this is why i hate having like social engagements or something where people want to hang out late in the afternoon and people think its just because i dont want to hang out or spend time with them like no its because you asked me to be there at 8pm so now my entire day is gone because i have to prepare for these plans at 8pm which then leads to me spending my entire day prepping myself for the socialization which drains my battery before i even get there and by the time the event actually starts im miserable 20 minutes in and already want to go home   this is one of those adhd things that is practically impossible to explain to anyone who doesnt have adhd like how do you explain that having plans at 8pm ruins an entire day or 4pm or 3pm etc   like i never understood how people could be okay with working second shifts where they have to come in like 12-9 or 3-11 like - your entire day is gone why would you want that and then i have to remind myself that normal people dont have this problem lol