'erika , never hold a gun unless you are prepared to use it , ' daddy always said to me . '' he gave an odd little bow , then added with a wink , `` of course , i 'm also the guy who designed the security system , so they ca n't keep me out . `` your brother says his golf game has improved . but they had to make the attempt . but we should think about it . i even talked to dad but he wont budge either . 