only happen when you can take initiative and tell someone. we often hold ourselves back when we fear something. so, realize that telling someone else may be difficult, but if you truly want to help yourself, you will do whatever it takes, despite the difficulty.
in order to truly open up to someone about what you are going though, you must first reason with and accept it yourself. you have to identify what is going on and realize why it is going on. truly accept yourself for who you are and what you are going through. if you accept yourself first and love yourself no matter what, then telling another person 