always ended in a fight: nothing was different.
i was doing the same thing outside of my marriage that i had done inside of my marriage.
i could not change what my husband was doing.
i could not change what he was saying.
i could not change his behavior.
the only thing i could change was my attitude and my behavior.
if i kept doing the same thing and expecting different results, i was bound to fail.
i had not had a different result in one of our heated conversations in 17 years. why would it be any different today?
i knew then that i could not get into these conversations with my husband any more. that for 