is it ok for my boyfriend to asknow for petrol money... to see his friends?
basically we are going to see his friends, it is a long drive down south. but is it ok for him to want me to pay half? when the trip isn't my idea and he would have gone if i couldn't go?
well i think it would be a little rude to just come along and not offer something... if you offer and he doesn't take it sure... but if it would make his life easier, the question begs to ask.. why don't you want to make his life easier?
sounds to me like your husband already chose you over them (which is why the two of you are still together and have a family), so why would he not do the same thing now? if he is considering going, then i would definitely remind him of the agreement that the two of you made. i know that it seems harsh, but a deal is a deal. how would he feel if the situations were reversed? my guess is that he'd have the same response as you are having now.

if his daughter wanted to see him, then she could have done it before now; since she hasn't, it seems to me like this is a convenient way to get some money out of him (while driving a further wedge between the two of you). also, it is not up to him to contribute to the wedding - in my mind, if a couple wants to get married, then it should be done on their own dime (and to hell with tradition). maybe you should ask him. mayb if u stay in the "good" parts of town...but i woud seriously advise agaisnt it....its not really safe there....take a friend and if u do go out by urself do not go out by yourself after dark ok..first of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. and second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. it is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! so in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. on the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. as a prove we have your "cry for help" here. remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! but this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. in this case maybe he would have asked u out already. my advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. this could have 2 implications:
1. you fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. this potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
so ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! good luck! Sure.   

  

But most of the time they try to turn it down, because department regulations prohibit it in most places. Some places (in the old days) used to do it to try to curry favor and get better police protection. That is not really the case any more. Everybody knows that cops lock up the guy who bought them the free meal, just like they do the guy who charged full price.   

  

It is embarassing in someplaces, and some places won't take no for an answer, so you end up leaving a BIG tip. And someplaces are so flagrant aboit it, you stop going there.   

  

Back in the old days, when we made less money that any other public servant, we interperted it as a nice gesture. Now, we aren't sure why people do it. I guess it is somewhat akin to a professional courtesy. Lots of restaurants give half price to the guys who deliver to them, or the plumber who fixes their rest room.   

  

As far as the donuts, I love them, but don't eat too many any more, I have gotten too fat. But i do drink lots of Convenience store and donut shop coffee. Once upopn a time, only diners were open at night, all night, and it gave a police officer someplace to take a break from either foot or mechanized patrol. In the middle of the night, there are different people out and about in the world. So, the newspaper delivery man, the cop, the donut shop waitress and the bartenders going off duty are the only people around and they would often all come together in the diner or donut shop. i would think it was time to talk to the one who thinks you think are a moron and explain why you have given the other child money and what you really think of them.  if you want visits, tell them how much you appreciate them.  build a better relationship with both. no, they were just kids, and he could have taken his car to the car wash for $10.00. this will end up costing him a whole lot more money in legal fees, his freedom, and maybe his life. what is shocking is the comments below the article. they all seem to think that it was okay to kill the kids for tp-ing his car. who hasn't done that when they were an adolescent. You know this question could be answered either way. "Yes, he might be", or "no he really cares". Let's assume he likes talking with you and seeing you at the visitation. He likes that you are showing him attention. There is a chance that this relationship can grow beyond where it would have if he was out. Maybe you get to know each other better and he becomes more into you. Life is too short, you have to let this play out.


I'm sure you have great instincts (your inner feeling already knows), you have to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Give it some time, try not to be too hard on yourself. He might be a rascal and a dirty dog too, but I vote for giving it a try and see how it plays out. You are in control of this relationship and every inmate knows this fact. Since the inmate loses control of what goes on in the outside world and he will often try to keep that control over the phone or letters. Just trust yourself and what you see and feel. tell him there is a baby that has no bottles so youre going to collect all his bottles for the baby.

have him help you put them all in a bag for goodwill or a friend or just to put away. he'll feel important. here's your best answer- just tell him your true feelings. he will appreciate you being honest with him.