stop right now with the shaming yourself for not being 100 okay or not pretending to be 100 okay i do that to myself all the time you are just a human being trying to get along in the world dont set such outrageous standards for yourself you are allowed to be feeling shitty but there is no need to feel shitty about feeling shitty we all need help sometimes vent to a loved one find a shoulder to cry on its okay to not be okay  if i cant convince myself when i have your attitude maybe i can convince you