as an ocd bi male i think a lot of the problem comes from our own insecurities and how they interact with the people around us the fact that we like to put labels on ourselves and others bilesbianstraight and our tendencies to give them more meaning than they originally come with makes everything more complicated than it needs to be   i like mostly women but ive dated men in the past before and might continue to do so if things happen that way some folks might say im bi for attention or to feel included while others might say im too thirsty for just women but the reality of it is that i do what i do because thats a choice ive made on my own this is what gives me the most happiness for my buck so if i find my orientation bothers me or needs labeling then ill consult the opinions of others the freedom to liberate yourselves from social norms should be one thats appreciated personally— its kinda counterproductive if it creates more labels and forces more conformity