is friendship overrated?
i don't need anyone's help. i'm okay on my own.
yeah. from my experience, a true friend is the hardest thing you’ll ever find. the older you’ll get, true friends will stick around, and the fake ones will leave.
this is now fixed no need to commnet. no problems with that. it's quite normal different people decompress in different ways; this is just how he does it. his relationship with his friends is not the same as the one with you; he gives you more and so it takes more out of him.strange as it sounds, this is actually a good sign: he's committed to you, wants to give you his best, has other friends, and uses them as a healthy coping mechanism. it sounds like the problem is that he's indulging it a bit much of late, yes? if he says it's nothing to do with you, he likely has some serious stress he's trying to deal with- or perhaps one of his friends does. now, your awareness of and respect for his need for solitude is also a good thing, but if you need more from him than you're getting, it's not unreasonable to ask. i'd be careful in the phrasing, however; "i want you to spend more time with me", while reasonable, can come across as a demand. something like "i've noticed you've been spending a lot more time alone, gaming with your friends lately. i know you use this to work off stress, and i'm wondering if everything's okay. is there anything i can do to help?" not only sends the message that his needs are legitimate, it's more likely to be seen as concerned than accusatory. his reaction may also give you some insight into how he sees it and what it means to him- if he thinks of those he's playing with as his friends, he's obviously not doing it alone; if they're just some people he plays with, that's less likely to be a sticking point.it's not silly to want him to make you a high priority for his time, and it seems like you have a decent understanding that he's a separate person with his own needs and desires (a surprising number of people don't). if you want him to communicate with you more, it's okay to ask- but go in thinking of it is a request, not a demand. relationships are about give and take, not about conforming to a preconceived ideal. you are free to message me anytime. it is an offer but i cannot be your friend because i have realized long time back that i am not meant for friendships.you will surely get help and support though. i will try my best. A. It’s difficult to assess the seriousness of this on the basis of only a letter so let me just share a couple of thoughts.

People by nature tend to fall somewhere on a scale from introvert to extrovert. It may be that at least part of this is that you are on the introvert end of the scale. There is nothing wrong with that! But, the larger culture celebrates extroverts. In high school, the general idea is that everyone is supposed to be outgoing and popular. Of course, not everyone can be. Not everyone wants to be. So let’s at least assume that part of what goes on is that you have a more restrained approach to life. One thing that supports this is that you do have a couple of close friends and that seems to be enough for you.

As for being out with others: I wonder if you have developed the skills you need to be comfortable out in the social world. Introverts can and do learn how to manage social situations enough so that they can be successful in their careers and can find loving relationships. Notice that I said “skills”. Skills are behaviors you can learn (like how to make small talk, how to be an active listener, how to be a good communicator, etc.). As you get more practiced in these skills, you will be more comfortable being with people for longer periods of time. But you will still need your alone time to “recover” from a lot of social interaction.

The line in your letter that does worry me is your statement that you can spend hours holed up in your room and in bed. Yes, you may need time to recharge your social batteries but it would do a lot more for your self-esteem if you would use that time to pursue an interest or to do something to make the world a better place. Think about ways to support a cause or candidate or to educate yourself about something you are genuinely interested in. You will feel better about yourself than if you just hang out wondering if there is something wrong with you. An important bonus is that it will give you more to talk about when you are with people.

I hope this is helpful. I wish you well.  
 Dr. Marie

I Want or Need to Be Alone a sucubi has no power over you that you don't first give it. if you ignore it; it will give up and go away. you care too much about what other people who don't really matter think. i seem to be extremely low in person. actually, some people seem to think something is wrong with me since i'm so chill and laid back. that said, i do misbehave more on here but i'm not trying to win any friends on this site. that should be fine. hi [@samliew](/u/samliew)

thank you for your feedback too. i’m overwhelmed by all the support.

it seems as though this is something i can fix myself, without too much technical knowledge. i’ll get onto it today.

thank you again!