{"experience_type": "Current Experience", "emotion_type": "sadness", "problem_type": "breakup with partner", "situation": "I found out my boyfriend went to see his ex and I don't know if I should break up with him or not.", "survey_score": {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}}, "dialog": [{"text": "Hi! How are you this evening?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm very sad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I found out my boyfriend went to see his ex", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear you are sad. What's going on? Maybe I can encourage you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Ouch! So he wants to see his ex? Basically he is breaking up with you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "How long did you date him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No, i hacked his facebook. He told me he was going to hang out with friends. but i found out he lied", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "we have been together for 3 years", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he doesn't know that i know", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm so sorry to hear this. You must be full of all kinds of emotions now. What are your plans?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "i don't know yet tbh.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i have never been cheated on before.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "we also live together so it's complicated", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand your frustration. It happened to me before. And I've had girlfriends. They never change. They will apologize because they got caught, but they never really change.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "But, how do I know for sure if he did cheat?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's going to be very painful for a while because you have been invested 3 years in this relationship. Do you have friends to talk to that can encourage and support you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "The messages were about meeting up for a photoshoot at the brooklyn bridge.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "is that cheating because he lied", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I find if they flirt, they already have cheated. Loyalty is something inside a person, or not. Very few will look inside themselves and see why they do this and want to change. If you were married, you would need counseling.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Do you meet up with your exes?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "i'm still friends with many of my exes, but he knows that and we all hang out together", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "thats why it's weird that he lied", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He lied because he didn't want you to know the truth. Which is betrayal.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "also, when he gets home, how do i tell him how i found out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i mean, i literally got into his facebook without asking", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i just had this intuition that he was being suspicious", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's a hot mess, is it not? Why did you feel you wanted to spy on him? Did you already mistrust him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "well, it was weird that he got so dressed up to go hang out with friends", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it makes sense now that i know he went for a photoshoot", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ok, so this is a HUGE red flag to you. You can ignore it, or not. Women KNOW when a man is cheating, so you had that inside of you. And you went with your hunch and now you have found he is dishonest.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Was the photoshoot to have pictures of him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "yeah, she's a photographer", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "she took all his headshots when he first moved to America, actually", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "when they were together", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I suppose it could be Christmas pictures of him for you? Or not. I personally feel honesty is the best policy, no matter what. I would come clean. I would tell him I sensed trouble and looked for it and found it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i worry that i am jumping to conclusions.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You could be, but then you wouldn't have a feeling of mistrust, you would just be sensing a surprise.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "he may say: you are friends with ur exes, why can't i be friends with mine?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he never said which friends he was going to see", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he also didnt offer to take me with him, though", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i always invite him when i hang out with my exes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He could say that. And if he is lying, do you think he will begin to be honest? You will have to judge for yourself. If he is lying, he will continue to lie. And you will feel it inside of yourself. Is this the first time you felt this way? Or has this happened before?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "never before.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i guess ur right", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm an older woman, almost 60. I've been married 20 years but I had a lot of boyfriends and I can tell you one thing, If they start to look elsewhere, run for the hills, they will continue to excuse their behavior, apologize, say they will change, and it just gets worse. I drove myself insane with worry, suspicion. I wanted someone to treasure me, not cheat and lie. Cheaters don't change their spots.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}], "seeker_question1": "no", "seeker_question2": "maybe a thumbs up or thumbs down instead of rating the messages", "supporter_question1": "I am not sure we resolved anything. She was in a crisis moment.", "supporter_question2": ""}