this  unfortunately this extends into like everything in my life work school relationships   if my girlfriend is upset its not just why are you upset its why did that thing upset you things don’t register unless i know why  if a teacher has a policy why…why is it important why is it useful why would i follow it if i dont get a why responding “properly” is physically painful  it reminds me of when a kid turns 3 and asks why to everything parents talk about it as if it is annoying i think thats how it should be not enough people ask why we get weird looks for asking why because it makes the people we’re asking realize that they don’t even know why they do the things they do