why do people tend to dislike me?
not everyone i meet dislikes me, in fact some people really like me and find me funny but since getting married to my husband and moving from england to america for him (after 5 years of being together) most of his family and their partners dont seem to like me for some reason. their not the nicest people around to be honest, and some have done some questionable things but others seem to automatically block me off like my husbands brothers, their partners, his sister etc. they will speak to me but won't go out of their way to be friendly at all. they seem very competitive with my husband in some ways (comparing wedding ceremonies, stuff their doing with their partners etc it always feels like one big passive agressive pissing contest) i'm wondering why as i've made the effort to be as nice and respectful as possible and i get nothing but aloofness and a cold shoulder in return. i know they know mine and my husbands relationship is legit as there's no faking what we've been through together and before i came they would all say how pretty i was and excited to meet me etc but that hasn't felt the case. we went to his brothers baby shower on one occasion and i was pretty much ignored by everyone. it makes me feel depressed as i have no family here and can't really stand up for myself or confront them as i don't want to make myself look bad. i just dont know what the issue is, they all seem to have presumptions about me yet none are actually willing to get to know me. i fear i'm just stuck with in laws that aren't very nice people.
it could be your body language and demeanor that they dont like. there are things we do that are subconcious that others notice but we dont ourselves. if people judge that hard though, are they really worth being around and getting to know?
there is surely no reason at all why a friend of your mom&#39;s, who is not a friend of yours, should visit you or take any particular interest in your baby. simply talk calmly to your mom, and explain that while you tolerated this woman at the shower and wedding, you don&#39;t like the woman and do not want her to visit you. your mother ought to udnerstand this. r3emind her that this is your house, your home and your baby, and your privacy must be respected rather than the idle curiosity of this other woman. that sort of person pushes up the social tree exactly because they are insensitive and never take hints sorry. i wish i could help but i find it weird that people “like” your post and not say anything. i posted yesterday and i was like ok… ummm do you want to look at my book? hah. all the best sir! What do you think of bullying?   

- Bullying awful and horrible. It's really hard to get over the bullying and try to move on. Bullying causes so many problems and a lot of people develop mental health problems like depression, stress, anxiety and they lead to self harm, have suicidal thoughts and even take their own lives. Bullying is horrible and nobody deserves to be bullied.   

  

Were you bullied, or were you the bully?   

- Yes, I was bullied for 5 years and I suffered from physical and emotional bullying. They spat at me, called me names, punched me in the stomach and beat me up. It was the worst point in my life and it led me to suffer from depression   

  

Why do you think people bully?   

- They are evil. They're jealous and are pathetic   

  

xoxo don’t feel guilty. i think a lot of people feel this way at some point after having kids, but no one wants to be honest or talk about it. is it not having time that is making you depressed? or is it the loss of freedom? i am a stay at home mom to a 2 1/2 year old and went through a lot of the same things you’re describing. i can tell you that it gets easier to find time as baby’s sleep gets more predictable. past that, we wound up “splitting” most weekends. i sleep in on saturday morning, and my husband sleeps in on sunday. after i wake up on saturday, he usually goes to play golf, and i go to the movies or brunch or something on sunday. i wish i could give you a magic answer, but you just have to play around with your time and see what works best for you. the worst thing you can do is let yourself get into a rut. try to talk to your wife openly and honestly about what you’re feeling. sometimes the worst punishment is the way people treat you. its terrible when someone accuses you of something and then you have to deal with a wave of hatred and back stabbing, and nobody believes the truth.
its sad that their are so many dishonest people that when a person is a genuine human being they are treated like scum because nobody believes that honesty exists. some of mine do and some don't. i quit trying to explain to ppl who have no idea what it's all about. some will never truly understand this illness anyhow. hugs. take care 🌺 Good evening, thanks for asking at HealthReplies.com. Difficult to socialize is actually a problem encountered by many people. Everyone has different personalities and with them, there are people who are easy to socialize and some are very difficult. On the other hand, people who socialize too easily usually find it difficult to find pleasure without the presence of others, and people who tend to be quiet are easier to find calm and excitement in their solitude.



What is clear is the key is that you state that if you already feel close to that person, you will be far more comfortable to socialize and that means there are no abnormalities in yourself, because in the end, you can still socialize even though it takes time to adapt.



Among the things you can do to practice your social skills is to speak in front of a mirror. Pay attention to what might still be fixed from you. Then try to enrich your horizons. Each person has different pleasures and it will be easier for you to start a conversation with someone else if you know a lot of things. Then don't easily feel that you offended others. If you are afraid that what you say offends someone, apologize before expressing it, and then ask if it offends him, because we really will not know how someone feels except by asking. In addition, you should have a friend who can correct you. If you want further, you can also take public speaking classes to practice your skills. And in doing all that, you have to put an understanding in yourself that you want to change, and you want to try, that everything that other people can do, you certainly can too.



Apart from all that, if you still feel you haven't reached the level of personality you want, realize that you don't need to be someone else. Just be the best version of your personality, but you don't need to lose its characteristics. So quiet is not a disorder, and as long as you can still carry out daily activities and have good social relations, even if it's not as easy as some people, it's okay. Accept yourself with all its shortcomings but focus on the strengths. So, hopefully answering your question. some people have not been equipped with the coping or social skills to create and maintain healthy relationships. yet, one can develop social skills by accepting that although a group of people are related by blood, they are not automatically healthy or beneficial for all. 
one can create new, healthy relationships by reshaping their outlook, possibly with the help of therapy, and taking up new hobbies for adults....joining co-ed groups to meet both males and females and not only will this be fun, but this will provide the healthy socialization adults benefit from. some people are introverts, which psychology has adjusted to mean where u get ur energy from. like, an extrovert get energy and life from interacting with lots of people and feels uplifted and empowered by this, whereas introverts can actually be social as well, but prefer limitied amounts as too much interaction makes them feel drained. it does not mean the socially awkard kid who people have only say one word, two years ago, sitting in the basement with no friends. wow marlboro! yikes! ouch! even though i&#39;ve been working with queer issues for many years i am still struck by what you&#39;ve told us. it is a very sad reflection on our society, where same-sex marriage is legal, that parents can throw gay youth out of their homes. ignorance and prejudice run very deep.<br><br>what are your ages?<br> @a myfibroteam member 

how nice of you to say that. i, like many others, have asked god why? why am i the one who has this painful, incurable illness? why am i the one with major depressive disorder? why am i the one that was sexually assaulted so many times? why am i the one who has had to take care of my sister’s children, help them pay for their educations, and support them as they navigate the waters of this crazy world we live in? why me? i made a conscious decision a few years ago, when my lifelong emotional scares got out of control, that i would make one of the answers to those questions be “to help others navigate through this thing called life”. if i can help just one person feel less alone, or like someone cares, or like there is hope after all i will have succeed at life. if i can help just one person fight back instead of giving in my life has a purpose. as a result, this normally very private person has gradually learned to be very open. i am not ashamed of the things that happened...disappointed or angry yes but not ashamed. i talk openly about how major depressive disorder has affected my life and how i’ve been able to come to terms with it. i talk openly about close brushes with suicide and what worked to get me back to a better place mentally. i talk a little less openly about the impact sexual assault had on every aspect of my life (that one is harder because i’m still working on some of the emotions and reactions around it). i talk openly about the changes i’m having to make as fibromyalgia makes itself more and more obvious in me. i’m not perfect. i still get angry and upset. i still get frustrated. i still feel hopeless sometimes. i feel all the negative emotions everyone else does but if i can help just one person, i will have a reason for all i’ve gone through. perhaps people on this site are that reason. it is my deepest hope that others don’t have to suffer as i have but, if they have, i want to use my god-given caregiver heart to help them through. 

may god bless and keep you. 

shirley