make your message personal – instead of an expensive store-bought card, prepare a hand-written letter in which you explain in your own words “what i love about you.” illustrate with a favorite photo, perhaps showing the two of you at a special site, then frame the page for permanent display. this means you can ask key questions, so that the information that they send you will be what you are looking for. do you want to feel the joy of free moving around the city? as if that were a whole different country. 