looking for a good counsellor in cpt
hi,<br><br>i&#39&nbsp;m looking for a good counsellor in the cape town region, but don&#39&nbsp;t know where to go to find these details.<br><br>there are so many things not right with me at the moment, and i need to get professional help. without sounding too cheesy or cliched, i have had thoughts of killing myself.<br><br>as a child, i was sexually abused&nbsp; my family was really messed up (my father was an alcoholic)&nbsp; and just generally, i was forced to grow up at a very early age.<br><br>i&#39&nbsp;m now 20, and all these things seem to be getting me down. i guess it&#39&nbsp;s just years of not dealing with things. previously, i could easily deal with whatever was thrown my way, but now i just can&#39&nbsp;t seem to cope. i have had thoughts of killing myself, but i immediately change my thought processes, because i know that that is not the answer. <br><br>i need to find a doctor that will help me deal with these childhood issues, as well as my self-worth, confidence, trust and, sexuality issues.<br><br>i don&#39&nbsp;t have a lot of money to spend on a doctor, but i have medical aid that should cover for that where possible. i just need to help myself, and i believe that this is the first step.<br><br>please advise.<br>your reply will be greatly appreciated.<br><br>thanking you in advance.<br>shazmangle
try calling famsa, which can suggest a number of counsellors in your area, and has some knowledge of costs, and which can make some adjustment according to earnings. i&#39;d also recommend that you seek a counsellor who will deal with all your current problems, and avoid one that would wan to focus too exclusively on abuse issues  they too often are too busy riding their own hobby-horse that they dont&#39; deal so well with your needs
help. the starting point is a comprehensive psychological assessment. talking therapy is important. cognitive behavioral therapy can be very effective. you may need medications. if you have active thoughts about killing yourself with a plan - then you need to be seen asap at the nearest emergency room. there is hope. you are worthy of getting excellent treatment. see more... with a therapist or psychologist that you trust. such a person will help you sort out what is making you think you were abused and feelings associated with this idea and how this affects you life today. you can find a psychologist close to you here: locator.apa.org find someone who knows about sexual abuse and who you like and who feels safe. see more... I would suggest looking for an assisted living or Memory Care program. Sounds like he needs to have a Power of Attorney assigned for finance and also one for health care. Has anyone in the family broached these topics with your father? Unfortunately, you are now in the position of needing to be more proactive in caring for your father, much like your parents did for you when you were a child unable to make decisions for yourself. It sounds like it is time for a family meeting with your siblings, if you have any, or contacting your local Department on Aging to assist you with the activities that need to be done to adequately care for your elderly father. A.  You wouldn’t go to a pediatrician if you had cancer. You wouldn’t go to a kidney specialist if you had heart trouble. All doctors are not alike. Sometimes we have to go to the right specialist to get the help we need. In your case, you need both a psychiatrist and a therapist who work together to get the right care.


The treatment of choice for your problems is a combination of medication and talk [therapy](https://psychcentral.com/psychotherapy/). [OCD](https://psychcentral.com/disorders/ocd/) and [anxiety](https://psychcentral.com/disorders/anxiety/) disorders can be treated and managed successfully. Generally, patients see their therapist weekly and, after an initial period of weekly visits to get the medication right, they see their psychiatrist every few months. When the two professionals are working in the same practice, they are able to confer with each other easily and work together to give you good care.



I understand that you have been afraid to see a mental health professional because of your grandfather’s experience. But treatments have changed considerably since your grandfather’s time. From the little you shared, I also suspect he had a much different problem.


To find a specialist, ask your primary care doctor for a referral to a practice. You can also go to the “Therapist Locator” on the homepage of PsychCentral.


Please don’t hesitate to make an appointment for an initial session. The clinician will listen to your story and will make suggestions. (Take your letter with you if you want to jump start the conversation.) You are under no obligation to follow through with the treatment plan that is proposed. But I hope you do. You’ve suffered far too long.


I wish you well.  

Dr. Marie


I Have Struggled for Years better yet , find out if there are any epileptologists ( neurologist who specialize w/ people who have epilepsy ) in your area. the next best thing would be, to call the epilepsy foundation. they maybe able to help you find a good dr.. and not a pa. part of becoming an adult and having a family of your own is learning how to manage relationships with other people... like your own parents. it can be devastating to have a parent with mental illness, i do understand, my dad lost his battle with mental illness several years ago. however, when you are responsible for a child of your own, you've got to be able to function no matter what else is happening around you. part of that is giving yourself time and space to grieve and to feel what you are feeling rather than trying to stuff it down. find someone to talk to that you can let those tears go with, a counselor... or friend... your husband... even calling a warmline if necessary. the baby will be fine. that sounds rough, i am sorry you aren't feeling well. my advice is just go to a different hospital to get a different view on your situation. please don't hold off on it, this problem really needs to be taken care of. as someone who left pwc completely burned out on travel, who recommends consulting to very few people- it might actually make sense in your situation.take every opportunity to hit the airport and get out of cleveland. bond with clients all over the country, then take your pick of exit opportunities I agree with Mr. Burdett. You are facing criminal charges and you should retain a local attorney to assist you. Good luck! The answer can be complex depending on what your grandmother is willing to do/accept. Does your grand mother have Power of Attorney for his medical care and finances???? Is your grandmother willing to put her health and marriage first?? If not, it gets very complicated.  
  
1)The Area Agency on Aging is in every county in the USA. She can contact them to come out to evaluate your great grand father for his needs. They offer help with various situations. It is based on income level.  
  
2)Having a Power of Attorney (POA) is a necessity to make legal decisions for another persons medical/finance.  
  
3) If your grandmother does not have a POA and your great-grandfather refuses to get one, there is only one way that I know about to help your grandmother, but only if she is willing to be very strong against her father.'  
  
She can take her father to the ER for medical issue. Then she would have to be very strong to say, "I cannot take care of him." What happens, is the state steps in and he would be placed in a facility if it is determined he cannot take care of himself. Many of had to do this, it sounds drastic, but sometimes it is the only solution when the caregiver is having their own health issues to take care of. The hospital will pressure your grandmother so she will have to stand her ground.   
  
Maybe someone else will have more to offer you than I do. Good luck, and I hope something can be done.