{"experience_type": "Previous Experience", "emotion_type": "anger", "problem_type": "breakup with partner", "situation": "I can't stand him!!!", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "Hello. How are you doing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I used to love my boyfriend, but now I can't stand him. Why has this happened and how to break up with him without hurting his feelings much?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What changed to bring you to the point you can't stand him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I just find him extremely annoying. How he walks, talks, breathes even... I should have walked away from him earlier.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He is very respectful, committed, sweet and loving, but I just don't feel anything towards him anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like a really difficult and uncomfortable situation to be in.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "How long have you been together?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, it is.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We've been together for 3 years.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And he wants to get married and have children. It makes me anxious. I'm not ready for those things.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's good you know where you're at and what you do, and do not, want.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to be him anymore???? How do I break up???", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't want him to hate me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "When ending a relationship, we're not responsible for the other person's emotions. Whatever they feel, they feel, and we can't control that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "You need to do what is best for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "How about me? Will I regret breaking up with him? I've became a better person since we've met.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You might try talking to him and seeing if he has any awareness of your unhappiness, of you discomfort with his pushing for marriage and children when you're not ready.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I feel guilty to hurt his feelings and at the same time it pisses me off even more!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "A good friend once told me that all normal, sane people feel guilt when ending a relationship when they're not happy. There is no pleasure in breaking someone's heart, especially when they haven't done anything really wrong.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "You're right. I should talk about it with him openly and tell him how I really feel.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you're maybe not 100% certain you want to end things. That's where talking to him becomes important.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Maybe I'm afraid of being alone. Maybe things could have been different if it weren't for COVID. Maybe we spend TOO much time together.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And, if you do have a talk with him and later it becomes clear the relationship still can't work, it won't hit him as such a surprise when you choose to end things.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "And, if you do have a talk with him and later it becomes clear the relationship still can't work, it won't hit him as such a surprise when you choose to end things.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "COVID has put a huge strain on a lot of relationships. People are stuck spending way more time together than they are used to, and there's really not much to do about it right now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you so much for listening me out and for wise advice. I will talk to him, tonight.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that's a good decision. I hope the two of you are able to come to a better understanding of where things are with your relationship.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Aw thank you! :)", "speaker": "usr"}], "seeker_question1": "No.", "seeker_question2": "No, all was fine.", "supporter_question1": "This was an excellent conversation. I enjoyed my engaged partner.", "supporter_question2": ""}