ive also read some things ill have to find the data that telling people youre going to do something feels good it releases some of the same chemicals as actually doing the thing so youre less likely to do said thing  eg if i plan on donating 100 to a charity and i go around telling a bunch of people that im planning on doing that i get a good feeling from doing that and im actually less likely to do it as a result because ive already got the feeling as if ive done the donation  interesting to think about  tldr dont tell people something til ya did it i guess lol