The team I am working on has a budget for training and they are spending by sending some people to a technical conference and others will simply attend courses for time management or communication.

The courses are held with people from other teams, so actually this is not from our team budget training but from the companies training budget.

Needless to say I am not included the group going to conference despite having very good performance at work and being actively involved in the project we are undertaking, of the guys in the other group only one is truly involved in the project.

I asked my direct manager to include me in the group when I heard from my colleagues that he wants to exclude me, he said that he thinks about it and never communicated to me the decision he made, I realized what he chose when I got the appointment for the soft skills course.

This generates lots of frustration on my end, I tried to understand why the company behaves like this and emailed my manager's manager asking why the situation and what criteria they used when they discriminated between us.

Had no luck, he simply didn't wanted to answer the questions and said that he can explain to me the concept of a budget, to me this is insulting.

My manager told me that he has a career path in mind for me and that was the reason he didn't included me in the 'going' group, but never discussed it with me before deciding, at this point I don't know his plan.

How do I let them know that their approach just generates lots of frustration in the team, last year everybody was able to attend the conference and now the team is slightly bigger but the company financial performance is top?

How do I let my manager's manager know that he is insulting me with his arrogance without being rude? I was actually asking why we don't have the budget, what is more important? Does he try to be arrogant in the hope I will avoid confrontation?

How do I let my manager's manager know that he has to listen to us, I don't think he affords losing any team member because of arrogance or being indifferent at this point of the project, especially very involved people. I don't think he realizes the situation.

**Update**

My aim is to understand their decision from their point of view and void my frustration feelings, I tried to do it by asking 'why' and 'how', ended up in the situation above.

Another point is to make management understand that discriminating by what appears subjective rules creates frustration for employees which in turn distracts from real work.