sex before or after marriage?
does anyone still wait till marriage or does the idea throw you off? i've been told that i should wait till marriage since i can remember and everytime o have a boyfriend it slides back into my mind. the idea of loosing someone because they already had sex makes me really anxious.
sex is only a small and less important factor in a marriage or between 2 people that care for each other.at age 16, i would anyway recommend you wait another 2 or 3 years before you even start thinking of sex. there are so many dangers associated with it, starting with std/sti, disappointments or the fact that a girl is misused by guys that just want to add yet another victim or body count to their long list.what is sex? a few muscular contractions and spasms and usually, it is over in about 3 to 4 minutes. it is not really worth wasting your virginity just to be like all the others. you are special because you still have it. keep it for the one that deserves it and not because you have the feeling that you need to lose it. don't be a sheep that follows the others and don't succumb to group/peer pressure.
what? you have a new girlfriend but wish to marry your ex? i think you need to be alone for a bit and sort your head out. A. I’m very glad that you are asking these questions before you get married. You’ve listed a number of issues that make it difficult for a couple to have a mutually satisfying and happy sex life. Your fiance has suffered a traumatic sexual assault. Religious teachings from an early age may have taught her that sex outside of marriage is morally wrong. On top of that, she is just plain tired.


It is a positive comment on your sensitivity and love that you are seeking answers instead of just being upset or blaming. That speaks well for your relationship. Since the two of you have such a difficult time talking about sex, I think you need some help. A counselor can provide a safe place and guidance so that you can work this through. Since you both have a Christian background, a Christian couples counselor might be a good choice.



I wish you well.  

Dr. Marie


How Can My Fiance and I Have a Mutually Satisfying Sex Life? maybe, if she has a self-esteem problem. in the end what you'll get is lots of cuts and bruises, and a bad sexual experience that makes you feel embarrassed every time you think about it for the rest of your life. ok..first of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. and second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. it is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! so in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. on the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. as a prove we have your "cry for help" here. remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! but this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. in this case maybe he would have asked u out already. my advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. this could have 2 implications:
1. you fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. this potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
so ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! good luck! you need to win the girl over with looks and personality first before you even get a sniff at knowing how much she loves sex. once you have a relationship it will blow you mind how much the average girl needs sex. most of the girls i know want it at least as much as the guys. A. If you are going to marry your fiancé, you will have to tolerate his children and ex-wife. It is unfair and unrealistic to ask him to cut ties with his children no matter how dysfunctional they or his ex-wife may be. He is their father and will likely have some involvement with them for the rest of his life.

You have a decision to make. If you decide to marry him, then accept that his family will be part of your life. If you don’t wish to be involved with his family, then strongly reconsider your decision to get married.

Every decision has consequences. Objectivity and clarity are of paramount importance when making major life decisions. It might be helpful to discuss this decision with a therapist. A therapist could assist you in thinking through what your life would be like with or without him and by extension with or without his family. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

Fiancé Kid Issues When He Doesn’t See Kids yes, unemployment puts a strain on any individual and any relationship. <br><br>however, i don&#39;t see how i can recommend taking up paid sex as a solution for problems, though i can understand how you might find the idea tempting in more ways than one. what does your husband think of the idea ? he could hardly fail to be curious about where the new money was coming from. otherwise, how could you explain it to him ? <br><br>i agree with maria. <br> fantasies are one thing, and reality another. no form of acting out such a fantasy would benefit anyone, and it would be highly likely to end up as hurtful and to severely damage your relationship. good advice all round, and poppie&#39;s ideas might be worth trying. if you had a fantasy involving high physical danger to him, or something like you leading him, naked, through the supermarket with a rope round his neck, would he be so eager to act it out for you, and accept the ridicule that would abound on him ? consider marriage counselling to work on what leads him, not to the fantasies, but to want to act out something so inevitably destructive to your marriage nothing set in stone. someone is marriage material if i have been in a relationship with them for a long time, don't foresee any chronic problems, and would be much more devastated by the prospect of ever losing them than i would by cutting off my options with other women.

things like kindness, humor, and beauty are definitely part of it, but that has more to do with getting my attention in the first place than it does convincing me to stay. it has more to do with comfort and trust - if i can't trust someone, or if we get angry with each other often, or if i feel tense rather than comfortable coming home to her, then i'm not going to stick around long enough to consider the option.

people who make lists of "dealbreakers," physical attributes, and other such things are usually just trying to advertise that they have standards, and haven't actually encountered someone who's marriage material before. marriage material is just an exceptional person with whom you're very, very compatible and attached. plz don't break your relationship... bcoz now u have more responsibilities than before... u have 2 maintain your relationship vth both your hubby and your kid.. treat your hubby also like your baby. give equal importance to both. do wt ever he likes and try to love him more than before.