if you can play you can bring your instrument and have a tune, or you can choose to sit in the audience to listen to a wide variety of players and instruments and await the highlight of the evening, the entertainment from the talented guest band, hired specifically for that occasion. for me, at least for these few years, i try to throw in a little (common sense? he wondered if they got stiff, they were certainly more peaceful in the morning after a cold night. you are doing some serious creating in your kitchen! be willing to compromise, to contribute for a common goal. 