everyone in the comments is talking about how doing something like bouncing a ball or tapping looking at their phone etc helps them focus on conversation and my adhd ass is like  does not compute i feel like im missing out on what appears to be a universal adhd experience  if i am watching tv and someone tries to have a conversation with me both the tv and the person stop making sense i have to pause or mute the show to understand what theyre saying i cant do idle tasks knitting typing drawing etc while watching a show or else i miss everything that happens sometimes when someone is talking to me i actually have to sit still and literally cover my eyes to make sure i am focusing directly on what they are saying and all yall are talking about multitasking the thought of scrolling through my phone while listening to someone talk makes my head want to explode