if i might make a suggestion consider counseling for your whole family you are 30 you need to be an adult and be expected to act like one put alarms in your phone for everything stick to a wake up time and a sleep time doesn’t matter as long as it’s consistent and you are functional be a part of the familybe a team player do not get involved in power struggles with other family members have a family meeting about their expectations have them explain what they think your goals should be explain what you think your goals should be   my child has adhd and so do i  we use simple kitchen timers and phone alarms for everything we get our chores done every day and we are a family that is a team that works together  you need to act like an adult and find ways to get support and for everyone to cope better with your disability do i still forget things yes does my kid yes do i yell out of frustration sometimes absolutely i am preparing him to be an adult and put myself out of a job act like an adult clean up after yourself grow up and ask for what you need you need to improve and your family needs to support you  if you wash your clothes set your phone alarm to put them in the dryer  have you offered to cook dinner for everyone if you eat something make sure it’s not an ingredient needed for dinner  think before you act act like you are 30  if you are gaming all day not looking for a job and not showering-it’s you they will yell less if you make an effort and have the family meeting and remind them to stop yelling i know you are frustrated i get frustrated with myself i have a family to take care of and i have bad weeks sometimes get back on a schedule and pull your weight around the house you are not 15 you are 30