ive been gradually having to come to this realization myself i realized that the core fear at the base of most of my ocd obsessions has to do with the fear of disappointing people in my life or that they wont think im a good person anymore whatever my specific obsession is whatever i feel it is that people wont like me for if they know ive had to realize if i get reassurance about that one thing something else is going to take its place so its pointless to argue with them realizing that really took the wind out of my obsessions sails