you, possibly for several years, before he gets it through his head that you mean it. i'm sure that's not what you want to hear, but it's the truth and i think it is best to be honest so you will know what to expect. say the things that you said here to him over and over and over - that you are making a conscious, informed choice to stay with him and accept him, that you love him, that you want to be there for him and with him over the long-term.
the times when he needs to hear this the most are precisely the times when you may have 