with a duster and a panama hat , the guy would n't be missed in a crowd . he should n't have been cheating on her . '' `` perry is hardly the violent type . '' his words were innocent enough , but the way he said it made me feel as if i were naked . it had come only with a card . `` a part of our tradition is to dine in community each night . `` do you think that with time , you could find it in your heart to forgive me ? '' 