wow i had lately been feeling the same thing but didnt know how to voice it like of course i hate anti-vaxxers and autism speaks and that whole nasty lot who want to cure or prevent autism but im not grateful for or happy about having something that makes my life more difficult and isolated its our social and economic systems that make adhdasd life so difficult and i resent those systems but i also should be allowed to just dislike having adhdbeing on the spectrum i would still dislike being socially oblivious impulsive and extremely forgetful even if i didnt have to navigate the modern workplace just because i hate dealing with it doesnt mean i hate myself or look down on others in the community i understand why people might make that assumption but its still wrong  it reminds me of when you say something like i dont like crunchy french fries and people get personally offended by it as if you are saying people who like crunchy fries are morally inferior no i just dont like crunchy fries you are free to enjoy your crunchy fries but i dont want to have to eat them not a perfect analogy obviously because adhd and asd are a lot more personal than fry preference but hopefully it helps elucidate my point