A ‘ deceitful ’ businesswoman has been left with a £100,000 bill for tricking her husband into believing he was the father of their son born after IVF treatment . Minutes after the ruling , the victim of the con was reduced to tears as he read a statement in which he described the actions of his ex-wife as ‘ absolutely appalling ’ and pleaded to remain part of the boy ’ s life . ‘ I live in hope that when he is 18 he looks for me… and be part of my life again , ’ he said . ‘ He is truly missed. ’ A lecturer who said his former wife deceived him into thinking her son born via IVF was his has won £100,000 after a court heard the boy , who is now nine years old , was conceived using another man 's sperm . The man – a lecturer in his sixties who can not be named for legal reasons – thought the boy was his after the couple visited a fertility clinic . But the woman , who is in her 50s , had returned a few months later with an ex-boyfriend and was impregnated with his sperm . ' I wanted my former wife , and her former boyfriend , to realise the consequences of their deceitful actions practised over almost six years . It has deeply affected me and my family , but most importantly their own son and my ex-son , which is absolutely appalling . This four-year litigation has been incredibly difficult and stressful and I have sometimes felt : “ I think I am in the wrong film ” . Not only did my ex-wife commit the deceit but she misled her own child too . I can ’ t imagine what my then “ son ” must have felt to have had a loving father substituted by another man – how can she ( and he ) sleep at night ? They used me to ... support him economically whilst maintaining a secret little family life behind my back . I live in hope that when he is 18 he looks for me , and I and my family can show him how much we loved him and he can be part of our lives again . He is truly missed . ' Her deceit was only revealed when , following their divorce , the man sought further contact with the boy . Central London County Court heard that the couple married in 2002 and two years later they went for IVF treatment in Barcelona . The boy was born in 2005 but the pair separated when he was just six months old and their divorce was finalised in 2008 . At no time did the man know that the boy was not his , said his barrister , Thomas Brudenell . ‘ It is hard to imagine a more cruel deceit , ’ he said . The court heard that the man had looked after the child when the woman was working away from their London homes and had paid more than £80,000 in maintenance over the following years . But in 2011 a dispute arose over the amount of contact he was having with the youngster – and the woman then dropped the ‘ bombshell ’ that he was not the biological father , which was confirmed by a DNA test . It led to her ex-husband claiming damages for the ‘ distress and humiliation ’ he had suffered along with the return of maintenance and compensation for loss of earnings . The court heard the pair had a troubled marriage when they had IVF in 2004 . They then fell out , so when the woman returned to the IVF clinic in 2005 , she took an ex-partner , whose sperm was used to conceive . The woman said there had been no deceit , no fraud and no misrepresentation , but Judge Deborah Taylor found in favour of her ex-husband . The judge accused the woman of being an ‘ untruthful witness ’ after finding much of her account ‘ highly improbable and inconsistent ’ . Judge Deborah Taylor said she did not believe the woman 's testimony , adding that she had 'deliberately misrepresented ' the facts . She said she was satisfied that the woman intended her ex-husband to believe that he was the boy ’ s father and rejected her suggestion that she believed the boy ‘ may ’ not be his child . Judge Taylor said the woman had been guilty of ‘ deliberate fraudulent misrepresentation ’ , and added : ‘ She presented herself as a victim of circumstances rather than a participant. ’ The judge was told that the man had lost almost all contact with the boy , who is now nine . She ruled that he should get £10,000 damages for the distress he had suffered , £4,000 for loss of earnings and more than £25,000 as compensation for the maintenance he had paid . Legal sources suggested she would have to pay a further £60,000 in costs . The lecturer said he sometimes felt he was taking part ‘ in the wrong film ’ and had been ‘ used ’ by the woman and her lover . ‘ I can ’ t imagine what my then “ son ” must have felt to have had a loving father substituted by another man – how can she ( and he ) sleep at night ? ’ he said . The ex-wife left court refusing to comment . During the hearing it emerged that she could have settled the case last year for £12,500 but decided to press on with her defence .
Court heard man and woman , who had troubled marriage , had IVF in 2004 . They had a row , so woman returned to clinic with former partner in 2005 . It was then that she conceived their son using former partner 's sperm . But husband said he was not told of this until the child was five years old . He was today awarded £40,000 in damages at London 's County Court . Judge also ordered wife to pay his legal fees , believed to be £60,000 . Man lost contact with boy , but hopes son 'will find me ' when he 's 18 .