honestly i have no idea how high-performing adhders get around i mean i was failing schoolcollege so hard my family kicked me out i was homeless for 10 months i was only tested for adhd after i started failing at work too i tried to get tested earlier but psychiatrists just told me i have depression i cant even imagine if i was high-performing would i still be untested and undiagnosed sorry this turned in a tangent about myself i guess ive been in a similar place i wish best of luck to anyone honestly wish people and psychiatrist believe that adhd is real my own family still dont