{"experience_type": "Current Experience", "emotion_type": "anger", "problem_type": "problems with friends", "situation": "I am angry because my friend judged me for not buying my nephew a birthday gift.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {}}, "dialog": [{"text": "I am very upset", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, how are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Im sorry to hear your upset. Do you want to go into why you are?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "A friend of more than 20 years hurt me deeply by judging me for not buying a gift for my nephew for his birthday.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Why would they judge you on that? Do they know your nephew as well?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, she is very close friends with my nephew's mother as well. She is the kind of person who will go into deep debt and overdraw her bank account to buy someone a gift, I am not. I could not afford the gift, I am disabled and on a very minimal income.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That i can relate too, i am also disabled and on SSI. Have you spoken to her about how she upset you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I did. I took a few days to cool off and then told her that her comments hurt me. I know that she's aware of my financial situation as well as the fact that I am disabled. Her response was that she said nothing wrong.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thats a tough spot to be in with a friendship that has lasted so long. Does she tend to treat you like this regularly?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No, she really never has. Typically, she feels like other people walk all over her and take advantage of her, but that's never been me and its never been our relationship.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Then would you say its a little odd for her to be acting in this manner towards you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes, quite. At times over the years she can become quite self absorbed. But she's never been so downright hurtful. I can't really see a way for our relationship to be the same anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would agree that the relationship is getting a bit toxic but before terminating such a long relationship i would do one thing. I would try to see if there is something going on in her life right now for her to be acting like this. Sometimes people dont know how to talk about something thats bothering then and it in turn comes out as anger or spite.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's true. We've been through a lot together over the years. But I can't deny that what she said hurt, and our conversations are just so superficial now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah to be honest if you press the issue and ask if anything is going and you continue to get toxic responses. It might be time to end the friendship. I would do that as a last resort but there is no need for you to be carrying it one sided and holding all the burden as well. It hurts to have to end a long friendship but unfortunately sometimes it has to happen to keep yourself in a better spot.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thanks. I appreciate your help", "speaker": "usr"}], "seeker_question1": "No, very helpful suport", "seeker_question2": "no", "supporter_question1": "Once again i dont know why they ended it due to partner reasons we had a great conversation", "supporter_question2": "Well you need to be able to check this for bonuses as they might not understand how to get out of the convo"}