Cape Town , South Africa ( CNN ) -- Mike Steenkamp still wakes up in the morning expecting a phone call from his niece . That call never comes . `` It has n't really sunk in to my way of thinking , '' he said . Steenkamp and his daughter Kim Martin told CNN this week that they are n't focusing on why Reeva Steenkamp is gone . She was shot and killed just three weeks ago by her boyfriend , Olympian and South African track star Oscar Pistorius . They are trying to avoid the speculation and debate that swirl around whether Pistorius intentionally shot and killed his 29-year-old girlfriend or whether he mistook her for an intruder . He 's been charged with premeditated murder . Former lead detective on Pistorius case resigns . Mike Steenkamp said the family has no plans to attend Pistorius ' trial . `` We wo n't be present , I can tell you that now , '' he said . That 's because the family wants to focus on Reeva . `` I have to concentrate on her , '' Kim Martin explained . `` I know that sounds crazy , but that 's how I get from day to day . `` It 's easier to deal with it if you do n't concentrate on anything else other than the fact that Reeva 's not here , and at the end of the day , she 's not coming back . '' Kim Martin and Reeva Steenkamp were like sisters , she said , sharing every detail of their lives . Reeva frequently stayed at her cousin 's Cape Town home where Mike Steenkamp says he can still picture Reeva in the kitchen , helping prepare dinner . Yet Martin said she only met Pistorius once , at a seaside cafe . She and Steenkamp chatted , catching up on their lives , as Martin settled her kids . Her interaction that day with Pistorius `` was n't long enough to form an opinion on his personality . '' `` What I saw of him ... he did seem like a nice guy , '' Martin said . Before Reeva Steenkamp started dating the man nicknamed `` Blade Runner '' for his lightning-fast prosthetic legs , she was famous in her own right . A law school graduate with a vibrant personality , she had a slew of modeling gigs under her belt and the striking , platinum-haired beauty had been gearing up for her reality television debut . Her growing exposure brought more opportunities . She served as a presenter for FashionTV in South Africa , was an FHM cover girl and was the face of cosmetics company Avon . FHM described her as a `` beautiful , intelligent and warm-hearted woman '' who had a `` wicked '' sense of humor . `` She was the kindest , sweetest human being ; an angel on earth , '' said Capacity Relations , the agency that represented her . Yet , despite her fame , she was still her mother 's baby girl , Mike Steenkamp recalled . Reeva 's uncle told the story of when Oscar and Reeva were driving on a highway and Oscar , prone to fast cars , was supposedly speeding . `` ( Reeva ) phoned her mum and said ... 'Mum , Oscar 's speeding , ' '' Steenkamp recalled . `` So June took the phone and said , 'Let me speak to Oscar . ' And ( she ) said to Oscar , 'Hey listen , that 's my precious , and my only daughter ... she 's my angel . And you 'd better slow down or I will get the mafia onto you afterwards . ' And Reeva said afterwards , 'Mum , he slowed down . ' '' Now , Pistorius , 26 , is free on bail as he awaits trial . His next court date is scheduled for June 4 . Prosecutors say the track star killed his girlfriend after a heated argument in the early morning hours of Valentine 's Day . Pistorius case brings attention to South African gun culture . Pistorius and his attorneys insist he thought an intruder was hiding in a toilet room inside the bathroom of his Pretoria home . He says he fired in a fit of terror before realizing Steenkamp was inside . `` I 'd like to ask Oscar why he did n't lean over and touch my cousin first ... and say 'are you okay ? ' 'keep quiet , ' ' I 'm coming now , ' '' Kim Martin said , shortly after her cousin 's death . As for what happens to Pistorius , Mike Steenkamp said it does n't matter . Nothing will bring back their beloved Reeva . But he does want one thing : a chance to meet with Pistorius and forgive him . `` That way , I can find more peace with the situation , '' he said , fighting back tears . Steenkamp says it 's his Christian faith that prompts him to want to offer forgiveness . And he wants to do it face to face , not through the media . `` Whatever the outcome , I feel with my belief ( that ) if Christ could forgive me when he died on the cross , why ca n't I ? '' Watch Anderson Cooper 360° weeknights 10pm ET . For the latest from AC360° click here .
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