Women tend to fantasize about being the object of desire while in bed . ` ` Fifty Shades of Grey '' books have helped women discover the power of fantasy . Fantasizing can spur both sexual desire and arousal , research shows . According to neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam , authors of `` A Billion Wicked Thoughts , '' while men tend to have visually driven fantasies , women prefer to fantasize about what a man might do to them . Having fantasies with your partner means you feel confident in your relationship .
Women tend to fantasize about being the object of desire while in bed . ` ` Fifty Shades of Grey '' books have helped women discover the power of fantasy . Fantasizing can spur both sexual desire and arousal , research shows . Having fantasies with your partner means you feel confident in your relationship .