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[Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 632 [Date & Time] 2005-10-04 07:26:53 [Post Text] 
Sorry if something like this has been assessed before. I used search, but found nothing. Kind of need direct advice, anyway. Right, I've been going out with my girlfriend for about a year now. She's a virgin, (hence the thread title) and we've been trying since about the second or third month. No amount of lubrication seems to change anything- it's like pressing up against a brick wall, and the slightest amount of pressure hurts her a surprising amount. If I get her to the brink of orgasm (through oral or rubbing), I can manage to get one finger inside, provided I get it wet first, and proceed like I'm playing a game of 'Operation'. Yes, I have tried keeping her at this point, and trying with both my fingers and dick. No dice. She's 18, and I'm a few months behind her at 17. I'm not a virgin, and I've deflowered a virgin before without much trouble (just ruling out the "are you in the right place?" question.) I think that some of it may be a psychological thing, as well. She gets visibly tense when my penis touches her vagina. Can't say I'm sure of the reason for this. Hands and tongue are fine. No flinching at all there. I'm probably not her ideal size (I'm a little over 8 inches, while she's a small girl in all aspects) but I doubt that it actually scares her. Hopefully. There are some positions that should make it easier for both of us that she will absolutely not try, usually ones where she'll be in control of all movement. That makes things a little more difficult. It’s beginning to get more and more frustrating for both of us. She cries about it occasionally, as she seems to think it’s her fault, as much as I’ve tried to tell her otherwise. She’s thinking about going in for a Hymenectomy, which I’m thinking may be a good idea. It is quite difficult to keep it up for an hour and a half on top of a woman that’s close to tears with no stimulation at all, moving into her at the speed of continental drift. Just a few general things- she doesn’t (and won’t) masturbate, she uses pads and not tampons (they never used to be able to fit. I at least seem to have stretched her enough for my finger. Unfortunately, I have very skinny fingers), she is on the pill (painful periods) and as far as she’s told me, has not been molested (not that I asked). Right. Suggestions? Advice? Vaginismus? Questions? Seemingly random accusations of me forcing her into it? Anything's appreciated.
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