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"Hi all,   \nI am not sure what I am looking for here except maybe some understanding and a different perspective.  My son is a senior in high school. He is has been on the wrestling team for the past 3 years, starting as a sophomore. He is very athletic and when he sets his mind to something he is very determined. He has worked hard over the last 3 years to really make a name for himself and has become one of the better wrestlers on his team and a co-captain this year.  He has been training in the off season as well during the season and it really shows this year.     \nI am getting married in early March. It just came to our attention a few weeks ago that the state wrestling tournament is scheduled for the weekend of the wedding, which is in another state.  He can't attend both events.  The way to get to the State tournament is to compete at the county level, then  regional level and then state level.  He is ranked very highly for his weight class and it extremely probable that he would  make it the State tournament.   \nUnbeknownst to me, he gave up his spot to another senior wrestler who is also very good but who wouldn't be competing at the county level, and therefore not at the regional or state level.   This other wrestler wouldn't be competing because there is someone else on the team who is better and only  one wrestler from each weight class gets to compete. This other wrestler would have to cut some weight to move down to my son's weight class but is able to do so and therefore would be qualified to compete in place of my son.   \nMy son spoke with both his coach and this other wrestler about what he wanted to do and they agreed.  He feels that since he can't attend both events, he is choosing to attend the wedding and that he wants this other boy to have the chance to compete, especially since he is a senior and this is his last chance to make it to the State tournament. They have been friends since 6th grade and they are both passionate about wrestling. He is being very generous and selfless.   \nI am so very proud of my son for his generosity and maturity. I truly am!  I am also devastated that my son is sacrificing something so important to him and something towards which he has worked very hard for the past 3 year. He will not get this opportunity again.   I know he is making this choice for me.  I would never ask this of him and he knows that too.     \nI just can't stop feeling absolutely terrible about him sacrificing this for me.  I have always been his biggest supporter and have cheered him on through the highs and lows over the years.  As any mother would want, I want the world for him!  I don't want him to be limited by me in any way!    He has worked so hard and now he will never how how far he could have taken his wrestling career.    \nI know he is being mature and generous and becoming the kind of man I have always hoped he would grow into.  And yet, I feel so sad that he has been put in the position to make this sacrifice and I am really hurting inside.   \nAny words of wisdom?? "
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