to be loved and accepted. when you listen carefully, with you full attention, you are showing your partner, how important s/he is for you and how important is, what s/he feels, says or wants. you don't have to obey your partner or always agree with him/her. many times, s/he is not complaining or sharing a problem with you in order to have solution or agreement. many times, s/he just want to be understood. this simple act of your full presence and listening will give him/her this feeling and many problems will be solved automatically.
& you will know him better in a short time!
you look at your partner through the actual 