i think it’s a spectrum when i was young i was hyperactive had impulse control issues and poor executive functions but luckily i had a mother who was a cement foundation for me she taught me order she taught me that i can pay attention to anything i wanted to she taught me order and routine my dad who is adhd at 80 taught me to learn to pay attention even if i didn’t want to i had my butt beat enough times to think about what was before me my motivation became what do i need to do not to get my butt beat luckily my mom taught me order  i don’t advocate beating kids but i am thankful that i learned these skills