wow did i learn that the hard way i also learned to stay in bad situations far longer than i should because it triggers me to become frozen i think because there are so many situations in which you have no other choice---like when youre in elementary school and youre being verbally mistreated and disrespected by your teacher and gym class where you cant leave and everybody tells you you deserve to be abused then when i am in a situation where i can just walk out i just stay because im triggered i resigned from a job four years ago after six months because my boss was verbally abusive and disrespectful in general i even gave two weeks notice for which she decided not to pay me because she said that i had inadequate documentation for various charts during my six months employed there then she harassed me to fix everything even thugh i had resigned and was withholding my pay i finally told her via email to keep the money and stop harassing me but it was too late the damage was done i should have left that job after the first month without notice ive since learned when someone is being abusive just get out the situation that minute or you just become more and more of a victim when you see yourself as a victim you end up victimizing yourself