{"experience_type": "Previous Experience", "emotion_type": "anger", "problem_type": "breakup with partner", "situation": "Internet Porn & live webchat dating sites", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "I'm looking for support in regards to a recent break up", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My boyfriend/fiance seems to be a serial and or chronic masturbator", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "When I looked at his files in his computer it was shocking!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you there? I am seeking some support in this crazy world?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "The thing is that his files contained really gross porn and live webcam sites. What should I do? When I confronted him he said it was not him! He lied so horribly! I am heartbroken.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I also found out that he has had many different profiles on facebook that are just covert operations. What would you think?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Please tell me what advice you would give? His spam folder is full of crap! all of it like Fuck me here and now!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello there are you there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "sorry i'm here", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I have checked his email folders and we have talked about his over the top usage of porn and online dating sites. He has admitted that he is in fact a sex addict! Should I hold on or should I let it go? Just find someone else that I can actually trust?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "First of all, I have a fre questions to ask", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Does the idea of him being sex addict change how you feel about him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "What's the fre question? what is fre?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Not necessarily . Just the trust issue really.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would say you should cut tie with him. Being into porn is a serious issue but what's more important is he lied to you about that", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "We've known each other for years and have been friends for a very long time.. We dated on and off and things just seem to always go back to this weird off place.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think you can also feel it yourself that there's something not right between you and him", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I appreciate your thoughts.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you don't think I should give him another chance?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "This is a wake up call for you I must say, to get away from him", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I think you should sit down and tell him to take a break, this doesn't mean completely break up but some time for both of you to think it over", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I feel like I really can't trust him and find myself looking through his computer and phone questioning things. makes me feel crazy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand how you feel, it's not easy to get over this feeling", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Is this a clean site or do people use it for porn chat?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's why you need some time for yourself to think whether you can forgive him and try to help him or not", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I know . That sounds like great advice. Hard to pull off during the pandemic though.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "To be honest, watching porn is normal, however, I feel that if someone is too into it, as in watch it more than 1-2 times a month, it's problematic and won't be easy to fix", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Do you live with him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Ah. I think it's more of a real issue when it comes to controlling himself or using sites because he was single for so long. He is currently staying with me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You can ask him to stop doing that for you, if he really cares, he will try", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "His latest obsession has been 3d printing. I have found weird sites with ' funny'' dildos on them in his feed and stored data. Do you think he might be gay?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Like humor I understand but...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "goodness", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "stored data with adult printed groups on fb! dildos with star wars themes. Immature stuff. IDK.?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That you have to ask him, tell him to have an honest thought, no judgement, be completely honest with each other", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "He laughs when I show him mens underwear. I think maybe that's a sign he's uncomfortable. What do you think?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, laughs can definitely be a sign of someone getting nervous", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Does he have any close male friends?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yep That's what I thought too. He does have a few close male friends. Nothing that looks suspicious though.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Whether he's gay or not, it's hard to say just from a few things, but what's more important right now is for you two to sit down and talk", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I wonder if there is a way to find out why he joined all of these weird servers and is trying to learn code. Is it really for 3d printing or is it to make a secret platform to hide his data etc?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe it's just simple as he tells you, but you have to talk to him.There is no use sitting here and let all those thoughts and questions consume you", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Have you ever used jatos? or done any surveys for the universities?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're actually pretty good at this!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What is jatos?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's a link I found while searching but it turns out to be a server that is used for studies.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "oh interesting", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "JATOS", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just use my experience and try to help", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "just another tool for online studies", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is there any problems you need help with?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I think that You have helped me allot. Thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "no problems", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}], "seeker_question1": "", "seeker_question2": "", "supporter_question1": "", "supporter_question2": ""}