She has written the women 's manifesto for success in the boardroom . Now Facebook 's Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg is giving relationship advice so couples can also triumph in the bedroom . In an ongoing series for the New York Times called Women at Work , the social media executive , 45 , has suggested engaging in 'choreplay ' leads to more sex . Facebook 's Chief Operating Officer and mother-of-two Sheryl Sandberg ( left and right ) believes sharing chores , or 'choreplay ' , leads to more sex . This does n't include romantic evenings out or luxury holidays - but simply sharing the duties around the house . The basis of the argument is from a 2009 study by Constance T. Gager and Scott T. Yabiku , which measured The Relationship Between Household Labor Time and Sexual Frequency . Using the results , Sandberg and co-writer Adam Grany suggest : 'Men and women who work hard [ together ] play hard . ' Sandberg suggested that if if a man wanted to do something nice - instead of buying flowers they should do the laundry . The piece continues by saying : ' A man who heard this was asked by his wife one night to do a load of laundry . He picked up the basket and asked hopefully , 'Is this Lean In ( reffering to her latest book ) laundry ? ' Choreplay is real . ' Citing research from 2000 , the pair add 'that when men do their share of chores , their partners are happier and less depressed , conflicts are fewer , and divorce rates are lower . ' They also suggest children who spend more time being cared for by their fathers are happier , healthier and less likely to have behavioral problems . For men , being in the company of their young ones make them more patient , emphatic and less likely to drink or do drugs . In 2012 mother-of-two Sandberg was made Facebook 's first female board member . The 45-year-old , citing results of a study based on The Relationship Between Household Labor Time and Sexual Frequency , says : 'Men and women who work hard [ together ] play hard ' ( file picture )
Mother-of-two , 2000 , said couples sharing chores were happy in the bedroom . Piece added that men should do the laundry instead of buying flowers . Citing research Sandberg and co-writer Adam Sandberg said : 'Men and women who work hard [ together ] play hard '