Howie Brown 's grandmother takes control of her senior residence in suburban Manhattan . ` ` I get some of the men here to dance with me , '' she says . This is the most obvious social signifier . Grandma : ` ` I ' ve learned compassion here . I smile at everyone now ''
Howie Kahn 's grandmother takes control of her senior residence in suburban Detroit . `` I allow some of the men here to flirt with me , '' she says . Mobility is the most obvious social signifier . Grandma : `` I 've learned compassion here . I smile at everyone now ''