i'm blessed to have some really wise people in my life, and often it's been an honest and clear voice of theirs that has snapped me out of the trap of other people's expectations - whether it's doing a whole lot of 'things' that i think i really should do, or acting a certain way that i think i should act. the correct order is shown below. if the time you spent would eventually helps you to earn money, then i think its a good bet. 