`` well , it is just a legend after all . he would make damn sure all the blame fell on her . she is going to ... i do n't even know . stop tearing yourself apart over what was very proper behavior on your part . two men played cards by the light of a single flickering candle . so i could make a real difference in the lives of families who were going through what we went through . '' although she would not entirely describe it as a flower . that was way less dramatic than i expected . 