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[If you want to say…] “Why aren’t your shoes on yet???” […try this instead.] “Here, let’s do it together….” or “It’s time for shoes. What do you need to do first to take care of that?” [Why it Works] 
If you have had to tell a child several times to do something and it isn’t happening, it may not be about the child. Maybe your expectations are off. Telling the child to do it again isn’t going to change anything. Rather, you need to do something differently. Most likely, the child’s failure to follow through is her way of telling you that she is having trouble orienting herself to the moment, prioritizing, focusing, etc. Breaking down the steps, walking the child through it, or helping the child organize the task will facilitate the process and meet everyone’s needs.
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Why it Works