that you are trying to hide and/or prefer others not know. if you must tell someone something and need to vent, it is best to keep a journal. even with a journal, i caution you on what you write in it because what would you do if you lost it? it will have all your personal thoughts and secrets in it. just be careful.
who should you be taking advice from?
i have learned over the years that there are people who can give good advice and people that can give bad advice. the people who gave bad advice are the ones who never experienced what i experienced and/or was not in 