Please write to me about this issue on the article's talk page, not here. It's not a personal issue.
Consensus determined that the TV show is the primary usage, and I think that's right. Really, the vast majority of uses will be for the show. (Some will be for the character Buffy Summers, but readers ending up at the TV show article instead are not hugely inconvenienced I think).
The point is though that Buffy the Vampire Slayer has to be either the primary topic or a dab page, it shouldn't be a redirect to the primary topic! The guidelines are perfectly clear on this. Just about the only exception is when an article is primary topic for two or more phrases (The KLF, KLF); in such cases one of those has to be a redirect and the  dab template is used in the main article instead of something like .