{"experience_type": "Current Experience", "emotion_type": "depression", "problem_type": "breakup with partner", "situation": "My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce.  I have been super depressed.  My house is a mess.  I have a small business that I have let go.  I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation.  I need help getting motivated again.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi there! I'm glad you're here", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "hi", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes legally married", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Care to share what led up to filing for divorce?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "She cheated.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And as far as I know is still with the person", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can certainly understand how that feels. I have been in your EXACT situation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It's horrible and hard to move on for sure", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How long were you with her?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Don't laugh", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Our one year wedding anniversary was this past Sat. Which I know I shouldnt be so miserable but I am. I think because like some people have told me we were still in our honeymoon stage. We were not fighting or having big issues....she just cheated", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that. You realize this behavior, these choices, are a flaw within her, and not you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It's hard to see that. I feel like a failure and not good enough", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Like why even get married in the first place if you are just going to cheat", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can completely understand that as well. I blamed myself for quite some time as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Ya you wish you could go back in time and change things or never get married lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "When you go to bed at night, if you can drift off to dream with a clear conscience, then you're doing significantly better than her!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "What are you doing to take care of you during this time?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Not much at all", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel like I'm in a funk and can't get out of it. My house is a disaster. I have a small business I am not in the mood to work on....I\"ve been slacking in everything", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are important! You matter! Why not do something that is relaxing to you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I do need to do something", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you have any post-it notes? Or paper and scotch tape?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I do", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Here's what I've done for myself, and other folks that are close to me, going through struggles...", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "ok", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Jot down inspirational messages and hang them up on the bathroom mirror, refrigerator, car, etc. \"You matter\", \"You deserve the best\", \"You are the shiznit\", etc", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "the shiznet lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I will try that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I need to do something", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Then, for the tasks that might be getting a bit behind, make a list, in order of importance -- and include a little reward for each task completed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thats a good idea", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We have to take care of ourselves. After doing it for awhile, it just might become second nature to ya. And -- if continued, will show gals in the future exactly how you expect to be treated because they'll see you taking care of you (and not settling for nor accepting any doodie)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I know I keep telling myself if I get my act together (physically, financially, etc) that I would attract better people....the kind I want to be with", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Whether you \"have your act together\" or not, it's up to you to determine who is worthy of being an active part of your life.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Very true", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ok well thank you for talking to me and the help", "speaker": "usr"}], "seeker_question1": "I didn't like having to talk about it but it's reality", "seeker_question2": "I think it's great", "supporter_question1": "enjoyed it completely", "supporter_question2": "not at this time"}