rocd is real and it sucks but for us people with feelings and thoughts all over the place i think love is a choice its not all about the feelings we need to choose to love this person every single day its an active choice every day not all days are great not all years are great all relationships have their battles and downs but what comes out of it is irreplaceable the deep loving understanding relationship i have with my husband wouldve not been the same without my ocd in a way its made our relationship even deeper he gets me hes therefore me when im in doubt he hugs me tells me everything is going to be okay yes someone else might be able to give me the same but i will never give up on my marriage no matter what im a christian and i do not personally believe in divorce you have to ground yourself see what you can do by yourself and as a couple to help you