on that front. we separated jobs long ago so we could each try and get things done. perhaps i should take on more of what he does since i am at home all day, but that is hard when i am also trying to keep ahead of the kids as well. yet, with all of that i know i need to address the situation head on or things will just stay the way they are or become much worse. i do not wish for either of these things to happen. i want to have a spice in our relationship which most people can only dream of having. i also want 