been more or less depression free for like 5 months now after a nasty 2 year bout i was just gradually getting more and more depressed about the way my wife was treating me and i was just crippled with the thought of dealing with it for the next 60 years or so i think my recovery has come in stages  - asking my mom to set up an appointment with a doctor - going on antidepressants - reading feeling good and learning about cognitive behavioral therapy - more antidepressants - making a safety plan with my psychiatrist to have a plan in place where to go who to talk to etc when feeling triggered - realizing my wifes anxiety was influencing her to emotionally abuse me - kicking my wife out - buying and reading an assertiveness workbook - living with my dad for a month - letting my wife move back in after she went on antianxiety meds - getting diagnosed with adhd and starting adderall - getting a rescue dog  for me there was never any light at the end of the tunnel until my wife moved out and i was suddenly no longer in the tunnel i realized the things about our relationship that i was no longer willing to put up with and i set boundaries and was able to heal a bit that said i would never have been able to get to that point if the other stages hadnt come first   theres my oversharing for the day if youre depressed and reading this know this depression hits a ton of people ive heard it called the common cold of mental illness colds are miserable if i had a cold for a week or two id probably just wait it out but around the three week mark id be in to see a doctor to try to get some help youre in a place right now where you feel out of control and hopeless and thats not your fault go talk to a doctor if you cant bring yourself to do that ask a trusted friend to set you up an appointment with a doctor if you dont have a trusted friend to talk to pm me healing takes a long time sometimes and it can be a painful process but its doable and its worth it the best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago the second best time is now