not sure i should folliw my daughter's demands for this..?
okay, so right before christmas i exploded on my older daughter, calling her a self centered brat. i never yell at this sweet, loving, perfect child, but i lost it. immediately after i begged forgiveness. she then stated there were things she wanted for her to ever forgive me. 1 was extra presents at christmas. the second was to leave her younger sister (7) out of the family portraits we get done every year. however, she came to me and my husband last night and said her final wish is that we don't celebrate her sister's 8th birthday, since she was the reason she didn't have an only child's christmas. my husband says we need to comply so she will forgive use. i'm not so sure on this one. she was sick with cancer last year, went quickly into remission, so i want to celebrate her birthday, but at the same time, how can i say no to my perfect princess? i font want her hating me for life!!! i live and breath for her. what should i do?
you can't ignore your other child! that's going to cause your younger child to have serious problems later in life. tell your older daughter that you can't abandon your other daughter but that you still love her and want to solve this another way.
I feel not. Let her go in peace forcing food is not peace. This is your Mothers Journey not yours. She's 87 years old . What life really lies ahead for her other than more suffering. Does she not have a living will. I would never want to be force fed nor my Daddy (who himself was a Doctor) or My Husband also a Doctor. This is just my opinion. If you must then give her Ensure. Mix the Ensure with ice cream . Without it nobody would drink its. its awful. My Mummy takes it but we Doctor it up and she thinks its a milk shake just for her. Now that she's in a group home , we still make it for her there and she loves it. But she would not drink it just plain right from the can. Good Luck on whatever your path shall be. But remember 87 is a nice Life . Why let her suffer , when need not be. hi misty! i love the in-room celebrations! they are amazing and so much fun to experience! the dream makers really go all out to make the celebrations special, and i think are well worth the money. i think your daughter is just going to love it! tell your daughter happy birthday from me! have a magical vacation! amanda Honestly I get really worried about it when its myself, but if its another girl (in which case they usually panic or start laughing while apologizing) ill laugh with them or tell them its fine. My parents and brother joke about my dad and my brothers gas a lot, but when its me, they react in a completely different way. Sometimes I feel like girls are just expected to not pass gas? there is surely no reason at all why a friend of your mom&#39;s, who is not a friend of yours, should visit you or take any particular interest in your baby. simply talk calmly to your mom, and explain that while you tolerated this woman at the shower and wedding, you don&#39;t like the woman and do not want her to visit you. your mother ought to udnerstand this. r3emind her that this is your house, your home and your baby, and your privacy must be respected rather than the idle curiosity of this other woman. that sort of person pushes up the social tree exactly because they are insensitive and never take hints hi carrie! my own daughter spent many of her teenage birthdays in walt disney world and each one is memorable! there are many great things you can do to make this special for her 16th birthday. think about a special cake to be made and delivered to the restaurant on her big day. call the cake hotline, 407-827-2253, to discuss your ideas. make sure you get the dining reservation for a special dinner by calling or doing it on line 180 days out from your arrival date. check out the floral and room decoration options by going to www.disneyflorist.com. these cast members can truly make a room magical for your daughter. you might also consider booking a special tour for her and her friend. many have age restrictions so be sure and check that out. this might be just the time for her to learn how to maneuver a segway around epcot or fort wilderness! click here to see the listing of disney tours. if the budget allows consider booking a fireworks cruise either for illuminations or the magic kingdom show. you will have the boat to yourself and can order cakes, food, and drinks to be on the boat for a special occasion. on a lighter note i often made scavenger hunts for my children and their friends on their birthday. it would either be in one park or a few with the reward for finishing worthy of a birthday surprise! to this day they still talk about some of the hilarious things they did! walt disney world is the perfect spot for anyone's birthday and no matter what you choose to do for your daughter it will be a fun and successful vacation for all! hi lg, <br>it&#39;ll be interesting to see ( after the weekend, when most readers will be back ) what other people think of the situation you describe. it sounds as if your parents probably are a bit too strict, but with all they hear and see of the dangers of the world today, one can understand their fears  and its even worse when parents don&#39;t care at all. sometimes they may seem to be hypocritical, when they&#39;re actually trying to get you to avoid mistakes they made. your sister sounds immature and spiteful. what would they think if you said you wanted to see a shrink or counsellor to work on the problems they have identified in your behaviour ? ( that way, it makes it harder for them to object  and indeed these diferent perceptions of what is a "problem") ought to be part of what you&#39;d discuss with a counsellor. be cautious about your overdose idea  apart from the obvious dangers to yourself, it&#39;d surely also give them much sronger grounds for being even stricter, which is the exact opposite of what you want to achieve. I'm so sorry. This is hard to accept. But sometimes people get to the point that they don't want to socialize. My mother - who was once very social - simply arrived at a point where she only wanted those close to her or the nursing home staff around. She was in a lot of pain which I think was much of it.   
  
If your mother was once social, then you could ask the doctor to experiment with her medications. There may be other options.  
  
However, sometimes we have to accept that these diseases take their course and we can only do so much. Forcing what the person obviously doesn't want isn't helpful.  
  
Offering suggestions - yes - so continue to do that. I'm certain that the AL staff does the same. But you can't make it happen if it's not going to happen. Offer all of the support that you can.  
Take care of yourself, too.  
Carol A.  You are right to be concerned. It sounds like your daughter has been increasingly isolating herself. Although successful in that she goes to school, her friendship circle is very limited for someone her age. Although it’s not unusual for people to talk through problems or to review their day with themselves in the privacy of the bathroom or their own room, your report that she may be punishing herself by screaming and slapping isn’t typical or okay.


Sometimes our kids can’t tell us what is troubling them so they consciously or unconsciously leave hints around so that we’ll find them. Kids sometimes “accidentally” leave a diary open where we’ll find it or “accidentally” leave a distressing email open on the family computer, for example. It’s their way of sending out a distress signal without having to quite take responsibility for doing so.



I’m guessing your daughter’s lengthy time in the bathroom is something like that. On some level she knows that you will be concerned about a two-hour stay in there.


It’s past time for you to respond to the signal. Find a therapist who specializes in young adults. Ask your doctor for a referral or click on the “Find Help” tab on the PsychCentral homepage. There may also be a behavioral health clinic at her college. Brief the therapist on the phone and ask for some guidance about how to get your daughter to go in. (Sometimes it’s helpful if a parent goes to part of the first session.) 


Then, in a loving way, let your daughter know how concerned you are. Tell her that you know that she is upset and that you want to help. Reassure her that she doesn’t deserve to be punished by herself or by anyone else – no matter what. Insist that she see the counselor. Tell her you are willing to go with her. Don’t argue. Don’t get mad. Stay in that loving, concerned place.


[Parenting](https://psychcentral.com/lib/category/parenting/) doesn’t end because a child is at the age to start leaving home. We all have to figure out when to let go and when to still pull the “parent card.” In this situation, your daughter is telling you without words that she needs you to be a mom. Please follow through. She sounds like she really needs help.


I wish you well.  

Dr. Marie


Daughter Talks to Herself hi christy, thank you for visiting the moms panel! your little princess will be limited to ordering from the kid's menu; however, if you make reservations at restaurants with buffets, then she will have more of an option to choose from. my little princess is the same way. i always end up sharing my food with my little nemos! i hope this helps! have a magical day! ca'sandra never keep throwing the past in someone's face. That's like slapping someone in the face with every little mistake they are trying to still heal from day to day. that's abusive. probably why she held a lot of resentment seeking out comfort from another man.   
another thing is. the on and off shananagens is due to lack of trust and lots of selfishness.   
if you're ever in that position again. learn from it.. always bring someone up no matter what mistakes they're making. 2 wrongs don't make a right. always be the better Samaritan.  
children will always be a sticky situation. always make good choices that suite what you want and what you're mentally, physically and financially mature enough to handle.   
May the force be with you!!!