Quiet And Difficult To Socialize With Others?




I am a little reserved person u0026amp; difficult to interact with others, my face may be a little scary but I am a good person. I find it difficult to invite to socialize with other people, but if I have become close with that person I am easy to socialize. Sometimes I can not look at the other person, and speak briefly and only important things. My lips are sometimes stiff to say u0026amp; say when dealing directly with my interlocutors. Is there a way that I can socialize like a normal person?
Good evening, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. Difficult to socialize is actually a problem encountered by many people. Everyone has different personalities and with them, there are people who are easy to socialize and some are very difficult. On the other hand, people who socialize too easily usually find it difficult to find pleasure without the presence of others, and people who tend to be quiet are easier to find calm and excitement in their solitude.



What is clear is the key is that you state that if you already feel close to that person, you will be far more comfortable to socialize and that means there are no abnormalities in yourself, because in the end, you can still socialize even though it takes time to adapt.



Among the things you can do to practice your social skills is to speak in front of a mirror. Pay attention to what might still be fixed from you. Then try to enrich your horizons. Each person has different pleasures and it will be easier for you to start a conversation with someone else if you know a lot of things. Then don't easily feel that you offended others. If you are afraid that what you say offends someone, apologize before expressing it, and then ask if it offends him, because we really will not know how someone feels except by asking. In addition, you should have a friend who can correct you. If you want further, you can also take public speaking classes to practice your skills. And in doing all that, you have to put an understanding in yourself that you want to change, and you want to try, that everything that other people can do, you certainly can too.



Apart from all that, if you still feel you haven't reached the level of personality you want, realize that you don't need to be someone else. Just be the best version of your personality, but you don't need to lose its characteristics. So quiet is not a disorder, and as long as you can still carry out daily activities and have good social relations, even if it's not as easy as some people, it's okay. Accept yourself with all its shortcomings but focus on the strengths. So, hopefully answering your question.
some people have not been equipped with the coping or social skills to create and maintain healthy relationships. yet, one can develop social skills by accepting that although a group of people are related by blood, they are not automatically healthy or beneficial for all. 
one can create new, healthy relationships by reshaping their outlook, possibly with the help of therapy, and taking up new hobbies for adults....joining co-ed groups to meet both males and females and not only will this be fun, but this will provide the healthy socialization adults benefit from. some people are introverts, which psychology has adjusted to mean where u get ur energy from. like, an extrovert get energy and life from interacting with lots of people and feels uplifted and empowered by this, whereas introverts can actually be social as well, but prefer limitied amounts as too much interaction makes them feel drained. it does not mean the socially awkard kid who people have only say one word, two years ago, sitting in the basement with no friends. A. It’s difficult to assess the seriousness of this on the basis of only a letter so let me just share a couple of thoughts.

People by nature tend to fall somewhere on a scale from introvert to extrovert. It may be that at least part of this is that you are on the introvert end of the scale. There is nothing wrong with that! But, the larger culture celebrates extroverts. In high school, the general idea is that everyone is supposed to be outgoing and popular. Of course, not everyone can be. Not everyone wants to be. So let’s at least assume that part of what goes on is that you have a more restrained approach to life. One thing that supports this is that you do have a couple of close friends and that seems to be enough for you.

As for being out with others: I wonder if you have developed the skills you need to be comfortable out in the social world. Introverts can and do learn how to manage social situations enough so that they can be successful in their careers and can find loving relationships. Notice that I said “skills”. Skills are behaviors you can learn (like how to make small talk, how to be an active listener, how to be a good communicator, etc.). As you get more practiced in these skills, you will be more comfortable being with people for longer periods of time. But you will still need your alone time to “recover” from a lot of social interaction.

The line in your letter that does worry me is your statement that you can spend hours holed up in your room and in bed. Yes, you may need time to recharge your social batteries but it would do a lot more for your self-esteem if you would use that time to pursue an interest or to do something to make the world a better place. Think about ways to support a cause or candidate or to educate yourself about something you are genuinely interested in. You will feel better about yourself than if you just hang out wondering if there is something wrong with you. An important bonus is that it will give you more to talk about when you are with people.

I hope this is helpful. I wish you well.  
 Dr. Marie

I Want or Need to Be Alone i seem to be extremely low in person. actually, some people seem to think something is wrong with me since i'm so chill and laid back. that said, i do misbehave more on here but i'm not trying to win any friends on this site. it's really a combination of factors. firstly, i have to be attracted to the girl. and there isn't just one thing that's enough to catch my interest. for instance, i am really attracted to light-skinned latinas with black hair, dark eyes, a nice butt, healthy and on the shorter side. so her looks will catch my eye but for me to pursue trying to talk to her, she has to have the right personality cues. if she seems slutty, stuck-up, rude, etc. i'll pass on her. in that instance, i prefer quieter girls who are kind of shy, have at least an above average level of intelligence, and act modest -- a demure girl i could say. do you have dry eyes and a really calm disposition?i too fall asleep really easily. i have to drink coffee all the time. i think i should drink more water but i can't seem to do it.breathing problems like what? low breathing?like really calm? thats the only thing i can think of because thats my problem. I'm so sorry. This is hard to accept. But sometimes people get to the point that they don't want to socialize. My mother - who was once very social - simply arrived at a point where she only wanted those close to her or the nursing home staff around. She was in a lot of pain which I think was much of it.   
  
If your mother was once social, then you could ask the doctor to experiment with her medications. There may be other options.  
  
However, sometimes we have to accept that these diseases take their course and we can only do so much. Forcing what the person obviously doesn't want isn't helpful.  
  
Offering suggestions - yes - so continue to do that. I'm certain that the AL staff does the same. But you can't make it happen if it's not going to happen. Offer all of the support that you can.  
Take care of yourself, too.  
Carol just say hello, how are you? i think you are cute. here is my number call me.orhello handsome! i am going to get a drink. would you like to join? or if that doesn't help since you are shy. then try this, just look at the guy and when he stares back give him a smile i know what ur saying! true, you should feel comfortable with your stylist, but some of us just arent that damn social! if this is you, there are a couple options to try out. first, think of some back up conversations to have just in case you find that awkward silence. if you dont wanna do that, bring your ipod (depending on what youre having done). if you cant wear earbuds, start texting random people on your phone or bring a book. or if that seems rude to you, mention right away that either you are tired and apologize in advance for being kinda zombie-ish, or that you feel like crap today but forced yourself outta bed to get to the salon. plus, ya never know... maybe the stylist will be relieved that they dont have to make small talk either! or if they still insist on talking, keep redirecting the attention back to your hair. ask lots of ?. it gives you something to talk about at least!! good luck! it could be your body language and demeanor that they dont like. there are things we do that are subconcious that others notice but we dont ourselves. if people judge that hard though, are they really worth being around and getting to know? i don't, they get the silent treatment until i need to talk to them. which is rare