she understood when she was younger that it was not her that was causing me to walk away… but as she is growing up i think it has helped.
over a period of the past couple of years, we have fewer (if any) intense episodes where i need to actually walk away. most often, i stand still in place, close my eyes and take slow deep breaths. it is signal enough for both me and my daughter that things are spinning out of control and we need to calm down. we both find our way back to a more balanced state with just that (with that and maybe a short pouty 