this breaks my heart and as a junior high teacher i love it when i get these “tough” kids i love it because i get it i see my brother and my kids and me in them i tell them from day one we just need to figure out what works for you to learn   i have fidget toys available bands to kick on chairs and we talk about what makes assignments to hard and brainstorm ways to do them  i hope that by finding success in my class they learn to advocate for themselves in high school and beyond