i might recommend seeing a pelvic floor therapist it can help strengthen your muscles so you have more confidence that nothing will spill out  in the meantime  dont drink too much makes you go a lot or too little lots of irritants in your bladder water  also you can avoid bladder irritants some are coffee tea and carbonated drinks even without caffeine alcohol certain acidic fruits — oranges grapefruits lemons and limes — and fruit juices spicy foods tomato-based products or chocolate you could eliminate all of these for a week or so and bring them back one at a time