My friends with benefits got mad that I was 'hiding my phone' from him?



 I was lying in bed with my friend with benefits. I started texting, then suddenly he said "i don't care if you have a boyfriend or husband or whatever, but I don't care, so you can stop trying to hide your phone from me." I was suprised and just said I didn't even realize I was and he was like "okay, I'm just telling you I don't care." I'm really confused by this. What was his problem?
He sounds controlling, he has no right to your phone esp since he isn't even your boyfriend. Even if he was, people who do this are controlling.
you do nothing. 

but you could advise your bf to tell his aunt that he is uncomfortable with the information she is telling him and that he would appriciate it if she stoped.

your bf has to do something about it, not you. ok..first of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. and second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. it is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! so in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. on the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. as a prove we have your "cry for help" here. remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! but this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. in this case maybe he would have asked u out already. my advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. this could have 2 implications:
1. you fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. this potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
so ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! good luck! here's your best answer- just tell him your true feelings. he will appreciate you being honest with him. You know this question could be answered either way. "Yes, he might be", or "no he really cares". Let's assume he likes talking with you and seeing you at the visitation. He likes that you are showing him attention. There is a chance that this relationship can grow beyond where it would have if he was out. Maybe you get to know each other better and he becomes more into you. Life is too short, you have to let this play out.


I'm sure you have great instincts (your inner feeling already knows), you have to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Give it some time, try not to be too hard on yourself. He might be a rascal and a dirty dog too, but I vote for giving it a try and see how it plays out. You are in control of this relationship and every inmate knows this fact. Since the inmate loses control of what goes on in the outside world and he will often try to keep that control over the phone or letters. Just trust yourself and what you see and feel. If someone calls you on it, just explain that you saw no damage and - well - basically tell them what you told us. You'll be fine. looks like he’s using a texting app which uses data not texts sorry i dont think she likes you. she is just using you to boost her confidence and make it seem like she has lots of guys under her wing. maybe she is trying to make another guy jealous. :-/ anywayz i could be wrong so gl. He works for a private defense contractor, and the state!?


Why would his employers be the slightest bit interested in a squabble between exes? 


More importantly, why are you interested, and why would this person's employers have give you the time of day? From what you say here, you have no evidence nothing but idle gossip and unsubstantiated accusations.


Best if you stay out of it and mind your own business--that way you do not become involved in something you have no business being involved with.


Let your friend take appropriate steps with the authorities or with the website owners themselves to secure his/her social networking access. A.  I am deeply moved by your situation and understand the devastation following a desertion. Trying to understand his motivation and lack of caring re-injures you emotionally. No matter how many times you try to understand this story of betrayal it will leave you empty. This is a time to reclaim yourself and reconnect with those who love you — and whose care can fill you up. Building a network of social support takes some doing. Asking for help, expressing gratitude toward those who have extended their kindness, and immersing in the best self-care practices you can will help you feel better.


Thoughts determine the direction of our feelings and behavior. If you dwell on him you are turning your thoughts toward more difficult and unsatisfying feelings. Focusing on what you need and the loving people in your life will be better way to go.



Wishing you patience and peace,  

*Dr. Dan*  

[*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)


Struggling to Accept that He Doesn’t Care about Me yeah, break up with her, so then she can find a guy better than you. dude, are you kidding me? that's how relationships are, theres going to be arguments and sometimes theres going to be insecurities, and if you're not smart enough to realize she just actually really cares, then you should break up with her so she has a chance with a guy that will.