and he was suddenly very grateful to the board of directors who were timing his every move . and haven gave it every ounce she had . she was thrown to the ground . 'but you remember so little about your own loss - you said that it was too long ago for you to recall . he opened 'i , ' which brought up another identical screen . you remember events one way and so you judge your brother without knowledge of how things were to him . '' it 's what i 'd been afraid of in the beginning . 