what would you do if you had an abhorrent admirer?
i once had an abhorrent admirer, and he eventually sexually assaulted me. i don't even know how many times i told him prior to that that i wasn't interested, but it was definitely more than about ten times. he came over one night and asked me to let him in my apartment just to talk and to say goodbye. i thought (stupidly) that he was genuine, since that's all i wanted, and he knew it -- the goodbye part. people are unpredictable and can be dangerous. my advice is to just ignore, ignore, ignore. block if you need to, and don't give in to anything, even if you're "just trying to be nice" or "you don't want to hurt the person". and those people who are being harassed shouldn't tell someone to leave them alone, only to call *them* the next day - even just to check up on them and see if they're okay. no. just ignore them. don't send mixed messages, and there is no need to lose control over it. just ignore, block, and document it if it persists - because you never know if you have to make it a police issue. eventually people tire of not being recognized as that's all these types of people want -- attention. if they don't get it from one person, they eventually move on to someone else to get what they need.
hostile observe, be selfish, abstain, keep, forego, hold, withhold, watch, counteract, disapprove, forget, neglect, shun. well my advice is to quit the fraternity/sorority immediately. take some english classes and learn to write. and stop letting some childish little club dictate who you can have a relationship with. have him quit too. if he won't forget him and move on. you can ask others or if you see them, just look at their facial expressions and other body language.  i avoided and ignored a jerk at the gym and the last time i saw him, he didn't even acknowledge me (fortunately).  so i know i either hurt his feelings or made him mad. fantasies are one thing, and reality another. no form of acting out such a fantasy would benefit anyone, and it would be highly likely to end up as hurtful and to severely damage your relationship. good advice all round, and poppie&#39;s ideas might be worth trying. if you had a fantasy involving high physical danger to him, or something like you leading him, naked, through the supermarket with a rope round his neck, would he be so eager to act it out for you, and accept the ridicule that would abound on him ? consider marriage counselling to work on what leads him, not to the fantasies, but to want to act out something so inevitably destructive to your marriage turn hirn in , he shouldnt be doing that can you list the things that go wrong and how they should look? your former friend is a toxic hypocrite. stay away from her. we all have our drama queen moments, but she's out of control at this point. she's not some 17 or 18 year old kid, she's a grown woman. if she feels that you were mistreating her in the past, she has a right to be upset, but she should talk to you about it in a mature and calm manner, not attack you about it now. but really, she's being hypocritical about mistreatment, when she's been the one embarrassing you in front of other people. i recommend that you continue to go on a separate course. you haven't spoken in a month, it seems that she's moving on with her life, move on with yours. every friendship has struggles, but for her to constantly attack you at this age is just dumb. you don't need that kind of stress. best of luck to you 😊 hahahahhah! they got dissed by a blonde! you do nothing. 

but you could advise your bf to tell his aunt that he is uncomfortable with the information she is telling him and that he would appriciate it if she stoped.

your bf has to do something about it, not you.