what should i do i like this guy and he likes me but everyone else thinks hes a dork?
i used to go out with this kid and i broke up with him and i started liking him again but my friends all think hes a dork.....
who guives?
Just do what ever you feel like, go more to the gym than usual hang out with friends more often anytime it feels like he is using you. If he asks tell him why you are doing it tho assuming of course you actually want to stick around a person like that ;3  
  
Much LOVE, and good luck! you have to initiate conversations with him too sometimes or he will think you don't like him as much as he likes you. basically he probably got tired of chasing you so if you want him you should send him a message and start a conversation right now. Girl, same. You need to realise it wasn't you. Regardless of his reasoning. Even if he wasn't attracted to you, that's still on him so don't be insecure! You will miss him and that is normal, but you will find someone to share the rest of your life with.  
  
How I look at it is, every relationship is like picking up a card from a deck. You can pick up a king, or a joker, and very few people get that king first go. You may even need to go through half the damn deck- but he's in there somewhere:) i hear you and feel so sorry for you that it's not working out as you want... i hear you actually you're like a dear friend of mine...but i can't help but point out a few points. seriously, listen up i'm not trying to judge you or anything.. belive me. but you know it's so uncool of you to say that you've been used, since you both agreed to have sex, come on.. we're grown ups not underage girls.. how the heck the 'being used' part come from?(actually that kind of attitude might have freaked him out i think..) and also i don't really see what he has done wrong so far if it was clear you two were just friends with benefits. i mean seriously, he's not your boyfriend, and you're acting like as if he is.. but you know.. i completely understand that you're having hard time with your ex. you liked him so sweet and listened to you.. trying to understand what you're going throw.. your bf's hurting you, it's because i see girls who suffer from bad relationship and honestly? if he's no good for you and he's hurting you and if another guy help you get out of that deep hell, go for it(im selfish i know, sorry). but you aren't happy, because you found a wrong guy(not that he's wrong, it's just he is not a guy who can give you what you need and want) that made it clear that it was just sex, and you two are kinda friends(well you claim) which is fine. but you want him to be there for you, and be only with you no other girls. don't you see? why he's leaving you?how to change his mind.. honestly? after all these? that you freaked him out and you broke the rule of friends with benefits which is called 'feelings' with it's best friend 'jealousy', you were cheating on your boyfriend, and you said all your relationship with other guy? i don't see any possibilities(girls! don't you think it's a little bit unfair that to say i wanna be who i am , asking guys to be some kind of knights? ... )i hope you find another new sencere sweet boyfriend, i really do. but right now.. i really hate to say it but you and him? i don't think it's gonna happen. i'm so sorry... i think i haven't been any helpful but all mean words.. but i have dear friend who is going throw what you're going through...(at least it seems like to me..). and i really really hope you the best... really... a big hug.. find a guy who can give you want you want.. who can love you.. really..you be the dreamy girl... not despressed lonely girl... then right guy will come out..! if it's only occasionally, while this is a bit excessive, i'd give him the benefit of the doubt depending on his lifestyle. but if it happens all the time, i'd be asking them why myself. i'd say he only sees you as a friend though at best. i'd be upset if anyone took that long to reply lol. they'd better have their phone turned off or something lol tell him to go for it. he needs to learn how to deal with rejection while he's young or he'll just avoid it all his life. i agree with your friends. you obviously like each other because he claimed to be willing to make the long drive to see you, he willingly met your parents to good effect, and he responds well when you call him. however, we cannot know what he is thinking until he makes some positive overtures in your favor without prodding. he probably has only the vaguest ideas what to do with himself regarding the relationship with you, so maybe you should give him time to clear his head. you must give him space for a few days to a week, maybe, before calling him again. he could be concerned about a long-distance affair, he could be overwhelmed by pressures of daily life, or just grappling with his shyness (since, you say, he's not been in a relationship before). if you get a weak or no response after about a week, call him and ask him directly how he feels about your mutual arrangement. once you allow him to make the moves himself it will all turn out well. well this happened to me (a bit younger at first and then a five year break before continuing) and it's made me distrusting of people, especially boys or people i date. it made me feel like they saw me as easy, and even now i feel like i am. i'm mostly normal (with some side effects from the memories) but i really have problems with people flirting and giving me compliments Look girl let me tell you something I ignore the problem and it eats me up inside. Maybe you're feeling the same way. So is ignoring really going to HELP YOU move on? Who cares about him... what will help you move on? Because your definitely not ready. This guy is a NARS and he CHEATED on you and LIED about it to your face and you still felt sorry for him and wasted your precious time by trying to make him feel better? Girl where's your dignity? Did this guy crush you? Did he make you feel worthless at some point? I've been cheated on and it makes you question who you are so please do yourself a favor and walk away with confidence, dignity and respect for yourself because if you can't forgive him or if you keep being Mother Teresa and forgiving him and caring about him when he clearly didn't mind treating you bad then go ahead and waste your time. These feelings aren't fun they can consume you make you doubt yourself crush you so please breakup with him in a way that gives you peace and know that there's always someone else out there that won't take you for granted now notice I didn't say won't let you down because for example I told my boyfriend that the only way I'll leave him is if he cheats or lies to me with our finances with real life problems not pity stuff we couples argue about so if he broke your trust if you clearly had the line drawn in something and he still MADE A CHOICE to go against you then this guy ain't worth it. Liking doesn't always equal commitment.   
  
You don't really have to analyze it but if you did it could be because  
  
He doesn't want to commit to just one woman. He wants to experience a lot of different women.  
  
He just wants sex.  
  
He as at a point in his life his focus is on what is important to his own personal development.  
  
He has emotional bonding issues and doesn't really know how to commit.  
  
None of these reasons matter so either you see him without the commitment or you just hang out with him as friends but date other guys. No point in thinking he's going to change any time soon.