[Serious] What's your one best piece of relationship advice?
As in, if you have one piece of wisdom to share about relationships and how to make them work, how to keep your SO delighted and excited, how to prevent things going stale, how to surprise him/her, how to be caring and attentive, please share.


I ask because I'm in a relationship for the first time in a while, and I want to make it work, but I also love hearing other people's advice and thoughts on best-practice, or even nice things they've learned as they went along. Also because I think it would benefit other people as well!


Thanks!


Edit: Removed the example I had given as it breached Rule 1 of the sub's guidelines.


**Edit 2: Thanks for all the great responses folks**, much appreciated, and I hope it was useful to other people as well!
I've said this before from somewhere I found on reddit, but when in an argument, it's not you vs. me, it's us vs. problem.
Well, I can sit here and tell you the things that I'm pretty sure you are well aware of like; hang out with friends, join new things, exercise and etc. And yes, all of these things are a great way to get your mind off of someone, but forgetting them is something hard and I personally think, you can never do. Let's be honest, the relationship failed and it hurts because right now you miss them. And let may say, that is perfectly normal, it tells me that you cared but also you aren't numbing yourself to pain (Via drinking is an example of numbing). That you are a passionate person who still believes in love and who deserved happiness. The last thing I want you to do is to forget that person and pretend it doesn't hurt, even though you may seem fine, when you're alone, truly who are you fooling? The number one tip I have for you, is to ALLOW yourself to feel pain, allow yourself to cry and allow and yourself to grow. This is a great opportunity to rebuild yourself, to do it for only yourself and for you to reflect. So when those tears are gone, stand up on your own two feet and start doing the things you love, not to distract and forget, but rather reflect and build. The best way to "forget" someone is to realize that yes this pain hurts, that yes this pain is temporary and yes I will get through and improve whether spiritually, physically or emotionally. It's going to hurt like hell, but if you can see this pain with a clear mind, eventually you'll realize a life without them. Don't forget, smile and realize that there will be someone out there willing to show you love once more. Another thing that really helped me was that I started looking at it objectively, and I had this realization that I was more disappointed that he wasn't the one, rather than just flat out missing him. Wishing you the best of luck, never forget, smile because you've learned something and will continue to learn. plz don't break your relationship... bcoz now u have more responsibilities than before... u have 2 maintain your relationship vth both your hubby and your kid.. treat your hubby also like your baby. give equal importance to both. do wt ever he likes and try to love him more than before. keep yuorself busy, let him miss you. be happy an flirty when you two talk. give him something, new and exciting to talk about, such as your new intrest. how often can you two see ea. other? i am in a ldr... its hard, we are 9 hrs. apart... we love it when we meet... I I feel as though the biggest reason why circumstances like this don't get fixed is because the two marriage partners don't actually try to fix it. They don't talk it through in depth, they don't try hard enough, maybe they'll try a little and give up, but in the end, it's them not giving the time of day to truly fix it. I would love for your relationship to be brought back to light and fruition. Talk, talk, talk. Take a vacation, break, day off. Anything. Maybe even couples therapy. The point is, you CAN make it work and fix your situation. have you considered couple counseling? this would help to work on the problems that made you separate to begin with...it sounds like you both still love each other... and perhaps the separation has done the relationship some good, in making you both appreciate each other more... if you really want to know if its for real ask her to go to counseling with you... if shes serious about working on the relationship and getting back together.... she will definitely go! you both need to be more open about your feelings, and take the emotional risk if you want it to work out...best wishes!!!!!!!!! A. I’m very glad that you are asking these questions before you get married. You’ve listed a number of issues that make it difficult for a couple to have a mutually satisfying and happy sex life. Your fiance has suffered a traumatic sexual assault. Religious teachings from an early age may have taught her that sex outside of marriage is morally wrong. On top of that, she is just plain tired.


It is a positive comment on your sensitivity and love that you are seeking answers instead of just being upset or blaming. That speaks well for your relationship. Since the two of you have such a difficult time talking about sex, I think you need some help. A counselor can provide a safe place and guidance so that you can work this through. Since you both have a Christian background, a Christian couples counselor might be a good choice.



I wish you well.  

Dr. Marie


How Can My Fiance and I Have a Mutually Satisfying Sex Life? yeah, break up with her, so then she can find a guy better than you. dude, are you kidding me? that's how relationships are, theres going to be arguments and sometimes theres going to be insecurities, and if you're not smart enough to realize she just actually really cares, then you should break up with her so she has a chance with a guy that will. You know, it happens tp the most of us.  
  
it's like , the more you do one thing, the lesser and lesser you get interested in it.  
  
When he loved you, he thought that he could keep it up forever (Assuming that he ever did love you for you and not anything else).  
  
But that's what usually happens these days to couples that ends up divorcing each other.  
Either they cheat on each other or they get dissatisfaction from each other.  
  
People dont tend to stay together and work it out anymore. They just give up so easily.  
  
He may have loved you. But i dont think he does anymore. And if you plan to move forward with him, i dont think it'll be a good idea. Coz i think that when "not feeling it" moment comes into the lifes of a couple, thats when they go out and ends up CHEATING on each other. sounds like my friend rushing to build a family a keep telling him to relax it takes a life time to build a family rushing in does not help and you end up with a bad relationship but he still does not learn i just had a real heart to heart explaining this to him a hope i got across. with your situation you will find that more with older guys who are already at the point of settling down you will see that more with older people who are in a stable job have a home and are basically preparing to start a family or have already had a family you see this with guys that have kids and or never grew up in a complete family themselves so are rushing to create one for themselves as it's what they missed out on as a child How new and fresh is the relationship? That shouldn't decide this answer but for me it does. I can't wait to see the woman again if its after a good 1st date. Towards the end of my five year marriage, she couldn't stay away long enough. Sad but true.