and i was learning the hard way that grant 's problem was that he did n't get he did n't have to escape it . id rather he did that than flatten my tires again . he leans forward , resting his elbows on his knees with his head dropped . and it was n't just my own desire for the fantasy wedding that made me insist we wait . but that lack of curiosity did n't stop you from blaming me later , after you ended up in the hospital . '' 