this relationship would be on his terms , unlike their marriage where he 'd allowed her to stay home while he traveled , or permitted his mother to hostess their parties . `` it will be okay , '' he said , but i could n't see his face , shadowed in the dark . as i closed the door behind me , he stood up . he had n't noticed them yet , but they were apparent to everyone else . `` we have no idea if you 're going to be able to go . '' 