He isn’t ready for commitment but still flirts why?



 So there’s this guy I like we’ve been talking for awhile and every time we hang out it’s always good vibes with him we laugh a lot and talk about the most random things when we first stared talking he said for me to stop talking to everyone because he was interested in me so I took that as a sign he liked me one night he finally had the guts to ask to kiss me so I took that as another sign he kinda keep giving out hints that he liked me by grubbing my hand telling me I look cute in something I was wearing little things like that so I caught feelings I told him how I felt but he said he wasn’t ready for a commitment which is understandable but why does he still flirt and still wants to hang out if he doesn’t want a commitment? He told me he is bad at communicating and he doesn’t like to show emotions can that be a part of the whole commitment or? Please help
Liking doesn't always equal commitment.   
  
You don't really have to analyze it but if you did it could be because  
  
He doesn't want to commit to just one woman. He wants to experience a lot of different women.  
  
He just wants sex.  
  
He as at a point in his life his focus is on what is important to his own personal development.  
  
He has emotional bonding issues and doesn't really know how to commit.  
  
None of these reasons matter so either you see him without the commitment or you just hang out with him as friends but date other guys. No point in thinking he's going to change any time soon.
ok..first of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. and second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. it is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! so in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. on the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. as a prove we have your "cry for help" here. remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! but this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. in this case maybe he would have asked u out already. my advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. this could have 2 implications:
1. you fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. this potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
so ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! good luck! he might have a hand fetish...a sexual attraction to hands. but he might just be a very tactile person...someone who expresses emotions through touch. You know this question could be answered either way. "Yes, he might be", or "no he really cares". Let's assume he likes talking with you and seeing you at the visitation. He likes that you are showing him attention. There is a chance that this relationship can grow beyond where it would have if he was out. Maybe you get to know each other better and he becomes more into you. Life is too short, you have to let this play out.


I'm sure you have great instincts (your inner feeling already knows), you have to trust yourself enough to make the right decision. Give it some time, try not to be too hard on yourself. He might be a rascal and a dirty dog too, but I vote for giving it a try and see how it plays out. You are in control of this relationship and every inmate knows this fact. Since the inmate loses control of what goes on in the outside world and he will often try to keep that control over the phone or letters. Just trust yourself and what you see and feel. maybe he doesn't know how to graciously receive a gift? some people have no clue.

i wouldn't take the gift back. i'd just move forward. ahhhhhhhhh 



**** baby i really dont know how to say this to you 
i know i should of came to you a lot sooner 
but its killing me inside 
knowing that i aint ready for this 
but i love you 

girl i, i gotta tell the truth 
got somethin to confess to you 
why it took me so long for me to come and talk to you 
(baby) would never do nothin to ever hurt you girl 
girl you know 
that i gon always love you 

coz i reall wanna prove to you 
that i can be that ??? lovin do 
i aint ready yet girl x2 
and even tho u hurtin now 
i wanna see a smile 
and you wear a frown 
girl i aint ready yet girl x2 
but ima still be here for you 

i gota fallback 
before im hurtin you girl you no at the end 
you no im, 
im gona regret dat 
ima fall back aint no otha girl lovin me like u do 
im feelin you 
believe that 
i gota fall back 
before i mess up what i hav with you 
girl you dont understand 
i gotta fall back 
girl 

because i got to you 

girl you deserve betta than me 
im hopin that u dont understand 
coz we 
well b togeda again ill *** back a betta man 
one day youll understand what im goin thru 
and look back to say thankyou 
dont you think 
that i dont care about you 

coz i reall wanna prove to you 
that i can be that ???? lovin do 
i aint ready yet girl x2 
and even tho u hurtin now 
i wanna see a smile 
and you wear a frown 
girl i aint ready yet girl x2 
but ima still be here for you 

i gota fallback 
before im hurtin you girl you no at the end 
you no im, 
im gona regret dat 
ima fall back aint no otha girl lovin me like u do 
im feelin you 
believe that 
i gota fall back 
before i mess up what i hav with you 
girl you dont understand 
i gotta fall back 
girl 

yeahhh 
because i got to 

this is hard for me i dont wanna leav you girl 
and i 
i hope you believe you were meant for me 
girl 
if you give me sometime 
ima change your mind 
girl 
i dont wanna go away 
but ill hurt you if i stay 

i gota fallback 
before im hurtin you girl you no at the end 
you no im, 
im gona regret dat 
ima fall back aint no otha girl lovin me like u do 
im feelin you 
believe that 
i gota fall back 
before i mess up what i have with you 
girl you dont understand 
i gotta fall back 
girl here's your best answer- just tell him your true feelings. he will appreciate you being honest with him. A. It is not uncommon for people to have had a few intimate relationships by their late 20s. My guess is that you being a virgin and her having had experience in relationships is at the root of your concern. It is hard to imagine something we have not experienced.

That having been said it is important to note that at this stage of life it is unlikely that you will meet anyone that has not had a past romantic relationship. I would focus on the here and now you have with her. Here is what you have said:

1. She has stopped contact with others. This is a very good sign of her intention and commitment.
2. She has described her relationships in a way that makes sense – meaning that she was not in love and maintained them because she wanted options.
3. Her relationship with you has changed her thoughts and feelings about herself and what she wants.

Taken together this would seem to be a good indication of her commitment and willingness to be a partner with you. Your relationship is new, and this will mean that as you grow together these concerns are likely to take a back seat. Meditation may be an excellent way for you to modulate your feelings and angst about the situation. Over time her commitment to you will dispel these concerns.

Wishing you patience and peace,  
 *Dr. Dan*  
 [*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)

Issue with Girlfriend’s Past sorry i dont think she likes you. she is just using you to boost her confidence and make it seem like she has lots of guys under her wing. maybe she is trying to make another guy jealous. :-/ anywayz i could be wrong so gl. you need to win the girl over with looks and personality first before you even get a sniff at knowing how much she loves sex. once you have a relationship it will blow you mind how much the average girl needs sex. most of the girls i know want it at least as much as the guys. sorry. i wish i could help but i find it weird that people “like” your post and not say anything. i posted yesterday and i was like ok… ummm do you want to look at my book? hah. all the best sir!