What are your thoughts on bullying?



What do you think of bullying?   

Were you bullied, or were you the bully?   

Why do you think people bully?
What do you think of bullying?   

- Bullying awful and horrible. It's really hard to get over the bullying and try to move on. Bullying causes so many problems and a lot of people develop mental health problems like depression, stress, anxiety and they lead to self harm, have suicidal thoughts and even take their own lives. Bullying is horrible and nobody deserves to be bullied.   

  

Were you bullied, or were you the bully?   

- Yes, I was bullied for 5 years and I suffered from physical and emotional bullying. They spat at me, called me names, punched me in the stomach and beat me up. It was the worst point in my life and it led me to suffer from depression   

  

Why do you think people bully?   

- They are evil. They're jealous and are pathetic   

  

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it could be your body language and demeanor that they dont like. there are things we do that are subconcious that others notice but we dont ourselves. if people judge that hard though, are they really worth being around and getting to know? what are you talking about religious people get mocked frequently and looked down upon by those who either believe differently or don't believe at all. this is why we shouldn't have religious people in power, they have a tendency to make it hard on the other religions. do you have concerns ( which previous generations more commonly had ) about whether a dad ought to be rough and toughen the lad up versus being nurturing and pleasant ? <br><br>not that long back the latter was the norm - it didn&#39;t do growing boys any good, and often left them confused, and experiencing difficulties in demonstrating the gentleness that is so much a part of manliness, which doesn&#39;t solely consist of being rough and tough. <br><br>how did your own father relate to you ? often, in ways we don&#39;t altogether realize, the model of how to be fatherly is one we absorb from what we see and experience. wow marlboro! yikes! ouch! even though i&#39;ve been working with queer issues for many years i am still struck by what you&#39;ve told us. it is a very sad reflection on our society, where same-sex marriage is legal, that parents can throw gay youth out of their homes. ignorance and prejudice run very deep.<br><br>what are your ages?<br> i would think very lowly of her. if she resorts to violence because she is offended or dissagrees then she is not the type of person i need to be associated with. if she kept hitting me i would restrain her or try to evade her. if she started attacking me i would fight back. i don't give a damn what your gender is, if you are a threat to safety you should be dealt with. you don't get a free pass because of your genitalia. it depends who it is and how they treated me and why they ghosted me - if they did it after i insulted them unintentionally - it’s forgivable - same if they heard a lie about me and believed they were doing the right thing at the time - otherwise i block them can you identify from where in your childhood this people pleasing dynamic stems from?why do you people please?what do you get from it?what might happen if you don't people please?rhetorical questions for self discovery. as my gong fu instructor used to say. 'awareness'. you should watch your inner thought processes and your bodily/feeling reactions, rather than necessarily having to get caught up in them or believing them, or even answering them. once they are watched and the own processes of your consciousness are understood more fully, they will start to lose their grip on you.the other thing worth bearing in mind is people are different in their own moods, feelings, perceptions, their own internal make up - karma - or reaction to things. therefore, they may be reacting in a way that is entirely nothing to do with you. you might also like to watch this video on healthy boundaries if you feel that might be an issue. when u do well but not well enough.or when they hate the other team. never keep throwing the past in someone's face. That's like slapping someone in the face with every little mistake they are trying to still heal from day to day. that's abusive. probably why she held a lot of resentment seeking out comfort from another man.   
another thing is. the on and off shananagens is due to lack of trust and lots of selfishness.   
if you're ever in that position again. learn from it.. always bring someone up no matter what mistakes they're making. 2 wrongs don't make a right. always be the better Samaritan.  
children will always be a sticky situation. always make good choices that suite what you want and what you're mentally, physically and financially mature enough to handle.   
May the force be with you!!! A.Thank you for writing. I’m sure this is hard to live with. I think you keep having the fantasies because at some point they worked for you. You are a sensitive young woman who has a strong moral compass.

In 7th grade, you knew you had done something wrong and earned the reprimand. But, being you, you couldn’t let it go. You felt so bad about it that you went over it and over it. Crying may have relieved some of the intense feelings of shame and perhaps anger that went with thinking about what happened. If it had stopped there, it would have been an unfortunate reaction to a very usual piece of mischief that kids do.

But being as concerned as you are with right and wrong, any time since then that you have felt accused or reprimanded, it has reminded you of that first time when you were not only wrong but humiliated for it. Your unconscious self then also remembered that crying gave you some relief.

I suspect the “lesson” generalized and you started to cry any time you needed relief from stress. Stress just comes with being a teen so there was probably reason to look for some relief every day. But then you end up feeling bad that you feel bad. That must feel terrible!

Unfortunately, your reaction has become a kind of bad habit. Having practiced it for years, feeling sick or crying is an automatic response to stress.

You need some new ways to handle stress and shame. Maybe you can figure it out yourself but you would probably benefit from seeing a therapist who could give you some new tools and help you practice them. I hope you will consider seeing a licensed therapist to help you with this so you can go forward into adult life with less distressing ways for relieving anxieties and stress.

I wish you well

Dr. Marie

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