i go from a to b and expect people will see the obvious link turns out i go from f to r back to a loop around g a few times before arriving at y  and i wonder why people get confused   it happens too quickly for me to verbalise the process easily but i am getting better with practice  a tip to keep in mind it might be helpful to explain but that doesnt mean you have to do it perfectly this second give yourself time to take a deep breath be kind to yourself and the other and give it your best shot