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[Topic ID] 180 [Post ID] 907 [Date & Time] 2005-12-19 05:40:57 [Post Text] 
Birthcontrol and antidepressents are known to 'sometimes' lower libido and could impede orgasms.. antidepressents more so than birthcontrol but that's as far as i know I can tell u though that I experienced my first orgasm while on the pill (around 6 months into it) so there is hope. You should also check if 3 months are enough for the antidepressent effect to go away, seems to me like little time. Still, from what u're describing, she's getting close to orgasm, and masturbates so looks like the 'desire' part is fine. I hated the expression 'just let go' when i was after my first orgasm bec u dont really understand it if u never had an orgasm before. Even after the first one, I hard a really hard time at first getting to orgasm. It was basically just what u described, getting close and then it stops, i try and try till i get tired. sometimes it works and sometimes i want to punch the wall. See if she's tensing her vaginal area without noticing. Very likely she tenses up because she's nervous if she's gonna have an orgasm or not. When she gets really close, she can try breathing in deeply and focusing on relaxing, in particular relaxing the muscles around the vagina. Once I taught myself to relax my vaginal area (I literally almost talk to myself) the sensation increases immediately and orgasm is easier. With time, it is getting easier. Something else that could work: try to find something that really turns her on. Personal sex videos do that for me. Watching them I come after 5 minutes (once twice in 10 minutes), normally I would take half an hour or so! And I have to mention this over-stated fact: the more she thinks about the orgasm, the less likely she is to have one. My suggestion to get around this, forget about it, and try to compare (by giving marks over 10 for example) how intense she's feeling RIGHT NOW. Can she get it a bit more intense? then a little bit more? and so on. Maybe that well help her focus on NOW instead of LATER (=orgasm) Hope some of these suggestions help. PS. I learned to orgasm with a vibrator. It took the exauhsting hand-work out of it. After two months with the vibrator, I tried with my hand and it worked once I knew what I am after.
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