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[Topic ID] 185 [Post ID] 920 [Date & Time] 2005-12-24 06:52:22 [Post Text] 
This is a contribution I made to the now-defunct allaboutsex.org, a Web site primarily for teens. Despite the title this is suitable for all ages. Enjoy! --- First, let me admit, yes, I'm a guy. So I hope some of you girls out there will correct, update, amend, and fill in whatever I may have missed or gotten wrong. The Mons Veneris, "Mound of Venus," the center of a girl's body, the center of the Universe, really, since it's where we all got our start. It's a beautiful place to visit and explore! Let's start at the top, at the clitoris. A firm, smooth "nub" of flesh, surrounded by a softer "hood," the clitoris is exquisitely sensitive, so sensitive that prolonged direct stimulation may be unpleasant. It is one of the two main sources of orgasm in a girl. The clitoris, like the rest of the vulva, should always be petted with lubrication, applied by hand or tongue. You can also stimulate the clitoris by massaging or pulling on the labia - gentle tugging or pulling will stretch enough to give quite a bit of pleasure. Stroke with your fingers firmly up past one side of the clitoris, down the other side, not quite touching it directly, but pulling enough as you glide by. Your girl will appreciate variety and creativity in your touch - always remember that any one touch that feels great will turn annoying if repeated too many times in a row. The clitoris responds better to direct stimulation by tongue than by hand. And of course, if you are lying on top of your sweetheart or have your penis in her, the pressure of your body on her vulva goes right where it should (which is why the clitoris sits on top). But probably you haven't really started here. Most girls appreciate some "warm up" time spent on the labia first. These are the two sets of "lips" to either side of the vagina, the outer or labia majora, and the delicate inner or labia minora. Start gentle petting or licking on her labia, remembering to use the most gentle possible touch until you feel her become wet and ready for a firmer massage. Lubrication is essential! She may or may not provide enough to be comfortable, so if you don't feel her wetness, offer either your tongue or another lubricant (KY jelly or something made for sex). The outer labia are sort of a transition between the rest of her body and her most sexual areas. They form excellent padding to bear the weight of another body during intercourse. They are covered with hair, which acts as a dry lubricant to protect against friction. Most people, I think, enjoy the vulva more if some or all of the hair on the labia is removed, either trimmed short, or shaved or waxed. As a special treat some time you may want to offer to trim your girl's "fur." As you work, you will be rewarded with a delightful view of her labia, and can watch as drops of "dew" collect at the entrance to her vagina. The outer labia can be massaged either by pushing with the palm of your hand, or tugging one or the other between your thumb and other fingers. As you progress in your erotic massage, and as she becomes more aroused, increase the pressure or the pull. Use two hands to pull her labia to both sides, opening her wide. The inner labia are very different - far more sensitive to touch, giving almost as much pleasure as the clitoris. They can be stroked up or down, or pulled out one at a time between thumb and forefinger. A special treat during oral sex is to suck one flap into your mouth and gently tug and massage at the same time. There is a sort of a groove between the inner and outer labia, a nice place to run your fingers up and down. I can't say this often enough: be creative and use variety in your touch. Three or four repetitions of any stroke is just right, then change something - a different side, a new direction, two fingers instead of one. The inner labia taper at the bottom and are rooted at the entrance to the vagina. Push a finger against the opening and move it in circles - you will feel both the greatest possible softness, and under that, some very powerful muscles. A good firm massage at her vagina will be appreciated. You can spend as much time as you want pushing a finger farther and farther in. Take your time, don't just plunge in right away (well, OK, plunge in!) - as you push in deeper, also push out against the sides of her vagina, massaging along its entire length. Use both hands to give a good stretching massage; it's very erotic to be "opened up," as long as it's done with love. As you go deeper into her vagina, you will find the inner counterpart to her clitoris, the internal source of orgasm, or what is popularly called the "G spot." This is not so much a spot as a region. Don't worry about finding it: with your finger inserted all the way, press with your fingertip and you will be there. Move your finger or fingers in circles, pressing up to the top of her body and also side to side, and you will have her well on the way to orgasm. To go all the way to orgasm, or orgasms (damn! I'm jealous), use one hand inside her and the other on the outside, massaging her vulva. She may want you to concentrate directly on her clitoris or she may prefer firm pressure with the palm of your hand going in circles, massaging her entire vulva (and pulling on her clitoris). Experiment! Discover! It is also possible to push your tongue inside her. You will not reach nearly as far as with your fingers, but you may be surprised at how deep you can get if you really stretch out. When the time comes, you will discover enormous reserves of strength in your tongue muscles! As always, use variety: push in, then take her left labia into your mouth, then the right, then lick circles around her clitoris while you push your thumb into her vagina. Where are you all this time? Next to her? Over her? Is she on her stomach with her legs spread wide? One delightful source of variety is to approach from different directions. Not only does this allow you to user your hands in different ways, but it puts the two of you in contact. The feel of your body against her is an essential part of love-making. One of my favorite positions is to lie next to my girl, on her right if you are right-handed, left if left-handed. Use one hand on top, and place your other hand under her buttocks, with your finger reaching up to her vulva. This allows you to massage and also to penetrate with finger from both hands at once. You can give a great deal of delight by pulling up on her labia with one hand and down with the other, or firmly massaging the opening to her vagina with both hands. Her vagina is not the end of our journey! Below the entrance to the vagina is her perineum, a very soft and sensitive region that is worth petting. Just a little further and you will reach her anus. This is one of the most sensitive parts of the body, with as many nerve endings as the lips. While almost all guys enjoy anal stimulation, not all women do, so be sure to ask. If she enjoys it, massage her anus with your fingers or tongue. She may enjoy having you put one finger in her vagina and one in her anus. It is also possible to reach both at the same time: with a finger pushed as deeply as possible into her vagina, the finger next to it can touch her anus. The contrast between these two powerful entrances to her body can be very exciting for both of you. I've talked about using your hands and mouth to give her pleasure, but of course, if you are a guy (or a very creative girl), there is also your penis. This is a whole topic in itself, but just a few reminders. It is very delightful to massage along the length of her labia with the head, or glans, or your penis - this should send both of you through the roof! Remember that even if you are not planning to "go all the way" that this type of play carries all the same possibilities for pregnancy or STDs as "real" intercourse, so know what you are doing! There is much more to a girl's body than her vulva, vagina, and anus. Some girls say they can orgasm by having their nipples stimulated (I can only imagine!). And really, she wants to be made love to from top to toe. Enjoy, take your time, try something new, and love her to pieces.
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