i have had to learn to be more honest about the goals i set and that works a little better    i used to go to the gym a lot and i really wanted to get into the 10 body fat range  after failing for years i heard someone say maybe its not as important to you as you think  it was a freeing realization  i didnt need to feel guilty about falling short of this lofty goal again  i could start feeling better about what i was accomplishing versus what i was not  im sure we all have some goals that are imprinted on us    another thing with goals and my medication  sometimes when i am setting a goal i feel unstoppable but later when i start on the goal i am feeling very stopped  then guilt kicks in - dont over promise and under deliver  so my takeaway for that was to set smaller goals  i still have one or two big goals that i may or may not get  the rest are more attainable    its all baby steps  this stuff took me a very long time to figure out but i didnt have a support group like this had not been to a therapist etc  even with all of that these are new habits and that stuff takes time  being patient and kind with yourself makes a difference in how you manage your adhd too