positivity looks different from the outside of a sucky situation its like slamming the gas when your wheels have no traction the person outside the vehicle thinks you should move faster but the person inside the vehicle knows how fast the wheels are already turning and they know they have to go slower in order to actually connect to the ground it looks like its more negative to someone who doesnt get it but for people who see how much more traction that outlook has it makes them feel heard they see that its a net gain from being left in the dust