male 30 us here  first off fuck everything about the line just the fact that im writing a post about my feelings on reddit because i cant man up and just keep them inside makes feel pathetic and it isnt because i havent thought the same thing i have so many times in my life found myself feeling pathetic because of the emotions i was feeling because someone may have it more difficult than me so i have to shame myself for feeling these things bullshit it is 100 bullshit just because you are hurting and are finding it difficult to find your way does not mean your emotions are not valid in fact your emotions which are unfortunately impacted by the way your brain works are incredibly valid and you need to give them the space they need to operate emotions are a natural part of our life and for those of us with adhd they can often be overwhelming if you are feeling an emotion practice recognizing and noting that emotion so that you appreciate how you are feeling in that moment if we move on too quickly and dont digest the situation we create issues for ourselves as these emotions create debt sooner or later the emotions you have that are tied to that situation will bleed into another if we do not give them space    one of the hardest parts for those of us with adhd at least where my moderately adhddepressedanxious ass is sitting is that we are forced to live in a nero-normative world it is so difficult for us to open up to others without adhd because even when we try to lean on someone for support the answer is so often some variation of oh thats what adhd is maybe i have that i cant focus sometimes too or so why cant you just sit down and focus or that isnt a real thing youre just lazy our daily life experience is so foreign to those without adhd that our needs arent even taken into consideration of course we are going to feel as though we dont matter to these people of course they arent going to understand what its like to have so many priorities on our plate that we are overstimulated and browse reddit just to escape those thoughts and feelings of inadequacy the hardest part is sometimes that we know exactly what we should be doing but we justcant  and guess what that is ok ill say it again for those in the back it is ok to feel overwhelmedunproductiveemotionaldepressedwhatever else i mean it sucks but what can we do i do it you do it my wife with adhd does it everyone reading this right now does it even those without adhd we have this preconceived notion that we have to be perfect but that is simply not possible youre going to have days where getting out of bed will make you feel like crying youre going to have days where you simply cannot focus youre going to fuck up just so many times and at times it will be broadcast for all to see youre a human with the deck stacked against them from birth mistakes are going to happen   my advice to you is this something that really helped me while i tried to meditate was simply noting your thoughts and emotions recognizing they are not who you are and try to focus on your task as i started to incorporate this into my life i began to notice that my self-depreciating thoughts didnt hold as much power over me anymore i would simply think thats a thought it is a negative thought but it cant hurt me if i just let it pass it is not who i am it took a lot of practice but i am able to now brush such thoughts off because i focused on improving them are there days when i get nothing done absolutely there are and they do give me anxiety but i no longer leave work believing i am a piece of shit i will think it but that just gives me motivation to not let the next day be the same   i know this is a novel and for that i do apologize but i just want you to know that you are not alone i have been exactly where you are more times than i could count and i will probably be back there at some point in the future just keep going youre not alone your voice is valid and heard and you are loved