my advice is to remember that nt people self-sabotage too they just vent it on subreddits that you dont look at   for us it shows up in obvious ways like the 5 minutes task we refuse to do until a  day before the deadline for nt people it shows up in the relationship they refuse to end but is obvs doomed   adhd has a tendency to keep the realm of stupid shit relegated to stupid tts a gift and a curse  im drunk rn so if i worded badly plz be gentle