my friends with benefits friend-zoned me, wtf?!
so i've been seeing this guy for about 3 months now. we have a friends with benefits relationship, but its a little more complicated than you would think. he's single,i'm in the process of ending a very controlling, damaging, unhealthy relationship...we're currently taking a break. so you could say that no i'm not single and yes i am cheating because he doesn't know i am, or was, sleeping with someone else. don't need any judgment calls on that front, i know what i'm doing...anyway back to the question. so my friends with benefits and i met at a mutual friends party and were immediately attracted to each other, hooked up that night, no sex and then continued seeing each other and eventually progressed to sex. the sex was amazing the connection was most definitely there, things were going great. i even made a point of telling him about my relationship the second time we met up so that there were no secrets. for 3 months we would meet up to chill and have sex then all of a sudden i became super jealous about another girl and we fought about it. i apologized, he forgave me, it was all good. but then he started acting more distant and we would still hang out but we never got intimate for a good 3 weeks. eventually i asked what was wrong and he told me he was way too uncomfortable with the situation but thought i was an amazing girl and still wanted to be friends, just without the benefits part. so now i feel like i've been used for 3 months, i feel disgusting and confused and would really like to know why he changed his mind so suddenly? we're supposed to meet up again soon and talk things out...i don't want this to end and i don;t think i can be friends with him because all i'm going to think about is what we had and how i still want it. is there any way to change his mind? anyway sorry for the long post, any feedback would be great!
i hear you and feel so sorry for you that it's not working out as you want... i hear you actually you're like a dear friend of mine...but i can't help but point out a few points. seriously, listen up i'm not trying to judge you or anything.. belive me. but you know it's so uncool of you to say that you've been used, since you both agreed to have sex, come on.. we're grown ups not underage girls.. how the heck the 'being used' part come from?(actually that kind of attitude might have freaked him out i think..) and also i don't really see what he has done wrong so far if it was clear you two were just friends with benefits. i mean seriously, he's not your boyfriend, and you're acting like as if he is.. but you know.. i completely understand that you're having hard time with your ex. you liked him so sweet and listened to you.. trying to understand what you're going throw.. your bf's hurting you, it's because i see girls who suffer from bad relationship and honestly? if he's no good for you and he's hurting you and if another guy help you get out of that deep hell, go for it(im selfish i know, sorry). but you aren't happy, because you found a wrong guy(not that he's wrong, it's just he is not a guy who can give you what you need and want) that made it clear that it was just sex, and you two are kinda friends(well you claim) which is fine. but you want him to be there for you, and be only with you no other girls. don't you see? why he's leaving you?how to change his mind.. honestly? after all these? that you freaked him out and you broke the rule of friends with benefits which is called 'feelings' with it's best friend 'jealousy', you were cheating on your boyfriend, and you said all your relationship with other guy? i don't see any possibilities(girls! don't you think it's a little bit unfair that to say i wanna be who i am , asking guys to be some kind of knights? ... )i hope you find another new sencere sweet boyfriend, i really do. but right now.. i really hate to say it but you and him? i don't think it's gonna happen. i'm so sorry... i think i haven't been any helpful but all mean words.. but i have dear friend who is going throw what you're going through...(at least it seems like to me..). and i really really hope you the best... really... a big hug.. find a guy who can give you want you want.. who can love you.. really..you be the dreamy girl... not despressed lonely girl... then right guy will come out..!
that friend zone is bs mate. the best relationships are many times with someone you are familiar to and really great friends with. my girlfriend now is my best friend and was before we started to date. at first she wasn't sure; so we took it slow. but now we are very much so in love. i wouldn't change anything about how we got together; i wouldn't want to be with anyone else. you two are great friends? all you can do is be there for her; and tell her your honest feelings. this may be awkward and hard to do; but if you really like her it is worth the risk. nobody ever got anywhere important without risking big things. if she doesn't reciprocate these feelings all hope isn't lost; if she is that important to you where you cant move on then don't give up. she may see you in a different light knowing you would not give up on her. meaning if she says no; don't just go for what you can get next. keep to it for a while; months; years even depending on your connection, i waited 5 months until she actually gave us a chance, i told her straightforward that i was the man for her and would prove it to her. all in all it will be worth it because you'd be staying true to yourself. friend zones don't exist; there's just compatible people and non compatible. a friend zone is something people put themselves in when they give up; or when they give up after being told they are like a brother to the girl. don't give up and you will be something different to her; if but a way closer friend than before because your feelings and how much you care for her will be monumentally greater than she realized before hand. A. It is not uncommon for people to have had a few intimate relationships by their late 20s. My guess is that you being a virgin and her having had experience in relationships is at the root of your concern. It is hard to imagine something we have not experienced.

That having been said it is important to note that at this stage of life it is unlikely that you will meet anyone that has not had a past romantic relationship. I would focus on the here and now you have with her. Here is what you have said:

1. She has stopped contact with others. This is a very good sign of her intention and commitment.
2. She has described her relationships in a way that makes sense – meaning that she was not in love and maintained them because she wanted options.
3. Her relationship with you has changed her thoughts and feelings about herself and what she wants.

Taken together this would seem to be a good indication of her commitment and willingness to be a partner with you. Your relationship is new, and this will mean that as you grow together these concerns are likely to take a back seat. Meditation may be an excellent way for you to modulate your feelings and angst about the situation. Over time her commitment to you will dispel these concerns.

Wishing you patience and peace,  
 *Dr. Dan*  
 [*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)

Issue with Girlfriend’s Past ok..first of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. and second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. it is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! so in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. on the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. as a prove we have your "cry for help" here. remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! but this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. in this case maybe he would have asked u out already. my advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. this could have 2 implications:
1. you fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. this potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
so ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! good luck! A.  I am deeply moved by your situation and understand the devastation following a desertion. Trying to understand his motivation and lack of caring re-injures you emotionally. No matter how many times you try to understand this story of betrayal it will leave you empty. This is a time to reclaim yourself and reconnect with those who love you — and whose care can fill you up. Building a network of social support takes some doing. Asking for help, expressing gratitude toward those who have extended their kindness, and immersing in the best self-care practices you can will help you feel better.


Thoughts determine the direction of our feelings and behavior. If you dwell on him you are turning your thoughts toward more difficult and unsatisfying feelings. Focusing on what you need and the loving people in your life will be better way to go.



Wishing you patience and peace,  

*Dr. Dan*  

[*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)


Struggling to Accept that He Doesn’t Care about Me <3
thank you for your support.

i needed to be disfellowshipped after deliberately leaving the organization. it was a sudden action after which i became gravely ill (psychological affect and immune system shutting down). it was 10 years b4 my conscience would let me approach god in prayer, even then begging to know it was okay to speak to him.
can you believe it?! no wonder i nearly died, i gave them my life.

hey, the sun shines here on the outside, whoa! 
;-)
(hope your post lasts!) well, to tell you the truth if she made me jealous that'd be between us. go on, what did she do? didn't i just get done telling you it's between us? clean the damn wax out of your ears! He works for a private defense contractor, and the state!?


Why would his employers be the slightest bit interested in a squabble between exes? 


More importantly, why are you interested, and why would this person's employers have give you the time of day? From what you say here, you have no evidence nothing but idle gossip and unsubstantiated accusations.


Best if you stay out of it and mind your own business--that way you do not become involved in something you have no business being involved with.


Let your friend take appropriate steps with the authorities or with the website owners themselves to secure his/her social networking access. sorry i dont think she likes you. she is just using you to boost her confidence and make it seem like she has lots of guys under her wing. maybe she is trying to make another guy jealous. :-/ anywayz i could be wrong so gl. have you considered couple counseling? this would help to work on the problems that made you separate to begin with...it sounds like you both still love each other... and perhaps the separation has done the relationship some good, in making you both appreciate each other more... if you really want to know if its for real ask her to go to counseling with you... if shes serious about working on the relationship and getting back together.... she will definitely go! you both need to be more open about your feelings, and take the emotional risk if you want it to work out...best wishes!!!!!!!!! well, let me say first that this has happened to my family. there could be a number of reasons. my husband had two my disney experience accounts at one point, but he did not realize it. we had created what we thought was a new account for him, but it was not. we had to contact a cast member in website support at 407-939-4357 to get help. a second possibility could be that you have not linked your vacation package. if you have a vacation package or resort hotel confirmation number, make sure you link it in my disney experience. the same is true if you purchased tickets separately. you will need to link those as well. once you link them, be sure that those plans also appear in the my disney experience mobile app since you will want to use the mobile app while in the parks and resorts. also double-check your my family & friends connections. if someone else linked the plans and shared them with you, just be sure that they connected with the correct account. also check to make sure you have checked the box to share all plans and disney photopass photos. to check how you are connected with your family and friends, find a person's name on your my family & friends list and click the update button near their name. you should then see the options for sharing plans. i do hope that helps and, if not, just call website support and a friendly cast member can investigate your specific account information.