it is good to let people in and say yes when they offer to help. it makes you stronger, makes your roots deeper and your family bigger when you allow others in, even when everything seems so new and sacred. say yes, even when you don’t know what you need. say yes please even when you don’t know what you are saying yes to, and work out when you need to say no and spend some quality time just you and your newly formed family. if no one is offering, work out what you need and how you can ask for that. if you need an hour alone, get it. 