but one minute he was there and the next he was gone . `` do n't answer my question with a question please . the wind was blowing and heather soon chilled . it 's all but useless against someone who just sits tight and thinks . ' too much , and she realized that she might have pushed phoebe too far . we won the game , so my parents stopped for ice cream on the way home to celebrate . '' self-knowledge was a huge pain in the ass . `` i wish you would stop beating yourself up over that . 