let's try this. it does not need to be the heavy weight, a ten pound weight will do fine. old mind; can you see the way that as soon as this person comes into your presence all the old stories come with it, and the barrier goes up? what happens to that barrier when you remind yourself, 'this is old mind'? in this moment there is just this person and myself. he or she is not hurting me now. can i speak to this moment's person, not all the past stories of this person? can i allow my heart to penetrate into this person and really see their fear and 