yeah but what if someone asks you to do them a favor and by saying no without a good reason you look like just a random ass and a bad friend   i just had a situation where i was invited to a party and the person who’s hosting it asked me to reach out to another friend and beg them to come and offer to give them a ride as an incentive i haven’t talked to this other person in over a year and don’t have a really close relationship with them i don’t even have their phone number but since they live close to me the host thought that it would be a good way to convince them i’m kind of shy and i don’t want these people to know that because i’m trying to make more close friends i didn’t want to be the jerk who said no but i felt really uncomfortable coercing somebody to come to a party they clearly didn’t want to go to much less someone i don’t even talk to and then what if they said yes and i had to have this awkward long car ride with them   but i tell myself the reason i don’t have friends is because i don’t go with the flow don’t say yes and i don’t open myself up to more opportunities to connect with people   basically if i said no to everything i was uncomfortable with i probably would never grow or have any friends