how to get in the right mindset?
hi!i used to be a kid that did not have any features that were considered beautiful. i had glasses too small, hair too short for me, chubby face, no makeup never, and my features were a little bit different, i was 15. i remember feeling ugly.now it has been 3-4 years since that time, just turned 19. my looks have changed a lot. i do not wear glasses anymore and i have long hair. my features match more now together and they just look different than back then etc.( you know i grew out of the awkward stage.)it is so hard for me to still think i am beautiful. i can't let go of the past and i am constantly thinking people still see me as that "not so pretty girl" . i am like somehow captured in the mind of myself back then and it makes me believe that i am too ugly for anything even tough i am not.what can i do?
become selfish, but not too much. when you walk in your bathroom and look at yourself in the mirror, grin because you look good and you like what you see. only care about your own opinion, once you develop an attitude of loving how you yourself look, everyone else will take notice. that is of course if you look good and have self image issues.
when you hit puberty you will begin to catch up with your friends and in fact you may become taller than them in the long-term.<br><br>be patient with yourself, trust your body to begin growing when its ready. childhood is a time of tremendous brain development. the young brain literally changes shape and size in response to everything encountered from new environment, to life experiences, to caretakers and to relationships. A.Thank you for writing. I’m sure this is hard to live with. I think you keep having the fantasies because at some point they worked for you. You are a sensitive young woman who has a strong moral compass.

In 7th grade, you knew you had done something wrong and earned the reprimand. But, being you, you couldn’t let it go. You felt so bad about it that you went over it and over it. Crying may have relieved some of the intense feelings of shame and perhaps anger that went with thinking about what happened. If it had stopped there, it would have been an unfortunate reaction to a very usual piece of mischief that kids do.

But being as concerned as you are with right and wrong, any time since then that you have felt accused or reprimanded, it has reminded you of that first time when you were not only wrong but humiliated for it. Your unconscious self then also remembered that crying gave you some relief.

I suspect the “lesson” generalized and you started to cry any time you needed relief from stress. Stress just comes with being a teen so there was probably reason to look for some relief every day. But then you end up feeling bad that you feel bad. That must feel terrible!

Unfortunately, your reaction has become a kind of bad habit. Having practiced it for years, feeling sick or crying is an automatic response to stress.

You need some new ways to handle stress and shame. Maybe you can figure it out yourself but you would probably benefit from seeing a therapist who could give you some new tools and help you practice them. I hope you will consider seeing a licensed therapist to help you with this so you can go forward into adult life with less distressing ways for relieving anxieties and stress.

I wish you well

Dr. Marie

Why Do I Have Abusive Thoughts? i've had depression since childhood. but when i am feeling mentally well and fibro kicks in, it usually brings me back into depression. After 5 hours of learning I have compiled these:


Mindset



1. **Make sure the placed image ratio is good** to make it more realistic. This can be attained by checking with the other object in the output picture, like trees, or other peoples' height. You are not going to place human with the size much smaller than the other human at the same picture. Similarly, you also must not place a person with the height higher than a tree.
2. **Get the right perspective**. Sometimes, when an object is placed in an odd perspective, image is going to look very bold that it has been photoshopped or copy pasted.
3. **Lighting**. It is important to pay attention to light source, like the sun, and make sure our object is appropriate with output background light source. This can be done by adjusting the lighting of object and adding shadow with referencing other shadow in output image.


Tools (to make edges more realistic)



1. **Layer masking.** If moving people, hair can look awful if just plainly moved. Masking allows us to further tweak our selection.
2. **Refine edge.** *This tool allows you to control many aspect of the edge of your selection* (desired object to move), like Edge Detection (brushing the edges of object and let photoshop do its job, usually around dog fur), Feather (Soften the area of selection), Smooth (reduce pointiness of your selection), Contrast (somewhat opposite of smooth), and Shift Edge (moving feather far or nearer the selection, usually to remove excess background color near the edges). *REFERENCE: <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5lDr2Nd8Yl4>*
3. **Layer Matting**. Inside we have many sub-tools to work on, like Color Decontamination (spread out soft mask around the edge, usually for hair to catch other hair that accidentally masked or can be used similarly to Shift Edge), Remove Matte (soften edge of sharp graphic or pixalated, raster look). *REFERENCE: <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N6K_htNQPPA>*
4. **Image Calculation**. By playing with the blending, we can make the background darker; thus, helping us making mask. *REFERENCE: <https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0zf-H9RoCNk>* What do you think of bullying?   

- Bullying awful and horrible. It's really hard to get over the bullying and try to move on. Bullying causes so many problems and a lot of people develop mental health problems like depression, stress, anxiety and they lead to self harm, have suicidal thoughts and even take their own lives. Bullying is horrible and nobody deserves to be bullied.   

  

Were you bullied, or were you the bully?   

- Yes, I was bullied for 5 years and I suffered from physical and emotional bullying. They spat at me, called me names, punched me in the stomach and beat me up. It was the worst point in my life and it led me to suffer from depression   

  

Why do you think people bully?   

- They are evil. They're jealous and are pathetic   

  

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25. there is no money left in my wallet. hi lg, <br>it&#39;ll be interesting to see ( after the weekend, when most readers will be back ) what other people think of the situation you describe. it sounds as if your parents probably are a bit too strict, but with all they hear and see of the dangers of the world today, one can understand their fears  and its even worse when parents don&#39;t care at all. sometimes they may seem to be hypocritical, when they&#39;re actually trying to get you to avoid mistakes they made. your sister sounds immature and spiteful. what would they think if you said you wanted to see a shrink or counsellor to work on the problems they have identified in your behaviour ? ( that way, it makes it harder for them to object  and indeed these diferent perceptions of what is a "problem") ought to be part of what you&#39;d discuss with a counsellor. be cautious about your overdose idea  apart from the obvious dangers to yourself, it&#39;d surely also give them much sronger grounds for being even stricter, which is the exact opposite of what you want to achieve. do you have dry eyes and a really calm disposition?i too fall asleep really easily. i have to drink coffee all the time. i think i should drink more water but i can't seem to do it.breathing problems like what? low breathing?like really calm? thats the only thing i can think of because thats my problem. oh that guy is hott
idk make them 
growing a beard in the 10th grade is kinda weird wait till you're in collage
after i saw his picture i went all over the internet and found him
yeah his so hot

about youre head bands get some fabric and just put it on youre head 

i would just ripp some old t shirts of mine to make it more me
 

dont wear them everyday just somedays and if youre teachers suck like mine they will tell you all this crap about how you cant wear it 
but then again it is a headband not a hat 
and my teachers just hate me 

dpnt grow a beard yet 
well idk maybe you have the look you should post a pic of your self

i love city and color my favorite song is girl evrytime it goes to the fast pce one i start dancing 
once i broke my shower curtain and fell in my bathtube all wraped in the shower curtain it was soo funny i wish it was recorded