i almost fell bad for the dads that cant understand is they really just want to help us and see us doing well but they just cannot understand how our brains work   my dad was a dairy farmer that didnt talk much i was a 4h kid that took stuff to the fair i showed cattle and did photography baking and sewing id always wait til the week of fair to start working with my calf id need the 24 hour film place for my photos and the day before the fair id be like oh crap i need to learn how to bake cookies  dad just looked at me once shook his head and said i just dont understand what is wrong with you why wouldnt you have been working on this all summer when youre bored and you know the fair is coming ill never understand how your brain works he never said anything like that again but it made me feel like such a huge disappointment to him and made me feel very other that was one of my first indications that i was different and a little broken it was also the last year i showed cattle