you need to be prepared for things not turning out the way you hope , he said . `` i let them down , '' she said quietly . over two hundred invitations had gone out . it was obvious hank enjoyed picking fights . it didnt flicker and dance on the walls like a fire but seemed steady and brighter . then my wife stepped up to the woman and did something amazing . too bad he was no where to be seen . `` ma'am , '' i said , `` put the gun down . '' 