my 9 month old is all of a sudden having a lot of trouble falling asleep at night, i need help!
my daughter was pretty good about falling asleep on her own up until 2 weeks ago. now, every night she cries and cries and cries... i hold her and rock her, and once she seems very calm or almost asleep i put her down, but then she becomes hysterical! i rub her tummy, sing to her, but nothing has worked.. my husband works late, so half of the time i put her in bed with me and she falls asleep in our bed with me... when he gets home i put her in her crib.. some nights she wakes up hysterical around 3-4am... i rock her, but again she won't let me put her down.. then i end up putting her in bed with us.. i don't like that she is getting used to this routine... i'm not sure what to do now or how to retrain her sleep schedule!
we chose to let our son cry it out when we noticed he had picked up similar bad habits. we had never let him sleep with us, but he got used to being rocked to sleep after i was in the hospital for a few days. it seemed that, every time he came into light sleep, he would realize that he wasn't being held, would start crying until someone rocked him; and after a few nights of that, i knew we had to teach him to go to sleep on his own (again) and sleep through the night (again). we let him cry it out, and it only took a day and a half before he was back to putting himself to sleep and sleeping 7/8 hours at night. he's only two months, and i think the longer you put it off, the more difficult it is going to be. good luck!
don't worry dis is normal in few babies, my son also scared some time while sleeping sometimes he starts screaming suddenly....make sure put soft light weighted pillow over his half body so that he will think you are still by his side and attach another by his side, m sure he will not scared any more..... in many cases it can be treated or managed. first step - a medical consultation to rule out medical conditions, medication, etc. a psychological or psychiatric eval can determine if the insomnia is really part of a treatable psychiatric condition, and practicing good sleep hygiene / working with a psychologist can help. http://cpancf.com/articles\_files/sleephygienehandout.asp. see more... there are a number of possible reasons, but narcolepsy may well be what you have. you need to get a set of sleep tests (it takes about 24 hours in a sleep laboratory). then a proper diagnosis can be made, and all of the conditions can be treated.<br><br>you really need help asap. hi dear, you have to talk with your baby more and more to over come this problem to some extent. i think you should take your baby for speech therapy. before that consult a paediatric ent specialist. A.  You are right to be concerned. It sounds like your daughter has been increasingly isolating herself. Although successful in that she goes to school, her friendship circle is very limited for someone her age. Although it’s not unusual for people to talk through problems or to review their day with themselves in the privacy of the bathroom or their own room, your report that she may be punishing herself by screaming and slapping isn’t typical or okay.


Sometimes our kids can’t tell us what is troubling them so they consciously or unconsciously leave hints around so that we’ll find them. Kids sometimes “accidentally” leave a diary open where we’ll find it or “accidentally” leave a distressing email open on the family computer, for example. It’s their way of sending out a distress signal without having to quite take responsibility for doing so.



I’m guessing your daughter’s lengthy time in the bathroom is something like that. On some level she knows that you will be concerned about a two-hour stay in there.


It’s past time for you to respond to the signal. Find a therapist who specializes in young adults. Ask your doctor for a referral or click on the “Find Help” tab on the PsychCentral homepage. There may also be a behavioral health clinic at her college. Brief the therapist on the phone and ask for some guidance about how to get your daughter to go in. (Sometimes it’s helpful if a parent goes to part of the first session.) 


Then, in a loving way, let your daughter know how concerned you are. Tell her that you know that she is upset and that you want to help. Reassure her that she doesn’t deserve to be punished by herself or by anyone else – no matter what. Insist that she see the counselor. Tell her you are willing to go with her. Don’t argue. Don’t get mad. Stay in that loving, concerned place.


[Parenting](https://psychcentral.com/lib/category/parenting/) doesn’t end because a child is at the age to start leaving home. We all have to figure out when to let go and when to still pull the “parent card.” In this situation, your daughter is telling you without words that she needs you to be a mom. Please follow through. She sounds like she really needs help.


I wish you well.  

Dr. Marie


Daughter Talks to Herself don’t feel guilty. i think a lot of people feel this way at some point after having kids, but no one wants to be honest or talk about it. is it not having time that is making you depressed? or is it the loss of freedom? i am a stay at home mom to a 2 1/2 year old and went through a lot of the same things you’re describing. i can tell you that it gets easier to find time as baby’s sleep gets more predictable. past that, we wound up “splitting” most weekends. i sleep in on saturday morning, and my husband sleeps in on sunday. after i wake up on saturday, he usually goes to play golf, and i go to the movies or brunch or something on sunday. i wish i could give you a magic answer, but you just have to play around with your time and see what works best for you. the worst thing you can do is let yourself get into a rut. try to talk to your wife openly and honestly about what you’re feeling. it's completely ok .. give your baby some time and love .. baby will raise the neck only when the right time comes .. my life at this precise moment has been alot better,i got a phone call at 5am this morning from my daughters friends mam (my daughter had gone camping with her friends family)saying that my daughter has been vomiting and isn't feeling very well and my daughter really wants to come home,so i got my mam to baby sit my 3 other children and i drove to wilson's promontory(4 hours drive from me)to get my daughter.i got there fine,but on my way back i vomited and had to pull over for an hour until i felt a bit better to drive.it took 6 hours to get home,as i had to keep pulling over to be sick.when i got home i couldn't wait to get to bed,but when i got home my 3 other children were all in bed vomiting and feeling just as sick,so at the moment i am on here trying to keep myself awake until my husband gets home from work so i can go straight to bed.(keep your fingers crossed for me that my husband doesn't come home sick as well and that every one is feeling better soon. make sure your daily fluid intake is kept high ( at least 2 litres a day). try drinking a glass of tonic water a day, the quinine in it helps with cramps. adding a magnesium malate supplement to your daily routine should also help to eliminate the problem. epson salts baths is another way of getting magnesium into your body and it also will help relax muscles ( and you). i take one 3/4 times a week straight before bed as its great for helping with sleep. you could also try some gentle stretching exercises to see if it releases it in meantime.

hope this helps and sending gentle hugs xxx she might be depressed. judicious low dose treatment might help her.... and you. see a geriatrician.