her family might object , even if she herself did not ; certainly it was nothing she had been led to expect . `` maybe we wo n't have a toast from him then . '' she tucked me into a cab and sent me home with a promise to call tomorrow . with ideas , we could plan for the future as well as live in the present . `` if you 're going to be stubborn about feeding from others , then you ca n't be stubborn about this . `` why did you make me do this to you ? '' 