this might be a personal affect of my version of having this quality but i’ve realized that i’m fairly weary against using “tough love” myself too  910 times when thinking on how to respond to something my instinct skips past where i might consider “tough love” and i’m already trying to figure out some kind of active action to take like if the tough love was in just “stepping back and letting someone fail because of their choices” i’d have to have tried at least a few other things and have them fail before i even see that possibility  maybe because i don’t think it works towards me my brain doesn’t consider it a valid solution