my dad throughout my life during negative situations has often said, "it is what it is". i think i only truly understood this in the last few years. sometimes, sh*t just happens and you can't stop it. you can either beat yourself up about it or you can get up and move on and learn from the experience. there's not always a reason why or someone to blame. bad things just happen.... people change.... it's not your fault, it's just the way it is. it's just life - it is what it is.
i believe things either get better or worse and the direction you take is 100% down to you. 