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"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!",
"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!",
"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!",
"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!",
"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!",
"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!",
"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!",
"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!",
"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!",
"How do I stop procrastinating? I have a will every day to go do something. But when it comes down to it, I just put it off. Please help!"
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"* One suggestion is simply, if it takes 3 minutes or less to do it, then do it the moment you think about. Send an e-mail, make a call, basic stuff like that.\n\n* Bigger stuff, like doing your homework, or dishes, or laundry, set a hard time to do it by. \"Fold my laundry before I eat lunch\" \n\n* Wake up in the morning, don't let yourself browse the internet first thing, don't pick up your phone to check texts or apps. Keep your distractions to a minimum by keeping away from them.\n\n* Develop a healthy schedule. A regular bed time, a morning routine, exercising or eating at a set time, putting on appropriate and worthwhile clothing can all reassure productivity.",
"Write down things to do on a list. \n\nClean the house (not good enough)\n\nClean the bathroom (not good enough)\n\nClean the toilet with paper towels and Clorox spray. \n\nThe trick I've found is put exactly what you need to do down. This sort of makes me think I've done it - or at least the head work\n\nBreak things down into smaller tasks. \n\nMake a general list of things to do or would like to do. Cross them off as you go. It's okay to let things slip, at least it's out of your head and you can have it quit nagging you. \n\nSo much of our wants and needs stay in our heads and sap us of energy - as if we've done them already. You know how you get into imaginary arguments, but it's like you actually had the argument....that's what I think causes procrastination. Every time you have an emotional response to some event, it's as if you've gone through it. \n\nHand those thoughts over to paper. Have that list be what's caught in your head and you just be the executioner. Let the list be your boss. ",
"Micromanage yourself with little checklists. I'm a terrible procrastinator but that seems to work for me. The more detail I put into the list, the more \"goals\" I can accomplish in a shorter period of time. Good way to keep things moving.",
"I have a good answer, but cant type it all out now, I will tomorrow!\nI have a good answer, but cant type it all out now, I will tomorrow!\n",
"Break down the action and start with step 1.\n\nIf you must do 28 math problems. Start by cleaning the table, then pull out paper, then pencil, then math worksheet, write your name, then read the problem out loud, take a break, browse Reddit, make dinner, eat dinner, fall asleep, pick up the phone, talked to friend, fall back asleep, miss the alarm, go to class late, fail the midterm, drop out of college\n\nOr thank your lucky stars, life could be easier from just don your work\n\n\nStory time: I'm suffering from academic problems right now but it isn't procrastination it is lack of motivation. I wish there was a magic fix for this but there isn't. It's a drive that comes from within. It comes from healthy mind and body....there is more I could say on the subject but I need to start my day!",
"Thanks for the reccomendation guys. I tried this out as well as a tip I saw here (this comment was gilded 59x time :)) and it seems to be working well so far. I will try to keep this up where I do all my small tasks first, my mid and big tasks always have to proceed something important to me.\n\nHere is the comment that I read: https://www.reddit.com/r/getdisciplined/comments/1q96b5/i_just_dont_care_about_myself/cdah4af",
"I just watched this [TED Talk](https://www.ted.com/talks/tim_urban_inside_the_mind_of_a_master_procrastinator) a few days ago and although it didn't really have a strong conclusion I realized that deadlines are key. Try to set more deadlines for yourself and find a way to set them that doesn't allow you to back out or compromise too easily.",
"As far as getting mindless things done, I find it best to listen to music or listen to youtube and think about the video or what I'm going to do when I'm finished, my day, etc. It distracts you and then you look down and bam, you're done! For non mindless things like projects and homework, get started early. It's best to do 20 minutes of work, 5 minutes break but I'll do a portion of the work, regardless of how long it takes, and then do something that has an end point to relax. I'll clear one dungeon infallout, I'll do one questing set in wow, I'll only browse 5 pages of reddit (reading all the comments makes this take more time). If it's work or an interview or something, get ready before you sit down, and then you can play right up until you have to leave. \n\nOr just watch the \"JUST DO IT\" meme until you're sick of it, whatever works for you.\n\n",
"The reason you procrastinate is because your brain is eagerly looking for another hit of dopamine, and putting off something you don't enjoy doing for something that is instantly gratifying (tv, video games, jacking off, reddit, facebook) is the best way to do it.\n\nIn a way it isn't that far off from an addiction, and it can be just has hard to take back control. So your level of success depends on how hard you want to work for it",
"Just do it tomorrow.\nThat seems like a pretty good idea to me.\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Tpqeyh4-4c"
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"How to combat myopia? I have been 20/20 for most of my life, up until 3 years ago where I went overboard with screen time in general(video games, working on my laptop). I was prescribed a small prescription(I still drive and do things normally without my glasses on) but I want to move away from needing to use glasses for my school classes. I know my myopia isn't genetic, as my parents use reading glasses they only got a few years ago. I have heard of the Bates method but I haven't seen consistently postive responses to it. What are some effective ways to adjust my eyes in the reverse direction?",
"How to combat myopia? I have been 20/20 for most of my life, up until 3 years ago where I went overboard with screen time in general(video games, working on my laptop). I was prescribed a small prescription(I still drive and do things normally without my glasses on) but I want to move away from needing to use glasses for my school classes. I know my myopia isn't genetic, as my parents use reading glasses they only got a few years ago. I have heard of the Bates method but I haven't seen consistently postive responses to it. What are some effective ways to adjust my eyes in the reverse direction?"
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"I use low risk opportunities to go without my glasses and use my far field of vision. My rx went from -4 to -2.75 over a few years. I also ask for the lesser rx if it can go either way. Like if 3.25 is really clear but 3 is clear enough, the doc will give the 3.\n\n",
"I don't think there is an effective way. There are \"methods\" out there but I don't think any of them work. I've talked to several opthamologists, and they all say that the only way to do it is wait until your prescription has stabilized for a year, then get Lazik. \n\nYour eyes might continue to degrade slowly after that but at least you'll reset it to 20/20. \n\nIf you hear of any way that works, please share it with me, I'd love to know how to reset my eyes also."
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"How do you go back to college after a long break from studying? So I decided that 2017 will be the year I will go back to college. I'm 26 years old and no degree. I am going to pursue a degree in sports psychology, something I became passionate about during the last couple of years. \n\nThe last time I walked into a college classroom was in 2011 I think. Any tips or advice would be appreciated. ",
"How do you go back to college after a long break from studying? So I decided that 2017 will be the year I will go back to college. I'm 26 years old and no degree. I am going to pursue a degree in sports psychology, something I became passionate about during the last couple of years. \n\nThe last time I walked into a college classroom was in 2011 I think. Any tips or advice would be appreciated. ",
"How do you go back to college after a long break from studying? So I decided that 2017 will be the year I will go back to college. I'm 26 years old and no degree. I am going to pursue a degree in sports psychology, something I became passionate about during the last couple of years. \n\nThe last time I walked into a college classroom was in 2011 I think. Any tips or advice would be appreciated. ",
"How do you go back to college after a long break from studying? So I decided that 2017 will be the year I will go back to college. I'm 26 years old and no degree. I am going to pursue a degree in sports psychology, something I became passionate about during the last couple of years. \n\nThe last time I walked into a college classroom was in 2011 I think. Any tips or advice would be appreciated. ",
"How do you go back to college after a long break from studying? So I decided that 2017 will be the year I will go back to college. I'm 26 years old and no degree. I am going to pursue a degree in sports psychology, something I became passionate about during the last couple of years. \n\nThe last time I walked into a college classroom was in 2011 I think. Any tips or advice would be appreciated. ",
"How do you go back to college after a long break from studying? So I decided that 2017 will be the year I will go back to college. I'm 26 years old and no degree. I am going to pursue a degree in sports psychology, something I became passionate about during the last couple of years. \n\nThe last time I walked into a college classroom was in 2011 I think. Any tips or advice would be appreciated. "
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"Hey, not sure if this will mean much, but remember not to be insecure about age! I just graduated this year, and a small percentage of the graduates were in the 25-35 year age group, and a common complaint among most of them is that they were too old for college, people were too young for them to mix with, etc. Just remember that most students there (myself included) were just stoked to meet new people and don't give 2 shits about the age of the person I was speaking with.\n\nAlso, if you don't already have one, a laptop will be great to have in a lecture hall, or even a tablet, as it may help to google that question that niggles at you during the lecture and you're too embarrassed to put up your hands during the lecture. Try and get your lecturers email too, during your revision you can email them any questions that you may have; they may not answer them, but if they do, it saves you a lot of time waiting at the end of the class to ask them questions.\n\nAnd last but not least, enjoy yourself! The only downside to college is paying back student loans (they're a bitch), so make sure you make those years count! Have fun, try different stuff, and make close friends!\n\nHope this helps!\n",
"Understand things rather then memorize them. Do all your homework and go to every class. Do your best even if what you are asked makes no sense. Introduce yourself to the professors and get to know them. \n\nThe only thing you can control is your effort. ",
"Take a light load your first semester, get back in the swing of things. Untilize facilities to study/ work to cut down on distractions",
"Psshhhhh just reread some of your old textbooks or skim them. Use Khan Academy for the basic stuff. For the more advanced, just be ready to take notes in class.",
"I was a change of major grad student at 28 put in a freshman design studio full of 19 year olds. Yes, they talked about stuff I didn't care about. Lots of stuff. But that left me to focus on my studies and not get dragged into drama (particularly the come-ons). I connected way better with the profs, many of whom I still communicate with 12 years later. This spring I head back for a second masters at 40, and I know I'll be surrounded by 20-25 year olds. My plan is to connect with my college profs AND research students in other colleges and their profs. In fact, I may wind up employing some of my fellow students. ",
"go to community college (AKA junior college) for the first two years of your degree. Get an Associates Degree. Then move on to a university. This cuts the tuition cost of a 4 year degree in half. Make sure the community college class' cr"
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"Business (casual) shopping online Im in my early 20s and in a professional work environment which requires business casual attire (ie. Dress pants, dress shirts, shoes, belt, etc.)\n\nI have a very small selection of stores locally that are within a reasonable budget and I cannot seem to find any decent dress shirts under $70ish. \n\nIm looking to find as many online shops as possible which provide a balance of quality, selection and reasonable prices. \n\nM/6'2 - I usually prefer the 'tall' dress shirts. Also needs to ship to Canada!",
"Business (casual) shopping online Im in my early 20s and in a professional work environment which requires business casual attire (ie. Dress pants, dress shirts, shoes, belt, etc.)\n\nI have a very small selection of stores locally that are within a reasonable budget and I cannot seem to find any decent dress shirts under $70ish. \n\nIm looking to find as many online shops as possible which provide a balance of quality, selection and reasonable prices. \n\nM/6'2 - I usually prefer the 'tall' dress shirts. Also needs to ship to Canada!",
"Business (casual) shopping online Im in my early 20s and in a professional work environment which requires business casual attire (ie. Dress pants, dress shirts, shoes, belt, etc.)\n\nI have a very small selection of stores locally that are within a reasonable budget and I cannot seem to find any decent dress shirts under $70ish. \n\nIm looking to find as many online shops as possible which provide a balance of quality, selection and reasonable prices. \n\nM/6'2 - I usually prefer the 'tall' dress shirts. Also needs to ship to Canada!",
"Business (casual) shopping online Im in my early 20s and in a professional work environment which requires business casual attire (ie. Dress pants, dress shirts, shoes, belt, etc.)\n\nI have a very small selection of stores locally that are within a reasonable budget and I cannot seem to find any decent dress shirts under $70ish. \n\nIm looking to find as many online shops as possible which provide a balance of quality, selection and reasonable prices. \n\nM/6'2 - I usually prefer the 'tall' dress shirts. Also needs to ship to Canada!",
"Business (casual) shopping online Im in my early 20s and in a professional work environment which requires business casual attire (ie. Dress pants, dress shirts, shoes, belt, etc.)\n\nI have a very small selection of stores locally that are within a reasonable budget and I cannot seem to find any decent dress shirts under $70ish. \n\nIm looking to find as many online shops as possible which provide a balance of quality, selection and reasonable prices. \n\nM/6'2 - I usually prefer the 'tall' dress shirts. Also needs to ship to Canada!",
"Business (casual) shopping online Im in my early 20s and in a professional work environment which requires business casual attire (ie. Dress pants, dress shirts, shoes, belt, etc.)\n\nI have a very small selection of stores locally that are within a reasonable budget and I cannot seem to find any decent dress shirts under $70ish. \n\nIm looking to find as many online shops as possible which provide a balance of quality, selection and reasonable prices. \n\nM/6'2 - I usually prefer the 'tall' dress shirts. Also needs to ship to Canada!",
"Business (casual) shopping online Im in my early 20s and in a professional work environment which requires business casual attire (ie. Dress pants, dress shirts, shoes, belt, etc.)\n\nI have a very small selection of stores locally that are within a reasonable budget and I cannot seem to find any decent dress shirts under $70ish. \n\nIm looking to find as many online shops as possible which provide a balance of quality, selection and reasonable prices. \n\nM/6'2 - I usually prefer the 'tall' dress shirts. Also needs to ship to Canada!",
"Business (casual) shopping online Im in my early 20s and in a professional work environment which requires business casual attire (ie. Dress pants, dress shirts, shoes, belt, etc.)\n\nI have a very small selection of stores locally that are within a reasonable budget and I cannot seem to find any decent dress shirts under $70ish. \n\nIm looking to find as many online shops as possible which provide a balance of quality, selection and reasonable prices. \n\nM/6'2 - I usually prefer the 'tall' dress shirts. Also needs to ship to Canada!"
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"It depends on the \"look\" you're going for, but LLBean has awesome, non iron, fitted shirts online that are spectacular. They look perfectly pressed (sleeve creases and all) right out of the dryer. I can't say much about their pants, as I've only wore their khakis occasionally. It certainly helps that they have an incredible return policy and guarantee.\n\nIn my opinion, Express clothes seem to be cheaply made in an effort to look like designer fashion at really cheap price points. Their shirts always faded and/or frayed after a few washes. YMMV...",
"If you haven't already, check out thrift/second hand stores. Tons of dress shirts and slacks, very cheap.",
"I get good mileage out of [Van Heusen shirts](http://smile.amazon.com/Van-Heusen/e/2210643011/ref=ep_sprkl_br_bq_2210643011?pf_rd_p=1730095862&pf_rd_s=auto-sparkle&pf_rd_t=301&pf_rd_i=van%20heusen&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=17W5HBACEDC6VPDBNN1A). Amazon ships to Canada.",
"Have you tried [Uniqlo](http://www.uniqlo.com/)? For being an inexpensive option, they have excellent fits and options.",
"Charles Tyrwhitt has very nice dress shirts that can be shipped to Canada (no idea about shipping costs to Canada but it's typically around $9.95 for an order to the US; they are based in the UK). They are relatively expensive but occasionally CT will run sales where the shirts are sold for $30-40 (not including shipping costs).",
"Charles Tyrwhiit is your best bet for shirts around $40-45 (buy 4 for $200 during a $20 off coupon) They offer 3 fits and exact neck and sleeve lengths. Extremely superior to express shirts in quality although express shirts do fit well OTR for many people. TM Lewin is a similar option.\n\nLands end and J crew for OCDBs. I also like J crew for work chinos, urban slim personally.\n\nFor shoes, cheap suede is better than cheap leather. You should be able to find something decent and welted for $200 +/- 50.\nOnce you know what fits and what you like, ebay can be your friend even for new with tag items.\n\nA lot of people like uniqlo for basics. I don't own anything from there personally.\n\nTAILORING will make lesser items look like they cost more than they do, particularly for particularly skinny or athletic body types.",
"Get professionally measured and buy a tailored shirt online. Not sure if such a site exists in Canada though. ",
"Express.com. They have stores in Canada and also ship to Canada. In the US the entire store is Buy One Get One half off. If you want a good shirt, try the 1MX. It's the only shirt I can find that fits the way I want it to. "
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"Any suggestions for doing the dishes? I HATE doing the dishes, but I love cooking, so I always end up with a large amount. You guys have any tips or hints to make it easier, or at least less annoying?",
"Any suggestions for doing the dishes? I HATE doing the dishes, but I love cooking, so I always end up with a large amount. You guys have any tips or hints to make it easier, or at least less annoying?",
"Any suggestions for doing the dishes? I HATE doing the dishes, but I love cooking, so I always end up with a large amount. You guys have any tips or hints to make it easier, or at least less annoying?",
"Any suggestions for doing the dishes? I HATE doing the dishes, but I love cooking, so I always end up with a large amount. You guys have any tips or hints to make it easier, or at least less annoying?",
"Any suggestions for doing the dishes? I HATE doing the dishes, but I love cooking, so I always end up with a large amount. You guys have any tips or hints to make it easier, or at least less annoying?",
"Any suggestions for doing the dishes? I HATE doing the dishes, but I love cooking, so I always end up with a large amount. You guys have any tips or hints to make it easier, or at least less annoying?",
"Any suggestions for doing the dishes? I HATE doing the dishes, but I love cooking, so I always end up with a large amount. You guys have any tips or hints to make it easier, or at least less annoying?",
"Any suggestions for doing the dishes? I HATE doing the dishes, but I love cooking, so I always end up with a large amount. You guys have any tips or hints to make it easier, or at least less annoying?"
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"Best tip I can give is to do them as soon as you can once they're soiled. The earlier you do it the easier they clean to help streamline the process. If they dry things turn horrible.",
"Clean as you go. At least rinse off dishes while you are cooking. Less cleanup aftewards.\n\nAs well, if you don't already, use parchment paper for oily foods such as fries, chicken drumettes, etc. on a cookie sheet. Less oily cleanup that way. If you don't like doing them or put them off until later why not just fill up the sink with some dish soap and warm/hot water, then load the dishes in there as you cook. Once you're waiting for food to be ready, clean the dishes. Done.\n\nWhat exactly do you hate about dishes? Maybe someone can recommend a better idea specifically for you.",
"Any time I cook anything fancy, I plan dish-washing as part of the cooking process. Every time I know I'm done with a dish, I clean it. \n\nAlso, the fewer dishes you own, the easier the cleaning process will be. If (for example) you own a hundred plates, they will somehow inevitably all become dirty before you get a chance to wash them. If you only own eight, on the other hand...",
"Well, you can't make yourself enjoy it more. But maybe you can allow yourself to just do a little at a time. When there are a ton, don't commit to doing them all. Just \"get started,\" and when you start to wig out, just say \"OK! Imma let these soak, and come back later.\"\n\nIf you have a dishwasher, remember that you don't have to do much to them. I just use a brush, put soap on it, and give everything a swish to get the food off. Then dishwasher. The key to the dishwasher is to unload promptly - then when it's time to \"do dishes,\" you're not also facing the task of unloading first. ",
"The key here is not to be lazy haha. Whether you have a dish washer or not, as soon as you are done eating throw the dishes in the sink and rinse them off it takes to seconds and will save you so much time. This is by far the easiest time to get the food off the dishes and if you have a spray function on your faucet you dont even need to get your hands dirty. I do this even though i have a dishwasher because im semi-lazy and load the dishes in later, but once the food dries out on the plate its like cement and not even good dishwasers can get the dishes clean 100% of the time. If you do have a dish or bowl that has caked dried out food on it, fill them with hot soapy water and let it sit for 5 minutes and the food will come right off. ",
"I always put on a TV show on my laptop while I do the dishes, then you're paying more attention to the show then to the washing. Makes it much easier for me",
"Here's a great one. Limit dishes by trying as hard as possible to make a dish in the same one you intend to eat out of, E.G. mix casserole ingredients IN the casserole dish, then into the oven, vs. mixing in a bowl, then transferring to a casserole dish",
"Get one of [these](http://www.amazon.com/Libman-Dish-Sponge-Soap-Dispenser/dp/B002YLV3PY). They're cheap and they make washing up so much easier. As an added bonus, you avoid wrinkly dishwater hands"
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"How do I stop coming off as narcissistic or too self-involved? I'm naturally a very selfish person. I've always been like that, but I try to better myself everytime I recognize that behavior coming from me.\n\nOne of the things I've noticed about narcissists in general is that they (or we) always make conversations or stories about them, in a way that doesn't acknowledge other people. For instance, one time my friend was talking about he was rejected by a girl we both knew, and I caught myself saying that I'd often been the person doing the rejecting (I'm gay and in highschool no one knew but I rejected lots of girls), which is *unbelievably* tone-deaf.\n\nIt's like my first instinct was to talk about myself and not about the other person. The other day my friend's laptop was stolen, and I had to mentally stop myself several times from saying I was glad it wasn't me.\n\nIn short, I'm afraid that sort of behavior is alienating my friends and that I might be eroding our friendship with other things that I don't even notice I do. Does anyone have any advice?\n\n",
"How do I stop coming off as narcissistic or too self-involved? I'm naturally a very selfish person. I've always been like that, but I try to better myself everytime I recognize that behavior coming from me.\n\nOne of the things I've noticed about narcissists in general is that they (or we) always make conversations or stories about them, in a way that doesn't acknowledge other people. For instance, one time my friend was talking about he was rejected by a girl we both knew, and I caught myself saying that I'd often been the person doing the rejecting (I'm gay and in highschool no one knew but I rejected lots of girls), which is *unbelievably* tone-deaf.\n\nIt's like my first instinct was to talk about myself and not about the other person. The other day my friend's laptop was stolen, and I had to mentally stop myself several times from saying I was glad it wasn't me.\n\nIn short, I'm afraid that sort of behavior is alienating my friends and that I might be eroding our friendship with other things that I don't even notice I do. Does anyone have any advice?\n\n",
"How do I stop coming off as narcissistic or too self-involved? I'm naturally a very selfish person. I've always been like that, but I try to better myself everytime I recognize that behavior coming from me.\n\nOne of the things I've noticed about narcissists in general is that they (or we) always make conversations or stories about them, in a way that doesn't acknowledge other people. For instance, one time my friend was talking about he was rejected by a girl we both knew, and I caught myself saying that I'd often been the person doing the rejecting (I'm gay and in highschool no one knew but I rejected lots of girls), which is *unbelievably* tone-deaf.\n\nIt's like my first instinct was to talk about myself and not about the other person. The other day my friend's laptop was stolen, and I had to mentally stop myself several times from saying I was glad it wasn't me.\n\nIn short, I'm afraid that sort of behavior is alienating my friends and that I might be eroding our friendship with other things that I don't even notice I do. Does anyone have any advice?\n\n",
"How do I stop coming off as narcissistic or too self-involved? I'm naturally a very selfish person. I've always been like that, but I try to better myself everytime I recognize that behavior coming from me.\n\nOne of the things I've noticed about narcissists in general is that they (or we) always make conversations or stories about them, in a way that doesn't acknowledge other people. For instance, one time my friend was talking about he was rejected by a girl we both knew, and I caught myself saying that I'd often been the person doing the rejecting (I'm gay and in highschool no one knew but I rejected lots of girls), which is *unbelievably* tone-deaf.\n\nIt's like my first instinct was to talk about myself and not about the other person. The other day my friend's laptop was stolen, and I had to mentally stop myself several times from saying I was glad it wasn't me.\n\nIn short, I'm afraid that sort of behavior is alienating my friends and that I might be eroding our friendship with other things that I don't even notice I do. Does anyone have any advice?\n\n"
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"You're on the right road being self-aware. Be curious and interested in other people. Practice not talking about yourself unless asked, and keep it short even then. Like most things, it's just a matter of establishing habit. Practice, make mistakes, figure out where you went wrong, and practice, practice again.",
"It's good you are self aware about this. It means you are probably not a narcissist.\n\nI have a bit of the same problem. I don't know what to say in certain situations because I don't want to be fake. Therefore I am often too practical. I'm told i have a low emotional IQ. \n\nWhat I learned to do and seems to work is first recognizing the situation. I say 'that sucks' or something like that to let them know I realize they are in a bad situation. This validates them. Then I ask if there is anything I can do to help. This lets them know I care.\n\nIt's pretty basic, but it hits the two things that make you show empathy.\n\nAfter some time, it becomes second nature. Just limit the talk about yourself.",
"This will probably be a lifelong issue in one form or another. You will need to become fiercely self aware. Stop and/or apologize when you realize it, practice listening, maybe consider some therapy to understand it better. Watch others (and listen to them) for cues as to whether they're bored, or uninterested in what you are saying... its not the end of the world, but it wil be the end of some friendships if you don't hear yourself, catch it and practice doing differently... ",
"Ask questions and listen. What they're about to say is either a really good story or the stuff people experience surrounding a good story (or they need bigger problems so the daily stuff isn't their biggest story).\n\nWhen they're talking on and on about things you don't actually care about, be polite, and remember that they will try to listen to you talking about things that they don't want to hear about.\n\nIf you get bored or uninterested about something someone is talking about, wait until they're done, (and acknowledge what they said, \"you'll get through it soon enough\", \"let me know if I can help\", etc - people are mostly the same and like to hear their stories)... and then ask them about something interesting like: what are you really into right now? What's the coolest thing you've ever done? What's the coolest thing you did once that you would never do again? What's your favorite thing in the world? I've found that when people are talking about things they're really into, I can either see myself trying them (therefore I'm interested!!) or I can see what they like about that thing in one of the things I'm into, which leads to awesome conversation about how x and y are really the same thing for the user. It doesent work for stories about a happened and then b happened, but those are the boring conversations anyway - which you should still listen to because you want them to listen to you. Aaannnnnd if you can't strike up interesting conversation because some people only like to complain, maybe don't spend your time with them in the future."
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"How to stop worrying. I studied for my final for four hours today and I know everything, yet I'm still worrying, and it happens all the time. I check the doors of my house all the time, just in case they somehow open. I check everything, even though nothing changes.\n\nBut on the studying topic again. I worried this much when I was going to take my maths final, and I got an 100. But I still panic for everything. How do I stop this?",
"How to stop worrying. I studied for my final for four hours today and I know everything, yet I'm still worrying, and it happens all the time. I check the doors of my house all the time, just in case they somehow open. I check everything, even though nothing changes.\n\nBut on the studying topic again. I worried this much when I was going to take my maths final, and I got an 100. But I still panic for everything. How do I stop this?",
"How to stop worrying. I studied for my final for four hours today and I know everything, yet I'm still worrying, and it happens all the time. I check the doors of my house all the time, just in case they somehow open. I check everything, even though nothing changes.\n\nBut on the studying topic again. I worried this much when I was going to take my maths final, and I got an 100. But I still panic for everything. How do I stop this?",
"How to stop worrying. I studied for my final for four hours today and I know everything, yet I'm still worrying, and it happens all the time. I check the doors of my house all the time, just in case they somehow open. I check everything, even though nothing changes.\n\nBut on the studying topic again. I worried this much when I was going to take my maths final, and I got an 100. But I still panic for everything. How do I stop this?",
"How to stop worrying. I studied for my final for four hours today and I know everything, yet I'm still worrying, and it happens all the time. I check the doors of my house all the time, just in case they somehow open. I check everything, even though nothing changes.\n\nBut on the studying topic again. I worried this much when I was going to take my maths final, and I got an 100. But I still panic for everything. How do I stop this?",
"How to stop worrying. I studied for my final for four hours today and I know everything, yet I'm still worrying, and it happens all the time. I check the doors of my house all the time, just in case they somehow open. I check everything, even though nothing changes.\n\nBut on the studying topic again. I worried this much when I was going to take my maths final, and I got an 100. But I still panic for everything. How do I stop this?",
"How to stop worrying. I studied for my final for four hours today and I know everything, yet I'm still worrying, and it happens all the time. I check the doors of my house all the time, just in case they somehow open. I check everything, even though nothing changes.\n\nBut on the studying topic again. I worried this much when I was going to take my maths final, and I got an 100. But I still panic for everything. How do I stop this?"
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"Take a deep breath, in through the nose and out the mouth. Take another. Tell yourself that you are going to be okay and repeat as necessary. If the feeling gets overwhelming, and constantly happens, go talk with a professional and see what else they suggest. You might need an occasional pill to not get overwhelmed.",
"Maybe think about the worst thing that could happen and imagine how that would actually affect you. You might find that the worst case scenario really isn't that bad. If you fail your test... it sounds like you've done well enough on everything else that you'd still get a good grade overall in the class. And, even if you don't, will a bad grade in one class really change the course of your entire future? Probably not. You still need to keep studying and applying yourself, but once you've done that - let it go. Once you've reasonably prepared, the benefits of worrying don't justify the cost.",
"Just know that you're going to do well and worrying will just make you do worse and is completely unnecessary",
"I would say I'm pretty good with the fact of not being stressed. I used to read a lot of books about psychology and made my owns experiences. If you ever stress for a final or something, like an appointment at dentist or so on, if you want to success in studying, you need to be focused on not being stressed too much. \n\nHere are few advises : First for your finals, project yourself, imagine the scene after your final, when you go out of the class, knowing you did well on the test, imagine yourself at graduation with all other students who graduated. Think about positive things, imagine yourself with the diploma in your hands. It can works in other situations too, when you ask a girl out, see yourself with her at bar, laughing. Focus on good things, good energy. That really helps it's called \"visualisation\" in my country. \nSecond, when you're about to take exams, or ask a girl out, as someone said, you need to adapt your breathing in order to keep the stress low. But there is a specific way of breathing, I have read studies on it. Basically take deep breath, inspire with your nose, and expire with your mouth. BUT you need to breath with your stomach. I explain. Have you ever seen a baby breath ? You can see his stomach going high and low. You need to breath that way, your shoulders or your chest shouldn't be moving. That's a way to breath that activate your \"parasympathetic\" system, lowering the stress. Trust me it works.\n\nAnd simply smile too, it helps staying positive :)\nSorry for my bad English, frenchie here ",
"I really feel you...the one thing that I would say that helped me when I am in state of complete worry even though there is not really anything to be worried about I watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P9nzkPz0NiU and it really helped me a lot and I hope it helps you too :)",
"Do everything you logically can, but then you have to be willing to fail and have that be the greater lesson to draw improvements. \n\nThe door-checking could be OCD so be careful. Go to your school health center and just tell them and see what they say. They've heard it before.",
"Best way is to take your mind off the topic. Something that is visually and mentally stimulating is your best options. A good example is a video game or try and cook a new recipe from the internet.\nTo figure out if you can cook something with what you got.\nSuperCook.Com\n\n You could also play music and clean, or go out with friends. There is not a cure all, some people just worry more. But, if you are too busy to worry, it might help. "
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"How to get hair off a wool coat It's getting colder (where I am) and that means it's nearing time to whip out my awesome wool coat. Unfortunately, my live-in girlfriend has a very hairy white dog. You can see where this is going. I've tried using lint rollers but those don't work well and my coat ends up being really fuzzy. What do LPT?",
"How to get hair off a wool coat It's getting colder (where I am) and that means it's nearing time to whip out my awesome wool coat. Unfortunately, my live-in girlfriend has a very hairy white dog. You can see where this is going. I've tried using lint rollers but those don't work well and my coat ends up being really fuzzy. What do LPT?"
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"They have these little brushes with red felt looking thingys on them that work great. Also, bedbathandbeyond has these pethair-away thingys that work tits. http://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/product.asp?sku=16269085&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&gclid=CP640u2z87ICFQSEnQodmBUALg"
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"How to spot scam remote jobs? TLDR at the bottom.\nContext:\nI did a job interview today via text on telegram (game development) and it went smoothly until my interviewer started describing the materials I'd need to start working. They listed a handful of very expensive monthly paid programs (such as maya and a few others) and a laptop, then said the company would issue me a check this week and that I was to use this check to buy all programs and materials through a specific vendor. I asked who the vendor was and they replied that I would know once my materials were sorted and ready to be shipped.\n\nI got really sketched out because they started asking about bank info so I called my boyfriend (conveniently he was on break when this happened) and he found that there are scams like this where the employer sends a check for you to buy a bunch of office supplies and stuff but eventually the check bounces and the money you spent is now on you. I ended up declining the job even though there was still a small chance this wasn't a scam.\n\nSorry for the long story-\n\nTLDR; What are the tells of a scam when it comes to remote job hirings? How can you differentiate between a real interview and a fake one when it takes place online?",
"How to spot scam remote jobs? TLDR at the bottom.\nContext:\nI did a job interview today via text on telegram (game development) and it went smoothly until my interviewer started describing the materials I'd need to start working. They listed a handful of very expensive monthly paid programs (such as maya and a few others) and a laptop, then said the company would issue me a check this week and that I was to use this check to buy all programs and materials through a specific vendor. I asked who the vendor was and they replied that I would know once my materials were sorted and ready to be shipped.\n\nI got really sketched out because they started asking about bank info so I called my boyfriend (conveniently he was on break when this happened) and he found that there are scams like this where the employer sends a check for you to buy a bunch of office supplies and stuff but eventually the check bounces and the money you spent is now on you. I ended up declining the job even though there was still a small chance this wasn't a scam.\n\nSorry for the long story-\n\nTLDR; What are the tells of a scam when it comes to remote job hirings? How can you differentiate between a real interview and a fake one when it takes place online?",
"How to spot scam remote jobs? TLDR at the bottom.\nContext:\nI did a job interview today via text on telegram (game development) and it went smoothly until my interviewer started describing the materials I'd need to start working. They listed a handful of very expensive monthly paid programs (such as maya and a few others) and a laptop, then said the company would issue me a check this week and that I was to use this check to buy all programs and materials through a specific vendor. I asked who the vendor was and they replied that I would know once my materials were sorted and ready to be shipped.\n\nI got really sketched out because they started asking about bank info so I called my boyfriend (conveniently he was on break when this happened) and he found that there are scams like this where the employer sends a check for you to buy a bunch of office supplies and stuff but eventually the check bounces and the money you spent is now on you. I ended up declining the job even though there was still a small chance this wasn't a scam.\n\nSorry for the long story-\n\nTLDR; What are the tells of a scam when it comes to remote job hirings? How can you differentiate between a real interview and a fake one when it takes place online?",
"How to spot scam remote jobs? TLDR at the bottom.\nContext:\nI did a job interview today via text on telegram (game development) and it went smoothly until my interviewer started describing the materials I'd need to start working. They listed a handful of very expensive monthly paid programs (such as maya and a few others) and a laptop, then said the company would issue me a check this week and that I was to use this check to buy all programs and materials through a specific vendor. I asked who the vendor was and they replied that I would know once my materials were sorted and ready to be shipped.\n\nI got really sketched out because they started asking about bank info so I called my boyfriend (conveniently he was on break when this happened) and he found that there are scams like this where the employer sends a check for you to buy a bunch of office supplies and stuff but eventually the check bounces and the money you spent is now on you. I ended up declining the job even though there was still a small chance this wasn't a scam.\n\nSorry for the long story-\n\nTLDR; What are the tells of a scam when it comes to remote job hirings? How can you differentiate between a real interview and a fake one when it takes place online?",
"How to spot scam remote jobs? TLDR at the bottom.\nContext:\nI did a job interview today via text on telegram (game development) and it went smoothly until my interviewer started describing the materials I'd need to start working. They listed a handful of very expensive monthly paid programs (such as maya and a few others) and a laptop, then said the company would issue me a check this week and that I was to use this check to buy all programs and materials through a specific vendor. I asked who the vendor was and they replied that I would know once my materials were sorted and ready to be shipped.\n\nI got really sketched out because they started asking about bank info so I called my boyfriend (conveniently he was on break when this happened) and he found that there are scams like this where the employer sends a check for you to buy a bunch of office supplies and stuff but eventually the check bounces and the money you spent is now on you. I ended up declining the job even though there was still a small chance this wasn't a scam.\n\nSorry for the long story-\n\nTLDR; What are the tells of a scam when it comes to remote job hirings? How can you differentiate between a real interview and a fake one when it takes place online?",
"How to spot scam remote jobs? TLDR at the bottom.\nContext:\nI did a job interview today via text on telegram (game development) and it went smoothly until my interviewer started describing the materials I'd need to start working. They listed a handful of very expensive monthly paid programs (such as maya and a few others) and a laptop, then said the company would issue me a check this week and that I was to use this check to buy all programs and materials through a specific vendor. I asked who the vendor was and they replied that I would know once my materials were sorted and ready to be shipped.\n\nI got really sketched out because they started asking about bank info so I called my boyfriend (conveniently he was on break when this happened) and he found that there are scams like this where the employer sends a check for you to buy a bunch of office supplies and stuff but eventually the check bounces and the money you spent is now on you. I ended up declining the job even though there was still a small chance this wasn't a scam.\n\nSorry for the long story-\n\nTLDR; What are the tells of a scam when it comes to remote job hirings? How can you differentiate between a real interview and a fake one when it takes place online?",
"How to spot scam remote jobs? TLDR at the bottom.\nContext:\nI did a job interview today via text on telegram (game development) and it went smoothly until my interviewer started describing the materials I'd need to start working. They listed a handful of very expensive monthly paid programs (such as maya and a few others) and a laptop, then said the company would issue me a check this week and that I was to use this check to buy all programs and materials through a specific vendor. I asked who the vendor was and they replied that I would know once my materials were sorted and ready to be shipped.\n\nI got really sketched out because they started asking about bank info so I called my boyfriend (conveniently he was on break when this happened) and he found that there are scams like this where the employer sends a check for you to buy a bunch of office supplies and stuff but eventually the check bounces and the money you spent is now on you. I ended up declining the job even though there was still a small chance this wasn't a scam.\n\nSorry for the long story-\n\nTLDR; What are the tells of a scam when it comes to remote job hirings? How can you differentiate between a real interview and a fake one when it takes place online?",
"How to spot scam remote jobs? TLDR at the bottom.\nContext:\nI did a job interview today via text on telegram (game development) and it went smoothly until my interviewer started describing the materials I'd need to start working. They listed a handful of very expensive monthly paid programs (such as maya and a few others) and a laptop, then said the company would issue me a check this week and that I was to use this check to buy all programs and materials through a specific vendor. I asked who the vendor was and they replied that I would know once my materials were sorted and ready to be shipped.\n\nI got really sketched out because they started asking about bank info so I called my boyfriend (conveniently he was on break when this happened) and he found that there are scams like this where the employer sends a check for you to buy a bunch of office supplies and stuff but eventually the check bounces and the money you spent is now on you. I ended up declining the job even though there was still a small chance this wasn't a scam.\n\nSorry for the long story-\n\nTLDR; What are the tells of a scam when it comes to remote job hirings? How can you differentiate between a real interview and a fake one when it takes place online?"
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"Yeah its a scam. I've seen very similar ones for years now. The key being you need to buy it from their \"vendor\". If you are ever asked for a deposit or money for a job offer it's a scam. If they start saying they will give you a check for items you need to buy from them or a specific vendor it's a scam.",
"A job in which you are working for someone else should never require you to purchase your own materials. Depending on the circumstances, it can even be illegal in the US. A good employer will send you all of your equipment and tools required to do your job properly, anyone else is pretty much scamming. It really sounds like they are attempting to procure all of those programs for themselves by stealing yours- not to mention your bank account.",
"You should never have to pay to start a job. They pay you, not the other way around. If you need specific materials, they should ship them directly to you, especially computer hardware and software. Sometimes you might have to apply some things on your own, like once a company shipped me a computer tower and I had to have a monitor, but they didn't care where it came from and I actually used a TV. If you have to pay anything to get started, it's either a scam or MLM and in either case GTFO now lol",
"That's a new method I haven't heard of yet! These practices infuriate me, but I gotta give it to them a little for creativity.",
"THIS IS DEFINITELY A SCAM. Don't be like me. I actually fell for this scam last year and it cost me my bank account and everything in it around ($1500 at the time). I was a desperate recent college grad in the middle of 2020 pandemic and failed to catch all the red flags. Those checks will definitely bounce and though I've heard of people's banks forgiving them when your info is stolen, giving access to your account by fake checks doesn't count.\n\nMy advice, talk to or try to get into contact with someone who already does remote work and, if not, do your own research on any freelance sites or recruiters offering such work. Know most remote jobs are going to be low, pay-by-project projects, sales and insurance jobs, or telemarketing. If none of that is appealing or relevant to you, you might be better off avoiding remote work. I did after, and was much better for it.\n\nBottom line: trust your gut and don't ignore red flags, do your own research and quit a process if information is not readily available or seems sketchy. There's always more job opportunities out there, ones that won't seem so suspicious.\n\nTL;DR: I fell for this scam. \nIf something seems sus, it probably is. \nDon't feel like there won't better opportunities (that's the scam), there always are if you're persistent. \nMost remote work is overrated anyway (and not always applicable to your skills/interests)\n\n",
"If you have to pay to work there, then it is a scam.\n\nA real software company would provide all the licenses you need to perform your job, along with the computer to run them.",
"If an employer ever asks you to purchase things out of pocket before even becoming an employee then it's a scam 100%.",
"Best way to check is to pretend you are the employer and ask yourself if you would hire someone like that if it was your company.\n\nI assume an employer would want to see and speak to you (even remotely on video chat) before offering any job.\n\nPlus, if it sounds too good to be true, then I can guarantee it is.\n\nAnd lastly, do exactly what you did, speak to someone else for an observer’s perspective - sometimes we can’t look at a situation from another angle - so consulting other people who we trust can really help."
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"How can I stop being average? How I change my life? What are some of the best ways to become extremely smart? I am a 24-year-old and I feel depressed about my life.",
"How can I stop being average? How I change my life? What are some of the best ways to become extremely smart? I am a 24-year-old and I feel depressed about my life.",
"How can I stop being average? How I change my life? What are some of the best ways to become extremely smart? I am a 24-year-old and I feel depressed about my life.",
"How can I stop being average? How I change my life? What are some of the best ways to become extremely smart? I am a 24-year-old and I feel depressed about my life."
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"This is going to sound extremely corny but\n\n1. Find the thing that makes you happy. There's a difference between the things that bring you praise (which then as a result make you happy) and the things that make you happy at the source. There are lots of things that everyone wants to do to gain recognition. Sure you want to become \"extremely smart\", but what kind of \"extremely smart\" do you want to be? Do you want to be knowledgeable in a general sense because that's what makes you happy? Or is it because it's universally acceptable to choose that as your main ambition? Think about specific goals in your life that bring you joy, not just generalities. I'm going to try roller blading this summer and I've never felt this excited in my life for something so minuscule. Sure, me telling the world that I learned how to roller blade isn't going to bring me showers of praise any time soon, but I want to do it anyway because I think roller blading is awesome.\n\n2. Once you find a thing that you want to work at, schedule a time to do that thing. During that time, do nothing but the thing you scheduled for. Don't have your phone with you so you can text people every few minutes, don't have reddit open so you can check how much karma you've gotten. Nothing but the task at hand.\n\nThis might completely take away my credibility, but I'll let you know that I'm only 20 years old. I ended up wasting a lot of my childhood/teen years doing things that were in my parent's best interest. Spent hours everyday training for a sport that I didn't like and acting the way I thought was most appropriate. I spent the majority of my life pouring time into things that *should* make me happy and hanging around the people that I *should* be hanging around. It wasn't until I really took some time to think about my own personal goals in life that I found myself with the motivation and energy to better myself as an individual.\n\nThat's my two cents",
"1. Read a lot.\n2. Stop grading yourself. Do what you really like to do.\n3. If your depression is incapacitating you need medical help. Depression kills. ",
"Just do it. Don't let your dreams be dreams. Yesterday you said tomorrow. Make your dreams come true. Some people dream of success, while you're gonna wake up and work hard at it. Nothing is impossible. You should get to the point where anyone else would quit, and you're not going to stop there. Just do it. If you're tired of starting over, stop giving up.\n",
"Educate yourself. Whether that is reading a book, listening to a pod cast or completing a MOOC online. You need to take responsibility for your own learning and actively pursue means to improve. Read for 1 hour every single."
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"How To Get A Date When You're Socially Awkward I've recently become single after a long relationship and am looking to \"get back out there\", but have no idea how to talk to someone new in interested in",
"How To Get A Date When You're Socially Awkward I've recently become single after a long relationship and am looking to \"get back out there\", but have no idea how to talk to someone new in interested in",
"How To Get A Date When You're Socially Awkward I've recently become single after a long relationship and am looking to \"get back out there\", but have no idea how to talk to someone new in interested in",
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"Generally talking to people in any situation helps. It doesnt matter wether its your new coworker, the cashier, bartender or even your grandma.\nHaving a conversation with anyone and going out of it with a good feeling boosts your confidence and you can practice. \nI know that this is exactly what is so hard about being antisocial but think about this like you are working out your social skills everytime you approach a stranger. ",
"you could try to use tinder (or other dating apps) to practice talking to people you find attractive. you probably won't see most of those people again, so whatever awkwardness you both feel won't matter later, but you might figure out what does and doesn't work when attempting a fluid conversation. ",
"frame yourself as the person you want to be, from the beginning of the conversation - first impressions are often how your relationship will form - if you frame yourself as weak thats what your will be known as, same with strong, same with confident, same with funny etc etc. \n\nBe who you want to be and stick to it",
"Socially awkward? That's a negative way to describe it. Let's try Introverted. Perhaps that's you? If so, there is nothing wrong with being introverted. Introverts (I am one) do not enjoy situations where they must talk to new people about nothing, talk to people in large crowds, and to strangers. They are more comfortable talking to a small number of people about things they are passionate about, and to people they are already familiar with. \n\nBar scene? Fugheddaboutit. That's for extroverts and alcoholics. Being the musician on stage? Paradoxially many musicians are actually introverts. If you are on stage, people seek you out. I myself enjoy public speaking, because I get to control the conversation and keep it on things I am passionate about. The audience seeks me out to talk about what I just said - no awkward conversational overtures required. \n\nWhere do you find people who are passionate about the same things you are? Join a church, which easily gets you into safe conversations with people who like some of the things you do. Volunteer for a charity or political cause you care about, which easily brings you close to people who care about the same thing. See the pattern? Get yourself into situations where you are around people who already like some of the same things you do. Conversations and relationships will develop slowly and naturally. Don't force them. If it feels awkward to you, it probably feels awkward to everyone. Take things slowly and this is easy. "
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"What's the best food I can bring in my lunchbox to keep me satisfied throughout the day? I'm a high schooler entering the latter half of my year. Uncrustables and Ruffles just aren't cutting it anymore. I'm hungry as fuck every day when I get home, and it sucks. I'm wondering what I can buy that'll be tasty, satisfying, and doesn't require the use of a microwave to keep me going throughout my days?",
"What's the best food I can bring in my lunchbox to keep me satisfied throughout the day? I'm a high schooler entering the latter half of my year. Uncrustables and Ruffles just aren't cutting it anymore. I'm hungry as fuck every day when I get home, and it sucks. I'm wondering what I can buy that'll be tasty, satisfying, and doesn't require the use of a microwave to keep me going throughout my days?",
"What's the best food I can bring in my lunchbox to keep me satisfied throughout the day? I'm a high schooler entering the latter half of my year. Uncrustables and Ruffles just aren't cutting it anymore. I'm hungry as fuck every day when I get home, and it sucks. I'm wondering what I can buy that'll be tasty, satisfying, and doesn't require the use of a microwave to keep me going throughout my days?",
"What's the best food I can bring in my lunchbox to keep me satisfied throughout the day? I'm a high schooler entering the latter half of my year. Uncrustables and Ruffles just aren't cutting it anymore. I'm hungry as fuck every day when I get home, and it sucks. I'm wondering what I can buy that'll be tasty, satisfying, and doesn't require the use of a microwave to keep me going throughout my days?",
"What's the best food I can bring in my lunchbox to keep me satisfied throughout the day? I'm a high schooler entering the latter half of my year. Uncrustables and Ruffles just aren't cutting it anymore. I'm hungry as fuck every day when I get home, and it sucks. I'm wondering what I can buy that'll be tasty, satisfying, and doesn't require the use of a microwave to keep me going throughout my days?",
"What's the best food I can bring in my lunchbox to keep me satisfied throughout the day? I'm a high schooler entering the latter half of my year. Uncrustables and Ruffles just aren't cutting it anymore. I'm hungry as fuck every day when I get home, and it sucks. I'm wondering what I can buy that'll be tasty, satisfying, and doesn't require the use of a microwave to keep me going throughout my days?",
"What's the best food I can bring in my lunchbox to keep me satisfied throughout the day? I'm a high schooler entering the latter half of my year. Uncrustables and Ruffles just aren't cutting it anymore. I'm hungry as fuck every day when I get home, and it sucks. I'm wondering what I can buy that'll be tasty, satisfying, and doesn't require the use of a microwave to keep me going throughout my days?"
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"Wraps are great for getting a lot of protein without having to heat them up. Lunchmeat, chicken/tuna salad, you can find hundreds of recipes for them to keep from getting bored. Throw in a baggy of nuts and a piece of fruit, and you'll have a decent lunch balance. \n\nYou may also want to take a look at bento boxes. There are a ton of recipes meant to be eaten at room temperature, and you don't really have to put them in a fancy box.",
"Get some lean protein (boiled eggs work well in a lunchbox) and whole grains (e.g. a salad made with whole grains like quinoa, also high in protein), or fish/chicken/tofu/yoghurt. There's some evidence that food liquified into soup is also more filling than food that isn't, because it takes longer to digest. Don't go low fat - fat also helps you to feel full. But choose healthy fats such as avocado or a veg oil dressing on that salad.\n\nBasically filling up with processed carbs is not helping you - aim for lean protein and unprocessed carbs (brown ones not white ones)",
"Any high fiber food: fruit, granola, nuts..they fill you up longer. Also make sure your properly hydrated with water, many times the hunger feeling we experience is actually a sign of being underhydrated.",
"An ample and balanced breakfast is key. Also bring 2 pieces of fruit, one of those little cups of low fat fruit yoghurt, brown bread and plenty of water. \n\nAlso lentils are easily made into a dahl which you can eat cold. ",
"Trail mix granola with chocolate chips bar. Tastes good and tames the rumblies for a while. Also since its quiet, I'm sure at least one teacher will let you eat it in class. I would eat one at home, at 9:30, and 1:30. But also I made them myself because its alot cheaper, if you or your mother wants to make it, its easy. ",
"Proteins, maybe take supplients from a nutrition firm like Herbalife or something, they have protein bars, soy snacks and other stuff to keep you satisfied and healthy",
"Foods high in fat will keep you satiated. This sounds like it might be terrible for you, but there are plenty of good fats. Avocado is a great source, as are cashews, cashew butter, or real peanut butter (not JIF made with tons of vegetable oil). In short, you should look at your macronutrients rather than specific foods. Eating carbs sparsely is convenient and cheap, but will leave you hungry. You need to throw protein and fat into the mix."
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"How do I become less 'squeamish' when it comes to blood, needles, etc? For some reason over the past 4 years I've developed an incredible amount of discomfort with getting shots, giving blood and was especially uncomfortable today while getting a sizable mole removed on my neck. \n\nHas anyone overcome (or at least improved) their inability to face these types of things? I've fainted and gone into shock before and I worry that I'll never be able to face having to have real medical procedures done. Not to mention being present while my children are born. \n\nThanks!",
"How do I become less 'squeamish' when it comes to blood, needles, etc? For some reason over the past 4 years I've developed an incredible amount of discomfort with getting shots, giving blood and was especially uncomfortable today while getting a sizable mole removed on my neck. \n\nHas anyone overcome (or at least improved) their inability to face these types of things? I've fainted and gone into shock before and I worry that I'll never be able to face having to have real medical procedures done. Not to mention being present while my children are born. \n\nThanks!"
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"Medic here, watch it happen to others. Not my blood/bone/dislocated knee cap. Eventually when it is your turn, you'll remember how quick its all over with. Except the kneecaps, those still turn my stomach.",
"Hold still, look somewhere else (don't close your eyes, look somewhere else instead because it will actively distract you a bit), relax wherever is being poked (the tenser you are the more it hurts), and most importantly do not move. Not your leg, not your head, not your fingers. Hold still. \nAs a child and teen I was so terrified of needles I had to be held down to get an IV in me more than once. When I figured out all of these things together and sometimes having to recite odd things in my head (ie all the armor and weapons I had equipped on my Fallout 3 character), it became much easier even though it's still stressful and hurts."
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"Laptop power saving options to last a day at university. Pretty self explanitory title, any help would be great, looking for roughly a 5 hour if not more time frame to have on battery.\n\nCheers",
"Laptop power saving options to last a day at university. Pretty self explanitory title, any help would be great, looking for roughly a 5 hour if not more time frame to have on battery.\n\nCheers",
"Laptop power saving options to last a day at university. Pretty self explanitory title, any help would be great, looking for roughly a 5 hour if not more time frame to have on battery.\n\nCheers",
"Laptop power saving options to last a day at university. Pretty self explanitory title, any help would be great, looking for roughly a 5 hour if not more time frame to have on battery.\n\nCheers"
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"you'll need to reboot when changing the battery unless ... your laptop allows a second battery e.g. ThinkPad t61p. That has saved me on many a Japan trip",
"Kill any wireless if you don't need it. Wi-Fi is pretty low-power, and you tend to need that, but shut off Bluetooth as it is a surprising power drain.\n\nDim your backlight. Play with your monitor settings and zoom levels, you may be able to drop it quite low without much difficulty.\n\nKeep it cool; computers run better if you don't let them heat up.",
"1. you need to get a laptop that markets at something like 8-13 hours. I have had a netbook that was 13 hours out of the box on the most power saver setting, but on average it is 11 hours if you run multiple programs on it (e.g. internet, word, itunes, PDF, etc.) However, after a year of use, the most I can get out of it was about 9 hours, and after 2 years it went down to 6 hours. That being said; if you bought a laptop that said it will do something like 6 hours max (which is the average life span considered 'good' since the average is probably more like 5 hours given that there are plenty of laptops that run only 3-4 hours). The next laptop I bought after the netbook was Toshiba U845-S414 which, again, had the advertised battery life at something like 11 hours. (I think the fact that it was not HDD, but SSD helps a bit in conserving electricity since it doesn't have to run the motor for the HDD and the fan/cooling system since it doesn't generate as much heat), but I can COMFORTABLY go through the whole day 8am to, say 10pm without a charger; 3 classes to take notes in, and 8 hours after that to study in the library (cough cough...). \n\n2. The ONLY thing that *could* save the battery (besides the usual (e.g. low processor speed, dim screen, etc.) is to (if your computer allows) push the \"LCD/Projector\" button. Some computers allow you to manually push this button so that it will jog through \"shared screen\" \"duplicate\" \"only projector\". If you pick the \"only projector\" setting, your screen will actually turn off (since it thinks that you are connected to a TV/external monitor/projector. Doing this will be the single most significant battery life saver. However this can only be used if you're in class taking notes on, say, Word. There is absolutely no reason you need to see the screen to type your notes (except if you're, perhaps, taking notes for math, chemistry, or physics, say...). Also, you can easily shuffle between turning your screen on and off by pushing the \"switch screen\" hotkey on your keyboard (Looks like if you push \"Fn + F8\" it will automatically do this for you). \n\n3. Buy another 6 cell battery on ebay for like $70 or whatever. Considering that with a $70 payment, you can almost never have to worry about battery running out is a INSANE luxury. The WORST setback for laptop owners is the powerless scouring for outlets, whether you are at a library or at a cafe. Having 13 hour battery is so empowering relative to those people who have laptops that have like 6 hour battery (if it is fully charged, that is). Imagine going to school at, say 8, and you use your laptop, constantly, until 2pm, then you slap on your second battery, and now you don't have to worry about battery until 8pm. Also, having another backup battery is good in case you mess up and you just happened to not have charged your laptop the night before (for whatever reason), and rather than ruining your whole day, you have a perfectly good battery. \n\nWell, I hope, next time, you will consider battery life as well as performance *before* you buy a computer. :D ",
"-Adjust brightness \n-modify your power saver options\n-defrag your hard drive, deleting old files and programs beforehand\n-turnoff bluetooth & wifi\n-keep volume muted (unless using headphones)\n-use cheap headphones\n\n\nBottom line: if you're computer is older than a year, you're not going to get 5 hour battery time with full functionality. You'll need a new or extended battery to accomplish that. You could always bring a charger in your bag, odds are that if you're looking to use it that much, you'll be in a place where you can plug it in. "
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"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?",
"How to be happy I have no friends or hobbies so that's not an option. I have no job, pretty much no future, I live at home, and my parents are mean to me and insult me very much. How can I be happy despite this?"
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"Focus on yourself. Do something little everyday to Improve yourself but not necessarily that makes you happy. They are not the same thing. Maybe start working out a little everyday, maybe help out in the local animal shelter. Once you start feeling good about yourself, you'll start getting a sense of happiness. ",
"Weirdly, you have to practice. Find things that take you away from what makes you unhappy, and that make you feel better. Do them every day. Get out in the world and smile at people. Keep at it. Start. At first it is difficult, but each day you may spend less of your time unhappy and more of it being happy until it is normal for you to be happy. Sounds trite, but like anything else, it gets better if you practice.",
"If you aren't happy in your life, you're the only one who can make it better. You are in control of your life and how it makes you feel. \n\nYou say you don't have a job, go out and get one. Doesn't have to be fancy or make a lot of money, just delivering pizza or being a cashier will give you some cash and get your parents off your back a bit when you're out of the house. \n\nNow that you have a bit of spending money, start developing a hobby. Doesn't have to cost a lot, painting and drawing are fairly inexpensive, or a ukulele can cost as little as $20! \n\nAs far as friends, put yourself out there! There are tons of groups on places like Meetup that you can check out. If you're into fitness, or aren't and want to start getting in better shape, look up a local running club or ultimate frisbee team! Maybe get a gym membership. (Exercise releases endorphin which improve your mood, and it has been repeatedly shown to counteract depression).\n\nIf you're looking for long term career goals, see if you can get started learning a trade, or take some classes part time at the local community college. \n\nAlso, living with mean parents is rough. Try your best to find ways to fill your time outside the house, with learning, work, et cetera. And then when you're able to afford your own apartment, gtfo! \n\nI know I just threw a lot at you, but don't think you need to do all of this at once. Take it step by step, and I'm confident that you'll be happier with your life over time as you progress. There's no shortcut, but I believe in you, you can do it! ",
"Being happy isn't a behavior or a method of living. Do not engage in behavior that is harmful to yourself and others. Then, extend this to your words. Then to your thoughts. Watch what happens. ",
"What has helped me be happy is doing things for other people. It makes me feel good about myself and happiness is contagious 😀 try volunteering with animals or help in a project close that excites you. ",
"I'm going to make a strange suggestion op so I hope you're open-minded and truly want help.\n\nhttp://www.humankindness.org/prison-ashram-project/\n\nThis is an amazing group of human beings. Mostly they cater to the incarcerated, but honestly, your situation reminds me alot of my time in prison. \n\nI was alone, scared, and surrounded by people who's job it was to break me down.\n\nI was beyond hopeless until I came across one of their many inspirational books [We're All Doing Time](http://www.lulu.com/shop/bo-lozoff/were-all-doing-time-a-guide-for-getting-free/ebook/product-22043069.html). While it's aimed at prisoners, the lessons, insights, compassion and love can be used by anyone. The ebook is 8.99 but I feel confident that if you were to contact them, they'd provide you with a free copy. I received many free books from them as well as a quarterly news letter.\n\nThe primary focus revolves around inner-focus and coming to a place where you can be okay with you.\n\nI wish you the best and feel for your situation. You can overcome this and you will. The very fact that you're reaching out for help is a *huge* step.\n\nMerry Christmas and feel free to pm me if you've got questions or just need someone to talk to.",
"do not give a fu*k about what others think.\nIf you are still at school, focus on that, go to the library on your time off...if you are old, find a job..anything that keeps you away from your home.",
"Yeah, be happy by doing something successfully. No hobbies? Find one. No job? Again find one. No friends? Go out and meet people.\n\nYou're basically saying I want to be happy, but I don't want to do anything that will make me happy.\n\n",
"Stop masturbating, you'll have a lot of energy and motivation to do other things. Get a job and get out of your parent's home. ",
"If you have a hard time finding what you can do to focus on yourself, start volunteering for community service or at an animal shelter. It will get you out of the house and get you to focus on something else. \n\nI don't know if you believe in souls or whatever, but being part of a community can help you feel better of your surroundings and help you feel not alone. Pretty much helps your soul to feel better. \n\nSending lots of love to yah, keep your chin up!",
"I would even suggest try some online video games(MMORPG).\nMyself have a lot of friends, but i have some friends that i met in online while playing World of Warcraft like 3 years ago.\nWe are still friends and keep touch almost everyday and met in real life many times having fun. Try and suprise not all people are assholes in internet/online.",
"I think that happiness is succeeding in what you believe. Deep inside, we all know what we should do, when we are wrong or right. Focus on changing, and little by little you will see differences in your life... but it sure takes time. ",
"Hit the gym, start jogging and taking coldshowers regularly, and learn to respect yourself. \n\nI think that will help you with your low self esteem, which I think is the problem you don't tell us about. ",
"Happiness comes from the inside. If you force yourself to be happy, it won't be the same and it also won't last that long depending on what you do and in what current situation you're in. Thats my experience",
"Go make friends, try a hobby. It sounds like you're holding yourself back and trying to tell yourself it's other people's fault you're unhappy. I was the same, until one day I thought \"what the fuck am I doing moping all the time?\" So I tried to find one thing I considered beautiful every day. Now when I pass by the things (like a tree or something) it makes me happy!",
"For me, happiness comes with a sense of purpose. The more I work the happier I am. There are obviously limits to that. I wasn't happy working 70 hour weeks. But 50-60 was the sweet spot. I hate not working. I feel useless and low and bored. Even when I was between careers I worked part time in lower level jobs because it just makes me feel better to get out of bed and work. Even when I can complain about people I work with, I'd still rather be working. "
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"company might ask for a proof of the competing offer and I don’t know what to do I’ve got three job offers so far, call it company A, B, and C. \n\nC is the lowest offer, so this can be disregard.\n\n- Company B long story short: negotiated and met me at the bottom of my range. I then said, “let me think about it cause I’ve got two other offers to review.” I revealed the highest offer (added extra $3k in there), then company B said they wanted to give me a competitive offer but need to discuss internally. I havent heard back from them since. It’s been two days.\n\n- Company A: highest offer yet, but it was $4k under my asking salary. I’m just disappointed cause they seemed okay with the range I mentioned during interview. This company is my top candidate so far. I want to see if they can give me additional $4k per year (to meet me at my asking salary). \nThree people who interviewed me within the company have reached out to me separately telling me how impressed they are with my skills and hope to see me joining the team. I haven’t countered or anything by far. I only told one of the three people about my other potential higher offer situation (this person has big influence to the decision maker, but not directly related to the team that I’ll be working with). She said that the decision maker is a very reasonable guy, so as long as I can proof my higher offer to him, he’d be most likely grant me the salary too. Now, I’m stuck cause company B hasn’t got back to me yet, so I wont have the proof if the guy ever asked a screenshot of my higher offer.\n\nWhat would you do if you were me? Should I counter the guy at Company A without bringing up Company B’s offer? Or should I still bring it up and just tell him I’m not comfortable to share the screenshot?\n\nIf I didnt bring up the other offer to Company A’s decision maker, would it be weird since I already told the lady within the company about my situation? Will they think I’m bluffing?\n\nTIA!\n\nUpdate: I negotiated with company A to meet me at my requested salary and mentioned the other two offers. The guy never asked for a screenshot and just gave me the salary I requested. Thanks for all the help you guys!",
"company might ask for a proof of the competing offer and I don’t know what to do I’ve got three job offers so far, call it company A, B, and C. \n\nC is the lowest offer, so this can be disregard.\n\n- Company B long story short: negotiated and met me at the bottom of my range. I then said, “let me think about it cause I’ve got two other offers to review.” I revealed the highest offer (added extra $3k in there), then company B said they wanted to give me a competitive offer but need to discuss internally. I havent heard back from them since. It’s been two days.\n\n- Company A: highest offer yet, but it was $4k under my asking salary. I’m just disappointed cause they seemed okay with the range I mentioned during interview. This company is my top candidate so far. I want to see if they can give me additional $4k per year (to meet me at my asking salary). \nThree people who interviewed me within the company have reached out to me separately telling me how impressed they are with my skills and hope to see me joining the team. I haven’t countered or anything by far. I only told one of the three people about my other potential higher offer situation (this person has big influence to the decision maker, but not directly related to the team that I’ll be working with). She said that the decision maker is a very reasonable guy, so as long as I can proof my higher offer to him, he’d be most likely grant me the salary too. Now, I’m stuck cause company B hasn’t got back to me yet, so I wont have the proof if the guy ever asked a screenshot of my higher offer.\n\nWhat would you do if you were me? Should I counter the guy at Company A without bringing up Company B’s offer? Or should I still bring it up and just tell him I’m not comfortable to share the screenshot?\n\nIf I didnt bring up the other offer to Company A’s decision maker, would it be weird since I already told the lady within the company about my situation? Will they think I’m bluffing?\n\nTIA!\n\nUpdate: I negotiated with company A to meet me at my requested salary and mentioned the other two offers. The guy never asked for a screenshot and just gave me the salary I requested. Thanks for all the help you guys!",
"company might ask for a proof of the competing offer and I don’t know what to do I’ve got three job offers so far, call it company A, B, and C. \n\nC is the lowest offer, so this can be disregard.\n\n- Company B long story short: negotiated and met me at the bottom of my range. I then said, “let me think about it cause I’ve got two other offers to review.” I revealed the highest offer (added extra $3k in there), then company B said they wanted to give me a competitive offer but need to discuss internally. I havent heard back from them since. It’s been two days.\n\n- Company A: highest offer yet, but it was $4k under my asking salary. I’m just disappointed cause they seemed okay with the range I mentioned during interview. This company is my top candidate so far. I want to see if they can give me additional $4k per year (to meet me at my asking salary). \nThree people who interviewed me within the company have reached out to me separately telling me how impressed they are with my skills and hope to see me joining the team. I haven’t countered or anything by far. I only told one of the three people about my other potential higher offer situation (this person has big influence to the decision maker, but not directly related to the team that I’ll be working with). She said that the decision maker is a very reasonable guy, so as long as I can proof my higher offer to him, he’d be most likely grant me the salary too. Now, I’m stuck cause company B hasn’t got back to me yet, so I wont have the proof if the guy ever asked a screenshot of my higher offer.\n\nWhat would you do if you were me? Should I counter the guy at Company A without bringing up Company B’s offer? Or should I still bring it up and just tell him I’m not comfortable to share the screenshot?\n\nIf I didnt bring up the other offer to Company A’s decision maker, would it be weird since I already told the lady within the company about my situation? Will they think I’m bluffing?\n\nTIA!\n\nUpdate: I negotiated with company A to meet me at my requested salary and mentioned the other two offers. The guy never asked for a screenshot and just gave me the salary I requested. Thanks for all the help you guys!",
"company might ask for a proof of the competing offer and I don’t know what to do I’ve got three job offers so far, call it company A, B, and C. \n\nC is the lowest offer, so this can be disregard.\n\n- Company B long story short: negotiated and met me at the bottom of my range. I then said, “let me think about it cause I’ve got two other offers to review.” I revealed the highest offer (added extra $3k in there), then company B said they wanted to give me a competitive offer but need to discuss internally. I havent heard back from them since. It’s been two days.\n\n- Company A: highest offer yet, but it was $4k under my asking salary. I’m just disappointed cause they seemed okay with the range I mentioned during interview. This company is my top candidate so far. I want to see if they can give me additional $4k per year (to meet me at my asking salary). \nThree people who interviewed me within the company have reached out to me separately telling me how impressed they are with my skills and hope to see me joining the team. I haven’t countered or anything by far. I only told one of the three people about my other potential higher offer situation (this person has big influence to the decision maker, but not directly related to the team that I’ll be working with). She said that the decision maker is a very reasonable guy, so as long as I can proof my higher offer to him, he’d be most likely grant me the salary too. Now, I’m stuck cause company B hasn’t got back to me yet, so I wont have the proof if the guy ever asked a screenshot of my higher offer.\n\nWhat would you do if you were me? Should I counter the guy at Company A without bringing up Company B’s offer? Or should I still bring it up and just tell him I’m not comfortable to share the screenshot?\n\nIf I didnt bring up the other offer to Company A’s decision maker, would it be weird since I already told the lady within the company about my situation? Will they think I’m bluffing?\n\nTIA!\n\nUpdate: I negotiated with company A to meet me at my requested salary and mentioned the other two offers. The guy never asked for a screenshot and just gave me the salary I requested. Thanks for all the help you guys!",
"company might ask for a proof of the competing offer and I don’t know what to do I’ve got three job offers so far, call it company A, B, and C. \n\nC is the lowest offer, so this can be disregard.\n\n- Company B long story short: negotiated and met me at the bottom of my range. I then said, “let me think about it cause I’ve got two other offers to review.” I revealed the highest offer (added extra $3k in there), then company B said they wanted to give me a competitive offer but need to discuss internally. I havent heard back from them since. It’s been two days.\n\n- Company A: highest offer yet, but it was $4k under my asking salary. I’m just disappointed cause they seemed okay with the range I mentioned during interview. This company is my top candidate so far. I want to see if they can give me additional $4k per year (to meet me at my asking salary). \nThree people who interviewed me within the company have reached out to me separately telling me how impressed they are with my skills and hope to see me joining the team. I haven’t countered or anything by far. I only told one of the three people about my other potential higher offer situation (this person has big influence to the decision maker, but not directly related to the team that I’ll be working with). She said that the decision maker is a very reasonable guy, so as long as I can proof my higher offer to him, he’d be most likely grant me the salary too. Now, I’m stuck cause company B hasn’t got back to me yet, so I wont have the proof if the guy ever asked a screenshot of my higher offer.\n\nWhat would you do if you were me? Should I counter the guy at Company A without bringing up Company B’s offer? Or should I still bring it up and just tell him I’m not comfortable to share the screenshot?\n\nIf I didnt bring up the other offer to Company A’s decision maker, would it be weird since I already told the lady within the company about my situation? Will they think I’m bluffing?\n\nTIA!\n\nUpdate: I negotiated with company A to meet me at my requested salary and mentioned the other two offers. The guy never asked for a screenshot and just gave me the salary I requested. Thanks for all the help you guys!",
"company might ask for a proof of the competing offer and I don’t know what to do I’ve got three job offers so far, call it company A, B, and C. \n\nC is the lowest offer, so this can be disregard.\n\n- Company B long story short: negotiated and met me at the bottom of my range. I then said, “let me think about it cause I’ve got two other offers to review.” I revealed the highest offer (added extra $3k in there), then company B said they wanted to give me a competitive offer but need to discuss internally. I havent heard back from them since. It’s been two days.\n\n- Company A: highest offer yet, but it was $4k under my asking salary. I’m just disappointed cause they seemed okay with the range I mentioned during interview. This company is my top candidate so far. I want to see if they can give me additional $4k per year (to meet me at my asking salary). \nThree people who interviewed me within the company have reached out to me separately telling me how impressed they are with my skills and hope to see me joining the team. I haven’t countered or anything by far. I only told one of the three people about my other potential higher offer situation (this person has big influence to the decision maker, but not directly related to the team that I’ll be working with). She said that the decision maker is a very reasonable guy, so as long as I can proof my higher offer to him, he’d be most likely grant me the salary too. Now, I’m stuck cause company B hasn’t got back to me yet, so I wont have the proof if the guy ever asked a screenshot of my higher offer.\n\nWhat would you do if you were me? Should I counter the guy at Company A without bringing up Company B’s offer? Or should I still bring it up and just tell him I’m not comfortable to share the screenshot?\n\nIf I didnt bring up the other offer to Company A’s decision maker, would it be weird since I already told the lady within the company about my situation? Will they think I’m bluffing?\n\nTIA!\n\nUpdate: I negotiated with company A to meet me at my requested salary and mentioned the other two offers. The guy never asked for a screenshot and just gave me the salary I requested. Thanks for all the help you guys!"
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"Just say it's a verbal offer at the moment if asked Which is true. \n\nOr avoid the competing salary comparisons all together. Tell them that you like the company over your other offers and want to work there but because of your experiences in x (anything relevant), you're actually looking for your salary to be closer to xxxxxx (your desired amount)",
"Tell them you don't want to name the company and you're not comfortable sharing the screenshot and then say you're happy to negotiate but you want to find what works best for both of us, \"what can you do to get it closer to the top of my range?\" and be prepared for them to call your bluff and take the other offer if you need to.\n\nDon't let them pressure you into accepting within 72 hours of an offer or whatever.\n\nOnce they offer you, a company has spent an average of $5k recruiting a new employee. You have leverage here in the sense that they're not going to rescind the offer because you're playing hardball, they just have an objective budget they can work with for your salary. Just make sure you're polite, smile whenever you need to be assertive, and you'll be fine.",
"Tell them the other offer includes a confidentiality agreement. And just tell them what salary you need to say \"yes\".",
"Isn't a job offer kind of a \"commercial confidential\" sort of thing on the prospective employer's part?\n\nI mean, you can reveal the amount to the competing prospective employer, but I would not reveal the name of -- let alone show them the offer you got from other P.E.",
"You don’t need proof. The confidence is your proof. Just say “I like what you’re doing here and would love to join the team, but I have a better offer and can’t justify turning it down. Can you meet their offer of $X?” \n\nLook them in the eye. Amp yourself up beforehand and play it like you’re the one at the poker table that everyone fears but nobody can read. Even if they don’t bite, their will be other jobs. Go get it!",
"When negotiating you should figure your low before starting and then any offer over it you should consider a win and accept. \n\nIf all salaries were equal, which company would you join? This is the one you should go with.\n\nAsk for the salary that you want and see what happens. Dont make it about the other company. You want to work for this company. Make it about that. When they come back to you, \"think about it\" for 24 hours then accept.\n\nYes its a shame that companies haggle over what is little to them and a lot to us. On the other hand joining the right company (if joining a company is your thing) is more important in the long run than the starting salary is in the short run."
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"How to stop blushing in front of the guy you like? It's a co-worker and I don't want him to know I like him but I can't help but blush every time he talks to me. Help!"
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"Well first let's look at what exactly happens to your body when one blushes. ” Given a stimulus such as embarrassment, the person's sympathetic nervous system will cause blood vessels to open wide, flooding the skin with blood and resulting in reddening of the face. In some people, the ears, neck and upper chest may also blush.” (First thing that came up with a Google search). So that being said we can medically eliminate this problem (I'm not a doctor but more of a jack of all trades). Finding something that constricts blood vessels would be my guess on how we can solve our problem. After another quick Google search I found what does constrict, our good friends caffeine, cocaine and nicotine. May not be the answer you might have wanted but it's not a wrong answer. \n",
"Update: For all you guys that cared about my silly problem here, for the past three days the guy has not looked at me once. He's been in my office (talking with my co-worker) but hasn't said hello or looked at me. These are the 3 likely options I can think of:\n\n1. He likes me and is as shy as me so he's giving me a taste of my own medicine (this is my fav of the options, obviously)\n\n2. He has a gf/doesn't like me and wants to make it extra clear\n\n3. He realized I stalked the living hell out of his name online and thinks I'm a creepster and wants to limit all sorts of unnecessary interaction.\n\nThoughts??"
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"How to get over a fear you know is irrational? Seeking advice- I am a 25 y/o and have an extreme irrational fear of a movie villian I saw in middle school. I know it's irrational (i.e. not real) but can't help being terrified when I think about it (usually at night). "
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"Us irrational people have to stick together! I have what some would call mild paranoia: not enough to attack someone I see in Walmart twice because I think he's following me, but I still have a plan and prepare for as many possible problems as I can. This naturally gives me a little anxiety going out into the world, but I got over it with a series of odd-sounding events:\n\nFirst I read a piece of advice that I can find the link to if you're interested, it read that if there was anything you fear, read a survival guide on what to do if you jump/fall out of a plane at 35000 feet. The idea is that knowledge and capability is true power, which inspires confidence: you can survive a 35000 foot fall, you can work through your fear of a fictional ghost-girl-thing, no matter how creepy.\n\nSecond was that ever since I was a legal age I've been (legally, fyi) carrying a handgun concealed. My first gun was a Glock 19, fit like a glove and I could hammer nails with that thing. I practiced drawing it often, took it down to the range, I felt empowered that I had a weapon. This was an error, because the gun didn't make me more or less capable of survival, it was my skills and strength that was the true weapon, the gun was just a tool. I worked out, learned and trained improvising survival situations, and made myself capable of anything, similar to the first lesson.\n\nThe third was when I got a hernia, and for the first two weeks after surgery I was useless. I couldn't lift more than 10 pounds, couldn't walk faster than an old man with a walker, and if I jarred those lower abdominal muscles I'd be floored from the pain, but life goes on and I still had to go out into the world. It wasn't easy, I had nightmares that kept me up at night about break-ins and robberies and muggings, I'd be defenseless, helpless... But none of those things happened. What helped was coming to terms with it. If it was going to happen, fuck it, it'll happen. \n\nNothing did, but I had a lot of time to ponder the careful lesson(TL;DR): prepare for battles, but only fight the battle you face now, and no others",
"Confront it. Look at pictures of it, watch the movie again. Print a picture and keep it in your wallet. When your brain associates the thing you are afraid with your safe environment and condition it will reprogram to associate the thing you are afraid with as safe.\n"
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"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**",
"How to converse with someone whom might be dieing soon? My Grandmother has had the thought she is only going to live for one more year for the past 30 years and we all got so used to it that we have ignored it. But the last few weeks her health (appears) to be declining and she is seemingly trying to get her effects in order. \nNow, I have a different attitude to death and don't get upset about loosing someone, but it did get me thinking. How can I hold a conversation with someone who might die soon and make them feel a little better? \n**"
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"Talk about the past. Talk about past holidays/family gatherings. Remember that time uncle bill burned the turkey in the deep fryer? Stuff like that. \n\nOr ask about their childhood/college years/etc. older people usually have lots of stories to tell. Even if you've heard some of them, listen anyway. You may find out something fascinating about your family history that you never knew before. ",
"Talk about the good things. My grandmother passed away exactly a month ago. The first person I've ever lost who was actually close to me. The last 2 months of her life, my cousin and I took care of her. We just chilled and watched tv and talked about the past. The good things. Constantly tried to make her smile and laugh. I never left the room without looking at her and telling her just how much I love her. God, I miss that woman. Enjoy every second you can with her. ",
"Make them laugh, jokes make everyone feel better. I wouldn't try to reminisce about the past and remind them of what is being lost, unless they bring it up, even then I might change the subject to something more current/amusing. \n\nAsk what they might like or need and facilitate that. Treat them with respect so they feel appreciated and honored by your presence. IE, like it's their birthday.\n\nIf they are uncomfortable with so much focus on them, include them, but converse with others available. So they can share in the fun entertainment without having to be \"on\".\n",
"I recently had a pretty bad cancer diagnosis, and I started to get my things in order just in case. But it seemed that almost everyone around me didn't know how to handle me being sick, so they didn't say anything. I don't blame them since I had no clue to say when my sister got sick a few years ago. \n\nThe most important thing is to go talk to them. See what they want to talk about. Also, sit down and think if there is anything you want to know from them before they are gone. \n\nBut just being there for them would be my advice. They might not want to talk much, or only talk about you. They might even want you to leave, but give them the option. Good luck, I know it's hard. ",
"Keep talking to them even after they slip into a comatose level of consciousness, hearing is believed to be the last sense to shut off.",
"All I know is that if I'm dying and people know, that they still talk to me like a god damn adult and don't get all weird around me. The last thing I want is for my conversations with everyone to drastically change because that will constantly remind me of my impending death. I'd say just talk to her like you always have. ",
"I'm currently working in a hospice so I talk to **a lot** of dying people. The best thing is to make it clear you know she is dying but to treat her as the same person. Whatever brought her comfort/happiness before will probably still do so.\n\nAsk her what makes her happy/brings her comfort (foods, entertainment, going outside, etc), if she has anything she wants to do before she dies (plans for leaving her legacy, seeing specific people, any religious/cultural rites of passage etc), and talk about whatever is important to her in that moment. Some people really want to talk about dying and if you are comfortable having that conversation it can be a relief to have someone willing to address the elephant in the room).\n\nMost importantly, use the same language as she does; some people feel strongly about using \"die\" instead of \"pass away\" and people often feel unheard if you're using colloquialisms they are not familiar with as it doesn't resonate with them.",
"Honestly. That is the best way and make sure you say everything you want to say.\nThere was a superlative talk on TED by a male nurse who dealt with dying people. I will try to find it for you.\n\n",
"With my husband's grandparents I always tried to keep my mouth shut and listen. If grandma started to mention breakfast I wanted to hear every detail. If grandpa worried about the rain I would ask him all about the details. And if either one brought up something sad, like dying soon, I never blew them off with things like \"You're too young to die\" or \"It's going to be okay\".",
"I work in a hospital and talk to people before they die almost everyday. Just talk to them like it's any other day. If it's a guy and he's watching a baseball game, I'll usually start talking about baseball. If it's a girl and she's sitting there knitting, I'll mention something like how awesome it'd be if she'd knit the world's largest scarf. Anything that takes their mind off of the current situation they're going through. Even if it's just for a couple of minutes.",
"First, be kind to yourself. Your mind is going to be obsessed with her death. It is going to keep intruding on your thoughts. We all manifest this in different ways. Some of us break down weeping as we try desperately to keep things together. Some of us try to talk through it, work it out. Some of us will try to make the best of things and hyper-focus on taking care of the person we are about to lose. Weeping, talking about it, and taking care are important ways to cope. You need to cope. So, be kind to yourself.\n\nThat said. The person dying also has their own shit they need to process. They are dying. So, in the moments that you have the strength, try to defer to how they want to cope. Reflect on how your grandmom has dealt with problems in the past. How does she cope? Is she a talker? Does she avoid problems? Does she shrug and say \"Tough shit\"? Try to do things her way.\n\nFinally, how does she show love? We all try to communicate we care in different ways. One of my best friends always forwards information about fixes to problems or answers to questions to show he cares. My grandfather does it by telling stories and jokes. Another friend does it by trying to put others first. Try to speak to her in her own language.\n\nAgain, be kind to yourself. It can be overwhelming. There's no need to pretend everything is normal and everyday. But be there for her, you will have time later for yourself.",
"When my grandfather was dying he was often too weak and tired to hold a conversation or keep his eyes open, but he liked having family around and just listen to the chatter. He'd chime in if he felt strong enough. Talking about old memories and good times. We also had some music playing as he was huge music fan and a musician himself. I think it made him feel more at ease knowing someone would always be there.\n\nI don't know what kind of shape your grandmother is in, but if she gets to that point I recommend having as much family around as possible. Keep her surronded by the people and things she loves most. On top of helping my grandfather, it also helped the rest of us. ",
"Talk about the things you know they love and do things for them that will comfort them. For my Aunt, I put lotion on her dry arms, I got her coffee, I played music I knew she liked, I showed her pictures of some art I had just seen. We talked about things we had done together since I was little. We talked about little things and some big things she was worried about. It was whatever she wanted to talk about. So, play it by ear, be observant and go with what you know they love. Watching her die reminded me that what matters most in life is what the people in it have done for us and what we do for them to show our love. Anyone can say they love you, it's what they do about it that matters. I'm glad you're being there for her now, when it matters.",
"Just go and spend some time with her! That is so important, just sitting there and talking about normal stuff will make her day. She will probably guide the conversation, and may ask you the same things over and over, but you will be glad you visited. ",
"I think just act normal with them. Let THEM guide the interaction and decide when to speak and what to talk about. Just be there.",
"I am a live-in caregiver. So i have a lot of pain experience with death.one of the comments was right on the money: talk about the good times. I would also add remind them that the family loves her. Spend time talking with her, ask lots of questions and let her do most of the talking. Notify her friends and encourage them to Visit or at least call her. Bring her favorit foods. Just spending time with her will help. Some people just dont take it well and there is nothing you can do to make her feel betterm Lastly she knows she is dying so be candid and ask what you can do for her. Be strong for her. PM me if you have more questions. All the best to you and her. ",
"Don't shy away from talking about the fact that she is trying to get her effects in order, or the fact that she feels she is dying. When my Mum was dying from cancer (and knew she was), nobody except me would talk about what she wanted to happen when she died, what kind of funeral she wanted etc. I'm not saying to bring it up unless your grandmother does first, but if she does mention it, don't shy away from it.",
"Different circumstances for me as my grandparents died when I was young, but I have experienced the \"impending\" period with someone younger. What worked for us was talking about what she wanted carried forward in the world in her name. By which I mean absorbing as many memories as you possibly can (from favourite colour to worst movie). The random conversations you need to have to get this rounded understanding of another person will make you laugh and cry. But it's just shootin' the breeze. In common with other views on this thread, I'd suggest avoiding getting into the death thing, unless driven by her. I think that's different with older folks though, so just use your gut.",
"Any unanswered questions will go with her, when she goes. From personal experience, the questions I ask family members are often muddled by their own memories of events. My 2¢ worth.",
"your grandmother has seen so much change in her life; i'd ask her about life when she was growing up - how is it so different than the life we (as children) live nowadays; i enjoy talking to my grandparents today about their childhood and how it compares to my childhood & the childhood of their great grandchildren; my grandfather loves talking about the changes in cars over the years & the cars he has had; however, i'm an odd ball because i can sit and talk to elders for hours - really, i listen while they talk - the best part is watching their face light up!\n\nask her about her best day; ask her about the guys she dated; ask her about your grandfather: meeting him, dating him, marrying him, etc. - i love those stories\n\nenjoy the conversation and time together\n\nyou're so lucky!",
"You talk about why you love them. Why you will miss them. Your common past. And here is something you can tell them. Look her closely in the face and say \"Grandma, when you die, part of us will die with you. So you can never be alone.\" This may or may not make sense to you know but almost assuredly it will make her feel better. kind regards. ",
"Why talk to her any differently than you have previously? They are probably thinking about dying, and I dunno, do you think they want to focus on that? Maybe go out of your way to make sure you hug, kiss, tell her you love her, etc. but, if I was dying, I would want everyone to treat me normally and not revolve everything around my inevitable death, I think that might make it harder for me to deal with.\n\nI dunno because I'm still kind of young but I imagine I wouldn't want the conversation to revolve around me dying.",
"Well... Recently my grandfather passed away. Actually it was earlier this evening. I was expecting it. He had been on the downward spiral for a while now but he is no longer in pain anymore. One thing I must stress enough is clear your heart. Tell them everything you ever wanted to. Talk to them, not at them. As they get progressively worse people often talk like the loved one isn't with us anymore. They hear everything! Hearing is the last sense to go. Use that to your advantage. I know you just asked about conversations with them. But this advice will come in handy later, unfortunately. I always found it to be easier to have another person in the room weather it be a friend or a family member to talk about the good times everyone had with the individual. Best of luck to you mate. ",
"Try to think of all the things you've always wanted to know... or will in the future, and ASK. I have lost all my grandparents and also my dad. When my maternal grandma was starting to get older and ill, I made it my mission to learn how to cook some of my favorite things she made me, so I could always have \"grandma's chicken soup\" and things like that. In these talks, I learned that my great-grandparents didn't attend her wedding because they didn't approve of my grandpa, I heard tales of my grandma's adventures through Europe w/my grandpa & their BFFs, and so many other things that she'd never told me.\n\nMy dad wasn't as easily available to me... and we had a terse relationship to say the least, so when things took a turn... it was just too late to patch anything up. I regret not being able to chat about the happier memories (I have a handful), and asking him the same things I asked my grandma. I want to know how he made his scrambled eggs taste so great, how his cube steak was delicious and mine is *super* mediocre, or let him know that my favorite color has been yellow since I was 4 and I found out his favorite color was yellow. \n\nIt's the littlest things that mean the most in the end. I think you'll do fine.",
"That depends on whether or not you have left anything unsaid that you want to say. I think, usually, it's better to converse as you always have. If they want to get deeper or pass on some wisdom, they will.",
"Talk to them like theyre a normal person. This is like asking how to not be racist. You just...don't be.",
"So, I find it interesting that you post this now as I am going through almost the exact same situation. My grandmother has been in poor health for the past few years and although my grandfather is in perfect health, he can no longer care for her. January 1st, we moved her into assisted living. It has been clear since Christmas that she probably won't survive the year. In fact, she just had another accident a couple weeks ago and was in the hospital for a few days. She was a very large part of my life when I was a child, but during my youth I found more important things to do than go see my grandparents. Now, faced with a deadline as it were, I'm trying to build this relationship and get to know her before its too late. \n\nMy advice to you is this: be open, be honest. We're talking about someone who loves you very deeply, who wishes nothing but the best for you, who has seen a lifetime and earned a lifetime's wisdom, who knows she is not long for this world. This is not a person who is going to sit in judgement on you. This is a person who wants nothing more than to have true, deep, personal connection. She feels alone in a way she never has before. This is an opportunity.\n\nTalk about her past. Talk about your lives together. Talk about your future. Nothing will give her hope like the hope for her family's future.\n\nThis is what I have been learning and I'm trying my best to act on it. I say the things I would normally withhold, because I know I'm not going to get another chance. I tell her everything about where I am in life and where I'm going. Most importantly I listen. I listen to her stories and her wisdom. This is what it means to be in relationship with someone. If you want to help your grandmother, give her a true, honest, personal relationship. You will never know what that will mean to her until you're in her position.",
"Share your feelings. Lost a friend to ovarian cancer. I would just tell her I loved her. When she was feeling good, we would talk about funny stuff we did at work. Sometimes just being there and holding there hand is all that is needed.",
"Reminiscing. Let them talk about their youth. Ask them about things that happened to them in school/adolescence/etc. talk about family events and gatherings of the past. Listen and be present. ",
"My grandmother passed away last Thursday. We all knew she wouldn't get better but we kept talking to her; about the family, about our day, about anything that might have peaked our interest. \nPersonally I had a really hard time trying to talk to her. Not when she was still very aware of everything but the last 2 weeks when her health really started declining... I didn't know what to talk about. I would just sit there most of the times and be there with her. \nThe last week of the life was very difficult for her. Lymph node cancer, hadn't had solid food in her stomach for weeks, would vomit as soon as she would drink water so her body just didn't have the energy and strength anymore to function properly. She could barely speak anymore due to build up of phlegm in her lungs/throat and asked for the family to come over the next day and said she was going to die soon. \nIn the morning of her death she was fighting really hard for air and we were all there, comforting her with words like 'We're here for you, you're not alone,' while holding her hand, stroking her leg, her face. Anything. \nYou don't have to say anything. Most of the times it is enough to just be there for her and say you love her. If you really need to feel the need to talk to her (and possibly make her feel better), talk about the times you had together. Make it count. \nGood luck, OP!",
"Just talk to them like a normal person. If they want to talk about dying, then they will bring it up (provided you are open enough with them and aren't acting anxious). Otherwise, conversation as normal.\n\nI used to work into a long term care facility and had a fair number of hospice cases (and some deaths that weren't hospice). They generally don't want things to be different, They want things to be comfortable and happy - like any of the rest of us.",
"I worked in the health care industry for about 2 years and I found the best way to talk to people that are dying is just don't talk them at all. It's usually fucking depressing. ",
"Don't force conversation. Don't be over-caring (like \"no, that food is bad for you\" or \"Let me just do this for you\"). Just listen and be there, relax, have a nice time with your grandmother. Do stuff she likes. When my ex' grandfather died I used to go over to his house and smoke cigars and drink beer with him, and there was no pressure, just two guys having a good time. And that is whats important, having a good time. Just relax and have a good time with your grandmother.",
"Be positive, Talk about their past, and talk about your future, make jokes.\n\nSurprise them by bringing their friends with you. (It was eye opening for me how many of my grandads friends were no longer able to drive). \n\nAlso bring food with you, (if necessary check with a hospital first) I used to take my grandad a meal a week (and arranged with the extended family for everyone else to do the same). \n\n",
"Went through this with my Dad not long ago. My Dad was incapable of speaking by this point & it wasn't clear if he was able to comprehend everything, but I didn't let that deter me. The words just happened, the topics kept coming. Current events, like how his beloved college football team was faring, to past events, like that one Christmas when the boys hated the tree & dug up one from the neighbors yard instead. \n\nDon't mourn her pending death, but instead celebrate her life. \n",
"Try to keep it as normal as possible, taking about immediate things going on. \n\nOther than avoiding topics like \"I can't wait for ***EVENT 6 MONTHS AWAY**** to happen\"- Keep it normal.",
"Dyeing: Add a color to or change the color of (something) by soaking it in a solution impregnated with a dye.\n\nDying: Occurring at or connected with the time that someone dies.\n\nDieing: To cut, form, or stamp with or as if with a die.\n",
"Like you would any other human. We're all going to die, and we all don't know when that will be. You could die before your grandmother.\n\nwhy does it matter when it happens?"
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"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? ",
"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? ",
"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? ",
"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? ",
"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? ",
"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? ",
"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? ",
"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? ",
"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? ",
"How do you back out of or defuse a building argument or debate? I don't tend to disagree or argue with most people but when I do I cannot seem to avoid heated arguments or debates. Try as I might to sway the conversation away from an argument I seem to always end up there. Is there a good way to defuse or stop the argument before it happens or builds? "
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"Well you can't control what the other person does, including making them understand you, using reason to talk them down, or their misunderstandings about what you say. So let's get that out of the way. \n\nIn cases where I feel someone is just not understanding me, I simply say \"I don't think we're understanding each other\" and just listen until the conversation dies out, or if it doesn't fizzle, excuse yourself. ",
"I would say I'm getting better at this, but it's hard. Some things I do are:\n\n1. Simply force yourself to pause more and think. If you stay cool it helps them to stay cool as well.\n\n2. Think what your end goal is. I hope you aren't trying to belittle the person and usually you don't mean to but that's what happens a lot. When you forget your end goal you start blabbering about nonsense.\n\n3. Figure out what their end goal is. Where are they trying to bring this? If you can beat them there, and understand where they're coming from, it's much easier to either back them out or come up with a compromise.",
"You can usually defang someone by telling them they're right. Usually people get heated when someone challenges a deeply held belief about something, because most people take it as an attack on their ego. Even if you disagree with what they're saying, you can probably find something to agree on. Fall back to common ground. Being told they're right reaffirms their ego, and puts them more at ease. \n\n\"Well, I disagree that climate change is a hoax, but you're probably right that we can't know how much of it is man-made.\"\n\n\"I agree with you that that was an awful crime, but have you seen the statistics on how many innocent people have been executed over the years? I'm not sure the death penalty is the best solution.\"\n\n\"You're right that gun control doesn't work, but I think better background checks would be a step in the right direction.\"\n\nBasically, acknowledge that their point has merit, then offer a rebuttal. Don't interrupt people or talk over people. Is the person you are speaking with swayed by logic or emotional appeals? Ask them why they feel the way they do about an issue, then adjust your tactics accordingly. In my capital punishment example, I offered an argument against it based on emotion. Is capital punishment worth it if there is a chance that the person is innocent? This line of debate may be effective on some, less so on others. But if you realized you're speaking with someone who favors logical arguments, you could try a different tack. \"Unfortunately, due to the appeals process, an execution ends up costing taxpayers more than life in prison would.\"\n\nThese are all hypothetical examples, but I hope they help.\n",
"Take the time to realize that heated arguments don't make anyone look good, even the person who's right. The smartest people know they don't know everything.",
"I usually just say something like: let's not get in to that right now/ I don't fancy a debate at the minute/ let's agree to disagree/ well I guess it's just different strokes for different folks!",
"I know a 5 year old that suddenly darkens, boiling storm clouds form over her little head, lightning strikes random objects around us, incoherent muttering.....that's my cue to run. \nI just run away to live another day.",
"* Change/abandon the topic (\"Hey, how about those...\")\n* Concede/surrender. Graciously, not with a snide/sarcastic parting comment. This is tough to swallow, but for the sake of not making things worse...\n\nIf you agree to disagree, don't revisit the topic until a decent amount of time (4+hrs) has passed. That doesn't mean I haven't experienced people try to restart the topic after a couple of minutes, and they were the ones who suggested the truce. I had to remind the person to take their own advice.",
"This might be topic driven. If you are passionate about the topic, but don't respect the person you're talking to, don't engage to start with. \n\nYou won't change them and they won't change you. \n\nIt's the old, \"Don't wrestle with a pig\" thing. ",
"There are debates/arguments becoz people have opinions that differ from yours. Their opinions, like your opinions, are formed as a result of variety of factors, such as upbringing, society etc. Now opinions can be moulded, but it takes a little time to do it. \nI'd say, invest that kind of time and energy, in people that are worth it, like a spouse, child, or colleague (only becoz you spend a lot of your waking hours with your colleagues - makes life easy, if you get along with them). \nDon't waste your time...\nP.S. Food for thought - Why do you get into arguments? Is it becoz you need to WIN? ",
"So, one of the best ways to prevent an argument form escalating is to demonstrate understanding of what the other side is saying. Something like \"I understand that you like Star Trek better and that you don't consider Star Wars Sci-Fi because of the Fantasy elements.\" Resist the urge to say \"but\" after demonstrating understanding. Then ask them to understand what you are saying. something like \"Can you understand that I like Star Wars better because it is less preachy and has better action scenes?\"\n\nYou get the idea. Make sure that everyone understands each other. Then if there is still disagreement, either work on a compromise or admit that there is no common ground."
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"How to read books faster I read at a pretty average pace, but I read a book a month maximum, which is just sad since I love books and I love reading, I just don't finish books quickly. Sometimes it will take so long I get frustrated and don't finish the book. Do I just need to motivate myself to read more somehow? Is there a planning method I need?",
"How to read books faster I read at a pretty average pace, but I read a book a month maximum, which is just sad since I love books and I love reading, I just don't finish books quickly. Sometimes it will take so long I get frustrated and don't finish the book. Do I just need to motivate myself to read more somehow? Is there a planning method I need?",
"How to read books faster I read at a pretty average pace, but I read a book a month maximum, which is just sad since I love books and I love reading, I just don't finish books quickly. Sometimes it will take so long I get frustrated and don't finish the book. Do I just need to motivate myself to read more somehow? Is there a planning method I need?",
"How to read books faster I read at a pretty average pace, but I read a book a month maximum, which is just sad since I love books and I love reading, I just don't finish books quickly. Sometimes it will take so long I get frustrated and don't finish the book. Do I just need to motivate myself to read more somehow? Is there a planning method I need?",
"How to read books faster I read at a pretty average pace, but I read a book a month maximum, which is just sad since I love books and I love reading, I just don't finish books quickly. Sometimes it will take so long I get frustrated and don't finish the book. Do I just need to motivate myself to read more somehow? Is there a planning method I need?"
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"Don't say the words you read in your head. Jump with eyes 3to 4 times per row. Your brain will realize more than you think. You can train this with newspaper articles cause the columns are smaller then lines in books. Sorry I am no native English speaker so I hope you get the point. Feel free to ask if you don't understand something.",
"Preface: I'm 56 yrs old, now. \nWhen I was a kid, my mom made me go to summer school (for years) to learn how to speed read. I doubt they have these machines anymore, and I suspect you're too old for the late 1960s, early 1970s machines. It was 1 machine per student, so the student could read at their own speed. Each physical line of the book's text, whether it was a full sentence or not, was projected on a small screen. You sped up or slowed down based on your comfort level. Comprehension tests were given so the school could tell if you were understanding what you were reading at the speed you chose. \n\nIt's 2017 now, I think there is something like this online. And hopefully, for your age group. It really works. I still read very quickly (in my opinion) but it can take two nights of reading before bed to finish an average paperback.",
"There are exercises that you can do to improve your reading speed. I don't have any specific links, but I'm sure that if you search for speed reading techniques you'll find something.",
"Been reading my whole life; have a “relaxed” pace of ~300 words per minute. Once clocked in a speed reading class at ~700 wpm.\n\nOne of the tips I recall from that class is using your finger as a guide for what you’re reading; your eyes will “scan” more smoothly, which gives your reading a bit of a boost & decreases the effort your eyes need.\n\nOne other thing: scan the whole page, then go back and read it line-by-line. This goes along w/ what @pzit1788 suggested; you can often even get away with just scanning whole pages.",
"Fast reading is a skill that can be learned - run a quick search on the App Store for \"read faster\" and there are a couple of apps to choose from, such as Acceleread. I'd recommend giving it a go. "
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"how to stop stomach noise? \n\nHello reddit\n\nDoes anyone know of any way to stop stomach noises/growling. My stomach has been making a lot of noise in quiet places. I've tried everything. Eating snacks regularly or trying to pinch in my stomach or drinking liquids. It has not worked. I've had the situation for 3 years now. I've been kind of ashamed to talk to my doctor. Any recommendations would be appreciated.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to stop stomach noise? \n\nHello reddit\n\nDoes anyone know of any way to stop stomach noises/growling. My stomach has been making a lot of noise in quiet places. I've tried everything. Eating snacks regularly or trying to pinch in my stomach or drinking liquids. It has not worked. I've had the situation for 3 years now. I've been kind of ashamed to talk to my doctor. Any recommendations would be appreciated.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to stop stomach noise? \n\nHello reddit\n\nDoes anyone know of any way to stop stomach noises/growling. My stomach has been making a lot of noise in quiet places. I've tried everything. Eating snacks regularly or trying to pinch in my stomach or drinking liquids. It has not worked. I've had the situation for 3 years now. I've been kind of ashamed to talk to my doctor. Any recommendations would be appreciated.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to stop stomach noise? \n\nHello reddit\n\nDoes anyone know of any way to stop stomach noises/growling. My stomach has been making a lot of noise in quiet places. I've tried everything. Eating snacks regularly or trying to pinch in my stomach or drinking liquids. It has not worked. I've had the situation for 3 years now. I've been kind of ashamed to talk to my doctor. Any recommendations would be appreciated.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to stop stomach noise? \n\nHello reddit\n\nDoes anyone know of any way to stop stomach noises/growling. My stomach has been making a lot of noise in quiet places. I've tried everything. Eating snacks regularly or trying to pinch in my stomach or drinking liquids. It has not worked. I've had the situation for 3 years now. I've been kind of ashamed to talk to my doctor. Any recommendations would be appreciated.\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n"
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"I have lots of intestinal problems right now. First, find out if that's just gas moving through your intestines. If so, try to avoid sodas and so (I'd bet on this). I had this situation where being in class was always like being on the first date. Gas building up with the challenge of not being able to release. The recess and times between class was always \"open the valve\" time.... If you know what i mean.... But during the class, I could clearly hear all that gas moving, people would look at me and I'd complain about being hungry, anyway, that was better than looking back and saying \"dude, I'm building the biggest fart ever right now\", even though I wasn't hungry at all. \nAnyways, I'd recommend you go see a doctor, if it's what I say it is, he can give you advice in which kind of diet to follow or maybe take some meds that suppress the gas. I'm going myself next week, have to explain all my recent sudden diarrhea in public places issue. Don't be ashamed.",
"You could turn up the music.\n\nOr you could suck it up and talk to a doctor. This is easy sauce for those guys.",
"It is called a gastric bubble. 70% of adults have it in varying degrees. It is actually visible on an xray.\n\nI started eating a ketogenic diet (check out r/keto ) and my bubble went away and this never happens anymore.\n\nThere are yoga moves that can help move it around and possibly release it. \n",
"If you want to start small, use something like Beano just before meals:\n\nhttp://www.beanogas.com/\n\nFriends of friends are Foley Artists who had a similar problem. Stomach gurgles would ruin their work. Taking anti-gas tablets cleared it up quite easily. \n\nIf that proves to be of no help, then escalate to a doctor visit. ",
"I had this problem, I recommend eating slowly and also for some reason bananas helped for me. Also I always had a drink with me in quiet places and for some reason when drinking fizzy drinks I would be able to control it more. "
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"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?",
"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?",
"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?",
"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?",
"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?",
"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?",
"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?",
"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?",
"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?",
"How to teach yourself to write neater. I am an engineer with messy handwriting, and our machinists often can't understand my handwritten notes. Any technique to help have nicer handwriting?"
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"I made my writing much clearer by changing just two things - e & a. I just picked a new style for those two letters - switched from a circle 'a' to a computer 'a' and made the e match it. Because they come up so regularly it forced me to slow down a little and everything else got neater. There are a lot of different ways to write them so just find one you like and force yourself to use it. Took me maybe a month or two to get back up to full speed, but the neatness has stuck.\n\nI now regularly get compliments on my handwriting, despite always being told off for it in school. Good luck!",
"Practice is the only way to improve your writing. Work on it like a child would do: Get yourself some foolscap and write: Letters to loved ones (bonus points for that one), poems or song lyrics you like, passages from books, etc. Be sure to go slowly, carefully writing each letter so that it is formed correctly and spaced properly. As you become more accustomed to writing the letters neatly, your speed will improve on its own. Focus on doing it right, and soon you'll be able to do it fast.",
"I'm a guy with nice handwriting and its because I was a bad ass kid when I was younger. I would get into trouble and my mother made me write sentences 500-1000 times and they had to be legible to count in the whole total. She would count and read every single one. This was a blessing in disguise. It's a sure thing. Take your time, and your muscle memory will kick in afterwards. Hope this helps. ",
"Are you looking for block printing (Tech diagrams/schematics/spec sketches). Or more fancy writing? The things that are encouraged for readability on documents for emergency communications (I do red cross disaster and am a crisis manager for a telco). Block print in small caps. So what I did to help is to get some graph paper and practice ~20m 3x/week. As you practice this you will notice that certain letters look really good to you. Highlight these and the next time out try to make your letter look like the one that you highlighted. If you are looking for cursive improvement there are handbooks/workbooks. I have used [spencerian penmanship books](https://www.amazon.com/Spencerian-Penmanship-Theory-Book-copybooks/dp/088062096X/ref=sr_1_47?ie=UTF8&qid=1466191479&sr=8-47&keywords=cursive+handwriting+workbook).",
"Slow down and think about it? Writing fast saves time until you have to re clarify everything you've written \n\nTry different types and widths of pens too (nothing fancy). I notice mine is better with some pens",
"Learn cursive, its surprisingly easy to get the hang of an you will learn to write a lot faster. An it looks awesome when done correctly.",
"I had an accident that caused my handwriting to go to shit, so I had to reteach myself to write legibly at 23. I kept a notebook with me, a nice pen, and practiced a ton. I would fill pages with the alphabet, my signature, song lyrics, etc. My handwriting looks great now. Using brightly colored pens and interesting stationary helped keep my interest.",
"I found that switching to an ink pen with a wider nib made my cursive much easier to read, but that doesn't sound like a good fix for a work environment. \n\nA friend of mine uses fine nib brush tip pens and block capitals for work related notes in and engineering context. He uses a larger size of the same shape for capitalizations, where required, or double lineing blocks for emphasis. \n\nAnything you end up doing will require practice, but it doesn't take long to see an improvement. I'm currently teaching myself to be ambidextrous, and my left handwriting is only marginally worse than my right. I'm writing three lines of each letter every night, lower case and capitals, and it's taken about a month to get to this point. For you it shouldn't take that long, as you will be using your dominant hand.",
"For instant results, try writing smaller letters. Less actually area to be messy and it will slow you down. \n\nMy writing is atrocious and this tip worked wonders for me. ",
"I had a buddy with really nice handwriting and mine was shit. He was my science partner so I saw him write all the time. I just copied his and now people say I write like a girl. So try that. Or use a girls.\n\nDisclaimer: My handwriting is way shittier than a girls, but to us salmon and pink are both fucking pink. "
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"How to fall on the floor realistically and not get hurt. I want to fall on the floor for movies and not get injured.",
"How to fall on the floor realistically and not get hurt. I want to fall on the floor for movies and not get injured.",
"How to fall on the floor realistically and not get hurt. I want to fall on the floor for movies and not get injured."
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"You can fall on your ass and then do your best to roll your head, but depending on your head shape this still might give you a pretty hard noggin knock",
"Start researching stage combat techniques. When you take a class, falling safely and convincingly is the first lesson they teach you!",
"If you want it to look realistic, it's going to hurt, because you have to go down fast enough to make it look accidental. How much do you care about the movie? \n\nIf you don't want to do *lasting damage*, I second u/unassaiIabIe - that Wiki article has plenty on how to stop yourself being seriously hurt without necessarily damaging the look of the thing.\n\nI repeat, if you want it to look good, it will hurt, and you will have bruises. Not injured ≠ no pain."
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"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? ",
"how do you manage to not buy things you deeply want, but totally don't need, and still don't feel bad for not having bought them? "
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"If I lust after this thing every day for X days then I’ll buy it. The higher the price the bigger the X. For proper expensive stuff it’ll be several months.\n\nMost of the time I’ve talked myself out of it or lost interest after a week.",
"If I see something I really want but don't need then I walk away from it and go back later.\n\nIf I really want it then I will keep thinking about it which will remind me I need to go back to get it. If it was an impulse want then I will forget and problem solved.\n\nIf it's sold when when I do return then I say to myself \"ah well, wasn't meant to be\".\n\nIf it is there then I can have a second thought and consider: do I really want to spend this money? What else can I buy with this money? Is it cheaper somewhere else? Have I bought unnecessary things a lot recently?",
"Self discipline. Imagine your self respect increasing multifold every time you do this. You'll love yourself for doing this in the long-term",
"1. The perspective shift. How much does the item cost? Put the cost of the item into the perspective of how much time it took you to earn that money at your workplace.\n1.A. Use the amount you earn after taxes/life expenses to truly put how much the item costs you in cement.\n\n2. \"Fun money,\" like a rainy day fund, a fun money fund is just that, a savings of whatever money. This is something you can work on, and use while telling yourself it's not for necessary items. Due to it being for things you don't need, you shouldn't feel overly bad over purchasing things with it, and as for not purchasing such things, just work towards it with said fund without changing the pace you fill the fund.\n\n3. Hold out. For a majority of non-day to day necessary purchases, wait on it. There's very few things that if not immediately purchased are impossible to purchase at a later time and place. For some things you may realize that the item wasn't overly appealing in hindsight, and just appealed to your immediate desire towards gratification.",
"it’s ok to buy things that make you happy if you have the means. i used to feel guilty shout spending money on myself because i grew up poor. now i give myself permission to buy fun things, because i earned it, and there will always be more money to be made.",
"Thank you All for replying with such amazing advices!\n\nI'll try to put most of them in action, depending on how \"serious\" I am on buying some stuff.\n\nJust to recap, I'm not short on funds (I still have bill and other expenses to pay out), but the issue with me is that I know for sure that, doesn't matter how hard I want some thing, probably I'm gonna use it for just a short time after having bought it, and then leave it there getting dust.",
"Take the cash out of the bank that you would have spent on the item and put it on a dresser or side table. Look at it every day for a week. If by the end of that week you still feel like you'd rather have that item and part with the cash, then buy it.",
"Take a minute to think about what you really want from the purchase. A simple dopamine boost? Something to make you feel beautiful? Something to make your home feel more homey? Validation? Identify that emotional need.",
"Realized you are going to die one day and not experiencing that things you want to buy is part of the endless misery they is existing.\n\n\nAlso m",
"Often when I want something it's because it's really cool.\nSo I take a photo instead. I get the price tag in the picture so I don't need to remember the name or cost, and I can show the cool thing to my wife and take my time thinking about it.\n\nUsually I find just having the photo is enough, after I've shared the cool thing, and knowing I can find it again, I often find my need to own it goes away.\n\nThis doesn't apply to media I consume like novels and comics or things I use like headphones.",
"I tend to only buy big stuff I know will make it's money back, and I generally wait till I can comfortably afford it. If it's something frivolous that I just want, I give it a few weeks and if I still want it then it's worth it.",
"I simply don’t have the Money for it. I’ve been broke for fifteen years. Not exaggerating. If I want the thing. I usually have to work hard for the thing. Makes my frivolous spending nearly impossible",
"I put things in the basket in the online shop and then just leave them there. I get the fun of choosing without having to buy them.\nOr in a real catalogue put rings round the things I want and never place the order. Doesn’t work in a real shop though.",
"I do it the following way: if I totally dont need something, but me brain wants it, than I get it. But not buying it. Instead I put the amount, that this object would cost me, into my saving account. Often enough that feels like buying (as I loose money from my main account)...but instead my money is save for better need. Plus I dont get something I dont need. A win-win.\n\nPs: on other days I just get what I want. I cant always fool myself 😊",
"I default to WHY i want it so badly! Often times its the feel good you get from said purchase, or validation - like a new 2022 vs maybe a 2011 with low miles. Or top end clothes vs middle of the road. The list goes forever. My wife and I do quite well for a Midwest couple ( I get that's relative) and I refuse to buy things I'm expected to have instead of simply saving. \n\nI have an older truck I paid 11k cash for while seemingly everyone I know pays 50k+ for theirs regardless of income. And it bugs me daily seeing really nice rides Or boats/jet skis/ four wheeler/UTVs I could easily pay cash for, but at what impact to my security.... I also grew up very poor around not disciplined parents.\n\nBeing practiced or disciplined in not making WANT purchases is tough but if you can do more times than not I believe you're on a path to financial freedom and that's what I REALLY want. I get its easy to justify hitting financial freedom and still getting a lot of things but each dollar put elsewhere slightly decreases the odds off long term financial success.\n\nI think about this kind of thing a lot and love the idea of others gnawing on it",
"Don’t cost things by £ but by hours you have to work to buy it. I had this conversation with my partners son who has just started work and wanted to spend his first pay packet on a new PS5. Say you are on £10/hour after taxes and you work 7 hours/day. If you think it’s worth working 8 days solid to buy it then fill your boots. When you value things in terms of days worked they very often never seem worth it. (He bought the PS5 btw - shows how much notice he takes of me 😁)",
"Cravings of any kind ultimately come from the ego. \n\nFor me, I feel better not being stressed out by how much I would want something. Once I recognize it, I can bypass the whole thing, because feeling content is better than craving to me.\n\nMaslow's hierarchy of needs. You can Google it up.",
"...doesn't apply to many things but I would say...rent/borrow them if you can\n\nusually the appeal of the item is mostly subsided the moment you have it"
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"How to bring icecream home from a store 30 minutes away without it melting in the heat? Basically there is a really good icecream place in the next town where I work (30 minutes drive). I want to buy some and bring it home but it's almost 40 degrees celsius, how can I make that happen?",
"How to bring icecream home from a store 30 minutes away without it melting in the heat? Basically there is a really good icecream place in the next town where I work (30 minutes drive). I want to buy some and bring it home but it's almost 40 degrees celsius, how can I make that happen?",
"How to bring icecream home from a store 30 minutes away without it melting in the heat? Basically there is a really good icecream place in the next town where I work (30 minutes drive). I want to buy some and bring it home but it's almost 40 degrees celsius, how can I make that happen?",
"How to bring icecream home from a store 30 minutes away without it melting in the heat? Basically there is a really good icecream place in the next town where I work (30 minutes drive). I want to buy some and bring it home but it's almost 40 degrees celsius, how can I make that happen?",
"How to bring icecream home from a store 30 minutes away without it melting in the heat? Basically there is a really good icecream place in the next town where I work (30 minutes drive). I want to buy some and bring it home but it's almost 40 degrees celsius, how can I make that happen?",
"How to bring icecream home from a store 30 minutes away without it melting in the heat? Basically there is a really good icecream place in the next town where I work (30 minutes drive). I want to buy some and bring it home but it's almost 40 degrees celsius, how can I make that happen?",
"How to bring icecream home from a store 30 minutes away without it melting in the heat? Basically there is a really good icecream place in the next town where I work (30 minutes drive). I want to buy some and bring it home but it's almost 40 degrees celsius, how can I make that happen?"
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"Dry Ice in a cooler will easily keep it cold for a half an hour (longer really).\n\nWalmart & Kroger have dry ice btw.",
"I do this often. Use a small cooler, not much larger than the ice cream container plus ice packs on bottom and all 4 sides. Put a bag of ice cubes in the cooler on the way to the store. Take the cooler into the store with you, after checkout open the cooler and lift up the bag of ice cubes. Put the ice cream container in and pour as much ice as you can over the top. Replace the lid firmly.",
"Use Fahrenheit instead of Celsius. Fahrenheit is no better than Celsius, and arguably worse, but in Fahrenheit, 40 degrees is a good temperature to keep ice cream at. Just use Fahrenheit and your ice cream will be fine. I hope this helps (;",
"Many grocery stores sell insulated bags to put your frozen stuff in for the way home. Pop an ice pack in there and you should be good to go.",
"30 minutes isn’t horrible. Ice cream should be okay, it’s the popsicles you gotta worry about! \n\nIf you don’t have cooler, Pack all cold stuff together, don’t dilly dally, don’t place it right in the sun!",
"If you can afford it, a \"portable freezer\" is well worth the investment. We go camping a lot and got sick of our food always ending up floating in melted ice water so we got one off Amazon. Plugs in to the 12v port in your car (my VW has one in the back) and legitimately freezes food or keeps frozen things frozen.\n\n",
"As others said, bring a cooler stocked with ice orcolf packs. Or, alternatively, you could get an insulated grocery bag that will maintain its internal temperature. The cooler will likely do you better, though."
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"how to shoo off the little flies who move in a square pattern. Sorry if I don't know the type of fly. They travel in tight squares. They don't really bother anyone but they are still annoying and make us feel like we have a filthy patio, yet there is no source of food for them nearby (that we can see) nor are we dirty people. What are they after? How do we get them out of here besides fly tape or a zapper? ",
"how to shoo off the little flies who move in a square pattern. Sorry if I don't know the type of fly. They travel in tight squares. They don't really bother anyone but they are still annoying and make us feel like we have a filthy patio, yet there is no source of food for them nearby (that we can see) nor are we dirty people. What are they after? How do we get them out of here besides fly tape or a zapper? ",
"how to shoo off the little flies who move in a square pattern. Sorry if I don't know the type of fly. They travel in tight squares. They don't really bother anyone but they are still annoying and make us feel like we have a filthy patio, yet there is no source of food for them nearby (that we can see) nor are we dirty people. What are they after? How do we get them out of here besides fly tape or a zapper? ",
"how to shoo off the little flies who move in a square pattern. Sorry if I don't know the type of fly. They travel in tight squares. They don't really bother anyone but they are still annoying and make us feel like we have a filthy patio, yet there is no source of food for them nearby (that we can see) nor are we dirty people. What are they after? How do we get them out of here besides fly tape or a zapper? "
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"We had some [vinegar/fruit flies](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Drosophila_melanogaster) hanging around our kitchen. I made a trap with using a yogurt container with a hole in the lid. I put a banana peel and some cider vinegar in it as bait. It would catch several a day which was enough to clear the kitchen in a week or so. I don't know if that is the kind of fly you have, but it might be worth a try.",
"Just so you know you aren't crazy, I know exactly the flies you mean, my wife and I call them \"square flies\".\n\nI don't actually have any good advice for getting rid of them though. My wide and I usually try to herd them out of an open door. I am sure you have probably tried that too and know how hard it is.\n\nAs far as fruit flies go, which other people have mentioned, the vinegar seems like a good idea, but if you need to get rid of them *now* and don't have time to wait, the hose attachment on the vacuum works great on fruit flies, you just have to remember that fast movement scares them, but slow movement doesn't, so if you move the hose at a slow to moderate speed you can suck up a bunch of them relatively easily.",
"Drink most of a bottle of red wine, leave an inch or so in the bottle and leave it open and near the area you want to clear",
"Are they really small and travel in really large groups? I get the impression you're [talking about Gnats](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gnat). I'm not entirely sure what they eat, but they probably hang around locations close to parks and other forest-like areas, mainly for water and plantations. Maybe move any plants on your deck?"
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"how to look at someone who is cross eyed or wide eyed I have a colleague who has eyes that look off at. 45 degree angle all of the time and I somewhat have a hard time looking at him. I'm not really sure where to look or what to focus on. Do I look at the one eye that he is looking at me or what? Any help would be appreciated.",
"how to look at someone who is cross eyed or wide eyed I have a colleague who has eyes that look off at. 45 degree angle all of the time and I somewhat have a hard time looking at him. I'm not really sure where to look or what to focus on. Do I look at the one eye that he is looking at me or what? Any help would be appreciated.",
"how to look at someone who is cross eyed or wide eyed I have a colleague who has eyes that look off at. 45 degree angle all of the time and I somewhat have a hard time looking at him. I'm not really sure where to look or what to focus on. Do I look at the one eye that he is looking at me or what? Any help would be appreciated."
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"You look at him like you would at any other person. By thinking about it, you probably make it obvious that you're thinking about his eyes being a bit off (and this may seem sarcastic, but it is not meant to be), but treat him like anyone else you speak with. ",
"Focus on the bridge of their nose. That way you just lock there and listen. To your colleague it'll look like you're looking in their good eye. Ezpz.",
"As a person that has a \"lazy eye\" look at the eye that I'm looking at you and never ever say something about my eye"
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"How to check for water pumped into chicken? I often buy chicken filet at the supermarket. But lately I find a lot of water in my oven dish after cooking. I suspect it's because of (plumping)[https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plumping]. Is there a way I can check the chicken prior to buying it whether it was plumped with water or some other solution?",
"How to check for water pumped into chicken? I often buy chicken filet at the supermarket. But lately I find a lot of water in my oven dish after cooking. I suspect it's because of (plumping)[https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plumping]. Is there a way I can check the chicken prior to buying it whether it was plumped with water or some other solution?",
"How to check for water pumped into chicken? I often buy chicken filet at the supermarket. But lately I find a lot of water in my oven dish after cooking. I suspect it's because of (plumping)[https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plumping]. Is there a way I can check the chicken prior to buying it whether it was plumped with water or some other solution?",
"How to check for water pumped into chicken? I often buy chicken filet at the supermarket. But lately I find a lot of water in my oven dish after cooking. I suspect it's because of (plumping)[https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plumping]. Is there a way I can check the chicken prior to buying it whether it was plumped with water or some other solution?",
"How to check for water pumped into chicken? I often buy chicken filet at the supermarket. But lately I find a lot of water in my oven dish after cooking. I suspect it's because of (plumping)[https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plumping]. Is there a way I can check the chicken prior to buying it whether it was plumped with water or some other solution?"
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"As of now, most manufacturers will tell you whether or not the product has been plumped on the packaging. It may not be right on the front of the package and you may have to look in the ingredients list, but look for phrases/words like \"enhanced\", or if the ingredients include chicken broth, salt water, or any other plumping solution.",
"Legally, it must be marked. Full stop. Ask an employee. It might be glazed if it is frozen, which is different.\n\n\nThat said, chickens, like humans are a percentage water. You will have some liquid in a dish. It's called purge, and it is totally normal, and it occurs to all different types of meat. \n\n\nSource: am butcher. Have worked on kill floors and with meat my entire life, starting at 10.",
"If you are in Europe, then there must be a label and on the label must be the ingridients. If there is water (and salt) then don't buy it.",
"A related lpt to this question is avoid typical frozen chicken, especially the sort you'll often find in supermarkets:http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/dec/06/supermarket-frozen-chicken-breasts-water\n\nBuying fresh from butchers will mean helping out an independent business, the butchers will likely be completely honest about the quality of their meat and where it was sourced, how the animals were raised and so on. No butcher with any pride in their services will sell you chicken with additives like water or other plumping agents - I have several friends with lifetime experience in such businesses and like me they refuse to buy anything that is produced like that. It also means better meals and more fun in the kitchen.\n",
"A fresh chicken breast will release some liquids as it cooks. If you're baking it below 200 F, then you'll see more liquid. There isn't much fat on the breast, especially if the skin is off.\n\nSome kosher chickens are very consistent and not plumped. I've purchased organic chicken breasts online and they were shipped fresh in a cooler with dry ice. Very good.\n\nThe reason for plumping a chicken breast is to make it softer and heavier. Heavier means it costs more. But even then, it isn't much fluid. If the fresh chicken from your mom and pop tastes good, I wouldn't worry about it. If it tastes like cardboard unless you marinate it to death and overseason it to hide it, well you know what to do."
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"Have you gone through a quarter life crisis? What was it like? How did you get through it?\n\nI've graduated college and am working full time. Still at my parents house. Just got engaged. No social life anymore due to friends moving away/too busy for me anymore. I'm 24. I feel like all I do is work and hang out at home.",
"Have you gone through a quarter life crisis? What was it like? How did you get through it?\n\nI've graduated college and am working full time. Still at my parents house. Just got engaged. No social life anymore due to friends moving away/too busy for me anymore. I'm 24. I feel like all I do is work and hang out at home.",
"Have you gone through a quarter life crisis? What was it like? How did you get through it?\n\nI've graduated college and am working full time. Still at my parents house. Just got engaged. No social life anymore due to friends moving away/too busy for me anymore. I'm 24. I feel like all I do is work and hang out at home.",
"Have you gone through a quarter life crisis? What was it like? How did you get through it?\n\nI've graduated college and am working full time. Still at my parents house. Just got engaged. No social life anymore due to friends moving away/too busy for me anymore. I'm 24. I feel like all I do is work and hang out at home.",
"Have you gone through a quarter life crisis? What was it like? How did you get through it?\n\nI've graduated college and am working full time. Still at my parents house. Just got engaged. No social life anymore due to friends moving away/too busy for me anymore. I'm 24. I feel like all I do is work and hang out at home.",
"Have you gone through a quarter life crisis? What was it like? How did you get through it?\n\nI've graduated college and am working full time. Still at my parents house. Just got engaged. No social life anymore due to friends moving away/too busy for me anymore. I'm 24. I feel like all I do is work and hang out at home."
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"This is the second reference I've seen to this imaginary concept of 1/4 life crisis.\n\nHere's the thing... life is and will always feel like a crisis if you don't have purpose in your life. You can't just float through it and get your panties in a wad because it isn't what you thought it would be.\n\nIf you aren't pursuing goals and dreams regardless of your age you will forever be in this state.\n\nYour friends are busy. Shouldn't you be?",
"Such unnecessarily negative comments about the 'quarter life crisis'. Although I agree that labeling something such as this makes it inevitably easier to fall victim to it, I do agree that in certain circumstances it accurately describes the situation your describing albeit less effectively than calling it 'growing up'. \n\nI found myself in a similar situation to yours a couple of years ago when my daughter was a few months old and at the time I described it as a quarter life crisis.\nI empathise with you as it is hard dealing with the sudden realisation that your life has changed in ways you never considered possible several years ago. \n\nThe only way I managed to push through and keep positive was in the knowledge that whether you want to call it a quarter life crisis, growing up or just generally a turning point in your life, it is exactly that, a small period of time in which you need to grow accustom to a new way of life with a new mindset and that things will (I promise you) improve but unfortunately this cycle of \"crisis\" will return all too soon, only this time you will be better equipped to deal with it having grown as a person. \n\nStay positive, things will improve and before you know it you won't believe you ever worried about your issues today. \n\nAs a great man once said... \"Life is a roller-coaster, You've just got to ride it\" - Ronan Keaton ",
"Assuming I live to be 160, I'm going through one right now.\n\n> No social life anymore due to friends moving away/too busy for me anymore. \n\nYup. Well, make new friends that are local and that share your schedule. You'll have to make time for them, and them for you.",
"Are you me plus the fiancée? \n\nI dont see it as a crisis. Just working towards the changes I want (move out and mprove social life etc.) ",
">I'm 24\n\nStill a young adult. You have no idea what's coming. 16 years from now, when you look back to today, you'll realize that this wasn't a crisis, just a milestone. \n\nI'm 45, I have yet to experience a mid life crisis. Quarter life, Mid life...there is no crisis, just constant change and adaptation. I'm better off now than I was at 24, and I was doing quite well at 24 compared to others. \n\nWhen I was 24, I too was engaged, got married at 25. I still went out once or twice a week to hang with friends. As I got older, I went back to school to get a higher paying job, which meant that I didn't hang with my friends as much or go out as much. I got a great job after college and have been in my field for 20 years. My life has significantly changed since 1996, I don't hang out as much, but then, I really don't want to. I grew out of going to the bar every night, then every other night, then two nights, to not at all. I've learned from the mistakes I made in my 20's....like getting married at 25. \n\nYou're still at the start of your journey and there is no such thing as a 1/4 life crisis, just like there is no such thing as a safe space. Those are bullshit concepts. Unfortunately, people don't realize it until they are older and wiser. Enjoy what you have right now, in the moment. That's all life is, a series of moments. ",
"Too young for. 1/4 life crisis. \nWhen you're in your early 30's floating in family / work land a lot with little free time your mind starts to drift. \nBefore you know it you're in a pub rock band but have to be at home early because of the kids You also flirt with the idea of going back to the sport you once were good at. Or contacting that 'fish that got away' and arranging an innocent catch up - but you just want to spend more time with them because you still want them. "
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"How to get that burnt black stuff off the bottom of pans I forgot about the rice I was cooking and burnt it all to a charr. After scraping out all the ash, this is what is left:\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/ureqUa1.jpg",
"How to get that burnt black stuff off the bottom of pans I forgot about the rice I was cooking and burnt it all to a charr. After scraping out all the ash, this is what is left:\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/ureqUa1.jpg",
"How to get that burnt black stuff off the bottom of pans I forgot about the rice I was cooking and burnt it all to a charr. After scraping out all the ash, this is what is left:\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/ureqUa1.jpg",
"How to get that burnt black stuff off the bottom of pans I forgot about the rice I was cooking and burnt it all to a charr. After scraping out all the ash, this is what is left:\n\nhttp://i.imgur.com/ureqUa1.jpg"
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"Fill it with hot, soapy water and dawn dish washing liquid. Add salt and let it soak for about 30 minutes. After that scrub it with steel wool and vinegar. Should come off pretty easy.\n\nSource- my hubby is a cleaning whiz ",
"Barkeepers Friend is pretty cheap, and super effective. That' or use lemon juice and salt, for a natural method. ",
"pour a bunch of baking soda on any charred areas and boil water in it, the baking soda reacting in the heated water bubbles the really hard charred remnants off. Repeat if necessary",
"Soak it in warm soapy water, then use an abrasive cleaner like [barkeeper's friend](http://www.soap.com/p/barkeepers-friend-cookware-cleaner-87233?site=CA&utm_source=Google&utm_medium=cpc_S&utm_term=BKF-005&utm_campaign=GoogleAW&CAWELAID=1323249452&utm_content=pla&adtype=pla&cagpspn=pla) to scrub off the tough bits. \n\n"
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"How to choose what to watch quickly? I usually waste more time choosing, seeing reviews, notes and other things than properly watching something in netflix or crunchyroll, it's a bummer. I've even read here in reddit that the way the netflix categories are done is for you to lose much more time than you should. How do you do?",
"How to choose what to watch quickly? I usually waste more time choosing, seeing reviews, notes and other things than properly watching something in netflix or crunchyroll, it's a bummer. I've even read here in reddit that the way the netflix categories are done is for you to lose much more time than you should. How do you do?",
"How to choose what to watch quickly? I usually waste more time choosing, seeing reviews, notes and other things than properly watching something in netflix or crunchyroll, it's a bummer. I've even read here in reddit that the way the netflix categories are done is for you to lose much more time than you should. How do you do?"
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"Step 1: become attractive. \nStep 2: develop amazing hobbies. \nStep 3: find a super-hot attractive mate who shares some of your hobbies. \nStep 4: make each other better people through companionship and affection. \nStep 5: cancel all digital media subscriptions because you’ve realized life is meant to be lived through every moment and the true cost of consuming media is the time you cannot get back. \nStep 6: profit. \n \nStep 7: lose everything. \nStep 8: make a reddit account under the username Kind2U. \nStep 9: make sad unhelpful comments for karma because it’s all you’re living for. \nStep 10: plz help I’m so alone.",
"If I have some free time I'll read reviews and add 2-3 interesting-looking things to my watch list or favorites or whatever it is called for each service. Then when I don't know what to try, I've got a few pre-researched items ready to go. My wife and I have only marginally-overlapping interests and we both maintain the list, so if I see it's not something I added and have some interest in, easy choice (and vice versa if she's choosing the evening's entertainment)",
"How about a shortlist then blindly pick from it? Put the titles in a randomizer program and pick whatever. Or put the names in a hat. Or sort by year or title or genre. I have 500 to watch movies I simply pick at random UNLESS I'm in the mood for a particular actor or director or genre than I pick a random title according to the category I'm in the mood for"
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"How can I improve my posture? I've always had bad posture. It has recently caused me a lot of upper back pain. I'm aware of it, but I find it very difficult to remember to constantly maintain good posture.",
"How can I improve my posture? I've always had bad posture. It has recently caused me a lot of upper back pain. I'm aware of it, but I find it very difficult to remember to constantly maintain good posture.",
"How can I improve my posture? I've always had bad posture. It has recently caused me a lot of upper back pain. I'm aware of it, but I find it very difficult to remember to constantly maintain good posture.",
"How can I improve my posture? I've always had bad posture. It has recently caused me a lot of upper back pain. I'm aware of it, but I find it very difficult to remember to constantly maintain good posture.",
"How can I improve my posture? I've always had bad posture. It has recently caused me a lot of upper back pain. I'm aware of it, but I find it very difficult to remember to constantly maintain good posture.",
"How can I improve my posture? I've always had bad posture. It has recently caused me a lot of upper back pain. I'm aware of it, but I find it very difficult to remember to constantly maintain good posture."
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"Imagine a thread on top of your head that is pulling you up. And imagine that as often as possible. Some day you will do this automatically.",
"Not exactly sure what kind of back pain you are having but I have Kyphosis from slouching all the time as a kid. 2 things I recommend are a foam roller and a back brace. You can lay back on a foam roller and it hurts at first, but once you stretch those muscles out it feels so much better. A back brace (for upper back) will help you sit up straight and also remind you to sit up straight. One last thing I recommend is doing chest and core exercizes. These can either be chest press or pull up exercises. However, if you dont have workout equipment or access to a gym, push ups with a atraight back shouls help. If you don't feel motivated to do any of this, go watch some back surgery videos on youtube :). Hope I helped, good luck.",
"get a good workout in, especially hitting your shoulders/back. afterwards, when you're sore, make a conscious effort to keep your back straight because the muscle memory will be set as your muscles heal from your exercise. ",
"Shoring up your core, back and chest with a modest exercise routine works wonders over a couple months. You don't have to go gangbusters, but a couple times a week will help a lot with the other suggestions on here. Running/walking with neutral soled shoes might be worth looking into too. I had positive results. Good luck!",
"Just correct yourself as often as you think about it and you'll become more aware of it. Sturdy chairs are good",
"Use an orthopedic seat cushion/wedge if you spend most of the day sitting (desk job, driving a lot, etc). Changed my posture without my having to remember to do it."
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"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?",
"How do I stop my lazy mentality? I constantly find myself procrastinating. Everything that needs doing \"can always wait\" and move aside for what I WANT to do. For example. Ring my phone company regarding my bill. - ah another time. Sort the garden out - ah another time. Constantly at school id leave things until the last minute and sometimes even later and feel like I never really overcame this. I'm not a bum or a freeloader I'm 2 years into a military career and have always had a job since I was 18. Is there something wrong with me or am I just a lazy git!?"
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"Count to five. Then just do it.\nDone with something? \nThink of the next thing, count to five and start. \nDiscipline can be difficult. ",
"Trick yourself. \n\n1) Don't actually do anything but keep a list and spent a minute updating it\n\n2) Break down each job into its smallest units.\n\n3) Do the easiest thing on the list for 15 minutes.\n\n4) Go and procrastinate for 20 minutes.\n\n5) repeat\n\n6) Yell, scream and swear but keep doing *something.*\n\n7) It does get easier with practice.\n",
"Keep a calendar and get checks when you have worked on the different projects or chores you want done. I read this suggestion on reddit awhile back and it has been amazingly helpful. I can keep track of when I paid a bill or how hard I worked that day. I just finished taking some antibiotics for all ten days. First time ever in my life. ",
"Honestly not everything is important. If you do things but prioritize poorly then you're no better off. \n\nLook into GTD. I don't have the best answer for your but maybe that can help you prioritize things and keep the important things in front. Whether you actually do those important things will be up to your willpower to get them done. ",
"I procrastinate all the time. I've realized that the only thing that helps me is a reward system, sort of what I'd use when training a dog. \n\nHave a new episode of your favorite show waiting? Watch if after you've done the dishes.\n\nYou're starving and there's a Viennetta in the freezer? Only eat it after you've gone through all your exam notes.\n\nIs your garden a mess? Why not sort it out and then reward yourself with a new book or something?\n\nThat's how I get things done. ",
"I used to be like this until my wife suggested I get checked for ADD a few years ago (I'm 28). Ever since I started taking ADD medication I have drastically improved my procrastination problems. They still occur, but I don't think they happen any more or less than any other average person now. Google ADD (not ADHD, there is a difference) and look at the symptoms. If you have a few of them go have a discussion with a doctor and get their opinion.\n\n",
"I like to think of it this way: I only have x amount of time ( on this planet, on this project, at this location, etc etc). How can I utilize it the best? Sure its easy to sit on my ass and play games and work this same job forever. But I have desires. And those desires aren't going to come about by dreaming and playing games all day. Set up some goals and/or work towards your dreams. For simpler tasks, it's better to 1 dish a night for two weeks than 20 in one night. ",
"Write it all down in a big list. Break each step down into smaller steps if you like. Tackle the easiest ones first, the sense of achievement can spur you on to tackle more to tick off. \n\nAlso, don't think about it just DO IT. Count to three then get up and go without thinking about it.",
"Put a shock collar around your neck and shock yourself every time you start doing something lazy. It's a great motivator. ",
"Just aim to break the stereotype works best for me. Its usually a different stereotype for everything youre doing but say, if youre smoking weed and have to do something, I just think \"dont be THAT high guy\" and 9/10 times I will do it. Same goes for when youre lying in bed or not studying etc just aim to not be that negative stereotype.",
"I would like to add I feel this really affects my money management. I'm quite into gaming and I tend to have a habit of not being able to tell myself to wait until payday to buy something. Almost as if I have no patience.",
"I recommend [Beeminder](https://www.beeminder.com/) It charges you money if you procrastinate. It's actually kind of insane how well the threat of losing money works. You might find it's too effective\n\nThe term for what you're suffering from is called [Akrasia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Akrasia) if you want to google for it. There are lots of approaches out there, and lots written about it. The long and short of it is you get a quick easy dopamine hit from doing something pleasurable now, whereas your brain gives you much smaller dopamine hits for rewards that are potentially far in the future.",
"I can understand you very well, your problem is something I (should...) have to fight against every day. \n\n\nHere's my tip: A big reason why you are able to procrastinate in the first place is that (as you surely noticed) your brain surpresses any rational thought about the situation and just wants to relax, no matter what. You can work against that by keeping notes, tables whatever in your room, filled with reasons why you should do something _now_ instead of later, for instance \"you will have to do it anyways, just if you do it know, you won't have to think about doing it later\". Or write down characteristics of the ideal version of yourself like \"has his shit together, does homework seriously, has a clean garden ...\" which you can then look up to and work on, something you'd rather already be but can't because you're lazy.\n\n\nProcrastinantion is irrational in every way. Your brain needs to be reminded of that.",
"I like to think of it this way: I only have x amount of time ( on this planet, on this project, at this location, etc etc). How can I utilize it the best? Sure its easy to sit on my ass and play games and work this same job forever. But I have desires. And those desires aren't going to come about by dreaming and playing games all day. Set up some goals and/or work towards your dreams. For simpler tasks, it's better to 1 dish a night for two weeks than 20 in one night. ",
"Caffeine Caffeine Caffeine. Eventually you can't take the stored energy and you will walk outside and do something for 5 hours for no reason. "
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"How do I comfort someone? I'm moving out from my mom's house this December and she is already sad. She doesn't even want me to stay for Christmas so it doesn't \"longer the pain\".\nI haven't learned how to comfort her/people in my life experiences until now, help.",
"How do I comfort someone? I'm moving out from my mom's house this December and she is already sad. She doesn't even want me to stay for Christmas so it doesn't \"longer the pain\".\nI haven't learned how to comfort her/people in my life experiences until now, help.",
"How do I comfort someone? I'm moving out from my mom's house this December and she is already sad. She doesn't even want me to stay for Christmas so it doesn't \"longer the pain\".\nI haven't learned how to comfort her/people in my life experiences until now, help.",
"How do I comfort someone? I'm moving out from my mom's house this December and she is already sad. She doesn't even want me to stay for Christmas so it doesn't \"longer the pain\".\nI haven't learned how to comfort her/people in my life experiences until now, help.",
"How do I comfort someone? I'm moving out from my mom's house this December and she is already sad. She doesn't even want me to stay for Christmas so it doesn't \"longer the pain\".\nI haven't learned how to comfort her/people in my life experiences until now, help."
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"She needs to sort herself out. It is not your job to sooth your mother's empty nest syndrome. Don't let the emotional blackmail get to you. ",
"Stay calm, but don't act sad, or they'll think they're making you upset and they'll push you away. Just relax, and spend time around them doing things you both enjoy. You don't have to do a lot of \"actual comforting\", like talking about the problems of massive amounts of physical affection. It's more helpful to just be a positive presence.",
"Sometimes it can help to just be there with someone and share their sadness. Commiserate. Platitudes are never helpful, and they don't allow you to become closer to someone. Share your feelings, regardless of what you might think will happen. Maybe she can be convinced that it's not going to be easy for you either, but that it's important & part of growing up. Make sure she knows you completely understand why she feels that way. Reassure her that you are not leaving forever, that you will still see each other & you will try to keep in touch often. If all else fails, sometimes having a pet can really help someone cope with their children leaving. Especially a dog, since having one is like having a small child. They require just as much care, and just as much love. It can be very beneficial. ",
"Piggybacking on the original request, how do I comfort people in general? My friend's mother recently passed and all I could do was stay silent. When the means of communications was entirely vocal, it seemed inconsiderate on my part.",
"Maybe get her a pet for Christmas. It won't replace her child, but it'll be a good distraction. \n\nDon't tell her why you got it though. That'll just ruin it. "
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"how to keep dogs from pooping in my yard. I've had to pick up dog crap 3 times this week. I don't even own a dog. Someone in my neighborhood is letting their dogs into my yard and not picking up after them, and it's about goddamn time that this ended. If I knew who it was, I'd just pick it all up, ring their doorbell and hand it back to them (or catch them in the act) but I have no idea. ",
"how to keep dogs from pooping in my yard. I've had to pick up dog crap 3 times this week. I don't even own a dog. Someone in my neighborhood is letting their dogs into my yard and not picking up after them, and it's about goddamn time that this ended. If I knew who it was, I'd just pick it all up, ring their doorbell and hand it back to them (or catch them in the act) but I have no idea. ",
"how to keep dogs from pooping in my yard. I've had to pick up dog crap 3 times this week. I don't even own a dog. Someone in my neighborhood is letting their dogs into my yard and not picking up after them, and it's about goddamn time that this ended. If I knew who it was, I'd just pick it all up, ring their doorbell and hand it back to them (or catch them in the act) but I have no idea. ",
"how to keep dogs from pooping in my yard. I've had to pick up dog crap 3 times this week. I don't even own a dog. Someone in my neighborhood is letting their dogs into my yard and not picking up after them, and it's about goddamn time that this ended. If I knew who it was, I'd just pick it all up, ring their doorbell and hand it back to them (or catch them in the act) but I have no idea. ",
"how to keep dogs from pooping in my yard. I've had to pick up dog crap 3 times this week. I don't even own a dog. Someone in my neighborhood is letting their dogs into my yard and not picking up after them, and it's about goddamn time that this ended. If I knew who it was, I'd just pick it all up, ring their doorbell and hand it back to them (or catch them in the act) but I have no idea. ",
"how to keep dogs from pooping in my yard. I've had to pick up dog crap 3 times this week. I don't even own a dog. Someone in my neighborhood is letting their dogs into my yard and not picking up after them, and it's about goddamn time that this ended. If I knew who it was, I'd just pick it all up, ring their doorbell and hand it back to them (or catch them in the act) but I have no idea. "
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"I had this issue. I installed a camera, confirmed who the offending neighbor was and then left a letter in their mailbox along with 500 pet waste bags. \n\nThe letter basically said \"take these and use them. My security camera tells me who this is and if it continues I'll collect it myself and return it to your front door\". \n\nHaven't had an issue since. ",
"Some stores like Home Depot or Lowe's has repellent that you spray around your property that doesn't harm animals but keeps them out for the most part. Worked great to keep my neighbor's cat out of the flowerbeds!",
"From the size of the crap, how big is the dog? If you think the dog is shorter than your knees, get a short fence from Home Depot.",
"First, place a sign and cite local laws for not cleaning up dooodoo - \"Leaving your dog feces here will result in 300 dollar fine....\".\n\n If it continues, install a camera, get the footage, and file a police report with the video evidence. Do not return the shit to their porch (if you even know them), just fuck them over with a fine.",
"3 words: Motion Detector Sprinkler. Had a roomie use one because of raccoons in the yard. Worked great.",
"As a dog owner I would say it might be less passive aggressive to put up one of those like doggy bag dispensers in your yard with a sign that says Please pick up your waste or something to that effect. It will offer them something they can do if for example they just ran out of doggy bags midwalk (because say one dog pooped and one hasn't yet but you can't tell you are out of bags til it's empty) also it will make people more conscious of it so they might just convince their dogs not to go in your yard. I know I have a neighbor that is always working in his yard and has a super nice garden so I try not to let my dogs go in his yard in general because I know he really cares. "
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"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!",
"I have a really hard time maintain conversations because my mind goes blank on what to say. Any tips on how to \"train\" oneself for this? One of the things I always disliked the most about me is that I find it extremely difficult to maintain a conversation with someone, because my mind goes blank and I literally don't know what to say. By this I mean if it depends on me coming up with a topic of conversation, or moving the topic forward. If I get asked a specific question, I have no problem answering. It's the having the initiative part that I have trouble with. It's not an antisocial thing because I actually like talking to people and I wish I were able to have more interesting and long conversations, but I feel like I completely blank out when the conversation depends on me. And this makes me feel like a super boring and not fun person to hang out with, which I really really hate. The worst part is, the bigger the pressure I feel in talking, the harder it is for me. In my head I'm like \"c'mon, you're boring this person, just say something\" but it just makes it more and more difficult. And it's not as simple as convincing myself there's no reason to put so much pressure into it, because even though I know this, I can't help but feel it, due to having dealt with this for so long. Even with close friends and family it happens, even with my wife with whom I've been for 15 years. \n\nAnyway, I just wanted to know if other people have, or had, a similar condition and if there are any tips on how to train one's mind to overcome it, if not completely at least in part. Thanks in advance!"
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"Don't think of things to say and just be in the moment with the person you're talking to. Basically, that voice in your head trying to tell you you're boring the other person? Tell it to slow down and keep quiet and focus on the others.\n\nDon't make the conversation just about you and you'll find it's easier to make things flow. Don't go into instructor mode and feel like you have to sound like an expert all the time. Allow yourself to quiet down a bit before speaking.\n\nListen well and you'll usually find something to do next: Ask, react, laugh... admit if you don't know what else to say.",
"People love to talk about themselves in some capacity. Asking questions intermittently to gather info and then leading them to a topic you figure they're into = people think you're great a conversation",
"How well do you know the person? If you know them and the topic is getting stale, change topics.\n\nIf you don't know them well, think of what you do know and what you have heard them say, and ask them about something. People love talking more about themselves than they like hearing about you.",
"try to understand what they are trying to say and keep in mind how they might be feeling. add to the conversation with your own experiences regarding the topic and how you felt the same way.\n\nsilence is ok. most people get uncomfortable with it but as you'd learn in music the pauses are just as valuable.\n\ni have trouble with convos too but these ideas have helped me.\n\nbiggest tip is that people are reflective. how you're feeling, will make them feel the same. so try to get comfy and have a good time.",
"I have the same problem. Couldn’t have described it better myself honestly. I have yet to figure out a solution, saved this post in hopes to hear some good advice. You’re not alone OP",
"You could try practicing?\n\nGo out to a mall or something one day, approach random people and ask them for the time. Afterwards, compliment them on something like their hair, outfit or maybe comment on something they bought(games, sports equipment, whatever) and see if they seem open to conversation(Usually by elaborating). If yes, you have someone to practice on with extraordinarily low stakes(You will likely never see this person ever again). If not, this entire conversation cost you like half a minute and you can go on to the next.",
"I recommend you read and apply the lessons outlined in Carnegie’s book: how to talk and influence people’ . It changed my life on how to interact with people.",
"Anxious ramblings. I heard there’s a book, chatter by ethan kross, you might find something of use there.",
"Practice practice practice. Just being present in a conversation about anything at all a whole bunch will get you comfortable quite naturally. Dont worry about a topic. Ask questions about the person. Act like its an interview but be relaxed about it. And no pressure. Learn what you want to know about a person. Just ask!",
"Keep asking questions about what is being said. If you are listening you should be able to ask a question. After you ask one, just keep asking, and eventually over time it will get easier and you will get better at it. Don't over analyze things along the way. It takes time, practice, and making mistakes is okay just learn from them.",
"I sometimes have issues carrying on a conversation because it takes me a while to process what others have said. \nIt tends to be most difficult for me when there are multiple people in the conversation and one person keeps switching topics/interjecting their own specific and not always completely related experiences. My brain is just trying to keep up and doesn't seem to have a lot of opportunity to process what it's hearing and come up with my own thoughts. I haven't figured out a good way around that.",
"I had a similar issue. Being in the moment is good advice, I also started reading more about general topics and news. Find something you're interested in and expand your knowledge. Then your head will be filled with conversations.",
"Give others the chance to be interested in you. Start talking about yourself a bit. Tell something you had to laugh about recently (just little things or a tv show..), something you didn’t like.. and so on. It’s ok to talk about yourself! It’s therapeutic :) however it needs practice",
"Ask questions. It's much easier to get someone to talk about themselves than to think of something clever to say. There are TONS of worthwhile conversation starter questions online. \n\nListen to what the other person is saying and use that to guide you. Ask more questions. Add things from your own experience when you can relate. Don't force things when you can't relate. Don't be afraid to say things like, \"I never knew that\" or \"That's never happened to me\". \n\nConversation is sort of an art form. You'll get better (and gain confidence) if you practice. Try it out on complete strangers. If you get stuck, you never have to see that person again. If you have good chemistry, you could find your new best friend."
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"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?",
"Why do people say not to travel with friends? I've always heard that if you go on trips with your friends, you won't be friends when you return...\n\nIt's not safe for my demographic to vacation anywhere alone, so that's not even an option. My friends love to travel and I'd like to join them, but what issues should I expect?"
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"It's really important to set boundaries when traveling with friends. Or to at least set expectations about certain activities, plans, etc.\n\nYou're spending 24/7 together, and even with the best of friends, that can feel a bit suffocating. Especially if you've never lived together before.",
"My experience is that the best trips involve a certain amount of \"do stuff by ourselves\" time and then meet up to do stuff together. If you feel that you must always be together then you'll start arguing over the things that only one of you really wants to do.",
"Setting some ground rules will help, such as\n\n* I will need my own space from time to time; it does not mean that I have an issue with you, I just want some time on my own\n\n* if something is bugging us about the other person, we'll talk about it calmly, straight away; we will not let small niggles fester and become blown up out of control. We'll nip it in th me bud properly.\n\n* travelling together does not mean we are joined at the hip and have to do everything together. If you want to do something and the other person doesn't, then you shouldn't miss out on the experience - you should do it without them (and vice versa).\n\nCommunication is really the biggest issue along with being in someone's company more than normal.\n\nIf you can agree to be adult and shout if something is bothering you and not make it personal, I think you'll still be friends at the end.",
"I found it’s when you travel with friends plus children. Differing parenting styles come to the forefront when you see so much of each other. Maybe little Johnny and little Becky won’t be as cute when you go home.",
"I have more of “be careful who you travel with” stance. Some friends I love traveling with. Some I hate traveling with and would rather go solo. \n\nA few things:\n\n- Traveling can be stressful. People handle stress differently, and some propel might REALLY annoying each other when stressed. \n- different traveling styles and preferences. Maybe you love going to all the museums and sites and staying active while your friend like hanging by the hotel for most of the day and seeing only a few sites. Maybe your friend is a foodie and wants to eat all the food while you have no interest in restaurants hopping, etc. \n- different budgets. If you’re on a tight budget and your friend wants to live like a king on vacay you’re likely to not quite jive together. \n- having different agendas, you have three days and not enough time to see everything, if you’re each prioritizing different things you’ll need to compromise (which some people are bad at) \n- personality types. I can’t travel with people who need a travel “schedule”. I like to do what seems good at the time. IMO making a plan before you get there is useless because you don’t really know what all there is. A “go with the flow” person doesn’t do well with a “plan everything months in advance” person \n\nI didn’t proof read so I’m sure there are typos.",
"I've traveled with friends, no problem. To avoid problems, you need to make sure you have the same goals for the trip. You: Restaurants of Paris. Friend: Museums of Paris. Uh oh.\n\nBe willing to compromise in the things you do and what you eat.\n\nBe patient. Your friend may handle things differently from you but that doesn't necessarily mean they are wrong. (They are laid back.... you GET THINGS DONE.) \n\nIf you get this stuff out of the way up front, your trip with friend will probably be successful.\n\nThe exception is if you are traveling with someone who thinks this would be a good chance for romance and you aren't interested.",
"Traveling with friends is awesome!\nJust make sure you are friends before you go on vacation.\nDepending on the amount of privacy you guys prefere, book separate rooms. Don't overplan, make sure there is a lot of free time left besides activities. Be absolutely clear about payment methods (chipping in one pot vs. everybody pays for his own stuff).\nAnd always remember: they are your friends and you love them 😊",
"Depends on the friendship. If you like being with your friend for extended periods of time and don't tend to argue about who does what, go for it. I have several friends we've gone on long weekend/week long camping trips with. If that doesn't show a person's/relationship's strengths and weaknesses, nothing will. On the other hand, I have distanced myself from one or two people who didn't travel well and wanted to make me responsible for them having a good experience. No. You're an adult and I'm not your mommy. Set your boundaries and enjoy.",
"If they’re friends you’re used to spending a lot of time with, then it’s not really that bad. The best analogy I can use is when family comes from out of town and stay at your place. The first few days are fine, but then after a while, you start to get annoyed with each other. But like I said, if you’re already used to each other, it shouldn’t be a problem. I would only recommend traveling with friends who can afford it, I can see money bringing up issues as well.",
"In my experience, you need to make sure you have same travel styles for it to work or else there will be problems. And also agree to what activities your plan to do ahead of time and how the schedule would look to prevent disagreements. Also, make sure there is enough understanding among the friend group to prevent drama and jealousy. \nFor example, I am the type that when I leave the hotel I do not come back until its time to sleep. Most of my friends are hotel dwellers or love to go back to the hotel to rest multiple times during the day and that just doesn't work for me so I don't travel with those people anymore.",
"I did it, several times, while living with them.\n\nWe decided top values for transportation/sleeping costs, checked out what each one would like to visit there. If it happened to be the same places, ok, but there should be space to each one to do their own thing, if they want so. We ended up visiting mostly the same places, which meant sometimes we were a bit overwhelmed by each other company but it doesn't mean we got into a fight or something. Go and grab a coffee or something like that to have your own time. In the end, those trips were lots of fun. Regarding travelling with other couples, honestly, I don't think I will do it, besides family.",
"I am a major planner. So, when I travel I know what I am going to do on what days, sometimes book tours ahead of time. It gives me a lot of anxiety to not have a plan, especially in foreign countries. The one time I went traveling with friends and we just showed up and figured we’d do whatever whenever it was a disaster. \n\nBut, a couple of years ago I went to Hawaii with a friend and since we both enjoy planning trips it worked out great. We had a nice, relaxing trip and a good balance of sitting on the beach like she enjoys and exploring like I do.",
"I travel with my friends and it’s great! You just have to be aware that people like to do different things. A lot depends on the size of your group. If you are 6 or more people than you can split up in groups and those who say want to chill by the pool can while the others say go to a museum.",
"Saw where one trip ended up with two basically taking over another’s room so they could get happy together. And one of that pair decided to lie about getting emails on what activities were to be done and how much money needed. Of course, didn’t have enough money. And yes, the others changed things a bit to not leave out this person who derived it. Then on stopping over to my home as halfway point, all went out to eat at a well known place in many states. And her grown kids without bothering to eat (maybe mom only could afford to feed herself) complained about the food etc. And only mom ate. At least my daughter who went on that trip was nope, I paid for a room for me and my daughter so I am not moving. The one who went off likely with my son and his wife to share a space, probably slept on a couch though she paid for her room. I thought the two hotties needed to pay and get their own room and not inconvenience everyone. That woman was to share a room with her grown kids. You never know what all might happen to make you dislike someone. I was soooo happy I wasn’t included on that trip and it was all the younger ones. I knew on their first stop here I did not like this woman or her kids. Such trips can work out especially if everyone can has some privacy and everybody knows how to act.",
"Reconsider going alone. Most of the unsafe situations I've seen people getting into are *with* their travel companion or other person they trusted. I'm a white woman who traveled alone all over the world* with no problem besides the occasional easily-shaken- off rando.\n\nAs long as you don't give your keys to a creep, or let them into your room, you're pretty much fine. And the exceptions aren't any better if 2 of you get home-invaded, rather than 1.\n\n*except the Arab world, because of my experiences with Arab men elsewhere"
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"How to tactfully ask if a drunk acquaintance has a ride home. Twice in the past month I've found myself in confrontations with people who 'don't need your F-ing help' while falling over themselves at the bar near closing time. What's an appropriate way to bring this up to potentially save a life?",
"How to tactfully ask if a drunk acquaintance has a ride home. Twice in the past month I've found myself in confrontations with people who 'don't need your F-ing help' while falling over themselves at the bar near closing time. What's an appropriate way to bring this up to potentially save a life?",
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"First, be sure. If you're really sure, you really have to stop them. Be polite and amiable as long as you can, especially if they start being a dick about it.\n\n>\"I don't need your fucking help.\"\n\n>\"Lol, come on man, let me get you a cab.\"\n\n>\"Fuck you!\"\n\n>\"Here, cab's already coming. I can bring you back to get your car in the morning.\"\n\nDon't respond aggressively or react in kind if they do. If it comes down to it and they're really not listening, be firm and use declarative sentences. Don't ask or suggest, say it with conviction and confidence.\n\n>\"You're not driving because you're drunk. I'm giving you a ride home. Give me your keys.\"\n\n...\n\nOr there's always the \"bar called you a cab\" trick. Call a cab yourself and tell the friend the bar called a cab for him. It'll be awkward for him to refuse and it can go a ways in convincing him that he really is too drunk to drive.\n\nIf at all possible, get the bartender to play along with that one.",
"Tact isn't necessary with drunk people. Just tell them you're going to take them home or to another bar if that's what they're looking for. Then just drive them home. They might be mad for a minute but they'll get over it. ",
"Ask them \"Hey can you give me a lift?\" Then they know it's okay to ask for help and you find out how they intend to get home all at once."
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"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?",
"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?",
"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?",
"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?",
"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?",
"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?",
"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?",
"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?",
"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?",
"how to help with food poisoning Just the other day was my senior gradnite, and about half of the seniors got food poisoning (including me). Is there any way to help ease the pain?"
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"whatever you do, don't eat anything spicy until your shitting solids! your digestive track is expelling everything without breaking it down, so the capsaican oil will hit the anus with a vengeance, it'll feel like your shooting out acid-infused magma.",
"Mostly from my own anecdotal evidence, ginger really helps with nausea, but you have to get something strong like Reed's Extra Ginger brew. Really helps when my stomachs upset, and helped my buddy get over bad sushi.",
"Pregnant women should see a doctor -- listeria is a common cause of food poisoning which can harm an unborn baby.\n\n",
"If true food poisoning, just wait it out. Stay hydrated with gatorade. You need water and electrolytes. Don't need to see a doctor unless you can't keep liquids down for 24 hours. ",
"I just had food poisoning the other day. While there wasn't much I could do about it, I would at least down some ice cold water about a minute before I knew I had to puke. It would make puking a whole lot more comfortable.",
"not for easing the pain, but oral rehydration fluids like gatorade/powerade definitely help by replacing electrolytes and fluid loss :)",
"OP, were you able to see a doctor, and maybe Public Health? The longer you wait, the more other people could get sick. They may also not be able to get specimens from you and your cohorts.",
"I got food poisoning once, and from my experience there is nothing you can do. You can try water, but if it's true FP you'll throw that right back up.\n\nIn the days to follow if you can get anything down stick to what's simple: Rice, crackers, water, etc.\n\nDon't do what I did and hit up Taco Bell once your stomach starts growling again..it won't turn out well.",
"I've given myself food poisoning before, and as soon as i started feeling the symptoms (nausea, gastrointestinal distress), i took some pepto bismol. Afterwards, i slowly ate bread and drank water, and within a few hours i was just fine. Managed not to shit myself or vomit. Can't guarantee this is the best way to handle this, but it worked well for me. ",
"i'm not sure if i should actually recommend this, but when i've felt food poisoning coming on, i've done a couple of shots of whiskey or the like. i think it kills the bacteria that will make you really sick, but it will feel like there's a little war going on inside you for a bit."
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"How to clean retainer? I have a clear TruTain retainer and its not that clear anymore. Its a bit cloudy and has some stubborn plaque that is difficult to remove. My orthodontist told me to brush with toothpaste and water but this doesn't seem to work. I have also tried denture tablets and my retainers still end up being cloudy. Anyone got some safe cleaning tips?? \n\nThank you!",
"How to clean retainer? I have a clear TruTain retainer and its not that clear anymore. Its a bit cloudy and has some stubborn plaque that is difficult to remove. My orthodontist told me to brush with toothpaste and water but this doesn't seem to work. I have also tried denture tablets and my retainers still end up being cloudy. Anyone got some safe cleaning tips?? \n\nThank you!",
"How to clean retainer? I have a clear TruTain retainer and its not that clear anymore. Its a bit cloudy and has some stubborn plaque that is difficult to remove. My orthodontist told me to brush with toothpaste and water but this doesn't seem to work. I have also tried denture tablets and my retainers still end up being cloudy. Anyone got some safe cleaning tips?? \n\nThank you!"
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"Ultrasonic cleaner. Your dentist probably has one and should be able to clean it for you if you bring it in.",
"The plastic is probably scratched. You won't get them back to crystal clear. Order A New Set. Clean and functioning is what is important\n\nDon't waste money on making sure your retainer looks pretty",
"If you can't afford a new set at the moment, throw a splash of apple cider vinegar into some hot water and leave your retainers in there for like 15 minutes. Rinse and brush them off and the plaque should be gone."
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"Staying awake during the day after not sleeping well the previous night Usually I would go to the corner store and pick up a soda or gum, but I don't have any money right now. How can I manage to stay awake during school? ",
"Staying awake during the day after not sleeping well the previous night Usually I would go to the corner store and pick up a soda or gum, but I don't have any money right now. How can I manage to stay awake during school? ",
"Staying awake during the day after not sleeping well the previous night Usually I would go to the corner store and pick up a soda or gum, but I don't have any money right now. How can I manage to stay awake during school? ",
"Staying awake during the day after not sleeping well the previous night Usually I would go to the corner store and pick up a soda or gum, but I don't have any money right now. How can I manage to stay awake during school? ",
"Staying awake during the day after not sleeping well the previous night Usually I would go to the corner store and pick up a soda or gum, but I don't have any money right now. How can I manage to stay awake during school? "
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"First, find someplace where no one will see or hear you... Trust me this is a necessary step.\n\nNext, start drawing something on a piece of paper while narrating out loud an imagined story about what you're drawing. Since both drawing and speaking are activities that will demand one hemisphere of your brain to be dominant, your brain will tell you to either draw or speak. Resist the urge to pause drawing to speak, or stop speaking to draw. Keep doing both. This forces your left and right brain to \"fight\" each other for dominance. Within a couple of minutes you'll notice you'll be as awake as if on 10 shots of espresso. \n\nThe energy burst will last a good couple of hours -- after that you'll have to repeat the process. ",
"There are couple of things you can do. I spent a year in the UK with a good amount of travel between London - NY and so I am no stranger to fucked up sleep patterns:\n\n* Drink caffeine VERY VERY sparingly. You want to have sensitivity to it. As such, avoid it. Drink it ONLY when you're about to knock out and then in relatively small quantities. Don't pound a red bull as it'll just give you a 20 minute boast but not much else.\n* If you feel like you're slipping into sleep. Stand up. It is literally impossible to fall asleep while standing. Its an inner ear thing. \n* Drink ALOT of water. I mean like around 2 gallons of water. You won't be able to sleep if you're constantly drinking and constantly pissing.",
"Stay busy. In school after pulling an all nighter I just kept going during the lab assignments, but my eyes fell shut during theory.",
"Eat an apple for breakfast. My best explanation of this would be \"something something glucose something vitamin absorption\" (maybe another redditor will elaborate?), but apples are effective in keeping you awake in the morning, and they have the added bonus of making your teeth feel clean. So, you can sleep in an extra ten minutes, and save yourself from spending the time preparing and eating a sit down breakfast, brushing your teeth (if you feel brave enough to skip it for a day), and stopping off at the store to pick up a soda, by eating an apple on the go! Hope that works for you :) ",
"Don't eat for 12 hours before the time you want to start your day. Say from 8 pm to 8 am.\n\nIt's the jet lag trick and works for lack of sleep too."
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"An effective way to get rid of mosquitoes So, long story short, I live in a shared student house right in front of a pond, which as you can imagine is awful when it comes to mosquitoes. Sometimes there's 6-7 of them at a time which makes sleeping virtually impossible. Any idea of a good and cheap (20€ max) way to kill/repel them?",
"An effective way to get rid of mosquitoes So, long story short, I live in a shared student house right in front of a pond, which as you can imagine is awful when it comes to mosquitoes. Sometimes there's 6-7 of them at a time which makes sleeping virtually impossible. Any idea of a good and cheap (20€ max) way to kill/repel them?",
"An effective way to get rid of mosquitoes So, long story short, I live in a shared student house right in front of a pond, which as you can imagine is awful when it comes to mosquitoes. Sometimes there's 6-7 of them at a time which makes sleeping virtually impossible. Any idea of a good and cheap (20€ max) way to kill/repel them?",
"An effective way to get rid of mosquitoes So, long story short, I live in a shared student house right in front of a pond, which as you can imagine is awful when it comes to mosquitoes. Sometimes there's 6-7 of them at a time which makes sleeping virtually impossible. Any idea of a good and cheap (20€ max) way to kill/repel them?"
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"Plant citronella or peppermint. Mosquitos hate the smells. I personally plant large citronella plants, and crush them in my hands to release the smell. You can also use candles. \n\nAlso perhaps a bug zapper if it’s really bad. (love, a Minnesotan who has lived my whole life dealing with these vampires).",
"- Citronella candle\n- strong fan\n- bug net over bed\n- lemon eucalyptus oil\n- lavender oil\n- various different plug in bug repellents that may or may not work",
"I have not tried this myself, but I just read a post on Facebook that Listerine mouth wash in a spray bottle. Spray it around the area and the mosquitoes stay away.",
"A mosquito net. There comes a tent type small mosquito net enough for a person. This have been the best solution for me to get rid of mosquitoes."
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"How to get the most out of time spent online? It's so easy to get sucked into favourite sites, gchat, or social networks -- but I want to use the internet and it's wealth of information and free services to my advantage. Any tips for managing myself while using the internet? ",
"How to get the most out of time spent online? It's so easy to get sucked into favourite sites, gchat, or social networks -- but I want to use the internet and it's wealth of information and free services to my advantage. Any tips for managing myself while using the internet? "
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"Let's get into your problem more, what are you going online to do originally when you get pulled off task? \n \nIf it's something as simple as writing or research and you get bored there are many task apps out there that will pop up and remind you to stay on task, and give you designated break times to go on reddit or wherever else.",
"Go outside. If you're in public you'll feel more inclined to actually get shit done because nobody wants the embarrassment of running into a friend and having to tell them you spent the last 6 hours insulting strangers and whacking off instead of doing research for your report or whathaveyou."
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"How can I be more attentive to data accuracy whilst still working quickly? I work in a very stressful, fast-paced environment, where I frequently juggle 2-3 projects at once. These are all data driven, which means any issues in the underlying data causes significant problems with the results of the project itself. \n\nI find it difficult to work fast whilst being consistently accurate - simply because there are so many different moving parts. For eg. time-series data from one source looks different than data from another. All of it needs to be cleaned and compiled so that every time-series aligns. Most of this work is also done in Excel, which is the tool of choice in our field of work. So with one time-series starting a month early, and one cell not dragged over correctly, all hell breaks loose. \n\nWhat are some good ways for me to be more attentive to detail and accurate while working at this pace? \n\nThanks in advance!",
"How can I be more attentive to data accuracy whilst still working quickly? I work in a very stressful, fast-paced environment, where I frequently juggle 2-3 projects at once. These are all data driven, which means any issues in the underlying data causes significant problems with the results of the project itself. \n\nI find it difficult to work fast whilst being consistently accurate - simply because there are so many different moving parts. For eg. time-series data from one source looks different than data from another. All of it needs to be cleaned and compiled so that every time-series aligns. Most of this work is also done in Excel, which is the tool of choice in our field of work. So with one time-series starting a month early, and one cell not dragged over correctly, all hell breaks loose. \n\nWhat are some good ways for me to be more attentive to detail and accurate while working at this pace? \n\nThanks in advance!",
"How can I be more attentive to data accuracy whilst still working quickly? I work in a very stressful, fast-paced environment, where I frequently juggle 2-3 projects at once. These are all data driven, which means any issues in the underlying data causes significant problems with the results of the project itself. \n\nI find it difficult to work fast whilst being consistently accurate - simply because there are so many different moving parts. For eg. time-series data from one source looks different than data from another. All of it needs to be cleaned and compiled so that every time-series aligns. Most of this work is also done in Excel, which is the tool of choice in our field of work. So with one time-series starting a month early, and one cell not dragged over correctly, all hell breaks loose. \n\nWhat are some good ways for me to be more attentive to detail and accurate while working at this pace? \n\nThanks in advance!"
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"You really should be using something other than Excel if you are running into issues with amount/types of data being used. Anything more than a few VLOOKUP or other simple functions really invites too much human error, especially when doing a lot of copy/pasting also. It's too easy to get things off by a single cell, or forget some minor piece - and these problems aren't easily eyeballed. I recommend learning how to use Microsoft Access.",
"You can't. It's the age old issue of quality vs. quantity. Your employer will demand both, of course, because like most employers they falsely believe they can get something for nothing. Focus on quality. If the first 15% of the project is done correctly, the rest of it will grow naturally into a strong result.",
"Getting it out of excel would help. Try at least to add data validation to the cells, to ensure you are getting the data types you expect."
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"How to (safely, relatively cheaply) get rid of bugs without using chemicals which are toxic to humans. Information about how to get rid of any bugs safely and cheaply would be greatly appreciated. We have a centipede and millipede problem in particular and would like to get rid of them without putting poison in our kitchen/around our cat. Thank you!",
"How to (safely, relatively cheaply) get rid of bugs without using chemicals which are toxic to humans. Information about how to get rid of any bugs safely and cheaply would be greatly appreciated. We have a centipede and millipede problem in particular and would like to get rid of them without putting poison in our kitchen/around our cat. Thank you!",
"How to (safely, relatively cheaply) get rid of bugs without using chemicals which are toxic to humans. Information about how to get rid of any bugs safely and cheaply would be greatly appreciated. We have a centipede and millipede problem in particular and would like to get rid of them without putting poison in our kitchen/around our cat. Thank you!",
"How to (safely, relatively cheaply) get rid of bugs without using chemicals which are toxic to humans. Information about how to get rid of any bugs safely and cheaply would be greatly appreciated. We have a centipede and millipede problem in particular and would like to get rid of them without putting poison in our kitchen/around our cat. Thank you!",
"How to (safely, relatively cheaply) get rid of bugs without using chemicals which are toxic to humans. Information about how to get rid of any bugs safely and cheaply would be greatly appreciated. We have a centipede and millipede problem in particular and would like to get rid of them without putting poison in our kitchen/around our cat. Thank you!",
"How to (safely, relatively cheaply) get rid of bugs without using chemicals which are toxic to humans. Information about how to get rid of any bugs safely and cheaply would be greatly appreciated. We have a centipede and millipede problem in particular and would like to get rid of them without putting poison in our kitchen/around our cat. Thank you!"
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"I believe that diatomaceous earth (DE) is non-toxic to pets and works great as an insecticide. You can buy it where they sell swimming pool supplies.",
"Most Home Improvement stores (Lowes, Home Depot) have a variety of insecticides and ones which won't affect small animals are usually labeled. Look for \"Pet Friendly\" on the label and double-check the fine print.",
"I've written a better guide here\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/25xfgr/lpt_request_ways_to_keep_spiders_and_insects_out/",
"I know this trick works on ants and insects. You could try it, I suppose. Spraying vinegar on the area they're common in or even spraying it on them annoys them and drives them off.",
"Depends on the bugs. A shallow saucer with some sugar in, placed in your sink, for example, will bring out the shy ones.",
">We have a centipede and millipede problem\n\n>without putting poison in our kitchen/around our cat.\n\n\nWell your going to have to put out poison, however because those two insects prefer the floor and those hiding spaces you can put the poison in such a manner as the cat won't pick it up and then ingest it while it cleans itself or you if it's on the counter areas.\n\nThe poison your going to want to look for is roach powder or boric acid and you need to dust areas where the cat can't get to. Like behind/under refrigerators, stoves and, under things and other places the cat can't reach with their paws even.\n\nYou basically creating mini minefields as large possible with just a light dusting.You can mop the floors of the open areas afterwards. Obviously insecticidal powders is not going to work on carpets.\n\nOnce most any critter (except bedbugs) crosses through the powder, it sticks to their legs and they clean themselves, ingesting the poison. Even if the cat manages to eat the critter the poison is to low of amount for the cat. At worst it might get sick and puke it up, then it will know not to eat it again. Some millipedes are poisonous, that's more worst for the cat than the powder and cats survived those so it shouldn't be a problem.\n\nI have a centipede problem here, they come in by a handful a day and the roach powder minefields works very quickly. I only see dead ones sometimes if they make it out on the open floor. Most die where the powder is. Powder has been down for 2 years and it's still killing every day.\n\nAlso despite the boric acid or roach powder, roaches can climb and avoid those minefield areas, so roach pills work good in the back of cabinets and such as they are drawn to eat the bait.\n\n\n .\n\nDiatomaceous Earth (food grade, not pool grade) isn't going to be very effective on your type insects because the way it works. It barely works on bed bugs and takes several weeks of routine dusting around a clean bed to get enough on them to kill them. DE works by drying out the oils protecting the exoskeleton and allowing the internal body fluids to evaporate. Bed bugs don't clean themselves as they can't, only having a pricker to drink the only food it eats, blood. So DE somehow has to accumulate on the body of the insect, despite it having legs and avoiding most of it, this takes time.\n\nAlthough DE is sharp little diatoms and can cut the insides of your centipedes and millipedes a tiny bit, it's otherwise harmless. It's nothing compared to the effectiveness of a ingested poison in their blood stream. ;)\n\n\n .\n\nBTW, if you ever get bed bugs, don't spray anything. Clean the bed, wrap the mattress and box spring in thick plastic sealed tight for the next year and there is a much more effective silica gel product called CimeXa that is 3x more effective than DE. You pull the bed away from the wall so they can't get to you that way and keep the blankets and sheets from touching the floor if possible. Then spread a dust moat perimeter of this stuff around the bed. Works in one-two weeks as verses 3-8 with DE as the BB's need to come to feed on you wherever they are hiding and have to wade through it. CimeXa drys 3x faster, so it kills them faster than DE as a result, also it doesn't wear out. If it absorbs too much moisture it releases it so it's effective again, so it actually can be applied in cracks and such with water and a pump sprayer.\n\nYou also must place your bedposts into cans or BB traps and toss a little CimeXa in those, because you don't want to feed them or they will molt off the poison. Tricky little bastards.\n\nI'm not a pest guy, but I've killed lot of bugs here in Florida and together with a friend combated his bedbugs and understand what works well and why. Hope it all helps.\n\n .\n\nAnd one more. If you have ants coming in for water, you can mix the roach or boric acid powder in water, some honey and a fragrance like shampoo and pour it around areas that can get wet and around their nests. They drink, they feed their families, it kills the whole nest. However don't kill all the outside ants, they eat some harmful bugs and things. Just cut them back a bit."
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"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them.",
"What to do when walking down a hallway and someone else is walking towards you but you're too far to say hi yet Like what do I do with my eyes? I always end up making eye contact with them and then looking at the floor and then look up right when they pass like I just now noticed them."
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"Pull out your phone, tap furiously (while continuing along your original trajectory) like you're shooting off an important message, then when you are within greeting range of your friend, press the imaginary \"send\" button and look up, make eye contact with your buddy, and with a bit of surprise in your voice say \"Hi!\" ",
"You can look about, casually if you may. But when they are 15 feet away, you look eye to eye and smile like you own the world!",
"Ha Ha I hate this. I used to work in a cube farm and what's worse is when you keep passing the same people throughout the day. First time: \"Hey how are you today\". Second time: smile. Third time: eye contact. After that, stare at your feet and pretend they are invisible. Or just pull a George Costanza and put on an annoyed face so you look like you're thinking.",
"Just start masturbating. Eye contact is optional, but the speed of the stroke is important. Faster = better. This establishes you as the leader - no need to worry about starting a conversation, everyone else will be coming up to **you** asking questions, you'll feel like the centre of attention.",
"15/10/5 rule! Eye contact at a distance of 15ft, smile at 10ft, and then greet the person in question at 5ft. \n\n",
"In my opinion you cannot go wrong with what was already mentioned (smile, simple wave, say \"hi\"). Awkwardness when making nice is endearing to most. Also, whenever I start to overthink how to approach a social situation, I ask what kind of person I want to portray/be. Do I want to be the person who is reserved and quiet and doesn't greet co-workers/neighbors/etc.?",
"Oh I love it when this happens. I stare at them uncomfortably while they do whatever they can not to make eye contact until I get close to them. I love making people uncomfortable at work.",
"If you are that concerned, you can give a little wave and a smile. It is polite, friendly, and the right thing to do. Make sure you follow it up with a handshake. \n\nJust smile and say something like, 'when will this day finally be over?' Or, you are looking sharp today. ",
"You still say hi even if you're far then you ask questions like How are you? Or How did the test go? Or Got plans tonight? \n\n",
"Purposefully make it awkward so it's funny. Put your arms at your side hands straight pointed down (don't let them swing). Look around in many directions nervously ",
"Oh man this was me everyday in my senior year of highschool. Cute science teacher would always chill outside her door on the third floor and the nearest stairway was 30 feet down a long hallway. \n\nIt's probably best to have something in your hands and pretend to be busy, if you aren't the type to shout out and be goofy or can't because it's a work environment.",
"Haha i love those awkward moments.\n\nThe best is : \"premature verbal ejaculation\"; saying hi too early results in 10-15 meters of awkwardly walking towards eachother. ",
"You can: play with your watch, Cough, Sip a cup of coffee until you are in proper timing. looking at your watch makes it appear you are off to somewhere, playing with your watch means you are making plans.",
"Nod or raise a hand briefly. It depends on your social status. As a CEO you can do whatever the fuck you want. As an office rat you need to decide between official and unofficial greetings and all that nonsense. ",
"Make eye contact and when your eyes meet give them a warm smile while continuing to make eye contact, when you reach withing a feet of the person extend your hand for a handshake. Give them a firm handshake all this while maintaining eye contact. Small talk and then leave and search for next target.",
"Just wave to them. It's simple. I do this whenever I'm in this situation. I notice them, they see me. We both give a quick wave. Even if you say hi and they don't hear you, they can make out your lips saying hi and will mimick hi back. Just don't overthink it :)",
"Initiate a handshake...from the very moment you see them. Straight up \"fun with dick and Jane style\"\n\nJust fully extend your hand in the handshake pose, and walk toward them normally.",
"I usually make eye contact the entire time, and hold my hands low, and move my fingers back and forth like \"come on, bring it on in.\" And go in for the hug. Or me, [M] if I saw another one of my male friends, I'd wink at them just make them laugh. And go in for the handshake. Pretty funny.",
"Accept the fact that everyone thinks it's awkward, and let your eyes wander until they're at an approachable distance. If you say \"hi\" early and you still haven't passed by them, you can follow up with \"how's it going?\"."
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"Realizing I wasted my teenage years, where should I begin from? My parents forced me to move to another country 4 years ago, I was 15 back then. When I moved I spent most of my time feeling sorry for myself, ignoring/declining every invitation to go out with anyone. (that changed 5 months ago when I started going out with my now ex-girlfriend) Now I realized that I wasted my teenage years for nothing except playing games and binge watching shows. I would like to meet people my age, the problem is I still have minor issues with new language and that stops me from approaching random girls I find attractive or just people I find interesting overall. How can I change this, where should I begin from?\n\nKeep in mind that I don't drink so getting drunk in a club is not an option.",
"Realizing I wasted my teenage years, where should I begin from? My parents forced me to move to another country 4 years ago, I was 15 back then. When I moved I spent most of my time feeling sorry for myself, ignoring/declining every invitation to go out with anyone. (that changed 5 months ago when I started going out with my now ex-girlfriend) Now I realized that I wasted my teenage years for nothing except playing games and binge watching shows. I would like to meet people my age, the problem is I still have minor issues with new language and that stops me from approaching random girls I find attractive or just people I find interesting overall. How can I change this, where should I begin from?\n\nKeep in mind that I don't drink so getting drunk in a club is not an option.",
"Realizing I wasted my teenage years, where should I begin from? My parents forced me to move to another country 4 years ago, I was 15 back then. When I moved I spent most of my time feeling sorry for myself, ignoring/declining every invitation to go out with anyone. (that changed 5 months ago when I started going out with my now ex-girlfriend) Now I realized that I wasted my teenage years for nothing except playing games and binge watching shows. I would like to meet people my age, the problem is I still have minor issues with new language and that stops me from approaching random girls I find attractive or just people I find interesting overall. How can I change this, where should I begin from?\n\nKeep in mind that I don't drink so getting drunk in a club is not an option."
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"Volunteer anywhere that piques your interest as this will lead to meeting people with similar interests.\n \nAs Nike slogan goes: Just do It\n\nYou got nothing to lose by talking to that girl or that guy or that dog or whatever. You might get rejected in some way, but if you stand back and think about it that doesn't affect you in any way whatsoever. So just say hi, my name is... Can I buy you a drink?\n\nLPT: at a bar but you don't drink? Order a virgin drink or a non alcoholic drink as most decent bars and clubs will have the option for Designated Drivers and the like.",
"First thing is to stop worrying about the past. It’s done and you can’t change it. You did the best you could but you just didn’t have the best outlook. Focus on moving forward. Go out and talk to people even if you make mistakes. Try to not miss out on the present. That’s all you can do ",
"Swing or Blues dance lessons. Not only is it extremely fun, but it is also a very attractive skill to have when wooing a girl you like. You meet plenty of single people, you develop a very personable skill, and you have a great time. \n \n\nWhen I did it, it was $10 for 2 hours of lessons plus 4+ hours of free dance with live jazz (this was in Denver, CO at a place called the Mercury Cafe). I went every week for several months while I was dating the woman who is now my wife. Never forget it."
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"Good Android app for restricting phone use Are there any suggestions for a good Android app that can help with reducing phone time?\n\nIdeally, I would like to not be able to access apps like Reddit and mobile games during specific times. I still would want access to my phone for calls, messaging etc.\n\nIve looked but when I read reviews, they seem mixed so suggestions are welcome. \n\nThank you.",
"Good Android app for restricting phone use Are there any suggestions for a good Android app that can help with reducing phone time?\n\nIdeally, I would like to not be able to access apps like Reddit and mobile games during specific times. I still would want access to my phone for calls, messaging etc.\n\nIve looked but when I read reviews, they seem mixed so suggestions are welcome. \n\nThank you."
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"Newer versions of Android have a built-in feature called Digital Wellbeing. It may be under your Settings instead of app drawer. It has a focus mode where you can turn off certain apps at specific times, dashboard to show you app usage over time, and screen reading modes to tone down the blue light.",
"Whatever happened to controlling yourself? You really need an app on your phone to tell you not to use your phone?"
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"Pit Stains/ Discoloration I'm split between the deodorant/antiperspirant vs. wet armpits/dry armpits battle. Anti-perspirant discolors my shirts, but doesn't do wet pits. Deodorant is the opposite for me. I don't know which I prefer, but is there any way to do both somehow?\n\nAlso, any tips on getting the stains out once they're in? I tried baking soda paste. I've read baking soda+white vinegar and just white vinegar. Anyone with ideas that work for certain?\n\nThanks for any help guys.",
"Pit Stains/ Discoloration I'm split between the deodorant/antiperspirant vs. wet armpits/dry armpits battle. Anti-perspirant discolors my shirts, but doesn't do wet pits. Deodorant is the opposite for me. I don't know which I prefer, but is there any way to do both somehow?\n\nAlso, any tips on getting the stains out once they're in? I tried baking soda paste. I've read baking soda+white vinegar and just white vinegar. Anyone with ideas that work for certain?\n\nThanks for any help guys.",
"Pit Stains/ Discoloration I'm split between the deodorant/antiperspirant vs. wet armpits/dry armpits battle. Anti-perspirant discolors my shirts, but doesn't do wet pits. Deodorant is the opposite for me. I don't know which I prefer, but is there any way to do both somehow?\n\nAlso, any tips on getting the stains out once they're in? I tried baking soda paste. I've read baking soda+white vinegar and just white vinegar. Anyone with ideas that work for certain?\n\nThanks for any help guys.",
"Pit Stains/ Discoloration I'm split between the deodorant/antiperspirant vs. wet armpits/dry armpits battle. Anti-perspirant discolors my shirts, but doesn't do wet pits. Deodorant is the opposite for me. I don't know which I prefer, but is there any way to do both somehow?\n\nAlso, any tips on getting the stains out once they're in? I tried baking soda paste. I've read baking soda+white vinegar and just white vinegar. Anyone with ideas that work for certain?\n\nThanks for any help guys.",
"Pit Stains/ Discoloration I'm split between the deodorant/antiperspirant vs. wet armpits/dry armpits battle. Anti-perspirant discolors my shirts, but doesn't do wet pits. Deodorant is the opposite for me. I don't know which I prefer, but is there any way to do both somehow?\n\nAlso, any tips on getting the stains out once they're in? I tried baking soda paste. I've read baking soda+white vinegar and just white vinegar. Anyone with ideas that work for certain?\n\nThanks for any help guys.",
"Pit Stains/ Discoloration I'm split between the deodorant/antiperspirant vs. wet armpits/dry armpits battle. Anti-perspirant discolors my shirts, but doesn't do wet pits. Deodorant is the opposite for me. I don't know which I prefer, but is there any way to do both somehow?\n\nAlso, any tips on getting the stains out once they're in? I tried baking soda paste. I've read baking soda+white vinegar and just white vinegar. Anyone with ideas that work for certain?\n\nThanks for any help guys.",
"Pit Stains/ Discoloration I'm split between the deodorant/antiperspirant vs. wet armpits/dry armpits battle. Anti-perspirant discolors my shirts, but doesn't do wet pits. Deodorant is the opposite for me. I don't know which I prefer, but is there any way to do both somehow?\n\nAlso, any tips on getting the stains out once they're in? I tried baking soda paste. I've read baking soda+white vinegar and just white vinegar. Anyone with ideas that work for certain?\n\nThanks for any help guys.",
"Pit Stains/ Discoloration I'm split between the deodorant/antiperspirant vs. wet armpits/dry armpits battle. Anti-perspirant discolors my shirts, but doesn't do wet pits. Deodorant is the opposite for me. I don't know which I prefer, but is there any way to do both somehow?\n\nAlso, any tips on getting the stains out once they're in? I tried baking soda paste. I've read baking soda+white vinegar and just white vinegar. Anyone with ideas that work for certain?\n\nThanks for any help guys."
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"Two tips that work well for me:\n\n* Use your normal antiperspirant. Wipe off any excess using a paper towel prior to putting on your shirt. Once it's on your skin, it's where it needs to be; it's the excess that's causing the discoloration\n\n* Always wear undershirts. Then, even if you disregard the above tip, you discolor some plain undershirt instead of your favorite Invader Zim / Dib t-shirt. I've also found that the right undershirt is considerably more comfortable than any normal over-shirt.",
"for armpits: I'm a terrible sweater, and I've found that the clinical strength deodorant works fantastically for me (I'm also a girl). Also, I've never noticed it leaving residue on my clothes, as long as it's dry when I pull my shirts on\n\nfor the stains: I've rescued shirts (pre-dried, and totally set in) by using oxiclean. soak them in a sink (or bowl or bucket, whatever you have) with a scoop of oxiclean... do it overnight, and it will get all the yellow out of the shirt. for any lingering smells, add a 1/4 cup of vinegar to your wash.",
"From my 6th grade science teacher. Apparently her husband was staining his shirts. She contacted the company, sent them samples (on request) and they came back basically saying that there was a reaction between his sweat and the product that caused the discoloration. \n\nTry switching brands, or getting some of the uber-anti that was suggested elsewhere.",
"putting some vinegar while you wash your shirts will work, but for avoiding them .. sorry cant help you. \n\n",
"My two cents: There are several studies linking the aluminium compound in antiperspirants to Alzheimer's disease. So, if you like surprises...\n\nThe other things is once the stains are in, it's really hard to get rid of them, but people here have pointed out good methods. However, something that I use always is pre-wash (any brand will do) I apply this, when I take my shirt off for the day, and use it in the underarms, cuffs and collars. This really helps keeping my shirts clean.",
"I made [an LPT post](http://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/mc0q2/lpt_how_i_deal_with_sweaty_armpits/) about my way of dealing with sweaty armpits (that isn't showing up in the LPT subreddit for some reason) but I thought I'd tl:dr it here:\n\nPanty liners.",
"Have you tried this vinegar and oxiclean process? \n\n[Found it on PutThisOn](http://putthison.com/post/441812762/cleaningshirts)",
"Buy this stuff: http://www.amazon.com/Arm-Hammer-Essentials-Deodorant-Fresh/dp/B001CI6RQK/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1321286424&sr=8-1\n\nI used to use mitchum anti antiperspirant and it actually made me sweat more, but this arm and hammer stuff is natural and doesn't stain your clothes. I also never sweat and don't smell either."
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"How can I can keep the rubber grips from coming off my laptop? http://imgur.com/LQzWZcG\n\nAny ideas on how to increase the longevity of these or get new ones? Any help is much appreciated!",
"How can I can keep the rubber grips from coming off my laptop? http://imgur.com/LQzWZcG\n\nAny ideas on how to increase the longevity of these or get new ones? Any help is much appreciated!"
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"I've used epoxy to stick them back on and it worked great for a few months. However, they've recently fallen off again (mainly due to the heat from cpu etc. weakening the epoxy over time in the area where they are supposed to be), so I wouldn't recommend it if the grips are directly under hardware that generates a lot of heat. Going to try some of the suggestions here.\n",
"I would just say more glue, however, on the laptop I have there are holes right into the computer, so that's no option. *Make sure that there aren't any holes that go inside the computer*, then I'd just put some super glue down there.\n\nSo professional, I know."
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"Not Hearing/Understanding Someone After you've asked the person to repeat what he/she said and still can't comprehend, what should you do then?",
"Not Hearing/Understanding Someone After you've asked the person to repeat what he/she said and still can't comprehend, what should you do then?",
"Not Hearing/Understanding Someone After you've asked the person to repeat what he/she said and still can't comprehend, what should you do then?",
"Not Hearing/Understanding Someone After you've asked the person to repeat what he/she said and still can't comprehend, what should you do then?",
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"\"Sorry, I'm afraid I still didn't catch that.\" If possible, paraphrase the part you did understand, and ask for clarification on the specific part you aren't getting.",
"I just explain that I am hard of hearing and would appericate if they would repeat themselves one more time a little gentler.",
"Help them help you. If you tell them what you think they said, \"You mean I can have your car to use for the next three days without cost?\" when they asked you if you'd keep an eye on it while they're out of town, they will hear two things; they didn't give you enough context and you aren't understanding. \n\nIt's called an echo in sales parlance, paraphrasing in English Lit. class, mirroring in Neurolinguistic Programming. The basic principle is to convey, in whatever form it may take, your understanding of what they said. In legal terms, it's called negotiating.\n\nThis does not have to be a sledgehammer. This can be done with much elegance. \n\n\"Nuke. When you get up there, these big league batters are going to light you up for awhile. Don't worry about it. Be cocky and arrogant, even when you lose. Cocky and arrogant. That's the secret.\"\n\n\"Cocky and ignorant...\"\n\n\"No, you hayseed, cocky and...!\"\n\n[laughs] \"I know. I know. I just like to see you get all worked up.\"",
"\"Sorry, I'm still not understanding what you're saying. Is this about _____?\"... or just tilt your head back and laugh :p",
"Don't be such an autist. Get off 4chan and get a job and make some friends instead of jerking off to your cartoons and talking to your echo chamber about how awful the normies are for not cooking your chicken tendies the way you like. You're 35 years old for fuck's sake, get up get out and get something."
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"How to get rid of those white spots in my t-shirts armpits. My deodorant left some residue and can't wash it out. It's only with my black/dark shirts.",
"How to get rid of those white spots in my t-shirts armpits. My deodorant left some residue and can't wash it out. It's only with my black/dark shirts."
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"LPT: apply some drops of hydrogen peroxide on the affected area, rub it with a sponge, let it rest for about 5 minutes, use some soap and wash normally, this should get rid of the white spots",
"Fells naptha soap. It takes out yellow stains on collars and armpits as well as most other stains from any body fluid including blood. Can get at most older style hardware stores and amazon has online. I always use the bar version and break in half so i have one for my laundry or bathroom as needed. A little goes a long way. "
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"How to get out of lease? How screwed am I? I am panicking so much. I signed up for a student residence a few months ago, but my brothers came home from college during spring break and advised against it. My dad got a voicemail saying we didn't reach the income requirement anyway, so I thought that was that. We lost a $100 application fee, but that was alright. I signed up for campus housing and am planning to stay there.\n\nFast forward to last week, I get an email with my room assignment and I'm thoroughly confused. I call them and the girl says I have to pay another $100 before we can get the cancellation process going (it's actually $200 but my security deposit subtracts some). So I tell my parents, and I called again yesterday, ready to pay the $100.\n\nThe girl on the phone then tells me that even though we didn't meet the income minimum, that just means that all my preferences were lost, or something strange like that and that one of my guarantors (my dad) was approved. She then tells me there is no way to cancel, and that I need to get someone to sublease it.\n\nMy dad called today, and explained the whole situation. The lady today said that we called her back and offered a supplemental income, which was completely false. She also said that my dad signed an addendum after that message she left, so we should've knew we had been approved. I don't remember it being that way, but I haven't checked the dates on that in order to be sure. But all in all, she was saying I have no other options besides living there or subletting. I have no idea what to do now. Could there be a loophole? ANY help would be appreciated.\n\nI told my older sister about it, and she keeps telling not to worry and that if all else fails, to just not move into that place. I'll get evicted after not paying for 30 days and that'll be that. Our cr",
"How to get out of lease? How screwed am I? I am panicking so much. I signed up for a student residence a few months ago, but my brothers came home from college during spring break and advised against it. My dad got a voicemail saying we didn't reach the income requirement anyway, so I thought that was that. We lost a $100 application fee, but that was alright. I signed up for campus housing and am planning to stay there.\n\nFast forward to last week, I get an email with my room assignment and I'm thoroughly confused. I call them and the girl says I have to pay another $100 before we can get the cancellation process going (it's actually $200 but my security deposit subtracts some). So I tell my parents, and I called again yesterday, ready to pay the $100.\n\nThe girl on the phone then tells me that even though we didn't meet the income minimum, that just means that all my preferences were lost, or something strange like that and that one of my guarantors (my dad) was approved. She then tells me there is no way to cancel, and that I need to get someone to sublease it.\n\nMy dad called today, and explained the whole situation. The lady today said that we called her back and offered a supplemental income, which was completely false. She also said that my dad signed an addendum after that message she left, so we should've knew we had been approved. I don't remember it being that way, but I haven't checked the dates on that in order to be sure. But all in all, she was saying I have no other options besides living there or subletting. I have no idea what to do now. Could there be a loophole? ANY help would be appreciated.\n\nI told my older sister about it, and she keeps telling not to worry and that if all else fails, to just not move into that place. I'll get evicted after not paying for 30 days and that'll be that. Our cr",
"How to get out of lease? How screwed am I? I am panicking so much. I signed up for a student residence a few months ago, but my brothers came home from college during spring break and advised against it. My dad got a voicemail saying we didn't reach the income requirement anyway, so I thought that was that. We lost a $100 application fee, but that was alright. I signed up for campus housing and am planning to stay there.\n\nFast forward to last week, I get an email with my room assignment and I'm thoroughly confused. I call them and the girl says I have to pay another $100 before we can get the cancellation process going (it's actually $200 but my security deposit subtracts some). So I tell my parents, and I called again yesterday, ready to pay the $100.\n\nThe girl on the phone then tells me that even though we didn't meet the income minimum, that just means that all my preferences were lost, or something strange like that and that one of my guarantors (my dad) was approved. She then tells me there is no way to cancel, and that I need to get someone to sublease it.\n\nMy dad called today, and explained the whole situation. The lady today said that we called her back and offered a supplemental income, which was completely false. She also said that my dad signed an addendum after that message she left, so we should've knew we had been approved. I don't remember it being that way, but I haven't checked the dates on that in order to be sure. But all in all, she was saying I have no other options besides living there or subletting. I have no idea what to do now. Could there be a loophole? ANY help would be appreciated.\n\nI told my older sister about it, and she keeps telling not to worry and that if all else fails, to just not move into that place. I'll get evicted after not paying for 30 days and that'll be that. Our cr",
"How to get out of lease? How screwed am I? I am panicking so much. I signed up for a student residence a few months ago, but my brothers came home from college during spring break and advised against it. My dad got a voicemail saying we didn't reach the income requirement anyway, so I thought that was that. We lost a $100 application fee, but that was alright. I signed up for campus housing and am planning to stay there.\n\nFast forward to last week, I get an email with my room assignment and I'm thoroughly confused. I call them and the girl says I have to pay another $100 before we can get the cancellation process going (it's actually $200 but my security deposit subtracts some). So I tell my parents, and I called again yesterday, ready to pay the $100.\n\nThe girl on the phone then tells me that even though we didn't meet the income minimum, that just means that all my preferences were lost, or something strange like that and that one of my guarantors (my dad) was approved. She then tells me there is no way to cancel, and that I need to get someone to sublease it.\n\nMy dad called today, and explained the whole situation. The lady today said that we called her back and offered a supplemental income, which was completely false. She also said that my dad signed an addendum after that message she left, so we should've knew we had been approved. I don't remember it being that way, but I haven't checked the dates on that in order to be sure. But all in all, she was saying I have no other options besides living there or subletting. I have no idea what to do now. Could there be a loophole? ANY help would be appreciated.\n\nI told my older sister about it, and she keeps telling not to worry and that if all else fails, to just not move into that place. I'll get evicted after not paying for 30 days and that'll be that. Our cr",
"How to get out of lease? How screwed am I? I am panicking so much. I signed up for a student residence a few months ago, but my brothers came home from college during spring break and advised against it. My dad got a voicemail saying we didn't reach the income requirement anyway, so I thought that was that. We lost a $100 application fee, but that was alright. I signed up for campus housing and am planning to stay there.\n\nFast forward to last week, I get an email with my room assignment and I'm thoroughly confused. I call them and the girl says I have to pay another $100 before we can get the cancellation process going (it's actually $200 but my security deposit subtracts some). So I tell my parents, and I called again yesterday, ready to pay the $100.\n\nThe girl on the phone then tells me that even though we didn't meet the income minimum, that just means that all my preferences were lost, or something strange like that and that one of my guarantors (my dad) was approved. She then tells me there is no way to cancel, and that I need to get someone to sublease it.\n\nMy dad called today, and explained the whole situation. The lady today said that we called her back and offered a supplemental income, which was completely false. She also said that my dad signed an addendum after that message she left, so we should've knew we had been approved. I don't remember it being that way, but I haven't checked the dates on that in order to be sure. But all in all, she was saying I have no other options besides living there or subletting. I have no idea what to do now. Could there be a loophole? ANY help would be appreciated.\n\nI told my older sister about it, and she keeps telling not to worry and that if all else fails, to just not move into that place. I'll get evicted after not paying for 30 days and that'll be that. Our cr",
"How to get out of lease? How screwed am I? I am panicking so much. I signed up for a student residence a few months ago, but my brothers came home from college during spring break and advised against it. My dad got a voicemail saying we didn't reach the income requirement anyway, so I thought that was that. We lost a $100 application fee, but that was alright. I signed up for campus housing and am planning to stay there.\n\nFast forward to last week, I get an email with my room assignment and I'm thoroughly confused. I call them and the girl says I have to pay another $100 before we can get the cancellation process going (it's actually $200 but my security deposit subtracts some). So I tell my parents, and I called again yesterday, ready to pay the $100.\n\nThe girl on the phone then tells me that even though we didn't meet the income minimum, that just means that all my preferences were lost, or something strange like that and that one of my guarantors (my dad) was approved. She then tells me there is no way to cancel, and that I need to get someone to sublease it.\n\nMy dad called today, and explained the whole situation. The lady today said that we called her back and offered a supplemental income, which was completely false. She also said that my dad signed an addendum after that message she left, so we should've knew we had been approved. I don't remember it being that way, but I haven't checked the dates on that in order to be sure. But all in all, she was saying I have no other options besides living there or subletting. I have no idea what to do now. Could there be a loophole? ANY help would be appreciated.\n\nI told my older sister about it, and she keeps telling not to worry and that if all else fails, to just not move into that place. I'll get evicted after not paying for 30 days and that'll be that. Our cr",
"How to get out of lease? How screwed am I? I am panicking so much. I signed up for a student residence a few months ago, but my brothers came home from college during spring break and advised against it. My dad got a voicemail saying we didn't reach the income requirement anyway, so I thought that was that. We lost a $100 application fee, but that was alright. I signed up for campus housing and am planning to stay there.\n\nFast forward to last week, I get an email with my room assignment and I'm thoroughly confused. I call them and the girl says I have to pay another $100 before we can get the cancellation process going (it's actually $200 but my security deposit subtracts some). So I tell my parents, and I called again yesterday, ready to pay the $100.\n\nThe girl on the phone then tells me that even though we didn't meet the income minimum, that just means that all my preferences were lost, or something strange like that and that one of my guarantors (my dad) was approved. She then tells me there is no way to cancel, and that I need to get someone to sublease it.\n\nMy dad called today, and explained the whole situation. The lady today said that we called her back and offered a supplemental income, which was completely false. She also said that my dad signed an addendum after that message she left, so we should've knew we had been approved. I don't remember it being that way, but I haven't checked the dates on that in order to be sure. But all in all, she was saying I have no other options besides living there or subletting. I have no idea what to do now. Could there be a loophole? ANY help would be appreciated.\n\nI told my older sister about it, and she keeps telling not to worry and that if all else fails, to just not move into that place. I'll get evicted after not paying for 30 days and that'll be that. Our cr"
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"I would definitely suggest not being evicted. This stays on your record permanently. It cannot and will not go away. Try to sublease it or live in it yourself I'm sorry.",
"Take a deep breath. Gather up all signed documents. Read them. Check dates. \n\nYou have spoken to a lot of confused people, and you yourself are confused. This isn't a criticism, just a statement of fact. Most of these college residences are staffed by college students - not veteran employees who know the in and out of policies. \n\nEducate yourself and then communicate from a point of strength. If you have to sub, sub. If you have to live there, live there. If you can get out, get out - but any advice you get on here will be shaky at best without us seeing contracts etc.\n\nAlso, do not mess with your cr",
"I would ensure I have copies of all of the documents that were signed and then review them to see if what I was being told is even correct.",
"Contracts were never my jam but here’s what it sounds like:\n\nYou applied for housing at this place and YOU failed to individually meet their income requirements etc. which is common for college housing. \n\nYou dad signed on as the guarantor, meaning the duty to uphold the contract in the event you could not, i.e. pay the rent etc. \n\nHe DID meet the income and cr",
"You could also try the trick that one of my aquaintances used for years. HAted confrontation, was a phone sellers dream etc. \n\nThey had their dad call companies back with the most serious and barytone voice, saying that while it might not seem like it, his adult child was in fact just that, a little developentally delayed, and not allowed to make decisions like that. They never had issues, people on the other end always apologized and deleted all orders.",
"I'm confused, did you and your father actually sign a lease agreement and get keys? \n\nIf so, check all the fine print on that agreement. There may be some clauses about \"surrendering\" or something of that nature. \n\nI would also start looking into tenant rights for your state, and seeing if there is anything applicable to your situation. Also, cross post in r/legaladvice, they may have something.",
"Ask the leaser for everything IN WRITING. watch them back off quicker than you can blink.\n\nLeasers for students will lie their asses off about signatures etc, but they WON'T give you a physical signed document, as if they forge a signature it's prison time.........\n\nThey hope you'll just give them money and keep giving it."
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"How to organize tens of hundreds of loose CDs lying around. I have a couple hundred random CDs lying around. Anyone to stack these and efficiently store them?",
"How to organize tens of hundreds of loose CDs lying around. I have a couple hundred random CDs lying around. Anyone to stack these and efficiently store them?",
"How to organize tens of hundreds of loose CDs lying around. I have a couple hundred random CDs lying around. Anyone to stack these and efficiently store them?"
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"What's a CD lol. Get rack if you want to keep them in their case or get one of those books for loose cds",
"Not exactly how to organize them, but:\n\nFor each CD:\n - Stick into computer\n - Rip into iTunes\n - Put CD in big box\n\nOnce you're done, put the big box in the garage or a storage unit, or donate it to Goodwill.",
"Get a count of all of them and then find a storage cabinet that would hold that amount. Then after setting it up, organize the CD's by alphabet, maybe starting by doing a pile that's A-L and then M-Z and then break it down to specific letters and then sort it within each letter itself. If possible, leave some space in several areas to make it easier when you buy new CD's and want to add them in there."
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"How to keep sheets from balling up in the dryer? My sheets always ball up and take forever to dry. Someone smarter than me must have found a trick. TIA",
"How to keep sheets from balling up in the dryer? My sheets always ball up and take forever to dry. Someone smarter than me must have found a trick. TIA"
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"Throw a tennis ball in with them. Two, if you need to. We keep a half dozen tennis balls in the garage by the dryer just for this purpose. Helps stop towels from knotting up as well.",
"The only way I've found to take care of this with sheets/blankets is to open the dryer door, pull everything out and un-ball it, then stick it back in.\n\nWe use the dryer balls and everything, but the fabric is just so big it's going to ball up. I put a laundry basket by the dryer so that if part of the sheet falls or a sock drops out, there won't be added lint from the floor. \n\nWhen I wash the big stuff, I set the dryer for 15 minute intervals. When it beeps, it's time to check for clumping. \n\nIt's a pain in the ass, but it prevents polyester from melting, cotton from shrinking, and the dryer from catching on fire."
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"When do you hug someone and when do you shake their hand? Such as, if you're meeting a family member for the first time do you hug them or what?",
"When do you hug someone and when do you shake their hand? Such as, if you're meeting a family member for the first time do you hug them or what?",
"When do you hug someone and when do you shake their hand? Such as, if you're meeting a family member for the first time do you hug them or what?",
"When do you hug someone and when do you shake their hand? Such as, if you're meeting a family member for the first time do you hug them or what?",
"When do you hug someone and when do you shake their hand? Such as, if you're meeting a family member for the first time do you hug them or what?",
"When do you hug someone and when do you shake their hand? Such as, if you're meeting a family member for the first time do you hug them or what?"
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"Unfortunately it depends on the family and your comfort level. If possible, wait until they initiate if you don't mind doing either one.",
"It depends, but here are some general rules:\n\nNever handshake family members. Hug, or just a pat on the back. Handshakes are too formal and rigid.\n\nIn a social setting: When meeting someone for the first time, handshake. From then on, play it by ear. Once you know someone well enough, you can start to hug. That may be when you are saying goodbye later on that day, or it may be after months. It depends on the person. \n\nIn a business setting: Always handshake. The only exception is if it's someone's going away party or something like that, in which case you can hug if you know them well.",
"I state my intentions in advance and allow the other person to decline the offer.\n\n\"I'm a hugger. Mind if I hug you?\"\n\n\"I'd like to shake you hand, if you don't mind?\"",
"I always go for the hug if I haven't showered in a couple of days, or weeks. Helps if I've eaten a bunch of garlic too. Just because it's so much fun observing their expression.",
"Honestly, just do you.\n\nI for one am just a formal person outright, so most everyone gets a handshake unless they come in for a hug first. If you know them then they'll understand, if you don't they'll soon find out and adjust accordingly if they're reasonable people.\n\nThe trick is to just stay consistent with your choice.\n\nNote: this is just my personal experience, and does not stem from any professional hugging and handshaking experience.",
"Depends on the person and situation. Sometimes I'll change up the rules. It always surprises people if you go for a hug when they have their hand out. But it can go two ways. Make them feel quite uncomfortable or get closer to you. I've had mostly the second. Obviously don't hug someone who is an awkward introverted prick. Never hug anyone at work. Ever. "
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"Any lpt for not irritating butt skin after cleaning with toilet paper for someone who is used to cleaning with water? ",
"Any lpt for not irritating butt skin after cleaning with toilet paper for someone who is used to cleaning with water? ",
"Any lpt for not irritating butt skin after cleaning with toilet paper for someone who is used to cleaning with water? "
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"You should consider installing [one of these bidet attachments](http://a.co/fKzee3J) on your (assuming Western) toilet so you can still clean your butt with water at home. I have one and it's great.\n\nHowever, if you're traveling, you should consider purchasing butt wipes at a local convenience store. Check out this glowing [review](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mvu44MAMeB4) for Preparation H Wipes.\n\nHappy cleaning!",
"Try a baby wipe. They work wonders and you feel pretty clean afterwords, AND it shouldn't irritate your skin. But there are all kinds so you may have to shop around for what works best for you",
"Hello [inTheSuburbanWar](/u/inTheSuburbanWar), thank you for your submission! Unfortunately, your submission has been removed for the following reason(s):\n\n* **Toilet-related tip.**\n\n\n\nIf you would like to appeal this decision [please feel free to contact the moderators here](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=/r/LifeProTips). Do not repost without explicit permission from the moderators. Make sure you [read the rules](/r/lifeprotips/about/sidebar) before submitting. Thank you!"
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"What is an annoying way to stop a car parking on my flowerbed? The front of my house is on a public road and the side of my house is next to a small private lane with a flowerbed in between my house and the lane. \n\nWe have a neighbour from a few doors down so keeps parking on the flowerbed and it is destroying the glass and flowers. The problem is that as it’s on on the public road, they can’t get a parking ticket. So the most we can do is leave a polite note on the windscreen. We’ve done this about 5 times however and each time he’s read the note and torn it up.\n\nWhat are some very annoying (but arguably legal) ways that you can try to stop them from parking there. We’ve tried placing rocks on the soil but as it is a land rover, it barely has an effect. I was thinking about buying some of those labels that sick too well and are difficult to fully rip off without leaving a sticky mark, and writing a note on that on the windscreen. Any other ideas? It’s extremely annoying and reduces access to our own driveway",
"What is an annoying way to stop a car parking on my flowerbed? The front of my house is on a public road and the side of my house is next to a small private lane with a flowerbed in between my house and the lane. \n\nWe have a neighbour from a few doors down so keeps parking on the flowerbed and it is destroying the glass and flowers. The problem is that as it’s on on the public road, they can’t get a parking ticket. So the most we can do is leave a polite note on the windscreen. We’ve done this about 5 times however and each time he’s read the note and torn it up.\n\nWhat are some very annoying (but arguably legal) ways that you can try to stop them from parking there. We’ve tried placing rocks on the soil but as it is a land rover, it barely has an effect. I was thinking about buying some of those labels that sick too well and are difficult to fully rip off without leaving a sticky mark, and writing a note on that on the windscreen. Any other ideas? It’s extremely annoying and reduces access to our own driveway",
"What is an annoying way to stop a car parking on my flowerbed? The front of my house is on a public road and the side of my house is next to a small private lane with a flowerbed in between my house and the lane. \n\nWe have a neighbour from a few doors down so keeps parking on the flowerbed and it is destroying the glass and flowers. The problem is that as it’s on on the public road, they can’t get a parking ticket. So the most we can do is leave a polite note on the windscreen. We’ve done this about 5 times however and each time he’s read the note and torn it up.\n\nWhat are some very annoying (but arguably legal) ways that you can try to stop them from parking there. We’ve tried placing rocks on the soil but as it is a land rover, it barely has an effect. I was thinking about buying some of those labels that sick too well and are difficult to fully rip off without leaving a sticky mark, and writing a note on that on the windscreen. Any other ideas? It’s extremely annoying and reduces access to our own driveway",
"What is an annoying way to stop a car parking on my flowerbed? The front of my house is on a public road and the side of my house is next to a small private lane with a flowerbed in between my house and the lane. \n\nWe have a neighbour from a few doors down so keeps parking on the flowerbed and it is destroying the glass and flowers. The problem is that as it’s on on the public road, they can’t get a parking ticket. So the most we can do is leave a polite note on the windscreen. We’ve done this about 5 times however and each time he’s read the note and torn it up.\n\nWhat are some very annoying (but arguably legal) ways that you can try to stop them from parking there. We’ve tried placing rocks on the soil but as it is a land rover, it barely has an effect. I was thinking about buying some of those labels that sick too well and are difficult to fully rip off without leaving a sticky mark, and writing a note on that on the windscreen. Any other ideas? It’s extremely annoying and reduces access to our own driveway",
"What is an annoying way to stop a car parking on my flowerbed? The front of my house is on a public road and the side of my house is next to a small private lane with a flowerbed in between my house and the lane. \n\nWe have a neighbour from a few doors down so keeps parking on the flowerbed and it is destroying the glass and flowers. The problem is that as it’s on on the public road, they can’t get a parking ticket. So the most we can do is leave a polite note on the windscreen. We’ve done this about 5 times however and each time he’s read the note and torn it up.\n\nWhat are some very annoying (but arguably legal) ways that you can try to stop them from parking there. We’ve tried placing rocks on the soil but as it is a land rover, it barely has an effect. I was thinking about buying some of those labels that sick too well and are difficult to fully rip off without leaving a sticky mark, and writing a note on that on the windscreen. Any other ideas? It’s extremely annoying and reduces access to our own driveway",
"What is an annoying way to stop a car parking on my flowerbed? The front of my house is on a public road and the side of my house is next to a small private lane with a flowerbed in between my house and the lane. \n\nWe have a neighbour from a few doors down so keeps parking on the flowerbed and it is destroying the glass and flowers. The problem is that as it’s on on the public road, they can’t get a parking ticket. So the most we can do is leave a polite note on the windscreen. We’ve done this about 5 times however and each time he’s read the note and torn it up.\n\nWhat are some very annoying (but arguably legal) ways that you can try to stop them from parking there. We’ve tried placing rocks on the soil but as it is a land rover, it barely has an effect. I was thinking about buying some of those labels that sick too well and are difficult to fully rip off without leaving a sticky mark, and writing a note on that on the windscreen. Any other ideas? It’s extremely annoying and reduces access to our own driveway",
"What is an annoying way to stop a car parking on my flowerbed? The front of my house is on a public road and the side of my house is next to a small private lane with a flowerbed in between my house and the lane. \n\nWe have a neighbour from a few doors down so keeps parking on the flowerbed and it is destroying the glass and flowers. The problem is that as it’s on on the public road, they can’t get a parking ticket. So the most we can do is leave a polite note on the windscreen. We’ve done this about 5 times however and each time he’s read the note and torn it up.\n\nWhat are some very annoying (but arguably legal) ways that you can try to stop them from parking there. We’ve tried placing rocks on the soil but as it is a land rover, it barely has an effect. I was thinking about buying some of those labels that sick too well and are difficult to fully rip off without leaving a sticky mark, and writing a note on that on the windscreen. Any other ideas? It’s extremely annoying and reduces access to our own driveway",
"What is an annoying way to stop a car parking on my flowerbed? The front of my house is on a public road and the side of my house is next to a small private lane with a flowerbed in between my house and the lane. \n\nWe have a neighbour from a few doors down so keeps parking on the flowerbed and it is destroying the glass and flowers. The problem is that as it’s on on the public road, they can’t get a parking ticket. So the most we can do is leave a polite note on the windscreen. We’ve done this about 5 times however and each time he’s read the note and torn it up.\n\nWhat are some very annoying (but arguably legal) ways that you can try to stop them from parking there. We’ve tried placing rocks on the soil but as it is a land rover, it barely has an effect. I was thinking about buying some of those labels that sick too well and are difficult to fully rip off without leaving a sticky mark, and writing a note on that on the windscreen. Any other ideas? It’s extremely annoying and reduces access to our own driveway",
"What is an annoying way to stop a car parking on my flowerbed? The front of my house is on a public road and the side of my house is next to a small private lane with a flowerbed in between my house and the lane. \n\nWe have a neighbour from a few doors down so keeps parking on the flowerbed and it is destroying the glass and flowers. The problem is that as it’s on on the public road, they can’t get a parking ticket. So the most we can do is leave a polite note on the windscreen. We’ve done this about 5 times however and each time he’s read the note and torn it up.\n\nWhat are some very annoying (but arguably legal) ways that you can try to stop them from parking there. We’ve tried placing rocks on the soil but as it is a land rover, it barely has an effect. I was thinking about buying some of those labels that sick too well and are difficult to fully rip off without leaving a sticky mark, and writing a note on that on the windscreen. Any other ideas? It’s extremely annoying and reduces access to our own driveway"
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"Put a concrete border on the flower bed...\n\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/ProRevenge/comments/aspow4/neighbors_ran_over_our_fence_dad_installed/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share",
"A few boulders large enough to damage the car will do the trick. Make them a feature of the garden. \n\nThat's what happens in England & it works.",
"Whoops, spilled a box of extra large thumbs pin or screws for my project on building an imaginary dog house",
"If it's your property, and the lane is private, buy one or more short pieces of rebar, and stake them into the ground, leaving a couple inches exposed. Place ornaments (flower pot, gnome, w/e) over top of the stakes.\n\nOr, warm honey on the windshield, and sprinkle some glitter on it.",
"I'd be concreting a couple of hefty iron bars into the ground. One on each corner and few along the edge. Only need to be a couple of foot high and on your property. That'll stop the fuckers.",
"Anything that reduces access to your driveway is likely not permitted parking. I found that out when I was having issues with people parking and blocking my trash cans in. Try to find your vehicle code and read the stoping and parking section very carefully. In my case it's 5 feet from the edge of the driveway unless it's your driveway or a visitor to the property.\n\nNow calling code enforcement probably won't stop it right away but I bet enough tickets would eventually be a good deterrent.\n\nBest of luck!",
"If that's your property and not public land you've decorated, you can report them to the police for damaging your property. They're liable for that. Booby traps are illegal. Call the cops while they're parked on your flowers. Take pics/video of every time they do it. Stop fixing it, just document it. Show the cops. Get the plate, prove it's them every time, and if you can get proof of who's driving--either on video or watching yourself so you can identify them.",
"Use bright red or pink lipstick as a crayon and draw all over their mirrors and windscreen. It is oil based and takes forever to wash off, but won't cause any damage. I remember my mum's mates at work used to do this to each other as a prank, and she would often come home with rude pictures scribbled all over her car.",
"Get a plank of wood. Put a bunch of nails in it. Lay it down (nails up) on the ground and cover it with dirt. \n\nIt's your property..."
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"Any way to keep ear buds snug without getting custom ones made? I'm pretty sure my ear canal is oddly shaped or something. Whenever I have ear buds, they don't fit as well as they should in my ear. I know, I know. I should just buy some over-the-ear headphones; I will. But, like some audiophile alzheimer's patient, I keep buying ear buds and they keep slipping out. Is there any way to make sure they fit snugly in my ear or do I have to get custom headphones made?",
"Any way to keep ear buds snug without getting custom ones made? I'm pretty sure my ear canal is oddly shaped or something. Whenever I have ear buds, they don't fit as well as they should in my ear. I know, I know. I should just buy some over-the-ear headphones; I will. But, like some audiophile alzheimer's patient, I keep buying ear buds and they keep slipping out. Is there any way to make sure they fit snugly in my ear or do I have to get custom headphones made?"
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"I have a similar problem in one of my ears. It always seemed like it wouldn't slip out as much if there wasn't as much downward weight from the rest of the cord. Sooo... try taking the cord and wrapping it around the back of your ear before popping them in.",
"Something I've had good luck with in the past is to remove the existing foam (if it's removable), then drill an appropriately sized hole through standard noise-blocking foam earplugs and slip them onto the buds.\n\nEar buds designed to block out noise are designed to compress and then expand into your ears, making them fit very well, and they're soft enough to be comfortable for extended periods of time. The only real trick is seating them so they don't deform and cover the sound opening. If this is a consistent problem, you could always trim them down a bit, but I've never needed to."
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"How to stay awake I have a huge problem staying awake if I’m sitting idle. If I’m not physically doing something or entertained I will doze off like in class or when I’m hanging with people and we’re just sitting down. I don’t fall asleep I just doze off for a few seconds and wake up quickly. The crazy thing is I know when I’m falling asleep and I try to keep myself up but I can’t fight it. \n\nYes i get more than enough sleep at night and Yes I was diagnosed with a mild case of sleep apnea. My doctor has tried different ways to treat it but none have worked.\n\nAny advice on how to stay awake or the next steps to take.",
"How to stay awake I have a huge problem staying awake if I’m sitting idle. If I’m not physically doing something or entertained I will doze off like in class or when I’m hanging with people and we’re just sitting down. I don’t fall asleep I just doze off for a few seconds and wake up quickly. The crazy thing is I know when I’m falling asleep and I try to keep myself up but I can’t fight it. \n\nYes i get more than enough sleep at night and Yes I was diagnosed with a mild case of sleep apnea. My doctor has tried different ways to treat it but none have worked.\n\nAny advice on how to stay awake or the next steps to take.",
"How to stay awake I have a huge problem staying awake if I’m sitting idle. If I’m not physically doing something or entertained I will doze off like in class or when I’m hanging with people and we’re just sitting down. I don’t fall asleep I just doze off for a few seconds and wake up quickly. The crazy thing is I know when I’m falling asleep and I try to keep myself up but I can’t fight it. \n\nYes i get more than enough sleep at night and Yes I was diagnosed with a mild case of sleep apnea. My doctor has tried different ways to treat it but none have worked.\n\nAny advice on how to stay awake or the next steps to take.",
"How to stay awake I have a huge problem staying awake if I’m sitting idle. If I’m not physically doing something or entertained I will doze off like in class or when I’m hanging with people and we’re just sitting down. I don’t fall asleep I just doze off for a few seconds and wake up quickly. The crazy thing is I know when I’m falling asleep and I try to keep myself up but I can’t fight it. \n\nYes i get more than enough sleep at night and Yes I was diagnosed with a mild case of sleep apnea. My doctor has tried different ways to treat it but none have worked.\n\nAny advice on how to stay awake or the next steps to take.",
"How to stay awake I have a huge problem staying awake if I’m sitting idle. If I’m not physically doing something or entertained I will doze off like in class or when I’m hanging with people and we’re just sitting down. I don’t fall asleep I just doze off for a few seconds and wake up quickly. The crazy thing is I know when I’m falling asleep and I try to keep myself up but I can’t fight it. \n\nYes i get more than enough sleep at night and Yes I was diagnosed with a mild case of sleep apnea. My doctor has tried different ways to treat it but none have worked.\n\nAny advice on how to stay awake or the next steps to take.",
"How to stay awake I have a huge problem staying awake if I’m sitting idle. If I’m not physically doing something or entertained I will doze off like in class or when I’m hanging with people and we’re just sitting down. I don’t fall asleep I just doze off for a few seconds and wake up quickly. The crazy thing is I know when I’m falling asleep and I try to keep myself up but I can’t fight it. \n\nYes i get more than enough sleep at night and Yes I was diagnosed with a mild case of sleep apnea. My doctor has tried different ways to treat it but none have worked.\n\nAny advice on how to stay awake or the next steps to take.",
"How to stay awake I have a huge problem staying awake if I’m sitting idle. If I’m not physically doing something or entertained I will doze off like in class or when I’m hanging with people and we’re just sitting down. I don’t fall asleep I just doze off for a few seconds and wake up quickly. The crazy thing is I know when I’m falling asleep and I try to keep myself up but I can’t fight it. \n\nYes i get more than enough sleep at night and Yes I was diagnosed with a mild case of sleep apnea. My doctor has tried different ways to treat it but none have worked.\n\nAny advice on how to stay awake or the next steps to take.",
"How to stay awake I have a huge problem staying awake if I’m sitting idle. If I’m not physically doing something or entertained I will doze off like in class or when I’m hanging with people and we’re just sitting down. I don’t fall asleep I just doze off for a few seconds and wake up quickly. The crazy thing is I know when I’m falling asleep and I try to keep myself up but I can’t fight it. \n\nYes i get more than enough sleep at night and Yes I was diagnosed with a mild case of sleep apnea. My doctor has tried different ways to treat it but none have worked.\n\nAny advice on how to stay awake or the next steps to take.",
"How to stay awake I have a huge problem staying awake if I’m sitting idle. If I’m not physically doing something or entertained I will doze off like in class or when I’m hanging with people and we’re just sitting down. I don’t fall asleep I just doze off for a few seconds and wake up quickly. The crazy thing is I know when I’m falling asleep and I try to keep myself up but I can’t fight it. \n\nYes i get more than enough sleep at night and Yes I was diagnosed with a mild case of sleep apnea. My doctor has tried different ways to treat it but none have worked.\n\nAny advice on how to stay awake or the next steps to take."
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"I watched a really funny documentary about narcolepsy a few years ago. A group of narcoleptics would meet up regularly for meetings and they had to have three people take the minutes because they'd all randomly fall asleep during it.",
"There was a man my grandparents knew who had something similar but I think it was diagnosed as narcolepsy. This man got a kitten and trained it to stand on his shoulder everywhere he went. Whenever he started to nod off, the cat would try to keep its balance on his shoulder and dig his claws in which would wake him back up. The cat was registered as a service animal and could go anywhere he did. \nHonestly i wouldn't believe this story unless I had seen it myself but I guess it doesn't really sound that farfetched when you think about epilepsy service dogs trained to keep your head from hitting the floor during a seizure. The thing I remember most is the look on the cats face , you could tell he felt like a king being so high up above everyone else, he had this look like he was looking down upon all his subjects haha",
"Sleep Apnea is serious biz. While you may think the only symptom is needing to nap, in reality your whole body is being stressed to the max. Any illnesses you have are greatly accelerated. Diabetes, blood pressure, etc etc.\nYour personality will change due to lack of sleep, your eating habits will change, etc. all this will happen slowly over time so you won’t really notice, then one day it will just be too much and your body will start giving up. Then the other illnesses will really take root and come to light.\nYou have to cure the cause not the symptom",
"What have they tried for your apnoea? I was like this this, could fall asleep anywhere any time. I have a CPAP machine now and it’s much better- takes a little bit of getting used to though.",
"I’m not sure when you were diagnosed with sleep apnea but if you haven’t had a sleep study in awhile, it might be very helpful. I have narcolepsy and like everything else in life, there is a spectrum of severities. My narcolepsy worsened as I got older. After not being able to stay awake *exactly how you’re experiencing* I did another sleep study and the doctor woke me up from a nap to “I don’t even have to have a specialist look at it, you have it bad!” 😐 like ok good morning to you too sir. \nI was prescribed medicine to help me stay awake during the day and it genuinely has helped me in those situations. \n\nACTUAL TIPS: B12 supplements, focus on your muscle control and your posture, or even stretching certain muscle groups if the situation would allow it. Taking naps if your schedule allows it, I’d suggest to do some research on biphasic sleep. Many people feel more refreshed after a 30-40 minute nap mid day when their body feels tired. \n\nJust my experience! Do what feels right for you and your body.",
"You could try pinching yourself once in awhile. It's not the most fun, but it works. If it doesn't hurt then you are probably lucid dreaming, so fun double training hahaha",
"This happens to me also, its really bad when im driving, i have found that eating sunflower seeds helps, something about the act of cracking them open keeps my brain engaged enough to not doze off.",
"There's a trick that scientists (supposedly) have used before. You put a plate beside you and hold a set of keys, then rest until you fall asleep. The keys should fall on the plate and wake you up at the split second between you being asleep and awake. It'll make your brain active afterwards",
"Generally helpful things are caffeine (coffee, soda, pills - I take a caffeine pill first thing in the morning) and nicotine (cigarettes, vaping, and smoking cessation aids - I like the lozenges). \n\nYou have already identified moving around helps. Can you fidget in place? Probably less helpful is learning to knit. In college I would knit to stay awake during long periods of not sleeping (due to finals, mostly). Bonus was I made myself multiple beanies to wear."
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"How to stop thinking about a crush? She's been my crush for 3 years now. I'd be reading something, studying, listening to music or watching TV and I would just start thinking about her having sex with her boyfriend. It really sucks. Please help :{",
"How to stop thinking about a crush? She's been my crush for 3 years now. I'd be reading something, studying, listening to music or watching TV and I would just start thinking about her having sex with her boyfriend. It really sucks. Please help :{",
"How to stop thinking about a crush? She's been my crush for 3 years now. I'd be reading something, studying, listening to music or watching TV and I would just start thinking about her having sex with her boyfriend. It really sucks. Please help :{",
"How to stop thinking about a crush? She's been my crush for 3 years now. I'd be reading something, studying, listening to music or watching TV and I would just start thinking about her having sex with her boyfriend. It really sucks. Please help :{",
"How to stop thinking about a crush? She's been my crush for 3 years now. I'd be reading something, studying, listening to music or watching TV and I would just start thinking about her having sex with her boyfriend. It really sucks. Please help :{",
"How to stop thinking about a crush? She's been my crush for 3 years now. I'd be reading something, studying, listening to music or watching TV and I would just start thinking about her having sex with her boyfriend. It really sucks. Please help :{",
"How to stop thinking about a crush? She's been my crush for 3 years now. I'd be reading something, studying, listening to music or watching TV and I would just start thinking about her having sex with her boyfriend. It really sucks. Please help :{",
"How to stop thinking about a crush? She's been my crush for 3 years now. I'd be reading something, studying, listening to music or watching TV and I would just start thinking about her having sex with her boyfriend. It really sucks. Please help :{",
"How to stop thinking about a crush? She's been my crush for 3 years now. I'd be reading something, studying, listening to music or watching TV and I would just start thinking about her having sex with her boyfriend. It really sucks. Please help :{"
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"Try searching for things where you two are different. Does she like something you absolutely hate? Is there this one thing she does, that you really dislike. This will allow you to get a different perspective of her. You'll start seeing her no longer as the perfect girl who is everything you ever wanted but more as human.\n\nIf that alone doesn't help (it must certainly get won't rid of the crush completely), then get distance from her. You mentioned that you see her daily to do homework, so I'd advise you to talk to her how you feel and that you need distance from her. This might seem like an impossible task depending on how shy you are but it's the only way to get to stop thinking about her. She will still come into your thoughts from time to time. Let her and cry it out. You'll feel better aftwards.\n\nFurther you could try meeting new people. This will keep your thoughts somewhere else and maybe you'll even find someone new.\n\n \n\nYes, I know this all sounds pretty hard, but the truth is, there's no easy way to do it.\n\nBest wishes and good luck :)",
"One day, these feelings will be gone.\n\n\nUntil then, good luck friend.\n\n\nMaybe you'll meet someone else, that might help.",
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"take that damn crush off your pedestal, there are so many other oppurtunites. I know you like her but there are plenty of girls who are way suited to you, you just need to go out of your way to talk to them. ",
"Alcohol, lots of it /s.\n\nAll joking aside, either tell her and get shot down, or just talk it out with a close friend.",
"Just ask them out, you never know. They could be your fit or they could not be what you thought they were. I had a huge crush on this girl in the music department at my college and one day I just asked her out. Long story short, she said yes but only because we were really good friends. She also told me it wasn't a date because she didn't like me that way. I realized after our \"date\" that she wasn't my missing piece and that our friendship was perfect the way it was. I don't really have a crush on her anymore even though we always hang out now. I know the friendzone isn't ideal and people will give you crap for it but sometimes it's better to have a perfect friendship than a straining relationship.",
"I got over a 2-year-long crush recently so I think my input can maybe help you.\n\nShe might not be the person you fell in love for 3 years ago. In my case, the sweet girl who had this amazing combination of playfulness and a mysterious kind of shyness became a stoner asshole who hangs out with some of the most despicable people I know.\n\nThe crush was over the second I realized that.\n\nThis may or may not apply to your case, but I believe you could start by evaluating why the crush became in the first place and *honestly* compare with who she is right now. I doubt she's exactly like she was 3 years ago. And there's a substantial chance that the reasons for your crush just aren't there anymore.",
"Okay, real advice? **You have to will yourself to forget her.** Whenever you see her/think of her/her name comes up, you will literally have to use ALL YOUR MENTAL POWER to force every atom of your body away. I'm not joking. It will feel like you are forcing *every single atom and brain cell in your body* to stop thinking about her.\n\nSo do that. She comes up in convo or in your thoughts? **Will ever atom of your body to focus on something else, even momentarily.** It will be like that for a long time, but eventually it gets easier and **there will come a day when thinking about doing something/someone else will be naturally** Trust me.\n\nidk if i've explained that well enough, let me put it in context. you're in a wheelchair right? well, tell me this: the first time you used the wheelchair did it not feel like you had to use every muscle fiber in your body to turn that wheel with your arms? But then over time, your arm muscles became trained and it became easier, and now it's probably second nature to spin those wheels. Similarly, **you need to train your brain to forget** It will use every neuron the first couple of times, but there will be a day when it come as second nature, and the thought won't ever cross your mind again. That day will come, just believe in that.",
"What is wrong with her having sex with her boyfriend? They love each other and shes a cool woman most likely who is mutually a sexual being too."
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"How to properly ask for a raise. What is the easiest way to ask without over stepping your boundaries? Hello all. Currently I work HR, since a colleague is departing I will be taking on a stressful new role. Relocation, that's right. This is only for Managers and below since Director and above are taken care of at a Managerial level. \n\nBut, with this new job the previous colleague explains the horrors it can entail. So, if I take this new role: would I be easier to ask for a Level 2 position or a salary raise? \n\nCurrently I am making enough with a lot of responsibilities and I still feel like I am under compensated. \n\nPlease, LPT help. ",
"How to properly ask for a raise. What is the easiest way to ask without over stepping your boundaries? Hello all. Currently I work HR, since a colleague is departing I will be taking on a stressful new role. Relocation, that's right. This is only for Managers and below since Director and above are taken care of at a Managerial level. \n\nBut, with this new job the previous colleague explains the horrors it can entail. So, if I take this new role: would I be easier to ask for a Level 2 position or a salary raise? \n\nCurrently I am making enough with a lot of responsibilities and I still feel like I am under compensated. \n\nPlease, LPT help. "
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"Asking for a raise can be tricky and how to approach it depends on the nature of the person who your asking it from. Taking on additional responsibilities is in my opinion the best justification for a raise so thats a plus. In initially broaching the subject I have found it easiest to ask not for a raise, but to \"set up a time sometime this week to discuss salary.\" That way you don't surprise your boss, he/she can have a think about what you are worth to the company. Your boss may ask some questions at that point and you can answer honestly without feeling like you are being demanding. Eg. new role, new responsibilities, eager for development but conscious of work life balance and the additional stresses upon your family. \nI don't think there is scientific best answer for how to ask for a raise. It can be a professional discussion but sometimes, I know anecdotally from friends it isn't. I can't help regarding what options you choose though, that's something foreign to me, but my best advice is to set up a meeting, not startle your boss into an answer, they will ask for time anyway.",
"Are you taking on his responsibilities as well as the ones you already have, or are you moving to a different position? Did the departing colleague tell your boss he is leaving because of the difficulties? Did the departing colleague make more than you? Is it a promotion? Unless it is a purely lateral transfer, I would be expecting a raise, as most employers will always add more responsibility to an employees burden rather than take it away. \n\n\nI would also be concerned if they hadn't already talked to me about compensation if they have already said I would be getting the new position, especially if it is a large corporation.\n\n"
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"How do I stop overthinking things and ease anxiety? I often find myself reading too much into situations and ruminating how I am going to confront someone about a problem. \n\nI feel like my anxiety is getting in the way of my daily life. I always depend on my boyfriend to help me ease my anxiety. How can I work on easing my anxiety and overthinking everything? ",
"How do I stop overthinking things and ease anxiety? I often find myself reading too much into situations and ruminating how I am going to confront someone about a problem. \n\nI feel like my anxiety is getting in the way of my daily life. I always depend on my boyfriend to help me ease my anxiety. How can I work on easing my anxiety and overthinking everything? ",
"How do I stop overthinking things and ease anxiety? I often find myself reading too much into situations and ruminating how I am going to confront someone about a problem. \n\nI feel like my anxiety is getting in the way of my daily life. I always depend on my boyfriend to help me ease my anxiety. How can I work on easing my anxiety and overthinking everything? ",
"How do I stop overthinking things and ease anxiety? I often find myself reading too much into situations and ruminating how I am going to confront someone about a problem. \n\nI feel like my anxiety is getting in the way of my daily life. I always depend on my boyfriend to help me ease my anxiety. How can I work on easing my anxiety and overthinking everything? ",
"How do I stop overthinking things and ease anxiety? I often find myself reading too much into situations and ruminating how I am going to confront someone about a problem. \n\nI feel like my anxiety is getting in the way of my daily life. I always depend on my boyfriend to help me ease my anxiety. How can I work on easing my anxiety and overthinking everything? ",
"How do I stop overthinking things and ease anxiety? I often find myself reading too much into situations and ruminating how I am going to confront someone about a problem. \n\nI feel like my anxiety is getting in the way of my daily life. I always depend on my boyfriend to help me ease my anxiety. How can I work on easing my anxiety and overthinking everything? "
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"Look up mindfulness. It's all about staying in the present. There are even skills and tricks to doing it. (Not saying it's easy, but it helps.)",
"Do you build quiet time into each day? 10-30 minutes where there's no music, no podcasts, no videos, no one to talk to or distracted by. Maybe a quiet shower or a car drive with the radio off. Maybe a walk outside. Ideally a little place in your home where you can go to be in yourself at least once a day.\n\n \n\n\nMindfulness, m",
"Overthinking is like a child wanting attention; train yourself to treat it that way. \n\nSay \"thanks\" when it gives you suggestions for future scenarios or \"no, thank you. Not right now.\", etc. \n\nStart small though. When overthinking starts take 5 minutes to listen and respond to your thoughts in this way, then let the usual anxiety in. \n\nIf you respond to overthinking in this new way (5 mins to begin with), the overthinking will lessen over time as it realises it's not getting the intended reaction and you will develop a new response to overthinking. \n\nAlso, mindfulness like other's have mentioned. Mindfulness is a game changer when you implement and train it daily like exercise. Source: personal experience",
"Have a look into cognitive behavioural therapy - it's based on identifying negative thought patterns and learning how to replace them with more realistic ones. Moodgym is a good place to start.\n\nGood luck! ",
"WRITE A LIST! I had this problem too until I realized that each new thought in my head only FEELS like a new worry, in reality it's the same worry I already had only rephrased and tossed back at me as \"new\". \n\n \n\nLast summer I remember I was worried about attending the same party as my emotionally-unstable ex boyfriend. All day my head swam with new thoughts, and I felt like I was drowning in it all and couldn't get ahead. I took out a piece of paper and wrote down the specific things I was worried about, and was shocked to see only a 3 item list! Turned out my brain had been feeding me the same three sentences over and over in different ways! I felt exponentially better once I was able to shut down that inner voice by outsmarting it",
"I have the same problem and sometimes i just start counting in my mind and it makes me concentrate in the count more than the thougts"
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"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
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"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?",
"How to stop peeing all the time when you drink more water? I started drinking more water to improve my health, and now I can't stop peeing all the time. Sometimes, I even wake up to pee or pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. What do hydrated people do when they have to pee more often?"
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"r/hydrohomies\n\nI don't think you can overcome peeing all the time unless you drink less water or get more active so your body sweats it out",
"If you want to reduce the amount of peeing at night, then drink most water in the first half of the day, and then in the afternoon taper off your water intake. Don't drink an hour before going to bed. That way you'll be sufficiently hydrated, but won't have your stomach full of water that's going to want to come out in the middle of the night.\n\nAlso, don't stuff yourself with water. Too much is not good either.",
"Once I added electrolytes to my water, I stopped peeing so much. Maybe more is absorbed I don’t know.",
"You might be drinking too much water. Drink enough so that your piss stays very lightly yellow. If it’s clear then you’re drinking too much.",
"If you go too often, your bladder can shrink a bit, making you feel like you have to go more often.\n\nIt is safe to stretch it a bit, simply by waiting. When people have a severe form of this problem, they will put them under, and stretch their bladder with water.\n\nAlso make sure you are not forcing it out. That can over-strengthen the bladder and make it smaller.",
"I’m going to assume you’re being serious. Though I have my suspicions. \n\nWater makes up a huge proportion of your blood. The balance between water to “blood stuff” is very important. Too much water, you die. Not enough water, you die. \n\nIt is your kidneys responsibility to keep this in balance (homeostasis). When you drink too much water, it gets absorbed into your blood stream, and your kidneys notice that the balance is off, and starts filtering water out into your bladder. \n\nYou cannot, (and should not want to), stop this process. Inevitably your bladder fills and you gotta go. \n\nIt is hard, not not impossible, to be too hydrated. If you’re peeing perfectly clear all the time, you can run short on electrolytes in your body (some are “used” by your kidneys in the filtering process). \n\nThis is so true that PURE water is kinda bad for you. You need the dissolved minerals and electrolytes in more natural sources to help with your blood balance. \n\nA lot of oversimplification in the above, but generally accurate.",
"As a precaution I would see a doctor and have your A1C measured. You could be pre-diabetic. Excessive urination is a symptom.",
"Stop drinking so much water.\n\nYour body has this mechanism to tell you when you need to drink water. You don't need to do anything special, but you will just feel it. It's called \"thirst\". \n\nIf you find your piss is running clear, stop drinking so much water and cut back. The \"recommendations\" of \"up to 8 glasses of water a day\" or those ridiculously oversized water bottles with times written on the side, don't take into account every individual is different.",
"So, I already have an ongoing relationship with a urologist for other reasons, so once when I went in for a routine check in, I mentioned I was getting up like 3-4 times a night to pee. They actually took it seriously, had me measure my output for a couple weeks, and did an ultrasound of my bladder... and it turned out I had no problem, beyond not really thinking about/understanding things.\n\nI am one of those people who just drinks mainly water, because I don't like carbonated beverages. I also tend to drink a lot of it, who knows why. :) Here's what the doc said... This is a bit of an oversimplification, but is essentially right.\n\nMy bladder holds about 22 oz of liquid. Once it gets full you have to pee. Once you empty it, it will bring in more liquid that's been waiting in your stomach. The cups I commonly use at home hold 17 oz of water. If I had 3-4 cups of water in the few hours before bed, that's 51-68 oz of water waiting in line to come out, 22 oz at a time. From there its just math. How many times would you like to get up in the middle of the night? Drink that many cups of water that haven't come out yet. Makes sense in hindsight. :)\n\nApply this thinking to your situation, and see if maybe everything is fine, you're just putting many more oz in, so many more oz are coming out. ;)",
"The idea that you need to deliberately drink more water is fake. Never studied, never proven. Somebody just made it up. Your own body is telling you that you are drinking too much water. Listen to your body, not some bogus factoid.\n\nMake sure you have access to plenty of water when you really need it, like running 5k in summer heat.",
"Stop drinking more water than you need it’s as unhealthy as drinking less. Your body has developed thirst through millions of years of evolution. Just drink water when you are thirsty instead of forcing yourself to drink more. There’s no definitive amount you need to drink it always depends on your lifestyle and genetic so thirst can tell you how much you need.",
"Try eating something small before you drink water. Did you notice that if you drink alcohol without eating you get drunk faster? I don’t know the terminology but the explanation I’ve heard is that the exit from the stomach closes when you eat, so the alcohol stays in your stomach instead of going straight though. The same is true of any liquid, like water or coffee. So eat anything before drinking water and you should slow down the urges.",
"So I haven’t seen this comment yet, but you need more electrolytes most likely. Your body is not retaining the water you’re drinking - try it out.",
"If Ive had nothing to drink, and then chug 500ml, I'll need to pee an hour and a half later. \n\nSo, 2 hours before bed, is when I have my last big guzzle of water. Then I pee before bed, and I sleep. Then I wake up. I have my breakfast and giant tall glass of water. And at 9:00 at work, I go pee. Then I have a big chug of water at break time. Then I pee again before lunch. Then at lunch I chug a bunch of water. Then I pee again in the afternoon. I don't drink any more until I get home. I did that once and got stuck in traffic after work, and I could feel the waterfall filling my bladder as I'm staring at brake lights.\n\nAre you sipping water throught the day, then that might be why you feel like you're peeing constantly. I do the chug. I drink more water at one time, but then I know when I can expect to pee.\n\nTry this:\n\nPee in the morning, and don't drink anything all morning until your first break. Chug 500ml of water and that's it. Note the time when you need to pee, and gauge roughly how much comes out. Then go back to the bathroom before you chug another 500ml, and force yourself to pee and see how much comes out. And that's basically it. It's all in and outs. Water in is some water out.\n\nIf you feel like you only peed 350ml out, but it was 250ml that made you feel like peeing then you know how much water you can drink and when to expect to pee. If you drink 750ml in one chug, then you will probably need to pee twice within 30 minutes of each other. \n\nSome for your body, most for your bladder.\n\nIt's easy with an office job, but if you're doing anything physical, then it's a bit different. My days are all same though. \n\n🤷♂️ Good luck!",
"Don't drink plain water - it runs through you like a sieve. Take one liter of water, one teaspoon of salt, and six teaspoons of sugar. It doesn't taste that bad. I take Ritalin, and that dries your mouth out something fierce. The more water I drank, the more I had to pee. The more I peed, the more I had to drink. It was a horrible cycle.\n\nThis LPT changed my life - I am not even exaggerating. I am hydrated, my mouth isn't dry, and I am not running up and down to pee. I have much fewer headaches as well, and don't feel nauseous as easily. I don't leave the house without a bottle of this in the morning.\n\nAnother thing - people grossly overestimate how much water is good for you, and that more is always better. A good rule of thumb is to take your weight (in kg), divide by 10, and multiply by 250 ml (one cup). For example, if I weigh 50kg, I should be drinking 5 cups of water a day ( 50 /10 x 250ml). This is the baseline - you can adjust upwards for warmer climate, metabolism, and activity levels. There is no reason a 50kg woman sitting at a desk all day in a temperature-controlled office should be drinking liters and liters of water a day. A 150kg construction worker working in the heat all day will obviously drink more.\n\nHope this helps :)",
"Just drink less water? Your body has a mechanism to tell you if it is in need of hydration, its called thirst.",
"I drink a lot of water. It never gets better but you get use to it. I try not to drink water within the last hr of bed. I will take a sip though if I feel thirsty.",
"So, hear me out, I think it’s absolutely great that you are hydrating yourself to improve your health. 100%. Ask yourself this question: “Am I desiring more water, an almost unquenchable thirst?” This, coupled with increased urination could be a sign of diabetes. If you answer “yes” to both, I would recommend you make an appointment with your healthcare provider and have them do bloodwork, simple test to have your blood glucose levels run.",
"Pelvic floor pt. Your supposed to be able to hold your pee for up to 3 hours. I have POTS and have to drink a ton of liquids to prevent passing out. I did pelvic floor pt for other issues but by strengthening certain weaknesses and learning how to elongate my muscles I my pelvis I am now able to hold it for at least 3 hours.",
"Peeing is your body doing its work. If it is malfunctioning it can be a sign of damage or something abnormal happening. Water retention is managed by your kidneys. They decide how much water should leave the body to be filled in your bladder and how much is retained. The mechanism is described in the Henle Loop:\n\nhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loop_of_Henle\n\nFrequent urination could be a symptom, it could be just a small imbalance with your Henle loop, but frequent urination combined with very little water is a sign of a medical condition. Those can be\n\nDiabetes: High blood sugar levels can cause an increase in the amount of glucose (sugar) in the urine, leading to more frequent urination. This is because the body tries to get rid of excess sugar by excreting it in the urine. Diabetes can be diagnosed with a blood test and managed with lifestyle changes (such as diet and exercise) and/or medication.\n\nUrinary tract infection (UTI): A UTI is an infection that can affect any part of the urinary tract, including the kidneys, bladder, urethra, and ureters. UTIs can cause symptoms such as frequent and painful urination, abdominal pain, and fever. UTIs are treated with antibiotics.\n\nProstate problems: The prostate is a gland in the male reproductive system that surrounds the urethra (the tube through which urine is excreted). An enlarged prostate, also known as benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH), or prostate cancer can cause frequent urination, especially at night. Treatment for BPH may include medication or surgery, while treatment for prostate cancer may include surgery, radiation therapy, or chemotherapy.\n\nBladder inflammation or irritation: Conditions such as interstitial cystitis (also known as painful bladder syndrome) can cause bladder inflammation, leading to more frequent urination. Interstitial cystitis is a chronic condition that can be difficult to diagnose and treat. Treatment may include medication, physical therapy, and dietary changes.\n\nEspecially if your urine is colored dark brown or red it can be a serious.",
"I asked my doctor about it and he said just drink when you are thirsty. Pretty simple. You’re body can only handle a certain level of fluid at a time.",
"Hi. I went through the top 15 and didn’t see this so I’ll put my 2 cents in:\n\nSpecifically the part about laughing and losing a bit of urine: this is called stress incontinence and it’s very common in women, especially those who had carried a pregnancy to term. It can be treated by physical therapy to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. It can also be treated, as some have noted, by only drinking as much as needed to not be thirsty/pee light yellow, since a less full bladder has less stress. The number of women who have this and don’t talk about it and assume there is nothing to be done is regrettable. Pelvic floor PT needs a serious Public Service Announcement treatment. \n\nAs for the frequency issues that’s probably going to respond best to just not over drinking, but some of the bladder stretching notes above may be helpful to a point. \n\nI suggest speaking with your doctor if just cutting down on drinking doesn’t solve your issue to make sure nothing is being missed but probably it’s some combination of the above.",
"Hey so, not for nothing, but how much water are you drinking?\n\nI did something similar and was having a similar problem, so I was seen by a nephrologist who told me I went way to far and was drinking like, 8 liters a day which is entirely too much.\n\nSo just make sure you're not going too ham. If you are, the easy solution is to dial it back a bit and you'll pee less. \n\nAnyway learn from me and my expensive trip to the doc.",
"Early 40s and I drink a lot of water so naturally I pee often during the day. Goal is to keep urine a very light yellow to clear color. \n\nTwo hours before bed I stop drinking water. I can sleep 7-8 hours without needing to pee. I know my days are numbered though.",
"Drinking more water equals more pee, *However* if you're peeing a *lot* more than you used to, it might be that you aren't actually being hydrated by the water you're drinking. We need electrolytes to actually be able to absorb water and get hydrated, so if your water has a low electrolyte level there's a chance most of it isn't being absorbed like it should and is just passing straight through you. An easy fix is to add a little dash of salt to your water and see if that makes you pee less often and feel more hydrated.\n\nYou can also work on training your bladder. Peeing frequently with not much excreted is not great for you. Multiple doctors have told me that you ideally want 10-15 seconds of solid stream every time you pee (and don't push while you pee). Less than 10 seconds means you should wait a bit longer before peeing. More than 20 seconds means you need to pee more often (it can cause serious issues if you hold your pee for too long, so seriously don't exceed a 20sec stream). If you're usually peeing with a shorter (<10sec) stream, when you first get the urge to pee do a few kegels and try to wait it out a bit longer. Kegels can help because your bladder can't contract at the same time your pelvic floor is, so it can help your brain kind of reset that \"full\" feeling. And yes, everyone can do kegels, no matter what bits you've got.",
"Don't want to get you startled and someone who knows what overthinking means then this could potentially haunt you but do get a sugar/diabetes tested. The test is probably blood glucose(normal + fasting) and HBA1C. Too much urge to pee ain't the best of the symptoms. Having said this you could and most probably be normal so don't overthink about it.",
"Doctor here, and just \"drinking water\" won't improve your health. You should follow your built-in mechanism for controlling water levels, which is called thirst. If you're thirsty, drink. If the day is particularly hot or cold, drink more water than usual. Other than that, drinking more water will only lead to (unsurprisingly) peeing more water (and higher workload for your kidneys, which can end up damaging them in the long run).",
"Did you just start drinking water more frequently? In my experience if you just started doing this it might take a week or two for your body to get adjusted and then you’ll go normally",
"Assuming your gender is female due to peeing when you laugh. You might be surprised how common that is. I personally don't have female equipment but the rental company informed me that pelvic floor exercises help with leakage.",
"spread out your drinking throughout the day so you're filling your bladder at a slower pace. Instead of drinking 2 glasses in 5 seconds every 2 hours, take sips through out the day. Also, some people just have smaller bladders like myself but I spread out my drinking by taking sips. I still get the smae amount of hydration, I'm just spreading it out so I make less trips to the bathroom",
"see a pelvic PT!!! it sounds like your dealing with some stress and urge incontinence. both of which are really treatable",
"i woke up a minimum of three times a night to pee even when its a small amount. my bladder needs to need empty empty or else no snoozes. my max was fifteen times lol. after pregnancy and my catheter for a week, it got way less. 😝 maybe try that. jk. and ever since taking adderall, i had to pee less. (im also on seroquel but that didnt have an effect on my per behaviour)\n\nnow its once or twice per night but mostly bcs the baby wakes me. 🥹",
"Youll simply have to bear with peeing more frequently. You'll thank me when you don't go thru the agony of a kidney stone later in life",
"You need to have enough salt too. Put a pinch of salt in your water so that you do retain some of it. Works like a charm.",
"You don’t need to necessarily drink more water. You need to hydrate with minerals. Try drinking tea and smoothies to hydrate, or add mineral drops to your water. Drinking a lot of water and peeing it out is actually doing you more harm than good.",
"What goes in has to come out, one way or another. Stop drinking water before you go to bed. And too much water is also not healthy. No need to push 3 liter in you if you are not thirsty. Usually your body tells you if you need water when everything is alright. If you have to pee all the time, maybe you drink too much. Watch out for that.",
"Water tends to run through you more with the absence of food. So, drink more water when you eat meals.",
"Try mixing in an herbal tea between waters. Add some lemon or a cucumber slice to your waters. Drink mineral water instead of plain water. These things can help you absorb more of the water instead of peeing it all out.",
"Truth be told, if you're \"constantly\" peeing, you're drinking too much water.\n\nHere's to hoping r/hydrohomies doesn't see this.",
"The problem is too much water can deplete you of minerals. I used to drink that frequently but stopped. I drink reasonable amount of water, not the 2-liter-must-drink proportions.\n\nAlthough holding the bladdee tip is new to me, I'll give it a shot.",
"Talk to a urologist or urogynecologist, whichever applies. Mine helped me tremendously with the constant need to pee. Had to retrain in a way between my brain and my bladder but it helped a ton!",
"Take this with a grain of salt b/c I'm not a doctor but if you increase your daily electrolyte intake, you'll pee less.\n\nI sauna everyday and work out hard. Just drinking water isn't enough to rehydrate because I lose so much salt sweating. Without salt + other electrolytes, your body can't absorb water. So increasing your electrolyte intake can help.",
"Sipping the water and holding it in your mouth for a bit rather than chugging it helps too. Better for rehydration.",
"Sip, don't chug, water. It's normal to pee once a night, but if you're peeing more obviously limit water intake before bed.\n\nIf you're involuntarily peeing when you laugh though, this suggests you might need pelvic floor physiotherapy. People with pelvic floor issues can feel urgency to urinate and may pee when laughing, sneezing, etc. The symptoms can even resemble UTI symptoms. If you try the other recommendations here and still experience symptoms, I'd suggest getting evaluated by a pelvic floor PT.",
"More salts in your diet could help. Creatine can also help increase the amount of water your body can store.\n\nThe goal for drinking more water for heath is to be more hydrated. \n\nDrinking a bunch of water alone can result in hyponatremia, which basically means the salts have been diluted too much in your body to even utilize water. Excessive urination is the first symptom.",
"Man. I was on statins temporarily to reduce my cholesterol after a stroke. I was just told recently I could stop taking them.\n\nAnyway, they say that there are no increased urination side effects, but as soon as I started taking them I’d have to pee every couple of minutes. Like I’d go pee, start a match in halo, and by the time it was done I’d have to run to the bathroom because I felt like I was going to pee my pants. And this would repeat all day. I’d have to disrupt meetings, I’d be getting up multiple times at night. I read online lots of other people reporting the same thing. As soon as I stopped (about a month ago) the peeing stopped.",
"I’m 46 years old and I recently spoke to my doctors about my sudden urges to pee, unlike when I was younger and could hold it for hours if needed. My doctors told me I should NOT drink as much water as I did, which was about 1 gallon (4 liters) a day and instead only drink about half a gallon (2 liters) and it made a huge difference on the frequency and urgency to pee.",
"If you're peeing when you laugh really hard, you might want to consider pelvic floor therapy or pelvic floor exercises?",
"If you pee when you laugh you may want to look at a pelvic floor pt or possibly pilates to strengthen pelvic floor.",
"I was in a medically supervised weight loss program and they had us drinking a ton of water. \n\nThe nutritionist and doctor’s advice: just get used to it. 😕 And drink less a few hours before bed.",
"I stop drinking water about an hour before bed and that helps. As I’ve gotten used to being hydrated I don’t have to go as much whereas when I first started I had to go all the time.",
"I recently started this too! I’ve found that after a couple weeks or so your body and bladder kind of get used to it. At least for me personally I’m not going 2X an hour anymore, it’s definitely gotten way more normal",
"I learned this when running a marathon:\nYour body can only use a certain amount of water per hour. If you drink more than that, it will become pee. So there is basically not much point in shugging 1 liter of water at once.\n\nMuch better to drink **every hour** 200-400ml.",
"I can’t believe this hasn’t been mentioned much here and it the best advice you’ll get, consume more salt. Go for a good quality one like pink salt aim for the RDI and drink a good amount when you wake up.",
"I am 73 and did have this problem for quite a few years, always needing to pee as soon as I woke up. Possibly that is what woke me. but recently, that need isn't as urgent. I have been doing Kegel exercises to strengthen my lower sexual movements and feel this may have caused such results. Does anyone else have a similar experience?",
"Hold it. Your body tells you to pee when your bladder reaches a certain level of fullness, which isn’t all that full. You can train it to hold more by just not peeing every single time you have a slight urge to pee. When you don’t act on the urge, it goes away for a while and comes back later — just ignore the first urge and wait for the next one (but don’t go crazy with it — you could get a UTI if you wait a really long time)",
"Have you looked into pelvic floor physiotherapy? The peeing when you laugh shouldn't be happening even if you're drinking a lot. You might be able to strengthen some of your deep pelvic muscles & help that issue.\n\nAlso, as others have said - Electrolytes may help your body retain some of that water instead of peeing it out immediately!",
"Drink water with a higher concentration of minerals. Or drink a bouillon soup in between water. Maybe take some supplements like spirulina and chlorella or just some magnesium. Minerals tend to help your body to hold onto water.",
"Drink more water goes right along well with being physically more active. If you just drink more water and you're not physically active, then it's all just going to flush out anyway. Think about function of water in your body, what does it do?\nWhat are the metabolic processes where your body uses H2O? \nIn simple words i can tell you, it basically cleans out our body. You might know thousands of chemical processes going on in your body each second and all those process creates some waste. Like in process od respiration CO2 is produced. So all those waste materials needs to be flushed out and guess who does that flushing? The water of course. But for water to reach each and every cell of your body you need to be active throughout the day , otherwise it would just pass through your intestine without bothering to reach much part of your body. And hence no proper hydration and just peeing even after drinking more water. \nYou can try it yourself, on a day, just drink and do nothing just sit there and check how much time later you pee. On another day, keep doing physical work, like some exercise or just walking or even as simple as avoiding to sit or lay down, and then note the timing and amount of your pee.\nThat's the simplest i could explain, though the process is a little more complicated biologically.",
"Don't drink so much water. \n\n\nPeople go crazy and nuts about drinking 2ltr a day. You will get most out of your food anyways. When you excrete your urine, you also lose all the vitamins and minerals in them. Peeing a lot is a sign you drink TOO MUCH water. \n\n\nAlso, don't chug but drink peacefully in a restful moment and not rushed.",
"Bladder pathology has entered the chat: Any more than 8x/day is considered a lot/excessive. If it’s fewer than 8–plz thank your lucky stars for us! I believe I’m 20-25x/day, and have to be medicated to sleep. My disorder is nasty, nasty Interstitial Cystitis.",
"As ive gotten into my 30s ive noticed it takes less and less liquid consumed for me to get the feeling of needing to pee.",
"Also if you find yourself peeing more often after meals, consider a glucose test for diabetes.\n\nMy **only** symptom at age 29 was peeing more often (no thirst, no fatigue), and i didn't notice it until the basement bathroom broke and I had to walk upstairs every time and I finally realized \"You know, perhaps peeing this often is not normal.\"",
"After a while, your bladder will adjust somewhat. Geeting up at night to pee once isn't a big deal. Peeing often is a small price to pay to be healthier.",
"learn where all the public bathrooms are, you will always have to pee at random times throughout the day",
"[Don't go overboard with trying to hold all the water in.](http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/americas/6261509.stm)",
"You’re drinking too much at once, your body can only take so much at a time. Try drinking the same amount but spread over a large amount of time (so like drink a glass of water slowly over the course of five minutes instead of drinking it all in one minute)",
"Your body is not used to this extra water, so extra trips to the bathroom. It will take time for trips to reduce once your body readjust water retention levels.",
"Your body clearly doesn’t need that much water or it wouldn’t be peeing it out so frequently, You get water from your foods as well as what you drink.\n\nSimple way to tell when you drank enough water. Did you start to pee? You are hydrated. Drink more a while after you’ve emptied your bladder.",
"You can overhydrate. You might also want to talk to your doctor, and make sure that you aren't possibly diabetic. Drinking about a gallon a day should be more than enough, although many drink much less. Drink more in low moisture, high heat areas, like deserts. Drink less when it's cold, because your body tends to work harder to heat your internal moisture, which makes your body use more energy to maintain a healthy body temperature.",
"What goes in must come out. Do take more minerals or vitamins as you’re peeing out some minerals as well. Or just a multivitamin a day. Adding a bit of salt to the first water of the day helps.",
"What do we do when we have to pee more often?\n\nWe pee more often. What’s the big deal? Get up and pee.",
"What do I have to do…I go to the bathroom and pee. My typical routine at work was show up, fill up my water bottle and after 60-90 minutes I had to pee. I would fill up my water bottle at that time and 60-90 minutes later repeat the process.",
"Try not to chug and take smaller drinks, the speed it enters your system has a direct result on urine frequency.",
"To avoid having to wake up to piss during the night, stop drinking anything 3 hours before bedtime. Should help a lot.",
"This might be an individual thing, but I find that it's better to not sip a few sips of water here and there throughout the day because that makes me go to the bathroom a lot. However, if I consciously drink large amounts each time I do drink - say, 15 gulps, I go to the bathroom less often.",
"They say your body will take water it needs then out with the rest. So maby you don't need that much water...take a mouth full every half hour",
"There isn't a lot of information here to offer advice. Are male or female? Makes a difference. Chronically under your fluid amount? How's the pelvis floor? Got a UTI? What's your age? How are the muscles responsible for raising and dropping the bladder? What kind of fluids are you drinking?",
"There is a way to get around this and I figured it out\n\nEvery 2 hours from 10am to 10 pm drink 12 ounces of water. Because you space it out and dont drink too much, your body is craving the water and absorbes a lot of it vs you drinking more in one sitting and the extra water your body doesnt use goes straight through your system",
"The rate at which you ingest water determines how soon you will have to pee. Maybe you should consider drinking large quantities of water in short windows, to have larger pee volume, but less total pees. Just liquid for thought",
"The only time I could drink a lot and not pee was when I sweated it out- based on a bunch of mid summer uphill hikes.",
"Takes less than a week to get used to it. \n\nAlso practice using your pee squeeze muscle when you change positions in yoga (ugiata and mula bonda locks, spelling is likely wrong on those)",
"Stop drinking more water than you need. The whole overhydration thing is a myth. Drink enough water to make you pee clear and no more.",
"Smaller sips more consistently. It helps the water get into your system with less filtered to maintain consistent salinity.",
"One place where your body stores water is in the food/waste in your gut (Think of it loosely like a sponge). If your gut/stomach is \"empty\" you will absorb water faster and thus have to pee sooner.\n\nYou can also make yourself sweat to get rid of excess liquid to some extent, but that is not terribly practical.",
"Omg I HATE water for this very reason. There’s literally nothing more inconvenient in my life than having to stop what I’m doing to get up, go pee, and try to remember what I was doing before I was interrupted. \n\nI’ve been told that it gets better as you continue drinking more water but it’s a good thing because it’s your body ridding itself of waste. \n\nDon’t get me wrong, I’m thankful to have functioning kidneys and a healthy urinary tract system but I feel you 100000%!!!",
"Make sure you get enough salt. Not too much, but a lot of water will strip it from you. Salt also helps retain moisture.",
"Listen to the Urology episode of the Ologies podcast. They talk about drinking more water “to be more healthy”. I learned a lot of useful stuff from that episode",
"Keep drinking water.\n\nI went from whatever amount someone who doesn't pay attention to it drinks, to over a gallon per day as part of an exercise regimen.\n\nAt first, I literally had to pee 20x per day.\n\nAfter 1-2 weeks, your kidneys or bladder or whatever adjust, and you go back to peeing the normal amount, whatever that is--5-7 times per day, perhaps. You will just pee a greater volume at a time.",
"Keep doing it. Your body will get better at regulation. Usually takes me a few weeks, usually around the time I start craving water rather than having to force it down my gullet lol.",
"I’ve read that to help minimize waking up to pee - sip the water slowly as opposed to gulping it as it gets closer to the time you’re about to go to sleep.",
"I’ve heard that adding lemon/cucumber/salt helps with absorption so that it doesn’t just run right through you!",
"I’ve always had trouble holding in my pee longer than two hours . I used to work up north and had to take a small plane with no washroom . The flight was as less that 2 hours but it kind of makes you panic that you might pee your pants and it would be so embarrassing! Never did though . Now I’m sixty and I have a large prostrate so my stream is slow and most of the time my bladder doesn’t empty all the way which means I have to go again in less than half an hour ! I’ve tried holding it and all that does is make me leak a bit holding it ! I don’t go anywhere without knowing there’s a bathroom nearby",
"It is normal to pee more when you drink more fluids, especially at night when the bladder gets pressure from your body and makes you go for a short pee. I would avoid drinking too much water after 2 PM and try a pinch of salt in your mouth right before going to sleep.",
"In my experience, it just takes time. \n\nThink about the way it goes when you water your plants: if the soil is really dry, the water will just run off for the first little bit. If the soil is somewhat moist, the water soaks in more easily.\n\nAs you become more hydrated, your body will absorb the water more easily, as opposed to it just “running off.” \n\nI find that if I have a couple of days in a row where I’m not drinking enough, I have to pee every 2 seconds the first day I drink enough again.",
"If you’re looking to drink more water but pee less, you might explode like a water balloon.\n\nIn all seriousness, how much are you drinking Drinking LOTS of water isn’t necessarily healthier. It’s just that being dehydrated isunhealthy, it slows your metabolism, fogs your brain, etc",
"I've read somewhere that your body can only absorb 8oz an hour, depending on physical activity, that's why any excess makes you need to pee more.",
"I used to always have to wake up to pee in the middle of the night, but I started doing an electrolyte drink before bed and now I generally sleep through. I assume it causes more of the water to get absorbed by your body rather than just passing through but idk. I started with Liquid IV or pedialyte but switched to the Nuun tablets because they're cheaper. Also maybe you're just drinking too much water. If you're drinking more water because you're substituting it for soft drinks then that's good for you, but if you're just chugging more water than you need it has no benefit and can potentially be bad for you.",
"I struggled with peeing issues for years. Doctors advice did nothing. Pelvic floor conditioning helped a lot. Besides that there is a bladder probiotic, your intake of electrolytes also matters (Magnesium, sodium potassium). Some already said prostate health. My recommendation is take the medical professionals advice and opinions but also just approach it like the bodily function that it is and make sure your diet and fitness are contributing to “better” functioning of your bladder.",
"I pee more often if I have any caffeine. \n\nBe careful not to drink too much water. Hydration is not just water. It includes intake of essential electrolytes. If you are only drinking lots of water, you may be depleting your body of these things. This can lead to something called hyponatremium, which can be deadly. It is when the salt levels in your blood are too low. \n\nThink of your body as a chemistry set. You need to maintain good chemistry. Too much of anything will kill you because it throws everything else into disarray.",
"I once read that purified water gets digested quicker because there’s no nutrition to gain from it whereas mineral water is slower to digest because your body takes the time to collect all the minerals.",
"I notice when I don’t drink a lot of water the drink a lot of water I pee a lot for a couple days until my body gets used to it again",
"I hope this isn't a repeat but I couldn't get through all the joke answers. Try Kegel exercises. They help with that. But if you're spotting or leaking, see a urologist.",
"I had a problem and went to a pelvic physiotherapist. It helped a lot to understand how it works. \n\nFor me it was basically to learn to train my pelvic muscle. You should be able to hold up like 0,5L. \nIt could be some organs are irritated that the urge is there, but there is not much urine. \n\nBest is to go see an expert on this.",
"I don't have a source for this, but I remember reading it takes a while for your body to adjust when you start hydrating properly. Once your body trusts you will continue to provide it water on a consistent basis, it will release the water it stores in your body, ankles, EVERYWHERE. Which is why you pee a lot in the beginning.",
"How long have you been drinking a lot? How much do you drink?\n\nLet's suppose (because you didn't provide details) that you're drinking a half gallon (2 L) of water per day. If you had previously been drinking none (hey, that way you don't have to pee in the middle of a meeting, or in the bottle you bring because your employer uses metrics that don't give you time to pee, or whatever), for the first two weeks to a month, you'll have to pee more. Then your body will adjust and you'll be peeing less often.\n\nThat said, the \"average\" bladder holds 250-350 mL (1 cup in Freedom Units) of urine when full, so you would expect to pee about 8 times a day if you're drinking 2 L of liquids. (There's a \"close enough\" balance between water in and water out.) \n\nYou can time your drinking so that your bathroom breaks aren't too distracting.\n\nYou also might want to look up the research on how much hydration you need. The advice that makes the most sense is that, except for periods of intense physical activity (which can include just standing if the day is hot enough), your body will tell you whether you need hydration or not. This is unfortunately not quite true, because we get accustomed to starving ourselves for the convenience of our employers and may not feel thirsty during the day. That's a bad investment strategy (unless your strategy is to bleed your employees dry and then replace them with other cheap throwaways). You should take care of your health.\n\nNote that if you drink a 350 mL bottle of water, you should expect to have to pee fairly shortly. The exception is if, at pretty much the same time, you are losing about 350 mL of water due to sweating.",
"Generally, hydrated people pee more often when they need to pee more often. \n\nThere are only a few ways for water to leave the body. Pee more, breathe more, or sweat more.",
"Exercise will help alot with your bladder control. Specifically planking and working your pelvic floor.",
"Eating less fried and processed foods. A big portion of food contain water inside, or else everything would look like jerky. Drink less, pee out less electrolytes.",
"Drink slower, if you drink too much in a short time it bypasses being absorbed and just goes right through the kidneys and to the bladder (useful when trying to pass a stone, not so much when trying to hydrate).",
"Drink more when you eat instead. It will give something for the water to get sucked into and will take longer to be absorbed. I have the same issue as you and my bladder isnt at its best but using food as a sponge has helped a lot. Still feels weird that i can go for hours without peeing",
"Drink lesser amount of water each time, but drink it more frequently. Give your body the chance to absorb the water it needs before passing it off to ze kidneys.",
"Become a teacher. You’re lucky if you get to the bathroom anytime other than lunch during the school day.",
"Azo sells some sort of supplement to help with this kind of stuff. Almost got my mom some as a gag gift for her 60th (she pees when she laughs).",
"As you get completely hydrated your body will stop storing excess water and you will eventually stop peeing all the time.",
"As somebody who worked in dialysis for years, with end stage renal patients who could NOT pee given that their kidneys were fried, celebrate the fact that you have healthy kidneys. And drink less water. If you’re peeing all the time after drinking a lot of water, you are properly hydrated.",
"Apple cider vinegar supplements. It helped me a great deal. I get from some brand called country farms. It claims to support weight loss, cleanses and detoxifies, and supports water balance. I don’t know if it’s true or placebo effect but it seemed to work for me. I don’t pee as often and I at least feel more hydrated in general.",
"According to Huberman lab sipping the water slowly and not gulping it down will have huge effects on how often you have to pee.",
"A Dr explained this to me. When you start off drinking water, think of a brand new sponge. When you get the sponge wet the first time, the water runs off. It does the same in our bodies. The water will eventually properly hydrate your body and the peeing will lessen",
"A Coach I worked for in my past career used to drink so much water each day. You’d see him run to the bathroom on average 8-10x/day.\n\nDon’t know how this really relates but I needed to get this off my chest. I’ve never seen someone drink so much water daily in my life.",
"You might be low on electrolytes. You could add a powder once a day. My favorite is Ultima replenisher in pink lemonade flavor. \n\nI also avoid drinking more than necessary about an hour before bed.",
"Try to sit at the toilet and pee as much as you can. Get up walk around, and pee again.\nLimit your water intake 2 hrs before bed.\nAnd don’t over hydrate",
"Try eating ice instead of drinking water. You get the benefits of hydration but without consuming any liquid. You’ll just have cold poop instead of peeing\n\n",
"To stop the excessive urination you have to take tiny sips more often with longer gaps between. If you drink more than your body can fully absorb in one sitting then it gets wasted as urine.",
"Strengthening those bathroom muscles!\nCheck out the \nBUFF MUFF app. It’s a lifesaver! Kim Vopni is the Vagina Coach. You’ll be glad you did!",
"It's important to actually not chug water super super fast (eg finishing a huge glass in 10 seconds). Doing like 5 smaller gulps and waiting a minute or two before continuing helps retain water a lot better.",
"Im no expert but I think it means you already have the amount of water your body thinks it needs when your body doesnt need water it wont take it and you\"ll pee, alot more, drinking water in itself isnt healthy , its the not drinking sugarbombs (wich dehydrate you) that makes it healty i think",
"I would concentrate all of my water drinking in 2 to 3 periods each day. So I would drink 2-3 cups within 10 min. or over the course of each meal. Ask your doctor next time you need to go.",
"Drinking more water does not equate to health. \nIf you drink more water than what is needed your kidneys will create more urine and you will pee more. \n\nDrink at least 2L a day as a baseline (not in one go) and then build from there depending on how thirsty you become. Remember your body has some of the most advanced homeostatic mechanisms that a machine cannot replicate.\n\nAgree with all the advice above in regards to not drinking gallons before bed.",
"Drink your last drink of the day slowly and not in one go, you'll find you won't get up as much throughout the night, I believe the bladder response is triggered by rate of consumption not overall volume.",
"Don't chug. Just take small sips often. Also mineral water/spring water will hydrate you better than tap/purified water. Also salts. Something about salts.",
"Cut back on diuretics maybe\n\n I started drinking loads of water as of last year and had this same problem. But ever since I cut back on tea, it's been much more bearable",
">pee a tiny bit when I laugh really hard. \n\nUh that sounds more like incontinence than hydration. If you're fairly young, you may want to see a doctor, that can be a sign of more serious health issues. \n\nI live in an extremely hot climate and work physically for a living. I've regularly drink a gallon and a half a day for several months at a time and never had that issue.",
"Look into creatine as a supplement, which increases water retention in the muscles and increases strength. It will not cause bloating or anything, it will make your muscle have more pump. It’s the most researched supplement, and has been proven safe time and time again. Search creatine videos on YouTube by Adam Ragusea, Jeff Nippard, or Picture Fit. The only possible side effect is IF you are predisposed to make pattern baldness, it MIGHT accelerate hair loss but it’s not proven.",
"If you have to drink more don't drink it all at the same time. Don't gulp down glasses or bottles of water. Instead space out sips of water. Even time it through the hours. Take a sip every 10-20 minutes for eg. You can still easily get through 2 litres of water in half a day.\n\nI once went through 3 litres of water on a hot day without going to the bathroom once with this method.",
"God this is such a first world problem. Who knew if you drink more water you pee more?? And actually waking up to pee??? Oh humanity!!"
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"I just accepted a new promotion at work and I'll be working with some people who are very high up and respected within the company. How do I tackle (suppress?) my feelings of inferiority? ",
"I just accepted a new promotion at work and I'll be working with some people who are very high up and respected within the company. How do I tackle (suppress?) my feelings of inferiority? ",
"I just accepted a new promotion at work and I'll be working with some people who are very high up and respected within the company. How do I tackle (suppress?) my feelings of inferiority? ",
"I just accepted a new promotion at work and I'll be working with some people who are very high up and respected within the company. How do I tackle (suppress?) my feelings of inferiority? ",
"I just accepted a new promotion at work and I'll be working with some people who are very high up and respected within the company. How do I tackle (suppress?) my feelings of inferiority? ",
"I just accepted a new promotion at work and I'll be working with some people who are very high up and respected within the company. How do I tackle (suppress?) my feelings of inferiority? ",
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"Act like you belong and listen more than you talk. Don't rush in to impress with quick answer or solution, unless you are confident in it's suitability. Educate yourself about the things that would make you better at that job. If feasible, ask for mentorship - flattery will get you far. With some people at least.",
"\n\nMy uncle taught me the CAR principle for situations like yours: Comraderie, Admiration, and Respect. \n\nTake a genuine interest in learning from them and work diligently. They understand that you're a rookie and are more willing to share their knowledge if you ask! See them as mentors instead of feeling insecure. Everyone has to learn, right?",
"You may have a mild case of [imposter syndrome](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome). Part of the way to overcome this is to recognize it for what it is, and if you're clever, reason your way around it. You got the promotion fair and square; companies don't give promotions to people who are \"inferior\". Your feelings may try to tell you otherwise, but force your logical mind to override it. You're here, you deserve to be here, and you can do it.",
"1. Be yourself, that is what got you promoted.\n\n2. If your new co-workers are managers, directors or executives - they likely didn't get to that level on day 1 of work, if they have been with the company for a good amount of time.\n\n3. It's natural to not know everything about a new job. Experienced folks know this and likely aren't judging you (at least right away) on skills/knowledge on day one.\n\n4. If your given a task that bamboozals you, analyze it and ask for help with anything you don't know or understand.\n\n5. The person who promoted you is your best advocate. If you still have thoughts/feelings of inferiority after a couple of weeks, ask for a meeting or lunch with that person and open up to them. They will likely know the personalities of these \"higher ups\" and can give you some coaching and feedback as to how to navigate, behave etc. They will likely do everything the can to make you successful. Their reputation is on the line for how you work out in the new position.\n\n6. Replace your thoughts of inferiority with enthusiasm and a 200% work ethic. Yes, you are not at their level, but they surely have been at your level. \n\nGood luck!",
"take all the nervous energy and feelings of inferiority and use that to fuel your work and study ethic. Become a beast at work, study and work your ass off, prove yourself through excellence and eventually your work will speak for you and you will feel \"worthy\" and like you belong",
"Was in similar situation not to long ago. Couple things I've learned. Accept being a little uncomfortable at times, it means you are learning. Everybody wants to get better at what they do. You have experiences and knowledge to offer as well, this isn't a 1 way street. Truly listening is a valuable tool. (and its not easy) having the right mentor and the right company makes work life a little better. If either of those are lacking then its not so good. I finally have a good mentor who challenges me and I work for a good company. 2 more quick things, learn to say \"NO\" and learn to delegate.",
"If you made the promotion you deserve to be their. You aren't inferior just new to the office. Listen, work, be honest, and keep confident you earned it.",
"Also good to remember that they are just people. Show appropriate respect where warranted but talk with them like peers. Don't forget that lack of experience has the benefit of fresh eyes.",
"A good method I use to overcome this feeling is to use the \"act if\" method. I just act like the person I need to be in certain situations. Like if I need to be confident then I will think of Rambo and act like him. If I need to be smooth at a party, I just act like James Bond. This will build positive habits the more you do it. You getting my flow?"
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"How to use smartphone in bed comfortably. As the title says, how do I lie in bed and surf the web via my smartphone without aches in neck/arms/etc? What is the optimal position?",
"How to use smartphone in bed comfortably. As the title says, how do I lie in bed and surf the web via my smartphone without aches in neck/arms/etc? What is the optimal position?",
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"double tap the home button swipe to the right so the apps go to the right. There will be a bent arrow that looks like a mirrored refresh arrow. tap that once and enjoy texting while laying down :)",
"Say I'm lying on my left side.\n\nMy head is resting on the pillow.\n\nMy left forearm is propped up at the elbow.\n\nThe crook of my right elbow rests on my left fist. Something like an Jeannie pose lying down.\n\nThe phone is in my right hand (yes, auto-rotate off).\n\nAfter a while, I roll back so I'm lying on my back.\n\nBoth arms are propped up by the elbows.\n\nThe phone is held between both hands in landscape mode (auto-rotate on).\n\nThen, after another while, I turn to my right side. Jeannie-style, auto-rotate off.\n\nThen over to my stomach with my arms encircling the pillow. Phone in landscape mode, auto-rotate on.\n\nThen back to my left side.\n\nThis goes on for some time. Needless to say, I am on the borderline when it comes to a sleep disorder.",
"I usually enjoy using it on my side, with the phone upside down with respect to the bed. It's quicker than switching auto-rotate off. ",
"A related LPT is actually to not use a smart phone in bed, there are only two things you should be doing in bed, and that is sleeping, and doing the nasty. You'll have much more rested and less distracted sleep. "
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"How too properly dry out a damp car interior? I left my windows open all last night because alcohol now my car is fairly damp. Best way to dry it? To prevent smells/mould/damage whatever.",
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"Park inside and put a space heater in over night, crack Windows slightly. Make sure the heater won't tip over and is not pointing at seats or flamable/meltable objects.\n\nSource: I restore cars and this happens more than you would think.",
"dry rid - it's a product that is like a giant silica packet. Make sure to somehow mop up any standing water. Using old, nasty towels would help with that. ",
"Newspapers under the mats will soak up humidity. Yes, also from the air, not only from the floor. Change them as needed. Alternatively, go for a long drive, heat the car up, then crack the windows open for a while. ",
"I just had a watery car (I had a gallon jug of water sitting on the floor in the backseat and something rubbed a hole in the jug – every drop of water leaked out into the carpet). I realize that you probably don't have a sopping-wet carpet, but I'll post this for the next person who does.\n\nI soaked up as much water as I could with shop cloths, paper towels, and newspaper. If there had been more water than there was, I would have used a wet/dry vac on it first (apparently the coin-operated ones at car washes are wet/dry if you don't have your own shop vac).\n\nThen I put a household dehumidifier on the floor in the backseat with an extension cord through the window (window closed as much as possible) and spent the next week running the dehumidifier when possible. I also removed the floor drain plug on that side [as in this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLGdh9nnpKw) and squeezed out as much water as possible that way. \n\nI also stuffed a couple of [blue shop towels](http://www.canadiantire.ca/en/automotive/cleaning-products/accessories-tools/shop-rags-towels/blue-shop-towels-0396641p.html?utm_campaign=bazaarvoice&utm_medium=SearchVoice&utm_source=RatingsAndReviews&utm_content=Default) partway up the said drain hole (the underside of the carpet is right there) and let them wick out the water. They would get soaked quickly so I'd swap them out for dry ones regularly. The towels, stuffed up there, also had the effect of lifting the carpet slightly, letting air circulate between it and the floor. Probably best to remove them before you go driving in case they manage to fly back into your rear wheel on that side and get jammed in there.\n\nThe dehumidifier pulled out about 1½ – 2 litres of water in total, while the shop cloths probably did at least as much.\n\nAnyway it seems like everything's dry now and I can't detect any mold or mildew, happily. I don't know how much time passed between the water leaking and me noticing. I'm in a semi-arid climate, though, and the weather has been cool (sometimes freezing), so, not very conducive to growing mold."
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"how to derail a monologue? Whenever I visit my dad's side of the family, he inevitably starts talking about his work or the latest thing in the news that makes him upset. When this happens, it turns into his own personal monologue and it's very hard for anyone else to get a word in or change the subject. He can go on like this for up to an hour. I try to engage for a little bit but then try to turn the conversation to other things/include other people but he just keeps going. I should probably try to talk to him about it directly but our relationship is strained as it is and he's not typically the type of person to respond to advice. Is there any other way to help these conversations feel a bit more inclusive?",
"how to derail a monologue? Whenever I visit my dad's side of the family, he inevitably starts talking about his work or the latest thing in the news that makes him upset. When this happens, it turns into his own personal monologue and it's very hard for anyone else to get a word in or change the subject. He can go on like this for up to an hour. I try to engage for a little bit but then try to turn the conversation to other things/include other people but he just keeps going. I should probably try to talk to him about it directly but our relationship is strained as it is and he's not typically the type of person to respond to advice. Is there any other way to help these conversations feel a bit more inclusive?"
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"Fake sneezing? That's what I do. They usually say bless you or something like that and pause, at which point I say thanks and just start inputting my thoughts or steer the conversation.",
"I have a co worker who monologues so much that I wonder if he has anyone outside of work to talk to. The last time I asked him how his day was- which was the *last* time I asked him how his day was btw- He ended his long winded reply with\n\"Because in the end, the only two things that matter are capitalism and Israel.\" \n\n\nSo yeah, I avoid him, but on the odd chance he engages me I give him a chance to make his point and if he doesn't, I interrupt him. With my words and tone I make it clear that I am the alpha in this conversation. I am not an alpha, or an alpha bro subscriber- more like the Dude from TBL- and I think because of that he was initially caught off by my \"out of character\" responses, but it worked. \n\n\nAt the risk of monologue-ing I would like to add one more thing to round this out, because after meeting people like my co worker repeatedly throughout my life I've come to the observation that people who behave this way- my co-worker, your dad- do it because they can. It's not so much about what they're saying, but that they are dominating the room. And frankly, fuck that shit. \n\nWe teach other people how to treat us. \n\nI know he's you're dad and it's complicated, so is my shit with my dad. Complicated and awkward. But maybe try the alpha technique it might help. If it doesn't- just punctuate his rant with \n\"Yeah! Thanks Obama! /s\". Good luck\n*"
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"How to make laundry come out less wrinkled I am a busy college student with a part time job, and I just don't have the time to iron all of my clothes. Is there any sort of magical combination of settings on my Washer/Dryer or other tricks that can help them come out wrinkle free?",
"How to make laundry come out less wrinkled I am a busy college student with a part time job, and I just don't have the time to iron all of my clothes. Is there any sort of magical combination of settings on my Washer/Dryer or other tricks that can help them come out wrinkle free?",
"How to make laundry come out less wrinkled I am a busy college student with a part time job, and I just don't have the time to iron all of my clothes. Is there any sort of magical combination of settings on my Washer/Dryer or other tricks that can help them come out wrinkle free?",
"How to make laundry come out less wrinkled I am a busy college student with a part time job, and I just don't have the time to iron all of my clothes. Is there any sort of magical combination of settings on my Washer/Dryer or other tricks that can help them come out wrinkle free?"
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"3 steps:\n\n1. Set your dryer to something short of 'very dry'. It helps if your clothes come out just a tiny bit humid.\n\n2. Shake out your clothes and loosely fold them before you put them in the dryer. They obviously won't stay folded, but it does help them tumble separately as opposed to twisting up with other articles.\n\n3. Shake them out and fold / hang them as you are removing them from the dryer. This works best if they are still just a bit humid.\n\nAlso, as mentioned by someone else, don't overstuff the dryer. If necessary, dry 1 washer load in two dryer loads.\n\nFinally, if you are trying to look sharp, get a good steam iron and learn how to iron quickly. There is no substitute to a crisply pressed and starched oxford (but even ironing is easier if you follow the tips above).",
"Since I started washing with cold water, it seems I get less or no wrinkles. But I also hang dry, so that might relate overall.",
"I always shake my laundry after the dryer and then immediately fold them, it works, not as god as ironing but almost.",
"Get a garment steamer. Nearly as good of results as ironing in a fraction of the time. Also as everyone else said hang your clothes immediately."
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"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? ",
"how to correct people who mispronounce my name continuously I have VPs introduce me to clients and mispronounce my name \"Eh-nina\" and in the moment when I shake the hands I say \"I go by Ah-nina\". Everyone in the team say my name correctly in front of that individual who continues to say my name incorrectly. Any tips on how to correct them? "
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"Unfortunately you have a name that's mispronounced only subtly in this case. You might think it's glaring when you hear it, and rightfully so. It's YOUR name after all. But it's not that big a difference.\n\nIn most professional interactions, it's a darn good thing if the client actually remembers your name at all, so bear that in mind. :)\n\nBut if it really bugs you to the point that it might negatively impact your performance or your perception of those you're interacting with, what you can do in your second interaction with get a friend to ask this question: \n\n\"I'm sorry, is it Ehnina or Ahnina?\"\n\nAnd your answer, \"It's Ah-nina. I like it because the first bit and the last bit rhyme. Thank you for asking.\"\neducates your VP and the client with a touch of humor and a mnemonic, but without correction or embarrassment.\n\nP.S. I wouldn't correct them in the handshake. I'd wait until it's your turn to speak and, if it fits the venue, say \"Hi, I'm Ahnina, how are you all today?\".",
"Why don't you just correct the VP? in your whole story you said you correct your name to the clients and you know that everyone in the team says it that way. You never mentioned anything about correcting the VP's though? unless I read it incorrectly",
"This is what I do, I say: Actually it's pronounced *my name*, JIM \n\n...or whatever their name is. Pronounce your name correctly and with a bit of over-enunciation, followed by their name pronounced correctly with a bit of edge and increased volume. I've rarely had people mis-pronounce my name after doing this.",
"I'd just politely correct everyone who mispronounces your (my) name. I have a name that can also be \"subtly\" mispronounced. It's still wrong. There's numerous studies and anecdotes about one's name being one of the most important things to a person. Not only do you want to have people pronounce your name correctly, they most likely want to too. Just correct them, politely, don't dwell on it. ",
"I try to correct it immediately. Just be polite, say \"oh it's ah-nina\", they'll usually smile and apologize and move on. My name is pronounced differently than it looks on paper and it's way more awkward for people if I correct them after theyve been saying it wrong for a while. ",
"As someone with a Finnish first name and German last name living in the states I completely understand the struggle. If it is just the one person , your VP, I would try and catch them when they aren't busy and suggest that to avoid confusion with potential clients to please pronounce your name the correct way. From my experience when you have an issue to raise to a boss/manager just make it about business and it will usually resolve itself without second thought. That way its about money and not them. I had a boss that always referred to me as my last name mispronounced and she would not correct the behaviour after noting to her what my preferred name was and how to pronounce it, until one day when I brought it to her and said it was causing issues for customers who need to refer to me specifically by name. She corrected herself immediately and and it was not an issue from then on.",
"A lot of this comes down to dialect. People say that starting letter in your name differently depending on where they grew up. It's like when you hear to-ma-to vs to-meh-to. Just a fact of life IMO.",
"Sometimes people mispronounce names intentionally in order to patronize and devalue the other person. Correcting them does not work.",
"You could do the subtle Suggestion Technique. Repeating the proper pronunciation a lot until the VP gets the hint. Some VP's also mispronounce in an attempt to see if you will speak up and correct them.\nIt's your name, like if you were to call him an Area manager he would say Vice President quickly, It's just a fact, not that you're being rude to a senior manager. \n",
"Say their name slightly incorrectly until they correct you, what comes around goes around. Hopefully they are bright enough to catch the drift.",
"I got this advice from a friend, I doubt he follows it himself but it always makes me laugh: Continuously mispronounce their name until they get yours right! Say their name is Bob... Hi Boob!",
"This reminds me of a rather funny article, where a mother was losing her shit because she named her daughter \"Le-A\" and everyone was calling her \"lea\" or \"leah\" or similar. But it is supposedly pronounced \"ledasha\". I personally would have called her \"lehyphena\".\n\nIt is times like this where your beloved parents just need to admit they made a calculated mistake, and that you should just apply for a legal name change. OR just suck it up and shake someone's hand, firmly correcting them whenever they mispronounce.",
"I understand it may be frustrating, but you're going to damage your career by correcting VPs in front of clients.",
"Could you get business cards with your name on them and then have the proper pronunciation in parentheses after your name, and hand those out to everyone?",
"I dont have a tip how to correct them but i do have a tip. Dont correct them, they might ask eventually. But i wouldnt worry about it, aint no thang"
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"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? ",
"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? ",
"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? ",
"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? ",
"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? ",
"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? ",
"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? ",
"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? ",
"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? ",
"How to feel better with the inevitable feeling that 'death' will occur someday? I usually have shitty thoughts, existential crisis at night as one usually does.. And tonight in particular I just feel extremely scared. I get really scared it's not even about the thought about what comes after it or what I'm going to lose its more of the pain that will happen.. I don't have the best tolerance to pain I sprained my ankle and I thought and felt I was dying.. Any tips on getting over this feeling? Or tips on having happy thoughts? "
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"Not to get too personal and certainly not being judgemental at all, but you might need to seek out a counsellor or a psychologist. \n\nThere are books about cognitive behavioural therapy, which is about changing your outlook and internal voice, which might help you. I did a search on amazon and there are plenty of books that come up. A friend of mine has \"The Feeling Good Handbook\" by David D. Burns M.D. and that seems to have helped her.\n\nBest of luck :)",
"Get excited for a COMPLICATED and LONG AS FUCK navel-gazing answer! OH YES.\n\nAnyway. A couple of years ago I had a bad car accident, definitely the kind of thing where even though I basically got up and staggered away I was pretty hurt and definitely had the perception that if a few key variables had been changed I could have died. I actually distinctly remember my car pirouetting across the highway and thinking \"well, that's it for me.\" I spent the next year or so having an honest to God existential crisis, as you do, so I feel pretty well positioned to comment on this. \n\nFirst things first, **I absolutely, 100% should have gone to therapy, and so should you** if you have the option. I didn't go because I was recovering and I wasn't working and I couldn't afford to do it, but I should have looked harder for low-cost options, places that let you pay on a sliding scale, places that let you talk to a trainee for less money, etc. \n\nThe second thing to keep in mind is that EVERYBODY goes through this. Other people, if you're reading this and you're like \"not me,\" get excited, because it's coming. \n\nMoving on. I think to a large extent everybody kind of has to follow their own process with this sort of thing. Like, you will probably not have a whole thing where you compulsively watch dashcam videos because you feel like you need to bear witness to what happened to the people who didn't survive their accidents. Basically, maybe not all of this will resonate with you, and that's fine, but here's the stuff that I did/went through that seems like it's pretty universally applicable:\n\n* Trying to sleep when you're having an existential crisis is basically the worst. For a solid year after my accident I could not go to sleep in a quiet room unless I was staying over at my boyfriend's place. If I was by myself, I absolutely had to have something on, because in the absence of external stimuli, I would just lie there thinking about death. There are some podcasts that are good for this...there's one called Sleep With Me where the guy just drones on, first about interesting stuff to get you paying attention and then about boring stuff, in this kind of whisper-monotone. I also used Netflix...I'd start a happy show that I had seen a bunch of times, like any episode of Parks and Rec, cover the screen, and just listen to the dialogue until I dozed off. There are also two m",
"Watch that scene from One Piece where Zoro takes on all of Luffy's pain ( which is a million times more then a regular human can handle because Luffy is made from rubber and he's taken so much damage that he's knocked out and unable to move ). Yet Zoro ( a regular human ) takes all that pain just to save Luffy's life...and he takes it like a man. \n \n \nSeriously, watch that scene, you might feel some inspiration :P ",
"The fear of your impending death, should be your realization that you aren't living the way you want. Focus on your goals, your loved ones and make the best of the time you have and don't fret the time you have \"left\".",
"I used to get panic attacks while thinking about death. I know man, it's so scary. \n\nFor a quick fix, when you're about to panic, what helped me was watching a movie. It doesn't have to be a light-hearted or feel-good one because it might feel fake, but a dramatic one with some comic relief, one that actually deals with death. Believe it or not, the *Lion King* actually made me feel a lot better, because it faced my worst fear with candor in an innocent way. I would recommend finding a movie while you're feeling okay to have in case you're ever in a panic situation in the middle of the night. It helps to ground you in reality.\n\nOver the long-term, you will need to find a way to stop having the shitty thoughts in the first place, which are what most likely drag you down into the despair that leads to your fear. CBT is the best way but you can do your own way if that works better for you. Really, you just need to find how to be happier. I'd recommend to start out by reading *Flourish* by Martin Seligman. Honestly, this book changed my life by making me aware of how I was making myself unhappy and how you can be better. Trust me, you *can* learn to be optimistic, but it will take practice and patience.\n\nIn the meantime, find people to support you and with whom you can talk about your fears. While you're feeling normal, tell somebody you're close with (if you haven't already) about these spells of panic that you sometime get, and ask if it would be ok for you to call them if you wanted to talk about it in the middle of the night. Just having that safety net makes a big difference. \n\nPeople to support won't fix your fears, but will alleviate feelings of aloneness. You always hear \"you're not on your own,\" but that isn't useful until you actually *feel* it unless you depend on them. We're all vulnerable. So tell those existential thoughts to people who will listen, who won't discr",
"First of all, you have nothing to fear about death; while dead, you will feel exactly like you did during the First World War, the rule of the Roman Empire, and the Jurassic period: nothing.\n\nSecond, anxiety about death can be minimized by considering the Circle of Life. Personally, when I consider how my dead body will inevitably provide life for so many other organisms, and how my life was made possible by so many other dead organisms' bodies, I am filled with profound reverence for the whole circle. Perhaps this will help you, too.",
"This one has no real cure. Even the most rational mind will probably plummet into panic if they truly dwell on the notion of death and its inevitability. \n\nI get this overwhelming sense of dread when I consider death and an eternity of either existence/non-existence(one of them is coming). Best way to deal with it is to not think about it. Get up and start doing something. I tend to just start walking about and gibbering to myself to get my mind off of it. Probably not the best idea in public, but anxiety about mortality tends to only set in when in bed, for most anyway.",
"Thank you! I'm dealing with the exact same. I'm 19 and actually believing I'm gonna die soon. Went to to The hospital to check out my heart, x-ray, blood tests. Hyperventilation.. i love my family too much to ever let them deal with the pain of losing me or vice versa. I want to go into therapy because I'm driving myself insane.",
"It's OK to feel this way. Perhaps these feelings were the impetus of religion, providing a way of thinking farther than this life, to quell this fear. I think about it and wonder why. Who will remember. What difference does anything make. It makes me ansty, and I wonder if I should pack up and move to somewhere new. If this is a constant thing, maybe a good workout routine would help. I hope you feel better!",
"Death anxiety is very common. My psychologist suggested that I read \"Staring at the Sun\" by Yalom. It helped immensely."
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"When visiting a house or apartment to buy. I live in a big city and am looking to buy an apartment. This is what I usually do when I visit a place:\n\n* Bring digital tape measure (or any app that could do the job)\n* Wide angle lens for the phone. \n* Make a slow video walking through the house and try to get all view of the rooms so I can check later. \n* Also take pictures from each edge. \n* Check for the noise on the apartment during visit (I always try to visit in different times of the day). \n* Use compass to see where north is relative to your main room window. \n* Check of there's any ongoing or possible construction site around the place. \n* Check for buildings, stores, transportation around the place. \n* Look for the age of the place as well about any reforms, specially pipes. \n* Check if there's any possibility of some other building that don't exist yet to fuck up the view, lightning or access to sunlight. \n\nI'm using this website to check the position of the sun during the year. Pretty cool: https://www.sunearthtools.com/dp/tools/pos_sun.php\n\nIs there anything you guys would add to this list?",
"When visiting a house or apartment to buy. I live in a big city and am looking to buy an apartment. This is what I usually do when I visit a place:\n\n* Bring digital tape measure (or any app that could do the job)\n* Wide angle lens for the phone. \n* Make a slow video walking through the house and try to get all view of the rooms so I can check later. \n* Also take pictures from each edge. \n* Check for the noise on the apartment during visit (I always try to visit in different times of the day). \n* Use compass to see where north is relative to your main room window. \n* Check of there's any ongoing or possible construction site around the place. \n* Check for buildings, stores, transportation around the place. \n* Look for the age of the place as well about any reforms, specially pipes. \n* Check if there's any possibility of some other building that don't exist yet to fuck up the view, lightning or access to sunlight. \n\nI'm using this website to check the position of the sun during the year. Pretty cool: https://www.sunearthtools.com/dp/tools/pos_sun.php\n\nIs there anything you guys would add to this list?",
"When visiting a house or apartment to buy. I live in a big city and am looking to buy an apartment. This is what I usually do when I visit a place:\n\n* Bring digital tape measure (or any app that could do the job)\n* Wide angle lens for the phone. \n* Make a slow video walking through the house and try to get all view of the rooms so I can check later. \n* Also take pictures from each edge. \n* Check for the noise on the apartment during visit (I always try to visit in different times of the day). \n* Use compass to see where north is relative to your main room window. \n* Check of there's any ongoing or possible construction site around the place. \n* Check for buildings, stores, transportation around the place. \n* Look for the age of the place as well about any reforms, specially pipes. \n* Check if there's any possibility of some other building that don't exist yet to fuck up the view, lightning or access to sunlight. \n\nI'm using this website to check the position of the sun during the year. Pretty cool: https://www.sunearthtools.com/dp/tools/pos_sun.php\n\nIs there anything you guys would add to this list?",
"When visiting a house or apartment to buy. I live in a big city and am looking to buy an apartment. This is what I usually do when I visit a place:\n\n* Bring digital tape measure (or any app that could do the job)\n* Wide angle lens for the phone. \n* Make a slow video walking through the house and try to get all view of the rooms so I can check later. \n* Also take pictures from each edge. \n* Check for the noise on the apartment during visit (I always try to visit in different times of the day). \n* Use compass to see where north is relative to your main room window. \n* Check of there's any ongoing or possible construction site around the place. \n* Check for buildings, stores, transportation around the place. \n* Look for the age of the place as well about any reforms, specially pipes. \n* Check if there's any possibility of some other building that don't exist yet to fuck up the view, lightning or access to sunlight. \n\nI'm using this website to check the position of the sun during the year. Pretty cool: https://www.sunearthtools.com/dp/tools/pos_sun.php\n\nIs there anything you guys would add to this list?",
"When visiting a house or apartment to buy. I live in a big city and am looking to buy an apartment. This is what I usually do when I visit a place:\n\n* Bring digital tape measure (or any app that could do the job)\n* Wide angle lens for the phone. \n* Make a slow video walking through the house and try to get all view of the rooms so I can check later. \n* Also take pictures from each edge. \n* Check for the noise on the apartment during visit (I always try to visit in different times of the day). \n* Use compass to see where north is relative to your main room window. \n* Check of there's any ongoing or possible construction site around the place. \n* Check for buildings, stores, transportation around the place. \n* Look for the age of the place as well about any reforms, specially pipes. \n* Check if there's any possibility of some other building that don't exist yet to fuck up the view, lightning or access to sunlight. \n\nI'm using this website to check the position of the sun during the year. Pretty cool: https://www.sunearthtools.com/dp/tools/pos_sun.php\n\nIs there anything you guys would add to this list?",
"When visiting a house or apartment to buy. I live in a big city and am looking to buy an apartment. This is what I usually do when I visit a place:\n\n* Bring digital tape measure (or any app that could do the job)\n* Wide angle lens for the phone. \n* Make a slow video walking through the house and try to get all view of the rooms so I can check later. \n* Also take pictures from each edge. \n* Check for the noise on the apartment during visit (I always try to visit in different times of the day). \n* Use compass to see where north is relative to your main room window. \n* Check of there's any ongoing or possible construction site around the place. \n* Check for buildings, stores, transportation around the place. \n* Look for the age of the place as well about any reforms, specially pipes. \n* Check if there's any possibility of some other building that don't exist yet to fuck up the view, lightning or access to sunlight. \n\nI'm using this website to check the position of the sun during the year. Pretty cool: https://www.sunearthtools.com/dp/tools/pos_sun.php\n\nIs there anything you guys would add to this list?",
"When visiting a house or apartment to buy. I live in a big city and am looking to buy an apartment. This is what I usually do when I visit a place:\n\n* Bring digital tape measure (or any app that could do the job)\n* Wide angle lens for the phone. \n* Make a slow video walking through the house and try to get all view of the rooms so I can check later. \n* Also take pictures from each edge. \n* Check for the noise on the apartment during visit (I always try to visit in different times of the day). \n* Use compass to see where north is relative to your main room window. \n* Check of there's any ongoing or possible construction site around the place. \n* Check for buildings, stores, transportation around the place. \n* Look for the age of the place as well about any reforms, specially pipes. \n* Check if there's any possibility of some other building that don't exist yet to fuck up the view, lightning or access to sunlight. \n\nI'm using this website to check the position of the sun during the year. Pretty cool: https://www.sunearthtools.com/dp/tools/pos_sun.php\n\nIs there anything you guys would add to this list?",
"When visiting a house or apartment to buy. I live in a big city and am looking to buy an apartment. This is what I usually do when I visit a place:\n\n* Bring digital tape measure (or any app that could do the job)\n* Wide angle lens for the phone. \n* Make a slow video walking through the house and try to get all view of the rooms so I can check later. \n* Also take pictures from each edge. \n* Check for the noise on the apartment during visit (I always try to visit in different times of the day). \n* Use compass to see where north is relative to your main room window. \n* Check of there's any ongoing or possible construction site around the place. \n* Check for buildings, stores, transportation around the place. \n* Look for the age of the place as well about any reforms, specially pipes. \n* Check if there's any possibility of some other building that don't exist yet to fuck up the view, lightning or access to sunlight. \n\nI'm using this website to check the position of the sun during the year. Pretty cool: https://www.sunearthtools.com/dp/tools/pos_sun.php\n\nIs there anything you guys would add to this list?"
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"Stand in the shower. I'm a tall guy, and have found this beneficial.\n\nCheck water pressure by turning on a shower \n\nLook at your phone to check out cell reception\n\nMove the oven and check behind it... The cleanliness of this act will tell you how well the place is maintained.\n\nDrink a glass of water if moving to a different town. \n\nTake note of how much litter (cigarette butts, shopping bags, etc) are in the neighborhood.\n\nAsk a lot of questions (average utilities cost, neighborhood problems, etc)\n\nLook at all common areas (fitness center, laundry room, mail room)\n\n",
"Check the water pressure, it sucks finding out after you've signed that you're looking at a year of barely drizzling showers.",
"Politely ask neighbours about the area. If it's quiet etc. In London landlords often try to hide a train link behind houses and shut the curtains or don't have a window at the back of the property. Always look out back ",
"Check the power outlets and door hinges for paint. If they are painted over, it means the owner/manager is really cheap/lazy about maintenance and you'll likely have problems down the road.",
"Always go back to the area and see what its like at Night..I rented a place once that looked really nice..Problem was the area at night got shady as shit.",
"* Bring a laptop and software-defined radio. Scan the various cellular, wifi, and other common radio frequencies that you would use for any sign of interference or reduction of signal. \n\n* Ask if you can visit the apartment and spend a night for a deposit/small fee. Bring a sleeping bag. Many places don't have specific policies on this and if they don't already have offers/people looking seriously at a place, they may let you do this. This will give you a better idea of what to expect when you try and sleep. \n\n* Check water pressure and time for it to heat up.\n\n* For longer term places, try and visit during difference seasons if you are able to spend a while looking. If you plan on moving in 6 months, take a tour now and then in 6 months. The climate during the seasons may cause certain things to be more prevalent such as draft from the window, pests, etc. \n\n* Try and barter. If they won't budge on the rate, try and get them to at least discount a couple of months if you agree and pay a deposit within a business day",
"Go to shops nearby and ask about the neighbourhood. They don't give a shit if you buy the appartment or not, so they won't lie.\n\nCheck if there are tags/graffitis around, and if they're old or recent.\n\nSpend an afternoon there to see if there ain't ambulances/police car getting around every ten minutes : it can be an hospital/police station nearby, but the sirens will soon get on your nerves. \n\nCheck the traffic too. In my street and the two crossing it, there are daily jams from 17h30 to 19h. That's a bummer.",
"Always remember to ask about move-out procedure or lease renewal for apartments. It is great to ask them what their average % rent increase is or what their average move out costs are. These are definitely things that will not be discussed openly unless you inquire. "
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"How to fall back asleep from rising too early after a night of drinking For a while now it's seems that if I drink after work that I'll wake up around 3am unable to fall asleep until 5am. I've seen plenty on Google about why this happens, but nothing on how to fix it on the spot. Is it as easy as eating a certain food group when I wake up or am I just SOL?",
"How to fall back asleep from rising too early after a night of drinking For a while now it's seems that if I drink after work that I'll wake up around 3am unable to fall asleep until 5am. I've seen plenty on Google about why this happens, but nothing on how to fix it on the spot. Is it as easy as eating a certain food group when I wake up or am I just SOL?",
"How to fall back asleep from rising too early after a night of drinking For a while now it's seems that if I drink after work that I'll wake up around 3am unable to fall asleep until 5am. I've seen plenty on Google about why this happens, but nothing on how to fix it on the spot. Is it as easy as eating a certain food group when I wake up or am I just SOL?",
"How to fall back asleep from rising too early after a night of drinking For a while now it's seems that if I drink after work that I'll wake up around 3am unable to fall asleep until 5am. I've seen plenty on Google about why this happens, but nothing on how to fix it on the spot. Is it as easy as eating a certain food group when I wake up or am I just SOL?",
"How to fall back asleep from rising too early after a night of drinking For a while now it's seems that if I drink after work that I'll wake up around 3am unable to fall asleep until 5am. I've seen plenty on Google about why this happens, but nothing on how to fix it on the spot. Is it as easy as eating a certain food group when I wake up or am I just SOL?"
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"I've read you wake up because of your blood sugar and orange juice should make it easier to fall back asleep ",
"Water is well and good to keep you hydrated after a night of drinking, but it isn't the only thing you need to replenish. Blood sugar is also way down. I remember an evening of heavy drinking that I topped off with five glasses of water and a chunk of chocolate. I felt perfect the next day. ",
"You are drinking more than your body can handle. That is your Liver waking you up screaming, 'WTF did you put in me?' Try buying a Gatorade before you go home and drink the whole thing. It will help repair the damage as you are most likely dehydrated as well.",
"Just like people have said before, it's because your liver metabolizing the alcohol has adversely affected your blood sugar. My go to in these situations is three glasses of water and a spoonful of peanut butter. A Gatorade before bed will also help.",
"Yea, sleeping tablets are the only solution I've found, I'm just way too wired.\n\nThe only other remedy I have for earlier sleep-times is going to the gym, and I'll be a son-of-a-bitch before I go to the gym when I'm dehydrated and hungover."
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"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?",
"Most effective way to learn a foreign language? My goal (before graduating University in 2 and some years) is to be able to speak French well, if not fluently. \nAny tips or tricks on how to get started?"
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"Got skype? If yes my username's Mamayop. I'm from quebec city and I speak french as well as you speak english",
"Learn like a child. Watch french childrens television. Try to repeat the last word they say in a sentence. Associate that word with whatever they are talking about or doing.",
"I'm in your same position, but with three years instead of two. I just started using livemocha.com and it's been helping quite a bit. If you help correct posts from people learning English it's free or you can get it for about $9 a month. In addition to the lessons, the real gem is you can live chat, through either IM or webcam with as many native speakers as you want for free, provided they don't mind. From my experience so far everyone has been game to help out. Also in addition to changing setting to French I've recently started listening to much more music in French, which I feel is particularly helpful when I find it to be catchy. If you're having trouble finding songs just youtube \"UniversalMusicFrance\" and check out their lists. I just finished my first semester ever and I definitely was struggling much more in the beginning before making those adjustments. Also I asked your same question to as many multi-lingual people as I could find and everyone seems to agree that total immersion if the best, although the hardest to create. I know in the States at least a few higher institutions offer total immersion courses during the summer months. I've included 3 songs I particularly like at the bottom as well. In any regard, I wish you the best and hopefully in a couple of years, we can fluidly converse in fluent French!\n\nMusic clips: [1](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t1nPySHPdyA&list=PLbRD-qlbA6FvY3zIINXrflh7WEu5MypPS&index=7) [2](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hl58S1PaJic) [3](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n7vYo6l06lo)\n ",
"Do you speak it at all? Are you taking any lessons? You definitely need some French classes, plus a lot of practice.\n\nYou should find some French people to speak with. I took a two week French immersion program in Québec City when I was in college. We were required to speak French all the time while we were there, even when going out drinking, which we did a lot. I think it helped.",
"Tip...sign up for couchsurfing and look for traveler coming through your city and meet up with them. You get the best experience (native interaction) for free or maybe for zhshowing then around!\n",
"Study Abroad. Go to France and use no English.\n\nIf that's not possible get as close to immersion as possible. Use it as MUCH as you can. Get the French version of books and read them. Use websites set to French. Join French clubs and go out and meet up with them. If you talk to yourself, do it in French. Watch French television. Listen to French podcasts. Anything you can do in French - do it in French. It will not be easy and it will not be quick, but the more work you put in, the easier it will become.",
"Seriously - and I know it may not sound like the easiest option - move to France and make a fool out of yourself. The best way to learn a language like a native is by putting yourself out there and making mistakes (and having a buddy to correct you, and I've found from living abroad for a while, you will make buddies if you put in effort!). I also found this trick helps me - when learning vocabulary, instead of matching French words to English, just picture what the word is or act it out if it's a verb. I don't speak French, but when learning Spanish for instance, for the verb patinar- to skate - I pretended to skate and so on. It's amazing how much faster you pick up words when doing this. University is the best time to travel - do it! If you don't want to study, there are other options. Try au pairing, or teaching English. ",
"Learn by listening. The human brain remembers sounds and music better than words or lessons in a book.",
"LanguageLearning might be good to check out. As others have said, living in another country and being surrounded by the language will bring you to a fairly fluent level. If that is not possible- dating french women will be the closest thing. After that, there are many resources online to pursue. Good luck.",
"Immersion is by far the most efficient/effective way, but if this isn't possible then there are a number of other steps you can take.\n\n**#1 Buy a basic textbook and set aside a chunk of time each day to go through a chapter or so** Might seem pretty basic and tedious, but I've found that routine breeds commitment and just coming up with a basic routine with help remind yourself that you do really want to do this.\n\n**#2 Keep 2 neat \"french\" books. Book 1 should contain all the new vocab you come across, along with the gender/plural/best translation. Update this as regularly as you can. Be meticulous. When you have down time you can go through the book, highlighting words when you think you've learnt them. Book 2 should contain any new grammar ideas you come across, but be careful just to copy down ONLY the necessities/ key rules. The idea of these two books may seem stupid and unnecessarily effortful, but I assure you it'll be worth it just for the satisfaction you'd get from being able to look back through everything you've done and remind yourself of bits you've forgotten. **\n\n**#3 Use the right sources for new language. Here are the ones I have found most useful in my 6 years of French learning.**\n\nwww.wordreference.com\nwww.languagesonline.org.uk\n\nand when you are up to an advanced enough level, I'd suggest trying to read the news in french. (i.e http://www.lemonde.fr)\n\n**#4 Work out what sort of vocab you actually envisage yourself needing and using with your fluent french. Want it for work purposes? Create useful vocab lists for the job (s) you might have in mind. For around the house? Prioritise learning the different foods, the basic nouns etc.**\n\nGood luck!",
"Having spent 20 years working and hitching around the world I can tell you that only need will help you learn a language. Need as in food, a bed, travel, etc. Go to a French speaking country and travel around. Six months in France will be worth 4 years of language lessons.",
" I first learned english at middle school. When I got to high school, I began to watch Cartoon Network in english. I couldn't understand anything, maybe 10% of what was going on, I mostly enjoyed the gags rather than really understanding the dialogues. Later on, I started to watch movies in english, wish english subtitles. This was a good practicing of mapping the sounds I heard into words and sentences. After that, I got to University and started computer science, so I was searching the web in english, I entered IRC chatrooms and tried to communicate in english the best I could. There are good tools to help me with that like wordreference.com.\n\nToday, I can read and write english, not very well as you can see, but I still can't speak english fluently as I didn't practice at all except in very rare phone conversations or a very breif language check in job interviews."
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"How to manage carrying two cell phones? This may seem like a dumb 1st world problem, but I was just issued a cell phone from my new job, and I have to have it on me at all times. I'm not supposed to use it for personal texts, phone calls, data, etc, so I also have my iPhone on me pretty much all the time for email, web, personal phone calls, games, etc.\n\nThe work phone is a big dumb clamshell thing and I can't fit both in my pocket. I'm a guy, and I don't really want to start carrying a murse. How do those of you guys who have to carry two cell phones manage it?\n\nAny ideas are welcome, thanks!",
"How to manage carrying two cell phones? This may seem like a dumb 1st world problem, but I was just issued a cell phone from my new job, and I have to have it on me at all times. I'm not supposed to use it for personal texts, phone calls, data, etc, so I also have my iPhone on me pretty much all the time for email, web, personal phone calls, games, etc.\n\nThe work phone is a big dumb clamshell thing and I can't fit both in my pocket. I'm a guy, and I don't really want to start carrying a murse. How do those of you guys who have to carry two cell phones manage it?\n\nAny ideas are welcome, thanks!",
"How to manage carrying two cell phones? This may seem like a dumb 1st world problem, but I was just issued a cell phone from my new job, and I have to have it on me at all times. I'm not supposed to use it for personal texts, phone calls, data, etc, so I also have my iPhone on me pretty much all the time for email, web, personal phone calls, games, etc.\n\nThe work phone is a big dumb clamshell thing and I can't fit both in my pocket. I'm a guy, and I don't really want to start carrying a murse. How do those of you guys who have to carry two cell phones manage it?\n\nAny ideas are welcome, thanks!",
"How to manage carrying two cell phones? This may seem like a dumb 1st world problem, but I was just issued a cell phone from my new job, and I have to have it on me at all times. I'm not supposed to use it for personal texts, phone calls, data, etc, so I also have my iPhone on me pretty much all the time for email, web, personal phone calls, games, etc.\n\nThe work phone is a big dumb clamshell thing and I can't fit both in my pocket. I'm a guy, and I don't really want to start carrying a murse. How do those of you guys who have to carry two cell phones manage it?\n\nAny ideas are welcome, thanks!"
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"Can you port your work number to Google voice and have both phones ring? Outbound might be a pain though, I am just spitballing here. Never done it myself.",
"Redirect all calls from your work phone to your personal phone. Then leave your work phone on the charger at the office.",
"My Bluetooth handles both my phones easily. It accepts verbal \"answer\" to connect and speaks the calling number/directory entry to me.",
"I have the same issue.\n\nI have an iPhone for work and my personal phone is a Moto DroidX. I am super nerdy so I have searched the world for a pair of pants with a decent pocket setup for my phone. \n\nGap makes a pair of pants which fits my iPhone perfectly. [LINK](http://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=42976&vid=1&pid=772342&scid=772342002) \n\nNot only do I love the fit of these pants but they also allow me to put my iPhone into the extra pocket and my droid into the regular pocket. This leaves my left pocket available for keys and coin (which I always keep separate to prevent screen scratches). \n\nI just snapped [this](http://i.imgur.com/FD9u3.jpg) photo to show how well the pocket is designed to perfectly fit almost any smart phone. (I pulled my iPhone slightly out to show it's fit but the pocket is deep enough to completely conceal the phone.\n\nI bought a bunch of these on sale in different colors and they are all I wear now.\n\nSee, I told you... Super nerdy.\n\nIf you have to wear slacks to work then I guess you are SOL because I have simply found zero designs which have something similar."
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"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n",
"How do I stop measuring my self-worth to how much success or money I have? I never used to be like this, I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person. I am 24 years old and thought that I would be successful and have money by now. Life obviously doesn't work out how you think and I've hit many obstacles. I am very grateful for these obstacles because they have helped me grow as a person more than anything. Now since I don't really have much money in the bank, and I'm not where I want to be success-wise, I feel just..idk...not myself. I don't feel as confident or content with myself. Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things. If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n"
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"I define my self worth based on what I can do. I'm just a lowly boat engine mechanic but skill wise I can fix engines, on just about anything. I can work with fiberglass resins and high end specialty paints. I troubleshoot or install from scratch both DC and AC electrical systems (in anything). I do woodworking as a hobby and have built some fairly decent looking furniture. I can weld mig arc and torch. I garden. I grow kick ass tomatoes, I make my own pickles. I taught myself how to read soil samples and adjust them as necessary. I can grill. I can smoke ribs, brisket, and just about anything. I sous vide. Actually I can cook like a fucking champ. I can obviously drive a car and pilot a boat. I did take flying lessons years ago but had to quit at the time for financial reasons, but I would like to get back into it. I was a boy scout growing up so I can be a bit of a survivalist. I love camping. Every day I live I always try to either learn something new, or get better at something I already know how to do. That is how I evaluate a good portion of my self worth. The other way I evaluate it is by how much I can share my knowledge with others. I have taught in the past, and probably will in again the future, it is very rewarding. Knowledge and skills are great to have, but they are even more fulfilling when you can share them with somebody else. \n\n",
"A person is only worthless if they're a huge piece of shit. You are not a huge piece of shit. The fact that you are realising and confronting this problem speaks volumes about your intelligence, which I think is worth more than any amount of money. Take as much time as you need, man. I believe in you.",
"You are looking for a source of inspiration in your life. What I can tell from your text is that you are an ambitious man who want to achieve in life but has no ideas yet as to what to do. Focus on certain area of your interest, set targets and then try to achieve them. \n\nBetter to fail at attempts than never to try. You have to understand that though money might make you feel happy and fulfilled, it's just short-lived emotion. You will always feel void inside. Focus, set targets, achieve them. Your self-worth will grow.",
"You're probably becoming disillusioned with the worldview that you put together growing up. Success isn't measured in dollars or objects, your self isn't just your body and your opinion. Now that your aim has been revealed to be off you have to re-evaluate your assumptions and it's kind of bewildering.\n\n[Here's my go-to for people starting their existential crisis.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERbvKrH-GC4) Alan Watts has many lectures online, and this clip has the bonus of being animated by Matt Stone and Trey Parker. The summary is that each moment in life is the point of life. There isn't an end goal, every day is its own encounter. \n\nYou succeed when you're enjoying a moment or a thought. You fail when you're petty and spiteful. Eat, work, pay the bills.",
"I'm not even kidding. Take acid. \n\nThe day after I took acid I had that exact revelation. I no longer needed the coolest or newest things, and the amount of money I had was meaningless. I live a modest life now and my happiness has never been higher.",
"This story is apparently all over the internet, but I've only read it in \"How Adam Smith Can Change Your Life\", by Russ Roberts, p.85. I don't know if this is exactly what you are looking for, but I'll type it out anyway, since it may help somebody else.\n\nThe gist of the chapter leading up to this is all about how being \"lovely\" or \"worthy of love\" is a significant source of contentment, i.e. having people give a crap about you by giving a crap about them. I don't know if Adam Smith is all he's cracked up to be, but take that, and this, for what you will. This is a play on an old Plutarch story, apparently.\n\n>An American buisnessman was at a pier in a small coastal Mexican village when a boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them. Not long, was the reply. The American then asked the Mexican how he spent the rest of his time.\n\n>\"I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and talk with my wife. I stroll into the village each evening, where I sip wine and play guitar with my friends. I have a full and busy life.\"\n\n>The American replied, \"I have an MBA and can help you. You should spend more time fishing and, with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from what you could bring in with the bigger boat, you could buy several boats; eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman, you would sell directly to the processor, and eventually open your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution.\n\n>\"You would need to leave this small village. Move to Mexico City, and then maybe to Los Angeles, where you will run your expanding enterprise.\"\n\n>The Mexican fisherman asked, \"How long will this all take?\"\n\n>The American replied, \"Fifteen or twenty years.\"\n\n>\"But then what?\" asked the Mexican.\n\n>\"That's the best part! When the time is right, you could go public. You'll become very rich; you would make millions!\"\n\n> \"Millions?\" replied the Mexican. \"Then what?\"\n\n>The American said, \"Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, spend time with your wife. In the evenings, you could stroll to the village, where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your friends...\"\n\n",
"As an addendum, my personal case is that even though all evidence is stacked towards showing me as a good person, I feel like I'll be a waste of resources until I achieve something worth to the rest of humanity. I don't measure my worth based on the account balance (although more money is always useful), but by my deeds towards good. And I see all these exceptional people around the world who were able to turn hardship into meaning to others, starting out with very little, and I just feel like \"what the heck have I done with all I've been given?\"",
"Stop judging yourself. It isn't worth the time. It's your self-analysis that's the problem not a specific subject of it.\n\nStop reading shit online like it's going to give you an answer, stop caring about objects like they're going to bring you happiness. Find a way to silence your self-analysis and focus on the things around you. ",
"The brain likes to latch on to things. Therefore- you need to swap your current measure (money and success) instead for personal happiness, your value to your friends, family, and strangers, and what you're currently doing to benefit those around you. \n\nI'd also like to state that it is exceptionally common for people in your age bracket to be feeling this. You are NOT alone, and it's almost to the point of normal. But I digress: \n\nDo you have a hobby/passion? Is there a way that you can share that passion with others and pass on what you know? \n\nDo you hold doors open for people? Stop for people at cross-walks? Smile at strangers on the street? These are small gestures, but acts of kindness without the expectation of return do wonders for both yourself and those around you. The true joy in life is to give to others- and everyone wins! \n\nIt's important to keep striving towards your goals (having goals in the first place is also important) to further yourself in your career, pushing yourself for that job that pays and treats you better, and having enough to set aside for a rainy day or emergency. This won't happen all at once and does require a certain measure of patience and perseverance- but it *will* happen. Just gotta stick with it. \n\nSource: I'm a 31 year old groundskeeper/artist. Been at my job 7 years now and I'm finally making a living wage. I live simply- I don't have a car, I bike and bus everywhere, and have some of the most amazing wealth of friends a person could possibly ask for. I don't make much cash on my art, but I create because it makes me happy and inspires art - and I know the money will come in time as I keep plugging it. ",
"Make friends with artists, philosophers, and anarchists. Ditch the boring-ass middle class zombies working 50 hours a week so they can go out and buy a boat and thus feel like they have self worth. Read, create, and fuck beautiful women. Get out of your comfort zone.\n\nTake what I have to say with a grain of salt as I'm not a wise person by any means, but I do know beyond a shadow of a doubt that living your life for the pursuit of money and material objects is *the* surefire way to be miserable.",
"Surround yourself with people who:\n\n - sincerely want to see you succeed\n\n - don't measure the worth of others with the metric of financial wealth and superficial status",
"People feel the way they do in US culture because of a number of social, political, economic forces designed to make you feel inadequate in order to perform for those who own the means of production. I recommend watching Noam Chomsky's new film and then read Imagery Affect and Consciousness by Silvan Tompkins as many times as it takes to develop a reasonably solid understanding. And then m",
"You are so young! Your expectation that you would be successful and financially stable at this point in your life was unrealistic. Are there 24 year olds out there who have high level positions and good paying jobs? Absolutely. But the majority of them are in entry level positions as drones doing boring work. 24 year old people just aren't trusted to make big decisions, and thus make a good paycheck. You should know that the person you described (house, travel, cool car) has worked an entire lifetime and is now approaching retirement. So here's my advice.\n\n1. Realize that where you are right now is not where you're always going to be. You are at the VERY beginning of your career. If you were to think of your career as being a week long, you're in the first 20 minutes of it. Compare what you could accomplish in 20 minutes to what you can accomplish in 168 hours. \n\n2. Make long term goals. The things that you listed are medium to long term goals. Not the short term ones that you've been thinking of them as. Having the money to travel to a different country is something that can be done in 3 months - 2 years, depending on how much you make and how much you can save. Having the money to decide to fly across the world next month is something that very very few people can do. Buying a house takes a LONG time to build your wage to the point that you can afford it and save the down payment. Having a super awesome car is similar. A 30-50k car just isn't a wise financial decision for the vast majority of people your age. \n\n3. Make short term goals. Learn to enjoy living within your means. There will ALWAYS be ways to spend more money. Once you own a house it will be easy to want a bigger one. Once you can travel to one country, it will be easy to want to stay longer or stay in nicer hotels. Wanting more is a human thing. Learning to enjoy what you have now is the only way to be happy. \n\nI know it looks like you'll be happier when you have more money. But it's like becoming an adult. When you're 10, being an adult means staying up as late as you want and eating ice cream after every meal. Then you become an adult and realize that most of adulthood is paying bills and figuring out how much ice cream you can actually eat without destroying your health. It's the same with money. It looks like a lot of fun. And the fun stuff is. But it's also more work than it looks like from the outside. ",
"Realize your goals and work hard to achieve them. Set anything and everything else aside and focus solely on those goals.\n\nIn our current culture, one in which we are brought up believing we can accomplish anything we want, there tends to be a lack of focus on one or two accomplishments. We want to achieve everything. Choose one thing you want to achieve and drive toward that. Want to be a writer? Then all of your time needs devoted to reading, writing, thinking of writing, scribbling notes for your stories, etc.\n\nI'd list more examples, but this reply is already too lengthy.\n\nAlso, you MUST create a budget. People feel the lack of income when they are living paycheck to paycheck. You will never save money if you are spending what you feel like spending. Put it down on paper and be intentional. Having a budget drastically changed my life.",
"Realize you are not solely defined by how much money you have. That is one aspect of your life. Realize that value is always subjective and contextual.\n\nSay you are a dirt poor artist, but you're the best damned artist anyone has ever seen. You have millions of every day people who adore you and your work, but you're still dirt poor. Those people who love your art couldn't give less of a shit about your money, so in that particular context, you're a king. Economically, not so much. But it just goes to show how value works. ",
"In 3 years at my last job (selling securities) i made 765 thousand dollars. \n\n\nYou know what happened? I was sick of doing drugs going out all night and partying. You can't buy a family... You can't buy love. And it's very truthful that money doesn't buy happiness. \n\nI quit my job. I got clean. I hardly ever drink and I now work my ass off at a 6am-8pm job making 50k a year (if I'm lucky) \n\nAm I happy? Well... Not really. But I feel a shit ton better then I used to about life. I used to mask my pain with drugs and alcohol. Now I don't use drugs or alcohol because the pain is well not gone. But manageable through therapy. \n\n\nMoral of the story is money does not define anyone. You define who you are. ",
"I'll throw in my perspective. I try to look at myself the way I believe God looks at me. I believe that I like everyone else is enough for just being alive and a human being created in the image of God. I am not my job, and I do not allow it to define me. While I fix and troubleshoot ISP issue over the phone during the day to pay my bills, I know there is a lot more to my core being then that. I have gifts and talents in service and helping others. I care and love people, always looks for way to help others. I have an artistic side in me, and I love to write poetry. I enjoy music, and riding my motorcycle. I'm invested in my relationships, and exploring what I can of this world. My job takes up a lot of my time, but when I'm not working I focus on the things that I love, and the gifts that God has given me. If I feel down about where I am currently in life, I remind myself that I am loved and cherished for who I am, not what I do.",
"Congratulations! I know that sounds weird, but you have reached an important milestone much earlier than a lot of your peers. unless you actually are the one in a million, then you are just another Joe who thinks they are worth more than they actually are!\n\nDeal with it, make the most of it, and you'll be fine!\n\n43, comfortably off and happy with my place in life!",
"I just resigned my old pretty respectable job 4 months ago and now have a job I enjoy and value more.\n\nI'm much happier, and wake up ready to start the day. \n\nMoney only means as much as you have enough, and success is only measured by you in comparison to the people you respect.",
"Ask yourself why you want money. And then just keep asking \"why\" to every answer you come up with down the line until you get to the baseline of what you want. \n\nSo - you want money cause you want a house or a car. You want a house or a car because.....etc. \n\nThe base line will be something like happiness, or contentment, or fulfillment, or something. At that point, you should begin looking for pathways to those goals that better correspond to your situation.\n\nFollowing the money is never the best plan. People who seek money are usually just stuck on step one.",
"You have an external locus of control right now. You believe that your money defines your success, and, therefore, your happiness. The problem with this thinking is that you have devalued your merits as an individual. Like others have said, the fact that your are realizing these things shows how intelligent you are. Perhaps you can redefine your definition of success. For me, success is not something to be achieved, but to be experienced on a daily basis. Realize that contentment is found within yourself. If you are doing what you enjoy doing, and you are positive you have put in all your effort to have a successful day, then allow yourself to find contentment. Hopefully, you can start finding joy in yourself as a person. After that, everything else will fall into place.",
"I made a list of 15 rules that I would try to follow in my life, I judge my success and self worth of how closely I try to follow them. I think those things define a good person so I do my best to be one.",
"The feeling of needing to control ones life and build it out based on the society/economy/standards we face today is overwhelmingly frustrating. \n\nMy first recommendation would be to try sensory deprivation (aka floating or more technically, restricted environmental stimulus therapy). Google locations close by and do a minimum of 3-5 sessions. \n\nI would also make the recommendation that perhaps a recalibration of the perspective on life in general and reconsidering who you are may be helpful. I found that the late philosopher, Alan Watts, has countless amazing lectures that help people tackle their perspectives. \n\nThis is a 45 min lecture and I've listened to this one specific talk dozens of times. It and the many other videos have definitely helped me see life in a whole new appreciation and direction. \n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vWtE3r2CUBI&feature=youtu.be (better link ",
"Money is just representative of the value you have brought to others. Instead of focusing on the number, focus on how you can get better at helping others solve problems that you may have already overcome.\n\nAsk yourself, what do you spend the time doing that you enjoy? That time spent might mean that you know more about that subject than someone just getting into it. And it's okay if it's like a game or something. Go back to noob island and help people accomplish what they're working on.\n\nWhat's fun is when you take that desire to help people, and find ways to monetize that. Maybe you end up becoming a guide for other people in that subject and they decide to pay you for it. Either with attention or money.\n\nWhen you put the act of helping people solve their problems first, the money will follow. :) hope this helps!",
">If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\n>",
"When I was younger I started a company. Came really close to getting rich, I mean really close, but for the 2 years I ran it I lived in almost poverty... paying others, etc.\n\nI ran into a guy who used to work for me and he has some job as a manager of a clinic. He graduated college and I did not. I assume he makes about 30-40K a year but has great benefits and stability. \n\nHe kept making underhanded comments about me working in a 'cubicle farm,' or asking questions about me, 'doing ok financially,' etc. He seemed to really get off on it.\n\nI easily make twice as much as him. Didn't have the heart to tell him and should be making more than four times what he makes in a few more years.\n\nWhen I was younger I thought like you did. Now that I make more than I can spend and have a bunch of cash saved up... I still feel 'empty.' -- What I mean is this: It didn't give me any self worth, or pride. It's just money. I can buy shit I don't need now. Cool story. ",
"you're only 24.... you have your whole life ahead of you. you're just starting your adult life, why would you expect to have achieved all of your dreams already?\n\nstart off by setting small, achievable goals and working to achieve them. as you achieve more and more of these goals, you can feel good about the progress you're making.",
"You have to refocus your loci by reviewing your logos. Currently your loci (A center or focus of great activity or intense concentration) is calculated on a false objective measure that can be manipulated by those who participate in perpetuating the existence of the object. Your logos (a Greek word meaning \"a ground\", \"a plea\", \"an opinion\", \"an expectation\", \"word\", \"speech\", \"account\", \"to reason\") is the means by which you make judgement decisions of worth through reason and ethics. Money is only stored human labor as all it can do is trade its percieved value to motivate a human to do somthing for it. Once you understand that money cant do anything without other people you understand that having people who are more capable and cooperative around you is a force mulitplier of any monetary stores you may have. This is the reason humans have out competed other species by employing social behavior. \n\nNow once you understand that money is other people you then need to move past that on to your personal self worth. As in what can you do for others. The larger and more technical pool of skills you have makes you worth more to ither people but only to the extant that another person percieves they need those things. So build a set of skills and knowledge that most pertain to you then aquire things that those around you most need to the limit of your ability. \n\n\nAfter you do that you will understand the joy derived from a human giving you a smile or a hug because of what you've done for them. Then money will only be a tool of communication and compliment.",
"This is going to be very unpopular. I think it is actually most responsible and realistic to tie your self-esteem to money, but not necessarily success.\n\nUnfortunately, in our current society, you need to have a fair amount of money just to be safe. Without it, you can't protect the health and happiness of those you love. To me, love is more about care than it is about sentiment - so being in dire financial straits limits your ability to act lovingly toward yourself and others.\n\nPeople always frame it as though money just determines material comfort, and if you can abide a certain lifestyle, it's fine to be poor. That would be true if there were no crises. But the outcome of such crises is often determined by ones ability to afford legal fees, heathcare, etc.\nIt's ultimately unethical not to try to accumulate money because money equals safety and you are under obligation to keep yourself and your family safe. This is one reason why implementing socialism is so critical. The world really should not work like this. Everyone deserves the protections that only the rich enjoy.",
"Realize that appearances can be deceiving. See that young person with the new BMW coupe, rolling out of the starbucks lot? I can say with 99% accuracy that it was leased. They dont own anything. They may as well be borrowing their mom's car to get to work, because the bank owns it. ",
"People in here talking about goals and skills aren't wrong, but they've missed the point. You are alive therefore you are worthy of life. Your self worth and happiness comes from within, not without. Everything else is secondary. Stare yourself down in a mirror in a dim lit room until you understand this.",
"If your happiness is contingent on success, then you won't find happiness. Success is a moving target.",
"If you're not a musician or artist, try painting something or writing a song. Anything really. Just make something that you can look at later and say \"I did this, and no other person would have done it the same.\" Helps me a lot.",
"I would recommend that you \ntake some time to travel and be humble. You don't need a lot of money. Go somewhere internationally, be safe and experience other views and walks of life. It's an adventure, participate, level up. Are you experienced?\n",
"I get out to nature. Looking at the Milky Way, being in a forest, listening to water lapping on a shore are things that get me outside myself and put things in perspective.\n\n I also try to judge my accomplishments on a scale that is outside myself. If I saw a friend do the work that I just did, how would I measure the good and the tradeoffs to good. 80/20 or better is a goal for me, not 100%. These tricks get me away from perfectionism.\n\n I can make it good, cheap or fast. Pick any two. Save perfectionism to those parts that need that intensity of devotion.",
"I don't think you would feel better if you did have those things. Life goes beyond having a nice house, a Porsche, and lobster every Friday. \n\nTo me, it sounds like you need to find your fulfillment, and I can't believe such a commodity comes from anywhere but within. \n\nFor me, it comes primarily from the love I feel for my family and friends, as well as from assisting and serving other people however and whenever I can. \nSometimes I'll buy a homeless person lunch. Other times, I'll help my little brother with his homework.\n\nI've also found unique serenity in hobbies that I deeply enjoy, such as keeping a journal, drawing, time on reddit, and bicycling. \n\nDon't place any significance on having nice things, other than the benefit of having them. Try to focus on love, empathy, wisdom, and sharing them with others, to nurture and grow bonds between you. \n\nBest wishes, friend.",
"I count myself as quite a successful person. I'm smart, I have a good job, I'm responsible. I am doing very well for myself based on my age group. Work is one aspect of my life I can control and do very well.\n\nBut I don't really have many friends. I'm a bit of a loner, but I've never had an easy time relaxing around people, especially other women. I am incredibly envious of people who find building relationships easy. Who enjoy the company of other people. I've somehow found a man who loves me and wants to marry me, but deep down I figure one day I'm probably going to fuck it up terribly. \n\nI had $25k saved up when I graduated college. I never had friends to do stuff with. And some would say it was very responsible to save it for years and buy a house with it, instead of blowing it. The truth is I wanted to go backpack through Europe, but I didn't have anyone to even ask to go with me.\n\nTake stock in the people you have around you and the quality of those relationships. Success and money are important, but life feels insubstantial, like the days just sort of fly by, without the company of others to break up the monotony of responsibility.",
"self worth to me, is to love and be loved. that's what makes me who i am and how i judge myself. I Love my wife and she loves me. that's true success in my book. We will have been married 18 years on this Monday the 25th just two days from now. The work life balance thing, is somewhat of a joke to me. Ive been taking guitar lessons for the past year ( im 45) it took me 44 years to stop being fat, very fat actually im 5'9\" and i weighed 408 pounds on dec 16th 2014 on december 19th 2015 i weighed in at 170 pounds. I love being thin, I wasted alot of time, but i always had the love and support of my wife and i have always loved and supported her and I always will. To me i judge my self worth by the love i share with my soulmate, my wife, my love.",
"You've made a huge mistake. Like many others, you seem to have not defined 'successful' for yourself, rather the generic societal one that's a load of shit.\n\nIt took me until 27 to realise I spent too many years wasted chasing the generic 'successes' of life. Not enough money, no house, an amazing skill set but no solid career. I kept working on it and working on it and getting frustrated that I was a failure and maybe not as good as I thought I was all that time. Then after a few months of serious soul-searching and looking outside of the world I created and the world society dangled in front of me, it all clicked. Holy shit, I'm missing out on the whole point of my existence; I'm not living.\n\n>Some people went around interviewing dying patients and not one person said they regretted not making more money, or working harder. They all seemed to say their regrets were not spending more time with the people they love, and not traveling more, and relating more to the world and the planet.\n\nAlso, money doesn't bring freedom, it takes it. You wouldn't be in this state of self-loathing if you spent more time doing what you want and less time living to make money to live.\n\n>So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more dangerous to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.\n\nIf you want to live life like a baller, I get it. Maybe this advice isn't for you. Otherwise, start asking yourself what you actually want to do and why. If it ends up with money, house, security, then ask yourself; hypothetically I have these, now what? And there's the answer you need to hear and start from.\n\nDon't waste your life and happiness on trying to attain society's definition of \"success\". You're just going to be miserable, accomplish nothing, and die with regrets. This is literally the opposite of being successful in life.",
"You're talking about changing a long-held belief that you probably didn't spend a lot of time consciously addressing. Now you are addressing it and that's the first step to changing it. Spend some time writing about it to yourself or talking to someone to better understand what your own beliefs are about the subject. It won't change immediately, but understand that recognizing a disconnect between habitual thinking and true belief is the first step toward aligning your behaviors and thought processes with your true beliefs and reaching toward what some people call self-actualization. At 24, it's good that you're thinking about these kinds of things. It's common what you're going through. A lot of people go through life never doing any self-examination and they end up blaming other people for their problems.\n\nAlso, recognizing things like this about yourself and then trying to change them is a skill in itself that you will hopefully use many times throughout your life. It's good to make a habit of spotting instances of cognitive dissonance (which is what this is) and rectifying them. \n\nI see a lot of good advice in here, but what you're talking about is not anything that can be solved with a trick or tip. It's a long road to peace. Anyone who tells you they can do A, B, and C and feel contentment and self-assurance is kidding themselves. Those things may help, but this is just one piece of a lifelong journey toward being comfortable and content with who and what you are.\n\nAlso, for what it's worth, this stuff gets much easier as you get older. So don't worry about trying to fix everything right away. Just be mindful of the things you want to fix. That goes a long way.",
"You are on the right track, just keep asking hard questions. Self-worth takes a lot of honesty with one self and looking honestly at the people surrounding you. \nFor example: What do you like about yourself? What do you want to spend more time doing? Don't know, just start exploring. Something will keep drawing your attention. Who do you want to spend more time with? How are you going to make that happen? Who do you want to spend time less time with? Can you de-tangle yourself from toxic people, even if there are strong traditions or family ties? \nSelf-worth comes when you are wanting self-worth. Wanting to take care of yourself mentally and physically. When you want to keep learning new things and seeking interests. When you want to learn about your friends interests. When you want to start helping everyone around you. Making things better then you found them. \n \nMaterial things are the games we play to ignore our inner child. \nYou my friend sound trapped. There are exits with truth and questions. And whenever you want. Just take your time in the now enjoying you and those you love. While remembering what do you want long term.",
"Write down on a white board on your fridge some realistic goals. I got drunk as shit last night with friends I haven't seen in years. I woke up this morning and \"read a book in the park\" was next on the list. I was hungover, through on the shades and walked about 30min to the park. I read for 2 hours. It was so peaceful and relaxing. On my walk home I had a huge grin on my face, and probably looked stupid to passers by. Reading books in parks is just something I see myself doing, and I lived it today. And it was free, and nobody can take that away from me. I might even do it tomorrow. Especially because it's close to the record store and Sunday is my crate digging day.",
"Why stop measuring it that way? Success and money is a valid metric.\n\nThat said, there are others: how you treat your family, how much thought you give to your society, the degree and quality of the regard with which your friends hold you, whom you've helped, how people will remember you should you have to move away.\n\nSelf-worth is made up of many things.",
"This feeling of not being successful is common. My wife is smart, funny, an amazing woman, graduated from grad school and couldn't find a job. Thoughts of suicide, the whole nine yards. I told her, friends told her, just keep at it, things will get better. So she did, with much protestation, got a job she didn't like very much, but kept on in her field in her free time. By the end of one year, she got published several times and got an extremely prestigious fellowship, after months of failure. Now we are moving to California so she can pursue this fellowship. And I guarantee that she will be feeling unsuccessful in a short time. The point being that this feeling of ambition is natural for a lot of people, and drives them to grow and pursue success. I, on the other hand, have zero ambition, don't know what I want to do with my life, have bounced from job to job most of my adult life, and am usually pretty okay with that. I've had struggles and overcome them, and feel like I'm living on borrowed time because I could be dead or in prison. As such, I don't worry about gaining success or money because I know those things will not get me through the dark nights. At the same time, I don't ever hazard going out on a limb, and probably am not growing as much as I could be. What I'm saying, I guess, is that some dissatisfaction with life is good, it helps you to keep pursuing your dreams. I know that's not very helpful if you just want comfort, but it's the truth. The truth rarely ever is comfortable.",
"Thinking you would feel better if you had your own house, fun car and a lot of material possessions is a fallacy. Check out r/simpleliving and r/minimalism. You don't need those things and if you did, in a few years you may regret wasting money on things and not experiences. You are young and not tied down., wait on the house. Travel now and couch surf. Find a passion. Find your spirit!",
"Plan a trip to a third world country and see firsthand how happy some people are with so little. Oftentimes, the value we put on material things create the problems we try to avoid. I tackled this problem head-on by being the person I try to avoid: someone with less than everyone else. I have to say that de-cluttering my life opened up my mind for gratitude and happiness.\n\n",
"Of all the dead people you have known about through-out history, and the ones you've known when they're alive if any, how does their money accumulation affect your opinion of them?\n\nI'm guessing it doesn't, your impression and opinion of those people has nothing to do with how many cr",
"Not sure if this helps, but it's been more or less the opposite for me. Just turned 23, made a few hundred grand over the last few months and started thinking I was the shit. Now I just want to be more successful than the next guy. Not going to lie though, life is a lot better when you can spend limitless within reason. \n\nLife's always been easy, but I never felt really confident. No real big hurdles like what you talk about. Always got good grades in college without putting in too much work, nice friends, good social circles etc. Everything always worked out. \n\nHere's the thing, the confidence that came with the 'wealth' starts fading quickly and then it's the same routine all over again. Anyways, I did all the things you talk about. Travel, money in the bank, city centre modern apartment and all that. I wouldn't want to miss any of those experiences, but they do all start losing intrinsic value eventually. I still have the same friends, we still hang out at the same places, still do the same activities. They really don't care if I bring a $500 bottle of champagne to one of their dinners or a $20 bottle of wine. They don't define my self-worth based on my net-worth, so why would I? I had to go through this entire process to really start valuing that. \n\nThing is you never really get rich, you just attain new levels of poverty. So if you're waiting for financial success to change your outlook, you'll be in for a surprise once you get to it. You will just end up deferring it to the next level. ",
"My whole life I would hear \"Things happen for a reason.\", \"When you get older you will understand.\", \"The Universe works in mysterious ways.\" All things that I once considered to be bullspit. Then as I started to get older and had more experiences, it would come to be that these statements were coincidentally true. I used to wish, like many others, that I could go back in time with what I know now. Change my future for the better! Thankfully that thought has left my head because of one thing. Self value. I might have been better off, but I could have just as equally screwed myself and it would devalue what I have become. Essentially making my experience worthless. As long as you do the best you can with what you have at the time, you build that self value. Sure it is fun to have fancy material things, but when push comes to shove it is your skills and experience that proves your value. If you want a better life, take initiative and figure out how you can change who you are now into what you want to become later. Keep learning from these obstacles because they do not only come from just life but also in your own head, of which I have found to be the toughest.",
"Measure yourself by how you treat others. \n\nIf you see someone in true need do you help them without wanting something in return? If you are in any situation really do you treat others how you would want to be treated? If so, then no matter what you are a good person in my eyes and a success.\n\nActions to me are the measure of a man.",
"Measure your self-worth based on how good of a person you are, simple. Life is worth much more than gold, she's buying a stair way to heaven, etc. etc. The freedom money brings is great, but don't let your lack of it bring you down. You'll continue to strive, and you'll make it, but don't beat yourself up or become a different person along the way. ",
"Look at all the famous and rich people who are addicted to drugs, commit suicide, end up going broke, get divorced over and over, sue their families, end up on some VH1 show. \n\nMoney doesn't make you happy. It can certainly take your mind off of bills and things like that, but your self-worth is defined by the things you do with your life and the choices you make. ",
"Live a life of service to others. Volunteer, help the homeless, plant trees, and find fulfilling hobbies. The greatest waste of life is one spent as a slave to money. ",
"Learn skills and help people and make friends.\n\nKnowing how to do things that are useful like plumbing or carpentry allows you to help people which gives you purpose or value.\n\nAnd know less practical skills like playing an instrument make you unique and give you something to do when you need to kill some time\n\nThe more unique can be better I find. I play the bagpipes and can ride a unicycle. It makes me stand out which is fun.\n\nAnd just helping people and seeing how it makes them happy can make you in turn happy. Volunteer at a shelter or volunteer as a firefighter.\n\nAll these things will open doors and help you meet new people who can really make you feel better.\n\nAll these combined just give your life more purpose and make you feel successful. Don't base your success on materials but on how much you have bettered yourself and how many people you have positively impacted.",
"It depends on your concept of success. You seem to think that being succesful is having plenty of money. If you measure your life by having money or not, you'll probably be unhappy forever.\n\nIt's kinda sad to think of your time in this world as an income of cash.",
"If you are great person, then why don't you accomplished great things? Sorry, but you are typical delusional millenial, who think \"he is special\". You are not, you are an average joe, who will be a wage slave, like 90% of people, who will work to live and sustain itself, and not because he enjoys his work. ",
"I'm similar but have the money you want. I'm 24, have a big 4 bed house filled with designer furniture, a very expensive car, a very expensive watch etc., yet the void I thought those things would fill just expanded the second I bought them. I want the next thing, a bigger house, a better car, another watch, as I think that's what I want. I got a huge pay rise and literally the first thing on my mind was \"what's next, how do I get more?\" I never really celebrate my achievements as I immediately think of how to achieve more.\n\nI mean I do enjoy everything I have and when I get new things, but I don't think I'll ever be happy with what I have. Which is weird. I guess I'm so egotistically driven that as soon as I step up a notch on the \"power and superiority\" ladder I rate myself on the goal posts just move again. I think you will find the same if you manage to get what you think you want.",
"I'm not sure what your question is. It seems to be something like \"How can I be happy without money?\"\n\nIf that's your question, talk to a poor person. They know how to be happy without money. And there are millions of them in America, which is a third world country for many people.\n\nAs far as \"freedom\" goes, don't kid yourself. \"Freedom\" from what? If you have no meaning and happiness in your life, money is definitely not the problem, and money will not fix it.",
"I think we all know it but no one tells you, self worth comes from 1's. Each day I do 1 thing. It doesn't matter what it is. I just do that one thing. And as long as that (or even something moving towards that one thing) gets done you made that day worth something. Set your bar extremely low to start. Say \"I'm gonna make my bed today\" or \"I'm going to put my clothes in front of the washing machine to do laundry tomorrow\" then do laundry tomorrow.\n\nI was in a really rough place about 8 months ago and there is no way to dig yourself out of a hole but one shovel at a time friend. The best part is people can shit all over me and it doesn't matter. Today wasn't a 0",
"I think it's odd that you're assessing your self worth at 24. You've got a long way to go before you worry about your accomplishments. Being satisfied with what you've accomplished should be a process. You should feel bad if you haven't worked towards your goals, whatever they may be. Wealth alone is not a determinant of happiness. My brother is a doctor who treats super wealthy people. He sees many miserable people who are both rich and famous. I think people who feel loved and who derive pleasure from helping others live the most satisfying lives. And yes, wealth can be very satisfying, but it shouldn't be your only measure of success. ",
"I suggest you don't lose that feeling. There is nothing wrong with tying self worth to money (specifically because of WHY you do: not the money, but what it brings; \"If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better.\")\n\nNo one gets rich without the drive to want that stuff. KEEP IT. \n\nI suggest making sure you invest in yourself (ongoing education through books or classes and seminars) up to a good percent of what you make, regardless of how little it is. Work extra jobs if you can't make ends meet after investing FIRST. \n\nThen look for opportunities to get your investments paying you. Risky stocks are not risky if you educate yourself about the industry, economy and that specific company. Dividend stocks are a very simple place to start.\n\nHonestly, you have the the drive now to be very well off. Disassociating with that drive will only keep you tied to a job with an illusion that not having nice things and living your life traveling - doing what you want - is somehow what you wanted. Fuck that.\n\nPut off what you want now, but keep that as your motivation to stack assets and investments so when you are 40, your income is not tied to your job.\n\n(I am \"wealthy\" now. I am in the top 6% of earners in the country via my JOB. That is not success. That is a means to success. Success is what you stated above; \"If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better.\" Success is the ability to self actualize. To do what you want, not what you have to. I can do that through debt now, and being afraid to lose my job every day, or I can do that in 10 or 20 years through passive income. It is much easier to achieve that transition at 24, and by focusing on WHY you want the money than it is at 40 when you are tied down with a 30 year mortgage, a boat, a car, cr",
"I struggle with this myself.\n\nI have always owned my own business or have been self employed. In terms of finance, I have been quite 'successful'.\n\n\nThe problem is, I am time bankrupt. My wife is amazingly supportive, more than she should be to be honest, but we hardly get time to hang out at the moment. I am growing another new business that has exploded and I work now from morning to about 3-4 am every day.\n\n\nMy friends and family think I'm crazy successful, but I don't think so. Success, to me, is measured by time. \n\n\nHow much time do you have? That is your most precious currency. If you ca. Get by without busting your ass and have time to pursue your hobbies and your dreams, spend time with your friends and family, and have some time alone to your self... You have won at life.",
"I started measuring success not in money but in things like ski days, nights spent in my tent, miles on my mountain bike, etc. It's easy to get caught up in the race for promotions and accolades at work and ultimately become defined by one's profession. \n\nAbout 8 years ago I made a pretty conscience decision to work to live instead of fighting up the corporate ladder, and it's made all the difference. My career now gives me the chance to do so many things I love to do, both for work and with a lot of free time. What good is money if you can't spend it? People make a lot more than me and spend 80-100 hours a week in the office, you can't pay me enough to play that game. I'm not saying I don't have huge weeks of work, but they're few and far between and I like what I do enough to deal with the occasional mega-week/push to wrap a project. \n\nJust look for something you want to do, or if you know it, make that a priority, books read, live shows, countries visited, lives touched, if you stop trying to define your self worth by a paycheck or a career, I find it's a lot easier to find contentment in life. I understand it's not \"the paycheck\" per se, but you'd be surprised what you can do on a modest salary if you just stop playing the rat race.",
"I learned to brew beer. I can make some damn good beer now. Occasionally I go solo backpacking. My first trip into the mountains was a huge personal step; Being alone on a mountain alone for a few days. Going fishing. Learned to make cheese. Built a coop and put chickens in it. Started gardening and growing alot of my own vegetables. Occasionally jumping in the car and driving somewhere. Went back to school and got a 2 year degree in the medical field and that brought job security. (Medical Lab tech) started drawing again. Then I met a great girlfriend and am selling my much larger house and am downsizing into her house. Our bills will be so much lower. Practically nothing. I'm leaving the nice neighborhood, going I to the flu try and going to live a more some life away from everyone. ",
"I have a theory that the best way to never be self conscious of anything is to stop attaching your identity to silly things like money, looks, etc. This means you should stop judging people based on these superficial qualities, and you will eventually extend that liberty to yourself. The reason people feel inadequate with their possessions is because society is convincing us that people are worth less or more based on money. If you believe that, then you will always have a false sense of superiority or inferiority to other people. If you train your mind to stop judging people (in a good or bad way) based on wealth, then you will stop basing your worth on a flawed ideology. This really applies to anything- looks, intelligence, money, dick size, etc.",
"I don't think of self worth in those terms anymore, really. I went to a m",
"I do the same as you. I hear about people making 60k+ a year (probably isn't much but it's double what I make) and it just makes me feel like I'm nothing and won't ever be anything. Then I see my creative friends (artists, actors, musicians) actually progressing and moving closer to their goal while I'm stuck answering a phone all day without the ability to even move up there because I'm excessively late no matter how much I try. I want so hard to be successful but don't even know what I want to do since I don't excel in anything. ",
"I absolutely understand this. For a long time I measured myself in regards to my family. Everyone in my family has been or is currently immensely successful. My father was a CEO, my mother got her doctorate. Both sisters worked in hedge funds and one is now a psychiatrist. They all went to ivy league colleges etc. I was never like that, I was always very agitated in school and in an office. I felt overwhelmed and paralyzed by what was seemingly expected of me. So for a long time I self medicated and had a real problem with alcoholism. It was only a few years ago that I sobered up and really dived into the one thing that has held my interest. Cooking. I went to the CIA got a minimum wage job at a high end restaurant and busted my ass for two years. I made nothing, and wasn't on the road to becoming some massive success but I was happy. I measured my self worth by the amount of effort I put into my passion every day. I was sober, got in shape, and working as hard as anyone I know. Only a few months ago when I went home to my family between jobs, \"I moved,\" did I express all of this to my family. My mother teared up and just told me that everyone is just happy that I am doing what I love and really that's all that matters. It's not about what you don't have man, it's about setting a goal for what you really want. Deep down, past all the bullshit excuses and fear there's something that makes you brighten as a person. Find it, and do it, every day, especially on the days when you don't want to and it sucks and you can't wait for it to be over. I make just enough money to get by, but I've never been more free, because passion in life is freedom. I hope you can find something in yourself because without that life is just a steady march downhill. Best wishes amigo. ",
"HOLD ON - Who says you shouldn't? \n\nIf you don't feel successful than you have two options: You can either ask for permission to fall far short of what you're capable of or you can accept your current lot in life as proof-positive that you're doing some things wrong.\n\nTake it from me - DO NOT LISTEN to people that tell you it's okay to settle in life. By doing so, you are failing your future self, your loved ones, and all those people you could be helping. \n\nSurround yourself with winners and be weary of individuals willing to cosign your BS. I'd suggest joining professional social groups local to you, linking with successful friends from HS on social media sites, and using your family's network to befriend high achievers. \n\nThe freedom money gives you is bliss. Period. My father retired at 49 and is continuously mortified by the plight of his poor peers who were unable to achieve the same success. My older brother is CEO of a multinational cr",
"Get skills! Your goal in life shouldn't be to just accrue money and physical objects. It should be to learn, explore, grow, make friends, have experiences, love, and overall make a positive impact.\n\nHaving a valuable skill set will make you feel worthy. Think of it this way, when you are extremely valuable as a human being because of your skills (whatever they are), then you won't care how much is in the bank because you know you can always sharpen your skills to get you more. But make them good skills for humanity. None of this banking, insurance or entertainment bullshit. Be someone who can forward humanity in a good way. Things like healthcare, technology, engineering, education, science, math, construction...etc. \n\nOh and stay off social media. That shit is a breeding ground for depression. It's also a huge waste of time that's better spent doing the things I previously mentioned. So many people do stupid things just so they can brag about it online. Dont be like these people and dont support them by liking, subscribing, following, pinning, tweeting, hashing etc etc.",
"Get off Facebook. Seriously, comparing where you are in life with people around you is a quick way to start feeling like you're missing things.",
"Focus on the quality of your own experience and how much you can enhance the experience of others. And remind yourself that even successful people spemd 90% pf the time not knowing what the fuck they're doing. Anyone who thinks otherwise is just doing mental gymnastics to avoid thinking about it.\n\nIn the words of Morty \n\n\"Nobody exists on purpose, nobody belongs anywhere, we're all gonna die. Now let's go watch tv.\"",
"Find meaning in your life. You can have all the money in the world, and your life can still lack purpose. \n\n\"He who has a Why to live for can bear almost and How.\"\n\nIf you enjoy reading, go pick up a copy of The Meaning of Life by Viktor Frankl. It's 164 pages of life altering ways to think. I highly suggest it. It changed how I deal with things in my every day every life.\n\nIt is every persons own responsibility to choose the way in which he bears his burden.",
"Easy : Give me your money and I'll tell you how worthwhile you are.\n\n^^Terms ^^and ^^conditions ^^apply.",
"Ambitious entrepreneur here.\n\nHere is nothing wrong with success and money, but let them be side effects of your ultimate goals.\n\nFor me, I want to be a leader of men. I want to leave my mark on the world and be remembered by many. I want to be intelligent in the business and political realms.\n\nI have short, medium and long term goals laid out to help me attain my ultimate goals.\n\nI've attained a good deal of success and money for someone my age, but I was extremely happy with who I was when I was broke and grinding.\n\nIn short, figure out what you want from life. Let your steps towards achieving those goals define you.",
">If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better.\n\nThis is what everyone thinks. None of those things will *make* you happy, you'll just be an unhappy person with a bunch of stuff. Figure out how to be happy now. Find enjoyment in life, improve yourself, set goals.",
"\"*Whenever you feel superior or inferior to anyone, that's the ego in you.*\" ~ Eckhart Tolle\n\nI suggest you do some reading. Your library is a treasure trove of information and insight. You are not the first person to feel like this, so find someone who writes in a way that strikes a chord with you and take a step towards personal growth. You've barely scratched the surface.\n\nLearning about yourself is like being an explorer and discovering a new land. It is fascinating!\n\n\nBooks/authors that resonate with me are:\n\n*Power of Now* or *A New Earth* by Eckhart Tolle\n\n*Broken Open - How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow* by Elizabeth Lesser\n\n*The Untethered Soul - The Journey Beyond Yourself* by Michael A. Singer\n\nGood luck.\n\n",
"money doesn't grant you freedom. Knowledge and skills and experience do. Money is the illusion that you are free if you have money. ",
"https://youtu.be/IV6tZEj4yY0\n\nThis video really says a lot. Life takes time and most successes dont happen over night. Keep.working hard and dont give up.",
"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f5jaq3NyYPw\n\n\"It's not what you have that makes you happy, it's who you become.\" ~ Tony Robbins",
"http://m.imgur.com/gallery/apwcHq5 this helps me a lot when I'm feeling like you. Easier said than done but try to recognize that you are laying the foundation for your life. When looking at a house nobody gives worth or cr",
"also im curious , what made you think youd have money and be a success at age 24? Maybe you had some heavily unrealistic expectations based on what you hoped. This is a problem in today's society we make kids think everything is a bed of roses then they aren't prepared for life's harsher lessons.",
"Your self worth is intrinsic. Has nothing to do with anything you've done, or owned. It really is that simple.",
"Your self worth falls to what you value. Success or money isn't necessarily bad to measure your worth by, it matters as to WHY you use that as a measure. If you value production or ability that happens to correlate with money or success then it's not particularly a bad measure, but you'd realize it's not specifically the exact measure itself. But if it's just a number of money that you use to measure, outside of any association of how or why you got it, then that's just arbitrary and probably not good for your real worth.\n\n\nLong ago when I became successful and wealthy, there was a brief moment where I'd be excited to see my money grow or gain prominence in my field. But I already had a grasp of the values and virtues I held, and quickly realized those werent exactly very exciting to me just by themselves. Some people measure that stuff against OTHERS, though, which IMO is a really horrible and bankrupt way to live. My values were work, production, practicing and honing my talents, etc. How others measure up to me in ANY way means nothing to me, other than actually hoping to find those better than me so I can use them to learn more (as opposed to envy, which most culture today pushes you to think when you see someone better or better off than you).",
"Your post strikes a chord with me and seem like a super nice person. For what it's worth I had the same feelings a number of years ago. I graduated college and went into a family business where I made a lot of money. Thing was... I wasn't happy. Left it all and started from scratch by moving to a new town and getting a masters degree.\n\nDuring that time I had no money and felt much the same way you do. But guess what... I finished my degree, met the love of my life and found a great group of friends. Now I do something I love and make more than I did before. However, my happiness is not driven by how much I make but rather who I am, who I love and who loves me. At the end of it all that's all that matters. \n\nFind something you love (work OR hobby) and someone you love and you will be just fine my friend.",
"You were expecting to be successful at 24?\n\nEither you had unreasonable expectations for a 24 year old, or a really trivial definition of \"success.\" \n\nYou have been in the workforce for all of 3 years? you will succeed and fail at many things in the future. \n\nMost people are more worried about paying off school debt than buying nice cars at 24. ",
"You simply have to realize that a broken and immoral society is the thing that makes you feel this way. They judge a man shallowly on his outward appearance, not on his internal character and self worth as a fellow man. Once you begin to realize that our worth is made up of the latter, only then will you find true happiness and contentment. \n\nThis was kind of prophesied to happen. \n\n**1 Samuel 16:7** \"But the LORD said to Samuel, \"Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.\"\n\n**Luke 16:15** \"He said to them, \"You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of others, but God knows your hearts. What people value highly is detestable in God's sight.\"\n\nThere is never freedom in money because you will always run out of it and want more of it. One should never tie their happiness to something that is finite, temporary, and disposable.",
"You should realize that you put these blocks up do to the previous generations experience isn't measured the same way as yours are, 24 years old today is infinitely different as other 24 year olds before you. Not to mention the fact that the media portrays people younger than you as having their shit together and usually characters in their early 20s are portrayed as having their shit together too when that's just totally unrealistic. ",
"You should look into minimalism! I got into it a few months ago and it's helped me with a similar problem. I still have things, but they don't define me. ",
"You have to find your calling in life, and work towards that goal. \n\nFor me, everything changed when my daughter was born. I finally figured out the meaning of life, and everything changed. ",
"You have more time to work from 35 to retirement than you do from 18 to 35. This fact put a lot into perspective for me. \n\nWhatever you do, do it well: your only focus should be to be so good people can't ignore you. \n\nI started out as a temporary employee doing data entry for a startup. I am now the Senior Manger of Operations. Anyone could have made the progression I made, but I decided it would be me. That I would put in whatever was necessary to be noticed, to make an impact and to move up. \n\nI've done this in less than four years and so can you. ",
"You can also be proud of what you have done. I wouldn't go overboard either (or you'll become a workaholic) but it's also something to keep in mind.",
"Worth can't be defined by what you have or what you can do. You ha e to accept that you probably believe all people have value intrinsically. It's only fair to extend that same belief about everyone having value to yourself. ",
"Why, so that you can see yourself as the best? I value myself mostly based on how smart I am, and I've met people smarter than me. Its shitty, but thats just life",
"Where you are right now compared to your dreams doesn't matter. What matters is where you are right now compared to yesterday. If you aren't happy with your progress thus far do something about it. No money in savings? Start saving. Check your progress in a year and ask yourself what you could have done better and make some changes.",
"When you grow older and people ask for stories about your life what do you think will be more interesting to them -- how easy life was leading to your super ultra successful rich self or how many obstacles you overcame to get to where you are? We are measured by a lot more than just our bank accounts and level of \"success.",
"When I was younger I aspired to be rich and successful. As I got older I fortunately was able to acquire wealth and have a pretty successful career. I am surrounded by people who are even more successful and ultra rich. I realized two things: 1) there is always someone richer and more successful than me 2) I did not envy those people.\n\n\nNow my aspirations are focused around building meaningful relationships. I try to be the best father, husband, brother, son, and friend. It is a greater challenge with greater Reward.",
"What you have, not who you are is the value system we can get caught up in, American capitalism? My feeling is that no matter what you have you can allow yourself to feel like it isn't enough. There is always a more expensive whatever than what we have. Short of being a billionaire there is always an upgrade from our current possessions, be happy with what you have. If you feel judged by others because of what you have (or don't have) you are going to buy into \"if had x I would be happy, or worse yet I would have the approval of so and so. It's all bullshit. Feel good about who you are and what you bring to the table for other people that's what it's all about imo.",
"What you are describing is a belief. Beliefs have strengths: depending on how long you've had it and how much energy you give to it. Many times we have multiple belefs relating to a central tenant ( self worth)\n\nRather than trying to get rid of this belief, start adding new ones.\n\nDeveloping a new belief can be done in many ways. However, the intensity of the belief adding activity corresponds to how many \"belief points\" you add\n\nIf you are afraid of spoders yet you successfully experience (in a positive manner) being in a tub filled with tarantulas, your belief will be more strongly affected than if you simply look at a picture of a spider for a while.\n\nTry adding the belief that all humans have worth. You are a human. Therefore, you have worth. Completely disconnected from any status or quantifiable factor \nHope this helps ",
"Well, you could always stop measuring. It's my personal opinion that the goal of being a human is to add to humanity. If you've ever done that, even just once, you've made it. Mission accomplished, you've measured up. Now you can stop worrying about measuring up and start living a life that has the meaning you want. It is your life after all. ",
"Well, here's the thing: self worth isn't just about dollars, it's also about intangibles such as ethics, honour and potential. \n\nAt age 24 it's nice to have assets but friends are important too. At slightly more than double your age my personal self worth spreadsheet is an aggregate of skills, experiences, friend network and physical assets. The value of each of these can vary wildly with circumstances, so I think it's a good practice to diversify the portfolio, this enriches your life and helps protect you in case of a downturn. ",
"Well, I'm sure I'm just a voice among many, but I started making film around your age, quit it to support my girlfriend, quit her, quit that job, got back into film at 28, and now I work full time doing the job I love in a great office. A lot can happen in a very short period of time if you work your ass off. I never thought I'd get here, but I did. If I can, you can. ",
"Well, I'd start by trying to figure out what kind of person you *do* want to be. What do you value? Family? Friends? Would you like to be responsible? Compassionate? Loyal? Diligent? It takes considerable thought to work this out, but try to think of what the kind of person you'd *want* to be would be like, and frame this in terms of personality and attitude, rather than possessions and circumstances (because the latter aren't really about the person).\n\nOnce you've got some sort of ideal of who you want to be, you have something to work towards. Now the goal is to start laying down concrete things you can do to be more like that. \n\nMaybe that means getting out more and meeting people, or maybe that involves spending some time each day in m",
"Well you gotta have money to get into hobbies and all that. And you can say you don't need money, but you do. If you are broke like me there is no chance for learning hobbies because all money goes to food/bills",
"Welcome to your mid-20s. Suddenly people are graduating and getting jobs and in the blink of an eye all your highschool and college friends morph into adults. Suddenly everybody is judged by their financial and career success, and not having these things is seen as immature. Suddenly you're on the wrong side of social expectations, and you start to internalise it and feel worthless.\n\nWere all primitive, social animals just below the surface. We don't want to be outsiders. We don't want to feel like our tribe has moved on and left us behind. In your mid-20s it can feel like that is exactly what is happening. \n\nThe thing to remember is that everybody feels like that. The people who you see as successful probably look to others who are more successful than them and feel the same. There are probably people who wish they had your life too. You need to stop separating people into the categories: \"people who have made it\" and \"people who haven't made it\". Life isn't that simple anymore. For the first time in your life, everyone you know is on their own, unique path. In school and college everyone moves together along the same path. In your mid-20s, that ends. You have to stop thinking of life as a linear journey everybody takes together. Nobody is ahead of you on your path. You're all moving apart laterally. \n\nFrom now on, you need to measure your own progress with your own metrics. That doesn't mean you should always be happy with where you are, it means you should be focussed on where you *want to be*, not where you *should be*.\n\n",
"Volunteer at a hospice or shelter for battered or abused children. Meaningful volunteer work. Commitment on a weeks or month level. \n\nThrow out your television. \n\nBe of service to others that are in serious need. This will make you more human and more grateful for everything. Getting rid of television will keep you human.\n\n",
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"Try asking the question again AFTER you've had an actual taste of \"success or money\". \n\nPerhaps once you've finally reached it you'll realize it's not all that great and pick up bobsledding instead.\n\nOr maybe you'll love the \"success or money\" and keep doing that where-ever it may take you.",
"Travelling and backpacking made me stop doing it. When I was able to hang out with complete strangers from all over the world. They allow you to get some perspective on how much fun a person can have and enjoy life without much possession.",
"Today we may be very happy, and tomorrow we will not now what will happen to us. When we are ready for tomorrow we can enjoy today.",
"This is going to sound kind of yuppie, and I would have thought it was a few years back, but m",
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"There is nothing wrong with measuring yourself by your success. Remember, you get to decide what you want to succeed in. Don't make the mistake of defining yourself by your failures or mistakes ; There is no such thing as a perfect person! Money, on the other hand - as long as you have enough to put a roof over your head, eat, and do what you enjoy, you're good.",
"There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” \n\n― Ernest Hemingway \n\n“If you want to know what God thinks of money, just look at the people he gave it to.” \n― Dorothy Parker \n",
"The timing worked out a bit better for me. I got a good promotion. Met a great woman. She had a great job. A house. Nice vehicles. Golf whenever. Yeah, the glam, right?\n\nI am probably at my lowest right now because I feel like I'm stuck. \"I love this girl but I hate this area.\" - \"I hate this job, but the money is better than I can ever hope for with my education.\"\n\nPeople think I've done something with myself. When, I really haven't. There's so much more I want to do, but it pays less and I've restricted myself from going for it for that. It's also a shitty spot to be in, in a way. Luckily my gal supports me and wants me to go after whatever I want, even if it means taking a $40,000/yr pay cut. Until I make that decision I just keep doing something that makes me feel good every day.\n\nBreak a sweat; Build something; Plant a flower; Get a headshot in CS:GO against that little 14yr old shit that said he fucked my mum",
"The skills you have and how generally happy you are. More skills and certifued skills mean that you can do so much more in life.",
"The key is to spend time with people who do not judge themselves by how much money they have. Find people who judge a person's worth by how they treat other people, how caring they are, etc. Their values will rub off on you in a way that you to form feelings and values that you could never self-manufacture.",
"The fact is you don't need to measure your self worth, people's lives are so complex that its impossible to quantify every aspect of your life and draw valid conclusions, how do you compare having amazing lief experiences like travelling the world to earning a degree, making money or having a wonderful family? \n\nThe key is not getting into situations were you measure yourself against others, because none of the conclusions you reach will really mean anything.",
"The day you die, no one will talk joyously about how much money you made. Or how good you were at it. Only who you made happy. Imagine tomorrow the bombs dropped. Material possessions and money would be worthless. your real wealth is based on relationships. ",
"That's an easy one. Make money or surround yourself with people who make a lot of money.\n\nYou'll pretty quickly find that making money is just like a magic trick. A lot of things have to happen behind the scenes in order for it to take place. Sometimes the only difference between you & a magician is that you feel it's a complete waste of your life to spend endless hours flicking a card just right so that it ends in a given position. The same goes with making money. \n\nI spend a lot of time around startups and entrepreneurs. While there is a lot that I do appreciate; the bullshit, whitewashing, dishonesty & overall slavedriver mentality is upsetting. After looking behind the curtain, it's hard to see these entrepreneurs as 'rock stars' while seeing their overworked & underappreciated employees as 'lazy'.",
"Suggestion: surround yourself with people who don't measure their own worth that way. Make sure they're people you respect for other reasons. It's best if you like them. Spend more time with them than with people who model caring a lot about money and material things.\n\nIn my own life, much as I'd love to say that I decide who I am, independent of others, I've found that my social environment has a very strong effect. So make your social environment work for you, not against you. ",
"Stumbling on happiness by Daniel Gilbert is a good read. Probably a great read for anyone in your situation.",
"Stop comparing yourself to others. My father gave me a poem that I keep in my office. It's called Desiderata by Max Ehrmann, 1927. It is a good source of inspiration for me.",
"Step 1) Be aware of your behaviors\nStep 2) Reflect on them (how do I feel, think, after I was measuring my self worth based on money)\nStep 3) Keep what you want, change what you don't\nStep 4) Repeat daily",
"Start reading. Go to the library and start reading books. Put things in your head. You'll make your world larger and for free you'll begin to possess something very few people have and nobody can buy. You can also rent audiobooks from most libraries, which turns driving time and chore time into reading time. Suddenly you're cleaning your apartment and crappy car and your entire environment is better. Heck, maybe you're even cooking. Now you're treating yourself well. Which is what makes all the difference.",
"Speaking as someone who makes more money than everyone I went to college with as far as I'm aware, money isn't going to help your self worth. From what I've seen, people that have internal issues with self esteem tend to think along the lines of \"if only I could do this one thing or this other thing I'd feel accomplished and worthy\". But that kind of thinking ends up in disappointment because if you actually get what you want it's almost near as good as you thought it would be. I suppose unless you're talking about \"fuck you\" money where you can literally not work ever again and do whatever you want forever...that I can't speak about, maybe that level of freedom is worth it. Kinda doubt it though",
"Sounds to me like a reference problem. You are influenced by a society that portrays a certain lifestyle as the best or happy. I can't be 100% sure but it sounds like your problem is that you don't feel you are getting the experience that you want.\n\nEither change the referencing you are doing (comparing yourself to something you're not in a \"I should be this way\" is generally not good for immediate happiness) or change the quantity or quality of the effort you are placing into the direction that makes you happy. (clearly what you're doing isn't working so either work harder at it or work smarter at making the money. Also part of figured out what you need to change is part of the effort towards this direction, so don't just replace work with research to make more money, add the research). ",
"Someone told me once that self esteem comes from doing esteemable acts. Whenever I get out of my head and go help someone, I feel hundreds of times better. ",
"Self-worth is based on what you deem worthy. If money is all you value your life is the sum of paper.",
"Self worth doesn't come from what you can do for yourself it comes from what you can do for others, be selfless in all that you do, be honest with all that you say and be understanding in all that you hear, people that posses those traits or qualities are the people that have made the biggest impact on my life and you will always be remembers and valued for that",
"Self esteem comes from the inside not from the outside. Start watching the MIT open courses and gain some more knowledge for the heck of it http://ocw.mit.edu/index.htm . Ive run out of shit to buy that i can show off to shallow people. And if you want to buy a fun ca buy a stick shift entry level honda civic. You wont be neurotic about the car and its a drivers car for sure. And try to become friends with positive people or be charitable instead of obssesing about yourself. Exersice is always good for health and self worth. ",
"Same here, actually in worst position. I am a student at local college, it took me 10 years to finish my degree because I had to change majors 3 times for financial reasons. But, it was worth it I guess since I know a lot about 3 different fields now. I do not even have car, I walk or take bus since I live in the downtown. I live with five roommates to afford rent and food. I had a part time job, just got let go from that without any reason. I cannot find a job in my field(ChemE) right now because of the lower price of petroleum. And I do not have much savings while all of my friends are earning 70-90K salaries. But on the bright side I find fun and interest in little things, finishing small tasks or personal goals keep me going. I do one thing different everyday even though it's a small thing like eating with hand, cook something different, drink green tea instead of coffee in the morning, buy food for stranger, reading a whole Wikipedia page , watch Ted talks on the subject that I have no interest or wearing both different color sock. Those simple and silly things keeps me going. I know that happiness doesn't come with money, it comes from within you just have to find it. So, do little things that make you happy. \n\nOh and one huge thing that consider yourself luckier with whatever you have because there are more than a billion people in the world who lives in the war zone or lives in poverty that they go to sleep hungry. We have way more facilities then them. ",
"Realize that if you judge your self worth through money you will never actually be happy. Even when you have money you'll never stop comparing yourself to others and thinking what you could have. \n\nTrust me, I'm your age and make a lot of money and felt an immediate blow to my ego when I found out that many of my friends (who work at the same company) all got huge raises and now make 30-40k more than I do (we made close to the same amount before). \n\nThere will always be people who make more than you and are more successful than you in various ways. But there are also things that are unique to you and make you stand out from them. And you still have plenty of time to blow everyone out of the water once you figure out what that thing is for you. ",
"Read about Tesla or these artists http://m.mentalfloss.com/article.php?id=28010 , many of whom died penniless and unknown having few to no successes while living. The tragedy of many listed in the above-mentioned article, was that they too saw their self worth measured in funds and fame.",
"Practice. Find reasons for self worth and practice those. You will see them if you look for them. Tell yourself positive reasons why you are successful. We can easily find reasons why we're not and tell ourselves that. Its OK to not know what you are doing. You've only just started adulthood, but stop seeing life as \"somewhere you have to get to\" and start seeing yourself as already arrived and if there is THING you want to achieve then go after it. Like this, instead of going after an idea of being more self-positive have a more concrete goal you can achieve like for example \" I'm going to say to myself each morning when I'm in front of a mirror a reason I'm successful\"\n\nBut on the other side ride the waves of self doubt, don't fight them, let them pass like clouds, look at them, detach, and analyse. Its good to be self reflective, turn in to a positive thing.\n\nBut yeah, practice.",
"Practice telling yourself everything you are good at, while you are smiling in the mirror, every day. If you can't think of something to say, just try smiling or laughing about something. There was a study a while back about how people smiling in the mirror like 20 min a day, approx, was more effective at treating depression than any prescription drug (some of which I was being prescribed, BTW)\n\nI just tell myself all the ways I'm lucky. It really works, but it took a while for the CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) to kick in where it happens automatically. I first noticed it when I was delivering a pizza and the guy gave me a $0.10 tip, but my mind instantly thought of all the ways in which I'm lucky and should be happy. Background: I wasn't full-time employed, had no s/o, live w/parents after finishing college. BUT, my mind went right to: \"I'm lucky I don't have to worry about food, shelter, rent, tonight. I'm healthy, I am lucky to be driving my own car, listening to my own music and live in a nice place I couldn't afford with my family who cares enough to allow me to move back in\". A while after that, my self-esteem grew by volunteering at a science museum and being recognized for my hard work and charisma, so that gave me the boost to be more confident in a real job interview. Fast forward a few years and I've been happy to have learned the lesson that changed my outlook on life and I've matured considerably. Good luck to you, OP",
"Pick a professional or hobby goal in life and start working toward that goal. \n\n\nVolunteer at a charity of your choice on a regular basis. \n\n\nGive blood. \n\n\n\nRead to kids. \n\n\n\n\nBe a big brother/big sister. \n\n\n\nRead a newspaper once a week. \n\n\nSubscribe to a magazine and read it. \n\n\n\n",
"Perhaps take a gap year, teach english as a second language, or take a working vacation...lots of countries will give you a working vacation visa for a year if you are younger than 30, and you will learn how truly varied 'success' is, and just how much satisfaction can be found by those with so little, or living in vastly different lifestyles.",
"People are usually considered to be worthwhile by their utility, but for any respectable person it's about integrity. For example...\n\nRemember Trump is part of the 1%, compared to that of Sanders and his wife, whom make a combined total of ~$200K per year. I don't mean for it to be political, just relevant. One is in support of war crimes, such as torture, while the other actively fought against segregation alongside MLK Jr, as is public knowledge. \n\nSome of history's most incredible people were poor and outright social outcasts, and because some of them lacked their own sense of self worth or faith in the world we lost them all too soon, whether it be Van Gogh or Kurt Cobain. Money is a means of survival, but what's it worth if you don't kick each day's ass and live fully? Find your passion, and as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else, go for it. You're not a Ferengi, you're human, and the thing is about humans is that nothing is impossible for us until we stop trying to make it possible, so don't stop focusing on what really matters.",
"Part of your problem is miscalculating the age at which you think you should feel like an adult. 24 is nothing. \n\nI'm 33 and I always imagined I'd have a family and kids and shit by now. Nope... Nevertheless, I'm doing perfectly fine, not worried about it at all. I'm just saying that these days, nobody has their lives and careers fully organized by their mid 20s.\n\n",
"Orient yourself with who you are now and what you're experiencing. You keep looking forward with ambition and when you can meet your expectations, you feel as though you're failing yourself... yourself who you expect yourself to become. \n\nYou are who you are now. Take a moment to feel what the wind feels like on your face or slow down eating and taste the food... experience the texture and flavor... listen to music, but not just to put something on, feel what the singer is saying or ride the waves of the instruments. \n\nLife is happening now and something out there wants to bring you down by making you believe you haven't reached some potential you keep seeking but never finding. You are here now... not tomorrow... now. \n\nDoes this make sense? ",
"One other thing, that I haven't seen mentioned yet, is that you must adopt a paradigm shift in your thinking. If you tie your self worth to money, then it is likely that you also tie other people's worth to the amount of money they have.\n\nDo you respect the millionaire businessman more than the local waitress? Why? Because of his higher net worth? If so, then you are going to have a very difficult time untying your own self worth from your bank account. Your ego has given you a pass for most of your life because, how can you generate wealth while you're in highschool or college? But now that you are of an age where some of your peers are making a ton of money, your lifetime of perceptions are coming back to haunt you.\n\nWe are all just people, in this world for a disconcertingly short amount of time. Each of us making our way as best we can. There is no inherent greater worth to a person just because he/she has more money.\n\nNow, if you're going to respect people for anything, it should be for other things -- talent, hard work, honesty, integrity, decency, etc... those are all things that are worthy of respect. If you are able to do this, you will then have an easier time judging your own self worth by the same criteria ... which you should, IMO.",
"OP I would STRONGLY recommend you read some of Srikumar S. Rao's work. A good start is... http://www.amazon.com/Unconventional-Strategies-Achieving-Personal-Business/dp/1401301932",
"My question is who put it in your mind that you would be set by 24 years old? Most are in entry level jobs out of college with loads of debt. ",
"My mom died when I was just a teen. Her best friend gave a book on near death experiences. Recently I've found a bunch in you tube. When you watch a bunch of these, you begin to see what's really important is how you treat other ppl. What you do to help them too. It goes back to basics in life. If you take a few minutes to watch one called \" experience in the light and visions of the future\" or dr Mary Neal, orthopedic surgeon, ( exact title I think has ortho. Surgeon first . She's in a green dress in the video) or \" present! The near death experience \" an older French lady who is told her son would die. ( Same w dr Neal ). You'll see the true value of our lives here. If you watch these and enjoyed them, I know of several others which are really good. They alter your perspective on life. ",
"My friend makes 6 figures and is fucking miserable. 10 years ago before I was established in my life, he was making this cash and I made about a third of his salary. He often commented about how happy I was and at peace with myself. \nLong story short, money drove him early in life and still does. He'll never let it go even though he hates his career. As the gentleman said above, i was learning to do new things, fishing, cooking, independence. I was extremely at peace with myself and very confident. Still am but now have a family and all my money goes happily towards them.\n",
"My favorite quote in the world by Thoreau:\n\n\"A man is rich in proportion to what he can afford to live without.\"\n\nMeaning... wealth comes from inside you. Wealth of character, family, love, appreciation of nature and beauty, appreciation of what you have as being way more than what many others have.\n\nI am Rich because my name is Rich. I am also rich because I don't need a yacht, $500 bottles of champagne, a mansion, 20 cars, etc. I'm rich because I have a loving family, my health, a steady job, and don't live in a third world country - although they can be rich too, it just takes a bit more existentialism.",
"Most success and money comes straight from the Great God Luck (metaphor). It correlates little with intelligence, hard work, or important things like kindness.",
"Most of these answers are guiding you to consider yourself and your worth differently. I would recommend considering yourself less. When you catch yourself beginning to measure your own value, use that as a trigger to consider others, think about what you could do or give or say to someone around you who could use something.\n\nYou will become more full by emptying yourself, than you ever would be by constantly trying to measure how full you are.",
"Meet, and become friends with, skilled trades people who don't earn six figures but are interesting and engaging. If the only people you hang with are riding the money train you'll be on it yourself. Most of the people I went to college with are in that category. My job puts me in a position to get to know people who didn't go to college. They are, on average, no less intelligent or driven than the people I went to school with, and certainly plenty live for money. But most seem to be far more grounded and find fulfillment in things that ultimately matter way more than money- they coach kids baseball or fish or garden, etc., etc. I realize I'm painting them to be some kind of Noble Savage, but I apologize if it sounds that way. One guy I know does auto upholstery for a living, but he also is a volunteer EMT and an amazing golfer. His perspectives are so well considered and he is probably the smartest man I know. He isn't rich by any means, but his job doesn't even allow for him to try to get rich. He's smart with money and will retire comfortably. He's happy, kind, and thoughtful. He rightfully thinks that many of his customers- the ones with the Audis and BMWs are out of their minds for spending money the way they do to keep up appearances. Hanging with him always makes me feel better. He is the personification of modesty and moderation when it comes to money. As long as his needs are met, money just isn't a concern. You set your own priorities, but the Joneses you surround yourself with are the ones you're going to try to keep up with. He's a great Jones.",
"Measuring self worth is about really determining what you find value in inherently.\n\nPart of this, I think is important, is also defining success for yourself. The amount of money a person makes is rarely how happy and pleased people define success. They usually define it in skills, hobbies, relationships and friendships, religion, etc.",
"Measure life in experiences. You will find that you look at everything differently. Start with something like camping skills. Making rudimentary shelter, a fire, providing and cooking your own food, that stuff is very rewarding and connects you to some instinctual stuff inside. Feelings like that money cannot buy. \n\nGetting hooked on the \"things money can't buy\" feeling is very open ended, and is fueled by brutal honesty. There is no end game, it becomes a state of being. Some call it \"living in the moment\" or \"mindfulness\". When you feel it you will know, and want nothing else. ",
"Measure it in fuel units. The more fuel units you have, the more fueled you are. \n\nFuel units can be anything. Be it things you know how to do, people who you're friends with, whatever. \n\nMore fuel units. ",
"Lots of good advice here...mine would be to find your life's work and commit yourself to it. A commitment to excellence will cause everything to follow, money and recognition. Do something that you enjoy and devote yourself to it-- money is a byproduct!",
"Lol, you're 24? Welcome to the big leagues, champ. You have to think in terms of long-term building, and delayed gratification. Sure, there will be indulgences and fun here and there, but being able to afford the house it sounds like you want requires slow, steady, discipline. Try to set aside your ideas of material success, and think about what makes you truly happy.\n\nI had a lot of friends who either chose careers with high starting salaries, or they had family money, or whatever, so that at 24 they seemed so far ahead of me. Well, 10 years later, I caught up, and some of them stalled out or worse. But more importantly for me, I managed to find a career where I can be self-employed and set my own hours. I might be giving up some income, but I control my time.",
"Learning how to do shit with less or no money has helped me. I dumpster dive my food(sounds gross, actually legit and cleaner than you think), bike to work, live in a very small place with minimal stuff, take quick cold showers, taking weekend car adventures where ill sleep in my car, and rarely eat out.\n\nAll this put my monetary worth into perspective. Ya, I wish I made more money, but I am more than capable of having fun and enjoying life with next to no money. Ive been doing it for years now. Just gotta learn to be ok with some discomfort here and there.\n\n\nAn old vagabond told me once, \"Comfort is overrated. If you're comfortable, then you're not living to your fullest\"\n\n",
"Just so you know the vast majority of people aren't successful by 24. I think it took me until 24 or so to start making 60k and almost another 10 years to break 100k. And I got way luckier than most. And only just recently did I buy a house, no way could I have really done that in my 20's.\n\nBut expecting to have your success by 24 is fairly nieve. 24 is probably the age where you first start to get your bearings.\n\nAs to answer your question, I think the easiest thing that'll help you is to realize those with money and material goods aren't really much happier than people who are able to just pay their bills on time.",
"Just because you feel like you've fallen behind doesn't mean you should change your goals. If you want to be FIRE (financially independent, retire early), then you have to work towards it. Check out https://www.reddit.com/r/financialindependence for some help.\n\nI hope you don't turn out to be one of those guys that fall behind and then change from a shark to a guppy. Rise to the challenge man! Do not subscribe to the notion of \"I'd rather have a job I'm passionate about instead of high pay\". Go for the high pay, hustle your ass off in your 20's and 30's and set up the rest of your life for easy living. ",
"Judge yourself on what you do. Choose to do things that add value to your life and the lives of others. The material rewards will probably come, but the satisfaction and sense of self worth is pretty immediate. ",
"It's so easy for everyone to say here that there's better things in life to worry about or other things to strive for but at the end of the day when you have so much student loan debt and cannot enjoy the \"finer things that money can't buy\" that all your friends can simply do and then some, then you start to desire more and more wealth and ways to make more money to get to that level as I do.\n\nI started to feel exactly how OP does and I have a similar paying job in an industry that always had demand. There's nothing wrong with wanting to have more money especially if it's to provide a spouse or children with a higher quality of living or even just to build up assets to eventually retire and enjoy your days. It's the balance in work and friends and family that's key and to have a strong drive to succeed. ",
"It's not always going to be easy to be happy, and if you rely on your circumstances to make you happy, it will only ever be temporary. Even if you have everything you want, you'll eventually find it isn't enough.\n\nMy suggestion is to take a moment at each change of scenery to actually *try* to find something, however small, that is beautiful about that place at that moment. The harder it is, the more important it is that you keep trying. Force yourself to see the world through a happier filter.",
"It's almost certainly not about the car.\n\nDefine your self worth by how you're doing compared to yourself yesterday, a week ago, a year ago, and a decade back. Stop comparing to others, because they didn't walk the path you did; everyone gets a different run at things.\n\nJudge yourself against yourself as you are, and not as you thought you might be. Give tomorrow - next week - next month - and next year - a shot at being a bit better, and hang in there.",
"It's about your relationships money stuff you all dies and goes away. Don't be remembered for being an asshole.",
"It sounds like you're having a quarter life crisis. When I turned 25, I was really depressed because I hadn't accomplished anything, my career wasn't taking off, shoot I wasn't even in my grad school yet. \n\nYou need to identify your support system and use them. Have hobbies that you dedicate time to. Create a card night with your friends once a week. Good luck. I hope you figure out how to be happy achieving your goals. ",
"It sounds a little bit like you're in my situation right now. I'm 21, supposed to be graduating university (had I gone straight from high school) but I took a fifth year, had a bad uear at uni and am only finishing my second year. I find myself comparing my attributes and my accomplishments based on those of the people the same age as me. \n\nThere's something that biopsychosocial health specialists call your \"personal schedule\" (personal clock, what have you). Basically what's being said is that everyone has their own personal schedule. They do their shit and succeed as they would, at whatever pace is optimal for that person. \n\nMany personal schedules are socially challenged. Like me, for example, watching my cohorts graduate university while I'm still stuck in second year. By 25, most people have had \"enough\" time to get a decent education (bachelors + masters), a good paying job in said field (I'm being optimistic with this part... or mostly assuming, I don't know) and maybe even meet their soulmate, get married and have a kid. \n\nThe norm of the timeline of a young adult says that that's what you should do, and you should do it before you're thirty. Society pressures you to do these things because it's the norm, it's what everyone should be doing. If you use these social pressures to evaluate your own personal schedule, there can be undue stress, which sounds a little like what you're experiencing. \n\nIt's really hard to not let these pressures get to you. But, for me, I just remember that piece of information from my health sciences class. It was a course in aging, so the lifecourse perspective was one that we used a lot. I imagine myself at 60 years old. It was something we did a lot in the class. I thought of how I would be in a research lab or a hospital doing my science thing, and I thought, \"60 year old me seems happy. Does it really matter if I was out of school by 25 or 30? If i end up doing what I love, the path to get there shouldn't matter.\"\n\nI hope my rant helps :)",
"It is very difficult to change your core values. Just keep working towards achieving those things that will truly make you proud of your accomplishments.\n",
"In the Jewish tradition, men are buried with a prayer shawl called a tallis, or tallit. My relatives used to say, \"A tallis doesn't have pockets,\" meaning that when you're dead and buried, you can't take your money with you.\n\nIt's a funny thing - we are all perfectly aware that the success and/or money we accumulate in life is entirely ephemeral and yet we carry on with our obsession with it. It's like a socially acceptable mass delusion.",
"Imagine how you'd do in the apocalypse, based on your self sufficiency skills. Like someone else said, your skills are like a toolset you always carry around with you no matter your social status or income. Also fitness and cooking ability. Also read books and other skills. Basically be as well rounded as possible and you'll stop thinking about material things",
"Im pretty much the same as you, maybe we need to get out there, do good for others, help people in need, might help us reevaluate our self worth.",
"If you aren't feeling like you are successful, you need to figure out what you want. I know people that don't feel successful, but they are doing nothing to accomplish their goal. If you have a job you want, start working towards it. \n\nAs for being poor, budget budget budget. If that means eating out once a month, that's what it means. You need to sit down, figure out your exact finances and bills so you know how much wiggle room you have a month. ",
"If it makes you feel better I have money in the bank and I have a very low sense of self worth. Money won't make that feel better. It needs to be something you find fulfilling. I have no idea how to find that.",
"I've been homeless, rich, locked up, and safe at home. I can't say what to do but don't expect anything. You can't know where you'll be tomorrow and you can't know what will happen. I went from a nice home to a lock up boarding school in 1 day because suddenly my parents didn't want kids. I went from there to 2 more schools and learned a whole other world of things. I worked 16-18 hour days without pay while in those schools and had to ask to go to the bathroom. I had no freedom. One day in the middle of the night the staff came in and said my parents stopped paying and they drove me to a nearby city by 8 am and dropped me off at a homeless shelter. Those are the most abrupt changes that ever happened in my life but just about everything else went as smoothly. \n\nMy first serious job, after a long series of McDonald's level cook jobs and lots of cycling in and out of homelessness resulted because I volunteered with a street outreach program who had everyone quit in a week. From there I got a little warning but the grant I was being employed by fell through and I had to move on so I went to school. I now work in a completely different city and am paid relatively well to be a Software Dev.\n\nIn the last year I have gone from moving to a city I didn't know anything about for work that never appeared to telling my boss I want a 30k a year raise because I have a competing offer now and can negotiate. You can't think that because something bad happened or things aren't happening fast enough that you aren't valuable or successful. \n\nOne last thing being 24 means you have a lot of room to grow. If you feel trapped or like you aren't free just fucking leave where you are. Get up and go somewhere else, do something crazy, you have a long way to fall before you reach rock bottom and as long as you don't break anything when you jump around you might find that life has a lot in store for you. I am serious about doing something crazy. If you think you don't have the money or you are trapped by something look into exactly what you need to get out of all of the restrictions even if it means you lose out on something. If you feel tied to the things you have around you and you want freedom then take that freedom. ",
"I'm going to guess that you are male. If so, that feeling is likely as natural as a woman who gets an unwavering urge to have children, often by her mid-30s. \n\nDisplays of resource acquisition and conspicuous consumption (\"bling\") is quite innate, and late teens to early 20s is indeed very typical. There's little doubt is genetic at source and hormonal in realization. I remember in my early 20s an overwhelming desire to go out on Fri and Sat nights and meet women. I even became quite figity and trapped even staying at home for a few hours. The desire to demonstrate my merits was huge: education, talent, material goods.\n\nIt will go away on its own eventually, especially if you get a regular girlfriend or wife. For satisfaction, I suggest spending time on other innate dopamine rewards, such as talent at something (musical instrument, writing, painting), fitness, or other things that are somewhat impressive, ideally having other benefits to yourself like health or passionate interest. These are things that males tend to compete on (intrasexual competition) so likely driving your feelings or self-worth at your age.\n\nFor me it was weightlifting and rock climbing, and guitar. For you, it might be some other interest or passion.\n\n",
"I'm 25 years old and make 60-70k a year. I have enough cash where I could get a car or nice things, and sometimes I do, but my self worth isn't based on that. My self worth is based on how happy I am doing the things I love. Money is only a means to survival. Surviving isn't an issue anymore so why would I feel bad about my life?\r\rThe point im trying to make is that you need to look within yourself and ask what the true nature of your self actualization is. You think that having nice things would make you feel more worthy but honestly they don't. At the end of the day, even the most rich people will still feel hollow and worthless if they weren't enjoying life by their own means. Make some friends, spend time doing hobbies that make you challenge yourself and keep you entertained, and even if you don't make.much money, you will still feel like you're living a life worth living. That's all that matters. Making money is nice but having self confidence and realizing you can always strive to become a better person is what truly gives you the key to happiness. ",
"I'm 23 and oddly enough I feel I had things more down at 21, when I was 21 I had an apartment, a part time job, a small group of loyal, true friends and a good collection of video games. My dad's side of the family is very money oriented and use wealth as a measure of success, and I began to believe that worth is determined by how much money I had, having a nice house etc... And now I'm unhappy. \n\nWhen you achieveba point in life when you can confidently say you're happy, then that should be the measure of your self worth. ",
"I would recommend a hobby. Most hobbies don't require a lot of money to start. Becoming good at something brings confidence and that will make you feel better about yourself. ",
"I would advice reading the book \"the road less travelled\" It is not directly related to this but talks about subjects like these. Very enlightning. it's a pshychology book written by M. Scott Peck. ",
"I was curious about the same subject, so I just asked my most successful friend the honest question: How are you so successful (he was a few years younger than me & very successful)? His answer has stuck with me & explains itself:I surround myself with the type of people I want to be around. \n\nTurns out that I don't want to be around those people, but would rather just hang out with a bunch of drunks & unemployed people. His advice is working perfectly.",
"I think measuring by success is useful in that it inspires you to go out and get paid\n\n\nMe i do it ny how much sex i am able to have with different women (hint not that much).... more destructive",
"I struggle with this at times too. I know the type of life I want to provide for my wife and kids, and get down on myself for not being at that point yet. What helps me is comparing my current self to my past self. 7 years ago I was heavily addicted to methamphetamine and worked at a pizza restaurant. Now I'm 6 years sober, have a wonderful wife and three kids, and have been told by the director of my department that he is grooming me to take his job. I may not be at my best yet, but there is plenty of time.\n\nAlso try to consider your impact on the world and those around you. If by interacting with you someone's day becomes easier/better/happpier, then I would say you have great worth. The fact that you are concerned is good. It shows that you have desire to grow and I would be willing to bet that you will.",
"I see a lot of advice on here about making yourself feel better about your current situation.\n\nIf you are not living up to your potential or have taken a wrong path in life you are going to feel shitty. Maybe its because you're smart enough to know you're going the wrong direction or the path you are taking is not working into your personal timeline. But I'm not going to sit here and tell you everything is fine when you yourself don't feel fine. \n\nMy Mentor, when I first graduated college, asked a group of us what our goals were. And my goal at that time was, I wanted to make a 6 figure income. Like you, and almost everyone else, its not about the money but about the freedom... blah blah blah.... I'm not materialistic.... blah blah blah.. help family.... blah... independence. After we identified our own personal income goals, we broke down the goal to focus on our day to day activities in order to achieve our goals. From there I was able to calculate exactly how many hours a week I needed to work, how much time I needed to spend studying my industry and approximately when in my career I could reach my goal. \n\nYou should spend sometime doing this yourself. Figure out what your real goal is, both short term and long term. From there really think about if they are achievable in the timeline you have. If they are map out a method to achieve those goals. Map them out so specifically that you know how many hours you should be spending a week to achieve your goals. \n\nIf you want to feel better about yourself, there are a lot of good posts on here. If you want to chat with someone about reaching your goals, PM me. I love chatting about this stuff. \n\nI saw your ",
"I really recommend you the book Status Anxiety by Alain de Botton. It explains these feelings well and reminds us that our fiancial success is dependent on a lot of factors we cannot control (eg luck, who are employers are, etc). Furthermore, the book lists a variety of solutions to status anxiety, such as using reason to decide what is most important in your life. \nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0375725350/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1461462876&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40&keywords=status+anxiety&dpPl=1&dpID=510AGEQ99ZL&ref=plSrch",
"I personally define my self-worth based on smaller cool tasks for example \"Wow, I unlocked all the achievements in this game, that's swell, WAIT only 0.1% of players have done this. I kick ass\" \n\nOr \"Wow this thing I made (I do a lot of DIY and draw stuff) is rad. Aint nobody going to make me feel bad today\" \n\nMoney matters in life very little. You dont need a car to travel, you have rad friends or a cool family (or even decent public transport) I don't have a car and I have traveled a lot around my country and the world. I have scuba dived, I have ridden in a plane (I foud out recently not many people have done this) and I have had experiences that matter. \n\nIf none of this can be applied to you, you can always learn to cook or even use a free program like memrise to learn a language. Money does not mean success great life experiences do. If you don't have any or have had a rough time in life you can always turn that around. Starting with the little things. ",
"I measure my self-worth how far I have come. When i started I did not really have much work with. With time i aimed big and had some small and big successes here and there. Just pushing to do more. If you made some success today in a certain area in life you have not before or even tried, that is a success.",
"I like to measure my self-worth as thinking of kind of an infinitely long sprinters track. Everyone starts somewhere on it, some further forward and some pretty much at the beginning. So, it's not fair to judge yourself based on where you are, but rather based on how far you've come from where you started. So, there might be some people who no matter what you do will be so far from the starting line, that you'll never catch up to them. But that's okay, because they might have only moved a few feet, whereas you had to go miles to get where you are today. And the only thing you have to do to move forward is to invest in yourself. Learning new languages Kama getting better already learn skills, learning new skills, all of these things will move you forward and I'll give you something to be proud of.",
"I haven't read all these comments so far but I wanna thank you guys for the support and good advice. ",
"I have no clue if this applies to you or not:\n\nMaybe you have some form of narcissisitic personality to some degree. I do. While the symptoms can vary the root is a lack of true self confidence and inability to love yourself. You judge yourself and others in abolute terms and various aspects. This leads to a desire to always wanting to be the best or deep romantic ideals that the one true love will fix everything. This is a super crude description though.\n\nIf you are, you probably will reject this notion though. Only a good psychoanalyst that knows this area is likely to help you.\n\n",
"I guess the question is what is stopping you?\n\nThe solution should be rise towards the top of whatever industry you are in.\n\nThe tools to do so are often hard work, study (might have to read 'difficult' books) and finding people who can answer the questions you have. It's not free, but the return on investment of some time now will likely pay off far greater down the line. You also might have to take some risks and explore ideas based on educated guesses but with enough effort you can find success.\n\nI say get what you want if you want it. If you don't want it, learn to be happy with less, but you're already telling me that's boring and it is going to bother you that you will live below your potential.\n\nI'll always be in the try harder to get what you want camp. I know Reddit is rather diverse and has given you many alternative opinions, but if you have the ambition you should use it.",
"I gauge my self worth on what I can do for those that I love and the quality and strength of my character. Money is an antiquated system that is wrecking our world, and I try not to take part in things I deem to be bad. ",
"I feel you there are 2 ways you can go about this change or fake yourself out of the goals, or actually living your life and succeeding at it, earn more money give it all your time is limited do you want true happiness or compromise yourself in misery and dellusionalism? Push yourself! Come on man wake up! ",
"I feel very much this way. I work in retail. I'm not super smart, but I'm in no ways dumb. I can do a few artsy fartsy things, but nothing awe inspiring in my opinion. The things I do have going for me is the love and caring I have for my friends and I go out of my way to do anything for them. I'm poor, though and I don't have the drive to do anything else. I don't have any ambition to do anything else because what I wanted to do when I was little (transcriptionist) is outdated now and completely obsolete.",
"I feel once you re-discover your self worth (which is so much greater and beyond what you could imagine!) you will realize everything is already there. Sometimes the trip to pick up certain \"things\" is longer than expected. ",
"I ended up with a girl that measured EVERYONE on the amount of material/ monetary success they had apparently achieved. It ruined me for so long. I was constantly miserable, thinking I wasn't good enough, successful enough, didn't fit in cuz I didn't chase money, etc. I ended up basically supporting, her, her sister (who was older than me), 2 brothers and myself @ 22 y/o. I did some STUPID stuff that should have got me killed / arrested for money. Never an ounce of respect for taking care of them. \n\nI was way hard on myself, which led to depression and way hard on others which likely caused me to miss out on some great people. It took me a while to change back to my old way of thinking. \n\nThere are alot of lessons in there. First most people aren't as \"well-off\" as they'd have you believe. Talk to any financial adviser and ALOT of people have no business with the new BMW or 7000 sf McMansion. And the ones who really are well-off often times aren't happier because of it. \n\nI live a very simple life now. Small house (but on land, in a beautiful area that I love), 13 year old car (runs great, gets me where I need to be). I have a job that everyone respects me for doing. I'm the best off financially that I've ever been, including when I still lived with parents. It sorta just all worked out. \n\nDid I miss out on some women because I don't drive a fancy new car or live at an exclusive address? Probably so...but that's not the kind of women I'm interested in anyway. For my purposes, simpler is SO MUCH more preferable, and makes me so much happier than trying to keep up with the Jones. ",
"I don't really have an answer but I just want to say you have described how I feel exactly, it's uncanny. I'm also 24, have a Master's degree and I just can't find a decent job. I still live with my parents and work a mind-numbing dead end admin job. I'm sorry I don't have an answer but hey, just reaching out across the Internet to someone in the same boat as me. ",
"I don't really have a suggestion, just wanted to say I'm right there with you man. I just try to remind myself that I'm lucky to have what I do and that it's worth working to keep it and build up what I can",
"I don't have the title but a good book I read is to measure success by something that you can't actually finish, i.e. success isn't a finish line, it's a continuous process.\n\nLet's take some of what /u/PmMeGiftCardCodes said and apply it to what I think. They are a master cook, mechanic, and it seems like he's pretty great with his hands in general. His definition of success could be, \"I want to train or help young people learn how to repair an engine.\" Or they could say it's, \"I want to host cooking classes and teach people how to sous vide since that's not a common skill.\"\n\nIn this way you don't need to repair X amount of engines or make X amount of steaks to be successful, you just need to be doing it. Success shouldn't be a mile marker, those are goals. Success should be a continuous action. To me that is how I measure success.",
"I don't have specific advise for how to get over this but I did want to chime in to say that this is what becoming an adult feels like. This is what your entire 20's and at least some of your 30's will probably be like. Everyone is just trying to find their place in the world and no one knows what they are doing. You are not alone in this feeling.",
"I do things that increase my own perception of self-worth and self-value, such as donating blood that will save lives or currently growing my hair out to donate to charity for children. Giving your time to things bigger than just yourself might help you put things in perspective between the materialistic and intangible.",
"I define my self-worth by character. Am I a good person? Do I do the right thing? Am I honest? Am I loved? Do I make others feel loved? Do I give to others?\n\nThe money will follow. There's no correlation between money and happiness after you make enough to take care of your basic needs. Once you get the house then you'll want a bigger house. Once you get the fun car you'll want the more fun car. Happiness and self-worth is a choice in any reasonable situation, money won't do that for you. It can't. Be grateful for who you are and what you have, find within yourself what's truly holding you back from self-fulfillment. ",
"I am nearly 40 years old, and I don't measure my self worth to how much success or money I have, but how I have been able to provide for my family. In that, I have failed. \n\nI know the struggle of trying to survive. I'm exhausted, I'm Tired, I'm Lost. I try so hard but I fail every time. I am educated, I am smart, but my days are spent being berated and abused by my employer. I have been broken and I am no longer able to even look at myself in the mirror. I failed myself, I have failed my family, and I am unable to be an adequate provider.\n\nMy whole life I have tried to be a compassionate helpful person, trying to help those around me, to spread love, and to give my fellow man a leg up. It tends to have backfired more often than not, and I have never had it benefit me in any way, not that I expected it. \n\nSometimes, late at night, while I am up tossing and turning with stress, anxiety, and worry, I will find myself actually asleep, and in those moments I dream. I don't know I am dreaming, and sometimes they are nightmares that mirror my day to day life, but occasionally I am the happiest I have ever been in those moments. Many times I am in a life with my wife, and kids. We are just all so in love, and enjoying the moments of our life. No worries in the world, no stress about money, no anxiety about the future. We live in a beautiful modest home, eat wonderful healthy food, and our only worries are how to best enjoy our lives and make one another, and others happy! Then I wake up, and realize it was a dream, that no matter how much we love each other, we are still trapped, enslaved, and forever financially imprisoned. It is then that it creeps back in, and no matter how bright the morning sun shines, I am cloaked in that darkness...\n\nMy ideal situation? My Dream? If I had a large chunk of money, a trust fund or something. Like $5 million, and we could just live off the interest. To be able to live, to spend time with my family. To have the luxury of focusing our time not toiling away, but helping others. I wouldn't buy a big house, or a fancy car, we would continue to live as we do, frugally, but now with freedom. That freedom to live, sadly, that won't happen. About the closest I will ever get is to have a lottery ticket, whose value has yet to be determined, and with it I might have that freedom that I ache so deeply for. \n\nThe only thing I can do now is get in shape and maybe just take out a life insurance policy, wait a few of years and then give my family something meaningful... Then they at least will be financially free and maybe then they can have a chance at a better life, a better future than I could have ever possibly provided...\n\nI want to be there for my family, to spend a long happy life with them. That is just it, I want those things more than anything, to the point that it torments me so. But it would be selfish for me to wish burden, hardship, and life long struggle to those I love the most. To force that upon them all for the sole purpose of me finding happiness on those glimmered moments. My life is temporary anyways, and the most valuable way to \"spend\" it is to do just that, to cash it into something, far more valuable than my true self worth. No matter how much love I have, no matter how much I could ever hope to give to those around me, it will not do more than what that single policy could do.\n\nI have thought about this for many years, and have shuffled it into the back of my mind, wishing it away in my attempts to banish it, but it keeps coming back again. It has only been recently that I have realized that it was the answer all along, that all my internals struggles had already been solved for me, that the answer was that very thought, it was the solution. The chances of me winning the lottery (considering I rarely even play it) are so slim, even if I did play more often. And the chances of someone gifting me financial freedom are even less, because it is a game, and I have lost that game and will have to pay for it with my life.\n\nSo many others have sacrificed so much more for so much less, I am only grateful that I have been given the forethought and opportunity to realize this solution before it is too late, so that I will not have to pass away worthless and in vain. This is the most I can do with what I have, and it is the purest manifestation of my love. I already sacrifice myself daily, killing myself inside, and for what? Why paper cut for pennies when I can go all in for my family's salvation?\n\nI am afraid that unless things change for me drastically, financially, that my fate is sealed. Once I find the right policy, it will be a count down for me, and I will use those last few years to give my family as much love as I can before I depart. And who knows, maybe things will change, but if the rest of my life is any indicator, that is a longshot.\n\nIt is a 3-5 year plan, and who knows, things can change. I'd even be sure to donate all my organs so that at least a dozen or so lives could be saved. I've honestly worked out how I could do the maximum good and obtain the most value out of my relatively worthless life.\n\nIt really is sad to think that if I just had the money, this would never have even crossed my mind, would not have even been an option of mine. Besides the financial issues, my life is pretty great. Have a wonderful wife, wonderful children. But those amazing things can not be the reason I choose to condemn them to a life time of hardship. Again, that would be incredibly selfish of me to squander away the little value of my life just so I can feel good and enjoy myself with them for a short time.\n\nDisgusting that all of this comes down to pieces of paper that have value, and can yield power and ultimately freedom to those who wield it. I want my family to be free, I want them to have the means to obtain the bare minimum of opportunities, and this is the only way I can think of.\n\nWe shall see, I may buy a lottery ticket in the near future, and if I win, then I can live. If not, then I continue on with my plan. The policy won't be cheap, and will put additional financial hardship and pressure on my family, but it will, in the end, be worth it to all of them. Maybe the near future will change and our world will become better, maybe we will have basic income.\n\nI am so tired, so alone, so finished. I am nearing the end of the long journey, I AM ALMOST...",
"I agree with top rated and can only pull from me and my husband's experience: by what u do. Yet I stress by doing off the clock (or not getting paid for it at first). I'm a \"artist\" so I like to create. I've heard the same from musicians. Create for yourself and put it out there for the masses. Get critiques and grow and improve your craft. Hobbies can be expensive sometimes, yet it is also a passion. Find what you love to do in your down time that is adding content to the world. There are a lot of haters in the world yet the constructive criticism will shine through. Hope this helps",
"Hollywood will try to tell you what success looks like. It almost always paints a picture like success is to have a personal empire of possessions. Consider what Ralph Waldo Emerson said about success:\n\nTo laugh often and much;\nTo win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;\nTo earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;\nTo appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; \nTo leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;\nTo know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.",
"Hey bro,\n\nI hope you see this. You're only 24. I'm 33 and am just now starting to do daily what really makes me happy plus provides (very) serious money. I'm not saying everyone gets there but even if you are working hard, 24 years old is a bit early to hope for much. Don't let Facebook or Instagram tell you otherwise. Pursue a pragmatic passion and give it time. This is just my advice from how it worked for me. -M",
"Happiness is hard to measure, and no one can measure it better than you. That being said, toys and money aren't everything, and may never make you happy. Some things you have to find on your own, which means you might have to do some soul searching. ",
"Great chess analogy for life:\n\nWhen we're all done playing the king and the pawn go back in the same box. You have the opportunity to see more of the board without fear that everybody's out to get you due to prestige and title. Also if you make it to the other side you can become a queen!",
"Go volunteer at a homeless shelter. You can talk to the people, help them and be grateful for who you are, what you have, and get in the habit of thinking about what inspires you, not defining yourself by your resume. Plus its a bonus when your date asks about yourself, and the first thing out of your mouth isn't about your job. ",
"Go live in the mountains. Preferably Yosemite. It's not hard to get a job and you will love it but get paid very little",
"Get in better relationships. It takes time but honestly it feels nice that money can be worthless sometimes. More like a type of sales insurance in my opinion once you have enough",
"Freedom doesn't come from money as much as lack of debt. Enjoy a debt free life and you will find true freedom.",
"Focus your attention on things you have direct and primary control over. \n\nWhile you have some control over money and success obtaining both relies heavily on outside factors. Both can be taken away or desroyed by means completely outside of your control. They can be easily attacked by someone who wants to harm you.\n\nBase your self worth on who you are, and not on what you have and what you have achived. Be realistic what you expect from yourself. Don't measure the success of your character developement by some ideal. If you are a shitty person, admit it to yourself and work on being a less shitty person. That way you can, if you look back in a year, be proud of being a fairly shitty person, because you know you have been completely shitty before.",
"First of all, know that you wouldn't suddenly feel better about yourself if you had money. Lots of people have boatloads of money and feel like shit. \n\nThen read this:\n\n\"An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.\n\n\nThe Mexican replied, “only a little while. The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish? The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, “but what do you do with the rest of your time?”\n\n\nThe Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siestas with my wife, Maria, stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine, and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life.” The American scoffed, “I am a Harvard MBA and could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing, and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then LA and eventually New York City, where you will run your expanding enterprise.”\n\n\nThe Mexican fisherman asked, “But, how long will this all take?”\n\n\nTo which the American replied, “15 – 20 years.”\n\n\n“But what then?” Asked the Mexican.\n\n\nThe American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time is right you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich, you would make millions!”\n\n\n“Millions – then what?”\n\n\nThe American said, “Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siestas with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play your guitar with your amigos.”",
"Everything you are and have ever thought or felt is the process of chemical and electrical reactions in a small lump of meat in a bone box. Happiness is just the process of stewing that meat in joy juice and self shock therapy stimulation. The majority of everything you do is just to keep that meaty lump alive and functioning and producing those happy times. Do what makes your meaty lump happy, you only have a so many years trapped in your bone box.",
"Everything else being equal, money does make you happier. But consider this: when it comes to happiness, beyond a certain point, you sort of get diminishing returns. In other words: you can be only be so happy at a given time. There are other parts of life that can you there and then money will play no role for you. \n\nI have been broke as hell and I have also been unable to outspend my earnings. I was a lot happier when broke but not because I didn't have money but because there are other, more important things (and people) in life. There is a sheep mentality among people to make a connection between money and happiness but they don't consider the other variables. ",
"Everybody is a Genius. But If You Judge a Fish by Its Ability to Climb a Tree, It Will Live Its Whole Life Believing that It is Stupid",
"Ever since you were a kid, you've had the idea that success comes with money.... \nGet out of that way of thinking and it will lighten your load a bit.\n\nMaybe it was easier for me, I never really had anything growing up. I had to live with my uncle in his home because my parents couldn't afford their own place. While other kids in the neighborhood would celebrate holidays with their families, mine never really acknowledged them. When I was 16 I started working a part time job at a record store. Than it was a string of different jobs because I'd get bored of one and feel the need to move on. One day I joined the Navy out of boredom. Spent 4 years there... had some adventures. I can't imagine owning a home and having to care for it... I don't know the kind of money it takes to do something like that.\n\nBut I'm ok with not having much. I've lived a pretty good life. I get laid on a fairly regular basis... I'm healthy, and my dog keeps me company. \n\nI guess what I can say to you is, don't sit around feeling down because you don't have what the rest of society says you SHOULD have. Get out there and DO something. It feels really rewarding man. ",
"Easy. Are you happy or sad? If you're happy then that's all you need. If you're sad then you still need to find something in your life.",
"Don't think about pink elephants.\n\nStart now. No thoughts about pink elephants. Pachyderms with a light rose hue are thoughts that you aren't allowed to consider. You can't even visualize an elephant's tusk being dipped into a pale red dye.\n\nYou're thinking about pink elephants, aren't you?\n\nNow think about purple giraffes. Maybe have some green lions in your mental painting.\n\nYou stopped thinking about pink elephants, didn't you?\n\nStart by defining what success is. Our society has a \"default\" setting for success metrics: money. If you want a different metric for success, you are going to have to actively define that metric (or metrics), and consistently reinforce *your* goals, because our society will encourage you to return to pink elephants... I mean money... as the success metric.\n\nDefine success, and protect your definition.",
"Don't compare yourself to other people. Redefine what \"success\" means to you. It doesn't need to mean money, prestige, material objects, etc. It can be achieving personal goals, developing deep relationships, raising kids, inventing something new, researching a cure for cancer.... figure out what is important to you and strive for that. ",
"Don't blame yourself. This is one of the hardest times in the past several generations to try to \"get ahead\". But even if you had money, you'd still probably feel empty. If you think about it, maybe we've received the wrong message from many of our role models. Maybe your parents wanted you to become a doctor so you would be wealthy. Or maybe you wanted to be an inventor and make an invention that would gain you great wealth. Or perhaps be a singer/actor and make lots of money. But the wealth itself is not the message. A doctor who helps many people and gains wealth likely feels fulfilled. An inventor who invents something many people need and becomes wealthy also likely feels fulfilled. An entertainer who brings joy to the hearts of many probably feels fulfilled. But wealth alone often leaves one feeling empty and unfulfilled - the internet is full of many examples of such problems faced by lottery winners. A question often faced by folk later in life is \"If I died today would anyone even care?\" And having achieved wealth alone doesn't provide the right answer.\n\nMy point is that in this day where it is very hard to gain success and wealth you can still obtain fulfilment in other ways. And I would argue that these other ways are a better measure of success. The doctor feels fulfilled because he has helped so many. The inventor feels fulfilled because his invention is used by many and/or perhaps he has done something to advance mankind. The entertainer feels fulfilled because he touches the hearts of many. But there are other ways we can obtain fulfilment in our daily likes. Society trains us to ignore the problems of others, and most of us live our lives with virtual \"blinders\" on. You have to open up your mind to the *possibility* of helping others - you won't be able to unless you do. Maybe it will be offering that guy walking in the rain a ride, instead of just driving by. Maybe it will be running to pick up and returning that piece of paper the woman dropped and the wind blew away. Maybe it will be holding the elevator for that guy running down the hall instead of pretending you didn't hear his call. If you do something to help others, you'll feel good about yourself, and that feeling will carry you for days. Think about the person you helped: that guy in the rain will remember and probably tell folk about how somebody stopped to give him a ride for weeks to come. Maybe that lady didn't need the piece of paper, but she'll remember how somebody bothered to retrieve it for her. And maybe that guy will hold the elevator for somebody else! Sure doing these little things won't help pay the bills. But it will certainly carry you in knowing that even though you may not be achieving financial success at the rate you want, you're making a difference in the lives of others. Try it. Just once. See if it doesn't make a difference in your outlook!",
"Do things for their own sake. For example, I work as an administrator at a university. Whenever I produce a budget or a financial report, I don't do it because it's going to make me look good to my boss. I do it because it's going to help my boss make an important decision. Think about what effect your actions will have downstream. If it helps people do things better, then it's of value. If it just helps some numbers get posted just so the VP of sales can get a bonus and buy his wife a new pair of tits, then your actions are not worth much. ",
"Contemplate this--if you live in a free country and have a home with electricity and running water, have enough food for 3 meals a day, access to transportation and to the Internet, you're richer than 99% of all other humans on the face of the earth. Fixate on hopes and dreams that don't take material wealth or \"things\" to accomplish. No external entity, force, or wealth will change your confidence or contentment. Become ok with being alone, and immerse yourself in something, anything, you're interested in. Don't wallow in envy for what people have or claim to have (a lot of Internet heroes are really zeroes in real life). Share and be a friend to make friends. Do something for others without expecting something in return. ",
"Consider what in your life is influencing you to think you should measure yourself by those things. Are you surrounded by career-minded people who think that way? Do you watch a lot of television with commercials that pump that message into your living space? \n\nIf you separate yourself from others who think that way, you'll likely be better at hearing the voice inside you that says that other things are more important. ",
"Consider volunteering: tutor kids, feed the homeless, clean a park. You'll meet people who have a wide variety of interests and professions. You'll gain appreciation for your abilities instead of your success. You'll accomplish non-monetary achievements. I hope through helping others you'll regain some joy in service and find out what your dream life is.\n",
"By finding something else to measure yourself by. \n\nCharacter, passion, or maybe even knowledge are much better pursuits, and are what people are much more remembered for when they are gone. ",
"Btw, as a reminder to all people. Ur rich pals may have their bills paid on time. But does that girl they really like know who they r. Are they living a healthy existence ie work out and eat healthy. I don't know but I'm rich and kind of depressed. Went on a but of a pill bender but finally got off them. Life can be hard, but from everything I gather hard work and honesty r the still the foundation to a successful existence. Those two key stones r where I built my fortune...",
"Btw, as a reminder to all people. Ur rich pals may have their bills paid on time. But does that girl they really like know who they r. Are they living a healthy existence ie work out and eat healthy. I don't know but I'm rich and kind of depressed. Went on a but of a pill bender but finally got off them. Life can be hard, but from everything I gather hard work and honesty r the still the foundation to a successful existence. Those two key stones r where I built my fortune...",
"Be happy with what you got. Also, as long as you are taking the steps you need to move your life forward, and trying, then be happy with the journey. One step at a time. Don't get ahead of yourself. Enjoy the now. ",
"As a tangible \"thing\" you can actually do, go through all your stuff and get rid of anything you don't need/use. Be ruthless. For the sentimental stuff, make sure you know what sentiment is associated with it. If it's a negative one, maybe it's time to let go. \n\nThis process helps me realize all that I have. The act of getting rid of something that was \"expensive\" helps me to realize that life's not about a dollar value. If a thing costs 1$ or 1000$ and is sitting around unused, its worthlessness to you is the same. \n\nJust my two cents. Rage at me if you will.",
"Are you fucking kidding me? You are 24. Shut the fuck up and grow up. No reason to have all these worries when you are 24. Owning a house, having a better car, traveling?.... WTF type of upper class bullshit privileged mindset do you have? Get a fucking job, learn how to save, build your resume, get a better job, save better, invest, build your resume more, travel, get a better job, invest more, continue..... It's not hard but at 24... gtfo... seriously... wtf...",
"Almost NOBODY is very successful at 24. If you thought you had accomplished everything in life you wanted by now, you'd be like Justin Bieber. Do you think Bieber is happy? Hell no. You'll be fine, man. You've got the best years of your life ahead of you. You have so much time to experiment, make mistakes, find success, and start all over again if you want.\n\nAs far as having \"material things,\" well, I'll let you in on a secret. Wealthy people focus on generating income and investing it wisely. That's how they got wealthy in the first place. When you see a 25 year old driving around in a fancy sports car, that guy is NOT going to be wealthy. Most likely he is going to be completely BROKE in a few years when the job market isn't so kind and he realizes he has no savings.\n\nWealth takes time to accumulate and it requires discipline and making responsible, albeit un-sexy choices. The wealthy person is the one who buys a cheap econo car or takes the bus and invests the difference.\n\nAlso, if you would not judge someone by how much money they make, why do you judge yourself that way? Be kinder to yourself. Treat yourself the way you would treat a good friend. Focus on your good qualities and the choices that you make day to day. Your habits and behaviors are what determine what kind of person you are, not your paycheck.",
"A wise man once told me \"the goal of a man should not be success, but substance\" \nI view this 2 ways, both equally important.\nThe first is that you should first identify what \"success\" means to you. Be it money or travel or time with family. Then you should focus your effort on those activities, in this way you may not make the most money or have the highest job title but you would still consider yourself a \"success\".\nThe second way I view this is that \"substance\" is the value of one's philanthropic and/or moral doings.\nSubstance could be how much you give back to those in your influence. Have you volunteered? Have you given your all to raise your child so that they can fulfill their potential? Are you socially conscience? Are you a good husband/wife/friend?\nThis quote helps to realign my priorities when I feel like I focus too much on work and money.\nHope this helps someone!",
"> Deep down I know I'm a great person, but I hate that I keep feeling down on myself because of material things.\n\nThat's all that matters (knowing you're a great person). Material wealth might get you a more comfortable life, but it shouldn't change how you view yourself unless it's that important in your evaluation (which is shallow). \n\n> If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block? Thanks in advance.\n\nTravel can be done on a budget. Do you want to live in the house you own, by yourself or with someone else? What kind of fun car do you want?\n\nIf you're not having as much money as you want, then develop skills or invent something that makes you the money you want (and more). ",
"> I was always very self confident and just an overall happy person.\n\nI was like this until I had money problems after college (medical bills). I went back into my fiscal risk adverse personality; it's not risk I'm afraid of, it's how much would it cost me financially to fail - so everything I've done has been little steps.\n\nI hope to be done paying my student loans this year, and get back into getting ahead in life.\n\n> If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better. How do I get past this block\n\nDo you have a sandwich?\n\nFeed somebody. It doesn't take much money to do and it'll make somebody's day.\n",
"**> I am 24 years old**\n\n\nNow imagine this post written by an eight-year-old. \n\nHey, kid! You worry too much, just enjoy your life!",
"\"self-worth\" can only be measured by a person arbitrarily. While we shouldn't judge others because who are we to judge, so, too, we cannot judge ourselves. ",
"\"It is not noble to be better then your fellow man, true nobility lies in being superior to your formal self\" - Hemingway",
"\"Everyone wants to lead a peaceful, happy life, but happiness and success aren’t measured by how much money you have, but by whether you have inner peace in your heart\".- Dalai Lama ",
" I measure my success based on bettering myself, being a better person than I was the day before. Whether I change my frame of reference that day to thwart a personal bias I didnt know existed or go to the gym. SUCCESS. \n\n This concept didnt come to fruition until I arrived at a similar mind set to yours in **my own** mid 20's. Fell into a job in retail sales and after 55+ hours a week for 4-5 years in my early 20's i was downtrodden. \nAfter I redefined this word many changes have occured in my life for the better. Take it one day at a time, start with somthing small. Hope this helps in some way, good luck brother.\n\n\n\n",
"\n> If I had my own house, a fun car, money to travel and what not I would feel much better.\n\n\n\nyou can actually own a lot of those things without a lot of money, IMHO its all about \"slow and steady\" and living within your means.\n\ntrust me, ive owned cars, boats, houses. they aren't always what they crack up to be. the most amount of fulfillment ive had is through watersports, and my family. if i had no money, i would still be just as happy so long as i had my watersport gear. "
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"How not to take everything so personally These last years of my life I feel \"attacked\" whenever someone doesn't agrees with me or trash talks about me. I wake up stressed and react negatively (not necessarily vocal about it) whenever someone disturbs me.\n\nI want to change. Any suggestions for me and everyone out there with the same situation, Reddit?",
"How not to take everything so personally These last years of my life I feel \"attacked\" whenever someone doesn't agrees with me or trash talks about me. I wake up stressed and react negatively (not necessarily vocal about it) whenever someone disturbs me.\n\nI want to change. Any suggestions for me and everyone out there with the same situation, Reddit?"
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"some people take the 'projection' arguement, where they allow themselves to shut out negativity from others, as what they have to say only speaks badly about them. (basically, the things they might hate about you are really just comments on their own shortcomings)\n\nothers prefer to apply the 'sticks and stones' arguement where what the other person says can't hurt you in in of itself, so just ignore what you don't like...\n\npersonally, i dislike those 'not listening' methodology's because you'll end-up missing out on a lot of information, and perhaps some valuable introspection. so far as people saying mean things during discussions, it's that framework of a discussion that's the thing that allows me to work past the spiteful comments.\n\nthat is to say *focus on the topic* if someone's trying to get to you, let your behavior show that you have better things to think about, find out if anything that they've just said applies to the topic of discussion, or if they're just attacking you, and trying to have an argument ad hominem. ",
"When you disagree with someone and even say so, are you coming from a standpoint where they should take what you say personally?\n\nThe biggest tip about life to break out of our own self-centered worlds is to flip the situation around. \"All these people must be looking at me and judging me!\" Well, how many of them are *you* actually looking at and judging? None? That's exactly the same thing they are doing.\n\nMost of the time people probably aren't meaning to inflict personal insults. A person who can take criticism and see it as an opportunity to grow instead of feeling attacked is one who can accomplish a lot. \n\nGeorge Lucas is a fairly good example of what criticism can do to improve things. His original ideas for Star Wars were terrible. Like C3PO sounding and acting like a used car salesman. Every bad idea he had, his wife would let him know that it wasn't good. He went back to the drawing board every time and came back with gold. Lucas is at his best when he goes back to the drawing board. They divorced between Empire Strikes Back and Return of the Jedi. And for the prequels? Not a single person challenged any of his ideas.\n\nA for trash talking, it's just something you have to learn to ignore. There are rotten people out there and they'll never go away in any stage of your life. It's not worth getting bent out of shape over it. The best revenge is living your life the way you want and being happy with who you are. Folks who have to resort to trash talking likely aren't living the same way. \n"
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"How do I stop my sweating issue? Ok so for a few months now I've been sweating uncontrollably, only from my pits though. I want be hot, in fact even when I'm freezing my pits turn on the water works. I've tried many of the deodorant people claim works and my issue has never been resolved. I'm at my wits end, it's driving me insane. I can't go anywhere/do anything without fear of massive pit stains and discomfort. Anybody out there know of something that may help? Thanks in advance. ",
"How do I stop my sweating issue? Ok so for a few months now I've been sweating uncontrollably, only from my pits though. I want be hot, in fact even when I'm freezing my pits turn on the water works. I've tried many of the deodorant people claim works and my issue has never been resolved. I'm at my wits end, it's driving me insane. I can't go anywhere/do anything without fear of massive pit stains and discomfort. Anybody out there know of something that may help? Thanks in advance. ",
"How do I stop my sweating issue? Ok so for a few months now I've been sweating uncontrollably, only from my pits though. I want be hot, in fact even when I'm freezing my pits turn on the water works. I've tried many of the deodorant people claim works and my issue has never been resolved. I'm at my wits end, it's driving me insane. I can't go anywhere/do anything without fear of massive pit stains and discomfort. Anybody out there know of something that may help? Thanks in advance. ",
"How do I stop my sweating issue? Ok so for a few months now I've been sweating uncontrollably, only from my pits though. I want be hot, in fact even when I'm freezing my pits turn on the water works. I've tried many of the deodorant people claim works and my issue has never been resolved. I'm at my wits end, it's driving me insane. I can't go anywhere/do anything without fear of massive pit stains and discomfort. Anybody out there know of something that may help? Thanks in advance. ",
"How do I stop my sweating issue? Ok so for a few months now I've been sweating uncontrollably, only from my pits though. I want be hot, in fact even when I'm freezing my pits turn on the water works. I've tried many of the deodorant people claim works and my issue has never been resolved. I'm at my wits end, it's driving me insane. I can't go anywhere/do anything without fear of massive pit stains and discomfort. Anybody out there know of something that may help? Thanks in advance. ",
"How do I stop my sweating issue? Ok so for a few months now I've been sweating uncontrollably, only from my pits though. I want be hot, in fact even when I'm freezing my pits turn on the water works. I've tried many of the deodorant people claim works and my issue has never been resolved. I'm at my wits end, it's driving me insane. I can't go anywhere/do anything without fear of massive pit stains and discomfort. Anybody out there know of something that may help? Thanks in advance. ",
"How do I stop my sweating issue? Ok so for a few months now I've been sweating uncontrollably, only from my pits though. I want be hot, in fact even when I'm freezing my pits turn on the water works. I've tried many of the deodorant people claim works and my issue has never been resolved. I'm at my wits end, it's driving me insane. I can't go anywhere/do anything without fear of massive pit stains and discomfort. Anybody out there know of something that may help? Thanks in advance. "
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"I've had hyperhydrosis since I hit puberty (I'm now over 30). There are lots of treatments available that really do work, so please see a doctor for this if you can. \n\nI suffered without treatment until I was in my 20s due to having no health insurance. Let me tell you, it was HORRIBLE going through this medical problem for so long and I don't wish it upon anyone.\n\nWhat worked for me was a combination of topical (drysol), oral (glycopyrrolate, which carries it's own bad side-effects), laser hair removal (an awesome unexpected side-effect), and treating an underlying chronic adrenal issue.",
"Get a prescription for some Drysol. This shit works like a charm. I wish I'd known about it before suffering from Niagara Falls pits from age 12-19.",
"You should consult a doctor if you are sweating when you are otherwise cold. Also, if you have a lot of armpit hair, it's harder to control this problem. if you trim it down to a very small length, you could use talc as a preventive to some extent.",
"Wow thanks for the great advice. I'll pick some up after work tonight. I'd rather be itchy than drenched. The oral medicines side effects definitely concern me especially since I move chairs, desks and lift heavy objects every day. I've heard a lot about that deodorant, I'll try it. Thanks again! ",
"Try applying your deodorant the night before when your body sweats the least. Then if you want you can apply again the next morning as well. This will insure that you body has absorbed the deodorant necessary to preventing that nasty waterfall. \n\nAlso try shaving your pits!",
"The condition is called hyperhydrosis. It is very treatable but you need to see a doctor if normal means do not control it. ",
"Wear a tight T-shirt underneath whatever you're wearing; the t-shirt will absorb the sweat, and your outer shirt won't have any sweat on it. You can sweat without worry of looking bad!"
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"How to cool the top floor of your house? I have already changed the vents to not blow in the basement on the main HVAC system",
"How to cool the top floor of your house? I have already changed the vents to not blow in the basement on the main HVAC system",
"How to cool the top floor of your house? I have already changed the vents to not blow in the basement on the main HVAC system",
"How to cool the top floor of your house? I have already changed the vents to not blow in the basement on the main HVAC system",
"How to cool the top floor of your house? I have already changed the vents to not blow in the basement on the main HVAC system",
"How to cool the top floor of your house? I have already changed the vents to not blow in the basement on the main HVAC system",
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"Our top floor also tends to be much hotter than the bottom. Here's what worked best for us: \n\nThe vents directly above the blower were blowing out too much cold air at once. We both shut and covered (mostly) the vent so it wouldn't freeze our kid at night while the rest of us were sweating. It also forced more air upstairs. In fact, I don't think any of our downstairs vents are open (though only a couple are covered).\n\nWe also kept the upstairs door closed at all times. Warm air tends to rise while cool air falls, so keeping the doors closed kept the warm air from getting into the bedrooms up there. It also kept the cold air from accumulating downstairs and tricking the thermostat into turning the air off. \n\nJust doing those two things made our AC much more efficient.\n",
"You could use fans to direct air in certain directions.\n\nOr use air pressure to your advantage. For each room upstairs: open a window and close every door leading to that room, then keep opening and closing one of the doors repeatedly with force (not actually slamming it closed), this will circulate and force air in and out of the room. However, if the temperature of the air outside is higher this may not be beneficial!",
"Make sure your attic is thoroughly vented. Large gable end vents help out significantly.Also, attic fans help out a great deal.",
"If this is a central AC unit keep the fan at the \"on\" setting instead of the \"auto\" setting. This will circulate the air throughout the house all the time. The AC will turn on/off as needed depending on the temperature setting. When the fan is set to \"auto\" it only comes on when the AC unit is running. ",
"Let your hvac system work in the basement again, and leave the fan on for the summer. Less power usage, happuer house, and you have xool air from basement going upstairs and hot air going into the ac system",
"I used to put 2 fans stacked on top of each other going full speed. The top one blowing air outward.\nSource: I used to live in my parents attic",
"Before I had AC, I had a rack of 3 big fans in a frame. I opened the patio door, put the frame in, and all of the fans were blowing outside. I then opened the windows upstairs and the reverse pressure inside the house pulled air in the windows, through the house and out the patio door. It worked really well, and the fans were downstairs, where the noise was less of an issue.\n\nNow that I have AC, I close all of the downstairs vents and the upstairs return air. The AC only blows upstairs and sucks in air from downstairs, so the coolest air is always upstairs, going down.",
"Are you using the dampers in the basement ductwork? You can slightly dampen the first floor and keep the second floor wide open to get a bit more air upstairs and a bit less on the first floor. Just don't go nuts, damping too much can make the system work harder with no benefit to you: It needs to be able to move as much air out as it pulls in.\n\nIf none of the stuff suggested works: Go buy a window unit or two. The small ones will be plenty, and they're easy to mount in anything except really cheap vinyl windows (which are unfortunately rather popular). They basically sit in the window and a couple of screws go in to keep you from opening the window. They run around $150. They're not as efficient as your big unit, but they're not gonna cost that much to run. They're gonna cost you like a couple bucks a month in power unless you use them to make rooms really cold, or you don't bother to turn them off when you're not around.\n"
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"The most efficient way to clean your back I'm curious about how everyone else cleans their back. \n\nI use the traditional \"throw the washcloth over my back diagonally and pull with both hands\" method, but I've never felt like my back was impeccably clean. \n\nWhat about all you weirdo loofa users? You can't use the traditional method with a loofa! \n\nSo how do you do it? Is there a superior method?"
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"You just need to be a lil' bit flexible. Then you can rub any part of your back as hard as you want. "
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"car battery care tips for a longer battery life ? I replaced my car's battery this week. The previous one (factory fitted in new car) was 64 months old. It was working fine, and I decided to replace it proactively. [This](https://www.amararaja.co.in/pro.asp) is the new one. \n&nbsp; \nWhat are the battery-care tips you recommend to get a longer battery life from a new battery ? \n",
"car battery care tips for a longer battery life ? I replaced my car's battery this week. The previous one (factory fitted in new car) was 64 months old. It was working fine, and I decided to replace it proactively. [This](https://www.amararaja.co.in/pro.asp) is the new one. \n&nbsp; \nWhat are the battery-care tips you recommend to get a longer battery life from a new battery ? \n"
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"Don't let it die, keep it warm (cold batteries die faster), keep the battery terminals clean, make sure alternator is in tip top shape and is not overcharging the battery.",
"Get a trickle charger for vehicles that go for extended time between usage (e.g. motorcycles, old cars, riding mowers, etc.). Also useful as batteries lose significant capacity as the temperature drops."
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"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n",
"how kindly say either pay me or i won't fix/help your tech issues. i am pretty tech saavy and alot of people know this if they know me. i am kind of a push over so, so if someone asks me for help, ill do it. even if its something time consuming and big. Let's say someone asks me to do something like fix acomputer, its slow, network issues, etc. how can i casually bring up that i won't do it for free? if the issue is minuscule, i wont charge, but its kind of like i hope they'll offer at least something. Please help.\n\n"
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"\"I see this quite a bit. I usually charge $XYZ for this, does $XYZ/2 sound good, or do you want to trade me something?\" then just be silent, the next person who speaks loses.",
"Minuscule issue: \"What's going on with it? Ah, no problem. Check all of the cables and make sure they're seated properly, and let me know if it still happens.\"\n\nNot-so-minuscule issue: \"Oh, gotcha. Well, I can certainly help you with that, but it isn't a quick issue to solve and I do this professionally. I'd be happy to help you with it for a small fee, but if you'd rather not that's totally fine; I can also point you to some resources that can help you to fix it yourself. Just let me know what you'd prefer.\" :-)",
"If I don't mind their company, I try to work in meals. Sure, I can come over, what's for dinner? (half jokingly, see if they pick up on it). If they don't pick up on it, it's not like you've got a solid friend there, so I don't feel bad then saying something like: \"You know, the pro bono work has gotten out of hand, I'm swamped.\" ",
"1) You're busy.\n\n2) You're busy.\n\n3) No, you're really busy.\n\nBarring that, ask them for a favor. Even if you don't need it. If they say no, they can't really ask you.",
"ask for a blowjob in return. either you're off the hook or you get a blowjob, win-win.\n\non a more serious note, the older I get the more I just decline requests like this because once you touch the problem you basically own it forever. eg, computer is broken (or just virus infected or whatever). You fix it. Great. When it inevitably fails again in the future, there is now subtle but undeniable pressure on you to refix it even if the new problem had nothing to do with the original problem you fixed. You \"touched it\", you \"own it\". ESPECIALLY if you charge money, but even if you do it for free. Not worth making a couple of bucks, IMO.\n\nUnless you're really close with the person (eg. significant other, really close family) just tell them to take it to a professional. \n",
"Oh man, I used to work IT repair in a shop and we would spend a large part of the day trying to tell people on the phone that, no, we won't tell you how to fix all your problems for free over the phone. Just say you think x is the problem, and that problem usually costs whatever you want to charge. Bump this figure up because the next cheeky question is always \"oh but can't you do it for less?\" and you don't want to do it for less really because that's your free time they're already cutting in on.",
"Be up front about it. Give them an idea what it would cost before you even take their device. You won't get anything out of anyone if you go ahead and do it then try to ask for money afterward. Ask them to describe the issue and then say something along the lines of \"Alright, that sounds like it would take me [amount of time]. I typically charge [amount of money] per hour, but I'll do the job for you for [price].\" You can put your own verbiage to it but this way it sounds like you're making them a deal. But never try to do the work and demand money after the fact. Let them know immediately what they are in for. If it is a piddly job you will do for free just don't even mention a price or anything. Hope this helps!",
"It's not what you say it's how you say it. Say it with a smile and confidence and you can say anything.\n\nIf a buddy asks to help him move I would smile and say \"Fuck your life, you can afford movers.\".",
"\"I'll get to you as soon as I can, but I do have a bunch of paying customers, and I'm sure you understand that they are my first priority.\"",
"Someone: Dude, you're good at this, can you do...\nMe: Yeah, totally! I charge XXX for that, does that work for you?\n\nIf they say yes, you're golden, they pay you, you do it. \n\nThey might try to negotiate from there, or ask for free things, but at that point you've pretty blatantly laid out your point, so anything they say like \"can you do it for free\" is super dickish and you can say \"no, sorry, I've stopped doing that for free.\"\n\nI just treat the situation like they were intending to pay in the first place. \n\nIf they continue to push, it's perfectly acceptable to say things like \"I do this for a living, sorry I can't work for free.\"",
"Someone wanted me to shoot their wedding for free. People don't realize that for this to look like the work I do, that this is a 30+ hours favor. ",
"Mates rates are a brilliant thing. Unfortunately tech is an area I which you charge per hour so its harder to work it but if you can give them a quote a good way if getting it out there is \"yea that would be about $X, but I can do it for you for $X instead.\"",
"Just make sure that your visit is recognized as \"a scheduled appointment\". Usually you take an appointment for a professional or medical question, and 100% of the times an appointment is known to have a cost for the service.",
"If these people are friends, family, or even somewhat close acquaintances, I don't think you're going to be able to ask for money without coming off as a complete asshole.\n\nWhy don't you reframe the question as: \"How can I learn to stop being such a pushover and tell people 'No' when they ask me for help I don't wish to provide?\". I think it then becomes a simpler task, and there's a multitude of resources on that.\n\nAlthough, if you actually are an independent tech assistant of some sort professionally, then I think it'd be OK to ask friends to pay the usual fee. If that's the case case, just tell them to email your business address or give them your card (which you should have if this is a business). But, if you *don't* do this for a living and are just a relatively tech-savvy person, I don't think there's a polite/appropriate way to ask for money here. If you really want money, consider starting a business out of this and *then* charge your friends for your services.",
"Barter instead of asking for money. What do they do for a living? Is there some normally-paid service that they can do you for free?\n\nFailing that, ask them to buy you lunch. Don't phrase it as compensation, say something like \"I didn't have time to grab lunch, think you could do me a favor and...?\" or \"This is gonna take a while, how's about you get us some pizza and beer while I work on this?\"",
"Always, *always* be up front, just like /u/FranticWifey said. Even if this is not your job, it can be a side job, which still means making money. When they ask you if they can do it, and they don't offer to pay or ask if you will charge, right then and there they aren't expecting to pay.\n\nIf it's something simple, that maybe in 10 minutes could be fixed, sure maybe it's nothing. If you gotta go over to them, or it's time intensive let them know ahead you expect payment.",
"\"I know you are coming to me because this is my profession and I'd love to help you out with my professional expertise. I offer a friends-and-family rate of $X, which means your total would be around $Y. Or I can make some referrals to others who have less experience so are cheaper, but have impressive talent and are just as good at this task. Your choice.\"\n\nIn my case, I'm a very experienced, professional nanny. I'm often approached to watch the children of friends (babysitting). While I'll do it, grudgingly, I also see it as an excellent opportunity for new-to-the-field nannies to gain some references and as they have fewer years of experience, they charge a lower hourly rate. The choice I'm hoping my friends go with is to pay the lower hourly rate because that's what I'd do if I were them. But sometimes that trust between us is more important than extra cash in their pocket, especially when it comes to their first child."
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"Cable management (for frequent use) I work in IT and I constantly have to access and put away various cables - firewires, USB 3, thunderbolt, vgas, as well as general AC power cords. I keep them in a box but they are always tangled and difficult to sort out. Any ideas?",
"Cable management (for frequent use) I work in IT and I constantly have to access and put away various cables - firewires, USB 3, thunderbolt, vgas, as well as general AC power cords. I keep them in a box but they are always tangled and difficult to sort out. Any ideas?",
"Cable management (for frequent use) I work in IT and I constantly have to access and put away various cables - firewires, USB 3, thunderbolt, vgas, as well as general AC power cords. I keep them in a box but they are always tangled and difficult to sort out. Any ideas?",
"Cable management (for frequent use) I work in IT and I constantly have to access and put away various cables - firewires, USB 3, thunderbolt, vgas, as well as general AC power cords. I keep them in a box but they are always tangled and difficult to sort out. Any ideas?",
"Cable management (for frequent use) I work in IT and I constantly have to access and put away various cables - firewires, USB 3, thunderbolt, vgas, as well as general AC power cords. I keep them in a box but they are always tangled and difficult to sort out. Any ideas?",
"Cable management (for frequent use) I work in IT and I constantly have to access and put away various cables - firewires, USB 3, thunderbolt, vgas, as well as general AC power cords. I keep them in a box but they are always tangled and difficult to sort out. Any ideas?",
"Cable management (for frequent use) I work in IT and I constantly have to access and put away various cables - firewires, USB 3, thunderbolt, vgas, as well as general AC power cords. I keep them in a box but they are always tangled and difficult to sort out. Any ideas?"
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"[velcro ties or straps for cables](http://www.google.com/search?site=&tbm=isch&source=hp&biw=1440&bih=767&q=cable+velcro&oq=cable+velcro)",
"I've got an old tie rack in my cube, and I just hook the middle of a cable over a hanger (or multiple, for stiffer cables). There are cable racks that are actually made for this, with better size and spacing of the hooks/pegs; I just never got around to getting one.",
"For frequently accessed cables, try this:\n\nhttp://www.wired.com/gadgetlab/2010/03/neat-hack-binder-clip-cable-keepers/",
"Brade them together just pull them all out at once when you need them. Or learn to make a slipknot for them. Thats what I do it's just hard to explain how to tie it.",
"It's kinda garbagey-looking but I keep all my ol d cables in a box coiled normally then stuffed into toilet paper tubes. They're too cointained to get tangled and the ends stick out so it's pretty easy to see wht they are. This works better for larger power and hdmi cables than for usb cables, which I often get with rubber bands instead. ",
"I use women's elastic hair bands (the cloth covered type).\nI do both help desk and sysadmin and they work great on the desktop and the server room. \nThese: http://www.amazon.com/Scunci-Effortless-Beauty-No-damage-Elastics/dp/B001T8QJM0/ref=sr_1_8/182-1320824-6706417?ie=UTF8&qid=1396038956&sr=8-8&keywords=black+elastic+hair+bands",
"I just \"twisties\" ... A spool is in the garden section of Walmart, Home Depot, etc. it comes with a cutter on the package so you cut the twisties to the length you need."
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"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively.",
"How to be articulate and well spoken I am working towards going to Law school and when I tell people they doubt my ability and asks me silly questions and I hate it.\n\nThis is about me and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas across effectively."
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"Lots of good advice in other comments, much of it about learning to speak better. However, being articulate and well-spoken goes deeper than that. Fundamentally, it's about three things:\n\n1. Forming compelling, well-structured thoughts\n2. Turning those thoughts into words that have rhythm and flow that suits your audience\n3. Delivering those words in a way that best suits the topic and audience\n\nThe best thing you can do is develop habits that teach these skills. For example...\n\n**Read.** Read every chance you get. Read a broad variety of content. Read works that challenge your thinking skills as well as your reading skills. Read classic and contemporary works, read fiction and non-fiction, and read hard-journalism and fluffy ",
"Not all of us process things quickly, it’s perfectly reasonable to say “give me some time to think about the best response,” “that’s interesting and I’ll research it more to make sure I give a sufficient answer”, and then doing that and answering later. I can’t think on my feet but I can take some time to process things and research them. When I’m comfortable with a person I straight up tell them, “give me a little bit to process this.”",
"Practice makes perfect, something really, really helpful would be making a youtube channel, private if you want but you'll be talking in public eventually anyways, and just talk about literally anything, just keep talking and eventually you'll be able to quickly find the words you are looking for easily just because of how often you'll have been in the position of trying to find the right word when talking for a video.",
"Commit to learning proper grammar. Your post has a lot of grammatical issues, so it makes me think you need some help in that area. \n\nI would also add, don't try to use words you aren't 100% sure you know the meaning of. That makes it sound like you are *trying to sound smart*, and has the opposite effect. It's better to use simpler words correctly.",
"Work on this if you want, but this is completely unrelated to your ability to go to law school or be a good lawyer. Your desire to do this is based on some people's assessment of you and what they think a law student/lawyer should be. \n\nPeople have a weird idea of what law school or being a lawyer is actually like. Just take the LSAT and look at your bank account and your scholarship opportunities and let *that* actually decide whether or not law school is a good choice for you. They don't do a \"speaking\" test. \n\nI am not as articulate or as well spoken as I'd like, but I can write. I'm improving my speech and (more importantly) my confidence slowly. I have a job at a firm, as a paralegal, as I've already graduated law school and I'm waiting to pass the BAR. I have a position involving immigration, civil litigation, and bankruptcy law waiting for me whenever I'm barred. \n\nI was told I couldn't get into law school by my parents and some random idiots as well. (I also had teachers and friends who encouraged me however.) They were, and remain, absolutely clueless. \n\nJust focus on why you want to go to law school and what you need to do to accomplish this and ignore the idiots distracting you.\n\nDo lots of trial advocacy and clinics in law school also, it'll force you to get better with speaking.",
"Read a lot of books. Play a lot of scrabble. Slow down your thinking when in conversation. Give yourself room to find the correct words to convey exactly what it is you’re relaying.",
"I can only go off your writing here but: you aren’t clear in your writing at all. You either need to slow down and re read what you write and then mirror that in your speech or it might not be your strength to be articulate. You can work at it and improve but it may not be an innate talent of yours so it will seem harder than others.",
"A lot of people use 3 times more words than they need to to make their point. Use \"executive speak,\" and don't belabor the point, don't get to the point, just. say. the. point. Economy of words. I think of it like this: *Just say exactly what it is you want to say, nothing else.* \nLike others have said, slow down, think and pause when needed. \nAnd every time you find yourself wanting to fill a gap with \"uh\" or \"um,\" practice saying \"duh\" instead. It'll cure that habit real quick.",
"This is something I'm qualified to offer advice on. I'm a Director at a sales company who's responsible, in part, for teaching newer hires & experienced reps how to improve e.g. how to communicate better.\n\nFirst; Don't rush. In both the speed at which you reply and the pace at which you speed. Replying too fast means you'll say something you didn't intend. Speaking too fast will come off as nervous.\n\nSecond; Decide what you're trying to communicate before you start replying. If someone asks \"Why do you want to go to law school?\" decide that you want to give them 3 reasons then answer. This keeps you from rambling and will result in your prioritizing relevant information first.\n\nThird; Less is more. Answer the question youre asked. Dont assume that you should answer all the \"implied\" questions you think their original question means they'd likely want answered too or previous people have asked you. If they want to know they'll ask. This will make you come off more authoritative and certain of yourself/your answer.\n\nStick to that and you're 90% of the way there. Anything else is more advanced and takes a lot more practice.",
"Give Safiya Nygaard a listen, she's on YouTube.\n\nIn my personal opinion, there's no one that enunciates better than her. If you're looking for an example.\n\nGet all your ducks in a row and try to articulate your words better. Don't let your mouth speak faster than your brain can keep up.",
"Attorney here. Many of us don’t communicate clearly! Take your time. Be confident and direct in what you say - big words do not matter. The best lawyers can explain things in layman terms. \n\nStudy and practice the LSAT. Reading comprehension is VERY important and you’ll naturally improve your own communication skills as a result.",
"Reading in general is good. I would recommend Dissolution by CJ Samson. Murder mystery about a lawyer in Tudor England. Written in well-spoken but plain English, with some nice words and syntax dotted about.",
"Pretty easy, read more. The only way to learn new ways to speak is to learn new words. Trade tv for books. It help me a lot during my 20's.",
"Grab a *Strunk and White* and practice writing; practice a lot. Once you've improved your writing style, let that bleed into how you speak.",
"Don't get bogged down in being the right messenger; get bogged down in expressing the message. To quote 'Plain English for Lawyers' and to echo those in this thread - use simple words, use them slowly, and use them well.",
"Check your writing. Speak in complete sentences with full pauses: this is a challenge but is very effective at commanding attention.\n\nI am ~~working towards~~ going to Law school. ~~and~~ when I tell people (unclear whom) they doubt my ability and ask~~s~~ me ~~silly~~ questions that seem silly. ~~and~~ I hate it.\n\nThis (unclear what referring to) is about me (very colloquial and unclear) and my goals. I want to be able to communicate my ideas ~~across~~ effectively.",
"1. Listen with an open mind and speak with honesty in a calm manner. Forget trying to present yourself a certain way. The most effective communicators are those that listen and respond to the specific topic or conversation at hand rather than preparing what they’ll say next. \n\n2. Don’t be afraid to admit you don’t know something. This is one of the best indicators of an articulate and intelligent person - they know enough to not feel like they have to know everything. If you feel that you’re put on the spot, say that you’re unfamiliar with the topic and ask the other person for more information or detail. \n\n3. Proofread your writing and write as if everything all forms of communication are “formal.” Punctuation, spelling, proper word usage and sentence structure are critical and sadly forgotten by many now. I’ve been appalled by upper level leadership in organizations that can’t write properly and they lose all credibility with me. \n\nThese are skills you can learn and improve with practice. Good luck!",
"Listen to audio books! They've been a tremendous help to both my vocabulary and pronunciation. I still trip myself up from time to time, but only when I rush myself now.",
"Don’t use big words to try to sound smart.\n\nIt’s the easiest way to spot someone with an insecurity about their intelligence.\n\nRead. Read good books, start with what you enjoy, work yourself into things that challenge you. By that I mean things with phrases, words or expressions you don’t know. Always look these up. But also, only read what interests you, otherwise you’ll quit early",
"Andrew Huberman, a world-renowned neuroscientist and science podcaster for the masses, gave great advice on how to articulate with purpose while being succinct: https://youtu.be/cBdjQvvQIwk",
"Actual lawyer… people really do say umm a lot. But usually the lawyers who are anxious and prepare do way better than the ones who are overconfident and don’t think about things. Having the right thoughts and ideas in the first place matters more.\n\nBiggest thing you really need to practice is talking to strangers or one on one communication weirdly enough. Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence people and getting comfortable with small talk is way more important than making a grand tv lawyer speech. \n\nAlso definitely consider being a paralegal, you end up doing a LOT of the same work (with some supervision) with way less debt and no public speaking in court. I don’t regret being a lawyer most days but definitely hate the weird feminism/toxic masculinity messages about not being a nurse or paralegal or legal assistant. Some of those fields offer way better work life balances and the debt to income ratio is better too, not to mention job security. But it’s easy to get caught up with impressing others",
"Take your time to pause and think about what you mean to say. When people do Obama impressions one of the \"tics\" is the pauses he uses But in reality it's an incredibly effective public speaking method. \n\nI'm an incredibly fast speaker and I worked on it when speaking with others by reminding myself when speaking to take 2-3 seconds between starting to speak. It seems counterintuitive but you can even practice it in front of a mirror. Say something. Then use your timer on the phone to wait 2 seconds. If you can even record yourself doing that and watching it you can see how 2 seconds is nothing in a conversation. If you're a nervous speaker then you'd be surprised how much your internal clock will speed you up without a visual cue.\n\nOther tools people use to slow down is \"taking a breath before speaking\". Respond with a short phrase like, \"that's a great question.\" Those give you a few seconds to gather your thoughts and it helps if silence in a conversation makes you nervous. Watch videos of people who are good public speakers, taking your time to articulate a response is probably the most powerful tool.",
"Read case law!!! Don’t read it for class or to even understand every detail. Pick up a juicy case and read it without taking any notes. Overtime you will begin to adopt the vernacular of the judges and before you know it you will automatically articulate yourself like them",
"Never be afraid to admit to don’t know something.\n\nWhile you shouldn’t admit it if unnecessary, it is 100x better than guessing or trying to look smart by guessing",
"Lawyer here. Here are some recommendations I have.\n\n* Read as much as you can. And read lots of different things, fiction, non-fiction, technical reading, etc... This will do a lot to both increase your knowledge and your vocabulary. \n\nA strong vocabulary makes for much more effective communication because you have more words at your disposal when trying to relate an idea or concept to someone.\n\n* Take a class or classes on some of the following subjects:\n -public speaking\n -improve comedy\n -debate\n\nThese classes force you to get up and speak in front of people. As with nearly anything else, practice breeds comfort and decreases anxiety. This will also help because your instructors and classmates can give you tips and pointers in the areas you need help and it will be in an environment in which you should feel somewhat more comfortable with that constructive criticism.\n\n* Get out in public and engage with as many people as possible. Speaking with and listening to other people will do wonders in helping you learn what types of communication are effective and what are not.\n\n* Go to your local courthouse and sit in on some trials. Most trials are open to the public. You can sit and watch actual attorneys doing their work. Like #3 above, this will allow you to directly observe what methods and styles are more effective than others.\n\n* Don't expect perfection. I know a lot of great attorneys that have been practicing for decades that don't know how to properly communicate verbally or in public (like a trial). Most attorneys communicate through writing, not speaking. Trial attorneys are a very small group within the profession and not even all trial attorneys are good at what they do.\n\n* Be patient and forgiving with yourself.\n\nI wish you the best of luck and as others have noted, whether or not you go to law school or become a practicing lawyer, working on the above skills will make you better at nearly any occupation you end up filling.\n\n[",
"read books or listen to audiobooks. one of the best things you can do. \n\nalso, practice speaking up when the stakes are low. makes it easier come time for more important stuff.",
"if you ever listen to someone of extreme intelligence the common theme is that they think about their answers to questions and speak directly, and paced as to not speak without getting the intended point across",
"You have multiple spelling and grammar errors in this and other posts/comments. The first step to speak articulately is to learn English spelling and grammar. Coursera offers free courses for this, one of which started today:\n\nhttps://www.coursera.org/specializations/learn-english-beginning-grammar",
"You don't need to articulate or be well-spoken on this issue at all.\n\nThe best advice I can give you?\n\nStop telling people what your ideas and goals are. It's none of their business.\n\nDo more and talk less.\n\nChoose better friends.\n\nDump toxic friends and family.\n\nAnd most importantly, care less about others opinions as an absolute rule. They won't be paying your bills when you leave home. That includes family. Especially family.",
"Try to assume that they have something to offer you. Listen carefully.\n\nRead. Read. Read.\n\nRead and listen.",
"Take a paragraph from a book/magazine/article and rewrite it as eloquently as possible. Look for synonyms for words you want to replace and ingest all the options. Soon enough they'll be available in your head when you speak.",
"Some have mentioned it already, but consider joining a Toastmasters group. I've been a part of a group for about 3 years and it has significantly helped me improve my ability and comfort when public speaking.",
"Say something like 'I have 3 crucial details...... '\n\nThis makes the listeners automatically move focus from butting in with their words, to waiting for thr 3 details to emerge. \n\nEven when you don't have the 3 details articulated in your head already, you'll find you can stack them as you speak. \n\nIn a rare event you're out of meaning by the time you reach 3, depend on yourself to gracefully correct yourself with something like 'actually it's two, not three'. \n\nMerely presenting your words in such a structured manner makes the other person think of you with sorted thinking.",
"Read & write a lot.\n\nReading regularly will strengthen the “idea generation” part of your brain.\n\nWriting regularly will force you to organize/manipulate/communicate those ideas. My articulation improved immensely after I started writing regularly.\n\n\nAlso, I think what you write about matters a lot as well. You have to be writing things that force you to think critically.",
"Random tips, hope these are helpful in addition to what everyone else has said. \n\nA pause will always be better than an “um” and the like. \n\nSpeak quieter for the more important bits of whatever you’re saying, it tends to draw people in more. \n\nI thought I’d have a third but I don’t. Good luck with law school!",
"Presentation. \n\nThink about how you enter a room before even speaking as it’s how you introduce yourself and the greatest area of improvement. \n\nDress, posture, and be deliberate. \n\n1. Dress well and look professional to the venue/industry you are in. \n\n2. Have strong, confident posture (look up some YouTube videos on walking/standing with confidence). \n\n3. Be deliberate in your actions/words. Quick, frantic movements and jumbled words are indicators of a knowledge gap and a lack of confidence. \n\n\nRight or wrong, the greater populace will take note of these tells and slot you into their brain bank in line with their own personal historical precedent. They will align like with like. So if you wear torn jeans and boots with a cowboy hat…their initial view of you may not be “knowledgeable, confident, this person could be a decent lawyer”.",
"Practice.\n\nTake a public speaking class, join toastmasters etc. It's a skill that can be honed like anything else. During graduate school, we had to present scientific data regularly. We took classes on it and I got much better. \n\nYears later, I published a paper that got the attention of the press. I was interviewed about it live, on-air. I did poorly because it wasn't scripted, with slides etc. like a typical scientific seminar/presentation. Something kinda expected happened though: I probably gave 30-40 additional interviews over the next month. By the time I did the last one, I was on point. Concise, articulate answers etc.\n\nThe only other advice I'd provide is people *typically* fill voids as they speak with lots of \"umms,\"\"errs,\" etc. Its something you can consciously work on. When I've really got a scripted presentation mastered, I have this odd phenomena where I feel like my internal monologue is 2-3 words ahead of what I'm verbally speaking. That's when I know I've got it dialed in.",
"Practice your \"elevator pitch\", 30 seconds or so encompassing what you have to say, as if you had the chance to tell the person who can make it happen while on an elevator. Practice what you want to say, make a video on your phone or laptop and endure watching it. It will get all the \"uh\" \"er\" pauses out. Pauses are fine of course, but those verbal placeholders detract from your presentation.",
"No condescension here but read a dictionary. You’ll pick up words that make you sound smarter, it sounds silly I know but it really works. Just avoid the obvious ones like niggardly. Because like sounding smart impresses people, words like that offend them. \n\nAvoid idioms for the same reason, saw a dude blow a fuse over the idiom it’s been a coons age. \n\nLook general rule of thumb is the every man is typically ignorant and arrogant, and it’s the Everyman who is usually on the stand/jury.",
"Master your pauses. Most people are uncomfortable with this, but it actually does a great job at adding importance to your statements. A person can ramble more than they can imagine, and by adding pauses to your speaking style, it illustrates confidence. Also, maintain eye contact, and look around the room, to those you are addressing. \n\n[This video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E4SSU29Arj0) is a great example. Best of luck. You got this!",
"Many lawyers are lousy public speakers. Most lawyers rarely set foot in court. Don’t worry about your speaking skills worry about your LSAT score…",
"In College my Mass communications Professor had us stand in front of the class and freely speak on a subject we were knowledgeable about. She would mark a tally on the board behind us every time we used transition words: and, umm, uhh, like, so. Maybe a significant other could do the same or stand in front a mirror and tally it yourself.",
"If you can speak entire sentences without needing to stop or stutter, you will sound a lot more eloquent without needing to change your speech or words. \n \nThe key to doing that is to speak slower and more deliberately.",
"I suggest watching some popular TED talks. The people doing these presentation are great speakers. They don't rush, they don't read off the slides. They practiced and they are passionate about what they're saying.",
"I started making 10 minute videos where I have to talk to the camera for 10 minutes no matter what, I did it every month for a year. It was like a video diary. It helped me get better at speaking and expressing myself. \n\nThey were also quite interesting to watch back years later as I could see how my mentality had changed.",
"Follow up LPT: how to get your point across succinctly by eliminating redundant words from a subject line and not repeating the same thing twice using different words",
"much like dating, it's all about confidence. just pay attention to which of your personal traits people react to in positive or negative ways. for example, i'm as genuinely well meaning as i am opinionated. when meeting someone, i purposefully lead with the former and keep the latter in check not by keeping my opinions to a minimum (that would make me boring), but by never being pedantic.\n\ngood luck\n\np.s. part of me wants to delete this 'cause I've yet to meet a lawyer i don't invariably want to choke with his own tie.",
"You know, my law professor made interesting points about the elaborative speech used by lawyers and how this is shifting. He said lawyers were paid by the word, back in the day, thus the highly decorative language. He goes on to say there is certainly a shift to be concise and direct to be effective at communicating. I would practice effective communication on top of all of the other great advice from others.",
"Weirdly enough, I watched Al Gore speak.\n\nHe speaks slowly, never says uhh or like, and when hes gathering his thoughts, its a very short silence instead of uhhh\n\nBody language is half of your communication. Make eye contact with everyone you're speaking to",
"There's an app on the play store called magoosh vocabulary builder, it's very good for learning new words for expressing various thoughts and opinions in a more efficient way. It's a bit dry though, I only use it for about 10 minutes a day. It's nice when a situation pops up where you can use one of your new words, lovely little dopamine rush. Yum :D",
"There was an exercise I practiced for my school business club. The goal is monologue without say um or uhh or stalking if any kind. Just practice this in your while you shower or walk or w.e. You can think about any topic and it doesn't necessarily have to stay on topic either, the point is to just keep talking without stalling. EG Today I was taking a shower during which the water was fairly warm and I started thinking about the current state of my water heater. I'm concerned for it because the water in this area is very hard so eventually it will get clogged. What worries me more is the impact on the rest of the plumbing in the house and impact this could have on the property value. Perhaps rather than fixing it, it would be better to just rent it out to tenants untill it completely fails. That way I can extract more value from it. The rents in the area have increased substantial so this could be a good way to offset the costs of repairs so that the house is great condition when it comes time to sell.... And so on. I don't even own the home lol I'm just trying to keep the thought running.",
"The only way to become more articulate is to practice actively.\n\nIf you want to get rid of \"umms\" and \"uhhs\" you need to actively stop yourself each time you catch yourself saying one. With enough training yourself you will naturally begin to not include them.\n\nA short silence is better than an \"Umm\", in every scenario.\n\nIf you want to sound knowledgeable about a topic, you must speak about it **out loud** at great lengths, then when you are asked about it you will be able to easily put your thoughts about it into words. Without the practice beforehand, you will struggle turning those very cohesive ideas in your mind into actual words to communicate your ideas.",
"The key is practice! Spend hours and hours and hours practicing. No one was born with an innate ability to be articulate while speaking.",
"Take a class, it helps a lot. \nWhat made a huge difference for me was to remember that I don't have to fill every moment with sound. Taking a break to formulate your next thought makes you sound thoughtful not slow and gets rid of those annoying thinking sounds like \"emmm\"\n\nSecondly be prepared and know your subject. Say it aloud in front of the mirror. If it's particularly important record yourself and watch it.",
"Study philosophy, specifically Logic and reasoning. It will help you learn how to formulate arguments in a logical and coherent manner while also helping you to break down others fallacious arguments. Doing both will make you more intelligent by enhancing your critical thinking abilities. This was a game changer for me in university. I was a 70% student my whole life, and one day a professor pulls me aside and explains that i have amazing ideas but how I explain and structure my arguments to support them was so bad. After a phil101 course on logic and reasoning every single class i took was 85% or higher never got lower than a 90% on a research paper after than.",
"Step 1: Be born into an upper-class family to two college graduates who stay married and have a healthy relationship.\n\nStep 2: Don't do drugs.\n\nThat's it. That's all you have to do.",
"Seriously speaking, get someone to practice with, talk about subjects you are confident in first, then talk about less confident subjects, but try to carry over the confidence,",
"Read. Eloquence comes from mimicking dialogue and storytelling you have experienced. And reading is the fastest way to experience those things.",
"Read, read, and read. Everything you can the more you know the more you understand, and can relay informatuon more effectively.",
"Read more - it will help you in your goals to be article and well spoken. \n\nThat being said, speaking is not part of the job for 90% of lawyers in America. \n\nWhat silly questions are they asking you? \n\nWhat do they doubt about your ability?",
"Read books out loud. Try doing 5 minutes of stand up comedy on stage or infront of a camera. Repeat until you feel good 👍 . Try to identify different ways to deliver the same line and how those adjustments change the way the line is received.",
"Practise. \n\nYeah, maybe some of the things you say will sound rehersed. So what? Rehersed is better than tripping over your words and stumbling. Consider questions people have asked you already, try and think up ones they will ask in the future, and come up with a response. \n\n​\n\nAlso (as others have said) dont be afraid to slow down and give some thought to word choice. Maybe you're at a cocktail party so instead of \"i dont like\" you say \"i loathe\" maybe you're at a frat so you say you thought it was \"dumb\". You get the idea. \n\n​\n\nFinal note. The vast majority of speaking, public or otherwise, isn't exactly about the specific words, and it's more about saying them clearly and confidently. Thus; practise.",
"Possibly unorthodox but listen/watch standup comedians. Obviously your topics and intent will be different but for the successful ones; their skill is controlling the flow of a room and a conversation. A stadium, even. \n\nYou don't want to be overly animated or under-animated, as some are, but their livelihood is based on drawing people in and carrying them on a narrative journey for an hour or so. You learn tricks for the beat of an argument and the arrangement of a story. Which statements to make when and how to drop a point at the most effective time. \n\nObviously you're not likely sharing similar material, but a lot of the understanding of the form of speaking to a group can be helpful.",
"Making it requires faking it. You gotta be talking yourself up the whole time before you speak. Being well-spoken is more confidence than anything imo.",
"Look for a group called Toastmasters. A friendly organization that helps someone learn how to speak in public.",
"Law school is a terrible idea unless someone else is paying for it. Lawyers are out of work\nAll over the place.\n\nWhat makes you want to be a lawyer?",
"Join toastmasters. The way to get better at public speaking is to do public speaking. The more you do it, the easier it gets.\n\nAnd don't worry about being bad now, everyone who starts, is bad at the beginning, so everyone will look at how you are, and remember how much worse thry were when they started.",
"Is English your second language? English is a very difficult language and is full of contradictions. You need to listen to how articulate people speak and read more. Make a study of it. It won't improve overnight. If these comments make sense to you, maybe you can improve your English. If it does not make sense, maybe you should take an aptitude test and find out where your greatest talents are. Law is very dependent on verbal reasoning and the way you use English does not show your ability to reason. If you are a student you could join a debate team and improve your verbal and language skills there.\n\nYour post is full of errors that make you sound inarticulate. Maybe you are just learning English or grew up in a home where it was not spoken well. You need to improve those skills if you want to sound articulate in English. Maybe you sound brilliant in another language! Who knows?",
"I'm 60, and have all the tact and grace of a well-thrown brick. I don't think I'll be changing that, at this juncture in life. Besides, you'll always get honesty from me.",
"Have you talked to any actual lawyers? You might be suprised how poor many of them are as communicators . I'm a practicing attorney and I think T.V. and movies give people an exaggerated idea of how skilled everyone is. \n\nMy advice is practice as much as possible take classes that require you to speak in public. No one is born a great communicator. It comes through practice and hard work. Look for opportunities to debate your ideas. Law school will give you a ton of opportunities to get experience. Sign up for moot court and trial advocacy competitions. Look for clinics and externships that will give you a chance to uses these skill while in law school. Look for classes that focus on practical skills like negotiations and mediation. Everyone has their own style of speaking. The key is to find what works for you and get incrementally better.",
"Good grammar is important. There is a grammar error in your post. There is also a usage error. \"People ask me.\" \"Communicate my ideas effectively.\" It's more effective without \"across.\"",
"For some time now I started speaking more clear English by not saying stuff like “I’m” “don’t” “can’t” and replacing by more clear words like “I am” “do not” “cannot”\n\nIt helps others non native to understand clearly and not misunderstand as much. It also help when writing and speaking as I do pronounce every word with more clarity.",
"Don't do it!!! 😂 No, I mean, law school will help you gain a lot of valuable language/communication skills. Do you work in the legal profession right now? What are your goals? Try to get a scholarship to go.",
"Don't be afraid to just stare and slowly blink at people as if they just said something stupid. Allows you to think and dumb things down for some people.",
"Consider joining a group like toastmasters. They can be invaluable when learning to convey a point. So much so, I brought my Girl Scouts to a meeting for some assistance in fine tuning a presentation they had to give to several community leaders and the advice was so expertly given the girls were commended repeatedly by seasoned speakers for their polished program.",
"Before I even look at the replies, I want to tell you a story. I was on a jury hearing a theft case. The defense attorney stuttered, had a twitch, wasn't well dressed (sport jacket and slacks instead of a blue \"power suit\", wore a brown jacket/pants \\[why is brown < blue or grey, anyway?\\], basically completely projected the wrong image). Yet he still won the case. In law, facts and arguments are more important than presentation. Yes presentation helps (the most successful attorneys \\[financially, I know there are other ways to measure success\\] also have an extremely successful presentation, but it's really the second most important thing).\n\nIn anything you do in life, the most important thing you do is communicate effectively. This means both understanding what the other party is saying, and getting them to understand your point. One of the most powerful memories I have is Sam Ervin (look him up) saying \"Shucks, I'm just a poor backcountry lawyer, I don't understand this high-falutin' stuff you're talking about.\" And then running the whole show, because he understood people.\n\nMost undergraduate work is really about communication. (Professional degrees excepted. In the US, the only professional undergraduate program is engineering.) You will get lots of feedback in your classes about how you communicate. Pay attention to that. The only two things that they won't tell you about (unless you are very lucky) are that short words and sentences are better than long ones, and short presentations are better than long ones. (I know I'm not following those rules now, but I'm procrastinating and don't really have the time to do this right.) It's hard, but it gets easier with practice.\n\nThis is something that you can learn to do.\n\nOne last comment. Law is not an easy way to get rich. Some lawyers make a lot of money, a lot don't make very much. It's a reasonable way to live a satisfying life, but a lousy bet if you want to get rich. (Actually, a lot of things are like this. You can make a really good living if you're good at it, but it's a terrible way to slave away.)",
"Also control your emotions when you speak and use them to help further your argument not distract from it.",
"Watch a lot of bbc series that are period pieces. Downton abbey shows. Shows that follow the aristocracy. Try to lose your accent if possible. Don’t curse. Not sure how you dress or look but appearance goes a long way. Look like you are from money and going to law school. I know it’s not fair but that’s how it works. First impressions.",
"Good advise in the comments, I must add that I articulate particularly well when I'm on a decent NoFap streak.",
"Attorney here, don’t go to law school. Being a lawyer sucks. That’s the post. That’s it. Don’t do it."
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"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play.",
"How to break my video game addiction and play video games less. I spend about 8-12 hours a day on days that I don't have work playing video games. My girlfriend hates it. It basically eats up all the time I have that isn't working, lifting, or sleeping. Though I try to cut back it always turns into all day play sessions on my days off. Its really odd, because on work days, I work for 12 hours, hit the gym and then come home and spend the rest of the day with my gf and have no urge to play. However, on the weekends, I am consumed by a need to play."
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"Get rid of them. Don't try to play video games less. That's like an alcoholic trying to drink in moderation.\n\nIt's what I did. I was playing League of Legends for hours every day. I realized this was a complete waste of time and I wouldn't be where I wanted to be in a year if I kept wasting time playing LoL. So I uninstalled it.\n\nIt's like the Nike phrase \"Just do it\". Just fucking do it. Do it now, do not set a date in the next week or you will rationalize and put it off. Watch the Shia Lebeouf motivational video over and over. DO IT.\n\nWhen you want to start eating differently, you do the same thing. You throw out the bad foods. You do not keep them around to tempt you.\n\nI am someone who has completely reshaped his life in the last year and a half, and I did it all cold turkey. I decided to change the way I eat and I didn't stop. I decided to start lifting and I haven't stopped. I decided to stop playing video games and I relapsed once for a few weeks, but have stopped. I went back to school and haven't stopped. I decided to be more social and I haven't stopped.\n\n[I did this all one step at a time, one decision at a time. Do not listen to the others in here saying that you can moderate your habit. You will get nowhere with this, in the same way no one sticks with a diet. If you want to change your eating habits, YOU JUST DO IT. No rationalizing, putting off, moderating. You just do it.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nuHfVn_cfHU)",
"I used to be a \"wrecked my life, lost my job\" video game addict. I still game, but not as often. The only thing that's helped is filling the time with something that is *mentally engaging* at or above the level of video games. So you could consider reading, learning a new craft, etc. Learning to cook is something I would highly recommend. I learned to cook, am teaching myself a language ( /r/languagelearning has lots of resources and specific subs in teh sidebar), and picked up more hours at my new job.\n\nThe main thing that helped me kick the *desire* to sit and game for long periods is a frequent reminder that I wasn't accomplishing anything and that the same amount of time invested in something constructive would make me a more interesting and skilled person. There's always time for relaxation and you don't *need* to be bettering yourself every moment, but when you look back on a weekend and realized you did literally nothing of value it can be a real bummer. :(",
"1. Get a girlfriend\n2. Get married\n3. Have kids\n4. Show them how to play video games\n5. Realize you're playing less because of #4\n6. Become the person you don't want to be because now you're yelling at him that he's on the video game too much (probably because you're really angry that its not you playing and instead you're working)\n7. LPT fulfilled - albeit many many years later.\n",
"Pick up a new hobby or 2. personally I have much less time for video games lately as I am busy playing disc golf, going fishing, tying flies for fishing, and going on exploration hikes to find new fishing spots, also playing guitar--really enjoying Rocksmith 2014, and I got my partner into it too so there's a game we play together now at least. \n",
"If getting rid of them truly isn't an option (although that is the easiest), make plans for the weekend. I don't just mean go out at night to the bar. I mean, drive out to a nearby National Park, museum, picnics, yardsales/thrift shopping. You start planning out that Saturday or Sunday twice/three times a month you'll fill the day, still have time for the gym, and likely won't have the need, as you already don't during the week.",
"I've found that the more productive you become at skill building things, the less you will want to play video games or watch tv. Productive people feel guilty when they play games because they know they could be spending that time practicing a skill or getting work done. ",
"Hey! Thanks for sharing, I was \"addicted\" for over 10 years, used to play up to 16 hours a day and since then have managed to quit and haven't touched one in over four years. If you want to learn more about my story, you can watch it here: [TEDx](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHmC2D0_Hdg).\n\n**Here is what you need to know and how you can break it:**\n\nYou play games for very specific reasons (they fulfill certain needs you have), so in order to quit you need to identify what these needs are and be intentional in finding new ways to fulfill them.\n\nThis isn't just about \"filling the void\"... it's about understanding that gaming is fulfilling something (many things) in your life, and you'll always, consciously or unconsciously, be finding ways to fulfill these needs. If you want to be successful you need to be intentional in how you're going to fulfill the needs you have that gaming traditionally fulfilled for you.\n\nIt's not that gaming is good or bad or that you should play or not. It's just about making a decision about how you want to live your life and finding a way to make it happen.\n\nSo what needs does gaming fulfill? There are a bunch and you'll need to identify this for yourself, but four I think are important to note are:\n\n1. They offer temporary escape\n2. They are social\n3. You see constant measurable growth\n4. They are a challenge\n\nThis means games allow you to have a break from the stress in your life, you get to play with friends, you get to see feedback and progress and they give you a sense of purpose, a mission and a goal to work towards.\n\nAnyways, I can go more into this if you want but that's the basics.\n\n**Why you play on the weekends and what to do about it:**\n\nMy guess is the reason you play on the weekends is for two main reasons:\n\n1. During the week you have more structure so you're naturally more organized, you have less time to \"fill\" and so you aren't at home and bored as much (which is when you will want to play.)\n\n2. As gamers we tend to have a specific mindset that relates to our obligations and free time. We are fulfilling our obligations (school/work), so we feel more power and ownership over our free time to do whatever we want. And gaming is a great way to kill our time. The difference though is that our time isn't really something we should *kill*, it's something we can invest. Again this comes down to your goals and the life you're really trying to create for yourself (and your girlfriend).\n\n**So to break it on the weekends you'll want to follow the steps below:**\n\n1. Uninstall/Delete your games. You're closing a chapter in your life (one with games) to create a new chapter (one without games.)\n2. Choose new activities. Here is a thread on /r/StopGaming w/ [ideas](http://www.reddit.com/r/StopGaming/comments/2nz945/resource_58_hobby_ideas/). I'd recommend coming up with a few new goals to work towards and/or a project you can do on the weekends, keeping in mind that gaming tends to be mentally engaging, social and something you can do at home when you're bored/tired, so any new activities you choose you'll want to make sure you have at least one that is mentally engaging (stimulating), one that is social and helps you interact with people, and one that is more of a resting activity when you're tired/bored at home.\n3. Setup a daily schedule, especially on the weekends. Try and be out of the house as much as possible where your temptations will be the lowest.\n4. Setup a badge on /r/StopGaming if you want to track your days (for commitment.)\n\nAnyways, hope that helps. There's much more I can go into about how our brains relate to gaming, so much more about mindsets and how to move forward, but I'll leave it for now. Feel free to ask any questions you have or shoot me a message. Happy to help.",
"Find another hobby: I was like to I'd spend bloody ages playing videogames, until I started archery, now I'm out at the field in the fresh air loosing arrows for hours on end instead of sitting inside on my own. I still play plenty when it's wet or if I don't really have time to go to the range, but I probably play half as much as I used to now ",
"Find another hobby to replace it. You don't just remove something that uses that much of your day without filling that space.",
"Fill your weekends with activities. Plan camping trips, go to the movies with the gf, plan group brunches, whatever you need to get out of the house. Schedule something at a point in the day that it makes you stop playing after a reasonable amount of time. For instance, schedule a lunch with someone and a dinner with someone else. In between you can play, but if you don't leave you'll be a dick.\n\nI personally find that the social aspect is key. Fill your time with events related to other people that you enjoy, and it will make you want to play less. ",
"1. Cold turkey stop - best bet\n\n2. Slowly moderating down by use of timing devices.\n\n3. Losing your life to game addiction\n\nChose your option and good luck becoming more human again.",
"Just a wild theory, but try video-recording yourself. I'll bet when you play it back you'll see what a waste of time it was, sitting there so fascinated by bright lights and noises like a frog.",
"Hi, have you tried just not playing? Having some self control? Next you'll say you're addicted to jerking off. "
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"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :(",
"How can I overcome extreme anxiety? I can't even leave the house often because I'm too scared to go out. Outside, there's so much pressure to keep up appearances, and I hate myself.\n\nWhen I do manage to leave the house, I'm terrible at talking, I have panic attacks and breakdowns when I get too stressed (which is often), and I often come home too upset and tired to continue the day, which makes me feel even worse and want to go out even less. I dropped out of school early because I kept having breakdowns in class, and didn't see or talk to another friend for over 5 years, most of which was spent indoors.\n\nOn the same hand, when I'm at home I have suicidal thoughts, which increase the longer I'm inside. Every day I lack the willpower to even eat or drink. I've seen so many different therapists any not one understands why I'm the way I am... yet I want to work, and see friends, and do things which are enjoyable, or helpful to others...\n\nFor the record, I've been diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, OCD, and mild depression. I just need to know how to break out of this routine. I'm 21, I've been suffering from depression and suiciday thoughts since I was 8. :("
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"At one point in my life, I was crippled by shyness and self-consciousness to the point I couldn't even eat if anyone was around. \n\nI decided to \"pretend\"... I started out by pretending I was confident. And, no one ever thought to the contrary. So I expanded it and started going out for brief periods to social gatherings that were kinda anonymous (think of a local car show, no one bothers you, but you get to practice being in close proximity to others). In little increments, I was able to work my way out of the cycle of anti-social depression. \nTry it. \n\nFind stuff outside that doesn't require direct conversation or interaction... start there!\n\nYou can always leave your earbuds in and use a fake conversation on the phone to avoid talking with others. ",
"Slowly, small steps. Try just sitting on the porch for a while, thinking positive thoughts, whatever makes you happy. Do something while outside, close to your home, like grab the hose and hose down the driveway/car/porch. Even listening to music or something. Do small things until you feel comfortable enough to do more. The only way to get over (or at least learn to deal with) anxiety is to face it. Hopefully you have someone close to you who can help. I would suggest you let someone close to you help you, if you can't, find a chat room/support site online. Sometimes talking to strangers online helps a lot more than you think! Just keep progressing no matter what!",
"If the anxiety gets extremely bad, pick a wall in your house and press your shoulder blades against it. This deactivates your \"fight or flight\" reflex because it basically tells your body the threat is gone.\n\nThere is a great app called the \"Calm\" app that can take you through some breathing techniques that can also decrease heart rate and that anxious feeling.\n\nCreate a to do list, even small things like \"make my bed\" because it gives that sense of accomplishment. Put eating on there too.\n\nFinally, there are online therapists if leaving is too difficult right now.",
"You've been around shrinks all your life. So here is some knowledge that they all learned in grad school, but which seems so obvious to them that they rarely bother telling their patients. Sorry if you have heard all of this before, but more often than not, I find that people going through psych treatment misunderstand some important details of how the process works on a practical level, which makes them waste a lot of energy working on stuff that is irrelevant to helping them feel better. Anyway... here you go:\n\n##Recognize\n that anxiety and all the diagnoses you mentioned are complex issues well beyond the scope of a pithy reddit post. There's gonna be a lot of good advice here, and probably some bad advice. There is no such thing a quick fix in psychiatry. The very best individual bit of help you can get will help a little bit at most. \n\nIt's gonna take lots of little bits of good help over time to manage your anxiety. Current psychiatric medicine is not capable of curing most ailments - that's maybe 50 years down the road if it ever comes. \nBut if you can reliably stave off the symptoms that bother you, that's almost indistinguishable from a cure. You were born too early in history to ever know the root cause of what's wrong with you, luckily it seems that the root cause of your ailments is largely irrelevant to effectively treating them. Aim for managing your condition rather than trying to make it go away. Treat tiny improvements as major victories because that's what major victories look like in psych treatment. \n\n##Realize \nthat many medical diagnoses are not fundamental biological mechanisms in their own right, but collections of symptoms that happen to be statistically useful for planning treatment. This is especially true of psychiatric diagnoses - and often misinterpreted to mean that people are \"faking.\" But all it really means is that the study of a disease is in its infancy. \n\nThat's a hard concept, so I'll try to break it down with some examples. If you have appendicitis or a brain tumor or a cold, medical science can tell you the mechanism by which you have become sick in a very concrete way. They can take a picture and point to it, or draw a diagram and quantify it. But not all diseases are like that. Lupus is a common autoimmune disease. It is obviously a real thing with potentially serious symptoms, and there is well-established medical support to treat it. But no one has identified the precise biological mechanisms responsible for Lupus. We just know that there are people present with certain sets of symptoms that are very similar to other people's symptoms, and when we gave them the same therapy (chemical or otherwise), it usually changes the symptoms in the same way. \n\nUntil more research is done, anxiety, OCD, depression, etc are merely keywords for diagnostically useful groups of symptoms - that's why they are defined in a *statistical diagnostic handbook,* the *DSMV,* rather than a different sort of medical text. It is important to understand this distinction, because it will help prevent you from trying to identify with your diagnosis. Unfortunately, it kinda sounds like you have been doing this for a while - it happens to a lot of people. \n\nWhat do I mean by identifying with your diagnosis? Well, a lot of people go to the doctor complaining of psychological symptoms. They start with some specific complaints - \"I feel sad too much\" - and then they are diagnosed with, for example, Bipolar Disorder. And thats where treatment derails. Instead of focusing on whether the thing that was bothering them feels better, patients start trying to make their diagnosis feel better, or trying to sleuth out the precise disease they happen to have. All of which essentially amounts to tilting at windmills, because a diagnosis is not a concrete ailment in itself. The only things that are ever actually wrong with a patient are the symptoms that are annoying enough to warrant seeing a doctor. Don't let a medical terminology distract you from getting better. \n\n##Diagnostic terms\n like \"general anxiety disorder\" mostly exist to help Doctors plan relevant treatments - essentially, they are an index for sorting through medical literature. These terms do not correlate to any known mechanisms of action that *cause* symptoms. As such, they are pretty much irrelevant to anyone except a doctor who is trying to plan a course of treatment. If the treatment plan make the symptoms that bother you decrease, it is a \"correct\" diagnosis. If treatment plans indexed under a diagnosis don't help much, it is a \"misdiagnosis,\" and which means that your doctor might have better results picking treatments from column B on the great Chinese menu of psychiatry. There is little further meaning in statistical diagnostic terms. \n\nUnlike diagnostic terms, which do not imply any sort of causation, an individual therapy has a very specific cause and effect. It always does precisely what it does - no more, and no less. It is important to remember that the existence of the things we use to treat diseases is not fundamentally related to the diseases themselves. There is no such thing as medicine for ADHD or Depression, just therapies that are known to alter certain hallmark symptoms. In fact, most of the the effects of any treatment will be irrelevant to your symptoms. The popular medication Adderall helps people who present a particular group of symptoms and markers focus better at work, which is great if you are having trouble focusing at work and belong to that group of people. Adderall also makes people good at operating certain types of machinery, suppresses appetite, and makes it hard to fall asleep, which have nothing to do with ADHD. \n\nYou're probably familiar with the medical phrase \"diagnosed with ADHD.\" This is a good place to try to notice that \"diagnosed with\" is just medical parlance for \"belongs to that certain group of people,\" and ADHD is just a placeholder name so we can tell \"that\" group apart from \"this\" group. It actually makes no grammatical sense to say things like \"Bob's ADHD makes it hard for him to focus,\" because diagnoses like ADHD are not a tangible things with the ability to cause stuff. Rather, \"Bob's difficulty focusing suggests that he will benefit from treatments that help people with the set of symptoms that we call ADHD^(a made-up name that is more convenient to write than listing them all out)\" Or, \"Bob's difficulty focusing suggests a diagnosis of ADHD.\"\n\nYou may have to try several combinations of treatments to end up with a consistent plan that best addresses the specific group of symptoms that are bothering you. Even then, it won't be perfect. The fact that brains can even notice SSRIs is a not much more than a lucky coincidence. \n\n##Statistics are very good at diagnosing people, but they are not universal truths.\n Psych treatments are prescribed based on what works for the majority of people. It is expected that you will be the exception to certain rules. Don't worry, that's why there are alternate treatments. If 93% of patients with ADHD symptoms feel more focused when they take Adderall, that means a good amount of people will find Adderall unhelpful for improving their focus. Try five different treatments for improving focus, each with a 93% success rate and at least one is almost guaranteed to work. You can't beat the odds every time. That's the magic of statistics. Again, don't get distracted from your tangible symptoms - Adderall isn't the only drug that helps with focus, and ADHD is not the only diagnostic category that specifies treatments to improve focus. \n\n*Don't get bogged down trying to cure a diagnosis. Whatever ends up making your concrete complaints feel better is the right choice.* \n***\n\nTLDR:\n\n* __Identify the specific, tangible symptoms that are bothering you and try to lessen them.__ Tangible symptoms are the only things that can directly make you feel bad, and lessening them is the only way to actually feel better. \n\n* __Don't identify with your diagnosis.__ A diagnosis is just an index term that a doctor uses to do meta-analysis of your symptoms, don't go looking for meaning in a glorified library call number. \n\n* __Ask people for help with your concrete problems, and do what they say - especially if you think it sounds stupid or miserable.__ Ever wonder how an acclaimed director could leave that awful scene in the movie, when every Joe in the theater could tell that it sucked? It turns out that people are much better at catching other people's mistakes than their own. Depressed people are especially bad at catching their own mistakes. It sucks not to be able to trust your own judgement. That's part of why diseases affecting the brain are so insidious. Luckily, other people can see what's wrong and how to fix it better than you can. Take advantage of this huge evolutionary benefit of being a social animal. Let people drag you out of bed, drag you to the doctor, let them force you to buy new clothes or go to a yoga class or ask a someone on a date. Let the healthy members of the tribe patch you up. \n\n* __Wait it out.__ A lot of psych problems manifest in adolescence for fairly obvious reasons. As you come out of the hormonal ground zero and the dust settles, you will probably notice your symptoms starting to clear up. It sucks that this happens to people right when they are supposed to be launching their adult lives. Life's not fair. It's not that unusual for young people to struggle to get out of bed until they're 25 and suddenly find that they can making new friends, going on dates, finish college, all as if nothing ever happened. That doesn't mean you should malinger. Future you will really appreciate any little thing you can do (taking a class, getting a Tinder account, going to the gym, getting really good at counterstrike) if it means less stuff to catch up on later. \n\n",
"As I read this I am about to hit one month on a residential psychiatric unit. I see you have been to multiple therapists, but it may be helpful to try a higher level of treatment for a brief period of time if you can. I am aware of the stigma but I have found the last month to be very helpful. I have my own room, and each day there are a variety of groups that teach different therapy skills. I also meet one on one with a psychiatrist (for medication management) and a therapist daily. It has all proceeded fairly easily in that is a very low pressure environment and you can slowly work up to attending groups to reduce the anxiety, you participate however much you want, and the other people on the unit are all going through similar situations which makes it easier to talk or relate on your own terms. For reference I have been diagnosed with severe depression (was actually medically retired for it), social anxiety disorder and traits of borderline personality disorder.",
"Recovery is a slow process, it can't happen overnight. Start slow, like going outside in your backyard (it's usually more private), then start building up to going to you front yard, then the sidewalk, then down the street and so on. It helps if you have someone close, like a family member or a friend go with you until you feel like you can go alone. This is called exposure therapy, slowly building up a tolerance to what causes the anxiety. When you do get good enough to go into town or whatever, try to get in the mindset that most of the people you pass by will never see you again. It doesn't matter what they think, they're not going to laugh at you or tease you because your shoe is untied or you tripped on the sidewalk. They'll just walk on by, minding their own business. \nEventually, you can conquer this, I know you can! =)\n",
"Anxiety medications are very effective at treating many forms of anxiety. I would recommend asking your psychiatrist for a trial run of something like clonazepam that can be taken on a discretionary basis without it knocking you out or making you loopy. \n\nYou can make all the lifestyle changes as well, but for me it took medication. Not many people understand what it means to have severe general anxiety. Took me thirty years to realize medications were just another tool to help me work on myself. ",
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"You just need to change what is is you're seeing because what what eyes see is obviously causing you distress.. change towns, fix that image, do something different. You are completely able to reinvent yourself and no one but yourself can hold you back ",
"The more you leave the house the easier it will become. You could just be popping out to the shop, walking nearby streets or going into town to window shop or visit the library. Try to pop out often. If you think about how *you* view other people, walking in their shoes, it may help a lot. Since you're not judging strangers you pass by on the street or in shops, you can see they won't be super-observant or at all critical of you either. Could you remember or describe anyone you passed on a short walk out for groceries? - I couldn't. When I was a new student I felt paranoid at the sound of laughter coming from a few rooms away in my hall of residence. Then I realised they wouldn't be laughing at me. There was no reason for them to because they didn't *know* me! I'm not of any interest to them and all their chat to each other would be about themselves and their people they know well. After realising that I never felt paranoid about strangers laughing and joking again. \n\nAny time you feel shy about talking, ask the other person questions so they're the one doing the talking and it's about them instead. They'll probably think you're a great conversationalist and a great listener for letting them do all the talking! I think some people like hair dressers and taxi drivers may take their ques from how chatty or not the customer is/isn't. \n\nIt would be good if you had some hobby or interest that bought you into regular contact with a small group of people you can make friends with whose company isn't a problem for you. It depends what you'd enjoy. Most people feel social anxiety in everyday life, so you're not alone. All those seemingly confident, chatty and self-assured people have their hang-ups too, if you only knew their stories and fears. At 21 you shouldn't have to miss out on good things. (See reddit British problems and a load of typical small everyday social anxieties lots of people feel and how silly they are really. \n\nOne idea if you have a back garden to get you out the house is gardening. ",
"Sorry to hear- Cognitive behavioural therapy helps some people. Below is a link to free online self help, works to challenge your thoughts, behaviours etc. People work through this sort of things either alone or through help from psychiatrists/psychologists which may be helpful for you too. There are a variety of ways for medical help if you feel you want/need it. Either way I'd recommend the below.\nhttps://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/anxiety.htm\nBest of luck xxx",
"Progressiv muscle relaxation helped me a lot (in combination with therapy and meds)\nIt takes some time till you see the results though, the idea is to learn relaxing in a safe environment and then being able to \"remember\" the feeling and recall it in a stressful situation.\nGetting a CD / Audio-Guide helps for getting started with it.\nFinding the right doctor should be priority though, especially with suicidal thoughts involved.\nWish you the best",
"Maybe an inpatient short term facility could be beneficial to you? At the end of the day you have to find a constructive way to manage your anxiety, put that nervous energy in to something. You should definitely get back into walking/running. If you can't muster the strength to leave the house today, try drawing, reading or creative writing. Maybe learning how to play an instrument? Just don't sit there and think about how awful you feel - you will only prolong your suffering by fixating on it. Change the tapes in your head, tell yourself you love yourself instead of saying that you hate yourself. All this shit that you are going through right now is only temporary with a bit of will power you can change your whole outlook on life right now. The sun will come out again and it's a new day...however I am not trying to down play your problems or give you some bootstrap speech if you really as though you are at risk for self harm or legit can't get it together on your own reach out for professional help.",
"I haven't been diagnosed with anxiety, but I sure as hell have some form of it. Though can't really say how severe.\n\nAnyway... I've become extremely good at 'lying' basically. I'm almost 30 now and since I've been 20 I've had business related conversations with experienced people, people which wouldn't do any business with me if they knew the real me.\n\nI don't think this is a simple \"do this and that\" and you're good.\n\nLearn how to lie. Not just lying to get away from something, but lying to not come off as weird or shaken. I can't really put words to what I'm trying to say here, but I felt like writing because I know exactly how you feel (though I've never contemplated suicide).\n\nI'll give you couple of examples...\n\nI'm married now, but back when I was teenager I had tons of girls, and with every single one of them I was shaking like a cat on a tall tree. But that was inside of me, on the outside I was confident that I can have any girl any time no problem.\n\nEven to this day, when I talk to someone about important business matters, I shake and quiver, I sweat like a running pig... But I never fiddle with my fingers, I keep as much eye contact as I can etc.\n\nWhat I'm trying to say I guess is, it's all in your head... Don't over think it.\n\nGood luck!",
"I am lots better. I still don't enjoy people contact, but I can go out and do what needs done! LOL! \nAnd there are a few people whose company I truly enjoy. :)",
"First thing I thought of is to take small steps. Wearing headphones while doing stuff outside will usually get people to leave you alone but get you out among people until you can slowly build up some confidence.\n\nHang in there!",
"I would suggest focusing more on your breathing when you feel anxious. It will center your focus and give you a clearer mind. It takes practice, but it does get easier. Practice at home alone first then slowly when doing different things, and you will find how easy it is to get distracted. No body knows exactly what they are doing so if you ever embarrass yourself, the most important thing to do is learn your lesson and move on. If you find yourself judging other people, you will assume others are doing the same when this is not always the case. Even those same people make mistakes. It's life and you need to take charge of your own being. No one can do that for you and you can't control any one else.\nI've also read that niacin (vitamin b6) helps with depression. This is a clear indication of poor diet.",
"I hope you guys don't mind, but I'm going to save this post and refer back to it. Thank-you all for your advice, and taking the time to write it. I've had CBT and take Fluoxetine. I went for a walk with my old dog and it was a beautiful day, although a little nerve-wrecking.\n\nLot's of gratitude!!! X",
"Go running in the morning. Anxiety has robbed you of everything, but if you can still put your hands to a keyboard and type, you can get your ass outside and walk/run for 30 minutes everyday. No more excuses, make exercise a part of your life and you will feel the difference"
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"How to get rid of the smell of paint? (More info in text) I moved in a new studio three months ago and the walls were orange.. I painted them white as soon as I moved in (landlord was okay). Now it’s been three month and my appartment still smells like \"rancid new paint\" if this makes sense? (To give you an idea, I own rats and when people come in they think it’s the cage that smells, but when I moved in the rats weren’t there and it started smelling right after I painted so I can 100%guarantee it’s the paint that smells weird like that) . I basically live with my windows open (not that much since cold weather is coming back) and can’t afford an air purifier. Is there any options to finally get rid of that smell…?",
"How to get rid of the smell of paint? (More info in text) I moved in a new studio three months ago and the walls were orange.. I painted them white as soon as I moved in (landlord was okay). Now it’s been three month and my appartment still smells like \"rancid new paint\" if this makes sense? (To give you an idea, I own rats and when people come in they think it’s the cage that smells, but when I moved in the rats weren’t there and it started smelling right after I painted so I can 100%guarantee it’s the paint that smells weird like that) . I basically live with my windows open (not that much since cold weather is coming back) and can’t afford an air purifier. Is there any options to finally get rid of that smell…?",
"How to get rid of the smell of paint? (More info in text) I moved in a new studio three months ago and the walls were orange.. I painted them white as soon as I moved in (landlord was okay). Now it’s been three month and my appartment still smells like \"rancid new paint\" if this makes sense? (To give you an idea, I own rats and when people come in they think it’s the cage that smells, but when I moved in the rats weren’t there and it started smelling right after I painted so I can 100%guarantee it’s the paint that smells weird like that) . I basically live with my windows open (not that much since cold weather is coming back) and can’t afford an air purifier. Is there any options to finally get rid of that smell…?"
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"The tips for charcoal and baking soda are both good, but temporary. More than likely you did actually use rancid paint, and there is bacteria in the paint.\n\nHere's what I found:\n\nFor paint that dries and still has a persistent smell, try washing the walls with a mixture of 1 part bleach to 10 parts water, then rinse with plain water and a clean sponge. Allow the walls to dry completely. Follow with an odor-sealing primer, such as Kilz (kilz.com) or BIN Advanced (rustoleum.com), a synthetic shellac sealer. You may need to apply two coats before repainting with fresh (unspoiled) paint.\n\n[Source](https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.oldhouseonline.com/repairs-and-how-to/a-fix-foul-smelling-paint/amp/)",
"Try putting some charcoal, like for grilling, in a big bowl and leave it out. It works for refrigerators.",
"Baking soda absorbs smell. \nLook up how to cure the paint. That’s what you gotta do. I think white vinegar or apple cider vinegar works."
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"How to stop comparing myself to others & desperately wanting to be able to change things that I can’t change? ",
"How to stop comparing myself to others & desperately wanting to be able to change things that I can’t change? ",
"How to stop comparing myself to others & desperately wanting to be able to change things that I can’t change? ",
"How to stop comparing myself to others & desperately wanting to be able to change things that I can’t change? ",
"How to stop comparing myself to others & desperately wanting to be able to change things that I can’t change? "
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"I highly recommend seeing a counselor, I have been working on these exact things and then some. Start a gratitude journal, three things you are thankful for everyday, and one to two goals you have for the day.\n\nWhen you find yourself comparing, stop and ask yourself—how is this thought helping me? It’s not. Then you can reflect on something great about yourself.\n\nOne thing I’ve learned in therapy: just because you have a thought, that doesn’t mean you have to stay with it or keep thinking about it.\n\nOur brains are wired to cycle through thoughts and habits. Neurons like the follow pathways in our brains.\n\nI am improving on these thoughts, but dang I am learning more and more they were in more places that I ever realized!\n\nI wish you well on your journey ☺️",
"Keep a note book and write everything down, \nI mean everything down, \nIt would also be good, if it’s a diffident notebook from usual\n\nWrite everything down, if some topics you need to discuss with a person , show them this, it will hello",
"There will always be someone better than you. That’s the reality when you are one of billions out there.\nFirst thing is to accept it and move on from there. \n\nDoesn’t necessarily mean giving up either. You can still work toward your goals but with a clearer and fresher mindset. \n\nFocusing on your own journey and progress gives you a lot of reassurance. \n\nWhat you are doing now is looking at the people above you and only focused on that. You should also look down and see how far you’ve come and measure your progress.",
"I just take a step back and see where I am compared to last year or 5 years ago and consider my current options and go from there. If I tried to be like everyone around me I would be swimming in debt, I do not come from a family of old money like most of my neighbors so I do kotnhave the crazy stuff they have, it would be easy to fall into the cycle of keeping up but I have just decided I like what I am and do not need to be what they are. I know some look down on me but I'm at a point in life where I just don't give AF what some entitled rush person who was born into it thinks. \n\nSo in essence you need to learn to be comfortable with who you are and ignore all the noise that is around you.",
"I really think it's about experience : just take time every day, even a few minutes, to think about yourself outside the world\n\nwhat are you : nice or not, smart or not, clever or not clumsy or not, workaholic or not, etc.\n\nlearn about you, outside of everything else\n\nyou need to know who you are\n\nthe problem is not that you compare with others, it's how you do it, without confidence, without trust in who you are\n\nonce you know who you really are, will not matter if you compare or not"
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"Dissolve Adhesive I have two pieces of duct tape stuck together, with a thin metal disc in between. How can I dissolve the adhesive on the tape, to re-use the metal disc. (Note: The metal disc isn't sensitive or anything, and can be exposed to mild chemicals.)",
"Dissolve Adhesive I have two pieces of duct tape stuck together, with a thin metal disc in between. How can I dissolve the adhesive on the tape, to re-use the metal disc. (Note: The metal disc isn't sensitive or anything, and can be exposed to mild chemicals.)",
"Dissolve Adhesive I have two pieces of duct tape stuck together, with a thin metal disc in between. How can I dissolve the adhesive on the tape, to re-use the metal disc. (Note: The metal disc isn't sensitive or anything, and can be exposed to mild chemicals.)",
"Dissolve Adhesive I have two pieces of duct tape stuck together, with a thin metal disc in between. How can I dissolve the adhesive on the tape, to re-use the metal disc. (Note: The metal disc isn't sensitive or anything, and can be exposed to mild chemicals.)",
"Dissolve Adhesive I have two pieces of duct tape stuck together, with a thin metal disc in between. How can I dissolve the adhesive on the tape, to re-use the metal disc. (Note: The metal disc isn't sensitive or anything, and can be exposed to mild chemicals.)",
"Dissolve Adhesive I have two pieces of duct tape stuck together, with a thin metal disc in between. How can I dissolve the adhesive on the tape, to re-use the metal disc. (Note: The metal disc isn't sensitive or anything, and can be exposed to mild chemicals.)"
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"If you have any at hand they´ll work: Isopropyl alcohol, kerosene, lighter fluid, acetone and wd-40. Just be careful around fire later LOL",
"I work in an autobody shop. We use [Car Brite](http://www.carbrite.com/products/Exterior-Care/Cleaners/Degreasers-Solvents/Solvents-Adhesive-Removers/Eradicator/) to remove sticker residue. This stuff works very safely in about a minute. It won't damage anything. When I'm in a hurry, I'll use gasket remover, which is the same as oven cleaner. It works within seconds. We use [a sticker eraser tool](https://www.mechanicstoolsandbits.com/specialty-tools-700t-the-eliminator-tool-only-p-5731.html) as well. Also, don't put oven cleaner on anything you care about. When it's done with that sticker, it's been eating at what's around and under the sticker for a few seconds already.",
"I know a lot of people have said acetone, but to elaborate most nail polish remover has acetone, in case you have it on hand",
"You can also try Pledge. It is how I get sticky gunk off of glass. (If you don't have Goo-Gone). I'd spray the shit out of it and let it soak a bit.",
"Used to work in an art gallery and we used de-solvit often, so I'm with tweeba. It is orange oil, basically. Gets chewing gum out of hair also. Another good one is eucalyptus oil.",
"I have found hand sanitizer works really well on getting adhesives off surfaces. The one I use is ~60% alcohol."
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"How can I help keep a person from dominating conversation? The book club has had this new, younger girl join us and while she is very enthusiastic and brings a new perspective to our discussions, she dominates conversation, interrupting others during or just as they begin to speak, which seems is keeping some of our quieter members from pitching in. I don't want to discourage her from contributing, but want to keep the discussion open.... help?",
"How can I help keep a person from dominating conversation? The book club has had this new, younger girl join us and while she is very enthusiastic and brings a new perspective to our discussions, she dominates conversation, interrupting others during or just as they begin to speak, which seems is keeping some of our quieter members from pitching in. I don't want to discourage her from contributing, but want to keep the discussion open.... help?",
"How can I help keep a person from dominating conversation? The book club has had this new, younger girl join us and while she is very enthusiastic and brings a new perspective to our discussions, she dominates conversation, interrupting others during or just as they begin to speak, which seems is keeping some of our quieter members from pitching in. I don't want to discourage her from contributing, but want to keep the discussion open.... help?",
"How can I help keep a person from dominating conversation? The book club has had this new, younger girl join us and while she is very enthusiastic and brings a new perspective to our discussions, she dominates conversation, interrupting others during or just as they begin to speak, which seems is keeping some of our quieter members from pitching in. I don't want to discourage her from contributing, but want to keep the discussion open.... help?",
"How can I help keep a person from dominating conversation? The book club has had this new, younger girl join us and while she is very enthusiastic and brings a new perspective to our discussions, she dominates conversation, interrupting others during or just as they begin to speak, which seems is keeping some of our quieter members from pitching in. I don't want to discourage her from contributing, but want to keep the discussion open.... help?",
"How can I help keep a person from dominating conversation? The book club has had this new, younger girl join us and while she is very enthusiastic and brings a new perspective to our discussions, she dominates conversation, interrupting others during or just as they begin to speak, which seems is keeping some of our quieter members from pitching in. I don't want to discourage her from contributing, but want to keep the discussion open.... help?"
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"* Use a talking stick.\n\n* Set a timer; give everyone X minutes to talk\n\n* Pull her aside and let her know you think she's dominating conversations a bit too much\n\n* Encourage others to be just as dominating",
"Specifically invite other individuals to contribute. Specifically those who started saying something at the same time and got cut off or those who have been quiet since this new girl joined the group. \n\nWhen she interrupts ask the person she interrupted to continue their thought as soon as you can fit into the conversation. \n\nRemember where the conversation was when she interrupted and remind those who were going to say something of that to help jog their memory on what they were going to say. \n\nTalk to the new girl on the side and ask her to tone it down a little, to back off when she and someone else start talking at the same time, and to invite others to join in the conversation as well.",
"I have been a part of a group which had a rule that no one could speak twice until everyone spoke one, and no one could speak 3 times until everyone spoke twice. What is needed to make this work is someone to be in the role of chairperson. As this is very good experience for all meetings, you could rotate the role so that all members, including the shy take a turn. \n\nWhat happens when I have been in meetings that effectively use these protocols is that the shy quiet members start contributing. Often they have had very good things to say, but can't get a word edgewise over the empty headed blurtings of those who just speak because they like the sound of their own voice. ",
"Talk to her outside of the meeting about her interrupting people. She might not be aware of her own behavior - people often don't scrutinize what they do very closely unless someone brings it up.",
"I have a really good friend who does this and it really gets on my nerves. I just eventually shut down and stop contributing to HER conversation. Hoping some ideas pop up in here that may help when it's not such a formal situation like a book club. ",
"You might look up how to facilitate groups and methods for cutting off. \n\nIt sounds like she may not be aware of how she's affecting others and bringing it to her attention could be helpful but I caution you to be careful in how you do it. I would approach her by saying how glad I am that she's joined the group and that I think her input is really interesting but I'm worried that her level enthusiasm is making it harder for others to feel they get to contribute, too. I would then ask her for help in drawing others out by saying something like \"maybe you could help us after you make a point by asking if anyone else has any thoughts on it so they feel there's room for them in the conversation, too.\" You can always be more direct and forceful if that doesn't work later."
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"Acclimating to heat Spring has arrived for many in the Northern hemisphere, which generally means things are warming up. For some, myself among them, this also means that even 80ºF (26.6ºC) can feel quite warm after months of cooler temperatures. \n\nAre there any (healthy) steps one can take to more quickly and acclimate to warmer temperatures, so 80ºF actually feels like 80ºF and not 90? Does exposure to more extreme heat help? ",
"Acclimating to heat Spring has arrived for many in the Northern hemisphere, which generally means things are warming up. For some, myself among them, this also means that even 80ºF (26.6ºC) can feel quite warm after months of cooler temperatures. \n\nAre there any (healthy) steps one can take to more quickly and acclimate to warmer temperatures, so 80ºF actually feels like 80ºF and not 90? Does exposure to more extreme heat help? ",
"Acclimating to heat Spring has arrived for many in the Northern hemisphere, which generally means things are warming up. For some, myself among them, this also means that even 80ºF (26.6ºC) can feel quite warm after months of cooler temperatures. \n\nAre there any (healthy) steps one can take to more quickly and acclimate to warmer temperatures, so 80ºF actually feels like 80ºF and not 90? Does exposure to more extreme heat help? ",
"Acclimating to heat Spring has arrived for many in the Northern hemisphere, which generally means things are warming up. For some, myself among them, this also means that even 80ºF (26.6ºC) can feel quite warm after months of cooler temperatures. \n\nAre there any (healthy) steps one can take to more quickly and acclimate to warmer temperatures, so 80ºF actually feels like 80ºF and not 90? Does exposure to more extreme heat help? "
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"I hope someone answers this. I feel like such a pussy for thinking its too hot when it's only 80 out. But Jesus, it's already too hot. ",
"Drink plenty of water, start taking walks outside, slowly increasing the time spent outdoors. People are spending way too much time on the internet and inside these days, get outside. Don't go all in in the middle of the day though, start around dusk when it is beginning to cool off, then go a little earlier after a wee, and then a little earlier by increments. Helps you get exercise and acclimate to the heat.",
"I grew up in Florida and we used to take a lukewarm shower before going to bed -- for some reason it helped me fall asleep when it was hot out at night. ",
"Don't use AC. It just makes it worse when you go outside.\n\nSource: currently in Cambodia, where it's HOT."
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"How to cope with an unexpected death of someone close I've lost two friends unexpectedly within the past month over some bullshit reasons and coping with losses like this are really hard to do as I've never encountered a situation like this. Self medication and reminiscing is what I've been doing, but it's slowly growing into a depression and I need to know if there are constructive ways to cope.",
"How to cope with an unexpected death of someone close I've lost two friends unexpectedly within the past month over some bullshit reasons and coping with losses like this are really hard to do as I've never encountered a situation like this. Self medication and reminiscing is what I've been doing, but it's slowly growing into a depression and I need to know if there are constructive ways to cope."
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"How to cope? Well, there is no 1 right way to cope with the death of someone close to you. My wife & I are working through this right now as our 19 month old daughter Melinda passed away December 16th unexpectedly. One minute they are there, next minute you're heart is ripped from your chest and your soul is crushed forever. \n\nWhat I will say is that self medicating is not the answer. It doesn't fix the problem only hides it away. Since that day I've had anxiety and panic wash over me for no reason. Getting professional help and medication will help. Talking about your friends will help. But know this... this is your grieving. No one can put a time frame on it for you. No one can tell you how to feel or how you should move on. This will be with you forever. You will miss them forever. But in time, you'll be ok. You'll be able to function somewhat normally again. You'll reminisce about the good times while feeling pain for the times you didn't get to have. Just know that there are people out there who can help, who are willing to help, and will help you through the grief. Don't deny yourself the grief. You'll be ok. Because that's what I use to motivate me everyday. . That someday things will be ok. I'll forever be sad over my little melinda not being here, but I know I still have a lot of life to live. And her memory will drive me to hopefully be a better person .",
"One day at a time. Just keep getting up and doing stuff. When my wife died, I thought about suicide but having kids made that a no-go. Instead, I just kept doing the routine things of life. Time doesn't heal a wound like that but it does teach you how to live with it. You need to get out there and do things. And don't feel guilty about it. Keep in mind that your friends who you lost would want you to get over this so do it for them. Live your life, be active, time will take care of the rest."
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"Really need help with a hack-proof way to limit my internet and TV time.... ...complication is that I'm a web application developer and every browser plugin I find, etc I just easily find ways around. I always say \"oh, I'll just circumvent this once\" and then forget to re-enable the plugin later, thereby totally screwing myself over after wasting hours upon hours just mindlessly scrolling on reddit on my laptop, etc.\n\nI tend NOT to have such self-control issues with my phone, so this is a request for laptop and smart TVs only, basically.",
"Really need help with a hack-proof way to limit my internet and TV time.... ...complication is that I'm a web application developer and every browser plugin I find, etc I just easily find ways around. I always say \"oh, I'll just circumvent this once\" and then forget to re-enable the plugin later, thereby totally screwing myself over after wasting hours upon hours just mindlessly scrolling on reddit on my laptop, etc.\n\nI tend NOT to have such self-control issues with my phone, so this is a request for laptop and smart TVs only, basically."
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"You're trying to fix a social/personal problem with a technical solution, and that's flawed. \n\n1) If you're the one coming up with the solution, then you're also the one able to circumvent it. \n2) The real problem with circumventing a solution is getting caught... you have nothing to lose. \n3) If a perfect block was existing, what if you have a *real* emergency and are unable to unblock you? \n\nThe solution will have to depend on *somebody else*, as you're meant to own/control technology you own, not the other way around. \nThe technical part (if there's even one!) is irrelevant, focus first on finding someone in which you can have absolute trust... in not trusting you. \n\ntldr: Before finding the tool you asked for, you'll have to find somebody to administrate it.",
"Found this when I searched for \"internet addiction\" in a reddit thread. I'm installing now. Since it is a Windows application, maybe that will give me the ability to not easily hack it. We shall see.\n\nhttps://getcoldturkey.com/download/win/"
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"Deodorant help I've had trouble with deodorant for years. I used the lady speed stick for a while but it always makes my armpits smell weird and lingers on my clothes. I have also tried secret and dove spray which didn't help with my odor. I am currently using an arm and hammer one which doesn't really smell good and the smell lingers on my clothes. My armpits smell pretty bad sometimes and I need help finding something that will control it. A lot of my clothes have weird sweat/deodorant smell lingering on them. I'm wanting to get some new clothes and I don't want to ruin the armpit part of them. Please can someone help me find a deodorant that lasts all day for someone whose sweat smells quite a bit and will also not ruin my clothes",
"Deodorant help I've had trouble with deodorant for years. I used the lady speed stick for a while but it always makes my armpits smell weird and lingers on my clothes. I have also tried secret and dove spray which didn't help with my odor. I am currently using an arm and hammer one which doesn't really smell good and the smell lingers on my clothes. My armpits smell pretty bad sometimes and I need help finding something that will control it. A lot of my clothes have weird sweat/deodorant smell lingering on them. I'm wanting to get some new clothes and I don't want to ruin the armpit part of them. Please can someone help me find a deodorant that lasts all day for someone whose sweat smells quite a bit and will also not ruin my clothes",
"Deodorant help I've had trouble with deodorant for years. I used the lady speed stick for a while but it always makes my armpits smell weird and lingers on my clothes. I have also tried secret and dove spray which didn't help with my odor. I am currently using an arm and hammer one which doesn't really smell good and the smell lingers on my clothes. My armpits smell pretty bad sometimes and I need help finding something that will control it. A lot of my clothes have weird sweat/deodorant smell lingering on them. I'm wanting to get some new clothes and I don't want to ruin the armpit part of them. Please can someone help me find a deodorant that lasts all day for someone whose sweat smells quite a bit and will also not ruin my clothes",
"Deodorant help I've had trouble with deodorant for years. I used the lady speed stick for a while but it always makes my armpits smell weird and lingers on my clothes. I have also tried secret and dove spray which didn't help with my odor. I am currently using an arm and hammer one which doesn't really smell good and the smell lingers on my clothes. My armpits smell pretty bad sometimes and I need help finding something that will control it. A lot of my clothes have weird sweat/deodorant smell lingering on them. I'm wanting to get some new clothes and I don't want to ruin the armpit part of them. Please can someone help me find a deodorant that lasts all day for someone whose sweat smells quite a bit and will also not ruin my clothes"
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"I've been using Old Spice for quite some time, Wolfthorn is my favorite! I've never found a deodorant that lasts all day but I don't need to reapply Wolfthorn nearly as often and it doesn't stain my clothes.",
"Certain Dri Prescription Strength Roll On. This stuff is kind of life- changing. I've been using it about 10 years. It blocks the sweat glands in your arm pits. You will literally have dry armpits and no odor, no matter how much you might be sweating everywhere else. You only have to put it on once every few nights. The only downside is that it can cause stinging, redness, and itching if not applied correctly. You should not use it after a shower or after shaving or you'll be sorry. As long as you have completely dry pits when you apply it you should be good. There's a stronger formula available by Rx called Drysol. I would start with Certain Dri and see if it works. It made a huge difference in my life, hope it works for you if you try it.\n\n\nThis one -- https://certaindri.com/which-certain-dri-is-right-for-me/certain-dri-prescription-strength-clinical-roll-on/",
"Pretty much all the mainstream deodorants have harmful ingredients. I've only recently started exploring the world of natural deodorants and so far I have to say: I really love CocoPits. \n\nSo far it's really great. No odors, at least not until long after application. I wear a lot of merino t-shirts and have merino underwear; merino is naturally anti-bacterial, and combine it with CocoPits and you can wear the same t-shirt for literally a month. \n\nIt's wacky. \n\nBut give CocoPits or another one of the natural deodorants a try.",
"Degree Dry Protection Just Dance Antiperspirant Deodorant is what I have used since it came out (forever ago). It stops excessive sweat, and the fragrance is light and unobtrusive. Hope this helps. P. S. It also works on my sorta stinky 15 yo daughter."
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"Random featured Wikipedia article for internet homepage There used to be a site (http://toolserver.org/~erwin85/randomarticle.php?lang=en&family=wikipedia&categories=Featured+articles) that selected a random featured Wikipedia article, but now it doesn't work. Does anyone know of a way to do this?"
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"Simply use this as your homepage:\n\nhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Special:Random\n\nIt's directly from wikipedia, on the left menu there's a link that says \"Random Article\", just right click on it and \"Copy url\".",
"Just a heads up to all the people suddenly changing their homepage...Eventually you'll stop glancing at the random article and just go straight to Google because 95% of the crap is not worth knowing or wasting time on."
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"How to remove white stain on a cap? I don't know what it's called but i tried washing it using a soap but no luck. And i totally don't know what happened to my cap\npic: http://i63.tinypic.com/2i8yf60.jpg\n\nthank you ",
"How to remove white stain on a cap? I don't know what it's called but i tried washing it using a soap but no luck. And i totally don't know what happened to my cap\npic: http://i63.tinypic.com/2i8yf60.jpg\n\nthank you "
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"Try rubbing alcohol. Test an inner area for color fastness first. Then dab it with a cloth dampened in rubbing alcohol.",
"I think that is sweat. I usaully hand wash with some laundry detergent and a rag. Someone else probably has a better answer than me though.\n\n"
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"dealing with gnats beyond the basics I have a gnat problem in my apartment i have tried everything i can to be rid off them. I cleaned the drains put all food trash in 1 can and take it out daily i keep the bathroom dry i fumigated with a anti bug nuke and the put out mason jar traps with wine in some and apple cider vinegar in the others and i still have them HELP!",
"dealing with gnats beyond the basics I have a gnat problem in my apartment i have tried everything i can to be rid off them. I cleaned the drains put all food trash in 1 can and take it out daily i keep the bathroom dry i fumigated with a anti bug nuke and the put out mason jar traps with wine in some and apple cider vinegar in the others and i still have them HELP!"
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"I had similar troubles with fruit flies. My roomie juices daily. I bought exotic plant that eats them! ",
"Find the source/ gathering point and remove it. Gnats thrive when there is water or other wet objects. Towels and washcloths are wet enough for them. Also any food needs to be removed. "
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"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it.",
"How to introduce yourself/start talking to a new person without being awkward I don't know how you actually can start up a conversation with someone who you don't know very well without being too awkward about it."
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"First of all there's always two parties in a conversation, so if you are not being awkward initially but the other person is, then it is more challenging to stop the entire thing from getting awkward. Remember this, its both you and the other persons responsibility, and thats why you shouldnt feel responsible for the introduction/conversation getting awkward all the time. You are just responsible for 50%. \n\nSecondly, if you approach interactions thinking it will get awkward, it probably will get a bit awkward. Some times it can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. \n\nThirdly, this relates to the second point, a lot of people have a tendency to reflect their own state of mine onto others. For instance thinking that \"she thinks im boring\", while in reality she is too worried about how she is coping herself to notice how you are doing. You cannot know what the other person is thinking 100%, you can only guess, so try to make it a habit of guessing that they are having a good time. \n\nAlso, its been said before, but focus on the other person and not yourself. Just say \"hi\", shake their hand, introduce yourself and be interested in what they have to say. You have two ears and one mouth, so you should try to listen twice as much as you talk. If you are too occupied about thinking about yourself you wont listen to, incorporate and respond properly to what another person have to say. \n\nLastly, its difficult to write how to be social because social skills are learned socially. So I could write all the information in the world that I think would help, but in the end its about you getting out there practicing. Talk to people, have good interactions and perhaps some bad too, and forget the bad ones and incorporate stuff from the good ones into future conversations. Be yourself and socialize, thats all. \n\nTLDR; get comfortable in your own skin, socialize more and be interested in what people have to say. ",
"I always found it easier to start a conversation with an observation about the environment you are sharing with the person. For example, say you are at a party and want to talk to someone, go up to them and make a comment about the alcohol or food selection. Don't be afraid to share an observation that you think is funny. The observation can also be about the people if it is more of a public setting, but tread softly with this one, because you don't know who you are talking to and who you may offend. \n\nMore importantly, make sure you think more than one step ahead before entering a conversation. Having a couple things you can bring up is important because the first attempt may fall flat on its face, and not having a back up can get awkward really quick. When in doubt, ask about the person; most people like telling others their story. As far as introductions go, I always liked when they occur either in the middle of the conversation or at the end. Starting off with \"hello, my name is ___\" just seems too formal and often leads people feeling like they are investing too much into something that hasn't even started. Ask their name after the conversation gets going. It can be interpreted as a compliment because it shows that you are enjoying the conversation and want to get to know them on a more personal level. \n\nAlso, make sure you have an exit strategy before entering a conversation. There is no better way to make what would have been an otherwise good interaction awkward by making your exit strange or abrupt. When you can't think of anything good, there is always the bathroom. ",
"I say, \"Hey, I don't think I've met you. Hi! I'm skizethelimit. Who are you?\" (all said in a friendly, upbeat way) And then I ask a question to get to know them better..\"Oh, where are you from?\" \"How do you know Bill?\" etc. etc. Then some little anecdote to connect...\"gosh, can you believe the traffic tonight? the food is so good! have you tried the xxxx?\" good luck to you!",
"Hey, do you know how much a polar bear weighs? \nENOUGH TO BREAK THE ICE! *Reach out hand to shake* hi my name is...",
"Don't rush. Speak clearly and at a comfortable pace. Use good manners--introduce yourself with your full name, and be sure to introduce anyone else around you who they may not know. If it is a person you are attracted to, be friendly, not *friendly*. Allow them plenty of time to say what they want to say-don't talk over them because you are nervous or because you are trying to get a line in. Be grateful for the time they spend talking so you can breath steadily and truly listen. And practice, practice, practice. Strike up a conversation with people just for fun. \n\nMy friends say that I know everybody. We live in a big metro area, but pretty much every bday party, target visit, carnival, class, etc., I see people I know. Whenever a natural moment presents itself, I always introduce myself. My husband thinks it is amazing--after two hours a room full of strangers will result in 2 or 3 people offering me their numbers so we can get together. \n\nAnd I swear to you, I am an introvert. I'm just a socially graceful introvert who will go home after said party and waste time staring at a screen for 2 hours to decompress. I used to see myself as a socially awkward extrovert, but eventually realized I was just trying to hard. Relax. ",
"To start a conversation with someone who you don't know, I have found out that just asking: \"Do I know you? You look really familiar.\" Then the they usually start by telling where they study or work etc. At that point they are starting to tell something about themselves and you guys have little question game going on about where you might know them. Then proceed to normal conversation when you have found something interesting of what they had said and talk about that.\n\nThis works pretty much everywhere, on bus, bar or in a hospital. If their first answer is \"No. *silence*\", they are boring and you can move along.",
"Ask questions if you're already in their circle. Most people love talking about themselves. What would you like to know about them? I personally like asking people about religion and politics, cause they make for better conversation imo than more mundane shit. Or ask what they want to do with the rest of their lives, or what their passion is, or if they have phobias, or the most exciting thing they've done in their life, or the hardest thing they've had to overcome, or have they/would they sky dive, or what they like/dislike about themselves, or their best skill, or the last time they face planted in to the ground. Also questions like, \"if you could have any super power... why?\" Or \"Three wises... Why?\" Those kinda things tend to spin off in to other conversations, unless they don't want to talk to you, then fuck off.\nAlso, for meeting strangers, I tend to go with, \"Hey you! I like your face! Let's be friends!\"",
"While I am by no means an expert, I just try to put myself out there in a genuine way. Just introduce yourself and show them you are interested in talking with them. The way I see it, if you give it an honest chance and the other person throws it back in your face, that's on them.",
"Try and find something in common with them. Then it's easier for both people to have a conversation rather than one person talking at the other about their hobbies.",
"The easiest (and probably most often used) conversation starter is \"where are you from?\". There's always something interesting you can strike up after this initial question (favorite teams, weather, somewhere you'd like to visit, etc.). I know it's a boring and oft used convo starter but there's a reason why. It's a simple ice breaker.",
"I jus be like Yo wut up son/shawty My name Swagmasta U smoke cuz I gots this fat spliff we could spark real talk ",
"Awkward happens independently of what words are spoken. There are no magical words. \n\nWhen you love and appreciate yourself, and do not take the voices in your head personally (do not take the self-hating accusations in your head personally), then you will begin to radiate self acceptance or non-awkwardness.",
"Just fucking talk to them. Have something in common? Talk about that. Don't have something in common? Talk about where you are, or something around you that you two can talk about. \n\nStay away from politics, recent events, and religion. ",
"Dude, I can walk up to anyone and start bullshitting about anything. People usually can't handle it. They're awkward, they stutter, fidget, look away, play with phones. Especially good looking women, THE WORST. Just be confident, that's all. Nothing at all special. Practice online, gaming, or with waitresses or clerks at stores. I don't smoke but I bring smokes to bars just as an easy in. Confidence!"
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"The best way to keep insects out of your house. As the warm weather nears, I have the annual problem of insects coming through the door/window. I'm talking flies, fruit fluies, mosquitos, daddy long legs, moths, ladybirds etc.\n\nHere are some things I've read (but none seem to work for me):\n\n* hang a net curtain over the door/window. are there are particular ones you would recommend?\n* greek basil keeps fruit flies away\n* leave a pot of something sweet with clingfilm (with holes in) over the top to catch the flies. \n\nAny other suggestions?",
"The best way to keep insects out of your house. As the warm weather nears, I have the annual problem of insects coming through the door/window. I'm talking flies, fruit fluies, mosquitos, daddy long legs, moths, ladybirds etc.\n\nHere are some things I've read (but none seem to work for me):\n\n* hang a net curtain over the door/window. are there are particular ones you would recommend?\n* greek basil keeps fruit flies away\n* leave a pot of something sweet with clingfilm (with holes in) over the top to catch the flies. \n\nAny other suggestions?",
"The best way to keep insects out of your house. As the warm weather nears, I have the annual problem of insects coming through the door/window. I'm talking flies, fruit fluies, mosquitos, daddy long legs, moths, ladybirds etc.\n\nHere are some things I've read (but none seem to work for me):\n\n* hang a net curtain over the door/window. are there are particular ones you would recommend?\n* greek basil keeps fruit flies away\n* leave a pot of something sweet with clingfilm (with holes in) over the top to catch the flies. \n\nAny other suggestions?",
"The best way to keep insects out of your house. As the warm weather nears, I have the annual problem of insects coming through the door/window. I'm talking flies, fruit fluies, mosquitos, daddy long legs, moths, ladybirds etc.\n\nHere are some things I've read (but none seem to work for me):\n\n* hang a net curtain over the door/window. are there are particular ones you would recommend?\n* greek basil keeps fruit flies away\n* leave a pot of something sweet with clingfilm (with holes in) over the top to catch the flies. \n\nAny other suggestions?",
"The best way to keep insects out of your house. As the warm weather nears, I have the annual problem of insects coming through the door/window. I'm talking flies, fruit fluies, mosquitos, daddy long legs, moths, ladybirds etc.\n\nHere are some things I've read (but none seem to work for me):\n\n* hang a net curtain over the door/window. are there are particular ones you would recommend?\n* greek basil keeps fruit flies away\n* leave a pot of something sweet with clingfilm (with holes in) over the top to catch the flies. \n\nAny other suggestions?",
"The best way to keep insects out of your house. As the warm weather nears, I have the annual problem of insects coming through the door/window. I'm talking flies, fruit fluies, mosquitos, daddy long legs, moths, ladybirds etc.\n\nHere are some things I've read (but none seem to work for me):\n\n* hang a net curtain over the door/window. are there are particular ones you would recommend?\n* greek basil keeps fruit flies away\n* leave a pot of something sweet with clingfilm (with holes in) over the top to catch the flies. \n\nAny other suggestions?",
"The best way to keep insects out of your house. As the warm weather nears, I have the annual problem of insects coming through the door/window. I'm talking flies, fruit fluies, mosquitos, daddy long legs, moths, ladybirds etc.\n\nHere are some things I've read (but none seem to work for me):\n\n* hang a net curtain over the door/window. are there are particular ones you would recommend?\n* greek basil keeps fruit flies away\n* leave a pot of something sweet with clingfilm (with holes in) over the top to catch the flies. \n\nAny other suggestions?"
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"For cockroaches, go get a glass jar and fill the bottom of it lightly with coffee grounds and then fill 1/4 of the jar with water. Cockroaches absolutely LOVE fucking cocoa. Since cockroaches won't be able to climb to get out of the jar, they'll drown. My mother taught me this years ago and put just one jar on our back porch in Las Vegas. The next day? Literally almost full of dead cockroaches. It literally was the jar of death. ",
"the right answer depends on the pest, because pests respond to different stimuli. here are a few:\n\n* moths and other nocturnal insects are attracted to light. keep tight-fitting screens on any windows you keep open at night, and keep the light right outside your external doors low if possible. fewer insects near your doors when you open them mean fewer that slip inside.\n\n* mosquitoes aren't attracted to bright lights, but they are mostly out near dusk and dawn, so just be vigilant about door-shutting and window-screening at these times. burn citronella candles outside near your doors or install a bug zapper that uses octenol and/or CO2 (mosquito attractors) if they are a big problem.\n\n* fruit flies only appear when there is a constant source of food available to them, and then multiply like crazy. i'll divide this into a treatment stage for an ongoing infestation and a prevention stage. treatment: your clingfilm-bowl idea is a good start; to make it work, use red wine and a little vinegar, then periodically release or kill the ones you catch. they are attracted to the smell of rotting and fermenting stuff, so red wine is like a magnet for these little fuckers. if all else fails, zap 'em out of the air with a spray of windex. prevention: keep all potential sources of food in the cupboards or sealed up, especially anything that rots. take your garbage out every day.\n\n* daddy long legs, spiders and other predators are really your friend for keeping the other insects in check. but if you can't deal with them, then clear leaves and other breeding grounds from around the outside walls of your house, seal cracks and install tight-fitting screens. remove any egg sacs you discover in your house immediately.\n\n* for all pests, there's always extermination/fumigation services. i personally don't think it's necessary to have those chemicals in your house, but many people have someone come by once every month or so to spray a bit around the outside.\n\n**tl;dr: different treatments for different pests.**\n\n",
"Spray the edges of your doors with lavender and lemongrass essential oil. Lavender is actually poisonous to most insects and will cause them pain if they touch it. Lemongrass is just a deterrent. ",
"The amber bulbs repel bugs somewhat, not perfect of course. An added help is to put up a white bulb away from the house/window. The amber repels and the white draws them away...the effect is 1+1=3.\n\nThe white light can be a solar-charged LED garden light (don't have to run any wiring). I just got a $30 one from Target stores, similar to this http://www.ebay.com/itm/New-Moonrays-91249-Solar-Powered-Black-Plastic-Post-Cap-LED-Lamp-Light-/261015441625?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_0&hash=item3cc5bb90d9#ht_1187wt_1026\n\nComes on at dark, goes off in daytime. If there are no bugs near the door/window, then none will come inside when you temporarily open it. Add curtains so that your place is dark from the outside. Any white light that leaks out from the inside will be a bug magnet.\n\nPerhaps also add a bug-zapper. ",
"how much do you hate them? I'm actually closing my porch in in a couple of weeks with mosquito netting. They'll have to get through the porch door to even have the chance to get into the main door. it won't eliminate them, but it's going to greatly reduce the number",
"For ants a 60/40 mix of vinegar + water in a spray bottle applied around openings 1-3x a day works well for me. If you see them around inside your windowsills for example I use 3x a day, and now I usually do it about once a day, or less. Has solved my ant problem very easily, and cheaply. ",
"1) unless they get crazy, keep insects that will eat other insects. Spiders, House centepedes, daddy longlegs. \n2) Baby powder will disrupt ant scent trails and helps kill them. It has to be cornflour based. \n3) Basil also keeps beetles out of your food\n4) http://voices.yahoo.com/can-repel-spiders-naturally-fruit-4804422.html Those apparently work? I have a friend who swears by them."
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