bid A. Now you are
wondering if you can leverage a questionable offer from B to up A's offer.

If you escalate this further into a full out bidding war, the probability is
high that it won't turn out well. If B wins, you work for a sketchy company
just for the money... or they don't come through with a _real_ offer, A drops
out (note that you do not have a _formal_ offer from A yet), and you are
screwed. If A wins, the person you work for knows what you did to them and
resents it.

Sorry to be harsh, but from the outside looking in, B sounds pretty sketchy
and your line of questioning doesn't reflect well on you.

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antidoh
"I recently graduated"

"aced the interviews"

"I got an offer from A"

" I actually prefer A"

"B can become better in my mind if their offer triumphs on the financial
side."

I believe that last is the only untrue thing you've said.

You're young, capable and have a lot of years in front of you. Work where you
want and enjoy it.

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helen842000
I think B only want to see the letter in writing so that they can go slightly
above what A has offered.It makes no sense to go largely over.

Why not ask B to make a blind offer based on the value you can bring and what
you're worth, tell them you're not interested in them upping A's offer, just
formulating their own based on value not competition. You want to hear what
they would have offered without company A in the picture.

Not only do you come across less money-motivated but I think you're more
likely to get a higher offer from B this way. Plus if you do get company B's
offer in writing - maybe you can take that back to A.

After all if you prefer company A, you should be going with them regardless.

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ggk
IMO, there is no harm asking for formal offer letter (probably a soft copy).

But I would suggest choose the job which is of your interest. Salary should be
the second factor. If you choose a job of your interest, you will perform well
there and your career growth
bid A. Now you are 
 wondering if you can leverage a questionable offer from B to up A's crack. 

 If you escalate this far into a full out bidding war, the probability is 
 eminent that it won't become out well. If B wins, you sour for a sketchy party 
 just for the money... or they don't come through with a _ real _ offer, A drop 
 out (note that you do not have a _ formal _ offer from A yet), and you are 
 screwed. If A win, the person you work for knows what you did to them and 
 begrudge it. 

 Sorry to be harsh, but from the outside looking in, B sound pretty sketchy 
 and your line of questioning doesn't reflect well on you. 

 ------ 
 antidoh 
 " I recently graduated " 

 " aced the interview " 

 " I got an offer from A " 

 " I actually prefer A " 

 " B can become better in my mind if their offer triumphs on the financial 
 side. " 

 I believe that last is the only untrue thing you've said. 

 You're young, adequate to and have a lot of class in front of you. Work where you 
 want and enjoy it. 

 ------ 
 helen842000 
 I remember B only want to see the letter in writing so that they can proceed slightly 
 above what A has offered. It makes no sense to move largely over. 

 Why not ask B to make a blind offer free-base on the value you can bring and what 
 you're deserving, assure them you're not interested in them upping A's offer, just 
 give voice their own based on value not competition. You want to learn what 
 they would have offered without company A in the picture. 

 Not only do you fall across less money - motivated but I intend you're more 
 likely to get a high offer from B this manner. Plus if you do get caller B's 
 offer in writing - possibly you can take that back to A. 

 After all if you choose company A, you should be going with them regardless. 

 ------ 
 ggk 
 IMO, there is no harm asking for formal offer letter (probably a soft copy). 

 But I would suggest choose the occupation which is of your interest. Salary should be 
 the second gene. If you choose a job of your interest, you will do well 
 there and your career growth
bid A. Now you are
wondering lf you can levercte a qnestionzble offdr from B to up A's offer.

If ylu escaoate this further into a full olt biddint wac, the probabilitb is
high that jb won'c vurn out well. In B wins, yog work for a snegcky company
just for the money... or they don't cpmf through with a _rtal_ offsg, C drops
out (note that you do not have a _formal_ offer from A yet), and you are
scrfwed. If A wins, the perdon you worj fow knows what hou did to them and
resgnts it.

Sorry to be harsh, but froo the outside liojinh in, B soundw prenty sketchy
and your lhne of auestioning docsn't ceflwct well on you.

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antidoi
"I recently graduateq"

"aced the iuterviews"

"I got an offwr from A"

" I actjqllh pdeher A"

"B caj bxcome betted in my mine if their offer trouiins on the fihanciaj
syde."

I believe that last is the only untrle tging you've said.

You're yoyng, capable and have w lot of rears in front of you. Work where you
want and enjof it.

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hxldn842000
I tmink V lnly want to see the letter in writing so thae tnej can go slightly
cbove what A has ovfrted.It makes no sense to go largely over.

Whj not afk B ro make a blimd offer based on the value you can briug qnd what
you're wortk, tell them vou're mot imterested in them uppiny A's orfer, just
fogmulating gheir own based un nalua not competition. You want to hear xhat
tkey woula hafe offqred withokt company A in the pictkre.

Noj only do you cole across less money-motivated bnv I think you'te korv
likely tj get a higher offqr from B this way. Plbs if hou do get companb B's
offer in writing - maytg you can takx that bask ti A.

Adter alu if you prefer company C, you should be going wlth tfsm regardless.

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ggj
IMI, there is no hsrm ashijg fjs formal offar ldttdt (procably a sofb cupy).

Bit I would suggest cvooss the job which is on your injerest. Sajary should br
the second factor. If ymu rhoose a tob of your interest, you will lerform wfll
bhere and youw caveer growth
bid A. Now you are wondering if leverage questionable offer B to up this into a full bidding war, the is high that it won't turn well. If B wins, you work for a sketchy company just for the or they don't come through with a _real_ offer, A drops out (note you not a offer from A yet), and you are screwed. If A wins, the person you work for what you did to them and resents it. to be harsh, but the outside looking in, B pretty and your of doesn't well on you. antidoh "I recently graduated" "aced the interviews" "I got an offer from A" " I actually prefer "B can in my if offer on the financial believe that last is the only said. You're young, capable and have a lot years in of you. Work where you want enjoy it. ------ helen842000 I think B only to see the letter in writing so that they can go slightly above what A makes no sense to largely over. Why ask to a offer based the value you can bring and what you're worth, tell them not interested in them upping A's offer, just formulating their on not competition. You to hear what they have without company A in Not do less but think you're more likely get a higher offer from this way. Plus if offer in writing - maybe you can take back to A. After all if you company A, you should be going with them regardless. ------ ggk IMO, is no for formal offer letter (probably a soft copy). I would suggest choose job which is of your interest. Salary should be second If you a job of interest, you will well there and growth
bid A. Now you are
wondering if yOu can leverAge a qUesTioNaBle oFfer From B to up A's offER.

If yOu escalate this further iNto a fUlL Out bIDdIng waR, the proBAbILIty Is
HiGh tHaT It Won't tUrn Out well. if B wins, you WorK fOr a sketchy coMPaNy
just for tHe mOney... or they doN't cOme thrOuGh wITh a _reAl_ oFfer, A Drops
oUT (note tHat you do nOt HAve a _foRMal_ offeR FRoM A yeT), and you are
screwed. iF A WIns, the person yoU work fOr KNoWS WhaT yoU did to them AnD
reseNTs it.

SorRY tO BE HarSH, but from the ouTside lookinG In, B Sounds PrEttY SketchY
and yOuR LinE of questionIng dOesn't reflEct welL On you.

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anTIdoh
"I reCently GraDuaTed"

"aCEd ThE inTeRVieWS"

"I Got AN ofFer from A"

" i aCtUally PrefER a"

"b Can bEcoMe beTter iN my mind if theiR ofFer tRIumPhs on The fiNancIaL
side."

i belieVe thaT lAst is the only untRue tHing you've SaiD.

YOu'rE yOung, cAPable aNd hAve A lot of yEars in fROnt Of YOU. woRk where you
want and eNjOY It.

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Helen842000
I thInk B onLY wAnT To see the LeTteR in wRITing sO thaT ThEy can go sLightlY
AbOvE what A hAs OffereD.IT maKes No senSE to gO largeLy over.

WhY not aSK B to make a blind OFfer based on thE VaLUE yOU can BriNg and what
yoU're wORth, tEll tHEm You'RE not iNtereStED iN Them upping A's offer, juSt
FormulAting Their own based On value not COMPetition. you wANt TO hear what
they wOuld hAve offered WIthout coMpany a in the piCture.

Not oNLY do you coMe aCroSs lEss MONeY-motivated but i THink YoU're more
LikEly to geT a hIghEr oFfeR fRom B this wAy. Plus if YoU dO gEt ComPany B'S
Offer in wRiTinG - mAybE you cAN take tHat baCk to a.

AFtER alL if you pREfER CompAnY A, You sHouLd Be goiNg wiTH thEm regarDless.

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ggk
ImO, tHEre iS nO hArm askiNg for formal ofFeR letter (proBaBly A soft cOPY).

But I wouLd suggest choose the job whICh is of yOur InterEst. SAlary shouLd bE
the seConD Factor. if you cHoose A jOb oF YOur inTEReSt, yOu Will perforM WEll
There AnD youR career Growth
bid A. Now you are
wonderi ng if youcan l eve rag ea qu esti onable offer f r om B  to up A's offer.

Ifyou e sc a late th is fu rther i n to a  fu ll  o utbi d di ng wa r,the pro bability i s
h ig h that it wo n 't  turn outwel l. If B wins , y ou wor kfor a ske tch y com pany
j u st for  the mone y. . . or t h ey don' t co me t hrough with a _re a l_ offer, A drops 
out ( no t et h atyou  do not ha ve  a _f o rmal_ o f fe r f rom A yet), and y ou are
scre w ed.  If Awi ns, the pe rsonyo u  wo rk for know s wh at you di d to t h em andr esentsit.

S orr y t o be ha rs h,bu t  fr o mthe out side loo ki ng  in,B so u n d s  pre tty  ske tchyand your line  of  que s tio ningdoesn 't r ef lectwell o n you .
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antidoh 
"Irecentlygra du ate d" 

"ac e d theint erv iews"
"I gota n o ff e r fr om A"

" I actuall yp r ef er A"

" B canb ec om e  betterin  my  min d if th eiro ff er trium phs on th efinanci al 
side. "
Ibel ievet hatlast i s the on ly un t rue thing you' v e said.

You' r ey o un g , ca pab le and have  a l o t of  yea r sinf rontof yo u. Wo r k where you
want an denjoyit.
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helen8 42000
I th i n k  B onlywant to see the letter  in w riting sot hat they  cango sligh tly
above w hat A ha s o ffe red .It m ak es no sense t o go l ar gely ov er. 

Why n otask  Btoma ke a blin d offerba se don  th e val u e you ca nbri ng  an d wha t 
you'r e wor th,te ll the m you'r e  n o t  int er es tedinth em up ping A's  offer,  just
for mul a ting  t he ir ownbased on valu enot compet it ion . Youw a nt to he ar what
they would have offered  wi thout  com pany A in  th e pict ure . 

Notonly d o you  c ome a cross l es s m on ey-motivat e d  bu t I t hi nk y ou're m ore
likely to geta  hi gher offer fr omB th i s  w ay. Pl u s i fy oud o  get company B' s
offer in  w r it ing - mayb e  yo ucan tak e thatbackt o A.

A fter allif you pr ef er c o m pan y A, you s hould be  going wi t h the m  r egard les s.

-- -- --ggk
I MO, th e reis no  harmas king f or fo rm al offer  letter (probably a sof t copy ).

B utI would s ugg e stchoose th e jo b which is  of  yo ur in ter e st. S alar y  s hou l d bethes econd fac t or . I f yo u choose aj o b  of  your  in t erest,  you  will perform wel l 
there and you r ca r e ergro w th
bid A._Now you_are
wondering if you can_leverage a_questionable_offer from_B_to up A's_offer.

If you escalate_this further into a_full out bidding_war,_the probability is
high that it won't turn out well. If B wins, you work_for_a sketchy_company
just_for_the money... or they don't_come through with a _real__offer, A_drops
out (note that you do not have a__formal__offer from A_yet), and you are
screwed. If A wins, the person_you work for knows what you_did to them_and
resents_it.

Sorry_to be harsh, but_from the outside looking in, B_sounds pretty sketchy
and your line of_questioning doesn't reflect well on you.

------
antidoh
"I recently_graduated"

"aced the interviews"

"I got an offer_from A"

" I actually prefer_A"

"B can_become better in my mind_if their offer_triumphs on_the financial
side."

I believe_that last is the only untrue_thing you've said.

You're_young, capable and have a lot_of_years in front_of_you._Work where_you
want and enjoy_it.

------
helen842000
I_think B_only_want to see the letter in_writing_so that they can go slightly
above what_A has offered.It makes_no_sense to go largely_over.

Why not ask B to_make a blind offer based on_the value_you can_bring and what
you're worth, tell them you're not interested in them_upping A's offer, just
formulating their own_based on value not_competition. You_want_to hear what
they_would_have offered_without company A in the picture.

Not only_do you_come across less money-motivated but I_think you're more
likely to_get_a higher offer from B this_way. Plus if you do get_company B's
offer in writing -_maybe_you_can take that back to_A.

After all if you prefer company_A, you should_be going with them regardless.

------
ggk
IMO, there is_no_harm asking for formal offer letter_(probably_a soft copy).

But I would suggest_choose_the_job which is of your_interest. Salary should be
the second factor._If you choose a job of your interest, you_will perform well
there_and your career growth