for a visit with her dad (she somehow always knows) and asks where we were going to go, i tell her “it’s time to go visit daddy.” even if i know it will make her very upset–that she will cry, that she will probably refuse to get dressed, that she may refuse to eat, and that she will probably refuse to get in the car– mary needs me to tell her the truth. does this make leaving for a visit easier on me as a parent or on mary as a child, absolutely not. however, if i were to lie and trick her into going, she would feel that much 