as we entered our red-and-gold bedroom , i stopped in the doorway and gazed around , swallowing the lump in my throat . but i want you all to feel free to be on a first-name basis with me , as well as each other . '' `` we 're just going to stop at the church for a minute . `` especially not the haggis , '' she said . i was using the iron when they came in and i set it down , trying to leave before they noticed me . 