this is exactly why i pushed to get my daughter now 6 a diagnosis she is a carbon copy of me i have adhd but wasnt diagnosed until my late 20s or early 30s i remember how i felt as a kid i felt like i couldnt do anything right i dont want my daughter to grow up feeling that way i get it my husbandher dad not so much he just thought she needed to focus harder and listen better he even thought that since she could focus good sometimes why couldnt she do it all the time shes on medication now and he can tell the difference now he understands better   im so sorry that your family doesnt understand you better