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[ { "body": "For what it's worth, I'm sorry for having accused you of trolling. I'd have rathered you were trolling so your family wouldn't actually be going through all this, but I'm glad to hear that it's going as well as it is. Best of luck to you.", "score": 231 }, { "body": "You are in for a rough ride. My advice, sometimes stupid stuff works. An example to see what I mean:\n\nMy girlfriend once totally flipped out after being unable to put together a dresser from Ikea. It was bad, she was out of her mind. I purchased a package of Swedish Fish from the candy shop, and we abused the hell out of them. We burned them, hit them with hammers, cut them... Sounds stupid, but it worked. \n\nIf your wife has issues, try thinking outside the box, and distract her from her issues. Of course, your problem sounds a bit more serious, but I think the theory is sound. ", "score": 127 }, { "body": "Wow. Where to start...\n\nOk, so you seem to be doing better. That's good. Your family unit is back together. Your wife is aware of what happened. You are hopeful of a future and there is no immediate physical danger to anyone.\n\nYou need to get a second, and maybe a third opinion as to your wife's diagnosis. Personality disorders are a very very hardcore diagnosis. \n\nYour second psychiatrist will probably not agree with the 'mild' borderline diagnosis. Planning a divorce for months and executing in front of children is not mild. Neither is a psychotic break (her thinking the children are not hers).\n\nYour first pdoc keeps going about 'panic attacks'. Excuse - panic attack - wtf? Walking out on a marriage and family while delusional is not a panic attack.\n\nWas she put on any anti-psychotics - risperdal, seroqual, etc?\n\nThe depression part of her diagnosis is almost a given. Especially since you said she has a history of suicidal thoughts. The anti depressants might help a little right now, but the root problem is something else.\n\nThe group therapy -as long as she participates - will be useful at first. So will the individual therapy. If she truly wants to manage herself, she has a lot to learn about her behavior and how to manage her emotions. Also how to express them in non-destructive manners.\n\nAs for part 2 - you need something more. You should not be expected to 'take care' of a person with a personality disorder, and also expect to have a healthy, adult marriage with the same person, and raise the kids, work, clean, etc. That's indentured servitude - not marriage.\n\nPlease, find yourself your own personal therapist, who will only advocate for YOU. Your wife has one - you need the same.\n\nIf you later decide to get divorced, I will be the first to stand up for you - you have done nothing wrong, and should not have to deal with a broken personality as half of your psyche/life.\n\nSorry I sound like a total asshole. \n\nI don't mean to be. It's just I think a single psychiatrist's word is NOT golden, especially when it comes to the most controversial diagnosis possible - that of a personality disorder - and something as relationship/life-destroying as you went through.\n", "score": 98 }, { "body": "A friend of mine is a clinical psychologist, and I've heard some stories about what BPD can do to people. Even if you do stay together, you *need* to act immediately to take a few precautions.\n\n* Get her name off **everything** -- the bank accounts, credit cards, cars, whatever you can. Impulsive and risky behavior is a hallmark sign of BPD, and you need to be certain that she can't gamble away the house, or sell the children into slavery, or whatever. Speak to your lawyer about this, and involve her therapist as well.\n\n* See a different psychiatrist for yourself. Even if you don't need therapy, simply talking through the situation with someone will likely help keep you grounded. Plus you need someone who will help you through this, as well as preparing you for what could arise.\n\n* See another therapist for her. BPD is one of the most challenging diagnosis to make, and requires incredible expertise. Get as many opinions as you can. Get opinions from experts.\n\n* Document everything. You don't know how your situation may change, so keep your lawyer in the loop in the event that changes might be needed.\n\nBest of luck to you and your family.", "score": 95 }, { "body": "Thank you so much for the update - I think a lot of people here were thinking about you over these last few days and hoping that you, and your family, were okay. As you can tell, everyone here thinks that you are a good man who is handling a very difficult situation in an amazingly brave manner.\r\n\r\nI hope that at least some of your interactions with mental health professionals were positive - I'm not convinced that the psychiatrist you met with was all that helpful for you (maybe for your wife; but I didn't get a warm fuzzy feeling when you described his interactions with you). If you haven't found providers you feel comfortable with, then *please find different providers*. \r\n\r\nYou're probably all in a dark place, and in that place it can be hard to think that you'll ever see the light again -- or to believe that the light you see at the end of the tunnel is not an oncoming train. Surround yourself with other people who can hold onto that hope for you - counselors, psychiatrists, family, friends, and maybe even redditors who *know* it will get better than this, even when you don't. \r\n\r\nAlso, don't forget to have someone whose job it is to check on how *you* are doing - sometimes that gets lost, and no one - not even you - notices that you are having a hard time bearing up under all the weight alone. As odd as it sounds, now is your time to be greedy - ask for, and accept, as much help as you can. \r\n\r\nPractical advice: [here](http://www.bpdfamily.com/book_review/index.htm) is a reading list about Borderline Personality Disorder that might be helpful, from a support group for family members and friends of people with BPD. I hope you were connected with a therapist(s) - the treatment of choice for Borderline Personality Disorder is [Dialetical Behavior Therapy](http://behavioraltech.org/downloads/dbtFaq_Cons.pdf) - [here](http://behavioraltech.org/resources/crd.cfm) is how you can get connected to DBT practitioners or DBT-based support groups in your area if you haven't already received resources. \r\n\r\nBest wishes. ", "score": 70 }, { "body": "I'd like to say something positive, but how can you trust her with your kids when she doesn't believe they're hers?", "score": 39 }, { "body": "Christmasmania,\n\nYou know my story. \n\nI know the heartwarming story is to stay and hope everything is better and I hope it does work out that way for all of you. But if it doesn't, you need to have a plan in place.\n\nWhat are you doing for YOU? You are now the parent to two kids and the caretaker for your wife. This isn't the gig you signed on for. Make lots of allowances for yourself. You are the single-most important variable in this equation. If you aren't there, the whole thing comes tumbling down. You need respite care for the kids and your wife. Find it and make use of it. \n\nWhat happens to the kids if she becomes psychotic? Are the kids old enough to self-protect, meaning get the hell away if she becomes psychotic? Are there neighbors that will allow the kids in if things go bad until you can get there? If not, until she is a hell of a lot more stable, leaving the kids with her probably isn't a good thing.\n\nAre the police aware she is mentally ill? Here in Florida and particularly with my local police department, there are two officers specifically trained to deal with the mentally ill. When he would become agitated, one or both of these guys were dispatched so there was no accidental death by cop because the mentally ill person's actions were misinterpreted as aggressive rather than just irrational. The one time they weren't dispatched, the SWAT team arrived instead to respond to the armed, barricaded man call. \n\nWhere is her family in this? I know they are definitely adversarial in this situation, but if worst comes to worst and she becomes too irrational to stay, will someone on her side take her in? If not, where is she going to go? Your insurance will only pay for very limited mental health coverage if it is like the majority of health insurance policies in the US.\n\nYou chose not to pursue the divorce proceedings for now. You still need to protect yourself financially. Does she have access to your joint funds? If so, I'd change that. I related the story how ex emptied account with forged checks. (We had joint accounts, but he wrote checks on my account that I alone held.) I had to make good on the checks because he wasn't competent to commit a crime and the police wouldn't charge him. \n\nHide the weapons, knives and anything that is an obvious weapon. Yes, pretty much everything can be made into a weapon, I'm just talking about obvious things like knives and guns. Place them under lock and key that only YOU have access to. If she suddenly decides you or the kids are a threat to her, all bets are off. She will self-preserve and that includes harming anything she thinks is a threat.\n\nI don't know where you are in the country, but find NAMI, National Alliance for the Mentally Ill. They are a wealth of information. They are a sounding board, offer help for you and the kids and can offer some concrete suggestions based on the services available in your community.\n\nI lived in this situation for seven years. He never got better and never even really returned to anything resembling his old self. It was and still is heartbreaking. I hope your situation ends better than mine. \n\n", "score": 38 }, { "body": "I'm still way too young to know anything about marriage, but I do know about mental illness in parents. My dad had horrible manic depression, and tried to kill my brother and I several times. Now I'm not saying she's going to try to hurt anyone. Her illness is nothing like my dad's was. As noble as it is to try and save your marriage- and it is noble- make sure you have a good talk with your sons, too. Kids know way more about themselves and their family than you could imagine, even at that age. Ask them what they want, what they feel. Let them know they're part of this too. Because of her diagnosis, this isn't just a marriage issue, it's a family issue, and they need to know they have voices too.", "score": 35 }, { "body": "It may sound odd, but I'm glad your wife is crazy. Otherwise she'd just be a bitch. You never told us what the change was you'd made in the past few months, though.", "score": 26 }, { "body": "Do not under any circumstances put her on Reddit answering questions.\n\nIf you have not already done so, avoid discussing the fact that you told this story and got all this advice from strangers on the Internet about her. If you have, try to just let it go and don't discuss the comments you're reading here.\n\nCan you imagine what her imagination could do running wild misinterpreting the comments in the original thread? It would be totally overwhelming.\n\nReddit acted as a tremendous support network for you in a time you needed it. Please don't make the mistake of thinking it will mean the same thing to your wife, or have the same positive results for her!", "score": 24 }, { "body": "A very close friend of mine suffers from BPD. The BPD took control of her life. She was constantly depressed and irrational and she got anxiety and panic attacks on a daily basis. She would sometimes harm herself and even had to be taken to the hospital on a few occasions. For a few months I lost hope of ever seeing her get better. And at first on a few occasions I would behave like an asshole because I wasn't strong enough to deal with her situation.\r\n\r\nYou will have to constantly convince your wife that what she is feeling is irrational, because she will try to rationalize each and every one of her overreactions as something completely normal and natural. You will also have to convince her that what she is feeling is only temporary and that her life will eventually get much better.\r\n\r\nAfter a year of drugs and therapy my friend is living a normal happy life. She works at a very busy restaurant where other employees have quit because they couldn't handle the constant stress and pressure.\r\nSometimes she gets angry and upset and sometimes she even cries, but her behavior doesn't really deviate from what is expected from a normal person. She is in fact a stronger person than I am in a lot of situations.\r\n\r\nThis year is probably going to be the most difficult year of your lives. I've learned that BPD is a very difficult condition to deal with and many people will tell you that the chances of your wife becoming the person that she once was are uncertain. I just hope that my experience will give you a little hope. It can get better, a lot better. It can even get normal. Good luck.\r\n\r\nFeel free to PM me if you ever need to talk to someone about this difficult situation.\r\n\r\nEdit: Get full blood tests. My friend had concurrent Hypothyroidism and as her thyroid function returned to normal so did her personality. There is no conclusive proof of causation but we think that a faulty thyroid might have triggered an underlying BPD.\r\n \r\nPS. If somebody tries to convince you that modern psychiatry is part of a conspiracy to take money from people without helping them get better and that you should try some ginseng, homeopathy, magnets, crystals or feast and prayer you can tell him that adolfojp wants them to go fuck themselves and die.", "score": 20 }, { "body": "Please don't have her do an AMA. If your wife is trying to recover and manage her mental illness, that doesn't seem like a very safe idea. Having her post her story to a bunch of strangers for comment/approval/critique, keeping in mind that much of reddit is <20y.o., is probably a bad idea...too many variables. Best of luck to your family!", "score": 20 }, { "body": "I usually try to be sarcastic or funny. I have neither. You sir, are awesome. \n\nI think everyone here would have understood if you had decided it was too much to deal with. But it it gives hope to see that you didn't. Cheesy as it sounds, you are inspiring.", "score": 18 }, { "body": "Getting a little close to my own RL details for me but you need help so I'll share. Totally familiar with what you are experiencing. Was married to a BPD/MPD (split diagnosis contested between a couple of doctors). Etiology was sexual abuse from the time she was an infant - and I mean infant. Like you I dealt with \"stuff\" during our relationship (similar to what you described) that looking back would I would consider unacceptable today. Things didn't go into crazyland until an extremely stressful event triggered an episode. Like a switch she was gone. Destructive, suicidal, homicidal... nightmare stuff. Luckily there were no kids... even then it took ME years of therapy and the better part of a decade to recover from the trauma of the crazy period and my sense of guilt loss and pain from what I perceived to be my failure - I couldn't save the woman I loved. \n \nThe thing is -- and I said this in your last thread - You have to survive and you have to take care of your kids. Your wife may be getting medical help now but the ones who need it the most and who ironically will benefit from it the most are you and the children. Do not overlook that need and the priority of that need (higher priority than your wife). \n \nDon't worry about the questions regarding the future of your marriage -- you are in triage mode and should make no radical decisions about the future. You need to let time be your ally here. Buit above all else - you must protect yourself and your kids - and that means therapy. And I'd be quite suspicious of the etiology of her illness. Is there something in the family that may have caused this developmentally (abuse?)? I say this because an awareness of the triggers and the causes (if there are any) will inform your future actions. \n \nGood luck my friend.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "Yeah, this is starting to sound familiar. My girlfriend had a full-blown attack of hypomania. I always though she was a little odd (that's what I liked about her) but now I can see she was bipolar.\n\nShe got an idée fixe from a college sociology class she was teaching, she suddenly decided she was \"ghetto\" (she's a middle-class white woman, about as ghetto as Dick Cheney). She started hanging out on the street with the homeless and started bringing them to her house. Her roommates objected, so she voluntarily left and became homeless herself, sleeping in her car. She started giving away all her money to the homeless. She got caught up with one particular con-man, she would give him her credit card and then a few hours later she'd forget she'd done it. Then she saw the bills and told me a paranoid conspiracy story about how a Chicago street gang had scammed her credit card number. I guess she didn't notice when Mr. Homeless Scam Artist showed up with new clothes and a new bicycle.\n\nWell it gets worse. Mr. Homeless got arrested. My friend went totally insane, organizing \"benefit\" poetry readings to pay $1500 to get him released. And yeah, Mr. Homeless really deserved to stay in jail, that $1500 was fines for previous convictions that he'd never paid. But my poor sick friend held poetry readings of a book from Mr. Homeless, a book she'd paid to publish at a vanity press. Oh it was embarrassing. She'd declaim the \"poetry\" of an illiterate street poet with a 5th grade education, as if it was Shakespeare. But she only raised about $40, mostly from her friends who were humoring her. So she conned her mother into forking over $1500, telling her it was for a deposit on an apartment. And she paid that asshole's fines and got him out of jail.\n\nSo at this point, it is obvious my poor girlfriend is having mental issues. She's always been skinny but she stopped eating regularly and has lost a lot of weight, and that's no good for someone with a heart condition like her. She stopped bathing. She started wearing dirty clothes, she wore a piece of rope as a belt. She's a danger to herself, she keeps getting into accidents, she got in a car wreck, broke her arm in a bike wreck, broke her ankle. She twitches and taps her foot like she's on speed. She became paranoid, claiming that normal people like me were \"making demands of her\" and wanted her to change into something she isn't, and she hated how they all wanted her to stop helping the homeless. I told her, I don't want her to stop helping the disadvantaged, her compassion was one of the reasons I love her, but I just don't want her to BECOME homeless while trying to help the homeless. But this just fed into her paranoia more. She obviously felt uncomfortable around normal, sane people, but the homeless, most of whom are as mentally ill as she was, accepted her as \"one of us.\" \n\nI talked to her teaching assistant, and she told me horrifying stories about what has been happening in her classroom. She brought some homeless people into the classroom, whereupon they disrupted the class (making cell phone calls etc) and made threats of violence to the TA, who tried to stop them. So now she's being a threat to others. I told the TA to call 911 if any strangers showed up in class again.\n\nWith this and some other events that are too heinous to even recount, the TA and I jointly decided to file papers for an involuntary hospitalization. She is obviously hypomanic and we feared what's going to happen when she comes down, she could become suicidal when she looks at the wreckage of her life. So we signed the papers. Her mom came to town, she sprung for a hotel for a week so she could have a place to stay (it was getting to be cold) and to help her find and move into a new place. The Sheriff takes her to the local hospital mental ward for a 72 hour hold. At the end of the hold, there would be a hearing where the TA and I would have to face my poor friend, and explain to a panel of doctors and a judge that she was a threat to herself and others, so she should he hospitalized for another month. It takes about 3 weeks to get some lithium into her brain, I figured she'd be mighty pissed off at us for tossing her in the looney bin, but after a few weeks of treatment she'd realize what good friends we were for getting her help.\n\nBut apparently her mom screwed everything up. She called me up to say that this was an illegal incarceration and she would hire a lawyer to get her out. I told her the background and she was pretty shocked, but after about an hour of conversation, I could tell that Mom was crazier than my poor friend, it was apparently a case of hereditary insanity, Mom was obviously manic too.\n\nAs I was en route to the hearing, I got a cell phone call from the Clerk of Court, they released her the night before. We never got a chance to tell the judge about how she's a threat to herself. And this woman is extremely sharp, a PhD candidate, I saw her practicing (as she put it) \"how to act non-manic in front of her mom\" and I'm sure she fooled the psych doctors too. And then with the legal pressure of the Mom, they let her go.\n\nSo now she's out on the streets again, literally, she's living in her car on the street, in the middle of winter. I texted her that we should talk and she told me never to contact her again through any means, or in person, or she'd get a restraining order. She's been calling my friends, harassing them, telling them that I'M the insane one, and that the doctors let her out because she's perfectly sane. Sorry, they only let her out because they didn't think she was a suicide threat, I am quite sure they didn't think she was perfectly sane. \n\nOh but it gets worse. I get a call from the local police. She met with them and said she wanted to file charges of illegal imprisonment, in other words, kidnapping, against the TA and me. The officer called and I explained the background and he understood what was going on. He said she was babbling, barely coherent, and \"dissociated\" as she explained her paranoid theory of how we \"kidnapped\" her and imprisoned her in a psych ward. The policeman advised her against filing charges, and said he'd talk to the TA and me and tell us to stay away. I told the officer we were already staying away, but we are her friends and we'd be there for her if she needs us, but she'd need to come to us. And it's obvious that she's getting crazier and crazier, and she's going to end up in the psych ward again. I asked the policeman to keep me informed if she gets arrested or any other police action occurs that involves her. He agreed.\n", "score": 13 }, { "body": "I wish my ex-wife had been diagnosed properly. She totally lost her shit and wouldn't get any help. Her idea of help and making things better has always been to run away from her problems.\n\nGood luck with her dude. Sorry you have kids with her.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "You have still spoken to a legal professional and taken steps to protect yourself and your kids legally and financially, right? I mean, if you can repair your marriage and family, that's great, but you should always hope for the best while preparing for the worst, and you need to be sure that she doesn't pull the rug out from under you unprepared again.", "score": 11 }, { "body": "I put this comment on your OP, but I'm repeating it here.\n\nYour children need to be with her only in controlled times and spaces. When you're at work, they need to be in daycare or school. During the summer, they need to be at daycare or at summer camp, or summer school.\n\nShe cannot be trusted to treat them rationally at all times, and she may hurt them very badly.\n\n> my wife is currently interned at a mental hospital and the psychiatrist refuses to let her out.\n\nThis feels like a two-by-four upside the head, but I guarantee you're in a better position than the father of Susan Smith's drowned children.\n\n>SHE BELIEVES HER KIDS ARE NOT HERS. Yes,she believes I made kids with that other woman I was cheating with, a woman that doesn't even exist!\n\nWhat you need to understand: the 'maternal instinct' that protects mothers from going overboard in punishing / hurting her children may cease to exist.\n\nAt any given moment of rage / despair / depression, she may ignore that instinct entirely.\n\nThis sounds \"tough\" but seriously, your children are in danger with her.\n\n>and her family thought it was better to take her away, to professionals.\n\nthis will probably work in your favour, in family court; her parents also saw mental illness.\n\n", "score": 11 }, { "body": "I'm in a twelve step fellowship and have had some laymen experience working with folks that suffer from BPD. They are often referred to as emotional vampires and because its an open fellowship that seeks to help folks, in my experience it tends to be a target rich environment. I'm in no way trying to relate my experience to the depth and magnitude of yours, because it's apples to oranges. But, I wanted to try to help.\n\nWhat I've struggled with with BPD folks is that they often have very lucid or sane intervals that has made me, who is really looking for excuses to believe they aren't completely bonkers, latch onto them as evidence that I can still trust them. The fact is, sadly, that pretty much you can't. They also, with few exceptions, are the best manipulators - with the goal of seeking to feel better by making you feel worse - that I have ever come across.\n\nBoundaries, boundaries, boundaries. They are the nemesis of a flagrant BPD sufferer. I cannot rely on the person to be trusted with any emotional availability. That doesn't mean that I'm not emotionally available to them, it just means that I have to pay attention and be certain I'm maintaining what I expect from them and what I will or won't allow them to dump or take from me. I don't envy you having to set these kinds of parameters with your wife of 12 years...but from my experience I can't suggest anything more important - both for you and for your children. You can love her, while also being realistic about her symptoms and acting accordingly.\n\nI don't know if you have folks to talk with, but I have always found it very helpful to have someone with a toe in the water when dealing with someone like this that I can bounce stuff off of to make sure I am getting a good read on what's going on. In my experience, the folks that I have worked with who suffer from BPD will try to manipulate some isolation. Weird offer, maybe, but don't hesitate to PM me if you just want someone to rant to or swap frustrating stories with.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "Dude, this is amazing. My wife threw food at me and my child and beat on ME (multiple punches to the back of the head while I am on the phone with HER mome) on NYE for quietly asking if my (alone) parents could come over when her sister cancelled (this was after I backed down and didn't even call them). And (she said) she called the cops (and cancelled them). But I read your Christmas eve post and that sounds like the same kind of conversations I have with my wife (except for the \"Those aren't my kids part\"). My wife goes from zero to 100 in ten seconds throwing punches at me, it has happened more than once. We are going to counseling tonight. I only found out the cops thing was bogus by checking cell phone records.\n\nNot to mention, her dad threatened me, her mom (probably) lied to me, and her aunt called me and said she thinks my wife should be on meds, has for some time.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "I highly recommend the series of books titled 'Stop Walking on Egg Shells' http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Workbook-Personality/dp/1572242760/ref=pd_sim_b_1\n", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I'm glad to see you're still thinking about the children in all of this. So many people squabble amongst themselves and forget there are kids involved.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Borderline personality disorder is some messed up stuff. My sister has the same \"mild\" diagnosis. She will go from the nicest, funniest and most entertaining person in the world to a person who drives friends and family away and burns every bridge she ever crosses. \n\nGood to hear you are taking this ride with a medical professional, this is absolutely necessary. Good luck.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "i have Borderline Personality Disorder, diagnosed 6 years ago, hospitalized twice, happily married. Feel free to ask me anything if there's any way I can help.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "I might be more heart-warmed by her apology if she had just woken up that morning and had some crazy flash that made her do something so incredibly selfish and vicious. But that's not what happened. Here's what troubles me: \"My wife told me she had one gift for me this year: a very special gift. Keep in mind she told me about this in November; between that date and Christmas, we ate, lived and slept together. I would never have expected this.\"\n\nFor at least a month, she planned on doing that to you and the kids and in that whole time, she didn't change her mind. What's worse, she didn't even let on. You may think she's genuinely sorry now, but you could be as wrong as you were in thinking everything was fine. And if she's sincere now, you won't know it when she stops being.\n\nI don't feel this is some love story, I feel more like it's the 20 minute mark of a horror movie where the person has had an inkling that something is very wrong but they've convinced themself it's nothing that can't be dealt with.\n", "score": 8 }, { "body": "I'm doing a throwaway account for this because it's personal and not something I ever planned on sharing with reddit. However I want to say something - maybe someone has already said it, maybe not, but I feel like it needs repeating - MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS SHE IS NOT A FAILURE.\n\nAfter years of not knowing why I felt like I did, I finally went and got help for my depression and started talking to people on a message board (elsewhere) about it - and one of the things that has always tormented me in life was the feeling that I'd failed at everything, because I was so miserable - everyone around me was happy, so obviously there was some flaw - something missing in myself - that caused me to be miserable. I told myself this sort of thing over and over for decades until I believed it without reservation. It eats away at you inside - more and more convincing every time - so you have to fight it constantly. When she brings it up, negative it as sincerely and as logically as you can - argue against that vicious voice inside of her telling her such horrible, untrue things. This goes for you as well. When you're tired, when you've pushed yourself too far, that's when a little voice inside can worm it's way into you, applying lies and guilt in a thick layer of illogical arguments that's hard to fight through if you're not watching for it. Neither of you have 'failed' at anything - neither of you are 'at fault' for anything - both of you are normal, good people who have been dealt a bad blow in life, and you've both chosen to work together in dealing with it. That alone says a good deal about both of you.\n\nOn the other side, as others have said, take VERY good care of yourself, as well. Make sure you have support from somewhere - friends, family, a local group or even an online discussion board - because as the doctor warned you, this is not going to be easy, and a lot of people dealing with stuff like this forget to take care of themselves and their own health/mental state deteriorates as well, which of course is going to affect their ability to help the one they're trying to care for.\n\nLast of all - good luck to all of you. This won't be easy for any of you, but I hope it will be worthwhile.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Thanks for sharing your story. You are a good man! Take care of yourself - if you don't, you won't be able to help anyone else. ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "It sounds like you need a divorce even if you want her to still live with you and still act married.\n\nYou need to prevent her from having access and authority over assets. You need to secure full custody of the children and the home.\n\nYou don't want her running out signing up for loans or buying a car and sticking you with the debt. And in the future if she seems better she may redo the divorce and actually demand full custody, the house, and all your stuff.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Like many, I have my own BPD story (ex-wife's mother). The details are very similar to many of the stories told here, so I won't bore you with them. Just know that in my case, the effects of BPD were far-reaching and devastating. I wholeheartedly commend you for your bravery in the face of a path that is likely to be dark and brutal, but make sure you have checked reality and understand all the repercussions. Your children, likely their children, your extended family, your coworkers, and your friends will all feel the negative effects of this disease. You will undoubtedly find out at some point exactly what your limits of emotional and financial stress are, and then you will be pushed well past them. Make sure your desire to help your wife is based on love and compassion and not ego and pride (I can't stress this one enough, as I made this mistake). Understand that HER doctor will most likely do everything in his power to treat her, even if it comes at the expense of your and your kids well-being. And make sure that you truly feel that more good will come from you staying and coping with this thing than if you were to leave with your kids and start over.\n\nStay grounded in reality and educate yourself as much as possible. I wish the best for you and your family.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I would recommend AGAINST her doing an AMA. She doesn't need the abuse that will likely come out; I'm sure she's self abusive enough. That's not to say we're all assholes here on reddit, but she's right in the thick of it right now, and enough of us are assholes that it's probably too soon. But of course it's her decision. Glad your life has started the road back towards normal.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I *do* have insurance, and I couldn't get someone to properly see my wife about her panic attacks. They kept insisting it was something else (like an ear infection), and the insurance company requires her to speak to some call center psych dude before she can start to see a psychiatrist. Long story short, it was too much of a pain to see a psychiatrist and she is still having occasional panic attacks. I sure hope it doesn't build up to something like your scenario!", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I read your original post, and my heart went out to you. I thought your wife was an outright bitch, and I remember most others expressed the same opinion. This is probably one of the most heart-warming stories I've heard in awhile.\n\nYou're a lot stronger than a lot of people, and apparently a terrific husband who loves his family very much. Good luck with everything.\n\nPS - One of my prior best friends has BPD. It's tricky, and I was one of the very few who stuck by her through her episodes (for lack of a better term). It was not easy, and you have a difficult road ahead. But you seem to be handling as best as anyone could, and I really hope that it works out to be something the two (or four) of you can manage, instead of becoming more of an issue in the future.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I know you're worried about your kids. Well, I grew up with an unstable parent. There were a lot of bad times, but my parents stayed together. I learned a lot about the strength of love and what it means to be family. Its not always pretty but family is always there for each other. Thats the lesson that your teaching your children. There will be days when you think you're putting them through hell, but instead you're teaching them to not give up on those they love. Its a good lesson. \n\nGood for you!", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I think you deserve an enormous amount of credit for handling this in a mature and responsible manner (that's not meant to sound patronizing). There were a number of early responses to your original post that went along the lines of \"Dude, your wife is a fucking bitch. Dump her now\". Well done for rising above that and understanding that life is never that simple. It's heartening that in a time when divorce seems to come so easily to people, you're willing to make the effort to see this through and work to help her with her psychological issues.\n\nGood luck to all of you - whatever the outcome, you can always take comfort from the fact that you **did the right thing.**", "score": 6 }, { "body": "^ This is what a man sounds like. (christmasmania of course, not whatever comment is above me :D)\n\nI'm glad that the community here is what it is. I'm glad you came here to seek help, and it's absolutely astounding the level of sincerity demonstrated here versus… anywhere else on the internet (and planet).\n\nI don't think I'm alone when I say I'm severely impressed by the compassion you showed your wife of twelve years. Many people would do the wrong thing out of (spite, fear, frustration, whatever), and you showed real integrity.\n\nAgain, I'm glad that reddit has helped you; in return I know you've given a lot of people inspiration that they will never forget.\n\n (This is the last sappy comment I have to make)\n\nI'll try to remember your capacity for understanding and love next time I feel like the world's shitting on me, and I'll try to pay-it-forward. Have an great day, and the best of luck to you and your family.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "My grandmother, my dad's mom, had borderline personality. When he was 12, she had her first major break and wound up in a psychiatric hospital. From then on, my dad remembers driving to and from psych hospitals for most of his youth to drop mom off when she got bad, and pick her up when she got better.\n\nI mostly knew her from the nursing home she was in all my life. We would visit her a few times a year. She would knit us blankets as gifts to give to us when we visited. About halfway through the visit, she would then ask us to pay for them. By the end, she would demand the blankets back. (at this point, it was a mix between dementia and her borderline personality)\n\nFor what it's worth, my dad and I only remember the good times, when she was kind and embracing. The bad stuff fades away as time goes on. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Be very glad that your wife has what appears to be just a very mild case of borderline personality disorder. I have come into contact with people who have borderline personality disorder in mental hospitals and it is not pretty. I have bipolar disorder, so I understand a little bit of what your wife will be going through for the rest of her life. The important thing is that the medications seem to be working which is great :)\n\n\nI hope that she can remember to keep taking her medications even if she feels \"fine\" down the line and thinks about discontinuing them. The biggest cause of relapse when it comes to mental health issues is when people decide to stop taking their meds because they \"feel fine\".\n\nI suggest that you continue to read up on borderline personality disorder and keep in contact with her treatment team. The more you know the better off you will be. I also recommend that your wife learn as much about her condition as possible, but I would check with her treatment team first (Sometimes people can go overboard and think themselves sicker).\n\nBest of luck to all of you :) Mental health issues can be very hard to deal with, both for the person with the diagnosis and for friends and family, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. I have had to deal with a pretty serious case of mental illness myself and I'm doing well, so I hope you and your wife don't give up. Things will probably get better :)", "score": 5 }, { "body": "You're a better man than I, the mother of my daughter has BPD, and that's the primary reason I didn't marry her when she got pregnant.\n\nBut she has attacks every week or so and refuses to take her medicine. We're finally getting along again, but it wont belong before she starts telling the world I'm just a \"Sperm Donor\" and refuses to let me see my daughter again.\n\nBest of luck.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I currently am with a girlfriend with BPD. Shes one of the most beautiful, intellectual and most creative girls ive ever met. However, every now and then she would just snap and become someone else. Were both pretty young and we have been dating for almost 4 years and i personally note that when she drinks she becomes like some monster. Just the other night she was really drunk with me and she got in a huge fight with me because i didn't want to hear about her ex boyfriends and starting grabbing knives because i told her to \"go hunt a deer.\" She heard me say that because i was reading a internet Meme, insanity wolf.\n\nThe reason i bring this up is because both her doctor and psych have noted that mind altering substances tend to have adverse effects on people with BPD. Even caffeine can induce paranoia to a more than surprising level. I also suggest to be careful of prescribed medication. Xanax is a very strong drug, that I have even tried before. It basically turns the person off. It makes you feel like your super tired and want to sleep but its physically impossible. There are some other medications were given to my girl that actually was giving her brain damage to the point that doctors were telling my GF to sue the psych... but you know that song and dance.\n\nSo good luck man, hopefully you can relate to what ive said. I also hope you aren't like me where you tend to like the girls who have the problems to boost our own confidence.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Lessons learned from this story: 1. It takes character to make the right decisions, like you have, and, 2. I have to stop tearing up like a little bitch. \n\nAnd to think that when you submitted your first post about the situation and it was hovering up and down in the \"new\" section, I **downvoted** you because I mis-read it as \"I just got the worst christmas gift ever. What did you get?!\" and I thought to myself *not another spoiled kid bitching about a white -instead of black- Wii!*", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I wish I had some sage adivce, but all I can do is say thank you. I know several people with BPD, and have a form of depression myself. All of us are constantly fighting the fear of not being worth the work some people have to do just to stay with us.\nOn the other hand, I have known some women who are more trouble than they are worth.\nchristmasmania, i wish you the best of everything. I hope the meds level her out, and she doesnt feel that disconnect anymore.\nI wish you happily ever after.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Glad to hear things are getting better. Best wishes for you in the new year. If you think it's appropriate, keep us informed on how things go. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I think there is an important lesson about understand in here. The common theme from replies from the last major thread was that she was pulling a divorce tactic in order to get the most possible money. But that turned out to be the furthest thing from the truth.\n\n", "score": 4 }, { "body": "As a fiancé to a woman with a mother diagnosed with BPD, I have seen how a mother with BPD can affect a child's well-being. A sufferer of BPD can not grasp the meaning of unconditional love. \n\nPlease let your children know that they are loved. Please be their advocate. Don't say to them \"We have walk on eggshells around your mother because a mistake could set her off and that's just how she is.\" You have a lot of hard work ahead of you. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "My wife suffers from Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder, not to be confused with OCD. It nearly led to attempted suicide, major depression and 18 months of stressful weekly therapy sessions. She's made an incredible recovery but picking her up from the hospital and going home was a frightening moment. So much uncertainty. We had three kids at the time and the stress was overpowering. You have my support.", "score": 4 }, { "body": ">She apologized for what she had done and thanked me for being her.\n\nQuite a situation you have there. Seriously though, you promised to be there in sickness and in health and I'm pleased to read that you're sticking to those vows.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I'm not normally a \"the glass is half full\" person but it sounds like you may have got the BEST Christmas gift.\n\nYou found out that there was a serious family problem that you failed to see (don't mean that in a mean way) and now you know and are able to do everything you can for your loved ones.\n\nHave you considered how many never get that wake up call and just lose everything and end up bitter and lonely?\n\nLook on the bright side here, my friend. You have been given an explanation, a diagnosis and a chance to save what is dear to you.\n\nBest of luck to you and your family.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I have borderline personality disorder. My wife constantly saves me from myself. I'm not worthy of her, yet she sticks with me.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I wish you the best of luck, and I'm glad to hear that she didn't drop the papers on you to be spiteful, but because she wasn't well and seemed like the thing to do in her mindset.\n\nMy grandfather who I only met once when I was young, I've never gotten a straight answer about other then I know he loved his family, and was a paranoid schizophrenic, and was suspected to rob a bank (which in retrospect, sounds badass.) I don't doubt she loves you and your family, but from what I can tell about my family, it will be hard for her to remember at times. (I'm also pretty sure my grandfather never took medication which probably made the situation much worse.)\n\nOn somewhat of a side note... From personal experience, don't make comments about extreme behavior being \"stupid\" I had classmates comment to me that suicide seemed \"crazy and \"stupid\" after another student tried to commit suicide. It was a painful conversation for me, since I spent nights awake while I was depressed not being able to sleep and suicide being the only thing I could think about. They couldn't understand since they've never been there, and I hope they never do get there, but hearing people talk so casually about something they really couldn't understand made me damn near ready to hit one of 'em. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": ">And it feels just like theres\n\n>A warrant out for my arrest\n\n>Got me checkin in my rearview mirror\n\n>And I'm always on the run\n\n>Thats why I changed my name\n\n>And I didn't think you'd ever find me here\n\n\nMerry Christmas. I wish you luck, but I'm just happy I escaped a clash with someone with borderline personality disorder with my freedom(Cops love a damsel in distress, and hate a guy asking for protection against a stalker girl).\n\nDon't ever let her make you blame yourself for any of this. I noticed you already did in the original post, don't. You are NOT to blame for not having a perfect alibi for 12 years straight. Never blame yourself, never let her make you believe you are to blame. \n\nAnd if you ever do decide to leave, fight tooth and nail for your kids. I've seen the horrible screaming monster verbally and emotionally abusing their kids over some imagined sleight. Imagine how you felt, getting divorce papers for Christmas despite doing nothing wrong, and imagine how someone who wasn't old enough to realise they weren't doing anything wrong would feel being punished so severely. No child on earth deserves that. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "In case you're looking to get a piano for her, I'd highly recommend a [Casio Privia](http://www.priviapiano.com/). They're fully-weighted and feel pretty much just like a real piano (I say this as a full-time accompanist myself) and obviously don't have to be tuned. The best part, though, is you can get them for under $400 on Amazon (although you have to get a stand and such yourself) which is *way* cheaper than anything else you're likely to find.\n\nGood luck, and I hope things get better for you, your wife and your kids!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "One of my best friends has BPD and I had no idea what it was but I knew that my friend was constantly having problems and doing things that seemed strange. If you want to learn more about her point-of-view, pick up \"Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder\" which is a first-person account of a recovering victim of BPD and how her family was able to recover with her and eventually grow even closer. Best of luck.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Well glad it has worked out in a way for you. I have a very good friend who has borderline personality disorder and he went the other way you described, he's one of the kindest nicest people going. He has to work hard at being that though and reign in himself when he feels himself slipping. But he's now at a point where he's fully in control.\r\n\r\nGood luck for the future.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "With consistent therapy and medication, over 80% of those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder no longer fit diagnostic criteria for the condition 10 years post-diagnosis. As others have mentioned, DBT is the current \"gold standard\" in treatment, but it's also important to work with professionals who are empathetic and capable of treating the patient as someone capable of recovery. It sounds like her current psych qualifies, though he's painting a bleak-ish picture for you so that you don't get false hopes if she doesn't turn out to be a success story.\n\nIn any case, I just wanted to point out that this doesn't have to be forever, and if she sticks with treatment she may well end up being much more self-aware and a better partner than people who never experienced something like this. Most people don't understand their flaws and foibles as well as a person who has had 10 years of therapy will. She'll learn to control her condition as much as possible and to try to keep her parenting and marital relationships intact.\n\nYou should perhaps consider therapy for yourself as well, not necessarily to make changes (you sound like a great guy already) but to have a safe zone for venting and to ask questions about her treatment.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Wow. I wrote quite a harsh comment about how you were well rid in your last post.\n\nTaking all the above into account though, I can only say that you're a great person and your wife is lucky to have you. It wont be easy for either of you, but you sound like you've got a good chance of living with this.\n\nedit: Just to add my experience. I went through a tough time a few years back and my girlfriend stuck by me, which can't have been easy. Then, last year, she went through something similar and I was able to be there for her too. It's a fantastic feeling knowing you've got somebody on your side, always. As it happens we've separated for other reasons, but don't read anything into that :)", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I'm a psychiatric nurse so almost every day I see the way mental illness can destroy a person, a family. It never gets less sad. I'm happy to hear you are getting some help and have a plan of action. You can do this.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Very sorry for you, this almost seems in some ways a more unfortunate ending than if none of the BPD stuff had occured, at least then you'd be able to move on after your divorce.\n\n\nThat said, I sincerely hope that for you in the future the good times outnumber the bad, learn to cherish the the good and not take the bad things personally, its a very hard thing to do but some of the most sage advice I have ever recieved. Its been some of the hardest advice of my life to follow, but some of the most rewarding. It is even more apt for your situation becuase in her state, your wife truly does not mean or understand that she is hurting you. \n\n\nI hope things work out well for you.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "There is a google group, ran by Bon Dobbs, called \"Anything to Stop the Pain.\" It is a support group for people LIVING WITH people with BPD. I highly recommend it. I joined it some time ago when I was dating a girl with BPD, however, there are people whom have been living with, even married to, sufferers of this disorder for years. \n\nSidenote: I've read reddit posts for over a year, but only finally signed up to post this referral. I hope it helps. Good Luck\n\nEdit: found the link: http://groups.google.com/group/atstpgroup/", "score": 3 }, { "body": "While this will get buried in all the meme, \"touching\", and heartwarming contacts, I as a human really appreciate you being such a nice person and doing this. Too many people in this world are distracted and focused on themselves, and I admire your actions and what this will mean to your wife and children.\n~A humble redditor", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I don't know what the fuck is up with the youtube-esq comments here, but best of luck to you man.\n\nI'm glad we could all help. :)", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I'm glad to hear she is getting help, and you are a wonderful husband for sticking by her side during such a rough time. *hugs*", "score": 3 }, { "body": "BPD is so awful. Living with anyone who's crazy is incredibly difficult, but I think BPD may be the worst, because it is forever offering hope and then snatching it away. Even if you're a really strong person and you know exactly what you're facing, it's terribly hard. You have to deal with the terrible sufferings of someone you love, and your own terrible sufferings besides.\n\nMy heart goes out to you; you have an incredibly tough row to hoe.\n\nThe only thing in terms of advice that I'd offer is that you should not allow the fear of feeling petty or disloyal keep you from taking steps to protect yourself and your children. It's not callous or unloving to prepare for times in which your wife will not be herself. \n\nAnd you won't only be protecting yourself and your children, either; as I think you're on the verge of discovering, when people with BPD do terrible things, it causes them as much shame and misery as it causes anyone else.\n\nYou should seek out an attorney with experience in civil matters involving mental illness. A good, experienced attorney will give you far, far better practical advice than you're likely to find anywhere else.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "your doing a completely selfless thing for the better of those around you. accept that its gonna be tough, and that there are gonna be periods where youll feel unappreciated for the sacrafices that you are making. im a complete stranger that youll probably never meet, but at least youll know that someone out there appreciates the kind of strength you are showing for your family and yourself", "score": 3 } ]

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[ { "body": "As one of those rare people whose cell phone is ONLY a cell phone, Google text is of inestimable value to me just about every day. ", "score": 31 }, { "body": "Haha, I love using this service to annoy my iphone-using friends. Someone will say, \"Hey, we whould see movie X. Wonder when it's playing?\" As my friends whip out their smartphones, boot safari, navigate to a web site, etc., I simply text the movie name to google and often find out before they do.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Works with glossary requests. Nice.\n\nexample: \"Define: append\" will return a definition for \"append\".", "score": 4 }, { "body": "There are a couple features not listed on the [Google SMS](http://www.google.com/mobile/products/sms.html#p=default) page, such as phone book and reverse phone book search. You can type in a first/last name and location, and it will return a phone book listing, or you can enter a phone number, and if it's in the phone book, the listing will be returned.\n\nAlso, since several features involve searching for \"<word> <location>\", you're bound to get misinterpreted. To force Google to look for business listings with a \"<word> <location>\" search, put a period between the word and location, like so: \"pizza.12345\".\n\nYou can also test out Google SMS queries on the Google SMS page, for those of you wanting to play with it without using texts or typing on a teeny keypad.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "As someone served in Afghanistan, and whose wife is there right now, I can tell you that the overwhelming majority of Afghans I saw were pretty fucking stoked that someone was there helping them fight the Taliban, and most importantly give them jobs.\r\n\r\nTheir support was dampened 2004-2007 by the neglect they suffered as US attention was focused on Iraq, but has rebounded in 2009, a trend that will probably continue.\r\n\r\n[But don't just take my word for it.](http://asiafoundation.org/country/afghanistan/2009-poll.php)\r\n\r\n[Another poll, taken after US and NATO forces started shifting their focus more towards protecting the local people.](http://www.iri.org/mena/afghanistan/pdfs/2009%20August%2014%20Survey%20of%20Afghan%20Public%20Opinion%20July%2016-26,%202009.pdf)", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "Edit: Ed is now podcasting - check it out [here](http://www.reddit.com/r/reddit.com/comments/an8qc/recently_fired_boston_radio_redditor_is_now/)\n\nOriginal Post:\n\nHey Ed! As a longtime fan it's pretty cool to see you on reddit.\n\nFor all those out there not familiar, WFNX in Boston (cough, Lynn) recently canned The Sandbox, which was basically a few guys who would play music, talk U2, Star Wars, Obama, and whether or not a burrito was a sandwich. Ed's a cool dude, and even dropped off tickets to the Harpoon Oktoberfest for me when I couldn't make it up to the studio to pick them up.\n\nGeneral questions:\n\n* Best in-studio guest? Worst?\n* What Boston radio stations do you listen to? The dial feels so empty since yesterday morning.\n* How did it all go down yesterday morning?\n\nEx-FNXer questions:\n\n* Was it Big Jim's decision to move into a creative role? Cool to see Adam 12 back, but loved Jim's afternoon show.\n* I didn't know until all this happened that you guys had a podcast back in 2004 before coming to Boston - are copies / downloads of it available anywhere?\n* How much control did you guys have over song selection? It's been feeling like WFNX has been turning into a cookie cutter alt-rock station - just playing RHCP, Foo Fighters, and Smashing Pumpkins to death.\n\nHope the best for ya man!", "score": 26 }, { "body": "I'm sorry you got fired \"Ed\". That sucks. I worked in radio for a while and geeze, I would see on air talent get fired pretty much almost every week. I never want to see anyone lose their jobs but be glad you don't have to be a \"wacky morning radio man\" anymore sitting in the room with the one female who tells the two other guys to \"knock it off\" and \"stop being so gross.\" Morning radio is so formulaic and I actually feel bad for you guys. It's like you're all forced to do the same crap. I want to know what brilliant program director thought up that winning formula of prank calls, unfunny jokes and a side of sound effects in between weather, traffic, the news and a few songs an hour. He should be drawn and quartered for all the Morning Zoo nonsense I hear while waiting for coffee in the deli every morning. As for you, I think you should pull a Matt Pinfield and do something different. Have you heard his morning show? It's all about the music and it's honestly refreshing to listen to.\r\n\r\nEDIT: And best of luck to you. I can ask around to some of my former colleagues if that helps you out any.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I am very sorry for the shitty manner in which you were canned. Very bad job by the VP and HR rep.\r\n\r\nI suffer from a personal bias against commercial radio. I always listen to my iPod in my truck, and many friends have satellite radio in their vehicles because they think similarly. Being in the business as you are, what's your own opinion on listening to commercial radio versus the growing alternatives?", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Was it the usual deal where after your show, you got asked to come into the boardroom where some suit said \"We no longer have a place for you here\"? ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "How-How-Hoooow do **you** de*cide* what [bullet ricochet] an**oy**ing s*ounds* to **play** [duck noise] before *your* ***show***? [cow] [jamaican guy laughing] [engine revving]", "score": 6 }, { "body": "BA WEEP.\n\nSeriously, am I the only Bostonian here who knows who this is? [Edit - Just reread the comments, I'm not the ONLY one who knows, but not very many people are familiar it seems.] I used to listen to The Sandbox on the way to work just about every day since, like, stabbed or pistol-whipped. This is weird.\n\nSorry you got fired, Ed. I'm really not a \"morning zoo\" guy at all, but you guys put together just about the best morning show I could imagine. Since this is an AMA: how many listeners, give or take, do you think you managed to \"expose\" to lemonparty? Knowing that some poor souls were viewing that site made me feel slightly less bad about having to spend an hour driving to my stupid job.\n\nOh, and you read an email from me on the air once a long time ago. That was cool. Sent it from my iPhone while driving. Don't tell anyone.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "What did you think about those Australian \"wacky\" DJ's who did the lie-detector test on the 14 year old girl and got her to admit she was raped when she was 12?", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I have a 45 minute commute in the Bay Area, and I really enjoyed the morning show we had on our \"alternative\" station. The DJ's were fun, and NOT the typical snot-nosed SF hipster that seems to dominate the music scene in SF. One morning they were there, being funny and enjoyable and the next they were gone. \n\nThere was no explanation given to the audience. Just gone. \n\nAs a listener, it totally sucks when you have radio show that you like and relate to, but it's yanked from the air with no explanation. They were replaced by another show that is... Well... It's not as good. Luckily, it's not a syndicated show, so the people on it are local, but I still miss the old show.\n\nDo you think that a radio station owes it to it's listener to at least explain some it's personnel decisions, or should listeners just deal with it?", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Ed's show was the best morning show I have ever listened to / been a part of. We have been making an attempt to rally the troops and really get the show back on the air. The show's tagline was \"Smart, Funny, Mornings\" and thats exactly what it was. Wackyness brought out by intelligence i guess? But either way, the show was the best thing that had happened to radio in a long time at least in Boston, and like everything else that doesnt suck, it got canned. Help us help a really good guy out and get a great show back on the air, even if it is a dying medium...\n\nWe have been making attempts to contact the station and have out voices heard. Any emails of support to get the show \"The Sandbox\" back on the air can be send to [email protected]. PLEASE HELP!!", "score": 4 }, { "body": "With the popularity of Ipods and the decline of terrestrial radio they are obviously related and everyone knows this, what is the industry doing to gain back listeners? Do you think terrestrial radio is going to become subscription based if advertisers keep leaving? Finally besides top 40 what is the most popular radio format?", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Ed, man, I'm sorry they let you and Charlie go. They screwed up big time. I looked forward to The Sandbox everyday, and even listened to the recap podcast at work.\n\nCan't wait for tomorrow man, my poor RSS stream has been silent for my only podcast since December 23rd... Any thoughts/plan on getting anyone else on with you? I know the podcast from back in the day was the three Sandbox crew members, but after reading on Facebook that Charlie is done with radio and since Fletcher still has to report to the man, will this be a purely Ed podcast instead of a minor re-birthing of the Sandbox?\n\nGood luck man and if I see you around, I'll buy you a beer.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "What a sad, sad start to the new year. Boo to WFNX for canning The Sandbox. I loved the show pretty much from the get-go, even though for the first few weeks I had a tough time telling Fletcher and Ed's voices apart (seems weird to think that now).\n\nMy question for you Ed, is how is Charlie doing? I'm grateful for all your Facebook updates and your upcoming podcast tomorrow, but I haven't heard much in the way from Charlie except for that article where he said he said he was going to apply to the Apple store at the North Shore Mall (sad!). As a family man, I'm sure this probably is affecting him in a big way. I hope he's doing alright. \n\nGlad you're hanging in there and putting up a good fight, I sent an email to Brad too and actually got a not-too dickish response that actually wasn't a form letter. Maybe there's a chance the show could be reinstated if he sees enough support for you guys.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "ED! WTF! I am so sorry! It sounds stupid, but listening to The Sandbox's ridiculous banter when you first started out helped me deal with having to drive in to a horrible job in Allston everyday for six months. It's severely fucked not having you and Charlie around anymore. \n\nI was going to bring you guys cookies next week when I came in to pick up something I won from a promotion last month... :( *hugs*", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "[This is my bathroom](http://i.imgur.com/AO5p9.jpg) \nAs you can see I always brush my teeth in the shower. The question really is if I'm SHOWERING at the same time.", "score": 13 }, { "body": "I don't brush my teeth in the shower due to fear that my brush will be contaminated while I piss all over the walls --but I do use mouthwash in there. Something about letting the mouthwash dribble out of my mouth down onto my junk is quite refreshing. Minty Crotch Bliss.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Its a 2 in 1 hadouken! Besides, nothing beats opening your mouth right infront of the shower head and get your mouth rinsed FOR you!", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I do everything seperate, but at the same time. I turn on the shower and let it warm up. while thats going on i turn on the sink faucet in prep for brushing the teeth. i brush the teeth for 3-4 minutes, then i can hop right in the hot show, all with the smug satisfaction that each day i wipe out the effects of hundreds of hippies!", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "This happened to me once. My internet was shut down but all I did was change my MAC address. No contact with university people at all.", "score": 59 }, { "body": "I don't think the campus administration have any legal right to look at your computer or inspect its contents. \n\nAsk them\n\n* what form the meeting will take (formal, informal etc.)\n* who will be present\n* what will happen/be discussed during the meeting.\n", "score": 35 }, { "body": "Man up and accept the consequences. You either agree to abide by your University's policies or you don't get to use their resources. Now quit your whining.", "score": 26 }, { "body": "Get your computer infected with as much spyware as you can that way you can say someone took control of your computer remotely.", "score": 23 }, { "body": "Don't bring your computer. Ask why they want it brought in. You are not in any legal trouble, you are in \"disciplinary trouble\" with your University. Play your cards right and it will not be any issue, wrong and you might not have internet in your dorm for a while. Don't let them intimidate you with legal threats; if you were in legal trouble you would not be hearing from Uni, you'd be hearing from MPAA or someone.", "score": 18 }, { "body": "Don't wipe your drive. There are ways around that.\n\nYou should plug in another drive [if you can do that on short notice] that never had the file on it.", "score": 11 }, { "body": "I work at my campus IT dept and the policy for our university is a 3 strike rule. First strike, you are required to attend a DMCA Violation Presentation where we \"educate\" you and how to avoid this \"mistake\" in the future. Followed by a quick look at your computer for torrenting clients and other file share programs. \r\n\r\nThe only way any university catches you is by getting an email from some corporation saying IP address x.x.x.x is downloading file y at a certain time. It is then when we find you by MAC address and our server logs. It is entirely up to the university to comply with this request and for us, if it is your 3rd strike, you lose your Internet privileges while on campus for the remainder of your undergraduate. \r\n\r\nChances are, its just a slap on the wrist for you. Changing your MAC wouldn't matter because I'm pretty sure you had to register your internet connection before using it on campus which immediately associated your student identity to your mac address.\r\n\r\nAlso, blaming it on hackers/friends/etc will not work because most university policies will include a clause that states that you are responsible for all Internet activity conducted on your own registered machine; you are responsible for keeping your machine updated and secure. ", "score": 11 }, { "body": "Happened to a friend of mine. If this is a first offense, it's nothing major. I think they suspend your internet for a week or so and give you a lecture or make you write an essay. \n\nI think second time is a lot more serious. Movies aren't worth it, so don't do it again.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Apologize and say that someone else used your computer and it didn't have a password on it. Tell them there's a password on there now and it won't happen again.\n\nThere's no way to deny that it didn't come from your computer if they can see the MAC address.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "The sad thing is that I read \"Where The Wild Things Are\" as \"Where The Boys Aren't\". I really need to tone down my porn viewing.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "It sucks when the school catches you. They are way more strict than most internet companies. \n\nWiping your hard drive is risky. Because you need to decide now whether to fess up to it or not. Schools usually have different policies based on whether you admit fault. I'd try and see if you can find those out before you go in. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "The chances of you getting off scot free are approximately zero, especially if you go to a private school where there's no such thing as due process. No matter what you do here, you're probably going to receive some sort of punishment. Educational institutions like to use incidents like this as a \"learning opportunity,\" which as far as I can tell usually means some form of reprimand will likely come.\n\nIf you're concerned about the legal ramifications, talk to a lawyer. Some schools have programs where local lawyers provide free legal counsel in the student union.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I'd throw a copy of Linux on there just to fuck with them, since they probably know nothing but Windows.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Blame it on the [cat](http://www.nbcmiami.com/news/local-beat/Man-Naughty-Kitty-Downloaded-Kiddie-Porn-52640667.html)", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I called that 4-beat being a time lord's heart BEFORE THE SSPECIAL REVEALED IT.\nCan I be the coolest nerd now?", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Also, I am making the connection between the Master's \"Drums,\" and the Doctor Who theme, if you didn't already make that connection.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "It's pretty retarded in some sense because the whole thing is based on another tread called \"What's the worst thing a guy has ever done to you?\". I mean they're basically asking for only female experiences and vilifying men in the process. \n\n*edit* \n\n>[Edit 3: Another question: If the majority of women have been raped or molested seriously, what proportion of men would you guess have raped or molested a woman? Would you guess half or is it a relatively small number of men raping and molesting a lot of women?]\n\nThis is fucking messed up, I know there are no stupid questions but seriously? If half of all men are raping and molesting women how can women even leave the house?\n\n", "score": 9 }, { "body": "This is pure manbashing, and /mr/ bashing as well, and it's lovely how there are 7 upvotes and 4 downvotes to this. /mr/ has been infiltrated by some pretty bad weeds lately.", "score": 7 } ]

[ { "body": "The only crazy, unreasonable or irrational thing your girlfriend has done in this story is stay with you when she's known damn well throughout the entire relationship that you're in love with someone else. It's a bit ridiculous to think someone is unreasonable for being jealous when they're absolutely right, isn't it? The first time this came up, you should have just admitted everything and broken up with the girlfriend. Then you'd probably be with the other girl now and your girlfriend would be with a guy who feels that way about her, instead of leading her on while obsessing over a friend of his.\n\nYou made a stupid mistake with the living situation, knowing that you were keeping your true feelings both from your girlfriend and your friend.\n\nAt this point, you can either suck it up and be a good boyfriend until the lease is up and then deal with this, or break up with the girlfriend and move out now. Preferably after looking for a new roommate to replace you and take over your share of the rent and lease.\n\nWhatever you choose, do not try to stay with the girlfriend any later than the expiration of your current lease. Every day you're with her is a day that, if a guy who loved her like you love your friend approached her, she'd turn him down to stay with a guy whose heart is already elsewhere.\n\nEdit: This could be a *very* long-term \"grass is greener\" situation. It probably is. But the part that concerns me isn't really that you are infatuated with your friend--it's that you *aren't* infatuated with your girlfriend and you don't know if you ever were.", "score": 18 }, { "body": "If you removed this other girl (your friend) from the picture, would you still be happy (and I mean the happiest of all happy, not just content) with the relationship you have with your girlfriend? This is the answer to whether or not you should stay with your girlfriend. The rest is up to you.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "> I can admit to myself that I am in love with her, and at the same time I know that I haven't felt the same way about my girlfriend in a long time--if ever.\n\nBreak up with your gf then so she can find someone who'll love her instead of stringing her along. It's just selfish on your part.\n\nI also don't think you understand what a platonic friendships means. You say you love her and you're \"undeniably attracted\" to her. That's most definitely *not* platonic my friend.\n\nHow would you feel if you felt/knew your girlfriend loved and was deeply attracted to another guy? Would your feelings be irrational then?", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "What? Don't be ridiculous; go for it. Whack off right before or smoke a bowl if you're that worried.", "score": 30 }, { "body": "If you masturbate before, you should be able to last longer. Also, make sure you focus on her pleasure and not yours, and take more than all the time you need for foreplay. There are people who can't do penetrative sex at all and they still manage, so if you make sure to be a good, thoughtful lover, there's no reason she'd turn you down.", "score": 20 }, { "body": "rub one out before hand, wear a condom, engage in lots of foreplay to get her \"almost there\", and just friggin' do it. Think about baseball. Practice flexing your d**k like you're holding a piss in - it helps, plus it feels really good for the girl. Have some good, but slightly distracting, music on in the background. Remember too, as self-absorbed as this might seem, this is practice for YOU. A better way to think about it might be: if the girl likes you enough she'll help you along, and if she doesn't then find another one that will. This is all about you.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "The refractory period is inversely proportional to your attraction to the woman, and her awesomeness. You'll be fine.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "That \"maybe I should wait and gain more experience\" mentality is bullshit. Get right now on it. If you don't, I will guarantee how much you will regret not banging her. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Alright man. This is how it is. It comes down to choice. The indifference is a heavy motherfucker who will not let you feel anything; thus you can't make emotion-based decisions and the normal avoid/reward system of decision making is squashed. You have to decide to start making intellect-based ones. \n\nYour first intellect-based decision:\n\n1. Decide to decide. Easy and hard at the same time. Make the commitment and keep to it because it *makes sense* since you committed to it. Every day, decide to do it again. Next is becoming goal oriented. Basically I have been given most things I ever asked for in my life. As an independent I found it invariably impossible to make a decision and see it through because if it got to hard to complete I would quit. On days I got depressed, which undoubtedly is what you are experiencing, I couldn't even decide. It has been the intellectual commitments that have kept me going because there was no reward or lack thereof absent from the decision. There was only the cold reality of the decision itself. Just pick A or B. Force yourself to see it in black and white and make yourself pick one. Your second decision:\n\n2. Decide to make a list of things that sound like a good idea. Decide to do it every morning. Include seeking help outside of Reddit. Although this is an amazing community with brilliant ideas it is no substitute for face to face human contact. Also include getting a real massage from a real massage therapist. Touch is very important, and it will change your life. Also include cardiovascular exercise. It'll take care of that spare tire and help you produce serotonin.\n\n3. Break down the list so it is in easy to accomplish chunks. Baby steps are easier than giant leaps.\n\n4. Plan for failures, plateaus, setbacks, and regressions. It doesn't mean you can't move forward, just be aware they're there so they don't take you all the way back to the bottom. Once you realize your own personal pattern of regression, you can see the light beyond it and it becomes easier to get motivated to take the next step. \n\nNumber 4 is very important. It took me years of feeling like a failure to figure that one out. \n\nBy the time you've spent a while doing 3 and 4 you should start feeling better. The little baby steps add up and with each one comes a drop of esteem and hope because accomplishment feels good. Soon you can start making decisions based on emotions because you now feel them. WAIT! You need practice! Basically once you start to feel anything besides that weight in your chest, your circuitry is still used to making decisions that lead you back to where you are now. Avoid that! Instead meditate on why a decision would make you feel a certain way, then reflect on it with your intellect instead. If the two are compatible, then go with it. If not, then make the intellectually sound choice. \n\nI'm running out of steam, and really, that's as far as I've made it on the whole seduction pulling me out of a black pit of despair thing, but now I've got lots of women in my life and professionally things are looking up. I'm pretty happy most of the time now. I get things done. When I feel that stone in my chest I know it is only temporary and I can wait it out and do things to speed up the waiting. \n\nGood luck man. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "We all control our own lives. Time for you to take control of yours.\n\nI'd suggest not purchasing any firearms", "score": 4 }, { "body": "You care FAR to much. Life's an exhibition. Nothing else.\n\nFurther, \"Something has to change.\"\n\nWe don't control that. You do.\n\n\"They don't understand solitude. They don't know what it's like not knowing what to do with yourself night after night after night.\"\n\nI understand solitude. What you haven't isn't solitude. It's loneliness and depression. There's a huge difference.\nYou're right about that second part. Do you have goals in life?", "score": 3 }, { "body": "dude, i have been through the same and totally feel and understand what you are talking about.\nTo make a beginning, go ahead and start helping out people, and find ways to do so if no one in the immediate neighborhood needs help. Also, indulge in forms of service which require your active involvement instead of helping out people with cash.\nThat is the first step to feeling good about yourself. Things will begin to look better as you involve yourself more in such activity.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Start off first with building up your body, it gives a lot of confidence.\nStart running, eat healthy, hit the gym and work with weights. Plan this in a agenda so you HAVE to go. You'll notice it in the third month or so, people are going to act differently around you.\n\nWork on your posture, everytime you walk to a door, straighten your back and walk upright. If you do it 30 times a day it will become automatic. \n\nNext up, take that car of yours and drive to a location where you dont know ANYBODY! Just say hi to ppl, ask them the time, hit up some conversations with an old grandma. Just to get you in the social mode.\nThere were some topics on 30 day challenges.\n\nAnd its hard, believe me, you have to get out of your comfort zone. But remember, even when you fuck up, the other person wont hurt you. Not physically, mentally at first because rejection is hard, but you get over that. You become good when you can get angry about it, you're a human being too. Why dont they treat you with the respect you deserve! Then double your efforts and blow the next one out of the water.\n\nStart off with the basic stuff, begin with hi! to everyone (not just hot women, or even women at all) and not those elaborate pickup lines described in books. Those only work when you have the body language to back them up. \n\nGood luck!\n\nps: life is what you make of it", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Some people might disagree with the particular album I'm recommending for a given band, but these are my suggestions. Some have already been posted, but I'm so helpful that I'm giving you links!\n\n___\n\n[Intronaut - Prehistoricisms](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qNkRnMGEHVY)\n\n[The Ocean - Precambrian](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xfy7JyV5THg)\n\n[Isis - Panopticon](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Awg99tk6vys)\n\n[Cult of Luna - Eternal Kingdom](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgnSdBXFxlA)\n\n___\n\nAs a bonus, here are two rule-breakers since they're not post-metal.\n\n[Alcest - Souvenirs D'un Autre Monde](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fm7S6eGDPvY) - I'd call this post-rock. The lyrics are French so you may have to translate to enjoy them. Not exactly heavy, but you should give it a shot.\n\n[Altar Of Plagues - White Tomb](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yy1Ob9RuPFY) - Ambient black metal. They don't really fit into post-metal, but they do fit your description of what you're looking for.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "* Rosetta\n* Mouth of the Architect\n* Agalloch\n* Cult of Luna\n* Isis\n\nLong & heavy: All of the above (see especially: Mouth of the Architect - No One Wished to Settle Here)\n\nWeird soundscapes: Rosetta, Agalloch\n\nStrong grooves: Isis, Mouth of the Architect\n\nCosmic lyrics: Rosetta ([seriously](http://lyrics.wikia.com/Rosetta#The_Galilean_Satellites_.282005.29))\n\nObscure lyrics: Isis (yeah, try figuring out what Waving Radiant is about :P)\n\n\\m/", "score": 6 }, { "body": "[A storm of light](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H238Rm0ZUy0)\n\nTheir new album (Forgive Us Our Trespasses) is phenomenal.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Sunn O))) fits the bill for heavy weird soundscapes. Didn't \"get\" it the first time or two around, then i came across this long but fascinating article on the band:\n[Heady Metal](http://www.nytimes.com/2006/05/28/magazine/28artmetal.html?ei=5090&en=68f0bcd99797d7a3&ex=1306468800&partner=rssuserland&emc=rss&pagewanted=all) It put me in the right frame of mind and would almost kill to see them live.\n\nJust a fair warning, this will DESTROY lesser sound systems/headphones :)\n[Sunn O))) - It Took The Night To Believe](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=He1XFM3noDQ)\n\nEdit: does not fit your requirement for decent vocals. Also just read the wikipedia article on [post-metal](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-metal). I have alot trouble with music genres as my tastes seem to wander all over the place. I stand by Sunn being an awesome heavy audio experience tho.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Just got married and combined accounts so it's been hard to get used to keeping up with what the other is spending so this helps a lot, especially my husband, he has the iphone app and he now looks at it before he spends. We love it.", "score": 23 }, { "body": "I have used it for over a year now, and hae seen it get better seemingly every month. It's hands down the best money management available at any price IMO.", "score": 18 }, { "body": "I've been using it since the beta, and have had no problems with it. However, they recently sold out to Intuit, and will eventually move their back-end from Yodlee to Intuit. I am therefore switching from Mint to [Yodlee](http://yodlee.com/ymc_home.shtml) before that happens. I trust Yodlee more than Intuit (and I'm sure there were reasons Mint chose Yodlee over Intuit in the first place).", "score": 12 }, { "body": "Does it have a version you can input data in yourself with? I don't want to give them all my financial information. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I use Mint and the only problem I have with it is that its notifications are usually a day or two off. If my checking gets to a low balance it's supposed to notify me about it, but does so a day or so after the low balance hit. By that point I'm dangerously close or have already drafted money from my savings. Other than that it's great.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I'd never created a budget before I used Mint. Now I keep track of it every few days. \n\nAlso, you can't move money or access the accounts directly from the site, only view transactions, so there's not too much someone with access to your mint account can do. It doesn't even show your account numbers.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Sounds like she's telling you what you need to hear to stay interested. Probably getting a bit bored and likes the attention you give her (not a bad thing, happens all the time).\n\nBut it doesn't sound like he's abusive or anything, so I'd say if she wanted to leave him she probably would without your involvement.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Yes, it is wrong. You are trying to justify your actions but they cannot be justified. Stop interfering in their marriage. It is not your place to try to end their relationship, no matter how bad it may seem to you. \n\nMarried people = Off limits. \n\nWhat is so hard to understand about that?\n\nStop.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "If she leaves her husband because of **you** it's wrong. If this woman's life is so miserable she should leave because **she** wants to. It's the 21st Century, women have rights if she wanted to leave she should leave. If she leaves because you forced her to, who do you think she's going to blame for fucking up her life when shit goes bad? It almost inevitably will, you do realize this is some Jerry Springer type shit? Don't fuck up those kid's lives because you want some pussy. You came to Reddit to get some collective knowledge and the collective is telling you to mind your own business.\n\nTL;DR She's an adult, if she wants to leave she would leave. Mind your own business.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I think you asked the wrong question...\n\nYour question should have been, \"should i sleep with this married woman?\" The answer of coarse is NO.\n\nYou have been a part of adultery. You may think this is high school and she is just cheating with you because she is \"dating\" the wrong guy. Well this isn't high school. This is a marriage. What you have done is wrong. What she has done is wrong, and depending on the state, you may have been a part of something that will nullify her rights to alimony and/or her children.\n\nDon't pretend to care for someone while at the same time jeopardizing her future.\n\nIf you want to be a friend fine. If you want to wait around for her, what the hell, it is your life; do what you want with your time. But providing her a way to commit adultery... That is wrong on several levels. \n\nHope and pray you don't get sued. \n\nEdit: spelling", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Well, that's her side of the story. The husband may actually still be very much in love with her and you might end up breaking a family and wreaking havoc on the lives of those kids. I would seek an informed opinion from someone that actually knows the husband and kids.\n\nKeep in mind that if she is willing to do this to her establshed family she may very well do the same to you. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I came into this thinking hell no dont do it because she's obviously with him for a good reason. But after reading this, it sounds like your trying to make a failing marriage fail quicker. Stay out of it. You've already put forth your feelings, and she has feelings for you. Its up to her to make the step and file for a divorce. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I'm a big black jack-hammer of a fuck machine. Nothing better than pounding fat chicks from behind and watching the impact tremors roll up and down their jiggly bodies while they squeal in painful delight. It's like i'm punishing them for being fat, and i'm gonna fuck the fat away and then kick them out for not being fat enough. ", "score": 47 }, { "body": "**Q:** If you're into *insert adjective here* sex, what is it that gets you off about it?\n\n**A:** Beats me... It just does.", "score": 29 }, { "body": "I think the enjoyment of hard sex comes from the idea of uncontrolable passion. The more out of control you are the more you hold your partner down and just fuck them the more passionate the love is. I don't agree with this idea and think that it is an uninformed idea people get but I think that is there it comes from.\n\nI dont think you will fin anyone who only likes that", "score": 6 }, { "body": "First can you clarify what you mean by hard sex? Do you mean rough or S&M? or BDSM or rape fantasy? \n\nThe thing about any of these rough fetishes, or any \"weird\" fetish for that matter, is that the reasons people are into them are all going to be different. Ask a foot fetish guy why and he'll have almost no idea unless he's seriously self analyzed. And, even then it might not make total sense to you. What I think any fetish has in common is that they all satisfy our sexual itch. We just gotta scratch it. Some people can scratch it with normal sex, and others need to put themselves in mental places a little harder to reach.\n\nI'm into some kinky stuff, and I have a feeling that it's similar to how some gay people describe homosexual feelings, I've just known it my whole life. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I only like hard sex on occasion (I'm like you; I like variety). Mostly I like it for the sense of enormous passion and excitement. The sensation itself isn't all that great; gentle sex allows for a greater range and strength of sensations, and it does not cause soreness.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I like passion; it can come in all forms of sex, hard, fast, slow, lovey-dovey, dirty, etc. It all depends on the preferences of the participants.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Sounds to me girl is friend + benefits and sounds whiny that she can't get her way all the time.\n\nGuy sounds like a long term deal.\n\nBreak communication with the girl for the time until she can get her shit straight and realize that the \"arrangement\" between the two of you was not a long-term feasible concept.", "score": 11 }, { "body": "I think you're handling it fine. She probably didn't know she'd develop these feelings for you and now she's just as confused as you are. Is your guy ok with you possibly staying in touch with her as a friend, even knowing how she feels about you?", "score": 5 }, { "body": ">I got a text she meant to send to someone else about how it would break her heart to see me\n\nhaha, sure. I can't remember how many texts I \"accidentally\" sent to the \"wrong\" person in my life but it was quite a lot ;-)\n\n\n> I told her I'm going to leave her alone and if she thinks she can just be friends to contact me. \n\nSounds like the only reasonable thing to do to me. If there continues to be drama, drama, drama you can still stop having contact with her alltogether. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "On a side note.\n\nI liked the movie, but I must admit that I was sorely disappointed by one factor. I every mystery story, I expect to be given all of the necessary information to solve it myself before the end. To me, it is a vital component to any story of this genre. This movie obviously didn't get that memo, and it ruined what could have been an excellent movie in my opinion.", "score": 20 }, { "body": "I feel that while Guy Ritchie didn't stay completely true to the source material, he was within an acceptable range of artistic liberty. Holmes' skills are just as good. In the film, his methods are slightly different, in that he uses **both** deductive and inductive reasoning. I felt that this gave it a bit of a new edge. And we have to remember, this isn't a Sherlock Holmes book turned into a movie. This is a new, original story. You can take these artistic liberties.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "\"He makes assumptions about unpredictable events (mostly his opponent's reactions)\"\n\nBzzzt. Many _real_ martial arts employ a study of an opponents reaction. While you can't be 100% sure of someones reaction, you can know that if you hit someone in the jaw from a particular angle, that their head will tilt back pretty much the same way every time. From this you can plan the \"next most effective\" action to take. Kung fu San Soo is a good example.\n\nThat aside, I pretty well agree with you on his change of reasoning styles, and this is why I was hesitant to see the movie. I enjoyed the film, but there were definitely some changes to the base of the Holmes character.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Agreed. I read every single story waaaay back in high school. Most more than once. Yes, I enjoyed the movie, but felt that the character as portrayed wasn't very loyal to the stories. ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "THANK YOU. \n\nSame reaction here, despite Downey's abundant awesomeness/charisma and the fact I would probably enjoy watching him read from the dictionary.\n\nStill waiting for the RockNRolla sequel. Get Downey in *that* and I just may asplode.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I was only really annoyed at the end when they are on the tower bridge after having come directly from Westminster (presumably running the whole time). That's a hell of a ways to go. You couldn't even see Westminster in the background of the scene. They implied that the tower bridge was right there beside the palace.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "As someone who has long loved Sherlock Holmes (read all the stories at least twice), I kind of wish that Richie had just invented a new character to jump out of exploding windows and get tied to bedframes rather than hijacking Holmes. I don't object to film versions of classical literary characters *as such,* but this film -- watching it was like seeing a biographical film about Teddy Roosevelt, but his arm has been replaced with a shock cannon. Yes, it's awesome, but there's an established dataset regarding Teddy Roosevelt, and *shock cannons aren't in it.*\n\nI had to go watch an assload of Jeremy Brett's Holmes to get Robert Downey, Jr.'s out of my head. :(", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Edmonton, Alberta.\nI'm living in Vancouver for school and Whistler is my weekend location. Great Deal on the Season Pass for students made it a no brainer.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I am from Bay City, Michigan. I am usually at caberfae (season passes are super cheap), but definitley enjoy my trips to boyne mountain/highlands the most. Haven't gone anywhere outside of michigan for boarding or skiing... Yet", "score": 6 }, { "body": "From Edmonds, WA. Board at Baker mostly. Stevens is closer, but I have not enjoyed it on a great day yet. Places I have been to only onceeach: Snoqualmie central, Cypress, Whistler, Apex, Big White, Mt Washington on Vancouver, Island", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Auckland, New Zealand. I usually ride Turoa on Mt Ruapehu (an active volcano). I've done a month in Niseko, Japan and a few days in Queenstown, New Zealand. I'd love to ride some big mountains in Europe and North America!", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Western New York but I go to school in Northern New York. I hit up Holiday Valley while home and White Face while at school.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Long Island, New York. Getting off the Island for trips is not very traveler friendly IMHO(Tolls, traffic, gas). Mostly ride at my friends house in Stratton, Vermont, and my other friend that has a house near Camelback Mountain in PA. Other than that, mostly hit up the Catskills in NY for day trips. Used to have a season pass to Mountain Creek, in NJ. I spent last season working at The Canyons in Park City, UT. Man I got spoiled.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Berkley, Michigan. About 4 miles north of *the* \"8 Mile\" road made famous by Eminem.\n\nI ride mostly at Pine Knob twilights after work on Tuesdays/Wednesdays. It sucks, but there's no crowd. Few times a year I get up to Boyne or Crystal Mountain.\n\nOnce annually I take a trip with friends. This year we're doing a week in Park City in February.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Edmonton, Alberta. I'm lucky, we have awesome resorts. Sunshine Village and Lake Louise are frequents, as well as Marmot Basin. I've also been to Kicking Horse, Fernie Alpine Resort (personal fav for the powder hound in me), and Panorama. Great snow, but it does get a little cold in January and February. Though we've been blessed this year with DUMPS of snow almost weekly. I love my life.\n\nThis year i'll be adding Big White, Whitewater, Red Mountain, and Kimberly. Canada is awesome.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Queenstown, New Zealand: Send me a message if you're ever planning to ride Coronet Peak, Remarkables, Cardrona or Treble Cone\n\nalso, I've spent a couple of seasons in Asspen, CO", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I'm also a violinist, except I actually did decide to major in performance. I wish I could've known what I know now, though, because I don't think my school and teacher were such a great match for me, and ultimately it hasn't worked out, career-wise. So now I, too, find myself in the 9-5 grind, completely missing the freedom to just practice endlessly and have other talented musicians to play with...\n\n...shit, I need to find an orchestra to join.\n\nBut you're always going to have what-ifs in life, it's about what you do with the wisdom you learn along the way to make things happen. If you can find a good teacher and even just an hour every day to practice, I think that'll help you a lot. Learning really focused practicing is probably the biggest thing that separates amateurs from professionals. Are you on [violinist.com](http://www.violinist.com)? Because it's a good site and would probably help with networking, finding other musicians to play with, and maybe even a good teacher. But even just finding a good teacher should help you get on a more musically satisfying track.\n\nAnd on that note, I think I'll take a bit of my own advice as well. Good luck!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I have an idea, and maybe I'll make a reddit for it, but how does the idea of making a youtube channel sound? Where reddit artists can put themselves up playing whatever song, and then be given criticism. I have been thinking about doing this, putting up work and seeing what people have to say. But I knowing that I'd be getting good feedback from real musicians would be a huge help. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "The thing I like about New Yorkers is that they complain about the white immigrants to their city but not anyone else, while in the rest of the country they complain about everyone else and don't mind white people.", "score": 452 }, { "body": "***Please Please Pleeeaaaasssse*** don't send them back to Ohio. Do you know how long it took us to get them out of here? Why do you think their parents pay for them to live somewhere else?", "score": 275 }, { "body": "What's ironic is that you're the only one standing out among a bunch of people making an effort to stand out. Which makes you the real hipster.", "score": 227 }, { "body": "Some of us on the West Coast find this highly amusing. \n\nC'mon Ohioans, keep moving eastward! California is *not* the land of opportunity. ", "score": 73 }, { "body": "Oh man, OP, I feel you.\n\nI live in Paris, and TONS of fucking 'study abroaders' come in and suddenly pretend that they're not American. I don't mind people who study abroad - in fact, I think it's a great thing - but here's the deal... YOU'RE NOT FOOLING ANYONE.\n\nI'll meet them at parties every now and then, and they'll introduce themselves by saying that they \"live\" there, they'll do 'bis' (kissing on the cheek), and they dress in all black... it's hilarious when I actually start talking to them about the city, and they don't know shit, and finally they have to acknowledge that they're \"living there\" for 3 months, while their parents pay American tuition for them to go to French subsidized school. (my tuition is 500 euros per year. they pay like 30,000. Same school.)\n\nThe best is watching them pretend to speak with a french accent when they sense that OTHER Americans are around. You'll hear a tourist couple, and suddenly these 'study-abroaders' are speaking broken french with each other so that they don't look like tourists.", "score": 54 }, { "body": "I used to live in Seattle and hear the complaints about Californians moving up there. Now I live in Florida and slowly but surely plot my own invasion of NYC. It will be swift and merciless. I bring not just a moustache, but a full beard--*and* plaid shirts.", "score": 48 }, { "body": "For what it's worth, all you hipsters are welcome in Los Angeles. The weather's better, and god knows, somebody's got to keep the economy going.\n\nThe fixed gear bike scene is huge, many bars serve PBR, and there are all sorts of internships available, so it'd be fun for you.", "score": 37 }, { "body": "Why do you care what young people think of you anyway? Just ignore them and they'll eventually graduate/get new jobs and move away. Unless they're being overly antagonistic or don't let you in to your cafe, then who the FUCK cares what they think of you? In all honestly, they probably don't even notice you AT ALL. They probably aren't there to piss you off, you know, they just like coffee too. I think you've got a case of NARCISSISM. ", "score": 29 }, { "body": "In case none of you have ever seen this...[the Hipster Olympics.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kAO4EVMlpwM)", "score": 29 }, { "body": "Ahh, this is just like what the previous residents said seven years ago about YOU when you invaded. It's the circle of snob.", "score": 20 }, { "body": "This is the rule: You are not technically 'from' a place unless you:\n\na) Went to High School there OR\nb) Have lived there for 10 consecutive years\n\nI've lived in all the hip cities (although, I consider myself a 'unapologetic poseur') like NYC, Seattle & Vancouver but when someone asks me where I'm from, I always say \"Warwick, Rhode Island. Born and Raised.\"\n\noh, and this comment was totally more authentic and cool before all those other comments started moving in and wrecking the scene!", "score": 16 }, { "body": "And I'm sick of everyone who wasn't born here acting like everyone who has lived here less than they have is obnoxious. You're all obnoxious. We're obnoxious. Everyone fucking sucks. That's what's great about this city.", "score": 16 }, { "body": "Listen, I grew up in Williamsburg on Humboldt and Jackson st. Lived there for 21 years. The area around Bedford avenue went from desolate and strewn with crack vials to bustling and full of stores and commerce. Given time every neighborhood changes considerably, the gentrification of Williamsburg was a process that took many years and it has changed considerably, but that it just a reality in an urban environment. I myself got priced out and now, six years removed, i live in Ridgewood.", "score": 15 }, { "body": "Aren't all the things you're complaining about (tight jeans, ironic mustaches and Kanye West Sunglasses) manufactured, sold and advertised in New York.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "Oh boo hoo hoo, my good old New York is being invaded by the Italians and Irish!\n\n-- You, circa 1850\n\nYour complaint (oh noes, people different from me moving in) is as old as New York itself.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "Hey, I just moved to Williamsburg from Kansas (well, by way of Germany) and honestly I don't see what all the fuss is about. I was reading an article recently in the NYTimes and they were basically saying that this happens every 10 years or so to a different neighborhood. In the 60's, it was Greenwich Village (my mother lived there in the 60's actually... does that qualify me to live here in your eyes?). After the Village became too expensive, people started moving to the East Village. In the 90's it became really hip to live in the Lower East Side. As that became too expensive, people moved to Williamsburg. Now Williamsburg is becoming too expensive for most people and they are fleeing to Bushwick. You see how this works? Creative people are always going to want to move to NYC. Once those creative people have made a neighborhood desirable, it will become more expensive. Hell, I don't know anybody young who can even afford to live in Manhattan. When my mom lived there, the Village was the *cheap* part of New York. Anyway, I'm sorry to hear that your neighborhood is gentrifying. It's a cycle and it is unavoidable.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "What I don't understand is how NYC is where they all migrate to. Wouldn't it be more \"ironic\" to move to a true shithole, like Detroit?", "score": 13 }, { "body": "i'm tired of the habitual, obligatory rants of certain self-righteous xenophobes living in NYC who hypocritically take on elitist airs in opposition to perceived elitist airs like they are somehow the only true native New Yorkers, more entitled to be there than anyone else as if there ever was such thing as a native New Yorker besides the Native Americans to begin with, who bemoan \"gentrification\", in the process, conveniently masking their own aforementioned xenophobia. \n\nOh, and i think i speak for many a non-thug type when i say we are thoroughly tired of small gangs of thugs on the train and elsewhere acting as if they own the town, fucking with anyone who does not resemble them, anyone whose demeanor and manner is not exhaustively composed so as to in the most obtuse and incessant fashion reiterate their manhood or more accurately as it is perceived in their own eyes, their godhood, as if they are the only true native New Yorkers and as if there aren't free libraries all over New York with which they could educate themselves/acquire relevant skills to at least, pursue a degree or sufficiently employ themselves/participate in the relatively plentiful economy that New York is still blessed to possess especially in light of the current \"crises\". \n\nI have lived various places and have been living in NY for a couple years now. I definitely get labeled hipster. I am as broke as they come and always have been. Parents were poor as fuck. Karliament's generalization is so fucking beyond habitual, obligatory, and cliche it's truly sad. I see this sentiment though repeatedly throughout Brooklyn. I've seen guys walk past Verb Cafe in Williamsburg cursing hipsters, telling them to go home to where they came from, asking out loud to themselves (or i suppose to 'hipsters' en masse) \"who are you to look at me like that?\", walking by disgruntled, no, furious, steaming and red looking like Bill O'Reilly come from an Animal Collective show. They look crazy really. it is so seriously sad. the insularity these people possess to not be able to maintain stoicism in the face of such a minor disturbance. After all, they are not being thrown punches. So what if some 18 year old kid, some skinny pants wearing faggot (as it's most evidently viewed perceived in the eyes of the non-hipster, the \"normal\" as is their own view of themselves that is) isn't rapt with obsequiousness or stuttering to flatter or to add false candor to conversation so to set your nerves at ease. \n\nIn this unavoidable transaction that takes place on the streets of NYC and in every interaction for that matter, there is a symbolic exchange that takes place between so thought of to themselves \"normals\" and \"abnormals\". It is by far the predominate practice of \"normals\" to initiate the symbolic belittling, if you will, making the first intimations of difference in their constative assertions that they are normal, they are to be the standard to which all should follow. the so thought of \"abnormals\" react accordingly if they're smart. that is to say, if they're smart, or become smart, they distance themselves from the violent eyes of the 'normals' and cultivate themselves minus said influence. If they're not smart, they attempt to conform, contorting themselves every which way possible to fit into the approved positions in society that the self-proclaimed 'normals' have proscribed. \n\nHas this master/slave dialectic like phenomena convoluted to such a degree that the once 'abnormals' begin to exhibit the same behavior that the self-proclaimed 'normals' initially did? Yes, most definitely. The same fascist tendencies arise in every organization of egos. eventually, in terms of societal status, the 'abnormals' can overtake those who thought themselves 'normal' leaving them the same sense of ostracism that they once were made to bear. the difference though, is that the abnormals who were ridiculed by anti-intellectuals, homophobes, and just generally, thugs were most likely made to bear said ostracism coupled with habitual violence if not, at least the threat of serious violence whereas, the ones who dubbed themselves \"normal\" initially, and who are the purveyors of said violence, almost never are subject to the same violence or even threat of it. The only violence that the 'skinny pants wearer' or the intellectual usually threatens is a social violence, an insouciance, more accurately. To extrapolate, therein we see the dichotomy between the moderate liberals and the extremist right (more often) and left. Extremists invoke physical violence to further their agenda whereas moderate liberals demure away from bloodshed and advocate a social violence, an insouciance, or snobbery of sorts, in order to screen their interlocutor's intellect in the process of determining the gravitas of the argument, their words. Eloquence, or in other words, style/aesthetics are paramount and often go some way toward indicating the the nature of the content.\n\nYes, this symbolic drama occurs in gradations between types of people as symbolic value fluctuates in the society en large. Oh this is all rhetorical. How does this not occur to just about everyone? The answer is it does, it is most logical, most plain to see. It is just that in certain conditions the threat of violence combined with conditioned obsequiousness creates a situation where people feel made to bear, are indoctrinated into bearing cognitive dissonance which can be read in some aspect of their person however much sublimated causing the disability, discontinuity of reason most likely. \n\nNow you tell me though, which is more morally reprehensible and destructive to society; the constant threat of physical violence, homophobia, and obscenely inflated bravado, and actual physical violence or insouciance on part of the skinny kid who at his most petulant stage just wants to listen to good music, buy nice clothes, and have a goodtime, who outside of 'hipsterville' must consistently face not mere ostracism by self-proclaimed \"normals\" but actual physical violence from the often very same prejudice, homophobes, anti-intellectuals, etc. etc.? \n\nAs for property value going up that is something much more the result of the portion of middle america and just generally america, who do not and would not ever wear skinny jeans (because skinny jeans mean homosexual most pointedly) and who would gleefully join in your jeering of skinny jeans wearers at the first opportunity to do so. I'm not saying that some of these kids who go to 50,000$'s a year art schools like pratt aren't privileged as fuck and even obnoxious and don't contribute a good deal to the scenario of rent hikes but imagine what ft green would be like without Pratt for one thing. schools like that bring so much money into the neighborhoods they are in. the business i work in in the the west village would not survive without the traffic of NYU. a business i used to work in would not do nearly as well, would prob. not survive without the traffic of pratt. Yet and still, i hear quite often, this particular diatribe of Karliament's. I say suck it up and stop acting like the world is a fixed thing. Change is constant, anticipate it, cultivate yourself, don't take such minor quibbles so personally. Rent is going to increase per the non-hipster businessmen who are out to gouge, extort, and inflate without mercy. the insouciance of hipsters is no match for the insouciance of midtown! the two are not in accordance. It is the midtown vultures, profiteers who you should be vetting in Williamsburg but then you wouldn't dare think of that because they look, dress and talk like you and you were taught to hate what is different from you weren't you. \nle sigh::: ", "score": 13 }, { "body": "Nobody should leave Ohio without a damn good reason. Cheap living, normal people, goofy ass subculture...what a riot. Unfortunately these sucker kids think that NYC is the place where they can really expand as a \"graphic designer\" or \"photographer\" (not ragging on the professions, just the douche bag kids that think they are pro when they take a photoshop course.) Yep, that's what those worlds need...more pictures of buildings taken at odd angles. I like Ohio and I think people who leave without a good reason need to check their heads. ", "score": 12 }, { "body": "I'm tired of stuck-up, annoying New Yorkers moving to Ohio only to tell me about how great New York is.. I think we are even.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "Wait...are you implying that Ohio is the epicenter of the hipster movement? \n\nDear god, we're letting them out of the state now. Wait... I mean thank god we're pushing them out of the state. \n\nSucks for NY...good for me. \n\nIf I'm ever in NY, I'll buy you a beer and invite you to move to Ohio that will soon be hipster free.", "score": 11 }, { "body": "What people don't realize is that wherever you're born, be it NYC, Colorado, California, or wherever, you have an exclusive, innate right to occupy that land and control the culture and housing markets as well as SHUT THE FUCK UP!", "score": 9 }, { "body": "\"Welcome to New York City, Home of the World Weary Poseur.\"\n\n-- Welcome sign seen as Homer Simpson enters NYC", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I am tired of New Yorkers who think Ohio is some kind of backwoods freak show. I understand the frustration with newcomers like that, but looking down on the rest of the country the way they look down on you isn't really helping the problem. \n\nIn short, OHIOANS 4 LIFE (brought to you by proud Ohioans who do not own Kanye glasses). ", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I feel you man, I grew up in Hong Kong and I hate all the asian fetish riddled english teachers who are pouring in that think they're gonna click with everyone cause they watch anime. Makes my life worse finanically and socially, also happens through out asia, god i hate cheap airfares.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "I miss New York. God, I miss New York.\nGrew up there. My family moved across the whole damn country in my early teens, but every time I go back it still feels like home. No one really cares what you look like or what you do, so long as you're not a dick about it.\n\nIt seems the only people who DO really care that much are the out-of-towners, who feel they have to put on a big show to fit in in NYC, and then are all surprised when people look - heaven forfend - *normal*.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Speaking of which, can we get those hipster fucks out of Chicago, too? I will not go to Wicker Park so I can be looked down upon by a greasy fuck in an ironic sweater eating a cupcake from his favorite, trendy new bakery.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Man I don't even live in New York; I live in Seattle, but I still think you're fucking awesome sir! Upvote for mustache of ironic proportions!\n\nAlso, \"Only hipsters complain about hipsters.\"\n\nFuck you. This statement is bullshit. Seattle is the hipster capitol of the Pacific Northwest and I'm fucking tired of it.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "* Welcome to living in one of the worlds great cities, deal with it. \n* People want to live where you do, deal with it\n* New York is a city of people from other places, deal with it\n* New York constantly evolves, deal with it", "score": 7 }, { "body": "How is this post any different than the complete BS argument put up by the crazy right that \"foreigners are taking our jobs!\" Get over yourself jackass. You live in a city of nearly 9 million people - you're gonna have some douchenozzles that live there. Judging by your post.....you might be one.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "why anyone would ever have anything to do with williamsburg is beyond me\r\n\r\nyou should have got out seven years ago.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "What's with all the hate for mustaches lately? If it was good enough for my dad fixing your mom's plumbing in 1973, then by God it's good enough for anybody.\n\nFWIW, I have a giant motherfucking untrimmed beard but if I wanted a mustache I'd have one and it'd be the baddest mustache you've ever seen...nothing ironic about it.\n\nEDIT: Also, I had no idea the rest of the country hated people from Ohio as much as those of us in the south who have to deal with those people invading our beaches. [For reference.](http://gobacktoohio.com/)", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Hah. Sounds like Lydia Lunch in the documentary [Kill Your Idols](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gfw1pZsAUqI), complaining about the \"suburban spoiled brats\".\n\nAnd NYC is nothing. You should see San Francisco--in the last 10 years, trust-fund babies have pushed out almost all the actual working people. Now, every bistro and nightclub is 100% full of ironic assholes with ironic moustaches and ironic t-shirts, drinking ironic Jaegermeister shots with their fat, lazy, spoiled ironic GFs. Nobody works anymore, everybody gets checks from mommy and daddy. I have no idea where the people who wait on these pricks live.....Vacaville, probably.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I have a question being a non-American. What do those of you who hate tight jeans wear? Less tight jeans is it?", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I'm tired of such ridiculous contests. \"Oh, I'm more real, more hip, more authentic because I've lived here longer. I know what you're thinking just by looking at your clothes and moustache.\"\n\nReally? Who cares? Why don't BOTH of you move to Long Island?", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I'm from cincinnati and thankfully I don't run into too many hipsters down here so good job luring them to NY.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I'm from Ohio. Trust me when I tell you that practically no one is wearing those jeans here. That look originated in Williamsburg, (aka \"Your Hood\") so your fellow New Yorkers are to blame for that. The fact that you believe Ohio kids don't think your jeans are tight enough makes me suspect that you yourself are actually a hipster and making the statement ironically. Oh, and stop wasting your life sitting in a coffee shop judging people. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "OP, you have a valid complaint but most of these people don't seem to know what hipsters are. I made [this chart](http://imgur.com/fLX8L.jpg) that should clear things up.\n\n", "score": 5 }, { "body": "too bad there arent any native americans left to complain about all the white people moving into their \"hoods\"", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I got sick of you transplants back in the 80's. My neighborhood was cracked out in the 80's and 90's and is now a hipster neighborhood. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "You can read all that into a look?\n\nYou must have serious self-esteem problems.\n\nI never read stuff into looks, because I don't give a shit what other people think.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I don't understand where this mustache craze came about. Is it now uber-hip to sport a 70's pornstache? I have not encountered a single person upon which this did not look retarded.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Everyone that complains about hipsters hasn't discovered the magic of fucking hipster girls.\n\nTell them you've got the newest Fuck Buttons album at your place on 180g vinyl and you're in.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I'm tired of NYC culture already. Please STFU about your hipsters, stupid cost of rent, and crappy cell service.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "HIPSTER JOKE!!!!!\n\nHow many hipsters does it take to screw in a lightbulb?\n\n\nSiiiigh....It's some like, really obscure number. You've totally never heard of it. *rolls eyes*", "score": 4 }, { "body": "This story didn't particularly interest me until I got to:\n\n> and take those stupid Kanye West sunglasses with you.\n\nBravo, my man, bravo. It's great to see that globally, people fucking hate these glasses. Not just where I live.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Anyone who gets priced out of their apartment because of some kid's parents paying double rent on fucking *OHIO* wages needs to get a real job or go jump off a cliff because they failed at life. Yeah, Williamsburg was better off when it was all whores and crack vials.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Wow, Ohio is so fantastic that Reddit has nearly an entire thread devoted to shitting all over it. Lovely.\n\n\"If the whole world moved to their favorite vacation spots, then the whole world would live in Hawaii and Italy and Cleveland\"", "score": 3 }, { "body": "You should try saying all that crap to actual people, the actual people who are offending you, not people on reddit. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Reddit's hipster threads always remind me of this [sketch](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUfvgHFh9CY). Good times.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Those pesky, rich Ohio kids... always moving in to the big city and screwing up rent levels throwing around their massive wealth. Don't be hatin', Karliament... Ohio just rolls that way!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Oh yeah, Karliament, you're so cool because you lived in Williamsburg for 7 years. Mhm. \"I lived in Williamsburg BEFORE it was cool to live in Williamsburg.\" My God do you not see the irony? Look, hipsters don't really pretend that they're unique, they're just tired of people like you who bitch about their subculture, so just be quiet and mind your own business. Honestly, they don't care much about you; hipster bashing is just the cool thing to do. Get over yourself.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I wish I could go back to ny. although I dont miss paying 10 bucks for smokes but I do miss the sounds, people, buildings...it just feels right. Sadly I'm now in ohio. I just wish I could take my job and ny and meld it into one personally awesome utopia.\nbtw born and bred new yorker who now works for Ohio State University.\n\nAnn Arbor is still a Whore. That is all", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I describe your condition as \"Grand Pa Hipster\". You were that hipster 7 years ago when you moved to NY to CA (shot in the dark guess). Now the kids are wearing new clothes and you can't hang. Remember you didn't belong there when you first came, you can't judge others who come after you. This is the american experience, to look for a better life. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I support this, fuck you hipsters with kids who drove all the middle age lesbians out with your increased rates. Do you know how nice it is to live next to 50 year old lesbians who garden?! No, cause you get your food from the over priced oganic store. You know what fuckers? Its the same veggie store with organic on the front. I sell them my lemons which are NOT organic. Fuckers........", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Honestly if your going to win this argument your going to have to take a business stance and not a developer stance. If you can prove that the current solution is the more maintainable, scalable and of highest quality product in relation to the upkeep and development costs then it makes no business sense to move to a new technology.\n\nShow him the numbers (and if possible CC the higher ups (investors)) that (cost to scale + Upkeep Costs) for your solution is less than that of a .NET solution assuming the exact same level of quality then there is no logical reason that they will make the switch. \n\n(please note this will probably just result in him firing you but you'd probably quit if it went .NET anyways so might as well)\n\n\n", "score": 24 }, { "body": "Well, PHP runs on IIS. [There are ways to bridge MySQL and .NET.](http://www.mysql.com/products/connector/) Why work with his guys to develop some form of API-over-HTTP (SOAP, XML-RPC, etc.)? Then they can write their stuff in .NET that interfaces with your PHP, and you can still continue working with PHP.\n\nHis main goal seems to be billing the company for the work that comes from rewriting everything in .NET, so if you can offer a solution that accommodates that, I doubt he'd care how it was done. Plus you get to use buzz phrases like \"leverage out existing architecture,\" \"XML-based API for interoperative systems,\" \"negligible downtime though abstracted interfaces,\" and \"cross-platform solution.\"", "score": 19 }, { "body": "You should quit. The guy is going to convert every line of code to .NET and wipe every linux box and install windows.\n\nI have met many people like him. They are zealots and since he has more power you are shit out of luck.\n\nStart looking for another job, see if a competitor will hire you because the IT budget for this company is explode and it's going to eat into their profits.", "score": 17 }, { "body": "I have been through this one myself. I had a new manger come in and suggest that I go to training for C# and re-write all our applications that were in PHP. He was a manager that had not been a programmer and did not realize what kind of issues that would cause.\n\nDepending on how much power this guy has, it could work out either way.\n\nI ended up leaving the job. He hired over a dozen contractors at over $250.00/HR to re-write the applications. That was about 8 months ago. My co-workers that stayed behind told me that downtime has never been worse and the upper management is starting to ask questions about what happened.\n\nIMO: You should never re-write working code if not absolutely essential.\n\nDoes HE have a boss?\n\nMight get yourself together some facts an figures and have a little heart to heart.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "I think the answer is quite clear. You have three options:\n\n1) You decide to move your skillset to the new company vision.\n\n2) You talk with the guy, explain that you have an existing infrastructure and company culture, that what you have is working well, and find a way to possibly accommodate both infrastructures at once.\n\n3) You find a new job.\n\nUltimately, as attached as you may feel to the company and your work, it's work for hire. It's owned by the company owners, and they've put these people in charge. It may not be fair, and it may not be good- but it's not your decision.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "The platform or language you choose is only as good or stable as the people developing for it and administering it. .NET can be more awesome than PHP if your guys know exactly what they're doing. Expecting a group of LAMP experts to immediately hop into .NET land or vice versa with the expectation that everything will be perfect is a recipe for failure. \n\nIf you must migrate everything over make sure to train, train, train and develop on systems completely separate from your PHP systems. There's nothing wrong with learning new tech for your job, but make sure that your boss knows that you're still learning and to not expect the world on a silver platter until you're ready.", "score": 9 }, { "body": ">He's trying to push his .NET agenda under the premises that \".NET is more mature, stable, awesome, convivial, etc\" bullshit and he will probably succeed giving his semi-god status.\n\nUnfortunately for you, he is right regarding .NET relative to PHP. This is going to get me downmodded profusely, but .NET is an excellent framework, and I assume you are resisting the switch because you want to stay with what you are comfortable with, not what is best. .NET is far better than php in every regard, you'd be doing yourself a favor to switch. ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "To be fair, he isn't wrong about .NET being better than PHP. Just comparing the .NET base class library to PHP makes PHP look pathetic, not to mention the speed difference between the two.\n\nThat said, replatforming is a massive undertaking, and not to be taken lightly. If there is a valid business case for replatforming that's one thing, but doing it because he wants to preserve the SME's he has in .NET land is silly.\n\nIf they can learn .NET, then they can learn PHP, that's like going from building houses to playing with tinkertoys.\n", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Let's say you fail to talk some sense into your boss, and your team is forced to move everything to .NET. Maybe you could view the task as an interesting challenge and try to make the best of it, even though a complete rewite is of course batshit insane. It cannot hurt to try something completely new every once in a while, especially when you have preconceived negative opinions about it. Who knows, you might even end up liking .NET so much you never want to touch PHP again. And if not, you can always quit then. \n", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Explain in terms of money:\n\n.Net + Windows Server 2003 costs £10,000+ and support costs\n\nphp costs £0.\n\nNothing explains better than money.\n\nTo close the deal - list some Fortune 500 companies or large orgs, like Yahoo and FaceBook that use php.\n\nhttp://www.phpro.org/articles/Companies-Using-PHP.html\n\nThere are also companies that have ripped out .net because they didn't work (e.g. London Stock Exchange).\n\n", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I've been in a similar position and I agree with the previous posts here saying that you can adjust, fight it... or quit.\n\nBefore quiting I would see if this guy and the CEO would be willing to give you 30 minutes to explain your arguments. Prepare a slideshow explaining how it is financially beneficial to keep the current infrastructure. If you are anything like most of the *ix admins I know, you have a bunch of scripts and tweaks in place that keep all of this running with minimal effort on your part... explain it.\n\nIf they take you seriously, even a Windows zealot will see that it's not worth it to rewrite everything and re-create a proven infrastructure.\n\nThe most important thing you need to figure out is the main motivations of your boss and the CEO. Is it money? Explain it in money terms. If it is \"os religious views\", then there is no point hitting your head against the wall, quit!\n\nFinally; I'm not touching the PHP vs .NET flamewars but rewriting stuff that works is just a waste of time, and money. You might also look into making it possible to deploy .NET applications through Mono on your existing infrastructure (haven't tried myself).", "score": 5 }, { "body": "In my experience, most .NET users/fans/pushers haven't even used other operating systems, platforms or languages. It is all they know.\n\nA Microsoft developer will develop their application using Visual Studio using SQL Server and IIS, without question usually.\n\nWhen I design enterprise architectures, the Microsoft developers seem shocked when our Java/Linux team discuss the pros and cons of each database platform, or web server, or JDK.\n\nWe use Debian, Ubuntu with MySQL, PostreSQL, Java, Python, and PHP. We also use Squid, Memcache, CouchDB, Nagios, Fabric and Puppet.\n\nOur Linux/Java teams development, building and deployment process is fully automated, as is installing/configuring new developer workstations.\n\nThe Microsoft team are obviously jealous, as you watch them sit through installation/setup wizards, and then clicking their way through IIS configuration on each node.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "First, why would anyone down vote a help request like this? Half of you think this deserves it so hows about one of you express why? I, for one, find this action lame.\n\nI would think you need to put together some reports expressing why this is a bad decision. I'm talking money loss. Walk the CEO though your report. \n\nIf you know you're right then as long as you can express yourself there shouldn't be a problem and if they still ignore you at least you'll get to rub that shit in their faces when it blows up.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I don't have any groundbreaking advice that will make you change your ways, but you should really try to realize that most people aren't superficial and shallow. Most people, when you make an effort and get to know them, are nice and caring people. Just look at reddit and all these people that have selflessly helped so many others here.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "As teenagers a lot of people are superficial and shallow. They engage in really childish things (I remember in primary school/high school: \"YOU STOLE MY BEST FRIEND!\" lolwhat.) and do really stupid things.\n\nBut most people grow up. Just try and realize this fact and know that, really, everyone's afraid of getting hurt when socializing and they all cope with their own behaviours that may make them unattractive at fisrt. Getting past the outside layer is the hard bit, but it's worth it most of the time.\n\nThat's, uh, my two cents.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "This won't be what you want to hear and it won't be easy but respect his wishes and go on the break.\r\n\r\nI was in a similar situation, loved my boyfriend to death, he wanted to go on a break, it scared me, I wanted to talk to him because we were so close. All the advice I got was to leave him alone (although I was not always successful).\r\n\r\nRemember, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Give him his space, do not talk to him unless he talks to you, even then keep it short. He is trying to figure some stuff out right now so let him do that. If he is as stressed out as he says he is and really cares about you, after a while he will come back to you. He will realize you were one of the most stable things in his life and he will miss that comfort. But you *have* to let him get to that point on his own or else you will just push him away. Trust me on this. It is very very difficult especially when you love someone that much but it will be better for both of you in the long run. \r\n\r\nTake this time to figure out yourself, do what you love to do, reconnect with friends, this will be good to take a step back yourself and figure out what you want. Don't look at this as a punishment but an opportunity.\r\n\r\nGood luck!", "score": 15 }, { "body": "Heh, if I were in his shoes, throwing away a relationship with a girl who loves me would be the absolute last thing on my mind. Must be something else going on.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "It is often very difficult to cope with mental illness and a relationship simultaneously. We want to present ourselves as wonderful and desirable in a relationship, yet at the same time receive support and catharsis for even the worst things about us. That's hard enough to do at a baseline level, but when you add depression and anxiety, he may feel like he's unable either to ask for your support in those things or to keep it from damaging you. Self-improvement and healing are things that are often best done alone, because mental health problems are hard enough without the added anxiety of wondering if a partner will disappear because you're \"broken\" and have things \"wrong\" with you.\n\nYour boyfriend needs to continue in therapy and consider pharmaceutical options and aerobic exercise to help with his anxiety and depression. I would recommend giving him some space to come to those conclusions on his own, because that will feel like a personal victory whereas letting someone else talk him into it would feel like complacency.\n\nTake the break and give him the distance he wants, but don't make it a forever thing. Commit to being as apart from him as he desires and placing no pressure on him whatsoever, but for a length of time that you're okay with. Don't give *him* a deadline, but tell yourself right now how long you're willing to be alone yet committed to another person. Three months? Six months? A year? Whatever that is to you, when that time passes, if he hasn't become ready to restart the relationship, you should make a solid break and consider beginning to see other people.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I hate to be the one to do this, but time for some harsh perspective.\n\n> Before deciding to drop out, he and I would constantly talk about the future...\n\nLots of college relationships are like that. I know talked that way with my college girlfriend. But, to quote Ryan Phillipe, \"A plan is just a list of things that don't happen.\" Even the most heartfelt plans rarely work out.\n\n> I wish I could do something for him, but I just don't know what do to since I'm now back at school.\n\nYou can't. He's far away, dealing with a personal crisis. Provide comfort if he reaches out. Until then, take solace knowing he's trying to resolve the issue.\n\n> Yesterday, the day after I got back to school after Christmas break, he sent me a message saying he thought we should take a break.\n\nHe wants to break up.\n\n> The part that hurts the most right now is when I asked if I could still tell him that I loved him, he said \"you can, but I probably won't be able to say it back\".\n\nYou should let him.\n\n> Anyway, after sharing all that, has anyone gone through something similar? Did you get back together?\n\nI broke up with my college girlfriend after time apart. We're good friends now. Recently my serious girlfriend dumped me because she felt overwhelmed by work, school, etc. This was her way of saying she didn't mean it when she said she loved me. These things happen.\n\nThe important thing is to move on. You're 22. Trust me when I say your heart will be broken more than once. Just do your best to enjoy the ride :)", "score": 3 }, { "body": "So there's two ways I see this. One is that he's using this as an excuse to break up with you. Perhaps this forced the issue, perhaps dissatisfaction with you has been growing in him for a time, perhaps he's just unable to actually exist in a relationship right now.\n\nBut the other way is that he's making a mistake and he's going to regret it if you let him. You could be a force of overriding good in his life that allows him to vent stress and get through this. If you two were to make it long term, this would hardly be the last time he's really stressed and needs your support.\n\nFortunately for you, either way requires basically the same option. To tell him that you understand his need for space, but you really care about him and are there for him. After that, you need to get him back to concentrating on his future, and how he's going to get through this slump. Right now he is miserable, and he can't see more than two feet in front of him, and so you need to be his eyes for a little while if he'll let you. It sounds like you were already doing some of that with his school, and you need to convince him that you aren't going to add stress to his life. Then you need to not add stress to his life :)\n\nPart of this is going to be telling him that he's wrong, and that he's making a mistake, and asserting that you think this break is a bad thing because you're just going to end up split up. You need to help him reframe this problem as a problem you two have together and are going to solve together. To do that is just going to take talking, comforting and relaxation. Continue to tell him that you love him, and even if he doesn't say it back, it's still good that you are saying it. When he wants space, give it to him, but call him after a day or two to just say that you love him, so that he knows you're there.\n\nThis may or may not work. But I can tell you that simply leaving him alone will end up in a breakup. If not this time, then the next one. If you solve problems separately, as the problems increase in magnitude or number, your relationship converges on broken up.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "OK! I purposely registered for this site as I am compelled to say something to you my dear friend. My analysis would reinforce CheshireIsBack's suggestions. \n\nMy BF and I are going through the exact same thing now. The difference is I went through what ur BF is suffering and my BF was there supporting me. As I have recently graduated from my course, he pushes me away to deal with his immense work stresses on his own. And I can not understand anymore about your anxiety at the moment.\n\nFirstly, I would suggest you to trust your gut feelings. I can sense him loves you a lot as well. It's easy for others to say he is blantly wanting a break up etc. Only you know about the depth of your relationship. \n\nHaving you around telling him you love and care about him only makes him feels even more like a failure. Women and men are different. It's mentally more acceptable for women to rely on men when they are in crisis. Men, on the other hand, likes to solve their problems on their own. \n\nRight now, he doesn't sound like he loves himself, how can he possibly vocal his love to you dear? He sounds a decent guy who is responsible for saying the three words \"I love you\". When a proper man say so, he clearly aware his role in providing you with love and making you happy. \nIn the absence of a sense direction in life, how could he possibly able to keep you hanging there waiting for him? Your constant expressions of love, would suffocate him, makes him feel even more like a failure, stressful and guilty. \n\nYou're obsolutely right! He knows he has to be strong in order to protect you and the relationship. \n\nIf you really love him and genuinely wish to help him, you should give him space to work out his problem while letting him know that you're happy and enjoying your life. This is the best way to show your support please trust me.\n \nThere's an old saying: \" if you truely love someone, please let him free. If he comes back it's yours, if he doesn't it never was.\" I obsolutely understand your anxiety for the future. No one knows about the future and at this present time,let the future be in the future. I would suggest you to read a good book like A New Earth, or The Power of Now, both books from the same author tells you that happiness is about living at the present time, without living in neither the past or future. \n\nYou didn't tell us any about yourself. I'm sorry to say that you may have obvisiously forgotten about yourself. Your life seems to be revolved around him, which is not healthy for you, him and the relationship. A right relationship for you should make you feel good about yourself by being yourself, thereby making your other half happy. If worse comes to the worst, you are not only losing him but losing yourself. \n\nThe both of you are only so young. I know what you had was real, and right now you love him so much. In regards to the compatibility issue, sometimes, just because we love each others doesn't mean we're right for each others sweety. It's a rarity for a relationship to work out in a life time. Once or maybe twice? Love do not make the world go around. \n\nStop telling yourself how much you love him for a sec, how can you be so sure about him? I know that right now it's difficult for you to consider about other people. But give the both of you sometime to figure out some issues. Clarity is important for someone to live in their real selves, so that we we are likely to be more tolerant for the future undertainties. \n\nThis is a growth opportunity like someone said. Feel free to write a diary or to me in person. Your focus should be on yourself sweetness. \n\nLook forward to hear about more of your recovery progress. \n\n \n\n\n\n\nI'm sorry to say that you must let go for now. In a healthy healing process, I want you to think more about yourself. \n\n\n \n\n\n ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Quaker Weight Control Oatmeal? Sounds like a scam. Why not just regular steel cut oats?\n\nTo answer your question: Tom Venuto's Burn the Fat Feed the Muscle recommends oatmeal *and* eggs for breakfast. Specifically 5 egg whites to the yolk (so if you have 6 eggs, only use one yolk).", "score": 12 }, { "body": "There's really not any magic food that helps with weight loss more than another. It's all about calories in and calories out. There's some bit about fats, but mostly it's just input/output. So, eggs are not really much \"worse\" for weight loss than oatmeal. You can nitpick about cholesterol, fiber, etc etc, but it's all details. \n\nAnd also: I can never understand people who can eat one thing every day at the same meal, day in, day out. I would feel like a prisoner. What I'm saying is, do one MWF and the other TRSa. On Su, have eggs benedict. I'm kidding on that one, but one day a week of \"splurge\" food isn't going to undo all your hard work, so have some pancakes or something. Personally, I rotate between oatmeal, toast with PB, cream of wheat, cold cereal (usually grape nuts) and soft-boiled eggs on toast. Once every 10 days or so, I have pancakes or bacon or something.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "if you're interested in fat loss (not 'weight loss'), gain muscle. not only is muscle good for you (prevents injuries, makes you more physically able, looks good) but it is expensive to maintain - meaning you need to burn a lot of calories to move it around, keep it at body temperature, repair it after physical activity. so basically, if you pack on some muscle, you can worry a lot less about counting calories.\n\nbut aside from that, a good couple of weight maintenance tips are:\n\n* include raw fruits and vegetables into your eating routine. in addition to being healthy in various ways, the plant fiber takes up a lot of room and will provide a sense of fullness before you can manage to over-eat in calorie-dense foods like cheeses and meats and starches.\n* eat smaller portions more often. you should find that when you are less hungry you will eat less at meals, and healthy snacking will keep your hunger under control. and as you know, breakfast is a very good idea :)", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Eggs, Oats, Cottage Cheese and Fruit; eat what you feel like that particular morning. Just stick with whole, unprocessed foods, and you should be fine. \n\nWhy not save yourself some money and buy a big bag of wild oats? They take longer to cook, but they're better for you, and taste better than those ultra-processed instant oats. Want to make it taste even better? Add a scoop of unflavored whey protein, cinnamon, raisins, and sweeten to taste with stevia (or your sweetener of choice).", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Eat both. The protein in the eggs are important for muscular development also they have fats in them that help with joints as well as help keep you full longer. The oats will help with the fiber, regular \"movements\", and also helps keep you full. The carbs in oats will also give you evenly digested whole grains for longer sustained recovery. \n\nAlso I prefer rolled oats with raisins", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I would have to choose Andre the Giant because I would just like to watch a man drink [119](http://www.drunkard.com/issues/10_06/10_06_andre_giant.html) beers.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Muhammad. I would make sure we did something noteworthy while drunk so people keep record of it. It would really throw off Islam.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "The method recommended by experts is to be born as a Japanese baby and raised as a Japanese child by a Japanese family, in Japan.", "score": 16 }, { "body": "If you want to get better at running, you run. If you want to get better at swimming, you swim. If you want to get better at watching anime, watch more anime.\n\nSeriously just watch a ton and simulate \"total immersion\" through anime, and actually pay attention to the language instead of just mindlessly reading subs. Rewatching stuff is probably best for this, since you already know the story. Also keep in mind that any \"formal\" Japanese course will probably not be what you are looking for, as the \"normal\" sequence covers a lot of vocabularly that you won't need to know. Anime has its own set of vocab that normal people don't use very often, hence in a formal sequence, you would learn these very late or not at all. I think of anime vocab as the \"fantasy/magic/adventure\" type.\n\nReally, to understand 90% of anime, you just need to know all the basic pronouns and idioms, and a bunch of basic verbs.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "The trouble you'll run into is a lot of anime uses slang and other language not easily picked up by someone learning Japanese. Many people take a course in Japanese so that they can understand anime and nearly every last one of them drops the course because it is not what they thought it would be.\n\n", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I had a male friend who was raped in Spain. Unfortunately, it's all too common. I know from being his friend how hard it is to go through. Congratulations on getting your life back. ", "score": 26 }, { "body": "What I read: IAmA GETTING RAEPD IS AWESOME\n\nI really didn't expect to leave sad and depressed, but yeah, that was pretty sad and depressing.", "score": 16 }, { "body": "Did you report it to the police? If not, why not? It seems like you would have had a good chance of catching the guy.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I don't want this to sound the wrong way, but... what were you doing in a gay bar, accepting several free drinks from an old guy in a city you didn't know? \n\nAnyhow, I'm glad you finally got over it. But you should have reported the guy, and if they could prove you were drugged, you could have even reported the bar. The autonomic police (mossos d'esquadra) are pretty incompetent, but you could have reported it to the national police, civil guard or even at the court of law. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "It's good to hear you got over this. That could not have been easy. \n\nThere are multiple angles/opportunities for jokes with that \"sex and the city dvd playing in the background\" bit. Just thought I'd mention that in case you hadn't thought of it and don't want to invite the comments that may come.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I'm glad you were able to overcome it. I was sexually molested when I was around 12, but lucky enough at the time I did not realize exactly what was happening. Not until I was about 18 until I realized I was molested, and was so long ago that I did not suffer from any trauma.\n\nI have a question for you though. Although situation completely different, individuals who drink with others, and invite others into their bedroom and have sex with people, to call foul and rape after, what do you think of people who cry foul when they consciously made the decision to allow others into their rooms, while you were carried off from the bar and raped with no recollection?", "score": 3 }, { "body": "What helped you get past the rape the most? Was it simply the passing of time, the HIV tests being negative, the therapy? \n\nThanks for your post. It's great to hear someone say something hopeful for once. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "If the images are properly blurred (as they are in movies)- we perceive fluid motion at 18 frames per second. If the images are crisp (like in a computer game) it takes a lot more frames per second to make everything seem fluid.\n\nBut the way you can tell that you can only see a certain number of frames per second is to look at a spinning wheel as it accelerates (like a car tire, or a jet engine or a propeller).\n\nWe see the motion of the spinning object gradually get faster and faster and faster... then when it surpasses some threshold of speed, it appears to start moving in reverse very slowly, then faster, then faster, and suddenly it is going forwards again.\n\nThe perceived backwards motions happens because the wheel has gone around maybe 190% for every frame of motion you perceive, so it looks like it's actually spun 10% of a revolution in the reverse direction.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "What the hell; I actually **woke up** this morning with this thought in my head. I dismissed it as silly and continued my day. Damn.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Human brain has thousands of vision related areas which parse the incoming continuous streams of data. There is no refresh rate and it's especially important to perceiving movement related things not to flicker or actually have \"refresh rate\".\n\nIn the early 2000s the USAF conducted a series of studies with fighter pilots (people with as perfect perception as possible) and they concluded that rising the FPS of their simulations from 300 to 350 FPS still improved the accuracy of estimating some things like movement speeds and angles of objects.\n", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Check out Tricky - Maxinquaye. \nAlso DJ Krush - Meiso.\n\nThen try Clutchy Hopkins. He may have a more hip-hop style but is downtempo and very chill. He (whoever he is) is something else.\n\n\nhttp://rateyourmusic.com/customchart?page=1&chart_type=top&type=album&year=alltime&genre_include=1&genres=Trip+Hop&include_child_genres=t&include=both&limit=none&countries=\n\nWill help you.\n\nFrom that list that I missed before (and have heard) the Herbalizer - Blow your headphones is a great album.\n\nCheck out The Cinematic Orchestra as well. More downtempo and less trip-hop but some of the songs are the epitomy of chill. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ed9CYDt99tA is such an amazing song. For being so downtempo and not having a lot going on it just hits me in all the right spots.\n\n\n", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Seek out Boards of Canada and never look back. Start with \"Music Has The Right To Children\", and work your way along.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Somebody linked [Tycho - Coastal Brake](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PitnHzwigTA) to listentothis. I'll pass on the recommendation for the artist is general after downloading a couple of albums.\n\nAlso [this guy](http://skipjackstu.podomatic.com/) sometimes hits the mark your looking for.\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "* Daughter Daring - Sweet Shadows [Sample](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RNo34VyBQSA) \n\n* Hooverphonic - A New Stereophonic Sound Spectacular [Sample](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wobu_4uASfE) Not exactly trip hop like say Massive Attack or Portishead, but if you liked MA, you'll prolly atleast like hoovers first album\n\n* Soulstice - Illusion [Sample](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tIngkXU_URs) very laid back and jazzy sounding songs\n\n* Etro Anime - See the Sound [Sample](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YqiMX6i664o) more drum&bass, but very chill imo\n\n* Zero 7 - Simple Things [Sample](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=INn1C6ImJKg) very chill, also check out the main singer of the group (Sia) other work\n\nand for some things that aren't even close to trip-hop, but I still find very relaxing\n\n[Gatekeeper](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kgZ8bZ9TuO0) by Feist\n\n[Let go](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x52w8txtiQs) by Frou Frou \n\n[Unlike me](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sKvuWyZg1Pc) by Kate Havnevik\n\n[Over and Over](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eE-FeAtNfHQ) by Moloko", "score": 3 }, { "body": "save *click*\n\nWax Tailor, great for chilling & drinking.\n\nKid Koala, turntablist extraordinaire, for the wacky chill moods. Also Q-Bert who is basically Darth Turntable Vader.\n\nTrip-hop others have already mentioned - Maxinquaye by Tricky is really good, as are Kakusei and Meiso by DJ Krush.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Check out [Flunk](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fcS0ZGtT5zw). They have a couple of really chill albums. [Another good song from them](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0YRhw44A8mc).", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Man, you dig the knife but you don't know about Fever Ray?\nIt's Karin's side project. I think it's fucking awesome. \n\nhttp://feverray.com/ \n\nReally check out DJ Shadow. http://www.djshadow.com/ I think his slower tracks are some of his best, though his high energy songs do rock as well.\n\nTipper's \"the critical path\" was my \"down/chill\" music of choice for years, indeed, I have a 3xcd changer in my bedroom and I don't think this cd or DJ Shadow's \"endtroducing\" left it for years.\n\nhttp://www.last.fm/music/Tipper/The+Critical+Path\n\nI think the pentultimate trip hop is either Tricky's Pre Millenium Tension\nhttp://www.last.fm/music/Tricky/Pre-Millennium+Tension\n\nor Dj Krush's Code 4109 mix\nhttp://www.last.fm/music/DJ+Krush/Code+4109\n\n\nInspect the ENTIRE NinjaTune catalog. http://www.ninjatune.net/\n\n\nNeed chill glitchy bloopy and legally free instead of stealy? Try the archive of kikapu.net, may it rest in peace. http://www.archive.org/details/kikapu", "score": 3 }, { "body": "If you want incredible electronic//ambient I'd STRONGLY recommend investigating some M83.\n\n\non the other hand, I produce electronic music in a similar vein to them;\nhttp://www.purevolume.com/overturefortheaftermath\n\n(I know, I know...shameless self-promotion)", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "[Daredevil: The Devil, Inside, and Out](http://www.amazon.com/Daredevil-Devil-Inside-Out-Vol/dp/0785119884/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262717280&sr=8-4). I had never read any Daredevil comics before this. In fact, my only exposure to Daredevil was the movie. This book was amazingly good. (It's also the starting point of Ed Brubaker's run on Daredevil, so it's a good place to start.)\n\n[The Losers](http://www.amazon.com/Losers-Vol-1-Ante-Up/dp/1401201989/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262717395&sr=8-1) is an awesome book about former CIA agents waging a war against the CIA. \n\n[Y: The Last Man](http://www.amazon.com/Last-Man-Vol-Unmanned/dp/1563899809/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262717638&sr=8-3). I've only read the first TBP, but I'm already hooked.\n\n[Torso](http://www.amazon.com/Torso-True-Crime-Graphic-Novel/dp/1582406979/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262717687&sr=8-2). A brutal true crime graphic novel about America's first serial killer.\n\nI'm a big fan of the Justice League. Here are my three favorites: \n\n[New World Order](http://www.amazon.com/JLA-Book-New-World-Order/dp/156389369X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262717497&sr=8-1). (Just this book though, I didn't like the rest of Grant Morrison's run.)\n\n[Identity Crisis](http://www.amazon.com/Identity-Crisis-Comics-Brad-Meltzer/dp/1401204589/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262717547&sr=8-1). Great murder mystery set in the DC universe.\n\n[Justice](http://www.amazon.com/Justice-Vol-1-Alex-Ross/dp/1401211038/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262717593&sr=8-4). Decent story. Great art.\n\n**Edit** Just thought of two more from Marvel.\n\n[New Avengers](http://www.amazon.com/Avengers-Vol-Brian-Michael-Bendis/dp/0785124640/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262717925&sr=8-1). I don't know what other people thought, but I loved this. I was never a huge Marvel fan but this got me to appreciate the characters of Spider-Man and Iron Man more.\n\n[Astonishing X-Men](http://www.amazon.com/Astonishing-X-Men-Vol-1-Gifted/dp/0785115315/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1262718016&sr=8-1). I liked Joss Weadon's take on the characters and how they interacted with each other.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "These are off the batman/spiderman path, but are all of superb quality.\n\n\n* [Necessary Monsters](http://www.necessarymonsters.com/) is about a group of slasher movie monsters that must share the worlds teenager victim crop so they can all co-exist.\n\n* [Sin Titulo](http://www.sintitulocomic.com/2007/06/17/page-01/) is an ongoing webcomic. I dare you to stop reading halfway through.\n\n* [Death Day](http://www.samhiti.com/). An interesting Scifi/war mashup.\n\n* [The Walking Dead](http://www.amazon.com/Walking-Dead-Days-Gone-Bye/dp/1582403589) is the comic that made me realize that I never, ever, EVER want to be a survivor in the zombie apocalypse. Brutal, human, and terrifying. Also the titular line is awesome.\n\n* [Bone](http://www.boneville.com/shop/#BoneBooks). I bought the big compilation of all the books, and was laughing out loud on a plane flight home. Extremely funny, and I love the art style.\n\n* [Rice Boy & Order of Tales](http://www.rice-boy.com/). 2 comics set in the same surreal fantastical universe.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "My favorite comic is Sandman -[The Sandman](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Sandman_(Vertigo\\))\n\nWhy no one has listed this confuses me.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "First off... get a good CBR or CBZ reader and you'll find pretty much any comic worth reading in the last 30 or 40 years is already online.\n\nI'd suggest: \n\n\"The Walking Dead\" - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Walking_Dead\n\n\"Ex Machina\" - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ex_Machina_%28comics%29\n\n\"Astro City\" - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Astro_City\n\n\"Top 10\" - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Top_10_%28comics%29\n\n\"Grendel\" - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grendel_%28comics%29\n\n\"Mage\" - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mage_%28comics%29\n\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I can't upvote Invincible enough. If you like Ultimate Spiderman then you'll love Invincible. The title character is very much in the vein of Spiderman.\n\nYour best bet for consistently good paper comics is to find an author you like and follow him/her. A few of my favorites include Warren Ellis (Planetary especially), Garth Ennis (The Boys is awesome), and Brian Bendis (he's Marvel's go-to guy right now).\n\nIf you're looking for some serious reading I'd recommend the last 2 Marvel crossover events. Secret Invasion and Dark Reign have been fucking awesome, so much so that I now find myself following like 10 Marvel titles just to keep up.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Actually, I am very interested in building a few of the weapons as well. I have downloaded the Source SDK and used the Model Viewer to open up each of the different weapon models. \n\nAdditionally, I used GCFScape to extract the models I wanted. There is a plug-in to import the source model files and open them in 3DStudio Max.\n\nI used [mdlcompiler](http://www.chaosincarnate.net/cannonfodder/cftools.htm) to convert the .mdl files to .smd files. I then used [smd importer plugin](http://www.wunderboy.org/apps/smdimport.php) for 3DStudioMAX.\n\nUsing 3DStudio Max, I figured out the proportions of the models (Length to Width ratio, etc) . It doesn't give you exact measurements, but it helps. It is also difficult to get correct proportions from the characters in the game because they are caricatures of the human body.\n\nI would love to find the actual measurements of the models (Also, if someone has an easier way to import files, please inform me).", "score": 9 } ]

[ { "body": "You know, buddy, the problem with these posts is the air of superiority people like you just reek of when they talk about their personal lives. Oh, so you got an A? Well laddy-fricken-da genius, aren't you just the most special little fucking snowflake whose ever been squeezed out of a vagina. \n\nFor fuck sake, grow a pair, will you? Quit your damn crying because nobody gives a shit about your \"pain\". \n\nTo answer your fucking question, I turned out just fine. I'm perfectly adjusted to society and all that shit. \n\n/s", "score": 10 }, { "body": "Children could do with a little larger helping of criticism these days, IMO. (Not insults, but criticism can be a good thing when it's constructive.) Parents are so concerned with encouraging and protecting their children that a lot of them end up growing up thinking that making a half-assed effort on their work is acceptable. We all ought to grow up with both feet grounded in the \"real world\". Don't disassociate your feelings of worthlessness or blame your parents for your upbringing. You are responsible for the quality of your work, not your parents. Ultimately though, your own judgment on the quality of your work is the only one that really matters, and if you tried your best, I'm sure your parents are still proud of you.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I got top of school in one of my science exams - scored 99% got home all excited and shit, first thing my dad says - Why didnt you get 100.\r\n\r\nFFFFFUUUUUUUU\r\n\r\nNow I just dont listen to what authority figures have to say", "score": 3 }, { "body": "My parents punished or heavily criticised me for doing bad things, but rarely/never praised me for doing good things. For example when I was in school: if I got bad grades, I got punished for a few days. If I had all very good grades except one, they would completely ignore the good grades and only criticise me for the one bad grade. If I got all good grades, I got at most a quick \"that's good\" and that's it. So I adapted and always did the bare minimum for them to not punish me, since I didn't see any point in doing better. I'm trying to change this habit now.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "My rule of thumb is this.\n\nIf the error is small enough that my time expenditure in setting it straight is more valuable than the amount of the error, I ignore it.\n\nSo if I get home and find out that they forgot to ring up my jar of mayonnaise, I ignore it. If they failed to charge my credit card for an entire purchase, I would make it right.\n\nThis happened to me once. I bought a leather jacket at the mall. After I got home, I got a call from the store that my card had not been charged and could I please give them my information. I said that I would call them back. I looked them up in the phone book, called the store, and asked to speak to the manager. I gave her my card info, and all was cool.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I usually point it out, the exception being if it's something small and I'm in a busy line, I just go with it instead of holding up the whole thing while they fiddle with the register, call the manager, get a key from the back and fill out forms in triplicate.\n\nFor a computer though, that's a shitty thing to do. As JudgeReddit points out, you can get in trouble if it's something expensive enough that you had to have noticed, plus your brother probably cost some poor kid their job.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Happened to me last year. Bought some stuff online and noticed a couple days later that my balance hadn't changed. Another week or two, month...now a year later and I was never charged roughly $600 for the stuff I bought.\n\nBig companies like Best Buy and Amazon have so much shit shipping in and out, that 600$ is chump change abnd they wouldn't even notice it anyway.\n\nI also had a friend who ordered a PS3 from Amazon, waited a couple weeks and never received it so called Amazon and they sent him a new one. Turns out they delivered the first package and left it in the garage which was open at the time, which he found later.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "This is easy: he would be pissed if someone ripped him off, so he should go back and pay. \n\nMost places are surprised and delighted when I point out underpayment (which I always do), and sometimes I have gotten some credit or something if the amount was substantial. I generally catch stuff like this at the time of the purchase, so I have not often had to return to a store. More than a dollar I would go back even if it was out of my way. \n\nIts just good karma to not rip anyone off (even Best Buy, although I would be tempted)\n\nThe clerk might be in deep shit as well.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I point out the error. People can, and HAVE, been successfully sued for not doing so. (and you're just asking for additional costs: lawyer, filing, punative) The other guy may have made a mistake, but you're knowingly walking off with their property and no compensation. It's really not any different pocketing extra money because someone handed you the wrong bill. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I ordered a DVD from Amazon a few months back. I have Amazon Prime so 2 day shipping is free. I waited about a week after it was shipped, and it still hadn't arrived. I contacted them and the promptly shipped another stating it must have been lost in the mail, and if I should receive both, just return one of them. I went through the return process, which didn't allow me to do anything but return for refund or exchange. I selected to return for a refund, but made note this was a duplicate and to not refund me. I got the refund anyway. I was going to contact them about it, but decided the effort it would take me to explain to their customer service what happened and that they need to charge me for the DVD wouldn't be worth it. I throw a loft of business their way anyway.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I've seen this before, I think what happens next is \"Go straight to jail, do not pass GO, do not collect $200\".", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Dude, if I were Chinese and got the chance to come to America and surf our tubes without fear of the government shooting me in the back of the head ... well, I'm just saying cut the guy some slack - he's enjoying himself for once.\n\nJust tell him buying the Kleenex is totally his responsibility from now on.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "I had the same thing with a Chinese student guy I lived next door to, he couldn't get a net connection so I decided to be a nice neighbour and suggested he use mine over Wi-Fi for free, I mean the guy was away from home so I thought it'd be good if he could still speak to his family/friends etc. \n\nThe fucking connection immediately ground to a halt. I started to monitor his activity through the router, the fucker was constantly downloading at 1.44 MB/s with an uprate of 180 kB/s, in other words, my full bandwidth. I told him he needed to slow his download rate and he would for about an hour, then it would go back up. \n\nHe was really sly about it as well, like his connection was too important to slow down and I was inferior anyway. \n\nI warned him several times, same story. In the end I just kicked him off. He didn't like it though and we had this huge fight over it... but tough. \n\nGod knows what he was doing on there. \n", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Probably saturating the upstream using a P2P program. Talk to him about lowering the maximum upstream bandwidth or use QoS on your router.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "My bf had a roomate like this when he first went off to college. She was straight from SKorea and barely spoke english. She was never home and when she did come home it was to 1. sleep with a random guy or 2. Set up torrents. Eventually my bf got a call from Comcast telling them that he was one of the top 200 downloaders in the country... basically a warning that they were watching them. My bf, who had a small laptop and pays legitimately for his shit, was shocked. He talked to her and she said she would cool it. The next month Comcast cancelled their service to their house and told them they were banned for a year for breaking terms of service. Apparently she had downloaded 8 terabytes of tv shows and games cracks in two weeks.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Brazilian Jujitsu or Mixed Martial Arts that included that and kickboxing. All you have to do to convince yourself that BJJ is the best is to watch UFC 1 and see Joyce Gracie kick the shit out of every other style no matter the rules or weight class. It's a hell of a work out, very physical and extremely useful. Things like Karate and TKD are good aerobic workouts but if you tried to use them in a fight you'd probably get your ass handed to you. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Grappling is important, since most fights end up on the ground eventually. I was a 3-time state champion in martial arts and competed nationally, and I took Tae Kwon Do, which seems to have a bad rep as far as being able to defend yourself in a real fight, which is BS.\n\nIf someone's attacking you, you're not going to stand there and be like, \"What should I do next? Oh wait, I need to use __ move that I learned by taking ___ classes\", you're just going to react.\n\nTae Kwon Do (at least the place I took it at) will *really* get you into shape and give you very quick reflexes. The workouts were really intense, and getting a brown belt was the hardest thing I've ever done physically and emotionally.\n\nDon't limit yourself to one style, though. Learn whatever you can, the more the better.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I wouldn't install a beta player from Adobe if my life depended on it. I don't even want their *finished* software! \n\nI use [Click2Flash](http://rentzsch.github.com/clicktoflash/) and as it allows you to play YouTube video in H264 using your own Quicktime player, it helps get around the Flash video issue altogether. It also blocks Flash ads and you'll be amazed what a difference that alone makes. ", "score": 47 }, { "body": "I'm not trying to be a dick or anything, but the last part of the title should read :\n\n>This fixes (a lot of) it.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "Am I the only one who hasn't even noticed any problems playing flash videos? I can stream them no matter how long, and not even 1080p streams in full screen lag or jerk any more than they've ever done. This is on a 27\" iMac with Snow Leopard, the setup that I've read about the most having these issues. Am I just lucky, or have I managed to do something to fix it?\n\nI'm even using Firefox, fercrysake. Isn't that supposed to be even slower?", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I installed the 10.1 beta for a while and videos on Hulu started getting choppy after playing for a while (usually about 20-30 minutes into an episode or multiple episodes) and I'd have to quit Safari to make it play normally again. Also the CPU use was just as bad, if not worse. I'm glad it worked for you and I'll probably be trying 10.1 once it comes out but I downgraded back to 10.0 to make things right again.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Are you an expat?\n\nDid you have a nurse Catherine?\n\nDid you fall for her?\n\nDid you run away together?\n\nDid she die in childbirth?\n\nDid you then walk out in the cold rain?\n\n", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Italy is supposed to have one of the best health care programs from what I've read. How did you feel about it, from what you saw of it?\n\n\nAlso, off topic: What are you studying in Italy? ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Do you speak Italian? If not, was that a problem?\n\nHave you spent much time in American hospitals, and how do they compare to Italian ones?\n\nI know nothing about Italian health care, so anything you can tell us about how you paid for it, et cetera would be interesting.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Get the Eat This Not That (Supermarket edition) book from Men's Health. In the back of it there's a 10 meal recipe plan (5 dinners & 5 lunches) that's good for you, easy to prepare, and fast. Full shopping list provided. I found it so good, I've been trying to find a local chef to make me like 2-3 more weeks of recipes like it so I have a full month rotation.\n\n*edit* Oh, and really good tasting.\n\n*edit edit* http://www.eatthisnotthatbook.com/uof/eatthisnotthatbook/supermarket/?keycode=114506", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I've been looking for something like this as well. A web app where I can put in that I (for instance) want vegetarian meals, mark a few ingredients I like and a few I don't like, and have it give me a weekly dinner plan. User contributed recipes and ratings would be cool as well.\n\nPerhaps we need to build such a thing? :)", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "They didn't, it's misleading.\n\nthe $300 was just to 'shoot the live action' and presumably came from this thread; http://forums.cgsociety.org/showthread.php?f=154&t=822329\n\nEven then, it's probably excluding a slew of costs related to just the shooting.\n\nThe software, computers, etc. at a minimum put the cost over 10 grand. Doesn't even include the cameras or anything required for the actual shoot.\n\nSo...yeah. If you start from nothing there is no way to make something like that for $300. If you have a whole studio with software, hardware and staff already... then I guess you could say your shoot costs were that low. But it's not accurate to the true cost of the production.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "i'm mostly annoyed when people get angry about my habits. I ctrl-tab and alt-tab everything i look at, and i always hit ctrl when clicking on hyperlinks. my computer-illiterate mom freaks the fuck out when i do thing slike that. WHERE DID IT GO? YOU'RE GOING TOO FAST! I DON'T UNDERSTAND", "score": 44 }, { "body": "1. Double click instead of single click. Especially on html links.\n2. Using Google search as your address bar.", "score": 37 }, { "body": "* I hate it when people call the monitor \"the computer\", or call the case \"the hard drive\".\n\n* I hate it when people have their screen resolution set to something other than the native resolution on an LCD display.\n\n* I hate it when people click and drag the scrollbar instead of using the scrollwheel on the mouse.\n\n* I hate it when people resize windows to *almost* fill the whole screen instead of maximizing.\n\n* I hate when the taskbar is set to autohide.", "score": 27 }, { "body": "Messy, completely covered, totally unorganized, desktops, containing everything from every install file ever downloaded, pictures, favorites, shortcuts to god knows what, etc. FOLDERS PEOPLE, FOLDERS.", "score": 21 }, { "body": "* double-clicking links/single-clicking icons\r\n* New Folder, New Folder(1), New Folder(2), etc. (all empty), as well as countless empty/duplicated documents on the desktop\r\n* Odd color schemes that make most things impossible to read\r\n* Thinking something isn't installed if the icon isn't on the desktop\r\n* We had a user throw away several wireless mice because she didn't realize they needed new batteries\r\n\r\nI also see a lot of people that can't follow the most basic instructions, yet insist they did everything you said word-for-word. When you make it all the way to their office and slowly go over the steps with them, you find that they skipped several or didn't try at all.", "score": 16 }, { "body": "No, dad. Just because I'm playing an offline game doesn't mean that it's messing up your internet. Stop asking.", "score": 13 }, { "body": "It doesn't anger me so much as confuse the hell out of me, but my father says every command out loud as he clicks. He sits there by himself going, \"File. Save as. New folder.\" etc. Weird.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "questions from people who are not really computer illiterates (e.g. same age and background co-workers) that could be easily answered with the most simple google search. ", "score": 10 }, { "body": "People who send .doc files with two or three lines of info instead of just typing it in the email window.\n\nNot having any clue how to use them for anything except solitaire.\n\nTapping hard on the mouse buttons instead of pressing them.\n\nWhen I ask people what application did they use to create a document and they reply \"I use Microsoft.\"\n\nOpening their browser to the full width of the monitor even if it's a wide screen.\n\nQuitting applications instead of minimizing them.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "People who are clueless about computers but talk and act like they know more than you. One day our internet was down at work, but one of my bosses told me no, hers was working - because she could open Outlook.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "leftclick *pause* rightclick-leftclick...... *pause* leftclick..... *pause*.......... rightclick-leftclick-rightclick........*pause*..... \"Hey this picture won't open this stupid menu just keeps coming up the mouse is broke.\"\n\nPeople who can't install a piece of software. I don't know how they do it, I test the software first, send them the link, they download... next day... \"yeah that software you sent me didn't work\".\n\nOr, leaving the mouse arrow on a video.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "It always bugs me that because I know about computers everyone thinks i'm their IT support. Then after fixing something that they caused they complain that they have to make an effort to scan for viruses or spyware.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "When they get on my PC, get on some social networking site like MySpace or Facebook and click every. single. link. they. see. Infecting my baby with unspeakable things. Then they wonder why I suggest no one use my electronics/computers. They break them...", "score": 5 }, { "body": "On Macs, when people are done using an application and close the main window, rather than quitting.\n\nThen I go to check my email, and I find that word, powerpoint, excel, itunes, ical, textedit, appleworks, iphoto, imovie, and photoshop are all still running.\n\nThey use up all the memory, and each application takes 30 seconds to shut down.\n\n/edit: also, not typing their question into google before asking me, which is what I do anyways", "score": 5 }, { "body": "People who don't know the proper terminology and get mad at you when you can't figure out what they mean. \n\n", "score": 5 }, { "body": "We run a job application website. I hate it when people don't read the instructions on how to apply. The first page of the application has a HUGE box that has all the instructions on it, including \"Please close this box by clicking on the \"x\" on the top right hand corner to begin the application.\" The box is so large that it blocks the name, social security #, address and telephone fields. You can't fill these in without closing the box. We get calls all the time of people saying the application isn't letting them through because it says they're missing a ton of fields--but impossible! The fields aren't on the page!\n\nRead the instructions please.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "For some reason my sister refuses to use tabs in Firefox. Apparently having 6 windows open at a time is \"easier\".", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Calling me expecting me to help them with their computer issues. Just last night I spent 45 minutes on the phone with a lady I barely know, who does not have any, I repeat, ANY computer experience, whom I was recommended to by my mother because I'm such a swell guy apparently. Anyways, she called me because her internet disappeared.... in other words she deleted the shortcut to the web browser. After I got that sorted out, we spent the rest of the time trying to log her in to gmail.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "When you tell someone to click on something. Like if you tell them \"Double click 'My Computer'\" and their response is \"Left click or Right click?\". I've also heard \"Normal click?\"", "score": 3 }, { "body": "People thinking that I'm some sort of computer wizard just because I'm a CS student.\n\nNo, I can't fix your webmail from a provider I've never even heard of and I most likely can't do much about your computer either, because I've never even seen Windows 7 before. And if you ask me how to fix the page numbering in your document, I might be able to help you with LaTeX, but Word (or OpenOffice.org)? Sorry :(\n\nIt's nothing to be proud of, but I'm quite illiterate with a lot of new things because I'm not interested in them myself.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Hunting and pecking or either not using ctrl c, ctrl v. I mean i thought everyone at least knew that. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "not fucking knowing the very BASIC things about what you are using, such as HOW TO CLICK ON THINGS WITH THE FUCKING MOUSE which i spent a good half hour on the phone trying to teach someone a few weeks ago. i am not even kidding when i say i had to explain it twice.\n\ni fucking love my job.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I'm shocked when people who work with computers every day can't open attachments. It pisses me off to no end. I can't even fathom not being able to open an attachment, but at least once a month I have to fax a document or send it by overnight mail. \n\nAlso, people that are proud that they don't know how to use a computer. If someone's job requires that they use a computer for eight hours a day, I expect them to at least learn the basics of how to use said machine. The number of people that can't do things like save a file to a specific place or copy a file from one place to another is high. How does one exist like that?\n\nEdit: spelling.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "click once. page does not refresh in the standard number of nanoseconds that user thinks it should. so they click again. and again. and again. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand again. then try to swear on their lives that they only clicked once. um. my database says you're lying. see look. you clicked here. and here. and here. and here. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand here.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "This made me laugh, more than annoyed me:\n\nin class, my prof needed to search for something and wanted Google. She typed \"Google\" into the google search bar, then clicked the first link on the results page to go to the google homepage, then performed the search.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I think a map of Canada would be nice. It reproduces well on a small scale, and could be interlaid with other images (CN Tower, wheat, whatever)", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Honestly? We'll never get rid of the Queen nor the monarchy. So it's a moot question. It's something trumped by journos and academics every few years when they want something else to vent about.\n\nBut, if this ever does happen, I propose we just keep it the same. Who says we need to spend several million dollars changing our currency, anyways? It's pointless, quite frankly.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "How about Sir Sanford Fleming (standard time) or Sir Frederick Grant Banting/John James Richard Macleod (insulin)?", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Some ideas: \n\nLouis Riel, Pierre Trudeau, John A. Macdonald, George Brown, Lester B Pearson, Tommy Douglas, Frederick Banting, David Suzuki, Alexander Graham Bell", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Ten bucks says you and Mark are found in a ditch somewhere in ten years with UNO Wild cards laid on your eyes", "score": 2061 }, { "body": "This reminds me of years ago, my older brother used on kick my ass bad at online chess (and taunt me about it). One day I went out and bought chessmaster. For every move he made, I made it against chessmaster at it's highest setting, then I moved what the computer moved against me. It was a fast game and of course I (or should I say we) destroyed him. He called me right away and was like 'whoah, you really killed me..' I told him what I had done and we had a laugh - still it shook his confidence a bit.", "score": 336 }, { "body": "I did something similarly horrible. My brother, father, cousin and I were listening to quiet music and chatting upstairs. In comes my 10 year old sister, Zoe. She loves playing with numbers in calculators, but she is very impressed if she can give you a huge product* to multiply and you figure it out in your head.\n\nAnyway, Zoe came in and decided she wanted to try this with us by giving me something like 133 x 30. I did it without a calculator or writing it down, and she excitedly tried giving each of us harder and harder numbers until she reached impossibly high calculations. But every single time, we all gave her the correct answer that she checked with her calculator. After a while, she got suspicious because a couple of us couldn't stop giggling. She gave my dad huge numbers to multiply in his head, and then quickly turned around to catch all of us holding up our cellphones with the calculation on the display.\n\nThe look on her face made my dad feel so bad but the rest of us couldn't stop laughing. Very evil thing to do, but I will never forget that priceless moment. \n\n* *Thanks GooneyBeast*", "score": 193 }, { "body": "I once played an 8 hour game of uno with a friend. We had to go to sleep and pick the game back up in the morning. The last seven hours were more about not letting the game win than actually playing.", "score": 55 }, { "body": "And this is why my dad taught me at an early age to never play cards with anyone who uses a mechanic's grip. Oddly enough, he always used a mechanic's grip...", "score": 36 }, { "body": "I don't think I've ever laughed so hard at a self post. Usually if I am belly laughing it includes some kind of cringing, or holding a body part that I love dearly. This was just perfect, pure family evil. Thanks for sharing.", "score": 34 }, { "body": "My girlfriends 10 year old cousin spent the whole of christmas day literally running around screaming with his younger cousins, his idiot parents never telling him to stfu, but of course encouraging it. After hours of this he gets rewarded by giving into his demands to play uno, which he was demanding all day. Halfway through he quit. I really hate kids.", "score": 27 }, { "body": "I hope this doesn't come back to haunt you years from now.\n\n*TV clicks on*\n\nToday another body was found and has been linked to what police have dubbed \"The UNO killer\". This recent victim was reported to have been found with the Wild card stuffed inside the rectum thus bringing to the death count to seven. The murder scene was also littered with the words \"Skip, Reverse, Skip\" several hundred times in the victims blood, another characteristic of the UNO killer. The police have no suspects at this time. \n\nYou: oh sh*t...\n", "score": 26 }, { "body": "You are an awesome cousin my friend. Way to go. But if you REALLY want him to learn some life lessons sit him down in front of the XBOX live arcade version of UNO with a webcam after midnight on any weekend. That will change his life.", "score": 25 }, { "body": "\"Sometimes life leaves a hundred dollar bill on your dresser, and you don't realize until later that it's because it fucked you.\" - shitmydadsays", "score": 25 }, { "body": "Haha literally the entire time I was reading that I was thinking \"Man, I would totally get all the skips, remove the reverses, and deal them to myself and the other guy.\"", "score": 17 }, { "body": "Oh man, that's hilarious. My older brother has two daughters, and we pull shit on them constantly. I told them I was psychic one time, so we had a deck of cards, and gave it to my niece. She shuffles the deck and holds the cards up with the back facing me while I try to \"guess\" what the card is.\n\nOnly thing was that my brother is behind her, mouthing the card to me silently. So I ham it up really big, and guess correct.\n\nWe went through about thirty cards before \"my mind was drained of its power.\"\n\nBoth my nieces were shitting bricks.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "This reminds me of the time we got my roommate, Doug, in Poker. We didn't know just how gullible he was at the time, but holy shit this guys reaction is way better than what we expected.\n\nThere were about 6 of us playing in my friends dorm, there was a $20 buy-in. Doug had to go to the bathroom so while he was doing his thing we decided to stack the deck. Doug received an 8 and 9 of hearts in his hand, and we made sure the Jack and Queen of hearts would be laid down immediately on the flop giving him a straight flush. Doug thinks he has this won, and he's all jumpy like the little kid mentioned in OP's story. \n\nHe's a horrible bluffer and pulls small bets, while tapping his feet anxiously and just generally looking like an hyper-active child in a candy store. Everyone folds except for my other fried who we had given an Ace and King of hearts giving him the Royal Flush. After the river is laid down Doug of course goes all in, my friend calls. Doug basically shits his pants and throws down his straight flush and is ready to take the chips and guy buy some tranquilizers or something when my friend throws down his Royal Flush.\n\nInstead of either a) being horribly crushed at losing $20 or b) calling us all out for stacking, he just starts dying laughing and screaming about how insane that is that there was a straight and royal flush in one hand, and how astronomical those odds are that what he'd just experienced was a once in a life time event. \n\nThen he opens his wallet and hands the guy who had \"beat\" him $20, stating he deserved it for such an amazing hand. So not only was Doug losing the initial $10 buy-in, he's also handing over an additional $20 just because he's so fucking excited.\n\nWe were going to tell him what we'd done, but at this point nobody had the heart to do it. We figured his excitement over losing another $20 was far better than a possible suicidal depression over finding out it was all a gag", "score": 12 }, { "body": "> It was awesome. I can't explain it.\n\nYou *totally* explained it.\n\nAnd then fucked it up. Dick.", "score": 11 }, { "body": "I have done exactly the same thing, except with my \"friend\".\n\nWe used to have a random free period at 6th form and our class (of about 12) were the only ones who had this lesson off. Because of this we used to get bored and would play cards. We moved onto uno because it's scoring system meant we could have a game going for the whole year. Needless to say, to spice things up, we played for money. Not a huge amount but enough to make people care more than usual.\n\nAnyway there were 5 of us who played, and one lunch time, 4 of us decided to gang up on the other one by stacking the deck and giving him the highest hand possible (to those who don't know, the scoring system is determined by what value of cards you have left in your hand at the end is your score, so the lower the better).\n\nIt took us roughly an hour to stack the deck perfectly so that all 4 of us played but skipped the 5th person out. It involved making sure that we each had pick-up 4s and pick up 2s so that we could inflict damage, but keep enough high value cards in the pack so he picked up cards worth the most. We needed to have reverses to keep ourselves playing, while skip a go's so we would always miss him out. \n\nNot only this but we needed to have the right number and colour cards in our hands so we could play around him for long enough to piss him off. At the end he racked up over 500 points, but we felt bad (and slightly gave the game away by pissing ourselves) and told him. Needless to say he didn't talk to us for a bit. It was still one of the things I put the most effort to in school, and was possibly the saddest, yet paradoxically most amazing thing I have ever done.\n\ntl:dr I did something similar to OP but in a slightly less amusing way", "score": 11 }, { "body": "My nine year old votes that you were being a dick (although I changed it to \"jerk\" when I read it to him).\n\nWe all laughed!", "score": 8 }, { "body": "This was a great story!!! I love torturing my nephews...to the point of crying...it\"s wrong but, necessary!!! ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "First he'll start with the insects. Then he'll move up to mice he catches in mouse traps. Then it's the neighbours cat. Before you know it all the cats in the neighbourhood are missing. And when he reaches puberty he'll watch and wait. Quietly and silently. He'll go out night prowling and watch people through their windows. He'll be patient. Cold. Methodical. He'll make a list of his indended victims. But not yet! He'll get his drivers licence and a job and soon enough he will have saved up for a car. With a big trunk. Then he will strike. \n\nAnd it's all because of a game of Uno.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "At first, I was super disappointed that you didn't cheat to win the game for yourselves and rub it into your little cousins face. When I reached the end, I was even more impressed with the level to which you took this ruse. Awesome.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Once my sister won a goldfish at a fair.\n\nI spilled fish food once while feeding the fish.\n\nMy dad beat me first with his hand, then with a wiffle bat, then with an aluminum bat that was lying on the ground in the den where the fishbowl was.\n\nI wasn't able to walk right for about two months.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Reminds me how I used to let my nephew 'play' nintendo with an unplugged controller. He thought he was so awesome at super mario bros.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I've actually posted this a few times on reddit now but this is the most relevant one yet.\n\nI used to fix games of Candyland against groups of five year olds when I was a camp counselor a few summers ago. They really looked up to me and I felt that I could a) impress them enough to get them to listen to me easier and b) maybe get bigger tips if they told their parents how awesome I was.\n\nBasically, you need like 5 double purples and a purple (I might have the count wrong) to win. It's pretty simple once you figure out how many people are playing, you have full control of the shuffling of the deck, and your opponents are five year olds who don't notice when you stare at the cards you're shuffling with no subtlety whatsoever.\n\nI was still really proud of myself to win three games in a row that way, so I think I'm just a bad person.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "That's like getting your first blow-job, and as you come realize it's a tranny. Or so a friend told me…", "score": 5 }, { "body": "UNO is a pretty ruthless game. I find it to be a great example of [\"Crab bucketing\"](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crab_mentality) when playing with several people.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Aw, I feel bad for him. It kinda reminds me of the time I taught my little brother how to play polish basketball. I felt so guilty afterward I never played any tricks on him again.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "15 years later, Billy has become an amazing gambler, but he just can't hit the big score. Mark comes by and sits with him at the blackjack table, and watches as he blows a $50k hand... for some reason, every time Billy gets a 21, he walks away from the table... ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Did something like this to my brother - set up poker so he had royal flush - the look on his face trying to keep cool and not go \"fuck yeah!\" before the hand was won. \n\nhe tried to be cool but me and my friend just folded on the flop. he wan not impressed.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "\"I like to think I taught him a life lesson. But really, I think I was just being a real big dick.\"\n\nLOLIRL", "score": 3 }, { "body": "The kid was being a dick by bragging about his wild cards.\n\nYou were practically the mother teresa in this situation. Good job! Kick his ass!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "At first I thought you were going to be mean, then I started thinking about how touching it was that you'd give him such a good feeling, then I realized you're just as big of a jerk as I am! \n\nThat's hilarious!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "a friend was playing with his 8 year old nephew and when the tyke got down to one card he declared:\n\n**\"uno, motherfucker!\"**", "score": 3 }, { "body": "As a parent I truly appreciate the psychological torture of a child. Bonus points for the hit to his self confidence. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "This reminds me of my mom's dog Wishbone, the Border Collie. He gets so excited when someone plays fetch with him. He'll throw the bone at you so you'll get the hint. If you don't throw it, he'll take his head, pick up the bone/ball/toy and throw it himself and then go get it and bring it back to you. When you get sick of it, and hide the toy he acts like Billy did. \n\nMy final summation is that your cousin Billy is in fact a Border Collie. Just go easy on his hips, ok?", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "[Dreamscape](http://www.impawards.com/1984/posters/dreamscape.jpg) with Dennis Quaid? He helps a kid in his dream by fighting a giant snake man.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "I don't trust government, but I don't trust people either. I think that when given the two options, a government with checks and balances that give me some deal of power over their actions is far preferable to people who, by virtue if being people, are granted privacy and independence from what I want them to do. \n\nThe problem with our government, as I see it, is that we've abandoned the system of checks and balances because when we want something we want it now. We don't want to compromise or to work at it or to wait. Unfortunately, what this means is that when our elected officials are doing something we don't want we have no way of stopping them as all of the avenues to delay or negotiate have been abolished in the zeal to get what we want. This creates the illusion that government is generally untrustworthy and corrupt, when it's the same as any other system.", "score": 39 }, { "body": "> I am a student of political theory and lately I've been reading as many cogent arguments as I can that attempt to refute my beliefs. I keep coming back to this \"there are people who seem to (generally) trust the market and people who (generally) seem to trust the government.\"\n\nI have to go with most of the comments so far - that you are painting the discussion into a false binary \"either/or\" dichotomy. This need not be an either/or question.\n\nOn the most sarcastic level possible, a corporation is a collection of individuals operating under a charter (articles of incorporation) for a common goal. For corporations, that theoretical goal is to provide the least amount of product/service to the market for the highest price possible ... given market conditions. The market rewards efficiency here. And yes, I said \"*least amount possible*\" - not because I think most corporations *want* to screw their customers or the public, but that it represents a part of the overall equation that all corporations must consider.\n\nA government is a collection of individuals operating under a charter (in our case, the Constitution) for a common goal. For a government, the goals are not bottom-line $ figures, but things like \"provide for the general welfare\", national defense, and such. There is typically no competitive pressure to drive efficiency here, in comparison with commercial endeavors. \n\nIs one inherently \"wrong\" and the other inherently \"right\"? I don't think so - but that's what your argument seems to presuppose. Why do we need one tool that fits all jobs? If I have a hammer *and* a saw, I can build a lot of interesting things. If I only have a hammer *or* a saw, I'm going to end up building some really messed-up things by trying to use one tool for all jobs. This is where the economic arguments about goods/services that are \"non-rival\" and \"non-exclusive\" (i.e.: lighthouses, satellite weather monitoring) and the concept of the economic free-rider come into play.\n\n> Many policies I see a great deal of support for here on reddit assume that the government will do what it says, that it will do it well, and that it won't take advantage of its power to harm us for the betterment of certain special interests.\n\nI would posit that you could rewrite that entire paragraph, substitute \"commercial organizations\" in for \"government\" and have an equally sustainable argument. I don't expect 100% perfection out of government, nor do I expect 100% perfection out of commercial organizations.\n\n> I'm curious why those of you who accept this -- say in the debate on health care, advocating a \"public option,\" **wanting government to control our retirement savings, etc.** -- do accept it. I think I know why people trust the market, but why do people trust the government?\n\nI have a 401k through my employer. I have an IRA that I contribute to on my own. How is the government controlling *my* retirement savings? Oh ... Social Security? Yes ... the US government many years ago, when ~ [1 out of 2 elderly people in our society lived in poverty](http://www.cbpp.org/cms/index.cfm?fa=view&id=1863), decided that all Americans should put aside for their retirement. You may not *like* that idea - and I would agree with any points made about our government using SS surplus funds for other things ... but is SS such a horrible thing that you would label it as \"control[ling] our retirement savings\"?\n\n*(Fascinating side-note: On a recent business trip to Beijing, I was talking with a Chinese national about their \"one-child\" policy and why that is. He said, without any hesitation - it was in place so that children could manage take care of their parents in their elderly years. The perception is that if you have too many kids, you'd be too busy to take care of your parents when they're elderly, and that they would burden society unnecessarily. So, I'm glad our government chose a concept like \"Social Security\" over China's solution)*\n\nIf I had to take a guess, you've been drinking a lot of the libertarian koolaid. Here's an [alternate position on the role of government](http://www.dailykos.com/story/2009/5/3/2222/01161) which might be useful. Best line:\n\n>No one implemented health, safety, and environmental legislation because they thought it would be fun. We didn't do it because we hate corporations, because we wanted to make jobs for government bureaucrats, or out of some desire to snatch power away from states. We did it because that kind of freedom, marketplace freedom, was literally killing us.", "score": 31 }, { "body": ">there are people who seem to (generally) trust the market and people who (generally) seem to trust the government.\n\nUnwarranted dichotomy. There are people who trust both, people who trust neither, and people who don't think in these terms at all, e.g. those who trust Jesus.", "score": 25 }, { "body": "Like most liberals, I am a capitalist who believes in free markets for most things. However, unlike many conservatives, I recognize the limits of free markets. Free markets cannot provide health care equitably and efficiently -- the greater health outcomes at lower costs for countries with single payer prove that point. Markets cannot provide retirement security -- all the failed IRA's of the past few years make that clear. Markets cannot provide fair contracts for goods that are not expensive enough to justify the purchaser hiring a lawyer -- see your sell phone and cable TV contract.\n\nFor those reasons I recognize that mixed economies, with strong regulation when needed and publicly run industries when necessary, are the best path towards prosperity. \n\nSo tell me, why do you trust the market?", "score": 13 }, { "body": ">I keep coming back to this \"there are people who seem to (generally) trust the market and people who (generally) seem to trust the government.\"\n\nWell right here - I don't trust my government blindly yet I do trust them enough to support programs I like. And I do like the free market for a lot of what gets sold in America but hate what Corporations are doing, through greed, to the American landscape.\n\nAnd I am sick to death of hyperbole and false dichotomy, lies and greed.\n\nThe problem is that you are playing the false dichotomy game that most US residents are playing where they pick a side and fight to the death. Making if/or choices in American Politics is really just continuing more of the same: us vs them.\n\nThe bigger point here is why do we have to boil everything down to us vs them? Can't we, together, find ways to work out our issues without turning it into the superbowl of politics? Can we get out of the greedy loop that is trying to remain or capture power?\n\nOTOH: I will never ever vote for a neocon or anyone who comes sniffing distance of neocon because i like this country too much to allow an elected official running on destroying the government from within to make it smaller - a chance to do just that.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Why do you need our advice. Why don't you read a few history books and see what happened during times of little or no govt interference in business?\n\nHere is one\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby-farming\n\nHere is the money quote \n\nParticularly in the case of lump-sum adoptions, it was more profitable for the baby farmer if the infant or child she adopted died, since the small payment could not cover the care of the child for long. Some baby farmers adopted numerous children and then neglected them or murdered them outright (see infanticide).\n\nSpurred by a series of articles that appeared in the British Medical Journal in 1867, Parliament began to regulate baby-farming in 1872 with the passage of the Infant Life Protection Act. A series of acts passed over the next seventy years, including the Children Act 1908 and the 1939 Adoption of Children (Regulation) Act, gradually placed adoption and foster care under the protection and regulation of the state.\n\n\nBefore you tell me that was a one off incident google \"swill milk\", \"company store\", \"black lung disease\", \"copper kings\", \"union busting\" etc.\n", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I look at there being a power pull between the government, corporations, and individuals. The fact is that no entity is trustworthy. Governments given enough power will oppress, become self-indulgent and bureaucratic, and mass murder. Corporations given enough leeway will cheat, swindle, and act with depraved indifference. Individuals unrestrained will rob, harass, and be cruel.\n\nThose problems with those entities are somewhat separate from what they can accomplish, though. Let's take the specific case of healthcare. Individuals just aren't able to meet the costs of catastrophic healthcare on their own. You can't turn to individuals and say \"you're on your own,\" because you'll just have people dying all over. We tried to have the corporations handle the insurance, but the reality is that corporations are more interested in their own profit than providing service. Because of the margins involved, it was realized that denial of service in higher cost cases would be more profitable than providing insurance. Because of this, the corporations came to only sell the illusion of service. Even with all the things that have been put in, it is still going to be the same thing: you need something, you will need to fight for it, because by making a claim, you are taking something from the corporation.\n\nSo, the hope here is that the government is disinterested in profit, so they will not make it difficult to get service when you need it. We look at how much the current system has been screwing us and we know we need to change it. We look at other countries like Norway, France, Britain, and even Canada, and we see that the system is working for them. Yes, with problems, but people are still seeing doctors and getting timely procedures. Because of that, we want our government to take a shot at it, because there really isn't an alternative that make sense right now.\n\nAs for retirement savings, I think it's foolish to rely on Social Security for the whole of your retirement. I augment mine with a 401k and IRA, and the potential payment from that vastly outweighs the SS benefit. But, of course, I could make mistakes and wipe myself out, so it's nice to know I won't be relegated to cat food if I screw up. All this gets very complicated, though, when you talk about the value of the dollar in the future.\n\nJust one last thought: the \"free market\" only performs well when the motivation to provide service is in line with the payment of that service.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I think it's not just about trusting the government. It's more about not trusting the corporates. Look at health insurance companies, mortgage lenders. Sure government is a bureaucracy and messes up a few things, but corporates do that too. You can't always wait for the free markets to figure themselves out and wait for a solution. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I don't trust the government. I just want to use it as a blunt instrument against the corporateocracy.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I don't trust the government because I've worked in close proximity with elected officials. Almost without exception they are self-serving sociopathic assholes that I wouldn't leave my dog with. We would be better off selecting our officials the same way we select jurors: create a panel of about 100 people drawn at random from public records and make them the candidates.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Before, the government was the laws and policies established, which could be trusted. Now, the government is the elected people, who will do as they please and cannot be trusted. Some still cling to the idea that the elected officials are still bound to the laws and direction of those that elected them. Those are the people that trust the government.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I trust the market completely. But that's exactly the problem. Markets very rarely (never) operate in ideal conditions, and even when they do, the most *efficient* outcome is almost invariably not the most *equitable* outcome.\n\nI trust markets to basically be efficient, and for the vast majority of goods and services within the economy, that's fantastic. But for those things which require considerations of equity, I leave it to our government to regulate the market when need be, and leave the market out of it entirely when necessary as well.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "In regards to healthcare. It is blatantly obvious that something needs to change. Maybe the answer is a public option. Adding a player that has a different set of goals and rules is probably a good way to motivate change. The market has made it clear it is happy with the status quo. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I strive to keep government & corporations at odds with each other. I trust neither & when they are in bed together, the threat they pose is exponentially multiplied. They must be made to check each other.\n\nBetween the two, I must admit that I trust the government somewhat more than corporations because ideally, the people at least have some tiny say in the affairs of government. In the specific case of health care, if reform through government intervention proves detrimental, then there is some chance for political pressure from voters to correct the situation. We do not have such leverage with the market based health care system we have now. We must buy what they are selling (if we are not blackballed for preexisting conditions) or go without coverage and cross our fingers.\n\nThere is also more accountability in government than the market. The government at least makes some effort to police itself whereas there is no such self-regulation in the private sector. just compare the standards that our troops are held to against the standards that Blackwater is held to. When a soldier (for example Lindie England or Steven Dale Green) commits an atrocity, some semblance of justice is administered. When Blackwater employees shoot up civilians or rape their peers, there is no such justice. Who should I trust more?", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Even a deck with the worst cards in all of Magic still needs creatures. Don't forget about [Chimney Pimp](http://magiccards.info/mi/en/59.html).", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Masticore rules!\n\nBut I'd have to suggest Tidal Flats and Balm of Restoration. I like Fallen Empires, but those are some awful cards.\n\nIf we're going for new cards, I think that Acolyte of Xathrid and Mindless Null are the worst cards of their respective sets. One With Nothing is the ultimate groaner rare, if you want to throw that in.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Firstly Masticore is not bad. It was in a ton of artifact based decks in Urza Block Standard.\n\n* Teferi's Isle\n* Great Wall\n* Rats of Rath\n* Aladdin's Lamp\n\n", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Sorrow's Path is the single most hilarious card in history. There was a thing a while back where pros were asked to make the best deck they could using four of them and using a strategy that revolved around them. The best decks involved donating it and tapping it using icy manipulator and ridishan port. Some guy decided to \"Combo out\" with a bunch of en-kor creatures and mogg maniac, it was the best format to watch i've ever seen", "score": 4 }, { "body": "What the hell is wrong with you? Tomb of Urami is *not* a bad card. Not even remotely close. Play monoblack aggro, wait until I'm out of steam, EOT make a 5/5 flier you can't deal with, untap, swing, you die.\n\nAlso, Masticore is a stupidly good card. You're just terrible at card evaluation.\n\nIf you want bad cards, look no further than Chimney Imp and One With Nothing.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "You saw the [OP Great Wall Deck](http://www.essentialmagic.com/Decks/View.asp?ID=170272) posted in this reddit, right?", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Haha, they know everybody hates the moppets.\n\nJackson said on his livejournal that the second half would air in the spring sometime.\n\n> As readers of this LiveJournal are well aware, we split our fourth season into two halves of eight episodes each, so this is the first of eight episodes airing consecutively through the fall. The second eight will air some time next spring...because we're making those now. How's that going? Pretty good, actually, though stressful as always. I've just turned in the sixth script, Doc's about to turn in the seventh, and then the two of us will collaborate, as we always do, on the finale. Some at the network have called these our \"best scripts yet,\" so I guess we're doing something right. But you'll have to wait till the spring to judge for yourselves.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "So long as there's an episode with the Order of the Triad/Trianna dealing with Dr. Killinger, the second half of season 4 can do no wrong.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "The Look of disapproval. It's not only funny, but you'll also feel a pang of guilt when you're buying something you shouldn't be.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "I often do, especially a good pils, helles, or schwarz. I think it comes with time. We all start out drinking lagers, and then we discover real beer and want nothing but the big stuff for quite a while. But after 5 years of drinking nothing but imperial stout, barleywine, and even IPA, sometimes you just want to sit down with a clean, easy drinking beer, and when I do, I turn to a great lager. ", "score": 29 }, { "body": "German lagers are quite tasty (bocks, dopplebocks, oktoberfests, etc.). I also like Anchor Steam quite a bit, it's a great summer beer.", "score": 13 }, { "body": "Man, how can you dismiss lagers like that? Victory's Prima Pils is amazing, and I personally love marzens. There are so many types of lagers that to say categorically that lagers are inferior is just ridiculous. What about dunkel lagers, helles lagers or Baltic porters? What about dopplebocks? There is so much variety. Easily as much as there is in ales. There isn't anything about either ales or lagers that makes either superior to the other. You need to explore lagers more if you think ales are somehow inherently better.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Every beer has its time and place, even cheap american swill\n\nI've been playing around a lot with making lagers, i make some very nice dry helles style pilsners, i love a nice dry finish cold pilsner, tart but not too bitter, black lagers and bocks are also good\n\nWhen you've just finished something strenuous a thick sulfurous Belgian isn't what I'm feeling for, I'll crack into a cold coors light", "score": 6 }, { "body": "There is something about a Corona with lime that I love. Other than that I'll have an occasional Heineken but I would never turn down a good Ale over either one of those beers. \n\nEDIT: I think it's kind of bullshit that you all downvote anything that isn't a microbrew. There are establishments that don't sell dark beers. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Absolutely. 8/10 beers I drink are pilsners. I generally only drink ales when I'm eating something rich and meaty...", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I do- Budvar's my drink of choice. I really dislike lagers like Fosters or Carling, however lager is as valid a beer style as any other.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Most American mass-made lager's are tasteless and bland. I do however have a soft spot for Yuengling. If you ever on the .us east coast give it a try. I've also had a few good lager's from microbrews, but most are generally unimpressive.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "you look like a fool. It is not worth never being taken seriously at your job again, unless you work as a toy designer, and your exercise ball has the little handles so you can bounce around the office.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Get a body wax, buzz cut, shave your eyebrows and pencil them in like a Guido or Mexican girl. Problem solved! You're welcome.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "They just make the cigs go out if you don't actively smoke them. I didn't notice a taste difference, or really any difference at all. All I noticed was that they went out if you didn't take a drag after it started to go out. I smoke camel lights, and they may have used a thicker paper, but that's about it. \n\nQuit smokin mane, shits bad for you. I've been trying to quit for about a week now, and folded yesterday. :/ I'm going to try the patch and gum after this pack, see if that helps. Just by cutting back so much, I've already noticed a difference in taste - they taste more ashtrayish, and I can smell things better now.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "As a child we sometimes collected food stamps (we were dirt poor).\n\nI always knew when we were getting them, my cereal became Cap'n Crunch instead of generic corn flakes. Dinner went from cube steak or other \"cheap\" meat to sirloin, ribeye, fish, or other \"good\" meat. Instead of generic kool-aid packs and sugar for a drink, we'd actually have Coke or Pepsi in the fridge.\n\nWe ate much better with, than without, food stamps.\n\nI always got free lunch at school too :( God I hated being one of the poor kids, which is why I swore I'd never subject my child to that. So far so good.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "How much of that is because the food is paid for by social insurance, and how much is it because you've been depriving yourself for so long. After a long period of starvation (and the listing you gave is nutritionally starvation), it's not surprising that you would gorge somewhat.\n\nOn top of that, there is opportunity cost. With real money, you can skip the fruit (which is way expensive) a few times and buy a video game. But fruit is better for you than most any food (and almost all video games :).", "score": 4 }, { "body": "The system's had no problem printing trillions (literally) for the financial system/bank bailouts. You should only feel the fraction of guilt the bankers feel relative to the cost of their handout. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I picked up a couple of 16 oz Rib Eye steaks. I am going to rub them down with a spice mix...not sure what yet, just usually mix to taste...some chili powder, paprika, salt, pepper, a little garlic powder.\n\nAnyway, rub them down good and cook them at med-high temp on the grill for about 4-5 minutes on each side.\n\nWhile they are cooking, I am going to mix up a some butter with a minced clove of garlic and cook up some freshly picked green beans and make some mashed potatoes (from a box).\n\nWhen the steak is done, I will put some garlic butter on them, serve the steak to my lovely wife and myself along with the green beans and mashed potatoes (from a box).\n\nAnyway, thats probably what I will have.\n\n**EDIT**\nI am not a good cook by any means, but I have fun trying. Here is how it turned out: \n[My Dinner](http://imgur.com/8HeCw)", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Reporting from Edmonton, AB, here.\r\n\r\nI'm leaving work early and heading to my new favourite watering hole (The BeerHunter) to get a table for 10 so some chums and I can watch the gold medal game of the World Junior Hockey tournament -- Canada v. USA. Dinner will consists of a plate of hot wings, with maybe some guacamole-and-salsa-doused nachos as a chaser. Also? Beer.\r\n\r\nGO CANADA!!", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I'm cooking and I'm having a huge salad with crispy chicken cut up on top and a baked potato! mmmmmmm.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Couple pork chops thawing right now, not sure how I am going to cook them up yet. I'm leaning towards BBQ'ing them with a little teriyaki sauce and roasting some bell peppers as well, with a side of brown rice.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I think this is just a little too ahead of its time. Wave is like a solution waiting for the problem still.", "score": 38 }, { "body": "I have 2 other friends and we all have a Wave together, most of the time is spent with me and my one friend changing around what the second friend has posted to [make him sound gay](http://i.imgur.com/igfm1.png). Gotta love technology.\n\nEDIT: Picshafied", "score": 21 }, { "body": "I kind of feel like I have the first telephone in my circle. Who to call? Oh. No one. Those that DO have it don't use it and those that don't have it can't be bothered after I fail to explain it. Hooray!", "score": 16 }, { "body": "Completely agree. I honestly don't even know how to describe what the hell it is. It's kind of like email and kind of like IM but more like an email in real time that never ends - sorta but not really...........", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Twitter didn't make sense at first, but it got big enough that it filled the void it created. Maybe Wave can do the same, but for now, I don't know what the hell it's for or how I should use it.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Google Wave seems like it has a lot of potential but I definitely don't understand what the hell is going on right now.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "It will be useful once a lot of people start to use it. I think they should've just slowly introduced the wave features into gmail. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "how about find a translation of the script online and print it out? or read the subtitles out loud while you are watching the movie with her? neither of these are great ideas but it might lead someone else to have a great idea :)", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Ah! Stupendous! Another troubled young man, and another grand opportunity to demonstrate the curative powers of Professor Swornsworth's Omnicure Elixir!\n\nWhy, if I could have your attention for just a few brief moments I can share with you the secrets of this cure-all formula which was once known only to the Orientals!\n\nGood people, I'd wager this very canvas wagon that not only will this mysterious compound make this young man bigger and stronger- but it will also imbue him with a fairer complexion, and more stamina for his long days at the plow. Is that not wondrous, gentlemen? You and your sons could double or even triple your efficiency in fields, and be done with the day's labor before noon!\n\nProfessor Swornsworth's Omnicure Elixir is made from extracts of licorice root and lavender oil, and over thirteen exotic healing essences from around the world! Take a smell from this vial... not too much now, for its vapors have been known to cause women to have spontaneous fits of ecstasy- which would be immodest in so public a place.\n\nJust one vial of Professor Swornsworth's Omnicure Elixir is guaranteed to cure toothache, Sciatica, Neuralgia, and even Lame Back! Applied to the skin, this splendorous concoction has been scientifically proven to soothe muscle aches, eradicate rashes, and chill blains!\n\nProfessor Swornsworth's Omnicure Elixir contains exotic herbs and liquors that not only act on the body's four humors- but also fortify the skeleton and muscles. Why, my boy, if you were to drink ten bottles of this Elixir, you wouldn't be able to open a door without breaking it off the hinges!\n\nNow, my supply is limited, of course, because each vial of Elixir contains the distilled oil from the Kara-Kara berry, which was a secret closely kept by cloistered clerics in a remote village near Constantinople. Within their monastery walls lies the only known grove of Kara-Kara trees, and each tree only produces Kara-Kara berries twice in its lifetime. As such, the next batch of Professor Swornsworth's Omnicure Elixir may not be available for some years.\n\nAs a courtesy to your neighbors, I'm going to have to insist that all purchases be limited to 10 bottles per customer. My normal fee is is 5 dollars per bottle, earnest money. But because I can tell that you are all deserving Christian folk, I will forgo my commission and give these bottles away at the unprecedented low price of only 3 dollars per!\n\nThe line forms to my left, and please mind the shoving.", "score": 56 }, { "body": "Your shit is all fucked up. Forget your girlfriend's manager and what she thinks, honestly. Anyone who says that type of shit, even behind closed doors, is a total dick/bitch. As for your girlfriend to be influenced like that and not have enough of a conscience to know her manager is a fucking retard, she obviously doesn't deserve you.\n\nGet those people out of your life immediately, I'm serious. P.S. there's no such thing as a failed entrepreneur. A real entrepreneur doesn't give up, so you can't either if you want to use that word. Bag the bitch, tell her manager to fuck right off and then go work at building a business and don't. stop. ever. TRUST me on this. \n\nGod speed.\n\nedit: why you should listen to me: I've been in your position 10 or 12 times and luckily I knew enough to get those people out of my life, but I took their criticism--but I took it for myself and myself only. Fast forward and I've been working out, raking in money (as an entrepreneur myself) and all in all I'm doing really, really fucking well. Get better people in your life and prioritize. Get your business going THEN start working out and get a way hotter girl who's chill as shit. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "* Start slow, build your way up to 100 pushups.\n\n* Use your banging new body to 3-way your girlfriend and her manager.\n\n* Kick both those skeezers to da curb.\n\n* ?????????\n\n* Profit!!", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I'm a huge fan of exfoliating. It doesn't seem to help with my acne at all but it does seem to help the rest of my body stay smooth and lock in moisture when I lotion better. I get weird bumps on the backs of my arms and on my thighs if I don't exfoliate and moisturize often enough.\nI actually have to write in my day planner stuff like this, like Monday exfoliate, Tuesday clip fingernails, Wednesday shave the yeti legs etc.", "score": 10 }, { "body": "First, I like to prepare a \"quiet room\" where I'll be relaxing after applying my creams. Typically some candles, incense, and soft jazz (usually Holly Cole) just to set a warm atmosphere where I can unwind and let the thoughts leave my mind. I find exfoliating to be hygienic, beautifying, *and* therapeutic. (Haven't missed a session in years!)\n\nNow to begin the process I start with a deep facial cleansing, but with lukewarm water. Too hot and it will dry out the skin. Then I apply my homemade cream made with 1/2 tablespoon of aritha powder, 1/2 tsp of sandalwood powder, 1 tablespoons of multani mitti clay, 1/2 tsp arrowroot powder--and oh, what the hell!--1 tsp powdered rose petals (because I'm naughty! <wink>) Then I like to top it off with 1/4 tsp neem powder and milk. Add water to make a paste. Using a circular motion I massage the exfoliating mixture into my skin, then I move to my \"quiet room\" and let the healing begin. When removing the cream I use warm water, but I spruce it up with mint drops (shhh! It'll be our little secret!).\n \nThen to tighten the pores afterwards I use good ol' WD-40. I just spray that shit right on. Tightens the pores *and* leaves a shine!\n\n\n", "score": 10 }, { "body": "I exfoliate in the shower, with whatever I happen to have. So it's easy to remember to keep it as part of my routine. I'm rather fond of St. Ive's Apricot Scrub, but last year for Christmas I got some Burt's Bees exfoliating something, and so I'm on that bottle right now.\n\nI think it makes my face feel softer? I think that dead skin is really noticeable when I wear makeup. So regular exfoliation + using toner after cleansing my face/before makeup makes things look/feel nicer.\n\nI feel like some exfoliation scrub stuff doesn't have enough beads, or whatever. I'm trying to remember the one I used and didn't like... I don't remember. It's been ages since I used the St. Ives stuff. But if I remember correctly, it started off feeling like there wasn't enough scrubbiness, then as the bottle went down there was more, because they separated out just a little bit.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I just wash my face with a washrag and bar soap when I shower. Sodium laurel/laureth sulfate/sulfide makes my skin dry out, turn red, and flake, bar soap never contains this. \n\nA good washrag is very gentle on the skin, but does a good job of getting rid of those flakes. Washing my face too often makes it oily, so I pretty much only wash it in the shower or when it's actually dirty, like after a warm walk or something.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I use this soap called Miracle II or something, I dont really know but my dad buys it because he's a hippie and it's one of the only things that doesn't make me break out since it's all natural. I wash my face with that and it does well removing makeup. Then I use an apricot scrub (like St. Ives, and the thick kind that is rough) and scrub my face with that and rinse it thoroughly since the little rough particles get caught in crevices of your face or hairline if you're not careful. I really like the thick apricot scrubs because I *feel* like my face is getting clean. Anything else just feels like gunk I'm wiping on my face and then rinsing off.\n\nAfter I just moisturize with cocoa butter body butter because the apricot scrub dries my face out. I've done this for years and get compliments on my skin. But I've also been blessed with good skin so I'm not sure if this would work for you.\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "My tips:\n\n*Only exfoliate at night, before bed. The new skin that's exposed after exfoliation is much more prone to sun damage and makeup could potentially dry out the skin or clog the fresh pores.\n\n*Exfoliate 2-3 times per week, max. You don't want to overdry or rub your skin raw.\n\n*Be very generous with moisturizer afterward.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "A dry wash cloth. You don't need to rub broken walnut shells all over your face or pay a bunch for creams that contain said item. Try half a lemon rubbed on your face once in awhile, its an alpha-hydroxy peel and makes a great drink too. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I use really fine sugar (it's special bakers sugar) or baking soda mixed with a bit of liquid face soap. Do it at the end of your shower when your skin is warm. Circular motions and rinse, rinse, rinse.\r\n\r\nThere is a Korean spa near me that does these full-body scrubs. The scrub ladies feel that the most important thing is to really soak your skin before exfoliation (they make you sit in a hot tub for 30 minutes before a scrub). It helps the skin slough off....\r\n\r\nI agree with multiple folks who say don't do this more than twice a week. If I do it more than once, my sensitive skin gets quite angry.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Do you currently use face washes/moisturizers with benzoyl peroxide and/or salicylic acid?? I would stop using those! I had TERRIBLE skin for years, tried everything I could from the drug store and by prescription. I had skin like yours, with really dry, flaky areas and really oily areas, except I broke out on my cheeks, chin, jaw line. Finally, a dermatologist told me to just stop everything I was doing and to use regular bar soap and a wash cloth. And it worked! All the chemicals and treatments had just caused my skin to go nuts; it was overcompensating for my cleansing by producing way too much oil, and my cleansing was causing dry spots, so it would get even oilier, and the cycle continued that way. \n\nIt took a few weeks for my skin to calm itself down, and return to normal cell growth and sebum production. However, now that it has, maintenance is so much easier! I simply cannot use any drying wash/moisturizer (including anything with salicylic acid and benzoyl peroxide). My typical routine is wash with warm water and a washcloth, no soap, in the shower in the morning, remove make-up before gym in the evening, and wash with gentle soap (currently I'm using a Dial anti-bacterial hand soap and it's working great) at night before bed. I exfoliate using an apricot scrub that has Alpha-hydroxy in it - which is great for wrinkle prevention - once or twice a week, depending on how rough my skin feels. For moisture, which I need twice a day in the winter, I use Aveeno Daily Radiance. It absorbs quickly and is not greasy, and PLUS it has helped even out my skin tone and corrected some of the redness. \n\nIt's been a few years since I've done this, and I find that it's a very easy regimen to stick to, since it's so simple and requires very few products! Just get yourself a good washcloth or two, not ones that are super rough though not super silky, a bar or bottle of regular soap, and a gentle (AKA sensitive skin) exfoliator. Moisturize only when you feel your skin needs it (and maybe only on the bits that need it), and give it time to regulate it's own moisture. The less make-up you wear during the transition period, the better! \n\nSorry for such a long post! I just felt like I had a lot to offer as advice for you!! Hope it helps! Let us know!", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Get a large baking sheet, preheat the oven to 400F and cook for 10-15 minutes. Crispy, delicious bacon. If you don't have a rack to put in the sheet, just get a ton of paper towels and wipe down the bacon later.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "Grilling Bacon is the fastest way to cook it, but also the easiest way loose it... it will catch fire and melt through the grill if you don't pay attention. \n\n1) Get Grill Hot\n\n\n2) Place bacon across grill *perpendicular to the grate* (**this is the key**) \n\n\n3) Flip in 2-3 min when it shrivels.\n\n\n4) Douse with beer to stop flare ups\n\n", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Not sure about the best prep method, but the best way to eat a pound of bacon is to ball it up and eat it like an apple.", "score": 5 } ]

[ { "body": "You probably need to exercise more, drink water, and eat right. If you're doing all of those, you need to make sure you're having good conversations with friends on a regular basis and not dealing with unhappy social or family situations.\n\nYou may be overusing certain drugs like caffeine, marijuana, or alcohol, but on the other hand those drugs can stimulate philo sophia.\n\nIf you've got all that right, then rest easy: it is totally fine to not care about philosophy.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I think your conception of wisdom involves a sort of absolute truth. Rid yourself of such thoughts. \n\nTo philosophize is to pursue a more accurate, truthful and unbiased notion of both your personal perspective of experiences and meaning in life, and a cosmic perspective. \n\nSome believe there exists a fundamental basis of philosophical thought. These people study past and present philosophers; some proceed to write philosophical theories of their own. For you, however, no predetermined path is required. Philosophizing is infallibly you, yours, and your own. \n\nTo philosophize is to immerse oneself in infinite paths of thinking, reasoning, rationalizing, reduction, and determining in regards to infinite objects and subjects. \n\nThis is true: a proper philosophizer will never resolve on a universal philosophy that applies or explains everything in his world. ", "score": 5 } ]

[ { "body": "Just untag yourself from the photo of you she DID put up.\r\n\r\nPersonally, I'd just let it go. I don't know your whole history with his mother but if it's sort of a \"first offense\" I'd just move forward and not cause a scene.\r\n\r\nNow if she has a history of being a cunt towards you, talk to your boyfriend. It's really HIS responsibility to stand up to his mother and ensure you're treated with respect.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "You must train an army of kangaroos to attack her. Is that not the traditional Australian way of settling disputes?", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Spend more time with her. Be very nice. Take lots of pictures. Upload every unflattering picture of her and tag it. \r\n\r\nOn the more serious side, I think the best solution is to have your boyfriend talk to her about it, and eventually have a conversation with her yourself. I think openness and honesty solve a lot.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I had recieved some very bad new just before Christmas that a friend who I had spent a year with studying a Masters degree with had killed himself. He had served in the RAF for many years in 'intelligence' and had seen service in both gulf wars. He had suffered depression and was medicated for it. I kinda knew that he had been suffering from PTSD and had found talking about it useless in treating his depression. \n\nWars are fucked up on so many levels I wonder what the causualties look like when you add in all those numbers of veterans who cannot carry on? \n\nHe would have no doubt been choosing targets planning sorties and assessing damage as well as controling battlefields. God only knows what he saw & heard. How must he have felt when he learned what is known about the wars today? \n\nWhether you are a person on the front line like the story in the post or like my friend death must haunt you. He is free of it now but what a waste. War is a waste of life money time effort resouces. \n\n'Lest we forget' is written on the tombs of our war dead. Why then do we forget at every turn that it is a pointless endevour? War is a racket and people get rich from the tortured bodies minds and souls of countless people.\n\nFuck war. ", "score": 90 }, { "body": "I have some PTSD, not that severe, but bad enough that there are a few days a year where I have to remove myself from the world. There are a lot of triggers but most typical is a low-flying plane. I hate going near airports. The best thing I've found is just to find a safe place and let it pass. If I get triggered and I'm somewhere that I can't get away, I tend to get very, very quiet and try to remove myself mentally. The attacks don't typically last long but they're not fun, that's for sure.", "score": 65 }, { "body": ">and that they, the soldiers, would throw the captives family from the helicopter into the chopper blades of another helicopter below them to try and get them to talk. He said on one occassion his partner threw a child... and he said that is what triggered this.\r\n\r\n\r\nNot to detract from your story, but wouldn't there be a huge risk that the helicopter went down if you tossed something as big as a human body into the blades?", "score": 57 }, { "body": "I have PTSD from serving in Iraq. Not as severe as your friend's dad.\n\nCoping is different for everyone that suffers from PTSD. One thing that helps me is reminding myself that I am home and that I am safe. \n\nSome things never go away. You don't forget the dead bodies, or the smells. You don't forget the weight of the rifle in your hand, or how the dimpled pistol grip felt in your palm. You don't forget what fear looks like when it's reflected in the dark eyes of the man staring back through your own iron sights (I still thank god that I didn't pull the trigger).\n\nCoping involves getting necessary counseling (the one thing the VA has done right) and not being afraid to talk about it. ", "score": 50 }, { "body": "my uncle did a tour in 69-70 as a forward artillery observer in Vietnam. About a year after he got back he lost his mind and to this day is schizophrenic.\n\ni love him very much and help him with what i can. but it's hard to cope and he refuses to see any kind of doctor(s) ... he is soon to be 64.\n\nI know a lot about his time in Vietnam and i know the main LZ he was stationed at was overrun and they killed (mostly) everyone ... in general it's not a topic neither he nor i talk about in-depth, but it does come up regularly in passing.\n\nwar is never a good thing -- for anyone.\n\nIf anyone in the picture on this page is familiar to you please feel free to contact the email address -- I'm hoping to find some of the individual(s) he knew in country: http://tinyurl.com/yjn4nkx\n\nedit: lack of updates on that site because it's too taxing but i dont want to take down the \"about page\"", "score": 23 }, { "body": "\"A story: A man fires a rifle for many years, and he goes to war. And afterward he turns the rifle in at the armory, and he believes he's finished with the rifle. But no matter what else he might do with his hands, love a woman, build a house, change his son's diaper; his hands remember the rifle.\"\n\n-*Jarhead*\n\nI'm surprised no one else has posted this. I always remember this quote when I try to fathom what it must be like to have been in combat and killed people.", "score": 20 }, { "body": "No offense to this story and all... but if you tossed a human body into the blades of a helicopter you'd render it grounded. So either there is something I don't know about 1960s/70s helicopters or you [he] is full of shit about the story.\n\nBackground: I have friends who are pilots and the smallest nick/dents in the prop can basically render it useless. A prop strike can damage the engine, etc... So from what I gather you'd never intentionally throw anything but air into the path of the prop [or blade in the case of a helicopter...]", "score": 18 }, { "body": "I'm sure I'll get downvoted for this, but as someone who has been dealing with PTSD for 7 years, and has been in a PTSD group with other veterans (Primarily Vietnam) I have a VERY hard time believing that your friend's father told you what you claim he did. I've heard the story before passed around as \"something I heard happened\" at group. One of the guys who used to attend was one of a few surviving members of a chopper squad (pilot) He had mentioned specifically that he remembered tales of people being tossed into blades, however had never seen it happen and had a hard time believing it true. Doesn't mean it never happened, however I'm more prone to believe someone I KNOW was there then a throw away account on reddit. \n\n\nHowever I'll answer anyway, my wife has been my #1 supporter through the last 7 years. I'm rated at 100% P&T with VA and on SSD. Until recently I attend a PTSD support group every week (for ~6 years) and saw a counselor twice a month. \n\nI have no idea how my wife deals with it, I really don't. I don't sleep much at all and when I do chances are I'll wake up shouting or diving for the floor. The best answer to how she copes with my problem is that she is supportive. The same seems to follow for the wives of the guys in my group. Their wives are absolutely wonderful in that they are willing to listen, help be prepared for triggers, know what to do if problems come up..\n\n\nIt has NOTHING to do with her coping with what I've done or seen, what the hell kind of selfish prick are you to even BEGIN to think you understand what that man goes through; enough so that you need \"help coping\" with what he's been through? \n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "score": 15 }, { "body": "My exhusband was a Vietnam vet...a Marine during the TET offensive. He ended up being declared paranoid schizophrenic with sever PSTD. Before I was finally able to leave, he had beaten me consistently to the point that I lost teeth, broke bones, and lost a set of twins. I was terrified to leave because of what he said he'd do to me and my family. Finally, he went after our little girl who was two. I grabbed her and left. I lived in fear for years after that. That was 34 years ago and I still am afraid of him. Even though he's in a locked facility. Yet, I don't harbor any ill will towards him. None of this was his fault. He had a childhood from hell and then went to another hell in Vietnam. ", "score": 15 }, { "body": "This is why we need to be given much more funding to the VA and not stupid shit like corn subsidies.", "score": 13 }, { "body": "I have PTSD as well, bad enough that it literally paralyzed me from the waist down. (about inch above my navel.) The flashbacks (what you're talking about) are much better now, but now and then I still have them. \n\nGood for you for being so understanding and empathetic with this guy's suffering. It warms my heart.", "score": 12 }, { "body": "Yeah, my father went through nam as a marine. Supposedly when he was fresh back, his brother tried to wake him up, and he reacted by tackling and attempting to kill him (or so the story goes)\n\nnowadays he's far better, but he still jerks if you wake him up by touching him (so I try to wake him by talking)\n\nbut yeah, PTSD. My father trouble getting help from the va about it cause he Waited too long", "score": 11 }, { "body": "I suffer from it. Not that bad but I've had bouts. Keeping your cool and being reassuring is most important on the outside. It's in their heads and it isn't easy to get past that. being calm yourself is the best way to deal. Being forgiving is a step up and only when they feel safe do you start to hold them accountable. What our govt does to young men is make them into killing machines. I would recommend you work to help hold our so called civilization accountable. Most of all... best on you for noticing.", "score": 11 }, { "body": "You are suffering from PTSDAWPTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder after witnessing post-traumatic stress disorder).", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I'm a service connected veteran with PTSD. My husband is really good about warning me if a movie or tv show might trigger me. I still can get triggered from tv commercials, certain songs, smells, etc.\n\nI took a Dialectic Behavior Therapy (DBT) course, it REALLY helped me to tolerate hard moments, and what to do when I feel triggered.\n\nThere's also medications to help with the nightmares (prazosin in very small doses), weekly therapy, antidepressants.... \n\nIt's a terrifying feeling when an episode strikes, there's a part of your mind that is lucid and sane, and trying to regain control, but the rest of you is trapped in this returning past, a horrid time and place you couldn't escape, and you TRULY think you are going to die! The episodes can be short, just a flash, or they can last quite long, as your friend's dad's did.\n\nI'm glad he's getting help, and that he and his family CAN discuss his experiences. Communication is one thing that can help with this horrible thing. He should tell his VA person about his latest attack, although there may be a good chance they already know, as he could have been transferred to a VA facility.\n\nIt's hard for me to discuss with family and friends, a lot don't know all the stuff that happened to me, and telling them will hurt them unnecessarily without helping me much. I know I can put my husband into tears with just 3 words, he's so sensitive! He's pieced a bit of it all together, but I don't think he knows everything.\n\nJust nonjudgmental support is helpful. If the person IS in treatment with a good PTSD group or counselor, they don't really need to go through the same thing with you, although they may want to. If they don't let it go.\n\nNow you know one thing which might trigger your friend's dad, so now you have a little power to help him. If you ever are in a situation where he's triggered, you might be able to help by talking soothingly to him, let him know that \"It's not happening now\" and \"You're in a safe place\" (if you can safely get near him.) Just the idea that \"it's not happening now\" has been VERY helpful for me when I get antsy or scared.\n\nContinue being a friend. This problem isn't any of their fault, but it does seriously impact them. Treat them as normal as you can, because when things are \"normal\", they are just normal folks.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "My boyfriend has pretty severe PTSD, and I've been around for flashbacks. He's on medication and now has as-needed sedatives and a mask thing to breathe into for when he starts hyperventilating. He hasn't had an episode in a while, but its terrifying when he does...", "score": 7 }, { "body": "When I started taking a B.Sc in psych in undergrad, and I would always secretly say to myself that all of these disorders, like PTSD, ADD, anorexia, etc. were all malarkey. However, then I met and read about people who literally live through this crap every day, and it really opened my eyes. I always thought that if you were having a mental issue, you should perhaps STOP having that particular issue. I hope I didn't offend too many people with my ignorance. ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "This reminds me of a couple stories of my father, who has PTSD since his tour in Iraq. I've only seen one episode, and honestly, I'm not quite sure what triggered it. My mother was driving to walmart with my father in the passenger's seat when suddenly he just made this odd sound, and went completely limp. His eyes rolled up and he just projectile vomited everywhere, and just sat like that for like 3 minutes while my mom was screaming and I was panicking. Suddenly, he just sat back up and looked confused and scared. He wasn't sick before or after, it was just a sudden thing.\n\nAnother time, my grandmother was in a grocery store with him a couple months after he came back, and apparently some kids were playing around with shopping carts. At one point, they smashed the carts together which made a loud sound, and my father just leaped to the ground and put his hands over his head, in the position you do when there is a mortar inbound.\n\nI'm in the military also, and although I never have been deployed, I've heard a lot of horror stories. Things that soldiers saw in Abu Grahib (And by the way, most people were strongly against the events that happened there) during the cleanup after the company that did all the torture was removed were utterly disgusting. For instance one Sargent I talked to (He was in that replacement company) had to get a rectal scan from a dead man, when suddenly puss started leaking out, and he hasn't been able to eat eggs since because it reminds him. He also saw prisoners rip open another prisoner's bullet hole wound (in between ribs or in the chest somewhere like that) and gang-rape the man in it, since that man was of a different religion than the rest. Another thing that affected him was having to try to calm a new prisoner who was panicking about his family's survival with him in prison, after looking at the man's file and seeing that he may never go home (the man had everything from rape, murder, assault, all the top crimes). The sad part about all this is that the things we see now aren't even close to as traumatizing ass throwing kids into chopper blades, so I can't even imagine how your friend's father deals with it.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "My modified soccer coach was a vietnam vet. He was just a journalist but I think he had PTSD. He was the kind of guy that tried to seem really laid back but was actually very uptight on the inside. He smoked a lot of weed but he was a teacher so by the end of the day his buzz had worn off and he tended to get angry over unreasonable things. One day we were goofing around in practice and he started to get mad at us. It sort of escalated until he was yelling at full volume and having a Vietnam flashback. Paraphrased: \n\n>you know what happens when you screw around? What happens if you and your buddies are walking into a village and you're screwing around and then you get ambushed. You get surrounded and then you see your friends die, screaming in the mud. \n\nSo yeah, that was kind of fucked up for an eighth grader to see. I guess it's good that he was keeping himself medicated for his condition but by mid-afternoon, he was anything but mellowed out. He probably should have toked up again at lunchtime.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "While I knew we used to toss out a captive from a helicopter to get the others to talk, I find it very hard to believe they would toss one onto the blades of another helicopter. Whatever. ", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I dated a girl whose biological father came back from Vietnam completely messed up. Apparently he had witnessed his entire platoon get butchered in cold blood from a hiding spot (complete with visuals and sounds of death), and he was so terrified that he lay there in his own piss and shit for 2 days before he got the nerve to get out and run. So he comes back and started becoming an alcoholic (he was a well educated gynecologist doctor). He ended up losing his license and ended up having to do abortions instead. Not only that he kept coming home drunk and raising hell and the last straw was when he broke my girlfriend's rib by falling on her when she was around 5, and her parents divorced. My girlfriend was a little screwed up by all of this, she was obsessed with history and war documentaries and she had... separation anxiety/insecurity issues =/\n\nWar is hell on everyone, even multiple generations later!!", "score": 6 }, { "body": "My father served in the US Army during WWII. 45 years later he still awoke screaming. He was the strongest man I've ever known. War is true horror. I can't imagine what it would be like to return viewed less than a hero. My heart goes out to all of you veterans and I hope you understand why I protest. Ironically, I also believe war is sometimes a necessity.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "My great grandfather was a POW in WW2. He entered the military weighing in at around 150lbs. Healthy BMI for his height. When he returned he weighed less than 60lbs and from what my great uncle said, the troops that saved him barely did. The following day, the Nazis were preparing to torch and retreat. He said that he lived on the spiders and other things. He suffered hard from the war. You know the kind in which people say you were only there if you never talked about except once kinda thing or never at all. He would ramble on and do much the same thing as the OP's friend's dad did. Just he was a bit older and never moved that fast. My great grandmother couldn't sleep with him in the same bed because from time to time he'd wake up in a half sleep and been dreaming he was back in that prison.\n\nI honestly can say it was fortunate that he passed when he did because it was only getting worse.\n\nMy other grandfather doesn't suffer from PTSD just kinda like a bliss ignorance. He was a medic in 'nam and he'll only say that he shot a machine gun out the window of the truck. He never mentions details or much else.\n\nI never really \"coped\" with it because this was all when I was far to young to remember much of it. My family seemed to just keep it to themselves like a skeleton in the closet.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I have a friend who was in Iraq at the beginning of the war. He spent 7 months there and was pretty worn out by the time he left. Maybe two years after returning to civilian life, he had a good job, a girlfriend who had two children of her own that he loved, and life was pretty normal. \n\nOne night I was couch surfing at his house, and there was a loud 'bang' somewhere in the neighborhood. This wasn't anything even close to a high crime neighborhood, and the bang wasn't that loud, but he came bursting out of the bedroom, and became hypervigilant. He spoke to me about the sound, which I told him sounded to me more like lumber or something falling, than a gunshot, and even if it was a gunshot, it didn't hit the house. But he went around the house for about 10 minutes, carefully peeking out the window, checking on the kids and his girlfriend several times, and in general being ready for an attack. \n\nIt's not like he was actually freaking out, but he was clearly on edge and in a different \"mode\" of consciousness. He had already been diagnosed with a mild case of PTSD and is considered partially disabled. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I have PTSD that I suppress very deeply. I was a Paramedic for 7 years and witnessed three very gruesome events that affected me deeply, that I will carry with me for long time.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Reading your story and about PTSD reminded me of a guy that I knew who had it. I used to experiment with various substances at the time, and my drug du jour was ecstasy (mdma). He was one of the people I would run into at parties. Anyway, he claimed that mdma helped him get over it. The way he described it was that he was able to re-live (or replay) the stuff that caused the trauma in the first place until it didn't bother him anymore. I'm not sure if that makes any sense to those of you who have experienced PTSD, but I found his story fascinating. I didn't know the guy well enough to really know if he was legit or not, but it made sense to me due to my own experience. My depression subsided after my MDMA experiments (maybe coincidental, but I definitely think there was some correlation). Definitely the best unintended side effect I ever had. Please note that I'm just relating something that I've experienced as I've also seen a lot of people get pretty fucked up off of the stuff and do not suggest taking it as it has many risks. I was bent on self destruction when I was taking it so anything with the potential to fuck me up sounded like a good idea. \n\nMy question to those of you who know what you're talking about: does this seem plausible?\n\ntl;dr - Guy I know used ecstasy, says it helped his PTSD. Is this bs or possible?", "score": 5 }, { "body": "My mom has PTSD, although it's not nearly as severe as what you describe. It's also not from war, as most of the comments here seem to be, but from her traumatic and abusive childhood. It generally manifests as abject depression, withdrawal, and recurring intrusive thoughts, on top of her already-present depression and OCD. Her most recent trigger was the Augusten Burroughs book *A Wolf at the Table*; I guess it had similar experiences described in it as her own. I feel terrible knowing that there isn't anything I can do but hug her and want to kill her stepfather, but at the same time I think she is one of the strongest people I know.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I wrote a paper on the abundance of war crimes in the Vietnam war, and this does not surprise me one bit. Soldiers systematically tortured/maimed/killed random villagers for information about the Viet Cong. After the villager was killed, they would tell authorities that he/she was associated with the VC. Reading this brings back some bad memories of doing research for the paper. Thank you for the story though, I hope your friend gets out of prison soon.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I am somewhat skeptic that helicopters could withstand the force of bodies falling upon them while they are in mid-flight.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I literally had to choke back tears on this one. Heartbreaking. I don't know how anyone could ever deal with that image/memory in their head. If I were alone, I would be crying right now. I feel so bad for your friend's Dad. \r\n\r\nI'm sorry you had to see that happen. ", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I was diagnosed with PTSD due to my military service. I haven't had too many bad things happen in terms of freak outs.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I was dx'ed with PTSD a few years ago. It's not severe and it stems from abuse as a child. \r\n\r\nMostly, I have nightmares. Once in a while, there will be a trigger and I'll lose my shit for a short period of time before I realize that I'm safe. I do have flashbacks but not often. \r\n\r\nI remember one time I was driving and just blacked out. Well, I felt completely detached from my body because the flashback was so intense. I remember trying to drive into traffic so I would die and it would finally be over. \r\n\r\nIt just feels like you're back and experiencing the trauma all over again. At it's worst, you don't know where you're at, you don't know what's going on, but you do know is there is some threat or menace. \r\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I had a friend in grade school who's father would do this sort of thing. Another Nam vet. You had to be very careful to not make any loud noises when he was sleeping. That is unless you wanted your head shot off. He didn't even use an alarm clock, but then again he never slept much either.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Whoever threw people into helicopter rotors should be prosecuted for war crimes. The fact that it occurred long ago is irrelevant.\n\n\"I was following orders\" is no excuse.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I have had many run ins with people with PTSD. First when I was younger maby 11-12 I had a friend whos dad was a helicopter gunner in Vietnam. This I did not know. So being a kid and all I pick up a bar stool and like an anti artillary gun and start beating on my belling making a thumping noise and pointing all over the room. Holy shit the dad jumps and runs into the other room and starts yelling and yelping. I leave and was told to not do that anymore.\r\n\r\nOne of my best friends was a sniper in the USMC and came back all fucked up with PTSD. Always thought we were lying to him. No trigger crazy shit.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "A good friend of the family was in Vietnam and does suffer from PTSD. Thankfully, the government finally gave him the benefits they conned him into signing away all so long ago to get out of Vietnam early and he's doing great. Though a few of the stories he's shared are pretty intense. He got separated from his unit and was stuck in the jungle for some time. He, unfortunately, was in a really contested area and had to hide from Vietcong patrols. He ended up staying motionless in a tree for three days. The Vietcong would spray gunfire at any noise and wait for whatever dropped. He was lucky that a friendly patrol eventually came by. I can tell he saw some thing's he'd rather forget.\n\nMy uncle suffered from PTSD, too. He was a helicopter gunner on an Agent Orange sprayer and volunteered for a second tour of duty. He was never quite right after that. He eventually died because the Agent Orange exposure had eventually destroyed his immune system to the point a bacteria that most infants develop an instant immunity to upon birth got him. My father unwittingly tried to shake him awake once when he got back from a night of drinking and found his head on the floor with his brother's boot on his head ready to snap his arm off.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I don't really know where to put this, so I'll ask here in hopes that someone (seems like a lot of redditors, like you, have experience with PTSD) sees this and can respond. I just watched the movie *Brothers*, and I was very pleasantly surprised with it. Tobey Maguire's portrayal of PTSD was so powerful... I was just wondering if anyone else has seen it and can comment on how realistic his portrayal is.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I have now very mild residual effects of what was once debilitating PTSD (feel free to message me if you have any questions about the disease), I also work with a lot of people with PTSD including people who have survived war and torture. My sister also has PTSD (it seems) and I've had several friends with it.\n\n\n**How I Cope**\nI did lots and lots and lots and lots and lots of therapy. I connected myself with resources and other people who had experienced the same kinds of trauma I had. I learned some healthy coping skills. I learned CBT which eventually lead to my panic attacks going away and some reduction in the hyper vigilance. \n\nEssentially I dealt with it the best way that I could at the time. Some of those ways were unhealthy. But gradually I built up an army of coping skills. \n\nI also turned it into a strength for myself. I'm hyper sensitive to other peoples emotional state. I got a degree in Social Work and that certainly helps me to tune into where my clients are at. \n\n\n**How does my sister cope with her PTSD**\nShe doesn't most of the time. PTSD is the least of her mental health concerns (she jumps in between a dx of schizoaffective and bipolar with severe psychotic symptoms depending on what doctor see's her what day). \n\n\n**How do I cope knowing my sister has PTSD?**\n\nIt's hard. It's really hard. I mean this is my baby sister. A lot of her PTSD is linked to a horrific history of sexual violence. I first found out when she wrote a list of the time's she'd been raped in a journal of mine she had stolen (she stole my stuff often. When I stole it back there was 3 pages filled with names and places. \n\nIt floored me. I was upset. I was angry. I wanted to break some faces in. I wanted to fix it and make it all okay for her. Unfortunately we can't. When ever my sister goes into therapy to try and address her PTSD the stress of it triggers her psychotic mental illness and she ends up hospitalized. \n\n\n**How do I cope knowing people I care about have been in situations that have triggered PTSD**\nI get involved and active in agencies / causes that aim at working towards preventing people being put in those situations. I am a fixer and I know I can't fix someone with PTSD. I can't make it all magically go away. But I can put that energy into trying to prevent other people experiencing it. \n\nI go easy on myself shortly after finding out something like that. Especially since I work with so many people who have been traumatized. I want to avoid vicarious trauma (it's common in the caring profession, where gradually over time hearing about other people's traumatic experiences while connecting with them builds up and can leave you traumatized). \n\nI try to make time for the things that give me energy that nourish who I am. \n\n\n**Other**\nI still think the most painful moment for me was when I was doing the Vagina Monologues. I was supposed to be doing an amusing one. At the last minuet the producer asked if I would mind switching to \"My Vagina Was My Village\" about a woman who was raped by soldiers. After my first run through of the monologue I found out that my sister had been raped again. A few hours later I found out that my friend who had been raped previously and ended up pregnant (and decided to keep the child) has been beaten into miscarrying the foetus. \n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "He's still able to bench 400lbs at his age?... And you said he threw people into spinning helicopter blades? I seriously doubt helicopter blades would have been able to handle those kinds of stresses and I also doubt a Vietnam veteran would be benching 400lbs today. \n\n Sir... I call bullshit.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "well i tried to setup LiRC on my HTPC back in the day... around Ubuntu 8.04... I was using the IR receiver built into my Antec case and in short it was a nightmare. I had an easier time modifying and compiling the linux kernel than I did getting lirc to work properly. I eventually got it to work with a USB IR receiver (media center remote combo) but still not 100% reliably... that coupled with the fact puleaudio (after upping to 9.04) would not play nice with the S/PDIF on my audio card and I'm now running XBMC on XP... just sayin\n\nif i had to do it again i would do this: http://lifehacker.com/5391308/build-a-silent-standalone-xbmc-media-center-on-the-cheap $200 and be done with it.\n\n", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "It depends, I am a competitive collegiate runner, and I can notice stuff start to go after two or three days. After a week, I start to really feel it, and after a month you are hurting not just from the lack of aerobic, but in the case of running X amount of miles a week, you need to build back up to X, regardless of how fast you feel, otherwise you risk injury.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "OP, I think your advice is pretty shitty too, to be perfectly honest. Starting a technology war with your school is a pretty bad idea.\n\nFind out what their intentions are. If you'll be expelled/fined a bajillion dollars if you get caught, **then** do all the things you mentioned.\n\nEven if they can't find evidence of the file you downloaded, they'll at the very least see that you recently installed Firefox and uTorrent, your cache is cleared and you have a registry cleaner installed (or just that your registry is clean). If I were in there position, I'd suspect the person tried to clean the evidence, and I'd be more inclined to seriously discipline them.", "score": 23 }, { "body": "I've been on the other end of this story scores of times. I used to do network security for a large university and part of that was to respond to DMCA requests from copyright holders. My advice is specifically skewed to our school, but I imagine there's enough similarity to most other schools to be of use.\n\n#1 is the most important step.\n\n1. Find out what the punishments are for being caught. With us, the first time was a talking to from the dean, the second was a $2,000 fine to your bursar account, and the third time was a complete ban from the network (which amounts to expulsion). If there are no lasting consequences for the first time, leave your laptop at home, go to the meeting, be an adult and admit you screwed up.\n\n2. Copping an attitude would be wrong. Be contrite, even if you don't admit to anything. Any other moral or intellectual argument aside, in the eyes of the courts and the school, you were wrong. Sorry, but you were wrong, and you knew it. You were assuming a risk, and you got caught.\n\n3. At least in my job, we knew beyond a reasonable doubt that you were the person responsible. Even if a MAC was spoofed, we could track it down to a jack in your dorm room (or wherever). Playing dumb is probably just going to piss them off and make them more likely to want to make an example out of you.\n\n4. The submitter is right. If you try to out-tech them, even if nobody in the room knows what you're talking about, they'll go find someone who knows more than you do about it. The deans will believe that person over you 100% of the time, even if they're wrong.\n\n5. Don't sign anything without talking to your parents unless it's just a confirmation that you talked to the dean and were told not to do it again.", "score": 15 }, { "body": "3 years ago during my freshman year of college I was caught. I was using Ares and actually wasn't downloading that much music (about 50 songs in a two month period). Anyway I had just download an old Phil Collins song from the 80's and I forgot to click unshare for that particular song. Needless to say someone starting sharing off of my file. About 3 days later I tried to open Firefox but I was greeted with a message telling me I broke Campus Policy for the internet (something along those lines)\n\nSo I got to eventually got to meet like the Dean of Judicial Affairs or something like that. There is two things I have never forgotten about that day I met. The First is when I waiting to talk to him, I remember sitting outside his office where there were two girls waiting as well. The one was a education major who got busted at a party for drinking. And I remember her shear panic in her face and in her voice. The second thing I remember is when I actually got to meet the dean. Very nice and friendly man as I was completely honest with him. He looked at the piece of paper that the school recieved and looked at the song I was sharing. He looked at me and \"Phil Collins...really?\" and started to laugh. \n\nAnyway, they shut my internet off for like two weeks and I had to watch some Powerpoint presentation. No big deal really. I don't remember exactly what the punishment was for the second offense, but I remember they would shut off the internet for multiple months. \n\nThe only thing I was told to do by the school was to delete all the files that I had downloaded, which I did. ", "score": 10 }, { "body": "I just can't fathom why you would use file sharing software on school/university networks. I mean, that's just asking for it, isn't it?", "score": 8 }, { "body": "I don't think this is useful advice at all. Having captured the MAC address associated to the IP that the studio captured is all the links the studio needs to get your name. Campus networks typically require registration of a MAC address to obtain IP leases. Once they have your name, it doesn't matter what's on or not on your computer, the chain of custody is established. There's no covering it up, and playing dumb will lead to your school withholding your diploma.\r\n\r\nThe good news is, the movie studios aren't into sueing their customers. This happened to me a few years ago. You basically admit guilt and move on.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Here's my original post from that thread including what I call the four step safety method.\n\nYou know, it would be a lot easier just to keep multiple drives that serve different purposes, and take out the drives you don't want them to see when you fork over your pc.\n\n1. Install ccleaner and regularly use it, make sure you delete those torrent files, or have them download to a different drive.\n\n2. Keep all personal files on a drive separate from the one with the OS on it.\n\n3. Make sure the drive you have your OS installed on only has that, the OS and programs installed on it. Don't even use the my documents folder there, save that crap to a separate drive. *Follow step 4 if you wish to use the users folder on your OS drive, you probably will, I do.\n\n4. Set up a folder on your storage drive called \"EMERGENCY BACKUP\" On this drive, in this folder, you will cut and paste the \"users\" folder from your main drive, and everything currently on your desktop.\n\nI have two drives currently named \"Local disc (C:)\" and \"Media (G:)\". Obviously I store all movies, music, documents and other personal files like pictures, downloads and torrents, and everything else personal on this drive. My C drive has the OS and programs only. If they want to see my computer then fine, I'd just follow step 4 and take out the drive, problem solved.\n\nadditional help: Peerblock is your best friend when dealing with torrents.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "When I was caught sharing/downloading some stuff on my campus my account was blocked from wireless. I called tech support and asked what I had to do to be reinstated. The girl on the phone went and asked her boss what to do, then came back laughing: I had to promise over the phone that I \"wouldn't do it again.\" Wireless was back in 2 minutes.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "working for a large UK university in a technical support role I would advise not to do anything at all, the problem isn't that you have been downloading pirated material - its the fact that you have done so with the University's connection - leaving the University open to potential fallback from your actions. \n\nMy advice would be to apologize, saying that you didn't realise the bit torrent client was still running - its something you use at home and in future you will take more care to ensure it is not active on campus. This should be enough to get your internet account reactivated. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "You should probably take the job, but keep looking.\n\nShe's more likely to leave you because you don't have a job, than for you two to go separate ways over office antics/overexposure/etc.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "i used to work in a bank, in the same department as my boyfriend, who is now my husband, and it was fine, no problems at all :)", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Just keep in mind that if you and your girlfriend spend alot of time togeather anyway, Then ad on top of that spending all day with her five days a week, makes for very little conversation. As you already know everything that happend to each other during the day. And it can cause conflict if you or your girlfriend get in trouble with the boss. Can you imagine telling your girlfriend that you are staying at the job after she´s been fired or quit due to not getting on with your boss.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I met my wife at work. We worked the same hours in the same pharmacy and carpooled for years before she got another job in a different part of the hospital. I think if you spend that much time with her and stay together, then you have a solid relationship. If not, you probably would have gotten divorced eventually. Even if you have a messy breakup and you have to quit your job, you aren't any worse off than you were before right?", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Beautiful idea, cinsere!\n\nYo, I think we should at every stage of the game recognize what we are and what we are doing, in an almost Zen-like directness and without adding unnecessary layers of abstraction.\n\nHow does this principle manifest?\n1. The name could be \"Reddit.com/r/trees: the marijuana non-profit\"\n2. Someone asked \"is this an online campaign or a leaflet thing?\". What this \"is\" is a group of people who regularly check in and communicate over the same material. This means we can organize ourselves. We can raise money, we can coordinate phone drives, we can do anything that we want.\n3. We should recognize that we are simply a group of people. There is no reason to make ourselves \"sound more official\" or any of that crap. Action is key, not concepts.\n\n\nHere is what I consider a very good basic battle plan:\n\n1. We each and all decide how much time and energy we are willing to put into coordinated action.\n\n2. Based on how many stoner-hours we've got per week or whatever, we should look at the available options (should we smoke in public? Should we do leafletting? Should we each put in $5 toward a google ads campaign?) and decide which ones we DO have the stoner-hours for.\n\n3. Basically what this means is: we should QUANTIFY our power. The power of an individual is less than the power of a group. That is what the group gives us: the ability to apply a superhuman force at any point we choose. By quantifying our power (e.g. \"We have a volunteer base who can put in 3000 man-hours per week. We can send emails from 340 different email addresses. We can raise $1,500 per week if we need to. We can put up graffiti in 17 cities simultaneously. We can distribute 25,000 flyers per day. etc etc etc\") we can KNOW that certain projects are complete-able.\n\n4. We should all post ideas for mutual actions to a wiki, or here to reddit. We should then vote on which actions we all jump in and do.\n\n5. We should keep tabs on the outcomes of our actions, so we can build our confidence.\n\n6. We should take advantage of the altered state of consciousness we espouse, as a strategic advantage over those who oppose us. They have no access to the stoner mind. We do. Therefore we should make it a point to BE HIGH while we come up with ideas and vote on them.\n\n7. We should have a regular schedule for how often we fire our cannon. Once per month (to start with) we should all come together and make a mutual commitment to DO whatever action got the most votes. In other words, if 80% of us vote on something cool to do, 100% of us do it. The other 20% suck it up and don't bitch and feel proud that they are part of a movement, and they put their ideas back on the table for the next round.\n\nHoly shit I just typed that whole motherfucker out off the cuff. These ideas obviously need everyone else's input and comments.\n\nThanks\n - Luke", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I like it. The name however concerns me. Trees is more of a slang word used by us to refer to marijuana. A name that is a little less ambiguous to people outside the movement may be better. I can't think of a name right now, but I will be thinking about it. \n\nAs far as the actual campaign, is this an online campaign or a leaflet thing? Perhaps a leaflet may be better. Most of the internet sites we can get to it would just be annoying ad space. I think it's a great idea though. Perhaps we could talk to the other marijuana related subreddits, specifically cannabis as they are more cannabis law oriented. \n\nDoing something as simple as making leaflets and passing them out could work. We could look to lovesthetrees for help on that as he has already proven himself a valuable design resource. Stickers are cool and we can put them on everything. We can hand them out and even if people drop them on the ground they stick and people look at them. \n\nA website would be nice. We already have r/trees, but people coming from the outside may be a bit wary of a website like this. It all seems a bit too casual to get something like this moving, and to reiterate people coming form the outside may be turned off by it. Once again, talk to lovestherees about that. A while ago on the irc channel there was talk about creating a completely new website for people like us to congregate and discuss marijuana related matters. Talk to him about that. \n\nI like this idea, it's grassroots, it's righteous, it's doable. Our only goal is to spread knowledge, and as long as we inspire one mind we have not failed. \n\n\nLet's do it. ", "score": 8 }, { "body": "[0] Here's what I'm thinking - a Cannabis Action Network rapid-response app, similar to what the IDF(?) currently uses. A place for people to register their email or sms# to be fed action items - calls to donate to a particular candidate, do internet promotion, fact-check a smear piece, etc. The critical components would be size, engagement, and speed.\n\nClose to what you're thinking of?", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I think this is an awesome idea. Reddit has done some amazing things already, we could totally do some good for the legalization movement, especially since many of us here are pretty savy when it comes to technology/internet stuff. I think we could do a lot to help dispell harmful stereotypes and misconceptions - we just have to make sure we do it in a welcoming and non-confronatational way. Basically, we should make the opposite of the ads where the guy's dog tells him to stop smoking weed.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "fill a cardboard box with bricks and news paper. Tape it shut. Securely tape the pre-paid envelope to the top. Take it to the post office. \n\nThis it totally legal and the church ends up paying for it by the ounce. ", "score": 25 }, { "body": ">and a pre-paid return envelope\n\nWrap a brick in brown paper and tape the envelope to it. As long as it's under 70 pounds, and not body parts or something else illegal to send, USPS will deliver it and charge accordingly.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "[Printer friendly PDF version of your pamphlet](http://www.atheisteye.com/AtheistTract.pdf#)\n\n\nI like the box of bricks idea quite a bit too.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "That pamphlet would be ideal, if that is the sort of statement you are trying to make. \n\nLet's ask a more fundamental question before we hop on what to send:\n\nWhat are you trying to do? \n\nI think that in order for a more secular society, we are going to have to convert as many religious to our cause as possible. It's the same technique they have been using for thousands of years (but of course, our view is backed by legitimate evidence).\n\nSo I say: don't even send them the papers back. They probably don't recycle. Rip up the pamphlets so you can't read them (so it doesn't pollute anyone else), recycle them, and send back a Why do You Believe in God? pamphlet.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I once received tickets to some Scientology film. I printed out a few pages of information about [Lisa McPherson](http://www.lisamcpherson.org/), wrapped the tickets in them and mailed the whole thing back.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Practice by watching unscripted television. C-Span and political interviews. Eventually it will be automatic, like chewing gum while walking, and pose no difficulty. At that point you'll probably wish you could turn it off.\n\nCheck out [FACS](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facial_Action_Coding_System) for better accuracy.\n", "score": 6 }, { "body": "A **great** way to study body language is to watch soap operas - either with the sound off, or, if possible, in a language you do not speak - and try to follow the story. \r\n\r\nActors on soap operas exaggerate body language and tone of voice dramatically, so it is a fantastic start for practicing. (In fact, it's actually what some psychologists use to teach people who struggle with reading nonverbal cues). You don't have to worry about thinking about what you are going to say, you can practice for 5 minutes or a whole hour or however long you have, and you can keep practicing at your own pace until it becomes automatic. If you have a DVR, you can even replay certain sections several times, and you can play a scene over again with the sound/subtitles on to check your accuracy.\r\n\r\nOnce you start practicing on people you are talking face-to-face with, a good way to focus on *them* instead of worrying about what you are going to say is to play a game with yourself where you have to keep the conversation going using two words or less. So, when it's your turn to talk, you can only nod, or smile encouragingly, or say, \"Hmmm\" or \"Really?\" or \"Say more\" (or the always-helpful trick where you repeat the last word(s) they said in a questioning tone - e.g., \"Body language?\"). That way, you will automatically focus more on their body language while they're talking since your thoughts won't be crowded out by what you want to say. As a bonus, you will be practicing your nonverbal communication skills at the same time.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Try laying it flat instead of standing it up. It tends to read better that way. It's the only simple \"fix\" I know of that doesn't involve voiding your warranty (which doesn't cover your problem anyway, ironically). If you decide you don't want to do it yourself or send it off for someone else to fix, you could always induce RROD with the towel-trick. But you chances of getting a crappier system that dies in a couple months is pretty high. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I am looking for a few interns, and I just checked stackoverflow careers out. It costs $500 to see about 10 student resumes. I'll pass. The local universities have plenty of students willing to work, and will send me resume's for free. \n\nThey really need to let employers peek for free... I should be able to see the CV for free and have to pay for the contact info. ", "score": 83 }, { "body": "I've been contacted twice so far, said I wasn't interested in one, and am in the middle of a lengthy interview process for the other.", "score": 67 }, { "body": "Low-mid level software engineer here. Resume posted about one month ago. One solicitation from an employer who send out a message on accident (I think, as 10 seconds with my resume clearly showed I wasn't qualified for the job they were interested in me for). I'm currently just starting the interview process with a second solicitation.\n\nApplying directly to companies has been giving me better luck, but then again I don't think I'm the intended audience for SOC. It's for higher level people who aren't necessarily unhappy with their current position, but wouldn't turn down interest from another company if it came along.... thus, the passive job search. And I say it's for higher level people because those are the people companies have to go out of their way to find.", "score": 14 }, { "body": "Didn't those guys just come out and say(or it may have been Spolsky) that running a job board is just a quick and easy way of getting employers to hand over $250 to you? ", "score": 11 }, { "body": "Joel seems sketchy to me in the way he's handling this. The core idea, as presented on the blog, seems reasonable. Companies compete for the best programmers. People can find you passively, even if you're in a job, and try to outbid your current employer. The reality is different. From the FAQ: \"This fee allows us to ensure employers that everyone they find is actively looking for a job.\" It's yet another job board for people looking for jobs, only limited to people desperate enough for jobs to shell out $30. ", "score": 11 }, { "body": "Fragmenting this market is good for neither job seekers nor employers. This is just a different type of banner ad for them to sell.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I got my current job not from SO but from a 'CV online' system. By accident almost. I wanted to apply for a job but needed to put a CV at this website. When I added one it asked me if I wanted to make it searchable. I did. Didn't get the job I targeted. Got a better one.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I've been a software developer for 12 years and I've had 0 public views after 2 months.\nThen again, my resume isn't all jazzed up to include the latest buzzwords, and is completely honest in regards to my actual skills and experience.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Let's use reddit:\n\nI'm looking for a full-time senior python dev\n\nLooking for an experienced android dev (must have made an app that is currently listed in the market)\n\nBoth are in NYC. You need to be able to commute into the city. I'm not a headhunter -- one is for a funded startup and the other is for a record label.\n\nSend me your resume if interested.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "ilvls\r\n\r\nFor the easier ones you can be in quest greens and be fine...but some of the harder ones it won't cut it\r\n\r\nJust farm reg ToC til you get as much as you can...then run HToC a few times and you will be super", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Hey, Redditards.\r\n\r\n*What you think about me is relevant **for you**, not for me.*\r\n\r\nReason: I am God.", "score": 58 }, { "body": "Listen, I don't know if it's true or not but word on the street is, InsanityInversion was the model for that [\"tape your penis down\"](http://www.reddit.com/r/WTF/comments/alov2/japanese_how_to_tape_your_penis_down_instructions/) Japanese instructional poster.", "score": 29 }, { "body": "He appears on high-value stamps in Sweden.\nHe has a tattoo of Buzz Aldrin on his thigh.\nAll we know is they call him InsanityInversion.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I thought this was going to be a clever auto thing where you see your own name.\n\nThen I realized I was not InsanityInversion.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "[This](http://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/ajmyj/heres_a_shark_knife/c0hxx86) is such a lame ass pun. I don't know about you guys, but I am downvoting that shit.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "InsanityInversion wrote lewd e-mails to my grandma after she had specifically requested that he not do that.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Actually, he's a very skilled guitar player who gets a lot of chicks. He can compute pi to 112 digits from memory and also wants you to leave Brittany alone!", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I once saw InsanityInversion pluck a hair off of the chest of David Hasselhoff. He then proceeded to stick said chest hair into a single, miniature cupcake, and light it on fire. \"Happy birthday to me,\" he muttered to himself.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I hear he masturbates to rick rolls 5 times a day and feeds it to his dog who he saved from the animal shelter and loves very much.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "InsanityInversion was on the Pinta but when he got back to Europe he told everyone he was on the Santa Maria, which was total bullshit. ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I don't know this guy but his name is an anagram for *Soviet raisin ninny*. He's a dumb, dried up old commie!", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I'm not saying InsanityInversion raped and murdered a girl in 1990. But it is interesting that InsanityInversion cannot provide a single evidence that he *didn't* rape and murder that girl.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I think you all are missing the point here.. the point of the exercise is to figure out.. PC Load letter.. what the fuck does that mean!?!?", "score": 3 }, { "body": "InsanityInversion would womanize, he would drink. He would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark. Sometimes he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I like InsanityInversion, he made me laugh the other day by commenting on one of my comments. Though flossdaily is also a bit of a hero of mine.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "* http://blacktree.com Quicksilver is very popular among the more computer-savvy people because it allows us to do a lot of things without touching the mouse. It's a program launcher + calculator + a whole bunch of other tools all in one. Secrets is also very nice- it adds a pane to the System Preferences menu for a lot of the options that Apple embeds in its programs but then doesn't allow you to change through the GUI.\n\n* http://www.macports.org or http://www.finkproject.org Coming from Windows, you probably aren't familiar with the wonder that is the package manager. It's a combination installer for all your open-source needs as well as an updater. Macports is more flexible (because it compiles everything from source instead of distributing binaries) but Fink is easier to use.\n\nAnd, just a word of advice, learn to use bash (the Unix shell). The command line on Unix systems is incredibly useful.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "No. It's called stupid tax. I hate to be the person to tell you this, but it's true. \r\n\r\nAs adults, we're supposed to remember little things like tickets and fines. It was your choice to pay a little $10.00 fine and do what it is they required. You didn't.\r\n\r\nSo just pay it and remember in the future that you have to meet your legal obligations. Sorry.", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "I tend to think that this is more of a generational thing than an age thing. I'm not over 60, I'm in my 40s, so I can't speak for that generation, but I have noticed a difference in this respect between today's High School kids and my generation. When I was in school in the early '80s, after gym class most of us thought nothing of taking showers in the large, group showers of the gym locker room. After football practice or games it was the same, as well as soccer, hockey, etc. Naked dudes everywhere, showering, wandering around, snapping each other with towels. If you were shy, you turned towards your locker or showered at home. Now I have sons in High School, and from what they tell me, this has completely changed. The group shower is now a storage area. Nobody showers at the school, and most of the kids are much more modest. I have no idea why this is the case...when I was a kid nobody thought much about stripping down in the locker room, and now that seems different.\n\nCan't tell you about what goes on in girl's locker rooms. My daughter played Field Hockey, but asking her about what went on in her locker room would have generated an unacceptably high rating on the creepometer. So, yeah.\n\n", "score": 7 }, { "body": "This is a universal phenomenon.\r\n\r\nI don't mind if you go naked when you need to, but it's like they are tyring to do as much as they can before putting any clothes on.\r\n\r\nThey'll strip the towel off as soon as possible and do every single thing they can think of before putting clothes on.\r\n\r\nI know a famous comedian does a bit about this, I can't remember who though. (thinking it's Chris Rock)", "score": 3 }, { "body": "yup, same thing with the old guys here in Canada. Been going to the gym for a year now and it doesn't really bother me anymore.\r\n\r\nHowever, there was one time I was sitting by myself in the steam room when an older fellow moseyed on in, proceeded to drop his towel and start stretching. We are talking lunges, toe grabs and the like. It was horrifying", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Yes! Why is there always an old naked guy just hanging out in men's locker rooms??\n\nHey, you know a good place to read the paper? Naked in a locker room.\n", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "This means wars. Kill those mother fuckers. Coyotes killed the entire red-tailed fox population in my town and they keep breeding, more and more. If one of those things killed my pooch I'd be out for blood! But I hope this isn't the case and that your poochies are safe somewhere.. :(", "score": 6 }, { "body": "FWIW I saw coyotes at Memorial Park. I was like WTF... but people see lots of things at memorial park.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "get a nice game APBT to take care of the critters, have your dogs on a leash, build a good fence and only there let them dogs go free.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Before you doanything :read Call of the Wild by Jack London. Or better yet get it from the library on CD.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Tough sitch, man. Coyotes are tough on dogs. We used to have coyotes (big ones!) around here, but the wolves killed them all. Wolves kill A LOT of dogs every year. Lucky for you, coyotes are not protected. We can't kill wolves in Minnesota. I would start an eradication campaign. Use modern cable snares. Buy the book \"Snaring 2000\" by Hal Sullivan (they have it on Amazon). Buy a dozen coyote snares from snareshop.com. Read the book, get the snares, and kill them all. Your neighbors will thank you. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I know you don't like M rated games, but I want to know why.\n\nI started playing counter strike with my brother and dad when i was 6 years old. Yeah, 6. That game has porn sprays, tonsa blood, and all gun fights. I'm now 15 years old. Did it hurt me negatively? Most likely a little bit.\n\nBut did it also affect my positively? YES! Extremely. It made me recognize that guns are not toys in the least and that when someone is shot, they bleed and die. Is your GF's 10 year old son going to recognize the game as \"COOL IM KILLING NAZIS OMG LOLOL\" or is he going to think \"Wow, this is a really cool **game**.\" \n\nIf he can recognize that games are just games, and that violence, sex, drugs, blood are all in real life, but you shouldn't mix the two, it won't be bad for him.\n\nI don't understand why parents are against kids playing M rated games. First of all, they are just ratings. Why not go online, download the game and try it for yourself and assess it if you think he can play it. I Hope i don't seem like an immature 15 year old trying to save another kid from M games, i really don't feel that way. I just feel that not having gore and blood really hides the fact that if you DO shoot someone, blood and gore comes out!\n\nFor some games to try:\n\n* Counter strike: Source. It was 5 bucks last week, and 15 bucks now. You have no idea how much fun my dad, my brother, and I all have playing this game, doing certain rushes together gives a feeling of teamwork and when you die you can laugh your asses off.\n* Left 4 Dead is a great game, 4 player Co-op, working your way fighting off hordes of zombies. My brother and dad never wanted to play this with me, because they're into realistic games, which i can understand.\n* Borderlands is an AWESOME game, its 4 player coop, and it would probably be perfect for you two. try it out!\n* MMO's suck, i completely agree. Stay away from them.\n\n**Here's my main one though: Try Altitude: http://altitudegame.com/ You can buy it on steam, its 10 bucks, and its about airplanes, who doesn't like airplanes?! Its 2d, should run on any computer, and its super fun.**", "score": 7 }, { "body": "here is a cartoony turn based game that doesn't require fast connections (i used to play on 56k). It's kind of like an online multiplayer worms.\n\n[gunbound](http://gunbound.softnyx.net/)", "score": 6 }, { "body": "How about the new[Super Mario Bros](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/New_Super_Mario_Bros._Wii) if you have a Wii. I found it fun even though i was too old for it.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "I'm not much of a listener of screamo/metal (except for Nightwish and Project 86, but Nightwish isn't really metal), but that was quite good. You all had an interesting sound that stands out. \n\nIs your band well-known, as far as indie bands go? And, who are you in the music video? If you're the singer, I just wanted to let you know the Statue of Liberty hat was a nice touch :)", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "As far as I can tell, the controllers charge whether they're on or not. The only thing that bothers me is they wont charge unless the PS3 is turned on...\n\nI have the last iteration of the 80 gig full size model..", "score": 7 } ]

[ { "body": "Personally, I'd buy an enclosure and a separate hard drive. I just bought a 1.5 tb WD drive and a kingwin 3.5\" enclosure for about the same price as a slower, smaller combo. \r\n\r\nIf you are looking for portability more than transfer speed, buy a 2.5\" with no power cable. They come with 2 usb hookups in case your usb isn't supplying enough power. I got one for my Wii and it's very portable.", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "Go ahead and try to create your own; click and drag to launch a mass:\n\nhttp://www.colorado.edu/physics/2000/applets/satellites.html", "score": 37 }, { "body": "Perhaps, but not our moon. There is no way for anything to orbit our moon in a stable fashion. Due to gravity perturbations, everything orbiting our moon will eventually crash. ", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Yes. In fact, several of the early Apollo missions went into orbit around our Moon. In other words, they became its temporary satellites.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "We have easily sent artificial satellites to orbit our moon. Isn't that reason enough to assume that it is possible? ", "score": 4 }, { "body": "As long as the mass of the moon is not equal to the moon, which is in turn not equal to the mass of the planet, it can happens, and happens often.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I used to own bla.st which uses the .st domain.\n\nWhenever I told people the domain name they would usually type www.bla.st.com. So now I definitely always get a .com instead.\n\nI noticed del.icio.us also now redirect to delicious.com", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I have a site with .me domain. No impact on SEO. It will be good if you get another .com domain that will redirect to the short domain. E.g. asd.me asdme.com. ", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "DYK that you can use disposable towels AKA paper towels, kleenex, or toilet paper? Less laundry, bro", "score": 8 }, { "body": "NIGHTY NIGHT FOLKS, I AM GOING TO GO MASTURBATE AGAIN THEN FALL ASLEEP, ONLY TO DREAM OF MASTURBATING, HOPEFULLY TO AWAKEN WITH A STEAMING GOOPY LOAD IN MY BANANA HAMMOCK. ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Shouldn't have wasted it on the towel, man. \n\nNot with this - http://www.lulu.com/content/4956212 - lurking around!", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "If you don't feel comfortable driving in snow or on ice, don't. Take the bus, call a cab, get a ride.\n\nIf you do decide to drive anyway, stay off the fucking cell phone. Pay attention to what you're doing.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "make sure you have beer in the car. nothing is worse than getting stuck in a snowbank or traffic without a beer in hand\n\ntry to own an old beater for winter, I got a Volvo 240 and LOVE it, best $900 ever spent. drive like there is no tomorrow and like you don't care about hitting shit with your car, cause you won't, and you will notice people start giving you more room.\n\nget a come-along. really helpful when you are REALLY stuck and you are out of said beer. \n\ndo NOT skimp out about snow tires, my $900 240 with $500 worth of tires I will trust WAY more than a $20,000 car with wal mart all seasons\n\njust dont stress out about it, try to enjoy it.\n\n", "score": 5 }, { "body": "This is going to sound weird, but 'feel' traction in the wheel and on the pedal. If you seem to be turning the wheel with no reaction, either engine brake (lower gear) or just let it slow down. Do NOT slam on the brakes. It will lock and you will slide in whatever direction inertia is taking you; if you have to brake, ease into it. If you are hitting the gas and there you can hear/feel slippage, same thing. Ease off, try small corrections with the wheel, etc. If you get stuck on a hill, ease up it in small increments. Go balls-to-the-wall and you'll heat the tires up and most assuredly slide backwards. Also, small left-to-right corrections up a hill sometimes help. And first gear. And engine braking. And pancakes. Whatever.\n\nI have a beater for the winter; it's light as a hockey puck (bad) but front wheel drive and I don't give a shit about cosmetic damage (good).\n\nNot enough can be said for 'feeling' the car while in crappy conditions.\n\nLots of snow on car + wide pushbroom with softer bristles = quick snow removal.\n\nDISCLOSURE: I grew up in California and now live in Northern Mass. I learned all this the hard way.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "I live in a ski town that is inundated every weekend/holiday by city idiots who don't know their ass from a hot rock when it comes to driving in snow. When I'm driving in snowy conditions, I feel like other drivers are more of a risk to me than myself. Having 4WD or AWD is key, but here are some techniques I use when driving in these conditions that can benefit anyone:\n\n* Be aware of other drivers around you so you maneuver away from them if they go out of control (or if you go out of control).\n* keep your distance from other cars (probably at least twice what you would do in dry conditions) so you can stop in time if you have to\n* begin braking much earlier than you would in dry conditions when you want to stop so you don't slide through a stop sign or into another car. Keeping a larger leading distance is key to this.\n* Relax and don't panic. If you start to slide, pump the brakes and remember that you can still steer your car to some degree while sliding.\n* If you need to get through deep snow or over a tall berm, first check your path and plot your surroundings in your mind to make sure you won't hit anything if you lose visibility and then punch the gas. Keep your momentum up or you will probably get high centered, stuck, and seriously bummed out.", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Choices in order of preference:\r\n\r\n1. Buy a Subaru and snow tires.\r\n\r\n2. Buy a Subaru\r\n\r\n3. Buy snow tires.\r\n\r\n\r\nPick any of those plus drive the appropriate speed for conditions, give plenty of braking room, and you'll do fine.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "First, plan your trip accordingly. If it isn't necessary, don't go. If you can avoid driving in bad weather, do so. \r\n\r\nFailing that, there are a few things to consider (These tips are mainly for really bad snowy/icy conditions, but some of the preparation advice is good for general cold weather):\r\n\r\nKeep emergency supplies in your trunk or back seat just in case something happens and help can't get to you right away. At a minimum, keep warm blankets, dry socks, gloves, hat, etc in your car for every person. You do not want to be stuck out in the cold unprepared. \r\n\r\nI would also recommend fresh, clean water and candy bars or energy bars in case you really have to get yourself out of a bad situation like shoveling yourself a path out of a snow drift. \r\n\r\nAlways have a snow brush/ice scraper in your vehicle. Use it to clear off your windshield, lights, windows, exhaust, and intake at a minimum. Also, try not to be that asshole who doesn't clear off his roof and then has it let loose on the poor bastard behind him. \r\n\r\nKeep your car well-maintained. Make sure you have adequate fluid levels (oil, antifreeze/coolant, brake fluid, etc). Make sure you have enough windshield washer fluid because you will be clearing your windshield much more than normal (due to snow/ice/dirt/slush from the sky and other vehicles). Keep a shovel and some basic tools handy as well. If you want to be really fancy, keep a set of long wood blocks to wedge under your tires to give you traction if you slide off the road and into deep snow. This should give you enough bite to get out without digging yourself deeper.\r\n\r\nKeep your fuel tank near full as much as you can. Not only do you want to keep from running out of fuel if you get stuck and need to idle to keep the heat on, but trying to start a car with a near-empty tank in cold weather is just asking for trouble. It strains your fuel pump which will eventually fail and need replacing, and it makes it much harder to start your car.\r\n\r\nNow for the actual driving: Nothing gives you traction on ice. Snow tires, AWD, ABS... it's all useless on ice. Your only protection here is driving slow, being vigilant, always leaving yourself an \"out\", and recognizing things like the fact that bridges and other exposed road surfaces freeze faster than normal. \r\n\r\nDrive slow. If someone's on your ass, fuck them. Your first priority is safety, not appeasing some prick who wants to kill everyone on the road just to save a few minutes. Keeping up with traffic is important, safety-wise, (especially on highways) but if you aren't comfortable doing so then slow down, stay to the right on a multilane road, take a different route or just stay home. Try to stay on main roads which are usually better maintained (no guarantees though). If safe to do so, try to keep your tires aligned with the least obscured part of the road. If that means entering other lanes or riding the center of the road, try to take advantage of this (assuming of course that traffic will both know how to predict where you are going, and that you aren't making it unsafe for other drivers around you).\r\n\r\nTurn your lights on. Yes, even if it's daylight and you can see in front of you just fine. Those lights are for everyone else to see you. The same goes with using your turn signal. This is especially true on commutes home after work. The sun sets early and quickly, so turn them on before you shift out of 'Park'.\r\n\r\nGive yourself plenty of separation between traffic. Assume that at any given moment you will hit ice and lose all control. You need to be able to come to a stop before hitting the guy in front of you, which may mean without brakes or steering. You need to recalibrate how far down the road you are looking to make changes. It's the same as when you first learned to drive on the highway: You have to brake sooner, look farther, etc. \r\n\r\nFinally, develop a feel for how your car coasts without input at the pedals or wheel. Get to know how it reacts when just drifting on inertia. You want to get a sense of the car's mass under different conditions. If you suddenly lose traction, DO NOT PANIC. Wild acceleration, in the form of steering/braking/gas, will only exacerbate your loss of control. This is good driving in general- minimize the amount of input you need to apply to keep the car in control. It's good for mileage, good for safety, and a good general habit for staying calm. Try to keep your car from standing still if you can. It's okay to very slowly roll through a light or stop sign if you it doesn't otherwise jeopardize safety. You want to avoid having to accelerate from a standstill because your tires will likely spin without traction and dig you into a bad situation. If you're coming up to a red light, try to slow to the point where you can keep going a few MPH in a holding pattern before coming to the stop line, and use that as a buffer until it turns green.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "HA! Big Bertha the little Bersa, awesome...\n\nI have never had my sidearm set off any kind of alarm, I find that very interesting. Are you sure that you weren't wearing clothing with a prox tag? From time to time vendors like The Gap will actually sew them into tags and onto the garment. \n\nI actually feel strange when I am not carrying, now. ", "score": 7 }, { "body": "I always thought those things scanned for those little anti-theft strips on products. So it was a metal detector?", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "What a terrible 'blog'. The pictures look like they were taken by an eight-year-old with a disposable camera. You might think a company of this size would spare the resources to make a reasonable presentation if they were going to launch any attempt at all.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "I was going to downvote you mostly because you didn't even provide a link, but then I googled it and looked at the food pictures and got a good chuckle...have an upvote.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "Oh my god, those are so much worse than I anticipated. I think my favorite are the profiteroles. And why does the fudge look like a flat meatloaf, covered in ketchup? And the chicken breast? Did someone run it over??", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Finally! A food blog that will dissuade me from eating! [This is why you're fat](http://www.thisiswhyyourefat.com) failed at it.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "When I was younger, I collected hockey cards and decided that certain players with similar names were \"understudies\" in case the good versions got injured. \r\n \r\n* Paul Ysebaert -> Steve Yzerman \r\n* Joe Sacco -> Joe Sakic \r\n* Martin Brochu -> Martin Brodeur \r\n* Brent Fedyk -> Bernie Federko \r\n* etc.", "score": 15 }, { "body": "Keira Knightley is the poor man's Natalie Portman\n\n(some people would have it vice versa but fuck those people, I say)", "score": 14 }, { "body": "[Heathcliff](http://images.google.com/images?q=heathcliff%20comic&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&hl=en&tab=wi) is the poor man's [Garfield](http://images.google.com/images?q=garfield+comic&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&ie=UTF-8&ei=CgBES5-pOtLelAf7oNiaBw&sa=X&oi=image_result_group&ct=title&resnum=1&ved=0CA4QsAQwAA). ", "score": 13 }, { "body": "Holy shit... for some reason I always thought Kate Perry and Zooey Deschanel were the same person... I never really thought about it till your post and when I read that I asked myself \"Who is Zooey Deschanel?\" So then I googled her. Even after I saw her picture I thought they were the same person because they look *exactly* alike and was then even more confused. So then I read their biographies and it turns out the one I like is Zooey Deschanel and explains why someone whose acting and music I enjoyed in all her movies, produced music I didn't like off the screen. Thank you for setting a lost soul straight:)", "score": 8 }, { "body": "A friend of mine back in our starving-student days would insist on the following recipe:\r\n\r\n\r\nPoor Man's Chicken\r\n\r\n1 tsp of seasoning salt\r\n\r\n1 tall glass of warm water", "score": 8 }, { "body": "There's this major ghetto place in downtown salt lake called NPS. You can find some seriously awesome and crazy stuff there, but they also sell damaged goods groceries, so I refer to as the Poor-man's Walmart", "score": 8 }, { "body": "my buddies at the country club have a joke about vilmart being the poor man's krug. always good for a laugh.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "Ketchup is the poor man's marinara sauce. That's what I tell everyone when I put it on foods where it has no business being.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Oldie but goodie:\n\nPoor man's laptop (AKA redneck portable computer)\n\nhttp://www.emmitsburg.net/humor/daily_additions/2006/feb/15.htm", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "It's completely unacceptable that I have to lie so often in order to get websites to allow me entry based not on actual technical limitation but on *fucking* sysop preference. I mean really, my computer supports it and so does yours so why are you dicking me around?", "score": 66 }, { "body": "Why do you even want to use your ISP's live chat? If you need to open a ticket, just call them on the telephone. ", "score": 27 }, { "body": "I can't test it, it wants to install something called \"Java\", Recommended Version 6 Update 17, whatever that is.\n\n", "score": 26 }, { "body": "<kfisher> Thank you for contacting NewWave Communications, my name is Kenny. How may I help you today?\n\n<I said> high, I noticed that you're webchat is activly blocking attempts to use it with the linux operating system, why is that?\n\n<I said> err. hi*\n\n<kfisher> We are experiencing issues with our web chat at the moment. I do apologize for any inconvenience.\n\n<I said> so it's not a permanent solution? you're not going to activly block any more?\n\n<kfisher> It is being worked on at this time and I do not have any updates as of yet.\n\n\nlet me know what's up so I can pester more.", "score": 21 }, { "body": "If this is your big problem for today you're doing pretty good. Pick up the phone, send an email. Linux users are adaptable.", "score": 19 }, { "body": ">no longer supports Linux...\n\n\nDid it at one time?\n\n\nHonestly, pick your battles. This is obviously an antiquated chat system that just hasn't been updated in years. Make a call, change your panties.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I used the User Agent Switcher with a custom user agent that I made myself and I passed the test and got a live chat window with the Java 'loading' logo, but then the app didn't execute and I got a blank screen.\n\nAnyway, I got further than you did, so maybe you can take what I did and do me one better. Here's the User Agent that I made:\n\n* Description: Firefox 3.6 Beta\n* User Agent: Mozilla/5.0 (Windows; U; Windows NT 5.1; en-US; rv:1.9.2b4) Gecko/20091124 Firefox/3.6b4\n* App Name: Netscape\n* App Version: 5.0 (Windows; en-US)\n* Platform: Win32\n\nEDIT: here's the output from http://colab.newwavecom.com/Collab/servlet/CallerStartPage:\n\n* Your OS family: \tWindows NT\n* Your OS version: \t5.1\n* Your browser \tNetscape Communications\n* Your browser version: \t3.6\n* Your java vendor: \tSun Microsystems Inc.\n* Your java version: \t1.6.0_17", "score": 5 }, { "body": "Try dealing with Comcast and trying to get your internet up and running when you tell them on the phone that you have Linux. When I moved into my current home I was literally begging the customer service rep to let me speak to someone else. She insisted that because I did not have Windows or Mac that the problem must be occurring on my side. I informed her that the proper lights were not blinking on the modem, indicating a problem on her side. After about 20 minutes of arguing and begging she finally got me to someone who was able to solve my problem: my account was not properly activated during the install process.", "score": 4 } ]

[ { "body": "Kinda mixed on this myself. I exclusively played HC with COD4, because it was maddening to empty a clip into someone running around only to have them duck into the alleyway and keep on going.\n\nHowever.\n\nWith MW2, since a lot of the playlists are non-HC, I've ended up playing normal mode a lot more, just because it was the default. The one thing I've discovered is that playing normal mode widens the gaps between the different weapon sets. Sure an LMG will slow you down more than the SMG, but the bite and response for each weapon seems much more varied in normal mode than it does in HC. \n\ntl;dr In HC everything brings down people *more or less* the same, so I've kinda enjoyed the breadth of experience you get in normal mode.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Way to much camping in hardcore. Normal is alot more action and imo more skill. You have to actually aim at the body parts not shoot someone in the toe for a kill. Also your not camping, wich is just playing a great looking NES duck hunt with ur fingers crossed the ducks dont sneak up on you with a knife. Gun and perk selection is also more important in reg tdm. Playing hardcore pretty much removes stopping power, fmj, that one for more powerful explosives, and alot of guns. \r\n\r\nEdit: Although i do like some of the things about hardcore, like the no radar unless UAV and the friendly fire", "score": 4 }, { "body": "I play HC almost exclusively (unless I'm playing with friends). I agree on how crappy regular mode is. It really shouldn't take a half-to-full clip to kill someone. *Oh how I hate the killcams. That is my number one reason for not playing regular mode. I never liked killcams. I thought they were novel for the first few times I had ever played CoD, but after that I quickly got tired of them.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "The problem with this approach is that the top-voted responses are going to inevitably be mainstream films that can pass for cult favorites, not true overlooked masterpieces.\n\nBut let's see, I recommend *8 1/2* and *Charade*.", "score": 9 }, { "body": "This girl sounds like she would enjoy some classic Kubrick films. Try \"Dr. Strangelove\" or \"A Clockwork Orange\" to good effect.", "score": 6 }, { "body": "You definitely want The Maltese Falcon.\n\nIf you want something seriously surreal, try Un Chien Andalou. However, read this description first: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1075828/surrealism_film_and_art_luis_bunuel.html\n\nAlso, though I can't personally recommend it, I've heard some good things about Gomorrah, though it's not quite in the same vein as the other films mentioned here.\n\n\nThis film won't sit well with everyone so make sure you know this person pretty well before you watch it.", "score": 6 } ]

[ { "body": "You puked after one teaspoon of cactus powder? Dude.\n\nAnd\n\n>Maybe it was the vomiting before a major absorption of alkaloids?\n\nOf course it was. Man up, revel in the nausea, hold it all in, and breathe.... breathe.... breathe.... accept it, love it, and accept that when you buy the ticket you take the ride.\n\nReally if you're puking after a teaspoon the problem isn't the mescaline at all, it's that you have possibly the weakest stomach ever - there's not enough active compound in there to cause nausea. It's in your head.", "score": 8 }, { "body": "You probably puked because San Pedro cactus powder has the single foulest taste and consistency of any substance known to man.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "> downvote this you hate me anyway everyone does i'm a bad person and i should be killed\n\nI hope you don't mean this... I take it as a *desperate attempt to put your feelings into words*.\n\nIt sucks about the loss of your friend, but it is their choice... and I think you know that. You can't buy/bribe a friend. However, we can help you make some new ones - and ones who like you for who you are - and help you like yourself more. \n\nThere is experience to share here... can we start to find out more about you please. Can you tell us what general part of the world you live in? What do you like - are you a good reader (reddit is mostly text...)? Some favorite books or movies? What's your family situation/history? tell us what you can, we can keep going back and forth - days as needed. And we can help you figure out ways to get help from local resources if you wish.\n\nWe are here to help you help yourself. That cool?", "score": 9 }, { "body": "Go outside for a walk. \n\nHave a slice of pizza.\n\nTake a shower. \n\nTake another walk. \n\nMasturbate. \n\nWatch your favorite movies. \n\nRead the poetry of Robert Frost. \n\nI can keep coming up with reasons to live. \n\nThere are wonderful things you haven't experienced yet. ", "score": 7 } ]

[ { "body": "I dream of trolling someone masterfully enough to incite the rage you experienced. The truth is he's just a nigger calling another nigger, \"nigga.\"", "score": 17 }, { "body": "Sure you were effective, but is teaching internet strangers a lesson really a good use of your time?", "score": 14 }, { "body": "tl;dr: troll posts troll comment, this guy falls for it and spends all day trying to track him down.", "score": 7 }, { "body": "Nice work, but that guy is obviously an idiot. A good troll would have covered his tracks better.\n\nHere is his [myspace](http://www.myspace.com/chrisharbor) and [facebook](http://www.facebook.com/search/?q=chris+harbor&init=quick#/profile.php?id=1170772699&ref=search&sid=25913224.3085828532..1)", "score": 3 }, { "body": "I see you decided to not use your normal account to post this. Funny that.\n\nPersonally I find what you have done to be way way way over the top for a simple internet comment. I mean who made you the internet police? Also some of your comments on YouTube make you seem and look like a dick with a *ph33r m3* persona. Does freedom of speech and privacy not count when it's something you personally don't like reading? Fucking hell.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "This post prompted me to do a couple searches to find out how easy it would be to determine my identity from my internet activity. I discovered that it would be pretty simple to find out what city I live in (I freely admit it, plus trying to hide it isn't worth it to me), along with some of my interests/hobbies, but I doubt anyone would be able to actually find me based on this info, without resources that the average citizen doesn't have access to. Possibly a photo or two if you're extremely diligent (still unlikely).\n\nIt's not that hard people, just pay attention to what information the website is asking for, and don't enter your (real) last name anywhere unless it's for billing purposes or you are absolutely sure that the site is trustworthy. Always look for boxes (sometimes checked by default) that say things like \"allow other users to see this information\".\n\nI'm no expert, but really you just need to use common sense (if you have any) or stay off the intertubes (if you don't) and you shouldn't have to worry too much about e-stalkers.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I wonder if there is an /r/EnglishMajors\n\n:D\n\nOh yeah, you can join in the chat room through an irc program or just go to radioreddit.com and join through the chat on the website. Oh and it is also over there --->", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Hi there! I'd like to apply for the position.\n\nI've really been wanting to help out with the Radio Reddit site ever since it was conceived, but I have no knowledge of programming.\n\nBut this sounds exactly like something I could do and be good at.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "Google Voice still uses your regular cell network for calls. It does not work over WiFi. Rumor has it that Google's recent purchase of VOIP provider Gizmo5 may change that in the future.", "score": 3 }, { "body": "You can already do this with existing phones. It's been possible for years. There's no need to spend much money.\n\nGet a vonage or other VOIP provider number, configure it to simultaneously ring your cell phone, and then configure your phone to act as a VOIP phone at home.\n\nI did this with my Nokia E71 w/ AT&T, worked fine. Just check that your phone can run VOIP software and you're set.\n\n", "score": 3 }, { "body": "You cannot use Google Voice to make phone calls (no VOIP). However, there are several VOIP clients, including Skype, available on the Android market.\r\n\r\nYou could then use Google Voice to link the two numbers together so that it rings both when someone tries to call your GV number.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "One explanation I've heard is that it wasn't fuel, it was a repair fluid made of nano-robots that knew how different machines and systems were supposed to work. You inject enough of it into broken machinery, and it would go in and fix it. So, when a bunch of it got into Wicus system, the nanobots (which were programmed to fix wounded Prawns) took a look around his system and went \n\n'Oh Jeez, this is one fucked up prawn. Well, boys, looks like we've got a lot of work to do. Might as well start with that messed up arm and go from there.'\n\nAs far as an alternate explanation for why the Prawns were so confused, the caste thing might very well be true: the ones on board the ship might well be biologically less capable of intellect and free thought than the ruling class. Combine that with shitty conditions, the total breakdown of their society, and the poverty and drug adiction, that they resorted to savagery and never got the ship working again is hardly surprising. Presumably Christopher Johnson was an example of the ruling class. ", "score": 14 }, { "body": "I think the whole caste argument is sort of unnecessary. This sort of \"degradation\" happens normally when humans are put in similar circumstances. Think about it, they were cramped up in their ship for god knows how long, riddled with disease and nearly starved to death. Then they get rounded up into a dingy refuge camp where they are barely given enough water and food to survive. Crime, poverty and drug addiction become rampant. Many of the prawns seen in the movie might be youngsters who were born on Earth, meaning they would have no formal education or structure to their lives and only know crime, poverty, starvation, drug addiction etc.\n\nThere's no need to impose a caste system. Those factors alone are enough to explain their behavior.\n\nEdit:\n>An explanation that covers all these points is that whoever it was that died off on the ship popped in on some planet with a technology at or below ours, kidnapped a bunch of locals and turned them all into prawns for whatever their nefarious purposes are.\n\nDespite the fact that I don't like the \"caste system\" idea as an explanation I do think that this is a great idea.", "score": 7 }, { "body": ">An explanation that covers all these points is that whoever it was that died off on the ship popped in on some planet with a technology at or below ours, kidnapped a bunch of locals and turned them all into prawns for whatever their nefarious purposes are. (Asteroid mining? Intergalactic evangalism? Plucking the diamond out of Jupiter's core?)\n\nI like the cut of your jib.\n\nThat would have been a kick ass revelation, but why would Christopher want to save them all if they were just slaves? Slave master's conscience?\n\nIn the end I don't have much hope for a cool sequel, the ideas spoken in interviews by Neill Blomkamp made it seem like he had some strange directions in mind for the unknown backstory of the aliens.", "score": 5 } ]

[ { "body": "oh my god yes. my cable automatically turns my tv on to the discovery channel too, so every time i try to watch tv i have to see at least a few milliseconds of something horribly disgusting first. it's not so bad, unless you've just sat down to eat your heaping bowl of chili for dinner and see mike rowe sticking his hand up a cow's ass...then it's not so awesome...", "score": 4 }, { "body": "It's the holidays and early on weekdays. I noticed it too this morning. Later in the day they should have new and or different stuff. \n\n\nThey could at least mix it up though. It's always like 5 hours of dirty jobs or 5 hours of deadliest catch (sometimes both). They could alternate or something to keep my interest.", "score": 3 } ]

[ { "body": "I received my Nexus last night. \n\nFirst impressions:\n\nThis is my first touch phone of any kind. So far I really kinda like it - I did (do) have a Blackberry Curve and I really liked the keyboard on it. I do a lot of texting and having a keyboard is nice.\n\nTexting on the Nexus One can be difficult. I think it is just a matter of getting used to it though. I love the applications like Facebook etc... With my Blackberry I never used the apps on it because I hated the scroll wheel. But, it is a pleasure using apps on the Nexus. \nHaving said that I download a free chess app and that was kind of hard to play.\n\nI LOVE the void recog on this thing. It works almost perfectly. \n\nI think the biggest plus is that I will actually USE the web feature I pay for on my plan. With my Blackberry I never really used it that much. I can see getting a ton of use out of it with this phone!", "score": 6 }, { "body": "I bought one, but I'm going to seriously consider returning it if it doesn't live up to my expectations (which are a bit lower than the hype).\r\n\r\nEDIT: ...or if it turns out that t-mobile really sucks.", "score": 4 }, { "body": "Bought it (unlocked) received it less than an hour ago. Reinstalled all my apps that I had from my G1.\r\n\r\nOne thing I did confirm, it *DOES* support multitouch. None of the apps that it comes with do. For example, PicSay supports multitouch (pinch zoom).", "score": 3 }, { "body": "Fix car.. buy Nexus One .. fix car ... buy Nexus One\n\nWhy do cool things only come out when I need to spend money on useful things ?", "score": 3 } ]