a bunch of my family members and friends are autistic and they have a similar problem but different reasons and yes i know there are people on here who are both autistic and adhders  with my autistic friends sometimes they dont reach out because to them the relationship and the people are fixed so there isnt a need to do maintenance if youre my friend youre my friend my parents are my parents living in chicago just as they always have  im mentioning this because im interested in figuring out why one of the adhd hallmarks seems to be this out of sight out of mind thing even as it pertains to people what are the mechanisms involved