we don’t seem to be able to get through life without being ourselves. i can’t remember starting any friendship, or job, or relationship totally as me, there is always that bit of gloss, or that bit of you that you hide on purpose, until we are really sure if it is safe to show. the hardest thing to do for anyone seems to be just being who they are at heart, and not who they want others to see. i have had a rule though out my adult life that i don’t have secrets about myself, and i don’t tell lies, but why is it suddenly alright for me to 