totally it makes certain things difficult like when having a disagreement about something with my partner he thinks im trying to incriminate him as wrong by forcing him to explain himself but i just need to be able to understand the underlying motive the back story or the logic to get to the root of the disagreement and figure out where the compromise is  i can give so many different examples  helping my kids with homework and needing to explain the why when all they want is the how  following a recipe and needing to understand why the baking soda goes in the liquids when it normally goes in the dry bowl being a enfp mediator not being able to offer a friend advice without playing devils advocate psychoanalyzing the views of both parties to find the deeper root of the problem