id been right , and this was torture . `` i think maybe we should come for thanksgiving and christmas , or easter , or the girls ' birthdays ... expected times . `` why the hell would i think you were less of a man ? '' he checked the caller id and apologized to me before he turned his back and answered . `` because he 's a good-looking man and he seems nice and i thought it would be great if you got to know each other . '' now that he had one ... he did n't have the need . 