{"experience_type": "Current Experience", "emotion_type": "shame", "problem_type": "Appearance Anxiety", "situation": "I can't get a haircut due to pandemic, my hair is a disaster.   I'm getting older and things are sagging.   I am too shy to go on camera for my zoom meetings.   And afraid to be rejeected once i am ready to date again.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "4"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hell, How can I help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm ashamed of how I look which makes me anxious when I have to attend zoom meetings, I have to leave my camera off. It feels like cheating!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am badly in need of a haircut due to the pandemic...my short layered hair is now shoulder length shag lol...I hate the way I look right now and it gets me down.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Initially, I used to feel like that and never shared my camera but I know I can do all the time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "oh really? how long did it take you to get up the nerve....its been months and months of mic only for me lol...and the silly thing is the people i'm zooming with aren't particularly attractive so I shouldn't feel ashamed.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "When I saw many people were sharing camera and they didnt care about anything - few sitting in room full of mess but they dint care.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "in person i am much more confidant...would like to care less.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "care less about being on cam i mean", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "some people look so comfortable and relaxed! I just get seized up with anxiety", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "correct - it is just our mind thing which stops us not to share but once you start sharing you will feel confident.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Once you dont care what people think you will be more confident.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "You will also be used to it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "maybe i should take the plunge...it seems so silly to me because logically i am not in these meetings to impress anyone", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "maybe i'll pick the least threatening meeting and start there...one that's a smaller group", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You can also try different backgrounds in Zoom which will improve the way you will look.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "oh really? I haven't experimented with that. maybe I can get a friend to practise that with me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that's a good idea", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Correct - you can start with your colleagues and then slowly you will start sharing in other meetings.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "no problem - practice always helps. Start small and then go big.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "its hard I'm getting older now (50's) and its hard seeing my appearance go downhill. But at least it's happening with my other friends too lol. Gravity is a bitch!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "what age group are you in?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am nearly 50 as well. People over 50s looks better and I am sure your appearance is good as well. It is just thinking.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "hmm yes....my attitude and self defeating thoughts....i need to work on that, thank you for your encouragement", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It is all inside and outside appearance doesnt matter", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "You know you're right there", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "All people over 50s are graceful - honest opinion.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "maybe it's like a lot of things for me, that always seem worse until i try them, then i'm like \"what was I so worried about\"", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "No worries about anything and enjoy life.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "100% agreed - Initially, all looks difficult but by the time all becomes easy and we become so used to it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "first world pandemic problems lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i can't wait to have meetings in person again, so much better than zoom", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes this will be over soon and we are also used to it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "but i'm grateful we have zoom in the meantime, zoom's better than a conference call", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "100% agreed - In person is always way better than remote", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "amen to that....it being over soon....we have all had to be so very patient", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "thankyou for your help today. so I will first practise with a friend, and play around with backgrounds. then I will take the plunge in a low-key small meeting and see how it goes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sure it will be under control before end of 2021 - Optimistic.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "yes me too :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "ok thank you again, stay safe and be well. appreciate your help! bye", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "we just have to wait and follow all the guidelines.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "indeed", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "pls let me know if you need any help on sharing camera", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}], "seeker_question1": "", "seeker_question2": "", "supporter_question1": "", "supporter_question2": ""}