> 
> This question has nothing to do with whether or not SE wants to fix
>  things or engage with the community, the answers to that are already
>  known: **‘nothing to fix’** and **‘no’**. This is about the origins of the
>  discontent with the way the long time veteran community as a whole has
>  been vilified and blamed for the few rate bad actors in the past and
>  used as a scape-goat for whatever the corporate entity has in mind for
>  their future to *save their reputation* or whatever.
> 
> 
> 

TL;DR
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It is not and never has been
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It is not, and it is not about Monica either, she is caught in the middle of something, made a public example of as a warning, and all that was completely avoidable regardless of her opinion on the pronouns and the CoC.

It is just the logical backlash against the continuation of the blanket vilification that the Stack Overflow community experienced with the Jay Hanlon [blog post](https://stackoverflow.blog/2018/04/26/stack-overflow-isnt-very-welcoming-its-time-for-that-to-change/), but now applied/implemented against the entire StackExchange of communities. 

There are many that are on the autistic spectrum that are probably an inordinate percentage of the technical communities, especially Stack Overflow, and when they get accused of *malice* when there is none and without any proof in the comments and their flags of abuse are ignored and they are sent curt messages by the moderators handling the flags to suck it up, or that they are mocking someone when they are asking a legit question in all sincerity, it seems like a double standard and hypocrisy at its most egregious cases. 

I am done with the abuse here, from the moderation staff, from those that just want to lash out at everyone and accuse everyone of everything *implicitly* just because that is the popular thing to do right now. And to paraphrase Jay Hanlon, 

> 
> I know when I am not wanted or appreciated, you know how? Because, you
>  told me so ...
> 
> 
> 

The first 3 or 4 dozen times should have been enough of a message, but then again, those of use that are on the spectrum do not get *the hint* as easily as others. 

And to those that think, *good the problem people are self removing themselves, good riddance*, I put 10 years into SO, had a huge impact number and never once was abusive to any group. I was vocal when people attacked me or my character in public comments and their comments were allowed to stand because they *were part of the cool kids* weaponizing the first CoC changes, because well they were better at manipulating language and people to language lawyer their abuse as *polite*, when one person did comment in my defense that *polite abuse is still abuse* they got their comment deleted as well. You are losing allies, with no sarcasm, your online paradise you are creating, I hope you get what you want.

This outcome, this place the sites are in, is not unexpected and could be completely predicted and completely avoided.