if people say that to me i usually ignore them and just say aha yep ahhhh oh okay because its usually a boomer or a really stupid family member before i used to said to myself that i am horrible and why this was difficult for me and not others then i learned my adhd is not my fault but my responsability so i started feeling better because at least i was trying and not using it as an escuse i have this thought process that if someone dismisses my efforts and doesnt try to understand my situation even though i am doing my best then i automatically think of himherthem as a npc with a limited set of options and i can ignore it without feeling bad it usually angers then which made laugh like a lunatic