it really doesnt there is no amount of tough love even going to prison or be mentally or physically abused  i cannot change  adhd is hard wired the best people can do is try to accept us  not that we arent already aware by the lifelong tough love already  myt make it easier on everyone hell we might be able to function better if were not always being beaten over the head  the way to instruct us is slightly different people are usually instructed not by words    we are in a world of our own and adhd aggressively trys to keep it that way  were half in half out thats just the way it is  that beating over our head just strengthens that position because we never give up so were never going to just disappear without a fight  and were never going to be mr perfect  so half in half out is what we know and what we will always know  tough love only makes you dig your heels in because we cannot change the way our brains are hard wired and were not just going to give in to a completely unmouldable tyranny   who can change the expectations or a brain hard wired threw millions  of years of evolution to be that way