the title struck a chord with me i grew up being constantly frustrated by peoples description of me not aligning with the way i seeremember things it felt unfair that no matter how much effort i put to regulate my actions people commented negatively on the very things i was sure i was actively limiting  as i got older i slowly started to own it i now am very aware that a lot of people will not like me no matter what i do or dont do but im in a place in my life where that fact doesnt carry the weight it used to i still consider myself to be a friendly considerate person but im not longer surprised or defensive when the opposite is pointed out i apologize when i know ive done something wrong and i let people know if i enjoy their company im now ok with genuinely doing my best and no longer punish myself when that is not enough  it can be hard to come to terms with these things but it really helps if you have a few loved ones who you can count on some people who dont care when you mess up and know you never mean any harm with the stupid things you might say