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songs for novice drummers? | So I'm a fairly new drummer, and I was wondering what songs everybody learned on? Or if you know of some easier songs that are fun to play.
i guess to start things off, here are a couple songs that were among the first i learned:
* [Lit - My own worst enemy](http://www.ttabs.com/tabs.php?id=5905)
* [Red Hot Chili Peppers - Scar Tissue](http://www.ttabs.com/tabs.php?id=151651)
* [Bad Religion - 21st Century Digital Boy](http://www.ttabs.com/tabs.php?id=52033)
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"body": "Drummer for 15+ years:\n\nJust because you're a new drummer, doesn't mean you have to play crappy music. \n\nJames Brown... Play till you get it right. It's easy to play along, but hard to get the groove right",
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"body": "Go find The Wallflowers' \"One Headlight\", and play that for an entire week. If you can get that one down, feel, and everything, you're set for life.\n\nI'm being serious -- groove is far and away the most important thing for a drummer to get under their belt. Don't waste any time watching Thomas Lang double-kick videos on Youtube, just learn some grooves. Youtube search for Matt Chamberlain and Steve Jordan. Notice how they're playing with huge acts yet aren't flashy. They make the music feel good.",
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I'm in Salt Lake City for 21 days. Anything interesting I should check out? | Here for business, training for my new job. I'll be working a lot but will have some free time in the evenings. Any suggestions on what I should do?
I snowboard and want to go to a good resort, I've never been to real mountains so anyone have some suggestions? | 3 | [
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"body": "Regardless of your belief or lack there of, the Temple square tour is very interesting from a historical standpoint. Also they do regular FREE mini-concerts and choir practice in the tabernacle in the evenings. Ask around town. Good way to spend evenings. Weekends are when you can go to the mountains.",
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"body": "Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta, Alta.",
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Ask Fungit: tips on growing edible mushrooms? | There's a big pile of yard trimmings (tree branches, raspberry canes, weeds etc.) in the middle of my garden and I want to grow some edible mushrooms on it this spring to help break it down for compost. I have never grown fungi of any kind before. Any suggestions on varieties, techniques, where I would be able to obtain spores/plugs, etc? | 9 | [
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"body": "[fungi.com](http://fungi.com/) has always been good to me. Pure cultures, great knowledge of what to do, large selection of good books on the subject. They sell kits for edibles which are very helpful for beginners which cost $30 for most species, which come with colonized spawn, humidity tent, and instruction booklet with detailed instructions on exactly what to do with that particular species. It's a great way to get started, as you can't go wrong as long as you follow the instructions. And there's no reason you can't clone from the biggest fruit, try to collect sporeprints, or just wait until it stops flushing and use break up what's left of the spawn into pieces to spread on the compost outside. It should colonize that pretty easily. Go for some Oysters your first time around, can't go wrong with that, they're super easy. \n\nAnd if you feel like doing some reading on the subject, maybe check out Mycelium Running, by Paul Stamets. The book explains all the hidden potential of mushrooms and how they are capable of changing the world, as well as going over various modern cultivation methods and hunting methods of shroom hunters. ",
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Game of 1/16 to 2/13: The Legend of Zelda: A Link to the Past | According to the [results](http://www.reddit.com/r/gamingclub/comments/anxhq/) at 12:00 midnight EST, [The Legend of Zelda: A Link to the Past](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Link_to_the_Past) has won as the first game of Gamingclub with 13 votes total. In second was Knights of the Old Republic with 12 votes. In third was Thief: The Dark Project with 11 votes.
IRC:
#gamingclub @ irc.rizon.net | 8 | [
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"body": "For people looking for the game, typing in snes emulator on your favorite torrent site should give you good results. Emulator + Rom is 5 mbs total, so this should be a breeze to acquire.\n\nAlso anyone who plans to participate this month, please reply in this post. It'd be good to see who'll be playing with us.\n\nEdit: I'm playing.",
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Biblical lifespans and R. Crumb or 'Why did people live so long in genesis?' | So, for Christmas I got my girlfriend R. Crumb's The Book of Genesis Illustrated. I got just past Noah's flood, and I can't figure out why everyone in the bible used to live so long (950 years for Noah). I tried to do some cursory research online but all I can find are websites by Christians trying to justify it somehow (or retcon it, if you like Marvel comics).
Some 'explanations' I've found so far:
- Humans walked closer with god back then, so they lived longer
- Aliens came to earth and *they* lived a long time, and interbred with humans, slowly shortening their lifespans over time.
- People didn't eat meat before the flood
- It had never rained before the flood, so the earth was covered in a nourishing water vapor.
Obviously, none of these explanations are helpful. No one I can find is writing from the perspective that the book is obviously fiction, but there's still a reason why someone would write that a person lived for 900 years. What I want to know is if it's simply just some translation problem, or if there's some precedent or meme in ancient culture for inhumanly long lives that has since been lost.
tl;dr Why the hell did people live so long in the book of genesis? | 10 | [
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"body": "One idea is that they counted full moons instead of years.\n\nA better explanation though is that it's all made up bullshit. :)",
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"body": "It's actually just a artifact of the era it was written in. I can't really give specific examples, but basically it was standard for kings and rulers of the time to outlandishly exaggerate how long they lived as a kind of iron-age propaganda. During an era where the average person died before they turned thirty claiming that you lived to be 1000 would make you seem god-like, and potentially make your enemies hesitate before fighting a guy who \"lived\" to be 1000. The bible claiming long life spans isn't as unique as people would like to think. ",
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"body": "I think your first bullet is closest to the rationale. The idea is that humans have been on a decline since Adam. If you remove disease, life gets longer. If you remove all disease, all evil, all causes of death but simple old age--who knows how long a person will live. Back when this book was written, humans actually did not know very much about their own bodies. They may well have believed that it was possible to live that long if an individual was extraordinary. -- and the Bible is supposedly telling the tale of the most extraordinary individuals to ever walk the Earth.",
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What is the most number of times you have had sex in a 24 hour period? | Random questions, and also LADIES: How many times does it take for your lady parts to become sore ?
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"body": "When I was 16 and had just lost my virginity, my ex and I did it 20 times in one day. I remember counting because I was young, excited at my new found sex life, crazy in love and thought it was interesting to keep tabs then. Now I hurt after two times. To be young again...",
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"body": "Four times.\n\nThe lady and I each had four orgasms.\n\nBut it took place only over a five hour period. Good times.",
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"body": "11 or 12 times. Me and my ex used to have weekends where all we would do was have sex.\n\nI'm not a lady, but generally speaking there wasn't a set number of times at which she would get sore. It was just important that we went slow the first time. There was one time though that something must have torn slightly inside of her, because we went to have sex again, and it hurt her. It completely freaked me out. The next day was the only time I've ever failed to launch.",
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"body": "Twice. And considering I've only had sex three times I considered that an accomplishment. Until I read this thread.",
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"body": "How do you measure this? Male orgasms? Female orgasms? How many times you stopped to make a sandwich or go to the bathroom or sleep?\n\nI really have no idea.",
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"body": "Well, one day I had sex for a combined total of 18 hours. No clue how many times that added up to, as I lost track after the first 5 hours or so. ",
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"body": "Seven was the most. Average tends to be three or four if I can, hah. Although, typically, the lady parts are a wee bit tired after that.",
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"body": "Back when I had marathon sex that's exactly what it was -- a marathon. It was literally a whole day having sex with breaks in between to rehydrate and have a smoke. But my girly parts would be sore as hell afterwards.",
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"body": "my guy is pretty big (width and length) so after one solid go at it i have the potential to be sore, depending on how ferocious the sex is. having sex right afterwords means i'll be extra sensitive, especially when he is rougher... but it doesn't exactly hurt. \n\nthere is a fine line though... i like it particularly rough, but it does lead to bruising and being a bit sensitive for a while. it's a trade off i'm willing to take though!\n\nalso, feeling bruised during the day only reminds me of the awesome sex i had the night before, haha. ",
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"body": "It really depends on how big your partner is. Big boys can leave you sore and sorry for yourself after one wild fling. \n\n3 or 4 sessions in a day is normally enough to motivate me to keep my legs closed for the rest of the day. I can generally feel an ache, down there, the next day if I do that. \n\nTo answer your overall question, 9. It was hard to walk straight the next day. The hardest part of many sessions in one day, or even just very long sessions, is keeping sensation; especially if your partners are bigger than average. \n\nI had one partner who could keep it up after he'd cum. He could probably manage 15 or 20 orgasms in a day before he was too sensitive to have sex any more. He was also built like a donkey. After about 20 minutes of sex with that thing my vagina went numb, and not in a nice way. ",
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"body": "Seven. As for how long it takes before I get sore, it depends on what the sex is like. If we're taking it easy with breaks and we use lube when things start to dry out, I can go for quite a while. ",
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"body": "edit: weird.. meant to say: greater than 18. Hurray for all inclusive resorts! \nWas run absolutely raw for a few days afterwards though, probably wouldn't do it that much again. After about 10 it just gets uncomfortable.",
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"body": "No idea, but it would have been at a peak during a 5 day stint where we were house sitting for her parents. I find that after you have busted your nut a couple hundred times over the years, you stop counting individual times and just think of it as a single session that can last as long as it desires. Over that 5 day session, the only time we put pants on was if we needed to go to the shop for something. Not much of that house was left un-defiled. Kitchen table was the highlight, perfect height ;). After that 5 days, we both were left with scars. got rubbed raw by the end of 3 days, but we, being stubborn nymphos, didn't admit it and kept on chugging, all be it a little more gently. Had to be careful for about a year after that because if we had sex too many times in a short period, the micro tears on my penis would reopen and become a painful hindrance. Amusingly, upon a cervical exam a year or so later, she was asked if there had been any sexual abuse. that's when we found out she had a few internal scars to complement my own... ",
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Ask Foodit: How much time do you spend preparing meals? | So the other day I was making dinner and set my stopwatch as I was searing a steak (I like 2 minutes each side on high heat). I forgot to stop the stopwatch, and noticed after finishing eating my dinner that only about 30 minutes passes between my first item touching a hot stove and me finishing my food and starting to wash my dishes.
As far as my morning routine, I'm usually able to scramble eggs, make toast, grind coffee, brew coffee in a press, eat my breakfast and transfer my coffee to a thermos - then wash dishes and still be out the door around 20 minutes after stepping into the kitchen.
Now, since Rachael Ray has made an entire career annoying me with her shortcuts, it surprised me that I can make real meals faster than her, all while my stuff looks better (and probably tastes better) than hers.
As background, I work around 50 hours per week and mostly eat alone when at home (my roommate is a vegetarian who mostly eats tv dinners).
So, I just wanted to ask all you food enthusiasts out there - especially for those with non-food-related day jobs, how much time do you spend making breakfast and/or dinner? How does living with someone (SO's or kids or even roommates) change things? | 3 | [
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"body": "I will disgust you by saying that I am retired and now spend all the time I have always wanted to have for cooking. I am learning to appreciate slow cooking techniques and have time for more complex cooking. Today, I had a vegetarian friend over and prepared a dal with red lentils and black beans. I started in early afternoon making a stock which was then used for the beans. Total cooking time was about four hours. \r\n\r\n",
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Some Questions about Libertarianism | * How is Libertarianism different from Anarcho-Capitalism?
* Is parental control anti-libertarian? If not, is communal (but non-governmental) control anti-libertarian?
* Is it anti-libertarian to have any taboos or social restrictions on behavior at all? | 11 | [
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"body": "Different people want different things out of libertarianism. I, for one, don't think that political libertarianism is sustainable -- either personally, or socially -- without a culture that values liberty. You can't push liberty on people who don't want it or see the point in it, and you can't transform a culture from unfree to free by force. I think we saw that with the American and French Revolutions.\n\nThe biggest obstacle that libertarians face today is that the ideas of liberty sound strange and kooky to many people. There are so many misconceptions of what libertarianism means: that it means business gets to treat workers like slaves; that it means disarming against terrorists or other international threats; that it means everybody spends all their time stoned; that it means post-apocalyptic militia racialist survivalism. Libertarians have done a great job of appealing to the fringe and a terrible job of transforming the attitudes of the masses.\n\nMost people in the Western world want to believe that they *already* live in a free society, and they respond to challenges to this belief with outrage or indignity. Consider the common reaction to stories of police brutality -- blame the victim: \"If you didn't want to get beat up you shouldn't have argued with a cop, you idiot!\" Or consider the many, many people in the Western world who believe they have freedom of speech -- but don't think that should apply to blasphemy, or pornography, or to speech by people who are under 18 even outside of school. Or consider the apparently common belief that despite the fact that the majority of people object to this stupid war, that paying taxes to fund it is somehow the expression of the common will.\n\nIt seems to me that the biggest obstacle to a society that values liberty is the deep-seated belief in Authority and Discipline that so many people have. And yes, this is exercised and built in schools and families, as well as in politics.",
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"body": "* Libertarianism recognizes the need for a government to ensure that capitalism actually occurs, rather than allowing thieves and murderers to run rampant.\n\n* What is parental control? Do you mean the exercise of parents' rights to raise their children? No, children are not fully-thinking individuals. They need guidance (which is not to say they need to be oppressed). If a person wishes to submit to communal control he may do so.\n\n* Of course not. It's just anti-Libertarian to enforce them with coercion.",
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"body": "Im an Anarcho capitalist and ive always though of myself as a libertarian. Ive always thought that as anarcho capitilists are simply more consistent libertarians (possibly more strict?)\r\n\r\nAs a libertarian If I ever had kids I would strive to give them as much freedom as possible (way more than any parents would these days)\r\n\r\nAs far as taboos go.. (and anything else for that matter) libertarians don't really care so long as its voluntary.",
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Ask 2XC: are any of you in the same boat, or maybe just perhaps willing to make me feel a bit less self-depricating? | Here's the deal. I'm a little drunk right now and feeling really down on myself. I haven't had a boyfriend or any sexual contact in several years, and I think I just need a little reassurance. I realize there is more to a good relationship than just the physical stuff, but it someone would be so kind as to remind me that I might not be completely repulsive, that would be just awesome...and worthy of upvotes from both my real account and this throw away.
* I'm not what you might consider "fat". My BMI is technically normal, but I am about 5'7" and 150 lbs with almost all of that being held in the ass/hip/thigh area with a noticeable amount of cellulite.
* Furthermore, I am fortunate enough to be of a heritage where I possess an annoying amount of body hair. Not "hirsute", but my arms and nether regions, specifically, are hairier than average. My skin is too sensitive to shave every day and I'm too poor to get laser or regular waxes. I even have that slight bit of annoying stomach/back hair that you can see if you look closely. I'm pretty much half-sasquatch.
* I absolutely HATE my labia. I know they are completely normal, but I have had at least two guys make really hurtful "meat curtain" jokes, even though mine are nowhere near as bad as much of what I have found online. They pretty much look like [this](http://lupulaoi.tumblr.com/post/151239463) (found on /r/nsfw) but significantly darker and without the lovely piercing.
* I have been tested enough times for my doctor to be annoyed at me, and am 100% confident I am STD free...yet I still find that I have a noticeable milky vaginal discharge at all times. The doc says this is normal for some people and I should just get over it. My odor appears totally normal (ie. musky to nothing, depending on the time and level of arousal), yet the taste is usually quite tart. Yes I've tried, and I've been told...no one has complained about this actually, but it just adds to the self-consciousness.
I have guys show an interest in me on a regular basis, but all I can ever think of is how former ones have found me fat/gross/otherwise undesirable, and it makes it really difficult to pursue anything with someone, no matter how nice he seems upfront. I do identify as bisexual, but have never tried anything with a girl since I just feel this overwhelming amount of self-consciousness all the time. I am sure that I could benefit from professional psychiatric help, but for now I thought perhaps the women of 2XC might at least be willing to tell me I'm not all crazy, since we all have our insecurities.
Yeah, I'm just going to reiterate that I'm a tad drunk, lonely, pathetic and hoping for some sympathy.
**Edit:** Thank you all so much for your kind words, it really made me feel a lot better to know that so many of us share so many things. For the ones that asked, I am 23...but I am fully aware that I am somewhat immature for my age. I mean, I still make "that's what she said" jokes on a regular basis! Anyway, this just reminded me of how much reddit rocks and I hope one day I can boost someone's spirits on here the same way. | 20 | [
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"body": "Oh, honey. I'm hairy, too. I take pills every day to try to make some of the hair go away, but, trust me, I'm bleaching that upper lip, and plucking my chin at least once a week. PCOS does that. Thing is, most people who aren't you don't even notice. You pretty much have to point it out before anyone sees it. \n\nThere's no reason to worry about your weight as long as you're healthy. No matter what your body type, there are people out there who consider it ideal. You just have to meet them. \n\nAnd, perhaps most importantly, anyone who has a problem with the appearance of your genitals has just forfeited their right to have access to them. Trust me, you *can* afford to be picky. See paragraph 2. \n\nYou just work on liking you, and someone's going to come along who totally agrees. Take it from a hairy fat girl who has a wonderful husband, and still gets hit on regularly. ;)",
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"body": "Don't worry, I think a lot of us get like this sometimes. We all have our moments and there's nothing wrong with taking some comfort in a little pickmeup. :)\n\nI'm sure you look absolutely lovely. I can fully empathise with the insecurity you feel about your looks. We might well be of the same ethnicity, I too grow a fair bit in those areas though I'm lucky my arms are pretty shaveable and look good and smooth when shaved I suppose; I get annoyed at the fact that I feel like I have to. It's actually kind of encouraging to hear I'm not the only girl out there with that slight bit of stomach hair that can be seen if you look closely.\n\nI despise it and am afraid of shaving it for fear of it growing in darker, which I know is a myth but still... this is about irrationality, isn't it? ::sighs::\n\nI've had people, both close and strangers, compliment my beauty but I'm still quite self conscious about it, I admit, to a point where I kick myself for it constantly. It really sucks, no question. But I know there are days when I look in the mirror and see a queen, and other days when I look as rundown as I feel. It's partially one's own mood and perceptions that influence what you see when you look at yourself in the mirror, at least that's what I find in my own case.\n\nYou're not crazy, this is just a part of life for a lot of us. I have little things about my body that I hate as well. Those guys were, of course, being rather cruel when they made those silly jokes, as was anyone else who was insulting your appearance. If exes have found you fat and undesirable then that seems to be their problem. Your weight shouldn't be an issue and I'm sure you have a lot to offer as a person.\n\nSeeing a therapist isn't a bad idea. It always helps to have another party to talk to who isn't biased. \n\nBut in the meantime self consciousness is overcome by taking pride in your womanhood and taking pride in yourself and the good that you've done. You must own something you consider sexy, or have a favourite outfit. Put it on! Even if it's just to sit around the house. I've felt good when I put on my favourite outfits, felt a sense of pride in how I'd sculpted my appearance. It feels incredibly good and incredibly empowering sometimes.\n\nConfidence comes from faith in yourself as a woman; seek to tie that less to your appearance and more to what you do and who you are. That is difficult, for sure, because we're judged more heavily based on our appearances. But look as good as you want, dress how you want, and keep up with yourself- beyond that screw what anyone else might say.\n\n::hugs::",
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"body": "To hell with the guys in your past who treated you horribly. Give the next guy who shows interest in you a chance and if he treats you badly, to hell with him too.\n\nHairier than average arms will only matter to a guy who would probably find a dozen ways to insult you even if you had the body of Kate Winslet. That's something to realize, if someone wants to find fault in you they will regardless of who you are. If they have a problem with you...it's their problem. You don't have to make it yours, there are plenty of guys out there.\n\nFind someone who shows interest in you. If they are mature they will have no problem dealing with your body. But, and I speak as a guy from my dating experience, if he doesn't find fault in your body don't find it for him. If he is comfortable with your body he would rather not listen to your insecurities about it. If he is trying to make you more comfortable with yourself and all he hears is self-deprecating remarks he'll begin to feel guilty (yeah, it's weird but I can't describe it better than guilt).\n\nI wish you luck in love.",
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"body": "Oh, discharge. I'm definitely in that boat. I always have a lot of it, arousal unrelated, to the point of sometimes using a paper towel to mop myself up. I definitely understand the self-consciousness even though I too have tried it to be sure, and have had no complaints from other people. I especially hate it because sometimes I can faintly smell myself even in clothes, no matter how clean I keep myself, just from what leaks out during the day (probably only because I'm always aware of it, but still), and I'm always way paranoid if anyone puts their head in my lap. It's so fucking annoying, I think that is the thing I hate most about ladyhood (most of it I enjoy, but when I stand up after sitting for a while and a tablespoonful or more all comes out at once, what the fuck!).\n\nOn the bright side, you should love your hips and ass and thighs. That is a good place to hold your weight. For the most part, this idea of having a big ass and hips be a bad thing comes from other women, and who knows why. Hips and ass tend to be more important than boobs to a lot of guys, and they like them big. I'm decent in that area, but I wish I had a little more. Love yourself, and let a new guy love it. Nothing helps your self esteem more than letting someone worship your body. There are tons of guys out there who like hips and ass and abundant labia. Rock that shit!",
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"body": "It's funny because I have every single one of the \"problems\" that you've mentioned, but I have become increasingly less and less upset about it as the years pass. The only thing that annoys me still is the hair... but like you, my skin is too sensitive and I am too poor. But for every problem you've mentioned, there are people (and many) who either don't care, or like it. \n\nThe weight thing - it's true, lotsa dudes like big butts. I have both a big butt and a dude who likes it, so I can attest to that. I love my ass. \nThe hair thing - people like different things. I dig really hairy guys, while most of my friends hate hair. My boyfriend doesn't give a shit about my hairiness (I'm no werewolf, but it's everywhere, and it's dark) even though I've been made fun of in that past for it. I've actually started kind of liking my hair (at least some of it). Gives me character, I guess.\nThe labia thing - did you see [this post](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/anvux/iama_21_year_old_girl_who_is_getting_labiaplasty/)? Plenty of people love that shit. You have to realize that EVERYONE is different. Vaginas are vaginas. All genitals look weird, even the \"normal\" ones.\nAs far as the discharge - if the doctor says it's fairy common, then chances are guys have run into it before. And if no one's complained, then don't worry so much!\n\nI don't know how old you are, but I'm only 21 and have come a very long way from the awkward, self loathing teenager I once was. I'm sure it was a mixture of snagging a couple sweet boyfriends, going through 5 years of therapy (for unrelated reasons, but it still helped with my overall confidence) and realizing that after all these years, living my life for other people wasn't worth it. I also stopped hanging out with boring, vapid people who just made me feel bad about myself. \n\nAnyway, I'm not sure what advice to give you, unfortunately, since it will all sound cliche. All I can say is that the ONLY difference between how I am now and how I was when I hated myself is my confidence. And being me with confidence is so much easier/relaxing/awesome than being me when I hated myself.",
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"body": "How old are you? If it makes you feel any better, this all sounds like stuff you tend to outgrow by 25 at the latest as you figure out your adult self.",
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"body": "Hey I'm drunk too! High five! Of course I'm now watching trash tv on youtube so you may want to revoke your high five with me ;)\n\nYou sound nice. I get what you're saying though. I identify wiht it too. Except I'm fat which makes it all worse. True story. \n\nFirst, I wouldn't worry about a labia like that -- mine is like that and guys have assured me its fun. I Don't really get it, but apparently some people really really dig big inner lips. So, you're hot in that regard. Enjoy that thought for a moment ;).\n\nThe hairy thing. IF someone finds you sexy and they're a great person, they're not even really going to notice the hair. I don't know how old you are, but the older I get the more I get random hair. Its the random hair that bother me moer than the arm hair. Everyone expects hair to be in the normal places. Its that one hair that sprouts from my under chin that pisses me off. (I pluck the shit out of that).\n\nDon't worry abotu a discharge. If a guy knows you're wet they're pleased. I don't htink they even care about random discharges unrelated to sex. IF you're healthy, then don't think twice about it 0-- you've got too many other things to think about. The thing with discharges -- they're a pain but they're normal. I can probably top you -- my discharge BLEACHES my panties. Wtf right? Like if I have red panties, eventually, in the area of discharge it gets paler and paler until its clear its been bleached out. You win. So enjoy it!\n\nSo nows that time when I think \"I should have an alt log in for when I'm drunk.\" but so be it. :)\n\nHang in there and enjoy life. You sound cute.",
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"body": "No matter what you look like, you need to love you. I'm like, twice your size with big floppy boobs that are looking at the floor. And when I asked my mom what I could do to keep them from sagging when I was like 14, she said \"That's just how our breasts are shaped. Your grandmother jokes that hers are tube socks now.\"\n\nWe all have imperfections. You have to love yourself anyway. If you aren't there yet, start small. Any time you start talking negatively to yourself, stop yourself. Replace it with something positive. \n\nDo you have a mirror you use on your own? Write things on it like \"Hello beautiful\" or \"Lookin' good!\". I don't care if you believe it. At first you probably won't. Buy one day you will. So until then, fake it till you make it. \n\nNothing is sexier than confidence. ",
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"body": "I don't think people expect to hear it from guys as often, but I've got perpetual body image issues that I've dealt with for many a year, so I think I can help with some of the self-conscious stuff.\n\nFirst and foremost, find something you like to do and keep doing it until you get good. This absolutely helps with doing away with some of the self-consciousness. Even having a routine can be a powerful tool. In the same vein, I'd recommend trying a workout schedule if you don't already. Not because you're too big (because you are not too big), but because even a relaxed schedule can help make you feel great about yourself. Just make sure that if you decide that a workout schedule is right for you, that you are doing it for yourself and not because what anyone else thinks of you. I don't know your personal habits so I can't be that specific on advice, but those two things help me a lot, even if I'm way down on myself (which is a lot of the time). One warning on the workout front, don't do it because of someone else, do it for yourself. I've gotten into a habit of doing the latter before, and it's not a good path to take.\n\nThe rest of the image issues honestly depend on who you are dating. It's easier said than done, but give a guy a chance, then if they hurt you again, remind yourself that they are d-bags and it's not you.",
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"body": "I know that this is probably not the most helpful comment, because it's difficult, but what you have to do is take your body and own it. Love your hips. Rock your ass. I don't have long inner lips, but I find the obvious \"ladyflower\" very aesthetically pleasing. \n\nIf there's no medical problem with your discharge, don't worry about it. I have that too, and it generally gets replaced by normal vaginal lubricant when I get aroused, so by the time anyone gets down there, it's the same as everyone else's. And body hair is another thing to own. I have a very noticeable happy trail, a huge 70s bush, and frequently armpit hair. I've had men ask me *why* I have them, but I've only been asked to get rid of them once. (I said no; he was a douche and not worth the razor burn.) It's all about being okay with who you are, and not worrying about it. If you find the right kind of person, you don't have to be \"traditionally hot.\" Being confident about your body is sexier than being \"hot.\" There are a lot of men and women out there who think people out of the norm are more attractive.\n\nEDIT: What I also meant to say, is that honey, I've been there. I had an eating disorder in high school and part of college, and I would also shave all my shit despite the fact that my very sensitive skin rebelled every single time. But who you are is who you are, and anyone that is worth being with will realize that and love it. If they don't, they're douchebags who aren't worth your time. ",
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"body": "You shouldn't worry about guys or girls until you have worked out your self consciousness. \n\nNot being self conscious is a critical part of choosing a good person to be with and of being a person good enough to be with.\n\n",
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"body": "your liquid is supposed to be there, I have that. My husband really likes it. Change the style of guy you go for, those sound really like they should be in third grade. Be proud of yourself and you are NOT fat. Make other areas in your life important and the right guy will come along. Someone who loves you would never call your vagina a meat curtain. If you meet a guy wait and make sure you really hit it off and he is sensitive before you take the next step. ",
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"body": "Aww, you worry too much. You sound healthy and attractive. Being single at 23 is totally normal, and definitely doesn't mean you're some sort of unloveable freak; there's lots of people who will love you despite (and for) your supposed flaws. Point by point:\n\n**Fat**: 5'7\" and 150 lbs sounds pretty much ideal. Seriously, I'd love to be that height/weight. Lots of guys love big butts, don't fret about it. Also, cellulite is pretty much universal and unrelated to weight. I'm 110 lbs (5'5\"), considered underweight, and I still have cellulite. \n\n**Fur** Humans are furry. Dark-haired humans have darker fur. No big deal. Anyone looking closely enough at your stomach or back to notice some extra fur will either find it cute or not care, unless they're a superficial jerk not worth your while. My sister has quite noticeable back fur (you can see it from a meter away in some light) and she's the cutest thing ever. Nobody seems to mind, most people find it adorable. If you're really self-conscious about it, try an epilator. I've heard they work wonders.\n\n**Labia** My labia look exactly like what you're describing...well, except mine are almost greyish, and also one lip is split in half width-wise from an unpleasant accident years ago. I used to be super self-conscious about them, but seriously, who's genitals don't look funny? If a guy ever makes a mean comment about your labia, give him a description of what his balls look like. And then dump him and find a guy who will give your naughty bits the love they deserve.\n\n**Taste/colour** Meh, I nearly always have some milky, clumpy discharge, and I taste pretty tart, too. My boyfriend says I taste amazing, and really that's all that matters.\n\n**TL; DR** You sound completely normal and healthy. Stop worrying so much!\n\n\n\n",
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What are good ways that I can educate myself? | I am looking to raise my knowledge in all areas. I got a 32 on the ACT so I definitely have potential to become a very smart person, I just don't feel like normal schoolwork is enough to put me on the path. | 3 | [
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"body": "Get hold of the reading lists for a couple of first year college courses. Read the textbooks. This is more than most people who actually go to college do.",
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"body": "open your mind, read books, ask questions and surround yourself with intelligent people. don't watch jersey shore.",
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"body": "Library card?\r\n\r\nI hate schoolwork. I dropped out of college after a couple years. The thought of going back sends chills down my spine... but I read technical books every day. I'm re-teaching myself vector geometry for fun... no application to my job or life, but I've forgotten much of it in the past 10 years.",
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"body": "To get the ball rolling, pick a few things on wiki, read about them, then click some links and you'll get a fair grasp of what their about. This will get you interested in certain things and you'll know exactly what you want to study, and in what order.",
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What's the first REALLY stupid thing you've ever said aloud when high? | For me, the first time I was ever actually ashamed of something I said out loud while high, I was laying on my friends couch while he was on his computer at the table, and it was maybe my fourth time smoking.
After a long lull in the conversation, both of us lost in Sufjan Stevens or Animal Collective or something, I said
"Hey [J], do you know what I HATE?"
"What's that, [A]?"
"When someone on the Price is Right bets $1 over someone else's bid."
"That's... great, [A]."
Yep. | 17 | [
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"body": "i was smoking with my black friend and he was talking nonsense and it said to him accidentally \"NIGGA PLEASE!!!\"",
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"body": "Me: We have to watch the time because we're supposed to eat at 7.\n\nMy brother: It's 7:30.\n\nMe: Did we already eat?",
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"body": "OK, so it was my friend's first time doing pot. It was in some dude's basement. So like two hours after smoking up my friend goes into the closet. After realizing he went into the closet, I knocked on the door and asked him, \"yo, what are you doing in there?\" And he said, \"dude, if the police come to arrest us, we can hide in here and we'll be safe.\"",
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"body": "my sister: \"why don't people just use their mouths as bongs? like hold the water and bubble it in their mouth?\"\nme: \"you would inhale water...\"\n\none night we forgot to put water in the bong. it was freezing and snowing and we were already pretty high. we go outside, and my sister takes a MONSTER rip, not realizing it. she pukes on our deck a bit, looks up and goes \"wonder if my barf will freeze?\"\n\ni tend to be quiet when i'm high, otherwise i over-think what i'm saying and screw something up.",
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"body": "i remember when i was 14 or 15 and my friends went and smoked weed for the first time ever, my friend came back and just sat on the floor silently for about 30 minutes. he then slowly turns his head over to face me with an astonished look on his face and proceeds to tell me that \"the world is a bread box\".",
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"body": "While ordering at McDonald's: \"I would like your finest CHEEEEEEESED burger.\"\n\nAlso, directly before this, my friend ordering: \"I'd like a Quarter pounder meal with a Big ol' drink and Big ol' fries.\" He then turns to me with a look of accomplishment and comments: \"I said Big ol'\"",
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"body": "My friend and I are sitting in his basement listening to music, both zoned out. All of a sudden he turns to me and goes:\n\n\"Yo man, when I grow up I want to be a whale. I want to swim around in the warm waters off of columbia where the drug dealers throw dank nugs in the water. I'm gonna scoop them up with my baleen.\"\n\n\nAt baleen I burst out laughing so hard I fell on the floor.",
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Anybody know any good city building MMO games? | I played A Tale in the Desert and liked it, but the graphics are to outdated, and the controls are awkward. Anybody know anything that is like A Tale in the Desert o similar? | 11 | [
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"body": "Well, [Love](http://quelsolaar.com/) should be a city-building MMO, although not as massively multiplayer as traditionally thought.",
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How do I know which Intel CPU is faster? | Used to be you could compare speeds of Intel CPUs by their Hertz. No longer. Intel CPUs have names like Core 2 Duo, Xeon, i5, Quad-core (and even Pentium); they have model numbers like E5200 and Q8500 ... it's all very confusing.
How do I tell which chips are faster than others? | 11 | [
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"body": "You want to pay heed to their properties as well - not all the Intel CPU have hardware support for virtualisation, if you plan on running vmware or other sandboxed OSs or applications you do well to pick a chip that supports that at the hardware level.",
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[Offer] I will tutor you at the Asian strategy game "Go" | Hello, everyone. This is my third offer! I was sitting here thinking "What can I offer?" and the moment this one hit me, I clicked "Submit a link." I knew what must be done!
For those who don't know, go is a strategy game played in many Asian countries. It's thought to be much older than Chess, having originated in China several thousand years ago. It's just about as popular there, if not more so, than chess is here. It first started getting popular in the US thanks to the manga/anime "Hikaru no Go." It's an absolute blast to play, and I enjoy it immensely! In my opinion, it's way more fun and involving than chess. Whereas even grandmasters of chess have admitted that chess is 99% tactics, go requires you to think both tactically and strategically. Fun fact: In the first 32 moves of go, there are more variations that can be played than there are atoms in the known universe!
Now, this offer is mostly for people who have never played before or are beginners, as I am not overly "strong". For those who are familiar with the ranking system, I am about a 4 kyu. This is plenty skilled enough to teach someone how to play, though, as well as help beginners along!
So, any takers? | 15 | [
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"body": "Rescued from Spamgatory. \n\nGreat offer, mate, I'd take you up on it myself except the *last* thing I need is another game to get hooked on. Especially one as complex and engaging as Go. ",
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"body": "I would LOVE to learn. Always been interested in learning how to play, but nobody I knew really wanted to learn.\n\nHow's this going to work? Should I go out and buy a Go board for myself first?\n\nSweet offer.\n\n(Actually, I had two things on my To Do list for 2010...learn how to play the harmonica, and learn how to play Go. Off to a good start!)",
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Not your typical relationship advice - I'm creepy and fucked up | Hi guys. This is about a friendship moreso than an actual relationship. I'm not going to try to make this sound any less creepy than it is- I know how it sounds and there's no point in sugar coating it for the anonymous internet.
Basically, I (a gay male) have a massive infatuation with my straight best friend. We've been best friends for about a year, and ever since I met him I've always been physically attracted to him. At first I was able to mostly ignore it and be just fine, but after a few months it started becoming much harder (hurr hurr haw haw snicker snicker). I love being his best friend and wouldn't want to change that for anything in the world, but it's starting to impact our friendship. I can't jerk off to anything but him anymore, that's how strong the attraction is. Secretly all my fucked up mind wants is for him to turn out to be some kind of repressed homosexual and let me have sex with him. I know realistically this is not going to happen, but that doesn't change the fact that I am incredibly sexually frustrated over him.
One night after I had a bit too much to drink I made the mistake of telling him how much I wanted to have sex with him, etc. He was generally okay with it as long as I never acted on it and didn't actually have one of his typical homophobic responses, probably because he was drunk too. Again, a few days later I fucked up again and even went as far as asking him for a video or nudes of some sort in hopes that it would satisfy me to some extent and kind of remove part of the whole wanting what I can't have attraction. He said no as expected, but at one point in the conversation said something like "Right now the answer is no, and I don't ever plan on changing my mind, but I can't say it with certainty. So I would say it's 99% chance of always being no and a 1% chance I'll change my mind." Of course this answer was really worse that him just flat out refusing and saying it will never happen, because it leaves open that possibility and gives me false hope.
I've never felt so sexually frustrated in my life before. I can't even function around him anymore without jerking off beforehand to temporarily suppress my sex drive. We live together so there's no possibility of just removing him from my life, nor would I want to. I really treasure the friendship we have and don't want to see that end. While I would date him if he were gay or bi, that's not really my main desire with him, and I am more than content staying friends no matter what. The main problem here is the physical attraction.
I sense some repressed homosexuality within him, and even though some other people agree with me, in all likelihood this is just me trying to convince myself of something because I want it to be true. Even if my hunch was spot on, I consciously know that it's not my job to force it out of him. Any advances I make would just hurt things more than help. On the chance that he isn't totally straight, he needs to figure that out on his own without me making him uncomfortable. It's getting to the point where I do stupid things that obviously make him uncomfortable (like grabbing his ass "jokingly") and I can't control myself from doing so. I know it's hurting our friendship and I always kick myself after doing that, but sometimes I don't even have the self control to stop myself. Even while consciously knowing that nothing I do will suddenly make him receptive, I do dumb shit like "pretending" to grab for his junk while joking around. I've still got some stupid hope in me that maybe one time I can convince him to some drunk sex.
During this year I've had a stable boyfriend for several months, but still felt the sexual urges toward my friend during that whole relationship. After the boyfriend and I broke up, I've had one night stands, but those still couldn't help. I just find myself thinking of my friend even when having sex with someone else. I've read the usually good advice of replacing one attraction with a significant other, and it's frustrating that even this hasn't really worked for me.
Help me reddit, I know that was long and rambling, but I really just needed to get it out there after being bottled up for so long. Call me a potential rapist or whatever you want, but I'm genuinely looking for ways to stop feeling so pathetic and desperate. | 9 | [
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"body": "Sorry to tell you this, I know you wont like it but you have to move out for your own good. I think he is enjoying it on some level but that shouldn't give you hope, it should send you running the other way because it is exactly this kind of behavior that will make you keep holding on and becoming more obsessive. If you want to preserve this friendship, find a way to move on.",
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"body": "Don't justify your actions by saying it's \"jokingly\". I don't grab my friends who are girls asses ever, particularly girls that I have a crush on. That is way overstepping the boundary, if you did it pre crush then I'm sorry that's just tough, don't do it now. \n\nThe painful thing for homosexuals is that you put yourself out there and find out that the token of your affections is straight. Not everyone is mr macho 100% manly and gives off absolutely no sign of being gay. What your best friend said about 99% sounds like he doesn't want to lose you as a friend, you put him on the spot and he had to say something to shoot you down but not kill the friendship.\n\nI can really imagine myself being drunk, being caught unawares by someone I care about and blurting out \"emm eeeh well it's not definitely not, you never know in this world right?\" or something like that in an attempt to be nice.\n\nI think you've got a good outlook on it. If you guys get drunk and fool around, even if he isn't gay and it just happens as a spur of the moment thing, he will not forgive you if you out him. If he is confused about his sexuality, I bet he won't forgive you if you keep on at him. \n\nOP, none of your ideal scenarios will lead to anything but losing your best friend. I don't know him, he could be a closet homosexual for all I know but I would tread very carefully. \n\nYou asked him for nude pictures thinking that it would help? Why? Soon the pictures get old and then what? Ask him to strip for you? How old are you? Did you recently come out? I dunno it just reads as someone who is new to the world of homosexuality and is trying out different things, kind of like a high school kid who gets his first girlfriend. \n\nYou really need to reel in the telling your best friend how you feel. I just can't imagine me as a straight male sitting with a female friend, confessing I like them, grabbing their ass and asking them for nude pictures to help me get over them.",
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"body": "He's already made it clear that he's not into you (or guys). Why do you continue to try and pursue this? You're infatuated with someone who will never see you the way you want him to. Nothings going to change that. \nFeelings are not facts. For your own sanity you should probably back away before you end up getting more hurt than what you feel right now. ",
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"body": "I think he answered you in the way that he did because on some level he is enjoying this. He enjoys having this kind of control over someone else. I don't know how consciously aware he is that he is fucking with you. He actually might not be, it could be subconscious. But come on. What an absolute huge ego burst for him. Not only does he attract women but he can't get the gay men to stop obsessing over him! He loves it. He may never have gone so far as to fantasize about a gay experience but he loves the ego boost and the attention.\n\nI don't know how to advise. Is in in a relationship? What kind of age range are you guys in? What type of community do you live in? A small city, big city? How firm are *you* in *your* sexuality? Here's where I'm going with this: There is always a love amongst best friends. Women may be more accepting of this concept than men are but it is true. Perhaps polyamory is a realistic option for your future. How warmly do you feel towards women? Are you a jealous person by nature? Is he? I think being open to a poly lifestyle may be a pathway to finding a way to making this work.\n\nEveryone is saying is not that into you. I'm not sure I agree. I think he would have reacted differently if he weren't that into you. I'm a 100% hetero woman. If a woman I consider a best friend confided the same in me, I would I made it very, very clear I love her a sister and it's **never** gonna happen **ever**. He didn't do that.",
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"body": "I suspect that you are going to need to put some distance between him and you to get over this crush you are feeling. As it stands right now, what is going to happen is you are going to go a little too far over the line one day, and destroy the friendship - and that is going to be the end of any contact with him, by his request. I know you don't want to do that.\n\nFind a way to give yourself some time and space, and try to get this out of your system.",
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"body": "Ok hun, here's what needs to happen:\n\nYou need to talk to him about this while you're sober. Tell him you're attracted to him, tell him it gives you a lot of inner conflict, and ask him what he thinks you should do about it as a friend. If he's really your best friend, he'll take a step back and think about your best interests. But you really need to do this sober.\n\nSecond: Find something else to fixate on. I have OCD, and I know all about fixating on something. My therapist taught me a technique to stop fixation: it's called \"though stopping.\" When you have a thought that you don't want to have, you stop what you're doing and actually say, outloud, STOP. Then you quickly redirect your mind to something \"safe.\" For me, a safe thought is homework. \n\nEventually, you'll train your mind to avoid those particular obsessive thoughts.\n\nThe thing is, the more that we run over a mental circuit, the more it becomes reinforced. You really need to try out the thought stopping: it'll help re-map your brain. You've got a bit of an obsession, an addiction. That's ok, but we just need to work on helping you pull away from it. :)\n\nFeel free to pm me if you'd like to discuss this more in private.",
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"body": "You are in control of your actions. What would you do if this guy WAS gay, and had a boyfriend? Sorry, we don't get what we want, and that's often for the best.",
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"body": "I'll leave the real advice to people who can be more helpful.\n\nBut, DUDE, you're not being creepy (well, not being creepy on purpose. I don't know enough to comment for sure on your maybe creepiness) as you're not pursuing this dude when he's already said no. I think you need to reframe how you think about this problem; if you feel excessively guilty and like a massive creeper, it is going to make getting over your attraction much harder.",
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"body": "You're bff must be pretty open minded to have a gay best-friend. Good for you guys.\n\nRemember, relationships like that are rare. Don't do anything to set the homosexual-friendship movement back 20 years.\n\nEverything action you take, reflects on all gays. It may not be fair, but that's how the world works.",
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"body": ">So I would say it's 99% chance of always being no and a 1% chance I'll change my mind.\"\n\nThis right there is a good indication that he is using you for an ego-boost. WTF? You don't say that to someone you care about who you KNOW is attracted to you. That's basically a \"HELL NO, but I'll string you along and give you an ounce of false hope to keep you around and attached to me, not just as a platonic friend but as a lusting, pining mess who'll still hope against hope that one day I'll change my mind even though I clearly won't.\"\n\nStop idealizing him. He has flaws. Lots and lots of flaws. You know what they are. And he is not being very nice about the whole thing with you...\n\n",
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What books do you hate? | For me, it has to be Agatha Christie novels and their ilk. Raymond Chandler echoes my feelings towards this genre in his essay [The Simple Art of Murder](http://www.en.utexas.edu/amlit/amlitprivate/scans/chandlerart.html) I honestly have no clue why so many people gush about Agatha Christie mysteries. They're contrived, often boring, and in many of the cases, it's not really possible to deduce the killer without just guessing, because the detective will pop up with some crucial information in their long parlor room soliloquy. | 17 | [
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"body": "Because someone has to say it: Atlas Shrugged. Monologues that rationalize greed don't make a novel, no matter how many pages you fill.\nAlso: Left Behind. Instead of making a compelling appeal for their brand of Christianity, LaHaye just keeps repeating the notion that \"You'll all be real sorry you're not a believer, real soon.\" If you don't have a desire to persuade the unredeemed, you're not cut out to be an evangelist.\nI finished reading both of those books only out of spite.",
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"body": "The first spot on my list has to be Xenocide. \r\n\r\nLot of unnecessary philosophy, almost all problems coming from characters being just plain stubborn, and what I believe to be worst ending I have read so far\r\n\r\n\r\n.\r\n\r\n\r\n............\r\nspoilers ahead\r\n...............\r\n\r\n\r\n.\r\n\r\n\r\n.\r\n\r\n\r\nwhere all problems are solved simply by wishing for it. Literally, everybody enters a big box and wishes really hard for something(cure for cancer, hyper space travel, which of course is powered by power of wishing, brand new body...). ",
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"body": "The Scarlet Letter. It was forced on me in high school and I've never seen fit to forgive either the book or the teacher.\n\nA close second would be Ulysses by James Joyce - primarily because it showed me how puny my intellect truly is.",
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"body": "Anything by Dan Brown. Now I've only read The Da Vinvi Code, but because that was so painful to read, I have no desire to read any of his other work. \r\n\r\nThe Driftless Area by Tom Drury. ",
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"body": "\"Tuesdays with Morrie\" and all other by Mitch Albom's books. He visited Morrie to write a book about it. I hate books where authors think of the book idea first and then live the experience in order to write about it.",
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"body": "*Twili...* just kidding.\n\n*Eragon.*\n\nAlthough I do think Twilight's not sterling literature, at least SMeyer didn't take all her story ideas off her favourite authors or films.\n\nEragon's got better in the originality side as time's gone on, but it is still so absolutely ridiculous at points, it deserves my ire.\n\n*Spelling.",
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"body": "Tess of the d'Urbervilles\n\nMost depressing, shitty work of fiction ever. **EVER**\n\nEvery single goddamn character is a moron, and I found myself unable to identify with any of them. Typically, this means I want them *all* to die by the end.",
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"body": "It's hard to say because if I hate a book, I just put it down and quit. \n\nI did loathe the last 10% of *The Lovely Bones* so maybe that counts.",
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"body": "I can't believe nobody has mentioned the garbage that is The Secret. I work at a bookstore, it still feels like people still ask for it on a daily basis. And in that vein, the Twilight trilogy.\n\nI haven't read either.\n\nI would also like to include Flowers in the Attic. It's supposed to be a classic, but the writing is so entirely weak and annoying. I especially despise any author who starts off a sentence with the word \"For\" more than a handful of times. (IE, For Emily was a bright young girl, with a hat made of porridge to keep her company. For it was to be a long journey, with little hope of respite. For the entirety of the country, unknowingly, also hated porridge.)",
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"body": "Enders Game. Written by a right wing homophobe hate monger. A plot that is predictable with an ending that disappoints. A book I would call simply a mediocre story, it’s not the worst book in the world, but when I think about the man who wrote it I just think “eww”.\nBut the real reason I hate it is it’s ubiquity. Everyone seams to love this novel and it’s on a lot of intelligent peoples top ten lists. You go to Strand Bookstore in New York and it’s on the “Favorites” table, right next to all the good books! You read the reddit book thread and you keep steping in this novel like your stepping in poo. I hate this novel since it has a better reputation than it deserves.\n\n",
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"body": "The closest thing I can think of would be *The DaVinci Code*. Usually if I don't like something I don't finish reading it... so not to much pops up in my mind that I hate. I read that whole book,l though, because a friend wanted me to so we could talk about it.\n\nThe plot might have been ok... but it was hard to tell with the absolutely abysmal writing. Possibly the worst writing I've ever put up with.",
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"body": "I really can not stand Catcher in the Rye. That book is so fucking bad. What a whiner. I never read it in High School and so last summer took it upon myself to read it. Holy crap, it was bad. \n\nAs a plus, the book allows me to filter people on the internet quite well. If someone lists it as a favorite book I know they are a whiney douche right away.",
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"body": "A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius. The book was written well, and had a lot of wonderful, powerful moments, but in the end its message just left me with a sour taste in my mouth, so sour that it invalidated all I'd felt about the book until then. And I can't even skim it now, because of how much I detest it.",
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"body": "Robin Hobb's Liveship Traders trilogy. *Worst. Books. Ever.* Her characters are steamrolled cardboard. She seems to have given each at least one excessively irritating trait that isn't ever resolved. \n\nHer rape scene in book three gave me frigging flashbacks. I can understand if you've not been raped and don't think it's any problem to write a rape scene in order to demonstrate the low character of your anti-hero who later dies surrounded by those who love him and is never punished for his actions. Ignorance and apathy can be forgiven, with time. But if you *have* been raped, and still choose to include a detailed rape scene in your book, for the love of God, POST A WARNING! What the hell are you thinking, throwing that out there? If you write it to make a point that it's horrible, shouldn't you consider those of us whom you'll force to relive our traumatic experiences?? Jeez, woman! You are NOT the only woman in the world who has been raped! Unfortunately.\n",
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I'm a web designer and I'd like to learn how to make applications, not just content websites. Where do you suggest I start? | I know some PHP, nothing about databases, and I'm willing to try whatever technology you think its best for a beginner. | 20 | [
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"body": "Make a simple blog system. It will teach you:\n\n- How to setup your (L/W/M)AMP system\n- How to create a database\n- How to setup a table to store the blog posts that includes a few different types of data\n- How to make an \"add post\" page\n- How to make an \"edit post\" page\n- How to escape input from the user\n- How to handle POST and GET data\n- How to retrieve data from a database and present it\n\nOnce you have the basic add/edit posts going, you could add some extra features:\n- A login system to add/edit pages\n- An image upload system\n- A search feature\n- Comments\n\nA few points:\n- Don't expect to do a great job the first time. I wouldn't recommend doing a commercial job first pop.\n- Feel free to start again and make a few attempts. Each time you'll be learning more.\n- I'd recommend learning with PHP simply because there are lots of tutorials and info on the net.\n- The basic concepts of how it all works is the same between different languages.",
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"body": "I would pursue a framework like Django or Rails. I prefer Django personally. Both abstract away the database layer for you. Django has tons of development shortcuts that allow you to basically define your models and html layout and you're up and running. Plus the documentation is excellent and the community as well. ",
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"body": "Ruby on Rails. Seriously. \n\nCheck out their complete blog app in 15 minutes screencast - and realise that's not even scratching the surface. \n\nhttp://rubyonrails.org/screencasts",
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"body": "'[PHP and MySQL Web Development](http://www.amazon.co.uk/PHP-MySQL-Web-Development-3rd/dp/0672326728)' got me started. Once you get the hang of the basics you'll want to check out some frameworks like [Zend Framework](http://framework.zend.com/) for making building up apps much easier.",
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"body": "Learn Ruby! Learn Ruby! (Just kidding -- can you blame me for trying to protect my turf a little? :) )\n\nHonestly, you'll be amazed what you can learn from those \"Learn PHP in 24 Hours\", \"MySQL for Dummies\", \"Linux for Dummies\", and \"PHP for Dummies\" books can get you. It will teach you the LAMP stack.\n\nJust note this, however. If you really want to get rolling with PHP, you're going to have move beyond just LAMP and use a framework like [Kohana](http://www.kohanaphp.com/). There are many frameworks for PHP, but when they called a vote on Reddit on the most popular one, I think I saw that Kohana won the ratings war. (At least I think that's what I recall.)\n\nBut then again, I wanted to suggest to you a different path:\n\n1. Unless you don't already have this -- get a day job that keeps a steady income and isn't too rough to handle, where you kind of just float along without much of a challenge, and which pays so-so.\n\n2. Write down your ideas on paper and sort the easy ones to the top. Run these by a friend to see which ones seem dumb and cross those off.\n\n3. Save up your work cash until you have about $3000. Hop on Craigslist and offer to a developer the following deal. You can also link to this listing from Twitter.\n\n*I am an entrepreneur with a set of great site ideas. I would like to see if you can get something going for me quickly here on one of these ideas for just $3000 and 30 days. I know that's low for 30 days of solid work, but you'll also be granted an equity stake on the project for 20% profit share, and that contract will last for 3 years. To begin this project, I will give you 20% up front, another 20% in 10 days, and then a final payment at the end of 30 days of solid work. If I don't get 8 hours of solid work from you per day for 5 days a week and up to 30 days, the final payment will be a little less, but you'll at least earn 80% of what budget I have for this project. So it's really up to you and your talents.*\n\n*I'll make a decision to hire you based on 2 reference phonecalls and 3 sites from your portfolio, as well as 2 phone interviews -- one done by me and another by a coworker.*\n\n*You will also have to go through the standard NDA paperwork on this project as can be expected, but no other contracts will be required.*\n\nSee what I'm doing there? Instead of *YOU* having to do any work, you outsource it and reap most of the reward.",
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"body": "I always get the feeling my code is not reliable enough. How do you get from amateur to pro? I have a feeling this is a big gap to cross if you're not formally trained in programming.",
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"body": "People aren't going to like me for saying this, but try [Microsoft Visual Web Developer Express 2008](HTTP://MICROSOFT.COM/express/vwd). It's got a built in DB engine and web server, it builds databases from diagrams, you basically don't have to code *anything*, and the tutorials are fantastic. \n\nMake sure you select c#, not VB as the programming language. Don't get too stuck into ASP.net, it's just a great drag and drop 'getting started' point. Beyond that, it's a disaster - once you understand the concepts, switch to Ruby or whatever you might want professionally.",
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"body": "Before (or at least *while*) you jump into some specific server side language (PHP, Python, Ruby, Java, C#, whatever), *make sure you understand the general concepts of web development*, i.e. which components are involved and how they interact (e.g. client side, HTTP as a protocol, web servers, server side programming language, databases etc.). Importantly, learn about the various security issues from the start.",
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Can you help me find quality non-American, non-British TV shows? | I know Reddit is mostly American and British, but there are also quite a few of non-American redditors out there. If you are one, could you name some TV shows you like from your country, especially those you consider unique?
Even if they are hard to find I want to make an effort and watch something different. | 35 | [
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"body": "[The Chaser's War on Everything](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iDIsOqq6yko) out of Australia is really good. ",
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"body": "Will Asian shows do? Hope you don't mind subtitles. You'll have to put some effort to find these. Here goes:\n\nWaterboys (Japanese) - A bunch of highschool guys set out to start a synchronized swimming group.\n\nStand UP!! (Japanese) - This is kind of like a TV version of American Pie \n\nProposal Daisakusen (Japanese) - The love of his life is getting married to someone else, but he doesn't want it to end it that way. His guardian angel appears and sends him back in time to maybe change things. I loved this drama; possibly my favorite.\n\nStrawberry on a shortcake (Japanese) - A boy meets a girl and finds she's going to be his stepsister. He falls in love with her. \n\nI'm Sorry I Love You (Korean) - Guy gets shot and has a bullet lodged in his brain. Find out that he only has a few months to live, so he sets off his mother that abandoned him as a baby. This is a very sad show, but it's awesome.\n\nCouple or Trouble (Korean) - A rich and arrogant lady gets amnesia and ends up living with a not so rich dude. It's a comedy and one of the best out there.\n",
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"body": "[Slings and Arrows](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slings_and_arrows). Canadian. Paul Gross. Mark McKinney. Wonderful.",
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"body": "Canadian here, some quality shows that pop into my head: Little Mosque on the Prairies, The Rick Mercer Report, Corner Gas\n",
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"body": "Father Ted is was a popular irish series (http://www.amazon.co.uk/Father-Ted-Complete-1st-DVD/dp/B00005LOKA/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=dvd&qid=1263731684&sr=8-3)\nWe've an up and coming show that's called Hardy Bucks, it's a bit like an Irish Trailer Park Boys..It's being made into a proper TV series though, may not be found funny than anyone other than Irish people though! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qq-G2ugAG44)",
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"body": "If you don't mind it not being current, I highly recommend Lars von Trier's The Kingdom: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Kingdom_(TV_miniseries)\n\nStarts off strange, gets progressively stranger. I suppose it's a bit like a Danish Twin Peaks.",
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"body": "*The Hour* is Canada's only late-night talk show. I find it so much better than American talk shows in many ways. It's real conversation, no censoring, and guests can speak a lot more freely than if they were on American TV. Here's a clip: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XLPo0D1rCGs",
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"body": "There is a good Australian show called 'the Circuit', its about legal circuits that deal with Aboriginals in northern Western Australia and the Northern Territory. If you don't have much of an idea about how badly treated Australian Aboriginies are, its a really really good watch.",
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"body": "[Regenesis](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ReGenesis) is a great Canadian show about viruses, diseases and a multinational laboratory dealing with it. I found the science aspects relatively correct and it had interesting characters. ",
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"body": "my korean mother-in-law would love to have someone to watch her soap operas with. are you volunteering?\n\nmy favorite show not in english is sabado gigante. i'm not fluent in spanish, but it doesn't really matter with this show.",
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"body": "[The Micallef Programme.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_nzMo1BpDeA)\n\nI swear, the man is one of Australia's greatest comedians.",
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Documentaries on Afghanistan | Over the next 10 weeks I will be working with a group of students to write a comprehensive report to the US government abut policy recommendations for the next steps in Afghanistan. I have watched a few great documentaries such as Obama's War and the Opium Trail, but i was wondering if anyone knew of other documentaries that could give a good look into military operations, culture, religion, drug trade, etc in Afghanistan. Help please! | 6 | [
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"body": "Adam Curtis has been digging through BBC archive footage and posting a few gems on his [blog](http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/adamcurtis/) over the last few months. Until recently these were only viewable in the UK, but I believe they've recently been opened to international viewers. The *Kabul: City Number One* posts are absolutely fascinating, and should be of interest to you. Good luck!",
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DAE love winning Monopoly? | I just was playing with my family on our last "family" night before I go back to college. My brother was in the lead with two monopolies both with houses on each. The last round had come and my dad had given me boardwalk to give me a monopoly with park place. I had a pair share of money so I bought three houses for park place and boardwalk. I roll and move right past my brothers monopolies and land safely on my dad's mortgaged waterworks. My mom had already lost so play went on to my brother. Now mind you my brother absolutely loves Monopoly, I mean he has like four versions of the game. Anyways he gives me a look of absolute hatred because I missed his spaces but he is on the last stretch of the board before GO. He rolls and gets an eight. He looks up with a face of total despair as he moves those spaces and lands right on board walk! $1400! He tries to say time had run out (referring to the time limit we had placed because we were gonna watch a movie after. But he had to pay :). But to make things even better my dad rolls a ten and lands on Park Place! $1300! I take the lead and win the game by taking $2700 from my brother and father! Though not truly this great, I felt the best way to describe my situation was EPIC WIN! | 16 | [
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"body": "Monopoly's gotta have the worst game design ever.\n\n* You feel shitty if you lose early because you just sit on your ass and watch your friends/family for the next 2 hours.\n* You feel shitty if you're losing in the end game because it takes forever to lose and it just becomes long and drawn out.\n* You feel shitty if you're winning because everyone else gives you the \"I'm losing monopoly, so I'm going to flip over the whole goddamn board and kick your ass any second now\"-death stare.",
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"body": "No. I love coming in second and I'll tell you why.\n\nI don't play a straight forward game of monopoly. My rules are if you can get away with it, it's legal. My other rule is if you are my pawn I will put you on the throne. And it works every time. By the end of the last 5 monopoly game I have played I help no properties, yet help over $3000 dollars in cash, and was taking in revenue from every single property on the board while being immune to any player control property. Lacking in actual properties I could not claim victory, but if you asked anyone at that table. I was in charge of that game. \n\nI do this through a simple series of trades. Usually starting with the railroads. I give others a monopoly on the condition that I take 50% profits. Gradually this adds up and up and up. Usually after making 2 or 3 deals a few other players will band together to try and stop me, but then I stick a hotel on their ass, or offer to give them a hotel for free and the alliance crumbles. One by one they begin to fall away and I consolidate my power even further until I \"own\" the entire board. \n\nAnd if your wondering how I guarantee my deals remain unbroken, I have a pad of paper I quickly scrawl out a legal document on. And I always include heaps of 'fine print'. ",
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Why do double vinyl records put sides 1 and 4 on one record and 2 and 3 on the other? | Wouldn't it make more sense for 1 and 2 on one and 3 and 4 on the other? I keep not noticing and playing them out of order... | 6 | [
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"body": "Because the way records had to be [stacked](http://www.retroradiozone.com/crosley_stack_o_matic_cr89.html) by automatic turntables back in the day",
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"body": "because of automatic changer turntables. the two records go in a stack at the top of a tall spindle. side 1 drops down and plays, while the platter with side 2 remains at the top of the spindle. then the tone arm gets lifted up and moved out of the way. side 2 drops down and plays. tone arm goes back, turntable clicks off.\n\nthen you pick up the stack and turn it over as a unit. put it on the top of the spindle. side 3 drops down and plays... \n\n/now, get off of my lawn.",
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"body": "So when you have the records stacked on a turn table, side 1 will play, then side 2 will drop down and play. When you flip the stack, side 3 will drop down and play, then 4.",
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"body": "Some record players allow you to stack the records on the peg in the center, and when one record finishes, the next one drops off the peg into the playing position. So you can queue up the Side 1 record, and Side 2 will play automatically after it, and then you can flip the two over and play Side 3 and Side 4.\r\n\r\nTry this vid: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FZjj7_CMDIQ",
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Prayer versus Medicine. A true, ongoing story/rant. | Well, I won't run on, but in the last two weeks this has happened. In my father's, brother's wife's pancreas, they have found a tumor of which wraps around, and is inoperable. **Unless is is shrunken via chemo-therapy.**
Disregarding all of the medical profession advice, all of my family, including both my mother and father, have persuaded her from having chemo-therapy, and instead promised relief and health through praying, from their churches... The idea of this dumbfounds me, as without chemo-therapy, they have estimated her to live no more than 6 months.
I unfortunately, have had the guts to speak out against this, and try convince her to at least try. Any chance, being a chance. Unfortunately, everyone in the family thinks I'm insane, and would rather... rely upon their God. At this point, I'm almost an outcast in the entire bloodline for suggesting emphatically they should place their belief in medical science, over various churches...
Anyways, I just wanted to say. Religion is a plague on the planet worse than almost any plague it has known. Sorry for the rant. I can't say I'll really give any updates, as whatever happens may be months out. But I'm doing what I can to try persuade everyone in my family towards at least medical treatment, instead of contacting prayer groups. | 44 | [
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"body": "When I was a kid, I was fond of this joke:\r\n\r\nA man is out walking, and he's caught in a flash flood. An old man in a rowboat comes by and asks him to hop in. The man refuses, \"No thanks, God will save me.\"\r\n\r\nAfter some time, a young man comes by on a motorboat and offers the man a ride. He again refuses: \"No thanks, God will save me!\"\r\n\r\nAfter some time, a helicopter looking for people in need of rescue. It drops a ladder, but the man refuses yet again. \"No thanks, God will save me.\"\r\n\r\nAs you can imagine, the man eventually drowns. His soul ascends to Heaven, and he meets his Maker. The man is astounded by recent events, though, cannot help but ask, \"God, I put my complete faith in you! Why didn't you save me?\"\r\n\r\nAnd God replies, \"What do you mean? I sent you two boats and a helicopter!\"",
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"body": "Why do believers even go to Doctors or pray for a cure? If I believed a great afterlife was the result of death, i would do nothing to delay it. ",
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"body": "maybe you could dig up a whole load of stories about people who rejected medical advice and turned to prayer instead, and the person dies ... there are plenty of such stories, it happens all the time ... don't waste your time debating the existence of god or the effectiveness of prayer, just talk to them in their own language: tell them god answered their prayers by sending doctors to help her, and they are rejecting god's help",
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"body": "My heart goes out to you for your impending loss. Your anger toward religion is understandable (and one I suspect I would have if I were in your situation). Try to focus on your family, enjoying the time she has left. The love and compassion will endure, not this unwinnable debate (no matter how right you are.)",
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"body": "You know what will happen if she makes it past 6 months without the chemo, right? \"Praise the Lord! He answered our prayers!\"\n\nAnd if she doesn't even make it to 6 months? \"The Lord works in mysterious ways! He must have wanted her home soon.\"\n\nIt's the loophole that makes it so that they feel like they win either way.\n\nAlso, since it is HER life, what does SHE want?",
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"body": "Get a court order to intervene in her health care and a restraining order to keep the religionists away.\n",
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[TOMT] Movie or TV-movie from 80s/early 90s; a mother and young daughter are walking, there is an earthquake, mother dies, girl is raised by natives [Movie] | Does anyone remember ever seeing this movie? It was from the 80s (*possibly* the early 90s, but I'm leaning towards the 80s). It was either a movie, or a made-for-TV movie, if I remember correctly.
All I remember is a scene in which a mother and her young daughter (4-6 years old perhaps) walking along (I believe somewhere in the wild... a desert or in the wilderness), when an earthquake hits. I remember that the mother died (I think she fell into a giant 'crack' in the ground, there may have been lava?). The girl was then rescued and raised by natives.
I remember seeing this when I was a child and have always wondered what the name of it was. I suspect my chances of anyone knowing what I'm talking about are slim, but I thought I'd give it a try. | 3 | [
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"body": "[Clan of the Cave Bear](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Clan_of_the_Cave_Bear_%28film%29) based on [a novel](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Clan_of_the_Cave_Bear)\n\nI remember my mom watching this movie on TV when I was very little (early 90s, FYI) and I've never been able to find this online. I especially remember the girl being able to count and think abstractly, and the dimmer cave-people not being able to keep up. It was done well enough that I could understand it as a little kid.",
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I'm a sub who has just been asked to dominate... Help? | Sexually speaking, I'm a very submissive female, and I always have been. My current boyfriend has always enjoyed forcing me to orgasm and engaging in the rape fantasies that I so enjoy. But recently, I've been pushing him to open up and tell me the things he enjoys. He's a lot more shy than I am when it comes to talking about sex, so it was hard to get him to tell me anything other than "I just want to help you live out you fantasies/make you feel good" etc. But finally, after some cajoling, he mentioned that he'd like to be dominated, and maybe be tied up, teased, and left for a few hours.
I had no idea prior to this that he craved submission, so I was caught a bit off guard, but I very much want to help him live out his fantasies. The problem is, I have no clue how to begin to dominate, let alone carry out an elaborate scene where I'm in charge. Again, I've always been a sub! When I asked him to elaborate on this fantasy, he said he wants me to do what I want to do to him... he doesn't want to direct me, because that ruins the fun.
So basically, I'm feeling completely lost as to how I should go about this. He wants me to do what I fantasize about doing to him, but all I fantasize about is having him do what he wants to me! What do all the female doms out there do to their men? What's a good starting point? I don't think he want to be humiliated or put on a leash or anything, but I'm not sure. Any advice would be much appreciated.
PS- Our anniversary is less than a month away, so I think that would be a fun time to make this happen. I just hope I can figure something out! | 10 | [
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"body": ">tied up, teased, and left for a few hours. \n\nNever leave a tied up person by themselves for extended periods of time. That's one of the first rules of \"safe, sane, and consensual\".\n\nCheck out this book for a good guide to BDSM: \"Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism\".",
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"body": "I think something that might help here is a change of perspective. As a sub, you can actually approach this as just another task you, as your sub, are performing for your dom. Using this approach, mentally, helped me out a lot when I was in your same position a while back. It helped me relax a bit, and it helped it be not so much of a mind-fuck because of the change in power dynamic.\n\nFrom there, heylookatme is right -- don't worry about it so much in advance, because even if you do have some elaborate scene planned out, it'll never go exactly as you intended. Think of a few things ahead of time. Have a fantasy session on your own, think of things you'd like for him to do to YOU, and then just return the favor.\n\nSwitching can be a really fun and eye-opening experience. I hope it goes well for you! Have fun!",
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"body": "It's not very helpful when someone tells you they want you to be dominated but won't go into any detail (not the safest, most responsible approach). It would be nice if he at least told you of the things that would be off-limits, so you knew what *not* to do. \n\nI would have trouble getting into the dominating mindset too, but I think curious_sub's suggestion is a good one - think of it as you servicing him, play up that side. Perhaps think of the things you enjoy done to you, and try those out on him - just draw it out as much as possible. It's always a great feeling to know how much you're turning someone on. \n\nI think Whisper makes some good points but I don't wholly agree with the bit about subs wanting to please and doms wanting to be pleased. Both want others to carry out sexual things that please them, as that's their fantasy. And both want the other to enjoy it too, which is what makes it consensual. Some submissive types are more passive, some follow orders, some want to fight, some want to lie there and be taken - all of them enjoy what the dominant party is doing to them, though. The 'forced' bit is purely fantasy, or else it would be sexual assault. By the same token, some doms are more sadistic than others, but all of them are (or should be) actually very considerate, as they're taking on the position of responsibility, often doing more of the work and fulfilling the sub's fantasy. Sure, they enjoy it, but they wouldn't do it if the sub didn't allow them/ask for it. \n\nSo, I don't think you have to be 'a Dom' to do this. Your partner won't have fantasies that match yours perfectly unless you based your relationship upon that in the first place, therefore it's about communication and finding what works for you. It's great that you're both eager to please each other. :) \n\nI actually had that convo with my boyfriend the other night, saying it was a shame his main fantasies weren't of him dominating me, and he said he actually thinks it's better that I have the submissive fantasies and he didn't particularly have any BDSM-related fantasies beforehand, because he can tailor the scenes to exactly what I want/need. Whereas if he'd had elaborate fantasies of, say, whipping me and I was really against whipping, that might have caused problems. But this way he has his favourite thing and I have mine and we can both completely indulge the other. As I said, it's always good to give your lover what they desire. I love seeing my boyf squirm when I give him his ultimate hand/boob/blowjob combo, not from a feeling of domination, but enjoying how turned on he is and wanting to please. It's a weird mix of active and passive as I'm on my knees begging him to come, calling myself a wanton slut or whatever, but at the same time I have all the power. That's why I don't think 'dominant' and 'submissive' are easy to pin down terms. If you can somehow reconcile them in doing something for your man, that might work. \n\nBut then if he wants to be completely dominated, not so much. You'll have to play up the teasing temptress side. I've never tied anyone up, but teasing can be very fun. If he wants to be left, maybe keep checking on him and arousing him and then leaving again for an hour or so. I really think you should ask him for more info though as it sounds as if he's still being shy and withholding something. Tell him you really want to do everything he wants. Or! I guess you could tie him up and then force him to tell you his fantasies, what he really wants next, and you won't let him go till he admits it. Maybe that'd kill two birds with one stone. \n\nEither way good luck!",
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"body": "I can walk you through something that I did a year or two ago with a guy that I used to switch with. I stripped him naked, tied him up, gagged him, then watched tv for a couple hours. If your boyfriend is open to it, maybe leave a butt plug in him. Depending on how you tie him up, it's probably not entirely wise to leave him unattended, so try to keep that in mind when choosing a location. It's probably best to blindfold him though, just so he has no idea where you are (or what's coming).\n\nKeep in mind, you do NOT need to plan out some elaborate scene. Going this route means that you leave most of the fun in his imagination: wondering how long he'll stay like that, thinking about the humiliation of being restrained and exposed, etc. Just relax and have fun with it! If you think of anything to add to it then go right ahead, but from what you've described it sounds like even the bare bones will do wonders for him.\n\nGood luck and have fun!",
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"body": "Oh, dear. \n\nI suppose I have to be the one to cast a shadow. \n\nWhen he says: \n\n>\"I just want to help you live out you fantasies/make you feel good\"\n\nand then \n\n>after some cajoling, he mentioned that he'd like to be dominated, and maybe be tied up, teased, and left for a few hours. \n\n... I foresee problems for this relationship, because *that* doesn't sound switchy to me. A switch is someone who enjoys both roles. \n\nHe on the other hand, has expressed a desire to sub, but when you talk about domming, he's talking about doing it to please you...\n\nAnd then you say:\n\n>He wants me to do what I fantasize about doing to him, but all I fantasize about is having him do what he wants to me!\n\n... and that clinches it. \n\nSubs want to please others. Doms want others to please them. Even though we often prefer that they enjoy that. Hell, when I'm with a sub, every once in a while I want to make her do (or do to her) something that she doesn't enjoy, just so that she's doing something she doesn't enjoy in order to please me. \n\nHe sounds like he's more interested in submission, and two submissives in a relationship means trouble. Sure, they think they can make it work, but each person thinks they can make it work, because they'll just give the other person what they want. \n\nBut that's called \"submitting\". Each person thinks they can make it work by submitting. And they can't, because what they *want* is the exact opposite. \n\nSure, I could tell you lots of things that doms do. I know lots of fun games. I like to blindfold a girl, tie her spread-eagled to the bed, and just lightly prick her with a very sharp pin... but she never knows when it's coming next, or where. Ever seen someone try to flinch in every direction at once?\n\nBut see, the reason you don't have lots of ideas like that *already* is that you don't enjoy them. Domming isn't about what you do, it's about how you do it. And I can't tell you how to enjoy being in control and making someone else please *you*. \n\nI know this is not going to make you break up with him. (Not my problem anyway.) But do keep it for when this becomes a problem. And it will. ",
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Question about MOON.. [spoilers inside] | Alright, so, I've seen this movie three times now, and until this last viewing I never really thought about this much - but it raises a rather big question that the movie never actually gets very deep into.
First - Sam sees a girl sitting in a chair early on in the film - and it is played as if he is hallucinating. We see her again for a moment while he is driving on the moon right before he crashes. Later, we see him talking to his 15 year old daughter, Eve.. Is the girl he see's in a vision actually his present day 15 year old daughter?
Next, there is a very Lynchian dream sequence for about 10 seconds, as the camera crawls through his bedsheets while he sleeps - and we see another version of Sam in busted up astronaut gear, crawling into the bed and reaching for him. This is before the crash, and of course before the second Sam shows up.
SO... These visions are never actually addressed in the movie as anything more than a hallucination or dream sequence - but what is their significance, or explanation? He is seeing people and imagining things that he has not experienced yet in his 'clone life' - he is seeing things from his future, or things another clone could have knowledge of.
The only explanation I can come up with is that there is some sort of 'cross contamination' of the memory implants in his mind, with the experiences of clones from the future. It was such a deliberate decision to include these bits on the part of the director - there must be an interesting explanation behind it, rather than being just a plothole. Its turning into a bit of a mindfuck for me, so I'm going to leave further debate to you. | 13 | [
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"body": "I like how when Sam finds out he's a clone, neither don't really give a shit. They act like bitter roommates to eachother. ",
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"body": "I think the woman was supposed to be his wife as he remembered her. \n\nAnd the messed up version of himself crawling through the sheets was supposed to be a flash of things that have past and will be.\n\nRemember... he (His Clones) had been through the same scenario God knows how many times before",
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"body": "I think the implication is that since they are all using the same (cloned) brain, they may occasionally pick up \"signals\" from eachother.",
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About a month ago my laptop used to run at about 65-80 degrees while playing a particular game. Now it overheats to the point it will shutdown while playing that same game. Why ;_;? | For reference, the game is heroes of newerth. Laptop has 4 gigs of ram, 1 gb 9600m GS gpu, and a core 2 duo at 2.6 and 2.7 Mhz. My old laptop died a similar death, as have many of my friend's. Why does this happen, what causes this? Is there any way to fix this situation? The laptop is a young one year old, poor guy, not ready to go yet! | 3 | [
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"body": "You probably need to clean out the fan. When dust gets clogged in there, the fan can't intake/expel air as well as it should. Try getting a can of compressed air or even a vacuum cleaner and clean it out.",
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"body": "First off what has changed in that month? Where has the laptop been? Any questionable things downloaded or installed? I noticed you failed to mention the brand name.\n",
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"body": "Can't confirm it but its as if the thermal paste cooks out. Take things apart and re-apply a new layer of goop (I had to go to Radioshack for lack of having an actual electronics parts store near-by). I've had to do this with three different laptops over the last five years. It works for a while and then it cooks out again.",
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Is it alright to pay cash for a pistol, or should I really pay credit/with a bank card? | I'm planning on buying a pistol in the next couple weeks, and I'm torn as whether or not to pay in cash. Paying with a credit card leaves a trail of a purchase; but at the same time, paying with cash seems like a great way to get flagged even worse.
Any advice as to a course of action? | 14 | [
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"body": "I mean, you understand they send your info off to the ATF for the background check, right? And that FFL dealers are required to keep records on what is sold to who, no matter what method you pay?",
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"body": "#1-Go to a gun show- walk around till you see someone with a weapon you want- buy it from them. #2-Fail to follow up on any additional federal/ state/local requirements. #3-Own a gun. Or you could find a crackhead and offer him $100 to find you a handgun.",
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"body": "I've never paid for any gun with anything other than cash. If you're buying from a dealer, and you go through a NICS check, there will be a trail anyway. Wouldn't worry about it though. Why are you scared of a there being a trail anyway? Have you never bought a gun before? Planning on offing someone with it? Just seems kinda fishy to me. ",
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If aliens landed, what piece of music would you play to communicate the full range of human development and emotion? | If aliens landed (and assuming they had a way of hearing music and that we could ascertain they understood math/physics similarly to us) what piece of music would you choose from all of human history that would convey the full range of human emotions that we are capable of, as well as what it means to be human: complexity, diversity, beauty, sorrow, etc.? | 17 | [
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"body": "Honest answer: Beethoven's Ode to Joy. Nothing represents the human spirit so musically pure.\n\n[Ode to Joy](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nZJ1Tgf4JL8)",
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"body": "If science fiction has taught us anything, it's that math is the universal language. So you would have to go with Bach.",
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Talking dog syndrome. | I'd like to know the experiences people have had with the so-called [talking dog syndrome](http://groups.google.com/group/sci.lang.japan/browse_thread/thread/85319c845c105a22/ebb392934ad7850f?hl=en&lnk=gst&q=%22talking+dog%22#). | 4 | [
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"body": "To be honest my favourite answer to \"Oh, you are so fluent in Japanese\" is to pretend not to understand, getting them to repeat over and over again, more and more slowly, until they get the joke.",
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"body": "I'm always amused when I get the \"Wow, your Japanese is really great!\" from Japanese people after (or sometimes during) a meeting. See, I'm a professional (i.e. it's my sole source of income) interpreter/translator and not a newbie at it either. I always want to respond with either \"Thanks, yours isn't too bad either\" or \"Err... doh?\" ;)\n\nAnyway, the funny thing is that for some people a foreigner can learn their language and speak it fluently is so surprising that they (in good faith I'm sure, I don't think they do it out of malice) say something equivalent to telling a professional chef that he can use the fork and knife really well.\n\nAnd then of curse I do get an occasional \"Whoa, he can speak Japanese soooooo well! Did you hear that?!\" privately in shops/bars/on the street/whatever (mainly, if not exclusively from women). It's another situation that I find amusing - even AFTER hearing me speak and thus realizing that I can understand everything that they say, some people find it appropriate to loudly talk ABOUT me to their friends instead of talking TO me. Again, I see no malice in it, but it's interesting/amusing - even though I've lived here for a while now, I still wonder sometimes how some people's brains are wired... ;)",
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Book of Eli = anti-secularism? [minor spoiler] | Minor spoiler: Post-armageddon all copies of the Bible were to be eradicated, and only one copy survived. And the Bible may have been the cause of the war.
So, who would systematically try to wipe the Bible off the face of the earth?
The big candidates for a Bible-war are Christians and Muslims. Christians would clearly not eradicate the Bible, and I can't imagine Muslims ordering the same thing given the position of Jesus in their tradition.
That pretty much only leaves one relevant group left... militant atheists/pissed off secularists. Or am I taking it too personally? | 3 | [
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"body": "Are you shitting me? Is that really what the whole fucking movie is about? One guy has to protect a copy of *The bible*? \n\nSeriously?\n\nOr is it just hinted that it *might* be the bible?",
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[request] I'm wondering if anyone would photoshop a picture of me... as a Na'vi? | This was totally inspired by MercurialMadnessMan [here](http://www.reddit.com/r/itookapicture/comments/aqc01/itap_of_myself_then_worked_some_magic/) and I give him heaps of credit and upvotes for the idea. Ever since I saw Avatar I fell in love with the world and I think it would be SO TOTALLY AWESOME to see myself in Na'vi form. I looked at a few tutorials, opened up my copy of Photoshop, and failed miserably, realizing I DON'T KNOW HOW TO USE PHOTOSHOP. sadface.
Soooo. If anyone's like super bored or anything and actually wants to do this for me, let me know and I'll send you a picture. I would really only be using the picture on facebook or something, and I would definitely credit you and/or your website or deviantart or whatever you want. I don't have much else to offer. Unless you're willing to give me your address, and in that case I'd make a friendship bracelet for you. :P
Or if anyone wants to teach me how to use Photoshop that would be, y'know, kinda cool too.
:)
edit: I failed to realize it's actually 2:30 AM so if anyone wants to do this I'll get back to them tomorrow morning.
edit 2: I'm an idiot for not just putting the picture up yesterday. Sorrryyyy. [There are a few here that are hopefully usable.](http://anotherecho.imgur.com/navi) I don't have too many pictures of myself so to find some that are both good for this and flattering was hard, don't judge yo.
edit 3: It would be really neat to see a version like [this](http://www.scifiscoop.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/avatar_navi.jpg) but I'm not too picky. I know I'll love whatever the people of reddit come up with!
Thanks :) | 11 | [
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"body": "The way this works is that you put the image in the original post and wait for the end result. \n\nYa gotta give to get :)",
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"body": "Here you go. I got some time later today and spent some time fixing it up. I couldn't live with a version so crappy that I had to use a temp account to post. You now look a lot less weird (and dare I say cute for a half-kitty thing). [Hope you like.](http://i.imgur.com/AhRip.jpg)\n\n[And here is the side view.](http://i.imgur.com/I0Qdl.jpg)",
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Interesting statistics about Wikipedia - the top 100 articles for 2009 (link inside) | [Link to original article](http://techxav.com/2009/08/31/wikipedia/)
Some interesting observations:
* Top Ranking page: Wiki
* Fourth Rank: Favicon.ico
* 51st Rank: Penis
* 94th Rank: Hotmail
Go Figure! | 23 | [
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"body": "\"Wiki\" is probably getting hits from people using it as a link to Wikipedia from Google. People are just typing \"wiki\" instead of the full word.",
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Question for conservatives/libertarians: from a pure capitalist/property rights POV-- shouldn't I have the right to say that you can burn whatever fossil fuels you want, as long as the emissions don't come onto my property? | In a purely capitalist sense, shouldn't I, as a property owner, have the right to decide (however unreasonably) that I want my children to breathe the same air as the founding fathers breathed? If I have the right to prohibit people from dumping garbage on my property, then don't I have the right to prohibit them from dumping pollutants? | 11 | [
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"body": "FYI: From a molecular perspective, not only are you breathing the same air as the founding fathers, you're also breathing the same air as Aristotle.",
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AskRPG: This may not be the right subreddit, but have any of you found an open source library for 3.5E/OGL/OGC to use to program with? | I'm a programmer. Looking at the possibility of building a mini-D&D 3.5E-game for iPhone (I am the lead at www.roguepirateninja.com) and was curious if anybody has heard of or seen any sort of open source library work that implements the 3.5E rules + OGC under the OGL.
I've played the 4E rules a bit with the gf, and had a good time, and although I'm personally (please hit me if you want to) a bigger fan of 4E over 3.5E, there is nothing quite like the OGL to promote an open source drive to get a C based library that implements 3.5E.
Any help or comments to point to the right spot would be greatly appreciated. :) | 3 | [
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"body": "Without doing any more research--because I have to go to bed--I did find a software listing that may provide something you need by the hands of another programmer. This does contain commericial and freeware software.\n\nYou want to use C? I don't know about that. I'd pray for Java, but that's just me.\n\n[http://www.rpglibrary.org/main.php?showcat=Software](http://www.rpglibrary.org/main.php?showcat=Software)\n",
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Reddit is trying to break me. | It's 2:30AM, I'm alone with the lights off watching a terrible scary movie on the SyFy channel, and it's making me a little jittery. I come on to Reddit for some good news, and my Karma is exactly 666.
Tell me something cheery? | 4 | [
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"body": "[This might help.](http://cuteoverload.files.wordpress.com/2010/01/parrot-skate-560.jpg)(It's an animal doing people things)",
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Should I stay on the treatment? | I am a 50 year old man, married 3 times. I am infertile, which means I can't have my own children. My first wife and I adopted a child ten years ago. We divorced soon after that when she confessed to me she was a lesbian. My 2nd wife didn't want children. That marriage lasted only 4 months. My 3rd wife (current) wanted a child, and so within 5 months we had conceived of one using artificial insemination.
My infertility comes from a condition sometimes called 47XXY. It means I have 1 extra female chromosome. If I don't take testosterone on a regular basis, I become essentially asexual with zero libido, low energy and general depression. With regular treatment, I am almost normal.
So here is my question. I like having no libido. It means I can concentrate on my work, my child and doing the things I like to do, and not think about sex all the time. But it's not good for my body: symptoms include itchy skin, weak bones, low energy, thinning hair, joint pain, depression, anxiety among others. My wife likes the low libido but doesn't like the lack of physical contact when I'm off the medication.
Should I stay on the treatment or go off it? | 10 | [
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"body": "You're 50 so the bone density issue is probably pretty serious. Osteoporosis, correct? I read in your AMA that you didn't start the treatment until 2004, which means you've only been on it for 6 years. You should check with your doctor before you do anything. I am sure she can modify your dose, change it so you're not a raging sex maniac, but are addressing the physiological issues.\n\nTell me about the depression, though. That is serious.",
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"body": "I say yes. Maybe you can reduce the amount you take so it lowers your libido, but depression is not something to mess around with.",
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"body": "I would talk to your doctor about it- I'd venture to say that none of us know enough about Klinefelter's to make the decision for you. Is the depression worse with or without it? From what you've written it sounds like there are more pluses to staying on the testosterone- what are the downsides for you of continuing to take it? Does it really increase your libido to the point where you can't concentrate on anything except sex? Maybe there is something to be done medically to control your libido if that's the case, rather than taking the medical risks of going off of it. ",
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Thank you r/beer for helping me and my dad out! | I submitted a link earlier asking what were some good American beers. My dad (he is Scottish) had made a comment on how he didn't like American beers at all.
After buying some Old Chub, Rasputin Russian Imperial Stout, Arrogant Bastard Ale, Dogfish IPA and Green Flash Double Stout, he is a convert. He was delighted and loved all of the beers, as did I.
Thanks r/beer! | 26 | [
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"body": "Good to hear he tasted the beers with an open mind and didn't just put them off despite their deliciousness. \n\nRelated note: Old Chub rocks!",
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"body": "Dogfish IPA is delicious. My wife is becoming a beer convert, and the 60-minute IPA is high on her list.",
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Do any other cacti look like San Pedro? Also, Phoenix druggits lets be friends. | I live outside of Phoenix and I've been wanting to make some cactus tea. I've got the guide off erowid, now I just need to know if its for sure San Pedro. It looks exactly like all of the pics I've seen (rounded top, star shape) and the one plant I'm eying already has a few stalks cut off of it. Any advice is appreciated. Cheers dudes. | 4 | [
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"body": "Welcome to the infuriating but edifying art of echinopsis identification!\nFirst point, I guess, is to make sure that the cactus you're looking to turn into tea is actually a San Pedro... the main difference from other echinopsises you might see around is that the valleys between the ribs are shallow rather than deep.\n\n[Useful comparison chart](http://www.eventsrevisited.com/5trico.jpg)\n\n\n*edit the bridgesii and the peruvianus are A-ok to turn into tea as well. ",
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I just sat on my glasses. What was your last bonehead move? | Second pair of [glasses](http://imgur.com/UySzR.jpg) to go down this way in a year. You think I would learn to put my [glasses](http://imgur.com/KEQkd.jpg) on a table. | 3 | [
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"body": "I went to work in what seemed an unusual quiet day with no traffic at all, a lot of parking space, few people walking on the streets... even cafeterias were closed. I arrived at my office and it was closed too. Then I noticed it was 5:45 AM and I start to work at 9:00.\n\nI always have an alarm clock set up but I never let it ring, I always woke up 5 min before. This day I woke up 3 hours before and didn't look what time it was during one hour and a half (till I was stuck in front of the office thinking what the fuck was happening).\n\n(You're cute).",
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"body": "The tram arrived suddenly and I was holding a handbag and a plastic shopping bag. In a hurry I tried to put the plastic shopping bag on my shoulder like it was my handbag. Looked stupid.\n\nI do stuff like this so often that I am at peace with it.",
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What is the point of rooting my phone? | I have a MyTouch from Tmobile. Tmobile seems to be pretty non restrictive as far as what you can do with your phone. Ive even asked their tech support and they really dont seem to care what you do and on occasion they really dont ask questions or have a problem supporting whatever it is you did to your phone. (they at least try to help if you have a problem)
So I ask... what is the point of cyanogen for me? Is it faster? different features?
Ive read a bit on it and it looks easy enough to do but I dont really know what the point would be of doing it.
Edit: This is all great stuff. If anyone has a document on how to reflash back to 1.5 so I can install cyanogen, please link it, if its not too much trouble. I am going to do it tonight if I can. | 21 | [
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"body": "Multi-touch support is a good reason. Updated widgets. Apps cam be saved to flash card. And bragging rights, of course! Amongst other things. ",
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How do I change fundamental personality flaws? | Through a combination of growing up with a borderline mother, never having any friends except significant others/spouses (*I'm codependent*), going though a divorce (*on my second marriage*), and generally having no coping skills, I am a fundamentally flawed person. I need to make some major changes for my own sanity and my partner's sanity.
I deal with a high level of anxiety most days, which causes me to ignore problems (*such as money issues*) that cause anxiety - which leads to problems. I have a very anti-confrontational personality (*very submissive to my partner even though it makes me cringe*), and I handle confrontations very poorly. I also take everything personally. If my partner and I have a fight, my self esteem and confidence suffer. I have problems trusting myself not to have mood swings, or just not "fuck up" in general. My partner's patience is running out. My partner believes I am just a weak person, and I need to just suck it up. My parents let me wallow in my emotions, so I now have very little emotional control. How do I gain emotional control at the age of 28?
I am on Wellbutrin. I have tried other anti-depressants, but they have caused more personality issues (*anger,violent, & suicidal tendencies*). My partner thinks nothing is wrong with me that just "sucking it up" won't fix; I just need the proper motivation. Please help me learn not to be a pussy and face life head on.
**tl;dnr** = My parents fucked me up. I am a weak person with no consistent self confidence (*I have a lot to be confident about, but I always seem to mess up what really matters*). I am great in an academic environment, but I suck at real life. My partner has given me an ultimatum to change in 6mo. Help me change my personality flaws at the age of 28.
I'll be here to answer q's until 6am (*since I know I can't possibly make this situation clear with one post*), then I will be back in the afternoon. Gotta sleep sometime. Hope this makes sense....
edit: better wording. | 18 | [
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"body": "Everyone here says to stop blaming other people. I don't get the impression that you are. Stop blaming yourself! You sound totally self-flagellating. That can feed depression and anxiety. I'd suggest trying to be nicer to yourself.",
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"body": "Until you stop blaming your parents (and others), you'll never be able to man up and take responsibility for your behavior. \n\nPonder this phrase for a few minutes: \"take responsibility.\" Note the strong verb. What it means is that you sometimes have to actively take ownership of a situation that you might not actually be responsible for originally. So say your parents did fuck you up. Ok, fine. THey made mistakes. What are **you** going to do about it? You can't change what they did, but you can take responsibility moving forward and leave the past behind.\n\nHere's a less personal example of what I mean by taking responsibility. For a while I was an IT consultant. My job was to walk in to a new situation, take charge, and make things right. Sometimes I would walk into huge clusterfucks. No matter who's fault the clusterfuck was, it was **my** job to clean it up. I had to **make it** my responsibility even though it was somebody else's mess. \n\nThat's what you need to do with your life. Make your life your own responsibility and forget about blame. Blame and finger pointing is for fools. The only thing that really matters is what you're going to do next.\n\nSo yeah, you do need to \"suck it up.\"\n\nYou'll just have to trust me when I tell you that it actually feel better to know you're the one who failed (if you do indeed fail). I know it seems counterintuitive. It seems like it should feel better to be able to point the finger and blame someone else, but is does not. Not in the long run. Helplessness sucks. Learned helplessness sucks even more. YOu need to unlearn it. \n\nAlso, meditate. Before you can know what to do next, you need to clear your mind. \n\nBTW, I hate to say it, but you might want to consider the possibility that you will have to leave your current partner. That's part of taking charge. Chances are your partner fell for you BECAUSE you are submissive and he/she will not actually permit the needed change. \n\n",
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Technology progressed so fast, we've barely acknowledged the monumental fact that the sum of all human knowledge is available at our fingertips anywhere, at any time. | We now carry devices in our pockets that can not only dial one another wherever we happen to be, but that can also access and display the internet, which contains nearly every fact, thought, concept, idea, or image ever produced.
That's some seriously futuristic shit we've adopted very recently. | 379 | [
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"body": "The vast majority of human knowledge is not on-line. It's still trapped in things called books that are often found in weird buildings called libraries.",
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"body": "At first I was gonna say something about the lack of affordable flying cars.But then I thought it would be better just to reference one of my favorites interviewing(Conan) one of my other favorites(Louis C.K.) \n[People in Today's Society Take Things For Granted](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rOtEQB-9tvk)",
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"body": "This is only true if you take a quite simplistic view of what knowledge is.\n\nIf we equate knowledge with 'what is in books,' then, as has been pointed out, most books are not online, most that are are not properly indexed, and most rely on informal use of terminology that means that indexing them, combining them with other content, and so on requires a computer. See the Cyc and Freebase projects for a look at just how hard it is to code knowledge.\n\nHowever, knowledge in a book is not knowledge in the world. If I read a book on, say, survival in the woods, that book will assume all kinds of pre-existing knowledge, will assume process knowledge (e.g. how to use a hammer), will assume context (you're probably not doing this for the first time on top of Everest), and so on. Knowledge of all kinds is _situated_. \n\nThe kind of 'knowledge' that is on the Web is very very shallow without the human skills and the situational context to make it useable. The problem is, our ability to deliver the 'knowledge' has far outpaced our ability or interest or even the theoretical possibility of delivering the context and situatedness to the user. \n\nI'm a research scientist, an engineer, a geologist, a somewhat-able programmer, an amateur musician. If I were to go read a Web article about, say, art, I'd have no real ability to:\n\n1) integrate it with what I already know\n\n2) determine if the author is lying / misleading / being funny /...\n\n3) convert it into process knowledge and skills\n\nunless the author was accomplished at contextualizing their material, outlining how to learn the process knowledge and skills, and so on. \n\nMost of the 'new' web content is badly written, poorly contextualized, has little regard for transforming the 'content' into useable skills, and so on. \n\nRemember what Reddit is. Or at least, is mostly. It is a social mechanism for labelling things as worthy of attention for content, humour, humanitarian interest, ... whatever... reason. And the comments provide context, ... in my experience usually better than that found in the original link. But most users of info (e.g. my students) don't spend that amount of time. They read a blog, get misinformed, then move on, having learned _less than nothing_.\n\nSecond Issue:\n\nYes, there is some useful stuff out there. Mostly books, but I also see a lot of value in some of the Youtube tutorials and other multimedia and even hypermedia content, _when it is constructed by someone who has a clue and is trying to educate / share, not trying to make a cheap point, lie, sell a product, get page clicks, etc. etc. etc._\n\nThe problem as I see it is not that there isn't good content. It is that the signal to noise ratio is very poor and getting worse. In the old days the institutional barrier to publishing (having to arrange with a publisher that thought there was a market, the legal process of fact checking, etc.) kept the SN fairly good. Now, not so much.\n\nThis is some seriously misinformation shit we've buried ourselves in recently.",
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"body": "doesn't mean a damn thing if you don't have any use for it\n\nyour brain could carry the infinite powers of a god but you're still an imbecile chimp floating around some second-class star that doesn't know how to really use it",
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"body": "This is just the typical egotism associated with any culture that undergoes a rapid development. We see this in war, renaissance, and science throughout history - the biggest world changes always impart a sort of illusion that humanity is nearing a brink, or plateau of new understanding, doing away with the old world problems, only to have the same cliches of history repeat themselves - inseparable from the human condition.\n\nHumanity has no choice but to constantly change and evolve, as nature dictates change is constant. It is, however, egotistical and therefore irrelevant to bask in the glory of our newfound interconnectedness.\n\nLet it not be forgotten that with every advancement something is gained AND lost. We have traded actions for words, interaction for pictures, and natural systems for mechanical systems - facts and \"definitions\" for knowledge. To ignore this is really a form of egotism, and all egotism has the same result - oblivion. Why is the Roman Empire not standing? Why are the Mongols relegated to tales? Why do the cities of the Greeks, Incas, Mayans, Aztecs, Egyptians all lay in ruin? It is a very simple route of logic.\n\nHuman knowledge has never, and will never be summed up by anything. Experience is the true teacher, and technology is a tool to achieve experience, not live through. The minute you stop and wallow in a job-well-done and have a pat-on-the-back is the minute you've accepted your death, so that the new ideas may take your place.\n\nTo quote Alan Watts, \"It is as if the Divine always points the way. But to stand and revel in its idols is to suck its finger for comfort, and not follow its guidance.\"\n\nBe wary and wise, redditors. We do not \"know\" anything. ",
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"body": "I wouldn't say it's the sum of all human knowledge. But definitely everything that is **commonly known** is available on the Internet.\n\nI mentioned this fact to a professor a while back, and he didn't quite seem to believe me.",
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"body": "Yes the knowledge is available. Now people just have to *want* it. Motivating people to learn is still an issue.\n\niTunes U is pretty good - I just downloaded a Yale video lecture series on Game theory for free! \n\nFree education for all! (but not qualifications)",
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"body": "It makes dumb people a bit smarter and smart people a bit dumber.\nIn-depth material will always be superior to quick accessibility and breadth when it comes to understanding, which is what knowledge is actually about. \nBut i agree, it is quite insane, and it happened so fast that we do not yet see it, as we are in the middle of it. \n\nAnd i really love the Wikipedia app on my phone.\n \n",
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"body": "And it's fucking awesome.\nI have a wikipedia (offline/dump) app on my iPhone for precisely this reason.\n\nThere is something incredibly amazing about standing in the middle of some foreign place (to you) in the world, being curious about something there that's local history- and in less than 30 seconds you have the answers and information in your hand.\n\nIt's just... addictive.\nAll those tiny bits of information you kinda wish you knew more about, at any point during the day... and it's there.\nMaybe it will cause a deteriorating memory in the long term, for mankind, but only in certain sectors - certain types of information will no longer need to be memorized.\n\nWe're turning into meta creatures.",
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"body": "\".. the sum of all human knowledge is available at our fingertips anywhere, at any time.\"\n\nNot even close to the truth. The vast majority of *scientific* knowledge is **not** available freely; it is made available by membership and subscription only, and usually at considerable cost, whereas the bulk of *technical* knowledge is securely locked away in Corporate servers for internal access only, as it is deemed 'proprietary' and protected under the legal umbrella of hundreds of various pieces of 'trade secrets' legislation.\n\nGood luck downloading any of it 'freely', without getting arrested, or at the very minimum being put on some Government 'watchlist'.",
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"body": "Sum of all human knowledge is never complete, so that'll probably always be hyperbole. However, we do have the ability to communicate a good portion of the important human knowledge, and yes, it has progressed fast. Futuristic it is. Here's to hoping it breeds even more futuristic shit even faster.",
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"body": "The new wave of children will not be terrorised by clowns, dreamcatchers with disfigured faces...\r\n\r\nbut by 4chan.\r\n",
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"body": "What the OP (or whatever person actually made up that title) seems to has lost site of is that, while the sum of all human DATA may be available,'all human knowledge' is quite a different thing, and is not found merely in data or in books. \nIt is complete tunnel vision to actually think one, or everyone, suddenly has a clear access to all the human knowledge that is possible,or that has yet been learned!\nDATA is not precisely the same as 'knowledge'! Information alone is not the same as 'knowledge.' \n\nBut try to tell that to the arrogant contemporary fools who think the 'information age' is the first real intelligence to ever occur among humanity! \nThe denial of any past value is only a mechanism of a simple dialectical approach to reality, based entirely in contradiction and duality as a way of thinking!",
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"body": "It's incredibly disingenuous and naive to claim that the Internet contains \"the sum of all human knowledge.\" The Internet contains an enormous percentage of the data and information produced by humans, a smaller percentage of actual *knowledge* (that is, data and information presented in an understandable and edifying manner), and very little to none of man's actual expertise. Unfortunately the vast majority of human knowledge and expertise is trapped in pesky little things called brains. ",
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"body": "Don't pat pursleves on the back just yet. Here are some things I wanted to ask of all of the worlds knowlede recently thar the Internet didn't have. How to build an electromygraph. How does an ultrasound machine work in detail with theimaging algorithms. A list of alll of the homeowners associtlations in my state. \n\nSorry for the typos. Typed on iPhone 1g",
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"body": "> monumental fact that the sum of all human knowledge is available at our fingertips anywhere, at any time\n\nAnd the most popular show on TV is American Idiot, I mean American Idol.",
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"body": "Barely acknowledged? There's an incredible amount of debate on the topic, not just related to the implications of what you've brought up - e.g. if I have an iphone with access to wikipedia, all the time, everywhere, then why should I ever bother to learn anything properly?",
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"body": "The sum of all human idiocy is also available at our fingertips, which makes the knowledge a little more distant.",
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Anybody out there dealt with Kratom? What can you tell me? | I ordered some San Pedro seeds and received some Kratom powder as a free sample/gift. I don't know how much it is, as far as grams. It's not labeled and I have no scale, but I was wondering if anyone out there has had some worthwhile experiences and any advice on preparation would be great too.
And yes, I know Erowid is out there and I have already browsed it, but I was just wondering about the local reddit community. | 25 | [
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"body": "First, I'd recommend asking the place where you got it how much it is. Failing that, a tablespoon of kratom powder weights about 7 grams, which is an ok first time dose. Kratom can be gross to consume straight -- you can put it in capsules, mix it in applesauce/icecream, or summon the willpower to swallow it with water.\n\nMaking it into tea also works. If you do it right, the tea tastes good. Some instructions are here: http://kratomtalk.blogspot.com/2008/11/kratom-instructions.html\n\nI have a shop selling kratom. Happy to answer any other questions via PM or email. http://getkratom.com is the shop, use coupon code REDDIT10 for 10% off. Also, I believe even before the discount that we have the best prices and quality out there, but I'm always happy to pricematch.",
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"body": "I decided to try out kratom because I'm always interested in any legally-attainable highs, and have a bottomless love for experimenting with new substances. \n\nFirst, it's expensive, no matter how you look at it.\n\nSecondly (and this is based on the only two purchases I made), it tastes absolutely fucking horrible and the recommended amount to consume is overwhelming as soon as you've tasted it.\n\nIt was \"easy\" to prepare, but if anyone has had a positive / noticeable affect from this shit (nomatter the source, really), than I must have been doing it wrong.\n\nSo, just in case you have the same disappointing experience (or lack thereof) as I had: let me ALSO mention that I moved on to purchasing poppy pods online-- poppy pods are way more amazing for the price, taste, quantity, affect, and minimal nausea (esp. compared to kratom.)\n\nKratom is a thing that I will never feel any desire to try again in my entire lifespan.",
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"body": "Five years ago, when I was younger and daring, I ordered some Kratom online, along with other plants that are legal to import in my country, or were legal at the time. With a friend, we mixed 10 g of Kratom powder in a big glass of milk and honey and drank one half each. It doesn't taste really good but could be a lot worse.\nI remember it as one of the mellowest and sweetest trip in my life, if not THE most. I spent 2 days listening to the same song by the White Stripes, enjoying the feeling of fabric on my skin, while eating watermelons. Of course we took several plants, and 5 g is not much so I can't really be sure that it was the Kratom alone but it definitely dominated and gave an opiate-like mood to the trip. My only advise would be to take it in a comfortable place where you can lay down to enjoy if you want to. I experienced no hangover and had a very deep and refreshing sleep afterwards.",
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[7] Ingesting weed for the first time | So yeah. I got some special brownies from my girlfriend's uncle today. I've had about half of one an hour and a half ago and I'm pretty fucked. Should I eat the rest? | 8 | [
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"body": "YES. Well, save enough so you can have some for tomorrow too. And the next day. And (smoke today x ∞) = (you're life) from now on.\n\n(I love parenthesis. )",
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"body": "Ok. I'm going to do it. I'm going to eat the rest of this brownie. It tastes like jaffas, pretty awesome.",
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How to young earth creationists answer this question? | If the bible is true, and all humans came from Adam and Eve, and then were all killed by the flood and the planet was repopulated from Noah and his family, how did humans come to be on every continent? How did so many different languages come about, and why do humans on different parts of the planet have such different physical traits?
I'm just curious as to how they address this. | 4 | [
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"body": "The languages thing is from the tower of babel. Man creates bitchin' tower. God gets pissed. God makes everyone speak different languages. Hilarity ensues. ",
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"body": "Woops, I have a spelling error in the title. This is going to bother me forever because I can't edit it!",
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"body": "Magic! I'd like them to answer how miles of chalk formed in only 6000 years considering it's made from trillions and trillions and trillions of tiny [Coccoliths](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coccoliths). Or the same question about lava fields which are also tens of thousands of feet thick, such as the big island of Hawaii which is a [30,000 foot tall pile of lava](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mauna_Kea). The funny thing is that they have zero answers for these questions, which is why they avoid them like the plague. ",
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"body": "They believe:\n\n1. Continental drift happened very quickly - one continent after flood\n2. The tower of Babel\n3. They actually accept so-called 'micro-evolution'\n\nThey are terribly confused people...",
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hey Austin - I actually live here! | Been visiting Austin for 3 years for business, so when work asked me if I wanted to ... yes. That is literally how the conversation went. I know what this city has to offer and why it's great. This is why I live here now.
The only thing missing so far is a solid network of friends. I've made a few, but nowhere near what could be called a "critical mass".
* In tech
* Mountain biker
* Drink beer
* Down for whatever.
Full disclosure - I am a Canadian (Toronto-ish) transplant.
Let me know if you've got spare room for a drinking buddy.
Just off Barton Creek between 1st and Lamar. It fucking rocks.
Peace.
EDIT1: Awesome! I thought i was only going to get a reply from the drunk dude. Definitely some great connects here for a number of angles :-) | 22 | [
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"body": "Buzzed ... good call though, had just gotten back from the Goodie Mob concert at Emo's.\n\nGreat Show - Cee Lo pulled out \"Crazy\" which seemed a bit out of place but he got everyone into it.",
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Is it legitimate to be pissed that I only get laid maximum once per week with a girl I've been dating for 3 years? | Girl awesome in every way except frequency of sex. When we have sex it's usually great - 80 percent of the time. The other twenty percent she's just like - get on top, do whatever - I might as well just go in the bathroom and beat off. Anyway, Once a week - we don't live together, have been dating 3 years, and she's relatively busy in her work - or at least immersed in it and doesn't seem to want to put any effort into our sex life. I'm pretty sure this is going to be a problem for us in the future, as it has been for the past 2 years since I moved to the same city. Anyone been in a similar situation? | 7 | [
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"body": "Dan Savage has [answered this question](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a7NdEbjR7oE) already. Even more so in [this video](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GvowcsC0CAY).",
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"body": "How often do you see each other? That is a key part of this equation. If you don't live with each other and see each other on Friday night and Saturday morning, than once a week might be the amount your two libidos can compromise on. Something to think about.\n\nAlso, have you *talked to her*? Because you should do that.",
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"body": "If your sex drive demands more than that, then I suppose you could be bothered by it (though I wouldn't go so far as being pissed off). But honestly, after three years, once a week doesn't sound so bad. ",
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"body": "Have you sat her down and had a serious discussion about this? When you had said discussion did you mention that this is something that is putting a strain on your relationship? Did you bring up ways you two might be able to compromise on this?\n\nIf the answer is no to any of those, change them from questions to statements and then proceed. If you have tried all this and she *still* isn't at all interested in reciprocating you need to make it absolutely clear that sex once a week is not going to cut it for you for the rest of your life. If she seems not to care or won't compromise after that point then it is time to head your separate ways.\n\nYou cannot build a solid relationship if your sexual foundation is shaky. Sexual mismatches lead to all sorts of problems that leak over into other aspects of your relationships, often without you realizing the root cause.",
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"body": "Don't get mad, get laid. If your libido doesn't match up with hers, then wish her well, cut her loose, and go find someone who's a better fit.",
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"body": "Once is a lot more than a lot of people. Be a little more understanding and open about how *she* might feel. Don't take the \"my way or the highway\" approach - that *never* works in relationships. Never.\n\nI think you need to lower your standards a little bit. Be thankful you're not single and struggling to find a nice girl you actually have chemistry with.",
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Recommendations, please? | Hey guys,
I love beer, but don't know too much about it yet...
My favorites that I've tried so far have been: Hoegaarden, Paulaner Hefeweissen, Alagash white, Hitachino, Asahi, & Guinness (my first experience with a super dark, except with yuengling — liked that, too). Magic Hat #9 is pretty good, and although I love white beers I wasn't really a huge fan of Circus Boy.
I also tried dogfishhead 60 min IPA but probably won't be buying a pack again (sorry, blasphemy in here, I know.)
Based on that, what should I try/explore?
Thanks.
*P.S. I really like barley/buckwheat flavors also. | 4 | [
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"body": "Okay, maybe this should be included in the /r/beer sidebar, something akin to /r/funny's \"DO NOT PUT THE PUNCHLINE IN THE TITLE\". \n\nWhen asking for recommendations, **please tell us WHERE YOU ARE!** at least give us a generic region if you don't feel comfortable revealing specifics. Many great beers have very limited regional availability, so without knowing where you are it is very hard to give useful recommendations. I could recommend a laundry list of great beers that are not available in your state or region, and it is a waste of both of our time since you won't be able to find them anyway.\n\nSince you mention Allagash, Yuengling, and Magic Hat I can tell you are probably somewhere in the NE, but my advice still holds.\n\nthat is all. thank you listening. \n\n<steps down from soapbox>",
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"body": "Circus Boy is \"just\" an american wheat, not a white/witbier, and it's a somewhat strange wheat at that (it's all soap to my mouth). Myself, I find #9 to be weird and boring. :/\n\nGive it time, you might come to appreciate the IPAs. :) Try the DFH 90min or 120min, and other examples, too. Those DFH brews are all on the upper end of the gravity and IBU range … there are traditional pales and IPAs that are a bit more mellow you might enjoy.\n\nI'd suggest trying out some dark wheat (dunkleweizen) and both traditional and dark lagers. Also, see if you like some of the less dark, still malty, less hoppy: english bitter, wee heavy, marzen/octoberfest.\n\nWelcome to the wide world of beer. :)",
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"body": "There are a whole bunch of styles that you should try. I'd recommend going to a good brewpub and getting a sampler tray (little taster glasses of all the beers on tap - most good brewpubs offer it). This will give us better fodder to use for recommendations and will make trying random bottles a little less daunting. You can look on BeerAdvocate's [BeerFly](http://beeradvocate.com/beerfly/) feature (also good for finding a good beer store) or maybe someone here can recommend a place if you tell us where you live.\n\nAnyway, I'd recommend some more German wheat beers based on your preferences thus far. Hefeweizen (or really anything at all) from [Weihenstephan](http://ratebeer.com/brewers/bayerische-staatsbrauerei-weihenstephan/282/), [Aying](http://ratebeer.com/brewers/brauerei-aying/176/) or [Schneider](http://ratebeer.com/brewers/weissbierbrauerei-g-schneider--sohn/313/) would be a good place to start. They make hefeweizen, dunkelweizen, German-style lagers and then the stronger styles: doppelbock and weizenbock (they make some other stuff, too, but that's what you'll find most likely).\n\nThis isn't really based on what you've had so far, but here are some Belgian-style picks, too: [Saison Dupont](http://ratebeer.com/beer/saison-dupont-vieille-provision/5386/), [Unibroue La Fin Du Monde](http://ratebeer.com/beer/unibroue-la-fin-du-monde/1094/), [Chimay](http://thegazz.com/gblogs/beerstoyou/files/2009/11/chimay.jpg) (any color), [Ommegang Rare Vos](http://ratebeer.com/beer/ommegang-rare-vos/8838/). I'm trying to mostly stick to the lighter stuff for the most part, but if you like strong beers, just look to more Unibroue or [Trappist breweries](http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/7/7c/De_zeven_trappisten.jpg). I hesitate to recommend any stouts (imho, Guinness is a piss poor example), but look for Rogue's [Shakespeare](http://ratebeer.com/beer/rogue-shakespeare-stout/1087/) or [Chocolate Stout](http://ratebeer.com/beer/rogue-chocolate-stout/7177/). They're widely available and among the best in the country. Actually, all of these picks are widely available, but that doesn't mean that they're available everywhere, so just move on if you don't find something.\n\nReport back when you've tried some new stuff and I'm sure that we'll able to be more helpful.",
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Reddit, I need your help. I dreamed about a game and want to know if it exists | The simple facts about it;
- It was turn based strategy for four players
- It was in the visual style of Defcon
- The field was split into hexagons for unit movement
- The only unit I can remember is the scout. Each player had four, they could move about 5-6 hexagons, and had no weapons.
- One of my opponents built a giant hotdog in his base. His move for the first turn was putting mustard on it. Alas, I don't think this would be in the real life game.
EDIT: The scouts were in the shape of the ship from Asteriods, but filled with white, if that's any help. | 3 | [
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"body": "I don't know which of the many turn-based hex games has unarmed scouts, but I'd really like to play a version that includes the Giant Hotdog option.\n\nIn the meantime, I'll have to settle for [Hex Empire](http://www.freewebarcade.com/game/hex-empire).",
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I stopped playing guitar about 6 years ago. I just recently unearthed my old Ibanez and I'm hoping you guys could help me a bit. | I stopped playing after my high school garage band broke up. At my best point I was barely able achieve any sort of rhythm.
Since then, life kinda got in the way and now I can barely remember anything.
I can remember some of the most basic chords (E, A, D, G, C, etc) and i managed to remember a little blues scale i was taught once. I've amused myself in the fact that I can still play the stuff that I do remember with relative ease (I suppose 'finger memory' doesn't fade that well).
My main question is what things should I learn/relearn now to catch myself back up? What sort of things should I do so that I do not return to the bad habits of the past (such as strumming in the same pattern every time I play a chord or losing the rhythm)?
Any advice is helpful! | 7 | [
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"body": "Pick 5 songs in which the guitar part really \"speaks\" to you. Go out and find the Tab for those songs and learn them note for note, paying special attention to the techniques used in each piece. That should at least get you started. When you finish those 5, either pick some more, or start noodling around and trying to write some stuff that also \"speaks\" to you.\n\nGood luck and remember to have FUN with it.",
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"body": "If you've just unearthed a guitar that old, you might want to get it checked out too, it's likely the neck has bent, throwing the action out a bit and making it harder to play.",
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What I just realized made quitting so much easier for me. | When I got my smartphone.
The world we live in today is full of all these short periods of free time. Time that isn't long enough to do anything worthwhile with, but a smoker's mind thinks is a perfect opportunity for a cigarette. Waiting in line for something like tickets at the movies- waiting for the bus or your car to warm up- for the coffee to brew- any short break at work. You get the idea.
I found with my phone I was adequately involved in Reddit or my friends with facebook, chat, checking the weather to plan a hike or road trip, or even trying to remember the exact funny line from that movie that I was doing that on my phone instead of the time I'd use to smoke a cigarette.
I know smoking is addicting but at a certain point it just became a very passive habit for me. When I quit I didn't have withdrawal symptoms. I didn't lose sleep or get irritable and jittery. It was just something I did conditioned and didn't think about. It takes effort for an unconditioned brain to start smoking but it doesn't take effort once conditioned to keep smoking, just as it takes effort to quit. If you break the cycle by filling it with a different distraction you're really filling an unhealthy *addiction* with a less hazardous *habit* then before long you might actually think to have a cigarette and realize you have a lot more smokes than you expected. Yes, my friend, you will be as they say "shitting in tall cotton."
I know you can fiddle with a phone and smoke at the same time but I find that to be more of an irritating inconvenience when you really need to type anything. | 17 | [
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"body": "i agree with this actually!\n\nunfortunately i don't have a smartphone so i'm busying myself by constantly playing with something, like i just started making friendship bracelets again!\n\ngood on ya though and congrats for making it past week 2 =)\n",
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What is your defense against the fear of hell? | I know this has probably been addressed many times, so please forgive me for my inevitable redundancy, but I needed to ask.
I don't believe in hell. I don't believe in any afterlife (per se). But I cannot deny that I have moments when the thought of death terrifies me, largely because of the images ingrained in me from my religious history. It makes me angry that I have these fears, that they have been fed to me by various pastors and sunday school teachers, but my anger doesn't allay them.
I know it's not logical. I suppose the essence of the question is this: If I am on my death bed, and the thought creeps into my mind that I should accept Jesus Christ as my savior, to hedge my proverbial bets against an eternity of Hellfire, of what wisdom should I remind myself to restore my confidence in reason? | 8 | [
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"body": "In chasing out the last vestiges of my christian upbringing, I came to the conclusion that I could not stand being in any heaven if there were people convicted to eternal suffering because they did not believe. For some reason, that broke the whole thing for me--it became morally necessary, for the same part of me that held on to some of the fear, that heaven and hell must not exist. It was an amazingly satisfying experience, a profound sense of relief.",
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"body": "Most religions offer far worse punishment for worshipers of competing gods than for atheists. Since hedging is disallowed and there's no way of knowing which god is the right one, atheism remains as the safest choice. This argument also works against Pascal's wager.",
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"body": "You're suffering from religious abuse. It's no better or worse than physical or sexual abuse. It leaves life long scars. The only advice I can offer is to to think. Think about why you believe what you believe. Why are you afraid of something that can not exist when you do? Take an hour and sit down and write down why you think there's a possibility that there might be some possibility that that christian myth is correct. Then apply that same reasoning to Thor, Hathor, Zeus, Ra, Bal, or even the aztec Huitizilopochitli (sp?)?\n\nIf there is no god then it doesn't matter which god you don't worship. If threre is then odds are you're worshiping the wrong one.",
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What was the worst job you've ever had? | i'm asking for purely selfish reasons; i recently fell into a shitty job after a year of looking EVERYWHERE for jobs and finding nothing. mcdonalds wouldn't hire me. so i need some motivation to keep my terribly shitty wing joint delivery gig up until i can find something better...i mean, some days the paycheck and tips just seem like they are barely worth the stuff i put up with...anyway, tell away. | 4 | [
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"body": "When I was 15 I spent the better part of a year slicing onions at a shithole burger joint; the worst parts:\n\n* I learned quickly to strip down in the garage when returning home - if I went inside, our dogs would attempt to eat my clothes off me. One of our dogs got into the garage and ate my shoes down to the rubber soles; everything I owned or touched smelled like a deepfryer.\n\n* the owner's wife, the de-facto 'manager', [laughed like Krusty the Klown.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hjlTZCeF2EU&feature=related) Literally. And she did this constantly; at first, it was all I could do not to cry I'd be holding back the laughter; after a while, it was all I could do not to push her head into the onion-slicing-apparatus (a homespun machine that would give any OSHA inspector a wet dream in potential fines for lost digits).\n\n* And of course, no great job is truly great without drug addict co-workers slyly stealing from the cash register, then going on 2-3 day benders, then blaming the dish guy (an immigrant with 2^24 children and the ability to do THOUSANDS of dishes per hour) or myself, the onion slave, for the missing funds. Neither of us touched said register, but Krusty the Manager / Clown wasn't about to question the tweakers, oh no...\n\nI think, in the end, it's one of those jobs they call a 'character builder', which is a really polite way of saying 'sucks monkey chode'.",
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"body": "Working at IHOP as a server on the Graveyard shift in bad part of town. it was so awesome getting paid $2.13 per hour and getting a $1 tip on a $50 bill. That's of course if the high and drunk asshole customers didn't try to skip out on the bill.",
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"body": "Sadly, it was a non-profit group. My direct supervisor micromanaged and tried many times at mutiny, he got fired. Upper management promoted a gal who'd only been in the office two months and had no management experience, and proceeded to systematically fire everyone in the department and hire her personal friends.\n\nThe company has been slapped with a class action lawsuit recently, I've heard.",
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"body": "I worked at an answering service, in Richmond, California. Richmond is a cesspool that's crawling with criminals and the police don't care at all -- during the short time I worked there 3 cars got broken into (in front of our building), some guy got shot in front of my co-worker's house (she lived 2 blocks away) and a girl got raped right up the street. And this place was right across the street from the police department. \r\n\r\nAnyway besides the lovely location, here are some reasons that job sucked:\r\n\r\n* We were paid no vacation time, sick time, or holiday pay\r\n* We were offered no health insurance\r\n* If you didn't cash your check right away, it would likely bounce. I used to go to the bank the check was drawn on and cash it, and then take the cash to my bank to deposit it. The first time my check bounced I was furious and went to my boss about it and she asked me \"why didn't you just cash it instead of depositing it?\" I suppose she thought I should walk around with a pile of cash in my wallet or something.\r\n* My co-workers were like something out of a movie. A white-trash tweaker (complete with meth-mouth), a 35 year old hypocondriac (I used to keep a list of all her ailments in a notepad, just for fun)single mom who was dating the boss' 19 year old son, a mother of 4 who brought her kids in with her all the damn time, a wanna-be gangsta chick who threatened to kick my ass after she got fired, and on the graveyard shift was the most disgsting, vile woman I have ever met in my life. She stunk, she had a beard, and she was always trying to get me to give her information about the rest of the crew so she could pass it on to the owner.\r\n* The owner refused to let us turn on the heater -- the only one who had a key to the thermostat was the graveyard lady and she wouldn't let anyone have it, so in the winter time it was super-cold.\r\n\r\nI took the job and kept it because I *really* needed a job. We got a new manager eventually who tried to improve things but the owner wouldn't really let her so she ended up quitting, and offering me a job at her new company. Before I left I was working 6 days a week -- Monday - Thursday 4pm to 12am, and then Friday and Saturday graveyard shift. \r\n\r\nIn my new job I work Monday through Friday, all day shifts. I have health insurance (Kaiser) -- my company pays 90% of it. I have almost 300 hours of sick time saved up because I almost never call in sick, and I get about 3 weeks of vacation per year. They've paid for me to go to all sorts of conferences, they pay for my cell phone, and I've had the opportunity to move up from phone monkey to IT monkey (well ok I don't know if that counts as upward mobility but at least I make much more money now). I often hate it but I suppose I should be appreciative considering where I worked before.",
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Youth Jesus group asking a kid with my name questions about a religious book. Should I reply? | This email was mistakenly sent to me. It was meant for a kid with the same name, but he's a sophomore in high school, in Kentucky. Not only was it sent to me, but it was sent to a group, so I can always hit 'reply all'.
I was thinking about answering it. Would that be evil or would it be a good reminder that these kids should become critical thinkers and not simply believe the fairy tales they're told?
Help me come up with some answers and I may send it.
Here it is:
First things first, I want to thank each and every one of you for taking on the challenge to read this book and hopefully be inspired by this book written by the Harris brothers.
Reading Assignment for Week #2 (1/13/10) of class:
Read Chapter One and look back over the introduction reviews and forward for the book.
Here is a list of question to look over before class on Wednesday night. See you at church at 6:30 p.m. in the Loft, and enjoy your snow day on Monday.
CHAPTER ONE: MOST PEOPLE DON’T
A Different Kind of Teen Book
"We believe our generation is ready to rethink what teens are capable of doing and becoming." With that statement, the authors set the stage for a discussion about doing things differently. Then they identify the unique angle of
Do Hard Things: instead of being a book where adults tell teens how to change, it’s a conversation among teens who are ready to lead the way. Alex and Brett talk briefly about their background and reasons for writing the book. They want teens to rebel against low expectations and reclaim the full potential of their teen years.
Questions for Discussion or Reflection:
1. As you read the inside flaps of the book and the first chapter, how did you react to the authors’ talk about change, hard things, and "rebelution"?
2. Usually we try to look to older (hopefully wiser) people for life advice. Do you see any risks when teenagers—in this case, two nineteen year olds—try to persuade other young people to change how they think? On the other hand, what might be some advantages to the authors’ age?
3. "We don’t think ‘average teenagers’ exist," write the twins. Do you feel average? If so, why? Does that ever feel like a good thing? If not, what is it that makes you feel not average?
4. The fictional Dundress monks were well intentioned but unhappy Christians who believed that more misery must mean more holiness. Have you ever thought that? Where do you think that kind of thinking comes from?
5. In what ways do you think popular culture misrepresents what the teen years are for? Can you think of one thing that would change if you and your friends believed—really believed—that low expectations were ripping you off?
Thank you and May God Bless You!!
In Christ,
Xxxx Xxxx
Youth & Education Minister
Franklin Church of Christ
PO Box 511, 700 S. Main St.
Franklin, KY 42135-0511
Work Phone:(270) 586-xxxx
Home/Cell Phone:(270)776-xxxx
email: [email protected]
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"body": "So you can send a message to all these guys and make it sound like it came from one of them... hmmm... time for some subtly disturbing and thought-provoking responses. Perhaps we can save one or two of them. Perhaps one will go on to become a scientist or a lover of universal medical care or someone who denounces violence... you know - someone who radically diverges from religious thought and practice. Thinking caps on...",
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Books suggestions for CSS | I am looking for a book that will help me with CSS, I am currently in the IT industry, but I am more on the network support end, I want to get involved with web design a bit more and am looking to learn some CSS, can anyone suggest a book that is a good reference and a good start? | 5 | [
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"body": "Just start doing it. CSS at its core is very simple in nature, and any book you get will be *massive* overkill for the concepts needed to write good CSS. Set a goal, then learn what you need to pull it off. Set another goal, and apply bits and pieces of what you already know to streamline it. Learn attribute selectors and the nature of inheritance. There's no substitute for experience.",
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"body": "CSS : The Missing Manual, McFarland\n\nCSS Mastery by Budd, Moll, and Collison\n\nThe Zen of CSS Design, Shea and Holzhlag (this is based on CSSZenGarden.com and discusses several of the best designs on it at the time)\n\nTranscending CSS, Clarke\n\nCascading Style Sheets : The Definitive Guide, Meyer\n\nand for web design in general\n\nBulletproof Web Design, Cederholm\n\nThe Principles of Beautiful Web Design, Beaird",
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This is either, A) the quickest application of Godwin's Law ever, or B) an ironic testament to the last 8 years of US foreign policy. | While researching Gustave Gilbert, the psychologist who evaluated the Nazi leaders during the Nuremberg Trials, I came across this exchange with Hermann Göring:
> Göring: Why, of course, the people don't want war. Why would some poor slob on a farm want to risk his life in a war when the best that he can get out of it is to come back to his farm in one piece? Naturally, the common people don't want war; neither in Russia, nor in England, nor in America, nor for that matter in Germany. That is understood. But, after all, it is the leaders of the country who determine the policy and it is always a simple matter to drag the people along, whether it is a democracy, or a fascist dictatorship, or a parliament, or a communist dictatorship.
> Gilbert: There is one difference. In a democracy the people have some say in the matter through their elected representatives, and in the United States only Congress can declare wars.
> Göring: Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them they are being attacked, and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism and exposing the country to danger. It works the same in any country.
I realize that it would be unfair to make comparisons based on my own bias but honestly, who does that remind you of?
Actually, screw it. If the far right can call Obama a Nazi over health care reform, I can call Fox News, Cheney, Limbaugh & Co. Nazis over this.
That being said, I humbly declare this discussion over and downvote myself.
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"body": "This is both true and not a new or unique understanding to Goring.\r\n\r\nIt has always been the the knowledge of great leaders that to control people, all you have to do is unite them over a common fear, real or not. Deunouncing pacifists is simply part of that process.\r\n\r\nNow when I say great leaders, I don't mean necessarily ones who do good work, but there is no denying from a purely logical standpoint that Hitler was an excellent leader for most of his time. He accomplished much and controlled a lot of people with great skill.\r\n\r\nStrike fear and hatred for the Jews, rally everyone else together and you now command a viciuos force. \r\n\r\nI think this is one of those realizations that keeps getting forgotten when we teach history classes, because once you see it, you can't unsee it and it boggles my mind that so few people see it.",
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My boyfriend cannot for the life of him compliment me. | Hey relationship_advice. Occasional commenter, long-time reader, first time poster here.
I need to know if I'm over-analyzing (which I tend to do) or if this is a legitimate concern.
I've been dating this guy (we'll call him Craig) for about a month now, but we've been romantically involved, in a nonsexual way mind you, for about two or three months now. He's a great guy, a hard working man, and we seem to be just about as near-perfect for each other as you can get. But!
He cannot compliment me. In all the time we've known each other, he has not once given me a compliment that's satisfied my needs. One time he was drunk and I asked him to tell me something sweet, and he said, "You are a beautiful girl." Not bad, right? Granted he was drunk, but that's better than nothing. Right?
Last night, I said, "Craig, tell me something sweet before we go to sleep so I can have sweet dreams." And he has nothing. Five minutes pass and absolutely nothing. So I tell him to just go to sleep and he does. And just now I asked him the same thing. "Craig, tell me something nice, something sweet to make me smile."
And he comes up with, "In my opinion, you have a great sense of style."
Really, all I've been looking for is something like, "you make me happy," or, "I'm so glad you spent the last of your vacation here with me," or, "I think you're an amazing girl," or, "You're really smart and I like that about you." Nothing like even close to being along those lines. It's all been superficial nonsense.
Granted, he hasn't been in a relationship in a year or two and may have gotten out of practice. I just don't know if that's sufficient enough to excuse this. And I don't know if I'm overreacting. But in my opinion, a stranger could do better.
What do you think, relationship_advice? Am I out of line, or is my boyfriend completely slacking as much as I feel he is? More importantly, how do I get him to tell me things I'd like to hear to know he cares about me?
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"body": "You sound like a cool girl, but some guys just aren't poets. Not all men have the capacity to stare deeply into your eyes, take you gently by the chin, and tell you that you are the most beautiful woman in the world.",
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"body": "Does your boyfriend satisfy your other needs? Does he rub your back when you mention it hurts? Does he make dinner for you when you're tired? Walk the dog when it's raining?\n\nSome guys aren't great speakers so they show their love through action. If he's not showing his affection through actions then you have a problem, but if he is we could just as easily be seeing a thread next week titled:\n\n\"RA, i do everything I can to make my girlfriend comfortable and happy but she is upset at me because i can't make up flowery speeches like in the movies. What do i do?\"",
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"body": "Hi, I'm also one of those guys to whom giving compliments does not come easy, and my wife also complains about my lack of attentiveness. From her I know it is not mere \"fishing for compliments\", but an important part of being in a relationship to be appreciated. Actually that holds for me too, although I like the token of appreciation less verbal and more physical. To me, giving compliments \"for no good reason\" often feels as flattery, even though I am aware of their importance. Anyway, the feeling of being appreciated is clearly important to you, so if \"Craig\" indeed appreciates you (otherwise you have an entirely different problem at hand) then you have to make it clear to him that it is important to you that he expresses that one way or another. You probably have to repeat the message quite often, as this clearly does not come naturally to him.\r\n\r\nThat said, an emotional pop quiz just before going to sleep is stretching it a bit, to say the least: probably the equivalent of you being asked to tell a real funny joke just after waking up. Give the poor guy a break, and a clear message. \r\n",
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"body": "IMHO you're over sensitive, it's great to be in a relationship with someone you care about who obviously cares about you.\n\nBut I understand you got needs too. You can try talking to him, but seriously with most guys that's a red flag. Best thing to do is to train him. Next time he does anything nice (no matter how remotely small), give him a big hug and say \"I love it when you do nice things for me\" or \"when you say nice things\". \n\nGive it a try and let us know how it goes",
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"body": "Tell him (not reddit) what you want, we're not psychic. Great relationships have great communication.\n",
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"body": "I would reframe this if I were you. He is a person, not an extension of you. \n\nInstead of seeing this problem as a flaw in his character, recognize that what bothers you is your own issue, and not his responsibility. He is showing you he cares about you already. Believe him. \n\nYou want sweet dreams? Snuggle up to him and fall asleep petting him, breathing in his scent, whispering to him about how much you adore him.\n\nYou want sweet words? Tell him you crave that. Give him specific examples. \"Remember when you said XYZ? I felt so loved.\" It's about you, not him. Tell him what you want, with clear, concrete examples. Not as a duty he's shirking, but as an opportunity he can choose to embrace. ",
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"body": "Hi.\n\nI understand where you are coming from. A lot of comments on here point out that words are not as important as actions and that some guys have a hard time expressing their emotions verbally, hence you are unreasonable for expecting romance-movie speeches from your bf. Here is what these comments are missing, IMO:\n\n1. Actions speak louder than words. True, but words contain a dimension that actions sometimes don't. For example, lots of nice men will do the dishes, bring home dinner when you are tired, or walk the dog in the rain *if you are their mom*. They will do considerate things for their friends, their relatives, anyone they feel affection or a sense of obligation toward. It's nice to get the little extra touch of feeling romantically special, and that often comes from words that he would not say to anyone else.\n\n2. Men have trouble expressing their feelings. OK, so most men don't have twenty writers scripting sonnets for them, but come on, that's not what the OP is asking for! She is asking for something very simple, something that should be at the surface of any deep pond of emotions. She is not asking for flowery prose, just a sentiment. \"I love you.\" \"You are pretty.\" \"I am happy to be with you.\" That's all. The excuse that men can't identify and verbalize these very basic thoughts and feelings just because they're men and their minds don't work like that is not very convincing. More likely - and I think this is what the OP is afraid of - is that he isn't *feeling* these things to begin with, and then, of course, saying them feels like a sham. \n\nAfter a long relationship with someone it's easy to just assume that you know how the other feels, that you love and care about each other, blah, blah, cause this was established in the beginning. But people and their feelings change. If you fall into the complacency trap then you won't know when or if things have changed and you might find yourself with a person who doesn't feel the same way he/she used to feel even though you still do all the nice couple things by rote. Every so often, it helps to reexamine your own feelings and desires and LET YOUR PARTNER IN ON THEM.",
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"body": "Asking him before bed to tell you something sweet would make me want to stab my eyes out. It is absolutely emasculating. I agree that he should be complimenting you more, but asking for it, before bed is just annoying. If I were laying next to the most attractive girl I know and she asked me that, I could think of nothing to say that wouldn't make me feel like my balls were being rung out. \n\nYou should just have a frank, non-confrontational, breezy conversation with him about how you would like him to compliment you more, that it really means a lot to you and would make you feel good. He should get the picture then more than saying \"HEY YOU. GIVE ME A COMPLIMENT RIGHT FUCKING NOW.\"\n\nedit: don't even say \"you never compliment me\" because clearly he has. Saying something like \"I'd like you to compliment me more\" would be much better. ",
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"body": "I almost feel like you're asking him if the dress you're wearing makes you look fat. He probably has no idea what you're looking for. You can try to explain it to him, but you need to be prepared for him not understanding the difference as well. ",
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"body": "Don't force it.\nMy BF is the same way. I think it just makes him uncomfortable. I had a talk with him about it, and then after everything felt forced and awkward. Some guys can't just say \"you look cute today\", \"I'm so happy we're together\", \"blah blah blah. If he's a good guy, its definitely something to look past.",
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"body": "I seem to be out of step with most of the other advice here, but: only a month into being romantically involved and he doesn't say nice things about you? That sucks, especially if it's something that you need to hear.\n\nSome of us need reassurance, compliments and nice things to be said about us more than others. He's not going to all of a sudden start complimenting you six, twelve, or twenty-four months from now. If you need your man to say sweet little things to you occasionally, well...",
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"body": "*Really, all I've been looking for is something like, \"you make me happy,\" or, \"I'm so glad you spent the last of your vacation here with me,\" or, \"I think you're an amazing girl,\" or, \"You're really smart and I like that about you.\"*\n\nStop watching chick flicks and burn Twilight Saga books. Most men don't really say them. They don't stare into your eyes and say, \"You complete me.\"",
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IAmA Professional Body Piercer. AMA. | I install body jewelry, observing health and safety standards which meet or exceed hospital standards. My practice includes but is not limited to cartilage piercings, surface piercings, flesh stapling/plating, sub/transdermal implantation, oral piercings (I even know how to pierce the uvula... aka the dangly thing in your throat). | 27 | [
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"body": "Who did you do training with.\n\nHow did you start out?\n\nHow long after starting did you get your first.. willing participant.. for practice?\n\nAny notable pieces that you're really proud of?\n\nAny horror stories?",
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"body": "How often is your autoclave spore tested?\n\nWhat grade of metal do you use in your piercings?\n\nWhat aftercare do you recommend to your clients?\n\nIf I came in and was considering getting a piercing from you, how would you reassure me that you're qualified to do the things that you say you do?",
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"body": "* Taking into consideration cost, effort, hassle, etc., which type of piercing is, in your opinion, the biggest rip-off?\n* What seems the general consensus for the most painful place to be pierced?\n* What's the most common type of piercing requested?\n* What would you say is the most underrated sort of piercing?\n* Is the age-group of your costumers mostly late high school to college aged students?\n* Which piercing do you find the sexiest on women? On men?",
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"body": "My question is *why?*\n\nWhat drew you to get into this as a vocation?\n\nWhy do your clients get pierced? \n\nWhat do they get out of it?\n\nIs it purely ornamental, or is there some other aspect to piercing?\n\nThanks.",
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"body": "Plating - I've had an interest in body modifications for years and have learned a decent amount about many different types and have never heard of this or seen pictures or anything. What is it?",
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"body": "What's your opinion on snake bites or just general lip piercings? Overrated? Or do you think it looks good, or what?",
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"body": "I had two eyebrow piercings, one of which rejected.\n\nSome people say that I can't get the same spot pierced again, others say it's fine. Professional opinion?\n\nWhat is the best way to find out if a piercer is good (or one that I should run away screaming from)?\n",
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"body": "How do you feel about the sentiment among some in the body modification community that you have to have extensive tattooing and/or piercing to TRULY be part of the community?\n",
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"body": "Why does getting a piercing cost so much? Do you think if you lowered the price a little you would get more customers/more piercings per customer?",
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"body": "Do you also do tattooing? Most of the body piercers I are also ink artists. And if so, can you post some pics of your work?\n\n(P.S. How much would it cost to have 60-70% of both of my arms tattooed?)",
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"body": "I've always been really into piercings and have a handful myself and I was just wondering how you got into this line of business and whether you had any advice for an aspiring piercer.",
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Does anyone live in NJ, and know De Lorenzo's Tomato Pies? I want to buy a gift certificate for my in-laws, but I'm in England and need someone to pick it up. | Here's the address, if anyone could help. I'd send you the money by paypal, if you'd pick up a certificate, and post it to someone for me.
De Lorenzo's Tomato Pies
2350 US Highway 33
Robbinsville, NJ 08691 | 26 | [
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Hey Reddit: what's your favourite trick? | I now have a publishing deadline for **Every Trick in the Book** which I've been working on and procrastinating about for several years. The book already contains pretty much every trick I know, but I bet you know more!
Share your gems of wisdom and trickery and I'll credit anything I use. | 3 | [
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"body": "My only bar trick is to fill my hand with gas from a lighter, then ignite it from a fist while slowly letting the gas out so that it forms a steady flame from my hand, then using that flame to light a cigarette.",
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Hey Reddit, I can't remember the name of an old school game with a jeep and a chopper | It was a side scrolling arcade game, one player was in a choppa, and the other was in a jeep. Anyone know the name? | 3 | [
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"body": "I really enjoyed the \"sequel\" on Amiga, [SWIV](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SWIV). Played it again a few years ago, and it didn't seem so great anymore.",
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IAmA Request: I lost my virginity last night. | Given the volume of reddit virgins, it's statistically likely that one of you will win the lottery of human life that is sex. When you do, report in. | 9 | [
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"body": "I posted this a few months ago, [here](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/96h5z/i_lost_my_virginity_today_ama/).",
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"body": "So when you say \"lost virginity\" what exactly do you mean? \nBecause it's pretty fuzzy nowadays... I'm never sure if, when people here say they are virgins, they mean they've had NO sexual contact whatsoever or just never gotten to the old in-out, in-out.",
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"body": "I had my first sexual encounter last night. First time I'd ever seen, touched, or performed oral sex on a vagina. \n\nNo penis+vagina though, so I doubt this counts.\n\nI could do an AMA, if you folks want.",
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"body": "people still don't know what an \"IAmA **Request**\" is...\n\nalso, it would be awesome to find out how they get a gold star...",
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Being optimistic helped me with depression | Just wanted to give a tip to those who may be depressed and may feel stuck...But speaking from my own experience, being optimistic seems like the best way for the human to operate versus being pessimistic.
"The reason for optimism lies in the biological fact that it keeps you happy and busy, whereas pessimism just leads to lying around and bitching. I'd rather keep happy and busy than lie around bitching, but I know this will not convince those who really like lying around and bitching. As Nietzsche said that optimism and good health always go together, and so do pessimism and morbidity, in the medical sense of the word." -- ROBERT ANTON WILSON | 7 | [
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"body": "Cognitive tactics (such as understanding your thought-habits and deliberately countering them) is helpful in varying degrees. For some people it's a life-changer. For others, it provides some help in coping with the results of whacked-out brain chemistry or severe trauma. \n \nJust wanted to remark that if conscious thought-correction doesn't provide significant relief within a couple months, that doesn't indicate anything about the hopelessness or defectiveness of the depressed person. Lots of people have to also tackle the root causes (organic and/or traumatic, which is thought to malform the [llimbic system](http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qa3804/is_200707/ai_n19433493/) in kids).\n \nAbsolutely no one should be hard on themselves because positive thinking or willpower isn't enough. We wouldn't take that tack about diabetes sufferers, and there's now plenty of evidence that chronic depression has a physiological cause.",
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"body": "Finding optimism in dark times can be an unsurmountable challenge if you don't build up to it.\n\nThe way I got there wasn't as simple as I had thought. I had heard the same advice a hundred times, but couldn't see how to put it in to practice.\n\nThere was a catalyst in August last year that forced me into finding my own answer.\n\nI set goals.\n\nNot huge unachievable dreams, but goals.\n\nI started with things like remembering to shower. because I had reached the stage I just didn't care and had no self respect. then I added small things, like tidying the house, 1 sqft a day, which as a progressed became a room a day and snowballed.\n\nThen cooking good food and watching my diet. these links helped be devise a diet plan:\n[http://www.fightingdepression.co.uk/?gclid=CK-g5eXArJ8CFQQgZwodlzIL1Q](http://www.fightingdepression.co.uk/?gclid=CK-g5eXArJ8CFQQgZwodlzIL1Q)\n[http://www.foodforthebrain.org/content.asp?id_Content=1635](http://www.foodforthebrain.org/content.asp?id_Content=1635)\nA google search for food and depression will reward you with many links, some more useful than others.\n\nafter doing that, I knew that the best way to quit smoking and get rid of another depressant, was to exercise.\n\nAll the goal setting inspired me to run 10k for charity, which I am training for now. I walk to work. If you live a huge distance away, there are a few more obstacles to do that, but it can be done.\n\nNow I see good things when I look out my front door, even when the snow is 2 feet high and I have to walk.\n\nIn short; it is my experience that the original poster is right, but would welcome discussion and practical advice for those who can't yet see their own light.\n\nshorter: be optimistic by building optimism",
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freelancers: do you purchase icons/graphics for
clients & bill later, ask them to purchase or use
watermarked ones until payday? | Because although I'm sure my client will reimburse for the icons, I can't really afford them in my current state. | 25 | [
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"body": "use comping images until you get a final approval on the design, then purchase and integrate into your billing with appropriate markup. \r\n\r\nIf you having cash flow issues it is ok to ask for a 10%-50% deposit with new clients, asking for specific purchases will look unprofessional.\r\n\r\nWe use shutterstock where I work.",
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"body": "I totally feel you, I've been in that situation before, but yes, you generally want to purchase the icons and graphics for the client.\r\n\r\nUsually ... I'll factor it into the estimate, so that the initial deposit (50% upfront) will cover it for me.",
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"body": "Do whatever you want and factor it in to the bill at the end. Don't ask the client to purchase them for you. You will come across as an amateur that doesn't have the resources other designers will have.",
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"body": "I always build in $50 bucks or so of royalty-free art (icons and cheap iStock imagery) on every job, to save the hassle of having to negotiate. Any imagery above and beyond that, I have a statement in my contract saying I will pass-through the cost to them on the final invoice. This makes them the legal owners of the imagery rights, but removes the hassle of having to have them buy the imagery themselves.",
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"body": "We don't do a line-item charge for stock art and we've been known to purchase multiple icon sets during the comp stage.\n\nFor us, the rationale comes down to:\n\n* **We want to keep our positioning clear:** We're not short-order cooks dashing off quickie projects or mom-and-pop sites, and don't want to come off that way. A single, all-inclusive fee gives the client some peace of mind and keeps us from nickel and diming them along the way.\n\n* **Our decision not to charge for these things reinforces our biz-dev efforts.** Because we charge neither hourly or line-item fees, that keeps us focused on bigger projects. Put another way: If the project's margins are really going to be impacted by $100 in stock icons, then it's probably not a project we should be doing.",
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"body": "I use iStockPhoto. If you are on a Mac and use Skitch you can capture an image with watermark. The nice thing is that the file name will have the id and description of the picture in it making it a snap to go back and purchase the image when you're done. I'm sure the same thing works in snagit...",
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"body": "For images there is no harm in using comps and pricing them up for the client -as long as it is stated in your original scope, that imagery is an additional cost. A strong image can be expensive but can elevate a site into a different league, so it is right that the client 'gets what he pays for'.\n\nFor icons and buttons etc., I think of these as tradesmens tools and to be honest you should invest in some decent sets or make your own libraries.",
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My 5 year old daughter has recently discovered the level editor in Supertux | She spends half her time creating levels and half her time cheating by deleting the bad guys from some of the harder levels. | 38 | [
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"body": "The fact that she's smart enough at 5 years of age to see the level editor as both a tool for creation *and* progression says wonders for her cognitive abilities. You, my good man, have yourself a thinker.",
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"body": "This is cool. This should be encouraged. Platformer is actually a very good genre to inspire creativity. ",
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"body": "Wow, awesome! Watch out, I did the same thing at her age and now I'm a software developer. Fair warning.",
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"body": "She has potential to be a future games designer. Start teaching her about risk/reward structures and read to her articles from Gamasutra.",
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I am best man for my brothers wedding, does reddit have suggestions to ensure my speech is a classic? | Background: It is my older brothers wedding next weekend and I am the best man. I have a working speech, but I feel it's missing a great line. I would like to have a great joke in there, and possibly some great one-to-two line quote/poetry line on love to be able to close with.
My problem: I'm an engineer whom has forgotten all of his poetry from school, and I'm having trouble finding something that is original and great!
Suggestions?
Edit: I'm getting good stuff, but something unexpected has come up, and I have to go out for a few hours, I will be back, and I'll read and reply to everything later. Thanks people! | 4 | [
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"body": "\"Firstly, I'd just like to thank everyone for coming. It's been a very emotional day for everyone; even the cake is in tiers.\"",
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"body": "Make it personal. \n\nWhat are some of your fondest memories of your brother?\n\nWere there any funny moments that your entire family shared?\n\nDo not embarrass him. \n\nYou might as well start by praising him (do not address him directly) and the conclude by saying \"well, enough about myself, today I am here to talk about ...\".",
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"body": "I think something people often forget when they're doing wedding toast is that they are toasting the couple, not just the bride or the groom. So my advice is don't forget that part of your toast should be about the two of them, not just your brother.\n\nAs for a good last line, the best woman at my friends' wedding said something to the effect of \"I hope that today is the *worst* day of your marriage, because everyday that you are together should keep getting better.\" It may be trite, I'm honestly not sure, but it was the first time I'd heard it and I thought it was sweet.",
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"body": "When I did a best man speech I ended it with something along these lines\n\n\"... and tonight I encourage you two (directed at the couple) and everyone else here to cheat, steal, lie and drink. \n\nCheat death,\n\nSteal a kiss,\n\nLie (lay?) next to the one you love,\n\nand Drink to the health of this married couple\"",
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"body": "Watch Four Weddings and a Funeral. Best speech is the one that starts off\n\n\"When Bernard told me he was getting engaged to Lydia,\n \nI congratulated him because all his other girlfriends were such complete dogs.\n\nAlthough may I say how delighted we are to have so many of them here today.\"\n\nIf you can start off with something like that then I'm sure it'll be remembered for a long time to come.\n\n",
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"body": "[When my brother Harold asked me to be the best man at his wedding I was like of course, man, because you've always been there for me. Like when I was in rehab, and like the time I couldn't find my car. 'Cause Harold has always been the dependable one and I've always been the screwed up one. Right dad? Why can't you be more like your brother? Harold would never beat up his landlord. But uh, news flash, pop, Harold ain't so perfect. Remember that time in Puerto Rico when we picked up those two uh... well, I guess they were prostitutes but I don't remember paying.](http://www.moviesoundscentral.com/sounds/wedding_singer/wsinger13.mp3)",
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I think I've identified part of the reason Atheists are generally viewed as grouchy. | It's because we are constantly asking people questions that they should be asking themselves. Hell yes I'm grouchy! Do you know how many times a day I spend critically thinking for others?
As if this weren't obnoxious enough, as skeptics we're asked a billion stupid questions that are seemingly clever and impressive only to the inquisitor. I got this one the other day, "How could Evolution be true? It's like putting some water in a bottle and shaking it up until it's a human being." As I let the stupidity wash over me, simultaneously causing a spike in blood pressure and a bit of an eye twitch, he continued to teach DoD network security for the USAF.
Jeee-sus, just shoot me behind the chemical shed already!! | 35 | [
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"body": "My response: \"You're right, evolution must be wrong. There's no way you're as smart as this bottle of water.\"",
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"body": "I distance myself from this statement. I'm grouchy all the time, whether somebody asks me stupid questions or not!\n\nI know that whenever my stupidity leads to things going wrong around me (and that happens a lot), it's all my own damn fault. I don't have anybody to forgive me for my fuckups, I don't have an angel assigned to save me if I get into an accident, I don't have an expectation of going to heaven or banging 72 virgins, I know it's game over when I die, and I know that all I'll be doing then is feeding worms. I can't even be smug about how disappointed religious folks will be when they die, because they won't be anything.\n\nSo, like, without a whole bunch of fluffy pleasant lies to be happy about, you expect me to be cheerful?",
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Why you shouldn't say yes to fixing an acquaintance's new custom built PC... | Don't do it! I need to stop doing this, takes so much time... First of all the Hard Drive was dodgy, IE wouldn't open, mail archives corrupt, 50% programs not working... got a new HDD and cloned data from the old one (to avoided having to format and loose data), ran chkdsk (fixed heaps) and did a windows 7 upgrade still no good... and I just discovered process explorer shows 50% CPU usage on hardware interrupts... its 12:33am monday.... I have to go to work in 7 1/2 hours... fml, I think I deserve this for taking this on... lesson learned. | 6 | [
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"body": "This is why I will not do PC work for anyone but my family and closest friends. I have turned down a lot of requests from acquaintances and coworkers (making some of them quite angry at me) to work on their PCs for pay (most people have the decency to offer payment). I always just tell them I have a strict policy of not working on home PCs - no exceptions. I explain that it opens me up to too much liability, and I just don't feel comfortable doing it anymore.\n\nThe problem with working on people's personal PCs is that once you've touched it, you \"own\" it. You will inevitably get a phone call four months later with a complaint about some new problem, and when you try to get out of it, they'll say \"well, it never did this before you touched it!\" And if you agree to take a look, they won't want to pay you again. They feel that if they spend $200 on a one-time repair, it comes with lifetime support.\n\nIt's just not worth it for any price.",
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"body": "I've found myself becoming less and less willing to help anyone with any computer problem. You can run into problems even if you start out by only helping family, you're fucked; they start offering your services (\"Magic\") for free as if you're some kind of bargain-basement hooker and they're your pimp. They put you on the spot right in front of the person so that your only two options are to help or look like an asshole.\n\nThe \"minor\" problem turns into a major one upon realizing that their computer has 2-3 antivirus programs installed (All out of date), XP pre-SP1, a toolbar for every program that they've ever installed, popups in your face as soon as they sign in, and a registry that is more corrupted than a lifelong Senator. Oh, they're also on dial-up. Naturally, it takes hours upon hours to correct these things, all the while dealing with their abhorrent hygiene, shoulder-riding, and 3\" worth of dust and garbage that have accrued around the work area.\n\nNaturally, they call you up in a few weeks after they've once again broken the computer that you fixed for free and blame *you*, stating that it was \"working fine before you did whatever you did\". At this point, you're entirely justified in going to their home and beating them to death with a tire iron.",
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Dear Reddit where do I start with Classical Music? | I've always meant to listen to more classical music, a commonly expressed sentiment I'm sure, but I have no idea where to start. I was wondering if anyone could recommend a good starting point to me? Thanks | 137 | [
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"body": "Classical music is ridiculously varied.\n\nThe term \"classical\" music is unfortunately used to lump in a million different styles of music:\nrenaissance, baroque, \"classical,\" romantic, modern (atonal, minimalist etc), much film music, and then within all the different styles: orchestral, choral, opera, oratorio, artsong, chamber music.\n\nI think the suggestion to start with some of the film-music composers is a great idea: from John Williams, regress back through Holst, Wagner, Prokofiev, all the people from whom modern film composers relentlessly copy.\n\nBut then fish out some more obscure things, just to have a listen to the variety that is within \"classical\" music.\n\nListen to some renaissance choral music: perhaps a track or two from a Tallis Scholars recording of Palestrina or Josquin.\n\nListen to some baroque instrumental music: Bach concertos whatnot. Brandenburg concertos.\n\nListen to some Haydn Symphonies. With all this \"earlier\" music, I can't recommend more that you get recent recordings, on the whole performers of the 1980's-2000's are better at performing this early stuff than they were in say 1950: it's interesting to listen though to how different a 1950's recording of a piece is to the same piece recorded this decade. Incidentally, for Haydn, I recommend Symphony No 26 in D minor, particularly conducted by Sigiswald Kuijken, in fact anything he conducts is bound to be vital and exciting.\n\nIf I said \"listen to some opera\" then that is still way too broad.\nMonteverdi's Orfeo is a world apart from Mozart's Marriage of Figaro, is a world apart from Verdi's Falstaff, is a world apart from Puccini's La Boheme, is a world apart from Wagner's Parsifal, is a world apart from Britten's Turn of the Screw. Opera is theatre anyway, as much as music, so the only way to really experience it is to go, or get a DVD. \n\nMozart's Requiem is a great great piece, as is Faure's Requiem.\n\nRachmaninov's piano concerto's are fantastic and entirely worth listening to.\n\nHave a bit more fun and listen to Stravinsky's Rite of Spring.\n\nThere is no obvious starting point.\n\nBut there's nothing wrong with trying to find context. If you're listening to something in a foreign language, try have a translation. If you're listening to Rite of Spring, remember that while it seems maybe like a bit of weird film music, it was in fact the most \"modern\" and dissonant piece audiences had ever heard in 1917, so much that the audience rioted at the premiere. \n\nMost classical music has a place and function in history - composed for court entertainment. Much of it is dance music, or based on dance forms. Much of it isn't. Sometimes it's trying to tell a story or paint a picture; sometimes it's purely an exercise in \"argument\" like a form of rhetoric, except with tunes and sounds instead of words.",
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"body": "[Classical Music Top 100](http://thepiratebay.org/torrent/3914124/Classical_Music_Top_100)\n\nWhen I started, I started off with this torrent and then selected from among it my favourites. Turns out I'm especially partial to violin concertos. Perhaps you might be too.",
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"body": "Bach is great, but it might be tough to start off with him. Part of the joy of classical music comes with focusing your attention to a piece that might be longer than your average 3 minunte pop song. Listen to any of the Chopin waltzes, preludes, or nocturnes. They're all fairly short. If you feel like you have the attention span for a longer piece, listen to his ballades and scherzi. Chopin's 4th ballade opus 52 in f minor is incredible. I may be biased when it comes to Chopin because I'm a pianist. If you want to get into orchestral music, listen to Beethoven's symphonies, there's nothing like them. The third one is great, that's the one that was used in the movie \"The Soloist\" with Jaime Fox. The 6th symphony is the one from the \"Fantasia.\" The 5th is the one that goes dun dun dun duuuuuuuun. The 9th is my favorite, the 7th is also great. Honestly, they're all masterpieces and you should listen to them. If you're into Chopin and you want to get into more romantic works that maybe stray away from the piano, listen to Brahms' symphonies. He wrote four of them. If you want to start off with something really out, I can help you there too, but that's another discussion.",
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"body": "Apply this rule set (non-exclusive):\n\n If you are playfully and masterfully exquisite try Mozart \n If you are mathematical then try Bach\n If you are mathematical but also emotional then try Vivaldi\n If you are robustly and romantically passionate then try Beethoven\n If you are feeling like Thor then again try Beethoven (hammerklavier)\n If you are metaphysically on the edge try Schoenberg (verklarte nacht)\n If you are intellectually straddling two ages try Mahler (#5)\n If you like to reach your inner feminine then try Chopin\n If you like the smell of Napalm in the morning then try Wagner\n ...\n\n\n",
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"body": "I would say to start with stuff you know. Listen to the Star Wars and Lord of the Rings soundtracks; that way you can get a feel for the kinds of instrumentation and sounds that you like in classical music. Start with modern composers you (may) know and love and look for related classical music. For example, John Williams draws heavily from Wagner and Holst.\n\nAlso, these others on here seem to have pretty good ideas. Try Mozart, Bach, Beethoven - the simply fact is, they're famous for two reasons: first, they're really good, and second, they have had a lot of influence on music.",
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"body": "I would recommend listening to a classical music radio station for a while until you find something on which you can really grasp. If that is not available, watch the first Fantasia movie. Seriously. That is how I started as a little kid, and I am now a classically trained violinist and have been for almost fifteen years.",
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"body": "The Beethoven Symphonies. Finally something that deserves the over-used word \"Epic\". It sounds like war. Storms. God throwing thunder bolts. Once you cross the threshold and grasp this music it will give you chills, a lump in your throat. It's not uncommon for grown men to cry by the end of the 9th Symphony, a movement called the Ode To Joy. Astoundingly, Beethoven was completely deaf when he wrote the 9th. Here's a taste at You Tube:\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SExR2h20HlQ\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IFMF5N7rZFA\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iMJPZ-mu-Ts\n\nThe Abbado set of the 9 Symphonies on 4 DVDs is less than $35 at Amazon and sounds superb unlike these poor quality You Tube versions.\n\nThe Bach Brandenburg Concerti. Bach's 6 masterpieces of counterpoint and polyphony. If Row Row Row Your Boat is 2 kids playing on a see saw, then this is Olympic gymnasts doing things with their bodies you would not have thought possible. I recommend the the Abbado set on Blu Ray or DVD. The recording is recent and very, very good picture and sound quality. The players are highly trained and mostly young and really pretty, playing in this gorgeous gilded theater in Italy. \n\nCheck out the two blond fiddle players. I've got a huge crush on the one with the short hair ;) \n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8LoW_H1TNoE\n\nFinally the Brandenburg 2. With the exception of Beethoven's 5th, the most recognizable piece of classical music ever. The horn is a piccolo trumpet which has been called the \"hernia horn\". Very difficult to play, but this guy has it down cold.\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLsNzCx1ots ",
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"body": "I would recommend Wolfgang Mozart as a jumping-off point.\n\nHis music is very accessible, almost \"poppy\" if you will, and you're very likely to be familiar with a lot of his tunes without even knowing it.\n\nRent Amadeus (the movie). Although not very accurate, it'll give you a feel for the passion of classical music without the stuffy, pretentious facade usually associated with the classics.\n\nThen Bach and Beethoven. Being a guitarist, I'm partial to Bach because not only did he write music for the guitar, most of his tunes easily translate well to the guitar.\n\nAfter that, maybe get your hands on a compilation disc with several different masters. This will likely give you some direction for where you want to go from there.\n\nGood luck, and good choice!",
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"body": "You're getting a lot of very balanced and well rounded recommendations..but this isn't how people fall in love with new music, especially not music as varied as this. There is half a millennium of progression to western classical music and the stuff from the beginning isn't much like the stuff being made now.\n\nSo my recommendation is this: look for music that speaks to you personally and branch out from there. There's a lot more out there than bach, beethoven, brahms, and mozart.\n\nHere's are a few pieces that have touched me. They're not all that terribly well known or very similar to one another, but hopefully one or two will touch you too..\n\n* Husa - Music for Prague\n* Barber - Medea's Dance of Vengeance\n* Grainger - Lincolnshire Posy\n* Mahler - Symphony #1\n* Weinberger - Polka and Fugue\n* Wagner - Elsa's Procession to the Cathedral\n* Debussy - La Mer\n* Bach - The Art of the Fugue\n* Chopin - Waltz in C# minor (op. 64 no 2)\n* Scriabin - Prelude No. 4 in E minor\n* Barber - Piano Concerto movt. 4, Pas de Deux (from Souvenirs)\n* Schoenberg - A Survivor from Warsaw",
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"body": "A-M\n\n1. J.S. Bach, \"Cello Suite No. 1 in G\" Major http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DwHpDOWhkGk busy, with a refined and civilized air, like for a luxury car commercial; also used to suggest introspection (cf. Josh Lyman's PTSD in The West Wing).\n\n2. J.S. Bach, \"Air on the G String\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qOVwokQnV4M often used in film and television to suggest an air of extreme refinement.\n\n3. J.S. Bach, \"Toccata and Fugue in d (minor)\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipzR9bhei_o used in horror films to establish the scariness of a person or place, sometimes to establish the putative majesty or sublimity of a product in a commercial\n\n4. J.S. Bach, \"The Well-Tempered Clavier, Book I: Prelude No. 1 in C major\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0KQW2YnCUrE \n\n5. Samuel Barber, Adagio for Strings http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lV3SHBFyDZM&feature=related solemn funeral/memorial cliché; used (starting at 0:20) in this video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OWNz6eyrNZw) criticizing forensic methods in the Knox case.\n\n6. Ludwig van Beethoven, \"Für Elise\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3o5baA0Z9g4\n\n7. Beethoven, \"Moonlight Sonata\", 1st Movement\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O6txOvK-mAk\n\n8. Beethoven, \"Fifth Symphony, \"1st Movement\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zhcR1ZS2hVo)\n\n9. Beethoven, \"Ode To Joy, 9th Symphony, 4th movement\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wod-MudLNPA\n\n10. Georges Bizet \"Habanera\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fZRssq7UlM from *Carmen*\n\n11. Luigi Boccherini, \"Menuet, from String Quintet No. 5 in E\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKpP8XFYIHk this is the piece played in The Hudsucker Proxy in Norville Barnes's office, as well as the piece used in a Birmingham, Alabama commercial for the Culinard Institute (a cooking school)\n\n12. Chopin, \"Waltz in C# Minor\" - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2WpDH5zbhIk Frequently in Curb Your Enthusiasm\n\n13. Aaron Copland, *Rodeo*, \"Hoedown\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cqah1rucyRg BEEF!\n\n14. Aaron Copland, \"Fanfare for the Common Man\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xzf0rvQa4Mc I seem to remember this being used in the Olympics in the 1980s and 1990s.\n\n15. Claude Debussy, \"Suite Bergamasque, No. 3: Clair de Lune\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s2XzoA94Zws\n\n16. Léo Delibes, Sylvia, \"Divertissimo Pizzicato\" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Delibes_pizzi_sylvia.ogg) A well-known pizzicato theme; fit for Ren & Stimpy.\n\n17.\tLéo Delibes, Lakmé, \"The Flower Duet\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mpT7pK9A61A#t=1m21s So very ethereal, it might be used as ironic backdrop for violence (often used as non-ironic backdrop for the chinese restaurant dining experience) (This duet is used as a backdrop for violence in the Tarantino-scripted Tony Scott movie True Romance.)\n\n18.\tAntonin Dvorák, \"Humoresque No. 7 for piano in G flat major, B. 187/7 (Op. 101/7)\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WmAZoexenx8\n\n19.\tEdward Elgar, \"Enigma Variations, IX. Nimrod\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npbUFXzGS8c British counterpart to the Barber Adagio (though about a half-century older).\n\n20.\tElgar, \"Pomp and Circumstance March No. 1, trio section\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxqFdcZz974&feature=related \"Land of Hope and Glory\" for Brits, \"graduation music\" for Americans.\n\n21.\tJulius Fučík, \"Vjezd gladiatorů (Entrance of the Gladiators)\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_B0CyOAO8y0 circus music\n\n22.\tRemo Giazotto, \"Adagio in G Minor, Albinoni's Adagio\" - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i_rE1CUT8gI This was in the Sopranos, among other things.\n\n23.\tEdvard Grieg, *Peer Gynt*, \"In the Hall of the Mountain King\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xrIYT-MrVaI suspenseful build into something pretty aggressive\n\n24.\tEdvard Grieg, *Peer Gynt*, \"Morning Mood http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PAbwMGZtIsY baby animals slowly waking up in the forest\n\n25.\tHandel, *Hallelujah Chorus* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nnHksDFHTQI\n\n26.\tGustav Holst, *The Planets* \"Mars The Bringer of War\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6NeQ1h6lzLI used in virtually everything in which there is a war on film\n\n27. Holst, \"Jupiter, The Bringer of Jollity\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nz0b4STz1lo possibly even more familiar than \"Mars\", with three almost independently famous sections: (i) the beginning; (ii) 1:36; and (most of all) (iii) 2:55. (Holst's daughter Imogen is said to have been embarrassed by this movement's reknown.)\n\n28.\tAram Khachaturian, *Gayane*, \"Sabre Dance\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gqg3l3r_DRI more circus music\n\n29.\tRuggero Leoncavallo, *Pagliacci*, \"Vesti la giubba\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4mzv9N4COo#t=2m00s this is one of the most famous tragic arias in history.\n\n30.\tFranz Lizst, \"Hungarian Rhapsody No. 2\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9-2jM5RNSs#t=5m42s playful, almost saloon-like, found in countless cartoons, notably in the piano duel scene in Who Framed Roger Rabbit?, in which Donald Duck may very well call Daffy Duck a \"fucking nigger\"\n\n31.\tClint Mansell, \"Requiem for a Dream\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e2Ma4BvMUwU extremely melodramatic, out-Toscaing-Tosca musical piece that is often used in trailers to establish the extreme high stakes of doing whatever it is that is being done in the trailer. Overused to an embarrassing degree that exaggerates the poverty of the creative power of our age.\n\n32.\tWolfgang Amadeus Mozart, \"Overture to *The Marriage of Figaro*\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wcuXkicCTro (The knowledgeable will understand why not only the overture but numerous excerpts from the opera itself were used in the film Trading Places.)\n\n33.\tMozart, *Requiem* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mb3bwGb0glQ The famous part begins around 0m50s.\n\n34.\tMozart, \"Rondo alla Turca\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UGDHe14m8ew elegant little piano thing that's very hummable and almost never identifiable by the people doing the humming\n\n35.\tMozart, \"Serenade in G major, Eine Kleine Nachtmusik, I. Allegro\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qb_jQBgzU-I\n\n36.\tMozart, *Symphony No. 40 in G minor, I. Molto allegro* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-hJf4ZffkoI and *IV. Allegro assai* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uJHYnBl-DJQ&feature=related\n\n37.\tMozart, \"Queen of the Night Aria\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2ODfuMMyss#t=00m38s from *Die Zauberfloete*: often used to show off the virtuosity of the soprano singer\n\n38.\tModest Mussorgsky, \"Night on Bald Mountain\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V8Ca_edg6RE foreboding, often played when establishing that a guy is really, really evil or a place is really, really scary",
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"body": "Bach's Mass in B Minor. The whole thing. Probably the most beautiful piece of music ever. \n\nThen Bach's Brandenburg concertos. Pure emotion. ",
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"body": "you should probably start with one of the big three, namely bach, bethoven or mozart. More speciffically bethovens 9th symphony is a very good starting point.",
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"body": "I have only recently (within about a year and a half) begun to really get into \"Classical\" music. I've found that, all popularity aside, Tchaikovsky tends to be my favorite composer. It's just something about his energetic, emotional style, and how it continues to move you and communicate with you, even now in the 21st century. However, you can find this with many other composers. \n\nMy advice to you would be to start out with the composers (and compositions) you've already heard of. This will give you a good jumping-off point. Then you can research related styles and move on.\n\nFor Tchaikovsky, check out: 1812 Overture, Piano Concerto No. 1, Swan Lake, Nutcracker Suite...\n\nBeethoven: Fifth & Ninth Symphonies (or all of them!), Moonlight Sonata (beautiful, sad, moving piano sonata), Ode to Joy, Fur Elise, Pathetique Sonata...\n\nMozart: Rondo Alla Turca... \n\nYou get the point! Think of a composer you've heard of, or a famous composition, and Google it, then read up and find more.\n\nP.S. Also check out The Blue Danube (Waltz). One of my favorites!",
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"body": "Vivaldi started me out and I've never looked back. This still gives me goosebumps...\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5w7uQlGJeZ4\n\n",
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"body": "Ooh, tough choice of where to begin, I would say it depends on what you already think you like. Start there and build.\n\nDon't be scared to get a couple of \"best-ofs\" by good artists, like the LSO or other symphonies. The Naxos label is also a good way into classical, they are very reasonable and cover a lot of ground.\n\nSo the question is, what do you know that you already like? Some particular arias from opera? Something like Nessun Dorma perhaps? Or maybe certain well known pieces - Beethoven's 5th or 6th symphonies, Mozart's Nachtmusik, Bach's prelude in G, Vivaldi's 4 seasons? Or maybe just certain styles - find something you like, whether it's composer, period or orchestra, and work outwards from there.\n\nFor that matter, knowing the epochs is a good guide as well:\n\n* Middle ages: pretty much single melody sung pieces.\n* Renaissance: Introduction of harmony/polyphony into singing (Palestrina, for instance), and some instrumentation\n* Baroque: the start of \"real classical\" as most people would recognise it. Classical instruments, Orchestras, Symphonies and so forth. This covers everything from Monteverdi to Bach, Mozart, Vivaldi.\n* Classical: a start of the challenge to \"old\" classical, trying to bend the rules if you will. Beethoven, Haydn and Mozart (again, he was ahead of his time)\n* Romantic: Brahms, Wagner, Tchaikovsky, Mahler: generally huge, bombastic. Think Ride of the Valkyries (yes, this is a simplification but it's indicative)\n* Modern, meaning first half of the 20th century: Where it generally starts to break the rules rather than bend them, experimenting with all aspects of sound creation and musical \"laws\". Debussy, Bartok, Stravinsky. While I don't mean to discredit this work here, I suspect it's not what you're looking for.\n\nGood luck! There are a lot of legal, free recordings out there, so don't be scared to dive in.\n\n\nOn that note, don't discount some modern compositions in the baroque/classical style. I don't mean modern atonal pieces that are really jarring, but I would recommend:\n\nHoward Shore - the music from the lord of the rings movies\nGame soundtracks: Dragon Age, Oblivion, even World of Warcraft.\n\n",
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"body": "N-Z\n\n1. Jacques Offenbach, *Orpheus in the Underworld* \"Can Can\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rZqU8Zkfj1A cheerful and bombastic, used in *Moulin Rouge*\n\n2. Carl Orff, *Carmina Burana*, \"O Fortuna\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qjvqY-U9gV0 Battle Chess!\n\n3. Pachelbel, *Canon in D Major* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DZHw9uyj81g\n\n4. Avro Part, \"Spiegel im Spiegel\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QtFPdBUl7XQ The title of this is German for \"Mirror in the mirror,\" and this piece is often used to evoke silent contemplation or sadness or loss. Notably used in the Mike Nichols made-for-HBO film \"Wit,\" about a woman's death from terminal cancer.\n\n5. Sergei Prokofiev, \"Peter and the Wolf\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ctsWdUaHsHM Parodied in episodes of Muppet Babies and Tiny Toon Adventures. Backdrop for Scut Farkus bully scenes in A Christmas Story.\n\n6. Giacomo Puccini, \"Un bel di vidremo (Aria)\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTXE36Lr-lc from *Madame Butterfly*\n\n7. Sergei Rachmaninov, \"Rhapsody on a Theme of Paganini, 18th Variation\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_BArG3ollw arguably the most famous of all Romantic themes.\n\n8. Maurice Ravel, \"Boléro\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2q-gWMAGjw&feature=related: Figure skaters love it. Bits can be heard in works by Deep Purple, Rufus Wainwright and Frank Zappa (although Ravel's estate forced omission of the song from the European release of The Best Band You Never Heard in Your Life). Heard in the Tube in London.\n\n9. Nikolai Rimsky-Korsakov, \"Flight of the Bumblebee\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6A-JYbu1Os\n\n10. Gioachino Rossini, *The Thieving Magpie* \"Overture\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Us_6fXZpt-c) insouciant feel, famous little descending melody http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Us_6fXZpt-c#t=4m23s used to excess in Kubrick's *A Clockwork Orange* and Huston's *Prizzi's Honor*\n\n11. Rossini, *The Barber of Seville* \"Largo al factotum\" http://youtube.com/watch?v=Dq_0wPYFp9A baritone aria, \"Figaro, Figaro, Figaro, ...! (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dq_0wPYFp9A#t=3m19s)\"\n\n12. Rossini, *The Barber of Seville* \"Overture\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OloXRhesab0 extremely dramatic http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OloXRhesab0#t=2m08s then comical http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OloXRhesab0#t=3m42s\n\n13. Rossini, *William Tell* \"Overture\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JkymTHSbWe0 Lone Ranger, etc.\n\n14. Camille Saint-Saëns, *Carnival of the Animals* \"Aquarium\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AsD0FDLOKGA used in pretty much every movie trailer in which something magical or mysterious happens\n\n15. Eric Satie, *Gymnopedie No. 1* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=atejQh9cXWI extremely lazy, slow piece that might evoke thoughtfulness or anomie or sabbatical\n\n16. Raymond Scott, \"Powerhouse\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YfDqR4fqIWE The B-part http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YfDqR4fqIWE#t=1m25s is the famous 'wacky machine' music, but the frantic A-part http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YfDqR4fqIWE#t=0m03s is occasionally used as well.\n\n17. Richard Strauss, *Also Sprach Zarathustra* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SLuW-GBaJ8k 2001 theme; ultra-dramatic\n\n18.\tJohann Strauss II, \"The Blue Danube\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_CTYymbbEL4: featured in the Looney Tunes Fantasia parody A Corny Concerto and of course *2001*\n\n19.\tPyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky, *Romeo and Juliet*, \"Love theme(?)\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9VMCiewc7mE swelling and swelling into a close-up of a passionate kiss\n\n20.\tTchaikovsky, *1812 Overture*, \"Finale\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u2W1Wi2U9sQ\n\n21.\tTchaikovsky, *The Nutcracker*, \"Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairies http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HSQ3ZRmkmy4\n\n22.\tTchaikovsky, *Piano Concerto No. 1* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JbsvPMbC55A Extremely familiar romantic theme, as famous maybe as Rachmaninov's Rhapsody on a Theme of Paganini\n\n23.\tTchaikovsky, \"Waltz\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LW_LNxEt8QU from *Swan Lake* used famously in Stanley Kubrick's *2001* and less famously in *The Hudsucker Proxy* (at the Fancy Dress Ball)\n\n24.\tGiuseppe Verdi, *Rigoletto*, \"La donna è mobile\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8A3zetSuYRg) extremely famous canzone for tenors, sort of a satisfied feel to it\n\n25.\tGiuseppe Verdi *Il Trovatore*, \"Anvil Chorus\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RXFZckzjcKw#t=1m14s bombastic, perfect for cutting back and forth from one scene to another\n\n26.\tAntonio Vivaldi *The Four Seasons: Spring* (La Primavera) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JKQoeUr1lGw Culinard. This one belongs in the same basket with Air on a G String.\n\n27.\tRichard Wagner, *Die Walküre* \"The Ride of The Valkyrie\" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1aKAH_t0aXA used during the *Apocalypse Now* helicopter sequence, often used when people we are to take as badasses are pursuing others\n",
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"body": "Here are 50 or so great classical music blogs:\n\nhttp://www.totallyfuzzy.net/directory/?tag=Classical",
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"body": "Go to Pandora and listen to classical for a while until you find something you can relate to, then build a station around that. Go from there. \n\nMy personal favorite easy-to-listen-to piece is Bartok's Concerto for Orchestra. Many people, even beginning musicians, have a hard time with Bach (I find this hard to believe, myself, but that's what people say), so that might be a bad place to start. Mozart is directly understandable for most people, but if you're used to music with some grit in it, you may find it simply boring.",
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"body": "Classical music is an umbrella term. My best advice, just start listening around and identify what you like about certain composers, compositions, etc. \n\nI really recommend Richard Wagner. His music is very grandiose...some of it just soars. I often describe it as Swiss mountain music. I also find he is a very fascinating composer, someone correct me if I'm wrong, but for example, I heard a story about how Wagner and the philosopher Nietzsche used to be friends, and then Wagner became quite religious...oops, there goes that friendship. \nListen to his 'Tannhauser overture', you may have heard also of 'The Ride of the Valkyries' before, or 'Tristan and Isolde'? \n\nAlso, if you are interested in something completely different, take a listen to Bella Bartok. ",
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"body": "These are the pieces I find most effective for getting people excited about classical music: Tchaikovsky Symphony 4 (I always start with the fourth movement), Rimsky-Korsakov's Scheherazade, Beethoven Symphony 5, Benjamin Britten's Young Person's Guide to the Orchestra, Aaron Copland's Third Symphony, Holst's The Planets (start with Jupiter, then Mars), and if you're feeling adventurous, Sibelius Fourth Symphony and Stravinsky's Petrouchka. Hope this helps! \n\n* Tchaikovsky 4: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PLHj-eekdNU\n* Young Person's Guide: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bi0DQNd6bCc&feature=related#t=5m30s\n* Holst The Planets, Jupiter: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6NopU9K_8M\n\nGood luck!",
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"body": "There's a great quote about exactly this, but my google-fu is weak, and I can't find it. From memory, it goes something like:\n\n\n>Get hold of Dvorak's \"New World Symphony\" and Beethoven's \"Eroica\", and listen to them both twice. If you still don't get it, forget about classical music for a while.\n\n\nMight have been P. J. O'Rourke - sounds like the sort of thing he'd say.\n\n\nMy personal recommendation is to get a really good pair of headphones, a dark room, and the Paul Hillier/Theatre of Voices recording of Arvo Pärt's \"De Profundis\". ",
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Need help buying a new laptop | GF wants a new laptop, between $800-$1000 Basic school stuff, music and pictures. Any recommendations? Any I should definitly stay away from??
Thanks
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Poll for Atheists: Do you believe in Phlambamthrapeax? (No, I won't be defining "Phlambamthrapeax" for you.) | Well there's the question. It's very simple. Just tell me if you believe in it or not. You have a definition in your head, now tell me if you believe it.
EDIT: [Context](http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/aqhsi/poll_for_atheists_do_humans_have_a_soul/) | 9 | [
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"body": "No, I don't. I justify this under the assumption that Phlambamthrapeax is not, actually, a real word. If the word has no meaning, then I am unable to make a judgment of belief on the subject, so I obviously do not 'believe in' it.\n\nIf you're trying to make an argument for ignosticism (as an alternative to atheism, rather than an additional refinement of the position), you should word this more like \"Do you disbelieve in Phlambamthrapeax?\"\n\nWorded this way I have to answer no. I do not disbelieve in a concept that is not even defined. I have no belief one way or the other. I would argue, however, that this is not inconsistent with atheism if we replace Phlambamthrapeax with god.\n\nOf course, I'm making a lot of assumptions about what you are getting at, here...",
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"body": "I absolutely believe it, and I will be petitioning the school board to include Phlambamthrapeax in the school curriculum or they'll be hearing from my lawyer.",
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What are you reading? | What are you reading now and what's the last book you finished? Let's get some recommendations going (even though it has been done before).
Reading: "Let the Right One In" by John Ajvide Lindqvist, and will probably finish it up tonight. It just happens to be a series of excellent character studies which involve a vampire, though it's not a vampire novel.
Last read: "Cosmos" by Carl Sagan. I feel ashamed that I waited so long to read this. An excellent popular approach to astronomy, physics, and biology (to name a few of the subjects). I can't recommend this higher and I'm sure most people who read non-fiction have already experienced it. | 14 | [
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"body": "I'm just starting on \"1984\", and before that I read \"Brave New World\". (Mindblowing stuff).\n\n\nI don't have too much spare time to read at the moment, but I might have soon.",
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"body": "I'm actually reading the bible, which I stole from a hotel (take that 10 commandments) \n\nIt really makes me question Christianity and how interpretation really changes the whole thing.",
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"body": "Recently finished the Dune Series by Frank Herbert and the two sequels by his son Brian Herbert. Severely disappointed in the sequels (Brian is no where near the quality of author as his Father) but glad they are here for the sake of closure). For anyone that is a fan of sci-fi, these books are a must read, at least the first 4 but by then you'll be hooked. Herbert creates a world so magnificent, yet real and Characters so multifaceted yet deep, I highly recommend.\n\nJust finished \"Into The Wild\" by Jon Krakauer, a great semi-story, semi-bio piece, good for getting in the mood to go on a trip or make a life-changing decision. Kinda confusing with the lack of linearity at times.\n\nJust started \"Age of Empathy: Nature's Lessons for a Kinder Society\" by Frans De Waal. Heard an interview with this author on NPR's \"Tell Me More\". I got this book looking for somewhat of a counterpoint to Dawkin's \"The Selfish Gene\". Like I said, I just started but it seems very layman's right now (even more than \"The Selfish Gene\"), hope it gets a little more in depth.",
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"body": "Past couple months: Brave New World, Pygmy, The Charm School (HIGHLY RECOMMENDED), The Drifters, and now 1984.",
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"body": "Currently there are 4 books on my list. \n\nThe Greatest Show on Earth by Richard Dawkins : I've given the most attention to this book. Very educational, great sense of voice. Great length of detail given in the explanation of experiments.\n\nJapan Rising by Kenneth B. Pyle : It's about Japan's recent history, and trying to understand how their recent military resurgence will come into play in the conflicts of the 21st century.\n\nPoetics and Rhetoric by Aristotle : I've read the introduction (by Eugene Garver), I'll start reading this after 'The Show'. A lot of content, will prove to be a challenging object of study. \n\nZen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert M. Pirsig :\n \"The real cycle you're working on is a cycle called \"yourself.'\"\nPicking this up from time to time. I'll give it more attention after Japan Rising. Its a philosophical narrative.",
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"body": "The Botany of Desire by Michael Pollan - recommended for /trees, esp chapter 3\n\nJust starting No Logo by Naomi Klein.",
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"body": "I'm reading Moby Dick right now. I'd highly recommend it to anyone in this subreddit, it's a very heady read, a lot of amazingly detailed descriptions.",
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"body": "I'm currently reading the novelization of Spielberg's masterpiece E.T. by the fantastic William Kotzwinkle. It's pretty different...a lot darker. It's told through third person and the reader kinda gets the perspective of every character, including ET himself and Harvey the dog. It's fucking weird man, the mom talks about how she wishes she never had kids and ET has a conversation with a vegetable garden. Below is a small excerpt:\n\n'Hiding in the vegetable bed, [ET] took counsel with the plants. Their advice, to go look in the kitchen window, was not welcome.\n I'm in all this trouble, he signaled the plant, because of wanting to peek in windows. I can't repeat such folly.\n The artichoke insisted, grunting softly, and the extraterrestrial crept off obediently, eyes whizzing around in fearful circles.'\n\nFucking weird right?!",
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DAE rub their feet together when under a blanket? | Particularly when waking up...it just happens (and can go on for quite a while, sometimes without my noticing) and there's something comforting about it... | 59 | [
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"body": "yes! I don't even realize I'm doing it. And now that I share my bed, my boyfriend pointed out I am sometimes rubbing his leg or foot with mine and I don't realize it. Luckily it doesn't bug him but I have no idea where I picked up the habit.",
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Guess I should plug my band too :) | Scroll down and in the left column there is a box with playable tracks of our songs in it. http://www.facebook.com/DuneTrain | 5 | [
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"body": "Why is the file mono?\n\nInteresting track. A few comments on the mix:\n\nHats too loud and shrill - drop them by 0.8-1.2dB and cut about 2dB at 10kHz.\n\nKick is completely drowned by the bass guitar - use EQ to \"carve\" space for each of them in the other's spectrum, e.g., cut a few dB around 140Hz on kick to leave room for the bass body, etc. Compress the kick with a very fast attack and generous ratio (4:1 or so) to tighten it up. Right now it's floppy. Bring the bass down a couple of dB and the kick up a couple of dB. \n\nBass guitar is muddy - cut a few dB on the bass around 250Hz with a tight Q.\n\nSnare drowned in the hats - bring it up a couple of dB and compress similar to the kick to bring out punch. \n\nThese are my comments after two listening passes - good start!",
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From friend-zone to casual sex to "relationship" and back to just friends again? | She is 35, recently divorced (8 month ago), two kids (3+4 years old) and I am 32, single, no kids. We are both self-employed (she runs a cam girl website and I am a marketing counselor.)
We met at the local tax office, exchanged numbers (work-related), met a few times at her place (I helped her with accounting and other stuff,) I got interested in her, told her about it, she played the "just friends"-card and I was fine with it at that point.
We got to know each other better, watched movies, went to the park with her kids, went to concerts, etc. and I developed stronger feelings and guessed it was the same for her. One evening we talked on the phone and the time felt right for me to tell her about it (again). She said that she thinks she feels the same and we talked for many hours, from about the weather all up to our sexual fantasies, until she fell asleep at 3 am. She called me right in the morning, invited me over and after maybe 30 minutes of talking we started to cuddle and had sex. Later, we collected her kids from kindergarten and ate lunch together.
By the the time I got home (20 minutes) I already got a mail from her. She wrote that she didn't want what happened and that she really really likes me just as a friend. I called her, we talked about it, agreed that it was a nice adventure and to be just friends from now on.
Three days later I went over to her to actually help her out with some minor work-related problem but and it didn't take much more than a greeting-hug to end up in bed again. When I went home, a mail from her was already there again. She wrote that she likes me so much, that we can talk about everything, that I get on so well with her kids but she is very sorry because she just isn't looking for a relationship and she really hopes I can understand it. I called her again and we eventually agreed on casual sex from time to time. Soon, the talking ended up in phone sex and she asked me to drive right back over to her to spend the night together.
Things went great for about four month and although she insisted to call it a "special friendship" it really was a relationship. We saw each other 4-5 times a week, did all sorts of activities together, even told each other "I love you" sometimes and were constantly holding hands and kissing whereever we went. To our friends, families and her kids, who already started to call me "Dad," we were a couple right from the start.
One evening, after her daughter's birthday party, however, I got another mail from her. To my great surprise, she wrote that she wants this to end before one of us falls in love (I thought we were both beyond that already), that us being "special friends" ruins our friendship and that we shouldn't see each other for some time. For me, this came out of nowhere. I tried to call her but she didn't answer, so I wrote back asking her what the matter is, if I did something wrong and that I love her and be very fond of her kids.
The next day she wrote back stating that me loving her would be the problem, that she never made a secret out of just wanting to be friends with me and if I wouldn't finally understand that, we couldn't see each other ever again.
I really didn't know how to react to this, so I just agreed that we shouldn't see each other for a while and secretly hoped she would write back or call me soon and maybe just try to give us a chance. Now, this was more than two weeks ago and I guess I already missed the "perfect time" to get in touch with her again. I am very uncertain as to what to do now, since this wouldn't be the first time I would be making things even worse by acting wrong, so I figured I should take advice first.
I love her and want to be together with her but if that really means she would break up the contact altogether, then it wouldn't be worth to push it, or would it? I really don't know and I don't know if a "normal" friendship with her would even work after all of this. I guess it would be very hard for me to move on still being around her and her kids.
I think that she loves me, too, and that she is anxious about a new relationship due to her divorce. Maybe she even has still feelings for her ex, too, since they were married for six years and he left her for another woman, but I really don't want to assume too much. Perhaps it's something else. I already made the mistake of "thinking for her" in my last relationship.
So, what is the best thing I could do now? How should I approach her (mail, call, showing up on her doorstep)? What should I say?
Thank you for your time and help.
**Edit:** I called her and asked how she and the kids were doing and if she wants to see me. She was peeved at me for some reason and asked if I really think that my behavior was ok. I tried to figure out what she means, which got her kind of angry and before I would get angry as well I eventually just got to the point. It went like this:
"I want to talk to you about us."
"There is no us."
"I think there could be."
"I told you that I just want to be friends with you."
"Look, I like you and your kids and I am sorry but I now know that being just friends with you is not an option for me as I would only hurt myself. I think that you considered a relationship with me at some point, too, and that I messed it up. I don't know how but I know that I am serious about wanting to be together with you.
"... _sighs_ ..."
"Ok, I told you that being just friends was ok for me and I thought that it would work. It didn't. I didn't plan to fall in love with you but you can't make me apologize for that. I..."
"I don't want you to apologize for anything. Why do you always have to make things so complicated? I don't feel ready for a new relationship and I told you this and if you push things you force me to back out."
"...but we already had a relationship, didn't we? We..."
"You really don't understand. I hoped you would but you just don't get it."
"No, I don't but I don't think that I am the one making things complicated. Why don't you just explain it to me?"
"I am tired of talking to you and have other things to do right now than having pointless discussions. Have a nice evening. Bye."
Well, I guess that's pretty much it, then. Thank you all for your advices and kind words. I will leave it at that and try to move on. Perhaps it's just not meant to be. Maybe someone can point out how exactly I messed that up once again but I can live with "she just really doesn't want to." best. | 12 | [
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"body": "Chances are, she's still reading any emails that you send her, she's just not replying. Here's the thing: she's obviously hesitant to get into this relationship and it sounds like you have no idea why. She may not either but I'm sure you'd like to talk to her about it.\n\nHere's what I'd do... I'd send her an email (or drop a letter in her mailbox) and start off acknowledging her feelings. \"I understand that you don't want an intimate relationship with me right now and I respect that and will not pursue anything more.\" This is important to set her at ease before jumping into the rest. \"At this point, I really just want to understand your hesitation and why you feel that intimacy would damage our friendship. I know that I would like to continue to be friends, for both you and your kids, as you all mean very much to me.\" \n\nBut you have to be okay with these terms. If you're not, then move on.\n\nI've made the mistake before of getting into a relationship with certain terms and then once I was in it, wanting to accelerate things to the next level. It sabotaged the whole thing and got me nowhere. My emotions took over. Hopefully you'll have more self control than I do. :)",
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Atheist Richard Dawkins aids Haiti, touts God-free giving | The top atheist has set up a site where unbelievers can show that humanists are humanitarians, too. He'll cover PayPal fees for donations that will go to the Red Cross and Doctors Without Borders. And, of course, he gets in some digs at faith-based aid groups along the way. Talk about it at Faith & Reason. | 36 | [
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"body": "can this be more humanitarian then theist/atheist based please...these people need our help, they dont care about silly pedantic arguments on who is more moral or not",
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I'm moving to a new place with completely bare walls. I need new art to make the place come alive. Any suggestions on where I can get some good, unique, interesting, beautiful, proving stuff to hang on my walls? | New apartment, bare walls, not allowed to paint. Help me decorate with some good, adffordable art. Posters, mixed-media, etc. I make some art of my own, but I want to know where I can get some good stuff. Any graphic designers, photographers, painters out there who can show or sell me some good art? | 27 | [
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"body": "Shameless selfpromotion, but I am broke right now, so hey, who can afford shame?\n\nhttp://siljakenzie.weebly.com/",
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"body": "I can browse Etsy for hours and hours. There's a lot of shit there, but some good stuff too, for relatively cheap.",
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"body": "[Blik](http://www.whatisblik.com) or [LTL Prints](http://www.ltlprints.com) has vinyl decals that are easy to remove. Also, ltl prints let you make your own, which is cool.",
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Is the emergency lighting in real submarines red like it is in the movies? Why - what purpose does this serve? | Watching The Spy Who Loved Me with the kids the other night, the movie opens with a scene in a submarine under attack. As the main lighting goes out the emergency lights kick in, bathing everything in a red glow.
It occurred to me I've seen this same effect used many times in movies - but I have no idea whether it reflects real life. Are the real emergency lighting systems in subs red? If so, why? I've no idea why this would be considered a good thing to do.
EDIT: Awesomeness of AskReddit comes through once again. I've learned a lot from this. Thanks! | 62 | [
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"body": "I'm not sure about submarines, but it is on surface ships because red light doesn't kill your night vision as much as white light does.",
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"body": "Ok. I actually spent some time on a modern ballistic missile submarine (no, I'm not going to tell you how much). Please forgive me for being a bit cryptic but submariners don't generally discuss anything about their service AT ALL.\n\nThe short answer is that red light doesn't affect night vision. It used to be the case that red lighting was used to keep a certain pigment from presenting itself in your retina that permits color vision but kills low-light vision. The red light preserves your low-light vision for this exact reason.\n\nBut that's never used anymore. They transition from normal lighting to low-light (very very dim regular lighting) and then to complete darkness on deck. All of the instrumentation is set up to only give off low red illumination so you can still use them, but otherwise the lights are all OFF. Somewhere along the line someone figured out that long-term exposure to red-light was damaging to vision, so low-lighting and then darkness became the rule. I don't know HOW it's damaging to vision os I'll let someone else fill in those blanks.\n\nAnd this is only ever used for low-light operations such as doing periscope sweeps. The emergency lighting in all other parts of the boat is garden variety low-voltage fluorescent. We use handheld lighting (which is not \"red\") in all other areas where there aren't fixed emergency lights.\n\n",
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"body": "My BS meter is high on this page. I actually served on [688 submarines](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Los_Angeles_class_submarine), so here we go:\n\nThat scene in The Spy Who Loved Me is not correct at all. Movies like to throw in the red light to make things spooky and intense.\n\nThere are two halves to a 688 submarine. The Forward and Aft. Aft is where all the machinery is and it is lit up with white florescent lights at all times. There isn't even any red lights back there.\n\nFor the Forward part, there are both red and white lights. When submerged, the white lights are on all the time, especially during emergencies and Battlestations. Who wants to deal with low/red lights during an emergency? No one. It'd be one big clusterfuck with people running into each other.\n\nThe only time the red lights come on is during shallow water or surfaced operations, and even then it is only during the time that the sun is down. Easily enough, it is called \"Rig for Red.\" It is for the whole \"not destroying your night vision\" thing. *(Edit: More specifically, it reduces the time it takes for your eyes to adjust to the dark)* That way, the oncoming OOD can go from asleep in his rack to being on watch in Control in complete red light so he can view the periscopes or climb into the bridge and check out the horizon himself.\n\nProtip: If you're in shallow water, and rigged for Battlestations. You've royally screwed something up.",
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"body": "It's red so people don't know if they're bleeding. You don't want people fainting in situations like that.",
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"body": "I toured a WWII era submarine once. The reason given to us when we asked this was that the low red lights don't dilate your eyes, making it easier to see in the dark while.",
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"body": "It's not for emergencies, it's to do with coming up to Periscope depth at night, the eyes will more readily adapt to night conditions from a red low light situation than a bright one. \n\n",
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"body": "My private submarine has emergency black lights. That way when things get tense at least our posters and glow-in-the-dark stickers look awesome.",
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"body": "it's not emergency lighting per se - it's used at night when operating at periscope depth or surfaced to reduce the amount of time needed for the eyes to adapt. this is common on surface ships and aircraft as well",
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"body": "We quit flying with red lense flashlights because it makes it hard to see red hydraulic fluid leaks.\r\n\r\nAny light source will show up like a beacon with night vision googles. The infra-red spectrum is, also, detected by NVGs.",
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"body": "Red is sometimes used to help preserve night vision which might make sense supposing not everywhere is emergency lit or when emergency lighting potentially switches off. I have no idea if this is actually the case or if emergency lighting actually is red, though lit controls often use red in situations where there is a need to keep night vision adjusted eyes.",
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"body": "The night vision argument is sound, I've also heard that it takes a great deal less energy to create red light at the low end of the spectrum than other colours and of course white light. If you want just enough light to see in a large area for the longest period of time using the least amount of energy (think battery life) then red would be the choice.",
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"body": "The majority of the submarine has hardwired white fluorescent lighting that doesn't go off unless it burns out, someone is meddling about in an electrical panel, or the ship loses all electrical power.\n\nControl can be \"rigged for red\", but that's pretty much it. The only time you should expect this to happen is if the boat is conducting operations with an optical periscope at night.\n\nUnder attack? Not unless they're using an optical periscope at night. Emergency lighting? No, that's white incandescent, essentially battery powered portable lanterns, though some are wired into the ship's systems (there are red filters for the lights in control.)",
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Did your parents spank you? How? and do you hate them for it? | I'm sure this has been asked before.
Did your parents spank you or beat you? Often? Rarely?
How do you feel about it now? Do you hate them for it? Do you love them *in spite of it*?
Do you feel it was appropriate punishment? Was it effective?
Will you spank your kids, if you ever have them?
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"body": "I got spanked a good number of times, and though I remember having dreaded it, I can't say it was inappropriate. Sometimes kids are just brats, I was no exception. \n\nActually, what scared me the most was having my dad yell at me. In general, my mom did most of the child-rearing, but my dad would step in for disciplinary action. He had this horrible, loud yell that could only make me immediately oblige. Really, I wanted to cry and hide, but I knew that wouldn't make it go away. Even thinking about it now makes me cringe. ",
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"body": "i was spanked with the belt at least twice by my dad. he did not do it when he was mad, and i totally deserved it both times. it was very effective. if i ever have kids, (although im gay, and not really interested in adopting) i would not hesitate to spank them if it fit the (serious) crime. ",
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"body": "My Dad beat the shit out of me with his belt whenever he felt it necessary. I remember my first one at about age six or seven; the last time was when I was 14. He always did it out of anger. He never beat my brother and me unless we'd done something to make him lose his temper.\r\n\r\nWhen he lost his temper, we'd drop our pants and grab our knees and he'd lay into us with that leather belt of his. There were no set number of lashes; we stood there and took it until he calmed down or got too tired to continue. He's a very big and strong man, which meant he rarely got tired. There were times we'd get beat for a half-hour straight. On more than one occasion, I would take notes to school, written by my mother, excusing me from PE class because I was bruised from mid-spine to the backs of my knees and she didn't want them to see the belt marks. Sometimes you could even see the holes and the stitching in the bruises.\r\n\r\nThe simplest and most innocent things would set him off. A joke taken the wrong way would end up with one or both of us getting the belt.\r\n\r\nI grew up hating that man more than anyone else in the world, until my mother took me aside and showed me an old report card of my Dad's from when he was in the sixth grade. She pointed out a hand-written note from my grandfather to my father's teacher which said, in effect, \"if the boy doesn't listen, feel free to hit him across the head with something heavy. I do it all the time.\"\r\n\r\nMy father didn't have a name in his household growing up. He was referred to as \"Dummy\" or \"Dum-dum\" by both parents and all three siblings. They starved him as punishment...when they weren't hitting him with objects such as firewood, axe handles, and bricks. So, my mother explained, as bad as it got, he was still trying to be a better man than *his* father. And, for the most part, he succeeded.\r\n\r\nHe was (and is) a very generous man. Christmas turned him into a little kid; he never could wait until Christmas Day to open the presents. We'd always open them on Christmas Eve, then go to bed and wake up on Christmas Day to even more presents from Santa. He never drank or smoked. We never, ever went hungry. He's a good man. He just had a problem controlling his anger.\r\n\r\nI have two children now, aged 22 and 18. I smacked them on the butt once in awhile to get their attention when they did something very bad, but that stopped when they were old enough for me to explain and reason with them. We'd play \"what if?\" games, where their roles were reversed with the person they'd wronged so they could learn the consequences of their actions. Both children have turned out well, and their grandfather is a loveable old man who dotes on them and makes them smile.\r\n\r\nI don't dwell on my childhood much anymore. It was thirty-plus years ago. And I shouldn't be telling you people any of this, especially considering most of you are half my age. But it's oddly therapeutic.\r\n\r\nSo there you go.",
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"body": "My mom spanked me. It was never in rage and usually with the reasoning explained to me (although I did make a terribly angry sexist remark to her one time and she smacked my across the face). Dad spanked me once and wasn't much for it-- he had been, to some extent, abused as a kid.\n\nI have kids 1, 8 and 10. The little ones who can't reason, I will slap their hands or non-painfully but firmly spank diaper-padded bottoms to get them to stop doing dangerous stuff. After 1.5-2, I've never spanked. The option is out there, but it's kind of the nuclear option. The oldest has been somewhat difficult to discipline and I was frankly afraid it was moving to that, but I have now found that she absolutely hates writing lines. >:-)\n",
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"body": "I'm Chinese-American. When I was in first grade, my dad spanked me with a very stiff Chinese bamboo broomstick because I was too scared to call one of my classmates' house to ask for the night's schoolwork (I wrote it down during class, but my handwriting, in Chinese, looked like dancing stick-figures). I don't remember exactly how hard he hit me but it was hard enough to leave me a vivid memory of that night.\n\nI guess I deserved it, since my dad was trying to tough me up. but I don't think that was the best way to help me, since I'm still kinda introverted around strangers.\n\nIf I have kids, I will never use violence. That traditional Chinese thing has to end.",
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"body": "My brother and I were abused by our father, plain and simple.\n\nHowever, I would not hesitate to discipline my child *properly.* For the majority of young children, a spanking doesn't have to be painful (children wildly exaggerate most forms of pain) as long as it conveys the sense of disappointment the parent has in their actions. As they get older, discipline should emphasize justice, not necessarily deterrence. They need to understand the rightness of their punishment. If they renounce this, then fall back to physical deterrence. You stay at the most basic of punishment levels until that mental connection is made that the child is NOT the center of the universe.\n\nAs understanding progresses, physical discipline gives way to the taking away of privileges in a *fair* manner. Grounding a kid for a month over a minor mistake will either harden their resolve to disobey or make them feel inferior as a child and hurt their self esteem.\n\nThe key is to parent with calm fairness 95% of the time and save the righteous indignation acts for those rare occasions when the child needs his attention focused on his actions. If you're doing it right, you won't have to get physical at all: the lesson will have been learned.",
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"body": "Hell yeah I was spanked and I'm better for it. I was a little shit of a kid and I deserved it. Why would I hate him for it? Parents today are to pussified IMO. Teach the kid a lesson or he'll just do it again. A swat on the ass is something that will remind him of the consequences. ",
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"body": "I was mostly raised by my mother as I lived with her from the age of 4 until I was around 16, when I thought I'd move to my dad.\n\nWhenever I did something I wasn't allowed to do, she would spank me. Not softly, not too hard. However, believe me when I say that it was painful. It happened about as often as I would be a little bad boy, and that happened from time to time.\n\nLooking back at it I do not feel any bad about it, whatsoever. It worked. Believe me. It wasn't evil, it wasn't done with an evil kind of attitude but firmly and straight to the point. ",
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"body": "Yes, but I always knew it was coming and it is what I give credit to for me being excellent at hiding and running. ",
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"body": "I think its important that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. I was spanked as a child, rarely and honestly I was a pretty damn good kid and turned out fine.\n\n",
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"body": "Yes, my father used to spank me with his belt during fits of rage. (rare... this happened maybe four times during childhood)\r\n\r\nI feel 'meh' about it. I'm sure I deserved it. I was a completely horrible little craphead of a child. I'm not sure how effective it was as the cases that I was spanked for were rare instances of childish stupidity that wouldn't happen again otherwise.\r\n\r\nI have children. I do not spank them. Time outs work surprisingly well for them.",
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"body": "Never that badly, but probably once a week. I completely deserved it, as I picked on my little brother a lot. I grew out of it, and he stopped.",
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"body": "I was never once spanked, or even grounded for that matter. My parents had a very relaxed style of discipline, but they were great parents. We all turned out rather well. I don't think spanking is at all an appropriate way to discipline kids, no violence in any form, that's just my opinion, I'm sure I would feel differently if I were raised differently.\n\nFunny though, I love being spanked now :) ",
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"body": "Yes, frequently, and occasionally with weapons or otherwise aggravated battery, but not with permanent scarring.\n\nThe worst effect of it was that it took me well into my teens to realize that violence was not really an OK thing for stronger people to do to weaker people who happened to irritate, frustrate, or anger them.\n\nUsing violence to teach *teaches violence.* And that was a lesson that I had to unlearn for myself ... sadly, I didn't manage that before doing a good deal of harm.",
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Hey Reddit, my girlfriend fractured a vertebrae while sledding and has to be mostly immobile in a brace for 10 weeks. What are some things I could do/get her to help pass the time? | Icy slopes + drainage ditch was not a good combo! I feel awful for her, especially since she asked if we could have just stayed in and not go sledding to which i promised she'd have fun:( any ideas would be appreciated
[EDIT] Thanks for the suggestions guys, very good ideas and some hilarious responses make for a much better morning! I'll definitely be using a good majority of these. Going to head home for a bit to shower, woo! | 49 | [
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"body": "Go out to clubs and bars and gigs with a head-mounted camera/microphone and transmit it all to her laptop.",
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"body": "I know it sounds ridiculous, but get her some adult coloring books [read: more intricate coloring designs for grown-ups, not NSFW coloring books, though they might be an idea as well] and a 48 box of crayons or thin markers. They're awesome.",
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"body": "I would avoid hanging out in bars and stuff. The women you meet there can be trouble, however libraries, coffee shops etc are a great place to meet women who are physically mobile.\n\nNo need to thank me.",
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"body": "I detached my retina and spent six weeks lying on my back unable t. Move my head at all. If she's able to use her arms without any discomfort I would suggest something like the ukulele, I practiced guitar. Or books on tape are good, also weed. ",
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"body": "Knitting. \n\nHear me out on this, \nIt's really enjoyable once you learn. Learning Curve is only 10 minutes. \nAlso It's winter, bonus. ",
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"body": "hey man, that really sucks! I am still recovering from a back injury that happened over a year ago (more serious than a broken vert, so it won't take that long!)\nI got VERY familiar with my DVD collection during that time, the entire series of Battlestar Galactica mixed with Percoset and Soma can do WONDERS!\nAn Xbox 360 is the best way to let the hours fly by, if her thumbs still operate this would be a good option. Preferably a long game like Farcry 2 would be good. STAY AWAY FROM WII.\n\nI'd help her out by making everything that you (a standing, functioning person) take for granted more accessible for her. If she can't stand than put things at ground level, or designate paths for crawling, perhaps install a handle bar in the shower. Move the computer to her so she doesn't have to get up.\nIf she can't move very well than she definitely shouldn't, since this was traced back to your fault I'd ensure she stays drugged and happy! Watch those pain killers though, they 'plug you up' and turn you into a dick!\n\nGood luck! Enjoy the Xbox, I had hated video games prior to my back injury... now they're awesome!",
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"body": "Get her a laptop and introduce her to Reddit. It occupies more of my time than I want it to, I'm sure she'll fit right in.",
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"body": "Movies, video games, drawing, reading, a little oral sex. Invite her friends and family over. I don't know about her, but I'd appreciate it if people came to see me since I can't go see them.",
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"body": "The complete boxed set of Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Angel, if she hasn't seen them. Throw in Firefly and Serenity for good measure. The time will pass so fast, she won't know what hit her.",
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"body": "Give her head/scalp massages. She will be a puddle of ecstasy if you do it right, and she'll be very relaxed.",
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"body": "I broke my spine two years ago in a car accident like this; it seriously sucked; in the beginning she is not going to be very happy.\n\nIt was very painful and you can't do a lot of things for yourself. Bring her drinks and food when she wants and keep her company but don't spend all your time with her it is oppressive and she may feel blocked in.\n\nGet her things to do that won't take too much moving around; board games, download some shows for her or get some dvd's. Set up her laptop so she can easily watch them. Maybe get her some games to play online or something, or play ps3 or xbox with her, buy her some books. Anything to keep her entertained.\n\nLater on when she starts feeling better; you may have to drive her around, she will be able to walk with the brace but driving is too hard and she won't be able to move without it. she will be weak and the best way to strengthen her back and get her healthy again is to take her swimming. I suppose you guys are in the northern hemisphere but in ten weeks summer will be there and you can get her to the pool if you don't have one in the garden; but public ones are good cause she can go out. \n\nDon't try force her to go out too soon because her back will hurt a bunch from standing up in the beginning; so 1 -2 hours out is about the max i could handle. \n\nLots of swimming, books, movies, games and things like that. \n\nI lost a lot of weight 10 - 15 kg's most of it muscle since i'm not a fat guy; so help her get fit since she will be weak, it is really a lot of effort to eat in that back brace. Also help her get it on and off when she needs it. That thing is the devil. \n\nIt is actually so hard to breathe in it that every day is a workout for your stomach so you get fit there; but not using your back to stand really messes you up.\n\nShe will have lost a lot of neural elasticity, when she is able to move again, but not too soon; take her to pilates and yoga class to get her supple again.\n\nhope this helps.",
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"body": "Get her to learn the game Go. It's a great, addictive game (once you get past the \"what the hell is going on here?\" barrier), and it is a great workout for the creative and logical parts of the brain.\n\nIntroductory tutorial is here (do the whole thing)\n\nhttp://playgo.to/iwtg/en/\n\nYou can play Go against humans and computers here:\n\nhttp://www.gokgs.com/\n\n(There are also lots of people willing to teach at KGS)\n\nAnd here's a handy reference site for once you get some experience under your belt:\n\nhttp://senseis.xmp.net/",
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"body": "If she's geekly inclined, perhaps learn a new program language? If's she artsy, how about a nice pad and some good coloured pencils or paint? If she's the literary type, maybe some good classics she's not had a chance to read until now? It depends a lot on her likes and dislikes, I think.",
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"body": "* The Wire\n* The Sopranos\n* Deadwood\n* Rome\n* Six Feet Under\n* Entourage \n* Dexter\n* Freaks and Geeks\n* Undeclared\n* Battlestar Galactica\n* It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia\n* Firefly",
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"body": "Xbox 360 + Netflix My wife had abdominal surgery and was pretty immobile for 2 months. This was very helpful. She burned through several seasons of television shows and all the romantic comedies she could stomach.\n\nYou should move everything out of her reach except for the controller and Dragon Age. She'll be blasting Dark Spawn and screaming battle charges in no time. (Plus its nice and long and the replay value is pretty good.)",
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"body": "My ex bought me a second hand PS2 when I was chronically ill. I was never big on playing games, but I still have the fondest memories of playing these games with him wrapped around me.\nIf she is the type that likes that kind of thing you could also read her stories some of the time :)",
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"body": "Play word games with her. Like, try to have a conversation where you can each only say lyrics in songs. Or try a conversation where each sentence begins with the next consecutive letter of the alphabet. Or only talk in questions.\r\n\r\nWe used to play these games during down time in the Navy. They sound stupid, but they're actually pretty fun. They make you think and can be really hard. In the end, you laugh for hours!",
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"body": "Super Nintendo + Super Mario All-Stars. This and Netflix Instant on an Xbox 360. My girl isn't a gamer, but she just had reconstructive ACL surgery and wanted nothing more than to relive her childhood with Mario. ",
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"body": "At first, I was going to say \n\n\"Can she be on her back?\"\n\nBut on thinking of how many jokes were already said...\n\n1) Books? Why has no one recommended dead trees!?\n\n2) Movies, TV's and the like. Try to cook for her as well, since well. She can't cook, and you could monitor her intake. >_>\n\n3) Perhaps reddit? Or any other website?\n\n4) Sleep. She can do lots of sleep.",
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"body": "Get her a Kindle/Nook, computer games (avoid the Wii), show her Pandora.com if needed, get Netflix. Anything that sedentary people sitting at a computer 16 hours/day usually do.",
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[Jan 16th, 2010] Cooking bonobos, manipulative meows, and the ethics of inter-sexual drink buying.
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JaseFace shares a [touching CNN Video](http://www.reddit.com/r/reddit.com/comments/aqgca/obviously_the_entire_situation_in_haiti_is_tragic/), uncultured_taco posts a video of [monkeys using tools](http://www.reddit.com/r/reddit.com/comments/aqfpg/we_are_increasingly_realizing_we_are_not_the_only/), blancacasa posts about an FBI [photoshop disaster](http://www.reddit.com/r/reddit.com/comments/aqg5w/first_matrix_screensaver_now_this_fbi_uses/), and wtmh links a craigslist ad explaining the [ethics of inter-sexual drink buying](http://www.reddit.com/r/reddit.com/comments/aqjc1/why_i_didnt_buy_you_a_drink_etiquette_of/).
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truth_Xsader links an article on how [online comments can affect your credit rating](http://www.reddit.com/r/business/comments/aqkof/can_your_comments_affect_your_credit_yup/) and mjk1093 links a CNBC article about [banks engaging in blatant real estate fraud](http://www.reddit.com/r/business/comments/aq4o9/big_banks_discover_a_juicy_new_profit_center/).
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cup posts about [censorship in Australia](http://www.reddit.com/r/worldnews/comments/aqlv6/australia_has_nearly_unlocked_medieval_trait_film/).
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rmuser posts about a causes a JFK terminal to be evacuated, by [opening the wrong door](http://www.reddit.com/r/news/comments/aqkgd/airline_passenger_opens_wrong_door_jfk_terminal/).
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lohran posts about [sexual abuse at a juvenile center](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/aqfpe/i_was_sexually_abused_in_a_juvenile_center_at_15/), crazydaze answers questions about being a [Walmart manager](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/aq7m0/i_am_an_exwalmart_manager_ama/), and derkieselgarten talks about running an [eBay drop off site](http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/aqep6/by_request_i_ran_an_ebay_drop_off_site_for_3/).
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estherschindler posts about how [cats manipulate us](http://www.reddit.com/r/science/comments/aqeo6/manipulative_meow_cats_learn_to_vocalize_a/), Xombie818 comments about the [progress of technology](http://www.reddit.com/r/science/comments/aqlkl/technology_progressed_so_fast_weve_barely/), and MikePatton links video of a [cooking bonobo](http://www.reddit.com/r/science/comments/aqkq9/this_bonobo_is_trying_to_cook_a_bag_of_noodles/).
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"body": "\"Bonobos cooking\" might have been a touch less ambiguous. It's not that I'm disappointed, but still.",
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DAE have a different emotional mindset in the morning, then it changes through out the day? | In the morning, usually while I'm still in bed, I usually say to myself "Hey, I'm gunna ask this girl out tomorrow." Then through out the day, I don't really think about it much, and then in the evening when I do think about it, I'm like "Nah, I don't really need to ask her out, she would probably say no." The next morning, it starts all over again. So for example, right now, its 10:30 AM my time... and I want to ask her out. :P
Edit 1: I will will defiantly ask her out if i have a class with her next semester, like men need balls. any ideas. im thinkin lunch at sweet and green on a saturday/sunday. | 42 | [
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"body": "My usual morning emotional frame of mind upon waking is \"fuck this shit, I wanna stay in bed\". Generally the mood elevates during the day.",
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"body": "My emotional mindset in the morning usually begins with me mourning the loss of my ex....then about an hour later I'm like \"fuck that douchey douche\" and i watch an episode of The Sopranos.\n\nDude, you should ask her out. ",
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"body": "It's the opposite with me. Before I go to bed I say similar things to myself about what I'm gonna do the next day. When I wake up the next morning it's a completely different story and I'm really reluctant to do things. This lifts as the day goes on.",
"score": 3
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This time tomorrow... | Hey guys, I'll start off with a little intro and backstory. I was a daily toker for about 2 years during the last years of college. Found a good gig (web developing) right out of school. Fortunately, they didn't test so I was golden.
About 5 months ago, I decided I was going to apply to my town's volunteer firedept. A lot of my buddies from way back are members and since I'm, out of college and living at home for the time being, I thought it would be a good time. I was told I needed to take a physical and signed some paperwork agreeing to a drug test.
"Cool", I thought this is a good chance to get some shit together and clear my mind, if you will. Now 5 months later, it was.
My physical is tomorrow at 9AM, a friend of mine got me some good stuff and I ordered a Magic Flight (thanks to one of the threads on this /r/), and most importantly, I've since found /r/trees!
I was planning to take off work tomorrow to enjoy it, but something dire came up late last week and now I have to be in to help meet a deadline. So the title of this post is slightly inaccurate, it's more like "This time tomorrow night." if... that makes sense...
Well, I just wanted to say hello and that I can't wait to be back and to become an active member. My Magic Flight isn't getting here until Thursday, but I have other methods. I think I'm going to invite a few good friends over and just relax with a board game or video game.
Last note: Anyone have any awesome recommendations for things I should do my first time smoking after 5 months? I'm not looking to leave the house, but anything else goes. | 27 | [
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"body": "I would recommend packing yourself a bowl with whatever your preferred device might be, and preparing yourself the most excellent meal you can manage, while listening to some music you can really get into.\n\nI find cooking while smoking to be a fantastic combination of activities. \n\nMusic + food + trees = taking advantage of the most consistent qualities of green.",
"score": 11
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"body": "I suggest you hit the bong to do it right, and I highly recommend Cosmos by Carl Sagan. (That's been associated with some of my best times smoking, so for me it would be appropriate for an inaugural session)",
"score": 9
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"body": "I would smoke first by myself, to really enjoy it properly without distractions. But I'm an introvert.",
"score": 5
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"body": "This is my piece of advice, don't smoke until you know the results have come back. I took a test once, and I had diluted a little too much before the test and they needed me to redo it. But since I stopped smoking for a few weeks, I toked up a lot immediately after the first test. Needless to say, I didn't go back for the second test.",
"score": 4
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"body": "Congrats on the fire department thing, it's great to see a daily smoker can put weed on hold so they could volunteer to help people. \n\n\nI'd rent every fireman related movie, like Backdraft, Ladder 49, The Towering Inferno, etc.",
"score": 4
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GoneWild Request: I'll buy you a C-String if you show it off for us! | I love the idea of the [C-String](https://www.cstringdirect.com/). I love the idea of GoneWild. I want the two to collide.
So here's my proposition: You let me know that you're interested in modeling the C-String for us. I buy one and have it sent to you. You model it for us.
Anybody interested?
EDIT: dosage_lethality brought up a good point about security issues. So new plan:
1: A choose a cute girl who's interested.
2: She gives me her paypal address, and I send her some money to cover the cost of a c-string
3: She orders it.
4: She models it.
5: We all get to enjoy it.
baby81 said she's interested. And judging by her previous photos, I think she'd be a great choice! Any body else interested? Going once...going twice... | 15 | [
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"body": "No offense, but this sounds like the beginning of a Dateline story-- an internet stalker that promises to send a gift to a girl just to get her address...",
"score": 6
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"body": ">Looks kind of like a pantyliner though. \n\nTotally agree, they are kinda freaky, but if I got a free one I'd so wear it!",
"score": 4
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"body": "I have never seen this. I'm considering investing out of sheer curiosity. But I'm also laughing out loud because it only comes in Small (95-115 lbs) or Medium (115-140 lbs). Like they are suggesting that this on someone over 140 lbs. is just not a good look. LOL",
"score": 3
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How do you aim with analog stick? | I just got my PS3 and picked up MW2. Any tips on aiming when playing online for a complete console newbie?
A bit of background: I play a lot of Enemy Territory (original) with my friends and I'm quite good at QuakeLive. | 3 | [
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"body": "you can turn down the sensitivity to low so it's easier to aim for a newb. \n\nonly other suggestion is for enemies that are slightly left or right if the cross hairs to strafe left or right instead of trying to aim. better strategy wise because you're moving and it \"re-aims\" smoother",
"score": 6
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"body": "Play the story mode first to get your feet wet. After that, I can't explain how often Noodles12 advice holds true... strafing is much easier than manually targeting. \n\nGet used to keeping your reticule about chest/throat height, strafing in a crescent pattern around corners so you are lined up where baddies are gonna be....and memorize the maps. \n\nPlay Team Deathmatch express for some real quick games to get used to it. You will die, ALOT, but don't worry about it. Have fun trying new things.",
"score": 3
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Cut my finger badly from a shattered piece of my bong | The stem/slide part of my bong has been broken for a while, and I finally realized I can remove/replace it. While trying to pry it out with my bare hands it came lose suddenly and flipped and cut into my middle finger pretty badly! Blood came running out fast and I immediately put pressure on it. It's a 6-8mm gash right on top of my finger about 5 mm down from my finger nail and went in at an angle. Pretty deep, I was afraid to look under the flap of skin in case I see bone. Anyway it fucking hurts more than any other cut I on my hands I've had and I was debating going to get stiches. I didn't. I poured some peroxide on and tightly wrapped in bandaids and went about my night. It still hurts like hell and is barely bleeding when I agitate it as of this morning.
My concern is how dirty the glass was, with all the black residue, some of that's surely in my wound. What is that stuff? Think my body can take care of it? Going to the hospital now seems kind of pointless since the wound is mostly closed now.
I did "successfully" repair the bong though! And I learned, again, to fucking be more careful.
Edit: I also need to think of an excuse for work as to how I cut my hand so badly.
**Update:** Went to hospital after my parents convinced me (They dont know the real story and I told the hospital it was dirty glass from some kind of pottery).. they x-rayed to check for glass, tetanus booster shot, and gave me anti-biotics for the next 6 days. They didn't even clean it, just re-bandaged. Still swollen and hurts like a motherfucker. I do feel less worried now, that is good. Time to get blazed now.
Thanks everyone for your advice :)
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"body": "bro, GO TO THE FUCKING HOSPITAL! an infection is likely in a puncture wound, and extremely unpleasant. you can say you cut it picking up the remains of a dropped wineglass.\n\nget treated, get blazed (in that order)",
"score": 4
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"body": "use butterfly closures to hold it shut until it's healed a bit.\n\nbe sure to use antibiotic cream on it too.\n\n\nand yeah, that cut's gonna hurt for a while",
"score": 4
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"body": "i think as long as you cleaned it out good its not going to get infected. There will probably be a more noticable scar there if you dont get stitches too",
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DAE enjoy drinking a cold beer in a hot shower? | Every once in awhile I'll take a shower and bring a beer in with me. Does anyone else do this or am I just weird? | 103 | [
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"body": "Never done it. However for smokers: the first time i smoked a cigarette while taking a shit was a nice experience too. ",
"score": 13
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"body": "I enjoy taking showers and I enjoy drinking beers. Combining the two was just plain logical.\n\nThe real skill is finding a place in the shower to set down the beer that won't allow water to get in the bottle or, worse yet, soap/shampoo.",
"score": 7
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"body": "I've always called this the \"power shower\". After I work out, the combination of cold beer and hot shower is sublime.\n\nEDIT: switched adjectives",
"score": 6
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"body": "There's a name for this. The name is Shower Beer. It's used mostly for efficiency so that you can get ready to go out while pre-drinking at the same time.",
"score": 6
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"body": "Reminds me of a thing a friend said once. I can't remember what we were talking about at the time, he came out with this gem:\n\n*\"Like back in college, when drinking a can in the shower while getting ready to go out wasn't weird\"*",
"score": 4
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"body": "i didn't discover this amazing experience until about 6 months ago. my friends think it means i have a drinking problem. i think they just don't know what they're missing.",
"score": 3
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DAE think that recording artists should stop using auto-tune and bring back double-tracking? | If you don't know what double-tracking is, look [here](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_tracking). | 28 | [
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"body": "DAE think that recording artists should spend more time learning how to sing well, and less time getting the equivalent of an airbrushing to their sound?",
"score": 8
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"body": "Double-tracking hasn't gone anywhere so it can't be \"brought back\". Auto-tune is frequently used on double-tracked performances to get the pitches of the different performances to match better, so maybe it is harder tell it's being used?\n\nedit: besides auto-tune, there is also a ProTools plug-in to get multiple audio performances in-time with each other: VocAlign\nhttp://www.fullcompass.com/product/332335.html\n\nIt was originally designed to help with over dubbing foreign movies (if the rhythm of the syllables of the original and over-dubbed language match then the overdub looks more in-sync with the video), but it helps save alot of studio time with getting doubled vocals tightly matching.\n\n",
"score": 5
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Reddit, my PC was infected with malware a couple days ago... | I've scanned using Malwarebites and Ad-Aware and they found some things, got rid of them and after re-scan, can't find any infected files, yet every so often when I click a link in FireFox, I still get linkjacked and taken to some ad-site.
What's the best course of action here to get rid of all infections and how do I stop all the linkjacking? | 4 | [
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"body": "Backup critical files, reinstall. It'll be much quicker than any malware cure, and gives you an ideal chance to start over. Try leaving a partition for Ubuntu, or a small foot print operating system like CrunchBang Linux. Instant boot internet, with a low risk of malware. ",
"score": 10
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"body": "You're running Windows. Malware or no, reinstalling every six to twenty-four months is in order. Windows registry is so easily corruptible that this should be marked on your calendar. Malware infections, also the norm, should be taken into consideration when you mark your calendar.",
"score": 8
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"body": "Jot down the website you are being redirected to, Google the symptoms, and then follow the directions on whatever guide you find. Almost every major malware problem has a solution posted these days.\n\nIt will most likely involve removing a registry entry, you can find these at Run-->regedit",
"score": 7
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"body": "Spybot Search&Destroy, also Crapcleaner to remove obsolete junk that malware might lurk in (for its reinstall).\n\nBackup your Firefox bookmarks, then uninstall FF completely, run Crapcleaner and purge all traces of FF including folders, then reinstall FF.",
"score": 4
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"body": "If you are running a 32bit version of Windows, then try running ComboFix in safe mode. That is the only app I found that was able to remove some particularly nasty malware. I've had good luck with SuperAntiSpyware Free and A-Squared Free as well. Good luck. ",
"score": 3
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"body": "Does this happen in other Web browsers? Do the exact same thing in Internet Explorer and whatever other browsers are installed. \nAlso check the Firefox settings to make sure a proxy is not being used. \nTools -> Preferences -> Advanced -> Network tab -> Settings \n \nIf it is only Firefox then completely uninstall Firefox. Make sure to backup those bookmarks first! After doing the Add or Remove Programs thing make sure to erase everything under: \nDocuments and Settings\\USER_NAME\\Application Data\\Mozilla\\ \nReboot to make sure the registry is happy with any changes then download a fresh copy of Firefox and install. Try loading up those sites that were redirecting again.",
"score": 3
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Pleasure Beach: The Abandoned Coastal Community | I posted this on the front page when I should have posted it here (please forgive my idiocy). Anyway, this is an update to an earlier [post](http://www.reddit.com/r/photography/comments/aep1b/urban_decay_meets_the_coast_pics/) about the beachfront ghost town of Pleasure Beach in Connecticut. I went back many times and with the help of several redditors compiled a [book](http://www.blurb.com/my/book/detail/1134934) on it. Thank you to those who helped and I appreciate any feedback you have to offer. [Here](http://www.cwachtel.com/-/cwachtel/gallery.asp?cat=133296&pID=1&row=15) are select images from the book for those interested in a twist on the urban decay theme. | 13 | [
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"body": "the colors look nice, but there's definitely something missing from the compositions. It's as tho you're seeing what's in front of you, but you're not really connecting to it. Almost as if you're being blinded by technique and rules...",
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"body": "Would you mind sharing your experience with Blurb? (Overall experience, quality of the prints, pricing, etc). I'm tempted to print a bunch of pics and assemble them by theme but still can't decide if puting them in a book is a good idea. Thanks.",
"score": 3
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new to the whole dating/relationship thing. need big-time advice. | 24m - I've been overweight most of my child/adult life. I've taken it upon myself in the last 2 years to lose all my excess weight. 100+lbs. I've never dated, never asked a girl on a date and in general really 0 experience with women(kissing/sex/etc). My problem is in the confidence department.
My lack of confidence is due to my inexperience in dealing with a women on any sort of romantic/sexual level. Its impeding my approach. It's not the rejection I'm afraid of but rather the fact that I have no confidence to take anything further. I'm what you would probably call a 'nice guy'. I live in a big family with a lot of older sisters and only 1 brother. I've always been raised to treat a women with respect and as a result I haven't been able to really build that chemistry with another women now that I'm starting to play the field.
Since I've never had sex I want to get into a relationship where I can move at a slower pace. I want to enjoy everything I've missed out on while growing up like a normal person. I've never romantically kissed a girl so I'm still a bit uncomfortable with the notion of hoping into sex right away. Most women I speak to feel that with sex, this is where you make the connection with someone and I don't want to move fast.
I'm just completely lost. I don't know where to start or really how to build my confidence up. Years of shitty self-esteem and lack of confidence in my own 'game' with women have really taken its toll on me.
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"body": "First things \"nice guy\" isn't a descriptor. Nice guy doesn't really mean anything except that you're a decent, functioning member of society. No one describes themselves as a jerk, unless they're trying to be edgy or having self-esteem problems so \"nice guy\" is pretty much a non-category for self identification.\n\nThat said, the fact that you've never had sex will be a minor hurdle at this stage in your life, but it will be in fact minor if you find the right girl. You don't have to advertise that you've never had sex on the first date, but if things start to get hot and heavy and you want to slow down don't be afraid to mention the reason why.\n\nNow mentioning that you're a virgin will cause some women to drop you like a bad habit. *This is a good thing*. You want to find a woman who is willing to, and comfortable with, waiting until you're ready. Bonus points, because when you find this woman she will have already shown a significant capacity for empathy and understanding (women like sex too) so you will already have highly positive indicators as to the future of your possible relationship with said woman.\n\nBeyond that, don't let anyone shame you for who you are. If end up at the point where you inform someone and they decide to belittle you for it that means *they are immature* not that there is something wrong with you. Your life decisions are yours and yours alone, and only you have to deal with the consequences of them so move at your own pace.\n\nGood luck, and have fun!\n\nP.S. Meaningful sex rocks, so you're in for a real treat when you finally join the club with that lucky lady.",
"score": 9
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"body": "I'll give some advice that's orthogonal to any dating advice. [This book](http://www.amazon.ca/Six-Pillars-Self-Esteem-Nathaniel-Branden/dp/0553374397/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1263686706&sr=8-1) has been recommended a few times recently, so I'll echo those.\n\nThe effect of years of crappy self-esteem doesn't get undone without some conscious effort. You need to work on that alongside any dating you're doing, or you're going to get trapped into a miserable relationship that you're terrified of giving up (because you'll think you can never be happy on your own/find anyone else that will ever accept you).\n\n> I'm what you would probably call a 'nice guy'.\n\n\"Nice guy\" are dirty words around here. That's code for being insecure and self-abasing, which is only attractive to girls who also have low-self esteem. \n",
"score": 5
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"body": "Congratulations on the extreme makeover you did in the weight department. That alone should be all the confidence you need to know you can do anything you want! ",
"score": 5
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"body": "Dont go out for \"dating\", go out to have fun with friend. If during the night it's appeart that you have fun with a girl.. great.",
"score": 3
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Why do so many people use assault rifles over light machine guns? | I have been using the SCAR-H for a while but last night decided to change thing up with an AUG HBAR and had a blast. Great range, huge clip, pretty decent damage, and super fun to provide cover fire playing head quarters. | 3 | [
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"body": "I think in Counterstrike the AUG was categorized as an assault rifle. In MW I find it operates more like an AR than an LMG. Still a great gun, but I love my RPD!",
"score": 3
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Need music for family vacation, what do you guys have for relaxing by the beach? | Last year my family was rather annoyed that I had brought an ipod and speakers but not any decent music for relaxing to by the pool. So this year I plan on having as much relaxation music to listen too as possible. Any ideas on what to bring? We're going to Costa Rica, so anything for relaxing by the pool/beach is the feel I'm going for. | 8 | [
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"body": "Me? well if l were lucky enough to visit Costa Rica, l can assure you music and lying about would be the last thing on my mind because there is so much to see and do there,- but that's just me,- l can listen to music and relax any time at home.",
"score": 3
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My boyfriend doesn't spend time with me anymore | I've been dating the same boy for 3 years, and he is the love of my life, but recently he has been so distant! When I try to climb over his fence he sends his dog on me, that jokester! He hasn't been throwing out his beard trimmings like he used to, and I've been following him and I saw him taking around another woman... :(
I know he and I have our differences, but I need him. We are perfect for each other and our lives would be so perfect if only we could get past this little problem. I think if I kill the other woman, we can be back to normal but I'd like some input.
Thanks! | 35 | [
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"body": "Hello every girl I've ever dated,\n\nThe trick here is to get to know him better. While his beard trimmings and fence (such a nice fence, yeh?) are a start, you can do so much better from the comfort of your own home. \n\nFirst, you're going to need to create an instant messenger account with this new woman's name. Flirt with him a bit, then send him an MP3 of \"this kool new ke$ha song lol\" with a keylogger attached. \n\nAfter about a day, you're going to have the password to everything website he belongs to. Spend a few days at the computer reading through his emails and messages, taking only short breaks to cry hysterically and call him with a suicide threat at three in the bloody morning. Guys like it when you show them that their presence matters.\n\nPaint this new information on your walls with whatever's handy. Blood (your own *or* his dog's), feces (same applies), or a knife- these all work splendidly. Stare at it for a period of two weeks, and no less than two weeks, while half-assedly masturbating and making pictures of your future children on Photoshop to send to him. \n\nNow you're a walking wikipedia. What's his favourite colour? Yellow. What's his favourite band? Red Hot Chili Peppers (maybe you're better off without him?). What's the thing he never told anyone but his best friend? Once he was arrested for DUI and sexually violated by another man in the county jail. Do a quick breather, then pick up the phone.\n\nYou're going to do something I like to call extremeversation. Call him and start asking him if he likes the things you've researched. \"BILLY OH MY GOD I AM SO HORNY FOR YELLOW\", \"BILLY OH MY GOD DO YOU LIKE THE RED HOT CHILI PEPPERS? I WOULD FUCK YOU LIKE A REPUBLICAN FUCKS THIS NATION'S PROGRESS\", \"BILLY SO I WAS BEING MOLESTED IN A COUNTY JAIL BY ANOTHER MAN AND IT STRUCK ME THAT IT'S SOMETHING YOU MIGHT BE ABLE TO RELATE TO. AREN'T WE SOULMATES?\"\n\nHe's going to be speechless. He's going to cry. He will be yours forever and ever and ever and ever and ever and ever and ever and ever. Fake a pregnancy, get married, live happily forever after. \n\n",
"score": 110
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"body": "Graft yourself onto his back. Once his digestive system fuses with your own, you're paired for life.",
"score": 17
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"body": "while killing the other woman is a possible solution to this problem, it will only be temporary. the best thing to do is to kill this guy, and preserve his body in an air-sealed chamber. that way you can have him forever in his pristine youthful state (like edward cullen!) and project whatever personality you want onto him!",
"score": 9
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"body": "drink a large bottle of Robitussin and spend the next few hours composing your marriage vows. build a giant robotic vagina and program it to deliver the vows to him via singing telegram. if this doesn't convince him to take up a needle and thread and sew himself to you siamese twin style, it's obvious that this 'other woman' is an evil old sorceress hag in disguise. in order to reveal the sorceress for what she is and release your boyfriend from the spell he is under, you must follow my instructions to the letter. collect a gallon of dung beetle blood and soak two grapefruit spoons in it overnight. creep into the sorceress's home and wait until dusk. the second the sky begins to darken, take off all your clothes and dry hump her bathrobe. this will paralyze her magical abilities long enough for you to pounce. pin her down and remove her skin with the grapefruit spoons. with the scraping off of her final shred of flesh, your boyfriend's bewitchment will end. you'll be back together in no time. ps - toss those dogs a handful of poisoned meatballs.",
"score": 6
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"body": "What you should do is simple.\n\nYou need to kidnap the other woman, and mail him body parts, each one with a little note attached telling him how much he means to you. It's sure to work.",
"score": 3
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Fox is as at it again... This time to Fringe. | I just don't understand the Fox policy of rampant destruction to anything sci-fi. I'm seeing episodes of Fringe aired out of order, out of time slot. After the success of Lost, I'm surprised J.J. Abrams would sign a contract that allows Fox to Firefly him. | 34 | [
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"body": "First they came for Firefly... and you did not speak out because they screwed Firefly so hard you didn't even know what it was.\n\nThen they came for Arrested Development... and you did not speak out because you were not an Arrested Development fan.\n\nThen they came for Family Guy... and nobody spoke out because manatee jokes suck.\n\nThen they came for Dollhouse... and you did not speak out because you had only seen the \"imprint of the week\" episodes that weren't so good.\n\nNow they've come for Fringe... and *now* you bitch and moan?",
"score": 62
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"body": "I'm expecting South Park to do an ep about Fox's higher-ups being Crab People or something. They don't want the public to watch sci-fi, so they can be fooled more easily by strange creatures in disguise.",
"score": 21
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"body": "THIS HAS BEEN ANNOUNCED FOR ALMOST A YEAR. There was a unaired episode of Fringe from season 1 - they reshot some of the scenes and fixed the FX and decided to air it *instead* of just putting it on a dvd (which would have pissed some people off).\n\nThe only other problem with Fringe is airing it, or anything else really, on Thursdays. Thursdays have way way too much tv on it.",
"score": 14
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"body": "Slightly off-topic: Does Fringe get any better? I've watched the first few episodes of Season 1 and it just seems like a sci-fi version of Numbers. I don't mind plot contrivences that much, but at least try. ",
"score": 10
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"body": "Personally I think they're going to kill Fringe by increasing the number of commercials that air during an episode. I hate it when a show I like rises in popularity, because the number of interruptions is commensurate to the viewership. I prefer to DVR, because trying to watch Fringe in real time last week about sent me over the edge. ",
"score": 4
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"body": "Honestly, I hope they do cancel the damn thing or maybe just threaten to do so. Maybe that will get Abrams to stop with these goddamn freak-of-the-week episodes and explore more of the really great mythology.",
"score": 3
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Anyone brewing this weekend? What are you making? | I went by my homebrew shop yesterday with the intent of getting some more bottles and a carboy drying rack, and ended up getting ingredients for a dunkelweizen. I'm off work tomorrow, so plan to brew then.
What are others making this weekend? | 12 | [
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"body": "Just made a tripel: 14 lbs Belgian pilsner malt, 2 lbs Candi sugar, 2 oz williamette, 2oz cascade. OG: 1.090.",
"score": 4
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"body": "Just brewed an IPA yesterday. Opened the first few bottles of porter from a month or so ago. Drinking your most recent beer while brewing a new one is a satisfying feeling.",
"score": 3
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Direct Relief update - Haiti's 2nd largest hospital got 40ft shipping container 5 days before quake, being put to use now | More at http://www.directrelief.org/EmergencyResponse/2010/EarthquakeHaiti.aspx:
>As Haiti’s second-largest hospital, JUH is anticipating a large role in caring for quake survivors. “JUH will be receiving patients via helicopter soon; we don't yet know how many patients will be arriving over the coming week,” Konbit Sante Executive Director Nate Nickerson said in an email to Direct Relief. He added that the hospital is anticipating a high need for anesthetics, equipment, and supplies for its operating and emergency rooms.
>As a trusted partner for three years, Direct Relief equipped JUH with a Hurricane Preparedness Module for the 2009 hurricane season. JUH reported in December that the module allowed it to complete an emergency-response plan for the main facility and surrounding clinics since it had the supplies needed to coordinate a response. Though hurricane season proved calm, that preparation will be useful now as JUH works to help earthquake survivors. | 6 | [
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"body": "just so you know, I'm getting a page not found error on the link.\n\nThanks for the updates.\n\nAhh got it, the : is included in the hyperlink thats all.",
"score": 3
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My gay husband of less than 2 years (we've been together 16) has been hiding nearly $1.8 Million in IRS taxes from me. Everything we've worked for for 16 years could b wiped out. | I feel so betrayed..... We've been together 16 years and were finally married in California in during the window in 2008....Only recently while converting our paper system to a scanned database did I run across a sealed enveleope from a legal firm I didn't recognize. Imagine my shock when I read we owed over $1.8 million in Federal and State taxes. He's NEVER said a thing to me about it.
How can I trust him?
What happens to my money in our co-mingled accounts? Everything I've ever made is in that account.
Could I take my $250,000 and leave or would the IRS then be after me too?
I have no idea what to do.
Constructive help would be greatly appreciated. | 6 | [
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"body": "Here's my take: the federal government doesn't recognize gay marriage, so I can't see how the IRS could hold you responsible as well. You need to do some research into that, but that's my gut feeling.",
"score": 8
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"body": "Lawyer up and isolate your accounts. You need to protect your money first and foremost. Once your assets are at least in your name, only, then you've got to follow your lawyer's advice.",
"score": 8
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"body": "money out of the account, gold in the ground. he owes the 1.8 mil, not you. a great many husbands of all orientations in america spare their wives messy details just like these. too late now, but i wouldn't have disclosed this on reddit. ",
"score": 4
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DAE Remember when they first realized The Simpsons stopped being funny? | For me it was the motorcycle fight scene with John Goodman's character. I then began noticing that the show had gone from showing the implausible to the impossible. I really (I mean *really*) enjoyed the show for many years and was one of those annoying people that would quote it all the time. I'm not sure when it actually became unfunny (for me) but that scene what when the realization came to my fore-brain. | 6 | [
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"body": "Maybe it's the \"unhip\" thing to say but I still get a good laugh at the newer Simpsons episodes. They never stopped being funny for me, just stopped being quotable. ",
"score": 5
}
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Please go to your porn dir, find your OLDEST .jpg and post it on Imgur... | This one's called [kieran.jpg](http://imgur.com/EsWBQ.jpg), but I remember naming it that because the girl on the right reminded me of my flatmate's friend. From 9th September 1997(!) | 98 | [
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"body": "I proudly present [002HIREZ.GIF](http://i.imgur.com/8yUS5.gif) from 5th February 1992.\n\nThat's right. 1992.\n\nWith bonus BBS watermark, so you know it's good.",
"score": 65
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"body": "Paste this in your URL bar to load all the pics in this thread:\n\njavascript: var x= $(\".content\").find(\"a\").each(function(){var href=$(this).attr(\"href\");if((!$(this).hasClass(\"drowsapMorphed\")) && ($(this).next(\".drowsapMorphed\").length==0) && href && (href.indexOf('imgur')>=0 || href.indexOf('jpeg')>=0 || href.indexOf('jpg')>=0 || href.indexOf('png')>=0)){var ext =(href.indexOf('imgur')>=0 && href.indexOf('jpg')<0 && href.indexOf('png')<0) ? '.jpg' :''; var img = $(\"<a class='drowsapMorphed' href='\"+href+\"' target='blank' style='display:block'><img style='display:block;max-width:780px;' src='\"+href+ ext+\"' /></a>\");$(this).after(img);}});\n\n\nEDIT: thx for the compliment but I didn't write this - I can find out who did and post their name up.\n",
"score": 41
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"body": "Ha.. I remember the early days of BBS scans, damn, that must be like 1985 or 86. I don't even remember what format they were in. I recall some images were designed to be visible with the old Hercules graphics card for the original IBM PC. I borrowed an Epson 286 clone from work for a few months, it had a Hercules graphics clone chipset on the motherboard. I recall using the Epson PC to download a pic (heavily dithered 1 bit graphics) and seeing a nude woman in ghastly green (almost everyone used green screens back then). But I was horrified to discover that somehow the image was permanently resident in the graphics buffer. It would flash on the screen briefly during reboot. I couldn't even erase it by powering down the CPU or pulling the batteries. Eventually I had to return the computer to the office, so I figured out I could download another innocuous image in the same format and it would pop up instead of the porn. I think I got a landscape or something.",
"score": 21
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"body": "Here's the oldest I could find on my system. It is watermarked from 1988. I remember that it was important to keep my backup floppies hidden since I was only 11 at the time. http://imgur.com/ArRuF Other good ones: http://imgur.com/SiPHW http://imgur.com/nGgaf Love the shop work on this one: http://imgur.com/qMpne",
"score": 8
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"body": "I guarantee I have pics from 1990 lying around somewhere that I got from BBS's or from my first year at Cornell (which I can't find right now) but here's a couple of choice ones dated around 1995 that are definitely from the early 90's:\n\n[super tight chick](http://i.imgur.com/kGyLA.jpg)\n\n[cheerleader bang](http://i.imgur.com/nVFqA.jpg)\n\n[MELBET.jpg](http://i.imgur.com/bj98v.jpg), probably the first black and white nude i found jarringly amazing\n\n[Perfect.jpg](http://i.imgur.com/osI99.jpg) 'Nuff said!\n\n[PETRA.jpg](http://i.imgur.com/giTJR.jpg) NICE! This one has a BBS ad that features \"Female SYSOPs\" lol\n\n[blondethreesome.jpg](http://i.imgur.com/q1LbR.jpg) Love that hair. lol\n\nAlso [this series of 3 pics on imgur](http://imgur.com/e8V2j&uQnQK&leF76) is probably still the hottest 69 themed stuff I've seen. chick is just built for sex.",
"score": 7
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"body": "Unfortunately I've lost several hard drives along the way. And back then I had no way of backing up data (12 years ago). As for nowadays, I don't really keep porn images on my machine anymore. However, who here remembers legspred.exe? Also, QPEG (which was a DOS jpeg viewer, but we used to bundle it along with pornographic images, so at least in the communities I used to frequent back then it was mainly known as \"that app that helps you fap\". Also, I was 14 back then.)\r\n\r\nI almost miss those days.",
"score": 6
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"body": "Some classic Anna Nicole Smith, pic dated 1997:\n\nhttp://imgur.com/qqLy0.jpg\n\nAnybody have more of this set?",
"score": 6
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"body": "[I ](http://imgur.com/hqTPo.jpg)[thought](http://imgur.com/yUMqI.jpg) [I ](http://imgur.com/Oy2dd.jpg)[should](http://imgur.com/oeYvn.jpg) [give](http://imgur.com/iJMFA.jpg) [the](http://imgur.com/sx7DI.jpg) [set.](http://imgur.com/IVU3s.jpg)\n\nFrom 2004. I guess I must have copied the files once when reinstalling my os.",
"score": 6
},
{
"body": "[Oldest I have](http://imgur.com/7dap0.png) is from last August due to the Great Data Loss Tragedy of 2009. It's so new it's a friggin' PNG.",
"score": 6
},
{
"body": "[Not really that old](http://i.imgur.com/YmrTP.jpg). \n\nI remember this one standing out to me because I used to have *that exact phone*.",
"score": 3
},
{
"body": "I don't have any on my new computer, but I have some old 3.5\" disks somewhere from way back when on mIRC... Not that I have a drive they will work with anymore... :-(",
"score": 3
},
{
"body": "This is the oldest GIF I have [FURI19](http://imgur.com/nzILv.gif) sailor moon hentai from 1994. \n\nThe oldest JPG is [09Pussy-Spy](http://imgur.com/PaQJl.jpg) from 2004.",
"score": 3
},
{
"body": "From RWB Productions CD Volume 6 that I purchased around 1995.\n\nhttp://imgur.com/g6vXC.jpg\n\nI think my earliest jpgs would be a Janine Lindemulder set I downloaded in 1992 or so.",
"score": 3
}
]
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