 next day, though, it can become a problem. I highly recommend not only considering your current health and mental issues, but also your schedule for the days that follow.

Problem solving these issues together can help you and your play partner become closer. It will also help them trust you more, and we all know trust is incredibly important in kink relationships. Honestly, supportive problem solving around my health issues is something that would turn me on.

Communicate!

Honestly, you should know this is important already. It’s vital in every situation to keep things consensual and as safe as possible. Again, it’s imperative to use those safe words and movements you set up ahead of time. I recommend setting up breaks during play for bathroom visits, taking necessary, prescribed medications, to hydrate, and to check-in.

Aftercare

I’m going to be honest – aftercare may look a lot different than normal.

You may need to help us get dressed or back into a wheelchair. You might need to get us secured into leg braces. You might have to help with bathroom stuff. We may need some care in the next few days that isn’t just a text or call.

Aftercare is going to look different depending on what your play partner’s needs are. Make sure that you cover potential aftercare ideas during the negotiation process.

Create a feedback loop

If you’ve played with someone, part of aftercare should be giving feedback. While most people think about this purely in regards to sex, it can be integral to play pals, too. Set up a time a few days after play to talk about your session. Ideally, this would be in-person and in a relatively sober, non-play space. Use non-violent communication techniques such as using ‘I’ statements. Furthermore, honest communication and receiving and giving feedback is essential for all players, not just for those that who identify as disabled.

Takeaway

Playing with someone with a disability or chronic illness might not be the same as playing with an abled person. As always, it’s important to communicate clearly and be aware of risks. You may just find the perfect person to play with in ways you never imagined.

Resources

Chronic Sex

Disability After Dark

SexAbled

Ready Sexy Able

CSPH Resources on Sex & Disability

Scarlete
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 Resources 

 Chronic Sex 

 Disability After Dark 

 SexAbled 

 Ready Sexy Able 

 CSPH Resources on Sex & Disability 

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Resourxes

Chronic Sex

Disagiliyy Afner Bark

SexWblev

Rxady Sexy Able

CSPN Resources on Sex & Disability

Srarlete
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rEsoUrces

chroniC SEx

DisaBilitY AFter Dark

sexAbled

Ready Sexy Able

CSpH ResoUrces On SEx & DisabilIty

sCarLete
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R e sourc e s
Chron ic  Sex

D i sabi lity After  Dark

SexA bled
Read y Sex y Able
C SPH Re sou rc es on Sex&  Disabili ty

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 next_day, though,_it can become a_problem. I_highly_recommend not_only_considering your current_health and mental_issues, but also your_schedule for the_days_that follow.

Problem solving these issues together can help you and your play partner become_closer._It will_also_help_them trust you more, and_we all know trust is_incredibly important_in kink relationships. Honestly, supportive problem solving around_my_health issues is_something that would turn me on.

Communicate!

Honestly, you should know_this is important already. It’s vital_in every situation_to_keep_things consensual and as_safe as possible. Again, it’s imperative_to use those safe words and_movements you set up ahead of time._I recommend setting up breaks during_play for bathroom visits, taking_necessary, prescribed_medications, to hydrate, and to_check-in.

Aftercare

I’m going to_be honest_– aftercare may_look a lot different than normal.

You_may need to_help us get dressed or back_into_a wheelchair. You_might_need_to get_us secured into_leg_braces. You_might_have to help with bathroom stuff._We_may need some care in the next_few days that isn’t_just_a text or call.

Aftercare_is going to look different_depending on what your play partner’s_needs are._Make sure_that you cover potential aftercare ideas during the negotiation process.

Create a_feedback loop

If you’ve played with someone,_part of aftercare should_be giving_feedback._While most people_think_about this_purely in regards to sex, it can_be integral_to play pals, too. Set up_a time a few_days_after play to talk about your_session. Ideally, this would be in-person_and in a relatively sober,_non-play_space._Use non-violent communication techniques such_as using ‘I’ statements. Furthermore, honest_communication and receiving_and giving feedback is essential for all_players,_not just for those that who_identify_as disabled.

Takeaway

Playing with someone with a_disability_or_chronic illness might not be_the same as playing with an_abled person. As always, it’s important to communicate clearly_and be aware_of risks. You may just_find_the_perfect person to play with in ways you never imagined.

Resources

Chronic_Sex

Disability After_Dark

SexAbled

Ready Sexy Able

CSPH_Resources on Sex & Disability

Scarlete