thanks for being concerned about me . he looked off to the side and said , never mind . she asked , waving her hands to take in everything around them , and , by implication , the entire city . she knew he was a cowboy from their letters , but she never realized meeting him in the flesh would affect her this way . it is not something you can find in a classroom , this is an intimate understanding of your limits . he had n't grown up with that kind of influence . 