why does my douche bag ex boyfriend still hang out near me at work?
the awkward part about the end of my relationship with my ex boyfriend is that we work together (unfortunately). every time i am calling for help (unfortunately again) he always answers my calls.
i rather avoid him and have nothing to do with him.
he dumped me, said quite a few rude things about my family, embarrassed me at work, is racist and has racist members in his family etc.
he acts like nothing happened. and has the balls to come and stand close to me.
i back away.
even at work he once said 'i don't give a shit if you don't talk to me'
and he still hasn't been fired.
so should i quit this job that doesn't care about the situation?
i have a boyfriend and have been with him 3 months now but the work situation is awful, depressing , demoralizing and ridiculous.
i don't want to be in contact with him and don't want to see his face.
he has been acting odd and overly friendly. he knows i have a boyfriend and i just want him to back off and i don't want to talk to him. he always seems close to where i work and it bothers me.
it seems with an "ex" who is not only marking an x in your own softie spot here, dear, he is throwing daggers and digs your way every day as it gets more and more uncomfortable from 9-5, no jive. and the time clock will keep ticking with this lame duck a dicking. believe me, he is gloating.perhaps with the rest from the best start you have going on now in your life, you certainly don't need the strife. you have a new so and with this other, he will only continue to bash and bother you because he knows with working together, the better to taunt you, my dear.i think perhaps with your experience and brains, you could get an even better job anywhere with no awkwardness, and with a little input and effort on your own part you could be swarming to interviews in no time flat fast. however, for now, somehow, try and stay clear of him until the door closes at five, and don't let him get to you... this tormentor is a sore sport with always a retort, so don't give him the satisfaction of letting him get to you by any reply to this sly guy.he just wants a rise out of you and probably wishes you could wiggle your way on over to the water cooler too.good luck. xx
He works for a private defense contractor, and the state!?


Why would his employers be the slightest bit interested in a squabble between exes? 


More importantly, why are you interested, and why would this person's employers have give you the time of day? From what you say here, you have no evidence nothing but idle gossip and unsubstantiated accusations.


Best if you stay out of it and mind your own business--that way you do not become involved in something you have no business being involved with.


Let your friend take appropriate steps with the authorities or with the website owners themselves to secure his/her social networking access. You know this question could be answered either way. "Yes, he might be", or "no he really cares". Let's assume he likes talking with you and seeing you at the visitation. He likes that you are showing him attention. There is a chance that this relationship can grow beyond where it would have if he was out. Maybe you get to know each other better and he becomes more into you. Life is too short, you have to let this play out.


I'm sure you have great instincts (your inner feeling already knows), you have to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Give it some time, try not to be too hard on yourself. He might be a rascal and a dirty dog too, but I vote for giving it a try and see how it plays out. You are in control of this relationship and every inmate knows this fact. Since the inmate loses control of what goes on in the outside world and he will often try to keep that control over the phone or letters. Just trust yourself and what you see and feel. you can ask others or if you see them, just look at their facial expressions and other body language.  i avoided and ignored a jerk at the gym and the last time i saw him, he didn't even acknowledge me (fortunately).  so i know i either hurt his feelings or made him mad. A.  I am deeply moved by your situation and understand the devastation following a desertion. Trying to understand his motivation and lack of caring re-injures you emotionally. No matter how many times you try to understand this story of betrayal it will leave you empty. This is a time to reclaim yourself and reconnect with those who love you — and whose care can fill you up. Building a network of social support takes some doing. Asking for help, expressing gratitude toward those who have extended their kindness, and immersing in the best self-care practices you can will help you feel better.


Thoughts determine the direction of our feelings and behavior. If you dwell on him you are turning your thoughts toward more difficult and unsatisfying feelings. Focusing on what you need and the loving people in your life will be better way to go.



Wishing you patience and peace,  

*Dr. Dan*  

[*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)


Struggling to Accept that He Doesn’t Care about Me your former friend is a toxic hypocrite. stay away from her. we all have our drama queen moments, but she's out of control at this point. she's not some 17 or 18 year old kid, she's a grown woman. if she feels that you were mistreating her in the past, she has a right to be upset, but she should talk to you about it in a mature and calm manner, not attack you about it now. but really, she's being hypocritical about mistreatment, when she's been the one embarrassing you in front of other people. i recommend that you continue to go on a separate course. you haven't spoken in a month, it seems that she's moving on with her life, move on with yours. every friendship has struggles, but for her to constantly attack you at this age is just dumb. you don't need that kind of stress. best of luck to you 😊 plz don't break your relationship... bcoz now u have more responsibilities than before... u have 2 maintain your relationship vth both your hubby and your kid.. treat your hubby also like your baby. give equal importance to both. do wt ever he likes and try to love him more than before. ok..first of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. and second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. it is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! so in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. on the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. as a prove we have your "cry for help" here. remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! but this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. in this case maybe he would have asked u out already. my advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. this could have 2 implications:
1. you fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. this potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
so ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! good luck! A. If you are going to marry your fiancé, you will have to tolerate his children and ex-wife. It is unfair and unrealistic to ask him to cut ties with his children no matter how dysfunctional they or his ex-wife may be. He is their father and will likely have some involvement with them for the rest of his life.

You have a decision to make. If you decide to marry him, then accept that his family will be part of your life. If you don’t wish to be involved with his family, then strongly reconsider your decision to get married.

Every decision has consequences. Objectivity and clarity are of paramount importance when making major life decisions. It might be helpful to discuss this decision with a therapist. A therapist could assist you in thinking through what your life would be like with or without him and by extension with or without his family. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

Fiancé Kid Issues When He Doesn’t See Kids i know what ur saying! true, you should feel comfortable with your stylist, but some of us just arent that damn social! if this is you, there are a couple options to try out. first, think of some back up conversations to have just in case you find that awkward silence. if you dont wanna do that, bring your ipod (depending on what youre having done). if you cant wear earbuds, start texting random people on your phone or bring a book. or if that seems rude to you, mention right away that either you are tired and apologize in advance for being kinda zombie-ish, or that you feel like crap today but forced yourself outta bed to get to the salon. plus, ya never know... maybe the stylist will be relieved that they dont have to make small talk either! or if they still insist on talking, keep redirecting the attention back to your hair. ask lots of ?. it gives you something to talk about at least!! good luck! yeah, break up with her, so then she can find a guy better than you. dude, are you kidding me? that's how relationships are, theres going to be arguments and sometimes theres going to be insecurities, and if you're not smart enough to realize she just actually really cares, then you should break up with her so she has a chance with a guy that will.