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[Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 649 [Date & Time] 2005-10-06 10:57:40 [Post Text] 
Hi, My response was based on the numerous e-mails I have received from women or their partner who attempted penetration despite the pain on numerous occasions and found themselves dealing with psychological issues not just a physical or medical ones. Since we are told& intercourse is suppose to hurt the woman in the beginning couples may ignore the pain. Pain always indicates something is wrong, that something potentially harmful is occurring to the body.& Pain during first attempts at intercourse usually means the hymen is still partially blocking the entrance to the vagina, the pelvic muscles are in contraction, or there is not enough lubrication. Less often it indicates a medical problem. For most the muscles may be only a little tight and expand with little trouble and the hymen is thin and tears without effort. For others the hymen will not tear and needs to be surgically removed, or stretched slowly over time. If the pelvic muscles are tight that indicates they are not healthy, as healthy muscles are strong and flexible. Forcing entry likely worsens the state of the pelvic muscles and poor muscle tone will lead to problems in the future, lack of friction during intercourse and loss of control over bladder. It is better to learn Kegel exercises to learn to relax and strengthen the muscles. The problem is worsened when the girl has been raised to believe she just has to lay there and things will magically happen and the pleasure and rewards are automatic. This topic is addressed in more detail on the pages about virginity and the Q&A section of the website. Brad
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