At this point it is pretty well known that the [recent issues](https://judaism.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/5193/stack-overflow-inc-sinat-chinam-and-the-goat-for-azazel) are related to changes in the CoC regarding the use of pronouns. While the new Code of Conduct won't be available until the 10th of October, the [current Code of Conduct](https://meta.stackexchange.com/conduct) says

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What I am curious about is which, if any, of the following scenarios would be likely to offend or alienate people based on gender (and why)

1. A long time user states in her profile that her pronoun is "she". A new user leaves a comment using "he".
2. A long time user states in her profile that her pronoun is "she". Another long time user repeatedly refers to this user as "he" even after being repeatedly corrected.
3. A long time user states in her profile that her pronoun is "she". Another long time user (userB) refers to this user as "he" and upon being corrected, this user apologizes and says that as a non-native speaker, pronouns cause him difficulty.
4. A long time user states in zir profile that zir pronoun is "ze". Another long time user repeatedly refers to this user as "he" even after being repeatedly corrected.
5. A long time user states in zir profile that zir pronoun is "ze". Another long time user (userB) refers to this user as "he" and upon being corrected, userB claims "ze" is incorrect according to his religious beliefs and that he (userB) will not use it, but to avoid misgendering users he will only use user names from now on for all users regardless of pronouns.
6. A long time user states in zir profile that zir pronoun is "ze". Another long time user (userB) refers to this user as "he" and upon being corrected, userB claims "ze" is incorrect according to his religious beliefs and that he (userB) will not use it, but to avoid misgendering users with a pronoun of "ze", he will only use user names for users with a pronoun of "ze".
7. A long time user states in zir profile that zir pronoun is "ze". Another long time user (userB) refers to this user as "he" and upon being corrected userB claims "ze" is incorrect according to his religious beliefs and that he (userB) will not use it, but to avoid misgendering users with a pronoun of "ze", he will disengage and not respond to comments or provide answers to users with a pronoun of "ze".
8. A long time user states in their profile that their pronoun is "they". Another long time user repeatedly refers to this user as "he" even after being repeatedly corrected.
9. A long time user states in their profile that their pronoun is "they". Another long time user (userB) refers to this user as "he" and upon being corrected userB claims the singular they is not grammatically correct and that he (userB) will not use it, but to avoid misgendering users with a pronoun of "they", he will only use user names for users with a pronoun of "they".
10. A long time user states in their profile that their pronoun is "they". Another long time user (userB) refers to this user as "he" and upon being corrected userB claims the singular they is not grammatically correct and that he (userB) will not use it, but to avoid misgendering users with a pronoun of "they", he will disengage and not respond to comments or provide answers to users with a pronoun of "they".