i hear it it makes sense but what are you supposed to do to help motivate the children stuck in this cycle im raising three children with various adhd tendencies i want to do better but i dont know how i love them and want whats best and i certainly dont want to stress them out even more but i cant just let them not do their schoolwork i see so much about how parents and teachers fucked everyone up but no advice on what to do instead its so heartbreaking edit two out of three of them have been diagnosed we do ot but so far meds havent worked well for them