`` i just sat there and stared at him for five minutes , and he sat there and stared back for five minutes . he is my father and only remaining family . seeing the answer on my face , his eyes started to shine . he turned to another captain standing to the side and asked him a question . so anyway , i said to him , what on earth do you think you 're doing , and he said ... no , marge . 'because- well , how did you get here ? ' 