you totally deserve a household helper i advocate for responsible outsourcing of home work and childcare it can be really helpful give you space to feel on top of your life for once and enrich your family’s wellbeing because of less stress you sound like you won’t fall into my moms trap of passive aggressive non communication with her housekeeper she’s always resentful of missed cobwebs but won’t address the fact that she keeps forgetting the cobwebs  when i have the income i’m hiring a professional organizer and then a cleaner like once every few months if i’m rich enough lol low expectations on my future earning potential being able to afford weekly cleaning but i’m also ok with a fair amount of grime so long as there aren’t dust bunnies and spiders i could see myself getting grocery delivery too and meal prep delivery for sure that makes sense for me financially frankly   if anyone needs help navigating finding childcarehousehold assistant i’ve been a nanny stopped recently but i’ve nannied as both an supplemental income and as my main source of incomefull time job and i am happy to walk anyone through the process i’ve helped my former nanny families find new nannies when i’ve left and found a lot of jobs online before i switched to using an agency the paybump was significant rich families wanted someone else to vet the future nanny and make sure she wasn’t a psychopath