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[Topic ID] 78 [Post ID] 417 [Date & Time] 2005-08-09 16:27:49 [Post Text] 
Hello and welcome to the group J. You dont mention how old you are or whether you are in a long term relationship or have children or not so my answer will perhaps be slightly vague for you. Firstly, you are not alone. Many women, myself included, go through a phase where nothing works in the orgasm department. Stimulation gets dull and you get to a point where you want to so badly that you just cant orgasm. Have you tried using a vibrator? In the past, this method was the only way that I could orgasm. There is nothing wrong with trying it out to see how you get on. I shared my experience with my partner and he was really happy because the self assigned pressure to please me in that way was lifted and things changed. The female orgasm starts in the mind. Do you fantacise? Daydream? Talking about what turns you on also can be a good way to overcome the mental block that occurs and stops us from orgasming. Smoking pot when you were younger would not have an effect on you now given that you are capable of having an orgasm through masturbation. So I wouldnt worry about that side of things. I cant orgasm through penetration alone. Many women cant. Explore you body. Slowly. Dont let having an orgasm be your goal each time you masturbate. Try touching your skin more in other areas, inner arms / legs, thighs, breasts and any place else that feels good. Use gentle strokes on yourself and ask your partner to massage you as well. With out touching your vaginal or vulva areas at all until you cant stand not being touched there any more. See how you go with trying that. You can do this alone or with a partner. Build up the sensations. Try stroking yourself with different textured objects like a feather or an ice cube. Hope this helped a little There is nothing wrong with you and you are certainly not alone. Our cycles change and hormones do too. Each woman is different. But not putting so much emphasis on haivng an orgasm certainly did help me. And then when it finally happened it was all the more mind blowing and special for me. Princess
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