every now and again my brain likes to replay past embarrassing  hurtful moments  it often chooses the one where my daughters paternal grandmother ex in-law says that my exs new girlfriend is good at keeping house  it doesnt matter that she was not trying to insult me wed been split for about 7 years - it was more of a comment on an interim girlfriend than myself but that didnt matter   i know i suck at keeping things clean  i know how but frequently just cant  even when i can - i know that doing the work will leave me zero energy for anything else for the next 2-3 days and sometimes - i just dont have time for that