i hope this gets noticed because it seems like this could help many people in this thread  this may be an adhd thing yet it is also a trauma thing hearing negative comments from what feels like everyone you see over and over since childhood is emotionally traumatizing and has real psychological consequences   gaslighting yourself just taking it not who you are as a person its a planted response the anger is normal   there is quite a lot of relevant information in cptsd from surviving to thriving by pete walker you can get it for free on pdfdrive if youre not against piracy for health improvement most importantly there is nothing shameful about this delayed response and it may go away after self work the book mentions the following key points  awareness and recognition of past unfair treatment having adhd doesnt take away your humanity people do nobody deserves this   emotional flashbacks reliving emotional pain when triggered by something similar may present as an overly strong reaction to something normal   inner critic who is not your voice and necessity of thought replacement   grieving the fact that traumatic things happened there are 4 ways verbal ventilation can be a diary sitting with the feeling of grief but most important are anger and crying if one or both of the latter summon inner criticism shame is a form verbalizing is best until critic is less of an influence anger together with tears is a normal response hardwired in babies unfortunately society tends to block either or both in people which diminishes the capacity of emotional healing  finally the start of the book mentions that adhd may be a misdiagnosis of trauma i dont believe in that applying to everyone of course ive read elsewhere though that the same brain areas are affected and helped by medication it gave me hope that some of the worst things may go away with time   hope this helps you in any way