I'm afraid my parents marriage is falling apart... what can I do to help prevent this?



My parents have been married for just over 22 years now and I'm not really sure why they got married in the first place. They have little to nothing in common. I think the main thing holding their marriage together up to this point is having me (18) and my sister (20) in the house. I am moving out soon and my...
You can't help them. It is there problem not yours. By the sound of it they just aren't in love anymore. It happens. As the child you just have to stay out of it and accept it. I mean they deserve happiness Even if it isn't each other
I I feel as though the biggest reason why circumstances like this don't get fixed is because the two marriage partners don't actually try to fix it. They don't talk it through in depth, they don't try hard enough, maybe they'll try a little and give up, but in the end, it's them not giving the time of day to truly fix it. I would love for your relationship to be brought back to light and fruition. Talk, talk, talk. Take a vacation, break, day off. Anything. Maybe even couples therapy. The point is, you CAN make it work and fix your situation. as a child, my mom divorced. it was horrible, the divorce put us poverty. the man she divorced was a good man. he paid more child support than he had to by law. (i wasn't his biological son)i don't blame my mom as she was mentally wired differently than he.they were both 20 when they married,, long story. sounds like my friend rushing to build a family a keep telling him to relax it takes a life time to build a family rushing in does not help and you end up with a bad relationship but he still does not learn i just had a real heart to heart explaining this to him a hope i got across. with your situation you will find that more with older guys who are already at the point of settling down you will see that more with older people who are in a stable job have a home and are basically preparing to start a family or have already had a family you see this with guys that have kids and or never grew up in a complete family themselves so are rushing to create one for themselves as it's what they missed out on as a child wow marlboro! yikes! ouch! even though i&#39;ve been working with queer issues for many years i am still struck by what you&#39;ve told us. it is a very sad reflection on our society, where same-sex marriage is legal, that parents can throw gay youth out of their homes. ignorance and prejudice run very deep.<br><br>what are your ages?<br> Here's a couple of interesting items  

  

In the1870 and 1880 Census, Joseph and his Brother, William are living with their mother, Rachel.  No father...wonder if he passed in the Civil War?    Also in 1880, Elizabeth Weston b. 1867 was living with them.   Relationship says "home" whatever that meant.  

  

I have also found and validated the marriage information you have.  I can do some more research for you if you have  specific things you are looking for... it is natural for a mother and father to bond with their infant unless there is a condition of the mother or infant that interferes such as post partum pain, post partum depression, or a sick newborn. if you have concerns, make them known to your ob or pediatrician. see more... plz don't break your relationship... bcoz now u have more responsibilities than before... u have 2 maintain your relationship vth both your hubby and your kid.. treat your hubby also like your baby. give equal importance to both. do wt ever he likes and try to love him more than before. but your pregnancy needs monitered very carefully and be prepared if an incompatibility shows itself. see more... ignorance, poor education, instilled with that from parents, fear of someone who is different, fear of things they don't understand, fear of change, hostility towards people who they perceive are doing better than them, irrational fear of people they believe are trying to take their jobs or worsen their life situation in some way. i could list another dozen. and everybody is a keyboard warrior on social media saying things anonymously they'd never have the guts to say to someone's face.often times, it's a combination but irrational fear and insecurity is usually present. one of the best jokes i've heard that exposes the hypocrisy of racism, fear of immgrants, foreigners etc. is:"if you think immigrants are all criminals, rapists and killers and you think immigrants are all coming to take your jobs, what the hell do you do for a living?" this is a common type of question, in esence, and there is no mystery about how to be helpful  be ubnderstanding, supportive, ask if there is something you can do to help, and above all listen to whatever he may want to discuss about his problems, if and when he wants to talk about it. sounds like you have already been very helpful about arrnaging for him to see a relevant doc, and support groups, etc. maybe he needs to take a bit more initiative about all this, himself ? presumably counselling would help him come to terms better with the divorce and the issues surrounding the children