i read this comment on the original post  also child never learns how to articulate why the task is difficult they learn theyre not allowed to  i think this is my problem -- i dont know how to do certain things break them into steps not even where to start and i dont know who to explain it to anyone so im just plain stuck if anyone has any ideas on how to learn to articulate why a task is difficult i would so so appreciate it then maybe i can start asking for the right help