i try to let them happen and stay calm enough that i dont begin having a physical reaction such as the nauseapanickinghyperventilating it took a while but its getting easier i used to beat myself up for reassurance i was a good person and that by punishing myself by having an extreme emotional reaction was my reassurance that i must not be as bad as the violent thoughts say i am sometimes it gets difficult though but im glad i finally identified it as ocd and got diagnosed since for the longest time i was convinced i was just insane