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"\\\"*It's not a bad thing to ask for what you want*.\\\" - Bob Harper\\n\\n\\n\\nNormally we think of being selfish as a bad thing (who wants a self-absorbed pal or boyfriend?), but on last night's *The Biggest Loser*, the big lesson was to look out for number one. Through both teary heart-to-hearts and scary screaming, SELF contributing editor [Jillian Michaels](/about/jillian-michaels) and fellow trainer Bob Harper drove home the idea that contestants they had to stop thinking about their housemates and even their family and friends at home and start focusing on their own health and well being.\\n\\nThe episode kicked off with mini meltdowns from both Tina and Lisa, who declared they were ready to leave the ranch. Tina wanted to go home to go on vacation with her family, and Lisa thought she could help booted contestant and neighbor Allie continue to lose weight. The other contestants cried foul and accused them of being [selfish](/fooddiet/2009/09/help-me-jillian), but the trainers thought they weren't being selfish *enough*.\\n\\nWhen Tina shows Bob pictures of her grandchildren, he asks her how she can take care of anyone else when she has let herself go, and later gives Lisa a similar pep talk. Jillian, in true fashion, she gets right to the point and tells all the women they have to put aside their \\\"kumbaya\\\" mentality and start fighting to keep their place at the Biggest Loser Ranch.\\n\\n\\n\\nBoth Tina and Lisa have epiphanies about taking care of themselves, but it's a little late in the game, and they end up in the bottom two. Forced to choose between the two, the other contestants are more moved by Lisa's new attitude and send Tina home. (The good news: Tina continued on to lose about 60 pounds after leaving the ranch, and her daughter dropped 85 pounds!)\\n\\n\\n\\nThe takeaway for you? When it comes to ranking the importance of your health, remember Jillian's advice to \\\"get selfish.\\\" It's okay to [cook a healthy meal](/tips/recipes/popular) even if your family would rather order pizza, or to prioritize a trip to the [gym](https://secure.self.com/user/tips/lose-8lbs-in-the-gym/registration) over baking cookies for your [book club](/community/groups/group?groupKey=c5971e8a-b07c-4b1d-a79a-0e41ee277655) meeting. You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of others!"^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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