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"   Question My husband has recently ended an affair with a co-worker. It lasted eight months.  He has always been very attentive to my needs in the sex department, but recently he hasn\u2019t wanted to make love to me nearly as often. He did not have sex with the other woman \u2013 or so he tells me. I feel that there is something lacking in this area and wonder if this is down to guilt on his behalf. I need information as to how we can make our sex life better again.  I am afraid that it will never return to how it was before. We are trying like mad to recover from this nightmare and feel that this area is lacking in excitement and love. My husband does not want to go and talk to anybody about this problem.   Answer David writes: What a pity he doesn&amp;#039;t want to talk.  It would be far better if both of you went along to the Edinburgh branch of Relate Scotland. (I see you live north of the border).  But if he won&amp;#039;t take this important step to help save your marriage, I think you should go and have a session or two with them on your own. Their number is 0845 1196088. Good luck. Christine adds: Could I suggest you read an excellent book by Julia Cole, one of the UK\u2019s top relationship therapists. It\u2019s called \u2018After the affair\u2019 and it\u2019s published by Vermilion.  Yours sincerely Dr David Delvin, GP, and Christine Webber, sex and relationships expert  Other Qs &amp;amp;amp; As Am I wrong for feeling so insecure? Boyfriend of 15 years is suddenly distant Can I really trust him? Can I trust my wife again?  Can we have a real relationship? Does my girlfriend need some space? Has my wife rejected me? He did all the chasing and now says he\u2019s better off single  He doesn\u2019t love me, and just wants \u2018fun\u2019 I am so hurt and betrayed that I don&amp;#039;t know if I can trust my husband I can&amp;#039;t seem to trust my boyfriend I can\u2019t trust my boyfriend  I don&amp;#039;t trust my girlfriend I don&amp;#039;t want an engagement I love her, but she lives so far away I\u2019m depressed, and my boyfriend pays no attention to me I\u2019m in an up and down relationship I\u2019m keen on a new man, but I\u2019m getting confusing signals from him I\u2019m two months pregnant by my ex \u2013 but he doesn\u2019t want to know Is my lazy partner taking advantage of me? My boyfriend is cold towards me My girlfriend wants a break to spend time on her own My husband is married to the church  My husband is using a \u2018sex contact\u2019 service  My husband lost interest in me sexually when I got pregnant My husband seems to be \u2018married\u2019 to his job My husband works abroad and the last time I saw him he was very withdrawn My wife doesn\u2019t have sexual feelings for me  She is pregnant, but I am not ready to be a father Should I confront my girlfriend about her travelling exploits? Should I tell her about my mistake? Torn between two women Why am I scared of relationships? Will therapy help me? Why aren&amp;#039;t I ready to commit? Why do I feel insecure about my relationship? Why has my partner suddenly gone off our planned marriage and left me?  Last updated 23.09.2007 "^^<http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema#string>
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