moving away from labeling people as bad or good ethical or unethical is helpful we’re all just humans and the human experience as an interesting mix of up and downs also as humans we are always changing and even if you’ve done things you disagree with you can chose not to allow that to define you also defining your personhood based on a few actions isn’t fair to you you can label a choice you made as “a lesson learned” or “not reflective of my values “   edit also i do see this as reassurance therapist opinion  edit edit from my work as a behaviorist ocd does not manifest from traumatic experiences but rather is linked to a genetic predispositionmalfunctioning amygdala however the themes can be tied to your personal experiences