It has been almost ten years. My pursuit of happiness was complete when four years later he stood in my hallway on his knees asking me to be the one for him, and him for me, in what they say, through thick and thin, in sickness and in health. This perfection I felt was unstoppable – it was a high. But what goes up must come down and as fate had it, in 2013, my husband and I lost the most precious gift granted by Allah, so precious that the story is too sacred to share…We were broken. That hope we once felt shredded into pieces and that happiness dissipated.
I remember collapsing on the roadside in Melbourne when grief took over me, he picked me up and held me, telling me over and again “It’s going to be ok love, I’m here...” This man that I married, is not dissuaded by adversity, only encouraged by the love he promised me when we got married five years ago.
Loss makes us reevaluate what and who is truly precious and importantly, how we spend time with those who are here with us. I don’t want to spend the finite time I have in this world looking back in despair and yearning for things that has yet to happen, instead it is my mission to return the kindness, patience and love of this man who has given me nothing short of everything.
I’m one of those lucky ones who married her high school sweetheart.
We got together in 2004 after a year of courtship. I was still very unsure about him back then but on his side, he was certain that I was THE ONE. I remember on my 17th birthday, he wrote to me saying that he WILL propose to me at the Eiffel Tower in Paris someday. The 17 year old girl in me freaked out a little but I shrugged it off immediately. That’s what they always say, don’t they? But fast forward ten years later, guess what? He surprised me with a trip to Paris and kept true to his word. He proposed at Parc Champ De Mars with the magnificent view of the Eiffel Tower. As cliché as this may sound, I felt like the luckiest girl alive and it was the perfect proposal. A year later, we had the wedding of our dreams (#kimjas2014) and we’ve never been happier.
What’s even better than my proposal is our marriage now. It’s NOT all butterflies and rainbows but it sure feels close to perfect because we always made it a priority to accommodate each other in any way we can. We learnt a lot through our 10 years of on and off LDR. And we both tried our best to be the best version of ourselves for each other. That’s why people think we fit like a glove. Truth is, we made us fit together.
How many times have I witnessed him go out of his way to make me happy. With him I’ve learned that true love is all about selflessness...and it’s totally worth it.