ugh too familiar   yknow this reminds me of my swim teacher when i was a kid no really  teacher “to pass the class you need to float on your back for 30 seconds”  me scrawny 30 kg of skin bones lean muscle and about 3 grams of fat  other kids not so scrawny  teacher reasonably athletic teenage female with average fatmuscle ratio  teacher just get onto your back and relax trust the water to hold you up like this floats  other kids float  me “float” on back by waving hands and feet keeping my nose just high enough above the water not to drown  teacher “no youre just swimming in place dont be so scared just relax and float”  me glare at teacher take a gulp of air hold my breath stop moving and relax sink feet down until i reach equilibrium bob gently with my hair line at the waterline know by experience that my lungs full of air are the only thing keeping me from sinking to the bottom  teacher shakes head “let’s not hold up the class you’ll need to work on this between classes just relax and you’ll float without burning all that energy”  tldr want to be buoyant just float want to speak french just wear a béret want to be neurotypical just focus