buy(Selling CD/DVD's), and I met this really cute girl and her friends(another chick and a dude) when they came in. \n\nThings were going great, I was in a really nice personal conversation with one of the girls. I left them to go back to my work.\n\nThe other girl, whom I assumed was dating the guy kept following me around the store. \n\nI stopped and asked her if there was anything she needed.... she asked for my number. (SCORE?)\n\nI gladly gave it to her, and she said her friend wanted to ask me but was too shy. I told her i thought her friend was really hot, and I enjoyed our conversation earlier. \n\nturns out, she was referring to the dude. fml\n\ntl;dr - got asked out by a dude. fml",
"score": 21
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"body": "I got home one day and realized my skirt was just see-through enough so that you could make out the color and shape of my underwear. I'd been out all day. ",
"score": 19
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"body": "6th grade; New Jersey, 1990. My friends and I would drag a skate ramp over to our grade school and jump off it to slam dunk basketballs. During one of my attempts, at push off I kicked the ramp out from under me, so instead of jumping, I went horizontal in the air, landing on and fracturing my wrist.\n\nAt the hospital I had my choice of cast colors. This was during the time that neon was pretty damn cool. I mean, we're just moving into the age of hypercolor clothing. Anyhow, I choose hot pink. Everyone in my class thought it was pretty rad that I had this thing. I was actually proud of it. \n\nA month later my family moves to the midwest. I was pretty nervous about being the new kid, but it's also kind exciting because everything is different. Anyhow, I figure I'm going in with this cast and I'll at least have a story to tell; plus the thing is neon pink and totally awesome.\n\nCut to my first day, I'm walking in the hall to the cafeteria and hear someone yell out, \"hey faggot, like the pink cast\", and everyone just starts laughing hysterically. From then on I'm the rumored \"new gay kid\". Seems like trends must move from east to west because in the midwest, hot pink is not something for a 12 year old boy to be wearing, let alone wearing permanently for the duration of the fracture.\n\nAnyhow, it eventually got better. Not so much an embarrassing moment as it was an embarrassing time until I finally got that thing off.",
"score": 19
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"body": "So I walked around most of the day oblivious to the fact I had an old cock sticking out of my pants.\r\n",
"score": 15
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"body": "My friend worked all day at the office and didn't discover until he got home that a pair of his wife's panties was clinging to the back of his shirt (static electricity from the dryer)..",
"score": 13
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"body": "Similar thing happened to me. I'm in a wheelchair, so when I go to bed it becomes like any chair or object - handy to throw shit on (yeah I'm not the tidiest). Since I got told I had a pair of old Homer Simpson pajama pants hanging on the back of it at work by the hot receptionist I have added a new routine to my morning schedule: check my chair for dirty washing before leaving the house.",
"score": 13
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"body": "I went to visit a middle school teacher with pink lacy underwear sticking out of my pocket :(. I had just stayed over at a friends house and when I changed, I put the old ones in my pocket. I don't know why!\n\nIt was a great reunion, as I was one of the best students in this teacher's class. That is, until my underwear fell out of my pocket and onto his shoe. I almost cried.",
"score": 11
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"body": "I was riding my bike to the next town where I did my banking, I was around 18 or 19. I was taking a shortcut through an area with some small rental houses right next to the bank when I was clotheslined by a....clothesline. It caught me right across the mouth and it was one of the well built vinyl covered steel cables. The bike and the rest of me rotated around the axis of my mouth and I landed on my back staring up at the sky. The bike landed at my feet, no worse for wear.\n I had to work that night, so I was at Burger King taking orders with what now would be called a Joker's smile, but this happened in 1994 or so. It left marks down both cheeks and actually ripped the corners of my mouth a bit.",
"score": 10
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"body": "I was in Kuwait living out of a 60 man tent with absolutely zero kind of privacy of any sort. I had just gotten back from taking a dump in a port-o-potty and was changing into some shorts and a tee shirt when I hear, \"HEY SHREK (that was my nickname), YOU WIPE MUCH?!?!\" Turns out the cheap, sand paper like material they called toilet paper had broken off in my cheeks in a large wad and unfurled it self at that moment. The whole tent thought this was hilarious and I had to agree.",
"score": 8
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"body": "Economics lecture. Long rows of seats, theatre style, with a fold down tables. Had tape recorder on, so was resting on arm, dozing . Arm slowly slips forward, puts pressure on front of desk. Fold down Desk flips up, making an impromptu catapult. Tape recorder flies over six rows of people and smashes at lecturers feet. Gear wheels, electronics bouncing everywhere. Lecturer pauses - then says 'Well you'd better come and get it'. \r\n\r\nThis necessitates everyone in my row folding up their desks and standing up, me squeezing out along row saying 'excuse me, excuse me'. Class rocking with laughter. \r\n\r\nFor rest of year I was known as 'the guy with the taperecorder'",
"score": 8
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"body": "A year ago I was at a family function and, strange for me as I'm always warmer than everyone else, was wearing a long sleeve shirt. As a relative was asking me about my thoughts on windows 7 etc., I felt something on my forearm under my sleeve. I reached inside the sleeve (in that little slit formed by the cuff-button) and pulled out 2 used but connected dryer sheets like a magic trick and handed them to the above mentioned family member and said, \"Windows 7 is nice, but then again I've got that special touch and all.\"\n\nHe stood for almost two minutes with these dessicated dryer sheets in his grasp, agape, like I'd handed him a prize, then asked how I'd done it, insisting there was no way I just produced it from my sleeve.\n\nRather proud of that moment. Of course, the other way to look at it is I'm so unfocused that I'm walking around with dryer sheets in my clothes all the time. No wonder I hate long sleeves.",
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"body": "So I was waiting for the bus out of town because school had just finished. My bus is an odd one, so it only comes every 30 minutes or so, if you're lucky. I, apparently, had just missed one, so waiting for half an hour, I'm standing back from the street, my back to a bank. I feel a soft *thud* on top of my head, and I only think the worst. I look up to see a pigeon butt a story up. Awesome.\n\nSo I'm standing at the bus stop for 30 minutes with pigeon shit in my hair, hoping noone notices. I figure that when I get on the bus, it won't be such a big deal. I'll get the back corner seat, it's a rarely used bus at a rather slow time and I normally don't talk to anyone anyhow.\n\nSo I get on the bus, and there is 3 or 4 people on it already, and the two back corners (the right one would have been best, it was off to the side a bit on my hair...) are taken. Of course. So I sit towards the back, on the right side and try to adjust my head so noone can see. Two stops down the road, who gets on except for a cute girl from my High School? And who does she see instantly and want to talk to? Me, ofcourse! So here I am holding a conversation with a rather attractive female who is interested in me, cocking my head to the side in a rather unnatural position, hoping she doesn't see the bird shit in my hair for an hour.\n\nUgh, and it was so gross to wash out, too! *shiver*",
"score": 7
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"body": "I was in Saturday School in high school, which was the punishment you get after you fuck up more than detention is worth. I fell asleep at my desk, in a room full of people. All of a sudden, I burped really loudly and woke myself up. I looked around, everyone was starting. So I mumbled, \"excuse me\" as I stood up to go to the bathroom - but I didn't notice my leg was asleep. I immediately fell to the floor. From everyone else's perspective, I just burped, stood up and fell down. Extra teachers needed to be brought in to restore order.",
"score": 7
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"body": "sharted myself during a piss test.\n\nthe kind where they watch you. turned around handed the guy the cup, said i'd be back. he asked \"what'd ya do? shit yer self!\" \"actually sir, i did, yes i did shart myself and i'll be back later to finish this test\"",
"score": 6
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"body": "I was in class and I lowered my back pack to the floor using the zipper string. The zipper string broke under the weight of the bag and I punched myself in the nose. Blood started gushing out of my nose, so I treid to wipe it up with regular paper. Regular paper does'nt obsorb shit and the girl infront of me yelled out to the teacher \"he's bleeding\" the entire class turned around and watched me. ",
"score": 6
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"body": "i was 16, sitting in my high school court yard when i seagull pooped on my head. he wasn't sitting on my head (that's what it sounds like). the birds were flying overhead. the worst part was when i ran to the first door, and it was locked. the second door was locked. so i had to haul across the courtyard, after i've gotten everyone's attention, to finally get in a building and rinse poop out of my hair. ",
"score": 5
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"body": "Got drunk one night with friends and couldn't get a hotel room. Slept in a big van overnight. It was the summer in Florida so it was too freaking hot. All of us had to strip down to our underwear and open all the doors in the car to stay cool. Woke up and all of our clothes were stolen, along with our wallets and cellphones. I had to go to a pay-phone on a busy street to make a collect call in nothing but my boxer briefs. All the while, sporting a huge morning wood boner.",
"score": 5
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"body": "I already posted it elsewhere here on Reddit, but it involves putting my car keys in my sleeping bag while camping, forgetting that and hitchhiking home, to only find them weeks later",
"score": 4
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"body": "So, one of my teachers forgot to zip up her fly once. She's up in the front of the class doing her thing when I noticed.\n\nSo I looked. A quick peak, then I started listening again. Nobody saw me look. It's like it never happened. \n\nI would have gotten away with it too if it weren't for my friend Max. Max sat diagonally in front of me. He looked at me, pointed at the teacher and mouthed the words \"Look down.\" I nodded my head. But Max didn't stop looking at me and he started to laugh. Then I started to laugh because Max was laughing. Then other people start laughing. Then the teacher realizes what's going on. So, who does the teacher notice first? Yup, you guessed it. Me. She laughed it off. Shit happens, right?\n\nHow is this embarrassing for me, you might be asking yourself. Every time someone would laugh in her class, she'd look down to see if it happened again. Then she'd ask if people remembered that day and say something like \"[jooes] remembers! I saw him laughing! hahaha\" \n\nShe'd single me out every damn time. I barely looked, and I got the most flak from it. Not fair.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Old underwear sticking out of my pants leg - in high school.\n\nAlso, giant period blood stain on my white pants in high school at the beginning of the day, so I had to go through the rest of the day trying to hide the stain.",
"score": 3
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"body": "I was running laps around the gym in PE in high school, freshman year. We had volleyball nets up and when I reached the end of the nets, I went to run and duck under the edge of the net... But I didn't duck low enough and caught the net right across my throat. I spun in the air, landed on my head and neck, and took about 5 minutes to get reoriented. Of course, this was in front of everyone.\n\nI got sent to the nurse, who told me to go home. Parents picked me up and let me know that my great grandparents were visiting and waiting at home. It took some time to convince them that I hadn't tried to hang myself.",
"score": 3
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What should I do with my free time?
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Since I've started working full time, I have much less free time than I did while I was still a student. What should I do with this limited time?
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"body": "Time is money. If you have free time, that means you have free money. Use the money to buy more time. Do this until you have infinite time, then take over the world. ",
"score": 24
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"body": "Browse reddit more. When you're on your deathbed and looking back on your life, you'll be really proud of all those pictures you voted up. ",
"score": 8
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"body": "Do what I did:\n\nTake a pin and stick it up your nipple. It will hurt like hell at first, and there'll probably be a bit of blood, but if you push hard enough eventually you'll get most of it in there. Now leave it in for an hour or so--just long enough for the blood to stop flowing. Now take off your shirt and begin to flex your pectoral muscles until the needle shoots out. The first time you do this it'll come out slowly and it'll probably be covered in pus, but both conditions will pass soon enough. When you get that far, go grab a beer for the hard part's over.\n\nOver the following days you should continue to follow the routine of sticking in pins and shooting them out. After a few weeks of doing so you should be able to shoot pins like mini-bullets. Cut little flaps in your shirts so that you can fire without having to take off your top.\n\nWithin a few months, you'll be unstoppable. The last thing your enemies will see is the flexing of your well-developed pecs of DOOM.",
"score": 7
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"body": "Cut a hole in your desk chair, and place a 5 gallon bucket underneath it. Go to the store and buy 500 hot pockets, and 100 bottles of Mountain Dew. Place them no more than 12 inches from your desk. Now, start playing WoW.",
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(Favor) Would someone be willing to help me with my daughter's Birthday decorations?
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My daughter is turning 3 and LOVES the TV show Yo Gabba Gabba. To try to save money, I am doing my best to make some of her decorations, etc. I, unfortunately am NOT talented in the area of art - drawing, painting, etc.
I had the idea to make balloons of the characters - I got colored balloons in the colors of the characters and thought I would put their facial features (with construction paper or something) on each balloon. However, my trial run was not so awesome!!!
There are 5 characters plus a human character named DJ Lance...
Would anyone be willing to maybe help me with these facial features, etc?
Any other ideas for decorations, etc would be great. Her name is Siren and she is turning 3. I just want to make it a special day.
Thank you in advance...
BTW if you need a reference to Yo Gabba Gabba you can find it at yogabbagabba.com
Again, thanks in advance for any help/ideas!
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"body": "Also - anyone who can draw and is maybe bored; I'd love a sketch or anything anyone wants to contribute. \n\nThanks! ",
"score": 3
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"body": "You should ask [this awesome guy](http://www.reddit.com/r/Favors/comments/aqr9n/offer_i_will_photoshop_random_crap_into_a_picture/) to photoshop a picture of your daughter with the Yo Gabba Gabba cast and crew. ",
"score": 3
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Does being high while watching my child make me a bad parent?
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If I'm home alone with my 2 year old daughter all day and step outside two or three times to take a couple bat hits (one hitter, dugout), does that make me incapable of taking care of her or make me a bad parent? Keep in mind she is within eyesight while I'm outside.
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"body": "Only if you may think it does, does getting you high make you do less for your child? Probably not, i've been around stoner parents...never noticed any change in the care they gave their children. relax, much better than drunk.",
"score": 20
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"body": "I used to be a Sunday School Teacher's Aide and to cope with the horrible hangovers and overabundance of idiots surrounding me, I would smoke before my 9AM class. I taught kindergarden and first grade. Those kids were so much more fun to hang out with when I was baked. ",
"score": 14
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"body": "Hippies had kids. Most turned out fine. Why even ask, when you know it's o.k. already? If you are a loving parent, MJ will just strengthen that love (ya know, *vibes*).",
"score": 13
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"body": "I heard that this one couple used to do that, and one day they were cooking a turkey, and then when it was done, they took it out of the oven, only it wasn't the turkey, it was their baby!",
"score": 9
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"body": "Only if it does?\n\nIf you acted exactly the same, only you were high, you would be the exact same quality parent. If smoking changes the way you act in a negative way, then you're a worse parent at that time.\n\nThe fact that you're asking is a good sign. Means you care about the quality of your parenting and are thinking about it. But really, none of us know but you whether you're less attentive, less concerned about your kid's well-being, etc. You're the only one who knows what happens to you when you do it, and whether you're okay with your kid being raised that way.",
"score": 8
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"body": "My dad has admitted to me that he was high sometimes around me while I was growing up. I've turned out okay. So far. :)",
"score": 5
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"body": "I don't know, I don't have kids. I'd think it would make you fairly normal. I know a lot of parents who get high. I would think that it makes the kind of crap you have to deal with as a parent (like children's videos, for example) a lot more bearable. I don't doubt that my parents were high at points when I was a child. ",
"score": 4
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"body": "It can't be any worse than having a couple beers in the evening. It'll almost certainly make you more relaxed and tolerant of your kids too.",
"score": 4
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"body": ">does that make me incapable of taking care of her?\n\nWe don't know you or know how you act on cannabis. That's a question you will have to answer for yourself based on your own mental state and past experience with marijuana.\n\n\n",
"score": 3
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"body": "If you can function then no your not a bad parent. If you are high to the point where you can not take care of yourself that is bad parenting but in my experience children are only tollerable high",
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My Xbox 360 suffered RROD yesterday, and I have a few questions.
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I'm wondering if anyone who has experienced this recently can give insight into what gets replaced/repaired. My console has a manufacture date of 2005 listed on the back. This is the second time I have had to send it in for RROD.
Specifically, I'm wondering, what do I stand to gain in hardware upgrades? Will I get a new chip? New fans? A new unit entirely?
Anyone notice differences when they got their console back from MS? I'm just curious, but any thoughts would be appreciated.
* Nice. Thanks for the good information, everybody. I think you've given me a pretty good idea of what to expect in the replacement. Now it's a matter of waiting the two to three weeks...
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"body": "You will receive a refurb; It won't be the same machine, nor will it be a used, \"repaired\" machine. The refurbs don't actually contain many refurbished parts. There's a good chance you'll receive an Opus revision; a 65nm cpu, 90nm gpu in a Xenon (no hdmi) housing. It'll be a fairly reliable unit with better cooling than your original box.",
"score": 10
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"body": "I couldn't send mine back because I had already opened it up to install padding on the inside of the DVD drive lid - to prevent scratching (which worked great, btw). Searched the web, found a few different procedures that involved changing the way the heat sinks are attached to the motherboard, chose the bits that made sense to me and was able to get it running again. Details here: http://jdrgaming.com/geeklog/article.php?story=20091004075400341",
"score": 6
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"body": "Not sure if you've considered repairing it yourself, but I was able to fix my old 360's RROD problem with $10 in parts and an hour or so of work: [RROD repair video walkthrough](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fuIl0kGf7dM)",
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I'm a conservative Republican. I didn't vote for Barack Obama. But I am becoming so scared that I can count on two hands the amount of times, when talking to someone else who disagrees with Barack's politics, the person casually utters something like "I just fucking hate that nigger"
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As I said, I am a conservative and I didn't vote for Barack Obama because I disagree fundamentally with many of his policies. However, that DOESN'T make me a racist. And that DOESN'T make me comfortable with using a word like that in casual conversation. What the fuck? It really makes me wonder how many people oppose him just because he is black. Am I truly being naive for not taking into account his race when I voted against him? It's a very discouraging feeling...
EDIT: A lot of you are asking where I live - I live in a suburb outside of Philadelphia. And to give you a bit more background as to where I often heard this kind of shit...
I am not a teacher, however since I was a teenager, through college, and even now (albeit much less), I worked as a manager in a very busy gas station. I spoke regularly with hundreds of people a day. Most people who were even semi-regulars knew/know that I am a politically active guy - I have a tendancy to wear t-shirts that piss off liberals and make Republicans chuckle. (My Bush/Cheney '04 tshirt, to give an example) - - So, basically, I used to get into small political conversations quite a lot - But far too many times it ended up the same way...
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"body": "Dude. You have encapsulated the essence of the woes of the modern republican party: long ago, your leaders decided to harness the power of the redneck fear vote. \n\nNow, your party has only a few of the original, thoughtfully conservative demographic (whom I disagree with but have absolutely nothing against personally, they being generally decent human beings) and far more of the undereducated, angry, ignorant folk who simply hate those who are different from them.\n\nNext time you are in a discussion have them carefully explain the EXACT POLICIES they dont like, and what they would rather the president have done. if they can't do that, they are not *truly* a member of your party, and you shouldn't talk politics with them anymore.",
"score": 48
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"body": "I have a relative (by marriage) that once made the statement \"I wish someone would just kill that fucking nigger.\" They were careful to say it while I was not around, however I heard it clearly. I went apeshit and said that was the most ignorant thing I have ever heard. I then asked them to please elaborate as to why they felt that way. \"Because he said that when he was elected President, he would get us out of Iraq, and we are still there.\" This was about 6 months ago. These are the kind of retards that make me place my face into my palm every day... \n\n-Edit- Finished second quote ",
"score": 14
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"body": "Well, really sorry to have to explain this because I just assume it is so obvious... if I (or most people who are not retarded) see someone wearing a Republican t-shirt, I (or most people who have not been hiding in a cave for the last 10 years or so) assume that the wearer of said shirt IS a racist and IF you are a racist and IF I am a racist I assume we speak the same RACIST language. Do you get it? Racists will come and share their thoughts with you. They will want to commune with you. If you DON'T want people to treat you like a FELLOW RACIST, then don't go around wearing clothing admired by racists. It's breathtakingly simple. If you want to talk about punk rock, then don't wear a fucking Donna Summer t-shirt. Does that help explain the concept? ",
"score": 14
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"body": "This is what the Republican party is. This is also what the Democratic party is.\n\nNo, not racists. The policy these days is not politics, it's creating a we-versus-they standpoint and trying to convince at many people as one can that their party is on your side. It's no surprise that such a mentality will cause such racist on one side or the other (if not both).\n\nIt's the sad state of politics. Don't worry, there are a number of people like you out there you can debate with, you just need to find them.",
"score": 13
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"body": "It does sadly seem like a lot of the \"new right\" movement is mired in this sort of thing, and I've often wondered what my grandpa would think of the new republican party if he were around today.\n\nhe was an old-school conservative: big into military, loved his guns (not that that's an exclusively conservative thing), anti-union, and thought the anti-trust break-up of the phone companies way back in the day was one of the worst things that ever happened.\n\nHowever, he was also very much into conservation, education, and fiscal responsibility (actual fiscal responsibility, not the the sound of the words as pronounced by modern conservatives when it's convenient for them to bring it up.) He never would have judged Obama for the color of his skin.\n\nIn other words, he recognized things that effect *everyone* and pushed for them, and would have resented being labeled \"liberal\" for thinking that everyone had a right to unpolluted national parks and a decent education.\n\nI rabidly disagreed with him about politics once I was old enough to understand, but I respected his difference of opinion, and never held his beliefs against him personally, because he was a nice guy, if just a product of his time. These days, most \"republicans\" praise being ignorant, and call out \"elitism\" at anyone who knows anything about anything except for the parts of the bible that back up their narrow belief.\n\nI'm glad there's still some of you out there that I can respectfully disagree with. ",
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"body": "There are more non-southern, non-yahoo, educated, upper-middle-class people who hate him because he is black than any of us imagine. They are very good at hiding it, especially if they suspect they are with people who disagree. I am thankful that the racists were outnumbered in the election - makes me feel better about my fellow citizens.",
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"body": "Sorry dude...with the death of William F. Buckley, so died the GOP. Even Newt Gingrich let slip the fact that [Michael Steele bothered some conservatives because he was black.](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/01/08/newt-gingrich-michael-ste_n_416381.html)* \n\n*Hate linking to HuffPo, but it IS copy of the straight AP news article I originally read off the wire. ",
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"body": "I travel a lot for business, I'm in the south every third or fourth week. Since last year, after McCain picked Palin - I fell in political LOVE with Obama (compared to those two...) So now, I have this *situation* where I'm going into places where there are ONLY conservative Republicans. \n\nI have a trick I use to equalize the situation from the get-go: I walk in to the meeting room, business or social situation and at the first opportunity that someone else mentions politics, I say,\n\n\"Thank god for President Obama!\" with a smile on my face. Then if I get strange looks, I follow up with, \" and thank god that tarted-up flight attendant isn't a heartbeat away from the Presidency.\" \n\nAfter that, no one will argue with me or make any off-hand comments I'd have to fire them for. Subject closed - next?",
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"body": "I experienced something similar when the democrats were picking the primary presidential candidates last year. Between Obama and Clinton, I voted for Obama because I disagreed more with Clinton's policies. But when I spoke to people about her, many times it would degenerate into comments about Clinton's looks, jokes about her vagina, and just in general, sexist statements and judgments on qualities that have nothing to do with what makes a good politician. There were even people who, when discussing political topics with them, seemed more compatible with Clinton's platform, but the only thing stopping them from liking her was they just \"didn't want that cold bitch in the office\" and one person just outright told me they didn't think a woman could handle presidency.",
"score": 8
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"body": "My sister's best friend's dad is a die hard Bush hating democrat. He's a former union member, a Catholic, and he loves Obama. He says, \"I love that n----r I'd let him fuck my wife.\" \r\n\r\nI'd say that rednecks are in both parties and both of them say it. ",
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"body": "They are saying it for attention and/or because they think the people around them (you) will not call them out. Next time someone says that, repeat their comment to several other people that may not agree/appreciate the comment.. Make sure it gets back to the original retard in question.\n\nIf there are no consequences for saying it, they won't stop.",
"score": 5
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"body": "Conservative Republicans, as a party are a bunch of crazy as shit, hate-mongering racists. \nNow their true colors are showing.\nWelcome to your Republican party.",
"score": 5
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"body": "Anyone who doesn't fit in the Sarah Palin doctrine of conservatism no longer has mainstream appeal, and therefore most in that group will share that ignorance. I think you should become a moderate, that's what every other rational republican has done it seems. Labels are just labels anyway.",
"score": 5
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"body": "> It really makes me wonder how many people oppose him just because he is black.\r\n\r\nI know of several southern rednecks - normally nonvoters - who made a point of voting against Obama for skin color and no other reason. Others are hopeful that Obama will do a good job; they are more accepting, but are still skittish at the idea of a biracial president. The birther movement has a lot of latent racism under the surface. So it's out there.\r\n\r\n**However,** a single outburst can be misleading. If I were to get mad at Rush Limbaugh and start saying \"*I hate that fat-ass motherfucker!*\", rest assured that the real reason for my contempt has very little to do with Rush's weight problems, [edit to say:] nor do I really believe he has sexual relations with his mother.",
"score": 5
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"body": "I'm a conservative independent. I fundamentally disagree with a lot of Obama's policies. However, I have been called a racist numerous times for speaking my mind. Usually when I have solid explanations for my beliefs. It all falls apart, though, when I explain to them that I'm Hispanic.",
"score": 5
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"body": "Well here's the deal. You're from the Philly burbs, me too sorta, Reading, PA. There's alot of ignorant people out there, I would probably include you in that group. If you don't like Obama's policies for one reason or another, that's ok, they're not perfect and he's not a perfect president. If you liked Bush/Cheney's policies, you're a fucking idiot, which means you probably associate with idiots who say that sort of racist shit, and if I know where you're from (and I do) there are plenty of those idiots to associate with.",
"score": 4
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"body": "If you've come here to justify you're support of the Republican Party, who at the least turns a blind eye and at the most actively encourages fearmongering and devisveness, you've come to the wrong place.\n\nThe Republican Party is openly and actively purging moderates from their party and is swinging farther to the right in order to appease the Teabaggers who are threatening to go their own way.\n\nThe situation the Republicans are currently in has nothing to do with Barack Obama, although he seems to be catalyst for the cracks in the Republican Party surfacing. It is about the mainstream Republican culture of the \"others\" taking away what is \"theirs\", America changing from this pie-in-the-sky nostalgic picture the Republicans have painted America as, control through fear that was refined through the Bush Administration, and turning our complicated, grey political reality and into simple black-and-white talking points that sound good but have no real substance or political relevance.\n\nAnd why would you think you aren't going to meet some douche bags at your place of work, especially when you go out of your way to \"piss off liberals\"? You're inviting them to say stupid shit because you're actively making them feel more comfortable saying it, even if that isn't your intent or your personal belief.",
"score": 4
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"body": "Conservative Republican = Oxymoron\n\nConservative = someone who believes in moral and fiscal restraint.\n\nRepublican = Reich Wing Extremist hellbent on finally forking over our remaining freedoms and what's left of our wealth to Corporate America in the name of Jeevus.",
"score": 4
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"body": "I don't see how you're surprised.\nThe intellectual conservatives were trampled by the religious zealots and warmongers. Old-school conservatism doesn't sell well to young, modern types. Best way to keep them interested is to play to their fears. Racism, abortion, terror, etc.",
"score": 4
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"body": ">(My Bush/Cheney '04 tshirt, to give an example)\n\nSo, let me get this straight, you support torture as a civic policy? Just askin'.",
"score": 4
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"body": "I live in the South, I've lived in the South all my life, and I don't know anybody who voted for Obama, but I haven't heard that word used pejoratively in 20 years.",
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"body": "In English theory, that sentiment would be called a \"subtext.\" For most of us (since our conservative associates don't say shit like that in front of us,) that message and sentiment are clearly there (on TV and in newspapers as well,) but it's unspoken.",
"score": 3
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"body": "The Klan and Neo Nazis are surprisingly, and frighteningly active in some Philadelphia suburbs. I used to work with some people who were from around Downingtown, some of them told me about Neo Nazis in the public schools and how they knew people that went to Klan rallies. I thought that was fucking nuts.\n\nThere is a lot of tension between Philadelphia and the rest of Pennsylvania. I'm not surprised that some of that tension is racially charged.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Did you just figure that out? There are those knee jerk liberals that say that *anyone* that doesn't agree with Obama is a racist, but there are those more realistic liberals such as myself that understand that there are those people that fundamentally oppose what he believes in. But you have to have your head in the sand if you didn't know that there are a fair amount of people who don't like Obama simply because of his skin color. *They* are the ones that I can't stand, and will not discuss politics with.",
"score": 3
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"body": "Well, since today was MLK day, it's hard not to think about how barely 40-some years ago a guy like Obama would have had a pretty hard time getting to where he is now. I can't believe anyone would think that racism has just magically disappeared because Obama got elected. I mean, prejudice is everywhere. Someone really racist might actually think that other people who don't like Obama for political reasons think the same way they do. Have these people ever heard of Michael Steele or Alan Keyes? If they really don't like seeing blacks (or other minorities) in positions of power, maybe they should go live in a cave somewhere.",
"score": 3
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"body": "My Grandma has been a democrat since JFK. Now she is a Sarah Palin supporter. She is also convinced that Medicare ISN'T socialist, President Obama is Muslim, and that foxnews is the only true news channel. All this change in only one year, it really blows my mind.",
"score": 3
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Can I get a recommendation on the best types of contact lenses to buy?
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I'm going to be wearing contact lenses for the first time, and I'm not really sure what kind I should get. I was thinking about ordering from 1-800-CONTACTS. Are there better sites out there? What about extended wear lenses? Are they better than regular soft lenses?
[I'm pretty much overwhelmed at the selection available.](https://www.1800contacts.com/lenses/contact-lens-f.htm) Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated!
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"body": "I've tried almost every type of lens out there. I used to always constantly change lens because I have a very sensitive eye and I constantly get tired from wearing contact lens. \n\nGo with Bioinfinity. These are the newest type of lens developed right now. They are the most comfortable and only ones I will wear now.\n\n2nd place goes to :Air Optix Aqua and Acuvue Oasis and Avaira. \n\nI named three second places because they really are about the same with some people liking one over the other. \n\nBut I still say go with Bioinfinity, it is noticeably better then the second place ones. I only listed the others in case for some reason you did not like the Bioinfinity ones. They have one of the highest wettability and oxygen permeability if not the highest right now. Read this: http://www.siliconehydrogels.org/editorials/08_may.asp\n\nAlso I get my contacts from visiondirect.com because they seemed to have the lowest price with shipping. Just check which site has the lowest price for your contacts and get it from there.\n\nEdit: On a further note, I would like to add some things after reading some of the posts below. I was reading about the people wearing the one day lenses below. I just wanted to add that while the one day lenses do have the advantage of not having any cleaning solution, these one day lenses are cheaply made and have less comfort and oxygen permeability then the monthly or 2 week lenses(think about it, they are meant to be used for one day therefore they have to make each one cheap.) I researched about this and one day lens do have lower oxygen permeability then most 2 week and monthly lenses. I have tried one day lenses and still have to say the Biofinity lens are the most comfortable I have worn. \n\nAlso when you get contacts many people still use the old cleaning solution. Here is the newest one and one that researchers and customers have said makes a difference. http://www.clearcaresolution.com/ I also personally use it and you can notice the difference in comfort after wearing the lens for a week compared to using regular cleaning solution. You can buy it at any Walmart, Target, etc. For citation on the advantages of this read: http://www.siliconehydrogels.org/editorials/jul_08.asp\n\nHere are two good sites to learn yourself: http://www.allaboutvision.com/contacts/ (Though useful for basic knowledge, be careful as this site seems highly sponsored) and http://www.siliconehydrogels.org/ (click on previous editorials and featured reviews to look at all the articles).",
"score": 5
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"body": "I wear my focus night and days (30 days) for 45-60 days at a time.\n\nYour eye doctor should be able to recommend a good brand to you and give you samples.",
"score": 4
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[TOMT] Spectators of crucifixion cursed to wander Earth [Movie]
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I saw this movie in the past year. I'm not sure when it actually came out but it seemed fairly new. The movie began with some hikers falling into what turned out to be a room with a statue that had been covered up by the church. It turned out the statue was of spectators who went to see Christ crucified out of curiosity, not faith. Those spectators are cursed to wander the earth causing deaths or something. The main character is a young girl who is hit by a car and forgets why she's in the town. She finds out about a plot to kill a bunch of people at the town fair and managers to save a ton of people. In the end, it turns out the girl was one of those spectators. This is driving me insane. Thank you. :D
**edit:** Thanks to Poofbird, the movie I was thinking of was [The Gathering](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0294594/).
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"body": "I know I've seen this movie, and now it's bothering me as well.\n\n\nedit: It's called The Gathering, a 2002 thriller starring Christina Ricci, based on a story by Anthony Horowitz (whose books I loved as a kid)\n\n[IMDB](http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0294594/)",
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Can someone please give me a breakdown of the show?
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Well, I just started watching BSG, but I can only view the odd rerun on SyFy about once a week or so. But, the plot is so enticing I need to know more. Can someone please give me a detailed rundown of the show and its plot(preferably with characters and places included)? I would really appreciate it. Thanks.
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"body": "Basically, humans created the cylons, which rebelled. After the first cylon war a truce was made and the cylons weren't heard from in many years. Then they came back to fuck shit up. Big time. A few humans from the 12 colonies of kobol managed to escape but are bring followed by the cylons. There are 12 cylon models not including the raiders, heavy raiders, centurions and hybrids. They believe in the one true god. The humans are polytheistic. The humans are under command by admiral Adama of the colonial fleet and his drunk XO Colonol Tigh. He's a bit of a dick. Adams son, Lee, is the CAG (does shit with planes, also very sexy, but i'm guessing you don't care. I do.). He and his father are a bit estranged from eachother. His friend Kara (Starbuck) is a crazy bitch who doesn't give a fuck what you think. She is also the best pilot the fleet has. There is the genius, Gaius Baltar, who's actions are almost always done in his best interest. The president was a school teacher and has cancer. They are looking for a home since all of the colonies were destroyed. There are themes of what it means to be human, good vs. evil, love vs. hate ad religion. ",
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Attention Massachusetts Redditors: Here are the positions of Martha Coakley and Scott Brown.
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[Martha Coakley](http://www.issues2000.org/Senate/Martha_Coakley.htm), [and in her own words...](http://www.marthacoakley.com/about/Issues)
[Scott Brown](http://www.issues2000.org/Senate/Scott_Brown.htm), [and in his own words...](http://www.brownforussenate.com/issues)
I think this is a decent reference for their positions. It really bothers me when people don't know the positions of the people they're voting for. If anyone has any place to add or anything to contest, just say so.
Also, guys, don't forget to vote. Seriously I don't care if it's Coakley or Brown or an independent, just vote.
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"body": "Brown doesn't seem *too* bad. I appreciate his liberal(ish) stance on abortion and he seems to believe climate change is a reality, but his opinion on gay marriage is simply unacceptable to me. \n\nOn the flipside, Coakley doesn't strike me as terribly good replacement for Teddy. She's not liberal enough in some areas, but too liberal in others. She's going to get my vote, but only for a handful of reasons. ",
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"body": "Can I just say that I pretty much hate Coakley. She's on the wrong side of just about any issue having to do with law enforcement overreaction or prosecutorial overreach, and seems to have a real problem owning up to her mistakes, or those of subordinates. Anyone remember the ATHF lite-brite freak out in Boston a few years back...yeah, same Coakley.\n\nOf course, Scott Brown is a raving nutcase representing the raving nutcase wing of the raving nutcase party.\n\nIt really pisses me off that I find myself rooting for Coakley to win.",
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Anyone here mix their music in surround sound?
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I just ordered a 5.1 system and I'd like to get into multi-channel recording when they arrive. Tips on how to do this (software, etc), as well as links to any of your own work would be cool :)
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"body": "I attended a surround sound master session with Chuck Ainlay about a year ago where he took a stereo mix and turned it into a surround mix. He knows a little [something](http://chuckainlay.com/disc.php). Some points that I remember:\n\nDon't pan between FL and RL, and FR and RR. The way that we perceive audio doesn't allow good imaging on our sides. \n\nDon't cross your dry and wet signal across your head. For example, if you have a guitar FL, don't put the delay on RR. \n\nAllow the FL and FR channels to form a center image. This gives space to leave for the vocal in the center channel. \n\nDefinitely spend time moving your head around your listening space. Keeping handle on your image outside of the sweet spot will allow the mix to translate better. Phasing is very important, obviously.\n\nHe spent a lot of time making sure his delays were spot on, and they were excellent. Much of his efforts seemed effortless. He said things like, \"oh, i'll just put a little of this 2nd acoustic HPF reverb back here.\" and it sounded soooo good. ",
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"body": "I do. Logic. Mostly experimentation; it's been a long goddamn 10 years snce I could make music, but I hope to change that soon.\n\nMnitoring is crucial. I use a Tascam dsm7.1 and a phatty Genelec system with Dorrough metering. \n\nThe real trick to surround music is to not be distracting. Leave the surrounds in the back: they are for ambience and reverb only. Minimize pans. Consider the left and right channels to be separate from the center. The more discretely you treat things, the less phase weirdness you need to deal with.\n\nMore later if you ask; I'm on a damn iPhone and it's 40 degrees out.",
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HEY r/Science, a question: You are stranded in the snowy woods at night. You find an abandoned van. Is it better to camp out in the van, or to build a dugout in the snow because of its insulating quality?
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This comes from an episode of Sopranos I just watched. Chris and Paulie take a Russian man to some woods to kill him, and he escapes (because he's a fucking Russian, and despite getting shot and being in sweats and a t-shirt, he's a motherfucking Russian). They chase him and soon become lost. Both of them are not really dressed for winter conditions and they have no food. They find an abandoned van, and they rip out the carpet and try to keep warm inside the van. Wouldn't it be better for them to have made a dugout in the snow?
I ask this question from a survival point of view, and not because I am criticizing the writers of that particular episode. I think the writers got it right that urban creatures like Chris and Paulie would not know much about survival skills.
I also ask this question because one day, when I decide to share the treasure of The Sopranos with my son or daughter (if I even decide to have kids, that is; if I do, I would really like to start with a daughter) and they ask me that question, I want to be ready with the answer.
I don't need to know the answer to every question, and I am not afraid of replying, "I don't know, but I will find out," to a question, as my students can attest. And I know I'm assuming that my kid or kids will ask that question upon watching that episode (although, if I do have children, I will do my damnedest to raise them in a way so that they are constantly thinking these kinds of questions). And if they don't ask that question, by god, I will engineer a conversation where they ask me. Not to show off that I know the answer, but because I want to pass that kind of knowledge on. (Actually, I want to pass *any* kind of knowledge on. Goddamn kids will discover love of learning and thinking if it fucking kills me.)
So yeah, my hypothetical kids and I thank you.
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"body": "I have built and slept in over 75 igloos on numerous winter ski and mountain climbing trips. Many semi-correct ideas floating around here but no one is putting it all together.\n\n1) Snow cave or igloo is a great shelter IF the lowest part of the floor is higher than the highest part of the entrance! Otherwise it is almost useless.\n\n2) A snow cave that warms up to near 32F (from body heat, perhaps a reading candle) is cold not because it's wet from dripping, melting water (that only happens if your ceiling is not smooth and rounded), but because the humidity rises to 100%. Better to have a small (4\") vent hole in ceiling and adjust flow of through air to keep temperature about 25F and humidity low. That is the warmest sweet spot!\n\n3) It takes a huge amount of energy to make a classic igloo or snow shelter (perhaps excepting a few simple survival trenches). Do you have the fuel? (food to eat and water to drink) A two man igloo takes two people a good three hours of serious effort to build.\n\n4) It's easy, in fact guaranteed, that you will soaking wet knees, feet, gloves, elbows and arms digging your shelter. If you are sleeping in your wet clothes (i.e. no dry sleeping bag or dry clothes to climb into) you may be colder in the wind sheltered igloo than if you slept in dry clothes in a colder van. Only you can judge the conditions of the moment and guess.\n\n5) Even though you are in snowy woods, the snow depth, temperature, or snow conditions may not be conducive to making a shelter. I made a shelter once in 18\" of powder snow over level ground at 10F by spending three hours piling much of the snow from a circle 100' in diameter into a pile only 15' in diameter and packing it down with skii's and snowshoes. We came back four hours later after dark and a short climb and cut igloo blocks from the now 3' thick hard packed set up snow. It barely made a lousy 2 man igloo. A tent would have been so much better on that trip.",
"score": 27
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"body": "The van will be piled with snow, so it's the same as a dugout in the snow, without the problem of your body heat melting the snow and making you wet, which conducts the heat away from you faster.\n\nGet in the van. Insulate yourself. ",
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"body": "The van is the better choice.\n\nThink about it this way, the snow blocks airflow, so it helps to make sure the air in the shelter is isolated. However, if the snow gets warmer than 32 F then it starts melting. The process of melting causes the snow to not only make the shelter moist, but also absorbs heat. This is compounded by the high specific heat capacity of water (specific heat capacity refers to how much energy is needed to increase the temperature of something).\n\nOnce the snow dugout has melted, then you're wet and in the cold.\n\nThere is an exception to this rule, if you can keep the snow cooler than 32 F, it'll do a good job of blocking air flow and help insulate. Say you had a waterproof heavier coat that won't let much heat out. You'd be better off putting some snow on top of that coat than just lying around. However, if your breath touches the snow it comes undone.\n\nAnd in case you're wondering about my obsession with air flow, think of it this way: imagine a party, you meet people and the people there warm up to you as time passes by. However over a period of time people come and go. If you want to have the most people warm to you, you want the party to stay the same as long as possible. If the party keeps changing, then no one will warm up to you.\n\nHope this helps your kids.",
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"body": "I dunno. The survival school in Antarctica tells you that if you are in an aircraft crash, that you should leave the airframe and create your own shelter. The explanation is that the metal vehicle skin conducts heat much better than a snow shelter does, and it will be colder in the aircraft.\n\nDunno how that applies to Russians and vans.",
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"body": "What I would do:\n\nTake a knife and cut straight down the sides of the seat cushions. Rip them out. pack snow around the sides of the van. Sleep under the van with the cushion under and around you. If it's a girl, I might try stripping down and wrapping our clothes around both of us, but I would NOT have sex because of the exhaustion and slow down after. If it's a guy, I'd have to be pretty fucking desperate to take my shirt off.\n\nWhy?\n\nYou need a small, dry airspace with no wind. If you sleep in the van, the volume and surface area are too large for you to heat it enough. If you sleep in the snow, you have problems with moisture and thermal enthalpy. You can heat the cushions. You can even warm up that airspace a few degrees. If you strip down and hold eachother, it reduces your heat loss over that shared area to zero - which is the same as being out on a 37 degree day. It helps ALOT.\n",
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"body": "Yeah, I have a hard time with that game as well...\n\n\\> Build dugout in snow \n \n You can't do that! \n \n\\> Camp out in abandoned van \n \n You are eaten by a grue. \n \n You are stranded in the snowy woods at night. You see an abandoned van. \n",
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"body": "It may be cold in the van, but at least you don't have to dig a ditch; either way, you get shielded from the wind. ",
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