 be the only way they know to defend themselves.
A typical violent ritual for Zach and Kelly started when he would criticize and condemn her for being messy and not keeping the house clean. She would become resentful and retaliate by criticizing him for not helping. As the conflict escalated, both of them would slip into childhood memories of abuse. She felt threatened while revisiting memories of her father’s abusive criticism, and would lash back verbally and at times physically. He would get overwhelmed with reliving his father’s abuse, so to protect himself he retaliated physically. Ironically, their fighting replicated their own childhood experiences. They were re-wounding each other’s souls in much the same way their parents did. Both saw each other as a perpetrator, an intimate enemy, and therefore violence seemed to be their only way of self-protection.
We chose the word GIFT because it would be a GIFT to you and your spouse to identify the root of your wrath. By tracing the root of your anger, you may be able to share it more effectively with your mate. We challenge you to think about conflict and communicate it, not in terms of anger, but in terms of the four basic emotions that are lurking underneath it.
The second communication technique is a spin-off of the first. This tool allows you to identify certain triggers in your current relationship, understand the feelings these triggers evoke, and attach those feelings to early childhood wounds. This helps you separate past issues from current relational patterns in your marriage. The technique gives you a clear way of seeing how you can confuse childhood traumas with marital issues which cause a great deal of reactivity. It is aptly called The Digging Deeper Exercise because it enables you to find the deeper root of your conflicts.
2. Identify the root of this anger using The GIFT Exercise.
4. What do I do when I feel this feeling? What is my behavior?
5. What do I really NEED?
1. What does my mate do that triggers my anger?
When Zach criticizes me about how dirty the house is, I feel put down and devalued.
2. Identify the root of my anger using The GIFT Exercise.
I feel put down, and hurt, the roots being --- Inferiority and Trauma.
3. When have I felt this before?
As a child, when my father would constantly criticize me and order me to do chores, but would never help me do them.
4. What is my response?
To get angry, yell, and not do what was asked in rebellion.
5. What did I really NEED?
To be encouraged and complimented for what I do accomplish.
When Kelly does not clean the house as I have asked, I feel that my needs don’t matter.
I feel unimportant -- that I don’t matter. The roots being---Inferiority and Trauma.
When I would come home from school, often my father would be drunk on the sofa. The house would be a wreck, and he would make me clean it. If I didn’t, he would beat me.
As a child, and now, I would hold in my frustration, and eventually explode.
To feel like Kelly is on my team and that she cares about how I feel.
As you can see from this exercise Zach and Kelly’s responses to anger worked against each other. Both saw that they were responding to the frustration in their marriage in much the same way they responded as children. Zach would take it until he exploded, and then yell at Kelly. She would yell back, and then just ignore his implied or verbal requests for change. They both felt threatened, misunderstood, and disregarded. Their deeper feelings were inferiority and pain. As they began to work through this exercise, they could see that they were triggering each other’s soul wounds. They were doing and saying the very things that would hurt each other the most. It became obvious to them that their responses to anger were actually fostering violence in their marriage.
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The tents and huts have all the modern conveniences of hotel rooms with a bit of 'glamping' flavour. Cosy bed linens are provided, private showers include towels and toilets are clean, heat and electricity are furnished and there are plenty of sockets to charge your devices. Fresh milk, bottled water, eggs, cake, tea and coffee making provisions are stocked in most units.
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If you must cross muddy (or snowy) terrain to reach your hut, you must then prevent tracking mud/snow into your unit. Bring an extra towel to wipe Fido's feet and wellies for yourself to remove prior to entering - or face paying additional fees. If you can't keep pets off the beds, bring your own bedding.
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If you find your neighbours are unruly, tell the hosts. Noise is expected to stop after 10:30 pm as a rule.Here's a few i posted on another thread

* Goo Pea, has similar radius to the GW1 Berry shooter, 30 impact and 15-20 splash, holds 8-10 shots, same effect as the Moto-X Star's ability silencing
* Honey Flower, holds 50 shots, same Rof as Shadow Flower. similar damage to Power Flower, same effect as the Moto-X Star's ability silencing.
* Snowflake/frost flower seen in Great white north
* Toxic Sunflower variant "Rad Flower?"
* Magma Citron, can't think of a good weapon name, it would be a semi-auto variant that fires a projectile similar to the Paleontologist without splash with a bit more damage to compensate, holds 20-25 shots. Would be a lemon, color would be yellowish like Iron Citron in iron mode with a shiny black obsidian "peel"
* Storm Rose, electric rose variant, would be a white/light gray color and have a cloudy cloak. Weapon named Tempest wand, fires semi auto faster projectiles with standard (maybe less) homing, and damage similar to frost rose, has 20-25 shots, would have a meter that brings the damage up to base rose damage. Standard max bar effects and turns into a black rose with dark cloudy cloak when the bar is full.
* Wraith Chomper, ghostly white or pitch black chomper that temporarily turns invisible (not invincible) after eating a zombie, effect wears off if you attack, use an ability, or take a certain amount of damage, does 20 damage per bite, 150 health, one digestion upgrade replaced by phantom upgrade, using both damage upgrades brings it back to 25.
* Engineer/footsoldier detonation variant named "Demolitions Expert" similar damage to capt. Cannon or petrified cactus with a slightly slower projectile.
* Some electric All-Star variant, fit it into soccer star or laser tag maybe.
* Cryogenist/Dr. Freeze, wears a cryosuit, has an infinite ammo weapon similar to the Roadie Z, freezes enemies at about the post ner Frozen Citron rate. Less walk speed and 25 more health to compensate for close range and act as the armored scientist variant.An ageing population, earlier diagnosis and advances in oncology treatment are contributing to a rising number of cancer survivors in New Zealand. This is placing an unsustainable pressure on oncology services, which has led to the announcement of a new national framework for managing people with cancer. The new model of care focuses on a wider level of involvement in cancer care, for a more diverse range of clinicians, using a tiered approach to treatment, based on patient needs. It is likely that primary care clinicians will play a role in this new framework, which is to be implemented within the next three to five years