Catherine Pearlman : Ray Rice was hometown hero in her town of New Rochelle . Her kids , like many others , revered him . How to explain abusive video they ' ve all seen ? She says it 's crucial to understand : understand what domestic violence is ; that it 's never OK to love . Pearlman : He was given the opportunity to go to a program to help people on their first offense . Tell them people are complex , flawed , can be helped . Demonstrate love at work .
Catherine Pearlman : Ray Rice was hometown hero in her town of New Rochelle . Her kids , like many others , revered him . How to explain abusive video they ' ve all seen ? She says it 's crucial to understand : understand what domestic violence is ; that it 's never OK to love . Pearlman : Tell them people are complex , flawed , can be helped . Demonstrate love at work .