how important is sex in your dating life on a scale of ten?
ten being extremely.
0 and why? cause sex ain't needed to love someone. if you cannot love someone and accept them without sex then... well i am not sure you would be able to love someone if they get an illness that stops them from doing the action or something. so it's not important it's a want but not important enough to be factor on why i would date and grow to love someone. i learnt this as kid from a game, and find it sad that someone really wouldn't be able to love someone without sex and would cheat on them if they were in position were they couldn't have sex or leave them or do something worse which he did...
you need to win the girl over with looks and personality first before you even get a sniff at knowing how much she loves sex. once you have a relationship it will blow you mind how much the average girl needs sex. most of the girls i know want it at least as much as the guys. in many places, abstinence is taught aggressively. unfortunately that is often ineffective since our sex drive is one of the most powerful forces in our existence. like any other aspect of life, education into techniques, benefits, risks, psychological and physical aspects of relationships, variations in preferences, etc., seem an essential part of understanding human sexuality. see more... date whoever you like.  and as for sex , if it works for them , then that is their business. work is only important for the money.   but family loves you and suppose to be there for you through rough times.  school however is not somewhat important unless you plan on a high leveled career let's put it this way: i think that some men are physically attractive. someone like leonardo dicaprio for instance. but i have no kind of other attraction toward him (or any other guys, for that matter). but toward women, i am physically, sexually, emotionally, romantically attracted to them (and any other attraction you can think of). i call myself a lesbian because…i am one. don't you see how? i'd never be able to be with a man in the way i could be with a woman. i'm just not built that way. 
if sexual and romantic attraction are essential for you in a relationship, i don't see how you'd be able to be in anything other than a lesbian relationship. if sex is essential for you in a relationship, i don't see how you'd really be able to distinguish panromanticism from homoromanticism, at least where it counts. if you want to base a relationship on romantic attraction, then i suppose that would be an entirely different case. it's up to you, in the end. yes, unemployment puts a strain on any individual and any relationship. <br><br>however, i don&#39;t see how i can recommend taking up paid sex as a solution for problems, though i can understand how you might find the idea tempting in more ways than one. what does your husband think of the idea ? he could hardly fail to be curious about where the new money was coming from. otherwise, how could you explain it to him ? <br><br>i agree with maria. <br> A. It’s difficult to assess the seriousness of this on the basis of only a letter so let me just share a couple of thoughts.

People by nature tend to fall somewhere on a scale from introvert to extrovert. It may be that at least part of this is that you are on the introvert end of the scale. There is nothing wrong with that! But, the larger culture celebrates extroverts. In high school, the general idea is that everyone is supposed to be outgoing and popular. Of course, not everyone can be. Not everyone wants to be. So let’s at least assume that part of what goes on is that you have a more restrained approach to life. One thing that supports this is that you do have a couple of close friends and that seems to be enough for you.

As for being out with others: I wonder if you have developed the skills you need to be comfortable out in the social world. Introverts can and do learn how to manage social situations enough so that they can be successful in their careers and can find loving relationships. Notice that I said “skills”. Skills are behaviors you can learn (like how to make small talk, how to be an active listener, how to be a good communicator, etc.). As you get more practiced in these skills, you will be more comfortable being with people for longer periods of time. But you will still need your alone time to “recover” from a lot of social interaction.

The line in your letter that does worry me is your statement that you can spend hours holed up in your room and in bed. Yes, you may need time to recharge your social batteries but it would do a lot more for your self-esteem if you would use that time to pursue an interest or to do something to make the world a better place. Think about ways to support a cause or candidate or to educate yourself about something you are genuinely interested in. You will feel better about yourself than if you just hang out wondering if there is something wrong with you. An important bonus is that it will give you more to talk about when you are with people.

I hope this is helpful. I wish you well.  
 Dr. Marie

I Want or Need to Be Alone as with anything, depends on the girl. some like it, some tolerate it, some hate maybe, if she has a self-esteem problem. in the end what you'll get is lots of cuts and bruises, and a bad sexual experience that makes you feel embarrassed every time you think about it for the rest of your life. he might have a hand fetish...a sexual attraction to hands. but he might just be a very tactile person...someone who expresses emotions through touch.