 is a short read but I
can't help but think back on it and reflect on it's lessons from time to time.

------
avip
Do you have any less virtual forum to discuss this? Family? Friends? The
Internet is a terrible medium for dealing with emotional downtimes.

~~~
philbarr
Sometimes it can be better NOT to discuss with friends and family - they are
much more likely to tell you what they think you want to hear in order to
cheer you up.

------
aerovistae
Honestly really proud of HN right now. Skimmed this expecting to see a lot of
comments condemning and belittling this guy, and instead see a lot of support.
Hopefully not just because the bad comments got deleted. Rare moment for the
internet.

------
santoshalper
There's lots of great advice in this thread, but much of it is not direct
enough for someone suffering from depression and anxiety, which you obviously
are. I have struggled with it on-and-off my entire adult life. What you need
right now are clear simple marching orders that you can follow.

1\. You are in no position to run a business right now, and in no position to
live alone in a foreign country without extensive support from family and
loved ones.

2\. How your actions will reflect on other foreigners is totally irrelevant to
your situation. Your fixation with this is a symptom of anxiety. Right now you
believe you are be watched and judged. In reality, one week after you leave
nobody there will remember you or care. You are free.

3\. Tell your accountant to wind down your business immediately. Do not
equivocate or listen to arguments from him. If you need help, someone on this
thread who is familiar with Japanese language and customs will surely advocate
on your behalf.

3\. Find friends, relatives, or loved-ones that you can lean on for support
and GO HOME now. You can always come back when you are better. This is not a
permanent decision, you are just getting back on your feet.

4\. Get professional help as soon as you get back. When evaluating who to stay
with, ask yourself this "will they make me seek help and hold me accountable
to keep getting help" That's the friend/family member you need
is a short read but I 
 can't help but think back on it and reflect on it's moral from meter to time. 

 ------ 
 avip 
 Do you have any less virtual forum to discuss this? kin? Friends? The 
 Internet is a terrible metier for deal with emotional downtime. 

 ~~~ 
 philbarr 
 Sometimes it can be dear NOT to hash out with friends and family - they are 
 much more probable to tell you what they think you desire to hear in orderliness to 
 cheer you up. 

 ------ 
 aerovistae 
 Honestly really proud of HN right now. skim this expecting to see a lot of 
 comments condemn and belittling this guy, and instead see a lot of support. 
 Hopefully not barely because the bad comments got deleted. Rare moment for the 
 internet. 

 ------ 
 santoshalper 
 There's lots of great advice in this thread, but much of it is not direct 
 enough for someone suffering from depression and anxiety, which you obviously 
 are. I have struggled with it on - and - off my entire adult life. What you need 
 right now are clean simple marching club that you can adopt. 

 1\. You are in no position to run a business justly now, and in no position to 
 live alone in a alien country without extensive support from family and 
 loved ones. 

 2\. How your military action will reflect on other foreigners is totally irrelevant to 
 your situation. Your fixation with this is a symptom of anxiety. properly now you 
 believe you are be watched and judged. In reality, one workweek after you leave 
 nobody there will remember you or care. You are free. 

 3\. Tell your accountant to wind down your business immediately. Do not 
 equivocate or listen to argument from him. If you need assistant, someone on this 
 thread who is familiar with Japanese speech and customs will surely recommend 
 on your behalf. 

 3\. Find friend, relatives, or sleep together - ones that you can lean on for support 
 and GO HOME now. You can always do back when you are better. This is not a 
 permanent decision, you are just getting back on your feet. 

 4\. Get professional help as soon as you get back. When measure who to stay 
 with, ask yourself this " will they induce me seek help and hold me accountable 
 to keep getting help " That's the supporter / family member you need
 is a short read but I
can't melp but think bcxk on mt and deflect un it's lessons from time to vime.

------
qvip
Di you have any less viftual forlm to disxuss rhis? Familb? Friends? The
Ihbernec ms a terrible mgdium for dedling with emodiuncl downtimes.

~~~
philbarr
Sometimes it can be betyeg NOT to discufs wptr frjvnbs and family - they are
much mors likelj to tell you whay they think you want to hfar ln order to
cheer ylu up.

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aeroviwtae
Rinestly realuy proud of HN right nkw. Skimmed this expecting to sed a lpt of
commebtw cltdemning anv belintling this gmj, and itstead xee a lot of smpporv.
Hopwfully not just becauve the bad commentf got delatzd. Rare moment for thw
ibterngt.

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sandoshxopef
Thtre'x mots ov gceat advice in this theead, but much of it if not direct
enkugh fjr someone suffering from depression and dnxjety, which you obviouslt
are. I have struggled with it jn-and-off my entire adult life. What you need
right tow ace cltav rumole marching orders that you can follow.

1\. You aws on no position tj run a busonfsx right now, ana in no pksition to
live aloje in a foreugn countwy wothout extensive support frim family anb
loced ones.

2\. How your cctions will refkect pn other foreigners is cotallg irrelevanh to
your aktuation. Your fibatpon fith this is a symptom of wnxiety. Rmght uow you
bdliefe you are be wahched and judged. In reallty, oue weak after ylu leave
nobody there will rememuxr you or carg. Ymu dre free.

3\. Tell your accountwnt to wind docn your yusiners immedianely. Do nmt
equivocatq or listen tm arguments fcom him. Is yoy newd help, romeone on thix
thread wkj is familiar with Japenesg manguage and cuwtons will surely sdvucaee
ln yjgr behalf.

3\. Fitd ffievcs, reuatives, or ouved-pnes that you can ledn oh for support
and GP MOME now. Iou can ajways come bavk when you are beuter. Tiis is not s
petmanent decision, you are just gstting bafk jn your feet.

4\. Get professionak help as soon as you get back. When evaouating who to stat
with, ask yourself jhix "will they make me seek velp and hold me acciuntable
to keep gttting help" That's the fdiend/fdmily member you need
is a short read but I can't think on it reflect on it's ------ Do you have less virtual forum discuss this? Family? Friends? The Internet a terrible medium for dealing with emotional downtimes. ~~~ philbarr Sometimes it can better NOT to discuss with friends and family - they are much more to you they you want to hear in order to cheer you up. ------ aerovistae Honestly really proud of right now. Skimmed this expecting to see a of comments condemning and this guy, and instead see lot support. Hopefully just the comments got deleted. moment for the internet. ------ santoshalper There's lots of great advice in this thread, but much of is not for someone from and which you obviously have struggled with it on-and-off my What you need right now are clear simple orders that can follow. 1\. You are in position to run a business right now, and no position to live alone in a foreign country without extensive support from family and 2\. How your actions reflect on other is irrelevant your Your fixation this is a symptom of anxiety. Right now you believe you be watched and judged. In reality, one week after you there remember you or You are free. 3\. your to wind down your Do equivocate arguments him. you need help, someone this thread who is familiar Japanese language and customs behalf. 3\. Find friends, relatives, or loved-ones that can lean on for support and GO now. You can always come back when you are better. This is a permanent are just getting back on your feet. 4\. professional help as soon you get back. When evaluating who to stay with, yourself "will they me seek help hold me accountable keep getting help" friend/family member need
 is a short read but I
can't help bUt think bacK on it And RefLeCt on It's lEssons from time TO timE.

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avip
Do you have any less vIrtuaL fORum tO DiScuss This? FamILy? fRIenDs? thE
InTeRNeT is a tErrIble medIum for dealIng WiTh emotional dOWnTimes.

~~~
philbArr
sometimes it cAn bE betteR NoT tO DiscuSs wIth frIends aND familY - they are
mUcH More liKEly to teLL YoU whaT they think you want TO hEAr in order to
cheEr you uP.

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aERoVIStaE
HoNestly realLy Proud OF HN righT NoW. sKImmED this expectinG to see a lot oF
ComMents cOnDemNIng and BelitTlINg tHis guy, and inSteaD see a lot oF suppoRT.
HopefuLLy not juSt becaUse The Bad cOMmEnTs gOt DEleTEd. rarE MomEnt for thE
iNtErnet.

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SantOSHALper
theRe's lOts of Great advice in ThiS thrEAd, bUt mucH of it Is noT dIrect
Enough For soMeOne suffering froM depRession anD anXiEty, WhIch yoU ObviouSly
Are. i have stRuggled WIth It ON-ANd-Off my entire adult liFe. wHAt You need
rIght noW ArE cLEar simplE mArcHing ORDers tHat yOU cAn follow.

1\. you are IN nO pOsition To Run a buSiNesS riGht noW, And iN no posItion to
lIve alONe in a foreign coUNtry without exTEnSIVe SUppoRt fRom family anD
lovED oneS.

2\. How YOuR acTIons wIll reFlECt ON other foreigners is tOtAlly irRelevAnt to
your situAtion. Your fIXATion with This IS a SYmptom of anxietY. RighT now you
belIEve you arE be waTched and Judged. In rEALity, one wEek AftEr yOu lEAVe
Nobody there wiLL RemeMbEr you or CarE. You are FreE.

3\. TeLl yOur AcCountant tO wind dowN yOuR bUsIneSs immEDiately. DO nOt
eQuIvoCate oR Listen To argUmenTs FrOM hiM. If you nEEd HELp, soMeOnE on tHis
ThRead wHo is FAmiLiar witH Japanese LanGUage AnD cUstoms wIll surely advoCaTe
on your beHaLf.

3\. FInd friENDs, relatiVes, or loved-ones that you caN Lean on fOr sUpporT
and gO HOME now. you Can alwAys COme bacK when yOu are BeTteR. tHis is NOT a
PerMaNent decisiON, You Are juSt GettIng back On your feet.

4\. Get profeSSioNal help as soon As yOu geT BAcK. WhEN eVAluAtINg wHO To stay
with, ask yoUrself this "WiLL tHey make me sEEk hElP and holD me accoUntabLE
to keep Getting heLp" That's thE fRienD/FAmiLy member yoU need
 is a short read but I
can 't help bu t thi nkbac kon i t an d reflect on i t 's l essons from time to ti me.
-- - ---a vi p
Doyou hav e  a n y  le ss  v irt ua l  f orumtodiscuss  this? Fam ily ?Friends? The In ternet isa t errible medi umfor de al ing withemo tiona l down t imes.
~~~
phil ba r r
Some t imes it c an  bebetter NOT to dis c us s  with friendsand fa mi l y- the y a re
much mo re  like l y to te l ly o u  wh a t they thinkyou want to hea r in o rd ert o
chee r you  u p .
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aero vist ae
Honest ly rea l ly prou d  of HNrightnow . S kimm e dth isex p ect i ng  to see  a lot o fco mment s co n d e m ning  an d be littl ing this guy,  an d in s tea d see  a lo t of  s uppor t.
Hop efull ynot just becaus e th e bad com men ts  go tdelet e d. Rar e m ome nt forthe
int e rne t. - -- ---
santoshalper
T he r e 's  lots of  great ad vi c e in thi sthr ead, b ut mu ch o f  i t is not  direc t 
e no ugh for  s omeone  s uff eri ng fr o m de pressi on and a nxiet y , which you ob v iously
are. I ha v e  s t rugg led  with it on -and - offmy e n ti rea dultlife.  W h at you need
right nowar e clea r sim ple marchingorders tha t y ou can f ollo w .1\. You are in  no p osition to run a bu sines s rightnow, andi n  no posi tio n t o
l ive a lo ne in a forei g n  cou nt ry with out  extens ive  su ppo rtfr om family  and
lov ed  o ne s. 

2 \. Ho w  your ac ti ons  w ill  refl e ct onother  for ei gn e rsis tota l ly i rrel ev an t to 
yo ur  situ atio n . Y our fix ation wit h t h is i sasymptom  of anxiety.Ri ght now yo ubel ieve y o u  are bewatched and judged. Inr eality,  on e wee k af ter you l eav e
nobo dyt here w ill re membe ryou o r car e .  Y ouar e free.

3 \ .  Te ll yo ur  acc ountant  to wind down your bus iness immedia tel y. D o no t
e q ui v oca te orl i sten to argumen ts from hi m. If  you needh elp ,someone  on thi s
thr e ad whois famili ar with J ap anes e lan guage andcustomswill sure l y adv o ca te
on  yo ur beh al f.
3\.Find f r ien ds, r elativ es , or l oved- on es thatyou can lean on for sup port
a nd GO  HO ME now. Y ouc analways co me b ack when y ouare  bett er. Thisis n o ta
p e rmane nt d e cision, y o uare j us t getting b a c k  on  your  fe e t.

4\ . Ge t professional he l p as soon as y ou g e t  ba ck. When  e valuating whotost a y 
with, a sk  yourself t his "wil lt hey m ake me  seekhelp an d ho l d me a ccou nta ble
to ke epge t ting he lp "T hat'sthefr iend/f amilym embe r you need
 is_a short_read but I
can't help_but think_back_on it_and_reflect on it's_lessons from time_to time.

------
avip
Do you have_any less virtual_forum_to discuss this? Family? Friends? The
Internet is a terrible medium for dealing with emotional_downtimes.

~~~
philbarr
Sometimes_it can_be_better_NOT to discuss with friends_and family - they are
much_more likely_to tell you what they think you want_to_hear in order_to
cheer you up.

------
aerovistae
Honestly really proud of HN right now._Skimmed this expecting to see a_lot of
comments condemning_and_belittling_this guy, and instead_see a lot of support.
Hopefully not_just because the bad comments got_deleted. Rare moment for the
internet.

------
santoshalper
There's lots of_great advice in this thread, but_much of it is not_direct
enough for_someone suffering from depression and_anxiety, which you_obviously
are. I_have struggled with_it on-and-off my entire adult life._What you need
right_now are clear simple marching orders_that_you can follow.

1\._You_are_in no_position to run_a_business right_now,_and in no position to
live alone_in_a foreign country without extensive support from_family and
loved ones.

2\. How_your_actions will reflect on_other foreigners is totally irrelevant_to
your situation. Your fixation with this_is a_symptom of_anxiety. Right now you
believe you are be watched and judged. In_reality, one week after you leave
nobody_there will remember you_or care._You_are free.

3\. Tell_your_accountant to_wind down your business immediately. Do not
equivocate_or listen_to arguments from him. If you_need help, someone on_this
thread_who is familiar with Japanese language_and customs will surely advocate
on your_behalf.

3\. Find friends, relatives, or_loved-ones_that_you can lean on for_support
and GO HOME now. You can_always come back_when you are better. This is not_a
permanent_decision, you are just getting back_on_your feet.

4\. Get professional help as_soon_as_you get back. When evaluating_who to stay
with, ask yourself this_"will they make me seek help and hold me_accountable
to keep getting_help" That's the friend/family member_you_need