friend wants me to ask him a question?
i have a guy friend on fb and he's doing a thing where you ask them a question in their inbox and they answer it in a status. he messaged me and wants me to ask him a question. ps he has a girlfriend. what question should i ask? ideas?
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if it's only occasionally, while this is a bit excessive, i'd give him the benefit of the doubt depending on his lifestyle. but if it happens all the time, i'd be asking them why myself. i'd say he only sees you as a friend though at best. i'd be upset if anyone took that long to reply lol. they'd better have their phone turned off or something lol if you don't know him then probably not. but sometimes when i scroll down on my fb friend requests, i accidnetally send press 'friend' button on screen. i feel like there is a developing interest happening on her part. in my opinion. you could try talking about romantic relationships in general and see if the conversation goes anywhere. you could also try getting closer to her, maybe flirt a tiny bit and see where she's at. sorry if this doesn't help :( different people decompress in different ways; this is just how he does it. his relationship with his friends is not the same as the one with you; he gives you more and so it takes more out of him.strange as it sounds, this is actually a good sign: he's committed to you, wants to give you his best, has other friends, and uses them as a healthy coping mechanism. it sounds like the problem is that he's indulging it a bit much of late, yes? if he says it's nothing to do with you, he likely has some serious stress he's trying to deal with- or perhaps one of his friends does. now, your awareness of and respect for his need for solitude is also a good thing, but if you need more from him than you're getting, it's not unreasonable to ask. i'd be careful in the phrasing, however; "i want you to spend more time with me", while reasonable, can come across as a demand. something like "i've noticed you've been spending a lot more time alone, gaming with your friends lately. i know you use this to work off stress, and i'm wondering if everything's okay. is there anything i can do to help?" not only sends the message that his needs are legitimate, it's more likely to be seen as concerned than accusatory. his reaction may also give you some insight into how he sees it and what it means to him- if he thinks of those he's playing with as his friends, he's obviously not doing it alone; if they're just some people he plays with, that's less likely to be a sticking point.it's not silly to want him to make you a high priority for his time, and it seems like you have a decent understanding that he's a separate person with his own needs and desires (a surprising number of people don't). if you want him to communicate with you more, it's okay to ask- but go in thinking of it is a request, not a demand. relationships are about give and take, not about conforming to a preconceived ideal. i agree with your friends. you obviously like each other because he claimed to be willing to make the long drive to see you, he willingly met your parents to good effect, and he responds well when you call him. however, we cannot know what he is thinking until he makes some positive overtures in your favor without prodding. he probably has only the vaguest ideas what to do with himself regarding the relationship with you, so maybe you should give him time to clear his head. you must give him space for a few days to a week, maybe, before calling him again. he could be concerned about a long-distance affair, he could be overwhelmed by pressures of daily life, or just grappling with his shyness (since, you say, he's not been in a relationship before). if you get a weak or no response after about a week, call him and ask him directly how he feels about your mutual arrangement. once you allow him to make the moves himself it will all turn out well. First, it's not true that the guy will automatically pursue.  
  
Second, it's okay for girls to ask, but the vast majority won't.  
  
If you want to ask him, that's fine. But you don't have to.  
  
It seems to me that when a girl says she wants a guy, what she really means is that she wants him to ask her out. If he doesn't, there's no way the fact that she wants him will make her do the asking. She'd rather sit there unasked, getting more and more frustrated until eventually she convinces herself that he doesn't like her, and she should move on. you have to initiate conversations with him too sometimes or he will think you don't like him as much as he likes you. basically he probably got tired of chasing you so if you want him you should send him a message and start a conversation right now. i hear you and feel so sorry for you that it's not working out as you want... i hear you actually you're like a dear friend of mine...but i can't help but point out a few points. seriously, listen up i'm not trying to judge you or anything.. belive me. but you know it's so uncool of you to say that you've been used, since you both agreed to have sex, come on.. we're grown ups not underage girls.. how the heck the 'being used' part come from?(actually that kind of attitude might have freaked him out i think..) and also i don't really see what he has done wrong so far if it was clear you two were just friends with benefits. i mean seriously, he's not your boyfriend, and you're acting like as if he is.. but you know.. i completely understand that you're having hard time with your ex. you liked him so sweet and listened to you.. trying to understand what you're going throw.. your bf's hurting you, it's because i see girls who suffer from bad relationship and honestly? if he's no good for you and he's hurting you and if another guy help you get out of that deep hell, go for it(im selfish i know, sorry). but you aren't happy, because you found a wrong guy(not that he's wrong, it's just he is not a guy who can give you what you need and want) that made it clear that it was just sex, and you two are kinda friends(well you claim) which is fine. but you want him to be there for you, and be only with you no other girls. don't you see? why he's leaving you?how to change his mind.. honestly? after all these? that you freaked him out and you broke the rule of friends with benefits which is called 'feelings' with it's best friend 'jealousy', you were cheating on your boyfriend, and you said all your relationship with other guy? i don't see any possibilities(girls! don't you think it's a little bit unfair that to say i wanna be who i am , asking guys to be some kind of knights? ... )i hope you find another new sencere sweet boyfriend, i really do. but right now.. i really hate to say it but you and him? i don't think it's gonna happen. i'm so sorry... i think i haven't been any helpful but all mean words.. but i have dear friend who is going throw what you're going through...(at least it seems like to me..). and i really really hope you the best... really... a big hug.. find a guy who can give you want you want.. who can love you.. really..you be the dreamy girl... not despressed lonely girl... then right guy will come out..! a guy that found me online wanted pics of my tits once. i said no, i don't like to send nude pics, if people wanna see that they gotta see it in person. he persisted. i asked, "can't you just go look at tits on pornhub or something?" his answer was "yeah, but they wouldn't be your tits." i guess there's something different about it being someone you're actively involved with than a total stranger who you will never interact with. well depends on the context of how he said it if he meant he lived that your friend was cool than there's not really much to worry but if he meant he loves your friend out of actraction and romance than you might have an issue