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"How to study the material I actually need to study, rather than the material I don't. I 'study' a lot, but it's mostly just random material I'm interested in. I'll read a lot of books and try and learn about a subject, or learn another language. I study things completely unrelated to my classes without a problem, I even enjoy studying these things. But when it comes to studying for my actual classes, I get demotivated and let myself get distracted and give up. \n\nHow can I study the more important material without wanting to die?",
"How to study the material I actually need to study, rather than the material I don't. I 'study' a lot, but it's mostly just random material I'm interested in. I'll read a lot of books and try and learn about a subject, or learn another language. I study things completely unrelated to my classes without a problem, I even enjoy studying these things. But when it comes to studying for my actual classes, I get demotivated and let myself get distracted and give up. \n\nHow can I study the more important material without wanting to die?",
"How to study the material I actually need to study, rather than the material I don't. I 'study' a lot, but it's mostly just random material I'm interested in. I'll read a lot of books and try and learn about a subject, or learn another language. I study things completely unrelated to my classes without a problem, I even enjoy studying these things. But when it comes to studying for my actual classes, I get demotivated and let myself get distracted and give up. \n\nHow can I study the more important material without wanting to die?",
"How to study the material I actually need to study, rather than the material I don't. I 'study' a lot, but it's mostly just random material I'm interested in. I'll read a lot of books and try and learn about a subject, or learn another language. I study things completely unrelated to my classes without a problem, I even enjoy studying these things. But when it comes to studying for my actual classes, I get demotivated and let myself get distracted and give up. \n\nHow can I study the more important material without wanting to die?"
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"Ask the teacher for a practice exam from previous years. That'll give you more direction in what to study exactly.",
"It's all about understanding the teacher. U can strategically study more of a topic if U know the teacher will test more about it. If u know previous tests and the teacher then u can figure out what to study ",
"Teach it to someone else. Depending on the material, that someone may be a younger student who needs to get their grades up, or your housebound gran who just likes to hear about what you're doing, or if all else fails get on Reddit and find a discussion about the topic at a level you're not quite informed enough to take part in. You'll (hopefully) research your comments before posting them.",
"Make flashcards, I used to just read over the material like you do but I find if you write down the name of the concept and the definition on the other in a way that doesn't directly tell what it is you remember the concept much better.\nFor example:\nSide one : RoughSeaSailor\nSide two : My Reddit username\nThis way you can quiz yourself with both sides and help remember both the name and the definition to prevent the \"I remember what this is but not what its called\" panic during tests/exams"
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"Tips on working for a US company from Germany as a software developer? Etiquettes, Do's and Dont's, etc.? ",
"Tips on working for a US company from Germany as a software developer? Etiquettes, Do's and Dont's, etc.? ",
"Tips on working for a US company from Germany as a software developer? Etiquettes, Do's and Dont's, etc.? ",
"Tips on working for a US company from Germany as a software developer? Etiquettes, Do's and Dont's, etc.? ",
"Tips on working for a US company from Germany as a software developer? Etiquettes, Do's and Dont's, etc.? "
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"Hey…the good news is, you can absolutely say “oh I’m sorry! I’m German and new to the company.” And people will totally be ok with that and probably help you with the things you’re asking here. \n\nI mean, obviously this is for things like a cultural difference or misunderstanding. Not something like whipping your dick out. Don’t do that.",
"To \"table\" something.\n\nDo you use American English or British English? \n\nSomething that tripped me up is that I used the expression \"to table\" something incorrectly. It means the exact opposite depending on which side of the pond you're on. \n\nIn the UK, it means to bring to the table. In the US, it means to set aside. Not sure why. It led to some misunderstandings when I was doing design reviews. \n\nCongrats on the job. Best of luck to you.",
"It's kind of hard to even say.. as an American who isn't familiar with Germany, I don't what those differences are to even give advice.. lol.. you need to find someone who's familiar with both countries..",
"Not sure what your role will be, but be cognizant of how you phrase things . All the Germans I've worked with have been way more blunt than Americans, and I could see that getting you started on the wrong foot and then being hard to correct. \n\nExamples - \n\n- Instead of \"Why did you do that?!\", use \"I'd like to understand why you went with that solution.\"\n\n- Instead of \"I'm way too busy this week\", use \"I'm at capacity, but I can take care of this next week\".\n\nObviously these are exaggerated for demonstrative purposes, but hopefully you get what I mean. \n\nGood luck!",
"write good code. turn off all slack notifications.\n\nlet people know that you only communicate over email."
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"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!",
"What is an effective way to get rid of a fear of heights? For as long as I've known, I've always had a great fear of heights. I would crouch lower in high buildings/towers in a futile effort to get closer to the ground. However, overtime, it has gotten a bit better but is still very real. Recently, I am sick of being afraid of doing exciting things like skydiving or riding large rollercoasters simply because of the height factor. Is there anyway to eliminate this fear? Thank you!"
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"Take up rock climbing. Its a great way to get into shape and it will cure your fear of heights.\n\nWhen you rock climb you are wearing a harness and most likely start with top roping. With top roping there is a rope tied to your harness, it goes up to an anchor, and then comes back down to your belay. Climb up a few feet, have the person on belay take up all the slack, then sit back into your harness, repeat until you are comfortable.",
"Friend of mine really improved his condition using an oculus rift dk. He told me the sense of scale and height is nearlly the same as in real life for him and through acclimatation, as stated before, was able to reduce his fear of height a lot. ",
"Acclimation has a good track record, You go up, within your comfort zone, to as high as you can, see no trauma happens, then next time go up more. Think parking on the roof of a garage of 10 or 12 stories and working your way up from there.",
"my fear of heights is mostly anxiety, and since i'm anxious in other areas of my life i was prescribed a anti-anxiety med, and was able to go out on a three story balcony with no anxiety, and look over the rail. Which i was never able to do before.",
"For me, all it took was working on a traditional sailing ship where I had to go climb the rigging regularly. After a few months of that, I was good to go. So yeah, just put yourself in the situation you're afraid of a lot.",
"Take the acclimation approach noted below.... with a selection of your favorite songs coming through the earbuds... move to the music a bit and start taking those 'babysteps'....",
"Not sure how this helps with rollercoasters and skydiving but:.....\n\nIf you are stuck in a terrifying vertigo situation, say you have to go up/down a ladder on a church spire, with no scaffold:\n Look closely at the ladder rung in front of you. Blur reality beyond the ladder rung. \nRemove your consciousness of anything beyond that rung. Its still scary but you can get beyond that freezing fear if you concentrate on that and nothing else. Then you can move and escape. You create a safe bubble for yourself so that you can act as if you are near the ground. This worked for me on that spire..started to lose it a bit as the no.12 of the clock appeared...\n\n",
"It's something you need to work at just like anything. Rollercoasters are probably your easiest way about it if you like the acceleration feeling. Most of the time its best done with someone you know is not afraid. Usually the first thing you ride will feel the worst the rest you start to get used to. If you don't do them for a long time your brain will reset and you will be scared again. Sky diving is something I'm not familiar with but if you think about the relativity of everything your body will adapt to certain surroundings quickly. Something cool you could think about is there is a hole somewhere on this earth that is deeper than any sky scraper is tall and yet you are not afraid. What makes you feel safe? Is it solid ground? Then imagine the clouds are solid like a level. Hope this helps but mainly, you need to do it a lot so you are not afraid. ",
"I have found that watching Youtube videos of high-up areas has lessened my fear of heights. \n\n",
"Go up in slow increments. Go to the highest you can handle, and stay there till you feel 100% comfortable and all anxiety has died down (this is very important because if you quit before the anxiety goes away then you will reinforce the phobia). Then next time go a little higher and do the same. Keep doing it till you have gotten over your fear. \n\n\n",
"Exposure therapy (gradually facing the fear in controlled conditions, over time) absolutely works! The drawback is that you have to experience the fear a bit but if you're motivated, and get around to doing it, it will work.\n\nFor me it was spiders, had a morbid fear of them all my life and found myself renting a fantastic basement suite that happened to be a spider apocalypse, completely overrun with tarantula-esque wolf spiders. Point being, it sucked at the time but it's just impossible to maintain the same level of fear dozens of times in a row. Good luck!"
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"How to keep a text conversation going? I've been messaging a girl I REALLY like a lot. I've asked her so many things and vice versa and it feels like we know so much about each other already. I can't seem to come up with any subjects to talk about. Any help?",
"How to keep a text conversation going? I've been messaging a girl I REALLY like a lot. I've asked her so many things and vice versa and it feels like we know so much about each other already. I can't seem to come up with any subjects to talk about. Any help?",
"How to keep a text conversation going? I've been messaging a girl I REALLY like a lot. I've asked her so many things and vice versa and it feels like we know so much about each other already. I can't seem to come up with any subjects to talk about. Any help?"
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"You should eventually call her too, I had texted a girl for awhile and speaking to them on the phone can bring you abit closer as long as you can keep it going. So no awkward pauses. ",
"This happened to me too, you have to hang out with her and not over the digital world. Literally do anything with her, and you'll get a lot closer. It may be nerve racking, exciting and something way out of your comfort zone but if you're doing an activity in real life, even something such as walking through a mall, you're always doing something so it'll never get awkward. If you don't hang out with her, you'll start texting less, and the relationship will get dry and boring and you'll both, most likely, regrettingly move on.",
"Text her less frequently. If you're texting her 24/7, you'll run out of things to talk about pretty quickly. Just do something else until you come across something conversation-worthy."
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"how to keep your nose from running/dripping without tissue I've got a cold and was in class. Couldn't get my nose to stop running. I felt gross for rubbing it away with my hand and shirt.\n\nWhat's the best way to do this?",
"how to keep your nose from running/dripping without tissue I've got a cold and was in class. Couldn't get my nose to stop running. I felt gross for rubbing it away with my hand and shirt.\n\nWhat's the best way to do this?",
"how to keep your nose from running/dripping without tissue I've got a cold and was in class. Couldn't get my nose to stop running. I felt gross for rubbing it away with my hand and shirt.\n\nWhat's the best way to do this?",
"how to keep your nose from running/dripping without tissue I've got a cold and was in class. Couldn't get my nose to stop running. I felt gross for rubbing it away with my hand and shirt.\n\nWhat's the best way to do this?",
"how to keep your nose from running/dripping without tissue I've got a cold and was in class. Couldn't get my nose to stop running. I felt gross for rubbing it away with my hand and shirt.\n\nWhat's the best way to do this?",
"how to keep your nose from running/dripping without tissue I've got a cold and was in class. Couldn't get my nose to stop running. I felt gross for rubbing it away with my hand and shirt.\n\nWhat's the best way to do this?",
"how to keep your nose from running/dripping without tissue I've got a cold and was in class. Couldn't get my nose to stop running. I felt gross for rubbing it away with my hand and shirt.\n\nWhat's the best way to do this?",
"how to keep your nose from running/dripping without tissue I've got a cold and was in class. Couldn't get my nose to stop running. I felt gross for rubbing it away with my hand and shirt.\n\nWhat's the best way to do this?"
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"Not sure what pro tip you are expecting here. Sucking it back in or sniffling will gross people out, or maybe annoy them. Wiping it on your hands and shirt will just result in spread germs and make you feel gross. And doing nothing, well, not really an option.... Excuse yourself and go to the bathroom or ask someone around you if they have a tissue.",
"Go to a well populated place, put your hands on your thighs and sniff.\n\nSniff hard and long like you've been trapped underwater and need a deep.nose breath.\n\nSniff my brother, sniff until you're aware of the rapturous applause of those around you.",
"Ask your pharmacist for a spray or oral medication that prevents \"nasal drip\". The former work immediately but the latter can last longer even if they do take a few minutes to kick in. \n\nWhen you have a really bad case, stuff like blowing your nose really just removes what's there, and it just continues to get generated and run out like a friggin drippy faucet. The right medication can tackle the generation process and stop it up for a while.",
"Get a box of tissue - blow. Keep doing it as until stuff stops coming out.\n\nNeti pots are weird as hell, but if you are at home and want to prepare for a better nose experience, you could \"rinse\" with one of those - it will flush most of the crap out of there and the saline solution will help with the drip",
"If it is for bed time, keep a whole onion on your bedside table and it will keep your nose clear. Even if you leave the skin on. \n\nDon't worry it doesn't smell as bad as if you cut one.",
"I would always discreetly hold my nose tight and push a fart out and that somehow gets the nose drip to stop. If that doesnt help I tickle the back of my tongue for a few minutes. ",
"Hold the right nostril closed with the right thumb and blow hard to clear the left nostril, and then do the right side. Own it.\nOtherwise carry some tissue.\nJust stand up, say excuse me, and calmly go to the washroom.",
"Can you get Day Nurse where you are? It's brilliant for drying up a cold and making you feel more human for a bit. "
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"How to stop feeling like I have forgotten something after leaving somewhere I usually remember to get everything that I brought, but sometimes I still get a feeling of forgetting something.\n\nAny advice?",
"How to stop feeling like I have forgotten something after leaving somewhere I usually remember to get everything that I brought, but sometimes I still get a feeling of forgetting something.\n\nAny advice?",
"How to stop feeling like I have forgotten something after leaving somewhere I usually remember to get everything that I brought, but sometimes I still get a feeling of forgetting something.\n\nAny advice?",
"How to stop feeling like I have forgotten something after leaving somewhere I usually remember to get everything that I brought, but sometimes I still get a feeling of forgetting something.\n\nAny advice?"
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"For a guy this is easy: just form habits. Every time I stand up, I pat my left pocket, then my right pocket, while saying \"keys, wallet, phone\" in my head.\n\nI almost always have my keys and wallet in my left pocket and my phone in my right pocket.\n\nWhen I'm at home, the keys and wallet are always in the same place on top of a bookcase near the front door. My partner just drops her keys anywhere. Guess who never has a problem finding their keys?\n\nForm habits. Keys, wallet, phone.",
"Count the number of things that are in your pockets every day and memorize that number. Check your pockets everyone you enter or leave a place to verify that you have that number. ",
"So far I have discovered only one way to avoid that feeling, but this method works:\n\nConcentrate on what you do, while you do it. Instead of thinking what you are going to have for lunch, while you take your keys etc. from the table, think \"Now I take my keys, now I take my smartphone/folder/whatever\".\n\nI usually forget immediately if I locked the car after I did it. If I concentrate on the process of locking the car while doing, I don't forget it.",
"I usually make a list of essentials, like wallet, keys, and phone. Also, I have a lost for the gym, school and hiking."
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"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?",
"How to get pet hair out of bedding We have 3 cats that insist on sleeping with us. Sheets are easy enough but the comforter is the real problem. Tried putting a sheet on top but it really wouldn't stay on the bed. Any tips?"
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"Squeegee. The rubber makes it easy to collect hair. Use the squeegee to collect the hair into one gigantic furball.",
"I can't stand pet hair, but have a cat, so here is what I do:\n\nI put a thin, fleecy blanket on top of the comforter that's easy to throw in the wash and pet hair removes easily. Then I got a lint roller designed for pet hair (ultra sticky sheets with a rubber reverse side for basically raking up the hair from fabric so you can lint roll it more efficiently). If you really want to control the hair, I quickly lint roll the blanket every morning when I get up, and then about once a week ill lint roll the whole blanket really well and rake up most of the hair. I throw it in the wash as needed and that seems to keep a handle on the cat hair floating around in the room pretty well. I also vacuum at least once a week.\n\nIt may not be the most efficient way, but that's what I do! Hope that helps or gives you some ideas!\n",
"I am owned by 2 Main Coons. I shave them and there is still hair everywhere. I worked in the pet trade for many years. Lint roller, and lots of dryer sheets. Also ad a dash of hair conditioner when you wash the bedding. This helps the fabric release the hair in the wash, and the less static that your bedding produces when drying will help the hair end up in the lint trap. Pet hair removal is next to impossible. If you come up with a solid method or product idea, market that shit. You WILL be rich.",
"http://www.petsolutions.com/C/Cat-Cleaning-Supplies/I/Evercare-Large-Surface-Pet-Hair-Roller-W-Extension-Handle.aspx",
"My vacuum has one of the pet hair attachments similiar to the link below. if the dog does happen to get on the bed or couch, a quick pass with this gets it all up. \n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Electrolux-Home-62550D-Power-Vacuum/dp/B000ENYSYW/ref=sr_1_1?s=appliances&ie=UTF8&qid=1392829549&sr=1-1&keywords=pet+hair+attachment",
"If you've got $400 to blow on a vacuum, I'd suggest the Dyson DC58 Animal. I used one at my in-laws house when we visited for Christmas. We brought our cat along and she slept on top of the pristine white sheets every night. It was COVERED in gray hair, since she was napping there in the day as well. That vac was like magic, though. If you think about it, would you pay about a $1/day for a year to keep all your bedding, chairs, sofas, and drapes cat hair free? I would. I so would.",
"I broke my back in 3 places and my cat kept me company in bed while I recovered. I don't think it would have been tolerable without a huge lint roller to keep up with his hair and dander.",
"Living with four cats for many years, I've found a lint brush works best.\n\nhttp://www.jiffysteamer.com/upload/parts/1042Magik%20Brush%20Image.jpg",
"My mom got a few of these [Pledge Pet Hair Fabric Sweepers](http://www.amazon.com/Pledge-Fabric-Sweeper-Hair-sweeper/dp/B003TNA6AE), and they work pretty well! It takes a bit of work, but I've seen decent results!",
"My cats are really attracted to towelling, so laying a couple of old, thin bath sheets does most of the trick. The rest I can easily remove with a silicone dog grooming brush. If that's gone missing from its usual spot, I just use a high-temp silicone oven mitt, then rinse it off under the tap.",
"Mr Sticky, they have a huge one I use on my couches when they get covered in hair. Also its reusable.",
"Latex gloves + water! Rub the comforter with a wet latex glove and the hair will stick to the glove and itself, clumping into hairballs that you can later just brush off to the flor and vacuum. I have four cats (lots of hair) and this works great for my couch.",
"If your cats tolerate grooming, I saw someone recommending the Furminator in an AskReddit thread. I've been using it for the past few weeks on my cat and I think the shedding situation has improved.",
"I've got a huksy and she sleeps on the bed with me. I have one blanket I keep over top of everything that does the trick. Beyond that I wash my bedding once a week and start fresh. \nWash your shit; it gets rid of the hair.",
"I've got 4 cats and a dog. I didn't know pet hair was really that big of a problem?\n\nI wash all bedding including comforter once a week. Never have a problem with hair build up. One suggestion when washing bedding is to use a large enough washer and don't overfill the load. If it's coming out a tangled up bunch, I don't think it's getting as clean or having the chance to release pet fur/dander.\n\nBrushing your pets can also control some of the hair in the house",
"I just shake out my comforter, set it aside, and sweep my arms across the bed and literally sweep all of the hair off onto the floor. It takes between two and five minutes and gets between 80% and like 98% of the hair off your bed, depending on how long you spend. ",
"Find something that scares the cats and place it in your bedroom or on your bed so the cats no longer want to be in there. Then buy new bedding."
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"How to win a radio contest (e.g. caller X wins concert tickets) Any tips or tricks to increase your chances of winning these kinds of things?",
"How to win a radio contest (e.g. caller X wins concert tickets) Any tips or tricks to increase your chances of winning these kinds of things?",
"How to win a radio contest (e.g. caller X wins concert tickets) Any tips or tricks to increase your chances of winning these kinds of things?",
"How to win a radio contest (e.g. caller X wins concert tickets) Any tips or tricks to increase your chances of winning these kinds of things?"
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"Pro tip #1 listen to the radio. (sorry had to)\n\n#2, use a fast touch tone phone. Not a pulse phone. \n\n#3 Not all cell phones have quick redials. Find a phone that can auto redial with one press of a button quickly without getting caught trying to drop the line.\n\n#4 call waiting/2nd lines can actually slow you down. When you redial your phone may think its a flash and never hang up the 1st call then when you switch back you have to hang up manually. Slows you down.\n\n#5 don't quit dialing. Too many people give up early. You'd be surprised at how many times I win when I was sure the contest was over.\n\n#6 2 phones are better than one. You have 2 hands dial with both. Redial one phone while listening to the sound on the other. Switch.",
"Some 25 or so years ago, in the days of rotary dial telephones, somebody told me that if you knew the cue to call was coming up, you could dial all but the last number and then wait. When the announcement to call was made, all you had to do was dial the last number, and be ahead of all the other callers. \n\nSo yeah, LPT for when you timetravel back to 1987 to try to win Wham! tickets.",
"If your DJ is local, call in requests, follow their twitter, basically become a 'fan.' When the contest is announced ahead of time, hit up their twitter and let them know you're entering: \"OMG, so excited! Definitely calling you!!\" Odds are, they will listen for you- announce yourself when they pick up the phone: \"Hey DJ Bob, it's John 123 from your twitter!\"\n\nSource: my real estate agent is a DJ. He's been known to give away tickets to people he's met at the events the station hosts, and regular callers.",
"1. Listen for the heads up (stay tuned to win Disneyland tickets) \n2. Get to know the audio track the radio uses or phrasing. (certain songs play when they ask people to call or most djs use the same phrase alright listeners its that tune etc...)\n3.call as soon as soon as you hear (#2) if ringing stay on the line if not repeat.\n5. If it is trivia, be prepared to have a very general answer never be specific. ( I don't cheat by googling, I try to have some integrity)\n\n I have won: Disneyland tickets twice, six flags, 8 movie passes, 3 comedy club tickets, DVDs, swag, 4 concert tickets and a box of sees candy.\n\nGood luck!"
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"How to get the most out of an eTextbook This semester I've boughten some eTexts to save money but they have a clunky interface and are hard to navigate. I'm sure others have been through this so I'm wondering how I can use this effectively to study. Also, any cool features I might be missing?",
"How to get the most out of an eTextbook This semester I've boughten some eTexts to save money but they have a clunky interface and are hard to navigate. I'm sure others have been through this so I'm wondering how I can use this effectively to study. Also, any cool features I might be missing?",
"How to get the most out of an eTextbook This semester I've boughten some eTexts to save money but they have a clunky interface and are hard to navigate. I'm sure others have been through this so I'm wondering how I can use this effectively to study. Also, any cool features I might be missing?"
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"Unfortunately some are better than others. Take a glance at the tutorial if there is one. Some of them are searchable- this is good for homework, there may be a small box or you may need to look in the menu. Occasionally there's a notes feature that let's you highlight and save important passages, or you might be able to copy and paste to an external document. Use any interactive study tools- they're usually decent, read the chapter synopsis and use the index tab",
"Depends on who you got them through. \nOn kindle, when I read my math book, sometimes I'll highlight, sometimes I'll use the note writing feature, then I get home, open the book on my computer, and copy the important stuff, and the stuff I marked to a google doc.\n\nAnd you should be able to click a word for a definition, search for words mark pages. It really depends on your learning style. ",
"Ctrl F, if supported, will help you more than anything else. That or the search box on your textbook. Just highlighting important words on the page helps me understand so much better. \n"
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"How to maintain focus on long-term goals I have a long-term goal that I have been working on for the last few years. However, I sometimes find my focus wavering and I think it is mainly due to the fact that because it is such a long-term goal and is 'far-away', I have no real sense of urgency to accomplish it. This has resulted in my goal being drawn out over the uneccessary period of multiple years. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I am tired of operating at only half of my full capacity. ",
"How to maintain focus on long-term goals I have a long-term goal that I have been working on for the last few years. However, I sometimes find my focus wavering and I think it is mainly due to the fact that because it is such a long-term goal and is 'far-away', I have no real sense of urgency to accomplish it. This has resulted in my goal being drawn out over the uneccessary period of multiple years. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I am tired of operating at only half of my full capacity. ",
"How to maintain focus on long-term goals I have a long-term goal that I have been working on for the last few years. However, I sometimes find my focus wavering and I think it is mainly due to the fact that because it is such a long-term goal and is 'far-away', I have no real sense of urgency to accomplish it. This has resulted in my goal being drawn out over the uneccessary period of multiple years. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I am tired of operating at only half of my full capacity. ",
"How to maintain focus on long-term goals I have a long-term goal that I have been working on for the last few years. However, I sometimes find my focus wavering and I think it is mainly due to the fact that because it is such a long-term goal and is 'far-away', I have no real sense of urgency to accomplish it. This has resulted in my goal being drawn out over the uneccessary period of multiple years. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I am tired of operating at only half of my full capacity. ",
"How to maintain focus on long-term goals I have a long-term goal that I have been working on for the last few years. However, I sometimes find my focus wavering and I think it is mainly due to the fact that because it is such a long-term goal and is 'far-away', I have no real sense of urgency to accomplish it. This has resulted in my goal being drawn out over the uneccessary period of multiple years. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I am tired of operating at only half of my full capacity. ",
"How to maintain focus on long-term goals I have a long-term goal that I have been working on for the last few years. However, I sometimes find my focus wavering and I think it is mainly due to the fact that because it is such a long-term goal and is 'far-away', I have no real sense of urgency to accomplish it. This has resulted in my goal being drawn out over the uneccessary period of multiple years. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I am tired of operating at only half of my full capacity. "
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"Try to focus on short-term goals that will eventually equate to your long term goal\n\nExample: Long-term goal- losing 20 pounds\n Short-term goal- working out twice a week\n\nI'm new to this specific subreddit, so I'm not sure if this is how it works, but this is my advice!",
"Buy a dry erase board and put it somewhere you will always see. List your long term goals as well as the incremental steps towards said goals and write down any progress you make. \n\nTHIS CHANGED MY LIFE",
"Here's the solution my friend: **Visualization**. Write down your goal on a sheet of paper - write down what it is and exactly why you want it. Then read that paper daily. Visualize it. You want to know that goal and the reason why you want to achieve it by heart. You want to think about it every day. Always keep it right in front of your eyes so you never start to drift away and procrastine. \n\nThis technique is in my opinion key to _any_ sucess in life. Whenever we do something that doesn't offer immediate rewards (=working on long term goals) our brain will always start to come up with reasons why we shouldn't do it. It will supress the reasons why we started to work on it and make them look weak and unsatisfactory compared to other short-term things you could do now. This is why you have to know exactly why you want to do something, always, ans you have to be able to acess this information at any point.\n\n\nI personally have a whole list of things I want to achieve, with goals rangeing from things I want to achieve during the next month, the next year and my lifetime. The first thing I do during week days when I stand up in the morning, always, is look at that list. I recommend for anyone who reads this to do this too. It will change your life, I promis.\n\n\n",
"If your goal is to lose weight ex. 50lbs try for losing 5lbs. Then raise your goal by 5 until you reach your goal. This process is called shaping and can be universally applied to any long-term goal. ",
"Take some time every now and then to think about how much you've achieved already and how much work you've done towards your goal. ",
"Generally when you have a large goal that will take you a while, you want to break it down into smaller milestones or sub-goals, perhaps even in multiple levels. E.g. if you have goal that you expect to take six months, break it down into monthly goals and perhaps break the monthly goals down into daily or weekly units.\n\n> This has resulted in my goal being drawn out over the uneccessary period of multiple years.\n\nWith any goal, you should set a date that you want to achieve it by. With long term goals where that date is a fair distance into the future, the sub goals become more important because how well you hit those goals gives you feedback about how you're doing/how close you should expect to get to your long term goal so that you can adjust either your effort or you timeline (or both).\n\nAnother thing that can help is writing your goal (and current sub goal) down every day. This helps keep you thinking about your goal so that you stay focused on it and reminds you to work on it every day. And writing it down helps you internalize it. Some suggest writing it down in the present tense (as in, \"I am/do/have [goal]\") as of a future date."
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"How to deal with very loud neighboor Hi!\nI recently bought new apartment(new building, Poland, Europe) and bedroom wall neighboor is incredibly loud up until 3am. He is ALWAYS throwing parties on fridays and saturdays. Loud music, people screaming and yelling over each other for hours... he often forgets to close his door and he shuts it with great force many times in the middle of the night. And when his guests leave, they scream on the stairway... wtf.\n\nIt's a young single guy it seems. Probably not the owner but tenant. I have no idea how to contact owner and tell him about this.\n\nYesterday i've called the police on the guy at 12am. They came very quickly, had a talk with the guy and left. The idiot argued with them \"oh whatever, I don't care\" and when they left, he continued until 3am. Why won't these people go to a bar or anything. No other neighbors seem to care.",
"How to deal with very loud neighboor Hi!\nI recently bought new apartment(new building, Poland, Europe) and bedroom wall neighboor is incredibly loud up until 3am. He is ALWAYS throwing parties on fridays and saturdays. Loud music, people screaming and yelling over each other for hours... he often forgets to close his door and he shuts it with great force many times in the middle of the night. And when his guests leave, they scream on the stairway... wtf.\n\nIt's a young single guy it seems. Probably not the owner but tenant. I have no idea how to contact owner and tell him about this.\n\nYesterday i've called the police on the guy at 12am. They came very quickly, had a talk with the guy and left. The idiot argued with them \"oh whatever, I don't care\" and when they left, he continued until 3am. Why won't these people go to a bar or anything. No other neighbors seem to care.",
"How to deal with very loud neighboor Hi!\nI recently bought new apartment(new building, Poland, Europe) and bedroom wall neighboor is incredibly loud up until 3am. He is ALWAYS throwing parties on fridays and saturdays. Loud music, people screaming and yelling over each other for hours... he often forgets to close his door and he shuts it with great force many times in the middle of the night. And when his guests leave, they scream on the stairway... wtf.\n\nIt's a young single guy it seems. Probably not the owner but tenant. I have no idea how to contact owner and tell him about this.\n\nYesterday i've called the police on the guy at 12am. They came very quickly, had a talk with the guy and left. The idiot argued with them \"oh whatever, I don't care\" and when they left, he continued until 3am. Why won't these people go to a bar or anything. No other neighbors seem to care.",
"How to deal with very loud neighboor Hi!\nI recently bought new apartment(new building, Poland, Europe) and bedroom wall neighboor is incredibly loud up until 3am. He is ALWAYS throwing parties on fridays and saturdays. Loud music, people screaming and yelling over each other for hours... he often forgets to close his door and he shuts it with great force many times in the middle of the night. And when his guests leave, they scream on the stairway... wtf.\n\nIt's a young single guy it seems. Probably not the owner but tenant. I have no idea how to contact owner and tell him about this.\n\nYesterday i've called the police on the guy at 12am. They came very quickly, had a talk with the guy and left. The idiot argued with them \"oh whatever, I don't care\" and when they left, he continued until 3am. Why won't these people go to a bar or anything. No other neighbors seem to care.",
"How to deal with very loud neighboor Hi!\nI recently bought new apartment(new building, Poland, Europe) and bedroom wall neighboor is incredibly loud up until 3am. He is ALWAYS throwing parties on fridays and saturdays. Loud music, people screaming and yelling over each other for hours... he often forgets to close his door and he shuts it with great force many times in the middle of the night. And when his guests leave, they scream on the stairway... wtf.\n\nIt's a young single guy it seems. Probably not the owner but tenant. I have no idea how to contact owner and tell him about this.\n\nYesterday i've called the police on the guy at 12am. They came very quickly, had a talk with the guy and left. The idiot argued with them \"oh whatever, I don't care\" and when they left, he continued until 3am. Why won't these people go to a bar or anything. No other neighbors seem to care.",
"How to deal with very loud neighboor Hi!\nI recently bought new apartment(new building, Poland, Europe) and bedroom wall neighboor is incredibly loud up until 3am. He is ALWAYS throwing parties on fridays and saturdays. Loud music, people screaming and yelling over each other for hours... he often forgets to close his door and he shuts it with great force many times in the middle of the night. And when his guests leave, they scream on the stairway... wtf.\n\nIt's a young single guy it seems. Probably not the owner but tenant. I have no idea how to contact owner and tell him about this.\n\nYesterday i've called the police on the guy at 12am. They came very quickly, had a talk with the guy and left. The idiot argued with them \"oh whatever, I don't care\" and when they left, he continued until 3am. Why won't these people go to a bar or anything. No other neighbors seem to care.",
"How to deal with very loud neighboor Hi!\nI recently bought new apartment(new building, Poland, Europe) and bedroom wall neighboor is incredibly loud up until 3am. He is ALWAYS throwing parties on fridays and saturdays. Loud music, people screaming and yelling over each other for hours... he often forgets to close his door and he shuts it with great force many times in the middle of the night. And when his guests leave, they scream on the stairway... wtf.\n\nIt's a young single guy it seems. Probably not the owner but tenant. I have no idea how to contact owner and tell him about this.\n\nYesterday i've called the police on the guy at 12am. They came very quickly, had a talk with the guy and left. The idiot argued with them \"oh whatever, I don't care\" and when they left, he continued until 3am. Why won't these people go to a bar or anything. No other neighbors seem to care.",
"How to deal with very loud neighboor Hi!\nI recently bought new apartment(new building, Poland, Europe) and bedroom wall neighboor is incredibly loud up until 3am. He is ALWAYS throwing parties on fridays and saturdays. Loud music, people screaming and yelling over each other for hours... he often forgets to close his door and he shuts it with great force many times in the middle of the night. And when his guests leave, they scream on the stairway... wtf.\n\nIt's a young single guy it seems. Probably not the owner but tenant. I have no idea how to contact owner and tell him about this.\n\nYesterday i've called the police on the guy at 12am. They came very quickly, had a talk with the guy and left. The idiot argued with them \"oh whatever, I don't care\" and when they left, he continued until 3am. Why won't these people go to a bar or anything. No other neighbors seem to care."
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"I would not talk to the neighbor directly because of what you've already described. You will probably just become the object of retaliation. I think it's better not to have your neighbor know who's calling him into the police.\n\n1. Call the police every single time that apartment is loud. Stay anonymous. Depending on the police/area, this might completely resolve your problem.\n\n2. Try to get in touch with the owner. \nDoes Poland have laws like Germany, where there's a \"Quiet time\" ordnance? In Germany (and Switzerland, etc), you can be easily thrown out of your apartment if you are making any noise a neighbor doesn't like after 10pm. You just report the person to the building owner (because in most cases, there's a single company that owns/manages the building).\n\n3. Just before the weekend (maybe on Thursday/Friday), ring the neighbor's doorbell early in the morning (like 30 mins-1 hr before you think he'd wake up normally). Do not let him see who rings it. Maybe only ring it once, so he's not even sure what woke him up. He'll be more tired the whole day and less likely to party. Bonus points if he has a dog. Make this part incredibly random so there's no way to know when you'll ring. \n\n4. Do you happen to know his phone number? Sign him up for something (free) that will call his phone. I had a coworker who got calls *every day* from a male enhancement company. He was an ass, so I'll bet someone signed him up for it. If not, maybe find something annoying to sign him up for where they will visit his apartment/give him embarassing mail. Maybe there's a religious group or something? \n\n5. Buy noise-cancelling headphones, and pick a really boring song to play to soothe your nerves. Trust me, it's worth it! You'll find future situations where the $350 Bose headphones are your only means for sanity. You can probably get them cheaper used, too, but I'd recommend just getting a new pair. ",
"Call the police over and over. I have done this and they really do not like coming back to a place where they already told the neighbor to be quiet. The police WILL escalate the issue and will make it stop.",
"I would go with noise canceling earplugs. I tried some and after a few tries I found pretty good ones, Oropax, green with a string for 3,69 or whatever. Plus I would go with some points that one guy suggested. Signing him up for spammail would waste ressources, e.g. burdeing the mailman, they probably have enough to already.",
"My wife and I had this SAME EXACT experience with a neighbor above us in an apartment we once had. We vowed to never again share walls with strangers. We still haven't to this day. ",
"You might consider returning the favor the next morning by playing your music loud. My experience with bad neighbors has been the only thing they will respond to is to hit back the same way they hit you.",
"No need to get the cops involved, just make him think they are. Get a recording of a police siren and play it loudly down the street from you building. That's probably enough to get them to shut up. ",
"1. These parties sound amazing, maybe try to get an invite.\n\n2. Talk to the owner and see what your options are for moving out.\n\n3. Find a new place and meet your neighbors first.",
"Have you tried talking to him? Might not work, but probably the best first step (ahead of calling police.)\n\nNext, I would read through the rental agreement- are there any clauses dealing with noise and or parties? If so, contact your property management and make a complaint. There has to be s way to get ahold of them- might be detailed in the rental agreement paperwork, and you had to have contacted them somehow to get the rental. "
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"How To Whistle This probably does not belong in this subreddit, but for years I have been trying to learn this to no avail. Every time I ask someone, they just say \"Make an O and blow\". It never works for me. \n\nSo does anyone have and tips?",
"How To Whistle This probably does not belong in this subreddit, but for years I have been trying to learn this to no avail. Every time I ask someone, they just say \"Make an O and blow\". It never works for me. \n\nSo does anyone have and tips?"
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"I first learnt to whistle 'inwards' rather than the traditional 'outwards'. To do this I would make a small o with my mouth, with my bottom lip ever so slightly further forward than my top lip. And I would inhale, slowly moving my bottom lip back until a whistling noise occurred.\n\nI think whistling outwards is the same general idea. It's hard for me to make an 'o' with my mouth, blow, and *not* whistle, but I can manage it so I know what you're dealing with.\n\nThink of it like making the noise when you blow across the top of a bottle: You have to be at the right angle. So make the O shape, blow, and then slowly move your bottom lip forward (or backward).\n\nI hope this helps...",
"First of all, the shape you should be making with your lips should be somewhat like drinking out of a straw: small \"o\", puckered lips.\nYour lips should also be pointed slightly downwards to the floor, this is important.\n\nWhen you blow, there are two components of whistling:\n\n-Controlling how fast the air is leaving your mouth (ie how hard you're blowing)\n\n-The size of the inside of your mouth (this changes the pitch of your whistle)\n\nYou shouldn't be blowing very hard at all, about the same intensity as blowing soup on your spoon to cool it down.\n\nTo get the right inner mouth position, you want to make sure you're tongue is flexed/tight, so that it's hard. Then while your lips are in the puckered position, blow while moving your tongue slowly back and forth in your mouth, increasing and decreasing this volume inside your mouth. Keep experimenting like that and you should eventually get the whistling sound.\n\nOnce you get the feel of it, you can extend the pitch of your whistle even further by moving your jaw and changing the shape of your tongue. It's all about changing the volume in your mouth to get the perfect pitch."
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"How to act around ex and his new GF at upcoming wedding Our mutual friend is getting married. I have not met the new GF since we broke up. I understand it sounds like a juvenile situation but I want to be grown up. It's for a few hours so I don't want to embarrass myself. ",
"How to act around ex and his new GF at upcoming wedding Our mutual friend is getting married. I have not met the new GF since we broke up. I understand it sounds like a juvenile situation but I want to be grown up. It's for a few hours so I don't want to embarrass myself. ",
"How to act around ex and his new GF at upcoming wedding Our mutual friend is getting married. I have not met the new GF since we broke up. I understand it sounds like a juvenile situation but I want to be grown up. It's for a few hours so I don't want to embarrass myself. "
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"Sounds like \"we broke up\" means \"he broke up with me\".\n\nI say this because if you are truly neutral about your ex, you wouldn't be worried about it.\n\nThat said, put on a happy face. You are there to celebrate your friend, and you wouldn't want to ruin it.\n\nSecond, YOU HAVE WORTH. Remember that, so you can carry yourself with dignity. Be pleasant. If you encounter your ex with his new squeeze, don't exaggerate your life, but be very matter-of-fact that you're carrying on with yours without him; perfectly comfortable with the fact you aren't together, anymore.",
"Approach them first, get introduced, make some small talk then...disappear back to your table / friend group. \n\nWatch you don't drink too much so you've no danger of getting out of control.",
"\"Congratulations i'm really happy for you both, the wedding was great, and this reception is amazing, thank you for having me\"\n\nDon't be sarcastic. You're relationship as a couple ended and he has moved on. I wish the best for all my friends, and you should be happy for them because life is difficult no need to make it harder for anyone else. Be happy, and be smart, enjoy the moment\n"
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"My stuffy/runny nose is making me so unconformable. How do I get rid of it? Been had it for two days. Caused my throat to sore, took nyquil yesterday and now I can't stop blowing my nose. I feel like my smelling and tasting sense will be affected by this. Any way I can stop this?",
"My stuffy/runny nose is making me so unconformable. How do I get rid of it? Been had it for two days. Caused my throat to sore, took nyquil yesterday and now I can't stop blowing my nose. I feel like my smelling and tasting sense will be affected by this. Any way I can stop this?",
"My stuffy/runny nose is making me so unconformable. How do I get rid of it? Been had it for two days. Caused my throat to sore, took nyquil yesterday and now I can't stop blowing my nose. I feel like my smelling and tasting sense will be affected by this. Any way I can stop this?",
"My stuffy/runny nose is making me so unconformable. How do I get rid of it? Been had it for two days. Caused my throat to sore, took nyquil yesterday and now I can't stop blowing my nose. I feel like my smelling and tasting sense will be affected by this. Any way I can stop this?"
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"Blow your nose then use a neti pot. The salt water reduces inflammation in your sinuses and will help you heal faster.",
"Relax mate. Just get enough rest and eat well. If it's just a cold, it will go away. If it seems like it is more than a common cold, please consult with a doctor.",
"If it's running non stop you need an antihistamine. Something non-drowsy like claritin, zyrtex, or allegra will do the trick. Buy the store brand to save about 40% for the same effect. If its congestion, you could try Nasacort, a new nasal spray corticosteroid that is OTC (just came out a few days ago). I would not use Afrin for congestion as it can become addicting after only 3 days\n",
"For me, NOT blowing my nose usually helps. Violently and frequently blowing your nose irritates the membranes inside your nose and that can make the inflammation worse. It sucks, but usually it's best just to wait."
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"How to clean cheese graters most effectively I use cheese graters a lot, and it's always ridiculously difficult to clean. Is there a really effective clever method to cleaning cheese graters?",
"How to clean cheese graters most effectively I use cheese graters a lot, and it's always ridiculously difficult to clean. Is there a really effective clever method to cleaning cheese graters?",
"How to clean cheese graters most effectively I use cheese graters a lot, and it's always ridiculously difficult to clean. Is there a really effective clever method to cleaning cheese graters?",
"How to clean cheese graters most effectively I use cheese graters a lot, and it's always ridiculously difficult to clean. Is there a really effective clever method to cleaning cheese graters?",
"How to clean cheese graters most effectively I use cheese graters a lot, and it's always ridiculously difficult to clean. Is there a really effective clever method to cleaning cheese graters?",
"How to clean cheese graters most effectively I use cheese graters a lot, and it's always ridiculously difficult to clean. Is there a really effective clever method to cleaning cheese graters?"
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"depends on the grater i guess but use the sponge in reverse so it doesn't grate it to pieces then use the sponge on the reverse side of the grater which should finish the job. ",
"the key is to clean them right away, also I only buy the grader that is completely flat, the kind that are like a box are impossible to clean",
"Another vote for brush. Find one with a long handle and not-too-stiff nylon bristles (like what you'd use to clean inside tall glasses, coffeepot, etc.)",
"Take a cloth/sponge, run the grater under cold water and wipe from top to bottom a few times so you don't wreck the cloth, scrub the other side normally and you should be good to go.",
"Run them under *cold* water while scrubbing with a bottle brush. Then follow up with hot water & soap.\n\nThe cold water causes the cheese residue to harden and roll off the grater as you scrub. Hot water softens the cheese and you just smear it around.",
"At Olive Garden we use rotary cheese graters. They work great, but could be a pain to clean. What we do is soak them in a hot soapy water solution for about an hour, then run the different parts through the wash without rinsing between steps. Works pretty well.\n\nAlso, those rotary cheese graters are great for carrot or potato shavings, or any type of vegetable shavings, and perfect for chocolate or similar shaved dessert toppings. You can get them on eBay for less than $10. I'm not sure how well some of the brands work, but I like the Zyliss brand that the restaurant buys."
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"Badly addicted to nasal spray (xylometazoline) what’s the best way to come off it and if anyone has gone cold turkey on it how long did it take. i’m on it about 3 years now and i use it almost every 10minutes",
"Badly addicted to nasal spray (xylometazoline) what’s the best way to come off it and if anyone has gone cold turkey on it how long did it take. i’m on it about 3 years now and i use it almost every 10minutes",
"Badly addicted to nasal spray (xylometazoline) what’s the best way to come off it and if anyone has gone cold turkey on it how long did it take. i’m on it about 3 years now and i use it almost every 10minutes",
"Badly addicted to nasal spray (xylometazoline) what’s the best way to come off it and if anyone has gone cold turkey on it how long did it take. i’m on it about 3 years now and i use it almost every 10minutes",
"Badly addicted to nasal spray (xylometazoline) what’s the best way to come off it and if anyone has gone cold turkey on it how long did it take. i’m on it about 3 years now and i use it almost every 10minutes",
"Badly addicted to nasal spray (xylometazoline) what’s the best way to come off it and if anyone has gone cold turkey on it how long did it take. i’m on it about 3 years now and i use it almost every 10minutes",
"Badly addicted to nasal spray (xylometazoline) what’s the best way to come off it and if anyone has gone cold turkey on it how long did it take. i’m on it about 3 years now and i use it almost every 10minutes"
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"I went through this about 30 years ago, though not quite as bad as you. Was hooked on the spray for over a year, needed to use it almost hourly. Here's my experience and recommendations.\n\nIn retrospect I wish I would have gone to see a doctor for help. There's no shame and it and likely would have been much, much easier to do this with their assistance. I highly recommend this.\n\nWhen I did this I planned to go cold turkey starting Friday after work in hopes that I'd be in better shape Monday morning. Fortunately, it worked out for me. l made sure I had everything I would need for the weekend so I wouldn't have to leave my apartment.\n\nWhen I stopped the spray my sinuses soon closed solidly and completely just as if I were pinching my nose closed, making it impossible to swallow food or water. To accommodate this I bought the lowest strength baby/toddler decongestant drops I could find. I put a few drops in each side just before eating. This didn't provide much relief but it did loosen my sinuses enough to swallow. I also bought nighttime Nyquil to help me get through the nights. I used the baby drops only for meals and water and only used the Nyquil at night and followed the appropriate dosage.\n\nThe weekend was rough but by Sunday afternoon I was beginning to feel a little improvement and by Monday morning my sinuses were open enough to allow me to go to work. I couldn't breathe well through my nose but I could swallow, talk, and function without drops or spray. It was like a had a pretty stout head cold. Over the rest of the week the symptoms continued to improve and soon enough I was for the most part done.\n\nFortunately the addiction to nasal spray doesn't take hold of your entire body the way narcotics or nicotine can. In most cases it only impacts your sinuses and ability to breathe through your nose and the psychological and emotional affects that causes. Not making light of those, but this is something that can be overcome relatively easily by comparison.\n\nBe smart, get a doctor's help, and get rid of your dependency to the spray.\n\nGood luck!",
"I would suggest switching to a saline spray or some non-steroidal nasal spray. Have you tried talking to your healthcare provider?",
"Shit is gnarly isnt it? All these people talking about neti pots and saline flushes…. those cause congestive rebound too, sad to say. \n\nTo get off afrin I made a very dilute solution of like 2 sprays afrin, the rest saline. Then the next week 1 spray and so on down to no afrin at all. \n\nNow I use benzedrex which lacks the efficacy, but also the dependence liability of afrin.",
"I’m going through this right now. I know this is an old thread but thought I’d share.\n\nFirst of all, Google Rhinostat Kit. It’s overpriced but incredibly easy to use. They send you a bottle of the spray you’re stuck on plus a bottle of saline. The bottle of spray has lines on it, full and when to add saline. The first day you start 100% on spray, and at the end of every day, you refill the bottle up to the fill line with saline solution. Every day, your concentration of nasal spray gets lower and the concentration of saline gets higher. If you’re on a tight budget, you could probably build a kit like this at home. The key is you need a plastic dropper bottle that is both clear and has a removable top to add saline through.\n\nI’m 4 or 5 days into the process and have been 100% withdrawal free. I’m stunned at how much less I’m using my spray already. I was to the point of having to use Afrin every 3-4 hours, and I’m already going 8+ hours without having to use. Im extremely excited and feel so blessed that after almost 2 years of being stuck on it that the end is in sight.\n\nI know this is an old thread, and I hope you were able to kick this demon since then, but I wanted to share for people like me who found it later on. Some other commenters did mention this strategy already, but I wanted to really spell out how it works and how to approach it for those looking to replicate the process. \n\nOh! Also it really helps to have a bottle of saline solution on the side that you can use as much as you want. The first day or two I was able to drastically reduce the frequency of my sprays just by using saline every 1 hour or so. And then when the withdrawal showed up again I’d turn to the oxymetazoline diluted spray. \n\nPlease, if anyone out there reads this and is struggling, my DMs are always open! If you need any more detail on this process or where to get the Rhinostat Kit, hit me up and I’ll help however I can!",
"Been there, but nowhere near as severely as you're describing. The times I was addicted to Afrin, I would get over it after a few days going without it. Here's what I'd do...\n\n1. Alternate the spray you use to use. When addicted to Afrin, I would switch to 4-way (which uses Oxymetazoline) for a bit just to keep things manageable while I broke the addiction.\n2. Use a sinus rinse (saline) to keep cleaning things out. I recently found out about these and they are a solid alternative to the sprays, in general. NeilMed Sinus Rinse is an example. Think of it like a netty pot, but it's more forceful and gets up in there to clean things out.\n3. Altoids, wasabi, etc and other stuff that can clean out/open up your sinuses temporarily.\n4. Gut it out and just deal with the fact that your sinuses are closed off for a couple of days.\n\n​\n\nI would also add that I have had multiple times that I've had an Afrin/4-way bottle sit around for a while and when I used it again, I ended up with a sinus infection. If your spray bottle is more than a couple weeks old, I'd stop using it. Perhaps a trip to the doc, as well.",
"Flonase really helps. It's a steroid that takes time to build up so start using it in conjunction with your Afrin then start weening of the Afrin while maintaining with the Flonase. Have saline spray on hand to keep your nasal passages clear while they are experiencing rebound effects.",
"Definitely go to your doctor for help - those nasal sprays can have strong effects on your heart. Be careful"
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"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. ",
"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. ",
"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. ",
"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. ",
"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. ",
"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. ",
"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. ",
"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. ",
"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. ",
"Does anyone have a good grocery 'inventory' they use to keep their pantry stocked? Bachelor here, and stereotypically I don't feed myself very well, mostly due to the fact that I don't know how to grocery shop appropriately. "
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"I made a [list](http://i.imgur.com/Mew2g.jpg) long ago on the computer and saved it as a word file. Every few months or so I will ",
"I wouldn't try to keep a specific inventory, you'll just wind up with cabinets full of crap you don't use. Just get more organized about how you buy stuff.\n\n1. Spend 15 minutes planning a few meals for the next week. Write down what you'll need to make them that you don't already have.\n\n2. Cut paper in half lengthwise to make grocery lists, stick one on the fridge and jot things on it as you use up a container or realize you need it.\n\n3. If you want to get fancy, pre-print headings on said list like \"Bread\", \"Meat\" \"Dairy\" \"Produce\" \"Paper & Cleaners\" \"Canned & Boxed Goods\" \"Beverage\". That way, as you jot down stuff on the list, it's already grouped by parts of the store, so it goes a lot faster.\n\n4. Before you leave to shop, check the fridge and cabinets quickly to see what you want to use up, and if you want to get something to help you do that, like if you have a ton of lettuce left but no tomatoes, stuff like that. This is also a great time to chuck old leftovers and keep the fridge cleaned out, then there'll be room to put any new stuff you get.",
"1. meat\n2. stuff that goes with the meat\n3. stuff to season that meat and stuff that goes with the meat\n4. liquids to drink and/or cook with\n5. butter, its its own thing because its fucking important\n\nthere is your shopping list...",
"Is price an issue? What do you mean feed well? Are you not eating healthy, or are you just not eating?\n\nFor cheap inexpensive \"real\" food:\nIf you want variety, a pack of frozen mixed vegetables that will last you likely 2 meals is about $.99 at safeway.\n\nBuy some spice/herb mix and you can just dump it on about anything (meat/vegetables) to have some delicious tasting food. My favorite is Montreal Steak. \n\nKeeping bread handy with some peanut butter or jelly is handy if you are feeling lazy and don't want to cook.\n\nI suggest also Tupperware so you can cook maybe 2 meals/2 days worth of meals and you don't need to cook again so the laziness factor doesn't kick in and cause you to miss out on food.",
"I do my grocery shopping by meal; breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks. I make a list of everything I typically eat for each meal and then categorize them by department (produce, breads, pasta, meats, dairy, etc.) It doesn't always work out--ie sometimes a tomato goes bad or the last bagel gets moldy before my next trip--but about 90% of the time I can eat something good for every meal for about two weeks.\n\nTwo tips for grocery shopping:\n* NEVER go shopping while hungry, because everything looks and smells delicious. Eat breakfast or lunch (or even dinner depending on your store's hours) before going.\n* Perishables like meat and dairy should always be the last things you put into your basket. As a rule, all perishable items should be out of the refrigerated section of the store and into your fridge within about 30 minutes. Frozen items have a little longer because they're kept frozen in the store, whereas most meats and dairy are in open cooling displays.",
"One thing I do is every time I go shopping, I add anything new to my list on my phone.\n\nAfter a few months, you'll have a nice list of stuff that you use often. Then just check quantities before you go to the store.",
"My mother keeps a word document on her computer with dozens of items that she's likely to get at the grocery store. She keeps about a dozen printouts handy, and before she shops, circles what she needs. If you want I can post it somewhere.",
"Make a list of your 10 favorite meals. Now take apart each of those meals. How much of that stuff is dry goods, like pasta and jar sauce? Make a list of that and stock up on it. Now make a list of the fresh items that you would use, and that's part of your weekly shopping list.\n\nYou should always have a 'dry' list and a 'fresh' list on your fridge. Your dry list is your once a month shopping list of everything you can stock for years. Your fresh list is your weekly list, and gives you the opportunity to add variety to your pantry.",
"**Spices** \nSriracha, Red Rooster hot sauce, salt, pepper, Old Bay seafood seasoning, cumin, coriander, paprika, oregano (these last four make awesome Cuban sofrito), olive oil, red wine\n\n**Dry Storage** \n10lb bag of jasmine rice, saltine crackers, multigrain crackers, Top Ramen noodle packets, 10lb white flour, 5lb white sugar, baking soda, baking powder\n\n**Canned** \nSardines in water, tuna, smoked oysters, kipper snacks, chicken noodle soup (for when sick, nothing is better), spaghetti-o's\n\n**Bad-4-You's** \nCap'n Crunch, various chocolate bars, fig newtons, chips + dip",
"I'm also a bachelor. I get Campbell's Chunky soup, Ramen, (because i can cook a little) Pork chops, steak, hamburgers. In most chain stores there is 99cent pasta bags, they go good with almost anything. Hamburger helper is also a great choice, usually too much to eat, pretty cheap, and easy to make. A simple but over looked think by men is veggies! I'm cheap so I get canned corn, peas, carrots, green beans, ect. However my girl friend does make food at her house 2 or 3 nights a week, so I usually just eat small meals when I'm nit over there. "
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"Drying a large couch cushion? Through a series of dumb, poorly thought out life choices, I find myself with a soaking wet, but mostly clean couch cushion. I considered leaving it out in the sun but that sounds like an excellent way to get bugs. Is there any nifty way to speed up the drying process while preventing mildew?",
"Drying a large couch cushion? Through a series of dumb, poorly thought out life choices, I find myself with a soaking wet, but mostly clean couch cushion. I considered leaving it out in the sun but that sounds like an excellent way to get bugs. Is there any nifty way to speed up the drying process while preventing mildew?",
"Drying a large couch cushion? Through a series of dumb, poorly thought out life choices, I find myself with a soaking wet, but mostly clean couch cushion. I considered leaving it out in the sun but that sounds like an excellent way to get bugs. Is there any nifty way to speed up the drying process while preventing mildew?"
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"Leave it out in the sun after squeezing the excess water out. I do that with huge blankets and then dust it off. I was apprehensive at first but no bugs came in.",
"Take your cushions to the bathtub and squeeze them against the sides of the tub. This will remove a lot of the excess moisture. After that, place them up against a box fan if you've got one, and turn it on. The air moving through the cushion will dry it quickly.\n\nIf you don't have a box fan, you can place light-colored or white towels all around the cushion and lay it outside in the sun. The towels will prevent bugs from getting in, and help to pull moisture away as it evaporates.",
"A Shop-Vac can also extract liquid. \n\n(I pressure wash my vehicle seats every few years. And keep my vehicles 10-20 years.)\n\nExtract all the moisture you can, and then lay them in the sunshine. If there's no breeze, consider a fan across them while they dry. Rotate them occasionally so the warmth can hit cooler areas. "
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"Overcoming a sweet-tooth I have a terrible sweet-tooth and I can't seem to overcome it. Once I have something sweet, I lose all control and eat a ton of it. Even a piece of fruit can set me off.",
"Overcoming a sweet-tooth I have a terrible sweet-tooth and I can't seem to overcome it. Once I have something sweet, I lose all control and eat a ton of it. Even a piece of fruit can set me off.",
"Overcoming a sweet-tooth I have a terrible sweet-tooth and I can't seem to overcome it. Once I have something sweet, I lose all control and eat a ton of it. Even a piece of fruit can set me off.",
"Overcoming a sweet-tooth I have a terrible sweet-tooth and I can't seem to overcome it. Once I have something sweet, I lose all control and eat a ton of it. Even a piece of fruit can set me off."
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"I think start swapping your main sweet treats for something slightly less sweet, e.g. if you eat milk chocolate now, start trying dark. Once you're used to that, move onto something less sweet again like a fruit bar flavoured with cocoa (I like the 'nakd' brand). Also shift from sugary breakfast cereals to healthier ones with bits of fruit and then to ones with no sugar (e.g. frosties --> special k with fruit --> bran flakes) \n\nOr start with replacing with fruit instead? I find something like dates or figs really helps with sugar cravings and is presumably healthy.. \n\nI have also found that drinking something that tastes sweet but doesn't contain sugar helps, e.g. some types of herbal tea like liquorice flavour. \n\nI just realised I don't know where you are so my brand names might not be familiar if you're outside the UK. But hopefully the concept makes sense! ",
"I make regular (not quick cooking) oatmeal with dried cranberries or raisins in the microwave. You can sweeten with a tad of jam or sugar or non-calorie sugar replacement as you wish. The sweetness of the dried fruit and/or jam will satisfy your need for sweet, and the oatmeal will fill you up. The recipe is brain-dead easy: 1/2 c. oats + 1 cup water; nuke for 3 minutes. I also agree with the r",
"I am right there with you. Sweets are my undoing. Cinnamon definitely helps. Also, if your craving sweets after dinner, go brush your teeth, it will kill those cravings. Something else I've been doing the last couple months is to drink a full glass of water before lunch and dinner, I eat much less and the sweet cravings have definitely calmed down. Hope this helps!",
"Cinnamon helps, trying to avoid sweets where possible (like not keeping them in the house or if that's not possible keeping them out of sight), find other foods you like that aren't sweet to use as a treat when you're really craving. \rThe first little while is the hardest but I've cut added sugar from my diet since mid last year and it really doesn't bother me anymore. "
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"A way to lessen/eradicate excessive oil on faces? (Especially nose) As a glasses-wearing person, all this oil on my nose really irks me to no ends. Would there happen to be a solution anywhere? I literally wash my face twice a day, and still no luck.\n\nI hear that eating less greasy food and more healthy food contributes to the amount of oil on faces. Did this starting around 2 months back, and it does work to some extent (my overall face is better), but my nose is still greasy as hell.\n\nI thought about those Neutrogena products for this type of thing, but I always thought it was a snake-oil type deal and that they don't do much. Do they actually work? On men too?\n\nAny solutions would be absolutely great!",
"A way to lessen/eradicate excessive oil on faces? (Especially nose) As a glasses-wearing person, all this oil on my nose really irks me to no ends. Would there happen to be a solution anywhere? I literally wash my face twice a day, and still no luck.\n\nI hear that eating less greasy food and more healthy food contributes to the amount of oil on faces. Did this starting around 2 months back, and it does work to some extent (my overall face is better), but my nose is still greasy as hell.\n\nI thought about those Neutrogena products for this type of thing, but I always thought it was a snake-oil type deal and that they don't do much. Do they actually work? On men too?\n\nAny solutions would be absolutely great!",
"A way to lessen/eradicate excessive oil on faces? (Especially nose) As a glasses-wearing person, all this oil on my nose really irks me to no ends. Would there happen to be a solution anywhere? I literally wash my face twice a day, and still no luck.\n\nI hear that eating less greasy food and more healthy food contributes to the amount of oil on faces. Did this starting around 2 months back, and it does work to some extent (my overall face is better), but my nose is still greasy as hell.\n\nI thought about those Neutrogena products for this type of thing, but I always thought it was a snake-oil type deal and that they don't do much. Do they actually work? On men too?\n\nAny solutions would be absolutely great!",
"A way to lessen/eradicate excessive oil on faces? (Especially nose) As a glasses-wearing person, all this oil on my nose really irks me to no ends. Would there happen to be a solution anywhere? I literally wash my face twice a day, and still no luck.\n\nI hear that eating less greasy food and more healthy food contributes to the amount of oil on faces. Did this starting around 2 months back, and it does work to some extent (my overall face is better), but my nose is still greasy as hell.\n\nI thought about those Neutrogena products for this type of thing, but I always thought it was a snake-oil type deal and that they don't do much. Do they actually work? On men too?\n\nAny solutions would be absolutely great!"
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"Use a mattifier. They work very well. Blotting with a brown paper bag cut up into small squares is also helpful.\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Boots-Mattifying-Makeup-281-2e3-oz-2e-29/dp/B000PSV6D2",
"Try Cetaphil, that stuff did wonders for me. I use the cleanser every morning in the shower and my face produces much less oil now. ",
"drink LOTS of water and try [this](https://www.google.com/search?q=loreal+men+face+scrub&rlz=1C1ASUT_deDE452&aq=f&um=1&ie=UTF-8&hl=es-419&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=5kVPUYuVKYei2wXbqoHADA&biw=1366&bih=607&sei=60VPUaCIL4ysqQGT5oCwDA#um=1&hl=es-419&rlz=1C1ASUT_deDE452&tbm=isch&sa=1&q=loreal+men+pure+matte+face+scrub&oq=loreal+men+pure+matte+face+scrub&gs_l=img.3...9783.17052.2.18111.16.14.2.0.0.0.170.1510.4j10.14.0...0.0...1c.1.7.img.R_y6sMyXWZc&bav=on.2,or.r_cp.r_qf.&bvm=bv.44158598,d.aWM&fp=44e58affcb3cb579&biw=1366&bih=643). It worked for me and is relatively cheap.",
"The reason it's so hard to \"fix\" oily skin and acne is because its so individualized. Everyone is different thus employ different triggers with some exceptions. Do not wash your skin more than the twice a day you are now. All that will do is tell your skin to produce even more oil. You can buy oil free clear wipes (not the alcohol drenched bullshit) that are primarily used for makeup removal. I can't recall the name at the moment but these work great for removing oil by blotting in the area of need. "
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"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?",
"What is the best way to accept an apology? When someone is brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize to me, I often don't know how to respond other than saying \"It's okay\", even when what they may have done in reality isn't okay. When I think of other responses I often think of \"I accept your apology\" and to me, that sounds so formal and unforgiving. How do you guys respond?"
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"I usually say something like, \"Thank you for saying that.\" Or \"I appreciate you telling me that\" and then I go on to elaborate and talk the issue through with the person. ",
"Look them straight in the eye, allow a second of pause and in a normal tone(I think of Mister Rogers), say exactly this: \n\n\"I forgive you.\"\n\nRepentance and forgiveness is shunned in modern society, but that's why people ramble and apologize over and over. They don't want to hear \"it's okay, I understand, it's alright\"; they want forgiveness.\n\nWe don't say 'I forgive you' anymore because it means we have to forgive them and we have decided it's okay to be cowards and hold things over people forever.",
"\"Apology accepted.\" And then take the high road and never speak of it again.\n\nIt is really damaging to a relationship to accept an apology, and then farther down the road to bring the offense up again and hold it against them. This is sand in the mechanism of relationship that will wear away at it.",
"I worked for many years as a behavioral therapist with children and young men with developmental disabilities. One day a kid punched me in the face so hard he almost knocked me out. After some non violent crisis intervention and prevention he had calmed down and was very distraught cause he could tell he hurt me even though I was trying very hard not to show it. He apologized profusely and I replied with \"it's okay\" he quickly yelled \"No! It's not okay your my friend and I hurt you and all you do is try to help me.\" It really opened my eyes. I never realized how it sounded when you reply to an apology that way. I told him, \"You know what, you did hurt me. But I can see that you are truly sorry and I do forgive you. Everyone makes mistakes. Let's try not making this one again.\" He cried and hugged me. I never say it's okay when someone apologizes now. Kid taught me a lot. ",
"Be honest. \"Thank you for saying that. I really appreciate that. It takes a lot to admit that you've done something wrong, and I respect that, y'know? I'm not sure what to say. What happened wasn't really 'okay,' so I can't say it's 'okay' but this makes me feel a lot better about it. Thank you!\"\n\nOr... focus on the idea of forgiveness. You seem to focus on how what they did wasn't \"okay\"... so maybe instead of saying \"It's okay\", when it isn't, focus on forgiveness. That is to say, the act of no longer holding it against them. \"Thank you for saying that. I forgive you.\" though that soudns a littler weirdly formal as well. :)\n\nbut I think it's an important thing. \n\nForgiveness doesn't make what happened okay. If I kill your goldfish, that's not okay, but you can forgive me for hte circumstances. (if they are 'worth' forgiving, anyway. My kid was in the hospital suddenly. I was in an accident, whatever. Not, \"I forgot, lol sorry\")",
"The response really depends on the thing being apologised for, and degree of sincerity.\n\n\n\"Dude, sorry spilled beer on your carpet\"\n\n - Don't worry about it. Thanks for grabbing a towel so quick. Shot?\n\n\n\"Oh honey, I'm sorry I told your family that secret from high school. I always assumed they knew.\"\n\n - Well, I'm still pissed off and embarrassed, but I guess I forgive you. Just be careful, please?\n\n\n\"Hey, I know you were into Karen, but we ran into each other the other night and one thing led to another and now we're sort of dating.\"\n\n - Hey, no biggie. Good for you, man!\n\n\n\"I'm so sorry I ran over your mother. I was wasted and it was dark\"\n\n - Go fuck yourself, asshole. Eat a bag of dicks and die.\n\n\nSo you've really got to adapt it for the situation.\n\n\n\n",
"I always just say ' you better be sorry you fucking piece of shit, fuck you!' but then again I don't have any friends, so go fuck yourself.",
"\"I accept your apology\" may not be so bad. Sometimes you can forgive but not necessarily forget. If the other person knows they messed up then saying that in a serious manner not only lets them know that you jave forgiven but you will bear it mind and hopefully deter any form of reoffending. \n\nBtw it sounds like a lot of people have done wrong by you!",
">its okay.\n\nIs a terrible response. Theyre apologizing for bad behavior, they are saying that the behavior was not \"okay\". By disagreeing with them you are de facto rejecting their apology.\n\n>Thank you\n\nThis should be the basis of your response. Everyone makes mistakes. People have different personalities. People are offended by different things. No one is perfect.",
"1. Show what they did wasn't really important: they did nothing too bad and you don't care much about it. \n2. Understand why they did it and tell them is was a reasonable action.\n\nWhen someone apologize what they want is to make clear the didn't intend to harm the relationship.",
"Someone saying sorry is them saying they did something wrong, responding \"it's ok\" is disagreeing with them. \"I forgive you\" says \"What you did was wrong and hurt me, but I'm not going to hold it against you.\" You have to both admit there was a problem and resolve it, not pretend it never happened.",
"In the case you mentioned. Start off by thanking them. Say it meant a lot coming from them. But follow it up by asking, what caused them to act in the way they did to create the problem. Say you want to understand what they were feeling that led them to hurt you or your feelings. This worked with my kids and it works on me when I apologize to my wife. ",
"You see, when you accept and apology and you haven't really forgiven that person, I believe that you are just lying to yourself and you will not give a real answer once he/she apologized. \n\nIf you have truly forgiven him/her it will come natural what to say. \nYou mentioned that when you think of what to reply you find your answers too formal and unforgiving. This is because you don't believe in what you are saying. I accept your apology is a great reply if you are being completely honest. \n\nThat's my point of view friend.",
"You just try to sound sincere as possible, which can be hard. I usually say, \" I Appreciate that you're apologizing...\" and if what they did wasn't enough for me cause it was something bad, \" I appreciate that you're trying to fix things, I feel _______ and im not sure how to go form here\" you show that you are aware that they are trying to repent, but that you are unsure of how to proceed , and why you're unsure. That way they are given a chance to realize how you feel and whta needs to fix. ",
"You could try \"apology accepted\" since it rolls off the tongue a little easier than \"I accept your apology\" and comes out sounding a little less stiff. If nothing else, a sincere \"thank you\" is more than enough. If they're apologizing then they know they fucked up and they have already beat themselves up to the point of apology, so there is no need to belabor the point or go into too deeply.\n\nAccept the apology sincerely and simply, and move past it.",
"The answer is so simple it will make you feel dumb for having not thought of it already.\n\n\"Apology accepted :)\"\n\nYou can even say it in a robot voice for funny points.",
"Thank you for saying that. Please don't let it happen again. A simply apology isn't going to cut it next time. ",
"Smile. It lightens the mood and helps both people realize that this too shall pass and you can work through. Next say thank you. Then you can either hand wave away a small issue or talk about how to avoid similar circumstances in the future if it's important.",
"Simple phrase I picked up from a friend and have been using ever since \"No Worries\". Vary the tone from serious to light hearted as it fits. It never seems to come out sarcastic.\n\nThe next thing is to try and change the subject to something else. If you don't you will both wallow in the moment and then it gets uncomfortable.",
"Most people would rather die than apologize. You're not happy that they feel bad, you're happy that everythng's OK. Just smile and say \"thank you,\" that's all.",
"Maybe say something like \"I appreciate (or accept) your apology and I forgive you, but what you did wasn't okay.\" ",
"Just say thank you and move on.\n\nIf you're actually willing to accept the apology, you should also be willing to move on. Just say thank you and leave it alone. The other person, if willing to apologize, probably isn't interested in dwelling.",
"If you accept their apology and forgive them. \"Thank you, I accept your apology and forgive your indiscretion, I hope that one day I can show such great poise. \n\nIf you do not accept their apology and do not forgive them - Fuck you!. \n\nIf you accept their apology and do not forgive them - I understand, thank you. ",
"I say \"I forgive you\". Someone told me when I was a child that you should never say \"It's OK\" when it wasn't OK, and that always stuck with me. And similarly, when I'm apologizing and someone says it's OK, I tell them that no, it wasn't, and I'm really sorry.",
"I inmediately tell the person something similar I have done in the recent past. They have volunteered to be really vulnerable with me, to take an \"inferior\" stance, and I think it's noble to bring them back up and remind them we are all human and make mistakes. I'm all for clearing the air and taking the pressure off trying to be more perfect than we really are. But... this is assuming the apology is genuine. If I feel like they are apologising to feel okay about their lack of personal responsibility, I get passive aggressively righteous on them.",
"From my experience my girlfriends way to accept an apology is to say it's ok then bring it up months later!",
"Forgiveness is the kindest gift, to yourself and others-- to accept an apology a simple thank you, or just letting them know you appreciate it is usually enough. For me at least, it comes down to one question, do I want to continue the friendship or whatever there is at stake. If yes then I'll easily move on, if not, I will usually say thank you, I understand but I think we should go our separate ways.",
"Apologize in return. Depending on the situation you can find, even small, points that you could do better. Some generic apologies in this case:\n\"I am sorry to put you in this situation\"\n\"Sorry for yelling at you when you did that\"\n",
"Accept the apology, but tell them what they did wrong. Sometimes people apologize out of habit instead of meaning which leads them to make the same mistake again.",
"A while ago someone gave me an apology for something stupid as shit that they did at work, so awkward situation all around.\n\nI said \"Well... I appreciate your apology. It means a lot and I know it's difficult\" we just kind of nodded and moved on from it.",
"\"Thanks, I appreciate that. Its ok.\"\n\nAnd a kiss if its someone you love.\n\nThen talk about what happened honestly and openly, so you both can do better next time.\n\n",
"\"Thank you, I appreciate [whatever], it means a lot, it must have been [difficult, embarrassing, etc]\" *That last part's optional- depending on the situation. It helps to build empathy with someone by showing you understand their point of view. You don't have to accept- it or even like it, but it helps to understand it.* \"Next time [I can, we will, you could... whatever- to avoid things getting out of hand- again- situational]\nAs far as sounding sincere, if you haven't seen it, check out [this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=guZa7mQV1l0) by Chris Voss. It's about negiation skills but it's still pretty intresting. \n\n ",
"\"Don't worry about it.\" \n\nAlso, how often do you find this happening? I very rarely find myself in a position where I am accepting an apology having done nothing at all wrong myself, so this is usually followed by an apology for whatever I did. If you're finding it super awkward it's possible the other party is expecting a reciprocal apology.",
"1. Thank them.\n\n2. Have them affirm your feelings.\n\n3. Explain how what they did made you feel that way.\n\n4. Receive acknowledgement/confirmation on what you just said.\n\n\"Thank you for apologizing, but I really need you to understand why [this upset me, is not nice, I reacted the way I did], because what you did is [very selfish, was very dangerous, was very embarrassing, very unprofessional, makes me feel like shit..]..(more elaboration but not really a lecture). [Do you understand where I'm coming from? or Does this make sense? or Do you think my reaction is reasonable?] \"\n\nAnd if they don't acknowledge how you feel at the end, then their sorry ain't shit."
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"Preventing a \"zipper boner\" while wearing a sweatshirt or jacket Any way to avoid this, either in the drying method or while wearing it?",
"Preventing a \"zipper boner\" while wearing a sweatshirt or jacket Any way to avoid this, either in the drying method or while wearing it?",
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"Don't wash it. Washing causes shrinkage everywhere except the zipper (since the zipper is a different material).\n\nAlternatively wash it is such a way to minimize shrinkage, cold water, air dry. And even then minimize the amount of times you wash it. Unless its a large size they all eventually succumb to that fate.",
"Easy trick: wear jeans that button rather then have a zipper. As for jackets, a few ideas come to mind. \n1 - wear button/toggle/snapping jackets instead. \n2 - consider replacing zippers with the above listed fabric securing mechanisms.\n3 - un-sew and re-sew the zippers back on to realign them for a fairly long while (the clothes already shrunk, and while they will shrink more, probably not as much from now)\n4 - replace zippers with magnetic clasps. Magnetic clasps are so legit that they deserve their own number, along with being incredibly convenient as no-effort buttons. Strongly recommended for jackets and pockets. Strongly un-recommended for jean zippers.\n5 - velcro instead of zippers. Same concept as above, only I just thought of this one. Also, prepare to have trouble with sexy times if you have velcro jeans.\n6 - time to get creative! Lace your jackets and jeans and stuff closed with ribbon/shoelaces/string/lace (for the ladies!)\n7 - nuts and bolts and buttons. Great for metal detectors!\n8 - forgo jeans and jackets and instead wear sweats and sweaters! Never zip again!\n9 - instead of replacing our substituting the zipper, simply take a thin piece of plywood (or something equally firm) and glue the zipper to it! Never again have a fake boner from your zippers!\n\nI hope these ideas help (or at least inspire the courage to face the evil boner faking zippers with the skill, wit, and wisdom of.... Whoever you look to for those things. Bad horse maybe?)\n\n",
"Wear clothes that fit you better! Honestly, I can't find them being that I have a strange body shape, but I know that's the ptoblem."
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"How to study more and absorb more of your study Hey guys! I currently am in high school in Brazil and studying for the one of the most difficult exams in the country. This exams consists in five subjects: Math, Chemistry, Physics, Portuguese and English.\n\nSo i want to ask how can i improve the time of my study and learn as much as possible.",
"How to study more and absorb more of your study Hey guys! I currently am in high school in Brazil and studying for the one of the most difficult exams in the country. This exams consists in five subjects: Math, Chemistry, Physics, Portuguese and English.\n\nSo i want to ask how can i improve the time of my study and learn as much as possible.",
"How to study more and absorb more of your study Hey guys! I currently am in high school in Brazil and studying for the one of the most difficult exams in the country. This exams consists in five subjects: Math, Chemistry, Physics, Portuguese and English.\n\nSo i want to ask how can i improve the time of my study and learn as much as possible.",
"How to study more and absorb more of your study Hey guys! I currently am in high school in Brazil and studying for the one of the most difficult exams in the country. This exams consists in five subjects: Math, Chemistry, Physics, Portuguese and English.\n\nSo i want to ask how can i improve the time of my study and learn as much as possible.",
"How to study more and absorb more of your study Hey guys! I currently am in high school in Brazil and studying for the one of the most difficult exams in the country. This exams consists in five subjects: Math, Chemistry, Physics, Portuguese and English.\n\nSo i want to ask how can i improve the time of my study and learn as much as possible.",
"How to study more and absorb more of your study Hey guys! I currently am in high school in Brazil and studying for the one of the most difficult exams in the country. This exams consists in five subjects: Math, Chemistry, Physics, Portuguese and English.\n\nSo i want to ask how can i improve the time of my study and learn as much as possible."
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"Look up method of loci... Otherwise known as memory palaces. In general, learn how human memory works. Learn about spaced repetition... which means there's more efficient ways of studying for a test than cramming. In terms of language learning, look up Ankhi software. You can hack the brain to a point with memorization systems and efficient learning processes. But basic health of the brain is of upmost importance too. Which means getting enough sleep, eating well, and getting enough exercise. And not drinking or doing drugs.\n\nIn truth, your question is the best and most important question ever.\n\nGood luck!",
"Are you studying to ENEM, right? Well, the thing that helps me a lot is to play classic music in a low volume... I highly recommend some of spotify's playlists like Concentration maximum and Time for study. And have short breaks after 40 minutes studying.",
"http://www.barbaraoakley.com/pdf/10rulesofstudying.pdf\n\nThese are tips from the Coursera class on how to study/learn, by Barbara Oakley. I've gone back to this link many times. Hopefully it will help you too :)",
"What kind of learner are you? Do you learn best from reading? From listening? Or from hands-on experience? I find that personally for me, if I write things down, even copying from the book, I remember them much better, and I remember things even better if there's some kind of activity involved, like having to solve a problem or something.\n\nOnce you figure out how you learn best, you can maximize your material. Also, learning things in \"chunks\" is more effective than memorizing singular items that are out of context, especially with languages (I'm a language teacher by profession). So with Portuguese and English, if you study vocabulary don't just memorize the words alone, memorize the words *in a sentence* that has actual meaning. It will stick much better.",
"The best way to learn is as /u/nealius wrote: What kind of learner are you? Kinesthetic, listener or visual? Knowing your basic input of the world is best to better learning. If its visual, writing, watching YouTube lessons maybe right. If audio, audio books, classes, repeating mentally is most successful. Kinesthetic is more through how you feel or move, so pretending to give a class to someone is useful, and giving a class at all is useful independent of the channel of learning, because when you you can teach something to another, you know the subject.\rAlso base on Ebbinghaus curve learning and always restudy the information from yesterday, everyday, as its remembering each day lessens in time.\r[I'll correct and put references as I'm in cellphone and late for a conference]",
"No, I'm studying for the ITA exam, and I need some advice for improving my studyinhg hours and absorb more in shorts periods of time. But thanks anyway. I do that every time I go to study and it's really good for concentration. Thanks!"
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"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
"How do I become a great listener when others are speaking? This might sound completely obvious to some, so I apologize if it is common knowledge. I love the art of conversation and I so greatly admire those who are great listeners. I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me. Reddit, what makes a great listener?",
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"My boss once told me that he used to be a guy that would constantly think of the next thing to say while someone was talking to him.\n\nHe succeeded in business simply by waiting until the person was finished speaking, then thinking of the next thing to say. That's it, just a few seconds of delay and he suddenly became the greatest listener in all the lands.\n\n",
"I once learned that there are three ways of listening. The first two are ones that most people know:\n\n1\\. Agree with. You are nodding your head, interjecting why you agree, telling your own tales of how you agree, and focusing on what to think of next in the same vein. \n\n2\\. Disagree with. You shake your head, disguised at every word coming out of the other persons mouth. You want to rudely interrupt with why they are wrong; in fact, you are coming up with twenty things wrong about their argument! \n\nUnfortunately, these two ways of listening are the ones that most people employ. Why is this so unfortunate? Mostly because you're in your own head, you don't actually hear what the other person is saying. You're not grisly listening to them. \n\nSo how can you actually listen to someone?\n\n3\\. Be with. Instead of focusing on what you like or dislike about what someone is saying, just be with them. Don't worry about what comes next. Don't worry about your responses. Don't worry about having \"that great story about that one time you did something similar\" ready. \n\nJust relax and enjoy the moment for what it is. You don have to agree or disagree with the person you're having a conversation with. ",
"Stop thinking about what you want to say next and just listen. Pens pretend to be interested in what they say, and eventually you will be. ",
"A great listener 'hears' what the speaker is feeling as well as what they are saying. Body language, inflection, word choice. A great listener is non-judgmental and makes a speaker feel safe. A smile and eye contact go a long way, mentally shoot 'I like you\" thoughts to the speaker",
"You can also give nonverbal signals to the speaker. Nod your head in acknowledgement. You can also subtly (as in don't make it obvious) mirror their body posture. That makes them feel comfortable and also aids in your attention. ",
"Check out the book or the audiobook called \"The Charisma Myth.\" It has solid, proven techniques help people feel like you are fully engaged with them.\n\n",
"1. Listen POSITIVELY. By that, I mean you should show positive body language while someone's speaking. Don't cross your arms, and try to keep as much eye contact with the speaker as possible. When possible, encourage their conversation with subtle nods of the head, or sounds of agreement [\"uh-huh\", \"I see\", \"mm-hmm\", etc.]. Obviously, don't take it too far. Constantly nodding your head and saying \"uh-huh\" will probably be very distracting and people might just want to punch you.\n\n2. PARAPHRASING. Listen to what the other person is saying as if you will have to accurately paraphrase it. If you are in a proper two-way conversation, *do* paraphrase some elements of what they have just said. This not only allows you to show that you've been listening, but will also allow the other person to correct you if they think you've got the wrong end of the stick.\n\n",
"if they say something that you don't fully understand, ask a question about it 'what do you mean ______'\n\nthey are speaking to you, hopefully giving you information\nyou are listening to that information, and attempting to decipher what they mean/are trying to say\n\nif something doesn't make sense, get it clarified, that is part of listening",
"I had several friends move out of state, and without being physically near each other, I realized I ~~kinda~~ really sucked at conversing. \n\nI learned two things through trial and error which made a huge difference, and people now enjoy speaking to me more which is horrible because I hate talking on the phone.\n\nThe first and most obvious is stop talking and stop thinking about what you want to contribute to the conversation. It doesn't matter. You will **always** have *some*thing to contribute, so stop thinking about it and listen to them.\n\nThe second part is ask them questions more than you talk about yourself.\n\nIf someone is telling you about relationship troubles and they say, \"I just can't stand being around him anymore!\"\n\nYou could respond, \"When did things start getting like that,\" or ,\"Are there still times where you want to be around him,\" or even \"What does he do that bothers you so much?\"\n\nBasically, just let people talk. Ask them questions about what they decide to talk about. When something relevant comes to mind you can say it but if you focus on listening and asking questions about what you hear, you'll be kicking ass in no time.",
"Sympathize. A lot of the time people don't want your opinion on the situation, they want their own feelings validated. So at least for the listening portion of the conversation, let them talk, and respond with \"wow, that sucks\" or \"oh cool!\" Even once they've wound down on the topic, asking a question about what they just said gets a better response than offering a solution or an anecdote of your own.",
"SOFTEN\n\nSmile: It is much easier to talk to someone who, at least, APPEARS happy and a smile can make a world of difference.\n\nOpen position: Keep your shoulders open and your arms uncrossed. Someone with a closed posture seems closed and uninterested.\n\nForward lean: Someone leaning against a wall or leaning back in their chair seems \"too cool\" for what the other person is saying. A forward lean is a non-verbal that shows interest.\n\nTouch: This is actually a tricky one. Sometimes it's completely inappropriate, but when used correctly, it is an excellent personal touch in a conversation. Think about when YOU would want a hand on your shoulder or a hand to hold, and go from there in your decision making. For people you barely know or casual conversation, this is usually a \"not applicable\".\n\nEye contact: There is nothing more annoying than talking to someone who won't look you back in the eye, and vice versa when YOU are the one speaking and not making eye contact. This one is pretty obvious.\n\nNod: It reassures the person speaking that you understand/agree/empathize with what they are saying.\n\nThat is the classic \"soften\" method, but I like to add an S: Summarize.\n\nSummarizing works the same way as nodding, but requires you to ACTUALLY listen. There have been plenty of times that my fiancé has caught me nodding at something she's saying and I was not paying attention at all. Summarize a main point of what someone was saying, and they'll really understand that you were listening.\n\n",
"I find that I listen better if I imagine myself saying the words I am hearing. Kind of like repeating it back to myself in my head. It keeps me from becoming distracted.",
"Three things that I've found useful:\n1) Paraphrase. Repeating what the other person says doesn't sound weird, it just lets them know that you're actually listening, as well as giving you a moment to digest what they said and respond.\n2) Write it down. This helps on the phone. When the person says something, paraphrase and say it back to them, and write it down as you do this. Again, this helps with mental digestion. \n3) Physical Triggers. When someone is talking to you, it's easy to get caught up in thinking about what you're going to say next, and thus miss their entire comment. \nTo make sure you don't do this, think to yourself: \"SHUT UP AND LISTEN\" and DO something(make a gesture) that helps you remember to do this.\nI literally put a finger over my lips in a \"shh\" gesture to keep me from opening up my mouth. I've done this for so long that once my finger is over my lips, I instantly focus on what the other person is saying.\n\nSorry for the long-ass comment, and sorry if other people have already said these things, as I didn't read through the whole thread. \n\nHope this helps!",
"If you really want to know, read the book \"Can You Hear Me Now?\" by Dallas Demmitt. He's spent years as a counselor and psychologist and really has a lot of insight into listening.",
"I would suggest you read the book by Dale Carnegie called: How to win friends and influence people.\n\nDon't be turned off by the title, this is a great book and everyone should read it.",
"I attended this amazing conference in Palm Springs that just focused on interpersonal communication and stuff. I forget what this one guy said during the keynote, but it set a great tone for the rest of the conference. Actually, the keynote speaker might have been a woman.\n\n\nLPT: Palm Springs has amazing golf.",
"What's with all the negative comments? I have this problem too, like when someone tells a speech and I barely pick up anything. ",
"My wife was trying to talk to me as I was reading this thread. She says I should start by putting down my phone. Good advice!",
"summarize when need be. reflective listening - reflect back what the person has said. these are the basics of therapy (when a friend needs to talk about something). \n\nbe present. a lot of this just has to do with when you find yourself zoning out, recognize it and bring yourself around. ",
"All this forced body language is useless. If you are listening, the body language comes. Some people just wait for when it is their turn to talk in a conversation. You have talked to some of these people. Don't be one of those people. \n\n1. Shut the hell up. This is where people usually get it wrong. Commit to it. If you are truly listening, then you are talking half as much as the other person. My old sales manager used to say \"you have 2the ears and one mouth because you are supposed to listen twice as much as you talk.\"\n\n2. Try to learn from them. I personally believe that everyone in the world knows something that I don't, and it is my mission to learn it. It gives me an objective, even in casual conversation. And people generally love to talk about themselves so:\n\n3. Ask open-ended questions. The more challenging the better, but not in a snarky competitive way, just in a way that lets them know that you are processing what they are saying. It also gives you the ability to lead the conversation and contribute in an organic way that doesn't involve talking. No 'yes' or 'no' questions. Asking good questions is the hardest part of a conversation, but it iz easier if you first eliminate all the bad questions.",
"1. Use your body when you listen and give them 100% of your attention. Face the person with your whole body, not just your face/head. Maintain a healthy amount of eye contact. Smile when they say something important relevant.\n\n2. Only talk to encourage them to keep talking, but not to give your opinion. Good phrases include \"Tell me more about...\" and \"that was interesting!\"\n\n3. Interject your thoughts when they need your feedback, but not until then. If they don't ask your opinion, don't offer it. \n\n\nI make my living listening, this works. These three things are so simple, and invite people to feel comfortable sharing, and telling. And it takes practice... sometimes lots of practice.",
"so um, I'm not trying to be sarcastic here, but have you tried listening to what people are saying? I really don't see it as that hard, unless you are totally doing it wrong like juggling while they are talking and have no idea that you are doing it wrong.",
"You have a working memory and a short-term memory. You should focus most of your attention on what they are saying. A portion of your attention should be on your own thoughts, which need to be associated with the conversation. These two trains of thought will compose your working memory.\n\nThen, you have your short-term memory. When you think of something to say but you don't want to interrupt, store it in your short-term memory. Then you can say it when it is your turn to speak, or you can come back to it when there is a lull. ",
"This is a great TED talk about exactly what you are interested in. Changed the way I interact with people. http://www.ted.com/talks/julian_treasure_5_ways_to_listen_better.html",
"There are two types of listening... listening to hear, and listening to speak. Be the former, not the latter.",
"Read Dale Carnegie's \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\". Also, ask follow up questions when someone finishes speaking. This forces you to listen intently as they speak and shows that you are interested in what they have to say.",
"People always tell me I'm a great listener. Truth is, I don't give a shit about people blathering on and on about their lives. I tune right out, don't hear a fucking thing. Daydream about strangling them with the force. Apparently that's what they're looking for - someone to just not say anything while they go on and on and on and on and on and on and on...",
"One of the common pitfalls of conversation is selfish dialogue. Everything references either yourself or someone/something that \"belongs\" to you. \"So I just got back from Jamaica.\" \"Nice! My other friend just got back from there too!\", etc. As simple as it sounds, turning conversation back on someone else is a great way to get them to love talking to you. People (not so)secretly love talking about themselves.",
"Listen to what the other person is saying. Don't concentrate on what you're going to say next. Look at them while they speak and, if you have a chance, paraphrase what they've said in your mind. Ask pertinent questions.",
"It is great that you are looking for help. Most people are multitasking their short bursts of communication on a host of platforms. The multitasking skill that allows you to simultaneously text and talk does not translate to skills in focused conversations. In fact, the tendency to multitask makes focusing on just one speaker can be unsettling.\n\n\nBefore you engage mnemonic tips and rapport tricks, work with yourself. Firstly, when you communicate give the individual method your full attention- take off your headphones and stare at your phone while you type that text message. Could you add any additional info or rephrase the text to be more specific? Could the regular \"c u at 8\" instead be \"c u at 8. remind Tim- Beer. hope Debbie is there\". Then think about what the response might be. Would any of your other friends find the topic relevant enough for a forward? What you will be doing is taking one simple text and turning into a complete thought.\n\n\nTL;DR: Slow down, focus on one platform at a time.\n\n\nSecondly, use your TV as a training tool instead of an entertainment source. Put on a show, one you are not familiar with. With a pen and paper, jot down 2 or 3 word notes for each topic. Wait for a commercial or mute when you feel it's enough. Look at your paper and flesh out the highlights. You wrote \"flight from NY to LA\". Flesh that out. After each highlight is expanded, take a look at the larger picture and determine the most important points for you. Make connections between the points. If you had to paraphrase your notes into two sentences, what would they be? When that becomes too simple, drop the pen and pencil. When that becomes easy, turn the tv to a talk news station. Start with monologues, then turn to the panel discussions. Take that monologue and distil it into a few sentences. With panels, mute one panelist and take their place. Doesn't matter that you don't know the topic, you're responding when its your turn to talk and you are going to do what a lot of great speakers do, use the words that the others have used to build rapport. \"Well, that is a great point there Bob, but I'm leaning more towards what Sue is saying because\"\n\nTL;DR: Use your TV for interactive practice instead of for pure entertainment.\n\n\nYou will be able to focus on one communication platform at a time. You will be able to paraphrase a speaker and to quickly incorporate information from a few speakers into your own responses.\n\n\nRTL;DR: Slow down and focus on your communications. Use your TV as a training tool. The key to being a good listener is being able to focus your mind.\n\n\nLearn the other tips in this thread and you will be an outstanding listener and probably a very good speaker too. \n\n\n",
"It also helps to paraphrase what they've said back to them. Not every thing they say, but it shows you are engaged without necessarily trying to take over the conversation. Telling them back what you heard, also helps the speaker understand that they are communicating their point correctly to you. The speaker will either be done with their point or feel comfortable going more deeply into the subject since the listener seems to grasp what they're putting out there.",
"If someone is ranting and raving about some problem they have, don't say anything apart from allowing them to expand the story, or explain or clarifying a point. Don't interrupt with things from your own experience or your opinion until they finish or you are asked. \n",
"I love this question. It's something I pride myself in, being able to be an attentive listener. Not only in dialogical conversation, but also when attending lectures or watching someone give a presentation. It's important to maintain consistent eye contact and also the occasional backchanneling (linguistic term for \"uh-huhs,\" head nods, etc.) Also, facial reactions to the speaker's stories or points. In our culture backchanneling is a big deal, and when the listener is lacking in that, the speaker feels as though they aren't being interesting enough or that what they are saying is of little value. \n\nI also love this quote:\n\"Some people listen with the intent to respond, while other listen with the intent to understand\"",
"Be genuinly interested in what the other person feels/thinks about the subject. If you are, good listening will come by itself. \n\nLook through all the other advice in this thread! I would argue that the behaviours they prescribe all follow automatically from you being curious about the other person.",
"Active listening. \"So, what you're saying is\" and repeat back to them a short summary to show that you have been listening and also that you understand. Other lead ins could include \"if I understand correctly, you're saying ... \" \n\nThe other person will usually respond in a few ways. \nYes, and (further explanation)\nYes, but (further explanation)\nNo (further explanation)\n\nIt works wonders and, when executed correctly, people respond well to it. ",
"\"Practice understanding.\"\n\nWhen you're talked to, practice understanding what they're saying as opposed to preparing to respond.\n\nSo...\nListen > Understand > Respond \n\nThis advice was given to me by a very successful business man who was a immigrant with nothing and eventually owned his own multi-million dollar business. I've been practicing understanding the past few months and my conversations are richer, more in depth and honest.",
"stare about 2 to 3 inches above their eyes and dont look anywhere else, the focus that you put forth will help you remember everything",
"simply put, I think it revolves around you actively trying to imagine the situation visually of what the person is talking about. When you've done that, your questions/talking points become much more earnest and interesting",
"always be looking for things to relate to the person on. actively empathize with whatever they are talking about. especially if it's something negative. nothing will make someone more comfortable being honest with you than sharing a fault. \n",
"a) CARE about what the people you are talking to think.\nb) Maintain eye contact when they get to important points in their expressing of their opinions\nc) WAIT until they come to natural slowing of their speaking before you move to talk.\n\nA good listener is not always a good conversationalist. When we have troubles sometimes we really want a good listener - not someone who wants to FIX our problem there and then. We want someone to just listen and offer gentle comfort.",
"We can listen \"visually\" too. Be acutely aware of a person's body language while they're speaking. We do this subconsciously. For instance, as children, most of us recall we knew we were in trouble before our parent spoke, their body language said it all. So our brain could only think of formulating a way out, an escape, our parent's voice far off in the distance.\n\nSome of us do this today, like getting called into the boss's office. If you can learn to actively listen in scenarios like these, then you're golden in almost every other situation.\n\nFinally, focus on *who* you don't listen to. I can guarantee you it's not with all people, it can be very selective and there's a reason why.",
"Upvotes for everyone who suggested Dale Carnegie's book.\n\n[Here's a summary](http://sameffect.com/how-to-win-friends-and-influence-people-summary/) for the lazy.",
"Understand what they mean.\n\nPeople are terrible at communicating. Vast majority of what you hear has subtle contexts, information, or subtle points that if you do not consider the meaning and intent, you'll not be able to do... anything.\n\nIt's not about paying attention, or looking them in the eye, but truly, trying, very hard to understand why they're saying what they're saying, empathizing with it and responding.",
"To get in the habit of listening and really comprehending what people are saying to you, listen to talk radio. Find a subject you like and there will be plenty of shows and podcasts that you can listen to. Comedy, news, individual topics, or a mixture of everything is what is out there. With you not seeing anyone but focusing on the talk it gets you in the mindset of listening to the audio around you. I love talk radio so if you need options of shows don't hesitate to ask. ",
"This is the secret to being a world-class listener: **Ask questions!**\n\nInstead of thinking about what you are going to interject into the conversation, think about a question you can ask about whatever the speaker is saying. They will think you are the best listener ever...even if you interrupt them occasionally to ask the question.",
"The book *The Pursuit of Attention* by Charles Derber is very helpful on this topic!\n\nImagine that Person A and Person B are talking. A says, \"I love dolphins!\" Person B has three options:\n\n\n**Shift Response**: Rather than engaging A in what he/she said, a shift response would be something like, \"Oh, I definitely like sharks more.\" It can be very subtle, and people do it all the time. However, it shifts the attention away from A and his dolphins to B and his sharks.\n\n\n**Passive Support Response**: These are things typically associated with listening, like being quiet, nodding your head, and saying, \"Mmhm.\" However, they only represent the most basic attempt to engage with ideas and show interest. Moreover, some people often use these terse responses to kill off a topic they don't like! With a bunch of \"uh-huh\"s and \"yeah\"s, people effectively starve the topic of attention, and make it socially awkward for Person A to *keep talking about dolphins when no one shows any interest.*\n\n\n**Active Support Response**: Usually, this would be a comment or question to draw out A's ideas about dolphins, like, \"Yeah! Dolphins are great! What do you like most about them?\" While it may be counterintuitive, these tiny bits of talking--not silence--are the best ways of showing you care and want to hear more.\n\n\n\nTL;DR: Great listening isn't about being quiet; it's about staying on the other person's topic and asking the right questions to draw out their ideas!",
"The book \"Just Listen\" is exactly about this. I know you are looking for some simple answers, but there really aren't. This is a subject that has been ignored in our entire academic career. With that said, if I had to say one thing, it would be if you want to make conversation interesting, remember one of the primary goals is to make people hear something they like (whether it's good or bad). If you don't listen with that perspective, you will struggle to be relatable, and really, being relatable is what it means to being a good listener.\n\nhttp://www.amazon.com/Just-Listen-Discover-Getting-Absolutely/dp/0814414036/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1375671856&sr=8-1&keywords=Just+Listen",
"The best thing I can think of is traveling solo. It puts you in a position where you will either learn to make people feel comfortable talking to you, or being very lonely a lot of the time. \nListening was one of the things I learned very quickly, because I was forced to be constantly looking for information like where my hostel was or where to catch a bus. You listen hard when you need to. Other times I was with people with very interesting stories that were hard not to listen to. And over time you start to feel that rhythm that conversation flows with and start enjoying conversation and the person you're with.",
"Take improv classes. \n\nImprovisers need to learn to listen to each other very closely to pick up every small detail and subtle hint that your partner is giving you as you make up an entire scene on the spot. Also its just fun and you'll meet a lot of great people.",
"Show them that you are following their point. Do get involved into the problem as you were in their skin. Ask for details, ask them how they felt about it. Speculate on the possible consequences of the most important points of the story, show your attitude you would have if you were in their situation. To put it in a single phrase, get genuinely interested. Even if you are not, you will develop the ability to become. If you can't avoid the talk, learn to like it.\n\nI've done over 300 hours of published audio interviews with more than 200 people.",
"Repeating what people have just said to you in your own words is often an effective means of conveying that you have been listening and that you care about what they are saying.\n\nOf course, following that up with your own thoughts is also necessary--simply parroting back someone else's words does not qualify as a conversation.",
"Realize the difference between someone who just needs to get a something off their chest and someone who needs you to help them solve a problem. My best friend since high school just realized how to do this and verbalized it to me and made me realize that about other people too, after 28 years of conversations they've just gotten even better for the both of us and it's made us better friends for each other and for other people. ",
"Ok, this might sound stupid but it works for me. When I listen to someone, I try to see it as a yoga in that it can make you very present and aware if you notice and focus on nothing else but how sound is hitting your ear. The noise which your sense organ is picking up... the Same way you can feel air entering your nostrils when you breath in.. Just have to focus on the experience only. ",
"Native American's face their palms up and towards the person speaking. physically trying to show they're listening helps them actually listen. Helped me through college many times",
"My dad was a teacher and would always drill into us the acronym SLANT. Sit up, listen, actually listen, nod, then talk. Kinda silly but it really emphasized the importance of listening (vs hearing)and showing interest before you talk. ",
"Maintain good eye contact.\n\nNod every so often.\n\nSmile (when appropriate) \n\nMake noises like \"mmhmm\" or \"uhuh\" or just say \"yeah\" or \"right\" etc. (Say simultaneously with a nod for extra effect :) )\n\nThere's more I can't think of atm, also other people have said some of these already but that will just cement them for you I suppose.\n",
"Lots of good advice on this thread, this might be a little different take and possibly helpful:\n\nWhatever the person is saying, act like you're reading it off of a napkin you found in a restaurant. You don't know who wrote it or why, you don't know their race/sex/age/what they have to gain, etc. Also, wrap yourself in this same [\"veil of ignorance\"](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Veil_of_ignorance) - try to drop you preconceptions and evaluate the information on its merit alone.\n\n[I highly recommend Plutarch's essay on Listening.](http://www.amazon.com/Essays-Penguin-Classics-Plutarch/dp/0140445641)",
"Looked through some of the top comments and they all list great advice, but don't forget that this doesn't happen without practice. You've made a bad habit of poor listening and it will take time to break. ",
"Look at them when they're talking. Don't lean back in your chair or slouch unless it's during a break in conversation or for introspection on what's being said. Those two things alone will go a long way to making you a better listener. ",
"Live vicariously through their stories. Ask questions that may pop up. They'll think you're a great listener and you expand on their conversation.",
"Listening is being willing to be changed by what you hear.\n\nSaid by, of all people, Alan Alda. \n\nIt helps me tremendously. If I'm getting irritated or impatient in a conversation, I ask myself whether I'm willing to be changed by what they say. I take a deep breath, really look at them, and the chattering in my inner monologue just kind of fades away.",
"Listen to what they're actually saying and think about what kind of conversation they want. Don't project what you think or the kind of conversation *you* want. The biggest source of miscommunication when people are actually trying is that people do and say things that they would want done to themselves rather than the things the people they're speaking to want.\n\nThe most obvious example is if someone's talking about a failed relationship - lots of people (me included) sort of default to trying to console them, or trying to \"fix\" the problem by convincing them it's all for the better. A lot of the time that's not what they want, so stop trying to convince them they shouldn't be sad and let them vent. But it applies to other stuff. Sometimes you have to think about what they need to get out of a conversation and give them that. If you ask someone how their weekend was and they mention something personal, clearly they're OK with you knowing personal stuff about them and it's OK to (tactfully) broach that kind of subject in the future. Now, I'm not saying to be a pushover and let the other person guide every conversation you ever have (that makes you boring and passive), but I assume from your question that you're talking about cases where you're clearly the \"listener\". \n\nI'd say the biggest thing I ever learned about conversation is to respond to the things that don't fit \"standard\" answer/behaviour. If you ask your waitress how she's doing and she mentions she's tired, maybe asking her if it's been a busy day will strike up a conversation. Or if a co-worker shows up with a bigger coffee than usual, ask if their kids were crying all night (or how the party was, depending on what you know about them). \n\n**tl;dr actually listening to what they're saying opens up conversations on its own. Too many people just see conversation as waiting for their turn to speak rather than actually listening and trying to be empathetic. Think about what the other person is thinking, not what you would think in their position.**",
"Listen for the spaces between the words they say. Try it. It really helps me to truly hear what they are saying. Be compassionate. Empathetic. \"Listen\" with your eyes and emotions. Take the whole person in and allow them to affect you.",
"Learn to read lips. Seriously. By the time you have actually learned to read lips and know what sounds make what shapes and when, you will have invested enough time listening intently to have learned that as well.",
"Lean forward slightly, nod occasionally, say things like \"Uh huh\", and \"OK\", and \"right\" sprinkled around in the conversation. MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT DAMN IT\n\nObviously these are just small tips but they go a long way. ",
"Just don't talk, you don't even have to hear what they are saying, just be quiet. They will assume you agree or disagree on their own, and in the end it doesn't even matter if you agree or not.",
"Just be patient, but don't be a fool. I have a friend who will listen to anyones worries, she is the most patient, kind and sweetest person I have met. \n\nShe has been messed around and treated badly, and has been taken for granted. So, when you give people your shoulder, make sure they know its because you care, but you're not a mug.",
"It's more simple than you think, but it is habitual, so you'll have to make yourself get used to it. \n1. Give listening cues. Subtle nods of understanding up to interrupting to pose a question.\n2. Find out their main point. Most of what people say is supporting one event or topic.\n\nCount how many times you say \"I\" in a conversation. The lower, the better listener.",
"It may depend on the situation, everyone requires slightly different techniques to be listened to, I believe. Naturally you would listen and interact differently from your boss to a friend to your wife.\n\nI adapt with the person's personality, if they enjoy a \"train\" way of speaking then do not interrupt them... sometimes if they get jarred they can be sensitive and this is where people tell you, \"you are not a good listener\". \n\nBut if you and them both bounce off on tangents and keep going back to the same point, then I see no problem in interrupting to tell them you get it and they can move on to their next points.\n\nI mean the obvious things are to nod every so often and say a buzz word, \"right, right\" and reciprocate body language. If you are fidgety or can't focus on people ranting then you should guide them to become more coherent and shorten what they are saying, if you say your are confused or you don't understand something it doesn't mean you *weren't* listening, just means they need to be more clear. \n\nSometimes there are moments where people talk and I really cannot decipher what they are saying could be fatigue on my part or incoherence on their part. So that may help.\n\n",
"In lieu of actually listening... There is something I call the 70/30 rule. Make eye contact 70% of the time and the other 30% look above and to the left as if you are contemplating what you just heard. Also, occasional nods, raise your chin (pushing your lower lip up) with a slight raising of the eyebrows. Force yourself to make the little gestures one might make while listening. Sometimes it's less important to actually be listening than to have the talker believe you are listening. I went on a quest to understand this and did in fact find the Holy Grail. It's called the Facial Action Coding System. It's what those FBI guys use to tell if someone is lying. It's also the science behind that show Lie to Me. It's very deep and very complex(not to mention very dry) so no one uses it much but it works. It's full of all kinds of tips and tricks to tell what people are thinking.",
"Im no expert, but in my experience, asking questions is a great way to show your actively listening. ",
"If it's a one-to-many situation like a meeting, conference, or presentation, take notes. Write down what they are saying, and don't just copy their slide headings. Once you get used to it, you'll be able to jot down notes for followup questions while you write.",
"I'm really surprised no one has said this, but look right into their eyes. We're such visual creatures, as we look away from what were focusing on we tend to wander off.",
"I'm on my phone so PM me later if you want more info. In the mean time look into mindfulness practice .",
"I think reading helps with listening. When you're reading your mind is quiet other than the story running through it. So if you read often your mind is used to falling silent when presented with an external dialogue/story. Rather than preparing to respond to the conversation (as that would be pointless when reading) your mind just listens and processes.",
"I think a lot of people have mentioned great ways to be a good listener, but you also asked to be someone to whom the other person can feel comfortable talking. \n\nThe biggest things for me are to always look and sound like you're always interested in what they're saying. Good, genuine eye contact is important to engage the both of you in the conversation. And occasional verbal acknowledgements like \"uh-huh\", \"yeah\", \"hmm\", etc., I found are really helpful. Just be sure not to force them, or to throw them in while the other speaker is in mid-phrase and accidentally cut them off.\n\nAs long as you give the outward appearance that you care about what they have to say, then the other person will feel more welcome and more inclined to hear what you have to say, too.",
"I once found a couple of well written articles outlining how to be a good listener.\n\n[How to be a good listener: Part One](http://touch.artofmanliness.com/artofmanliness/#!/entry/listen-up-part-i-learning-the-manly-skill-of-paying,502ecfaa444f6789471f31d7)\n\n[How to be a good listener: Part Two](http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/05/08/listen-up-part-ii-15-techniques-to-improve-our-listening/)\n\n[How to be a good listener: Part Three](http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/05/15/how-to-ask-questions/)\n\nWhen you've mastered eye contact and the triangle pattern and all of that good stuff, you might like a further lesson in [small talk](http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/08/22/how-to-make-small-talk/).\n\nAfter all of that, get out and practice. Practice, practice, practice. \n\n*",
"I mentally repeat what they say as they're saying it, like an echo in my head, and pay attention to that mental echo. For some reason that's very effective for me, both attention-wise and for critically thinking about what they're saying. The more I do this, the tighter the \"mental echo\" gets toward real-time.\n\nHopefully this makes sense.",
"I know I'm late to the thread, so OP, I hope you see this, as I don't see if anyone has mentioned this. People tend to keep talking if you just let them. Don't feel the need to verbally respond to them in every silence. If they stop for a moment, as if waiting for you to say something, and you say nothing, almost ALWAYS, they will continue talking. People want silence filled. You, ignore that impulse if they were the one talking. Their impulse will be to keep talking, and you will come off as an excellent listener. Employ this technique along with those the other Redditors mentioned. It's the best advice I've ever gotten, people think I'm a fantastic listener, and it's actually MADE me interested in what they have to say, because I'm not worrying about what I have to contribute next to the conversation.",
"I just wanted to say that after reading through these comments I've noticed that when two people who employ these techniques converse it actually feels more like a dance with give and take from both parties rather than a string of words and sentences glued together. Shits boss when that happens. ",
"I had an amazing realisation in my early twenties.\n\nI don't know everything.\n\nThis has taught me to listen to learn - and not to listen to respond.",
"I found that the easiest way to listen and understand someone, especially someone you don't care for what their opinions are, is to listen to keywords. Imagine my me speaking my first sentence here to you, now pick up the keywords. To me, they are \"easiest way\" and \"listen to keywords\". A lot of time, the reason we fail to listen to another person is because we find whatever that they are saying has no relevance to us or that it feels like its been said before so we tune it out. Remembering keywords helps focus your mind to listening to the content of what is being said. Over time, this will evolve into a good listening habit. IMO.",
"I feel like everybody in here is making this too complicated. While listening is certainly an active and cerebral process, showing somebody you're listening with body language really shouldn't be. I feel like I would spend the whole conversation questioning myself on whether or not I was following all these points. Wanna know the easiest way to make people think you're a great listener? Ask questions and seem genuinely interested in the responses. Bonus points if you actually are interested. ",
"Hi, former male model here. Also have acting experience with some big celebrity's teachers.\n\nI have some serious social anxiety, but nobody can tell anymore, because of these steps:\n\n#1. Whomever you are talking to is most comfortable talking about themselves. \n\nReally, let them say something, and look for a way to get more specific.\n\"Oh, I'm a student.\"\nYou: Oh cool. What are you thinking about studying?\nThem: I don't know yet.\nYou: Well, what are you thinking about?\n\n#2: *Look* interested. \nThem: Well ... I mean ...\nYou: (Just look interested, as though you want to know what they are saying.)\n\nEye contact.\nExpression.\n\n\nYou have just opened up a huge can of worms to last you about 45 minutes. \nThen, they will ask you about you. \n\nYou have successfully made someone comfortable around you.\nCongratulations.",
"Here is the best advice I can give: don't assume you're in their head. Essentially, people sometimes word things in a way that makes sense to their inner thoughts, but not to the other person. Sometimes, people associate a depth of meaning with words, and that's internal. Realize your own internal assumptions, and that they may not match the other person's own internal depth, and take what they say at face value without putting your own flavor on it. This helps me to be able to listen to another person who has different opinions to me without jumping down their throat or judging them. Once you got this, it's about genuinely listening to a person rather than making your own comments in your head as they speak. ",
"Hello! As someone who struggled with conversations back then, here are some tips that I’ve found useful in improving my listening skills:\r\n\n1. **Sympathize and Engage.** You should always invest yourself in conversations. Sympathize with them and engage yourself in their statements. Show genuine interest in what the speaker is saying by showing positive body language and asking relevant questions. Most of the time, people do not necessarily want your opinion, they just want their feelings to be validated. \r\n2. **Paraphrase and Copy.** After actively listening to the speaker, try to make an effort to reflect and think about what they were saying, and from there, organize your thoughts before replying. Paraphrase and summarize what they said and copy their tone and emotion. Doing so will make them feel listened to and they will certainly appreciate your efforts.\r\n3. **Stop and Relax.** Most of the time, we are too anxious and careful about what we need to contribute to a conversation. We always feel the need to reply back immediately; hence, we tend to lose focus of what the speaker is saying. Just stop overthinking and relax a bit. Your comments and inputs will come out naturally.",
"Ensure you are not simply waiting for your turn to speak. It sounds obvious, but many people \"listen\" that way.",
"Economize your words when you do speak.\n\nSay \"you're right\" instead of \"I know\".\n\nSmile, and find common ground.\n\nIt's not as hard as you're making it out to be",
"Don't think about the next thing you want to say, think about the stuff they are actually telling as if you were reading a book. Then when it's your turn to talk, say something back that's relevant to what they said, so they know you were listening",
"Don't just listen to their words. Watch their facial expressions and body language. Often the words won't actually match their body language, and you want to take both into account before you offer a response, if you truly want to become an empathetic person",
"Don't interrupt. \nAsk good questions that probe, restate, show that you paid attention and picked up on details that they said while being genuinely interested. ",
"Demonstrate empathy and reflection. Make eye contact and use body language that shows engagement. Leaning forward, sitting upright, etc... Expressing interest in the speakers topic ask questions about nuances of the subject. Play back what you heard in your own words. If you can, pose your understanding in the form of a question to extend the dialogue.",
"Check out [this book](http://www.amazon.com/Just-Listen-Discover-Getting-Absolutely/dp/0814414036), it's fantastic. Here is a [great review](http://gulyani.com/book-review-notes-on-just-listen-by-mark-goulston) with a summary of/notes from the book.\n\nHe also wrote [a great article](http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2013/05/how_to_listen_when_someone_is.html) about how to listen to someone who is venting (the skills/approach he proposes can be used in many circumstances, not just when people are venting). \n\n",
"Can't recommend \"How Proust Can Change Your Life\" highly enough. It's by Aain de Botton and it pretty much deals exclusively (and compellingly) with this question. ",
"Being in a human service field I've had to take multiple classes on listening and communication. Eye contact and body language are important to gaining trust. Asking sincere questions about what the person is saying and deflect the conversation off of yourself. Another great tip I learned was never give advice and never try and force things out of them. They will talk when they feel comfortable and when they feel as if they can trust you. ",
"Being a great listener, especially in different contexts, will necessitate a lot of things both within your mindset as well as your in projections that might take a lot of time to truly master. However, I hope these three tips will give everyone a good foundation of what being a generally great listener constitutes.\n\n1. **Open your mind.** Half of being a great listener happens even before the message is relayed. Opening your mind allows you to be truly present in the conversation. To do this, you simply relax and take the time to make sure that you are *ready* to listen. Personally, out of the three pointers, this takes the most time. Doing this releases any prejudice that might hinder your ability to sympathize.\n2. **Immerse yourself in the conversation.** Sympathizing with the person you are conversing with defines the line that separated listening from merely hearing. Immersing yourself in the conversation not only means putting yourself in the shoes of the other person/s but also engaging deeply with your inner self. This allows you to understand and value the meanings behind each simple word, and in some cases, even the brief interludes of silence.\n3. **Be prudent and tactful.** While talking about being a great listener revolves in you primarily receiving information, it is also in listening where a vital part of crafting the *right response* begins. Most of your response might already be set by the time someone finished speaking, so being prudent and tactful from your simply thoughts and perspectives is a vital part of being a great listener. For example, someone who opens up to you might not necessarily need the unsolicited advice you were pondering on.\n\nI hope this helped! <3",
"Being a good listener is about an active engagement with the speaker. It requires really thinking about what someone is telling you, encouraging them to continue speaking by asking questions, and being empathetic also helps. \n\nShowing someone that you actually care about what they are saying is the bare bones of it. ",
"Be quiet and listen for one. Be humble and just forget about yourself for a bit, even if you have sparks of awesome things you want to say, just let it go. Ask questions so they continue to talk.\n\nIn business, managers are taught to practice active listening. If you're a manager, you've probably practiced good thought processes to solve problems. Basically you teach an employee this by asking questions that lead them through those thought processes. Instead of you just telling them a solution or what to do, you simply direct their thought so they figure it out themselves. This is more helpful then just giving them answers because they'll know what to do next time and you aren't stepping on anyones toes. You can apply it to people wanting to share a personal problem with you too. If you have a suggestion of what they can do, you can ask questions and see if you can lead them to thinking of it themselves.",
"Be nearly silent and don't distract the speaker. If you are always making sounds like \"hmmm\", \"uh-huh\" and \"ah\", you maybe accidentally cuing the speaker that you are about to interrupt, which can totally break their train of thought. At the least it is really annoying. Even overly exaggerated head nodding/shaking and facial expressions can do it. If you are thinking \"I need to make sure they notice I am nodding!\", it's too much and doesn't seem sincere. Same with leaning in too much. More subtle expressions and body language are very positive.\n\nThink of how you may act when you are eavesdropping on a very interesting conversation. You may get a half smile or furrow your brow once in a while but you are totally focused on listening since you are **not** going to reply.",
"At least in a business setting, I find a good technique is, \"So let me see if I understand you - you want to XXXXX\" with the X's being your rephrase of whatever they said. I find, if you are listening in order to prepare yourself to fully comprehend, repeat, and rephrase their words, you will find that you listen better. It can also clarify the outcome of the conversation, if it has been long and confusing. \n\nI think it sounds a little unnatural in casual settings, but if you practice the mental attitude of needing to understand to the point of rephrasing their words, it still works.\n\nThis is similar to studying as if you have to walk in and teach the class the following day. When you think about it not as \"I must remember\" but as \"how would I tell this to someone else\" it becomes easier to remember.",
"Ask questions, repeat what has been said to you. Mirror the body language of the speaker.\n\nActually be interested.",
"Ask open questions.. if you find yourself asking closed questions you will find conversations turn into interviews and shut-down abruptly. Don't give answers you think the other wants to hear - give an honest response.. It helps if you actually care about what the person is saying.. ",
"As many comments says it's about not thinking about what you should say next. and instead try to understand what the other person is talking about. If you can understand, you can give relevant responses and that will lead to people thinking of you as a good listener.",
"A therapist I was working with helped me immensely with just one simple trick: during a conversation, repeat back the other person's idea using different words. Example:\n\n* Person A: \"I really hate when Matt talks behind my back.\"\n* Person B: \"So Matt gets you angry when he's talking behind your back.\"\n\nThis both affirms that you are listening and helps the other person hear **their** words coming from someone else. Sounds a little weird but this really works wonders in being an engaging listener and conversationalist. \n\n",
"1. Eye contact\n\n2. Don't \"add\" anything to what they're saying. Frequently, when we hear people saying stuff, we'll interpret it, and compare it to things in our lives, and just add stuff to what they're saying. Don't to that -- instead, listen adding nothing, and just hear what they're saying. If you're little voice in your head is going off while they're talking, you're not listening.\n\n2b. If you know what you're gonna say before they finish talking, and are just waiting to say it, you're not listening. Let their words dominate your focus, not your own words.\n\n2c. \"Adding\" stuff to what people are saying includes judgements of right/wrong or good/bad. Nothing is right, nothing is wrong, nothing is good, and nothing is bad -- at least not while someone else is speaking.\n\n3. Acknowledge that you understand the person you're listening at regular intervals. This can be just with little nods or other gestures, or something like \"OK\" or \"uh-ha\", or something less subtle.\n\n> I want to be the type of person who makes others comfortable when talking to me.\n\nIMO that's not exactly the same as being a great listener. If you want to make people comfortable, have empathy and express it. Make people comfortable by adopting their body language, by adopting their beliefs relevant to the conversation and their point of view, and by touching them regularly, affectionately and appropriately.",
"1) dont interrupt. let the sentence conclude before saying anything, even if you dont understand exactly what they're saying.\n\n2) ask questions. as mentioned above if you dont understand ask them to reiterate or (even better) try to understand through your own comparisson. talking fitness but arent totally grasping the fat burning and so on? compare the body to the engine of a car to get a better understanding. it not only helps you stay invested and helps you understand, but also opens doors to other topics.\n\n3) dont pull out your phone or (if its in your hand) mess around on it unless it pertains to the conversation (adding a contact, showing a picture, etc). if you get a text or a call excuse yourself for a moment to check then return as quickly as possible.\n\n4) dont make it about you. if someone asks about you, dont go nuts. if you do get the spotlight try to stay modest and simple. dont ramble about your mailmans cat having its balls laminated by your preist on the sabbath. make your point fast and turn the spotlight back to the other person.\n\n5) emote! this is important especially for first impressions. if they tell a joke youve heard before laugh anyway! if they tell a sob story sympathize (dont compare to your own woes; they might think youre trying to out-sad them and take the spotlight). also, if they offend you, be polite and look the other way. first meetings are how you learn about others. they dont know your likes, dislikes or what jokes cross which lines. dont let one mistake ruin the meeting or conversation."
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"Roaches, how to get rid of those tiny devils in a one room studio? Hey, \n\nI recently moved to Paris (about three days ago) to move from the family cocoon and get to studying. I now live in a very small studio (18m2 including the mezzanine). \n\nThe first night was great, but last night I came home with a couple of buddies and we found one tiny cockroach creeping on us. We initially thought it came in when we opened the window, and showed him out. However, when I got up to go to bed, I realized a nightmare was starting. I only managed to see a handful of them - they seem to come from the walls and be afraid of me whenever I move, but it was enough to get me out of the flat and back to a relative's house. \n\nI am terrified of bugs in general, and even more so with cockroaches as they disgust me. I really cannot stand living with them. \n\nThose are the things I have done so far:\n\n- I sealed all the holes I could find in the walls with a firm metallic sheet (with very tiny holes in order to still be able to breathe once the window is closed) and duct tape. \n\n- I set up standard roach traps under the sink, in the bathroom and near my bed. \n\n- I put up some roach-mass-murdering poison a bit everywhere they could come in through and casually hang out at.\n\nHowever, after reading a bit online I realized that roaches are way more determined than that, and it's gonna be a hell of a lot tougher. \n\nDoes anyone have some tips or lifehacks to crush those tiny little bastards and stop them from coming in such a tiny apartment? \n\nAnd does anyone have tips on how to sleep with them crawling all around us and knowing that they must be thousands inside the walls (I would wake up the whole street if I found one on me)?",
"Roaches, how to get rid of those tiny devils in a one room studio? Hey, \n\nI recently moved to Paris (about three days ago) to move from the family cocoon and get to studying. I now live in a very small studio (18m2 including the mezzanine). \n\nThe first night was great, but last night I came home with a couple of buddies and we found one tiny cockroach creeping on us. We initially thought it came in when we opened the window, and showed him out. However, when I got up to go to bed, I realized a nightmare was starting. I only managed to see a handful of them - they seem to come from the walls and be afraid of me whenever I move, but it was enough to get me out of the flat and back to a relative's house. \n\nI am terrified of bugs in general, and even more so with cockroaches as they disgust me. I really cannot stand living with them. \n\nThose are the things I have done so far:\n\n- I sealed all the holes I could find in the walls with a firm metallic sheet (with very tiny holes in order to still be able to breathe once the window is closed) and duct tape. \n\n- I set up standard roach traps under the sink, in the bathroom and near my bed. \n\n- I put up some roach-mass-murdering poison a bit everywhere they could come in through and casually hang out at.\n\nHowever, after reading a bit online I realized that roaches are way more determined than that, and it's gonna be a hell of a lot tougher. \n\nDoes anyone have some tips or lifehacks to crush those tiny little bastards and stop them from coming in such a tiny apartment? \n\nAnd does anyone have tips on how to sleep with them crawling all around us and knowing that they must be thousands inside the walls (I would wake up the whole street if I found one on me)?",
"Roaches, how to get rid of those tiny devils in a one room studio? Hey, \n\nI recently moved to Paris (about three days ago) to move from the family cocoon and get to studying. I now live in a very small studio (18m2 including the mezzanine). \n\nThe first night was great, but last night I came home with a couple of buddies and we found one tiny cockroach creeping on us. We initially thought it came in when we opened the window, and showed him out. However, when I got up to go to bed, I realized a nightmare was starting. I only managed to see a handful of them - they seem to come from the walls and be afraid of me whenever I move, but it was enough to get me out of the flat and back to a relative's house. \n\nI am terrified of bugs in general, and even more so with cockroaches as they disgust me. I really cannot stand living with them. \n\nThose are the things I have done so far:\n\n- I sealed all the holes I could find in the walls with a firm metallic sheet (with very tiny holes in order to still be able to breathe once the window is closed) and duct tape. \n\n- I set up standard roach traps under the sink, in the bathroom and near my bed. \n\n- I put up some roach-mass-murdering poison a bit everywhere they could come in through and casually hang out at.\n\nHowever, after reading a bit online I realized that roaches are way more determined than that, and it's gonna be a hell of a lot tougher. \n\nDoes anyone have some tips or lifehacks to crush those tiny little bastards and stop them from coming in such a tiny apartment? \n\nAnd does anyone have tips on how to sleep with them crawling all around us and knowing that they must be thousands inside the walls (I would wake up the whole street if I found one on me)?",
"Roaches, how to get rid of those tiny devils in a one room studio? Hey, \n\nI recently moved to Paris (about three days ago) to move from the family cocoon and get to studying. I now live in a very small studio (18m2 including the mezzanine). \n\nThe first night was great, but last night I came home with a couple of buddies and we found one tiny cockroach creeping on us. We initially thought it came in when we opened the window, and showed him out. However, when I got up to go to bed, I realized a nightmare was starting. I only managed to see a handful of them - they seem to come from the walls and be afraid of me whenever I move, but it was enough to get me out of the flat and back to a relative's house. \n\nI am terrified of bugs in general, and even more so with cockroaches as they disgust me. I really cannot stand living with them. \n\nThose are the things I have done so far:\n\n- I sealed all the holes I could find in the walls with a firm metallic sheet (with very tiny holes in order to still be able to breathe once the window is closed) and duct tape. \n\n- I set up standard roach traps under the sink, in the bathroom and near my bed. \n\n- I put up some roach-mass-murdering poison a bit everywhere they could come in through and casually hang out at.\n\nHowever, after reading a bit online I realized that roaches are way more determined than that, and it's gonna be a hell of a lot tougher. \n\nDoes anyone have some tips or lifehacks to crush those tiny little bastards and stop them from coming in such a tiny apartment? \n\nAnd does anyone have tips on how to sleep with them crawling all around us and knowing that they must be thousands inside the walls (I would wake up the whole street if I found one on me)?",
"Roaches, how to get rid of those tiny devils in a one room studio? Hey, \n\nI recently moved to Paris (about three days ago) to move from the family cocoon and get to studying. I now live in a very small studio (18m2 including the mezzanine). \n\nThe first night was great, but last night I came home with a couple of buddies and we found one tiny cockroach creeping on us. We initially thought it came in when we opened the window, and showed him out. However, when I got up to go to bed, I realized a nightmare was starting. I only managed to see a handful of them - they seem to come from the walls and be afraid of me whenever I move, but it was enough to get me out of the flat and back to a relative's house. \n\nI am terrified of bugs in general, and even more so with cockroaches as they disgust me. I really cannot stand living with them. \n\nThose are the things I have done so far:\n\n- I sealed all the holes I could find in the walls with a firm metallic sheet (with very tiny holes in order to still be able to breathe once the window is closed) and duct tape. \n\n- I set up standard roach traps under the sink, in the bathroom and near my bed. \n\n- I put up some roach-mass-murdering poison a bit everywhere they could come in through and casually hang out at.\n\nHowever, after reading a bit online I realized that roaches are way more determined than that, and it's gonna be a hell of a lot tougher. \n\nDoes anyone have some tips or lifehacks to crush those tiny little bastards and stop them from coming in such a tiny apartment? \n\nAnd does anyone have tips on how to sleep with them crawling all around us and knowing that they must be thousands inside the walls (I would wake up the whole street if I found one on me)?"
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"My husband and I lived in Florida for 10 years - you cannot rent an apartment there that does not have roaches...and big ones. The best way to get rid of them is to use Boric acid (this is a white odorless powder and it is very cheap). It is nontoxic unless you eat it. Spread some in every corner of your kitchen, inside cabinets, around doorways, electric outlets etc. The roaches get it all over their feet when they walk around at night and then take the powder back to their nests. They eat the stuff and die on their own. Have the powder around for several days and then you will start finding dead roaches everywhere. After about five days, vacuum the powder and of course, the dead roaches. The powder will not work if it gets wet. Also, roaches need water to live so they will go towards sources of water (under the kitchen and bathroom sink and around the dishwasher...make sure to spread the powder around these areas. Roaches LOVE to lay their eggs in cardboard and paper bags, so do not keep any of these in your apartment. Store everything in plastic containers. I hope this helps. ",
"make a simple syrup, and mix boric acid into it. This is a very effective roach poison. \nBut what you really need (and I don't know if they sell this in France), is Egg Stoppers. \nhttps://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=roach+egg+stoppers&tag=googhydr-20&index=aps&hvadid=116858354484&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=12902418354529734665&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_3aienc48bf_b_p14\n\nThe baits kill the adults, and the egg stoppers make them infertile, so you stop getting new ones hatching.",
"Mix some tea tree oil and rubbing alcohol in a spray bottle and spray every surface after you've cleaned.",
"Get those traps that bring the poison back to the nest. You need their help in really getting to the bottom of that! its possible though so don't give up!",
"Forget literally everything you see in the pest control section of the store.\n\nGet Borax or boric acid. Kills them and they fucking stay dead.\n\nAlso smells like laundry detergent (since it is)."
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"Being the person in real life as I am mentally I often find myself being anti-social towards people. I'm 15 and I find it challenging to talk to girls as I struggle to think on what to say. I'm a funny kind of guy but I just struggle when meeting new people.\n\nI know you shouldn't bother what people think of you but it's just really hard for me. If anyone has a story of them improving their self-confidence or any tips it would be greatly appreciated. \n\nI think that [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2dJ3-N0HL4A) video is really interesting.",
"Being the person in real life as I am mentally I often find myself being anti-social towards people. I'm 15 and I find it challenging to talk to girls as I struggle to think on what to say. I'm a funny kind of guy but I just struggle when meeting new people.\n\nI know you shouldn't bother what people think of you but it's just really hard for me. If anyone has a story of them improving their self-confidence or any tips it would be greatly appreciated. \n\nI think that [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2dJ3-N0HL4A) video is really interesting.",
"Being the person in real life as I am mentally I often find myself being anti-social towards people. I'm 15 and I find it challenging to talk to girls as I struggle to think on what to say. I'm a funny kind of guy but I just struggle when meeting new people.\n\nI know you shouldn't bother what people think of you but it's just really hard for me. If anyone has a story of them improving their self-confidence or any tips it would be greatly appreciated. \n\nI think that [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2dJ3-N0HL4A) video is really interesting.",
"Being the person in real life as I am mentally I often find myself being anti-social towards people. I'm 15 and I find it challenging to talk to girls as I struggle to think on what to say. I'm a funny kind of guy but I just struggle when meeting new people.\n\nI know you shouldn't bother what people think of you but it's just really hard for me. If anyone has a story of them improving their self-confidence or any tips it would be greatly appreciated. \n\nI think that [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2dJ3-N0HL4A) video is really interesting.",
"Being the person in real life as I am mentally I often find myself being anti-social towards people. I'm 15 and I find it challenging to talk to girls as I struggle to think on what to say. I'm a funny kind of guy but I just struggle when meeting new people.\n\nI know you shouldn't bother what people think of you but it's just really hard for me. If anyone has a story of them improving their self-confidence or any tips it would be greatly appreciated. \n\nI think that [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2dJ3-N0HL4A) video is really interesting."
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"You just have to fake it and grow more comfortable with being uncomfortable. You will do stupid things and make a fool of yourself, but those moments are fleeting. They're not worth dwelling on because most people won't remember them, and if they do, they tend to remember those silly moments in a good way.\n\nEmbrace the awkwardness of meeting people and either you will get over it or you will find similar awkward people who will appreciate that side of you. ",
"Meeting new people is all about treating everyone like a 10/10 person. Make them feel validated and everyone likes to talk about themselves. Ask people how their day was, what the most interesting thing of their day was. I feel actually listening and asking questions from what they tell you is much better then finding a common talking point out of thin air.",
"You'll be awkward. The people worth talking to will not let that interfere with the relationship to follow. Keep in mind, the person you're talking to also has some level of social anxiety.",
"Start by saying hello to people. Start off with guys if it helps. Just say \"hi how's it going?\" It's a very small step but breaking your habits and being comfortable engaging with strangers seems to be what you're looking for. ",
"I still don't really like to talk to new people and I'm... older than 15.\n\nAs I got older, the most important thing that helped me with other people is figuring out who I am. Now, I'm pretty sure of who I am and where I fit in. People can tell that I am who I am, and the ones that like it do, and the ones that don't, I'm ok with. I'm not worried about them disliking me because they think I'm someone I'm not.\n\nAlso, working really helped me. Knowing that there are people who depend on me to make fries, or haul laundry or build foundations helps me feel like I'm accomplishing something necessary to other people, which helps confidence and self-worth."
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"How to cut large amounts of paper? Hi! I like using flashcards to study vocabulary when learning a language. Buying flashcards (~3 by ~4 inches) can be very expensive (4 euros per 100-pack), but I can buy cards that are about four times as large for 6 euros per 100-pack. If I cut these in four, I will have paid 6 euros for 400 flashcards. It takes a lot of time to cut these cards though, as I have to take them two or three at a time and run them through a paper trimmer twice. \n\nIs there anything I can do to make this process easier?",
"How to cut large amounts of paper? Hi! I like using flashcards to study vocabulary when learning a language. Buying flashcards (~3 by ~4 inches) can be very expensive (4 euros per 100-pack), but I can buy cards that are about four times as large for 6 euros per 100-pack. If I cut these in four, I will have paid 6 euros for 400 flashcards. It takes a lot of time to cut these cards though, as I have to take them two or three at a time and run them through a paper trimmer twice. \n\nIs there anything I can do to make this process easier?",
"How to cut large amounts of paper? Hi! I like using flashcards to study vocabulary when learning a language. Buying flashcards (~3 by ~4 inches) can be very expensive (4 euros per 100-pack), but I can buy cards that are about four times as large for 6 euros per 100-pack. If I cut these in four, I will have paid 6 euros for 400 flashcards. It takes a lot of time to cut these cards though, as I have to take them two or three at a time and run them through a paper trimmer twice. \n\nIs there anything I can do to make this process easier?"
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"http://somechum.com/2011/09/16/step-away-from-the-paper-cutter/\n\none of these?\n\nOr take a small saw to a stack?\n\nIf you cut them as you complete a card it will seem less tedious. ",
"I know that here in the USA, Staples, which is an office supplies store, will cut large amounts of paper to whatever size you want for REALLY cheap. I called them because I hate cutting the paper I use for making books. The lady said it was $4 for 300 sheets. Maybe try calling a place like that near you? They also do printing and copying work, which is why I tried them in the first place. \nJust a suggestion, and I hope you get it all worked out!\n(",
"I assume buying a better purpose-built cutter is out of the question given how much you are sweating a relatively small expense. Using a sturdy, ideally metal-edged item (carpenter's square, ruler, etc.), and a razor blade or \"Exacto knife\", you can cut through multiple layers of cardstock in one swipe.\n\nUse a 3x4 card as a template. Lay it on the new stock and align your straight edge. Keeping the razor blade as vertical as possible, pressing down, draw the blade along the straight edge. Multiple passes will deepen the grove and increase the number of cut sheets. Rotate the two piles of cut pieces and cut again in the same mamor to get your 4 pieces for index cards, always ready to go."
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"How to avoid the white stains from deodorant and still not smell bad I have usede a lot of deodorants including spray, dry spray, bar and its always the same: the dry and the bar control the smell but leave a white shaped stain around my armpit and ruin my shirts, and the regular sprays dont leave the stain but the bad smell comes after about 1 hour. I´ve tried speed stick, axe, rexona, etc. Please Help\n"
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"Buy a cheap pair of nylon stockings. When the stain is dry rub the hell out it with the stockings. The stain should come right off. I've saved many a t-shirt this way.",
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"How to remove stickers from book covers without damaging the cover in any way. Example: [This book](http://i.imgur.com/I3yjp.jpg) has a sticker firmly stuck on it, no edges I can use to pull it off. I don't want to scratch at it, because it's a hard cover and I'm afraid it will be visible. Any suggestions?",
"How to remove stickers from book covers without damaging the cover in any way. Example: [This book](http://i.imgur.com/I3yjp.jpg) has a sticker firmly stuck on it, no edges I can use to pull it off. I don't want to scratch at it, because it's a hard cover and I'm afraid it will be visible. Any suggestions?"
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"I've had that problem in the past... I find that using a razor blade works best. If you angle it sideways, it gets all that sticky residue off with no damage to the book! ",
"GooGone and a razorblade. Let the googone soak on for a minute then go to town. Did this all the time in college. ",
"Also consider \"Un-du\". You can get it at craft stores. I read an article about it some time back that wowed me by telling how it was able to remove toilet paper from duct tape!"
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"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first.",
"How do I prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? I just moved into an apartment, and my downstairs neighbor has confronted me 2 times saying that I have been stomping. However, I hadn't been stomping; my footsteps might probably sound loud because of a thin floor/ceiling.\n\nI have been stepping around my apartment silently ever since, but I don't think this is a good long-term solution. If something falls on my floor, my downstairs neighbor will hear it. What's a long-term way to prevent my downstairs neighbor from hearing noises on my floor? \n\nI don't feel comfortable discussing this with my downstairs neighbor because the second time he confronted me, he was furious and seemed like he wanted to fight me. I have wood flooring and am aware that carpeting the floor can help with this, but I find carpets difficult to clean, so I would like to consider other options first."
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"Maybe a couple area rugs in the high traffic area instead of fully carpeting? Other than that, your neighbor is just going to have to suck it up or move. You shouldn’t feel uncomfortable simply walking in your own home.",
"It’s a common downside of living on a lower floor apartment with a neighbor above, they’ll have to just find a way to deal with it. \n\nYou don’t owe them anything just so you can live your life day to day.",
"There are floor mats they make for kids rooms for soundproofing. My sister used them for her acrobatic cats who made a lot of noise at night. \n\nPresumably you are not the first person to live above your neighbor. He is likely attempting to intimidate you early in order to get you accustomed to apologizing and taking the blame for him not living on a higher floor.",
"I have found rugs and mats can help but your downstairs neighbor also just has to understand that this is how it is living in an apartment is.",
"Were I in your shoes, I'd move.\n\nI've had downstairs neighbors like that. After adding some area rugs to lessen the noise, they started complaining about the noise from the vacuum cleaner when I cleaned the rugs.\n\nThere's no satisfying people like that.",
"Tell them to buy a house. Your lease should mention some sort of curfew or quiet hours. If he’s complaining while the noisiness is allowed, that’s his problem. I’ve lived in apartments for most of my life. Hearing others comes with the package. Some places are so poorly built that I have heard my downstairs neighbors walking. 😝",
"My friend had the same issue. Bought thin foam sheets and placed them under rugs around her apartment. She always bought a massive amount of slipper socks to ease her foot steps.",
"Nothing you can do, it’s not your fault the separation between floors conducts sound so well whilst you do normal things. Ignore it, if they ask again, just tell them that you don’t stomp, and that walk quietly/softly, they really can’t say anything else if you tell them you’re doing everything you can.\n\nAlso, don’t worry about actually walking quietly, just live your life normally, don’t restrict it for a stranger.",
"If your the person living above me... move out. Your the loudest person to ever live there. If I can hear you walking, that means I hear everything you do, EVERYTHING.",
"I had a hostile neighbor below me once. I ended up changing the way I step from 'heel to toe' to 'toe to heel' which helped dampen the sound. It shouldn't have come to that, feeling unsafe and being dictated by how I walk in my own house, but that disturbed neighbor (who even threatened to kill my dog) had the landlord on their side and was on a vendetta to get me evicted. Adopting the 'toe to heel' method helped to deescalate my situation until I was able to move out.",
"Getting rugs are a very kind and considerate thing to do, but unless you have kids or enjoy jump rope inside they are not required.\n\nThis is apartment living** it sucks being the downstairs neighbor. \n\n** unless you have kids in an upper apt. Then you need all the rugs that can fit in the place. And you are still a bad human.",
"what other option besides a carpet or walking lightly would work? waving a magic wand? lol. i live in a lower apartment and some people just walk like elephants without any conscious awareness whereas others are naturally lighter on their feet. it’s absolutely annoying when a tenant paces with loud stomps back and forth",
"speak with the landlord about it and be sure to tell them how aggressive he was, if he aggressively confronts you again call the police and make a report",
"Your problem is not the noise, your problem is dealing with an unreasonable neighbor. Find a way to communicate to him that you’re very sorry he’s upset, but you’re not being overly loud and that he’s just going to have to live with it. He can’t control you, he can only control himself. Either he lives with the noise, or he moves out. Either way, it’s not your issue to fix.",
"There are some helpful tips (like thin area rugs, and no shoes for you, you can do some of them as well as this: i would offer to landlord and/or basement tenant to pay 1/2 or 1/3 the cost to vapour barrier and insulate your floor/ his ceiling. That should cut down on a lot of the noise.",
"Tell him he should just buy a house or shove it. Maybe complain to property management that he is aggressively harassing you for normal use of your dwelling.",
"Squeeze off a round from a .45 pistol next to each of their ears careful not to shoot them and they will never hear anything you say or do. Works every time. Make sure they can't identify you because I can't seem to find out if this is legal or not. You never intend to hurt them so there is the basis for your case should it come to that.",
"I feel the comments from others covered everything, so I have nothing to add. :]\n\nI just wanted to share my unpopular opinion: I like hearing my Neighbours- it’s nice to sense life around & it reassures me that I don’t have to be perfect. As long as it isn’t noise that’s disturbing to hear (like aggressive fighting), I don’t actually mind. My previous neighbors were football fans & would cheer loudly for their team (I knew when their team was winning & when they were losing, hahaha!) They texted apologizing for the noise but I told them not to worry about it; that I used to watch sports so I get the fervor, lol! I’ve never made a noise complaint to the landlord.\n\nMy current neighbours are night owls, & it’s nice to hear proof of life when most are asleep. It makes me feel more normal when I’m awake so late…err, early? XD",
"Report the incident to your landlord. This is not your problem. People who are that sensitive to noise should not rent units with upstairs neighbors.",
"If you are not truly stomping-many people not custom to walking on hollow sounding floors may not know they are, then go about your life. Apartment living-especially downstairs stinks-and you shouldn't alter your life beyond normal courtesy-no stomping, playing drums, blasting tv/radio. Live your life.",
"I would ignore the neighbor next time they come knocking. You do not have to walk quietly around your apartment because of a stranger. As long as you aren't jumping/stomping or playing loud music. Just live your life normally and refuse to be intimidated. You are renting, just like the neighbor. You would also have to report this neighbor to the apartment office."
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"Changing your view or opinion on topics. Looking for tips on how to change your mindset on topics in order to grow as a person. \n\nThere are several topics in my life where I think my views are outdated, or just not where I should line up. But my head will say one thing yet my feelings sometimes say the opposite. Wondering if someone had tops on how to update your opinions so your heart and head line up.",
"Changing your view or opinion on topics. Looking for tips on how to change your mindset on topics in order to grow as a person. \n\nThere are several topics in my life where I think my views are outdated, or just not where I should line up. But my head will say one thing yet my feelings sometimes say the opposite. Wondering if someone had tops on how to update your opinions so your heart and head line up."
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"It's so great that you're seeing this in yourself and looking to get better at it. \n\nI would start by taking some time out for serious honest reflection. Why do you have the current opinions you do? Why do your feelings go a certain way? Is it the way you were raised, what you were exposed to, hurts or expectations in the past? Once you have a firm grip on *why* you feel the way you do, you can move on to an information gathering phase. ",
"Do research, and try to come up with alternative solutions. Keep an open mind, and ask others how they feel. ",
"You could scope out r/changemyview - take a particular viewpoint in there and get some convincing, see if you really want to change your mind."
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"Surviving a holiday on Wi-Fi only? I am a European travelling to Ontario, Canada soon and it seems that mobile data coverage is both bad and expensive. I will be driving around in a Van and mainly enjoying nature so it is not quite needed, actually but it would still be good to get access to the internet from time to time.\n\nDo you have any recommendations for apps or other ways to find places with Wi-fi available as I am travelling?",
"Surviving a holiday on Wi-Fi only? I am a European travelling to Ontario, Canada soon and it seems that mobile data coverage is both bad and expensive. I will be driving around in a Van and mainly enjoying nature so it is not quite needed, actually but it would still be good to get access to the internet from time to time.\n\nDo you have any recommendations for apps or other ways to find places with Wi-fi available as I am travelling?",
"Surviving a holiday on Wi-Fi only? I am a European travelling to Ontario, Canada soon and it seems that mobile data coverage is both bad and expensive. I will be driving around in a Van and mainly enjoying nature so it is not quite needed, actually but it would still be good to get access to the internet from time to time.\n\nDo you have any recommendations for apps or other ways to find places with Wi-fi available as I am travelling?",
"Surviving a holiday on Wi-Fi only? I am a European travelling to Ontario, Canada soon and it seems that mobile data coverage is both bad and expensive. I will be driving around in a Van and mainly enjoying nature so it is not quite needed, actually but it would still be good to get access to the internet from time to time.\n\nDo you have any recommendations for apps or other ways to find places with Wi-fi available as I am travelling?",
"Surviving a holiday on Wi-Fi only? I am a European travelling to Ontario, Canada soon and it seems that mobile data coverage is both bad and expensive. I will be driving around in a Van and mainly enjoying nature so it is not quite needed, actually but it would still be good to get access to the internet from time to time.\n\nDo you have any recommendations for apps or other ways to find places with Wi-fi available as I am travelling?",
"Surviving a holiday on Wi-Fi only? I am a European travelling to Ontario, Canada soon and it seems that mobile data coverage is both bad and expensive. I will be driving around in a Van and mainly enjoying nature so it is not quite needed, actually but it would still be good to get access to the internet from time to time.\n\nDo you have any recommendations for apps or other ways to find places with Wi-fi available as I am travelling?",
"Surviving a holiday on Wi-Fi only? I am a European travelling to Ontario, Canada soon and it seems that mobile data coverage is both bad and expensive. I will be driving around in a Van and mainly enjoying nature so it is not quite needed, actually but it would still be good to get access to the internet from time to time.\n\nDo you have any recommendations for apps or other ways to find places with Wi-fi available as I am travelling?",
"Surviving a holiday on Wi-Fi only? I am a European travelling to Ontario, Canada soon and it seems that mobile data coverage is both bad and expensive. I will be driving around in a Van and mainly enjoying nature so it is not quite needed, actually but it would still be good to get access to the internet from time to time.\n\nDo you have any recommendations for apps or other ways to find places with Wi-fi available as I am travelling?"
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"A lot of motels and gas stations have WiFi along the way. You could always get a local sim card aswell from providers in towns, you'll need an address handy however so go in armed with the address of a local motel or something.\n\nBuy some maps and best of luck on your trip, I'm very jealous!",
"Like others mentioned, most places in Canada have free wifi. Tim Hortons, McDonald’s, Starbucks, Walmart etc. You’ll be fine bro.",
"Most places in non rural Canada have public wifi. Hell I live in a mid sized town and we literally have wifi coverage down main street.",
"I’m from Ireland, moved to Toronto last September and I have to say don’t even worry about it! You’ll be fine as it’s harder to not actually be connected to a WiFi source.",
"Google maps lets you download maps locally. Select the area you'll be travelling to/through when you're on WiFi. When you get to your next WiFi spot,select or update to the next area.\n\nSpotify, Netflix and some other streaming apps let you download stuff locally to your devices.",
"Get here WeGo. Don't forget to download maps and voices. It's map database is quite good, same for navigation.\n\nIf you're not that fluent in English/French, download the Google translate languages, for some combos it iirc even does conversation translation offline.",
"Sorry to derail; Not exactly what you're asking for but two things I would recommend: \n\nDownload offline maps in Google Maps of your area. This is extremely helpful but you can only use it for driving directions, not walking directions without data. But you can typically figure that out easily enough.\n\nThe other is to consider Google Fi. It's available for most smartphones now and you can land in virtually any country and have your phone start working before you're even off the plane. But it's $10/GB of data so you won't want to be streaming videos off of WiFi.",
"Screenshot google maps while you have wifi if worst comes to absolute worst. It can get you out of an unexpected bind."
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"Getting a Job in a town you are not familiar with whilst homeless. I waaaaaaaaaaaas backpacking, but I got a call from a roommate saying he kicked out the other roommate and we cant afford the place anymore (smooth moooooooove). \n\nSo yeah, where i was staying is a small boring town and i think I'm just going to move wherever i run out of money at ",
"Getting a Job in a town you are not familiar with whilst homeless. I waaaaaaaaaaaas backpacking, but I got a call from a roommate saying he kicked out the other roommate and we cant afford the place anymore (smooth moooooooove). \n\nSo yeah, where i was staying is a small boring town and i think I'm just going to move wherever i run out of money at ",
"Getting a Job in a town you are not familiar with whilst homeless. I waaaaaaaaaaaas backpacking, but I got a call from a roommate saying he kicked out the other roommate and we cant afford the place anymore (smooth moooooooove). \n\nSo yeah, where i was staying is a small boring town and i think I'm just going to move wherever i run out of money at "
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"Charisma. \n\nHit the street.\n\nJedi mind trick: Don't just go in and ask for an application, or if they're hiring. Ask to speak to the manager. When manager appears, say, \"I know you generally don't just hire people off the street, but I figured you might know of a good place for me to go apply?\"\n\nTakes them off the defensive and makes them feel like an expert. Thank them for their time, even if they say no. \n\nYou should leave your name and number (\"just in case you think of any more places to recommend\").\n\nThis has gotten me a job every time I've wandered into a new city, no matter how big or small. Good luck!",
"[Here is a list of state employment websites.](http://www.statelocalgov.net/50states-jobs.cfm) They are all government agencies, they won't charge for job placement, and their job is to help you find work. Perfect if you don't have any local connections.\n\nIf you can go to an office in person, they often have all the applications for the jobs they offer there so you can fill out a bunch of them at once. They also usually will assist you in writing a resume. \n\nGood luck.",
"im constantly traveling and often find myself in this same situation.. the hardest part is finding a shower... you can always go the mexican route and stand outside of your larger hardware stores in the morning with a sign that says needs work"
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"Best workouts to burn fat off your chest I am in no way obese, but I would like to cut down some of the fat of my chest area. Any workouts that you know of that are effective for this would be greatly appreciated.",
"Best workouts to burn fat off your chest I am in no way obese, but I would like to cut down some of the fat of my chest area. Any workouts that you know of that are effective for this would be greatly appreciated.",
"Best workouts to burn fat off your chest I am in no way obese, but I would like to cut down some of the fat of my chest area. Any workouts that you know of that are effective for this would be greatly appreciated.",
"Best workouts to burn fat off your chest I am in no way obese, but I would like to cut down some of the fat of my chest area. Any workouts that you know of that are effective for this would be greatly appreciated."
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"It is a common misconception that you can \"target\" fat in certain areas. (the one you hear most often is that crunches and other ab exercises will get rid of belly fat -- they won't). \n\nYou need to simply eat right (easier said than done), and do a combination of cardio and strength training. Genetics play a factor, as do medical conditions and what not, but generally speaking this is the best way to lose fat anywhere and everywhere it's not wanted.",
"You cannot target your workout. Eat more fruit and veggies, and less meat, dairy and carbs. Get more exercise.",
"Try taking a look at r/keto in Reddit. In 4 weeks ive dropped about 9-10 lbs weight, and 12% body fat according to my scale. Read the FAQ top to bottom. ",
"You are going to want to hit all aspects of your chest. Bench press, Incline press, decline press, Flies, Cable flies, Use the barbell or the DB. You may want to stay around 12-15 reps when you workout. Also, you can do pushups if you don't have a gym to go to. Watch what you eat, and incorporate these into your workout and you will have results."
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"How to stop becoming tired at the same point every day? No matter how much sleep I get, no matter what I do, and how I act I always seem to get tired at around 3:30pm-5:00pm every day. No amount of caffine, lack that of, activity, or workload seems to change it. After then I feel awake until about 1:00am the next day. Can anyone help me figure out why and how to fix it? ",
"How to stop becoming tired at the same point every day? No matter how much sleep I get, no matter what I do, and how I act I always seem to get tired at around 3:30pm-5:00pm every day. No amount of caffine, lack that of, activity, or workload seems to change it. After then I feel awake until about 1:00am the next day. Can anyone help me figure out why and how to fix it? ",
"How to stop becoming tired at the same point every day? No matter how much sleep I get, no matter what I do, and how I act I always seem to get tired at around 3:30pm-5:00pm every day. No amount of caffine, lack that of, activity, or workload seems to change it. After then I feel awake until about 1:00am the next day. Can anyone help me figure out why and how to fix it? ",
"How to stop becoming tired at the same point every day? No matter how much sleep I get, no matter what I do, and how I act I always seem to get tired at around 3:30pm-5:00pm every day. No amount of caffine, lack that of, activity, or workload seems to change it. After then I feel awake until about 1:00am the next day. Can anyone help me figure out why and how to fix it? ",
"How to stop becoming tired at the same point every day? No matter how much sleep I get, no matter what I do, and how I act I always seem to get tired at around 3:30pm-5:00pm every day. No amount of caffine, lack that of, activity, or workload seems to change it. After then I feel awake until about 1:00am the next day. Can anyone help me figure out why and how to fix it? ",
"How to stop becoming tired at the same point every day? No matter how much sleep I get, no matter what I do, and how I act I always seem to get tired at around 3:30pm-5:00pm every day. No amount of caffine, lack that of, activity, or workload seems to change it. After then I feel awake until about 1:00am the next day. Can anyone help me figure out why and how to fix it? ",
"How to stop becoming tired at the same point every day? No matter how much sleep I get, no matter what I do, and how I act I always seem to get tired at around 3:30pm-5:00pm every day. No amount of caffine, lack that of, activity, or workload seems to change it. After then I feel awake until about 1:00am the next day. Can anyone help me figure out why and how to fix it? ",
"How to stop becoming tired at the same point every day? No matter how much sleep I get, no matter what I do, and how I act I always seem to get tired at around 3:30pm-5:00pm every day. No amount of caffine, lack that of, activity, or workload seems to change it. After then I feel awake until about 1:00am the next day. Can anyone help me figure out why and how to fix it? "
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"Not sure if our experience is the same, but I am trying to fall asleep earlier at the moment.\n\nHave been falling asleep around two in the morning for a while now. So last week I started walking everywhere I could, and eating healthily. Five vegetables, two fruit, dairy per day, small amount of red meat, some fish, lean chicken per week, pulses and legumes, you know the drill. I have five small meals a day, spread out across the day. No cigarettes, caffeine, or alcohol. Bought blinds and curtains to shut out the light. Am not allowing myself to use any lit screens in my bedroom. And I have been shutting down all screen use at an earlier time each night. Earlier by about half an hour per day. After that I can read if I want but don't choose to use the internet or television. \n\nThis has worked really well so far. Last night I fell asleep at around ten thirty and it has only been a few days. Today I signed up for some reddit fitness challenges, push-ups and so on, and when I can get to sleep at my goal of nine pm I will start running in the morning.\n\nHave pulled back the falling asleep time dramatically, wouldn't have believed it could happen so fast. But I am still tired during the day. Am hoping the increased exercise and good eating will give me more energy. Hoping too that after a few nights of good sleep I will start to feel less sleepy during the day.\n\nGood luck with finding your own answer.\n\n",
"Could be blood sugar. You can regulate it by changing over to fat metabolism. See /r/keto/wiki/faq give it a try for a few weeks and see if it helps.\n\n",
"do you have a fixed bed time? If not, try that and hopefully your body will learn what time to get tired",
"Most likely it's your diet throughout the day. Smaller meals spread out strategically is the appropriate way. I'd get up and move around if your working a desk job when you get a small break. ",
"Try to sleep in multiples of 105 minutes, as that's how long it takes to go through all 5 stages of REM sleep. By interrupting REM sleep, you wake up groggy and get tired earlier. ",
"If you get up at around the same time each day, then it's actually fairly normal to be sleepy at around 4 every day (based on a typical diurnal schedule). While the typical working world doesn't practice it, taking a 20 minute power nap during that time is actually very beneficial. \nIt might actually change the \"awake\" feeling after you push yourself past that point of intense sleepiness. I sort of get the same way after I feel really sleepy, then force myself to push past it. \nHave you tried actually going to bed when you're \"supposed\" to, instead of staying up until 1am because you feel like you're not tired?",
"I recently tried taking zinc supplements as advised by my friend who is a personal trainer. It took about a week, but I am really happy with the results. I have been sleeping 8 hours, than have energy for the day, then get tired around 10:30 and fall asleep quickly. They did kind of dry me out though, so I found it worked best for me to take them with dinner and drink a good amount of water.",
"Blood sugar, as many stated , would be a #1 place to start, get it regulated so it wouldn't be running high then drop you down with no energy. It doesn't have to be sugary food, can be fruit and other starchy food that you need to cut back or eliminate.\n Research light therapy to adjust sleep schedule. There are specific recommendations of when and how to expose yourself to a bright light(10,000 luxe) ,or use whatever bright lights you've got, or use a plant light bulb or a couple of the, , whatever you can afford, and you would sit near it , say y for 30min within the first 30-60min of waking, (or even use it on an auto timer t to turn on about 30min before need to get up) there are more specific instructions ,but this is a general idea. The brain needs the light or sunlight if available, at certain times in Orr to set the biological clock , otherwise sleepiness or insomnia can set in. The other biggie is to be checked for sleep apnea which causes daytime sleepiness. Sometimes the person who sleeps next to you can tell you if you have noisy sleep breathing, snoring or randomly suddenly wake up in a disoriented manner and then turn over and go back to sleep. Check with doctor anyway about that, it may not be associated with snoring every time."
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"How do get over the death of a long loved pet? My 14 year old golden retriever just passed away from cancer. She was a huge part of my childhood and i feel like there's a big hole in my heart now. How can i get over her?",
"How do get over the death of a long loved pet? My 14 year old golden retriever just passed away from cancer. She was a huge part of my childhood and i feel like there's a big hole in my heart now. How can i get over her?",
"How do get over the death of a long loved pet? My 14 year old golden retriever just passed away from cancer. She was a huge part of my childhood and i feel like there's a big hole in my heart now. How can i get over her?",
"How do get over the death of a long loved pet? My 14 year old golden retriever just passed away from cancer. She was a huge part of my childhood and i feel like there's a big hole in my heart now. How can i get over her?",
"How do get over the death of a long loved pet? My 14 year old golden retriever just passed away from cancer. She was a huge part of my childhood and i feel like there's a big hole in my heart now. How can i get over her?"
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"First: Allow yourself to grieve. \n\nSome people are going to say \"oh it was just a dog\" but let's be honest -- 14 years is longer than some friendships or marriages. She was with you for a long time, and it's okay to be invested in her and in the time you had with her. \n\nIt's okay to cry, to feel like there's something wrong, and for loss to linger. She was a part of your family, and you've lost her. You're never getting that back. Even if you get a another dog (and I hope that you do, down the line, when you're ready) it's not going to be her. You'll make a whole new set of memories, and they'll never have her. \n\nSo give yourself permission to grieve. Ignore people who scoff -- they don't get it and frankly, some of them wouldn't get it if it was a person. Ultimately, they don't matter. What matters is your time with her, how you reflect on it, work through it, and make it a part of yourself and move on.",
"This may sound odd but we have been doing cremation since our first cat died. They are in a tin in our family room. There is some comfort in having a part of your pet still with you.",
"I think you might want to buy yourself new dog that looks nothing like your old one. If this will not help you then i think only time will.\nTell me how you feel about this idea, i just came up with it but i might suggest this to others in need. Im a little afraid though, it might sound rude to someone how lost pet.",
"I know you loved your pet but you need to accept that pets do not live nearly as long as people (dogs/cats). A grieving period of up to a few (3) months is normal. But pets really enrich our lives.\nBoth yours and theirs. \nYou will hopefully have many pets over your life. They are all unique just like people and you love and remember all of them. Get another pet soon. For your and their sake.\n",
"I always say losing a pet is almost as bad as loosing a close family member. Whilst you will never be able to replace her, getting a new puppy can at least fill part of the void left behind from losing a life long companion whilst giving you something to focus on. "
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"What are questions you should ask someone who is successful in life? I'm a teenager, and I'm trying to figure out what I want to do in life. Next year I'll be going to college so I'm trying to figure out what I want to choose as my career path. My father paints houses and cabinetry, and most of his customers are wealthy individuals. What questions would you recommend me asking them when I get the opportunity. I've written down some I think would be a good idea, but I wanted to get someone else's ideas.",
"What are questions you should ask someone who is successful in life? I'm a teenager, and I'm trying to figure out what I want to do in life. Next year I'll be going to college so I'm trying to figure out what I want to choose as my career path. My father paints houses and cabinetry, and most of his customers are wealthy individuals. What questions would you recommend me asking them when I get the opportunity. I've written down some I think would be a good idea, but I wanted to get someone else's ideas."
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"The big problem with asking about specific careers is that by the time you graduate, that career might not be so great.\n\nAsk for character traits.....how important is skill, networking, motivation, hard work in what they do.\n\nMy take on it (as someone is a medium-nice house!): Pick something that is hard enough that most people don't want to do it and that you would be motivated to do well. Being better than average in something most people can't do is a really good way to be sure to have a good income for many years.\n\nThis doesn't have to be lawyer or doctor. It can be almost anything, including blue-collar jobs. That plumber who started with one truck but now owns a whole fleet is rich...because he was better at plumbing AND better at turning it into a growing business....but he still started by cleaning shit out of people's basements. Now, he has employees who do that!",
"just go into computer science, it will help you better understand our computer overlords in the future. "
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"Moving Across The Country For the First Time Hey, y'all! I'm currently planning to move from LA (the state) to NJ in the end of May, but I've never made such a huge move before and I don't know exactly where to start with it.\n\nFor context, my best friend and I don't want to live here anymore, and it turns out my S/O of 5 years doesn't want to live in his state any longer either. I'll be 22 by the time of the move, so I'm severely lacking in life experience in general. I don't currently own a vehicle (but my best friend does, my S/O drives one of his family vehicles, which he might buy for his own use before the move), and I've been working the same minimum wage job in fast food for a little over two years now.\n\nI'm not worried about the financial aspect of it since all three of us are saving up as much as we can, and we have around 7 months to do so.\n\nWhat I *am* worried about, however, is how to prep before making the move. My S/O can transfer to one of his company's NJ locations, but where I'm working doesn't make that plausible for my own job. So I know I need to job hunt before getting there, but I don't know when a reasonable time frame for that is, since we'll move there in late May, nor do I know how to do that from many states away.\n\nIn the same vein, I don't know how to search for places to live before making that move. I've lived in a couple of different rented properties, but all of them were within a few miles of each other, so I could easily tour the location and discuss details with the landlord beforehand. Seeing as I'll be across the country, I don't know what to do for seeking a place to live, like setting up deposits or getting approved to rent, when I can't physically be there.\n\nI know it's a lot of work, which is why I'm trying to gather advice and tips so far in advance. I just want to make this as pain-free as possible for everyone involved.\n\nTL;DR: moving across the country in 7 months, need advice on how to prepare so I don't end up in a bad situation once I'm there.\n\nAny tips would be appreciated!",
"Moving Across The Country For the First Time Hey, y'all! I'm currently planning to move from LA (the state) to NJ in the end of May, but I've never made such a huge move before and I don't know exactly where to start with it.\n\nFor context, my best friend and I don't want to live here anymore, and it turns out my S/O of 5 years doesn't want to live in his state any longer either. I'll be 22 by the time of the move, so I'm severely lacking in life experience in general. I don't currently own a vehicle (but my best friend does, my S/O drives one of his family vehicles, which he might buy for his own use before the move), and I've been working the same minimum wage job in fast food for a little over two years now.\n\nI'm not worried about the financial aspect of it since all three of us are saving up as much as we can, and we have around 7 months to do so.\n\nWhat I *am* worried about, however, is how to prep before making the move. My S/O can transfer to one of his company's NJ locations, but where I'm working doesn't make that plausible for my own job. So I know I need to job hunt before getting there, but I don't know when a reasonable time frame for that is, since we'll move there in late May, nor do I know how to do that from many states away.\n\nIn the same vein, I don't know how to search for places to live before making that move. I've lived in a couple of different rented properties, but all of them were within a few miles of each other, so I could easily tour the location and discuss details with the landlord beforehand. Seeing as I'll be across the country, I don't know what to do for seeking a place to live, like setting up deposits or getting approved to rent, when I can't physically be there.\n\nI know it's a lot of work, which is why I'm trying to gather advice and tips so far in advance. I just want to make this as pain-free as possible for everyone involved.\n\nTL;DR: moving across the country in 7 months, need advice on how to prepare so I don't end up in a bad situation once I'm there.\n\nAny tips would be appreciated!"
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" how to prep before making the move ? these are the things I would consider doing\n\n1. Make a list of all the things you need to turn off or unsubscribe too:\n\n* subscriptions\n* utilities\n* forward all mail\n\n1. I like starting a new email. It's just me, it lets me know that all these things i am contacting over there are specific for that mailbox and need attending to, this imo is better than flagging everythign that comes through or risk going to my filters and junk\n2. Think of the things that you can leave behind, ie if you are not using it now start putting into a box and think about leaving it with friends or relatives \n3. You can get your cr",
"First, when packing, remember you don’t need that much. You’re young and can get by for awhile without much. And with 3 of you it will be easier. \nSecond, assuming you can’t go before, try to internet around to get and idea of the town, get in local Facebook groups or whatever to get an idea of what’s happening (but remember local Facebook groups can be a cesspool in the comment section. If your friend already has a gig, and you can basically work anywhere, use his workplace as a base for where you’ll live. Look for a short term lease and treat it as a placeholder. \nThird, as I mentioned, you can work anywhere. You’ve been working fast food, which is legit and allows you the freedom to do what you’re doing. If you want to stay in that, you’ll be fine, always a job around. You can also use this as an opportunity to try something new. If you want. Food service is a respectable career that we all need. \nMost importantly, great idea doing this. It’s another culture out there, and there it will be great for you. It takes balls/ovaries to do this type of thing the way you are, and your life will be better for it. Don’t my let anyone talk you out of it."
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"How to clean oily bed sheets SO is an oily man. Love him regardless. However, neither of us like his oily sheets. Some of them are just hanging on to the oil too, getting heavy, and never really feel clean (plus they're pretty expensive). We have a HE washer and he's not OK putting anything in it other than approved detergents. I don't mind using the sink or a bucket of we have to.\n\nHow do I get the oil out of the sheets and pillowcases?",
"How to clean oily bed sheets SO is an oily man. Love him regardless. However, neither of us like his oily sheets. Some of them are just hanging on to the oil too, getting heavy, and never really feel clean (plus they're pretty expensive). We have a HE washer and he's not OK putting anything in it other than approved detergents. I don't mind using the sink or a bucket of we have to.\n\nHow do I get the oil out of the sheets and pillowcases?"
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"I googled it, and someone said to just rub Corn Starch or plain white chalk on the oily bits then wash normally. Hope that helps! ",
"I've found that Lestoil works great on removing stains, I'll put baby powder on oily stains on work clothes and let it sit for a while and it soaks the oil right up.\n\nYou might need to soak it first then wash it, the Lestoil has a strong smell."
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"computer program that lets me get on my broken phone screen. There was a post about 6 months ago that said there was a way to access the data on your Samsung if you had broken the screen beyond work. Does anyone know what it is? ",
"computer program that lets me get on my broken phone screen. There was a post about 6 months ago that said there was a way to access the data on your Samsung if you had broken the screen beyond work. Does anyone know what it is? "
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"Depends how the screen broke.\n\nMy wife cracked her screen and the digitizer stopped working. The screen itself still worked, but it no longer responded to touch.\n\nI plugged in a micro usb hub and hooked up a mouse and keyboard.\n\nShe was then able to navigate her phone and get all the important stuff off it. She was also able to perform a factory reset before selling it for parts on eBay.",
"The adb android suite can \"adb pull /sdcard\" if your phone allows your PC to connect.\n\nRooted phones can also be extracted from the bootloader. You can reach the bootloader via a special key combo. It's often power and volume up at startup."
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"How to Get Rid of Mice Hi LPT! I found a mouse in the backyard. What can I do to prevent them from going into the house? What do I do if they're in the house? \n\n",
"How to Get Rid of Mice Hi LPT! I found a mouse in the backyard. What can I do to prevent them from going into the house? What do I do if they're in the house? \n\n",
"How to Get Rid of Mice Hi LPT! I found a mouse in the backyard. What can I do to prevent them from going into the house? What do I do if they're in the house? \n\n",
"How to Get Rid of Mice Hi LPT! I found a mouse in the backyard. What can I do to prevent them from going into the house? What do I do if they're in the house? \n\n",
"How to Get Rid of Mice Hi LPT! I found a mouse in the backyard. What can I do to prevent them from going into the house? What do I do if they're in the house? \n\n",
"How to Get Rid of Mice Hi LPT! I found a mouse in the backyard. What can I do to prevent them from going into the house? What do I do if they're in the house? \n\n"
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"ready for downvotes due to the nature of the trap, but glue traps work great for actually catching the mice.",
"You don't need a cat, but if you know someone who does you can put out cups of used litter and make the mice believe there's a cat. And you can figure out where they're getting in by leaving a bit of flour wherever they're taking food from. they'll leave footprints leading to wherever they're getting in from.",
"The best method I've ever used is to leave an empty paper towel roll at the edge of your counter, with half of it hanging over the edge. Put a little bit of cheese at the end of the tube, and then put a tall, empty garbage can underneath. The mouse will walk into the tube to get the food, then step over the edge and fall into the garbage can. Then, all you have to do is take the garbage out and release the little guy somewhere far away from home.\n\nIt's a cheap, easy method, you never have to touch the mouse, you don't have to hurt/kill the mouse, and best of all, it WORKS.",
"Laboratory animal specialist here, I work with mice everyday. A cat (an HUNGRY street cat, not a fat lazy house cat) will help. Be sure that they cannot find food (or waste). No available resources and a predator will keep them far. If you kill one (with a trap) leave it somewhere: findind a dead mouse is a good sign of danger for other mice. Cut grass often to avoid nests. Prefer baits with delayed effect instead of spring traps. best of all, contact a specialist.",
"Put a Reeces peanut butter cup in a box-trap. Chocolate/PB is mouse-crack.\n\nTake the live mouse (they stink pretty bad when they are dead), and dump them far far away.",
"Please describe your neighbourhood. Urban/rural/suburban? How close are you to restaurants or other businesses? "
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"How to make your earbuds last longer I seem to always have problems with my earbuds. Usually in the span of a few weeks they're already only functional in one side and within a month or two they're already as good as dead. How to prevent this from happening, or at least delay it? Why does this happen?",
"How to make your earbuds last longer I seem to always have problems with my earbuds. Usually in the span of a few weeks they're already only functional in one side and within a month or two they're already as good as dead. How to prevent this from happening, or at least delay it? Why does this happen?",
"How to make your earbuds last longer I seem to always have problems with my earbuds. Usually in the span of a few weeks they're already only functional in one side and within a month or two they're already as good as dead. How to prevent this from happening, or at least delay it? Why does this happen?",
"How to make your earbuds last longer I seem to always have problems with my earbuds. Usually in the span of a few weeks they're already only functional in one side and within a month or two they're already as good as dead. How to prevent this from happening, or at least delay it? Why does this happen?",
"How to make your earbuds last longer I seem to always have problems with my earbuds. Usually in the span of a few weeks they're already only functional in one side and within a month or two they're already as good as dead. How to prevent this from happening, or at least delay it? Why does this happen?",
"How to make your earbuds last longer I seem to always have problems with my earbuds. Usually in the span of a few weeks they're already only functional in one side and within a month or two they're already as good as dead. How to prevent this from happening, or at least delay it? Why does this happen?",
"How to make your earbuds last longer I seem to always have problems with my earbuds. Usually in the span of a few weeks they're already only functional in one side and within a month or two they're already as good as dead. How to prevent this from happening, or at least delay it? Why does this happen?",
"How to make your earbuds last longer I seem to always have problems with my earbuds. Usually in the span of a few weeks they're already only functional in one side and within a month or two they're already as good as dead. How to prevent this from happening, or at least delay it? Why does this happen?"
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"The piece where you plug the cord (the jack; the silver part) into whatever you're using, make sure it is never bent, keep it straight",
"Spend an extra $10-20 on a better quality pair.\n\nI used to be spending $20 every ~3 months on some $20 pairs. Went to Target and got [these](http://www.yurbuds.com/en/behind-the-ear/48focus-100.html#/color-red) for $40. Still works tremendously after a year",
"So I've been buying these earphones the last few years:\n\n[No mic](https://smile.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B003EM2WAW)\n\n \n\nThe pair I'm using now I ordered back in March of last year, and they still work! I haven't been running with them much though, which is when they like to snag on my hands and pants. The length of the wire is like 2 inches too short, but that might be because I'm 6' 2\". I don't have any trouble with sound, and my last pair broke because I kept pulling on them while jogging, or hooking onto doorways. That's an issue with any earbuds really. Oh, and don't keep them in your pocket! They'll get crushed like my $60 Sony earbuds. But since these are less than $10 a pop, you don't really have to worry too much.\n\n \n\nThere's apparently a new version of them as well:\n\n[With Mic](https://smile.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00E4LGVUO/)\n\n \n\nI haven't tried the ones with a microphone, so those might be different in terms of reliability.\n***\n \n\nThe reason I suggested those is that they seem to be quite sturdy despite what I put them through. I don't know if you buy a bad brand, but that might be the issue if you're not completely careless and either swing your earbuds around like a yo-yo or sit on them.",
"Don't pull your earbuds out (from phone and ears) by the chord; always remove your earbuds by the plug or the buds themselves. By pulling on the chord you put undue stress on the soldering at the connection points inside the hard pieces, which then causes them to fail and you get dead earbuds. ",
"Part of it could be due to buying low quality earbuds to begin with.\n\nAside from that, I usually store mine in a small container (empty altoids container) to keep them from getting tangled and protect them from getting damaged by whatever other junk I keep in my purse. Before I put them in, I wrap them around my 4 fingers held together, again so they don't get tangled so much, but also so there's no hard creases in the wires (which is something that causes them to break quickly - ever bent a paper clip back and forth til it broke? Kinda like that)",
"If your earbuds come with a carrying case, put them into that when not in use instead of stuffing them into your pocket.",
"I only had a problem with cheap earbuds / a cheap device. I don't spend more than about £35 as they do eventually die, even then they often come with a year's warranty.",
"sugru at the connection points, wrap them with a floss cover (embroidery, learn how to do cord whipping/knot tying) buy some with replaceable cables."
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"how to willingly forget events/facts/things That's all, everything I could find posted about this topic seems more about how to remember rather than forget.",
"how to willingly forget events/facts/things That's all, everything I could find posted about this topic seems more about how to remember rather than forget.",
"how to willingly forget events/facts/things That's all, everything I could find posted about this topic seems more about how to remember rather than forget."
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"1. Internalize all poopy feelings with heavy drinking, until they are safely packaged way down into your decaying soul\n\n2. Lock that shit up nice and tight, push back against the existential anxiety and all those times you did that super embarrassing shit that everyone saw \n\n3. Remain stoic and resigned to your fate of suffering with a ever-blackening pit of despair and sadness\n\n4. Die",
"There's nothing wrong with distracting yourself to stop from thinking about something, as long as you're not doing it to unhealthy levels where you're not taking care of yourself anymore.\n\nI give myself a time limit on things I don't want to think about. I say, okay, you have five minutes to dwell in this bad memory, and then you can't think about it anymore. When the five minutes are up, I'll often visualize cleaning the thought out of my mind with water, or packing the memory away tightly in a box. I won't lie and say this is 100% effective, but I find giving myself the permission to experience the bad memory sometimes makes it easier to move past it and think about something else. Another thing that helps me is to write everything I'm thinking and feeling out. If I catch myself dwelling, I can tell myself 'it's okay. it's all in the journal. i don't have to think about this'. Again, not a 100% success rate but it does help.\n\nGood luck to you.",
"Distraction always helps forget things whether you wish to or not. Actively trying to forget something is impossible.\nUnless you hit yourself in the head really hard.\n\nDon't think about elephants. <- For example."
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"How to get American Airlines to make things right after they lied to me. Any tips on who to contact next? BBB? I am very angry and feel my loyalty to AA has been betrayed.\n\nI already called AA customer service and emailed customer relations, but neither group tried to make things right or seemed to care. \n\nEarlier in the year, I was looking to book a honeymoon trip. I am an AA member and saw no flights on the AA website from where I currently live to Bali. I did see Cathay Airlines (Alliance member w/AA). I called AA customer service specifically to confirm that my AA account would get miles for the Cathay flight. Customer service said \"yes\" and I booked the flight. The Cathay flight cost more, but I am trying to collect AA miles for status.\n\nFlash forward to today. Honeymoon was good, but no points added to my AA account. I found out after calling customer service that my ticket was not eligible for miles. Apparently the first agent lied because there are some restrictions on what partner airline flights are eligible. I then emailed customer relations to see if they would make it right, but they basically gave a \"I don't know how to help you\" type answer.",
"How to get American Airlines to make things right after they lied to me. Any tips on who to contact next? BBB? I am very angry and feel my loyalty to AA has been betrayed.\n\nI already called AA customer service and emailed customer relations, but neither group tried to make things right or seemed to care. \n\nEarlier in the year, I was looking to book a honeymoon trip. I am an AA member and saw no flights on the AA website from where I currently live to Bali. I did see Cathay Airlines (Alliance member w/AA). I called AA customer service specifically to confirm that my AA account would get miles for the Cathay flight. Customer service said \"yes\" and I booked the flight. The Cathay flight cost more, but I am trying to collect AA miles for status.\n\nFlash forward to today. Honeymoon was good, but no points added to my AA account. I found out after calling customer service that my ticket was not eligible for miles. Apparently the first agent lied because there are some restrictions on what partner airline flights are eligible. I then emailed customer relations to see if they would make it right, but they basically gave a \"I don't know how to help you\" type answer.",
"How to get American Airlines to make things right after they lied to me. Any tips on who to contact next? BBB? I am very angry and feel my loyalty to AA has been betrayed.\n\nI already called AA customer service and emailed customer relations, but neither group tried to make things right or seemed to care. \n\nEarlier in the year, I was looking to book a honeymoon trip. I am an AA member and saw no flights on the AA website from where I currently live to Bali. I did see Cathay Airlines (Alliance member w/AA). I called AA customer service specifically to confirm that my AA account would get miles for the Cathay flight. Customer service said \"yes\" and I booked the flight. The Cathay flight cost more, but I am trying to collect AA miles for status.\n\nFlash forward to today. Honeymoon was good, but no points added to my AA account. I found out after calling customer service that my ticket was not eligible for miles. Apparently the first agent lied because there are some restrictions on what partner airline flights are eligible. I then emailed customer relations to see if they would make it right, but they basically gave a \"I don't know how to help you\" type answer."
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"There's people who note that if you take your grievances to the AA Twitter or Facebook site that they are more likely to be responsive. Make your complaint public and you'll see resolution more likely to happen.",
"Their terms and conditions tell you that it MAY qualify for the AA points depending on the fare booked. You should have read the fine print while booking. ",
"We are talking about AA points, how much money would the represent?\n\nIf it is not too much I would forget it. They made a mistake, so what? Those points are only to lure you into more buying anyway."
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"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium.",
"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium.",
"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium.",
"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium.",
"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium.",
"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium.",
"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium.",
"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium.",
"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium.",
"How to ride a bike with no hands. Surely there is more to it than just taking your hands of the handlebars. Whenever I try I feel like i'm riding in a Tour de Francium."
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"It's all about balance and keeping your speed up. The gyroscopic motion of the wheels will work in your favor, but only if you don't slow down.",
"I really thought this was going to be someone that lost both hands in a freak accident and wanted to be able to keep biking. ",
"Okay, I have told all the people I've taught to do this the exact same thing\n\nIt is so much easier when you close your eyes. Just try it and take your hands off and you will see.\n\n:D",
"You have to sit up straight and keep pedaling. Start by sitting up and only using one hand, the see how long you can go without holding the bars. I ride fixed gear and often find myself texting with both hands as I ride now. I didnt learn how to do it until I was about 23. Just keep practicing on keeping your weight centered and leaning back tonthe point your arms can't reach the bar. Its damn near impossible to ride without your hands if you lean hella far over. The bike will do whatever it can to stay upright if you keep your weight balanced and you stay pedaling because of gyroscopes and shit. Ask Bill Nye about that tho.",
"You need to keep balance without your hands, thats pretty much it. change the direction by positioning your centered body mass slightly to the left or right",
"What kind if bike did you try?\nI've done it easily on some kinds of bikes, vs others that I couldn't.",
"Two ways I've gotten people to do it.\n\nBefore trying anything make sure you have a straightaway\n\n**Method 1)** While going straight center yourself over your handlebars. Then sit up straight with maybe one hand on the bars. Try to use your leaning to keep yourself straight. Remember beginning it's better to undercorrect than to fall off your bike the other way.\n\n**Method 2)** This is easiest going up a slight incline. While going straight center yourself over your handlebars. and retract your hands to your chest. And use leaning to keep centered. This method is harder because the leaning corrections won't be as smooth but often keeps your nerves steady since you're right there.\n\n\n**ALWAYS WEAR A HELMET**",
"Its important to maintain a steady pace/keep up momentum. If you go too slow you will lose control and fall. \n\nPractice riding with one hand, make sure you are sitting up straight and not leaning forward. When you are comfortable with one hand practice releasing the hand so you are not holding on anymore, and see how long you can do that before you begin to lose control. \n\nJust grab the handlebars when you begin to wobble and repeat.By practicing you should be able to go no-handed longer and longer. \n\nI've been riding with no hands since I was 9 and all it takes is practice. Now I can even turn corners just by leaning one direction. Its not too hard just takes practice!",
"For me, it depends on the bike. If it is a mountain bike, I can't do it because a lot of the turning is done with the handlebars. When I'm on my road bike, where the turning is done with my balance and leaning, I can easily ride without holding the bars.\n\nNever stop pedaling.\nSit straight up.\nBalance.",
"It's like [this,](http://i2.cdn.turner.com/dr/hln/www/release/sites/default/files/static/images/Alice/bike.gif) but completely opposite."
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"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? ",
"How to stand out at a group interview There's always threads on Reddit about what to do in interviews, but what about group ones? "
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"0) Haven't gotten the interview yet? Call and ask for an interview (not so bluntly). Try \"HI my name is countmontecristo, I'm calling about an application I submitted a few days ago and I was wondering if there were any openings where I could speak to someone regarding a position in the X department?\" \nThey probably get quite a few applications sent in and calling to follow up could help push your resume to the top of the list. \n\n1)5 min early at least. \n***stand in a dominant (ie. superman, high roller ) pose for two minutes. Even if you're in a bathroom stall [Ted Talks: Body Language]***\n\n2) scope out what your interviewer is drinking. Get something from the same place (if in cafeteria, restaurant). Yeah, this is kinda a silly one but people like being able to relate to others. \n\n3)Sit back in your chair or lean forward in chair depending on conversation. \n\n4) Maintain eye contact when spoken to\n\n5)Speak clearly. A lot of people rush when they speak if they are nervous. Try and focus on speaking confidently, competently and professionally. I've read that some people practice speaking while holding a pencil in their teeth, try this out if you feel your annunciation isn't on part. \n\n6)Refer to something previously said (\"..as you said...\"). This shows you are listening, which you should be. \n\n7) Have an idea of why they should pick you over the other people. Most people they are interviewing will say \"I'm a hard worker\", \"I care about customers\" or \"I am a team player\". While those may be true try at least having experience to back that up. Your a team player? Then mention the sports team/club you're involved in. Your a great leader? Reference your past experience in leading group projects. \n\n8)Know they should pick you over the other people. \n\n9)Shake hand after the interview. I mean c'mon, it's unprofessional NOT to do this. And don't have some whimsy, dead fish hand shake. If your palm is pointing straight down or the interviewer can only shake your fingers then your either the Queen or you need to practice. \n\n9 3/4) Try not to have your hand shaking hand in a fist or in a position to where it'll be sweaty when the interview is over. No one wants a sweaty hand shake. \n\n10)Smile and be confident (you could even fake it till you become it, then keep faking it). Confidence isn't a goal, it's a constant way of life. You have to know your strengths and be proud of them, but you need to be self aware enough to know your weaknesses and be prepared to over come them. \n\n11) When they ask if you have any questions, actually ask a few questions. They're not only picking you for a job, you're also picking them as an employer. \n\n12) Sometimes having an example of something is better than just talking. Like \"what does customer service mean to you?\". Having an example of this shows real world experience as opposed to you trying to think of something on the spot. \n\n13) it's a little late for this but try and submit resumes in PDF format. Most computers can read them and it looks more professional. \n\n14) Do research on the company before hand. Not only how much they pay, if it's posted, but what does the company specialize in as well. Are they eco-friendly? Talk about how your latest project was able to reduce overall carbon footprint. Are they a large scale manufacturer? Include experience with logistics and product storage. \n\n15) FOLLOW UP PHONE CALL/E-MAIL thanking them for their time. Just like the first follow up call, this helps keep you in the front of their minds and shows you are genuinely interested in the position.",
"In my experience (Had 3 group interviews for 3 different jobs and got an offer for them all) there is usually a time near the beginning of the interview where they will ask each member to introduce themselves and say something interesting about themselves. If they ask for any volunteers to start, you be the first one to do it! It shows you are confident and assertive and you will be remembered as the first person to speak. If you can get through it without stuttering, keep eye contact with others, including the other candidates, then you'll be golden. \n Even a little joke would go down nicely. For one interview I turned up in business dress while everyone else was dressed more casually (this was for a retail position) and when the time came for me to introduce myself (i was first off the bat) and I said something along the lines of \"Hi, my names ... I live in.. I study at... And I seem to be terribly overdressed for this interview.. make fun of yourself and you're automatically more likeable\n\nOther tips would include encouraging conversation and a bit of banter between other candidates in group exercises, and just generally be seen to be talkative and outgoing. Hope that helps, good luck!",
"Honestly, I've gotten the job at every single group interview I've ever been in. Including internships, etc. in college, even if I haven't been the most qualified person in the interview. Only secret. Be social, nice and funny. People are a lot more inclined to hire you if you're personable and can make them laugh. It also looks really good if you're not a total asshole to your competition. It shows that you're not vindictive and easy to get along with. In one interview there were 9 other girls and myself. The interviewers asked us who we would pick to have the job other that yourself and every single person picked me. Mostly because I was friendly to them while we were waiting in the room and I cracked a few jokes when they asked us questions.",
"Also, remember the interviewers name and use it. \"It was nice meeting you, Carol, I look forward to talking to you again.\" People love hearing their own name.",
"Smile. Make eye contact. Laugh and chat if someone makes a comment to break the tension. Group interviews are really just an excuse for the employer to make sure you aren't hideous and drooling all over yourself.",
"Prepare for your interview by anticipating the obvious questions that will be asked of you. Most interviewers don't have experience conducting an interview and they will act according to a script. Also, if you are overly focused on your body language during the interview, you risk appearing awkward and being distracted from the substance of the interview. LPT interview tips that are predictable: Eye contact, shake hands, sit upright, remember / use the person's name that you are speaking to, etc. Standard person-to-person etiquette. To align your body language with what is happening inside your head, rehearse, which will reinforce your self-confidence. Essentially, act before the interview to reduce variability during the interview.",
"One thing I like to do is a bit creepy but works like a charm. Basically find out the name of the interviewer and Facebook search them. If their page is open to view, find ANY common ground you share try and work it into conversation with them.",
"If I were starting a topic here, I'd probably say drop your pants during the interview to stand out in the crowd.\n\nBut since this is a reply, I suggest looking enthusiastic, make eye contact, and try to make small talk with the interviewer if/when there's an opportunity. You want to look like you're someone they want to work with/have working for their company; Ive never been on a group interview where the focus was on actual skill (those always were followups)",
"I've interviewed for several software engineer positions and I've been offered the position more often than not. While these weren't group interviews, I would like to share some things I feel that set me apart. \n\nAt one of my first interviews ever, I was asked \"what would you do if you didn't know how to do something I asked you to do?\" I replied, \"Tell you I don't know, but I will figure it out\". Potential employers really like initiative and drive. They also like honesty, because when there is a deadline or some objective to meet, they want to know that you've been up front with them about any problem you may have encountered so they can adjust expectations accordingly.\n\nAlso, at least in my profession, the interviewer typically wants to find out \"Is this a guy I would want to go have a beer with\". If you get the job, you'll be spending a lot of time with these people.",
"I've had 1 group interview and I was not prepared for it because I was expecting a 1 on 1. I normally do very well in 1 on 1 interviews. The problem was I was the least experienced for the job compared to the 6 other people in the room and had little to add to the conversation as far as on the job experience. I basically got lost in the crowd. I was picked for an interview because I tested very well in the preliminary steps. ",
"I'm assuming by group interviews you mean situations where you're judged on how well you perform in a team, like a case study you all have to discuss about. I've been to a few and based on feedback I've got, I think the best way to stand out is to be proactive i.e start discussions, facilitate and encourage other members of the group to speak out then maybe try to wrap things up by summarising all the points made throughout the session. May seem like a lot to do but I found it easier when you have set lines memorised in your head like \"XX, you seem a little quiet, what do you think about the case study?\" \"Okay, so lets gather what we've got so far..\" etc. Obviously you wont be the only one trying to do this, so try and be the first one while everyone is still gathering their thoughts in the initial awkward silent stage. It'll definitely get you noticed by the interviewers. ",
"A trick about looking someone in the eyes. Some times people have a problem when they look at someone else where they will look \"back and forth\" at the other persons eyes, this will make it look like your eyes are shifting back and forth.\n\nBest thing to do is just look at ONE of the other persons eyes. The other person won't notice and your eyes won't go back and forth."
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"How do i organize my thoughts when telling a story or making a statement? Whenever i tell a story i just feel like it's all over the place. Is there some sort of tips to follow to avoid the jumbling of thoughts?",
"How do i organize my thoughts when telling a story or making a statement? Whenever i tell a story i just feel like it's all over the place. Is there some sort of tips to follow to avoid the jumbling of thoughts?"
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"Just try to ask yourself some questions before you even start speaking, usually trying to picture yourself as the listener:\n- what is the point of the story/statement?\n- why do I want to tell it?\n- which prerequisites does the listener need to know?\n- how long do I want to tell it and which level of detail is needed to understand it?\n\nThen you go with the w-questions:\n- what happened to\n- whom\n- where and\n- when\n- why and \n- hoW does that all come together\n\nSpeak more slowly and try to start with low details, you‘ll get a feel for when you need to add more. \n\nHope that helps!",
"The most powerful help you can get is to join a toastmasters club. They give you practice speaking both in planned speeches and off the cuff. Just focus your speeches on storytelling and get feedback from them to help you improve"
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"How could I start enjoying scary movies or just the feeling of being scared? By this I mean:\n\nFor example, I would love to enjoy scary horror movies more, but sometimes im just too frightened to start watching some movie, and also how could I gather more braveness while watching/experiencing scary stuff, to not look like a complete coward.",
"How could I start enjoying scary movies or just the feeling of being scared? By this I mean:\n\nFor example, I would love to enjoy scary horror movies more, but sometimes im just too frightened to start watching some movie, and also how could I gather more braveness while watching/experiencing scary stuff, to not look like a complete coward.",
"How could I start enjoying scary movies or just the feeling of being scared? By this I mean:\n\nFor example, I would love to enjoy scary horror movies more, but sometimes im just too frightened to start watching some movie, and also how could I gather more braveness while watching/experiencing scary stuff, to not look like a complete coward.",
"How could I start enjoying scary movies or just the feeling of being scared? By this I mean:\n\nFor example, I would love to enjoy scary horror movies more, but sometimes im just too frightened to start watching some movie, and also how could I gather more braveness while watching/experiencing scary stuff, to not look like a complete coward.",
"How could I start enjoying scary movies or just the feeling of being scared? By this I mean:\n\nFor example, I would love to enjoy scary horror movies more, but sometimes im just too frightened to start watching some movie, and also how could I gather more braveness while watching/experiencing scary stuff, to not look like a complete coward.",
"How could I start enjoying scary movies or just the feeling of being scared? By this I mean:\n\nFor example, I would love to enjoy scary horror movies more, but sometimes im just too frightened to start watching some movie, and also how could I gather more braveness while watching/experiencing scary stuff, to not look like a complete coward."
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"Ok, first of all, these other commenters aren't real horror/thriller fans: Scary movies aren't about calming yourself down by telling yourself that its all fake. \nThats like watching a comedy and constantly telling yourself to not laugh at any jokes.\n\n I think its about believing that the movie is real and allowing the movie to control your emotions. You need to get scared, jump when there is a jump scare, scream, hide behind the covers when you think something bads going to happen. \n\nYou get a huge adrenaline rush from being scared. Its fun! Enjoy the movie by being scared! When else do you really get to experience fear in a completely safe environment?",
"Why would you want to enjoy being scared and stressing and all that anxiety? I know better than to watch horror movies because I'll dream about them. Plus, my work in real life is sometimes worse than the shit in the movies. I like dramas and comedies the best and would rather be known from my love of silliness. Whoever is calling you a coward doesn't know what's best for you. Only you know that.",
"I have the exact opposite problem as you, OP. Whenever I watch any movie at all, my head is filled with all sorts of things like \"I wonder how they got that shot,\" \"I wonder how many takes it took to get that line right,\" \"How did they get permission to do that,\" \"was that CGI or a practical effect?\" This extends ESPECIALLY to horror movies, and no matter how I try, I just can't manage to suspend my disbelief and feel like I'm NOT watching a movie. \n\nThe most recent example isn't a horror movie, but it'll illustrate what I mean. I was watching the episode of Always Sunny where they buy a boat, and the whole time I was fixated on wondering if they got permission to throw all that garbage into the water. Does nobody care? Was there a net just below the surface that caught everything off camera? \n\nThis might help you. Next time you watch something, watch it with a critical mindset. Let your mind run wild with questions about the technical aspects of how the movie/show/whatever was made.",
"get someone to watch the movie together. don't stare at the screen. many horror movies use jump scare and sound fx to achieve the effect. if you just ignore these, you will be fine.",
"Just know that its all fake. Just imagine the director saying \"cut!\" and the monster getting out of costume, going home to his wife and kids. ",
"> I would love to enjoy scary horror movies more\n\nWould you really? Because it sounds like you don't enjoy them. Why not just watch a genre you ACTUALLY like?"
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"How do I stop fucking up? I'm serious. These past few days I've fucked up a lot in various things. Maybe one day I get yelled at by my parents because I didn't mop the floor properly or I screw up in school because I sprayed someone's painting with cleaner by accident. I've just fucked up so much this week. What can I do to reduce my amount of fuck-ups? I try really hard consciously to not mess up but I still do.",
"How do I stop fucking up? I'm serious. These past few days I've fucked up a lot in various things. Maybe one day I get yelled at by my parents because I didn't mop the floor properly or I screw up in school because I sprayed someone's painting with cleaner by accident. I've just fucked up so much this week. What can I do to reduce my amount of fuck-ups? I try really hard consciously to not mess up but I still do."
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"Thats little shit bud, don't let it get you down. Are you addicted to drugs? Stealing? Illegally street racing? Sounds like its not really that bad, long term. \n\nDon't let people yelling at your for stupid shit like mopping the fuckin floor wrong get you down. Learn from your mistakes, take pride in what you do, and just worry about yourself. We all make mistakes, just dont make the same ones over and over and always learn something when you make a mistake\n\n(Hope this helps,stay positive and it will get better)",
"Try taking even the simple things a little more slowly. Think things through, sometimes twice, and keep calm and collected when things inevitably do get fucked up sometimes."
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"How to easily and effectively remove the cut hairs after a haircut? Every single time after a haircut, I am in the shower for absolutely ages trying to remove the hairs. Even when I think I'm done, there is still more. Is there an easier way to do this?",
"How to easily and effectively remove the cut hairs after a haircut? Every single time after a haircut, I am in the shower for absolutely ages trying to remove the hairs. Even when I think I'm done, there is still more. Is there an easier way to do this?",
"How to easily and effectively remove the cut hairs after a haircut? Every single time after a haircut, I am in the shower for absolutely ages trying to remove the hairs. Even when I think I'm done, there is still more. Is there an easier way to do this?",
"How to easily and effectively remove the cut hairs after a haircut? Every single time after a haircut, I am in the shower for absolutely ages trying to remove the hairs. Even when I think I'm done, there is still more. Is there an easier way to do this?"
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"Removing the hairs from where? \n\nI just take a shower. Never in my life have I experienced this problem.",
"I have the haircut place wash my hair after, so someone else's hands are getting my hair out. Other wise, nothing I can think of that would be different that what you're doing",
"I despise this, I hate those little hairs. So I feel your pain, unfortunatly i don't think there is any sort of trick.",
"I always get weird looks, but I bring a lint roller and go over my head while in the chair. Then I go to the bathroom, get topless and roll everywhere I can see hair. Next I do my shirt inside & out. I try to get rid of as much as I can before getting in the car.\n\nBy the time I shower and change clothes, 99.9% is gone."
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"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n",
"Working the 3rd shift Im about to start working a 3rd shift machinist job, I've never worked this shift before.\nI have been a bit of a night owl my whole life, but mostly on videogames and movies, not around heavy machinery.\nAny pointers on adjusting from somebody who has been there would be greatly appreciated.\n"
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"Blackout curtains are a must. Odds are you get off when the sun is coming up or is already up. You need to simulate night. \n\nGive yourself a couple of hours wind down max. For most people you get a burst of energy when you finish your shift. Like a second wind. Eat a snack or something then watch a TV in the dark. (Although they say that's bad for your eyes)",
"Remember to silence your phone during the day. Your friends may know you're working 3rd shift, but the rest of the world doesn't. Let it go to voicemail.\n\nSimilarly, if you're expecting a package or often get people knocking during the day, put a note on your door saying something to the effect of \"I work 3rd shift. Don't knock unless it's an emergency.\"",
"After work go straight to bed, or sit in a dark room. Do not watch the sun rise, this well make it very hard to go to sleep. Be very disciplined about your schedule and maintain a consistent sleep time. Eat your lunch under one of those daylight simulator lamps marketed to people with SAD.",
"Set a routine!\n\nFind which works best for you: Sleeping when you get home, then being up longer, or being up longer *before* you go to sleep.\n\nI always tend to think of it this way: People who work 'normal' 9-5's...they don't just go home and go straight to sleep, right? No! They eat, they...I dunno. Do whatever they do, and *typically* go to be around..like, what? 9-11 pm? So that's 4-6 hours up? Why not just do the same?\n\nThat way if you have shopping/errands to run, stores are just opening up, so it's possible to get things accomplished, then you're so exhausted that sleep will come pretty easily.\n\nJust find the groove that works for you, and keep to it.\n\nJust don't think you can spend all day up doing stuff and just chug coffee/caffine pills and make it. *You will fail*. Your body *needs* to sleep.\n\nDon't hurt yourself that way. Don't fall asleep on the job. Just don't be that person.",
"definitely need to discipline the daytime noise. My primary offender while trying to sleep is listening to early morning yard work when I'm trying to fall asleep at 8:30AM.",
"Your brain need at least 20 min full spectrum light per day to produce serotonin. If you can't get access to natural sunlight, one of those photo therapy lamps and / or a free min in a tanning bed ( while wearing reasonable sunblock) might help reduce your risk of SAD. \n\nYour skin also needs natural sunlight for vitamin D production. Without this you could develop severe bone pain (trust me it sucks). Get a good vitamin d supplement, it solved the problem for me. You might want to ask your doctor or pharmacist for more detailed advice on brand, dosage, timing, etc. \n\nYour brain needs complete darkness to tell it to shut off the serotonin and start producing melatonin. You need this not only for sleep, but also for keeping up your sensitivity to serotonin. Get both black out curtains and a blind fold. Neither is enough by itself. \n\nIf daytime noise is a problem in your home, consider ear plugs. Another option is some sort of white noise or nature sound generator. If neither is adequate alone, try both. I use a rain and thunder album downloaded on the amazon music app on my phone and set on loop all night. \n\nGood luck and congrats on the new job! \n\nNight shift rocks!!!",
"Try to avoid switching schedules constantly once you are adjusted. Stay on nights even during your time off. Switching back and forth from nocturnal to diurnal on the weekends is a recipe for falling asleep at dinnertime directly into a plate of pasta at the Cheesecake Factory in front of family and friends. True story. Just say no. Also, believe it or not, coffee is counterproductive to sleeping during the day. Best to cut caffeine out of your life....it really is easier to work nights once you are weened off it.",
"On your days off stay on the same schedule. Or close to it...the worst are holidays. I used to work third and every holiday was\n\"When is the party?\"\n\"1 o'clock\"\n:/\nThe day before I stay up after getting off work(off at 7AM) as late as possible to be tired to sleep at night. Wake up in the morning, do the family thing, then stayed up till the morning to fall asleep during the day. ",
"If you have trouble staying awake then snack. You won't fall asleep while eating. The more obvious answer is to go for a walk. If you're working with machinery then you may not have these two luxuries so I'd recommend talking.\n\nDon't drink any water about 4 or so hours before you plan on going to sleep. You're still going to wake up 3 or 4 hours into your sleep with a full bladder but at least it won't be 2 hours into your sleep if you do it this way. If you wake up 4 hours into your sleep and feel awake, don't fight it. Try to relax and don't think about sleep so much. Give it 15 or so minutes and if you don't fall back asleep, get up and go about your day. You'll probably begin to crash a little while later and then you can nap. In the end you'll feel about the same either way.\n\nNo caffeine or sugar a few hours before you plan on sleeping.\n\nInvest in thick curtains and keep your AC on while you sleep. I recommend blowing a fan on you. This will keep you cool and produce some white noise to sleep to.\n\nA bit out there but if you want to stay asleep for longer then masturbate beforehand. It works. Go piss afterwards and that'll help with the bladder thing I mentioned before.\n\nIt will take you most of the week to adjust but by Friday your body will have mostly adapted to your new sleep schedule. Usually I'm able to sleep an uninterrupted 8 hours by the time Friday rolls around but the days before that are sometimes a bit rough.\n\nIt's incredibly easy to fall into the odd trap of isolating yourself because of your hours. Try to get out of the house and go for a walk during the daytime hours while you're home. This helps a lot to feel connected to the rest of the world. I've gone for long stretches without doing this and it really messed with my mind. People you know will run into you and you'll have this glazed look across your face. You'll recognize them but you're in your own world. Taxi Driver is a hell of a movie to watch after you've been through this.\n\nI usually watch Netflix on my tablet to go to sleep but when I work nights it's sometimes pretty hard to fall asleep this way. In this case I'll put a podcast on and I'm usually out within 10 minutes. Audio will most likely work a lot better if you're like me and need to distract your brain to fall asleep. Stay away from video.\n\nSource: I've worked rotating shifts for the past 3 years",
"I went from working 2nd shift to 3rd in November. I was sleeping in the afternoons and doing class/housework during the mornings, this way it was easier for me to adapt to the change. I slept a normal schedule on weekends to get myself some social time and to get out and about to improve my mood. Silence/turn off your phone, even the people you tell you're working 3rd shift will text or call you. The first few nights are always the roughest, would recommend a strong pot of coffee to start the night.",
"I highly recommend getting a sunrise simulating alarm clock like [this one.](http://www.amazon.ca/Philips-HF3500-60-Wake-Up-Light/dp/B00F0W1RIW/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1425038835&sr=8-3&keywords=sunrise+alarm) It starts lighting up before the alarm, giving you the chance to wake up naturally between cycles instead of being jolted up in the middle of a dream by the annoy-BEEEEP BEEEEEEP BEEEEEP BEEEEP- in perfect darkness.\n\nAs for light, blackout curtains won't always block everything. I use a combination of tin foil taped over the window and the curtains over that. The curtains should also be held against the wall along the edges (even the top and bottom!), or a ton of light will leak out the sides. It doesn't seem like much until your eyes adjust to the dark and suddenly a tiny sliver of sunlight is making the whole place glow.\n\nGood luck!\n(A 3rd shift Wal-Mart employee)\n\nPS: I've heard a full spectrum light bulb is a reasonable substitute for those crazy expensive SAD lamps.\n\n",
"-black out the room\n-fan / air purifier \n-do not have caffeine 6/X hrs before bed time \n-try not to have too much liquid at your last meal.\n-melatonin can help with adjusting schedule "
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"How to have better time management. I'm just so bad & there are so many things I need to do & I never get to all of them.",
"How to have better time management. I'm just so bad & there are so many things I need to do & I never get to all of them."
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"look up \"agile kanban\". I write simple task down & estimate the size of the task, not by time, i use 1,2,4,8,16,32...2^n, to rank the size of the task. Then I add the task to the backlog in a prioritization linear line. & then start chipping at the backlog.",
"Hand-write lists and prioritise them! By handwriting it, you are engaging more with your words and putting more effort in than typing, so from experience, you are more likely to feel compelled to do it. There's no science there that I'm aware of, I just find it works for me! Physically ticking something off a list gives me a huge sense of self satisfaction too, so there's that!\n\nAlso, set reminders in your phone and give yourself deadlines. You can even reward yourself if you feel compelled to. Try not to procrastinate too much and set timers."
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"How to Restring a Hoodie? The drawstring fell out of my favorite hoodie, and I'm dreading the hour or so it'll take to thread it back through the hood. Is there some way to more efficiently restring it without struggling?\n\nBonus LPT: Always tie the drawstring to itself before washing; unfortunately, I forgot to do just that :(",
"How to Restring a Hoodie? The drawstring fell out of my favorite hoodie, and I'm dreading the hour or so it'll take to thread it back through the hood. Is there some way to more efficiently restring it without struggling?\n\nBonus LPT: Always tie the drawstring to itself before washing; unfortunately, I forgot to do just that :(",
"How to Restring a Hoodie? The drawstring fell out of my favorite hoodie, and I'm dreading the hour or so it'll take to thread it back through the hood. Is there some way to more efficiently restring it without struggling?\n\nBonus LPT: Always tie the drawstring to itself before washing; unfortunately, I forgot to do just that :("
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"although I always remove the strings immediately myself (I work with revolving powertools a lot....), you can tie the string to a safetypin, if that fits trough the holes.\nThat way you can push/pull the string through in a couple of minutes.\nYou bunch up the hood around the pin., grab the front of the pin, stretch the fabrik again. grab the back, bunch it up again towards the back of the pin and so on and so on.",
"LPT: use a piece of wire, like a bent hanger, to re-thread your hoodies and pajama pants. Use the stiff wire to thread through the clothing, then use the wire to pull the string back through. The stiffness of the wire will help you be able to guide it through much easier than the string itself. ",
"In a pinch, clip a bobby pin to the end of one and string through. A bit tougher than the wire or coat hanger method but cheaper and most people have bobby pins in the house. Even a sturdy pen with a clip could work "
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"Today was my birthday and enjoyed a free sub from Firehouse subs. What are some other places that have special offers for your birthday? ",
"Today was my birthday and enjoyed a free sub from Firehouse subs. What are some other places that have special offers for your birthday? "
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"if you're in Ann Arbor, Michigan, this site lists all the birthday deals.\nhttp://arborwiki.org/Birthday_Deals",
"If makeup or beauty products are your thing at all, you can get a free gift from Sephora within 2 weeks of your birthday. You just have to sign up for a beauty insider card which is free.\n\nAlso, most restaurants will give you a free cake if you provide proof for your birthday (i.e. ID card)"
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"How to Question Bullies into Confusion I saw a post (that I SWEAR was here) earlier this week about blankly asking bullies what they mean when they say something offensive, rendering them confused and having to admit that they're just an asshole. But of course, now I can't find it. I would really like to share it with my middle school aged niece, if anyone has a link it'd be greatly appreciated!\n\nUpdate: post in question has been linked! (albeit removed) Thanks for the help. Cheers y'all.",
"How to Question Bullies into Confusion I saw a post (that I SWEAR was here) earlier this week about blankly asking bullies what they mean when they say something offensive, rendering them confused and having to admit that they're just an asshole. But of course, now I can't find it. I would really like to share it with my middle school aged niece, if anyone has a link it'd be greatly appreciated!\n\nUpdate: post in question has been linked! (albeit removed) Thanks for the help. Cheers y'all.",
"How to Question Bullies into Confusion I saw a post (that I SWEAR was here) earlier this week about blankly asking bullies what they mean when they say something offensive, rendering them confused and having to admit that they're just an asshole. But of course, now I can't find it. I would really like to share it with my middle school aged niece, if anyone has a link it'd be greatly appreciated!\n\nUpdate: post in question has been linked! (albeit removed) Thanks for the help. Cheers y'all.",
"How to Question Bullies into Confusion I saw a post (that I SWEAR was here) earlier this week about blankly asking bullies what they mean when they say something offensive, rendering them confused and having to admit that they're just an asshole. But of course, now I can't find it. I would really like to share it with my middle school aged niece, if anyone has a link it'd be greatly appreciated!\n\nUpdate: post in question has been linked! (albeit removed) Thanks for the help. Cheers y'all.",
"How to Question Bullies into Confusion I saw a post (that I SWEAR was here) earlier this week about blankly asking bullies what they mean when they say something offensive, rendering them confused and having to admit that they're just an asshole. But of course, now I can't find it. I would really like to share it with my middle school aged niece, if anyone has a link it'd be greatly appreciated!\n\nUpdate: post in question has been linked! (albeit removed) Thanks for the help. Cheers y'all.",
"How to Question Bullies into Confusion I saw a post (that I SWEAR was here) earlier this week about blankly asking bullies what they mean when they say something offensive, rendering them confused and having to admit that they're just an asshole. But of course, now I can't find it. I would really like to share it with my middle school aged niece, if anyone has a link it'd be greatly appreciated!\n\nUpdate: post in question has been linked! (albeit removed) Thanks for the help. Cheers y'all.",
"How to Question Bullies into Confusion I saw a post (that I SWEAR was here) earlier this week about blankly asking bullies what they mean when they say something offensive, rendering them confused and having to admit that they're just an asshole. But of course, now I can't find it. I would really like to share it with my middle school aged niece, if anyone has a link it'd be greatly appreciated!\n\nUpdate: post in question has been linked! (albeit removed) Thanks for the help. Cheers y'all.",
"How to Question Bullies into Confusion I saw a post (that I SWEAR was here) earlier this week about blankly asking bullies what they mean when they say something offensive, rendering them confused and having to admit that they're just an asshole. But of course, now I can't find it. I would really like to share it with my middle school aged niece, if anyone has a link it'd be greatly appreciated!\n\nUpdate: post in question has been linked! (albeit removed) Thanks for the help. Cheers y'all."
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"#Bully: *neanderthal comment*\n\n#You: \"Out of everybody in this school, why are you the only one who says shit like that to me?\"\n\n#Bully: *Random idiotic justification*: \"uh because someone had to say it\" or \"uhhh because it's true?\"\n\n#You: \"Okay cool, but why are you literally the only person who cares to tell me?\"\n\nThat ALWAYS worked for me.\n\nGive it a try and report the results.",
"I always go with the good ol’ “I WILL JERK YOU OFF BRO!” that usually renders their little brains into confusion, unless they’re into that sort of thing of course.\n\nBut I don’t see this one working out for your middle school niece though.. 2 of 10, would not recommend.",
"I believe you’re referring to the post about hecklers and instead of confronting them and shouting at them to stop, you ask them what and why they did that action. Original OP used a classroom example that went somewhere along the lines of Billy threw a pencil case at Johnny and instead of shouting at Billy to stop, the teacher asks why he did that. \n\nWhat OP claimed is that most people do not have a good reason and will stutter and eventually shut down because they do not have an explanation to their actions and will be embarrassed by the call out.\n\nThe comment section’s refutation said that it only worked in that scenario because of the power dynamic of teacher to student. The example that the comment section gave is two people get into a fist fight and upon confrontation is asked why he did that. A response could be because he is a bitch and I hate his guts. Most normal people do not stutter or get nervous when they are confronted with that question because they just don’t care enough.",
"https://www.reddit.com/r/LifeProTips/comments/cwcc0o/lpt_if_someone_is_being_rudedisruptive_to/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app",
"I’ve seen a kid just say “what” and act like he didn’t hear their insult the first time. It’s really effective and annoying, after that they just stop trying to beat him down because of their lack of patience. It’s obvious that he heard it but there’s always the possibility. usually the bully never repeats it’s a third time because at that point the roast isn’t as unexpected and “cool”. I’m not a bully, but sometimes he does such weird and irritating things, that when I try to tell him to stop he does the same thing with me. I feel like it’s going to get him hit some day, especially because of the smirk he leaves you off with :/",
"\"Why are you so negative\"\n\nYou can literally say that in any situation and it immediately turns things on them.\n\nYou could also take a cue from Taylor Swift and say \"Calm down bro\"\n\nSometimes a simple \"nah\" or \"i don't think so\" will do it",
"I've always enjoyed \"I'm sorry, I'm afraid I don't understand your critique. Could you please break it down further? I'm working to grow as an individual.\"\n\nAs politely and quietly as possible. It serves to make them sound even more enraged and unhinged and they lose face with those around them and look more and more like a cartoon villain.",
"Break their kneecap when you get the chance. Both if you can, because Karma's a bitch. They'll remember you for the rest of their shitty life, but your punishment will soon be an afterthought."
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"keeping moccasin laces tied. They're thick leather strings and I can tie them nicely and neatly but they never stay. I made the mistake of putting super glue around the knot on my last pair and it totally ruined them. Any tips or tricks to keep them tied?\n\n",
"keeping moccasin laces tied. They're thick leather strings and I can tie them nicely and neatly but they never stay. I made the mistake of putting super glue around the knot on my last pair and it totally ruined them. Any tips or tricks to keep them tied?\n\n",
"keeping moccasin laces tied. They're thick leather strings and I can tie them nicely and neatly but they never stay. I made the mistake of putting super glue around the knot on my last pair and it totally ruined them. Any tips or tricks to keep them tied?\n\n"
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"Tie the knot nice and tight, and get the knot nice and wet. Try to make it so you can take them on and off without undoing it. It should be possible to do, and still have them perfectly snugged when you're wearing them. ",
"http://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/secureknot.htm\n\nI do this with my leather laced boat shoes. \n\nTIP: If your leather laces are too hard, get a leather conditioner (mink oil) and condition the laces. It will makes the laces very flexible. ",
"What the hey ...I'll add this to the frey:\n\nhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CPU4y3_pGMo\n\nMe, myself and I prefer Ian's \"Two-Loop Knot\" for my mocs and Vans. \n\nhttp://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/twoloopknot.htm"
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"How to read books quicker? Whilst taking in the content of the book. Trying to read a 300 page book over the next week but I'd rather not pour the usual inordiante amount of hours which I normally do.",
"How to read books quicker? Whilst taking in the content of the book. Trying to read a 300 page book over the next week but I'd rather not pour the usual inordiante amount of hours which I normally do.",
"How to read books quicker? Whilst taking in the content of the book. Trying to read a 300 page book over the next week but I'd rather not pour the usual inordiante amount of hours which I normally do."
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"There are plenty of free tools online to help you practice speed reading. Like the other user said, the key is to read text without actually saying the words in your head, that is what slows you down. Once you learn to not subvocalize the words you can then practice the speed part.",
"Reading at an average college level should take you roughly 1 minute per page, ~500 words/minute. Time yourself to see if there any issues or whether you are unfairly expecting things from yourself\n\nIf you are significantly slower than that, consider going to a psychiatrist to see if you have any reading disabilities, a really successful business women I know has always hated reading. It turns out she has had dyslexia all her life and it was only picked up at the ripe young age of 47.",
"I read a lot. Like a lot, and the best thing you can do to improve is read more. Practicing helps a lot but it seems like you need a quick fix so I would look it up on sparknotes if I were you."
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"How to get the most from textbooks For my Accounting class, the chapters are long and dense. If I take the time to simply read through it, I wont retain any of the information, but if I slowly read through it and take notes, I can't finish the chapter in a reasonable time that allows me to complete the homework. I was wondering if anyone had any good study tips for reading through dense material and actually understanding it. Sorry if this is a dumb request, but any recommendations would be appreciated! ",
"How to get the most from textbooks For my Accounting class, the chapters are long and dense. If I take the time to simply read through it, I wont retain any of the information, but if I slowly read through it and take notes, I can't finish the chapter in a reasonable time that allows me to complete the homework. I was wondering if anyone had any good study tips for reading through dense material and actually understanding it. Sorry if this is a dumb request, but any recommendations would be appreciated! ",
"How to get the most from textbooks For my Accounting class, the chapters are long and dense. If I take the time to simply read through it, I wont retain any of the information, but if I slowly read through it and take notes, I can't finish the chapter in a reasonable time that allows me to complete the homework. I was wondering if anyone had any good study tips for reading through dense material and actually understanding it. Sorry if this is a dumb request, but any recommendations would be appreciated! ",
"How to get the most from textbooks For my Accounting class, the chapters are long and dense. If I take the time to simply read through it, I wont retain any of the information, but if I slowly read through it and take notes, I can't finish the chapter in a reasonable time that allows me to complete the homework. I was wondering if anyone had any good study tips for reading through dense material and actually understanding it. Sorry if this is a dumb request, but any recommendations would be appreciated! "
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"**Study Tip** \n\n \n\n\nStep 1) Imagine yourself as a teacher. \nStep 2) Start reading the material out loud and pretend you're giving a class to your students. \nStep 3) If what you're reading doesn't make any sense to you, your students surely won't understand it. You suck as a teacher. Just stop reading. \nStep 4) Use other sources of information to try to understand the content. When you think you finally understand it, you're ready to continue reading out loud. \n\n \n\n\nAs you make an effort to provide coherent and understandable information to your \"students\", you're making yourself focus on what you're reading, thinking about it, making sure it makes sense and at the same time you'll retain all the information. \n\n \n\n\nIf it's still hard to retain it, give as many \"fake classes\" you need until you finally understand the content. The more you do it, the more you'll remember it.",
"Meet with the teacher and ask her how she uses the book to teach. My Speech teacher told me the outline she gave in class served as template for how to use the book and study. Maybe your teacher has a different approach. ",
"Get a study partner. Then let your partner read the textbook for you as if you were on a conversation. You can ask questions with each other as if you were on a trivia game. \n\n \n\n\nAlso learn speed reading. Speed reading doesn't mean that you scan through the pages and read the text but not understand it. It's just normal reading but at a faster rate. With practice, you would still understand the material with less time than you previously would.",
"Lectures should cover the parts of the textbook pertinent to HW and tests. Tab the pages, highlight the text, make notes in the margins."
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"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
"How to stop a washer/dryer from leaving these weird stains on clothes and how to fix it when it happens ",
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"That doesn't look like a detergent stain, it looks like a grease/oil stain that didn't come out (they get borders after washing). \n\n*If* it's actually from detergent: don't pour detergent directly in, or if you have to, use the water from the fill cycle to thin as you pour.\n\nIf it's grease or oil stains: cornstarch it to get any extra grease you can out. Then make a paste of cornstarch and detergent and work it into the area, then immediately put it in the wash. ",
"We used to get these stains on clothes from the softener. Wash it by hand with a bar of soap then toss it in the wash.\n\nOr its grease and you need some Shout.",
"Put your shirt on.. Get it really wet, and I'm talking like soaked. It's important that you don't wear a bra or else it won't work!!! Rub vigorously and jump up and down.. Film it, then upload it so I can make sure you're doing it right..",
"My mom taught me this trick, I am now 28 and rely on it whole heartedly. GOOP. It is the stuff you get at a hardware store or car parts store as it is used to remove grease and oil from hands. Not the orange stuff... the white stuff in a small white tub. Just rub it in and the stain is gone. This stuff is the shit. ",
"This happened a few weeks ago to us. The washer drum was leaking transmission fluid intermittently. We could take apart the machine and replace parts for $250 or buy a new one for $700. New machine is amazing and no more ruined clothes. ",
"You can also use a little bit of Dawn dish soap directly on the stain. A lot of times it's actually grease from food and Dawn will take it right out.\n\nThis works especially well on those black on black stains you get on t-shirts, etc. ",
"Gah! Icky stains. It does kinda look like what you might get if you poured liquid detergent onto dry clothes. Do either of you work with any paint or chemicals that splash on you, or do the stains appear randomly?\n\nI'd suggest trying the following: use less soap;if you're using a liquid detergent, switch to a powder; dilute the soap in water before adding, or add soap after the washer fills; use cold water wash so the stain doesn't set in; use more water; do a cold water rinse before the wash.\n\nThere might also some gunk in the washer; you might want to run a couple of hot/high water loads with bleach, to wash the washer.",
"turn on washer, wait a minute or two, then pour the soap into the water directly, i usually have to move my clothes a little to the side to get to the water",
"Since everyone assumes its a stain and is only giving LPT as such; this happened to me all trough middle school. Only my clothes and it was not a stain, detergent, my hair product or anything. Some attributed it to a dirty washer; we ended up replacing it. I know this doesn't help much but an English speaking (I say that somewhat in jest) dry cleaner or surf attendant may be able to shed some wisdom if you ask. ",
"I used to get weird mystery stains on my laundry. Then I started using Borax in my laundry and now I don't get any stains.\n\nAlso, detergent and color safe bleach go in first, with the borax.",
"Thumbnail caught my attention, but as a former maytag employee the handling of the detergent and softener is very important. If it freezes at any point, it's trash. Also heat can (but is less likely to) cause separation of the liquid. ",
"These types of stains seem to be pretty common for white tech (non-cotton) shirts. I have several tech shirts with these stains, and it is not caused by pouring the detergent on them or by the dryer, I am certain of that. I would love to know the real cause of this problem.",
"Oh! I got this one. Don't let your boyfriend cum on your shirt, at least not your white ones. That isn't from the detergent, its a cum stain. Took me years to figure this out. ",
"Not sure how to prevent it, but getting rid of it is a snap with Murphy's Oil Soap. Scrub it in with a toothbrush and wash it immediately after treating it. It might take two washes, but it will power out any grease stain.",
"I think what is happening is you are using concentrated laundry detergent.\nThe same thing was happening to my clothes and stopped when I stopped using the concentrated stuff.",
"Get a small mop bucket, soak the shirt in resolve overnight. Don't be stingy within the resolve. Normal Wash the next morning. "
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"How to write an essay about my strengths/ talents I can bring to the field without sounding like a humblebrag? ",
"How to write an essay about my strengths/ talents I can bring to the field without sounding like a humblebrag? ",
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"Stop worrying about how it sounds, and state your contentions and present the supporting facts. To my mind \"humblebrags\" don't have a contention. ",
"Talk about your work and the steps you took towards success. \nI also stay away from stating subjective, vague qualities like \"hard-worker\" and \"good-listener\" unless I've provided a concrete example that validates my claim.\nList any training you've had and skills you've worked for (dance, programming, etc.).\n\ntldr Don't just tell them you're great for the job, give them proof.",
"Get the book \"strengthsfinder 2.0\"\n\nI didn't write it, and I dont get money for advertising it, but it is one of the three most influential books I've read as far as having life effects.\n\nit's like 13 bucks on amazon, and includes a code to take the (Gallup developed) test online. in short, it helps you to recognize your 5 (or 10 if you pay a bit more) top strengths, how to use them with others, and how to describe them when asked.\n\nalso, don't be humble about your strengths. Be confident at what you're good at, and willing to admit what you aren't good at. it saves time, and you don't like a jackass."
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"How to start laughing again? I kind of forgot how to laugh from the bottom of my heart.\nI only see the bad things I guess and I am not really satisfied (despite my life turned pretty nice lately)",
"How to start laughing again? I kind of forgot how to laugh from the bottom of my heart.\nI only see the bad things I guess and I am not really satisfied (despite my life turned pretty nice lately)",
"How to start laughing again? I kind of forgot how to laugh from the bottom of my heart.\nI only see the bad things I guess and I am not really satisfied (despite my life turned pretty nice lately)",
"How to start laughing again? I kind of forgot how to laugh from the bottom of my heart.\nI only see the bad things I guess and I am not really satisfied (despite my life turned pretty nice lately)",
"How to start laughing again? I kind of forgot how to laugh from the bottom of my heart.\nI only see the bad things I guess and I am not really satisfied (despite my life turned pretty nice lately)",
"How to start laughing again? I kind of forgot how to laugh from the bottom of my heart.\nI only see the bad things I guess and I am not really satisfied (despite my life turned pretty nice lately)"
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"You need to turn your brain off. Here's what I would advise: go on Google maps or do some exploring around town. Find a spot away from everyone else, in nature. Pack a good book, or a simple but tasty lunch, and just sit. Do what you want for awhile, but after some time you should stop whatever you are doing and just listen. Hear everything around you, and see the millions of lives and interactions of the animals. Stop thinking, stop feeling and just observe. It sounds corny, but being one with nature can do wonders. \n\nSet aside an hour or two every week, at the same time, and do this. Use it as a way to clear your mind and decompress. After while, you'll find yourself looking forward to your weekly m",
"Watch something very funny and don't think about it.\n\nI recommend stand up comedy:\n\nhttps://youtu.be/xs1-aCgM5pc",
"If you have been feel like this for more than 2 weeks, you need to talk to a doctor or a therapist. That's a sign of Major Depression.",
"Assuming this is a problem... Try and find other sources of joy other than any sort of quick fixes of dopamine. Also known as instant gratification. Not many things should be instantly gratifying. You should have to work for something, and it will be FAR more gratifying to yourself versus that instant shit.",
"I personally really liked this article. Helped me for what I'm going through right now, deals with attitude but a heads up it is [religious](https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no1-2016-february/be-positive-attitude-thinking/)",
"What is this emo shit? Get the fuck outta here. We all know you want attention. I'll be nice and give you more topics for attention: \n\n\"how do I breathe? I feel like I'm always suffocating from sadness\" \n\nor maybe \n\n\"how do I feel alive again? I feel dead everyday\" "
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"what are good ways to motivate your roommate or S.O. to clean up after themselves and do their share without creating tension. ",
"what are good ways to motivate your roommate or S.O. to clean up after themselves and do their share without creating tension. ",
"what are good ways to motivate your roommate or S.O. to clean up after themselves and do their share without creating tension. "
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"On Master of None they had it so that each time they found clothes on the floor, the person with the clothes on the floor had to perform fellatio on their significant other. ",
"Gift them the lightbulb above their head. Let your light shine through you so brightly they'll get the idea. \n\nWhen you clean up after yourself, it almost opens another dimension. Not only is half the mess already cleaned up but wait there's more! You can guilt trip them, request of them, or shame them with ease. Wash your dishes, scrub the pots, and wipe down areas of the countertop you used. For good measure, do something for them as well. Keep in mind that is singular. Have that karma in your pocket to use as leverage if need be. \n\nIf that doesn't work, get a new roommate or SO. ",
"The first question to ask is if you're asking them to do their share, or to accommodate your preferences."
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"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?",
"How do you ask your new boss if there's gonna be drug tests without sounding like you want to do drugs. I live in a recreational legal state (CO). Technically all drugs are against company policy but nobody has ever said anything about screening. I don't partake very often but I've had to pass at a few parties because of the uncertainty so... how to find out for sure?"
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"I called HR anonymously and asked when I got an offer from GSK (pharma)… They were like, “Can I ask your name?” And I just said, “Uhhh no…” she laughed and said yes they drug test",
"If you have an employee handbook, check that first. If none of the other documentation youve received mentions it, you could ask someone else on your team that shares your job title, but if you're worried asking them would be risky too, perhaps ask HR/Recruiting, as they're most likely to know",
"Are you prescribed any medication that would pop on the test? If you’re on ADHD meds, it’s as simple as “I’m prescribed a stimulant that would show up on the test. What’s the protocol for that?”",
"Thank goodness for NY, where employers are banned from testing *most* workers for marijuana.\n\nHopefully other states catch up.\n\nEspecially nice when you're a remote employee; your employer has to abide by your residence laws, even if they are based in a state where marijuana is not recreational.",
"I tie other things into it.. example, \"for onboarding, do you have any psych tests, drug tests, documentation that you need completed prior to my first day?\". Drug test is just another part of the process ... No need to make it special or be direct about it. Clump it in with a bunch of other stuff",
"What type of job? Are you responsible for any machinery or a job where accidents are prone to happen that require investigations.",
"I used to say, “if the hiring process goes any further, what kind of background checks will I need to schedule? I’ve previously had to get state backgrounds checks and they took forever to get.” Then they’d usually rattle off the hiring procedure and naturally include if there’s a drug test",
"You could look around and glance at some of your colleagues as if making sure they were out of earshot, and then drop your voice and say \"\\_Please\\_ tell me that the company does random drug tests sometimes.\" He'll assume you're concerned about someone else (and maybe force the entire department to be tested, and all your coworkers will hate you for it. :) )",
"Check yourself with a kit. Stay away from it until the new boss get situated. Then proceed as you wish",
"In CO it sucks because while it's not illegal some employers test for THC and they don't tell you. You would think only federal contracting jobs would test, but no... And not everyone does, it varies employer to employer. \n\nI'm straightforward about it \"Will the drug test screen for THC? It's Colorado so I just have to ask.\" You could add \"My roommate smokes \\[which is super believable because most ppl can't afford to live alone in CO lol\\]\" if you're worried about them thinking your a pothead.",
"Depends on your boss, but for most people:\n\nExplain it. Sometimes there's pot at parties, and I've been avoiding it because of company policy. Do I have to keep doing that?",
"Keep in mind if there's ever any sort of accident or incident in the workplace they will almost certainly test you or ask you to test to remain employed. It's an insurance and liability thing. I know marijuana is accepted and trendy, and I smoked years ago, but the folks I have in my life who use it regularly have struggled to maintain employment for 2 decades now. If possible don't use it regularly. 🍀",
"I asked if there is anything else I cab to do like help with transcripts, prior job info, drug screen in order to make the process move along smoothly.",
"“It is completely normal and understandable to have questions about drug screening policies at your workplace. If you are concerned about how to ask your employer about drug screening without sounding like you take drugs, you can try the following:\n\n\nApproach the conversation in a professional and respectful manner. You can start by saying something like, \"I was wondering if you could tell me more about the drug screening process at our company. I am interested in understanding the policies and procedures in place.\"\n\n\nExplain your reason for asking. You can say something like, \"I am asking because I want to make sure that I am fully aware of the company's expectations and policies, and I want to ensure that I am in compliance with them.\"\n\n\nEmphasize your commitment to the company and its policies. You can say something like, \"I am committed to maintaining a safe and healthy work environment, and I want to make sure that I am following all of the company's policies and procedures.\"\n\n\nBy approaching the conversation in this way, you can ask about drug screening without sounding like you take drugs or have any reason to be concerned about the outcome of the test.”\n\n\n-ChatGPT",
"Just for my curiosity: is this another one of those US things? From my European perspective drug testing at work sounds like a serious violation of personal rights, unless your work could endanger others if you are under the influence of drugs (and even then it’s weird)…",
"Tough call. It's still illegal federally. I'd probably just ask your boss and just phrase it like I'm at parties sometimes and want to know if it would be a problem if you used very rarely. ETA that I would say I would pass if against policy.",
"“Future boss: I assume as part of the onboarding, I’ll need to provide my SSN card, drivers license, etc. for the drug test, is there a specific lab that you utilize and if so, can’t I get the paperwork so I can head there now.”\n\n“Oh, we don’t do drug tests as part of onboarding.”\n\n——-\n\n“Boss, can I get the employee handbook?”",
"YOU-\n\"So, just out of curiosity, does this company use Concentra health for our UAs like my last company did?\"\n\nNEW BOSS-\n\"Nah, we don't do that here. \n(gives you knowing smile)",
"When I took my current job I asked the HR manager if I was susceptible to random drug testing as I am a department manager. The HR manager asked half serious half joking, “what are you into Riverdude?” I said I was just curious, but due to all my other jobs having random testing I wanted to know. \n\nFast forward several months, my HR manger had taken a slightly differet roll in the company. On a random Saturday we were both in the office and we started chatting. At the end of the conversation, he piped up and said “see you later, I am going to go home and smoke some weed.” I have not been randomly tested yet.",
"What’s your industry? I come from media, they don’t test in media because everyone would fail. An idea of industry would give you much more conclusive results.",
"What is your policy on body autonomy? Will I be subject to tests for diseases, or vaccinations, or anything else on a regular basis?",
"Verbally if you can, avoid asking by written comm if at all possible. He’ll ask “do you think you’ll test positive?” and you can say “no” because opinions are subjective.",
"This maybe isn’t always true, but my partner works at a hospital as a doctor and when he got his latest offer there was a drug screen… they give you 30 days to do the screen. Which I understood as an unofficial “if you smoke marijuana, are you capable of giving up marijuana for 30 days? If so, cool”. We smoke kind of on and off and were in an “on” period, he just stopped and he took it on like day 29.\n\nI think most “professional” level jobs do give you time for it to clear your system. Because they don’t actually care. They just need to show due diligence. Or they only really care about screening out full fledged addicts.",
"So I worked at a company (a newspaper) that did drug testing, the month marijuana became legal in WA.\n\nThey told me a positive test for weed would rescind the offer, which I thought was BS because they were locally owned, and even ran advertising for recreational cannabis stores. \n\nI had half a mind to maybe sue them if I didn't pass, but they gave me the Thanksgiving holiday to \"study\" and thanks to some detox/cleanse pills from GNC I passed. \n\nA few years later, they announced that though they still would drug test (using the SAMHSA screen) a positive result for marijuana wouldn't count against you. \n\nSo it may be the same for you. You can ask; I did.",
"Should I make sure to have a full bladder when I come\nIn for orientation?\n\nOr \n\nWhat else needs to be completed before starting employment.",
"Several years I got a job at a bank center. I called hr disguised my voice, claiming to be from a college newspaper. Doing a survey about drug testing in big companies. I'm pretty sneaky",
"Read the goddamn employee handbook. \n\nYou will most likely only be tested if you show up to work visibly impaired and get caught. Fuckin have a toke and relax man.",
"Normally the drug policy is explicitly in the employee handbook if you have one. It would be best to figure out without asking anyone",
"My test came before I officially signed my paperwork/job offer, not after I was hired. My company is based in colorado and they drug tested us but my boss gave me a heads up that it was only harder drugs like opiates - good luck!",
"Just say you may be getting some dental work done.and that you are asking if you need to submit any documentation incase there is a random drug test.",
"Is this your first job? Nobody is going to fire you for smoking pot in your free time lol. They’ll drug test you if you get hurt to see if you were intoxicated at the time, other than that random drug testing, especially in a state where it legal, is an expensive business practice and you shouldn’t worry about it.",
"Is it legal for a company to do this? I wouldve thought that you cant make conpany rules like this unless theres an exception. Like sure you cant drink during work, but they cant control what you do outsife of your job?",
"In my experience, any job that claims to do random tests never does random tests. They will drug test if you have an accident or injury on the job but that's it. Again, this is just from my personal experience.",
"If you've already been hired, then there's not a pre-employment drug screen, as you are already employed.\n\nAnd as far as ongoing/random drug tests, if they didn't even test you to hire you, why on earth would they be testing you down the road? That makes no sense whatsoever.\n\nAs someone currently looking for a job in Colorado, most companies make a point in the job post to mention any drug tests, as they do not want to waste their time with candidates who will fail them. If you are already hired you would already know about drug tests, as it's in their interest to inform you of them. They gain little to nothing from hiring then having to terminate you shortly thereafter, due to a random drug screen they never told you to expect.",
"If you live in a legal state, I would personally just be honest. Occasionally it comes out at social events and you'd like to know if you need to demonstrate that it's not a problem for you.\n\nDepends a lot on your industry. In construction personally so there's a low bar.",
"If you live in a legal state then just ask. I did that with a potential job that really, really wanted me to work for them so they told me when they expected for me to be tested and they were able to push it out a couple weeks for me to detox.",
"If they don’t screen then don’t ask. Ask fellow employees. DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES ASK HR. Asking will only trigger them to perform one. Most drug tests are done by urine. If you don’t do it every day it will not stay in your system for more than a week. I was a heavy smoker and passed the urine test being two weeks clean. Hair tests are different",
"If they are serious an 8 panel, but mostly looking for hard stuff, sometimes they will make you wiz and toss it out to save $100. Really serious are the RRs, they follicle test and other 9 yards. Get yourself clean and be safe",
"If nobody ever said anything about it, then keep your mouth shut and smoke it up after work. Also, do not talk about drugs at work, in front of any colleagues, and play dumb if anybody else brings up the topic.",
"If it's your new boss, then you've probably already been hired, meaning there's no pre employment drug screening. So now that you're an employee, you should have access to the employee handbook. I don't know for sure, but here in WA an employer can't do drug testing without having a written policy for it. I'd imagine Colorado is the same.\n\nSo you don't need to ask about drug testing, you just need to ask where the employee handbook is. If they ask why, just say you want to review the dress code. That's always a safe answer.",
"Id just ask someone there that looks like they smoke pot. \n\nMost jobs ive had the past few years only test if there is an accident. They all know i smoke weed. I dont try to hide it. But i get more than my fair share of work done each day and that keeps them from bringing it up.",
"I've only ever used erm...... \"fetish urine\" for the drug tests I've taken throughout my life and it's never been an issue. If you go this route just be extra sure you heat it up to the right temperature. I have friends who failed their drug tests due to the urine being too hot/cold, but if you follow the instructions on the box you should be fine.",
"I've always just asked, \"when/where is the drug test.\" I've never had anyone think weird about it. But I work in construction so it may be a different ball game if you're in an office.",
"I wouldn’t partake or ask until you absolutely 100% know, have the job, and have read the employee handbook confirming you are ok. And I wouldn’t take the job if it doesn’t agree with your philosophy on the subject",
"I vote for every sitting memeber of the U. S. Congress be spot checked (drug tested) completely random. The results must be made public immediately.",
"I usually ask a coworker I’ve made friends with or Google it - if it’s a larger company I’ve usually been able to find out whether they do or don’t online",
"I tend to ask coworkers I trust, and normally ease into it. Wait for the topic of drugs to come up in conversation. If it doesn't come up naturally, feel free to borrow a true story from me about how I guy I used to work with carried fake pee in his pocket at all times. When he was in a minor accident, he cheated tf out of it and was cleared. He didn't even warm it up or anything. If you'd rather not tell a weird story like that but still need to steer the conversation closer, you could either ask what facility they send you to when you're tested. And just in general, if you're worried about random tests, take a tip from my friend and always carry Quck Fix on you, especially if you have cargo pants.",
"I just tell employers that ask for a drug test that they'll find weed. Half the time it doesn't matter",
"I just asked the status of all of my employment prereq's (W4, background check, drug screen, etc). My first job ever, the HR lady kept telling me \"you're all good. just waiting on the drug screen :)\" for weeks. Drove me nuts not being able to tell if I passed or not, but I never lost the job, so guessing I passed it lol.",
"I had something like this, i just asked if i should worry about my weed usage that i have a medical card for and insomnia. Sounds professionally brought up enough and opened it up for discussion from there.",
"I can actually contribute here, even though this discovery was accidental. I’m part of the management of the company in question, so have the advantage of being clear on why we do drug screening - it’s purely risk-based to protect the company should an accident occur involving an impaired employee. \n\nContext first - I work for a company that screens for drugs/booze as a final part of the recruitment process. I live in the UK, so there are no grey areas when it comes to illegal drugs - the laws are the same all over the country, so there’s no uncertainty - if you test positive, there’s no defence. I don’t partake, so there was no actual testing risk for me (I’m 46, married father of 2 kids under 10 - that’s all the excitement I need/can handle). \n\nThing is though - I have a nasty little needle phobia. Before any vaccinations/blood tests etc, I need to take sedatives (usually Valium) which is prescribed by my GP as and when I need it. I need to take an amount that means I can’t drive or maintain alertness - the phobia is strong - so I also need someone to chaperone me to and from the appointments involving needles. \n\nBecause of this, when I was going through the recruitment process, I specifically asked what the pre-employment medicals would involve ***as I have a needle phobia and if blood tests were involved, I would need to sedate myself beforehand, arrange a chaperone’s attendance and would test positive for the sedative, but could show a prescription/reason***. Because I asked it in that way - and it was genuine - I had the entire procedure explained to me, including the company’s drug testing policies and procedures.\n\nI completely understand your motivations to ask - I was recently in Wisconsin for work and legality/decriminalisation and workplace rules were a topic of conversation with my American colleagues.",
"I assume you’re talking about pot. Even if they do test it’s only going to be a piss test and weed doesn’t show up on those. So as long as you stick to edibles and don’t smoke a blunt on break you’re good.",
"I ask if they have exceptions for medical card holders. Most of the time they respond with we test for all other drugs than that. Or if they say they don't have exemptions for medical card holders then they aren't someone you want to work for",
"Hiring person here. In our industry it’s normal for a drug screen to be done pre-hire. If that is also your industrial norm, then just ask. “Who can I get the onboarding info from like what documents, my start date, and any TB testing or preview drug screen. Do I need that before my start date, or will HR walk me through that when I start”\n\nI would have zero flags go up. Also, I have had to fire great folks over pot (Texas). I usually make the timeline crystal clear. But that’s just me.",
"Hey boss: Is there gonna be drug tests in this job? You know just curious I am not a crack head or anything .. HAHAHAH .. \n\nThat's it. Just don't be nervous about it, and if he gets suspicious, then that's not the place for you",
"Gonna simplify this: if it’s a white-collar job and you’re not working with heavy machinery or working with the feds, you’re not gonna be tested.",
"Dude, all you need to do is buy some synthetic pee. Go to a smoke shop and buy some. They work like a charm. I usually use the one called \"Quick fix\" but there's also one called \"Monkey whizz\" that's pretty popular.",
"Double check to see if CO has laws protecting legal card holders from employment (if this applies to you.) probably better to be legal and fight discrimination",
"Don't ask them. Ask Google what the drug testing procedure is for your specific company. Google knows. Just don't query on your company assets.",
"Crack a joke about weed. Judge based on the response(s) of you your co-workers. Or can say you recently took a trip to X and while passing through a State while getting gas you noticed that you could buy all this stuff at a gas station. \"Did you all know that?\". Judge based on responses. Maybe someone will drop a hint.\n\nI may or may not have tried this.",
"Companies should stop worrying about what’s in employees piss. If you don’t have the proper judgement to not hire a crackhead or junkie then you shouldn’t be a hiring manager in the first place. People work drunk all the time and there is no drug test for that so..",
"Check your local laws. Many states don't allow random drug screening without proper notice or probable cause ( workplace accidents, you smelled like you just smoked before you stepped in the building, etc ). Also check your employee handbook, it might specify any testing policies in there.\n\nA lot of businesses in states where recreational use is legal don't bother testing for weed anymore, unless you're driving or operating heavy machinery for the company.",
"Call HR and just ask them the policy. They’ll be happy to tell you as it saves both sides hassle’s later on.",
"CBD can sometimes flag a drug test for cannabis but it’s not illegal. You could say you’ve been trying a CBD tincture for xyz and that the merchant told you it could flag a drug test even though it’s hemp derived and you want to decide to keep using it or not.",
"Based on some of your comments, it sounds like you've already been hired and completed all paperwork and background checks? And are just worried about post hire date drug tests? I've worked at a lot of companies that tested, and any that intend to test \"during\" employment (randoms or scheduled) always do a pre-employment test. Hiring you costs money, they want to know up front if you can pass and limit the chances of having to fire you for a failed test later.\n\nSo if you didn't get a pre-employment test, and have already signed or started working, it would be highly unusual for them to any sort of testing later (outside of job injury situations, or if they get bought by another company that did test - yes, that's happened to me before). Likewise, it would be very unusual for them to not mention it - I've never had to ask at a place that tested, they should tell you up front before you sign your paperwork.\n\nIn addition, if you are now hired, you should have access to some sort of employee handbook from HR that goes over policies, which should detail if there is any sort of testing. And just stating that drugs are against policy, doesn't mean they actually test.\n\nI honestly don't think it hurts to ask though - I'm sure it won't be anywhere near the first time someone's asked. But be straight up about it and just ask \"is there any sort of drug screening that I need to complete?\" Don't try to be clever and \"slip it in\" with other questions like some are suggesting. I have a friend that I've worked with at several different places, and he's always straight up asked even before interviews, and it's never been a problem for him (both at places that did and didn't test).",
"Ask. Tell them you enjoy poppyseed muffins (which is proven to pop hot on a pee test but NOT a blood test) and you want to know if you need to adjust your expectations of eating muffins.",
"Ask for a copy of the Employee Handbook. The company policy on drugs and alcohol should be in there.",
"Ask fellow employees if drug tests occur and if there will be any warning ahead of time.\n\nIf you mean at the start of a job, during the interview ask if a drug test was required or will be, and if so what are the options for testing locations.",
"Ask about the drug testing policy and tell them you’re just concerned about your prescription flagging you as positive.",
"Ask HR to explain their drug/ alcohol and testing policies. Asking as part of a broader \"how do the company polices work\" question is a lot less pointed than something like \"I know I'm not supposed to do drugs, but, are you like, going to check?\"",
"As a Canadian I am so shocked this is an actual thing, it feels so invasive. Sorry you even have to worry about this :(",
"\"Hey boss, I'm considering a little vacation before my first day on the job, just wanted to check with you first if there's anything like a pre-employment orientation or drug test I should plan my schedule around?\"",
"Speak about a previous job that did drug tests and how others were fired for failing bringing up the question, \"does it happen often here then, people lose their jobs over doing drugs\", something along them lines.",
"Is that.. like normal your country? Cant think that would be legal here except for very special positions",
"How about \"I'd like to enjoy legal, recreational drugs during the time in which what I do is none of your business. I know that I have to get sober during working hours, are there going to be tests to verify that I am?\"",
"Ask your boss if he is frustrated that quick fix costs less than $20 to fool a $100 drug test. His response should tell you all you need to know."
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"Getting large coconut oil stains out of clothes I had an unfortunate mishap a couple weeks ago where a container of liquid coconut oil was unknowingly leaking into a backpack full of t-shirts. It could have been leaking for up to a week, I'm not sure. Now there are large stains smattered throughout about eight shirts of mine.\n\nHow do I get them out?\n\nI've tried pre-washing with Dawn dishwashing soap, run them through the washing machine multiple times... Still there. Please send help."
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"Have you tried direct application of dishsoap and scrubbing the surface with a toothbrush or other brush. I have tried it with watter added and sometimes it seems less effective. Another method is to add them to a vinegar solution after doing this, but I only do that if I'm trying something other than an oil.",
"Put dry baking soda or corn starch (or baby powder in a pinch) over the impacted areas, pat it in and let it sit for 12 hrs or so. The oil should soak up into the powder and repeat until it’s gone. It’s best to do this on the initial stain before washing, but this should help."
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"How to meet people while living alone in a new city I work in an office where I am the only young person around. I just realized after months of living here, I've met know one outside of work and I can't stand it. ",
"How to meet people while living alone in a new city I work in an office where I am the only young person around. I just realized after months of living here, I've met know one outside of work and I can't stand it. ",
"How to meet people while living alone in a new city I work in an office where I am the only young person around. I just realized after months of living here, I've met know one outside of work and I can't stand it. ",
"How to meet people while living alone in a new city I work in an office where I am the only young person around. I just realized after months of living here, I've met know one outside of work and I can't stand it. ",
"How to meet people while living alone in a new city I work in an office where I am the only young person around. I just realized after months of living here, I've met know one outside of work and I can't stand it. "
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"Volunteer at an \"English conversation cafe.\" Immigrants want to improve their conversational English skills by having someone who will talk with them without correcting all of their mistakes. Quite a few immigrants have very few friends themselves and would appreciate your friendship.",
"how come nobody said bars? do people not go to bars anymore? really, i don't know; i'm middle aged and married.\n\nback in *my day,* tinder was called your local pub, and you didn't know how crazy somebody was until it was too late, and you liked it!",
"Volunteering. Jobs. Youth clubs. Clubs and societies. Social gatherings at libraries. Bars and pubs. Going to the gym. Doing a few courses such as cooking, language learning etc.",
"Look for clubs or leagues that you would be interested in and go check them out. It's usually easy to find a jogging club, or book club (or any other club) on Craigslist or with Google. ",
"What do you care about? Pro-choice? Volunteer for NOW or planned parenthood or the like. Animals? Is there a shelter that needs dogs walked? I bet there's other people who care about animals that you might connect with. Nerdtastic? Find a D&D or whatever group online or at the local nerdery.",
"Take a French class. You'll meet lots of people from different backgrounds wanting to learn and travel"
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" Is there an easy way to clean a plastic travel coffee mug? Whenever I finish my coffee out of my plastic travel mug, the smell of coffee lingers and it's a little annoying having to soak it and scrub it (repeat x3) in order to get the smell out. Is there any magical way to fix this? ",
" Is there an easy way to clean a plastic travel coffee mug? Whenever I finish my coffee out of my plastic travel mug, the smell of coffee lingers and it's a little annoying having to soak it and scrub it (repeat x3) in order to get the smell out. Is there any magical way to fix this? ",
" Is there an easy way to clean a plastic travel coffee mug? Whenever I finish my coffee out of my plastic travel mug, the smell of coffee lingers and it's a little annoying having to soak it and scrub it (repeat x3) in order to get the smell out. Is there any magical way to fix this? ",
" Is there an easy way to clean a plastic travel coffee mug? Whenever I finish my coffee out of my plastic travel mug, the smell of coffee lingers and it's a little annoying having to soak it and scrub it (repeat x3) in order to get the smell out. Is there any magical way to fix this? ",
" Is there an easy way to clean a plastic travel coffee mug? Whenever I finish my coffee out of my plastic travel mug, the smell of coffee lingers and it's a little annoying having to soak it and scrub it (repeat x3) in order to get the smell out. Is there any magical way to fix this? ",
" Is there an easy way to clean a plastic travel coffee mug? Whenever I finish my coffee out of my plastic travel mug, the smell of coffee lingers and it's a little annoying having to soak it and scrub it (repeat x3) in order to get the smell out. Is there any magical way to fix this? ",
" Is there an easy way to clean a plastic travel coffee mug? Whenever I finish my coffee out of my plastic travel mug, the smell of coffee lingers and it's a little annoying having to soak it and scrub it (repeat x3) in order to get the smell out. Is there any magical way to fix this? ",
" Is there an easy way to clean a plastic travel coffee mug? Whenever I finish my coffee out of my plastic travel mug, the smell of coffee lingers and it's a little annoying having to soak it and scrub it (repeat x3) in order to get the smell out. Is there any magical way to fix this? "
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"Sodium carbonate solution. Dissolve some baking powder in water, put it in the mug and wait. The basic pH dissolves the oils of the coffee.",
"i've heard that those denture/retainer cleaner tablets work well. They're sold everywhere that would carry toothbrushes. Put hot water in the mug, put the tablet, let soak, rinse. I've used it before for my thermos with limited success. It's easy though, so worth a try.",
"Not to hijack, but my SO decided the best way to clean my mug (since I beat him over the head to reinforce that it's not dishwasher safe) was to use an outrageous amount of dish soap, add hot water, and leave to soak for a day and a half. Now everything out of that mug tastes like soap. I've rinsed and soaked and rinsed and soaked with clean water (boiling hot and cold) and still, the taste of dish soap leeches into my coffee and tea. Does anyone have any suggestions for that as well?",
"IIRC, plastic is a porous surface so it has a memory of what's in it. Is it really a big deal that the container you drink coffee from smells like coffee?\n\nIt's not infected with bacteria or anything, why not accept it? Or, switch to something with a stainless steel lining.",
"Rinse it in the bathroom or with a bottle of water when you finish your coffee rather than letting it sit and go feral in the car like my girlfriend does.",
"I put powdered dishwasher detergent and let it soak. I use the tablets for my dishwasher, but I just have a tiny box of cascade that I use just to soak my travel mug. BUT - I use stainless steel and it is not much of a problem, so i only do it like every few months. I also don't use cream or sugar so that eliminates the bacteria issues. ",
"Dump 2 spoons of baking soda, and half a cup of white vinegar. Wait till the fizzing subsides. Fill with boiling water to the top and let it sit overnight. Voila!",
"Bottle brush with soap and water, then rinse, follow up with about a half hour soak in very weak bleach water."
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"How do I prevent getting a sinus infection after a cold? It seems like almost every time I get sick with a cold, I have a sinus infection right after. It sucks because it basically prolongs my symptoms (cough, runny nose) and adds new and exciting ones (weird headaches, heavy congestion, difficulty hearing things). I got sick with a cold a week ago, and while I feel like the majority of the cold is gone, I'm still dealing with what feels like a sinus problem.",
"How do I prevent getting a sinus infection after a cold? It seems like almost every time I get sick with a cold, I have a sinus infection right after. It sucks because it basically prolongs my symptoms (cough, runny nose) and adds new and exciting ones (weird headaches, heavy congestion, difficulty hearing things). I got sick with a cold a week ago, and while I feel like the majority of the cold is gone, I'm still dealing with what feels like a sinus problem.",
"How do I prevent getting a sinus infection after a cold? It seems like almost every time I get sick with a cold, I have a sinus infection right after. It sucks because it basically prolongs my symptoms (cough, runny nose) and adds new and exciting ones (weird headaches, heavy congestion, difficulty hearing things). I got sick with a cold a week ago, and while I feel like the majority of the cold is gone, I'm still dealing with what feels like a sinus problem.",
"How do I prevent getting a sinus infection after a cold? It seems like almost every time I get sick with a cold, I have a sinus infection right after. It sucks because it basically prolongs my symptoms (cough, runny nose) and adds new and exciting ones (weird headaches, heavy congestion, difficulty hearing things). I got sick with a cold a week ago, and while I feel like the majority of the cold is gone, I'm still dealing with what feels like a sinus problem."
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"Use a hot water humidifier (pretty cheap), add 1 tablespoon of salt to it with every use.\n\nAlso consider getting a netti pot, granted they are not for everyone and take some getting use to.\n\nBottom line is keep the sinuses moist and clean. When they dry out they are cracked and ripe for infection.\n\nSide note, drink lots of water, it keeps the body hydrated.\n\nTake care.\n",
"Use a neti pot... Even during the cold... Sort of gross the first time but does a full nasal flush. Easy to use versions at pharmacies....",
"Drink plenty of water, it helps to thin out and drain mucus in your sinuses and inner ears. It might be a good idea to take a product like Mucinex to help with loosening things up so your sinuses can drain. This comes from me having a lot of experience with sinus problems in the past. Thick, clogged up sinuses can harbor bacteria, and infections soon follow. Be careful with netti pots, while the idea of rinsing out sinuses seems good, if you're not careful you can end up actually introducing bacteria this way. You have to be sure to boil the water first and let it cool, and don't add to it unless it's a store bought sterile saline product made just for that use. ",
"Mucin ex for chest congestion works much better to clear your sinuses of mucus than anything I have tried. I also use a Neti pot."
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"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. ",
"How to give constructive criticism in a positive manner This also applies to simply asking someone why they're doing something in a certain way. I'm a curious person, so I often end up asking about things like this, but I don't want to come across as insinuating that they're doing something wrong. "
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"I always TRY to approach my colleagues about work matters like this. \n\n1. Display my concerns with the matter.\n2. Ask my colleagues \"Why did you use this method/do this specific thing/etc?\". An honest \"why\" not a rhetorical one. \n3. Listen to them explain. \n4. Give my opinions about their explanation. I try to present my opinions as clear and logical as possible: the goal, specific step, specific different approach. \n\nTo sum up, my version of constructive criticism include: acknowledge their effort, attentive listening to their solutions and offer clear alternative. ",
"The best way is to sandwich your criticism, a nice comment followed by your criticism and finishing another nice comment.\n\nEg, This sandwich is very nice, the bread is soft and fluffy, I'm not sure about the beef though, I think it may turned, but you know what this gravy is delicious.\n\nOr, Joe I'd like to provide you a quick review on your customer service, I've seen the way you greet people with a smile and warm hello and I very happy about this, but I've had a couple complaints that you a bit slow in providing service and I'd like you to approach customers and ask if they need assistance before have they have to look for you. However all they customers you have served had said they were very happy with your service, that you were very thorough and had excellent product knowledge, keep it up Joe.\n\nSandwich good bad good",
"Understand that people won't always welcome criticism, no matter how it's packaged. However, picking the right time and place are pretty crucial. It's rarely a smart move to embarrass somebody by pointing out their faults in front of other folk, so if you can hold back till a private moment later on that might help. Also, you need to take account of the \"bigger picture\" - sometimes people are still learning their role and know they've made errors along the way, but they're already reducing those errors and improving, so they need encouragement not disapproval. Also, it's important to recognise the limits of your own expertise - people aren't always going to have time or inclination to explain stuff they've spent a long time learning, so in many situations it's important not to go around sticking your nose where it's not wanted - so this depends on lot on the inter-personal relationship and the topic of discussion. ",
"Start with a nice comment like I noticed you have been putting so much effort into project, however there is room for improvement here. That way they don't feel like they are getting attached and tune you out.",
"Dont ever say someone did something badly. \n\nPhrase it in the way of \"You could have done this better\" and always give a why. Always. If you dont have a suggestion for how someone could have done someone better, youre not suitably qualified to say that it was bad. \n\nIf you dont have a suggestion, simply say how said part made you feel. \"That part didnt grab me as much as the rest of the presentation\" \n\nIf youre asking someone why theyre doing something I'm assuming youll be critisicing their manner of doing something. This is tough.\n\nIll use the example of someone swinging a pickaxe. If theyre doing it wrong, do not try to take over. That'll make them feel insignificant and defensive. Only offer advice in 2 situations:- \n\n> 1. You are able to grab their complete attention (They have a break or are at a place to stop). Dont give people tips while theyre doing the job, it just sounds like hounding and its annoying. \n\n> 2. You are the SME (Subject matter expert). If youre the leading expert on how to swing a pickaxe and *the other person knows this*, if theyre not overly proud they should be happy to take advice.\n\n\nIf you cant do either of those 2 things, try to bring it up later on in the day when you can have a proper dialogue about their technique and they can ask questions etc.",
"Airways be as specific as possible. Here's a story: I used to work at a busy restaurant in a small town. I would sometimes close on the weekends at midnight. Almost without fail, I'd come in the next day and the chef would tell me the kitchen was a disaster when he came in the next morning without really telling me what I needed to improve on. Obviously nothing changed because I didn't know what needed to be changed. Eventually I talked to him and let him know that he needed to be more specific and he was, which led to actual improvement. \n\nAnother thing to remember is that people don't change unless you give them a reason for it. If you just tell someone another way to do something without telling them why you think it's better or more efficient or higher quality, nothing will change. "
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"How to attract and kill that single pesky mosquito? (Serious) So I've been sitting still in my room for the past 3 minutes with a can of spray in hand waiting for the mosquito to land. I am filled with vengeance after the countless bites on my arm. Its taunting me somewhere i am sure! I remember seeing on the news where they had this solution-dipped cotton wool where all mosquitoes are attracted to. Can I conjure that kind of solution on my own?",
"How to attract and kill that single pesky mosquito? (Serious) So I've been sitting still in my room for the past 3 minutes with a can of spray in hand waiting for the mosquito to land. I am filled with vengeance after the countless bites on my arm. Its taunting me somewhere i am sure! I remember seeing on the news where they had this solution-dipped cotton wool where all mosquitoes are attracted to. Can I conjure that kind of solution on my own?",
"How to attract and kill that single pesky mosquito? (Serious) So I've been sitting still in my room for the past 3 minutes with a can of spray in hand waiting for the mosquito to land. I am filled with vengeance after the countless bites on my arm. Its taunting me somewhere i am sure! I remember seeing on the news where they had this solution-dipped cotton wool where all mosquitoes are attracted to. Can I conjure that kind of solution on my own?",
"How to attract and kill that single pesky mosquito? (Serious) So I've been sitting still in my room for the past 3 minutes with a can of spray in hand waiting for the mosquito to land. I am filled with vengeance after the countless bites on my arm. Its taunting me somewhere i am sure! I remember seeing on the news where they had this solution-dipped cotton wool where all mosquitoes are attracted to. Can I conjure that kind of solution on my own?"
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"I have this problem. Every. Fucking. Night. Especially when I try to sleep, the fucker ends up buzzing in my ear and waking me up, then disappearing into the darkness to lie in wait for me to fall asleep again. It makes me irrationally angry. So what I do, before sleeping, I cover every part of my body. Including my face, because given no other options the piece of shit will go for it. So I'm pretty much in a cocoon of blankets, or maybe a burka, but I stick out one ankle, or foot, and wait. It usually takes a while, but that skeeter will be tempted enough to go for it. And then I strike. I smack it extremely hard, usually while making my best Xena impression. I then gloat over its corpse for a while before going back to bed with a smile. \nYou can also find me crawling around my house hunting them during the evening. Like a cat. I have three cats but they're useless so I have to do it myself. ",
"Guys over the years I've hunted mosquitoes with couple of different hunting techniques and I gotta say tricks that worked in the past , don't work now. For example they used to land on the walls and now I swear to God I saw a mosquito hide in the door lock. Is it the internet ? Did they google \"How to hide from humans ?\"? \nAnyways couple of methods still work. \nGet an old T-shirt and wave around every hard to reach place. Often times it will get tricked into flying and you can trace to where it lands. Give it a moment to calm down after landing, to think it is safe there. Prepare your killing weapon. I like to use a big notebook and smash it so hard the paint comes off. \nMake sure you don't have space under the bed , as it's their favourite to hide and notoriously difficult for you to get it out. \nIf your mosquito have trained in the hidden leaf with Kakashi sensei like mine , things get more complicated. \nNothing you know will work. \nTo get it out , you have to play its game. Mosquitoes are attracted to the carbon dioxide we breath out. Place a glass with yeast,sugar and water some place with good vision. See where it comes out of , where it goes. You have to think like a mosquito to catch that mosquito. If it stills doesn't come out , you can combine it with the T-shirt technique. Eventually it will , and it will go to the yeast solution. You hide in the shadows and wait for the right opportunity. At this point you might wanna try flying kill technique with 2 notebooks and smash hard with all the force you have carefully not to smash the glass , as the only thing worse than a mosquito is 2 mosquitoes. Anyways hope I gave you some ideas. Cheers 🦟",
"you don't have to wait for it to land. if i know they're a round, i sit there with a spray bottle of windex. there is a sharp stream setting and a broader spray setting on the nozzle. use the broad spray setting. you don't have to be accurate. mosquitos don't charge in like kamikazes and bite. they get near and then start circling before they land. be patient. when it gets close and starts going back and forth, time it with a blast of windex from up to a foot away. dead skeeter. windex and duct tape solve most problems.",
"I used to have this problem until it occurred to me that I was more bothered by the taunting than I was by being bitten. So I put in earplugs, let it bite me, and slept fine for the rest of the night. I've been doing that ever since.",
"I don't have any LPTs for you, but if you already see it, just clap it between your hands while it flies. No need for spray. Mosquitoes aren't very fast."
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"How to overcome performance pressure? It's my everlasting habit of falling short whenever it comes to managing my emotions when judged by someone and I just become dumb as anything. Are there ways to practice to overcome this habit? And thank you for taking time to read it.",
"How to overcome performance pressure? It's my everlasting habit of falling short whenever it comes to managing my emotions when judged by someone and I just become dumb as anything. Are there ways to practice to overcome this habit? And thank you for taking time to read it.",
"How to overcome performance pressure? It's my everlasting habit of falling short whenever it comes to managing my emotions when judged by someone and I just become dumb as anything. Are there ways to practice to overcome this habit? And thank you for taking time to read it.",
"How to overcome performance pressure? It's my everlasting habit of falling short whenever it comes to managing my emotions when judged by someone and I just become dumb as anything. Are there ways to practice to overcome this habit? And thank you for taking time to read it.",
"How to overcome performance pressure? It's my everlasting habit of falling short whenever it comes to managing my emotions when judged by someone and I just become dumb as anything. Are there ways to practice to overcome this habit? And thank you for taking time to read it.",
"How to overcome performance pressure? It's my everlasting habit of falling short whenever it comes to managing my emotions when judged by someone and I just become dumb as anything. Are there ways to practice to overcome this habit? And thank you for taking time to read it.",
"How to overcome performance pressure? It's my everlasting habit of falling short whenever it comes to managing my emotions when judged by someone and I just become dumb as anything. Are there ways to practice to overcome this habit? And thank you for taking time to read it.",
"How to overcome performance pressure? It's my everlasting habit of falling short whenever it comes to managing my emotions when judged by someone and I just become dumb as anything. Are there ways to practice to overcome this habit? And thank you for taking time to read it."
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"Yes. Do it as much as possible. Instead of avoiding it, put yourself in the situation until you just don’t care and you feel free to live your life and be who you are. Age helps. Way harder when young, when older you do in fact care less. I went back to school as old student and had to overcome this. You just gotta live your life. Last, it turns out most people are involved in their own lives, and they don’t think or talk about you as much as we suspect they do.",
"In short, you have to practice the thing you want to get better at. And keep in mind, it takes approximately ten years to master any new skill. You’ll see awesome results along the way, but mastery takes time.\n\nIf you want to master controlling your emotions while being judged, you will need to put yourself repeatedly into situations that involve you knowing you are being evaluated.\n\nI 100% appreciate how emotionally challenging it is to practice new things. We all suck at most things we haven’t yet practiced. And practice is definitely uncomfortable and sometimes painful (like developing finger callouses as you practice guitar).\n\nUnfortunately, there is no easy button that will magically make you a master of stoicism in the face of judgement. Sure, it’s a natural gift for some, but not for you and I. Our mastery of it requires about ten years of practice.",
"It is not exactly performance pressure for me. It is mostly how you value those opinions. If you have low self worth and highly critical of yourself, any judgement can be used as an excuse to believe it and take it in.",
"Disassociate while it happens. It’s weird to say, but it’s what helped me when I was in theatre school. \n\nGetting “notes” as an actor is basically the director (and the rest of the creative team at dress rehearsals) walking back through the run you just did, and moment by moment, telling you what was bad/good/to never do again/what could still be better. \n\nIt helped me learn to see each note as a comment on how that performance was and not on the reasoning I made the choice to perform it that way. \n\nI also realize this is a weird comparison, and theatre feedback happens a lot more frequently than feedback in a business environment, so it’s something I had to adjust to quickly. \n\nNow I can get yelled at and only cry when I’m alone afterwards, lol.",
"Learn to focus on the job at hand. I've officiated sports for crowds in the thousands, it took practice after practice scrimmage after scrimmage to get to that confidence, honestly I didn't ref a game for my first season just practice and scrimmage... After a season or two I worked up to a leadership role and now I work with new officials teaching them how to tune one the crowds and focus on the work at hand.\n\nWhen I used to work pre-hospital emergency medicine, by the time my career was coming to an end, I was partnered with a fair amount of green people. One of the things I used to tell them in stressful situations where they needed to focus on their work, and life and death were the outcomes of the situation; \"did you do everything you were supposed to, did you follow protocol? Did you do everything you could do? If the answer to those questions is yes, take a deep breath and accept that you've done all that you could, and that situation was completely out of your hands. Now let's clean the truck and clear for the next call.\"",
"Eat a balanced diet, get some exercise, stop watching porn and get pills for erectile dysfunction.\n\nYou'll do better, I have faith.",
"Do you want to perform?\nAsk yourself this question.\nLike do you really wanna fucking perform.\nIf you really do, any amount of pressure will not be pressure, per se, but a sort of push.\nPush becomes pressure only if you are doing a thing you don't like or very much wanna do.",
"Learn from the words of the great philosophers that truly understand how to live your life:\n\nhttps://youtu.be/mzABW42AIhM?t=50"
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"How to avoid bedhead in the morning I (guy) generally take showers at night, which means my hair is a shitshow when I wake up in the morning. No amount of splashing water or manipulating it with my hands will help put it back into place and sometimes have to end up taking an additional shower just to deal with this.\n\n However, there are also days when it ends up just laying perfectly and I dont need to do anything to it.\n\n\nDoes anyone have any tips for either how to control hair upon waking up or prevent it in the first place?",
"How to avoid bedhead in the morning I (guy) generally take showers at night, which means my hair is a shitshow when I wake up in the morning. No amount of splashing water or manipulating it with my hands will help put it back into place and sometimes have to end up taking an additional shower just to deal with this.\n\n However, there are also days when it ends up just laying perfectly and I dont need to do anything to it.\n\n\nDoes anyone have any tips for either how to control hair upon waking up or prevent it in the first place?",
"How to avoid bedhead in the morning I (guy) generally take showers at night, which means my hair is a shitshow when I wake up in the morning. No amount of splashing water or manipulating it with my hands will help put it back into place and sometimes have to end up taking an additional shower just to deal with this.\n\n However, there are also days when it ends up just laying perfectly and I dont need to do anything to it.\n\n\nDoes anyone have any tips for either how to control hair upon waking up or prevent it in the first place?",
"How to avoid bedhead in the morning I (guy) generally take showers at night, which means my hair is a shitshow when I wake up in the morning. No amount of splashing water or manipulating it with my hands will help put it back into place and sometimes have to end up taking an additional shower just to deal with this.\n\n However, there are also days when it ends up just laying perfectly and I dont need to do anything to it.\n\n\nDoes anyone have any tips for either how to control hair upon waking up or prevent it in the first place?",
"How to avoid bedhead in the morning I (guy) generally take showers at night, which means my hair is a shitshow when I wake up in the morning. No amount of splashing water or manipulating it with my hands will help put it back into place and sometimes have to end up taking an additional shower just to deal with this.\n\n However, there are also days when it ends up just laying perfectly and I dont need to do anything to it.\n\n\nDoes anyone have any tips for either how to control hair upon waking up or prevent it in the first place?"
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"Why don't you just blowdry it before you go to bed at night? I know it's a girl thing but there's a reason why we use them. \n\nBarring that, shower right when you get home so your hair is dry by the time you go to bed",
"My grandma had a silk pillowcase that kept her hair-sprayed bouffant from getting messed up. Every morning she would just poke it back into shape, and once a week she would go for a shampoo and restyle.",
"I recommend a quick shampoo with your head hanging into the tub. Just wetting your hair can leave you with a musty smell as your hair dries, especially during hot weather. If you showered before bed, just use a tiny amount of shampoo; it will go a long way on hair that has been recently washed.",
"I just cut my hair. Try a bandanna. Make a triangle, put it over your head, take the tip that goes down your neck and tie it into the ties that go on the bottom of your head. It worked for me this morning. ",
"Use google more it will help.\n\nhttp://www.kickstarter.com/projects/830719214/morning-head-be-ready-in-5-seconds"
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"how to get toxic/ abusive people out of your life Emotionally abusive relationships are VERY difficult to end. They often leave the victim feeling depressed and having low self esteem. How do I get a person who has no respect for my feelings out of my life once and for all? It's not as simple as blocking their number.\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to get toxic/ abusive people out of your life Emotionally abusive relationships are VERY difficult to end. They often leave the victim feeling depressed and having low self esteem. How do I get a person who has no respect for my feelings out of my life once and for all? It's not as simple as blocking their number.\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to get toxic/ abusive people out of your life Emotionally abusive relationships are VERY difficult to end. They often leave the victim feeling depressed and having low self esteem. How do I get a person who has no respect for my feelings out of my life once and for all? It's not as simple as blocking their number.\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to get toxic/ abusive people out of your life Emotionally abusive relationships are VERY difficult to end. They often leave the victim feeling depressed and having low self esteem. How do I get a person who has no respect for my feelings out of my life once and for all? It's not as simple as blocking their number.\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to get toxic/ abusive people out of your life Emotionally abusive relationships are VERY difficult to end. They often leave the victim feeling depressed and having low self esteem. How do I get a person who has no respect for my feelings out of my life once and for all? It's not as simple as blocking their number.\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to get toxic/ abusive people out of your life Emotionally abusive relationships are VERY difficult to end. They often leave the victim feeling depressed and having low self esteem. How do I get a person who has no respect for my feelings out of my life once and for all? It's not as simple as blocking their number.\n\n\n\n\n",
"how to get toxic/ abusive people out of your life Emotionally abusive relationships are VERY difficult to end. They often leave the victim feeling depressed and having low self esteem. How do I get a person who has no respect for my feelings out of my life once and for all? It's not as simple as blocking their number.\n\n\n\n\n"
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"go to youtube and search 'bullies be gone toxic parents' and 'sam vaknin leaving abuser'. I studied psych for 4 years but I never saw anyone own a subject better than that guy, my god. All there...theoretical explanations and solid practical advice. \nYou have a mind and a body. They are both very important parts of you. Some guy starts stabbing your body, no one would disagree that you get away or call the police. Some guy starts stabbing your mind (and they CAN), everyone (inc me) be like 'ohhhh, time for some understanding, just get over it'. Fk that guy. Really. The damage can be much harder to heal than physical injuries. Fk that guy. ",
"My tip, cut all ties and remove yourself from their presence. Even if they try contact you, tell them you want nothing to do with them and leave it at that. Then wait.",
"I'm not expert at this, but what I would do to spend time with people that are good for you. Try to spend more time with them, so you're occupied and don't have time have toxic people around. ",
"I had a friend like that. She was extremely emotionally abusive to me. The worst part was that she wouldn't leave me alone. I tried telling her how I felt but she just denied everything. I did the passive aggressive thing by stopping to return her phone calls. She called and called and even wrote me letters, but I'm a million times better without her.\n",
"Toxic people take hostages and use everyone like liferafes. Just walk away and never reply to any calls or contact attempts. It's a big world and good people are everywhere.",
"I think there are probably other subs where you could get more specific advice if we had more information. Is this a partner, parent, friend, coworker...?",
"I had to deal with a business associate like this recently. Basically I warned him \"if you don't start treating me with respect ...\" then the next time he pulled something I cut off all ties without further warning. Blocked his email, telephone, etc.. When he sent emissaries rather than explaining why (which would have reopened a dialog) I said \"it is complicated and I don't want to discuss it.\"\n\nDone.\n\nJust break up"
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"It's only awkward when you aren't decisive. If you go in for a handshake then go for a handshake, they will conform to you and do what you want. If they don't then do not keep trying, back off and move on. ",
"Go in hard, get a firm grasp, lift your middle finger, bend it half way, move it back and forth at a steady pace. This move will tickle the other persons hand, 60% of the time works all the time."
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"How not to prick your nose throughout the day? I have allergies because of which I have cold throughout the year. Sometimes it's runny and sometimes it just solid in the nose. This irritates me a lot and I have a very bad habit of picking my nose. I pick them everywhere, office desk, restroom, sitting on the sofa. What are some tips to not do it apart from using a nasal spray, which I do and which relieves my cold for some day but then it comes back.\n\n",
"How not to prick your nose throughout the day? I have allergies because of which I have cold throughout the year. Sometimes it's runny and sometimes it just solid in the nose. This irritates me a lot and I have a very bad habit of picking my nose. I pick them everywhere, office desk, restroom, sitting on the sofa. What are some tips to not do it apart from using a nasal spray, which I do and which relieves my cold for some day but then it comes back.\n\n",
"How not to prick your nose throughout the day? I have allergies because of which I have cold throughout the year. Sometimes it's runny and sometimes it just solid in the nose. This irritates me a lot and I have a very bad habit of picking my nose. I pick them everywhere, office desk, restroom, sitting on the sofa. What are some tips to not do it apart from using a nasal spray, which I do and which relieves my cold for some day but then it comes back.\n\n",
"How not to prick your nose throughout the day? I have allergies because of which I have cold throughout the year. Sometimes it's runny and sometimes it just solid in the nose. This irritates me a lot and I have a very bad habit of picking my nose. I pick them everywhere, office desk, restroom, sitting on the sofa. What are some tips to not do it apart from using a nasal spray, which I do and which relieves my cold for some day but then it comes back.\n\n"
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"Take allergy medicine to stop the symptom. \n\nCover your finger tips in fecal matter to remind you not to put your fingers in your nose.",
"Blow your nose right after you get out of the shower. The moisture thins things out and cleans out some of the chunks. Helps to start the day cleaned out. Then try keeping a box of tissues visible at your desk to remind you to blow your nose (or go somewhere private to dig for gold using a tissue) \n\nGood luck!",
"Use allergy medications to try to prevent the symptoms before they start.\n\nIf you do find yourself with that annoying solid mass, excuse yourself to the restroom and take care of it like an adult.\n\nUnless you're in your car. Mining for gold while sitting in traffic is universally acceptable, at least based on my observations.",
"After reading the title and description 2x, I still can't determine if it's prick or typo for 'pick'... "
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"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!",
"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!",
"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!",
"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!",
"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!",
"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!",
"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!",
"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!",
"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!",
"How to NOT eavesdrop on office conversations that happen within earshot I've realized that I'm considered the nosy person in the office. People have conversations all around me (open office plan) and I can't help but hear them, even while concentrating on my work. I just can't help it! But when I giggle because I heard something funny, or whatever else the case may be, I get people thinking I'm being rude by listening in. I would love to turn off my ears for the workday, but I can't wear headphones because I have to answer sporadic phone calls. How do I ignore the people around me when I am not part of the conversation?\n\nMy coworkers and I thank you for any advice!"
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"It's not your responsibility to listen less, it's their responsibility to talk quieter. If you're talking loud enough to hear.. people will hear.\n\n",
"Our office is like this, only worse. Even the areas with walls and doors are thin and we have people intentionally eavesdropping & playing telephone, gossiping. \nThe worst thing about this is how much they suck at their actual job. \nThe point is; they really shouldn't be wasting a second on listening in. \n\nLPT:\nInstead of listening in on office chatter, zone in on tasks. Give yourself a daily set of goals to accomplish. I write mine on a notebook. \n\nWhen I get sidetracked by office noise, or interrupted by others I have my list to bring me back to my purpose at work and I'm better for it.",
"I work in a common office because the company I work for finds it cheaper to bunch people that have different jobs into one big office regardless of the job description. Some people have to interact with clients, some with production workers others like me, are busy with tasks where you need to be able to concentrate. I used to be able to hear conversations between people that sit 30-40 feet away. I've conditioned them to talk quieter by making stupid comments about something they said in their conversation.... they've gotten the message",
"Do they give you weird looks or make comments? Or are you assuming they think that?\n\nYou can try to make a joke, \"Hey guys, I am practicing eavesdropping for my second job as a spy. You're making it too easy for me.\"\n\nOr loudly ask a question related to the conversation - either truly relevant (Linda's having a baby?) or deliberately mis-heard to make it slightly less nosy (Linda's having gravy? Is there chicken for Everyone in the break room?)\n\nOr you can turn your attention to something else and put your entire focus on it. Silently, recite lyrics to a song, do math in your head, click to a tab that has challenging tasks (free rice.com or . Org) has been helpful, as us memorizing and reciting a poem with an uncomplicated rhyme scheme & predictable meter.\n\nIf possible, you can have 3 tabs open in the background: one funny, one sad, one that causes awe. If you do get caught participating, you can click on the appropriate tab and invite them over 'can you believe this? It's so funny/sad/amazing!\" Just make sure to find a new item once you've shown it to one person.\n\nOther options could be playing a radio/music at a low volume to cover them, a desk fan or other white noise machine, requesting higher cube walls, or to be relocated somewhere that is less distracting.\n\nEven just adding a sound-absorbing decorative wall-hanging to your cube wall may be of some help. \n\nAnd if it would be well-receives in your office culture, you could put up a goofy sign asking people to keep their voices down. Monkey dressed as a librarian in front of a bookcase, with its finger held in the shushing gesture, or a vintage 'quiet in the library' sign.\n\nIt all depends on your office culture and how your coworkers regard you.",
"You could always ignore them by leaving the area to do something else that needs to be done if that's a possibility, let them know that they're being a little too loud and obvious in what they're talking about that way they can't blame you for their loose lips, or just accept the fact that you're gonna hear them anyways and just keep it to yourself. Some things they say could prove useful later on as long as you use it tactfully. ",
"I have this issue too. I've had jobs where you need to keep an ear out to function and multi-task, so it's almost an instinct.\n\nIf you're talking in an open office environment, then people will hear. If it's not work related and/or they don't want people hearing, they need to get up and speak closer or lower their voices.\n\nMy new coworkers have shot me suspicious looks when I add to a conversation they thought I wasn't listening to, but they now whisper if they don't want me hearing. I am trying to work, as are others.\n\nWe have breakout rooms you can jump into if you need to use them, but I think they just resent that I'm pushing them to whisper. There's a cliquey atmosphere as well, so they do not like if try to jump into a group chat... But too bad.\n\nI can't wear headphones as I'm on a call queue and doing projects. I would otherwise.",
"I have a talkative cube neighbor. Headphones always do the trick. \n",
"Best I have found is to be as disinterested as possible in what they're talking about. So even if you hear then speak, it doesn't register. I have a loud mouth idiot who sits in the desk across the hall from me. She never shuts up, thankfully I am able to focus on my own work and not listen to what she's saying, even though I hear her.",
"Why can't you wear headphones because of calls? Surely your phone also lights up, blinks a light, vibrates or something visual as well? I've never seen an office phone that didn't also have a visual cue.",
"How about just not making audible responses. Don't giggle or gasp or add your two cents, and they won't know you were eavesdropping. "
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"How to stay cool in the heat? Summer is gaining on us quick where I live (Canada) and I usually get pretty miserable in the heat. Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I have also posted this in AskReddit. ",
"How to stay cool in the heat? Summer is gaining on us quick where I live (Canada) and I usually get pretty miserable in the heat. Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I have also posted this in AskReddit. ",
"How to stay cool in the heat? Summer is gaining on us quick where I live (Canada) and I usually get pretty miserable in the heat. Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I have also posted this in AskReddit. ",
"How to stay cool in the heat? Summer is gaining on us quick where I live (Canada) and I usually get pretty miserable in the heat. Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I have also posted this in AskReddit. ",
"How to stay cool in the heat? Summer is gaining on us quick where I live (Canada) and I usually get pretty miserable in the heat. Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I have also posted this in AskReddit. ",
"How to stay cool in the heat? Summer is gaining on us quick where I live (Canada) and I usually get pretty miserable in the heat. Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I have also posted this in AskReddit. ",
"How to stay cool in the heat? Summer is gaining on us quick where I live (Canada) and I usually get pretty miserable in the heat. Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I have also posted this in AskReddit. ",
"How to stay cool in the heat? Summer is gaining on us quick where I live (Canada) and I usually get pretty miserable in the heat. Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I have also posted this in AskReddit. ",
"How to stay cool in the heat? Summer is gaining on us quick where I live (Canada) and I usually get pretty miserable in the heat. Just wondering if anyone has any tips. I have also posted this in AskReddit. "
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"For reference: I'm a Marine with three tours in countries that get to 120*F during the summers.\n\nThe best way is acclimation.... But I assume you're more acclimated to snow, polar bears, and skating on ice with sticks and a puck.\n\nWear light, loose-fitting clothing.\nLight, as in lighter fabrics (weight), and even light colors on the spectrum. Loose as in non-restrictive and not always tight against your skin (not baggy). You're looking for airflow... Through the wrists, neck, and waist. Airflow will prevent you from sweating too much, whereas if you have clothing that is tight against your skin (in areas with lots of sweat glands like the wrists, armpits, and crotch), you will sweat more in these areas. Any place without airflow will cause sweat on the skin. Wearing a backpack? Expect sweat on your back and shoulders. Wearing a watch? Sweat will be on your wrist.\n\nTry to keep it natural in materials.... Nylon/polyester is not your friend. Cotton is your best buddy (and the underarmour stuff is okay, too, just not the crazy-tight stuff). Jeans are not cool... Khakis are much lighter and better in the heat. Hiking clothes are pretty good as well.\n\nIf you're worried about getting sunburnt, wear pants and a light loose-ish longsleeve. If not, then go wild. Shorts are better for the heat, but sunburn is not fun.\n\nDrink water. Not coffee, not monster.... Water. Water in your system keeps your body running more efficiently, thus improving your body's ability to regulate temperature, and helps you perform physical tasks without getting all dehydrated and tired. I cannot say this enough.... If you're feeling the effects of the heat, you need to drink water. Headache? Water. If you sweat? Water. Bored? Water. You pee? Water.\n\nHeat escapes the most through your head, feet, and crotch areas. If you want.... Cut your hair shorter, wear sandals (or at least thin socks in your shoes), and try boxers. It's a great time to get a new haircut... You instantly feel cooler with less hair on your head (beware of sunburn if you go really short, though).\n\nShade is now your friend. Shade will always be on the southern side of things in the middle of the day, since we're in the northern hemisphere. Limit strenuous activity in direct sunlight if you can.... Walk slowly in direct sunlight if possible.\n\nIf applicable, stop taking weight-loss supplements, which raise your heart rate. Caffeine can also fall into this category. The faster your heart pumps, the more heat your body creates, thus you feel hotter at all times.\n\nIf applicable, take a small (clean) rag with you to wipe away sweat from your body.\n\nKnow the signs of heat exhaustion. Know how to treat it.....And if you feel woozy, self-apply the remedies.\n\nFor the home... Airflow. Open a window (from the shady side of the house if possible), and put a fan there to blow the air into your place. If you can open another window/door on the other side of the room/condo, it will create a breeze, and save on A/C costs.... Works really well.\n\nFor the car... Slightly open the windows when parked. While driving, open the passenger side windows (front and back) about 2-3 inches (5cm), which somehow creates airflow around the car and back to the driver's seat in most cars. Or just open everything while driving.\n\n....and don't forget sunscreen. Neck, face, ears, etc..",
"Here's what I do in order to keep away the heat: \n\n-eating icecubes. Not everybody likes it, but imo it helps a lot\n-showering without drying off the water afterwards\n-getting one of these baby pools that are only a few cm deep to keep your feet in the water\n-when its cold at night opening all windows to let in cool air, then closing them in the mornings and shutting all blinds\n\nDrinking lots & lots of water if it is hot might not be a bad idea aswell ;)",
"I hate the heat.\nA 2 story house has been a must for us. During the summer the bottom floor stays a lot cooler than the upper one so we spend most of the time there.\n\nInstead of always cranking the central a/c, we got a portable unit that we use to cool down the bedroom for a few hours before bed. Once the walls and insulation manage to cool down a bit it usually keeps the room cool enough to sleep all night without having to run it all the time.\n\nFor your car, garage storage is a must (if you have one). A car out in the sun takes forever to cool down and you will already start to be sweaty and miserable by the time it gets to a comfortable level.",
"Listen to Ice Cube. I hear he's pretty chill. \n\nSeriously though, if you can find some sort of reflective material for your car front and rear wind shields, as well chilling glasses before drinking, makes your beverage of choice cooler faster than regular ice cubes. ",
"soaking rags/clothing in cool water and then putting it on/draping it on you. Also if you let it dry out most of the way allows you to still do normal dry clothes things \n",
"Rinse your hands under cold water for a couple minutes. Air dry after.\n\nA fan in front of a big bowl of ice makes a nice chill breeze.\n\nLight loose clothing helps to keep you cool - look at what they wear in the middle east - it isn't because its fashionable, it's because loose flowy robes allow a lot of ventilation and keep you cooler.\n\nBuy a window fan, and have it exhaust during the day - pulling hot air out of the house. Have it intake at night - bringing cool air in.\n\nStay strong, my fellow Canadian!",
"It depends on whether the area you are in has dry or humid heat. Having come from a hot, dry climate, a fan pointed at you and a bucket of water with a washcloth to wipe yourself over with is a cheap and effective cooling solution.",
"something I forgot to mention is that staying inside in AC makes the heat feel worse. By staying inside and getting used to being at 70 degrees F all day, when you step outside it feels so much hotter. Instead, try and stay outside to the best of your ability and ventilate your house well with outside air. \n\nI live in Texas with 100+ degree days for months and by being outside almost all day for a good portion it stops feeling nearly as bad (still hot, AC still is appreciated)\n",
"[Chilly Pad](http://www.amazon.com/ProActive-Frogg-Togg-Chilly-Blue/dp/B003YF7W22). Someone suggested one of these for my June Trip to Disney World. Amazing. "
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"I carry a small but good quality pocketknife with me most of the time, and keep it sharp. In addition to opening letters, trimming fingernails, etc., it is good for those blasted plastic containers; just slice through the packaging on 3 of the 4 sides.\n\nIf you do use a knife, make sure it is sharp. You're far more likely to cut yourself pushing hard on a dull knife than you are pushing lightly on a sharp knife. ",
"I'm genuinely shocked that companies haven't been sued over this packaging yet. I have personally cut my hands open on the stuff before."
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"How to sleep early and fast. I used to go to sleep before 10pm when i was in school. got into college and started sleeping at 2-3AM due to studies. Spent everyday with less than 5-6 hours of sleep. I do exercise every evening and go for an hour long walk but still can't sleep before midnight. Even when i try to sleep before 12 o clock i wake up at 2AM and can't sleep again. Happens everyday now.",
"How to sleep early and fast. I used to go to sleep before 10pm when i was in school. got into college and started sleeping at 2-3AM due to studies. Spent everyday with less than 5-6 hours of sleep. I do exercise every evening and go for an hour long walk but still can't sleep before midnight. Even when i try to sleep before 12 o clock i wake up at 2AM and can't sleep again. Happens everyday now.",
"How to sleep early and fast. I used to go to sleep before 10pm when i was in school. got into college and started sleeping at 2-3AM due to studies. Spent everyday with less than 5-6 hours of sleep. I do exercise every evening and go for an hour long walk but still can't sleep before midnight. Even when i try to sleep before 12 o clock i wake up at 2AM and can't sleep again. Happens everyday now.",
"How to sleep early and fast. I used to go to sleep before 10pm when i was in school. got into college and started sleeping at 2-3AM due to studies. Spent everyday with less than 5-6 hours of sleep. I do exercise every evening and go for an hour long walk but still can't sleep before midnight. Even when i try to sleep before 12 o clock i wake up at 2AM and can't sleep again. Happens everyday now.",
"How to sleep early and fast. I used to go to sleep before 10pm when i was in school. got into college and started sleeping at 2-3AM due to studies. Spent everyday with less than 5-6 hours of sleep. I do exercise every evening and go for an hour long walk but still can't sleep before midnight. Even when i try to sleep before 12 o clock i wake up at 2AM and can't sleep again. Happens everyday now.",
"How to sleep early and fast. I used to go to sleep before 10pm when i was in school. got into college and started sleeping at 2-3AM due to studies. Spent everyday with less than 5-6 hours of sleep. I do exercise every evening and go for an hour long walk but still can't sleep before midnight. Even when i try to sleep before 12 o clock i wake up at 2AM and can't sleep again. Happens everyday now.",
"How to sleep early and fast. I used to go to sleep before 10pm when i was in school. got into college and started sleeping at 2-3AM due to studies. Spent everyday with less than 5-6 hours of sleep. I do exercise every evening and go for an hour long walk but still can't sleep before midnight. Even when i try to sleep before 12 o clock i wake up at 2AM and can't sleep again. Happens everyday now."
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"In the mornings, get as much natural light in your eyes as healthily possible, you can do this with a light therapy lamp or room lights but sunlight even under cloud cover is so much better.\n\nYour eyes have those cells called melanopsin ganglion cells. These are angled roughly skywards, these measure light... these do set your rythm together with temperature.. you pretty much need a signal to know it is a new day just as much as \"yo it is night, time to sleep\".\n\nThese cells are also the reason why office skylights and desk ergonomics have monitors placed slightly above eyeline. It keeps you alert as you do not drown these out. \n\nAcross the day, workout and exercise, do not do it too late as that keeps u awake.\n\nCaffeine can be waited 30 min to 2 hours after wakeup to buffer that mid day sleepiness you get from shoving the rest adenosine from the morning around, instead it gets used up while you are still sleepy anyway. \n\nDo not nap. if you need to do so:, do so but by keeping it under an hour you generally don't undercut sleep later.. you see your sleep signaling is kinda sleep pressure. By napping you basically release the pressure valve\n\n\nKnow caffeine has a half life of 8 hours.\n\nKnow alcohol is not a sleep aid, you may think you sleep well but you just undercut sleep quality.\n\nAs the day progresses, get less and less direct light, the later in the day the worse blue light will be, interestingly by observing the dusk or the sundown our body seems to be kinda buffered from the effects of phone screens at least a bit according to sleep expert matthew walker, so our bodies can kinda maintain that rythm if the signaling is strong enough. \n\nTo fall asleep we need a temperature drop of a few degrees. Your limbs are heat vents. So being in a slightly cooler room with your limbs out from the sheet makes you fall asleep faster.\n\nTo elaborate here. The wakeup signal actually comes from your body reaching it's so called thermal minimum. It is like a temperature based clock. Hence why we wake up in hot summer nights often \n\nDo breathing exercises or m",
"Melatonin gummies, they can be bought at Target or Walmart next to the vitamins. I used to have martial arts practice that ended at 11:30PM, and even though I was in bed by 12:30, I could never fall asleep until 4AM. The gummies kick in after an hour, and keep you asleep for a solid 7-9 hours.",
"If you drink coffee, you have no idea what it's doing to you. Try taking a week off coffee and watch your sleep problems go away.",
"Don't do exercise in evening as it makes your body active, if you wanna do please do it in the morning and don't watch screen before bed.",
"Frankly, I would just take some pills. \nBut, if you're not comfortable taking pills **for any reason,** try maintaining a more balanced diet with a lot of vegetables, but remember to always go to bed on an empty stomach(This may be especially difficult, but important nonetheless). \nI guess I don't need to stress how important it is to empty your mind and try to shut out all thoughts. \nI also know some people who have some success with ASMR videos. \n**The only other solution(thing) I can think of** is getting a new mattress.\n\nGood luck. I hope you find something that works. \nLet us know.",
"Take Amino Acids.\n\nI started taking them for building muscle but I noticed that they help me sleep right away and to stay asleep all night.\n\nTake them right before bedtime.\n\nTake the BCAA type.",
"Get a set of headphones that is on a headband, instead of the kind that goes in your ear. Use these and listen to a guided m"
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"How to get through Airport security without items stolen? I have accepted a job offer in Canada but the downside is I will need to move. I will need to fly to my destination with whatever I can carry and will be unable to move any furniture. \n\nI will need to carry a good amount of electronics with me on the flight so I was wondering how I could protect myself from theft. \n\nMy bags are not designer or anything like that, but they are relatively new. I will try to carry on everything I can, but I was wondering how to protect the luggage from theft especially since TSA fucked up and anyone has a key to their line of locks. I also do know about the zipper pen trick. \n\nI find it ironic that I have to fear the government agency from stealing my items that is meant to protect us from danger.",
"How to get through Airport security without items stolen? I have accepted a job offer in Canada but the downside is I will need to move. I will need to fly to my destination with whatever I can carry and will be unable to move any furniture. \n\nI will need to carry a good amount of electronics with me on the flight so I was wondering how I could protect myself from theft. \n\nMy bags are not designer or anything like that, but they are relatively new. I will try to carry on everything I can, but I was wondering how to protect the luggage from theft especially since TSA fucked up and anyone has a key to their line of locks. I also do know about the zipper pen trick. \n\nI find it ironic that I have to fear the government agency from stealing my items that is meant to protect us from danger.",
"How to get through Airport security without items stolen? I have accepted a job offer in Canada but the downside is I will need to move. I will need to fly to my destination with whatever I can carry and will be unable to move any furniture. \n\nI will need to carry a good amount of electronics with me on the flight so I was wondering how I could protect myself from theft. \n\nMy bags are not designer or anything like that, but they are relatively new. I will try to carry on everything I can, but I was wondering how to protect the luggage from theft especially since TSA fucked up and anyone has a key to their line of locks. I also do know about the zipper pen trick. \n\nI find it ironic that I have to fear the government agency from stealing my items that is meant to protect us from danger.",
"How to get through Airport security without items stolen? I have accepted a job offer in Canada but the downside is I will need to move. I will need to fly to my destination with whatever I can carry and will be unable to move any furniture. \n\nI will need to carry a good amount of electronics with me on the flight so I was wondering how I could protect myself from theft. \n\nMy bags are not designer or anything like that, but they are relatively new. I will try to carry on everything I can, but I was wondering how to protect the luggage from theft especially since TSA fucked up and anyone has a key to their line of locks. I also do know about the zipper pen trick. \n\nI find it ironic that I have to fear the government agency from stealing my items that is meant to protect us from danger."
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"Can you ship your valuables to yourself separately? Pay the fee to insure it for a lot and the shipper will make everyone with access sigh it in and out. I wouldn't put anything that was attractive to steal into checked luggage.",
"Pelican boxes are the way to go if you are worried about pen tricks, and shit. You do have to put your own locks, I would recommend ones that are harder to pick (stay away from cheap locks) - these boxes can't be opened through the pen method. ",
"If you can, mail it to yourself at your new address.\nIf you can't do that, ask your employer if you can send your (computer, Xbox, whatever) to the office to pick up later.\nIf that won't work, ask a fellow employee of you can send it to their house.",
"If you live in the U.S.\nBuy a gun (flare guns and starter guns work too) and check it in your bag, then if they do check your bag, they are required to have you present during them checking it."
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"moving on from my long-distance ex I (20m) broke up with my long distance partner at the beginning of the semester, and it’s been pretty tough. We still talk (albeit less and it’s definitely very different from how we spoke before. We didn’t talk for a month at the beginning but then started talking again) but it still hurts. I know I need to move on, but part of me (most of me) doesn’t want to. Any tips for how to do this? I miss her lots and I know that the breakup was the right choice for me mental health wise but it still hurts a metric fuck ton :/. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!!\n\n",
"moving on from my long-distance ex I (20m) broke up with my long distance partner at the beginning of the semester, and it’s been pretty tough. We still talk (albeit less and it’s definitely very different from how we spoke before. We didn’t talk for a month at the beginning but then started talking again) but it still hurts. I know I need to move on, but part of me (most of me) doesn’t want to. Any tips for how to do this? I miss her lots and I know that the breakup was the right choice for me mental health wise but it still hurts a metric fuck ton :/. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!!\n\n",
"moving on from my long-distance ex I (20m) broke up with my long distance partner at the beginning of the semester, and it’s been pretty tough. We still talk (albeit less and it’s definitely very different from how we spoke before. We didn’t talk for a month at the beginning but then started talking again) but it still hurts. I know I need to move on, but part of me (most of me) doesn’t want to. Any tips for how to do this? I miss her lots and I know that the breakup was the right choice for me mental health wise but it still hurts a metric fuck ton :/. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!!\n\n",
"moving on from my long-distance ex I (20m) broke up with my long distance partner at the beginning of the semester, and it’s been pretty tough. We still talk (albeit less and it’s definitely very different from how we spoke before. We didn’t talk for a month at the beginning but then started talking again) but it still hurts. I know I need to move on, but part of me (most of me) doesn’t want to. Any tips for how to do this? I miss her lots and I know that the breakup was the right choice for me mental health wise but it still hurts a metric fuck ton :/. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!!\n\n",
"moving on from my long-distance ex I (20m) broke up with my long distance partner at the beginning of the semester, and it’s been pretty tough. We still talk (albeit less and it’s definitely very different from how we spoke before. We didn’t talk for a month at the beginning but then started talking again) but it still hurts. I know I need to move on, but part of me (most of me) doesn’t want to. Any tips for how to do this? I miss her lots and I know that the breakup was the right choice for me mental health wise but it still hurts a metric fuck ton :/. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated!!\n\n"
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"Brother... let me lend out a hand and invite you to the gym. Go lift and forget, let what has happen to you motivate you to become a beast.",
"You can respect her as a person, and try to not be horny for her. At your age, agreed, not being horny is difficult.\n\nTake a look at yourself. Who are you? Where are you going? What do you want to be? These are the existential questions that should occupy your mind at this age.\n\nSure, women are a part of that. You had one and now she is no longer there. But no is no. And life goes on. Other opportunities will present themselves. Just don't force it. Be a nice man and I'm convinced you will encounter a nice woman. They're on the prowl too.\n\nPro tip: money is not everything. Women like attention. Listen to what they say and respond appropriately, give them the occasional gift such as flowers, chocolate, or a fancy lunch. That is the way to win their heart.",
"Instead of investing that energy in thoughts of her you need to train your brain to think about you. When you miss her say to yourself, \"what could i use this energy for to invest in myself?\" And then do one thing for yourself be it taking a short walk/run, doing your laundry, going to get a haircut, or studying more... whatever needs to get done. Thoughts of her need to transform into thoughts about your own wellness and success.",
"one tip i got from my grandma after i had a pretty rough break up, was to have as much rebound sex as possible. Girls, boys, dogs, watermelons. Whatever you can get ur stinky little fingers on!!",
"Have you tried pursuing another girl? There should be lots available and maybe in the same situation around campus. Study dates with classmates, chatting them up a parties, going on the dating apps if need be. Rebounding isn't necessarily wrong or unhealthy. Maybe you'll find someone new and close by."
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"Software/Website for college-level citations I am starting college now and am having to write research papers. In high school I would always use Noodletools to create bibliographies for papers, but I feel like I need to get a better system. What I liked about Noodletools was that it had notecards, so I could essentially write a paper in my citations. I have been thinking about using EndNote, but does that have a notecard type function?",
"Software/Website for college-level citations I am starting college now and am having to write research papers. In high school I would always use Noodletools to create bibliographies for papers, but I feel like I need to get a better system. What I liked about Noodletools was that it had notecards, so I could essentially write a paper in my citations. I have been thinking about using EndNote, but does that have a notecard type function?",
"Software/Website for college-level citations I am starting college now and am having to write research papers. In high school I would always use Noodletools to create bibliographies for papers, but I feel like I need to get a better system. What I liked about Noodletools was that it had notecards, so I could essentially write a paper in my citations. I have been thinking about using EndNote, but does that have a notecard type function?",
"Software/Website for college-level citations I am starting college now and am having to write research papers. In high school I would always use Noodletools to create bibliographies for papers, but I feel like I need to get a better system. What I liked about Noodletools was that it had notecards, so I could essentially write a paper in my citations. I have been thinking about using EndNote, but does that have a notecard type function?",
"Software/Website for college-level citations I am starting college now and am having to write research papers. In high school I would always use Noodletools to create bibliographies for papers, but I feel like I need to get a better system. What I liked about Noodletools was that it had notecards, so I could essentially write a paper in my citations. I have been thinking about using EndNote, but does that have a notecard type function?",
"Software/Website for college-level citations I am starting college now and am having to write research papers. In high school I would always use Noodletools to create bibliographies for papers, but I feel like I need to get a better system. What I liked about Noodletools was that it had notecards, so I could essentially write a paper in my citations. I have been thinking about using EndNote, but does that have a notecard type function?"
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"Your college probably has reference librarians that will help. Many college libraries have a subscription service that generates citations, and the librarians know how to use it. \n\nAlso, many electronic databases have a button next to each article listing which will auto-generate a citation. Another option is to plug the title into google scholar, which will auto-generate the citation in APA, MLA, etc. Beware, though, because many auto-generated citations have minor typos, and need to be proofed.",
"I'm not familiar with noodletools, but I'm in university and regularly use both zotero and bibme. I'm not sure what you mean by a notecard function, but you can create annotations in them. \n\nAlso, if you're using a recentish ",
"[EastBib](http://www.easybib.com/) lets you choose the format (ALA, Chicago, MLA, etc.) your professor or college prefers.",
"Use a program called Zotero, it is honestly ridiculously useful. It lets an icon pop up in your search bar. If you click on that icon it will automatically create a date entry for whatever pdf or website you are on. You can then organize your entries, manually enter your own, and create notes and Bibliographies from them. ",
"For organizing your journals, try JabRef. It's free. I'm just starting to use this software, I think it's pretty simple.",
"Another vote for Zotero, but since you didn't mention if you're using Word or LaTeX or some other "
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"How to attach a usb key without a ring to keys Wondering if any people out there have a solution to this issue? this is the usb for it it might help http://www.hitechreview.com/uploads/2010/12/Adata-S102-USB-3.0-flash-drive-2.jpg",
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"Adhesive velco. \n\nPut a loop around a ring, and fit the other half to the USB. Use the whole surface of one of the flat sides for maximum stick. Bonus: It's quick release.",
"Wrap a paper clip around it perhaps even two joined together by a western union splice ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Western_Union_splice ) so you can go around 2 times. At the other end fashion a loop and trim off the excess.\n\nYou can even join 3 paper clips together and it might look pretty neat.\n\n",
"Lazy way? Take a piece of duct tape longer than the circumference, put it around and use the extra to make a sort of \"tab\" on the side, cut/punch a hole in the tab. attach keyring through hole.",
"Sturdy rubber band will solve the issue. Maybe use an adhesive like blue tack. That way you can pull everything off later if you don't want it to ever be on a keychain. "
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"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. ",
"How to stop dwelling on past events and guilt For example, I said something mean to someone two years ago and it still bugs me for no particular reason. "
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"Here's something I do whenever I start thinking about a regret or an embarrassing incident: think about the incident and then one example of how you've done the complete opposite. Example: someone you screwed over no longer wants to talk to you... instead of thinking about how shitty of a person you are, think about how you learned from it and did your best to make the ones in your life happy. Instead of focusing on the negative things in your life, you'll focus on the lessons learned and how things turned positive.",
"You said it bugs you for no reason , it bugs you because you were mean . Face up to it but move on and try not to be mean in the future ... ",
"Forgive yourself, we all make stupid decisions, say the wrong things, do the wrong things. Just forgive yourself your past",
"Every single human being has ALWAYS done what makes most sense to them in the moment. Never has anyone done anything that did not make sense to them in that specific moment (even though it might look otherwise). That includes you and me. We're humans. We do our best. You have done your best up until now, and you will continue to do what's logical to you going forward. Note, I'm not saying that everything we've done necessarily makes sense to us any more, but knowing that we at that time, in that specific moment, we actually did what we did. And that's it. It apparently made sense to us in THAT moment. It does not mean it makes sense to us now. It may seem crazy to us today, and it can be easy to create thought-monsters and start believing we're less worthy because we've done something that is not aligned with our values today, but.. we grow, we change. You don't have to beat yourself over a bad experience. You're smarter now, you've learned a ton since that time. Right now you know better, and that's what matters; now. The shorter time you need to look back before you giggle of how you where thinking, the faster you grow. And remember, ALL of this is just thoughts/ideas/perception/illusions. Whatever you're experiencing is still just a thought-generated experience.",
"Apologize to them. I used to feel this way for about 15 years over stealing some money off someone before (I know, it was really shitty of me and I felt terrible about it). I apologized, they forgave me, and now I don't think about it except to never do something like that again.",
"The past is the past. It's out of your control. Learn what you can from it. But let it go, even if you don't forget about it stop feeling guilty or embarrassed. Check out /r/stoicism This kind of question comes up from time to time. ",
"Have you thought about apologizing? It can be weird to try to dig up the opportunity, but there are worse things to have a person hold against you than an awkward apology - like not apologizing at all.\n\nSaying something mean and doing something embarrassing are two different things (even though you can be embarrassed by your mean actions). In this case, I think you should almost embrace your guilt and don't forget what it means to be a nice person. It will make it easier for you to recognize how nice of a person you really are.\n\n",
"Think about something similar he/she said to anyone, do you think about it often? No. Do other people remember it? No. It doesn't even have to be the person you something to.",
"There are many forms of m",
"Spend some time in nature alone. It's a good time to review your past, in a non-stressful setting. Kind of a m",
" “...You’re feeling bad, so you start thinking ‘Oh, what a waste of space, I’m a burden.’ You forget that also describes the Grand Canyon. ‘Oh, but I owe people a lot of money, everybody hates me.’ Hello, Europe! \n‘Oh, but I killed someone!’ So, onion rings, firecrackers, who gives a shit? \n‘Oh, but I’ve done some other horrible, unforgivable, unspeakable thing.’ There’s…79 billion of us now. Uh…Google it. Someone has done exactly what you have done, or worse, and is currently on a book tour. \nYOU’RE NEVER ALONE!”\n— Maria Bamford"
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"A way to organize headbands I am a big fan of headbands, but I can't seem to find a good way to keep them organized. Some have flowers or ribbons, and keeping them in a drawer flattens the headband decorations.\n\nAny suggestions?",
"A way to organize headbands I am a big fan of headbands, but I can't seem to find a good way to keep them organized. Some have flowers or ribbons, and keeping them in a drawer flattens the headband decorations.\n\nAny suggestions?",
"A way to organize headbands I am a big fan of headbands, but I can't seem to find a good way to keep them organized. Some have flowers or ribbons, and keeping them in a drawer flattens the headband decorations.\n\nAny suggestions?",
"A way to organize headbands I am a big fan of headbands, but I can't seem to find a good way to keep them organized. Some have flowers or ribbons, and keeping them in a drawer flattens the headband decorations.\n\nAny suggestions?",
"A way to organize headbands I am a big fan of headbands, but I can't seem to find a good way to keep them organized. Some have flowers or ribbons, and keeping them in a drawer flattens the headband decorations.\n\nAny suggestions?",
"A way to organize headbands I am a big fan of headbands, but I can't seem to find a good way to keep them organized. Some have flowers or ribbons, and keeping them in a drawer flattens the headband decorations.\n\nAny suggestions?",
"A way to organize headbands I am a big fan of headbands, but I can't seem to find a good way to keep them organized. Some have flowers or ribbons, and keeping them in a drawer flattens the headband decorations.\n\nAny suggestions?"
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"I went to Ross and bought a 3 dollar, wide rimmed decorative glass vase, and I have all of my head bands around the rim (half in, half out) It sits on top of a shelf in my bathroom. It looks neat and I can see all of my headbands.",
"A full roll of paper towels. You can run string though it and hang it on your doorknob. The headbands will fit on it perfectly.",
"I worked at a place that sold headbands and wall decals (in addition to other things), we used the [paper tubes](http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_WNk-4IQdmow/S-M1HgDvm4I/AAAAAAAACck/8w-0t6LJN_U/s1600/chalk+tube+002.JPG) to display the headbands. You might be able to find a mailing tube the right width.",
"- Buy or make a pretty round pillow. Crochet or knit?\n\n- Roll up a towel or bolt of fabric.\n\n- Ha found this: [Quaker Oatmeal Box](http://www.theribbonretreat.com/blog/headband-holders.html)\n\n- Google Images: [How to organize headbands](http://www.google.com/search?q=how+to+organize+headbands&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&ie=UTF-8&hl=en&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=cRRDT5urCKmpiQLMsLWVAQ&biw=1280&bih=673&sei=fxRDT42UCu3KiAKMwvG_AQ)",
"If your bed has pillars/poles on the sides, you could wrap them around the pillars. [Exaggerated Example](http://imgur.com/cBlO5)",
"I use my spare towel rack. Alternately you can buy an extra towel rack.\n\nI was at my boss's house once and his wife used one of those wall decors that are fabric with ribbons buttoned on? Know what I'm talking about...? I'll find a picture. Anyway, she slid her daughters headbands in there.\n\n",
"I have long hair and a lot of hair accessories. I bought a small two drawer organizer and some super cheap plastic containers-like for leftovers. Rubber bands, hair pins, barrettes go in the containers placed in a drawer and the hair bands & hair pieces go in plastic bags in the drawer. The whole thing fits under the sink. "
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"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n",
"How to catch up on life quickly? Hey Reddit! (hopefully I understand the rules correctly)\n\n[Background] The last 7 years I've been battling anxiety disorders after a couple tragic events and have been on disability & staying with family as a result. I have a computer degree but no real career opportunities. I play a lot of WoW and new releases as my primary hobby and as a means to fill lacking basic human social needs. The years have definitely taken their toll on my personality, being cultured, drive, ambition, and what I can offer a woman. \n\n[Situation] I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma. Neither of us have been married or have kids so that was a major plus. We're a great match in most categories. I fell for her over the course of a month. She cares a lot about me too but she needs someone who already has their life sorted out. In that regard I'm on the verge of losing her if I can't pull my side of mutual goals together. Starting a life with her contains the things I want most in life (ex: life together, family). The passion for me to pull things together quickly is there but misguided obviously.\n\n[Request] What's the fastest possible way I can get caught up in life in terms of culture/personality, finding a fast computer job having a degree but no experience, and creating the conditions that give a woman infrastructural reassurance?\n\n"
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"Before you have even started you are putting incredibly pressure and expectations on yourself to change drastically and have a career, get married and have kids. \n\nEverything *takes time*\n\nYou are still working through a lot of personal aspects and events and it sounds like you are still healing. \n\nPersonally, I would recommend limiting you time on WoW and replacing it with something with a bit more of a return such as yoga or going to the gym or even taking regular walks or runs, completing a course online, starting a new hobby *away from the computer*\n\nHas she said this to you that she needs someone who has their life sorted? If she knows your past then perhaps she would be willing to understand why you are in the position you are in and that it will take time becoming more established. \n\nWrite our your goals, in order of what you want to achieve them, make a plan of how you will achieve them: less Wow, job hunting etc and through time things will start to follow naturally. It depends on the woman you are dating if she is willing to stick by your a support you in your journey.\n\nBest of luck to you ",
"Two broken people go nowhere. It's the most ubiquitous example of \"the blind leading the blind\". Don't worry about your SO. Do what's best for you. If things go south with your SO the one person that is guaranteed to be around is YOU! ",
"If you're serious... Here's exactly what I'd do: Wake up early. Pee. Floss, brush, and rinse your teeth. Work out. Don't forget to stretch. Drink water while checking out minimally BBC News' main page; you're going to get informed, it's important for interviews and life. Shower, use a face wash/scrub. Pluck your unibrow, use a facial moisturizer with SPF, put some product in your hair. Eat a healthy breakfast while watching a popular TV show. Pick something big right now (Game of Thrones, House of Cards, The Walking Dead, Cosmos, Breaking Bad, Arrow, Big Bang Theory, Suits, Grimm, you get it) and use it as a break/reward between productive activities in the future. Bonus, it gives you a common talking point with a lot of people. Now start writing your resume/CV, even if it's meager. There's plenty of good examples out there. Get a few people to read it and make suggestions. Play some WoW, if that's what you like, you deserve it in your day. It's your life and you have to enjoy it! Eat a healthy lunch. If cooking is new to you, start looking for healthy recipes you can get excited for and go grocery shopping. Don't go overboard at first, start small and work your way up. Cooking is intimidating, but following a recipe usually isn't as bad as you think, and healthy food can be delicious too! Bonus, girlfriends love SOs that can cook. Now that it's the afternoon/evening, make a LinkedIn, upload your resume, start making connections. You better have a professional e-mail, if not make a gmail with your name in it preferably. You may want to take a professional photo sometime, CVS does them pretty cheap. Have a small unhealthy cheat snack (; I know I can't resist. Watch another episode of that show. Maybe two... Eat a healthy dinner. Start looking for job opportunities in your area. Watch another episode or play a little Wow, although ideally start reading a book instead (any book will do). Have a healthy snack if you're hungry. Start winding down for bed by preparing for the next day, whether that be laundry or cleaning or whatever you do. Floss, brush, and rinse your teeth. Drink water, a full bladder is sometimes the only thing that gets me out of bed in the morning. Good night Dutchrend... Now repeat the next day, and the next. Keep working on your resume, start applying for jobs. You may have to update your wardrobe, try going for a more business casual look. You may need a suit for interviews. In the long term, try doing something new every week, see a new movie, walk in a new park, try a new coffee shop. Join an interest club, volunteering club, running club, any club where you can get yourself out there and start meeting and interacting with people. I know it must be difficult and frustrating, but the only way to improve socially is to practice, even if that means there are awkward moments at times. Always bring a positive attitude, this is the best contribution you can make to a conversation. I realize this may be too extensive... You have to want it for you and want it enough to stick with these changes in the long run. It's great that your girlfriend motivates and supports you, but at the end of the day you can only depend on yourself to change your life. You are in control and you can do this! I hope the feeling of accomplishment at the end of a productive day motivates you to keep going (:",
"Ok buddy listen up, I don't know who you are or what you've been through. It doesn't matter; I've been where you are--definitely lower.\n\nI know the technology game. I know what it takes to turn around, get a job and get the woman.\n\nBut **HEY, I'm busy as fuck ok? And I'm taking out A LOT of time here to help you, so read all of this and actually do it.** \n\n(it's 2:40am, I just finished a project for work at 8am and got on here to browse real quick, now I'm writing this, so please respect my time because I'm trying to help)\n\n-----\n\nYou can keep the woman and get a job, but you've GOT to be willing work. Nobody can do it for you.\n\nThere's gonna be some shit you don't wanna hear and some tough love, but I **do** know what I'm talking about. Like I said, I know the tech biz very well and can help you, but you've gotta help yourself.\n\nRead on.\n\n------\n\n# **#1: Routine** \n\n*It's very important to have structure every single day. I cannot emphasize this enough. You need to establish hard time frames of what you're going to be doing throughout the day. I know you have a smartphone, use time-based reminders. Right now, job hunt is your #1 priority. In the section on job hunting, I'll give you some tips on when to do that, but take this advice: STICK TO THE SCHEDULE OR YOU'LL PROCRASTINATE AND FAIL.*\n\n - Wake up **NO LATER THAN 7am**, understand me? The world starts working at 8:00. This is not an option. EVERY SINGLE DAY, **NLT 7:00**. You think myself and everyone else don't have those mornings where we feel like shit, are hungover, maybe coming down from some hard weekend drug use, don't wanna do anything? We do. But this is the biz, son. Make it happen; if not, you have failed that day. **NOT AN OPTION. 7AM!!**\n\n - Start every day with breakfast. Doesn't matter what, just not donuts & bullshit. Have some orange juice and whatever else you like, but do eat breakfast. Coffee is a good motivator.\n\n - Job searching. **THIS IS YOUR JOB RIGHT NOW.** EVERY SINGLE DAY, SEARCH, CALL, EMAIL, POST, LOOK, LOOK, LOOK! YOU DO NOT HAVE AN OFF DAY *(see next section for details)*\n \n - Make your lady part of your routine. Reach out to her in the morning with a text or call wishing her a good day, but don't you dare spend half an hour talking to her because you have work to do, son. \n\n- **LUNCH**. You should be working your ass off in the morning. That's when you need to be placing calls, running errands and doing job-hunt stuff. But **lunch breaks are very important**. More evidence from studies is emerging indicating this. Take it from 12-1pm like the rest of the business world (**ROUTINE!!!**), and take a break from your phone/email/whatever. Good time to talk to your lady friend, take a walk, relax, etc.\n\n - Get your ass back to work at 1pm. Followup on emails/calls and use this time to do your personal work *(see job section below)*\n\n- You shouldn't stop working (job hunt) until 3pm at the earliest. Really, 4pm. You need to use the time from 3pm-6ish to improve on your personal projects, resume, etc. *(more below in the job section)*\n\n- (Before dinner) Exercise! I'm not saying do a bunch of fancy stuff. Trust me, simple things like stretches (especially good for those of us sitting a lot), light running/biking or just doing a few situps/pushups/light weight lifts will make you feel 100x better and give you confidence. This is best done very LIGHTLY in the morning before breakfast (not in excess, just 10 minutes or so, enough to get a little sweat) and more strenuously at night to alleviate stress buildup from the day. Check out other resources if you need more guidance; I'm not a fitness trainer, I'm getting your ass a job and a woman.\n\n- Keep a daily journal/log. And KEEP IT. Set a reminder to remind you to actually do it, ok? It's important to not only note what you've done that day, but also how you felt. Who did you talk to? Did you learn something interesting? It's a great way to reflect and to see how you can improve.\n\n- Don't you dare stay up until 1am, 2am, 4am. Get yourself to sleep by midnight at the LATEST. If you've done a hard day's work, you'll be ready. No more of this all-night gamer bullshit ok? It's time to buck up and be a part of the job world.\n\n------\n\n \n# **#2: Get a job** \n*Look man, it's hard-ass work, I know. I've been there several times. You're going to face lots of rejection (last round, I had over 15 interviews [sent out over 100 resumes/applications btw] which I was vastly overqualified for; got 2 offers)*\n\n*This is going to require an immense amount of personal motivation, follow through, courage and resourcefulness. It's seriously one of the most difficult things you have to do in your life.*\n\n*But don't let that freak you out. There's a lot of cool shit to be done out there and a lot of really awesome people to work with. When you finally get going, you're going to find yourself in a job surrounded by people who are so extremely intelligent and hard-working, it's going to make you be a better person, because they bring you up with them. It's a great experience to be on a team and it's something you should look forward to, not shy away from.*\n\n\n- This should go without saying, but who knows: you should have a resume that is well-formatted, not super flashy (unless you're in design), concise and that has explicit examples of your work. Google the hell out of resume tips.\n\n\n- Set aside time (I recommend 8:00am - noon) EVERY DAY to look HARDCORE for jobs. I mean SCOUR, RAPE AND RAVAGE all of those jobs websites. \n\nIf you don't have like 5,000 tabs open, you aren't trying hard enough. Apply for every single job that even remotely matches the area & skill you're in (i.e., I'm not even close to being a a .NET guy, but had a tiny bit of experience with the framework...I applied for every .NET position I saw and actually got one). \n\nWhich brings me to my next point:\n\n- **TEMPER YOUR EXPECTATIONS**. \n \n - Don't set yourself up for failure by expecting to become a Software-as-a-Service Cloud Engineer for Amazon because you aren't going to get that (yet). You need to apply for anything and everything in the tech field to widen your chances at getting a call back and building your resume. \n\n - Apply for things you don't even want (like me with the .NET shit) because you never know. It's ok if you start out making way less than you expect doing something stupid. I started out as a Wordpress dev (which, btw, led to me creating a plugin which now has over 100k downloads), and now I'm working as a senior JavaScript dev on a cutting-edge node.js project and I love it. More than doubled my salary in 2 years.\n\n- Use a recruiter. Go to several recruiting agencies and give them your resume, telling them you're eager to get into the job market is something they love. They make money off of you when you get a job. They know the clients and will do all of the salary negotiations for you...there's a huge benefit in that. They are a great resource, use them.\n\n- Put your resume up on indeed.com, monster.com, etc., EVERYWHERE\n - (Be prepared for lots of calls for jobs you aren't qualified for, and for calls from sketchy Indian dudes, but it's good practice to talk to people about your skills and professional goals)\n\n- Follow the steps above, but also reach out to your local networks of people (family, friends, colleagues, etc.). Something like 70% of jobs are gotten through networking.\n\n- You should take time in the afternoon to embellish your skills/resume/portfolio. \n\n - I don't know what line of computer work you're in, but software jobs are largely reliant on what you've done and being able to show for it. (If you don't have anything or much, don't worry. Shy away from talking about it until you get there, but RIGHT NOW IS THE TIME YOU NEED TO WHIP UP SOME QUICK PROJECTS, PUT THEM ON A WEBSITE/GITHUB AND TALK THEM UP!!!). \n - You don't have a job, so looking for a job and making yourself look good as a professional **IS** your job\n\n\n- Sounds like you haven't worked in a while? I don't know what your professional history is like, but interviewing is probably the hardest part of job hunting. Remember, getting an interview is difficult, but acing an interview is an art.\n\n - One thing I've learned is don't talk too much. Keep your answers very concise, direct and specific.\n - Be comfortable if you don't know something. Saying \"I'm not sure about that specifically, but I've used blah blah blah\" has actually gotten me a job before, whereas trying to bullshit or feeling awkward/uncomfortable because you don't know an answer has pretty much been an interview killer.\n\n- Following up; learn how to do it and when to do it (Google).\n - By the way, if you get an interview (even a phone interview), sending a physical \"thank you\" note is a classy move and will often put you in favor\n\n- Time. This is a big one.\n - Not something anyone wants to hear, but it takes a few weeks AT LEAST to get solid job leads. Like I said before, I sent out at least a hundred resumes and it took me about 3 months to get offers back. Don't give up!\n\n# **#3: Communication (Your Lady)** \n\n- You're gonna lose her if you don't talk to her. Voice your concerns. If she's worth your time, she will respect them and help you.\n\n- Tell her you're feeling behind for whatever reason but are actively making an effort every day to improve and get yourself a job and working routine. Any decent person will admire that.\n\n - Don't be afraid to ask her for help. See if she knows anyone professionally who can help you out looking for a job. Have her support your emotionally (but also support her emotionally too!!!!!); this will bring you two closer together and is essential\n\n - **Probably a good idea to lay off the WoW**...I imagine it's sucking up a lot of your time. No woman is going to want to be with a dude who plays a stupid (no offense) game instead of looks for a job. Be a go-getter, you're probably smart. Don't let that go to waste.\n",
"Dump WoW. Dump all computer games for a while. Fill the time with activities that force you to grow, learn skills etc. and try to prefer activities with some social interaction. \nExercise regularly, and for real, you can't overestimate the benefits, both physical and psychological. In terms of work, as well as looking for a job, see if you can find ways to sell whatever skills you have. \nThere's no way to fast track growth other than to ensure you do things in a way which maximises your opportunities for growth, as well as your ability to take advantage of them, so you'll need some specific goals, time frames, etc. These will allow you to measure progress, and guide you to your next goals.\nNone of this is quick in terms of reaching an endgame, but if you do it for real, there'll be noticeable effects pretty quickly. ",
"Substitute.\n\nInstead of hopping online, go do productive work. You invest all the same energy, but at the end of the day, you have produced something sustainable rather than ephemeral. \n\nThis part can be instantaneous. \n\nHowever she wants more than, that, she wants ambition, someone who aspires to earn enough for the white picket fence and feed kids (or travel the world). \n\nWhat are her goals for the future? \n\nNow here's the hard part. What are yours?\n\nNow tell her. Also tell her your reasonable plan for achieving that.\n\nNow make progress. You don't have to succeed, or not vary the course, or quit in favor of something else, or go at the anticipated pace, she just wants to know there's hope. She also wants to be able to tell her family and friends you are worth her, and not a deadbeat.\n",
"Uggh, I really feel for you because I've been in your shoes! In truth, my happiness hinged on that person \"loving me\" and that does not work long term. It's unhealthy. For me, that meant losing that person which was super difficult but it was the only way for me to get honest and do the personal work I needed to do to find peace within myself. I know that's not the answer you want to hear. For me, resisting the inevitable was exactly like swimming upstream, exhausting and unproductive. Best wishes!",
"There's probably nothing you can do to instantly change your situation overnight sadly. Best you can do is to think really hard on your career/academic/personal goals, construct a plan/timetable of sorts, and execute on it.\n\nHaving the discipline and drive to stick to what you said you would do will probably be a good proxy for change. Regardless though you need to do this for yourself whether its for this girl or the next",
"I have been through a very similar experience. My best friend and I fell for each other hard and fast after she got out of a long term relationship with an emotionally abusive, deadbeat boyfriend. I was at a point in my life where I was coming out of a 4 year stint of complete stagnation and lack of ambition. It was a whirlwind of a romance, and that first month was the best, happiest time of my life to date. \n\nLife can take time to turn around, though. All you can do is be honest with her and hope that's enough. While loving someone close to me gave me motivation to begin the process of improvement, it was not enough to save our relationship. We had the same goals and aspirations: we both wanted to move towards something long term, start a family, move away and get a fresh start somewhere. We enjoyed every second we spent together--it was just so easy to--and despite all of the confusion/concerns/hesitations, we could not shake each other for any length of time. But it wasn't enough to overcome her insecurity over what I could offer her, and what she needed for her own immediate self. While I had faith in us being able to work through life together, the uncertainty and desire to do it alone was too much for her overcome. And that's no one's fault. Sometimes it just doesn't work out. \n\nI tried for months to improve for the sake of a possible future together, and it didn't help our relationship at all. If anything, it made it harder for us to just enjoy our time together, always wondering and questioning if it was the right choice, and that's a lot of pressure to put on someone who is not ready to wait. After about 3 months we had a big fight and she told it like it was: that I always put off that hard life decisions, that I couldn't find the passion and drive within myself, and that she needed someone who did. It was probably the best sad thing I've ever heard. That's the moment when I realized that everything I had thought and felt up until then was misguided. \n\nI couldn't improve my life in a healthy way while I still kept thinking of my improvement as a means to an ends with her. That's exactly what she didn't want in an SO, and it was a destructive way for me to go about life; always measuring up each step I take to an unknown (and possibly unattainable) standard. I had been looking for inspiration in all the wrong places. True drive can only come from the desire to better yourself. Consequently, you have to take a step back and look at your own goals. Once you are able to pinpoint what those exactly are, make a list of steps you need to take, whether that's working your way up job wise, relocating, or going back for more school/certifications. I applied to a lot of jobs and faced a lot of rejection before I picked up an extra part time job to make more money, build up some savings, and move to a better living situation. I worked my ass off to save while still applying for better positions related to my undergrad field of study. Lots of rejection and a lot of work. I studied for and took the LAST and GRE to leave the option of further school open if it came down to that. I don't know anything about computer science, but I'm guessing there are certificates that can have similar resume boosting potential. Look into your local resources if that's an option. Personally, I had no idea what position I wanted to end up in, so I did my damnedest to keep a variety options open while still taking frustratingly slow steps forward. Sometimes it felt like I was bashing my head against a wall over and over; at least for me there was no easy fix. \n\nLike I said, it wasn't enough for her, though. She had to make the decision to break both of our hearts, and she moved away (and on). I wish she would have made the decision sooner, but I don't blame her for being so conflicted for so long. I'm not saying that this is the inevitable end for you and her, but it's a possibility, and you need to keep that in mind. You have to construct your own plan for life and do it for yourself. Be honest with her about it. Just don't hold her to any expectations, because that's not fair for anyone. She may very well be comfortable with waiting, she may not be. You simply have to trust in yourself and in life, because with or without her, it will go on, and there will always be happiness to be found. Know that as you work your way towards your goals, OP, and don't let discouragement stop your progress no matter how slow it is. And who knows, maybe you will be able to turn it around way faster than I did. I hope that's the case! Good luck. I wish you the best.",
"I don't get it, what's the problem? If that's the case you want to start a family with her, then start looking for a job. With your degree, it won't be that hard, I assume. Talk to family members to help you find a job.\n\nStart posting resumes around at companies. What's your specialty, Java?\n\nNo one is perfect. I don't think your condition is at all bad. People are worse.\n\nCatch up and get coupled in social life? Do like everyone else does, go to concerts, go watch movie with your girl and friends. Go to a theme park, go bowling. Most people are coupled to their gadgets anyway nowadays. Especially IT people. Not much to catch up really.",
"Wake up early every day and exercise; run, walk, go to the gym; bike ride... Anything. Improve the health if your body and mind. ",
"Start habits that will lead to a cumulative result. You will still need to be patient as things change. Read some self development books. Pressfield - The war of art and The power of Habit are two I've appreciated.",
"So far, of my personal note, setting yourself up to work through experience is a key factor in pushing growth. If you don't ever get in to various aspects for what would bring changes to your life it is very hard to wrack your brain with the information about how you need to get moving.\n\nI've had a long day all day today on things just like this. I have just turned 24 and have only started coming in to life after a birth defect and dietary illness had crippled me worse, slowly as I've grown since birth. My partner and I share a great bond, but both of us had issues that left us unprepared to face world experiences maturely- but here we are, with a 4 year old on our hands, needing to make decisions about our futures. It's tough.\n\nWhat helped me grow and mature the most started out accidentally. I hadn't even known how far under I was in nutritional needs- how hurt I was by my ignorance of what I needed for myself. I started with a better foundation, reading all of the information I could to equip me with better knowledge to take charge of myself. Now I exercise and eat to be a confident, controlled individual with a healthy physical and mental disposition. From there it was my time experiencing how to handle my needs and newly found responsibilities for myself and my partners (husband, child, family) that cr",
"I was like you, I played wow non stop for 2 years raiding heavily and basically let life slip by. My friends and family never saw me and my relationship with my partner nearly died. We barely talked and most days I would get home from work and just jump straight onto the computer and play WoW.\n\n Ive quit WoW now and exercise reguarly, lost a lot of weight and now studying back at uni. My relationship with my partner is now better and working again. I switched jobs and now have a pretty good job. Its not easy and i had a month of relapse where i jumped back into WoW again and got addicted. Building habits is the best way to do things and consistency is the key! Yea sometimes you fuck this up and fall off the wagon but keep an eye on the goal and dust urself off and get back to it!",
"Get into rock climbing, start doing an easy job you can do well without it interfering with your life. ",
"First of all, make sure to tell her what you said to us:\n> I've been seriously dating a woman who has helped pull me out of my shell and get me back in to the world. I feel like I've been waking up from a long coma.\n\nI imagine that would make her feel really good to know what an impact she's had on you. Then make it clear to her that you want to keep going in that positive direction.\n\nAbout WoW: That is one of those games that is hard to \"dabble\" in. One has to play it a lot or not at all. You have goals to achieve ASAP, so I don't think you have time for WoW for the time being. I suggest giving it up cold turkey and seeing what positive things you can replace it with. Go for an hour long walk, or a bike ride, read, etc. \n"
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"Do not be afraid of feeling or showing emotion. Good or bad, this is always better than feeling nothing at all.",
"Unless you are incredibly lucky, you will eventually find that not everyone is made for everyone else. There is nothing wrong with moving on with your life if things don't work out. What is wrong however is to stay with someone that you don't mesh with. You are only cheating each other out of the many different possibilities that would be much better for both parties involved."
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"Your feeling is wrong. If you don't agree with the aggregate reviews, then it just means your tastes don't align with the majority of the critics.",
"You could always check out the review on a blog those are rarely biased just make sure you have similar tastes as the person writing the review."
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"How to be healthy in a third-world country? I've read many motivational, discipline, and productivity videos out there but most of them revolve around in a first or second-world country or society context. While most of their advices are general, such as eating healthy or going to the gym, it's just not easy in a third-world country, many resources such as accessible grocery stores, healthy food, gyms, bike lanes, or parks to jogg on are mostly unavailable. It is true that it can be achieved through hard-work, it's just a 'bit' harder and being a 'bit' harder can pile up over time and could lead to people in third-world countries to go back to unproductive hole. \n\nSo my question is, how do you be healthy in a third-world country? Or perhaps, also being a poor person? \n\n\nThanks in advance.",
"How to be healthy in a third-world country? I've read many motivational, discipline, and productivity videos out there but most of them revolve around in a first or second-world country or society context. While most of their advices are general, such as eating healthy or going to the gym, it's just not easy in a third-world country, many resources such as accessible grocery stores, healthy food, gyms, bike lanes, or parks to jogg on are mostly unavailable. It is true that it can be achieved through hard-work, it's just a 'bit' harder and being a 'bit' harder can pile up over time and could lead to people in third-world countries to go back to unproductive hole. \n\nSo my question is, how do you be healthy in a third-world country? Or perhaps, also being a poor person? \n\n\nThanks in advance.",
"How to be healthy in a third-world country? I've read many motivational, discipline, and productivity videos out there but most of them revolve around in a first or second-world country or society context. While most of their advices are general, such as eating healthy or going to the gym, it's just not easy in a third-world country, many resources such as accessible grocery stores, healthy food, gyms, bike lanes, or parks to jogg on are mostly unavailable. It is true that it can be achieved through hard-work, it's just a 'bit' harder and being a 'bit' harder can pile up over time and could lead to people in third-world countries to go back to unproductive hole. \n\nSo my question is, how do you be healthy in a third-world country? Or perhaps, also being a poor person? \n\n\nThanks in advance.",
"How to be healthy in a third-world country? I've read many motivational, discipline, and productivity videos out there but most of them revolve around in a first or second-world country or society context. While most of their advices are general, such as eating healthy or going to the gym, it's just not easy in a third-world country, many resources such as accessible grocery stores, healthy food, gyms, bike lanes, or parks to jogg on are mostly unavailable. It is true that it can be achieved through hard-work, it's just a 'bit' harder and being a 'bit' harder can pile up over time and could lead to people in third-world countries to go back to unproductive hole. \n\nSo my question is, how do you be healthy in a third-world country? Or perhaps, also being a poor person? \n\n\nThanks in advance."
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"Exercise can be done at home.\nHigh intensity workouts do not require a large field but may just require a mat for comfort.\nThe exercises are static.\n\nThe biggest issue is diet, because carbs are cheap while greens are expensive. Need to watch what you eat - best if you can prep it yourself.",
"At the end there you phrased your question properly. First, Second and Third world terminology has nothing to do with wealth.\n\nFirst world was the countries that sided with NATO in the cold war.\n\nSecond world was countries that sided with the USSR in the cold war\n\nThird world were the countries that stayed neutral in the cold war.",
"A lot of “third world countries” have more organic and farm to table groceries and foods than the US. Be aware that you might be too focused on finding a gym or a facility instead of seeing how the locals live. In Peru, for example, people walk everywhere and their food doesn’t contain as much high fructose corn syrup. In Mexico, most of their cows are grass-fed, not corn-fed. Gyms might not be as common, but people eat close to organic, and walk a lot.",
"- Cook fruit and veg at home, rather than eating junk food when you go out or buying junk food. \n\n- Walk short distances instead of using cars or public transport. If public transport is reliable and/or you have to walk too far, use that instead of a car. \n\nThere is one exception to this rule, however. If everyone is getting ill from a cold, then use transport that doesn't involve a lot of people.\n\n- If you rely on others to cook, consume soup and stews if eating out instead of fried stuff or see if people you know personally can cook for you.\n\n- Look up foraging to see if there's any stuff you can pick for free. If you live in a hot country, there might be a wider range of fruit and vegetables, but it has to be used up quickly, and if you live in a colder country, there may be more stuff that lasts a long time, but won't be very filling.\n\n But be aware that you will be less healthy if you get poisoned, injured or harassed by strangers in the process, especially if medical care costs money or is otherwise inaccessible.\n\n- Instead of using phone calls or the Internet, arrange to meet your friends in person if they are free.\n\n- Instead of eating sweets or trying to bring fruit home to store, buy fresh fruit at a market and eat it immediately.\n\n- If you have the energy, money and the impetus to do so, grow your own food.\n\n- Put your exercise into whatever else you're doing already, e.g., if you need to walk to get to the shops, to get water or whatever.\n\n- Drink as much clean water as is feasible. If the water is dirty, drink healthy drinks instead of alcohol or fizzy drinks (unless it contains contaminated water that can't be completely removed, in which case drink the fizzy drink).\n\n- If the tap water can be trusted, drink tap water instead of bottled drinks. If not, drink commercial water instead of other drinks. \n\n- If the water is in large containers, buy it in a metal container rather than a plastic one unless it is made of lead or contains chemicals like silica gel. \n\n- If you are buying fruit and veg to use immediately, buy it at an open market where you can get it in bulk or in small quantities for a low price, which is usually much cheaper and easier to find than in a shop.\n\nBut, if you are buying fruit and vegetables to store, buy them at a discount shop in a package, if you can find it, as it stores longer and fresh food goes off very quickly, especially if you're poor.\n\nIf you're not really in what most people would see as a third world country, but, say, a poor person in the rural US or something, look for farmer's markets to visit."
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"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. ",
"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. ",
"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. ",
"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. ",
"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. ",
"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. ",
"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. ",
"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. ",
"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. ",
"How to not spill from a cup while walking. Carrying cups is the bane of my existence. Whenever I have to carry my ceramic mug of coffee from the kitchen to the dining room, some manages to spill out.\n\nIs there a sure-fire way of avoiding this? It seems waitresses and waiters do it perfectly well with drinks that are brimming. "
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"I'm a restaurant worker, transporting martini glasses full to the brim with manhattans and shit is easy, just don't look at the cup, and walk, the more you think about it the worse it will be",
"I am the inventor of the tea-amble, also known as the sip-'n-stroll. It happened in '07 when I made myself a cup of earl grey and just as it was cool enough to drink I decided wanted to go for a walk in the neighbourhood. I thought I had found myself in an unsolvable dilemma, but the force of these competing desires was so intense that they synthesised in my mind, like nuclei in a burning star, and I realised that I could choose both, and so the tea-amble was born.\n\nWhen I take beginners along with me I tell them to \"Stop, sip, then stroll.\" Once they become familiar with the mechanics of the beverage sloshing in the mug and its relationship to one's particular gait, they move onto more advanced manoeuvres, such as left and right turns, hot beverages, shallow teacups, and then, ultimately, the bone china tea-cupped glühwein triple vault.\n\nMy advice to you is to practise the easy stuff and then increase difficulty incrementally. Begin with an empty sippy-cup and just carry it around with you in the holding position, for short slow strolls in a straight line. Then half fill it with tepid water. Then start sipping from it from the standing position. Keep increasing the difficulty once you have achieved the level of proficiency suitable for your life style.\n\nBest of luck.",
"Heel to toe and use your carrying limb to offset the remaining bounce. Ask someone from your high school that was in band, and they'll explain the heel to toe thing. ",
"Simply don't look at it. Your body will automatically stabilize it. Try it, it's amazing how it works.\n\nThis tip also works for the picnic game where you carry an egg in a spoon in a relay race. simply look straight forward, and your body will stabilize the spoon, and it won't fall. You'll look like a freakin' Jedi!",
"Just kinda hold it out very slightly and let the inertia of the cup control where it goes relative to yuor body. Your arm is like a shock absorber keeping it loosely attached to you, not rigidly hodling th cup in place. It's oaky if the cup moves around a little bit.\n\nHuh, that's a kind of weird thing to describe. ",
"It's basically up to practice when it's an open cup. On the other hand, this is an opportunity for an LPT that I've been meaning to make. If you're carrying a cup of coffee/tea to go that has a lid and you have maybe an inch of space from the top, you can just tilt the cup so that the spout of the lid is upward and you will have a hard time getting hot liquid to geyser out while walking or running. ",
"Carry any drink without ice in it above the level of your heart. Don't ask me how it why it works, but I was given this tip as a waiter, and it works really well.",
"Bend your knees. For me, the more I bend my knees, the smoother my gait is. You can absorb the shock of each step better that way, and then it doesn't make the rest of your body move.",
"As a former marching band member, roll stepping will easily suffice. Keep your weight on your toes, and roll all the way through each step. BAM. ",
"Practice. Most waitresses and waiters spill in the beginning too, but they just \"practice\" it for hours per day."
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"What to do when your cellphone gets stolen. Of course other than going to the police. What measures can one take to preserve as much personal informations as possible? Can it be tracked down with some google magic stuff? Can it be bricked with the same kind of magic? Any advice goes, really. Thanks Reddit. ",
"What to do when your cellphone gets stolen. Of course other than going to the police. What measures can one take to preserve as much personal informations as possible? Can it be tracked down with some google magic stuff? Can it be bricked with the same kind of magic? Any advice goes, really. Thanks Reddit. ",
"What to do when your cellphone gets stolen. Of course other than going to the police. What measures can one take to preserve as much personal informations as possible? Can it be tracked down with some google magic stuff? Can it be bricked with the same kind of magic? Any advice goes, really. Thanks Reddit. "
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"If you have an Android phone:\n\nGo to the Google Play Store.\n\n[Click here and select Android Device Manager](http://i.imgur.com/ZH7Vy8H.png).\n\nYou can determine roughly where it is.\n\nAnd worse case wipe and brick your phone.",
"There's a nifty little app for android phones called Wheres my Droid, it's got some pretty good features for free but if you spend the $4 [one time fee] and go pro you can do everything from remotely lock your phone, get gps cords, have your phone take a pic and upload it to WMD server, and if all that fails to help you get your phone back, you can remotely wipe both sd card and phone. I've tested all the features but the wipe, and it worked beautifuly.\nhttp://wheresmydroid.com/features.html\n\nThe google play store has many similar apps you can choose from as well.",
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"how to insulate windows during cold months without spending any money. I live in an apartment in my college town, and have been consistently cold even with the heater running pretty much all the time. My bed is next to a window and I can feel the cold coming in as if it's a soft breeze. How can I keep this from happening without spending lots of money?",
"how to insulate windows during cold months without spending any money. I live in an apartment in my college town, and have been consistently cold even with the heater running pretty much all the time. My bed is next to a window and I can feel the cold coming in as if it's a soft breeze. How can I keep this from happening without spending lots of money?",
"how to insulate windows during cold months without spending any money. I live in an apartment in my college town, and have been consistently cold even with the heater running pretty much all the time. My bed is next to a window and I can feel the cold coming in as if it's a soft breeze. How can I keep this from happening without spending lots of money?",
"how to insulate windows during cold months without spending any money. I live in an apartment in my college town, and have been consistently cold even with the heater running pretty much all the time. My bed is next to a window and I can feel the cold coming in as if it's a soft breeze. How can I keep this from happening without spending lots of money?",
"how to insulate windows during cold months without spending any money. I live in an apartment in my college town, and have been consistently cold even with the heater running pretty much all the time. My bed is next to a window and I can feel the cold coming in as if it's a soft breeze. How can I keep this from happening without spending lots of money?",
"how to insulate windows during cold months without spending any money. I live in an apartment in my college town, and have been consistently cold even with the heater running pretty much all the time. My bed is next to a window and I can feel the cold coming in as if it's a soft breeze. How can I keep this from happening without spending lots of money?",
"how to insulate windows during cold months without spending any money. I live in an apartment in my college town, and have been consistently cold even with the heater running pretty much all the time. My bed is next to a window and I can feel the cold coming in as if it's a soft breeze. How can I keep this from happening without spending lots of money?",
"how to insulate windows during cold months without spending any money. I live in an apartment in my college town, and have been consistently cold even with the heater running pretty much all the time. My bed is next to a window and I can feel the cold coming in as if it's a soft breeze. How can I keep this from happening without spending lots of money?"
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"Get some Saran Wrap and seal off the window completely; this barrier will trap air and air is a great insulator.",
"Spending -no- money would be tough. But look for local resources. I remember that when I worked next to an SRS office, they had free kits they were giving out to low income people. The kit had 3 window insulation kits (basically tape and plastic) as well as 2 energy efficient lightbulbs and some insulation tape. \n\nHere is a link to what you can get at WalMart if you can't find somewhere with free resources:\nhttp://www.walmart.com/search/?query=window+insulation+kit\n\nBut basically, you need plastic sheeting and tape. I wouldn't suggest saran wrap, because it's not a solid sheet... plus, I guess it would be about the same price per square foot, or maybe more. \n\nYou could probably save a bit more if you just buy the sheeting and tape separately. I guess if you were really strapped, you could use a garbage bag if you cut it right. \n\nJust remember: air is the best insulator. The basic idea is to create a pocket of still air trapped between two layers (IE your window glass and the sheeting). If there is air leaking into/out of the pocket on either side, it will reduce the efficiency. So you might get some foam tape to block any small holes or gaps, or use rags or something to stuff them before you put up the plastic sheeting. ",
"Windows are the biggest transfers of heat in a home. Some homes are built with energy-efficient argon gas windows but even this isn't enough. Get a sheet of [RMAX](http://www.homedepot.com/p/R-Matte-Rmax-R-Matte-Plus-3-3-4-in-x-4-ft-x-8-ft-R-5-Polyisocyanurate-Rigid-Foam-Insulation-Board-W-N5075X/100317820) and cut it to fit snug in your windows. This works for both winter and summer months but don't leave you bedroom in the dark for too long. You need to take down the RMAX every once in a while to let in some sunlight, the UV light will kill mold and other yucks.",
"The best way to save money aside from buying sheets of plastic to cover the windows is to wear heavier clothes indoors, or to bed, and pile on some blankets at night. I've slept in a tent in the winter time with no immediate heat source with just a few blankets and some thick pajamas. I actually woke up sweating and had to take a layer off. \n\nTo save some money on your heat bill, when you're lounging around the house during the day, wear long pajamas, socks and a sweatshirt. Also drink warm beverages. It's okay for the thermostat to be at 55-60 F if it saves some money and you're comfortable.",
"Put a rolled towel or old socks on the sill and any other joint you can and feel air coming through, not as good as the cheap window film, but free and easier without needing a hair dryer.",
"Ok, go to wally and get some plastic drop cloth and a roll of box tape.\n\nCut the drop cloth to size, just a little smaller than the window frame, and tape it up.\n\nYour first few windows may not come out very pretty, but you'll get the hang of it.\n\nI did this every winter when I was poor, and it was night and day in a drafty old house.",
"I'll tell you what I did in college. Snagged an empty garbage bag from a janitor station. Cut it along the seams so it was a giant rectangle. Taped it over the window with whatever tape I had on hand.\n\nIt took my 50 degree room to about 70. Old buildings are especially bad.",
"Free sources of big pieces of clear plastic: mattress wrap and dry cleaning clothing covers. Of course this is only useful for you if you or a neighbor buys a new mattress or has clothes dry cleaned."
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"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!",
"What's the best genre of music to study to? As title suggests, I'm looking for a genre of music I can study to and maintain concentration. \n\nThanks in advance!"
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"Video game music. Practically developed for you to enjoy music while focusing. \n\n\nParticularly, I like animal crossing music.",
"The peaceful piano playlist on Spotify. When kept low, it doesn't distract you from studying. I know it helps me.",
"This question is very subjective, as everyone interprets music differently.\n\nOne previous LPT post I read was to listen to video game music. It's intended to loop over itself and be played in the background, as well as encourage you to proceed further into the game. I don't know any science behind it, but it sure sounds right to me...",
"Something without lyrics is generally best in my experience. I recommend the Trailerhead series from Immediate Music.",
"I've heard research was conducted on this, and the answer is classical music. Chopin, Beethoven, etc. ",
"Production company music. It was made to sound pleasant without actually diverting your attention from the movie. Two Steps from hell is a good one but I'll leave this mixed playlist here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WU7SGn0MeP0",
"It's pretty much subjective. For me for example piano music would distract me. \nWhen I study I listen to relaxing ambient/new age music. \nI highly recommend this two artists: David Helpling and Jon Jenkins. Especially these two albums made both by them: Treasure and The Crossing. \nOther albums by them are also great. \n\nIf by any chance any of you know any other similar artists please let me know! ",
"I like chill (electronic?) music such as [Sunset Lover](https://soundcloud.com/petitbiscuit/sunset-lover)",
"I agree with Video game music! My go to's are from Pokemon and Zelda because they make perfect background music. I highly recommend the youtube channel Pokemon Reorchestrated and all the songs from the Zelda Reorchestrated project. \n\n30 minute loops are great too - study hard for 30 minutes and then take a quick facebook or text break, then put on another 30 minute loop song. It's worked well for me through the past 4 years of university, I hope it will work well for you as well! ",
"First of all it has to be without lyrics, a little voice in the background that you can't distinguish, is okay. For me i choose ambient/instrumental/chillstep or DnB.\n\nCurrently im listening [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZcDWViRLlY)",
"Find your favorite genre in a language that you don't understand, so it won't distract you. It's what I do.",
"Brutal death metal. When you aren't paying attention, it turns into gently flowing white noise. Just be sure to find songs that don't have clearly spoken bits, as they can be a bit distracting.",
"Anything you like listening. Never really understood this 'concentration' talk. It doesn't make any sense to me; why would some music 'concentrate' you (whatever that means) differently from other music?",
"I like songs which I already know the lyrics. I don't get distracted by those, there's no sense of \"novelty\". And loud, noisy music. Works for me. Classics do too, though. "
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"Getting Rid Of Rats? I've seen rats in my backyard in the past but today I saw one in my house and I really need a reliable way to get rid of it / (hopefully not) them. I saw someone once say that spreading peppermint oil around your house can drive them out, is there any truth to that?",
"Getting Rid Of Rats? I've seen rats in my backyard in the past but today I saw one in my house and I really need a reliable way to get rid of it / (hopefully not) them. I saw someone once say that spreading peppermint oil around your house can drive them out, is there any truth to that?",
"Getting Rid Of Rats? I've seen rats in my backyard in the past but today I saw one in my house and I really need a reliable way to get rid of it / (hopefully not) them. I saw someone once say that spreading peppermint oil around your house can drive them out, is there any truth to that?"
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"The [US government](http://www.cdc.gov/rodents/prevent_infestations/index.html) has some great tips on how you can solve your rat problem. ",
"Mash up feta cheese with a piece of floss in it and put it in those black plastic snap traps, the big ones. I guarantee it.",
"Find out how they're getting in, first of all. Poison like Dcon is effective but might leave decaying rate in your walls.\n\nA cat is a natural solution, but if so get a near-adult barn cat that's a known ratter. Place a CL ad and some farmer will respond."
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"how to neatly store short cables I do a lot of computer and A/V work so I end up with a ton of cables that are less than a meter long. This makes it so that I can't just roll them up and leave it like longer cables, toilet paper tubes are too bulky, and using metal twist ties break or get all wrecked after only a double uses. I'd consider Velcro as a last resort because it sticks to everything, and it needs to be a way that's durable in travel and can be redone over and over fairly easily while being tidy and organized. What is THE BEST way to store short cables?\n\n",
"how to neatly store short cables I do a lot of computer and A/V work so I end up with a ton of cables that are less than a meter long. This makes it so that I can't just roll them up and leave it like longer cables, toilet paper tubes are too bulky, and using metal twist ties break or get all wrecked after only a double uses. I'd consider Velcro as a last resort because it sticks to everything, and it needs to be a way that's durable in travel and can be redone over and over fairly easily while being tidy and organized. What is THE BEST way to store short cables?\n\n"
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"I gotta go with velcro cable ties. Cheap, easy on/off, compact. Sorry you don't like velcro, but a tip is to make sure that the \"hook\" side is fully covered and attached. The \"loop\" side doesn't stick to other materials, and the hook side won't if it's already fastened.",
"How much is a ton?\nAre you talking about 30\n\nMaybe some type of case like an old pool cue case?\n\nAlternative is hanging them on a hanger proving you could attach a clip to one end"
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"How to Study Best (Anatomy and Physiology and Memory Retention)? Just started a college level A&P course, and I believe it's going to be the hardest course in the year. The only reason I got good grades in it in High School was because I had constant quizzes to keep everything fresh in my mind, and I could have the book right with me at all times during any assignment. This college-level course is not like that, with bundles of chapters covered between tests, and obviously you don't get to use your textbooks as a reference. You take notes during lecture, and read when you get home.\n\nI worry I'm not the best memory retainer, which sucks because A&P is practically all memorization. In addition, this is somewhat of a 'sped-up' course, as it's pre-reqs for med school, so basically take what I'd cover in a regular college program, and multiply it by at least 1.5x (virtually covering all of A&P1 in a single semester). What could I do to try and study for this course as efficiently as possible?",
"How to Study Best (Anatomy and Physiology and Memory Retention)? Just started a college level A&P course, and I believe it's going to be the hardest course in the year. The only reason I got good grades in it in High School was because I had constant quizzes to keep everything fresh in my mind, and I could have the book right with me at all times during any assignment. This college-level course is not like that, with bundles of chapters covered between tests, and obviously you don't get to use your textbooks as a reference. You take notes during lecture, and read when you get home.\n\nI worry I'm not the best memory retainer, which sucks because A&P is practically all memorization. In addition, this is somewhat of a 'sped-up' course, as it's pre-reqs for med school, so basically take what I'd cover in a regular college program, and multiply it by at least 1.5x (virtually covering all of A&P1 in a single semester). What could I do to try and study for this course as efficiently as possible?",
"How to Study Best (Anatomy and Physiology and Memory Retention)? Just started a college level A&P course, and I believe it's going to be the hardest course in the year. The only reason I got good grades in it in High School was because I had constant quizzes to keep everything fresh in my mind, and I could have the book right with me at all times during any assignment. This college-level course is not like that, with bundles of chapters covered between tests, and obviously you don't get to use your textbooks as a reference. You take notes during lecture, and read when you get home.\n\nI worry I'm not the best memory retainer, which sucks because A&P is practically all memorization. In addition, this is somewhat of a 'sped-up' course, as it's pre-reqs for med school, so basically take what I'd cover in a regular college program, and multiply it by at least 1.5x (virtually covering all of A&P1 in a single semester). What could I do to try and study for this course as efficiently as possible?"
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"Draw pictures of literally everything you learn in anatomy and label them. They don't have to be great. For example when learning about the Aortic arch and the arteries that branch off: draw a schematic. Take it one day at a time and make sure you review what was taught in class each night. You learn best when you review what you've learned within 48 hours. I doubt you have access to a lab since you are taking a high school class, but if you do, spend a ton of time in there too. Memorization is all about REPETITION.\n\nsource: I almost failed out of college because I didn't know how to study, and now I'm a doctor. Anyone can do it. ;)",
"I just took one of the harder A&P courses (since I already took the intro one) at my school, and the best way to do it imo is to make flashcards. Quizlet is really good but it can be hard to memorize a lot of things and get a grasp on it without the pictures to go with it, and to be able to use pics in Quizlet you have to subscribe and pay. I found a better flashcard site called StudyBlue, which allows you to add pictures for free its better than Quizlet it some ways. I think its a better website when it comes to A&P. There is also an app that goes with it so you can study on your phone. \n\nThe best way to keep up with the class is to go to every lecture so that the terms don't seem completely new to you when you go and study. I found that when I missed more lectures I spent a lot more time studying to making up for those missed lectures because I had to go over the missed lecture slides my professor posted online (hopefully yours does that too, if not that's even more of a reason to go to class). About a week before each exam, or after each lecture if you really want to stay ahead, make flashcards. There were times where I would end up with 100 flashcards for one exam. I would go through the lecture slides and my notes and make a flashcard for basically everything I didn't know or wasn't sure about. It doesn't hurt to add flashcards of things you already know because when you go through all the flashcards you just mark the ones you know. \n\nMaking the flashcards takes time, probably more time than to study the cards, but it is so worth it. StudyBlue makes it really easy to add pics and words to the cards. For example, I would take a screenshot or image from google/lecture slide of a heart with labels of each part, but I would take another screenshot blocking out the labels basically just showing the lines pointing to each part. So on the front of the card would be the heart with the lines and I would try and guess each part and flip it to see what I got right/wrong. Be patient when making the flashcards, and when going through them, it will all be worth it in the end when you get a good grade. \n\ntl;dr Spend a lot of time making flashcards of everything you will be tested on, and go over every single card until you have it all down. ",
"For flash cards and memory games there's a great app I use called \"Quizlet\"\nYou can enter words and their meanings and do flash cards or matching game with them as well as practice tests."
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"How to Avoid Issues from Typing Greetings, for those of us who use mouse/keyboard for a living, or for a good portion of our free time, how can we avoid serious issues, such as carpal tunnel? Is there any others we should look out for? Any and all advice is appreciated.",
"How to Avoid Issues from Typing Greetings, for those of us who use mouse/keyboard for a living, or for a good portion of our free time, how can we avoid serious issues, such as carpal tunnel? Is there any others we should look out for? Any and all advice is appreciated.",
"How to Avoid Issues from Typing Greetings, for those of us who use mouse/keyboard for a living, or for a good portion of our free time, how can we avoid serious issues, such as carpal tunnel? Is there any others we should look out for? Any and all advice is appreciated."
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"A good chair with multiple adjustments. This will not be a $99 chair from the office store. Feet should be on floor, lower back supported, shoulders relaxed with forearms supported, etc. After chair is adjusted, extend arms/palms out toward your monitor(s) and your finger tips should be in the top 2/3 to 3/4 of the screen. If they're not, prop up monitors with a monitor stand or books until they're at the right height. When monitor height is correct, chin should be parallel to floor when looking at monitor. Elbows should be at 90 degrees while typing. Move keyboard until elbows are at 90degrees. Wrists should be straight and flat, not twisted or angled. I use wireless ergonomic keyboard and mouse from Microsoft. Keyboard is split in the middle and has a contoured surface. Much less stress on arms now. Finally install Work Rave. It's free and super annoying. It will require lots of tweaking before it reaches a level of bearably annoying. But it's worth it for health reasons. It forces micro breaks and macro breaks that keep carpal tunnel at bay. ",
"Use keyboard and mouse rests. Wear braces on wrists if necessary. Take breaks and shake out your hands often. ",
"A minor issue is a bit of wrist hand and finger cramps. I would recommend a mechanical keyboard. It takes a few minutes to get use to. Get the silent ones because some of them are really clicky"
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"Negotiations from Temp to Full Time I've been working as a temp/contingent position for about a year. They asked me if I would like to stay and I love the job so I said that I would love to. They are needing two weeks to talk about it since they need to create my position title (I have another skill that I wasn't initially hired for that they want to add to it). But I have never negotiated in my life since I've done a ton of retail work. They gave me an idea of what I may be offered, but it felt a little low so I wanted to be as respectful as I can with a possible counter. Can anyone help?",
"Negotiations from Temp to Full Time I've been working as a temp/contingent position for about a year. They asked me if I would like to stay and I love the job so I said that I would love to. They are needing two weeks to talk about it since they need to create my position title (I have another skill that I wasn't initially hired for that they want to add to it). But I have never negotiated in my life since I've done a ton of retail work. They gave me an idea of what I may be offered, but it felt a little low so I wanted to be as respectful as I can with a possible counter. Can anyone help?"
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"Regardless of your INITIAL pay, request that after 3 months you wish to increase your pay to xyz.\n\nExample...\n\nThey offer $45000.\nYou want $50000.\n\nSay, ok, since you know me as I've worked here for x time, you're not a hiring risk. You understand that they would like to pay you $45k, but $50k is more in line with what you want. So how about I take $45k, but after 3 months, you'd like an adjustment to $50k. This adjustment is NOT a raise, so the \"raise\" clock does not get reset.\n\nAlso, talk benefits.\n\nNo benefits = more $$\nWith benefits = $$ (since you're getting the extra $$ as health insurance, bonuses etc).\n\nSo here is a lesson for everyone. THE ONLY BASE PAY THAT MATTERS IS THE INITIAL HIRING.\n\nWhy? \n\nIf you get $45k, then a 10% raise as \"normal\", now you earn 45+4.5=49.5, then next year etc.\n\nIf you get $50k, then it's 50+5=55...\n\nAll your raises etc are based on your pay.\n\nYeah?\n\nBut, as others have said, get an idea of the min and max for your position.\n\nYou're in a good position as they know and want you.",
"Check out Chris voss https://www.masterclass.com/classes/chris-voss-teaches-the-art-of-negotiation although you should definitely first do research into your sector and competitive wages."
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"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :(",
"How do people just keep talking and maintain a (good) conversation? I'm not an awkward person, but I'm not able to maintain or even start a good conversation. It's made me very self-conscious, and I'd like to do something about it. Any help would be appreciated :("
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"This is a very good question. This might help some: quiet your inner-voice during a conversation. Listen carefully to the person speaking and be engaged in it. Don't mentally dwell on a thought for too long because you will lose track of what the other person is saying and thwart your chances for good questioning.\n\nI used to have terrible sub-vocalization. My head would repeat the words of the person speaking, and then I would form answers/questions in my head and mentally sound them out and judge myself on whether or not I should say them.\n\nIt took a while but I trained myself out of doing that. I am far, far better at conversing now.\n\nMight help some, I hope it does.\n\n",
"Cliche as it is, I almost always start conversation by saying: \"Hey, how are you?\" because it shows I'm interested in their feelings. Anything along the lines of that is great to start a conversation. To continue a conversation, relate to your own experiences, or ask about one of their experiences. Example:\nHey, how's your day?\nGreat. I got to sit down and relax with my dog.\nYou have a dog? Is it big or small?\nA big one!\nIs it hard to take care of such a big animal like that?\n*Conversation Continues*\n\nIf you're having trouble talking to people, I'd suggest just practicing 'talking' with the people you live with, and/or see on a regular basis. I treat talking to some sweet girl, or a homeless man on the street the same as I would talk to my grandmother. Curious, interested, and polite. Eventually after enough practice, talking will be easier, and you should find that your conversations just flow. Hope this helps! ;)",
"Ask lots of open ended questions and tailor them to your audience's interests. People love to talk about themselves.\n\nsource: human nature",
"* Don't ask questions that can be answered in 1 or 2 words (this includes the always asked \"How are you?\"). People are lazy, if they don't have to talk much they, generally, won't. By avoiding questions that can be answered in 1 or 2 words you are forcing them to talk, which gets both of you more comfortable with the conversation.\n\n* Don't be afraid to make yourself vulnerable or to make fun of yourself. Had an explanation for this one but I haven't gotten nearly enough sleep the past few nights and I completely forgot it. It works though, something about trust\n\n* Don't try to control the conversation too much. If you love trains but the conversation has shifted to baseball don't force it back to trains. It will strain the conversation, and lead to a premature demise\n\n* Don't shy away from talking about what you like. If you like trains, and trains come up, don't be scared to show that. Being animated in the conversation will make the other person feel more comfortable\n\n* Try to find something both of you can talk about. Self explanatory\n\n* Avoid politics and religion unless you want to get in an argument. Arguments will carry a conversation forward, but for most people it will not be a pleasurable experience",
"I am a communications major and we learned about the four common topoi. The four common topoi are subject areas that are common among almost all people, so they are great starting points for conversation. My professor said, \"After this lecture, never again will you not know what to say in a card.\"\nThe Four Common Topoi:\n1) Size\n2) Place\n3) Possible\n4) Impossible\n\nSo you can comment on the size of something, the place of something, the possibility or probability of something, and the impossibility of something. Using a Valentine's Day card as an example...\n1) Size: \"My heart grows each day because of the love I have for you.\"\n2) Place: \"My love for you is the strongest love in the whole universe!\"\n3) Possible: \"I cannot wait to spend the rest of my life with you.\"\n4) Impossible: \"I wish I could go back and see your face for the first time again, because that was one of the best moments in my life.\"\n\nHere are some more practical and conversational applications:\n1) Size: Look at things around the room, or think of things you have seen in the news lately:\n\"Look at this cocktail ring my mom gave me for my birthday! It is so huge haha. I am not usually into big jewelry but I kind of like this one.\"\nOR\n\"Look at that giant plant over there! I have a plant just like that at my house, but it is a lot smaller. I wonder how they got theirs so big!\"\nOR\n\"Did you hear how many people lost their jobs this past quarter? I heard on the news that it was one of the largest decrease in the number of people losing their job!\"\n\n2) Place:\n\"I've never been here before. They have a beautiful oak table over there!\"\n\"I have been to this restaurant before. I came here with my husband about six months ago, we had a grand time!\"\n\n********So you see, so many things can be conversation starters!! You can do it!!",
"I work in retail and I envy people who have this skill too. Not that I'm awkward or shy at all but I just can't continuously run my mouth or small talk with people I've just met lol",
"The definitive guide to communicating with people has to be the Best Seller [How To Win Friends and Influence People](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n4R2p9WnzAo) By Dale Carnegie.\n\nIt's a bit old, but the advice still holds true. \n\nAnother redditor recommended you start with \"How are you?\" while this has the clear goal of focusing the attention on the other person, it is very old and tired and will instantly give the conversation a forced or feigned feel. (Most of the time.) It's harder to get out of that kind of rut. I'm assuming that you want to \"cold start\" a conversation. In this case, you should aim to start the conversation with a compliment to the other person. Make it something sincere. This involved you being honest with yourself. Find something that you like better about the other person compared to yourself. This brings your respect for the other person higher which helps project your sincerity during the interaction. \n\nDale Carnegie teaches you not How to Pretend to be interested in people, but how to teach yourself to be interested in people.\n\nWhat those other redditors will point out correctly, is that people do like talking about themselves, so as long as your genuinely interested in someone they will happily tell you more and more.",
"Showing genuine interest and asking questions go a long way. Like said earlier, people love talking about themselves. By being an engaged and active listener you can ask the questions that show you care what the other person has to say.\n\nWhen I am taking with someone I don't know very well, I tend to ask open-ended questions. Things like \"what is something you are passionate about?\" Or \"describe your best/worst date.\" It's fun to ask random questions they don't usually hear because it really makes people think about how they want to respond.",
"Hey man, hope you get to see this. \n\nAlways always, be there 100%, a good conversation is like sex. Slow build up and then climax.\n\nBe inquisitive, and make the person you are talking to curious about you.\n\nStart out nice and slow, with compliments and simple phrases. You look nice, how are you, how's everything going.\n\nBased on the answers, branch out into deeper things, and add points of your own. Don't let either of you overtake the flow, unless that's what has come up in conversation. If your partner says \"my dog died\" don't say something like \"oh my, sorry to hear that, I had a dog die too.\" Save your point for later.\n\nTry to express yourself with good words. The word \"like\" has become all too common for instance. Avoid he said she said stories. Say too little, or speak too simply and you risk becoming uninteresting. Say too much or speak with too many \"big\" words and you may give off a vibe you weren't going for.\n\nMost of all, relax. Assess your partners body language, and make use of it as well; body language is crucial and will be what holds it all together.\n\nAt the end, be sure to come to gentle close of possible, and ascertain that you are interested in staying in touch. Unless of course you're not, in that case scramble out of there! Good luck!",
"I am 50 years old and started talking at 2 and never shut up. I am known for never shutting up. I give people brain damage I talk so much. I talk and want myself to shut up. I have been offered money to shut up. I am pretty sure people avoid me due to this. So it isn't a great gift except for this:\n\nI can have conversations with strangers and engage them and not sure exactly what the art is. Part of it is I am really interested in people and like to find out about them and I call it collecting gems. My husband is amazed because I can get people to tell me interesting things about themselves. \n\nI think it is because I have a true spirit of interest inside and people sense that. One of the things I have found is if you know a little about a lot of things it is easier to jump around and converse. From time to time you meet someone who shares interests and then you can know a lot about a few things.\n\nI read the news and try to stay up on recent events and have a pretty well rounded set of interests but I also like to know about things I do not know and I never feel awkward or stupid not knowing. \n\nI will say \"oh I don't know anything about that. What does that mean or what is that?\" \n\nI do not know if this helps you. \n\nJust relax and let your natural interest flow and if a conversation lulls don't worry about it. If neither of you have anything to say then let the conversation die out on its own without forcing it.",
"Treat them like you already know them. Talk to them like you would talk to a friend you've known for years. Also humor is key. If you can make people laugh they will want to keep taking to you",
"They are extroverts. They do not have to think to talk. They just open their mouths and it comes out. No thought involved. Me, probably like you, I rehearse everything I say in my mind before I say it. If so, we are both introverts. Look into Meyers-Briggs testing. ",
"TL;DR: personalize the conversation. Focus on the other person first. Whether it is questions, praise, compliments etc. Most people are actually more anti social than you think/you are. So the more you can prod them into conversation, the more comfortable they will be. Listen, observe, comment. repeat.\n\n\nOne of my strengths (according to some bullshit personality test they made me take) that i find actually is helpful is individualizing the conversation. \n\nSo pay attention to things they say, you know about them through others, stuff on FB etc. PEOPLE LOVE TALKING ABOUT THEMSELVES. And they always appreciate it when you ask about stuff they've been doing. From there you can end up talking about yourself, your own problem, a mutual interest etc.\n\nBut honestly focus on directing the conversation towards them and stuff about them, if you make them feel important they are gonna feel more comfortable telling you about themselves and that will really open up the conversation.\n\nA lot of people talked about quieting the inner voice, which i suppose is also good. But this is also the biggest tip i give to people about talking to women, because this is generally the area they run into your type of problem.\n\nfor example: it just rained like hell, it is really muddy. You have a friend who you know likes offloading. Ask him if he went mudding recently. Were they the right kind of conditions, anything crazy? Did he get stuck? That will get them going. Now if that fails and they don't get going, stay on topic but open it up for them to correct it. Don't flounder. So if that fails, ask what types of things or places they do go offloading and when. It really is easy to get people going and to open up. Even getting the wrong starter can spark them to correct you if its something they are really into. ie. \"How was your trip to Japan?!\" \"Oh well i actually went to thailand.\" Don't let that be the downfall of the convo. Keep it going! Ask what are hallmarks of that culture, what's the big difference, why thailand?\n\n\n",
"Simple. Be INTERESTED. Not INTERESTING. If you want to hold a conversation, keep the focus on the person you're talking to. Also, avoid questions with one concrete answer. If you did, you run the risk of having to force a new topic because the person you're talking to don't ask another question. And remember tha sometimes, it's not the question itself, but the way you phrased it.",
"Make it all about the other person and his/her interests and hopes, dreams, ambitions. Compliment that person. So for example, if she mentions that she lived in Spain for a year, exclaim about how cool that is and it must have been SOO HARD to adjust to a different culture, and how did she get along with the language barrier and such? You're good to go for another 10-15 minutes.\n\nSimply prompting to get the other person to talk about themselves is about 90% of \"good conversation.\" Another 5% is being witty and/or dropping interesting facts. The rest is intangible.",
"They don't.\n\nThe art of good conversation isn't about knowing what to say. It's about knowing when to shut the fuck up. Don't feel self conscious about not saying anything. Silence is golden.\n\nThis is a difficult one if you're from America because it's part of the culture there to talk inane drivel all the time. Rumour has it that if they STFU for 5 minutes their brains start working and so they talk endless nonsense to prevent that from happening.\n\nSo, these are the steps\n\n1. Stop feeling like you need to talk \n2. Say something when you have something to say. \n3. Try really hard not to kick any Americans in the room to the floor saying \"Just shut the fuck up for 5 minutes you dumb cunt. Did you not see Fargo? Do you want to go head first into a wood chopper?\"\n\nBe like Gaear Grimsrud not like Carl Showalter\n",
"It sounds simple, and it is, but few people understand Genuine Curiosity. It's where you suspend your own thoughts and genuinely listen - withholding any judgement or preconceived notions. Not only is it liberating for the listener, they'll likely learn something in the process. The only real work is learning to be genuinely curious, which for many can be hard to learn. I hope that's helpful.",
"Ford. Family, occupation, recreation, dreams. Those 4 topics should have you talking for quite a while, just be interested in the other person",
"Be in the moment with the person, and don't think about yourself and how you're \"doing it\". Just being in the moment can help with alot of things.",
"Ask a lot of questions, pay attention to the other person, and if you say anything, make sure it follows at least one of the three E's: Educate, Entertain, and Enlighten your conversation partner. ",
"just ask questions about the other person. people love talking about themselves. hows work going? where did you get that sweater? etc.",
"if you follow these two rules your conversations will improve!\n\n- listen to what the other person is saying \n- respond ONLY to the very last thing they just said. \n\nThis means even if you have some brilliant idea from two or three sentences ago, you do not bring it up. You must only respond to the last thing spoken. This leads to healthy fun, funny conversations where two people together build a real discussion. \n\n",
"The top comment has it very right. It's all about continuing a conversation by using similar topics. For example Weather -> Sports -> TV -> Books -> Hobbies etc. Just ask questions, you will come off more interesting by asking the person questions. Sounds silly but without even talking about yourself you become a great listener and people go wow he/she was great to talk to. ",
"Or you can move to Finland where \"Silence is golden.\" You are not expected to make small talk. You only break the silence if you have something important to impart. ",
"OP you're not alone! I have the same issue as well. \n\nIve been reading through the advice, and they're very good. Active listening is something I've found to help as well; when the other person is talking, look at them, smile slightly, and engage yourself by physical cues (nodding, changes in facial expressions). \n\nA second thing I've learned is knowing what type of questions to ask them to start a conversation. Don't know the person well? Ask broad questions to find of what they like (I.e. Do you play sports? Have you traveled before? What do you like to do in your spare time?). If you know the person well, ask about topics you know they like. There's nothing harder than trying to talk with a friend about a subject neither of you two know about lol. \n\nTl;dr: good question and good comments. More tips: active listening and knowing the type of questions to ask. ",
"My favorite question to ask: \"What thing (book, TV show, activity, subreddit, etc.) are you most excited about right now?\"\n\nI find that it often yields interesting conversation that the other person is truly engaged in. ",
"I'm not an expert by any means, but my best advice would be to ask questions. What did you do today? Work. Oh how was work? Busy. Really!? Why was it so busy? ... So on etc. Girls (all people I guess) love talking about themselves.",
"I wholly agree with this request. I'm not a horribly awkward person, but often times I blurt out nonsense that doesn't hold up too well in the conversation or has little momentum in it.",
"I find this difficult as well: I don't find many topics interesting, most people know very little about the topics they talk about, what they do know is often worthless opinion and arguing over the topic is counterproductive or alienating... What people have done is often boring to hear about... We mostly do the same things week in and week out. As I get older and have seen it all, hearing about specific instances of general events for the hundredth time is not interesting. Finding common interests with someone else is difficult because my interests are very narrow and rather intellectual. So overall carrying on a conversation for long periods of time is very difficult. ",
"I couldn't recommend \"How to Win Friends and Influence People\" by Dale Carnegie enough. It's not so much a step by step guide on how to manipulate people to your will as the title suggests, more how to be a more likeable, open and friendly person.\n\nAlso, learn the difference between open and closed questions. http://changingminds.org/techniques/questioning/open_closed_questions.htm",
"Coming from someone who talks a lot and sometimes people tell me to shut up. I try to guess things in common or bring up things I know about. I'm filled with tons of useless information.",
"As someone who also has trouble with conversations, I recommend talking about entertainment. Like \"have you heard (blah-blah's) new album?\" Then you instantly know if they're into your favorite music. Or \"have you seen (movie/tv show that just came out)\" Instant conversation starters. The news is always good too, but not as interesting. I guess I basically just straight-up ask people if they're into the same stuff as me, and if they're not, I ask them what they're into, which usually gets em going.",
"it helps if you read or keep up with things going on. If you are only interested in new Releases on Netflix, you are going to wait until the convo comes around to your comfort area, or you are going to force a convo you are comfortable with on someone that may not want to talk about that. \n\nEver been around the guy/girl that will always bring up something off topic randomly? They are fishing for something that they can talk about (throw them a bone every once in a while peeps. Everyone likes to control the convo sometimes). \nRead, watch and pay attention to things that are going on. It does not have to be Isis, or currency issues in Greece, but know that those things are going on so you are not clueless. \n\nListen to what is being said. How else are you going to react to something? You have to listen to have the reaction in your head triggering \"Hey i heard about that, but thought it was in < >\" \"Was that on 60 Minutes? i caught some of it.\" ",
"[This might be helpful.](http://www.reddit.com/comments/ovaar/since_seductionreview_went_down_i_thought_id/)",
"You talk about something you have an interest and knowledge in, and you don't even realise you're talking.",
"When I feel like a line of conversation is coming to an end, I like to think of some anecdote that relates to something your conversation partner already said. So after all the questions are asked and just before you and them just kind of sit there going \"so... yeah,\" I'll say, \"You know, what you said about X reminds me of this time when I Y.\" Something like that. It breathes new life into dying conversations. Then rinse and repeat until the whole thing comes to a natural conclusion. ",
"Well you're not going to feel comfortable as long as you're \"trying to maintain a conversation\", which is a weird idea. Just try to be genuinely interested in the other person and care about what they say, and react honestly to what they say and with enthusiasm.",
"The two big ones in my life:\n\n- always ask about the other person and talk about them and their deeds... People's favorite conversation topic is themselves... Nobody will be interested in your tales or accomplishments (with few exceptions)...\n\n- always respond to something related to the last thing the person said in the exchange); this requires active listening, not just waiting for your turn to talk\n\nWhen you find someone who also asks about you and actually responds to what you say (they actually listen), then you've found one of the very few socially-aware and mature conversationalists out there! Good luck...",
"The trick I have always found to work is to test the waters early with something. Talk about how they dress, or what they're drinking, or what car they drive. Really anything that gets them to give you a 'real' response. Now you know if they like sweaters, or like IPA beers, or hate their car. And use this to keep the conversation going in other directions.\n\nThis exposes you to a large number of other conversations that you can continue onto. Then just repeat this until the both of you have an equal part in the conversation. \n\nSource: My job involves talking to people and maintaining relationships with in small niche communities. Being able to converse smoothly is essential.",
"The comment about sub-vocalization is brilliant; wanted to offer an addendum that will perhaps offer some insight on how to also be part of the generative side of a conversation.\n\nAs a non-stop talker (ADHD ftw), but also someone who prefers to have his audience be genuinely interested (as opposed to simply patiently enduring), I've learned that the being interested is more interesting. I think a common mistake people make is to share an idea, anecdote, curiosity, etc. in a somewhat withheld manner, as if to test for others' interest before exploring it further, or perhaps with no meta-awareness of how their story is experienced absent their own internality to accompany it. I think this creates a bit of a vicious circle, insofar as what ends up happening is that people get a like-warm response to what might have been a perfectly interesting/amusing/engaging piece of conversation and then become less free and open in any ensuing exchange.\n\nPeople are naturally empathetic when they can be; sharing the emotional content of a thought or idea, helping others to follow your interest by conveying it, often draws people in. I think of it like adding color; if my story is interesting enough, *to me*, to share, it's probably important to contextualize how I came to hold that interest in order for my audience to come with me. This usually provokes questions, mutual enthusiasm, and a passive kind of trust that overcomes the inhibiting quality of an awkward silence or the exhausting quality of trying to propel a conversation by desperately googling your own imagination for headlines.\n\n",
"The best way to keep a conversation is too ask questions. In not saying you should interrogate anyone. Just ask them how they feel, what they think or what they're doing. Most people like to talk about themselves. ",
"Talk about things you're passionate about, pay attention to what others are passionate about / grow your knowledge of those subjects, and learn that talking over someone isn't always a bad thing as it can help keep the conversation flowing.",
"Say things you find funny. Comedy is key to making friends. If you can laugh with someone, you can cry with them.",
"One of the hardest thing I have to relearn is looking people in the eye while listening or talking. And when I do try, I feel like my eyes are going to burst after 3 seconds of looking at them.",
"Its bad cause I fail at small talk. It's especially worse when you meet someone for the first time since that is your only option I feel.",
"It's all about common interests!! I ask people about their work and the conversation becomes fueled for a while, sharing work experiences and what not. It only takes one word to spark a whole new conversation topic. I'll sometimes say \"This is sort of off topic but you mentioned ___.\" Then you have a whole new conversation.",
"I'm the same way, still improving with time. I tend to think of conversation as a form of improvisation, one of the most important principles being the concept of \"Yes...and?\" Continue and expand on the topic, roll with the direction of conversation, and don't try to control the other person's train of thought. ",
"I was going to give some lectures to some very big audiences. So took the \"Dale Carnegie\" course. It wasn't cheap but lasted, I think around 12 weeks. Turns out 90% of the training was \"how to engage a good conversation\" and work relationships. Turned out I didn't realize how much I needed that 90%. And my lectures also got standing ovations. If you search, you may find the course given in your area.",
"I was able to engage in longer and more in depth conversations when I started reading on a daily basis. I don't mean fiction books or novels, more about current events or relevant topics. (i.e. Politics, World Events, Financial Markets & Investing, Business Strategy, technology etc). When you have a good broad base you can really talk about almost anything. But one way to get people to talk is to ask a question and then shut up. Most people are conditioned to fill silent voids with conversation. (Although not all). But if you can find a common interest, which is why it's good to be well read, the conversation won't seem to difficult. ",
"I used to have the same problem, quite bad... now I can entertain long interesting conversations with most people. Of course learning few tricks helps but for me it happened as a consequence of trying to live an interesting life: I traveled a lot, have many interests, and enjoy long conversations with intelligent people, many of which talk a lot! It took about 6-7 years..",
"I used to be the exact same way. Number one: even if you don't care, act like you do. No one likes talking to a wall. Ask lots and lots of questions, about them or about anything else. Discipline yourself enough to set your phone/electronics down for at least ten minutes at a time. Get those brain juices flowing into the outside world, not into the world inside your phone. You'll find you have more common interests with a lot more people than you would think. Once you find common ground, expand.",
"I think you might be building other people up too much. Normal people have lulls in conversations too. They have awkward pauses and times when they can't think of things to say. Sometimes they say stuff that falls flat and doesn't interest the other person. You can't cater to the other person all the time and be their sole source of entertainment, that just puts waaaaaay too much pressure on yourself. Just remember that only a very very select few are able to charm another person with conversation alone. Pretty much everyone else has the same problems you do, except they don't put as much pressure on themselves to be the ultimate conversationalist. I know, I used to be like you too.",
"Headbutt them and tackle them to the ground, break into bloodlustful spasms, and then yell into their face \"I AM THE ALPHA\" \n..after you've cleared that question up, proceed to talk about whatever you fancy. ",
"Being interested in the other person is definitely the way to start (as other people have noted), but when that runs out or the person goes with \"and what's new with you? \" it helps to actually have a response. A sub [r/mydaily3](http://www.reddit.com/r/mydaily3) was started a while back based on the idea of writing down three things -even if they're mundane - that you'd done each day in order to have something to say for these questions. It's a lot quicker than keeping a diary and gives you enough to keep the conversation going. ",
"Because people are fucking narcissists and talk about themselves and their \"interesting\" stories all the time.\n\nOn a related note I was talking to this guy at a bar in a city in a state in a country on a continent in the world blah blah blah blah blah",
"2 people that want to have a conversation. Sometimes a person may be having a bad day and won't want to talk. Unless you're very close to the person, don't try and fix their problem and just leave them alone.",
"2 LPT:\n\nRead and/or watch movies... talk about those, maybe ones you've seen, or interesting things you've read. This could be extended to music, or anything related to the arts. \n\nCommentary - just sit back and talk about what's in front of you, whether it be people or otherwise. \n\nBetween those things I never run out of topics.",
"**Part 1 of being a good conversationalist: be interested in what they have to say.** The information doesn't have to \"matter\"...the conversation is its own end. I get in a mindset where I try to get all the information on what they're talking about out of their head and try to reconstruct that picture in my head. Then I ask focused questions to get more details, almost like I'm picking their brain. When you can ask focused questions, the other person knows that you're genuinely listening.\n\n**Part 2 of being a good conversationalist: hold up your end.** People LOVE to talk about themselves...so much so that their impression of you will be more favorable if you appear interested in them. However, you don't want to turn it into an interrogation by asking them questions all the time. Make sure you participate in the conversation by injecting your own personal perspectives when relevant...ideas, opinions, experiences, etc.\n\n**Part 3 of being a good conversationalist: be interesting.** If all you can relate to is Warcraft and Game of Thrones, you're going to have a very limited group of people with whom you can converse without being lost. Continually try to expand your experiences to include things that you are unfamiliar with...then you can converse about anything. Also, the more hobbies and interests you have, the more people and topics you can relate to in a conversation. This step is the most commonly neglected, but, IMO, the most important in making you a good conversationalist.",
"The best way to have a good conversation and seem like an interesting person is to keep asking your partner questions. You lead the conversation but let them fill it",
"Seriously? Go outside and practice. If you're asking the internet for help you're already down the wrong path.",
"I just did this [a few days ago.]( http://www.reddit.com/r/IWantToLearn/comments/2qg2fk/iwtl_to_become_a_good_conversationalist/cn5t89s) Think this should help."
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"Staying awake (extended periods of time) For those of us who have busy schedules, over bearing work, extensive homework, children, etc. who do you stay awake for long periods of time? ",
"Staying awake (extended periods of time) For those of us who have busy schedules, over bearing work, extensive homework, children, etc. who do you stay awake for long periods of time? ",
"Staying awake (extended periods of time) For those of us who have busy schedules, over bearing work, extensive homework, children, etc. who do you stay awake for long periods of time? ",
"Staying awake (extended periods of time) For those of us who have busy schedules, over bearing work, extensive homework, children, etc. who do you stay awake for long periods of time? ",
"Staying awake (extended periods of time) For those of us who have busy schedules, over bearing work, extensive homework, children, etc. who do you stay awake for long periods of time? ",
"Staying awake (extended periods of time) For those of us who have busy schedules, over bearing work, extensive homework, children, etc. who do you stay awake for long periods of time? ",
"Staying awake (extended periods of time) For those of us who have busy schedules, over bearing work, extensive homework, children, etc. who do you stay awake for long periods of time? ",
"Staying awake (extended periods of time) For those of us who have busy schedules, over bearing work, extensive homework, children, etc. who do you stay awake for long periods of time? "
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"Don't \"plan\" on staying up late, it'll create oppurtunities for you to justify wasting your time. Start work on something, take breaks every half hour to stretch, get back to work.",
"I changed to the [Everyman (with 3 naps)](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyphasic_sleep#Scheduled napping to achieve more time awake) sleep pattern.\n\nI would like to go to the Dymaxion one but it's harder for me to find a full 30 minute break to power nap. At work my lunch is 30 minutes but it takes some time to settle in so you never truly get that full 30. Which is why the 20 minute one in Everyman works better for me.",
"My experience is that you can take supplements, stimulants and everything else, but at the end of the day, you can't cheat sleep. Keep it up for too long and your brain will not function correctly. \n\nThere are a few research papers that show that certain types of dementia relate to upsetting the body-clock, including one that showed holes developing in the brains of the animals they were testing on (fruit flies, but still interesting.)\n\nTL;DR Sleep. You need it.",
"Ginseng, caffeine, ephedrine. Depending on where you are ephedrine might be illegal but stimulants are a proven way to keep a person awake. Caffeine pills are cheaper than energy drinks too.",
"Take melatonin before you sleep. I worked graveyard shift for five years, and though day sleeping was never the same as night sleeping, melatonin always made me feel more rested, even if I only got a few hours of sleep.",
"Precursor: Sleep is more important than supplements!\n\n\nI work graveyard and actually had a 2nd job for a while early afternoons. Naps are great, you may feel groggy at first but you'll always snap back. 3 hours for a nap does very well if you take multiple 3 hour naps a day. 5 hour energies work very well for me and keep me going, staying hydrated, staying well fed (if you're a busy person you need to calories to keep it up). Fruits are great! Nuts, Salads, stay light on what you eat, don't go for a heavy hamburger or hot dogs (they'll make you slower/want to crash and sleep). Just some tips. I've managed many over 24 hour days of no sleep but after those 24+ hour days you MUST SLEEP!",
"One thing I can suggest, being a night owl myself, is to start conditioning your body to sleep less. A drastic shift can be rather unsettling, so i would recommend a gradual decrease in hours slept, i.e. say you normally sleep eight hours, start adjusting to sleep seven , then six, etc. I typically operate on a five hour sleep schedule; this allows me enough energy(?) to be up for atleast 18-20 hrs without feeling lethargic, fatigue, general tiredness. ",
"If you really must, 5hr energies (really 24hrs of energy if you take the caffiene dosage and take into account the 4.9hr hlf life of caffiene} but the downside is the longer your take it, the more resistant you will become to caffiene (If your up to the point where your need more than 4/hr you need to stop cause your getting dangerously close to the LD50 of caffiene).Adrenaline is a good substitute, but that requires high levels of activity. What length of time are you talking? just a few days or weeks?\n\nBUT Bad shit happens if and when you do this. The first 20 hours or so isnt bad, but soon you start to forget when and where you did something. then after about 36-48hrs you start \"droning\" where you basically fall asleep standing up for split seconds, not to mention all the while your thinking level just goes downhill. Any moment when you start to rest is when you'll fall asleep. You'll have trouble doing basic shit the longer you extend your uptime."
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