exactly people seem to forget that the d in ocd stands for disorder not everyone who likes things neat has ocd and if you dont have it and dont understand it you shouldnt be able to get away with trivializing it  i was already seeing a therapist and i still didnt know that my intrusive thoughts were ocd-related until i actually brought them up with the therapist people only really talk about the external signs of ocd hand-washing etc but rarely does anyone bring up the internal struggles that ocd patients go through it sucks because it feels like nobody knows what were going through