yes i was diagnosed late at 20 even though my parents were told to get me tested multiple times throughout my childhood by doctors and every time they told me this i actually sank into my self worse and worse to the point where i now have no self esteem and i’m socially anxious and constantly watch people’s body language around me cause of a fear of rejection   this whole “oh you need tough love and then you’ll start to grow up” is bs we need validation of our strengths and support in our weaknesses support in a way that may help us to finally do neurotypical things on our own not thrown blindly into the world with no tools to eventually end up hopeless depressed and anxious it feels like social isolation because these people compare you to others who have something you and i do not and never will it takes us a lot longer to become self sufficient in some things and not giving us support is what drives people into a depressive state   i’m sorry to all of us for going through this it hurts it’s scary and it’s very hard to get over i hope you all find the love you need and i hope the world becomes a more inclusive place