i wish grandma could have been here , wren says . obviously we have so much to learn . `` you matter to me , too , '' she said softly . that was where the real genius came in . my voice was as cold as hers was hot . `` what did you do that was so bad ? '' having people in to dinner or going out . why does she seem scared of facing my family ? you do n't even know what you 're looking for . ' 