im actually the opposite i used to have some oppositional defiance type thing when i lived with my parents and wasnt on medication the only way to make me see sense was to butt heads with me id get upset and go away and then once i calmed down i would realize how irrational i was being  besides that i need the tough love i know when i am being lazy unmotivated or socially awkward but i need that reality check it helps keep me in check  other have commented how they are angry and ashamed of themselves but i use that to motivate me to do better it doesnt work for everyone but its helped me