its always a constant struggle to be able to function normaly in a soceity that is built around nts whenever ive been far deep in the abyss of a bad cycle the very first step is to acknowledge it   you have done that congratz because i know that how difficult that is and i am proud of your acomplishment  in reality this sums up the practical progress of it ill explain it more after this side track  whenever we try to function in a way that we arent designed for things wont work out as well as it could eventually we fail we fail when we postpone things because for us its all or nothing we subconciously imagine us doing everything at once which is simply not possible to do but thats the way we were brought up so its deeply sawn in so we keep trying and keep failing eventually the whole house is a mess and we are paralyzed by our own mindset of comparing ourselves to others but its a neuropsychiatric disorder its not psychological huge difference we simply cant do things we have learned throughout life because we get stuck and feel gulity about it when its far from our own fault  back on track the worst mind set to have is all or nothing but its really hard to not thoughts flying all over etc however dont tell yourself i shouldnt do everything because you are still putting thoughts into that if you do the way to credit yourself for every small step you do and keeping it simple as simple as possible its not silly dont compare yosuelf to others others do things by soceity rules on easy mode our is on hard so we cant use the methods that work on easy   my personal method is built on self manipulation positive reenforcement and banning the word time  everything has to be in time all the time and it stresses me out instead of saying i should go out or do dishes i say i want to go out because i allready tell myself should all the time i also use a timer which i call significant other until i have to swap the name and that leads me to another thing  my difficulties are working memory overthinking and start motor so therefor i use extern tools for that and i always had a problem connecting my difficulties with that kind of tools because of unawareness but it sunk in  thats another important thing to keep in mind or rather write down since noone has taught us how to adhd and soceity only really knows how to nt you have to ask yourself what works for you or ask yourself why something didnt work for you while not comparing yourself to others  another thing i do is writing down my thoughts in my notebook on the phone its an extern working memory thats how i like to think about it basically mapping out anything i think about into small small parts relieves me so much anxiety and pressure i also use a white board  my whiteboard has magnetic different colored notes the size of post its the notes colors position and rotation all are significant and has a reason ive figured it out myself because if i used it in a way ive been taught it wouldt work thats my point again  summary  - dont compare yourself to others or your potential and other versions of yourself   - analyze and observe your own functions and triggers  - positive reenforcement after every little success dont punish yourself  - use extern tools for me it took a long time to get used to  - map out your thoughts use a significant other whiteboard and notes  - use want not should  - dont do all at once dont do two things at once do one small thing and its hard its really hard and when you did what you wanted to do you make sure to write yourself a positive note about what you did good   closing words this helps me and i hope at least something possible could help someone a youtube channel called healthygamer dont mind the name is something i highly recommend i am not kdding when i say that its really really high quality stuff that is being taught because of his dharma which he also explains what it is basically his personal moral duty not financial which is why its among the best channels there is his videos helped me back in 2019 after i hit the wall in 2018 and every day was terrorized by crippling anxiety and stress