and i have “date night”. it may sound silly to have a date with someone you are married to and live with. but, sometimes you need to make an effort and make a “date” to make that happen. sometimes that means finding a babysitter or shipping the kids off to grandma’s house for the night so you can just be a couple. you don’t have to spend the meal cutting up food or playing rock, paper, scissors. you can enjoy your meal while it’s hot, have a couple of glasses of wine, and actually talk without being interrupted. you can have time together now so that you don’t become “that” 