but , while she works a nine-to-five , my days rarely fit into standard working hours . `` but i can assure you both that nothing happened . you were hungry all the time . i did n't like the idea of passing another night on the beach with all of the dead gulls and fish , but it was probably safer than anywhere else , so i suggested that . it went on like that for a while . she grew up without a father , just like he had grown up without his mother . i was no deer in the headlights . 