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" It&amp;#039;s official: wallowing in self-pity and misery is the scientifically proven best way to get over a break up. Studies say January is prime-time for breakups, and anyone who&amp;#039;s ever gone through one knows that even though all you want to do is mainline Babybel and wine under a duvet, the first thing your mates do is drag you out on the town. &amp;quot;Plenty more fish in the sea \u2013 let&amp;#039;s go out tonight and forget about it, yeah?&amp;quot; they chirrup. Before delivering the classic, &amp;quot;The best way to get over a man is to get under a new one!&amp;quot; Riiight, major LOLZ, Samantha Jones. But luckily, science is now on your side. New research says those well-meaning friends are in fact wrong (hurrah!) and that wallowing can help speed up our recovery from heartbreak.  American researchers Grace Larson of Northwestern University and David Sbarra of the University of Arizona studied break-ups for several years, asking 210 participants \u2013 who had all broken up with someone in the last six months \u2013 to take part. Participants were split into two groups, with the first being probed repeatedly about their break-up in the form of interviews, questionnaires and speaking exercises (pretty gut-wrenching we imagine). The second group were asked a more limited (read: painless) set of questions and weren&amp;#039;t given the opportunity to dwell or focus on the demise of their relationship (think the &amp;#039;tough love&amp;#039; approach). The results? Amazingly, the people in the first group \u2013 who completed the more intensive interviews and tasks \u2013 showed better overall recovery (and faster, too). The reason the first group recovered better, the researchers explain, is because reflecting regularly on our recovery process is key to moving forward and coming to terms with what&amp;#039;s happened. Accepting he&amp;#039;s gone and making sense of it (however painful that process is) is essential. Ignoring it and forcing ourselves to hit the town and get a grip before we&amp;#039;re ready is detrimental to our growth (and it&amp;#039;s usually just delaying the inevitable anyway). According to lead researcher Grace Larson, completing weekly emotional check-ins and recording emotions was key to recovery \u2013 something we can all do, even if we&amp;#039;re not part of a scientific experiment. In fact, Grace says, keeping a diary and writing about your breakup \u2013 as if describing it to a stranger \u2013 can be just as useful.  So, broken-hearted ladies, my advice is this. Wallow. Feel as shit as you want \u2013 spend the weekend indoors bawling over photos of the pair of you (feel free to notice his bad points though \u2013 like his 2010 &amp;#039;indie skinny jean&amp;#039; phase). Eat ice cream for every meal, shun sunlight until you&amp;#039;re genuinely concerned you have a Vitamin D deficiency and break into tears every time his (stupid) name is mentioned. And don&amp;#039;t feel guilty about any of it. But do me a favour and write down how you&amp;#039;re feeling too \u2013 or talk to friends about how you&amp;#039;re doing whenever you can (just your closest buds mind \u2013 that weary check\u2013out woman in Tesco does not need to know how much you&amp;#039;re missing him). I can&amp;#039;t promise you&amp;#039;ll feel better today, or even this month \u2013 but you&amp;#039;ll get over him a hell of a lot quicker than by plastering over the cracks. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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