i can relate to this but i wasnt punished or scolded i think as far back as i can remember as a child i was sensitive so when i said i had a lot of trouble with something and my mom encouraged me id feel bad if i didnt try harder and that i was letting her down i think i was a really needy kid and sought validation in making others happy around me   anyway its only been recently as an adult i realize how much i induce a stress response to get things done ive pretty much figured out how to shoot adrenaline through my body at will but it destroys my emotional and physical health in the long run