Oord defines altruism as acting for the other's good, and he agrees with feminists who note that sometimes love requires acting for one's own good when the other's demands undermine overall well-being.
ˈuːəd dᵻfˈaɪnz ˈɔːltɹuːˌɪzəm æz ˈæktɪŋ fɚðɪ ˈʌðɚz ɡˈʊd, ænd hiː ɐɡɹˈiːz wɪð fˈɛmɪnˌɪsts hˌuː nˈoʊt ðæt sˈʌmtaɪmz lˈʌv ɹᵻkwˈaɪɚz ˈæktɪŋ fɔːɹ wˈʌnz ˈoʊn ɡˈʊd wɛn ðɪ ˈʌðɚz dᵻmˈændz ˌʌndɚmˈaɪn ˌoʊvɚɹˈɔːl wˈɛlbˈiːɪŋ.