standing by your friends when they come out of the closet. things like coming out of the closet yourself.
things which a whole lot of people seem to think they should have some say in; but which, ultimately, are entirely up to you. no matter what people say you should do, what you really should do is choose the course that your heart, your head, and your body tell you to follow.
that way, you will be doing what you need to be doing in order to learn the lessons that you need to learn, and to arrive at the destination you need to arrive at.
there is a school of thought that 