have you tried telling him to just get out of his stuck-up normalizing stubbornness and just be an actual supportive dad and to just create a perfect son without said executive dysfunction bullshit next time he blows his guns   for clarification just in case love you are good the way you are please dont see this as me saying youre less than perfect point us he cant control what genes are gonna be picked and expressed when he makes a kid just like you couldnt choose which ones you received when being made