i very much appreciate reading everyones perspective for this ive been struggling to be patient with my partner who has adhd he is so generous and really does what he can to take care of me but he struggles to do the things i ask him to do messy dishes or a dirty house can give me significant anxiety he really does try though the thing is he has never told me hey this task is incredibly difficult for me because of this condition given he is the most intelligent person i know it never made sense to me how someone so smart could ignore what i perceive as a simple request but reading this has been helpful and given me good insight so i appreciate the perspective