but like any dance , at times you will step on the lady 's toes , and at times she will step on yours . '' his neck is a wire hanger that an elephant is pulling on . trying not to laugh , it was just the way they were looking at him . the spirits would understand anything we said to them ; they could even speak our secret language back to us . jumping was our only option- the cave . it was the whimper of a child who is going to be punished . 