sorry to hear of your struggles but we can all relate here others have already said it but if you have to focus even just having a convo with mum you need blood sugar and that means eating food carbs and nutrition is so important for adhd brains   another strategy is do something while having the conversation like play with something in your hands or unpacking the dishwasher itll help you focus on the conversation   for house cleaning and organisation try to not let the clutter bog you down but it is very freeing to have everything in its place so even if a chore is too hard try do the mini version of it eg prepare for the chore by organising the mess and clutter a lot of the time i do this and it leads to me doing the chore anyway i feel more in control when i know where to expect the mess and clutter design your mess but also acknowledge that your brain cant handle it try pick one thing to do like vacuum the cat hair and only do that one thing i know it wont happen that way  when everything is so overwhelming you feel like a foreign object in a world that wasnt built for you forgive yourself and allow yourself to live based on what will help you not what you think you should do to be normal   i dont know what im rambling about anymore but just want to say same youre not alone and its ok to feel completely hopeless keep trying and make sure you tell the people closest to you how you feel and what is making you struggle   best of luck