would a true "apostle" judge people on their own questions on a public site?
i have a need to know why anyone would answer questions from people... just to judge them and pretty much decide their fate... without really knowing them.
think about all those olden times when the apostles acted as ordinary individuals  arguing about who among them was the 'greatest', asking to be seated on the next right and left of their master, running away saving themselves from being implicated time after, even denying and betraying their master in the end. this only proved how 'weak' at heart even an 'apostle' could be. most of us would desire a piece of fame and power. tempted to claim praises anywhere we could. lost at times in our misused words. but just as it was said: "not all that call out "lord!, lord!" are worthy of his name. 

if we judge; we, too, shall be judged. sometimes, our humility barometer isn't working properly?
it could be your body language and demeanor that they dont like. there are things we do that are subconcious that others notice but we dont ourselves. if people judge that hard though, are they really worth being around and getting to know? no they are not right. if you are happy with the choices that you choose to make then who are they to try to judge you for that? you're trying your best at least from what i'm hearing and seeing to live a godly lifestyle, and they want to tell you how you're making a mistake? how about all the mistakes that they more likely made? are they married with children? or are they hopping from one girl to another girl regardless if it's a relationship casual or not and they just want to see you and them just like them? ignore the naysayers, and stay away from people that are not benefiting your life. they just want to see you screwed up because they don't like the fact that you're doing what you got to do, and they're not really focusing on what they need to do. they don't need to accept the fact that you are living the life the way you know you need to live it. if they don't like it because it makes them feel like they're not doing something? well then that's their business.personally they just sound messed up, and i just want you to be miserable like they are. you already said that you are happy, at least i believe you're content with that. it's not perfect but you're still content right? that's all that matters. i'm a virgin i never dated, i've never been with anybody at all either. and i have no regrets. i have no regrets because after going through what i went through growing up, seeing how everybody else's relationships are, and you hear what you hear on this site even more, it really makes you wonder what is the best decision for you. the bible says that people will have troubles in this life. especially when they are married, or these days having sexual relationships. this is what people want, this is what they desire, so they get what they desire. it may not be what they claim they want, but they're forgetting that every thing is a choice, and every choice has its consequences. in the end people just want the benefits and not having to deal with what they got to go through. but i'm pretty sure you're mature enough to understand this already. so regardless to what you can't allow them to try to dictate what you choose to do in your life, and if you know they're going to be bad influences anyway then you're not doing yourself a big favor by listening to them. don't be discouraged by them. whenever it is that you decide to do regardless of what people say, especially when it comes down to dating or whatever, that's a choice that you personally have to make. nobody else can make that choice for you except you and god himself. okay? understand that. i believe you're going on the right path regarding to doing what is right. and i believe that god will cover and protect you. the nudity/exposed skin isn't on its own the reason why such women aren't taken as seriously. rather, it's their inability to recognize and adapt to their situation/environment and to observe the expectations of that particular situation.example: no one judges women who are showing tons of skin on a beach, because that's an appropriate place to show tons of skin. but if you have an office job and you go to work dressed like a call girl, then you will be dressed inappropriately for the situation, and people won't take you seriously. it's no different than if you were to go meet with an investment banker about managing your money, and when you show up to his office, he's wearing shorts and a hoodie - while that *technically* doesn't mean he's not good at his job, such clothes are inappropriate for that context, and a lot of potential customers are going to walk away.people who aren't able to determine that they are dressed inappropriately for their situation are having their judgement called into question more than the clothes themselves. if your judgement is questionable (or outright wrong), then people aren't going to take you seriously in other areas either. what are you talking about religious people get mocked frequently and looked down upon by those who either believe differently or don't believe at all. this is why we shouldn't have religious people in power, they have a tendency to make it hard on the other religions. people do vote, regardless if they cast a ballot. silence can be thought of as a vote. the reason i say this is that i chose not to vote out of no confidence for the ballot. i would either have voted for something in which i did not believe, or i couldn't "thrown away" with a 3rd party vote, in which i still didn't believe.there is no write in option for "no confidence," and interestingly, if enough people voted this way, the way american voting works, would require either the candidates to all be thrown out, and a new set of candidates, or the government would make their own choice, at which point democracy would be dead. if we look at voting in this manner, it most certainly is compulsory. however, america has an odd obsession of thinking that the common man's vote for president actually matters. local votes will influence politics for a person far more than a presidential vote ever will. this is why many localities have gerrymandering, in order to control the constituency and votes.i personally do not believe my vote will ever make a difference, as it never has in any political election. besides, perpetuating the idea that the common man isn't controlled by our plutocratic corporatist "democracy" is silly, but people will keep on voting and believing that they matter, or are heard. perhaps my view is cynical and pessimistic. i see no reason to change it.c'est la vie. sorry. i wish i could help but i find it weird that people “like” your post and not say anything. i posted yesterday and i was like ok… ummm do you want to look at my book? hah. all the best sir! can you identify from where in your childhood this people pleasing dynamic stems from?why do you people please?what do you get from it?what might happen if you don't people please?rhetorical questions for self discovery. as my gong fu instructor used to say. 'awareness'. you should watch your inner thought processes and your bodily/feeling reactions, rather than necessarily having to get caught up in them or believing them, or even answering them. once they are watched and the own processes of your consciousness are understood more fully, they will start to lose their grip on you.the other thing worth bearing in mind is people are different in their own moods, feelings, perceptions, their own internal make up - karma - or reaction to things. therefore, they may be reacting in a way that is entirely nothing to do with you. you might also like to watch this video on healthy boundaries if you feel that might be an issue. most likely, with surprise. "who is this," i would think, "and why are they angry at me?". if nothing comes to mind, i'd bellow my name and title back at them, and ask who they were to demand that information of me. hi maddie,the purpose of any manipulation is to convince another person that their previously held beliefs are incorrect. one example of a way to manipulate another person is through the practice of gaslighting. think of it as someone who continually turns down the lights in a room (turning down a gas lamp) but tells another person the light is constant, it's their perception or eyesight that is affected. the purpose of gaslighting is to convince another person that they are losing their sanity. how does this transform societal values? on a large scale, if you can convince a large number of people to change their values then society will inevitably shift in its core beliefs and practices. a positive example of this is the icelandic women's protest in 1975 when every woman in the country went on strike for one day. after this protest, women were given equal wages and equal rights under the law. though this strike was not manipulation but civil rights protest, you can see the impact of change on societal values. think about efforts to take away civil rights for one specific group of people: is the language used as a weapon? is it manipulative? deceptive? how would that impact independence and personal identities? if your civil rights were taken away, say your right to vote because of another person's manipulative argument, would you feel less independent? would you feel as though your voice mattered? would you feel more valued by society or less valued by society?good luck with your homework!jessica typically even in an informal interview i will have reviewed a candidate's resume. so yes, to some degree, i will have learned about the candidate's occupation. the purpose of the interview will then determine how much detail i go into with the candidate on their occupation. is it the first step toward employment for an open job for which the candidate is qualified? is it a courtesy interview where i'm helping a candidate learn about a company? am i simply helping a student to polish their interview skills? the level of formality and explorations of one's occupation and related qualifications can change significantly based on the answer to many of these questions.