talk about a relatable statement - you hit the nail on the head with that one   one of the biggest pitfalls ive run into with my adhd is comparing myself to others i was only diagnosed with adhd in september of last year im 26 and am not yet successfully medicated but in hindsight its been a lifetime issue for me - memory loss brain fog difficulty communicating you name it lol - and the whole time ive always been comparing myself with people who seem to have their shit together ive had countless breakdowns where i just beat myself up wondering why the fuck i cant just function like a normal person etc but there are a few things i frequently hammer into my brain that slightly ease the pressure  1 even the people who seem like they have it all together probably arent as together as you think life is unpredictable and confusing and its common that things dont go as planned chances are that a lot of people freak out about things at least sometimes - the difference is you dont see it when it happens to them   2 habits take a while to build and need to be taken on one thing at a time trying to change too much at once is overwhelming and will cause too much frustration to be helpful   3 have to do need to do etc are reserved for high priority things like bills taxes taking care of pets and so on - things where if you dont complete them there will be tangible consequences anything else i refer to with less urgent language depending on how important or not it is when everything needs to be done it gets very overwhelming   sometimes its like youre a toddler having a meltdown and the parent at the same time tbh