Well there are also those phrases to say a woman is somebody’s mother or sister in the same vein as daughter. 

Abusive people depersonalize their targets. They don’t think about their target’s life or the impact of their actions on that person that could leave a devastating ripple effect. 

I agree that it’s shitty that we have to humanize victims to perpetrators in order to generate empathy, but if that’s what it takes to alter perspectives now so we can create a future where empathy is a standard expectation regardless of gender, then there’s really nothing that wrong about it. We use the tools we have at our disposal.