great and sad news
hi guys <br>i got some good and bad news. i was at my partners over the weekend. i arrived the friday night. we were so glad to see each other and chatted till morning. about 9 o clock the saturday morning my partner was called into the house y his parents. 5 minutes later he was back and told me his parents just ask him about our so called friendship. (he is sill in the closet). he ask me to go with him into the house and ask me to tell them that we are very good friends. and there we go sitting in the lounge. his parents stared and i told them that we are very good friends. his father replied and said that he heard stories that i and his son are &#8216;playing husband and wife. i then totally ignore that question. then out of the blue my partner burst out and come out. yor i was so socked my mind was totally blank i was just sitting there didn&#8217;t say anything. my partner than say that he will move out. his parents told us that this is not right and all that grap strait peoples says. we slept at a friend&#8217;s house the saturday night. i know this was not the way for my partner to have come out but i was so relieved so proud and so overjoyed that he come out to his parents.<br><br>because im still looking for a flat staying with me is not an option at the moment, so he was still staying at home yesterday. but last night his parents has called him in again, because they tort that he was joking on saturday. to they dismay he confirm that we are in a relationship. they have disowned him and ask him to move last night. they didn&#8217;t even have the decently to give him time to seek an other place to stay. my partner has move to a work friend and will stay with him and his wife till the end of august.<br>hopefully i will get a flat soon.<br>please pray for my partner because he is going thru a very difficult time<br>
wow marlboro! yikes! ouch! even though i&#39;ve been working with queer issues for many years i am still struck by what you&#39;ve told us. it is a very sad reflection on our society, where same-sex marriage is legal, that parents can throw gay youth out of their homes. ignorance and prejudice run very deep.<br><br>what are your ages?<br>
i hear you and feel so sorry for you that it's not working out as you want... i hear you actually you're like a dear friend of mine...but i can't help but point out a few points. seriously, listen up i'm not trying to judge you or anything.. belive me. but you know it's so uncool of you to say that you've been used, since you both agreed to have sex, come on.. we're grown ups not underage girls.. how the heck the 'being used' part come from?(actually that kind of attitude might have freaked him out i think..) and also i don't really see what he has done wrong so far if it was clear you two were just friends with benefits. i mean seriously, he's not your boyfriend, and you're acting like as if he is.. but you know.. i completely understand that you're having hard time with your ex. you liked him so sweet and listened to you.. trying to understand what you're going throw.. your bf's hurting you, it's because i see girls who suffer from bad relationship and honestly? if he's no good for you and he's hurting you and if another guy help you get out of that deep hell, go for it(im selfish i know, sorry). but you aren't happy, because you found a wrong guy(not that he's wrong, it's just he is not a guy who can give you what you need and want) that made it clear that it was just sex, and you two are kinda friends(well you claim) which is fine. but you want him to be there for you, and be only with you no other girls. don't you see? why he's leaving you?how to change his mind.. honestly? after all these? that you freaked him out and you broke the rule of friends with benefits which is called 'feelings' with it's best friend 'jealousy', you were cheating on your boyfriend, and you said all your relationship with other guy? i don't see any possibilities(girls! don't you think it's a little bit unfair that to say i wanna be who i am , asking guys to be some kind of knights? ... )i hope you find another new sencere sweet boyfriend, i really do. but right now.. i really hate to say it but you and him? i don't think it's gonna happen. i'm so sorry... i think i haven't been any helpful but all mean words.. but i have dear friend who is going throw what you're going through...(at least it seems like to me..). and i really really hope you the best... really... a big hug.. find a guy who can give you want you want.. who can love you.. really..you be the dreamy girl... not despressed lonely girl... then right guy will come out..! i agree with your friends. you obviously like each other because he claimed to be willing to make the long drive to see you, he willingly met your parents to good effect, and he responds well when you call him. however, we cannot know what he is thinking until he makes some positive overtures in your favor without prodding. he probably has only the vaguest ideas what to do with himself regarding the relationship with you, so maybe you should give him time to clear his head. you must give him space for a few days to a week, maybe, before calling him again. he could be concerned about a long-distance affair, he could be overwhelmed by pressures of daily life, or just grappling with his shyness (since, you say, he's not been in a relationship before). if you get a weak or no response after about a week, call him and ask him directly how he feels about your mutual arrangement. once you allow him to make the moves himself it will all turn out well. it seems he has taken desperate measures because he needs his space. personally, i like to resolve issues as soon as possible. commuinication is so important to make a relationship work. i would just accept he wants his space, he obviously needs time to sort his head out before dealing with speaking to you. when he does decide to talk to you , try to explain to him that if he wants the relationship to work, you both need to commuincate to resolve any issues, rather than ignoring it for days on end.space distances two people, it doesn't bring them closer together. he can't shut you out everytime you both have an argument .relationships are measured by the bad times, not the good. so you both need to become stronger together when faced with any adversities. i would say they are a blessing cause it led me to the man i am with now. i started out on online dating really young. my parents were very strict no boyfriend until i am 18.. everyone at school had boyfriends and teased me cause i didn't so i went online and found a guy in indiana and dated him online from the time i was 16 to 18.. he came met me and my parents then i went to meet his parents and thats when i got the concussion that turned my life upside down.. when i was told i would never walk again (so thankful to god that turned out to be false) not even a week later he was gone and good riddance too! when i was 21 i moved to a new area and i grew up very sheltered so i had no idea what i was doing. i was going to be going to college soon after meeting 5 guys dylan, ryan, donald, justin and antonio.. dylan was the only one that understood it was just companionship i was wanting.. the rest wanted to sleep with me. had on my profile getting ready to go into my first year of college would like a loving, caring, thoughtful man by my side but hed have to know college will be my focus for these two years then we have the rest of our lives. but i realized that was too much to ask. went on many one meal dates after i was done college cameron, josh, matt, sean, scott, ben, will, andrew, curtis, trevor. nothing came of them all great guys just not great for me. tried to see dylan again but he wasn't interested he was more depressed couldnt shake him of it.. then i met david he was everything i wanted in his speech but he turned out to just be a fine talker and his actions didn't line up.. so it was hard to get rid of him dated a month took 2 to get in his head i wasn't interested.. then my parents and friends kept trying to set me up. so i thought if i dated someone farther away probably better so i dated jean-francois well i got a surprise im here message one saturday and he was great just when i went to his place i didn't feel at home he had no interest in moving here and i didn't want to move there he kept trying to pressure me to so i lied to him said i wanted my roommate since he kept on thinking we were involved but no taylor was like a big brother to me.. he wanted me to get a new place nothing ever made him happy technology wise if a new thing came out he had to have it making fun of my a5 phone yes its old but it still works :) so i felt almost not good enough for him.. then i dated another david online i never got the opportunity to meet i would really like to meet! he is absolutely amazing i think but after being misled before i didn't want to risk moving. then decided well fuck i must be the problem guys in person wanted to date me but if we dont agree on fundamentals there's no future! a guy online you can discuss these things better to ask what they are looking for then answer that question cause you could get played. so i took 6 months to myself avoided all family functions.. i prayed every day god would lead me to my husband.. i only dated guys i could see myself married to or if they convinced me they deserved a shot. i didn't ever want to date just to date. i wanted the next guy i dated to be my husband and we met on okcupid and was on the app less than a week when i met him felt like i always knew him and i just knew this is it and a year and 9 months still going strong. so as long as your prepared for things to not go as you expect your fine.. the guys i dated online were 100x better than the guy i dated that was a customer at my work. online your safer behind a screen and you meet in a public place after one meal you should have a good feeler on the person. its easier to say i think your a great person but i dont think wed be a great match because... i wish you the best of luck.. hope you find what your looking for.. they usually say thanks you too! friends or associates you already know in person are more stubborn and take things more personally when you dont think they are your type. being married for 20 years i find the idea exciting and a major turn on. in fact i find it so hot. a number of years ago my wife went away for a girls weekend twice to a local beach-ie island getaway. we're very open and she told me how she was a bad girl in the party/bar pool. a hot guy was digging her and bought all her drinks. they got really touchy feely in the pool and she enjoyed being grouped and rubbed and grouping rubbing him. she even snuck her hands in his swim shorts and played with him. this action went on for hours. stroking, rubbing, grabbing, making out.when she got home i threw her in bed, made her tell me her all the dirty details, then we had the hottest sex. the next year she went back for the same girls weekend. i basically gave her open permission to do what she wants. i even highly encouraged her to be even more dirty. but she doesn't really have an interest in doing more, so her dirtiness didn't get any more than the first time she was there. nevertheless she came home and we banged hard as she told me the bad things she did do. that is about as wild as things have gotten, mostly because she doesn't have an interest to do more with other guys. however, i would be open to having a very kinky arrangements if she was game. my life at this precise moment has been alot better,i got a phone call at 5am this morning from my daughters friends mam (my daughter had gone camping with her friends family)saying that my daughter has been vomiting and isn't feeling very well and my daughter really wants to come home,so i got my mam to baby sit my 3 other children and i drove to wilson's promontory(4 hours drive from me)to get my daughter.i got there fine,but on my way back i vomited and had to pull over for an hour until i felt a bit better to drive.it took 6 hours to get home,as i had to keep pulling over to be sick.when i got home i couldn't wait to get to bed,but when i got home my 3 other children were all in bed vomiting and feeling just as sick,so at the moment i am on here trying to keep myself awake until my husband gets home from work so i can go straight to bed.(keep your fingers crossed for me that my husband doesn't come home sick as well and that every one is feeling better soon. last sunday i along with my friends decided to go to the riverside for a picnic. we planned to spend the whole day there, but an unfortunate event took place. we got an unknown call from somebody who introduced himself as our well-wisher. he cautioned us to avoid staying for a longer duration at the riverside for a picnic because there was a fear of a crocodile near the riverside. but, we were not sure whether it was a hoax or real news. nonetheless, there was no chance of taking a risk. hearing this news, we all became tensed and started looking for an alternative location for the picnic. but, we had already travelled for four hours to reach this destination and then the fear of crocodile was making us tremble with fear. all our excitement and happiness were reduced to zero and we couldn't think of anything better than keeping all our things back in the car and making our way towards our respective homes. therefore, the day which was supposed to be a happy and exciting one turned out to be a sheer waste for all of us and we all returned back with a sad face cursing the very presence of crocodile near the riverside. he might of been feeling it... now is saying it because of action taken by you to care for him. just regular shit as far as i can tell. the real question is if you have a problem with it/do you not want to deal with it/is that not what you wanted/etc. ok..first of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. and second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. it is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! so in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. on the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. as a prove we have your "cry for help" here. remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! but this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. in this case maybe he would have asked u out already. my advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. this could have 2 implications:
1. you fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. this potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
so ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! good luck! i once had an abhorrent admirer, and he eventually sexually assaulted me. i don't even know how many times i told him prior to that that i wasn't interested, but it was definitely more than about ten times. he came over one night and asked me to let him in my apartment just to talk and to say goodbye. i thought (stupidly) that he was genuine, since that's all i wanted, and he knew it -- the goodbye part. people are unpredictable and can be dangerous. my advice is to just ignore, ignore, ignore. block if you need to, and don't give in to anything, even if you're "just trying to be nice" or "you don't want to hurt the person". and those people who are being harassed shouldn't tell someone to leave them alone, only to call *them* the next day - even just to check up on them and see if they're okay. no. just ignore them. don't send mixed messages, and there is no need to lose control over it. just ignore, block, and document it if it persists - because you never know if you have to make it a police issue. eventually people tire of not being recognized as that's all these types of people want -- attention. if they don't get it from one person, they eventually move on to someone else to get what they need.