{"experience_type": "Previous Experience", "emotion_type": "depression", "problem_type": "breakup with partner", "situation": "I recently found out my partner had been unfaithful to me and I don't think the relationship will survive.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "hi! how's your day going?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hi there, I really need someone to talk to. My partner has been cheating on me and I feel totally worthless.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "oh my goodness. I'm so sorry to hear that. when did you find out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Only very recently. I answered his phone and it was her! When I confronted him he admitted it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that's a hard way to find out. are you still in the same house?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes because for financial reasons we have to be. Our relationship is really strained though and we are sleeping in separate bedrooms.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i can't imagine what you are going through, but separate spaces sounds like a very good idea to me.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It is made worse by the fact that we are in lockdown and so can't really see other people at the moment. Do you think I should try and break away for good?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "before you take any action, i'd ask myself what are your options?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "you know that his actions have very little to do with you and more to do with him, right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Well, I could move out but I can't afford to rent a flat on my own. I'd have to move in with my parents, realistically.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I keep telling myself that but I feel really betrayed. I keep wondering what she is like and whether she is prettier and more successful than me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "are your parents supportive of that idea?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have not really talked to them about it. I feel a bit ashamed having to admit to them that my relationship has not worked out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it's not about her or you. it's about him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "But I can't help thinking that perhaps I did something wrong that made him stray?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "they will understand. opening up to them will be the hardest part. it's a shame cocktail, but it's not one you made", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Do you think that there is any point at all in trying to mend things at this stage? He has promised he will not see her again but I don't think I could ever trust him.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it's in our nature as women to ask \"what did I do?\" but it is never about us or anything we did.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you, I am really glad that you understand. I don't feel that I will ever be able to trust any man again!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "trust and vunerability is huge in a relationship. i'd look for professional help if you wan tot try and work on it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I can't really afford professional help. And I don't want to be a burden on my friends. I worry that I am already annoying them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "do you have a friend who has been through a similar situation? sometime that helps. also, sharing your burden with someone does NOT add to their burden", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I do have a friend who has been through the same though ironically it is a male friend whose wife cheated on him!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "my guess is he felt the same way you are feeling right now", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes. It is just such a deep betrayal. I think I could have forgiven him if it had just been a one time mistake but he had been seeing her for ages.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "watch the brene brown video on youtube with the cartoon animal about empathy - it should help when looking for friends to rely upon", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "grrrr. that would make me angry too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It is nice to have things to distract myself from the things that are making me feel terrible. Do you have any other suggestions for distractions?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just keep thinking that every evening when he was returning home with me and with every nice thing he said he was being false.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i'm totally into the podcasts \"a slob comes clean\" basically it's about getting your poop in a group", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Hmm that sounds .. interesting :D. Is that a metaphor?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that's so hard. imagine how much energy he had to use to keep his lives from colliding. he couldn't find a better use for that energy?!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I know, right!! Do you think it would be helpful for me to try and talk to this woman and see how she feels? I dunno if she even realises that he was in a committed relationship", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes! LOL but it's been helping me focus my anxiety into being a bit more productive", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Anything that will help me with my anxiety is worth trying at the moment.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "what do you want to hear from her? is there anything she could say that woudl make you feel better?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "NO!! she's not going to be able to help you unless you need a witness for divorce court", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It would be less of a betrayal, I think, if she did not know about me. I would never do that to another woman!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "she likely knew, othewise how would he explain all the time he spent with you to her?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I suppose that's a good point too. I think maybe I do just need to make a total break and not look back.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do appreciate you talking, you have helped me to see things a great deal more clearly than I previously did.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "glad i could help. please stay safe and no matter what you decide to do, you will be fine.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you and the same to you! Have a nice rest of day.", "speaker": "usr"}], "seeker_question1": "", "seeker_question2": "", "supporter_question1": "", "supporter_question2": ""}