what's a way to ease my suicidal thoughts?
help. the starting point is a comprehensive psychological assessment. talking therapy is important. cognitive behavioral therapy can be very effective. you may need medications. if you have active thoughts about killing yourself with a plan - then you need to be seen asap at the nearest emergency room. there is hope. you are worthy of getting excellent treatment. see more...
Well, I can sit here and tell you the things that I'm pretty sure you are well aware of like; hang out with friends, join new things, exercise and etc. And yes, all of these things are a great way to get your mind off of someone, but forgetting them is something hard and I personally think, you can never do. Let's be honest, the relationship failed and it hurts because right now you miss them. And let may say, that is perfectly normal, it tells me that you cared but also you aren't numbing yourself to pain (Via drinking is an example of numbing). That you are a passionate person who still believes in love and who deserved happiness. The last thing I want you to do is to forget that person and pretend it doesn't hurt, even though you may seem fine, when you're alone, truly who are you fooling? The number one tip I have for you, is to ALLOW yourself to feel pain, allow yourself to cry and allow and yourself to grow. This is a great opportunity to rebuild yourself, to do it for only yourself and for you to reflect. So when those tears are gone, stand up on your own two feet and start doing the things you love, not to distract and forget, but rather reflect and build. The best way to "forget" someone is to realize that yes this pain hurts, that yes this pain is temporary and yes I will get through and improve whether spiritually, physically or emotionally. It's going to hurt like hell, but if you can see this pain with a clear mind, eventually you'll realize a life without them. Don't forget, smile and realize that there will be someone out there willing to show you love once more. Another thing that really helped me was that I started looking at it objectively, and I had this realization that I was more disappointed that he wasn't the one, rather than just flat out missing him. Wishing you the best of luck, never forget, smile because you've learned something and will continue to learn. A.Thank you for writing. I’m sure this is hard to live with. I think you keep having the fantasies because at some point they worked for you. You are a sensitive young woman who has a strong moral compass.

In 7th grade, you knew you had done something wrong and earned the reprimand. But, being you, you couldn’t let it go. You felt so bad about it that you went over it and over it. Crying may have relieved some of the intense feelings of shame and perhaps anger that went with thinking about what happened. If it had stopped there, it would have been an unfortunate reaction to a very usual piece of mischief that kids do.

But being as concerned as you are with right and wrong, any time since then that you have felt accused or reprimanded, it has reminded you of that first time when you were not only wrong but humiliated for it. Your unconscious self then also remembered that crying gave you some relief.

I suspect the “lesson” generalized and you started to cry any time you needed relief from stress. Stress just comes with being a teen so there was probably reason to look for some relief every day. But then you end up feeling bad that you feel bad. That must feel terrible!

Unfortunately, your reaction has become a kind of bad habit. Having practiced it for years, feeling sick or crying is an automatic response to stress.

You need some new ways to handle stress and shame. Maybe you can figure it out yourself but you would probably benefit from seeing a therapist who could give you some new tools and help you practice them. I hope you will consider seeing a licensed therapist to help you with this so you can go forward into adult life with less distressing ways for relieving anxieties and stress.

I wish you well

Dr. Marie

Why Do I Have Abusive Thoughts? have to be ready to change your mindset. then you must do new shit to distract you. this is absolutely clasic and typical obsessive-compulsive disorder. see a good local psychiatrist for a full assessment and assistance. drugs like nuzak can help, and also cbt style counselling. fortunately this is very successfully treatable, and so you can get it cleared up without extra delay. less frustrating. follow the doctor suggestion. be on complete rest. also maintain healthy diet, 8-10 glasses of water, proper rest.. to reduce from stress read books, meditation. how to recover? first stop degrading yourself. then stop associating yourself with negativity. then start associating yourself with positivity. then start building your confidence and accept the fact that the good women don't care about height and looks and disorders. realize that a good woman will love you for you, and go about being a positive member of society. if you keep your current state of mind, there is no hope. because you are actually good looking and really not even short. just regular like everyone else. good luck! move on and get over it. make sure your daily fluid intake is kept high ( at least 2 litres a day). try drinking a glass of tonic water a day, the quinine in it helps with cramps. adding a magnesium malate supplement to your daily routine should also help to eliminate the problem. epson salts baths is another way of getting magnesium into your body and it also will help relax muscles ( and you). i take one 3/4 times a week straight before bed as its great for helping with sleep. you could also try some gentle stretching exercises to see if it releases it in meantime.

hope this helps and sending gentle hugs xxx embrace the awkwardness, laugh it off, then chat with each other. if something else awkward happens, laugh it off some more