are free to make their own choices, just as we do, and that most people eat differently because they don’t know it’s bad for them. i want them to have grace for others, but still understand that bottom line, the food is not healthy. so far it’s worked — my 4-year-old often says, “other people make different choices” or things along those lines. we are lucky enough to have many friends who eat like us, or at least kind of like us. and many kids around us have some food allergy or another, so no parent is ever offended if you turn something down, and they always ask before feeding 