hi i’m so happy for you as an adult mom with adhd it’s a life changer to just accept that you’re not gonna do some things no matter how much you “want” to do it bc it’s … “normal” idk i’ve never been able to just do chores my husband and i have had a cleaning person for a few years now and it’s amazing   the bonus is that the only times i will actually do a good pick upclean is when someone is coming over so i do a pre pick up each time before the cleaning lady arrives which means she can focus on like actual cleaning such as dusting and mopping and stuff which even if i was good about picking things up cleaning would never happen   my mom recently let us know that she finally hired a cleaning person for their household because they are so busy with work and extra curriculars that they can’t even keep up on dishes and laundry  she went through her spiel of justifying it and i let her lol after i told her i l’ve had one for a few years she was so relieved she was like “why’d you’d sit there and let me justify it” and i laughed and said “i wanted you to get it off your chest and immediately feel 10x better about your decision”  cleaning people and people who help with normal mundane life tasks are some of my favorite people in the world