i always remind him that accidents are just that and can be fixed (and i encourage him to help with the fixing). he is also getting very good at remembering “try, try, try again” instead of going into melt-down mode.
i just try to model positive thinking myself, to show my kids how to look on the bright side of things, and find the silver lining. we discuss what positive things can come from a negative situation. we sometimes play a game to see who can list the most things they are grateful for. it helps my kids to focus on the things that make them feel happy. life can present 