@LittleMissSlothy posted a new topic, subject "I feel like I'm incapable of romantic love at the moment". It read:

   I don't know I've been on a dating site for two months max now and there I'm not really feeling capable of romantic love.
    
    Maybe just pure sex but that would require alcohol which is not a good idea long term. And anyway sex on its own probably is not for me.
    
    There is a man I like at work but that wouldn't be a good idea. Plus I don't feel myself around him.
    
    Just rambling really I feel lonely.

@LittleMissSlothy replied

    I think I might be capable of it but just feel a little unworthy at this point in time for it

After which, @Naarai added

    Sort your own personal issues out first - before you take on some bloke. Im not saying your crazy, but do you really want a man in your life thats gonna fart in bed in the morning and drink all your tea?

Then @LittleMissSlothy said

    And drink all my tea lol

@Naarai replied

    Hahaa, Well coffee then. You know what i mean.

After which, @LittleMissSlothy added

    I'm just so bored of waiting to be perfect. My issues are my weight n hair treatment.
    
    That's why I thought i would start searching now n just keep it WhatsApp til I feel comfy in my body.
    
    I came across two guys so far.
    
    I might do open relationships at least for a while

So @LittleMissSlothy replied

    Honestly I used to have the best bf ever he was so needy like me, but also confident so not afraid to express it.
    
    I lost him last year (he's not dead we just ended it due to practical reasons)

After which, @Aziz added

    I can't get out of my bed or house and I live with my parents so its impossible. I need to improve my sz negative symptoms first. Someone here told me I shouldn't date bcz I will make my wife depressed by always staying in bed, I guess its unfair for her.

@Aziz replied

    Why do you need alcohol for sex? Sex is better without alcohol or drugs.

So @LittleMissSlothy replied

    It relaxes me during sex

So @Aziz replied

    LittleMissSlothy:
    
    > relaxes me during sex
    
    You feel anxiety? Social anxiety?

To which @LittleMissSlothy replied

    Yes ideally I want to end up not needing alcohol
    
    You're right Aziz

After which, @Andrey added

    In the years pre-illness I came across 2 married women whom I liked, for different reasons.
    
    The first one's husband was cheating on her. But when she invited me over while he was away on a trip, I refused. Told her I would've hit her up had she been single, she replied we weren't compatible and that was that.
    
    The second one had a stable marriage but she was very energetic and wanted more sex. I took her out to lunch, during which I realized I couldn't bring myself to sleep with a married woman. She felt disconsidered and said I didn't know how to treat women. I paid for that lunch btw.
    
    Conclusion: I am unable to get involved with married women. I am ok with less commitment ie casual relationships, but not if she has somebody else.

So @Gecko replied

    Sex for the sake of sex is pointless imo, but to each their own

So @LittleMissSlothy replied

    Yea I would never go for a married man.
    
    I love no commitment relationships which can end whenever and which don't involve me or them getting too involved.
    
    That's my thing atm

Then @ZmaGal said

    LittleMissSlothy:
    
    > I love no commitment relationships which can end whenever and which don't involve me or them getting too involved.
    
    I have a friend who has no strings attached relationships. She's gotten 4 STD's in the last two years. Be very careful!

After which, @LittleMissSlothy added

    Thanks for the concern, don't worry I will be!!
    
    Hiv is no f u k I n g joke
    
    My dad used to warn me even at the age of 6 lol

Then @LittleMissSlothy said

    I think hiv medication is also pretty horrible
    
    In terms of side effects
    
    Then there's the fact that a cold can turn into pneumonia
    
    Etc
    
    I have a passion for healthy immune system
    
    Hiv hijacks the immune system in a cheeky way.

So @Andrey replied

    I also dislike promiscuity. I once dated a girl who said I wouldn't need a condom, but she still gave me an std… I am against open relationships but I accept casual, especially for people with MI. However, ideally both partners should get checked up for stds before becoming intimate.

So @ElGato replied

    Well, you are young still. I've been romantically involved two times in my lifetime and probably don't need a third. Just recently I fell for a love scam on Facebook trying to get my bank account information. They made it seem like the relationship solved all my problems and we were going to get married…

So @Andrey replied

    OMG how shameful for some people to prey on the emotionally weak. One time somebody tried to find out my current address by stating they knew me from a tender age but didn't remember the details, and they wanted to send me their latest book as a token of friendship lol.

After which, @ElGato added

    Oh that's not good giving out your address to a stranger. I'm a guy and a little wary of doing that myself.

To which @Andrey replied

    I'm a guy too but my parents who lived elsewhere had just gone through a dispute with some very shady people and things were still hot in our memory. I assumed the worst so I cut that person short.

So @ElGato replied

    Sorry about that. You don't run into many guys who talk about romantic love, at least from my experience. Good for you though.

Then @Andrey said

    Hmm… of all my straight male friends, most are happily married, the other two are too romantic for their own good and will probably die single

@ElGato replied

    I guess you are right. I'm pretty much a loner now and don't have many friends. My best friend is a young man who is going to be 25 this summer. I'm going to be 63.

So @anon39015889 replied

    Love is so beautiful. Cant wait to have 5 kids and go snowboarding with them while they wear their oversized goggles.

@system replied

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