the worst is when you talk to someone about it and they say “oh i do that”  like yeah worrying about people hating you isn’t that unusual worrying that people hate you so much that it’s all you can think about for a whole evening and you have ruined relationships by reassurance seeking not so much   avoiding looking at your bank balance normal being so worried that all your money will be gone so you don’t look at your bank balance and you miss paying important bills and they get sent to collections yeah i’m sure you do that