said they 'd had a big fight , she was being unreasonable , blah blah-you know , the stupid stuff guys say when we f**k up something good . '' there was an instant of heat . but it 's all part of the fun . '' `` she did n't throw the bolts , '' he said . um , we dont know what that meant ? and , i would especially like to know why you gave up on life . i know thats news to you , but they did survive . 