{"experience_type": "Current Experience", "emotion_type": "anxiety", "problem_type": "breakup with partner", "situation": "I'm planning to divorce my husband and I'm anxious about how it will go because he controls the money and we have children.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "Hello! How are you tonight?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "hanging in there, kinda freaking out a little", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear you are freaking out. Perhaps a friendly listening ear can encourage you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Why are you freaking out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I think that'll help, yeah", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes just a friend to hear you out and encourage you can really make a difference. Life has its ups and down.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I decided to leave my husband, he keeps snapping at me and won't listen to me or let me do anything", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a difficult decision you have made.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I'm worried how it'll go though because we have kids", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you tried to talk to him about the problem? Or a counselor?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I've tried to talk to him about the control issues, but he doesn't listen. He doesn't know I'm planning to leave and I think he'll try to stop me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have worked at a domestic violence shelter before, the most dangerous time to leave a situation like this is when you leave. Do you have a plan in place?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I have some leads on apartments and some savings I'm putting aside, and a friend I plan on living with", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My husband used to be very controlling as well, I dragged him to counseling. He changed. He bucked at first, but eventually he went. We have gone a few times off and on over 20 years. We both came from broken homes.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I haven't got 100% of the details worked out yet, but I'm trying", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Has he hurt you physically? or is he mainly emotionally abusive?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "He hasn't hurt me physically", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I often feel like he would but I'm also a child abuse survivor so it's hard to tell if that's true or just a memory", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad to hear that. I can understand that you would be really stressed at this time, however, I do encourage you to get a good plan in place, and definitely get counseling.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I think that's the best idea", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, I had child abuse in my life too, I really think counseling saved our marriage, 3 times. But like, I said, he didn't want to go. However, the first time, I did leave and stay with a friend, and that convinced him I was serious.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "that's a good thought, I wonder what he'd do if I stayed with a friend", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I wish I could fix this, but I can't. The road will be rocky and I don't know how I would have made it without people to encourage and support me, so I'm glad a friend is willing to have you stay with them until you can get on your feet.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "hey may not realize I'd leave at all", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "me too, that's making all the difference", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My husband really loved me, but coming from a broken home, he lost his mom when he was 12, so he thought controlling me was the solution, very messed up, but he had to learn to see that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "definitely that makes sense", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He feared I would die or leave him or something, but once he saw that, and realized what he was doing was hurting me and making me want to leave, he changed. But honestly, I have never understood men and why they dont' see life the way we do. Sometimes it takes that objective person to help them see it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I'm not convinced mine loves me, looking back it's beginning to seem like he was draining me for my income and labor", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ouch! That sounds painful to look at.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "it is, I think I was super wrong about him and overlooked red flags", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "People who truly love others become willing to change. Sometimes it takes a DRASTIC measure to wake them up, like leaving. He has not heard you, so many he will \"hear\" it when you leave. But please be careful and have a plan.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "How long have you been married?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "eight years, together for 11", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a long time. I will say a prayer for your safety and for you to get some help, hopefully he will join you. Marriage is a lot of work, but it can't be one person, it has to be two.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Don't leave anything in writing around until after you leave.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "absolutely!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "definitely no paper trail, for sure", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I believe in the power of prayer too. The Serenity prayer is a good one to help me let go of my fears and do what I can, leaving the rest to God.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I know that one, it's helping me a lot too", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If I worry and get upset, then I waste energy, I have had to learn to get distracted if I find myself on that worry train, call a friend, go for a walk, just not obsess, it goes nowhere.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "And I urge you to get a counselor.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "that's good advice!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I will", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are welcome. Watch your thinking, when it goes off track, take charge, change your thinking, get up and move about and do something else because it's not healthy for you to worry. As you said, you freak out, and that is not good for you or your children.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "definitely, I think I can do that! I feel a lot better!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's a rough situation, it will be difficult, you seem very intelligent, have thought about this, are working on a plan and are able to discuss it. That's a big plus on yoru side.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you! I'm feeling a lot more confident!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad to hear it. Keep the faith, all will be well in due time! Sometimes rough roads really work out, but it never FEELS that way! You have a good night! :D", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}], "seeker_question1": "This was a great task", "seeker_question2": "The website was very easy to use!", "supporter_question1": "I did like how I connected with the lady. I could identify with her problem and encourage her.", "supporter_question2": ""}