i love this post and i don’t think your approach is spendy it just requires a more contextualized  understanding of frugality knowing yourself well enough to set yourself up to not be wasteful is a form of frugality if fact focusing only on the money isn’t being frugal it’s being cheap frugality is a focus on how to get the most value for the money you do spend and on cutting out pointless expenses as much as possible it sounds like you’ve done both