i think that i have missed it so much that i have started filling our home, in new york, with things to make it as inviting as our other second home. note: advertising is not my choice. it is important for the adult to understand the needs of the child and work towards providing opportunities for child-initiated play. sit quietly and shut your eyes. and when you start to break that down, how much of what we desire is within our own control? as i scanned the playground through my sunglasses, i spotted my daughter in the distance. 