( InStyle.com ) -- She refuses to dwell on the past and accepts that she ca n't control the future . Reese Witherspoon juggles her career , family and love life , yet still is able find time for herself . For Reese Witherspoon , it 's all about living in the moment . And with a thriving career , two children , and a handsome boyfriend -- Jake Gyllenhaal -- who can blame her ? On her divorce from Ryan Phillippe ... You have to keep it together for your kids and for yourself too . I 'm trying to learn from the things that have happened in my life , live more in the moment , and have more fun . Someone told me recently to live in the present but make plans and take pictures . And I am . I 'm writing more , I 'm reading more . Going to more concerts . Jake and I went to Coachella this year . On being confident ... As you get older , you know what you like and what you do n't like , and you 're not apologetic about it ... I used to judge myself so harshly . I think women in their 20s do . You 're hard on your body , you 're hard on yourself . But you start to realize that none of it is really all that important . As long as you 're comfortable , the best parts of yourself come through no matter what . Your mother can tell you that a million times , but you do n't understand it until you live it ! On if she likes to cook ... I do . And Jake is a great cook , he does a lot . We spend the weekends outside L.A , in Ojai , where I have a farmhouse . We have chickens and we grow cucumbers and tomatoes . I love it . It reminds me of where I grew up in Tennessee . On working out ... I try to exercise every day . I like to run for about an hour , and I 'm big into working out with girlfriends . It 's an acquired skill , being able to discuss your love life , children and friends , all while you 're running ! But we have mastered it . On her new perfume ... I have a lot of favorite smells from growing up in the South that I wanted to capture in this scent . As a kid , I was always outside . There was a magnolia tree in the front yard that I think I spent most of first , second and third grade in . And there was the smell of honeysuckle from the creek that ran down by our house . Gardenias were important too , because every Mother 's Day or on my birthday my father would buy small bouquets or corsages for my mother and me . While we were working on the perfume , Avon asked me if I could explore other notes , but I kept going back to white flowers ! The packaging reminds me of my grandma 's bureau , where she 'd have little perfume bottles out . I love it . On her girlfriends ... There are three of us who wear pretty much the same size , so we 'll get together on a Friday night and I 'll bring clothes I want to trade and they 'll bring theirs . We swap shoes and purses a lot . I wore my girlfriend 's dress to a wedding recently . It 's fun . On raising her kids , Ava and Deacon , far from home ... Sometimes it 's really difficult for me , being far away from home . L.A. is where my job is and I have to be close , but I never imagined that my children would n't grow up next door to my brother 's children . Or my mom and dad would n't constantly be around . You know , I had dinner every night with my grandparents as a kid , so I think missing out on that is a hard compromise . At least I have a lot of Southern friends in L.A . I gravitate toward them . I think of those people as a part of my family : They take care of me and I take care of them . On being a mom and a career woman ... I love my life without work and I love my life with work . My mom , who 's a nurse , called me the other day when I was really stressed out from working a 15-hour day . And she was like , `` Yeah , but think of it as a part-time job . '' And I thought , that 's actually right , it puts it in perspective . I work incredibly hard for three months , but then I get a break . It 's about really enjoying my time off . Where do I relax the most ? Where are my children happiest ? My ideal scenario is to do one movie a year . But as an actor , I do n't think you can do an awful lot of planning . In fact , my new philosophy in life is I 'll cross that bridge when I come to it . I used to spend a lot of time thinking about the future , as if I could magically predict it if I planned it enough . And then I realized , I ca n't . Get a FREE TRIAL issue of InStyle - CLICK HERE ! Copyright © 2009 Time Inc. All rights reserved .
Reese Witherspoon on divorce : ` ` You have to keep it together for your kids '' Actress says she exercises for an hour a day . Score: 6