It is little over a year since Alan Pardew became involved in a rather ugly touchline confrontation with Manuel Pellegrini while managing Newcastle . Pardew was warned about his behaviour by the FA and wrote to Pellegrini to apologise for the offensive name he called him . On Monday at Selhurst Park , Pardew , now manager of Crystal Palace , meets Pellegrini and Manchester City again having taken steps to change a pattern of behaviour he feared was becoming destructive . After taking advice from the League Managers ’ Association , the 53-year-old has benefited from sessions with former international cricketer Jeremy Snape , now a sports psychologist . Alan Pardew called Manuel Pellegrini a ' f***ing old c**t ' during Premier League encounter back in . The touchline spat occurred during a Premier League match between Newcastle and Man City in January 2014 . ‘ My natural instinct is to be aggressive in the way my teams play , ’ Pardew told the BBC . ‘ But I have had to learn from my own experiences and not get too involved in that myself . Jeremy has helped me on the sidelines in terms of focusing on what I can control . ‘ All the times I have been in trouble ( I have reacted ) when I felt an injustice so when those issues arise now , I know not to react and that is when I switch the off button. ’ Pellegrini ’ s team are under a little pressure . Now trailing neighbours Manchester United ahead of Sunday ’ s derby at Old Trafford , Pellegrini knows he must lift his side from a run of results that has seen them lose touch with leaders Chelsea . Crystal Palace boss Pardew believes he has the ability to manage one of England 's top sides . Pardew feels he would make a decent job of managing a top-four team if given the chance . ‘ I look at the top teams and feel I could do that job better than I ’ m seeing it being done . But if I work in this part of the league for the rest of my career I will be extremely happy , ’ he said . Pellegrini said recently he felt his City squad lacked one really big player . This week , he explained : ‘ Well , it is just the way of thinking , that big teams need to sign a big player . It is very difficult to do it every year — but every two years you must do it . ’
Alan Pardew was warned about his behaviour following touchline spat . The former Newcastle boss called Manuel Pellegrini a ' f***ing old c**t ' He wrote to Pellegrini to apologise for using such offensive language . Crystal Palace host Manchester City at Selhurst Park on Monday .