personally i find people trying to spin adhd into being a positive trait absolutely maddening same thing with using buzzwords like neurotypicals to describe the others or ned hallowell trying to rebrand adhd as variable attention stimulus trait so people dont get their delicate little feelings hurt i dont want to feel better about my adhd i want it gone i hate my adhd what its done to me what its cost me adhd has been incredibly damaging to me in practically every aspect of my life and if i had been diagnosed when i was a teenager im sure i would be in a very different place both in my relationships and my career ive suffered tremendously by not understanding what was wrong with my brain and people trying to sugarcoat it by saying nooooo its not a disorder its a personality quirk youre a hunter not a gatherer youre a creative other people dont have your quick-thinking abilities drive me up the goddamn wall you dont go to a chemo patient and say oh come on dont be so glum the bald look is in this year because it minimizes their pain and suffering and makes them feel like they should be grateful for the strength and courage that other people find in their story or whatever  trivializing peoples struggles with a mental disorder is incredibly condescending id like to see them go three months with having only a vague awareness of things either more than three days in the future or more than three days in the past id like to see them deal with forgetting crucial information or screwing up an important project at work because they got distracted or having their loved ones say that theyre uncaring or selfish because they dont remember to keep in touch i want to see them struggle to come to terms with their actions and how they genuinely do love their family but consistently fail to show it in the way normal people do with every slip-up met with a if you really cared youd remember i wish they could understand the gut-wrenching panic of drifting off to sleep at 11pm and suddenly realizing that they have an assignment due in an hour that they havent even started or the dread of someone asking whats your five-year plan they dont understand that our brains dont let us do that we literally have a disconnect between our frontal lobe and the rest of our brain that makes normal perception of time as foreign to us as space travel it doesnt matter how well we know what we have to do overcoming that mental barrier to actually doing it is not only incredibly difficult but mentally exhausting when we do manage it  anyway enough ranting im glad youre able to express yourself without feeling like people are gonna jump down your throat for voicing very real and very reasonable frustrations with how your brain works or in our case doesnt work