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" I&amp;#039;ve been writing a lot lately. Beyond this blog, I mean. And my other blog. And my other other blog. I&amp;#039;ve been writing and writing because I have set myself the goal of finishing my stinking book. And right now, it is a stinking, stinking thing, dredged up from the mess and pain and self-loathing that all go with the ugliness that is divorce. I had an odd thought last night. What if Peter and I were still together? What would I write about? I&amp;#039;d write about my kids and my love for them, of course. I&amp;#039;d probably write about my love for Peter, God help me. It&amp;#039;s all quite lovely but it certainly lacks drama. So maybe I should be grateful that Peter threw me off the proverbial cliff into the raging waters because it&amp;#039;s forcing me to not only paddle my own canoe, but build it and haul my kids aboard as we navigate the roaring river of life. All of that, painful as it is, is book fodder. And blog fodder. And I guess that&amp;#039;s the silver lining, or as much of one as I&amp;#039;m going to get these days. I&amp;#039;ve been blessed to count an amazing author among my friends. Suzanne Finnamore wrote the awesome Split: A Memoir of Divorce, and has been both a shoulder and a mentor as I pound away at my keyboard. She wrote an incredible article about this very subject, and the freedom you get from writing through something that&amp;#039;s ripping you apart. Or, as Suzanne so beautifully put it: &amp;quot;He was moving on to a better place -- in fact he was leaving that very night to the 42 celebrated hills of San Francisco -- but I could write about the space where he had been.&amp;quot;  And so, taking a line from Suzanne&amp;#039;s weathered journal (thank you, Suzanne - for everything!), I&amp;#039;m writing about the space where Peter had been, and also about the space that I&amp;#039;m moving into. It&amp;#039;s somewhere over the rainbow but also somewhere inside my own skin. I&amp;#039;ll get there, eventually - one keystroke at a time. Do you have a mentor in your life? How have they influenced you? "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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