help does my wife still love me?
my wife and i have been seperated for 1 month now. she calls me 2 hours after she left. she said that its not gdbye its c u later. she calls me every now and then and i do the same. she moved back in with her parents about 1 1/2 hrs from me. she is a very strong woman so she is not showing too many emotions. yesterday we met (2nd time since seperation) and we had a great time. she played with her bracelets, in a nervous matter, leaning towards me, and she looked very atractive towards me. we laughed told stories, gave eachother gifts and i told her that her new hair style was amazing. at the end however she said that if we get back together, i may have to accept the fact that she has been seeing other guys. the guys she says she's talking to are over 32. shes 21 and im 24. i havent said that i luv her to her bc i dont want it to blow up in my face. she said it was nice seeing u and she opened herself up to me like the first 2years of our 3 year relationship. was that a test or 4 real?
have you considered couple counseling? this would help to work on the problems that made you separate to begin with...it sounds like you both still love each other... and perhaps the separation has done the relationship some good, in making you both appreciate each other more... if you really want to know if its for real ask her to go to counseling with you... if shes serious about working on the relationship and getting back together.... she will definitely go! you both need to be more open about your feelings, and take the emotional risk if you want it to work out...best wishes!!!!!!!!!
How new and fresh is the relationship? That shouldn't decide this answer but for me it does. I can't wait to see the woman again if its after a good 1st date. Towards the end of my five year marriage, she couldn't stay away long enough. Sad but true. i feel like there is a developing interest happening on her part. in my opinion. you could try talking about romantic relationships in general and see if the conversation goes anywhere. you could also try getting closer to her, maybe flirt a tiny bit and see where she's at. sorry if this doesn't help :( being married for 20 years i find the idea exciting and a major turn on. in fact i find it so hot. a number of years ago my wife went away for a girls weekend twice to a local beach-ie island getaway. we're very open and she told me how she was a bad girl in the party/bar pool. a hot guy was digging her and bought all her drinks. they got really touchy feely in the pool and she enjoyed being grouped and rubbed and grouping rubbing him. she even snuck her hands in his swim shorts and played with him. this action went on for hours. stroking, rubbing, grabbing, making out.when she got home i threw her in bed, made her tell me her all the dirty details, then we had the hottest sex. the next year she went back for the same girls weekend. i basically gave her open permission to do what she wants. i even highly encouraged her to be even more dirty. but she doesn't really have an interest in doing more, so her dirtiness didn't get any more than the first time she was there. nevertheless she came home and we banged hard as she told me the bad things she did do. that is about as wild as things have gotten, mostly because she doesn't have an interest to do more with other guys. however, i would be open to having a very kinky arrangements if she was game. i agree with your friends. you obviously like each other because he claimed to be willing to make the long drive to see you, he willingly met your parents to good effect, and he responds well when you call him. however, we cannot know what he is thinking until he makes some positive overtures in your favor without prodding. he probably has only the vaguest ideas what to do with himself regarding the relationship with you, so maybe you should give him time to clear his head. you must give him space for a few days to a week, maybe, before calling him again. he could be concerned about a long-distance affair, he could be overwhelmed by pressures of daily life, or just grappling with his shyness (since, you say, he's not been in a relationship before). if you get a weak or no response after about a week, call him and ask him directly how he feels about your mutual arrangement. once you allow him to make the moves himself it will all turn out well. I forgave my boyfriend for cheating on me. It was hard. But i loved him and i didn't want to throw our life away because of his drunken decision. She may not trust you fully right now but tell her that you're willing to be patient and to gain back her trust and that something like that will never happen again and be completely honest with her. i found out she had sex with another guy and confronted her. she cried and said she was sorry and said she was devastated that she hurt me. we worked on it for four months, during which time i said that i wanted all the facts. everything. don't hold back. i needed the truth to move on from the lies. i told her that it wasn't so much the actual sex that ate away at me. it was the lies and cover ups that shattered my trust. she said she would do that and anything else i needed. well, she had said she only hooked up with him three times and that it was mostly just companionship while i was long distance. (smh at how stupid i was.) then i found out that it was a four month affair. sleepovers multiple times a week. dates and picnics. pdas. going to the gym. going to his baseball games. cooking together. playing house. and unprotected sex with him while she was having unprotected sex with me. all her friends knew. and the ultimate infidelity is that she really was grooming him to be her boyfriend without ever telling him she was dating me. she lied to both of us. that's when i realized that she was never was truly sorry for doing something wrong. because she didn't see it as wrong. just exploring her options. she was only sorry she got caught. but, like an idiot, i tried for another four months. i was blinded by love and lust and the connection we had. finally i just realized that, even though i loved so much about her, she was not the one for me. trust is absolutely the foundational requirement for a healthy relationship. without it, there is nothing. plz don't break your relationship... bcoz now u have more responsibilities than before... u have 2 maintain your relationship vth both your hubby and your kid.. treat your hubby also like your baby. give equal importance to both. do wt ever he likes and try to love him more than before. You know, it happens tp the most of us.  
  
it's like , the more you do one thing, the lesser and lesser you get interested in it.  
  
When he loved you, he thought that he could keep it up forever (Assuming that he ever did love you for you and not anything else).  
  
But that's what usually happens these days to couples that ends up divorcing each other.  
Either they cheat on each other or they get dissatisfaction from each other.  
  
People dont tend to stay together and work it out anymore. They just give up so easily.  
  
He may have loved you. But i dont think he does anymore. And if you plan to move forward with him, i dont think it'll be a good idea. Coz i think that when "not feeling it" moment comes into the lifes of a couple, thats when they go out and ends up CHEATING on each other. i am wondering if my ex will come back into my life. apparently there is common belief that boys are fine at the start and only usually begin to miss you and potentially regret their decision a few weeks or months after making it, and attempt to reconnect. whereas for the girls, they are heartbroken the first few days- and slowly reestablish themselves and get better over time. have you got any personal experience with an ex coming back into your life? i know the saying "they're an ex for a reason" and everyone tells me to move on.. but it has only been a few days and well, he is the love of my life. A. It is not uncommon for people to have had a few intimate relationships by their late 20s. My guess is that you being a virgin and her having had experience in relationships is at the root of your concern. It is hard to imagine something we have not experienced.

That having been said it is important to note that at this stage of life it is unlikely that you will meet anyone that has not had a past romantic relationship. I would focus on the here and now you have with her. Here is what you have said:

1. She has stopped contact with others. This is a very good sign of her intention and commitment.
2. She has described her relationships in a way that makes sense – meaning that she was not in love and maintained them because she wanted options.
3. Her relationship with you has changed her thoughts and feelings about herself and what she wants.

Taken together this would seem to be a good indication of her commitment and willingness to be a partner with you. Your relationship is new, and this will mean that as you grow together these concerns are likely to take a back seat. Meditation may be an excellent way for you to modulate your feelings and angst about the situation. Over time her commitment to you will dispel these concerns.

Wishing you patience and peace,  
 *Dr. Dan*  
 [*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)

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