as a child i could not clean my room i got privileges taken away constantly and it wouldnt motivate me id just get used to life without those things my parents would threaten to throw away all of my stuff i would cry for a bit before reasoning with myself that it would still be okay and i would find new favorite things my mom would sit and try to help me but when she left me to do it on my own i couldnt i was grounded from tv for three years we moved and my stuff had to be boxed up that was 2009 there are still boxes from that move that i havent opened there were 4 mouse holes in my floor when we moved my dresser that was the only area that had empty floor space i also dealt with roaches constantly i had one crawl across my face one morning still didnt motivate me the 3rd house we lived in was the first time i actually cleaned my room and kept it clean i was 20 years old and it was the first time i had a boy spend the night were married now and he does most of the cleaning around the house my son was diagnosed with adhd at age 6 i was diagnosed at 26 before i was diagnosed i swore that i wouldnt let my son go through what i went through and when his room starts getting bad i will fully clean it myself i pick up a couple things any time i go in there or ask him to put one specific item away i know first hand how hard it can be and this exact tumblr post is something that helped me immensely with my parenting years ago