i pause at the end of the line of cars . little traction in all this snow was never a bad idea . i needed more room and this gave me a different view and even more privacy . '' it would be like i 'd given him the order to fire . he wanted to exit stage left immediately . she quickly lit it and took a long , satisfying drag . it gave her a healthy way to focus and burn off all that emotional energy . we were able to let our mother tap into our minds . 