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[Topic ID] 12 [Post ID] 30 [Date & Time] 2005-04-12 08:38:50 [Post Text] 
Hi, I recommend exploring anal massage first, no penetration. You need to work on relaxing the muscles and getting accustomed to the stimulation. Many women are surprised to learn how sensitive this area is, if explored gently and slowly. Guys are perhaps more inhibited about anal play than women, because of the false believe it is something only gay men do. Apply tons of lubricant first. Run your finger around the anus in light circles. Press in on the side of the anus with the pad of your finger and then release. Don't put your finger in the center and try to push in. Get the muscles to relax first. If your partner or you don't enjoy this part explore some more but don't try penetration. Once the anus relaxes press in deeper on the side of the anus and slowly allow your well lubricated finger to slip in. Again test the waters, slowly in, slowly out. This should perhaps take an hour, massaging the buttocks and vulva or penis in alternation. When one to two fingers go in you may want to try using a tapered butt plug. Well lubed allow it to slip in slightly and then allow the anus to press it back out. Repeat this in and out very slowly until the plug slips in. Plugs come in small, medium, and large, but small and medium are probably all most need. Once you get the plug to slip in all the way explore other types of sex, massage, oral, and perhaps intercourse. Be aware in the case of women their pelvic cavity is already partially filled and putting something into the vagina may not be as easy or requires more care. Plugs allow women to explore double penetration with a single partner. Before anal sex it is a good idea to climb in the tub or shower and rinse the anal area and slip a finger inside your rectum to see if you are empty. Lubricating the anus may allow you to expel any contents or you may need to inject a small amount of warm water; use a Fleet enema bottle that you have empty the contents out of, as it is& too harsh for anal play. If you use water you may want to do this a couple hours prior to anal play to make sure the water is fully expelled. The more water you use, the more time you need to wait. Fecal matter is a normal part of anal sex, so be prepared, for at least trace amounts. It comes with the territory, but is seldom mentioned. The pleasure experienced usually makes this fact insignificant. You may want to do this activity laying on a bath towel and have a wet wash cloth nearby too. Anal sex is considered a high risk sexual activity as far as STD's& and STI's so condoms and surgical gloves are a wise idea. The gloves will reduce friction and likely make it more enjoyable for both. If you are dating and not using a condom during vaginal intercourse it is still wise to use a condom during anal intercourse, and makes cleanup easier. Brad
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