i hope you dont mind if i share some lyrics from a band called frightened rabbit we lost the singer and main song writer of the band under same circumstances as your friend the title of your post reminded me of this from the song oil slick   there is light but there’s a tunnel to crawl through there is love but its misery loves you there’s still hope so i think we’ll be fine in these disastrous times disastrous times  your lovely post reminded me of this and of how even whens all awful theres still hope  im so incredibly sorry for your loss   im 29 currently going through the long process of diagnosis and i know when i get my answers it will bring me a lot go peace from that constant feeling do failure of just not been able to get things done like others do but in the mean time the kind words from people such as yourself and others remind me that in the mean time its ok just be and that im not alone thank you