{"experience_type": "Current Experience", "emotion_type": "anger", "problem_type": "problems with friends", "situation": "My friend created a separate chat for planning hangouts and did not include me.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello there, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Kind of angry and disappointed.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm very sorry to hear that, did something not go as planned recently?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My friend created a group chat for planning activities and did not include me. She included people who are closer to me than to her. Almost like she is trying to steal my friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. So when she did this, it gave you the feeling of almost being replaced or abandoned by your own social circle?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "In a way. I was disappointed by the rest of them but mostly angry at her. It almost feels like she wants to be the leader of the group and feels like I am her competition.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's definitely frustrating to feel that your support system could possibly become a source of stress and competition anxiety. Especially since it's where we're supposed to feel safe and unjudged.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Exactly. They are supposed to be the people I can go to with my problems. Now I feel like they all had a secret which I wasn't privy to and it made me feel disconnected and untrusting towards them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds that you're a person who really does care about keeping the relationships they've invested in healthy and open. That care level can definitely cause natural anxiousness in situations like this, when the place you stand with them and what they're thinking suddenly feels uncertain.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I am a bit of an idealist. I like for everyone to be in harmony, to be nice, supportive, caring, open and honest. I don't know how to move on from this.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Right, and there are endless possibilites the mind can create outside of ideal. But funnily enough, the imagination of an idealist that lets them visualize great things can also create equally strong fears before getting answers. And thankfully those fears can be addressed outside of the head where they're made.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Have you tried reaching out to these friends yourself and initiating your own plan with them since this group chat?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I talked about it with one friend. He felt bad but what I couldn't understand why he was secretive about the chat too. If he thought we were close why hide stuff?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Right, it can seem a bit confusing since you naturally would expect to feel comfortable with so much between each other already.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Do you think it is asking too much on my part?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "On the contrary, I think you might not be allowing yourself to ask enough!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Sometimes, the people who are closest to us can actually become even more anxious about how something might affect your feelings. It could be the case with him too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Sometimes I question if it is even worth talking to them about it. People often don't want to say what they really think. Instead they just say whatever to avoid confrontation.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Some people express themselves best through their actions. Have you tried suggesting a meeting for something you'd usually do to see if they're willing to hang out just as always?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Oh I know they would. I don't hang out as much as they all do so that is probably why I wasn't included in the chat. But I didn't see the harm of me being in it even if I couldn't make it to most events. I guess it's the secrecy that bothers me. It makes me a bit paranoid about what else do they all know that I don't.", "speaker": "usr"}], "seeker_question1": "The partner stopped responding", "seeker_question2": "", "supporter_question1": "", "supporter_question2": ""}