what i try to apply in my household is that whoever notices the mess first they do it we should not ask someone to do it unless its a abnormal busy week and its been working everyone is more aware somehow and more collaborative and less prone to fight about stressing mess related stuff after all living things will leave some mess every time so in between stuff we try to be more relevant as long as the house gets clean and proper regularly and after messy stuff i hate doing dishes though i get too much thoughtful