i feel this so much i was once involved in a heated argument on an autism group on facebook because i said my autistic brother should be punished for throwing rocks at me according to her he has pathological demand avoidance and it was unfair to discipline him in any way meanwhile im getting physically abused by my own little brother   i lived in fear every damn day and its simply not true that autistic people cant control their behaviour i am also autistic and the level of control it takes me to mask is pretty huge and actually even harder for me because i have adhd too and he doesnt