she sighed , then looking into his eyes said : `` it 's not easy you know , to pluck up the courage and approach a complete stranger saying ; oh hi there handsome , you do n't know me but i wonder if you can help . and then after , you still would n't be with me , but you 're saying you wanted a life with me , not him . if i had been born a son , the world would have treated me differently . i whack him with the back of my hand . 