I can clearly remember that first moment I felt like a foot soldier in the `` mommy wars . '' Six years ago , in between news assignments , I raced to catch my then-2-year-old daughter 's gymnastics class . It was Parents ' Day , which meant all of us moms and a few dads gathered to `` ooh '' and `` ahh '' at what our future Olympians had learned so far . But then class was over and I had an interview I had to dash off to , something not many toddlers would easily accept . My daughter cried her eyes out and clung to my body . As I had to gently pry her arms off me and make my exit , I noticed all the moms staring at me -- or rather glaring . Their eyes said it all . `` How could you leave your daughter ? '' `` I would never do that to my child . '' As the tears began to flow on my way back to the office , I felt guilty , but also angry . `` Why all the judgment ? '' I thought to myself , but I knew I was guilty of some of that same judgment from time to time . It 's not something to be proud of -- those moments , for instance , when you see what a mom is feeding her child and think , `` I would never give that to my daughters . '' Mommy . Wars . Just writing those words makes me cringe , but they 're real to some extent , and they stem from , I believe , deep insecurities that all moms feel , especially when we compare ourselves to moms around us . Ca n't we all just get along ? That 's the thinking behind a fabulous photo spread aptly titled `` End the Mommy Wars '' on the site Connecticut Working Moms , which first went viral last year , and continues to pop up . Women hold signs with messages such as `` Let 's love more & judge less . '' Hear hear to that ! `` The message really resonates with people because ... nobody likes to feel judged , '' said Michelle Noehren , 32 , the site 's founder and manager . `` They 're tired of this negativity . '' The site made waves in 2012 with a photo spread celebrating women and their post-baby bodies , which got national attention on television . As a follow-up , the site launched its Campaign for Judgment-Free Motherhood , with photos highlighting issues sometimes used to `` pit moms against each other , '' said Noehren , mom to a 3-year-old daughter in Glastonbury , Connecticut . `` I work outside the home , '' says one woman via a sign . Next to her , another woman declares , `` I 'm a stay-at-home mom . '' In another , one mom touts she practices `` peaceful parenting , '' while another mom admits to sometimes yelling at her child . `` We wanted to take those ( topics ) and say , 'Hey , we 're all people . We 're all equals , and no one is better than someone else and we do n't know why other people make the decisions that they do , so what 's the point in judging that ? '' Noehren said . Judgment-free motherhood is a wonderful concept , but I can hear the skeptics now saying it 's about as likely to happen as losing weight by eating daily hot fudge sundaes . `` It 's a journey for everyone . It 's a journey for me . I still find myself judging other mothers , '' said Noehren , `` but I think the difference is that now when I realize I 'm judging somebody , I realize it and I 'm like , 'Ooh , I do n't like the thought I 'm having . I 'm going to just not follow that thought and go down a negative mental spiral and instead just remember that every mom is doing the best that ( she ) can . ' `` Noehren has written about the practical steps moms can take to stop the reflexive judging that we 're all so used to in today 's society . `` The only thing that we can control is our own mind , '' she said . `` We ca n't control what other people are doing in their life so we can choose to let go of those negative thoughts when we have them and that 's really , I think , the key to becoming a less judgmental person . '' Another way ? Listening to other women 's stories and realizing we all have our challenges -- whether we stay at home or work outside the home , breastfeed or formula feed , buy fast food or organic , choose home school or public school or private schools . After that disturbing incident at my daughter 's gymnastics class six years ago , I was really helped by an anthology of essays from women from different perspectives , Leslie Morgan Steiner 's highly regarded `` Mommy Wars '' . But I have a lot more work to do to truly live judgment-free . I 'm inspired to try to do a better job . Are you ? What do you think is the best way to end the 'mommy wars ' ? Share your thoughts in the comments or tell Kelly Wallace on Twitter or CNN Living on Facebook .
Connecticut Working Moms launches photo spread called `` End the Mommy Wars '' In photos , moms hold contrasting signs about work , parenting and discipline . `` The message really resonates with people , '' the site 's founder says . The site first got attention with a campaign in 2012 celebrating women 's post-baby bodies .