( CNN ) Warning : This article contains offensive language . Slut , ho , hussy , heifer , bitch -- long before I ever heard those words flow in a rap song , I heard them first in my own home , my own neighborhood . And too many times , they were directed toward me or one of my grade-school girlfriends . You see , for generations , black girls have been so conditioned to being called these over-sexualized names -- first by our slave masters , then our mothers , sisters , friends and eventually the world -- that today many times we do n't even take offense . We deny our pain or hurt feelings . We even make excuses for the name-callers because it 's difficult to decipher , especially for young girls , when the offender means it in a tough love , sisterly kind of way or a `` he did n't mean it in that kind of way , '' as Little League standout Mo'ne Davis said on ESPN 's SportsCenter on Monday . She was explaining why she had forgiven Bloomsburg University baseball player Joey Casselberry recently . Davis emailed the university to ask for Casselberry to be reinstated . Here 's what he had tweeted after hearing that Disney plans to produce a movie based on Davis ' life titled : `` Throw Like Mo '' : . `` WHAT A JOKE . That slut got rocked by Nevada . '' Ugly , jealous , hateful words meant to intimidate and objectify a 13-year-old girl . But Davis was quick to respond with a class beyond her years : `` Everyone makes mistakes and everyone deserves a second chance , '' she told ESPN . `` ... I know right now he 's really hurt and I know how hard he worked to get where he is . I mean , I was pretty hurt on my part but I know he 's hurting even more , '' said Davis , the first girl in Little League World Series history to earn a win and pitch a shutout . Bloomsburg immediately kicked Casselberry off the team but now says it will review the matter . I hope the school sticks to its decision . It was the right call and the university 's action spoke volumes about its integrity -- and how it values women and girls . Surely , Bloomsburg University believes that sports are meant to teach more than simply how to hit , catch and run . We talk about using sports to build character , leadership and respect for others . Casselberry seems to have missed those lessons , or maybe he just thinks they do n't apply to women . His promising college baseball career does n't have to end over this mistake . Let the school review the situation next season ; see then if Casselberry has had time to truly understand his actions . Good for Davis , for rising above the hateful remark — and also above the outrage on social media , where millions rose to her defense — to offer such a gracious response . But it should go without saying : It 's never OK or excusable to attack a successful 13-year-old girl with such a chauvinist remark . Neither little girls , no matter their ethnicity , nor grown women are open targets for sexist , ignorant public attacks . The incident provides a good opportunity , however , for we in the black community to consider how we value our daughters . And we must take note that our sons are watching closely as they try to navigate what it means to respect a young woman today . Men who grow up to disrespect women do not only learn those lessons by watching TV or playing video games . And though it may be convenient to blame pop culture , rap music is not responsible for teaching men to disrespect women . We parents own much of the blame . Overworked , frustrated mothers and fathers often can not find the words or the courage to have a conversation about sex with their children who are not even teens yet . But that 's when the questions start for most kids . Just about every day in my old neighborhood , a playmate would get called out of her name for violating an unspoken rule about how a 9-year-old girl should behave : `` Get your trifflin ' ass in the house , you little hussy . Why are you dressed like a little slut ? '' an angry mom would yell down the street . Every little girl I knew heard that rant , including myself . And as kids do , it was n't long before we were all giggling and calling one another those very same names . I do n't really know how other mothers talk to their young daughters , or at least I did n't back then , but in my black neighborhood , often the conversation between mothers and daughters was not pretty . You had two choices : develop a tough skin or believe the ugly words and let your innocence be destroyed by their cruelty , even if unintended . Too many of my friends were destroyed as they struggled with the confusing messages and lack of forthright explanation and support on sexuality . It led to young teenage pregnancies , abusive boyfriends and destructive behavior . Who knows what those beautiful girls , once so full of ambition and curiosity about the world , would have become if they 'd been called : beautiful , strong and smart . Maybe they would have been just like Mo ' .
Roxanne Jones : Mo'ne Davis called Ballplayer slut in a tweet . She graciously asked his college to reinstate him after he was kicked from team . Jones : Black girls conditioned from young age by culture and even family to accept being called over-sexualized names . She says it 's hurtful , confusing , can have long-term effect . Community should recognize the harm this does to young , smart , strong girls .