don’t feel bad about the rest of us reading this it is always reassuring to know that although adhd really sucks and it’s not our fault that we’re not alone ‘manning up’ is a surefire way to dive deep into depression and never learn healthy coping mechanisms or feel confident enough to start therapy that mentality is a blight on our existence and for those of us with adhd it can be a death sentence   i for one feel lost in life at 34 even though on paper my life looks pretty good with my jobhobbiesfriendswife i go though bouts of “what am i even doing what’s the point” and it is fucking tough to do basically anything some mornings   here’s something i wanted to pass along stop negotiating with yourself when it comes to goals or even daily tasks i have adopted this after decades of “well i don’t have enough time to do all of x so i guess i won’t do it at alldo it tomorrow” now i do my best to tell that voice a firm “no” we said we were going to do x and just because we don’t have a full insert time frame we can still accomplish a chunk of it now let’s take the first step put on your insert activity related item now the next and then we’re on our way even then while in the midst of whatever i might be doing dishes laundry scheduling some appointment cycling that voice will still keep telling you to finishquit before the goal line you initially set so you keep having to say “no we’re doing the whole thing and then we will do the next”   i hope this helps and if you ever need support we’re all here for you