as a mother of a 10 year old with adhd and a wife of a husband with adhd is there anything i can do to help not perpetuate that feeling during our interactions   especially with our daughter no matter how chill i am when i have to talk to her about things she can’t do like eat powdered sugar out of the box while watching youtube or absentmindedly chewing a toy to pieces lol she still shrinks down and clams up like she’s in trouble i can be saying “hey don’t worry darling you’re not in trouble i know you didn’t mean to let’s just put the powdered sugar back” she’ll still hide like she’s waiting for punishment   maybe it’s unavoidable