another thing i wanted to add is that during my childhood i was very stubborn and i agree i did things wrong   however during my childhood i had very valid arguments that would be shot down due to an overwhelming general consensus in family for example during my sisters university graduation i hated what my mother and sisters were forcing me to dress up in even though in non-misogynistic way females including myself be batshit crazy they were unnecessarily controlling of my fashion sense another thing i wanted to add was when i sat with my legs a little wide open in the bus both my sister and father dragged for me for drawing attention to myself im not sure whether i over- reacted but i said that their opinion was sexist and that it was too exaggerative because nobody cared about how i was sitting   anyway the lack of respect did exhibit over-reactions but now i realise it there lack of respect for my opinions and lack of knowledge on aspergers another condition i have makes me realise that i was heavily gaslighted during my childhood and my behaviour was often mistakenly called ‘selfish’ and ‘disrespectful’ i acknowledge at times they really were and that me taking responsibility over my own fault   although my family really should have taken the time to educate themselves on the feelings i was having