hurts deeply and i can tell your hope those few days a month keeps you in faith that he will get past this..i will tell you that my younger brother did this for years with my mother and it never got any better, even with counseling. what did work was on a good streak when he finally worked for more than a month, she had to take tough love and kick him out which hurt very deeply but it was the only remedy to ease her day to day watching him idle and lazy and in a dark room all day acting sick. he was doing drugs at night time 