am i wrong for being uncomfortable....?
my friends kid is 4 (almost 5) and still breastfeeds. i love breastfeeding my 3mo but want to ween because i’m going back to work soon. and i’m all about moms breastfeeding for however long she feels like it..... to a certain extent! when i talked to my friend, she told me how she nurses her toddler daughter every night, and how cute it is when she asks for “milky time!!”
when i was over at her house last, her daughter kept trying and asking for me to breastfeed her. my friend thought it was adorable and i was super uncomfortable.
i don’t want to go over anymore because i brought up that i didn’t find it cute and kept trying to get her daughter off my lap and she got all huffy.
this kid is almost in kindergarten. am i wrong to feel like this is just too long to be breastfeeding? she’s going to be asking her teacher for it 😣
help?!?
i breastfed all 3 of my sons, but the longest i nursed before weaning was just shy of when he was 20months old. that same boy is now 4.5 and i couldn’t imagine still nursing him at that age.... he’s a grown child by this point and speaks in full sentences and comprehends so much. the fact her daughter calls it “milky time” and is almost in kindergarten and the mom loves it is odd to me as well & a bit much to me, as this isn’t allowing her daughter to fully grow if she’s keeping her in this infantile stage. 🤷🏻‍♀️ nursing that long is obviously her choice, but i’m with you on this one.
Hello Lhizs Shity,



  

Infants aged> 6 months already need other foods as a complement to breast milk to meet their daily nutritional needs. Some mothers encounter problems that their children have difficulty eating or do not want other foods besides breast milk. Causes of children having difficulty eating include:







Babies teething, feeling ache and pain in the gums especially when chewing makes children avoid solid / hard food  

Rejecting new foods, babies feel strange seeing the shape / appearance or taste of new foods that you introduce  

Sprue  

The baby is too full because it is given milk / milk  

Other health problems



Some ways you can do to encourage children to go back to eating are:







Try to use natural processed ingredients, not instant foods  

Make food softer or in the form of porridge  

Introduce types of food one by one, do not be too often struggling to change food at first  

Limit consumption of milk / breast milk or give milk / milk after the child has finished eating his portion  

Give praise when the child wants to eat  

Encourage your child to eat with other children who have a good appetite, so that it triggers his appetite



Take your child to the doctor if you feel weight loss, bowel movement patterns, and delayed development. Thus the explanation from me, may be useful. my life at this precise moment has been alot better,i got a phone call at 5am this morning from my daughters friends mam (my daughter had gone camping with her friends family)saying that my daughter has been vomiting and isn't feeling very well and my daughter really wants to come home,so i got my mam to baby sit my 3 other children and i drove to wilson's promontory(4 hours drive from me)to get my daughter.i got there fine,but on my way back i vomited and had to pull over for an hour until i felt a bit better to drive.it took 6 hours to get home,as i had to keep pulling over to be sick.when i got home i couldn't wait to get to bed,but when i got home my 3 other children were all in bed vomiting and feeling just as sick,so at the moment i am on here trying to keep myself awake until my husband gets home from work so i can go straight to bed.(keep your fingers crossed for me that my husband doesn't come home sick as well and that every one is feeling better soon. brief answer: exclusive breast feeding is recommended for children below 6 months of age. detailed answer: thanks for asking on healthcaremagic. i have gone through your query and understand your concerns. however you have missed out mentioning how many months its age is going to be. let me... most often it will dry up when you stop breast feeding. wear a supportive & comfortable bra. don’t stimulate breasts. can apply ice packs several times a day for 10 to 20 minutes at a time or use acetaminophen or non-steroidal anti-inflammatory medication as needed. see more... A.  You are right to be concerned. It sounds like your daughter has been increasingly isolating herself. Although successful in that she goes to school, her friendship circle is very limited for someone her age. Although it’s not unusual for people to talk through problems or to review their day with themselves in the privacy of the bathroom or their own room, your report that she may be punishing herself by screaming and slapping isn’t typical or okay.


Sometimes our kids can’t tell us what is troubling them so they consciously or unconsciously leave hints around so that we’ll find them. Kids sometimes “accidentally” leave a diary open where we’ll find it or “accidentally” leave a distressing email open on the family computer, for example. It’s their way of sending out a distress signal without having to quite take responsibility for doing so.



I’m guessing your daughter’s lengthy time in the bathroom is something like that. On some level she knows that you will be concerned about a two-hour stay in there.


It’s past time for you to respond to the signal. Find a therapist who specializes in young adults. Ask your doctor for a referral or click on the “Find Help” tab on the PsychCentral homepage. There may also be a behavioral health clinic at her college. Brief the therapist on the phone and ask for some guidance about how to get your daughter to go in. (Sometimes it’s helpful if a parent goes to part of the first session.) 


Then, in a loving way, let your daughter know how concerned you are. Tell her that you know that she is upset and that you want to help. Reassure her that she doesn’t deserve to be punished by herself or by anyone else – no matter what. Insist that she see the counselor. Tell her you are willing to go with her. Don’t argue. Don’t get mad. Stay in that loving, concerned place.


[Parenting](https://psychcentral.com/lib/category/parenting/) doesn’t end because a child is at the age to start leaving home. We all have to figure out when to let go and when to still pull the “parent card.” In this situation, your daughter is telling you without words that she needs you to be a mom. Please follow through. She sounds like she really needs help.


I wish you well.  

Dr. Marie


Daughter Talks to Herself it's completely ok .. give your baby some time and love .. baby will raise the neck only when the right time comes .. I feel not. Let her go in peace forcing food is not peace. This is your Mothers Journey not yours. She's 87 years old . What life really lies ahead for her other than more suffering. Does she not have a living will. I would never want to be force fed nor my Daddy (who himself was a Doctor) or My Husband also a Doctor. This is just my opinion. If you must then give her Ensure. Mix the Ensure with ice cream . Without it nobody would drink its. its awful. My Mummy takes it but we Doctor it up and she thinks its a milk shake just for her. Now that she's in a group home , we still make it for her there and she loves it. But she would not drink it just plain right from the can. Good Luck on whatever your path shall be. But remember 87 is a nice Life . Why let her suffer , when need not be. if u feel that ur breast milk is not sufficient for ur baby then u can start solid .....u can start solid after 5 month also.... hello dear. overfeeding is a common cause ofhiccups. if the stomach distends too fast or becomes too full, this can trigger. when breastfeeding, try slowing down feedings, and stop and burp your baby as you switch from one breast to the other. here are a few tips to reduce the baby's hiccups. taking a break from a feeding to burp your baby may help get rid of the hiccups, since burping can get rid of excess gas that may be causing the hiccups. use a pacifier. infant hiccups don't always start from a feeding. let them stop on their own. hold your baby upright for up to 20 minutes after each feed. try giving your baby smaller but more frequent feeds. take care. it is ok as long as she is not overheated and no fever but be sure she isn't over dressed. see more...