won't talk about something when my emotions are going nuts, whether it's anger or pain, because i can't think straight when i'm like that and because no productive conversation will be had when emotions are crazy. i need time to figure out why i'm feeling the way i'm feeling or what i want to say. as for other people...who knows?
there's also asking "is everything not fine, but you don't want to talk about it?"
i appreciate when my girl says that.
and that she leaves me alone when i say that. 