us a story, we can give them an 'answer' - this is what you should do. or we can tell them the story it made us think of - this made me think of me. or, maybe, we can offer a question. we can ask a question to help them think more deeply about what they are saying.
or sometimes when we look at someone, we are quick to judge them - we decide what's going on for them, instead of asking. someone cuts me on line, and i might assume, wow that person thinks they are better than everyone else and they can cut the line. but what if we 