do some people get on your nerves?
how do you handle them?
i don't, they get the silent treatment until i need to talk to them. which is rare
i once had an abhorrent admirer, and he eventually sexually assaulted me. i don't even know how many times i told him prior to that that i wasn't interested, but it was definitely more than about ten times. he came over one night and asked me to let him in my apartment just to talk and to say goodbye. i thought (stupidly) that he was genuine, since that's all i wanted, and he knew it -- the goodbye part. people are unpredictable and can be dangerous. my advice is to just ignore, ignore, ignore. block if you need to, and don't give in to anything, even if you're "just trying to be nice" or "you don't want to hurt the person". and those people who are being harassed shouldn't tell someone to leave them alone, only to call *them* the next day - even just to check up on them and see if they're okay. no. just ignore them. don't send mixed messages, and there is no need to lose control over it. just ignore, block, and document it if it persists - because you never know if you have to make it a police issue. eventually people tire of not being recognized as that's all these types of people want -- attention. if they don't get it from one person, they eventually move on to someone else to get what they need. you care too much about what other people who don't really matter think. it could be your body language and demeanor that they dont like. there are things we do that are subconcious that others notice but we dont ourselves. if people judge that hard though, are they really worth being around and getting to know? can you identify from where in your childhood this people pleasing dynamic stems from?why do you people please?what do you get from it?what might happen if you don't people please?rhetorical questions for self discovery. as my gong fu instructor used to say. 'awareness'. you should watch your inner thought processes and your bodily/feeling reactions, rather than necessarily having to get caught up in them or believing them, or even answering them. once they are watched and the own processes of your consciousness are understood more fully, they will start to lose their grip on you.the other thing worth bearing in mind is people are different in their own moods, feelings, perceptions, their own internal make up - karma - or reaction to things. therefore, they may be reacting in a way that is entirely nothing to do with you. you might also like to watch this video on healthy boundaries if you feel that might be an issue. never keep throwing the past in someone's face. That's like slapping someone in the face with every little mistake they are trying to still heal from day to day. that's abusive. probably why she held a lot of resentment seeking out comfort from another man.   
another thing is. the on and off shananagens is due to lack of trust and lots of selfishness.   
if you're ever in that position again. learn from it.. always bring someone up no matter what mistakes they're making. 2 wrongs don't make a right. always be the better Samaritan.  
children will always be a sticky situation. always make good choices that suite what you want and what you're mentally, physically and financially mature enough to handle.   
May the force be with you!!! embrace the awkwardness, laugh it off, then chat with each other. if something else awkward happens, laugh it off some more it seems with an "ex" who is not only marking an x in your own softie spot here, dear, he is throwing daggers and digs your way every day as it gets more and more uncomfortable from 9-5, no jive. and the time clock will keep ticking with this lame duck a dicking. believe me, he is gloating.perhaps with the rest from the best start you have going on now in your life, you certainly don't need the strife. you have a new so and with this other, he will only continue to bash and bother you because he knows with working together, the better to taunt you, my dear.i think perhaps with your experience and brains, you could get an even better job anywhere with no awkwardness, and with a little input and effort on your own part you could be swarming to interviews in no time flat fast. however, for now, somehow, try and stay clear of him until the door closes at five, and don't let him get to you... this tormentor is a sore sport with always a retort, so don't give him the satisfaction of letting him get to you by any reply to this sly guy.he just wants a rise out of you and probably wishes you could wiggle your way on over to the water cooler too.good luck. xx Good evening, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. Difficult to socialize is actually a problem encountered by many people. Everyone has different personalities and with them, there are people who are easy to socialize and some are very difficult. On the other hand, people who socialize too easily usually find it difficult to find pleasure without the presence of others, and people who tend to be quiet are easier to find calm and excitement in their solitude.



What is clear is the key is that you state that if you already feel close to that person, you will be far more comfortable to socialize and that means there are no abnormalities in yourself, because in the end, you can still socialize even though it takes time to adapt.



Among the things you can do to practice your social skills is to speak in front of a mirror. Pay attention to what might still be fixed from you. Then try to enrich your horizons. Each person has different pleasures and it will be easier for you to start a conversation with someone else if you know a lot of things. Then don't easily feel that you offended others. If you are afraid that what you say offends someone, apologize before expressing it, and then ask if it offends him, because we really will not know how someone feels except by asking. In addition, you should have a friend who can correct you. If you want further, you can also take public speaking classes to practice your skills. And in doing all that, you have to put an understanding in yourself that you want to change, and you want to try, that everything that other people can do, you certainly can too.



Apart from all that, if you still feel you haven't reached the level of personality you want, realize that you don't need to be someone else. Just be the best version of your personality, but you don't need to lose its characteristics. So quiet is not a disorder, and as long as you can still carry out daily activities and have good social relations, even if it's not as easy as some people, it's okay. Accept yourself with all its shortcomings but focus on the strengths. So, hopefully answering your question. Well, I can sit here and tell you the things that I'm pretty sure you are well aware of like; hang out with friends, join new things, exercise and etc. And yes, all of these things are a great way to get your mind off of someone, but forgetting them is something hard and I personally think, you can never do. Let's be honest, the relationship failed and it hurts because right now you miss them. And let may say, that is perfectly normal, it tells me that you cared but also you aren't numbing yourself to pain (Via drinking is an example of numbing). That you are a passionate person who still believes in love and who deserved happiness. The last thing I want you to do is to forget that person and pretend it doesn't hurt, even though you may seem fine, when you're alone, truly who are you fooling? The number one tip I have for you, is to ALLOW yourself to feel pain, allow yourself to cry and allow and yourself to grow. This is a great opportunity to rebuild yourself, to do it for only yourself and for you to reflect. So when those tears are gone, stand up on your own two feet and start doing the things you love, not to distract and forget, but rather reflect and build. The best way to "forget" someone is to realize that yes this pain hurts, that yes this pain is temporary and yes I will get through and improve whether spiritually, physically or emotionally. It's going to hurt like hell, but if you can see this pain with a clear mind, eventually you'll realize a life without them. Don't forget, smile and realize that there will be someone out there willing to show you love once more. Another thing that really helped me was that I started looking at it objectively, and I had this realization that I was more disappointed that he wasn't the one, rather than just flat out missing him. Wishing you the best of luck, never forget, smile because you've learned something and will continue to learn. what are you talking about religious people get mocked frequently and looked down upon by those who either believe differently or don't believe at all. this is why we shouldn't have religious people in power, they have a tendency to make it hard on the other religions.