if you work in big n, what is your next goal in life? 
i know the answer will be leetcode if you are not in big n so i am targeting audience.regarding question, what do you do to not be bored with life? what are your next goal(s) whether it be career, relationship, or personal.
finding a wife. might leave the bay area for it (among other reasons)career wise i’m not too ambitious. i’m already l5 and would be 100% happy with that comp outside of the bay area. not sure if principal/l6 is worth the added stress.
boredom would itself represent an imprefection so your question is essentially inapplicable. i do not adhere to the idea of an afterlife but i was brought up a catholic and understand the doctrine and associated beliefs. the concept of perfection in this context excludes any potential for unhappiness or dissatisfaction. make enough money to leave the rat race and pursue whatever you want in life. 

for those still chasing prestige, many go into general management (c-suite), politics (mitt romney), or philanthropy (schwarzman). a lot of old school pe deal makers end up opening their own shops to have greater control over their lifestyle. 

private equity is still a grind with long hours. at some point, you make “enough” to stop caring about prestige. never settle for less than you deserve in life. you will never be satisfied or happy with the results. jumping back into your familiar pattern will just prolong pain and hurt, and prolong the feeling of loneliness. settle for what you want and what makes you happy, afterall, you are the only one that has to live with that decision. it will save you a lot of trouble and heartaches in the long run. don't settle for less than what you want and deserve. make yourself happy... not anyone else. if you pursue what you want and deserve you will be happier and won't be lonely... you can replace loneliness with happiness and not live in a life filled with discomfort any longer, if you don't accept anything other than no.1, as your standard. accept you are worthy of happiness and you deserve to be happy, not lonely and spinning your wheels. Life is what we make of it, so it is really YOU yourself who give your life a purpose. If you feel you need friends, go out and make friends. If this is difficult for you, look up for ways to make friends. There are many sites that give good tips. If you think you need to pep up your life, go out, get a hobby, try something new, be brave and explore. You will not change your life if you don't try.Ultimately, it is down to you to make the effort to do something about it. Sometimes the best way to feel cared for is to go out there and share your love with people (that's why people who volunteer at old folks' homes, shelters or orphanages find joy in what they do - the more love they give, the more loved they feel).   

  

But having a busy social life and having thousands of friends will not make you happier or less pathetic. Try to rethink your values on what is 'pathetic'. Whose values and perspectives are you basing your assumptions on? Who's to say your life is pathetic? Some people have very few friends and don't go out much and can still enjoy their lives because they acknowledge that they don't need to be part of the crowd to be happy or have fulfilling lives.   

  

Also, if you still have family who give you food and shelter and don't abuse you, it's unfair to say nobody cares. Your time hasn't come yet. No need to be discouraged. Use this time to grow and learn about yourself. Read to uplift and encourage yourself. Dont compare your life to others because you aren't meant to be like the next person work is only important for the money.   but family loves you and suppose to be there for you through rough times.  school however is not somewhat important unless you plan on a high leveled career hey, so after some minor improvements i finally found the time to make this into a doc that everyone can use, adopt and copy. let me know what you think and if you have any improvements.

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[life dashboard - the all in one tracker](https://coda.io/@heuschkelsimon/life-dashboard-all-in-one-tracker)

track your personal habits, finances, tasks and time … There could be a variety of leaderboards. Like one of top points overall, and another for the most points gained in the previous 4 weeks or something. I may never top to overall leaderboard, but I have a chance of getting on a monthly leaderboard. are jobs allowed to ask you that 😮 none of their business. wow.you're young. if it’s something you want you got time. if not there’s no obligation for you to have kids. 😊 all you can do is do your best and aim as high as you possibly can. everybody has limitations, not everybody can "win". there will always be somebody better than you in some way: taller, better looking, more money. it doesn't matter, because most people don't even strive for greatness.maybe you run that marathon and you come in like 20th or something. you didn't win. but you came 20th out of thousands of people. those thousands of people also trained, and are fitter than the average person. they guy/girl who came in 1000th, 2000th, 3000th, 10,000th place is fitter than the average person. the average person doesn't exercise at all. the average person could barely run a half a marathon, they couldn't even complete that.the same goes everywhere else. i like to lift weights. plenty of guys are bigger and stronger than me. but i'm much stronger than the average guy. 65% of guys are obese. of the remaining 35%, the majority are scrawny and out of shape. simply lifting weights regularly, eating right, and having the discipline to do that sets you apart from probably 80% of men in that area.that's all that's really required.