ok so one little thing that helped me with this is changing the app that i put my chores in    i use google tasks because you can actually check them off a list instead of just silencing an alarm     i know this sounds way to simple for it to work so stupid that it isnt worth trying bit just try it for a week if im wrong and it doesnt help you then you can call me out on it later    theres just something about checking off a task on a list and then seeing the list get shorter makes me want to keep doing it ill even set them up like a videogame where ill have a bunch of micro-tasks assigned to a chore i do this using the sub - task option in the app    i think iphones have something similar but if you have a google or android phone its pretty easy to use