i started waiting until my dad complained about something and i would throw the line back at him word for word in my dads case he liked to tell me that everything bad thats happened to me is due to my decisions and my decisions only one day hes giving me shit about not finding a job he starts going on and on about how hes done time in prison and no one would give him a leg up or help him with a jobsounds like you made some pretty bad decisions that put you in that position those things only happened because of your decisions and your decisions only  you could cut the tension with a knife