( CNN ) -- Roy McConnell and his three sons left their wives and children to go see the film `` Predators '' in St. Petersburg , Florida , Saturday night . They were enjoying a family reunion with a week at the beach . Around 4:30 a.m. Sunday morning , Anais McConnell woke up and noticed her husband , Nathan , was n't lying beside her . She got out of bed and woke up the other women in the house . They waited on the sofa for the men to return , hoping they had n't been carjacked . They saw a television report about an accident involving a black car , similar to the one the men drove to the movies , that left four people dead , but they did n't want to consider the possibility that it could be their loved ones . Anais McConnell said police were n't returning their phone calls . Hours later , authorities showed up on their porch to bring them the news : Their husbands were dead . Anais McConnell , as well as her sister-in-law and mother-in-law , were widows . Nathan , 24 ; his father , 51 , and his two brothers , Elroy III , 28 , and Kelly , 19 , were killed by a drunk driver who ran a red light , police said . Their widows spoke about their losses during a news conference Tuesday in Orlando , Florida , holding framed photographs of the men . They said they hope that sharing their story will make people think twice before getting behind the wheel after drinking . `` He wanted to teach our son how to play football and how to treat a girl right , '' said Elroy McConnell 's wife , Sandie . `` I know that people will drink and drive , but know that this could have been any of you . I hope and pray that the next time you drink and drive you think about this . '' Demetrius Jordan , the driver of the other car , has been charged with four counts of manslaughter while driving under the influence and one count of serious injury while driving under the influence , according to a report from the St. Petersburg Police Department . Jordan , 20 , and his passenger , Mario Robinson , also 20 , were taken to Bayfront Hospital with serious injuries soon after the midnight accident . The McConnell men were pronounced dead at the scene , according to the report . Kelly McConnell had celebrated his 19th birthday with his family and girlfriend the day before , a family member said . As the women described the men 's accomplishments and characters , there were some chuckles and many tears . One of the women , debilitated by grief , was carried off in the middle of the news conference . The reality was still hard to accept , but they did n't want to dwell on why this happened to them , a few said . `` I hope we could work toward forgiveness , '' said Amy Voelker , Roy McConnell 's widow , who also lost her three sons . `` We want to honor our guys ... it would be tragic to let that young man 's decision affect us in a negative way . '' Voelker said the family members who stood beside her during the news conference represented only a fraction of the people affected by the men 's deaths , and she hoped others could learn from the horror that had befallen her family . `` I 'd hate for anyone else to have to bear this type of tragedy , '' she said . As the news conference ended , family members placed the men 's photographs around a tree , where others could see and remember .
Like McConnell , his parents were killed in a crash in St. Louis that night . The men 's wives say they waited up for them , hoping they were OK . Family members urged people to think of their experience and not drink and drive . Demetrius Jordan has been charged with 4 counts of DUI manslaughter .