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[Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 802 [Date & Time] 2005-11-12 09:14:56 [Post Text] 
Hello I understand the need to research the condition before replying as it is little recognized in general even among doctors. I am already a member of both the yahoo vag groups and post there regularly. It was from one of those groups that I found the clit.com website. I had my first orgasm at 18 and it was quite by accident. I have read what orgasms are supposed to feel like in the clit.com website and these do pretty much match, The build up with that weird tangy feeling starting in the clit and spreading outwards, then the sudden jerk and the pelvic throbbing, I even feel the little muscle contractions in my vagina when they happen and they are explosive in mind as well as body. I know the record for orgasms is 100 in one hour so somebody in one of the vag groups said so I don't come anywhere near that. Still, they can't be anything else. I used to only have about one or two a session and it gradually became higher as time went by and I got better at it. I suppose I'm still& able to have all those orgasms despite the vag& because: A. When I had my first one, I had no idea I had vag and so wasn't mentally aware which is why it didn't affect me. I was 18 then and only found out about the vag at age 22 by which time, I was already having quite a number of orgasms in one session and had become quite trained in it so to speak. B. There is no pressure for penetration when by myself. It is something I just don't have to worry about and, if I do try it with fingers etc..it is on my own terms and that was only after months of practising dilating with fingers beforehand so that I was comfortable with it. C. People often think that vag women must be frigid with is false. They are usually perfectly capable of experiencing arousal and orgasm through alternative means that don't involve penetration. I never orgasmed with my ex mind. As for the treatment, I'm having psychosexual counselling although I only had two sessions up to yet. Up to now it has basically been talking about my childhood, growing up, events that happened, trying to find anything that could have triggered the vag and then maintained it afterwards. Also, I have homeworks on improving my self image like choosing certain body parts I am ok about and pampering them...looking at my vulva and identifying all the bits etc...things like that. I wasn't clueless about my anatomy or anything although I certainly wasn't familiar enough with my own vulva and did have a certain degree of an aversion to it which I am working on. I still don't use fingers to stimulate myself, I use other things. My sister doesn't have vag but, she too, has this same aversion. I'm being forced to face mine whereas she probably never will. "You are functioning on one level in that you are able to achieve sexual pleasure through stimulation of your clitoris. It is just penetration you are having pain with - is that part right?" Yes, thats right. I don't mind the idea of a partner a little older than me, in fact I prefer them a little older than younger. Still, I worry that they are too used to having problem free penetration with previous partners& and that they wouldn't want the bother of messing around with me and my problem. Also, if anybody shows an interest in me that I actually like in return, I wonder why they'd look twoce at me, I see them as being out of my league, thus, I'm too petrified to do anything about it or even let it show that I do like them and then they think I am not interested. I will go to that link you provided now and have a read. Thanks for replying. Still, I have researched all of this a lot myself and with the other girls in the vags groups, it is the opinions of men about this condition that we lack, especially us singletons. Some of the women in the groups have partners or are married and the vag can prove to cause some serious problems ranging from arguments about not getting sex to the man& actually cheating on the woman or leaving her because he can't cope without intercourse any longer or the man developing impotence due to a fear of hurting the woman and, sometimes, bluntly blaming the woman for it. Makes single vag women like me feel pretty hopeless about finding a good partner.
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