its hard for a lot of older people no really its hard many parents raised us under the lash physically and mentally it was improve or suffer the consequences   i was never more at a loss than when i was trying to deal with my daughter and school adults often suffer from whats called selective memory you forget all the bad stuff that happened in your own childhood so you can move on  my own examination of my life has led me to conclude that i probably also have adhd and it was never diagnosed because catholic parents often only pray to god for help instead of asking doctors for help  i get glimmers of that past my life could have been completely different im 64 now my daughter is 24 shes doing college online and working towards her first aa degree im a lot less of an advisor about school or how to do things because ultimately she will have to do what needs to done i support her decisions i try to help her in ways that dont involve judging her or expecting her to do something that i want her to do i just wish i had learned more earlier after her diagnosis keep doing your thing and realize that parents are fhbs fallible human beings im not excusing his cluelessness sometimes a lesson must be repeated before it takes hold i wish you well in all your endeavors