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67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 144 [Post ID] 704 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 18:36:39 [Post Text] | I found out i had gential warts awhile ago and now my clitoris is very swollen and extremely red and painful - ive been on a cream to help the warts go away- but do u think this is just the healing process of having gential warts or should i seek help? | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 144 [Post ID] 705 [Date & Time] 2005-10-20 20:51:04 [Post Text] | When in doubt, consult a doctor. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 144 [Post ID] 709 [Date & Time] 2005-10-21 05:15:51 [Post Text] | Consult a doctor. I hear genital warts are tied to cervical cancer. Warts are common, but it's best to be safe. - Ashilla | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 144 [Post ID] 712 [Date & Time] 2005-10-21 07:34:16 [Post Text] | Hi Definitely seek help and advice from a doctor. The swelling could be herpes and that needs to be treated properly. The cream could be causing you irritation and sometimes antibiotics are needed to stop this. Please please see your doctor without delay. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 147 [Post ID] 717 [Date & Time] 2005-10-22 17:51:51 [Post Text] | Hello Everyone, There are two users in particular guilty of posting their email address in a post. Please refrain from doing this. People can contact you by clicking on your name which then shows a drop down menu. They can either private message you from there or email you if you have enabled your email address. Whilst this is a friendly and open place where people are free to discuss matters that perhaps they may be unable to elsewhere, but I would rather not have to keep coming down on a select few members by removing email addresses and editing posts. Please bare this in mind when using this board in future. Failure to comply will lead to you being removed from the group. Thank You. Princess. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 151 [Post ID] 737 [Date & Time] 2005-10-29 21:01:20 [Post Text] | okay, this is kind of dumb, but sometime after I hit puberty I started getting acne on my vagina. It's dumb because I didn't know that this was weird - up until recently I had acne pretty much everywhere. I assumed other girls probably had the same thing going on. I thought it would just naturally go away like everything else eventually does, but I'm 19 now and it's still there. About it, it's not itchy or painful or anything, and I'm not sexually active. So is it just like an excess of oil thing, or should I be seriously worried at this point? thanks in adv. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 151 [Post ID] 739 [Date & Time] 2005-10-30 07:54:55 [Post Text] | Hi and Welcome no need to be overly worried at this point considering you say you have acne everywhere else too. I used to get this around my pubic hair area and on my back mostly. You are only 19 so technically still a teenager. How are you in general? Are you bloated or overweight? Is there a history of diabeties on your mothers side of the family? Sometimes, our hormones are out of sync and at sixes and sevens with us. Do you do a lot of sports? I am simply asking these questions to prompt you to think about some causes of acne in young women your age. Diet has a lot to do with acne in teenagers as well. Fatty foods like fried chips or crisps. Cake. Fizzy drinks. Basically quite a bit of different foods that are not natural. Try to include food which contain vitamin B in your diet like pulses ( lentals ) and barley etc. Wheat also. There is nothing better than fresh vegetables and white fish. Not the oily ones like sardines. Cod or Haddock etc. If you become too anxious, it wouldnt hurt to speak to someone at your women's health clinic about this. They may well be able to prescribe some cream for you and check your hormone levels. Especially your thyroid and do a diabetes check too. Just to rule these things out. Hope this helps Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 151 [Post ID] 741 [Date & Time] 2005-10-30 10:57:26 [Post Text] | thanks for the reply I'm at a normal weight, maybe a little under. I'm not bloated or anything. I think an aunt on my mom's side has diabetes. I'm not particularly sporty. I really recently changed my diet to include vitamin B foods, and stopped eating junk food and coffee. I was on the pill for a year to help with the acne, but my doctor took me off it last month because the risk of blood clots was too high with the combination pill I was on. Since then my periods have been kind of weird, I guess because I just came off the pill. Like my period would be heavy for two days, then stop for a day or two, and then start up again for maybe two more days. Now I have a new problem, like last night kind of new - I'm getting this weird discharge. I wouldn't worry about it normally, but the color is sort of pale brown, and it's sticky. It doesn't seep out continually like a yeast infection or menstrual blood, but it does smell sort of fishy. My period ended last week, so I don't know if this is just cast off from that. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 151 [Post ID] 742 [Date & Time] 2005-10-30 11:54:25 [Post Text] | Hi there, please please get this checked out. Any discharge which is discoloured and has a fishy odour must be checked as it is the first sign of an infection. As you are so young, and have not had or probably thought about children yet, please get this checked out properly. Have a pelvic exam to rule out pelvic inflamation and a series of swabs done to see what type of infection it is. Many people leave these things untreated only to find years later when they are settled and ready for a family, that they now have problems conceiving. When was your last smear test? I dont suppose you have had one if you are not sexually active. Ask for one of them as well. You simply must look after yourself and eat well and healthily. No junk food or coffee accept maybe once a month as a treat. You only get one body which has to last you many many more years to come. So please, get checked out and look after yourself. And, one more thing, please let me know what your doctor says and how you get on. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 745 [Date & Time] 2005-10-31 06:12:17 [Post Text] | I made the recipe for arabic wax 2 as per discussion on trimming or removing hair. I have the toffee substance but I cannot use it. The stuff wont stick to the hair (I got a proffessional job done first and it is now about 5mm long). I have tried rolling it in a ball then flattening out on the area to be removed (used a walnut size ball), I then tried to heat a little hotter so it was fluid and spatula the stuff on (way too hot), I then tried to stick it to a cloth strip place on then remove (nothing happened). I left the stuff on for a few seconds to see if it would harden but still no luck. For all those who are besides themselves laughing by now at my very messy antics, please advise how on earth I can get a nice soft waxing job that removes the hair wihtout making a mess. I think I got the recipe right, it is a lovely toffee colour that when heated forms a pliable lump, will not stick to hands when working it. Have I used too much oil? used about a tablespoon as per instructions. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 755 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 17:05:04 [Post Text] | From what you describe, it sounds like you're doing things correctly, but are you pulling the cloth off right? The opposite direction of hair growth? | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 759 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 20:07:26 [Post Text] | Hi sorry about this but your post made me remeber a funny story I read abotu a month ago so I thought you may appreciate the laugh as well. :) Princess My night began as any other normal weekday night. Come home fix dinner,played with the kids. I then had the thought that would ring painfully in my mind for the next few hours. Maybe I should pull the wax out of the medicine cabinet. So I headed to the site of my demise; the bathroom. It was one of those cold wax kits. No melting a clump of hot wax, you just rub the strips together in your hand and then they get warm and you peel them apart press it to your leg (or wherever else) and hair comes right off. No muss, no fuss. How hard can it be? I mean I'm no girly, girl but I am mechanically inclined enough I can figure it out. YA THINK!!! So I pull one of the thin strips out. Its two strips facing each other stuck together. Instead of rubbing them together, I get out the hair dryer and heat it to 1000 degrees. Cold wax my a** . (Oh how this phrase haunts me!) I lay the strip across my thigh. Hold the skin around it tight and pull. OK so it wasn't the best feeling, but it wasn't too bad. I can do this! Hair removal no longer eludes me! I am Sheena, fighter of all wayward body hair and smooth skin extraordinaire. With my next wax strip I move north. After checking on the kids I sneak back into the bathroom, for the ultimate hair fighting championship. I drop my panties and place one foot on the toilet. Using the same procedure I apply the wax strip across the right side of bikini line, covering the right half of my vagina and stretching down to the inside of my butt cheek (Yes, it was a long strip). I inhale deeply and brace myself. RRRRIIIPPP!!!! I'm blind!!! Blinded from pain!!!!.... Vision returning, I notice that I've only managed to pull off half of the strip. CRAP!!! Another deep breath and RRIIPP. Everything is swirly and spotted. Do I hear crashing drums??? OK, back to normal. I want to see my trophy - my wax covered pelt that has caused me so much pain. I want to revel in the glory that is my triumph over body hair. I hold up the strip but there is no hair on it. Where is the wax??? Slowly I eased my head down, foot still perched on the toilet. I see the hair... The hair that should be on the strip... I touch... I am touching wax! CRAP!!!!!!!! I peel my fingers over the most sensitive part of my body that is now covered in cold wax and matted hair and then make the next big mistake... (remember my foot is still propped up on the toilet). I know I need to move to do something. So I put my foot down and then I hear the slamming of the cell door. Vagina? Sealed shut. REAR-END?? Sealed shut. I penguin walk around the bathroom trying to figure out what to do and think to myself "I hope I don't get the urge to poop. My head may pop off" Hot water!! Hot water melts wax!! I'll run the hottest water I can stand, the wax should melt and I can gently wipe it off right??? WRONG I get in the tub - the water is slightly hotter than what is used to torture prisoners of war or sterilize surgical equipment - I sit. Now the only thing worse that having your business glued together is having them glued together and then glued to the bottom of the tub. In scalding hot water. Which by the way doesn't melt the cold wax. So now I'm stuck to the bottom of the tub!! I call my friend thinking surely she's waxed before and has some secret of how to get me undone. It's a very good conversation starter "So, my rear and vagina are stuck to the bottom of the tub!" She doesn't have a secret trick but does try to hide the laughter from me. She wants to know exactly where is the wax on the rear "Are we talking cheeks or hole or what?" She's laughing out loud by now...I can hear her. I give her the rundown and she suggests I call the number on the side of the box. YEAH Right!! I could be the joke of some one else's night. While we go through various solutions. I guess I'll result in scraping the wax off with a razor. Nothing feels better then to have your girlie goodies covered in hot wax, glued shut, stuck to the tub in super hot water and then dry shaving the sticky wax off!! I then find the most beautiful saving grace.... that is the lotion they give you to remove the excess wax. I rub some and scream "IT works!! It works!!" I get a hearty congratulations from my friend and she hangs up. I successfully remove the remainder of the wax and then notice to my dismay... The hair is still there... all of it. So I shaved the mess off. Heck, I'm numb at this point. Then I put the wax back in the medicine cabinet, I may have a mustache that needs work someday. Next week I'm going to try hair color.... | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 810 [Date & Time] 2005-11-14 02:59:10 [Post Text] | Yes this is verry funny. Thank you for sending as I ended up purchasing Nair sensitive wax and after reading this I took the lot off with thin (spatula width) strips that were only 3" long at the most. I still dont know how to make the homemade stuff as I live in a remote area and do not get to the pharmacy often enough to purchase the real stuff. I can safely say that I discovered bits with my mirror that I did not know existed. Regards Brocky | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 816 [Date & Time] 2005-11-15 11:44:25 [Post Text] | Hi, My grandmothers and mother and aunts all use the arabic waxing method and they're pretty quick at it (grandma could do both my legs in under 15 minutes!!), but I could never really get the hang of it :(, it takes too much practice to get it right. But the recipe they use is simply lemon and sugar and that's it, no oil or anything else, i can call home to ask for the particulars, but from personal experience (grandma waxed me first at the age of 12, that's 12 years ago) I found the wax roller, not sure how they're called, you know the ones with a rolling head that deposits a thin film of wax on the skin and then taken off with a strip, the best way to go. One application is enough for an area. Though some kinds of wax need oil to clean it up! | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 152 [Post ID] 819 [Date & Time] 2005-11-15 17:51:58 [Post Text] | I would love it if you could find out how they make it some time. When and if I get to a shop or pharmacy in our region they only have the absolute necessities of life, that means no fancy personal stuff. I have to send away for all my cometics, clothing, and even ingredients for cooking. If I could make it myself it would be great as sugar and lemons are always on hand. I think the sesame oil I added may have mucked up the wax. thanks for replying. Regards Brocky | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 153 [Post ID] 748 [Date & Time] 2005-11-01 20:41:47 [Post Text] | Are there any instances where a hidden clitoris CAN make it difficult to stimulate the clitoris? I have read that it is most often low sex drive that makes clitoral arousal difficult, but then why do so many women who get circumcisions report that it makes there clitoris more sensative?? One website said that& having the& hidden cliroris itself will make a female's sex drive lower. I have low sex drive and a hidden clitoris. I have a very hard time stimulating my clitoris. Did my hidden clitoris lower my sex drive and make it harder to stimulate& the clitoris? Or is it my low sex drive that makes clitoral stimulation hard for me regardless of whether or not I have a hidden clitoris? Is it at all possible for a hidden clitoris to affect the ability of a female to sltimulate her clitoris, or is it ALWAYS hormone levels that are to blame? | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 154 [Post ID] 753 [Date & Time] 2005-11-04 16:08:32 [Post Text] | I really miss the people that used to post on the previous forum. Seems to be youngsters on now with little expertise. I loved the vivid descriptions and the love of the female form they wrote about. Hope they soon return. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 154 [Post ID] 758 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 19:59:04 [Post Text] | Hi Sadie, I agree :( But some of us are still around so if you want to suggest a topic you remember from the old forum then please feel free. It may help to promote different kinds of discussions again. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 154 [Post ID] 772 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 21:52:03 [Post Text] | Considering I've never seen anything of the older forum, I would love to see some of the older threads that were posted - especially if they host very good information about the female body, good tips& and such - and interesting conversation ^^! | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 762 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 20:45:24 [Post Text] | Today I woke up with a small pimple on my outer vulva lip / labia major. I didnt think anything of it but became aware of it when I went to the toilet after getting out of bed. By six in the evening it had grown into a very painful lump and was bright red and violent. The pain was unbearable too. I took two painkillers that I had in the house and started to drink lots of water too as my mouth was all fury and dry and I had also developed a nasty cough. I also became aware of my breathing sounding a bit wheazy. I dozed off around seven this evening and then woke in terrible pain. The lump had grown to about two and a half inches big. I swallowed my fear and telephoned the emergency out of hours doctor who arranged for me to be seen immediately at the Gyni department at the hospital. They said it was an abscess and if not calmed down or burst by tomorrow night would have to be drained. My Partner asked them what caused it and they said an in growing hair folicile which had become infected and is quite common. I now have pain killers and some antibiotics and am scared of the whole thing. The doctor who exammined this lump said that it appeared that it may well burst on its own. I am now willing that to happen. I was relieved when he said no one would touch it tonight because I need to get the antibiotics into my system first. I hate things like this but am relieved that it is not something more serious. I was alarmed at the rate this thing grew today. I have posted my experience here in case it helps someone else. There has been a bit of discussion on this forum lately about vaginal acne and other spots. It is quite a common problem which on the whole is nothing to worry about but should always be checked for a second opinion just to rule out infection. Basically if the spots hurt from within, it is infected and needs treatment. Hope this helps Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 764 [Date & Time] 2005-11-05 22:37:02 [Post Text] | thanks princess! A girlfriend of mine had a similar thing happen, although I think it was related to a Bartholian gland. she had to have a general anaesthetic to remove the lump and have a biopsy etc. she's actually had it done twice. it reminded me of your experience because she explained that it swelled up in a matter of hours. i have also had a bit of a freak out, i found& a lump once - with no redness or pain, just a lump& - but it disappeared after about a day. My reckoning is that it was a swollen lymph gland. thanks for sharing. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 768 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 20:22:00 [Post Text] | Thanks Mantra, I am worried sick tonight as this thing is just not giving up. It will not burst and is so painful I am unable to think straight any longer. Antibiotics do not seem to be kicking in just yet. The pain killers the hospital gave me last night are crap and I am in hell. With the Bartholian Gland, was the lump high up on the outer labia or lower down? I am very concerned now that this could be a Bartholian Cyst or Abscess. But all the pictures I have seen online and diagrams show the lump along the labia major but lower down. Mine is on the right side of my labia major just below the clitoris area so is in the way for going to the toilet as well. It is not grown since last night but does feel harder and more fierce than 24 hours ago. I have taken three doses of pain killers in the last twenty minutes which finally have stopped me feeling the deep painful throbbing that I have been dealing with marginally since yesterday. They have enabled me to clean up the area properly and inspect it more thoroughly as well. I am scared. The thought of having this burst, cut and drained is freaking me out. How will it affect the way I look down there afterwards? I am not ashamed to admit that this is scaring me rigid and I cant decide whether to see the doctor tonight as an emergency or ride it out till the morning to see if it does burst overnight itself. With the amount of pain killers I took, I should be able to fall asleep quite solidly and then with my natural moving about during my sleep I am hoping this will finally happen. I NEVER want to experience anything like this EVER again. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 774 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 07:12:33 [Post Text] | Success! Last night I got so wound up I took some extra pain killers. After half an hour I moved about and hey presto - the bubble burst :D I never really fully appreciated the word 'relief' until right at that moment. Going to have the remainder checked later today at my doctors surgery and he will send some cells away for lab tests. I feel a hell of a lot better today than I did yesterday :) Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 780 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 17:42:37 [Post Text] | So glad it worked out for you! You really did sound panicky! I think my friend's& blocked bartholian's gland was down lower between the outer and inner labias. Ahh the power of pain killers! I'm a nursing student and they do wonders! Just dont get hooked on them is all!:P | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 781 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 19:35:48 [Post Text] | It has been proved that the use of painkillers to mitigate the pain DO NOT CREATE ADDICTION, if you take them without pain you will get hooked. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 784 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 20:54:12 [Post Text] | I'm glad that all is well, Princess.& Pain like that really does hurt. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 904 [Date & Time] 2005-12-16 09:47:09 [Post Text] | Hi On Sunday 11th December, I had another one of these swelling bumps only this time it was on the other side and lower down more inwards than the last one. It did not get as big as the last one but was just as painful and angry in the quickness that it swelled up. I have been on Cefalexin and Pain Killers since Monday morning and although it burst of its own accord, no doctor here seems to be able to tell me what is causing them. I had blood tests and cell samples taken from the first one but they all came back as normal. Normal? This is not normal by any stretch of the imagination so I have asked them this time to check for other things like hormone inbalance and polycystic ovaries. I have also arranged for a diabetes test to be done in a few days time. I have obviously researched this and looked up possible causes of cysts that grow within a few hours from a tiny dot to a walnut sized ball which causes pain like you wouldnt believe. But as far as I can tell, and the hospital confirmed this as well, it is not the Bartholin Glands. So what else could it be? I am healthy, 35 years old, am not on any medication and eat a healthy sensible diet and do not drink alchahol only the occasional glass of wine with a meal. So I simply can not accept this as 'normal' The anxiety these now two lumps have caused me is ridiculous. My mind first raced down the ovarian cancer route when the second one appeared and I have had a test for that which will come back in two weeks. Two weeks we will be right on top of the New Year. I feel frustrated because this situation does not make sense. Anyway, just wanted to share in the hope that someone has an insight into this. The lumps really are so painful and as I am sure you can imagine, on the inside of the vulva quite possibly is the worst place they could ever be. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 988 [Date & Time] 2006-01-06 22:12:01 [Post Text] | OK this week I was presented with what can only be described as feeling as though I was being branded by a hot iron on my clit every time I moved my body a millimetre. Another two of these cysts grew first as tiny raised dots and then boy, within three hours they were like walnuts. Only this time one was covering my clitoris and the other one slightly lower on the left hand side so they touched each other. I shouted at the hospital and demanded that this was not normal. Today I get called back into the doctors office after being on a third set of antibiotics all since Tuesday. He said that I have a problem with producing insulin and progesterone and that could be causing this area on my body to behave like this. During the testing to rule out other things like ovarian cancer, polycystic ovarian syndrome and the onset of early menopause, they found unusually high levels of protein in my urine and abnormal bloods came back too. I have had a problem with producing progesterone for about two years now but to have developed into a diabetic as well? So more blood tests booked for this coming Tuesday morning. It is called a 'Fasting Sample' where you dont eat or drink anything the night before from about seven onwards only water is allowed. Then go for the test first thing in the morning. Straight after the blood is taken, you are given a glucose drink and then blood is taken again four hours later. I am fairly confident that I do have diabetes because of the other symptoms the doctor and I have discussed today. Like facial hair and falling asleep after eating certain foods. No one ever suggested looking at diabetes before really as being associated with cysts on the vulva. I find that weird because if you do a search on google for vulva cysts, almost every site points to a link with diabetes. I always say it, but when in doubt always seek medical advice and if you dont feel happy with the diagnosis, get a second opinion. Just think I could have lost some of my anatomy by now and the problem still not have been solved. The first thing anyone spoke to me about was surgery. I could not get out of there fast enough in November. There was no way I wanted to discuss it! There mere thought scared me to death. Anyway, at least if anyone out there gets an angry red lump that grows rapidly, ask to get your hormone levels checked along with the way your blood handles your sugar intake. It may well save you a lot of time and terrible pain in the process. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1326 [Date & Time] 2006-03-19 22:09:04 [Post Text] | I noticed a lump on my right labia yesterday and it's grown bigger, harder and more painful as the day progresses. I think its an abscess and I'll be going to see the doctor tomorrow. I'll be sure to have them check my hormone levels as well as do some diabetes testing. I'm glad I found this info. Thanks. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1327 [Date & Time] 2006-03-20 06:47:38 [Post Text] | Ouch! I really feel for you just now. It was probably the most worrying thing even overtaking worrying when having stitches down there after giving birth. One thing you can do today is drink about six to eight pints of water. Ridiculous amount I know but that did help me with the last one I spoke about here. Touch wood, none have returned since but the antibiotics I took were pretty heavy going as it ended up with a weeks dose, then a few days after finishing them I started another two weeks dose of Cefalixin. They really did work for me. But having been on antibiotics for most of the time since early November, my skin hair and nails are in a bit of a run down state. But at least there has not been a repeat. I wish you well at the doctors and if the pain gets too unbearable you will have to get an emergency appointment for today or take yourself off to the emergency room. I hope it does not come to that but if you really cant bare it any longer dont feel bad or anything just go in to have this looked at. The sooner you get the antibiotics into your system the better. Do let me know how you get on. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1585 [Date & Time] 2006-05-11 16:28:18 [Post Text] | So for about three years or so, I've been getting ingrown hairs on the upper-inner most part of my thighs.& Just between the outer area of my labia and where my thigh meet--exactly where my underwear rub.& The last gyno I went to told me that they were ingrown hairs, and there was nothing I could do to prevent them, except to stop shaving.& So I did, but the bumps still came back, just as painful as ever.& Every couple of months I get them, they become extremely inflamed and painful.& I have scars on the insides of my thighs from this happening over the last couple of years.& I think I took my gyno's advice a little to seriously when she told me ther was nothing to do but stop shaving. I just moved to a new city and need to set up an appointment with a new gynocolegist, but I was wondering if anybody had any advice for me on this matter. & & | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1586 [Date & Time] 2006-05-11 16:52:10 [Post Text] | I did have a growth inside the labia and the doctor found that it was pus so he had to make an incission to drain it and left a wick inisde for one week and it is painful but I guess if you have& ingrown hairs why don't try a dermatologist maybe he has the solution...good luck Luisa | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1588 [Date & Time] 2006-05-11 22:35:03 [Post Text] | When I get an ingrown hair in the area you're talking about I usually take tweezers, locate the hair, and pull it out. Eventually the bump goes away in a day or two. I also put scar and disinfectant oinment on it to reduce the chances of scarring and from getting infected. The reason why you get bumps is because a "foreign object" is getting attacked by your body hence the pimple like form. Once the hair is removed, the body doesn't have anything to attack anymore. Hope this helps some. Since you have been growing your pubic hair out, you're more prone to getting ingrown hairs. If you keep your hair short and or trimmed regularly, you shouldn't really have a problem with them. I get them once in a blue moon. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1591 [Date & Time] 2006-05-13 15:24:52 [Post Text] | Thank you, that is very helpful! | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1605 [Date & Time] 2006-05-14 17:32:21 [Post Text] | No problem. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1696 [Date & Time] 2006-06-14 22:27:02 [Post Text] | Hi, I am new to this forum.& I have been suffering from vaginal "pimples" for years.& I have become completely frustrated.& I am healthy and have had multiple test done to figure out what the cause is.& In the beginning I was convinced my sores were sexually transmitted, even though I had been super safe all these years.& Each doctor tells me these bumps that pop up about once every 2-3 months are simple pimples (I have been to 3 different doctors during the outbreak and they just pop them and tell me I am fine).& This past weekend, my boyfriend and I (he lives in another state) got together.& Within a day, I got three bumps.& Granted we were way& more active than a day to day couple sexually.& That was Saturday and I still have& two (of three).& One popped and did its usual release Monday.& Does anyone have any idea why these occur?& I have had thousands of dollars worth of tests done.& I have been tested for every single STD.& Nothing. Tests are perfect.& In a super strange way, I wish there was some label!& Then I could do something about this.& I am a very clean woman so I don't buy into the fact this is due to not being clean enough.& Please, I am begging for any information.& I do the salt bath, in fact heading for one after I am done with this post.& I do not wear thong underwear but DID shave right before my boyfriends visit, could shaving be causing these? Any advice or help is much appreciated! | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1705 [Date & Time] 2006-06-16 07:41:43 [Post Text] | Yes shaving can cause bumps as can friction if at certain times of the month you are dryer than usual. Use one of the water based lubricating gels during sex to help with the friction. I had loads of tests done as well but I am still not convinced about the hormone thing even though all test show that my hormone levels are normal what ever that means :) I am now trying wild chaste berry tablets. I have heard great things about them so thought I would give them a try myself. I have only been taking them since Tuesday of this week so will be able to let you know if anything has improved in about another two weeks or so. One thing to consider too is what your boyfriend eats and uses to wash himself with like strong soaps and alcahol as these can have an affecct on your delicate skin area as well. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1814 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 14:50:07 [Post Text] | Thank you for all the information.& I got a lump in my labia, is painful.& My husband checked it out and he doesn't think is infected(there is no discharge or bad smell).& He thinks is maybe that hair cut the labia or something like that.& | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1815 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 15:11:43 [Post Text] | I honestly think it might be a combination of shaving then having sexual intercourse, which might infect or irritate the minor cuts that happen when shaving?& Maybe some women are prone to these horrible little nightmares.& Ugh. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1816 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 15:38:21 [Post Text] | Yes, my husband and I are very active.& & I will definetely go to the doctor if it gets worst.& Reading all about another females's experiences& and their symptoms made me feel a lot better to know I'm not alone!!! Thank you for your quick response. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1817 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 16:45:13 [Post Text] | Yes it is good to know you are not the only one isnt it :) I would still get it checked just to be on the safe side though. It could turn out to be nothing but it can also be the first sign of something completely obscure you just never know and there are somethings that only a proper check up may reveal. So my advice would be to get it checked out at a Well Woman Clinic or similar if you dont want to see your doctor about it. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1818 [Date & Time] 2006-06-28 18:16:18 [Post Text] | & Dear flower..some time ago I had the same problem..a lump in the labia painful tothe touch, even wiping out after peeing so i went to the doctor and found it was like an ingrown hair infected and he made an incision and squezed the pus out and let a piece of cotton for drain and gave me antibiotics; about a week later he pulled the wick and I healed ok.....don't wait to long& Love Luisa | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 155 [Post ID] 1839 [Date & Time] 2006-07-03 15:00:11 [Post Text] | Hi everybody!!! Well, good news, I had a check up and it was an inflamed gland.& Even my doctor told me that she had one just like that last week.& One thing she explained me is that this is& OK to happened maybe once per year, or maybe later in life, but it is not suppose to happened all the time.& Thanks for all your support on this discussion. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 765 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 14:31:44 [Post Text] | I have read that a woman is to avoid touching a man by teeth during bj. Is it true? My bf likes it and asks about it. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 766 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 15:04:42 [Post Text] | Hello if your boyfriend likes being touched by your teeth then what difference does it make? Just enjoy what you have and what works well for one couple may not work for another. This is a person thing. Obviously biting would be something a lot more potentially dangerous but if you are doing something that works for him, then carry on. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 776 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 09:05:23 [Post Text] | [user=2]Princess[/user] wrote: "Hello if your boyfriend likes being touched by your teeth then what difference does it make?" Just curious... I was very careful and was afraid of touching him by teeth but then he asked me to do it... | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 778 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 10:40:53 [Post Text] | that is great if he likes it. My Partner loves it when I run the edge of my teeth gently along the shaft. We have never discussed it, it is just something I did one day that sent him wild! Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 157 [Post ID] 782 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 20:41:24 [Post Text] | I mostly avoid it, I'm morely affraid of hurting the man.& I have seen a scar left from a girl on one of my partners.& The girl scraped her teeth on his shaft.& I think a slight nibble and lightly running your teeth along the shaft is probably good. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 767 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 18:22:29 [Post Text] | Hi, I need help! I dont seem to be able to orgasm? I rub and think and rub more but i get a tingle and nothing else.How do i learn to "explode" on my own? I dont really enjoy vibes but want more clit action! plz help if ya can. Thanx boox | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 769 [Date & Time] 2005-11-06 20:33:33 [Post Text] | Hi firstly can I ask how old you are? Have you had children and have you been on any form of medication in the last six months? Take things very slowly. Dont make an orgasm your goal. This just creates a vicious cycle and the more desperate you are to have an orgasm you wont be able to have one. Caress yourself. Do what feels good for you. Avoid touching your clitoris for at least half an hour of pleasing yourself some other way. Perhaps laying down naked stroking your body all over gently. Imagining someone from a fantasy o yours is doing the stroking. Use feathers, and other textured objects to stroke your skin. Caress yourself lovingly. Build up a fantasy in your mind. Let your imagination flow. Visualize the scene. Are you floating on a boat laid out bare where no one can see you miles from the shore with the person of your dreams just pleasing you? Touch your clitoris gently do not rub it. Just gentle strokes. Trying too hard has the opposite effect. Relax more. Use essential aromatherapy massage oils. Enjoy exploring your body. All its curves and softness. Love the way your skin feels. Breathe deeply and slowly. Sink into your pillows. Just dream. It will happen for you but it will take a bit of time. Make orgasm a last resort for now. Forget about it. There is a whole body to explore. Leave your clitoris alone for at least two weeks while you explore the rest of you. Enjoy yourself fully. An orgasm will happen when it has no place else to go other then to errupt for you in waves of pleasure. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 796 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 15:54:19 [Post Text] | Firstly thanx for the reply. I am 45 and have had 2 children.....i am currently taking anti depressants, does this make it harder?.... i have always been a bit difficult to get to the point i would love to be, but have only recently started to try to find pleasure on my own. I am divorced now, but my ex did humiliating stuff to me previously.I just want to feel like others have said they feel. Boox .x | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 798 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 17:23:58 [Post Text] | Hi there, Yes, anti depressants will be the cause of you not being able to achieve orgasms. Discuss with your doctor your dosage and how it is affecting your not feeling sensations in your vulva and clitoris. The dosage may be too high, you may have been on one type too long, or, you may need a different type. Try a vibrator. Many many women can only achieve a proper fulfilling orgasm with one. I used one only in the last two years and learnt what proper orgasms were supposed to be like. I had a history of on and off with anti depressants and have been off them now completely for well over a whole year. I have much more feeling in my clitoris now than ever before. I am 35 years old and the mother of five. Nowadays, even my partner can bring me to orgasms. He used to use the vibrator with me but recently we have progressed without this year. It is a wonderful feeling when you start to experience proper pulsing orgasms either on your own or with someone else. I know how you feel. Like half a woman. That is how I felt before. Also, I must admit I took viagra on two occasions when I was on anti depressants. Worked wonders! Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 158 [Post ID] 817 [Date & Time] 2005-11-15 14:40:44 [Post Text] | Thanx princess for you're advice i will keep you posted. X | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 779 [Date & Time] 2005-11-07 15:40:05 [Post Text] | Hello all. Im a 26 year old woman living in the UK. I found the clitoris.com via one of the vaginismus support groups I am a member of and found it to be a real eye-opener. I think every young person should read that site and every older person too for that matter. I have passed it around to no end of people. Anyway, to the main point. As I already mentioned, I'm a woman who is lucky enough to be lumbered with vaginismus. I suffered in silence since I found out at 22 and, only earlier this year, did I seek help after joining the groups and finally talking to other sufferers. I've only had one BF and that only lasted 6 months, I called it off, not him. We weren't compatible generally and& I found myself wanting to avoid any situation that might lead up to another attempt at sex and we argued about that a lot. I don't think he realised what I was trying to avoid.& I knew what it was I was suffering from because I had read about it previously but went into denial about it so I couldn't discuss it with him and he thought it was just nerves and that it would work out of we kept trying. Since then, I have been too scared to date anyone else because of this condition. I don't, and never have, desired to have children. I'm much better with animals and don't even like babies very much but not many blokes will stick around if there is no intercourse, like it or lump it. I know it says a woman shouldn't be oblicated in the clit.com website but try telling most blokes that. Also, it is something I would like to be able to do for me, I want to, at least, feel what it's like. I'm on the pill because I had too many problems with periods before, I got all the physical symptoms, not the mood swings though, and& I got em bad. I used to feel crap every month and really wouldn't want to go back to that so I stayed on the pill. I recently bought a set of dilators with four sizes and can insert the first two but used to practise with my fingers before that and can insert up to two although it's tight and a bit uncomfortable. I have no probs with masturbation and orgasm and can have over 20 orgasms in one session, not uncommon actually, I never settle with just one, I got greedy, I suppose. I usually make myself have at least 15 before I'll finish but, on the couple of occasions when I decided to count to see how many I was having, I counted 21 the first time and 26 the second...phew, I didn't know I was having that many, haha. if only I didn't have this dratted vag and sexual aversion and I'd be well away. I've started with therapy now at a clinic that specializes in sexual dysfunctions, just talking, nothing physical so far although I'm not sure what future treatment I'll get. I've been twice and have to go every two weeks. I've never had a successful smear test, I tried to have one but the speculum made me feel like& I was being split in two and the nurse couldn't open it up to take the swab so we had to abort. That was a horrible horrible experience. I've never gone back for another attempt. I've never been sexually abused or anything but I was picked on a lot at school, made to feel ugly and inadequate and lads never fancied me although people tell me now that I am attractive, I still feel that inadequacy and can't seem to shake it off. I'm also a compulsive skin picker as a result of my depression and anxiety. It stemmed from acne and wanting rid of the spots and then escalated to a plain obsession with squeezing stuff out of my skin so& I make myself look a mess by doing that and can't stop even though I know it will make a mess. Big question is, what would most of the blokes in this forum say and think if they started dating a woman who, after a few dates, informed them she had vaginismus and that intercourse was impossible for her, at least for the time being until she got it cured and the time taken to cure this can vary from weeks to years. Would you be able to handle it ok or would you run in the opposite direction? I know that if a bloke did run, he wouldn't be worth it but my self image is low enough as it is, I'm not sure if I could cope with an emotional blow like that. Would you also be willing, if you did stick around, to take part in the treatment of it, attend therapy with the woman, join in during dilating sessions, things like that? Anyway, this is getting a little long now. I'll be glad for any replies and will answer any other questions you might ask as well as I can. Thanks for reading. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 795 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 09:48:05 [Post Text] | Well, I see there isn't much hope for me then judging by the large number of replies I got. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 797 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 17:17:05 [Post Text] | Hello, do you suffer from Primary vaginismus or Secondary vaginismus? Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 799 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 17:37:05 [Post Text] | Hello, thanks for replying. I have primary vaginismus. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 801 [Date & Time] 2005-11-12 06:08:40 [Post Text] | Hello thanks for replying. I have to confess, I did not answer your original enquiry because I had to research a bit more on the subject for my reference etc as I did not want to give you false info on the problem you are having. You may already know this but there is a Yahoo group which covers this subject in full run by other sufferers of primary vaginismus. Give them a try if you are not already a member. health.groups.yahoo.com/group/primaryvaginismus/ This paper challenges the efficacy of a cognitive-behavioral treatment model for women with primary vaginismus and proposes a conceptual shift from a focus on behavior to a focus on differentiation. Given that there are psychological as well as physical symptoms to this condition, what treatment are you or have you received for the psychological side effects? Also, with the orgasms, you mention that you enjoy reading the-clitoris.com and have found it useful. Have you read the definition of an 'orgasm' set out on the site? I am having a bit of trouble understanding how you claim to be having up to 15 or more orgasms in one session with yourself, when you have primary vaginismus which effects both the pelvic floor muscles and the mind as well. Lots of young women talk of having more than the average orgasms through masturbation during one session by themselves. But then when their sexuality grows and they gain a few more years experience, they realise that they were not experiencing the orgasms fully at all and where they originally counted say 15 during one session, now know it to be only three multiples, one after the other. You are functioning on one level in that you are able to achieve sexual pleasure through stimulation of your clitoris. It is just penetration you are having pain with - is that part right? How do you feel about older men / partners? It may be that you need someone clued up on primary vaginismus and who will actually take the time to learn and be gentle with you. I am fairly confident that you will overcome this condition with the right partner and yourself. The pain part sounds dreadful. I was sorry to hear that you have to go through this and sorry that I could not have been more help. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 802 [Date & Time] 2005-11-12 09:14:56 [Post Text] | Hello I understand the need to research the condition before replying as it is little recognized in general even among doctors. I am already a member of both the yahoo vag groups and post there regularly. It was from one of those groups that I found the clit.com website. I had my first orgasm at 18 and it was quite by accident. I have read what orgasms are supposed to feel like in the clit.com website and these do pretty much match, The build up with that weird tangy feeling starting in the clit and spreading outwards, then the sudden jerk and the pelvic throbbing, I even feel the little muscle contractions in my vagina when they happen and they are explosive in mind as well as body. I know the record for orgasms is 100 in one hour so somebody in one of the vag groups said so I don't come anywhere near that. Still, they can't be anything else. I used to only have about one or two a session and it gradually became higher as time went by and I got better at it. I suppose I'm still& able to have all those orgasms despite the vag& because: A. When I had my first one, I had no idea I had vag and so wasn't mentally aware which is why it didn't affect me. I was 18 then and only found out about the vag at age 22 by which time, I was already having quite a number of orgasms in one session and had become quite trained in it so to speak. B. There is no pressure for penetration when by myself. It is something I just don't have to worry about and, if I do try it with fingers etc..it is on my own terms and that was only after months of practising dilating with fingers beforehand so that I was comfortable with it. C. People often think that vag women must be frigid with is false. They are usually perfectly capable of experiencing arousal and orgasm through alternative means that don't involve penetration. I never orgasmed with my ex mind. As for the treatment, I'm having psychosexual counselling although I only had two sessions up to yet. Up to now it has basically been talking about my childhood, growing up, events that happened, trying to find anything that could have triggered the vag and then maintained it afterwards. Also, I have homeworks on improving my self image like choosing certain body parts I am ok about and pampering them...looking at my vulva and identifying all the bits etc...things like that. I wasn't clueless about my anatomy or anything although I certainly wasn't familiar enough with my own vulva and did have a certain degree of an aversion to it which I am working on. I still don't use fingers to stimulate myself, I use other things. My sister doesn't have vag but, she too, has this same aversion. I'm being forced to face mine whereas she probably never will. "You are functioning on one level in that you are able to achieve sexual pleasure through stimulation of your clitoris. It is just penetration you are having pain with - is that part right?" Yes, thats right. I don't mind the idea of a partner a little older than me, in fact I prefer them a little older than younger. Still, I worry that they are too used to having problem free penetration with previous partners& and that they wouldn't want the bother of messing around with me and my problem. Also, if anybody shows an interest in me that I actually like in return, I wonder why they'd look twoce at me, I see them as being out of my league, thus, I'm too petrified to do anything about it or even let it show that I do like them and then they think I am not interested. I will go to that link you provided now and have a read. Thanks for replying. Still, I have researched all of this a lot myself and with the other girls in the vags groups, it is the opinions of men about this condition that we lack, especially us singletons. Some of the women in the groups have partners or are married and the vag can prove to cause some serious problems ranging from arguments about not getting sex to the man& actually cheating on the woman or leaving her because he can't cope without intercourse any longer or the man developing impotence due to a fear of hurting the woman and, sometimes, bluntly blaming the woman for it. Makes single vag women like me feel pretty hopeless about finding a good partner. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 803 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 07:25:31 [Post Text] | Hello again, I am getting the feeling that your problem is more psychological than physical in terms of being able to achieve sexual pleasure. Many women would say that penetration from a man is not all it is hyped up to be but then if you are without something, the need to try it out weights the masses I suppose. With powerful orgasms, the opening to the vagina and all around the vulva contracts with the muscles used from your pelvic floor. Essentially, that is the opposite of the definition of your condition. In your childhood, were you allowed to watch films or see adult material? I would suggest that you have seen something which frightened you terribly at an age when you were too young to remember it. Now you are a young woman with natural desire, your subsconscious is preventing you from moving on. Have you watched a movie called "Cybil" which came out in the late 1970's early 1980"s? It may help if you can get hold of a copy. I have not seen a copy of the film for some five years now but there must be one somewhere perhaps in a library. Then I would like to suggest further reading from an author Pat Califia. Brad often recommends her books to people. Essentially she is a transexual but her writings help put you in tune with your femininity and sexuality as well. Do not be put off by her being a transexual. Her insight into the female mind and sexuality is amazingly correct and appropriate in your case as well I think you will benefit from reading her books. With regards to an older man, by the time a man reaches say 45 to 55 years old, they have a lot of experience. Granted, they may not have experience with the physical aspects of your condition, but, they do have experience with partners and are very sensitive towards other aspects of sex aside from penetration. Different types of love making become relevant for some men of that age and they can and are exciting too. What about being with a woman? Have you thought about that? I would not rule that out either. There are so many options open to you to have a fulfilling sex life as you are young and I am confident with the right analysis you will overcome this and achieve a great many things. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 805 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 10:50:59 [Post Text] | Hello again I don't think I could ever, and& I mean EVER, go with another woman. I have nothing against homosexuals but it is not something I would ever want to indulge in myself, the thought makes me feel sick and doesn't attract me in the slightest. I must admit, I have asked myself whether I was gay before due to lack of boyfriends, it took me longer than many to even get interested in them in the first place but being as most were generally just nasty to me, I found myself not feeling comfortable with them anyway. I think the bullying and such that I got at school played a big part and making me how I am. I was never viewed as being attractive even thought my therapist thinks I am. I have trouble believing people when they say that like they are just trying to make me feel better. At school, I was made to feel ugly and inadequate, I had some mates who said I'd die a virgin but then they were just little slappers who slept around and thought they knew everything there was to know about sex and sexuality. Nobody ever fancied me either, I just thought I was too ugly and nobody would ever want me and I can't seem to shake that crap off. I know this is more psychological than physical. I always had issues about inserting things which is why I never used tampons, I was too scared to try them, that they wouldn't go in or it would hurt or something like that, I'm not really sure. This was well before I knew about vaginismus, I read about that in my late teens in More magazine. It was that same magazine that taught me about the existence of the clitoris because you don't get taught those things at school, sex ed at school was pretty crap and they wonder why all these kids get preggers. As for seeing things as a child, I don't really remember anything that affected me or that sticks in my mind as being something that could cause this. I did sometimes accidentally see things kids shouldn't, scary films, nudity, stuff like that. I can't think of anything though that might contribute to this. Still, I am discussing anything and everything with the therapist but, even then, we can only speculate that something might have been responsible, can't we, it could be something else entirely. I think the school bullying does play a large part because things that happened then sort of crop up in my mind a lot during situations where this problem rears it's ugly head or when I try to think about why I feel this way. The only thing that I know of which traumatized me at an age when& I couldn't remember was accidentally slipping under the water whilst in the bath with my older brother. My grandmother took on the job of getting me to go in the bath again and would have to bathe me in the sink for months and I would cling onto her for dear life so she said before gradually getting me to go back in the bath again. I was never a good swimmer and it wasn't until I started going swimming with school at age 8-9 that they could even get me to go into a swimming pool, not even the shallow end. Even now, I feel claustrophobic if I go under water, I don't like it at all. I don't remember any of the initial fear and being scared to go in the bath because I was only a toddler, I think, I only knew myself that I didn't enjoy deeper water like in a swimming pool etc... I haven't seen a movie called Cybil or even heard of it. I work at Blockbusters though so I am in a good position to find out whether it can still be obtained. As for the orgasms, I'm not alone there. Many women in the vag groups are perfectly capable of having them, whether they have primary or secondary vag. Some aren't but then there are a lot of non vag women that have trouble having them too. I'm not the worst care scenario, I have always been able to have a finger inserted without pain, just nothing the size of a speculum or penis, my ex's penis would not go in at all, it felt like there wasn't even a hole there for it to go in and it hurt so much, I'd have to push him off and tell him to stop. Some women can't even insert a cotton bud. The largest thing& I can insert is the #2 dilator which is 1" in girth and that causes some discomfort and slight pain on entry and taking out. Also, if I let go of the handle, it pops out on it's own, the muscles pushing it out. It also hurts if I try to purposely clench my muscles around it like a kegel although I could do that with two fingers inserted without any pain. Still, I feel like I'm relaxed when I do this, I don't feel the spasms other woman talk about, I just know it hurts and that it feels tight. I also notice that my muscles clench up a lot when I'm walking showering and such. I try to relax them when I think about it& but they clench up again as soon as I'm not thinking about them or not concentrating fully on them. Also, it feel strange walking with them relaxed, like my insides are going to fall out or something. I have my third session at the porterbrook on Thursday. Now that I know how to get there and back which worried me last time because it takes three buses and about an hours travel through areas unknown to me, I'm actually looking forward to it. I'll keep you updated on how that goes. I suppose, if anything, getting info on this right from the horses mouth will increase your pool of knowledge as it will mine. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 806 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 13:02:11 [Post Text] | Hello, On being Ugly - only YOU can feel one way or the other about that. If you feel ugly on the inside, you will radiate this for others. If you feel something good about yourself, it will show in your smile, in the way you present yourself and the way you are. I understand completely about that side of emotional torment. I battled with it for years until I finally let go and freed myself from the chains that bound me. No one no matter how well intended or heartfelt can tell you how beautiful you are and expect you to believe them especially if this has been ongoing most of your life and you have felt and believed yourself to be ugly. I wish you well for your next appointment. I hope this place you are going to is the right place for you. Here in the UK things are very limited with unchartered territory in the medical profession. So I am sure you have waited and waited on a list before being seen at all. So congratulations for actually making it through two appointments and now anticipating your third. With the subconscious mind, you may very well have seen something which scared the absolute crap out of you when you were little and then your mind has erased it from the main part of your brain so that you can get on with your life. It is a possibility. Even if you were a baby or too young to understand that what you saw was overwhelming, at some point in your life something has caused you to physically clam up so now you are at the beginning of a long journey unravelling yourself again to get back to the source of what ever it was that started this all off for you. May I be so humble and to suggest you keep a journal about yoru appointments, how you feel, all your emotions etc? Try www.livejournal.com for an online journal which you can make secure so that no one else can read it. Also look here www.writingthejourney.com/ for useful tips on journal writing. One more thing before I head off into the kitchen - please do not misunderstand this or take it the wrong way as I am in no way suggesting that you have this - but - read up multiple personality disorder. The reason I am suggesting this for you is because, obviously something is going on inside of your mind which is causing you a lot of physical sexual problems which in turn is causing you emotional stress too and a great deal of anxiety because there is no quick fix to the problems. One aspect of multi personality disorder treatment is allowing yourself the freedom to explore your own mind and all its faults, emotions and traumas with someone else. It strikes me that the treatment of MPD is in keeping with what the center may be hoping will work for you as well when trying to get to the bottom of your phobia and the physical reactions, clenching of muscles etc. So forearmed is forewarned as it were. Read about the treatment of MPD. It may ring true for you you just never know. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 808 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 18:04:53 [Post Text] | [user=315]Canis Lupess[/user] wrote: "Well, I see there isn't much hope for me then judging by the large number of replies I got."There is hope for you.& I apologize, I didn't say anything, because I just didn't know what to say.& | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 809 [Date & Time] 2005-11-13 18:07:42 [Post Text] | Hello Thanks for the info. I'm not sure about multiple personality disorder, I'll have to look it up. Still, I do have dermatillomania which is a compulsive skin picking disorder and is a type of Obsessive compulsive disorder although I don't really have any other OCD tendancies other than the skin picking....that I've noticed. I also believe I am pretty high scoring with Borderline and avoidant. Basically, I'm a messed up person, lol. I have a lot to get through. Thats an idea, writing a journal. If anything, it can help other women who have my problem in the future. I don't mind sharing all this crap with other vag sufferers because they can't judge me, they are in the same boat. The place& I am going to is the Porterbrook clinic. It specializes in sexual dysfunctions. I'm lucky I live as close to it as I do even if it is still a little way out. There is a website for this clinic but it seems the site is down at the moment for some reason. Vaginismus is one of the more common problems they deal with in women but they deal with pretty much anything that can affect sex lives and sexuality. I had been waiting a few months for the first appintment.& I went to see the GP in March after suffering in silence for nearly 4 years, she referred me, in May, I get a letter and forms from the porterbrook that I had to fill out and send back within 4 weeks to comfirm I still wanted treatment and then heard from them again 2 weeks before the first appointment which was on the 20th of October and I go every other Thursday so that made it 5 months since the porterbrook contacted me but 7 months since seeing the GP who referred me. It seems it isn't just the UK that has few resources for vag. Women in the groups from all over the world report the same problem finding a medical proffessional that understands their problem or even knows what it is. Many have been told by docs to just have a few glasses of wine and relax. How stupid is that? I read up about vaginismus in the More magazine, yes, I found a lot out from reading those. I'm glad I did because I wouldn't have known what was wrong with me if I hadn't read up about it before. Many women who find they have this don't even know it is a condition with a name at first. Everyone knows what impotence is but hardly anyone knows what vaginismus is. Oh, Sorry Ladybug, you got in there just before me. I know that most people wouldn't really understand my condition very much but I was hoping I'd get some male opinions on how they'd react and feel if they started dating somebody who turned out to have my problem so that I could, at least, get a few mens views on this. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 814 [Date & Time] 2005-11-14 16:47:44 [Post Text] | Hi how did your appointment go today? I was thinking about you earlier on today. In answer to your last question about how men would feel if dating someone like you - I think it is too broad a question to ask for many men. Initially, I asked someone today how they would feel if they were with someone who could not be penetrated and he said that as long as they loved each other and he could stimulate her and be intimate with her in another way than he would not feel like he was missing anything especially. Then he flippantly said that as long as her mouth still worked things would work out well :) He was just being honest and I am guessing that a lot of men may have the same reaction to that or may suggest trying anal sex instead as vaginal or may be happy to wait for you to have treatment at the clinic if the emotional bond between you was strong enough. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 815 [Date & Time] 2005-11-14 16:59:29 [Post Text] | Hello, the appointment is on Thursday, lol. I'll let you know how it went. Thanks for trying to get some info for me about what men would think. There are some women in the vag groups who feel guilty not being able to have ic and sexual encounters consist of them giving their partners blow jobs and all the rest whilst he does nothing in return because he doesn't feel he owe's her. Man, if any bloke did that to me, he'd be out. As for anal sex, no way. I have IBS and have problems regarding that part of my anatomy as well. In fact, muscle spasms occassionally happen when I'm trying to go to the loo as well and can make it a little awkward trying to pass a stool. I just wouldn't want to do it anyway but my IBS and other problems would make it highly uncomfortable. It can feel very tight just trying to pass a stool, never mind taking a penis. Another woman recently posted in one of the vag groups and I feel so sorry for her. She's 29 and her husband who is only 24 has recently left her because of her vag after 6 yrs of marriage even though& the condition& has improved with treatment and dilators. He has also told all his mates and family about her problem saying she's frigid and can't satisfy him in bed and has already started dating and having sex with other women. She also says that everyone, including his mum, says that he's the victim in all of this because he can't have his sex and everyone seems to agree. Sheesh. How ridiculous are people? This is in California too, not some third world country. She has nobody to talk to and sounds pretty bad, lost weight and such. She says he also refused counselling and never wanted to be part of the treatment but that it is still all her fault. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 822 [Date & Time] 2005-11-17 09:16:17 [Post Text] | Well, I had my appointment. Today, the therapist talked about the stages of arousal and how the vagina expands and all the rest. I already knew about that after reading up on it in the clit.com website. She asked me if I already knew and I said I did. We also talked about my skin picking which contributes to the general low self-esteem. She mention Cognitive behavioural therapy which I have read about but too many medical proffessionals don't seem to have a clue about it so I was pleased she did. She showed me a book called "Overcoming low self-esteem", by Melanie Fennell and I have to get hold of a copy myself so I'll order one from Amazon. I have to keep a record of thoughts, feelings and situations just prior to getting an urge to pick and record them down so we can start to work out a pattern or something. She also asked me what things I'd come up with so far to help stop me picking. Most things I have come up with are only any use when I'm here at the computer desk, things like having a blob of blu-tac to mess about with or an elastic band to keep my hands busy and also putting an elastic band around my upper arm and twanging it hard if I get an urge to pick that area. They've worked to an extent and reduced the number and amount of picking but they haven't eliminated it because I pick at other times too when these measures are useless like in the shower and away from the comp desk etc.... She also talked about kegels. I told her I already did those when I remembered. She told me to try a general muscle relaxation technique where I lie down without other destractions, tense all the muscles in my feet and legs for about 10 seconds and then let them fully relax and then work up the body so to speak and then do that same thing with my pc muscles and do it just before dilating. She also asked about things I do generally. I told her about my artwork and she asked what type of thing I did. I always have some photos of my work in my handbag so I got them out and let her look at those, lol. She told me to keep on with the dilator #2, the one I'm on now and see if I could work over the next couple of weeks into getting comfortable with that one and moving up to #3. Not sure I'll manage it in 2 weeks but I'll work on it. I'll update you more when there is more info to update you with. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 897 [Date & Time] 2005-12-12 19:12:54 [Post Text] | After more practise with the dilator..mainly when I am aroused, I have managed to move up to size three out of a set of 4. I got it nearly all the way in, further than I expected because I wasn't aroused and it is quite long really. I shall try it when I am aroused. There wasn't much pain, only a very slight one so I'm glad about that. It did feel tight though. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 900 [Date & Time] 2005-12-13 12:40:04 [Post Text] | Hey well done :) That is great news! Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 902 [Date & Time] 2005-12-14 10:47:20 [Post Text] | Hi Canis, Looks like I can post today.& :) Thanks for the update. It is nice to hear you are making progress. Something that I have found to help women insert larger objects vaginally and anally is to pretend and try to push the object out, then relax. Do the opposite of what you want momentarily. So squeeze your pc muscles and try to push the dilator out, then relax. You should& be using only a single finger to press or hold the dilator in place. You don't really want to use force or pressure. My unprofessional opinion. When doing Kegels be sure to keep your stomach muscles relaxed. You can do this by placing one hand on your stomach to monitor those muscles. The same muscles that encircle the vagina also encircle the anus, so those who are open to the idea can try inserting objects anally to help them determine if it is a tight muscle issue or contact sensitivity of the vulva, hymen, or vagina that is the issue. You will want to use an object other than your vaginal dilators, because they don't have a flared base. I hope this helps. Brad | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 903 [Date & Time] 2005-12-14 11:04:16 [Post Text] | Hello, thanks for that. A lot of girls in the vag groups had mentioned about the pushing out to help open the ring of muscles up so I do use that approach along with other things like breathing deeply and kegels just beforehand. I knew not to contract the stomach muscles, my therapist said you shouldn't see or notice anything happen with your stomach. I find that I can make the muscles relax further by jiggling the dilator or my fingers around once inside. This sort of soothes them and I can then insert the object even further. Another women also mentioned she does this and it helps her as well. As for pushing things in with force, no way. Too scared of doing that and it hurting too much. I also warm the dilator up because there is nothing worse than inserting a freezing cold object. As for inserting things anally, nah, that does not appeal to me in the slightest. I have IBS which can cause problems there, I would definitely not be tempted by the idea of anal sex...ever!!!! I sometimes feel the muscles around the anus spasming when I try to pass a stool although this doesn't always happen, it does happen involutarily and is more of an inconvenience and annoyance when you want to hurry up because you are late for work and the stool is ready to come out otherwise and keeps trying to. Anybody else noticed how you suddenly need to go to pass a stool when you are in a rush to get off somewhere and then it insists of taking its bloody time and holding you up? LOL!!!! Still, vag is just one problem and, with this progress I am seeing, probably the easier problem to overcome. My BDD, obsessive skin picking and sexual aversion (Partner sex, that is)& will be a bit more difficult, I think. I have another therapy appointment tomorrow. I'll let you know how it goes. She'll be pleased I got onto #3 but I'll not have& much good news to tell her about improving my social life, not like I haven't tried but people I know are useless when it comes to motivating them into doing things. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 1718 [Date & Time] 2006-06-18 23:56:55 [Post Text] | Hi, I added a new article to the website today that addresses the subject of Finding the Vagina. If a teen/woman knows what they are looking for and how to go about finding it this may help prevent vaginismus from developing. The information presented may help resolve very mild cases of vaginismus. [url=www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/loc_vag.htm] www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/loc_vag.htm Brad | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 1720 [Date & Time] 2006-06-19 11:47:17 [Post Text] | I agree it will all help. Thanks for posting it. Still, when girls are brought up from very& young to be ashamed and disgusted by that general area, it can make them reluctant to even want to attempt to find it....like me. I probably know my vulva better than many other women now who never had vag but only because I had to. One of the girls in a vag support group, she's in the U.K same as me, has asked to do some research for her uni course, and got the go ahead,& about the possibility of vag and general anxiety being related. I have general anxiety disorder and she says that she also suffers from anxiety. All the women in the group are up for answering questionaires and such when she makes a start on the project. If you want,& I can ask her if& she can share some findings with you for clit.com. I know many people& go to clit.com and all of us vag women crave more awareness about our condition. There is still a major problem with awareness of vaginismus with many sufferers taking years to find out whats wrong with them and there are also many in the medical proffession who don't know about vaginismus as lots of women in the vag group have found. Even if they do know about it, even fewer have any idea as to how to treat it. The girl doing the reasearch was told her vagina was simply& too small and this devastated her into thinking she'd never manage IC and that she had something physically wrong. Since dilating and such, the opening started to look much bigger naturally and now she knows the doc who told her she was too small was talking out of his arse. I know that& child sexual development& is addressed in your site which is great but, unfortunately, the general public just& don't have a clue. Everyday, I see adults suppressing their childs natural development because they view it as abnormal and unhealthy. They'd probably think there was something wrong with me if I told them how things really are. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 1722 [Date & Time] 2006-06-19 12:32:34 [Post Text] | I& just read the new page and thought it was quite helpful for young girls wanting to find their vagina. Looking at proper photos of vulvas is also helpful, something I never got to do. It was all those stupid little diagrams for me and many of those didn't even show any detail. Just three holes and thats it. No labia or clitoris or anything else. I think they assumed we didn't need to know about all of that. I think that society is scared that if girls are taught too much about their sexuality too early, it means they'll start having sex at an earlier age so they are unwilling to teach girls what they need to know. Instead, they let them go walking blindly into it all. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 6570 [Date & Time] 2009-04-06 02:01:51 [Post Text] | Forget sex and boyfriends. You have issues to work through. Sort out a career. Make women friends. Find a hobby or two that excites you. Some some very private time exploring your body and daydreaming. Masturbate, slowly and gently. Don't go all the way unless you are in the mood. Your spelling and complete betray that you are unusually educated. Knowledge is power, never forget that. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 160 [Post ID] 793 [Date & Time] 2005-11-10 20:28:09 [Post Text] | Ok. Well I'm new to this site and& I joined because& I have a problem I'm worried :? about. First off, I am not sexually active...But sometimes& I get these weird pimples down there. Well when& I got my first one...I very painfully got rid off it. But now sometimes& I get these odd bumps or red spots in a couple places there. it doesnt seem likea rash and the red spots or bumps arent usually painful or itchy..they're just there. I obviously need some professional advice so if anyone could give me some, that would be great. thanks, Pinkchick | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 160 [Post ID] 794 [Date & Time] 2005-11-11 09:44:39 [Post Text] | Hello and Welcome we have had lots of discussion on here over the past month about this subject. You could read some of the previous posts about spots pimples and acne. You really need to see a doctor who can actually see the spots for themselves to assess what they are. It could be herpes related, impetigo related or any viral infection. Or indeed it could just be that you get spots where you dont want them. Some people do and whilst this may not be what you want, they are nothing to worry about. I would make an appointment with your doctor and ask him or her to take a look just to rule out anything major. They may even suggest things like diet and other lifestyle changes that will help improve things. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 166 [Post ID] 848 [Date & Time] 2005-11-28 09:47:26 [Post Text] | It's a simple problem: my wife hates cunnilingus. Or does she? She will NOT let me go down on her. If I kiss her anywhere south of her breasts, he hands immediately go down between her legs in "cover-up" mode and she pulls me back up. I've tried to discuss it with her, either in or out of bed. I've told her how loving and trusting and pleasurable it is, how it turns me on intensely, and how it could add some spice to our rapidly waning sex life. I've even said that I've read PLENTY of endorsements from women -- especially on this Web site. But she's adamantly against it: "It's not natural" or "It's for whores," she says. Oh, but guess what: the dozen or so times we DID indulge in cunnilingus (this has not happened for many years, and about half of them occurred when she had had enough alcohol to loosen her inhibitions), she went absolutely WILD. She held my head in place, thrusted herself toward me, moaned wantonly, and had an incredibly full and pleasurable orgasm -- or two! Each time it gave me the hardest of erections, something I don't experience as much as I used to, and each time it led the way to some of the most intense and pleasurable and loving intercourse we've EVER experienced. We are both 59, have what I would call "a pretty good relationship in most ways," and have been married since 1971. We had regular intercourse until around age 50, when she started losing interest. Quite ironically, she complains often about our current sex life, which is now practically non-existent. I have told her how she could help things improve by loosening some of her inhibitions, by letting me give her some oral loving. In addition, I have tried to convince her how her vaginal dryness problem (which she has had for more than 25 years) would disappear -- not only from what I could contribute to it but also from the fact that she has always self-lubricated liberally during cunnilingus. I realize that everyone has his or her sexual limitations. If she had never enjoyed cunnilingus before, I could possibly understand her position. And by the way, I have never asked for "reciprocity" -- because her phobia about cunnilingus is NOTHING compared to how she feels about fellatio! I may be the only 59 year-old guy on the planet who's never been blown, if you'll pardon the colloquialism. Women, I would deeply value your suggestions and your opinions, either supportive or critical. Thank you! | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 166 [Post ID] 849 [Date & Time] 2005-11-28 10:00:06 [Post Text] | Hello and Welcome Throughout reading your post, I thought, hormone problems, lack of progesterone. Then neat the bottom of your post where you mention the vaginal dryness, this confirmed what I was thinking. Ask your wife to make an appointment with her doctor and go along with her. Progesterone levels test is initially a simple saliva test where a swab of saliva is taken from her mouth. Later, if that comes back as being a bit low, the doctor will call her back in for blood tests. At least that is how it works in the UK. Your wife could also be having thyroid problems. Not as confident of that one as the lack of progesterone, but it is worth asking for a test just to rule it out. Funny old thing hormones. One point out on the scale and it throws us ladies off balance and all sorts of chain reactions happen in our bodies. Once the hormone problems have been ruled out, she may feel differently about her body and want to share it more. Dryness can be quite painful and is certainly uncomfortable. When I have had this in the past, I have not wanted my partner anywhere near my lower region either and I have actually been moaning quite fiercely about the lack of sex as well! So I can totally understand your wife's point of view from that part. Definately seek the advice and tests from a doctor. Then you can rule out the medical side and start to work on the emotional aspect or oral sex together. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 166 [Post ID] 850 [Date & Time] 2005-11-28 10:05:38 [Post Text] | Hi, Princess: Thanks for your reply. We've been through all that. She's had a few visits with her OB about the dryness, and he has prescribed medications to compensate for it AND recommended over-the-counter lubricants. I'm afraid this is much more attitude than physiology. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 168 [Post ID] 856 [Date & Time] 2005-12-01 19:07:18 [Post Text] | My girlfriend and I for the first time engaged in oral sex.& I've done this before and she said she hasnt.& I figured considering it being her first time when i fingered her I would use only& one finger so I wouldnt discomfort her.& When i asked if it hurts she replied with "is it in?".& Well, i didnt think to much of it so i went a head and move to two fingers. Crazy enough i had to realy move them around for her to feel anything.& Should i be worried?& Is this common?& I havent asked her if shes masterbated before but could that be the case or could she lieing about her past sexual experiences. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 168 [Post ID] 858 [Date & Time] 2005-12-02 19:14:43 [Post Text] | There aren't as many nerve endings inside the vagina so it is possible she might not be able to feel it very well if you only use one or two fingers. I'd feel it but I have vaginismus but it is only near the entrance that I could feel it, further back, it's like the vaginal wall is totally devoid of nerve endings, I don't really get any sensation at all there. Still, it all varies between women anyway. Some naturally have more sensation in there than others. I can feel it a little if I was to bend my fingers whilst inserted or maybe ask her to try and clench her pc muscles around your fingers whilst they are inserted and she may feel them inside then. I do these to help& my muscles relax& and it also helps with control and these muscle exercises are benefical for all women, just just those with my condition. She can find these muscles when she goes to the loo for a pee by just stopping the urine mid-flow and these are the muscles she needs to clench. She should only do that to find these muscles though because stopping uring mid-flow isn't really good for you but once or twice won't hurt. Clenching these muscles and then relaxing them whenever she remembers will help keep them exercised and toned and will help increase sensation for you both during ic in future and she can do these exercises anywhere because nobody else can see you doing them, lol. Also, because her vagina is not used to having anything inside and the brain not used to processing info from that area caused by penetration, it might take a little time to start feeling some sensation, for the brain to learn to start processing it so that the person may feel it or she just might remain as a woman who doesn't feel that much inside her vag. I doubt she is lying about her past sexual experiences. I genuinely think she just doesn't really feel much unless you move the fingers around a lot. Also, a woman who was used to having something inserted would know if it was. As she doesn't, it seems probable to me that she hasn't had fingers inserted before and so doesn't really know what it feels like hence her question about whether they were in. Good luck with the foreplay though. It is good you just stick to this at first before trying ic. It might also be a good idea to ask her if she does do DIY sex. If not, she should try it, lol. I do it and it's great. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 168 [Post ID] 860 [Date & Time] 2005-12-02 19:34:59 [Post Text] | Thanks alot Cannis Lupess:),& I was really worried about it.& Do you have any suggestions on positioning on oral sex.& well, actually we tried to plz each other at the same time and that made it real uncomfortable.& we were in missionary style and i had to hold myself up to were i can have my hand down their while her giveing me a hand job and then kissing.& do you know any good tricks or tips? were both fairly new to all this and i want her to have a great experience considering that were most likely not soul mates.& but that doesnt mean that i dont love her and that i want her to enjoy herself.& i appreciate all& the info that you have given to me so far.& Thanks a bunch! | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 168 [Post ID] 861 [Date & Time] 2005-12-03 05:25:14 [Post Text] | Hi and Welcome With one or two fingers try reaching inside upwards behind the clitoris and circular movements around there. That should work at the same time as oral sex. Is it in? that is a terrible thing to say during a moment like that. Was you hurt by that or uncomfortable? If so you should talk to her about it and let her know that you have sought the advice of others. Princess | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 168 [Post ID] 862 [Date & Time] 2005-12-03 11:43:12 [Post Text] | Maybe she just said that because she thought he had not inserted it yet and maybe he was just putting the tip in or something and checking if she was ok with that& before he proceeded. I don't think she would have said that to hurt his feelings. I can sort of understand why she asked him that though. She probably expected to feel more herself maybe and was suprised that she felt very little even though the fingers were in. After all, lots of girls grow up believing that first insertions might or will hurt or are brought up to expect it to feel intensely good and should feel it. As for positions and all that. Well, I'm not much of an experienced person myself being as I tend to avoid any situation that might lead to ic because of my condition. I've had to learn a lot about myself and sexuality in order to help me conquer my vaginismus which is where most of the info I can give comes from. One thing you can do is just experiment. Ask your girlfriend if she has any ideas and try to think of some yourself and just try them out with each knowing it is just a trial run and that it might not be as perfect as theory suggested. You can still have fun doing it. Try laying on your sides facing each other so that neither has to hold themself up. You could even try laying with each other facing the others feet so that she can have her face near your bits and you have yours near hers and just sort of hold the leg not being laid on up and out of the way, sort of bent at the knee if you get me. Still, if a person is seeing stars because of the stimulation they are receiving and building up to orgasm, it might throw off their concentration and make them unable to keep up the stimulation in return so simultaneous stimulation might not happen so harmoniously as you might like to imagine but it is still worth indulging in, just don't be too disappointed if something like this was to happen. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 168 [Post ID] 863 [Date & Time] 2005-12-03 19:22:25 [Post Text] | you guys are great!, (when i say guys i dont mean that literally), thanks a million for helping me through this.& if i have any more questions ill keep yall posted.& and maybe someday ill be able to give my input for someone else's issues. ;) | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 168 [Post ID] 870 [Date & Time] 2005-12-05 19:21:18 [Post Text] | My boyfriend and I have recently been starting to engage in oral sex also.& I'm in the same position as your g/f, I don't feel that much when only one finger is inserted.& So, nicely I ask him to put in another finger.& I have prepared myself on my own by masturbating, and it's highly possible your gf also masturbates.& Many women do but are too affraid to admit to it. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 169 [Post ID] 864 [Date & Time] 2005-12-04 11:35:37 [Post Text] | I have a problem. I am 17 and my boyriend has tried to give me an orgasm a number of times and it doesn't work. Everytime he gives me head, my clit gets too ticklish to the point where I can't take it anymore and I have to tell him to stop...why is this happening? Is this normal? Any suggestions? | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 169 [Post ID] 865 [Date & Time] 2005-12-04 12:12:44 [Post Text] | Hi.. do you really want to have your clit licked and reach an orgasm? well I'll give you a suggestion that I gave to a young girl with the same dilemma(is no a problem). Go to any Walgreen store and buy over teh counter "Americane" it is an anesthetic cream very mild and before having your clit licked or touched rub it with an small amount, try at home before to know if is going towork for you and touch it yourself and see the difference... PS It works for the boys too when they come too fast, just a little around the penis head My email is in my profile in case you want to write | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 169 [Post ID] 928 [Date & Time] 2005-12-30 07:48:10 [Post Text] | [user=346]YellowSnow[/user] wrote: "I have a problem. I am 17 and my boyriend has tried to give me an orgasm a number of times and it doesn't work. Everytime he gives me head, my clit gets too ticklish to the point where I can't take it anymore and I have to tell him to stop...why is this happening? Is this normal? Any suggestions?" does he make direct contact with your clit? you can dull the sensation without use of drugs or creams by simply telling him not to make direct contact with your clit, and instead to make contact with the area surrounding your clit and through the clitoral hood. Having an extra layer of flesh between the source of contact and your clit should help. Also, he might be too forceful, so tell him to lighten up a bit. Also, if you can give yourself an orgasm, take some time to really learn what it is that you do that gets you off. When you understand what kind of contact is best for you, then you can tell him where to use his hands or mouth in ways that work for you instead of being overbearing. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 171 [Post ID] 874 [Date & Time] 2005-12-08 13:52:19 [Post Text] | Hi All, For several years now I have had the desire to add 3D Anatomy illustrations and video to the website. This in an attempt help women to realize that their vulva is 3D, that is, not as flat as a piece of paper, 2D. It would also help them to visualize their anatomy under the skin. Things like, how does a six inch penis fit into a three inch vagina, that their vulva isn't suppose to be flat, where their G-Spot (female prostate gland) is exactly, etc. I finally had to accept I would never have the time to learn how to do this let alone do this myself. I have increasingly less free time. A couple weeks ago I contacted a 3D Illustrator and presented the project to him and he has agreed to take it on. The proposed first phase is to develop 3D illustrations of the clitoral erectile structures, the glans, body, and crura. We are currently researching to find better descriptions and illustrations for the female pelvic area, which isn't easy. The illustrator wants to be as accurate as possible, and 3D illustrations are hard to come by, even in medical literature. We are attempting to figure out what the reverse side of some organs and structures look like. I have registered a new website URL but the website doesn't actually exist yet, so I wont give out just yet. This could become a expensive project, hosting the website (bandwidth)& and paying for the illustrator. If there are visitors to The-Clitoris.com website that would like to help get this project off to a good start donations would be greatly appreciated. I have setup a Paypal.com account for the project.& The e-mail address you would need to enter into Paypal is Here is the link to PayPal.com [url=www.paypal.com] www.paypal.com You need to have a PayPal account in order to send money through them, which is free. You can also send contributions by mail to the following address: Anatomy Project & If anyone is interested, I can also setup our on-line store so you can contribute by credit card without a Paypal account. If you are interested in doing this please let me know. I can set that up pretty quickly. If anyone is concerned about the validity of this posting they can contact me at We hope to have the website started within the month, but that depends on how the research goes. The illustrator is investing money into medical references and possible new software to ensure we get good 3D illustrations. Some of the first illustrations may appear on The-Clitoris.com website, but because of cost concerns will be transfered to the new website soon after. The rate that illustrations are created and added and whether we will be able to have video clips available will depend on the funds available. If you are a business that would like to sponsor the project please feel free to contact me. The new website will be a medical reference, that is not a sex site. The new website will be free to the public, hence the request for donations. Thanks for your time and support. Brad | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 171 [Post ID] 1057 [Date & Time] 2006-01-15 13:03:24 [Post Text] | Hi All, It is taking longer than expected but we are making progress with the new website. Here are a couple samples of the preliminary images. They aren't done yet, and wll be more realisitic when done. Brad & | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 171 [Post ID] 1058 [Date & Time] 2006-01-15 13:04:03 [Post Text] | Second Image: & | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 171 [Post ID] 1059 [Date & Time] 2006-01-15 13:22:31 [Post Text] | No attachments Brad sorry& Luisa | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 171 [Post ID] 1060 [Date & Time] 2006-01-15 14:28:07 [Post Text] | You need to click on the blue links at the bottom of the posts. Brad | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 171 [Post ID] 1063 [Date & Time] 2006-01-17 05:16:57 [Post Text] | The problem with a 3D illustration is that it isnt really 3D. It may be made with a 3D rendering program, but the picture is still 2D. Video clips of pre-rendered material would be slightly better, but there are already live action sex help videos available where someone walks you through some particular sex act and the anatomy involved. And of course, scripting each invidual animation is tedious and requires a lot of render time (on top of the video encoding time) if you want a detailed image. The best (but probably the most expensive) idea would be to build a web application. Something real-time that you could turn and move in three dimensions and zoom in and out on. In addition to that, you could make certain parts become transparent/translucent or highlight certain organs so you can see their location as your rotate the model. If the model was detailed enough, you could even go so far as to portray the effects of different stages of arousal (such as the flushing and swelling, perhaps even the physical signs of orgasm), but actually interacting with and altering the model real-time is a huge step up in difficulty. Just tossing out some ideas. | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 171 [Post ID] 1064 [Date & Time] 2006-01-17 10:45:07 [Post Text] | Hi, These are stills from the flash presentations that will rotate 360 degrees. :) Brad | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 171 [Post ID] 1096 [Date & Time] 2006-01-28 18:26:37 [Post Text] | Hi All, After some delay the new website is up and running. It took some time but I believe it was worth the wait. What you see now is just the beginning. [url=www.3dvulva.com] www.3dvulva.com Please let me know what you think. Brad | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 172 [Post ID] 875 [Date & Time] 2005-12-08 14:10:18 [Post Text] | Hi All, I frequently receive e-mail from teens and women wanting to know if the area around their vaginal opening looks normal. Unfortunately, I don't have any clear photographs to show them of this area, and of the normal diversity of shape and size. Many have already looked through the photos on the website and did not see the area of concern. While this area is smooth in some women, others have lots of soft tissue, hymeneal tissue,& and skin tags, and the like in this area. This results in some anxiety in those who go looking expecting perfectly smooth, as in anatomy illustrations, tissue. Those with hidden vaginal openings are further perplex about where it is and where to insert fingers and tampons. If there are any ladies, 18 years of age or older, who would be willing to send clear digital photos of their vaginal opening, sthe pace between inner labia including urethra, to me I will add them to the website.& The photos should include the inner labia so we have a frame of reference. If you happen to have an intact hymen, to some degree, those photos would be greatly appreciated by site visitors to, as they are very rare. Please send high resolution photos and I will edit them to the correct image& and file size. Send them to Thanks,:D Brad | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
67c5ab35_Female_Sexuality___2005_Topics__Post_Text | [Topic ID] 173 [Post ID] 876 [Date & Time] 2005-12-08 18:24:06 [Post Text] | HI i'm a 30 year old married woman with 3 kids. I have never had an orgasm. I keep thinking I'm nearly there but then... nothing. At some points the sensations are so strong they are too much to bear, so something is working, just not the end. This is really getting me down now. I know the anti-depressants i take affect this (i've been on them for almost 10 years with& no sign of being able to come off them) but i wondered is there anything else that can counteract them. i have tried vibrators but no luck. Was wondering about the ones that suck the clitoris? anybody think they would be good for me as the others haven't worked? My husband is aware of the problem and has really tried to help but we are both getting very frustrated...especially me!!! also wondering about viagra? any advice? joanne | [] | The-Clitoris.com - Old Discussion Forum From 2005 to 2009: Female Sexuality - 2005 Topics | Post Text | http://www.the-clitoris.com/oldforum/old_discussion_forum_2005.html | 49/1438042988962.66_20150728002308-00048-ip-10-236-191-2_742405584_0.json |
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