pretty much verbatim the list i gave the psychiatrist plus the bad coping mechanisms like substance abuse and self harm and luckily he was great i’ll never forget what he said- “you’ve made it this far on your own without help up to this point that’s something and you need to pay yourself on the back for that” i started sobbing on the phone because like holy shit we need to hear that adhd fucking sucks but this sub makes it bearable sometimes