something, stop long enough to picture the traffic light with the red light on. then, while you cautiously consider the consequences of what you are about to say or do, picture the light turning yellow. then when you make a good choice, you can turn the light green and go ahead and do or say it – or not—whichever was the better choice. this gives you time to stop, think and make a good choice. it only takes a few seconds. there is power in this process.
another option is to consider how you would feel if someone said or did to you what you are about to do or say 