Is he finally done with me?



 I just ignored my narcissist ex guy. I had stopped talking to him all together but started back to appease him after his persistence. I thought talking with him again would let him get his need for control out of his system. Plus I confronted him about his cheating for which he just lied.   
  
In any case his last text to me saying good morning I totally ignored.   
  
Do you think he is finally done with me? Since I ignored his last text and confronted him.   
  
Part of me isn't ready to let go but the best of me says its time to move forward.
Look girl let me tell you something I ignore the problem and it eats me up inside. Maybe you're feeling the same way. So is ignoring really going to HELP YOU move on? Who cares about him... what will help you move on? Because your definitely not ready. This guy is a NARS and he CHEATED on you and LIED about it to your face and you still felt sorry for him and wasted your precious time by trying to make him feel better? Girl where's your dignity? Did this guy crush you? Did he make you feel worthless at some point? I've been cheated on and it makes you question who you are so please do yourself a favor and walk away with confidence, dignity and respect for yourself because if you can't forgive him or if you keep being Mother Teresa and forgiving him and caring about him when he clearly didn't mind treating you bad then go ahead and waste your time. These feelings aren't fun they can consume you make you doubt yourself crush you so please breakup with him in a way that gives you peace and know that there's always someone else out there that won't take you for granted now notice I didn't say won't let you down because for example I told my boyfriend that the only way I'll leave him is if he cheats or lies to me with our finances with real life problems not pity stuff we couples argue about so if he broke your trust if you clearly had the line drawn in something and he still MADE A CHOICE to go against you then this guy ain't worth it.
A.  I am deeply moved by your situation and understand the devastation following a desertion. Trying to understand his motivation and lack of caring re-injures you emotionally. No matter how many times you try to understand this story of betrayal it will leave you empty. This is a time to reclaim yourself and reconnect with those who love you — and whose care can fill you up. Building a network of social support takes some doing. Asking for help, expressing gratitude toward those who have extended their kindness, and immersing in the best self-care practices you can will help you feel better.


Thoughts determine the direction of our feelings and behavior. If you dwell on him you are turning your thoughts toward more difficult and unsatisfying feelings. Focusing on what you need and the loving people in your life will be better way to go.



Wishing you patience and peace,  

*Dr. Dan*  

[*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)


Struggling to Accept that He Doesn’t Care about Me You know this question could be answered either way. "Yes, he might be", or "no he really cares". Let's assume he likes talking with you and seeing you at the visitation. He likes that you are showing him attention. There is a chance that this relationship can grow beyond where it would have if he was out. Maybe you get to know each other better and he becomes more into you. Life is too short, you have to let this play out.


I'm sure you have great instincts (your inner feeling already knows), you have to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Give it some time, try not to be too hard on yourself. He might be a rascal and a dirty dog too, but I vote for giving it a try and see how it plays out. You are in control of this relationship and every inmate knows this fact. Since the inmate loses control of what goes on in the outside world and he will often try to keep that control over the phone or letters. Just trust yourself and what you see and feel. A. It is not uncommon for people to have had a few intimate relationships by their late 20s. My guess is that you being a virgin and her having had experience in relationships is at the root of your concern. It is hard to imagine something we have not experienced.

That having been said it is important to note that at this stage of life it is unlikely that you will meet anyone that has not had a past romantic relationship. I would focus on the here and now you have with her. Here is what you have said:

1. She has stopped contact with others. This is a very good sign of her intention and commitment.
2. She has described her relationships in a way that makes sense – meaning that she was not in love and maintained them because she wanted options.
3. Her relationship with you has changed her thoughts and feelings about herself and what she wants.

Taken together this would seem to be a good indication of her commitment and willingness to be a partner with you. Your relationship is new, and this will mean that as you grow together these concerns are likely to take a back seat. Meditation may be an excellent way for you to modulate your feelings and angst about the situation. Over time her commitment to you will dispel these concerns.

Wishing you patience and peace,  
 *Dr. Dan*  
 [*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)

Issue with Girlfriend’s Past your former friend is a toxic hypocrite. stay away from her. we all have our drama queen moments, but she's out of control at this point. she's not some 17 or 18 year old kid, she's a grown woman. if she feels that you were mistreating her in the past, she has a right to be upset, but she should talk to you about it in a mature and calm manner, not attack you about it now. but really, she's being hypocritical about mistreatment, when she's been the one embarrassing you in front of other people. i recommend that you continue to go on a separate course. you haven't spoken in a month, it seems that she's moving on with her life, move on with yours. every friendship has struggles, but for her to constantly attack you at this age is just dumb. you don't need that kind of stress. best of luck to you 😊 well, to tell you the truth if she made me jealous that'd be between us. go on, what did she do? didn't i just get done telling you it's between us? clean the damn wax out of your ears! move on and get over it. Hi, I have managed to resolve the issue. Thank you very much for your help during this matter. yeah, break up with her, so then she can find a guy better than you. dude, are you kidding me? that's how relationships are, theres going to be arguments and sometimes theres going to be insecurities, and if you're not smart enough to realize she just actually really cares, then you should break up with her so she has a chance with a guy that will. here's your best answer- just tell him your true feelings. he will appreciate you being honest with him. you can ask others or if you see them, just look at their facial expressions and other body language.  i avoided and ignored a jerk at the gym and the last time i saw him, he didn't even acknowledge me (fortunately).  so i know i either hurt his feelings or made him mad.