David Jacobs : Some do n't get why recovery of losing one 's body so important to families . He says cultures and family units have long needed rituals to process a death , not comfort . He says not recovering body complicates grieving process . Some rituals make it worse . Jacobs : Grief makes Americans uncomfortable But grieving not mental illness , it 's human .
Gerard Jacobs : Some do n't get why recovery of loved one 's body so important to families . He says cultures and family units have long needed rituals to process a death , give comfort . He says not recovering body complicates grieving process . Mass deaths make it worse . Jacobs : Grief makes Americans uncomfortable But grieving not mental illness , it 's human .