does anybody else here feel awkward going to the hair salon to get your hair done?
i was just wondering, if anybody else feels this way. maybe it's just because i'm kind of shy and not really social.

but i always feel weird when i go to the salon to get my highlights, because it's like this awkward silence the whole time between me and the lady doing my hair. 

like when i'm there, and the lady is doing my hair i feel weird if we aren't talking at all, but then at the same time i don't really know what to talk to her about you know? lol

what do you do when your at the salon? do you have conversations with the person doing your hair? or do you just sit there and not talk?
i know what ur saying! true, you should feel comfortable with your stylist, but some of us just arent that damn social! if this is you, there are a couple options to try out. first, think of some back up conversations to have just in case you find that awkward silence. if you dont wanna do that, bring your ipod (depending on what youre having done). if you cant wear earbuds, start texting random people on your phone or bring a book. or if that seems rude to you, mention right away that either you are tired and apologize in advance for being kinda zombie-ish, or that you feel like crap today but forced yourself outta bed to get to the salon. plus, ya never know... maybe the stylist will be relieved that they dont have to make small talk either! or if they still insist on talking, keep redirecting the attention back to your hair. ask lots of ?. it gives you something to talk about at least!! good luck!
Good evening, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. Difficult to socialize is actually a problem encountered by many people. Everyone has different personalities and with them, there are people who are easy to socialize and some are very difficult. On the other hand, people who socialize too easily usually find it difficult to find pleasure without the presence of others, and people who tend to be quiet are easier to find calm and excitement in their solitude.



What is clear is the key is that you state that if you already feel close to that person, you will be far more comfortable to socialize and that means there are no abnormalities in yourself, because in the end, you can still socialize even though it takes time to adapt.



Among the things you can do to practice your social skills is to speak in front of a mirror. Pay attention to what might still be fixed from you. Then try to enrich your horizons. Each person has different pleasures and it will be easier for you to start a conversation with someone else if you know a lot of things. Then don't easily feel that you offended others. If you are afraid that what you say offends someone, apologize before expressing it, and then ask if it offends him, because we really will not know how someone feels except by asking. In addition, you should have a friend who can correct you. If you want further, you can also take public speaking classes to practice your skills. And in doing all that, you have to put an understanding in yourself that you want to change, and you want to try, that everything that other people can do, you certainly can too.



Apart from all that, if you still feel you haven't reached the level of personality you want, realize that you don't need to be someone else. Just be the best version of your personality, but you don't need to lose its characteristics. So quiet is not a disorder, and as long as you can still carry out daily activities and have good social relations, even if it's not as easy as some people, it's okay. Accept yourself with all its shortcomings but focus on the strengths. So, hopefully answering your question. i seem to be extremely low in person. actually, some people seem to think something is wrong with me since i'm so chill and laid back. that said, i do misbehave more on here but i'm not trying to win any friends on this site. A. It’s difficult to assess the seriousness of this on the basis of only a letter so let me just share a couple of thoughts.

People by nature tend to fall somewhere on a scale from introvert to extrovert. It may be that at least part of this is that you are on the introvert end of the scale. There is nothing wrong with that! But, the larger culture celebrates extroverts. In high school, the general idea is that everyone is supposed to be outgoing and popular. Of course, not everyone can be. Not everyone wants to be. So let’s at least assume that part of what goes on is that you have a more restrained approach to life. One thing that supports this is that you do have a couple of close friends and that seems to be enough for you.

As for being out with others: I wonder if you have developed the skills you need to be comfortable out in the social world. Introverts can and do learn how to manage social situations enough so that they can be successful in their careers and can find loving relationships. Notice that I said “skills”. Skills are behaviors you can learn (like how to make small talk, how to be an active listener, how to be a good communicator, etc.). As you get more practiced in these skills, you will be more comfortable being with people for longer periods of time. But you will still need your alone time to “recover” from a lot of social interaction.

The line in your letter that does worry me is your statement that you can spend hours holed up in your room and in bed. Yes, you may need time to recharge your social batteries but it would do a lot more for your self-esteem if you would use that time to pursue an interest or to do something to make the world a better place. Think about ways to support a cause or candidate or to educate yourself about something you are genuinely interested in. You will feel better about yourself than if you just hang out wondering if there is something wrong with you. An important bonus is that it will give you more to talk about when you are with people.

I hope this is helpful. I wish you well.  
 Dr. Marie

I Want or Need to Be Alone hi, thank you for your question. headaches are a common problem among our population. your headaches that causes you to hardly do anything can be a terrifying experience for you. furthermore, the earache that accompanies your headache must be troublesome for you.
there are 2 main types of headaches which are primary headache and secondary headache. primary headache is only due to the headache itself without other causes. examples are tension headache, cluster headache and migraine. secondary headache is due to underlying health conditions, such as sinusitis, meningitis, trauma, tumour, bleeding and medications. some of these conditions are life-threatening and needed to be treated seriously.
it is helpful for your to keep a headache diary which keep tracks on the onset, duration, timing and progression of the headache. this helps the doctor greatly to establish a diagnosis. doctor may also need to know any associated symptoms such as fever, weight loss or history of cancer. this is important to rule out the secondary headaches. for a primary headache, the headache is normally predictable tiggers, stable pattern and individual is feeling fine in between headaches.
migraine is more common among females and can be associated with menstrual period. the headache is commonly described as throbbing, on one side of the head, becomes extremely sensitive to light and sound. if the conditions still persist without any improvement, please seek your healthcare providers to get appropriate treatment.
from your complaints, we believe that your earache condition may have multifactorial causes such as:

ear infection
change in pressure, such as when flying on a plane
earwax buildup
a foreign object in the ear
strep throat
sinus infection

in order for us to provide you with an accurate choice of treatment and management, we need additional details to explore further into your current complaints. therefore, we greatly suggest that you refer this to your nearest medical doctor.
you can easily get ear problems, but don’t let it get to you.
we believe that it could be due to sinus infection from the information given. it fits earache and headache that you are having at the moment. however, this is not definitive and you may call us or seek professional help.
you should get a doctor’s consultation to find out the exact cause of this problem in order to be properly managed. to find out the exact cause of the problem you are encountering, more information is required before conclusions can be made.
therefore, you are strongly advised to refer the matter to the doctor. please click on the link (doctoroncall) to contact your doctor to speak with our pharmacist online. we will protect your privacy. thank you.
discuss your symptoms with an ear, nose and throat(ent) specialist for their expert advice. lisa, i believe i answered something similar to this question but will be glad to go over it again with you! you can indeed get a haircut on main street of the magic kingdom at the harmony barbershop. this little place is tucked back between the car barn and the emporium and is easy to miss if you aren't looking for the red and white stripe pole out front! although it is known most for the first haircut experience this is not where the services stop. adults as well as children can get haircuts and you can even request a beard or a moustache trim. if you need something more magical ask for a colored gel or pixie dust! the first haircut includes a certificate and mouse ears and that cost is $18. adult haircuts are $19 while children's cuts are $15. the beard and moustache trims will cost $10 and the extra gels and pixie dust will range from $5-$7.50. you can use a credit card or charge to your room but at this time tips must be done in cash. the harmony barbershop is open daily from 9:00am to 5:00pm with the last haircut being at 4:30pm. you can now make advanced reservations by calling disney dining at 407-939-3463 and ask for children's activities. walk ups are always welcome and generally one of the stylists will always be available for the walk ups. make sure you take your camera.....this is definitely a photo opportunity for your trip! yeah that happened time ago, with a girl from europe, we "met" online we had the "greatest" connection, it felt like we knew each other from years before, but there was something we didn't talk and is "well this is great but you are in the other part of the world now," of course money , distance, even the fact we were completely strangers, we didn't talk never, (for months) where things were going, long story short, she got into another more time consuming job, things begin to get cold quickly, then one day she just didn't reply anymore, 2nd experience, i met her online, she visited me couple of times while been here , yeah she was from europe too, (for distance reference purpose ) we had great time , but things were like this is great we just have a very different life each one on their own country, we are incredible far to make things work at least for now, we still keep in contact for years as very good friends, good luck probably you both make it and find the way things work "faster" : ) i've flirted with it before. i didn't get much interest. just women that i'm, to be politically uncorrect, way out of their league, at least in terms of the logistics of dating. all the women that i was interested in and messaged, didn't respond. actually what i'd say was going on is this. firstly you need to be aware of the psychology of it, and how peoples' minds work. ie, if you have forlorn selfies, one or two of you pondering the nature of existence in your bedroom, you're not going to get many bites from women. women can get away with being aloof and beautiful like that. men typically have to portray a more social and outgoing image, least that's what i imagine. if you can project the image of social power, then you're going to attract more of it. and i'm sort of eluding to the tragedy of dating websites and dating in general, and their 'unnaturalness'. it's all very calculated, and hardly dreamy romantic if one is check-boxing all the time. there's a lot of tragic people on there, trying to find a means to desperately get away from their tragedy and find that validation or quick thrill they are seeking. like all things, it's a question of intent. what are you true motivations. if one goes there, with innocent eyes, wholeheartedly, and is not there to deceive any body, or escape from anything, then of course, it's just another medium to meet people. the whole hearted thing is important. actually uploading a decent set of photos, putting some thought into your profile, etc. what you put in, you get out, it's not just a case of being there. the same applies to going to social gatherings in general. go to the same event, and make the effort to talk to people and be open, and one will get dramatically different results. also, i think on the positive, it can expand the potentiality of the people you can meet manifold. there's lots of interesting people out there. i really think it's like social media in general. it just fans, positive or negative, what you are already doing. of course, one could make a deeper argument about conscious control in the first place. we think we have conscious control of the happenings around us, but really, conscious 'control' is the mind's means of deluding us into thinking that we're not working to the subconscious forces within us. the truth about my 'rejections' were, i wasn't really into it, i was just playing... sort of, if you're feeling me, to make this more 'down' and gag friendly. sorry. i wish i could help but i find it weird that people “like” your post and not say anything. i posted yesterday and i was like ok… ummm do you want to look at my book? hah. all the best sir! A.  You are right to be concerned. It sounds like your daughter has been increasingly isolating herself. Although successful in that she goes to school, her friendship circle is very limited for someone her age. Although it’s not unusual for people to talk through problems or to review their day with themselves in the privacy of the bathroom or their own room, your report that she may be punishing herself by screaming and slapping isn’t typical or okay.


Sometimes our kids can’t tell us what is troubling them so they consciously or unconsciously leave hints around so that we’ll find them. Kids sometimes “accidentally” leave a diary open where we’ll find it or “accidentally” leave a distressing email open on the family computer, for example. It’s their way of sending out a distress signal without having to quite take responsibility for doing so.



I’m guessing your daughter’s lengthy time in the bathroom is something like that. On some level she knows that you will be concerned about a two-hour stay in there.


It’s past time for you to respond to the signal. Find a therapist who specializes in young adults. Ask your doctor for a referral or click on the “Find Help” tab on the PsychCentral homepage. There may also be a behavioral health clinic at her college. Brief the therapist on the phone and ask for some guidance about how to get your daughter to go in. (Sometimes it’s helpful if a parent goes to part of the first session.) 


Then, in a loving way, let your daughter know how concerned you are. Tell her that you know that she is upset and that you want to help. Reassure her that she doesn’t deserve to be punished by herself or by anyone else – no matter what. Insist that she see the counselor. Tell her you are willing to go with her. Don’t argue. Don’t get mad. Stay in that loving, concerned place.


[Parenting](https://psychcentral.com/lib/category/parenting/) doesn’t end because a child is at the age to start leaving home. We all have to figure out when to let go and when to still pull the “parent card.” In this situation, your daughter is telling you without words that she needs you to be a mom. Please follow through. She sounds like she really needs help.


I wish you well.  

Dr. Marie


Daughter Talks to Herself just say hello, how are you? i think you are cute. here is my number call me.orhello handsome! i am going to get a drink. would you like to join? or if that doesn't help since you are shy. then try this, just look at the guy and when he stares back give him a smile