You are exactly right about narcissistic parents ! Will not regret or accept any accountability. Also, I have learned never to confront a narc. It gives them power. They turn into a victim so quickly. Anything to get the attention or power (negative or positive).  My mother-in-law is a classic narc. My wife delt with guilt for most of our marriage. I was always angry at my moher-in-law but could never show it or confront her. It was maddening seeing my wife go through this and not be able to defend her ! My wife finally set clear boundries for her mother. M-I-L  could not handle this at all. My wife was non emotional and would not argue but stayed strong to her boundries. Then when she had no use for my wife she discarded us and her grandchildren like trash. It was the biggest blessing in our lives. My wife is now healing. Would appreciate any ideas for helping my wife in this healing process.  thanks