so youre list of what it means to you is pretty lengthy but i can relate im 49 still medicated on adderall and fairly successful at least i think so i just had an epiphany at work that made me think a bit about this  my brain thinks too quicklythat doesnt mean the other person is stupid or less than or didnt get it it just means that there is a disconnect in me traffic on one side flows slower than the other due to whatever  i was abused emotionally and physically from a young age i was in the foster care system i felt like i was lazy unsustainable and had an inability to do simple things like budget and balance a checkbook once he pulled me from the system my father would beat me for not taking out the garbage because i got distracted by shiny things and laugh when i cried when i was eight  my diagnosis changed my life it let me know what my boundaries are where i can shine and where my shadows are please make sure that you have a mental health support systemone that gives you that aha moment one that speaks to both your strengths and your weaknesses  the reason im still a software engineer after 25 years and no university education is that curiosity and impatience to stagnation are fundamental to that profession   tldr find your passion and get the support to succeed in it its not us vs them its not that youre lesser and everyone else gets it