interesting i have never had bad memory my problem with adhd is a lack of motivation and difficult to being outside also a lack of sustained focus i tend burn off easily however since im taking methylphenidate my memory has increased a lot i mean i dont remember every detail of everyday but if i want to remember something i need to put focused effort to remember that thing it is like this is important need to remember this time to put effort  it is interesting because i can understand why people avoid to put focus on things thats makes them feel bad it is related to focus if you put hard effort onto something it will be integrated in your memory and it works for everything unmeaningful data social relationships self related thoughts knowledge ideas about others in healthy neurotypicals neurotypicals with good mental health they have a intuitive system of self regulation like this will harm you or will harm your relationships if you put too much focus on this adhders if not medicated are in a increased risk for harm related to uncontrolled focus