i’ve only had it once where i obsess over what someone has said because it hurt my feelings or only once when it’s bothered me for months i was in a football group chat and we’d lost a game the week before i made comment about how the defence and goalkeeper me needed to work better as a team no one was bothered except one guy who took it personally and started laying into me and criticising my performances instead of standing up for myself i just tried to calm things down i still think about what he said months later and it bothered me so much i quit the team i just wish i’d stood up for myself