well that makes sense we lack norepinephrine so its harder for us to even feel any reward even when we worked really hard for something  the last thing we need is for someone to give us even less of a reason to complete anything   this also reminds me of something i seen in reddit recentlywhere a husband and wife have a credit systemif she asks him to do something when he was already going to do it or rags on him to do something it takes his credit for getting the work done  id say the same concept applies tough love takes all credibility away from us accomplishing whatever the task was so not only do we naturally lack the feeling of reward after hard work socially its been stripped from us anyways   this makes me really upset when it happens to me and others its rude and honestly not really productive on any front