As far as I know, once a NodeEntity in Spring Data Neo4j is loaded, the default behaviour is to lazily load its relations by fetching only ids of related nodes.
While it seems quite ok in most situation, I have doubts about it in the case of so called "supernodes" - the nodes that have numerous relations to other nodes. That kind of nodes, even if small by themselves, will hold a huge collection of ids, using more memory than we would like it to use, and possibly being not "lazily loaded enough" in effect...

So my question is - how shall I deal with that kind of supernode? 

My first idea is to simply remove all @RelatedTo/@RelatedToVia mappings (or at least the ones with relation types that are "numerous") from that kind of nodes and simply bypass SDN when operations on those relations are needed, and use SDN in other cases.
Does it seem to have sense? Do you have some other suggestions or some experience in that kind of situations?