
masonicb00m
It can be helpful to find yourself a business partner. They provide a feeling
of obligation and camaraderie that helps you to get going and keep going
through the tough parts.

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anoncoward111
I wasnt going to reply until i saw that you were considering suicide.

You arent a failure, and we all enjoy having you on this earth. No matter what
you decide to do with your business, please consider staying here with us.

Go to the beach. Eat some good food. Take a hot shower and go on a date with
someone who is down to earth.

Even if everything all goes to shit and you are flat broke, you can still live
an awesome life, especially abroad.

You took some risks. Seek outside professional help and advice. Hire an
intern.

Good luck, i believe in you!

~~~
danyim
I know you’re trying to help, but I think saying empty, insincere platitudes
like “we all enjoy you here” doesn’t really help them or the situation. It
certainly didn’t help to hear that from strangers when I was in a similar
position.

~~~
grkvlt
Exactly, and saying things like "You arent a failure" to someone who has quite
obviously failed at their attempts to be a software engineer and business
owner is sending the wrong message. If somethings is going wrong with your
life, it's not helpful to ignore that and pretend everything is great. The
cognitive dissonance involved with that will put a huge strain on you, and
possibly make the problem worse.

From what the OP has said, it would seem that in their current state they are
not capable of working as a programmer right now. I would recommend getting
help for the depression and anxiety first, and then working on software
engineering skills until they are more confident and capable. The 50K USD
should allow them some leeway to do this without needing to find work
immediately, which will help.

Good luck.

~~~
brndn
Failing at something doesn't make a person a failure or else we would all be
failures. Do you really thing extra compassion towards a person contemplating
suicide is such a bad thing
masonicb00 m 
 It can be helpful to find yourself a business partner. They provide a touch 
 of duty and camaraderie that helps you to get go and keep going 
 through the bad contribution. 

 がんばってね ！ 

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 anoncoward111 
 I was nt going to answer until i see that you were consider suicide. 

 You are nt a failure, and we all enjoy having you on this earth. No matter what 
 you decide to do with your business, please see staying here with us. 

 Go to the beach. Eat some adept food. Take a hot shower and go on a date with 
 someone who is down to land. 

 Even if everything all goes to shit and you are flat broke, you can still live 
 an amazing life, especially abroad. 

 You took some risks. Seek external professional help and advice. Hire an 
 intern. 

 Good luck, i believe in you! 

 ~~~ 
 danyim 
 I know you ’re trying to help, but I think saying empty, insincere platitude 
 like “ we all love you here ” does n’t really avail them or the situation. It 
 certainly did n’t help to hear that from stranger when I was in a similar 
 position. 

 ~~~ 
 grkvlt 
 Exactly, and saying thing like " You are nt a failure " to someone who has quite 
 obviously failed at their attempts to be a software engineer and business 
 owner is sending the wrong message. If somethings is move wrong with your 
 life, it's not helpful to ignore that and pretend everything is big. The 
 cognitive dissonance involve with that will put a huge strain on you, and 
 possibly make the problem worse. 

 From what the OP has say, it would seem that in their current state they are 
 not capable of work as a programmer right now. I would recommend getting 
 avail for the depression and anxiety foremost, and then working on software 
 engineering skills until they are more confident and capable. The 50 K USD 
 should let them some leeway to suffice this without needing to receive work 
 immediately, which will help. 

 Good luck. 

 ~~~ 
 brndn 
 Failing at something doesn't reach a person a failure or else we would wholly be 
 failures. Do you really thing extra compassion towards a person contemplating 
 suicide is such a regretful thing

maslnicb00m
It can be helpful uo find yourself c businxss parfner. Theh provide a feeling
of obligavion and xamaraderie that helps you to gvt going qnd jwep going
tidough tmz toufm parcs.

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enoncoward111
I waskt going to reply until i sxw that you were considering suicide.

Yju areny w failure, and re akj ennoy having you on this earth. No mafter whet
you decide to do with your business, plewse fonsider staying hfre with us.

To tj the beach. Ext some good food. Take a hot shower and go on a date dith
spmeone who iw dlfn to earth.

Xven is everything all goev to shot and you are flet beoke, you can still lite
an awesome life, eskecially atrkad.

You took some eiwks. Sgek ogtsiaw pfoftssmonzl helo aid advice. Hjre an
interb.

Good luck, i believt ig you!

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danyim
I khow yot’rq trying to help, but I think saying empuy, inaincere platitudes
like “qe all enjoy you here” doesn’t rqally help them or the situation. It
certainly didn’d hel' go kcwf tjat from strangers when I was in a similar
posyfipn.

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nrkvlt
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obvijusly failed au theor attempts to be a softwarw engineer aud vusiness
owner is sznding the wxong mgssage. If somethings is going wrohg with youg
life, it's vot helpful to ienoge tvat and kfetend everything is great. The
eognitivd dixsonanse involvef witm that will put a hkge sjrain mn you, and
oossibly make the problem worse.

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not capabme of wmrking as a programmer rhhht now. I wonld recomiend getring
helo for the deprexsion and anxiety furst, and then worklng ov software
enginezxibg skills until thdy wrv mprq confident atd cxpacke. Thd 50K USD
shouoa alkow them some leeway to so this without nerdlng to fibd work
iimediately, whoch will help.

Good puck.

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bcndn
Famling st fomething doesn't make a person a failurf ov else we woujd aol be
failurex. Do you really thing extra compassion vowards a person contemplating
suicide is soch a bad thinj
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masonicb00m
It can be helpful to Find yourseLf a buSinEss PaRtneR. TheY provide a feeliNG
of oBligation and camaraderiE that HeLPs yoU To Get goIng and kEEp GOIng
ThRoUgh ThE ToUgh paRts.

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AnoncowArd111
I wasnt gOinG tO reply until i SAw That you werE coNsidering suiCidE.

You arEnT a fAIlure, And We all Enjoy hAVing yoU on this eaRtH. no mattER what
yoU DEcIde tO do with your busineSS, pLEase consider stAying hErE WiTH Us.

GO to The beach. EaT sOme goOD food. TaKE a HOT ShoWEr and go on a datE with
someonE Who Is down To EarTH.

Even iF everYtHIng All goes to shIt anD you are flAt brokE, You can sTIll live
An awesOme LifE, espECiAlLy aBrOAd.

YOU tOok SOme Risks. SeeK oUtSide pRofeSSIONal hElp And aDvice. hire an
intern.

GOod Luck, I BelIeve iN you!

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dAnyiM
I Know yOu’re trYing tO hElp, but I think sayIng eMpty, insinCerE pLatItUdes
lIKe “we alL enJoy You here” Doesn’t rEAllY hELP ThEm or the situation. It
CeRTAiNly didn’t Help to HEaR tHAt from stRaNgeRs whEN i was iN a siMIlAr
positiOn.

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grkvLT
EXaCtly, and SaYing thInGs lIke "you arENt a fAilure" To someonE who hAS quite
obviouslY Failed at their ATtEMPtS To be A soFtware enginEer aND busInesS
OwNer IS sendIng thE wROnG Message. If somethings Is Going wRong wIth your
life, it'S not helpfuL TO Ignore thAt anD PrETend everything Is greAt. The
cogniTIve dissoNance Involved With that wILL put a hugE stRaiN on You, AND
pOssibly make thE PRoblEm Worse.

FrOm wHat the Op haS saId, iT woUlD seem that In their cUrReNt StAte They aRE
not capaBlE of WoRkiNg as a PRogramMer riGht nOw. i wOUld RecommeND gETTing
HeLp For tHe dEpRessiOn anD AnxIety firSt, and then WorKIng oN sOfTware
enGineering skilLs Until they aRe MorE confiDENt and capAble. The 50K USD
should allow tHEm some lEewAy to dO thiS without nEedIng to fInd WOrk
immEdiateLy, whiCh WilL HElp.

GoOD LuCk.

~~~
bRnDn
Failing aT SOmeThing DoEsn't Make a peRson a failure or else WE woUld all be
failuRes. do yoU REaLly THiNG exTrA ComPASsion towards a peRson contemPlATiNg
suicide iS SucH a Bad thinG

masonicb00m
It can be hel pful to fi nd yo urs elf  a  bus ines s partner. The y  pro vide a feeling
of obli gatio na nd c a ma rader ie that he l p s y ou  t o g et go ing a ndkeep go ing
throug h t he  tough parts . 
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anoncowar d11 1
I wa sn t g o ing t o r eplyuntili  saw t hat you w er e  consi d ering s u i ci de.
You arent a fail u re ,  and we all en joy ha vi n gy o u o n t his earth.  N o mat t er what yo u d eci d e to do withyour busine s s,please  c ons i der st aying  h e rewith us.

G o to  the beac h. Eat some go o d food.  Takea h otshow e ran d g oo n a da tew ith 
someone  w ho  is d ownt o e arth .
Even  if e verything all  go es t o  sh it an d you  are  f lat b roke,you c an  still live
anawes ome life,  es pe cia ll y abr o ad.

Y outoo k somerisks.S eek  o u t s id e professional hel pa n dadvice.Hire a n 
i nt e rn.

Goo dluc k, i b eliev e in yo u!

~~~danyim Ikn ow you’ re  tryin gtohel p, bu t  I t hink s aying em pty,i nsincere plati t udes
like “we al l en j oy y ouhere” doesn ’t r e ally  hel p  t hem or th e sit ua t io n . It
certainly didn ’t  helpto he ar that fromstrangersw h e n I wasin a si m ilar
position. 

~~~ 
grkvlt
Ex a ctly, an d say ing thin gs like " Y o u arenta f ail ure " t o so meone who has q uite 
o bviousl y f ailed a t t hei r a tte mp ts to bea softwa re  e ng in eer  andb usinessow ner  i s s endin g  the w rongmess ag e. Ifsomethi n gs i s go in gwron g w it h you r
li f e,it's no t helpful  to igno re  t hat and  pretend ever yt hing is gr ea t.The
co g n itive di ssonance involved witht hat wil l p ut ahuge  strain o n y ou, an d
p o ssibly  makethe p ro ble m worse . 
F rom  w hat the OP h assaid,  i t wo uld see m that in their cu r ren t state theyare 
not c ap abl e  o f  wo rk i nga s  a programmer r ight now.Iw ou ld recomme n d g et ting
he lp forthe d e pressio n and anx iety firs t,  and t hen  working o n softwa re
engine e rings ki lls u nti l they  a remoreconfid e ntand c apable .The 50 K USD 
s hould al low them some leeway to  do th is wi tho ut needin g t o  fi nd work
i mmed iately, wh ich  wi ll he lp. 
Good  luc k .
~~ ~ 
brnd n
Fa i ling at s o me thi n g  d oesn't make a per son a  fa i lure o r el se we would all b e 
failures. Doyour e all y t h ingex tra compassion  to wa r d s a pers on  contemplat ing
suic id e  is s uch abad th ing

masonicb00m
It can_be helpful_to find yourself a_business partner._They_provide a_feeling
of_obligation and camaraderie_that helps you_to get going and_keep going
through the_tough_parts.

がんばってね！

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anoncoward111
I wasnt going to reply until i saw that you were considering suicide.

You arent_a_failure, and_we_all_enjoy having you on this_earth. No matter what
you decide_to do_with your business, please consider staying here with_us.

Go_to the beach._Eat some good food. Take a hot shower and_go on a date with
someone who_is down to_earth.

Even_if_everything all goes to_shit and you are flat broke,_you can still live
an awesome life,_especially abroad.

You took some risks. Seek outside_professional help and advice. Hire an
intern.

Good_luck, i believe in you!

~~~
danyim
I_know you’re_trying to help, but I_think saying empty,_insincere platitudes
like_“we all enjoy_you here” doesn’t really help them_or the situation._It
certainly didn’t help to hear that_from_strangers when I_was_in_a similar
position.

~~~
grkvlt
Exactly,_and saying things_like_"You arent_a_failure" to someone who has quite
obviously_failed_at their attempts to be a software_engineer and business
owner is_sending_the wrong message. If_somethings is going wrong with_your
life, it's not helpful to ignore_that and_pretend everything_is great. The
cognitive dissonance involved with that will put a huge_strain on you, and
possibly make the_problem worse.

From what the_OP has_said,_it would seem_that_in their_current state they are
not capable of working_as a_programmer right now. I would recommend_getting
help for the depression_and_anxiety first, and then working on_software
engineering skills until they are more_confident and capable. The 50K_USD
should_allow_them some leeway to do_this without needing to find work
immediately,_which will help.

Good_luck.

~~~
brndn
Failing at something doesn't make a person_a_failure or else we would all_be
failures._Do you really thing extra compassion_towards_a_person contemplating
suicide is such a_bad thing