be to give in to them. this is when a normal anger reaction may turn into a tantrum. the youngster learns quickly that this tool they have just discovered is like magic. it gets the youngster what he wants.
as time goes on, moms and dads get angry too and begin to punish, ignore, yell, and, eventually, to give in again. this is why many moms and dads say, "i tried ignoring, but it did not work." you cannot ignore for a while. you must always ignore, in all situations, or it will not work. the youngster must learn that you will never give in to him when he is fussing. 