our oldest cat is 19 and the youngest is 1. remember, i have been doing this for a while. part of that learning is to support one another regardless of the issue that affect us personally. from that time to the present, i have never lived physically separated from my work--and all the pleasures & problems that come with this way of living. your bag full of safety pins, nail polish, extra buttons, stain remover... seriously, you were a day saver on more than one occasion! do i need to have more patience and try over and over again. 