me too i struggled with this the past oh 22 years long story short i have been lucky enough recently to feel like i can pretty consistently feel grounded again   for me the way out was this accept that whatever this existence is it’s as real as it’s going to get so f whatever “unreal” would even mean — just make the best of this experience and — it seems suuuper probable that everyone else is having a similar nature of experience ie i’m not in some unique way ‘alone’ or ‘different’ in some substantial way to believe otherwise without any rational reason just ended up striking me as kind of grandiose or unrealistic and finally i realized that i feel depersonalized or unreal often in reaction to social situations involving being a little more open or a little vulnerable i was ‘running’   again just sharing my experience every one is unique   btw i find rdpdr is a pretty great community of people dealing with pretty similar challenges more on the experience of feeling not real vs the thoughts of being unreal but for me the two were pretty intertwined historically so i thought i’d share   best of luck