once upon a time , at a family reunion , i met a married man ... beth to jennifer > > you do n't have to like him to be my friend . his hands were nearly hidden by the deep sleeves of his gold and red robe , and he carried a thick tome . they could send messages to the para-universe . `` it was n't necessary to ask them about any wedding plans , '' her father answered . tell me , woman , was it your wish to die ? 