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[Topic ID] 63 [Post ID] 364 [Date & Time] 2005-07-24 22:31:11 [Post Text] 
Hi, It is unlikely about you. Men are only human. There can be numerous reasons; that he has recently ejaculated so has nothing to give, simply doesn't desire too,& at the time is insensitive to oral stimulation, or is unable to surrender control at the time. If you place too much pressure on him he may experience performance anxiety and this can prevent ejaculation as well. If he is on medication like an antidepressant that can impair orgasm too. I just got back from a convention that porn star and sex educator Nina Hartley gave a presentations/demonstrations on cunnilingus and fellatio. She had an agreement with her ex-husband that she would& perform fellatio& any time he wanted, as long as he came within& ten minutes,& that was her limit, because her jaws started to ache; she also can't deep throat, her limit is about 6 inches,& and values her gag reflex more than her desire to be able to perform this sexual act. So even experts have their limits, as do their partners. So don't& perform fellatio to the point it is unpleasant for you; it probably isn't fun for him at that point too. Nina tells the men to masturbate on her tits if they cannot ejaculate within a time appropriate for her. You might value the times he does ejaculate in your mouth rather than there frequency. If he can only do it once& a month then see it as a special reward rather than as a poor reflection on your abilities and attractiveness/desirability. If it happens& less often& it should be valued more, like Christmas. If there is a problem with technique, the way to find out is by watching his reactions, and simply by pausing to ask. Nina said if he is hard you are doing something right. You might find approval in the erection and pleasure you give him rather than the ejaculate he gives you. Brad
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