feel you op many times ive had convos with my bf where he thinks that im not caring about the conversation but its just taking me a million years to think of a response that actually has substance when im trying to be direct it comes off like im pissed if im trying to give a chill response it comes off like i could care less its absolutely annoying to have to constantly think of the correct response but even then im always second guessing myself in situations where i have family members questioning my life and i need to stick up for myself i fucking suck and make my situation appear worse then what it actually is i too feel fortunate to have found this sub reddit nice to have people who get it