we have people that drop in without notice we are not embarrassed to have you in.
we also make sure that each day we have our personal and couple time. i have found that this is very important to my husband, he needs that couple time.
my motto is 'if you want it done, do it yourself'. seems to work in our household, we each do whatever we feel like doing, i do mostly the 'womens' type of things and he does mostly the mens but there are no set rules and no arguments about anything and we're both happy. if something needs doing, one or other of us will get round 