other times, we share the day by splitting the day. according to our parenting plan, my ex gets every christmas eve and i get every christmas day. in reality, however, he has them until 7 or 8 christmas eve, when i pick them up and we do our christmas eve box before bed. they wake up with me christmas morning, and i usually drop them off with my ex around 2 in the afternoon, so they can have christmas dinner with his family. we realize that holidays are not about who “wins” the most time with the boys, it’s about the boys being able to spend time with their whole 