depends on who is giving me tough love if its someone who does not understand i get angry and often do the task but find a way to subvert them my motivation is returning the tough love somehow yikes maybe i have some oppositional within me  if its someone who genuinely cares about me and understands it is a little different i get angry at myself and then get motivated because i want to not disappoint them want to help them or not make life harder for those i love in that situation it matters