does he love me?
im confused. ok i dont no if i should give up on this guy or not. i likr him and he lykes me but he hasnt asked me out yet. we always talk togetha bout life and stuff. yesterday we were talking at nite for 6 hours. at the time nearing the end of our conversation he bought up a question. he asked me if girls fantasize about havin sex wen they see a hot guy . it was an awkward questions for me. do u think he loves me or just wants sex?or if u have any comments..plz have ur say.
ok..first of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. and second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. it is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! so in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. on the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. as a prove we have your "cry for help" here. remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! but this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. in this case maybe he would have asked u out already. my advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. this could have 2 implications:
1. you fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. this potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
so ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! good luck!
Liking doesn't always equal commitment.   
  
You don't really have to analyze it but if you did it could be because  
  
He doesn't want to commit to just one woman. He wants to experience a lot of different women.  
  
He just wants sex.  
  
He as at a point in his life his focus is on what is important to his own personal development.  
  
He has emotional bonding issues and doesn't really know how to commit.  
  
None of these reasons matter so either you see him without the commitment or you just hang out with him as friends but date other guys. No point in thinking he's going to change any time soon. i agree with your friends. you obviously like each other because he claimed to be willing to make the long drive to see you, he willingly met your parents to good effect, and he responds well when you call him. however, we cannot know what he is thinking until he makes some positive overtures in your favor without prodding. he probably has only the vaguest ideas what to do with himself regarding the relationship with you, so maybe you should give him time to clear his head. you must give him space for a few days to a week, maybe, before calling him again. he could be concerned about a long-distance affair, he could be overwhelmed by pressures of daily life, or just grappling with his shyness (since, you say, he's not been in a relationship before). if you get a weak or no response after about a week, call him and ask him directly how he feels about your mutual arrangement. once you allow him to make the moves himself it will all turn out well. i feel like there is a developing interest happening on her part. in my opinion. you could try talking about romantic relationships in general and see if the conversation goes anywhere. you could also try getting closer to her, maybe flirt a tiny bit and see where she's at. sorry if this doesn't help :( you have to initiate conversations with him too sometimes or he will think you don't like him as much as he likes you. basically he probably got tired of chasing you so if you want him you should send him a message and start a conversation right now. First, it's not true that the guy will automatically pursue.  
  
Second, it's okay for girls to ask, but the vast majority won't.  
  
If you want to ask him, that's fine. But you don't have to.  
  
It seems to me that when a girl says she wants a guy, what she really means is that she wants him to ask her out. If he doesn't, there's no way the fact that she wants him will make her do the asking. She'd rather sit there unasked, getting more and more frustrated until eventually she convinces herself that he doesn't like her, and she should move on. oof!it means he really likes you and he wants to be your boyfriend pretty quickly or either he’s just horny af!im unsure if this helps, but i hope it does if it's only occasionally, while this is a bit excessive, i'd give him the benefit of the doubt depending on his lifestyle. but if it happens all the time, i'd be asking them why myself. i'd say he only sees you as a friend though at best. i'd be upset if anyone took that long to reply lol. they'd better have their phone turned off or something lol i'm 17 and i'm horny all of the time too. but i've never masturbated or had sex. virgin to everything. my boyfriend and i make out all the time. he dry humps me and stimulates my clit over my clothes. it drives me wild and it's all i think about sometimes. since that feels so amazing i wonder what actual sex would be like. the problems is i'm big on saving myself for marriage, so i have to deal with my horniness and its awful sometimes. well depends on the context of how he said it if he meant he lived that your friend was cool than there's not really much to worry but if he meant he loves your friend out of actraction and romance than you might have an issue what do you like about him?my opnion is i think he is, actually. why? because working and hustling to get ahead in your career is just fucking time consuming, and our social life is usually the first to take a hit. he probably would rather find one or two girls to build a relationship with because he doesn't really have time like that to go out or meet up new girls every week from scratch