thank you my mom takes her sweet time when telling a story and refuses to get to the point before describing at length several essentially irrelevant details it is maddening my only way to cope that doesnt involve snapping at her is to intentionally distance myself mentally until she gets to the point and not hyper-focus on each annoying pause needlessly long description and the effect its having on me so instead of feeling like a prisoner whose only option is to snap internally externally or both i create an escape route by seizing on those annoying moments to indulge in what my adhd-addled brain wants to do anyway think about random things and the good thing is that no one knows youre doing it as long as you can feign engagement and superficially keep track of the story so you know when its reached its point or ideally its end  a big part of the frustration during overstimulation stems from a lack of control over whats happening to me so anything i can find that gives me a semblance of control over even a small detail can help not always easy or an option but its my only socially acceptable way to cope