the people saying the same things over and over again but rewording it i got better about that when i figured out why people do that   they have impulses to do things just like us but to them they are subtle so while we have a drill instructor of an impulse telling us to go go go do this then that want a thingy they have a low background hum that they sort of learned to follow around and they generally get satisfaction  so if your mother asks you to take out the trash but its your siblings turn and they are not home she may hang around and talk about the trash not being out for the next 15 minutes the impulsefor her is the trash stinks it should go out so things like it not being your task are less important and the low murmur reptile brain still wants it gone so it keeps whispering she feels no satisfaction a very uncomfortable and alien feeling to a neurotypical and thus your rebuff of being told to take the trash out shifted her from actively asking to an unintentional passive asking   all that she wants is that impulse to be satisfied so you can speak up over the murmur and probably be called rude despite the fact you have for the last 15 minutes been ignored about how it isnt your problem ahe is just making it your problem or you can redirect her mention and play up the sibling the reptile brain isnt very bright so if you say something like yeah where is that lazy sibling they should have taken the trash out before they left that might dislodge them or you can shift it back to mother via wording boy the sibling-o-matic is gone how are you going to solve the trash problem and subtly shift the problem needing solved right back on them   being adhd makes you introspective sometimes by force use that on other people and try to guide them into a more bearable existence for yourself