 partners in terms of their bodies, sexual preferences, attitudes and capacity for engaging in certain sexual acts.

This is perhaps the one of most vile ways that narcissistic abusers diminish their victims in the devaluation or discard phases. The ex-partner that the narcissistic abuser once devalued in terms of their appearance or sexual performance is suddenly compared to the new victim in ways that are unfathomably hurtful and unsettling once the new victim becomes the recipient of the abuse. They may praise the ex-partner's appearance, sexual abilities, sexual stamina, or frequency of sexual engagement in a way that devalues the current victim's. The claims of "He or she did this - why can’t you?" are common.

This is a form of horrific triangulation that is meant to undercut the sexual confidence of the victim. It is used by the narcissist to ensure that you feel less confident in your sexual abilities. After all, the less sexually confident you are, the less likely you’ll move onto another partner. At least in the narcissist’s mind. Oddly enough, they fear that you will jump into the sack with someone else soon after their relationship with you is over - so by diminishing your sexual performance, they kill two birds with one stone. They not only belittle your sexuality, they also potentially coerce you into seeking their approval in the bedroom, often to the extent of going against your own boundaries. By lowering your self-esteem and confidence in this area, they gain the satisfaction of knowing that you may be less likely to sexually engage with someone else if you have their abusive remarks still playing as a record in your mind.

To combat internalizing their harsh remarks, survivors of narcissistic abuse must learn to self-validate when it comes to their sexual abilities and body image. Recalling positive feedback from previous, healthier partners can be one way to counter the absurd claims of your abuser; cultivating a healthy self-love for your appearance and abilities can be another. You may also want to explore self-care methods and diverse healing modalities that help you heal from any sexual trauma that you may have experienced in the abusive relationship.

(5) They are hypercritical of their victim's appearance, sexual desire, sexual history, and/or gender identity or expression, failing to account for the complexity of their identities.

Many narcissistic abusers suffer from what is known as the Madonna-Whore complex. They tend to categor
partners in terms of their bodies, sexual preference, attitude and capacity for engaging in certain intimate acts. 

 This is perhaps the one of most despicable ways that narcissistic abuser decrease their victims in the devaluation or discard phases. The x - partner that the narcissistic abuser once depreciate in terms of their appearance or sexual performance is suddenly compared to the fresh victim in ways that are unfathomably hurtful and unsettling once the new victim become the recipient of the abuse. They may praise the ex - partner's appearance, intimate abilities, intimate stamina, or frequency of sexual engagement in a way that devalue the current victim's. The claims of " He or she did this - why ca n’t you? " are common. 

 This is a form of horrific triangulation that is mean to undercut the sexual confidence of the victim. It is used by the narcissist to ensure that you feel less confident in your sexual abilities. After wholly, the less sexually convinced you are, the less likely you ’ll move onto another partner. At least in the narcissist ’s judgment. Oddly enough, they fear that you will jump into the chemise with someone else soon after their relationship with you is over - so by diminishing your intimate performance, they kill two birds with one stone. They not only belittle your sexuality, they also potentially coerce you into seeking their approval in the bedroom, often to the extent of going against your own limit. By lowering your self - admiration and confidence in this area, they gain the satisfaction of knowing that you may be less probable to sexually engage with someone else if you have their abusive remarks still playing as a record in your mind. 

 To combat internalizing their coarse remarks, survivors of narcissistic abuse must learn to self - validate when it issue forth to their sexual abilities and body double. Recalling incontrovertible feedback from previous, healthier partner can be one room to counter the absurd claims of your abuser; cultivating a healthy self - love for your appearance and abilities can be another. You may also want to explore self - caution methods and diverse healing modality that help you heal from any intimate trauma that you may have experienced in the abusive relationship. 

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To cOmbat internalizing their HArsh remArkS, survIvorS of narcisSisTic abuSe mUSt learN to selF-valiDaTe wHEN it coMES tO thEiR sexual abiLITieS and bOdY imaGe. RecalLing positive feedbaCK frOm previous, heaLthIer pARTnErs CAn BE onE wAY to COUnter the absurd cLaims of youR aBUsEr; cultivatINg a HeAlthy seLf-love fOr youR AppearaNce and abiLities can Be AnotHER. YoU may also waNt to explOre self-caRE methODs And diVerSe healInG moDalitIes thaT HelP you hEal froM aNy sexuAl traUmA that you May have experienced in the AbusivE relaTioNship.

(5) They Are HYpeRcritical Of thEir victim's AppEarAnce, sExuAL desiRe, seXUaL hiSTory, aNd/or GEnder idenTItY or EXPrEssion, failiNG TO acCount For THe compLexiTy of their identitiES.

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 partners in terms of thei r bodies,sexua l p ref er ence s, a ttitudes and c a paci ty for engaging in cer tainse x uala ct s.

T his isp er h a psth eone  o f  m ost v ile  ways t hat narcis sis ti c abusers di m in ish theirvic tims in thedev aluati on  or disca rdphase s. The ex-par tner that  t h e narc i ssistic a bu seronce devalued int er m s of their app earanc eo rs e xua l p erformance  i s sud d enly co m pa r e d  to the new victi m in ways t h atare un fa tho m ably h urtfu la ndunsettlingonce  the newvictim becomes the rec ipient  of  th e ab u se .The ym ayp ra ise the  ex-part ne r' s app eara n c e ,  sex ual  abi litie s, sexual sta min a, o r  fr equen cy of  sex ua l eng agemen t inaway that devalu es t he curren t v ic tim 's . The claims  of  "H e or sh e did t h is-w h y  c an’t you?" are com mo n . 
This isa form of  h o rrific t ri ang ulat i o n tha t is me ant to u ndercu t  t he  sexual  c onfide nc e o f t he vi c tim.  It is  used by  then arcissist to e n sure that you fe e l  l e ss c onf ident in yo ur s e xual  abi l it ies .  Afte r all ,t he less sexually confi de nt you  are,  the less lik ely you’ll m o ve ontoanot h er partner. At le ast i n the narc i ssist’smind.  Oddly e nough, th e y  fear th atyou  wi llj u mp  into the sac k with  s omeoneels e soonaft erthe irre lationshi p with y ou  i sov er- sob y dimini sh ing  y our  sexu a l perf orman ce,th ey kil l two b i rd s with  o ne  sto ne.  T hey n ot o n lybelittl e your se xua l ity,  t he y alsopotentially c oe rce you in to  se ekingt h eir appr oval in the bedroom, of t en to t heexten t of  going ag ain st you r o w n boun daries . Bylo wer i n g you r se lf- es teem and c o n fid encein  thi s area,  they gain the sat i sfa ction of know ing  tha t yo u m a yb e l es s  li k e ly to sexuallyengage wit hs om eone elsei f y ou  have t heir ab usive remarks  still pl aying asareco r d  in  your mind .

To co mbat inte r naliz i ng  thei r h arsh r em ark s, su rvivor s  of  narc issist ic  abuse  must  l earn toself-validate when it c omes t o the irsexual ab ili t ies  and body  ima ge. Recall ing  po sitiv e f e edbac k fr o mpre v ious,  hea l thier par t ne rsc a nbe one wayt o cou nterthe absurd  cla ims of your abuse r ; cultivatinga he a l thy  se l f-lo ve  for your appe ara nc e and abil it ies can beanother.  Y o u may  alsowant t o explo r e  s e lf-car e me tho ds and di ver se healing  m od a lities  tha thelp y ou hea l  fro m any sexual traum a tha t you m a y h ave e xp erience d  inthe abusiv e relations hip.
(5)Theyare hyp er critic alof  their vic t im's appe aranc e, sexu al  des ire , sexu al h i s tory,  and /o r g ender ide n t it y  o re xpr essi on, f ai ling  to accou n t for th e c o mplexit yoft h eir id e nt i t ies.

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 partners_in terms_of their bodies, sexual_preferences, attitudes_and_capacity for_engaging_in certain sexual_acts.

This is perhaps_the one of most_vile ways that_narcissistic_abusers diminish their victims in the devaluation or discard phases. The ex-partner that the_narcissistic_abuser once_devalued_in_terms of their appearance or_sexual performance is suddenly compared_to the_new victim in ways that are unfathomably hurtful_and_unsettling once the_new victim becomes the recipient of the abuse. They_may praise the ex-partner's appearance, sexual_abilities, sexual stamina,_or_frequency_of sexual engagement in_a way that devalues the current_victim's. The claims of "He or_she did this - why can’t you?"_are common.

This is a form of_horrific triangulation that is meant_to undercut_the sexual confidence of the_victim. It is_used by_the narcissist to_ensure that you feel less confident_in your sexual_abilities. After all, the less sexually_confident_you are, the_less_likely_you’ll move_onto another partner._At_least in_the_narcissist’s mind. Oddly enough, they fear_that_you will jump into the sack with_someone else soon after_their_relationship with you is_over - so by diminishing_your sexual performance, they kill two_birds with_one stone._They not only belittle your sexuality, they also potentially coerce you_into seeking their approval in the_bedroom, often to the_extent of_going_against your own_boundaries._By lowering_your self-esteem and confidence in this area,_they gain_the satisfaction of knowing that you_may be less likely_to_sexually engage with someone else if_you have their abusive remarks still_playing as a record in_your_mind.

To_combat internalizing their harsh remarks,_survivors of narcissistic abuse must learn_to self-validate when_it comes to their sexual abilities and_body_image. Recalling positive feedback from previous,_healthier_partners can be one way to_counter_the_absurd claims of your abuser;_cultivating a healthy self-love for your_appearance and abilities can be another. You may also_want to explore_self-care methods and diverse healing_modalities_that_help you heal from any sexual trauma that you may_have experienced_in the abusive_relationship.

(5) They are hypercritical of their victim's appearance, sexual desire,_sexual history, and/or gender identity or expression,_failing to account for the complexity of their identities.

Many narcissistic abusers_suffer from what is known as the Madonna-Whore_complex. They tend to categor