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" I&amp;#039;ve been married for nearly six years to a man who&amp;#039;s 14 years older than I am. He&amp;#039;s been a truck driver for 30 years, and all he talks about is his work. He never did this before we got married. I&amp;#039;ve discussed this with him but he still does it anyway -- it&amp;#039;s like he doesn&amp;#039;t have anything else to talk about. Sometimes I find myself tuning him out because it makes me dizzy just hearing about his work all the time. It also ruins any kind of sex life I would like to have. How do I get him to talk about something else? --C.S., 44, Reno, NV I&amp;#039;m going to stick my neck out and suggest that your impatience with your husband has to do with more than his lack of dazzling conversation. (For the record, it&amp;#039;s no surprise that he didn&amp;#039;t yammer endlessly about his work before you were married; like everyone else in the known universe bent on wooing and winning someone, he was on his best, non-windbag behavior.) The first thing you mention is that your husband is nearly a generation older than you are, as if that might explain the problem. But &amp;quot;advanced&amp;quot; age alone has little to do with someone&amp;#039;s inability to converse on a variety of exciting topics. (Consider teenage boys: They can be the most boring conversationalists on God&amp;#039;s green earth.) By pointing out your age difference, you&amp;#039;re signifying that your man has become maddeningly stuck in his ways. You&amp;#039;d like and need for your husband to be more open to change, and thus capable of surprising you. The man has become dull, and that&amp;#039;s the real problem here. If you doubt this, think back on all the men who had nothing to say to whom you once felt enormously attracted. (I&amp;#039;m not alone in this, am I?) For a moment, set aside your husband&amp;#039;s monologues on the life of a trucker and plan a vacation to somewhere neither of you have been before. Or take up skydiving or bike riding. Get a puppy. Remodel the kitchen. In other words, create an experience that will give the two of you something new to talk about. Together.   Award-winning writer Karen Karbo is the author of How to Hepburn: Lessons on Living from Kate the Great. She&amp;#039;s also a mom, a writing teacher, and a horse owner. Send your questions to her at: The Hard Stuff, REDBOOK, 300 W. 57th St., New York, NY 10019 or karenkarbo@redbookmag.com. Letters may be edited for clarity and length, and must include your initials, age, city, and state. "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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