 femme and non-binary individuals in this conversation is incredibly important, as erasure of their existence as such (and assumptions that they are heterosexual and/or cisgender women) only serves to exacerbate the justice issues raised here. If these terms are new for you, see here and here.

[1] While most women and femmes will use the pronouns she/her/hers, this is not necessarily the case for everyone, especially non-binary individuals. I have intentionally chosen to refer to the associate pastor using the pronouns she/her/hers in this article, as a way to focus on gender dynamic at play, but if your associate colleague uses different pronouns, then you should clearly use them, and educate and hold your congregation accountable for doing the same, even if it means you need to practice the right pronouns in a mirror for five minutes every day.

[2] While this article focuses squarely on the behavior of older malesenior pastors, a number of associate pastors also report similarly destructive and dismissive behavior on the part of their senior female colleagues. Pointing this out runs the risk of feeding the #NotAllMen apologists, but it’s worth noting that almost all the advice offered here applies to senior ministers of any gender in relationship with their associate colleagues.

The Rev. Andrea Roske-Metcalfe serves as the associate pastor of Grace Lutheran Church in Apple Valley, Minnesota. She earned her MDiv from Union Theological Seminary in New York City, and she lives in Minneapolis with her husband, Luke, and their two daughters.

Image by: Don Blumenstein Used with permission CLEVELAND, Ohio -- Since the NFL expanded to 32 teams and split into eight divisions, 109 teams between 2002-18 started the season 2-4.

Ten made the playoffs. That’s 9.2 percent. That’s 9.2 percent that the Browns and the seven other teams currently 2-4 are counting on.

There’s some in-house hope for the Browns in that one of those 10 teams was the 2002 Browns, who started 2-4 under Butch Davis, went 7-3 the rest of the way, and at 9-7 won a tiebreaker for a wild card spot. There’s some other in-house hope in John Dorsey, who was the GM of one of the only two teams since 2002 to start 1-5 and make the playoffs -- the 2015 Kansas City
femme and non - binary individuals in this conversation is incredibly important, as erasure of their being as such (and assumption that they are heterosexual and/or cisgender women) only serves to worsen the justice issues raised here. If these condition are new for you, see here and here. 

 [ 1 ] While most woman and femmes will use the pronouns she / her / hers, this is not inevitably the case for everyone, especially non - binary individuals. I have intentionally chosen to denote to the associate pastor using the pronouns she / her / hers in this article, as a way to focus on sex dynamic at play, but if your associate colleague uses unlike pronouns, then you should clearly use them, and educate and hold your congregation accountable for make the same, even if it means you need to practice the right pronoun in a mirror for five minutes every day. 

 [ 2 ] While this article focuses squarely on the behavior of older malesenior pastors, a numeral of associate pastors also report similarly destructive and dismissive behavior on the part of their senior female colleagues. Pointing this out runs the risk of feeding the # NotAllMen apologist, but it ’s deserving noting that almost all the advice offered here apply to senior ministers of any gender in kinship with their associate colleagues. 

 The Rev. Andrea Roske - Metcalfe serve as the associate pastor of Grace Lutheran Church in Apple Valley, Minnesota. She earned her MDiv from Union Theological Seminary in New York City, and she live in Minneapolis with her husband, Luke, and their two daughters. 

 Image by: Don Blumenstein Used with permission CLEVELAND, Ohio -- Since the NFL expanded to 32 teams and separate into eight divisions, 109 teams between 2002 - 18 started the season 2 - 4. 

 Ten made the playoffs. That ’s 9.2 percent. That ’s 9.2 percentage that the Browns and the seven early team currently 2 - 4 are counting on. 

 There ’s some in - house promise for the Browns in that one of those 10 teams was the 2002 Browns, who started 2 - 4 under Butch Davis, went 7 - 3 the rest of the way, and at 9 - 7 won a tiebreaker for a wild card position. There ’s some other in - sign of the zodiac hope in John Dorsey, who was the GM of one of the only two team since 2002 to start 1 - 5 and reach the playoffs -- the 2015 Kansas City
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 femme and non-binary indi viduals in  this  co nve rs atio n is  incredibly im p orta nt, as erasure of thei r exi st e ncea ssuch(and as s um p t ion sth atth e yare h ete rosexua l and/or c isg en der women) o n ly  serves to  ex acerbate the  ju sticeis sue s  rais edhere.  If th e se ter ms are ne wf or you ,  see he r e  a nd h ere.

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[2 ]  While this a r ti c l ef ocus essquarely on  the beha vior of  ol d er ma lesen io r  p a stors, a number ofas sociat e pas tors also rep ort simila r l y  destruc tive an d  dismissive be havio r on the p a rt of th eir s enior fe male coll e a gues. Po int ing  th iso u truns the risk o f fe ed ing the  #N otAllMe n a pol ogi sts ,but it’sworth no ti ng  t ha t a lmost all thead vic eoff eredh ere ap plies  tose ni o r m inister s  o f anyge nd er i n r el ation ship wit h their  associat e c o llea gu es .

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 femme_and non-binary_individuals in this conversation_is incredibly_important,_as erasure_of_their existence as_such (and assumptions_that they are heterosexual_and/or cisgender women)_only_serves to exacerbate the justice issues raised here. If these terms are new for_you,_see here_and_here.

[1]_While most women and femmes_will use the pronouns she/her/hers,_this is_not necessarily the case for everyone, especially non-binary_individuals._I have intentionally_chosen to refer to the associate pastor using the_pronouns she/her/hers in this article, as_a way to_focus_on_gender dynamic at play,_but if your associate colleague uses_different pronouns, then you should clearly_use them, and educate and hold your_congregation accountable for doing the same,_even if it means you_need to_practice the right pronouns in_a mirror for_five minutes_every day.

[2] While_this article focuses squarely on the_behavior of older_malesenior pastors, a number of associate_pastors_also report similarly_destructive_and_dismissive behavior_on the part_of_their senior_female_colleagues. Pointing this out runs the_risk_of feeding the #NotAllMen apologists, but it’s_worth noting that almost_all_the advice offered here_applies to senior ministers of_any gender in relationship with their_associate colleagues.

The_Rev. Andrea_Roske-Metcalfe serves as the associate pastor of Grace Lutheran Church in_Apple Valley, Minnesota. She earned her_MDiv from Union Theological_Seminary in_New_York City, and_she_lives in_Minneapolis with her husband, Luke, and their_two daughters.

Image_by: Don Blumenstein Used with permission_CLEVELAND, Ohio -- Since_the_NFL expanded to 32 teams and_split into eight divisions, 109 teams_between 2002-18 started the season_2-4.

Ten_made_the playoffs. That’s 9.2 percent._That’s 9.2 percent that the Browns_and the seven_other teams currently 2-4 are counting on.

There’s_some_in-house hope for the Browns in_that_one of those 10 teams was_the_2002_Browns, who started 2-4 under_Butch Davis, went 7-3 the rest_of the way, and at 9-7 won a tiebreaker_for a wild_card spot. There’s some other_in-house_hope_in John Dorsey, who was the GM of one of_the only_two teams since_2002 to start 1-5 and make the playoffs -- the_2015 Kansas City