and start a fuss, but now that we are home i can’t help but think about what all he has to do every day. i wonder if i should say something to my daughter-in-law. she and i get on well together and i think if i mentioned how she might pitch in more she might get angry at first but then think about it and realize i’m right and maybe start doing some of the work herself. you probably think i should stay out of it but you say in your answers sometimes that you have a son. how would you feel if you saw him working like a dog 