its like that with most people -- you can find more in common with them than you ever think when you first meet them . crap , she was in the living room on the sofa . then two young boys crawled into the light , on hands and knees atop the bone pile . the man replies , 'you do n't understand . i turn to look at him , trying to gauge what might be running through his head in that moment . for the first time he felt as though he wanted to comfort her . 