in most cases , wed be a lot better off if wed just let go of control and get out of our own stupid way . `` we can go wherever you want . `` what do you think we 're doing here , genius ? '' or smushing it all over their faces and getting it all over their tees . we could be out there fighting with them . all of which i read , to know them better . she struggled to think of a way to bring up the huge elephant in the room . 