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[If you want to say…] “Because I said so!” […try this instead.] “Why do you think we might need to do it that way?” [Why it Works] 
This response usually signals that we have entered into a power struggle with our child over something pretty basic (putting on shoes, jackets, etc.) The child might be simply refusing to find power. Asking the child what she thinks turns her into a participant in the moment, rather than an object to be controlled. On the other hand, if the best response you have is “Because I said so,” it may be a sign that you need to let it go. Maybe you chose a battle that doesn’t need to be fought.
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