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"You had a lot to say about inviting B-list wedding guests, so I was wondering: What would you have done in the following situation that my husband was recently in?\nPinterestFacebookBest man adjusting groom&amp;#39;s boutonniere\nPHOTO: Getty Images/Comstock ImagesPaul and I attended an engagement party where the couple gave gifts to the newly minted members of the bridal party in front of everyone. Paul thought he might be asked to be a groomsman, but he wasn&amp;#39;t too upset when he didn&amp;#39;t make the cut (the groom wasn&amp;#39;t in our party or anything).\nAlmost a full year after the engagement party, the groom decided to pop the question (no, not that one): He said he felt closer to Paul at that point in time than he did at the engagement party (and that&amp;#39;s why he wasn&amp;#39;t asked originally), and he&amp;#39;d love to have him in the party now.\nPaul didn&amp;#39;t know how to respond, so he asked the groom if he could have some time to think about it. Eventually, Paul made up his mind: He decided to decline the offer. He thought it would be easier to attend as a guest partly because I wasn&amp;#39;t close with anyone else who&amp;#39;d be attending the wedding.\nNow we really feel he made the right decision: Just days after Paul turned down the job, we found out that the groom asked someone else to be a groomsman! That guy said yes, didn&amp;#39;t know that they had asked Paul first, and at the wedding, the bridal party sides were perfectly even. I couldn&amp;#39;t help but think that one of the original groomsmen had dropped out and the couple saw my hubby as a ticket to solving their lopsided bridal party dilemma (attention brides: an uneven wedding party isn&amp;#39;t the end of the world!).\nSo I give having a B-list of wedding attendants a big fat I don&amp;#39;t. (At the very least, offer up a different title, like usher, so there&amp;#39;s no reason for the person to feel like a second-class groomsman.)\nDo you think asking people to be a part of the bridal party after the couple&amp;#39;s asked others is okay? How about in this situation, if the groom really felt he was closer to Paul later on? Would you potentially hurt someone&amp;#39;s feelings to even up the bridal party sides?\nMore Ways to Get Glamour\nVisit Shopglamour.com for cute stuff starting at just $10!\nEnter the latest Glamour sweepstakes!\nFollow us on Twitter\nAdd us to your iGoogle homepage\nPhoto: Jupiterimages"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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