for me i know exactly where this comes from as a child i had a very controlling mother not allowed to play with other children had to stay home with her all the time and play with barbies  as i got older and of age to go out on my own she would find reasons to scare me to stay home once it for dark  theyre gonna be shooting its dangerous at night me as a grown woman who traveled different countries alone   she would sit by the door give me the evil eye at some point i just stopped going on my nightly walks   now that im living with baby hitler i feel like once i move out again ill start feeling safe and in control enough to go out or do things at night like i have to teach myself that its okay to do things after 9pm its okay to go to the store at 10pm if its open and you need something