( The Frisky ) -- Recently , I discovered that one of my best friends had ditched me after I logged onto Facebook and found her profile had disappeared from my page . When you break up with a best friend online , things can get murky . We 'd been having problems that had culminated in a huge argument the day before , but I figured we 'd get through it . I figured wrong . Still , being given the heave-ho by way of a social networking site ? My first reaction was to laugh . I mean , we 're adults . Unfriending me seemed tantamount to toilet-papering my locker or scribbling my phone number on the boy 's locker room wall . We had been close for well over a decade . We supported each other through parental deaths , and together we 'd bitched and moaned about men for untold hours . I loved her amazing daughter -- buying that little girl Christmas presents was the highlight of my holidays . Suddenly , that was all gone . Suddenly , I was n't laughing . I was crying . We know what to do when boyfriends dump us : sob . We eat everything in the house or take to our beds and refuse all sustenance . Usually , there 's yelling -- at least at my house . The Frisky : How NOT to help heal a broken heart . We purge them from our lives . We delete all their emails and erase their number from every electronic device we own . But when you break up with a girlfriend , things are murkier . For one thing , people do n't feel sorry for you the way they do when a romantic relationship bites the dust . You ca n't blame them ; it 's not like you were in love or planning a future with your friend . ( Even though you assumed she 'd be part of it . ) So , getting wound up about the loss seems somehow , I do n't know , less legit . Is it ? It hurts as much as any other heartbreak . Victoria Clark made a short film on the subject : `` Ruminations on You and Me . '' I asked her about the process of grieving a dead friendship . `` As a woman , I expect men to come and go because of the nature of love , '' she explained . `` But your girls are supposed to be on your side , no matter what ... That 's what I wanted to believe for a long time , but now I know that that 's not always reality . '' The Frisky : What are your rules for friendship on Facebook ? A friend of mine was saddened when her BFF excised my friend from her life after landing a boyfriend . `` She hated being single , so if there was a man anywhere in the vicinity , you 'd be kicked to the curb , '' my pal explained wistfully . Even forewarned with this knowledge , it stung when she was dismissed from her friend 's life . The Frisky : Five ways to unfriend a friend . Unlike my breakup , there was no dramatic defriending . This woman utilized the passive-aggressive method of choice : the slow fade . `` I remember buying her a birthday gift , but somehow she just never had the time to come collect it . '' The Frisky : Ten songs about friendship . Like any other kind of relationship , friendships end . It 's not like I 've never dumped a pal . I 've gotten back together with a few . Because I miss her and love her , I gave making up a shot with this one . A few weeks after I was banished from her Facebook page , I emailed her an apologetic note . I never heard back . TM & © 2009 TMV , Inc. | All Rights Reserved .
Author gets ditched on Facebook by good friend and does n't know what to do . People do n't feel as sorry for you with a friend breakup . You ca n't blame your friend -- it 's not like you were in love . Like any other kind of relationship , friendships end but you have to go on .