How is it possible that my ex boyfriend replaced me in less than two months?



 I broke up with my ex because I felt he was putting our future on hold to help his family. I know I sound evil but he wanted to bring his sisters over from Mexico which would have taken YEARS and have us all live together with his mom which is a recipe for disaster. I was willing to help them as long as we had our own space. Our break up was explosive as he said he wasn't sure he wanted to be with me so I told him I didn't want to be with anyone that didn't want to be with me. He then began to cry that I was just looking for any excuse to break up with him. I told him how painful it was for the love of my life, the man I was so sure I wanted to marry and have kids with say he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me so in the end he agreed to the break up. Two days later he asked if we could meet up and I said no as nothing had changed. Five weeks later I was feeling guilty and doubtful of how we broke up so I sent him a beautiful letter. He never replied and a week after sending this I found out he flew a woman to him and she was his new girlfriend. I went on a date and freaked out when a guy tried to kiss me and here he is in a full on relationship. The most painful part is that she is everything he wanted me to be physically. I'm tall and curvy with a few extra pounds but still beautiful. She's short skinny, big boobs and big butt. I am in so much pain. I can't believe it's really over.
I replaced my ex-boyfriend in a week. Two months seems like forever :/  
  
Sorry about what happened... but moving on is your only option. Whether or not you two should have broken up and stuff isn't going to help you heal, and comparing yourself to his new girlfriend is only going to make you feel bad. You chose to end it, time to stick with your decision and look to the future. :)
A.  I am deeply moved by your situation and understand the devastation following a desertion. Trying to understand his motivation and lack of caring re-injures you emotionally. No matter how many times you try to understand this story of betrayal it will leave you empty. This is a time to reclaim yourself and reconnect with those who love you — and whose care can fill you up. Building a network of social support takes some doing. Asking for help, expressing gratitude toward those who have extended their kindness, and immersing in the best self-care practices you can will help you feel better.


Thoughts determine the direction of our feelings and behavior. If you dwell on him you are turning your thoughts toward more difficult and unsatisfying feelings. Focusing on what you need and the loving people in your life will be better way to go.



Wishing you patience and peace,  

*Dr. Dan*  

[*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)


Struggling to Accept that He Doesn’t Care about Me ok..first of all: love is a word too big to be brought into this discussion. and second: although u found this question to be awkward, once u stay and think for a minute it isn't like that at all. whether u like it or not, sex is part of our life, and it keeps getting more and more important as time goes by. it is true, a few time ago it was kinda ta-bu subject, but now the "sex topic" is as common as...let's say...listening to music! so in an era that promotes and gives a great importance to sex questions like "do girls fantasize about having sex wen they see a hot guy?" are not out of order. on the other hand, it is obvious that he is more experienced in this subject than u are. as a prove we have your "cry for help" here. remember that: a guy will almost never give up an opportunity to have sex! but this doesn't mean your guy is only interested in having sex with you. in this case maybe he would have asked u out already. my advice is for you not to waste any more time by limiting yourself to only simple conversations with him. this could have 2 implications:
1. you fall for him because his "sweet talks" and maybe this is what he is waiting for.
2. this potential relationship evolves into a simple friendship relation, which would be not so good, since you clearly have feelings for him.
so ask him out, or at least make him ask u out! good luck! 1. i hope you will have a good time at the party.
2. the doctor cured me of my backpain.
3. i have been relieved the reponsibility of taking care of the children.
4. i am not familiar with him.
 i am familiar with the work.
5. you must be patient with the animals.
 the doctor is very patient with his patients.
6. he was born into a poor family.
 i was born into a good family.
7. the appearance is different from person to person.
8. the climate changes from country to country.
9. the girl had to pay her way through her own efforts.
10. after being hurt in a car accident, he went to a hospital.
 after swimming, i ate some ice cream.
11. i was sad, and what was worse, there&#039;s nobody to help me.
 i was lost, and what was worse, i had no money on me.
12. he asked somebody to take care of the dog.
13. he asked his friends for some help.
14. she is the most beautiful girl that i have ever seen.
 you are the laziest student that i have ever met.
15. i paid him $1000 for doing my homework.
 i didn&#039;t pay the agent too much money for the ticket.
16. with all the diffulties, i didn&#039;t give up.
 with all you love, i believe i will be strong.
17. her wish to become a movie star was finally realized.
 her wish to become a movie star finally came ture.
18. one girl is beautiful, the other one is ugly.
19. peter and i are good friends, we often help one another to do homework. 
20. dad stopped the car and told me to get in.
21. the bus finally came, then i got on the bus.
22. i found him boring.
23. i found the bus left already.
24. there are some boys playing baseball.
25. there is no money left in my wallet. what? you have a new girlfriend but wish to marry your ex? i think you need to be alone for a bit and sort your head out. @a myfibroteam member 

how nice of you to say that. i, like many others, have asked god why? why am i the one who has this painful, incurable illness? why am i the one with major depressive disorder? why am i the one that was sexually assaulted so many times? why am i the one who has had to take care of my sister’s children, help them pay for their educations, and support them as they navigate the waters of this crazy world we live in? why me? i made a conscious decision a few years ago, when my lifelong emotional scares got out of control, that i would make one of the answers to those questions be “to help others navigate through this thing called life”. if i can help just one person feel less alone, or like someone cares, or like there is hope after all i will have succeed at life. if i can help just one person fight back instead of giving in my life has a purpose. as a result, this normally very private person has gradually learned to be very open. i am not ashamed of the things that happened...disappointed or angry yes but not ashamed. i talk openly about how major depressive disorder has affected my life and how i’ve been able to come to terms with it. i talk openly about close brushes with suicide and what worked to get me back to a better place mentally. i talk a little less openly about the impact sexual assault had on every aspect of my life (that one is harder because i’m still working on some of the emotions and reactions around it). i talk openly about the changes i’m having to make as fibromyalgia makes itself more and more obvious in me. i’m not perfect. i still get angry and upset. i still get frustrated. i still feel hopeless sometimes. i feel all the negative emotions everyone else does but if i can help just one person, i will have a reason for all i’ve gone through. perhaps people on this site are that reason. it is my deepest hope that others don’t have to suffer as i have but, if they have, i want to use my god-given caregiver heart to help them through. 

may god bless and keep you. 

shirley have you considered couple counseling? this would help to work on the problems that made you separate to begin with...it sounds like you both still love each other... and perhaps the separation has done the relationship some good, in making you both appreciate each other more... if you really want to know if its for real ask her to go to counseling with you... if shes serious about working on the relationship and getting back together.... she will definitely go! you both need to be more open about your feelings, and take the emotional risk if you want it to work out...best wishes!!!!!!!!! A. It is not uncommon for people to have had a few intimate relationships by their late 20s. My guess is that you being a virgin and her having had experience in relationships is at the root of your concern. It is hard to imagine something we have not experienced.

That having been said it is important to note that at this stage of life it is unlikely that you will meet anyone that has not had a past romantic relationship. I would focus on the here and now you have with her. Here is what you have said:

1. She has stopped contact with others. This is a very good sign of her intention and commitment.
2. She has described her relationships in a way that makes sense – meaning that she was not in love and maintained them because she wanted options.
3. Her relationship with you has changed her thoughts and feelings about herself and what she wants.

Taken together this would seem to be a good indication of her commitment and willingness to be a partner with you. Your relationship is new, and this will mean that as you grow together these concerns are likely to take a back seat. Meditation may be an excellent way for you to modulate your feelings and angst about the situation. Over time her commitment to you will dispel these concerns.

Wishing you patience and peace,  
 *Dr. Dan*  
 [*Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral*](https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/author/danielt/)

Issue with Girlfriend’s Past i went to sunday mass to praise him, a duty for all catholics. during my praising, i said a prayer for my middle brother who is in the hospital and will die of leukemia within the next three days max. as stated by hist doctor. 
you see, catholics are not allowed to remarry after being divorced. however, following his divorce, he found himself with two young girls in his arms, and remarried for their sake.
my prayer was simple and right to the point: "dear jesus, you died on the cross out of love in order to save us. please be merciful on my brother's soul and do not hold his second marriage against him, because like you, he did it for his love of his little girls!".
i am sure jesus will understand! You can't help them. It is there problem not yours. By the sound of it they just aren't in love anymore. It happens. As the child you just have to stay out of it and accept it. I mean they deserve happiness Even if it isn't each other twin!!!!!how do u feel they r different?and how do u break up with someone and then you meet the same image next day but with different emotions.i'm confused.