{"experience_type": "Current Experience", "emotion_type": "anxiety", "problem_type": "problems with friends", "situation": "One of my oldest friends is extremely insecure. She's been this way for a long time, but fear and immaturity have made it worse recently. It's become super frustrating to have to constantly reassure her that I love her, and she's really my friend, cause her insecurity makes her doubt anyone could love her. I'm anxious about it.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "hi", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I'm dealing with a lot of frustration and anxiety.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Frustrated and anxious", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh I understand how that can be.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Would you like to tell me about it?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Ok. I have a friend who I've known a long time, who is one of my closest friends, but who is extremely insecure. She constantly seeks affirmation that I love and care for her, even though she should KNOW I do, since we have been friends for so long.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand how that can become a source of frustration after a while.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Would you like to share what pushed it beyond the normal point today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's just been an ongoing thing that has escalated recently because she's so afraid and timid and doesn't believe anyone could really love or care for her. I get sick of having to say that of course I love her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can relate because I also have a close friend that seeks constant reaffirmations.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Have you spoken with her about this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have. I address it every time it comes up. She always sells herself short. Recently I suggested she could babysit my kids, she agreed, then almost immediately said it was ok if I had someone better in mind, and didn't want her, even though I had asked her!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "do you talk to your friend about it?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes it is very difficult to see yourself through someone elses eyes when you undervalue yourself.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I know it may be difficult to remain patient when your friend repeatedly does this, but maybe you could explain to her that it makes you feel like she is mistrustful of your opinion when she second guesses your taste in friends.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, I know. Until she finds her self worth, it doesn't matter what any of her friends say to her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have actually told her that. That it seems like she doesn't trust me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Possibly explaining it in a way she can relate to would be helpful.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I did in fact speak with my friend and it helped our relationship quite a bit. We continue to be very close 20 years later.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It's frustrating to me and gives me anxiety because I wish I could change her to see herself the way I, and others, do. But I know I can't make her see her self worth. That's something she has to find for herself.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's good to hear about you and your friend.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can feel your frustration just by our conversation, and I too wish that she could see that you value both her and your friendship enough to reach out to someone that can just listen. Don't forget that your feelings are valid as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I know they are. And yes, she's dealing with a lot, but we all are, and it would be so much better for her if she could trust the people who love her to actually love her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes you have to take a step back and fill your own cup.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Indeed. Thank you for your input.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you think a break would help you feel better able to deal with the demands of her friendship?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Do you think a break would help you feel better able to deal with the demands of her friendship?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It has been my pleasure! I trust you will make the right choice! Best of wishes!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Not really, because I'd just worry about her. She needs someone like me to look after her. I'm kind of the Yin to her Yang. Thank you for your time and conversation!", "speaker": "usr"}], "seeker_question1": "The Supporter was often cliche in their responses.", "seeker_question2": "", "supporter_question1": "I did not like that I was unable to scroll down and see all the text in the information boxes.", "supporter_question2": "I also disliked having to choose my method before texting a reply and then having to confirm it a second time."}