third was to think, i don’t have to care about this. so i carried on as normal, with the additional factor of keeping very busy so as not to look like i am ignoring people and sure enough, the cold-shoulder melted away very quickly and everyone was sheepishly talking to each other again (i think the chocolate cupcakes helped too).
trying not to care what others think too much has been a battle for me since childhood and i think i am finally starting to master it - it's put me in a strange place because i don't care what my parents or in-laws or "people" think (although what my husband 