yes i used to much more but still do especially because of the inconsistency of being strict in our culture and different life philosophies and my grievances about how men are always considered the bad guy in the relationship when something goes wrong im a guy and because of the way the law and people too expect you to say everything perfectly or else they will accuse you and how people think that just because you are nervous or deny the alleged crime that they havent even mentioned yet but you know they are wondering if you did it then you must be guilty  yes the fear of being falsely accused or just accused i guess too and doing something that ruins my reputation is a big one cause unfortunately i have held too closely to my identity being a good person   cancel culture might have something to do with a lot of this but im not really 100 sure of that right now  im even having ocd about posting this comment now might delete it later