i haven’t experienced this as much since i found the right dose of stimulant meds not too high not too low and covering the whole day maybe you all need to work on yours  i guess this post bugs me because it makes me remember that our adhd can be hard on those who love us just as it is hard on us i can understand and relate to what op is saying but he still sounds like he may be being a dick to his mother   similar irritability can be caused by too low a dose or too high a dose i’ve experienced it both ways it took me a while to find a dose that reduced adhd symptoms without pronounced negative side affects now that i have it it’s great   i guess i shouldn’t assume my story applies to other people but i’m thinking of all the mothers out there so if you’re being an impatient asshole to people who love you i hope you’ll consider that a call to optimize your meds before accepting it as the status quo  out of fairness i’ll mention that i was that impatient asshole for many years and now that i realized i could have fixed it with the right meds i’ve also deliberately worked on developing good ol’ coping skills which probably also helps well i feel really really bad about behaving that way   given how much adhd sucks can we all agree to be super careful to avoid externalizing it onto other people who love us—if we can