ooof i spent so much time trying to figure out how to be “normal” growing up because it felt like i was doing everything wrong spoiler it didn’t work   seriously though i always felt like i was always missing some secret like there was some set of instructions everyone else knew about i remember spending so much time wondering how was it that other girls could go minutes hours even  without touching their hair i couldn’t stop  playing with mine   there were so many things i’d try to figure out and i’d get the same advice from multiple people but i couldn’t get it to work when we finally figured out i have adhd and started medication it felt a lot better i still know that i’m not doing everything the way everyone else does but it’s a lot easier to know that i’m not broken just different