this is just my personal guess but maybe our community has not been pressured that much into proving that our diagnosis is not the end of the world for us adhd struggles are more commonly underestimated again my experience i feel like people see it as the cant sit still disorder and overlook everything else whereas autistic people have this inaccurate of course public image of being barely functional so we might try to prove that adhd is much harder than people believe and therefore allow ourselves more negative emotions and autistic people might try to show how much variety and levels of autism there are and therefore allow themselves less negative emotions to break free from stereotypes this can be totally wrong but thats my guess