well spoken  i use “i struggle with starting stopping and emotional regulation” to explain my adhd there’s a fourth member on that list and that’s the one i don’t burden my listener with because it’s something i was given not something i always had - the self blame and self hate that come from the million times we get told we’re in the wrong   we can’t fix it for ourselves but we can remember that other people - often our own children - are in the current moment having that put in their head some of the sources of this message we can’t control but where we can - we can so do better