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"\n\tAdvertisement - Continue Reading Below\n\t\n\nEvery week, I ask my 83-year-old grandma and a random teen to answer a question about dating.  Then I weigh in  with my own horrible Generation Y opinion.  Having trouble navigating the Gitmo prison yard that is modern dating?  Find out what three different generations have to say. \n\nThe Question:  What do you do if you have an amazing date with a guy, you totally click, and then weeks go by and you don't hear a word.  Do you send a text?  Do you get in touch?  Or do you let the dream die?The Granny: Shirley Cozen is 83 years old, has been married for over 50 years, and raised four kids.  She has been proposed to three times, started dating when she was 12, and has been a ridiculous babe her entire life.  She knows a thing or two about a thing or two. She Says: \"I'd give it up because I don't want any pain.  It's been my experience that if you're pursuing somebody that has not demonstrated any interest in continuing, then you might be able to have a few more encounters but it sounds like there is gonna be some pain for you.  I'm not interested in feeling tortured.  I never was so madly in love with someone where I needed to pursue them.  With grandpa, he intrigued me, I was interested, all of the externals were there. It was only as I got to know him that I fell in love with him.  Because he wasn't a splashy kind of guy.  You had to spend some time to see how sweet and deep he was.\"The Teen: Amy is a bubbly blond 17-year-old living in Lincoln, Michigan who loves all things fashion and style. An aspiring magazine writer with plenty of boy experience, she describes herself as \"usually in a relationship.\" She Says: \"If I were in that situation, I would definitely make an attempt to get in touch with him first. I'd call maybe once or twice to see if he was still interested. I would reach out because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. Something may happened or maybe he lost my number.\"The Millennial:  I'm a 29 years-young lady who has finally learned to stop dating musicians and bartenders.  Hurray!  Dating is like riding a bike\u2014it's easy and fun but also you could die.There is nothing more confusing than having a fabulous time with someone and then never hearing back from them. It makes you question everything.  Should I change careers?  Who am I?  Do I even look good in bangs?The point is that next to \"the goatee\" and vajazzling, getting the brush off is society's most confounding dilemma.Having been in this exact situation before, my advice is if a guy isn't reaching out to you after a date, no matter how much fun you had, DO NOT contact him.  Trust me. There is no secret reason that he's isn't calling; his phone isn't broken, his family is not in town, he didn't break his texting fingers in a karate accident.  The bottom line is, \"He's just not that into you.\"  I am a feminist, but I'm also a realist.  And one thing I've learned is that if a guy likes you, he will do something about it.  When I was younger and just beginning to date, I had a Sally Bowles \"anything goes\" philosophy.  If you like a guy, ask them out!  If you want to call them, call them!  Who cares! No rules!  Hakuna Matata!  But actual life experience and years of dating have taught me otherwise.  It is (almost) always better when the guy comes to you.  I hate to admit it, it sounds so traditional, and archaic and lame, but it's true.Do yourself a favor, only let people in your life that really want to be there.  You deserve someone who is dying to see you, not someone you need to convince to hang out.  To quote myself, \"Next!\"Cosmo babes, what would you do in this situation? Also, we are dying to hear from YOU!  Send all your dating and relationship queries to rsurnow@hearst.com.Photo Credit: Getty ImagesWant more musings from Rose? Follow her on Twitter."^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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