gosh this post and comments make me feel way less alone now  the answer is yes i start ruminating if i ever did something bad in the past worry that i just might not remembering it and pick apart every thing i ever posted  or even that i might post in the future just in case and it can go on all day long its very tiring  im generally ok with the idea of calling out people to let them know they did something wrong and they should apologize but cancel culture often seems to bring this ultimatum of if you did one thing wrong you will always be unredeemable not matter what which makes my ocd anxiety level go to the roof