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[ { "body": "Don't get a Samsung Jet, it's fucking shit. If you want to browse Internet, get an iPhone, it has a HTML browser, as oppose to a shitty WAP browser, which is shit.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Assuming you have an nvidia card, those settings are usually controlled through nvidia-settings. It's a gui app, but man nvidia-settings shows that there's some cli support too. At the very least I imagine you could use it to load a separate .nvidia-settings-rc for each monitor config you had. You might also need xrandr for changing resolutions.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "[xrandr](http://www.thinkwiki.org/wiki/Xorg_RandR_1.2) script(s) + [xbindkeys](http://www.nongnu.org/xbindkeys/xbindkeysrc) (or ubuntu probably has a hotkey thing)", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "YES! in fact this morning I went back in time and changed my childhood and ended up at this post at this very minute. I just never knew the difference... who knows if I didn't go back in time I may have ended up on Digg (COLD SHUTTERS!) ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I would encourage you to keep posting your (locally) unpopular positions. For one, trying to make sure people are aware of both sides of an argument will help them to make better-informed decisions. You are also advocating for your side and if someone finds your reasoning sound, you may grow support for it.\n\nThe groupthink mentality that minority opinions/beliefs struggle against on reddit is already well-known by those contributing to the problem. I just hope people like you will continue posting your thoughts despite the down-votes. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I used to post my actual opinions on the internet. The problem is that most people aren't willing to listen to anything other than what they already think. The few that are are drowned out by the prejudiced. So what's the point?\n\nLet's say you believe in God or something. You don't do it because your parents taught you to (they're atheist). You think you have evidence that God exists, not belief-without-proof style \"faith.\"\n\nDo you think anyone wants to talk about your so-called evidence? Of course not. Since there are so many actual religious nutjobs out there, it's much easier to assume you are one of them and mock you. And if there are people inclined to discuss it, they will simply dispute your evidence without really considering it. That's sort of understandable, but when you get 20 \"that's dumb because\" replies and there's only one of you, it gets kinda hard.\n\nBecause the group doesn't care about discourse. They're here for entertainment. Thinking is hard, so most people don't do it.\n\nIt's simply not the right place for convincing people of different viewpoints. It's a place for arguing. Not making arguments.\n\nYeah, it would help if more minority-view people spoke up, to remind the hive mind that there actually are people who don't agree with the popular dogma that \"all smart people agree on.\" But it's too much effort for no immediate reward, so people don't bother.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I urge you to post whatever opinion you've got. I usually go into the comments knowing what reddit is going to think on the subject. I'm looking for the comment that surprises me.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Firefly\r\n\r\nI can't for the life of me figure out why they woyld cancel such an awesome show with such an incredible cast. They could have taken that show in a thousand different directions with the vastness of space travel... Just like Star Trek, only much more interesting. ", "score": 717 }, { "body": "Freaks and Geeks. I rewatched it over the holidays and it's just as, if not even more brilliant than I remembered.", "score": 352 }, { "body": "Pushing Daisies. \n\nIt lost so much momentum because of the writer strike. \n\nOh, and the amazing screw on head.", "score": 183 }, { "body": "Not sure if you could call it cancelled, but I still miss [Chappelle's Show](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-wpXPbHJyBI)", "score": 134 }, { "body": "The Critic.\n\nJon Lovitz was brilliant, and it used random pop culture humor better and with far more subtlety than Family Guy did 5-10 years later.", "score": 125 }, { "body": "*Studio 60* (Aaron Sorkin gives me hope that TV's not just being \"written\" by a bunch of retarded monkeys in a dark room)\n\n*Dollhouse* (First season = Fox meddling = meh. Second season = already mostly cancelled = no Fox interest = AWESOMENESS)\n\n*Dead Like Me.* Mostly for Rube, but also for everyone else.\n\n*Andy Richter Controls the Universe.*\n\n*True Calling.* I don't know why.\n\nAnd a bunch of others already mentioned, esp *Firefly, Futurama* and *Arrested Development* :p", "score": 109 }, { "body": "Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles. I loved its dark, dramatic tone. It wasn't really about the \"blow'em up\" action and was more character driven. It even made me cry a couple of times. Not to mention it ended on such a huge plot twist/cliffhanger. UGH!\n\nI hate Fox with a passion. Someone get me my executive powder!", "score": 92 }, { "body": "My father is the bane of B TV Series (think B movies, but for TV). I mean this in the actual sense of the word - after he starts seriously enjoying one of these B series, it is canceled soon after. I guess you can attribute the series cancellations to them being B level TV series, but I think it's sort of uncanny how consistently it used to happen. To name a few:\n\n* **Early Edition** - a man recently divorced, in a bad job, and just stuck in one of life's ruts begins to receive the Chicago Sun-Times for the next day, and begins to use it to help people.\n\n* **7 Days** - the US government builds/discovers (forget which) a time machine that allows them to send a single person 7 days into the past, to fix tragic events as they see fit.\n\n* **The Pretender** - a former child prodigy and genius in general is on the run from a secret organization, and hides by impersonating certain people - a specialty of his that not only keeps him hidden but lets him discover the true motives of his pursuers. \n\nI included descriptions because I've only ever met one other person whose seen Early Edition, but not the other two (but I suppose they don't come up often in conversation). I know they sound kind of bland and bad, but damnit me and my dad liked them :< Anyone else remember these series?\n\nEdit: Bolded for ease of reading.", "score": 91 }, { "body": "My So-Called Life back in the day. I joined the fan protest by sending a pleading postcard in to the network. Obviously, this was pre-realizing Jared Leto is a douche.", "score": 73 }, { "body": "Sifl and Olly.\n\nI miss Firefly as much as everyone else here, but it's seriously like Sifl and Olly never existed. At least Firefly got a movie and DVD sales.", "score": 53 }, { "body": "*Gargoyles*.\n\nAnd, while it was never exceptionally popular, *X-Men: Evolution*.\n\nTwo of my favourite cartoons, both of which could have gone for a few more good seasons, and both of which having their final DVD releases stalled. -_-", "score": 41 }, { "body": "Mystery Science Theater 3000 (I'll abbreviate it for text search: MST3K).\n\nI'm glad to see those guys are back at it, though.", "score": 37 }, { "body": "**THE WIRE**\r\n\r\n\r\nI know this wasn't a cancellation per se, but I could have watched that show forever.", "score": 35 }, { "body": "I came in here to post Firefly.\n\nI can understand why it didn't last on network television, but it could have easily lived on basic cable. Scifi/Syfy (lol) or USA could have been a fantastic home for the show.\n\nWestern in space. Love it.", "score": 34 }, { "body": "It was almost \"Chuck\". So make sure to start watching this year so that doesn't happen, it's an awesome show and perfect for our unique demographic.", "score": 32 }, { "body": "Andy Richter Controls the Universe.\n\nI actually refused to watch the first 3 or 4 episodes of Arrested Development when it first aired, since one of my friends told me it was even funnier than ARCTU and I promptly deemed him a blasphemer and likely a witch.", "score": 28 }, { "body": "THE STATE! the. fucking. state.\n\nThat show was sooooo good and after clicking 10 times to load all the replies I don't think people have said it. Also, this doesn't count as a TV show but romp.com should have been a TV show. (fersure bro!)", "score": 28 }, { "body": "Star Trek Deep Space Nine, I consider it a cancellation since the show was slated for an 8th season. ", "score": 26 }, { "body": "Undergrads (aired on MTV around 2000) for about 12-13 eps I think. Animated and pretty damn funny. Left on a cliffhanger but I'm glad the DVD's were produced so I can watch it whenever.", "score": 21 }, { "body": "Titus \n\nA sitcom about losers dealing with themes like rape, child molestation, murder, attempted and committed suicide, mental illness, death, gun violence, drug abuse, domestic abuse, alcoholism, and terrorism had to be canceled sooner or later, still missing it though...:-(", "score": 21 }, { "body": "Strangers With Candy! It's still my favorite thing Colbert has ever done, and that's not a condemnation of his show.\n\nOn an unrelated note, why do threads like this always become giant Firefly / Joss Whedon lovefests? I don't usually like knocking on stuff people like just because it's popular, but I think his shows are all boring and corny, and I've literally never heard ANYONE but myself badmouth him, which is WEIRD. So where are all you other anti-Whedonites hiding? \n\n", "score": 20 }, { "body": "I don't know that it \"got canceled\" as much as it was just over, but I really liked \"The Maxx\" on MTV when it came out. I wish there was more of it.", "score": 17 }, { "body": "I really liked Surface. I am a huge fan of giant sea monsters, and I rarely get to see a good movie or TV show about them that isn't horribly cheesy.", "score": 16 }, { "body": "*Get a Life*.\n\nAt least, I thought it was awesome when I was a kid... seeing it now may change my mind.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "I never hear anyone say this, but Kitchen Confidential. It had Bradley Cooper, and Xander from Buffy. It was on Fox and got cancelled after a couple of episodes, but the first season made it to DVD I think. It had real potential.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "*Firefly* or *Freaks and Geeks*... i would trade all the happiness people get from watching shows like *Jersey Shore* or *Stargate SG-WTF* for one more season of each of these great shows.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "\"[The Amazing Screw-On Head](http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-5434666681046246946&q=The+Amazing+Screw-On+Head)\" never went past [the pilot](http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-5434666681046246946&q=The+Amazing+Screw-On+Head), which is odd because it was fucking amazing and critically acclaimed. THAT would have been an awesome fucking show.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I was about to say Dark Angel... but then I remembered the second season where it was hit or miss on the episodes.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Bringing out the Big GUNS... The Secret World of Alex Mac, Salute Your Shorts, Kenan and Kel, Reading Rainbow \n\nDark Angel, Mission Hill, The Critic, **HOME MOVIES**\n\nNah! Forget all those other ones. I DEMAND *HOME MOVIES*!\n", "score": 7 }, { "body": "My Name is Earl. That show had some one-liners in there that would make you fall off the couch in a gigglefit. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Freaks & Geeks was my favorite, but I was also a bit disappointed they cancelled Pushing Daisies. It was one of the more creative shows ever produced, IMO. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I miss Scrubs so much. The \"new\" one, \"Scrubs: Medical School\" is like a much loved ex flaunting her promiscuity in your face while denying you that sweet, sweet tenderness that you crave so much and would kill your best friend to have just one more time, oh sweet jesus, with all the crazy positions and unthinkable profanities.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "WONDERSHOWZEN\n\nbut dont worry, the agonizing pain of loss was cauderized when the animators went over to superjail! but then, the last piece of the iron giant was severed, and cancelled as well. so my compound answer also contains\n\nSUPERJAIL!", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Um, I'm not going to bother looking at all the comments, I'm sure this has been said, Bill Nye The Science Guy. That's the only show I really miss.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Terminator: TSCC. Despite the poor writing and continuity issues, I think there was much untapped potential.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Firefox was canceled because it was about discovering personal freedom and flying under the radar of Gov/Corp rule.\n\nThis was not to be condoned or discussed in a (very) public forum.\n\nShows such as these will quickly raise the ire of shadow puppeteers and will be manipulated to be proven disposable.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Whose Line Is It Anyways?. Great show. I miss Ryan Stiles, Colin Mochrie and Wayne Brady making idiots of themselves.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I'm going to keep saying 'Twin Peaks' whenever someone starts a thread like this. I can't articulate how truly amazing that show is/was. \n\nHBO's 'Rome' was also fucking great despite lasting only two seasons.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Who's line is it anyways.\n\nI know the show had a good run, but seriously, I have never laughed so hard watching anything.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "**Freaks and Geeks**. Where Seth Rogen, James Franco, and crew got their start though they weren't the main stars. Still love that show no matter how much I watch it on DVD. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Duckman. \n\nBrilliant show from the 90s that was an offensive cartoon before South Park or Family Guy. Had some real intelligence too. Jason Alexander was Duckman's voice. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Firefly, Dollhouse, Wonderfalls, and Pushing Daisies are major ones, but since no one else has mentioned it, I'll add [Daybreak](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Day_Break) as another one I got into that never really had a chance.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Scrubs. I consider the fact that most of the original cast isn't returning to be the same as cancellation.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Dead Like Me. Only two seasons, and it was one of the most original and enjoyable shows I have ever seen. Someone got killed by a flying toilet seat... It was glorious.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Firefly\n\nalso...\n\nDollhouse\n\nStudio 60 on the Sunset Strip\n\nJourneyman\n\nAlso, Star Trek [Enterprise]... Growing up, there was always an iteration of Star Trek on... now the airways seem empty.\n\nWhy is it that all the smart, intelligent shows get cancelled?\n\n[this post has been edited for formating and for content and to run the space allowed]", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Samantha Who?\n\nThey probably shouldn't have used a question mark in the title, as that's the reaction I get most of the time when I ask friends if they used to watch this show. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Las Vegas was cancelled by NBC because it was popular and good...or is that despite being popular and good? Either way, it was in the middle of a cliffhanger and now my life will never be complete.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "**Carnivàle** - so many unanswered questions \n**Arrested Development** - hopefully the movie lives up\n**Freaks and Geeks** - what a great show and concept", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Going back a bit, but Homefront with John Slattery & Kyle Chandler was great and cancelled way too soon. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Sledgehammer \n\nThe Highwayman (Helicopter built into a semi-cab, also had a low-rider semi.\n\nThe Flash\n\nI think these were all single season.\n\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Why has no one mentioned *Freakazoid*? Wow, what an amazing show it was for its time. The comedy is still spot-on today, even when the show was airing more than a decade ago. I managed to learn Conversational Norwegian, the merits of the Buddy System, and that every sewer system smells like poo gas (or as they say in Scotland, *crud vapors*). Good news: Its on DVD.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "My philosophy has always been to either have a really good phone or a really shitty one. For phones in between you only end up paying for extra features that aren't properly developed and you will only end up calling/smsing anyway. \nMost of the time a very cheap phone that can simply call/sms is enough and you don't have to worry about it breaking, getting stolen, or losing it. \nHowever, I bought a second hand G1 and it is great and I actually use the features that let me \"do all sorts of crazy shit\". \n\ntl;dr It's best to get a high-end or low-end phone, not something in between.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Shockfactor chooses to use the bottom-of-the-line folding phones available because they are built like tanks and do what I need them to. They can text, they can call people, take really low quality pictures that get the job done, and they can even save numbers. I own a laptop for internet uses.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "First of all, don't use the word \"properly\" when asking for artistic advice. Seeking the \"proper\" way will leave your music boring, uninspired, and you generally unfulfilled as an artist.\n\nNow, for your tribal drum beats you have two options and i would recommend trying to blend them. You simply need to acquire some ethnic sample packs that are compatible with your sample engine of choice. There are many out there, google is your friend.\n\nHowever, I would also strongly encourage you to pick up some acoustic instruments. Triangle, woodblocks, cheap bongos, etc. Samples will often times fatigue the ear due to their lack of dynamics and their ultra-clean polish. A little dirt and dynamic fluctuation is a good thing when trying to replicate a sound that is characteristically dirty and spontaneous. \n\nCheers ", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "Before coming in here, my suggestion was going to be, \"Superimpose your movement onto a map!\"\r\n\r\nNow I feel dumb, and out of ideas.", "score": 15 }, { "body": "Correlate it to as much other geotagged data you can find. Example:\n\nLook for things like \"most dangerous intersections\" and the number of times you go through them. This can give you a \"risk\" profile that may allow you to train yourself to be more alert during those times/spaces.\n\nThere's probably other data that is not risk related that may allow you to seek transportation efficiency - route evaluation (speed vs distance); public transport planning (timing and transfers).\n\nLook for POI that are important to you and see if you can make time to visit, then schedule into your cal to pop up a reminder. Next time you are enroute from Philly to Boston you will be reminded of an opportunity to visit the POI.\n\nSorry - all lame. Slow brain today.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Well, some basic statistics for starters:\r\n\r\n1. What is the total distance you moved last year?\r\n\r\n2. What was the average speed?\r\n\r\n3. Plot a density map based on the amount of time you stayed in certain places.\r\n\r\n4. Make a time-compressed animated movie with the data.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Interesting picture!\n\nIs that east coast, new york area and manhattan? Its amazing how you can live so close and not have reason to go there in a whole year. \n\nGuessing, i live the same sort of distance from London and go there quite a bit for sport and what not.\n\nOr my distance gaging skills might be totally wrong and you live a fair distance, ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I was expecting to see how much movement between the computer, kitchen and bathroom was going to show up", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "They aren't all that angry. This guy would probably be angry no matter what, but religion gives him an exclusive club he can belong to so he can fulfill his need to hate outsiders.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Why are [all people in a given classification] so [adjective describing some of the people in that classification]?", "score": 6 }, { "body": "you need to get this in perspective: some religious people are at peace, and some atheists are very angry ... it would be more accurate for you to ask why are *some people* so angry", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Find a tailor. Honestly, with that body, she's never going to look as good as she should with off the rack sizes. ", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Or is it because their loveless marriage of political convenience is devoid of any erotic feeling whatsoever?", "score": 28 } ]

[ { "body": "I say:\r\n\r\n-American Gods\r\n-Discworld (Just pick up ANY of them, there are 37 right now)\r\n-A Song of Ice and Fire\r\n-The Original Conan Doyle Sherlock Holmes\r\n-Ender's Game\r\n-Pride and Prejudice\r\n- Foundation\r\n- Hemingway (Just anything he wrote)\r\n- A Tale of Two Cities\r\n- John Dies at the End\r\n- Hitchhiker's Guide\r\n- At the Mountain's of Madness\r\n- Nuklear Age ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "like i suspected.. i assume it's because you really do say 'wow'.. \n\nhere's what i found..\n\nThe appearance of \"wow\" in the WRITTEN English language was in 1513, presumably because of its SOUND. It is an \"onomatopoetic\" word, like \"hiss\" and \"buzz.\" They SOUND like the meanings they convey. \"Wow\" is an exclamation of surprise or awe. It probably existed in our language for many years BEFORE 1513, but that year was its actual inclusion in the language in WRITTEN form.\n\n\"The Oxford English Dictionary\" is the \"bible\" in the etymological field. Here is the reference to \"wow\" from that outstanding reference source:\n\n\"1. An exclamation, variously expressing aversion, surprise or admiration, sorrow or commiseration, or mere asseveration. Historical References: 1513 DOUGLAS ÆNEIS VI. Prol. 19 Out on thir wanderand spiritis, wow! thow cryis. 15?? Peblis to Play 74 (Maitl. fol . 178) Ane winklot fell and hir taill vp; wow, quod malkin hyd sow. 1721 RAMSAY Prosp. Plenty 74 Wow! that's braw news. 1789 BURNS Grose's Peregr. II And wow! he has an unco sleight O' caulk an keel. Other references in 1840, 1892. In other than Scottish use, instances found in 1892 & 1916...etc.\"\n\nsource: http://en.allexperts.com/q/Etymology-Meaning-Words-1474/word-WOW.htm ", "score": 25 }, { "body": "I was just picking my nose, and had a nice big dry bit that I rolled out...but it fell down my sleeve :( I was looking forward to that...\n\nSorry it's nothing to do with the submission, I just wanted to share.\n\n(edit) I did some quick searching, but found nothing. I didn't search for anything that wasn't obvious, though.\n\nCould it be that it originates from the sound people make when presented with something awesome to behold? Like, \"ouuuhh\" but over time has been solidified into \"wow\"?", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Man! The worst is when a girl can't appreciate me for who I am! Like the other night I was about to fuck this girl at the bar but then she went home with someone who shaves, cuts his hair, and showers every day. I bet it was probably because she couldn't handle the way I think so freely!", "score": 22 }, { "body": "I agree. I think that the world is a bit too prudish.... we should be able to boink anyone, anywhere, anytime....", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Yea that magic forcefield called the friend zone magically appears whenever I attempt to have sex with someone. Good thing it's well documented as impossible to pass through or I might question my social skills.", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "here's one of my [favorites](http://www.yooouuutuuube.com/v/?rows=36&cols=36&id=VutMLnjXTY4&startZoom=1).\n\n", "score": 9 }, { "body": "If you like that Alice in Wonderland track, you can grab it here: http://www.last.fm/music/Pogo/_/Alice", "score": 6 }, { "body": "[Like a Pen](http://yooouuutuuube.com/v/?rows=18&cols=18&id=hqNSd-x1yEs&startZoom=1)\n[We Share Our Mother's Health](http://yooouuutuuube.com/v/?rows=18&cols=18&id=617ANIA5Rqs&startZoom=1)\n\nThe Knife are a great band, and I really enjoy their videos on yooouuutuuube.", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "Never. One book at a time, finish it before moving on. I've never understood those who read multiple books at once, it doesn't strike me as \"superior reading prowess\", just ADD.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I usually have 2-4 going at once. For me, it's a matter of needing to switch gears. After a while reading escapist fiction I want something more solid. After hours of reading about theoretical physics I need something easier on the brain (thanks Mr. Feynman).", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "High Intensity Interval Training\n\nI start off at 6.5mph for five minutes to get loose, then at the five minute mark I go to 10.5 for 1 minute, then back to 6.5 for 2 minutes, then back to 10.5.\n\nI do this 8-10 times depending on the day. You might not be up to those speeds yet but if you go from 4.0 to 5.0 for a minute and then back down you will see your speed improve.\n\nMake sure you're doing it safely...push but not too hard, and always wear that clippy job that stops the belt as you build up. Good luck!", "score": 17 }, { "body": "I turn on the treadmill then go sit down and watch TV and sip a coke. I'd go faster, but the treadmill gets so loud.", "score": 11 }, { "body": "My default endurance jog is 6.5 mph, grade 3%. When I do HIIT on a treadmill, I usually jog two minutes at 5.5 mph, followed by one minute of a faster speed and higher grade. The treadmill I use takes a while to get to the desired speed.\n\nHIIT is not the be-all end-all solution to everything in the world. Don't get me wrong, it's immensely helpful in many ways... but too many advocates seem to, at least unintentionally, discourage endurance running. Both have their advantages and uses, and a proper cardio routine should involve both.\n\nAlso, how long have you been running on the treadmill? When I first started and was out of shape, it took me at least three or four months to jog one mile at 6 mph. Could you give us a few more details on your routine and your goals?\n\nOne more thing! If you're working out on a treadmill and the machine you're using allows you run on an incline, do use that option to your advantage. Running on an incline works the legs in a different way than running flat, and may provide a solution to plateaus. Though it's better to run outside, a treadmill is an adequate replacement if this isn't an option. Increasing the incline will help to better simulate actual running than keeping the thing flat.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I have not pushed myself hard for the last couple of months on cardio, specifically running on the treadmill and in fact pretty much took December off. That coupled with copious amounts of holiday over-eating I am finding my normal pace (6.7mph) on the treadmill is pretty tough as well. \n \nJust take it slow, as in your expectations for an increase in running speed over the next few weeks, and you will see an increase if you keep doing it regularly.\n\nAs has been suggested, pushing yourself is very important. Even if for 30 seconds, making yourself walk/jog/run 1mph faster will bring about quicker speed improvements then if you just keep a slow steady pace that never increases. It is very tough mentally but you can do it. Just do not give up for that 30 seconds! Then slow it down for a minute or two... then do it again, for 30 seconds - 1mph faster. Do that two or three times during your next treadmill session. Then the following time try to do it five to six times. It will get easier each time you do it.\n\nAgain, just think to yourself... I can do this, I can run 1mph faster for 30 seconds. Sure it might be hard, but *I* can do it. \n\nIntervals. \n\nKeep up the good work.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "last year my routine was: start at 6mph for 10 seconds, then bump-up to 11-11.5 mph for 20-30 seconds, then lower to 4-5mph for 10 seconds and so on. this really improved my running speed, but my endurance sucked.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Most other people have already said it: interval training!\n\nRun at intervals of varied intensity to work aerobically/anaerobically. Muscles, especially the heart, respond positively to interval training. Once your body gets used to working at a higher intensity your heart and muscles will work harder, faster, longer with far less energy than it took before. Don't listen to the voice in your head but do listen to your body; if it hurts, **stop**, but if you find yourself wanting to step it up a notch then tell your mind \"5 more minutes\".\n\nAs a side-note, start using the slope functions. I find it adds some spice to an otherwise routine workout.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Interval training I go between 4 - 8mph (ratio 2:1). If I'm doing an endurance run, I'll go between 5.3-5.5 mph. My gains have been very slow - I started off jogging at about 4.8 (endurance)... but I'm getting there.\n\nOne thing to also keep in mind, I can go much faster and longer outdoors than on the treadmill. Outdoors you have ups and down, you have to pause for things like traffic, and it's more interesting. When summer comes around again, try going for a long run outside and see how well you do.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I usually do 5 mph (brisk walk) to warm up for the first five minutes. After that, I'll take the next mile at 7 mph. If I'm feeling good, I bump it up to 7.5 for the 2nd mile, and the last part of the 3rd mile, I'll push from 8mph for a quarter mile to 9mph for the last tenth mile or so.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Haven't been on the treadmill for a while, but when I'm on I usually go for 10kph (around 6.2mph). The way I think of it is I wanna do 10km in 1 hour (I never get around to 10km though, most I've done around 5).\nHow to improve speed? Proper nutrition, enough sleep and not being a pussy. At some point it starts hurting your sides, you need to bite through and keep going. A fitness trainer told me as a kid that you only really start benefiting once it starts hurting. Depending on how often you go on the treadmill, add 0.5-1mph to your speed for the same given time every time (or if you're just starting, every other time) you run/jog.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "8.2mph as a steady pace (5-6miles), towards the end of my runs i'll go to 9 then 10 then 11 for the last mile and a half or so. \n\nI'm also a fairly large runner (205lbs) and I think that everyone me fears that the treadmill is gonna break when I really get going. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I do distance running outside from spring through autumn, typically maintaining a 6 mph pace, and only use the dreadmill when it's too slippery to safely run outside. Since I'm restricted to 30 minutes at a stretch, I try to maintain 7-8 mph for the duration.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I'm weird - I *walk* at 4mph, run typically at 6-6.5. But I'm trying to increase that, and the interval method seems to be working. (Too early to show huge results yet.) I've been pushing myself up to about 8 for a minute at a time, and am considering going above that.\n\nJust in case it's useful, how long do you run in a session? I've been doing 30 minutes at a time.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I'm in the process of trying to get back into shape, but this is my current routine:\n\n* Walk 2 mins @ 3 mph\n* Jog 13 mins @ 6 mph\n* Walk 3 mins @ 3 mph\n* Jog 7 mins @ 3 mph\n* Walk 3 mins @ 3 mph\n* Run 1 min @ 8 mph\n* Sprint 1 min @ 10 mph\n\nI'm trying to get rid of all the walking parts by steadily decreasing those intervals (when I started I was walking half of the 30 minute session). Agree with others who have said that ending the session with a sprint really feels great.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "The top comment is about HIIT. I cannot stress enough how this works to increase your run times. I started out doing 4.7 mph (5'5\" female). When I encorporated sprints (going up to 5.5 mph for a min after running at 4.7 for a few mins) was when my endurance started to pick up. If I did HIIT a couple days a week, on the other days when I was just doing a straight job with no intervals, I was able to last longer, and thus my run times started going from 4 min intervals to 7 min intervals, to now being able to run 3 consecutive 13 min miles. I have never been able to run a mile that quickly in my life, so it's amazing to me.\n\nTL;DR, start doing some sprints a few times a week and on your longer run days you will notice you can run for longer time periods.\n\nOh, and btw, this is after 6 months of interval training, I now run at 5.5 mph (that was my OLD sprint speed when I first started!) and my sprints are usually between 6.3 to 7.0 depending on how I'm feeling and how many sprints I am going to do.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I think living on Capitol Hill when you first move here is probably a good idea. The hill is definitely the cultural center of the city, but it's also the geographic center. You may very well find that you want to live elsewhere after being here a while, but Capitol Hill will give you a great view of what Seattle offers and an easy launching point to get to other parts of the city. \n\nI've lived in the U-district, Ravenna (twice), Fremont, Capitol Hill and now in SoDo. I've loved every neighborhood, but wish it hadn't taken me 8 years to try something out of the North End. There is a huge amount of diversity across town, do yourself a favor and check out as many neighborhoods as you can before committing to one. \n\nre: Ballard. As mentioned, Ballard is a great neighborhood but it's hard to get in/out of. The transit is decent to get you to a downtown job, but getting to the freeway to get out of town can take 30+ minutes. One of the greatest things about Seattle is the abundance of natural beauty surrounding us, so I feel like it's important to have easy access to the freeway. ", "score": 17 }, { "body": "I'm a single 23 year old techie moving out there in July to work with Amazon. Several employees recommended Ballard, but I'm looking at Capitol Hill, Fremont, Wallingford, and south lake union (since that's where the new Amazon campus is). Capitol Hill is perhaps too hip for anyone without an ironic moustache and trucker cap. I have a friend in wallingford that loves it, his pictures make it seem pretty residential. From what I hear, Ballard is a great place to live (not too expensive and has a lot of bars and other nightlife) but it will take you 15-30 minutes to get downtown.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I'm afraid I'm going to have to disagree with my esteemed colleagues Dr. Andrue and M. Kadjar. Ballard is great, but only if you really, really like Ballard. It is a royal pain to venture out of Ballard and for friends to come to Ballard to see you.\n\nI suggest somewhere east of the freeway. Wedgewood is nice. But between your choices, I'd go with Queen Anne. I don't have an opinion about upper or lower, though.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "What sort of vibe are you looking for, or, what narrowed it down to QA or Ballard?\n\nWest Seattle also has a year-round farmer's market. It's more affordable than Ballard but suffers from the same sort of isolation.\n\nWallingford might be another good choice, too. \n\nWedgewood's nice, but might be a bit slow if you're looking for lots of restaurants and pubs nearby (although the Ale House is pretty sweet). No farmer's market, but they have that really cheap & good produce truck that shows up in the summer.\n", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Ballard. Year round farmers market, tons of pubs, and La Isla is the best restaurant in Seattle. You'll love it here!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Of the two I would go for Ballard if you aren't trying to commute to downtown every day and Queen Anne if you are. If you are thinking about Ballard or Queen Anne have you also considered Fremont, Wallingford, Green Lake or Ravenna? All of which have a decent residential feel, neighborhood bars/restaurants and Wallingford and U District both have farmers markets. I don't really understand all the recommendations for Capitol Hill, since it has a lot more of a dirty overcrowded hipster feel than Upper Queen Anne or Ballard.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Bronica is sturdy, and they have very sharp lenses. They were the workhorse of wedding photographers before digital became practical.\r\n\r\nUsed medium format cameras are still pretty expensive, but not many pros are using them. Basically, it seems like people would rather let it sit on a consignment shelf rather than sell it for a quarter of what they paid for it.\r\n\r\nI shot a hasselblad in photography school. It wasn't a whole lot sharper than other cameras. Then I started using a compendium lens hood, and the images had noticeably higher contrast than any others. In other words, the hood made more of a difference than the super expenso lens.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "[Pentax 6x7](http://www.flickr.com/photos/charlesviper/2780519347/). I've shot with a Mamiya M645, a GW690, and a Pentax 6x7. The 6x7 was my favorite. Big, bulky, awesome.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I second the Bronica. Well built, super sharp lenses and can be found for relatively cheap.\nI got mine with a grip(ETRS) and although it's a bit heavy, I have no problem throwing it in my bag for a day of shooting.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Well, what you are failing to see is that they are achieving two things. First yes, they are profiting off something they didn't previously. However more importantly, they are making people stop and think before they pack. If something is free people will always over consume. By adding this fee they are making everything more efficient. For instance they reduce the plane weight, thus using less fuel. They get people to carry their luggage, so they need less baggage handlers. Basically they figured out, johnny will pack 17 pairs of pants if it's free, and that cost us a lot. We can charge him a fee, and he will pack what he needs instead. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Alright so I have got a story. This is the funniest thing I have ever *heard* on mw2.\n\nIt is about two weeks ago and I am playing a ground war / domination game on the Estate level. Everyone on my team has headsets, but only two people are speaking. They sound like young kids. One of them is constantly saying \"Connor, check this out\" and \"Connor, follow me\", \"Connor, back me up\", etc. Conner only every grunts in reply.\n\nSo the game is nearly over (it is 190 to 100 or so) and I think most of my team have given up. And then the little mouthy kid is charging the house says this...\n\n\"Connor, you gotta help me, I am in the bathroom\"\n\nMy entire team started laughing.\n", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Hah! That's pretty funny. \n\nI snuck up behind an enemy sniper a while back and he was so intensely focused through his scope that he didn't even notice me. In order to give him an entertaining kill cam I squatted up and down a few times and eventually went prone. Then I used my ACOG scope and shot him in the ass.\n\nI wish I could have seen the kill cam. ", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "http://www.newegg.com/Store/SubCategory.aspx?SubCategory=10&name=Desktop-PCs you could probably find something decent here, or you could ask someone to build you a computer.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Bought it, Steam has convinced me to buy my games now. That being said... Dragon Age was not a game for me, and I could see people justifying piracy still based on wanting to know if a game is worth their money before spending it. ", "score": 99 }, { "body": "I pirated it, played for a few hours and didn't like it an uninstalled it. Not my kind of game, and I am glad I didn't buy it. ", "score": 53 }, { "body": "I bought from Steam after I pirated it. There were a few bugs in the version I was able to get ahold of that were causing graphical hangs and crashes, and I was interested in the story enough that I wanted to find out what happened. \n\nI bought the Deluxe Edition, so I also got to use the DLC that wouldn't have worked on the pirated version. I'm satisfied.\n", "score": 36 }, { "body": "I pirated the game, put one hundred hours into it and promptly forgot about it once finished. However, this thread is reminding me of the quality of DAO and the possible dire straights of PC gaming. So tonight after work, I think I'll go home and buy it off Steam, and then revert to an old save and play the DLC.\n\nThanks for reminding me to act ethically, reddit. Much appreciated.", "score": 22 }, { "body": "I bought it because I support PC developers who make great games. I am kind of surprised to see how many people didn't like the game. I think it is the best RPG to come out since Oblivion. ", "score": 22 }, { "body": "Reasons I did not buy Dragon Age:\n\n* DLC. I don't mind the fact that there was DLC from day one, but there were so many OPTIONS available to me. Do I want to buy the \"digital deluxe\" package for $65? Or do I buy the regular game $50 and get the DLC a la carte? The problem was that, as much as I scoured the website, I could not fine a concise list of what was included in each version and how much it cost. I heard something about people who bought retail getting the first DLC package for free...but only if they bought retail for the first version of the game that shipped...ick. Too many options, not enough information. I didn't know what version to get. If I pirated the game, I suspect that I would be able to install all of the DLC, making this issue moot.\n* Pre-order bonuses on Steam, and Steam-exclusive items. I'm kind of sick of this whole thing. Offering people a 10% discount for pre-ordering or a physical collector's item as a bonus is something I am totally okay with! However, the fact that the game has an item that I will never be able to obtain because I didn't pre-order is kind of a turn-off for me. I'm okay with stuff like Bill's Hat in Team Fortress 2 for people who pre-ordered Team Fortress 2, since it's a cosmetic item that doesn't affect gameplay. However, if I'm getting a different gameplay experience from those who pre-ordered (and I will never have any chance of getting that gameplay experience), it doesn't make me happy. If pirated the game, I suspect that it would be possible to hack items into my inventory, making this issue moot.\n\nIn the end, **I did not pirate the game. However, I did not buy it either**. Had Dragon Age been a game I could just drop $50 on and then be done with it, I would have been glad to do it, even being fully aware that I would have to pay in the future to get expansions and DLC. However, I am very reluctant to pay for this game. I'll probably wait several years for them to release a \"DA:O bundle\" that includes all of the DLC so that I don't have to deal with the mess of figuring out how to buy all of the content.\n\nFor me, money is a non-issue. I usually do what is most convenient. Right now, buying the game leaves me with several issues, noted in the bullet points above, that I could avoid by pirating the game instead.", "score": 19 }, { "body": "I pirated it because there was no demo. I tried it, didn't like it, deleted it. If I had liked it, I would have bought it, just like I did with half a dozen other PC games.\n\nedit: Well, I *sort of* liked it. Enough to play for a couple of hours. It just wasn't worth full price to me. I'll get it later on when the price drops, or if a family member wants to buy me a game for my birthday or something.", "score": 18 }, { "body": "I bought it, though accidentally gifted it to a friend who wasn't interested (thankfully) and that's how I learned about regifting on Steam. I don't really pirate games anymore with 2 exceptions:\n1) It's an old game and the only legit copy is $150 (this is less of a problem since GoG came on the scene.) \nor\n2) I'm interested in some small part of a game but have no real interest in playing it. Example: need to screw with some parts from the engine in Warcraft 3 or trying to remember the character creation system in Arcanum.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I pirated it because I really wanted to play it and had no money. It was the first game I had ever pirated. Then my harddrive outright failed two weeks later.\n\nI don't plan on pirating again, if only to avoid the karmic retribution.\n\nIn my defense, I honestly did and still do plan on buying it when I have the money to spare.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Pirated it to see if I would like it.\nI like it, and bought it.\n\nThe way I see it, EA gained a sale they wouldn't otherwise get.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Can't say I was surprised: [it's #1 on Pirate Bay's PC games.](http://thepiratebay.org/browse/401/0/7)", "score": 8 }, { "body": "I buy my games now. College was a different matter.\n\nHowever, I think the more interesting question is, how many gamers here with regular disposable income still pirate? How many gamers here with careers that involve intellectual property of their own still pirate?", "score": 8 }, { "body": "I pirated it. I played it, beat the game. Thoroughly enjoyed it. Went to Game Stop and bought it. I try before I buy. The fact that games don't have demos nearly enough anymore frankly leads me to pirate to see if the game is really worth the bux out of my paycheck.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I really don't pirate anything anymore. I got to a point where I just thought it was a dick move. People put time and effort into the music/games/movies they make and regardless of whether it's utter crap it's bullshit to just steal it.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I do think that adding \"pre-order only!\" items etc does encourage piracy.\n\nI tried out the game... thought it was awesome and deserving of my money... but then when I saw they were charging for all the DLC it kinda made me want to wait until they put the \"Ultimate Pack\" or something together... so till then I will just play with the 50 other games I got during the steam sale ;-P", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I wanted to buy Dragon Age: Origins, but ended up pirating it for a few reasons:\n\n* First I tried to get it off Steam for about $55 AUD, but my partition where Steam was installed was full (I have since fixed this)\n* My other option was to buy the boxed version in a store so I could install it on another partition, but I refuse to pay the ~$109 AUD RRP.\n\nSo due to a full Steam HDD partition and stupidly high local prices, I pretty much had to pirate it or miss out.\n\nIf there is a new Dragon Age released or a good enough expansion for Origins I will buy it for sure as I very much enjoyed the game and I now have plenty of room for Steam games.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "This thread insinuates that people pirate games as a statement to developers that they're pissed off about something, which is true. My question is, do PC gamers actually think that's an intelligent strategy? Seems like it's backfiring on them now that most developers are switching over to consoles.", "score": 4 }, { "body": ">It looks like BioWare / EA did everything right this time:\n\nYeah, except the whole release debacle in Europe, meaning that the boxed versions weren't available and the download version was actually more expensive than the boxed one.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I pirated the game when it first came out, played it for about 3 hours, and then went out and bought it. First game I can say that I felt worth paying the money for after I played it for a couple hours. I especially love the extra add-ons. I'm currently waiting for more add-ons to come out before I play it through again.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Gotta say, Dragon Age offered great value for money. At full retail price, my first playthrough cost about $.75 per hour. And I haven't even beaten it yet.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Downloaded it a few weeks ago; haven't played it yet.\nI pirate all my PC games and softwares; this one is no different to me", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Pirated it, but fell in love with it causing me to buy it! Had to show my support for a gaming company that did something right!", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I did download a pirated version. Started playing. Really liked it. Completed the game and bought a legit copy. I do this a lot because there are a ton of games out there that I think I'll like, then don't, or vice versa. I didn't expect to enjoy this one as much as I did, so I thought I'd check out the graphics and uninstall it. Once I got hooked, I knew I owed them one.\r\n\r\nI also did this for Bioshock, Fallout 3 and several other games. I don't mind paying for something I enjoy, I'd just like an hour or so to make that determination.\r\n\r\nI would love to install a game from Steam for free, play for a certain length of time, then have it prompt me to pay without making me uninstall a demo and reinstall the retail release and possibly lose my save games, etc. etc. If I'm still playing it after 90 minutes, I'll gladly fork over the price of admission!", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I bought it. The launch day DLC was compelling enough, though I ultimately felt it was pretty weak, after experiencing it. I had played the web stuff enough to unlock a little more DLC and in the end, wanted a smooth, trouble-free install. Having said that it was the 1st and certainly the last game I will spend $65 on. An excellent game, but overpriced a little. I don't anticipate paying for the expansion...", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I bought it on amazon, but since it took around 3 or 4 days before it arrived, I pirated it in the meantime :) Couldn't wait to get to play it", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I downloaded the character creator, and my system cried and it wouldn't load. So I pirated the game to see if it would run. It wouldn't. I then bought my new i7 rig and that day it was on sale at Steam. Yay me. Bought it right up.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Pirated it because of the hype I guess. Noticed that it's shallow but kept playing until I got stuck in Redcliffe because of a bug.\n\nBack to playing Baldur's Gate 2 (which I bought years ago).", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Now that I have a real job and can buy my games I do... my PC games, anyway.\n\nI bought DA:O and beat it after 70 hours or so. I still had more side quests to do but eventually got sick of the whole thing and just wanted to see the ending.\n\n*** SPOILER ***\n\nWhats up with the ending reverting to text mode after the hours and hours of voice acting everywhere else in the game? It felt so cheap after I had invested so much time.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Pirated it, played for maybe 5 to 10 hours before realizing that no matter how awesome a game is I still won't have the time to play it.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I never bought the game. And i never pirated it. I would be more interested in trying the game is steam allowed me to download every game once. For maybe a max time trial of 3 hours. \n\nThen when those 3 hours are over, the game gives you the option to buy it or auto deletes.\n\n", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I have spoken face to face with both my senators' aids on the issue. They were both already quite aware.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I've probably recommended this book on Reddit over 20 times in the past 18 months. David Mitchell is definitely my favorite author.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I am currently halfway through the book - big fan of the Somni chapter w/ the descriptions of a corpocracy world.. \n\nI think I HAVE to read Mitchell's other works after this, such beautiful writing.. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Indeed, it was one of the more engaging books I've read in recent years. I was kinda saddened that some of the stories weren't continued farther in some fashion but for what the book was doing, it did fantastically!\n\nI actually keep an eye out for used copies at book sales/stores when I'm out and about. That way if I ever run into anyone I think might like it, I can just give them a copy.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "It's not common for people to bitch at a newb, as long as the newb learns a bit as he or she plays.\n\nIt is a little annoying when someone goes sniper when there's already 3, or goes engy and never builds a teleporter even after a bunch of requests.\n\nMy advice is to make sure you have a mic, so if someone tells you something, you can respond (either to confirm something or ask them what to do).", "score": 15 }, { "body": "I've been playing since TF2 came out, all public servers, and very rarely hear anyone really bitch at a newb. TF2 players generally seem to be more interested in having a good time than in demanding perfection (like in, say, Counterstrike). I wouldn't worry too much about it (but the reddit servers are good). ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I play on Reloaded and, more recently, Midwest (Chicago). These servers don't usually tolerate rudeness towards new players and the regular players are generally pretty friendly folks. Just let us know that you're new so that nobody is under any misconceptions while we play. If you haven't already, definitely check out /r/NewToTF2 (link in the sidebar to the right) where you'll find lots of excellent information and advice for new players just starting out.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Now is a great time to get in. There are a ton of new players due to the recent update/free weekend, so you won't stand out too much.\n\nIn the last week I've had to give out a few instructions (but not with spite, of course) including \"right click to deploy your ubercharge\" and \"you have to keep healing the guy for the ubercharge to work\"\n\nSometimes even seasoned players (me) will play dumb, too - usually when I'm trying to get achievements.\n\nThere are going to be asshole players who rage about newbs, but I'll just tell my room-mate to shut up.\n\nAnyway, don't worry about it. It takes a while to get a sense for what you \"should\" be doing, but the game is designed so that, with some thought, you should be able to figure it out.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "/r/atheism\n\nIt's basically \"lol we're awesome lol christians r stupid lol religion is bad\" over and over again.", "score": 16 }, { "body": "/r/circlejerk- It was boring\n\n/r/DAE- see /r/circlejerk\n\n/r/mensrights- I cared about the causes, hated the sexism\n\n/r/libertarian- Some of those people are way off their rockers/are way to scared of the government. It got annoying wanting to debate them, and then getting down voted a million times for telling them to chill. \n\n\nIm not an Atheist, but I actually do like /r/atheism despite the flack it gets. I don't see those people so much as bashing regular religious people as they are bashing religion/fundies. Im sure every member of /r/atheism has a loved one that subscribes to a religion. I feel like the issues are very relevant to the state America is in right now, and given the power that churches have over the country, it's good to make sure I can intellectually keep up with what is going on. \n", "score": 8 }, { "body": "[/r/libertarian](http://www.reddit.com/r/libertarian) - even more irritating than r/atheism or r/politics, and without the \"I semi-agree with you\" factor. I expected semi-intelligence, what I got was Andrew Ryan, v.hobo.\n\nI won't unsub from [/r/mensrights](http://www.reddit.com/r/mensrights) because I like hurting myself.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "/r/relationship_advice\r\n\r\nI subscribed for a couple weeks to check it out, but it was just the same thing over and over again. The really interesting ones normally end up on AskReddit anyway.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "In a word: evolving. Many/most 2009 libertarians either are, or will eventually be against IP as they read more. \n\nJeff Tucker's [write-up about Against Intellectual Monopoly](http://mises.org/story/3298) covers all the bases pretty well as a really short overview. \n\nStephan Kinsella has a lot of good essays out there. The two best are probably his recent [Intellectual Property and Libertarianism](http://mises.org/daily/3863) and [The Case Against IP: A Concise Guide](http://mises.org/daily/3682)\n\nThere is also a piece up today that I haven't read yet. The comment section is active for this one though. They'll be some good discussion in there, no doubt. Kinsella always responds in is entries. [Intellectual Property and the Structure of Human Action](http://blog.mises.org/archives/011383.asp)", "score": 8 }, { "body": "No such thing. It's a privilege that is granted by government, that I only support if it is extremely limited.\n\n30 years max, and only if the content is totally unencrypted (if you opt for encryption, you get no copyright at all). Lobbying for copyright extension would be punishable as a crime against humanity and treason.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "On the free market, there would therefore be no such thing as patents. There would, however, be copyright for any inventor or creator who made use of it, and this copyright would be per­petual, not limited to a certain number of years. Obviously, to be fully the property of an individual, a good has to be perma­nently and perpetually the property of the man and his heirs and assigns. If the State decrees that a man’s property ceases at a cer­tain date, this means that the State is the real owner and that it simply grants the man use of the property for a certain period of time.\r\n\r\nhttp://mises.org/rothbard/mes/chap10e.asp#7._Patents_Copyrights\r\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "There's an interesting conflict here that I just thought of recently. \n\nOne of the most necessary and powerful libertarian arguments against government regulation in things such as drug testing and food safety is that better job can be done by private ratings organizations that inform the public about the quality of various goods and services. \n\nHowever, that's entirely intellectual property. There's no market incentive for people to do the expensive and time consuming research needed for this vital function unless they can recoup the investment by selling the information. \n\nBut information wants to be free. \n\nI think as a *practical* matter there's no way to be a non-utopian libertarian without believing in at least a limited form of copyright. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I'm Christian. On reddit. On facebook. I couldn't care less about most of the silly groups on facebook.\n\nHowever, your failure to choose correctly from their/there/they're pisses me off.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "It would be within your rights to tell her, \"I understand it's over, but please help me move on by explaining more about what you meant when you said you're not in love with me anymore.\"\n\nIn my opinion, that means she neither feels the passion/infatuation of a new relationship nor the fondness and commitment of enduring love.\n", "score": 26 }, { "body": "Well, it has been an on/off relationship fer 5 years. dat's a long time. yonder is a saying, \"Shit er git off da pot.\" It luks lik she made her decision ta end it entarly.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I had a girlfriend for a very intense year and a half and she ended it by telling me she \"didn't love me anymore.\" She claimed she still loved me as a person, but that romantic feelings weren't there anymore. Over the previous month, I had that feeling you talked about where I knew what she was going to say. Everything was fine, but we were going to end it in a few months because of school, so she started repeatedly being \"too busy\" to see me about a month before she told me she didn't love me anymore.\r\n\r\nWhat I believe probably happened is that after the period of intense happiness, she realized continuing the relationship would increase pain when it ended, so she started to end it early on her terms. While she probably did cease to care about me as much, I think she still loved me at least a little bit when she ended it because she didn't see anyone else afterwards. (Most likely) She had complex reasons she wanted to end it when she did, but wanted to keep it simple by merely stating she didn't love me.\r\n\r\nI feel like this is what happened to you. She probably wants to end it for some reasons you probably know, other than feelings. Instead of telling you the complex reasons, she's trying to \"release\" you by saying she doesn't love you anymore. It's sort of like in movies where a girl needs to free her horse, but the horse won't leave, so the girl, crying, says \"Just leave, damn you! Can't you see no one here loves you?\"\r\n\r\ntl;dr She probably still loves you, but is trying to make the break as clean as possible. Give her her space because most contact will just make things messy.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Well, the novelty account actually has good advice.\n\nThe not in love with you bit could mean many things, but it probably means she's not in love with you any more. \n\nI know you feel owed an explanation. However, if you call her to ask why, it will end with you feeling far more shitty than you do now. If, in like three months, you are still completely unable to even begin to move on because of the ambiguity of the phrase, you could consider pressing for more information. But I think most people would advise against it.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "There are some details about your relationship that would be helpful to know, but this is my hunch (as a 32yo woman):\n\n5 years is a long time to be off/on dating.\nObviously, I don't know her, what she wanted, or what the understanding was between the two of you. Were it me, I'd figure if the relationship hadn't grown into something more serious in 5 years, it wasn't going to.\n\nSometimes saying \"I'm not in love with you anymore\" is a way to make the severance of the relationship feel real (even when there are still feelings there)...in essence forcing enough emotional distance from the other person to do what you've got to do (end the relationship).", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I'm wondering why you guys have been \"on and off\" in the past? Whose choices have those times been, and what were the reasons given? Those answers may shed some light on this time.\nThat being said, I'm sorry for your pain. It sucks to love someone and have them not feel the way you do. :(", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "This book reminded me more of *Storm of the Century* than anything else.\n\n\nI don't know what it is, but occasionally King will get it in his head that he needs to reiterate that small towns are actually just as full of assholes as large towns(maybe to balance out the love that Small Town USA gets everywhere else). ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Yep, I just finished it yesterday myself (on audiobook.. 37 hours!) and quite enjoyed it. I was most impressed with the fact that 1) the multitude of characters were distinct and memorable, which is hugely important in a book like this, and 2) the pace never slowed down. \n\nIt was always interesting, never dragged, and while there is obviously a mysterious \"force\" at work in putting the dome in place, most of the story is about the way different people acted as soon as they were cut off. When you're actually getting angry at characters for their actions (or lack thereof) you know it's good writing.\n\nI had been wary of King's extra large novels in the past but after reading IT and Under the Dome, I think I'm finally ready to tackle The Stand.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I have to disagree. I read it in a few days, just so that I wouldn't have to lug it on the plane (its silly huge) and i felt disappointed. The resolution was too easy for me, sort of like an ending of the television show \"Are you afraid of the dark\" if you are young enough to know that show.\n\nAlso the characterization of the Rennie and his crew wasn't super subtle. King basically had all of his bad guys be republicans, and the more republican characters were, the more BAD they were.\n\nIt WAS an engrossing story, and just like the Stand I was happy i read it. But i guess it comes back to the issue i have with steven king, is that with all of these long form stories he tells, he gets away from the lovely prose he can make (see ANY of his short stories) and cheapens himself to say alot more.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I would recommend books. The web is a great rescource but its so full of \"25 amazing illustration tutorial\" websites that at times it feels like a side-bar in Cosmopolitan.\n\nIf theres a specific area of design that you are interested in I would recommend a few.\n\nBasically, are you more interested in graphic design, industrial design, interior design, architecture, etc. ?\n\n\n", "score": 5 } ]

[ { "body": "When Simba and Nala share a \"lick\" when Timon and Pumba are singing \"Can you feel the love tonight?\" in *The Lion King*....it left me all *tingly*... I was little okay... don't freakin' judge me.... (*weeps softly*)", "score": 14 }, { "body": "When Sally the Porsche 911 Carrera accidentally reveals to Lightning McQueen that she has pinstripes under her rear spoiler. HAWT!", "score": 8 }, { "body": "The Secretary. All of it. Some people don't go for it and don't understand, but jesus christ ... it's damn hot.", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "There were other avatars at the base, eg. those playing basketball. I think the one holding to gun was one of those, wearing the same general issue khakis as Norm was wearing. The voiceover said that only a few were selected to stay. It makes sense that other avatar drivers would have been chosen.", "score": 20 }, { "body": "My answers/agreement on the answer to this question is elsewhere in this thread, but I would like to mention how much it must *suck* to be Norman at this point. All the advanced training, knowledge and experience he has for being an Avatar, and now he's stuck on Pandora the rest of his life as a puny little human in an air mask. \n\nPoor little Norman.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Remember, we were only following one team of Avatars. There were more. In the beginning (about 10 minutes in), we see Grace and another Avatar driver getting out of their pods, while there are three active pods in the background. We see an asian woman get out of one of the pods as Norm demonstrates his knowledge of the Na'vi language. ", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "You might want to check out [Sophie's World by Jostein Gaarder](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sophie's_world)", "score": 26 }, { "body": "The 'introducing' series is also to be highly recommended.\n\nhttp://www.iconbooks.co.uk/intro.cfm\n\nEach book covers one central theme and gives a general overview of the ideas involved and the history thereof. They're a really great starting point. ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "* [*The Story of Philosophy* by Will Durant](http://www.amazon.com/Story-Philosophy-Opinions-Greatest-Philosophers/dp/0671739166?tag=darklegions-20)", "score": 6 }, { "body": "[Plato and a Platypus Walk Into a Bar](http://www.amazon.com/Plato-Platypus-Walk-into-Understanding/dp/081091493X). It's a joke book.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Very Short Introductions books from Oxford University Press.\n\nhttp://ukcatalogue.oup.com/category/academic/series/general/vsi.do\n\nI can personally recommend the books on Atheism, Existentialism and Hegel.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Run around in front of the person, scouring the ground and yelling \"Your soul! Your soul!\" Pretend to find it, scoop it up and shove your hands into the person's nostrils. After making a big show of shoving every last bit of soul back into the person's nose, tell them they owe you and to never forget what you've done for them.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "You need to raise both hands above your head (crazy preacher style) and shout\n\n\"Nomsha Domola\"\n\nWhen they ask say it means \"Let the demons in\" and explain that in your religion you believe when someone sneezes their soul actually shakes loose and in that instance their bodies can be possessed.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Salute!\n\nPronounced with an Italian accent... \"SAH-looot!\"\n\nMy family isn't a good representation of Italians, must of the cultural traits that remain are butchered beyond recognition...if real Italians don't do this, I'd be curious to learn the proper way.\n\n*Edit: Just read that you want English-language, sorry!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "\"Nice catch!\" (if sneezing into their hand) or \"Spray the other way!\" or \"Get any on you?\".. although I usually say that after someone burps\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I sing 'Bless you my son, for you have sneeee-eeee-eeeezed' in a Gregorian Monk styleee.\n\nOcassionally anyway...\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "You COULD just change your own viewpoint on this too. You are saying \"bless you\" - so essentially, YOU are giving your OWN good blessings on the person who sneezed. Since you don't believe in a higher power, that makes YOU the highest power in your own life. So not \"God bless you\", but just \"bless you\". \n\nAnd you can explain it that way too when anyone accuses you of being a hypocrite by saying that. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "The motorboat cited ran on alternative fuel, experienced mechanical problems, and seems to have often *crashed into other boats*.\r\n\r\nI'm thinking a motorboat could circumnavigate the globe faster, just not *that one* (or at least that crew).", "score": 41 }, { "body": "I would be interested to see how the two routes taken but each boat compare to each other. Technically if i were to leave from Tasmania head south sail around Antarctica staying as close to the icepack as possible before heading north back to Tasmania i will have technically \"Circumnavigated\" the globe (also i will have mostly likely died in the south sea).", "score": 10 }, { "body": "I read the second reference as if the guy who did it was named \"Single Handedly\" which let's face it is a bad ass name.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Is your fiancee Satan, or related to Satan? Dogs know these things. \n \nHave her call the dog over for treats whenever she is at the house. She should give it to him after making him sit, or whatever trick he likes. \nAlso have her feed him when it's time to eat. \nIf he doesn't have a crate, try using a crate with him. My dog used to get very stressed out when her bed was out in the open and barked a lot more, then I got a crate for her and she doesn't bark nearly as much. \nTake him to the vet, too. They might be able to explain what's going on - could be a sight or other health problem.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Ok, first of all consult a vet. Sometimes dogs develop quirky bad behaviors and anxiety when something is wrong, they can't say \"hey dad I have a migraine!\" Some dogs, like people, may also develop anxieties related to mild dementia, so it might be good to talk to a vet about whether that is the case and if the vet thinks the problem needs to be addressed (or medicated.)\n\nThis is going to be long, because anxiety and agitation are not quick fix problems. You might want a trainer, but beware many people who call themselves trainers are going to make this problem much worse. \n\nBeyond the medical, this dog probably needs some classical conditioning, first some questions\n\n1. How does he do with your fiance's dog? \n\n2. Did this problem start the first time he met your fiance? Was it sudden? Can you trace it to a single event? For example did he meet her in a thunderstorm? Also did anything change around the time he developed the other phobias?\n\n3. How often does the dog meet new people? Does he have this problem with any of them? Is there any commonality between people that he gets agitated around?\n\n4. Is there *anything* at all that stands out about your fiance that you think might be the problem?\n\n5. What are your dog's motivators? Does he go nuts for a ball? Is it basically food? Rubs? (I know you stated below that bacon has not fixed the problem, but I suspect you are expecting too much too fast.)\n\n6. What training methods have you used? Do you or how do you discipline or reward your dog? How have you addressed these issues? Do you try to comfort him when he is stressed about the storm? When he is stressed about your fiance? Do you yell at him?\n\n\nThe method getting over all of these fears is setting your dog up to succeed, and patience. Don't expect that any method is going to let your fiance plop herself right down next to the dog tomorrow and have him wag his tail. Think - how can I set my dog up to be near my fiance but not miserable?\n\nYou'll need a reward marker. That's a noise (word or click) that tells the dog that what he is doing *right now* is good (timing is important.) A clicker is by far the best, but \"Yep!\" or \"Yes\" can work too. \"Good\" is ok, but it's best to have a word that the dog does not hear all the time so he knows that everytime he hears it it means he is getting a treat. (He'll figure it out if you need to use \"good\".) Teach him what the marker means first by saying the word then giving a treat until he gets \"Yep!\" means treat - then use it to tell him when he is performing his tricks correctly. (\"Sit.\",\"Yep!\" give a treat.) Teach him using things he already knows that \"Yep!\" means he is doing something right. Always always give a treat after your reward word/click - even if you click by accident. You want the association between the marker and the reward to remain high.\n\nMost likely you'll want to start outside. Have her stay far enough away that your pup is not overly concerned and make the experience rewarding. You want to reward your pup if he shows any [communication](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MgnLgHFRJu4) towards your fiance. [Here](http://www.canis.no/rugaas/onearticle.php?artid=1) is another summary of doggy signals. You should also teach him the \"look at that!\" game - or \"look at Jane!\" Basically your dog should learn that \"look at Jane!\" means he is supposed to look at Jane and then \"click\" then he looks back to you for the reward. Some people start with a can of food on the ground or something neutral - since my dog already was fixated on what scared him I just gave the command and then rewarded him when he did what he was going to do anyway. He pretty quickly learned that \"look at that!\" meant that if he looked and looked away he'd get a treat. \n\nWhen your dog is very comfortable playing this game at 50 feet move to 40. Then 30, 25, ... \n\nLimit the contact your dog has with your fiance where he is not \"set up to succeed\". Make sessions short and don't feel the need to progress too quickly. One panic after a productive session might undue the whole thing. Try to get your fiance to act calm, not to stare at the dog and to try to behave like the girl in the kikopup video above.\n\nIn your home get your dog a mat and teach him that good things happen when he is on the mat and your fiance is over. Have her at a far enough distance that he notices her but can be calm. Reward him when he lies down on his own (particularly for a relaxed down rather than sphinx, but take what you get at first.) Every so often throw a treat so he has to get up and get it then reward him for lying down again. He learns \"ok, this is what I am supposed to do when Jane is here, and when I do it good things happen.\"\n\nEventually you'll move up to he flicking treats at him and walking away. and then her giving him commands and treating herself. You can of course use toys as reinforcers too.\n\nNever yell at your dog for his agitated behavior but don't coddle it either. He will take yelling as a cue that you are upset to - therefore Jane is even more upsetting and unpleasant than he thought! He'll take coddling as praise. Ignore bad behavior - or redirect it with a command/trick. \"Sit!\" \n\nYou definitely want to make a safe spot where the storm is as muffled as possible and bring the dog there to eat/play when there is no storm (so he does not develop a negative association with it). Try to entertain your dog as much as possible during the storm. You can try some CDs containing storm sounds to 'set the dog up to succeed' - but some dogs just don't care. \n\nThe strategy really needs to be tuned to the dog. I know one case of a storm phobic and ball obsessed dog. The ball was hidden from the dog and only came out during the storm. Problem solved! Unfortunately few cases are *quite* that easy. Storm phobias are often medicated because they can be persistent. [Debbie Jacobs](http://www.fearfuldogs.com/stormphobias.html) talks about some of the treatments. \n\nYou could also try buying a \"manners minder\", it's a treat dispenser that can be controlled by remote - or can be put on autodispense used [here](http://www.askdryin.com/dog_movies.php?mov=movies/57hi.mov&id=134&act=play) for a dog who does not like hair dryers.\n\n\n***\n\nExtra credit: teach \"go home\". \"Go home\" means that wherever he is he runs to his mat and lies down. I did this by starting with him on the mat and saying \"go home down!\" and then removing the down. Then you take a step away and wait to reward him until he figures out that he has to be on the mat. Then move further away and try it. My dog loves this command because I reward it with his dinner. This is convenient for me - if I am trying to grind coffee and it's scaring my dog I can tell him \"go home!\" Likewise, if your fiance is over and he is starting to look stressed \"go home!\" will give him a break.\n\n\n\n\n", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I was working as a waiter in a nice restaurant where, as is the case in most restaurants, we stole quite a bit of food. Anyway they had this awesome cheesecake that we were told we were absolutely not allowed to eat, as it was quite expensive. They counted every piece meticulously. Anyway the temptation became too great, and one day on a lunch shift I took a huge bite of a piece with my hands and then quickly put it back in the desert case. It became a major scandal, as the cooks put a huge sign saying \"Pig\" next to the piece, and an investigation began. Afraid of getting caught, I started a \"fat busboy\" theory, that pinned the whole thing on this chubby kid who no one really liked who was also a nephew of the owner. Anyway the next day we had a meeting, and we were all told the guilty party had one last chance to confess. No one said a word. They then explained to us that they had recently installed surveillance cameras in the kitchen because so much steak had been disappearing, and sure enough, they played the tape of me stuffing the cheesecake in my fat mouth in front of everybody..I was publicly humiliated.. I still laugh about it.. ", "score": 24 }, { "body": "We were at my house smoking weed for one of the first times. Got rrrrealy high.\nMy parents came home at noon (\"they don't usually come home for lunch! shit!\")\n\nMy dad came straight down to the basement. \"have you guys been smoking pot?!\"\n\nI shook my head no with the most serious face I could muster\n\nLittle did I know my friend was behind me, nodding yes. With the most cookie-eating-est grin on his face.", "score": 23 }, { "body": "I was 14 and decided to borrow my Dad's car. Rolled it silently out of the driveway, started it up, drove around for a few hours with friends. Was very careful to put it back exactly where he left it. Next day he asks me if I have anything to tell him. I say no, what do you mean? He says- Next time your gonna steal my car, remember to turn down the volume and put the radio station back...", "score": 8 }, { "body": "When I was 9 or so, there was an ACME supermarket down the street from my house that burned to the ground. Being the young, attention craver that I am I told everyone in my class that my dad was inside when it burned down and had broken his leg. One of the kids told their mom and that mom bought my family flowers and I think like a fruit basket. Needless to say my father was fine and was at work (in a different town) when this happened. I felt so miserable and one of my brothers still teases me about it. Actually he's a redditor so I hope he doesn't read this.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "When I was 15, I came home one night to find my pipe (made from old metal guitar patchcord ends) set out on my computer desk along with other things my mom had found in my pockets while doing laundry. Being a stupid kid, I figured I could bullshit my way out of this disaster.\n\nI ended up spitting out this novel of a story about how I was holding it for a friend who was in shit at school, and that I don't even smoke pot or know what it looks like otherwise.\n\n\nafter I'm finished, she says *\"huh. It's a hookah pipe? I thought it was a bicycle tool.\"*\n\n\n\n\n", "score": 8 }, { "body": "In a similar vein as the OP, when I was maybe 7 or so, I had strep throat. I was old enough to be able to take oral antibiotics instead of getting a shot, but the medicine was this nasty fake-bubblegum-flavored liquid that I hated.\n\nAfter a few days my fever went away and my throat started to feel better, so I just started measuring out my daily dose of antibiotic and pouring it down the sink drain. Well, a few days of that and my fever was back. My mom told me that I needed to go back to the doctor since the medicine wasn't working, and that I might have to get a shot, so I confessed.\n\nI wonder if I would have done things differently if anyone had explained at least the basics of antibacterial resistance to me? As it was, I really only thought of medicine from the perspective of symptom control.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I'm not sure I was caught, but the lie was such that any reasonable person could see through it, and even the naive guy in this case might qualify, at least sometimes.\n\nI was IM'ing my wife, talking about this guy (call him Mike), who happened to be a large fellow. He claimed to be on a diet and \"working out\", but for lunch one day he'd had a large Papa John's cheese pizza AND a 2L of Coke, *all... by... himself*. \n\nI told her that this guy was so full of shit if he thought he'd be losing weight that way, and when does he find the time to work out, anyway?? Except... I didn't realize... that I'd inadvertently typed that message *into the chat window where I was talking with Mike about work*...\n\n\"Oops!\" I IM'd him, told him sorry, I was typing to my wife about this guy at *her* office who's a slacker, y'know, yeah... umm... yeahhhhh... \n\nFortunately I hadn't mentioned the pizza in the missent IM, only Mike, so there wasn't a *direct* correlation. After that little *ha ha* moment with Mike, we went back to work; I figured saying more would just be shoving my foot further in my mouth.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "this isn't the best but it's the most memorable because it taught me about lying.\n\nI was getting an allowance when I was about 9 and usually it was my dad who would give it to me. Well my dad was leaving for a business trip on the day that I normally received my allowance so he gave it to me the day before. The next day my mother approached me and asked if I was still waiting on my allowance...and I was like \"hmm their lack of communication could play out very well!\" so I said yes. I received 30 from my dad and my mom for a total of $60 all for my own little 9 year old self.\n\nI got busted when my dad got back though and had to give $30 back. I felt really bad about lying to begin with and it was a relief when they confronted me about it...I haven't lied since. lol. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "My senior year of high school a couple of my friends were dating. The guy was getting sick of the girl after a year or so (and rightfully so, she was UNBEARABLE in relationships), so he was planning on dumping her. Before he could do it, she told him she had terminal stomach cancer. He was (is) such a nice guy, he decided not to dump her and they bonded again over her soon to be death. She kept up the charade pretty well for a couple of months because she actually had stomach issues, but obviously not cancer. She would call him on her cell phone from the \"hospital\" all the time, take pills in front of him, make up hospital stories about chemo. None of the rest of our group knew about any of this at first, and it slowly got out as she \"confided\" in people about her \"disease\". Our group of friends divided into people who believed her and people who did not. One of the girls on my side, the you're a fucking liar side, went to the guy and said look, she's supposedly doing heavy chemo, yet she's never sick, she's not losing weight or hair, she never misses school, and her parents haven't said anything. The guy was already starting to think it was bullshit and people noticing pushed him over the edge. He had his dad write an email to her parents, offering condolences about their daughter's illness and offering help in their time of need. 15 minutes later, the girl called him sobbing, saying it was all a lie and he needed to tell her parents he made it up because they want to send her to therapy. He told her have a nice life and hung up. Even after this, the girls that believed her stuck to her side and were mad that we didn't support her. This is why I stopped talking to every single person from high school upon graduation.\n\ntl;dr: In HS, girl told guy she had terminal cancer so he wouldn't dump her guy figured it out and outed her lie to her parents. Girl went to therapy for a longgggggg time.\n\nEDIT: Went to his wedding last summer, he found a non-psycho. Girl is still psycho, only updates her FB when she has a boyfriend. Happy ending. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "When I was 19 I had several encounters with the police. One night when going to see a Nightmare on Elm street me and my friend where smoking out in the parking lot. Sure enough a cop comes walking up and gets a contact high immediately after the window is rolled down. I was a passenger with a friend whom I had been arrested with for minor things several times. Seeing as I had no ID on me I decided to give a false name and try to get out of trouble. The police arrested us and took us in to book us. I stuck with my story and was fingerprinted and booked under this false name. My friends mom came and bailed us out and the name I used was someone whom we knew so when I came waliking out of the jail she was shocked to say the least but didnt say anything until we left when she wanted to know what I was going to do when I had to be in court on the following monday. I replied I didnt need to go the other guy did. Fast forward 8 years later I apply for a position with the government that involves a background check and fingerprints. I am approved for the job until my prints come back under another name. They wanted me to explain. Needless to say I did not get the job.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "http://www.ishkur.com/samples/\n\nsearchable database of 7500+ user-submitted samples with the songs that use them.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "http://www.synthmania.com/Famous%20Sounds.htm\n\nNot strictly samples though, also includes general sounds.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "You could get all 25 volumes of [Ultimate Breaks and Beats](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ultimate_Breaks_and_Beats), that ought to get you started.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "you have all those insurances via COBRA assuming you purchase it.\n\nIf I were you I would get all dental work done now though. As well as any lingering health probs.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I was in the bathroom of a McDonalds taking a leak when Bill Murray came in. I was all flustered when I first saw him. He pulled out his thing and started peeing in circles on the floor. He piled up toilette paper in the middle of the pee circles and lit it on fire. On his way out he looked me dead in the eye and said *\"nobody will ever believe you\"*.", "score": 36 }, { "body": "I stood next to Johnny Depp once at a urinal in a fancy hotel...i aske dhim if he was the guy wh played Captain Jack Sparrow. He said, \"Yes!\" I than asked, \"Do you wanna sword fight?\"", "score": 13 }, { "body": "1. Mitch Hedberg at this crappy comedy club in Seattle. 2. Norm McDonald on the roof of a parking garage.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Keanu Reaves. We were both leaving the movie *Vicky Cristina Barcelona* at the Arclight in Hollywood. He was wearing a motorcycle helmet.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I said so in the other thread, but I peed next to Jerry Stiller at the NYC \"Tropic Thunder\" premiere. \n\nBut I forgot about the time I peed next to Paul Simon when I was a lad. I didn't really care who he was at the time, but he was singing to himself.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "David Cross: True.\n\nWe were on the same flight arriving from Miami and both raced to the bathroom upon taxiing. Didn't want to say anything mid-leak, but during the hand washing phase I mentioned how big a fan of his I am. He gave a needlessly intricate bow and was on his way.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Nicolas Minassian - Racecar driver - one of the factory Peugeot 908 HDI drivers.\n\nHe also said that he likes my Volvo (:", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "1. The Time Lords actually had the ability to regenerate all they wanted at first, but realized after a while that ALL things should come to an end...even themselves...and added the limitation. Thus its not out of the realm of possibility to go farther.\n\n2. There is NO WAY, they would end the show. With the huge following it has, they WILL write in a way to keep things going. \n", "score": 31 }, { "body": "Time Lords have managed to come back via various means even past the 12 regenerations, the master is a good example. ", "score": 10 }, { "body": "Even if the pseudo-regeneration in the middle of Tennant's run is counted I believe that's only 11 regenerations used. 1 to 2, 2 to 3, 3 to 4, 4 to 5, 5 to 6, 6 to 7, 7 to 8, 8 to 9, 9 to 10, 10 to .. 10, 10 to 11. I doubt any of the psuedo regenerations will be counted, however, so that leaves us with 10 regenerations. \n\nEven at the 12th regeneration mark I'm sure they'll come up with something if there's still demand for the show. The master had his regenerations reset, after all, and Rassilon might have an unlimited number of regenerations/immortality to use. The Doctor will do some Doctor-y stuff and earn more regenerations.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I think The Master passed the 12 regeneration limit a few times. Then again, he keeps himself going by sucking the life-force(s) out of anything/everything he can.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "IIRC, the Time Lord Council offered the Master a new set of regenerations in exchange for his help. So the 12 regenerations was an imposed limit, rather than a biological limit.\n\nSpeaking of which, I wish they'd stop \"cheating\" to bring the Master back from death and near death....", "score": 3 }, { "body": "There are TWO regenerations left. We're on the 11th Doctor, but we started counting at \"1\". The regeneration of the 10th Doctor to the 11th was the Doctor's 10th regeneration:\n\n\n1st Doctor\n\nRegeneration 1\n\n2nd Doctor\n\nRegeneration 2\n\n3rd Doctor\n\nRegeneration 3\n\n4th Doctor \n\nRegeneration 4\n\n5th Doctor\n\nRegeneration 5\n\n6th Doctor\n\nRegeneration 6\n\n7th Doctor\n\nRegeneration 7\n\n8th Doctor \n\nRegeneration 8\n\n9th Doctor \n\nRegeneration 9\n\n10th Doctor\n\n**Regeneration 10**\n\n**11th Doctor** *<-- YOU ARE HERE*\n\nRegeneration 11\n\n12th Doctor\n\nRegeneration 12\n\n13th Doctor\n\n[Theoretical end of the regeneration sequence]", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "finally got around to listening to the shins \"Wincing The Night Away\" today at work. pretty solid i must admit.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Bear in mind that you can still upload a beheading to youtube with impunity as long as you tag it nsfw. So basically, America, you prudes.", "score": 99 }, { "body": "HAHA! I FOUND ONE!\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TiprujMDE3c\n\n**EDIT**: EXTREMELY NSFW\n\n**EDIT2**: OMG THERE IS AN OCTOPUS COMING OUT OF HER VAGINA\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/user/w0lpertinger#p/u/1/eFe7oK7fkDw", "score": 42 }, { "body": "[This must be how Youtube's staff feels](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gQ4umA0Mnk#t=1m40s), going into work today.", "score": 31 }, { "body": "I searched lukewes123 by accident and [found a couple weird kids telling youtube they're going to destroy them.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dovd3CBnhtU)\n\nHeh.", "score": 15 }, { "body": "> Yep, just like they promised, youtube is now being flooded with adult videos disguised as disney pop-stars and cartoons \n\nWhy?? Any context? What provoked them to do this?\n\nEDIT: Look maw, I used [the google!](http://www.npr.org/blogs/alltechconsidered/2010/01/youtube_porn_4chan_lukeywes1234.html)", "score": 15 }, { "body": "[I feel so dirty watching that on youtube.](http://imgur.com/PEQVv)\n\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=by2TTJ4VveA\n\nProTip: Search for every meme name you can think of.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "[Here's](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0ZFqcoUKHg) a good one. You got to wait til 00:58. The reporter on the bbc got trolled \"I'm 12 y/o what is this\"?", "score": 10 }, { "body": "http://imgur.com/N4xDc\n\nNSFW in the head-inside-vagina sense. She also accepts a foot and a water bottle with apparent ease.\n\nIt's all from [this video](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NyR2YAkEVhM), which cuts between \"Party in the USA\" and exreme porn. \n\n* a girl mutilating a penis by shoving some sort of wedge into the opening\n\n* a goatse-worthy guy jumping around while gaping his ass enough that a large orange could fit inside the black hole that is visible\n\n* the video from meatspin.com (here is what I hope is an unnecessary \"NSFW\" label)\n\n* a woman being fucked, but she has an extremely large, extremely swollen, extremely hairy vagina (bonus = clit large enough to nearly label her a hermaphrodite).\n\n* A girl getting what looks like eels funneled into her ass\n\n* A girl who is able to fit both of her hands into her mouth while barfing into and around a silver bowl\n\n\n", "score": 9 }, { "body": "HEY BOYS AND GIRLS!!!\n\n***STOP POSTING LINKS!!!***\n\nEvery one that gets posted here gets an immediate removal. See how long they're lasting? This only works if it's slipped in secret like. \n\n***IF YOU FIND ONE, JUST KEEP IT TO YOURSELF***\n\nEven a screenshot makes the vid searchable.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "although the vids are private, the thumbpics should still freak some kids out. \r\nhttp://www.youtube.com/results?uploaded=d&search_query=miley+cyrus+jonas+brothers&search_type=videos&suggested_categories=10%2C24%2C23&uni=3&search_sort=video_date_uploaded", "score": 5 }, { "body": ">Please do NOT post the links to the videos here, I know its tempting and I did so myself a few times, but as some of you mentioned, posting links here only helps YT trackdown the videos and remove them.\n\nAt first my reaction to your comment was \"why should I fucking care if it helps google? Is reddit now a sub department of 4chan?\"\n\nBut then I read [this](http://www.npr.org/blogs/alltechconsidered/2010/01/youtube_porn_4chan_lukeywes1234.html) (thanks to jerrygofixit). It explains that they are doing it in retaliation for canceling the account of a kid who was posting some videos on youtube. At least they have some reason and I apreciate that they remind the big players like Google/Youtube that if they want to be dicks there is lot of people who can be dicks to on the internets.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Just thought i'd mention that reddit is not 4chan, but too many people don't care so go ahead and post whatever this stupid shit is anyway", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Found one\nhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X3-f8w55sBY\n\nEdit: he also posted a leaked twilight 3 teaser:\nhttp://www.youtube.com/profile?user=fatreggin#p/u/0/-BS-N9YBSVI\n", "score": 4 }, { "body": "\"That defeats the purpose\"\n\nI'm not completely against this as I like a stunt as much as the next person, but I was left wondering exactly what is the purpose. To expose children looking for disney movies on youtube to porn???\n\nWhat's the motive or so called purpose?", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I love lush and use a lot of their products - my favorites currently are Skin Nanny and Lip Service but I don't think they are vegan (I'm only a vegetarian) and that is girly stuff anyway ;)\n\nHave you tried lush deodorants? I'm currently using Aromarant and I like it but it's not that strong (and no anti-perspirant since they don't make that kind of crap):\nhttp://www.lushusa.com/shop/products/body/deodorants/aromarant\n\nThey have others too, you might want to try http://www.lushusa.com/shop/products/body/deodorants/the-greeench or http://www.lushusa.com/shop/products/body/deodorants/aromaco because they absorb excessive moisture. \n\nAll 3 of them are vegan.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "The Co-operative's shampoo, conditioner and deodorant are vegan (no animal products or testing). That's if you live in the UK.\n\nEDIT: I should add, they're unisex and only lightly scented. The smell and mark-up of Lush products drives me mad.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Listen to me, bro, I went through this. She cannot take the kids. My sons mom tried to do the same shit. I stopped her in her tracks and got practically everything I wanted as far as custody. Take her to court. \n\nIf you like, send me a private message and I'll give you my phone number. I would be happy to tell you about my experience. ", "score": 5 } ]

[ { "body": "awesome idea.\n\nive been watching HDADD.com, and man the internet is full of things to get high to and enjoy", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Rape is generally not about sexual gratification, it is about anger, violence and aggression that happens to express itself sexually. So I would guess that the incidence of rape is likely the same across sexual orientations - much like spouse abuse.", "score": 18 }, { "body": "I was raped a little over 2 years ago (in America). I never even accepted a drink from someone I didn't know, all I know is that something was probably slipped into mine at some point. Which also means someone was probably watching me all night, which is totally creepy. I woke up in an abandoned house on the outskirts of the Detroit city limits, luckily still with my phone and wallet. Having those things was probably the only reason I didn't have an immediate breakdown.\n\nI had surgery to remove genital warts from HPV a year earlier, and ever since I've had an anal fissure...which causes me to bleed easily during sex. It's not really that dangerous...but it looks as though it is. I can't be sure of anything, but I'm hoping the excessive blood at least scared whoever this man was.\n\nIt was traumatic...I shut myself off the next day, not showing up for work and not even calling. The next day I gave my manager a week notice citing 'extreme personal reasons' (I had been there two years). Less than two weeks after the rape it was my 22nd birthday...I decided it's a new year in my life and to put what had happened while I was 21 behind me. \n\nI still think about it from time-to-time but, I guess I'm just someone who learned to say - 'how is worrying over it 24/7 going to help me now?' It's really just something you have to convince yourself that was not your fault, and to look to the future and put it behind you.", "score": 11 }, { "body": "hmm. Rape probably doesnt have too much to do with the availability of sex. Straight men are hardly deprived. \r\n\r\nHaving said that - its not something thats discussed a lot in the community from what I've seen.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "I have friend who went to a rave one time. typical cute little blonde twink. so, he takes a drink and blacks out, next thing he remembers is getting gangbanged in some basement. he came to work the next day and had a seizure. i was there when it happened it sucked. I forget what it was that slipped him but it fucked him up for a week.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I found an [article pertaining to your question.](http://www.thefreelibrary.com/The+Prevalence+of+Sexual+Aggression+and+Victimization+Among...-a064698517)", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Take your best playthrough 1 gun, go into playthrough 2 and sell it at the nearest vending machine, then without exiting the machine, buy it back, and it will double everything for the gun and make it a playthrough 2 weapon that stomps.\n\n", "score": 5 }, { "body": "at Level 24 I found a 2 shot Blast Revolver, with 256 damage and X3 blast, low recoil, fast firing, and a scope. I STILL use it at level 42, because there's just no replacement. Sometimes you just luck out with that.\n\nAlso, check your proficiencies. After using it for most of a playthrough, you get a huge bonus on that weapon type, so you may just have a proficiency that offsets most guns' better stats. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "My G.F. from when I was 20 became my fiancee when I was 25, my wife when I was 27, and the mother of our first kid when I was 32.\n\nI won't pretend it's super-happy-fun-time 24 hours a day, but it's meaningful, rewarding, and I'm constantly growing as a person in large part due to our relationship.\n\nSo, yeah man, I am genuinely happy, even though it's hard work sometimes. There's \"much to be desired,\" but it's not the relationship that's lacking, and I have a partner to pursue those desires vigorously. ", "score": 535 }, { "body": "I'd say I'm happily single.\n\nBut that's a lie. I'm not exactly mired in misery over it, but my life does get a little lonely.", "score": 182 }, { "body": "Wife had a brain tumor developing over the last 10 years which changed her personality dramatically.\n\nIt's been hard, but I'm still in love with her and think about her all the time. I guess there is much to be desired in the sense that I wish none of this ever happened.", "score": 176 }, { "body": "I've only been dating her a couple months, but it feels *different*. I confidently say that I believe I am about to be genuinely happy.\n\nedit: aww, who down-votes optimism? :(", "score": 154 }, { "body": "Best friends for nine years, a couple for three*, engaged for one. I couldn't have been happier. I'm a serious introvert, and even with my closest friends and family I can only stand a few hours of socializing before I need to go be by myself to recharge. She was the exception. Time with her was always as comfortable as time alone. She felt the same way.\n\nWe had plenty of arguments, but when you're friends with someone that long you learn that a fight is just a fight. You learn *how* to fight. And if you're both nerds, you learn to compartmentalize.\n\n*\"You're a stubborn jerk and totally wrong. But it's late and I'm tired. Can we just have pre-emptive make up sex now and finish fighting tomorrow?\"*\n\n*\"Deal. I love you.\"*\n\n*\"Love you too.\"*\n\nShe died almost four years ago. I've been unable to build any serious interest in anyone since. I don't believe in \"the one\" — it's a terrible and destructive meme — but those first six years of formative friendship turned already compatible people into nearly ideal partners. Nothing else measures up, and even if I knew how to recreate the process — which I certainly don't — the thought of trying is exhausting.\n\nCount me in the camp who don't understand people with antagonistic relationships to their partners or spouses. *Why* would you do that to yourself or another person? I can't understand \"significant other\" not being a special case of \"friend\".\n\nAt the same time, I miss being in a relationship. The intimacy. The day to day niceties. The sex. I definitely miss the sex. So I find myself envious of people who can jump into relationships where they have little in common — or even obvious irreconcilable differences — and simply enjoy them while they last. It's not a strategy that works for me, but I see there are pros as well as cons.\n\n*Yes, I broke out of the \"friend zone\". But in our case it was a mutually satisfying zone. I know exactly when and why the context switch happened, and it was nothing either of us had planned.", "score": 135 }, { "body": "You wanna know who the happiest mofo on reddit is? Me. You know why? I am not in a relationship. I have a dog.", "score": 121 }, { "body": "We just celebrated our thirteenth year of continued honeymoon. Head over heels in nutty, monkey-love. \n\nOne of the tools we've used is the idea of \"precedent\". Humans tend to repeat behaviours, even if they have proven to lead to bad results. As a species we tend to opt for short-term gains at the cost of long-term benefits. This is an understandable hold-over from evolutionary necessity, but one of the great things about being human is that we can override emotion-driven actions, remaining confident that a short-term \"loss\" isn't as detrimental as it used to be long ago when daily survival was often in question. \n\nMost options in daily life of a couple (how you respond to a comment, what part of your character you choose to express, etc) offer a short-term gain/long-term loss versus short-term loss/long-term gain dichotomy. \n\nThe key to our happiness so far has been in overcoming the emotional inclination towards short-term gain/long-term loss. Once precedent has been set for behaviour that ignores short-term loss for the benefit of long-term gain, trouble and strife just seems to melt away and the team bonds incredibly deeply. \n\ntl;dr: Play the long game.", "score": 114 }, { "body": "I've been in many relationships over the past 30 years. I've dated men and women. I've been in monogamous relationships, open relationships, full-on polyamorous relationships, relationships based on power exchange, relationships based on nothing but convenience. I've had more than my share of one, or two, or three night stands. I was married once, and that ended almost as badly as it could. I'm married again right now, for the second time.\r\n\r\nI can say without a doubt in my heart that my wife makes me happier than anything in this world ever has. I've never loved anyone with the consistent passion that I feel for her. We've been married for three years and together for six, and I feel more in love with her now than I was during our initial infatuation with one another. I could go on and on about her for hours.\r\n\r\nFrom every indication I have, including her telling me (often), she feels the same.\r\n\r\nI don't believe in fate. I don't believe that there are \"soulmates\" or that the \"right one\" is out there for you. I think people are people, and some are compatible together and some aren't, to varying degrees. But what I think is really the key to any successful relationship is the work you put into it. And my wife and I constantly put our all into our relationship, whether it's in the form of supporting each other's endeavors, being there for one another come what may, accepting and allowing for the changes that occur within us with time, working to please each other or constantly rediscovering our likes, dislikes, habits, dreams and overall personalities. She is the first person I've met who has truly inspired me to go above and beyond any normal means for, and she's done the same for me.\r\n\r\nI can't imagine myself being happier, and I hope that we both grow to a ripe old age together.", "score": 89 }, { "body": "I got to marry my bestest friend, who is also the woman I consider the hottest on the planet who, if she were to appear on the cover of Marie Claire, would require no Photoshopping. She's cute, *hilarious*, off-the-charts intelligent, and can drink me under the table. She has an irresistible high-pitched voice and a cute Cape Breton accent. Also, she has boobies.", "score": 75 }, { "body": "Married almost 10 years and unhappy more than happy. I've been sticking around for 2 reasons:\n\n1- because of our children\n2- because eventually she's going to truly address her mental and emotional issues (she's been diagnosed every time we see a therapist/counselor)\n\nShe's genuinely a good person and goes out of her way to do things for me, but the lack of respect that occurs when she has an emotional blowout (very short fuse) has been adding up over the years.\n\n(I know that many users will likely comment the likes of 'just leave' or 'you need to be happy too'. Our relationship is really, really complex and I am the type to stick it out rather than run).", "score": 54 }, { "body": "Truly happy? Not really. Been married for 1.5 years. Wife has a hot temper and often abusive. Just today, for instance, she started screaming at me telling me how much of a loser I am. \"No value in the world\". How I have no friends and I should be ashamed of who I am. :/ This is not true :) I have plenty of friends. Pretty outgoing. I'm also an iPhone developer and founder of a rising tech start-up that I'm bootstrapping. I host meetups, etc.\n\nShe has an MBA from a top 5 school.\n\nShe use to follow up such comments with a few slaps to the head or a hefty kick to my legs. But, she's working on her anger. I often sleep in the car just to get out of the house and to avoid her. A few months ago I started recording our fights so I can objectively look at the situation. I conclude that she's fucking nuts.\n\nCrazy thing: I know it's not healthy, but I made a vow. Problem is I keep moving my boundary and losing myself in the process. Many of my colleagues and family members have no idea the stress I'm under just to maintain equilibrium and a sense of normalcy. You would think \"disfunction junction\".\n\nOn Christmas eve I slept in the car after being hit many times across the face with shoelaces. Damn near knocked me to my knees.", "score": 52 }, { "body": "Single for 6 months now. We ended it with a velvet break-up. No shouts, no accusations, which says a lot about the lack of passion in the relationship.\n\nHowever insignificant a relationship, it looks like my unsatisfied self of 6 months ago was still happier than the single miserable bastard self of today.", "score": 46 }, { "body": "engaged and getting married on 10-10-10.\n\nShe is a bitch but I love her :)\n\nEDIT: I'm happy too, I LOVE bitches", "score": 44 }, { "body": "I will love him always. He's absolutely perfect. I wouldn't change a thing about him. I accept him as he is, which is a geeky guy who loves tacky sweaters and cleaning. ", "score": 41 }, { "body": "I love my husband to death. He comforts me and holds me at night. He has never been upset with me when I've woken up with nightmares or food poisoning. He is the best thing in my life and the very best part of me.\n\nThat said, the man can piss me off like no one's business. I hate the way he handles money and I hate the way that I'm in the dark about so many things that he does. Ohhh I hate the way he handles money. I hate the car that he bought. I hate that he doesn't know what will satisfy him or what success really means to him. I hate that he can't stay at one job for more than 6 months without bitching. I hate that he has to take every job offer that comes his way with a higher pay that the one he has. I hate that he'd move us to the East Coast just for the money. I hate that when I ask him to do something he doesn't fucking do it. I hate that we've been living at our new apartment for a week and we still haven't unpacked our things.\n\nI hate that he plans on driving 2.5 hours back to where we used to live just to see his stupid friends. I hate that they never come to visit us and have never come to visit us. He always makes the drive. I hate that he can't make friends here - I know it's because he doesn't plan on sticking around here long enough for it to even matter because we'll be moving in 8 months anyway. As soon as he gets a job offer for more than 90k, we'll be gone.\n\n*and it still won't be enough money*\n\nBut really, I do love the kid. He's just fucking stupid.", "score": 40 }, { "body": "Yup. Been together 8 years, married for 3. First child due in March. Never had an argument, let alone a fight. Only way I could be happier is if she was twins.", "score": 33 }, { "body": "I love my boyfriend to bits. He's super smart, funny, hot, \"gets\" me and loves a good cuddle. But... he's just not that into sex. He's happy to get it every week or two whereas I'm a sensual girl who gets antsy after a day or so. I always thought I'd be happy with someone who I could read books with before bed (I'm a big bookworm) but now I wish we'd do something else!", "score": 31 }, { "body": "Not so happy. I'm starting to get carpal tunnel syndrome. I might have to break up with her and switch to my other hand.", "score": 28 }, { "body": "I'm genuinely happy, but, it's a mixed relationship: he prefers Explorer while I choose to use Firefox. ", "score": 27 }, { "body": "This is depressing. I just assumed that everyone was basically miserable, and it was just the unspoken rule that we all understood that was reality. I've been married 10 years, and have two kids who I adore, but haven't enjoyed the marriage part much at all. Not that there's anything much wrong with her, certainly not enough to get divorced over, but it's just like having a room mate. If there weren't there there would be nobody to talk to, but that's about it. ", "score": 24 }, { "body": "Married since 10/94. We have our differences from time to time, but when he turns the key in the lock at night to come home my heart still skips a beat. Love him more now than ever. ", "score": 21 }, { "body": "Married 15 years and very happy. Hardly a day goes by without me thinking how unlikely it seems I could be even close to this happy with someone else.", "score": 20 }, { "body": "I've only been married 7 years, and we're both happy. At the risk of sounding cheesy, I can tell you what I've learned in that time: \n\n1. Be patient, let the small shit go. \n2. Don't harbor resentment. If something is bothering you, tell them. A small argument now is better than a shitstorm blow-up argument later. \n3. Tell them you love them. Often. We still say it almost every time we hang up the phone with each other. \n4. Hold their hand for no reason, whenever or wherever you are.\n5. Sex. Have it. Often.\n\nI'm sure there are deeper, more meaningful reasons we're happy. These are just some day to day things that I find make us happy.\n", "score": 20 }, { "body": "There's much to be desired. I still like her more than every other woman I meet, ie, there's nobody out there who makes me think \"damn, I wish I was dating *her*\". So I don't really question whether I am with the right person, even though I'm not totally happy. (It is in my nature to find flaws with things. It's a bad ability in some ways, and in other ways it serves me well.)\n\nThis is why it's pointless to think about your \"dream girl\"; unless your requirements are extremely basic, she doesn't exist. Real people have shortcomings and annoying habits and sometimes they fart too much, or whatever. For me it is a constant struggle to look past these things and focus on the positive.\n\nOn top of all that, I am starting to believe that I'm the kind of person for whom a relationship like this is not essential. I find more and more that I am able to make myself happy, and when we are apart for long periods I don't necessarily miss her. Sometimes I wonder if we are still together just because I know intellectually that she is a great person, as opposed to some deep-seated visceral need for companionship. (This is all on my end, which makes me feel worse about the whole situation. She really relies on me a lot more than I do her.)", "score": 18 }, { "body": "My gf and I met on yahoo personals, it will be 3 years in March.\n\nI can say this without any hesitation at all, she is my soul mate.\n\n...Oh yeah, and [she's beautiful](http://imgur.com/E5beE.jpg).", "score": 14 }, { "body": "I'm married and often feel out of place when other married guys start complaining about their wives and such.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "I've been considering this kind of question for some time now. The relationship I am is my first and I think the ideal type of relationship. I have been in it for almost 4 years. The best thing about it is that we don't even notice that we are in a relationship. This is not to say that we ignore each other, rather that we are so close and have grown so accustomed that we no longer feel the need to refer to it as a relationship, but rather as a life long bond. There are those who worry at this point that they are losing their partner and need to do something to spice up their life, we constantly indulge in this spice but not because we are worried. With my girlfriend, I feel completely at calm, will say anything from \"Hey look at this picture of this elephant raping a panda\" to \"Your breath smells\" without offending her.\nSex is not something that is withheld nor forced but rather enjoyed in feeling. We are not jealous people and sex outside of the relationship is not an issue either. I am studying to be an electrical engineer/computer scientist and she a neuroscientist, we share our knowledge and we are smart in different ways. She completes my faults in personality just as I do hers. We go everywhere and do everything together. I do not assume our relationship is perfect but I do think that it is an ideal relationship and that if the rest of the world enjoyed such a bond with another person, it would be a happier place to live.\n\nEDIT: Grammatical errors.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "Absolutely ecstatic. \n\nLong story short: We met online about twelve years ago (she was twelve, I was fourteen), I pretended to be a guy, we were friends for years, I admitted I was a girl, we got close, she flew a few thousand miles to meet me, we've been together ever since. We're nearing our 7th anniversary.\n\nWe haven't stopped being as giddy and romantic as we were when we first met. In seven years, the longest time we've spent apart from each other is thirteen hours and just *once*. We eat together, read together, shower together, walk together, brush teeth together, anything. We were both secretive, private types before we got together, so I think we were both worried if it would be a strain to be with another person so close and *constantly*. Instead, we just.. clicked. Perfectly.\n\nAnd on a nsfw note, the sex has never slowed down either. Every night. With toys. And rope. Mornings, too, if there's time.\n\nI think true and consistent happiness is possible, it's just a matter of holding out for someone that really hits the right chord. I had to find mine 3,176 miles away, but it was worth it.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "My wife and I are the happiest couple we know and all our friends agree. Many of our friends have often said stuff like \"If you two every didn't work out... we'd just throw the fucking hat in and give up on love.\"\n\nThe following is a mix of my observations about our relationship and a healthy dose of advice mixed in. You can't go wrong following it. (Truly. You can't. I've gone wrong a lot in my life, learned from my mistakes, and turned that knowledge into the core of my now amazing marriage. Don't take the advice from people complaining about their relationships. You don't take stock advice from a homeless guy and you don't take love advice from an unhappy person.)\n \n\nWe almost never fight and if we do \"fight\" it's merely a minor disagreement and not the emotional roller coaster that most couple engage in.\n\nWe agree on child rearing, politics, religion, sexuality, health, and any other manner of things that ruin good relationships. You don't *have* to agree mind you... but you do have to acknowledge each others' view points and *especially* when kids come into the picture you have to agree how you will present yourself to your children. You can't have a healthy relationship where it's He Said/She Said all the time. \n\n\nWe're the least passive aggressive people you'll ever meet. I hate passive aggressive behavior. It's the slow poison of many relationships. If something she does annoys the shit out of me, I'll simply tell her. If I hurt her feelings, she'll simply tell me. We don't run our lives like a passive aggressive pecking match... we just put it right out there in the open. Passive aggressive people let shit simmer and rot until they freak out. If my wife does something that bothers me... I don't grind my teeth about it for a month, I tell her. \n\nWe put each other first. That technique might not work for every relationship. If one person is an asshole and the other gives and gives and gives but never receives, the relationship will be toxic. In my case we both give 100%+ to each other, much to our mutual pleasure. I think about her happiness the way a devote priest thinks about God. Everything I see, every idea I read about in a magazine, every flower I see in a florist's window is something that could put a smile on her face. A lot of guys confuse that with weakness... they think it's weak to love a woman and dote on her that much. Those guys are morons. If you're the doting fool because you're afraid of losing the girl and think you need to impress her... that's one thing. I dote because I adore her above all else and spoiling her makes me happy. If I was a billionaire I'd do stuff like buy her islands and other absurd things... and not because she's the kind of woman that *needs* anything... but because giving and spoiling is the way I express love. However you express love... give freely. \n\nWe never let *anyone* come in between the two of us. *Ever*. Letting people into your relationship is a great way to cause trouble. I don't mean not sharing your relationship with friends and family, I mean letting them *in* to your relationship. I have a neighbor who always calls her mom every time she gets in a fight with her husband. You know what that does? It pisses off her husband and it gives her mom and dad the idea that they are *part* of the relationship and have some sort of say in how things go. That's bullshit. Don't let people in. Don't bitch about the bad times to your neighbor, coworker, sibling, or parent. You want to know why? Because you'll get over the bad times, but they won't ever forget. You'll have poisoned your friend, brother, mother, etc. against your significant other. They'll *always* remember that he forgot your birthday, she bitched you out over staying out too late with your friends, or *whatever*. Calling in other people for emotional support is relationship suicide. If you need the god damn calvalry to shore you up after every tiff with your significant other you either need to 1. ditch them or 2. grow the fuck up, it's not Junior High anymore. This behavior we have, not airing the unhappy moments in public and focusing on the good moments... is so rare that people we know actually notice. Everyone of my wife's friends has told her \"It's so weird, but you've never said a bad thing about your husband...?\" I in turn never say a bad thing about her. When my buddies bitch up a storm about their wives they never look to me to join in (mainly because my wife's super hot and amazingly kind hearted and they know I won't have a damn thing bad to say about her, but also because they respect the fact that I simply don't talk poorly of her). \n\nAnyways... perhaps a bit long winded in my reply... but I see such absolute misery in many of the posts I read on Reddit (and elsewhere on the 'net) I thought I'd share something happy and some positive advice. \n\nYou only live once. If you're not happy with the one you're with now... be true to yourself and cut them loose. You're just pissing away your life with second best instead of going out there and looking for someone you can say you're genuinely happy with. ", "score": 14 }, { "body": "I am definitely happy with mine. She just texted me that she was tired and I texted her back \"I'm sorry\" to which she replied \"Its ok. most active thing on my agenda is screwing you silly and thats like jello... There is always room.\"\n\nHow can one not be happy with that?", "score": 13 }, { "body": "I've been dating my girlfriend for over four years. We met in the third grade when we would play \"Sailor Moon\" during recess. She picked who got to be who. No--I was never picked to be Tuxedo Mask. Her crush, the guy that was always picked to be Tuxedo Mask, aged badly. I was always picked to be the bad guy that perpetually chased her and her sailor companions. I eventually caught her. We're out of college now (she's in dental school, no more being sailor moon) and we'll be getting married once I can afford the pricey ring she's had her eye on. \n\nShe doesn't remember any of the Sailor Moon stuff, though. What an ass. I'm happy about everything else.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "I'm pretty happy. I was complaining about finding quarters to do laundry and my girlfriend randomly showed up, took all my laundry, and told me she'd bring it back tonight. She than told me to be ready to get my ass kicked at Super Smash for the Wii. Life can not possibly get better than this.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "Married for 7 years. I was happy... then she cheated on me. She kept it hidden from me for months, until I was suspicious enough to look in her email. I'm still with her, mostly because I don't know what to do. She's trying really hard to make it up to me. She goes to a therapist and gave me all the passwords to her emails and social websites. I don't think I'll ever forgive her. I used to think I had a good marriage, I cooked and cleaned with her, we had a date night every friday of every week, we talked constantly, I used to text her every day from work \"ILuvU\". When ever I ask her why she did it, she can never give me a straight answer, this makes me feel like it can happen any time again. I don't trust her, and I don't feel like we belong together anymore. I've always been faithful, and I always felt I deserved the same. I guess that if I'm pressed to answer bluntly, I'm with her because I feel sorry for her; but that can only take me so far I guess...\n\nP.S. She's a redditor too, I just don't care anymore.", "score": 11 }, { "body": "I wake up every morning and go to sleep every night feeling like I'm the luckiest man ever to have lived. ", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I love my boyfriend Chris more than anything in the world. I am going to marry him someday. Makes me happy just typing that. :)", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Honestly, truly happy. Going on 8 years, 4 of which we have been married. It's not even hard work. \n\n\n\n", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Together since 1994, married since 1997. We've been through amazingly wonderful times (finding out we were having twins) to the depths of despair (losing them and his father in less than 1 month) and we're still strong. The best part is that we each think we're the lucky one in the relationship.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I'm a month and 7 days in to my first relationship at 18, I feel so happy when I'm around her and miss her when she's gone, she's the first thing I think of in the morning and the last thing at night, I want to do everything I can to make her feel beautiful and happy and loved. Yeah, I'm genuinely happy, maybe that's naive, but that's how it is for me.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Been with my girlfriend for almost four and a half years. Couldn't be happier. She's on reddit too! Maybe she'll read this. Hi sweetie :]", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Dated for 7 years, married for 11, 2 kids. Couldn't be happier. We've had only a few occasional rough patches, but really nothing to speak of. We just get along great. Communication is key in our relationship. No hard feeling festers for long. We come right out with what's on our minds in a serious, but respectful, way and nip things in the bud.\n\nI have yet to meet anyone I'd rather be with. I'm definitely happy with my relationship.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "This is *really* corny, but...\n\nI've been married to my wife for 28 years. We have 3 kids, in their twenties. I retired and we moved to a rural place in Western Massachusetts where we are having the time of our life going to live music, enjoying nature and having free time for hobbies and friends. Life is really good when you have a partner you respect and do what you need to keep it going.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I've been living with my girlfriend since September. Last night I couldn't sleep, because I was depressed (working at a job that pays the bills, but doesn't satisfy my creativity and doesn't leave much time for it either) and she stayed up with me. We talked. We cuddled. She was supportive and offered ideas on how to fix things. Then, since I had been up so long I had gotten hungry, we went for a 3 AM snack. And then cuddled some more till I was able to fall asleep.\n\nI felt much better after that. Still do.\n\nNot saying that there aren't problems occasionally, but she's still the best thing that's ever happened to me.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "My wife is... beyond words. The most eloquent poetry, recited ad infinitum could not ever describe my love for her. If ever there were a person who deserved the label \"truly happy\" in love and in life; it would be me. I can't say that my wife completes me... life would surely continue if I lost her, or had never met... but she makes everything that I enjoy immeasurably better. It's magic.\r\n\r\n ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "There is no such thing as the perfect person, it's about finding someone whose rough edges you find endearing.\n\nThen I met my the girl who is now my wife, and whilst I think the above is still true I've never needed to tell myself that since I've met her.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Baby, if you clicked comments to see my response... well, I'm sorry. It's over. All these happy people here have shown me how unhappy I am. I'm keeping the cat.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I am happy with my girlfriend of 2 years. I've been friends with her for nearly 8 years, so yeah, I was able to break out of the friend zone.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "My partner and I have been together for 8 years and we have the best relationship we know of. It's also an open relationship, which probably has something to do with its strength. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Whenever I argue with my boyfriend, and it doesn't happen often, I remind myself that I like him as a person. I enjoy the qualities that brought us together in the first place, and after that, it's not much work.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Left my fat complaining wife and moved in with a hot blonde 17 years younger than me. So, yeah, pretty happy.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "How many of you Redditors in relationships with a person who does not also use Reddit and know your username are genuinely happy with your partner/girlfriend/boyfriend?\n\nFTFY", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Over 2 decades together, and very happy. Lots of tough times, lots of water under the bridge. Marriage is a work in progress, and both partners have to work at it. Make no mistake, you BOTH have to give a little here and there. \n\nGood rules to follow.\n\n1) Don't go to bed angry (an oldie but a valid one). \n\n\n2) Marriage counseling is not a \"last resort\" thing. You can use it for tune-ups when you reach an impasse. \n\n\n3) Make sure to keep dating each other. Especially after kids.\n\n\n4) Don't speak poorly of your spouse. It will reflect the way you treat each other. \n\n\n5) Time outs are not just for kids. Sometimes you need a time out, and you should take it. \n\n\n6) Only ONE of you is allowed to be crazy at a time. If he is crazy, then it's your turn to be the sane one. He will return the favor another time. \n\n\n7) EVERYONE does housework. No exceptions. We deal with kitchen messes here by saying whomever cooks, the other person cleans up. Even little kids can sweep a floor or feed a dog. Everybody pitches in and helps. \n\n\n8) Keep each other covered. Your spouse should always have your back, and visa versa. The family comes first. \n\n\n9) be considerate. Call each other and tell one another what time you'll be home, or if you'll be late. Do it BEFORE the other person tells you to do it. It's just a nice thing to do, and makes the other person feel respected. \n\n\n10) Difference is GOOD. My reason-for-living likes a lot of the same stuff I do. But there's a LOT of stuff he likes that I do not. That's great! I didn't want to marry myself. Plus, it's kind of nice having things that I can enjoy with others, and stuff he can do on his own. Being together 24/7 gets real old real fast. Just because you are married doesn't mean you can't have outside interests. \n", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I'm happy. My girlfriend and I have been together almost 3 years now...we have nothing in common save for a ridiculous sense of humor...that alone always keeps things interesting.\n\nThere are times when I'm not sure we're compatible...and times I'm really frustrated with her...but I think about a year ago I had a terrible dream that she died and I woke up sobbing like a baby and I realized how terribly sad and depressed I would be without her in my life. I only hope she doesn't leave me for some much more exciting guy who just wants to travel and spend money like a fiend because I'm neither of those things.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I am back with my high-school sweetheart after a nearly 10 year hiatus. \n \nWe have been together again for over a year, and I am as happy as I have ever been :)", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Love her to bits, marrying her was the best thing I ever did. Still not sure why she is with me though", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Happiness is a choice, not the result of you liking or loving somebody.\n\nEDIT: actually, happiness IS the result of you loving somebody. It is not a result of somebody loving YOU, however.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I've been with him for three years and I have no intention of living my life without him in it. Now all I have to do is convince him to wait off on the wedding until 3/14/15", "score": 3 }, { "body": "My wife has the ability to infuriate me like no other person in the world. That simply wouldn't be possible if I didn't love her like no other person in the world. She's the best part of my family, the part that I *chose* to be with for life. And my dog rocks too!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "<---Happy here. I think the biggest reason is we always try and improve our relationship (as a team) and we're not settling into any ruts. \r\n11 years and going strong.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Married 15 years, dated for 4 before that, 1 kid, pretty happy, no major fights, sure we argue once in a while, but no deep rooted animosity or anything. I'm cool with how things are and she seems to be as well.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I'm incredibly happy with my girlfriend. We've been dating just over 8 months, and I have an absolute blast with her. She's active and gives me someone to keep up with, smart, funny, incredibly caring and sweet. Can joke with me, can play any sports or games with me that I offer, and always works issues out with me well, and right away. No lingering issues, we take care of them, and get them behind us and back to enjoying each others' company. \n\nThe only part that sucks is she's on the other side of the world right now, and for every other college break that's likely where she will be. It sucks to have her so far away because she's my best friend, and she fills a gap that no one else can fill for me.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Not happy, and haven't been for the last 7 years of a ten year relationship. going to break up with her in a month or so, when joint debt (she created) is finally paid off. Hope I can learn to be happy again, this late in life.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "My wife and I have been together for 17 years, we have two kids and life's a joy every day. EVERY DAY. I guess the bad relationships I had before her were training. I love this woman sooo much.\n\nAnd she even has sex with me. A lot.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I love my girlfriend of five years a whole lot. I get worried sometimes thinking about the future and whether we'll be together for the long haul, especially when I am dealing with anxiety/depression, but the facts remain:\n\n1. The sex is less frequent than at first but still awesome and mutually satisfying. No lesbian bed death here!\n2. I have never met anyone I can talk to like I can talk to her. This has been true since we first met. I have also never met anyone so honest, sincere, earnest, caring, loving and supportive.\n3. She has really big boobies. \n4. Neither of us has any need to pretend to be someone we're not. We share our darkest secrets and vulnerabilities and love each other anyway.\n5. We kick ass at supporting each other through tough times.\n6. REALLY big boobies. Huge!\n7. She always laughs when I try to entertain her. She's cute and funny.\n8. My family has grown to love her, and vice versa.\n9. We have similar goals and long-term hopes.\n10. She helps me, gently, to become a little bit better than I am, every day. I try to do the same.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "My boyfriend an I have been together for over 4 years now. We don't know what to do with ourselves without the presence of the other. It is good in the since that we make good partners but in the past year our sex life has majorly decreased and I find that hard to deal with. \nEven in our 4 years together I can't think of a moment of \"true happiness\" that wasn't fleeting. There is always going to be something. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I did not believe in \"love at first sight\" till the most beautiful and captivating woman I have ever seen walked into my life. Five years later we're married and I'm happier than I ever knew I could be. We share everything, from travel to hobbies to my crushing defeat by her ruthless Tetris and Dr Mario skills.\n\nI've changed my eating/exercise/lifestyle habits so that I can be healthier in the hopes of living longer and having more time to spend with her.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "just ended one. Realized I need some solitude, but I definitely miss the physical contact(sheepishly admits missing just cuddling)...", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I used to do the normal dating game: try to hang out with enough people to find one that seemed OK, then date, then move in together, then try to make it work.\n\nAfter a while, I realized that approach was retarded and overcoming my fear of The Traditional, took a different approach: courting.\n\nI would meet young ladies, be very forthright in asking them if they were ready for a long-term pairing, and then court them with very formal, innocent, chaste dating for a period of years.\n\nOn the third one, I found the magic tripartite:\n\n* Intelligent and wise\n* Of good moral character\n* Healthy and attractive\n\nWe got married and it's been many years, but the situation seems stable and even more -- fun.\n\nMy friends are still \"dating\" and having the same bad luck. When life shows you an approach is failing, you need to change yourself.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I've recognized in a lot of your comments (both positive and negative) why my relationship works. There are a lot of reasons, I think partly due to the fact that we got together after both leaving serious relationships that were full of faults. The more time we spent together, the more we recognized in one another the deep connections, passion, and sense of mutual respect and understanding that our previous relationships had lacked. We're both pretty calm, empathetic people with lots of individual and shared interests, and we just \"get\" each other.\n\nEvery day I find a reason to be grateful for him, and even when I'm having a bad day or going through a stressful period, before I get annoyed with him for something stupid, I always stop to think how I'd feel if he were to get on my case about not washing the dishes or forgetting to take the garbage out. I see my female friends berate and belittle their male partners over stupid little shit like this (especially in front of their friends), and it's almost viewed by them as an acceptable, funny, and entitled way for a woman to behave. It's this \"men are stupid animals/children, and are nothing without women\" mentality. Well you know what? It's about respect, and that is not a respectful way to treat someone - especially someone you say you love. You forget to do things all the time, you're not perfect. Neither is he. Accept it and love him for all he is, and all the amazing things he does for you. The same, of course, goes for men who do this to their partners.\n\nIt can be easy to forget about or overlook the nice things a partner does when we're busy or stressed out or having a rough time, but I think that's what it means to \"work\" in a relationship - it's not hard, but you just have to take the time to think about and appreciate the other person. I find new reasons to fall in love with my fiance every day, and we've been friends for 10 years, in a relationship for 3, and engaged for 4 months. He still gives me butterflies in my stomach; I still look forward to him coming home every night; I still love to make him laugh, cook him dinner, surprise him, all that stuff, and I look forward to doing it for the rest of my life.\n\ntl;dr Appreciate each other. Be grateful for them every day; let the little things go.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I am absolutely truly happy in my relationship with my wife. I used to think that I had to tolerate flaws I saw in another person, or change mine so that way the other person could tolerate me. \nOnce I met my wife I realized that I didn't have to tolerate any part of her, I appreciated ever bit - even the parts that most people would call faults or flaws.\n\nA relationship does require work, but I honestly think it is more work on yourself than work on the relationship. If you stagnate and get complacent in your relationship you will no longer fulfill your partner. If you get to a point you don't love yourself then it makes it that much harder to love someone else like you want to or they need you to.\n\nI have my faults for sure and I think that my wife is the most gracious and wonderful person I have ever met for accepting them, and wanting to work with me to improve myself in the ways I want to be. It makes me want to be better for her, instead of feeling forced into it like how some women have tried to treat me in the past.\n\nMy wife also has what she considers her faults and flaws and I realize that she wants to be a better person for me as well. I accept that they may always be there and love every bit of her, but try to provide the support she needs to change them for herself if that is what she really wants. It has made a huge change for her over our relationship and how she sees herself.\n\nSometimes things can be hard in the moment but seeing what the future holds (and all the great things that the present contains other than whatever is bothering the immediate situation) is what makes me truly happy.\n\nDon't settle. I was way happier single than any other relationships I had ever had. I knew the difference once I met my wife (and I knew within two months that I was going to marry her someday). I was a serial dater but found the person that satisfies me in the ways that my soul needs, and thankfully I provide the same feelings for her.\n\nEdit for Typo", "score": 3 }, { "body": "100% happy with my wonderful wife of 25 years. I could not ask for a better friend, companion and lover.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I'd say almost all Christians go through this.\n\nLook back. What started this? Anything?\n\nAlso, read St. Thomas Aquinas's \"Dark Night of the Soul.\" It may be that you're maturing.\n\n[wikipedia article summarizing the concept](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dark_night_of_the_soul)\n\n[actual text](http://www.ccel.org/ccel/john_cross/dark_night.txt)\n\nI suggest also reading [Ecclesiastes](http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+1&version=ESV), again if you have already. It's a good book for starting over. It shows the world for what it is: an empty place, where nothing you can do - apart from serving God - has any meaning. Therefore if the pursuits of humanity are meaningless, and God is the only meaningful thing in the world, then seek God.\n\nI suggest making yourself pray and read the Bible, even if you seem to get nothing out of it immediately. \n\nThis especially happens as newer Christians mature. The good feelings, emotions, that initially existed when you start your journey begin to fade because they are merely human emotions. Not saying this is what's happening to you, but for what it's worth, there you go.", "score": 13 } ]

[ { "body": "After you read Dune, feel free to enjoy Dune Messiah, Children of Dune, God Emperor of Dune, Heretics of Dune and Chapterhouse Dune.\n\nThere are no other Dune books. Some heretics might speak of such works. They are deluded heretics. Ignore and pity them.", "score": 13 }, { "body": "There are many spoilers in the appendices. However, you should be more or less safe referring to the \"Terminology of the Imperium\" for defining certain words as you are reading.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I would read the book first. Then read the appendices, and read it again. \n\nThey contain information on the Ecology, Religion, the Bene Gesserit Sisterhood, and Nobles of Dune which makes a second read through rewarding. As far as I know there aren't any spoilers just background, so if you want to read them first go for it!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Thanks for the feedback, everyone. The consensus seems to be that I should just dig in. Here I goooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Just a note to the downvoter of all the replies. That actually brings the atheism subreddit a higher popularity rating (the reddit popularity algorithm doesn't distinguish between positive and negative ratings) while at the same time flagging you for the moderators to investigate for mass downvotes.", "score": 204 }, { "body": "The only time I've come away from a discussion with a theist feeling like I've actually made a dent in their cozy self-delusion, it went like this...\n\nMe: Do you agree that there's a reality out there that's independent of our desires? That what's true is true whether you and I like it or not?\n\nTheist: Yes, of course.\n\nMe: Do you agree that knowing what that reality is would be a good thing, that we should base our decisions on knowing the true reality?\n\nTheist: Yes.\n\nMe: Ok, we agree so far. So now we want to find out what that truth is. But to do that we have to look at evidence outside ourselves, 'faith' is just going to reinforce your belief in what you'd _like_ to be true...\n\nTheist: Um...\n\n\n", "score": 129 }, { "body": "I often advise myself to do exactly what you mentioned. However, they often avoid the question and return with a question of their own: \"Well, define the word 'wrong'\" or \"Proof is a difficult word to define...\"", "score": 46 }, { "body": "I will paraphrase Spinoza, \"Those who have come to their opinions through reason, use reason to justify them. Those who have come to their opinions through passion use passion.\"\n\nYou ain't speaking the same language. If you want to impress a fundamentalist use the language of passion; that the love of truth has driven your opinion. They understand passion, not reason. It is my passion for the truth that has changed me from a fundamentalist to a rationalist.", "score": 46 }, { "body": "You forgot ***the most important question*** an atheist can ever ask a believer: *If I were to show you irrefutable proof that you are wrong - would you torture me to death?...*", "score": 44 }, { "body": "The most common response I have encountered is: \"It doesn't matter, because that proof doesn't exist, because God *does* exist\".\n\nA person like that, as you say, is beyond reason. ", "score": 32 }, { "body": "Also, mention that you would change your views if given irrefutable proof. It demonstrates to them that your not closed minded.", "score": 30 }, { "body": "> If they say \"No\", \"I don't know\", or \"Faith\" anywhere in their response, refuse to waste your time arguing with them and move on.\n\nYou know who else had faith? The Nazis! ", "score": 16 }, { "body": "This is actually what stopped my dad dead in his tracks when I had the \"I'm an atheist\" talk with him. Then I showed him [this video](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_rqUsC2KsiI).", "score": 14 }, { "body": "Arguing with Christians (or any other religious nut) is like trying to teach a pig to sing: It wastes your time and it annoys the pig.\n\n", "score": 11 }, { "body": "No, they will just say that no such proof exists, and not engage the question.\n\nA good one is 'Is your god unable or unwilling to prevent child abuse'?", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Yeah, I asked a fundie acquaintance of mine if contempt was a Christian value, or something endorsed by Christ. He asked for a definition of contempt. I was reminded of of our 42nd president.", "score": 7 }, { "body": ">\"If I were to show you irrefutable proof that you are wrong, would you admit it?\"\r\n\r\nI believe God exists, but yes, I would have to accept irrefutable proof to the contrary.\r\n\r\n>If they say yes, ask them what that proof would look or sound like.\r\n\r\nI have no idea. All attempts I know about, to prove or disprove God's existence, have been flawed and thus fell short of \"irrefutable proof.\" I do not claim to be smarter than Aquinas, Nietchze, Spinoza, Augustine, or the many other very bright thinkers who tried and failed. I don't have any new approaches to offer. Do you?\r\n\r\nBesides, a God who insists on faith (for whatever reason) is a God who insists that proof will never be available. Indeed, I'm convinced it can't be done -- but I'm open to the possibility that I could be wrong about that.\r\n\r\n>refuse to waste your time arguing with them and move on.\r\n\r\nThe only thing to be gained by an argument about God's existence is (at best) an agreement to disagree. In other words, a mutual recognition that neither God's existence nor non-existence can be proved by logic or empiricism.\r\n\r\nI often find it useful to establish that point as a prelude to making a distinction between (1) beliefs about God's [non]existence, and (2) beliefs about particular doctrines (eg, Biblical inerrancy, Creationism, homosexuality, etc.).", "score": 7 }, { "body": "A theist and atheist discussing religion is like a Chinaman and Englishman discussing the weather in their own languages. There is no point. People believe in God for lots of reasons -- none of them rationale. They believe out of fear or tradition or ignorance or one of a hundred emotional reasons. So using scientific arguments is sort of silly. People lose their religious beliefs when they are ready to. The best thing you can do is to point out that you don't believe in a God and that you don't feel the need to and that you are perfectly happy not to... \"but good luck with your beliefs\".", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I'd say you might cut them some slack on the \"what that proof would look or sound like\" part.\r\n\r\nI mean, I'd like to think that if offered irrefutable proof that 2+2 != 4 I'd accept it, but I don't think I could tell you what such proof would look like.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "The internet will cause the downfall of religion. The spreading of the real truth to brainwashed religious people causes them to lose their faith.\r\n\r\n", "score": 4 }, { "body": "There is no such thing as irrefutable proof. I know we would all like to think there is, but it just isn't so.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "It might be hard to show someone irrefutable proof that they are wrong if the only claim they are making is \"God exists.\" You can, of course, show them that their reasoning may be flawed for holding that belief, but I don't think you will be able to come up with irrefutable proof that they are incorrect--especially if they say that their reason for believing is that they have met him/her/it personally. They might be lying or crazy, but their lack of ability to prove to you their assertion does not imply that their assertion is wrong--just that you have no reason to believe it.\n\nSomeone holding beliefs that I don't doesn't irritate me in the slightest. Trying to convert me with flawed logic and unprovable statements does, though. It is like they don't understand that they are asking me to have faith in *what they say* about their god, just because they said it.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "This is good advice, but it made me think what proof, as an atheist, I would require before I'd believe in a God. Obviously believing in any god would be far easier than believing the entire bible is literally true, but if a god appeared before me and could do anything I asked, including flying or bringing dead people back to life, I think I'd still believe they were from some really advanced alien civilization before I'd believe they were a god. \n\nThat being said, I wish that would convince religious people to stop talking to me.\n\nEDIT: Just so you don't think I'm crazy, I would also take a LOT of convincing to believe aliens had visited the earth, but aliens do seem more likely than gods.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I think this sort of misses the point. If you're trying to figure out whether it's worth arguing or not, think about this:\n\nIf you go into every argument expecting that the other person will immediately change their mind when presented with a superior argument, you're gonna be shit out of luck the vast majority of the time.\n\nHowever, if you make a good argument, you will often plant the seeds which will in the future contribute to a changing of their opinions.\n\nAlso, even if you make a terrible argument, or tell them something ridiculous and wrong, if they hear it enough, they are likely to eventually assimilate it. But please, use the power for good.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "You should first ask them whether or not they accept reality. It they say anything other than yes, stop talking to them.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Just because they aren't ready to discuss your original point doesn't mean there is nothing to be discussed. For example, if they say \"No\", you could follow up with:\n\n* Why not?\n* How are you interpreting the phrase \"irrefutable proof\"?", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Upvoted for being the same thing I do and being so very right. It's pointless to argue with a closed-minded person unless you are just there to have fun and fuck with them.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "'The only proof I would accept would be if God himself came down from heaven and appeared to me saying, \"Verily I existeth not\".'\n\nNice try mate, but those that deny the principles of science and logic will not allow themselves to be defeated by them.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "The first question you should ask?\n\nWhy bother arguing a religious or scientific point with someone who bases their viewpoint on faith...", "score": 3 }, { "body": "After many many a respectful discussion this is always what it came down to. Either you believe in a religion because you have faith or you are uneducated about your religion. Otherwise it wouldn't be a religion.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Conversely, if you are a door to door proselytizer and your mark answers yes to the following question:\n\n\"Do you believe science can solve all our problems?\"\n\nWalk away.\n\nFun fact: this actually happened to me!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "You have a very shallow understanding of religion. If someone believes, as many if not most religious people do, that god is a transcendent being, beyond the human capacity to understand, then you simply cannot prove his or her or its existence or not. There is no irrefutable proof one way or the other. You either believe or you don't. Faith is by definition faith without proof. \n\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Do you believe in Plato? \n\nThis is actually extremely subtle, since the creators of the platonic academy are responsible for Christianity's origin myth. One way or the other.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "In theory this is a great question and point, and it certainly has its place for use. But I think the first question you should ask yourself is what is your goal. If it is to convince this person or an audience of something, then I don't think this is the right question to ask. Or, rather, if you do ask it then don't simply walk away if they don't provide a possible answer.\n\nThe reason I say this is human psychology. We aren't logic computers. Just because a theist argues with you, refuses to admit points, and resorts to \"God works in mysterious ways\" when cornered, doesn't mean that the debate doesn't accomplish anything.\n\nDuring a debate or argument on anything people typically dig their heels in. Often they will continue to defend their point long after they've internally realized they are wrong. This is perhaps best described as \"saving face\". People don't want to admit defeat. But that doesn't mean it doesn't affect their viewpoint after you go your separate ways. You may have given them something to seriously think about or at least raise doubt.\n\nIt's also part of the process of changing beliefs. Rarely do people change instantaneously. It often requires the slow internal growing of doubt. The process is well described by studies in cognitive dissonance in which people settle into a belief system that reduces confusion locally, but perhaps not globally. (There are references I highly recommend and details from a [recent post](http://www.reddit.com/r/atheism/comments/ahnun/christian_redditor_losing_all_faith_and_stupidly/c0hn303).)\n\nThe main point is that to move to a new belief, you need to dig a little at their current beliefs (raising dissonance in their local belief minimum) and improve their understanding of reasoned points (lowering dissonance in the global 'reasoned\" minimum). It can be a slow process but every contribution helps.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "The argument is weak. Just switch places and think about how you'd answer and it becomes obvious how weak it is.\n\n\"If I were to show you irrefutable proof that you are wrong, would you admit it?\"\n\n\"I sure would! Now let's see your proof.\"\n\n\"What would that proof would look or sound like?\"\n\n\"That's your problem, not mine!\"", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "There is one I saw that seemed okay and I think it was called \"quitter\". Sorry I don't have more detail.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I got cold turkey in order to keep what day I decided to quit and calculate how much money I'm saving. It's kind of lame otherwise. I tried some others but I deleted. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Alan Carr's health coach is pretty good. Although it's very heavy on mini-games at some point and gets tedious, overall I feel it's been a help.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "When my last child was born we accumulated multiple bills from various doctors/services. I think 12 at the highest point. I slowly paid them off 1 at a time. Once one was paid off, I'd take that monthly payment and add to the next.\n\nTook me 6 years, now he is finally paid off and I want to give him back.", "score": 20 }, { "body": "We just finished paying off my wife's car :D\n\nI went to login to the bank's website to celebrate and they already disabled my account (I assume).", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Nothing on earth could make me feel happy about paying for a medical treatment for six years.\n\nFortunately (??) I haven't been able to access health care in ten years, so.....", "score": 4 }, { "body": "May your other bills fall as swiftly. I'm paying down cards myself and I get happier with each one behind me. Congratulations.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Clearly you've been on a payment plan but did you have to pay the bill in full? When I didn't have any health insurance, I asked the hospital if they offered any financial assistance for the uninsured and they cut 50% off my bill just like that. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "yes you can free up 14gb by deleting your porn archives, because with this new technology called 'the internet' you can stream whatever porn you want.\n\nit\n\nis\n\namazing", "score": 59 }, { "body": "Just search your hard drive for all files then sort by size, add a little danger by deleting the top 10 blindly.", "score": 40 }, { "body": "I use this nifty little tool called [SpaceMonger](http://www.sixty-five.cc/sm/) to find these types of files. It gives you a quick visual summary of what's on the drive and makes it easy to pick out unusually large folders and files.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "System restore eats up a ton of space too...Vista thought it was ok to allocate 16GB to it (seriously - there will never be a 16GB update for Vista, and there should never be a need to restore that far back). You can cut it down to whatever size you want using the method described here: http://www.vistax64.com/tutorials/76227-system-restore-disk-space.html", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Protip: Just delete the file directly from explorer or whatever. If you do it the proper way and remove all entries in history it takes forever because PeerGuardian does it the right way and journals everything thus creating a roughly duplicate sized temporarily file. Besides the fact that it takes forever to remove entries it also takes a ridiculous amount of space.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I agree. Total fascist domination. It's inevitable. \n\nIf you just count the number of \"police beat/shoot/taser-kill/speeding-kill/shoot-the-victim/attack-child/attack-grandmother\" stories, here on Reddit, you can see it's already happening.\n\nOne question: **Before the Christmas airplane \"attack\", how many times had you heard, or seen, the phrase \"Al Qaeda in Yemen\"?** Probably *never*, I'll bet. \n\nYet your quisling president is now throwing this phrase out at every media opportunity? Why? This is another *calculated* effort to fool Joe Average into being frightened of *yet another* invisible enemy, in order to make him more submissive to the will of \"authority\".\n\nGet real people! **Obama is a glove-puppet**, and the one thing we know about glove-puppets is that they are all controlled by the guy with his hand up their ass, in this case the bankers, big pharma and the arms industries. \n\n**Obama is leading America into a new stone-age by attacking stone-age peoples** *instead of investing in his own citizens' wellbeing and future*. \n\nThe USA is f***ed. Basically, you have few energy resources. You no longer can afford to pay for them - being bankrupt a few trillion times over. China has been busy buying up Africa and Latin America - it already owns the USA. Russia's new Sea of Japan pipeline will allow it to blackmail Europe (because it now has easy access to the alternative Asian market into which to sell its energy). \n\nI have bet a colleague a month's salary that USA citizens will be being shot in the streets by the end of 2011, by your police, national guard or military. Why? For demonstrating about lack of jobs, lack of food, lack of clean water, lack of housing, lack of healthcare, lack of pensions, and the not-yet-imposed-but-watch-this-space-it's-coming-soon-to-a son-of-yours military draft. \n\nI'm sure mine is a safe bet because, here in Europe, we will be in the same situation and, win-or-lose, my month's salary will be worth nothing, anyway. \n\n", "score": 12 }, { "body": "First of all, it is about **selling** overpriced technology (hardware - software - services ! Any Accenture / Ballmer in that one ?).\n\nAlways the same game. Seen the Schwarzenegger's thread about bribes ? ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "upvoted for truth. Disaster is coming.\n\nbeware bad information. Pay attention. You're meant to resist the corrupt system on purpose. It is becoming mainstream at this point. Don't be fooled when its solution magically appears.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Of course! They're watching you right now. Little do you know, however, that this ruse is actually a ruse of a ruse. A purple herring!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I think the plan is to turn all of the citizens into terrorists, because then they'll be easier to spot.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Yes, it was a huge book for me when I was younger. Now that I'm old and cynical I don't want to read it again because I'll probably be like 'myth of the golden age, bah humbug!'", "score": 12 }, { "body": "As it happens, I am reading this book now - a student of mine gave it to me last semester. I am an archaeology professor and I actually do quite a bit of work regarding the subject of this book, e.g. the origins of agriculture and their effects. You might consider reading some the works of Jared Diamond (an ecologist from UC Berkeley) - notably: Guns, Germs, and Steel. Also, you might enjoy this short article, which deals with Diamond's opinion regarding why agriculture was ultimately a mistake: http://www.awok.org/worst-mistake/.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Yeah, I read this book on a recommendation from a friend of mine and it really did change my perception of the world. It really is a fascinating book.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I read it. The WORST book I have read in a long time! Hands down. Downvote me all you want. \n\nQuinn seems to be devoid of all knowledge in the subjects of biology, theology, and anthropology (just to name a few). He sets up straw man arguments and tries to argue points that are completely inaccurate. The 'narrator' (I forget his name, if he has one) does not contribute to the argument or refute anything. It's more like a rant than a 'dialog' or argument. ", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "The way to gain performance confidence is to perform a lot. \n\nChances are that after you start playing the show, a lot of the nervousness will go away. \n\nOther options include beta blockers and booze. I know that it is terrible advice to tell someone to use alcohol to deal with stress, but in many cases, a beer before you play can really calm the nerves.\n\nBest of luck!\n\n ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I think that's pretty normal really. The only true way to gain confidence performing live is to keep doing it. That's what open mics are for. The more you do it, the more and more confident you will get going up there. If you have a chance to do a couple of them before this gig, absolutely, go do it. You will get less and less nervous the more you do them.\n\nHave you ever watched \"Comedian\"? Seinfeld talks about perfecting his act, and he realizes the only way is to keep getting up there, every night you can. and just keep trying. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "the only thing I can say with any confidence is that it gets much better with time. For me I sometimes still get a bit nervous when it comes to guitar and singing, but for saxophone (which I have been doing now for around 15 years, much longer than singing/guitar/keyboards), it is automatic. \r\n\r\nSo, I guess I am saying perservere, keep on keepin on and you will become more confidend!\r\n\r\nEDIT: OH something else important to bear in mind. Assuming you are playing originals, nobody else will know the tunes like you do. So mistakes are only mistakes if you broadcast them through your body language and such. I have noticed that really good players will take what might have been a mistake and then sort of repeat it/work it in such that it sounds like that is what they meant to all along. remember - you are in control, only you know what you want to do and what was an accident.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "> This time I will be performing at a ball\n\nDo you mean like...a dance / event / dinner thing? If so, relax...no one will be paying any attention to you, even if you think they will be. They won't.\n\nIf it's an actual performance with an audience who is paying attention, the best way to gain confidence - like most of the others have said - is to play more gigs. You'll fall flat on your face...a lot. You'll screw up the simplest things. You'll look stupid. You'll forget lyrics. You'll forget your instrument. You'll forget your name.\n\nOver time, you'll realize that they are all passing moments of embarrassment and nothing more...and your confidence will grow when you realize that each time you fall flat, it's alright and no one literally dies. :-)", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Do you suck? If you do suck, just practice more until you're confident that you don't suck any more. That is the confidence you need on stage.\n\nIf you don't suck, just remember that fact and focus on the task at hand.\n\nI occasionally have a moment at a show where I look around and wonder how it got to be that a bar/client/venue would actually pay to hear my band, and consequently me singing and/or playing guitar. We played the New Year's Eve party at the House of Blues last week, for example... 600 people solid packed in the downstairs stage area. It's weird to look out and see a ton of faces staring at you, but usually I'm preoccupied trying to *be* entertaining to be worried that I'm not.\n\nIf that makes any sense.\n\nFor what it's worth, I've found that Vodka+RedBulls are pretty much the perfect performance drink. Booze to loosen you up, caffeine to keep you pumped and jumping around onstage actin' a fool.\n\nThen again, I play in a cover band that dresses up in costumes... so there's that.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "If I can still be killed by hurling myself in front of a train when I feel like I'm done, then sure. If I'm forced to live some sort of invulnerable groundhog dayish hell, then no.", "score": 50 }, { "body": "A universe that never ends would take just that long to fully explore. I'd gladly accept immortality. ", "score": 14 }, { "body": "I would like my conscious to be harvested into a massive vessel called \"The Parthenon\" and shot out into outer space so that one day an alien species could place my \"soul/mind\" into a metallic automaton thereby creating a Cosmic Golem... I would then travel from galaxy to galaxy with like-minded individuals forming an intergalactic A-Team (A standing for Astro)... we would solve mysteries... swap war stories... and generally amaze everyone with our Badasssitude... oh and out team leader would be the American Jedi, Carl Sagan", "score": 12 }, { "body": "I would lead an anti-immortal movement so no one has the procedure done then secretly have it myself and destroy the technology.\n\nThere can be only one! ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Immortality? Sure, it's all fun and games until heat death. Then you're just floating through nothingness without even an asteroid depositing a micro-civilization on your body. \n\nI agree with the immortality with an opt-out clause.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I'm the author of [An illustrated speculative timeline of future technology and social change](http://www.jrmooneyham.com/future_history_timeline.html), and so have thought considerably upon questions like this.\n\n\nThere will probably be another option in-between mortality and immortality, that will help reduce some of the downsides to immortality: such as a 'reboot' of one's identity/personality/memories, to allow you to begin to truly live a fresh new life from scratch at some point. For otherwise many may simply become too fatigued and jaded to go on.\n\n\nMany years back I wrote about [a particular long-lived woman taking this route in centuries to come](http://www.jrmooneyham.com/kerri.html#section20), largely out of desperation (I have several such tales illustrating the details of some of the possibilities outlined in the timeline).", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Hell yeah....every vampire is miserable. If there were more love in this world than I might consider it but how much hate, greed, hurt, anger, etc., can a person deal with in a lifetime...not to mention an eternity.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Good god, yes! My reason is one of the Buddhists' Four Truths: \"All life is suffering (or will lead to suffering).\" ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "My LBS is a Complaining McWhineywhine.\n\nHe complains he can't keep up with the amount of work he has, yet he refuses to hire an assistant.\n\nHe complains that the new megastore in town is stealing his business, yet he does nothing to promote his business.\n\nHe whines that people come to him for advice then buy the goods online...well yes that does suck.\n\nAnyways, by the time all the bitching is done, my bike has taken 4 times longer to repair than the megastore would have taken. I've paid 2-3 times more for parts than I should have and the workmanship is not all that great anyway. And I have no desire to recommend the LBS to anyone who asks me.\n\nFor any business to survive, they need to be dynamic and responsive to the needs of their customers in a changing marketplace. Don't bitch about it and make me feel guilty for saving money - adjust your business plan according to my needs and you'll keep me as a loyal customer.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "Last item I bought in an LBS was a folding tire. Called ahead and they told me $24.95. I get there and they tell me $27.95. I tell them they told me it was $24.95 on the phone, and $19.95 on the internet. I pay the $24.95, and the guy announces that he's going to stop carrying those tires if they're selling them on the internet.\n\nIt's that kind of mindset that's going to drive a lot of LBSs out of business.\n\nBuy from whoever has the product that meets your needs at the best price. \n\n(I wonder how many of these LBS supporters would still be so pro-LBS if they knew how to do the work themselves.)\n\nIf you can, find a bike co-op in your area that'll teach you how to work on your own bikes.\n", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I buy lots of parts online. It is fun installing them yourself. I still give a ton of business to my LBS, especially during their decent sales.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I buy 50/50 I think. There're sometimes huge discussions about this in the mtb environment here in Denmark. I think the limit is when people go to the LBS to try a pair of shoes to find the right size and then go home and order it online. That's not nice.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Nekem ilyenkor általában eszembe jut, hogy saját magam okozom a rossz érzetet. Nem vágták le egy ujjamat, nem esett rám egy zongora, ugyanúgy lélegzem, mint a csalódás előtt... és persze lehet, hogy rossz dolog történt, és ettől szomorú leszek, de ez is csak egy állapot. \n\nSzerintem az okozza a rossz érzést, hogy ezt nem tudjuk elfogadni, hogy lázadozunk ellene, hogy ilyen márpedig nem történhet, mert nem ez a rendje a dolgok történésének. Pedig de, \"rossz\" dolgok történnek, ugyanúgy, mint \"jók\". Ezzel nem azt akarom mondani, hogy bele kell nyugodni, főleg, ha tenni lehet ellene. Csak azt, hogy amin nem lehet változtatni, arra kár idegszálakat pazarolni.\n\nA lelkesedéssel kapcsolatban pedig felidézem a céljaimat. És az okaimat, hogy miért azok a céljaim, amik. Ezek segítenek nekem.\n\nÉs persze a stressz mellőzése. Ilyenkor vizsgaidőszakban szerintem minden egyetemistának magasabb a vérnyomása egy kicsit. De számomra ez is a dolgok nem-elfogadásából szokott következni. Ha mondjuk nem sikerült egy vizsga, azon tényleg kár rugózni, sokkal érdemesebb a következőre koncentrálni. A stressz ellen egyszerűen eldöntöm, hogy nem görcsölök rajta és kész. Úgy megyek be vizsgára, hogy ha nem fog sikerülni, akkor nem fogok rajta idegeskedni, bármi is múlt rajta, mert az egy tapodtat sem fog előrevinni.\n\nÉs Boci csoki.\n\nHát ez az én kis válságfilozófiám, remélem segít valamit :). ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "\"nem látom értelmét, és mégis muszáj megcsinálni, mert sok minden múlhat rajta, és nem érzem magamban az erőt\"\n\nEz egy fontos mondat, ezt érdemes kibogozni. Ha sok múlhat rajta, akkor van értelme. Ha pánik van, akkor félsz valamitől.\n\nÉn ha pánikolok, akkor megkérdezem magamtól, hogy mi a legrosszabb, ami történhet s tök őszintén válaszolok rá. Szóval pld. gyerekes félelmeket is be kell vallani: pld. félek, h leégek, kinevetnek, mittomén. \n\nAztán megkérdezem magamtól: hogy na akkor mi van? Ugyanis két válasz van: A. vagy az, hogy valóban kicsit béna vagyok vmiben, hát akkor meg itt az idő, h bevalljam, felvállaljam, nem kell mindenben szupernek lenni B. vagy titokban meg vagyok győződve róla, h én ebben jó vagyok, csak vmi körülmény miatt nem tudom a legjobbat nyújtani most, akkor meg el kell kezdeni kicsit piszkálni a körülményt, h miért is nem? \n\nfelmérem, h jelen helyzetben mi a reális, amit nyújtani tudok, aztán megpróbálom magamban elfogadni az ideálistól való távolságot, megígérni magamnak, hogy mikor legközelebb fogom majd szuperül csinálni, a mostani készülést meg lebontom lépésekre.\n\nMásik nagy szenárió, hogy tutira nincs értelme a dolognak, azért nincs kedved, csak valami kényszer nem enged. Akkor le kell szépen döfni a kényszert:-9 Kedves kényszer, menj innen, jó? Én ezt valójában nem akarom.\n\n Egyébként jó sok vizet kell inni, sokat kell aludni és ki kell menni a levegőre mozogni. Kémiailag sok agybajt lehet kezelni sztem:-) \n\nImádok szanálni, rendezni. Nekem az mindig segít.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "nekem helyzetfüggő. van, hogy megpróbálok elfeledkezni róla / kicsukom a gondolataimból (lumbágót okozó megoldás). van, hogy alszom rá egyet és másnapra rendbejön (fárad helyzetekben megoldás). van, hogy elmondom valakinek és ettől megnyugszom (extrovertált, kapcsolatépítős megoldás). van, hogy szembenézek vele, a nevén nevezem és a helyére rakom a lelkemben (felnőtt megoldás). és ezek mindenféle kombinációja :)\n\nremélem úrrá leszel rajta, bármi is az :)", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Thank you for asking this question. My situation is similar. I'm running an X2 4200+ on an AM2 board. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "This isn't a multi-socket system, so the HT link is only hooking you up with your motherboard chipset. The largest consumer of bandwidth here is going to be your graphics (PCI-e connects to the motherboard chipset). If you aren't running multiple graphics cards I don't think there will be any impact on performance at all.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I have gone over friend's houses, and typed in my email/password and downloaded some games for them to play/try out.\r\n\r\nNo big deal.\r\n\r\nI wouldn't give this info out to strangers, over the internet.", "score": 10 } ]

[ { "body": "I'm a homo myself, and I'd have to say that the best thing you could do was provide him an environment where he could comfortably tell you that he likes guys. Pushing and prying will only scare him and it will probably have dire consequences on your relationship as friends and roommates. \n\nJust be careful in how you do it, a lot of people like to jump to conclusions and by creating a gay friendly environment you might come across as gay or bi yourself. You do have a girlfriend, which would make it a lot easier for you.", "score": 7 } ]

[ { "body": "Excellent advice. I do a lot of deadlifts as well and I always do a lot of stretching when I am finished with my leg routines. \n\nAnother point to bring up is that a lot of research is now is showing that stretching before lifting or sports can be counterproductive. You should do some jogging and other [dynamic stretches](http://www.sport-fitness-advisor.com/dynamic-stretches.html) in place of the old school static stretches.", "score": 26 }, { "body": "You live and you learn. \n\nWhen I was first learning dead-lifts I would ALWAYS have a friend check my form. Dead lifts and squats may be the most effective exercise for building muscle and working your heart, but they also some of the most dangerous exercises.\n\nStay safe.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "The right stretching is key. People say \"stretching before working out is bad\" but that's not quite true. Stretching before working out will decrease your strength, but that's better than doing nothing. Better safe than sorry. Now if you incorporate dynamic stretching, do that before workouts then keep up the stretching at other times. Basically, if you're an athlete, and you want performance, you will spend the time to do dynamic stretching before performing and static stretches other times.\n\nPersonally, I stretch before I workout, esp. before deadlifts/squat. I'm not an athlete. But I've injured myself not stretching. Flexible hamstrings are important for squats as is pointed out in the [squat rx series](http://video.google.com/videosearch?q=squat+rx&oe=utf-8&rls=com.ubuntu:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&ie=UTF-8&ei=selES9D-BInENsDLxf0I&sa=X&oi=video_result_group&ct=title&resnum=4&ved=0CB0QqwQwAw#). Equally important is doing the [pigeon pose](http://www.yogacards.com/yoga-postures-2/kapotasana-pigeon-pose.html) IMO. If you don't do that and you have my body type and do squats, you'll be sitting on a donut for months. Doing that allowed me to recover from screwing up my groin by not stretching/doing squats. Doctors(GP, proctologist, urologist) diagnosed all sorts of things, lots of $ and time later, the pigeon pose solved it.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I have said before in this subreddit that is really difficult for people learn proper form on heavy lifting from reading a website. Actually, that is true for any type of lifting but power lifting exercises are the most dangerous.\n\nBefore you guys start lifting heavy you really should consider using an experienced trainer for awhile until you know what to look for (and they'd notice if your hamstrings were tight or your back rounded). Or just avoid those types of exercises, they aren't required. This is pretty irresponsible for stronglifts, too, since they appear to be targeting novices.", "score": 5 } ]

[ { "body": "Regarding copyright: Although it's a disputed area of law, I think it's pretty solid: You can't own an idea. You can own your work regarding an idea. For the most part, the legal system does this one right.\n\nPatents though... the most fucked up part of the world's legal systems. We need to stop allowing anyone to patent something that is naturally occurring in nature. Just because you discovered it doesn't mean you own it, corporate fucktards. You know it's screwed when companies build up a portfolio of \"defensive patents\": patents they file just so they can countersue anyone coming after them.\n\nPatents are the law profession's favorite way to profit from the corporate world.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Copyright should preserve authorship, but not control over creations. All great achievements are built on others, copyright should reflect this. I should be able to go out and make a Super Mario game. I should not be able to put \"Nintendo\" anywhere on it. What if H.G. Wells would have sued after The Time Machine came out. Could the H.G. Wells estate have prevented *Back to the Future* from getting made? I should be able to remix any song, but credit must be given to the original creator. This requires a distinction between the creator and the content created, but this line is easy to distinguish to the problems that arise from the current form of copyright.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I like IP when it allows small-time inventors and artists to earn lots of money from big corporations who want to use their ideas. I don't like it when corporations file as many patents as possible even if they have no intention of using their own inventions just in case some other company wants to bring the product to market so they can sue them. In some cases it's a smaller company trying to innovate and some behemoth like Apple or IBM comes along and says, 'sorry, we thought of something like that in the 80s and even though we have no intention of using that idea, not even now, when you've proven it's worth something, we're still going to sue and put you out of business BWA HA hahaha.' I think in cases like this the little guys should have the opportunity to make the case for why the patent should be surrendered to them so that they can actually try to use the idea to make the world a better place.\r\n\r\nI also don't like the Rolling Stones-Verve-Bittersweet Symphony incident because it's as if Keith and Mick don't have enough money already, right? Why do they need to go all parasitic on this young songwriter who is just starting to hit it big?\r\n\r\nI guess I like IP when it allows people a way to get credit for their amazing ideas, but not so much when it's used to bully or extort or otherwise oppress the creative minds of society.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Patents:\n\nPatents can be difficult, some are stupid, especially catch-all software patents that are used only to impede progress of competitors. Meanwhile some are necessary like drug patents financing the important research. It's not a simple black and white question.\n\nCopyright:\n\nThere is no problem with copyright atm other than term lengths. There are also issues with enforcement but those aren't really related to the pure copyright law.\n\nTrademarks:\n\nI don't know much about this, so I won't comment on it. It's important to understand that it is distinct from copyrights and patents and all have different origins though.\n\nI'd recommend reading [Free Software, Free Society](http://www.gnu.org/philosophy/fsfs/rms-essays.pdf) on this matter.\n\nEDIT: Indeed one could say that the term Intellectual Property is deliberately deceptive, blurring the boundaries between the different concepts so as to disempower the ordinary people in understanding the law.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I got [this](http://www.amazon.com/Experimental-Kit-Texturas-150-Grams/dp/B001TJOL24/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=gourmet-food&qid=1262831412&sr=8-1) for Christmas. I tried making orange juice caviar with gellan and calcium lactate, but I think the acid was too high. I'm going to try some sodium alginate spherification later this week. Check [this](http://blog.khymos.org/recipe-collection/) out for some starting points.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "DEAR POSTERS: Any *hacker* type worth his weight in salt will be able to replicate a picture of your keys into real, 3D temporal reality keys that can then be used to STEAL YOUR SHIT. ", "score": 50 }, { "body": "[Ok, I'll try](http://imgur.com/UWRMG.jpg)\n\nEdit: formatting\n\nEdit #2: following directions correctly", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Call CPS and report suspected abuse/neglect (anonymously, if nothing else). They will have to investigate (eventually. I don't know what the turn-around time might be, I'm afraid). At the very least you get someone in there to set eyes on her and make sure she's ok.\n\nIf she is not being actively abused and her condition is not life-threatening without surgery...then I'd probably advise pushing through the custody issue as quickly as possible (which does NOT have to be on the same schedule as the divorce) until you can at least get a temporary custody order granted in your sister's favor. A good lawyer might be able to push that through relatively quickly, especially considering the circumstances.\n\nLuckily at 2, unless there is actual abuse going on, your niece is young enough to not remember much of this as long as it is resolved fairly quickly. Push hard. Document everything.", "score": 5 } ]

[ { "body": "I'm not West coast at all, but I can run a server. I'll link it to the redditgaming stats, add/update the map queue, set it up to fast download from redditgaming and set up sourcemod to have the basic voting system if you wish.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "thank you! this helped me end 2009 on a better note than it began so i am really grateful to everyone who participated.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Well, I havent properly said it yet either so thank you both and to everyone else who took part and made it what it was.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "only pussies work out at the gym! if you really wanna get buff you should take up the age-old art of bear raping! You want a work out thats really intense on all muscle groups and at the same time gives you the pleasure and sense of power of being able to rape a godless killer. Or you could set up a DQ blizzard stand at your gym, then you will 1. make money, 2. distract the fat asses from gym equipment, 3. save them from having to stop at DQ on the way home, but I'm going with the bears...", "score": 24 }, { "body": "Convince them to do heroin with you, which shouldn't be hard because fat people love heroin, then after you shoot up switch the needle with one that has aids on it and let them use that one. Once they have aids they will feel no desire to work out because they're going to die anyway.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "Keep encouraging them to lose that weight! Tell them for every 5 lbs they lose, they can spend 30 mins in a locked bedroom with your 12-year-old daughter. While daughter is becoming a woman, you can go spend some me-time at a local strip club.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "1) stand in the locker room and jerk off while using a doughnut for a cock ring.\n2) put weight limit signs on your favorite machines.\n3) be sure to mutter the word 'Fatty Boom Ba Latty' under your breath at all times. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "You should intermittently make loud mooing noises, then when they glare at you, claim to have Tourette's.\n\n*Edit:* Downvoted because this is actually excellent advice. :/", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Call all of them bro and rub/touch them everywhere any chance you get. I think an overly friendly suspected jacked up motherfucker that looks like he could fuck a coke machine would make me change gyms.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Wait until they're on the machine you want to use, then stand with your groin as close to their face as you can get without being arrested, and repeatedly tell them about how you finished your set on the last machine and are waiting for them to finish on the machine they're on. \n\nWhen they're done, don't actually use the machine, just stand in front of the nearest mirror, flex as hard as you can, and stare them down in the reflection.\n\nAlso, don't wipe anything down when you're finished using it and stare at their cocks in the changing room.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Rub bacon fat on all the workout machines. I have no idea what it will do, but it will still be awesome.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "215.745.5966 \r\ni'm not sure where in pennsylvania you are, but theres the number for planned parenthood in philly.\r\n\r\nshe should at least be able to get all of her questions answered, and they won't make her report it to the police. they do pregnancy testing/hiv testing/std testing in that location also (plus counseling services).\r\n\r\nmost importantly, support her. this is all her decision and she needs you too be there for her now while she processes the trauma. best of luck...", "score": 5 }, { "body": "All women should know this:\n\nIf you get raped, go to a hospital right away! They have anti-viral medications that can reduce your risk of getting HIV, but they need to be administered as soon as possible.\n\n", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Is there any interest in an OSS NCurses based client for MySQL written in Python? I'll start a sourceforge project if enough people care.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "most any movie that is heavy on symbolism and allegories...or mind-fuck movies.\n\n*Waking Life*\n\n*The Beach; 28 Days Later; Sunshine*\n\n*The Fountain*\n\n*Fight Club*\n\n*Momento*\n\n*The Jacket*\n\n*Jacobs Ladder*\n\n*Life as a House* has always stuck with me because i saw it based on a recommendation from my father.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I highly recommend: [Radiant Recovery](http://www.radiantrecovery.com). The program has changed my life. The founder has stated that she feels it's very difficult to diagnose bipolar accurately for people with sugar sensitive biochemistry. It's good that you're reaching out.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Dude...\n\nFirst: I smell a shitstorm of nasty, angry and sarcastic posts on the way...\n\nSecond: The answer to your quest - two little letters - DO.\nJust do stuff - don't worry about success, don't think and plan, don't worry and fret - just do something. Your first efforts will be SHIT! Do stuff again. It will be better.\n\nIt's like exercise. The first litle while - it's hard; then it's easy. The trick is to DO.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Ask yourself: \"Will my daughter still respect me when she is old enough to understand what I'm doing with my life?\" If you can put yourself in her shoes and honestly say 'yes', then don't worry about it. It's your life, and if you love your daughter and make sure you're the best part of her life you can be, who cares about the rest? I'd have given anything for my dad just to be there for me when I was growing up. I didn't care that he was almost penniless and had no ambition. What he should have cared about is the fact that my sister and I grew up knowing that he was a deadbeat. :(", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I am the same way. If you want to change it, you need to do something drastic. If you spend too much time on Reddit, Xbox, TV, or whatever. GET RID OF IT. It'll be a really difficult to do, but once you make a big step like that, you'll be mentally more ready to do the little things. That or don't change and just learn to deal with it. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Is this my husband? seriously. Why don't you just talk to me and we can figure this out together? ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Is there anything particularly green about open source? Or is open source \"going green,\" or what? It reads like you're just making a baseless statement about the current zeitgeist similar to the commonly seen hot topic t-shirt quote, \"pink is the new black.\" ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I think I understand what you're saying. There's a certain community, self-identifying aspect to 'going green', and there's certainly a strong community around open source software. The dynamic is similar.\n\nMost of the non-technical programs I now use are open source or freeware, by choice (without any real allegiances to open source in general), because generally I find them to be better programs. \n\nDRM is a pain in the ass, and proprietary closed-source software tends to be over-bulky and over-festooned, full of stuff that 'justifies cost' but sometimes goes way beyond what the program needs to do. Updating paid software also tends to be more of an asspain. \n\nOpen source software can be buggier out of the gate, but in my experience the bugs get ironed out more quickly and there's usually a lot more dialogue between end users and programmers. It's more of a hive arrangement as opposed to the top-down arrangement of proprietary software, and the result is sometimes a better product (and sometimes a much better product).\n\nI do think open source has a strong future ahead of it for sure.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I like women's eyeshadow to look like this:\nhttp://www.greatfunnypictures.com/pictures/1915_2642.jpg\n:)", "score": 13 } ]

[ { "body": "I couldn't get past 'Mack' heading to the 'Shack' and put it down after a few pages.\n\n\n* Tim Keller - The Reason for God\n* Dr. Francis Collins - The Language of God\n* Thomas Merton - Seeds of Contemplation, No man is an Island\n* Henri Nouwen - The Inner Voice of Love\n* Donald Miller - Blue Like Jazz, Searching for God Knows What\n* N.T. Wright - Surprised by Hope\n* Dallas Willard - Celebration of Discipline\n* Shane Claibourne - Irresistable Revolution\n\n", "score": 18 }, { "body": "I wrote this comment earlier, but it seems to have disappeared:\n\n* GK Chesterton.\n* CS Lewis, particularly 'The Screwtape Letters', one of my favourite books.\n* Gene Wolfe (Catholic; writes sci-fi, but IMHO is one of the best living writers in any genre). A lot of his writing isn't overtly religious, yet my favourite (The Book of the New Sun) is almost entirely Catholic allegory.\n* Graham Greene (also Catholic)\n* Orson Scott Card (Mormon). I enjoyed 'Ender's Game' very much, and the sequel 'Speaker for the Dead' quite clearly reflects the time he spent in Brazil as a missionary. I gave up reading his books after his recent campaign against homosexuals.\n* Walter M. Miller (Catholic), \"A Canticle for Leibowitz\"\n* Frank E. Peretti (Evangelical?) writes passible Christian thrillers, but I really wouldn't rank him with the other authors I have listed.\n\n\nFor what it's worth, I shared your dissatisfaction with 'The Shack'. Not only was the writing really quite amateur, but it gave only glib answers to the issues it purported to tackle, and I found what little \"humour\" there was present shallow to the point of being quite nauseating.", "score": 13 }, { "body": "The Bible.\n\nI recently discovered Chesterton. Good stuff there.\n\nSt Augustine.\n\nSt Thomas Aquinas.\n\nSt Teresa of Avila\n\nSt. John of the Cross\n\n", "score": 11 }, { "body": "I think her theology is batshit insane (in fact when her devil talks it sounds to me more like God) but Flannery O'Connor is a fantastic writer. Certainly provides an interesting perspective on Christianity. \n\nI'd also recommend Silence by Shusaku Endo, which is a piece of historical fiction about a Jesuit missionary in 17th century Japan. Relates closely to Teresa of Avila.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "Dostoevski and Tolstoi are both Christians. Their novels often incorporate Christian themes as part of a more general work of fiction.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "I second the following recommendations:\n\n* CS Lewis (Screwtape, Mere Christianity)\n* St Augustine (City of God)\n* St Teresa of Avila (El Castillo Interior)\n* St John of the Cross (Dark night of the Soul)\n\n* And add Joseph Addison (\"Visions of Mirza\")\n* Add Dante Alighieri for that medieval flare\n* Add Milton for Paradise Lost/Found\n* John Bunyan (Pilgrim's Progress)\n\nAnd now your 2 biggest modern-era Christian philosophers: George Berkeley and Georg Hegel, plus, the vicar whose writings influenced the better Christian writings of Ralph W. Emerson and Thomas Carlyle, *John Sterling*--very hard to find his writings, but look for his letter-exchanges with Emerson, the quality of the prose is...angelic) \n\nThrow in Henri Bergson. Also, literary, Keats and Coleridge touch on more than a few Christian themes, as does William Blake. You go to the classics and your seeing firsthand who inspired these contemporary Christian novelists. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Hi. I'm diagnosed bipolar as well. Have been for 10 years now. I don't have much rapid cycling to speak of, in general I have very high manic swings that lead to acute mania and sometimes manic psychosis. For those I've been hospitalized a total of 6 times. After those, I usually have a pretty serious, bed-ridden depression.\n\nI want to preface the following with... I have no great advice... we're clearly different, so yeah...\n\nDrinking is bad, try to lower that a bit here and there. Sip your drinks longer, get the occasional soda or water if you're at a bar.\n\nAdmitting yourself will not do anything if you are not willing to take meds. In general, most hospitals, etc. will just try to get you compliant with meds. Either new ones you've never taken or ones you haven't complied with previously.\n\nI'm currently on 5 medications. I remember thinking when I first started taking them that they had destroyed my life... my very essence of being. I guess I've lightened up since then.\n\nThe thing that has always helped me the most over the past decade has been good psychotherapists... I mean psychiatrists who are also therapists and can give me 30-60 minutes a week or so to talk about meds and my mood. The **good** part is important. It's very easy to get into a loop of seeing an *ok* or even *bad* psychiatrist, when really you should get to someone you actively like and who actively helps you.\n\nI'm going to stop with the random advice, but if you have questions please ask them. I'm also in grad school, but let me tell you being hospitalized puts the gradual in grad school.", "score": 5 } ]

[ { "body": "The comments are absolutely unacceptable. What's especially troubling is all of the name calling, especially the cunts and bitches thrown her way. This attitude is unfortunately rather rampant all over the internet, not many people seem to respect anyone's dignity, and if that someone is a woman, they care even less.\n\nIt's to the point where in this case, people think they are being witty, saying things like \"I don't get why people keep defending her. She blew off the yellow rose kid how many times now, blew off Seth Rogen after asking him to stay out on the set when she came out? At some point people need to realize she's just an egotistical cunt.\" This armchair chauvinism, calling her an \"egotistical bitch\", is troubling because it seems to suggest that there is a expectation by the commenter that the woman must accept the peck on the cheek. It's a dangerous proposition.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "God damn it if I hear someone telling \"He fell out of the guard tower\" joke.\n\nI'm going to locate you with some CSI software, fly to your place, dress as a clown and rape you shouting \"WHO'S THE FUNNY GUY NOW\"\n\nSeriously. That joke is old and retarded.\n\nEDIT: oh hi, bargainmusic", "score": 17 }, { "body": "Serious questions and please be honest: \n\n* What does your grandfather think about palestinian? What is his idea of a possible solution to the Israeli/Palestinian conflict\n\n* Was he in a concentration camp? if yes, what did they eat on a daily basis? \n\n* Does he still hates germans for what they did to him?", "score": 11 }, { "body": "I have received evidence that establishes to my satisfaction that 1) The grandfather and grandmother spoken of are/were Holocaust survivors and 2) OP is the grandson of these two individuals. ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Did they lose their belief in the theistic God? My grandparents made it to the USA one generation before WW2 so they were safe, but their cousins certainly weren't, and my grandparents are not believers. I don't know if they'd attribute their non-belief to the Holocaust itself, but it certainly shook the foundations of Jewish faith.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I have a cat of the variety sometimes called \"Kitler\" - that is, she has facial markings that resemble a Hitler mustache. I named her Eva, after Eva Braun. I think it's funny, cute, and harmless.\r\n \r\nDoes this offend you?", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Does he or you get offended when people compare things such as proposed health reform to the Holocaust? ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Are you sure it isn't a bad idea to ask your grandfather these types of questions at his age?\n\nHow old is he? How old was he when he escaped or was rescued? How much time did he spend in the concentration camps?", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I have a bunch of questions.... \n\nHave you ever visited any of the camps? \nIf you have , what was it like knowing your family was there? \nHave any of the surviving family members ever gone back? \nDid they immigrate to the US or Israel right away?(if the US first, why did he move to Israel?) \n\n\nI had the opportunity to visit sachsenhausen over the summer and it was the eeriest feeling ever knowing what happened there to \"my people\". I cant imagine how much weirder it would have been if my immediate family who was there. \n\nThanks for the AMA....soon enough there wont be any survivors to answer these questions anymore, which sucks. Hearing a holocaust survivor speak was one of the most intense things I've experienced, its not the same reading their stories in books, ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Did what your family went through have any impact on your personal decisions regarding religion, intermarriage, etc.?", "score": 3 }, { "body": "What do you think about the school of thought that if there is no one left to tell the story, than we (humanity) will forget (not that we do such a great job at learning the lessons, but...)?", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "> Hey Reddit, what's with the complete lack of maturity and respect?\n\nFTFY.\n\nYou can't take offense at every little comment you disagree with. Sometimes people are joking. Sometimes people are assholes. Get over it.", "score": 5 } ]

[ { "body": "Here’s what happens:\n\nThe very first genetic modifications will be to correct for inherited defects. Genes known to cause cancer, heart and liver disease will be eliminated. \n\nGenetic birth defects will be tackled, and genes favoring longevity will probably be thrown into the mix.\n\nThe line will blur a little, as genetic modifications start to correct for things like skin tone- if you’re trying to avoid a complexion likely to get melanomas, than why not choose a pleasing tan color while you’re at it?\n\nBaldness will be eliminated next, as there is surely an ocean of money for anyone who cracks that chestnut. Eliminating the genes that cause obesity will follow, then bad cholesterol and other easily identified genetic predispositions. I would bet good money that autism is on the that list. \n\nGenetic immunizations will be next- I’ve read that up to 10% of Russians are immune to HIV, some people are genetically predisposed to naturally fight off cancers… these traits will be put into a database, and eventually will become a common concoction for introduction into new babies.\n\nEventually we’ll be able to work on more complicated problems, like tooth and jaw alignments, breast and penis size, natural muscle tone- all the things that require dealing with the combination of multiple genes and tissues.\n\nEnhancements in intelligence will be last- both because of social taboos, and the technical difficulty both in correcting such a complicated system, and in measuring success. Can you increase analytical skills without sacrificing creativity? Yes, of course you can- but on the first or second try?\n\nCuring aging will be the holy grail of genetic engineering- and it will come in time. Unfortunately we don’t know of any mammals that don’t age, so the genetic manipulations will be more difficult. We’ve created some bacteria and perhaps even slightly more complicated life forms which do not age- so I bet immortality isn’t as far off as most people imagine.\n\nGenetic fixes that allow for better healing (the re-growth of chopped off limbs, or the more efficient repair of nerve damage) will be coming around this time as well.\n\nBy this time, we will have computers which will be able to simulate the entire lifespan of a creature based on a sample of DNA. We will be able to do What-You-See-Is-What-You-Get programming of genetic codes. This will have a huge impact on crime-fighting as well, because it will mean that finding a suspect’s DNA will yield a 3d image of the suspect (minus any scars, etc).\n\nThe next step in genetic therapy will be body modifications and enhancements. It will start with pure cosmetics like eye and hair color selection- but it will quickly skyrocket into more exotic things. The predictable ones are:\n\nPointy Vulcan-like (or elfish) ears.\nFangs.\nUnnatural eye, nail, teeth and skin colors.\nDevil horns.\nCat tails, ears and whiskers. (very hot, ladies).\nDual sex organs, (2 of a kind or mix & match).\nAn extra breast.\nExtra Arms\nAngle Wings and Demon Wings (not flightworthy, sorry- but they’ll look awesome)\nChameleon Skin\n \nBy this late stage, we will be working on linking computers to the human brain. There will be genetic modifications which will make such connections more efficient.\n\nNow computers and humans will be at the level when we can start *really* having fun.\n\nWe’ll start creating creatures **FROM SCRATCH**. Want to have a pet unicorn? No problem. Unicorn is too big? How about one that can stand in the palm of your hand?\n\nA fire-breathing dragon? Okay, that’s gonna be tricky, but I’ll have it for you by Tuesday.\n\nThen of course there will be the custom-made humans. Imagine creating a whole person from scratch- not a modified combination of two sex-cells, but an actual, piece-by-piece, parentless human.\n\nThe world will start to look like a fantasy novel at some point- with talking animals, mythical creatures, and humans with cat-eyes (because it’s all the rage)!\n\nThe final and most difficult trick of DNA modification will be in creating full-body transformation programs. You want to be a minotaur? How about a mermaid? What about a centaur because your girlfriend has always wanted to be with a half-man-half-horse? Easy- just swallow this pill, and over the course of the next few years, your body will evolve in a pleasant way to make all your dreams come true! Don’t like it, come back at any time and we’ll start transforming you back to normal.\n\nEventually our computer-linked brains will allow us to borrow and trade all sorts of exotic bodies. Every wanted to know what it was like to be Cary Grant? Step right in. Want to be an eagle for the day? How about a pterodactyl? T-Rex will cost you extra. There is a waiting-list to spend the day as Godzilla and King Kong.\n\nFinally, someday out of boredom, we may just drop the seeds of new life on different planets all over the galaxy. Perhaps that’s how we got here in the first place- sprinkled out on the rocks by lonely aliens- waiting for us to grow up and keep them company.\n---\ntl;dr: What about a centaur because your girlfriend has always wanted to be with a half-man-half-horse? Easy- just swallow this pill.", "score": 40 } ]

[ { "body": "They're certainly not for everyone. Try these.\n\n[What Would I Want? Sky](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJK-XA-VmK0)\n\n[Fireworks](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W6KPDWNAPBU)\n\n[Grass](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAGhozAzfQg)\n\n[Loch Raven](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_c6VKN2oISM)\n\n[Who Could Win a Rabbit](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UTbd0Ncsyus)", "score": 13 }, { "body": "Oh good, another one of these.\n\nAny band that are considered the \"critic's darlings\" will have detractors. You will either like them or you won't. Now, as you say they don't connect for you, you're better off ignoring them. Asking someone to explain why they see music as good when it doesn't connect for you personally is an exercise in frustration...\n\nAnd now for a million different redditors giving their extreme opinion of this band...", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I can really take or leave Animal Collective. They just never really resonated with me. However, I do like [Panda Bear's side stuff](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIZvHoqQgyk) quite a bit.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I outsource, unless the budget is really low, then I have to do it myself, the product doesn't come out the same.\nDesigners know aesthetics, and I can recognize good design work but to do it myself it's a totally different story, i will eventually come up with something nice, but it will take me 5X longer than a professional designer, I am a developer, and sometimes just to get more clients/work going at the same time, i outsource coding too, just to get things done quicker, i don't like making my clients to wait for me, so I get somebody else to do it for me and then just tell them exactly what i need to get done, and how i want it done.\n\nI do the same for SEO, the SEO guy gives me the recommendations/changes, and I just make the money for coding those changes.\n\nIf you don't have enought clients then it's not very profitable, but If you can have many projects running at the same time, then it's all good.\n\nAlso, i use the same people all the time, and they outsource my services too, for example, the designers are able to offer websites that they design and I code for them, same thing with my SEO guy, i code his sites, validate them, optimize based on his instructions... but you have to create your own circle of trusted people, otherwise it wont work very well.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I do all my own graphics - probably because that's the only thing I'm half-decent at.\n\nEven still, I've been known to spend weeks working on just 1 logo, so the process isn't really sped up just because I know Photoshop.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "It depends. Some clients send us a .psd or .ai file to work with, and if it's a good design, I'll just slice it and code it. But most of those designs are made by the client's nephew/cousin/priest, so I take the general idea and redesign it. Of course, we rarely have any sort of design sent to us, so I make everything from scratch, slice it and code it. I've done this for years now, so I'm kind of used to it.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I design the site in PS and carve up the parts of the design and turn it into HTML, I thought this was standard practice?", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "I reread books that I love- if it takes long or short, it doesn't matter. I've already read it and can put it down whenever.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I always have a Men's Health issue in my bathroom. I try not to stay too much time there since I've heard that spending too much time sitting in the toilet give you hemorrhoids.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Lack of frontal lobe inhibition perhaps? When not sleep deprived, there is a large amount of prefrontal cortex (part of the frontal lobe) activity inhibiting bottom-up processes such as object identification in the visual pathways (top-down processing/inhibition to cancel out hallucinations or in your case, patterns in stone). When you are sleep deprived, then there is less top-down inhibition and the bottom-up processes manifest to a larger degree. This is similar to what happens when you get drunk, where ethanol reduces cortical activity, thus reducing frontal love inhibition by reducing prefrontal cortex activity.\n\nEDIT (Clarification after some more thought):\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circadian_rhythm#Determining_the_human_circadian_rhythm\n\nHow blood melatonin concentrations affect prefrontal cortex or central nervous system behavior in general is a hell lot more complicated. Core body temp may have something to do with controlling capillary blood flow in the cortex, but, I just don't know. Wait about three months and I'll give you an answer.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "It's kind of sad if that's what passes for a girl gamer in most guys' minds. As for \"who's gonna bring you sandwiches if she's gaming, too\", goddamn. Seriously? I don't think the writer has met any real gamer girls. He's just filling up the list with unpleasant stereotypes, imo. \n\n\"LOL, Girl gamers think Plants Vs. Zombies is a hardcore game! They think they're so pro because of their mindless button smashing abilities - how annoyingly girly!\" -__- I know it's supposed to be humorous, but I wish articles like this would give some credit to the non-attention-whoring, decent geek girls out there.\n\nEdit: The author is a woman. :P ", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Pogo brand Pogos. Trust me. Cook them right in the microwave (not too long so they are still soft) and they are amazing. I even prefer them without ketchup. These things got me through university and I still buy a 20 pack about every two weeks or so. Nothing I have ever had tasted so good for the 2 minutes it takes to cook in the microwave. I have heard no name is just as good and cheaper but I have not tried them because I don't want to regret a pogo purchase :P.\n\nKimchi bowls or Mr Noodles obviously. And experiment with them. Try soya sauce in them. Try some curry powder. Try random spices. It is awesome.\n\nHot Chocolate mix/packets with marshmallows.. WTF this is the greatest most satisfying drink in the winter and you make it in seconds. And you can buy huge packet boxes for cheap.\n\nFor Juice always pay the big bucks because it is worth it. Fruitopia Strawberry Watermelon/Kiwi flavors are the best juices ever made. Expensive and will be drank that same day probably but fuck it is good.\n\nAlso a bit pricey but Spicy Mortadella is the greatest cold meat I have ever had. I always pick up a package or two of that. Or if they have a good deli try getting it from there.\n\nTry Lays Sweet Chili flavor chips. Best flavor to come out in a long time. \n\nSausage rolls are amazing. \n\nCup a soups are fucking amazing. Make in seconds. Stay simple here tho IMO and just get Chicken Noodle. Add a bit of extra salt and some pepper and become addicted.\n\nExpensive gourmet soups will blow your fucking mind. They are not cheap but wow. Especially the tomato flavored expensive ones. I hate cambells tomato soup but the expensive ones are amazing. \n\nGo to a bulk store and buy a large bag of peanuts/espresso beans(chocolate flavored :D)/Party Mix. Cheap snacks that are always great.\n\nGood vegetable crackers and pâté or good cheese is amazing and you can eat like a fancy British person.\n\nHave fun :D\n\n\n", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "My husband and I do Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred. It has 3 difficulty levels and each level is only 20 minutes long. You only need a yoga mat and some hand weights (they use 3lbs on the dvd). I prefer to exercise in the morning before work, seems like I have more energy.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Good job. I really hope they see reason here. Unfortunately, though, we are in a recession. Stations are likely hurting for advertisers, so they might not be easy to convince. Just keep telling them until they get the message. Maybe organise a boycott or a petition.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "> Now, the reason for my question is that the self-proclaimed Anarchists of reddit appear to utterly hate libertarians and the idea of a free market.\n\nIf they're anarchists, what do they propose to do about a free market, outlaw it?", "score": 14 }, { "body": "It's strange to hear that anarchists \"utterly hate\" libertarians. Shows how meanings shift.\n\nThe political term \"libertarian\" was [coined by an anarcho-communist](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Libertarianism#Usage_by_anti-property_movements), to avoid a French ban on anarchist literature. A century later, classical liberals in the US appropriated the term for themselves. As I understand, in the rest of the world (outside the US and maybe UK), libertarian retains its historically accurate meaning... what people in the US would call libertarian socialism.\n", "score": 12 }, { "body": "I wrote [this](http://newkindofmind.blogspot.com/2009/10/difference-between-libertarianism-and.html) to explain what I see as the difference. Essentially libertarianism is about ethics and anarchism is about opposition to authority. Here's a good [video](http://www.youtube.com/user/brainpolice2#p/u/50/kY3D9ie-SfY) on the different types of libertarianism and anarchism.\n\nThe problem with many people who call themselves anarchists is that they argue for the abolition of one hierarchy in favor a new moral hierarchy (such as the idea that private property is evil without consideration of its possible benefits). The truest form of anarchism, imho, is egoism of the [Max Stirner](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Max_Stirner) variety.\n\nI'm very friendly to all varieties of anarchism which actually involve actual opposition to arbitrary authority. This is referred to as \"[Anarchism Without Adjectives](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anarchism_without_adjectives).\" \"Brainpolice\" has a pretty good [explanation](http://polycentricorder.blogspot.com/2009/10/two-sided-dillema.html) of why both rhetorical extremes of the anarchist spectrum are at risk of becoming authoritarian.\n\nI actually consider myself more of an anarchist than a libertarian because the former is rooted in the reality of power relationships and the latter is rooted in subjective values of good and evil. David Friedman has an excellent [essay](http://www.daviddfriedman.com/Libertarian/Machinery_of_Freedom/MofF_Chapter_41.html) on the topic. I came to the same conclusions on my own, but he states them perfectly. Definitely recommend reading.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "The animosity goes both ways until they start to understand each other. I used to think that it was absurd to have socialism (which I equated with a planned economy) and anarchy at the same time. Anarchy, I figured, was necessarily anarcho-capitalism. Communism is where everybody is obligated to work for other people, right? How do you call that freedom? How do you even do that without a government? This seemed absurd.\n\nWhile I'm no left-anarchist at this point, I'm starting to see that it's not so much about helping others, as about not having private property (or the same said from a different angle, not having heirarchy), and whatever the consequential structure would follow from that. People *do* care about each other, to a certain extent. I guess the conclusion is that people would tend to cooperate and work things out, just like people cooperate and peacefully compete in capitalism. I also think that people do care for themselves as well, so I'm not convinced it'll work, but my mind is a lot more open to it than it was before. I think I see some of the flaws they point out in capitalism. I have a hunch that the right approach is in some middle ground. (And, so far, I'm not impressed by Mutualism)", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I find myself in the same position as you. I tried making sense of it by posting [this](http://www.reddit.com/r/Anarchism/comments/ajlxo/why_are_there_different_types_of_anarchism/).\n\n\nWhat it seems to come down to, as with many other issues, is that people's definitions \"capitalism\" and \"free market\" are different. Libertarians are in the minority in their definition of free-market capitalism.", "score": 6 }, { "body": ">Now, the reason for my question is that the self-proclaimed Anarchists of reddit appear to utterly hate libertarians and the idea of a free market.\n\nIt depends on the libertarian, it depends on the anarchist, and it depends on the definition of 'free market'. If you mean some medium of exchange, where pricing information flows freely and organically, you'd be hard-pressed to find an anarchist who is against it. \n\nWhen I say 'it depends on the libertarian', I mean if you have a Strict US Constitutionalist they're not going to get along because the Constitution isn't a very libertarian document. (I see why property rights and freedom of speech are ideals, but where is incorporation and IP laws a natural 'right'?) Some Libertarians reject incorporation as a legally protected entity and IP rights because they're not very 'natural' and are just another form of oppressive hierarchy that stifles the way the market, and people function.\n\nThe opposition you see to Libertarianism from Anarchists (most of them anyway) is similar to the opposition elsewhere. Maximizing the efficiency of the market is not as widely believed to maximize the freedom of its participators or the welfare of the people outside of (some of) Libertarian thought.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I think anarchism is the logical extension of libertarianism.... but libertarianism is the pragmatic step to the ends.... one that may be the final end given human nature if we could amass support for liberty.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "/r/anarchism are anarcho-communists and anarcho-syndicalists, primarily. They consider anarcho-capitalism to be \"invalid\" because it does not stem from the historic tradition of communistic anarchism.\n\nI contend that any political philosophy that delegitimizes the state is a form of anarchy. So to me, anarchy is an inclusive term that includes communist/syndicalist/capitalist forms.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "If I had to choose between taking advice from an MD or the collective wisdom of the Reddit stoner gang, I think I'll go with the MD.", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "This is a result of the autumn Daylight Saving: On November 1, reddit served 25 hours' worth of traffic. That extra hour of uptime has been clogging things up ever since, and we need to compensate for it tonight with an hour of downtime.", "score": 228 }, { "body": "An ex-girlfriend and i used to use the term \"maintenance\" for general genital grooming. Will you be shaving the alien tonight?", "score": 31 }, { "body": "In a completely unrelated story, thousands of internet nerds are expected to have a sudden surge in productivity starting tonight at around 10pm Pacific time.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "This could be a better stimulus plan to push us out of recession than anything B.O. could dream up. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Why is it Google Calculator can't do time conversions yet? I want [this](http://www.google.com/search?q=10pm+PST+in+CST) to work.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "\"I sense a great disturbance in the Force, as if millions of voices suddenly cried out in terror, and were suddenly silenced\"", "score": 5 }, { "body": "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "[Grendel's Den](http://maps.google.com/maps?hl=en&source=hp&um=1&ie=UTF-8&cid=0,0,9007090455592471429&fb=1&hq=grendel's+den&hnear=cambridge&gl=us&daddr=89+Winthrop+Street,+Cambridge,+MA+02138-4929&geocode=720676669468467066,42.372369,-71.120875&ei=QvpES_T5JcqWtgeSzIX2BA&sa=X&oi=local_result&ct=directions-to&resnum=1&ved=0CAwQngIwAA) near Harvard Square. Awesome pub atmosphere with great food and beer.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "If things work out that night then take her to the East Side Grill in the morning. It's right in cambridge and it's a really cool mexican breakfast/ brunch spot and they have an awesome make your own bloody mary bar. Not all that pricey either.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Shay's in Harvard Square is fantastic, but it gets crowded on a weekend night. They have drinks & food & generally great music.\n\nFor coffee or similar, Algiers Coffee House in Harvard Square, or Andala in Central. If you go to Andala and things are going well, pop in to Green Street Grill for amazing cocktails and the daily cure.\n\nhttp://www.yelp.com/biz/shays-pub-and-wine-bar-cambridge \nhttp://www.yelp.com/biz/algiers-coffee-house-cambridge \nhttp://www.andalacafe.com/home.php \nhttp://www.greenstreetgrill.com/ ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Lucky's Lounge - when I was single 8 years ago, all my match.com first dates took me there.\n\nDali - where my husband took me on our first date. The Indian restaurant across the street is also good.\n\nRiver Gods - the decor is a good conversation starter. \n\nHighland Kitchen - great food, atmosphere, service\n\nLord Hobo's - used to be the B-side lounge. \n\nMiracle of Science - go to the MIT Museum before/after... if you luck out, maybe there'll be a chocolate truck making a delivery next door. If you ask nicely, they'll give you a cup of chocolate...\n\nDeep Ellum in Allston - gastro-pubby, extensive beer list, fun people watching, and the food is very good. \n\n\n\n\n", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Border Cafe is great - kind of on the more \"upbeat\" side, but still a fun experience none the less. \n\nIf you want to head over to Boston - Ice Skating in the Frog Pond would be another good idea. \n\nhttp://www.bordercafe.com/ ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I just went to The Friendly Toast in Kendall Square for the first time. Seems like a good place for a first date - lots of stuff there to look at and talk about, good conversation starters, excellent food, and very casual.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Tu Y Yo in Somerville, outside Davis Square, has killer Mexican food.\n\nAlso, The Harvard Museum of Natural History is a hidden gem where you can spend hours looking at everything from stuffed dodo's to INSANE glass flowers.\n\nhttp://www.hmnh.harvard.edu/\n\nNow that the snow has come, may I suggest Robbins Farm Park in Arlington, for the best sledding/skyline views around? Follow it up with a pie from Za (or an ACTUAL pie, from Petsi's Pies), if the date is going well, you can get them to go ;)\n\nhttp://www.robbinsfarmpark.org/\n\nFinally, the Somerville Theater (again, in Davis) has live shows on the weekends, and it is the only place I know of in Boston where you can enjoy a \"Brew 'n View\". (Movie theater with a bar)\n\nhttp://www.somervilletheatreonline.com/somerville/index.php", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Bee Hive in the south end. Interesting look and feel, slightly romantic atmosphere, live jazz, great food. A bit pricey though.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "If he's anything like I was (and he probably is), he'll just flat out deny it until he's ready to tell you. If my roommate asked me, all he would accomplish is make me lie more to his face and make me feel worse about myself and give me quite the stir. Ugh, terrible feeling. \n\nIf I were you I would ignore it but let him know through side talk or casual conversation that you are an ally so that when he is ready, he'll come to you. For example, bring up a gay news story, gay marriage (only when you are on the topic) or maybe ask if he'll join you in a march (if you are comfortable, I know it can be hard for you to put yourself out there. You have to be comfortable with it, too). Also make sure you don't give off the vibe that you are gay because he may take your signals as you yourself being gay and, well, you know. Tricky, isn't it? \n\nJust be there and be a good friend and seem open to new ideas. It makes it really hard to come out to someone who makes gay jokes all the time and uses \"fag\" as an insult. \n\nAs for the phase thing, I doubt it. Good luck; you're a great friend.\n\nEDIT: Forcing someone to come out is usually a pretty bad thing as you end up opening Pandora's Box, so to speak. If you force him to come out to you, then he'll worry you would tell someone. Then he'll be forced to start telling people himself and soon enough, his family and it's over. Let him stay in control of his own life. He probably thinks about it every day already.", "score": 13 }, { "body": "First off, you are awesome. People like you make a huge difference to the lives of LGBT. Depending on how much effort you want to go to heres some things you might try.\n\n- Figure out how out he is. If he's watching gay porn he's obviously recognised on some level that he's one of the queers, all though don't rule out the possibility of some serious doublethink going on. Does he have any friends you know are gay? Then he's probably okay. Does he pretend to be straight? Not so much okay, a lot of gay people go through a stage where they won't tell people the truth but they also can't lie about it. If he's not pretending (eg. talking about how girls are hot, how he envisions the future with girlfriends or wives) or is just quiet on the topic of his sexuality then I'd just take the direct approach and say 'Hey I know you're gay, and that's fine with me.'\n\n- Assess the risk to yourself if it goes haywire. Closet cases can be mentally unstable. I know I was. Depending on what stage he's at, an attempt by you could backfire leading him to accuse you of all sorts of things like you being gay and tell other people this and try to fuck up your life. I've seen people do it.\n\n- Make it clear to him that you are straight but gay friendly. Neither of you want him to be crushing on you. \n\n- Maybe introduce him to some gay people. This could work before or after he knows you know. If there's someone you know who's gay and you get along with see if you can hang out with them together. He may be more comfortable opening up to gay people of the opposite gender. For first steps into the gay world they can be less threatening and less complicating. So specifically if you know any lesbians I'd introduce him.\n\n- If he knows that anything he tells you will stay in confidence then this will make him feel more safe about opening up to you.\n\n- Maybe find a tv show or something that you would both like that has positive depictions of gay male characters and watch it together. I'm not saying watch Queer as Folk with him, but someone mentioned Torchwood which has straight characters as well. I'm not a guy so I don't know much about their tv shows but you could try AfterElton.com for some options.\n\nFeel free to ask me any questions. I don't think you're prying.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I don't have anything of substance to add, but I just want to say that I think you are an incredibly good and kind friend, and that you have gotten some terrific advice here. Just be yourself, be a friend, be cool. The rest will come. I wish I had had someone like you in my life 20 years ago when I was going through this. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "You could try making up a story about being hit on by a guy somewhere at sometime. It would've been is passing of course, but afterwards you felt pretty good about yourself 'cause you've never had that happen before. It'd be something that he'd see made your day, but wasn't really a big deal. ", "score": 3 } ]