I am working in a small startup based IT company. I was supposed to be trained in this company then join another one (they have such a tie up). But, seeing my work and all, the first company decided to hire me instead. Since they were happy with my work , and since I am not from IT background, the manager would often explain complex stuff about Database management system and how they work. Because the manager has been a DB Administrator for 25 years, and he co-founded and is now running a service based company for three years.

The thing is, often while explaining the stuff to me, he would say so many bad comments about the other employees. Like how the other employees think of coding as typewriting, or how Full Stack Development is inferior to Database Administration. This is very usual.

To test this, I actually observed some codes done by other people, and strangely found that most of what he wanted people to do, are already practiced and followed by many employees. As an example, he told me to use a TRIGGER in Database to copy data from a table to another whenever there is a change in any column in that table. He told me that people dont follow this standard but rather write two different SELECT statements. But, when I went through some codes, I found out that people actually followed TRIGGER for such things.

Also, he keeps telling me how a database administrator is a great job and other coding jobs are inferior to this. He wants me to follow this too, so that I can become a DBA. But, I have very different interests, and DBA is not one of them.

However, whenever a project is completed, the manager and CEO would always praise the employees working in the project. Like how close they are, to their hearts and all.

I have a few problems with it.

* I dont want to become a DBA.
* Front end and back end coding are equally important as DBA
* It's a small startup company with barely 40 people working. It is imperative that the salary wont be much. But, they should focus on inspiring people, rather than go against their back.

I am definitely looking for a new and better job, but until I get one, should I ask my manager to refrain from going behind employees' back?

And how do I convince him that I dont want to become a DBA?