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[Topic ID] 159 [Post ID] 903 [Date & Time] 2005-12-14 11:04:16 [Post Text] 
Hello, thanks for that. A lot of girls in the vag groups had mentioned about the pushing out to help open the ring of muscles up so I do use that approach along with other things like breathing deeply and kegels just beforehand. I knew not to contract the stomach muscles, my therapist said you shouldn't see or notice anything happen with your stomach. I find that I can make the muscles relax further by jiggling the dilator or my fingers around once inside. This sort of soothes them and I can then insert the object even further. Another women also mentioned she does this and it helps her as well. As for pushing things in with force, no way. Too scared of doing that and it hurting too much. I also warm the dilator up because there is nothing worse than inserting a freezing cold object. As for inserting things anally, nah, that does not appeal to me in the slightest. I have IBS which can cause problems there, I would definitely not be tempted by the idea of anal sex...ever!!!! I sometimes feel the muscles around the anus spasming when I try to pass a stool although this doesn't always happen, it does happen involutarily and is more of an inconvenience and annoyance when you want to hurry up because you are late for work and the stool is ready to come out otherwise and keeps trying to. Anybody else noticed how you suddenly need to go to pass a stool when you are in a rush to get off somewhere and then it insists of taking its bloody time and holding you up? LOL!!!! Still, vag is just one problem and, with this progress I am seeing, probably the easier problem to overcome. My BDD, obsessive skin picking and sexual aversion (Partner sex, that is)& will be a bit more difficult, I think. I have another therapy appointment tomorrow. I'll let you know how it goes. She'll be pleased I got onto #3 but I'll not have& much good news to tell her about improving my social life, not like I haven't tried but people I know are useless when it comes to motivating them into doing things.
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