Sex advice was a lot more simple in the Eighties , says psychotherapist Philippa Perry in the BBC4 documentary Sex , Lies & Love Bites . The current generation of young people is the most confused about sex ever because of pornography , according to a psychotherapist . Philippa Perry , 57 , has claimed that easy access to explicit videos and images has left many young people unable to have normal and healthy relationships . The mother-of-one added that the problem of young people not understanding the realities of sex is at least as bad now as it has ever been . An agony aunt for Red magazine and The Guardian , she said she comes across problems caused by pornography time and again and that men are increasingly turning to such columns for advice . The wife of Turner Prize-winning artist Grayson Perry , 54 , she said : ‘ These days people educate themselves about sex usually by watching the freely available pornography . They get a skewed idea about sex , thinking women have to be one way and it ’ s all about submission and domination when of course it isn ’ t . ‘ People get the wrong idea about sex and lose their way because of pornography . I ’ m not against pornography but it is not the most helpful of sex education tools . The danger these days is posed by people being exposed too young to a certain type of sex and then they tend to think that is what sex is. ’ This naivety about the reality of sex is different to that of young people from previous generations who turned to agony aunts for advice . While it used to be driven by a lack of knowledge about sex , the problem is now that people are exposed to pornography , often depicting aggressive and violent sex , at too young of an age . She said ‘ it ’ s worse now , but I ’ m an old person so I would say that. ’ She highlighted one case that she encountered of a young man who was so addicted to pornography that he could no longer become aroused by women in real life . She said this is not the only time she has come across this problem and that ‘ it ’ s a huge problem in society. ’ Mrs Perry , who is also a trained psychotherapist , made the comments ahead of presenting a new documentary for BBC4 , broadcasting tonight . Sex , Lies and Love Bites : The Agony Aunt Story interviews advice columnists , from Graham Norton to the women behind Jackie magazine ’ s Cathy and Claire , to looks at how these columns reflect society ’ s changing attitudes , especially towards sex . Perry , 57 , wife of Turner Prize-winning artist Grayson Perry , has claimed that easy access to explicit videos and images has left many young people unable to have normal and healthy relationships . Gayle Anderson , who wrote the Jackie column between 1981 and 1982 , said the internet has changed everything . She told Mrs Perry : ‘ There was no social media [ in the 1980s ] . Now you would google a problem , we were the 80s Google really . They were basically sitting there waiting for puberty to hit , they didn ’ t know what was going to happen . They didn ’ t have sex education , mainly at schools. ’ Sandy Monks , who filled the same role for two years from 1974 , said she saw herself as the readers ’ ‘ big sister ’ imparting advice . This is a different tone from some modern day advice columnists , such as Graham Norton , who answers readers ’ queries for The Telegraph . He said people should not take the suggestions too seriously and oddly implied that women should expect men to cheat on them . Perry interviews Agony Aunts from publications such as Jackie and Red magazine for the BBC4 documentary , airing on Tuesday night at 9pm . He told the programme : ‘ Agony aunts and uncles , across time immemorial , are not always right . You ’ re in an odd position , where you ’ re meddling in strangers ’ lives and you ’ re judging a whole situation by one side , you don ’ t get the other side . ‘ Women overthink men far too much and they think men are thinking when they are not , they are just doing . Most men get into trouble through their wallet or through their willy . ‘ Women think that willies are more complicated creature than they are . So don ’ t feel too bad when it ends up somewhere else. ’ One of the big changes Mrs Perry has noticed in her own column is how an increasing number of men are turning to her for help . She put this down to a crisis in male identity and men struggling to conform to traditional stereotypes . She said : ‘ There is quite a lot of pressure on men to be a certain way and they have more difficulty being themselves . It may be that women have more permission to be a tomboy than a man has to be more androgynous . ’
Psychotherapist Philippa Perry has made a documentary on sex advice . Sex , Google and Love Bites : The Agony Aunt Story interviews advice columnists from Graham Norton to the women behind Jackie magazine . An increasing number of men are turning to Agony Aunts for help . See Sex , Google and Love Bites : The Agony Aunt Story on BBC4 tonight at 9pm .