ive been trying to talk to my dad about this my younger brother almost certainly has adhd and struggled horribly throughout school and university he hasnt finished a degree yet and doesnt have a job everyday adult tasks are nigh impossible for him  i started talking to my dad about the possibility that my brother has adhd and that it might be good for him to seek treatment since my dad has recently been trying to motivate him to get a job through inspirational speeches and the just do it mentality ive shown my dad countless videos and articles and hes even admitted that those struggles describe his own life perfectly he never graduated highschool has always struggled financially and socially is constantly late forgets everything and after 10 years of insane stress and effort he finally finished a bachelors degree im really proud of him for that  yet he cannot accept that its something that could require medication hes willing to accept that talking therapy might help but he flat-out refuses to consider medication as a viable option for my brother not that its his decision obviously because adhd is just an excuse to be lazy to him he continues to try to motivate my brother with the tough love approach because i persisted and finished my degree so why cant he you really want your son to have to suffer as much as you did just to get his degree  that was really hurtful to me too since my entire life has been a struggle as well ive completed a ba and a masters and it was pure hell handed everything in the day it was due or late wrote every single assignment in a panicked haze over a few hours beat myself up because i could have done so so much better took five years to complete a three-year degree quit multiple jobs cant do my taxes on time cant keep my house clean neither can my dad cant find the momentum to continue projects i started off really passionate about  my heart breaks for my brother because i know he struggles even harder hes insanely creative and musical a lateral thinker and a born comedian and entertainer but hes stuck living off welfare in a shitty apartment because no one acknowledged his difficulties in school and uni as anything more than laziness and lack of drive  ive helped him make an appointment with a gp today to get a referral for an assessment i can only hope that hell prove my dad wrong 3  oh geez sorry for the essay