asking for help in school was not an option for me exactly for those reasons later in high school things got better but the threshold for asking was high it resulted in me not being able to spell correctly but somehow i managed to go through highschool without it being a problem   when i was writing my thesis for my bachelor i got called out on the huge amount of spelling errors that was such a shock for me i was embarrassed but luckily the teacher delt with it quite nice and i dove into the dutch spelling rules to make sure my thesis was perfect   that was the moment 10 years after highschool i actually learned how to spell