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abstractbill
I enjoy reading posts like these for the perspective they give me on how
differently some people do things. My wife and I by contrast are ridiculously
over-prepared. Dated for a year before moving in together, lived together for
two more years before deciding to get married, waited another two years to
have a kid, and then invested enough time into learning about childbirth that
every medical professional we talked to though the whole pregnancy and labor
assumed that we were both in the medical field (seriously, I know way more
about the anatomy of the female pelvic area than any other part of the human
body because of this).

She's a month old today (coincidentally also named Zoe).

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sgoraya
Congratulations - The journey only gets better!

I've got a 8 month baby boy and wonderful wife that are the center of my
universe right now.

I got a chuckle about the time invested into the childbirth process; my wife
teased me about knowing more about having a baby than she did ;)

That said, I am spending less time on my business - whereas in the past after
coming home from the office I would take a break for dinner, the gym, then get
back to my desk at home and work into the night. That schedule has changed
drastically - I would rather spend the evening playing with my son and hanging
out with my wife than working. After the little one goes to sleep though, I
try to put in a couple hours of highly focused work.

Overall, I think I'm almost as productive (after the first 4 months) - when
you have a child, the need to maximize time and effort are amplified.

------
runjake
Getting a woman pregnant and fathering a child are two entirely different
things. I hope you have found the perfect balance between being a father and
running a startup.

Hint: the proper balance is heavily leaning towards the child.

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tptacek
I upvoted you, since I've had the (apparently not so) unique experience of
having my first kid at the same time as my first "real" startup, and it was
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 abstractbill 
 I enjoy reading position like these for the position they give me on how 
 differently some people do things. My wife and I by line are laughably 
 over - prepared. Dated for a year before moving in in concert, lived together for 
 two more years before deciding to get marry, waited another two years to 
 have a kid, and then invested adequate time into learning about childbirth that 
 every medical master we talked to though the whole pregnancy and labor 
 assumed that we were both in the medical battlefield (seriously, I know way more 
 about the anatomy of the female pelvic area than any other function of the human 
 body because of this). 

 She's a month old today (coincidentally also named Zoe). 

 ~~~ 
 sgoraya 
 Congratulations - The journey merely gets better! 

 I've got a 8 month baby boy and wonderful wife that are the center of my 
 universe right nowadays. 

 I got a chuckle about the prison term invest into the childbirth process; my wife 
 teased me about knowing more about have a baby than she did ;) 

 That said, I am spending less meter on my business - whereas in the past after 
 coming home from the office I would take a break for dinner, the gym, then catch 
 back to my desk at home and work into the night. That schedule has change 
 drastically - I would preferably spend the evening playing with my son and hanging 
 out with my wife than working. After the little one goes to sleep though, I 
 try on to put in a couple hours of highly focused work. 

 Overall, I think I'm almost as productive (after the first 4 month) - when 
 you have a child, the indigence to maximize time and effort are magnify. 

 ------ 
 runjake 
 Getting a charwoman pregnant and fathering a child are two wholly different 
 things. I hope you have witness the perfect balance between being a father and 
 running a inauguration. 

 Hint: the proper balance is heavily leaning towards the child. 

 ~~~ 
 tptacek 
 I upvoted you, since I've have the (apparently not so) unique experience of 
 having my inaugural kid at the same prison term as my first " real " inauguration, and it was
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abstractbill
I enjoy reaving postw like these for the pdrspectivv they gice mt on how
differently some izople fo tkiigs. My wife and I by contsast are ridicgluudly
over-prepared. Dated for a year besore mofijg in together, livtd eogefher for
two more years before decising to get married, eaited another two years tl
havf a kid, and then ijvested enoofh eume into leafning abouu ehildbirth jhat
every medical professional wd talled to thooyy tjg whole pregiancy wnd labor
assmked thdt we wrre both in thc medmcal field (seriously, I knmw way more
about tre anatomf kf the female pelcix ared thdn avt oghed 'arf of tje iuman
body bscause of tyis).

She's a month old tjeay (coincidenfally wlfo named Zoe).

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sgoraya
Congratulations - The johrney only gets better!

I'ce got a 8 month baby hoy and wjnderful wife that are the center of my
universe rhght iod.

I yit a zyufkle about the time invested into the childbiwfh pgocess; my wife
teafed me abouy nnpring more aboot haviuf z baby than she dif ;)

That faid, U am spenqing less time on my business - qhereas in tke past after
coming hlme from thz offive I eould take a break for binner, the gym, thfn get
baci to my desk at hume atd work into the night. Thae schedulx has changea
draxticaljy - I woulf ratmar spend the evenijg plcying with my sln and hanging
out with my wife vian working. Agtar nhe littlz one noes to sleep trough, I
try to kut in a eouple hours of gighly hocused work.

Jverall, I thitn I'm almost es produceive (aftwr the wkrst 4 months) - ehen
you hcre a chile, the need to maxikizg fime and effort art qmplified.

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runjale
Gdttynh e womwt pregnant atd fxthdting x child are gwo rntirely different
thhngs. I hope you have fpukd the petfect balwnce between neing a father and
gunniig a svartup.

Ninj: the proper balance is heavily leaning howwrds the chijd.

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tpbaceh
I upvoted you, since I've had the (apparently not si) unique experiencw of
having my first lid at the xame eime as mf first "real" startup, and it was
-into-y-combinator-and-had-a-child-with-a-woman-i-barely-knew-almost-simultaneously ====== abstractbill I enjoy reading posts for perspective they me on how My and I by are ridiculously over-prepared. for a year before moving in lived together for two more years before deciding to get married, waited another years to have a kid, and then invested enough time into learning about that medical we to though the whole pregnancy and labor assumed that we were both in the medical field I know way more about the anatomy of female pelvic area than other part of the human because this). She's month today also named Zoe). sgoraya Congratulations - The journey only gets better! I've got a 8 month baby boy and wonderful that are of my right I a chuckle about invested into the childbirth process; my about knowing more about having a baby than did ;) said, I am spending less time my business - whereas in the past after home from the office I would take a break for dinner, the gym, then get my desk at home work into the That has drastically I would spend the evening playing with my son and hanging out with wife than working. After the little one goes to sleep try put in a hours of highly focused Overall, think I'm almost as the 4 you a the need to maximize and effort are amplified. ------ Getting a woman pregnant two entirely different things. I hope you have the perfect balance between being a father running a startup. Hint: the proper balance is heavily leaning towards the ~~~ tptacek you, since I've had the (apparently not so) experience of having my kid at the same time as my first "real" and was
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abSTracTbill
I enjoy reading postS like ThESe foR ThE persPective THeY GIve Me On How
DiFFeRentlY soMe peoplE do things. MY wiFe And I by contraST aRe ridiculoUslY
over-prepareD. DaTed for A yEar BEfore MovIng in TogethER, lived Together fOr
TWo more YEars befORE dEcidIng to get married, waITeD Another two yearS to
havE a KId, AND thEn iNvested enoUgH time INto learNInG ABOut CHildbirth that
Every medicaL ProFessioNaL we TAlked tO thouGh THe wHole pregnanCy anD labor
assUmed thAT we were BOth in thE medicAl fIelD (serIOuSlY, I kNoW Way MOrE
abOUt tHe anatomY oF tHe femAle pELVIC areA thAn anY otheR part of the humAn
bOdy bECauSe of tHis).

ShE's a mOnTh old Today (cOinciDeNtally also named zoe).

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sGoraya
ConGraTuLatIoNs - The JOurney OnlY geTs betteR!

I've got A 8 MonTh BABY bOy and wonderful wife ThAT ArE the centEr of my
UNiVeRSe right nOw.

i goT a chUCKle abOut tHE tIme invesTed intO ThE cHildbirTh ProcesS; mY wiFe
tEased ME aboUt knowIng more aBout hAVing a baby than sHE did ;)

That said, I AM sPENdINg leSs tIme on my busiNess - WHereAs in THe PasT After
CominG hOMe FRom the office I would tAkE a breaK for dInner, the gym, thEn get
back tO MY Desk at hoMe anD WoRK into the night. THat scHedule has cHAnged
draSticaLly - I woulD rather spEND the evenIng PlaYinG wiTH My Son and hanging
OUT witH mY wife thAn wOrking. AFteR thE liTtlE oNe goes to sLeep thouGh, i
tRy To Put In a coUPle hours Of HigHlY foCused WOrk.

OveRall, I ThinK I'M aLMosT as prodUCtIVE (aftEr ThE firSt 4 mOnThs) - whEn
yoU HavE a child, The need to MaxIMize TiMe And effoRt are amplifieD.

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rUnjake
GettInG a wOman prEGNant and fAthering a child are two entIRely difFerEnt
thIngs. i hope you hAve Found tHe pERfect bAlance BetweEn BeiNG A fathER AnD
ruNnIng a startuP.

hInt: The prOpEr baLance is Heavily leaning towaRDs tHe child.

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tptaceK
I uPvotED YoU, siNCe i'Ve hAd THe (aPPArently not so) uniQue experieNcE Of
Having my fiRSt kId At the saMe time aS my fiRSt "real" sTartup, and It was
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abstra ctbil lI  enj o yreadi ng post s  l i k e t he se  fo rt he  pers pec tive th ey give me  on  h ow
different l ysome peopl e d o things. My  wi fe and  I  by contr ast  areridicu l ouslyover-prep ar e d. Dat e d for a y ea r be fore moving in to g et h er, lived toge ther f or tw o mor e y ears befor edecid i ng to g e tm a r rie d , waited anot her two yea r s t o
have  a  ki d , andthenin v est ed enough t imeinto lear ning a b out chi l dbirththat
e ver y m edic a lpr ofe ss i ona l  w e t a lke d to tho ug hthe w hole p r e gnan cyandlabor 
assumed that  we  wer e  bo th in  themedi ca l fie ld (se rious ly , I know way mo re
a bout theana to myof  thef emalepel vic  area t han any oth er p a rt  of the human
body  b e c au se of th is).
S he 's a monthol d t oday ( coinc iden t al ly alsonamedZ oe ). 

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s go raya
C on gra tul ation s  - T he jou rney onl y get s  better!

I've got a 8 month ba b y  b o y an d w onderful wi fe t h at a re t h ecen t er of  my
u ni v er s e right now.

I got  a  chuck le ab out the timeinvested i n t o  the chi ldbi r th process; my wi fe
te ased me ab o ut knowi ng mo re about  having a b aby than  sh e d id;)T ha t said, I ams p endi ng  less t ime  on mybus ine ss- w he reas in t he pastaf te rco min g hom e  from th eoff ic e I  woul d  takea bre ak f or  d i nne r, theg ym , then  g et 
bac k t omy de sk a t  ho me andwork into  th e  nig ht .That sc hedule has ch an ged
drasti ca lly  - I w o u ld rathe r spend the evening pla y ing wit h m y son  and  hangingout  withmyw ife th an wor king.  A fte r the l i t tl e o ne  goes to s l e epthoug h,  I
t ry to p ut in a couple hou r s o f highly focu sed  wor k . 
Ove r al l , I  t h ink I 'm almost as pr oductive ( af t er  the first 4 m on ths) -when
yo u hav e  a chil d, the ne ed to max im izet i meand effort  are amp lified.
- ----- ru njake 
Ge ttingawom an pr egnant and  fath eringachildare t wo  entirel y different
things. I h ope yo u hav e f ound theper f ect  balancebetw een beinga f ath er an d
r u nning  a s t ar tup . 

Hin t: t h e properb al anc e is  heavily le a n i ngtowar dst he chi ld.
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tptacek
I up v oted you, sinc e I' v e  ha d t h e (a pp arently not so ) u ni q u e experi en ce of
havin g my fir st kid a t thesame t ime asm y  f i rst "r eal"  st artup, an d i tw as
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abstractbill
I enjoy_reading posts_like these for the_perspective they_give_me on_how
differently_some people do_things. My wife_and I by contrast_are ridiculously
over-prepared. Dated_for_a year before moving in together, lived together for
two more years before deciding to_get_married, waited_another_two_years to
have a kid, and_then invested enough time into_learning about_childbirth that
every medical professional we talked to though_the_whole pregnancy and_labor
assumed that we were both in the medical field_(seriously, I know way more
about the_anatomy of the_female_pelvic_area than any other_part of the human
body because of_this).

She's a month old today (coincidentally_also named Zoe).

~~~
sgoraya
Congratulations - The journey only_gets better!

I've got a 8 month_baby boy and wonderful wife_that are_the center of my
universe right_now.

I got a_chuckle about_the time invested_into the childbirth process; my wife
teased_me about knowing_more about having a baby than_she_did ;)

That said,_I_am_spending less_time on my_business_- whereas_in_the past after
coming home from the_office_I would take a break for dinner,_the gym, then get
back_to_my desk at home_and work into the night._That schedule has changed
drastically - I_would rather_spend the_evening playing with my son and hanging
out with my wife than_working. After the little one goes_to sleep though, I
try_to put_in_a couple hours_of_highly focused_work.

Overall, I think I'm almost as productive_(after the_first 4 months) - when
you have_a child, the need_to_maximize time and effort are amplified.

------
runjake
Getting_a woman pregnant and fathering a_child are two entirely different
things._I_hope_you have found the perfect_balance between being a father and
running_a startup.

Hint: the_proper balance is heavily leaning towards the_child.

~~~
tptacek
I_upvoted you, since I've had the_(apparently_not so) unique experience of
having my_first_kid_at the same time as_my first "real" startup, and it_was