your brain and body to react to a traumatizing experience differently. that is neither natural, nor easy to do. seek help where you can, and maintain a support system, but most of all, serve your child. service is the key to developing love for anyone. your child will–quite literally–need you, so serve them the best you can, do it with a positive attitude, and let the love grow. being a parent after placement is possible and can be beautiful. 