for me i have a big task to accomplish from just before covid i’ve tried everything from just doing it to breaking it down into smaller tasks to inviting people over it’s a cleaningorganization task after a large reno to give myself that urgency none of it is working so i cancel friends last minute so many friends have offered to help but it’s gone on so far and only gotten worse so i get these thoughts that if i let them help me i will lose all my friends