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[Topic ID] 122 [Post ID] 1803 [Date & Time] 2006-06-26 15:30:54 [Post Text] 
My girlfriend and I had the same thing happen to us. We had been together for a year when we decided to try. It just wouldn't work. I could see that she would get nervous as soon as my penis touched her vagina. We often had outercourse rubbing her clitoris with my penis. I had fingered her before but she was reluctant to try fingering unless she was extremely excited and forgot to be scared.& She had heard all the stories of pain and blood and women who dislike sex because it's painful. She is not one to go looking for information about sexuality and didn't know anything about it when we met. She hadn't really dated prior to me, nor did I. She had never experienced orgasm, probably never really been excited to be with a guy. I knew that pressuring her to do it wouldn't be enjoyable for her, likely leading to less intimacy than if she turned around and asked for it. We tried a few times in the last few months and I could tell that she wanted it but her body wasn't letting her. She told me once recently that she did want it and was disappointed that she couldn't. She is orgasmic and I love eating her. I showed her some links on the-clitoris.com even though she squirmed a bit looking at some pictures talking her through it really helped. The newest page on finding the vagina had perfect timing for us. I did get my finger inside and she had to learn that the feelings she was afraid of were new and not necessarily pain, though she did know what hurt. I also asked her to squeeze her PC muscle while my finger was inside so she could tell when she was tense and relaxed. This weekend we experienced intercourse for the first time. After extended foreplay that involved shaving her pussy and slow going she accepted me inside her. She said it hurt a little when it first slipped in. Then it felt good. I didn't move at all at first. I let her wiggle as she learned what would feel good. As she got more excited she let me move just enough that she could feel it. No thrusting, just a little movement. We were close together with me on top. It felt amazing. She could feel my erection soften and harden during our movement and rest. Being so close together and excited she actually came which surprised me, I was probably rubbing her clit a bit in that position. Orgasm was actually quite painful for her as her muscles contracted during. Soon after she asked me to come out so she could relax, as I was still aroused. She finished me off and I came like never before. We snuggled and talked about it. She didn't bleed, she said it didn't hurt as much as she thought it would with the stories she had heard, and she actually enjoyed it. She thought it was her hymen that was causing the trouble. After reading this site I decided it wasn't. I think it didn't even tear, but we don't know right now. For those guys that are experiencing trouble with sex and your woman. Sex is something you give to her, you can't take it. If you don't feel her apprehensions and love her like there is no other, she won't be comfortable enough to accept you. Position was important. Use your finger to explore and ask her what feels best. Getting your dick in the right place for her isn't as easy as it seems if she is sensitive. Take the time to excite her, wait until she asks you to try. For a woman who is sensitive, or unprepared, you can't rush things. Take your time. There is no need to rush. I don't mind spending hours naked with her. It's not HER problem it's BOTH of yours. If you don't accept that, I don't know what to tell you. If it's not working and you don't know what to do except stick your dick in her pussy get a clue and learn something. I started learning about sex as I got older because I was worried that when I did meet a woman (I didn't date at all due to shyness) I would likely have to measure up to other guys that she had been with. Even without experience, I thought the knowledge would be helpful. I researched a lot more when we found out it wasn't going to work as easily as we thought. She's 24. I'm 28. We have lived together for a year and met a year and a half ago. Neither of us really dated prior, let alone had sex. I do have one regrettable drunken experience. I would do anything to take that back to give it to my girlfriend as she waited. I will marry her. "Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth."
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