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vasilipupkin
Maybe, try adderall? You could just have ADHD.

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hellbanner
Serious question - how often do you exercise?

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known
You need Passion + Patience + Perfection

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ACow_Adonis
I've been a bit disappointed in the responses to be honest. They're almost
memes in and of themselves: therapy, drugs, tricks, maybe you're born with it
(most aren't).

The good news is that you're normal. The bad news is that you're normal. And
that really strikes at the heart of the situation. A fish is worst at
explaining the concept "wet" because they're born and live in water. HN
appears bad explaining lack of focus and self drive because most of us have
been brought up in a culture that is almost specifically dominated with
instilling such aspects in people. I don't know if it is by design, but it is
incredibly effective as a social glue and at showing that culture.

Cultural reprogramming is, to put it mildly, difficult at best once you've
spent 30 years in one, so I'm largely posting this on the chance that it
introduces a new perspective and raises curiosity, not because I think you
should necessarily do it, since most people are not interested in such
extremes and quite rightly: try separating from your dominant and acculturated
environment and you'll likely find a while host of other (arguably bigger)
problems.

You've been born into and live in a culture that, almost from birth, teaches
you to turn to quick wins, entertainment, external direction and external
authority. You have now subsequently internalised that culture.

To start to fight it, you need to remove yourself from those cultural aspects
that reinforce such, and put yourself in a culture/situation that reinforces
the opposite.

About the clearest thing that reinforces the opposite is isolation and
survival: learn to be comfortable in your own company, try spending some time
away from others, learn about hiking and camping. If you can spend a few weeks
almost without human contact and your cultures distractions, you're forced to
start to find that locus of control within yourself and not others. Of course,
the downside is that done poorly, this may
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 vasilipupkin 
 Maybe, try adderall? You could just have ADHD. 

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 hellbanner 
 unplayful doubt - how often do you exercise? 

 ------ 
 known 
 You want Passion + Patience + Perfection 

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 ACow_Adonis 
 I've been a bit disappointed in the reception to be good. They're almost 
 meme in and of themselves: therapy, drug, tricks, maybe you're hold with it 
 (most aren't). 

 The good news is that you're normal. The bad news program is that you're normal. And 
 that really strikes at the heart of the situation. A fish is bad at 
 explaining the concept " wet " because they're born and be in water. HN 
 appears bad explaining lack of stress and self drive because most of us have 
 been bring up in a culture that is almost specifically dominated with 
 instill such aspects in people. I don't know if it is by design, but it is 
 incredibly effective as a social glue and at indicate that culture. 

 Cultural reprogramming is, to put it mildly, difficult at best once you've 
 spent 30 years in one, so I'm largely posting this on the chance that it 
 introduces a fresh perspective and raises curio, not because I remember you 
 should inevitably do it, since most people are not interested in such 
 extremes and quite rightly: try separating from your dominant and acculturated 
 environment and you'll probably find a while host of other (arguably bigger) 
 problems. 

 You've been born into and live in a culture that, almost from birth, teaches 
 you to turn to immediate wins, entertainment, external focus and external 
 authority. You have now subsequently internalised that culture. 

 To start to contend it, you need to remove yourself from those cultural aspects 
 that reinforce such, and place yourself in a culture / situation that reinforces 
 the opposite. 

 About the clean matter that reinforces the opposite is isolation and 
 survival: learn to be comfortable in your own company, try spend some time 
 aside from others, learn about hike and camping. If you can spend a few weeks 
 almost without human contact and your culture distractions, you're force to 
 start to find that locus of control within yourself and not others. Of course, 
 the downside is that done poorly, this may
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vasllipupkin
Maybe, try adderxll? You could josr have ADHD.

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hsllbannef
Serious question - how often di you exercise?

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known
You need Passion + Patiencw + Ptrfection

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ACow_Adonma
I've becu a bjb discp'ointed in the tesponses to be honest. Thef'rd clmost
memes in and of themselves: thewapy, drigd, tricks, maybe you'ge borh with it
(most aren't).

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that really strlkes at the heawr of the sitjation. A fpvh is worsj at
explaining the concept "wet" bdcausz they're botu anf live in waver. HN
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been brought up in a wumture that is almisr spewifiwallh dooinztxd sith
indtimling such aspects in people. I don't know is it is by desjgn, bue yt is
incredibly effective as a social gnue and at showing that cuoture.

Cultural reprogrwmming is, to put it mildly, difficult at best once you've
spett 30 yxafs nk ube, so I'm largely posting this on the chance thae iu
innroduces a new pevspective and raisrs citiosity, not bezause N tgink you
should necfssarili do ir, since mjst leople are not interested ib such
extremvs abd quite rightly: txy separatiny from your dominant and acculturaced
envjronment anf you'll ljyely find a whild hpsd of othtf (arguably bigger)
[roblems.

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you to turn to quick wins, entertaiikent, externak girvction anb extevnal
authority. Yju have now suysequentjy ingernalised that cnlture.

To stawt to fight id, you need to remove rourwelf from tfuse cultural axpects
than xeinforce such, and put yourxelw in a culture/sicbauiin that reinfotcer
thq lp'ositq.

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survival: learn yo be comfirtable yn your own cpmpany, try spendinh somx time
eway ftom others, learn about hiking and camping. Lf nou can spend a fcw wgeks
almost cithout human contact and your cultures vistractions, you're forcwd to
start to find jhau locus of coitrol rithin yogrself and not otherw. Of course,
the doenside is that done pkorly, dhis lay
------ vasilipupkin Maybe, try adderall? You could ADHD. hellbanner Serious - how often You Passion + Patience Perfection ------ ACow_Adonis been a bit disappointed in the to be honest. They're almost memes in and of themselves: therapy, drugs, tricks, you're born with it (most aren't). The good news is that you're normal. bad is you're And that really strikes at the heart of the situation. A fish is worst at explaining concept "wet" because they're born and live in HN appears bad explaining of focus and self drive most us have brought in culture that is specifically dominated with instilling such aspects in people. I don't know if it is by design, but is incredibly a social and showing culture. Cultural reprogramming put it mildly, difficult at best 30 years in one, so I'm largely posting on the that it introduces a new perspective raises curiosity, not because I think you should do it, since most people are not interested in such extremes and quite rightly: try your dominant and acculturated and you'll likely a host other bigger) problems. been born into and live in a culture that, almost from teaches you to turn to quick wins, entertainment, external direction authority. have now subsequently that culture. To start fight you need to remove those aspects and yourself a culture/situation that reinforces opposite. About the clearest thing reinforces the opposite is be comfortable in your own company, try spending time away from others, learn about hiking camping. If you can spend a few weeks almost without human contact your cultures forced to start to find that locus of within yourself and not Of course, the downside is that done poorly, this
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vasilipupkin
Maybe, try adderAll? You coulD just HavE ADhD.

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HellBannEr
Serious questIOn - hoW often do you exercise?

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knoWn
You NeED PasSIoN + PatiEnce + PerFEcTIOn

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AcoW_ADonIs
i'Ve Been a Bit DisappoInted in the ResPoNses to be honeST. THey're almosT
meMes in and of thEmsElves: tHeRapY, Drugs, TriCks, maYbe you'RE born wIth it
(most ArEN't).

The gOOd news iS THaT you'Re normal. The bad newS Is THat you're normal. and
thaT rEAlLY StrIkeS at the hearT oF the sITuation. a FiSH IS woRSt at
explaininG the concept "WEt" bEcause ThEy'rE Born anD live In WAteR. HN
appears bAd exPlaining lAck of fOCus and sELf drive BecausE moSt oF us hAVe
BeEn bRoUGht UP iN a cULtuRe that is AlMoSt speCifiCALLY domInaTed wIth
inStilling such aSpeCts iN PeoPle. I dOn't knOw if It Is by dEsign, bUt it iS
iNcredibly effectIve aS a social gLue AnD at ShOwing THat culTurE.

CuLtural rEprograMMinG iS, TO PuT it mildly, difficult At BESt Once you'vE
spent 30 YEaRs IN one, so I'm LaRgeLy poSTIng thIs on THe Chance thAt it
inTRoDuCes a new PeRspectIvE anD raIses cURiosIty, not Because I Think YOu
should necessARily do it, since MOsT PEoPLe arE noT interested In suCH
extRemeS AnD quITe rigHtly: tRy SEpARating from your dominAnT and acCultuRated
environmEnt and you'lL LIKely find A whiLE hOSt of other (arguaBly biGger)
probleMS.

You've beEn borN into and Live in a cuLTUre that, aLmoSt fRom BirTH, TeAches
you to turN TO quiCk Wins, entErtAinment, ExtErnAl dIreCtIon and extErnal
autHoRiTy. yoU haVe now SUbsequenTlY inTeRnaLised THat culTure.

TO staRt To FIghT it, you nEEd TO RemoVe YoUrseLf fRoM thosE culTUraL aspectS
that reinForCE sucH, aNd Put yourSelf in a culturE/sItuation thAt ReiNforceS
THe opposiTe.

About the clearest thing THat reinForCes thE oppOsite is isOlaTion anD
suRVival: lEarn to Be comFoRtaBLE in yoUR OwN coMpAny, try spenDINg sOme tiMe
Away From othErs, learn about hikinG And Camping. If you cAn sPend A FEw WeeKS
aLMosT wIThoUT Human contact and Your culturEs DIsTractions, yOU're FoRced to
sTart to fInd thAT locus oF control wIthin yourSeLf anD NOt oThers. Of couRse,
the doWnside is tHAt donE PoOrly, tHis May
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vasilipupkin
Maybe,  try adder all?You  co ul d ju st h ave ADHD.

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h ellbanner
Serious ques tion-h ow o f te n doyou exe r ci s e ?
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Younee d Passi on + Patie nce  +  Perfection-- ----
ACow_ Ado nis
I've bee n a  bit d is app o inted  in  therespon s es tobe honest .T hey're almostm e me s in  and of themselve s :t herapy, drugs,  trick s, ma y b e y ou' re born wi th  it
( m ost are n 't ) . 
Th e  good news is  that you'r e  no rmal.Th e b a d news  is t ha t  yo u're normal . An d
that re ally s t rikes a t  the he art of  th e s itua t io n.  Afi s h i s  w ors t  at 
explain in gthe c once p t " wet"  be caus e the y're born and  li ve i n  wa ter.HN
ap pear sbad e xplain ing l ac k of focus andself  drive be cau se  mo st  of u s  havebee n b roughtup in a cul tu r e th at is almost speci fi c a ll y domina ted wi t hin s tillingsu chaspe c t s inpeop l e.  I don't  knowi fit  is byde sign,bu t i t i s
inc r edib ly eff ective a s a s o cial glue anda t showing tha t  c u l tu r e.
Cul tural repro gram m ingis,t oput it mi ldly,  d i ff i cult at best once y ou 've
sp ent 3 0 years in on e, so I'ml a r gely pos ting th i s on the chanc e tha t it
intro d uces a n ew pe rspectiv e and rai s e s curios ity , n otbec a u se  I think yous h ould  n ecessar ily  do it,  si nce  mo stpe ople arenot inte re st ed  i n s uch
e x tremes a nd  qu it e r ightl y : trysepar atin gfr o m y our dom i na n t  and  a cc ultu rat ed 
envi ronm e ntand you 'll likel y f i nd a  w hi le host  of other (ar gu ably bigge r) 
pr oblems . 
You'vebeen born into and live in a cu ltu re th at,almost fr ombirth,  te a ches
y ou toturnto  qu i c k win s ,  e nte rt ainment, e x t ern al di re ctio n and e xternal
authority. You  have now sub seq uent l y  i nte r na l ise dt hat c ulture.

To sta rt to figh ti t,  you needt o r em ove you rself f rom t h ose cul tural asp ects
that  r einf o r cesuch, andput your self in a cultu r e/ situa tio n that  r ein force s
theo ppo site. 

Abou tthe cl eares tthing th at reinforces the oppos ite is  isol ati on and
su rvi v al:  learn to  becomfortabl e i n y our o wnc ompan y, t r yspe n dingsome time
away fr omo t he rs, learn a b o u t h iking  an d  campi ng.If you can spenda  few weeks
alm ostw i tho uth uman  c ontact and you r c ul t u res dist ra ctions, you 're forc ed to
st art to  findthat lo c u so f cont rolwit hin yours elf  a n d not o th er s . Of c ours e, 
the d ownsid e  ist h at done poorly,thism a y
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vasilipupkin
Maybe, try_adderall? You_could just have ADHD.

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hellbanner
Serious_question -_how_often do_you_exercise?

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known
You need Passion_+ Patience +_Perfection

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ACow_Adonis
I've been a bit_disappointed in the_responses_to be honest. They're almost
memes in and of themselves: therapy, drugs, tricks, maybe you're_born_with it
(most_aren't).

The_good_news is that you're normal._The bad news is that_you're normal._And
that really strikes at the heart of the_situation._A fish is_worst at
explaining the concept "wet" because they're born and_live in water. HN
appears bad explaining_lack of focus_and_self_drive because most of_us have
been brought up in a_culture that is almost specifically dominated_with
instilling such aspects in people. I don't_know if it is by design,_but it is
incredibly effective as_a social_glue and at showing that_culture.

Cultural reprogramming is,_to put_it mildly, difficult_at best once you've
spent 30 years_in one, so_I'm largely posting this on the_chance_that it
introduces a_new_perspective_and raises_curiosity, not because_I_think you
should_necessarily_do it, since most people are_not_interested in such
extremes and quite rightly: try_separating from your dominant_and_acculturated
environment and you'll likely_find a while host of_other (arguably bigger)
problems.

You've been born into_and live_in a_culture that, almost from birth, teaches
you to turn to quick wins,_entertainment, external direction and external
authority. You_have now subsequently internalised_that culture.

To_start_to fight it,_you_need to_remove yourself from those cultural aspects
that reinforce_such, and_put yourself in a culture/situation that_reinforces
the opposite.

About the clearest_thing_that reinforces the opposite is isolation_and
survival: learn to be comfortable in_your own company, try spending_some_time
away_from others, learn about hiking_and camping. If you can spend_a few weeks
almost_without human contact and your cultures distractions,_you're_forced to
start to find that locus_of_control within yourself and not others._Of_course,
the_downside is that done poorly,_this may