i think a lot of people right now are worried about this ocd notwithstanding its a difficult topic to breach i always cringe when someone like ricky gervais says he cant joke about the same things or that a tv show “couldnt be made today” when its simply not the case or theyre making a bad faith argument but i also worry about the mental health of young people in the public eye or in general because i know how easy it is to live in fear of hurting someones feelings or having your life negatively impacted because you didnt say the right thing we all have things that weve said that could be considered offensive and i think young people now who dont think they fall into that category just havent lived long enough to have it happen to them   anyway it sounds like youre trying and im sure you know that you cant always please everyone it doesnt stop it from being an obsession however and its a difficult one to stop indulging as you need to be in the world and be a considerate person thats why stuff like this or food stuff can be my hardest to let go of something that kind of helps me is remembering  that ultimately the core of my fear in this case is wanting to be a good ally a good person and somewhat selfishly protect myself from criticism and the financial and social pushback of criticism and the best way i can fulfill those desires and obligations is to make the focus other people and its hard to do that when im always worried about what people will think of me its like a form of selfishness in that way of course this is what helps me and its not universal i wish you good luck and good therapy with this