for some reason people on these subreddits take another persons opinion on their own life very personally  this is one of those things that is common to everyone adhd autism or nt  when someone is confronted by someone that is taking a personal moral stance that contradicts their own morality people almost universally get offensive think about how many noon-vegetarians react when they hear someone is vegan they get defensive and may verbally mock or attack the vegan  the reason is that this non-vegan thinks that the vegan is judging them or trying to hold themselves as superior this may not be true but it colors how their interaction  specific to your post here it seems like this same situation the reaction to being judged might be happening here