way i can do that, the only way any one of us can cope in a new world, is by having a relationship with someone who is willing to take that step and show you how it’s done, without judging you every time you get it wrong.
imagine your child is an alien being that you wanted to visit earth for a long time. you spoke to her about how wonderful it would be when she arrived and kept talking and singing and loving her for nine months even before you knew who she was or what she would look like. then when she does arrive, you have to teach her 