why isn't gay marriage protected under the first amendment?
..when it says: "congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion." for example.. you can't make gay marriage illegal because a religion believes it to be "wrong."
because the us supreme court has said that government can ban polygamy and not violate the first amendment as it does so. the case in which that happened was well over 100 years ago, reynolds v. united states. here's a wiki summary of that case and the court's ruling:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/reynolds\_v.\_united\_states

furthermore, there has been other rhetoric (known as obiter dictum) in two other cases which also mentioned that getting married is not a constitutional right, per se: 
"the state ... has an absolute right to prescribe the condition upon which the marriage relation between its own citizens shall be created, and the cause for which it may be dissolved." -- pennoyer v. neff, 1877.
"marriage, as creating the most important relation in life, as having more to do with the morals and civilization of a people than any other institution, has always been subject to the control of the legislature." -- maynard v. hill, 1888.

state legislature's control over marriage is less than absolute now, though, because of a few 20th century rulings, like loving v. virginia, 1966, zablocki v. redhail, 1978, and turner v. safley, 1986, but none of those cases were decided on the basis of the first amendment. none of those cases claimed that a right to get married is as absolute as the 19th century opinion had claimed that a state government has absolute power over marriage. so states still have some control over dictating who can marry whom.
faith and religion are closely related to another, but there are many differences between them. one of those differences is how they are carried out. religion is more strict and structured than faith is. an example is christianity. this is a 0 and why? cause sex ain't needed to love someone. if you cannot love someone and accept them without sex then... well i am not sure you would be able to love someone if they get an illness that stops them from doing the action or something. so it's not important it's a want but not important enough to be factor on why i would date and grow to love someone. i learnt this as kid from a game, and find it sad that someone really wouldn't be able to love someone without sex and would cheat on them if they were in position were they couldn't have sex or leave them or do something worse which he did... First of all, you can't fight for a relationship your partner is not ready to protect. He's given it up and you fighting for it is completely useless at the moment..   
  
I understand what he's going through because my culture is strict since I'm Arab. So I undersyand how stressed and pressured he must feel for disobeying his parents. I bet he feels guilty enough for changing his religion, so having a girlfriend makes him feel even more guilty.   
  
If he chose to leave the relationship although he truly loved you then he has a good reason for it. I imagine he doesn't want you to have a bad future with him where his parents won't ever approve of your relationship, And he wants to avoid that family drama for your and his own good.   
  
U can have one last talk to him and tell him to rethink it because to be honest, right now this relationship depends solely on him. And I think he might have been really influenced by his parents so he made a rushed decision, maybe a wise one, but still rushed. If he takes his time he might change his mind. what are you talking about religious people get mocked frequently and looked down upon by those who either believe differently or don't believe at all. this is why we shouldn't have religious people in power, they have a tendency to make it hard on the other religions. A **civil union** (also known as a **civil partnership**) is a legally recognized arrangement similar to marriage, created primarily as a means to provide recognition in law for same-sex couples. Civil unions grant most or all of the rights of marriage except the title itself. Around the world, developed democracies began establishing civil unions in the late 1990s, often developing them from less formal domestic partnerships, which grant only some of the rights of marriage. In the majority of countries that established these unions in laws, they have since been either supplemented or replaced by same-sex marriage. Civil unions are viewed by LGBT rights campaigners as a “first step” towards establishing same-sex marriage, as civil unions are viewed by supporters of LGBT rights as a “separate but equal” or “second class” status. While civil unions are often established for both opposite-sex couples and same-sex couples, in a number of countries they are available to same-sex couples only. We can't actually live in an equality no matter what ink on paper says. The thing is that so long that there is a disparity between male and female rights groups representation there won't be equality.   
  
Normally you first do a cultural revolution and then turn the politics according to how the culture is.   
  
Lots of women's rights movements however are getting men's rights movements being liquidated by the government. Its a common tactic that leftist pressure groups do repeatedly.  
  
There is never going to be equality because politics is the very platform where groups in a given society go to represent their interests, and their interests alone. Feminists have fought for women's rights, now that they have it, they fight for women's interests.  
  
An activist group has only so much human and financial resources so they are putting them into strategic positions much like a military would do with their units. They use their movement's strong points on the weak points of the opponent, or the problem they want changed.  
  
Women's right advocates are invited to have a talk at the government, UN, universities, etc. Men's rights? lol nope.  
  
there's not going to be equality because the political environment doesn't actually serve the purpose for an equality to exist in strategic terms at least. wow marlboro! yikes! ouch! even though i&#39;ve been working with queer issues for many years i am still struck by what you&#39;ve told us. it is a very sad reflection on our society, where same-sex marriage is legal, that parents can throw gay youth out of their homes. ignorance and prejudice run very deep.<br><br>what are your ages?<br> I I feel as though the biggest reason why circumstances like this don't get fixed is because the two marriage partners don't actually try to fix it. They don't talk it through in depth, they don't try hard enough, maybe they'll try a little and give up, but in the end, it's them not giving the time of day to truly fix it. I would love for your relationship to be brought back to light and fruition. Talk, talk, talk. Take a vacation, break, day off. Anything. Maybe even couples therapy. The point is, you CAN make it work and fix your situation. no they are not right. if you are happy with the choices that you choose to make then who are they to try to judge you for that? you're trying your best at least from what i'm hearing and seeing to live a godly lifestyle, and they want to tell you how you're making a mistake? how about all the mistakes that they more likely made? are they married with children? or are they hopping from one girl to another girl regardless if it's a relationship casual or not and they just want to see you and them just like them? ignore the naysayers, and stay away from people that are not benefiting your life. they just want to see you screwed up because they don't like the fact that you're doing what you got to do, and they're not really focusing on what they need to do. they don't need to accept the fact that you are living the life the way you know you need to live it. if they don't like it because it makes them feel like they're not doing something? well then that's their business.personally they just sound messed up, and i just want you to be miserable like they are. you already said that you are happy, at least i believe you're content with that. it's not perfect but you're still content right? that's all that matters. i'm a virgin i never dated, i've never been with anybody at all either. and i have no regrets. i have no regrets because after going through what i went through growing up, seeing how everybody else's relationships are, and you hear what you hear on this site even more, it really makes you wonder what is the best decision for you. the bible says that people will have troubles in this life. especially when they are married, or these days having sexual relationships. this is what people want, this is what they desire, so they get what they desire. it may not be what they claim they want, but they're forgetting that every thing is a choice, and every choice has its consequences. in the end people just want the benefits and not having to deal with what they got to go through. but i'm pretty sure you're mature enough to understand this already. so regardless to what you can't allow them to try to dictate what you choose to do in your life, and if you know they're going to be bad influences anyway then you're not doing yourself a big favor by listening to them. don't be discouraged by them. whenever it is that you decide to do regardless of what people say, especially when it comes down to dating or whatever, that's a choice that you personally have to make. nobody else can make that choice for you except you and god himself. okay? understand that. i believe you're going on the right path regarding to doing what is right. and i believe that god will cover and protect you. it is possible, but your rights as intended parents are protected through the surrogacy contract, hence the important of signing one that contemplates every aspect associated with the process, including potential complications. 

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