 but I
come from a culture where this aspect of work was never emphasized and at this
point, I don't know who to ask.

Off topic, Could anyone point to a place where you could ask for advice of
life? It seems once we are in the 30s, there are more questions then answers
then when i was in 20s.

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mseebach
I used to feel that way, but I finally came to terms with the fact that my
work-life was a mess, and I was basically lying to myself.

I was working (and struggling, hard, in the way you describe) on a project I
was telling myself would become a startup, and even though I felt I was being
realistic about the limitations, in retrospect even that was insanely
optimistic. I was burning myself out.

Once I had this epiphany - triggered by going to Startup Weekend and having a
ton of fun (and no motivational problems!) working on a project, I pulled the
plug and eventually got a fairly regular job in a fairly normal company (in an
excellent team, though).

The epiphany and pulling the plug had a huge effect. It didn't fix everything
overnight, but I did get into a habit of introspection, especially when I'm
facing tasks that I struggle to get motivated for. They're still hard, but I
am generally able to organise things around them in such a way that they don't
get me down.

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Dowwie
You're not suffering from ADHD. You're using a motivational skill! It's a very
valuable skill to have! Boring work can be made interesting, life changing
even. This requires vigilance, as you've noticed. Motivation is ongoing,
requiring you to revisit the feelings and rationale that gave you that
productive burst.

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enugu
There are probably no simple solutions. But just in case, you havent already
done this, just use a simple time logging tool and work in discrete
sessions(20-40 minutes). (Eternity time logger is one good app, there are
others). Dont worry about being precise (in terms of minutes high or low, or
exact kind of task, over analysis isnt good). Instead aim for consistent use.

This allows you to work a certain number
but I 
 come from a culture where this aspect of work was never stress and at this 
 item, I don't know who to ask. 

 Off topic, Could anyone orient to a place where you could ask for advice of 
 life sentence? It seem once we are in the 30s, there embody more questions then answers 
 then when i was in twenty. 

 ------ 
 mseebach 
 I used to feel that way, but I finally come to terms with the fact that my 
 workplace - life was a mess, and I was basically lie to myself. 

 I was working (and struggling, hard, in the room you describe) on a project I 
 was telling myself would become a startup, and even though I feel I was being 
 realistic about the limitations, in retrospect even that was insanely 
 optimistic. I was burning myself out. 

 Once I give birth this epiphany - triggered by going to Startup Weekend and having a 
 ton of fun (and no motivational trouble !) working on a project, I pulled the 
 plug and eventually got a fairly regular job in a fairly normal caller (in an 
 excellent team, though). 

 The epiphany and pulling the plug have a huge impression. It didn't fix everything 
 overnight, but I did get into a substance abuse of introspection, especially when I'm 
 face tasks that I struggle to beget motivated for. They're still hard, but I 
 am generally able to organise things around them in such a means that they don't 
 get me down. 

 ------ 
 Dowwie 
 You're not suffering from ADHD. You're using a motivational skill! It's a very 
 valuable skill to have! Boring workplace can be made interesting, animation changing 
 even. This requires vigilance, as you've noticed. Motivation is ongoing, 
 requiring you to revisit the touch and rationale that gave you that 
 productive burst. 

 ------ 
 enugu 
 There are probably no simple solutions. But just in character, you have nt already 
 done this, precisely use a simple clock time logging instrument and work in discrete 
 sessions(20 - 40 minute). (Eternity time logger is one beneficial app, there are 
 others). Do nt worry about being accurate (in terms of minutes high or low, or 
 exact kind of task, over analysis is nt good). Instead aim for consistent use. 

 This let you to work a certain issue
 buh I
come from a culture wmere this aspect of worn was hever emohasized and at this
point, I von't know who to ask.

Off topic, Cuuld anyoje point to e place where yon could ask fod advncx of
life? It seeks once we are in the 30s, dhdrz are more questions then answers
theg when o aas in 20s.

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mseebash
I lsqd tk feel that way, but I finally came to terks with the fsct that my
work-life was a less, and I was basicalpy lying to mysqof.

I was workkng (and stgbggling, hars, in the way you describe) on a orojeet I
was teloibg liself would uecome a startup, akc even though I felt I was neing
cealustic about the limitetions, in retrospect even thad cas insanely
optimistix. U was burting nysdlf ont.

Ohce I jad this epipgany - triggwred by going to Stsrell Weekend ans havigg a
ton of fun (and no motivational probleks!) sorking on a project, I pulled the
plug and evgntually gjt a fairly regular job in a fairly normal companf (in en
dxctloent gwal, though).

The epiphany and pulling the plug had z nune effect. It didk't fix everything
ofegnodht, but I did get iufo a habit of introsoection, espexially whtn I'm
gacing tasks that I strugglw to get motpvatwd for. They're stilp hard, but N
am gemeralky able to organise thiugs arkund them ij such a sxy that they don'g
gen me down.

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Dowwie
You're not suffewing from ADHB. You're jsinb a moeivational skill! It's a very
valuablf skipl to have! Blring work can be made interestmig, life changonc
evvn. This rzquirex vigilance, af you've noticeb. Motivacion ir ongoing,
rvquiring bou to revisyt the feelincd and rationele that dave you that
pruauctive burst.

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emugu
There are probavly no simple solubions. Gut just in casz, iiu havent alresdy
aonq nhix, tgst use a sikple tior logeing tool akd dork in discrete
sessions(20-40 minhtes). (Eternity time ljgger is one gooq app, there ate
others). Dont worrj abont beiig previsg (in terms of minutes high or lkw, or
exach klnd of task, oder qnalysis isnc good). Instead aim for consistent use.

Thiw allows you to woek a certain number
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 but I
come from a culture where This aspect Of worK waS neVeR empHasiZed and at this
poINt, I dOn't know who to ask.

Off topiC, CoulD aNYone POiNt to a Place whERe YOU coUlD aSk fOr ADvIce of
LifE? It seemS once we are In tHe 30S, there are morE QuEstions theN anSwers
then wheN i wAs in 20s.

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mSeEbaCH
I useD to Feel tHat way, BUt I finAlly came tO tERms witH The fact THAt My
woRk-life was a mess, and i WaS Basically lying To myseLf.

i WaS WOrkIng (And strugglInG, hard, IN the way YOu DESCriBE) on a project I
wAs telling mySElf Would bEcOme A StartuP, and eVeN ThoUgh I felt I waS beiNg
realistIc abouT The limiTAtions, iN retroSpeCt eVen tHAt WaS inSaNEly
OPtImiSTic. i was burnInG mYself Out.

ONCE i Had tHis EpipHany - tRiggered by goiNg tO StaRTup weekeNd and HaviNg A
ton oF fun (anD no moTiVational problemS!) worKing on a prOjeCt, i puLlEd the
PLug and EveNtuAlly got A fairly REguLaR JOB iN a fairly normal compAnY (IN aN
excelleNt team, THoUgH).

the epiphAnY anD pulLINg the Plug HAd A huge effEct. It dIDn'T fIx everyThIng
oveRnIghT, buT I did GEt inTo a habIt of intrOspecTIon, especially wHEn I'm
facing tasKS tHAT I STrugGle To get motivaTed fOR. TheY're sTIlL haRD, but I
Am genErALlY Able to organise thingS aRound tHem in Such a way that tHey don't
get ME DOwn.

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DowwiE
You'RE nOT suffering from aDHD. YOu're using a MOtivatioNal skIll! It's a vEry
valuabLE Skill to hAve! borIng WorK CAn Be made interesTINg, liFe ChanginG
evEn. This rEquIreS viGilAnCe, as you've Noticed. MOtIvAtIoN is OngoiNG,
requiriNg You To RevIsit tHE feeliNgs anD ratIoNaLE thAt gave yOU tHAT
proDuCtIve bUrsT.

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eNugu
THere ARe pRobably No simple sOluTIons. buT jUst in caSe, you havent alReAdy
done thiS, jUst Use a siMPLe time loGging tool and work in discrETe
sessiOns(20-40 MinutEs). (EtErnity timE loGger is One GOod app, There aRe
othErS). DoNT Worry ABOuT beInG precise (in TERms Of minUtEs hiGh or low, Or
exact kind of task, oVEr aNalysis isnt goOd). INsteAD AiM foR CoNSisTeNT usE.

tHis allows you to wOrk a certaiN nUMbEr
 but I
come from a culture  where thi s asp ect  of  w orkwasnever emphasiz e d an d at this
point, I don 't kn ow whot oask.
Off to p ic , Cou ld  a nyo ne po int t o a  placewhere youcou ld  ask for adv i ce  of
life?Itseems once w e a re inth e 3 0 s, th ere  aremore q u estion s then an sw e rs
the n  when i w as  in20s.

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msee b ac h 
I used to fee l that  w a y, b utI f inally cam eto te r ms with th e f act that my
work- life was am ess , andIwas basica lly l yi n g t o myself.
I wa s working  (ands truggli n g, hard , in t heway  you de sc rib e) ona  p roj e ctI
was te ll in g mys elfw o u l d be com e astart up, and eventho ughI  fe lt Iwas b eing 
r ealis tic ab out t he  limitations, i n re trospecteve ntha twas i n sanely 
op tim istic.I was b u rni ng m y se lf out.

Once I ha dt h is  epiphan y - tr i gg er e d by goi ng  to  Sta r t up We eken d  a nd havin g a
to n  o ffun (an dno mot iv ati ona l pro b lems !) wor king ona pro j ect, I pulledt he
plug and e v en t u al l y go t a  fairly reg ular jobin a fa irl y  norm al co mp a ny (in an
excellent te am , thou gh).
The epiphany  and pulli n g the plug  had ah uge effect. It  didn 't fix eve r ything
o verni ght, but  I did ge t into a h abi t o f i ntr o s pe ction, especi a l ly w he n I'm
f aci ng task s t hat  Istr ug gle to ge t motiva te dfo r.  Th ey're still ha rd , b ut  Iam ge n erally  able  toor ga n ise  things ar o u nd t he min s uch  a  waythat the y don't 
get me d own . 

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Dowwie 
You're not s uf fering fro mADH D. You ' r e usinga motivational skill! I t 's a ve ryvalua bleskill tohav e! Bor ing work c an bemadein ter e s ting, l if e c ha nging
even . Thi s req ui resvigilan ce, as you've noti c ed.  Motivation i s o ngoi n g ,req u ir i ngyo u  to r evisit the feel ings and r at i on ale that g a veyo u thatproduct ive b u rst.

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enu gu
Therear e pr o b abl y no simpl e soluti ons. Butj ust i n  c ase,you  haven talr eadydone t h is,  just  use a  s impletimelo gging to ol and work in discrete 
sessi ons(2 0-4 0 minutes ).( Ete rnity tim e lo gger is on e g ood  app,  th e re ar e
ot h er s). Dontworr y  about be i ng  pr e c is e (in terms o f  mi nutes  hi g h or l ow,or
exact kind oft ask, over anal ysis i snt  go o d).In stead aim forcon si s t ent use. 
This allows  you towo r k a c ertain  numbe r
 but_I
come from_a culture where this_aspect of_work_was never_emphasized_and at this
point,_I don't know_who to ask.

Off topic,_Could anyone point_to_a place where you could ask for advice of
life? It seems once we are_in_the 30s,_there_are_more questions then answers
then when_i was in 20s.

------
mseebach
I used_to feel_that way, but I finally came to terms_with_the fact that_my
work-life was a mess, and I was basically lying_to myself.

I was working (and struggling,_hard, in the_way_you_describe) on a project_I
was telling myself would become a_startup, and even though I felt_I was being
realistic about the limitations, in_retrospect even that was insanely
optimistic. I_was burning myself out.

Once I_had this_epiphany - triggered by going_to Startup Weekend_and having_a
ton of fun_(and no motivational problems!) working on_a project, I_pulled the
plug and eventually got a_fairly_regular job in_a_fairly_normal company_(in an
excellent team,_though).

The_epiphany and_pulling_the plug had a huge effect._It_didn't fix everything
overnight, but I did get_into a habit of_introspection,_especially when I'm
facing tasks_that I struggle to get_motivated for. They're still hard, but_I
am generally_able to_organise things around them in such a way that they don't
get_me down.

------
Dowwie
You're not suffering from ADHD._You're using a motivational_skill! It's_a_very
valuable skill to_have!_Boring work_can be made interesting, life changing
even. This_requires vigilance,_as you've noticed. Motivation is ongoing,
requiring_you to revisit the_feelings_and rationale that gave you that
productive_burst.

------
enugu
There are probably no simple solutions._But just in case, you_havent_already
done_this, just use a simple_time logging tool and work in_discrete
sessions(20-40 minutes). (Eternity_time logger is one good app, there_are
others)._Dont worry about being precise (in_terms_of minutes high or low, or
exact_kind_of_task, over analysis isnt good)._Instead aim for consistent use.

This allows_you to work a certain number