rolling over , her eyes closed , she decided that really was the best thing to do . which meant that he was deliberately ignoring her . mila helped her into the shower . `` ... i had to switch mailboxes seven times . '' we were all looking for answers . he was quiet a moment before he replied softly , `` i am sorry you never got to know her . '' its just a matter of taking the time to learn the art . she asked , as if that made some big point . 