this exactly this it didn’t help that i had a “superior” overall iq and “very superior” verbal iq score come in along with the adhd diagnosis when i was a kid they were like “whelp she has a learning disability but she’s so smart anyway she’ll be fine no need to teach her any coping mechanisms she’ll figure it out”   for the record they got me tested when the teacher thought i was intellectually disabled because i just sat at the same station tracing maps all day instead of doing different things like other kids something clearly wasn’t right   then they stuck me in a different school and watched me like a hawk and i seemed to do well enough not that the forced structure or external accountability of school had anything to do with that s   by the time i got to college i was white knuckling it i did well grade wise because i figured out how to game the system and take the easiest possible versions of the classes i knew i’d struggle in - and i was somehow able to crank out a killer essay in the last few hours before it was due under the adrenaline rush of panic for the other classes   but i developed an eating disorder in the process because i wasn’t actually coping i was just hanging on for dear life   i won’t even get into my disastrous adulthood but you can imagine that eating disorder caught up with me and i failed marvelously in two careers and now i’m unemployed living off my parents again   one bright light is that i started working with an adhd coach to learn actual coping skills and strategies in my fucking 30s - only 24 years or so after i was diagnosed   yeah long rant just to say that intelligence only took me so far adhd was always there ready for the gut punch when my smarts thought they were fooling everyone even me