thanks for posting this  i agree we have a great community here  i have adhd and have a son with autism or an autistic son - i still am not clear the correct way to refer but i know either way pisses off someone  i usually lurk on the autism sub post sparingly and it isnt horrible  i think the whole movement around autism is a super power is clouding a lot of the internet  it seems like a bit of an over correction from autism should be cured  essentially - i go there to better understand the struggles my son is dealing with since he is minimally verbal only 3 and what i should be aware of as he grows up  i never feel unwelcomed there but i do need to filter through the more opinionated posters  here - we are well moderated and have a group of 1mm strong just trying to deal with the struggles that are unique to addadhd  sure - i enjoy that i am a bit quirky and have excelled in areas i can hyper focus but its mostly a struggle and it makes sense to acknowledge this and actively help everyone to find solutions to limit our struggles or atleast rant about them  x200b  i like who i am - and i wouldnt be the same if i didnt have adhd - but i am aware enough to know that adhd makes aspects of life harder for me  i feel the same way about my son  i love who he is - love his personality and the little man hes turning in to  but - i dont view autism as a super power - its just a different way to take in and respond to information and the world in general  id never try to stop him from self regulatingstimming unless its harmful - but being autistic will introduce struggles into his life others dont need to deal with  its not all sunshine and happiness  id rather acknowledge that so i can be there for him when hes struggling and not teach him to suppress or ignore it