so utterly fantastic and a major breakthrough congrats to you both my girlfriend and i both have our own issues which include slightly different forms of ocd she doesnt have a contamination issue with food but intense aversion to certain ones when we met she swore to me that never in her life would she eat onion 7 years later shes eating it on burgers and sandwiches salads and fries caramelized and sautéed and even raw  a little compassion and encouragement is all we need it may take time but what is a few years of effort to lessen a lifetime of needless suffering especially for the person you love blessings be to you  yours and congrats again