adhd messes with your dopamine reward system basically we react to all negativity the same in the moment  the same receptors that provide our motivation are the ones that make us feel good when someone smiles at us  so motivation reduces when we feel misunderstood or whatever  luckily the opposite is also true  we are motivated through encouragement as long as we don’t trigger our inner shame spiral more than neurotypical people  literally the high of someone being understanding in the moment and saying they have faith in us or whatever can make us feel like we can move mountains