{"experience_type": "Current Experience", "emotion_type": "disgust", "problem_type": "Issues with Children", "situation": "My eleven year old daughter is being difficult right now. Won't pick up anything, spends all day on the computer or on her phone or tablet, isn't focusing on school, won't eat anything other than mac and cheese and chocolate.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "Hello there, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi. Quite frustrated with my tween daughter!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah that can be a very difficult age. Is it anything specific or just general?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "She doesn't listen to anything I say. She loves to play on the computer and tablet and her phone but when it comes to something simple, like turning off the light when she's done in the bathroom or throwing away a candy wrapper, she won't do it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well ... to be honest it doesn't sound very terrible. Most children that age do things like that ;)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "She doesn't seem to think that it's wrong to thrown her dirty socks in the living room instead of the laundry.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I guess so.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well, it is a bit anti social but there are a lot of worse things she could be doing :) I was pretty slobby at that age too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I'm 53 so going through menopuase while she is going through puberty.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "True.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just wish she would take some pride in her things and herself.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah that's a bad combination. I hear you on the menopause thing. Do you think maybe it is making you more touchy? It is me!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "She hasn't showered in a week and hates to brush her hair.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you thought of offering rewards if she smartens up a bit?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Sure, that's probably true.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that once she hits puberty she will probably change her feelings about showering etc a lot :).", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Teenagers tend to get very very involved in their appearance :D I used to spend an hour in the shower each day", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Unfortunately I have spoiled her rotten so that she has most everything she could want (well, not an I-phone and nintendo switch! lol)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Perhaps you could gently explain to her why it's anti social to not shower for a week?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think she is getting very close to the age where she will pay attention to herself and general appearance, but she's not there yet.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah you have all the fun of her teenage years to look forward to. I would not go through that again :D", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I have, lol.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She is getting much better about putting clean underwear on everyday at least.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well that is definitely something!!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Maybe try to help her take pride in her appearance? Give her some make up lessons?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "She also loves to go through my personal things. Takes my nail clippers. Tries on my blush and lipstick. Looks through my drawers.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that's pretty normal for a tweenage girl :) She's probably starting to be interested in make up and things", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I don't wear makeup, except for rare days where I put on a little blush and lipstick.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't either to be honest but a lot of young girls are interested in it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "She does do makeup and stuff at her friend's house.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are her friends a good influence on her/", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "True. She hates to brush her own hair but could sit for for an hour while I brush her hair! lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, for the most part.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe you could treat her to a new haircut, give her a new pride in herself?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "With the pandemic, we have not been out too much. I gave her a much needed haircut about a month ago. Trimmed off about six inches, but it's still way past her shoulders. We will hopefully go for a professional cut soon. I need one too!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is a very good idea.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh of course I had forgotten about the pandemic. It seems ages since we had normal life!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Agreed!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We went to a sit down restaurant last week for the first time in a year!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well I hope I have been able to be of help and it has been nice to talk to you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Yes, thank you. It has been helpful. I sometimes feel like I am the only one having trouble with their kids.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Heh I promise you are not :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thanks! :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks for talking! (can you press quit first, I can't do it from my end :))", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Sure, will do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "have a nice rest of day :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}], "seeker_question1": "no", "seeker_question2": "no", "supporter_question1": "", "supporter_question2": ""}