 especially to help Reginald at College. But James had
married a year before, and accordingly was in a less favourable position
for sending help. And indeed these windfalls had never produced much
effect upon the family, who heard of James' gifts vaguely without
profiting by them. All this _donna a penser_ to the elder children.
Having no softening medium of a mother's eyes to look at their father
through, they were more bold in judging him than, perhaps, they ought to
have been; and he did not take pains to fascinate his children, or throw
the glamour of love into their eyes. He took it for granted, frankly and
as a part of nature, that he himself was the first person to be
considered in all matters. So he was, of course--so the father, the
bread-winner, the head of the family, ought to be; and when he has a
wife to keep him upon that pedestal, and to secure that his worship
shall be respected, it becomes natural, and the first article of the
family creed; but somehow when a man has to set forth and uphold this
principle himself, it is less successful; and in Mr. May's case it was
not successful at all. He was not severe or tyrannical, so that they
might have rebelled. He only held the conviction quite honestly and
ingeniously, that his affairs came first, and were always to be attended
to. Nothing could be said against this principle--but it tells badly in
the management of a family unless, indeed, as we have said, it is
managed through the medium of the mother, who takes away all imputation
of selfishness by throwing an awful importance and tender sanctity over
all that happens to be desirable or necessary for "papa."

Mr. May had no wife to watch over the approaches of his study, and talk
of him with reverential importance to her children. This was not his
fault, but his misfortune. Bitterly had he mourned and resented the blow
which took her from him, and deeply felt the loss she was to him. This
was how he spoke of it always, the loss to him; and probably poor Mrs.
May, who had adored and admired her husband to the last day of her life,
would have been more satisfied with this way of mourning for
especially to help Reginald at College. But James had 
 married a year earlier, and consequently was in a less favourable position 
 for mail assistant. And indeed these windfalls had never produced much 
 impression upon the kin, who heard of James' gifts vaguely without 
 profiting by them. All this _ donna a penser _ to the elder children. 
 Having no cushion medium of a mother's eyes to attend at their father 
 through, they were more bold in judging him than, perhaps, they ought to 
 have been; and he did not take pains to intrigue his children, or throw 
 the glamour of sexual love into their eyes. He took it for granted, frankly and 
 as a region of nature, that he himself was the first person to be 
 considered in all matters. So he was, of course -- so the founder, the 
 bread - winner, the head of the family, ought to be; and when he has a 
 wife to keep him upon that pedestal, and to secure that his worship 
 shall be respected, it becomes natural, and the first article of the 
 family creed; but somehow when a man has to set away and continue this 
 principle himself, it is less successful; and in Mr. May's case it was 
 not successful at all. He was not dangerous or tyrannical, so that they 
 might have rebelled. He only hold the conviction quite honestly and 
 ingeniously, that his affairs came first, and were constantly to be attended 
 to. Nothing could be said against this principle -- but it tells badly in 
 the management of a family unless, indeed, as we have said, it is 
 managed through the medium of the mother, who takes away all imputation 
 of selfishness by confuse an awful importance and attendant sanctity over 
 all that happens to be desirable or necessary for " papa. " 

 Mr. May had no wife to watch over the approaches of his cogitation, and talk 
 of him with reverential importance to her children. This was not his 
 fault, but his misfortune. Bitterly had he mourned and resented the blow 
 which aim her from him, and deeply feel the loss she was to him. This 
 was how he talk of it always, the personnel casualty to him; and probably hapless Mrs. 
 May, who had adored and admire her husband to the last day of her life, 
 would have been more satisfied with this way of mourn for
 esoecially to help Reginala at College. Buj Hames iad
marrjed a yexr before, and accordingly wad un a oess favourable positiun
for senfing help. Anv indeed these wmhdfalls had nsyer pxovuced much
effecj upon the fdmily, who hearg uf James' gifts vaguely without
profitigg by tnel. All this _donga a [enssg_ uo the elder children.
Having no sortening medium of a kother's eyes to look at thfir vather
through, they were more vold un judging hkm than, pegkaps, they ooght to
have been; and he did not gake 'ains to fawcunahg his childrxn, or nhrow
the glamour of lmve intp their eyes. Hc toon ir for granted, frankly and
as a part of nwture, thad ke himself was the fiesr pervon do bd
xonridtrev ih all latvers. So he sas, of courwe--so the father, the
nrqqd-winner, the gead os ehe family, ought to be; and when he has d
wire to keep him upon thar pedestal, and to secore that hys worship
shall be respected, it becomes natural, atd thx wirwt xetlcle of the
family creed; but somehow when a mag hss to set forth cnd uphold this
ptijcokle himself, it is less auccessful; and in Lr. May's case it was
nou sucvessful at all. He was not swvere or tyrcnnucal, so that they
mnght have reyelled. He omly held the conviction quife honestly and
ingenjuusly, that his awfaprs wame first, and were always to be atvendeb
to. Nothkng vould fe said agwinst this principle--but lt teplv badly in
hhe management of a family unless, indeed, as wg hdve said, it is
makaged through tre medium of tke mothex, who gakes away all im'utation
of sqlfishness by jhrowing an axful impowtanxe abd tenddf sanctity ovet
all that happens ti be desirable or kecesrzry for "papa."

Mr. Nay had no wife to wagch oner tra approaches of fis xtudy, and talk
of fim eith reverential impmrtahce to her childrem. Bhis was bot his
fwult, but his kisfortune. Bitterlj had he mourmed and resented the blow
which tokk her frlm mim, and deeplr feot the loss xhe was to him. This
was how he spoke of mt always, the loss to hum; and probably poot Mvs.
May, who hav adorqd and adkired her husband to the last day of mer life,
would have beeh more satidfied with this way of mourning for
especially to help Reginald at College. But married year before, accordingly was in sending And indeed these had never produced effect upon the family, who heard James' gifts vaguely without profiting by them. All this _donna a penser_ to elder children. Having no softening medium of a mother's eyes to look at father they more in judging him than, perhaps, they ought to have been; and he did not take pains fascinate his children, or throw the glamour of into their eyes. He it for granted, frankly and a of nature, he was first person to considered in all matters. So he was, of course--so the father, the bread-winner, the head of the ought to when he a to him upon that to secure that his worship shall becomes natural, and the first article of the creed; but when a man has to set and uphold this principle himself, it is less and in Mr. May's case it was not successful at all. He was not severe so that they might rebelled. He only the quite and that his came first, and were always to be attended to. Nothing could said against this principle--but it tells badly in the management family indeed, as we said, it is managed the of the mother, who all of an importance tender sanctity over all happens to be desirable or for "papa." Mr. May over the approaches of his study, and talk him with reverential importance to her children. was not his fault, but his misfortune. Bitterly had he mourned and the blow her from him, and deeply felt the loss was to him. This how he spoke of it always, the loss to and poor Mrs. who had adored admired her husband the last day life, would been satisfied of mourning for
 especially to help Reginald aT College. BuT JameS haD
maRrIed a Year Before, and accorDInglY was in a less favourable pOsitiOn
FOr seNDiNg helP. And indEEd THEse WiNdFalLs HAd Never ProDuced muCh
effect upOn tHe Family, who heaRD oF James' giftS vaGuely without
ProFiting By TheM. all thIs _dOnna a Penser_ TO the elDer childrEn.
hAving nO SofteniNG MeDium Of a mother's eyes to lOOk AT their father
thRough, tHeY WeRE MorE boLd in judginG hIm thaN, Perhaps, THeY OUGht TO
have been; and hE did not take PAinS to fasCiNatE His chiLdren, Or THroW
the glamour Of loVe into theIr eyes. hE took it FOr grantEd, franKly And
As a pARt Of NatUrE, ThaT He HimSElf Was the fiRsT pErson To be
CONSIderEd iN all MatteRs. So he was, of coUrsE--so tHE faTher, tHe
breAd-wiNnEr, the Head of The faMiLy, ought to be; and wHen hE has a
wife To kEeP hiM uPon thAT pedesTal, And To securE that hiS WorShIP
SHaLl be respected, it becOmES NaTural, and The firST aRtICle of the
FaMilY creED; But soMehoW WhEn a man haS to set FOrTh And uphoLd This
prInCipLe hImselF, It is Less suCcessful; And in mR. May's case it was
NOt successful aT AlL. hE wAS not SevEre or tyrannIcal, SO thaT theY
MiGht HAve reBelleD. HE OnLY held the conviction qUiTe honeStly aNd
ingeniously, That his affAIRS came firSt, anD WeRE always to be attEnded
To. Nothing cOUld be saiD agaiNst this pRinciple--bUT It tells bAdlY in
The ManAGEmEnt of a family uNLEss, iNdEed, as we HavE said, it Is
mAnaGed ThrOuGh the mediUm of the mOtHeR, wHo TakEs awaY All imputAtIon
Of SelFishnESs by thRowinG an aWfUl IMpoRtance aND tENDer sAnCtIty oVer
AlL that HappENs tO be desiRable or neCesSAry fOr "PaPa."

Mr. May Had no wife to waTcH over the apPrOacHes of hIS Study, and Talk
of him with reverentiaL ImportaNce To her ChilDren. This wAs nOt his
fAulT, But his MisforTune. BItTerLY Had he MOUrNed AnD resented tHE BloW
whicH tOok hEr from hIm, and deeply felt the LOss She was to him. ThIs
wAs hoW HE sPokE Of IT alWaYS, thE LOss to him; and probAbly poor MrS.
MAY, wHo had adoreD And AdMired heR husbanD to thE Last day Of her life,
Would have BeEn moRE SatIsfied with This way oF mourning FOr
 especially to help Regina ld at Coll ege.But  Ja me s ha d
ma rried a year b e fore , and accordingly wasin ale s s fa v ou rable  positi o nf o r s en di nghe l p.  Andind eed the se windfal lsha d never prod u ce d much
eff ect  upon the fa mil y, who  h ear d  of J ame s' gi fts va g uely w ithout
pr of i ting b y  them.A l lthis  _donna a penser_ to the elder chil dren.Ha v in g nosof tening med iu m ofa  mother ' se y e s t o  look at thei r father
th r oug h, the ywer e  moreboldin jud ging him th an,perhaps,they o u ght toh ave bee n; and  he  di d no t  t ak e p ai n s t o  f asc i nat e his ch il dr en, o r th r o w thegla mour  of l ove into thei r e yes. Hetookit fo r gr an ted,frankl y and 
a s a part of nat ure,  that hehim se lfwa s the firstper son  to beconside r edin a l lmatters. So he was ,o f  c ourse--s o thef at he r , the
br ea d-w inne r ,  thehead of  the fam ily, o u gh tto be;an d when  h e h asa
wif e  tokeep h im uponthatp edestal, and t o  secure thath is w or s hipsha ll be respe cted ,  itbeco m es  na t ural,  andth e  f i rst article of thefa mily c reed;  but somehowwhen a man h a s to set  for t ha nd uphold this 
prin ciple hims e lf, it i s les s succes sful; and i n Mr. Ma y's  ca seitw a snot successfu l at a ll . He wa s n ot seve reortyr ann ic al, so th at theymi gh tha verebel l ed. He o nl y h el d t he co n victio n qui te h on es t lyand
ing e ni o u sly,  t ha t hi s a ff airscame fir st, and  were alw ays to b eat tendedto. Nothing c ou ld be said  a gai nst th i s  princip le--but it tells badlyi n
the m ana gemen t of  a family  un less,ind e ed, as  we ha ve sa id , i t is
ma n a ge d t hr ough the m e d ium  of t he  mot her, wh o takes away all i m put ation
of self ish ness b ythr o wi n g a na wfu l importance andtender san ct i ty  over
allt hat  h appensto be d esira b le or n ecessaryfor "papa ." 

Mr . May  had no wi fe to wa tch overt he ap p ro aches  of  his s tu dy,  andtalk
o f  hi m wit h reve re ntialimpor ta nce to h er children. This was n ot his 
faul t,but his m isf o rtu ne. Bitte rlyhad he mou rne d a nd re sen t ed th e bl o wwhi c h too k he r  from him ,  a ndd e ep ly felt the l o ssshe w ast o him.  Thi s
was how he spok e  of it always,  the l oss  to him;  a nd probably po orMr s . 
May, wh ohad adoredand admi re d  herhusban d to t he last d ay of her  lif e,would hav e b ee n  more s at is f ied wi th t hi s wayof mou r ning f or
 especially_to help_Reginald at College. But_James had
married_a_year before,_and_accordingly was in_a less favourable_position
for sending help. And_indeed these windfalls_had_never produced much
effect upon the family, who heard of James' gifts vaguely without
profiting by_them._All this__donna_a_penser_ to the elder children.
Having_no softening medium of a_mother's eyes_to look at their father
through, they were more_bold_in judging him_than, perhaps, they ought to
have been; and he did_not take pains to fascinate his_children, or throw
the_glamour_of_love into their eyes._He took it for granted, frankly_and
as a part of nature, that_he himself was the first person to_be
considered in all matters. So he_was, of course--so the father,_the
bread-winner, the_head of the family, ought_to be; and_when he_has a
wife to_keep him upon that pedestal, and_to secure that_his worship
shall be respected, it becomes_natural,_and the first_article_of_the
family creed;_but somehow when_a_man has_to_set forth and uphold this
principle himself,_it_is less successful; and in Mr. May's_case it was
not successful_at_all. He was not_severe or tyrannical, so that_they
might have rebelled. He only held_the conviction_quite honestly_and
ingeniously, that his affairs came first, and were always to be_attended
to. Nothing could be said against_this principle--but it tells_badly in
the_management_of a family_unless,_indeed, as_we have said, it is
managed through the_medium of_the mother, who takes away all_imputation
of selfishness by throwing_an_awful importance and tender sanctity over
all_that happens to be desirable or_necessary for "papa."

Mr. May had_no_wife_to watch over the approaches_of his study, and talk
of him_with reverential importance_to her children. This was not his
fault,_but_his misfortune. Bitterly had he mourned_and_resented the blow
which took her from_him,_and_deeply felt the loss she_was to him. This
was how he_spoke of it always, the loss to him; and_probably poor Mrs.
May,_who had adored and admired_her_husband_to the last day of her life,
would have been more_satisfied with_this way of_mourning for