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[Topic ID] 32 [Post ID] 970 [Date & Time] 2006-01-06 00:47:33 [Post Text] 
[user=301]six[/user] wrote: " My advice is this - sacrifice your personal comfort for someone you love, even if it's only on special occasions. And here's the kicker - pretend you enjoy it. There's nothign worse than feeling "well, she's doing it, but she sure isn't liking it". You can tell him not to come in your mouth (he'll probably agree and do it anyway), and you can stipulate the "spit" rule, or even finish off with your hands. Girls, men enjoy being the centre of attention just as much as you do. " My advice is exactly the opposite. When you find out your partner is faking it, it's a HUGE let down. Even if you don't get off on what you're doing, you should still enjoy getting your partner off. If it's so bad that you have to fake enjoyment, then don't do it. EDIT: I wanted to expand on this a bit. Faking it depends entirely upon the situation. If you are into casual sex, then it may be better for the immediate mood if you fake it a bit, or play up the situation to avoid awkwardness. If you love the person you are with, then by all means do NOT fake sex. Dishonesty is the biggest killer in a romantic relationship. In a loving relationship, the best intimacy is achieved through communication, honesty, and open giving. There is a huge difference between openly giving and grudingly giving. Even though some particular sex act may not be your favorite thing in the world, if you openly give it out of love, then it can be a pleasurable thing, especially if you find arrousal in the act of pleasing your partner. If you grudgingly give, it will show in the act and make your partner feel guilty for what amounts to deriving pleasure from your misery, and that is a total mood killer. If there are little particular aspects about an act that you don't like, there is almost always a work-around, and if you both love each other and are secure with one another, you should be able to communicate these little things and your partner ought to be able to work through that. One of the biggest complaints about oral sex is taste (and honestly, I think it's less a complaint than it is an unfounded fear). If you have good general hygiene, which everyone should have anyway, oral sex should not have an unpleasant taste or smell. Obvious exceptions might include urinary tract infections, yeast infections, or menstruation, but those are all temporary issues. Oral sex is also very sanitary (the mouth has far more germs than healthy genitals)
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