okay okay i agree with this but i feel like some may think its an excuse to behave shitty due to mental problems toxic behavior shouldnt be put up with abuse aint good a partner has every right to make you feel terrible for doing terrible things to them over and over you doing shitty things even if you are struggling is your problem alone not theirs  feel like i gotta state this since rnicegirls and rniceguys exist some really be out there being toxic and then blaming others for not putting up with it- i was like that too my sister struggled with depressionanxiety and did drugs to feel better and she would use that as a means that i cant be angry at her for insulting me and freaking out on a daily basis my mom did the same minus the drugs she would be like am i supposed to be happy 247 when lashing out on me because she had a shitty day thing is her shitty days were constant and she would get physical