yo i have one friend who constantly would tell me that i wasnt attentive didnt care about her was a bad friend etc and i cut her the fuck off after 10 years of dealing with never being good enough for her i tried so hard to be a good friend to her specifically but she was so fucking critical of every thing i did and took every thing as a rejection or me being a bad person when a lot of it was adhd related none of my other friends have said this about me but its probably because they understand me more and that if i forget to respond or have to change a time because i double booked or got overwhelmed it doesnt automatically mean that i dont care about them but its just my brain sorry for the rant point is cut people off who dont understand you and talk this way to you unless its like friendly suggestions and theyre trying to be a good friend