when fighting is the center of your life and all your tools become weapons, it can cost you absolutely everything you care about.
even when you really need weapons; sometimes especially when you really need weapons.
when all you have is a hammer, then all problems look like nails… but it works in reverse too. if all your problems look like nails, all of your tools will like like hammers. it works that way with weapons, too. if you see everything in terms of physical or social struggle and violence, it’s hard to see your tools as anything but weapons. and that can end up costing you everything you care about.
you have 