satisfies much of his urge and he is closer to letting go. sometimes we even go to eat imaginary sweets. we invent the best sweets of the earth!
when i want to shout at my child because he does not tidy his room or practice his piano, i sometimes take a step back and i put my trust in him. i say, “if he could, he could.” in general, my child wants to please me and do well then what prevents him from doing what i ask him? maybe his room is really too messy and he feels completely overwhelmed. i can then find an agreement for us to do it 