i’m 21 and it’s taken until just this year for my parents to stop using negative reinforcement  i live with them during the summer and help out so when i was booted out of the dorms i landed back home again parents treated quarantine like it was no different and expected me to help more on top of doing my coursework  they were constantly asking me every day to do the same thing and i’d have to tell them no bc i was working on hw which was hard enough as is being online they’d get angrier and angrier every time i told them no because right after hw they’d see me de stress thru video games their anger activated the worst executive dysfunction i’d ever seen in myself i was just feeling shame and feeing overwhelmed at the thought of getting up in the morning  eventually i broke down and told them i needed them to help me by leaving me alone for a week instead of listening they told me they were taking away all electronics and limiting my screen time like i was a child no tv no computer no phone no games etc it was ridiculous  i tried to tell them “no that’s not what i need i’m telling you what i need” but they insisted on treating me like a kid  i was so angry and raw and my dad and i just ended up screaming our heads off at each other it ended up with me going to my sisters and crying more she ended up helping me with what i needed to do and i was able to get my parents off my back  later on i talked with my dad and he said he fully intended on taking things away as punishment i told him all it did was make me feel shame and it finally broke through to him that hey maybe that’s not what i do when my daughter is sobbing and asking for help  i still think he did something good because i still got what i needed to do done so i’m not completely satisfied but i feel that they respect my autonomy a little bit more and are starting to understand that i function differently