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"There are some questions about men that only a guy can answer. We asked the dudes at guyspeak.com (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum:\n\nQ: Why is it that guys will not come up to me in public, but on a dating site, I can&amp;#39;t get them to stop messaging me? I have been told I&amp;#39;m intimidating, and I think that&amp;#39;s a BS excuse for a man to not talk to a woman. Thoughts?\nPinterestFacebookWoman with laptop\nPHOTO: Getty Images/Goodshoot RFYou&amp;#39;re not alone in this, and the reason is simple: on the Internet, there&amp;#39;s way less at stake.\nApproaching somebody you don&amp;#39;t know in public is awkward, and throwing sex into that equation doesn&amp;#39;t help much. Neither does the fact that we&amp;#39;re taught to stake our ego on people agreeing to go out with us, which is ridiculous. If you approach somebody at a bar and she says &amp;quot;no&amp;quot;, you&amp;#39;re out, at most, five bucks. It says nothing about you except you don&amp;#39;t have chemistry with every single person on the planet. But people don&amp;#39;t think of it that way.\nAnd just to add to the problem, we&amp;#39;re taught from an early age that approaching a total stranger and trying to engage her in conversation is weird and not to do that...aaaaaand then we expect about half the population to do precisely that in bars after two drinks. Oh, and we&amp;#39;re expected to start doing this in the social bloodsport that is high school. It&amp;#39;s kind of amazing anybody has a one-night stand at all.\nThe Internet, though, is not public in the same way. There isn&amp;#39;t a group of friends standing nearby watching you; nobody has any names; he hasn&amp;#39;t sunk $20 on drinks. He&amp;#39;s sending you an email: if you don&amp;#39;t reply, there are plenty of other people on the site.\nDon&amp;#39;t worry: what you&amp;#39;re dealing with is pretty typical. Guys get over it, eventually.\n--Written by Dan Seitz for guyspeak.comHave you ever experienced the same problem? How do you approach guys in person?\nMore from guyspeak.com:\n\nHow Do I Tell My Friend I Love Him?\n\n\nIs He Looking For Someone Better If He&amp;#39;s Still Listed On A Dating Site?\n\n\nMy Friends Told Me To Put Myself Out There, But Now They Say I&amp;#39;m Trying Too Hard&amp;#8212;What Should I do?\n\n\nFriend GuySpeak on Facebook and follow them on Twitter.\n\nMore Ways to Get Glamour\nVisit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10!\nEnter the latest Glamour sweepstakes!\nFollow us on Twitter.\nAdd Glamour to your iGoogle homepage.\nPhoto: Thinkstock"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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