( CNN ) -- `` The father of my child began cheating on me with this whore on July 14th , 2013 , '' begins one post on the website `` She 's a Homewrecker , '' on which scorned women publish the names , photos and , in some cases , contact information of women with whom their husbands and partners cheated , along with detailed narratives of how the affair went down . The website , which has 250,000 likes on Facebook , operates under the guise of offering important reader service or , as the tagline goes , `` Exposing the women who choose to become involved with an involved man . '' Who knows if any of these affairs actually happened . But no words are minced here for the so-called `` other women '' who are , invariably , `` life sucking whores , '' `` homewrecking sluts , '' `` tramps '' and `` skanks '' who `` stole '' someone else 's man . But wait -- does n't it take two to tango ? Of course it does . Although sleeping with a married man is of questionable morality -- and that 's , of course , assuming the woman is even aware the man 's attached -- the job of staying faithful belongs to the man who took the vow . And yet on `` She 's a Homewrecker , '' the men get off largely scot-free . They are not named or pictured . In many cases , they are forgiven , even in cases where the man `` abandoned me and my child ... He then kicked me and our baby out of the house and onto the street to be with her , '' as one woman writes . Another woman writes about the `` twit '' who started `` talking to her husband at work . '' After the `` twit '' got pregnant with the husband 's baby , the woman says she and her husband fought for custody of the child and won . She writes : `` Our marriage is now the best that it ever would have been because we have worked through issues that we did n't even know we had . We are a happy family ... '' Despite this , the `` homewrecker '' still must pay , and does , in the form of having her name , details of her life and no fewer than six photos of herself splashed all over the site . The fact that this site exists , and was created by women with the sole intent of bullying and shaming other women , is especially notable given the recent discussions about how to deal with the problem of `` revenge porn , '' in which scorned people -- men , mostly -- post explicit , formerly private photos of their exes online without their consent . States are working to criminalize both the posting of such photos and the host sites , with advocates saying that under existing law , it 's nearly impossible to get remediation or the pictures removed . Revenge porn exists to belittle and shame women and to `` put them in their place . '' But what 's happening at `` She 's a Homewrecker '' is just as misogynistic ; that it 's women targeting women does n't make it any less so . Bullying among grown women has often happened out of public sight : undermining in the workplace , whispers during the PTA meeting . Although sleeping with a married man is of questionable morality -- and that 's , of course , assuming the woman is even aware the man 's attached -- the job of staying faithful belongs to the man who took the vow . As Jennifer Aniston told Glamour magazine this summer , `` We 're living in a time where , whether it 's the Internet or tabloids , being sh-tty has become a sport . '' With revenge porn and sites such as She 's a Homewrecker , the damage is tangible : intimate photos and character attacks that may turn up with a simple Google search of a person 's name . Despite the women 's stories of betrayal and humiliation and the sympathy they hope to elicit , humiliation is exactly what they intend to dole out , continuing the cycle of meanness . They play the victims while making victims of someone else , bullying others in the name of `` just desserts . '' The whole M.O . of bullying is , of course , to gain leverage and power . At least some of the women posting on She 's a Homewrecker do so , it seems , out of desperation to regain some of the control they lost when they were betrayed by their partners . But that does n't make their retaliatory actions defensible . For one thing , it does n't explain why the cheating men are n't taken to task . What 's happening on She 's a Homewrecker is bullying . In many cases , it 's illegal -- it 's flush with defamatory comments -- and not without consequences . By turning on their own gender and by encouraging a community based on judgment and fear , women sabotage their ability to develop strong female relationships . They promote the idea that other women are untrustworthy . And so , instead of finding empowerment and community just when they need it most , women who use and read sites like these will end up feeling more alone than ever . The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Peggy Drexler .
Betrayed women post details about partners ' mistresses on `` She 's a Homewrecker '' site . Peggy Drexler : `` Other women '' called `` life-sucking whores , '' `` skanks '' who `` steal '' men . Drexler : Women never blame the men ; posts seem to be attempts to regain control . She says posting details , photos on `` She 's a Homewrecker '' is simply cruel bullying .