O.C . Allen says he is a member of ` ` The Black Church , '' which helped shape him into a pastor . When he announced he was gay , he found that God 's love and the church 's love could mix . He and Mary married ; he says he realized marriage about right to equal benefits under God . We must not be hateful in our disagreements over marriage . Allen : Gay and heterosexual couples must see their commonality .
O.C . Allen says he is a member of ` ` The Black Church , '' which helped shape him into a pastor . When he announced he was gay , he found that God 's love and the church 's love could mix . He and Mary married ; he says he realized marriage about right to equal benefits under God . Allen : Gay and heterosexual couples must see their commonality .