im in the same boat with having ocd and depression my mom didnt believe i could possibly have ocd because im not very neat or tidy and when i feel particularly bad the mess just piles up   ive learned though that a good place to start is just washing one single dish one dish is still progress ive also found that once ive washed one i end up washing a few more because i might as well wash them since im already at the sink with a towel   take care of yourself the best that you can