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[Topic ID] 86 [Post ID] 461 [Date & Time] 2005-08-26 14:32:37 [Post Text] 
God do I know what you're talking about! I had my first orgasm at 24, that's less than 6 or 7 months ago. I had decided a few months earlier that it was about time to have my first one and so loaded up on lots of info from books and websites but just didn't get there. I finally brought my self (with a little pushing from my bf:)) to try a vibrator. My advice is order a Hitachi Magic wand (amazing!!), and check this website for more info about it www.bettydodson.com/newhom2.htm I honestly love this woman, it was because of her website and the women there, not to mention her book Sex for One. I had my first orgasm within 2 or 3 times trying. After around two months with the vibrator, I decided I want to learn to orgasm using my hand but was abit anxious seeing a lot of people said it's hard after using a vibrator. The first time I tried it worked! I think it did because I wasn't expecting it. Because at that point I knew what an orgasm felt like, I tried to go as far as I can and then try again later, no stress, however turned out I went all the way. I understand your frustration of trying to masturbate... my biggest problem was never knowing where I am going with it and then once the hand is tired enough, you quit. With the vibrator it is easier to go on and very hard to miss the spot as with the hand. As to all the hype about getting addicted to it, I have serious doubts to that. And in the end, an orgrasm, no matter how achieved, is way way way better than none. PS. Come clean with your bf. If you want to have orgasmic sex later on, very likely you'll need help from your hand or vibrator. How will you explain your sudden need to do that? I personally use my hand and I love it, my bf loves it and no more discomfort and frustration at the end. And don't limit yourself to the idea that you should come from penetration only. Just a suggestion, to avoid trouble with your bf, you can tell him you suspect you're not really orgasming and confused about it. If he questions you why now after all this time, maybe something like "I finally read a scientific description of what it is like" would do. And do read one! I found the one in the book Woman's Orgasm by G. Kline-Graber and B. Graber very helpful. If you want I can give you a summary! I hope this helps *HUG*
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