A Washington D.C. tech entrepreneur has recalled his anger at learning his former Playmate wife had died in a hot tub after a night of sex , cocaine and drinking with her lover . Gary Hensley , 37 , detailed the heart-wrenching moment he found out his wife Cassandra had died and the challenges he has faced as a single father to her two children from a previous relationship . ' I 'll always miss her , ' Hensley told the Washington Post . Cassandra Lynn Hensley , who was named a Playboy Playmate of the Month in 2006 , had flown from the couple 's home to Los Angeles to attend Playboy 's 60th anniversary party in January 2014 . Family : Gary Hensley is widowed and a single dad to his step-children , Alexis and Devin , pictured , following the death of his wife , former Playboy Playmate Cassandra Lynn , in January 2014 . But after taking part in a photo shoot , the 34-year-old headed to a photographer 's apartment , had sex with him and binged on drugs and alcohol , TMZ previously reported . In the early hours of the next morning , the photographer woke up and found Cassandra unconscious in the bathtub . Emergency responders were unable to resuscitate her and she was pronounced dead . Gary Hensley , who met Cassandra when they were neighbors in 2007 , was home with her two children , Alexis and Devin , then 12 and six , when an acquaintance messaged him asking : 'Is it true ? ' Moments later , two police officers turned up on his doorstep and explained that his wife had been found dead in Los Angeles - although they would not reveal the circumstances . ' I just had this overwhelming sense of wanting to be next to her , ' he told the Washington Post 's Ellen McCarthy . Questions : Hensley is pictured with his wife , who was found dead in a hot tub after a night of sex , drugs and alcohol with her lover in Los Angeles . He said he is still haunted by questions of how much she loved him . Playmate : Cassandra , pictured with Hugh Hefner , had been named a Playmate of the Month in 2006 . But after calling the coroner , he learned the lurid details of her death . He said his reaction was anger - because he did n't know how he was going to raise the children without her . ' I was so angry at her , ' he said . ' I was like , `` What am I going to do ? How am I going to raise the kids ? How do I get Alexis through prom and her wedding and all those things you 're not going to be there for ? '' ' Today Hensley , who has since learned that the affair had been going on for a while , is still haunted by questions of how much his wife loved him . ' A year past all that , I just have come to the resolve that for the five years we were together , she did - to the degree that she could , ' he told the Post . 'And nobody 's perfect . Neither am I . ' He knew Cassandra had struggled with drugs and alcohol when she was younger and , in the months before her death , he noticed that she had started drinking again . Hensley , who launched a tech start-up that was later acquired by Pearson Education , said his job 's uncertainty , problems in her own career and their move to Washington D.C. , where Cassandra was judged for her past , had been tough on her . Struggles : He said that before her death , Cassandra ( pictured in 2007 ) had struggled with problems in her career and in their new life in Washington D.C. , where she was not accepted because of her past . Cassandra , who worked as an event hostess before her death , started drinking again , including the night before she flew to California . They did n't talk that night , Hensley said , but she texted him after heading to the airport to say that she loved him . After her death , he eventually returned to their home with the children , whom he had been raising as his own . Their biological father had not wanted custody , the Post reported . 'It was a very quiet , very lonely , very clean house , ' he said . 'Nights were particularly hard . ' He took time from work and tried to bring some normalcy to the children 's lives , figuring out how to talk to them about the tragedy , and getting through the days with the help of family and friends . He said they 've now 'got it down ' and the children both call him 'Dad ' . 'It always makes me smile , ' he said .
Gary Hensley , 37 , was at home with Cassandra Lynn 's six children when he learned that she had died in Los Angeles in January 2014 . Cassandra , a Playmate of the Month in 2006 , was found unconscious in a hot tub by her lover after a night of sex , cocaine and drinking . Hensley said he was angry because he did not know how he would take care of her children - then two and 12 - from a previous relationship . In an interview with the Washington Post , he said he is haunted by questions of whether or not she loved him . The children 's biological father never wanted custody of the kids and now they call Hensley 'Dad ' , which 'always makes me smile ' , he said .