my spouse gets very irritated with me because of this  apparently i often pause to collect my thoughts before replying to a question and that pause can sometimes be several minutes it gives the impression that i don’t care enough to answer the question and has strained my relationship at times  other times i will think of the reply but fail to speak it then i get annoyed because an argument started when i “answered” the question    at work this brain-buffering has been detrimental  my current boss understands and is patient but i know that it has hurt my career potential in the past  i was diagnosed recently and am starting to reflect and finally understand why i’ve had issues and what i did to compensate without realizing that i was compensating