After the grad_fn object is created, the edges used to link the nodes together are created by using the grad_fn->set_next_edges(collect_next_edges( self, other )); calls.
struct MakeNextFunctionList : IterArgs<MakeNextFunctionList> {
  edge_list next_edges;
  using IterArgs<MakeNextFunctionList>::operator();
  void operator()(const Variable& variable) {
    if (variable.defined()) {
      next_edges.push_back(impl::gradient_edge(variable));
    } else {
      next_edges.emplace_back();
    }
  }
  void operator()(const c10::optional<Variable>& variable) {
    if (variable.has_value() && variable->defined()) {
      next_edges.push_back(impl::gradient_edge(*variable));
    } else {
      next_edges.emplace_back();
    }
  }
};

template <typename... Variables>
edge_list collect_next_edges(Variables&&... variables) {
  detail::MakeNextFunctionList make;
  make.apply(std::forward<Variables>(variables)...);
  return std::move(make.next_edges);
}
