one annoying thing is the kind of help we need at work and home—prompts a body double someone looking out for the schedule—is straightforward predictable and easy to provide people just have a strong moral judgment around self-motivation that imo causes them to create deliberately ableist structures—but that’s a conversation for another time  most of the things i have struggled with  in various workplaces can be considered failures of business process like why do you hire a _manager_ and then make the _talent_ self-manage _administrative_ tasks inflexible schedules are also a source of intense but completely unnecessary office friction like ok my brain wasn’t working yet so i arrived at 930 instead of 9 to complete a collection of non-urgent tasks let’s fight about it every single day great job allocating your business resources  at home remind me what i need to do if i forget suggest an order to do the things in if i get stuck and offer to sit in the room with me while i do them sure annoying it’s extra work but possibly this approach is less annoying than watching the house fall into disarray and cleaning it yourself while hating me because you refuse to indulge ie accommodate my lazy undisciplined habits ie my disability