there is a way for us to accept our failings without surrendering to them  this bullshit i see all the time with people saying they just cant - ive tried everything   ops dads advice is correct and the only real issue here is how op took it  is the dad wrong that we need to get out of our own heads  absolutely not  thats where our major blocks come from  now is it an easy flip-the-switch thing to do  not at all  i get that 100  ive struggled with this stuff for 39 years so trust me ive been in every deep dark crack that my brain has  so yeah  stop thinking so much  take small steps make small victories  it can be done