zoom has made things so much worse you cant sneak away or break eye contact without it being super obvious  i now just dont show up to the weekly family zoom unless there is a game that we are playing together or else i do audio only i did not explain or warn i just did audio only one day when my mom was confused i just explained that i didnt feel like being on video when she got anxious that something was wrong i was like look sometimes im just not going to feel up to being on video or doing a zoom at all and i need it to not be a big deal  ‍my moms a little temporarily anxious about things at times but handles being called out well so this worked  meanwhile my siblings figured out that i only show up when theres a game and have found an internet boardgame site i did not consciously decide to only show up for games but games just happened to clearly make me much more interested so kudos to them for figuring that out its so much better