at me; her tone of voice."
"i don't need to, because i already know."
"i'd like you to try asking."
(laughing) "she had no idea what i was talking about."
"so what happened was that you saw an expression of some sort on her face, a tone in her voice, decided what that meant without checking that out first with her, and then spent two days chewing it over, ruining your mood, getting ever more upset, only to discover that it was all inside your head... would you say that's an accurate description of what went on?"
(really laughing now) "yes, okay? yes, that's exactly what i did."
i have had this conversation, in various forms, 