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"How to be more detached? I get too attached to things like goals, events, people and outcomes for things like an exam or whatever. \n\nHow can I become more detached from things I encounter in everyday life? How can I still care but not be completely wrapped up in something? (As identified above)\n\nI know stoic philosophy helps with dealing with this sort of thing, so I have been reading into that. ",
"How to be more detached? I get too attached to things like goals, events, people and outcomes for things like an exam or whatever. \n\nHow can I become more detached from things I encounter in everyday life? How can I still care but not be completely wrapped up in something? (As identified above)\n\nI know stoic philosophy helps with dealing with this sort of thing, so I have been reading into that. ",
"How to be more detached? I get too attached to things like goals, events, people and outcomes for things like an exam or whatever. \n\nHow can I become more detached from things I encounter in everyday life? How can I still care but not be completely wrapped up in something? (As identified above)\n\nI know stoic philosophy helps with dealing with this sort of thing, so I have been reading into that. ",
"How to be more detached? I get too attached to things like goals, events, people and outcomes for things like an exam or whatever. \n\nHow can I become more detached from things I encounter in everyday life? How can I still care but not be completely wrapped up in something? (As identified above)\n\nI know stoic philosophy helps with dealing with this sort of thing, so I have been reading into that. "
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"TL;DR:\n1. Identify: Why are you attaching yourself, and to what?\n2. Examine: Examine your identified results (Reasons, Situations, Subjects) \n3. Action: Use what you have learned about yourself, against yourself. \n\nLonger version:\n\nRemember, you may read as much as you want. You may hear whatever you want. But the true Key to self improvement does not lie in what other people write or have discovered for themselves. True Change can only happen from within yourself. Reflection is Key. Reflection is Key. Reflection is Key. \n\nPeople - Don't answer questions that have not been asked yet. \nHelps you to take it slow with people, see how much they really care about you as a person, and not you as a potential benefit to their life. \n\nGoals - Goals are great to have, but your life does not depend on them. Try to see the perspective. Life is not like a straight street where you can always go full speed. Life is more like a Fall from a Cliff until you hit the ground eventually. You can control your body while falling, yes. But you cannot control the fall itself. \n\nEvents - What do you attach yourself to events in the first place? Is it because of expectations? Is it because of wishful thinking? If those are the case, try to enter a blank state of mind and release yourself from your expectations but take every situation as it preserves itself. (But that does not mean that you can't strategize certain situations ;D) \n\nOutcomes - You have only one part in your hand, that is the work you do. You know what outcome you WOULD like, keep in mind that this might not be happening the same way you imagine. ",
"You might wanna read thr book \"Getting things done\" (GTD) by David Allen. It's kinda old but there was a whole movement around it, mostly by tech people, and you can find tons of software that help you with the GTD approach for organizing ur thoughts. ",
"This video will explain how to become detached from the approval of other people. It's brilliant.\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GJVmwI_ZZTM ",
"you need to simply grow up. I'm assuming you are between 18-20. Just grow. the. hell. up. and i don't mean that in a derogatory way. when i was in college full-time i was the same way, devoting my entire mind to class. i ended up going completely crazy and dropped out. now i work full time as a line cook and it is not exactly satisfactory.\n\nthe best thing i can say to you is all things will come to pass. learn the game and bend the rules. when you are as young as you are, things don't really matter all that much. stay in school, and above all HAVE FUN. everyone around you, including your professors, know what you're doing outside of class. \n\ndon't make school your whole damn life, dude. people and relationships will enter and exit your life all the time. its just a fact. goals might or might not be met. things will suddenly happen that you didn't expect like deaths, or illnesses, or being robbed, or being dumped... its not about being detached, just accepting life for what it is."
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"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. ",
"How can I stop biting my nails? It's been a habit for about 12 years, and they are very short. I really need to stop. "
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"I have been struggling with this for a long time. I bite my nails out of a very long standing habit, and also because the loose skin/unevenness bother me on a profound level for some reason. \n\nI started taking the time to do my own manicures. When you spend an hour and put forth the effort to make them look nice, you will be less likely to want to mess it up, but it still takes a conscious effort. One thing that also really helped me was buying a quality pair of cuticle nippers that I take with me everywhere, Burt's bees lemon butter cuticle cream, and a nail file. As soon as I see a hang nail or some dry skin that's bothering me, I clip it away, then moisturize my cuticles with the cuticle cream. Uneven nails, I just file into a more pleasing shape as soon as I can. Sometimes I have internal battles with myself if I'm in the middle of work and can't do these things right away. \n\nI have made significant strides because of these new habits, but it is very important to remember that there is no cure all, at least not that I know of, and you are going to have to consciously work to keep a handle on this for yourself, especially until you break the habit. It varies for everybody how difficult that is. I still catch myself with my finger heading toward my mouth sometimes, and I have to give myself a firm (silent) \"no\" and concentrate on something else. Pretty much bottom line, you have to retrain yourself. It's hard, but possible.\n\nGood luck! Hope my experiences help.",
"Try gum, it will give you something to chew on instead of your nails and you will have fresh breath. When I was a kid, my parents would actually put my fingers in hot sauce to try to get me to stop, but I wouldn't recommend this because sticky hands. ",
"I used to do the same thing, but then I started cutting my nails every night. If don't have enough nails to bite, you can't bite them, or if you do, it will be too short and begin to hurt.",
"For starters, try recognizing why you bite your nails. Stress, boredom, and anxiety are often the main culprits for nail biting. After you've recognized what prompted your nail biting habits, try to find various ways you can reduce and replace that habit. Check out some of these ideas below:\n\n* Use things such as painting your nails to keep you aware and mindful that you bite your nails. With your nails painted, you will be more likely to try to avoid biting your nails to avoid chipping your nails.\n\n* If you do not paint your nails, another great idea to use is 'Stop-Nail Biting' treatment. These treatments often taste bitter whenever you bite your nails. The awful taste will often prompt you to become more disinterested in biting your nails.\n\n* Cut your nails short so that you don't have much to bite which will prompt you to slowly stop biting your nails overtime or at least reduce your nail biting habit.\n\n* Put a rubber band on your wrist and whenever you bite your nails, pull the band. Your mind will associate your nail biting to pain and eventually that'll end the habit hopefully. \n\n* Tell someone that you are trying to stop biting your nails and have them help hold yourself accountable to not bite your nails.\n\nThat is all! I hope you found these tips helpful! ~AM",
"[Read this comic everytime you feel like biting your nails](http://theawkwardyeti.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/1110_Nailbiter.png)",
"You have to consciously think about it for a couple weeks.\n\nDecide how long you want them to be every time you trim them. My problem was there would be too much white on the end and I would subconsciously bite it.\n\nThen I finally somehow decided white is good let that part get a certain length before I cut it, and how much I want left after I cut it.\n\nThen I check every day to make sure I don't need to cut them.",
"There is a special polish you can paint your nails with or just the ends that is like the bitter spray you use for dogs. It's nasty. You'll stop.",
"Put clear nail varnish on them so they taste like shit. Try reading the power of habits by charles duhigg it has examples on this in the book. ",
"I once had special transparent nail polish thats tastes really really bitter, im talking instantly removing your fingers from your mouth on contact bitter. Its safe and again completely transparent. Try looking it up and see if you can get your hands on one(pun intended).",
"I did when I was a kid. My grandmother told me biting nails causes appendacitis. Never bit my nails again. ",
"Honestly there are a few things that worked for me.\n\nFirstly, determine why you bite your nails. It is probably something you never think about. If you are like me you just suddenly realize that you are chewing on them. In my case I determined that I would bite them when I am nervous. I also hate to have uneven nails or the little pieces that just hang there waiting to be ripped off. So I would typically sit there and eat away, biting off one chunk then realizing I left a little bit. So I would bite again to even things out. Then again. Soon there is blood and my finger hurts for days.\n\nOnce you realize why and when you bite your nails it is easier to catch yourself before you start. Just yank the hand from your mouth as soon as you realize it. Stick it in your pocket or something.\n\nSecondly, you need nail clippers and a file. Buy a bunch and leave them where you typically go. They need to be accessible at any time, any where. If you can carry them on you that would be ideal. Clipping the excess and especially gently filing away the sharp bits will not leave your fingers in pain or infected, nor will it cause sores in your mouth from sticking your dirty hands in there. If your nails stay obsessively trimmed to a comfortable length then there is nothing for you to chew on!\n\nThirdly, go and buy a big bottle of Biotin vitamins and take them every day. These will gradually increase the strength of your nails. This will decrease the chance of the nail ripping and also give you a satisfying sensation when you use clippers. (It also makes them harder to bite, but hopefully you won't even try it!)\n\nThese three things really helped me. I learned at a young age to chew my nails so there was a lot of reprogramming necessary. My mother always did it so I thought it was the right thing to do. I eventually realized that it is a terrible idea.\n\nYes, the nail beds eventually grow longer. They may not reach the end of your finger tip again but if you aren't ripping the nail off your skin then they will eventually heal from the pathetic little nubs that you probably hide from people currently...",
"Start getting manicures, you won't want to bite your nails if you're spending money to keep your hands looking nice."
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"There's 5 ways to help with pe, and 1 way to avoid addressing/compliments pe:\n\nfirst is kegel. The reason for this is to make the \"point of no return\" *higher* and you have more 'holding power'. so this exercise is good for holding back in that *moment* but other than that it's not useful for anything.\n\nsecond is sensitivity. the best is for you to not even need to use the kegel: just stay away from the point of no return. you can achive this if you have low sensitivity. there are a lot of ways to achive this: the most subtle is to wear boxers so the tip of your penis is almost constantly rubbing against the linen when it swings freely, or you can actually scrub it with a towel, or even using penis pumps will numb your penis. there are some during-intercourse techniques that will numb your penis,anything from excessive thrusting (having constant sex for long periods of time will eventually numb your penis (but be careful not to do this using her vagina since it will maker her numb too and now neither of you are having fun)), or put your penis in pain (ram it into her cervix or something). \n\nthird, mentality. It's dumb, but if you are aroused, you will ejaculate faster; as a faculty of you having more endorphine and norepinephrine, etc. Something simple like multiplication, or have a very intricate thrust pattern so that you have to concentrate on that (say in your head \"short thrust, hard thrust\" in some intricate order; anything to keep your mind off). \n\nfourth, wear a condom? sort of a off shoot of #2.\n\nfifth, there are anti-sensitivity creams (caution; don't put too much or you will literally feel nothing and no more sexy time...)\n\nSixth; learn more than sex. This sort of accompanies the second 'tip'. Women will be much more happier if you mix in massages, kisses, cunnilingus and fingering. Don't just do 30 seconds of kiss, 30 seconds of fingering, 30 seconds of cunnilingus, and 20 minuts of banging. Do 5-20 minutes of leg, back, shoulder, neck massage, into breast mssage/finessing her down there, into kissing into kissing and fingering, into kissing and massage, into massage with a little penetration, into penetration and massage into cunnilingus, and kissing and fingering, then more penetration. You should be able to make the girl go once before penetration, once with half a penetration (only use the top half of your penis to focus on g-spot) then use your whole penis (and with some nice hand technique on her clit) to make her go the third time. So the actual time that your penis is doing something is actually very short; don't use your penis to get her to the point of orgasming. Use everything other than your penis to get her to the point of orgasming, *then* at the very end, use your penis to get her over the edge. that way, she will be very satisfied, and you have just begun! (and after both of you have gone, finish with some cunnilingus and gentle kisses. Even if you did prematurely ejaculate, you will still have made her happy.\n\nUnless you are one of those men that just likes to fuck the shit out of these objects called \"women\"...",
"I have the opposite problem. I can often go for hours (or until we really need to stop) without coming. Usually we have to consider our genitals' soreness and call it a day.",
"A man takes a hooker up to his hotel room. He says, \"How much is this going to cost?\" The hooker replies \"$200.\" He hands her the $200, she starts undressing, she turns around -- he's on the bed jerking off. She goes, 'What are you doing?' He says, 'For $200 you think I'm going to let you have the easy one?'\n\n(gottfried)",
"One suggestion: take care of your partner first. Wipe her out, so she doesn't even care. Then you can go at your own pace, even if it is that of a rabbit on Viagra.",
"I was on Cymbalta for a little while and that shit made me last for ever. Sometimes we both just got tired and quit. Now for some people it apparently can cause you to not even get erections, but I didn't have that problem. While it might be nice if you are trying to impress a new girlfriend with your stamina, I'm married with two kids and we kind of value a quickie here and there and there's not any quickies on Cymbalta.",
"For real, as a youngling I was always scared of being a PE'er. Never happened though, turns out I am a hypocondriac . (sp).A now, I wonder if it is equally frustrating to be the opposite. Don't get me wrong, my best time is a solid 1m:22s, but most of the time I am so wiped and sometimes even tearing my own muscle tissue to get to the end, I just say fuck it and accept my fate. At least my wife is easy to finish, she has more O's per week then a box of fruit loops.",
"step one, stop obsessing. Seriously, the more you think about it the worse it gets.\n\nstep two, stop putting the pussy on a pedestal. Strange as it sounds, the seddit mentality will help you out with this. But a word of warning, that sub is brimming with idiots. It's kinda like reading the Bible, you know? the parts about killing children and virgins you skip, the parts with the peace and love you take to heart.\n\nBasically, you brain is doing you in. Learn to be confident in your own body and a lot of your control issues will simply disappear.",
"I am here for you buddy, here is my program\n \nYou don't know me and I don't know you, but I once was confident that my longest duration was no where near 3 minutes, and possibly not in the neighborhood of two. u/Buckministerjones gets it right with a big part of just being in how you dictate the love making. You have to take charge of that shit and make the decision that you will do whatever it takes to get her off. But lets talk about the nitty gritty. you need penispushups bro. \n \npenispushups. thats me. thats I how learned to be able to fuck. I am no sex god now, but this is how I have learned to be able to last a consistent 7-15 minutes and occasionally longer if I am focused.\nokay, ready to learn and to train?\nStep one buy some quality lube to use for masturbation. Astroglide is my brand. You want to use the slickest stuff you can get bc its closer to actual sex and you need to get more accustomed to it. I personally reccomend ditching porn for this, but to each his own.\nOkay so to start, get yourself hard, not raging hard, but in the 85-90% zone. Now your goal is going to be go from that state to erect by flexing your penis. And then relax again. And that is one repitition. For me initially I would just get totally hard, and then have to focus on relaxing just a little.\nSo now the goal is get yourself into a rythem where you are flexing on the upstroke, and relaxing on the down stroke. I usually do a set of twenty and then hold, then relax a little extra for ten seconds or so. Now at first, by the time I hit like 15 reps I was already about to explode.\nnow is the tough part. You must teach yourself to hold back. It is not easy, it takes time. our instinct is to stop playing with ourselves and wait it out, but that isn't an option. You have to focus on your push ups and hold it back. Force yourself to relax just enough and then slowly find that groove to 20 and then hold and relax.\nOnce i could hold off cumming three times in a row, I realized I was now in much more control over when I cum. Doing penis push ups also helps when you are soft, its the same muscle as holding pee back...\nBeing a good and successful lover is possible, but you have to take control of it. If I can help out in any, strictly heterosexual, way let me know. all my best, penispushups",
"Don't think in your head \"man this feels so good\"\n\nDo math in your head and see how far you can go, I do this problem,\n\n2+2=4\n\n4+4=8\n\n8+8=16\n\n16+16=32\n\nKeep going until you are into the thousands, if this is too easy, try multiple of 3's. Works everytime.",
"My trick: Think about the fat comic book nerd from the Simpsons. I've lasted longer than I ever thought I could with his help.",
"If you have a partner, Senate focus is something worth looking into [Link](http://health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/sexuality/sensate-focus-dictionary.htm)",
"If you are cumming too soon, masturbate more, like 2-3x per day.\n\nIf you are having trouble cumming, stop masturbating so much, if at all.",
"There's a technique called the Sex God Method.\n\nIt's... not quite as douchey as it sounds.\n\nBasically, great sex is divided into four distinct aspects: Dominance, Emotion, Variety, and Immersion. It's best to have all of these in balance, because if you're weak in one way, the rest will come crashing down.\n\n*Immersion* is what we're looking at right here, but it's also one of the hardest to explain. Basically, it's how focused on enjoying yourself you are, as opposed to how hard you're trying to be *good at sex.* The old *\"think about baseball think about baseball think about baseball\"* trick doesn't work. What you've got to do is relax and enjoy yourself. Lose yourself in the sex, don't worry about how long you've been going, and control your breathing. You won't get **\"one weird trick\"**-level results immediately, but you'll notice... and so will she.",
"Beat off till you're about to cum, then stop and calm yourself down. Repeat this a few times, then finally give into yourself if you want to. \n\nSaw it in a sex talk show a long time ago, been doing it ever since, and have never had a problem.\n\nAlso, foreplay helps for me as well. Almost as if my body knows when I'm not looking for just a \"quick nut\"",
"Another tip is to grab your balls and pull them away from your body (gently, but to the extend that you can) as your testicles naturally rise closer to your body when you orgasm. This will somewhat delay the effect/feeling and prolong the experience.\n\nAlso switch positions, or try thrusting rhythmically. I've heard tons of tips for this, and they all have their own uses.",
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"Find a go-to image which, in a split second, can make your dick invert like the head of a turtle. When I was in college, I once walked in on one of my (rather overweight) fraternity brothers taking a shit, completely naked, while cupping his balls. My mental picture of his pasty, hairy gut hanging over his sweaty, hairy balls in his fat man-hand while hovering over a stinking pot of his own beershit has been prolonging my performance for 7 years. Right when shit starts getting real in the bedroom, change channels to the nastiest, most repulsive thing your twisted mind can come up with. Unless whatever that is happens to turn you on more, I guarantee you are good to go for at least another 10 minutes. ",
"Experience. And I mean this if you are young and or new to sex. Keep on going and don't be ashamed. On the one hand it is rather unfortunate for the girl but also a big compliment. Continue to please her with other means. Fingers tounge. Massage her. EnjoY her body. If you are not made out of ice you will be hard again within minutes.",
"you can try bitting your lip or driving your thumbnail into your finger to sort of distract yourself. dont do it too much!",
"This was in my psych book, it was meant for a couple but i suppose you could try it on yourself. Basically, your partner brings you to arousal and before you cum she(/he) squeezes it tight. over time this will help you last a bit longer. ...also find a way to cool your nerves, don't put the women on a pedestal. Get cocky, you're not making love to a Godess, your doing a girl a favor. There's a reason why men, successful men, are ass-holes. It's cause they've tried the sweet way and it didn't work. ",
"Take your mind off of the deed, and concentrate on something else. I normally use math. 8 x 10 = 800. Divide by 3... 280 ish. X 4 and so on. Do complicated but doable math in your head. \n\nIf I have a boner and ne",
"I think about things that don't turn me on. Trees, my work mission statement, the Pledge of Allegiance, Christmas music. That and I totally separate myself from my partner (I don't get too vocally involved). ",
"40 yo single male here.\n\nMy advice: DON'T. Come as much as you can. You may come in 30s the first time. That's good. Just keep doing the thingy. It's better to come 3 times than 1.",
"/r/sex may be much more apropriate for this topic.\n\nAlso, kegels. Massive amount of kegels. Squeeze the ever living fuck out of it.",
"get on antidepressants. that'll do the trick, then you'll get really tired of their shit after awhile.",
"distract yourself, think about ugly politicians.\n\nBut care, you even can lose your erection if you have good imagination :)\n\nwhat i also did few times, i got my hand / leg in real uncomfortable position, so it started to hurt. then i focused on that pain, works also every time, but p prefaire politicians :)",
"change your masturbation habits. when you masturbate, try to last longer, dont just rub one out as fast as you can, you're conditioning yourself to cum quickly. condition yourself to last longer. go until you're about to cum, stop. wait a few seconds or ten or twenty and then go again until you're about to cum, then stop, rest, repeat. do this until its been like 20 minutes or something. might take some practice, but it will condition you to last longer in bed. \n\nalso, masturbate with lube or lotion (if you dont already) this will help you get used to the extra stimulation of a vagina (or mouth or ass or whatever you're fucking).",
"[Margret Thatcher Naked on a cold day!](http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=HOxeH_OQpFw#t=14s)",
"Well. I'm in a long term relationship. So for me this works. Might not be so cool for someone you met that night. But start off bare, work up til you feel close, pull out and throw on a condom. You'll last FOREVER that way. Or at least that's how it worked for me. Now I last forever bare and its a whole new set of issues ): but regardless! The other things you could try: cock rings, more foreplay so that she and you finish together, or as others have said breathing and edging. Not doubt the genius of a tactical wank. Good luck and Godspeed man. ",
"Think of your hairy ugly uncle/boss. Just pretend you're having a talk with him while your pounding the girl.",
"Think of the nastiest chick you know.. Now picture her riding a dick, or taking a shit. The urge to finish magically disappears ",
"Talk to your SO about it! Honestly, a problem shared is a problem solved. Stop worrying about it, enjoy sex and think about her pleasure, not yours! At the end of the day, women don't really mind that much if it lasts 2mins. Most people would rather 2mins of amazing sex than 45mins of shit sex! Be confident dude.",
"Take yourself out of the moment, mentally.\n\nOrgasm is part physical, part mental, part emotional. Remove part of the equation, and you slow down the process.\n\nI was once in a relationship with a girl who would flip her shit if I came before she did, so I'd think of the pink and purple mountains of British Columbia at sunset, a memory I have from a summer vacation in my youth. Worked every time.",
"Sorry but I have to go against the crowd in this. I've found a wonderful person and it's shit hard to make her cum and on top of that I cant hold it for too long. I tried the \"knock one before hand\" but it back fired more than a few times and to make matter worse, I couldn't get it up for a long ass time. \n\nHere's what it's come down too: Letting her make you come early and returning the gesture while you get your hard on and then go to town on her. Or just try not coming early -stay perfectly still when your in her and when you've calmed down go at it again.\n\nBut this new technique which I want feed back on goes like this -Sometimes even when you try to stay still- you happen to ejaculate, but if you get the timing right, you could make your self cum just a tad bit and still stay hard. After that point it becomes easier to stay hard and control. ",
"Rather than depend on our informal knowledge, try [here](http://allpillsmen.com/2009/03/control-your-ejaculation-the-squeeze-technique/) and [here](http://www.minddisorders.com/Ob-Ps/Premature-ejaculation.html#b) for some more authoritative answers. Or google \"squeeze technique\".",
"Pull out, go to work with your fingers for about 20-30 seconds until the \"I'm about to ejaculate\" feeling passes, then go back in. Do this a few times and you'll get in your rhythm where you can go until *you're* ready.",
"Not sure if this has been mentioned yet. Your brain is your biggest sex organ. Instead of concentrating on how great the sex is, make yourself thing about non sexual things, especially things that are not sexy. ie baseball, work, your dad etc. If you want to take it further think about things that disgust you.\n\nAlso, pull out and use your fingers & mouth to keep her going. Then go back at it. Pull out, use your fingers. You just have to keep her going. Then when she's getting close, slip back in and let loose. ",
"My friend once told me to continuously hum this in your head... Ive never tried it but worth a shot.... Just dont actually let it slip out of your head. \nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qzVBqBosf5w",
"Muscle relaxers. Doctors will prescribe tramadol for it. It's probably the best cure for it. I haven't tried tramadol, but I know muscle relaxers work wonders.",
"Masturbate before you have sex maybe? Breathing is very underrated, also is hip placement. Thrusting with your hips actually draws you close to orgasm (thank you better sex videos I found in friends grandpa's closet when I was 8!). Maybe if you drank a little alcohol beforehand? Thins out the blood and should aid in you lasting longer.",
"Long division\n\nNo PE but when I'm getting close and I don't want to finish, I'll start doing long division that is a little tricky but still calculable (200/13 for instance). I go out a few decimals and think up new numbers. I'll keep doing this until I'm a bit less excited and then I'll go back to focusing on pleasure.",
"Jerk off with an iron grip, your sensitivity will be so low it will take you a good while to ejaculate. Source: me.\n\nBut seriously, for a while I used the tongue in the roof of my mouth my thinking of something else. Helps to keep distracted. Biting a feeling a bit of pain helps too. Bite your lip, arm, or have your partner bite you. A lot of different ways, you have to choose one that works for you. I masturbate quite frequently so when I have sex with my wife it last a while. Odd thing is when I WANT to finish I cant, when I DONT want to finish I do.",
"It's all in your head. I used to suffer from it big time. The woman I'm with now has her tubes tired, so I don't have to wear protection, and you would probably think it'd be worse than ever, but it's not. \n\nBefore, there was so much pressure. Pressure to perform well, and pressure to not knock my ex up. Nerves everywhere. Now that I don't have to worry about getting her pregnant, I can come without hesitation. Half the pressure is gone right there! But now I've come, but I can keep going, hell, she doesn't even have to know just yet. I can keep going until she's satisfied, so there's no pressure from performance. \n\nNow that I can go to bed with her and not have this fear or insecurity in my head, I can last over 15 minutes(10x longer than before!), which is about where it is ideal for her. All it took was a few rounds a day over a weekend to get acclimated, and for a 22 year old guy, that's hardly a chore. ",
"If you spray your penis with Chloroseptic it numbs the nerve tissue for a brief period of time and you can last longer. ",
"If you feel like you're going to blow your load, try to picture as vividly as you can, your grandmother getting railed by Abraham Lincoln while Siegfried and Roy perform in the background with trained seals, narrated and filmed/directed by Gilbert Gottfried. You know, unless you're into that sort of thing.",
"If you can already last about 20 minutes then you're golden. All you have to focus on now is getting better and more patient with your foreplay and multitasking during sex. I wait until I've made her orgasm solely from foreplay before inserting or until she's soaking wet and literally forcing herself on me or guiding me in to her and even then I may still just continue foreplay.\n\n**TL;DR** Being more patient and more attentive with your foreplay will go a long way in combination with other tips in this thread.",
"If you breath in and out and fast as you're going at it, you're going to be a disappointment. Go ahead and hump like the wind, just slow your breathing down at the same time.",
"If there is any tension in your muscles near your penis (ass especially), relax those muscles consciously.\n\nYou're welcome.",
"If the whole time you're thinking, \"try not to cum, try not to cum\" you're going to cum. I've found that if I stop worrying about cumming too soon, it's easier for me to not only enjoy the sex but also focus more on my partner.",
"I guess kegels should work.I can stop the ejaculation when there is no touch involved (wet dreams).I guess it should even work when you're in a girl but she would have to stop moving or something.",
"Have the girl scratch your back (in a good way, not too hard) and pinch yourself a little\n\n",
"Gore. While it sounds stupid i think of gore horror movies anything to take my mind off. Of course if it gets too soft, back to porn.\nPs: i do not like gore. Yet being on reddit you get feed a few of these soo i remember some. Exploded faces, broken bones. Etc. Makes my stomach ache. Yet during those moments for me it's the perfect solution",
"From /u/BuckminsterJones\n\n>Well that was me too but I figured it out. Enjoy your explosiveness. I'm pushing 50 over here, and my girlfriend LOVES it that I don't need no stinkin' pills for nothing. And I never will!! Guys... if you think you have this 'problem', try this. Get her off before you even take your pants down. Then tell her you're gonna explode in her. Then get her off one or two more times while your batteries re-charge. Then go again. Repeat until she calls uncle.",
"Fleshlight Stamina Training Unit. I feel like it's made to stimulate every nerve ending of your penis. When I finish, I can usually keep going, but with this Fleshlight, I have to completely stop because I get way too sensitive.\n\nI feel like it's a useful toy to help desensitize you when it comes to the real deal. It helps a great deal to handle and get to know your pacing, too.",
"Edging and Kegals.\nEdging being where you're masturbating and when you're close to climax. Stop. Relax. And go again when you're ready. \n\nThis is helped me prolong my sexual activities. ",
"Don't feel excited, you Will notice while fapping that when you're close to the end you get excited, but you can just stop this feeling",
"Doesn't anybody think of ole grandma in knickers -or- dead cute rabbits on a wire?\n\nI also try to calculate the value of Pi, I can now recite up to 354 digits and happy to say, still going strong!",
"Counting helps for me, not that I'd need it of course. Counting steps to the kitchen, keys in the keychain, folds on the sheets. You know random shit like that. Keeps your mind off the sexy",
"Clinically, doctors recommend compression of the head. Antidepressants like SSRI's also delay ejaculations as a side effect.",
"Check to see if any of your medications help. I'm currently on an antidepressant and a mood stabilizer that both basically kill my sex drive. I can still go at it, it just takes a longer time and thus more stamina.",
"Caffeine! Discovered this in college during all nighter. Loaded up on those Starbucks 6 pack.\nhttp://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B002IACCK6\n\nEnjoy!",
"-masturbate prior to sex\n-drink beer before sex (works for me but i couldnt cum till i took a piss) \n-imagine your mother watching",
"This thread is freakin' hilarious. A little depressing towards the bottom, but it's a funny depressing.",
"Lol, I usually go for about 45 minutes to an hour. This is the least of my worries\n\n"
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"Lots of compressed air. I also use rubbing alcohol to clean a lot of vintage stuff, including circuit board... but always test it first so it doesn't remove anything you don't want it to.\n\nArmorall is a good way to shine something up, but I wouldn't use it to clean anything. It's better on plastics and some rubber. I use regular paste wax on most metals.",
"If it's metal, most everyday household cleaners will do the job just fine. If it's plastic, you want to be careful that you don't use a chemical that will taint the coloration and or remove any of the protective finish. I use novus 3 step cleaner when I clean my pinball playfield which is made of Plastic and has some metal parts. The cleaner is non abrasive and can be used on a variety of different materials. I got mine at the container store for less then 10 dollars. ",
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"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n",
"How do you manage time effectively as a university student? I am going back to school in January but I'm also a commuter and in nursing school.\nTherefore I find it extremely exhausting to balance commuting, gym, sleep and, most importantly, studying.\n\nAny suggestions? Thank you!\n\n\n\n\n\n"
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"Recognize that you have needs like eating and sleeping and make time for those. Studying and retaining information is easier when your body has the rest and the food it needs. \n\nYes, treat school like a full time job and make it a priority. But in my experience, making your own primary needs of food and rest the number one priority makes the time spent on school more efficient.\n\nWhen I was at school I had to pack a lunch and some snacks to bring with me to campus every morning because even though I was done classes pretty early in the day usually I had a really hard time getting work done at home. I found a couple of places on campus which were usually good for getting things done. Study hall, forgotten corners of classroom buildings, the cafeteria IF it wasn't crowded and IF there was a corner table available where I could essentially hide and work without having everyone I knew come over to say hello.\n\nI found it worked really well to bring everything I needed for the day and work on assignments and readings and stuff in one of those places after and in between class, and then read a bit more on the bus home. Did my workout stuff and my food stuff in the evenings when I got home.\n\nDrank an unhealthy amount of tea during the day because I was in a really intense program and was involved in a lot of extra curriculars, so I didn't give myself enough time for a good 8 hours of sleep most nights. ",
"I'm just about to finish my studies (candidate exam in economics) in a few weeks, a few things that I have found helpful when studying:\n\n* Divide bigger assignments/goals into smaller parts. A big essay or a test can feel intimidating and just looking at that pile of books easily puts at least me off. If you divide the essay in to several parts it's easier to get a good overview. Make a checklist and tick boxes when you have done each part. Try to divide bigger goals to as small goals as possible (come up with a headline, chose a font, write the introduction, find a source etc.). When you tick off those boxes you will see the progress you are making and that will be satisfying and it will make you more structured.\n\n* Know what you are going to do each time you study. Make plans before you start studying which of the previously mentioned goals you are going to try to finish. Set deadlines for yourself when you need to have things done. \n\n* Cut yourself off from the world when you study. Limit external influences as much as possible. If you can stay focused when you study you will be much more effective and you will have to spend much less time studying. If you feel yourself trailing off, stop studying for a while and then get back to your studies and try to be focused again.\n\n* Studying with other people. Partly because they might be able to help you with things you don't understand, partly because when you help them you will have to express yourself clearly and often several times which will help yourself structure your thoughts and will make you understand the subject better but most importantly other people studying will make you less inclined to slack. Just sitting in a public area were people can see you will make yourself less inclined to trail off to Reddit or check Facebook etc.\n\n* Don't get stressed out when you have a lot of stuff to do. Try to always keep your head cool and be structured. Stressing out will just cause you to be less focused and less productive, and that the last thing you want. Something that has helped me is to think about the worst case scenario - usually it's not that bad, failing an exam, having to redo a course etc. Failing a course is not the end of the world, you can always do it again later or take the re-exam. \n\nHope this helps! Good luck with your studies!\n\n",
"You don't - that's the joy of being a university student!\n\nOkay, but seriously... Before semester begins, I draw up a table of the days of the week (including the weekend), divided into hourly or two-hourly increments. Class times are unavoidable, so I add those in first, as well as fixed weekly commitments. Then I add in the *ideal* amount of time for sleep and food - and this step is important. Having a fixed bedtime and waking time in mind will help you to prioritise self-care and sleep, even if you can't always meet those ideal times. Never schedule your life in a way that compromises on sleep or food; it will only bite you in the ass later when you're too burnt out to study.\n\nDepending on the length and manner of your commute (public transport? driving?), you can use it to catch up on study of course, but I found my commute most useful when I read a non-study related book. It was almost the only hour or so of my day where I absolutely could not work on a computer, talk to others, etc, so it became very valuable time for relaxing and resetting my brain.\n\ntl;dr schedule time to look after yourself as well as to work, and make the most of your commute as a non-contact time.",
"Start out your first week and pay attention to where you spend your time first. This will give you some insight as to what is important and what is not. For instance, if you need 90 minutes at the gym, then so be it. If dinner takes a half hour or 45 minutes to make, then so be it - but for that week start a little notebook and look at your trends like when you do things, where you have to be vs where you want to be. THEN, the next week, try fitting in the things you want to do around the things you need to do. For instance, you have to eat, go to work and go to school so those things are fixed. Do you sleep for 6 hours a night or 7, 8? Set a bed time and adhere to it strictly. Get up on time, don't lollygag around in the morning either. Make your lunches the night before, set up the coffee pot the night before. Try to strategize some of those occurences. When I was in clinicals I had 16 hour days, straight from work to school or vice versa. On those days, I had to skip the gym which sucked for me, but it was a sacrifice I knew would be short lived to the tune of 3-4 months that semester. Eventually, you fall into a routine but first you need to identify where time is being lost and make more efficient use of that time. ",
"Rather then hopping on my motorcycle and heading home between classes I usually go to the open lab in the building to knock out some homework.\n\nGo to the gym before I have work at 8AM, yes it sucks at times but I rely on preworkout(not good, I know) plus I usually go to bed earlier that night as a result of working out early. For some reason if I go lift after work/class I never sleep good, who knows why.\n\nTry to cook food in big batches and split it up in to separate meals. Usually grill a few pounds of chicken, pan fry some salmon, make a shitload of noodles, sear some veggies, mashed taters. Then add sauces and put shit together accordingly into their own containers. Stack in fridge, microwave when hungry. \n\nProbably the least healthy but my introvertedness/depression has prevailed and I find little joy in drinking/going out/socializing. Usually spend my nights smoking bud alone or going on motorcycle rides. Which means no hangovers and I usually wake up early.\n\n",
"I've found it helpful to utilize a large, colorful wall calendar hanging next to my primary workspace. Every week, usually on a Sunday, I will outline all my tasks/assignments for each class for the week, plus \"general\" tasks, each in a different color. For instance, the assignments of each class will be written in a certain color ink (or highlighter) and \"general\" tasks will be written in black. \n\nI have shared this trick with numerous fellow nursing students, and they have claimed it useful. Nursing school can be a pain. The professors just keep piling it on. It's hard to keep track of it all. Having tasks clearly visible on a calendar is really nice. When you see that you have 4-5 things due on a certain day, you can plan a few days in advance so you don't run out of time or have to cram.",
"* Turn those 30 minute commutes into 30 minute study sessions if possible. That's an hour of valuable time each school day that can be used to your advantage if you'd like. \n\n* How late do the buses run? Is it possible to stay on campus after your last class and do homework/studying there? If so, get it done before you come home so once you are home you can relax without feeling guilty. If it's not possible, arrive at home and immediately begin working. Don't change clothes, don't even take off your shoes. If you want to eat, make something super quick. Any bit of convenience and comfort you give yourself (i.e. taking your pants off), it'll send your body the signal that it's time to relax. \n\nGeneral advice: \n\n* Spend all free time on campus in the library. Avoid socializing most days and internet bullshitting whenever you have other work that can be done. \n* Review each classes notes as soon as possible after you get out. That way you can make any necessary clarifications while the material is still fresh **and** you are studying during the process. \n* Get ahead whenever possible. Getting ahead is 100 times more relaxing and rewarding than trying to catch up once you are behind. \n* Ask for help as soon as you need it. Don't wait until right before a test or weeks after you really needed it. \n\nAs for everything else, try to streamline and become as efficient as possible. And like others said, school is your job. Take it from someone who has had extremely good semesters and extremely horrid semesters in terms of GPA, once you get ahead and stay ahead you will be much, much happier. Obviously you can't always get ahead depending on the nature of the class, but having readings done a day or two in advance, homework done the day it was assigned rather than the day it was due, turning in papers early etc. feels so much better than cutting things down to the wire. ",
"There is no such thing. Just attempt to attend as many classes as you can and try not to be too hungover all the time",
"Only advice I can give is regarding gym time. You don't need to spend more than 30 mins at the gym. Even 10 mins can be effective if during those 10 mins, you are really busting your ass. Instead of jogging for 30 mins at an easy pace, sprint for 1 min, walk 1 min, sprint 1 min, walk 1 min. ",
"If you have review material that you can listen to while commuting, that helps a lot. Or, since you take a bus for most of your commute, read on the bus. Treat that as bonus studying time.\n\nAlso - something that helped me a ton is batch cooking. Cook enough food for 4+ meals each time, then eat the same thing all week. Might be a bit boring, but it is a lot quicker to reheat a plate of pasta than it is to cook it, and cooking a full box at once takes the same amount of time as cooking 1/4 box.",
"I would recommend creating a schedule. Look at your tasks, put an estimate on how long they will take, and use the alloted time where you're free of distractions.",
"I use [Google Calendar](http://calendar.google.com) paired with my android phone. I make a regular schedule consisting of everything that repeats... classes, office hours, lunch, gym, studying and I stick to the schedule as much as possible. \n\nIf I suddenly need to make a change (eg. move study time for an appointment) or schedule something new (eg find time for a group meeting) I can do it quickly on my phone. \n\nBonus: I use [Tasker](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=net.dinglisch.android.taskerm) to automatically silence my phone when I'm in class. ",
"I think one of the most helpful things for me is to actually calendar out my assignments when I have a busy week. So use google calendars or whatever calendar app you like and put in all of your classes then your gym time. When you have an assignment you can literally plan a time on your calendar when you are going to do that assignment. So your calendar will be full of things like \"230-400 write psychology paper\" \"400-600 calculus homework.\" \n\nI find it much easier to focus when I feel like I have an allotted time to do it. Also if you plan well you can be confident that you've completed all of your assignments and not be worried that you might have forgotten something.\n\nI took a ss of my own calendar for one of my weeks to show you http://i.imgur.com/HYbsJmg.png\n\nPS Im not going to pretend like I always do this but I did the last couple of weeks of school when I was super busy getting all of my assignments done and it made my life so much easier.",
"I like to read notes/study while I do my cardio training at the gym. I usually run, but during the school year I switch to cycling - a lot easier to read notes, but then you're getting a work out in too :) ",
"Fumble through classes, make good grades, wake up 30 minutes before final, have a total melt down, make it to final on time make a 78. It was a good day. ",
"Embrace the fact your life is over and everything revolves around school. Also what I found very very helpful for commuting and working out is having my books read to me using a text to speech program. For phones I recommend ezpdf reader to read pdf of books. I like using the male Britain English under Google tts settings. Repetition is the best kind of learning. ",
"Might be a bit contrary to the other tips here, but this is mine:\n\nIf you're not getting C's, you're doing it wrong. If you're getting B's or A's, you're either A) not challenging yourself or B) don't have a life. If you're getting worse than C's, you're either A) not caring about school / over-extending or B) at a uni that's too difficult for you.\n\nIn life, you'll find a balance between how much you care about balancing your work life and everything not work related. Some people are intense worker bees, some are social butterflies. Whatever you are, that's perfectly okay. You don't need to be someone you aren't. The balance you strike, if its right for you, is right for you. \n\nIn summation: I'd figure out what your balance is, and adjust the difficulty of the school accordingly. You don't need to be rich, powerful, have a good job, etc in order to feel happy and fulfilled. The two are in no way related. I can absolutely promise you that.\n\nOn a side note: I think this question is too personal to ask reddit. For some people, an 8-3 schedule might be great. Where schedules are freeing to some, they are restricting to others. Where to one person they provide structure, to others they seem artificial and therefore unrealistic. I think this is something you should find out on your own, through experience and self-honesty. What works for you, what doesn't? Why are you in school? How important to you is that reason? etc... "
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"How should I react and behave when I meet a famous celebrity? Passing a celebrity on the sidewalk, it's pretty simple. Maybe just smile and give a nod and keep going. \n\nBut what if you get seated next to one on an airplane? Or introduced to a celeb at a party? \n\nHow do you not come off as an annoying fanboy buffoon? How do you just act natural and actually open up the potential for actually becoming acquainted with the celebrity?\n\nExample: during college I was at a house party and my friends told me that Josh Hartnet's sister was coming. And they told me I should not ask her about her brother. \n\nWell, ok. If you were worried about that, why even tell me who she is in the first place? If you wanted me to treat her just like anybody else, don't even mention Josh Hartnett. I would have no reason to ask her for her last name at a college keg party...\n\nSo his sister arrives. They introduce us. I feel awkward and shy and don't know what to talk about with her. She seemed shy too, just being around new people I guess. ",
"How should I react and behave when I meet a famous celebrity? Passing a celebrity on the sidewalk, it's pretty simple. Maybe just smile and give a nod and keep going. \n\nBut what if you get seated next to one on an airplane? Or introduced to a celeb at a party? \n\nHow do you not come off as an annoying fanboy buffoon? How do you just act natural and actually open up the potential for actually becoming acquainted with the celebrity?\n\nExample: during college I was at a house party and my friends told me that Josh Hartnet's sister was coming. And they told me I should not ask her about her brother. \n\nWell, ok. If you were worried about that, why even tell me who she is in the first place? If you wanted me to treat her just like anybody else, don't even mention Josh Hartnett. I would have no reason to ask her for her last name at a college keg party...\n\nSo his sister arrives. They introduce us. I feel awkward and shy and don't know what to talk about with her. She seemed shy too, just being around new people I guess. ",
"How should I react and behave when I meet a famous celebrity? Passing a celebrity on the sidewalk, it's pretty simple. Maybe just smile and give a nod and keep going. \n\nBut what if you get seated next to one on an airplane? Or introduced to a celeb at a party? \n\nHow do you not come off as an annoying fanboy buffoon? How do you just act natural and actually open up the potential for actually becoming acquainted with the celebrity?\n\nExample: during college I was at a house party and my friends told me that Josh Hartnet's sister was coming. And they told me I should not ask her about her brother. \n\nWell, ok. If you were worried about that, why even tell me who she is in the first place? If you wanted me to treat her just like anybody else, don't even mention Josh Hartnett. I would have no reason to ask her for her last name at a college keg party...\n\nSo his sister arrives. They introduce us. I feel awkward and shy and don't know what to talk about with her. She seemed shy too, just being around new people I guess. ",
"How should I react and behave when I meet a famous celebrity? Passing a celebrity on the sidewalk, it's pretty simple. Maybe just smile and give a nod and keep going. \n\nBut what if you get seated next to one on an airplane? Or introduced to a celeb at a party? \n\nHow do you not come off as an annoying fanboy buffoon? How do you just act natural and actually open up the potential for actually becoming acquainted with the celebrity?\n\nExample: during college I was at a house party and my friends told me that Josh Hartnet's sister was coming. And they told me I should not ask her about her brother. \n\nWell, ok. If you were worried about that, why even tell me who she is in the first place? If you wanted me to treat her just like anybody else, don't even mention Josh Hartnett. I would have no reason to ask her for her last name at a college keg party...\n\nSo his sister arrives. They introduce us. I feel awkward and shy and don't know what to talk about with her. She seemed shy too, just being around new people I guess. ",
"How should I react and behave when I meet a famous celebrity? Passing a celebrity on the sidewalk, it's pretty simple. Maybe just smile and give a nod and keep going. \n\nBut what if you get seated next to one on an airplane? Or introduced to a celeb at a party? \n\nHow do you not come off as an annoying fanboy buffoon? How do you just act natural and actually open up the potential for actually becoming acquainted with the celebrity?\n\nExample: during college I was at a house party and my friends told me that Josh Hartnet's sister was coming. And they told me I should not ask her about her brother. \n\nWell, ok. If you were worried about that, why even tell me who she is in the first place? If you wanted me to treat her just like anybody else, don't even mention Josh Hartnett. I would have no reason to ask her for her last name at a college keg party...\n\nSo his sister arrives. They introduce us. I feel awkward and shy and don't know what to talk about with her. She seemed shy too, just being around new people I guess. ",
"How should I react and behave when I meet a famous celebrity? Passing a celebrity on the sidewalk, it's pretty simple. Maybe just smile and give a nod and keep going. \n\nBut what if you get seated next to one on an airplane? Or introduced to a celeb at a party? \n\nHow do you not come off as an annoying fanboy buffoon? How do you just act natural and actually open up the potential for actually becoming acquainted with the celebrity?\n\nExample: during college I was at a house party and my friends told me that Josh Hartnet's sister was coming. And they told me I should not ask her about her brother. \n\nWell, ok. If you were worried about that, why even tell me who she is in the first place? If you wanted me to treat her just like anybody else, don't even mention Josh Hartnett. I would have no reason to ask her for her last name at a college keg party...\n\nSo his sister arrives. They introduce us. I feel awkward and shy and don't know what to talk about with her. She seemed shy too, just being around new people I guess. ",
"How should I react and behave when I meet a famous celebrity? Passing a celebrity on the sidewalk, it's pretty simple. Maybe just smile and give a nod and keep going. \n\nBut what if you get seated next to one on an airplane? Or introduced to a celeb at a party? \n\nHow do you not come off as an annoying fanboy buffoon? How do you just act natural and actually open up the potential for actually becoming acquainted with the celebrity?\n\nExample: during college I was at a house party and my friends told me that Josh Hartnet's sister was coming. And they told me I should not ask her about her brother. \n\nWell, ok. If you were worried about that, why even tell me who she is in the first place? If you wanted me to treat her just like anybody else, don't even mention Josh Hartnett. I would have no reason to ask her for her last name at a college keg party...\n\nSo his sister arrives. They introduce us. I feel awkward and shy and don't know what to talk about with her. She seemed shy too, just being around new people I guess. ",
"How should I react and behave when I meet a famous celebrity? Passing a celebrity on the sidewalk, it's pretty simple. Maybe just smile and give a nod and keep going. \n\nBut what if you get seated next to one on an airplane? Or introduced to a celeb at a party? \n\nHow do you not come off as an annoying fanboy buffoon? How do you just act natural and actually open up the potential for actually becoming acquainted with the celebrity?\n\nExample: during college I was at a house party and my friends told me that Josh Hartnet's sister was coming. And they told me I should not ask her about her brother. \n\nWell, ok. If you were worried about that, why even tell me who she is in the first place? If you wanted me to treat her just like anybody else, don't even mention Josh Hartnett. I would have no reason to ask her for her last name at a college keg party...\n\nSo his sister arrives. They introduce us. I feel awkward and shy and don't know what to talk about with her. She seemed shy too, just being around new people I guess. ",
"How should I react and behave when I meet a famous celebrity? Passing a celebrity on the sidewalk, it's pretty simple. Maybe just smile and give a nod and keep going. \n\nBut what if you get seated next to one on an airplane? Or introduced to a celeb at a party? \n\nHow do you not come off as an annoying fanboy buffoon? How do you just act natural and actually open up the potential for actually becoming acquainted with the celebrity?\n\nExample: during college I was at a house party and my friends told me that Josh Hartnet's sister was coming. And they told me I should not ask her about her brother. \n\nWell, ok. If you were worried about that, why even tell me who she is in the first place? If you wanted me to treat her just like anybody else, don't even mention Josh Hartnett. I would have no reason to ask her for her last name at a college keg party...\n\nSo his sister arrives. They introduce us. I feel awkward and shy and don't know what to talk about with her. She seemed shy too, just being around new people I guess. "
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"Just acknowledge their existence like anyone else, be chill. Don't yell at them. My grandfather is a famous actor and even I found it annoying walking around NYC and people yelling. Also.... make sure you know their actual name and don't address them by a role they played...\n\nDon't call Daniel Radcliffe Harry Potter.",
"Go absolutely mental and scream their name, get autograph, follow them home, break in and steal underwear.",
"Start by not thinking that a celebrity's SISTER is a celebrity. Maybe cut down on the teen heartthrob magazines too.\n\nOr at least give an example story that has some relevant context to the question.",
"I think most important is to remember that we are all simply human. Shitting, peeing, drinking, eating, stumbling, stubbed toe, sleeping, humans...\n\nWorked in an environment for a few years surrounded by day to day VIPs, DVs, and Celebrities. The key really is to just accept that they just as big an asshat as anyone else on the street. \n\nThey aren't necessarily smart, clever, or truly all that interesting. Just regular people, with interesting or cool jobs, pretty much about it. Say hello, smile, be a decent human, take a hint and STFU. They don't want to be your friend, they do not care about you in any way. \n\nAs for as Government people, Senators, President etc. It's even easier, seriously, just doesn't mean anything. They've paid millions, spent thousands of hours all to obtain a position of power to fill some hole in their persona, justify the megalomania, etc. Really easy to not be impressed by them.",
"Put your phone away, forget the selfies, and have an actual conversation with them that you'll cherish forever.",
"Pay attention to their body language.\n\nOne time, I saw Jemaine Clement on the street. But it was raining, he was with a woman and a child, and he wasn't smiling, he looked kind of busy and preoccupied. So I didn't say anything. It felt like I would be kind of intruding.\n\nAnother time, Bobby Hull came into a bar I was at. He was with two people, but he seemed kind of relaxed, and there weren't very many people in the bar. So when I was leaving the bar, I said to him something like \"Hey, I'm from Canada too (this was in Chicago), I just wanted to say hi, hope you're enjoying your evening.\"\n\nReally, just use the same unwritten social rules that you would use when deciding whether to approach a non-famous person.",
"I honestly wouldn't give a fuck. The minute they're not on a screen following a well written story written by a professional team of writers I have absolutely no interest in what dumb shit they could have to say/do.",
"Be chill, and if it looks like their not having a day, maybe ask for autograph. Otherwise their just another HUMAN",
" I used to go to a small bar after work that many celebrities visited because it was next to a nice hotel they stayed at. One night the only open seat at the bar was next to a well known (1990s) comedian in town for a few shows. I had seen him on a tv show talking about his antique tobacco collection he had and I told him about antique stores in town that might have what he like. The next night I returned to the bar (hotel worker) the bar was almost empty but when he came in again he chose to sit next to me so we could continue our conversation. Each encounter is different so there is not set rule on how to behave. TLDR/off topic , my mother was the 'housemother' of a sorority and members were daughters of a well known musician and an NFL coach. We helped her do clean out over the summer and we found a stack of nude Polaroid 'selfies' of the musicians daughter in a desk drawer, the days before digital photos.",
"I was actually talking about this with a fellow YouTuber I met for the first time last night. He and I have been recognized in person for the work we do online several times.\n\nI'm by no means famous, but on the rare occasion someone does recognize me, it's always more enjoyable for myself and the person I meet if they treat me like anyone else. Gently acknowledging they watch or enjoy my work is nice and usually pushes the conversation along. But making it the center of the conversation 9/10 makes it more awkward.\n\nOn the flip side, it's up to the person who has been recognized to not make things awkward. Turning the conversation to the person who has recognized me and asking them questions about themselves usually helps break tension.\n\nThe few times I've bumped into someone famous, I've tried to keep that in mind. In fact, I recently met a musician I pretty much idolized while I was in high school. I knew who they were, but I never even mentioned that I enjoyed his music until the second or third time we bumped into each other. Had I gushed about the fact that his band is my all time favorite band (that's actually true), I feel like I probably would have annoyed him and been brushed off. We're now friends who regularly communicate."
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"How to tell people you did literally nothing all summer but not sound like a loser Atleast 1 of my teachers next year is gonna make us go around the class saying what we did during the summer, pretty much all I've done is use the internet, but I don't want to be the kid that responds with \"I went on the internet\". I don't want to straight up lie, just a cool way to word the truth.",
"How to tell people you did literally nothing all summer but not sound like a loser Atleast 1 of my teachers next year is gonna make us go around the class saying what we did during the summer, pretty much all I've done is use the internet, but I don't want to be the kid that responds with \"I went on the internet\". I don't want to straight up lie, just a cool way to word the truth."
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"You relaxed and took time for yourself. Sounds like a good vacation to me.\n\nDon't worry about what other people think. ",
"The answer to this totally depends on what you were doing on the Internet. Did you learn to program/cook/etc? If not, a week is enough, go learn something you dig.\n"
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"How to get out item out of wall vent hole I accidentally dropped a lot of packs of gum down my wall vent, and want to get it out. Here’s a couple photos as an example, first one is the layout, second is how deep the hole is.\nhttps://imgur.com/gallery/BBfSg0c",
"How to get out item out of wall vent hole I accidentally dropped a lot of packs of gum down my wall vent, and want to get it out. Here’s a couple photos as an example, first one is the layout, second is how deep the hole is.\nhttps://imgur.com/gallery/BBfSg0c"
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"How to keep your Inbox organized? My inbox is not organized at all, I use hotmail, and if i need to find something it will take me a long time.\n\nSo what is a good way of keeping my inbox organized?",
"How to keep your Inbox organized? My inbox is not organized at all, I use hotmail, and if i need to find something it will take me a long time.\n\nSo what is a good way of keeping my inbox organized?",
"How to keep your Inbox organized? My inbox is not organized at all, I use hotmail, and if i need to find something it will take me a long time.\n\nSo what is a good way of keeping my inbox organized?",
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"To be honest I use gmail, I'm always able to find what I'm looking for, been using it since beta. No dramas.\n\nI still maintain my hotmail, but its a bitch to search on it.",
"1. Set up Auto-filters. \n2. Don't try to mark the important mails and move it to different folders. Instead weed out the unimportant ones like FB updates, newsletters into broad categories like \"Social\" or \"Newsletters\", and move that to different folders.\n3. **After** weeding out the recurring mails, mark/flag the mails which have only you in the \"to\" field.\n4. If you have gmail, give different unique addresses to websites like [email protected] to FaceBook. Or [email protected] to ebay. If sites don't accept the \"+\", put dots in your email like [email protected] or [email protected]. **Gmail ignores anything after the \"+\", and any dots in the email address, so you will get all those mails.** So now, instead of filtering the from address/subject, filter by the \"to\" field. That way, even if FB/ebay etc share your email address with anyone else, it'll still go to the same folder and you won't need to set up a new filter.\n5. Use gmail/auto-forward your hotmail mails to gmail. I get all my accounts' mail in my gmail address.\n6. If you do step 5, set up [2-step verification](http://support.google.com/accounts/bin/answer.py?hl=en&answer=180744) on your Google account.",
"Nothing stays in the inbox. \n\nFirst, I deal with personal stuff. Read, reply if you want. Move to a folder or delete. Subscriptions go here, too. Anything I want to keep gets put into a real file, but email folders can be fine. \n\nThen, fast todo items. Anything that takes less than five minutes, I do and delete/move the email. \n\nLonger todo items get added to a real todo list and removed from the inbox. Inbox is for new mail, todo list is for things to do. \n\nMy inbox now: http://imgur.com/pusOG",
"If you have tons of junk emails that you wish you wouldn't get, search the word \"unsubscribe\" and then go to the bottom of the email to unsubscribe. You'll eliminate a lot of junk emails this way! "
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"Keeping good posture while sitting in an office chair. I want to learn how to sit with proper posture of 2 feet on the floor, like [this](http://imgur.com/KdLKXeO).\n\nThis is how I always end up sitting: [legs crossed](http://imgur.com/xCHAV4p), [slouched back](http://imgur.com/6i7Co4k), [legs on top of another](http://imgur.com/4VwzdfM).\n\nHow I always sit at HOME: knees up like [this](http://imgur.com/1MUg5NT) or indian style like [this](http://imgur.com/4LEvoa4).\n\nI don't know why but I am seriously the MOST comfortable all squished up with both feet up on my chair and cannot seem to sit any other way. I obviously can't sit like this at work so i fidget and squirm around all day and can't seem to sit still in meetings at the office. It's is almost impossible for me to sit just upright with both feet flat on the floor. LPT REQUEST!",
"Keeping good posture while sitting in an office chair. I want to learn how to sit with proper posture of 2 feet on the floor, like [this](http://imgur.com/KdLKXeO).\n\nThis is how I always end up sitting: [legs crossed](http://imgur.com/xCHAV4p), [slouched back](http://imgur.com/6i7Co4k), [legs on top of another](http://imgur.com/4VwzdfM).\n\nHow I always sit at HOME: knees up like [this](http://imgur.com/1MUg5NT) or indian style like [this](http://imgur.com/4LEvoa4).\n\nI don't know why but I am seriously the MOST comfortable all squished up with both feet up on my chair and cannot seem to sit any other way. I obviously can't sit like this at work so i fidget and squirm around all day and can't seem to sit still in meetings at the office. It's is almost impossible for me to sit just upright with both feet flat on the floor. LPT REQUEST!",
"Keeping good posture while sitting in an office chair. I want to learn how to sit with proper posture of 2 feet on the floor, like [this](http://imgur.com/KdLKXeO).\n\nThis is how I always end up sitting: [legs crossed](http://imgur.com/xCHAV4p), [slouched back](http://imgur.com/6i7Co4k), [legs on top of another](http://imgur.com/4VwzdfM).\n\nHow I always sit at HOME: knees up like [this](http://imgur.com/1MUg5NT) or indian style like [this](http://imgur.com/4LEvoa4).\n\nI don't know why but I am seriously the MOST comfortable all squished up with both feet up on my chair and cannot seem to sit any other way. I obviously can't sit like this at work so i fidget and squirm around all day and can't seem to sit still in meetings at the office. It's is almost impossible for me to sit just upright with both feet flat on the floor. LPT REQUEST!",
"Keeping good posture while sitting in an office chair. I want to learn how to sit with proper posture of 2 feet on the floor, like [this](http://imgur.com/KdLKXeO).\n\nThis is how I always end up sitting: [legs crossed](http://imgur.com/xCHAV4p), [slouched back](http://imgur.com/6i7Co4k), [legs on top of another](http://imgur.com/4VwzdfM).\n\nHow I always sit at HOME: knees up like [this](http://imgur.com/1MUg5NT) or indian style like [this](http://imgur.com/4LEvoa4).\n\nI don't know why but I am seriously the MOST comfortable all squished up with both feet up on my chair and cannot seem to sit any other way. I obviously can't sit like this at work so i fidget and squirm around all day and can't seem to sit still in meetings at the office. It's is almost impossible for me to sit just upright with both feet flat on the floor. LPT REQUEST!",
"Keeping good posture while sitting in an office chair. I want to learn how to sit with proper posture of 2 feet on the floor, like [this](http://imgur.com/KdLKXeO).\n\nThis is how I always end up sitting: [legs crossed](http://imgur.com/xCHAV4p), [slouched back](http://imgur.com/6i7Co4k), [legs on top of another](http://imgur.com/4VwzdfM).\n\nHow I always sit at HOME: knees up like [this](http://imgur.com/1MUg5NT) or indian style like [this](http://imgur.com/4LEvoa4).\n\nI don't know why but I am seriously the MOST comfortable all squished up with both feet up on my chair and cannot seem to sit any other way. I obviously can't sit like this at work so i fidget and squirm around all day and can't seem to sit still in meetings at the office. It's is almost impossible for me to sit just upright with both feet flat on the floor. LPT REQUEST!",
"Keeping good posture while sitting in an office chair. I want to learn how to sit with proper posture of 2 feet on the floor, like [this](http://imgur.com/KdLKXeO).\n\nThis is how I always end up sitting: [legs crossed](http://imgur.com/xCHAV4p), [slouched back](http://imgur.com/6i7Co4k), [legs on top of another](http://imgur.com/4VwzdfM).\n\nHow I always sit at HOME: knees up like [this](http://imgur.com/1MUg5NT) or indian style like [this](http://imgur.com/4LEvoa4).\n\nI don't know why but I am seriously the MOST comfortable all squished up with both feet up on my chair and cannot seem to sit any other way. I obviously can't sit like this at work so i fidget and squirm around all day and can't seem to sit still in meetings at the office. It's is almost impossible for me to sit just upright with both feet flat on the floor. LPT REQUEST!"
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"Your only **best** position is your **next** position.\n\nThe only way to combat office chair use is to move and move often. Every 5-7 minutes you should change your position. That is better than sitting upright in proper posture for an hour.\n\nI use this free program, Workrave (Windows & Linux) to remind me to change positions every few minutes and to get up and take a walk every 1.5 hours.\n\nhttp://www.workrave.org/",
"sit forward so that you only sit on half the chair. This forces you to support yourself on your spine and makes you look more alert.",
"You need a chair that allows adjustment of either the seat backwards or the back forwards so your back can be in contact with the seat back.",
"I'm sitting at work reading this like #3 except my legs are stretched out, never have discomfort that way so I need no issue changing it.",
"I have to have a foot rest to have my feet flat, but I sit like all of your work sitting methods. I also stand about 30% of the time at my desk.\n\n For me, how I sit is more important for how my wrists and eyes are positioned. ",
"From your post it seems like you think sitting 90-90 (degrees) is good posture and your other sitting positions are not. I respectfully disagree and want to defend the “bad” postures a bit. Some of the other positions (maybe except the slouching one) are not bad for the body, they’re only bad socially, e.g. it’s seen as unprofessional in a corporate environment.\n\nThe one-leg-on-top-of-another, or under, or indian style are all ways to externally rotate the femurs, and that puts the hip joint at a more stable position. It makes the pelvis floor parallel to the diaphragm so breathing is easy and relaxed (think of the more extreme lotus position that people m"
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"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA",
"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA",
"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA",
"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA",
"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA",
"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA",
"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA",
"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA",
"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA",
"i have a test coming and I can't force myself to study My test in 2 weeks and i just can't study. I haven't even done a first review yet. I have only read like 1/4 of the book is. I can't reschedule the test and i paid a lot of of money for it. My work is physically/ mentally draining and whenever i go home, I just lay down trying to forget about work till next morning. \n\n i know I can finish the book before the test. But i simply can't study\n\nDo you have any tips for me?\n\nTIA"
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"Try waking up early and doing it before work? You can take it on while you are still fresh and not exhausted.",
"It depends on the reason behind \"I just can't study\".\n\nIs it because you haven't slept well lately? Facing some serious stress at home/family/work? Facing some health problems? Are you overeating/starving yourself or otherwise are doing/not doing something that could influence your physical/emotional wellbeing? Are you distracted by online gaming, social media, friends? Are you a procrastinator that needs micromanagement to get things done? Something else? Combination of a few things?\n\nTry to identify the source of the problem, and then work the problem. If it is not possible to tackle it directly, do your best to come up with healthy workarounds to address the problem.\n\nSet your mind to work the problem, set up a plan and implement it.\n\nGood luck",
"There is no “cant do it” lmao suck it up. You just wont do it. There is no magic potion thats magically gonna give you the energy to do it, actually meth will. Try meth",
"Try breaking your routine. Maybe go for à quick walk to change your mind before getting on your studying",
"Don’t go home. Go to the library and find a boring corner where there is nothing to do but study. You’ve got to shake yourself out of a rut sometimes.",
"drop out. you’re wasting your time and everyone else’s. come back when you’re ready to make it happen.",
"The longer you study the lower the retention. Figure out how long you can study before you lose attention or no longer retaining. This can be different for each person as well as for each subject. Say you can figure out that your attention / retention lags at a half hour. Set alarm for half hour and study. Then go do something else for 15-30 minutes. Come back and your retention should be re set. Repeat",
"Oh brother, you already messed up, waiting till the last two weeks to start studying.\n\nSkim through the book and take 5 min breaks in between.",
"Audiobooks if there is a relevant one for your test, can let you study while you are doing other things.",
"Accept that you may have to take a loss on this one. Withdraw from the course if you can.\n\nThen give yourself some time to get settled into the new place. And perhaps find a better job. \n\n*Then* start studying again. \n\nIn spite of all of the \"you can do it\" cheerleading in popular culture and the pressure to \"do/have it all,\" we are ultimately human and can get burned out."
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"how to re-dye khaki pants and shorts. I accidentally bleached part of my khaki shorts and wondered if anyone has had any luck re dying the bleached part. "
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"I have used Sharpie before on bleach marks. However, it was bleach marks on black clothes. If you can find a Sharpie that is about the same color it might work to just color over the white marks, but I think the Sharpie might be too saturated of a color to blend with a light color like khaki. \n\nYou could also try blotting the white marks with very strong coffee. ",
"I always bleach the whole thing and then use a fiber specific dye. I would use iDye Ecru for cotton (or 100% natural fiber) khakis. http://www.dickblick.com/products/jacquard-idye/?wmcp=amazon&wmcid=feeds&wmckw=01312-1450\n\nUse two packets."
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"What are some small ways to save money in college? From textbooks, to meals, to laundry, to living expenses (not to mention sky high tuition costs), college can be hard on a student's budget. As a freshman this year, I'm learning that lesson quickly - it seems you're hit with new little costs and fees at every corner. What are some useful tips for saving money in college, to make it through the years without breaking the bank?",
"What are some small ways to save money in college? From textbooks, to meals, to laundry, to living expenses (not to mention sky high tuition costs), college can be hard on a student's budget. As a freshman this year, I'm learning that lesson quickly - it seems you're hit with new little costs and fees at every corner. What are some useful tips for saving money in college, to make it through the years without breaking the bank?",
"What are some small ways to save money in college? From textbooks, to meals, to laundry, to living expenses (not to mention sky high tuition costs), college can be hard on a student's budget. As a freshman this year, I'm learning that lesson quickly - it seems you're hit with new little costs and fees at every corner. What are some useful tips for saving money in college, to make it through the years without breaking the bank?",
"What are some small ways to save money in college? From textbooks, to meals, to laundry, to living expenses (not to mention sky high tuition costs), college can be hard on a student's budget. As a freshman this year, I'm learning that lesson quickly - it seems you're hit with new little costs and fees at every corner. What are some useful tips for saving money in college, to make it through the years without breaking the bank?",
"What are some small ways to save money in college? From textbooks, to meals, to laundry, to living expenses (not to mention sky high tuition costs), college can be hard on a student's budget. As a freshman this year, I'm learning that lesson quickly - it seems you're hit with new little costs and fees at every corner. What are some useful tips for saving money in college, to make it through the years without breaking the bank?",
"What are some small ways to save money in college? From textbooks, to meals, to laundry, to living expenses (not to mention sky high tuition costs), college can be hard on a student's budget. As a freshman this year, I'm learning that lesson quickly - it seems you're hit with new little costs and fees at every corner. What are some useful tips for saving money in college, to make it through the years without breaking the bank?",
"What are some small ways to save money in college? From textbooks, to meals, to laundry, to living expenses (not to mention sky high tuition costs), college can be hard on a student's budget. As a freshman this year, I'm learning that lesson quickly - it seems you're hit with new little costs and fees at every corner. What are some useful tips for saving money in college, to make it through the years without breaking the bank?",
"What are some small ways to save money in college? From textbooks, to meals, to laundry, to living expenses (not to mention sky high tuition costs), college can be hard on a student's budget. As a freshman this year, I'm learning that lesson quickly - it seems you're hit with new little costs and fees at every corner. What are some useful tips for saving money in college, to make it through the years without breaking the bank?",
"What are some small ways to save money in college? From textbooks, to meals, to laundry, to living expenses (not to mention sky high tuition costs), college can be hard on a student's budget. As a freshman this year, I'm learning that lesson quickly - it seems you're hit with new little costs and fees at every corner. What are some useful tips for saving money in college, to make it through the years without breaking the bank?"
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"If you think that you can't live without soda or coffee, then buy it at the grocery store and take it with you instead of buying it while you are on the go. This alone can save you a minimum of $50/mo that could go towards a bill. \n\nAlso, dollar per hour of entertainment, video games and streaming services are tens or hundreds of times cheaper than movie theaters or other forms of entertainment. \n\nDon't just look for where to save/stop spending money, learn what spending has a better return on investment compared to others!",
"Goodwill: decorative stuff, clothing, bags.\nDollar store: frozen fruit, cards, utensils, etc.\nGrocery: Aldi or walmart \n",
"I used to save money in the cafeteria by buying four slices of bread ($.69 per two, so $1.38 plus tax) and then getting a free water cup, and getting the free little individually packaged servings of peanut butter and jelly from the condiment bar. \n\nI'd make myself two PBnJs and drink water for less than $1.50.\n\nI would usually do this for lunch so I could eat quickly between classes. Then I'd have a real dinner so I didn't loose too much weight. \n\nAlso, go to any event that offers free food. Most clubs will have \"interest meetings\" where they'll offer free pizza. So show up for 10 minutes, listen to their pitch, and get free food. \n\nFood adds up. Try to get as much free food as possible. \n\nAlso, toiletries are expensive. Bring as much from your parents' house as possible. Try not to buy them yourself. Or if any of your or your friends' parents are in town to visit, ask them to bring some extra soaps and shampoos and toothpastes from their hotel room. \n\nAsk a buddy if they want to split a load of laundry with you. In my dorm the machines were high capacity and my week of dirty laundry would never fill the whole load. So I'd go in together with a friend and we'd split the cost of a load and then separate out our clothes at the end. \n\nLook for other LPTs regarding cheap college textbooks. Anything you can do to not have to buy the book, or not pay full price for it will help a ton. \n\nIf you need things like clothes or shoes, thrift stores near colleges are usually a good place to try. People are very transient in college, especially towards the end of semesters, and will often donate really nice stuff. So go thrift it up and buy awesome stuff for cheap money. \n\nIf I think of any more I used to use during college I'll ",
"Get a membership to your public library. In Toronto, for example, you can take out up to 50 items at a time, whether that be books, movies, graphic novels (yes comic books), etc. Plus TPL has free passes to some local museums. They're a great resource for free or low-cost entertainment and activities. ",
"Don't be afraid of thrift stores! I got 8 really nice shirts and two sweaters (one which was new) for $45 and that's because one of the shirts was $6.45 but I still decided to buy it.",
"Do not go out to eat! Eat at the dorm cafeteria but that should be about it. Don't go crazy overboard with not eating out, just be conscious of it and don't make it a habit. Also, it may sound counterproductive, but go for the higher quality (more nutritious) food over the junk food. You will stay full longer and you will be healthier for it. \n\nDo your laundry. There is no getting around it. You can wear pants and overshirts a few times, but anything else that touches your skin directly is one and done. \n\nYou don't need to go crazy getting *everything* to make your dorm perfect in the first week. See what you need and what you can live without. If you keep track you'll be surprised how little you actually need. \n\nAlso, alcohol = $$$. I'm not against drinking, but no matter how you slice it, drinking costs money. You need to prioritize and decide if it is worth it to go out every weekend.",
"As far as textbooks go I don't buy them. The library will probably have them or you can borrow and copy the pages you need. Most of my textbooks have been rarely used in the class and I got by fine. You can also pirate a few textbooks. also Biking saves me so much money as opposed to a car. No insurance, gas, or parking to pay.",
"-Don't waste money on ATM fees. Take out a decent amount from a free ATM (and then pace spending, of course) or get cash when you pay with your debit card at the store.\n\n -Get a student discount on your phone plan if you can. Some companies do it. Doesn't hurt to ask. If they do it, you might need to go to the local shop for your carrier to show a student ID to get the discount set up on your account.\n\n-Buy generics. Store-brand laundry detergent works fine. Same for contact lens solution, mouthwash, whatever. Check the ingredients lists to make sure the ingredients are comparable to a product you like, but generics will save you money. \n\n-If you drink coffee or tea, get a reusable travel mug and make the drinks yourself. This will save you a ton of cash over buying drinks while you're out somewhere.",
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"how to get buttons and analog sticks on console controllers to stop sticking. Please help me. This is so annoying."
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"Keep them clean. This will always happen with older controllers. Even with moderate play, most controllers should be replaced after 3-4 years to avoid this. I was able to delay that with my ps3 and N64 controllers by cleaning them with q tips and old, dry tooth brushes or electric razor brushes. Also, I'll add a small amount of razor oil lube to the button slots and base of the joystick and work it in there to keep them loose. Be careful not too much, or you'll have a bitch of a time cleaning the excess off and dealing with slippery controllers. ",
"Dip an old toothbrush in some rubbing alcohol. You could also try Goo Gone but I'm not sure if that'd be safe."
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"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly.",
"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly.",
"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly.",
"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly.",
"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly.",
"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly.",
"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly.",
"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly.",
"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly.",
"How To Recover From A Tough Breakup I'm struggling quite a bit right, now, and I know this is probably material for/r/depressed but I feel like the LPT community is a lot more responsive. \n\nAnyway, girlfriend of 2 years just broke up with me out of the blue. No reason why except that there was someone else (which I've basically confirmed by the power of social media), but that doesn't really bother me much. I'm struggling because I don't understand how somebody who tells you on a daily basis that they love you and they care about you can just walk away like that. Ice been in few, but very lengthy relationships so I've dealt with this before, and this by far had hit the hardest. I was so happy, and as a person who struggles with depression and anxiety, it really is starting to feel like I'm not good enough or I'm just doing everything wrong. I don't know how to get my mind off of her, and although I've got a few close friends supporting me, I'm still having a really difficult time. I don't even understand what went wrong, she never told me anything and the fact that she always talked about some guy she hangs out with didn't help my situation. I just need closure but I know not everything can be fixed. Anywho, all replies are appreciated. \n\nTL;DR- Struggling with past and present relationship problems and need advice on how to cope with and recover somewhat quickly."
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"Get a gym membership. Breakups build body builders. Not saying that's what you want or should do but it's a good activity that will boost your self confidence. Something you can do for an hour or two a day to take your mind off things. ",
"I got dumped by an ex I dated for a year and a half. It was my first heartbreak I've ever experienced. Basically he had fallen out of love with me. Initially, what helped me was working out but it took a while. It took maybe like a full week for me to stop thinking about killing myself. Yes, it was a very dramatic reaction I realize it now but I was in pain. Mentally and physically as I didn't eat very much and laid in bed all day. \n\nAnyway, after that depressing week, I kept at my workouts every day. I woke up and did hills because they're painful after a while. I would stop at the top of the hill and do push ups and sit ups and then do it over and over and over again. \n\nWhen I wasn't distracted by this; I would fill my ears with music. Not just any music but reggae. Reggae was so soothing to me mostly because they don't really talk about girls and breakups and such. Some do, but it's not really depressing and most of the time reggae music seems to have a positive message. In my opinion that's what you want right now, positivity. For example, \"We're feeling good, we're feeling alright. In a moment I'll be on my way, to better days, while life is changing\". That particular lyric comes from Rebelution; the song is \"Feeling Alright\". I also enjoyed Soja's older music. I realize these are just two but if you're interested just look them up on Pandora so that way you'll be able to enjoy similar songs. He talks about the world and how we can change it by being better people. It was distracting and it also made me realize that there's more to life than romantic relationships, at least at this stage in my life (I am 22). I was needy in this relationship and ended up realizing a lot about myself. I think things like this are meant to happen because it's necessary to our growth. What's meant to be will be, right?\n\nI think maybe you're just lonely right now and miss her. You need time to get used to being without her again. There's always better though! I am a girl who would never betray someone I love, we do exist. Please don't start hating or generalizing girls because of your scummy ex. Good luck and I hope you feel well soon! ",
"Been through the same. Wanted to know if the \"grass was greener on the other side.\" For me, I just picked up a lot of hobbies. Started to go on long hikes, road my bike. I started archery, anything to preoccupy the time. I know it gets rough at nights. I used to not sleep nor eat for days. You just gotta tough it out and explore what's around you. Travel to a place you've never been. Easier said than done, but be independent and do things by yourself. ",
"After 8 years of being together and 5 years of marriage, my (now ex) wife wanted to call it quits. I moved to California (from the east coast), got rid of (most) social media and immersed myself in my new, local community. Of course there's the old saying \"wherever you go, there you are\". You can't run away from your problems, but a change of scenery can sure be a nice distracting. It's going to hurt, and you need to let yourself feel all the feels. But you can also be proactive. Physical training is huge. Lift weights, run, bike, swim, go rock climbing - it doesn't matter. Just find something to burn all that cortisol. Go meet people. Go on dates (get laid). Learn to be alone. Read. M",
"Worked through a bad break up when I was 18. The best thing I did was start a new job. Being around people who didn't know him or my past helped me push through it and build new relationships. I worked in a restaurant so I couldn't take a problems to work with me. I guess it's like faking until you make it coupled with surrounding yourself with new people. ",
"Take the motorcycle safety riding course; it's typically offered with loaner bikes, not terribly expensive, and teaches the basics. Then, when you decide at the end it's for you, get a bike and ride it as often as you can. There's a reason people like to ride them; I did this for the worst breakup of my life and it really smoothed out the bumps.\n\nRiding sort of puts your anxiety brain on autopilot while you handle the higher functions, and things gain perspective and resolve happens. I'm not sure if I'm explaining it right, sort of a \"chop wood, carry water\" kind of activity. I'm sure there are others.",
"There is never any shame in seeing a therapist. If you can not afford to see someone call your local mental health clinic, they have sliding scale fees to help. \n\nI hope you recover quickly and feel better soon. Breakups suck. ",
"I've been there too :( just try to distract yourself with people who care about you... And as cliche as it is, time will heal you and you'll meet an even better girl for you <3",
"I'm going through one, and yes, it's hard to deal with (GF broke up with me after 2 years and a half). I honestly don't know what to do or react to the situation for me to feel better, but I find working hard at my job rewarding. Trying to solve problems by not only giving the solution, but the best one I can come up with, has helped me a lot. I focus this way on developing my skills and being productive, while forgetting about my breakup. At the end, it's our jobs that keeps us living. \n\np.s IT guy",
"I live with depression and anxiety and relationships and their demise can be very difficult. Just remember (maybe look in a mirror) to love yourself and accept that you are doing your best. Keep trying."
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"How do I remove someone from my life that I see everyday, without hurting their feelings? So I became friends with this one person because I thought they would be cool. Unfortunately they weren't and now I'm stuck being friends with someone whom I hate but likes me. How do I remove them from my life without being a dick!",
"How do I remove someone from my life that I see everyday, without hurting their feelings? So I became friends with this one person because I thought they would be cool. Unfortunately they weren't and now I'm stuck being friends with someone whom I hate but likes me. How do I remove them from my life without being a dick!",
"How do I remove someone from my life that I see everyday, without hurting their feelings? So I became friends with this one person because I thought they would be cool. Unfortunately they weren't and now I'm stuck being friends with someone whom I hate but likes me. How do I remove them from my life without being a dick!"
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"In my opinion, as based on past experience, that would be impossible. Most people don't take things seriously, or get the hint, unless they are spoken to sternly and direct. Which will offend most people.",
"If someone is toxic to your life you aren't being a dick by telling them you don't want to hang out anymore. If they ask why tell them why but don't continue the friendship",
"This happened to me like 3 months ago until i told her that i was done with her in a friendly but direct way"
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"Job interview tips I have my first job interview tomorrow, and I didn't know who else to ask for tips. Any help would be appreciated! Thanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE: all of your tips were greatly appreciated, I did end up getting the job. I tried to use as many tips as possible, and the interviewer even commented, \"and seeing you come to the interview dressed in a shirt and tie just makes me feel that much better about hiring you.\" so thanks guys!",
"Job interview tips I have my first job interview tomorrow, and I didn't know who else to ask for tips. Any help would be appreciated! Thanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE: all of your tips were greatly appreciated, I did end up getting the job. I tried to use as many tips as possible, and the interviewer even commented, \"and seeing you come to the interview dressed in a shirt and tie just makes me feel that much better about hiring you.\" so thanks guys!",
"Job interview tips I have my first job interview tomorrow, and I didn't know who else to ask for tips. Any help would be appreciated! Thanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE: all of your tips were greatly appreciated, I did end up getting the job. I tried to use as many tips as possible, and the interviewer even commented, \"and seeing you come to the interview dressed in a shirt and tie just makes me feel that much better about hiring you.\" so thanks guys!",
"Job interview tips I have my first job interview tomorrow, and I didn't know who else to ask for tips. Any help would be appreciated! Thanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE: all of your tips were greatly appreciated, I did end up getting the job. I tried to use as many tips as possible, and the interviewer even commented, \"and seeing you come to the interview dressed in a shirt and tie just makes me feel that much better about hiring you.\" so thanks guys!",
"Job interview tips I have my first job interview tomorrow, and I didn't know who else to ask for tips. Any help would be appreciated! Thanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE: all of your tips were greatly appreciated, I did end up getting the job. I tried to use as many tips as possible, and the interviewer even commented, \"and seeing you come to the interview dressed in a shirt and tie just makes me feel that much better about hiring you.\" so thanks guys!",
"Job interview tips I have my first job interview tomorrow, and I didn't know who else to ask for tips. Any help would be appreciated! Thanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE: all of your tips were greatly appreciated, I did end up getting the job. I tried to use as many tips as possible, and the interviewer even commented, \"and seeing you come to the interview dressed in a shirt and tie just makes me feel that much better about hiring you.\" so thanks guys!",
"Job interview tips I have my first job interview tomorrow, and I didn't know who else to ask for tips. Any help would be appreciated! Thanks in advance.\n\nUPDATE: all of your tips were greatly appreciated, I did end up getting the job. I tried to use as many tips as possible, and the interviewer even commented, \"and seeing you come to the interview dressed in a shirt and tie just makes me feel that much better about hiring you.\" so thanks guys!"
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"I just cut and paste this to every one of these questions:\n\n* Arrive early. Introduce yourself to the receptionist or supervisor, shake hands, and inform them of who you are and who you are supposed to meet for the interview. Sit/stand where they tell you to and don't fidget or play with your phone. In fact, turn it off. Right now.\n\n* Did you dress nicely? Are you wearing a clean, long sleeved shirt (tucked in) with nice slacks (belted)? If this position is more formal, don't forget your jacket and tie.\n\n* Did you bring an extra copy of your resume, and a notepad to take notes? Even if they already have one, they will respect the fact that you came prepared.\n\n* When meeting your interviewer, shake hands and wait until you are asked to be seated. Sitting down before being offered a seat is presumptious, and shows you make assumptions. Don't be that guy.\n\n* 99% of interviewers will open with \"So tell me a little about yourself.\" This is NOT a personal question. You should take this as an opportunity to highlight all the professional skills you feel make you shine. An appropriate answer could be \"Well, I'm a self starter with extensive experience in task management who has always set the bar for others to follow. I've learned (X) skill through (Y) company, which I was able to apply to (Z).\" You get the idea. Keep the details brief, as this is just an introduction so the interviewer has some idea of how you approach a job and what your skills are. Practice this at home. Have a prepared idea of what you want to say about yourself, and keep it under 60 seconds.\n\n* Repeat questions back in the answer. This serves two purposes: one, it shows you're detail oriented. Two, it also gives you an extra second to think of how you want to answer. \"What was your first job?\" \"My first job was...\"\n\n* Everyone struggles with examples of customer service, or employee relations. Again, practice at home. Google interview questions and you'll find that most of these are pretty generic. Have examples readily available, and make them examples of how you not only fulfilled that role, but applied what you learned to something else. Show them that you can evolve in the job.\n\n* If they ask you for questions at the end, do NOT ask about pay or benefits. Red flag. Instead, ask questions about the company, or more details about the position. Ask the interviewer about their position, if they're not an HR rep- is this person going to be your future boss? Ask them what they personally are looking for to round out their team, or where they see their team in five years. Don't ask yes or no questions.\n\nGood luck.",
"A charismatic friend taught me this:\n\nInterviewers hire people they want to hang out with.\n\nTry to come off as likeable, easy-going, and interesting--be someone they'd like to know better.",
"You might want to indicate something about what sort of job you're interviewing for. The tips would be very different if you're interviewing to be a surgeon vs. a stockbroker vs. a security guard.",
"Read the company's website before you go to the interview. I have interviewed so many people who had no idea what the organization they were wanting to work actually did.",
"Image is important. I've heard that a person will know if they want to offer you a job within the first 12 seconds of an interview. So dress smartly and look confident. Also don't be the one to initiate a handshake; heard a story about someone going to shake the hand of the person interviewing them only to be shocked to discover that person was missing that hand. Obviously quite a rare thing to happen, but still, the interviewer may not be comfortable shaking hands. Let them make that decision. ",
"Google search job interview questions be ready to tell stories about leadership, bad situations, and so on. The interviewer doesn't just want to see if your qualified (that's resume) but if your character and personality is right for the job. ",
"As an interviewer, I suggest:\n\n1. Pay attention to body language. If the guy's not listening any more, wrap it up and move onto the next question.\n\n2. Don't dwell on the bullshit that happened at your last company. If you last company was a crap place to work, just say \"I'm looking for a better opportunity.\". No one wants to listen to grievences about your old boss.\n\n3. Learn about the company and their products before you interview. I can't believe your sales pitch that you're a good match for our company if you don't seem to know what we do.\n\n4. It is better not arrive with a sob story about how you need vacation right away."
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"How get out of the habit of cracking knuckles and shaking leg I don't shake my legs often, but i do crack my toes and fingers every 5-10 mins. I saw stuff online about cracking fingers and how its not bad for you, but it's not about that. I want to be able to to break these habits and increase my self-control",
"How get out of the habit of cracking knuckles and shaking leg I don't shake my legs often, but i do crack my toes and fingers every 5-10 mins. I saw stuff online about cracking fingers and how its not bad for you, but it's not about that. I want to be able to to break these habits and increase my self-control",
"How get out of the habit of cracking knuckles and shaking leg I don't shake my legs often, but i do crack my toes and fingers every 5-10 mins. I saw stuff online about cracking fingers and how its not bad for you, but it's not about that. I want to be able to to break these habits and increase my self-control",
"How get out of the habit of cracking knuckles and shaking leg I don't shake my legs often, but i do crack my toes and fingers every 5-10 mins. I saw stuff online about cracking fingers and how its not bad for you, but it's not about that. I want to be able to to break these habits and increase my self-control",
"How get out of the habit of cracking knuckles and shaking leg I don't shake my legs often, but i do crack my toes and fingers every 5-10 mins. I saw stuff online about cracking fingers and how its not bad for you, but it's not about that. I want to be able to to break these habits and increase my self-control",
"How get out of the habit of cracking knuckles and shaking leg I don't shake my legs often, but i do crack my toes and fingers every 5-10 mins. I saw stuff online about cracking fingers and how its not bad for you, but it's not about that. I want to be able to to break these habits and increase my self-control",
"How get out of the habit of cracking knuckles and shaking leg I don't shake my legs often, but i do crack my toes and fingers every 5-10 mins. I saw stuff online about cracking fingers and how its not bad for you, but it's not about that. I want to be able to to break these habits and increase my self-control",
"How get out of the habit of cracking knuckles and shaking leg I don't shake my legs often, but i do crack my toes and fingers every 5-10 mins. I saw stuff online about cracking fingers and how its not bad for you, but it's not about that. I want to be able to to break these habits and increase my self-control",
"How get out of the habit of cracking knuckles and shaking leg I don't shake my legs often, but i do crack my toes and fingers every 5-10 mins. I saw stuff online about cracking fingers and how its not bad for you, but it's not about that. I want to be able to to break these habits and increase my self-control"
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"Screw it. I'm cracking my joints till I die. My right knee gets a good solid satisfying POP at least twice a day. Why would you want to give that up?",
"Whenever I'm in the middle of a test, or other silent endeavor and I get that urge to crack my joints, I just tell myself how satisfying the crack will be if I just hold still until I get out. Then I don't annoy the people around me, AND I get an especially satisfying crack two hours later. ",
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"You might have too many stimulants in you. Lower your amount of sugar and caffeine. Increase your water intake and get enough sleep.\n\n\nI used to shake my legs a lot too. Sometimes it was because the chair was too high and my legs would fall asleep otherwise. I have a foot rest at work & home to raise my feet higher so I don't keep moving them.\n\n\nFor cracking knuckles, hold a pen (non-clicking pen). Your brain is looking for something to do, so for me I tend to hold my pen at work so my hands have something to do and don't start tapping the table or move too much or fiddle with my badge.",
"Try to downscale them and morph your habits into something that is close to it but not as irritating. \n\nIdea for the knuckle thing: deliberately start stretching hands without a sound and do this oonce in a while. If you find yourself cracking it again do the new movement afterwards as a \"correction\".\n\n It might take a while but it worked for me replacing nail biting with pushing back the nail edge(rims?) (which is less gross, still works as a nervous tick and less painful, even good).\n\nCan work the same with the leg I think.\n\n",
"Here are my thoughts:\n\nFor my mild RLS (Restless Leg Syndrome), my doctor prescribed...wait for it... magnesium supplements. At first I thought, \"Yeah, supplements...sure.\" Then I started taking it and saw a massive decrease in the amount of leg shaking I did down to almost none (day and night).\n\nFor cracking knuckles, you have to figure out if stiffness is a trigger, or just a plain habit. If it is stiffness try tensing for 5 seconds then spreading for 5 seconds. For example, in your hand, make a tight fist and squeeze hard, then flatten your hand and try to spread your fingers as wide as possible for 5 seconds. Repeat if necessary.\n\nFor just a habit -- baby steps. Start by being conscious that you want to do it, but don't allow yourself to do it for a predetermined amount of time. For example, if you do it every 5-10 minutes, don't allow yourself to do it for 15 minutes, then 20, and so on.",
"Don't have any advice, but I'm here for answers too. I would exchange the leg shaking for biting the skin off my fingers - God I hate doing it but I can't stahhhp",
"When you drink coffee take some theanine as well. It will smooth out the high and make you more mellow. It is also a super safe substance that is found naturally in tea. This will help with the restless leg a little.\n\nAlso, have you considered getting a standing desk? \n\n",
"Try sports where you use your hands such as climbing. Whenever I go climbing my muscles and joints tend to be less 'crackable'. Probably because of muscle fatigue or something?\n\nIf I skip climbing for a week or two, my hands and basically every joint becomes crackable again.\n\nSomething I noticed: once you pop a joint it will be easier to pop it again the next time. This is because the joints become a wee bit overstretched when popping. Anyways after an intense climbing session that seems to be easily solved. "
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"Dealing with Face Blindness All my life, I've been unable to recognize/remember faces. They simply do not stick in my head.\nI have issues remembering family friends and relatives, co-workers, and it gets embarrassing when my parents have to go over who's going to be at our Christmas party or something.\nI've been compensating by memorizing voices, hair styles and clothing, but even then, if, say, someone is sick and their voice is different, or they get their shirt dirty and changes it during the day, or if someone gets a different hair cut, it totally throws me off and I go to my failsafe and treat them like a stranger. \nI work at a hardware store, and I remember customers by projects I helped them with as opposed to their faces, and I know who my co-workers are because we all wear the same uniform, but I've still gotten mixed up a couple of times.\nAll this really makes me self-conscious that I look like a complete jerk, and I have had to explain that I have issues with faces to frequent customers that know me by name.\nSo, is there a secret to memorizing faces better, or perhaps compensating in some other way that isn't extremely variable?",
"Dealing with Face Blindness All my life, I've been unable to recognize/remember faces. They simply do not stick in my head.\nI have issues remembering family friends and relatives, co-workers, and it gets embarrassing when my parents have to go over who's going to be at our Christmas party or something.\nI've been compensating by memorizing voices, hair styles and clothing, but even then, if, say, someone is sick and their voice is different, or they get their shirt dirty and changes it during the day, or if someone gets a different hair cut, it totally throws me off and I go to my failsafe and treat them like a stranger. \nI work at a hardware store, and I remember customers by projects I helped them with as opposed to their faces, and I know who my co-workers are because we all wear the same uniform, but I've still gotten mixed up a couple of times.\nAll this really makes me self-conscious that I look like a complete jerk, and I have had to explain that I have issues with faces to frequent customers that know me by name.\nSo, is there a secret to memorizing faces better, or perhaps compensating in some other way that isn't extremely variable?",
"Dealing with Face Blindness All my life, I've been unable to recognize/remember faces. They simply do not stick in my head.\nI have issues remembering family friends and relatives, co-workers, and it gets embarrassing when my parents have to go over who's going to be at our Christmas party or something.\nI've been compensating by memorizing voices, hair styles and clothing, but even then, if, say, someone is sick and their voice is different, or they get their shirt dirty and changes it during the day, or if someone gets a different hair cut, it totally throws me off and I go to my failsafe and treat them like a stranger. \nI work at a hardware store, and I remember customers by projects I helped them with as opposed to their faces, and I know who my co-workers are because we all wear the same uniform, but I've still gotten mixed up a couple of times.\nAll this really makes me self-conscious that I look like a complete jerk, and I have had to explain that I have issues with faces to frequent customers that know me by name.\nSo, is there a secret to memorizing faces better, or perhaps compensating in some other way that isn't extremely variable?",
"Dealing with Face Blindness All my life, I've been unable to recognize/remember faces. They simply do not stick in my head.\nI have issues remembering family friends and relatives, co-workers, and it gets embarrassing when my parents have to go over who's going to be at our Christmas party or something.\nI've been compensating by memorizing voices, hair styles and clothing, but even then, if, say, someone is sick and their voice is different, or they get their shirt dirty and changes it during the day, or if someone gets a different hair cut, it totally throws me off and I go to my failsafe and treat them like a stranger. \nI work at a hardware store, and I remember customers by projects I helped them with as opposed to their faces, and I know who my co-workers are because we all wear the same uniform, but I've still gotten mixed up a couple of times.\nAll this really makes me self-conscious that I look like a complete jerk, and I have had to explain that I have issues with faces to frequent customers that know me by name.\nSo, is there a secret to memorizing faces better, or perhaps compensating in some other way that isn't extremely variable?"
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"I'm in the same boat. Normally the brain has a section to recognize faces. Doesn't work in mine. If you can't do it in hardware, you will have to fake it in software.\n\nI identify people with a variety of clues. Location is the biggest one. If someone looks a bit familiar and is in the right place, they might be someone I know. Then add things like height, body type, clothing, grooming habits, and their voice.\n\nWhen in doubt, fake it. Look at people as if you recognize them and maybe even nod. If they nod back and start talking to you, it'll be pretty obvious who they are.\n\nFinally, tell your friends and acquaintances that you have prosopagnosia. Explain the situation. They will accommodate your disability and introduce themselves when necessary.",
"That's a hard one, but honestly, if a person knows you they'll know that about you and let you know who they are when talking to you. I'm not really sure, good luck! \nYou could also just make people wear name tags for events like parties etc- it helps make everyone feel comfortable if they don't all know each other either ",
"I have this same issue. I look for lots of other clues and have become more observant about other things like clothing, hair, voice, place, et al. One time I had to pick my husband up at the airport and drove by him because he bought a new hat. Oops. \nThe thing that's helped me the most is letting friends, family, and co-workers all know that it's my limitation. People generally are really willing to help when they know it's an issue. \nThe other option is to just be friendly and outgoing with everyone. I'm an introvert and only use this if needed. But, if you're at a hardware store, a friendly question like \"what project are you working on now?\" could be construed as ambiguous for new and old customers alike. ",
"I don't have actual Face Blindness, sorry if I'm wasting your time. However, I do have poor eyesight and often don't wear glasses or lenses and can semi-relate to this. Being friendly to most people will never hurt. Explain your situation, maybe wear a name tag with \"Sorry, I can't recognise faces\" or something. Best of luck! HNY btw :)"
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"Noisy neighbors in adjoining yard, hostile upon confrontation We've lived here in our home for just over 7 years and love our neighborhood. There are several homes that are rentals around us, but most are long term and have been here almost as long as we have. I am also in contact with most of the land lords for the various properties, as when we do work (fence repair, tree trimming) I contact them to coordinate access for cleanup by our contractors if branches fall into the adjoining yard.\n\nThe houses are back to back and maybe 50 feet or so between the backs of the houses with a 6ft high wood fence between the properties.\n\nAbout a year ago we got some new renters behind us. They have a couple of young children. One that I've learned is an 11 year old boy, and a daughter who is still too young to talk, as I hear them playing with her frequently during the day.\n\nThey were quiet and pleasant for the first several months. I'd hear them spending family time in the backyard during the day but rarely at night. One day they began construction on a structure over the rear patio. I'm not one to report working being done usually, but after seeing some of the construction methods they were using I did contact the landlord to make sure they were aware that work was being done and it was attached to the house. They were aware and said they offered money off rent for the addition. \n\nOnce this addition was completed was when they began the late night loud-a-thons. They hung a television on the back of the house and decided that they'll spend every night out there watching it with friends. The especially loud times are Pay-Per-View events (Mostly UFC or Wrestling events) and there's the same people over every time. It's always profanities being yelled, gasps and exclamations as things happen on the event they're watching. Even once the programs are over, the group of drunk people there will sit back there laughing, yelling and carrying on sometimes until 2:30am. This occurs not only on weekends, but during the week as well.\n\nI went and spoke to them over the fence at one point about it at about 9:30pm. I was out watering the plants in my backyard, and he began yelling at the top of his lungs \"HEY ALL NEIGHBORS!!! COME PLAY BEER PONG WITH US!!\" He repeated it 3 times. At this point I asked him over the fence if he would mind taking his party inside as we were going to bed soon as we work early in the morning. It was at this point he told me he knows that the city we live in allows him to be as loud as he wants until 10pm every night, and it's his right to do so. He also added that if I have a problem with it and call the police on him, he'd know it was me and I'd better be careful because he knows when I'm not home but my wife and kid are. I believe he was quite drunk at the time.\n\nI've spoken to the landlord several times about the noise, and she told me that she has no control over adults, and they seem like nice people and pay rent on time every month and has no issues with them. She told me her hands are tied on the matter and she is not able to do anything. As long as they keep paying on time, I don't expect the landlord to really do anything. I could hope that she considers it when it comes time to renew, but the homeowner is not living next to the noise, and I'm sure are just glad to have people who pay on time in the house.\n\nThe house on one side of them (nextdoor to them) is empty and has been for a while. I spoke with their other neighbor and they agree that the noise is too much and would like to complain to them, but won't because they already have a bad relationship with renters on the other side of their home and don't want bad relations with all around them. \n\nWhat are my options? I want to send the police over, but am kind of afraid of what will happen based on the threat. But then I also worry that if someone else calls the police on the late night viewing parties I'll get the blame anyways...\n\n\n\n",
"Noisy neighbors in adjoining yard, hostile upon confrontation We've lived here in our home for just over 7 years and love our neighborhood. There are several homes that are rentals around us, but most are long term and have been here almost as long as we have. I am also in contact with most of the land lords for the various properties, as when we do work (fence repair, tree trimming) I contact them to coordinate access for cleanup by our contractors if branches fall into the adjoining yard.\n\nThe houses are back to back and maybe 50 feet or so between the backs of the houses with a 6ft high wood fence between the properties.\n\nAbout a year ago we got some new renters behind us. They have a couple of young children. One that I've learned is an 11 year old boy, and a daughter who is still too young to talk, as I hear them playing with her frequently during the day.\n\nThey were quiet and pleasant for the first several months. I'd hear them spending family time in the backyard during the day but rarely at night. One day they began construction on a structure over the rear patio. I'm not one to report working being done usually, but after seeing some of the construction methods they were using I did contact the landlord to make sure they were aware that work was being done and it was attached to the house. They were aware and said they offered money off rent for the addition. \n\nOnce this addition was completed was when they began the late night loud-a-thons. They hung a television on the back of the house and decided that they'll spend every night out there watching it with friends. The especially loud times are Pay-Per-View events (Mostly UFC or Wrestling events) and there's the same people over every time. It's always profanities being yelled, gasps and exclamations as things happen on the event they're watching. Even once the programs are over, the group of drunk people there will sit back there laughing, yelling and carrying on sometimes until 2:30am. This occurs not only on weekends, but during the week as well.\n\nI went and spoke to them over the fence at one point about it at about 9:30pm. I was out watering the plants in my backyard, and he began yelling at the top of his lungs \"HEY ALL NEIGHBORS!!! COME PLAY BEER PONG WITH US!!\" He repeated it 3 times. At this point I asked him over the fence if he would mind taking his party inside as we were going to bed soon as we work early in the morning. It was at this point he told me he knows that the city we live in allows him to be as loud as he wants until 10pm every night, and it's his right to do so. He also added that if I have a problem with it and call the police on him, he'd know it was me and I'd better be careful because he knows when I'm not home but my wife and kid are. I believe he was quite drunk at the time.\n\nI've spoken to the landlord several times about the noise, and she told me that she has no control over adults, and they seem like nice people and pay rent on time every month and has no issues with them. She told me her hands are tied on the matter and she is not able to do anything. As long as they keep paying on time, I don't expect the landlord to really do anything. I could hope that she considers it when it comes time to renew, but the homeowner is not living next to the noise, and I'm sure are just glad to have people who pay on time in the house.\n\nThe house on one side of them (nextdoor to them) is empty and has been for a while. I spoke with their other neighbor and they agree that the noise is too much and would like to complain to them, but won't because they already have a bad relationship with renters on the other side of their home and don't want bad relations with all around them. \n\nWhat are my options? I want to send the police over, but am kind of afraid of what will happen based on the threat. But then I also worry that if someone else calls the police on the late night viewing parties I'll get the blame anyways...\n\n\n\n",
"Noisy neighbors in adjoining yard, hostile upon confrontation We've lived here in our home for just over 7 years and love our neighborhood. There are several homes that are rentals around us, but most are long term and have been here almost as long as we have. I am also in contact with most of the land lords for the various properties, as when we do work (fence repair, tree trimming) I contact them to coordinate access for cleanup by our contractors if branches fall into the adjoining yard.\n\nThe houses are back to back and maybe 50 feet or so between the backs of the houses with a 6ft high wood fence between the properties.\n\nAbout a year ago we got some new renters behind us. They have a couple of young children. One that I've learned is an 11 year old boy, and a daughter who is still too young to talk, as I hear them playing with her frequently during the day.\n\nThey were quiet and pleasant for the first several months. I'd hear them spending family time in the backyard during the day but rarely at night. One day they began construction on a structure over the rear patio. I'm not one to report working being done usually, but after seeing some of the construction methods they were using I did contact the landlord to make sure they were aware that work was being done and it was attached to the house. They were aware and said they offered money off rent for the addition. \n\nOnce this addition was completed was when they began the late night loud-a-thons. They hung a television on the back of the house and decided that they'll spend every night out there watching it with friends. The especially loud times are Pay-Per-View events (Mostly UFC or Wrestling events) and there's the same people over every time. It's always profanities being yelled, gasps and exclamations as things happen on the event they're watching. Even once the programs are over, the group of drunk people there will sit back there laughing, yelling and carrying on sometimes until 2:30am. This occurs not only on weekends, but during the week as well.\n\nI went and spoke to them over the fence at one point about it at about 9:30pm. I was out watering the plants in my backyard, and he began yelling at the top of his lungs \"HEY ALL NEIGHBORS!!! COME PLAY BEER PONG WITH US!!\" He repeated it 3 times. At this point I asked him over the fence if he would mind taking his party inside as we were going to bed soon as we work early in the morning. It was at this point he told me he knows that the city we live in allows him to be as loud as he wants until 10pm every night, and it's his right to do so. He also added that if I have a problem with it and call the police on him, he'd know it was me and I'd better be careful because he knows when I'm not home but my wife and kid are. I believe he was quite drunk at the time.\n\nI've spoken to the landlord several times about the noise, and she told me that she has no control over adults, and they seem like nice people and pay rent on time every month and has no issues with them. She told me her hands are tied on the matter and she is not able to do anything. As long as they keep paying on time, I don't expect the landlord to really do anything. I could hope that she considers it when it comes time to renew, but the homeowner is not living next to the noise, and I'm sure are just glad to have people who pay on time in the house.\n\nThe house on one side of them (nextdoor to them) is empty and has been for a while. I spoke with their other neighbor and they agree that the noise is too much and would like to complain to them, but won't because they already have a bad relationship with renters on the other side of their home and don't want bad relations with all around them. \n\nWhat are my options? I want to send the police over, but am kind of afraid of what will happen based on the threat. But then I also worry that if someone else calls the police on the late night viewing parties I'll get the blame anyways...\n\n\n\n",
"Noisy neighbors in adjoining yard, hostile upon confrontation We've lived here in our home for just over 7 years and love our neighborhood. There are several homes that are rentals around us, but most are long term and have been here almost as long as we have. I am also in contact with most of the land lords for the various properties, as when we do work (fence repair, tree trimming) I contact them to coordinate access for cleanup by our contractors if branches fall into the adjoining yard.\n\nThe houses are back to back and maybe 50 feet or so between the backs of the houses with a 6ft high wood fence between the properties.\n\nAbout a year ago we got some new renters behind us. They have a couple of young children. One that I've learned is an 11 year old boy, and a daughter who is still too young to talk, as I hear them playing with her frequently during the day.\n\nThey were quiet and pleasant for the first several months. I'd hear them spending family time in the backyard during the day but rarely at night. One day they began construction on a structure over the rear patio. I'm not one to report working being done usually, but after seeing some of the construction methods they were using I did contact the landlord to make sure they were aware that work was being done and it was attached to the house. They were aware and said they offered money off rent for the addition. \n\nOnce this addition was completed was when they began the late night loud-a-thons. They hung a television on the back of the house and decided that they'll spend every night out there watching it with friends. The especially loud times are Pay-Per-View events (Mostly UFC or Wrestling events) and there's the same people over every time. It's always profanities being yelled, gasps and exclamations as things happen on the event they're watching. Even once the programs are over, the group of drunk people there will sit back there laughing, yelling and carrying on sometimes until 2:30am. This occurs not only on weekends, but during the week as well.\n\nI went and spoke to them over the fence at one point about it at about 9:30pm. I was out watering the plants in my backyard, and he began yelling at the top of his lungs \"HEY ALL NEIGHBORS!!! COME PLAY BEER PONG WITH US!!\" He repeated it 3 times. At this point I asked him over the fence if he would mind taking his party inside as we were going to bed soon as we work early in the morning. It was at this point he told me he knows that the city we live in allows him to be as loud as he wants until 10pm every night, and it's his right to do so. He also added that if I have a problem with it and call the police on him, he'd know it was me and I'd better be careful because he knows when I'm not home but my wife and kid are. I believe he was quite drunk at the time.\n\nI've spoken to the landlord several times about the noise, and she told me that she has no control over adults, and they seem like nice people and pay rent on time every month and has no issues with them. She told me her hands are tied on the matter and she is not able to do anything. As long as they keep paying on time, I don't expect the landlord to really do anything. I could hope that she considers it when it comes time to renew, but the homeowner is not living next to the noise, and I'm sure are just glad to have people who pay on time in the house.\n\nThe house on one side of them (nextdoor to them) is empty and has been for a while. I spoke with their other neighbor and they agree that the noise is too much and would like to complain to them, but won't because they already have a bad relationship with renters on the other side of their home and don't want bad relations with all around them. \n\nWhat are my options? I want to send the police over, but am kind of afraid of what will happen based on the threat. But then I also worry that if someone else calls the police on the late night viewing parties I'll get the blame anyways...\n\n\n\n",
"Noisy neighbors in adjoining yard, hostile upon confrontation We've lived here in our home for just over 7 years and love our neighborhood. There are several homes that are rentals around us, but most are long term and have been here almost as long as we have. I am also in contact with most of the land lords for the various properties, as when we do work (fence repair, tree trimming) I contact them to coordinate access for cleanup by our contractors if branches fall into the adjoining yard.\n\nThe houses are back to back and maybe 50 feet or so between the backs of the houses with a 6ft high wood fence between the properties.\n\nAbout a year ago we got some new renters behind us. They have a couple of young children. One that I've learned is an 11 year old boy, and a daughter who is still too young to talk, as I hear them playing with her frequently during the day.\n\nThey were quiet and pleasant for the first several months. I'd hear them spending family time in the backyard during the day but rarely at night. One day they began construction on a structure over the rear patio. I'm not one to report working being done usually, but after seeing some of the construction methods they were using I did contact the landlord to make sure they were aware that work was being done and it was attached to the house. They were aware and said they offered money off rent for the addition. \n\nOnce this addition was completed was when they began the late night loud-a-thons. They hung a television on the back of the house and decided that they'll spend every night out there watching it with friends. The especially loud times are Pay-Per-View events (Mostly UFC or Wrestling events) and there's the same people over every time. It's always profanities being yelled, gasps and exclamations as things happen on the event they're watching. Even once the programs are over, the group of drunk people there will sit back there laughing, yelling and carrying on sometimes until 2:30am. This occurs not only on weekends, but during the week as well.\n\nI went and spoke to them over the fence at one point about it at about 9:30pm. I was out watering the plants in my backyard, and he began yelling at the top of his lungs \"HEY ALL NEIGHBORS!!! COME PLAY BEER PONG WITH US!!\" He repeated it 3 times. At this point I asked him over the fence if he would mind taking his party inside as we were going to bed soon as we work early in the morning. It was at this point he told me he knows that the city we live in allows him to be as loud as he wants until 10pm every night, and it's his right to do so. He also added that if I have a problem with it and call the police on him, he'd know it was me and I'd better be careful because he knows when I'm not home but my wife and kid are. I believe he was quite drunk at the time.\n\nI've spoken to the landlord several times about the noise, and she told me that she has no control over adults, and they seem like nice people and pay rent on time every month and has no issues with them. She told me her hands are tied on the matter and she is not able to do anything. As long as they keep paying on time, I don't expect the landlord to really do anything. I could hope that she considers it when it comes time to renew, but the homeowner is not living next to the noise, and I'm sure are just glad to have people who pay on time in the house.\n\nThe house on one side of them (nextdoor to them) is empty and has been for a while. I spoke with their other neighbor and they agree that the noise is too much and would like to complain to them, but won't because they already have a bad relationship with renters on the other side of their home and don't want bad relations with all around them. \n\nWhat are my options? I want to send the police over, but am kind of afraid of what will happen based on the threat. But then I also worry that if someone else calls the police on the late night viewing parties I'll get the blame anyways...\n\n\n\n",
"Noisy neighbors in adjoining yard, hostile upon confrontation We've lived here in our home for just over 7 years and love our neighborhood. There are several homes that are rentals around us, but most are long term and have been here almost as long as we have. I am also in contact with most of the land lords for the various properties, as when we do work (fence repair, tree trimming) I contact them to coordinate access for cleanup by our contractors if branches fall into the adjoining yard.\n\nThe houses are back to back and maybe 50 feet or so between the backs of the houses with a 6ft high wood fence between the properties.\n\nAbout a year ago we got some new renters behind us. They have a couple of young children. One that I've learned is an 11 year old boy, and a daughter who is still too young to talk, as I hear them playing with her frequently during the day.\n\nThey were quiet and pleasant for the first several months. I'd hear them spending family time in the backyard during the day but rarely at night. One day they began construction on a structure over the rear patio. I'm not one to report working being done usually, but after seeing some of the construction methods they were using I did contact the landlord to make sure they were aware that work was being done and it was attached to the house. They were aware and said they offered money off rent for the addition. \n\nOnce this addition was completed was when they began the late night loud-a-thons. They hung a television on the back of the house and decided that they'll spend every night out there watching it with friends. The especially loud times are Pay-Per-View events (Mostly UFC or Wrestling events) and there's the same people over every time. It's always profanities being yelled, gasps and exclamations as things happen on the event they're watching. Even once the programs are over, the group of drunk people there will sit back there laughing, yelling and carrying on sometimes until 2:30am. This occurs not only on weekends, but during the week as well.\n\nI went and spoke to them over the fence at one point about it at about 9:30pm. I was out watering the plants in my backyard, and he began yelling at the top of his lungs \"HEY ALL NEIGHBORS!!! COME PLAY BEER PONG WITH US!!\" He repeated it 3 times. At this point I asked him over the fence if he would mind taking his party inside as we were going to bed soon as we work early in the morning. It was at this point he told me he knows that the city we live in allows him to be as loud as he wants until 10pm every night, and it's his right to do so. He also added that if I have a problem with it and call the police on him, he'd know it was me and I'd better be careful because he knows when I'm not home but my wife and kid are. I believe he was quite drunk at the time.\n\nI've spoken to the landlord several times about the noise, and she told me that she has no control over adults, and they seem like nice people and pay rent on time every month and has no issues with them. She told me her hands are tied on the matter and she is not able to do anything. As long as they keep paying on time, I don't expect the landlord to really do anything. I could hope that she considers it when it comes time to renew, but the homeowner is not living next to the noise, and I'm sure are just glad to have people who pay on time in the house.\n\nThe house on one side of them (nextdoor to them) is empty and has been for a while. I spoke with their other neighbor and they agree that the noise is too much and would like to complain to them, but won't because they already have a bad relationship with renters on the other side of their home and don't want bad relations with all around them. \n\nWhat are my options? I want to send the police over, but am kind of afraid of what will happen based on the threat. But then I also worry that if someone else calls the police on the late night viewing parties I'll get the blame anyways...\n\n\n\n"
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">I want to send the police over, but am kind of afraid of what will happen based on the threat. \n\nThat would solve the problem 100% though. The police get called, they have to be quiet. If anything happens you tell the landlord or the police again and it gets dealt with. They clearly have no concern for your comfort or enjoyment, why should you have any for them?",
"Your best resort HAS to be the police. Make sure you record plenty of video evidence too, at least 1 - 2 nights of it, showing the current date / time of the recording if possible. \n\nAnything else can backfire on you and they can call the police on you. You're doing nothing wrong here, if anything, you have to do your job as a responsible citizen. ",
"Call the cops on his late-night noise fests.\n\nGet the asshole to repeat his comment on tape. Use it to get a restraining order. Considering how close your houses are, he may have to move out.\n\nAre they downwind? Visit [Liquid Ass](http://www.liquidass.com/) and see if anything strikes your fancy. If he waters the front lawn or garden, pour some in the garden hose.\n\nDo you have a leaf blower or an air compressor? Make [itching powder](https://www.reddit.com/r/badroommates/comments/6p48i5/tips_for_dealing_with_toxic_roommates/dkmk2vf/?st=j5rqhdk1&sh=15c0962d) and launch a cloud of it at them. \n\n-----\n\nTry posting in /r/MyEvilPlan or /r/EscalatingRevenge for more tips.",
"Report the structure they built to city bylaws. Chances are they did it without a permit. Yeah, it's a kind of crappy thing to do but looks like you don't have much choice.\n\nYou have him on uttering threats, surely that's enough for a police complaint too.",
"I, too, have problems with renters in my neighborhood. I will never buy a home near rental properties again. It seems to me that if the landlord gets enough complaints about these renters, they could be evicted. You absolutely need to get the police involved. Others have made great suggestions about recording the noise offenses. You have the right to the peaceful enjoyment of your property. Retaliation is always a last option. Mow your lawn early in the morning when they are trying to sleep. Perhaps your car alarm will go off by accident early in the morning. Supply the neighborhood children with loud firecrackers to be used early in the morning.",
"Call the cops to complain about the noise. Also have your neighbors call the cops. Coordinate it so that the cops are forced to say \"We've received **multiple** complaints.\"\n\nIf the others aren't willing to get involved, call and tell the police that the reason you didn't call sooner is because they threatened you, your wife, and your kids if you would call.\n\nWhile they're right about noise ordinance, you are also allowed to enjoy the rights to your property, and that includes quiet after quiet hours.\n\n"
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"How to sound sincere? This might be a two part-er or just two questions in the same vein.\n\nWhen someone does something and you really appreciate it, is there a way to say \"Thank you, I really appreciate it\" so that it sounds like you meant it? And not just saying pleasantries?\n\nAlso, when you say \"hi, good day\" or \"good morning\" or if someone dies and have to say sorry to hear, how can someone express that with warmth and sincerity? Note, not just these examples but regular social interactions once should be expected to encounter every now and then.\n\nI'm not sarcastic but I speak with an even tone and not a lot of emotions. I'm also very reserved with my body language. \n\nI work with one lady who is very congenial and she's kinda bubbly and she's able to engage people with just pleasantries. I'm a guy and while I admire her social skills, I don't know how emulate them. I don't mean that I want to be bubbly or happy (mostly because I'm introvert and quiet) but I would like to radiate the warmth and sincerity my co-worker exhibit. I prefer not to smile.",
"How to sound sincere? This might be a two part-er or just two questions in the same vein.\n\nWhen someone does something and you really appreciate it, is there a way to say \"Thank you, I really appreciate it\" so that it sounds like you meant it? And not just saying pleasantries?\n\nAlso, when you say \"hi, good day\" or \"good morning\" or if someone dies and have to say sorry to hear, how can someone express that with warmth and sincerity? Note, not just these examples but regular social interactions once should be expected to encounter every now and then.\n\nI'm not sarcastic but I speak with an even tone and not a lot of emotions. I'm also very reserved with my body language. \n\nI work with one lady who is very congenial and she's kinda bubbly and she's able to engage people with just pleasantries. I'm a guy and while I admire her social skills, I don't know how emulate them. I don't mean that I want to be bubbly or happy (mostly because I'm introvert and quiet) but I would like to radiate the warmth and sincerity my co-worker exhibit. I prefer not to smile.",
"How to sound sincere? This might be a two part-er or just two questions in the same vein.\n\nWhen someone does something and you really appreciate it, is there a way to say \"Thank you, I really appreciate it\" so that it sounds like you meant it? And not just saying pleasantries?\n\nAlso, when you say \"hi, good day\" or \"good morning\" or if someone dies and have to say sorry to hear, how can someone express that with warmth and sincerity? Note, not just these examples but regular social interactions once should be expected to encounter every now and then.\n\nI'm not sarcastic but I speak with an even tone and not a lot of emotions. I'm also very reserved with my body language. \n\nI work with one lady who is very congenial and she's kinda bubbly and she's able to engage people with just pleasantries. I'm a guy and while I admire her social skills, I don't know how emulate them. I don't mean that I want to be bubbly or happy (mostly because I'm introvert and quiet) but I would like to radiate the warmth and sincerity my co-worker exhibit. I prefer not to smile.",
"How to sound sincere? This might be a two part-er or just two questions in the same vein.\n\nWhen someone does something and you really appreciate it, is there a way to say \"Thank you, I really appreciate it\" so that it sounds like you meant it? And not just saying pleasantries?\n\nAlso, when you say \"hi, good day\" or \"good morning\" or if someone dies and have to say sorry to hear, how can someone express that with warmth and sincerity? Note, not just these examples but regular social interactions once should be expected to encounter every now and then.\n\nI'm not sarcastic but I speak with an even tone and not a lot of emotions. I'm also very reserved with my body language. \n\nI work with one lady who is very congenial and she's kinda bubbly and she's able to engage people with just pleasantries. I'm a guy and while I admire her social skills, I don't know how emulate them. I don't mean that I want to be bubbly or happy (mostly because I'm introvert and quiet) but I would like to radiate the warmth and sincerity my co-worker exhibit. I prefer not to smile."
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"It depends on the situation. I was walking with someone the other day and they told me something that I needed to address. I told them to stop, I looked at them in the eye, and I told them what I thought about the situation. \n\nPractice in the mirror. Pretend a friend told you something really important. Think about how you'd feel, or how you should feel. Then do your best to express that. Try to use your hands. A lot of it is about tone.\n\nFor example: your friend Steve just got a new job, you've known him for years and his last job was really shitty to him. You're glad he's moving on because he'll probably be a lot happier. \n\nHow I'd react: \"Dude, that's awesome! Congratulations! When do you start?... Are you excited?.... I hope it works out. I really do.\" \n\nSincerity is about unapologetic honesty. It's being unafraid to say how you feel. Some people can fake it, some can't. Most of the time it's about trust. If you try to be sincere with someone who doesn't trust you, they'll create their own reasons to doubt your reaction. \n \nI'm a bit more energetic cause my time in retail has forced me to be a bit more personable. But I can be quietly sincere too. Emphasize the moment. \n Hopefully others can add on. I had to ",
"Most important factor is energy. Put energy into what you say. Speak up, sit up, stand up, use your arms. Use your face. People aren't that concerned with sincerity when receiving thanks. They're more interested in you investing energy in how you say it.\n\nAlso:\n\n* Eye contact.\n* Say the person's name when you thank them.\n* Let your voice crack. Sounding calm and in control makes it seem like it'd be easy for you to lie. Do the opposite and you sound less capable of lying.\n* Describe how it helps you.\n\n> \"I would like to radiate the warmth and sincerity my co-worker exhibit. I prefer not to smile.\"\n\nYou just gotta get used to smiling, ain't two ways about it.",
"Don't try to sound sincere. Just be sincere, and you will sound like it. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.",
"I speak with an even tone and not a lot of emotions.\n\nWorst case scenario, just say it because it should be said. Most people won't think you're being insincere. "
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"How to, as a tall person, maintain good posture while listening to conversation at a loud event. I'm very tall and very introverted. At parties, I always end up slouching down uncomfortably to listen to other people. At some point, I find myself aware of my bad posture and correct it. Then I miss out on conversation for a few seconds, and have a hard time getting back in to the discussion. Any tips for how to maintain good posture while also being able to stay involved in conversation?",
"How to, as a tall person, maintain good posture while listening to conversation at a loud event. I'm very tall and very introverted. At parties, I always end up slouching down uncomfortably to listen to other people. At some point, I find myself aware of my bad posture and correct it. Then I miss out on conversation for a few seconds, and have a hard time getting back in to the discussion. Any tips for how to maintain good posture while also being able to stay involved in conversation?",
"How to, as a tall person, maintain good posture while listening to conversation at a loud event. I'm very tall and very introverted. At parties, I always end up slouching down uncomfortably to listen to other people. At some point, I find myself aware of my bad posture and correct it. Then I miss out on conversation for a few seconds, and have a hard time getting back in to the discussion. Any tips for how to maintain good posture while also being able to stay involved in conversation?",
"How to, as a tall person, maintain good posture while listening to conversation at a loud event. I'm very tall and very introverted. At parties, I always end up slouching down uncomfortably to listen to other people. At some point, I find myself aware of my bad posture and correct it. Then I miss out on conversation for a few seconds, and have a hard time getting back in to the discussion. Any tips for how to maintain good posture while also being able to stay involved in conversation?",
"How to, as a tall person, maintain good posture while listening to conversation at a loud event. I'm very tall and very introverted. At parties, I always end up slouching down uncomfortably to listen to other people. At some point, I find myself aware of my bad posture and correct it. Then I miss out on conversation for a few seconds, and have a hard time getting back in to the discussion. Any tips for how to maintain good posture while also being able to stay involved in conversation?"
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"I'm a 6\" woman (not the tallest, but plenty of short friends.) Somehow I developed a leg-crossing technique that really helps shave off a couple of inches so I can listen more intently to my less vertically endowed friends. I just cross my legs while standing as though each foot is taking the place of the opposite. Combine this with a bit of a side-tip in your pelvis and lean your neck/head forward without losing height in your waist and back. Usually this posture is pretty sustainable and doesn't feel unattractive or hunchy.",
"I was also going to say invite people to sit down with you. I have a lot of tall friends and I never notice when we're all sitting at the bar together. :)\n\nAs a shorter person, I always feel weird hugging my tall friends, so I tip-toe hug them so our chests are relatively close. Heh.\n\nThe only time I ever felt tall was when I went on a date with a LP. Definitely gave me an appreciation for the height difference from the other side.",
"As a tall and deaf person this is a constant problem. I generally sit if I can, makes life so much easier, and more natural.",
"Upvoted and I'm only slightly tall. I always seem to be amongst shorter people, which as you pointed out becomes uncomfortable after some time.\n\n...here's as good a place as any. LPT: If you are shorter than your sexual partner always move down the bed so they don't have to hit their head on the headboard.",
"Keep your posture natural, if it is uncomfortable stop doing it. You could improve your hearing and not have to lean in.\n\nEither way if you mean posture as in a straight back, why not crouch down until you are the same height as your peers?\n"
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"How to hide your emotions successfully. Sometimes our face shows what is going on inside our mind. In some situations this is not useful as we need to appear confident in critical situations like interviews or social meetings etc. Do you have any lifehacks or tricks to hide the thoughts from showing on face (e.g masking nervousness or blushing.) ? \n",
"How to hide your emotions successfully. Sometimes our face shows what is going on inside our mind. In some situations this is not useful as we need to appear confident in critical situations like interviews or social meetings etc. Do you have any lifehacks or tricks to hide the thoughts from showing on face (e.g masking nervousness or blushing.) ? \n",
"How to hide your emotions successfully. Sometimes our face shows what is going on inside our mind. In some situations this is not useful as we need to appear confident in critical situations like interviews or social meetings etc. Do you have any lifehacks or tricks to hide the thoughts from showing on face (e.g masking nervousness or blushing.) ? \n",
"How to hide your emotions successfully. Sometimes our face shows what is going on inside our mind. In some situations this is not useful as we need to appear confident in critical situations like interviews or social meetings etc. Do you have any lifehacks or tricks to hide the thoughts from showing on face (e.g masking nervousness or blushing.) ? \n",
"How to hide your emotions successfully. Sometimes our face shows what is going on inside our mind. In some situations this is not useful as we need to appear confident in critical situations like interviews or social meetings etc. Do you have any lifehacks or tricks to hide the thoughts from showing on face (e.g masking nervousness or blushing.) ? \n"
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"it's something you have to practice, your poker face. for example when you know you're going into a tricky situation, just kind of \"set\" your expression, keep it as much as you are able. make yourself take time to think before you respond. ",
"Since I find it very difficult to completely disguise my emotions, as most people do, I have a trick which is not easy, but once mastered very effective. If you convince yourself to feel a different way and make every effort to block out the emotions you want to hide from your mind then you will cease to feel those emotions and therefore no longer have to hide them. An easy example would be if you're sad and don't want to show it just take a moment to think of many happy memories and once you start feeling happy hold onto that feeling. Once you are finally alone you must make sure to face your problems and not keep up the facade. \n",
"i know this awful but when im trying stop laughing in class i just think about my moms death when i was 12 boom instant pokerface.",
"Tell the other person you have really painful gas, but be confident about it! Then no matter what emotions (anger, guilt, sadness, disinterest) you're displaying, they'll be masked by a false pretense. It's a magic industry trick called misdirection. ",
"Might be a stretch, but limit your interactions. Even if you're smiling, talking to someone could indicate to them how you really feel through your conversation.\n\nOtherwise, this one is a toughie...just gotta get good at faking I guess"
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"How to control mild anxiety. I work in a sales environment. I am not only the sales associate, I am also the project manager. This job uses many of my skill sets and I am very good at it. However over the past year I have developed an anxiety in talking to my customers. Whenever something goes wrong on a job, whether it's mine fault or someone else's, I find myself very anxious and nervous about the phone call. It sometimes takes me days to call my client and fix the situation. Are there anyways to get over this, without medical treatment.",
"How to control mild anxiety. I work in a sales environment. I am not only the sales associate, I am also the project manager. This job uses many of my skill sets and I am very good at it. However over the past year I have developed an anxiety in talking to my customers. Whenever something goes wrong on a job, whether it's mine fault or someone else's, I find myself very anxious and nervous about the phone call. It sometimes takes me days to call my client and fix the situation. Are there anyways to get over this, without medical treatment.",
"How to control mild anxiety. I work in a sales environment. I am not only the sales associate, I am also the project manager. This job uses many of my skill sets and I am very good at it. However over the past year I have developed an anxiety in talking to my customers. Whenever something goes wrong on a job, whether it's mine fault or someone else's, I find myself very anxious and nervous about the phone call. It sometimes takes me days to call my client and fix the situation. Are there anyways to get over this, without medical treatment.",
"How to control mild anxiety. I work in a sales environment. I am not only the sales associate, I am also the project manager. This job uses many of my skill sets and I am very good at it. However over the past year I have developed an anxiety in talking to my customers. Whenever something goes wrong on a job, whether it's mine fault or someone else's, I find myself very anxious and nervous about the phone call. It sometimes takes me days to call my client and fix the situation. Are there anyways to get over this, without medical treatment.",
"How to control mild anxiety. I work in a sales environment. I am not only the sales associate, I am also the project manager. This job uses many of my skill sets and I am very good at it. However over the past year I have developed an anxiety in talking to my customers. Whenever something goes wrong on a job, whether it's mine fault or someone else's, I find myself very anxious and nervous about the phone call. It sometimes takes me days to call my client and fix the situation. Are there anyways to get over this, without medical treatment."
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"Yeh of course. CBT, cognitive behavioral therapy. Annoyingly, you just have to do it. Phone calls are a common to be anxious about. I couldn't phone the bank for years when I was a kid. You just gotta do it and when it isn't that bad, your brain will realize that and make you feel less anxious each time. \n\nAlso maybe just convince yourself like, im the biggest baddest motherfucker thats ever lived, im gonna call this fucker up tell him my shit. \n\nWrite down the 2-3 main points on a piece of paper before hand so you dont stumble about. \n\nI dunno I think thats all I got",
">year I have developed an anxiety\n\nI would really go see a therapist. there was probably some stressfull event that occured and talking about it would make it better. or maybe a series of semi stressful events.\n\nbut one thing i heard and that i follow is from a dog training class. a tired dog is a well behaved dog. if you exercise a lot daily you will be too tired to worry about things that might possibly go wrong. this however is not a good long term solution. ",
" I'm not sure if my experience will help you, but I have dealt with anxiety and panic attacks for quite some time now, and I was never one to struggle with anxiety or panic attacks...\n\n In November of 2014 I moved from a little town to a big city, began working 3rd shift for the first time ever, took on new job responsibilities, and had just moved out of my parents house for the first time. I was enduring a lot of life changes... One night, I thought I was going to die of a heart attack after 3 energy drinks while working my new 3rd shift hours. I was rushed to the hospital, told I just had carpel tunnel, and was given professional reassurance that I was okay and not about to die of a heart attack. This was an issue that was bound to happen given my life changes and poor choices... For the next 6 months, I couldn't stop obsessing over every little ache and pain that I had, and I constantly linked it to a demise VIA a heart attack. This happened EVERY SINGLE DAY and I lost all sleep, my job, my social life, almost lost the love of my life, I became a hypochondriac, lost friendships, and completely put all my aspirations on hold due to my inability to function in day to day life. Basically, a number of life changes, stress from work, and bad diet caused my whole life to derail in one event on one night. I never believed that anxiety and/or panic attacks were a real thing and I never expected to be dealing with this situation.\n\n For a whole year I struggled to get my life back together and learn how to cope with the anxiety and panic attacks that I was having without medical attention or medication. I did this because I didn't have the money for medical attention and didn't want to be prescribed a medication to keep me a slave to my newfound issues. I wanted to honestly resolve my issues without medication, and today, I believe that I am very close to accomplishing that.\n\n Here are the keys I use to cope with my anxiety and panic attacks:\n\n1. M",
"Valium is a sedative. Helps with anxiety but makes you drowsy. You can try a beta blocker. Helps people with performance anxiety... Good for meetings and presentations.",
"I had the same issues in my last job. I delivered detailing products to car dealerships and detail shops. When a product didn't come in on time and I couldn't fulfill an order, I'd get anxiety about showing up and or calling them to let them know. I suffered for a while until I figured out something that worked for me. Don't prepare the conversation before hand. When you put a lot of thought into what you're going to say it makes you that much more worried about them asking something you haven't thought about. Know your basic answers. IE what can be done to move the project along, or what your team is currently doing to fix the situation. The more you talk the more you're going to get nervous. Short and sweet is the best in these situations. If your job allows it, offer a temporary solution that will hold them over until the project is complete. TLDR; Don't think about it too much before hand. Have your basic information about the situation and what you're doing to solve it. Keep it short, respectful and to the point. \n\nBest of luck!"
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"How to solve headaches around the end of the day Every single day, I get these pounding headaches. Sometimes they start at 3 or 4, and stop around 6. Other times, they can start as early as lunch. Any suggestions to just make it stop?",
"How to solve headaches around the end of the day Every single day, I get these pounding headaches. Sometimes they start at 3 or 4, and stop around 6. Other times, they can start as early as lunch. Any suggestions to just make it stop?",
"How to solve headaches around the end of the day Every single day, I get these pounding headaches. Sometimes they start at 3 or 4, and stop around 6. Other times, they can start as early as lunch. Any suggestions to just make it stop?",
"How to solve headaches around the end of the day Every single day, I get these pounding headaches. Sometimes they start at 3 or 4, and stop around 6. Other times, they can start as early as lunch. Any suggestions to just make it stop?",
"How to solve headaches around the end of the day Every single day, I get these pounding headaches. Sometimes they start at 3 or 4, and stop around 6. Other times, they can start as early as lunch. Any suggestions to just make it stop?"
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"Check your vision, eat on time, and stay hydrated. Also do you eat breakfast? Hunger can be a cause of your lunch time headache. ",
"This sounds like tension headaches since it happens at the end of the day. You can get tension from the neck muscles that hold your head up throughout the day. Try taking lots of standing breaks or ask for a standing desk if your work provides it. ",
"Hydrate, avoid alcohol and check your posture. Bad positions in front of the computer, smartphone, etc... Neck problems often end up as headaches.\nAlso certain food intolerance (fructose, dairy, etc...)",
"Water, a snack (yogurt, grapes, etc), and exercise in the form of a walk around the block usually works for my headaches. If that doesn't work, a nap usually does the trick.",
"Have your doctor check for diabetes. Also, get an eye exam. Needing correction is an incredibly common cause of headaches, especially when using computers all day. Even if you think you see well you could still benefit from a small but needed correction for computer use"
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"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n",
"What should everyone know about self defense? I'm sick and tired of feeling unsafe as a woman walking alone, and of hearing my friends tell stories of times they were followed somewhere by randos. Please give me your best tips to stay safe out there.\n\n"
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"Learn how to wax cars, sand floors, paint fences, and do an impression of a crane kicking. You will be able to be a karate champion",
"Walk with confidence and be alert. Don’t be looking down or at your phone. \n\nDo not be afraid of looking rude if a man approaches you. You owe him nothing. Trust your gut. Use your voice. “Fire! “Help! Back off” Keep your hands up in the guard position if he is near you and never turn your back on him.",
"If you don't want to carry a weapon. Always be aware of your surroundings. Be aware of exits.Walking to and from your vehicle, pay attention. Listen.Take self defense classes.Many towns and cities offer them for free or for nominal fees.Also increase your confidence. Altercations typically last few minutes.Increase your chances of fighting and getting away to safety.",
"The responses about awareness of your surrounds are really good and you should definy take them on board, but I'd like to also add: Learn to fight and defend yourself. Not necessarily because you intend to do so, as the best option is to not get into those situations in the first place, but for the confidence it instils. The confidence will be mirrored in how you carry yourself when you walk around. If you're walking with confidence and purpose, you're less likely to be targeted in the first place.\n\nAnd IF such a situation is unavoidable (and if there aren't weapons involved) at least you stand a chance.\n\nAs for what to learn, and I know it's the hot thing right now but bare with me, I'd recommend (a good) MMA gym, simply for the combination of striking and grappling techniques and wide variety of martial arts it draws from. It's amazing how many people simply do not know the first thing about how to fight, so even the basics will put you on good footing if it did come to it.\n\nYou'll learn how and where to strike\n\nYou'll learn how to stand / move so it's difficult for someone to drag you around or to the ground\n\nYou'll learn how to get up from underneath somebody so you can have a chance to get away\n\nYou'll learn all sorts of joint locks and chokes, which can be applied from the ground when you're on the bottom, so that IF it does go to the grounds and all else fails, you're still in control of the situation.\n\nDon't take any of these weapon defense systems too seriously. Sure they can work if you master them and a worth being aware of, but the price for a slipup in the heat of the moment is way too high. If there are weapons involved, get out of there.",
"Don't sit in a parked car. Get somewhere, gather your things, get inside. Not like I'm scared and I gotta go fast but because you're being aware of your situation. The longer you sit in your car, especially in the dark, the more chance someone could be well positioned to do something. I've heard stories of this scenario being a popular gang initiation.",
"Do not doubt your ability to get away. Most people in danger go \"OMG I'll never get out of this\". That kills like half of your chances to escape.\n\nIf you want to escape, if you demand yourself to escape you will. No matter how big or tough they are if you're desperate enough to get out you will.",
"Walking at night put your keys in your closed fist with a key facing out between each finger knuckle. Also, do not be afraid to be LOUD if a person approaches you. They hate attention being drawn. Always be prepared to say very LOUDLY \"leave me alone you pervert\". Too often does the weird old guy plonk himself down beside the young person with many other empty seats to chose from. Am just fed up with weirdos.",
"The first and most important thing to realize is that, as a woman presumably of average size, your odds of fighting off an average sized (or larger) man are pretty slim, assuming he isn't intoxicated in some way. \n\nSo, avoid any situation in which you might be extremely vulnerable, even if you think you might seem rude in doing so. Better to take the next elevator, or cross the street, or frankly even run away from someone you perceive as creepy. If their feelings are hurt, who cares? You'll likely never see them again. \n\nNext, if attacked, you must be cruel. Eye gouging, groin kicks, biting. Don't hold back. Inflict maximum damage early, because if the struggle goes more than 30 seconds, you will be at a significant disadvantage and will fatigue quickly. Then, run like there is no tomorrow. \n\nTo address your ",
"Fight dirty. There are no rules. It may feel unnatural to stick your thumb deep into a guys eye socket",
"Be aware of your surroundings. Dont walk around with both earbuds in after dark. Keys can be used to stab someone. If you can jam your thumb into an orange you can also pop someones eye out. If someones on you, a palm to the underside of the nose can kill. If theyre on you though who cares. Self defense. If you have a knife, inner thighs or armpits. Theres no bone and both sides have major veins and arteries. They will bleed out. Gun, learn to use it. Dont let someone within 21 feet of you. Thats enough time for them to rush you before you draw. Also shoot to kill, nit because dead men cant tell no tales, but because dead men cant sue.",
"Never get in the car! If someone is going to take me they’re going to have to kill me in the parking lot where there are cameras. Never go anywhere with an abductor, stand your ground.\n\n",
"Get a gun and learn to shoot it well. It doesnt matter if the dude is 300 lbs of lean muscle and has martial arts experience. He wont be able to defend against a rightfully deserved bullet. Plus, if god forbid something were to happen to you and you just waited to see if the person was to decide to let you live and then you call the cops, they probably wont find him. Even if they do find him, there is an chance he will get off, and even if he doesnt... he will get out at some point and someone else will have to go through it because shitbags like that don't change.",
"Be careful carrying around weapons though. Where I live, people might get suspicious for having the weapon on you. Then it would be a prepared attack",
"I’m a small man . Even my two or three years of martial arts training is not a good bet against a bigger bulkier male. \n\nThe first precaution is to avoid dangerous places.\n\nThe next step if you cannot avoid confrontation is to run. That means as a woman you should be walking to work and back from work and sneakers not heels.\n\nIf you do need to fight you should be aiming for a strike to the groin or the face or some pepper spray that will allow you to buy time to run somewhere safe. \n\nYou basically never want to fight. \n\nHave you heard of parkour?\n\nI would invest in physical fitness rather than martial arts per se. That said I think Ma is a great way to get fit and also give you some confidence if you were ever to strike someone .",
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"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself.",
"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself.",
"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself.",
"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself.",
"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself.",
"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself.",
"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself.",
"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself.",
"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself.",
"How can I get my dog to stop itching? We use an effective flea treatment, he gets baths, the house isn't dirty, I just don't understand why he bites himself."
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"My dog had the same problem. The vet recommended adding fish oil to my dog's food and it really helped. Eventually I switched to a fish-based dog food and gradually stopped the fish oil (which is really stinky). \n\nAlso, be sure to rinse your dog really well after baths. Any soap residue can be very irritating.\n\nBottom line: ask your vet; there can be lots of reasons for itchy skin.\n",
"Good comments so far. \n1 - Vet, if you're willing to spend some money you can pay to have your dog's blood sampled and sent for allergy testing. I believe it was around $250 dollars. Ask for the full panel if you do it, it's worth the 5 or 10 extra food tests for the $50 extra. I only did the minimal and always regret it when I'm trying to find him a food without any of his allergies, most foods (even really expensive) tend to have multiple types of meat/rice/potato/etc. Note, they will offer a 'treatment plan' to cure the allergies much like a human would do (daily/weekly/monthly injections). YMMV but my dog hated it and after a year nothing had changed except he was constantly itchy for that year so I discontinued the attempt to cure his allergies and spent my time/money working around them.\n\n2- ask your vet if you can give him benadryl when he's really bad off. This is what my vet recommended I give to my pup when he's got a bad case of itches. Side effect is he gets really tired and I can tell he doesn't care much for the feeling it gives him, but usually he'll calm down and start sleeping and not wake up to itch every few minutes. Be sure to check with your vet first, though, as there are many different kinds of benadryl these days and you need to get the proper one and the correct quantity for your dog.\n\n3- the fish oil /u/usually_just_lurking mentioned is a good idea too, you can just break one of those capsules open with a knife and squirt it on their food. My dog seemed to see it as a treat and scarfed down all the food that had the oil on it. I have also read that apple cider vinegar can be helpful for the skin, but my dog didn't care for it.\n\n4- if money is an issue, the next time you bring him to the vet for his regular checkup/shots just casually ask this same question to your vet and you'll likely get some good tips for the regular cost of the checkup. Oh, they will probably want to do a skin scrape to verify it's not something living in his skin and irritating him... so I suppose the first time might cost a few bucks if you get the process done.\n\nGood luck.",
"Animals, humans and dogs, can scratch for many reasons. Fleas, ticks, fungal infections, bacterial infections, environmental allergies, food allergies, underlying conditions such as Cushings or thyroid... honestly take your poor animal to the vet. Dermatology isn't usually easily fixed with at home remedies and you'll find a solution quicker by following vet recommended diagnostic testing. ",
"Hot spots. My dog gets them, I use this spray called \"Vets Best Hot Spot Spray\" i think its one of the best treatments for hot spots. She seems extremely relieved. It has tea tree oil in it, which seems to not taste good to her, so she stops itching.",
"Head and Shoulders shampoo is awesome. Always on sale/coupons. Smells great and several ingredients are very helpful. First there's Zinc which not only helps prevent dry skin but is also a natural flea and ticket preventative. Next is Selenium which gives them a shiny coat and provides dry skin relief. Been using this on multiple dogs for many years with great results. I live in the south so plenty of fleas and ticks almost year round and none on any of the dogs. ",
"My dog went from not scratching to scratching a lot.turned out the new blanket my mum brought over was not agreeing with him. \n\nSo you could check his bedding etc. Also I get itchy from bio laundry powders.So if you wash your dogs bed try non bio.",
"If you're bathing him in a tube, try soaking him at the end of the bath in warm water and Aveeno. It's a colloidal oatmeal powder that will take all the itchies out of his skin. \n\nWe had a Rottie that had severe flea and food allergies. Changing protein sources in the food helped some, but one flea bite at doggy park and he was chewing himself raw for days. Hotspots. The Aveeno resolved the hotspots the quickest and allowed the food changes to catch hold.\n\nIt's at every drug store.",
"Also stop bathing him to often, if you shampo your dog to often it will have teh same efect as with any human bathing to often the skin will loose their natural ph value, gets dry and itchy",
"Also dogs can bite/scratch due to mental health issues.make sure your dog is well exercised, feels like he's in on his proper place etc. Dogs don't like being bored or do well as leaders or alphas, and if this is how they feel this can lead to nervous biting etc.",
"After many failed efforts over a few years, I finally found a brand of shampoo that stopped the itching called Malaseb. It has apparently been effective for other friends dogs, too. I had put off trying it as it was notably more expensive than the other medicated shampoos, and none of them had worked. I was quite surprised, as it completely stopped the scratching, and that was about 10 years ago (dog is 15 now). "
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"Sharing the room with smoker. What to do? I live with a smoking person for the past few months but recently another smoker moved in and they both started to do it more often. Even with them doing it outside they bring the smell back in on their clothes.\nIs there anything I can do to protect myself outside of airing the room often (which I can't do too much because of sub-zero celsius temperatures?).",
"Sharing the room with smoker. What to do? I live with a smoking person for the past few months but recently another smoker moved in and they both started to do it more often. Even with them doing it outside they bring the smell back in on their clothes.\nIs there anything I can do to protect myself outside of airing the room often (which I can't do too much because of sub-zero celsius temperatures?).",
"Sharing the room with smoker. What to do? I live with a smoking person for the past few months but recently another smoker moved in and they both started to do it more often. Even with them doing it outside they bring the smell back in on their clothes.\nIs there anything I can do to protect myself outside of airing the room often (which I can't do too much because of sub-zero celsius temperatures?).",
"Sharing the room with smoker. What to do? I live with a smoking person for the past few months but recently another smoker moved in and they both started to do it more often. Even with them doing it outside they bring the smell back in on their clothes.\nIs there anything I can do to protect myself outside of airing the room often (which I can't do too much because of sub-zero celsius temperatures?).",
"Sharing the room with smoker. What to do? I live with a smoking person for the past few months but recently another smoker moved in and they both started to do it more often. Even with them doing it outside they bring the smell back in on their clothes.\nIs there anything I can do to protect myself outside of airing the room often (which I can't do too much because of sub-zero celsius temperatures?).",
"Sharing the room with smoker. What to do? I live with a smoking person for the past few months but recently another smoker moved in and they both started to do it more often. Even with them doing it outside they bring the smell back in on their clothes.\nIs there anything I can do to protect myself outside of airing the room often (which I can't do too much because of sub-zero celsius temperatures?)."
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"As an ex smoker - you have to let them know how much it bothers you. We never really notice.\n\nIf they don't respect your request, that is a different problem.",
"You need to move. They are addicted to nicotine and won't want to be inconvenienced. \n\nDid you do research before moving in? Seems like something you should've checked beforehand. ",
"Air purifier will cost you $40 or so. Run it all the time , unless you have to spend time in the room.\n\nHumidifier will pull smells down to the floor or to the air cleaner input.\n\nA wide bowl of vinegar will help neutralize stinky smells.\nCoffee grinds will to, leave your coffee grinds in a bowl for a day after making coffee, but toss them outside after a day because trichderma mold loves coffee.\n\nA vanilla scented candle in a jar might help, you don't have to burn it, just open it up.\n\nPeeling oranges and leaving the peels around until they are dry will help the air freshen up as well.\n\nYou can also put vinegar into a sprizter/atomizer/spray bottle to clean the air a bit.\n\nA bowl of baking soda is a good air freshener.\n\nTo help get smoke smells out of clothing add 1 cup of vinegar to a load of laundry.\n\n",
"Tell them to start vaping. Same risks but better taste imo 😂😂(don't take this seriously, it's a joke...)",
"Ask them to stand around for an extra 30 seconds or so before coming in to let the smoke dissipate and fully leave their lungs. ",
"Ask them to please consider you and smoke outside. If that doesn't work, bowls of vinegar really help absorb odor. Try to keep any fabrics/upholstery clean- they hold a lot of that smell. Wipe down walls often. Keep your bedroom and closet closed all the time. If the smell is in your clothes, vinegar and water soak before the laundry soap (if you do it after laundry soap, it washes the smell of the soap away.) As a smoker, I always understand if somebody doesn't want it around, they should think that way, too.\n "
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"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!",
"How to search for good jobs when you have no personal connections. I'm currently looking for work. I'm qualified, educated, and experienced, but now I need to know where to even FIND people who are hiring! I've tried subreddits, craigslist, temp agencies, asking friends and family, browsing huge databases of college-jobs, and sites like Monster, but it's hard to find something reliable. (To specify, I'm looking for office or design jobs). It seems like everyone I know with a good job got it through a personal connection -- family, friends, peers, &c. \n\nRight now I'm young enough where this isn't too big a deal, but later, when I've got a proper career, I'll need to know where to find specific jobs. Help!"
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"The easiest way is to create personal connections. If you are in a field that has a professional organization join it. You'll be surprised at the depth and breadth of organizations out there. Many have certification programs that can get you recognition as a professional in your field.\n\nDesign? AIGA Web Design? Google it. Secretary? IAAP. Engineer? NSPE. EMT? NAEMT. Laborer? Look to your union. Attend meetings, go early, follow up with people you meet. \n\nThe best way to get a job is to expand your network, and the best way to expand your network is to find ways to meet like minded people. \n\n\n",
"Informational Interviews. Find connections via LinkedIn.com or your University's (both undergrad and grad if applicable) alumni group(s) that work in the field you want to work in or the companies you want to work for. \n\nContact them and tell them you are a (recently graduated) student and are interested in what they do as a profession and you would like to borrow on their expertise. \n\nDO NOT SEND A RESUME AT FIRST. This needs to appear to be an academic pursuit. \n\nAsk them about Trends, what resources they use to help them in their job, what has surprised them about their career choice, etc. \n \nASK THEM IF YOU CAN FOLLOW UP WITH THEM. \n\nThen when you \"start your job search\" contact them and ask them if they hear about any openings to keep you in mind. \n \n**TL;DR: Tap into the hidden job market with Informational Interviews.** ",
"Really depends on the field you are in but a first step can be check the job boards at the school you went to and look up the companies individually even if they don't have any postings on the board that match what you are looking for. Also, check our career fairs and local community progams that involve local businesses. I know in the tech field, each region has meet ups and discussions of companies that usually have open jobs too.",
"I've never tried using it, but this website was posted to this subreddit before. It's a search engine for jobs, and you can post your resume for employers to search for you.\nwww.indeed.com",
"Hi! I'm an Americorps volunteer at WorkSource, which is the state employment security agency in Washington State. Most states have some sort of state sponsored job board, which can be a great resource (and are guaranteed to be legitimate). WorkSource also has staff who teach workshops, can look over your resume, etc. We also have a job club, where other job seekers can network with eachother. If you're not in Washington state, I would see if your state has anything similar. Also, if you haven't looked into linkedin, it can be a great resource for networking and connecting with companies. ",
"Have a try at oDesk.com, there are some real good opportunities. Especially for design work. It's free btw.",
"1. Specialize within your field, e.g. find a niche within design and learn it well. This is the hardest step. \n\n2. Network within that specialty\n\n3. Make sure you can tell a good story about why you are awesome in your field - something that differentiates you from other people \n\n4. Profit! \n\nSeriously, being unique is a great way to not just find a good job, but to build a good career where you will be in demand. \n",
"Rounding up some of the best advice...\n\n1. Specialize, and I would add actually specialize. If somebody knows their shit and you claim to know that shit too, they will instantly realize when you are bullshitting them. \n\n2. Network. Create those connections. They don't get made by themselves. Don't be afraid to just talk to somebody in a professional setting. Simply start with a \"what do you do?\" That's why people are there. You said you were young, so go to networking events where this type of upfront attitude is acceptable.\n\n3. Have some bullet points stuck in your head for when you finally do start that conversation. \n\n4. Practice those bullet points in your head. Imagine what you would say while talking to somebody. Imagine you meet a famous person in your industry. What would you say to them? How would you get them interested in you?\n\n5. Going off that, think about your experiences (education, work, hobbies, extracurricular activities) and think about the benefit they've given you. What skills have you taken away from these that you can apply to real life situations? Learn how to articulate those skills and incorporate them into your bullet points.\n\nThere are so many tips. As a communications student a large part of my education has been learning how to do things like these. Just ask if you want some more or any elaboration.",
"My last 2 jobs and various interviews have come from Craigslist. It's just a matter of weeding out the more spammy posts and looking for the more authentic \"this isn't copied and pasted\" sort of post. Monster is also godawful as it tends to be geared more for spamming you with crap rather than giving you an actual resource to use.\n\nI really only recommend this as a way to get a job though, not necessarily a career building opportunity. It's good to get some work going and have some cash on hand.",
"I recommend perusing [meetup.com](http://www.meetup.com) to find local groups with the same interest as you (or in the field of your profession).",
"Cold call \n\nGo to linkedin in figure out who could be a decision maker in the company and pick up the phone\n\n",
"As far as the actual search is concerned, these general tips are helpful to keep you from being overwhelmed: http://www.handshake20.com/2009/08/the-web-20-job-hunt-5-tips-to-keep-you-sane.html\n\nIf you're looking for design jobs- Do you have an online portfolio? I'm a copywriter, and putting together a portfolio was without a doubt the best way to get noticed. There are a ton of great websites to help you create a nice-looking online portfolio for free. \n\nIf you don't have content for a portfolio (or even if you do), reach out to anyone you think could use your services and offer to do freelance design projects for free. You'll build your portfolio and references/connections simultaneously. Be strategic. Try to find projects that align with the type of work you're applying for. If a typical design position you're applying for asks for experience with print ads, web banners, e-newsletters, etc, be sure you can show all of these in your portfolio.\n\nGood luck!",
"it won't work for everyone, but i got my job working for a nonprofit by volunteering until they paid me. obviously, this won't work for most jobs, but if your interest is in the nonprofit sector, it might help. ",
"Engmama put it best \n \n>The easiest way is to create personal connections.\n \nGO TO THE DOG PARK. Seriously. I got two jobs, a place to live, and amazing friends from the dog park. This is the key to my success and without it I honestly do not know where I would be, no exaggerating.\n \nIt's easy to start a conversation that leads to what they do which leads to them asking you what you do, job search. This doesn't happen instantly mind you. People get to know you and see you are reliable, responsible enough to own a dog, normal, yadda yadda and will most likely let you know if there is a job opening at your work or if they know someone that is hiring.\n \n \n \n",
"1. You posted this 2 days ago yet you haven't taken the time to respond or thank a single one of the 28 comments you've gotten so far. I can tell you right now if I was looking to hire someone you would probably not be it just based on that fact alone.\n\n2. Decide what industry you want to work in and start attending trade related meetings and make connections talk to people about what they do and who they work for. You need to be specific about what kind of job you're looking for, and no 'office job' is not specific enough. One you hear the same name a few different times you can ask if they're hiring or you can look up the company's website and see if they are.\n\n3. Realize that you are probably neither as qualified or experienced as the company would like but if you are eager to learn and hard working you will probably be land a good job.\n\n4. Get an unpaid internship, this may work in the Design industry\n"
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"As a last resort for when there really is no digital version to be found:\n\nCheck out a technique called PhotoReading. It's a fast-reading technique that claims to let you absorb hundreds of pages in mere minutes. I never mastered it, but just the basics made it a lot easier for me to pick out specific keywords in pages by scanning them very quickly with my eyes (way faster than actually absorbing the meaning). "
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"How to keep my damn cat from walking in front of my monitor I'm new to cats and love her to death but this has to stop",
"How to keep my damn cat from walking in front of my monitor I'm new to cats and love her to death but this has to stop",
"How to keep my damn cat from walking in front of my monitor I'm new to cats and love her to death but this has to stop",
"How to keep my damn cat from walking in front of my monitor I'm new to cats and love her to death but this has to stop",
"How to keep my damn cat from walking in front of my monitor I'm new to cats and love her to death but this has to stop",
"How to keep my damn cat from walking in front of my monitor I'm new to cats and love her to death but this has to stop",
"How to keep my damn cat from walking in front of my monitor I'm new to cats and love her to death but this has to stop",
"How to keep my damn cat from walking in front of my monitor I'm new to cats and love her to death but this has to stop"
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"Rough it up. It wants your attention so give it a big ruffle around the head and make moochy coochy coo noises rubbing the fur in the wrong direction until the cat is pissed off. Kitty will soon learn it will get unwanted affection and attention and avoid getting on your desk",
"Work out why she' doing it.\n\nIf she jumps up for attention, give her bad attanetion, rub her fur the wrong way or just pick her up and put her at your feet THEN pat her.\n\nTry and teach her that she will get more affection if she stays away from the monitor.\n\ncats also like heat, buying a heatpack for her (just one you can throw in the microwave) can help train her to find appropriate places to sit.",
"I've heard that an open shoebox, placed near the monitor, is pretty good at stopping cats from walking on keyboards. I'd try that. Best of luck, by the way, cats go where they please.",
"I would try the box one first, but if repeated NO or moving her off won't work, take a tin can and fill it with about 10 pennies, tape the top shut, and keep it on your desk. Everytime she jumps up, shake it and the noise will spook her. She'll associate that noise with being on the desk and stop going up there, at least when you're around. ",
"No cure but Some things that help are:\n1. The box trick. A lid from a file box is a good size. If it fits on the desk next to you, perfect.\n2. Tall scratching post with perch next to the desk. Positive reinforcement with treats when they go on it or scratch. \n3. Take a 5 min break to play. They just really want your undivided attention and usually a couple of minutes of interaction is enough. (Good for your eyes and brain to take a short break, too)",
"Have a towel dedicated to your cat. When you want to use the computer throw that towel in the dryer for a bit and wrap that pussy in the towel. It'll pur for hours and won't bother you. But seriously, they are attracted to warmth so anything warm will divert them.",
"Any time she comes onto your desk, scare her off with a loud noise or bright light, or spray her with water, or whatever. The point, is basically to teach her that the top of your desk is not a place she wants to be, because scary things happen there.",
"After reading the comments, I have concluded that:\nCats hate loud noises,\nCats hate water,\nCats hate being pet the opposite direction of their fur,\nCats do what they want,\nCats love warm things,\nLeave it to a cat to only like heaters.\nAnyway..The tin can with a few coins inside sounds like the best idea."
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"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... ",
"What to look out for when looking for an apartment. My girlfriend and I are currently looking for an apartment and already have planned meetings with various landlords in a few locations... \n\nSince I have never looked for an apartment myself, I'd like to know your LPT's when looking for a place to live... (What to look out for, etc...) \n\nSry for my bad english, its not my native language... "
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"Look at the vehicles (cars). Good vehicles equal a good place. \n\nLook at the weeds (plants). Weeds in the cracks of the concrete equals bad management.\n\nListen for squeaks (sounds) from the floor, if you are above the ground level.\n\nLook for storage space- you will love it when you need it.\n\nPay attention to this list - clothes washer and dryer, dish washer, waste removal, gas stove (or electric), microwave, refrigerator, power outlets, cable/internet access, water heater, carpet, security, maintenance service availability, parking, and of course deposits (first month, internet, etc.).\n\nGood luck from someone who has lived in 3 nice apartments for over 6 years. ",
"try to take the top floor, so you don't get this guy as your upstairs neighbor http://imgur.com/gallery/1DXNOCD",
"Check the water pressure in the sinks/shower.\n\nIt's something you'll deal with every day, so make sure you don't hate it.",
"make sure to see the actual unit you will be moving into and not something \"similar\". I have been trusting and been bait and switched twice.",
"Talk to some of the people who already live there. Don't do this right in front of the landlord or agent, as it could put them in an awkward position. Instead, after your visit, walk outside the building and pretend to me making a call. The next few people who enter or leave, tell them you're considering moving in and ask them for feedback on the landlord and building. If it's a bad spot, most people will be happy to tell you!\n",
"This one is specific, but I've learned my lesson the hard way.\n\nWhen you look at the apartment look in the cabinets, baseboards, where the ceiling meets the walls, at any specks on the floor or walls. You wanna look for evidence of droppings or bugs themselves. Spiders and random beetles are usually harmless and common, especially in apartments that have been empty for a while, depending on location. However, other pests like bedbugs and cockroaches may be impossible to get rid of once you move in, especially if you share the building with other tenants. If there are other tenants in the building, try talking to them and ask if there have been any issues with the landlord or the building. \n\nIn some places the landlord has no legal requirement to help you treat for pests if they don't pose enough of a health risk. Sometimes the source of an infestation will be one specific neighbor that will not treat their own apartment for whatever reason, making any treatment to yours useless. If you find them after moving in, you'll either be stuck with expensive treatments for the duration of the lease (maybe getting lucky enough to get rid of them), or a messy process to get out of the lease, or in the worst case you'll be forced to abandon the apartment and have an eviction in your rental history.",
"Find out what the average utilities are and how they are calculated, if they are not included. Some pool apartments and others have individual meters. If there isnt a washer dryer in unit find out how much it costs so you can budget for that. check reviews online but take them with a grain of salt as people are more apt to complain than praise. Look at the details. Yes there might be granite counter tops and hardwood but if its shoddy construction on details you will likely have more maintenance issues in the future. If it is an established building and has been around a few years you can ask what the vacancy is and if it has a lot of vacancy there is probably a reason. Typically they cannot answer questions on resident demographics but you can ask indirect questions that can lead you to get an idea of the age and life phase of tenants in the building.",
"You say English is not your native language; what is, and where will you be looking for an apartment? A lot of this advice changes across national borders.",
"Stand in the shower and check the shower head height. Get out of the shower and turn it on to see pressure.\nWait for water to get hot to ensure hot water. \n\nI've made the mistake of not doing this 3 times. Leading to some cold winter mornings and lots of crouching to get my hair wet.",
"Look for any signs of moisture damage on the walls/ceiling. Make sure the bathroom is well ventilated (to avoid fungus growth). Check the isolation (windows etc) and ventilation. Since its cold outside; try to feel if there is a cold airflow (= bad isolation), make sure the temperature inside feels comfortable and then check the thermostat. you don't want to waste a lot of money on heating your apartment. ",
"Closet space and water pressure. Also, revisit the area at NIGHT - what is it like when everyone is home from work? ",
"Check to see who your service providers for electricity cable, Internet would be. My first apartment only had comcast and I swore i would never move anywhere where this is the only provider. Same thing for electricity, the light bills can be \"higher\" by areas.",
"Along with most of the rest of the tips in this thread, don't get an apartment on the side of a building that faces a major road... unless you don't mind CONSTANT noise. ",
"[This](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/2rwneo/lpt_request_when_apartment_searching_what_are/) was posted a year ago",
"You should look for:\n- dryer and washer in unit\n- reviews on yelp of the real estate company that owns the houses\n- cleaning fee and garbage fee if there is one\n- asking anyone that lives there what it's like\n\nThe last option may be uncommon but it can take you a long way. If I didn't ask someone that for the last place I was thinking of moving in, I wouldn't know about the crackheads that would occasionally roam that neighborhood at night.. Learn from the honest tenants with experience, not the Real Estate agent that would sweep cockaroaches behind your back with a fake smile plastered on their face saying they did a good job having the place cleaned out before having people view the property.",
"Try to avoid \"garden\" units (essentially located underground/in the basement). These are usually less expensive but super prone to flooding in certain locations. \n\nOn the same note, if you have to rent a basement unit, make sure to check for signs of past flooding like warped baseboards or discolorations on the walls near the floor. ",
"This tip is more for once you've found a place but it's worth knowing; when you fill out move in, move out inventory (basically a checklist of the condition of everything in the place) make copies. Learned this one the hard way when a landlord \"lost\" ours and charged us to fix a bunch of issues that were pre existing prior to us moving in. Pretty much get everything in writing and make copies of everything. It'll save you a lot of hassle. ",
"PARKING. We took our landlords word on our parking situation. Turned out to be a load of crap. Now we pay for parking but are never guaranteed a spot in the busiest lot in town.",
"Make sure you have good cell phone reception!\n\nAsk to meet the apartment manager. If he/she is an asshole, avoid it.\n\nVisit the apartment complex at different times during the day, and at night.\n\nIs there construction near by that would be really annoying? Ask when it should be done.\n\nSource: Lived in an overpriced apartment with no reception and an asshole apartment manager, across from a never-ending construction site that kept me up at all hours.",
"Make sure you check for a fridge and stove in the kitchen (and any other large appliances). If you're not actively looking for them, you may just look right past the fact they aren't there and add an unexpected expense to your move in.",
"Make sure to go see it at night, so you get some idea of what the noise level is going to be like when you're home or trying to sleep.\n\nCheck out the crime map for your city to see what kind of things are going on in the city.\n\nTake pictures the first time you see it. Definitely take them in the actual unit before you start moving stuff in. You'll want those for when you move out and have to prove that it's in the same condition as when you moved in. Also helps when you're trying to find space for everything. \"Was the wall the couch is going against anywhere near the cable hookup?\" That kind of stuff.",
"Make sure all the plumbing is in good repair. The areas under sinks and around toilets should be dry and free of mildew smell or visible mold. Water marks on the ceiling or walls is a bad sign. A slow leak in a pipe can be a nightmare to find and fix.\n\nA loud neighbor can be an annoyance but it's not on the same level as having your bathroom ceiling collapse from an upstairs leak.\n\n/u/SwayZ58 gives good advice on looking for vermin [here.](https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/43tkfx/lpt_request_what_to_look_out_for_when_looking_for/czkuoag)",
"I quickly moved into a place out of college. Make sure the kitchen is as big as you need it. Mines much to small even for me living alone. \n\nAlso look at the windows and exterior doors both in the apartment itself and the main hallway. My place has no weather strip on the main hallway door and cold air just blows right in under it. May as well be an open exterior wall there. Check the windows, I mean really stick your face up against them. Mine were fine in the summer but come winter it was really drafty and i i noticed in many places the window sill was disconnected from the wall by about 1/4 inch. ",
"I live somewhere cold where you have to run your heater for a portion of the year. If you are in a similar environment NEVER rent a house with baseboard heating. They are ineffective and expensive. \n\nIf you only need to use your heater here and there they are probably pretty awesome, but if you are using it for a month straight your electric bill is going to be huge and your house is still going to be freezing. ",
"Don't sign a lease without seeing the exact apartment you're moving in to. Too many management companies promise things and then don't deliver. \n\nAsk for a full quote showing your total bill monthly. A lot of communities advertise a lower rental rate, then tack on a ton of additional fees. \n\nAsk a resident. Walk the property in the evening and talk to the people who currently live there. Talk to more than one.\n\nOffice staff are not legally allowed to offer information on crime statistic. The local sheriff's office will become your friend while apartment hunting.\n\n\nLower prices typically equal worse communities.\n\n\nStaff cannot answer any questions about the type of people who live at the property. They CAN however answer whether or not they accept Section 8. If they do, it's a sign that the community may not be as nice as it looks.\n\nSource - Apartment Property Manager.\n\n\n",
"Depending on the quality of the place you are looking for, check for mould on the walls/in corners. Might be a feature of the current tenants not looking after the place, might be a damp house. \n\nAlso make sure you get double glazing!",
"Check mobile phone signal in all rooms, hallways and on the street. Calling each other and walking around is a good way to do this.\n\nAsk the neighbours what they think of the place too, any noise complaints, people to avoid, what's nice in the area etc\n\nIf you think you like a place, visit it twice and different times of day so you know what it's like in the morning and evening.\n\nBe vague about your opinions on the first viewing. Take it all in, but discuss the pros and cons about it privately from the landlord. Don't express how much you love the place or they may try to pressure you into making a quick decision (eg, say they have another person interested in the place and waiting for them) or even sneak the price up.\n\nLastly, keep an eye out for any signs of mould or damp on walls, windows etc and any signs of animals or insects. This is easier to do in unfurnished places, but if there is any furniture or cabinets, check them all.",
"- is your apartment choice compatible with the Internet service you want? (one of the first things we got when roommate and I moved in)\n\n- checking out the cars is definitely a must. \n\n- all utilities included with rent may be too good to be true. \n\n- annoying upstairs neighbors that run laps @ 11PM\n\n- not sure how it is where you live, but next to me are a handful of people that smoke, which isn't a bad thing because they're the nicest people that I know around here."
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"How can i change my morning routine and sleep schedule? Any tips for getting up a few hours earlier at a set time and going to bed earlier as at the moment I always have stuff to do at night and then wake up late. Should i maybe make a schedule or do something at night to tire myself out? I seem to be going to bed later and later.",
"How can i change my morning routine and sleep schedule? Any tips for getting up a few hours earlier at a set time and going to bed earlier as at the moment I always have stuff to do at night and then wake up late. Should i maybe make a schedule or do something at night to tire myself out? I seem to be going to bed later and later."
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"Wake up and work out in the morning. Wake up early enough to work out, accomplish the things you're doing at night now, and be on time for your regular daily commitment. By the time evening comes around, you'll want to go to bed. I just pushed my sleeping schedule back 3 hours by doing this.\n\nThe key is a tough workout. I've had a lot of success with Tapout XT (douchy, but effective).",
"Not an expert but I would say tire yourself our mid-day (working out, jogging) and set an alarm clock for when you want to wake up."
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"How to Drink From A Flask. So I have a flask that I've been using, but the liqour just kinda dribbles out and it's hard to take swigs from. Is there an easy way to do this? The internet hasn't been very helpful.",
"How to Drink From A Flask. So I have a flask that I've been using, but the liqour just kinda dribbles out and it's hard to take swigs from. Is there an easy way to do this? The internet hasn't been very helpful.",
"How to Drink From A Flask. So I have a flask that I've been using, but the liqour just kinda dribbles out and it's hard to take swigs from. Is there an easy way to do this? The internet hasn't been very helpful."
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"Hold the flask so that the \"belly\" of it is on the down side. Place the neck of the opening on your lower lip and pour it into your mouth. You can use your upper lip to help hold it, but you will want to allow for air flow around the flask opening, because if you close your mouth around it there will be suction that will make it harder for the liquid to flow out.",
"Buy some shooters at the liquor store. They're usually 2 for 1, and you can throw them out. \nNo evidence. \n\nSome people take pills a doc prescribes for blank disorder. \nI take a swig. \nCheers",
"LPT: Don't use a flask. While some may see it as classy, others will not. Flasks are usually associated with alcoholics, and while a flask is convenient, people might get the wrong impression that you don't have any self control and lose respect for you. \n\n"
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"How can I forget something fast? Something happened to me today that I really want to forget. I don't ever want to be reminded of it again. Are there ways to forget things fast and effectively?",
"How can I forget something fast? Something happened to me today that I really want to forget. I don't ever want to be reminded of it again. Are there ways to forget things fast and effectively?",
"How can I forget something fast? Something happened to me today that I really want to forget. I don't ever want to be reminded of it again. Are there ways to forget things fast and effectively?",
"How can I forget something fast? Something happened to me today that I really want to forget. I don't ever want to be reminded of it again. Are there ways to forget things fast and effectively?",
"How can I forget something fast? Something happened to me today that I really want to forget. I don't ever want to be reminded of it again. Are there ways to forget things fast and effectively?",
"How can I forget something fast? Something happened to me today that I really want to forget. I don't ever want to be reminded of it again. Are there ways to forget things fast and effectively?"
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"Alcohol. \n\nNo but seriously don’t do that, whatever it is, I’d highly doubt trying to forget is going to be good for you in the long run. I’ve tried everything and it brought me nothing but more things I want to forget.",
"there’s a phrase: throw it down the memory hole. if you picture the visual of grabbing the memory and throwing it into a void of a trash can this can help with forgetting. will it likely pop up again? yes. then just remind yourself that-into the memory hole it goes. can work with insignificant experiences. with big ones: the only way out is through.",
"Try to remember it differently everytime, you will only remember it how you last remembered so you can slowly alter it to be a different memory",
"Research memory and you’ll learn that it isn’t fixed the way one would assume. You can learn to reframe it into something that helps you, as that is the purpose of memory-to prevent us from repeating actions that harm us. (Not to blame-obviously I have no context for what happened-just research memory to find your answer)",
"I am by no means an expert. But this is what I would do and why.\n\nI would try to do something as mentally challenging as you can. Complex math (or try to learn new math), or play blindfold chess against yourself in your head, try to memorize the first 20 entries in the ph9ne book. You don't need to actually be good at any of it, but it will tax your brain heavily and hopefully by fully focusing on a difficult task. This will overload your short term memory and at least give it a shot that it won't transfer to your long term memory.",
"Try doing something you really enjoy and go sleep. It might get away but you will be able to cope better by tomorrow"
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"How to park correctly on the first try. I always find myself off center in a parking spot and having to back out/pull back in. How can I park my car right in one try?",
"How to park correctly on the first try. I always find myself off center in a parking spot and having to back out/pull back in. How can I park my car right in one try?",
"How to park correctly on the first try. I always find myself off center in a parking spot and having to back out/pull back in. How can I park my car right in one try?",
"How to park correctly on the first try. I always find myself off center in a parking spot and having to back out/pull back in. How can I park my car right in one try?"
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"The easiest and safest way to park in a stall at a parking lot is to back in.\n\n1. Pull up on the side the stall is on\n2. When your shoulder is centered with the stall, crank the wheels all the way over so you're turning away from the stall. (turning left, if the stall is on your right)\n3. Take as much space as you need. But don't take too long putting your car into reverse, as the guy behind you will try to sneak past you. If your reverse lights are on, 99.9% of people waiting behind you will stop and let you back up.\n4. Crank the wheels all the way to the opposite direction.\n5. If you need to, lower both of your side mirrors so you can see your rear tires. Or at the very least, so you can see where the lines of the stall are on the ground behind you.\n6. Back up until both sides are aligned with the stall and centered in it.\n7. If you need to, do not be afraid to pull forward and adjust yourself. It's better to waste a minute doing that, than it is to back into the car beside you.\n8. If you aren't sure how far you need to go back into the stall, get out and look. Do not guess.\n\nParallel parking.\n1. Pull beside the parking spot to make sure your car will fit.\n2. Pull up beside the car in front of the spot you want. All the way up beside it.\n3. Crank the wheels in the direction you want to go in reverse. (if the spot is on your right, crank the wheels to the right)\n4. Back up into the spot until you can see the front bumper of the car behind the spot, in your left mirror. Then back up more until you can see daylight between that bumper and the left side of your car. (This is the most common mistake people make, they only back up half way into the spot since they're unsure of how far back they can go. Then they end up 2 feet away from the curb and have to jigger themselves back and forth to get closer.)\n5. When you can see the bumper of the car behind you completely, then you crank your wheels all the way over in the other direction.\n6. You should be able to get into the spot in one smooth motion now, and only be a few inches away from the curb.\n7. Adjust as necessary.",
"Practice\n\nYou need to learn the size and turning capabilities of your car and that comes with practice with the same car. You should also pay attention to how long your car is and scoot in far enough\n\nMost people have small cars so this is less of an issue",
"If you're backing in - pull too far past, adjust your driver side mirror down (if it doesn't automatically) and then aim towards the line in your mirror as you reverse. Just a little practice and you'll nail it every time.",
"If you drive in it can be hard to tell where your wheels are, but if yoj reverse in you can be slower and more accurate by lowering both your mirrors. "
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"Get the Stench out of my Slippers For my birthday this year I got the most awesome and amazing pair of [Clark's slippers](http://www.sears.ca/product/clarks-suede-twin-gore-clog-slippers/667-000876276-22SH-002?ptag=2). They are the most comfortable slippers I've ever had. They are also the first pair of slippers I can remember actually be warm on my typically cold feet. \n\nThe problem here lies that this is the first pair of footwear I can remember that's absolutely wreaks. I wore no socks in my shoes and my sandals all last summer and had no odor. I could wear the same pair of socks for days without a scent. But these things are an absolute other story. I could drop them into a small country as weapons. \n\nI've tried gold bond in them and that just made it smell like peppermint foot odor. Also I'd prefer not to have to wear socks with them as well what's the point of slippers in the house if you've got to wear socks. \n\nSo please any advice to get rid of the stench that only occurs with this single pair of slippers?",
"Get the Stench out of my Slippers For my birthday this year I got the most awesome and amazing pair of [Clark's slippers](http://www.sears.ca/product/clarks-suede-twin-gore-clog-slippers/667-000876276-22SH-002?ptag=2). They are the most comfortable slippers I've ever had. They are also the first pair of slippers I can remember actually be warm on my typically cold feet. \n\nThe problem here lies that this is the first pair of footwear I can remember that's absolutely wreaks. I wore no socks in my shoes and my sandals all last summer and had no odor. I could wear the same pair of socks for days without a scent. But these things are an absolute other story. I could drop them into a small country as weapons. \n\nI've tried gold bond in them and that just made it smell like peppermint foot odor. Also I'd prefer not to have to wear socks with them as well what's the point of slippers in the house if you've got to wear socks. \n\nSo please any advice to get rid of the stench that only occurs with this single pair of slippers?",
"Get the Stench out of my Slippers For my birthday this year I got the most awesome and amazing pair of [Clark's slippers](http://www.sears.ca/product/clarks-suede-twin-gore-clog-slippers/667-000876276-22SH-002?ptag=2). They are the most comfortable slippers I've ever had. They are also the first pair of slippers I can remember actually be warm on my typically cold feet. \n\nThe problem here lies that this is the first pair of footwear I can remember that's absolutely wreaks. I wore no socks in my shoes and my sandals all last summer and had no odor. I could wear the same pair of socks for days without a scent. But these things are an absolute other story. I could drop them into a small country as weapons. \n\nI've tried gold bond in them and that just made it smell like peppermint foot odor. Also I'd prefer not to have to wear socks with them as well what's the point of slippers in the house if you've got to wear socks. \n\nSo please any advice to get rid of the stench that only occurs with this single pair of slippers?",
"Get the Stench out of my Slippers For my birthday this year I got the most awesome and amazing pair of [Clark's slippers](http://www.sears.ca/product/clarks-suede-twin-gore-clog-slippers/667-000876276-22SH-002?ptag=2). They are the most comfortable slippers I've ever had. They are also the first pair of slippers I can remember actually be warm on my typically cold feet. \n\nThe problem here lies that this is the first pair of footwear I can remember that's absolutely wreaks. I wore no socks in my shoes and my sandals all last summer and had no odor. I could wear the same pair of socks for days without a scent. But these things are an absolute other story. I could drop them into a small country as weapons. \n\nI've tried gold bond in them and that just made it smell like peppermint foot odor. Also I'd prefer not to have to wear socks with them as well what's the point of slippers in the house if you've got to wear socks. \n\nSo please any advice to get rid of the stench that only occurs with this single pair of slippers?",
"Get the Stench out of my Slippers For my birthday this year I got the most awesome and amazing pair of [Clark's slippers](http://www.sears.ca/product/clarks-suede-twin-gore-clog-slippers/667-000876276-22SH-002?ptag=2). They are the most comfortable slippers I've ever had. They are also the first pair of slippers I can remember actually be warm on my typically cold feet. \n\nThe problem here lies that this is the first pair of footwear I can remember that's absolutely wreaks. I wore no socks in my shoes and my sandals all last summer and had no odor. I could wear the same pair of socks for days without a scent. But these things are an absolute other story. I could drop them into a small country as weapons. \n\nI've tried gold bond in them and that just made it smell like peppermint foot odor. Also I'd prefer not to have to wear socks with them as well what's the point of slippers in the house if you've got to wear socks. \n\nSo please any advice to get rid of the stench that only occurs with this single pair of slippers?",
"Get the Stench out of my Slippers For my birthday this year I got the most awesome and amazing pair of [Clark's slippers](http://www.sears.ca/product/clarks-suede-twin-gore-clog-slippers/667-000876276-22SH-002?ptag=2). They are the most comfortable slippers I've ever had. They are also the first pair of slippers I can remember actually be warm on my typically cold feet. \n\nThe problem here lies that this is the first pair of footwear I can remember that's absolutely wreaks. I wore no socks in my shoes and my sandals all last summer and had no odor. I could wear the same pair of socks for days without a scent. But these things are an absolute other story. I could drop them into a small country as weapons. \n\nI've tried gold bond in them and that just made it smell like peppermint foot odor. Also I'd prefer not to have to wear socks with them as well what's the point of slippers in the house if you've got to wear socks. \n\nSo please any advice to get rid of the stench that only occurs with this single pair of slippers?",
"Get the Stench out of my Slippers For my birthday this year I got the most awesome and amazing pair of [Clark's slippers](http://www.sears.ca/product/clarks-suede-twin-gore-clog-slippers/667-000876276-22SH-002?ptag=2). They are the most comfortable slippers I've ever had. They are also the first pair of slippers I can remember actually be warm on my typically cold feet. \n\nThe problem here lies that this is the first pair of footwear I can remember that's absolutely wreaks. I wore no socks in my shoes and my sandals all last summer and had no odor. I could wear the same pair of socks for days without a scent. But these things are an absolute other story. I could drop them into a small country as weapons. \n\nI've tried gold bond in them and that just made it smell like peppermint foot odor. Also I'd prefer not to have to wear socks with them as well what's the point of slippers in the house if you've got to wear socks. \n\nSo please any advice to get rid of the stench that only occurs with this single pair of slippers?"
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"Put them in a ziplock bag and freeze them overnight. This will kill the bacteria. saw it in a LPT a few days ago.",
"Sprinkle a heaping tablespoon of baking soda into each slipper. Spread it around, let sit for 24 hours. Dump out baking soda. Now see if they are better. \n\nBaking soda absorbs odors, it just doesn't add a new odor. ",
"Put them in a plastic bag and then into your freezer for a couple days. The cold kills the stink bacteria at the source. Worked very well for my work boots (they're usually on me for 14 hours a day, so yeah, they stunk). Hope it helps!",
"This stuff: spray the insides and outsides, let them dry out, no more smell. :)\nhttp://canadawide.ca/products/308-700.2.html",
"You could give Oder Eaters a try. I've been using it for my shoes for the last 2 weeks and have noticed a difference for sure.\n\nhttp://www.meijer.com/s/odor-eaters-deodorant-foot-powder-pack-of-2-6-oz-ea/_/R-146619",
"This is what I do:\n\nhttp://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/u2uaw/lpt_to_keep_your_slippers_from_smelling_bad_slip/\n\nBefore this, I refused to wear slippers because of the odor. You may want to soak them and clean them initially though.",
" I had a problem with a set of cycling shoes picking up a cat urine smell from god knows where. We have no cat. I tried several things, what finally worked was the baking soda with vinegar. Then I took crushed up charcoal and packed it in the toes still wet and left it for a few days. Took away the smell and it hasn't returned. There was no way possible these were exposed to a cat."
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"Any LPT for job interviews? I have my first job interview tomorrow. I was wondering if there were any good tips for somebody's first job interview. ",
"Any LPT for job interviews? I have my first job interview tomorrow. I was wondering if there were any good tips for somebody's first job interview. ",
"Any LPT for job interviews? I have my first job interview tomorrow. I was wondering if there were any good tips for somebody's first job interview. ",
"Any LPT for job interviews? I have my first job interview tomorrow. I was wondering if there were any good tips for somebody's first job interview. ",
"Any LPT for job interviews? I have my first job interview tomorrow. I was wondering if there were any good tips for somebody's first job interview. ",
"Any LPT for job interviews? I have my first job interview tomorrow. I was wondering if there were any good tips for somebody's first job interview. ",
"Any LPT for job interviews? I have my first job interview tomorrow. I was wondering if there were any good tips for somebody's first job interview. ",
"Any LPT for job interviews? I have my first job interview tomorrow. I was wondering if there were any good tips for somebody's first job interview. "
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"do a \"power stance\" such as feet apart, hands on hips, or hands behind head, for 10-20 seconds in a bathroom or something right before you go in for the interview. ",
"I've interviewed a lot of people in my day. My recommendation for you is to ask good questions and know details of the company and the position. \n\nAsk the interviewer what they like about the company, about the culture. If the person you're interviewing is the boss, then ask what kind of boss they are, and what kind of person they're looking for. Be that person they're looking for. \n\nOften the questions I asked were to get you talking and articulating. If I'm going to work with you then I need to know I can work with you, that you can hold a conversation, that you are intelligent, and you're able to do the job.\n\nGood luck. Don't be late. Dress for the part.\n",
"Don't be afraid to pause and compose your thoughts before you answer a question. A carefully considered response shows you can be calm and thoughtful under pressure.",
"they are going to ask whats one thing about your self you would change if you could. (everyone says i work too hard) bullshit! everyone is lazy. tell them if there was something about my self i though needed changing i would already be working on it. \n\n",
"Just remember the whole point of most interviews are to determine weather YOU are the BEST candidate for THEM. Keep that goal in mind when answering questions. So no need to seem lime the best candidate ever and they may not even care how much you know. ",
"Go into it with some background on the company, you don't need to learn all the ins and outs, but be prepared to talk about the company.\n\nDon't be afraid to ask questions, the right questions can really help your chances. It can be especially beneficially to ask questions that imply you will get hired, \"so where would I work\" \"who would I report to\" etc...as this gets the interviewer thinking of you working at the job\n\nSilence is not your enemy. If you need a second to compose an answer, take it, collecting your thoughts for a coherent answer is much better than trying to stammer through one",
"I recently had one and there were a few curve balls. We were talking about my strengths and she hit me with, \"tell me about a time you failed at something.\" \n\nAlso, companies want to know you are good at working in teams so think of many situations where you had to assume a leadership role, took action without being asked to, and a time when you had to work with a difficult coworker/customer. \n\nAnother thing, when they ask for a specific answer, be SPECIFIC. don't ramble. \n\nAnd smile! They want someone with a personality too, so make sure you're excited to be there. \n\nOh and another thing I just remembered, at the end of the interview, thank them for their time and say something like, \"wow I was excited about the possibility of working here before the interview, but now I'm really excited\" or something to that effect. They want to know you've done your research and know about their company. They might also ask you why you want to work for them so look up what the company has been up to lately, and be knowledgable!\n\n",
"I don't feel like formatting this, but here is a condensed list of my interview tips\n\n1) have multiple copy's of your resume \n\n2) dress appropriately\n\n3) DO NOT USE FILLER WORDS\n\n4) be organised\n\n5) if you are asked about your weaknesses, make them positive (i love to work and I often overdo the details on reports)\n\n6) be at least 15 minutes early\n\n7)have multiple pens\n\n8) have a prem"
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"How to spend quality time with a terminally ill person My dad has an inoperable brain tumour. I've taken some time off work to spend with him. At the moment he's ok - he can do things for himself, and can still process information fairly well, but I know that at some point in the future he will become immobile and at some point beyond that he will likely be unconscious.\n\nAt the moment we are able to go for short walks and do the crossword together. What other activities/conversations could I be doing/having with him now? What could I do with him in the future? \n\nThanks for reading.",
"How to spend quality time with a terminally ill person My dad has an inoperable brain tumour. I've taken some time off work to spend with him. At the moment he's ok - he can do things for himself, and can still process information fairly well, but I know that at some point in the future he will become immobile and at some point beyond that he will likely be unconscious.\n\nAt the moment we are able to go for short walks and do the crossword together. What other activities/conversations could I be doing/having with him now? What could I do with him in the future? \n\nThanks for reading.",
"How to spend quality time with a terminally ill person My dad has an inoperable brain tumour. I've taken some time off work to spend with him. At the moment he's ok - he can do things for himself, and can still process information fairly well, but I know that at some point in the future he will become immobile and at some point beyond that he will likely be unconscious.\n\nAt the moment we are able to go for short walks and do the crossword together. What other activities/conversations could I be doing/having with him now? What could I do with him in the future? \n\nThanks for reading.",
"How to spend quality time with a terminally ill person My dad has an inoperable brain tumour. I've taken some time off work to spend with him. At the moment he's ok - he can do things for himself, and can still process information fairly well, but I know that at some point in the future he will become immobile and at some point beyond that he will likely be unconscious.\n\nAt the moment we are able to go for short walks and do the crossword together. What other activities/conversations could I be doing/having with him now? What could I do with him in the future? \n\nThanks for reading.",
"How to spend quality time with a terminally ill person My dad has an inoperable brain tumour. I've taken some time off work to spend with him. At the moment he's ok - he can do things for himself, and can still process information fairly well, but I know that at some point in the future he will become immobile and at some point beyond that he will likely be unconscious.\n\nAt the moment we are able to go for short walks and do the crossword together. What other activities/conversations could I be doing/having with him now? What could I do with him in the future? \n\nThanks for reading.",
"How to spend quality time with a terminally ill person My dad has an inoperable brain tumour. I've taken some time off work to spend with him. At the moment he's ok - he can do things for himself, and can still process information fairly well, but I know that at some point in the future he will become immobile and at some point beyond that he will likely be unconscious.\n\nAt the moment we are able to go for short walks and do the crossword together. What other activities/conversations could I be doing/having with him now? What could I do with him in the future? \n\nThanks for reading."
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"After her diagnosis, my mom lived for 3 more months. We talked a lot. We talked about a lot of happy things, shared memories, told each other that we forgave things that we had previously held on to, but one of the most important things was that we didn't avoid the big topic. We talked about her wishes, how I was going to handle things. Hearing concrete things about how I was going to cope afterwards gave her a lot of comfort. \n\nSometimes, we would talk about things, and I could just see the relief flow over her. I told her how much I loved her and lots of silly little things that I assumed she knew and took for granted. She treasured each thing like it was new. I mean, we were best friends. We walked, spent tons of time together, I couldn't believe that I had to tell her these things, but I did, and I am so thankful that I did.\n\nTake nothing for granted. Make sure to fill this time with as much joy as possible. \n\nIt is a brutal thing to go through. Hugs from a stranger that has gone through the same pain.",
"When my father in law was in town (for cancer treatment) I'd sit and watch his favourite tv shows with him. He couldn't do much else so just hanging out and being there, enjoying the things he enjoys. Making sure he was comfortable and keeping him company. ",
"To the extent that you can, do the same things you would do if he were not sick. I know this sounds simplistic but it is both easier for you and more comfortable for your father. Don't be afraid to have fun, make jokes, and even ignore him for a time if it's been a part of the normal routine.",
"Go through family photos. Your dad will be able to fill in gaps on who the mystery people are, and you will be able to share and remember some great times together. Maybe hear some stories he didn't want to tell before. \n\nWarmly regarding the highlights of a life well lived with loved ones is medicine in itself.",
"My grand'ma had alzheimers. Every time i came to visit her, i tried to find some music that she liked to listen to.\n\nIt was so cute to see her singing the songs, she knew almost all the lyrics even if she haven't listen to those songs in a while. ",
"My dad had two brain tumours removed but unfortunately by that time he had already diagnosed with terminal cancer. Obviously each situation has to be treated differently but this is what worked best his situation\n\nMy dad had always been active and I'd always been roped into whatever he was doing so we had a lot of common interests. He was an avid cyclist and triathlete and also loved music, cooking, and woodworking. Cycling and running/swimming weren't an option anymore so the focus was on all the other things. We'd visit instrument stores and cook together and start projects and he'd help where he could/wanted to. He'd fatigue really quickly so everyone was pretty against him doing anything but at the end of the day all he wanted was to be treated normally so he could do all the things he loved until he couldn't.\n\nTumours affect people differently, my dad was only really suffered short term memory loss and was a little slower mentally and was able to walk comfortably until about a month before he passed at which point he'd just sleep all day.\n\nI think the biggest piece of advice I can give is to understand your dad's condition and capabilities and give him the opportunity to do what he wants to do and just be there for him."
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"How to get Higher Bandwidth from your ISP. I'll be moving back home over the summer and with that going from the wonderful world of 100mbps connection in my dorm to the staggeringly slow speeds of 5mbps at my house. Does anyone out there have some ISP hacks that I might could use to get the highest speeds possible. \n\nI have AT&T DSL\n\nThanks!",
"How to get Higher Bandwidth from your ISP. I'll be moving back home over the summer and with that going from the wonderful world of 100mbps connection in my dorm to the staggeringly slow speeds of 5mbps at my house. Does anyone out there have some ISP hacks that I might could use to get the highest speeds possible. \n\nI have AT&T DSL\n\nThanks!",
"How to get Higher Bandwidth from your ISP. I'll be moving back home over the summer and with that going from the wonderful world of 100mbps connection in my dorm to the staggeringly slow speeds of 5mbps at my house. Does anyone out there have some ISP hacks that I might could use to get the highest speeds possible. \n\nI have AT&T DSL\n\nThanks!"
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"DSL is severely affected by both distance from the CO and line quality.\n\nIf you live over 2mi from the nearest CO (your ISP will tell you), AT&T should have never provisioned you, as you're physically limited from receiving anything faster. If your house is old, it's probably a good idea to update your phone wires. \n\nDSL Reports has a line quality tool that can help determine if either of these common issues are affecting you: [http://www.dslreports.com/tools](http://www.dslreports.com/tools)\n\n\nBeyond that, there are TCP parameters you can tweak on Windows and Linux that can improve your overall throughput, at some expense to latency: [http://www.speedguide.net/articles.php?category=93](http://www.speedguide.net/articles.php?category=93)\n\nIf all else fails, see if FIOS or cable are available.",
"In my area, AT& T DLS tops out at 6mbps, so you may not have much room for growth.\n\nAd blockers are a semi-ethical way to increase speed, also install some form of do not track extension to eliminate Google Analytics and the likes. \n\nDSL also has the worst upload bandwidth, make sure to provision it. IE have any torrents capped at 40k/sec up, as I think 70k/sec is your max. Remember, downloads have to be asked for first via an upload, so this slows starting downloads if congested.",
"Connect your devices with Ethernet not wifi. Some ISP's deliberately slow down bandwidth speeds to customers to force them to choose a more costly package, if you are not receiving what you are paying for, give them a call."
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"How to overcome ticklishness My gf likes it when I give her foot massages. So one day she tried to return the favor -- however even the slightest touch on the bottom of my foot made me buck and giggle. I felt bad cause she was trying to be nice. \nAre there ways to overcome this unintentional reaction?",
"How to overcome ticklishness My gf likes it when I give her foot massages. So one day she tried to return the favor -- however even the slightest touch on the bottom of my foot made me buck and giggle. I felt bad cause she was trying to be nice. \nAre there ways to overcome this unintentional reaction?",
"How to overcome ticklishness My gf likes it when I give her foot massages. So one day she tried to return the favor -- however even the slightest touch on the bottom of my foot made me buck and giggle. I felt bad cause she was trying to be nice. \nAre there ways to overcome this unintentional reaction?",
"How to overcome ticklishness My gf likes it when I give her foot massages. So one day she tried to return the favor -- however even the slightest touch on the bottom of my foot made me buck and giggle. I felt bad cause she was trying to be nice. \nAre there ways to overcome this unintentional reaction?",
"How to overcome ticklishness My gf likes it when I give her foot massages. So one day she tried to return the favor -- however even the slightest touch on the bottom of my foot made me buck and giggle. I felt bad cause she was trying to be nice. \nAre there ways to overcome this unintentional reaction?"
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"Super ticklish person here. I have not discovered a way to get over it (sorry). \n\nHowever, for massages ask for good solid pressure, and for foot massage recommend she take your foot in both hands and do more sqeezing moves than stroking moves. This should minimize the ticklishnes. Also, that kind of pressing can be done through a sock and still feel good.",
"Put ur hand where their hand is bc u can't tickle urself. Do that for a bit until u get used to it. Firm pressure helps too like it says above ",
"The solution is to pretend like it's not ticklish. Then the person tickling you will notice how awkward they've made the situation and they'll never tickle you again",
"I can mentally turn it on or off. If I'm being tickled, I can will myself to not be ticklish by saying 'That does not tickle'. Weird, but mind over matter.",
"When someone tickles you, punch them in the face. You will eventually associate tickling with getting your ass kicked or prison rape, neither of which are amusing. Problem solved."
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"How do you organize the miscellaneous, not-used-daily items in your house? Items such as gift cards, seasonally-themed hand towels, blazer pins, misc. notebooks, dry cleaning bag. These are all things I don't have enough of to designate a drawer or a shelf, but don't use daily.",
"How do you organize the miscellaneous, not-used-daily items in your house? Items such as gift cards, seasonally-themed hand towels, blazer pins, misc. notebooks, dry cleaning bag. These are all things I don't have enough of to designate a drawer or a shelf, but don't use daily.",
"How do you organize the miscellaneous, not-used-daily items in your house? Items such as gift cards, seasonally-themed hand towels, blazer pins, misc. notebooks, dry cleaning bag. These are all things I don't have enough of to designate a drawer or a shelf, but don't use daily.",
"How do you organize the miscellaneous, not-used-daily items in your house? Items such as gift cards, seasonally-themed hand towels, blazer pins, misc. notebooks, dry cleaning bag. These are all things I don't have enough of to designate a drawer or a shelf, but don't use daily.",
"How do you organize the miscellaneous, not-used-daily items in your house? Items such as gift cards, seasonally-themed hand towels, blazer pins, misc. notebooks, dry cleaning bag. These are all things I don't have enough of to designate a drawer or a shelf, but don't use daily."
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"One drawer, in the kitchen. Pack as much random shit in there as possible and don't organize it what so ever. ",
"I started using seasonal totes.. I label them according to holiday/occasion and everything that belongs in that category goes into its designated tote. For example, we've just had St. Party's day; I have a tote for that occasion, to which I will add today's Earth Day decorations and paraphernalia. This tote also contains Easter items (decorations, stickers, Easter themed craft items for my kids). The next tote to come out will be the birthday tote, with wrapping paper & gift bags, stickers, blowers, glow sticks etc. After that will be the Canada Day tote with the flags, stickers/tattoos, silly Canadian hats etc. (You get the idea....same goes for Xmas, Valentine's etc) Once each occasion is over, the related items are put into their totes and I have a cheapo shelving unit to store them in. I'm fortunate enough to have a garage, but had I developed this system properly in my old apartment, I'd still be able to utilize this \"Tote & Shelves\" method, as I feel that it keeps me organized. And I don't have seasonal items like tea towels and irrelevant nick-nacks in my way. For old cards that we keep for sentimental reasons, they go in a pretty basket that is kept with photos and my children's baby boxes in the living room on the bookshelf. I like to keep things that remind me of good times out in the open for easy and frequent access, yet not in anybody's way. Extra holiday/occasion cards that are left over go in their seasonal /occasion tote. Thank goodness I've been developing this system, because I have a better idea of what I have; I know for example that I don't have to buy any Xmas cards this year, as I have enough left over from last year. I understand your frustration about not knowing what to do with things that you need to keep but don't need to have out every day.. I hope that my comment is useful. I didn't mean to write so much, I just wanted to explain myself clearly.",
"Thinks like cards, wrapping paper, notebooks, pens etc I just have in a small box at the back of a cupboard\n\nOr if you have a lot then just shove all kinds of crap in a box, especially if it's something season you know once you get it out you'll need it for a few days.",
"Who has gift cards and seasonal hand towels lying around? The best tip for you would not be to increase the organization, but rather to reduce the amount of shit in your home. Use it up or toss it out.",
"Theres a fantastic chapter on this in Marie Condos book 'the lifechanging magic of tidying up' highly recommend."
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"How do I decline missionaries nicely? As the title says. I *really* don't want to come off as rude or disrespectful, as they're taking time from their day to spread their beliefs, and are people. I don't want to waste their time, or mine, with a thirty minute lesson on Religion that I'm not interested in. What should be said to let missionaries know that I'm not interested?",
"How do I decline missionaries nicely? As the title says. I *really* don't want to come off as rude or disrespectful, as they're taking time from their day to spread their beliefs, and are people. I don't want to waste their time, or mine, with a thirty minute lesson on Religion that I'm not interested in. What should be said to let missionaries know that I'm not interested?",
"How do I decline missionaries nicely? As the title says. I *really* don't want to come off as rude or disrespectful, as they're taking time from their day to spread their beliefs, and are people. I don't want to waste their time, or mine, with a thirty minute lesson on Religion that I'm not interested in. What should be said to let missionaries know that I'm not interested?",
"How do I decline missionaries nicely? As the title says. I *really* don't want to come off as rude or disrespectful, as they're taking time from their day to spread their beliefs, and are people. I don't want to waste their time, or mine, with a thirty minute lesson on Religion that I'm not interested in. What should be said to let missionaries know that I'm not interested?",
"How do I decline missionaries nicely? As the title says. I *really* don't want to come off as rude or disrespectful, as they're taking time from their day to spread their beliefs, and are people. I don't want to waste their time, or mine, with a thirty minute lesson on Religion that I'm not interested in. What should be said to let missionaries know that I'm not interested?",
"How do I decline missionaries nicely? As the title says. I *really* don't want to come off as rude or disrespectful, as they're taking time from their day to spread their beliefs, and are people. I don't want to waste their time, or mine, with a thirty minute lesson on Religion that I'm not interested in. What should be said to let missionaries know that I'm not interested?",
"How do I decline missionaries nicely? As the title says. I *really* don't want to come off as rude or disrespectful, as they're taking time from their day to spread their beliefs, and are people. I don't want to waste their time, or mine, with a thirty minute lesson on Religion that I'm not interested in. What should be said to let missionaries know that I'm not interested?",
"How do I decline missionaries nicely? As the title says. I *really* don't want to come off as rude or disrespectful, as they're taking time from their day to spread their beliefs, and are people. I don't want to waste their time, or mine, with a thirty minute lesson on Religion that I'm not interested in. What should be said to let missionaries know that I'm not interested?"
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"I'd never turndown missionary, I wouldn't turn down the cowgirl, the doggy or the 69'ers! \n\nEmbrace that ",
"Just be polite and tell them you're not interested. They're used to it and honestly don't mind.\n\nSource: I let them in and got to know them and asked their feelings about this",
"sandwich response: affirm that they are doing a great thing and compliment them, while sandwiching a reason why you can't join them between the 2 compliments.",
"If they're mormon just tell them that you aren't interested and that you would like them not to come by anymore. You're address will be added to a \"do not visit\" list. It's nicer than slamming the door in their face and they won't push the issue. ",
"If they're jehova's witnesses, tell them you were one once but was thrown out. \n\nThey will run, REALLY fast. They are so brainwashed that if their kid or sibling was thrown out they would never ever say a word to them anymore. Well... they'd rather have their children die than take blood transfusion so you can safely say they are batshit crazy.\n\nAlso just because they spread their beliefs doesnt mean you have to be nice. They are trying to brainwash you, you have every right to protect yourself.",
"Growing up, we had a long driveway so we could see who was coming. We recognized all our friends' and family's cars. When I saw the Jehovah's witnesses, I would just turn off the tv and go in my room until they left. Just didn't have the patience to deal with them, as nice as they were. \n\nSo I guess you could say my approach was like ghosting the \"nice guy.\"",
"Actually - LPT Request 2 - how do I decline them NOT nicely?! I want them to effing stop bothering me and leave me alone with their god nonsense.\n\n(Maybe I just answered my own question... I should really just say that.",
"\"GREAT timing folks, we are a Satanist household and are about to go down to the dungeo...er, basement to begin our rituals and the sacrifice. You are most welcome to join us!!\""
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"How do you get rid of mice? These little fucks think they are hot shit. And they are. 100 mouse traps? That’s fine for them. 200? Also fine. Nothing works. They’ll get around them and when I start screaming my ass off they just show me the “kiss my ass” look and start doing Tokyo drifts around the house. I need help.",
"How do you get rid of mice? These little fucks think they are hot shit. And they are. 100 mouse traps? That’s fine for them. 200? Also fine. Nothing works. They’ll get around them and when I start screaming my ass off they just show me the “kiss my ass” look and start doing Tokyo drifts around the house. I need help.",
"How do you get rid of mice? These little fucks think they are hot shit. And they are. 100 mouse traps? That’s fine for them. 200? Also fine. Nothing works. They’ll get around them and when I start screaming my ass off they just show me the “kiss my ass” look and start doing Tokyo drifts around the house. I need help.",
"How do you get rid of mice? These little fucks think they are hot shit. And they are. 100 mouse traps? That’s fine for them. 200? Also fine. Nothing works. They’ll get around them and when I start screaming my ass off they just show me the “kiss my ass” look and start doing Tokyo drifts around the house. I need help.",
"How do you get rid of mice? These little fucks think they are hot shit. And they are. 100 mouse traps? That’s fine for them. 200? Also fine. Nothing works. They’ll get around them and when I start screaming my ass off they just show me the “kiss my ass” look and start doing Tokyo drifts around the house. I need help.",
"How do you get rid of mice? These little fucks think they are hot shit. And they are. 100 mouse traps? That’s fine for them. 200? Also fine. Nothing works. They’ll get around them and when I start screaming my ass off they just show me the “kiss my ass” look and start doing Tokyo drifts around the house. I need help.",
"How do you get rid of mice? These little fucks think they are hot shit. And they are. 100 mouse traps? That’s fine for them. 200? Also fine. Nothing works. They’ll get around them and when I start screaming my ass off they just show me the “kiss my ass” look and start doing Tokyo drifts around the house. I need help."
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"From past experience I know mice need 3 things: Food, water, and shelter. Pack up all your food in air tight containers, clean everything after you are finished eating (pet food and treats included), Water: fix all your leaks in your house, Shelter: Mice need nesting material, clean up all clutter, waste paper, grocery bags. Finally check any holes and seal them up, check your weatherstripping and siding for places they may be entering. Unfortunately if you've seen a mouse there's a guarantee that there are many more. As far as catching or killing them I've tried many things but the always have failures.",
"I’ve dealt with mice to the point I kept a body count.\n\nThere is no better mouse trap than the good old fashioned mouse trap.\n\nYou just need to make sure they are baited correctly. As OCD as it may seem, I use dental floss and tie a single raisin to the trap lever. Make it super secure and each trap can be used many many times!\n\nTake your raisin baited trap and add a smudge of peanut butter...\n\nAt this point I have to interject that nice can’t really only come out on the dark and have shit for vision...they do however have a great sense of smell! Super important for how you bait and place your traps!!\n\n...the PB puts the smell out there and draws them close. \n\nWhere you place the trap is also super important: Becausetheir eye sight is shit, they tend to stay along the walls/edges of things.\n\nBetween those two things (a well baited and well placed trap), you will eradicate any amount of mouse problem you may have.\n\nBait it. Place it. Kill it.",
"Something worked extremely well for me aside from cleaning well; there’s a product made of natural herbs and spices in a bag that’s designed for your car. Keeps mice away for 30+ days. Doesn’t hurt them, and smells kind like Christmas \n\nIt works if you put them in your cabinets and small closed spaces they’ll come in through or hide in \n\n\nI live in an old house and there’s just no getting them to not come in to the house at least the exterior and these babies worked the entire winter",
"With the mouse traps, you may have to work with them until they have more of a hair-trigger response. Then go through every inch of baseboard, including inside cabinets and behind baseboards, and fill the holes with metal screen and sparkle.",
"Mice hate peppermint. I have some peppermint essential oil (a cheap one from Amazon or Whole Foods will be good, and you won’t be touching it so don’t worry about a carrier oil) that I dropped onto some cotton balls and left in a saucer near where the mouse I saw would’ve come in, and I haven’t seen him since. I drop some more on the cotton every couple days. It does smell VERY minty, but I’d rather have my space smell like Trident gum than think of sharing it with a mouse. \n\nI’m not saying this is going to solve a major mouse problem, but it might help deter a mouse or mice from a specific area.",
"I worked in gold mining camps in Yukon when I was a kid. They used the can (cylinder) smeared with peanut butter over a 5 gallon pail. First person in camp in the spring got to empty the pail. Not pretty.",
"Kill one and hang it from a noose with a note stapled to it saying \"YOU'RE NEXT\" so his homies see it, become scared and leave out of fear of being killed.\n\nOr charge them an absurd amount for rent."
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"How to clean a not-so scratched disk? I have an xbox game that only has a little bit of scratches; just enough to say that i need to clean it. What is a way to clean it enough so i can at least install the game onto my xbox?",
"How to clean a not-so scratched disk? I have an xbox game that only has a little bit of scratches; just enough to say that i need to clean it. What is a way to clean it enough so i can at least install the game onto my xbox?"
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"The best way i have found is to take a tissue, wet it slightly with warm water and wipe in slow strokes from the centre of the disk to the outside. Do this to the whole surface of the disk. \n\nIf that doesn't work or for disks that are in worse condition, a small amount of fine car wax applied with a soft cloth and buffed off with a clean cloth will remove harsh scratches without damaging the disk if you are careful. ",
"Flush it in the toilet. the spinning water cleans the disk without the danger of a circular wiping with a napkin accidentally plowing a valley of just-removed grit around the disk."
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"Prevent acne flare ups after shaving. After shaving my skin feels a little waxy and I usually get a few pimples / red spots for the next 1-2 days. Any ideas on how to prevent this? Maybe a different razor or cream? I use a Gillette Fusion and their foaming shave gel. Any suggestions?",
"Prevent acne flare ups after shaving. After shaving my skin feels a little waxy and I usually get a few pimples / red spots for the next 1-2 days. Any ideas on how to prevent this? Maybe a different razor or cream? I use a Gillette Fusion and their foaming shave gel. Any suggestions?",
"Prevent acne flare ups after shaving. After shaving my skin feels a little waxy and I usually get a few pimples / red spots for the next 1-2 days. Any ideas on how to prevent this? Maybe a different razor or cream? I use a Gillette Fusion and their foaming shave gel. Any suggestions?",
"Prevent acne flare ups after shaving. After shaving my skin feels a little waxy and I usually get a few pimples / red spots for the next 1-2 days. Any ideas on how to prevent this? Maybe a different razor or cream? I use a Gillette Fusion and their foaming shave gel. Any suggestions?"
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"Exfoliate before you shave. Use a brush to raise hairs perpendicular to the face while applying shaving cream. Shave with the grain. Rinse. Apply moisturizer. Good luck. ",
"Classic wet shaving. Use a brush and real shaving cream. You don't necessarily have to use a different razor, but I'd recommend at least looking into a safety razor.",
"Not entirely sure if this is accurate, but apparently using an electric shaver helps reduce acne flares (I use one and don't have them occurring). Also, cleaning the blade (with alcohol or something similar) can help.",
"Do you use aftershave? I haven't used a regular razor in years but I always thought the alcohol/burning from aftershave helped kill bacteria that caused acne. (could be totally wrong about that though)"
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"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?",
"getting over fear of the dark as an adult I don't know if this is the right place for this, but I've had a fear of the dark since I was very young that went unresolved. I now live on my own and frequently sleep with the light on in my bedroom. Any tips on how to get out of these habits?"
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"No need. 30 years old, still afraid. \n \nBeing afraid of the dark is genetic. It's a survival trait.\nWhat you need are LPTs for us how to be functionally afraid of the dark.\n\nIt isn't that I'm not scared anymore. I still imagine the worst shit possible when the lights go out. But, as an adult, I put my fear in the backseat and carry on.\n\nBest advice I can give you to help with that is never run. Once you start moving faster, the adrenaline dumps and that coat rack turns into leatherface pretty damn quick.",
"How about getting a dimmer switch and gradually dim the lights until you feel comfortable with a dark room. ",
"It have night lights so I don't run into things, so nbd. I also use the \"wouldn't that be something\" technique for whatever I think is in the dark... Spoiler alert Hitler was not in my middle school closet",
"Take nighttime walks of ever increasing length. Turn off your bedroom light for long enough to walk to the other side of the room and back, turn the light back on. Things like this will retrain your mind. Try wearing a blindfold in the day for a few minutes at a time, in somewhere familiar. Get used to extending your mind out into your surroundings without sight. Remember and remind yourself, that you are the most dangerous creature in most circumstances. There is no monster except irrational fear. Good luck.",
"I'm no 30YO but when I was a child my dad would have me do a task that required me to go outside and sometimes they were at night and he would tell me \"Be careful with the wolf out there\" and it would give him the best laugh ever but, now almost 10 Years later I'm a pussy when it comes to the dark/night time/ outside at night. I know nothing is out there but holy shit I'm soo afraid. \n\nAs for your question I don't have an answer. I've always just dealt with the humiliation and fear....",
"A night light helps a lot :) Or, depending on where you live, try leaving your blinds open so some street lights get in. (I'm on the 7th floor so I'm not to concerned about my blinds lol)",
"The other tips after great, but what I did/do is think logically when I see a shadow that scares me. I'll control my fear for just a second and think, \"what could that be?\" A shadow of a man's head with shoulders turned out to be a shadow of a shave brush. A shadow moving along the wall turned out to be a car passing by. Noises in the kitchen are from the cats. One extra step I took was actually getting up and investigating noises that scared me/couldn't identify. I still get jumpy in the dark, but taking a logical approach helps things be a little less scary. ",
"Swear or sing a song . If you are trying to sleep dont open your eyes and cover yours ears with blanket(worked for me)",
"My fear of the dark did not last into adulthood but at least into my teens. So I assume you're a normal thinking adult. Rationally you know the dark can't hurt you and the fear is all in your mind. Embrace that uneasy feeling when you turn out he lights. Understand that the uneasy feeling can't hurt you. Say it to yourself. \"I know I'm safe and it's all In my head.\" You may not be able to get over this over night but put yourself in that space often and get used to it. You can get used to anything. We think of people like soldiers and fighters being devoid of fear because they act in dangerous situations in ways we can't. The truth is they are afraid but conditioned to the fear. You can do it too.",
"I used to have fears as a child like someone/something is following me when it's dark (like when exiting the cellar). Then I started to tell myself \"well fuck it. If someone/something is there and tries to kill me then it's OK. Then my time has come\" \n\nThat may sound super emo n' shit but it helped me. If you are not living in Australia or some shitty ghetto chances that there is something are super fucking low. Like, non existant low. \nAnd now I don't give a shit anymore. ",
"I can make a suggestion. And I know it will work. But it will sound weird. \n\nWhat you need to do is feel the fear and then let the fear out of your body. You can do this on your own, but it is best done with another person. And it is best done in a place that is actually safe. Like in a house, with all the doors locked and only you and the person you trust absolutely with you. \n\nThe fear comes out of your body by shaking. Ever see someone have a near death experience? They will shake uncontrollably until someone stops them. Your job and your friends job is to let the shaking continue, not to stop it. \n\nSo then you have to let the fear come on. The trick is to find the balance point where you are afraid enough to feel it, but not so afraid that you go numb and stop feeling anything. Perhaps you turn out the lights in every room but the one you are in, or perhaps you sit in a dark room where the others are lit. Or perhaps you sit in a dark room with only a candle. I would suggest that a dim flashlight would be better than a candle because candles can go out. \n\nIf you have someone with you, their job is to hold your hand and listen to you. They can ask questions like \"and what happened next\" but they shouldn't talk about themselves or ask questions that aren't relevant to the matter at hand. You are in charge so you can say \"I don't want to talk about that now\" \n\nThe important thing is talking about the fear and letting the shaking happen. This could be anything from foot tapping to teeth chattering to full body shudders. Let it happen. It is good. \n\nWhen you feel you have done as much as you can, you can do some things to tell your mind that you are no longer back in that place. Ask your friend to ask you simple questions, what did you have to eat today. What are 5 things in your fridge. Look around the room. Notice 5 blue things. Something you are looking forward to. \n\nYou may find that you are very tired after this. When you sleep, pay attention to and try to remember your dreams. They may include clues to where this fear comes from and why you still have it. \n\nDoing this once may not remove the fear. You may have to repeat a number of times depending on how deep and great the fear is. Or you may find at some point of great stress in the future, the fear returns. In which case, repeat as needed. \n\nFeel free to pm me if you have questions. ",
"Dont be a little bitch.\n\nAlso force yourself to sleep in the complete dark whenever you dont have stuff the next day. Forcing yourself and having to confront it is the best way to deal with something that has no way of endangering you.",
"Don't watch scary movies right before bed if you're alone. If you're going to watch any movies, go with something comforting that you've seen a million times. It's really relaxing putting on a dialogue-heavy movie and falling asleep.",
"As a child, you are afraid of the unknown. It can be quite cathartic calming yourself down as opposed to running. "
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"How to stay in touch with old school/college friends and keep the friendship alive after graduating Like how would people go about keeping a relationship with friends that they went through school together with.\n",
"How to stay in touch with old school/college friends and keep the friendship alive after graduating Like how would people go about keeping a relationship with friends that they went through school together with.\n",
"How to stay in touch with old school/college friends and keep the friendship alive after graduating Like how would people go about keeping a relationship with friends that they went through school together with.\n",
"How to stay in touch with old school/college friends and keep the friendship alive after graduating Like how would people go about keeping a relationship with friends that they went through school together with.\n",
"How to stay in touch with old school/college friends and keep the friendship alive after graduating Like how would people go about keeping a relationship with friends that they went through school together with.\n"
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"Probably not the answer you want, but in my view, friendships you need to work to maintain are not friendships worth maintaining. \n\nMy real friends, I can stay 3 years not having a single exchange with them (and I'm not on Facebook either, so 0 news), and when I'll be around we'll go have a drink as if we saw each other the day before. All the \"maintenance\" that's needed is a little thought from time to time, a \"hey is everything alright?\" sent by IM once every few years, and the occasional long Skype conversation that starts organically. My closest friends, not even that.\n\nTL,DR: don't try to forcefully maintain relationships. People change, and when you make efforts, you end up having friends that don't correspond to who you are. Just let things evolve naturally, don't stress it out.",
"It should happen organically, without being forced. You'll find that you keep up and maintain a connection with the ones that matter. \n\nWhat you'll also likely find is that 9/10 of those people are friends for a period of life, not lifetime. The friendships are a result of time, location and context. As those three things change, so will your friendships. They'll be replaced by new people in new times in new places in new contexts. \n\nTL; DR: Shit happens. Let it. ",
"\nThere are a couple of things to consider. \n\n1) You don't have to stay in touch with all of your old friends, and you probably won't. \n - moving away/ finishing high school is an opportunity to meet new people and have new experiences. You should let the past hinder you from giving that a shot. \n \n2) The key is choosing a medium that works for you. Video chats (skype) tend to work the best for me. Make sure the connection isn't just text based, rather voice/video in the majority. \n - the more conversation happening is better, but once a month is practically enough for catching up. \n - it doesn't have to be frequent; skyping once a month, while texting in between is a great way to stay in touch. \n\n3) making sure to ask about your friends' life and take interest in their new friend groups, classes, weekend activity etc. this way you will feel more integrated and less separated. \n\n4) decide how close of a relationship you want with your old friends. Maybe just Facebook is enough? Maybe texting once in a while? \n\nI've have been keeping touch with a friend who lives overseas for more than 2 years. We Skype monthly, and text each other once in a couple days. Making sure to include pictures. \n\nGood luck! And don't forget to enjoy and experience new things. \n\n",
"So assuming you've decided that these are people worth keeping in contact with but they're not folks that you plan on having face-to-face interactions with daily here's what I would do.\n\nKeep a list of everybody somewhere including contact information and maybe even little notes and things that you know they're interested in. Then try to have at least one interaction with them per month or perhaps every two weeks or so. This can be sending a text emailing them or even making a phone call. You will have to decide what's appropriate based on how close you feel to each individual person and what you want the friendship to be like in the future.\n\nSo now to make it even easier what you do is create a habit. If it's just a few perhaps starring them in your contacts could be enough to remind you to get in contact with them. Otherwise I think you need to put something on your calendar on a repeating basis. It It could be daily at a certain time every day or it could be every Tuesday Thursday Friday or weekends at a certain time or whatever. But create a habit of having specific times each week or each day a specific time when you go through your list and contact some of the people on it. When you run across good stuff on the internet maybe you can book mark it or even just send it right away if you know it's the kind of thing that a particular person would find interesting.\n\nPeople are giving advice about whether or not it's worth it to do this or whether these friendships should be maintained. I'm not interested in making that choice for you. I can just say that I do have a couple people in my life that I purposely try to keep in contact with because they matter to me and easily months could go by if I'm not paying attention. And I just don't want that to happen. So as \"cold hearted\" as some people may think it sounds I have systematized it. Different strokes for different folks I guess.",
"So I'm very selective with friends, and I only have a few very close ones. Two of those are friends from school, and one of them is a friend from University - out of all the hundreds of acquaintances I made during those years, only 3 stuck (I'm not 26 for reference).\n\nMy friend from University lives ~200miles away from me, but we see each other two/three times per years for long weekends and we catch up on WhatsApp when we can. We're both busy and have our lives going on, but we care a tonne about each other and when we do get to spend time together it's like we were never apart. If you have a friendship like that, preferably with a chill, low-maintenance person, you'll find it super easy to stay close.\n\nHonestly though, keeping these friendships strong without proximity can be tough - it relies on both of you wanting to maintain the friendship, not just one of you. Texting, WhatsApp, Facebook messenger, DMs - these are all really easy ways of keeping up with each other's lives without having to devote a lot of time or energy, so it's easy to fit that into a busy schedule.\n"
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"Protect a portable dishwasher from hard water while in a rental unit? Hi LPT,\n\nWe’d like to get a new portable dishwasher but the water in our location is SO full of minerals that every month or so I have to take the aerator off our kitchen tap and pick the calcium rocks out of it. \n\nWe had a portable dishwasher previously - it was used when I got it - and at this point it makes the dishes DIRTIER. We stopped using it and just store jars in it. I have even cleaned out the trap and made sure the sprayer arms aren’t clogged. \n\nBut I would like to get a new one. Is there a way I can protect it from hard water buildup? Is there a relatively inexpensive filter I could put on our tap to help?\n\nThanks!",
"Protect a portable dishwasher from hard water while in a rental unit? Hi LPT,\n\nWe’d like to get a new portable dishwasher but the water in our location is SO full of minerals that every month or so I have to take the aerator off our kitchen tap and pick the calcium rocks out of it. \n\nWe had a portable dishwasher previously - it was used when I got it - and at this point it makes the dishes DIRTIER. We stopped using it and just store jars in it. I have even cleaned out the trap and made sure the sprayer arms aren’t clogged. \n\nBut I would like to get a new one. Is there a way I can protect it from hard water buildup? Is there a relatively inexpensive filter I could put on our tap to help?\n\nThanks!",
"Protect a portable dishwasher from hard water while in a rental unit? Hi LPT,\n\nWe’d like to get a new portable dishwasher but the water in our location is SO full of minerals that every month or so I have to take the aerator off our kitchen tap and pick the calcium rocks out of it. \n\nWe had a portable dishwasher previously - it was used when I got it - and at this point it makes the dishes DIRTIER. We stopped using it and just store jars in it. I have even cleaned out the trap and made sure the sprayer arms aren’t clogged. \n\nBut I would like to get a new one. Is there a way I can protect it from hard water buildup? Is there a relatively inexpensive filter I could put on our tap to help?\n\nThanks!",
"Protect a portable dishwasher from hard water while in a rental unit? Hi LPT,\n\nWe’d like to get a new portable dishwasher but the water in our location is SO full of minerals that every month or so I have to take the aerator off our kitchen tap and pick the calcium rocks out of it. \n\nWe had a portable dishwasher previously - it was used when I got it - and at this point it makes the dishes DIRTIER. We stopped using it and just store jars in it. I have even cleaned out the trap and made sure the sprayer arms aren’t clogged. \n\nBut I would like to get a new one. Is there a way I can protect it from hard water buildup? Is there a relatively inexpensive filter I could put on our tap to help?\n\nThanks!"
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"Have you tried running it through a cleaning cycle with white vinegar? Vinegar can break up a lot of the mineral deposits.",
"Try running a load with a bunch of citric acid. This is what I use, with great success, to deal with hard water in my kettle, shower heads, toilet, etc. Cheap, environmentally friendly, and requires no scrubbing/picking.",
"You need a water softener (filled with salt) to prevent hard water, I’m not sure if there is a apartment of prion that would not take up a bunch of room and be expensive. I would ask a plumber. Not sure if there is a sub for that on Reddit.",
"Did u try using the expensive detergent in old dishwasher and using pots n pans cycle and loading it with non rinsed dishes?"
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"How to clean my washing machine? Because, damn, it's got a funky smell.\n\nI have googled \"how to\", but there are some concerns/debates about which chemical(s) to use and those to avoid combining.\n\nThanks in advance.",
"How to clean my washing machine? Because, damn, it's got a funky smell.\n\nI have googled \"how to\", but there are some concerns/debates about which chemical(s) to use and those to avoid combining.\n\nThanks in advance.",
"How to clean my washing machine? Because, damn, it's got a funky smell.\n\nI have googled \"how to\", but there are some concerns/debates about which chemical(s) to use and those to avoid combining.\n\nThanks in advance.",
"How to clean my washing machine? Because, damn, it's got a funky smell.\n\nI have googled \"how to\", but there are some concerns/debates about which chemical(s) to use and those to avoid combining.\n\nThanks in advance.",
"How to clean my washing machine? Because, damn, it's got a funky smell.\n\nI have googled \"how to\", but there are some concerns/debates about which chemical(s) to use and those to avoid combining.\n\nThanks in advance."
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"A washing machine repair guy told me to run a regular cycle, without clothes, with hot water and a quart of vinegar every few months. ",
"There's many sorts of things you can do. Some places even sell stuff just designed for cleaning washing machines. The best thing you could do though is just leave the top open all the time when not in use. Allows the machine to dry out and prohibits mold growth.",
"I cleaned mine a while back. 1:hot empty cycle with vinegar. 2:empty cycle with bleach. 3:hot empty cycle with vinegar. Also, i was every load with a couple tablespoons of vinegar in each, it helps clean the clothes and washer continually",
"Most likely you have a front loading washer. Those kinds of washing machines have issues with stinky mold and mildew growth. Now while running an empty cycle with vinegar and hot water can help, you'll need to use an assload of vinegar and the water will need to be a hotter temperature than likely what your water heater is set to. But vinegar and hot water is cheap, so go ahead and try that.\n\nYou'll also want to get a bottle of mildew remover and clean the inside of the door and all around the gasket. Spray liberally and really go to town in all the nooks and crannies. You will want to have the room well ventilated and wear latex gloves if you use this stuff. But damn is it effective. Be sure to rinse all the mildew cleaner off at the end.",
"In addition to running cycles with vinegar and hot water, adding a bit of borax can help also. When you do laundry normally, putting a tablespoon or two of baking soda in the water first will help alleviate future smells. "
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"How to contribute in group discussions I never speak in group discussions and feel horrible about it afterwards. I honestly don't have much to say but I want to contribute. Any help is greatly appreciated!",
"How to contribute in group discussions I never speak in group discussions and feel horrible about it afterwards. I honestly don't have much to say but I want to contribute. Any help is greatly appreciated!",
"How to contribute in group discussions I never speak in group discussions and feel horrible about it afterwards. I honestly don't have much to say but I want to contribute. Any help is greatly appreciated!"
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"People with anxiety - including myself - typically think about what we would say instead of just saying it. We get freaked out by conversation because it's not something we can prep for...we don't know whose going to say what, when they're going to say it, and how. So my best advice? Work on that feedback loop that makes you freeze up in those scenarios.",
"Don't feel too bad about not contributing, because any little thing can count as a contribute. Like the comment about a chat room, that's definitely a good place to start, and it doesn't have to be big. Start off small, with maybe two or three people, and practice, then from there, you can begin getting into a larger crowd, and getting into discussion irl. It will just take some time. I was the same way, but it also helps to find a common interest, it'll make the flow so much easier.",
"Of course the other tips are way more efficient, but if they wouldn't work, you can start of by going to these random Internet chats and where it doesn't matter if you fuck up, and start chatting with people you don't know. Then you can take this experience to the real world. "
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"If You feel Someone Is A Shitty Person, Whats a good way to confirm/dis confirm those beliefs? Lets say that there is someone you know, or have begun to know. However, as time goes on you start thinking about the negative things about that person. Basically focusing strictly on the negative and trying to make excuses for the positive things they may have done , to show why it wasn't good. An example would be an \"insecure\" BF who thinks his GF is cheating and starts wondering if she even cares about him , or if a guy has a \"friend\" who he feels doesn't really care about him.\n\nFrom a pure logical perspective, what is a good way to look through the situation and truly see if you are wrong, being paranoid, or if you are right? Essentially what's a good way to access a situation, without strictly going by your feelings?\n\n\n**TLDR** How do you fight \"negative\" confirmation bias?",
"If You feel Someone Is A Shitty Person, Whats a good way to confirm/dis confirm those beliefs? Lets say that there is someone you know, or have begun to know. However, as time goes on you start thinking about the negative things about that person. Basically focusing strictly on the negative and trying to make excuses for the positive things they may have done , to show why it wasn't good. An example would be an \"insecure\" BF who thinks his GF is cheating and starts wondering if she even cares about him , or if a guy has a \"friend\" who he feels doesn't really care about him.\n\nFrom a pure logical perspective, what is a good way to look through the situation and truly see if you are wrong, being paranoid, or if you are right? Essentially what's a good way to access a situation, without strictly going by your feelings?\n\n\n**TLDR** How do you fight \"negative\" confirmation bias?",
"If You feel Someone Is A Shitty Person, Whats a good way to confirm/dis confirm those beliefs? Lets say that there is someone you know, or have begun to know. However, as time goes on you start thinking about the negative things about that person. Basically focusing strictly on the negative and trying to make excuses for the positive things they may have done , to show why it wasn't good. An example would be an \"insecure\" BF who thinks his GF is cheating and starts wondering if she even cares about him , or if a guy has a \"friend\" who he feels doesn't really care about him.\n\nFrom a pure logical perspective, what is a good way to look through the situation and truly see if you are wrong, being paranoid, or if you are right? Essentially what's a good way to access a situation, without strictly going by your feelings?\n\n\n**TLDR** How do you fight \"negative\" confirmation bias?",
"If You feel Someone Is A Shitty Person, Whats a good way to confirm/dis confirm those beliefs? Lets say that there is someone you know, or have begun to know. However, as time goes on you start thinking about the negative things about that person. Basically focusing strictly on the negative and trying to make excuses for the positive things they may have done , to show why it wasn't good. An example would be an \"insecure\" BF who thinks his GF is cheating and starts wondering if she even cares about him , or if a guy has a \"friend\" who he feels doesn't really care about him.\n\nFrom a pure logical perspective, what is a good way to look through the situation and truly see if you are wrong, being paranoid, or if you are right? Essentially what's a good way to access a situation, without strictly going by your feelings?\n\n\n**TLDR** How do you fight \"negative\" confirmation bias?"
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"I Don't think we can give you an easy answer. \n\nIf you feel like you may be being paranoid maybe talk to some therapists. Or run the situations pass some friends whose opinions you trust. \n\nThe issue is there are just a few things 90% of the population will agree are really bad. The vast majority of things are degree and context based. \n\nPlus people have individual thresholds , it's ok if things are very important to you (in general if no one every mets your standards thing about therapy) and not very important to EVERYONE. Different people have different levels of acceptable for closeness , privacy , lending money , socializing etc. \n\n Not all sane, normal and well adjusted people are compatible with each other. There doesn't have to be anything wrong with you or them if you are not compatible with everyone. \n\nWhen you're talking about relationships , be it romantic or friendships... sometimes what you feel is all that matters. ",
"You would have to test them and score how they act without them knowing.\n\nBut creating a test that has a possible outcome of deeming someone shitty, could make YOU a shitty person because maybe they wouldnt have done something shitty if you didnt create the opporotunity.",
"Try to pinpoint exact actions or some specific examples of what made you feel that way about the person. If you can't come up with something, said those beliefs probably aren't founded (not yet at least). If you can come up with something, then proceed to reflect on said example and determine what level of shittiness this embodies in the person.",
"Take them to a restaurant with poor service or long wait times.\n\nYou can tell a lot about a person from how they treat their waiter."
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"How to blow a new job out of the water and impress your boss I was let go from my last job on the very last day of probation because I wasn't a good \"fit\", even though I worked my ass off day in and day out for said company. My boss even recommended me to some people.\n\nA potential job offer is on the table, and I don't want that to happen again.\n\nI'd love to learn some life pro tips on how to show your team and your boss that you really want the job while on probation, and ultimately blow it out of the water!",
"How to blow a new job out of the water and impress your boss I was let go from my last job on the very last day of probation because I wasn't a good \"fit\", even though I worked my ass off day in and day out for said company. My boss even recommended me to some people.\n\nA potential job offer is on the table, and I don't want that to happen again.\n\nI'd love to learn some life pro tips on how to show your team and your boss that you really want the job while on probation, and ultimately blow it out of the water!",
"How to blow a new job out of the water and impress your boss I was let go from my last job on the very last day of probation because I wasn't a good \"fit\", even though I worked my ass off day in and day out for said company. My boss even recommended me to some people.\n\nA potential job offer is on the table, and I don't want that to happen again.\n\nI'd love to learn some life pro tips on how to show your team and your boss that you really want the job while on probation, and ultimately blow it out of the water!"
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"Study the job, learn things about it. I studied tons on suits before my interview at Mens Wearhouse. ",
"Come in at your normal time and work late as much as you can when you first start. Others will be impressed but even after you resort back to normal ending hours you get the rep for working long hours and the juice that comes with it. Read years ago in a Ben Franklin biography and it works in real life.",
"Ask a lot of questions. It shows that you're interested and doing your best to learn the job. Dress better than your colleagues, but not better than your boss. When you're introduced to new people, stand up and shake their hand, look them in the eye, and say their name so that you remember it. It sounds like basic stuff, but it's amazing how many people geta bad reputation for ignoring the basics. "
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"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year.",
"How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. PLEASE REDDIT! \nSince I didn't give 3 months notice for termination of the lease it has auto renewed and I'm stuck paying until may 2016. I hate my living situation, I've had terrible service in the two years i live with. Every time I go to the landlord office I get to talk to a new employee who is a whole new type of unhelpful. They wont take my notice of termination. I've been lied to on multiple occasions. I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\nDesperate/going to go insane if I have to live here next year."
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"Landlord here. (I know reddit hates me) what state are you in? You need to find the exact wording of your lease. \n\nGenerally speaking I don't want people to live in my properties that don't want to live there. I find If everyone is happy, my properties are taken care of better. Try and get in contact with someone above the front office person. Explain the situation and talk it out. Like everyone said record everything (legally).\n\n If there is nothing in the lease, and they won't help you, a letter from an attorney are usually cheap, and will get the job done.\n\nUsually when a lease expires it goes month to month, or they make you sign a new one.\n\nI would be happy to help you out if I can, I have an attorney on retainer, and know a lot of people in the real estate business. I freaking hate bad land lords giving us a bad name. feel free to PM me.",
">I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice.\n\nIf this is true then you are not bound by the 3 month limit they imposed. Tell them that you are terminating now and that if they fight it you will go to court. Bring all of the evidence that you have, start recording any and all interactions that you have with them. Go out of your way to request access to your contract and record that conversation (note that in some states you are required to get their consent before recording a conversation, look up the laws for where you live). \n\nWhen you do get a copy of the contract, go through and find everyclause that they are violating (such as not keeping up with the property etc...) so you can point them out to a lawyer/the judge. ",
"Most states have landlord and tenent laws available online. They spell out what remedies are avalable to you. Every state is different as are some cities within the state. ",
"Time to become the tenant they want to leave. Start with every government agency that deals with landlords and work from there. ",
"Head over to /r/legaladvice/ -- there's people there who can point you in the actual right direction. Good luck.",
"Please, OP, do not listen to this shit. No comment I have read has any idea about the law. Go find an attorney that does free 1 hour consultations and start there. It seems no one knows about property law, arguably our oldest and most archaic of legal areas. ",
"Landlord here. Just leave... you don't have to but you can give 30 days notice and leave. It will cost them a lot of money to go after you and they will only be able to get costs related to you leaving and filling the space. They cannot go after you for the rest of the years rent. \n\nThis is one of my biggest fears as a landlord. If the tenant just leaves it sucks for me. So I work hard to be responsive and keep the units in great condition.\n\nTLDR: Just Leave.",
"Go to your landlord tenancy board locally (usually they're in the same kinds of buildings where you get your drivers licenses. Government, possibly downtown. Google it) \n\nAnd ask them for assistance. \n\nI don't know the laws where you live, and reddit isn't qualified to give legal advice. \n\nHowever, if you go to the board, you may be able to file a claim against the landlord if you have proof that the landlord's negligence has caused any damage, loss of property, etc ",
">I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice.\n\nThen unless your state law stipulates this, you're off the hook. And even if this is the case, you cannot be forced into a new contract, you can put in your 3 months now and live month to month lease free.\n\nOne thing above all:\n\n**DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING NEW NO MATTER WHAT THEY TELL YOU**",
"Not a lawyer, but I have never heard of \"auto-renewal\"; I think they lied to you about that too if it's not specifically in your original lease (and if it is, it may not be legal). Even if you paid for the month following the end of the lease, that doesn't magically start a new lease. If you didn't sign a lease with a specific time frame starting in the past and ending in the future, you or the landlord should be able to remove yourself from the property at any time. Check your local laws.\n\n**",
"Threaten to contact the media. I was in a similar situation and a day after I told them I'd be going to the media with my story they had me come turn my key in and sign a lease termination. Then I went to the media anyways because fuck shitty landlords.",
"Take pics of all the problems. Send a certified letter to the landlord with return receipt showing the pics and your intentions to move out. Depending on your local gov't, leases can't autorenew look into that. make the letter businesslike and professional. mention that leases don't auto renew if that is the case with you. mention that you never signed a 3 month notice agreement. Ask your neighbors if any of them are having trouble with the landlord if that is feasible. This is usually all it takes but if needed...\n\nContact a lawyer. Show him a copy of the letter you sent. Tell him everything. They don't charge much to send a nastygram. That will get their attention and if a lawyer is needed for any further action you have one that is already informed of your situation. ",
"What state you're in would be helpful. In my state it's illegal to auto renew the lease even if it's written into the lease agreement. I see you say you never even signed this agreement, so just don't pay more rent, move out, inform them in writing that you are done and gone, and go to court if they want to take you but don't give them a dime.",
"There's a LOT of misinformation here. Call an attorney. Most will sit down with you and explain your rights free of charge in hopes that you will bring them the million dollar case down the road. At least, that's how I handle my practice. ",
"Looks like the implied warranty of habitiability has been breached. Gather all your evidence and tell them you will take them to court, unless they fix the problems within the month. A response to your liking should follow. Then again, if you're paying $250 a month, then what else did you expect?",
"Landlord here in Nc, U.S. And honestly based on the rent amount it seems as if this might be a pretty small time operation, aka not a huge corporation owning the property, our leases only run 6 months and go month to month immediately after that. All that is required after the initial 6 months is a 30 day notice. Usually even if someone leaves after one month we just suck it up and move on, if they leave on their own accord (aka not an eviction) we just simply let it go. We don't file for a judgement for past due rent or future rent we were due. Now this may change with having a very large corporation running your rentals as they may have thousands of rentals and probably more than one lawyer on retainer so for them it may not be a big issue to pursue it further, whereas with me it's literally just three of us running 70 properties. Also we never allow someone to get more than 2 months behind on rent (which averages around $500 a month) so we may lose a decent amount of cash on lost rent or future rent most of the people we rent to are most likely not going to be getting any type of cr",
"I don't want to tell you to do anything illegal... BUT if you have military orders they legally have to release you from the lease. I'll let you decide what to do with that information.",
"former licensed rental real estate agent here; Look up your states definition of \"habitability\", it varies from state to state, but if your place doesn't meet the requirements of habitability you are within your rights to withhold rent, and potentially break your lease, legally. Most states have government offices set up to assist and protect renters, so that would by first step if I were in your situation.",
"Your lease protects you as much as it protects your landlord. What does your lease say? None of that other stuff you mentioned is relevant. Your lease is the controlling document here. If the lease says 3 months notice, you need a 3 month notice. If the lease doesn't say anything, I would give 30 days and leave. I only recommend 30 because its pretty standard (that and 60 days), and you wouldn't leave him with much, if any, recourse. \n\nAlso, registered mail your notice for termination. DO NOT LET THEM *NOT* TAKE IT. Do not be bullied by these idiots. ",
"You're not going to get a complete answer here. Landlord-tenant law varies by state, let alone country. You need to look into *your* local laws. \n\nIf in the US, ask in your local sub-reddit (state or major city). Or just call a local lawyer. Most don't charge for the initial consultation. ",
"Well there's always [Constructive Eviction](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Constructive_eviction)..\n\nTL;DR - You evict yourself, by virtue of, say, there being a serious safety issue that has been ignored by your land pimp... \n\n(Note: I'm not a Lawyer, I just had a friend a long time ago use this to get out of a real dump of a college boarding house that had serious safety issues)",
"Usually leases go to month to month when the lease is up. I take it you signed a lease with an auto-renew for a year of tenancy? That's weird. Go to the Housing Department and see if that is a fair lease. But also go to /r/legaladvice and talk to management to see if you can get out of it. Also in the future don't procrastinate on huge monetary resposibilties.",
"Unless your lease was written in a fucked up way you are now a tenant at will.\n\nGive the required amount of notice (usually 60 days) and move out. Repair and damage and leave the place spotlessly clean.\n\nI recommend you hire a cleaning service once all your shit is moved out.",
"The last time I had to get out of a lease, I simply wrote them a letter outlining the parts of the lease they had broken and that I'm leaving. There was a 3 month penalty for breaking lease, I didn't pay a dime and got my deposit back. ",
"So I had a lease where we paid a pet deposit. It was supposed to go to escrow so that upon moving out, if there was damage due to the pet, they'd take it from that amount. Our regular deposit was waived.\n\nWhen we moved in, they did not put in new carpet. My understanding is that the norm for apartments is to re-carpet every few years, typically between tenants. We lived there for two years so our carpet was at least 3 years old upon moving out. On top of that, we lived on the first floor and had issues where we tracked in a bit at the front door due to excessive ran that occurs in SW Florida. They of course blamed it on the dog upon moving out and wanted us to pay them extra money because of the \"damage\" from our dog. \n\nI forget the amount they were going to charge us, but we felt it was BS being they would probably be putting new carpet in regardless of the tracking in at the front door and they were just trying to extract more money out of us. I asked about my pet deposit paying for it and they claimed it was a pet fee and thus I had to pay them extra. I found the contract and showed them the part about the pet deposit. They weren't happy about writing me the check for the difference from their claimed amount and the amount of the deposit.\n\nPoint being, check your lease. If they are just making shit up, call them out on it. If there is something in there to protect you, use it against them. I've lived in apartments that will prorate your rent for every day something important doesn't work (Fridge, AC/Heater, no working Toilet or Sink...) Others are very explicit in how to get out of the lease and you must follow the rules since you of course signed it. I have found though that being cool about things and discussing the issue calmly tends to work WAAAAY better, even when they are in the wrong and it pisses you off.",
"One thing to keep in mind: there are now companies that act like cr",
"I've actually had to deal with something similar. Document everything. Figure out the dates that you went into the office to cancel the lease... And then contact the actual management company, not your particular office. Explain to them what happened and politely ask them what your options are.\n\n Typically, leases renew for a higher fee month to month instead of another year or more. Check to see what's written in your original lease or if they're just trying to pull the wool over your eyes. \n\nI would also check the laws in your state/country to see what they can legally do in this situation... if they are even allowed to commit you to another year or more without your express consent. ",
"I was in a very similar situation last year. Here's what you need to do if you don't want to spend money on an attorney (which honestly an hour with an attorney to figure out what to do might be worth it).\n\nLook up your state's lanlord-tenant laws. There is likely only a 30-day notice needed from a tenant. Also read your lease front to back to make sure that you understand it completely and know what it says. Remember that if there is anything in the lease that contradicts the law, the law is enforced. (For example, if your lease says you need a 3 month notice, but your state law says 30 days, then the 3 month notice is garbage and you only need a 30-day notice).\n\nSecond, Record all of your interactions with the leasing manager!!!! If you go in to talk to him/her in person, send a follow up email IMMEDIATELY afterwards just confirming what you guys talked about so that you have it in writing.\n\nAlso, landlords LOVE certified mail letters (sarcasm, certified mail will scare them). This is how I was able to finally able to get my landlord to finally listen to me. Send your notice via USPS CERTIFIED MAIL so that the landlord must sign for it, and you receive a signature receipt showing that it was signed for. When landlords see certified mail, they know you mean business and know that you are tracking yourself to protect yourself legally, and they will stop pushing you around and make sure that they abide by the laws.",
"Housing case manager here (from TX, so my advice is based off of just what I know from working in this state): Look at your lease! Most places do require you to give 60 days written notice before your lease ends that you plan to vacate. If you don't, they can renew your lease automatically on a month-to-month basis (they shouldn't tie you down for another full year without a signature), typically at a much higher rate than you were paying before. If this is the case GIVE YOUR NOTICE TO VACATE NOW. Typically, with month-to-month leases, you only have to give 30 days notice. If the office people will not take it, send it into the central management company. Their address might be in your lease.\n\nIf that course of action fails, see if your city has a tenant's rights council. You may be able to find an advocate there to work with you on straightening this out. \n\nBarring that, the other people who have suggested you lawyer up are right. Normally a nice strongly worded letter will rattle them enough to let off.",
"Check with legal aid in your community or in a nearby larger town. I'd think it only auto renews for a month at a time. \n\nPerhaps you could date the notice of termination of the lease three months before the termination, especially if this notice is just confirming a prior verbal notice, and then include the many reasons that you are not renewing the lease -- all the reasons that the place is UNFIT FOR HUMAN HABITATION, as in because of....(name everything in the most graphic way), specifically including any items such as the ceiling leak, especially if you reported it and the landlord ignored it, then send it on now to the landlord now. If that's the case, include in your letter a reminder that you reported the problems verbally and were ignored. \n\nIf water is leaking in then heat is leaking out.\n\n DOCUMENT the problems such as the leak with pictures to the extent possible. \n\nI'd think you'd be likely to be sued if the landlord knows you have proof of the problems.",
"Check the contract, and check your states tenant rights. Most states have 30 day notice by law. So the 90 day might make the lease agreement invalid. They can't renew your lease without sending you a notice of renewal which you have to sign. (Usually they send that out 30 days before you lease expires).\n\nAs the landlord previously said: any decent LL wants their tenants to be happy, talk to someone higher up. No ones the negativity around them. \n\nGood luck OP.",
"Become \"That guy\" to your landlord. Get his number on speed dial. Call him daily with a new complaint. The water takes too long to heat up. The water is too hot. The water smells funny. The neighbors are too loud. The neighbor's car is too loud. The neighbor's phone is too loud. Call the police to report suspicious persons on property. Call him and ask if bloodstains come out of the deposit. Regardless of his answer, hang up immediately. Get creative with the memo line of your rent check. \"Best crack ever!\" \"Thanks for the blowjob!\" A landlord wants easy money. It is very easy to make it worth the LL's time to let you out of the lease if you are not easy money. Don't be a good renter. Don't be easy money. Be the guy that makes him add clauses to future lease agreements. Be more trouble than all other renters combined. \n",
"> I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice. \n\nIf it's not in writing, your tenancy is generally presumed to be month to month, which means you can terminate by giving a minth's notice without incurring any additional damages.\n",
"you could fall into constructive eviction if the place is deemed uninhabitable. depending on jurisdiction, i think this can include suing for damages and you can leave or you could just stop paying rent until he fixes the problem. it's been a while since i took a property law class. i'm not a lawyer. check with a lawyer. \n\nor just go on craigslist and find someone who's interested in taking over your lease. then tell your landlord and there's no reason he wouldn't swap. it might cost you like $100 for early dismissal but if you have someone else taking over they normally won't care. ",
"what state are you in? in my state it is not possible to \"auto renew\" a lease, you need to sign off on it every 365 days. Lawyer up!",
"um... leave? if your contract doesnt say a 3 month notice is required, its not required. get the hell out of there, done.",
"i managed to pull this off myself\n\ni kept calling police due to the noise. when i was threatened by the noisemaker, i called police again. five calls to police later and their advice was to move out and worry about legal later. the judge will have to hear what happened (the police explained that the landlord wlil have to pay 90 dollars per tenant to go to court as well as spend time. a slumlord lazy to fix things will not want to pay for this or keep going to court and / or hire a lawyer). i told my landlord i was leaving and i needed him to come see the place to talk about what he felt was damaged so that i could repair it and get my deposit back before leaving. with his attitude, i knew that even though the place was clean w/o a scratch, he'd fight to give it back.\n\nhe ignored me repeatedly. so i stopped the check on the previous rent (it was the 10th of the month when the threat happened and he hadn't cashed it yet) and stayed until the end of the month. with the last month free, i didn't care if he kept the deposit.\n\nhe never took me to court. called my work, threatened me, did everything he could. but when it came time to spend money to sue and spend time to go to court, he cut his losses.\n\nuse these assholes' laziness against them. and record EVERYTHING. if they ever do take you to court, be in a position where every possible neutral party would be on your side after hearing all the facts.\n\nin your case, as opposed to police, call the local regulatory body for apartments and / or health, and keep on filing reports. if the judge sees all of your trouble, he will award you the win and make the lawyer pay legal fees.\n\ngood luck.",
"You say you signed a lease and it has an auto renewal and then you say that you didn't sign a contract for 3 months. These two statements contradict each other so I'm asking 'which is it'. Firstly, READ your lease. What does it say? If it says the lease automatically renews at the end of the term for another year, and you signed it, you're stuck there for another year. You have an obligation to read and understand what you sign. And at the end of the term, if you'd like to find other accomodation, it's YOUR responsibility to advise the landlord, in writing, that you will not be staying. You do that by registered mail. That doesn't mean that you should have to put up with an apartment that is not maintained to a reasonable standard. You say you've HAD LEAKS...were these repaired? If so, then that's no longer an issue. Is it still leaking? If so, that IS an issue. There is only one way a drain gets plugged - someone put something down it to plug it. If you are hairy or have long hair, go to a dollar store and invest a buck in a screen to cover the drain. Don't put stuff down the drains that doesn't go down drains! Scrub the floor. Clean things don't smell. Poor appliances. You mean you signed a lease after seeing the appliances, and are now complaining? It sounds to me like you messed up by not reading what you signed and are looking for every reason to blame someone else.",
"Would help if you mentioned what state you live in and hopefully I'm not making an ass out of myself by assuming that you live somewhere in the US. I mention this, the former, because each state has different (to some degree) laws that govern the relationship between the lessor and the lessee.",
"When I wanted to get out of a lease once, I got the owner to agree if I could find a new/replacement tenant. I cleaned everything top-bottom & put an ad on craigslist - think I had 3 people fill out applications and 2 qualified. I was outta there!",
"What lease auto renews? All leases expired after a year and unless the landlord wanted to raise rent, you just kept on going without a lease (but the terms are still applied). Technically I think what you can do is give 3 months notice now then just move out after that. \n\nDoes the lease state it auto renews? I've just never heard of autorenewing for an entire year without signing a new lease",
"What does your lease specifically say? That will give you an idea of how to get out if the lease.\n\nHave you reported all the issues with the rental unit? May I suggest you report them in writing so that there is a record. Depending on your states laws, the legal system may require the landlord take action. \n\nIf you're really unhappy and or you wanted to discuss the lease, have you tried getting someone from management to call you? ",
"This will likely get buried, but it sounds like the landlord supposed to give you three months notice of your new rent. did they deliver that notice? How so? Most contractors hand to be hand delivery or certified return receipt mail. I once missed my 90 day notice and the landlord attempted to keep me on for another year. Because they put my renewal notice on the door but not give it to me personally, I was able to successfully argue that this was not proper notice in accordance with the terms of the contract therefore I could terminate the contract as a tenant at will.",
"Then why are yo here is so many problem for you. Look for a new landlord and pursue the case in the court to get back your money. He is bound to do all which is mentioned in lease agreement. He should be charged too.",
"The problem with trying to give you advice is that the laws vary from place to place. I was able to get out of a lease by being as unpleasant to the landlord as he was to me -- where my room mate and I were, in short, we could refuse to pay rent until he made the repairs that would return the house to the condition it was in when we signed the lease. Our problems started after the a/c went out the day we moved in, during the hottest part of the summer, and after stalling for a week he tried to replace it with an inferior unit. It just went downhill from there. \nWithin a few months these games we had learned our rights with regard to local statues, and when he tried to stick us with a rent increase about a week before it was due, we were able to basically force him in to letting us out with legal threats. That was pretty easy, because it turned out he was also stealing utilities from us. \nWhere there's a will there is probably a way without doing anything really shitty, but you have to figure out what the local laws are and be ready to pounce on whatever opening the landlord gives you. ",
"The advise you need is going to be highly dependent on your local city and state laws. Generally, you are bound by the terms of your lease, and if no lease is in place you are bound by the laws in your area. \n\n",
"Talk to a lawyer. I'm sure you can get free consultations with people who may be able to help you. It may be the case that even if you can't get out of your lease, you can improve your living situation and possibly obtain compensation based on the shoddy condition of the apartment. The relief available to you depends on where you live, so speak with a nearby attorney.\n\n\nCall your municipal building inspection department. Reporting violations will likely prompt an inspector to search your apartment for housing code violations. Your landlord will be notified of any violations, along with a timeframe in which the landlord must make your apartment compliant with local housing regulations.\n\n\nThere are probably organizations where you live that offer various kinds of assistance to tenants. Most of the work I've done with such organizations has involved finding and maintaining housing, so I can't say how helpful they will be to you. At the very least, they should be able to tell you what rights you have and how you can enforce them. \n\nGood luck.",
"Take out several full page ads describing the state of your apartment and warning people to stay away from your landlord.",
"Start submitting written complaints about the problems you mentioned. Keep copies of all your paperwork. Once you have a bunch of unresolved complaints you can file a Tenant Remedy Action, which basically compels a landlord to fix everything or your lease will end. Plus you'll be a huge pain in the ass.\n\nAlso, you could simply vacate the property and terminate your own lease early. He may try to recoup some rent from you but typically landlords have a duty to mitigate damages by trying to relet your place as soon as possible. There would be a limit to how much he could recover and he'd have the burden of proving everything. He may opt to let it go if you give him enough notice. I'd probably go this route over not paying rent because having an eviction on your record is bad news.\n\nSource: I am an attorney that frequently works in housing court (primarily on the landlord side)",
"Sounds like you live in my town. If you're a student, go to the legal aid and they'll help you get it sorted out. ",
"Something like this happened to me when I was in college in Connecticut. In California where I live now, there are some rules that basically allow a tenant out of his lease if they find a new tenant. ",
"Similar experiences. Easy in...Hard to get out. Hotel California.\n\nWe had to give 2 months (even with lease) written. SHEESH.\n\nWhere are yo? that makes ALL the difference (state). check your state statutes online. There IS such a thing as landlords overstepping their legal bounds because they mostly get away with it.",
"Send them a certified letter that states you are leaving at certain time. If you didn't sign a new contract your contract is over when the lease date is up. Thats good for every state. You dont even have to get a lawyer just threaten to get one usually that freaks most of them out. Also keep records of everything! ReRead your lease look up your housing authorities website it usually has helpful info. ",
"Real Estate Brokerage / Property Mgmt Biz owner here - everything Jcooper1321 said is great. If that doesn't work I'd be happy to take a look at your lease and ask you a few more questions. A surprising amount of landlords leave themselves exposed to liability, which a tenant can leverage to make the owner a little more motivated. Nothing turns a landlords head like the legitimate threat of a lawsuit. Also, it all depends on your area...let us know what state you're in, I'm sure someone local will jump in to help too.\n",
"Read, read, read your contract. If you've got as many problems as you say, and fixing them has not been done properly, your landlord may already be in breach of the contract.",
"Put your rent in an Escrow account with a condition of X needs to be fixed for the landlord to get the money. Won't help you get out of lease, but shit will be fixed if the guy wants to get paid.",
"Previous Realtor, extensive customer service experience commenter here. Here's some info that may be helpful:\n\nFrom what you have described, it seems like the customer service and possibly the Landlord/management company does not really care about providing decent service for their patrons. In this case you're going to have to be proactive, keep moving up the management until someone can help you. Keep moving up as far as you can--eventually you'll might hit a wall, but that person should be in a better spot to help you.\n\nSecond, always get accountability. It sounds like you're in a big complex, so a big management company. Get names, employee IDs, remember the times, get ticket ID if they have a system for tracking and fixing complaints, and follow up and get on that person. Resist being bounced around, which happens but stay calm and you might even get them post on a conference so they can figure out how to do their job right.\n\nFinally, and this is usually more relevant with smaller companies, but these companies only make money if you keep paying rent. Yes, they can send you to a collections agency, but this is not always cost effective. Impress upon them that it is a win-win situation to end the lease early, even if you have to take the smaller loss of losing out on your deposit to give them a chance to find someone to fill you. But that is still potentially negotiable--remember, EVERYTHING is negotiable. It is just if they want to. \n\nOh, and be polite, but be firm. You can let some frustration show but don't let it overwhelm you. This is a long post but it is worth it for the readitors out there who might be up against bad management. ",
"Pick up a book published by NOLO (a company formed specifically to help lay people understand the law) titled \"Every Tenant's Legal Guide\". I used it to get myself out of a one year lease in the first two months of the lease. It includes forms with specific language to use and will guide you through terminating a contract despite the contract's language. ",
"Pack up your shit and move. Leave no forwarding info, give up whatever deposit you put down. You're not a prisoner. You are free. Just leave. Let them come find you, I doubt they will because they know their tactics are not reasonable and probably not legal. Get out.",
"My girlfriend had similar issues with her landlord giving her the runaround and not fixing shit. In terms of that it certain cases you can withhold rent from the landlord due to health hazards, safety hazards, etc. The first step would be to call a building inspector, have them do an inspection and note what they deem a serious problem. Then you can write up a legal document saying if these issues aren't fixed by this date, I'm not legally required to pay rent. \n\nThis may also help make a case for leaving if the place would have been deemed an issue for many months beforehand. Also I've never heard of autorenewal and it sounds crazy illegal. Where I live it's definitely expected of you to explicitly tell the landlord you intend to renew within three months of moving in. (So they have ample time to find new tenants)",
"Make sure your repair requests are in writing. You can email them, but I would send a certified letter too. Check with your state, you should have the right to leave and nullify the lease. You need to talk to someone at the real estate commission about your rights. They can vary from state to state. I'm a landlord and I know where I am, you are legally obligated to respond to written requests for repairs that are needed to comply with a safe and livable property. If you complain to the state folks, I bet you'll see some action. Otherwise, the lease is voidable and they are liable for reimbursement of rent paid and costs to move.",
"Maintenance coordinator for a property management company here - \n\nI didn't read all of the comments, so I may be saying things that have already been said. \n\nThe strongest, most important 4-letter word for a tenant is M-O-L-D. If you have a roof leak that hasn't been addressed, you likely have mold. Start complaining about feeling sick, strange smells indoors, constant dampness... If they don't address the issues, you have an open and closed case (plus a lot of money) to get out of your lease. \n\nMake complaints about repairs in your place being \"issues of habitability\". \n\nRead your lease. Line. By. Line. I've never heard of a lease requiring 90 days to give notice. Nor have I ever heard of a lease auto-renewing for another 12 months at termination; standard practice is for the lease to go month to month. \n\nComplain to the office manager. Find out who owns the management company and include them on emails. Create a huge, annoying paper trail of complaints. Don't be afraid to be \"that tenant\". If you pay your rent on time, don't have illegal pets or tenants, they can't give you a negative verification of residency with the next place you try to rent with. ",
"Lawyer here - first, please don't interpret this as legal advice\n\nSecond - please post the language of his \"auto renewal\" lease language, and tell us where you are.\n\nAll of this bullshit you're reading here is exactly that -- bullshit. No one can give you any workable advice until we know where you are and what the terms of your lease are.",
"If it isnt stated in the lease of a 3 month notice of termination than you threaten legal action and tell them you will notify the city of this indiscretion. One, he will not want legal action if he is for sure in the wrong and notifying the city of all the terrible problems with the place will cause a huge headache of paperwork as most cities have very strict laws regarding upkeep by landlords. If this doesn't scare him into getting you out of the lease than the next step would be to do those things and find out as much as you can on how he is breaking the law.",
"I've had two previous living situations where the landlords were lousy and the tenants were insane around me. Both times I packed up my stuff and moved the hell out and never heard from them again.\n\nWhat I've generally ascertained from those situations is that slumlords are lazy pieces of shit, and therefore won't bother to chase you down legally. They'll just be more interested in moving someone else in. ",
"I've been in a similar situation where my landlord was trying to milk every last dime out of me when I mentioned moving. I dunno where you are but doesn't sound legal to be roped in to a renewal like that - certainly isn't here. \n\nYou need to find out what is legal, and do your best to stick to the letter of the law. However, usually if worst comes to worst you do have the power to just bail with no forwarding address. have done this and it worked just fine for me. ",
"I've been a property manager for a long time. I'm out of the residential game now but still have a few skills. Send me your lease (w/o personal info is fine) and let me know your location and I can give you some steps to take and or can draft a letter for you. ",
"I was in a similar situation. I found myself very quickly needing to relocate to help deal with a family issue. I had signed a 1-year lease and hadn't canceled in the two month period prior to the automatic re-leasing.\n\nI compiled a list of prospective replacement tenants from people whose opinions I trusted including co-workers, religious and social connections, family members, etc.\n\nIn the end, I went into the office and politely explained the situation. I provided them with the list of tenants, those tenants' references, and above all else did not attack the landlord verbally even though the living situation had deteriorated.\n\nI had to agree to cover any time that the apartment was vacant between that time and when the next tenant could be screened by their office but it worked out in that the new tenant was moving in as soon as I moved out so I paid nothing out of pocket, and also received my deposit back because I \"made the transition between tenants smooth.\"",
"I use to live in this complex run by some cheap ass slum lord. We had a leak for several days (in Florida during rain season) and they refused to fix it. They kept telling me some BS about how they would need to get three quotes from different companies before they could do anything. Of course while I was having this fight the leak would get worse and worse. \n \nI checked Florida's tenant's rights and found something along the lines that if a landlord refuses to fix something or takes than a certain amount of time then they can break the leases and move out. I wrote a letter to them quoting the statute and my intention on leaving and about an hour later there was a guy fixing my roof. \n\n\n\n**TL;DR Check your states tenant's rights then write a letter.** ",
"I think you forgot that you handed them your notice in writing and made a carbon copy for yourself. Since they have lots of new employees, they lost it in all the turnover.",
"I had a landlord I hated - we couldn't even talk because he was an asshole. \n\nFortunately his sister lived right behind me. She was able to mitigate the process. \n\nI told them I'd give them a rents month and they can keep my security deposit. I knew the place would rent quickly so by this logic, he was basically getting a free months rent and a security deposit for free.\n\nIt sucked to have to lose that money but moving out of that place was what needed to be done for me to be happy.",
"I am no legal expert but anytime I got into bout with a large/small corporation including and specially landlords, I threaten to sue and it worked like a charm. Just tell them you'll take them to small claims court. They'd hate it and will cut you a good deal.",
"How to get out of the lease: stop paying. Seriously, that's all you have to do. Read your contract, but auto-renewal is usually illegal no matter what they put on paper. If you want your security deposit back, tell them you are leaving and demand it. If not, just leave. Stay an extra month without paying rent, see if they notice, if you really want. This clearly isn't the kind of place that has the wherewithal to hit your cr",
"For Canadians: I don't know where the poster of this is, but you must have some sort of Rental Board you can go to. Check with that organization first. Here in Canada, I know that you can have your rent paid directly to the Rental Board who withholds it from the landlord until needed repairs are done. You might be able to use this to get out of your lease. Like break my lease or I'm going to the rental board, but bring proof of this. \n\nHowever, you have to send your landlord written complaints. Emails will probably be enough, but they have to be really clear. Just complaining verbally isn't proof that you have formally complained about any issue. \n\nJust talk to whatever rental rights organization you have there and they can tell you your options. \n\nGood luck! ",
"Find mold. It's really not that hard to find and most leases have a mold clause that complies with states laws for either immediate irradiation of the mold or tenner without any penalty",
"Find a health/ building code violation. Notify the landlord and public building inspector. Violations are illegal and if go unfixed for 30 days then you have grounds for possibly braking a lease. Iv personally done this.",
"Even if it's not as other replies have said you can't get out because the renewal is not enforceable you can still get out of a contract. If you notify your landlord that you want to break the lease they legally have to try to find a new tenant and when they do let you out of the lease if that new tenant signs a lease. They can use your deposit for advertising and you have to pay rent until they find a new tenant. At least that is how it is in my state you may want to check your states renters rights or whatever they call it. ",
"Easy allege warranty of habitability violations for the failure to provide proper security and weather stripping (Windows). There may be more to help you but you need to look up your state's warranty of habitability code. Also it wont hurt to call your local housing authority about the smells and leaky ceiling, mold can be a dangerous thing. Additionally, knowing which state you are in would help in regards to the 3 month cancellation policy. In CA, if you have been in a lease that is one year or longer, and you continue to pay rent and occupy after the end of your lease without a 30-day notice of termination, the landlord can hold you to another one year lease. \n\nCA has a specific Civil Code covering the issue lease termination. Its not 30 days by law but because most rent payments are due monthly it is generally 30 days. The code states that the minimal period for termination of a lease is the same period as the days between rent payments. So if you pay rent every 3 months the period could be 90 days, but it is highly unlikely that a residential unit has that type of rent payment arrangement. ",
"Dude are you my neighbor? because this sounds exactly like every complaint I have with my complex ... good luck hope you get out!",
"Depends on your state, look up the laws. If you are in California, send emails for everything that is busted and then don't pay rent till its fixed. \n\nMake sure and send a notification email for everything that's jacked up regardless of your state. You need to have a solid case built up if you actually want to do anything. Also gather documentation from historical incidents if you can",
"Check the laws in your state. In CA, units must be weatherproof. In your case, it is not. Document that with video and have a date in the video, like a newspaper. get legal advice about how to get out. Scrutinize your lease. ",
"Call your bank and cancel auto pay and then walk away. Do not pick up the phone. Do not respond. Make them come after you. I work on the commercial side but no landlord is taking you to court for something this small. ",
"Biggest thing is to check the time frame/duration of your lease. You could be signed on to a 2 or 3 year lease, with the option to terminate after 1 or 2 years. After the duration of your lease is up, you should be month to month and can terminate at anytime. \n\nGood luck.",
"Auto-renewed lease? There's honestly no such thing. If they don't have a signed document stating that you agree to pay X amount per month for X months from X date to X date, it's not a valid lease. \n\nMy recommendation would be to leave when your lease expires. If they try to force you to pay, tell them to shove it. If they take you to court, counter sue for legal fees and get a lawyer.",
"As a property owner, I would recommend calling the housing bureau and ask for inspections to make sure everything is to code. Nothing brings the fear of God to a landlord more than discovering an inspection is on its way. ",
"As I'm sure many others say, check the exact terms of your lease.\n\nCheck with your tenant's union about what your rights are. Some cities have better laws (for tenants) than others.\n\nCheck the laws regarding the situation. What they're doing may be illegal, but no one tells you.\n",
">PLEASE REDDIT! \n \nThe windows rattle, I've had leaks in my living room ceiling, poor appliances, the floor smells like garbage (women's reactions are very telling), garbage disposal always broken. drains always plugged, laundry machines steal my money, etc.\n\nLandlord here. \n\nLease law/tenant rights vary by state/municipality.\n\nSorry for your trouble. \nI think you made a mistake by not communicating your plans to the property management company. It's much more logistically feasible for a tenant to contact the prop manager who wants to hear about leaks (IMMEDIATELY trust me), and no matter how many courtesy reminders are put out, some people ignore them. \n\nWhen i don't have an opportunity to rerent an apartment, that vacancy becomes a loss to me, but my mortgage and property taxes still come due. \n\nWhen that happens, the story above is ALWAYS some version of the quote above, no matter how freshly renovated or old the apartment is, or whether the tenant is well intentioned but naive or a scam artist.\n\nIf you truly believe you were taken advantage of by your landlord, the best thing to do is DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. See if there are any tenant rights organizations (or alternatively a real estate attorney) in your area and bring them what you have.\n\nIf all else fails, the law (or your landlord) may allow for you to do a lease assignment, where you can get out of your lease if you find a qualified replacement willing to take it over.\n\nI wish you the best, good luck!",
"> I never even signed the contract stating 3 months are required for proper notice.\n\nIf this is true, there is no lease for you to get out of. Send them your notice via certified mail, return receipt, and move out.",
"1. record every conversation, (yes I know there are two party recording laws, record the conversations anyway, transcribe them into a diary, keep the recordings, then if challenged present the recordings to court and force the judge to rule them inadmissible, also helps to play the recording back to someone who blatantly lies and claims 'I didn't say that')\n\n2. find out the actual owner of the property, chances are the owner is not aware of the treatment dished out to employees.\n\n3. contact the 'residential tenancies agency' government body in your area. Also the 'residential tenancies union', both of these organisations should be able to help you with your case.\n\n4. check out your cr",
"\nIn Massachusetts: If you never signed a lease, then you have a \"tenancy at will\", and you can quit the premises with 30 days written notice, but the 30 days are counted from the anniversary date, typically the the day the rent is due for the month. ",
"Wow, you are one of the unlucky 3% who require 90 days notice. Plus, I have never heard of an auto-renew like that. It definitely sounds like they are a slumlord that want to trap people into living there longer.",
"This thread has been linked to from another place on reddit.\n\n\n- [/r/knowyourshit] [LPT Request: How to get out of a lease with an unhelpful landlord. - LifeProTips](http://np.reddit.com/r/knowyourshit/comments/2y1770/lpt_request_how_to_get_out_of_a_lease_with_an/)\n\n\n*^If ^you ^follow ^any ^of ^the ^above ^links, ^respect ^the ^rules ^of ^reddit ^and ^don't ^vote. ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger/wiki/) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose/?to=\\/r\\/TotesMessenger))* [](#bot)",
"Off topic, but if you want to punish landlords, while removing tax burden from the working class and improve your economy and cost competitiveness globally, implement a [Land Value Tax.](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Land_value_tax)",
"Leases do not automatically renew. This is most likely against the law. A new lease must be signed. Even if you've signed a lease with a auto renewal clause. It's most likely written and won't hold up in court. ",
"Based on what you're saying, you aren't going to be able to use them as a reference anyway, so stop paying rent.\n\nThey will soon start the eviction process. Save your \"rent\" for as long as this goes on and you will have a nice lump of money for first last and deposit on your next place.\n\nIn Washington state (where I live) it can take up to a year to evict someone. I'm not saying this is a great idea but as a last resort, it will work."
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"Ways to get out of that \"foggy\" feeling Whether it's depression, malnutrition, or something else, we've all felt the fog. But I've NEVER heard a reliable way to get rid of it and am HEAVILY fogged myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",
"Ways to get out of that \"foggy\" feeling Whether it's depression, malnutrition, or something else, we've all felt the fog. But I've NEVER heard a reliable way to get rid of it and am HEAVILY fogged myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",
"Ways to get out of that \"foggy\" feeling Whether it's depression, malnutrition, or something else, we've all felt the fog. But I've NEVER heard a reliable way to get rid of it and am HEAVILY fogged myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",
"Ways to get out of that \"foggy\" feeling Whether it's depression, malnutrition, or something else, we've all felt the fog. But I've NEVER heard a reliable way to get rid of it and am HEAVILY fogged myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",
"Ways to get out of that \"foggy\" feeling Whether it's depression, malnutrition, or something else, we've all felt the fog. But I've NEVER heard a reliable way to get rid of it and am HEAVILY fogged myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",
"Ways to get out of that \"foggy\" feeling Whether it's depression, malnutrition, or something else, we've all felt the fog. But I've NEVER heard a reliable way to get rid of it and am HEAVILY fogged myself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated."
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"I changed my diet, eating less food made of grains, and more water. It took a couple of days but know I can think clearly and it's been 3 weeks. I still have spells but less frequent and less dense ",
"Try to work out if there's something external which is causing it; maybe lack of sunlight, improper diet, or carbon monoxide leak.",
"I had it for ages (most of my 20s - I'm 50 now). I never figured out what it was, but I suspect it was insulin resistance: I was overweight, and probably headed for diabetes - together with a mystery liver disease (possible Epstein Barr). I'm better now, and what worked for me was:\n\n1. Cut down on the goddam carbs. Carbs are evil. I got fog and crash for about 4 hours after eating sandwiches for lunch. \n2. Cut down on beer (see carbs above). I was drinking probably 6 US drinks a day, and maybe 12 a day at weekends, mainly beer. This was very bad. This was a social pressure thing - I was never an alcoholic. I tried switching to low-alcohol beer, but that still had carbs, so didn't help much. I now drink wine, nothing during the week, and probably 4-6 glasses (i.e. 2/3 to a bottle) on Friday and/or Saturday night. I feel miles better. \n\nBut mainly the carbs. (I did wonder if it was a mercury amalgam thing at one stage and had all my amalgam fillings replaced with white plastic. I started feeling better soon afterwards, but there's a very high probability that was a coincidence, and that is woo).\n\nAlso, if you want to follow the woo, try eating fatty meals alongside orlistat (Alli). In theory, you shit out oil full of fat-soluble toxins like PCBs that may be dissolved in your fat. Again, this is probably woo, but it's an excuse to eat pizza and drink at the same time (I have another completely non-scientific theory that the alcohol in your blood helps the PCBs to dissolve and bloodstream carries them to the intestines where they transfer to the fat which you subsequently shit out). Champagne goes extremely well with pizza, and is low carb (pizza isn't though). ",
"The biggest thing for me has been getting enough sunlight, especially in the mornings. Sometimes that means getting up an extra 15 minutes early to go for a quick walk, sometimes it's just remembering to open the blinds. But yeah - sunlight = gamechanger.",
"Cardio exercise where you actually get your heart rate up into the target zone for at least 20 minutes works for me. The whole \"any exercise is good even walking\" doesn't cut it for the fog/depression - it needs to be intense enough to get that happy feeling. Some days after I do that I feel like I've had a brain transplant.",
"No idea why, but grabbing a big ass energy drink and just driving away from where I'm at helps so much for me. "
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"How do I keep my retainers clean?? Even if I bursh my retainers at night and in the morning, they still smell like crap. Does anyone have a quick fix?",
"How do I keep my retainers clean?? Even if I bursh my retainers at night and in the morning, they still smell like crap. Does anyone have a quick fix?",
"How do I keep my retainers clean?? Even if I bursh my retainers at night and in the morning, they still smell like crap. Does anyone have a quick fix?",
"How do I keep my retainers clean?? Even if I bursh my retainers at night and in the morning, they still smell like crap. Does anyone have a quick fix?"
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"Put Listerine in your retainer case or a small cup/bowl and allow it to sit for an hour or so. This kills the germs and freshens the smell, and makes it not taste like the meat loaf you had four days ago.",
"I soak my Invisalign retainers in hydrogen peroxide diluted with water. My SO has been doing this for a few years with his clear plastic retainers and it hasn't ruined them.",
"Whether it is invisalign or plastic Hawley retainer with metal wires, you can use the denture cleaner pills dissolved in water to clean them.\n\nYou may also use a stiff bristled brush or specific denture cleaning brushes to clean them.\n\nNext time you go to your dentist, ask them to clean it in the sonic machine and they'll come out looking like brand new and smelling as fresh as ever!",
"Just tooth paste and hot water. I've had mine for 3 years, and there clean as. I also use mouth wash while they are in my mouth."
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"how to stuff your bra like a pro Hey Redditors! I'm uneven chested and folding/rolling up socks is so/so and looks lumpy sometimes, does anyone know how to stuff a bra that looks legit?",
"how to stuff your bra like a pro Hey Redditors! I'm uneven chested and folding/rolling up socks is so/so and looks lumpy sometimes, does anyone know how to stuff a bra that looks legit?",
"how to stuff your bra like a pro Hey Redditors! I'm uneven chested and folding/rolling up socks is so/so and looks lumpy sometimes, does anyone know how to stuff a bra that looks legit?"
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"Have you been to a decent lingerie store like Soma? They have a pushup bra that does wonders and is of better quality than Victoria secrets. \n\nI had a friend who was very flat chested and she would just double bra it.",
"They make bra inserts (don't know the official name but colloquially they are called chicken cutlets) that look more natural. \n\nhttps://www.amazon.com/Miss-Oops-Chicken-Cutlets/dp/B001N444NQ",
"I feel ya sister. \n\nBest thing I've found so far is using a bra cup with a washcloth tucked underneath. The bra cup helps smooth out the lumpiness. I've been really considering surgery but I've been losing weight (working out/dieting) and I want to see if I can shrink them first. \n\nYay boobies!"
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"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well.",
"Now that grilling season is here, any tips on perfect chicken, steak, burgers? My steaks aren't bad (Just add Lawry's and crushed black pepper) and my burgers are hot and miss (Same seasoning), but my chicken is always dry as a bone. \n\nI would love any advice on any grilling techniques. \n\nPropane here, but with camping/picnicking season upon us, I'm open to charcoal as well."
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"The greatest meat-prep tip I know is to buy a meat thermometer. It's impossible to overcook anything that way because the numbers never lie.",
"if your making beer can chicken, drape slices of bacon going into the top head hole, half in and half on the outside of the chicken, it helps keep it nice and juicy, the meat falls off the bone when done. ",
"When you take the chicken off the grill, put it on a plate and tent with foil. Leave it under there for 5-10 minutes and it will help keep the juice in. Also, don't cut into it while you're cooking it, you will lose the juice that way as well. ",
"Butterflying a chicken breast is a great way to cut the cooking time down. \nIt also gives your guests the impression that you prepared more food. \n\nGenerally, a whole chicken breast needs more finesse than one that was butterflied in half. ",
"Beer can chicken! Use indirect heat, season a whole bird to your taste.\n\nDrink half a tall-boy.\n\nInsert the chicken onto the half-empty beer can.\n\nGrill until done.\n\nThe beer in the can will steam the bird while it cooks, helping it retain its juices.",
"they taught me this trick in culinary arts when I took it as a certificate course in HS: Make a fist, thumb over fingers, reasonably tight. (If it starts to hurt your fingers, back off a bit.) Now bend your wrist such that the back of your hand makes a straight line with the rest of your forearm when you look at it. Now look at the knuckle on your first finger; notice the \"arrow\" on the side of your finger makes as it bends? Notice where it is pointing? That little fold of skin leading up to your thumb is where we start. The amount of \"give\" of your flesh from that point till you hit your thumb bone is a good indicator of meat doneness.\nthe little fold is rare, the spot between your first thumb joint and the back of your hand is medium, and the spot just after that, but right before your thumb bone is well. (Your bone, BTW, is \"overcooked.\" try to avoid that.)",
"[this] (http://thermoworks.com/products/thermapen/)\nif budget limited, then\n[this](http://thermoworks.com/products/low_cost/rt600c.html)",
"A couple things I can share:\n\n* To tell when chicken is done, stretch your hand out, and feel the firm flesh on your palm between your thumb and index finger. That's how the chicken should feel.\n* The easiest way to cook a burger is to cook it on one side until it starts bleeding from the top, flip it once, and cook the same amount of time on the other side. However, flipping multiple times will make your burger cook more evenly, rather than being rarer on the inside and more well done on the outside. Definitely never press down on the burgers.",
"Steak is easy, just hot pan each side to brown it then at a lower heat fry it until it's how you like it.\n\nCooking it in butter with garlic is nice. You could add pepper or something else too though.",
"Marinate the chicken before hand (Italian Dressing) and cook it for 15-20 minutes, turning halfway through. Also, a little undercooked isn't bad, don't forget it will continue to cook while off the grill. ",
"DON'T PUNCTURE THE STEAK, as in slicing to see if it is done, whatever you do. Get a freaking meat thermometer.\n\nAlso, steak doesn't need to be marinated in soy sauce or mirin or balsamic vinegar...a good ribeye just needs a little Olive oil and salt. You'll be amazed at how good the meat tastes by itself.",
"Burger tip\n\nBlack pepper, salt, seasoning salt\n\nBefore placing patties on the grill, season one side with several strong shakes of black pepper, a less vigorous shake of salt, and just a dash of the seasoning salt.\n\nMake a small indention with your thumb on the seasoned side of the patty, then place prepared side down on the grill.\n\nOnce on the grill, quickly season the side facing up at you. Simple seasoning, but will work well.\n\nCan also add a 1/2 tsp of Dale's to help flavor things up a bit, but not a drop more.",
"Best recipe I have for chicken may seem a little unusual, but it is one that has been passed down through the family for the past few generations and basically is as such.\n\nPrepare a container with chicken (Don't matter variety bone in, bone out breast, leg...you get the deal) \n\nNext prepare a marinade consisting of 3 cups apple cider vinager, 1 cup melted salted butter (not margerine) and a generous helping of salt. (I don't measure but I'm guessing about a cup and a half roughly) Mix the marinade thoroughly. Then dump it into the container, cover, refrigerate for at least 12 hours. \n\nGrill over charcoal using the remaining marinade to baste until about halfway to completion. Results: Delicious chicken. (Also to clear this up before anyone asks,no the final product tastes nothing like vinegar. As a matter of fact I absolutly despise the taste of vinagar and wouldn't eat it if it did.)",
"1. Let the steak warm to room temperature before putting it on the grill.\n\n2. Get the grill as hot as possible. Now get it hotter. In fact, use chunk charcoal and after it is entirely going, fan away the ash, and just lay the meat directly on the coals.\n\n3. Turn the meat over ONCE. Don't screw with it.... uh... in any sense.\n\n4. Make a lovely envelope out of heavy aluminium foil and bung the steak directly from the coals into it. Leave it there (NO PEEKING!) for fifteen or twenty minutes.\n\n5. Don't ever grill steak beyond medium rare. In fact, stop at rare, let the rest in the aluminum complete the cooking process.\n\n6. Eat it. It's good. "
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"How to small talk with people who have had difficult pasts I wasn't exactly sure how to phrase the title, but I have recently started to do one on one tutoring with North Korean refugees to teach them English. The organization I've been doing this through has told me and the other tutors that we must not ask the refugees about their past or family as these might be very sensitive topics for them. \n\nOne of the refugees I tutor is very friendly and will ask me questions about my family and where I'm from and I love to answer and help their English with small talk, but I struggle with how to respond. Normally I'd just asking something like, \"tell me about yourself. Where are you from? How many siblings do you have?\" but I know that I shouldn't be asking these questions with them. \n\nI know this is a very specific example, but I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to sensitively ask them questions that can be good for small talk, but not too intrusive about their past. ",
"How to small talk with people who have had difficult pasts I wasn't exactly sure how to phrase the title, but I have recently started to do one on one tutoring with North Korean refugees to teach them English. The organization I've been doing this through has told me and the other tutors that we must not ask the refugees about their past or family as these might be very sensitive topics for them. \n\nOne of the refugees I tutor is very friendly and will ask me questions about my family and where I'm from and I love to answer and help their English with small talk, but I struggle with how to respond. Normally I'd just asking something like, \"tell me about yourself. Where are you from? How many siblings do you have?\" but I know that I shouldn't be asking these questions with them. \n\nI know this is a very specific example, but I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to sensitively ask them questions that can be good for small talk, but not too intrusive about their past. ",
"How to small talk with people who have had difficult pasts I wasn't exactly sure how to phrase the title, but I have recently started to do one on one tutoring with North Korean refugees to teach them English. The organization I've been doing this through has told me and the other tutors that we must not ask the refugees about their past or family as these might be very sensitive topics for them. \n\nOne of the refugees I tutor is very friendly and will ask me questions about my family and where I'm from and I love to answer and help their English with small talk, but I struggle with how to respond. Normally I'd just asking something like, \"tell me about yourself. Where are you from? How many siblings do you have?\" but I know that I shouldn't be asking these questions with them. \n\nI know this is a very specific example, but I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to sensitively ask them questions that can be good for small talk, but not too intrusive about their past. ",
"How to small talk with people who have had difficult pasts I wasn't exactly sure how to phrase the title, but I have recently started to do one on one tutoring with North Korean refugees to teach them English. The organization I've been doing this through has told me and the other tutors that we must not ask the refugees about their past or family as these might be very sensitive topics for them. \n\nOne of the refugees I tutor is very friendly and will ask me questions about my family and where I'm from and I love to answer and help their English with small talk, but I struggle with how to respond. Normally I'd just asking something like, \"tell me about yourself. Where are you from? How many siblings do you have?\" but I know that I shouldn't be asking these questions with them. \n\nI know this is a very specific example, but I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to sensitively ask them questions that can be good for small talk, but not too intrusive about their past. "
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"Ask them about their current life. Such as “What’s you’re favorite thing to do in your free time?” “What do you want to learn more about?” “If you could see one place/do one thing right now what would it be? Why?” (That one is a bit sketchier as they answer with “see my family” or some shit). “Have you seen anything interesting on the news lately?” “I learned about XXX the other day, here are my thoughts. What do you think?”",
"My advice, and keep in mind that this is coming from someone who also has a traumatic past, if they are asking about you then they are trying to open up. Gently break the rule and ask about them with great tact. Don't get too personal, but dodging these questions will make someone feel like you don't want to know them.",
"Leave you tried introducing them to the internet/things people do outside of NK? It'll be good for language and normalisation. \n\nOh, also music and TV. ",
"Listening to an account of war crimes first hand would be an honorable experience. After a 1.5 generations, I'd suspect things to of been hyped up, watered down, lost in translation, misunderstood and so on.\n Guten tag cousin! ;-)"
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"How to clean up cat poop off of hardwood/walls (need serious help!) I don't know how to explain why I am in need of knowing this. My cat has butt problems.",
"How to clean up cat poop off of hardwood/walls (need serious help!) I don't know how to explain why I am in need of knowing this. My cat has butt problems."
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"I've never had to clean up cat shit before because I think having animals live in your house is just inviting this kind of thing... but:\n\n1. White vinegar should work on the hardwood floors.\n2. Are the walls semi-gloss or flat paint? If its semi gloss you can probably wipe them down with household cleaner, if it is flat pain you will have to clean it and then paint over the area.",
"Invest in some really long cleaning gloves, something good for scooping/scraping that you can make your designated poop scoop, and a regular ol' sponge. White vinegar is a good cleaning agent. If you want to get really crazy, you can use vinegar and baking soda (like school \"volcano\" projects) but I don't know, that might not be very gentle on your floors, I've only done it on dishes with caked-on grossness, and in drains. Vinegar alone though should be pretty good, and it's the best for removing most stinks. Magic erasers are good for getting off gross stuff too, but be careful- they'll take off paint and finish if you scrub too hard or too long. \n\nSorry, but there's no pleasant or easy way to clean a messy poop up. I wish there were, but short of paying someone else to do it, you're gonna have to get up close and personal with that junk.\n\nAlso, make sure you thoroughly sanitize anything that you'll use that you're not gonna throw away. It's good to have a bit of a poop tool-kit if this is a regular problem, but if it were me I wouldn't trust plain soap to keep them sanitary enough to stay in my house. Clean them, then wipe them down/soak with diluted bleach. "
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"How to feel less groggy in Winter? Winter is here and only going to get worse were I live. I'm in the midwest so I get a good portion of all the seasons. Long sunshine days in summer and this year the winter days seems to never have any sun at all!\n\nI can tell I am much more tired and just all around groggy. My sleep schedule has been totally knocked around and I am looking for tips on how to feel more alive when I wake up since I will be starting spring semester here soon and I wanna fix this sleepy-problem.\n\nI will do the obvious: Get to sleep the same time everyday and wake up the same time. So what are some others? Am I not getting vitamins I need? should I drink more water?",
"How to feel less groggy in Winter? Winter is here and only going to get worse were I live. I'm in the midwest so I get a good portion of all the seasons. Long sunshine days in summer and this year the winter days seems to never have any sun at all!\n\nI can tell I am much more tired and just all around groggy. My sleep schedule has been totally knocked around and I am looking for tips on how to feel more alive when I wake up since I will be starting spring semester here soon and I wanna fix this sleepy-problem.\n\nI will do the obvious: Get to sleep the same time everyday and wake up the same time. So what are some others? Am I not getting vitamins I need? should I drink more water?",
"How to feel less groggy in Winter? Winter is here and only going to get worse were I live. I'm in the midwest so I get a good portion of all the seasons. Long sunshine days in summer and this year the winter days seems to never have any sun at all!\n\nI can tell I am much more tired and just all around groggy. My sleep schedule has been totally knocked around and I am looking for tips on how to feel more alive when I wake up since I will be starting spring semester here soon and I wanna fix this sleepy-problem.\n\nI will do the obvious: Get to sleep the same time everyday and wake up the same time. So what are some others? Am I not getting vitamins I need? should I drink more water?",
"How to feel less groggy in Winter? Winter is here and only going to get worse were I live. I'm in the midwest so I get a good portion of all the seasons. Long sunshine days in summer and this year the winter days seems to never have any sun at all!\n\nI can tell I am much more tired and just all around groggy. My sleep schedule has been totally knocked around and I am looking for tips on how to feel more alive when I wake up since I will be starting spring semester here soon and I wanna fix this sleepy-problem.\n\nI will do the obvious: Get to sleep the same time everyday and wake up the same time. So what are some others? Am I not getting vitamins I need? should I drink more water?",
"How to feel less groggy in Winter? Winter is here and only going to get worse were I live. I'm in the midwest so I get a good portion of all the seasons. Long sunshine days in summer and this year the winter days seems to never have any sun at all!\n\nI can tell I am much more tired and just all around groggy. My sleep schedule has been totally knocked around and I am looking for tips on how to feel more alive when I wake up since I will be starting spring semester here soon and I wanna fix this sleepy-problem.\n\nI will do the obvious: Get to sleep the same time everyday and wake up the same time. So what are some others? Am I not getting vitamins I need? should I drink more water?"
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"I know it seems like bullshit, but honestly try a Happy Light (or some variety of it). Not getting enough bright light reduces levels of serotonin which is used for regulation of mood as well as helping us wake up. Flip that sucker on in the morning for 20-30 minutes and you'll actually feel a bit better through the rest of the day - at least more energized. \n",
"Eat well and exercise. You don't have to work up a sweat and you don't do so much you're sore the next day.",
"Dude, I feel you. Michigander here...it's so much harder to get out of bed when it's cold! And I do feel like it just wears my body out. I just make sure to take extra extra good care of myself (high nutrient foods, consistent exercise), moisturize a lot, lots of water, layer and wear the right kind of fabrics to stay warm. Also I use a humidifier at night in by my bed to keep from getting sick",
"Also in the Midwest. I do my best to beat the gloom by getting outside. Lots of places to hike, snowshoe, and ski around here. I like to get out and take photos. The forest is very quiet this time of year and nothing better than a beer (or hot chocolate if that's your bag) by the fire in the lodge after a little exercise.\n\nJust started geocaching. There's even a sub here for it that I need to check out. Highly recommend it.",
"http://smile.amazon.com/Valkee-Silver-Bright-Headset-Winter/dp/B00FGUUCP2/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1451426050&sr=8-2&keywords=light+ear+SAD"
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"What to do with USB wall chargers that have accumulated over the years? Buying new devices (be it a new tablet or smartphone) has left me with quite a few USB wall chargers which I will never use in my lifetime. Some of them even hum loudly when plugged in.\n\nIs there anything useful that can be done with them or should I just toss them in a box and let them rot until the end of the universe?"
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"Slightly different direction from what you probably intended, but when I get new electronics, I label them with Sharpies so I know what they go to, and don't wind up with mystery power bricks. (I use Silver Sharpie for black cords)",
"When you melt them down you get a multipurpose black ooze that is good for insulation, heat absorption, light blinding, and when combined with baking soda a decent adhesive. First remember to snip the cords so you can separate the copper. Someone you know could probably use it.^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^Do ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^not ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^do ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^this."
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"Best way to clear palette after eating? For example, I just brushed my teeth, now I'm craving some OJ. Or like right now: just ate a cookie, and now I'm offered grapefruit.",
"Best way to clear palette after eating? For example, I just brushed my teeth, now I'm craving some OJ. Or like right now: just ate a cookie, and now I'm offered grapefruit.",
"Best way to clear palette after eating? For example, I just brushed my teeth, now I'm craving some OJ. Or like right now: just ate a cookie, and now I'm offered grapefruit."
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"I think the palate cleanser depends on what your consuming. For instance, between wine samples, it's cheese. For Sushi, it's pickled ginger.... \n \n",
"Crackers and water. Eat several crackers so your mouth starts getting a little dry and then wash it down with water. Pickled ginger can also be used. That's why ginger is served with sushi. To cleanse the palette.\n",
"Fancy restaurants tend to use sherbet in between courses to do just that. May not be practical to keep around though."
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"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!",
"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!",
"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!",
"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!",
"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!",
"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!",
"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!",
"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!",
"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!",
"Buying a new car, what are some things you wish you knew beforehand or things to look out for? I blew a head gasket on my car, essentially screwing my engine. After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala). With that being said, I’m in the market for a new car, and it’s a whole new world for me. What are some things you wish you knew/were told before you bought a car, or otherwise things you would recommend keeping an eye out for throughout the car buying process? Advice on new AND used cars is welcome. Thanks!"
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"I'll get some flack for this, but here goes:\n\nCar salespeople exist to trick you into paying more than you should. They do this every day of their lives and they know the entire process and psychology, forwards and backwards. You're a noob and they're going to use that against you.\n\nThe normal rules of decency and civility don't apply to car salespeople. They will lie to your face, say whatever will help them, and use your decency against you. It's okay for you to interrupt, not let them finish, etc. They're trying to manipulate you.\n\nDo your research before you go, decide what you want, and what you're prepared to pay for it. Then, your best tool is your legs. If they're not giving what you want, then get up and walk out. At this first sign of them using weasel words, leave. Don't play their game.",
"When you find a car you like, always sleep on it. Never buy a car the first day you become aware it exists. If you are offered a deal that ends before before the day is up, it’s not a deal.",
"\nOnce you get a couple cars you are looking to buy, check out how much parts cost on them. Brake pads and rotors, tires, oil changes, etc. all the items that need to be changed often. \nNext, look at the prices of those cars 1-2 years old. Still new, maybe off lease, but cheaper sometimes. \nOlder or used cars sometimes are priced higher because with all the tech going into new cars, older ones are easier to work on, may be more fun to drive and that is all driving the prices up. 1988 bmw 3 series five years ago can be had for under 10k. Now, looking for over 15k for a good condition with 150k miles. Last but not least, unless it’s a car you really really want, don’t pay over MSRP and don’t buy any additional crap. Get what you want and have them throw in mats or accessories for free.\n\nPeople will say new cars are a waste of money but also forget the longevity you get from them. 6 year old car already has 6 years on it. That shortens the life of the car and needs more TLC. Start looking at new shocks and exhaust around that time. Headlight covers could be fading. Maybe the belts need to be replaced. Someone could be selling it because of the maintenance needed around that time. \nI sold my 2004 M3 because it needed 10-15k worth of parts that I wasn’t going to pay. Shocks, brakes, tires for summer and winter, valve adjustment, etc.",
"This is used car advice. If you can, get an accomplice to come with you, then you play these roles: You are the one who'll use the car and you're invested in purchasing soon. You like everything. Your friend is the bad cop, disinterested, pointing out flaws, hates everything, just wants to leave, might be responsible for paying for the car you're getting. My mom and dad used to do this, my mom was always the bad cop. \n\nDad: \"Look at this one, it's only got 40000 miles on it.\" \n\nMom: \"Yeah, and that's a lot of miles for its age. Do we have to do this today? It's too hot/cold out here.\" \n\nDad: \"Wait, look at this one, it's got 31000 miles and it's two years older. Creampuff. Gently used.\" \n\nMom: \"Yeah, it's nice, but come on, we're not buying anything today. It's getting late, let's go eat and maybe we'll come back next weekend.\" \n\nRepeat. You say something positive, your friend shuts it down. My parents were very entertaining when they did this, as my dad could fix cars and my mom knew less about them. The salesperson will start throwing extras at you, seeing if he can win over the bad cop. Do this a few times at different places and see what you get offered. Also, they'll ask you what kind of monthly payment you can afford, then they'll try to creep you over it. When they ask you for that number, tell them about a hundred bucks less per month than what you can actually afford. If you're paying in one chunk, that $3000 figure, tell them the most you can spend is $2250.",
"Terrible time to be buying either a new car, or a used one! New ones are in very short supply at the moment, and dealers are charging big premiums and have long waits, while used cars have gone up in price a lot since they're often the only thing available.\n\nMy usual advice is to buy a car that's one or two years old, on which you'll usually save about 30% over a brand new one. I'm not sure if that advice is still good at this moment in history.",
"I recommend this video from Donut Media called Don’t Get Screwed buying a used car, very useful and simple advice. Just don’t mind the silly music.\n\nhttps://youtu.be/Z1eBlGcsSR8",
"@smell.like.bad.decisions on toktok has great hints! \nDecide ahead of time what kind of car you want and be realistic in your expectations. If you make 25k a year you can not afford a 40k vehicle \nDon't let the salesman know what you want your payment to be, they'll put together a \"deal\" based solely on that number and you'll pay a lot more on the long run. \nDon't sign ANYTHING until you know the full and total price, meaning you know the cost of the vehicle, they'll bring you a couple of pages to sign showing the monthly payments and interest rates, etc. Don't sign until you have the whole stack of papers and the last page will have an itemized breakdown. Look hard at those numbers. You don't need GAP insurance, pretty much any protection plan can go, and you don't need an extended warranty if you're buying new. If it's not new, take it to your mechanic for a good going over before you buy. \nRemember that they're in the business of making money and the more they can sell you on small plans and policies and in financing the better it is for you. \nFinal LPT... have an idea of what you're looking for, know what your cr",
">After doing the math, I can’t see a reason to spend $3,000 to get the gasket repaired when I’d be putting more into the vehicle than what it’s worth (‘04 Chevy Impala)\n\nKeep in mind that you know all of the issues with your current car, you won't know that with another used car. A $3,000 repair on a car, that you know will be fine after the $3,000 repair, is a lot different than buying a car for $3,000 that might also require repairs.\n\nIf you are looking for a different car anyway now is a good time to do so, but if you aren't I would seriously consider just repairing your current car.\n\nAs far as tips for finding a used car ... IMHO unless you are spending over 8k buying from dealerships is a complete ripoff. Go on craigslist/facebook marketplace/whatever site is used in your area and start going to look at cars that have lowish mileage and aren't complete rust buckets. Test drive them, check them for obvious rust and whatnot in the wheel wells and make an offer SUBJECT TO a pre-purchase inspection at your mechanic. Set up a date for the inspection if they agree, get the car inspected and if there isn't anything wrong with it walk away with your new car.",
"Just because a mechanic looks at it doesn't mean itl be any better a car, things will still go wrong so get a warranty. In writing with dealers name and company address on it and a detailed description of what's included. If they give you one that just says they'll guarantee the engine for 5k miles tell them it's too vague. Most will tell you they'll guarantee the drive train(engine, gearbox and drive shaft) but unless they give you that in writing then you could be well and truly goosed if something goes wrong there.",
"Here is some sage advice.... NEVER buy a car brand new, unless you're wealthy and don't need to worry about money. And I mean worry about money in ANY way. Single most important advice you can get. You want the latest \"whip\" to cruise around town and look great or have that awesome New car stank, then by all means go for it. But if you're going to take on a car payment, it's an unnecessary waste of money... big time."
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"Removing superglue from clothing I spilled a bit on my swimsuit and I can't take it off. I have tried nail polish remover as it has acetone but it is rather weak I guess. Any tips?\n\n",
"Removing superglue from clothing I spilled a bit on my swimsuit and I can't take it off. I have tried nail polish remover as it has acetone but it is rather weak I guess. Any tips?\n\n",
"Removing superglue from clothing I spilled a bit on my swimsuit and I can't take it off. I have tried nail polish remover as it has acetone but it is rather weak I guess. Any tips?\n\n"
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"There is a super glue remover that you can buy from good hobby stores. I have used it in the past, works well. If the glue is dry, and had been for some time, then you will have to soak it.",
"If you're a hipster, just cut a hole out and add a patch! Sew it yourself for that super hipster look!",
"I got some on a tshirt of mine and I'm really, really sorry to say that I never got it out. I tried a lot of the online remedies and it just put a hole in the good fabric next to the stain :/"
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"How/Where to safely keep backup house key I feel like the under the mat trick isn't very reliable nowadays (Or forever tbh)",
"How/Where to safely keep backup house key I feel like the under the mat trick isn't very reliable nowadays (Or forever tbh)",
"How/Where to safely keep backup house key I feel like the under the mat trick isn't very reliable nowadays (Or forever tbh)",
"How/Where to safely keep backup house key I feel like the under the mat trick isn't very reliable nowadays (Or forever tbh)",
"How/Where to safely keep backup house key I feel like the under the mat trick isn't very reliable nowadays (Or forever tbh)"
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"If you need to give someone a copy but don't trust them too much, get the teeth put on a key that won't fit in the lock.\n\nAll keys made by company ***A*** will fit in their locks, but will rarely turn. The same goes for company ***B***. However, the right combination of A & B will give you 2 keys that won't fit in each other's locks at all. Get a blank A cut with B's teeth - you will have to get it copied onto a B blank to work. \n\n----------\n\nIf you need to make a hiding spot for a key, ask around for a wasp nest that hasn't been ruined. To keep wasps from re-inhabiting it or using the material to make a new nest, soak the entire thing with clear paint and/or varnish. (Multiple thin layers and misting is better than dunking it in a bucket!) Once it has hardened, cut a hole where it won't be noticed when you attach the nest to your porch. Make a nice little pocket for the key. Attach the nest to your porch: a very long screw going in the entrance and barely poking out the \"stem\" should do the job. Add a couple of varnished wasps to make it look occupied and you're done.",
"In a plastic bag with silica gel pouch to avoid corrosion. Then bury it in a plant pot or garden. Not deep, just out of where someone may look or stumble. \n\nIf you use it, don't be seen doing so",
"I have two of those strong magnet key holders on my car. In a place I only know about and not easily reached. I luckily have long arms so I can put it in a place most people can't get too. I have two of them. One to that unlocks my car, not start it, and the second being a key for the back door. Hope it helps. ",
"One of [these](http://www.homedepot.com/p/Kidde-Slimline-2-Key-Box-with-Pushbutton-Lock-Clay-001414/100653152?cm_mmc=SEM|THD|google|&mid=sF2BZPNpH|dc_mtid_8903tb925190_pcrid_111415680425_pkw__pmt__product_100653152_slid_&gclid=CjwKEAjw652_BRDfkebVrdOGkDISJAD0Q2RurWsSn16_tn2sD9dEi2SPrFcQRLyyKfseQftNgu0soxoC1Evw_wcB), attached to the back of a wooden gate post covered with a shrub. ",
"I use a magnetic hide-a-key used for spare keys for a car, but I put it under the air conditioning unit for my house. The back yard is fenced, so no one sees where I stash my house key. ",
"I keep a spare car key and spare house key attached to the gas cap, so I can always get in without worrying about people finding them"
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"How to get patches of hair (bed head) stay down in the morning? I have 1-2 inch hair and the worst thing is when I have a patch at the back that won't stay down ",
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"How to get patches of hair (bed head) stay down in the morning? I have 1-2 inch hair and the worst thing is when I have a patch at the back that won't stay down ",
"How to get patches of hair (bed head) stay down in the morning? I have 1-2 inch hair and the worst thing is when I have a patch at the back that won't stay down ",
"How to get patches of hair (bed head) stay down in the morning? I have 1-2 inch hair and the worst thing is when I have a patch at the back that won't stay down ",
"How to get patches of hair (bed head) stay down in the morning? I have 1-2 inch hair and the worst thing is when I have a patch at the back that won't stay down "
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"Shave head with a #2 clipper every two weeks. No more bed-head, no more barbers, no more gels or combs or brushes.",
"Wet it. Water in a spray bottle does the trick, dry and hey presto. All good to go!\n\nI have to do this every day. I wash my hair almost every day and I still have this problem, just the way u sleep I guess! \n\nHigh five us!",
"When you use water, don't just wet your hand and push the hair down. This doesn't get all the messy hairs wet.\n\nPull the messy patch out, ruffle it, and wet it. Ruffle it again, wet it again. Then put it down. \n\nRuffling up the hairs so the patch's interior hairs also get wet works much better.",
"Use children's detangler spray. It's cheap, quick, and doesn't make your hair stiff like other stuff. ",
"I use a little silicone-based serum in my hair before I go to bed. Helps alot! Also, old school silk pillowcase (like ladies used in the 60's to protect their beehives) but these are hard to find.",
"Dampen your hair and carefully put a cap on, smoothing your hair down as you do, for about 5 minutes.\n\nYou can do the same thing with a wet hand towel, small breed dog, or domesticated rodent."
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"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up.",
"Calming an overactive mind before bed I am a bit of a night owl. I have the most energy in the evening. So naturally, a lot of the time as I am laying in bed trying to fall asleep, my mind simply has no desire to do so. My brain will go off on tangent after tangent and thoughts run wild in my head over every aspect of life. As a result of being kept thinking about so much random stuff, I am kept occupied and therefore kept awake. Anybody else experience this know how to minimize it?\n\nI should note this only happens occasionally, not every night. But when it does happen, it usually happens multiple nights in a row and results in loss of sleep which build up."
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"OK. This sounds weird, but it works consistently for me. You know those patterns you get when it's dark and you close your eyes (just random firing of the retinal neurons when there's no input - you can exacerbate them by pressing on your closed eyeball, but this is not part of the technique). Just concentrate on them. Let them form patterns, and go with wherever it leads. I find I'm asleep in under 10 minutes. ",
"How's your caffeine intake?\n\nI made it a hard rule never to have caffeinated beverages after lunch hour. \n\nREALLY helped the consistency of my sleep. Occasionally my mind will just keep going and going during stressful times such as the final marathon on a work-related project or something, but notching down the caffeine and limiting intake to mornings only has helped me a great deal.",
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"Well, I guess you already know it but i would any kind of beverage like coffee, soda, tea (especially black tea, soothing/calming tea should be alright), sugar, etc. Avoid watching TV or playing on your computer/mobile phone an hour before going to bed. \nInstead, take a book and start reading it in bed. \nPersonally it's quite effective, reading in bed make me fall asleep very quickly if i avoided all the stuff i state above.",
"As a mental health nurse, I treat patients on a frequent basis for sleep disorder or poor sleep hygiene as a negative psychiatric symptom. I promote one technique which receives most positive feedback. I even use it myself. Used properly, it can induce a state of total relaxation, enough to find sleep easier. \n\nProgressive Muscle Relaxation. \n\nListen to the video, but turn off all lights (including phone/tablet/computer screen). Then practice with videos that do not have a voiceover. \n\nhttps://youtu.be/PYsuvRNZfxE",
"Try and listen to your favorite music that has some calmness to it as those \"tangents after tangents\" happen. Let them happen; but have something distract you so you can move from one tangent to the other with less focus. It'll satisfy your brain and also help you move on. \n Everybody is built differently, I hope you find yours. Good hunting :)",
"No caffeine within 8 hours of bed. \n\nSupplementing with niacinamide or l-theanine to boost Gaba. If you don't like supplements try calming Sleepytime tea or another non caffeine tea it has naturally occurring l-theanine. \n\nTry melatonin, just know that was originally discovered it was tested in 300 - 1000 microgram doses. Most pills on the market are 3 milligram. Way too much so make sure you know what you're buying or it can have a rebound effect.\n\nZinc glycinate and magnesium glycinate are supposedly helpful. I take them, it's cheap insurance.\n\nDo a brain dump before trying to go to bed. Just get a cheap spiral-bound notebook and a pen and put it on the nightstand. Write every random stupid thing that comes into your head, every fear, every to-do list item you realize that needs to get done anything that is swirling around in your mind get it on paper. This really helps. Google search diaphragmatic breathing. You can do this to calm down the sympathetic nervous system and train your body to relax which will in turn turn off your mind a bit. \n\nRead some fiction (but not under a bright lamp, try one of those amber colored LED bulbs).\n\nListen to fiction. Audible is 15 bucks a month for two books and the app has a sleep timer, turn off after a certain amount of time.\n\nTry the \"Sleep with Me Podcast\" the guy intentionally drones on in a way that is just clear enough to distract the mind, but still puts you to sleep. Or any other podcast that is slightly interesting, but not too interesting to keep you up.\n\nCreate a ritual, warm bath, brush teeth, put on pajamas, and slide into bed. Can't sleep within 15 minutes? Repeat ritual. Laying in bed awake mind reeling can condition you to associate the bed with this mental state. Creating a sleep ritual and repeating it until you are tired enough to sleep can condition your mind and body to get sleepy automatically in response to the those cues.\n\nHope one of these helps.\n\n",
"I suffer with similar thing most nights but I recently read about a breathing technique that actually does help to calm your mind a bit. All you do is breathe in for a count of 4, then hold it for a count of 7, then very slowly release that breath for a count of 8. Keep repeating it if you can, it may feel very uncomfortable the first few times but once you've released that breath then you do feel a wave of calm and sleepiness. It helps me some nights so I hope it works for you too. :) ",
"I posted this not all that long ago as a LPT, but it didn't gain much traction.\n\nThere's a silly genre of games called Hidden Object Games or HOGs. It's generally a simple story connecting simple puzzles and 2d images with objects hidden in them. The games are really rather boring, most of the time, but they hit that sweet spot between being engaging enough that my brain doesn't wander but not so much that it's going to keep you awake. For me they quiet the brain right down and I pass out quickly once I close the laptop.",
"I close my eyes, get in my position that I best fall asleep with, and fantasize about a story that I'm in. I just kinda go through the story, and I fall asleep pretty quick. After doing this for a while, I can be asleep in minutes. I think my brain has been programmed to sleep when the story starts.",
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"True essential oils. Lavender to be exact. Not your regular Walmart brand but from a company like young living. Really settled you down. "
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"How to make myself clearer and straight to the point? Both verbally and electronically. Thanks! When dealing with some serious stuff I just drag on and get long winded. How to get straight to the point? Thanks!\n\nContext:\n\n\nHonorary student in High school, now struggling in University want to transfer to a school with a more coursework heavy degree. Every time I get interviewed I become nervous and drag on until stuff becomes confusing not just to the listener but myself. If you guys could help how to convey information straight to the point, that would be great! Thanks!\n\n**",
"How to make myself clearer and straight to the point? Both verbally and electronically. Thanks! When dealing with some serious stuff I just drag on and get long winded. How to get straight to the point? Thanks!\n\nContext:\n\n\nHonorary student in High school, now struggling in University want to transfer to a school with a more coursework heavy degree. Every time I get interviewed I become nervous and drag on until stuff becomes confusing not just to the listener but myself. If you guys could help how to convey information straight to the point, that would be great! Thanks!\n\n**",
"How to make myself clearer and straight to the point? Both verbally and electronically. Thanks! When dealing with some serious stuff I just drag on and get long winded. How to get straight to the point? Thanks!\n\nContext:\n\n\nHonorary student in High school, now struggling in University want to transfer to a school with a more coursework heavy degree. Every time I get interviewed I become nervous and drag on until stuff becomes confusing not just to the listener but myself. If you guys could help how to convey information straight to the point, that would be great! Thanks!\n\n**",
"How to make myself clearer and straight to the point? Both verbally and electronically. Thanks! When dealing with some serious stuff I just drag on and get long winded. How to get straight to the point? Thanks!\n\nContext:\n\n\nHonorary student in High school, now struggling in University want to transfer to a school with a more coursework heavy degree. Every time I get interviewed I become nervous and drag on until stuff becomes confusing not just to the listener but myself. If you guys could help how to convey information straight to the point, that would be great! Thanks!\n\n**",
"How to make myself clearer and straight to the point? Both verbally and electronically. Thanks! When dealing with some serious stuff I just drag on and get long winded. How to get straight to the point? Thanks!\n\nContext:\n\n\nHonorary student in High school, now struggling in University want to transfer to a school with a more coursework heavy degree. Every time I get interviewed I become nervous and drag on until stuff becomes confusing not just to the listener but myself. If you guys could help how to convey information straight to the point, that would be great! Thanks!\n\n**",
"How to make myself clearer and straight to the point? Both verbally and electronically. Thanks! When dealing with some serious stuff I just drag on and get long winded. How to get straight to the point? Thanks!\n\nContext:\n\n\nHonorary student in High school, now struggling in University want to transfer to a school with a more coursework heavy degree. Every time I get interviewed I become nervous and drag on until stuff becomes confusing not just to the listener but myself. If you guys could help how to convey information straight to the point, that would be great! Thanks!\n\n**",
"How to make myself clearer and straight to the point? Both verbally and electronically. Thanks! When dealing with some serious stuff I just drag on and get long winded. How to get straight to the point? Thanks!\n\nContext:\n\n\nHonorary student in High school, now struggling in University want to transfer to a school with a more coursework heavy degree. Every time I get interviewed I become nervous and drag on until stuff becomes confusing not just to the listener but myself. If you guys could help how to convey information straight to the point, that would be great! Thanks!\n\n**"
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"Lawyer here - who has briefed the Texas Supreme Court and Fifth Circuit Court of Appeals. A few tips:\n\n1. Obvious - but something I see a lot - avoid the use of pronouns when making a point - if you talk about multiple people in a post - he or she becomes too vague - use their names. Likewise, instead of it or there name the object or place.\n\n2. How to get straight to the point - a) write down the exact point you are trying to make in as few words as possible. Example: *10 Clover-field Lane was a good movie*. No confusion there -but not persuasive - so lets jazz it up a bit. b) Add the \"support\" in as few words as possible. Example: 10 Clover-field Lane was a good movie *due to its suspense.* c) Add your \"pop\" - give the sentence some flair! Example. 10 Clover-field Lane was a *very* good movie due to its *continuing and ongoing* suspense. \n\nCongratulations - you have just conveyed a straight forward point in as few words as possible. NEXT - lets smarten up your sentence to convey a more precise meaning. After all - there is still a lot of ambiguity. \n\nEx: 10 Clover-field Lane was 10 Clover-field Lane was ~~a very good movie~~ (in what way?) a considerably interesting film due to its ~~continuing and ongoing~~ non-stop suspense, keeping you on the edge of your seat all the way through the surprise ending.\n\nNow you have a much better understanding of why I thought the movie was good and what I mean by being suspenseful. \n\nTL;DR - this is probably what got you intro trouble in the first place - go back and read.",
"**Verbally:** Join Toastmasters and practice.\n\n**Electronically:** Look at the last part of your emails, where you come to the point. Move the last sentence to the beginning and see if you are still able to make the point without everything that had come before. If so, remove what just became extraneous.",
"Try to say less? Take a second before you start to think about what you are going to say. Do not go on tangents and do not explain everything -- most of the time and interviewer will know about how people are going to answer, so you can be brief and get by.\n\nInterviewing and social grace are skills. Practice them by talking to people and doing mock interviews with friends. My campus has a career services office which will do a mock interview by appointment.\n\nThere are social groups dedicated to this stuff like Toast Masters.",
"Replace whenever you say \"and then\" with \"but\" or \"therefore\". \nThis will force you to tell the most important and interesting parts of the story.",
"Have your top three reasons. Don't go farther. Drill them into your skull. Then when talking always be reaching back for one of those three reasons. Practice this and when you talk about it, just remember those points. ",
"Electronically, I'd say read emails or whatnot before you send them. Ask yourself if you really need all those words. Try to see which you can take out that won't affect the overall message. \n\nVerbally-- Make it a game (to yourself). Try to keep your half of the conversations light, maybe try to talk less than the other person. Use them as a moderator. \n\nPublic speaking classes would be helpful if you do this because you're nervous. If you just talk a lot regardless, I'd say just try to consider what you're saying more carefully. ",
"Well you could stop calling everyone 'Darling'.... not sure how we're going to make yourself clearer."
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"Most efficient way to organize a computer (OSX) I just purchased a brand new Retina MacBook Pro last night. I'm not new to Apple, it was a replacement for my 2009 MacBook Pro. However, I'm wanting to take a new approach as I begin to set up and personalize my new computer. It's hard for me to think of organizing things in a different way than what I'm used to, so I'm hoping for some suggestions. How do you organize your computer (files, documents, programs that might be suggested), essentially, \n\n**TL:DR what are your life pro tips when it comes to how you've personalized your computer?!**",
"Most efficient way to organize a computer (OSX) I just purchased a brand new Retina MacBook Pro last night. I'm not new to Apple, it was a replacement for my 2009 MacBook Pro. However, I'm wanting to take a new approach as I begin to set up and personalize my new computer. It's hard for me to think of organizing things in a different way than what I'm used to, so I'm hoping for some suggestions. How do you organize your computer (files, documents, programs that might be suggested), essentially, \n\n**TL:DR what are your life pro tips when it comes to how you've personalized your computer?!**",
"Most efficient way to organize a computer (OSX) I just purchased a brand new Retina MacBook Pro last night. I'm not new to Apple, it was a replacement for my 2009 MacBook Pro. However, I'm wanting to take a new approach as I begin to set up and personalize my new computer. It's hard for me to think of organizing things in a different way than what I'm used to, so I'm hoping for some suggestions. How do you organize your computer (files, documents, programs that might be suggested), essentially, \n\n**TL:DR what are your life pro tips when it comes to how you've personalized your computer?!**",
"Most efficient way to organize a computer (OSX) I just purchased a brand new Retina MacBook Pro last night. I'm not new to Apple, it was a replacement for my 2009 MacBook Pro. However, I'm wanting to take a new approach as I begin to set up and personalize my new computer. It's hard for me to think of organizing things in a different way than what I'm used to, so I'm hoping for some suggestions. How do you organize your computer (files, documents, programs that might be suggested), essentially, \n\n**TL:DR what are your life pro tips when it comes to how you've personalized your computer?!**"
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"Here's a few things I do tht may or may not be helpful:\n\nUse the dock for programs you actually use. When you first get your new Mac the dock is loaded with programs that apple wants you to use, so the first thing I do is get rid of them all and replace with programs I use daily (Chrome, photoshop, after effects, itunes, etc. Way too many people I know leave all those stock programs they never use which is just a waste of the dock. \n\nUse spring loaded folders in the dock. By default you should have the documents and downloads folder on the far right of your dock. You can leave those if you use them or replace them with more often used folders (I keep one or two frequently accessed folders that are buried deep in other folders and would otherwise be time-consuming to navigate too)\n\nLaunchpad can be arranged much like the dock. I like to put programs I sometimes use (but not enough to go in the dock) towards the front, so by keeping launchpad in the dock I have all these secondary applications one click away. \n\nI also do lots of work with photos and videos so I make sure to keep the movies and photos folder in the sidebar of my finder windows, so they are also just a click away ",
"I'm more a fan of getting rid of the dock, so remove all programs and hide it from view.\n\nUse spotlight (command + spacebar) and type in the name of the program you want to use/open, this reduces any core limits you place on yourself for program's you want to use.\n\nIf you have a magic mouse then download Better Touch Tool. It allows you to greatly increase the sensitivity of your mouse and add custom gestures, even for individual programs.\n\nGet an application such as Clean My Mac that removes excess languages and files from your computer.",
"My **filesystem hierarchy** answers the questions:\n\n* Is it **meaningful content**, (not system files / autogenerated stuff / window preferences)?\n* Who would I **share** the files with? Includes filesystem-level sync.\n* When, i.e. memorable **autobiographic epoch**? (career stage, city you live in, SO)\n* **Work** / home / \"freelance\" / volunteer ? (->social setting)\n* **Subject** matter hierarchy\n* **Year** or month, if ongoing series\n\nExamples, extra lengthy words for clarity:\n\n* me-only/phd-time/univ/2010/subject/confidential-survey-data.xls\n\n* me-only/high-school/home/por...\n\n* everybody/exchange-year/extras/programming/health-app/git-versioned/interface/logo.png\n\n* not-classified/at-IBM/home/maintenance/776-Foo-street/phone/bills/2013-02.pdf\n\n* not-classified/phd-time/univ/sync-with-laptop/thesis/subproject/manuscript.tex\n\n* documents/rosettastone/autogenerated-junk\n",
"I don't worry much about organizing my documents. Spotlight works so well, I almost never have to poke around through thousands of documents over the years. It is also great for those apps that you do not launch very often."
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"How to laugh more or fake laugh People who laugh a lot are attractive. While I am fun overall, I find myself not being able to laugh in conversations as much as I would like. Perhaps my laughter is desensitized due to all the funny content on reddit /s\n\nAnyone have any good ways to practice laughing or make a convincing fake laugh?",
"How to laugh more or fake laugh People who laugh a lot are attractive. While I am fun overall, I find myself not being able to laugh in conversations as much as I would like. Perhaps my laughter is desensitized due to all the funny content on reddit /s\n\nAnyone have any good ways to practice laughing or make a convincing fake laugh?"
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"LPT: Don't fake laugh. By definition, I don't know how often people are good at it , but when people aren't it makes them look really fake and affected and annoying, IMO.",
"**For the duration of this post, focus on NOT laughing at it. I mean it. Don't you laugh at all. Its not funny and there is nothing funny about it so don't laugh when you read it. Especially the last line of this sentence**\n\n\n\nTrue laughter is spontaneous, meaning, it is something that occurs thoughtlessly. The more you attempt to force something that is spontaneous, the more you are less likely to be able to do it. You put yourself in a \"Be Spontaneous!\" paradox. The trick is to force yourself NOT to laugh. When you get in those situations, focus on not laughing as much as possible. "
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"Getting rid of the sticky stuff from peeled stickers The sticker on my laptop came off and i have no idea how to get the stickiness off. I dont want tons of dirt and dust sticking to it so any advice would be appreciated",
"Getting rid of the sticky stuff from peeled stickers The sticker on my laptop came off and i have no idea how to get the stickiness off. I dont want tons of dirt and dust sticking to it so any advice would be appreciated",
"Getting rid of the sticky stuff from peeled stickers The sticker on my laptop came off and i have no idea how to get the stickiness off. I dont want tons of dirt and dust sticking to it so any advice would be appreciated",
"Getting rid of the sticky stuff from peeled stickers The sticker on my laptop came off and i have no idea how to get the stickiness off. I dont want tons of dirt and dust sticking to it so any advice would be appreciated"
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"In a pinch if you don't have anything else, wd40 on a rag gets sticky shit off in a jiff. Everyone seems to have a can of wd40 where I'm from.",
"sometimes I use tape to take off the adhesive. dab the sticky part against the sticky stuff you want gone. maybe try a dab & lift method.\nThis is my sticky crap removal method for electronics & such.",
"This works before and after removing the sticker. Furniture polish, spray it on, leave for 5 mins, wipe off with paper towel. Voila! ",
"First place some oil on a napkin, rub the area thorough then take a cloth with soap and clean \nthe sticky area, poof it's all clean and sticky free."
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"How to avoid sleeping in wrong positions ? Sometimes I tend to sleep in bad sleeping positions (like on my stomach) and I suspect this is causing a neck pain. I'm always thinking about avoiding this positions but I keep repeating them.\n\nWould you know any tips to make your body get used to sleep always on your side?",
"How to avoid sleeping in wrong positions ? Sometimes I tend to sleep in bad sleeping positions (like on my stomach) and I suspect this is causing a neck pain. I'm always thinking about avoiding this positions but I keep repeating them.\n\nWould you know any tips to make your body get used to sleep always on your side?",
"How to avoid sleeping in wrong positions ? Sometimes I tend to sleep in bad sleeping positions (like on my stomach) and I suspect this is causing a neck pain. I'm always thinking about avoiding this positions but I keep repeating them.\n\nWould you know any tips to make your body get used to sleep always on your side?"
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"Sew or pin a tennis ball in a sock to your sleep shirt. \n\nPeople with sleep apnea use this trick to avoid sleeping on their backs, leading to blockage of the airways. I'm sure that you can adapt it to your needs.",
"honestly i fall asleep on my stomach all the time i dont know whats the bad thing about it though. can some one explain whats so bad about it?",
"A sleep doctor recommended buying a fanny pack and some tennis balls. Put one or two tennis balls in the pack. If you want to sleep on your back, wear the pack on your stomach. If you want to sleep on your stomach, put the pack on your back.\n\nI never actually needed to try it, but it makes sense."
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"How to avoid an awkward situation when someone asks my unusual name? When people inevitably mispronounce my name I either spell it out for them or just don't correct them at all, which can cause some strange situations when meeting someone new. Any tips?",
"How to avoid an awkward situation when someone asks my unusual name? When people inevitably mispronounce my name I either spell it out for them or just don't correct them at all, which can cause some strange situations when meeting someone new. Any tips?",
"How to avoid an awkward situation when someone asks my unusual name? When people inevitably mispronounce my name I either spell it out for them or just don't correct them at all, which can cause some strange situations when meeting someone new. Any tips?",
"How to avoid an awkward situation when someone asks my unusual name? When people inevitably mispronounce my name I either spell it out for them or just don't correct them at all, which can cause some strange situations when meeting someone new. Any tips?",
"How to avoid an awkward situation when someone asks my unusual name? When people inevitably mispronounce my name I either spell it out for them or just don't correct them at all, which can cause some strange situations when meeting someone new. Any tips?",
"How to avoid an awkward situation when someone asks my unusual name? When people inevitably mispronounce my name I either spell it out for them or just don't correct them at all, which can cause some strange situations when meeting someone new. Any tips?",
"How to avoid an awkward situation when someone asks my unusual name? When people inevitably mispronounce my name I either spell it out for them or just don't correct them at all, which can cause some strange situations when meeting someone new. Any tips?",
"How to avoid an awkward situation when someone asks my unusual name? When people inevitably mispronounce my name I either spell it out for them or just don't correct them at all, which can cause some strange situations when meeting someone new. Any tips?",
"How to avoid an awkward situation when someone asks my unusual name? When people inevitably mispronounce my name I either spell it out for them or just don't correct them at all, which can cause some strange situations when meeting someone new. Any tips?"
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"Just say: I bet you can't even pronounce it right!\n\nThen they will take it as a challenge, and therefore trying their best to pronounce it right.",
"Nickname or shortened name?\n\nHi my name is Suowernpapeptip but most people call me Susan or Sue for short.",
"Just learn to roll with it. \n\nI have unusual last name (shared with a certain British motorcycle racer) that really trips people up when they have to either read it for the first time or spell it. It's just one of those things I know will come up. I've grown to appreciate that it helps make me memorable to people and I feel bad for the \"Bill Lewis\" and \"Mark Robertsons\" of the world. ",
"Find a good phonetic way to pronounce it using common words. \n\nBonus to having to go through this process is that people are a lot less likely to forget your name after you spend 5 minutes telling them how to say it and having them repeat the name many times. ",
"yeah still kinda dealing with that and have been for 5 years (since i left my country to study abroad). People NEVER pronouce my name right on the first try, and the worst is when they ask your name and you tell them and they're like \"uh?\". I just correct them once, and if we're in a group of people and a couple of them are my close friends they can just learn from them saying my name correctly... honestly, it's the best way. repeating your name is fucking awkward... ",
"Is there any combination of common words that rhyme with it? Like the comedian 'Dat Phan' changes his to something like \"fan, without the 'r'; just think of a fan that breaks when it's hot - drat fan, right?\"\n\nNot perfect, but better.",
"Is it just an unusual foreign name or does it include sounds that aren't used in English like ض ص ق غ ع ط ظ ح خ in Arabic?",
"I go by my last name because no one can spell or pronounce my first. Even worse is it's a pretty common American name.",
"Depends on the name, but I just don't correct them but say \"close enough\" or words to that effect, then move the conversation on, it might not be the best technique but I think it shows them:\n\n* I'm not stuck up about my name (e.g I'm laid back in general)\n\n* Doesn't make them nervous about mispronouncing it (which they probably will anyway)\n\n* Allows for further clarification later\n\n* Can make for (relatively booring) small talk in a larger group, while getting rid of the initial awkwardness."
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"Handling confrontational/awkward/conflicting situations for those who hate conflict/awkwardness/confrontation? I'm someone who HATES conflict/confrontation/awkwardness. I will go to great lengths to avoid conflict or confrontation. This is a big weakness that I need to improve on. Anyone have any tips?",
"Handling confrontational/awkward/conflicting situations for those who hate conflict/awkwardness/confrontation? I'm someone who HATES conflict/confrontation/awkwardness. I will go to great lengths to avoid conflict or confrontation. This is a big weakness that I need to improve on. Anyone have any tips?"
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"It depends on the person, the relationship, and the type of conflict. For people at work or acquaintances with which I have a disagreement, I tend to ask a lot of questions and hope they find a little perspective when hearing themselves out loud. It also gives you an opportunity to learn why they think or feel the way they do. Also, try to keep it as light as possible. Humor is the best way to handle stressful situations. If keeping it light is not an option then stay calm and never resort to insults...EVER. Only cowards and simpletons use insults. Instead, use your intellect and remain open to the possibility that you might be wrong, but if you are absolutely sure that you are not, and your logic checks out, then calmly state your side and the reasons why it is so and continue to ask A LOT of questions. Knowledge is power, dude. ",
"Believe in the reason you are involved in the conflict/confrontation/awkwardness. Why were you put into the situation in the first place? Be true to yourself and if you have to, explain why it is awkward. Be honest. Most importantly, there are always two sides. Hear the other party out before you make your statement too loud. You need to listen to the other person as much as possible to know how they feel too. Also, check your ego. Don't be afraid to be embarrassed. Admit that if you are wrong, you were wrong. You won't die from embarrassment. If you feel like you will, shrink your ego more."
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"How to be a good college roommate? I'm about to start college with 2 roommates. I've always been kinda solo so I wanted to hear some tips.",
"How to be a good college roommate? I'm about to start college with 2 roommates. I've always been kinda solo so I wanted to hear some tips.",
"How to be a good college roommate? I'm about to start college with 2 roommates. I've always been kinda solo so I wanted to hear some tips.",
"How to be a good college roommate? I'm about to start college with 2 roommates. I've always been kinda solo so I wanted to hear some tips.",
"How to be a good college roommate? I'm about to start college with 2 roommates. I've always been kinda solo so I wanted to hear some tips.",
"How to be a good college roommate? I'm about to start college with 2 roommates. I've always been kinda solo so I wanted to hear some tips.",
"How to be a good college roommate? I'm about to start college with 2 roommates. I've always been kinda solo so I wanted to hear some tips.",
"How to be a good college roommate? I'm about to start college with 2 roommates. I've always been kinda solo so I wanted to hear some tips."
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"- Close doors quietly. Twist the knob before opening/closing and gently close the door then release the knob. \n- If someone's watching a movie and you're feeling chatty, gauge their reaction before chatting it up. Some people like to be immersed in their movies...\n- Don't eat anything you didn't pay for unless it's explicitly offered. \n- Don't share anything unless you're prepared to have it ruined. \n- Don't use a fork to stir anything in a pot that isn't yours. \n- Work out how things like tp/paper towels/foil/baggies etc are going to be shared or not shared. \n- Go out on roommate dates from time to time. \n- If you have a problem with something someone does and it is *literally driving you insane*, you need to say something. But don't be a dick about it. Keep it casual. Just be like \"Yo, roomie, I really don't like that you smoke in the house. Could you go outside? By the way, how was work?\" Usually these things seem like a big deal in your head, especially if you have girl roommates, but they really aren't a big deal. \n- Don't smoke anything inside unless it's been okay'd by everyone. Even vapes.\n- Maintain good hygiene. \n- Do your dishes within 12 hours of using them. \n- If your roommate asks you to do something differently, like not slam the cabinet doors at 5am, don't take it personally. ",
"Communication is key! Trust me it doesn't hurt the person you're telling that something from them bothers you. You guys are adults and should respect each other by now. Also, mark your food. People have a subconscious guilt when things have names and are about to take it.\n\nAlso, whatever happens in the dorm/apartment stays there. If you walk in on one of your roommates whacking it, act like you didn't see it and move on. Talk about it in a professional manner and move on. Seriously it's natural. If one of your roommates is cheating on his girlfriend, you keep your fucking mouth shut! The last thing you want is tension between each other. That's his problem. Don't make it yours opening your mouth. I cannot emphasize enough about the idea of keeping everything inside the dorm/apartment.\n\nOtherwise have a great time with your roommates because it might just be the best time of your life...\n\nUntil you get married.",
"The two most important things; wash your balls, and your dishes. Not together, nor necessarily in that order. For the rest, just follow the golden rule, or ask for their input.",
"At the risk of sounding like a bible basher (I'm not religious)\n\nDo unto others as you would have them do unto you.\n\n*cue butt fucking comments*.",
"Here's a few things to keep in mind:\n\n-Be VERY careful about how you approach roommate conflict. My last roommate conflict. If they're pissed off or you're pissed off, wait until things calm down to talk about things. If a big yelling fight erupts, it can cause a lot of ongoing problems. \n\n-With that being said, try to communicate. You're better to nip problems in the butt before they pile up and eliminating problems early will make life a lot easier.\n\n-Recognize when you need to be quiet, even if you don't know if your roommate(s) are asleep or not. 12 AM to 8 AM is generally a timeframe where you should avoid vacuuming or running a blender or anything like that unless you know it's okay with the others.\n\n-As someone else noted, don't smoke or vape inside (if you do that) unless you know it's okay. Even then, try to conceal the smell. Obviously if you don't smoke it's a nonissue.\n\n-Let your roommates know if you're going to have a group over and make sure that you're responsible for them unless they're mutual friends or something. \n\nHonestly, there are things that are going to piss you off about having roommates. It really, really sucks sometimes. Regardless, try to stay respectful and avoid conflict unless necessary. ",
"Go to /r/pettyrevenge \nSearch for 'roommates'\n\nThere are a lot of common themes of what roommates do that prompt revenge. A lot of them involve common sense (don't be gross, if you dirty it clean it up, respect sleep schedules, don't make your girlfriend/boyfriend an extra roommate). \n\nThe problem is that many people can make a reasonable request, \"Hey can you turn the music down please?\" And the reaction from the asshole roommate is \"make me\".\n\nUsually the person who is willing to make everyone's life hell gets their way. People give in to pacify them and make the temper tantrum stop, but it just rewards them. \n\nDon't be that guy/gal.",
"Do not complain if you move in later and they have some stuff already set up, that's extremely selfish.",
"-Don't play your music obnoxiously loud\n\n-Don't leave dishes in the sink for more than a day. Dishwasher is another story\n\n-Don't make a mess of the bathroom; if you destroy the toilet after a bad taco night or shave yourself down there, clean your mess up. Oh yeah, don't leave toothpaste in the sink\n\n-Set up a division of chores and rotate them by week. Pull your own weight\n\n-Don't take your roommate's food unless you get permission. Same with quarters for laundry and cooking utensils \n\n-If you're not the most tidy of people, at least keep your mess to yourself\n\n-Set up a night or two per week where you all go out for beer and wings or paintball or something\n\n-If you do drugs, DO NOT do them in the apartment\n\n-Wait until you're familiar with each other before you start fucking with their shit in an effort to prank them\n\n-Talk to each other, whether over video games or shots. You're all human, and humans need communication, even us introverted types"
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"How to tactfully ask for tips? I work as a guide on a tour boat that has a tip jar for the captain and crew. \n\nHow do I tactfully bring up tips to customers without it seeming like I'm too forward or desperate? I don't know if having the tip jar right out in the open is a bad practice by itself as it essentially demands tips, and I feel awkward saying \"Hey guys, before you go, don't forget to tip.\"\n\nIf anyone has advice or ideas on how to approach the topic in a tactful way, I'd be much obliged.",
"How to tactfully ask for tips? I work as a guide on a tour boat that has a tip jar for the captain and crew. \n\nHow do I tactfully bring up tips to customers without it seeming like I'm too forward or desperate? I don't know if having the tip jar right out in the open is a bad practice by itself as it essentially demands tips, and I feel awkward saying \"Hey guys, before you go, don't forget to tip.\"\n\nIf anyone has advice or ideas on how to approach the topic in a tactful way, I'd be much obliged.",
"How to tactfully ask for tips? I work as a guide on a tour boat that has a tip jar for the captain and crew. \n\nHow do I tactfully bring up tips to customers without it seeming like I'm too forward or desperate? I don't know if having the tip jar right out in the open is a bad practice by itself as it essentially demands tips, and I feel awkward saying \"Hey guys, before you go, don't forget to tip.\"\n\nIf anyone has advice or ideas on how to approach the topic in a tactful way, I'd be much obliged.",
"How to tactfully ask for tips? I work as a guide on a tour boat that has a tip jar for the captain and crew. \n\nHow do I tactfully bring up tips to customers without it seeming like I'm too forward or desperate? I don't know if having the tip jar right out in the open is a bad practice by itself as it essentially demands tips, and I feel awkward saying \"Hey guys, before you go, don't forget to tip.\"\n\nIf anyone has advice or ideas on how to approach the topic in a tactful way, I'd be much obliged.",
"How to tactfully ask for tips? I work as a guide on a tour boat that has a tip jar for the captain and crew. \n\nHow do I tactfully bring up tips to customers without it seeming like I'm too forward or desperate? I don't know if having the tip jar right out in the open is a bad practice by itself as it essentially demands tips, and I feel awkward saying \"Hey guys, before you go, don't forget to tip.\"\n\nIf anyone has advice or ideas on how to approach the topic in a tactful way, I'd be much obliged.",
"How to tactfully ask for tips? I work as a guide on a tour boat that has a tip jar for the captain and crew. \n\nHow do I tactfully bring up tips to customers without it seeming like I'm too forward or desperate? I don't know if having the tip jar right out in the open is a bad practice by itself as it essentially demands tips, and I feel awkward saying \"Hey guys, before you go, don't forget to tip.\"\n\nIf anyone has advice or ideas on how to approach the topic in a tactful way, I'd be much obliged.",
"How to tactfully ask for tips? I work as a guide on a tour boat that has a tip jar for the captain and crew. \n\nHow do I tactfully bring up tips to customers without it seeming like I'm too forward or desperate? I don't know if having the tip jar right out in the open is a bad practice by itself as it essentially demands tips, and I feel awkward saying \"Hey guys, before you go, don't forget to tip.\"\n\nIf anyone has advice or ideas on how to approach the topic in a tactful way, I'd be much obliged."
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"Since tipping is entirely voluntary, you could say *'If you enjoyed your tour, would you consider leaving a tip? We've enjoyed your company, and have a pleasant stay in the area.*'",
"Street performers have a science to this. It's called the \"hat line\" - the line that makes people want to drop money in the hat. \n\nI would do it with a joke or lighthearted comment that isn't confrontational but puts the idea in their head. Wherever the highlight of the tour is, make one of your statements really sound like \"insider info\" and preface it with something like \"and here's the little gem that makes me all my tips....\" ",
"My fiancé & I recently went to a ranch for a day of horseback riding. In the staging area where we learned to saddle the horses, there was a sign. It was pretty prominently placed, and also themed (old west style,) which said \"Don't forget to tip your wrangler\" or something similar.\n\nWe really really enjoyed the experience. If there hadn't been a sign, I may not have thought to give a tip. As such, our wranglers really made the day special, and tipping them felt great. If I hadn't tipped them, only to learn later that it would be customary, I would have felt absolutely horrible about it.\n\nI guess what I'm trying to say is that on a boat tour, many people probably aren't aware that a tip would be customary. Both you and the wranglers welfare depends on the tips, and it's not fair to lose out because of simple ignorance.\n\nI think you should find and old ships wheel and plank, and make a similar sign. Try to put it someplace that people can't miss seeing it, like on a post on the gangplank leading to the boat. Don't place it somewhere that they'll be staring at it the whole tour (i.e. behind the tour guide.)",
"You should earn your tips, but making people feel that it is ok to tip is acceptable as well. Some countries don't tip, it's cultural, and you shouldn't take offence to this. \n\nBuskers, as mentioned below, use the hat line. Its an honest line that comes off as genuine, and lets the audience know that tipping is standard, and anything is welcome, from nothing up to a new house. The added comedic element helps break the ice, and can lead to greater revenue. \n\nTL:DR Do a good job, mention tips, and go see a Busker.",
"Say \"any comments or complaints write them on a bill and put them in the tip jar and we will be sure to read them\" the people on the boat will know that their is a tip jar and it also might give them a little chuckle. ",
"i've never worked at a job that i could get tips from, but this always seemed like a fun idea to try with different questions etc\nhttp://i.imgur.com/TaVshum.jpg",
"Thanks for your business, if I wasn't a complete jerk to you, feel free to toss a tip my way. All funds go towards teaching pandas nuclear physics.\n\nSomething funny usually eases the tension."
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"What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? ",
"What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? ",
"What's the best thing a friend or family member did for you ( or you did) when you were going through something stressful or traumatic? "
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"during the lock down last year, my parents lose their jobs so they dont have any income and my 2 younger brother is still studying. so i sacrifice my savings every salary and tried to support them. im not really the type to go zero balance. but i didnt think of it at the time. good thing my husband supports me.",
"Listen very well and they may say what they need.\n Eg \nI cant get to work as the car is broken (send uber, pay for repair). We havent been out in a year and are still too scared to go out (get them netflix or vudu or send over uner eats)",
"I think you'll get more responses to this if you post it in r/AskReddit. \n\nThis sub is more for life tips."
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"the 'little things' that can ease my fingers from over-typing Hi all, \n\nI am on a computer aggressively typing for 60-70 hours a week. I use the built-in MacBook Pro keyboard. I've been typing 60-70 hours a week for about 2 years and will be for another 6 months or so. My fingers hurt big time (right pinky, right pointer, right ring finger in particular and in order of most pain). Two separate doctors have both said that the only 100% way to 'cure' this pain is to stop typing. I've told both that that isn't an option for 6 months. Some LPTs they've provided include the following:\n\n-squeeze a stress ball\n-run hands under warm water somewhat frequently (wash dishes by hand, for example)\n-try to take a break for a few minutes each hour\n\nI can't stop typing for the next 6 months or so, and want to load up on as many life pro tips as possible for alleviating as much pain as possible. I was actually hoping for some specific recommendations for anything in the line of:\n\n-the absolute best (regardless of price) USB or wireless keyboard to alleviate hand pain while typing.\n-vitamins or minerals I could be taking that are good for finger joints (fish oil pills?)\n-hand stretches (is this even a thing?)\n-anything else I may be forgetting, which can run as deep as lifestyle decisions (how I sit / how much I sleep), if I should ice my hand, etc.\n\nSave my hands reddit, I don't want to quit my job nor suffer long term finger / hand damage.\n\nThanks,",
"the 'little things' that can ease my fingers from over-typing Hi all, \n\nI am on a computer aggressively typing for 60-70 hours a week. I use the built-in MacBook Pro keyboard. I've been typing 60-70 hours a week for about 2 years and will be for another 6 months or so. My fingers hurt big time (right pinky, right pointer, right ring finger in particular and in order of most pain). Two separate doctors have both said that the only 100% way to 'cure' this pain is to stop typing. I've told both that that isn't an option for 6 months. Some LPTs they've provided include the following:\n\n-squeeze a stress ball\n-run hands under warm water somewhat frequently (wash dishes by hand, for example)\n-try to take a break for a few minutes each hour\n\nI can't stop typing for the next 6 months or so, and want to load up on as many life pro tips as possible for alleviating as much pain as possible. I was actually hoping for some specific recommendations for anything in the line of:\n\n-the absolute best (regardless of price) USB or wireless keyboard to alleviate hand pain while typing.\n-vitamins or minerals I could be taking that are good for finger joints (fish oil pills?)\n-hand stretches (is this even a thing?)\n-anything else I may be forgetting, which can run as deep as lifestyle decisions (how I sit / how much I sleep), if I should ice my hand, etc.\n\nSave my hands reddit, I don't want to quit my job nor suffer long term finger / hand damage.\n\nThanks,",
"the 'little things' that can ease my fingers from over-typing Hi all, \n\nI am on a computer aggressively typing for 60-70 hours a week. I use the built-in MacBook Pro keyboard. I've been typing 60-70 hours a week for about 2 years and will be for another 6 months or so. My fingers hurt big time (right pinky, right pointer, right ring finger in particular and in order of most pain). Two separate doctors have both said that the only 100% way to 'cure' this pain is to stop typing. I've told both that that isn't an option for 6 months. Some LPTs they've provided include the following:\n\n-squeeze a stress ball\n-run hands under warm water somewhat frequently (wash dishes by hand, for example)\n-try to take a break for a few minutes each hour\n\nI can't stop typing for the next 6 months or so, and want to load up on as many life pro tips as possible for alleviating as much pain as possible. I was actually hoping for some specific recommendations for anything in the line of:\n\n-the absolute best (regardless of price) USB or wireless keyboard to alleviate hand pain while typing.\n-vitamins or minerals I could be taking that are good for finger joints (fish oil pills?)\n-hand stretches (is this even a thing?)\n-anything else I may be forgetting, which can run as deep as lifestyle decisions (how I sit / how much I sleep), if I should ice my hand, etc.\n\nSave my hands reddit, I don't want to quit my job nor suffer long term finger / hand damage.\n\nThanks,"
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"I've heard that brown/blue switch mechanical keyboards are nicer on your hands for typing, might want to look into that.",
"I am a hand therapist and treat problems like yours daily! You are developing pain from repetitive motion (obviously!). In the long term, you are increasing your chance of arthritis in your digits. In the short term, you are causing inflammation to those joints which is what's giving you pain. NSAIDs (non steroidal anti inflammatory drugs) such as ibuprofen, Aleve, Advild, Naproxen, etc. are helpful to decrease the joint inflammation. Using ice baths directly after you feel like you've irritated your joints is also helpful to reduce swelling. Warm soaks can ease the painful stiffness first thing in the morning and throughout the day. A paraffin unit can alleviate stiffness as well.\n\nObviously trying to decrease the amount of time you spend typing would be best. But also protecting your joints during other tasks, such as gripping your steering wheel, opening jars, video games, yard work, etc. can help the overall stress to your hands.",
"Get a split keyboard, that helped me massively. I can type faster on one as well once i was accustomed to it (and stopped trying to hit Y with the left hand when it's on the right half of the keyboard)\n\nI have the Microsoft Natural ergonomic keyboard but have found most of the other split keyboards i've tried to be the same."
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"Getting rid of Acne Scars I have them on my face, and its a real pain. I am still fighting acne in some small places but the worst of it are the scars from picking at my face when I was in middle and high school. Its affecting my self esteem especially when walking into a room with florescent lights.\n\nPlease and Thank you",
"Getting rid of Acne Scars I have them on my face, and its a real pain. I am still fighting acne in some small places but the worst of it are the scars from picking at my face when I was in middle and high school. Its affecting my self esteem especially when walking into a room with florescent lights.\n\nPlease and Thank you",
"Getting rid of Acne Scars I have them on my face, and its a real pain. I am still fighting acne in some small places but the worst of it are the scars from picking at my face when I was in middle and high school. Its affecting my self esteem especially when walking into a room with florescent lights.\n\nPlease and Thank you",
"Getting rid of Acne Scars I have them on my face, and its a real pain. I am still fighting acne in some small places but the worst of it are the scars from picking at my face when I was in middle and high school. Its affecting my self esteem especially when walking into a room with florescent lights.\n\nPlease and Thank you",
"Getting rid of Acne Scars I have them on my face, and its a real pain. I am still fighting acne in some small places but the worst of it are the scars from picking at my face when I was in middle and high school. Its affecting my self esteem especially when walking into a room with florescent lights.\n\nPlease and Thank you",
"Getting rid of Acne Scars I have them on my face, and its a real pain. I am still fighting acne in some small places but the worst of it are the scars from picking at my face when I was in middle and high school. Its affecting my self esteem especially when walking into a room with florescent lights.\n\nPlease and Thank you",
"Getting rid of Acne Scars I have them on my face, and its a real pain. I am still fighting acne in some small places but the worst of it are the scars from picking at my face when I was in middle and high school. Its affecting my self esteem especially when walking into a room with florescent lights.\n\nPlease and Thank you",
"Getting rid of Acne Scars I have them on my face, and its a real pain. I am still fighting acne in some small places but the worst of it are the scars from picking at my face when I was in middle and high school. Its affecting my self esteem especially when walking into a room with florescent lights.\n\nPlease and Thank you"
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"All you need is skin lotion with as much vitamin E as you can get. that's what repairs skin quickest, i had the same thing really bad and it really helped. my favorite brand is dove because it has the least amount of chemicals, but other brands will do. Also if you can spare the money, Papaya soap from a health food store or a Vietnamese shop will DEFINITELY help. Hope you get more confidence from this Btw.",
"See a doctor: I did, it took around 15 mins and the medication he prescribed has improved my scars/acne 1000% ",
"It depends on what kind of scarring you have. If you have \"ice pick\" scarring (i.e. indentations in your skin), you'll probably have to see a dermatologist for a chemical/laser peel. If it's more along the lines of hyperpigmentation, I recommend using Retin-A-Micro. After taking Accutane for nine months, I had horrible dark red/brown spots left over from cystic acne. I started using Retin-A, and after four or five months, they've almost disappeared. If your skin isn't too oily, you could also try Bio-Oil. \n\nI know it's hard, but being patient is key. As time goes on, most hyperpigmentation fades. Just stay positive!",
"Bio Oil works really well on all kinds of irregular skin - It doesn't feel too bad going on, and isn't as oily as pure vitamin E oil. Works on stretch marks, too.",
"after using all these products to clear up any surface scars i would recommended a good face scrub just rub till your face is a little raw and your skin will heal smooth after it stops hurting ",
"LEMON, LEMON, LEMON! Believe me man! I've tried over the counter scar removers but nothing works better than plain old lemon juice!\n\nJust squeeze about half a lemon into a little container every morning/night and dob a cotton ball in it. Lightly dob your face with the lemon juice all over and leave it on your face for 15-20 minutes. IT WILL STING, but this is good. The lemon will shrink your pores and also act as a natural bleach, all while giving you good vitamins that your skin loves! Try it! Do it every day and you will see results in 2-3 weeks!\n\nGoogle this if you have doubts. Combine this with your daily acne cream/lotion application.",
"Avene Triacneal. It takes some time (~3 months) but the results are really good. Don't expect wonders, but it really makes bumby, uneven skin with big pores and scars better. Do not use it directly on broken skin / pimples. Use calendula essence for those spots, e.g. from Weleda or soemthing else from the pharmacy.\n\nVery important: Use sunscreen! And use one that is specially declared as non comedogen.",
"If ya have the money go and see a dermatologist. The best one your money can afford. At first the $400 a visit park ave doc gave me pills and his own \"line\" of cleansers, face washes and micro abrasion bead things.\n\nAfter my skin cleared up I stopped going and bought all the types of face washes I got from him through the face wash aisle at the pharmacy. Haven't had bad acne since, scars and all that stuff have gone away.\n\nMy girlfriend now insists on using all natural face wash types of things. I guess what works best for me now is tea-tree oil wipes and I use witch hazel as a cleanser. Although from dermatologist friends I have they said my skin isn't too sensitive which is why the natural stuff doesn't bother me."
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"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n",
"How to live alone without being lonely I just got back to my apartment in my college town from a brief visit home. I will have a job working 29 hours/week, and am taking a class which starts at the end of the month. Other than these outings and the occasional grocery shopping, I won't be out of the apartment very often. \n\nWith three whole months of this before my other room mates return and school resumes, I don't know how to cope with being completely alone. \n\nWhile I am introverted and like being alone, I do hate being lonely. What can I do to reduce this overwhelming feeling?\n\n"
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"Get a sock draw two eyes and a mouth on it put it on your hand an talk to it like its alive you dont have to feed it or anything pick a name too like gilbert or edward",
"Get out of the apartment. Make friends at work. Go to a bar. Go for walks or ride a bike if you have one. Does your apartment complex have a pool or gym? Those are good spots to enjoy yourself and engage in light conversation...",
"Start \"dating\" yourself. Find out what's going on in the area and go by yourself. You'll start to find what you really enjoy and actually meet people in the process. And be selective with who you decide to hang out with. Don't just latch on to every Tom, Dick and Harry you meet. Handcraft and select people who make you feel good and you legitimately have a good time with. You'll build a really good \"friend list\" in real life that you can draw from. I personally always loved living alone. Once you get into it, it's hard going back!",
"Others have said get out of the apartment when you can, and that's sound advice, but when you can't or really don't want to go anywhere, I'd suggest you find some podcasts or talk radio shows you enjoy. The best of each do an excellent job of creating a sense of community among listeners. Feeling like you belong to a community can do wonders in curing loneliness. ",
"I have a robot vacuum (think roomba) and if no one else is at home for a long period of time and I'm doing something downstairs I'll turn it on. It wanders around the house making a bit of noise, it's kind of like having a cat or something, it even occasionally nudges you.\n\nI realise this is very odd.",
"I'm like this. I usually like hanging around coffee shops or low key bars. Or join classes here and there. It lets me be \"part of a crowd\" without having to socialize ",
"Volunteer to walk dogs for a local shelter. You'll get plenty of social interaction at the dog park if you want it (or go on quieter routes if you don't), with the added bonus of 'well, have to go, dog needs to head back now ' when you're tired of talking to people, and the dogs will think you're the best thing since sliced bread thereby fulfilling a human need to be loved and have affection shown.",
"Obviously the big one would be buy a pet! Dog, cat, fish, Guinea pig, chinchilla, etc. Other than buying a companion you could always go halvesies and grab a roommate ",
"Sign up for an acting class. Theatre is a group art by nature, I'm sure you'll make friends easily there.\n",
"\" I won't be out of the apartment very often. \"\nwhy? get out there, meet people. \n\nalso you could get a second job for some extra money. find a cool hobby. masturbate. renovate/clean your flat. read books. watch movies. take drugs (better: don´t). go for a hike. go swimming. try to learn a new skill.\n\nalmost everthing is better than boredom, which often leads to loneliness.",
"Oooh oooh I learned this the hard way!!! All it takes is embracing the fact that you can either find yourself lonely (in which case, go find someone) or in a state of solitude (which is more of a state of mind, like being happy or focused)",
"What I enjoy is to wait until midnight and watch a scary / horror movie alone. Well, you won't feel very alone after some time. ",
"Well you're posting on an internet forum with millions of potential friends... the past 18 years my best friends have been on forums or IRC. Talk to some of us 'strangers' on a regular basis and soon we won't be strangers.",
"I really enjoy being alone. So... do any and everything that you love. I spent days in the park just reading books. I took long walks. At night I'd sit on my porch and watch the sun set. I also would set my alarm early and have coffee on my porch and watch the sunrise in the mornings. I practiced cooking amazing meals. At the time I didn't have television or internet, so my home was my peaceful place. If I did want to be around people then I would schedule outings with friends, museum trips, day trips to the beach, baseball games. But mostly I enjoyed being at home alone. \n\nDont look at the time alone as lonely, look at it as a relaxing time for yourself.",
"I find that the best way to keep yourself from being lonely is to regularly break your routine. \n\nIf you find yourself carrying on in monotony, go do something you've never tried before. We often fall into routines simply because it's the easiest course of action. You get up, have a bowl of cereal, and go to work. You sit at the same desk, talk to the same people (maybe nobody) and eat the same lunch day in and day out. Even the most introverted of people would begin to feel lonely after a bit of this.\n\nBreak your routine somehow. Talk to someone new today. Or maybe explore the campus or your workplace. You wouldn't believe some of the things you can find, or more importantly, the people you will meet.",
"> I don't know how to cope with being completely alone.\n\nYou do. The ability to ask the question on reddit says a lot about your ability to find the answer.\n\nA few things to consider while you have the time:\n\n1. Learn something that you always wanted to learn.\n2. Join a group, the cause of which you can relate with, and contribute with your time.\n3. Go for long walks. This may help you find the answer.\n\nAbove all, know that you are a lucky person to have this problem.",
"craigslist activity partners! seriously tho. join a coed softball league....be a free agent in the novice leagues. you'll find pals. \n\n\nor whatever hobby/outdoor thing you like--you can find folks doing that. \n\nthe main thing is YOU have to go out and look for it--it won't come looking for you.\n\ngood luck :)",
"Play some games online or offline. Town of salem is an interesting game that you can play in your browser for free. There are plenty of games you can play with people online.",
"Its like a self imposed prison.\n\nYou can go out and do anything you want... theoretically, but instead you're locked inside those four walls wondering when it will end.",
"I have achieved the situation where I am more comfortable being alone wondering if I should go visit someone or invite someone than live with someone else but wish desperately I could have more control over my own life.\n\nWithout looking at the other responses, I'm certain you've already been advised to join activity groups or service groups. Grab a local paper and you can very easily burn your fingers on the vast range of goings-on in the area or that are a short ride away; heck, get your hands on a bike and become an expert on your neighborhood.\n\nHave you caught every episode of Gilmore Girls? Libraries are enormous repositories of free DVD entertainment. Often if you can think of something, they can get it from another branch.\n\n",
"Find a bar and a coffee shop to become a \"regular\" at. Try to get lunch at the bar once or twice a month at least. Grab a cup of coffee or tea at the coffee shop and drink it there. Once you become a familiar face, it will be easier to meet people who are doing the same thing. It is also nice to spend leisure time outside of your home. If you have a tight budget like I do, just order a soup or salad for lunch at the bar. Just order a coffee at the cafe. You will get more comfortable doing this over time. Taking yourself out for a treat is really worth it, and it's completely normal! ",
"Play games with friends on Skype/Teamspeak. That's my go to at the moment but I want to start getting out more too, mostly cause I don't meet any girls playing games online :P\n\nI'm gonna learn to sail and maybe join a sailing club (my dad has a yacht) and I wanna start mountain biking and racing.",
"Make your home a place where you LOVE spending time. Paint it, build some shelves or a piece of furniture from a diy tutorial, pick wild flowers and add some life to the place. ",
"Get a cat? They take care of themselves while you're at work as long as they have food/water, and a litter box. They give you attention when you want it but leave you alone if they don't. ♡ look at an animal shelter. ",
"Even if you don't partake in the fun plant trees movie night it a Reddit based website for herb smokers to chill watch a movie or a show and chat at the same time... There are always about 200 people on so feel free to check it out ",
"Use Meetup.com to find local activities/events happening in your area. A lot of them are free. Great way to meet people. If you're busy you will better enjoy the time you have to yourself!",
"Does your apartment have a pool? Great place to socialize. Drive for a rideshare company a few hours a week. You'll be amazed at the people you meet. ",
"#1 Plan Ahead - Spend a lot of your time on sunday making sandwiches for the rest of the week.\n#2 Rest Assured - Go to bed early. Sleep it off!\n#3 Brain Games - Make up your own puzzles!"
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"LPT's for Highschool Some pro tips for an upcoming high school year would be pretty helpful to not only me but my fellow high school redditors. Anything?",
"LPT's for Highschool Some pro tips for an upcoming high school year would be pretty helpful to not only me but my fellow high school redditors. Anything?",
"LPT's for Highschool Some pro tips for an upcoming high school year would be pretty helpful to not only me but my fellow high school redditors. Anything?"
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"Just some stuff from the top of my head. \n\n* Take standardized tests seriously, even the ones that don't seem important. You might get scholarships and such.\n\n* Join a club or do some volunteer work. Any line on a college/job application helps; it shows that you have initiative and can balance your priorities. \n\n* I am biased, but try to get into forensics (debate, etc.). In addition to helping build your speaking and reasoning skills, you will meet a lot of smart people that will help with networking later on. Plus, it is really fun.\n\n* If you can, get a part time job, even and especially if it is a no-respect minimum wage job. It gives you some perspective on life and, like above, gives you some experience. \n\n* Try to take AP classes if they are offered and you have the ability. It will give you a jump start on college (and save you money). I didn't take the AP classes 'cause I was lazy, but it would have saved me a thousand or two for all the classes I could skip. \n\n* Above all, have fun and don't take things too seriously. This is the most important one.\n\nI'll sleep on it and post more if warranted. ",
"Don't rush in the hallways. It's always annoying to have a kid run past you or squeeze through a crowd to get where they are going.",
"Here's the biggest thing. \n\nIT FUCKING ENDS. \n\nYeah.. Pretty simple isn't it? Everyone in high school made huge deals out of everything, and none of them could ever grasp the concept that \"Oh shit.. This only lasts 1500 days.. \" Shit gets better, shit gets worse. \n\nOther schtuff.\n\n1) Do your homework. Even if you're lazy and aren't concerned with making honor roll, do your homework. Most teachers are lazy, so that homework weighs A LOT\n\n2) Pack your lunch. School lunch sucks.\n\n3) #YOLO. Now hear me out. This part is two fold. You're going to have the opportunity to make a lot of dumb choices these next four years. Take them, but use discretion. Should I stay up all night on a Sunday to go run the streets with friends? Yes. Should we do drugs? Probably not. Should we get shit faced? Probably not. Save that shit for the summer. Should we vandalize a building? No. Some poor bastard has to clean that shit. Should we just have a good time hanging out? Yes.\n\nWhat I'm trying to get to, is that it's okay to do dumb things. You do only live one time, so those stupid nights spent drinking syrup and derping around with friends in the Wall-Mart parking lot are going to be things you look back on while you're stuck hating your life in a cubicle or janitor's closet. Just don't do stupid shit you'll regret. No one want's a criminal record before a work one. \n\n4)Don't get fucking offended by shit. Then your friends can't joke with you and you just look like a douche.\n\n5) Join a club/sport/interest group/fucking marching band. It doesn't matter if you're the nerdiest mother fucker, or the coolest ass-hat on the block. You get a whole bunch of people who are like you gathered together, you're gonna have a good time. \n\n6) Make friends with teachers. They're people too, and you might be able to relate with one of them. Mr. Griffin was the first teacher I ever had in high school, and I ended up having him again in another class Junior year. He was the coolest dude I ever met. He almost went to a concert with me, but he was also a coach and the scheduling didn't work out. He was so bummed out. \n\nI'm not one to get sentiment, but he came up to be on graduation day and shook my hand. I almost cried a little bit. Not sure why, but it happened.\n\n7) If your school offers Astronomy, take it. It was the most fun I ever had earning a science cr",
"Classes to take if you have the option and are capable:\n\n* Take a language\n\n* Take an AP course or two or three\n\n* As soon as you can, get a job. I had a weekend job (just nights and mornings Saturday and Sunday) for three years, and it still makes me look good three years later.\n\n* Make sure you're friends with people you actually enjoy being around (this is sort of just a life thing, but it will make things a lot more enjoyable)\n\n* Start saving money (even just a little). Learning the practice is such an amazing life lesson, as well as having some extra cashola by the end of high school for a used car or what have you.\n\n* Teach yourself to be organized and efficient (easier said than done). This will help cut down IMMENSELY on homework time, studying time, etc. and let you still have a life even when taking tougher classes and having a life.",
"* **DO NOT BECOME A PARENT IN HIGH SCHOOL!** Also don't let anyone *make* you a parent. There really *are* tricky girls out there and all teenage guys will do/say nearly *anything* to get sex. There will be *plenty* of times/places where you could have sex so if you're not prepared (to be explicit: I mean you have a *fresh* condom or two on-hand that hasn't been sitting in your wallet for a year) so just *stop* and be prepared for the next time. Nothing says, \"I will be getting some forever\" than, \"I don't have a condom so we need to reschedule.\" Girls love that kind of confidence and guys will love the thought of having sex on the calendar!\n* Remember this in your senior year: A lot of the time hazing only stops when one of the \"older kids\" says, \"that's enough.\" **Be that person**. The people you stop won't really care and the people you rescue will never forget it. I'm talking, \"I will take a bullet for you\" never-forget-it. Or even, \"I will appear in a presidential ad in your favor telling everyone how amazing you are\" never-forget-it.\n* Don't rely on school to teach you *anything*. If you can learn things on your own, do so. No one becomes an expert in anything through lecture (not even lecturing!).\n* The point of high school is to *introduce* a wide variety of subjects so take advantage of this fact by *actually taking a wide variety of subjects*.\n* You will be treated like a prisoner a lot of the time. Your school might even have ~~armed guards~~ police officers patrolling the halls. There *will* be people that are just itching to catch you doing something you shouldn't. The best way to screw with these people is to *not cause trouble* in school (cause trouble somewhere else!). Psych yourself out by constantly repeating the following phrase your mind: \"I may run for president some day.\"\n* Don't let bullies get away with it: Anonymous reports of bullying are easy these days! Don't let these guys get *you* in trouble. Everyone has a camera on their phones these days!\n* *Don't be a bully* and don't seek revenge. Think of hateful feelings and hurt as a form of energy. The more you conserve the more power you'll have at your disposal for when you really need it.",
"You don't need a laptop, an iPad, a cell phone AND an iPod. Trust me, I got through school, on the honour roll, with none of those things. A cell can be handy, say if you missed the bus a need a ride home. But nothing else will help you much more to learn than your own two hands and a pen. ",
"I'll keep it simple.\n\nDon't feel like you are defined by your friends - many wont be in a few years\n\nGet good sleep - School sucks, but it's not that bad when you are well rested. Trying to get thru a full day with hardly any sleep is the worst.\n\nDon't think of your teachers as the enemy, they are people. Develop reltationships with them and you will learn more and receive better grades.\n\nGirls are just as nervous / awkward as many of the boys. They do a better job of hiding it by hanging in their girl swarms. If you can get them out of that comfort zone, you'd be surprised how well you can do dating-wise.",
"Don't let someone else tell you you cannot do anything. Friends of mine, coaches, parents, and some teachers doubted my goals and aspirations for me in my life. All 4 years I had a set goal of going to a specific prestigious college. No matter how tough shit got, I kept working and working towards that goal. Then, I was accepted and everyones jaws dropped. \n\nThe moral is have a goal/dream and NEVER give up on it. ",
"Don't just spout off the beliefs that have been shoved down your throat by your parents, think and learn to form your own ideas and opinions.\n\nGet a job. ~~Even if~~ Especially if your parents will be paying for college. My first job taught me tons of lessons that I never could have gotten from school. The job experience will be helpful in getting better jobs later. Plus, money.\n\nDon't waste time on \"drama\" or being \"cool\". There are so many better things to do.\n\nIf you decide to go to college, don't go to a college just because your friends are going there or because it's the home of your favorite sports team or it has a \"famous name\". \n\nOn that note: just because you can get loans to cover your tuition cost, it doesn't mean that you should! Apply for scholarships, get a job, pick a reasonably priced school.\n\nAspire to be less like Scumbag Steve and more like Good Guy Greg.\n",
"* Take as many AP exams as possible. Will save lots of money in college. If you don't do well on the exam you can probably take the class at your local community college which will be cheaper/easier than at a 4 year institution.\n\n* Realize there is nothing wrong w/ doing your first yr of college at a cc.\n\n* Get a job at least in the summers if you don't think you can handle work & school.\n\n* Learn how to save and manages your money. Subscribe to the following redditsL r/frugal, r/personalfinance and r/investing.\n\n* Learn how to cook.\n\n* It's perfectly okay to be a nerd. Nerds end up running the world so don't pick on them.\n\n* You might want to subscribe r/teenagers",
"get a job hipppie. Think of this way if you don't care about school and are doing the minimum anyway like so many people get a job and make money. Work late, work weekends, work often because that is what you will be doing out of HS should not have a plan. I mean that shit wage job specifically. if you don't like it find what you want to do and do it. I found my personal experience almost an entire waste of time retrospectively. I would have rather been working 16 onward or started a vocation at that time instead. No Regrets just an observation",
"Do your homework. I rarely ever actually did my homework and I seriously regret it. The few classes where I actually did all my homework, I got As. And honestly, it won't take you more than a few hours a night...",
"Do your homework, and pay attention in class. Definitely take notes. Go into your classes during lunch and make up whatever you didn't do, and ask the teacher questions during that time. Fuck the other students' opinions. \n\nI didn't go by that my first two years of high school, and had to do summer school each year. This is my third year, and I'm determined to do better. \n\nRead more. Whether it be Stephen King, Friedrich Nietzsche, or even that bitch who wrote Twilight. ",
"Try to balance education, social activities, and extracurriculars. Do not get a job, it takes too much time and energy. The experience is not worth what you give up."
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"How can one improve their ability to write by hand, quickly and in large quantities? Perhaps is just a matter of practice, but I would really like to improve in this area. I manage a supported living home for exceptionally vulnerable adults, we take minute to minute notes on their progress and complete a LOT of handwritten documentation to ensure we are providing the best service possible and track events for greater accountability. Any LPTs which would\nmake generating large volumes of hand written documents easier and more legible for our team would be greatly appreciated!",
"How can one improve their ability to write by hand, quickly and in large quantities? Perhaps is just a matter of practice, but I would really like to improve in this area. I manage a supported living home for exceptionally vulnerable adults, we take minute to minute notes on their progress and complete a LOT of handwritten documentation to ensure we are providing the best service possible and track events for greater accountability. Any LPTs which would\nmake generating large volumes of hand written documents easier and more legible for our team would be greatly appreciated!",
"How can one improve their ability to write by hand, quickly and in large quantities? Perhaps is just a matter of practice, but I would really like to improve in this area. I manage a supported living home for exceptionally vulnerable adults, we take minute to minute notes on their progress and complete a LOT of handwritten documentation to ensure we are providing the best service possible and track events for greater accountability. Any LPTs which would\nmake generating large volumes of hand written documents easier and more legible for our team would be greatly appreciated!"
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"It's becoming a lost art, but learn \"shorthand.\" I picked it up from my grandmother while in college and never looked back. Super fast note taking during long lectures.",
"There is really only one way to improve any dexterous skill, practice correctly. Repetition builds muscle memory.",
"I don't know if the situation allows for you to have something like a chart with common things to mark off, but it sounds like that might help with comparisons. Even just a paper with zones for different types of things might streamline the process."
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"Dress Pants for Work/Slacks/Khakis Recommendations Please Hello all, this is my first post here and first I wanted to say hooray me, I got a new (union position) job in my school district and I am so thrilled. I have been working for years to get where I am now :)\n\nBut onto my post, \n\nI am seeking some fashion advice please :) I'm 5'8 and 200 pounds but built solidly with cyclist's legs and backside, broad shoulders but still a bit of a tummy. I just got a new job and I want to upgrade my wardrobe. Shirts I have sorted but my problem is dress pants/khakis/slacks. \n\nCould anyone recommend me some nice pants? My typical jeans are the athletic cut Denizen by Levi or Haggar khakis (CoolRight Performance Flex) but I was wondering if y'all had any better ideas for more professional/attractive look.\n\nThanks in advance!",
"Dress Pants for Work/Slacks/Khakis Recommendations Please Hello all, this is my first post here and first I wanted to say hooray me, I got a new (union position) job in my school district and I am so thrilled. I have been working for years to get where I am now :)\n\nBut onto my post, \n\nI am seeking some fashion advice please :) I'm 5'8 and 200 pounds but built solidly with cyclist's legs and backside, broad shoulders but still a bit of a tummy. I just got a new job and I want to upgrade my wardrobe. Shirts I have sorted but my problem is dress pants/khakis/slacks. \n\nCould anyone recommend me some nice pants? My typical jeans are the athletic cut Denizen by Levi or Haggar khakis (CoolRight Performance Flex) but I was wondering if y'all had any better ideas for more professional/attractive look.\n\nThanks in advance!",
"Dress Pants for Work/Slacks/Khakis Recommendations Please Hello all, this is my first post here and first I wanted to say hooray me, I got a new (union position) job in my school district and I am so thrilled. I have been working for years to get where I am now :)\n\nBut onto my post, \n\nI am seeking some fashion advice please :) I'm 5'8 and 200 pounds but built solidly with cyclist's legs and backside, broad shoulders but still a bit of a tummy. I just got a new job and I want to upgrade my wardrobe. Shirts I have sorted but my problem is dress pants/khakis/slacks. \n\nCould anyone recommend me some nice pants? My typical jeans are the athletic cut Denizen by Levi or Haggar khakis (CoolRight Performance Flex) but I was wondering if y'all had any better ideas for more professional/attractive look.\n\nThanks in advance!",
"Dress Pants for Work/Slacks/Khakis Recommendations Please Hello all, this is my first post here and first I wanted to say hooray me, I got a new (union position) job in my school district and I am so thrilled. I have been working for years to get where I am now :)\n\nBut onto my post, \n\nI am seeking some fashion advice please :) I'm 5'8 and 200 pounds but built solidly with cyclist's legs and backside, broad shoulders but still a bit of a tummy. I just got a new job and I want to upgrade my wardrobe. Shirts I have sorted but my problem is dress pants/khakis/slacks. \n\nCould anyone recommend me some nice pants? My typical jeans are the athletic cut Denizen by Levi or Haggar khakis (CoolRight Performance Flex) but I was wondering if y'all had any better ideas for more professional/attractive look.\n\nThanks in advance!",
"Dress Pants for Work/Slacks/Khakis Recommendations Please Hello all, this is my first post here and first I wanted to say hooray me, I got a new (union position) job in my school district and I am so thrilled. I have been working for years to get where I am now :)\n\nBut onto my post, \n\nI am seeking some fashion advice please :) I'm 5'8 and 200 pounds but built solidly with cyclist's legs and backside, broad shoulders but still a bit of a tummy. I just got a new job and I want to upgrade my wardrobe. Shirts I have sorted but my problem is dress pants/khakis/slacks. \n\nCould anyone recommend me some nice pants? My typical jeans are the athletic cut Denizen by Levi or Haggar khakis (CoolRight Performance Flex) but I was wondering if y'all had any better ideas for more professional/attractive look.\n\nThanks in advance!",
"Dress Pants for Work/Slacks/Khakis Recommendations Please Hello all, this is my first post here and first I wanted to say hooray me, I got a new (union position) job in my school district and I am so thrilled. I have been working for years to get where I am now :)\n\nBut onto my post, \n\nI am seeking some fashion advice please :) I'm 5'8 and 200 pounds but built solidly with cyclist's legs and backside, broad shoulders but still a bit of a tummy. I just got a new job and I want to upgrade my wardrobe. Shirts I have sorted but my problem is dress pants/khakis/slacks. \n\nCould anyone recommend me some nice pants? My typical jeans are the athletic cut Denizen by Levi or Haggar khakis (CoolRight Performance Flex) but I was wondering if y'all had any better ideas for more professional/attractive look.\n\nThanks in advance!"
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"The Levis/Denizen brand has khakis that are stretchy and comfortable. Bonus; you can actually move in them if the job calls for it. Even if you don't have to they are still comfortable. I needed khakis for work and wish I would have just bought four pairs right off the bat as I wear them the most.\n\n",
"Keep it work casual. At times, I had to google, which pants color would go with what color shoes. What shirt colors go with what color pants. \n\nKeep it simple, you not going out to a bar to pick up women. Dress code at work is not a competitive sport. No need to spend big money on work clothing.\n\nYou can buy decent work clothes at Marshals, Ross, Nordstrom Rack.",
"I picked up a bunch of bonobos after getting a pair through trunk club (RIP). I am been quiet happy with them.",
"I had really good luck with golf pants. They look professional but have an athletic, comfortable fit. PGA has its own brand and I have some Under Armour too.",
"Haggar makes very awesome slacks https://www.haggar.com/mens-eclo-stria-dress-pants/, my go to for a decade.",
"A waist and inseam measurement would be better to post as men's pants are measured that way instead of your height and weight. Walmart carries the George Forman collection called George for big and tall that includes khakis so you can't go wrong with that."
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"Alternate uses for retractable dog leash My dog's leash is broken. It's a large 16ft one. The part that hooks onto the dog's collar has broken (chewed off, actually), but the mechanism still works and some of the external part remains. \n\nDoes anyone have some cool alternative use for this. It would be a shame to throw it out when most of it still works. \n\nBTW: I'm not looking for a way to fix it, just a way to re-purpose it. I've already got a new working leash.\n\n",
"Alternate uses for retractable dog leash My dog's leash is broken. It's a large 16ft one. The part that hooks onto the dog's collar has broken (chewed off, actually), but the mechanism still works and some of the external part remains. \n\nDoes anyone have some cool alternative use for this. It would be a shame to throw it out when most of it still works. \n\nBTW: I'm not looking for a way to fix it, just a way to re-purpose it. I've already got a new working leash.\n\n"
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"Funny you asked this! It happened to me before and I duct taped it to my tv remote so it can never be lost. Wasn't pretty looking but it did a damn fine job! We had the handle part under the leg of the coffee table. Also, we painted it to give it some pizzazz. I miss that contraption...",
"We used ours as a automatic door closer for our patio screen door. Originally designed to allow my dog to open the patio door herself and have the door close behind her. Also useful when your arms are full during a dinner party."
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"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this.",
"Understanding people with hard accents or people who speak little English. I work in a grocery store, and there isnt always someone around for translation. So usually we go back and forth trying to figure out what they're saying and the customer ends up frustrated and leaves. I'd like to avoid this."
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"Don't use any idioms or figures of speech... once you start looking out for them, you suddenly realize they're in everything we say. Case in point, did you see three? \"Figures of speech,\" \"looking out,\" and \"case in point\" will not make sense to a non-English speaker even if he knows the meaning of each word separately. Replace these with the literal words \"expression,\" \"looking for,\" and \"example.\" ",
"When I worked retail, a translator app on my phone was a huge benefit. I would run down the list of languages until their eyes lit up and they pointed at their comfort language. Then just let them type their request in. It usually resulted in a lot of bowing and thanking. ",
"You just need to get familiar with how one phoneme (word sound) in the accent translates to the phoneme in your accent. Try replicating the accent and talking like the accent you are trying to figure out (best to do this by yourself) and if you can speak very accurately in the accent you will then better be able to understand it.\n\nhttp://www.scientificamerican.com/podcast/episode/imitate-an-accent-to-better-underst-10-12-08/",
"Speak slowly and use the most simple words you can think of.\n\nI'm not a native speaker and when I was learning English it was pretty frustrating when people talked too fast.\n\nHope it helps.",
"Speak at a relaxed speed (but not *slowly*, people need to also listen to the cadence of your voice and speaking too slowly will change that) and minimise the number of idioms that you use. Use straightforward, simple sentences, wherever possible.\n\nAlso, make sure that you don't trail off your sentences or make little interjections - if you're not confident with another language, it's not always easy to tell whether you missed something crucial, so the other person may be confused if you make quips that weren't vital to the conversation. ",
"Relax. Sometimes it's the expectation of a difficult accent or broken English that can cause a mental block. I live in Japan, on the phone I have no problems, in person most Japanese have a complete meltdown. ",
"Practice really does make perfect for this. Hearing an accent over and over, eventually you will pick up on commonalities of the accent and listening will become second nature. You also have to be a VERY active listener of each word the say as they say it. I find it also helps to use context heavily; You may not understand every word clearly, but generally if you piece the few words you do understand together you can pick up the context and overall meaning of the sentence.",
"Keep in mind that in most languages, the noun comes first. An English speaker would say \"big, red car\" whereas most languages would say \"car, big and red\". ",
"I always found when I worked in retail that explaining what I meant by certain turns of phrase really helped out people who spoke little English. Made them feel more included in the community, and hey, it's a free English lesson too!",
"Have you asked your place of employment if they have any resources to help you communicate better with customers. If it is one specific language you could always ask a co-worker who is fluent to help you learn a few key phrases. Then have a list of key words that the customers usually ask. If you can get the basic gist of the conversation you should be successful with the interaction. Like /u/Mathemasmitten had mentioned you can use images. If the company doesn't provide anything you could always make something of your own. Who knows it could be adopted by the business. ",
"*Blame yourself* to avoid embarrassing the other person.\n\n\"I'm sorry I don't have a lot of experience with your accent. Can I ask you to repeat that please?\", accompanied by obvious listening.\n\nEven if that person is offended, they have no reason to be and you shouldn't take that as you're being rude..",
"So long as you don't get angry with them, things generally work themselves out. Getting them to maintain calm, however, is sometimes damned near impossible. Using simplistic language and speaking slowly as said here is always a good idea."
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"How to dance. Goofy white guy here, anyone have some words of wisdom for not looking like a doofus on the dance floor? ",
"How to dance. Goofy white guy here, anyone have some words of wisdom for not looking like a doofus on the dance floor? "
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"The most basic thing is:\n\nKeep your arms near your chest as if you are holding a book near your stomach or like you are jogging, but without the front-back motion. Then just go left with your left foot, close in with your right, go right with your right foot and close in with your left, repeat. And have a little smile looking like \"I like dancing\".\n\nThat's it. If you can keep the rythm, you won't look like a doofus.",
"No real tutorial, but a quick list of pointers:\n\n* When you first start feeling like you can dance, it'll be erratic and all over the show. It takes a while to calibrate down and be able to move without being too exagerrated.\n\n* It's all in the shoulders, legs and hips. If your hands are flying about all over the place, fuck that. So long as said hands aren't just hanging by your side you're doing alright. \n\n* Knowing a lot of music really helps. This is because you already know how it goes and thus can move appropriately to it. Also, go out to places with music that you'll like.\n\n* Doing cheesy stuff is a false friend. Try and avoid doing cheesy stuff to non cheesy music.\n\n* Dance in the privacy of your own home to radio music. Mainstream radio music. Dance whilst cooking, dance whilst cleaning.\n\n* General pattern - tap foot (your 'good side') to music you listen to. Get used to the beat. Start throwing in other things. Keep adding to it. Dial it down/dial it up depending. Hey presto, you can dance."
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"how to deal with an unjust family Hi,\nIm the oldest sibling in my house but i get treated very unfairly. Parents get mad at me for verbally retaliating against disrespectful younger siblings who even get physical . In return my parents literally stop talking to me . I think its a childish way of approaching matters( i am in my extremely early 20s). I understand i make mistakes too (none of us are perfect) but Im damn sure i do a lot for everyone in the house from emotional support to helping with finances i do my best even if i barely have anything. (They know this too). Im out of the house in September for College but till then i wanted to know how can i avoid all of this drama and stress? Like are there any tips where i can do my best to avoid conflict with them until i move out in a few months to college? \nThank you very much in advance.",
"how to deal with an unjust family Hi,\nIm the oldest sibling in my house but i get treated very unfairly. Parents get mad at me for verbally retaliating against disrespectful younger siblings who even get physical . In return my parents literally stop talking to me . I think its a childish way of approaching matters( i am in my extremely early 20s). I understand i make mistakes too (none of us are perfect) but Im damn sure i do a lot for everyone in the house from emotional support to helping with finances i do my best even if i barely have anything. (They know this too). Im out of the house in September for College but till then i wanted to know how can i avoid all of this drama and stress? Like are there any tips where i can do my best to avoid conflict with them until i move out in a few months to college? \nThank you very much in advance.",
"how to deal with an unjust family Hi,\nIm the oldest sibling in my house but i get treated very unfairly. Parents get mad at me for verbally retaliating against disrespectful younger siblings who even get physical . In return my parents literally stop talking to me . I think its a childish way of approaching matters( i am in my extremely early 20s). I understand i make mistakes too (none of us are perfect) but Im damn sure i do a lot for everyone in the house from emotional support to helping with finances i do my best even if i barely have anything. (They know this too). Im out of the house in September for College but till then i wanted to know how can i avoid all of this drama and stress? Like are there any tips where i can do my best to avoid conflict with them until i move out in a few months to college? \nThank you very much in advance.",
"how to deal with an unjust family Hi,\nIm the oldest sibling in my house but i get treated very unfairly. Parents get mad at me for verbally retaliating against disrespectful younger siblings who even get physical . In return my parents literally stop talking to me . I think its a childish way of approaching matters( i am in my extremely early 20s). I understand i make mistakes too (none of us are perfect) but Im damn sure i do a lot for everyone in the house from emotional support to helping with finances i do my best even if i barely have anything. (They know this too). Im out of the house in September for College but till then i wanted to know how can i avoid all of this drama and stress? Like are there any tips where i can do my best to avoid conflict with them until i move out in a few months to college? \nThank you very much in advance.",
"how to deal with an unjust family Hi,\nIm the oldest sibling in my house but i get treated very unfairly. Parents get mad at me for verbally retaliating against disrespectful younger siblings who even get physical . In return my parents literally stop talking to me . I think its a childish way of approaching matters( i am in my extremely early 20s). I understand i make mistakes too (none of us are perfect) but Im damn sure i do a lot for everyone in the house from emotional support to helping with finances i do my best even if i barely have anything. (They know this too). Im out of the house in September for College but till then i wanted to know how can i avoid all of this drama and stress? Like are there any tips where i can do my best to avoid conflict with them until i move out in a few months to college? \nThank you very much in advance.",
"how to deal with an unjust family Hi,\nIm the oldest sibling in my house but i get treated very unfairly. Parents get mad at me for verbally retaliating against disrespectful younger siblings who even get physical . In return my parents literally stop talking to me . I think its a childish way of approaching matters( i am in my extremely early 20s). I understand i make mistakes too (none of us are perfect) but Im damn sure i do a lot for everyone in the house from emotional support to helping with finances i do my best even if i barely have anything. (They know this too). Im out of the house in September for College but till then i wanted to know how can i avoid all of this drama and stress? Like are there any tips where i can do my best to avoid conflict with them until i move out in a few months to college? \nThank you very much in advance."
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"i strongly suggest you workout on a daily basis. I mean really get into working out. You dont need a gym or anythign fancy. just commit to running about a mile or more a day and do pushups,etc. \n\nIts very very important to exhaust and strengthen yourself physically as a means to build a hedge around your emotional self. You will find in quick time that the phycological badgering you feel will have less impact on you.\n\nsource: life experience",
"I was in the exact same situation as you about a year ago. I was 19, going to college, living at home, and jumping between jobs. The thing is, I love my parents and they love me, but this unappreciation and siblong treatment really got to me.\nThen, one day, right before the fall 2016 semester, after the last straw, I straight up left the house. I called a group of friends who were looking for a roommate, packed my stuff, left a note on my desk, got an Uber, and I was gone. A few weeks later I started classes, then later got a stable job, and to this day I'm living with those guys and I'm on the same job. \nWhat effect did this have on my folks and little sisters? Well, our relationship was fixed. Almost completely. The distance really helped us to realize how much we need each other. My parents stopped being so critical of my life choices, and were far more greatful for my contributions to the family. They care about me, and I care about them. My mother worries about my diet and hygiene and stuff, you know, brings me soup and other foods on the occasion. Just the other day I casually repaired a broken lock on one of their doors (which is easier for me since I work at The Home Depot). And my sister and I basically don't fight anymore. In other words, I feel like we're acting far more like a family now, even though we see each other far less often. A bit paradoxal, but it makes sense. \nNow, looking back, I feel like leaving so radically and unexpectedly was a mistake. I know I made my mother cry, and my sisters were confused about my life choices. My father felt super guilty about the incident that sparked my leaving, even though it's not that big a deal. \nI do recommend leaving and living on your own. Perhaps you should prepare your parents, unlike me, and make the transition smother. Also, make sure to get a job and a way to sustain or partially sustain yourself (I know it's hard in this economy, I'm working so many hours) so you're actually on your own and not still living on your parents' backs.\nI hope my story helps you make a decision, OP. Good luck, I hope everything goes well :) ",
"How old are the younger ones? If they are over 8 years old and have functioning brains, have a family meeting. Tell your parents you are sick of the bullshit. Tell the kids (while your parents are right there) that the next time they hit you, you are going to hit back. Remind them that you are family, which means you (probably) won't knock their teeth out. It's what happens in real life, so they may as well get used to it now.",
"focus on work. get a hobby that either takes you out of the house or keeps you in your room. try breathing exercises. study your subjects before you get to college. get books on tape or interesting podcasts and take long walks. just basically keep busy. your parents are probably looking forward to some quiet. let these months before you leave be remembered as you taking the high road and keeping the peace. ",
"Late teens/early 20s is a difficult time for parent/child relationships. My first year of college, I barely came home for weekends and over time my relationship with my parents and my sibling became better just from the lack of seeing each other. Eventually, it became more about doing fun things together instead of lecturing/bothering me. It gets better when they realize they miss you. In the mean time, find a place outside of the home to hang out, I personally loved the library or nearby parks (weather permitting,) anywhere I could be alone or hang out with the people I chose to. Get involved with volunteering or something of that nature that will give you a reason to be out of the house.",
"Hi spend time away from all of them as much as you can.\n\n\nI face the exact same issues, I'm the eldest and in my very early 20s.\n\nI even get asked for money and shit. I stay out all day, at University, come home 3 hours before bed, go to my room and relax, I then sleep and leave the house next day whenever I need to.\n\nHell, I haven't even been in the lounge for like a week. \n\nI have a job so I can eat out daily. \n\nThat's all I can say, avoid them "
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"How to stopy sweaty feet? I sweat quite a lot and the thing I hate the most are sweaty feet. Not only do they smell bad they also damage my shoes if I'm wearing suede. My socks are always wet regardless of what shoe I'm wearing. Is there anything I can do to minimaze this?",
"How to stopy sweaty feet? I sweat quite a lot and the thing I hate the most are sweaty feet. Not only do they smell bad they also damage my shoes if I'm wearing suede. My socks are always wet regardless of what shoe I'm wearing. Is there anything I can do to minimaze this?",
"How to stopy sweaty feet? I sweat quite a lot and the thing I hate the most are sweaty feet. Not only do they smell bad they also damage my shoes if I'm wearing suede. My socks are always wet regardless of what shoe I'm wearing. Is there anything I can do to minimaze this?",
"How to stopy sweaty feet? I sweat quite a lot and the thing I hate the most are sweaty feet. Not only do they smell bad they also damage my shoes if I'm wearing suede. My socks are always wet regardless of what shoe I'm wearing. Is there anything I can do to minimaze this?"
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"Take a look here. There are resources and procedures available for your problem - https://www.sweathelp.org/where-do-you-sweat/sweaty-feet.html",
"I have extremely sweaty hands and feet. For the feet high quality wool socks helped a ton. I found farm to feet and fits worked the best me, fits being my favorite. They are expensive but I’ve had some pairs of fits for well over 200 days of wear or 1500-2000 miles before they start wearing through.",
"I have the same problem. My solution are open sandals (sometimes with socks). \n\n\nPros: feet don't get humid, sandals don't wear down more because of that.\n\nCons: sometimes they smell bad, but there are ways to mitigate that: wearing socks; sunbathing them from time to time; using talc powder (with socks, sandals won't keep them); alternating between other pairs; etc.",
"I bought some aerogel shoe inserts. Originally I bought them for the winter because my feet would freeze while walking the dog. But I noticed they also help prevent my feet from absorbing warmth in the summer. It worked for me. But if you're not in a warmer area and your feet are still sweating. You're probably hosed. You can look into shoes that have better venting. I have a pair of volleyball shoes which have openings in the bottom for venting. But this doesn't work well in the rain or wet ground.\n\nThere's also the aluminum chloride route. Someone else just had a thread about back sweat. If you go to the doctor and you have hyperhidrosis they can prescribe you a 20% solution whereas deodorant is about 1% AC. You COULD, in theory, put it on your feet. But this is not what it is prescribed for. And be very careful not to put this all over your body. Your body needs to sweat to cool down."
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"How do you speak to job recruiters between 9AM-5PM without anyone knowing at work? I've applied to a lot of jobs, but I can't answer phone calls I get while i'm at work, because I don't want anyone knowing I'm applying to other positions. After 5PM no one is in the office when I call them back. What have some of you done to overcome this issue?",
"How do you speak to job recruiters between 9AM-5PM without anyone knowing at work? I've applied to a lot of jobs, but I can't answer phone calls I get while i'm at work, because I don't want anyone knowing I'm applying to other positions. After 5PM no one is in the office when I call them back. What have some of you done to overcome this issue?",
"How do you speak to job recruiters between 9AM-5PM without anyone knowing at work? I've applied to a lot of jobs, but I can't answer phone calls I get while i'm at work, because I don't want anyone knowing I'm applying to other positions. After 5PM no one is in the office when I call them back. What have some of you done to overcome this issue?",
"How do you speak to job recruiters between 9AM-5PM without anyone knowing at work? I've applied to a lot of jobs, but I can't answer phone calls I get while i'm at work, because I don't want anyone knowing I'm applying to other positions. After 5PM no one is in the office when I call them back. What have some of you done to overcome this issue?",
"How do you speak to job recruiters between 9AM-5PM without anyone knowing at work? I've applied to a lot of jobs, but I can't answer phone calls I get while i'm at work, because I don't want anyone knowing I'm applying to other positions. After 5PM no one is in the office when I call them back. What have some of you done to overcome this issue?"
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"As a recruiter...just let me know a time that works for you post 5 and I’ll gladly stay late. If you no show don’t expect a response from me again. ",
"Do you have the ability to schedule your own lunch break?\n\nDo you have the option of grabbing a coffee or something off-site mid-day?\n\nAny of these could give you an opportunity to step out and return a call.",
"Walk into a hallway or outside and take the call. If you work in a large building, a hallway that is not in your work area (people don't know you) can work as well.",
"Out of the loop but maybe a good place to ask...how long are your lunch breaks on the US?\n\nHere we work 9-19 and when asking why they work less hours on the US they say that they lunch at their desktop and don't have coffee breaks",
"I just talk to people. Unless I'm actually in a meeting I know of no reason I can't take a call at work or whatever."
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"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?",
"How to tell friends they're being scammed by MLM schemes without hurting their feelings? In the past month, two good friends of mine who I thought had a bit more sense than to sign up for multi-level marketing schemes have done just that. The product they're both selling is called Younique make-up. The name is awful, the products look cheap, it's expensive, and it's one of those things where you make money mostly by encouraging people to host \"parties\" on Facebook, which just means creating an event and then posting pictures of the products every five minutes for a few days, or by encouraging people to sign up as sellers under you. \nI want to tell them that they're wasting their time, but I don't want to insult them or make them feel stupid. What can I do?"
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"How do you save the life of someone who already drank the cyanide Kool-Aid in a barn in the middle of nowhere? *You don't.*\n\nThe only thing you can do is unfollow them and wait for them to give up. If they confront you to push their scam on you, leave. These things are like cults; they all circle jerk each other to fool people into thinking it works and pull more people into the circle jerk.\n\nThe best you can do is just hope they see the absurdity of it one day.",
" Watch the Younique founder pretending to cry in the first few minutes of this About video, so overcome with admiration and appreciation for the 'Strong Empowered Women ' in his family life that inspired his MLM idea. Fucking laughable if it wasn't for the fact he is manipulating mainly low income women with this horseshit.\nhttps://www.youniqueproducts.com/ajmm/business/about",
"Of course it had to be Younique, I'm currently watching the desperate downward spiral of someone on Facebook who got caught by it. You need to tell your friends ASAP before it's too late. Are they aware of MLM and how it operates - perhaps if they understand it they will see sense? ",
"MLM opportunities exist because people don't understand that, to the company, the Real customers are the people they get to sell their products to even if they get a starter package of products for free.\n\nHave your friends sit down and make a list of their customers. Put those customers into two columns. Side 1: Friends, Family, and Co-workers. On Side 2: Strangers\n\nLike most of these MLM \"opportunities\" - their customers will fall into Side 1: People they already know. Side 2 will likely be empty. Express to them that the sales they have acquired on Side 1 are pity sales, and do not count as actual sales. This is 99% of how these things operate. You sign someone on, give them inventory, they sell to their friends and family, they don't sell to random people, and they quit. It doesn't matter if they quit, because they are easily replaced for free by someone else with different friends and family. If they don't quit, they make money by convincing others to work under them.\n\n\n\n",
"If it's an actual scam, just tell them, keep in mind though that MLMs aren't necessarily scams, but the way you're describing it, this one propably is",
"I would say \"When you told me about it I became very curious about the line/products so I went to look it up on line…I don't want to scare you but from what many people said and experienced it seems to be a company that takes advantage of the people who sell for it.\"\n\nThen you can ask them if they have ever done research on the business methods of the company.\n",
"How about you stop giving a shit about your feelings? You think you're afraid of hurting their feelings, but what you're truly afraid is having *your* feelings hurt–maybe no longer being friends with them–if they get hurt. Get over that; unless you're an asshole about it, it shouldn't take a tutorial to tell your friends about something as simple as this.",
"Fuck their feelings. Tell them before some other idiot follows their path. If they have any sense at all, they won't be mad. ",
"Buy their product, assuming it has a money back guarantee. \nTell them you don't like it, and want to return it.\nWait and watch..",
"You can try to lead them there gently. You could just try to gradually poke holes in their idea. With most makeup companies, how do they work? They've got sales people who go to conventions and salons and beauty shops, right? And what direction is the money flowing there? It's flowing *to* the sales person. They get a salary plus commission. They don't have to buy the stock. There's a whole support team back at the office that facilitates these transactions. \n\nWith the MLM, it's the opposite. The sales people buy the product. They're paying the company, not the other way around. And then the company doesn't give a shit whether you sell it or not. Where's the free company cell phone? Where's the mileage reimbursement? Where's the sales support team that helps maintain the CRM and feed you leads? \n\nThat's the way tens of thousands of companies do business around the country. That's what actual salespeople are involved with. So why isn't that company doing it? \n\nAnd with all that in mind, what do you even need Younique for? Is it different in any significant way from going down to Walmart, buying cases of cheap makeup and then trying to sell it yourself? \n\nBut it probably won't work. Most people are incapable of thinking about this sort of thing rationally.\n",
"Ugh. I went through this phase with a close friend and unfortunately it got so bad that we are no longer friends. There is no real advice for your issue but I will tell you to stand firm in your decision of not being interested. This way you keep your friends and your sanity.\n\n",
"I feel your pain on this one. Some of my friends have joined these types of companies in the past. Before I know that they joined they're asking if I want to catch up over coffee and next thing I know I'm getting pitched on some business opportunity I want nothing to do with and it pretty much ruins the friendship for me.\n\nWith that said, keep in mind that not all of these are actually scams. Someone in my family has made a living in this type of business for the last twenty years and continues to do so to this day.\n\nNow most people aren't as successful in these types of businesses because they think they're get rich quick opportunities. They never are. They get disappointed. They give up.\n\nSo here's the difference between an actual opportunity and a scam:\n\nActual Opportunity: I'm selling this product, do you want to buy it? Oh, by the way, you can sign up to sell it as well if you like.\n\nScam: Want to make money selling this product? You have to sign up and buy a minimum amount of product each month in order to join. (See the [FTC shutdown of Vemma](https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/press-releases/2015/08/ftc-acts-halt-vemma-alleged-pyramid-scheme)).\n\nIf it's an actual scam, you should tell them. If it's an actual business opportunity then I'd let them figure it out themselves. Maybe it's the right thing for them. Tell them you respect their decision and are not interested in it, but would be happy to remain friends.",
"I am with Jamberry and have made a great profit. Definitely not a scam. Direct sales is also in the news a lot recently because they have become legit and are a great way to make money at home. Tesla has also become a direct sales company and they are definitely not a scam.",
"A variation on this works for pretty much any time you need to tell someone they're wrong.\n\n\"I fell for this myself last year, turns out it's a massive scam.\"\n\nTelling someone \"you're wrong\" is gonna get them pissed at you, \"we're wrong\" takes the edge off."
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"How have YOU stopped procrastination? I've read enough articles to write a book about procrastination, but I'm looking for anecdotal experiencing on combating procrastination. I want to know what's worked for, what is something you do (or tell yourself) that has stopped you from procrastinating?",
"How have YOU stopped procrastination? I've read enough articles to write a book about procrastination, but I'm looking for anecdotal experiencing on combating procrastination. I want to know what's worked for, what is something you do (or tell yourself) that has stopped you from procrastinating?"
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"Chunking my time. For instance, if I need to study, I will chunk my studying up so I don't have nearly as much to do at once. I find this helps me get through it.\n\nAlso, visualizing myself doing a task, VERY SPECIFICALLY. For instance, if I want to go to the gym after work, I will visualize myself in full detail all the steps I'll follow when I get home to make it to the gym. I walk in, take off my boots/jacket, go pack a gym bag, fill up a water bottle, etc. then drive to the gym in my mind, get out, get changed in the changeroom, start exercising, etc. I will also think of all the pros about doing the activity - feels good, exercising is good for me, I am proud of myself, my body will look better, etc. It's allows me to push myself harder to do this I otherwise wouldn't want to. Same for studying, cleaning, etc.\n\nBoth tips are quite helpful even though they sound really lame and simple.",
"Relate it to food (Im not fat.) Eat a snack after each task. Slowly reverse weening your self for each \"combo\" of tasks done on time. For example, If i do 5 tasks on time, I get some cookies. after the next 4 I get some, So forth and so on. It will encourage you to work harder for longer periods of time.",
"Identify and try to get rid of what distracts you. find that getting away from the Internet helped. (My major source of distraction) Turn off cellular data on your phone, set your phone to ring for only important numbers. Make a list of things to do. "
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"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS",
"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS",
"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS",
"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS",
"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS",
"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS",
"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS",
"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS",
"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS",
"Getting muscles Any ways to get muscles. Preferly in my arms. I dont have time to go to the gym. Im planning on doing excercise instead of sitting in the computer. Thats about 1 hr per day. THANKS"
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"Don't bother with protein shakes if you don't work out, it'll just make you gain weight. One hour per day is more than enough time to get a really good workout in for your arms at the gym. Saying you don't have time to go is the first step of giving up.",
"Read the /r/Fitness and /r/Bodyweightfitness FAQs.\n\nChoose difficult exercises and go into the 5-8 rep range (perfect for strength and muscle building (hypertrophy)) for 3 sets. Take 2 minute breaks between each set.\n\nBodybuilders typically consume 1 gram of protein per pound of bodyweight per day: if you weigh 150 pounds, you would consume 150 grams of protein. Most people, however, only need to ingest .75 grams per pound/bodyweight per day (or even less, depending on your goals)\nCut sugars, but carbs and fats are NOT Satan incarnate. Just don't eat fast food all of the time.",
"Read 'The New Rules of Lifting' \n\nhttp://www.thenewrulesoflifting.com/\n\nGood advice for a beginner and for advanced lifters. \n\nAlso - ask yourself WHY you want big muscles. Impress the chicks? Feeling better about yourself? There might be better ways of getting what you're really looking for.",
"Muscles = hard work (training), dedication (nutrition) and rest (sleep).\n\nSince a gym is out of the question, check out a book called [Convict Conditioning](http://www.amazon.com/Convict-Conditioning-Weakness-Survival-Strength/dp/0938045768/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1346663193&sr=8-1&keywords=convict+conditioning) (apparently, there's a [2nd ",
"I went from a skinny 145lbs to gain 10 lbs of muscle and about the same in fat, then I burned off the fat over a couple of months. The whole process was quick, 5 or 6 months. \n\n1. compound movements (anything that uses 2 joints in one action): squat, deadlift, bench press\n= doing these releases certain hormones that add mass to muscle\n= when weightlifters are in their non-competition season, they do these, with some tweaking to achieve their balanced look; they get fat during this time as well\n= You cannot gain mass (bulk up) and keep trim at the same time...well you can, but you won't gain with any speed\n= to gain muscle, you have to trick your body into thinking it needs it, then you have to trim off the fat, without losing much of the muscle you just built up. Keeping muscle is very calorie intensive, so if you don't use it, your body will get rid of it. \n\n2. eat 5000cal per day\n= doing this affects you insulin levels and adds mass to muscle\n= when weightlifters are in their non-competition season, they do this, then they burn off the fat, because you are going to gain a lot of weight, and about half of that will be fat.\n= I ate wings and beer almost 2 or 3 times a week, but don't forgo healthy eating like your 12 servings of fruits and veggies per day. Just eat a lot of everything else. \n\n3. Have a spotter\n= you really only will gain on the last two reps that you can barely squeeze out and with a little bit of help, so you need someone to help you squeeze out those last two, otherwise your gains will take much longer\n\n4. Technique\n= poor form will result in injuries and needed recovery time, and thereby slowing your growth. These big 3 have the potential of causing serious harm to your organs, joints and esp your back, so learn how to do them with little weight, until your form is perfect...PERFECT! Then slowly load on the weights. Better form = quicker gains\n\n5. Track your weights\n= add 5 lbs to the big three every week\n= work out no more than 3 times a week, bulking up is very taxing on your body, so drink fluids, and get rest.\n",
"Choose a weight that you will struggle to lift by the final rep (usually 8 reps per set). Reaching the point of muscle failure and fatigue is what builds muscle mass. Also remember to increase your protein intake with a protein shake at least twice a day, preferably straight after a workout. ",
"exercise. pushups and pull-ups are fantastic. however if you don't do something with your legs you will not actually be in shape/look weird\n\nnot that you need a gym, but if you \"don't have time to go to the gym\", that is just saying \"I don't actually care about getting in shape\".",
"You can purchase them from your local seafood market, and after you eat them they should provide energy to all of your body parts, not just your arms. Thats too bad about your gym time. You probably will never experience any noticeable results by using bodyweight alone. You need to lift heavy weights for long, intense sessions for a few months before having visible results.",
"So you have an hour a day to lift, but can't find time to go to the gym? Bullshit. You have to lift heavy things and eat enough to gain muscle. End of story. If you only want bigger arms, buy some dumbbells. But I would suggest /r/fitness \n\n\nBut, pretty much workout and eat.",
">I dont have time to go to the gym.\n\n>Thats about 1hr per day.\n\nMy trips to the gym round trip are about 90 minutes, 3 times a week. That's less than 1hr a day!"
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" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?",
" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?",
" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?",
" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?",
" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?",
" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?",
" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?",
" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?",
" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?",
" best way to charge your smartphone phone during a power outage Hi, I lost power during Sandy, (thankfully not for long) and several times this year. So, I've been setting up house to make it easier for outages, and but I'm stymied on how to charge my smartphone without power.\n\nBattery chargers only last as long as you have...batteries. Solar chargers are really expensive, but are they worth it? What about a [hand cranked USB charger](http://www.21st-century-goods.com/21stcg-3085-hand-crank-led-flashlight-with-a-usb-charger/)? Will these things damage my phone?"
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"Hook it up to your charged laptop? \n\nThere are solar panel phone chargers that exist. \n\n",
"Do you use a car? You could charge it from the cigarette lighter. \n\nIf you have a house, why not buy a gas or propane generator? In an extreme gas shortage the propane generator is handy. But for extended period or weeks (which we just experienced) and a with a reasonable gas supply, I think gas generator may be better than propane. Even better than both would be a natural gas generator to your house gas line. ",
"I know this might sound funny but if you can buy a [Nokia 1100](http://imgur.com/Tyhin). i can remember on full charge it would work for almost a week really great for emergency.",
"i plugged into my laptop and put it into standby. charged it all night and barely put a dent in the battery... then i booted up and tethered on the phone to browse reddit, haha.",
"My general solution for phone battery issues (when I can't keep the phone plugged in, at least) is to have several spare, charged batteries available, and to crank down the power consumption on *everything* on the phone if I'm going into a power drought. That means turning off all radios I'm not using, turning down the screen brightness to minimum, turning the screen timeout to as quick as possible, disabling all nonessential background processes...",
"If your laptop has a sleep charge USB port, you can use that as a battery backup for phone charging, as long as you don't an on using your laptop a whole lot.",
"A friend of mine purchased several extra batteries along with a battery charger on eBay (and I believe it was only around $10 for 2 batteries and the charger) and just kept several fully charged batteries around. It came in handy during Ike because he could just switch them out regardless of where he was. It's not the best because once you run out of batteries you're back to square one, but as long as you keep power saving settings on you should get a while out of it.\n\nPlus extra batteries are pretty handy to have on hold anyway.",
"You can get these really nifty car lighter to USB adapter kits.\n\nI leave the adapter in the car lighter. The cord that comes with it moves around with me. It is pig tailed, so I can use it to charge my phone, PSP and DR-1 at the same time.",
"If you have a jump-starter pack for your car, many of them have cigarette lighter outlets, so as long as you have a car charger for your phone you can use that.",
"Get a cheap UPS (uninterruptible power supply). Pros: Even an inexpensive one has enough power to charge your phone multiple times, and your laptop a time or two. Cons: BEEP ... BEEP ... BEEP ... BEEP"
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"Set the thinnest handle edge of a (spoon/fork/knife/other long thin object) in the pour stream. It extends the surface tension enough that it will get past the edge of the lip before it drops.",
"if you drip a bit and then turn the container around itself with wrist movement drop wont come down, instead it moves around the containers mount and drop back into the container. many barmens and baristas do this trick"
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"How to be a supportive listener towards friends. Really struggling with this one Hey, it's extremely important to me that I'm a good support to my friends. \n\nBut I've noticed its really hard because there's so many tradeoffs. For example, I want to show my friend sympathy, but I don't want to be condescending. I want to make my friend feel understood, but I also want to recognize that there's part of their experience I don't know about. I don't want them to feel alone but I don't want to be prying. \n\nAre there any resources to learning about how to navigate all these issues? Any help would be extremely appreciated. ",
"How to be a supportive listener towards friends. Really struggling with this one Hey, it's extremely important to me that I'm a good support to my friends. \n\nBut I've noticed its really hard because there's so many tradeoffs. For example, I want to show my friend sympathy, but I don't want to be condescending. I want to make my friend feel understood, but I also want to recognize that there's part of their experience I don't know about. I don't want them to feel alone but I don't want to be prying. \n\nAre there any resources to learning about how to navigate all these issues? Any help would be extremely appreciated. ",
"How to be a supportive listener towards friends. Really struggling with this one Hey, it's extremely important to me that I'm a good support to my friends. \n\nBut I've noticed its really hard because there's so many tradeoffs. For example, I want to show my friend sympathy, but I don't want to be condescending. I want to make my friend feel understood, but I also want to recognize that there's part of their experience I don't know about. I don't want them to feel alone but I don't want to be prying. \n\nAre there any resources to learning about how to navigate all these issues? Any help would be extremely appreciated. ",
"How to be a supportive listener towards friends. Really struggling with this one Hey, it's extremely important to me that I'm a good support to my friends. \n\nBut I've noticed its really hard because there's so many tradeoffs. For example, I want to show my friend sympathy, but I don't want to be condescending. I want to make my friend feel understood, but I also want to recognize that there's part of their experience I don't know about. I don't want them to feel alone but I don't want to be prying. \n\nAre there any resources to learning about how to navigate all these issues? Any help would be extremely appreciated. ",
"How to be a supportive listener towards friends. Really struggling with this one Hey, it's extremely important to me that I'm a good support to my friends. \n\nBut I've noticed its really hard because there's so many tradeoffs. For example, I want to show my friend sympathy, but I don't want to be condescending. I want to make my friend feel understood, but I also want to recognize that there's part of their experience I don't know about. I don't want them to feel alone but I don't want to be prying. \n\nAre there any resources to learning about how to navigate all these issues? Any help would be extremely appreciated. "
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"this is so cute you are so cute i wish all people showed so much interest in being good friends you are an amazing person\ni think some things that have helped me to become a good listener are:\n1. don’t interrupt them\n2. dont start talking about you when they are talking about themselves (we tend to do this a lot!!)\n3. really listen to what they are saying and just try to understand how they are feeling and their point of view, don’t start thinking about a solution and if u do just push those thoughts away\n4. when people are venting to u they are most likely doing it just to get it off their chests and not because they want a solution (most of the time we already know what we have to do but we just can’t bare to do it) so just be completely there for them (hug them if they let you or idk)\n5. look at them in the eye and make them feel heard ",
"also !!! at first you can ask them if they want to talk about it and tell them that its okay if they don’t but that it’s also okay if they do and that you promise to listen to them and be there for them with everything u can help them with",
"First, the more you do it, the easier it gets.\n\nSecond, If at all possible, follow what is naturally important to you. Like, if knowing the details helps you remember, understand or relate better, just ask them. They will let you know if they don't want to share those details.\n\nFinally, you can demonstrate you are a supportive listener by following up next time you meet. That is the problem with people that listen. Some just pretend, throwing in a \"oh really\" and \"you don't say\" without ever really paying attention. This isn't bad per say. At least they are letting the person get it off of their chest. But it doesn't demonstrate understanding, sympathy or empathy. When you ask follow up questions and ask again later, it shows you were really listening and were thinking about it.",
"Ask questions, fake sympathy, get real, say you feel for them etc.\n\nAfter a while, it comes naturally then you might even start caring.\n\nSpeaking from personal experience.",
"A book called Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman helped me relate to people a lot more. Gets into the science of how our brains work and a bit of psychology as well. It’s really helped me relate to others."
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"How to deal with conflicts I tend to shy away from conflicts and would deeply like to be better at handling it",
"How to deal with conflicts I tend to shy away from conflicts and would deeply like to be better at handling it",
"How to deal with conflicts I tend to shy away from conflicts and would deeply like to be better at handling it",
"How to deal with conflicts I tend to shy away from conflicts and would deeply like to be better at handling it",
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"I'd recommend reading the book \"how to win friends and influence people\" \n\nI believe the Audiobook is on sound cloud.\n\nIt's an old book (1930's?) with a wealth of information about social psychology.\n\nThe basics of it are on the wikipedia page for the book though.\n\n\nVery very generally, let the person speak all that they want to say before talking, agree that their position is understandable and that you sympathize with them, and speak in such a way that saves them face so that they don't feel attacked, insulted, or belittled.\n\nDo so genuinely. Nothing is worse than expressing your dissatisfaction with something only to have the person obviously feign understanding.\n\nSeriously though, give it a read or a listen. It's very good",
"You ask:\nWhy do you feel like that? then you listen, listen. listen..\n\nRe-iterate what they just said.....and then, \n\"I understand what you are saying....Here is my perspective....\"\n\nsaying it with love and kindness..its really amazing what honest communication can do! :)\n\nBelieve in yourself!\n\n",
"Well, to answer a super generalized question super generally, stop shying away and deal with your conflicts.\n\nAny specific examples?",
"Fake it... you're not a confident person you make not appear it I don't know. But most people bark hoping no one bites back. Be respectful but assertive. Also tell them they are disruptive to everyone while they are throwing their damn temper tantrum in nice words of course. Most raging adults are 4 year old kids throwing a tantrum because things are going exactly how they planned it would. When they get cocky let them know if they are dead set they can do better you would enjoy the help and they can grab an application. But until then this is your job. You will only have to force the act once or twice then it will become habitual. I did it when I took on a new job in a new town where no one knew me and acted like another person.",
"Can't really help on the shying away, but when you are arguing about something: be calm and reasonable, let other people talk but remind them to do the same for you if they interrupt. Also try to deescalate if things get heated.\n\nI find, especially in my relationship, when arguing about something it's better to let some things go, let your own anger go and try to make the other one calm. "
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"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?",
"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?",
"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?",
"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?",
"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?",
"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?",
"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?",
"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?",
"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?",
"How do you enjoy the cold winter months? In recent years, I’ve learned that in order to not only survive but to enjoy the winter months you have to make it special with doing fun winter activities. \n\nOnce it starts getting colder, the nights become longer and I tend to crave the cozy things such as baked goods, candles, and Christmas lights. I also look to do activities like going for a walk in the snow or curling up with a book under a blanket. I still feel like I could use more winter activities/traditions to enjoy and stave off those seasonal blues. Any tips?"
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"Feeling a sense of awe and admiration for the changes in nature helps. Seeing the last golden leaves caressed in dew, the low, soft light diffused in the fog, then the tiny brave snowdrops bursting up into the new year, filled with possibilities and hope.\n\nAllowing yourself to rest and hunker down, cutting out any additional stress where possible. \n\nHibernate, keep warm and cosy. Listen to the sounds of rain and wind, pull your curtains shut or your blinds down. Feel that sense of safety and comfort despite the bad weather and allow yourself to rest, rejuvenate.\n\nThis is a time to consolidate everything from the last year and emerge rejuvenated for the next cycle. Allow yourself to do that and it becomes more cleansing rather than a chore.",
"Crocheting a blanket. It's easy, pretty fast if you're using an easy pattern and you can use it while crocheting. Which means it's nice, warm and cosey too!\n\nAnd if you're using an easy pattern, you can even watch tv at the same time",
"Tips for winter…book a warm weather holiday, put up lots of festive lights but use LEDs to save money, make lots of different soups, buy a warm scarf, always walk outside on non-rainy days, binge watch fun shows, start microgreens/ sprouting to remind yourself that winter is part of a cycle and spring will be here soon, force bulbs like paperwhites.",
"Ski. Hockey . Play in snow. Build snow creatures ( snowmen are burning ) keep wood stove full. Life is short . Make the best of it . If you don’t like where you live , move.",
"Oh I so do need tips on how to survive winter. I live in Sweden and we have very long dark winters! You would think I would have adapted but no when January-February comes I’m always depressed.",
"I’m older(57)and live in Michigan the “Winter Wonderland” our winters are long,cold and dark. My wife and I take time to enjoy taking on the winter with as many outdoor activities as possible we snowmobile,ice fish, trail hike and more, we also do enjoy the fact that there is no grass to cut or garden to tend. Indoors we like to have a cozy fire with our family cat while drinking some good wine and relaxing.",
"I like to embark on a craft/project like cross stitching a bookmark or crocheting small dish rags to give as small gifts. Helps keep my hands busy & reduce snacking during the increase of tv time.",
"The best way to enjoy winter is to -get outside- every week. \nYou could join a running club, it’s amazing how the winter can be so much more fun when you head outside. \nSome\nSome places have outdoor rinks, where you can rent skates.",
"Some of my favorite winter activities include puzzles, crocheting, diy storage/decorations projects for upcoming holiday seasons. This year I intend to embark on creating mini scrapbooks and journals. I was inspired by a video found on TikTok. Seems to be budget friendly as well. \n\nI sincerely hope that you’re able to expand your current winter activities list and embark upon something enriching to the soul!",
"I live in New Zealand with mild winters, so i wear socks and maybe a beanie if its windy other wise its shorts and shirts all year round."
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"How do I stop mouth breathing at night? When my front two teeth grew when I was little, they had white stops on them, which I later found out were the teeth being dehydrated due to lack of saliva touching the surface. This happens when I sleep and I breathe through my mouth. Recently, I have tried to stop this, but have failed. I stopped mouth breathing during the day, tried to sleep on my back, tried using breathe right strips and have also gone as far as taping my mouth shut. As far as I'm concerned, mouth taping does work but it hurts as hell when I take it off during the morning, and yes I do use the thin paper-like ones. The only other way I could think of is to use CPAP mouth straps. Could anyone let me know if they work, or any other alternatives I could use to stop my mouth breathing at night?",
"How do I stop mouth breathing at night? When my front two teeth grew when I was little, they had white stops on them, which I later found out were the teeth being dehydrated due to lack of saliva touching the surface. This happens when I sleep and I breathe through my mouth. Recently, I have tried to stop this, but have failed. I stopped mouth breathing during the day, tried to sleep on my back, tried using breathe right strips and have also gone as far as taping my mouth shut. As far as I'm concerned, mouth taping does work but it hurts as hell when I take it off during the morning, and yes I do use the thin paper-like ones. The only other way I could think of is to use CPAP mouth straps. Could anyone let me know if they work, or any other alternatives I could use to stop my mouth breathing at night?"
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"Talk with your dentist. S/he may be able to get you a bite guard that either protects your teeth, or helps to keep your mouth closed.",
"If the spots are because of your breathing, they go away as soon as you wet them.\n\nIf the white spots are still there, it's not because of your breathing with your mouth."
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"How to get a cat out of a tree I currently have a 9 month old feline who is about 20 feet up a tree in our front yard. The tree is virtually unclimbable, with no branches below 10 feet or so, and I don't have a ladder more than about 5 feet. Help!\n\nI've tried shaking a bag of treats and she just keeps moewing her poor pathetic meow :(\n\n**UPDATE:** Pinky the cat is safe and sound, she managed to work her way down branch by branch, it only took 2-3 hours. Hopefully she learned her lesson :) ",
"How to get a cat out of a tree I currently have a 9 month old feline who is about 20 feet up a tree in our front yard. The tree is virtually unclimbable, with no branches below 10 feet or so, and I don't have a ladder more than about 5 feet. Help!\n\nI've tried shaking a bag of treats and she just keeps moewing her poor pathetic meow :(\n\n**UPDATE:** Pinky the cat is safe and sound, she managed to work her way down branch by branch, it only took 2-3 hours. Hopefully she learned her lesson :) ",
"How to get a cat out of a tree I currently have a 9 month old feline who is about 20 feet up a tree in our front yard. The tree is virtually unclimbable, with no branches below 10 feet or so, and I don't have a ladder more than about 5 feet. Help!\n\nI've tried shaking a bag of treats and she just keeps moewing her poor pathetic meow :(\n\n**UPDATE:** Pinky the cat is safe and sound, she managed to work her way down branch by branch, it only took 2-3 hours. Hopefully she learned her lesson :) "
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"Jeez get the hose or a good squirt gun. They quickly learn how to get down. Then hug him and squeeze him and call him George.",
"I hate to say it , but it only takes once; one time to fall out of the tree. My cat was an outdoor cat, and did it 2x before never climbing the palm tree again. My wife waited under the tree until he fell, landed on fence sideways, then on his feet. Sorry :( ",
"Get a long piece of lumber, wrap thick rope or carpet around it, securely. Raise it up to the kitten, make sure someone is beneath with a pillow just in case. Hopefully the cat will latch on and you can lower them down."
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