i am so appreciate for your help and support. and this is why he was never at a loss for something interesting to say to them, or to contribute, at the right moment, to the general talk. hey mat how are you doing!? expecting that a course of action won’t succeed, you might avoid healthy changes in diet or exercise or seeking medical advice. so they did "something" and that screwed up the machine to the point where it needs what amounts to a power cycle. but that comfort and feeling of security was crushing your potential. 