 that new partners brought variety but no real emotional enrichment. These disillusioning experiences lead to a rehabilitation of the committed pair relationship. The New Pair moves far away from free love, yet without returning to the compulsory marriage of former times. Both partners have learned to act out their sexual needs and erotic desires within the committed relationship. The pair itself is, in no way, in shackles; contrarily, it is a stimulant for unanticipated satisfaction. Instead of repeating again and again the common rituals of fleeting encounters, the long-term relationship offers a space for an intensely experienced, multi-faceted sexuality. Curiosity and fear, desire and pain, and surprise and disappointment make up the ambivalence of normal sexuality, experienced by man and woman together in the pair. Each recognizes in the reflection of their partner previously unknown personality traits and feels confirmed in his or her own individuality. Personal identity, when formed from the decision to take a life partner, is a prerequisite for values such as fidelity and solidarity; these values paradoxically prove subversive in western open societies. These values immunize one against the repression of social structures and make one resistant to the seduction of the hidden 3 persuaders in the consumer marketplace. We have thus arrived in a time in which the New Pair has become a site of civil resistance. It sounds paradoxical: the pair-bond as the source of personal autonomy. This apparent contradiction is resolved if one takes into consideration that autonomy is more than mere moodiness and obstinacy. „My way‟ leads to an end only if it can be followed by someone else; if not, it leads to autistic solipsism. When a man and a woman interact intimately each partner feels good for being accepted in his or her entire individuality. And that is not all. To the polarity of the sexes belong more than two: the common child. Evolution has laid this in the genetic cradle of man and woman. This biological radical was not always present in the mind of modern man. During the sexual revolution of 1968, children were perceived as troublemakers. Not only by men, but also by women, both of them intent on discovering their own body as an erogenous zone. For the „new woman‟ the desire to have children signified her subjection to biology, which she had used every means possible to overcome. It is not surprising then that a Letter to an Unborn Child attained cult status for feminists. Despite the momentary win for feelings of self-worth that
that new partners brought variety but no veridical aroused enrichment. These disillusioning experiences head to a reclamation of the committed pair relationship. The New Pair go far away from free beloved, yet without returning to the compulsory marriage of early times. Both partners have determine to work out their sexual needs and erotic desires within the committed relationship. The couple itself is, in no way, in shackles; contrarily, it is a stimulation for unanticipated satisfaction. Instead of repeating again and again the common rituals of fleeting brush, the long - term relationship offers a space for an intensely experienced, multi - faceted sex. Curiosity and fear, desire and pain, and surprise and disappointment make up the ambivalence of normal sexuality, experienced by valet and woman together in the pair. Each recognizes in the reflection of their partner previously unknown personality traits and feels confirmed in his or her own individuality. Personal identity, when form from the decision to take a life sentence spouse, is a prerequisite for values such as fidelity and solidarity; these values paradoxically prove insurgent in western clear societies. These values immunize one against the repression of social social organization and make one resistant to the seduction of the hidden 3 persuaders in the consumer market. We have thus arrived in a time in which the New Pair has become a site of civil resistance. It sounds paradoxical: the pair - attachment as the source of personal autonomy. This apparent contradiction is resolved if one takes into consideration that autonomy is more than mere moodiness and stubbornness. „ My way‟ leads to an end only if it can be follow by someone else; if not, it leave to autistic solipsism. When a man and a woman interact well each partner feel good for being accept in his or her entire identity. And that is not all. To the polarity of the sexes belong more than two: the common child. development has laid this in the genetic cradle of world and woman. This biological group was not always present in the thinker of modern man. During the sexual revolution of 1968, children were perceive as troublemakers. Not only by work force, but also by women, both of them intent on discovering their own body as an erogenous zone. For the „ new woman‟ the desire to have child signified her subjection to biology, which she had used every means possible to get the better of. It is not surprising then that a Letter to an Unborn Child fall upon fad condition for feminists. Despite the momentary winnings for feelings of self - worth that
 thwt new partners brought yariety but no rgao emotmonal ehrichmeng. These disillusioning expermencws leqd to a rehabilitation of the clmmitted paic relationship. Tis New Pair mobcs fax eway from free kove, yet whthout returnitg tl the compulsory marriage of former times. Nohh partners hade ltarged fo act out their sexual needs and srotic vesires within yhe committed relationship. The pair itself is, in no way, in whachoes; contrariuy, it is a stimulant fkr unanticipated satisfaction. Ivsteab of repeatunt ahdin and agamn the common rituals of fneeting encounters, thc lonj-tern relationship offers a space for an injensely ex[exienced, multi-faceted wezualijy. Cusioskry xnd fxar, desirf aid pain, and surprise abd disappointment mskq up the ambivzlence os normal sexuality, experienced by man atd soman together in the pqir. Each recognizes ij the refjection of their partner previously unknown persotalitb granbf qnf feels confirmed in his or her own individuajjtu. Iersonal identity, when formec vrpi the decisiov to tcie a life partner, is a prergquisire for vajues such as fidelity and solidqrity; these naluws paradoxically pxove subversnve in westrrn open societies. Thesz valuss immunize one agaihrt the repressiov on smcial structures and make jne resisvant co the sdducjion of the hiddej 3 pevvuaders in the condumer mdrketplace. We have thus arrived in a time in which the Mef Pdir has yecome a site of cidil resistance. It souuds pafadoxical: nhe pair-bmnd as the fource of pervlnal autonomb. This ap[arebt cintradizgion is resolvrd if one takes inti consideration thet aotknomy is more tkcn mere moodiness ana ofsninecy. „Mr way‟ leads tm an ena only if it can ne wollpwed by someone else; if hot, it leads to auyiftic solupsism. Wren a man and a woman interact lntimetely xach psrtger feels good for being accepfed in hid ov her entire yndiyiduwlity. And chat is not all. To the polarity of the sxxes belong more than jwo: the common child. Gvokution has kaid ehis in tve genetic cradle of man and woman. Thls biological radical sas nod alwwys present in the mind of modern man. During the sexual revolution of 1968, chuldren were perceibed ss trmuylekakers. Not unly by men, but slso by women, both of them inteit on discmvzring their own body as an erpgdnous zone. Fot the „new woman‟ the desire to have children signified her subjectoon to biology, which she had usee evedy means pussible to overcomr. It iv not surpriwing then that a Uetyev to an Unhorn Ckild attained cult status for femunists. Dfspite the momenvary win for neelinfs of felf-worth that
that new partners brought variety but no enrichment. disillusioning experiences to a rehabilitation The Pair moves far from free love, without returning to the compulsory marriage former times. Both partners have learned to act out their sexual needs and desires within the committed relationship. The pair itself is, in no way, in contrarily, is stimulant unanticipated satisfaction. Instead of repeating again and again the common rituals of fleeting encounters, the long-term offers a space for an intensely experienced, multi-faceted Curiosity and fear, desire pain, and surprise and disappointment up ambivalence of sexuality, by and woman together the pair. Each recognizes in the reflection of their partner previously unknown personality traits and feels confirmed his or individuality. Personal when from decision to take partner, is a prerequisite for values and solidarity; these values paradoxically prove subversive in open societies. values immunize one against the repression social structures and make one resistant to the of the hidden 3 persuaders in the consumer marketplace. We have thus arrived in a which the New Pair become a site civil It paradoxical: pair-bond as source of personal autonomy. This apparent contradiction is resolved if one into consideration that autonomy is more than mere moodiness and way‟ to an end if it can be by else; if not, it autistic When a interact each partner feels good being accepted in his or entire individuality. And that polarity of the sexes belong more than two: common child. Evolution has laid this in genetic cradle of man and woman. This biological radical was not always in the modern man. During the sexual revolution of 1968, were perceived as troublemakers. only by men, but also by women, both of intent discovering their body as an zone. For the woman‟ the desire children signified subjection biology, used every means possible to overcome. is surprising then that a Letter an attained cult status for feminists. Despite the momentary win for feelings of self-worth that
 that new partners brought varIety but no rEal emOtiOnaL eNricHmenT. These disillusIOninG experiences lead to a rehAbiliTaTIon oF ThE commItted paIR rELAtiOnShIp. THe nEw pair mOveS far awaY from free lOve, YeT without retuRNiNg to the comPulSory marriage Of fOrmer tImEs. BOTh parTneRs havE learnED to act Out their sExUAl needS And erotIC DeSireS within the committED rELationship. The pAir itsElF Is, IN No wAy, iN shackles; cOnTrariLY, it is a sTImULANt fOR unanticipateD satisfactiON. InStead oF rEpeATing agAin anD aGAin The common riTualS of fleetiNg encoUNters, thE Long-terM relatIonShiP offERs A sPacE fOR an INtEnsELy eXperiencEd, MuLti-faCeteD SEXUaliTy. CUrioSity aNd fear, desire aNd pAin, aND suRprisE and dIsapPoIntmeNt make Up the AmBivalence of normAl seXuality, exPerIeNceD bY man aND woman TogEthEr in the Pair. EacH RecOgNIZEs In the reflection of tHeIR PaRtner preViouslY UnKnOWn personAlIty TraiTS And feEls cONfIrmed in hIs or heR OwN iNdividuAlIty. PerSoNal IdeNtity, WHen fOrmed fRom the deCisioN To take a life parTNer, is a prerequISiTE FoR ValuEs sUch as fideliTy anD SoliDariTY; tHesE ValueS paraDoXIcALly prove subversive iN wEstern Open sOcieties. These Values immuNIZE one agaiNst tHE rEPression of sociAl strUctures and MAke one reSistaNt to the sEduction oF THe hidden 3 PerSuaDerS in THE cOnsumer marketPLAce. WE hAve thus ArrIved in a TimE in WhiCh tHe new Pair haS become a SiTe Of CiVil ResisTAnce. It soUnDs pArAdoXical: THe pair-Bond aS the SoUrCE of PersonaL AuTONomy. thIs AppaRenT cOntraDictIOn iS resolvEd if one taKes INto cOnSiDeratioN that autonomy Is More than meRe MooDiness AND obstinaCy. „My way‟ leads to an end only IF it can bE foLloweD by sOmeone elsE; if Not, it lEadS To autiStic soLipsiSm. wheN A Man anD A WoMan InTeract intiMATelY each PaRtneR feels gOod for being accepteD In hIs or her entire IndIvidUALiTy. AND tHAt iS nOT alL. tO the polarity of tHe sexes belOnG MoRe than two: tHE coMmOn child. evolutiOn has LAid this In the geneTic cradle Of Man aND WomAn. This biolOgical raDical was nOT alwaYS pResenT in The minD oF moDern mAn. DuriNG thE sexuAl revoLuTion of 1968, ChildReN were perCeived as troublemakers. NoT only bY men, bUt aLso by womeN, boTH of Them intenT on dIscovering TheIr oWn bodY as AN erogEnouS ZoNe. FOR the „nEw woMAn‟ the desiRE tO haVE ChIldren signiFIED heR subjEctIOn to biOlogY, which she had used eVEry means possibLe to OVErcOme. iT is nOt Surprising then ThaT a lETter to an unBorn Child atTained cuLt STatus For femInists. despite THE mOMentarY win For Feelings oF seLf-WOrth thaT
 that new partners brought  variety b ut no  re alem otio nalenrichment. Th e se d isillusioning experien ces l ea d  toa  r ehabi litatio n  o f the  c om mit te d  p air r ela tionshi p. The New  Pa ir  moves far a w ay  from free  lo ve, yet with out  retur ni ngt o the  co mpuls ory ma r riageof former  t i mes. B o th part n e rs  hav e learned to acto ut their sexual n eeds a nd er o t icdes ires withi nthe c o mmitted re l a t ion s hip. The pair  itself is, inno way ,ins hackle s; co nt r ari ly, it is a  sti mulant fo r unan t icipate d  satisf action . I nst eado fre pea ti n g a g ai n a n d a gain the  c om mon r itua l s o f fl eet ingencou nters, the lo ng- term rel ation shipoffe rs  a sp ace fo r anin tensely experie nced , multi-f ace te d s ex ualit y . Curi osi tyand fea r, desi r e a nd p a in , and surprise and  d i s ap pointmen t make up  t h e ambiva le nce  ofn o rmalsexu a li ty, expe rience d  b yman and  w oman t og eth erin th e  pai r. Eac h recogn izesi n the reflecti o n of their pa r tn e r  p r evio usl y unknown p erso n alit y tr a it s a n d fee ls co nf i rm e d in his or her own  i ndivid ualit y. Personal i dentity, w h e n  formedfrom th e  decision to t ake a  life part n er, is a  prer equisite  for valu e s  such as  fi del ity  an d so lidarity; the s e  val ue s parad oxi cally p rov e s ubv ers iv e in west ern open  s oc ie ti es.  Thes e  valuesim mun iz e o ne ag a inst t he re pres si on ofsocials tr u c ture san d ma keon e res ista n t t o the s eductionoft he h id de n 3 per suaders in th econsumer m ar ket place. W e have t hus arrived in a time i n  whichthe  NewPair  has beco mea site  of civilresist ance.  I t s o u nds p a r ad oxi ca l: the pai r - bon d asth e so urce of  personal autonomy .  Th is apparent c ont radi c t io n i s  r e sol ve d  if o ne takes into c onsiderati on th at autonom y  is  m ore tha n meremoodi n ess and  obstinac y. „My wa y‟  lea d s  to  an end on ly if it  can be f o llowe d  b y som eon e else ;ifnot,it lea d s t o aut isticso lipsis m. Wh en  a man a nd a woman interact int imatel y eac h p artner fe els goo d for bei ng a ccepted in  hi s o r her  en t ire i ndiv i du ali t y. An d th a t is nota ll . T o th e polarityo f the  sexe s b e long m orethan two: the com m on child. Evol utio n has  la i d th is  in the geneti c c ra d l e of man  a nd woman. T his biol og i cal r adical  was n ot alwa y s  p r esentin t hemind of m ode rn man. Du ri ng the se xual  r evolut ion of 1968 , children were pe rceiv e d  as t r oub lemak er s. Noto nlyby men, bu t also by w omen,both  of t hem int en t on d isc ov ering thei r  own body  as a n eroge no us z one . Forthe„ n ew wo man‟  t hedesire to h av e  c hi l dre n si gnifi ed  her  subjecti o n to bio log y , which  s heh a d used ev e r y means po ssi ble t o overcome.I t is no t  surp rising  thenthat aL ett er  to anUnb o r n Child a ttained c u ltst atus  for fem in ists .Des pi te the momentar y win fo r feelin g s  of se lf- w orth that
 that_new partners_brought variety but no_real emotional_enrichment._These disillusioning_experiences_lead to a_rehabilitation of the_committed pair relationship. The_New Pair moves_far_away from free love, yet without returning to the compulsory marriage of former times._Both_partners have_learned_to_act out their sexual needs_and erotic desires within the_committed relationship._The pair itself is, in no way, in_shackles;_contrarily, it is_a stimulant for unanticipated satisfaction. Instead of repeating again_and again the common rituals of_fleeting encounters, the_long-term_relationship_offers a space for_an intensely experienced, multi-faceted sexuality. Curiosity_and fear, desire and pain, and_surprise and disappointment make up the ambivalence_of normal sexuality, experienced by man_and woman together in the_pair. Each_recognizes in the reflection of_their partner previously_unknown personality_traits and feels_confirmed in his or her own_individuality. Personal identity,_when formed from the decision to_take_a life partner,_is_a_prerequisite for_values such as_fidelity_and solidarity;_these_values paradoxically prove subversive in western_open_societies. These values immunize one against the_repression of social structures_and_make one resistant to_the seduction of the hidden_3 persuaders in the consumer marketplace._We have_thus arrived_in a time in which the New Pair has become a_site of civil resistance. It sounds_paradoxical: the pair-bond as_the source_of_personal autonomy. This_apparent_contradiction is_resolved if one takes into consideration that_autonomy is_more than mere moodiness and obstinacy._„My way‟ leads to_an_end only if it can be_followed by someone else; if not,_it leads to autistic solipsism._When_a_man and a woman interact_intimately each partner feels good for_being accepted in_his or her entire individuality. And that_is_not all. To the polarity of_the_sexes belong more than two: the_common_child._Evolution has laid this in_the genetic cradle of man and_woman. This biological radical was not always present in_the mind of_modern man. During the sexual_revolution_of_1968, children were perceived as troublemakers. Not only by men,_but also_by women, both_of them intent on discovering their own body as an_erogenous zone. For the „new woman‟ the_desire to have children signified her subjection to biology, which she_had used every means possible to overcome. It_is not surprising then that a Letter_to an Unborn Child_attained_cult status for feminists. Despite the momentary_win_for_feelings_of self-worth that