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[If you want to say…] “I have asked you [3, 10, 100] times not to do that. You’re going to get hurt! Stop!” […try this instead.] “I notice you’re doing X, I’m worried about Y. What do you think?” [Why it Works] 
Our kids are never too young to start thinking about the natural consequences of their actions. Modeling and encouraging them to notice and think about the social, spatial and emotional relationships among themselves and others teaches them about the world, rather than simply forcing their behavior. It’s the difference between supportive parenting and micromanaging.
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Why it Works