i cheated my girl friend now guilty of it.?
i love a girl of my age. she loves me too. we had a misunderstanding inbetween and i started hating her. in that time i developed love with another girl who too studies with us. she too loved me inspite of knowing my past love. oneday we ended up having sex(not intercoarse only outer). later i understood that my ex-girlfriend loves me much. i then continued my relation with her. my new gf also knows that i cannot marry her. i also wish to marry my ex-girlfriend only. but i m guilty of what i did. can i say to my lover about this. she is too possesive of me. she dont like me talking to any girl even if it is my sister.
what? you have a new girlfriend but wish to marry your ex? i think you need to be alone for a bit and sort your head out.
I forgave my boyfriend for cheating on me. It was hard. But i loved him and i didn't want to throw our life away because of his drunken decision. She may not trust you fully right now but tell her that you're willing to be patient and to gain back her trust and that something like that will never happen again and be completely honest with her. i hear you and feel so sorry for you that it's not working out as you want... i hear you actually you're like a dear friend of mine...but i can't help but point out a few points. seriously, listen up i'm not trying to judge you or anything.. belive me. but you know it's so uncool of you to say that you've been used, since you both agreed to have sex, come on.. we're grown ups not underage girls.. how the heck the 'being used' part come from?(actually that kind of attitude might have freaked him out i think..) and also i don't really see what he has done wrong so far if it was clear you two were just friends with benefits. i mean seriously, he's not your boyfriend, and you're acting like as if he is.. but you know.. i completely understand that you're having hard time with your ex. you liked him so sweet and listened to you.. trying to understand what you're going throw.. your bf's hurting you, it's because i see girls who suffer from bad relationship and honestly? if he's no good for you and he's hurting you and if another guy help you get out of that deep hell, go for it(im selfish i know, sorry). but you aren't happy, because you found a wrong guy(not that he's wrong, it's just he is not a guy who can give you what you need and want) that made it clear that it was just sex, and you two are kinda friends(well you claim) which is fine. but you want him to be there for you, and be only with you no other girls. don't you see? why he's leaving you?how to change his mind.. honestly? after all these? that you freaked him out and you broke the rule of friends with benefits which is called 'feelings' with it's best friend 'jealousy', you were cheating on your boyfriend, and you said all your relationship with other guy? i don't see any possibilities(girls! don't you think it's a little bit unfair that to say i wanna be who i am , asking guys to be some kind of knights? ... )i hope you find another new sencere sweet boyfriend, i really do. but right now.. i really hate to say it but you and him? i don't think it's gonna happen. i'm so sorry... i think i haven't been any helpful but all mean words.. but i have dear friend who is going throw what you're going through...(at least it seems like to me..). and i really really hope you the best... really... a big hug.. find a guy who can give you want you want.. who can love you.. really..you be the dreamy girl... not despressed lonely girl... then right guy will come out..! Look girl let me tell you something I ignore the problem and it eats me up inside. Maybe you're feeling the same way. So is ignoring really going to HELP YOU move on? Who cares about him... what will help you move on? Because your definitely not ready. This guy is a NARS and he CHEATED on you and LIED about it to your face and you still felt sorry for him and wasted your precious time by trying to make him feel better? Girl where's your dignity? Did this guy crush you? Did he make you feel worthless at some point? I've been cheated on and it makes you question who you are so please do yourself a favor and walk away with confidence, dignity and respect for yourself because if you can't forgive him or if you keep being Mother Teresa and forgiving him and caring about him when he clearly didn't mind treating you bad then go ahead and waste your time. These feelings aren't fun they can consume you make you doubt yourself crush you so please breakup with him in a way that gives you peace and know that there's always someone else out there that won't take you for granted now notice I didn't say won't let you down because for example I told my boyfriend that the only way I'll leave him is if he cheats or lies to me with our finances with real life problems not pity stuff we couples argue about so if he broke your trust if you clearly had the line drawn in something and he still MADE A CHOICE to go against you then this guy ain't worth it. i found out she had sex with another guy and confronted her. she cried and said she was sorry and said she was devastated that she hurt me. we worked on it for four months, during which time i said that i wanted all the facts. everything. don't hold back. i needed the truth to move on from the lies. i told her that it wasn't so much the actual sex that ate away at me. it was the lies and cover ups that shattered my trust. she said she would do that and anything else i needed. well, she had said she only hooked up with him three times and that it was mostly just companionship while i was long distance. (smh at how stupid i was.) then i found out that it was a four month affair. sleepovers multiple times a week. dates and picnics. pdas. going to the gym. going to his baseball games. cooking together. playing house. and unprotected sex with him while she was having unprotected sex with me. all her friends knew. and the ultimate infidelity is that she really was grooming him to be her boyfriend without ever telling him she was dating me. she lied to both of us. that's when i realized that she was never was truly sorry for doing something wrong. because she didn't see it as wrong. just exploring her options. she was only sorry she got caught. but, like an idiot, i tried for another four months. i was blinded by love and lust and the connection we had. finally i just realized that, even though i loved so much about her, she was not the one for me. trust is absolutely the foundational requirement for a healthy relationship. without it, there is nothing. i did recently. i out of nowhere just decided to message her and tell her i regret never dating her back in school First of all, you can't fight for a relationship your partner is not ready to protect. He's given it up and you fighting for it is completely useless at the moment..   
  
I understand what he's going through because my culture is strict since I'm Arab. So I undersyand how stressed and pressured he must feel for disobeying his parents. I bet he feels guilty enough for changing his religion, so having a girlfriend makes him feel even more guilty.   
  
If he chose to leave the relationship although he truly loved you then he has a good reason for it. I imagine he doesn't want you to have a bad future with him where his parents won't ever approve of your relationship, And he wants to avoid that family drama for your and his own good.   
  
U can have one last talk to him and tell him to rethink it because to be honest, right now this relationship depends solely on him. And I think he might have been really influenced by his parents so he made a rushed decision, maybe a wise one, but still rushed. If he takes his time he might change his mind. my girlfriend is an artist and majored in art and english literature. yet i'm far more well-read than her in literature, am arguably a better artist and writer and of the two of us i'm the one currently in the process of a publishing company startup. she's also agreed hands down that i'm smarter than her despite her being older since i can tell you tons of useless fact shit about geography, history, i know the extensive history behind the opium wars and shit like that whereas when i start down one of these long lectures she'll just stare at me like "uhhh". there are two reasons for this: a: i never felt a classroom conducive to my learning experience (since the education system is fucking shit, it was concieved at the turn of the century during the industrial revolution when little worker bees were needed and the system is therefore a way to create workers, yes men, not leaders and innovators. if there was something i was interested in during my high school days i went out and i learned about it first-hand. i read tons of books that interested me, i went to writer's guild meetings and read about all of the cliche's and processes of the industry. i self-published my first full-length novel when i was 19, it failed spectacularly because i knew next to nothing about marketing, promotion and advertising. so what did i do? i got into sales, started working sales jobs, learning how to market, promote and advertise and reach and engage existing and potential customers. when i decided i wanted to start a publishing company what did i do? went into other publishing companies, introduced myself as their potential competition and asked to go over their processes and strategies with them. i then realized i knew next to nothing about running a business or handling finances... so i got a job as a customer service rep at a bank, essentially a loan officer. handling day-to-day finances, helping out with business accounting and handling customer processes, all the stuff i'd need for my own company. b: i was alone a lot when i was younger. as a kid i had a lot of time to learn because i never spent time partying, having sex or drinking or even hanging out really. i had no one to hang out with. so my time was simply divided between me and... me. i learned everything i needed to and now it's all coming back to benefit me. don't get me wrong my gf's party days (which still continue now) were great, but they deprived her of the potential learning time she could have had to my level. A. It is not uncommon for people to have had a few intimate relationships by their late 20s. My guess is that you being a virgin and her having had experience in relationships is at the root of your concern. It is hard to imagine something we have not experienced.

That having been said it is important to note that at this stage of life it is unlikely that you will meet anyone that has not had a past romantic relationship. I would focus on the here and now you have with her. Here is what you have said:

1. She has stopped contact with others. This is a very good sign of her intention and commitment.
2. She has described her relationships in a way that makes sense – meaning that she was not in love and maintained them because she wanted options.
3. Her relationship with you has changed her thoughts and feelings about herself and what she wants.

Taken together this would seem to be a good indication of her commitment and willingness to be a partner with you. Your relationship is new, and this will mean that as you grow together these concerns are likely to take a back seat. Meditation may be an excellent way for you to modulate your feelings and angst about the situation. Over time her commitment to you will dispel these concerns.

Wishing you patience and peace,  
 *Dr. Dan*  
 [*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)

Issue with Girlfriend’s Past You know, it happens tp the most of us.  
  
it's like , the more you do one thing, the lesser and lesser you get interested in it.  
  
When he loved you, he thought that he could keep it up forever (Assuming that he ever did love you for you and not anything else).  
  
But that's what usually happens these days to couples that ends up divorcing each other.  
Either they cheat on each other or they get dissatisfaction from each other.  
  
People dont tend to stay together and work it out anymore. They just give up so easily.  
  
He may have loved you. But i dont think he does anymore. And if you plan to move forward with him, i dont think it'll be a good idea. Coz i think that when "not feeling it" moment comes into the lifes of a couple, thats when they go out and ends up CHEATING on each other. reasons why men can cheat.relationship problems:insecurity (afraid you will cheat on him, yhe doesn't believe you)he isn't interested in you anymorehe isn't satisfied sexually anymorethere is no intimacy anymore (intimacy is more than only having sex)there is no connection anymorehe doesn't feel safe with, emotionallyyou don't understand him, you don't listen to himyou are fighting a lot with him you are not excited anymorehe lost interest in youyou don't want to spend time with him revengewhy he likes to cheat:more female attentionconfidence boostfeeling desired and appreciated by womenexcitement / thrillpleasure having funsex without attachments (no relationship), one night standsfreedom meeting new women